October 3, 2024 • 15 mins
Don't be jaded! It's OK to get excited about stuff - big and small! PLUS: Live your own life! Be authentically you, and forget the haters!
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Speaker 1 (00:12):
Don't be jaded. It's a hard thing to say, and
I say it because I'm saying it to myself in
addition to saying it to you. But one of the
things I find interesting is when people act like they've
been there before. So I was at Paris Fashion Week
and I couldn't believe I was there, And there were
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other people that I met that I know definitely hadn't
been there before. And I guess to avoid imposter syndrome
or maybe out of insecurity, people act like this is
something that happens to them all the time. And I
say this because I remember on The Apprentice, when we
got on, it took a week to be sequestered, psychological testing,
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emotional testing. It was a brutal experience. It was such
a process to get there, it was such a long
contract to sign up, and then once we started filming,
I was so excited. I couldn't believe we were there.
I couldn't believe we got it. I couldn't believe this
was my life. And I instantly heard people start turning,
Oh my god, you have no idea how much money
they're gonna make off us, and like becoming entitled, like
getting jaded, forgetting that two weeks ago you were an
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unknown and we all were still unknowns after that show,
it didn't really do anything, but like everyone thought they
were going to be a known, and so everybody was
acting like they had just been there before. And I
remember distinctly being like, oh my god, oh my god,
I'm wanting to talk to anyone who would be excited
by the moment, and there was really no one to
talk to. And I found this with Paris Fashion Week
in ways, some people were super excited and in the
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moment about it, but some people are like, wait, now
I've done this before. No, this is nothing, and then
it doesn't matter. How But like you found out through
other means that people really were nervous, and maybe it's
like manifesting that you've been there before and you can
handle it. I guess there are many different ways, but
I just think that, like I wrote this in my book,
a place of yes, to celebrate, to not be jaded,
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like even sometimes not getting excited about something and sometimes
people say it's because it might not happen, but like
get excited. If it doesn't happen, you might be let down.
You're gonna be let down anyway. Not getting excited about
something and it not going well doesn't mean you take
away the original excitement. Let's say you're really excited about
something and then you bomb. At least you had the
excitement versus the dullness and then the bombing. You know,
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you don't want to make a fool yourself and act
like you're a supermodel like I have, And then I guess,
maybe not be a supermodel, but why not? I just
feel like, be, don't be jaded, be in the moment,
celebrate like That's one thing I've passed on to my daughter.
We get excited about everything. We get excited about every
bowl of ramen, we make, about every vegetable picking season
we go through, about every time we go to the
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same place we go every single year to pick ornaments,
to decorate the tree. Whatever. It is. Like I brought
a group of people to Paris for fashion Week that
was going to be excited like we were, like all
of us couldn't believe our lives, and everybody was acting
like they couldn't believe their lives, and as a result,
everyone else wanted to be around us because it was
contagious because we did not act like we belonged, and
I've been to Paris multiple times. I've literally jabby Teo
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Mo Matt. I lived in France. I am cultured. I've
stated rooms that are twenty thousand square feet and cost
probably ten thousand dollars a night. I don't care. I'm
excited by everything that I do, whether it's a Lifetime
movie in the trailer in Abbotsford, Canada, like I make
a meal out of everything. Now I can be bitchy
about something, it doesn't matter. I could get a frozen
yogurt and they don't put enough sprinkles on it, and
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I'm in a bitchy mood inside because I'm just annoyed.
But like that's just that's not really like being jaded.
That's just something ridiculous and me sweating the small stuff.
But like I treat everything with the same level of importance.
So if I'm in a Lifetime movie in that moment
and Abbotsford, like in a little crappy hotel room, but
like it's clean and it has a little bathtub, which
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I'm excited about. It has laundry in the room and
has an ice maker. I'm excited I'm leading in a movie.
I go there for Lauri Al asks me, out of
fifty people in twenty eight countries to come in and
do fashion Week. You gotta fucking bet your believe. I'm
to tell anybodyho will listen how excited I am. And
there are other people that like act like they're not excited,
and I'll be like, yeah, no, I've done this a
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million times. Guess what, no one's done what that was
a million times? No one. I mean maybe like Naomi
Campbell and like Christy Turlington, like maybe back in their day,
but even models who were major models were freaking out
at the backstage of the situation that Loreal created. And
I just noticed certain people being jaded, being like wanting
to like flex in front of me and like make
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me be the person that's like the new fawn dough
trying to get its footing. When I've been all over
the world, like I have been on the cover of
Forbes magazine, I know a lot of people with big
boats and sports teams and billionaire Like I've seen shit
in my life. Okay, I still get excited in Abbotsford.
I still get excited with the billionaires at the sports games.
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I still get excited if I eat a Ramen. That's
ninety nine cents that I was smart enough to bring
on an airplane. I got hot water for it. I
feel like I'm the fucking richest person in the world,
sitting in coach going to do relief work. Like, I
don't believe in being jaded. I don't like, we have
to get excited. We have to get excited, and I'll
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check myself. Sometimes it'll be like the nineteenth photo shoot
or the Appearance or something, and you're flying somewhere and
you're exhausted and you feel gross, and then you're just like,
but wait a minute, Like someone's paying me to get
on an airplane to go somewhere, and they want to
listen to me speak. And a lot of this happens
when you're unhappy. Jaded people are often unhappy because they're
just miserable inside. And when you're happy, you're happy about
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most things. You're just excited about most things. And I'm
excited about most things. And here's the thing, I don't
If I'm not going to be excited about it, I
don't do it. That's why I gave up my partnership
with Mark Burnett's company. Love Mark Burnett, but I wasn't
happy in the production deal. I didn't want to do it.
That's why I gave up my business at HSN Lovely people.
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I don't want to do it like. That's why I
walked away from the reality television The Housewives like that.
I did not want to do like because if I
can't be happy doing it, I shouldn't do it. And
not everybody has that luxury because people have to work
for a paycheck. And I get that. And there are
things in life that listen when I'm going after being
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in Paris Fashion Week and I'm getting I've just gotten
home and I'm exhausted. I'm getting on a plane to
go see my warehouse because it's the second most significant
disaster hurricane disaster in US history, mainland history, which I
think is creeping up to be number one. I am
not I don't want to be getting on a plane
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and feeling gross in a warehouse in two hundred degree weather.
It doesn't matter, Like that doesn't matter. It's like you
don't think about whether you want it or not. There's
no being jaded. You're just going there, that's it. And
you would never be jaded, and you would never say
anything negative because you're thinking by people who are dying,
and you wouldn't care if you were sitting in coach
and eating Ramen three meals a day. Like you just
shift for different things. So I'm gonna give disclaimers about
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certain things, but just overall, like I don't do it.
If I can't be positive in doing it anymore, I
don't want to. And I hate myself when I'm miserable,
and I hate myself when I'm cranky. It's like, give
yourself a fucking time out, go take a nap. If
you have that luxury, I realize there are jobs that
you must do, and you've got to have multiple jobs,
and you got to pay for your kids, and it
feels like it's never gonna end. And trust me, I've
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done that for many years. I got the insufficient funds notices,
I bounced the checks. I did the things when I
was young I really didn't want to do, but still
underneath I still wanted, Like I didn't want to do them,
but I just always worked hard, thinking there's a means
to an end. It didn't matter what job. From when
I was a kid working at the bakery, delivering the
newspaper is like doing any kind of job, like I've
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always been a worker, and I mean gritty disgusting jobs,
like I have done a lot of gritty disgusting jobs.
Like I've just been you know, and I've been everything.
I've been a cocktail waitress, I've been a hostess, I've
been an actual waitress. I've you know, I've done it all.
As a kid, I shovel driveways, like I just always
like to work. And I know this is like going
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off in different tangents, but it's still surrounded by like,
don't be jaded do it or don't find a way
to be positive, even if it's the worst job in
the world. You should. Maybe there's a way to not
be jaded and say, like, I'm lucky I actually have
a job. There are people that don't have a job.
I'm lucky if I can pay my rent. There are
people that can't pay their rent. I'm lucky if I
can eat, you know. I mean, take it all the
way down, and believe me, I do not think I'm
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in the same position because I'm not. I'm a fortunate,
wealthy white woman in America. I am also self made,
but I was given opportunities that other people are not
so it's going to be harder to not be jaded
if you're in a different situation than I am, and
I really do realize that. But if you're in a
situation that you know is positive, that you know is
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you know, rare air, where you feel like you're fortunate,
find a way to find the yes, find the happy,
because we really did find it in France. And when
people around you are not finding the happy and not
finding the positive, you got to eliminate them. You gotta
or walk away, stay away from them, even if it's
your family. Nothing's worse than you come home and you
have a great thing. You want to announce, something's happening
for you. You got a job promotion, you're going somewhere,
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a friend's inviting you, you're going on a great date,
you look good, you lost five pounds, whatever your thing is,
and someone in your family is slightly negative, Oh that's nice.
Oh great. Either you're thriving so much the stick of
hearing about it, or they're just so God's inn miserable,
or you're so narcissistic and into yourself that you're just
talking about yourself. Maybe they're gonna make it like that.
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You should know the difference. You know, you got to
pass the mic. You know it can't be all about you.
But if you're being genuinely positive and you are fair
and you're dealing with someone else who's unhappy and negative,
you've got a cup bait or say the fuck away
from them, because that shit is contagious and jaded. People
will bring your ass down and you can feel it.
Stay away. I did something the other day on social
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media about how like people will be like, oh my god,
I can't believe she's eating like that on the internet.
Whitney Cummings I spoke. I went to Whitney Cummings Beacon
Show and she was talking to me about how it's
like people just like are watching me on social media
and I'm eating food and the seafood boil, and it
went viral and I almost got canceled, and it was
international news and really desperate loser podcasters talking about it
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as if it was news, and like, what is she doing?
What am I doing? I was eating in a fucking
hotel room. And the way that I want to eat
in my fucking hotel room. Why because it's my body,
my choice, my hotel room, Okay, And so don't watch
like if you don't like it and you're gonna make
it an international incident, don't watch it. I'm doing if
my followers and people who stop by. If you don't
like black licorice, don't eat it. If you don't like
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chopped liver or sauteed liver and onions or cilantro or
cape or anchovies or sardines, don't eat it. But don't
go mock people who eat it. So I'm in a
hotel room on my account, living my own life, talking
about food or every day cottage cheese, bagels, cream cheese.
People want to criticize. Okay, those are the same losers
that want to criticize when you're perfect and filtered. However
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do you want it? However do you want it? How
do you want it? You want me to be perfect
and produced or you want to stop buy over here?
Like you just walked into me and one of my
best friends in college eating like Gavones at a restaurant
with our hands because because we had two margarita's, weren't
thinking give me one margarita. I'm my open. Yeah, I
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don't like the bullshit. People are full of shit. You
want me to filter myself and produce this content. And
do I have Martha Stewart and Ina Garden come to
my hotel room and curate the Guide to Eating Seafood
in an elegant manner over fret tae two thousand thread
count sheets. Or you want me to be the fucking
pig animal that I am that had like multiple cocktails
in my room and ate some seafood because I was
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hungry and craving it, had been off a plane and
wanted the goddamn salt with the old bay fuck off?
How about that? I don't like it? And you know
what else, it matters how you feel? Another bag of bullshit?
Was I go, I'm worth it. I go to lorel
I go walk a fashion joe. Do it how you
want it? They say, I go, I wear the highest
shoes I can find. I was having fun. I was happy.
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Everyone who knows me knows I was happy. You were happy?
She got to she was having fun? Oh, so hold on,
is it really like the Kim Kardashian Guide of Fashion.
You lace up your waists so you're in pain and
you can look like you have a twenty eighteen inch waist,
but you're miserable, like and she can do that. Congrats
lose forty pounds in two weeks to get into the
marriln Min Road dress. Live your life, do your thing. Okay,
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that's fine, but over here, I want to be happy.
I want to smile. So if I decide to do
cartwheels and skip, use a pogo stick and be a
giraffe going down the thing, if I'm happy, I'm worth it.
What is isn't worth? Self worth? Are we gonna define
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bout what other people think? And the reason I'm saying
all this is what matters is how you feel and
then someone wants to damp or how you feel. You
felt good about it? What's worse than you felt good
about the out that other people didn't like? Tough, tough shit.
I liked it, I felt good in it. No one's
gonna change your opinion because of what they think. A
they could be miserable. You may not like acid wash,
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Baggy mc hammer pants or a ladin pants, but guess what,
in three years, someone's gonna tell you like them, then
you're gonna like them. I could make the giraffe walk in.
Did everybody always like the heroine? She cape moss look
No did everyone always like the bodacious Betty Boop Jessica
Robert Merril Monroe look? No? Did everyone always like the
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long extensions, big ass Kardashian look. No, even they didn't
like it, they changed it. They went onto the skinny
waiste and slightly large ass look. And then that became like,
what are you gonna go at the tides? Who the fuck?
Who decides what anything is? Do? What the fuck you
want and what you think matters is what matters. And
I teach out to my daughter, commit to the bit.
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Cameron Diaz in my best friend's wedding san karaoke. She sucked,
but you know what she committed. She committed to the bit.
Commit to the bit. They go with you, are you
fucking kidding me? You're gonna tell me? You then like
the way I walk because I marched, fuck off my shoes,
my body, my choice, my larel. They called me, not you,
you bitches. They didn't call you, So when they fucking
call you, you walk out. You want you be a kangaroo,
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You do jumping jacks, you walk like a poser, supermodel,
do whatever the fuck you want. But my supermodel ass
got up there and got more impressions than anybody who
actually knows how to do a supermodel walk, so fuck
off matters, is what I think. What to the top
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after follows that to the top after
Don't be jaded. It's a hard thing to say, and
I say it because I'm saying it to myself in
addition to saying it to you. But one of the
things I find interesting is when people act like they've
been there before. So I was at Paris Fashion Week
and I couldn't believe I was there, And there were
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other people that I met that I know definitely hadn't
been there before. And I guess to avoid imposter syndrome
or maybe out of insecurity, people act like this is
something that happens to them all the time. And I
say this because I remember on The Apprentice, when we
got on, it took a week to be sequestered, psychological testing,
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emotional testing. It was a brutal experience. It was such
a process to get there, it was such a long
contract to sign up, and then once we started filming,
I was so excited. I couldn't believe we were there.
I couldn't believe we got it. I couldn't believe this
was my life. And I instantly heard people start turning,
Oh my god, you have no idea how much money
they're gonna make off us, and like becoming entitled, like
getting jaded, forgetting that two weeks ago you were an
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unknown and we all were still unknowns after that show,
it didn't really do anything, but like everyone thought they
were going to be a known, and so everybody was
acting like they had just been there before. And I
remember distinctly being like, oh my god, oh my god,
I'm wanting to talk to anyone who would be excited
by the moment, and there was really no one to
talk to. And I found this with Paris Fashion Week
in ways, some people were super excited and in the
(01:40):
moment about it, but some people are like, wait, now
I've done this before. No, this is nothing, and then
it doesn't matter. How But like you found out through
other means that people really were nervous, and maybe it's
like manifesting that you've been there before and you can
handle it. I guess there are many different ways, but
I just think that, like I wrote this in my book,
a place of yes, to celebrate, to not be jaded,
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like even sometimes not getting excited about something and sometimes
people say it's because it might not happen, but like
get excited. If it doesn't happen, you might be let down.
You're gonna be let down anyway. Not getting excited about
something and it not going well doesn't mean you take
away the original excitement. Let's say you're really excited about
something and then you bomb. At least you had the
excitement versus the dullness and then the bombing. You know,
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you don't want to make a fool yourself and act
like you're a supermodel like I have, And then I guess,
maybe not be a supermodel, but why not? I just
feel like, be, don't be jaded, be in the moment,
celebrate like That's one thing I've passed on to my daughter.
We get excited about everything. We get excited about every
bowl of ramen, we make, about every vegetable picking season
we go through, about every time we go to the
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same place we go every single year to pick ornaments,
to decorate the tree. Whatever. It is. Like I brought
a group of people to Paris for fashion Week that
was going to be excited like we were, like all
of us couldn't believe our lives, and everybody was acting
like they couldn't believe their lives, and as a result,
everyone else wanted to be around us because it was
contagious because we did not act like we belonged, and
I've been to Paris multiple times. I've literally jabby Teo
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Mo Matt. I lived in France. I am cultured. I've
stated rooms that are twenty thousand square feet and cost
probably ten thousand dollars a night. I don't care. I'm
excited by everything that I do, whether it's a Lifetime
movie in the trailer in Abbotsford, Canada, like I make
a meal out of everything. Now I can be bitchy
about something, it doesn't matter. I could get a frozen
yogurt and they don't put enough sprinkles on it, and
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I'm in a bitchy mood inside because I'm just annoyed.
But like that's just that's not really like being jaded.
That's just something ridiculous and me sweating the small stuff.
But like I treat everything with the same level of importance.
So if I'm in a Lifetime movie in that moment
and Abbotsford, like in a little crappy hotel room, but
like it's clean and it has a little bathtub, which
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I'm excited about. It has laundry in the room and
has an ice maker. I'm excited I'm leading in a movie.
I go there for Lauri Al asks me, out of
fifty people in twenty eight countries to come in and
do fashion Week. You gotta fucking bet your believe. I'm
to tell anybodyho will listen how excited I am. And
there are other people that like act like they're not excited,
and I'll be like, yeah, no, I've done this a
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million times. Guess what, no one's done what that was
a million times? No one. I mean maybe like Naomi
Campbell and like Christy Turlington, like maybe back in their day,
but even models who were major models were freaking out
at the backstage of the situation that Loreal created. And
I just noticed certain people being jaded, being like wanting
to like flex in front of me and like make
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me be the person that's like the new fawn dough
trying to get its footing. When I've been all over
the world, like I have been on the cover of
Forbes magazine, I know a lot of people with big
boats and sports teams and billionaire Like I've seen shit
in my life. Okay, I still get excited in Abbotsford.
I still get excited with the billionaires at the sports games.
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I still get excited if I eat a Ramen. That's
ninety nine cents that I was smart enough to bring
on an airplane. I got hot water for it. I
feel like I'm the fucking richest person in the world,
sitting in coach going to do relief work. Like, I
don't believe in being jaded. I don't like, we have
to get excited. We have to get excited, and I'll
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check myself. Sometimes it'll be like the nineteenth photo shoot
or the Appearance or something, and you're flying somewhere and
you're exhausted and you feel gross, and then you're just like,
but wait a minute, Like someone's paying me to get
on an airplane to go somewhere, and they want to
listen to me speak. And a lot of this happens
when you're unhappy. Jaded people are often unhappy because they're
just miserable inside. And when you're happy, you're happy about
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most things. You're just excited about most things. And I'm
excited about most things. And here's the thing, I don't
If I'm not going to be excited about it, I
don't do it. That's why I gave up my partnership
with Mark Burnett's company. Love Mark Burnett, but I wasn't
happy in the production deal. I didn't want to do it.
That's why I gave up my business at HSN Lovely people.
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I don't want to do it like. That's why I
walked away from the reality television The Housewives like that.
I did not want to do like because if I
can't be happy doing it, I shouldn't do it. And
not everybody has that luxury because people have to work
for a paycheck. And I get that. And there are
things in life that listen when I'm going after being
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in Paris Fashion Week and I'm getting I've just gotten
home and I'm exhausted. I'm getting on a plane to
go see my warehouse because it's the second most significant
disaster hurricane disaster in US history, mainland history, which I
think is creeping up to be number one. I am
not I don't want to be getting on a plane
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and feeling gross in a warehouse in two hundred degree weather.
It doesn't matter, Like that doesn't matter. It's like you
don't think about whether you want it or not. There's
no being jaded. You're just going there, that's it. And
you would never be jaded, and you would never say
anything negative because you're thinking by people who are dying,
and you wouldn't care if you were sitting in coach
and eating Ramen three meals a day. Like you just
shift for different things. So I'm gonna give disclaimers about
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certain things, but just overall, like I don't do it.
If I can't be positive in doing it anymore, I
don't want to. And I hate myself when I'm miserable,
and I hate myself when I'm cranky. It's like, give
yourself a fucking time out, go take a nap. If
you have that luxury, I realize there are jobs that
you must do, and you've got to have multiple jobs,
and you got to pay for your kids, and it
feels like it's never gonna end. And trust me, I've
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done that for many years. I got the insufficient funds notices,
I bounced the checks. I did the things when I
was young I really didn't want to do, but still
underneath I still wanted, Like I didn't want to do them,
but I just always worked hard, thinking there's a means
to an end. It didn't matter what job. From when
I was a kid working at the bakery, delivering the
newspaper is like doing any kind of job, like I've
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always been a worker, and I mean gritty disgusting jobs,
like I have done a lot of gritty disgusting jobs.
Like I've just been you know, and I've been everything.
I've been a cocktail waitress, I've been a hostess, I've
been an actual waitress. I've you know, I've done it all.
As a kid, I shovel driveways, like I just always
like to work. And I know this is like going
(08:13):
off in different tangents, but it's still surrounded by like,
don't be jaded do it or don't find a way
to be positive, even if it's the worst job in
the world. You should. Maybe there's a way to not
be jaded and say, like, I'm lucky I actually have
a job. There are people that don't have a job.
I'm lucky if I can pay my rent. There are
people that can't pay their rent. I'm lucky if I
can eat, you know. I mean, take it all the
way down, and believe me, I do not think I'm
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in the same position because I'm not. I'm a fortunate,
wealthy white woman in America. I am also self made,
but I was given opportunities that other people are not
so it's going to be harder to not be jaded
if you're in a different situation than I am, and
I really do realize that. But if you're in a
situation that you know is positive, that you know is
(08:55):
you know, rare air, where you feel like you're fortunate,
find a way to find the yes, find the happy,
because we really did find it in France. And when
people around you are not finding the happy and not
finding the positive, you got to eliminate them. You gotta
or walk away, stay away from them, even if it's
your family. Nothing's worse than you come home and you
have a great thing. You want to announce, something's happening
for you. You got a job promotion, you're going somewhere,
(09:17):
a friend's inviting you, you're going on a great date,
you look good, you lost five pounds, whatever your thing is,
and someone in your family is slightly negative, Oh that's nice.
Oh great. Either you're thriving so much the stick of
hearing about it, or they're just so God's inn miserable,
or you're so narcissistic and into yourself that you're just
talking about yourself. Maybe they're gonna make it like that.
(09:38):
You should know the difference. You know, you got to
pass the mic. You know it can't be all about you.
But if you're being genuinely positive and you are fair
and you're dealing with someone else who's unhappy and negative,
you've got a cup bait or say the fuck away
from them, because that shit is contagious and jaded. People
will bring your ass down and you can feel it.
Stay away. I did something the other day on social
(10:12):
media about how like people will be like, oh my god,
I can't believe she's eating like that on the internet.
Whitney Cummings I spoke. I went to Whitney Cummings Beacon
Show and she was talking to me about how it's
like people just like are watching me on social media
and I'm eating food and the seafood boil, and it
went viral and I almost got canceled, and it was
international news and really desperate loser podcasters talking about it
(10:32):
as if it was news, and like, what is she doing?
What am I doing? I was eating in a fucking
hotel room. And the way that I want to eat
in my fucking hotel room. Why because it's my body,
my choice, my hotel room, Okay, And so don't watch
like if you don't like it and you're gonna make
it an international incident, don't watch it. I'm doing if
my followers and people who stop by. If you don't
like black licorice, don't eat it. If you don't like
(10:55):
chopped liver or sauteed liver and onions or cilantro or
cape or anchovies or sardines, don't eat it. But don't
go mock people who eat it. So I'm in a
hotel room on my account, living my own life, talking
about food or every day cottage cheese, bagels, cream cheese.
People want to criticize. Okay, those are the same losers
that want to criticize when you're perfect and filtered. However
(11:17):
do you want it? However do you want it? How
do you want it? You want me to be perfect
and produced or you want to stop buy over here?
Like you just walked into me and one of my
best friends in college eating like Gavones at a restaurant
with our hands because because we had two margarita's, weren't
thinking give me one margarita. I'm my open. Yeah, I
(11:38):
don't like the bullshit. People are full of shit. You
want me to filter myself and produce this content. And
do I have Martha Stewart and Ina Garden come to
my hotel room and curate the Guide to Eating Seafood
in an elegant manner over fret tae two thousand thread
count sheets. Or you want me to be the fucking
pig animal that I am that had like multiple cocktails
in my room and ate some seafood because I was
(11:59):
hungry and craving it, had been off a plane and
wanted the goddamn salt with the old bay fuck off?
How about that? I don't like it? And you know
what else, it matters how you feel? Another bag of bullshit?
Was I go, I'm worth it. I go to lorel
I go walk a fashion joe. Do it how you
want it? They say, I go, I wear the highest
shoes I can find. I was having fun. I was happy.
(12:21):
Everyone who knows me knows I was happy. You were happy?
She got to she was having fun? Oh, so hold on,
is it really like the Kim Kardashian Guide of Fashion.
You lace up your waists so you're in pain and
you can look like you have a twenty eighteen inch waist,
but you're miserable, like and she can do that. Congrats
lose forty pounds in two weeks to get into the
marriln Min Road dress. Live your life, do your thing. Okay,
(12:42):
that's fine, but over here, I want to be happy.
I want to smile. So if I decide to do
cartwheels and skip, use a pogo stick and be a
giraffe going down the thing, if I'm happy, I'm worth it.
What is isn't worth? Self worth? Are we gonna define
(13:02):
bout what other people think? And the reason I'm saying
all this is what matters is how you feel and
then someone wants to damp or how you feel. You
felt good about it? What's worse than you felt good
about the out that other people didn't like? Tough, tough shit.
I liked it, I felt good in it. No one's
gonna change your opinion because of what they think. A
they could be miserable. You may not like acid wash,
(13:24):
Baggy mc hammer pants or a ladin pants, but guess what,
in three years, someone's gonna tell you like them, then
you're gonna like them. I could make the giraffe walk in.
Did everybody always like the heroine? She cape moss look
No did everyone always like the bodacious Betty Boop Jessica
Robert Merril Monroe look? No? Did everyone always like the
(13:46):
long extensions, big ass Kardashian look. No, even they didn't
like it, they changed it. They went onto the skinny
waiste and slightly large ass look. And then that became like,
what are you gonna go at the tides? Who the fuck?
Who decides what anything is? Do? What the fuck you
want and what you think matters is what matters. And
I teach out to my daughter, commit to the bit.
(14:10):
Cameron Diaz in my best friend's wedding san karaoke. She sucked,
but you know what she committed. She committed to the bit.
Commit to the bit. They go with you, are you
fucking kidding me? You're gonna tell me? You then like
the way I walk because I marched, fuck off my shoes,
my body, my choice, my larel. They called me, not you,
you bitches. They didn't call you, So when they fucking
call you, you walk out. You want you be a kangaroo,
(14:32):
You do jumping jacks, you walk like a poser, supermodel,
do whatever the fuck you want. But my supermodel ass
got up there and got more impressions than anybody who
actually knows how to do a supermodel walk, so fuck
off matters, is what I think. What to the top
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after follows that to the top after
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