December 4, 2024 • 14 mins
Giving without ever taking some space for yourself is a recipe for resentment. Keep it at bay this holiday season. ALSO: we have to talk about about THE HEATED-THROW POST and what it means and what it doesn't.
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Speaker 1 (00:12):
I want to talk about hyperfixation and being the giving tree.
So I'm first going to talk about hyperfixation, which I
think I'm accurately describing. But basically, if someone asks me
something or gives me a task, I am not capable
of doing anything until the task is finished. So let
(00:33):
me explain. It could be something that seems small. It
could be that I know I need black sequin leggings. Okay.
It could be that my friend said to me she
needed a dress for her daughter's wedding, and I hyper
fixate on this task and I go onto different websites,
(00:54):
which sometimes can be forty pages of dresses, and I
end up looking up every single dress and gown that
we would be perfect, and sending her every single link,
and until I feel like I've exhausted every single option,
I'm not done. So it's not even that I'm like
the most generous or giving person. I mean, although it
(01:14):
might be perceived that way, it's a hyperfixation. It's like
I just I see tunnel vision, I have to finish,
and I keep going until it's over. Because it's also
a little obsessive. So if I have to organize a
kitchen or a drawer or a closet or put things
away or unpack or put away groceries or anything. I
can't stop until the task is finished, so I kind
(01:36):
of can't see things that need to be done because
if I see things that need to be done and
need to do them, so, yes, it's a probably it's
a version of OCD, and no, I'm not a medication
for it. So if someone if I that's why with
my partner in relief work, if I get into something,
so I'll call him and I'll say, Okay, I am
(01:59):
really heartbroken over the Ppe situation during the pandemic, or
what's going on in Ukraine or what's going on in
Puerto Rico or something going on. He will get activated
and he'll get excited because he has his own version
of like addiction, you know, to the cause, and so
he'll get all worked up. But then I'll have to
(02:20):
control it because I'll have flipped the switch on and
I'll have to say to him, but like, we have
to do this to a certain point. But then I
have to extricate because I used to not control myself.
And by the way, years ago, I used to produce
events and I was the best at producing events. I
was the best at the p and L the best
at the budget. Why because I didn't miss a single detail,
because every single floral chair, everything was put back the
(02:43):
way that it was. There was no waste, every single
food item, every I just was, you know, obsessive, and
it wasn't good for me, but I was good for it,
So I was excellent at it. So I am excellent
at relief work because I am thorough, I am organized,
I am efficient. I execute and I don't stop until
it's done. But it's not good for me because I
won't be sleeping at night. And when I first started
(03:05):
out and we were doing Hurricane Maria, I was up
all night on every chat room, fixated, focused, and I
have to finish. So if someone asks me to help
them with something, it could be designing their house, it
could be helping them get a job. It could be
choosing a wardrobe. It could be setting them up with someone.
It could be finding a chef for a party, or
(03:28):
I'm finding a chef for my own party, or I
need a specific food truck. It could be any or makeup.
That's what happened in the beginning of the beauty journey
because I was fixated on every single product, so be
cream blush, the best cream blush, cream, bronzer, this powder,
this eyelash curler, and I have to control myself. And
the CMO of Beam Global, the company that ended up
(03:51):
buying the Skinny Girl cocktails, he called me an idea
hamster because once I got on emails with someone and
I'm telling them an idea for a show, for a name,
for a product, for anything, I hyper fixate. And so
everyone who knows me knows I'm like a machine and
I like gang, you know, would just like fire off ideas.
And that's why I was kind of good at reality
TV too, because I'd have twenty five ideas for each
(04:12):
scene and for what we were doing. And so anyway,
it can translate into doing too much and giving too much,
because if you don't get back, which is impossible to
get back at this kind of a clip, you feel
like the giving tree and you feel like you're not
someone's not meeting you halfway, and you can't force them
(04:32):
to meet you halfway because no one is a machine
like you. So what you have to do is you
have to force yourself to stop giving and doing because
if someone asks you for something, You're just going to
do it. That's who you are. So if your friend
asks you one question about a wedding dress, you're going
to go off and give them fifty five wedding dresses
(04:53):
and you're overshooting the mark. So it's kind of like
someone you know. And this could happen in relationships in French,
where you have to know your limitations and not expect
someone else to do at the same rate as you do,
but also not to overdo, and also not to set
yourself up for situations like this. I've created a situation
(05:14):
where as an accidental influencer, stuff is constantly coming to
my house, so I have to look at it, I
have to review it, and I keep trying to tell
people not to send it. But people are also addicted
to me reviewing products, so I keep getting things and
they want a good review, and so I'm also trying
to not get things because if I see that it's here,
I'm gonna have to look at it and open it.
And this is also extremely obsessive. I'm well aware. We
(05:35):
don't have to criticize me. You't have to tell me.
You enough to tell me. I need to seek help.
I talk to someone like it's a situation. But I
definitely have to intervene in my own habits because otherwise
I become the giving tree and I feel depleted, and
it's honestly my fault. Now, let's talk about that the
(06:07):
post that I did not know was going to break
the Internet, that I just posted the fireplace post with
a heated throw and a guy. Sometimes I forget the
pockets that different social media. This is why magazines. Another
archaic form is magazines. Magazines. When you sat in the
nail salon and looked at a glossy magazine as someone
on the cover, it's like, who cares? You know? I
(06:27):
don't do morning TV shows anymore. It means I have
to leave my house, take a shower, get glam, go somewhere.
For what. I have my own TV show, it's my
own phone. It's archaic. So I forget that because if
I want to talk about something, I want to announce something.
Remember when like Beyonce dropped her album herself on iTunes,
(06:48):
like she wasn't going through the dog and Pony show
of like a label or any of that shit. It's like,
I've got my own music. I did it, I'm dropping it. Remember,
when like Taylor Swift took back her own fucking content
because the Scooter Braun debacle. It's called like you're your
own content, your own podcast, you can self publish, you
could do whatever you want. So I was just I
just wanted to eat. I like TikTok is a creative
for me. It's like a garage band. So I'm just
(07:10):
sitting there like Wan liking that song and it like
just I saw him sitting by the fireplace making a
fire and it just like was like, em my man,
thank you for my man. It's a sound on TikTok.
It just I just posted in two seconds and there
are articles about it, and it's like everybody has to
make it into something like now all of a sudden,
I'm like getting married, I'm registering for China. And this
(07:31):
is what happens with relationships where everyone makes it into
something like I genuinely if I don't post someone's face
or say anything, it's not a hard launch, Like it
was just a fun post. What if it was just
it could have literally been a one night stand that
a guy had a heated throw that he got me,
you know, like it wasn't. But the point is like
(07:53):
everyone's so crazy and starving, and they want to bring
you up and then take you down. You know, like
like you're supposed to want your own privacy, but you
have to share with everybody exactly what's going on and
what you're doing. And they are so loving and they
glamorize your relationship into perfection and the romance and like
a man making me a fire and buying me a blanket,
(08:14):
it's as if he bought me an island and you know,
a canary diamond. And everybody's got like these fantasies going
on in their mind about what it is. And then
you know, people want to take you on the ride,
and if something doesn't work out, then everyone wants it
to crash and burn, and like everyone gets dragged along.
They've got to do the greatest hits of all my
relationships and talk about my daughter. And it's just like
(08:37):
and yet it's hard to stay private. I'll tell you
why it's hard to stay private. It's hard to stay
private because let's say, go to a restaurant with someone
that I like. So let's say in the beginning, I'm
cautious and I don't want someone to be public at
all because I just don't want this to defy me,
and I don't want this to be a soft launch,
a lukewarm launch, or any launch. I'm just out with somebody.
But let's say I get paparazzi, then it's out there.
(08:57):
Now there's twenty seven articles. I mean, there are people
who have been scene for one night. Literally. It's how
Kim Kardashian started her fame. She was at I heard
the story because I know the people that were there.
She was out and she stood next to Nicolache and
she got photographed and it went everywhere, and she just
kept like raising her public stock that she wasn't really
with him, you know, like maybe she went out with
him once, But if you're out with someone once, it
(09:18):
could become like a fantasy that everyone thinks you guys
are in a mad, crazy relationship. So you want us
sort of be careful. But let's say go to dinner
with someone and we got paparazzi. Then they look them up,
they find out who it is, and we're off to
the races. And the relationship might not be ready for
that because that person may get gunshy and scared, and
you know, let's say you're just on your first date,
(09:39):
and then other people don't want to date you because
they're reading that you're out and you're like in a
serious relationship. So let's say you go on a couple
of dates. Let's say you like someone. Let's say you
sleep with someone. Let's say they could be the one.
You have no idea. It's a month and they could
be the one, they could be the not one. It's
a month. Then you've been photographed. You're trying to get
through that. Now you know, maybe they don't want put
pr they don't want it at all. They like you,
(10:00):
they're interested in you. They don't want a public persona.
Maybe their family doesn't want that. Maybe it's not good
for their business. Maybe they have you know, they work
in a private field. Okay. And then you're out to
dinner and you're out with a bunch of people and
you're out let's say REOs, or you're out at Carbone
and you're taking pictures. You're like excluding them. You're taking
pictures because you're living your life and like there, or
(10:22):
you all take a group picture. Someone says you want
to get a group picture. Then you want to post
it because you just want to be like I was
at REO's or I was somewhere, and you're excluding this
person because you've decided. You've said to yourself, I don't
want this to be a public thing yet. And by
the way, this can apply to the cul de sac
I always talk about the cul de sac doesn't have
to be, you know, public domain. It could be like
in your life, you're not ready for people to know,
(10:45):
but now you're leaving people out of pictures. And now
you're leaving people out of activities because you don't want
other people to see it. So now you're leaving people
out of pictures, and you post a picture of you
at Carbone or a Rockefeller Center or something, and then
it could be like marginalizing the other person. And then
people think you are still single, so still reaching out
to you. And I'm telling you, if the situation were reversed,
(11:05):
I would not want someone to exclude me. I might
not want to be public, but I also don't want
to be invisible. I don't want to be excluded. So
now there you're in a rock and a hard place.
Both parties are between a rock and a hard place.
So then you know you're at an event. Let's say
you're at the Yellowstone premiere, and a photographer says to you,
(11:27):
can I get a picture of you? Guys, You're out
on a date with a man. You're standing next to
Jay Cutler and his girlfriend who you saw wearing a ring,
and you know before anybody else knows that they're engaged.
You're not saying anything, and a photographer says, can we
get a picture? I was already thinking, shit, the guy
had a dui. Shit, the guy's engage. Are they gonna notice?
But I can't be responsible for everyone? And shit, now
if we get a picture taken, the guy that I'm
(11:47):
standing with thinks this is just a picture taken at
the event. He doesn't know this is going to be
international news. Lo and behold the next day it's in
every fucking magazine. And then you're like, shit, I want
to start my diet again because last time I got fun.
So then you're like, I want to start my diet again.
Then you're out on another event, and then someone comes
up to you because you also want to bring a
guy on an event. You don't want to be invited
to something and be alone, especially during the holidays. Let's
(12:09):
say you're seeing someone you might want to bring them
to something. Then a photographer comes up to you. You're like,
you just went through this, and you're like, no, thank you,
it's okay. And it feels awkward. It feels like you're
embarrassed to the person you're with. You're in shamed, You're ashamed.
You don't want to be seen with them, like you're not.
You are running game. You want to sleep with other people,
you want to date other people. Why don't you want
to take a picture with them, even though they know
(12:31):
they really kind of might not want it either, because
the game moves quickly and the next day they're going
to be in twenty articles again. But it's like you're
damned if you do, damned if you don't. So you
don't take a picture. And then you're sitting in front
of a fireplace and it's a cute and you're like,
you want to include the man, just to be like, ah, yes,
I'm seeing a man, like I'm seeing someone. He's here
right now, he's a nice guy. He's making me a fire.
It's cute. This is a TikTok sound. I connect with
(12:52):
my people. I want to include them, their nosy bitches,
let's go. And then that thing becomes the hard launch
when you've posted a picture with the back of their head,
you know, just like I did on my birthday. It
was a ten photo slider, and they're just happened to
be me holding a man's head from behind, because it's
not a soft launch and it's not a hard launch.
It's just saying I was holding someone's hands, and the
(13:12):
romance part of me and the dating adventure era of
me is alive. It does not mean that I am
ring shopping and shopping for China. It's just that it's
not exactly and no one needs to like feel bad
for me. I have a great life, I'm happy. I'm
just explaining that not everything is what it seems for
certain people. You know, I really really admire Ryan Gosling
(13:36):
and his wife and their militant way of keeping their
relationship private, but yet we still know wh they're in
a relationship. I remember Katie Holmes was dating Jamie Fox.
It was the best, it was the worst kept secret.
They were fully together because they got photographed. Did she
hard launch it? No? Does it make a difference. Was
it still international news? Yeah? When they broke up, was
(13:57):
it still international news? Yeah? It's pretty hard to keep
something private, is what I'm saying. If people give a
shit about what you're doing and not, everything is as
it seems, so don't believe everything you read. Don't believe
every picture you see. Don't believe hard launch soft launch
paparazzi pictures like, Yes, they're an indication, but they don't
mean everything. Does that make sense
I want to talk about hyperfixation and being the giving tree.
So I'm first going to talk about hyperfixation, which I
think I'm accurately describing. But basically, if someone asks me
something or gives me a task, I am not capable
of doing anything until the task is finished. So let
(00:33):
me explain. It could be something that seems small. It
could be that I know I need black sequin leggings. Okay.
It could be that my friend said to me she
needed a dress for her daughter's wedding, and I hyper
fixate on this task and I go onto different websites,
(00:54):
which sometimes can be forty pages of dresses, and I
end up looking up every single dress and gown that
we would be perfect, and sending her every single link,
and until I feel like I've exhausted every single option,
I'm not done. So it's not even that I'm like
the most generous or giving person. I mean, although it
(01:14):
might be perceived that way, it's a hyperfixation. It's like
I just I see tunnel vision, I have to finish,
and I keep going until it's over. Because it's also
a little obsessive. So if I have to organize a
kitchen or a drawer or a closet or put things
away or unpack or put away groceries or anything. I
can't stop until the task is finished, so I kind
(01:36):
of can't see things that need to be done because
if I see things that need to be done and
need to do them, so, yes, it's a probably it's
a version of OCD, and no, I'm not a medication
for it. So if someone if I that's why with
my partner in relief work, if I get into something,
so I'll call him and I'll say, Okay, I am
(01:59):
really heartbroken over the Ppe situation during the pandemic, or
what's going on in Ukraine or what's going on in
Puerto Rico or something going on. He will get activated
and he'll get excited because he has his own version
of like addiction, you know, to the cause, and so
he'll get all worked up. But then I'll have to
(02:20):
control it because I'll have flipped the switch on and
I'll have to say to him, but like, we have
to do this to a certain point. But then I
have to extricate because I used to not control myself.
And by the way, years ago, I used to produce
events and I was the best at producing events. I
was the best at the p and L the best
at the budget. Why because I didn't miss a single detail,
because every single floral chair, everything was put back the
(02:43):
way that it was. There was no waste, every single
food item, every I just was, you know, obsessive, and
it wasn't good for me, but I was good for it,
So I was excellent at it. So I am excellent
at relief work because I am thorough, I am organized,
I am efficient. I execute and I don't stop until
it's done. But it's not good for me because I
won't be sleeping at night. And when I first started
(03:05):
out and we were doing Hurricane Maria, I was up
all night on every chat room, fixated, focused, and I
have to finish. So if someone asks me to help
them with something, it could be designing their house, it
could be helping them get a job. It could be
choosing a wardrobe. It could be setting them up with someone.
It could be finding a chef for a party, or
(03:28):
I'm finding a chef for my own party, or I
need a specific food truck. It could be any or makeup.
That's what happened in the beginning of the beauty journey
because I was fixated on every single product, so be
cream blush, the best cream blush, cream, bronzer, this powder,
this eyelash curler, and I have to control myself. And
the CMO of Beam Global, the company that ended up
(03:51):
buying the Skinny Girl cocktails, he called me an idea
hamster because once I got on emails with someone and
I'm telling them an idea for a show, for a name,
for a product, for anything, I hyper fixate. And so
everyone who knows me knows I'm like a machine and
I like gang, you know, would just like fire off ideas.
And that's why I was kind of good at reality
TV too, because I'd have twenty five ideas for each
(04:12):
scene and for what we were doing. And so anyway,
it can translate into doing too much and giving too much,
because if you don't get back, which is impossible to
get back at this kind of a clip, you feel
like the giving tree and you feel like you're not
someone's not meeting you halfway, and you can't force them
(04:32):
to meet you halfway because no one is a machine
like you. So what you have to do is you
have to force yourself to stop giving and doing because
if someone asks you for something, You're just going to
do it. That's who you are. So if your friend
asks you one question about a wedding dress, you're going
to go off and give them fifty five wedding dresses
(04:53):
and you're overshooting the mark. So it's kind of like
someone you know. And this could happen in relationships in French,
where you have to know your limitations and not expect
someone else to do at the same rate as you do,
but also not to overdo, and also not to set
yourself up for situations like this. I've created a situation
(05:14):
where as an accidental influencer, stuff is constantly coming to
my house, so I have to look at it, I
have to review it, and I keep trying to tell
people not to send it. But people are also addicted
to me reviewing products, so I keep getting things and
they want a good review, and so I'm also trying
to not get things because if I see that it's here,
I'm gonna have to look at it and open it.
And this is also extremely obsessive. I'm well aware. We
(05:35):
don't have to criticize me. You't have to tell me.
You enough to tell me. I need to seek help.
I talk to someone like it's a situation. But I
definitely have to intervene in my own habits because otherwise
I become the giving tree and I feel depleted, and
it's honestly my fault. Now, let's talk about that the
(06:07):
post that I did not know was going to break
the Internet, that I just posted the fireplace post with
a heated throw and a guy. Sometimes I forget the
pockets that different social media. This is why magazines. Another
archaic form is magazines. Magazines. When you sat in the
nail salon and looked at a glossy magazine as someone
on the cover, it's like, who cares? You know? I
(06:27):
don't do morning TV shows anymore. It means I have
to leave my house, take a shower, get glam, go somewhere.
For what. I have my own TV show, it's my
own phone. It's archaic. So I forget that because if
I want to talk about something, I want to announce something.
Remember when like Beyonce dropped her album herself on iTunes,
(06:48):
like she wasn't going through the dog and Pony show
of like a label or any of that shit. It's like,
I've got my own music. I did it, I'm dropping it. Remember,
when like Taylor Swift took back her own fucking content
because the Scooter Braun debacle. It's called like you're your
own content, your own podcast, you can self publish, you
could do whatever you want. So I was just I
just wanted to eat. I like TikTok is a creative
for me. It's like a garage band. So I'm just
(07:10):
sitting there like Wan liking that song and it like
just I saw him sitting by the fireplace making a
fire and it just like was like, em my man,
thank you for my man. It's a sound on TikTok.
It just I just posted in two seconds and there
are articles about it, and it's like everybody has to
make it into something like now all of a sudden,
I'm like getting married, I'm registering for China. And this
(07:31):
is what happens with relationships where everyone makes it into
something like I genuinely if I don't post someone's face
or say anything, it's not a hard launch, Like it
was just a fun post. What if it was just
it could have literally been a one night stand that
a guy had a heated throw that he got me,
you know, like it wasn't. But the point is like
(07:53):
everyone's so crazy and starving, and they want to bring
you up and then take you down. You know, like
like you're supposed to want your own privacy, but you
have to share with everybody exactly what's going on and
what you're doing. And they are so loving and they
glamorize your relationship into perfection and the romance and like
a man making me a fire and buying me a blanket,
(08:14):
it's as if he bought me an island and you know,
a canary diamond. And everybody's got like these fantasies going
on in their mind about what it is. And then
you know, people want to take you on the ride,
and if something doesn't work out, then everyone wants it
to crash and burn, and like everyone gets dragged along.
They've got to do the greatest hits of all my
relationships and talk about my daughter. And it's just like
(08:37):
and yet it's hard to stay private. I'll tell you
why it's hard to stay private. It's hard to stay
private because let's say, go to a restaurant with someone
that I like. So let's say in the beginning, I'm
cautious and I don't want someone to be public at
all because I just don't want this to defy me,
and I don't want this to be a soft launch,
a lukewarm launch, or any launch. I'm just out with somebody.
But let's say I get paparazzi, then it's out there.
(08:57):
Now there's twenty seven articles. I mean, there are people
who have been scene for one night. Literally. It's how
Kim Kardashian started her fame. She was at I heard
the story because I know the people that were there.
She was out and she stood next to Nicolache and
she got photographed and it went everywhere, and she just
kept like raising her public stock that she wasn't really
with him, you know, like maybe she went out with
him once, But if you're out with someone once, it
(09:18):
could become like a fantasy that everyone thinks you guys
are in a mad, crazy relationship. So you want us
sort of be careful. But let's say go to dinner
with someone and we got paparazzi. Then they look them up,
they find out who it is, and we're off to
the races. And the relationship might not be ready for
that because that person may get gunshy and scared, and
you know, let's say you're just on your first date,
(09:39):
and then other people don't want to date you because
they're reading that you're out and you're like in a
serious relationship. So let's say you go on a couple
of dates. Let's say you like someone. Let's say you
sleep with someone. Let's say they could be the one.
You have no idea. It's a month and they could
be the one, they could be the not one. It's
a month. Then you've been photographed. You're trying to get
through that. Now you know, maybe they don't want put
pr they don't want it at all. They like you,
(10:00):
they're interested in you. They don't want a public persona.
Maybe their family doesn't want that. Maybe it's not good
for their business. Maybe they have you know, they work
in a private field. Okay. And then you're out to
dinner and you're out with a bunch of people and
you're out let's say REOs, or you're out at Carbone
and you're taking pictures. You're like excluding them. You're taking
pictures because you're living your life and like there, or
(10:22):
you all take a group picture. Someone says you want
to get a group picture. Then you want to post
it because you just want to be like I was
at REO's or I was somewhere, and you're excluding this
person because you've decided. You've said to yourself, I don't
want this to be a public thing yet. And by
the way, this can apply to the cul de sac
I always talk about the cul de sac doesn't have
to be, you know, public domain. It could be like
in your life, you're not ready for people to know,
(10:45):
but now you're leaving people out of pictures. And now
you're leaving people out of activities because you don't want
other people to see it. So now you're leaving people
out of pictures, and you post a picture of you
at Carbone or a Rockefeller Center or something, and then
it could be like marginalizing the other person. And then
people think you are still single, so still reaching out
to you. And I'm telling you, if the situation were reversed,
(11:05):
I would not want someone to exclude me. I might
not want to be public, but I also don't want
to be invisible. I don't want to be excluded. So
now there you're in a rock and a hard place.
Both parties are between a rock and a hard place.
So then you know you're at an event. Let's say
you're at the Yellowstone premiere, and a photographer says to you,
(11:27):
can I get a picture of you? Guys, You're out
on a date with a man. You're standing next to
Jay Cutler and his girlfriend who you saw wearing a ring,
and you know before anybody else knows that they're engaged.
You're not saying anything, and a photographer says, can we
get a picture? I was already thinking, shit, the guy
had a dui. Shit, the guy's engage. Are they gonna notice?
But I can't be responsible for everyone? And shit, now
if we get a picture taken, the guy that I'm
(11:47):
standing with thinks this is just a picture taken at
the event. He doesn't know this is going to be
international news. Lo and behold the next day it's in
every fucking magazine. And then you're like, shit, I want
to start my diet again because last time I got fun.
So then you're like, I want to start my diet again.
Then you're out on another event, and then someone comes
up to you because you also want to bring a
guy on an event. You don't want to be invited
to something and be alone, especially during the holidays. Let's
(12:09):
say you're seeing someone you might want to bring them
to something. Then a photographer comes up to you. You're like,
you just went through this, and you're like, no, thank you,
it's okay. And it feels awkward. It feels like you're
embarrassed to the person you're with. You're in shamed, You're ashamed.
You don't want to be seen with them, like you're not.
You are running game. You want to sleep with other people,
you want to date other people. Why don't you want
to take a picture with them, even though they know
(12:31):
they really kind of might not want it either, because
the game moves quickly and the next day they're going
to be in twenty articles again. But it's like you're
damned if you do, damned if you don't. So you
don't take a picture. And then you're sitting in front
of a fireplace and it's a cute and you're like,
you want to include the man, just to be like, ah, yes,
I'm seeing a man, like I'm seeing someone. He's here
right now, he's a nice guy. He's making me a fire.
It's cute. This is a TikTok sound. I connect with
(12:52):
my people. I want to include them, their nosy bitches,
let's go. And then that thing becomes the hard launch
when you've posted a picture with the back of their head,
you know, just like I did on my birthday. It
was a ten photo slider, and they're just happened to
be me holding a man's head from behind, because it's
not a soft launch and it's not a hard launch.
It's just saying I was holding someone's hands, and the
(13:12):
romance part of me and the dating adventure era of
me is alive. It does not mean that I am
ring shopping and shopping for China. It's just that it's
not exactly and no one needs to like feel bad
for me. I have a great life, I'm happy. I'm
just explaining that not everything is what it seems for
certain people. You know, I really really admire Ryan Gosling
(13:36):
and his wife and their militant way of keeping their
relationship private, but yet we still know wh they're in
a relationship. I remember Katie Holmes was dating Jamie Fox.
It was the best, it was the worst kept secret.
They were fully together because they got photographed. Did she
hard launch it? No? Does it make a difference. Was
it still international news? Yeah? When they broke up, was
(13:57):
it still international news? Yeah? It's pretty hard to keep
something private, is what I'm saying. If people give a
shit about what you're doing and not, everything is as
it seems, so don't believe everything you read. Don't believe
every picture you see. Don't believe hard launch soft launch
paparazzi pictures like, Yes, they're an indication, but they don't
mean everything. Does that make sense
Host
Bethenny Frankel
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