Just B Rant: Who Hurt You?

Astrology signs, core wounds, families of origin--we're all our own brand of crazy. Consider the source.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:12):
Can I just make a case for astrology. The more
that I interact with astrology, the more that I believe it. Now.
I don't mean that you have to like exclusively abide
by or subscribe to it, but the more I experience
in life, the more I really do believe in it. Now.

(00:34):
I don't get into like rising and moon and all that,
but I'll tell you something. If there's someone that I'm
really vibing with, I'll ask them their sign and it
will align. And if there's someone that I'm really not
vibing with, the same thing will happen. And also sometimes
like let's say you work with someone or you're dating
someone and you realize there's a certain part of their
personality that you don't understand that doesn't make any sense

(00:56):
to you. Like let's say like you're a multiple box
tech and they're just responding with like one word and
you think they're like either rude or cold or abrupt
or something, or like you're expressing yourself and they're really not.
And you look up their sign, and it also matters
if it's like a man or a woman, you know,
like a male scorpio or female scorpio. You'll find that

(01:17):
it's not just that, like you've made the horoscope work
for you, you'll find that it does kind of line up.
You shouldn't only live by it, but I have to say,
it really does work. It really does work to me.
It's at least something fun to like add because you
could you could work on a friendship, a work relationship,
or a romantic relationship by realizing, oh, this is how

(01:39):
that person's wired. You know, there's so many ways that
we're wired differently, like based on how we grew up
and based on I actually said to someone recently, this
is not related to astrology, but like I think we
have to figure out where someone comes from to understand
why they're the way that they are culturally, from a
religious standpoint, from where they grew up, from how they

(02:00):
grew up, from a did they have money from over
things handed to them? Like, we have to look at
where people really start from to see where they're at. So, like,
there was someone that wasn't understanding some of the way
that I operate, and I said to them, let and
they come from a very good, secure, solid family and
I don't. And I said to them, let's put it

(02:22):
this way. You are a breeder dog, like you have
had a really nice upbringing that's sort of safe and
controlled and like baths on time, and just like it's
been fairly calm. I'm a rescue dog, so like if
you come close to me, I might bite you. Something
that you would do that is normal, that would seem normal.

(02:43):
I may see is not normal. I may react differently,
like I came from an abusive childhood, Like I'm you know,
not going to react the same way. When you get

(03:09):
with someone, it's also good to ask them, like what
their thing is like. Some people need to feel loved.
Some people need to feel safe, Some people need to
feel supported, Some people need to be given their space,
some people need their independence. Some people are free spirits.
Some people are birds that you know need to fly,
and some people are just like in work, like need
to work independently versus in a group. And I think

(03:32):
that for us to understand other people, we have to
really look at where someone comes from and how they're
walking into the situation that you're in. To meet you
where you're at. I think that we often get in
our own head and want someone else to operate in
a way that we would operate, And I just that's
been coming up a bit lately. You know, there's something
I'll discuss later where people try to criticize me and

(03:53):
troll me, and they think like they're getting to me.
First of all, they don't realize that I actually do
see trolls and haters as motivators. I can always make
chicken salad out of chicken shit, no pun intended, Like
I can turn a flurry of hate into something positive
for myself or for other people. And I'm kind of
uninsultable because of the way that I grew up, so

(04:13):
I have the thickest skin. I'm a survivor, which also
means I'm gonna be tough, really tough in a way
that other people won't understand. And it's gonna be like
who hurts you? And I'm be like, you want to
sit down and we'll write a list. You know how
people do that expression like who hurts you? It's like
who hurts you? Get me a pen and paper. Who
hurts you? Who molested you, who abused you, who is
root to you? Who did this in front of you?

(04:34):
Who's like, you know, let's get a list, so and
someone else may come into it from like no one
hurt them? You know, and we don't want for bad
things to happen to our kids. But by the same token,
my daughter is not gonna be able to deal with
life in the same way that I am. She's not
gonna be the same type of like she probably will
because she's my daughter. But one of the things about

(04:56):
these experiences, like taking her to fashion we can take
her to the premiere is an interesting thing, and vacations
and emirates first class and you know, and people sending
her stuff all the time and holding it back because
I will not raise a spoiled child that's entitled. It's
hard for me. Like she just thinks that things are
going to come easily because they come so easily now,
And you can't be the one that's taking your kidde

(05:18):
vocation and you're leaving them in the back of the
plane and you're sitting on the front, and you're not
going to like order what you want in a menu
and tell her she's only allowed to order, you know,
cup of noodles. So it is a difficult thing to
raise a well adjusted child. And it's also it annoys
you because you know how you grew up and you
look at this kid and you want them to know

(05:38):
this kid has no idea. I was thirty something years old,
couldn't afford a taxi. He was bouncing checks like this
kid can always afford her boba or her coffee, or
to be with her friends. She'll never gasp and pray
that someone else would pay, or not know if her
ATM card is going to work or you know, it's
like exasperating. I remember having to like you know, combine

(05:58):
credit card debt or like getting the insufficient funds noticed
is not knowing how you're gonna pay your rent, trying
to sell things like just feeling anxiety and desperate the
money noise which stays with you like I still have it.
So that was a tangent off of astrology that makes
no sense. But it's just like knowing why people are
different and understanding that and really like thinking about its

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