December 10, 2025 • 30 mins
Whether you're in your winter arc or locking in, Diosa and Mala discuss the pressure to transform your life and/or check off your to-do list before the year ends. There may be a manufactured sense of urgency, but during this winter season, Diosa and Mala believe it's important to slow down, rest, and even hibernate.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Mala. Are you ready to lock.
Speaker 2 (00:01):
In, like for the rest of the year, for the
next two weeks weeks?
Speaker 1 (00:05):
Are you ready?
Speaker 2 (00:07):
I don't know. I've been trying to lock in for
like the past thirty three years. Is now the time?
Speaker 1 (00:12):
Why start?
Speaker 3 (00:12):
Now?
Speaker 2 (00:13):
You're right, Look how far we've come. I've done so well.
Why bother?
Speaker 1 (00:17):
Why bother?
Speaker 2 (00:18):
Lock into what exactly?
Speaker 1 (00:20):
Exactly?
Speaker 2 (00:21):
Let's talk about it. Let's talk about it. Ola la is,
I'm Fiosa and I'm Mala.
Speaker 3 (00:31):
Today we're talking about the pressure to quote finish the
year strong.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
Yeah, so much pressure.
Speaker 3 (00:39):
There's so much chatter. Yeah, during the last I feel
like two months.
Speaker 1 (00:45):
Of the year.
Speaker 3 (00:46):
Definitely the last quarter, starting October, I think is when
we really start to see that chatter.
Speaker 2 (00:50):
There's a lot of pressure to completely change everything about yourself.
Why by January? I know, like ditch all of your
old habits, start new ones, get rid of your wardrobe,
get a new one, join a gym, make new friends, get.
Speaker 1 (01:05):
A hobby, be a whole new person, be a.
Speaker 2 (01:07):
Whole new person. Like, don't be yourself anymore, actually be
someone different.
Speaker 3 (01:12):
B goes back to like being the optimized version of yourself.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
It's true, it's true. And now with AI we can
optimize every aspect of our lives.
Speaker 3 (01:25):
Yeah, everything, everything, everything I've noticed. So there's like two
social media terms trends that I see that go along
with this idea of locking in. One is like the
winter arc. Have you heard of that one? No?
Speaker 2 (01:41):
What is the winter arc? This is a new one. Okay,
this is a new one.
Speaker 3 (01:45):
The winter arc is where an individual focuses on self improvement, wellness,
or specific goals in the ninety days leading up to
the new year.
Speaker 1 (01:53):
Oh, I see, that's the winter arc.
Speaker 3 (01:55):
That's the winter arc, which is a misnomer because not
to be a nerd, but winter does and start until December,
So can we start there?
Speaker 2 (02:04):
The arc is misplaced. The arc needs to start in
December and then end in February.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
Yes, and you know we're mammals.
Speaker 3 (02:15):
This is actually the rest period.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
Yes, nothing blooms in the wintertime.
Speaker 2 (02:20):
We have to hibernate. We have to like have our
snacks and our cuddles and our hot cocoa and see
our families and not go to work.
Speaker 3 (02:32):
Yep.
Speaker 2 (02:32):
We need to rejuvenate.
Speaker 1 (02:34):
Absolutely.
Speaker 2 (02:34):
We need to actually maybe indulge in our existing habits. Yeah,
maybe be more of ourselves than we've ever been now.
I do appreciate, of course, like the desire to like
start new healthy habits and to make positive changes and
to do the thing that you've said you were going
to do for years finally do it. There's a sense
(02:57):
of relief, it feels good. But I don't think that
the end of the year, the beginning of the new
year is the time to start.
Speaker 3 (03:06):
I think where it gets a little murky for me
is where it's this expectation to do all the things
or there's a pressure to complete all of the things
in your life, whether that or to maybe reinstate, re
start over and like quote lock in for the rest
of the year. And I feel like it's this expectation
(03:27):
to cover like fitness, work, mental health, emotional health, wellness,
right like all of the things relationships, your social your hobbies.
It's all of these things. When I mean, maybe we
just pick one, like if we do want to quote
lock in. I don't think that having this like all
(03:48):
or nothing mentality.
Speaker 1 (03:50):
Will be sustainable.
Speaker 2 (03:51):
It's not healthy.
Speaker 3 (03:52):
And I think that's where like the these great these
challenges can kind of have this murkiness to them, like
the seventy five hard, Yeah, the winter arc, the lock in.
Speaker 1 (04:02):
Yeah, it's it's all part of this.
Speaker 3 (04:04):
Like I seem described as like a sprint, Like it's
not meant to be long term. You're not meant to
be You're not meant to work on all of this
long term. It's like a sprint to get you into
these new habits.
Speaker 2 (04:15):
Yeah, it also seems like this was invented by very
successful procrastinators. No, I'm going to wait all year and
then in the last ninety days that's when I'm going
to make all of my changes and change my whole
entire life and everything about myself. When I think and like,
don't get me wrong, I love procrastinating. I'm a big procrastinator.
(04:38):
I get it. And I'll just I'll start in December.
I'll start in January. I'm going to wait till this
like very specific time period to start this thing when
I think that the most lasting changes are slow and
steady and incremental. Yeah, and maybe not when there's like
fanfare and like attention and celebration and holidays and deals,
(05:02):
like it needs to kind of be in a quiet moment,
you know, when like you've just decided for yourself, I'm
going to start working out, I'm gonna start eating differently.
I'm going to pick up a hobby. And it's part
of your everyday life and your routine, and it's part
of the mundane actually, and you keep it not because
(05:22):
there's a there's a cyber Monday deal and it's my
resolution and I'm putting it on Instagram.
Speaker 3 (05:28):
Yeah, it goes. I think back to the trend of
it all and the way we then, like I want
the word that I want to use is like content contentify,
which is not the right word, but it's like what.
Speaker 1 (05:42):
I'm thinking it is now.
Speaker 3 (05:43):
It's like we're contentifying our lives in some ways, will
do the thing to make it content. And I don't
think that that's necessarily the core of why people show
up online in those ways. Of course, like we're online,
and I don't think that there's anything to say ingenuous
about it. But I do think then there's this pressure like, oh, well,
I can film this and I can make this content,
(06:05):
and then this can be part of my brand or
part of my social media presence, and so then we
do our content deifying our lives in that way.
Speaker 2 (06:14):
Absolutely. I'm in this place too where I think what
I do value is like the end of year review
as I love that, yeah, as opposed to like the
new year resolution, like let's look at the end of
your review and how did we do this year? Yeah,
(06:34):
and what did we stick with and what did we
accomplish and like celebrating that because it gives us like
a dopamine hit for a job well done. Not the
instant gratification of like this is my resolution. It's more
like this is what I did, you know. And so
(06:55):
I think there's something to be said about the quiet
build and again doing it like it's you or your
or your buddy, your friend, your partner, like and doing
it every day, every week, and then it becomes every month,
and then it becomes oh, I've been doing this thing
all year.
Speaker 1 (07:13):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (07:14):
I think I think that's like where I want to
shift my focus this time around. I like that.
Speaker 3 (07:22):
Yeah, yeah, that's definitely like seeing it for the long game, right,
as opposed to this end of your pressure to get
it all done because you didn't get it done yet.
When I think, like what if it just rolls over
into the new year, I catch myself doing that where
I will self impose rules on myself and my therapist
(07:42):
is like, wait till who said that? And I'm like,
oh right, nobody said that, I said that.
Speaker 2 (07:46):
Who told you that that was a rule?
Speaker 3 (07:48):
Yes? Yeah, And I think that this is one of
those things where we feel that we have to start
anew in twenty twenty six or whatever new year it is.
We have to turn a new lead like insert metaphor,
right for a newness. Yeah, and I don't think that
that's always the case, like things carry on, like the
(08:10):
story continues. Yeah, it's a run on sentence sometimes, Yes,
it's not. We're not always starting a new I do
appreciate like the new year energy, right with that comes
with goal setting and re evaluating and dreaming up like
what you want this new calendar year to look like.
But I do think like this end of your push,
it just feels like just so like late stage capitalism.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
You know, Oh absolutely, it's like where it's a warehouse sale.
Yeah basically, but of your life. Yes, and that's cool. Like,
here's the deal is. I don't want to discourage anyone,
No from a resolution or from a winter arc or whatever. However,
you get things done and you get things jump started,
(08:54):
like do it, yeah, do it. I just know that
it's never worked for me. It's never worked for me
the resolution like the New Year's being the starting point
for something big, it's never given me the return. Yeah,
you know, but just kind of yeah, being very boring
about it. Actually interesting, like with the working out, I've
(09:17):
been in the gym for about a year now, but
it didn't start as like this year, I'm gonna do it,
this year, I'm gonna do it. It was just like
me and my partner one day were like, let's go
to the gym. Okay, let's go again. Let's go again,
let's go back, and you just kept going and we
just kept going. And now it's been a year.
Speaker 1 (09:38):
Now it's a part of your life, and now it's.
Speaker 2 (09:39):
A part of my life, you know. And like school,
it wasn't like, oh this year I'm going back to school.
It had been something on my mind, on my mind,
on my mind, and then it was like the middle
of the summer and I'm like, oh, there's the deadline
is in August, you know, and here we are, I'm
(10:04):
entering year three. So I'm not saying that my way
is the way to do it. It's just the way
that has worked for me, you know. And I just
think that there's this sense of like manufactured pressure with
the new year, because you know, our calendar is a
manufactured calendar.
Speaker 1 (10:20):
It's the Gregorian calendar.
Speaker 2 (10:22):
The Gregoryan calendar. It's not like, oh, it's harvest time.
It's not like an actual moment in the life cycle
of the earth that signals a fresh start. So it
feels false like physically, it doesn't feel like a natural
it doesn't beginning.
Speaker 3 (10:41):
Feel like a natural new beginning because it's winter. It's
the winter where actually meant to rest during the winter.
Speaker 2 (10:48):
Not start new things.
Speaker 3 (10:49):
And the winter solstice aligns with the Christmas holiday or
just the holiday season. I think because we're in the
winter season. Keeping in mind that we're not meant to
run and be at full capacity three hundred and sixty
five days. That's why there are seasons, so we have
the spring, equinox, summer, solstice, fall, harvest.
Speaker 1 (11:10):
All of that.
Speaker 3 (11:11):
Our bodies and our moods and our mind and just
the way we flow as beings can change. Not to
be woo about it, but there's truth.
Speaker 1 (11:21):
There's I mean, it's.
Speaker 3 (11:21):
Nature and we're mammals. When we can be connected to
nature and the moon and the sun and all of
the different seasons. And so I think that's also why
there's like a pool right by this, like you said,
a manufactured pressure. There's a pool to get it all
done and to lock in and to check all the
(11:42):
things off. And that's not inherently bad. But I think
where it can get confusing is when, well, that's actually
not how I feel. I don't want to lock in
and do all the things. I actually just want to
rest right now. And so I think that's where for me,
I take a step back and think, Okay, how are
we pressuring women to lock in to develop this brand
(12:05):
new archetype before the calendar year begins, as opposed to, Okay,
why don't what if we encouraged rest instead, Yeah, as
opposed to, like, let's hustle some more. You've got to
make it work and last before the year ends.
Speaker 2 (12:20):
I think that if we were rested at the end
of the year and could just appreciate the hard work
we put in all year, that we would naturally just
start the new year with more vigor and more energy
and more excitement and more gratitude and more willingness to
(12:40):
do new things and try new things. But it's like
we can't burn ourselves out at the end of a
long year in late stage capitalism. I think that's why
a lot of resolutions fail. You didn't give yourself a
chance to rest, and you didn't congratulate yourself on what
you did accomplish. Instead, you said, knew me because the
(13:04):
existing me is not good enough. But like, what if
you just gave existing you a pad on the back
and a nap and.
Speaker 1 (13:12):
A nice treat sounds fabulous?
Speaker 2 (13:14):
You know, wouldn't you wake up in the new year.
I know I would wake up in the new year
happier and rejuvenated and ready to fucking go. And the
positive reinforcement of all I think that science and education
has come far enough that we know that positive reinforcement
works with human beings. A negative reinforcement not so much.
(13:37):
Like we have to reward ourselves for the good things
that we do. We have to congratulate ourselves for our accomplishments,
no matter how small. Because if we work hard and
we don't congratulate ourselves and we don't give ourselves rewards,
our brain has no incentive to continue to work hard
(13:59):
or to continue you to try. Like I think that
our brains and our bodies are looking for rewards so
that we can keep going. But if we're like self
flagellating constantly and punishing constantly, like that's all our mind
and our spirit and our bodies are accustomed to the negativity,
(14:20):
the negativity, and so no matter what I do, no
matter my output, it's met with negativity. So I think
it actually causes us to shut down and to not
put ourselves out there. But when we give ourselves little rewards,
we do give ourselves those dopamine hits. I think that
our minds and our bodies and our spirits want more. Okay,
(14:40):
well if that got me this, what if I do
this thing? What if I do more, I might feel
even better, I might get even more rewards. So yeah,
I think we have to. Yeah, we have to be
nicer to ourselves.
Speaker 3 (14:52):
Don't go anywhere, locomotives, We'll be right back. What is
this small thing and of big thing? You have pat
yourself on the back floor?
Speaker 2 (15:02):
Oh that you did this year? Well, I haven't been drinking.
I've taken off a couple of months before traveling because
I'm going to be going to Columbia at the end
of December beginning of January. So I don't think that
I've ever really like had a holiday season, been to parties,
(15:24):
been to dinners, been to events, been to like premieres.
I mean, you know, we went to the Signal Awards
and I wasn't drinking, Like in what universe am I
going to an award ceremony with an open bar in
New York City where we won awards and I'm not drinking.
But I didn't. And so that for me, I think
for some people might be a small thing, but for
(15:45):
me was kind of a big thing because I've never
done it before. Yeah, I've never said no to an
open bar again at an event where we're winning, please,
because you celebrate with a cocktail. So I know this
is kind of contrad victory to what I just said
about rewarding yourself, because that was a big accomplishment. But
(16:05):
I think the trip and going out there and like
being in the room with everybody was the reward. Yeah,
you know, the cocktail itself is not really a reward.
Speaker 3 (16:16):
Right, Yeah, I mean, and we do, not to get
too off topic, but we do very much live in
a culture that can be centered around cocktails and drinking.
It's very much comes in tandem with like celebrations and
gatherings when.
Speaker 1 (16:34):
That's not the only way to celebrate.
Speaker 3 (16:36):
I love me a cocktail too, right, I will hardly
turn one down, But it doesn't have to be the
only way that we celebrate.
Speaker 2 (16:43):
Either, exactly.
Speaker 3 (16:45):
I think.
Speaker 2 (16:47):
That's like both a big and a small one for me.
And then I think that I've also just oh my god,
I started like running again, which is I haven't run
in years because I told myself that, like I don't
like it and that it's hard, which it is hard,
but I just had like a mental block about it,
which I have like been lifting and just like chipping
(17:10):
away at. I'm not going to run any marathons anytime soon.
I'm leaving that up to you.
Speaker 1 (17:14):
Maybe we'll run together one day.
Speaker 2 (17:16):
I was kind of thinking that that maybe I have
to run a marathon now, but yeah, so it's very exciting.
Oh my god, we'll have to get like marathon merge.
Speaker 1 (17:26):
Yeah, singlets, we'll have to like do the whole thing.
Speaker 2 (17:29):
Oh my god, I'm screaming. I love it.
Speaker 1 (17:31):
Now you have to do it like years from now.
Speaker 2 (17:34):
But you heard it here first, I'm going to run
a marathon.
Speaker 1 (17:37):
We can reference this episode once you do run a marathon.
Speaker 2 (17:40):
I love it. I'm so down. Yes, so yeah, that's
a So those are the small things, small and big.
How about you? What are the small things and the
big things?
Speaker 3 (17:49):
Okay, small things, small thing? I know I asked this question,
but I like don't know. My mind is blank. Let's see,
I'll start with a big thing, big thing.
Speaker 1 (17:56):
I run two marathons this year.
Speaker 2 (17:58):
Huge.
Speaker 3 (17:59):
That was a big deal for me because well, I've
only run let me not say only, I've run three
marathons and two of them were this year.
Speaker 2 (18:09):
Wild and I just really.
Speaker 3 (18:10):
Wanted to challenge myself to do two in a year.
I think I see a lot of people like run
and take nick no breaks off, and I thought like, oh,
I don't. That's really not my style. So I did
try to like give myself breaks in between and give
myself time off before I got into a new training block.
And I thought like, if I see other people running
(18:32):
multiple marathons more than two in a year, and that's
not my gym.
Speaker 1 (18:36):
But I thought like, okay, I see people.
Speaker 3 (18:38):
Some are my peers, some I don't know, maybe they're
running influencers or athletes, and I want to challenge myself
to also run too, so I did them spread out
like March and August. So I think that was really
gratifying that I could do it.
Speaker 1 (18:54):
And I could push myself. I don't know if I'll
do it again, like two in a year.
Speaker 2 (18:58):
Sure.
Speaker 1 (18:59):
My coach and I.
Speaker 3 (18:59):
Did talk about it, and she told me, I think
you can do two in a year, actually spread them
out more so she's thinking like March November.
Speaker 1 (19:08):
I see, because you did March August.
Speaker 2 (19:11):
Oh my god, yeah, I know.
Speaker 3 (19:13):
It was just a full year of racing. I did
the La Marathon, I did the rosebul Half, I did
the Nike Women's Marathon. I did the Shoreline Half Marathon,
and I think that's it in terms of half and
then I did the Mexico City Marathon and then I
did the Long Beach Half Marathon. And it was just
a lot of racing for one year. And I've never
(19:33):
raced that much. And I think it's about finding just
what works for you, because I see people race a lot,
and then I see people like don't they don't race
at all, or just do one a year, And I
think it's just all about finding like the balance that
works for you. So I think this year I found
maybe it was too much I could physically do it.
Mentally was really challenging to always be like training and
(19:55):
because it's not just the running as we know, it's
making sure you're getting enough sleep and feeling properly and
saying no to invites because you have to go to bedterly,
or you're tired because you ran a million miles that saturday.
So it's really changing your whole life while you're training.
And so I think since I did practically ten months
(20:16):
of it, I was feeling burnt out in the end.
So I think that goes to my small pad on
the back, is that I let myself take like a
month and a half.
Speaker 1 (20:24):
Off nice from running good.
Speaker 3 (20:27):
I was like tapped out mentally physically, I felt so fine,
And I kept telling my coach like, I'm not in pain,
I'm not tired, I'm still going to the gym, I'm
still playing tennis. I'm still active, but I can knock
get out the door. And she was like, I think
you're burnt out. Just take as much time as you need.
And so she checked in with me a couple of
weeks ago and was like, Okay, we're gearing up for
(20:49):
new training.
Speaker 1 (20:50):
How are you.
Speaker 3 (20:50):
Feeling mentally, So at that point I was feeling a
lot better. And so I've been running again and I'm
back out there and so that's been really good. Nice,
And yeah, I think it goes back to just giving
yourself the grace and the time off, especially in this
culture that wants us to go, go, go all the
time and like always achieve like the next best thing,
(21:10):
especially for running, like chasing the next personal record or
the new time, what have you. And just running for
fun is also great.
Speaker 1 (21:21):
Yeah, that's valid too.
Speaker 2 (21:22):
Absolutely, did you start the year with a goal to
run all of those races or did you just register
as they popped up.
Speaker 1 (21:33):
That's a good question. I don't know, huh.
Speaker 3 (21:35):
I think it might have just been it popped up.
I definitely know the Nike Women's Marathon. That one was
a new race. So when that one popped up, I thought, Okay,
I want to I want to do this one. And
there were some issues with it, like logistically there it
was a lot. There were some things that I wasn't
crazy about, but I'm really glad that I did it.
(21:57):
That it was a lot of fun. It was a
night race, and the behind it I think was really beautiful.
It was an all women's race, and it was to
essentially like take back the night. That is not the
language they were using, but that was the heart of it,
and it got a little weird at some point. I
think there were men that were felt they were being
(22:18):
discriminated against.
Speaker 2 (22:19):
Oh God every time.
Speaker 3 (22:21):
So I think legally, like Nike as a corporation had
to open up to all people. It was still majority women,
at least at the one in LA. But I'm not
gonna lie. When I saw like some men, I was like,
what are you doing here?
Speaker 2 (22:35):
Are like, yeah, there's all.
Speaker 3 (22:38):
The races everywhere for you, every race, every race, and
you're here. It did kind of like I roll at
them a little bit. Yeah, yeah, yeah, but I mean, yeah,
I so to go. Going back to your initial question,
I think it was just as they came after I
ran the Nike one. My coach goes, you're in really
great shape, like race wise, how do you feel about
(23:02):
doing one more? And it's in four weeks And I
was like, all right, let's do it.
Speaker 2 (23:06):
Since you're already in race shape, Yeah, might as well
keep going.
Speaker 1 (23:10):
Yes I was, and I said, okay, cool.
Speaker 3 (23:13):
Yeah, it doesn't take a lot to convince me no,
Like if you asked me to do something or you
like suggest something like I'll do it.
Speaker 2 (23:20):
Sure, I'll do it, I'll do it. Yeah yeah, yeah,
why not? Yeah, I mean you've already put in the training. Yeah,
you know, and if you're in condition for it, like, yes,
do it? You were in season? I was, you were
in season.
Speaker 3 (23:33):
So yeah, those are my big and small that I
would have myself on the back floor.
Speaker 2 (23:36):
Does Yeah, it's again both big and small at the
same time.
Speaker 1 (23:41):
Don't go anywhere, locomotives. We'll be right back.
Speaker 2 (23:48):
And we're back with more of our episode. So to
our listeners, do resolutions work for you? Have they ever
worked for you? Realistically? I think the idea is lovely. Again,
I don't want to discourage anybody from trying something new
and starting the year with a positive goal and intentions
(24:08):
and the desire to change, like do it. But I'm
just like having this moment of reflection. Where has it
ever actually worked for me? So I want to know
from our listeners, has the New Year's resolution ever worked
for you? How do you end the year? How do
you start the new year? Like, are you trying a
winter arc? Are you trying to accomplish a bajillion things
(24:29):
in ninety days, Like what is your method and what works?
That's what I'm curious about. What works?
Speaker 3 (24:35):
Yeah, earlier today I saw there's this I guess it's
a trend, but there's this concept of like.
Speaker 2 (24:45):
Vlog, miss vlog, miss, so you vlog?
Speaker 3 (24:48):
I think the twenty five days of December, like leading
up to Christmas. It's like Christmas themed.
Speaker 1 (24:53):
So I sent it to.
Speaker 3 (24:54):
Jackie, my bestie and also our project manager.
Speaker 1 (24:57):
Hijackie, and I'm like, Jackie, do you think I should
do this?
Speaker 3 (25:00):
And she goes, okay, zero to one hundred, like you're
not even posting anything right now and you want.
Speaker 1 (25:04):
To vlog miss.
Speaker 2 (25:05):
Hilarious.
Speaker 3 (25:06):
And that was a reality check for me because here
I am encouraging our listeners like, don't go zero to
one hundred.
Speaker 4 (25:12):
Yes, rest take it easy, like just pick one.
Speaker 3 (25:15):
Thing, and I'm over here, turn ofvlog for twenty five
days of course, which I can't even vlog for a week.
Speaker 2 (25:19):
I think you should do it.
Speaker 1 (25:20):
No, I think you totally do it. No, I'm not.
Speaker 3 (25:24):
I love like the holiday season. I'm not a big
like Christmas person.
Speaker 2 (25:30):
You're a you're a Halloween person.
Speaker 1 (25:32):
Person.
Speaker 3 (25:32):
I appreciate the religious elements of Christmas and the winter solstice.
Speaker 1 (25:38):
Yeah, and I love the decor.
Speaker 3 (25:40):
But I'm not someone like Fernando ironically loves Christmas, loves Christmas,
and he's such a scrooge in so many ways, but
he loves He's not a scrooge. Actually, he's more of
a grin part of gold Heart, too Small.
Speaker 2 (25:57):
Not anymore, not anymore, not anymore.
Speaker 3 (26:00):
So that's my experience that I wanted to share that
happened today, where I was like trying to like bite
off more than I could chew, and my homegirl was like,
absolutely not be realistic.
Speaker 2 (26:09):
Just come on, that's fair. Yeah. But it's so funny
because I feel like we were just posting so much,
but now it's like, oh, we don't post because it's
been a few days. Yes, so we're not posting anything.
Speaker 1 (26:20):
So it's so tiring.
Speaker 2 (26:22):
It's exhausting.
Speaker 1 (26:23):
It's exhausting. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (26:25):
I mean, there's so much to say about the creator economy,
which is a whole other episode. But going back, I
think to like the Winter arc, locking in the pressure, Like,
I think.
Speaker 1 (26:34):
Motivation is good.
Speaker 3 (26:36):
External motivation is good, but if that's not your vibe, right, now, like,
don't force it to be your vibe because everyone.
Speaker 1 (26:43):
Else is doing it.
Speaker 3 (26:44):
I think that's what I want the listener to take away,
that there's no judgment in doing it. If that's what
works for you and you need the structure of a
challenge an arc, do it, you know. But if you
feel like I'm actually really tired and all I want
to do is read my b book. That's another thing
I've seen in like the book community, it's like ten
books before the year ends. I'm like ten, I'm trying
(27:06):
to finish one right now, right, right right. And so
there is I'm seeing in like other pockets of subcommunities
online where it's this super intense way to finish the
year when I'm like, just read a.
Speaker 1 (27:17):
Book, just read one.
Speaker 2 (27:19):
I would love to read one book.
Speaker 3 (27:20):
I'd love to read one book before the year ends.
Speaker 2 (27:22):
One book would be amazing for me.
Speaker 1 (27:23):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (27:24):
I hope this resonates with y'all and let us know, like,
how are you going to be spending the next couple
of weeks? Are you locking in? Are you resting? Both
are valid? Both are fine?
Speaker 1 (27:36):
Do it feels right for you?
Speaker 2 (27:38):
Yeah? Tell us, tell us we want to know. We
want to know, and I'm genuinely curious what works for you.
Speaker 3 (27:49):
Oh, you know, before we sign off. Something that I've
been doing in the last two or three years is
at the top of the year, I write a letter
to my future self.
Speaker 1 (27:58):
Oh, and I write.
Speaker 3 (27:59):
Like how I think the year is going to go,
and then I don't open it until the following year.
Speaker 2 (28:04):
And you remember to open it at the end of
the year.
Speaker 3 (28:06):
So what I do is I just stick it in
the front of my journal so I know where it is.
It's there, And that has been a really sweet thing
where it's not centered around resolutions and yeah, there's some
goal elements because you have expectations for how you hope
the year will go. And so I think you can
write to yourself in a way that feels right Like
it doesn't have to be goal or resolution specific, but
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it could just be like, I hope this year you
spend a lot of time with your friends and you
pick up new hobby, whatever it may be. I think
that that is a really sweet thing to do for
yourself that is not like optimizing and.
Speaker 1 (28:42):
About like locking.
Speaker 3 (28:43):
It's just like a letter to your future self and
how you hope the year goes.
Speaker 2 (28:48):
That's so beautiful.
Speaker 3 (28:49):
I love that.
Speaker 1 (28:50):
Yeah, thank you.
Speaker 2 (28:51):
You're just wishing your future self well and not hoping
necessarily she's a totally different person.
Speaker 1 (28:57):
Yeah, just I hope you're doing well that one year.
Speaker 3 (29:00):
And I remember writing when it was during a really
challenging time where I wrote, like, next year, your living
situation is going to be so much better.
Speaker 1 (29:10):
And then when I opened it up the following year,
my living.
Speaker 3 (29:13):
Situation was that much better and not in like, oh
I manifested it. It just was really sweet to read,
like this was really hard and now I'm on the
other side of it, and it just is just a
really good, I think way to also just document where
you're at in your life and what you hope for
the following year.
Speaker 2 (29:31):
Absolutely, listeners, I think you should do that. I think
you should write a letter to yourself.
Speaker 1 (29:35):
Let us know when you do.
Speaker 3 (29:38):
All right, all right, look, we will catch you next time.
Speaker 1 (29:41):
Thank you for tuning in. Lasitas look I thought.
Speaker 4 (29:49):
Our radio is executive produced and hosted by me Theosa
and me Mala, also edited by Mediosa
Speaker 1 (30:27):
Logal Lumi
Mala. Are you ready to lock.
Speaker 2 (00:01):
In, like for the rest of the year, for the
next two weeks weeks?
Speaker 1 (00:05):
Are you ready?
Speaker 2 (00:07):
I don't know. I've been trying to lock in for
like the past thirty three years. Is now the time?
Speaker 1 (00:12):
Why start?
Speaker 3 (00:12):
Now?
Speaker 2 (00:13):
You're right, Look how far we've come. I've done so well.
Why bother?
Speaker 1 (00:17):
Why bother?
Speaker 2 (00:18):
Lock into what exactly?
Speaker 1 (00:20):
Exactly?
Speaker 2 (00:21):
Let's talk about it. Let's talk about it. Ola la is,
I'm Fiosa and I'm Mala.
Speaker 3 (00:31):
Today we're talking about the pressure to quote finish the
year strong.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
Yeah, so much pressure.
Speaker 3 (00:39):
There's so much chatter. Yeah, during the last I feel
like two months.
Speaker 1 (00:45):
Of the year.
Speaker 3 (00:46):
Definitely the last quarter, starting October, I think is when
we really start to see that chatter.
Speaker 2 (00:50):
There's a lot of pressure to completely change everything about yourself.
Why by January? I know, like ditch all of your
old habits, start new ones, get rid of your wardrobe,
get a new one, join a gym, make new friends, get.
Speaker 1 (01:05):
A hobby, be a whole new person, be a.
Speaker 2 (01:07):
Whole new person. Like, don't be yourself anymore, actually be
someone different.
Speaker 3 (01:12):
B goes back to like being the optimized version of yourself.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
It's true, it's true. And now with AI we can
optimize every aspect of our lives.
Speaker 3 (01:25):
Yeah, everything, everything, everything I've noticed. So there's like two
social media terms trends that I see that go along
with this idea of locking in. One is like the
winter arc. Have you heard of that one? No?
Speaker 2 (01:41):
What is the winter arc? This is a new one. Okay,
this is a new one.
Speaker 3 (01:45):
The winter arc is where an individual focuses on self improvement, wellness,
or specific goals in the ninety days leading up to
the new year.
Speaker 1 (01:53):
Oh, I see, that's the winter arc.
Speaker 3 (01:55):
That's the winter arc, which is a misnomer because not
to be a nerd, but winter does and start until December,
So can we start there?
Speaker 2 (02:04):
The arc is misplaced. The arc needs to start in
December and then end in February.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
Yes, and you know we're mammals.
Speaker 3 (02:15):
This is actually the rest period.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
Yes, nothing blooms in the wintertime.
Speaker 2 (02:20):
We have to hibernate. We have to like have our
snacks and our cuddles and our hot cocoa and see
our families and not go to work.
Speaker 3 (02:32):
Yep.
Speaker 2 (02:32):
We need to rejuvenate.
Speaker 1 (02:34):
Absolutely.
Speaker 2 (02:34):
We need to actually maybe indulge in our existing habits. Yeah,
maybe be more of ourselves than we've ever been now.
I do appreciate, of course, like the desire to like
start new healthy habits and to make positive changes and
to do the thing that you've said you were going
to do for years finally do it. There's a sense
(02:57):
of relief, it feels good. But I don't think that
the end of the year, the beginning of the new
year is the time to start.
Speaker 3 (03:06):
I think where it gets a little murky for me
is where it's this expectation to do all the things
or there's a pressure to complete all of the things
in your life, whether that or to maybe reinstate, re
start over and like quote lock in for the rest
of the year. And I feel like it's this expectation
(03:27):
to cover like fitness, work, mental health, emotional health, wellness,
right like all of the things relationships, your social your hobbies.
It's all of these things. When I mean, maybe we
just pick one, like if we do want to quote
lock in. I don't think that having this like all
(03:48):
or nothing mentality.
Speaker 1 (03:50):
Will be sustainable.
Speaker 2 (03:51):
It's not healthy.
Speaker 3 (03:52):
And I think that's where like the these great these
challenges can kind of have this murkiness to them, like
the seventy five hard, Yeah, the winter arc, the lock in.
Speaker 1 (04:02):
Yeah, it's it's all part of this.
Speaker 3 (04:04):
Like I seem described as like a sprint, Like it's
not meant to be long term. You're not meant to
be You're not meant to work on all of this
long term. It's like a sprint to get you into
these new habits.
Speaker 2 (04:15):
Yeah, it also seems like this was invented by very
successful procrastinators. No, I'm going to wait all year and
then in the last ninety days that's when I'm going
to make all of my changes and change my whole
entire life and everything about myself. When I think and like,
don't get me wrong, I love procrastinating. I'm a big procrastinator.
(04:38):
I get it. And I'll just I'll start in December.
I'll start in January. I'm going to wait till this
like very specific time period to start this thing when
I think that the most lasting changes are slow and
steady and incremental. Yeah, and maybe not when there's like
fanfare and like attention and celebration and holidays and deals,
(05:02):
like it needs to kind of be in a quiet moment,
you know, when like you've just decided for yourself, I'm
going to start working out, I'm gonna start eating differently.
I'm going to pick up a hobby. And it's part
of your everyday life and your routine, and it's part
of the mundane actually, and you keep it not because
(05:22):
there's a there's a cyber Monday deal and it's my
resolution and I'm putting it on Instagram.
Speaker 3 (05:28):
Yeah, it goes. I think back to the trend of
it all and the way we then, like I want
the word that I want to use is like content contentify,
which is not the right word, but it's like what.
Speaker 1 (05:42):
I'm thinking it is now.
Speaker 3 (05:43):
It's like we're contentifying our lives in some ways, will
do the thing to make it content. And I don't
think that that's necessarily the core of why people show
up online in those ways. Of course, like we're online,
and I don't think that there's anything to say ingenuous
about it. But I do think then there's this pressure like, oh, well,
I can film this and I can make this content,
(06:05):
and then this can be part of my brand or
part of my social media presence, and so then we
do our content deifying our lives in that way.
Speaker 2 (06:14):
Absolutely. I'm in this place too where I think what
I do value is like the end of year review
as I love that, yeah, as opposed to like the
new year resolution, like let's look at the end of
your review and how did we do this year? Yeah,
(06:34):
and what did we stick with and what did we
accomplish and like celebrating that because it gives us like
a dopamine hit for a job well done. Not the
instant gratification of like this is my resolution. It's more
like this is what I did, you know. And so
(06:55):
I think there's something to be said about the quiet
build and again doing it like it's you or your
or your buddy, your friend, your partner, like and doing
it every day, every week, and then it becomes every month,
and then it becomes oh, I've been doing this thing
all year.
Speaker 1 (07:13):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (07:14):
I think I think that's like where I want to
shift my focus this time around. I like that.
Speaker 3 (07:22):
Yeah, yeah, that's definitely like seeing it for the long game, right,
as opposed to this end of your pressure to get
it all done because you didn't get it done yet.
When I think, like what if it just rolls over
into the new year, I catch myself doing that where
I will self impose rules on myself and my therapist
(07:42):
is like, wait till who said that? And I'm like,
oh right, nobody said that, I said that.
Speaker 2 (07:46):
Who told you that that was a rule?
Speaker 3 (07:48):
Yes? Yeah, And I think that this is one of
those things where we feel that we have to start
anew in twenty twenty six or whatever new year it is.
We have to turn a new lead like insert metaphor,
right for a newness. Yeah, and I don't think that
that's always the case, like things carry on, like the
(08:10):
story continues. Yeah, it's a run on sentence sometimes, Yes,
it's not. We're not always starting a new I do
appreciate like the new year energy, right with that comes
with goal setting and re evaluating and dreaming up like
what you want this new calendar year to look like.
But I do think like this end of your push,
it just feels like just so like late stage capitalism.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
You know, Oh absolutely, it's like where it's a warehouse sale.
Yeah basically, but of your life. Yes, and that's cool. Like,
here's the deal is. I don't want to discourage anyone,
No from a resolution or from a winter arc or whatever. However,
you get things done and you get things jump started,
(08:54):
like do it, yeah, do it. I just know that
it's never worked for me. It's never worked for me
the resolution like the New Year's being the starting point
for something big, it's never given me the return. Yeah,
you know, but just kind of yeah, being very boring
about it. Actually interesting, like with the working out, I've
(09:17):
been in the gym for about a year now, but
it didn't start as like this year, I'm gonna do it,
this year, I'm gonna do it. It was just like
me and my partner one day were like, let's go
to the gym. Okay, let's go again. Let's go again,
let's go back, and you just kept going and we
just kept going. And now it's been a year.
Speaker 1 (09:38):
Now it's a part of your life, and now it's.
Speaker 2 (09:39):
A part of my life, you know. And like school,
it wasn't like, oh this year I'm going back to school.
It had been something on my mind, on my mind,
on my mind, and then it was like the middle
of the summer and I'm like, oh, there's the deadline
is in August, you know, and here we are, I'm
(10:04):
entering year three. So I'm not saying that my way
is the way to do it. It's just the way
that has worked for me, you know. And I just
think that there's this sense of like manufactured pressure with
the new year, because you know, our calendar is a
manufactured calendar.
Speaker 1 (10:20):
It's the Gregorian calendar.
Speaker 2 (10:22):
The Gregoryan calendar. It's not like, oh, it's harvest time.
It's not like an actual moment in the life cycle
of the earth that signals a fresh start. So it
feels false like physically, it doesn't feel like a natural
it doesn't beginning.
Speaker 3 (10:41):
Feel like a natural new beginning because it's winter. It's
the winter where actually meant to rest during the winter.
Speaker 2 (10:48):
Not start new things.
Speaker 3 (10:49):
And the winter solstice aligns with the Christmas holiday or
just the holiday season. I think because we're in the
winter season. Keeping in mind that we're not meant to
run and be at full capacity three hundred and sixty
five days. That's why there are seasons, so we have
the spring, equinox, summer, solstice, fall, harvest.
Speaker 1 (11:10):
All of that.
Speaker 3 (11:11):
Our bodies and our moods and our mind and just
the way we flow as beings can change. Not to
be woo about it, but there's truth.
Speaker 1 (11:21):
There's I mean, it's.
Speaker 3 (11:21):
Nature and we're mammals. When we can be connected to
nature and the moon and the sun and all of
the different seasons. And so I think that's also why
there's like a pool right by this, like you said,
a manufactured pressure. There's a pool to get it all
done and to lock in and to check all the
(11:42):
things off. And that's not inherently bad. But I think
where it can get confusing is when, well, that's actually
not how I feel. I don't want to lock in
and do all the things. I actually just want to
rest right now. And so I think that's where for me,
I take a step back and think, Okay, how are
we pressuring women to lock in to develop this brand
(12:05):
new archetype before the calendar year begins, as opposed to, Okay,
why don't what if we encouraged rest instead, Yeah, as
opposed to, like, let's hustle some more. You've got to
make it work and last before the year ends.
Speaker 2 (12:20):
I think that if we were rested at the end
of the year and could just appreciate the hard work
we put in all year, that we would naturally just
start the new year with more vigor and more energy
and more excitement and more gratitude and more willingness to
(12:40):
do new things and try new things. But it's like
we can't burn ourselves out at the end of a
long year in late stage capitalism. I think that's why
a lot of resolutions fail. You didn't give yourself a
chance to rest, and you didn't congratulate yourself on what
you did accomplish. Instead, you said, knew me because the
(13:04):
existing me is not good enough. But like, what if
you just gave existing you a pad on the back
and a nap and.
Speaker 1 (13:12):
A nice treat sounds fabulous?
Speaker 2 (13:14):
You know, wouldn't you wake up in the new year.
I know I would wake up in the new year
happier and rejuvenated and ready to fucking go. And the
positive reinforcement of all I think that science and education
has come far enough that we know that positive reinforcement
works with human beings. A negative reinforcement not so much.
(13:37):
Like we have to reward ourselves for the good things
that we do. We have to congratulate ourselves for our accomplishments,
no matter how small. Because if we work hard and
we don't congratulate ourselves and we don't give ourselves rewards,
our brain has no incentive to continue to work hard
(13:59):
or to continue you to try. Like I think that
our brains and our bodies are looking for rewards so
that we can keep going. But if we're like self
flagellating constantly and punishing constantly, like that's all our mind
and our spirit and our bodies are accustomed to the negativity,
(14:20):
the negativity, and so no matter what I do, no
matter my output, it's met with negativity. So I think
it actually causes us to shut down and to not
put ourselves out there. But when we give ourselves little rewards,
we do give ourselves those dopamine hits. I think that
our minds and our bodies and our spirits want more. Okay,
(14:40):
well if that got me this, what if I do
this thing? What if I do more, I might feel
even better, I might get even more rewards. So yeah,
I think we have to. Yeah, we have to be
nicer to ourselves.
Speaker 3 (14:52):
Don't go anywhere, locomotives, We'll be right back. What is
this small thing and of big thing? You have pat
yourself on the back floor?
Speaker 2 (15:02):
Oh that you did this year? Well, I haven't been drinking.
I've taken off a couple of months before traveling because
I'm going to be going to Columbia at the end
of December beginning of January. So I don't think that
I've ever really like had a holiday season, been to parties,
(15:24):
been to dinners, been to events, been to like premieres.
I mean, you know, we went to the Signal Awards
and I wasn't drinking, Like in what universe am I
going to an award ceremony with an open bar in
New York City where we won awards and I'm not drinking.
But I didn't. And so that for me, I think
for some people might be a small thing, but for
(15:45):
me was kind of a big thing because I've never
done it before. Yeah, I've never said no to an
open bar again at an event where we're winning, please,
because you celebrate with a cocktail. So I know this
is kind of contrad victory to what I just said
about rewarding yourself, because that was a big accomplishment. But
(16:05):
I think the trip and going out there and like
being in the room with everybody was the reward. Yeah,
you know, the cocktail itself is not really a reward.
Speaker 3 (16:16):
Right, Yeah, I mean, and we do, not to get
too off topic, but we do very much live in
a culture that can be centered around cocktails and drinking.
It's very much comes in tandem with like celebrations and
gatherings when.
Speaker 1 (16:34):
That's not the only way to celebrate.
Speaker 3 (16:36):
I love me a cocktail too, right, I will hardly
turn one down, But it doesn't have to be the
only way that we celebrate.
Speaker 2 (16:43):
Either, exactly.
Speaker 3 (16:45):
I think.
Speaker 2 (16:47):
That's like both a big and a small one for me.
And then I think that I've also just oh my god,
I started like running again, which is I haven't run
in years because I told myself that, like I don't
like it and that it's hard, which it is hard,
but I just had like a mental block about it,
which I have like been lifting and just like chipping
(17:10):
away at. I'm not going to run any marathons anytime soon.
I'm leaving that up to you.
Speaker 1 (17:14):
Maybe we'll run together one day.
Speaker 2 (17:16):
I was kind of thinking that that maybe I have
to run a marathon now, but yeah, so it's very exciting.
Oh my god, we'll have to get like marathon merge.
Speaker 1 (17:26):
Yeah, singlets, we'll have to like do the whole thing.
Speaker 2 (17:29):
Oh my god, I'm screaming. I love it.
Speaker 1 (17:31):
Now you have to do it like years from now.
Speaker 2 (17:34):
But you heard it here first, I'm going to run
a marathon.
Speaker 1 (17:37):
We can reference this episode once you do run a marathon.
Speaker 2 (17:40):
I love it. I'm so down. Yes, so yeah, that's
a So those are the small things, small and big.
How about you? What are the small things and the
big things?
Speaker 3 (17:49):
Okay, small things, small thing? I know I asked this question,
but I like don't know. My mind is blank. Let's see,
I'll start with a big thing, big thing.
Speaker 1 (17:56):
I run two marathons this year.
Speaker 2 (17:58):
Huge.
Speaker 3 (17:59):
That was a big deal for me because well, I've
only run let me not say only, I've run three
marathons and two of them were this year.
Speaker 2 (18:09):
Wild and I just really.
Speaker 3 (18:10):
Wanted to challenge myself to do two in a year.
I think I see a lot of people like run
and take nick no breaks off, and I thought like, oh,
I don't. That's really not my style. So I did
try to like give myself breaks in between and give
myself time off before I got into a new training block.
And I thought like, if I see other people running
(18:32):
multiple marathons more than two in a year, and that's
not my gym.
Speaker 1 (18:36):
But I thought like, okay, I see people.
Speaker 3 (18:38):
Some are my peers, some I don't know, maybe they're
running influencers or athletes, and I want to challenge myself
to also run too, so I did them spread out
like March and August. So I think that was really
gratifying that I could do it.
Speaker 1 (18:54):
And I could push myself. I don't know if I'll
do it again, like two in a year.
Speaker 2 (18:58):
Sure.
Speaker 1 (18:59):
My coach and I.
Speaker 3 (18:59):
Did talk about it, and she told me, I think
you can do two in a year, actually spread them
out more so she's thinking like March November.
Speaker 1 (19:08):
I see, because you did March August.
Speaker 2 (19:11):
Oh my god, yeah, I know.
Speaker 3 (19:13):
It was just a full year of racing. I did
the La Marathon, I did the rosebul Half, I did
the Nike Women's Marathon. I did the Shoreline Half Marathon,
and I think that's it in terms of half and
then I did the Mexico City Marathon and then I
did the Long Beach Half Marathon. And it was just
a lot of racing for one year. And I've never
(19:33):
raced that much. And I think it's about finding just
what works for you, because I see people race a lot,
and then I see people like don't they don't race
at all, or just do one a year, And I
think it's just all about finding like the balance that
works for you. So I think this year I found
maybe it was too much I could physically do it.
Mentally was really challenging to always be like training and
(19:55):
because it's not just the running as we know, it's
making sure you're getting enough sleep and feeling properly and
saying no to invites because you have to go to bedterly,
or you're tired because you ran a million miles that saturday.
So it's really changing your whole life while you're training.
And so I think since I did practically ten months
(20:16):
of it, I was feeling burnt out in the end.
So I think that goes to my small pad on
the back, is that I let myself take like a
month and a half.
Speaker 1 (20:24):
Off nice from running good.
Speaker 3 (20:27):
I was like tapped out mentally physically, I felt so fine,
And I kept telling my coach like, I'm not in pain,
I'm not tired, I'm still going to the gym, I'm
still playing tennis. I'm still active, but I can knock
get out the door. And she was like, I think
you're burnt out. Just take as much time as you need.
And so she checked in with me a couple of
weeks ago and was like, Okay, we're gearing up for
(20:49):
new training.
Speaker 1 (20:50):
How are you.
Speaker 3 (20:50):
Feeling mentally, So at that point I was feeling a
lot better. And so I've been running again and I'm
back out there and so that's been really good. Nice,
And yeah, I think it goes back to just giving
yourself the grace and the time off, especially in this
culture that wants us to go, go, go all the
time and like always achieve like the next best thing,
(21:10):
especially for running, like chasing the next personal record or
the new time, what have you. And just running for
fun is also great.
Speaker 1 (21:21):
Yeah, that's valid too.
Speaker 2 (21:22):
Absolutely, did you start the year with a goal to
run all of those races or did you just register
as they popped up.
Speaker 1 (21:33):
That's a good question. I don't know, huh.
Speaker 3 (21:35):
I think it might have just been it popped up.
I definitely know the Nike Women's Marathon. That one was
a new race. So when that one popped up, I thought, Okay,
I want to I want to do this one. And
there were some issues with it, like logistically there it
was a lot. There were some things that I wasn't
crazy about, but I'm really glad that I did it.
(21:57):
That it was a lot of fun. It was a
night race, and the behind it I think was really beautiful.
It was an all women's race, and it was to
essentially like take back the night. That is not the
language they were using, but that was the heart of it,
and it got a little weird at some point. I
think there were men that were felt they were being
(22:18):
discriminated against.
Speaker 2 (22:19):
Oh God every time.
Speaker 3 (22:21):
So I think legally, like Nike as a corporation had
to open up to all people. It was still majority women,
at least at the one in LA. But I'm not
gonna lie. When I saw like some men, I was like,
what are you doing here?
Speaker 2 (22:35):
Are like, yeah, there's all.
Speaker 3 (22:38):
The races everywhere for you, every race, every race, and
you're here. It did kind of like I roll at
them a little bit. Yeah, yeah, yeah, but I mean, yeah,
I so to go. Going back to your initial question,
I think it was just as they came after I
ran the Nike one. My coach goes, you're in really
great shape, like race wise, how do you feel about
(23:02):
doing one more? And it's in four weeks And I
was like, all right, let's do it.
Speaker 2 (23:06):
Since you're already in race shape, Yeah, might as well
keep going.
Speaker 1 (23:10):
Yes I was, and I said, okay, cool.
Speaker 3 (23:13):
Yeah, it doesn't take a lot to convince me no,
Like if you asked me to do something or you
like suggest something like I'll do it.
Speaker 2 (23:20):
Sure, I'll do it, I'll do it. Yeah yeah, yeah,
why not? Yeah, I mean you've already put in the training. Yeah,
you know, and if you're in condition for it, like, yes,
do it? You were in season? I was, you were
in season.
Speaker 3 (23:33):
So yeah, those are my big and small that I
would have myself on the back floor.
Speaker 2 (23:36):
Does Yeah, it's again both big and small at the
same time.
Speaker 1 (23:41):
Don't go anywhere, locomotives. We'll be right back.
Speaker 2 (23:48):
And we're back with more of our episode. So to
our listeners, do resolutions work for you? Have they ever
worked for you? Realistically? I think the idea is lovely. Again,
I don't want to discourage anybody from trying something new
and starting the year with a positive goal and intentions
(24:08):
and the desire to change, like do it. But I'm
just like having this moment of reflection. Where has it
ever actually worked for me? So I want to know
from our listeners, has the New Year's resolution ever worked
for you? How do you end the year? How do
you start the new year? Like, are you trying a
winter arc? Are you trying to accomplish a bajillion things
(24:29):
in ninety days, Like what is your method and what works?
That's what I'm curious about. What works?
Speaker 3 (24:35):
Yeah, earlier today I saw there's this I guess it's
a trend, but there's this concept of like.
Speaker 2 (24:45):
Vlog, miss vlog, miss, so you vlog?
Speaker 3 (24:48):
I think the twenty five days of December, like leading
up to Christmas. It's like Christmas themed.
Speaker 1 (24:53):
So I sent it to.
Speaker 3 (24:54):
Jackie, my bestie and also our project manager.
Speaker 1 (24:57):
Hijackie, and I'm like, Jackie, do you think I should
do this?
Speaker 3 (25:00):
And she goes, okay, zero to one hundred, like you're
not even posting anything right now and you want.
Speaker 1 (25:04):
To vlog miss.
Speaker 2 (25:05):
Hilarious.
Speaker 3 (25:06):
And that was a reality check for me because here
I am encouraging our listeners like, don't go zero to
one hundred.
Speaker 4 (25:12):
Yes, rest take it easy, like just pick one.
Speaker 3 (25:15):
Thing, and I'm over here, turn ofvlog for twenty five
days of course, which I can't even vlog for a week.
Speaker 2 (25:19):
I think you should do it.
Speaker 1 (25:20):
No, I think you totally do it. No, I'm not.
Speaker 3 (25:24):
I love like the holiday season. I'm not a big
like Christmas person.
Speaker 2 (25:30):
You're a you're a Halloween person.
Speaker 1 (25:32):
Person.
Speaker 3 (25:32):
I appreciate the religious elements of Christmas and the winter solstice.
Speaker 1 (25:38):
Yeah, and I love the decor.
Speaker 3 (25:40):
But I'm not someone like Fernando ironically loves Christmas, loves Christmas,
and he's such a scrooge in so many ways, but
he loves He's not a scrooge. Actually, he's more of
a grin part of gold Heart, too Small.
Speaker 2 (25:57):
Not anymore, not anymore, not anymore.
Speaker 3 (26:00):
So that's my experience that I wanted to share that
happened today, where I was like trying to like bite
off more than I could chew, and my homegirl was like,
absolutely not be realistic.
Speaker 2 (26:09):
Just come on, that's fair. Yeah. But it's so funny
because I feel like we were just posting so much,
but now it's like, oh, we don't post because it's
been a few days. Yes, so we're not posting anything.
Speaker 1 (26:20):
So it's so tiring.
Speaker 2 (26:22):
It's exhausting.
Speaker 1 (26:23):
It's exhausting. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (26:25):
I mean, there's so much to say about the creator economy,
which is a whole other episode. But going back, I
think to like the Winter arc, locking in the pressure, Like,
I think.
Speaker 1 (26:34):
Motivation is good.
Speaker 3 (26:36):
External motivation is good, but if that's not your vibe, right, now, like,
don't force it to be your vibe because everyone.
Speaker 1 (26:43):
Else is doing it.
Speaker 3 (26:44):
I think that's what I want the listener to take away,
that there's no judgment in doing it. If that's what
works for you and you need the structure of a
challenge an arc, do it, you know. But if you
feel like I'm actually really tired and all I want
to do is read my b book. That's another thing
I've seen in like the book community, it's like ten
books before the year ends. I'm like ten, I'm trying
(27:06):
to finish one right now, right, right right. And so
there is I'm seeing in like other pockets of subcommunities
online where it's this super intense way to finish the
year when I'm like, just read a.
Speaker 1 (27:17):
Book, just read one.
Speaker 2 (27:19):
I would love to read one book.
Speaker 3 (27:20):
I'd love to read one book before the year ends.
Speaker 2 (27:22):
One book would be amazing for me.
Speaker 1 (27:23):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (27:24):
I hope this resonates with y'all and let us know, like,
how are you going to be spending the next couple
of weeks? Are you locking in? Are you resting? Both
are valid? Both are fine?
Speaker 1 (27:36):
Do it feels right for you?
Speaker 2 (27:38):
Yeah? Tell us, tell us we want to know. We
want to know, and I'm genuinely curious what works for you.
Speaker 3 (27:49):
Oh, you know, before we sign off. Something that I've
been doing in the last two or three years is
at the top of the year, I write a letter
to my future self.
Speaker 1 (27:58):
Oh, and I write.
Speaker 3 (27:59):
Like how I think the year is going to go,
and then I don't open it until the following year.
Speaker 2 (28:04):
And you remember to open it at the end of
the year.
Speaker 3 (28:06):
So what I do is I just stick it in
the front of my journal so I know where it is.
It's there, And that has been a really sweet thing
where it's not centered around resolutions and yeah, there's some
goal elements because you have expectations for how you hope
the year will go. And so I think you can
write to yourself in a way that feels right Like
it doesn't have to be goal or resolution specific, but
(28:27):
it could just be like, I hope this year you
spend a lot of time with your friends and you
pick up new hobby, whatever it may be. I think
that that is a really sweet thing to do for
yourself that is not like optimizing and.
Speaker 1 (28:42):
About like locking.
Speaker 3 (28:43):
It's just like a letter to your future self and
how you hope the year goes.
Speaker 2 (28:48):
That's so beautiful.
Speaker 3 (28:49):
I love that.
Speaker 1 (28:50):
Yeah, thank you.
Speaker 2 (28:51):
You're just wishing your future self well and not hoping
necessarily she's a totally different person.
Speaker 1 (28:57):
Yeah, just I hope you're doing well that one year.
Speaker 3 (29:00):
And I remember writing when it was during a really
challenging time where I wrote, like, next year, your living
situation is going to be so much better.
Speaker 1 (29:10):
And then when I opened it up the following year,
my living.
Speaker 3 (29:13):
Situation was that much better and not in like, oh
I manifested it. It just was really sweet to read,
like this was really hard and now I'm on the
other side of it, and it just is just a
really good, I think way to also just document where
you're at in your life and what you hope for
the following year.
Speaker 2 (29:31):
Absolutely, listeners, I think you should do that. I think
you should write a letter to yourself.
Speaker 1 (29:35):
Let us know when you do.
Speaker 3 (29:38):
All right, all right, look, we will catch you next time.
Speaker 1 (29:41):
Thank you for tuning in. Lasitas look I thought.
Speaker 4 (29:49):
Our radio is executive produced and hosted by me Theosa
and me Mala, also edited by Mediosa
Speaker 1 (30:27):
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