October 8, 2024 • 36 mins
Disclaimer: Please note this episode contains themes and conversations about sex.
This week on Señora Sex Ed, Laura Patalano reflects on past loves, divorce, and acting. In this episode, Laura also reveals what it's like to book major film and tv roles as an actress in her 60s.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Amiga.
Speaker 2 (00:01):
Who was your first love? My first love? Well, my
first love was painting. No, he was my first mistake.
Speaker 3 (00:15):
Senora, Senora, Senora, Senora, Senora, Senor.
Speaker 2 (00:27):
Hi, Senora, Welcome to Senora.
Speaker 4 (00:31):
Sex Ed.
Speaker 2 (00:34):
Senora sex Ed is not your mommy's sex talk. This
show is la platica like you've never heard it before.
We're breaking the stigma and silence around sex and sexuality
in LATINX communities.
Speaker 1 (00:46):
Latinas have been hyper sexualized in popular culture but notoriously
denied sex education. This podcast is an intergenerational conversation between
Latinas from gen X to gen Z Recovered bring everything
from puberty and body image to representation in film, television
and music.
Speaker 2 (01:07):
By the way, before we go any further, let's define
how we're using the words senora on this show. We
know many of you are in your so called senora era.
Speaker 1 (01:16):
On this show, a Senora is a woman with a
lot of life experiences and stories to share. Maybe she's
in her thirties, maybe she's in her forties or fifties
or sixties. Maybe she's trans, maybe she's sis. We are
your host and producers, Diosa and Mala.
Speaker 2 (01:36):
You might recognize us from our flagship podcast Look at
Tha Radio. Since twenty sixteen, we've covered all kinds of topics,
ranging from politics, to mental health, current events, and of
course sex. We still have so much to learn and
we hope you listen to each and every episode with
the Senoras and Senoritas.
Speaker 3 (01:55):
In Your Life, Chapter eight, Before.
Speaker 1 (02:08):
We get into today's interview, we want to expand on
some of the ways we've fallen in love with our
own crafts or our own talents. In today's episode, you'll
hear how our guest did just that throughout her life
and how she didn't get her big break until she
was a senora. So before we hear from her, Mala,
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how did you fall in love with your craft?
Speaker 2 (02:34):
Well, I would say that I have the extreme privilege
of having been raised by a very artistic mother who,
from the beginning of my life always emphasized the importance
of the arts. My mom enrolled us in piano lessons,
I spent years in the church choir at my little
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Catholic elementary school. I took dance classes with my mom,
and when I got I got really into the dramatic arts,
musical theater and acting. When I'm at you, we found
our love for podcasting for throwing parties, which I think
has its own art, and now because of the podcasting,
I'm also able to pursue an education in filmmaking. So
(03:18):
for me, I love how one craft, how one art
form has found a way to lead to another and
to new art forms so that I can always expand
my creativity and really cultivate more skills. For me, one
thing always leads to the other. How about you?
Speaker 1 (03:38):
Similar to you, Mala, My mom is not an artist,
but she is an appreciator of art, and she's someone
that has always encouraged my love of literature. So growing up,
she would take me to the library and she would
let me check out as many books as I wanted.
She would take me to bookstores and let me buy
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a book or two, and she just always cultivated that
love of reading for me, and so I think that
was one of the first ways that I was able
to explore my own creativity, my imagination, and my love
of the written word, which for me, when we were
launching Look At Radio and getting into podcasting, I wasn't
seeing podcasting as writing, but there's so much writing and
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creativity that goes into creating a podcast. I think that
the podcast has really been able to give me that
space to grow as a creative as a writer, as
even a visual artist, and just my love of words
and just love of audio and love of all things
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podcast and the written word.
Speaker 2 (04:46):
And this brings us to today's episode of Senora Sex Said,
where we will be in conversation with a beloved Mexican
actress who got her start later in life and has
really dedicated her life to cultivating her life for her art,
which is acting, the theater and film. Her recurring television
credits include This Full Hand, The Fide, and Victor in Valentina.
Speaker 4 (05:12):
When my name is Lauda Patalano. I'm an actor, I'm
a pro woman. I love women, and I think that
we have it so hard out there. I was born
in media Yuka Tamba, raised in Mexico City. My mother
separated from my father when I was eight months old
because he was also a colleague.
Speaker 1 (05:34):
Lauda's mother introduced her to sex education at fourteen years old.
She taught Lauda about her menstrual cycle and what to
expect the first time she had sex. Her platka covered
the basics, and Lauda's mother shared as much information as
she could given her own limited access to sexual education.
Speaker 4 (05:55):
My mother was a very smart woman, so pretty much
what I learned it was from her, because back then,
I'm talking about so many years ago. Don't ask me
how many in the school they didn't teach you anything
about that. You know, I'm pretty much you you get
into the sex life or to have the other half
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or whatever, and you didn't even have any information. But
my mother pretty much explained me before I had my period,
what was about, what was what happened when you have
your first experience with sex, and all these kind of things.
But back then we didn't have that much information about
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how to protect our selves.
Speaker 2 (06:43):
At the age of seventeen, Laura married an older man who,
like her father, struggled with alcoholism. His relationship to alcohol
and sexuality meant that Lauda's first sexual experiences as a
young bride were often painful.
Speaker 4 (06:58):
I got married pretty pretty young. That was so stupid
of my part. He got married with this guy that
it was like thirteen years older than me, and he
like alcohol, and it was so stupid anyway, So but
I got married with him, and I mean, this is
very personal, but I didn't have. I didn't feel anything
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because this guy was always drunk and didn't the woman
have a different preparation to have really sex. You know,
to guys are like they're quick, they get they see
you in a sexy clothes and probably they're ready to drump.
But for a woman takes longer. And if the guy
doesn't have this knowledge, then it's difficult because in a
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start two having pleasure, you're having pain. And that was
terrible for me.
Speaker 1 (07:48):
You know, Laura didn't know that sex with her husband
wasn't supposed to be painful. A mentor encouraged Laura to
explore her own body and sexuality. Masturbation became an important
tool for Lauda to learn about her body and what
brings her pleasure.
Speaker 4 (08:07):
And I had a teacher that she was very smart
and she had she had like so much knowledge about
sexology and how to ad the preparations. That's I learned
a lot from her. I used to come to her
and say, like, why everybody's bragging about sex? This is
no fun, you know, it's painful for me. So she said, like,
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because we have different times for women and men, and
if he doesn't know how to take you there because
he already has on alcohol. That is going to be
hard for him too. So she even told me, I'm
talking about so many years ago. Now it's more normal,
but explore yourself, Like I was like, what what is that?
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What are you talking about? Explore yourself because nobody's going
to know what it feels like if you if you
know where the points of pleasure are for your own body,
you know. So that was very important for me because
I was I was very young. I was seventeen, and
this lady was very smart. That was my teacher that
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she knew what she was talking about. But back then,
nobody talk about this, Nobody say anything like we were
like women have certain place you know that you and
now I think it's when I see back, I say like,
oh my god, we should have all this knowledge when
you were young, because that's the realist our body. We
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need to explore our body. Who's going to know better
than us.
Speaker 2 (09:43):
Eight months after it began, Laura's marriage would end.
Speaker 4 (09:46):
I got divorced when I eight months later because this
guy was good for nothing, you know he is. It's
funny because he wanted to pretend that we were so
happy when we have people around. Yeah, so I was.
I think it was so stupid. But when he had
like that he was drunk, he used to be like
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aggressive and mistreated me in front of his friends, And honestly,
I don't have that character to allow anybody to abuse
me in any way.
Speaker 1 (10:18):
Laura's family was supportive of her decision to divorce her husband.
They never wanted Laura to marry her first husband to
begin with.
Speaker 4 (10:26):
My family basically one hundred percent because in the first place,
they never liked him, so I guess they were like, relieve.
I remember my grandmother coming to me and said, if
you don't get married, I take you to Disneyland. Now
I think that I should take that, but it was
too late. What you fall in love the first time
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is not going to be the love forever. That's something
that you learn with time that you will have several
loves along your time or your life. So I I
got married only twice, but the second husband that I
married was really the love of my life.
Speaker 2 (11:07):
While Laura was navigating marriage and divorced at the tender
age of seventeen, she was also cultivating a love of
a different kind, love of self and love of the stage.
Speaker 4 (11:19):
I started my acting career when I was seventeen because
one of my teachers, my first teacher actually in high school.
After a little improvisation scene, he approached to me and
he said, like, oh my god, you're so good. You
should be doing this for leaving. You should go to school.
(11:42):
So of course, when you are seventeen or eighteen, you say,
why should I go to school? If I'm really good?
You say that I'm good, right, that I have the gift.
That's why you say when you're that age.
Speaker 1 (11:53):
As a young woman, Laura studied acting under Miguel Corsega
at Instituto the Artisanico.
Speaker 4 (12:00):
So when I finished a school in Mexico, I study
with the best of the best. Miel Corsegal was the
director of the school Institute of Artetenico. That will close
his doors. But I have all these kind of amazing
teachers teaching you different fields that you can make it
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in any field. But I do believe as an actor
that theater is the foundation. It's like a house for
a person that study theater, that will be the foundation
compared to a house, a good foundation, and from there
you can like build up, you know.
Speaker 2 (12:42):
After completing her studies and the dramatic arts Laura started
working as a drama teacher. During her summer vacation in Acapulco,
Laura fell in love on the fourth of July.
Speaker 4 (12:53):
We'll never forget. So I saw him and I thought
he was the most beautiful man I ever seen in
my life. And the funny part is that I didn't
speak any English back then, and when he saw me,
he thought the same thing, that I was the most
beautiful woman he had. But when our eyes crossed, like
we saw each other, it was like a magnet, like
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it was so much chemistry, a chikia. He said to me,
do you have a boyfriend? And exactly that time that
I went back to Capulco, I just ended up a
relationship with the guizo. I was single. I say, no,
I don't, but I mean always with somebody to help
us to translate. He said to me, why not me?
Speaker 1 (13:37):
Despite the language barrier, Lauda and her new bow found
ways to communicate their love and attraction for each other.
Speaker 4 (13:45):
And then he by me that night with the translator
to go and dance with him across the street from
the hotel. It was like this dance place, and he
took with him at twenty book to translate that he
was asking two hours for a kiss, and I, in
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my mind I was saying, like, why he doesn't just
draw a melo papacito, you know, rook? He was asking, like,
can I kiss you? We spent three days holding hands
in a capul because my mother or so was with me.
So he tried, you know, he tried to trick me,
but it didn't. I didn't fall for that. He said,
when we were dancing, I forgot the camera in my room.
(14:30):
Do you like to come with me to get it?
I say, nope, you go and get it yourself. I'm
not going with you to that place. I mean, he
was so attractive that I was going to fall for him. Non,
So I protect myself that way. So he went to
get the camera. I took a bountch of pictures and
he said, okay, so I see you tomorrow. You want
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to come at six in the morning to fish. I say,
no way, I need my sleep. So he and the
next day we saw each other around two at the
beach in the hotel. We spent three days and then
he went back to the States and went back to
Mexico and he started calling me every Saturday and back
then I mean, I was living in a place and
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the office of one of my uncle who was in
front of my apartment, and my uncle was really good
with the English. She used to live in the States,
so he was now the translator house. He started asking me,
I really want to marry to you.
Speaker 2 (15:25):
Tired of loving at a distance, Laura and her new
love decided to get married so they could finally be together.
Speaker 4 (15:31):
To get married in Mexico, it was too complicated. He
needed to move to Mexico and stay with me for
three months, and then the government needed to be like
investigating who he was, what he was doing for work
and all this. So we needed to ask the government
permission to marriage. And he said, like, why I have
to ask the government. I need to ask you, not
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the government. So when he investigated I was the situation here.
It was so very complicated, like, Okay, you need to
have a visa, a fiance visa. You need to wait
for a year, you need to have some documents, translated documents,
and it was very complicated, and we didn't want to wait.
Speaker 1 (16:13):
Lauda made an executive decision she would pack her bags
and leave Mexico to live with her husband in the
United States. There, she would continue to seek out opportunities
to act. Living with her English speaking husband wasn't always easy,
and neither was finding acting jobs in Rhode Island as
a Mexican woman.
Speaker 4 (16:33):
But it was really not much to do. But I
remember one day reading in a newspaper that they were
looking for actors in a museum for a play for kids.
So he said, like, apply, you call them. I said,
how they are going to look for a Mexican actress
in the middle of nowhere, because Providence is the smallest state,
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you know, He said, you called and find out. I mean,
it took me a long time to learn the language
because I didn't speak any language when I moved here
with him, and I used to fight with him and
take a dictionary trying to tell him how I felt.
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But by the time I could find any word, I
didn't know how to put them together. So I guess
we spoke the language of love because it was so
difficult to communicate with him.
Speaker 2 (17:29):
Eventually, Laura separated from her husband and left Rhode Island.
She returned to Mexico, where she raised her twin daughters
for the next ten years.
Speaker 4 (17:39):
It was very complicated. He had problems with addiction. So
I sayparated from him because I didn't want my girls
to see that. And years later they'd reconnect with their
father because I never spoke bad about him. I used
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to tell my kids, he's not a bad person, he's
a sick person. And years later when we reconnect, he
was clean. But we never divorced. So I lost him.
Like he passed away seven years ago, very young, forty six.
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I think he was.
Speaker 1 (18:27):
Stay tuned, there's more to come.
Speaker 2 (18:32):
Thanks for sticking around. We are back.
Speaker 4 (18:36):
One day, I had this amazing dream that I see
myself in a beautiful house, huge house, and I see
I see the garden in from the second floor, and
I was with this red, beautiful strapless dress, makeup down,
hair don looking at this garden, saying I cannot believe
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that everything is paid with my acting career. That was it.
The next day I tell my kids and they say,
what I think, area, what are you talking about? They
didn't even know that. When I mean I was doing
theater and I was I went to school for acting
and all that stuff. They say, okay, so let's look
for for you to go back to acting.
Speaker 2 (19:22):
The next thing Lauda did was grab a newspaper and
began looking for acting jobs.
Speaker 4 (19:26):
I didn't know how to do it in the States,
So we got a newspaper and in every single like
those newspapers, like tiny ones that you get in the
stores with a bunch of naked women in the middle
of the pages, some of the announcers in the bag
say like, oh, we were looking for actors. So I
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got every single address of those places in New York
and I went with my kids to every single one
of them, and most of them were fraud The last
place that I went was the only authentic place, but
they were representing extras. So they give me a piece
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of paper. I read. The guy like it and he said, okay,
so we're going to represent you. So that's how it started.
So in one of these occasions that I went, I
did a couple of extra work in a couple of movies.
But I said, this is this is not what I am,
this is not what I want.
Speaker 2 (20:26):
You know.
Speaker 4 (20:27):
I met this guy, Ernesto de Vijavijanni, and he said like,
so what are you doing. I said, well, I started
acting in Mexico with the best of the best. And
he said, no, no, no, no, you need to belong to
the OLA. What's the OLA Hispanic Organization of Latin Actors.
So they had like a website that you pay certain
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amount and they send you to castings. That sounds more legit,
you know, So I did that and then they start
sending me. So the first feature film that we went
to Sunden's actually was from The Imperialist Still Alive, and
I got it from through them.
Speaker 1 (21:08):
By the time Lauda discovered her passion for film, she
was in her late forties.
Speaker 4 (21:13):
So I remember the first one that I booked. It
was from a student of a Tish school in New York.
So I tell my kids, I got a part in
a movie. Okay, how much you're going to make? Nothing?
How come nothing? I say no, because you know this
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is a film, a student film, and that will give
me the footage that I need to have a demo.
Real no, no, no, you love to work for free.
So anyway, so that was the first film that I
did in New York. But after that one, it was
like so many like booking things that it came along,
you know, first in New York, and then I decided
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I always wanted to be in California. I always believe
that in New York I was part of a minority,
and in La I will be part of a community.
I always believe in that. But it wasn't It wasn't easy.
I mean I was still raising the kids myself, you know,
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and it was like so expensive, and I had three jobs,
so tired, and I couldn't like really like move here
with what money.
Speaker 2 (22:29):
Laura's acting journey wasn't easy. Her big break came with
an opportunity to act in an indie drama by Chicana
writer director Aro Ra Guerrero.
Speaker 4 (22:38):
So I remember that what it really changed my life.
It was a film, Mosquita Mari. It was for being
Mosquita's mom. So I say, like they called me, and
I say, like, because somebody gave my name. Actually the
VP from from the Imperialist, the lady that she's from wife,
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I'm not wrong. She's the one that gave my name
to Aurora. And they were looking, they already looking to
New York in I mean into California and in Mexico,
and the person they liked they couldn't have like a
visa or something like that. So finally when they send
me the address, I say, oh, but this is California.
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I live in New York. Oh forget about I said, no, no, no,
because anyway, I'm going to California a few days, So
you send me the information. In the meantime, I send
you my demo real. They said, okay, So just because
it was the fourth of you, I need to put
myself on tape with a teenager.
Speaker 1 (23:38):
Before Lauda submitted her self tape, she got a call
from Michael Sandford, the casting director.
Speaker 4 (23:45):
So I'm calling you because Alora get read, already saw
your demo reel and he's invited to be part of
the movie. So he's offering you even when she hasn't
seen yourself tape, just for your demo. Real, Like I
told my kids many many years ago that will I
will get me jobs and they didn't believe me. You know,
I'm proving that it's true. So he said, like, ah,
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she's inviting you to be part of the movie. I
was like, oh my god, the movie in LA. I
can't believe it. I say, of course, have you read
the script? No, but I don't care. I want to
be part of this, so I will be there. So
the only thing that I ask a production is like
I don't have a car, so I'm going to say,
are you already like find up. I was working in
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an office in Soho, like a manager of this fragance company,
and I called my boss and he said, I give
you the permission go ahead. So I have to make
a lot of phone calls. So finally, finally I was
on set and I remember telling one of the actresses,
You're so lucky because you live here. She said why,
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I said, because I always wanted to live in la
and I can find a way. She say, okay, you
know I invite you to splip in the sofa in
my clubs. I said really, she said yeah, sure, okay.
So that was in June July September. She texted me
are you moving or no? I said, you're serious. Then
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she said yes, I'm serious. I say, Okay, by January
I will be there.
Speaker 2 (25:13):
Lauda's role in Mosquito Marie not only changed Lauda's life,
but the lives of queer audiences who saw the supportive
and loving mother they never had in her performance.
Speaker 4 (25:25):
The experience with that film was amazing for me because
when we had the film in out first, the people
that got the ticket had the right to be in
the party. And I remember being in the party with
my eating and a couple of guys following me whatever
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I was. So one guy was telling the other one,
come on, tell her, tell her. So I look around,
I leave my plate and I say, what's going on? Guys?
So one said to the other one, he wants to
talk to you. So this young kid approached to me
and he say, can I hug you? Because you look
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a lot like my mom and I and she passed
away three years ago without accepting that I was gay.
That broke my heart. I say, of course, you can't
hug me. So I hug him, and I say, listen,
we came to I really believe that we came to
this world to be happy, not be miserable, be happy.
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Your mom unfortunately couldn't understand that you're gay, because that's
who you are, and sometimes we are. We are raised
with so many things you know that people doesn't get,
but important things. You're here, you have somebody to love,
Embrace who you are. Period. So the next day he
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put in a Facebook page that we had a page
for Mosquito married that the fact that he saw the
movie and that he was able to speak to me
he was able to have a closure in his mom lossing.
I was like, Oh, if you can do something like
that as an actor, your work is no less important
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than our doctors. You're healing souls, you're healing people, And
for me, that transformed completely the way I see my
acting career.
Speaker 1 (27:24):
Now. We hope you're enjoying this conversation. Stay tuned, there's
more to come.
Speaker 2 (27:40):
Thanks for sticking around. We are back.
Speaker 1 (27:43):
It took many years for Lauda's film career to take off.
She started to book major roles at the age of sixty.
Lauda is now sixty six. The love of her life
is her blossoming career.
Speaker 4 (27:57):
I by myself. I love myself. I don't need a
guy to be happy. I learned that, you know. I mean,
I'm happy in so many beautiful to have somebody to love.
But I mean, if I don't have it, I'm not
going to be like being said, because it's not there.
I have so many other things that fill out my
life in a beautiful way. I have a great relationship
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with my kids.
Speaker 2 (28:26):
According to an article in The Ringer about the golden
age of the aging actor, in the past twenty years
and particularly the last ten to fifteen. Today's average actor
age has reached the mid forties and is steadily climbing
toward fifty.
Speaker 4 (28:41):
My career is taken really alone, like it's taking over
because I'm so happy. I'm so happy that I can
do what I love to do that I really believe
I was born to do so, especially when you're older.
I remember reading this article when it was like Adriana Barasa,
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George Lopez and my picture, and it says that that
I think it was last year that I read it
that most of the people, most of the time elderly people.
We are like the background for actors for stories. It's
not too many stories about elderly people. It should be more,
but it's not with all the experience that we have.
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But the article says, when you give them their chance
to do their teens like a blue beetles for Adrina
Barasa and for George Lopez and for me and this fool,
we can be the secret weapon. And I was so
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proud that I could be featured with these two big names.
I don't have that big name yet, but I mean,
I think I'm on my way, but to be recognized
as an actor that you have Alan that you can
do other things other than be a background for other
young younger people.
Speaker 1 (30:08):
With several exciting film projects and the works, Laura is
happier than ever at the stage of her life.
Speaker 4 (30:14):
I think this is one of the best times of
my life because I'm mature enough to don't take bullshit
from anybody. Actually, when I go to I am on
set and the makeup artist comes and she said to me, like,
are you allergic to anything? I say, yeah to bullshit,
but I mean pretty much, I am living one of
the best times of my life. I mean, if I
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go tomorrow, I will go happy because I've been doing
whatever I want. I've been I can tell you I'm
a working actor making my living of what I love.
Speaker 2 (30:46):
Lara still has goals that she wants to pursue, like
buying the house she dreamt of and traveling with her twins.
Speaker 4 (30:53):
I want to travel to my kids to Europe. So
that's two things that I need to accomplish before I go.
So you've God allowed me to do that, I will
be more than happy to when I leave this world.
I hope that people remember that I inspired them somehow,
you know, because sometimes I have friends that I say
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like I am about to give up, and then I
see you and I say, loud no, here, louda could
I can't do it too.
Speaker 1 (31:21):
Lauda is proof that it's never too late to pursue
your dreams. She inspires all of us with her acting,
but she also inspires those in her personal life.
Speaker 4 (31:30):
And when I moved here from New York, I remember
people telling me you don't drive, you don't have a car.
How you're going to go to castings? I don't know.
I will find a way. You're not going to be able.
I used to say, like watch me, and now like
I'm approved of that is possible. You know it took
(31:51):
me so many hours. But when I had like a
commercial whatever, I like two hours from Santa Monica in
a boss it's like reading kill us. But I mean,
I'm approved, that is possible. So I will tell anybody,
any age, if you had a dream, If you have
a dream, pursue that dream.
Speaker 2 (32:12):
Once a young woman who learned to love her body
and sexuality from an older mentor, Laura now enjoys the
wisdom gained from a life well lived.
Speaker 4 (32:20):
Somehow you become wiser. I don't know why or how,
but I mean, when you have you have to learn.
You learn every single day, no matter how old you are,
and sometimes you learn it from somebody younger than you.
But yeah, I think that we have access now to
so many tools and things that we didn't have before.
(32:45):
And that's great, you know, especially for you guys that
you're young and don't what will I say it, no
secunforming convenience, the local medicine. You deserve to be and
also to be happy in the sexual field, you know,
like when they're satisfaction sexualist, it's not a sing al gontryo.
(33:10):
You should you should be happy and you should be
able to feel if you have a lover that is
smart enough know somebody that is just selfish and te
just want to get be happy and finish, and you'll
be like, that's it. Thank you for the invitation, ladies,
that was really amazing. Thank you for paying attention to
(33:31):
my work. And I will say, like, I continue what
you're doing, because I think it's important that people have
this knowledge of what to do when they don't know
and look for information or even look for mentors that
can help you out when you are like, especially when
(33:53):
you're too young and you think that you know everything
and you don't know it like look for people that
can sometimes. The teaching.
Speaker 2 (34:03):
My big takeaway is that with time and with age
can come a type of excellence that is impossible to
reach an experience when you're young, things like acting, cultivating
your craft, really improving at your skill set and your art.
It takes time, it takes patience, and it takes a journey.
(34:26):
And I also think that what Lauda has taught me
is that romantic love might come and go, but your
art will always be there for you.
Speaker 1 (34:35):
Next time on Senora Sex said, we'll be in conversation
with Liam Winslett, executive director and co founder of Collectivo
Intercultural Transcredento.
Speaker 5 (34:46):
Joaki mujoveng ende peroueromx.
Speaker 2 (35:12):
Nos vemos ciao.
Speaker 1 (35:15):
Senora Sex is a co production between Locata Productions and
Michael Tura Podcast Network.
Speaker 2 (35:22):
This show is executive produced by Mala Munos and Them.
Speaker 1 (35:26):
Also executive produced by Jaselle Bances.
Speaker 2 (35:30):
Produced by Stephanie Franco.
Speaker 1 (35:32):
Creative direction by Mala Munios.
Speaker 2 (35:34):
Story editing by Bosa Fem.
Speaker 1 (35:37):
Music direction by Grisol Lomeli and.
Speaker 2 (35:40):
Music produced by Brian Gazo.
Speaker 4 (36:00):
He felt that he would have at a Coming at
the bot
Amiga.
Speaker 2 (00:01):
Who was your first love? My first love? Well, my
first love was painting. No, he was my first mistake.
Speaker 3 (00:15):
Senora, Senora, Senora, Senora, Senora, Senor.
Speaker 2 (00:27):
Hi, Senora, Welcome to Senora.
Speaker 4 (00:31):
Sex Ed.
Speaker 2 (00:34):
Senora sex Ed is not your mommy's sex talk. This
show is la platica like you've never heard it before.
We're breaking the stigma and silence around sex and sexuality
in LATINX communities.
Speaker 1 (00:46):
Latinas have been hyper sexualized in popular culture but notoriously
denied sex education. This podcast is an intergenerational conversation between
Latinas from gen X to gen Z Recovered bring everything
from puberty and body image to representation in film, television
and music.
Speaker 2 (01:07):
By the way, before we go any further, let's define
how we're using the words senora on this show. We
know many of you are in your so called senora era.
Speaker 1 (01:16):
On this show, a Senora is a woman with a
lot of life experiences and stories to share. Maybe she's
in her thirties, maybe she's in her forties or fifties
or sixties. Maybe she's trans, maybe she's sis. We are
your host and producers, Diosa and Mala.
Speaker 2 (01:36):
You might recognize us from our flagship podcast Look at
Tha Radio. Since twenty sixteen, we've covered all kinds of topics,
ranging from politics, to mental health, current events, and of
course sex. We still have so much to learn and
we hope you listen to each and every episode with
the Senoras and Senoritas.
Speaker 3 (01:55):
In Your Life, Chapter eight, Before.
Speaker 1 (02:08):
We get into today's interview, we want to expand on
some of the ways we've fallen in love with our
own crafts or our own talents. In today's episode, you'll
hear how our guest did just that throughout her life
and how she didn't get her big break until she
was a senora. So before we hear from her, Mala,
(02:31):
how did you fall in love with your craft?
Speaker 2 (02:34):
Well, I would say that I have the extreme privilege
of having been raised by a very artistic mother who,
from the beginning of my life always emphasized the importance
of the arts. My mom enrolled us in piano lessons,
I spent years in the church choir at my little
(02:54):
Catholic elementary school. I took dance classes with my mom,
and when I got I got really into the dramatic arts,
musical theater and acting. When I'm at you, we found
our love for podcasting for throwing parties, which I think
has its own art, and now because of the podcasting,
I'm also able to pursue an education in filmmaking. So
(03:18):
for me, I love how one craft, how one art
form has found a way to lead to another and
to new art forms so that I can always expand
my creativity and really cultivate more skills. For me, one
thing always leads to the other. How about you?
Speaker 1 (03:38):
Similar to you, Mala, My mom is not an artist,
but she is an appreciator of art, and she's someone
that has always encouraged my love of literature. So growing up,
she would take me to the library and she would
let me check out as many books as I wanted.
She would take me to bookstores and let me buy
(03:58):
a book or two, and she just always cultivated that
love of reading for me, and so I think that
was one of the first ways that I was able
to explore my own creativity, my imagination, and my love
of the written word, which for me, when we were
launching Look At Radio and getting into podcasting, I wasn't
seeing podcasting as writing, but there's so much writing and
(04:23):
creativity that goes into creating a podcast. I think that
the podcast has really been able to give me that
space to grow as a creative as a writer, as
even a visual artist, and just my love of words
and just love of audio and love of all things
(04:44):
podcast and the written word.
Speaker 2 (04:46):
And this brings us to today's episode of Senora Sex Said,
where we will be in conversation with a beloved Mexican
actress who got her start later in life and has
really dedicated her life to cultivating her life for her art,
which is acting, the theater and film. Her recurring television
credits include This Full Hand, The Fide, and Victor in Valentina.
Speaker 4 (05:12):
When my name is Lauda Patalano. I'm an actor, I'm
a pro woman. I love women, and I think that
we have it so hard out there. I was born
in media Yuka Tamba, raised in Mexico City. My mother
separated from my father when I was eight months old
because he was also a colleague.
Speaker 1 (05:34):
Lauda's mother introduced her to sex education at fourteen years old.
She taught Lauda about her menstrual cycle and what to
expect the first time she had sex. Her platka covered
the basics, and Lauda's mother shared as much information as
she could given her own limited access to sexual education.
Speaker 4 (05:55):
My mother was a very smart woman, so pretty much
what I learned it was from her, because back then,
I'm talking about so many years ago. Don't ask me
how many in the school they didn't teach you anything
about that. You know, I'm pretty much you you get
into the sex life or to have the other half
(06:15):
or whatever, and you didn't even have any information. But
my mother pretty much explained me before I had my period,
what was about, what was what happened when you have
your first experience with sex, and all these kind of things.
But back then we didn't have that much information about
(06:40):
how to protect our selves.
Speaker 2 (06:43):
At the age of seventeen, Laura married an older man who,
like her father, struggled with alcoholism. His relationship to alcohol
and sexuality meant that Lauda's first sexual experiences as a
young bride were often painful.
Speaker 4 (06:58):
I got married pretty pretty young. That was so stupid
of my part. He got married with this guy that
it was like thirteen years older than me, and he
like alcohol, and it was so stupid anyway, So but
I got married with him, and I mean, this is
very personal, but I didn't have. I didn't feel anything
(07:21):
because this guy was always drunk and didn't the woman
have a different preparation to have really sex. You know,
to guys are like they're quick, they get they see
you in a sexy clothes and probably they're ready to drump.
But for a woman takes longer. And if the guy
doesn't have this knowledge, then it's difficult because in a
(07:43):
start two having pleasure, you're having pain. And that was
terrible for me.
Speaker 1 (07:48):
You know, Laura didn't know that sex with her husband
wasn't supposed to be painful. A mentor encouraged Laura to
explore her own body and sexuality. Masturbation became an important
tool for Lauda to learn about her body and what
brings her pleasure.
Speaker 4 (08:07):
And I had a teacher that she was very smart
and she had she had like so much knowledge about
sexology and how to ad the preparations. That's I learned
a lot from her. I used to come to her
and say, like, why everybody's bragging about sex? This is
no fun, you know, it's painful for me. So she said, like,
(08:30):
because we have different times for women and men, and
if he doesn't know how to take you there because
he already has on alcohol. That is going to be
hard for him too. So she even told me, I'm
talking about so many years ago. Now it's more normal,
but explore yourself, Like I was like, what what is that?
(08:53):
What are you talking about? Explore yourself because nobody's going
to know what it feels like if you if you
know where the points of pleasure are for your own body,
you know. So that was very important for me because
I was I was very young. I was seventeen, and
this lady was very smart. That was my teacher that
(09:15):
she knew what she was talking about. But back then,
nobody talk about this, Nobody say anything like we were
like women have certain place you know that you and
now I think it's when I see back, I say like,
oh my god, we should have all this knowledge when
you were young, because that's the realist our body. We
(09:38):
need to explore our body. Who's going to know better
than us.
Speaker 2 (09:43):
Eight months after it began, Laura's marriage would end.
Speaker 4 (09:46):
I got divorced when I eight months later because this
guy was good for nothing, you know he is. It's
funny because he wanted to pretend that we were so
happy when we have people around. Yeah, so I was.
I think it was so stupid. But when he had
like that he was drunk, he used to be like
(10:06):
aggressive and mistreated me in front of his friends, And honestly,
I don't have that character to allow anybody to abuse
me in any way.
Speaker 1 (10:18):
Laura's family was supportive of her decision to divorce her husband.
They never wanted Laura to marry her first husband to
begin with.
Speaker 4 (10:26):
My family basically one hundred percent because in the first place,
they never liked him, so I guess they were like, relieve.
I remember my grandmother coming to me and said, if
you don't get married, I take you to Disneyland. Now
I think that I should take that, but it was
too late. What you fall in love the first time
(10:49):
is not going to be the love forever. That's something
that you learn with time that you will have several
loves along your time or your life. So I I
got married only twice, but the second husband that I
married was really the love of my life.
Speaker 2 (11:07):
While Laura was navigating marriage and divorced at the tender
age of seventeen, she was also cultivating a love of
a different kind, love of self and love of the stage.
Speaker 4 (11:19):
I started my acting career when I was seventeen because
one of my teachers, my first teacher actually in high school.
After a little improvisation scene, he approached to me and
he said, like, oh my god, you're so good. You
should be doing this for leaving. You should go to school.
(11:42):
So of course, when you are seventeen or eighteen, you say,
why should I go to school? If I'm really good?
You say that I'm good, right, that I have the gift.
That's why you say when you're that age.
Speaker 1 (11:53):
As a young woman, Laura studied acting under Miguel Corsega
at Instituto the Artisanico.
Speaker 4 (12:00):
So when I finished a school in Mexico, I study
with the best of the best. Miel Corsegal was the
director of the school Institute of Artetenico. That will close
his doors. But I have all these kind of amazing
teachers teaching you different fields that you can make it
(12:21):
in any field. But I do believe as an actor
that theater is the foundation. It's like a house for
a person that study theater, that will be the foundation
compared to a house, a good foundation, and from there
you can like build up, you know.
Speaker 2 (12:42):
After completing her studies and the dramatic arts Laura started
working as a drama teacher. During her summer vacation in Acapulco,
Laura fell in love on the fourth of July.
Speaker 4 (12:53):
We'll never forget. So I saw him and I thought
he was the most beautiful man I ever seen in
my life. And the funny part is that I didn't
speak any English back then, and when he saw me,
he thought the same thing, that I was the most
beautiful woman he had. But when our eyes crossed, like
we saw each other, it was like a magnet, like
(13:16):
it was so much chemistry, a chikia. He said to me,
do you have a boyfriend? And exactly that time that
I went back to Capulco, I just ended up a
relationship with the guizo. I was single. I say, no,
I don't, but I mean always with somebody to help
us to translate. He said to me, why not me?
Speaker 1 (13:37):
Despite the language barrier, Lauda and her new bow found
ways to communicate their love and attraction for each other.
Speaker 4 (13:45):
And then he by me that night with the translator
to go and dance with him across the street from
the hotel. It was like this dance place, and he
took with him at twenty book to translate that he
was asking two hours for a kiss, and I, in
(14:07):
my mind I was saying, like, why he doesn't just
draw a melo papacito, you know, rook? He was asking, like,
can I kiss you? We spent three days holding hands
in a capul because my mother or so was with me.
So he tried, you know, he tried to trick me,
but it didn't. I didn't fall for that. He said,
when we were dancing, I forgot the camera in my room.
(14:30):
Do you like to come with me to get it?
I say, nope, you go and get it yourself. I'm
not going with you to that place. I mean, he
was so attractive that I was going to fall for him. Non,
So I protect myself that way. So he went to
get the camera. I took a bountch of pictures and
he said, okay, so I see you tomorrow. You want
(14:51):
to come at six in the morning to fish. I say,
no way, I need my sleep. So he and the
next day we saw each other around two at the
beach in the hotel. We spent three days and then
he went back to the States and went back to
Mexico and he started calling me every Saturday and back
then I mean, I was living in a place and
(15:11):
the office of one of my uncle who was in
front of my apartment, and my uncle was really good
with the English. She used to live in the States,
so he was now the translator house. He started asking me,
I really want to marry to you.
Speaker 2 (15:25):
Tired of loving at a distance, Laura and her new
love decided to get married so they could finally be together.
Speaker 4 (15:31):
To get married in Mexico, it was too complicated. He
needed to move to Mexico and stay with me for
three months, and then the government needed to be like
investigating who he was, what he was doing for work
and all this. So we needed to ask the government
permission to marriage. And he said, like, why I have
to ask the government. I need to ask you, not
(15:53):
the government. So when he investigated I was the situation here.
It was so very complicated, like, Okay, you need to
have a visa, a fiance visa. You need to wait
for a year, you need to have some documents, translated documents,
and it was very complicated, and we didn't want to wait.
Speaker 1 (16:13):
Lauda made an executive decision she would pack her bags
and leave Mexico to live with her husband in the
United States. There, she would continue to seek out opportunities
to act. Living with her English speaking husband wasn't always easy,
and neither was finding acting jobs in Rhode Island as
a Mexican woman.
Speaker 4 (16:33):
But it was really not much to do. But I
remember one day reading in a newspaper that they were
looking for actors in a museum for a play for kids.
So he said, like, apply, you call them. I said,
how they are going to look for a Mexican actress
in the middle of nowhere, because Providence is the smallest state,
(16:55):
you know, He said, you called and find out. I mean,
it took me a long time to learn the language
because I didn't speak any language when I moved here
with him, and I used to fight with him and
take a dictionary trying to tell him how I felt.
(17:17):
But by the time I could find any word, I
didn't know how to put them together. So I guess
we spoke the language of love because it was so
difficult to communicate with him.
Speaker 2 (17:29):
Eventually, Laura separated from her husband and left Rhode Island.
She returned to Mexico, where she raised her twin daughters
for the next ten years.
Speaker 4 (17:39):
It was very complicated. He had problems with addiction. So
I sayparated from him because I didn't want my girls
to see that. And years later they'd reconnect with their
father because I never spoke bad about him. I used
(17:59):
to tell my kids, he's not a bad person, he's
a sick person. And years later when we reconnect, he
was clean. But we never divorced. So I lost him.
Like he passed away seven years ago, very young, forty six.
(18:21):
I think he was.
Speaker 1 (18:27):
Stay tuned, there's more to come.
Speaker 2 (18:32):
Thanks for sticking around. We are back.
Speaker 4 (18:36):
One day, I had this amazing dream that I see
myself in a beautiful house, huge house, and I see
I see the garden in from the second floor, and
I was with this red, beautiful strapless dress, makeup down,
hair don looking at this garden, saying I cannot believe
(19:00):
that everything is paid with my acting career. That was it.
The next day I tell my kids and they say,
what I think, area, what are you talking about? They
didn't even know that. When I mean I was doing
theater and I was I went to school for acting
and all that stuff. They say, okay, so let's look
for for you to go back to acting.
Speaker 2 (19:22):
The next thing Lauda did was grab a newspaper and
began looking for acting jobs.
Speaker 4 (19:26):
I didn't know how to do it in the States,
So we got a newspaper and in every single like
those newspapers, like tiny ones that you get in the
stores with a bunch of naked women in the middle
of the pages, some of the announcers in the bag
say like, oh, we were looking for actors. So I
(19:49):
got every single address of those places in New York
and I went with my kids to every single one
of them, and most of them were fraud The last
place that I went was the only authentic place, but
they were representing extras. So they give me a piece
(20:10):
of paper. I read. The guy like it and he said, okay,
so we're going to represent you. So that's how it started.
So in one of these occasions that I went, I
did a couple of extra work in a couple of movies.
But I said, this is this is not what I am,
this is not what I want.
Speaker 2 (20:26):
You know.
Speaker 4 (20:27):
I met this guy, Ernesto de Vijavijanni, and he said like,
so what are you doing. I said, well, I started
acting in Mexico with the best of the best. And
he said, no, no, no, no, you need to belong to
the OLA. What's the OLA Hispanic Organization of Latin Actors.
So they had like a website that you pay certain
(20:48):
amount and they send you to castings. That sounds more legit,
you know, So I did that and then they start
sending me. So the first feature film that we went
to Sunden's actually was from The Imperialist Still Alive, and
I got it from through them.
Speaker 1 (21:08):
By the time Lauda discovered her passion for film, she
was in her late forties.
Speaker 4 (21:13):
So I remember the first one that I booked. It
was from a student of a Tish school in New York.
So I tell my kids, I got a part in
a movie. Okay, how much you're going to make? Nothing?
How come nothing? I say no, because you know this
(21:36):
is a film, a student film, and that will give
me the footage that I need to have a demo.
Real no, no, no, you love to work for free.
So anyway, so that was the first film that I
did in New York. But after that one, it was
like so many like booking things that it came along,
you know, first in New York, and then I decided
(21:57):
I always wanted to be in California. I always believe
that in New York I was part of a minority,
and in La I will be part of a community.
I always believe in that. But it wasn't It wasn't easy.
I mean I was still raising the kids myself, you know,
(22:18):
and it was like so expensive, and I had three jobs,
so tired, and I couldn't like really like move here
with what money.
Speaker 2 (22:29):
Laura's acting journey wasn't easy. Her big break came with
an opportunity to act in an indie drama by Chicana
writer director Aro Ra Guerrero.
Speaker 4 (22:38):
So I remember that what it really changed my life.
It was a film, Mosquita Mari. It was for being
Mosquita's mom. So I say, like they called me, and
I say, like, because somebody gave my name. Actually the
VP from from the Imperialist, the lady that she's from wife,
(23:00):
I'm not wrong. She's the one that gave my name
to Aurora. And they were looking, they already looking to
New York in I mean into California and in Mexico,
and the person they liked they couldn't have like a
visa or something like that. So finally when they send
me the address, I say, oh, but this is California.
(23:22):
I live in New York. Oh forget about I said, no, no, no,
because anyway, I'm going to California a few days, So
you send me the information. In the meantime, I send
you my demo real. They said, okay, So just because
it was the fourth of you, I need to put
myself on tape with a teenager.
Speaker 1 (23:38):
Before Lauda submitted her self tape, she got a call
from Michael Sandford, the casting director.
Speaker 4 (23:45):
So I'm calling you because Alora get read, already saw
your demo reel and he's invited to be part of
the movie. So he's offering you even when she hasn't
seen yourself tape, just for your demo. Real, Like I
told my kids many many years ago that will I
will get me jobs and they didn't believe me. You know,
I'm proving that it's true. So he said, like, ah,
(24:05):
she's inviting you to be part of the movie. I
was like, oh my god, the movie in LA. I
can't believe it. I say, of course, have you read
the script? No, but I don't care. I want to
be part of this, so I will be there. So
the only thing that I ask a production is like
I don't have a car, so I'm going to say,
are you already like find up. I was working in
(24:28):
an office in Soho, like a manager of this fragance company,
and I called my boss and he said, I give
you the permission go ahead. So I have to make
a lot of phone calls. So finally, finally I was
on set and I remember telling one of the actresses,
You're so lucky because you live here. She said why,
(24:49):
I said, because I always wanted to live in la
and I can find a way. She say, okay, you
know I invite you to splip in the sofa in
my clubs. I said really, she said yeah, sure, okay.
So that was in June July September. She texted me
are you moving or no? I said, you're serious. Then
(25:09):
she said yes, I'm serious. I say, Okay, by January
I will be there.
Speaker 2 (25:13):
Lauda's role in Mosquito Marie not only changed Lauda's life,
but the lives of queer audiences who saw the supportive
and loving mother they never had in her performance.
Speaker 4 (25:25):
The experience with that film was amazing for me because
when we had the film in out first, the people
that got the ticket had the right to be in
the party. And I remember being in the party with
my eating and a couple of guys following me whatever
(25:46):
I was. So one guy was telling the other one,
come on, tell her, tell her. So I look around,
I leave my plate and I say, what's going on? Guys?
So one said to the other one, he wants to
talk to you. So this young kid approached to me
and he say, can I hug you? Because you look
(26:07):
a lot like my mom and I and she passed
away three years ago without accepting that I was gay.
That broke my heart. I say, of course, you can't
hug me. So I hug him, and I say, listen,
we came to I really believe that we came to
this world to be happy, not be miserable, be happy.
(26:29):
Your mom unfortunately couldn't understand that you're gay, because that's
who you are, and sometimes we are. We are raised
with so many things you know that people doesn't get,
but important things. You're here, you have somebody to love,
Embrace who you are. Period. So the next day he
(26:50):
put in a Facebook page that we had a page
for Mosquito married that the fact that he saw the
movie and that he was able to speak to me
he was able to have a closure in his mom lossing.
I was like, Oh, if you can do something like
that as an actor, your work is no less important
(27:13):
than our doctors. You're healing souls, you're healing people, And
for me, that transformed completely the way I see my
acting career.
Speaker 1 (27:24):
Now. We hope you're enjoying this conversation. Stay tuned, there's
more to come.
Speaker 2 (27:40):
Thanks for sticking around. We are back.
Speaker 1 (27:43):
It took many years for Lauda's film career to take off.
She started to book major roles at the age of sixty.
Lauda is now sixty six. The love of her life
is her blossoming career.
Speaker 4 (27:57):
I by myself. I love myself. I don't need a
guy to be happy. I learned that, you know. I mean,
I'm happy in so many beautiful to have somebody to love.
But I mean, if I don't have it, I'm not
going to be like being said, because it's not there.
I have so many other things that fill out my
life in a beautiful way. I have a great relationship
(28:20):
with my kids.
Speaker 2 (28:26):
According to an article in The Ringer about the golden
age of the aging actor, in the past twenty years
and particularly the last ten to fifteen. Today's average actor
age has reached the mid forties and is steadily climbing
toward fifty.
Speaker 4 (28:41):
My career is taken really alone, like it's taking over
because I'm so happy. I'm so happy that I can
do what I love to do that I really believe
I was born to do so, especially when you're older.
I remember reading this article when it was like Adriana Barasa,
(29:03):
George Lopez and my picture, and it says that that
I think it was last year that I read it
that most of the people, most of the time elderly people.
We are like the background for actors for stories. It's
not too many stories about elderly people. It should be more,
but it's not with all the experience that we have.
(29:26):
But the article says, when you give them their chance
to do their teens like a blue beetles for Adrina
Barasa and for George Lopez and for me and this fool,
we can be the secret weapon. And I was so
(29:47):
proud that I could be featured with these two big names.
I don't have that big name yet, but I mean,
I think I'm on my way, but to be recognized
as an actor that you have Alan that you can
do other things other than be a background for other
young younger people.
Speaker 1 (30:08):
With several exciting film projects and the works, Laura is
happier than ever at the stage of her life.
Speaker 4 (30:14):
I think this is one of the best times of
my life because I'm mature enough to don't take bullshit
from anybody. Actually, when I go to I am on
set and the makeup artist comes and she said to me, like,
are you allergic to anything? I say, yeah to bullshit,
but I mean pretty much, I am living one of
the best times of my life. I mean, if I
(30:36):
go tomorrow, I will go happy because I've been doing
whatever I want. I've been I can tell you I'm
a working actor making my living of what I love.
Speaker 2 (30:46):
Lara still has goals that she wants to pursue, like
buying the house she dreamt of and traveling with her twins.
Speaker 4 (30:53):
I want to travel to my kids to Europe. So
that's two things that I need to accomplish before I go.
So you've God allowed me to do that, I will
be more than happy to when I leave this world.
I hope that people remember that I inspired them somehow,
you know, because sometimes I have friends that I say
(31:13):
like I am about to give up, and then I
see you and I say, loud no, here, louda could
I can't do it too.
Speaker 1 (31:21):
Lauda is proof that it's never too late to pursue
your dreams. She inspires all of us with her acting,
but she also inspires those in her personal life.
Speaker 4 (31:30):
And when I moved here from New York, I remember
people telling me you don't drive, you don't have a car.
How you're going to go to castings? I don't know.
I will find a way. You're not going to be able.
I used to say, like watch me, and now like
I'm approved of that is possible. You know it took
(31:51):
me so many hours. But when I had like a
commercial whatever, I like two hours from Santa Monica in
a boss it's like reading kill us. But I mean,
I'm approved, that is possible. So I will tell anybody,
any age, if you had a dream, If you have
a dream, pursue that dream.
Speaker 2 (32:12):
Once a young woman who learned to love her body
and sexuality from an older mentor, Laura now enjoys the
wisdom gained from a life well lived.
Speaker 4 (32:20):
Somehow you become wiser. I don't know why or how,
but I mean, when you have you have to learn.
You learn every single day, no matter how old you are,
and sometimes you learn it from somebody younger than you.
But yeah, I think that we have access now to
so many tools and things that we didn't have before.
(32:45):
And that's great, you know, especially for you guys that
you're young and don't what will I say it, no
secunforming convenience, the local medicine. You deserve to be and
also to be happy in the sexual field, you know,
like when they're satisfaction sexualist, it's not a sing al gontryo.
(33:10):
You should you should be happy and you should be
able to feel if you have a lover that is
smart enough know somebody that is just selfish and te
just want to get be happy and finish, and you'll
be like, that's it. Thank you for the invitation, ladies,
that was really amazing. Thank you for paying attention to
(33:31):
my work. And I will say, like, I continue what
you're doing, because I think it's important that people have
this knowledge of what to do when they don't know
and look for information or even look for mentors that
can help you out when you are like, especially when
(33:53):
you're too young and you think that you know everything
and you don't know it like look for people that
can sometimes. The teaching.
Speaker 2 (34:03):
My big takeaway is that with time and with age
can come a type of excellence that is impossible to
reach an experience when you're young, things like acting, cultivating
your craft, really improving at your skill set and your art.
It takes time, it takes patience, and it takes a journey.
(34:26):
And I also think that what Lauda has taught me
is that romantic love might come and go, but your
art will always be there for you.
Speaker 1 (34:35):
Next time on Senora Sex said, we'll be in conversation
with Liam Winslett, executive director and co founder of Collectivo
Intercultural Transcredento.
Speaker 5 (34:46):
Joaki mujoveng ende peroueromx.
Speaker 2 (35:12):
Nos vemos ciao.
Speaker 1 (35:15):
Senora Sex is a co production between Locata Productions and
Michael Tura Podcast Network.
Speaker 2 (35:22):
This show is executive produced by Mala Munos and Them.
Speaker 1 (35:26):
Also executive produced by Jaselle Bances.
Speaker 2 (35:30):
Produced by Stephanie Franco.
Speaker 1 (35:32):
Creative direction by Mala Munios.
Speaker 2 (35:34):
Story editing by Bosa Fem.
Speaker 1 (35:37):
Music direction by Grisol Lomeli and.
Speaker 2 (35:40):
Music produced by Brian Gazo.
Speaker 4 (36:00):
He felt that he would have at a Coming at
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