May 19, 2020 • 32 mins
When the cameras stopped, what happened to Barnett and Amber?
They almost called it quits and now they are talking about kids...Barnett tells all.
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Speaker 1 (00:09):
Back on Love Inside. It's our three part series with
Matt Barnett. Matthew Barnett, we all know him as Barnett,
and it is. Uh, we went through the the initial process,
how we got on the show, first impressions, we went
through the love triangle, and now we're gonna get to
to life after marriage and and what it's been like.
So I'll start Barnett with the actual ceremony itself. You
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shared with us that that you were going to go
into this hunter percent, committed that Amber kind of put
the screws to you before she agreed to marry you,
that that you wanted to make sure you are hunter percent.
And so was there any ever, was there ever any
wavering before the actual ceremony that this might not happen? Um, No,
we had a conversation I think probably two or three
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weeks before. I think yeah, two or three weeks before,
and uh, the conversation was basically, if you're not gonna
if we're not gonna go through this at all, like
we need to know early because we don't want to
like surprise each other and like make each other like
really upset on on camera national TV or international TV.
Because it's like we're not feeling we're not feeling it,
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and there's no point in hurting someone at the end.
So we had that conversation, and the day of the wedding,
I did have cold feet, because you know, I'm pretty
sure most people, I hope that's a normal reaction because
it's like you're if you're going in into a marriage,
like with the right intentions, like you're you're planning on
being married to that person for the rest of your life.
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It's been in the rest of your life with that person.
And I'm like, I'm twenty was twenty eight at the time. Yeah,
I was twenty eight, and I was like I felt
still pretty young, and I was like, you know, that
could be sixty seventy years with the same person, Like
can I do it? And like I think. I took
a shower that morning and I just like sat in
the shower like crying. I was like, I'm like, this
is scary, this is real, Like this is this is
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who I'm gonna marry for the rest of my life.
Like can I do that? And I was like and
I texted her that morning and I was like, I
feel like I'm getting cold feet, Like I'm like nervous.
I'm like really stressed and like and then my phone
got taken away. I think response like, do not upside
your phone. I'm like, oh no, right, so there's there's
some drama. There were, Um, there were a couple there
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were a couple kind of moments. Um it seemed like
I don't know, they tell me if I'm wrong, but
like there was the moment when and look, finances are
a big deal in marriage. I think everybody knows that. Um,
when she shares with you kind of about her debt,
about her her lack of credit or if you want
to call it responsibility financially kind of to to some
of her obligations, and it seemed like you were really
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taken aback by that. Is that fair? Did that kind
of stop in your tracks a little bit? No? Uh,
it's not fair. Uh So we actually, I mean we
had conversations about money and stuff outside of what you
guys got to see. And I think the biggest conversation
we had was, you know, I actually had almost thirty
dollars in a student that so like that wasn't like
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a surprise to me. And the credit card, like seven
hundred dollar was not a very high limit on credit card.
So I was like, I've I've dated girls that have
much more expensive makeup habits. I wasn't worried about that, like,
and then then we both talked about like anything that
we're coming into this marriage together, we're gonna we're gonna
handle it separately, like I'm gonna handle my debts, you're
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gonna handle your debts, and and that's going to be that.
And then you know, everything we do together, we're gonna
we're gonna build together. We're gonna pay for together, like
all our all our utilities, all the stuff with buying
a house and things like that, and and uh, yeah,
we we made that decision. And then I think the
reaction that you guys got to see was actually a
different reaction to a conversation that we had about I
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had been an off, off handed comment about us not
being able to have kids, and she she started crying
like on the spot because you know, of her abortion,
and it was very intense and like it was kind
of it was very intense, and I was like taking
it back because I was like, I didn't mean to
I didn't mean to push that button or anything like that,
because I was just like like what's like that that
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could be a possibility, and you know, it just like
hit all at once and I was I took I
took a step back. So you guys didn't really need
to see that conversation. But yeah, so that was the
precursor to the debt and then I think they also
the kind of one of the key lines there was,
you know, I don't want to live to work. I
want to work or work to live live the word
and it you know that that was just kind of
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it seemed like it was a different sort of idea
than you might have and the way you approach you know,
your work and personal life. So honestly, like I think
that's the way. I mean, there are people that do
like work and that's all they want to do and
like that's they enjoy it. But I mean a lot
of people don't really like if they didn't have to
do something to make make a living, they wouldn't, you know,
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Like it's just it's it's fair. It's a fair comment.
Like I would rather, like, you know, work a couple
of days and then go do a lot of fun
stuff like that's that's I'm a hundred percent down for that. So,
like I had no like negative thoughts towards that common
at all. So, I mean, I would much rather live
than than work my whole life. So and then the
other bit of adversity that we saw or perceived adversity
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was your family, um and and how that all went. Oh,
my my family is the goofiest, most awkward like family
in the world. Like I love them to death, but
there and there's so much fun and and I feel
like my conversation saying they're conservative is just like they
are conservative to a point like where like they're not
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like they're not gonna be dropping of bombs left and right.
They're not gonna be you know, like I don't know,
extra rowdy, but they are like they're still goofy and
they'll still have fun. So and I think I think
you guys got to see some of the reactions to
some things that maybe have just would have were awkward
in the moment, but they weren't like their actual reactions
over the whole over meeting Amber and stuff like that.
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Like she was super nervous when we got there. She
was like shaking, like like I don't know why I'm shaking,
Like I'm just really nervous, Like because it was it
was so fast, like meeting my family, like a week
after getting engaged with somebody, you know him for ten days,
Like it's pretty fast, Like it's it's it's like very
intense situation and and you don't really know what you're
getting into. So but uh no, I mean, like I
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think they helped that everyone had a conversation with the
Amber that day, and like they were all like loved her,
and like they were just a little bit protective of
me because they know that, you know, I could possibly
rush into something and and not be you know, the
best decision for me, and they kind of didn't understand
what was going on. So what about the conversation we
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saw with your brother that seemed to be kind of
the peak that was like peak families freaking out sort
of moment. Uh did that? Did that get better? Did
did it do anything with your relationship with him? No? So, Danny,
I love my brother. He's always been someone I've looked
up to, and he was just you know, he's eight
years older than me, so he's always been very protective
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of me, and so he's always just making sure I'm
making the right decisions. And he just didn't want me
to to rush into something without thinking it all the
way through, because he's a very thoughtful person. He likes
to think hard about things. And like, I mean, I
think our conversation kind of went towards like those ten
days that I spent in in the in the facility
and the pods, getting close to this person, Like it
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made me ready to marry this person, Like it got
me to a point that I've never gotten to before
with anybody else, because I've been in multiple long term
relationships where the in thought was always to get married
and it never worked out that way. And and and
then I've built this connection with her that took ten
days and it was stronger than anything I've ever built
after multiple years of dating people. So yeah, so I
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like our conversation was like he was just making sure
that I was making a good decision. He was making
sure that I was being smart, And yeah, that's just
a protective older brother. So did the prior to that,
I'm kind of I'm going I'm jumping all over the
place just trying to kind of get to where the
relationship ended up. I did, did anything happening like Mexico?
You know, you guys talked about the bubble and how
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great it was. Was there any pick up there when
you see the other couples um for the first time.
Did that do anything? Did it change the relationship that
it makes you feel different at all? When you saw
some of the other the girls that you were courting. No,
I when I saw them all, like, I kind of so,
I kind of knew that they were there because yeah,
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so I, well, I didn't know who was there. I
knew that people have gotten engaged because they didn't come
back basically, so, um, I knew there were people that
are engaged. And then I think I caught like I
was walking through when one night, like the night we
got there, I was walking through and I like caught
a glimpse of I didn't know it was a girl
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that had cameras on her and she was like far
away and I didn't know who it was. Ended up
me in Diamond after I think her fight her night
fight with Carlton and h I didn't know what was
going on, so I was like, oh, there's other people here,
Like they didn't let us know that pop here yet,
but I didn't know we were actually gonna interact. So
when I get to see everybody I think, yeah, no,
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nobody like surprised me or nobody was like, like, I
kind of was set on Amber and she was like
her compared to everybody else in my mind was like
writing nothing, no comparison. So yeah, I didn't know. Just
based on it, it seemed like and again it helps
you know, play the role of the villain. Jess was
the one that you know, it was like, oh, Barnett,
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and I mean to the point that she even kind
of threw it in Mark's face, like, oh, I'm so
attracted to Barnett. I didn't know if any of that
came up, even just kind of a curiosity like, oh, wow,
that's that's what Jess looks like, that's what she looks
like kind of thing. No, I think I think I
kind of had a good idea of what everybody looked like,
and I kind of wasn't overly surprised and um, yeah, no,
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nobody like, I mean, even Lauren's beautiful, but like I
still like Amber a thousand or even her. So did
the Jessica thing put a stress on your relationship with
Amber at all, kind of through the apartment and through
Mexico of her just continually trying to kind of establish
something with you. So the one the last date that
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we went on are like I guess the date like
the meeting, last meeting we had by when I had
a little stupid beanie on. I was trying to look
like where's pualdo really hard, but what with what the
what clothing I actually had? I was like, I'm gonna
look as goofy as possible, because that was after that
was probably a week after our our little conversation at
my birthday, and so like at that point we kind
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of knew that there was something going on that she
wasn't being like great to Mark. Like we were all
about like making sure Mark was okay, and like I
think we had a couple of conversations with the Mark,
just making sure that everything was going fine with him
and like trying to fill home out. And then then
had that conversation by the pool, and I think I
didn't want to go and Amber didn't want me to go,
and I think she sat upstairs like she knew that
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I was out there with her and she was like
I'm not happy about it at all. So right, yeah,
and that was that was the last time I saw Jessica.
And I think yeah, that was that was the only
stress that she caused was that day pretty much. And
then past that, I don't I didn't even know anything
happened at the Bachelor at party. So all right, so
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we can knough fast forward to back to the wedding day,
cold Feet. They take your phone, you send the text,
you're now standing at the altar, kind of walk us
through that that window of time that we got to
see I don't know, maybe like four to five minutes
of Yeah, you didn't need to see a lot. Uh.
So I think that whole day I spent like three
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or four hours down in the basement just like chilling,
like with my friends and my brothers and uh and
then like I saw my mom, I saw my grandma
and my my dad and they all came and said hey,
and my mom like put my little bootineer thinking on
everything she's had me a couple of times. But anyways,
the yeah, I think everything leading up to it, like
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I calmed down really quickly. I had a beer with
Nickolach and like we talked about stuff too, and it
was like I'm ready for this, like like let's do it,
Like I'm Everybody asked me if I was ready, and
I was like, I'm ready. So I was like when
I got up there on the on the on the altar,
you know, I kind of looked out at everybody, and
I was like, I knew half the people because half
of them were Amber's friends and we hadn't met him
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yet really because we I'd only had, you know, the
opportunity to meet a few people before, because it was
like three weeks or four weeks, so we really have
a lot of time to meet all the people in
her life and all the people in my life. So
I sat up there and uh and yeah, just like
laughing and goofing off with everybody waiting on Amber to
show up. And then when she showed up, I was
like all eyes on her and it was really hard
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not to look at her. Yeah, she was gorgeous. So
so that's uh. So you get married, and then the
show was basically over until the until the reunion show,
so kind of catch us up now now that now
this is the the part where nobody has any idea
what's happened? How long ago was that? How long have
you been married? You just rubbed your head, so that's perfect.
I got to see the wedding ring, on your finger there,
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um so, so kind of what's what's happened since? What?
What can you fill us in on? Oh man, So
it's been a long time. The first, I think the
first two months or three months we were together, it
was like we were all were in la la land.
Everything was great, like we were like loving each other
and like every moment was amazing. And then kind of
like reality it like, you know, we aren't perfect, and
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I think it kind of it caught us both off
guard and like we were trying to put our expectations
on each other and you know, like what we expected
out of someone in the marriage that we hadn't really
like we thought we had discussed it, but like talking
about it and actually living it out it's a little
bit different. So we kind of had a little stressful
time there first for like a you know, a few
weeks or a few months where we were kind of
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just like that bashing heads were both very stubborn people.
And then I think once we got past that, I
mean we still we still by heads, were still both
stubborn stuffern people, but like we went on vacation with
my my family too to Italy, to like my grandma
passed away right before going on the show. And uh,
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it was basically we got her cremated and we took
rashes out there and like, you know, we we did
all that stuff out there. We got to see my
great uncle and his son and and and and meet
my grandma's best friend from when she was a kid
and everything like that. So it's pretty it was a
pretty awesome adventure that we went on. And since then,
we've like, I don't know, we've been going to concerts
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and up until now obviously but we've been going to
concerts and you know, doing a bunch of stuff outside
like we've been just every weekend we had had some
big thing going on. So uh, it's been a very adventure,
is very very fun. It's kind of nice to have
this time to kind of step back and just kind
of hang. But and we are we are in quarantine.
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We are mostly in quarantine, and uh, and living together
in an apartment right now is very um, We're on
top of each other all the time, so it's kind
of it does get difficult, but it's it's just trying
to find our own space and stuff like that. But
what about um, what any like serious adversity was was
there any and you know, look, you're you're not the
average couple. I mean you you got engaged on on
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one of the most popular shows, you know, worldwide in
the last twelve months. So people continue to follow. They
want to know every last detail, and it seems like
there was something out there that maybe there was a
real rocky patch for for a minute there. So I
think the I don't know, there's the rockiest patches. We
we had to learn how to like handle each other
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a little bit better, and I think I don't know nothing,
nothing too crazy. I think just we had a few
big like arguments that kind of just led to like
is this right? And I think we had like a
time limit like where we said, but if we don't
last and six months, you know, we're gonna end it
basically and like and and we we kind of got
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past that and like we're good. So I think I think, yeah,
I think I think I think the hardest part is
knowing that like there's there's, like we said, a time
to make sure we're going to actually make this last.
So so once we got past that mindset, like once
we realize that we're gonna do you know this forever,
really really do it forever the kind of like, Okay, yeah,
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we're good, So how long has it been just for
people that they kind of don't know what the timeline
was when it was shot, when you got married, and
kind of how long you guys have been married. May
it was October November, so a year and a half
at least a little over a year and a half
maybe ye. Any uh, any conversation about the the expansion
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of the family, like anything that that you plant dataus
on there a new dog dog not No, we've talked,
but I mean it's not like something that we're not
trying for kids, but like if it happens, it happens.
We're married, Like we kind of have a foundation at
least a pretty decent foundation. I know once kids, we
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have kids, it will be more expensive and stuff like that,
but we have a decent foundation. So we're we're good
in case. But but overall, we're not trying. And I
think that if I think we may start trying and
nothing happens in the next year or so, but we
haven't really said yes to that. So who's the better cook? Uh?
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Who's the better cook? I would say Amber is the
best cook I've ever met. I feel like that she's
she's a way better of a cook than I am.
But I've cooked for myself before and like actually tried
and done good. So but she I didn't got to
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see it because every time I do, I do bad. Uh.
What about in terms of keeping the house together, Who's
doing the laundry the dishes? Is it a partnership or
one do you clean? One do you not as clean?
We both hate laundry, so that's fair. I do the
dishes and the trash most of the time. She does it. Sometimes, Uh,
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she's she cleans up a lot more than I do.
I pick up like random things here and there, but
overall she she's a little bit cleaner than I am.
She has more stuff though, she has a lot more stuff,
a lot more close and a lot more like makeup
and stuff like. So the bathroom counters mostly her stuff
and then I have like a little corner of mine.
So we uh, we got to see in the in
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the facility, the guy side of the facility, there was
a lot of a lot of exercise action going on,
a lot of push ups and and so in this
time of quarantine, has that carried over or the two
of you like I don't know, doing bar method with
cans of beans or something like that. Like what are
you guys doing to kind of keep yourself occupied? Here?
So I I have a nice hill that I go
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to that's outside, and uh, I've been doing like one
of those like video workout things and Amber will kind
of join every once in a while, but I do
that pretty much every day. And then yeah, I have
I have two thirty packs of beer that I was curling.
You know, I kind of started getting into them, so
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exactly right, they're now fifteen packs that you know, just
more reps. That's all it is. You drink one and
you get to do a couple of extra reps. A
lot of a lot of that curls right, twelve ounce
curls the In terms of binge watching, what are you
guys watching right now? Binge watching or maybe not benching?
What do you got anything in particular that you guys
are watching together? Uh? We they put the community on Netflix.
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I'm trying to watch through that because it's and I
I've never seen it before, so I started trying to
watch through that, like we watched through the entire office.
Uh A little parks, right, But I mean we kind
of Amber's watching the Flash to catch up and then
we're gonna like I've watched a little bit with her,
but overall like she's catching up to me so we
can finish the next two seasons that and then yeah,
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and I don't know, not really not really too much
like in the new stuff, Like I haven't watched the
new Netflix show like Two Out to Handle. I haven't
watched that, and I haven't I think I watched one
episode or two episodes of Tiger King, but I couldn't Like,
I don't know, I didn't get it. I didn't get
into it like everybody else loved it. The what about
in terms of the other people on the show, like
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have you have you maintained a relationship with with anybody? Uh?
A lot of the conversations that I've had since the
show came out was not really it was more with
the couples that we're going through, you know this. Basically,
I've talked to Mark a lot. We played Call of
Duty together. We're supposed to play last I don't know
what happened, but um Call of Duty or well I'm
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talking about started talking about colg Um Mark and talked
to a lot I've talked to h to Cameron, Lauren A. Lott,
and Damien Um a lot. So But besides that, I
mean I talked to like random people from the cast
like that that you guys didn't really get to see much.
But for the most part, I think we have our
our group chat, which I've kind of been out of really,
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I haven't been paying attention too much. But we up
until the show came out, we were talking like crazy.
So do you think, um, do you think you'll maintain
those relationships? I'll try, I mean as much as you can,
you know, That's what I mean. Like are they friends?
Are they just people that you went through because it's
it's weird, right, it's a very short frame of time,
but it's a very intense time that you go through
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this experience together. So I'm just kind of trying to
figure out if that if that carries over as opposed
to you know, you've got friends that you've made over
the course of your entire life, You've grown up with,
you went to school with, obviously have been through a
lot more with. Yeah, So I mean like the friends
that that or were my friends before, like my main friends,
but I mean nobody else has been through the experience
that we, like people on the show have been through,
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and so it's it's a lot easier to talk to
them about what what we're going through. And you know
what I mean, I like, I if any of them
ever reach out to me, like, I'm like, you know,
I'm here for for you. But you know I'm not.
I'm not like keeping in constant contact with them, like
talking to them every day and stuff like that. But yeah,
we were all we're all we all know a lot
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about each other and all have seen each other cry
a lot. So I think, you know, if anybody ever
reaches out to me or if I ever needed anything,
I know that I can reach out to any of
them and they'd be, you know, down to talk. So,
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you know, we we found out that that two more seasons.
Love is Blind picked up for two more seasons on Netflix.
So obviously you guys did a heck of a People
are interested. They wanted to see, you know, ultimately, what
happened between all of you and the rest of the cast.
So what what do you say to Let's just say,
you know, one of your I would assume you have
nothing but but positives. You met your wife, you guys
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are still together all as well. But but what would
you say to the people that are thinking about going
on the show. Uh, that's that's tough because I you know,
I wouldn't really know what like if I were to
go back and tell myself what to do and stuff
like that, it would kind of ruin the experience for me.
And it kind of sucks for them because they know
what to expect a little bit. I hope they kind
of mix it up a little bit or somehow change
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it a little bit so that it's not the exact same.
But but you know, I think go into it with
an open mind and an open heart because that's like
I kind of wish that I could have, you know,
been more honest with myself earlier and and like been
able to like open up earlier in the show. So
you have to, like, I think that when they get there,
they need to realize that, you know, this is about
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opening up to people. No one's running away from you,
Like you're not like going to get ghosted out there,
So you mean you're gonna have the opportunity to talk
to these people and build the connection. So and they're
they're there for this, Hopefully they're there for the right reasons,
and you know they're gonna be there, you know, to
get married or at least find someone that could be
their soul mate. And yeah, so I hope that they're
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going there for the right reasons. So give us a
give us an idea. And it's it's so hard because
obviously life has changed, the world has changed with with
you know, this pandemic and COVID nineteen. But what was
life like for the two of you just walking around?
I mean this was, you know, the number one show
on Netflix for a while before all of this came down.
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Were you were you able to walk around as a couple, Um,
you know, kind of give us an idea of what
the level of celebrity was for you and and what
kind of challenges that might have presented. So initially, yeah,
I mean it was probably what it was right at
the end of the show, like like right when the
reunion happened. I think that was right when everything was
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starting to to go down the crown of stuff. And
I think, um, I think like I would I typically
would go out on a Friday night or something like that,
just go to a bar and hang out. And and
then like the last two Friday nights that I went out,
I was getting stopped by hundreds of people. And then
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I was like, oh, I don't know, I don't know
how to how to how to talk to all of
you people. Like I was very I'm not used to
being approached at a bar like that, so so it
was very overwhelming for sure. And then now like we
we lived in a very like popular area like over
the Braid Stadium, and uh like just walking around there,
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like there's new people there all the time, and like,
you know, anybody would stop us and and try to
take pictures and stuff like that. And then I think,
I think right before the wedding episode came out, we
went to a park uh talk talk our dog, and
someone had like taking pictures and posted them online of
us walking together, like before they knew that we were together. Yeah,
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were You're not supposed to do that? Are you guys
not supposed to be out in public together? I would
assume I was. We were trying to be as cautious
as possible, but sometimes you know, we Corona hadn't happened yet,
we couldn't stay or we weren't planning staying inside, like
we didn't we didn't know it was gonna blow up either,
so we kind of like weren't worried about it. You know,
we think too much about it. Yeah, I had pictures
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of me online like walking my daughter, Like, interesting, they're together. Guys.
What about the reunion? I forgot to ask you about that.
There was kind of that moment where where jess and
Amber kind of had their exchange and it just seemed
like you were sort of hoping that you weren't sitting
in that particular spot at that partication or moment. Oh man,
the reunion was so much fun. It was cool. It
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was great scene everybody again. Um yeah, and then uh,
the whole the whole Amber and Jessica thing. Like I
think me and Neber had conversations before like you gotta
be like a little like don't don't swing on her
or something, and and yeah, like I was like, because
we we had just seen the whole show basically except
(27:13):
for the weddings, um, two days before, two days before
we went to the reunion. So Amber like had like
this like fire inside of her because there was no
time to like think about anything. And it was like
they tried, they tried to set Jessica. They tried to
set Jessica next to me, like they tried to have
me in the middle of Jessica on my left and
Ander on my right, and I was like, no, she's
(27:35):
not sting, like that's fair, that's fair. And then yeah,
when when they asked her about about Jessica, she kind
of blew up and I was like, I'm like, if
you swing, like, let me know so I can duck, right,
you know, I was like, oh god, no, Thankfully, Jessica
seemed to play it well, just hey, accept it and
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uh wear it and move on, live to live, to
fight another day. Yeah, I mean, there was a lot
of a lot of emotion, emotional build up in such
a short time, and so yeah, I think I think
I don't know she she she did not react the
same way, but yeah, yeah, all right, let's uh, let's
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put a button on this. And it's a game we've
played with all the contestants. So let's it's what we
like to call love is Blind, or remember what we
called it Love is Blind or deal Breakers, something along
those lines. So let's say you guys do the pods,
you the doors open, you meet, and now you get
to learn a little bit more about each other. Um,
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so tell us if this is a deal breaker or
if you're fine, you can you can live with this? Uh,
love is blind? So how about doesn't wear deoderant? Oh?
I didn't think that was gonna be that big of
a stuffly block. Oh gosh, that's tough. As long as
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they shower, I guess not a All right, how about
and I see this? To me, I think it's gonna be.
And I got like a list of about twenty of these,
so I gotta pick wisely. This one I think could
be a deal breaker for you. Uh more than three cats?
I'm I'm not a cat guy. Figured I don't like
cats all that much. I've met nice cats, but I've
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also had lots of bad experiences with cats. Three cats
is probably a deal breaker. Oh gosh, No, I can't
you know what. I'm not gonna say it's a deal breaker.
I'm gonna give the cats an opportunity. Okay, all right,
let's see. How about bad manners? Bad man m Yeah,
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that's kind of that's kind of more of it. How
many deal breakers do I get? I just get one?
You only get one? Shoot? Uh? Shoot? Then bad manner?
I can I can? I can? Can? I teach her
better manners. Maybe I'm confident. Are you all right? How
about how about herpes? Right? We just we just ratched
(30:13):
it up about uh uh, all right, I'll give you
one more and you can then then you can pick
here's here's your last one. That's my last one. That's open,
open relationship. God, what do these are? All like levels
of deal breakers from deodorant to cats to bad manners
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around your family? They got bad manners, you know what
I mean? Honestly, like I would give everyone a chance,
but overall, like they're all long term deal figures for show. Okay,
so it's it's yeah, I mean, huh those aren't Those
aren't easy deal breakers? Only get one of those? Aren't easy?
All right? You don't want to pick one? Hunt you're
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saying all of them? Yeah, they're they're all overall deal
breakers at the long term. Yeah, we'll take it. Uh,
great stuff, Barnett. We we appreciate it. It's been a
lot of fun. It's been a bummer that kind of uh,
you know, we haven't had a chance to do this
sooner with with all the stuff that's happening right now,
but we certainly appreciate you taking out a little bit
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of your time here to to knock this out. Thanks
for having all right, So that wraps our three episode
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Back on Love Inside. It's our three part series with
Matt Barnett. Matthew Barnett, we all know him as Barnett,
and it is. Uh, we went through the the initial process,
how we got on the show, first impressions, we went
through the love triangle, and now we're gonna get to
to life after marriage and and what it's been like.
So I'll start Barnett with the actual ceremony itself. You
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shared with us that that you were going to go
into this hunter percent, committed that Amber kind of put
the screws to you before she agreed to marry you,
that that you wanted to make sure you are hunter percent.
And so was there any ever, was there ever any
wavering before the actual ceremony that this might not happen? Um, No,
we had a conversation I think probably two or three
(00:53):
weeks before. I think yeah, two or three weeks before,
and uh, the conversation was basically, if you're not gonna
if we're not gonna go through this at all, like
we need to know early because we don't want to
like surprise each other and like make each other like
really upset on on camera national TV or international TV.
Because it's like we're not feeling we're not feeling it,
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and there's no point in hurting someone at the end.
So we had that conversation, and the day of the wedding,
I did have cold feet, because you know, I'm pretty
sure most people, I hope that's a normal reaction because
it's like you're if you're going in into a marriage,
like with the right intentions, like you're you're planning on
being married to that person for the rest of your life.
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It's been in the rest of your life with that person.
And I'm like, I'm twenty was twenty eight at the time. Yeah,
I was twenty eight, and I was like I felt
still pretty young, and I was like, you know, that
could be sixty seventy years with the same person, Like
can I do it? And like I think. I took
a shower that morning and I just like sat in
the shower like crying. I was like, I'm like, this
is scary, this is real, Like this is this is
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who I'm gonna marry for the rest of my life.
Like can I do that? And I was like and
I texted her that morning and I was like, I
feel like I'm getting cold feet, Like I'm like nervous.
I'm like really stressed and like and then my phone
got taken away. I think response like, do not upside
your phone. I'm like, oh no, right, so there's there's
some drama. There were, Um, there were a couple there
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were a couple kind of moments. Um it seemed like
I don't know, they tell me if I'm wrong, but
like there was the moment when and look, finances are
a big deal in marriage. I think everybody knows that. Um,
when she shares with you kind of about her debt,
about her her lack of credit or if you want
to call it responsibility financially kind of to to some
of her obligations, and it seemed like you were really
(02:39):
taken aback by that. Is that fair? Did that kind
of stop in your tracks a little bit? No? Uh,
it's not fair. Uh So we actually, I mean we
had conversations about money and stuff outside of what you
guys got to see. And I think the biggest conversation
we had was, you know, I actually had almost thirty
dollars in a student that so like that wasn't like
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a surprise to me. And the credit card, like seven
hundred dollar was not a very high limit on credit card.
So I was like, I've I've dated girls that have
much more expensive makeup habits. I wasn't worried about that, like,
and then then we both talked about like anything that
we're coming into this marriage together, we're gonna we're gonna
handle it separately, like I'm gonna handle my debts, you're
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gonna handle your debts, and and that's going to be that.
And then you know, everything we do together, we're gonna
we're gonna build together. We're gonna pay for together, like
all our all our utilities, all the stuff with buying
a house and things like that, and and uh, yeah,
we we made that decision. And then I think the
reaction that you guys got to see was actually a
different reaction to a conversation that we had about I
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had been an off, off handed comment about us not
being able to have kids, and she she started crying
like on the spot because you know, of her abortion,
and it was very intense and like it was kind
of it was very intense, and I was like taking
it back because I was like, I didn't mean to
I didn't mean to push that button or anything like that,
because I was just like like what's like that that
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could be a possibility, and you know, it just like
hit all at once and I was I took I
took a step back. So you guys didn't really need
to see that conversation. But yeah, so that was the
precursor to the debt and then I think they also
the kind of one of the key lines there was,
you know, I don't want to live to work. I
want to work or work to live live the word
and it you know that that was just kind of
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it seemed like it was a different sort of idea
than you might have and the way you approach you know,
your work and personal life. So honestly, like I think
that's the way. I mean, there are people that do
like work and that's all they want to do and
like that's they enjoy it. But I mean a lot
of people don't really like if they didn't have to
do something to make make a living, they wouldn't, you know,
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Like it's just it's it's fair. It's a fair comment.
Like I would rather, like, you know, work a couple
of days and then go do a lot of fun
stuff like that's that's I'm a hundred percent down for that. So,
like I had no like negative thoughts towards that common
at all. So, I mean, I would much rather live
than than work my whole life. So and then the
other bit of adversity that we saw or perceived adversity
(05:11):
was your family, um and and how that all went. Oh,
my my family is the goofiest, most awkward like family
in the world. Like I love them to death, but
there and there's so much fun and and I feel
like my conversation saying they're conservative is just like they
are conservative to a point like where like they're not
(05:33):
like they're not gonna be dropping of bombs left and right.
They're not gonna be you know, like I don't know,
extra rowdy, but they are like they're still goofy and
they'll still have fun. So and I think I think
you guys got to see some of the reactions to
some things that maybe have just would have were awkward
in the moment, but they weren't like their actual reactions
over the whole over meeting Amber and stuff like that.
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Like she was super nervous when we got there. She
was like shaking, like like I don't know why I'm shaking,
Like I'm just really nervous, Like because it was it
was so fast, like meeting my family, like a week
after getting engaged with somebody, you know him for ten days,
Like it's pretty fast, Like it's it's it's like very
intense situation and and you don't really know what you're
getting into. So but uh no, I mean, like I
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think they helped that everyone had a conversation with the
Amber that day, and like they were all like loved her,
and like they were just a little bit protective of
me because they know that, you know, I could possibly
rush into something and and not be you know, the
best decision for me, and they kind of didn't understand
what was going on. So what about the conversation we
(06:36):
saw with your brother that seemed to be kind of
the peak that was like peak families freaking out sort
of moment. Uh did that? Did that get better? Did
did it do anything with your relationship with him? No? So, Danny,
I love my brother. He's always been someone I've looked
up to, and he was just you know, he's eight
years older than me, so he's always been very protective
(06:58):
of me, and so he's always just making sure I'm
making the right decisions. And he just didn't want me
to to rush into something without thinking it all the
way through, because he's a very thoughtful person. He likes
to think hard about things. And like, I mean, I
think our conversation kind of went towards like those ten
days that I spent in in the in the facility
and the pods, getting close to this person, Like it
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made me ready to marry this person, Like it got
me to a point that I've never gotten to before
with anybody else, because I've been in multiple long term
relationships where the in thought was always to get married
and it never worked out that way. And and and
then I've built this connection with her that took ten
days and it was stronger than anything I've ever built
after multiple years of dating people. So yeah, so I
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like our conversation was like he was just making sure
that I was making a good decision. He was making
sure that I was being smart, And yeah, that's just
a protective older brother. So did the prior to that,
I'm kind of I'm going I'm jumping all over the
place just trying to kind of get to where the
relationship ended up. I did, did anything happening like Mexico?
You know, you guys talked about the bubble and how
(08:04):
great it was. Was there any pick up there when
you see the other couples um for the first time.
Did that do anything? Did it change the relationship that
it makes you feel different at all? When you saw
some of the other the girls that you were courting. No,
I when I saw them all, like, I kind of so,
I kind of knew that they were there because yeah,
(08:25):
so I, well, I didn't know who was there. I
knew that people have gotten engaged because they didn't come
back basically, so, um, I knew there were people that
are engaged. And then I think I caught like I
was walking through when one night, like the night we
got there, I was walking through and I like caught
a glimpse of I didn't know it was a girl
(08:45):
that had cameras on her and she was like far
away and I didn't know who it was. Ended up
me in Diamond after I think her fight her night
fight with Carlton and h I didn't know what was
going on, so I was like, oh, there's other people here,
Like they didn't let us know that pop here yet,
but I didn't know we were actually gonna interact. So
when I get to see everybody I think, yeah, no,
(09:06):
nobody like surprised me or nobody was like, like, I
kind of was set on Amber and she was like
her compared to everybody else in my mind was like
writing nothing, no comparison. So yeah, I didn't know. Just
based on it, it seemed like and again it helps
you know, play the role of the villain. Jess was
the one that you know, it was like, oh, Barnett,
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and I mean to the point that she even kind
of threw it in Mark's face, like, oh, I'm so
attracted to Barnett. I didn't know if any of that
came up, even just kind of a curiosity like, oh, wow,
that's that's what Jess looks like, that's what she looks
like kind of thing. No, I think I think I
kind of had a good idea of what everybody looked like,
and I kind of wasn't overly surprised and um, yeah, no,
(09:48):
nobody like, I mean, even Lauren's beautiful, but like I
still like Amber a thousand or even her. So did
the Jessica thing put a stress on your relationship with
Amber at all, kind of through the apartment and through
Mexico of her just continually trying to kind of establish
something with you. So the one the last date that
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we went on are like I guess the date like
the meeting, last meeting we had by when I had
a little stupid beanie on. I was trying to look
like where's pualdo really hard, but what with what the
what clothing I actually had? I was like, I'm gonna
look as goofy as possible, because that was after that
was probably a week after our our little conversation at
my birthday, and so like at that point we kind
(10:34):
of knew that there was something going on that she
wasn't being like great to Mark. Like we were all
about like making sure Mark was okay, and like I
think we had a couple of conversations with the Mark,
just making sure that everything was going fine with him
and like trying to fill home out. And then then
had that conversation by the pool, and I think I
didn't want to go and Amber didn't want me to go,
and I think she sat upstairs like she knew that
(10:55):
I was out there with her and she was like
I'm not happy about it at all. So right, yeah,
and that was that was the last time I saw Jessica.
And I think yeah, that was that was the only
stress that she caused was that day pretty much. And
then past that, I don't I didn't even know anything
happened at the Bachelor at party. So all right, so
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we can knough fast forward to back to the wedding day,
cold Feet. They take your phone, you send the text,
you're now standing at the altar, kind of walk us
through that that window of time that we got to
see I don't know, maybe like four to five minutes
of Yeah, you didn't need to see a lot. Uh.
So I think that whole day I spent like three
(11:44):
or four hours down in the basement just like chilling,
like with my friends and my brothers and uh and
then like I saw my mom, I saw my grandma
and my my dad and they all came and said hey,
and my mom like put my little bootineer thinking on
everything she's had me a couple of times. But anyways,
the yeah, I think everything leading up to it, like
(12:08):
I calmed down really quickly. I had a beer with
Nickolach and like we talked about stuff too, and it
was like I'm ready for this, like like let's do it,
Like I'm Everybody asked me if I was ready, and
I was like, I'm ready. So I was like when
I got up there on the on the on the altar,
you know, I kind of looked out at everybody, and
I was like, I knew half the people because half
of them were Amber's friends and we hadn't met him
(12:29):
yet really because we I'd only had, you know, the
opportunity to meet a few people before, because it was
like three weeks or four weeks, so we really have
a lot of time to meet all the people in
her life and all the people in my life. So
I sat up there and uh and yeah, just like
laughing and goofing off with everybody waiting on Amber to
show up. And then when she showed up, I was
like all eyes on her and it was really hard
(12:51):
not to look at her. Yeah, she was gorgeous. So
so that's uh. So you get married, and then the
show was basically over until the until the reunion show,
so kind of catch us up now now that now
this is the the part where nobody has any idea
what's happened? How long ago was that? How long have
you been married? You just rubbed your head, so that's perfect.
I got to see the wedding ring, on your finger there,
(13:13):
um so, so kind of what's what's happened since? What?
What can you fill us in on? Oh man, So
it's been a long time. The first, I think the
first two months or three months we were together, it
was like we were all were in la la land.
Everything was great, like we were like loving each other
and like every moment was amazing. And then kind of
like reality it like, you know, we aren't perfect, and
(13:35):
I think it kind of it caught us both off
guard and like we were trying to put our expectations
on each other and you know, like what we expected
out of someone in the marriage that we hadn't really
like we thought we had discussed it, but like talking
about it and actually living it out it's a little
bit different. So we kind of had a little stressful
time there first for like a you know, a few
weeks or a few months where we were kind of
(13:57):
just like that bashing heads were both very stubborn people.
And then I think once we got past that, I
mean we still we still by heads, were still both
stubborn stuffern people, but like we went on vacation with
my my family too to Italy, to like my grandma
passed away right before going on the show. And uh,
(14:18):
it was basically we got her cremated and we took
rashes out there and like, you know, we we did
all that stuff out there. We got to see my
great uncle and his son and and and and meet
my grandma's best friend from when she was a kid
and everything like that. So it's pretty it was a
pretty awesome adventure that we went on. And since then,
we've like, I don't know, we've been going to concerts
(14:40):
and up until now obviously but we've been going to
concerts and you know, doing a bunch of stuff outside
like we've been just every weekend we had had some
big thing going on. So uh, it's been a very adventure,
is very very fun. It's kind of nice to have
this time to kind of step back and just kind
of hang. But and we are we are in quarantine.
(15:03):
We are mostly in quarantine, and uh, and living together
in an apartment right now is very um, We're on
top of each other all the time, so it's kind
of it does get difficult, but it's it's just trying
to find our own space and stuff like that. But
what about um, what any like serious adversity was was
there any and you know, look, you're you're not the
average couple. I mean you you got engaged on on
(15:25):
one of the most popular shows, you know, worldwide in
the last twelve months. So people continue to follow. They
want to know every last detail, and it seems like
there was something out there that maybe there was a
real rocky patch for for a minute there. So I
think the I don't know, there's the rockiest patches. We
we had to learn how to like handle each other
(15:47):
a little bit better, and I think I don't know nothing,
nothing too crazy. I think just we had a few
big like arguments that kind of just led to like
is this right? And I think we had like a
time limit like where we said, but if we don't
last and six months, you know, we're gonna end it
basically and like and and we we kind of got
(16:08):
past that and like we're good. So I think I think, yeah,
I think I think I think the hardest part is
knowing that like there's there's, like we said, a time
to make sure we're going to actually make this last.
So so once we got past that mindset, like once
we realize that we're gonna do you know this forever,
really really do it forever the kind of like, Okay, yeah,
(16:31):
we're good, So how long has it been just for
people that they kind of don't know what the timeline
was when it was shot, when you got married, and
kind of how long you guys have been married. May
it was October November, so a year and a half
at least a little over a year and a half
maybe ye. Any uh, any conversation about the the expansion
(16:51):
of the family, like anything that that you plant dataus
on there a new dog dog not No, we've talked,
but I mean it's not like something that we're not
trying for kids, but like if it happens, it happens.
We're married, Like we kind of have a foundation at
least a pretty decent foundation. I know once kids, we
(17:13):
have kids, it will be more expensive and stuff like that,
but we have a decent foundation. So we're we're good
in case. But but overall, we're not trying. And I
think that if I think we may start trying and
nothing happens in the next year or so, but we
haven't really said yes to that. So who's the better cook? Uh?
(17:41):
Who's the better cook? I would say Amber is the
best cook I've ever met. I feel like that she's
she's a way better of a cook than I am.
But I've cooked for myself before and like actually tried
and done good. So but she I didn't got to
(18:01):
see it because every time I do, I do bad. Uh.
What about in terms of keeping the house together, Who's
doing the laundry the dishes? Is it a partnership or
one do you clean? One do you not as clean?
We both hate laundry, so that's fair. I do the
dishes and the trash most of the time. She does it. Sometimes, Uh,
(18:25):
she's she cleans up a lot more than I do.
I pick up like random things here and there, but
overall she she's a little bit cleaner than I am.
She has more stuff though, she has a lot more stuff,
a lot more close and a lot more like makeup
and stuff like. So the bathroom counters mostly her stuff
and then I have like a little corner of mine.
So we uh, we got to see in the in
(18:47):
the facility, the guy side of the facility, there was
a lot of a lot of exercise action going on,
a lot of push ups and and so in this
time of quarantine, has that carried over or the two
of you like I don't know, doing bar method with
cans of beans or something like that. Like what are
you guys doing to kind of keep yourself occupied? Here?
So I I have a nice hill that I go
(19:11):
to that's outside, and uh, I've been doing like one
of those like video workout things and Amber will kind
of join every once in a while, but I do
that pretty much every day. And then yeah, I have
I have two thirty packs of beer that I was curling.
You know, I kind of started getting into them, so
(19:32):
exactly right, they're now fifteen packs that you know, just
more reps. That's all it is. You drink one and
you get to do a couple of extra reps. A
lot of a lot of that curls right, twelve ounce
curls the In terms of binge watching, what are you
guys watching right now? Binge watching or maybe not benching?
What do you got anything in particular that you guys
are watching together? Uh? We they put the community on Netflix.
(19:57):
I'm trying to watch through that because it's and I
I've never seen it before, so I started trying to
watch through that, like we watched through the entire office.
Uh A little parks, right, But I mean we kind
of Amber's watching the Flash to catch up and then
we're gonna like I've watched a little bit with her,
but overall like she's catching up to me so we
can finish the next two seasons that and then yeah,
(20:20):
and I don't know, not really not really too much
like in the new stuff, Like I haven't watched the
new Netflix show like Two Out to Handle. I haven't
watched that, and I haven't I think I watched one
episode or two episodes of Tiger King, but I couldn't Like,
I don't know, I didn't get it. I didn't get
into it like everybody else loved it. The what about
in terms of the other people on the show, like
(20:41):
have you have you maintained a relationship with with anybody? Uh?
A lot of the conversations that I've had since the
show came out was not really it was more with
the couples that we're going through, you know this. Basically,
I've talked to Mark a lot. We played Call of
Duty together. We're supposed to play last I don't know
what happened, but um Call of Duty or well I'm
(21:05):
talking about started talking about colg Um Mark and talked
to a lot I've talked to h to Cameron, Lauren A. Lott,
and Damien Um a lot. So But besides that, I
mean I talked to like random people from the cast
like that that you guys didn't really get to see much.
But for the most part, I think we have our
our group chat, which I've kind of been out of really,
(21:25):
I haven't been paying attention too much. But we up
until the show came out, we were talking like crazy.
So do you think, um, do you think you'll maintain
those relationships? I'll try, I mean as much as you can,
you know, That's what I mean. Like are they friends?
Are they just people that you went through because it's
it's weird, right, it's a very short frame of time,
but it's a very intense time that you go through
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this experience together. So I'm just kind of trying to
figure out if that if that carries over as opposed
to you know, you've got friends that you've made over
the course of your entire life, You've grown up with,
you went to school with, obviously have been through a
lot more with. Yeah, So I mean like the friends
that that or were my friends before, like my main friends,
but I mean nobody else has been through the experience
that we, like people on the show have been through,
(22:08):
and so it's it's a lot easier to talk to
them about what what we're going through. And you know
what I mean, I like, I if any of them
ever reach out to me, like, I'm like, you know,
I'm here for for you. But you know I'm not.
I'm not like keeping in constant contact with them, like
talking to them every day and stuff like that. But yeah,
we were all we're all we all know a lot
(22:30):
about each other and all have seen each other cry
a lot. So I think, you know, if anybody ever
reaches out to me or if I ever needed anything,
I know that I can reach out to any of
them and they'd be, you know, down to talk. So,
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you know, we we found out that that two more seasons.
Love is Blind picked up for two more seasons on Netflix.
So obviously you guys did a heck of a People
are interested. They wanted to see, you know, ultimately, what
happened between all of you and the rest of the cast.
So what what do you say to Let's just say,
you know, one of your I would assume you have
nothing but but positives. You met your wife, you guys
(23:15):
are still together all as well. But but what would
you say to the people that are thinking about going
on the show. Uh, that's that's tough because I you know,
I wouldn't really know what like if I were to
go back and tell myself what to do and stuff
like that, it would kind of ruin the experience for me.
And it kind of sucks for them because they know
what to expect a little bit. I hope they kind
of mix it up a little bit or somehow change
(23:37):
it a little bit so that it's not the exact same.
But but you know, I think go into it with
an open mind and an open heart because that's like
I kind of wish that I could have, you know,
been more honest with myself earlier and and like been
able to like open up earlier in the show. So
you have to, like, I think that when they get there,
they need to realize that, you know, this is about
(23:58):
opening up to people. No one's running away from you,
Like you're not like going to get ghosted out there,
So you mean you're gonna have the opportunity to talk
to these people and build the connection. So and they're
they're there for this, Hopefully they're there for the right reasons,
and you know they're gonna be there, you know, to
get married or at least find someone that could be
their soul mate. And yeah, so I hope that they're
(24:21):
going there for the right reasons. So give us a
give us an idea. And it's it's so hard because
obviously life has changed, the world has changed with with
you know, this pandemic and COVID nineteen. But what was
life like for the two of you just walking around?
I mean this was, you know, the number one show
on Netflix for a while before all of this came down.
(24:41):
Were you were you able to walk around as a couple, Um,
you know, kind of give us an idea of what
the level of celebrity was for you and and what
kind of challenges that might have presented. So initially, yeah,
I mean it was probably what it was right at
the end of the show, like like right when the
reunion happened. I think that was right when everything was
(25:02):
starting to to go down the crown of stuff. And
I think, um, I think like I would I typically
would go out on a Friday night or something like that,
just go to a bar and hang out. And and
then like the last two Friday nights that I went out,
I was getting stopped by hundreds of people. And then
(25:22):
I was like, oh, I don't know, I don't know
how to how to how to talk to all of
you people. Like I was very I'm not used to
being approached at a bar like that, so so it
was very overwhelming for sure. And then now like we
we lived in a very like popular area like over
the Braid Stadium, and uh like just walking around there,
(25:43):
like there's new people there all the time, and like,
you know, anybody would stop us and and try to
take pictures and stuff like that. And then I think,
I think right before the wedding episode came out, we
went to a park uh talk talk our dog, and
someone had like taking pictures and posted them online of
us walking together, like before they knew that we were together. Yeah,
(26:07):
were You're not supposed to do that? Are you guys
not supposed to be out in public together? I would
assume I was. We were trying to be as cautious
as possible, but sometimes you know, we Corona hadn't happened yet,
we couldn't stay or we weren't planning staying inside, like
we didn't we didn't know it was gonna blow up either,
so we kind of like weren't worried about it. You know,
we think too much about it. Yeah, I had pictures
(26:28):
of me online like walking my daughter, Like, interesting, they're together. Guys.
What about the reunion? I forgot to ask you about that.
There was kind of that moment where where jess and
Amber kind of had their exchange and it just seemed
like you were sort of hoping that you weren't sitting
in that particular spot at that partication or moment. Oh man,
the reunion was so much fun. It was cool. It
(26:51):
was great scene everybody again. Um yeah, and then uh,
the whole the whole Amber and Jessica thing. Like I
think me and Neber had conversations before like you gotta
be like a little like don't don't swing on her
or something, and and yeah, like I was like, because
we we had just seen the whole show basically except
(27:13):
for the weddings, um, two days before, two days before
we went to the reunion. So Amber like had like
this like fire inside of her because there was no
time to like think about anything. And it was like
they tried, they tried to set Jessica. They tried to
set Jessica next to me, like they tried to have
me in the middle of Jessica on my left and
Ander on my right, and I was like, no, she's
(27:35):
not sting, like that's fair, that's fair. And then yeah,
when when they asked her about about Jessica, she kind
of blew up and I was like, I'm like, if
you swing, like, let me know so I can duck, right,
you know, I was like, oh god, no, Thankfully, Jessica
seemed to play it well, just hey, accept it and
(27:57):
uh wear it and move on, live to live, to
fight another day. Yeah, I mean, there was a lot
of a lot of emotion, emotional build up in such
a short time, and so yeah, I think I think
I don't know she she she did not react the
same way, but yeah, yeah, all right, let's uh, let's
(28:20):
put a button on this. And it's a game we've
played with all the contestants. So let's it's what we
like to call love is Blind, or remember what we
called it Love is Blind or deal Breakers, something along
those lines. So let's say you guys do the pods,
you the doors open, you meet, and now you get
to learn a little bit more about each other. Um,
(28:41):
so tell us if this is a deal breaker or
if you're fine, you can you can live with this? Uh,
love is blind? So how about doesn't wear deoderant? Oh?
I didn't think that was gonna be that big of
a stuffly block. Oh gosh, that's tough. As long as
(29:05):
they shower, I guess not a All right, how about
and I see this? To me, I think it's gonna be.
And I got like a list of about twenty of these,
so I gotta pick wisely. This one I think could
be a deal breaker for you. Uh more than three cats?
I'm I'm not a cat guy. Figured I don't like
cats all that much. I've met nice cats, but I've
(29:27):
also had lots of bad experiences with cats. Three cats
is probably a deal breaker. Oh gosh, No, I can't
you know what. I'm not gonna say it's a deal breaker.
I'm gonna give the cats an opportunity. Okay, all right,
let's see. How about bad manners? Bad man m Yeah,
(29:48):
that's kind of that's kind of more of it. How
many deal breakers do I get? I just get one?
You only get one? Shoot? Uh? Shoot? Then bad manner?
I can I can? I can? Can? I teach her
better manners. Maybe I'm confident. Are you all right? How
about how about herpes? Right? We just we just ratched
(30:13):
it up about uh uh, all right, I'll give you
one more and you can then then you can pick
here's here's your last one. That's my last one. That's open,
open relationship. God, what do these are? All like levels
of deal breakers from deodorant to cats to bad manners
(30:36):
around your family? They got bad manners, you know what
I mean? Honestly, like I would give everyone a chance,
but overall, like they're all long term deal figures for show. Okay,
so it's it's yeah, I mean, huh those aren't Those
aren't easy deal breakers? Only get one of those? Aren't easy?
All right? You don't want to pick one? Hunt you're
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saying all of them? Yeah, they're they're all overall deal
breakers at the long term. Yeah, we'll take it. Uh,
great stuff, Barnett. We we appreciate it. It's been a
lot of fun. It's been a bummer that kind of uh,
you know, we haven't had a chance to do this
sooner with with all the stuff that's happening right now,
but we certainly appreciate you taking out a little bit
(31:17):
of your time here to to knock this out. Thanks
for having all right, So that wraps our three episode
series with Barnett. Be sure to keep an eye, subscribe,
leave a comment, and and watch for new episodes as
we are going to continue to track down all the
participants from the Love Is Blind series and get you
all that good behind the scenes conversation that you so
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long to hear. Yes, the series maybe concluded from season one,
but still, as you heard Barnett tell us over those
three episodes, so much that we did not know or
was not shared with the viewing audience. So again, subscribe, rate,
leave us a comment, any recommendation, suggestion questions you might have.
We certainly encourage that there in the comments section, And
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