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November 10, 2022 45 mins
In this episode, Tracey and Jill Wagner talk about how Jill and her family decided on fostering a child before meeting him, why it wasn’t as difficult for her to go through the fostering process as some others may have experienced, how their story lead to legal guardianship, and why her newly addition to the family actually helped save her marriage, along with much more!  “I don't think a lot of people realize that really after age nine, your chances of being adopted go extremely down.”  Show Notes:  [0:00] Welcome back to Rock Your Kindness Podcast, hosted by Tracey Ferrin [0:49] Introduction to the episode with guest Jill and her adoption story   [5:52] Question: How old was Hakeem when you took him into your home? [6:02] “I don't think a lot of people realize is that really after age nine, your chances of being adopted go extremely down.”  [6:19] Question: How was it that you were able to go through the adoption process so much easier than other guests we’ve had on previous episodes? [7:12] Question: What was the process like for you to foster? [7:42] Question: How long did you foster him before your next step? [9:31] Guardianship  [9:38] A little bit about Hakeem  [13:38] Question: Does he still see anyone from his family? [15:58] Question: What for you has been the most challenging but also the most rewarding? [19:00] Question: What impact has bringing Hakeem into your home done to the other three children? [19:59] Question: For your three biological children, did it make them a little bit more appreciative of their life, seeing the flip side and what other kids have to deal with? [20:31] Question: How did bringing Hakeem into your family affect your marriage?  [23:13] Question: How are you still married to the same man after all these years? [26:01] “I would say it's been a battle and it's been a choice, and it's been something that we have continually gone together. And I think that God has just really blessed that in our marriage.” [27:08] Heart Work Over Hard Work…coming soon! [29:36] Question: What's next for you and your family? [31:12] Question: What does your story represent to you that you want other people to know? [37:35] I’m peeing… can I get some privacy? [38:17] Question: How has your TikTok platform changed your life or what has it done for you and your family? [39:50] Listeners can check out Jill’s content on tiktok @jillwagner81, on IG @authenticallyjill, and on FB @jillschrestwagner  [41:32] Thanks for listening to this episode of Rock Your Kindness. If you know someone this story might resonate with, send them a link to this episode. Also tag me Tracey Ferrin on Instagram at @Traceyferrin and let me know what part of this story resonated with you the most. The best way to help support this show is to rate, review and subscribe. :) Until next time.. Rock Your Kindness --- Social Links: Website: https://www.lovewhatmatters.com/  Instagram: @lovewhatmatters  Facebook: @lovewhatmatters YouTube: @lovewhatmatters  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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