Lie A Little Bit w/ Paris Sashay

HAPPY PRIDE !!! Kickng off Pride Month we have a blast of an episode with friend of the show Paris Sashay! The three get into their mess of the week and Paris MESS: being gay LOL. 

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:01):
Oh you are listening to Mess. Hello, Hello, Hello, Hello,
We're back Mess. Yes, Oh my.

Speaker 2 (00:10):
God, I mean you're doing your hair.

Speaker 3 (00:13):
So I was like, yeah, you know, I feel like
there's two types of Sydney. There's the sometimes people think
I'm aloof or like I don't care or indifferent, and
then there's the I'm putting on, you know, And so
I wanted to start with the put on Sidney.

Speaker 2 (00:31):
I want to put on more because I could be
very like, hey, what up niggas? You know, like I
want to do more.

Speaker 1 (00:37):
I don't think I've ever heard you say that.

Speaker 2 (00:38):
Friends, You've never heard me say that.

Speaker 1 (00:40):
Hey, what up niggas?

Speaker 3 (00:41):
Maybe I didn't say that the niggas part, but that
that's my feeling, that's my energy.

Speaker 4 (00:45):
Aside, Well, when you feel like that, next time, say
it so I can see which Sydney I'm what.

Speaker 2 (00:50):
You're dealing with. Yeah, okay, great, Well what niggas?

Speaker 4 (00:55):
Yes?

Speaker 3 (00:55):
Yes, yes, yes, We're back with another facts fabulous episode
of Mess. I'm so excited for a guess. I'm so
excited for a mess. What's our mess for the week?

Speaker 1 (01:05):
Marie? What you got? Bro?

Speaker 5 (01:06):
You see, I'm trying to fix my hand.

Speaker 3 (01:08):
I know I'm putting you on the spot. Let's go girl,
you're better pressure.

Speaker 4 (01:12):
So I guess let's talk about my mess like this.
So you know, it's a lot of girls listening to
this episode. Yeah, And we all have our time of
the month, you know, we get our stupid ass cycles
and sometimes it's a blessing because they're like, whoo, I
didn't want to be stuck with him anyway, mess.

Speaker 1 (01:32):
Or you know whatever.

Speaker 5 (01:34):
My period is always like late, it comes what it wants.

Speaker 4 (01:36):
It's like me so anyway from the unofficial expert days
had gotten like like cups and yeah, so I had
a dip a cup in and I had to adjust it.
But I'm out in like a public place. I'm not
I'm at the comedy seller with those nails, with.

Speaker 6 (01:51):
These with these nails, yeah right, honestly pumps in. Yeah,
had the little nails on, and I'm in the bathroom
trying to adjust it.

Speaker 4 (02:06):
It falls out lands in the toilet. It's a public restroom.
I'm like, am I about.

Speaker 1 (02:13):
To put my hand in? You were not, Marie my hand.

Speaker 4 (02:16):
I don't even want to put my hand in my
own toilet at the house that I know I cleaned,
but I'm in the basement of the celler like, so
I'm like, you know, I get up like.

Speaker 5 (02:29):
To like turn around and to see automatic toilet.

Speaker 3 (02:32):
It gets flushed, so so wait you turn around, COUCHI
out and deep in the toilet.

Speaker 5 (02:37):
COUCHI out, cup in the toilet. Now I got up.

Speaker 1 (02:42):
The toilet said.

Speaker 3 (02:44):
I was like, oh, well, I guess the universe made
that choice for me. I'm so glad because if you would, there's.

Speaker 1 (02:49):
No way you would.

Speaker 4 (02:51):
I don't think I would actually turn my hand, but
I wanted to look at.

Speaker 5 (02:55):
It there say goodbye, bro.

Speaker 2 (02:58):
You don't drink off people.

Speaker 3 (03:00):
But then you were gonna put your hands in a
in a community community pee and doodu.

Speaker 4 (03:05):
And I was thinking about and that's the main thing
I'm thinking about, the doodo community.

Speaker 1 (03:11):
That's nasty.

Speaker 5 (03:13):
Well, I mean the universe said, no, that's mess.

Speaker 2 (03:15):
Get away, blessing.

Speaker 1 (03:17):
Luckily, I had tampons in my purse, so look at that.

Speaker 4 (03:20):
You know, if you stay ready, you ain't got to
go ready spotting your pa.

Speaker 1 (03:26):
I would have been.

Speaker 4 (03:26):
Writing an uber too, like uh like sitting hunched.

Speaker 1 (03:32):
No, that's not true.

Speaker 4 (03:33):
I would have wadded up a bunch of tissue. It
would have been like football size and I would have
just put it in my panties, you know, like a
like a teeten girl. But girl, and then I went out.
Then I went to see you at that party, and
then you had and then you had toilet paper all
of them. Girl, I had, Okay, you had backup, I tramon.

Speaker 3 (03:52):
You're not like me because I even though I know
I'm I have a period every month, for some reason,
I just never have what I I'll be telling you like, oh,
it's about to come, and then I'll be like, yo,
you got a tampon later.

Speaker 1 (04:01):
And I'd be like, girl, yeah, and yo.

Speaker 3 (04:04):
I hate when you ask somebody for a tampon and
they give you the bottom of the bag tampon that's
like got lit and you don't even know if it's
tampax or always or what faded.

Speaker 2 (04:15):
It's so fake.

Speaker 3 (04:15):
It's damn near open, might be a little bit, it's contaminated.
It got a little bit of juicy fruit next to it.
I'm like, I don't want it that it got off
and marks on it.

Speaker 1 (04:24):
I say, yeah, no, no, no, no, that's for you emergency.
That's what my emergency.

Speaker 4 (04:28):
What about when you ask somebody for a tampon and
they give you the one that's in like the cardboard applicated.
I don't want to I don't want that nineteen ninety nine. Yeah,
I don't do well with the cardboard. I'll do it,
but not not if it's been at.

Speaker 2 (04:40):
The bottom of your mark by Mark Jacob's bag.

Speaker 5 (04:43):
No thank oh girl. Yeah, anyway, that's my mess.

Speaker 4 (04:46):
I truly was hovering over this toilet seat, like am
I really.

Speaker 1 (04:52):
In this water? A Foston would never.

Speaker 4 (04:56):
Foston would never because truly my nails wouldn't have been
able to break into the water.

Speaker 3 (05:00):
Like if you would have did that, I'd be like,
there's no way you can't drink off me now, sis,
I don't even like what you're giving right now.

Speaker 1 (05:10):
Mess. It is mess. It is mess. Anyway.

Speaker 4 (05:14):
They should really put like a like a string around
them that you put around your wrist, you know, like.

Speaker 5 (05:18):
When kids have mittens so they don't lose their mittens.

Speaker 4 (05:21):
They should be a string for the cup that goes
around your wrist, so when you go to take it out,
it's around your wrist.

Speaker 1 (05:27):
It's not gonna go in the toilet.

Speaker 3 (05:28):
It's just not doable for when you're outside. I think
a Diva cup is for when you're at a house.
I was home anyway.

Speaker 1 (05:39):
Rest in peace to that Diva cup.

Speaker 3 (05:41):
Yeah, I guess we just gotta get every day. We
got to get sponsored by some more Diva cups because
now you don't have one.

Speaker 4 (05:47):
Well I do have one, but it's a little one.
Like this was a big cup. This was a tea cup.
The one that I have now.

Speaker 1 (05:52):
Is like, what's going on?

Speaker 3 (05:54):
You're talking about what kind of what you're working with
down there? It's not about what I'm working You got
size eight. First of all, you was a six. Now
you a medium, and you don't medium.

Speaker 1 (06:08):
Squeeze it you put it in.

Speaker 3 (06:11):
Oh, I don't do it. I don't even get down
with it. I don't even because I know it's not
gonna feel right. And then I'm not gonna walk right.
And you could just my face is gonna give something
that's in me and I don't like it.

Speaker 2 (06:20):
If it don't feel right, it's not in right.

Speaker 1 (06:23):
M Well, Siddy, what is your mess? My mess? Wait?

Speaker 2 (06:29):
Did I tell you guys about someone used my card?

Speaker 4 (06:32):
Oh?

Speaker 1 (06:32):
Let's talk about your card?

Speaker 3 (06:33):
Oh bitch, this is crazy. I couldn't even believe this
type of situation happened to me. But someone tried to
use my card to sign up for an AARP membership. Bitch,
are you crazy? Are you insane? And thank God, thank
God for Bank of America.

Speaker 1 (06:51):
This ah.

Speaker 4 (06:52):
We know our sins had had a big birthday, but
it wasn't that big.

Speaker 1 (06:56):
And they alerted me immediately.

Speaker 3 (06:59):
They were like, somebody just try to use for ARP
membership and I said, you know what, they can always
give my good money. Because they said no, no, no, no no,
And at first I thought it was a mistake. But AARP, AARP,
I want to know what, oh fluozy was trying to.

Speaker 2 (07:16):
Scam with my information.

Speaker 3 (07:19):
Now I have to call them, and you know, I
hate calling the operator because you know they're not even
in the States.

Speaker 2 (07:24):
They somewhere else.

Speaker 3 (07:25):
And it'll be on a hold for mad long. But
this person was definitely in the States because of the name.
His name was Alfredo. I said, Alfredo. He said, yes,
Alfredo could be from elsewhere. No's it sounded like a
New Yorker. But his name was Alfredo. Okay, it was
given like Italian, but in Long Island or whatever. He said,

(07:46):
So what can I do for you, Miss Washington? Thank you, miss,
Thank you for calling me miss.

Speaker 2 (07:52):
And not ma'am. I said, somebody try to use my
card for AARP.

Speaker 1 (07:57):
I would never.

Speaker 3 (07:58):
I would never even if I needed AARP. I'm not
signing up for.

Speaker 1 (08:01):
That, bitch. No.

Speaker 2 (08:02):
And he said, well, when's the last time you had
your card?

Speaker 3 (08:05):
I said, the physical, Yes, the physical, the physical, the
physical car the actual card in hand and like on
me in my possession. Yeah, oh, about three years ago, sir,
about three years girl.

Speaker 2 (08:22):
It could be anywhere, it could be.

Speaker 3 (08:23):
Where in the world is Sydney's David carrds, Yes exactly.
He said, okay, well, let me run back some of
your charges, your recent charges. One was like for like
two hundred and some dollars on Amazon. I said, yeah,
that's me. Then another, then another large purchase from Amazon.

(08:45):
I said yeah, yeah, no, that that's me as well.
And then he said ARP. I said, no, that's not me.
He said, but the two hundred and something, that's the
two back to back Amazon's that's you. I said, yes, sir,
that was me. He said at three point thirty am.

Speaker 1 (09:00):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (09:01):
They can see when they they could see when it
was used. Yeah, But I was like no, I said,
why don't y'all alert me about that ship. I wish
I would get more alert when I'm making bad purchases. Yea,
the purchases like you need to wait for the day.
You know what I'm saying, Why are you doing this
late at now?

Speaker 2 (09:16):
I'm a little bit shocked here. Why did you say that?

Speaker 1 (09:20):
Was you?

Speaker 4 (09:20):
I would have been like, what, I don't even have
Amazon in my house? That because amazing, amazing. No, I
don't how you spell that.

Speaker 1 (09:34):
No, No, that's that can't be me.

Speaker 2 (09:37):
I forget that. I'm also sitting next to a scammer.

Speaker 1 (09:39):
I forgot.

Speaker 2 (09:42):
Allegedly some of my best friends are scammers.

Speaker 1 (09:45):
You don't scammer shades?

Speaker 3 (09:47):
What are you talking about? The scammer shoes are not
the scammer shape. These are like hy two K like
you know, step up to these people, people.

Speaker 1 (09:55):
Who do scams on a sidekick? Where these what?

Speaker 2 (09:58):
No, these these par in Paris Hilton stunts.

Speaker 1 (10:01):
And she is a skimmer, a rich skimmer.

Speaker 3 (10:04):
So that was my So now I had to, you know,
get a new card. Card is still not here. I
still don't have a physical card, so I have to
use a digital card.

Speaker 2 (10:13):
And every time I have to I use it.

Speaker 3 (10:15):
I have to plug in the new like, uh, what
are the security code?

Speaker 2 (10:20):
Because they change it every time you It's just a mess.

Speaker 3 (10:23):
This is why people just like either go broke or homeless,
because they're like, oh, I got to call another person,
or I got to turn another thing in or I
gotta you know what, fuck it. I'm not just just
cancel the whole card and I'm just gonna lay here
and I'm not gonna pay nothing no more. I'm not
gonna pay rent. I'm not gonna pay phone bill, phone
bill because I don't have that information.

Speaker 5 (10:41):
What's the digital card? It's not you talk about apple bag.

Speaker 4 (10:43):
Yes, you gotta enter the thing anytime you try to
pay with the oh go, you could change that setting
on your phone.

Speaker 1 (10:49):
Oh yeah, oh yeah, okay, well thank you.

Speaker 2 (10:55):
Well that was our mess.

Speaker 3 (10:56):
Let's bring in our fact tabulous guests for this evening.
I mean, we've been trying so hard to get her
in in the stud she's just so busy.

Speaker 1 (11:07):
Booked a far away. But I'm here now, friends.

Speaker 3 (11:10):
Parents is here, Paris Elizabeth Sae, Paris Davante Swang Sashet.

Speaker 1 (11:17):
I like that one even more that first of all,
Paris Pride.

Speaker 2 (11:23):
Happy Pride, sid oh, I didn't even mention anything about pride.

Speaker 1 (11:26):
Hello, you're not as gay as you think you are,
she said, She said, do you need some water? No ding?
Black History Months. Soon as you see a black person,
what you say? Happy Black History Months said, you ain't
say nothing. He's like earlier, what up? Niggas like that?

Speaker 2 (11:46):
What? What in the hoots hoots magie is happening right now?

Speaker 1 (11:50):
I don't know who's but happy pride? Bitch?

Speaker 2 (11:56):
What do you think about both of our messes so far?

Speaker 1 (12:00):
I think Marie was right. You were supposed to say.
None of that was you. I don't believe you was
agreeing twice right. I feel like he asked you the
second time to even help you. So that was you,
and you was like, yeah, you're supposed to be like
no love of the old bitches. Yeah yeah, deny, deny, deny.

Speaker 3 (12:17):
But the crazy thing is it's gonna like it's going
to be my address.

Speaker 1 (12:22):
We're not worrying about right now. But all of it
falls under the scams. Okay, yeah, they stole the card
from the building that you live. You haven't had the
card in three years.

Speaker 3 (12:30):
They don't know, You're right, I'm an honest person. That's
the problem is I don't lie.

Speaker 1 (12:35):
Honesty is mess It is mess. Lie a little bit.
I mean I learned.

Speaker 3 (12:41):
I'm gonna learn from the best over here. Lie a
little bit. That's the Oh. Someone said that they don't
like when I say that should be the title. So
I'm not even gonna say that today.

Speaker 1 (12:52):
Okay, Yeah, we'll write it down.

Speaker 2 (12:54):
Write it down.

Speaker 5 (12:55):
That's the title. Since not saying the title no more, they're.

Speaker 1 (12:58):
Not saying the title anymore? About it? What you're here
to talk about? Are you having a good week a
messy week? Like, let's talk. Well, it's pride, that's pride.
But you know what the thing is, Like, Pride is cool,
but I feel like Pride is just too gay. Mmm.
It's just a bunch of gay at the same time

(13:19):
in the same place. It's like a lot. Now, what's
how what's too much gay?

Speaker 2 (13:23):
I'm shaking my head.

Speaker 1 (13:24):
In the Pride like the straight clubs. I'm not saying
they better, but it's like less touching women think that
even though you're just like a woman, nigga, just still
touch you beyond being gay. It's like no rules in
the Pride club touching and humping and freaking and kissing.
It's just like, oh, I feel like something's getting created
in here that I don't want to be a part of.

Speaker 2 (13:44):
What clubs are these?

Speaker 1 (13:46):
The gay clubs? Can you name the ones that they
are talking? The name is at all different stuffs every
time I go everywhere. Every time I go to a club,
they're very respectful to me. What gay clubs are you
going to? Are you wearing a blazer?

Speaker 3 (13:58):
I've gone to Bush, I'm going to Henrietta's.

Speaker 1 (14:03):
Nobody's bothering. No, No, not even at.

Speaker 2 (14:06):
Bush, Not even at Bush.

Speaker 3 (14:07):
I mean one time a girl tried to buy me
a drink. But that one time. You see how I
can say on my hands. She asked me I don't drink,
and she said, oh, too bad, and that's it. She
didn't even say, hey, do you want water or clepsoda
or I want a ginger beer?

Speaker 1 (14:20):
You can say, hey, do you hey, you want to drink?
I don't drink?

Speaker 2 (14:24):
Okay, bye, hey do you want to drink?

Speaker 1 (14:26):
I'll take a ginger beer? Like this, I think you
know what I think it is, Sidney. I think you
got the good gay. Oh you got like the girl
girl gay. I got the haircut. So they think like
I just want to just be horny all the time.
It's called fem.

Speaker 3 (14:41):
I don't want to call it girl good.

Speaker 1 (14:44):
It's not girl, it's it's girl good. Yeah, it's girl good.
It's levels to film. So I feel like it's girl
gay film.

Speaker 2 (14:51):
What's the levels? Can you please explain to us the.

Speaker 1 (14:54):
Levels of film?

Speaker 3 (14:55):
Yeah?

Speaker 1 (14:55):
I don't know all of them, but I feel like
it's like stub fems now, so they like they masking,
but they still make up and get their hair them.
That's you, that's not me. I'm a tomboy. Oh where
I don't want tomboy. It's a tea. They just took
our letter, so there's no tea in the alphabets for tomboys.
The more they took it and gave it to trance,

(15:16):
so now we don't have a letter, I wouldn't say
they took it. I don't think he hasn't sitting when
you was ever tomboy in there, when we was young,
it was way more tomboy talk. You don't think so,
first of all, a girl that didn't like wearing dresses
and like was really like active. Well, how old are

(15:37):
both of you, ladies? You don't remember tomboy. You don't
remember tom Thank you. Everybody knows except Sydney because you're
not really gay. I told you got to do your research.
I'm playing plying, Sydney. I'll be proud.

Speaker 2 (15:53):
I'm too stunned to speak.

Speaker 1 (15:56):
The game. Was too stunned to speak, she was. I'm joking.
But I think tom Boy used to be like talking
about more.

Speaker 3 (16:01):
I do believe that it must talk about more, but
it was not changed for trans I just want you.

Speaker 1 (16:08):
What's the new tomboy? What's the what's the what's the
term for tomboy?

Speaker 2 (16:12):
Isn't a sexuality? That's the way like you're that's a style.

Speaker 1 (16:16):
Okay, So what's the new word for if you're a tomboy?
What label do you fall under? A guys girl?

Speaker 2 (16:23):
A guys girl, Yeah, that's a girl that drinks beer.

Speaker 1 (16:27):
I've never drunk beer in my life. Yeah, me neither.
I'm sorry. So okay, So I think we learned in
a lot of them.

Speaker 3 (16:32):
Okay, So you're so you're you're a tomboy, but you're
also a lesbian.

Speaker 2 (16:36):
Is that correct?

Speaker 1 (16:37):
Yes?

Speaker 3 (16:38):
Okay, So what makes you different than the rest of
the gays that are in the club.

Speaker 1 (16:45):
I don't know, because I feel like if you're not
having this experience, then this is just my experience. I
don't know, but this is what happens when I go
to gay club. So I don't like to be again.

Speaker 2 (16:52):
What what fragrances are you wearing?

Speaker 4 (16:54):
Because maybe the pheromones is attracting the people to touching
your duty body.

Speaker 1 (17:00):
Wearing a lot of.

Speaker 3 (17:00):
Leather, You got these glasses, your titties, I mean it
might be the titties Ferris. Yes, and let's let's let's
look at Exhibit A. This is not what she's wearing
at the club.

Speaker 1 (17:12):
So what am I wearing at the club? Oh?

Speaker 2 (17:14):
I will make sure to put in the dump all of.

Speaker 1 (17:16):
The v's you down to your belly. But but I'm
not wearing those in the club all the time because
that is a tension. So what happens when I wear
T shirts? What T shirts you'd be wearing?

Speaker 4 (17:26):
Said? Be saying Paris on the back, be saying I'm
picky with my game sometimes sometimes.

Speaker 2 (17:33):
Can you give me an example of how they're touching you? Here?

Speaker 3 (17:35):
Here is this is this is you how they touching
Show me what they're doing.

Speaker 1 (17:39):
A girl just walked up to me, in the club,
dove and touched my head. She rubbed her hand across
my head. That's the waves was spinning. She was ready
to draw. I mean, people, this doesn't mean that you
should be touching people. If it was the straight club,
you are not letting men touch you. So I think
it should be the same rooms women.

Speaker 2 (17:57):
If I even straight club, this is the men.

Speaker 1 (18:00):
Well maybe it's you, Sidney. I think you look straightened.
You look the titties against not it's the waste.

Speaker 3 (18:08):
They're literally putting their their penis in the crack of
everybody's crevices when they're in a packed packed They they
don't do that to you.

Speaker 1 (18:18):
No, it's the haircut. So we both have a problem
in the game.

Speaker 2 (18:25):
We're just two girls in two different clubs.

Speaker 3 (18:27):
That's it, going through the same thing, the same two girls,
one bush.

Speaker 5 (18:51):
So what is your mess? What are we here to talk.

Speaker 1 (18:54):
About to break down the pride? I think they also
let too many people be gay. What do you think
about that's in it? You think there should be a
limit on. I think it should be a limit, and
I feel like like it should be like an interview process. Okay,
let's talk.

Speaker 5 (19:08):
I would like to be gay who do I talk to?

Speaker 1 (19:10):
Stop not even listening to this? I want to know?
And that's how I think people are acting. I think
they just waking up like I would like to be gay,
and they just letting them be gay. You don't even
have to do the gay activity to be gay anymore,
you know what?

Speaker 3 (19:24):
What about minding your fucking business? I don't want to
know about what everybody's doing.

Speaker 1 (19:28):
I don't care.

Speaker 2 (19:28):
I honestly don't care.

Speaker 3 (19:29):
I think that's the problem is that everybody is now
in everybody's business, and so now we think that we
more people will be like, oh, I'm gay.

Speaker 2 (19:38):
It's just we're in more people's business.

Speaker 3 (19:40):
People are online all day talking about what they are,
who they are, what they're doing.

Speaker 1 (19:44):
What don't is they have to do with them being
gay but not being gay?

Speaker 3 (19:49):
I think people are just talking about what they are
more and putting us in their business. And it's like,
I actually don't want, I don't care, I don't need
to know.

Speaker 4 (19:57):
Okay, But what if it's people who are saying they're
gay and they're new to it, and they're all on
the apps, clogging up the lines, the gay prayer line,
they're at the club with y'all. Just like, I'm gay now,
so I'm here taking up space. You don't think that
that could be a problem for people actually gay.

Speaker 1 (20:16):
I feel like I put in the work to be gay, Sidney,
do you feel like you put in the work back
in the day it was harder to be gay. Now
it's just easy to be gay.

Speaker 2 (20:22):
I don't know.

Speaker 1 (20:23):
I came out and it was pretty smooth.

Speaker 2 (20:24):
I'm not even gonna lie.

Speaker 3 (20:25):
It was like low key, like c section vibes, like
I'm out.

Speaker 1 (20:30):
What year.

Speaker 4 (20:33):
Was the year?

Speaker 3 (20:37):
It was a good time, Like nobody cares no. I
told my friends that I was gay, and they was like,
do you need money? That's like that's all they were like,
we don't care that you're gay. You just can't be
broken gay, like you just you gotta get your money
up if you're gonna be.

Speaker 1 (20:51):
Yeah, that's not what the B stands for. Yeah.

Speaker 3 (20:53):
So Also, I feel like I got into a relationship
and it was just like all right, hey, like I
moved in with her immediately.

Speaker 1 (21:02):
You relationship gay.

Speaker 3 (21:04):
I moved in and then we got cats. It was like, boy,
I like if we had like a card, a punch card,
I'm hitting everything off.

Speaker 1 (21:12):
You know, So when did you first tell somebody you
was gay?

Speaker 4 (21:17):
Me?

Speaker 1 (21:17):
Yeah, wherever? How old you were? I believe I was
like twenty eight, twenty eight? Yeah, okay, what.

Speaker 2 (21:28):
Are you doing? What are you fucking doing? Are you
trying to do?

Speaker 1 (21:35):
Mathew your head? You know, it looked like that means
where you're like trying to put I was like, that's
adult gay. No, that's like grown gay. So what does
that mean? It doesn't mean anything.

Speaker 3 (21:43):
I was just like, okay, okay, the first person I like,
I kissed a girl when I was young, sure, and
I was like nine, but I didn't think gay at
that time, so I didn't realize.

Speaker 2 (21:53):
I didn't circle back until later on in life.

Speaker 1 (21:55):
Okay, years later.

Speaker 2 (21:57):
Yeah, but did you come out the wound with this haircut?

Speaker 1 (21:59):
Like what? I feel like I should have because I
think I was pretty gay in elementary school, so you
knew right away? Yeah, I think like elementary school. Yeah, Like,
how do you know? I feel like because you have
an attraction to women more than the attraction to men.
So I just like to be around the girls and
I was touchy and I was like, yes, yes, the

(22:28):
young lady you were. Now it was touching tops the
tea can be expanded. You're right, you know what. I'm sorry.
I take it back. I take my letter.

Speaker 2 (22:37):
We're just sharing it. Oh my god.

Speaker 1 (22:40):
Okay, that could be gone, that could be a thing.
But you used to date guys, you yeah, But so
like I feel like, like for how middle school it
was like girls, and then I got to like the
eighth grade, ninth grade, and I had boyfriends. But I
think they knew I was gay too. We were just
having fun because they knew. I accidentally cheated a couple
of times with women, a couple of times with women.

(23:05):
It's just always been an attraction to women. So I
think I just knew, like emotional, even when I dated men,
I didn't have any emotional connection with men. Well, they
don't really have any emotions exactly, so that's how I
know I didn't really like them. I'm attracted to women.

Speaker 3 (23:19):
Emotionally, emotion I agree with that, and I think that
that's the the issue with the labeling was like gay,
straight queer all that it's like I am a lesbian
at heart. Yes, I double backed and hooked up with dudes,
but I am not bisexual because I don't that was
a moment.

Speaker 2 (23:39):
I'm not.

Speaker 1 (23:41):
So when you did that, how did you feel? Because
I've been trying to do it. I've been trying to
do myself. I haven't done it. She did it. That's
what I'm saying. I feel like I'm too gay. Every
time I get close, I get pulled back. How did
you actually make the leap? I need the confidence? How
did you like? What did you tell yourself? Well?

Speaker 3 (23:58):
I was pretty much unhoused, so that that opened me
up to the same just susceptible to anything bad on
a house.

Speaker 2 (24:08):
That's what the beast stood for me.

Speaker 1 (24:10):
Bad man. Yeah, okay, so we can really just expand
the alphabets when everybody can finish.

Speaker 2 (24:15):
Yes, yes, I was in a bad place.

Speaker 3 (24:19):
That's what made me be just toy with the idea
of being with God, the idea just hooking it, not
really falling, not falling for them. But like Marie, how
was I when I was with these with these guys?

Speaker 2 (24:34):
It was embarrassing?

Speaker 1 (24:35):
It was well, she was embarrassed.

Speaker 4 (24:39):
She was embarrassing, and she was acting different than she
usually act.

Speaker 2 (24:43):
I showed her text message. She's like, Sidney, you don't write.

Speaker 4 (24:46):
That, you know, but I mean, but Sidney, I also
feel like you're such a relationship person that you don't
even really know how single people talk.

Speaker 2 (24:56):
Because even but you understand what I'm saying, like even.

Speaker 4 (24:59):
Like should have getting deeper flirting, flirting with a woman
that you like was like girl, why would you say?

Speaker 1 (25:07):
Why would you say? Okay, I could agree with her
on that park So I'm gonna text you show me.
I'm like, Sidney, what do you Why are you writing this?
But okay, you know what's mess?

Speaker 3 (25:16):
The whole like trying to court somebody, get somebody like
that is mess because if you if you want me
as me, why.

Speaker 2 (25:23):
Can't I text like this? This is how I text?

Speaker 5 (25:26):
Well how did them? How did those responses go for you?

Speaker 1 (25:29):
Not good?

Speaker 3 (25:29):
But whatever this is, then they're not for me. They're
not for me, I mean because you're not them now.
So I agree with you on that.

Speaker 4 (25:37):
But you're Sidney, you are a relationship oriented person.

Speaker 3 (25:41):
That's why I belong with women, because women are relationship orients.
And when I tell them my feelings, they don't run away,
except you know, one particular person that you know kind
of wasted my time, and you know, then let me
take them to an expensive dinner to let me know
a girlfriend, like, yeah.

Speaker 1 (26:00):
And that's what I'm men do. They're wasteful oftentimes. You
think women are wasteful sometimes And because you did that
and she was allowed to do that, then when she
date me, I will block her to get paid back
for you. Prus yes, you know what I'm saying. So
many of them I like that that's wrong. But they
know they can take advantage of certain people. And then
they run into me and it's like, I know what
you did, and you get them last summer tonight, smer,

(26:24):
You're want to think about all of the stuff that
you did wrong when you feel this pain. So I
probably got paid back for you.

Speaker 3 (26:30):
But Paris, you're actually the mess because you are saying
with me toxic.

Speaker 1 (26:36):
Oh yes, healthy, toxic though, that's what toxic.

Speaker 4 (26:40):
Fun all the kids is like, you know, divorce, single
dad y toxic absolutely, Like I love these kids, but
they gonna eat frozen dinners.

Speaker 1 (26:55):
Exactly because I gotta go on the boat with the Really,
that's how you that's how you would describe yourself. Well
with the women. Okay, I've gotten better, I will say that.
How how yeah, what I stopped dating so.

Speaker 2 (27:08):
Many women, so the roster went from twelve to ten.

Speaker 3 (27:13):
Hey, we need a team, and I do agree with
that because we do be putting our eggs all in
one basket. And if you got that basket from I
don't know, the ninety nine cents store, it's gonna be
you might as well get a better basket, get.

Speaker 1 (27:27):
Better eggs, better, better ingredients. Yeah, pass basket.

Speaker 6 (27:35):
Yo.

Speaker 4 (27:35):
So parents, you're dating less women, sow who how do
you decide who doesn't make the cut?

Speaker 7 (27:42):
Uh?

Speaker 1 (27:42):
You know what? I think I might like settle down.
Like at the end of this year selling ship bullshit.

Speaker 4 (27:50):
You've been saying two things consistently. Believe one, I'm going
back to.

Speaker 1 (27:56):
Dick yep, And I tried. As soon as men talk,
I'm turned off. It's not my fault. They got to
stop talking. Then you say, oh, I might settle down. Hey,
I'm serious this time, and I've been talking about it.
That's how I'm serious. Gay is a mess.

Speaker 2 (28:10):
They letting too many people.

Speaker 1 (28:11):
Yeah, that's what I'm the set it down. So then
I have to be on the side.

Speaker 2 (28:15):
Are you You are mess?

Speaker 1 (28:18):
I'm bipoula and bisexual, so it's deeper than that.

Speaker 5 (28:20):
You not bisexual?

Speaker 1 (28:22):
No, here I do. I don't hate them. I hate
when they talk I like sex with men, but I
have you liked sex with men? Just start? But I
don't do it. I don't like that.

Speaker 2 (28:33):
Now, how do we get like them?

Speaker 1 (28:35):
How do we get you to have sex with a man?
Having sex with Yeah, but I don't like them. How
means Sidney got crazy about this? Sydney actually went and
had sex with this with men and I didn't even
do what. I just said I like it. And this
is the face of a woman who did it. But
at one point she also liked having sex with men.
That's and she's really acting out like this. Look at

(28:56):
this a woman who got it and is embarrassed. And
I'm the problem. So they come to the some of
this gallon of water that you got on the table. No,
we was waiting for you to come back. Guess what.
We're trying to figure out how you upset when you
actually did the activity and I just thought about it
good But I didn't even I just thought about it.
How am I a problem? This is crazy?

Speaker 2 (29:18):
Say that you like having sex with if you.

Speaker 1 (29:20):
Don't need to do it. The only reason that I
were it was ever attracted to them was because of sex.
But I don't like them.

Speaker 2 (29:26):
When's the last time you had sex with the man?

Speaker 1 (29:28):
Way before you I want to say, maybe like over,
I didn't know were counting. We're keeping score over eight years.
It was way before my relationships, so you don't even know.
Before na Ne sex came.

Speaker 4 (29:43):
Yeah, if Rihanna drops a new album, you have to
have sex with at.

Speaker 1 (29:47):
Least, well I got time because she's not dropping music.
I don't know, she murs, we don't. We're not doing
animated a real song. No. I oh wow, I'm going to.
I think I am going to settle down like November.
Let's talk about it. You need saying this during Pride

(30:10):
that I'll settle down. Yeah, I really like this woman.
Oh and I really like the woman. I never said
that on air. I really you.

Speaker 2 (30:21):
Don't say nothing about no particular woman.

Speaker 4 (30:23):
You said, I'm I'm I'm whittling down the roster.

Speaker 1 (30:27):
I really like this woman.

Speaker 3 (30:29):
This is good because you know what, we're putting this
out right away, so by the time you change your mind,
it will already be out.

Speaker 1 (30:35):
She already knows this.

Speaker 2 (30:36):
She knows that you really like her, she knows you're
doing the pod, she knows what I'm doing everything. Okay,
you know everything.

Speaker 1 (30:42):
I like her.

Speaker 2 (30:43):
She a manager?

Speaker 1 (30:44):
What's going on? Hilarious? No, she's not a manager. She's
a beautiful girl.

Speaker 3 (30:47):
I showed you I said she's not a manager.

Speaker 1 (30:52):
You know, I'm a visual learner. If it's if it's
a thing, I will settle down. By November, I will.

Speaker 2 (30:58):
Cool something to be thankful for. Paris off the streets.

Speaker 1 (31:02):
I think that's a good thing too. Honestly, I thought
about it.

Speaker 3 (31:05):
I honestly would love to see your content switch.

Speaker 2 (31:09):
You know this sh not switching?

Speaker 1 (31:10):
This shift online baby, the name things I am am.

Speaker 2 (31:18):
I'm ready for you to make a shift.

Speaker 1 (31:19):
Would you want me to post Sidney? I mean, if
your happiness. I really think she's a cutie. Yeah, she's cute.
It's very cute.

Speaker 3 (31:27):
She's traveling. Yeah, good body, she knows how to post well.

Speaker 7 (31:30):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (31:30):
The body is yeah. The bodies, Oh, she's gorgeous. What
y'all talk about?

Speaker 1 (31:33):
Though, no offense.

Speaker 3 (31:36):
I'm not saying that she is not a talker. I'm
just wondering where y'all have in comment good, good brows,
good edges. It's very good body, good body.

Speaker 2 (31:45):
Yeah, we're talking about a lot of things.

Speaker 1 (31:47):
Give us two things that y'all talk about will she
be celebrating Black history? Wanted to, Ah, we know what
you know, guys out, Because here's the thing. If I
say something crazy, No, I'm not answering that question. And
that's for us something that you know why. There's a

(32:15):
reason I'm not going to say it but right then
and there, because it's gonna sound crazy later.

Speaker 2 (32:19):
You've said so many other things.

Speaker 1 (32:20):
No, I can't say that because it's like a it's
a So I don't want to say that, but it's
like a it depends now. Hey, hey, hey, I think
I'm happy. I'm right, I'm right, this is this is
somebody else? Hey, No, I never I'm no longer answering question.

Speaker 2 (32:41):
This is nice.

Speaker 1 (32:42):
I actually like that one more. I do.

Speaker 2 (32:46):
Well, that's because you'll be with you black History months.
But that's no here, no there.

Speaker 1 (32:50):
It's great. Everybody will be there.

Speaker 5 (32:53):
Everybody's gonna be there, So how are you settling down?

Speaker 1 (32:57):
Made the best queen one? We got two more seasons?
Who is next out in six? What girl next out
in six? Person in the sixth? That made it?

Speaker 4 (33:11):
That's like crazy When you said I really like this girl?

Speaker 1 (33:18):
Who was you talking about them? Okay?

Speaker 2 (33:23):
Also they are they them?

Speaker 1 (33:24):
There you go?

Speaker 3 (33:25):
I like that plan very you to explain to us
when what are the like, how do you know you
like someone? And what do you do when you're liking someone?
Because the difference, I feel like people don't understand what
it is to like to love, to be interested, but
also not like someone like there's variations of it.

Speaker 1 (33:45):
Okay, so but not like that person. Yeah, I feel
like I'm done with that. I feel like when I
really like a woman, it's a lot of time spent
and a lot of planning, listening to what she likes
and things like that. If I don't like them, it's
just like what it is. It could be a one
nighter and that could be the end if I want

(34:05):
only then I feel like we're playing in trips like
we were going out of town. We spend the time,
iris we always bring this back. You took a trip
with somebody a little while back and post photos. I'll
be having a lot of a lot of it's the same.
It's the same photo, the one the one I wear.

Speaker 4 (34:24):
Yes, y'all wear power sailing or whatever, para shooting and
you posted in emoji on her face. That's right, so
you said you only take PRIs if you like them.

Speaker 1 (34:33):
She flew me out, then you got flute out, persolute
out a lot of times. Okay, So it's not the haircut,
That's what I'm saying. So if it's the titty, and
that's how you know that I like you, because then
I'm doing the flying. I will never.

Speaker 4 (34:48):
And I'm saying this on the record, I think that
I will never fly a man out anywhere.

Speaker 1 (34:55):
But you shouldn't fly a man. It's a man. You
should not absolutely got long knees, big feet. I want
to see you.

Speaker 3 (35:01):
I can't wait to just love hits you all over
your head. I just can't because I want to see
what you are going to do and what you're capable of,
because it's a lot of I ain't doing that.

Speaker 1 (35:11):
But why City, Why would I fly? I wouldn't want
you to do that.

Speaker 2 (35:14):
I would I would be worried for you.

Speaker 1 (35:17):
I would worry. I'm like, are you all right?

Speaker 3 (35:20):
Yeah?

Speaker 4 (35:20):
Blank twice, bitch, hilarious girl anyway, Yeah, no, City, I'm
with you on that.

Speaker 5 (35:27):
I too would like to see what me in love
looks like.

Speaker 4 (35:30):
But the other part of me is also terrified of
what that could be because I feel like it's gonna
turn me crazy, really, even if it's healthy.

Speaker 1 (35:37):
Find a healthy yes? Oh what a question? So Okay,
So first of all, I feel like you know what
you want in the person before you meet the person.
You know who you are and what you're willing to
settle for and the things you're not. So the healthiness
would be I think, receiving everything that you want and

(36:00):
possibly more him paying attention, listening and he's showing you
that he listening because he's doing things that you said
there wasn't recent. It's all green flags, no red flags,
nothing that's making you question anything. Healthy, good communication. So
if you have a problem, y'all discuss it and it's
clear and you walk away feeling like you don't have
any worries. There's no trust that you like, did he

(36:22):
lie or none of that time spent? And then I
think from there, I guess it would depend on what
y'all both into, but I feel like that would be
the core of it, like a strong friendship, so you
could know that you can trust him and letting him
lead to be the man that you hopefully trust him
to be. Okay, so you do know what health he means?

Speaker 2 (36:42):
Yeah, you know, but what are you doing?

Speaker 1 (36:47):
Are you doing one? I like a woman, so you're
unhealthy for everybody else. I don't think I'm unhealthy. I
just think I'm a good time that will end before
you know it.

Speaker 3 (36:58):
I think that you or a good gas lighter. I
feel like you're good at it. I could just a
gas light. I feel like you gas like well, I
don't like.

Speaker 1 (37:05):
Words like that's anything negative. I can't believe you with
I think when people throw those words out, I think
it's because they're trying to send them. So I send
them back because I think it's a lie.

Speaker 7 (37:14):
Hey, maybe you didn't order it, Maybe you didn't order
her to Hey listen, So when's the last time you've
been in like a healthy situation.

Speaker 1 (37:27):
I think this is a healthy situation. I think before this,
I was in a healthy situation. And I think the
woman just was a liar. And it's like, yeah, I
liked women before this, but they were like secret whorees
or you don't realize the label is.

Speaker 2 (37:41):
A strong word.

Speaker 1 (37:42):
Why why horror Becuz it's like if you do something horrish,
I can't unsee that. Can you explain, well, what this
woman did? A period? Just me? I know, that I
don't look like I have feelings or I don't feel them.
But here's the thing. I do. I feel so much
so that if you do something wrong, I can't unfeel it.
Even if I tell myself that it didn't happen, I

(38:04):
still felt it. So there's no way that I cannot
feel it. So now I don't respect you, and I
can't be with you if I don't respect you, because
it's not gonna work.

Speaker 2 (38:12):
I need an example, because you're saying.

Speaker 1 (38:16):
I like this woman a lot, and this woman like
she disappeared in the middle of a conversation that wasn't
really a setup for her to disappear like it was
clear that she was doing something she shouldn't have been doing,
and then when she reappeared, it was just a bunch
of like, I'm doing this, I'm doing this, I'm doing
this to push off what she did to make it
look like I was the bad guy. Now, how you hm?

(38:40):
Because I know her? So women don't realize. When you
date them long enough, you learn patterns. So when you, yeah,
when you slip up, it's like, oh, you're doing that thing.
You told me that previously you was doing things like this,
So now you just did this tattern and you just
slipped up, but you don't even know because you're thinking
that I'm so in love I'm blind, but it's like, baby,

(39:01):
I can see. I just got my glasses low. You
know when they say I ain't sleep my eyes is closed.
But I seen you. So it was like that. So
then I had to unfeel how I felt about you,
because it's like, I'm not going to let you play me.
That's crazy. So you so you thought that she was

(39:21):
doing what she was and then later it came out
she was doing exactly I felt it. I feel like,
if you feel something, it's beyond you thinking that. If
you feel something, say something.

Speaker 3 (39:30):
Yeah, but I also want to let y'all know who
are just like, I got an intuition. No, it's hennessy.
You're drinking hennessy. That is not the same. It's into it.
Because sometimes people just be getting lit and being like, oh,
that person is doing and it's like, no, you're just.

Speaker 1 (39:46):
But you're working yourself up, That's what I'm saying. You're
not feeling that, you're thinking that when they do that,
the liquor is making you think that, right, you didn't
feel it. I felt it. Okay, So that's why that
woman case closed. That woman got dropped. But now I
do like this woman. I do every time I see her.
I make sure she got fresh flowers. She like flowers,
you know a woman likes I like. I really go

(40:07):
pick out good flowers.

Speaker 2 (40:09):
Flowers and what else?

Speaker 1 (40:10):
What else do I do? What have I done? We've
gone to the movies, We've gone to dinner. She travels
a lot, so we actually haven't seen each other in
a while. But we're about to. Now where you are
going when I see her? Yeah, it's only for a
short period, so we're going to the movies and maybe dinner.
Then I got a flyer, okay, and then when I
come back, she's gonna come to show. She actually, you know,
I know I like this lady. She was in public

(40:31):
at a show and we was whole hands. I don't
hold that wild has fallen. That's right. Every pimp must
fall one day holding holding hands. Ain't know what's good
about this. When it's come out, it'll be two shows.

(40:54):
We on the something we are.

Speaker 4 (40:58):
I don't really like holding hands, you know, I link arms, Okay, I.

Speaker 1 (41:03):
Think see when you mean, I think you're gonna you're
gonna when he make you fall, whose hand? I want
to hold it? That's what it is that I think
that's what it is.

Speaker 4 (41:10):
I think seen he's gonna have the same reaction if
she sees me holding somebody holding no.

Speaker 1 (41:16):
I want this woman the wall. She's got it. But
she's a Libra. I feel like it's in her. She
just gotta really trust it. I don't think these guys
are making her feel safe with letting them lead that much.
Preach doctor umark.

Speaker 2 (41:29):
Come on, man, nice, I love it. You're really standing
on it. Whatever soapbox you want to know, it's lifted.

Speaker 1 (41:39):
I think black women are the best, and people just
don't know how to deal with them, so they just
go elsewhere, and then when they do meet them, they fail,
they fall short. And I don't even think Marie is
making it hard for these guys. I don't think I
am either. I don't think she is. I don't think
I'm making it hard for them. I think she's just
not making it easy and they used to easy.

Speaker 2 (41:58):
Thank you Paris for seeing Marie.

Speaker 1 (42:01):
You do one on one? Do you know her? Do
you women? Readings? Okay? Marie?

Speaker 3 (42:30):
So okay, hold on because this week I want to
talk about the.

Speaker 1 (42:34):
Gay Okay, I feel like you say it.

Speaker 3 (42:38):
A lot online about gay. Ill, what's the problem. Like
you're flourishing right now.

Speaker 1 (42:47):
I am, But I feel like it's just overcrowded. It
wasn't gay wasn't always this overcrowded. I feel like like women,
no judgment, but a little bit. Women with five kids
should not be able to be lesbians. I think they
should get their application blocked. There's too many to come
and be a lesbian. No why you could be bisexual,
but I don't think you should be able to be
a lesbian. Five kids.

Speaker 4 (43:10):
Now, how many women that are calling themselves lesbians have
five kids.

Speaker 1 (43:14):
It's a lot of women with kids. You'd be surprised.

Speaker 2 (43:17):
Too many apps you're on, you got to shut down.

Speaker 1 (43:20):
It's on TikTok. You can just go on TikTok right now.
And there's so many of them. It's your algo friend.

Speaker 3 (43:25):
Are the ones that's in your because I don't know
these people, I've never seen it because.

Speaker 1 (43:29):
You be in relationships. That's I'm telling you. I'm outside.
I got to experience this close the door. That's what
I'm saying to them. You need to.

Speaker 2 (43:39):
Be in the streets because you gotta stay in the house.

Speaker 1 (43:41):
I think once I get in a relationship, then I
won't care about it. I think I only care because
I'm out here. I didn't know this was going on
because I was in a relationship.

Speaker 3 (43:48):
Or do you think that you date a lot? When
have you had a break? No dating them? Talking to women?

Speaker 1 (43:53):
Nothing a lot? When Sidney, you will be a surprised
how much I don't date. And I don't know. We're
asking the top of the year, I went on a
self journey for two months. I didn't talk to a
woman at all. So January and February was the February
and March I didn't talk to any woman.

Speaker 2 (44:08):
Would you do with your time?

Speaker 1 (44:10):
I was reading books, I was going to church more,
I was praying I would walker, I was working out.
I really had to get my mind clear. And then I.

Speaker 2 (44:18):
Started again your top toxic self.

Speaker 1 (44:21):
No, so I can stay bar because I think I
was just doing too much and I just had to
sit down. I took it too far and I caught
myself being too toxic, and I said, you gotta take
a break. Yeah, I fake cried, and I said, this
is we've gone too far.

Speaker 2 (44:34):
Cried, you peel the glasses off and you put your
hands in the snow.

Speaker 1 (44:37):
It was the top of the morning. I look this
woman in her eye and the water came.

Speaker 2 (44:41):
Really you sure you didn't just come because sometimes you come?

Speaker 1 (44:44):
It was no, it was tears when I never came.
That's having me sex? What tap is? Where were you
at that? Yeah? Oh, Mauri, I think we broke it out, Marie,
we broke and wen't problem we have sex? You always
like that from the record? Strike that from the record.

(45:04):
I didn't need to know that, Mecca.

Speaker 5 (45:10):
Elmo Paris.

Speaker 1 (45:11):
Did you hear it? Almost? No? I don't know about sex.
Is that I want to know I never had that.

Speaker 2 (45:16):
I'm not saying y'all broken.

Speaker 3 (45:18):
I'm just saying, I like, you know, I would like
to see you soft.

Speaker 1 (45:24):
I'm really solved when I like a woman was in it.

Speaker 2 (45:26):
I don't like the way you said that, because like.

Speaker 1 (45:29):
Because you're looking at me over the glens to I
would like to.

Speaker 4 (45:31):
See you Literally was like, I would like to see
you soft, And I was like, that's a weird thing
to say.

Speaker 1 (45:41):
I want to see you soft looking stay hard, so
make it soft? No?

Speaker 3 (45:53):
I mean you how many relationships have you been in
was a girl?

Speaker 1 (45:58):
Yeah? Publicly yes, one, just one, just one. That's what
I'm trying to tell you. That's why you think you
haven't seen me solved. You haven't seen it with one woman.

Speaker 2 (46:07):
Well, I met the woman that you were you were publicly.

Speaker 1 (46:09):
I think I was pretty solved during those times.

Speaker 3 (46:11):
You were you were and then you were like never again.
I honestly think everybody needs to stop posting whoever they're with.

Speaker 2 (46:18):
That's that's done.

Speaker 1 (46:19):
No, No, I'm never I won't post the next girl.

Speaker 3 (46:22):
It doesn't matter what gender you are. You they're all embarrassing.
So it doesn't matter woman. Man, they you can get embarrassed.
So I think moving forward, I will. I haven't posted somebody,
and you know, I don't think I'm gonna do that
because it's it's nobody's business. People know I'm in a relationship,
but it's like, I don't need to be posting that

(46:42):
stuff because who is it for? The people who I'm
with know that I'm with this person. I agree, some
random person that listens to the podcast shouldn't be able
to spot my girl out at a fucking costa.

Speaker 1 (46:56):
That's weird.

Speaker 2 (46:57):
Yeah, yeah, sure, looked.

Speaker 1 (46:59):
For failure.

Speaker 2 (47:02):
Was making her cry thy.

Speaker 1 (47:10):
Hilarious.

Speaker 3 (47:12):
What can you what can you do better to help
the community, because you have to be the example that
you want to see.

Speaker 1 (47:19):
I think when I settle down, then I'll be an example. No, no, no, no,
I'm saying no, no, yeah right now. The work can
I do to help the community get better? Yes, I
think I do my part. I think I make gay
people feel like they can just be free and be
who they are with no judgment. I think I do
too many of these real gays, not not the friends.

(47:41):
When I talk to gay people about this, they agree.
They agree that it's too many gay people. It's this
new gay is just too different.

Speaker 4 (47:48):
It is there is a new breed, a new breed
of gays, like she doesn't I agree.

Speaker 1 (47:56):
I agree.

Speaker 2 (47:57):
I'm listening to my very straight friends.

Speaker 4 (47:58):
I feel like it's a I feel like it's a
lot of women, specifically, I can't speak for the men.

Speaker 1 (48:05):
I feel like it's a lot of women who.

Speaker 4 (48:06):
Have just like hit a wall because they've dated men
their whole lives, or they married men or whatever whatever,
and they just hit a place where they're like, actually,
I don't want to do this anymore, and they see
I don't know women loving on other women or women
taking their time to like ask you how you're doing
and bring you flat, like you know what I'm saying.

(48:26):
And I think Sydney and I feel like you even
know some of these people. We're not gonna name no names,
but like I feel like, now more than ever.

Speaker 1 (48:35):
It's the gayest.

Speaker 2 (48:37):
This is the gayest.

Speaker 1 (48:38):
Time it's ever been. God bless.

Speaker 2 (48:40):
I'm not saying there's anything wrong with that.

Speaker 4 (48:42):
I'm just saying that there is a new I mean,
all the kids is gay, all jealousy is gay. But
millennials and maybe some ex I don't know, I'll hang
out with them, you know, they go to bed when
I come outside. I feel like millennials now more than ever,
is like trying to explore their sexual and I understand
as a full time lesbian looking at people like this,

(49:04):
like but.

Speaker 1 (49:04):
You not really.

Speaker 2 (49:06):
I used to say that I used to be on
I used to be on the pairs tip like.

Speaker 3 (49:10):
Okay, you're not really like being But then it's like
I actually had to, you know, jude yourself off and
try again. And then I and I even was vocal
about this, you know voyage that I took down to
the to the bedrock of the bedrock, that's.

Speaker 2 (49:33):
What I call it. And you know, I got a
lot of backlash.

Speaker 3 (49:37):
They were pretty mean in the in the d m
s and just and in public, like you think it's funny,
it's not funny, and it's like, but.

Speaker 1 (49:47):
This is this is funny. She slipped up that, yeah,
that they were judging.

Speaker 3 (49:52):
This is why they don't respect lesbians and they don't
believe us. And I was like, hey, my situation does
not present all of them, and any man that thinks
that my representation is everybody.

Speaker 2 (50:05):
Then he didn't believe it.

Speaker 3 (50:07):
No matter what my words or my action is not
dictating the whole group of lesbian You know, he's an idiot.

Speaker 1 (50:15):
Absolutely, and they always are. They always are.

Speaker 3 (50:18):
This woman wrote to me so many you're not a lesbian,
You're not a lesbid. I would have blocked your not
a lesbian? How dare you? You're a dick sucking piece
of ship.

Speaker 1 (50:29):
And you don't want me to kick him out the
group before they even slip up, That's what I'm saying.

Speaker 3 (50:33):
These are you know, these are the They got a van.

Speaker 1 (50:36):
Full of kids and I was supposed to date this
lady all you did was slip on one time and
you're a dick. It was more than one.

Speaker 3 (50:44):
But yeah, on your side, right right, No you you
don't speak your truth, sister.

Speaker 1 (50:51):
You're right.

Speaker 4 (50:52):
Kids not you pulling up in a to the date
with Paris is Kate Kate plus eight is like now
now I'm the LGBT.

Speaker 1 (51:00):
No, I'm not doing it. It's the studs that's taking
care of them. That's the problem. The studs take care
of them and then they leave them, and they leave
them in the world for somebody else to come. And
they think they're gonna follow up with the stud and
it's like nobody else is doing that. You gotta go
back to that lady, to the lady that dad. Where's
the dad? Dad is gone? And so am I? Me

(51:26):
and the dad same guy.

Speaker 5 (51:29):
I'm not the dad that stepped up or the dad
neither one.

Speaker 3 (51:35):
Now, there was this crazy phenomenon. I think, like I
don't know, maybe six months ago about bisexual studs.

Speaker 2 (51:41):
Do you think that's the thing.

Speaker 1 (51:43):
That is a real thing? See, when it comes down
to that, I feel like they just chose a label,
but they really shouldn't have chose it because they just
want to be bisexual, but they're just the stud. So
they just putting the bisexual in front of it because
they're doing what they want. I don't know. I think
if I was a stud, I wouldn't by social but
I don't know.

Speaker 3 (52:01):
So there's a there's there's a stud and they say
they sneak dicken, that's what it is.

Speaker 1 (52:07):
Sneak dickens sneak.

Speaker 5 (52:09):
There's your algo, yes, your algorithm.

Speaker 1 (52:12):
Yes, you're the kids, because that's not on mine.

Speaker 2 (52:19):
Okay, yes, I'm never saying.

Speaker 7 (52:22):
What is it?

Speaker 3 (52:22):
Just they're going out on the low and they're hooking
up with with men with the briefs on. Yes, and
they're wearing the it's because they both have do rags

(52:42):
on and ye they.

Speaker 1 (52:44):
Put up like what's up my boy?

Speaker 3 (52:47):
They that before they do it, let's get it in. Yeah,
they're playing little Uzzi the whole time.

Speaker 1 (52:54):
Whoa, this is what you want? This is what you want.

Speaker 5 (53:04):
Sliding to the side is crazy.

Speaker 3 (53:07):
I can't even visually think about it, but yeah, you
can see it.

Speaker 1 (53:12):
But that's the thing.

Speaker 3 (53:12):
It's like, I think we should also kind of move
away from labels too, because like, once you do it,
then that's what you are.

Speaker 1 (53:21):
And people don't leave room for growth.

Speaker 3 (53:25):
Or maybe oh, you know, I had a revelation, or
oh let me, let me, let me see. Maybe if
you've been doing something for ten years, I think you
should go back and go out and see. Am I
really dedicated? Or maybe I'm just content and I just content.

Speaker 2 (53:41):
Maybe I'm just used to Okay, Yeah.

Speaker 1 (53:43):
See that's why I think I just want to stay
at tomboy, Okay, because I don't want to fall in
none of the because then you can't come out of it.
You can't stood tell me that because she was a stud,
she couldn't be sasy sassy. Yeah, what do you like?
But you're still a girl, she said she couldn't be
a sassy studstead Yeah, what.

Speaker 4 (54:01):
What qualities or characteristics do you have to have in
order to be considered You're not a study.

Speaker 1 (54:07):
I'm not. I feel like studs take care of women.
I'm not doing that. We're going half and half. I'm
gonna do my part and you're gonna also do yours.
We're partners. I'm not taking care of I need to know.

Speaker 5 (54:21):
Okay, for the listeners for Pride, please tell us what
a study is.

Speaker 1 (54:24):
I should have put us up then I'm not a stub,
but because like the studs are, you're basically agreeing to
be the main version of all the time across the board.

Speaker 2 (54:34):
So, Sidney, what do you think a study is?

Speaker 3 (54:39):
I think it's a it's a it's usually a black
woman or a POC.

Speaker 1 (54:46):
That oh stud White women can be studs.

Speaker 2 (54:49):
No, but.

Speaker 3 (54:54):
They've also gentrified stud I do not believe the beige
brigade can be studs.

Speaker 2 (55:00):
That's not is but yes, yep.

Speaker 3 (55:05):
But I don't want to say that studs want to
be a man, because that would fall under the lines
of France. I think studs have masculine presenting, like looks
and maybe mannerisms, maybe have a heteronormative idea of like, well,

(55:28):
I'm the man, you're the one, like I'm gonna like
you said, take care, you're my woman, I'm the stud men,
I'm the studman, I'm the.

Speaker 1 (55:40):
It's just all these all these terms is wild.

Speaker 3 (55:43):
There's too many for me. But you don't you don't
you want to go fifty to fifty.

Speaker 1 (55:49):
Lipstick. I get my nails and I did all of
this before I was gay. So I feel like the stud.
I can't be a stud. I'm masculine, but I'm not
a stud. I think it's the difference.

Speaker 2 (55:59):
So you don't want you don't want to take care.

Speaker 1 (56:01):
I'm going to take care of her, but she also
got to help. If you want to retire for life
and purr, step up and be your boyfriend. But I'm
not a boyfriend. No, And I think a stud sometimes
is a boyfriend. They don't want to be a man,
but they're a boyfriend friend. Yes, you get it. We
look at that. I'll be pride.

Speaker 3 (56:17):
Okay, we're putting it together, each one, teach one here
in the in the States, Paris.

Speaker 4 (56:26):
Is there anything that you feel like we need anything
else you think that we need to know about being
a lesbian? That is mess that you think we need
to touch on, And it's okay.

Speaker 3 (56:36):
Also, it's okay if you're not attracted to women. You know,
it's okay if you're not, it's okay to not be
a lesbian you mean attracted to women.

Speaker 1 (56:45):
You know. I'm not talking about you.

Speaker 3 (56:46):
I'm just saying, like, you know, sometimes people will be like, ooh,
why don't Marie this.

Speaker 1 (56:52):
I'm like, because she doesn't want to. She wanted to.
She would like let people be who they want to be.

Speaker 4 (56:58):
Oh, listen, I'll post things post like i'llfit picks or whatever,
and people be like, you sure you're not gay?

Speaker 1 (57:04):
Yes?

Speaker 4 (57:04):
Yes, and as her bestie, yes, positively without a doubt.

Speaker 1 (57:19):
I'm sure, and that's good. I don't. I don't. I
don't think. No, there's nobody. If you're gay, you'll know,
you'll fulller. Do I have anything else for the gays?
I don't. I don't. For the lesbian's name, I don't know.
Do what you want, sure, be happy, there you go.
I want people to be happy. I just do.

Speaker 3 (57:37):
And I think people get so caught up in what
other people think and what other people are doing. That's
what's messing updating and sexuality.

Speaker 1 (57:44):
I just feel like because they overpopulated, and that's why
it's taking people so long to find their person. That's
the only reason I have a problem with it, because
I feel like people getting in the way of people
finding they real gay so made.

Speaker 3 (57:54):
But also you gotta also, you gotta play many games
to get to the championship.

Speaker 1 (57:59):
Honey, that's true. But you know it's a whole thing
on TikTok where studs saying that they tie to dating
straight women because they dating straight women, and then the
women are going back to the men. They're not really gay.
I've heard how's that? So they're intercept and that stuff
could have found the lady or her dreams. But she
found this straight woman who left her, got some money
for the kids, went back to the day, and now
why shene the kids? Stud of hurt. Now she gotta

(58:21):
be a dog.

Speaker 2 (58:22):
This sounds like Maury, This feels like all Mary.

Speaker 4 (58:25):
But I also will say I feel like there are
some studs who relish in the challenge of being with
a straight woman.

Speaker 1 (58:33):
They they it's like they're trying.

Speaker 4 (58:35):
To turn I'm not saying all of them, but there
are some trying to coming at them with a van
full of kids, and you're like, well, clearly this lady
is not gay, but she's here now and I can
change her right, And it's.

Speaker 1 (58:46):
Like, why would you do that? That's some sense I
don't know. Be happy, everybody, Just be happy. Do what
you love, do what feels good, do who you love,
do who you love, explore until you fine, don't put
all your eggs in one basket. Just date, and so
you find a person you truly like, Hello, well, Paris,
let we got some messages for you.

Speaker 4 (59:05):
I'm gonna read them and like I'll read up. We'll
read a couple and you tell us if it's messy.

Speaker 1 (59:10):
Or just living cool.

Speaker 4 (59:13):
So basically told me her bestie used to scam dudes
by telling them she was pregnant and needed abortion money.
She did this until a guy told her he was
or thought he was infertile and that this child could
be his miracle baby. I don't can't read what this is.

(59:36):
Is that messy or just living?

Speaker 1 (59:38):
I think that's I think it's just living. Sometimes sometimes
you gotta give back on these men. I think it's
just living. She needed the money, she needed, No all
the time she had to get back. I think she
was just living. You got to get these men how
you can. It's not always easy. So she's like, look,
I'm pregnant, and who wants a baby? None of them,

(59:58):
So it's like, here go the money. Think like it
was she was living. Depending on how old she was,
it could have been mess I think she was. Yes.

Speaker 3 (01:00:05):
I think the age does matter because I pulled a
stunt like that when I was, you know, in college.

Speaker 1 (01:00:11):
That's what I'm saying.

Speaker 5 (01:00:12):
And you know, it's a young girls game.

Speaker 3 (01:00:14):
I've said it before, I've said it out loud and
people gashed like, oh my god, I can't believe you
did that. You know, like told one of them, told
both of them. One of them gave me half the money.
I got an iPod nano after and then gave it
to the other guy. That was like, I'm not giving
you anything. It was just it was embarrassing. But uh,

(01:00:35):
so you say, that's just living?

Speaker 2 (01:00:37):
Okay? Is it mess or just living?

Speaker 3 (01:00:41):
My girlfriend mentioned that in quotation this summer could be
the summer week all hang out together, referring to her
ex who she shares two dogs, a house, in a
car with. I'll be down, but I don't like her
as a person. Mess or just living?

Speaker 1 (01:00:56):
I don't know. Say the second so.

Speaker 3 (01:00:58):
The person is saying, my girlfriend, it's like, I think
this is something we could all hang out together, meaning
the girlfriend that she has also has an ex. They
that they share, uh, two dogs, a house and at
a little fellowship.

Speaker 1 (01:01:12):
Oka.

Speaker 3 (01:01:12):
Yes, yeah, but she's like, I would do that, but
I don't like the girlfriend's personality the ex personality.

Speaker 1 (01:01:21):
Okay, that's mess. That's that's too many, that's mess. Don't
have the X around the note. That's mess already. But
as lesbians, you know we yeah, and I don't like
that because you don't know who's on the cycle and
then it could just go wrong. That's just too many
women's emotions. Yeah, that could go bad. That could go bad.
Three women and one is an ex. That's that's mess.
I'm not gonna agree with that at all. Give you

(01:01:43):
X far away from the note. That's what I believe.
I thought.

Speaker 3 (01:01:45):
The great thing about being you know, gay or in
a lesbian is that we don't subscribe to heteronormative ideas.
And just because somebody is an ex, that doesn't mean
that they're you know, excommunicated from you completely.

Speaker 1 (01:01:58):
That's my gay. I'm ex communicat at you completely. We're
not friends, girl, I didn't know you before we dated. Bye, Okay?
Is it messer? Just living?

Speaker 4 (01:02:08):
If I choose to remain sexless because of how gross
the dating pool is ps, I'm forty.

Speaker 2 (01:02:15):
Never married, no kids.

Speaker 1 (01:02:17):
Is this justified?

Speaker 5 (01:02:18):
Or am I missing out on some reckless fund.

Speaker 1 (01:02:21):
You're definitely probably missling out on reckless fun. But I
feel like it is a lot of piss and the
dating pool, so you could be saving yourself some stress.

Speaker 4 (01:02:29):
I agree, But also like saying that you're forty and
you don't have no kids and you've never been married.
I just I feel like you got so much more
life left to live. This is how you're trying to
live it. Yeah, take a little break, take a little breather.
Maybe did you dip your toe in a different dating pool? Yeah,
like the girls with the.

Speaker 1 (01:02:52):
Kids? That's I have a seat at the table. Yeah, yeah, yeah,
I definitely live a little.

Speaker 4 (01:03:03):
I think it's mess to say you're done, but you
know it's living to take some time.

Speaker 1 (01:03:09):
I agree.

Speaker 5 (01:03:10):
Yeah, you have another one that you want to share
before we get out of here?

Speaker 1 (01:03:12):
Yes? Is it mess?

Speaker 2 (01:03:14):
Are just living?

Speaker 3 (01:03:16):
He let me put her finger in his But I
don't know if I could come back from this.

Speaker 1 (01:03:22):
I'm gonna say mess. I don't know what I'm gonna say, mess,
Just mess?

Speaker 5 (01:03:30):
Why because you got them long ass?

Speaker 6 (01:03:32):
Now?

Speaker 2 (01:03:33):
Yeah that would have worked for you. That's never happened.

Speaker 1 (01:03:34):
I wouldn't do it. I'm leaving. Why is it mess?
She can't come back from it because she can't unseee that.

Speaker 2 (01:03:41):
He asked her to do it.

Speaker 3 (01:03:43):
She said she didn't say anything because she's just like
he let me so I think they were probably in
the motion or whatever she wanted to chest and she
just like probably put a little bit in there and
then kept going.

Speaker 2 (01:03:55):
He's like, all right, he didn't.

Speaker 1 (01:03:56):
Stop her, and she was like, I can't what that's
what you're leting me do?

Speaker 4 (01:04:03):
No, she went, She washed her hands as soon as
she got She left there and texted the.

Speaker 5 (01:04:09):
Group chat like, let me tell you what he made
me do.

Speaker 1 (01:04:12):
The finger emos you. They was like, what, there's a
finger on the poop.

Speaker 3 (01:04:17):
Yeah, but you're stopping you being having that kind of
reaction is what's stopping men from behind?

Speaker 2 (01:04:25):
Yeah, what they actually like and what they want.

Speaker 4 (01:04:27):
They say, that's where the mal g spot is is
in the butt. So if you're listening to this for
Pride this month, make sure you put your finger and
yeah for pride, and then who knows, maybe he'll cry
after he comes.

Speaker 1 (01:04:40):
Yo. Spoken from a true straight woman.

Speaker 3 (01:04:44):
Yeah, she don't understand it's but also it's like hopefully
it's after a shower. Don't I want to ask her
was it after a shower? Because if if you just
went into a man's butt, just straight man, just oh
I don't Oh, we just trying this out.

Speaker 1 (01:05:02):
No, prep uh. I think she come back from her
I would if I was saying, I'd be.

Speaker 2 (01:05:06):
Like, you just put your finger in.

Speaker 1 (01:05:08):
But that's a good way. I would. I would. She
already had questions and she probably was like, I'm gonna
try today, And when he let it happen, she probably
was like, hell, no, I'm out. I need to know
how deep send us a picture of your finger. Did
you go in or did you just tap it? Anybody home?

(01:05:34):
Knock knock, knocking on the devil dude.

Speaker 3 (01:05:39):
Okay, this has been a factabulous toxic positive episode.

Speaker 1 (01:05:46):
Very we learned. I learned what healthy means. And I
apologize if I offended anyone.

Speaker 3 (01:05:53):
I didn't know you did lies parents.

Speaker 2 (01:05:58):
Tell everybody what you got coming up and where they
can find you.

Speaker 1 (01:06:02):
I'll be in New York. You want the show City
Jones twentyeth, Chicago, Jones twenty sixth, Atlanta, Jones twenty seventh,
uh DC this weekend, So what is that? June sixth
through eighth, and then Fort Worth, Texas in.

Speaker 5 (01:06:16):
July, and then where in the house in November?

Speaker 1 (01:06:20):
November Me and my little it down and what's your Instagram?
At Paris? P A R. I. S. S. A s
h A Y. Yes, I love it.

Speaker 2 (01:06:31):
I love it.

Speaker 4 (01:06:32):
I sure my favorite toxic, not toxic, toxic. You're my
favorite fun toxic.

Speaker 1 (01:06:37):
That's right, And that's what I do it for.

Speaker 2 (01:06:41):
I saw all of Marie's teeth this episode.

Speaker 4 (01:06:43):
She's like hilarious talking to Paris.

Speaker 3 (01:06:46):
We do that.

Speaker 1 (01:06:48):
That's that's all. We're cousins on our dad's side.

Speaker 3 (01:06:51):
Yeah, I see it. Paris famously Jamaican, Jamaica. And hey, guys, can.

Speaker 1 (01:07:01):
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Message all right anyway, Happy pride, Happy pride.

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Go do something gay today? Yeah, gay today? When tomorrow?
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Speaker 4 (01:07:26):
Mess with Sydney Washington and Marie Foston is a production
by Will Ferrell's Big Money Players and iHeartRadio Podcasts. Created
and hosted by Sidney Washington and Marie Foston. Executive produced
by Olivia Aguilar and Hans Sonny, super produced by Becca Ramos,
edited a mixed by Brian Jeffries.

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