December 14, 2021 • 28 mins
The wonderful Women of Wild N’ Out circle up to take a dip in the Juice Jar. On this episode they pull, and discuss, questions and topics about the dangers of sharing success with others, cheating partners, the role astrology plays in relationships, and the power of healing.
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Welcome to the Women While Out Packcack you guys be
groom anybody pretty. Welcome to the Women While and Out podcast.
These guys are the ladies and Wild and Out control
them show ladies tonight we're gonna have the women a
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while in podcasts on the cart wog on Everybody. It's
a Woman of Walling Out podcast where we control the mic.
I'm your girl, Crystal and Jelique and I have some
beautiful ladies with me. We're gonna tear it up, dip
into that juicy jar and chop it up, shop it up,
just as juicy as your fruit, because we just had
some of her fruits. I am be Samone and I
(00:45):
am Pretty TV Bret t A c And Yeah, we're
gonna just hop right on in the wilding Out Juice,
the willing out Juice Jar of surprises. What's juice this jar?
Let me find out who you are. Yeah, I'm not
gonna look. I'm not looking. I'm not looking. Okay. Now,
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have you ever loved someone who you didn't like? Huh? Yeah? Absolutely?
Many people. I love people I don't like everything. Love
is action. Love is not a feeling. Loving someone is
what you do every day when you wake up and
you don't feel like loving somebody, you still choose to
love them. And yes, I do that to people I
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don't like. Yeah, I mean I think for me, I
mean I could be hating somebody and like I still
love you, I don't talk to you. I mean, yeah,
you still love them, you have love for them, you
still want to see them win. You're still a good person. Yeah,
we're gonna do to actually the juice juice jar. I
think people correlate love a lot with a feeling, and
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it's just not that. Like love is what you do dately.
Like if you're in a relationship, you have to choose
to wake up and love that person, whether you're mad
at them or not. You can't just love them b off.
How you feel. Feelings change every day. One day you
have you one day you said it's temporary. Feelings are temporary,
but love cannot be temporary. If you love somebody, you
choose to love them in spite of how you feel.
It's not only that, I mean love is also energy,
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just like hate, and energy is reciprocated. So whatever your
you give, you're gonna get back. And so even if
you don't like a person, you also have the choice
to make every decision about your thoughts, and you say,
and if you choose to do more loving things, you're
gonna get more loving exactly. So love is a choice
even if you don't like them. You know, I have
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all the love for you. Respect do your thing, but
we're just not gonna rock, right. But I love you.
I love you for my distance to Yeah, it's like
I get it about that. So I'm going to choose
another question at the juice. What's going on in the juice? Jidge?
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This is digging down pretty good, a right? Not looking
not looking? Not looking? Okay? What do you believe? What
do you believe are the reasons men in relationship cheat?
M hm? Why do you believe? Yeah, that's taking and trifling.
(03:21):
This is some ed five South. I mean I think
there's different reasons. Let me say it again. What do
you believe are the reasons men in what the who
the funk? Wrote? Is it? Man? Relationship cheat? Yeah? I
think there's different reasons. I think some men just don't care.
They just like visits. Who I am selfish? Some men
make mistakes, They're human, you know, everybody. I'm not saying
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everybody in a pass. But you know, some men truly
don't desire to just go out and cheat every day. Um,
you know, I think there's different reasons, different reasons they're
not happy. Yeah, they're not happy, or they're not getting
their needs. Man, they never wanted to be an oogamist
and they're in a relationship, so they're doing what they
want to do anyway. And sometimes sometimes men carry women
(04:03):
on their back too, you know, sometimes they do in fact,
And that's the thing I think, Um So a lot
of it is men aren't learning how to communicate from
their younger because like that's supposed that's like a girl thing, right,
So even though you're masculine or you're a man, you
should have a balance of certain feminine traits. So like
this ability to communicate with your partner, how you open vulnerable,
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so you don't put yourself in that position. I think
that doesn't happen anymore, and it's not necessarily a problem.
Like a problem for the parents is maybe the parent
wasn't taught that either, you know. So it's just like
maybe we can just try to help people communicate and
understand as well, just honesty like that hard. I don't know,
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I feel like it's it's a mix of things. I
feel like, at the end of the day, if you're
not happy, say you ain't happy, just say it's not
that hard, like, oh, you know I want this, I
don't like that. Whatever, It's not like, h you didn't
do what I needed? So she did? Yeah, just go
like you like, be just a communication. But it's so
crazy when you're in a relationship and you get married
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and then the man just cheats and it's just like
who he cheats on you with? Like I had this
at the house, We did all that and then I
got Now you're gonna go through hell with me. So
it's just like stop blieveing me. Yeah, waiting to excel.
That movie is facts. That's your favorite movie. My favorite
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movie hands down. There we make that girl. They better
put me in something. You prefer the girl to be hotter.
You know I'm bad. But when you have a ten, yeah,
you go like two or two I'm gonna get because
she got hit on. It's like what's going on at
the workplace? I mean, what did I not do at
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my home that did not satisfy your needs? But you're
not saying, yeah, it could be something simple like or
maybe they did set to that, maybe they didn't change it,
and they didn't change it. You don't cook, you don't clean.
You're always begging me what's your job? But then you
tell me how the work. But you show me as
a man don't work to be a stay home mom.
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So that means, I know, that's a trickery question. You
want to let me go home so I could be
with the kids. Where you going all out with your
little friends at a little lounge and go cheat. I'm
over here crying. Listen to Mary j Blast all night
breast drinking Hennessey. You can't drink. You can drink. That's
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when niggas get crazy. Ship. So that's what I'm saying.
Everything what levels with this anxiety and depression, and just
like thoughts, the women that get hurt don't care because
they just find something to be an outlet. Because the
women men just drive them up the wire. And I
don't never that whatever, never never want to be and
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something like that. But that's what you need to remove,
like you're about to get toxic. You need to walk
out regardless. Some women too, I don't know how to
remind the worried about their kids. Wo how to start over. Yeah,
but like if you create a toxic environment for your kids,
are you really worrying about your kids? But sometimes women
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don't have another option and they don't know any better.
If you're to grow you don't know. Yeah, I would
be right back with more than women are walking out podcasts.
This is let's get it. We are back with my podcast.
And what do you mean to say? Pretty? You say
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your mama? What my mom? You know? Actually told um
us she had a woman's retreat um in Georgia and
she had like ten girls come out and we were
just talking. We had like tea time, like a little
teacups and we're just talking about what's the things that
bothered us? Write it down and we burned it right
in a fire. We burned everything that yeah, like everything
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that it has controlled us, that has her spirit to
be so stagnant, like anything. So I put like anxiety,
I put like just every anything that I dealt with, bullying, anything.
And she told me she after that she was talking,
she was like, you know how she praised my dad,
that she didn't run to God for help or other people.
She just thought that that was her only outlet. So
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for women, the people and the person that's in front
of their faces, just that's could be the only thing
that they love and a door and admire. They don't
know how to escape. They don't know how to move
to My mama wild to to leave my father, you know.
And not to say he was a bad person, but
some things that he needed to get worked on. That
it was affecting her and him. They're best friends to
this day. I wm gonna call him. They talked the
he got three kids, can't go no what you know,
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and my dad, you know, being who he is, you know,
my my my first love. You know, like again as
a child, you're like Daddy, teach me, you know. So
my mom told me, she said, I used to praise him.
I ain't know nothing was going on. I ain't know
where to go. I was young, I was sixteen. That
I to think he idolized him. You know. So a
lot of women do that to men because they have
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nowhere to turn, nowhere to go, They don't know where
to seek help from. So for her getting yelled at
and abuse whatever, that's open. It's no secret. But you
know we tend to be like, well, we can't do
that's our problem. No, actually, they got to really like
I contain her. That's I watched that documentary from talking
to problem to hear her story. She had nowhere to
go and plus you on drugs, but she's doing this.
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It's just that's who's in front of you. That you're
just going to continue to let hit on you and
talk to you down and all that unless you have
a friend that's gonna because I don't grab that add
a so many situations, I said, who was doing that? Well,
some of us aren't that lucky to have that, you know,
kind of friendship. But you would think at least now
in this generation social media all that stuff, it's a
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lot more brought to light and there's more talked about
and it's not like you know, you're so lone. You'll
start seeing things TikTok, Instagram, even kids like younger kids
posting stuff and it's like, Okay, they're starting to be aware.
They're starting to understand that they don't have to be
in these situations or deal with this type of ship.
So I love that. I feel like it's definitely generation
to like, when you start vibrating at a higher you
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can see there's certain things that you're just you're instantly
not going to deal with it no matter what. Become
a lot more aware, yeah, self aware, And I definitely
resonate with your story because you know, my parents had
issues as well, and it's the same difference. It's like,
my dad is not a bad person, but they each
had their own traumas to deal with. They came together,
had kids, they didn't deal with their traumas, and it
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kind of spilled over into the relationship. And because you know,
my mom had four kids, she's like, what I'm I
supposed to do? Take the four kids and go where.
You know, my dad was the protector of the provider.
She wanted to make sure to give her alter the kids.
And you know, even when we grew up, she still
didn't really know how to step out on her own.
But I think she's finally like getting to that stage
(10:51):
now and I'm really proud of her. And I'll definitely
be supportive in any way I can. And that's another thing,
as you said, support having the people around you to say, listen,
I can see this, but you kind of listen to it.
Open up your eyes even in relationships, like I don't
want my kids to grow up without their father well,
it's just as bad if it's toxic exactly. So you know,
it's like, you know, you're growing up in a toxic
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household or a horrible environment. You're not seeing a good
representation of uh married, your parents being married, and it's
just as bad as y'all being It might be even
better if you're separate. That's why women staying relationships longer
than they're supposed to, because they probably saw their moms,
say woman first, staying even if it's trying times. No,
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it's not like you need to self love, you know anything.
God and my mom woke up, thank god, mamfather got better.
Thank God. They are both healthy and they are best friends.
They were high school sweethearts, Sonny. They had me the
third child. So that's elevation. A lot of people don't elevate.
Some people like and I even look at my grandparents,
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and you know, I feel like, um, my grandmother is
an amazing, amazing woman, grandfather older, the olders in my family,
not just my gran grandmother and grandfather, but the elders.
I feel like they have the same mindset they had
when they were You should not have your same mindset
now at thirty. That you're gonna have when you're fifty.
You should constantly evolve that older generation. It's just this
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is what it is. This is no. You have to
constantly evolve and and go on a higher frequency throughout
your life. You have more awareness. Yes, And I'm like
I said, I'm happy for my mom and my dad.
They could be in one place and left and john
and seen pictures of my uncle party of the day.
I said, well hold on for a second, so dupe.
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And the thing about it is that all they've been through, right,
And my mama was told me, you know, when you're healed,
a lot of things don't bother you. You don't bother you,
like if they come screaming or the you know, just
not you don't bother you no more. It's like, gosh,
your daddy, you know, Jaddy gonna say my Daddy's one
thing about my daddy, he's a loving person. It's just
some things that you probably have to deal with. And
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I'm thinking that you dealt with it and now you're good.
Would you don't think he was never on drugs? You never, Daddy,
don't drink at all. Whatever temper that was, it was
just like okay, you know, but my mom having three
kids and moving from that environment got her better to
get her like like the Christ she got into her
calling you know she's doing she's fifty some years old,
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then should happened when we was how old? Eight years old?
I haven't seen my daddy doing anything crazy since, but
for me, I feel like it. You know it, um
may you know be a magnet to the kids because
we start talking like it's like, girl, lower your tone.
But that's how you start to see a lot of stuff.
You like when I talked about like I sound like
my father. He speaks very you know, I'm like when
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I talk or I'm getting deep into something, I'm like, oh,
I sound like my daddy. I feel like that with
my dad and mama. When I'm trying to relate a message,
it's my mama. When I'm angry, it's my daddy. And
that's why i'd be like, oh my god. Not to
go back on our story, but even on Girl's Cruise
when I definitely yeah, when I definitely uh me and
be smone got into but nothing crazy. We just like
trying to correct her. But I knew that it was
(14:02):
an aggressive place. It wasn't like calmly removing her from
the cow coach you're talking to her. It was just
like I get it on the stamp. I didn't do that.
I was literally crying and annoyed. But that's a part
of growing and you're partly annoying like who your friend
is as a part of like, you know, like you
need some help when it comes to that, because you
gotta learn how to talk to people too. So I mean,
we all, you know, evolved and we all got better.
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So yeah, well slide thought juice jar over here, let's
pick you know, don't want to see something too so
be someone by her grandparents to go. It's a lot
of grandmothers on Instagram. Don't look that, don't look like that,
don't look like granted because my granted, I love a
grandma like a grandma. Yeah, I love a grandmother that
looks like a grandmother. Because these grandnies. Is like, if
I'm sick, you can't tell me what the old remedies is.
(14:45):
You gotta tell me to go get some land water
and some ginger. I wanted to get their remedies. Put
vinegar and lime and go to sleep and put money
in your foot bottom. The grandma's now are like saying, hey,
I just took my teeth out. The grandmother's now were like, uh,
Timothy t on the shade room, the grandma doing TikTok.
The grandma's now are um, um, what's that thing all?
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What's that thing that we used to promote? Um? It's
flat Timo t Oh. Yeah, if you want to get
away from your cold flato, that's not the baby, take
it back. And that's why I'm like, I think God,
my mom's here. Oh Lord, because when I have a kid,
I wanted to teach me how to make sure you
don't get a float. I'm out Instagram, alright, step into
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this jar. My granny want me to get married. So
when you're gonna give me, give me a minute, do
you want to teach that baby what she told to you?
How important is astrology when choosing or not choosing a mate? Crazy?
I don't know enough about it, but I do believe
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in astrology, you know, like I believe in universe and
that when you were born and you know your cycle
of the sun and the moon. I don't know enough
about it, but I do know capricorns every Sun's like no, no,
they're not I don't get into the astrology. I'll just
be acting. What they sign is just you know, like,
hey may think you'll leave, let's talk about it. She'd
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be like, oh, my friend of Libra and my friends. Yeah.
But being now it's an Aquarius, I think I work
combat about Mary's but I don't know. I do think
it's important because it really tells you about that person.
So not even just like hey what we gon some
some but you know when generically all over it because
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when I strong like okay, so back in the day,
obviously sex was are ritual, it wasn't just recreational, and
so the times of the years that you want your
children to be born was very important because I determined
what kind of person they'll end up being. Because there's
a certain connection with the stars, the moon with the sun,
and that's why have your rising and all that stuff.
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So for me scientific I don't understanding all that stuff
because it's science and it's spiritual together. So I definitely
think it's important. Like I always ask, so what's your sign?
I'm a cancer and I'm very emotional. I'm like a
crab literally like and show mushy on the inside, soft
crab lads. So if you get past the show, like
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I love you forever as a friend, as family. You know,
that's just me and I've seen it in me, so yeah,
I don't know. I don't believe too much in the astrology. No,
I just don't believe in astrology. I don't believe in signing.
We don't go off how we live with signs though,
nets in the Bible do not plus to go off
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your aries. So you're a good person or your Yeah,
for sure, that's what we're talking about. But I don't
believe it. But you could have your conversation. Yeah, I
don't believe in it either. I do think that there's
like some traits like you were saying, like I'm a tourist,
I'm a bull, I'm stubborn, okay, but like I just
I don't go so correct. Really what and then it's
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like the men and the women are different. I'm like,
I don't know, like I've never met a man have
been like what are you really well? I mean, if
you know their birthday you can figure out this. I
mean yeah, but it's not like a what's your station? Yeah?
To us? Never believe kidding. I don't know anything about
to us, you want to pull another one butes and
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I googled it in Aquarius and aries are so compatible.
I didn't Yeah, okay, okay, I loved anyone ex was
one man. What's your thoughts about people putting all their
business on social media? Let's talk about I think that's terrible.
(18:50):
I think the had mentioned ones that you know, you
don't want to put your cards out there because everyone's
going to know your move and they'll be able to
infiltrate or do things because they're they're haters out there
and if they know, you're every every move or thing
exactly meal and so I think that you should be
very strategic because also you don't want to give people
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a certain perception and then you're not that person. Also,
then that's when you can get real real haters and
be like, oh you're a lie, you're all that. So
I think I always say you get to see what
I allow you to see. This is not everything about
who I am or what I do a little details.
Majority of people have no idea that I even have
a job. Everyone thinks I don't work, just a girl
(19:34):
but just does nothing. I never put my business like
that out there, and people like me and V we
have like our personality and our businesses, our branch so
a lot they're like, what you're doing? Who I'm like,
y'all want so much? I actually have a lot. Most
of what's on internet is a lot about my life,
but not every little detail or argument or no. But
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I put a lot out there, and then then they
use it against you and be like, well, you're in
the pub. You out here before we can attack you,
Like you can't do that delayed post thing like post
after you left to you know, like after you did
something after you want someone not doing exactly I think too. Sorry,
just beast kids. I don't know. If it's rough in
your way, I don't like it, but um yeah, I
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think you know. Just you know, it's good to wait
for the you know, when people get interviews and it's like,
we already know you did this, like they'll be a surprise.
Some people like I don't want to put so much
out on social media in the next minute, is nothing
to talk about an interview. They already know that you
already know you talk to this person, So what else
you talk about? You know? So that's how I always move.
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But then also to even with the fashion, like when
people see you with a Cardier basically you know, I
love all your ship, but Cardier braced it. But people
do like the little pictures now when it's like this
and rolegs, and it's just like when the when that
that pattern is not what it is down the line,
it's just like, well you fell off, or maybe I
don't want to keep doing that. Maybe yeah, maybe that
was that. But when you put it on social media's
(21:02):
on social media and they want to see that consistently.
They want to see that that lifestyle. They want to
see your nigga and you got a new nigga and
then you you know, it's just a lot. So I
rather yeah, no one ever knew I talked to I
didn't put on. They don't even my next movement toil,
I say, oh I got this. So we will be
right back with the women a while and out podcasts.
See in a minute, we're back with the women. While
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in out podcast, you guys what they do, what they do?
What they do? What? Because I'm rocking, We're gonna try
you got bread? Hell no, that's how to do that.
(21:53):
It's just inquired. I love that, y'all. I used to
be in a girl group. You wouldn't know us if
I told you, like, what was the name? So irrelevant?
She friend ran you guys. Um, Yeah, I was in
a girl group and we used to perform, but I
had to perform with the track because I cannot sing
without the track. I used to the piano, used ballet
(22:15):
for five years, Really played piano, piano, flute, violin, dropping sang, gymnastics, karas.
Anybody still play now either, I don't think about it
is to one if I said, you know, I want
to take the time out and get back into just
doing badly just in my free time. I wanted to
get back into gymnastics, to be honest, like I ain't
(22:39):
doing on a Saturday. I got a little class I
could do. I did karate white belt, that's the first belt.
Never got past it. Taekwondo. My dad was a black belt. Oh,
I cried, I'm not breaking this board, daddy. I embarrassing
in my frint of everybody got a woolp in. I
performed on the Netcracker did you she used to be
a who did you dance for Miami Heat? That's crazy
(23:03):
speaking of that. Okay, so what's the myths? Well, not myth.
But what's the thing with ballerinas and their toes? Huh?
The pointing of it? Yeah, I know, But how did
ballet meaning because you have beautiful feet? Yeah, that's what
I was asking. You didn't do points a lot of shows,
those shows and your feet, so it's different types of shoes.
(23:25):
I forgot the name of the shoot. Yeah. But me,
I just had my regular ballet and I was just
back and forth, back and forth. A little hair on
that toe. You shave your toe? I shave mine, and
my mom danced too, So that's where I get it from.
I don't ignore my question. What do you shave that toe?
I do shave my to me too, right there on
the on the cool right now. You can need to
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get the corn patch if you put it on air.
To just leave her toe shaved down? Mr to was
too long, pain m that's what comment. I don't say
it a long. That's it. I'm gonna get a shave
it down. Are you are? You don't do that? I
just told him that my mom got my mom she
said her mind was long. I had to get my
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shape down. No, girl, my second toes longer than I'm
not looking at my toes now it's not mine, do
you like I'll toes up. I hate it what you do.
Don't be putting my dirty put in your mouth's like, no,
I'm just not turned on now. No, it's not that bad.
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It's just it's just honestly, I think it's like, Okay,
if the man likes it, I might entertain, but like,
I'm not gonna say that does nothing toes It doesn't
does nothing for me. You can kiss up all my
leg like whatever, but like you're gonna be sucking and
slobbering all over my toe last night? What to have
(25:00):
been into? What's happening? He was very professional, but you
get all open. There was one Oh yeah, it was
so good. Better than Nancy. That was karate chopping you.
We went to the nail someone on yesterday. Let me
tell you about it. Nancy, you almost got a lawsuit
(25:22):
coming your way. You're about to get served, so I
hope you had worked tomorrow. She I laid down, Okay,
I do for you. She was rubbing at first, and
then she started doing this. You're bruising. I'm trying to
dose off. I don't like this. Nancy wasn't supposed to
do all that. I don't think she's license. She just
doesna take you beside me for ten minutes, she said, yes,
(25:46):
want to get extra money. She wanted to twenty dollars
to not me back up. Yeah, that's what it was.
And then she said thank you. Come my god. He said,
I love you be girl. You just made me. But yeah,
I want to get back into dancing, just for like
a little time. I'm a little hobby. Yeah, I agree
with me to just to do something. Finally doing the
teacher dance class. That's what I want, so do it.
(26:06):
M hmm, I'll be, I'll be. I'll sign up teacher
pop though I do hip hop ballet like they do.
They have, Yeah, a little buns I wore. It was
so cute mongs for the flowers of mine. Picture. Yeah,
it's my phone to find it and it was just cute.
So I mean, you can't put your head on top
(26:27):
of a front spit. What do you do? Bree the
girl made money? No, I did everything. I did gymnastics,
I a dance and a cheer always rode horses, all
the jumping and all the shows. I did ballet to
My sister and my mom are both professional ballerinas and
(26:51):
you know about the shoes. My sister still teaches, um
so she teachers kids, and she was in the Nutcracker
every year. She danced to New York and Chicago girl
and all that. It's not for me one of my
other movies that say the Last Dance, because I got
like she that was everything. The feet do look rusty, Yeah,
pleading pointing on that. You're pointing on that every day,
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like and then that's what you're walking. You're walking to
the teacher like that, back and forth. I needs you
to know know we have to do in gymnastics on the gymnastics,
great posture and stuff. So yeah, actually got such a
great conversation with these lovely, beautiful souls. So before we
get out of here, you know, I gotta jump into
the beautiful quotes you know about you know, let's go
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be lit. I kind of screenshot of this you ladies,
ladies on, I've seen it. I gotta stay focused. I'm
breaking generational curses. Beautiful. Definitely, this is a woman while
in our podcast that you so much for watching, and
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Welcome to the Women While Out Packcack you guys be
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These guys are the ladies and Wild and Out control
them show ladies tonight we're gonna have the women a
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while in podcasts on the cart wog on Everybody. It's
a Woman of Walling Out podcast where we control the mic.
I'm your girl, Crystal and Jelique and I have some
beautiful ladies with me. We're gonna tear it up, dip
into that juicy jar and chop it up, shop it up,
just as juicy as your fruit, because we just had
some of her fruits. I am be Samone and I
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am Pretty TV Bret t A c And Yeah, we're
gonna just hop right on in the wilding Out Juice,
the willing out Juice Jar of surprises. What's juice this jar?
Let me find out who you are. Yeah, I'm not
gonna look. I'm not looking. I'm not looking. Okay. Now,
(01:09):
have you ever loved someone who you didn't like? Huh? Yeah? Absolutely?
Many people. I love people I don't like everything. Love
is action. Love is not a feeling. Loving someone is
what you do every day when you wake up and
you don't feel like loving somebody, you still choose to
love them. And yes, I do that to people I
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don't like. Yeah, I mean I think for me, I
mean I could be hating somebody and like I still
love you, I don't talk to you. I mean, yeah,
you still love them, you have love for them, you
still want to see them win. You're still a good person. Yeah,
we're gonna do to actually the juice juice jar. I
think people correlate love a lot with a feeling, and
(01:51):
it's just not that. Like love is what you do dately.
Like if you're in a relationship, you have to choose
to wake up and love that person, whether you're mad
at them or not. You can't just love them b off.
How you feel. Feelings change every day. One day you
have you one day you said it's temporary. Feelings are temporary,
but love cannot be temporary. If you love somebody, you
choose to love them in spite of how you feel.
It's not only that, I mean love is also energy,
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just like hate, and energy is reciprocated. So whatever your
you give, you're gonna get back. And so even if
you don't like a person, you also have the choice
to make every decision about your thoughts, and you say,
and if you choose to do more loving things, you're
gonna get more loving exactly. So love is a choice
even if you don't like them. You know, I have
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all the love for you. Respect do your thing, but
we're just not gonna rock, right. But I love you.
I love you for my distance to Yeah, it's like
I get it about that. So I'm going to choose
another question at the juice. What's going on in the juice? Jidge?
(03:00):
This is digging down pretty good, a right? Not looking
not looking? Not looking? Okay? What do you believe? What
do you believe are the reasons men in relationship cheat?
M hm? Why do you believe? Yeah, that's taking and trifling.
(03:21):
This is some ed five South. I mean I think
there's different reasons. Let me say it again. What do
you believe are the reasons men in what the who
the funk? Wrote? Is it? Man? Relationship cheat? Yeah? I
think there's different reasons. I think some men just don't care.
They just like visits. Who I am selfish? Some men
make mistakes, They're human, you know, everybody. I'm not saying
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everybody in a pass. But you know, some men truly
don't desire to just go out and cheat every day. Um,
you know, I think there's different reasons, different reasons they're
not happy. Yeah, they're not happy, or they're not getting
their needs. Man, they never wanted to be an oogamist
and they're in a relationship, so they're doing what they
want to do anyway. And sometimes sometimes men carry women
(04:03):
on their back too, you know, sometimes they do in fact,
And that's the thing I think, Um So a lot
of it is men aren't learning how to communicate from
their younger because like that's supposed that's like a girl thing, right,
So even though you're masculine or you're a man, you
should have a balance of certain feminine traits. So like
this ability to communicate with your partner, how you open vulnerable,
(04:26):
so you don't put yourself in that position. I think
that doesn't happen anymore, and it's not necessarily a problem.
Like a problem for the parents is maybe the parent
wasn't taught that either, you know. So it's just like
maybe we can just try to help people communicate and
understand as well, just honesty like that hard. I don't know,
(04:48):
I feel like it's it's a mix of things. I
feel like, at the end of the day, if you're
not happy, say you ain't happy, just say it's not
that hard, like, oh, you know I want this, I
don't like that. Whatever, It's not like, h you didn't
do what I needed? So she did? Yeah, just go
like you like, be just a communication. But it's so
crazy when you're in a relationship and you get married
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and then the man just cheats and it's just like
who he cheats on you with? Like I had this
at the house, We did all that and then I
got Now you're gonna go through hell with me. So
it's just like stop blieveing me. Yeah, waiting to excel.
That movie is facts. That's your favorite movie. My favorite
(05:33):
movie hands down. There we make that girl. They better
put me in something. You prefer the girl to be hotter.
You know I'm bad. But when you have a ten, yeah,
you go like two or two I'm gonna get because
she got hit on. It's like what's going on at
the workplace? I mean, what did I not do at
(05:54):
my home that did not satisfy your needs? But you're
not saying, yeah, it could be something simple like or
maybe they did set to that, maybe they didn't change it,
and they didn't change it. You don't cook, you don't clean.
You're always begging me what's your job? But then you
tell me how the work. But you show me as
a man don't work to be a stay home mom.
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So that means, I know, that's a trickery question. You
want to let me go home so I could be
with the kids. Where you going all out with your
little friends at a little lounge and go cheat. I'm
over here crying. Listen to Mary j Blast all night
breast drinking Hennessey. You can't drink. You can drink. That's
(06:37):
when niggas get crazy. Ship. So that's what I'm saying.
Everything what levels with this anxiety and depression, and just
like thoughts, the women that get hurt don't care because
they just find something to be an outlet. Because the
women men just drive them up the wire. And I
don't never that whatever, never never want to be and
(06:58):
something like that. But that's what you need to remove,
like you're about to get toxic. You need to walk
out regardless. Some women too, I don't know how to
remind the worried about their kids. Wo how to start over. Yeah,
but like if you create a toxic environment for your kids,
are you really worrying about your kids? But sometimes women
(07:19):
don't have another option and they don't know any better.
If you're to grow you don't know. Yeah, I would
be right back with more than women are walking out podcasts.
This is let's get it. We are back with my podcast.
And what do you mean to say? Pretty? You say
(07:40):
your mama? What my mom? You know? Actually told um
us she had a woman's retreat um in Georgia and
she had like ten girls come out and we were
just talking. We had like tea time, like a little
teacups and we're just talking about what's the things that
bothered us? Write it down and we burned it right
in a fire. We burned everything that yeah, like everything
(08:01):
that it has controlled us, that has her spirit to
be so stagnant, like anything. So I put like anxiety,
I put like just every anything that I dealt with, bullying, anything.
And she told me she after that she was talking,
she was like, you know how she praised my dad,
that she didn't run to God for help or other people.
She just thought that that was her only outlet. So
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for women, the people and the person that's in front
of their faces, just that's could be the only thing
that they love and a door and admire. They don't
know how to escape. They don't know how to move
to My mama wild to to leave my father, you know.
And not to say he was a bad person, but
some things that he needed to get worked on. That
it was affecting her and him. They're best friends to
this day. I wm gonna call him. They talked the
he got three kids, can't go no what you know,
(08:43):
and my dad, you know, being who he is, you know,
my my my first love. You know, like again as
a child, you're like Daddy, teach me, you know. So
my mom told me, she said, I used to praise him.
I ain't know nothing was going on. I ain't know
where to go. I was young, I was sixteen. That
I to think he idolized him. You know. So a
lot of women do that to men because they have
(09:05):
nowhere to turn, nowhere to go, They don't know where
to seek help from. So for her getting yelled at
and abuse whatever, that's open. It's no secret. But you
know we tend to be like, well, we can't do
that's our problem. No, actually, they got to really like
I contain her. That's I watched that documentary from talking
to problem to hear her story. She had nowhere to
go and plus you on drugs, but she's doing this.
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It's just that's who's in front of you. That you're
just going to continue to let hit on you and
talk to you down and all that unless you have
a friend that's gonna because I don't grab that add
a so many situations, I said, who was doing that? Well,
some of us aren't that lucky to have that, you know,
kind of friendship. But you would think at least now
in this generation social media all that stuff, it's a
(09:47):
lot more brought to light and there's more talked about
and it's not like you know, you're so lone. You'll
start seeing things TikTok, Instagram, even kids like younger kids
posting stuff and it's like, Okay, they're starting to be aware.
They're starting to understand that they don't have to be
in these situations or deal with this type of ship.
So I love that. I feel like it's definitely generation
to like, when you start vibrating at a higher you
(10:07):
can see there's certain things that you're just you're instantly
not going to deal with it no matter what. Become
a lot more aware, yeah, self aware, And I definitely
resonate with your story because you know, my parents had
issues as well, and it's the same difference. It's like,
my dad is not a bad person, but they each
had their own traumas to deal with. They came together,
had kids, they didn't deal with their traumas, and it
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kind of spilled over into the relationship. And because you know,
my mom had four kids, she's like, what I'm I
supposed to do? Take the four kids and go where.
You know, my dad was the protector of the provider.
She wanted to make sure to give her alter the kids.
And you know, even when we grew up, she still
didn't really know how to step out on her own.
But I think she's finally like getting to that stage
(10:51):
now and I'm really proud of her. And I'll definitely
be supportive in any way I can. And that's another thing,
as you said, support having the people around you to say, listen,
I can see this, but you kind of listen to it.
Open up your eyes even in relationships, like I don't
want my kids to grow up without their father well,
it's just as bad if it's toxic exactly. So you know,
it's like, you know, you're growing up in a toxic
(11:13):
household or a horrible environment. You're not seeing a good
representation of uh married, your parents being married, and it's
just as bad as y'all being It might be even
better if you're separate. That's why women staying relationships longer
than they're supposed to, because they probably saw their moms,
say woman first, staying even if it's trying times. No,
(11:34):
it's not like you need to self love, you know anything.
God and my mom woke up, thank god, mamfather got better.
Thank God. They are both healthy and they are best friends.
They were high school sweethearts, Sonny. They had me the
third child. So that's elevation. A lot of people don't elevate.
Some people like and I even look at my grandparents,
(11:54):
and you know, I feel like, um, my grandmother is
an amazing, amazing woman, grandfather older, the olders in my family,
not just my gran grandmother and grandfather, but the elders.
I feel like they have the same mindset they had
when they were You should not have your same mindset
now at thirty. That you're gonna have when you're fifty.
You should constantly evolve that older generation. It's just this
(12:15):
is what it is. This is no. You have to
constantly evolve and and go on a higher frequency throughout
your life. You have more awareness. Yes, And I'm like
I said, I'm happy for my mom and my dad.
They could be in one place and left and john
and seen pictures of my uncle party of the day.
I said, well hold on for a second, so dupe.
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And the thing about it is that all they've been through, right,
And my mama was told me, you know, when you're healed,
a lot of things don't bother you. You don't bother you,
like if they come screaming or the you know, just
not you don't bother you no more. It's like, gosh,
your daddy, you know, Jaddy gonna say my Daddy's one
thing about my daddy, he's a loving person. It's just
some things that you probably have to deal with. And
(12:57):
I'm thinking that you dealt with it and now you're good.
Would you don't think he was never on drugs? You never, Daddy,
don't drink at all. Whatever temper that was, it was
just like okay, you know, but my mom having three
kids and moving from that environment got her better to
get her like like the Christ she got into her
calling you know she's doing she's fifty some years old,
(13:18):
then should happened when we was how old? Eight years old?
I haven't seen my daddy doing anything crazy since, but
for me, I feel like it. You know it, um
may you know be a magnet to the kids because
we start talking like it's like, girl, lower your tone.
But that's how you start to see a lot of stuff.
You like when I talked about like I sound like
my father. He speaks very you know, I'm like when
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I talk or I'm getting deep into something, I'm like, oh,
I sound like my daddy. I feel like that with
my dad and mama. When I'm trying to relate a message,
it's my mama. When I'm angry, it's my daddy. And
that's why i'd be like, oh my god. Not to
go back on our story, but even on Girl's Cruise
when I definitely yeah, when I definitely uh me and
be smone got into but nothing crazy. We just like
trying to correct her. But I knew that it was
(14:02):
an aggressive place. It wasn't like calmly removing her from
the cow coach you're talking to her. It was just
like I get it on the stamp. I didn't do that.
I was literally crying and annoyed. But that's a part
of growing and you're partly annoying like who your friend
is as a part of like, you know, like you
need some help when it comes to that, because you
gotta learn how to talk to people too. So I mean,
we all, you know, evolved and we all got better.
(14:23):
So yeah, well slide thought juice jar over here, let's
pick you know, don't want to see something too so
be someone by her grandparents to go. It's a lot
of grandmothers on Instagram. Don't look that, don't look like that,
don't look like granted because my granted, I love a
grandma like a grandma. Yeah, I love a grandmother that
looks like a grandmother. Because these grandnies. Is like, if
I'm sick, you can't tell me what the old remedies is.
(14:45):
You gotta tell me to go get some land water
and some ginger. I wanted to get their remedies. Put
vinegar and lime and go to sleep and put money
in your foot bottom. The grandma's now are like saying, hey,
I just took my teeth out. The grandmother's now were like, uh,
Timothy t on the shade room, the grandma doing TikTok.
The grandma's now are um, um, what's that thing all?
(15:10):
What's that thing that we used to promote? Um? It's
flat Timo t Oh. Yeah, if you want to get
away from your cold flato, that's not the baby, take
it back. And that's why I'm like, I think God,
my mom's here. Oh Lord, because when I have a kid,
I wanted to teach me how to make sure you
don't get a float. I'm out Instagram, alright, step into
(15:35):
this jar. My granny want me to get married. So
when you're gonna give me, give me a minute, do
you want to teach that baby what she told to you?
How important is astrology when choosing or not choosing a mate? Crazy?
I don't know enough about it, but I do believe
(15:57):
in astrology, you know, like I believe in universe and
that when you were born and you know your cycle
of the sun and the moon. I don't know enough
about it, but I do know capricorns every Sun's like no, no,
they're not I don't get into the astrology. I'll just
be acting. What they sign is just you know, like,
hey may think you'll leave, let's talk about it. She'd
(16:19):
be like, oh, my friend of Libra and my friends. Yeah.
But being now it's an Aquarius, I think I work
combat about Mary's but I don't know. I do think
it's important because it really tells you about that person.
So not even just like hey what we gon some
some but you know when generically all over it because
(16:41):
when I strong like okay, so back in the day,
obviously sex was are ritual, it wasn't just recreational, and
so the times of the years that you want your
children to be born was very important because I determined
what kind of person they'll end up being. Because there's
a certain connection with the stars, the moon with the sun,
and that's why have your rising and all that stuff.
(17:02):
So for me scientific I don't understanding all that stuff
because it's science and it's spiritual together. So I definitely
think it's important. Like I always ask, so what's your sign?
I'm a cancer and I'm very emotional. I'm like a
crab literally like and show mushy on the inside, soft
crab lads. So if you get past the show, like
(17:25):
I love you forever as a friend, as family. You know,
that's just me and I've seen it in me, so yeah,
I don't know. I don't believe too much in the astrology. No,
I just don't believe in astrology. I don't believe in signing.
We don't go off how we live with signs though,
nets in the Bible do not plus to go off
(17:45):
your aries. So you're a good person or your Yeah,
for sure, that's what we're talking about. But I don't
believe it. But you could have your conversation. Yeah, I
don't believe in it either. I do think that there's
like some traits like you were saying, like I'm a tourist,
I'm a bull, I'm stubborn, okay, but like I just
I don't go so correct. Really what and then it's
(18:06):
like the men and the women are different. I'm like,
I don't know, like I've never met a man have
been like what are you really well? I mean, if
you know their birthday you can figure out this. I
mean yeah, but it's not like a what's your station? Yeah?
To us? Never believe kidding. I don't know anything about
to us, you want to pull another one butes and
(18:28):
I googled it in Aquarius and aries are so compatible.
I didn't Yeah, okay, okay, I loved anyone ex was
one man. What's your thoughts about people putting all their
business on social media? Let's talk about I think that's terrible.
(18:50):
I think the had mentioned ones that you know, you
don't want to put your cards out there because everyone's
going to know your move and they'll be able to
infiltrate or do things because they're they're haters out there
and if they know, you're every every move or thing
exactly meal and so I think that you should be
very strategic because also you don't want to give people
(19:11):
a certain perception and then you're not that person. Also,
then that's when you can get real real haters and
be like, oh you're a lie, you're all that. So
I think I always say you get to see what
I allow you to see. This is not everything about
who I am or what I do a little details.
Majority of people have no idea that I even have
a job. Everyone thinks I don't work, just a girl
(19:34):
but just does nothing. I never put my business like
that out there, and people like me and V we
have like our personality and our businesses, our branch so
a lot they're like, what you're doing? Who I'm like,
y'all want so much? I actually have a lot. Most
of what's on internet is a lot about my life,
but not every little detail or argument or no. But
(19:55):
I put a lot out there, and then then they
use it against you and be like, well, you're in
the pub. You out here before we can attack you,
Like you can't do that delayed post thing like post
after you left to you know, like after you did
something after you want someone not doing exactly I think too. Sorry,
just beast kids. I don't know. If it's rough in
your way, I don't like it, but um yeah, I
(20:19):
think you know. Just you know, it's good to wait
for the you know, when people get interviews and it's like,
we already know you did this, like they'll be a surprise.
Some people like I don't want to put so much
out on social media in the next minute, is nothing
to talk about an interview. They already know that you
already know you talk to this person, So what else
you talk about? You know? So that's how I always move.
(20:40):
But then also to even with the fashion, like when
people see you with a Cardier basically you know, I
love all your ship, but Cardier braced it. But people
do like the little pictures now when it's like this
and rolegs, and it's just like when the when that
that pattern is not what it is down the line,
it's just like, well you fell off, or maybe I
don't want to keep doing that. Maybe yeah, maybe that
was that. But when you put it on social media's
(21:02):
on social media and they want to see that consistently.
They want to see that that lifestyle. They want to
see your nigga and you got a new nigga and
then you you know, it's just a lot. So I
rather yeah, no one ever knew I talked to I
didn't put on. They don't even my next movement toil,
I say, oh I got this. So we will be
right back with the women a while and out podcasts.
See in a minute, we're back with the women. While
(21:32):
in out podcast, you guys what they do, what they do?
What they do? What? Because I'm rocking, We're gonna try
you got bread? Hell no, that's how to do that.
(21:53):
It's just inquired. I love that, y'all. I used to
be in a girl group. You wouldn't know us if
I told you, like, what was the name? So irrelevant?
She friend ran you guys. Um, Yeah, I was in
a girl group and we used to perform, but I
had to perform with the track because I cannot sing
without the track. I used to the piano, used ballet
(22:15):
for five years, Really played piano, piano, flute, violin, dropping sang, gymnastics, karas.
Anybody still play now either, I don't think about it
is to one if I said, you know, I want
to take the time out and get back into just
doing badly just in my free time. I wanted to
get back into gymnastics, to be honest, like I ain't
(22:39):
doing on a Saturday. I got a little class I
could do. I did karate white belt, that's the first belt.
Never got past it. Taekwondo. My dad was a black belt. Oh,
I cried, I'm not breaking this board, daddy. I embarrassing
in my frint of everybody got a woolp in. I
performed on the Netcracker did you she used to be
a who did you dance for Miami Heat? That's crazy
(23:03):
speaking of that. Okay, so what's the myths? Well, not myth.
But what's the thing with ballerinas and their toes? Huh?
The pointing of it? Yeah, I know, But how did
ballet meaning because you have beautiful feet? Yeah, that's what
I was asking. You didn't do points a lot of shows,
those shows and your feet, so it's different types of shoes.
(23:25):
I forgot the name of the shoot. Yeah. But me,
I just had my regular ballet and I was just
back and forth, back and forth. A little hair on
that toe. You shave your toe? I shave mine, and
my mom danced too, So that's where I get it from.
I don't ignore my question. What do you shave that toe?
I do shave my to me too, right there on
the on the cool right now. You can need to
(23:48):
get the corn patch if you put it on air.
To just leave her toe shaved down? Mr to was
too long, pain m that's what comment. I don't say
it a long. That's it. I'm gonna get a shave
it down. Are you are? You don't do that? I
just told him that my mom got my mom she
said her mind was long. I had to get my
(24:09):
shape down. No, girl, my second toes longer than I'm
not looking at my toes now it's not mine, do
you like I'll toes up. I hate it what you do.
Don't be putting my dirty put in your mouth's like, no,
I'm just not turned on now. No, it's not that bad.
(24:37):
It's just it's just honestly, I think it's like, Okay,
if the man likes it, I might entertain, but like,
I'm not gonna say that does nothing toes It doesn't
does nothing for me. You can kiss up all my
leg like whatever, but like you're gonna be sucking and
slobbering all over my toe last night? What to have
(25:00):
been into? What's happening? He was very professional, but you
get all open. There was one Oh yeah, it was
so good. Better than Nancy. That was karate chopping you.
We went to the nail someone on yesterday. Let me
tell you about it. Nancy, you almost got a lawsuit
(25:22):
coming your way. You're about to get served, so I
hope you had worked tomorrow. She I laid down, Okay,
I do for you. She was rubbing at first, and
then she started doing this. You're bruising. I'm trying to
dose off. I don't like this. Nancy wasn't supposed to
do all that. I don't think she's license. She just
doesna take you beside me for ten minutes, she said, yes,
(25:46):
want to get extra money. She wanted to twenty dollars
to not me back up. Yeah, that's what it was.
And then she said thank you. Come my god. He said,
I love you be girl. You just made me. But yeah,
I want to get back into dancing, just for like
a little time. I'm a little hobby. Yeah, I agree
with me to just to do something. Finally doing the
teacher dance class. That's what I want, so do it.
(26:06):
M hmm, I'll be, I'll be. I'll sign up teacher
pop though I do hip hop ballet like they do.
They have, Yeah, a little buns I wore. It was
so cute mongs for the flowers of mine. Picture. Yeah,
it's my phone to find it and it was just cute.
So I mean, you can't put your head on top
(26:27):
of a front spit. What do you do? Bree the
girl made money? No, I did everything. I did gymnastics,
I a dance and a cheer always rode horses, all
the jumping and all the shows. I did ballet to
My sister and my mom are both professional ballerinas and
(26:51):
you know about the shoes. My sister still teaches, um
so she teachers kids, and she was in the Nutcracker
every year. She danced to New York and Chicago girl
and all that. It's not for me one of my
other movies that say the Last Dance, because I got
like she that was everything. The feet do look rusty, Yeah,
pleading pointing on that. You're pointing on that every day,
(27:15):
like and then that's what you're walking. You're walking to
the teacher like that, back and forth. I needs you
to know know we have to do in gymnastics on the gymnastics,
great posture and stuff. So yeah, actually got such a
great conversation with these lovely, beautiful souls. So before we
get out of here, you know, I gotta jump into
the beautiful quotes you know about you know, let's go
(27:36):
be lit. I kind of screenshot of this you ladies,
ladies on, I've seen it. I gotta stay focused. I'm
breaking generational curses. Beautiful. Definitely, this is a woman while
in our podcast that you so much for watching, and
we outstretch become par
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