May 27, 2022 • 44 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Before we hit the little intro, the little ditty that
I made, um and start My Day Friday. Want to
let everyone know that next week, which is June three, right, Yes,
we are going to have a huge announcement here on
My Day Friday. Okay, so make sure you put it
in your calendar, make sure you hit that subscribe button
here just so you don't miss the podcast episode. Um,
(00:22):
you're gonna want to be here, first episode in June.
Huge announcement My Day Friday. Should I hit the button?
Carla mar Friday, It's Day Friday. It's Pete went from
(00:45):
Far Boy. And you're listening to my two favorite people,
Carla Marie and Anthony. It's Friday Friday. Hi, I'm Perry,
Hi on me, Hi, I'm dressing Hi am jays I
will Alas and you're listening to Yes, Yes, it is
(01:06):
My Day Friday. And welcome to the podcast that started
it all. Before we had a radio show, before we
had a daily podcast, before we had a Twitch channel.
It was merch collection, a clothing line. Yeah, it was
My Day Friday. The O O O G original original
original gangster Okay, thank you. Not really a gangster podcast,
(01:28):
though I always thought like o G meant original original
gangster no no like oh oh like it was like
a abbreviation of original. I mean it could work. Both
letters are in original. Um. And not only was this
the first podcast that you know, we had the first
kind of thing, it's the first podcast radio well no, like,
(01:51):
I give t J a lot of credit because t J,
when he was working for Elvis ND the Morning show,
he did have on Apple podcast because that was like
the only only he was very early on and that's
actually how he got his radio show in Boston and
then brought up Lauren to work with him. And Ronnie
had Independent Minded. Ronnie he used to work for Elvis
ran in the morning show. He was a producer and
had his podcast as well where he would interview independent artists,
(02:15):
which he still does it really, Oh yeah, he still
does it. When I was in Nashville most recently, I
was going to try to meet up with him. Actually
it was when you were there as well, Carla Marie,
back in February when I was speaking at the conference.
But the night that we went out, the night that
we had free he was working on finishing up a
podcast or an interview or something for Independent Minded. But
The reason I bring those two up is they did
(02:36):
have podcasts before us. Oh. I also did a Bachelor podcast,
the first ever. I will tell I will go to
the grave with this one. It had to be the
um first ever Bachelor podcast. Wait, it was me, Great
T and Elizabeth Fazzio, the best assistant in the world.
I'm pretty sure we called it the Final Rows and UM.
(02:58):
Our theme song was Daniel Powder if you had a
bad day, because he had performed that season. Whose season
was that? Do you remember? It was the one before
Desiree was the Bachelorette. So whoever, what's his name? I
don't know. She was on someone's season. You know, it's crazy.
It's all the people that we mentioned don't work at
Elvis round in the Morning show anymore. T J, Ronnie,
(03:20):
Greg T, Elizabeth obviously us UM, but I did I podcast.
They also did a podcast with Greg T for like
three episodes. It was um Sons of Anarchy podcast. Remember
what we use the word podcast at the time. These
were really just audio recordings that we would post onto
(03:41):
Elvis Durand's website. I would play its clips that would yeah,
you would just you'd have to literally play it from
the website. Yeah, I don't even know if you could
like leave the website, you know how, like you can
play and then go to another tabye. On the desktop,
you probably could, but on on mobile it probably would
show mobile. Oh yeah, that was a while ago, Greg,
he was the king of starting podcasts and then not
(04:03):
finishing them. But and then you had another one. I
had one with Garrett and Krista Stephano. Who Christa Stephano
is crushing it right now. Um, regardless of how you
feel about Joe Rogan, some people love him, some people
hate him. Christa Stephano's episode is this week with Joe Rogan,
and I only listened to the first fifteen minutes. Pretty
good so far, but what do you have six more hours?
Since I don't know listen, say what you want about
(04:24):
Joe Rogan. I don't care. I really don't like. If
you love him good, if you hate him good, It
doesn't bother me. I have no opinions on the Guy,
no strong opinions on the Guy. But you know what,
I do have a strong opinion about a three and
a half hour long podcast. Yeah, because like even radio shows,
you have to keep in mind, like the content part
of a radio show, a daily radio show. Our like
(04:49):
we were forty five minutes outside of sports, talking news,
talking like Elvis is what ninety minutes um? But three
I don't want to know do they with that podcast?
Like is it longer? And like how much are those
producers paid, because that is so much, so much to
go through. I don't know what they were paid before,
(05:09):
but I'm hoping that after he signed his hundred million
dollar deal with Spotify, I hope the producer saw some
sort of pay bump. That's always something that I've wanted
to start, is some sort of revenue share in like
the radio or podcast world, where we say, okay you
everyone that works for our team is gonna get a
(05:30):
competitive salary um. And obviously, if we were starting, right,
if this is our company, Carlmury, and we were starting,
I would want it would be it would be tough
to pay people a lot of money because we just
don't have a lot of it now. Right. We're not
an I Heeart Radio. We're not one of those big
companies with millions and millions of dollars. But I would
want to say, you know what, even if we can't
(05:50):
pay you a lot, we're still going to try to
pay you as much as we can. But if this
does well, you will directly see not a bonus, right,
you will see a percentage of what we make and
we'll all from sponsors. Yeah, and we will all sponsors, uh, subscriptions, whatever,
anything that we bring in events, it all gets pulled
together and everyone gets to eat. Like that's the kind
(06:12):
of table that I want to put together. I want
to put together a table where everyone gets to eat.
Maybe I'll start at the head of the table, but
that doesn't mean I'm eating that much more than anyone else.
And this isn't like a pat on our back. It's
just an example when we would do those twitch streams
with like Erica, John, Ricky and Jake, or even when
it was just Ricky and Jake. Whatever money we would
bring in from that stream that night, whether it's bits
(06:34):
or I guess not subscriptions, whatever, it was like bits,
and we would divide it amongst us and make sure
we gave them money because it was their time. And
John was the one that, like venmoted back and I'm like, okay,
you're so well. John's on billboards all across the Pilifornian
I know I gotta go talk to Ruckers because you
know what they did a whole I was a TV
(06:55):
commercial for Ruckers. Um the business school in Nork where
I never filmed that for are you know there was
a team and that was like in two thousand and twelve.
And now I go to the airport and I guess
it's not really a Rucker's thing. It's a New Jersey
Like all Eric le Grand he does pretty awesome stuff
from New Jersey and will say that. Um. Then there's
(07:17):
like Judy Bloom. You know she's great, Judy Bloom. She
spoke at my graduation. What does she do? She writes
amazing children's books. Um. And this is at Newark Airport. Yeah,
on like these pillars and I'm like, hello, Tony Soprano,
what's his real name? James Gambles Graduatedy Houston is up there.
(07:38):
Maybe we should start putting some live We probably should
Killy Rippers up there. Yeah, she's my cousin. No she's not.
She is. Um. When you go to ancestry, there's RiPP
Us because that one name is there. But back to
the reason I brought all this up, right, We started
by saying, like seven minutes ago, this is the podcast
(07:58):
that started it all and the other thing that we
kicked off, and I think for some reason it didn't
maybe because podcasting was still super super rare when t
J left. But when we left Elvis durrant In the
Morning Show, it was oftentimes credited because t J was
also on the air, So that's one of the reasons
(08:20):
he was able to get a job in Boston. We weren't.
We weren't full time on air people, So we gotta
hosting a radio hosting gig our own morning show in
a big market based on our podcast, based on this
podcast and based on you listening and interacting and all
of that stuff. Um So once that happened, it kind
of like blew up, like the industry started writing articles
(08:42):
about what we had done from podcasting to radio, and
all of a sudden, not only at Elvis drund In
the Morning Show, but around the country, everyone had their
own podcast. And it's cool to see that it's actually
worked for other people. Erica and John can really credit
their time on almost on air yea almost famous almost
(09:02):
on air to the jobs they hold now. And obviously
they put in work other ways and whatnot. In the
Southern California area. But it's like, um, supplement is up
the word I was gonna say, it's a showcase of
their talents. No, but I mean like yeah, people go
from just like podcasting to radio without having radio experience.
But like now, truly people are being told in radio
(09:25):
you're not going to get an on air job unless
you also have a podcast. And that's how they're using
to quote unquote air check. And that's it's because the
stations and this was even going on when we left
Elvis Round in the Morning show. The stations were used
to people used to quote unquote their teeth right where
they go and and practice the uh Tulsa's of the world,
(09:46):
the Richmond's, the you know, Norfolk, Virginia Grand Rapids Mission.
They don't have their own live uh stations anymore. I
mean even like a Denver station right thinking about this, Denver, Colorado,
big city, important city. Um, most of the stations there,
(10:06):
outside of sports and news talk don't have live people.
I mean in Denver, Colorado, on an iHeart station, you've
got a show from outside in the morning, You've got
a show from outside at night, you've got a show
from outside overnights. I think they have one live person
in that building. Lot is like just radio as an
industry shooting themselves in the foot at this point. But two,
(10:27):
I guess play devil's advocate. I don't want to say defend,
but play devils devil's advocate here. Like radio doesn't take
in the amount of money like we see them say like,
oh we made this millions of dollars. Yes, but like
the thing about radio in the eighties and like nineties,
that was the place to go to advertise, right, companies
like laugh truly laugh when you're like, oh, add dollars
(10:52):
on radio, Like I had someone, it's usually just done
very poorly. Not only that, but people but who's like
I'll get the question because I'll I've talked. I've had
several people reach out to me, small businesses that I
know that like, hey, we're considering radio. We have questions
and then they come to me and they're like, but
who's listening to radio anymore? Because no one at our
company does, so we don't want to spend the money
(11:13):
and so to radios. I guess defense in that case,
that's why they're syndicating, because it's easier and cheaper. Now again,
there are several executives that do nothing and makes all
this money and and ruined lives and whatever that don't
need to be doing that. There's money that can be
rebudgeted for sure and reinvigorate the industry that's just not
(11:35):
going to happen. And part of it. So there is
the audience aspect, right, So if you listen to this podcast,
there's a good chance you listen. You have a favorite
radio station is probably Elvis to around in the morning show, um,
if you're at least if you're on the East coast. Um.
So it's not to say that no one listens radio.
One of the things that advertisers struggle with though, when
they are asked to put their money on radio, right
(11:56):
a salesperson from my Heart or Odyssey or Cumulus comes
up and says, oh, you got the great show in
this great station. You should pay us to talk about
your product. The problem they run into is when you
compare advertising on radio to advertising in podcasts, advertising on Facebook, Instagram,
any digital platform. There's no accountability in radio because the
(12:21):
numbers that they're getting aren't real people now, so a
little back, a little like inside Baseball, if you will.
We've explained about this before. So for the city, for
the metro area of Seattle, which is in total just
under four million people. Right, so you go from like
Everett down to Tacoma and all the places in and
around Seattle, four million people. Just about the ratings that
(12:46):
represent those four million people actually only come from about
eight hundred active survey participants. There are supposed to be
fourteen hundred that are in it, but only about are
actually active. So now you're saying, oh, well, all those
numbers are saying, oh, this radio station gets two million
listens a week or so whatever, it's inflated, but six
(13:08):
hundred thousand listens a week. You go, okay, well, how
do you prove that to me? Well, these three people
and Everett listen. Well, that's three people, but we have
to multiply it because they're representing their area, so their race,
their gender, their age group. Yeah, so when you see things,
it's radio is getting hit from a lot of angles.
One like, they don't make a lot of money, the
(13:29):
structure isn't great, and you have executives who are lazy
and don't want to actually help build new talent. So lucky,
we're we're lucky. We have friends who are part of
that new Yeah, you know, we have Ricky, we have John,
we have Erica. They're kind of the new uh, a
new class if you will, up and commerce m I
(13:50):
guess I don't know, but cable commers is a weird word.
Cable TV is also problem, the same problem, um and
I feel like a lot of the de mice for
dece do you say de French mice? They could be
(14:12):
Spanish demise de do you see the do you see
words when you're saying them? I saw it with an ass.
Does this happen on Joe Rogan's podcast? You know thanos
(14:32):
he was just sitting there planning the device of the world.
That's right, Demise? Why is the English language look stupid?
That's not a z anyway, anyway, please tell me about
the device. Well, it was going to be a really
(14:53):
thoughtful thing, but now I can't single device three. Oh man,
you know what, let's go. We're not gonna talk anymore
(15:14):
to radio. Device of this podcast is talking business. The
demise of radio and TV is going to go back
to the fact that they put all of their eggs
in the Nielsen bucket. And Nielsen is the rating system
that in the end is going to kill radio and
TV because guess what's not judged by Nielsen anything digital
(15:37):
and I have I don't need to pay a company
to look at our ratings. Nelson does have streaming numbers.
They do do streaming ratings like live streaming. No, I
think they do numbers for for other streaming services anyway,
not Netflix Netflix, and just go under the hood and
be like, this is what happened. That is how many
people watched it. So then you have to trust Netflix.
(15:57):
True now if there's a like third party whatever, But
I like that is becoming a major issue in radio
and TV are decades beyond decades into this now and
they're trying to come out of it, like how else
can we get ratings? And they just don't know what
to do YEA and part of it if I know
for radio, I don't know if TV works this way.
(16:17):
But there's big advertisers, right, so like think your agencies
that represent Pepsi and Cocacola and stuff. A lot of
times your big radio companies aren't even pitching them per
radio station, right. They don't do like updates. They say, hey,
we'll give you a share of this this pie that
we have based on your ratings, and it's like an
automated thing. But as less and less people listen or
(16:39):
or watch, um, it becomes harder and harder to make
that money. Now we're moving on because last week we
asked people to text us with their dating dilemmas. Now
we're gonna are we gonna like, We're gonna start very
small and detailed, nuanced, and then get to a much
bigger conversation after that. Because we have two great emails
that were sent to us. One was from Larry, one
was from Harley. Okay, we got New Jersey and we
(17:02):
just put them together, make them date. It's gonna be
far and especially when you realize what Larry's situation is.
A long distance thing might not be good for him, okay,
or it might be great. So you can always email
us hello at Carla, Marie and Anthony dot com. What
de mice the device of this relationship. Believe that de
(17:26):
mice my brain on COVID. I don't have it now,
but okay, the first email we're gonna get to, because
this is more nuanced, it's it's very specific, is from
Larry who lives in New Jersey. Now Larry has started
talking to this woman from the Bronx. And when you
look at it on a map, North Jersey to the
(17:48):
Bronx not very far like I lived. So I lived
in North Jersey and the Yankees playing the Bronx door
to door. If there was no traffic at all, I
could probably get to Yankee Stadium in what mythical world,
but in real in the real world, four Yankees gonna
we can take me two hours. So think about that,
(18:09):
going twenty five minutes to two hours to get to
Yankee Stadium. Okay, the only people I feel like really
understand this are people from Los Angeles. Sounds not I mean,
sounds bad, but not not normally as bad. Um. So
here's how Larry's email goes. He said, I have a
little dating dilemma. It's going to sound very small, but
(18:30):
it's a dilemma. I'm talking to someone that lives in
the Bronx and I'm from North Jersey, thirty minutes away
when we met. When we meet in the Bronx, she
usually picks the time to meet, so I try to
get there early. But no matter what time I leave
my place, I'm always fifteen minutes late. The traffic on
the cross Bronx is against me. First day, I left
forty five minutes early and was fifteen minutes late. Second date,
(18:51):
I left an hour early and I was still fifteen
minutes late. Tomorrow will be the third time I go over,
and I plan on leaving one hour in fifteen minutes early.
Wish me luck. How does she How did you find her? Yeah,
that is a good question. But here's what I would suggest. Okay,
when is this chick coming to Jersey? Well, first off,
she should make the trip to Jersey. Read it should
(19:13):
be But you're still early in the process. I know,
but I would feel so guilty if someone just kept
coming to me. You know, usually they don't. I'll tell
you this much, as a guy who has had to
travel to go see girls, there's very rarely any guilt
about the amount of time we drive going to see
you guys. You guys. Okay, girls, I should say, um now, ladies,
(19:33):
he says. This is the sentence that sticks out to
me in Larry's email, said, when we meet in the Bronx,
So maybe they do meet in Jersey. When we meet
in the Bronx, she usually picks the time to meet.
So what I would say to solve this dilemma and
tell me if I'm crazy, Carlmrie, I think if I
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am driving to see you in a place where there
is always traffic to get there, I should be allowed
to pick the time because I can then and figure
out better how to get there, and and it will
be more time conducing to my time. Like I can't
tell here if it was like, is there ever a
conversation where Larry is like this time and She's like, no,
(20:14):
this time, because I think next time you're going to
go to the Bronx, just be like, hey, would you
want to do something at noon? Whatever time it is?
So I don't know. I mean, that's like a very
long distance relationship. You're better off driving to Ohio for
carle so you can take a flight easier to Ohio
than driving to the Bronx. I used to um drive
for my dad. I was actually just talking to my
(20:34):
mom and my aunt about this. So when I first
got my license, I was seventeen years old, because that's
what you get your license in New Jersey. And actually
it's illegal to seventeen year old in Manhattan and in
Long Island. I believe, well, it's illegal to leave at seventeen,
it's illegal to leave New Jersey. Well, I was doing
it all the time. I did it my first weekend,
I went to Palasades Park Mall. If you don't know this,
my dad is a jeweler, and the jewelry district is
(20:56):
on St. In Manhattan. It's like and fifth. So I
would drive there to go to my dad's, like diamond
dealers and distributors and you know all the people the
backbone of the jewelry industry. Yeah, actually we're on cuts
took place. They did a very good job of the
(21:16):
very detailed things about going into the street diamond dealers
and stuff. And I still have friends who worked there,
but coming back every day. I would go there three
times a week for my dad. Driving into New York
City from North Jersey Route four to St. There were
times where it would take me three and a half hours.
I've quit three and a half hours to drive, like
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all right, that's when I'd say, sorry, Dad, I'm you're
on your own. And most of that was because the
Cross Bronx was so backed up that it went into
like everything around it around the George Washington Bridge. How
did you have to I don't I don't like I
wouldn't have had the time at seventeen years old to
spend three hours doing that, And it's only I was
like sticking around on my phone back then, Like I
had cheerleading practice for hours, so it was it wasn't
(22:01):
during It was normally during the summer after my senior
year because I got my Remember I got my license
in the summer, um, so during the school year. I
didn't do that during high school my senior year, but
then in college in the summer. Uh no, I mean
late summer I did football, but it wasn't that bad. Um.
But then when I graduated, Yeah, he would pay me.
(22:22):
I would do it during uh my off days from
sting hawks. I was still living at home my freshman year.
So anyway, Larry, good luck with that. That stinks. Just
driving to the Bronx is the worst. Yeah, I guess
we just said send us your dating dilemmas. We didn't
say we were going to help fix them. No. I
mean I think that is a solution, is maybe Larry
needs to be the one to set the time. Is
(22:42):
she pissed that you're fifteen minutes? We'll see if they
keep dating, then we'll know next up. Is this is Carly.
It's a longer email. Um, but I'll go through it quickly.
And there's no problem with sending us long emails by yeah,
I can just see it from That's how we got
to know Chris from Texas. He would send us very
(23:03):
long emails and we love them so Carly in Ohio
and I have to read this first part. I was
listening to My Day Friday and decided to write about
the dating dilemma I am dealing with as a single person.
Before I start, though, I just wanted to let you
know that I'm a huge fan of My Day Friday,
your Twitch show, and especially the Morning Show podcast. I
(23:23):
listen every morning while I get ready for work. And
if you have not done so yet, I mean very
short of begging you, which this is gonna sound like
I'm begging you. Anyway, please listen to and subscribe to
the Morning Show podcast. It's free. It is free. It's
just like this, but better and more often. Also, I
don't know that when I was a kid, I wanted
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my name to be Carly because I thought it was cooler.
And we'll still call you Carly Murray and I'm like, damn,
Carly Murrie is so cute. Maybe maybe if I like
leave this whole industry and I want to like a
new life, I'm gonna go by Carly Murray. You're only fans.
That would be a good one, all right now, getting
into Carly from Ohio's email. I'm about to be thirty
in a few weeks and am one of the last
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singles among my friends. I feel like my biggest problem
when it comes to dating our time and meeting people,
which are two very common issues. I work full time
and I'm super close to my family, so between work
plans with family and friends and then just doing basic
things like working out, running errands, and housework, I rarely
have free time, and if I'm being honest, I would
(24:26):
rather spend the free time I do have relaxing at
home with my cats and a book or binge watching
a show and then rather than going out and meeting people.
The majority, the majority of my friends that are in
relationships met their significant others in high school or college,
but that wasn't my experience. I'm from a pretty small
(24:46):
town in Ohio, and I don't really even know where
to meet people other than dating apps, which I'm not
super comfortable with mostly due to watching too many crime shows. Oh,
Fred the Mailman, we could put them together. Maybe I
don't know what the age differences, or if it matters.
I'm all also not super into the idea of getting
married or having kids, So I guess I've never been
in a rush to date. I'm pretty content just doing
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my own thing, and I've always felt that it would
be nice if I did beat someone, but it's not
something I feel the need to seek out. I've rambled
on long enough. But these are the things that came
to mind when thinking about issues I have when it
comes to dating. So thanks for taking the time to
read them. You look great. You look great. So here's
my take on this, because she said at the very end,
these are things that came to mind about issues on dating.
(25:30):
She also said she was very She's content. To me,
that's not Carly's dating dilemma. That's just the society making
her think that this is a dating dilemma. She's not like,
I'm sad and I'm alone. I want I need someone
if someone comes along in her life that fits into
her life with some minor changes. Obviously, we all make
sacrifices and compromises and anything. He once told me he
(25:54):
doesn't make compromises, so that's a that was a thing.
But anyway, I and I will explain more. I'll let
Anthony like give his thought, but I think you're fine.
And again, like, if you get invited somewhere and you
know there's new people, just go. It is always great
to talk to new people. You learn things about yourself
when you do that. But like forcing yourself to go
(26:15):
on dates, especially in your thirties, when you get to
the point it's like it's not fun anymore. So I'm
going to agree and disagree with you, car and then
I'm gonna pull pull one thing from um Carly is
an email that I think is very strong in one
place where I think she can use some improvement, or
(26:38):
at least not even improvement, a mindset adjustment. Adjustment. Okay,
because a lot of things, especially in the dating world,
and a lot of things in life, really come down
to your perception of them. Right, we did you speed
dating in every city, so I didn't want to do
a twitch show where we do a dating show anyway. Um,
So here's a couple of things. Number One, I agree
(26:59):
with you, Carl Marie in that I don't think Carly
necessarily has a dilemma on her hands. Um, I disagree
in the idea your perception of dating as you enter
your thirties, right late twenties or early thirties, If you
look at anything as an inconvenience, it is an inconvenience. Right,
(27:20):
doing the dishes is an inconvenience. But you need to
do the dishes to have clean plates. So I gotta
look at doing the dishes as fun and it won't
be anything. You have to look at it as a
step towards a goal you are trying to achieve. Okay,
then if you're just but that's not a goal Carly
is trying to achieve, you're just saying to me that,
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So this is but this is going back to there's
like I said, there are four things I was gonna
talk about. One was agreeing with you when was disagreeing
with you. So I agree that Carly is actually not
in a bad place. Uh not. That doesn't mean it's
not a dilemma. I just don't think it's a bad
place to be. You said it wasn't a dilemma. Yeah,
when you know, let me explain, Okay, Um, I just
disagree on the oh, dating is such a hassle type
(28:04):
perception of dating um because I I come from the
school of thought where meeting people is awesome. Meeting people
when you don't have expectations to place on those people
is even better. And that's why I think Carly is
in an awesome spot. Yes, I agree with you, because
if if you're not in a rush to get married
(28:26):
have kids, if you don't have outside forces or internal
forces that you feel are pushing you towards this status,
this relationship status, or you know, family status, you're in
a great place because now you can look at everything honestly.
You can go out on a date, whether it's someone
you meet at the workplace, some of you meet at
(28:47):
an event, someone you meet a stranger at a bar
that you that you hit it off with. You can
go out. You can say let's let's go grab a drink,
don't even call it a date. Hey, what are you
doing next Friday? Do you want to go grab a
drink at this other bar? Or it back here? Whatever
you go, you go into that with no exactly no pressure,
and it's phenomenal and especially for Carly, who has made
(29:09):
it clear that she you know, getting married and having
kids is not something she's like rushing to do. Right,
So there's no you can meet someone when you're sixty,
Like there's no time limit, there's no ticking clock. That's like,
hurry up, that's it. It's all going to dry up,
like it doesn't matter. So but here's the one thing
that I think could use an adjustment in the I
(29:30):
know what you're gonna say, and I don't agree. Okay,
what that she's binging TV shows and watching and sitting
with her cats partly okay? And the only reason I
say there's an attitude adjustment or a philosophy of philosophical
adjustment if you will, is Carly also said in the
email that one of the things she does, um, where
(29:53):
is it working out? Okay? So working out an interesting
thing to look because working out is understanding there is
a a future goal of some sort, whether it's overall health, what,
whether it's longevity, whether it's happiness. Uh, there's a lot,
and you're putting in time today to reap the rewards later, right,
(30:17):
So and sometimes you might I know I do. I
hate going to the gym sometimes because I'm just tired
or I have so many other things on my mind,
but I still make that the sacrifice that day because
I know down the road I will be happier than
I went today. And I think you can look at
the dating world similarly, like, yeah, there are times where
you might have made a date plan three weeks ago
(30:40):
and it gets to that day and you're like, shoot,
I'm so tired today. I don't I don't know if
I wanted this, maybe I'll cancel. But the long term
outlook on going on dates, getting out of the house
and not And I think we put too much pressure
on going on dates, but just getting out of the
house to do things, the long term rewards are really important,
(31:01):
right because when you're old, all of us, when we
are old, if we make it that long, we're gonna
have kind of no option other than just sitting at
home with our cats and our books and our TV shows.
Right at some point, at some point, that becomes your life.
Look at every grandparent you've seen, and they could be active,
right like my grandmother up until very late wood walk
(31:23):
to the grocery store in town, do all of those things.
But if it makes you happy, yes, But much like
the gym scenario, they're working out scenario if you know
that the work today is going to make you happier
in the future than it's worth it, much like investing,
much like going to the gym, much like a lot
of those things where your reward is down the road,
(31:47):
it's not today, even though with the gym it's a
little different because you do have endorphins and they make
you feel better in the moment um. But maybe, but
maybe going on a date with someone won't make her
life again again. We have to a just it's not
just going out on dates. It's just going out with friends,
even if you're going out with your friends who have
significant others. I will say that as much as I'm
always like, oh my god, I don't want to do this,
(32:08):
I don't want to do this, I don't want to
make a plan, I always feel good making the plan.
And I think, for Carly, dates aside, what things with
friends or whatever it may be, and new people are there.
If you like, make yourself do it next time and
see how you feel afterwards. And I love the idea
of going into all of this with very little expectations. Right,
(32:31):
if you can go out with your friends who have
significant others and just have a good time you don't
need to go beat someone when you're with them. You
can go out with your single friends, which apparently there
are a few of remaining. Um, But don't worry, you'll
have more down the road because you're friends that are
in relationships. At least a couple of them are going
to break up, so you'll have more single friends. Um.
(32:51):
But going out with them with no expectations is a
really strong base for all of your activities. If you
said Carly in the email, I need to have a
boyfriend or clock is taking um, you know, because women
say that I'm almost thirty and I'm still single. Blah
blah blah. That's a whole different discussion. But I love
(33:13):
where Carly's head is at in terms of like, hey,
I'm I'm content and I'd love to be content, possibly
with another person if it works out. And I think
that's really strong. So what I was going to say
is last week when you said something about email us
about dating dilem as, I said, I was going to
say something for next week that I actually was randomly
thinking about dating wise and it pertains to Carly, which
(33:35):
is bizarre. I like randomly thought, like if you and
I break up, and in things, I thought to myself,
I don't like, I don't think I'm going to try
to date other people, like not even like, oh, I'm
gonna take like six months off or whatever. Like I
think at that point in my life, whenever it is,
(33:56):
I will have decided like I'm good, I'm just gonna
be the cool and and I'm gonna not only would
you not try, but like you would you be trying
to stay by yourself for the rest of you because
this relationship is like I know, I won't like find
anything else like this without like I don't like like
this and I don't not trying to get mushy. It
(34:18):
just works so well in so many ways, and I
don't like, I don't think I would want to try again.
I know I've been in relationships before, whe I'm like, oh,
I can't imagine. It's not that it's not like i'd
be holding onto this, it's like I don't I don't
want to do it. I'll meet new people, I'll have
sex with random people, whatever it is, whatever it may be,
(34:42):
But I think that I would just like my alone
time at that point. And that's why, like I see
what Carly saying, where I don't know. Maybe I've moved
to another country and just start your life and maybe
I would meet someone, but I don't. Like. I just
had this thought of like, if it's not this, I
don't think it's anything for me. M hmm. First off,
(35:03):
I'm flattered, Um, I guess, and it was wasn't about you,
It's more about me. Um, I disagree. But here's the
interesting thing, Like if we broke up whatever, I've never
really in my life tried to date. And this is
gonna sound, this is gonna sound like the athlete that
doesn't work out but still wins like state championships. I've
(35:25):
done pretty well for myself. But I think I've done
well for myself because I've always had a very easy
going approach to relationships. Right, Um, I would. I just
enjoy my life. And this is why why I like
what Carly is saying. I just enjoy my life. I
enjoy going out with my family and my friends, by myself, whatever.
(35:45):
And I've been fortunate enough where my path has crossed
with some pretty incredible people and it worked out. But
I never really I was never in a situation where
I was like, oh man, i'm single on you to
have a girlfriend now or something like that. It always
just kind of worked out, and but part of it
(36:06):
was I've always been someone who goes out right. I
don't like staying home very often. So with my lifestyle
and my approach, they both work together very well. You know,
there's there's a meme that always goes around every now
and then, and it's just like, you know, I would
love to meet my blah blah blah and my favorite
(36:27):
person this and that, but I'm also not leaving my house,
so they kind of have to break in uns they
knock on my door or whatever. And I don't think
I would do that. I think like the thought of
like I wouldn't act, I wouldn't. I would basically live
my life like you essentially right like I wouldn't actively,
I wouldn't even be on dating apps. I don't think.
I just like I got things to do. I want
(36:47):
to enjoy my life and I wouldn't need anyone else,
like holding me back is where my headset, my headset.
You're wearing a headset, you're wearing headphones, yes, mindset. What
is going on? Where my mindset would be the demise
of your day, the demise of your dating, and I
don't know. I I think that that's at least what
(37:08):
I would do for I don't know along a lot
of years, but I bet you, Carlone, a lot of
people have had that thought. A lot of people have
gone through divorce, a lot of people have gone through
hard breakups and then the next thing, you know, six
months later, they find their person um. So I don't
think there's ever a playbook in dating. That's the important thing.
(37:29):
I think having an open mind throughout the entire process,
while you're dating, while you're single, while you're dating, while
you're in a relationship. You have to have an open
mind and understand that things and perceptions and ideas change. Um.
And you're just trying to make the best of a
weird world where nothing makes sense because you're emotional and
emotions generally don't make sense. You can't say that unless
(37:52):
you watch Inside Out. I can't say emotions don't make
sense unless I watch a Pixar movie Sorrow dream Works.
Who makes that? I don't know the Disney property. I
have been telling you for years that you need to
watch that movie because I think it would be like
therapy for you. Am I The Little Red Man the
Little Red the angry Guy. Isn't that the anger guy?
(38:12):
I think so? So you're going to watch that, okay,
And and Spice World, which I asked you to watch
the first few months of this podcast when we started
in two tho DVD People of the World Spice Up
your Life just because what was the next word? It's
like high type because it's there. It's high and different.
(38:34):
Oh yeah, no high see you. It's like hello, goodbye? Yes,
what is it? There's like a meaning to it, even
though it sounds like gibberish at the time, which, by
the way, Spice Up your Life is that the name
of the song. Much better song than I want to be.
(38:55):
I'm going to say it, Hi, much better song than
you want to be. No, Hi see jaw hi j
a I oh so that. I think it's like hello
in three languages or something right or something like that.
There's there's a translation. There's people screaming in their cars
right now. But but guess what, here's the best part
(39:15):
of Twitch. If you were on Twitch, you could be
yelling at us, which is what we do Monday, Tuesday
and Thursday. In this podcast, though, you just gotta sit
and listen to us be dumb and talk about the
demise of the device of the world. According to this tweet,
high see and jaw are yes in Japanese, Spanish and German.
Oh see ye makes sense? Okay, okay, that makes sense.
(39:37):
So it's yes, yes, yes, hi see we'll see we
all know means yes. I in Spanish it means hello.
I'm sorry, it means yes, I just had hello still
in my head. Well, Carla Marie, we've agreed that dating
is interesting. We've agreed that Spice Up Your Life is
(39:58):
a better song than Want We Have No, I said
at first, which means we agree on it. It's not no,
it's got like a like um people, it's not as fun.
It doesn't have that fun jingle to it. It's like
it's fun, but it's not as fun as I want
to be. Is like skipped down the hallway nineties pop,
Take me back and never let me leave again, please,
(40:19):
Like if I could just come back to nineties Like
there are no good pop songs anymore. They're not like
billion Eilish amazing very talented artists. She's she's more of
like an alternative pop artist. It died of Katy Perry.
That's it. There's no more like bubble gum fun sing
along Shawn Mendez, Are you kidding me? Lea? First off,
(40:42):
she doesn't refer to herself as pop. I don't care
what she First you're not allowed. Here's the thing about
pop music is you can't tell the world whether you're
pop music or not. Drake is a pop artist. Not, Yes,
he is, because he's a hip hop artist at his core, right,
like that's what he started as. But his music is
the disco that's right, disco house discoes not a real
(41:04):
thing in it is it is everything is. But But
my my original point though Drake do a LIPA imagine
Dragons would never consider themselves a pop group. And whether
you like them or not, they are a pop group
because their music is popular. And as long as you're
at the top of the charts, right, you're one of
(41:25):
the most dream songs. Rock pop pop is a pop
is a catch all. Anything can be pay You and
I had this conversation a few weeks ago, and I
asked you this question. You did not have an answer
what I said, so you tried telling me that anyone
could be popped right what you just said? Then, what
was Britney spears, so that category of pop would be
(41:48):
known as bubblegump Okay, I'm saying bubble gumpop. And then
I said that and you ignored it. Yes, Oh my god.
I literally said the words pop and then I said,
like bubblegum pop. Well, I was probably already offended by
the time you said pop that I didn't listen to
the rest of the words. So, like, I mean, the
last like bubble gum pops on that came out was
(42:08):
the Shawn Mendez one. What that was? Like you say
the words fast? What the japan one? What? What about BTS?
Does K pop and not count? No, there's nothing holding
me back? Treat you better slow, there's nothing holding me back. No, no, no, no.
(42:35):
That one. There's a flights is it Flights to Japan?
There's a Shawn Mendes song that like they pushed a
little bit, but it didn't do very well. I don't
know what's been going on my search on my safari,
Like only let's make less in Japan is the name
of the song? I need? I need to do so?
So what does BTS? I know they are K pop,
but would we then just consider them like bubble gumpop
(42:59):
because ku is really like pop on steroids. It's meant
to take all of the pieces of pop music and
just make them as exaggerated as possible. So like the
same things that made its own thing. It's pop. But
doesn't the CA just send for Korean? Is that what
it stands for? Let's let's make sure before what did
(43:22):
K pop mean? Yeah, South Korea? Just making sure it
didn't have like some weird meeting and we're just attributing it.
But so K pop is just Korean pop, So bubblegumpop
would have been a pop right, it would have been
American pop. No, you're not made now, just made something up? Okay. Anyway,
this is a discussion for another day. Don't forget Next week,
(43:44):
We've got a big announcement. I really hope you can
be here for it. It's a big My Day Friday announcement.
So that is June three, two, because we know you
can listen to this whenever. So June three, make sure
you are listening to the My Day Friday podcast. We
are going to announce something and you're gonna want to
(44:05):
make sure that you know about it first. Yes, that's
all that we are going to say today Carlon, or
you got anything? Oh what come on on with it?
Today Friday, I posted to my Instagram story a little
(44:27):
question box thing that I am looking for. What's trending suggestions?
So help me do my job for the Morning Show
podcast and let me know like your favorite products because
my thing that I said in there is I literally
can't try and find everything in the world, so I
need your help. All right, Well, we are out of here.
Thank you very much for spending the last forty or
so minutes with us, about forty four if you will,
(44:48):
thank you, Enjoy weekend.
Before we hit the little intro, the little ditty that
I made, um and start My Day Friday. Want to
let everyone know that next week, which is June three, right, Yes,
we are going to have a huge announcement here on
My Day Friday. Okay, so make sure you put it
in your calendar, make sure you hit that subscribe button
here just so you don't miss the podcast episode. Um,
(00:22):
you're gonna want to be here, first episode in June.
Huge announcement My Day Friday. Should I hit the button?
Carla mar Friday, It's Day Friday. It's Pete went from
(00:45):
Far Boy. And you're listening to my two favorite people,
Carla Marie and Anthony. It's Friday Friday. Hi, I'm Perry,
Hi on me, Hi, I'm dressing Hi am jays I
will Alas and you're listening to Yes, Yes, it is
(01:06):
My Day Friday. And welcome to the podcast that started
it all. Before we had a radio show, before we
had a daily podcast, before we had a Twitch channel.
It was merch collection, a clothing line. Yeah, it was
My Day Friday. The O O O G original original
original gangster Okay, thank you. Not really a gangster podcast,
(01:28):
though I always thought like o G meant original original
gangster no no like oh oh like it was like
a abbreviation of original. I mean it could work. Both
letters are in original. Um. And not only was this
the first podcast that you know, we had the first
kind of thing, it's the first podcast radio well no, like,
(01:51):
I give t J a lot of credit because t J,
when he was working for Elvis ND the Morning show,
he did have on Apple podcast because that was like
the only only he was very early on and that's
actually how he got his radio show in Boston and
then brought up Lauren to work with him. And Ronnie
had Independent Minded. Ronnie he used to work for Elvis
ran in the morning show. He was a producer and
had his podcast as well where he would interview independent artists,
(02:15):
which he still does it really, Oh yeah, he still
does it. When I was in Nashville most recently, I
was going to try to meet up with him. Actually
it was when you were there as well, Carla Marie,
back in February when I was speaking at the conference.
But the night that we went out, the night that
we had free he was working on finishing up a
podcast or an interview or something for Independent Minded. But
The reason I bring those two up is they did
(02:36):
have podcasts before us. Oh. I also did a Bachelor podcast,
the first ever. I will tell I will go to
the grave with this one. It had to be the
um first ever Bachelor podcast. Wait, it was me, Great
T and Elizabeth Fazzio, the best assistant in the world.
I'm pretty sure we called it the Final Rows and UM.
(02:58):
Our theme song was Daniel Powder if you had a
bad day, because he had performed that season. Whose season
was that? Do you remember? It was the one before
Desiree was the Bachelorette. So whoever, what's his name? I
don't know. She was on someone's season. You know, it's crazy.
It's all the people that we mentioned don't work at
Elvis round in the Morning show anymore. T J, Ronnie,
(03:20):
Greg T, Elizabeth obviously us UM, but I did I podcast.
They also did a podcast with Greg T for like
three episodes. It was um Sons of Anarchy podcast. Remember
what we use the word podcast at the time. These
were really just audio recordings that we would post onto
(03:41):
Elvis Durand's website. I would play its clips that would yeah,
you would just you'd have to literally play it from
the website. Yeah, I don't even know if you could
like leave the website, you know how, like you can
play and then go to another tabye. On the desktop,
you probably could, but on on mobile it probably would
show mobile. Oh yeah, that was a while ago, Greg,
he was the king of starting podcasts and then not
(04:03):
finishing them. But and then you had another one. I
had one with Garrett and Krista Stephano. Who Christa Stephano
is crushing it right now. Um, regardless of how you
feel about Joe Rogan, some people love him, some people
hate him. Christa Stephano's episode is this week with Joe Rogan,
and I only listened to the first fifteen minutes. Pretty
good so far, but what do you have six more hours?
Since I don't know listen, say what you want about
(04:24):
Joe Rogan. I don't care. I really don't like. If
you love him good, if you hate him good, It
doesn't bother me. I have no opinions on the Guy,
no strong opinions on the Guy. But you know what,
I do have a strong opinion about a three and
a half hour long podcast. Yeah, because like even radio shows,
you have to keep in mind, like the content part
of a radio show, a daily radio show. Our like
(04:49):
we were forty five minutes outside of sports, talking news,
talking like Elvis is what ninety minutes um? But three
I don't want to know do they with that podcast?
Like is it longer? And like how much are those
producers paid, because that is so much, so much to
go through. I don't know what they were paid before,
(05:09):
but I'm hoping that after he signed his hundred million
dollar deal with Spotify, I hope the producer saw some
sort of pay bump. That's always something that I've wanted
to start, is some sort of revenue share in like
the radio or podcast world, where we say, okay you
everyone that works for our team is gonna get a
(05:30):
competitive salary um. And obviously, if we were starting, right,
if this is our company, Carlmury, and we were starting,
I would want it would be it would be tough
to pay people a lot of money because we just
don't have a lot of it now. Right. We're not
an I Heeart Radio. We're not one of those big
companies with millions and millions of dollars. But I would
want to say, you know what, even if we can't
(05:50):
pay you a lot, we're still going to try to
pay you as much as we can. But if this
does well, you will directly see not a bonus, right,
you will see a percentage of what we make and
we'll all from sponsors. Yeah, and we will all sponsors, uh, subscriptions, whatever,
anything that we bring in events, it all gets pulled
together and everyone gets to eat. Like that's the kind
(06:12):
of table that I want to put together. I want
to put together a table where everyone gets to eat.
Maybe I'll start at the head of the table, but
that doesn't mean I'm eating that much more than anyone else.
And this isn't like a pat on our back. It's
just an example when we would do those twitch streams
with like Erica, John, Ricky and Jake, or even when
it was just Ricky and Jake. Whatever money we would
bring in from that stream that night, whether it's bits
(06:34):
or I guess not subscriptions, whatever, it was like bits,
and we would divide it amongst us and make sure
we gave them money because it was their time. And
John was the one that, like venmoted back and I'm like, okay,
you're so well. John's on billboards all across the Pilifornian
I know I gotta go talk to Ruckers because you
know what they did a whole I was a TV
(06:55):
commercial for Ruckers. Um the business school in Nork where
I never filmed that for are you know there was
a team and that was like in two thousand and twelve.
And now I go to the airport and I guess
it's not really a Rucker's thing. It's a New Jersey
Like all Eric le Grand he does pretty awesome stuff
from New Jersey and will say that. Um. Then there's
(07:17):
like Judy Bloom. You know she's great, Judy Bloom. She
spoke at my graduation. What does she do? She writes
amazing children's books. Um. And this is at Newark Airport. Yeah,
on like these pillars and I'm like, hello, Tony Soprano,
what's his real name? James Gambles Graduatedy Houston is up there.
(07:38):
Maybe we should start putting some live We probably should
Killy Rippers up there. Yeah, she's my cousin. No she's not.
She is. Um. When you go to ancestry, there's RiPP
Us because that one name is there. But back to
the reason I brought all this up, right, We started
by saying, like seven minutes ago, this is the podcast
(07:58):
that started it all and the other thing that we
kicked off, and I think for some reason it didn't
maybe because podcasting was still super super rare when t
J left. But when we left Elvis durrant In the
Morning Show, it was oftentimes credited because t J was
also on the air, So that's one of the reasons
(08:20):
he was able to get a job in Boston. We weren't.
We weren't full time on air people, So we gotta
hosting a radio hosting gig our own morning show in
a big market based on our podcast, based on this
podcast and based on you listening and interacting and all
of that stuff. Um So once that happened, it kind
of like blew up, like the industry started writing articles
(08:42):
about what we had done from podcasting to radio, and
all of a sudden, not only at Elvis drund In
the Morning Show, but around the country, everyone had their
own podcast. And it's cool to see that it's actually
worked for other people. Erica and John can really credit
their time on almost on air yea almost famous almost
(09:02):
on air to the jobs they hold now. And obviously
they put in work other ways and whatnot. In the
Southern California area. But it's like, um, supplement is up
the word I was gonna say, it's a showcase of
their talents. No, but I mean like yeah, people go
from just like podcasting to radio without having radio experience.
But like now, truly people are being told in radio
(09:25):
you're not going to get an on air job unless
you also have a podcast. And that's how they're using
to quote unquote air check. And that's it's because the
stations and this was even going on when we left
Elvis Round in the Morning show. The stations were used
to people used to quote unquote their teeth right where
they go and and practice the uh Tulsa's of the world,
(09:46):
the Richmond's, the you know, Norfolk, Virginia Grand Rapids Mission.
They don't have their own live uh stations anymore. I
mean even like a Denver station right thinking about this, Denver, Colorado,
big city, important city. Um, most of the stations there,
(10:06):
outside of sports and news talk don't have live people.
I mean in Denver, Colorado, on an iHeart station, you've
got a show from outside in the morning, You've got
a show from outside at night, you've got a show
from outside overnights. I think they have one live person
in that building. Lot is like just radio as an
industry shooting themselves in the foot at this point. But two,
(10:27):
I guess play devil's advocate. I don't want to say defend,
but play devils devil's advocate here. Like radio doesn't take
in the amount of money like we see them say like,
oh we made this millions of dollars. Yes, but like
the thing about radio in the eighties and like nineties,
that was the place to go to advertise, right, companies
like laugh truly laugh when you're like, oh, add dollars
(10:52):
on radio, Like I had someone, it's usually just done
very poorly. Not only that, but people but who's like
I'll get the question because I'll I've talked. I've had
several people reach out to me, small businesses that I
know that like, hey, we're considering radio. We have questions
and then they come to me and they're like, but
who's listening to radio anymore? Because no one at our
company does, so we don't want to spend the money
(11:13):
and so to radios. I guess defense in that case,
that's why they're syndicating, because it's easier and cheaper. Now again,
there are several executives that do nothing and makes all
this money and and ruined lives and whatever that don't
need to be doing that. There's money that can be
rebudgeted for sure and reinvigorate the industry that's just not
(11:35):
going to happen. And part of it. So there is
the audience aspect, right, So if you listen to this podcast,
there's a good chance you listen. You have a favorite
radio station is probably Elvis to around in the morning show, um,
if you're at least if you're on the East coast. Um.
So it's not to say that no one listens radio.
One of the things that advertisers struggle with though, when
they are asked to put their money on radio, right
(11:56):
a salesperson from my Heart or Odyssey or Cumulus comes
up and says, oh, you got the great show in
this great station. You should pay us to talk about
your product. The problem they run into is when you
compare advertising on radio to advertising in podcasts, advertising on Facebook, Instagram,
any digital platform. There's no accountability in radio because the
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numbers that they're getting aren't real people now, so a
little back, a little like inside Baseball, if you will.
We've explained about this before. So for the city, for
the metro area of Seattle, which is in total just
under four million people. Right, so you go from like
Everett down to Tacoma and all the places in and
around Seattle, four million people. Just about the ratings that
(12:46):
represent those four million people actually only come from about
eight hundred active survey participants. There are supposed to be
fourteen hundred that are in it, but only about are
actually active. So now you're saying, oh, well, all those
numbers are saying, oh, this radio station gets two million
listens a week or so whatever, it's inflated, but six
(13:08):
hundred thousand listens a week. You go, okay, well, how
do you prove that to me? Well, these three people
and Everett listen. Well, that's three people, but we have
to multiply it because they're representing their area, so their race,
their gender, their age group. Yeah, so when you see things,
it's radio is getting hit from a lot of angles.
One like, they don't make a lot of money, the
(13:29):
structure isn't great, and you have executives who are lazy
and don't want to actually help build new talent. So lucky,
we're we're lucky. We have friends who are part of
that new Yeah, you know, we have Ricky, we have John,
we have Erica. They're kind of the new uh, a
new class if you will, up and commerce m I
(13:50):
guess I don't know, but cable commers is a weird word.
Cable TV is also problem, the same problem, um and
I feel like a lot of the de mice for
dece do you say de French mice? They could be
(14:12):
Spanish demise de do you see the do you see
words when you're saying them? I saw it with an ass.
Does this happen on Joe Rogan's podcast? You know thanos
(14:32):
he was just sitting there planning the device of the world.
That's right, Demise? Why is the English language look stupid?
That's not a z anyway, anyway, please tell me about
the device. Well, it was going to be a really
(14:53):
thoughtful thing, but now I can't single device three. Oh man,
you know what, let's go. We're not gonna talk anymore
(15:14):
to radio. Device of this podcast is talking business. The
demise of radio and TV is going to go back
to the fact that they put all of their eggs
in the Nielsen bucket. And Nielsen is the rating system
that in the end is going to kill radio and
TV because guess what's not judged by Nielsen anything digital
(15:37):
and I have I don't need to pay a company
to look at our ratings. Nelson does have streaming numbers.
They do do streaming ratings like live streaming. No, I
think they do numbers for for other streaming services anyway,
not Netflix Netflix, and just go under the hood and
be like, this is what happened. That is how many
people watched it. So then you have to trust Netflix.
(15:57):
True now if there's a like third party whatever, But
I like that is becoming a major issue in radio
and TV are decades beyond decades into this now and
they're trying to come out of it, like how else
can we get ratings? And they just don't know what
to do YEA and part of it if I know
for radio, I don't know if TV works this way.
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But there's big advertisers, right, so like think your agencies
that represent Pepsi and Cocacola and stuff. A lot of
times your big radio companies aren't even pitching them per
radio station, right. They don't do like updates. They say, hey,
we'll give you a share of this this pie that
we have based on your ratings, and it's like an
automated thing. But as less and less people listen or
(16:39):
or watch, um, it becomes harder and harder to make
that money. Now we're moving on because last week we
asked people to text us with their dating dilemmas. Now
we're gonna are we gonna like, We're gonna start very
small and detailed, nuanced, and then get to a much
bigger conversation after that. Because we have two great emails
that were sent to us. One was from Larry, one
was from Harley. Okay, we got New Jersey and we
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just put them together, make them date. It's gonna be
far and especially when you realize what Larry's situation is.
A long distance thing might not be good for him, okay,
or it might be great. So you can always email
us hello at Carla, Marie and Anthony dot com. What
de mice the device of this relationship. Believe that de
(17:26):
mice my brain on COVID. I don't have it now,
but okay, the first email we're gonna get to, because
this is more nuanced, it's it's very specific, is from
Larry who lives in New Jersey. Now Larry has started
talking to this woman from the Bronx. And when you
look at it on a map, North Jersey to the
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Bronx not very far like I lived. So I lived
in North Jersey and the Yankees playing the Bronx door
to door. If there was no traffic at all, I
could probably get to Yankee Stadium in what mythical world,
but in real in the real world, four Yankees gonna
we can take me two hours. So think about that,
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going twenty five minutes to two hours to get to
Yankee Stadium. Okay, the only people I feel like really
understand this are people from Los Angeles. Sounds not I mean,
sounds bad, but not not normally as bad. Um. So
here's how Larry's email goes. He said, I have a
little dating dilemma. It's going to sound very small, but
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it's a dilemma. I'm talking to someone that lives in
the Bronx and I'm from North Jersey, thirty minutes away
when we met. When we meet in the Bronx, she
usually picks the time to meet, so I try to
get there early. But no matter what time I leave
my place, I'm always fifteen minutes late. The traffic on
the cross Bronx is against me. First day, I left
forty five minutes early and was fifteen minutes late. Second date,
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I left an hour early and I was still fifteen
minutes late. Tomorrow will be the third time I go over,
and I plan on leaving one hour in fifteen minutes early.
Wish me luck. How does she How did you find her? Yeah,
that is a good question. But here's what I would suggest. Okay,
when is this chick coming to Jersey? Well, first off,
she should make the trip to Jersey. Read it should
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be But you're still early in the process. I know,
but I would feel so guilty if someone just kept
coming to me. You know, usually they don't. I'll tell
you this much, as a guy who has had to
travel to go see girls, there's very rarely any guilt
about the amount of time we drive going to see
you guys. You guys. Okay, girls, I should say, um now, ladies,
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he says. This is the sentence that sticks out to
me in Larry's email, said, when we meet in the Bronx,
So maybe they do meet in Jersey. When we meet
in the Bronx, she usually picks the time to meet.
So what I would say to solve this dilemma and
tell me if I'm crazy, Carlmrie, I think if I
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am driving to see you in a place where there
is always traffic to get there, I should be allowed
to pick the time because I can then and figure
out better how to get there, and and it will
be more time conducing to my time. Like I can't
tell here if it was like, is there ever a
conversation where Larry is like this time and She's like, no,
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this time, because I think next time you're going to
go to the Bronx, just be like, hey, would you
want to do something at noon? Whatever time it is?
So I don't know. I mean, that's like a very
long distance relationship. You're better off driving to Ohio for
carle so you can take a flight easier to Ohio
than driving to the Bronx. I used to um drive
for my dad. I was actually just talking to my
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mom and my aunt about this. So when I first
got my license, I was seventeen years old, because that's
what you get your license in New Jersey. And actually
it's illegal to seventeen year old in Manhattan and in
Long Island. I believe, well, it's illegal to leave at seventeen,
it's illegal to leave New Jersey. Well, I was doing
it all the time. I did it my first weekend,
I went to Palasades Park Mall. If you don't know this,
my dad is a jeweler, and the jewelry district is
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on St. In Manhattan. It's like and fifth. So I
would drive there to go to my dad's, like diamond
dealers and distributors and you know all the people the
backbone of the jewelry industry. Yeah, actually we're on cuts
took place. They did a very good job of the
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very detailed things about going into the street diamond dealers
and stuff. And I still have friends who worked there,
but coming back every day. I would go there three
times a week for my dad. Driving into New York
City from North Jersey Route four to St. There were
times where it would take me three and a half hours.
I've quit three and a half hours to drive, like
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all right, that's when I'd say, sorry, Dad, I'm you're
on your own. And most of that was because the
Cross Bronx was so backed up that it went into
like everything around it around the George Washington Bridge. How
did you have to I don't I don't like I
wouldn't have had the time at seventeen years old to
spend three hours doing that, And it's only I was
like sticking around on my phone back then, Like I
had cheerleading practice for hours, so it was it wasn't
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during It was normally during the summer after my senior
year because I got my Remember I got my license
in the summer, um, so during the school year. I
didn't do that during high school my senior year, but
then in college in the summer. Uh no, I mean
late summer I did football, but it wasn't that bad. Um.
But then when I graduated, Yeah, he would pay me.
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I would do it during uh my off days from
sting hawks. I was still living at home my freshman year.
So anyway, Larry, good luck with that. That stinks. Just
driving to the Bronx is the worst. Yeah, I guess
we just said send us your dating dilemmas. We didn't
say we were going to help fix them. No. I
mean I think that is a solution, is maybe Larry
needs to be the one to set the time. Is
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she pissed that you're fifteen minutes? We'll see if they
keep dating, then we'll know next up. Is this is Carly.
It's a longer email. Um, but I'll go through it quickly.
And there's no problem with sending us long emails by yeah,
I can just see it from That's how we got
to know Chris from Texas. He would send us very
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long emails and we love them so Carly in Ohio
and I have to read this first part. I was
listening to My Day Friday and decided to write about
the dating dilemma I am dealing with as a single person.
Before I start, though, I just wanted to let you
know that I'm a huge fan of My Day Friday,
your Twitch show, and especially the Morning Show podcast. I
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listen every morning while I get ready for work. And
if you have not done so yet, I mean very
short of begging you, which this is gonna sound like
I'm begging you. Anyway, please listen to and subscribe to
the Morning Show podcast. It's free. It is free. It's
just like this, but better and more often. Also, I
don't know that when I was a kid, I wanted
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my name to be Carly because I thought it was cooler.
And we'll still call you Carly Murray and I'm like, damn,
Carly Murrie is so cute. Maybe maybe if I like
leave this whole industry and I want to like a
new life, I'm gonna go by Carly Murray. You're only fans.
That would be a good one, all right now, getting
into Carly from Ohio's email. I'm about to be thirty
in a few weeks and am one of the last
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singles among my friends. I feel like my biggest problem
when it comes to dating our time and meeting people,
which are two very common issues. I work full time
and I'm super close to my family, so between work
plans with family and friends and then just doing basic
things like working out, running errands, and housework, I rarely
have free time, and if I'm being honest, I would
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rather spend the free time I do have relaxing at
home with my cats and a book or binge watching
a show and then rather than going out and meeting people.
The majority, the majority of my friends that are in
relationships met their significant others in high school or college,
but that wasn't my experience. I'm from a pretty small
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town in Ohio, and I don't really even know where
to meet people other than dating apps, which I'm not
super comfortable with mostly due to watching too many crime shows. Oh,
Fred the Mailman, we could put them together. Maybe I
don't know what the age differences, or if it matters.
I'm all also not super into the idea of getting
married or having kids, So I guess I've never been
in a rush to date. I'm pretty content just doing
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my own thing, and I've always felt that it would
be nice if I did beat someone, but it's not
something I feel the need to seek out. I've rambled
on long enough. But these are the things that came
to mind when thinking about issues I have when it
comes to dating. So thanks for taking the time to
read them. You look great. You look great. So here's
my take on this, because she said at the very end,
these are things that came to mind about issues on dating.
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She also said she was very She's content. To me,
that's not Carly's dating dilemma. That's just the society making
her think that this is a dating dilemma. She's not like,
I'm sad and I'm alone. I want I need someone
if someone comes along in her life that fits into
her life with some minor changes. Obviously, we all make
sacrifices and compromises and anything. He once told me he
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doesn't make compromises, so that's a that was a thing.
But anyway, I and I will explain more. I'll let
Anthony like give his thought, but I think you're fine.
And again, like, if you get invited somewhere and you
know there's new people, just go. It is always great
to talk to new people. You learn things about yourself
when you do that. But like forcing yourself to go
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on dates, especially in your thirties, when you get to
the point it's like it's not fun anymore. So I'm
going to agree and disagree with you, car and then
I'm gonna pull pull one thing from um Carly is
an email that I think is very strong in one
place where I think she can use some improvement, or
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at least not even improvement, a mindset adjustment. Adjustment. Okay,
because a lot of things, especially in the dating world,
and a lot of things in life, really come down
to your perception of them. Right, we did you speed
dating in every city, so I didn't want to do
a twitch show where we do a dating show anyway. Um,
So here's a couple of things. Number One, I agree
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with you, Carl Marie in that I don't think Carly
necessarily has a dilemma on her hands. Um, I disagree
in the idea your perception of dating as you enter
your thirties, right late twenties or early thirties, If you
look at anything as an inconvenience, it is an inconvenience. Right,
(27:20):
doing the dishes is an inconvenience. But you need to
do the dishes to have clean plates. So I gotta
look at doing the dishes as fun and it won't
be anything. You have to look at it as a
step towards a goal you are trying to achieve. Okay,
then if you're just but that's not a goal Carly
is trying to achieve, you're just saying to me that,
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So this is but this is going back to there's
like I said, there are four things I was gonna
talk about. One was agreeing with you when was disagreeing
with you. So I agree that Carly is actually not
in a bad place. Uh not. That doesn't mean it's
not a dilemma. I just don't think it's a bad
place to be. You said it wasn't a dilemma. Yeah,
when you know, let me explain, Okay, Um, I just
disagree on the oh, dating is such a hassle type
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perception of dating um because I I come from the
school of thought where meeting people is awesome. Meeting people
when you don't have expectations to place on those people
is even better. And that's why I think Carly is
in an awesome spot. Yes, I agree with you, because
if if you're not in a rush to get married
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have kids, if you don't have outside forces or internal
forces that you feel are pushing you towards this status,
this relationship status, or you know, family status, you're in
a great place because now you can look at everything honestly.
You can go out on a date, whether it's someone
you meet at the workplace, some of you meet at
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an event, someone you meet a stranger at a bar
that you that you hit it off with. You can
go out. You can say let's let's go grab a drink,
don't even call it a date. Hey, what are you
doing next Friday? Do you want to go grab a
drink at this other bar? Or it back here? Whatever
you go, you go into that with no exactly no pressure,
and it's phenomenal and especially for Carly, who has made
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it clear that she you know, getting married and having
kids is not something she's like rushing to do. Right,
So there's no you can meet someone when you're sixty,
Like there's no time limit, there's no ticking clock. That's like,
hurry up, that's it. It's all going to dry up,
like it doesn't matter. So but here's the one thing
that I think could use an adjustment in the I
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know what you're gonna say, and I don't agree. Okay,
what that she's binging TV shows and watching and sitting
with her cats partly okay? And the only reason I
say there's an attitude adjustment or a philosophy of philosophical
adjustment if you will, is Carly also said in the
email that one of the things she does, um, where
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is it working out? Okay? So working out an interesting
thing to look because working out is understanding there is
a a future goal of some sort, whether it's overall health, what,
whether it's longevity, whether it's happiness. Uh, there's a lot,
and you're putting in time today to reap the rewards later, right,
(30:17):
So and sometimes you might I know I do. I
hate going to the gym sometimes because I'm just tired
or I have so many other things on my mind,
but I still make that the sacrifice that day because
I know down the road I will be happier than
I went today. And I think you can look at
the dating world similarly, like, yeah, there are times where
you might have made a date plan three weeks ago
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and it gets to that day and you're like, shoot,
I'm so tired today. I don't I don't know if
I wanted this, maybe I'll cancel. But the long term
outlook on going on dates, getting out of the house
and not And I think we put too much pressure
on going on dates, but just getting out of the
house to do things, the long term rewards are really important,
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right because when you're old, all of us, when we
are old, if we make it that long, we're gonna
have kind of no option other than just sitting at
home with our cats and our books and our TV shows.
Right at some point, at some point, that becomes your life.
Look at every grandparent you've seen, and they could be active,
right like my grandmother up until very late wood walk
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to the grocery store in town, do all of those things.
But if it makes you happy, yes, But much like
the gym scenario, they're working out scenario if you know
that the work today is going to make you happier
in the future than it's worth it, much like investing,
much like going to the gym, much like a lot
of those things where your reward is down the road,
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it's not today, even though with the gym it's a
little different because you do have endorphins and they make
you feel better in the moment um. But maybe, but
maybe going on a date with someone won't make her
life again again. We have to a just it's not
just going out on dates. It's just going out with friends,
even if you're going out with your friends who have
significant others. I will say that as much as I'm
always like, oh my god, I don't want to do this,
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I don't want to do this, I don't want to
make a plan, I always feel good making the plan.
And I think, for Carly, dates aside, what things with
friends or whatever it may be, and new people are there.
If you like, make yourself do it next time and
see how you feel afterwards. And I love the idea
of going into all of this with very little expectations. Right,
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if you can go out with your friends who have
significant others and just have a good time you don't
need to go beat someone when you're with them. You
can go out with your single friends, which apparently there
are a few of remaining. Um, But don't worry, you'll
have more down the road because you're friends that are
in relationships. At least a couple of them are going
to break up, so you'll have more single friends. Um.
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But going out with them with no expectations is a
really strong base for all of your activities. If you
said Carly in the email, I need to have a
boyfriend or clock is taking um, you know, because women
say that I'm almost thirty and I'm still single. Blah
blah blah. That's a whole different discussion. But I love
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where Carly's head is at in terms of like, hey,
I'm I'm content and I'd love to be content, possibly
with another person if it works out. And I think
that's really strong. So what I was going to say
is last week when you said something about email us
about dating dilem as, I said, I was going to
say something for next week that I actually was randomly
thinking about dating wise and it pertains to Carly, which
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is bizarre. I like randomly thought, like if you and
I break up, and in things, I thought to myself,
I don't like, I don't think I'm going to try
to date other people, like not even like, oh, I'm
gonna take like six months off or whatever. Like I
think at that point in my life, whenever it is,
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I will have decided like I'm good, I'm just gonna
be the cool and and I'm gonna not only would
you not try, but like you would you be trying
to stay by yourself for the rest of you because
this relationship is like I know, I won't like find
anything else like this without like I don't like like
this and I don't not trying to get mushy. It
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just works so well in so many ways, and I
don't like, I don't think I would want to try again.
I know I've been in relationships before, whe I'm like, oh,
I can't imagine. It's not that it's not like i'd
be holding onto this, it's like I don't I don't
want to do it. I'll meet new people, I'll have
sex with random people, whatever it is, whatever it may be,
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But I think that I would just like my alone
time at that point. And that's why, like I see
what Carly saying, where I don't know. Maybe I've moved
to another country and just start your life and maybe
I would meet someone, but I don't. Like. I just
had this thought of like, if it's not this, I
don't think it's anything for me. M hmm. First off,
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I'm flattered, Um, I guess, and it was wasn't about you,
It's more about me. Um, I disagree. But here's the
interesting thing, Like if we broke up whatever, I've never
really in my life tried to date. And this is
gonna sound, this is gonna sound like the athlete that
doesn't work out but still wins like state championships. I've
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done pretty well for myself. But I think I've done
well for myself because I've always had a very easy
going approach to relationships. Right, Um, I would. I just
enjoy my life. And this is why why I like
what Carly is saying. I just enjoy my life. I
enjoy going out with my family and my friends, by myself, whatever.
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And I've been fortunate enough where my path has crossed
with some pretty incredible people and it worked out. But
I never really I was never in a situation where
I was like, oh man, i'm single on you to
have a girlfriend now or something like that. It always
just kind of worked out, and but part of it
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was I've always been someone who goes out right. I
don't like staying home very often. So with my lifestyle
and my approach, they both work together very well. You know,
there's there's a meme that always goes around every now
and then, and it's just like, you know, I would
love to meet my blah blah blah and my favorite
(36:27):
person this and that, but I'm also not leaving my house,
so they kind of have to break in uns they
knock on my door or whatever. And I don't think
I would do that. I think like the thought of
like I wouldn't act, I wouldn't. I would basically live
my life like you essentially right like I wouldn't actively,
I wouldn't even be on dating apps. I don't think.
I just like I got things to do. I want
(36:47):
to enjoy my life and I wouldn't need anyone else,
like holding me back is where my headset, my headset.
You're wearing a headset, you're wearing headphones, yes, mindset. What
is going on? Where my mindset would be the demise
of your day, the demise of your dating, and I
don't know. I I think that that's at least what
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I would do for I don't know along a lot
of years, but I bet you, Carlone, a lot of
people have had that thought. A lot of people have
gone through divorce, a lot of people have gone through
hard breakups and then the next thing, you know, six
months later, they find their person um. So I don't
think there's ever a playbook in dating. That's the important thing.
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I think having an open mind throughout the entire process,
while you're dating, while you're single, while you're dating, while
you're in a relationship. You have to have an open
mind and understand that things and perceptions and ideas change. Um.
And you're just trying to make the best of a
weird world where nothing makes sense because you're emotional and
emotions generally don't make sense. You can't say that unless
(37:52):
you watch Inside Out. I can't say emotions don't make
sense unless I watch a Pixar movie Sorrow dream Works.
Who makes that? I don't know the Disney property. I
have been telling you for years that you need to
watch that movie because I think it would be like
therapy for you. Am I The Little Red Man the
Little Red the angry Guy. Isn't that the anger guy?
(38:12):
I think so? So you're going to watch that, okay,
And and Spice World, which I asked you to watch
the first few months of this podcast when we started
in two tho DVD People of the World Spice Up
your Life just because what was the next word? It's
like high type because it's there. It's high and different.
(38:34):
Oh yeah, no high see you. It's like hello, goodbye? Yes,
what is it? There's like a meaning to it, even
though it sounds like gibberish at the time, which, by
the way, Spice Up your Life is that the name
of the song. Much better song than I want to be.
(38:55):
I'm going to say it, Hi, much better song than
you want to be. No, Hi see jaw hi j
a I oh so that. I think it's like hello
in three languages or something right or something like that.
There's there's a translation. There's people screaming in their cars
right now. But but guess what, here's the best part
(39:15):
of Twitch. If you were on Twitch, you could be
yelling at us, which is what we do Monday, Tuesday
and Thursday. In this podcast, though, you just gotta sit
and listen to us be dumb and talk about the
demise of the device of the world. According to this tweet,
high see and jaw are yes in Japanese, Spanish and German.
Oh see ye makes sense? Okay, okay, that makes sense.
(39:37):
So it's yes, yes, yes, hi see we'll see we
all know means yes. I in Spanish it means hello.
I'm sorry, it means yes, I just had hello still
in my head. Well, Carla Marie, we've agreed that dating
is interesting. We've agreed that Spice Up Your Life is
(39:58):
a better song than Want We Have No, I said
at first, which means we agree on it. It's not no,
it's got like a like um people, it's not as fun.
It doesn't have that fun jingle to it. It's like
it's fun, but it's not as fun as I want
to be. Is like skipped down the hallway nineties pop,
Take me back and never let me leave again, please,
(40:19):
Like if I could just come back to nineties Like
there are no good pop songs anymore. They're not like
billion Eilish amazing very talented artists. She's she's more of
like an alternative pop artist. It died of Katy Perry.
That's it. There's no more like bubble gum fun sing
along Shawn Mendez, Are you kidding me? Lea? First off,
(40:42):
she doesn't refer to herself as pop. I don't care
what she First you're not allowed. Here's the thing about
pop music is you can't tell the world whether you're
pop music or not. Drake is a pop artist. Not, Yes,
he is, because he's a hip hop artist at his core, right,
like that's what he started as. But his music is
the disco that's right, disco house discoes not a real
(41:04):
thing in it is it is everything is. But But
my my original point though Drake do a LIPA imagine
Dragons would never consider themselves a pop group. And whether
you like them or not, they are a pop group
because their music is popular. And as long as you're
at the top of the charts, right, you're one of
(41:25):
the most dream songs. Rock pop pop is a pop
is a catch all. Anything can be pay You and
I had this conversation a few weeks ago, and I
asked you this question. You did not have an answer
what I said, so you tried telling me that anyone
could be popped right what you just said? Then, what
was Britney spears, so that category of pop would be
(41:48):
known as bubblegump Okay, I'm saying bubble gumpop. And then
I said that and you ignored it. Yes, Oh my god.
I literally said the words pop and then I said,
like bubblegum pop. Well, I was probably already offended by
the time you said pop that I didn't listen to
the rest of the words. So, like, I mean, the
last like bubble gum pops on that came out was
(42:08):
the Shawn Mendez one. What that was? Like you say
the words fast? What the japan one? What? What about BTS?
Does K pop and not count? No, there's nothing holding
me back? Treat you better slow, there's nothing holding me back. No, no, no, no.
(42:35):
That one. There's a flights is it Flights to Japan?
There's a Shawn Mendes song that like they pushed a
little bit, but it didn't do very well. I don't
know what's been going on my search on my safari,
Like only let's make less in Japan is the name
of the song? I need? I need to do so?
So what does BTS? I know they are K pop,
but would we then just consider them like bubble gumpop
(42:59):
because ku is really like pop on steroids. It's meant
to take all of the pieces of pop music and
just make them as exaggerated as possible. So like the
same things that made its own thing. It's pop. But
doesn't the CA just send for Korean? Is that what
it stands for? Let's let's make sure before what did
(43:22):
K pop mean? Yeah, South Korea? Just making sure it
didn't have like some weird meeting and we're just attributing it.
But so K pop is just Korean pop, So bubblegumpop
would have been a pop right, it would have been
American pop. No, you're not made now, just made something up? Okay. Anyway,
this is a discussion for another day. Don't forget Next week,
(43:44):
We've got a big announcement. I really hope you can
be here for it. It's a big My Day Friday announcement.
So that is June three, two, because we know you
can listen to this whenever. So June three, make sure
you are listening to the My Day Friday podcast. We
are going to announce something and you're gonna want to
(44:05):
make sure that you know about it first. Yes, that's
all that we are going to say today Carlon, or
you got anything? Oh what come on on with it?
Today Friday, I posted to my Instagram story a little
(44:27):
question box thing that I am looking for. What's trending suggestions?
So help me do my job for the Morning Show
podcast and let me know like your favorite products because
my thing that I said in there is I literally
can't try and find everything in the world, so I
need your help. All right, Well, we are out of here.
Thank you very much for spending the last forty or
so minutes with us, about forty four if you will,
(44:48):
thank you, Enjoy weekend.
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