May 13, 2022 • 38 mins
There are two types of people in this world, those who curse in front of their parents and those who don't - which one are you? Becoming a parent obviously changes your life ... what is one major thing you changed?
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Looks like we made it to another weekend. And this
is actually one of the first weekends where I don't
think I have anything at all planned. You didn't have
anything planned last weekend, buddy, But I feel like we
did something last weekend. Friday evening we did something. Yep,
we watched Um we got Sushi, and we watched Christis
Stephano No, and then we met up with our friend
E White. That was like the last minute, spontaneous thing,
(00:20):
but it was still like a thing, you know what
I mean. He was still going out and doing something.
I've got nothing zero, absolutely not a planned for this weekend.
E White is on the air in Monesota, Minnesota. I
do that all the time on Katie w B and
in Minneapolis. What that's in Minnesota? Okay, He's also on
(00:44):
in places like Denver. He's on across the country with
with I Heart Radio. Great guy, and he has a podcast.
And we had only like said maybe seven words to
each other on social media, and he had deemed me
on Friday. I was like, Hey, I'm in Seattle for
this weekend. I know, the super random, but if you
guys are available to want to hang out. We spent
like five hours together on Saturday night. But it is
nice to not have any plans except for this podcast
(01:06):
and let's get this thing started day. It's Friday, It's
Pete went from Far Boy, and you're listening to my
two favorite people, Carla Marie and Anthony. Is Friday Friday. Hi,
(01:29):
I'm carry hi only I am dressing. Hi am jee,
I'm willing, and you're listening to Yes, welcome to the
podcast that started it all. The only reason I even
like Carla Marie a little bit is from this podcast.
And I wonder if Pete Wentz still thinks we are
(01:52):
his two favorite people. I wonder if he still holds
that belief. Probably, Um, I'm saying this and we don't
forget it. We have to read some of the emails
that we got when we had said, has anyone listened
to all of the episodes, It seems like you have.
It seems like there are people who have done that.
But I will mention this person now. Henry Davidson had
(02:14):
said he's listened to all of them except for the
elusive number one. I was like, we definitely ended up
posting it one week when we didn't have we were
I remember we were in like Tahoe and we didn't
have like enough internet or something or whatever it was.
So I was like, I can upload this new there
was a reason why we couldn't do it. So I
found the old number one and I posted it. And
(02:34):
the first podcast you're talking about. You keep calling it
the number one, but it is the number one, the
first podcast, and I have, like, we have the audio.
I started playing it yesterday and I was like, I
called you Carla and Anthony, I don't care what he says,
and we're going to finally play at some point for
everyone here. Your Jersey accent, you're like Calla and I
(02:55):
doing money fun. What I did not sound like that.
I was like, why who are these people? And I'm like, yeah,
it's so fun. The weekend, Yeah it is weird. I
heard a little bit of it. The weird part was
calling you Carla. I haven't done that in a very
long time. It's funny because everyone at Elvis the show
used to before, like when you first started, before you
(03:17):
were actually on the air as a personality, you were
just Carla. You were the stupid girl from North Arlington, Carla.
I was interned Carla and Elvis, which I don't mind
intern car I don't. I don't mind when there's something
else right, like aunt Carla was okay, that's about it.
My friends just called me Carl in high school sometimes yeah,
my one friend, UM, but I UM. When I got
(03:41):
hired officially, I remember Brodie saying to me, you have
to decide if you want to go by Carla or
Carlo Marie. And I was like, m M, let's do Carla. Well.
My only concern was that it was a lot of
a lot to say. It's two names, and I wanted
to go by Carlo. But I was like, I don't
know what to do, like I was gonna be mad,
(04:02):
and I wasn't sure what to put on my business
card at the time whatever it was. And he was like, well,
what do you want to be called? And I said Carla.
Marine's like, let's do it, because people have given you crap, Like, oh,
I wonder if you know, maybe you can change your
name and be just be Carla or something. I wonder
if anyone had that conversation early on with John Jay,
who's a huge radio personality in the Phoenix area in
(04:24):
Arizona overall, because I think he's on in Tucson as
well that's where they started. UM. But the show is
John Jay and Rich And for a long time I
thought it was three people too, because I remember Elvis
was on in the Phoenix area for a little bit
and everyone's like, oh, the big show. There is this
show called John Jay and Rich. It was like who
is John? Was like, who's who is Rich? That sounds
like three very ordinary dudes, John J and Rich Um,
(04:46):
But obviously he has a two part name as well.
John J is the first is the guys there. I
never had those issues of those conversations until we moved
to see Alan got our own show. Yeah. Well that's
also because it was set on the air as a brand.
It wasn't just like hey, our our phone producer Carla
Marie is here right now. But it's also because when
(05:07):
we worked for Elvis UM, there was minimal interaction from
you know, the big executives around the country. We had
one guy, his name is Dennis, who was fabulous, but
he's like best friends with Elvis, so it's different. It
was like having it was like having your crazy uncle
come in every now and then and and help, Like
when your parents can't control you, your uncle comes in
(05:28):
and we've worked with Dennis Now for I mean, I've
I've known Dennis for twelve thirteen years, but he was
one of the first people who took my day Friday
and was like, hey, other people need to listen to this.
Within the company, it's all him. So but when we
got to Seattle, all of a sudden, it was like
all hands on deck. And because Seattle is a big
city and an important city and the station's here had
done poorly for so long, I mean, it was going
(05:50):
on a decade of failing in the city of Seattle
with I Heart Radio specifically, it was like every single
exact could even the company needed, needed to interject their opinion.
And generally speaking, when you're not actually involved in something
or asked about something, but you feel like you need
to get your opinion hurt or just have an opinion,
(06:12):
they're usually terrible. Right. If you don't have anything you
need to say, you probably shouldn't say anything. And a
lot of was like, well, maybe we should just drop
her name and make it Carla because it's easier for
people to understand or here. But welcome to the age
in which we talked to her as or speak to
her as Carla Marie, and I will go by nothing
(06:32):
else other than aunt Carla carrew car That's what Gabriella
used to call me, my niece when she was a baby.
We don't do it anymore, no, but sometimes people in
my family will call me that. That's silly, but I
guess we. We sometimes called my brother Justin Jackson. Okay,
that's stupid. Well it's because my grandfather, I don't know.
(06:53):
He definitely knew how to say Justin. He knew all
of our other names. But I mean the guy didn't
really speak English, and he just one day in his
head it clicked that Justin's name was Jackson, and he
just for Justin's whole life he was Jackson. I feel
like old people do that on purpose, but also like
growing up my brother or my even like my dad
would purposely get boyfriends or boy friend names wrong. Yeah,
(07:17):
it's like it's like a way to like one up
them a little bit. And um, my best friend Alex,
her dad does that all the It's a dad thing.
It's like a dad joke, dad humor. If you could say,
who is the ultimate, like put this photo next to
dad joke, it is Alex's that Really, I would my
friend Steve, his dad is like the king of dad jokes.
(07:39):
And I've met Steve's dad and I could see that
and they are very similar. But you've never met Alex
at home or not. He is a hoot. Uh he So.
Alex had three best friends growing up, Dave, Dan and Brian,
and he used to call them Doug, Dork and Brad
and what a dad move right, And that's all you
would call him is Doug, Dirk and Brad. I plan
on doing that one day. Yeah, I totally will. I'm
(08:01):
gonna have so many good dad jokes and dad is ums.
I'm not going to wear the dad's shoes though, but
they're like cool. No, I'm not wearing the monarchs. I
know that they've had like collapse and stuff to make
monarchs cooler. They're called I got the felis. I was
actually woke up this morning and I was like, I'm
ordering wig wamps. Didn't okay, I'm the socks. Do you
(08:23):
remember those? Those are called wigwams. This is a wig
wam like a Native American. That's what they were called
that I was a cheerleader, like the big white thick socks.
They were called wigwams. So cheerleading socks now that I
think about it, probably when I said it, I was like,
that doesn't make it, It doesn't make any sense. Yeah,
(08:45):
but I bet you this company should change their names.
So the brand is Wigwam or the style is wigwams.
The brand is but the style that I and that
still exists today. That's the thing that people You can
buy the Wigwam socks. Yeah, but they don't know what
now they have like cool ones and I want like these,
like the ones you scrunched down like a Hooters girls wear.
(09:08):
I'm gonna wear those with my dad's socks because like
Princess Diana used to dress like this and bike shorts
and oversized sweatshirt done so cool nineties here I am?
Is that what's like? Is that what the kids are
wearing these days? Okay, I know we have Native American
people who listen to this podcast. Can you please let
me know if I should not buy from that company
Wigwam socks. I mean, I've got no idea, so yeah,
(09:31):
let us know. You can email us hello at Carla
Marie Anthony dot com or just m or that, but
I feel like emails are easier to like sort and
organized because I'll there are times where people will message
me and d M me specifically, I'll never see you again.
There's it's not really a good system because you can't
organize anything. You don't how many times I've posted on
Instagram like hey to the person who was talking about this,
(09:53):
I can't find you because Instagram Twitter is gonna roll
this out. Instagram doesn't let you search keywords your d ms.
So if I go into my d M s and
I start like typing a name, it'll like literally bring
up like if I'm like, uh, Lion, it'll bring up
what's that guy's name, Lion King, the soccer player. Yeah,
(10:14):
isn't it spelled lion kind of yes, So it would
literally bring up his Instagram account. I've never messaged that
man in my life. I don't even follow him. I
don't know Tell you Carla. So that's my qualms with
tell you Carla. I had things talk about today, Well,
let's hear it. One thing is that we talked about
this in the Morning Show podcast today that yes, it's Friday,
(10:36):
but Friday, the goddess of or god of Friday is Venus,
and I had never looked up like the meaning or
like what she stood for before your Venus um, your
fire is it? It's for Chic, is it Shic or Gillette,
It's like a women's women's um. So Venus says. The
(10:58):
whole thing about Venus is this Friday is the perfect
time to kick back, socialize and connect with others. Venus
is charming energy makes it the perfect day to get
creative or even go on a first date with your crush.
Friday is also ideal to indulge in self love, not
to mention the pleasures of life. And I was like,
it's set up for front Monday Friday. We are I
am Venus. You are the goddess Venus. Yes, that makes
(11:22):
the Gillette smooth glade we should is called this Venus Friday,
no Venus Day, my Venus Day, the Gillette Venus sensitive
disposable razor. You're the goddess of that. Congratulations, Carla, stop
saying it. So Venus so Friday, and it has to
(11:42):
do with the planet Venus. Also, okay, what else did
you have? Because now we're moving on from that. We
can't sit here and just theorize about Venus the whole time. Um,
My realtor, Jessica James who sold me my house, who
works for Windamere, has an open house in Ballard on Sunday.
You're buying another house and it's a brand new town
home and she was like, oh, I'll be around if
iant to come by. And I was like, yeah, I'm
(12:04):
gonna go look at this cool new house. And I
was like do people just do that for funzies? I
think people who might be like either thinking about moving,
just not right away. I think they might be like, Oh,
let's see what's on the market. Let's see what kind
of things are available and what prices are. I also
think if you are getting ready to redecorate or redesign
or do some sort of construction remodeling, the reason if
(12:25):
you will So far none of those for me, But
I think people it makes sense to say, oh, let
me see what new builds are coming equipped with, what
kind of outlets are they using, what kind of like
appliances are they installing? You know, yes, so I can
go be like what the hell, I'm scared, I'm gonna
go why does he mind have this? Well? Absolutely, what
if they have heated floors? My feet are always freezing?
(12:45):
They might the people do install heated floors people install
heated driveways too. I know, you don't have to shovel
so that for like light snows, you don't really have
to do much. If it dumps like four ft, you're
still gonna probably have snow on that. I'm just gonna
have a driveway that you turn it on and it's
fire flames come out of it. You could. I mean,
(13:06):
there's nothing to say, like the same technology for like
gas fireplaces, there's nothing to say you can't have like
three strips of that in the middle of your driveway.
There is when your gas car, it just happens to
be like but you're not gonna turn it on. What
if someone What if someone flips it on? Then your
car blows up and then you know what, that's your fault.
(13:27):
What if someone What if you leave your phone on
the oven and someone turns it on, your phone will
be roasted. Right, that's a little different physically, like it's
being forgetful and making a bad decision. I'm pictured this
like a little switch in your garage and like the
kid hits it. You know, like this is a little different. Well,
maybe you put a safety on it, you know, I
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don't know. I think there's a way to do it
where you can kind of like cook your cook your driveway,
having people take taken blow torches. Yes, so my parents house,
and it's it's different now because they have subdivided their
property and and whatnot. When we first moved into the
house though, I was in second or third grade. And
(14:08):
do you remember moving in, like you remember physically moving?
Were you excited that? Oh? Yeah, because we had been
living in Clifton, but I was going to school in
Ridgewood and we had to lie about it for a
very long time. Sod So because my grandmother lived in Ridgewood,
so we used her address. So what is that like
as a like your parents teaching you to lie at
a young age. I don't know. I think it's just
being Middle Eastern and it's not it's not lying, it's
(14:32):
learning how to finagle the system in your to your liking. Okay, continue, Um,
So we used to use my grandmother's address as my
home address. But anyway, we moved from Clifton to this
house in Ridgewood and it was a very old house.
I mean when we moved in, it was already over
a hundred years old. It was an old farmhouse. That's
(14:55):
why there were two properties on the There are two
homes on the property for a while because one of
the homes it was much smaller, and it used to
be a stable that the old owners it was grandfather
and you're allowed to have those two homes, those two structures,
and it was an old stable that was converted into
a home with a basement and a second floor and everything.
So for whatever reason, though, the driveway of our house
(15:19):
when we first moved in was monstrous, like it was.
I'm not exaggerating when I said we had a parking
lot on our property you could fit comfortably probably Jesus Christ.
It was huge. And the house, for the record, it's
not like we lived in a mansion. This is an
old Rundown, hundred year old home. The property was big,
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and for whatever reason it was, I mean, it was
a driveway that led to this. Maybe because they were
sick of farming, they said let's just lay down the tar. Maybe,
but for a long time, my brothers and I when
it would snow, we'd have to clear the entire drivers
that were coming well, because we'd park in the back.
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So it was a long like lead up to where
it you know, kind of bubbled out into the parking
lot size area. And we also because it was a
larger property, um the sidewalk, we were the only houses
on our side of the entire block that had a sidewalk.
But so we still have to shovel it otherwise we
(16:23):
get a ticket. And I can't tell you how many
times I would sit there, like eleven, twelve, thirteen years
old and just be like, how do I light this
thing on fire so I don't have to actually shovel it?
And when I was let's say eleven or twelve years old,
my brothers were four and seven years younger than me,
so like they weren't really helping. So for a while,
(16:44):
it was just me. And then by the time they
got old enough to do that, my dad ended up
hiring a guy who would come into this truck. Yeah.
I didn't probably shovel a single thing until I was
like a late teens. Really did your dad do everything? Dad?
My brother? Um a mom. My dad has a blower
and he loves to do the whole block and then
complain like that people don't think like he's not. He
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just wants like a hey, thanks right, like he'll do
a whole the whole block. Of like, yeah, I snowblowed
their their whole freaking property. They don't even look at us,
And I'm like, exactly, that's the same, the same issue
I have when people like, oh, I let that person
go um in traffic and they didn't wave it to
be Oh, I held this door open and they didn't
wave to me. No, we know you can't say that
(17:30):
because we've are we've talked about this on the show,
like back on Power when I held the door and
the guy didn't say thank you when I said you're welcome,
and you you agreed with No, that's not true. And
I will you know what if I let you go
in traffic, I will flip out if you don't say
that traffic maybe I am like my ned. Traffic might
be the exception where I'm like, you should at least
get a wave or a nod or a flick of
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the high beams or something anything to be like thank
you for making my life that much easier. The door
holding thing, I don't think you actually need to get
a thank you every single time. I don't if you
didn't want to hold the door, but you didn't have
to hold the door, and you could have just kept going.
I'm always like, thank you so much. Okay, well you're
(18:12):
over the top and you do not do it like that,
You'll probably thanks. No, it depends how far I had
to like, how long they held it for. No, And
we've talked about this too. Sometimes it's rude of you
to hold the door. Sometimes if I'm that far away,
just go. I don't agree. I don't follow that. I
look at that as a this is so nice of
this person. Absolutely, I'm gonna see people a hundred yards
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away and start holding doors. Courtesies can sometimes be inconvenient,
but we're not going to talk about in courtesies is
what we're gonna call them. They're in convertices. In convertses
is the new thing. But I think there are there
could be times, especially the holding the door open for
a long time, so dude, just close the door. Let
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me walk. If I was on crutches in a wheelchair,
I don't know something, then absolutely haul the door open. Right.
But if you look at me and I'm walking like
a you know, normal person down the hallway, well just
let me. I talked about this, maybe it was on Twitch.
I was going to my chiropractor appointment, and it's in
the same building as a preschool. Yeah, we did talk
(19:16):
about this, which I feel like I have to be,
like hold my standards very high or just be a
upstanding citizen when I'm there. So the second I get
on property, I put a mask on because you have
to wear one in the buildings. It's a medical building
and um there's pre school in there, so I like,
I want these small children to see adults wearing masks
so they don't start causing a rock gis see, Okay,
(19:39):
I don't say that, that's what the sentiers would call you.
Anthony's saying that's what the sentius would call you. You're
indoctrinating them. So this little girl was the last of
her group because she was she had she must have
been the doorholder of the week, letting all the kids
in because the playgrounds right there, and she saw me
at the bottom of the ramp and it was a
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whole ramp. I had to walk up like that, I've
walked up and she just started holding the door and
the teacher was like, what is this kid doing. She
looked and she saw me walking up the ramp, and
the teacher was like, that's very nice of you to
the girl. I was like, thank you. I was like,
thank you so much. I appreciate it. And I was like,
that's a good kid. No, that's where they need to
teach that kid how to make common sense decision. Young
(20:23):
you just teach them to be as good as possible
and then let them deter isn't get older. I was like, damn,
that's impressive. How do you teach your kid not to
be crappy? Because I guess you have to. It's you
as a parent have to start changing because like I
think about that all the time, Like things that I
do were just any habit, right, like sleeping in, not
eating well, cursing whatever. It's like, man, I have to
(20:47):
change my whole life. Yeah, this is a good question
that we can. We can hit next week as long
as you email us. And so hopefully every parent does
this because I'm assuming that every parent has tweaked a
little bit of their act shins. Their personality is their habits.
You have to lead by the language you have, lead
by example, and go over the top sometimes too. I
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think being nice or just in certain situations because you
don't want your kids because then it just makes your
life easier. So here's what you do. If you are
a parent, I'm talking directly to you. Um, whether you've
been a parent for eighteen years, twenty years, or two months,
what thing have you changed? And I don't want you
to email us and be like, oh, I'm just so
(21:29):
much more protective. Now, that's not what we're talking about here.
What personal attribute habit? Uh language? What did you change
when you had kids because you thought, I don't want
to pass this trait or this characteristic onto my child.
That's what That's what Generational trauma and generational habits, they
(21:53):
all come from passing things down and and learning from
seeing and hearing your parents. I feel like I've heard
I'm not just say this like as a oh, this
is how life works. I've heard from most men who
change when they become dads, and often when they become
dad's two girls, okay, because I feel like they they're
always like, oh my god, like no, I'll and boys
(22:15):
they'll protect their voice to be like no, I want
to protect her from men because you can you've seen
what other men and boys do, and you become like
very protective and you just something switches. Yeah. But what
I want to find out is what specific things I
don't want you to say, oh, I'm more protective now.
I want you to say, like, well, now I don't
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curse out my Xbox when I'm playing, because I don't
want my kids to start screaming every time they get
frustrated with a toy. Something like that. I don't know
I made that up. Um, I think it would be
interesting to see what what parents are cutting out. What
would you cut out, carlam? Well, I think about all
the time I have to pet my cat's list because
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then I have to take care of a kid and
I can't be laying with my cats. Yeah, you would
probably have to make sure that kid is fed and
breathing and things like that. That's going to be a
might be deal break. Okay, so weird. But I don't
do bad things because, like I think about this all
the time. I grew up and I never cursed in
front of my parents. But that's also because I never
heard my parents cursed, like, very very rarely. Did I
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hear my parents ever use a swear word. Oh no,
my parents always curse. And I feel like by the
time I was thirteen, I was like, I'm saying bitch,
and then I started saying bitch and then I would
like push the little no, and I would I think
I would follow my parents lead. Well, that's exactly because
in that there's certain things I wouldn't follow my parents
lead with. But and I guess it's different because I
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take it back. They would sometimes curse in Arabic or
there are like phrases that are curses in Arabic, but
they don't hit the same way, like fungo, what does
that mean? Oh yeah, not like that Arabic. It's a
lot of like it's a lot of like things you
would say like blank your mom, like curse your dad
(24:00):
who brought you into this world, like things like that.
That's how you cursed people out in Arabic. Um. But
I never cursed in front of my parents. I remember
going to, for lack of a better term, going to
some of my white friend's houses growing up when I
was in middle school, and I'd hear them curse and
their their siblings curse in front of and to their parents.
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It's like, it's shocking. It was like you you could
have literally taken me to Jupiter and dropped me off,
and I would have felt more comfortable on that planet
that I felt in my friend's homes hearing them curse
in front of their parents. Yeah, it's my whole world,
my whole family. Just I mean when I get around them,
even my parents, right, I curse more around my parents
(24:46):
then I think a really at this point, and not
at them obviously, like just telling stories. Maybe it's just
New Jersey. I don't know if it's still don't and
I curse a lot. I've definitely cursed in front of
your parents, and now maybe I should not do that.
I probably shouldn't. I don't, all right, at least so
I don't have to do what you do. Let me
take this back. I can't say that I have now,
as an adult, never cursed in front of my parents. Um,
(25:08):
they've seen me play sports. I'm I'm a little bit
of a wild card in that setting. But when I'm
at home, I still almost never. There are times where
they might overhear me talking to my brothers or something
and that will slip through. But if I'm having a
conversation with my parents, I I really don't think I do. Ever.
(25:31):
What is there you call someone like an idiot? You
they're an idiot? Yeah, that's jerk moron? Those all yeah,
those all pass, but you don't like the effort. Now,
is that just because you've never done or you think
it's disrespectful. I think a little bit of both. But
it's like it is it disrespectful because it's just a word. Right.
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We've talked about this before, and there's a lot of
stuff that's like we put so much weight into a word,
but here's and I understand. I totally understand that. Okay,
I understand that words only have meaning and power when
we give it to them. However, if it is only
a word, right, if we're gonna go without understanding, if
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it is only a word, just like any other word,
why is it so important to use it? It's not important,
but if it comes out, it's something I know because
there are certain people. So there's actually a podcaster who
I was listening to last summer for a while. He
has these like Monday motivation things and he was going
to like being your authentic self. He was like, listen,
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my my grandmother for a long time told me not
to curse. But I was like, it's just a word.
This is who I am. And I thought, you can't
say it's only a word and it is also who
you are. I think those things contradict one another, because
if it is only a word, then how does that word?
But then how does that word come to define you
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as a human? The use of that word define you
as a human, and it does. I wouldn't say defined
you as I don't know what that person saying. I
don't say defined you as a human. The thing with
Gary V was someone said to him, do you think
you sound It was either like sound less intelligent? Or
do you think your point doesn't come across? Or why
do you feel the need to curse? Or something like that,
And he's like, because I just do, like, I enjoy it.
I think my I think sometimes maybe it makes my
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point more well, And I do think I agree with that.
I think sometimes it can be used for emphasis. But
again the counterpoint to that is if you use it
all the time, that it that it has no emphagree,
I try to find I don't know. I don't think
I use it all the high. But you I'm not,
We're not. I'm not talking to you directly. Um. There
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are people who I knew were like, I just like
to curse. That's what I do. Don't tell me. I'm like, okay,
now I get it, and they'll they'll use that same thing,
they'll use the the excuse of well, I use it
for emphasis, and said, well, you can't use it all
the time because not everything you say requires the same emphasis.
And if you're using it like that, you're throwing that
word away. It's just and I'm like, I'm completely I
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agree with what you're saying, and that's what I agree
and disagree with what I'm saying exactly at the same time,
I like, there's so many times where I'm like, what
the and I like, I enjoy saying it, but also
it's funny. Now this is making me think that means like,
no one, none of your older cousins when you were
like a baby, like Anthony, say shit, no because they
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didn get their asses kicked. Okay, So with my family,
and that was for emphasis, because you would really get whoked.
I don't think ass is a curse. If if I
said that word in front of my grandparents when I
was a kid, I would be murdered, murdered. Okay. So
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you have to remember that I'm coming from an immigrant family,
and not only an immigrant family. I'm coming from an
immigrant family that came from Jerusalem. Okay, we came like
literally came from a Christian family, from the birthplace of Christianity.
My my grandmother didn't even want to get married to
my grandfather. She wanted to be a nun until she
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was like twenty. Do you think Jesus cursed though probably
it's actually in the Bible that he cursed when he
was when he went to the temple, No, when I
think the only time that he showed anger and swore.
Correct me if I'm wrong, you can email us hello
at carlon Marie Anthony dot com was when he walked
into the temple and people were selling things. There was
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essentially like a little bizarre set up in the temple,
and he was like, this is a place for prayer,
not a place for you to make money. And he
like flipped tables over. He went full Real Housewives of
New Jersey. Yeah, who knew, That's why we're all like this. Yeah,
and again I could have I could have butchered that
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story a little bit. It's been a while, but yeah,
so now I'm gonna do w w JD. Remember in
those bracelets, like the I had one of the fabric
like black and white. Um was not like w w
J d had one of those. But I wasn't saying
it religiously. I feel like we were saying it like
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it was nineties and it was cool. And I think
I got it from my church youth group back in
the day. They give him out to everything. You know
what was crazy. It was like it was like a
stagecoach or coachellat wristband and put it on. It wasn't
coming off. Maybe it was from church. Well, I had
like a buckle of some sort. I had like a
chacolate on, like like a buckle a purity ring. Um. Okay, wait,
you said something about thing as a baby. Okay, So
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in my family it is customary to teach a child
to try to say absolutely not like my father because
I and this, this might make me sound like an
old curmudgeon. I don't think there's anything cute or funny
about that. Okay, So because part of me, part of me,
and this again, make fun of me all you want.
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That kid is going to grow to curse at some point, right,
don't teach him that. There's no reason to accelerate it.
So I think I talked about this on here before,
and I say that offen because I don't want to
sound like you've said that before, you idiot. I may have.
My brother, seventeen years older than me, would teach me
how to give the finger, how to like and mainly
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because he wanted to just be a menace and just
drive my pain and he thought it was hilarious right
to his friends. But look what I taught my five
year old sister to do, so that would happen all
the time. But prior to that, before anyone actually taught me,
I learned by example. And one of the first things
my parents always say that I said was and we
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had like the garbageman would come down the street and
the sound would be so loud, and I like jumped
one day two years old and went running to them
and I was like, Mom, Dad, the garbageman's here. The
ship out of me. And they were like okay. They
were like dying. They were like, don't it's like in
my baby. They're like, don't say that, Like you can't,
don't say that. But we get it because we've been
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saying it. So I think I grew up with a
lot of older cousins, so it's not like I as
a baby or as a kid, I never cursed or
never heard it, but it was there was always. It
always came with the warning if they heard me curse,
it was like, you better not say that in front
of our parents or in front of our grandparents. There
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was always a clear distinction. And it's funny because I
think growing up, I didn't have parents or aunts. Will
I take that back. My two young my youngest aunt
and my two youngest uncles. We're actually close to my cousin,
my older cousins ages, so they were kind of like
that transition of like friends to authority figures. But none
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of my aunts and or uncles or parents were like
friends growing up. They were authority figures. Like they were
nice obviously that we we had a good time, and
the whole family operated, but there was a very clear
line drawn of like, you you need, we will treat
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you perfectly, we will raise your right, but you have
to respect that we are not the same right now.
That changed when I got older. That's interesting because I
didn't really have aunts and uncles that I was like.
I had one aunt who just obviously much older, but
like my brother and sister, they I like, I listened
to them whatever they told me to do. I listened
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to them, but also knew I could get away with
a lot around them. But and I had that with
like my older cousins, like my cousin Chris, my cousin Paul,
Like they were still authority figures and they would babysit
us and stuff, but they were fun. Yeah, yeah, And
there was a clear distinction between them and what I
could get away with with them than what I could
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get get away with with my parents. And I couldn't curse.
But again I was like scared shitless of my parents
growing up. But also again another thing that's written in
my baby book is we had a dog named Binkie
and who I tortured the hell out of as a child.
And one day my mom heard me talking to him
and I was like two or three, and I was like, come,
(34:09):
your fucking dog. Fucking dog, and she was like, that's
when I realized that I'm always like, oh, that fucking dog,
which is goes back to the email we're asking people
to send us. Is what thing as a parent did
you realize once you had a kid, You're like, oh,
I should probably cut this out. Not and it doesn't
have to be the worst thing in the world, right
Your kids saying the F word is not the end
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of the world, but it's something where like I would rather,
I would rather create a home where that's not the norm.
So we're gonna give ourselves homework or this next week
to ask our parents the same question mom and stop
doing or yeah, I could ask them. My dad's gonna
give me a smart ass answer, so I'll come back
(34:53):
with nothing. My mom will probably be give me something
that's I don't know, and then then I'm gonna be like,
what abo cursing, and then she'll be able to give
me more. But did your parents ever stopped cursing around
the house? That was a note that was a very
faint note from Carla Murray. They do not. They're still
there cursing right now. And it's funny because obviously, uh,
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I probably sound like a little curmudgeon or like a
little schoolboy, like, oh, you can't curse or whatever. I listen,
I curse all the time. I just I kind of
like the fact that I can look back at I
tiled him be like, no, there was a very clear
distinction of like, this is how it is okay to
act and and it's okay to be I think this
is what it comes down to, you can be your
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true self in different forms your true self. I've never
I've never been of the belief that your true self
is consistent all the time. I think your true self
has to adapt to different scenarios and different groups of
people that you're with, and your core is still the same.
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Because if your core is like, oh, my true self
is I'm a person, that curse is You're not a
real that's not a real. That's not a trait, right,
You're just attaching some weird language to you as as
a human. But that's not a personality trait. Um what
why do you Why are you looking at me? I
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have to go to the doctor, not like something just happened.
I'm dying. I have to get to my doctor's women
to day. I'm going to uh dr a my natural
path who's gonna give me trigger point injections because my
entire body hurts. Peace up. Dr ray Down said that
I wonder she's gonna what I'm talking about. Probably not. Well,
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thank you very much. I don't even know how we
got to being almost a forty minute long podcast. I
had other things to talk about, and we didn't. You're
gonna have to wait. And please remember all the parents
out there, whether it's been a day or thirty years
of parenthood, what thing have you changed the second he
became a parent or soon after you said I've got
to cut this out. This is not something that I
(36:59):
would like to pas son. It could be very serious, right,
if there's family trauma that you are trying to be
the end of it. Could it could be that serious, um,
But it could also be as something as simple as
I stopped sitting so close to the TV because I
don't want my kids to do it. Oh my god,
my dad used to yell at me for that all
the time. Thank you very much for hanging out with us,
and don't forget if you have not checked out our
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brand new podcast we actually just this morning, but we
haven't announced it officially yet. We have reached over one
hundred thousand listens on our brand new podcast called The
Morning Show Podcast, which we just launched at the very
end the very tail end of February, so we're not
even three full months in a hundred thousand listens. We
are very proud of that because it's this little thing
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that we started with no real backing. Um. Like this podcast,
we have to start with Elvis. Yeah, jumping on board
pretty quickly. Thank god for Elvis. Um So, if you
have not done that yet, there is a link in
the description of this podcast episode that will send you
to the Morning Show podcast or wherever you're listening to this.
You can just search the Morning Show podcast and make
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sure our names are on it, because then that's ours. Yeah,
that's us. Thank you very much for hanging out with
us this week. And uh, I really want to say,
go after yourself, but actually say it. Don't do that,
go after yourself. San Diego
Looks like we made it to another weekend. And this
is actually one of the first weekends where I don't
think I have anything at all planned. You didn't have
anything planned last weekend, buddy, But I feel like we
did something last weekend. Friday evening we did something. Yep,
we watched Um we got Sushi, and we watched Christis
Stephano No, and then we met up with our friend
E White. That was like the last minute, spontaneous thing,
(00:20):
but it was still like a thing, you know what
I mean. He was still going out and doing something.
I've got nothing zero, absolutely not a planned for this weekend.
E White is on the air in Monesota, Minnesota. I
do that all the time on Katie w B and
in Minneapolis. What that's in Minnesota? Okay, He's also on
(00:44):
in places like Denver. He's on across the country with
with I Heart Radio. Great guy, and he has a podcast.
And we had only like said maybe seven words to
each other on social media, and he had deemed me
on Friday. I was like, Hey, I'm in Seattle for
this weekend. I know, the super random, but if you
guys are available to want to hang out. We spent
like five hours together on Saturday night. But it is
nice to not have any plans except for this podcast
(01:06):
and let's get this thing started day. It's Friday, It's
Pete went from Far Boy, and you're listening to my
two favorite people, Carla Marie and Anthony. Is Friday Friday. Hi,
(01:29):
I'm carry hi only I am dressing. Hi am jee,
I'm willing, and you're listening to Yes, welcome to the
podcast that started it all. The only reason I even
like Carla Marie a little bit is from this podcast.
And I wonder if Pete Wentz still thinks we are
(01:52):
his two favorite people. I wonder if he still holds
that belief. Probably, Um, I'm saying this and we don't
forget it. We have to read some of the emails
that we got when we had said, has anyone listened
to all of the episodes, It seems like you have.
It seems like there are people who have done that.
But I will mention this person now. Henry Davidson had
(02:14):
said he's listened to all of them except for the
elusive number one. I was like, we definitely ended up
posting it one week when we didn't have we were
I remember we were in like Tahoe and we didn't
have like enough internet or something or whatever it was.
So I was like, I can upload this new there
was a reason why we couldn't do it. So I
found the old number one and I posted it. And
(02:34):
the first podcast you're talking about. You keep calling it
the number one, but it is the number one, the
first podcast, and I have, like, we have the audio.
I started playing it yesterday and I was like, I
called you Carla and Anthony, I don't care what he says,
and we're going to finally play at some point for
everyone here. Your Jersey accent, you're like Calla and I
(02:55):
doing money fun. What I did not sound like that.
I was like, why who are these people? And I'm like, yeah,
it's so fun. The weekend, Yeah it is weird. I
heard a little bit of it. The weird part was
calling you Carla. I haven't done that in a very
long time. It's funny because everyone at Elvis the show
used to before, like when you first started, before you
(03:17):
were actually on the air as a personality, you were
just Carla. You were the stupid girl from North Arlington, Carla.
I was interned Carla and Elvis, which I don't mind
intern car I don't. I don't mind when there's something
else right, like aunt Carla was okay, that's about it.
My friends just called me Carl in high school sometimes yeah,
my one friend, UM, but I UM. When I got
(03:41):
hired officially, I remember Brodie saying to me, you have
to decide if you want to go by Carla or
Carlo Marie. And I was like, m M, let's do Carla. Well.
My only concern was that it was a lot of
a lot to say. It's two names, and I wanted
to go by Carlo. But I was like, I don't
know what to do, like I was gonna be mad,
(04:02):
and I wasn't sure what to put on my business
card at the time whatever it was. And he was like, well,
what do you want to be called? And I said Carla.
Marine's like, let's do it, because people have given you crap, Like, oh,
I wonder if you know, maybe you can change your
name and be just be Carla or something. I wonder
if anyone had that conversation early on with John Jay,
who's a huge radio personality in the Phoenix area in
(04:24):
Arizona overall, because I think he's on in Tucson as
well that's where they started. UM. But the show is
John Jay and Rich And for a long time I
thought it was three people too, because I remember Elvis
was on in the Phoenix area for a little bit
and everyone's like, oh, the big show. There is this
show called John Jay and Rich. It was like who
is John? Was like, who's who is Rich? That sounds
like three very ordinary dudes, John J and Rich Um,
(04:46):
But obviously he has a two part name as well.
John J is the first is the guys there. I
never had those issues of those conversations until we moved
to see Alan got our own show. Yeah. Well that's
also because it was set on the air as a brand.
It wasn't just like hey, our our phone producer Carla
Marie is here right now. But it's also because when
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we worked for Elvis UM, there was minimal interaction from
you know, the big executives around the country. We had
one guy, his name is Dennis, who was fabulous, but
he's like best friends with Elvis, so it's different. It
was like having it was like having your crazy uncle
come in every now and then and and help, Like
when your parents can't control you, your uncle comes in
(05:28):
and we've worked with Dennis Now for I mean, I've
I've known Dennis for twelve thirteen years, but he was
one of the first people who took my day Friday
and was like, hey, other people need to listen to this.
Within the company, it's all him. So but when we
got to Seattle, all of a sudden, it was like
all hands on deck. And because Seattle is a big
city and an important city and the station's here had
done poorly for so long, I mean, it was going
(05:50):
on a decade of failing in the city of Seattle
with I Heart Radio specifically, it was like every single
exact could even the company needed, needed to interject their opinion.
And generally speaking, when you're not actually involved in something
or asked about something, but you feel like you need
to get your opinion hurt or just have an opinion,
(06:12):
they're usually terrible. Right. If you don't have anything you
need to say, you probably shouldn't say anything. And a
lot of was like, well, maybe we should just drop
her name and make it Carla because it's easier for
people to understand or here. But welcome to the age
in which we talked to her as or speak to
her as Carla Marie, and I will go by nothing
(06:32):
else other than aunt Carla carrew car That's what Gabriella
used to call me, my niece when she was a baby.
We don't do it anymore, no, but sometimes people in
my family will call me that. That's silly, but I
guess we. We sometimes called my brother Justin Jackson. Okay,
that's stupid. Well it's because my grandfather, I don't know.
(06:53):
He definitely knew how to say Justin. He knew all
of our other names. But I mean the guy didn't
really speak English, and he just one day in his
head it clicked that Justin's name was Jackson, and he
just for Justin's whole life he was Jackson. I feel
like old people do that on purpose, but also like
growing up my brother or my even like my dad
would purposely get boyfriends or boy friend names wrong. Yeah,
(07:17):
it's like it's like a way to like one up
them a little bit. And um, my best friend Alex,
her dad does that all the It's a dad thing.
It's like a dad joke, dad humor. If you could say,
who is the ultimate, like put this photo next to
dad joke, it is Alex's that Really, I would my
friend Steve, his dad is like the king of dad jokes.
(07:39):
And I've met Steve's dad and I could see that
and they are very similar. But you've never met Alex
at home or not. He is a hoot. Uh he So.
Alex had three best friends growing up, Dave, Dan and Brian,
and he used to call them Doug, Dork and Brad
and what a dad move right, And that's all you
would call him is Doug, Dirk and Brad. I plan
on doing that one day. Yeah, I totally will. I'm
(08:01):
gonna have so many good dad jokes and dad is ums.
I'm not going to wear the dad's shoes though, but
they're like cool. No, I'm not wearing the monarchs. I
know that they've had like collapse and stuff to make
monarchs cooler. They're called I got the felis. I was
actually woke up this morning and I was like, I'm
ordering wig wamps. Didn't okay, I'm the socks. Do you
(08:23):
remember those? Those are called wigwams. This is a wig
wam like a Native American. That's what they were called
that I was a cheerleader, like the big white thick socks.
They were called wigwams. So cheerleading socks now that I
think about it, probably when I said it, I was like,
that doesn't make it, It doesn't make any sense. Yeah,
(08:45):
but I bet you this company should change their names.
So the brand is Wigwam or the style is wigwams.
The brand is but the style that I and that
still exists today. That's the thing that people You can
buy the Wigwam socks. Yeah, but they don't know what
now they have like cool ones and I want like these,
like the ones you scrunched down like a Hooters girls wear.
(09:08):
I'm gonna wear those with my dad's socks because like
Princess Diana used to dress like this and bike shorts
and oversized sweatshirt done so cool nineties here I am?
Is that what's like? Is that what the kids are
wearing these days? Okay, I know we have Native American
people who listen to this podcast. Can you please let
me know if I should not buy from that company
Wigwam socks. I mean, I've got no idea, so yeah,
(09:31):
let us know. You can email us hello at Carla
Marie Anthony dot com or just m or that, but
I feel like emails are easier to like sort and
organized because I'll there are times where people will message
me and d M me specifically, I'll never see you again.
There's it's not really a good system because you can't
organize anything. You don't how many times I've posted on
Instagram like hey to the person who was talking about this,
(09:53):
I can't find you because Instagram Twitter is gonna roll
this out. Instagram doesn't let you search keywords your d ms.
So if I go into my d M s and
I start like typing a name, it'll like literally bring
up like if I'm like, uh, Lion, it'll bring up
what's that guy's name, Lion King, the soccer player. Yeah,
(10:14):
isn't it spelled lion kind of yes, So it would
literally bring up his Instagram account. I've never messaged that
man in my life. I don't even follow him. I
don't know Tell you Carla. So that's my qualms with
tell you Carla. I had things talk about today, Well,
let's hear it. One thing is that we talked about
this in the Morning Show podcast today that yes, it's Friday,
(10:36):
but Friday, the goddess of or god of Friday is Venus,
and I had never looked up like the meaning or
like what she stood for before your Venus um, your
fire is it? It's for Chic, is it Shic or Gillette,
It's like a women's women's um. So Venus says. The
(10:58):
whole thing about Venus is this Friday is the perfect
time to kick back, socialize and connect with others. Venus
is charming energy makes it the perfect day to get
creative or even go on a first date with your crush.
Friday is also ideal to indulge in self love, not
to mention the pleasures of life. And I was like,
it's set up for front Monday Friday. We are I
am Venus. You are the goddess Venus. Yes, that makes
(11:22):
the Gillette smooth glade we should is called this Venus Friday,
no Venus Day, my Venus Day, the Gillette Venus sensitive
disposable razor. You're the goddess of that. Congratulations, Carla, stop
saying it. So Venus so Friday, and it has to
(11:42):
do with the planet Venus. Also, okay, what else did
you have? Because now we're moving on from that. We
can't sit here and just theorize about Venus the whole time. Um,
My realtor, Jessica James who sold me my house, who
works for Windamere, has an open house in Ballard on Sunday.
You're buying another house and it's a brand new town
home and she was like, oh, I'll be around if
iant to come by. And I was like, yeah, I'm
(12:04):
gonna go look at this cool new house. And I
was like do people just do that for funzies? I
think people who might be like either thinking about moving,
just not right away. I think they might be like, Oh,
let's see what's on the market. Let's see what kind
of things are available and what prices are. I also
think if you are getting ready to redecorate or redesign
or do some sort of construction remodeling, the reason if
(12:25):
you will So far none of those for me, But
I think people it makes sense to say, oh, let
me see what new builds are coming equipped with, what
kind of outlets are they using, what kind of like
appliances are they installing? You know, yes, so I can
go be like what the hell, I'm scared, I'm gonna
go why does he mind have this? Well? Absolutely, what
if they have heated floors? My feet are always freezing?
(12:45):
They might the people do install heated floors people install
heated driveways too. I know, you don't have to shovel
so that for like light snows, you don't really have
to do much. If it dumps like four ft, you're
still gonna probably have snow on that. I'm just gonna
have a driveway that you turn it on and it's
fire flames come out of it. You could. I mean,
(13:06):
there's nothing to say, like the same technology for like
gas fireplaces, there's nothing to say you can't have like
three strips of that in the middle of your driveway.
There is when your gas car, it just happens to
be like but you're not gonna turn it on. What
if someone What if someone flips it on? Then your
car blows up and then you know what, that's your fault.
(13:27):
What if someone What if you leave your phone on
the oven and someone turns it on, your phone will
be roasted. Right, that's a little different physically, like it's
being forgetful and making a bad decision. I'm pictured this
like a little switch in your garage and like the
kid hits it. You know, like this is a little different. Well,
maybe you put a safety on it, you know, I
(13:48):
don't know. I think there's a way to do it
where you can kind of like cook your cook your driveway,
having people take taken blow torches. Yes, so my parents house,
and it's it's different now because they have subdivided their
property and and whatnot. When we first moved into the
house though, I was in second or third grade. And
(14:08):
do you remember moving in, like you remember physically moving?
Were you excited that? Oh? Yeah, because we had been
living in Clifton, but I was going to school in
Ridgewood and we had to lie about it for a
very long time. Sod So because my grandmother lived in Ridgewood,
so we used her address. So what is that like
as a like your parents teaching you to lie at
a young age. I don't know. I think it's just
being Middle Eastern and it's not it's not lying, it's
(14:32):
learning how to finagle the system in your to your liking. Okay, continue, Um,
So we used to use my grandmother's address as my
home address. But anyway, we moved from Clifton to this
house in Ridgewood and it was a very old house.
I mean when we moved in, it was already over
a hundred years old. It was an old farmhouse. That's
(14:55):
why there were two properties on the There are two
homes on the property for a while because one of
the homes it was much smaller, and it used to
be a stable that the old owners it was grandfather
and you're allowed to have those two homes, those two structures,
and it was an old stable that was converted into
a home with a basement and a second floor and everything.
So for whatever reason, though, the driveway of our house
(15:19):
when we first moved in was monstrous, like it was.
I'm not exaggerating when I said we had a parking
lot on our property you could fit comfortably probably Jesus Christ.
It was huge. And the house, for the record, it's
not like we lived in a mansion. This is an
old Rundown, hundred year old home. The property was big,
(15:40):
and for whatever reason it was, I mean, it was
a driveway that led to this. Maybe because they were
sick of farming, they said let's just lay down the tar. Maybe,
but for a long time, my brothers and I when
it would snow, we'd have to clear the entire drivers
that were coming well, because we'd park in the back.
(16:00):
So it was a long like lead up to where
it you know, kind of bubbled out into the parking
lot size area. And we also because it was a
larger property, um the sidewalk, we were the only houses
on our side of the entire block that had a sidewalk.
But so we still have to shovel it otherwise we
(16:23):
get a ticket. And I can't tell you how many
times I would sit there, like eleven, twelve, thirteen years
old and just be like, how do I light this
thing on fire so I don't have to actually shovel it?
And when I was let's say eleven or twelve years old,
my brothers were four and seven years younger than me,
so like they weren't really helping. So for a while,
(16:44):
it was just me. And then by the time they
got old enough to do that, my dad ended up
hiring a guy who would come into this truck. Yeah.
I didn't probably shovel a single thing until I was
like a late teens. Really did your dad do everything? Dad?
My brother? Um a mom. My dad has a blower
and he loves to do the whole block and then
complain like that people don't think like he's not. He
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just wants like a hey, thanks right, like he'll do
a whole the whole block. Of like, yeah, I snowblowed
their their whole freaking property. They don't even look at us,
And I'm like, exactly, that's the same, the same issue
I have when people like, oh, I let that person
go um in traffic and they didn't wave it to
be Oh, I held this door open and they didn't
wave to me. No, we know you can't say that
(17:30):
because we've are we've talked about this on the show,
like back on Power when I held the door and
the guy didn't say thank you when I said you're welcome,
and you you agreed with No, that's not true. And
I will you know what if I let you go
in traffic, I will flip out if you don't say
that traffic maybe I am like my ned. Traffic might
be the exception where I'm like, you should at least
get a wave or a nod or a flick of
(17:51):
the high beams or something anything to be like thank
you for making my life that much easier. The door
holding thing, I don't think you actually need to get
a thank you every single time. I don't if you
didn't want to hold the door, but you didn't have
to hold the door, and you could have just kept going.
I'm always like, thank you so much. Okay, well you're
(18:12):
over the top and you do not do it like that,
You'll probably thanks. No, it depends how far I had
to like, how long they held it for. No, And
we've talked about this too. Sometimes it's rude of you
to hold the door. Sometimes if I'm that far away,
just go. I don't agree. I don't follow that. I
look at that as a this is so nice of
this person. Absolutely, I'm gonna see people a hundred yards
(18:32):
away and start holding doors. Courtesies can sometimes be inconvenient,
but we're not going to talk about in courtesies is
what we're gonna call them. They're in convertices. In convertses
is the new thing. But I think there are there
could be times, especially the holding the door open for
a long time, so dude, just close the door. Let
(18:54):
me walk. If I was on crutches in a wheelchair,
I don't know something, then absolutely haul the door open. Right.
But if you look at me and I'm walking like
a you know, normal person down the hallway, well just
let me. I talked about this, maybe it was on Twitch.
I was going to my chiropractor appointment, and it's in
the same building as a preschool. Yeah, we did talk
(19:16):
about this, which I feel like I have to be,
like hold my standards very high or just be a
upstanding citizen when I'm there. So the second I get
on property, I put a mask on because you have
to wear one in the buildings. It's a medical building
and um there's pre school in there, so I like,
I want these small children to see adults wearing masks
so they don't start causing a rock gis see, Okay,
(19:39):
I don't say that, that's what the sentiers would call you.
Anthony's saying that's what the sentius would call you. You're
indoctrinating them. So this little girl was the last of
her group because she was she had she must have
been the doorholder of the week, letting all the kids
in because the playgrounds right there, and she saw me
at the bottom of the ramp and it was a
(20:01):
whole ramp. I had to walk up like that, I've
walked up and she just started holding the door and
the teacher was like, what is this kid doing. She
looked and she saw me walking up the ramp, and
the teacher was like, that's very nice of you to
the girl. I was like, thank you. I was like,
thank you so much. I appreciate it. And I was like,
that's a good kid. No, that's where they need to
teach that kid how to make common sense decision. Young
(20:23):
you just teach them to be as good as possible
and then let them deter isn't get older. I was like, damn,
that's impressive. How do you teach your kid not to
be crappy? Because I guess you have to. It's you
as a parent have to start changing because like I
think about that all the time, Like things that I
do were just any habit, right, like sleeping in, not
eating well, cursing whatever. It's like, man, I have to
(20:47):
change my whole life. Yeah, this is a good question
that we can. We can hit next week as long
as you email us. And so hopefully every parent does
this because I'm assuming that every parent has tweaked a
little bit of their act shins. Their personality is their habits.
You have to lead by the language you have, lead
by example, and go over the top sometimes too. I
(21:09):
think being nice or just in certain situations because you
don't want your kids because then it just makes your
life easier. So here's what you do. If you are
a parent, I'm talking directly to you. Um, whether you've
been a parent for eighteen years, twenty years, or two months,
what thing have you changed? And I don't want you
to email us and be like, oh, I'm just so
(21:29):
much more protective. Now, that's not what we're talking about here.
What personal attribute habit? Uh language? What did you change
when you had kids because you thought, I don't want
to pass this trait or this characteristic onto my child.
That's what That's what Generational trauma and generational habits, they
(21:53):
all come from passing things down and and learning from
seeing and hearing your parents. I feel like I've heard
I'm not just say this like as a oh, this
is how life works. I've heard from most men who
change when they become dads, and often when they become
dad's two girls, okay, because I feel like they they're
always like, oh my god, like no, I'll and boys
(22:15):
they'll protect their voice to be like no, I want
to protect her from men because you can you've seen
what other men and boys do, and you become like
very protective and you just something switches. Yeah. But what
I want to find out is what specific things I
don't want you to say, oh, I'm more protective now.
I want you to say, like, well, now I don't
(22:36):
curse out my Xbox when I'm playing, because I don't
want my kids to start screaming every time they get
frustrated with a toy. Something like that. I don't know
I made that up. Um, I think it would be
interesting to see what what parents are cutting out. What
would you cut out, carlam? Well, I think about all
the time I have to pet my cat's list because
(22:56):
then I have to take care of a kid and
I can't be laying with my cats. Yeah, you would
probably have to make sure that kid is fed and
breathing and things like that. That's going to be a
might be deal break. Okay, so weird. But I don't
do bad things because, like I think about this all
the time. I grew up and I never cursed in
front of my parents. But that's also because I never
heard my parents cursed, like, very very rarely. Did I
(23:20):
hear my parents ever use a swear word. Oh no,
my parents always curse. And I feel like by the
time I was thirteen, I was like, I'm saying bitch,
and then I started saying bitch and then I would
like push the little no, and I would I think
I would follow my parents lead. Well, that's exactly because
in that there's certain things I wouldn't follow my parents
lead with. But and I guess it's different because I
(23:40):
take it back. They would sometimes curse in Arabic or
there are like phrases that are curses in Arabic, but
they don't hit the same way, like fungo, what does
that mean? Oh yeah, not like that Arabic. It's a
lot of like it's a lot of like things you
would say like blank your mom, like curse your dad
(24:00):
who brought you into this world, like things like that.
That's how you cursed people out in Arabic. Um. But
I never cursed in front of my parents. I remember
going to, for lack of a better term, going to
some of my white friend's houses growing up when I
was in middle school, and I'd hear them curse and
their their siblings curse in front of and to their parents.
(24:21):
It's like, it's shocking. It was like you you could
have literally taken me to Jupiter and dropped me off,
and I would have felt more comfortable on that planet
that I felt in my friend's homes hearing them curse
in front of their parents. Yeah, it's my whole world,
my whole family. Just I mean when I get around them,
even my parents, right, I curse more around my parents
(24:46):
then I think a really at this point, and not
at them obviously, like just telling stories. Maybe it's just
New Jersey. I don't know if it's still don't and
I curse a lot. I've definitely cursed in front of
your parents, and now maybe I should not do that.
I probably shouldn't. I don't, all right, at least so
I don't have to do what you do. Let me
take this back. I can't say that I have now,
as an adult, never cursed in front of my parents. Um,
(25:08):
they've seen me play sports. I'm I'm a little bit
of a wild card in that setting. But when I'm
at home, I still almost never. There are times where
they might overhear me talking to my brothers or something
and that will slip through. But if I'm having a
conversation with my parents, I I really don't think I do. Ever.
(25:31):
What is there you call someone like an idiot? You
they're an idiot? Yeah, that's jerk moron? Those all yeah,
those all pass, but you don't like the effort. Now,
is that just because you've never done or you think
it's disrespectful. I think a little bit of both. But
it's like it is it disrespectful because it's just a word. Right.
(25:52):
We've talked about this before, and there's a lot of
stuff that's like we put so much weight into a word,
but here's and I understand. I totally understand that. Okay,
I understand that words only have meaning and power when
we give it to them. However, if it is only
a word, right, if we're gonna go without understanding, if
(26:15):
it is only a word, just like any other word,
why is it so important to use it? It's not important,
but if it comes out, it's something I know because
there are certain people. So there's actually a podcaster who
I was listening to last summer for a while. He
has these like Monday motivation things and he was going
to like being your authentic self. He was like, listen,
(26:37):
my my grandmother for a long time told me not
to curse. But I was like, it's just a word.
This is who I am. And I thought, you can't
say it's only a word and it is also who
you are. I think those things contradict one another, because
if it is only a word, then how does that word?
But then how does that word come to define you
(26:59):
as a human? The use of that word define you
as a human, and it does. I wouldn't say defined
you as I don't know what that person saying. I
don't say defined you as a human. The thing with
Gary V was someone said to him, do you think
you sound It was either like sound less intelligent? Or
do you think your point doesn't come across? Or why
do you feel the need to curse? Or something like that,
And he's like, because I just do, like, I enjoy it.
I think my I think sometimes maybe it makes my
(27:21):
point more well, And I do think I agree with that.
I think sometimes it can be used for emphasis. But
again the counterpoint to that is if you use it
all the time, that it that it has no emphagree,
I try to find I don't know. I don't think
I use it all the high. But you I'm not,
We're not. I'm not talking to you directly. Um. There
(27:41):
are people who I knew were like, I just like
to curse. That's what I do. Don't tell me. I'm like, okay,
now I get it, and they'll they'll use that same thing,
they'll use the the excuse of well, I use it
for emphasis, and said, well, you can't use it all
the time because not everything you say requires the same emphasis.
And if you're using it like that, you're throwing that
word away. It's just and I'm like, I'm completely I
(28:04):
agree with what you're saying, and that's what I agree
and disagree with what I'm saying exactly at the same time,
I like, there's so many times where I'm like, what
the and I like, I enjoy saying it, but also
it's funny. Now this is making me think that means like,
no one, none of your older cousins when you were
like a baby, like Anthony, say shit, no because they
(28:24):
didn get their asses kicked. Okay, So with my family,
and that was for emphasis, because you would really get whoked.
I don't think ass is a curse. If if I
said that word in front of my grandparents when I
was a kid, I would be murdered, murdered. Okay. So
(28:46):
you have to remember that I'm coming from an immigrant family,
and not only an immigrant family. I'm coming from an
immigrant family that came from Jerusalem. Okay, we came like
literally came from a Christian family, from the birthplace of Christianity.
My my grandmother didn't even want to get married to
my grandfather. She wanted to be a nun until she
(29:09):
was like twenty. Do you think Jesus cursed though probably
it's actually in the Bible that he cursed when he
was when he went to the temple, No, when I
think the only time that he showed anger and swore.
Correct me if I'm wrong, you can email us hello
at carlon Marie Anthony dot com was when he walked
into the temple and people were selling things. There was
(29:32):
essentially like a little bizarre set up in the temple,
and he was like, this is a place for prayer,
not a place for you to make money. And he
like flipped tables over. He went full Real Housewives of
New Jersey. Yeah, who knew, That's why we're all like this. Yeah,
and again I could have I could have butchered that
(29:55):
story a little bit. It's been a while, but yeah,
so now I'm gonna do w w JD. Remember in
those bracelets, like the I had one of the fabric
like black and white. Um was not like w w
J d had one of those. But I wasn't saying
it religiously. I feel like we were saying it like
(30:16):
it was nineties and it was cool. And I think
I got it from my church youth group back in
the day. They give him out to everything. You know
what was crazy. It was like it was like a
stagecoach or coachellat wristband and put it on. It wasn't
coming off. Maybe it was from church. Well, I had
like a buckle of some sort. I had like a
chacolate on, like like a buckle a purity ring. Um. Okay, wait,
you said something about thing as a baby. Okay, So
(30:38):
in my family it is customary to teach a child
to try to say absolutely not like my father because
I and this, this might make me sound like an
old curmudgeon. I don't think there's anything cute or funny
about that. Okay, So because part of me, part of me,
and this again, make fun of me all you want.
(30:59):
That kid is going to grow to curse at some point, right,
don't teach him that. There's no reason to accelerate it.
So I think I talked about this on here before,
and I say that offen because I don't want to
sound like you've said that before, you idiot. I may have.
My brother, seventeen years older than me, would teach me
how to give the finger, how to like and mainly
(31:19):
because he wanted to just be a menace and just
drive my pain and he thought it was hilarious right
to his friends. But look what I taught my five
year old sister to do, so that would happen all
the time. But prior to that, before anyone actually taught me,
I learned by example. And one of the first things
my parents always say that I said was and we
(31:41):
had like the garbageman would come down the street and
the sound would be so loud, and I like jumped
one day two years old and went running to them
and I was like, Mom, Dad, the garbageman's here. The
ship out of me. And they were like okay. They
were like dying. They were like, don't it's like in
my baby. They're like, don't say that, Like you can't,
don't say that. But we get it because we've been
(32:01):
saying it. So I think I grew up with a
lot of older cousins, so it's not like I as
a baby or as a kid, I never cursed or
never heard it, but it was there was always. It
always came with the warning if they heard me curse,
it was like, you better not say that in front
of our parents or in front of our grandparents. There
(32:22):
was always a clear distinction. And it's funny because I
think growing up, I didn't have parents or aunts. Will
I take that back. My two young my youngest aunt
and my two youngest uncles. We're actually close to my cousin,
my older cousins ages, so they were kind of like
that transition of like friends to authority figures. But none
(32:46):
of my aunts and or uncles or parents were like
friends growing up. They were authority figures. Like they were
nice obviously that we we had a good time, and
the whole family operated, but there was a very clear
line drawn of like, you you need, we will treat
(33:06):
you perfectly, we will raise your right, but you have
to respect that we are not the same right now.
That changed when I got older. That's interesting because I
didn't really have aunts and uncles that I was like.
I had one aunt who just obviously much older, but
like my brother and sister, they I like, I listened
to them whatever they told me to do. I listened
(33:27):
to them, but also knew I could get away with
a lot around them. But and I had that with
like my older cousins, like my cousin Chris, my cousin Paul,
Like they were still authority figures and they would babysit
us and stuff, but they were fun. Yeah, yeah, And
there was a clear distinction between them and what I
could get away with with them than what I could
(33:47):
get get away with with my parents. And I couldn't curse.
But again I was like scared shitless of my parents
growing up. But also again another thing that's written in
my baby book is we had a dog named Binkie
and who I tortured the hell out of as a child.
And one day my mom heard me talking to him
and I was like two or three, and I was like, come,
(34:09):
your fucking dog. Fucking dog, and she was like, that's
when I realized that I'm always like, oh, that fucking dog,
which is goes back to the email we're asking people
to send us. Is what thing as a parent did
you realize once you had a kid, You're like, oh,
I should probably cut this out. Not and it doesn't
have to be the worst thing in the world, right
Your kids saying the F word is not the end
(34:31):
of the world, but it's something where like I would rather,
I would rather create a home where that's not the norm.
So we're gonna give ourselves homework or this next week
to ask our parents the same question mom and stop
doing or yeah, I could ask them. My dad's gonna
give me a smart ass answer, so I'll come back
(34:53):
with nothing. My mom will probably be give me something
that's I don't know, and then then I'm gonna be like,
what abo cursing, and then she'll be able to give
me more. But did your parents ever stopped cursing around
the house? That was a note that was a very
faint note from Carla Murray. They do not. They're still
there cursing right now. And it's funny because obviously, uh,
(35:13):
I probably sound like a little curmudgeon or like a
little schoolboy, like, oh, you can't curse or whatever. I listen,
I curse all the time. I just I kind of
like the fact that I can look back at I
tiled him be like, no, there was a very clear
distinction of like, this is how it is okay to
act and and it's okay to be I think this
is what it comes down to, you can be your
(35:36):
true self in different forms your true self. I've never
I've never been of the belief that your true self
is consistent all the time. I think your true self
has to adapt to different scenarios and different groups of
people that you're with, and your core is still the same.
(35:56):
Because if your core is like, oh, my true self
is I'm a person, that curse is You're not a
real that's not a real. That's not a trait, right,
You're just attaching some weird language to you as as
a human. But that's not a personality trait. Um what
why do you Why are you looking at me? I
(36:17):
have to go to the doctor, not like something just happened.
I'm dying. I have to get to my doctor's women
to day. I'm going to uh dr a my natural
path who's gonna give me trigger point injections because my
entire body hurts. Peace up. Dr ray Down said that
I wonder she's gonna what I'm talking about. Probably not. Well,
(36:37):
thank you very much. I don't even know how we
got to being almost a forty minute long podcast. I
had other things to talk about, and we didn't. You're
gonna have to wait. And please remember all the parents
out there, whether it's been a day or thirty years
of parenthood, what thing have you changed the second he
became a parent or soon after you said I've got
to cut this out. This is not something that I
(36:59):
would like to pas son. It could be very serious, right,
if there's family trauma that you are trying to be
the end of it. Could it could be that serious, um,
But it could also be as something as simple as
I stopped sitting so close to the TV because I
don't want my kids to do it. Oh my god,
my dad used to yell at me for that all
the time. Thank you very much for hanging out with us,
and don't forget if you have not checked out our
(37:20):
brand new podcast we actually just this morning, but we
haven't announced it officially yet. We have reached over one
hundred thousand listens on our brand new podcast called The
Morning Show Podcast, which we just launched at the very
end the very tail end of February, so we're not
even three full months in a hundred thousand listens. We
are very proud of that because it's this little thing
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that we started with no real backing. Um. Like this podcast,
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You can just search the Morning Show podcast and make
(38:04):
sure our names are on it, because then that's ours. Yeah,
that's us. Thank you very much for hanging out with
us this week. And uh, I really want to say,
go after yourself, but actually say it. Don't do that,
go after yourself. San Diego
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