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Speaker 1 (00:01):
This is my legacy.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
In this week's bonus drop, things get wild, real, and
ridiculously funny because Tiffany Hottish only does life at full
volume with her best friend since middle school, Selena Martin.
Tiffany opens up about boundaries, burnout, and the beauty of
showing up for yourself and your friends when life gets heavy.
Speaker 3 (00:20):
Let's jump in.
Speaker 4 (00:22):
So Girls Trip twenty seventeen, Girls Trip. Within two weeks,
Girl's Trip came out, and then your first stand up comedy,
which was She Ready from the Hood to Hollywood, which
introduced her stand up to the world. So she ready right,
because that you coin that phrase, everybody knows. We all
use it all. You know every you know she ready,
she ready? But were you ready? What part of success
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do you think that you weren't ready for?
Speaker 5 (00:47):
Uh?
Speaker 6 (00:47):
The part that I wasn't ready for is how much
you actually have to do to get things done. It's
it's way more work than what it looks like.
Speaker 1 (00:57):
Like.
Speaker 6 (00:58):
I gotta give it to the to the celebrities out there,
you know, they make it look easy when you turn
on that TV, open your phone, it looks like it's
so easy. But there's a lot going on behind those scenes.
It's a lot to get to that. Uh, you know,
you'd be on a comedy tour and shooting the movie
at the same time, and on a book press tour,
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like that's a lot.
Speaker 1 (01:21):
It's a lot. And then.
Speaker 6 (01:24):
Like at nature by nature, I'm a kind person, but
I'm an evil bitch when I'm exhausted.
Speaker 2 (01:32):
I get that. No, no, no, no, no no.
Speaker 5 (01:40):
I'm thinking, you know, you have to be nice. I'm
not talking.
Speaker 1 (01:46):
About you, I'm talking about just in general what she said.
Speaker 5 (01:51):
You don't because you have to always be on stage
and sometimes you're like, no, I don't.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
Feel like.
Speaker 5 (01:58):
Solenny what what?
Speaker 1 (02:00):
What was it like?
Speaker 5 (02:00):
Is as being Tiffany's best friend and seeing her go
through so much loss and heartache the past two years particularly,
and finally, how did you show up for her in
her lowest moments.
Speaker 7 (02:17):
First, it's it's hard to see Tiffany go through those
hard times because you know, I know it pretty well,
and it's just, you know, I feel like good people
always seem to have the hardest times, you know, Like
she's such a good person, and I feel like we
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embody each other on so many different levels, and so
it's it's almost like I'm going through it, you know,
as though I'm her, you know.
Speaker 3 (02:52):
So it's tough. It's really tough. I think what was
important for me to support her during those times is, uh,
you know, because she's she's a busy woman, but being present,
answering those calls whenever she calls, which I think I'm
pretty good at, being present and listening without without any judgment,
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you know, just continuously being that safe space for her,
because I think sometimes also when you love someone tough,
you want to offer advice when they may be sharing
or venting. So I think just listening without judgment and
continuously being just that safe space for her and being present. Yeah,
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and if she just wanted to talk and just have
me listen, I'm there.
Speaker 1 (03:44):
You know, I'm not saying you give the advice.
Speaker 7 (03:47):
Company coming over and watching a movie that we may
both go to sleep too, you know, which is.
Speaker 3 (04:01):
Fun going through your closet.
Speaker 1 (04:05):
I love so Muchlina, I love you too. We should
be in the same room right now.
Speaker 8 (04:11):
This is why we love the show because people who
are their best friends get to share all the cool stories.
Speaker 4 (04:16):
And they know your heart in a way that no
one else knows. And what I love about this conversation.
The most too, is that you all have known each
other since the nineteen hundreds.
Speaker 6 (04:29):
Like that you give us that respect for a year,
just that the nineteen hundreds noticed right here ain't going nowhere?
Speaker 1 (04:38):
You know, when we get mad at each other.
Speaker 6 (04:39):
I was thinking about that the other day, Like we
have had probably all of three arguments ever in Yena
and I call them arguments because we didn't yell at
each other.
Speaker 1 (04:49):
And I said, I don't like what you did that
this really upset.
Speaker 6 (04:51):
And when you said this, miss missness. You know, we
have like rational discussions and I'm like, and we've been
like that's the sweep was lit. I know, and I
have other friends that want to yell and scream at me.
I'll be like, oh yeah, bitch with this friendship rover
real do not it's right here?
Speaker 1 (05:09):
Are you talking to me? Do you know?
Speaker 6 (05:11):
My friends Selena and Shmaana, they don't talk to me
like that, See.
Speaker 1 (05:15):
MoMA, we don't.
Speaker 6 (05:16):
Even when we all met at each other, it's it's
no yelling or nothing. It's like, okay, were taking the
time out.
Speaker 7 (05:21):
Let's yeah, the time out and getting to the point
where okay, I'm chr now, let's talk about it, you know,
because I think we're both the type of people that
you don't want to talk to us when we're upset.
Speaker 3 (05:36):
Some things may be said that you can't take back,
you know.
Speaker 1 (05:40):
So rep pause on the you know what tomorrow.
Speaker 4 (05:45):
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Speaker 3 (06:05):
Now back to my legacy.
Speaker 8 (06:08):
Now, I want to turn to your latest project, in
many ways, your real life version of Girls Trip. You
surprise three of your closest friends, your day ones with
this month long trip to Africa Cameras following a docu
series called Tiffany Hattish goes Off.
Speaker 4 (06:23):
Well, when I saw it looked like some of the
episodes of the of the series. I don't know if
it was the two of you all, but there was
a there was a lot of emotions on some of it,
which I'm so I'm excited to see how it all
unpacks and goals. But it also looked like there was
some major major Oh.
Speaker 1 (06:43):
Yeah, there was some major feelings there.
Speaker 4 (06:45):
But also like the major but you know, behind those
major feelings of major love, and that's how you know
when you really love somebody that you can go through
those major feelings like that and still be safe and
love and then you all love each other even deeper
after that.
Speaker 7 (07:00):
After Yeah, yeah, that's how all of our loving relationships
should be.
Speaker 6 (07:05):
You know, Like I always tell everybody's sleep in my
safe place. I feel like I can be the most phrasiest, weirdest,
they all the most ratchetess. Whatever I need to get
off my heart, I can get it off my heart
whistling it. I know it's gonna get That's where it'll be.
It ain't gonna she probably let it die. She might
bring it back up. Remember the time you said no, no,
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you know what You're right. It's why you my safe place.
Speaker 1 (07:32):
That's because she knows your heart.
Speaker 3 (07:33):
That's what it seems like.
Speaker 4 (07:34):
She knows who she knows who you really are.
Speaker 1 (07:37):
So yeah, everybody gonna know that.
Speaker 6 (07:39):
It's only it's only probably about about twenty fifteen, thirty
five thousand people.
Speaker 1 (07:43):
That nothing.
Speaker 4 (07:46):
What countries did you all go to? I know you
were in Cape Town because I watched the first episode.
Speaker 1 (07:50):
So your South.
Speaker 6 (07:51):
Africa Cape down, we ver sit the way Timsania and
uh zizbar is tears and me ain't it?
Speaker 1 (08:02):
Yeah?
Speaker 7 (08:03):
Yeah, and a little bit of a Zambia right like
just I mean it was only for a few hours, right, we.
Speaker 1 (08:09):
Were in Zimbabwe. When you cross the street, we talked.
Then we had the zip line back over that beautiful river.
Speaker 6 (08:25):
Like that's the other thing, like, you know, you don't
realize how many gorgeous beauty just like man, you know
all the stuff that we see on TV over the
back in the nineteen hundreds, what was shown to us
of what Africa was. It is so not that it
is not that I think I'm suns to feel like
we got more of that in.
Speaker 1 (08:46):
America than we do in Africa. When I went to Africa,
I'm just like the Victoria off. Yeah, that lunar rainbow
you ha lived to the U s ain't a lull
bang bomb.
Speaker 4 (09:02):
How many countries have you you've been over twenty old?
Speaker 5 (09:05):
Twenty?
Speaker 6 (09:06):
Did you say you've been out to over twenty countries
in Africa?
Speaker 5 (09:09):
Yes, I haven't, Yes, but I'm old, I'm old older.
Speaker 1 (09:16):
You started traveling there when it was cheap, That's correct,
That's correct. And I have good friends.
Speaker 8 (09:23):
I got to actually do a shout out. So this man,
after he left elected office, chose to do things like
election monitoring of course with President Carter, and was actually
there when Mendela was inaugurated the first democratic elected free
president of South Africa.
Speaker 5 (09:39):
I was in South Africa at the beginning the first
time the election occurred, even ninety three or ninety four.
To see lines of people, you know, being in America,
being a part of the you know, my dad's movement.
Seeing people in lines waiting to vote was just so
amazing for hours, and one man said, I stayed up
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all night because I wanted to have the right to vote.
I was afraid that if I want to sleep, I
might miss my opportunity.
Speaker 1 (10:09):
I voted.
Speaker 5 (10:10):
Now I can go into glory. That's the essence of
what he said. It was just so profound, Uh to
to to be there at that time, to see that,
and then to go back for the inauguration.
Speaker 1 (10:19):
You gotta build citizenship.
Speaker 7 (10:21):
Uh no, not yet?
Speaker 5 (10:24):
Are you?
Speaker 6 (10:25):
Are you ambassador anywhere?
Speaker 5 (10:28):
No?
Speaker 1 (10:28):
Not just in my heart.
Speaker 8 (10:32):
He's the chancellor of a college in Kenya.
Speaker 4 (10:34):
I was gonna tell you all. We go to Kenya
every summer, and this is a sincere, a sincere invitation.
You all should come with us, either this year or
next year. It's in the I'm serious about that. That's
not one of those Hollywood brown.
Speaker 6 (10:52):
Up A time of courses. I definitely would come if
I can get a couple of courses there for free.
Speaker 4 (10:58):
Because we're in the Messiah Maara. We have a we
are chances at the school there, and you're right in
the Massai mar which is right where civilization started. I'm
telling it's nothing. It's something about being there. It opens
you up in ways you can't even imagine. And the
mama's there. That's what the women call themselves and the
things that they've done in the communities that it will
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change you.
Speaker 8 (11:21):
Okay, So Tiffany Haddish goes off Ken You version filming next.
We can't wait to see you summer.
Speaker 1 (11:27):
We're gonna see you.
Speaker 6 (11:28):
And it's what I'm gonna also be running for president
of the United States.
Speaker 1 (11:31):
And what's money I wanted to be on my cabinet.
Speaker 4 (11:34):
Well, Selena gonna be your vice president?
Speaker 1 (11:37):
I want.
Speaker 3 (11:40):
I want going to be the vice president.
Speaker 1 (11:42):
Nah No, we're probably gonna get Oprah to do that.
Speaker 3 (11:45):
Okay, I write your speeches, all right, your speeches.
Speaker 1 (11:49):
You write my speeches lean speeches.
Speaker 8 (11:51):
Can I say for the record, By the way, there's
these two amazing gentlemen who never get enough credit. They
are doing all the filming here. They're laughing none stuff
in the corners like I'm afraid the gonna knock over
the camera with you. I was like, back away from
the equipment.
Speaker 1 (12:04):
You got laughing hard. They must be from my hood.
Speaker 6 (12:07):
They understand, and they probably got a friend that's like
Selena too.
Speaker 1 (12:12):
They probably got that really good. I love it and
lessened them. Camera man, get them the walk on. Come
they married married today? Are you guys married? Well?
Speaker 4 (12:28):
One is saying one is mayor.
Speaker 3 (12:31):
He's holding up and they both.
Speaker 6 (12:33):
Married, not demonstating on behind the camera like looking at
her again, I stand looking at me.
Speaker 1 (12:41):
They marry me and get ugly than me. Keep them loyal, ladies, Keep.
Speaker 8 (12:47):
Them in loyal.
Speaker 2 (12:50):
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Speaker 3 (13:05):
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Speaker 2 (13:06):
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