AITA for saying out loud that I'm still in love with my cousin during a family reunion? | Reddit Stories | EP2089 - ok storytime

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Speaker 5 (01:28):
Am I the a hole for saying out loud that
I'm still in love with my cousin during a family reunion?
And this stands with the question of should DNA results
always be shared? So kindly, car seventy nine ninety six
says hi, I know the title is pretty disturbing. It
does sound creepy for me once I reread it, but

(01:48):
there's no better way to say it. I'm sure there's
a better way to say it. Before you start judging,
I want you all to know that the context will
be very important. You can form your own ideas, but
please wait until you read everything to say something. Me
twenty nine male and my fiance who i'll name Ali
twenty eight female, met when we were both twenty and
twenty one at UNI. We got along immediately since we

(02:10):
shared a liking for movies and TV shows. We introduced
each other to our families. We had movie nights and
a pretty loving and healthy relationship. So after years, I
finally asked her to marry me and she said yes.
We started planning the wedding and I took her to
my house for little of ak with my family. She
had a pretty good relationship with them, and that was
awesome since my family is a pretty important aspect of

(02:33):
my life, maybe too important. I was given up for
adoption when I was almost a year old, and I
got adopted by my parents a year later. As far
as I knew, I was removed from my biofamily because
of a drug issue concerning my bio mom. Ever since,
my family has been a blessing, even at more after
they took Ali as a part of the family. During
the preparation of her wedding, I started spending more time

(02:55):
with her family, and I also had a great relationship
with them. Anyway, for my birthday, her mother gave us
one of those DNA tests that are supposed to tell
you about your heritage.

Speaker 3 (03:05):
Why don't people give this as a gift? Kind of
a weird.

Speaker 6 (03:09):
Gift to get I think it's a weird gift. I
don't know.

Speaker 5 (03:11):
I feel like that's something that you get for yourself. Now,
there were two tests, so I insisted Ali to take
the other one. She did so, and we waited almost
a month for the results. We were at dinner with
my family and hers, and the result arrived.

Speaker 3 (03:24):
Just at that moment.

Speaker 5 (03:25):
I thought it would be fun to show the results
to our family and we could get some laughs and
stories for the rest of the dinner. We prepared everything
and I called for everyone's attention. Everything was laughs until
we got to the part of the DNA compatibility and
it shows that we shared a big percentage of our
DNA total silence in front of everybody, in front of

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her whole family now apparently also his family. We thought
it was wrong, so we took an official DNA test
that shows that me and Ali are actually cousins. This,
of course was very shocking and led to a lot
of discussions between our families. During the test, we decided
to run. I happened to be son of an aunt
of hers from her father's side. Of course, after the revelation,

(04:08):
we canceled the wedding and we had to make up
for a lot of stuff in our romantic life. Such
is the fact that we already had intimate moments and
some pregnancy scares. Almost a year later, we started seeing
each other, but we addressed each other as cousins.

Speaker 1 (04:23):
Why.

Speaker 5 (04:24):
I don't know if I would address her ever as cousin.

Speaker 3 (04:27):
They took a year like break then, and then they
got back together.

Speaker 5 (04:30):
No, that would be crazy if they got back together
and started referring to each other's cousins. They broke up,
which was pretty much heartbreaking for me because she was
and she still is the love of my life and
I don't think I'll be able to move her from
such an intimate place of my heart to just a cousin.
This year, around Easter, she started dating this guy. He's
actually pretty nice and I don't resent him for being

(04:51):
with her, but it still hurts me because I feel
that she moved on from me way faster than I did.
I understand we're cousins, but it still hurts.

Speaker 3 (04:59):
Yeah.

Speaker 5 (05:00):
Yesterday, during a family dinner at her house, I was
there since I started spending some more time with my
bio mom, so I really was a cousin.

Speaker 3 (05:08):
Now.

Speaker 6 (05:08):
Ali and this guy.

Speaker 5 (05:09):
Will name him Harry, were very close to each other
and I just wanted to throw up at that moment
of the party, Ali and I get to have some
alone time while setting up the children's table, and I
asked her how things were going with Harry. She said
it was good and that she was actually hoping for
things to get more serious. Don't get me wrong, I'm
happy that she can find a good man, but deep inside,

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it pains me that it's not me. I tried to
play my part as her cousin because I am so
I gave her a hug and told her that I
was happy for her. Then Harry got in and said, wow,
that hands a little.

Speaker 6 (05:43):
Low, Bud.

Speaker 3 (05:44):
I might think you know her too well.

Speaker 5 (05:47):
Either he knows or he's making a really weird comment
about like someone's cousin. I tried to play cool and
just laughed, but I noticed that the comment made her
feel awkward, so I tried to brush it off by
saying I do know her too well.

Speaker 3 (06:00):
We shared a bed once. He was like, I noticed
she felt a little.

Speaker 5 (06:03):
Bit uncomfortable, so I decided to make it much worse.

Speaker 3 (06:06):
Oh, Pee, that was the wrong thing to say.

Speaker 6 (06:09):
Why would you say that?

Speaker 5 (06:10):
Now, thinking back on it, I could have chose a
better word or a better way to say it. I
wasn't referring to that, but more of all the movie
nights we had.

Speaker 6 (06:20):
Come on, what do you mean, oh.

Speaker 3 (06:23):
We shared a bed the movie nights. I'm sorry, but
like you watch movies on a couch.

Speaker 5 (06:30):
Ali looked at me stunned, but Harry had a terrified
look on his face. I tried to explain because I
assumed that Ali told him about how I was just
getting into the family, but apparently I was wrong. The
discovery led to an argument where he started yelling at
Ali for not telling him that she was and I
quote effing her cousin. That made me angry, and I
couldn't believe he was just ignoring the fact that we

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didn't know before. I started yelling at him that he
was a jerk for judging her and ignoring the context
behind it, but that only directed his anger at me.
I don't remember the specific words he used, because I
was truly mad, but he yelled that I was a
freak for showing up when he was there, and that
I was disrespectful and disgusting for trying to get her
attention back after knowing we were related.

Speaker 3 (07:11):
I was furious and so.

Speaker 5 (07:13):
I told him that if I was him, she wouldn't
have to go through this embarrassment because I actually do
love her enough to not humiliate her like that. Stop talking,
Stop talking, you're just proving his points.

Speaker 3 (07:26):
Stop.

Speaker 5 (07:26):
The argument escalated to the point that he left, and
now Ali was saying that I was a jerk for
saying what happened between us and that we were just cousins.
I tried to apologize, but I ended up saying that
I couldn't take it, that I missed her and then
I'm still in love with her. She looked at me.
I don't know how to describe her face because it
was pretty confusing, but she left and I was kicked out.

(07:47):
Later on, I started receiving a lot of calls and
messages saying that I was sick for ruining her relationship
like that, and I was disgusting and selfish for doing
that to her and making her think that she was
still in love with me even when we know we
are family. I know I did a lot of things
wrong though, and that I could have handled things better,
but I want to know.

Speaker 3 (08:06):
Am I the a hole?

Speaker 5 (08:07):
Yes, you said all of the wrong things.

Speaker 3 (08:10):
I think Op's like trying to pass it off.

Speaker 5 (08:13):
It was trying to say, oh, well, that's not what
I meant. They just don't understand what I meant. The
fact that he said, oh, I'm still in love with her,
it's clearly what he meant.

Speaker 3 (08:20):
Yeah, you literally said you're in love with her.

Speaker 5 (08:22):
Yeah, in front of everyone. Well, well let's read these comments.
Dude twenty eight to forty one says, that's what I
figured as well. The chances of something like that happening
in a big city is unlikely, so I think you're right.
She might even have to leave their hometown if the
ex decided to start the room or mill, which I've
never lived in a small town, but i've heard.

Speaker 3 (08:40):
Gets around very quickly.

Speaker 5 (08:42):
I feel bad for her and hope it doesn't harm
her like that, and then kindly. Carr, who is OP,
says this comment section has been the most useful for
me because it made me realize that I did drop
the comments to annoy him. Being honest, I didn't think
of it like that since it was actually something like
an inside joke between me and.

Speaker 3 (08:58):
Ali and also our family.

Speaker 5 (09:00):
So I thought it might slip up again because I
thought Harry knew, but thinking deep down about it. Yes,
I was jealous and I said it to hurt him,
and it was uncalled for. I didn't notice it at first,
but I understand it now, thank you. And we live
in a small town. It's a small city. The city
has some places where some families like mine, farms and stuff.
But even if our situation spread, it wouldn't reach many

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people out of his circle.

Speaker 3 (09:24):
I think they made the right call they broke up.

Speaker 5 (09:26):
I think he just was an a hole for the
stuff that he was saying. Actually, I wonder if they
would have stayed together if the family didn't.

Speaker 3 (09:33):
Know op definitely her, maybe not. It seems like she's
fully moved on.

Speaker 6 (09:38):
But that's the end of that story.

Speaker 7 (09:40):
I secretly learned my girlfriend's language. We ended up breaking up.

Speaker 6 (09:44):
No, No, that was so cute.

Speaker 7 (09:49):
Yeah, my girlfriend is South African. Her native language is Afrikaans.
I've been learning how to speak Afrikaans without my girlfriend knowing.
I secretly applied for online courses that I've been saying
on and off for more than a year now. By
the way, this comes from a good Surprise gone bad
on the our slash Okay storytime subreddit.

Speaker 6 (10:07):
I see you, man, I see you.

Speaker 7 (10:11):
My plan was to surprise my girlfriend and her family
with my American Afrikaans when I finally meet her parents
in person for the first time later this year. I
never intended to eavesdrop or anything, but learning Afrikaans in
secret accidentally exposed me to sensitive information that my girlfriend
was sharing on the phone with her Afrikaans speaking friends
from South Africa. Uh oh, it was gossip. I was

(10:36):
not supposed to understand, but eventually I did. This is
what I've heard in the past few months. My girlfriend
is planning to surprise me on my birthday by reuniting
with her high school metal band and putting on a
show for me.

Speaker 6 (10:49):
Okay, that's nice. That's nice.

Speaker 7 (10:53):
My girlfriend wants to tattoo the names of literally all
the Harry Potter spells on her back, but she doesn't
know how to tell me because she's afraid I'll talk
her out of it.

Speaker 6 (11:03):
That's so funny.

Speaker 5 (11:04):
Both of these these are hilarious. So far, I'm not
seeing the problem yet.

Speaker 6 (11:09):
That's seeing any problem.

Speaker 7 (11:11):
My girlfriend casually mentioned that one of the unexpected differences
between her glasses and her contact lenses is that when
she's on her knees looking up at me, with her
glasses on, my wiener looks much.

Speaker 5 (11:23):
Bigger compared to what it.

Speaker 7 (11:24):
Looks like through her contact lenses, which is why she
keeps her glasses on.

Speaker 6 (11:30):
During a spicy sleep out, dang.

Speaker 5 (11:34):
Man bro learning a lot of things we didn't want
to know, a lot things we all didn't want to know.

Speaker 6 (11:39):
Yeah, some some fun, some bad.

Speaker 7 (11:42):
My girlfriend is convinced that my parents are swingers because
apparently there are always attractive couples hanging out at my
mom and dad's house whenever we visit. My girlfriend secretly
finished the entire series of Better Call Sauw without me,
even though we agreed to finish it together, so now
she's pretending to have no idea.

Speaker 6 (12:00):
How the show ends. Dude, this is crazy classic.

Speaker 7 (12:03):
My girlfriend is thinking about canceling the high School Middleman
I lote it because she's no longer sure if it's
appropriate to team up with two of her exes that
are original members of the band.

Speaker 6 (12:13):
Dude, this is so so funny. My girlfriend expects her
dad not to like me.

Speaker 7 (12:18):
I would have preferred not knowing most of those things,
to be honest, but there is no way for me
to unlearn Afrikaans, so now I'm cursed with knowing too
much while having to pretend I know nothing some comments.
Monsters in my Wardrobe says, the punishment for forbidden knowledge
is knowing.

Speaker 6 (12:35):
Lol.

Speaker 7 (12:36):
Keep it a secret and when she asks you about it,
just say I'm speaking Afrikaans the whole time. Opie responds,
or I'll deflect and just be like, Better Call Saul?

Speaker 6 (12:47):
Is there anything you'd like to tell me? Honey, sweetheart,
light of my life?

Speaker 5 (12:51):
I like that, Like focus is like yeah, yeah, been
watching Better Call Saul with Noondred says watch Better Call
sauw to the and look at her and say that was.

Speaker 6 (13:02):
Really good in Afrikaans. That's funny.

Speaker 7 (13:05):
Global Cattle sixty eight five says, ah, that wasn't all
that bad. Honestly thought this was going to be much
worse than it was. OHP responds to that far away
from CBT and nowhere near the coconut, dude, lies my
mild f up know what that means.

Speaker 5 (13:20):
I don't know what any of that means, but if
you do, I don't speak Africans.

Speaker 7 (13:25):
Yeah, but we do have an update four months later,
the following happened since my original post. I asked my girlfriend.

Speaker 6 (13:34):
To marry me.

Speaker 7 (13:35):
In Afrikaans, and she said, I really, I don't know
how to say that traffictly, but basically she agreed yes
in Afrikaans. So yeah, I delivered my I want to
spend the rest of my life with you speech in Afrikaans,
which surprise and impressed my girlfriend aka my fiance. As
soon as my girlfriend became my fiance, I casually mentioned
that I've been secretly learning her native language and accidentally

(13:57):
been He's dropping on several phone call conversations she had
with her Afrikaans speaking friends about things I was not
supposed to understand, like, for example, her feeling conflicted about
reuniting with her original high school band members for my
birthday because the band apparently included two of her exes,
or the fact that she went into tattoo literally all

(14:17):
of the Harry Potter spells on her back, or that
she finished Better Call Saw without me, or that she
thought my mom and Dauver's fingers, or all of the
reasons that we previously heard, including some of the stuff
that she said to her friends after my original post,
like how she was struggling to get used to my
braces because the braces in my mouth plus the freckles
on my face somehow made me look underaged, and Loki

(14:39):
made her feel like she's my older sister when we
around in public. My fiance was embarrassed when she realized
how much Afrikaans I was able to understand, and apologized
if she made me feel uncomfortable. I accepted her apology,
even though it wasn't necessary. Well, except for finishing better
calls all behind my back, that was playing with fire
moment in our relationship almost unforgivable. My fiance got one

(14:59):
of Therry Potter spells in her back erecto patronum. Oh,
I'm kidding, okay, I was like, I stole that from
another story. My fiance is still considering getting her back tattooed.
I said it was her choice, but I advise her

(15:19):
to avoid covering her entire back with Harry Potter spells
like she's some kind of death eater. Michael Schofield, My
fiance might be right about her dad not liking me,
because his expression of disappointment and dread when he heard
the news of our engagement was priceless. That said, I'll
win him over, though even if it kills him, jokes.

Speaker 6 (15:39):
My fiance fully believes.

Speaker 7 (15:40):
My parents are swingers based on the different couples she's
occasionally observed coming and going whenever we visited mom and dad.
She wants us to investigate my parents because, for some reason,
it's fun for her to imagine me being the son
of a mom.

Speaker 6 (15:52):
And dad whose spicy sleep life is far more spicy
than mine.

Speaker 7 (15:59):
I'm not interested in opening that door, though, because I
don't want to know what goes on in my mom
and dad's bedroom.

Speaker 6 (16:04):
However, something tells me that my fiance will not rest
until she has all the answers.

Speaker 7 (16:08):
I made it clear to my fiance that I had
no problem with her reuniting with her high school band
to perform at my birthday unless it was uncomfortable for
her that her exes were a part of the band.
My fiance ultimately decided to cancel the band because of
behind the scenes drama. The drummer, who was one of
the exes apparently gained a lot of weight after high
school and lost all confidence to perform in the band all.
The lead guitarist, aka the other ex was only willing

(16:31):
to participate if my fiance agreed to play covers of
gospel songs, since he was now saved and no longer
interested in playing the Devil's music. The bass guitars wan
in money Man, that's bad fell apart. Oh my gosh,
my fiance still wears her glasses during spicy sleep. Edit
to all the comments saying this is a repost, it's not.

(16:53):
It's an update of my original post from a few
months ago. Check my history, it's my story. There are
some common srs. Goblin says, the bass player knows what's up.
Never played for free Musicianship one O one, not so holy,
Mary says, And none of these things seem to be
very damaging to a relationship. Your girlfriend actually seems considerate,
wanted to surprise you but not knowing if it will

(17:14):
hurt you, and worrying about how her family will like you.

Speaker 6 (17:17):
Could be a heck of a lot worse.

Speaker 7 (17:19):
And of course, never worry about the weiener thing, not
the size, but hell, you use it right.

Speaker 6 (17:25):
I'm a right.

Speaker 7 (17:33):
Kama Cozi TM says, Except that she watched all of
better Calls all without him.

Speaker 6 (17:37):
That's just downright rude. True. Update number two is a
second update.

Speaker 7 (17:43):
There's everything's perfect, though, Oh do we have any final
thoughts before we move on?

Speaker 3 (17:49):
I think everything's perfect.

Speaker 6 (17:50):
I think everything's perfect. We should just stop right here?
Should stop?

Speaker 5 (17:53):
I'm really worried.

Speaker 6 (17:55):
There's another update now. Last time I was here, I
shared an update related to my originals.

Speaker 7 (18:00):
I deleted that update because I was keen to tell
the internet aka all of you, that my girlfriend and
I got engaged.

Speaker 6 (18:06):
However, no, no, no, However, since then, we've not only
gotten ourselves unengaged, but actually broken up. No no.

Speaker 7 (18:19):
In my original post, my ex girlfriend, who was still
my girlfriend back then, had a wild theory that my
mom and dad were swingers just because they always had
people at their house. Uh oh, this is the thing
that runed it. I never believed it, but I thought
it was hilarious that someone thought my parents were that interesting.

Speaker 6 (18:35):
Not gonna lie. I struggled to move on after my
relationship ended.

Speaker 7 (18:38):
My apartment had too many memories of my ex, so
I called my parents to ask if I could stay
with them for a bit just to clear my head.

Speaker 6 (18:45):
I don't like how this is going so far. Wait,
where did you guys break up? Well, you just said
like after we broke up. Yeah, I don't know, but
it did. We're about to get engaged. What happened, Yeah,
what happened? Please but my parents?

Speaker 3 (19:00):
I said yes.

Speaker 7 (19:00):
My dad offered to pick me up, which I accepted.
What should have been a ten minute drive unexpectedly turned
into a forty five minute drive because my dad decided
to take the longer route back to his house.

Speaker 6 (19:10):
When my dad was done making.

Speaker 7 (19:11):
Dad jokes to help me get over my breakup, he
started doing that weird dad thing where he's trying to
bring up an awkward topic, but it's too uncomfortable for
him to just spit it out, so he ends up
saying a bunch of words that only he understands.

Speaker 6 (19:22):
I see you, I of luck, but he's just going
oh boy.

Speaker 7 (19:27):
I was forced to interrupt my dad and basically beg
him to make sense. My dad said, since it was
unclear how long I was gonna stay, he felt compelled
to prepare me for what I might see at the house.
If my ex was present at that moment, she would
have punched me on my shoulder and said, I I've
told you because my dad.

Speaker 5 (19:47):
Confirmed her swinger theory dude.

Speaker 6 (19:52):
Which no longer made it a theory, but the truth,
or as I like to call.

Speaker 3 (19:56):
It, trauma.

Speaker 6 (19:58):
Oh, oh my goodness, if you guys ended on good terms.
I mean, I don't know.

Speaker 5 (20:03):
I can't imagine you did because it yeah, broken engagement.

Speaker 6 (20:06):
But I would go tell her.

Speaker 7 (20:09):
I would, yeah, I would feel like, this is so random,
you don't have to respond.

Speaker 6 (20:13):
You were freaking around. My parents are swingers. Gosh.

Speaker 7 (20:18):
By the time my dad and I finally made it
to our destination, my dad made sure I knew.

Speaker 6 (20:22):
Everything I needed to know.

Speaker 7 (20:24):
I made a list based on what I learned from
my dad. Both my parents were swingers when they met.
Swinging was not something that my parents wanted to do
while raising kids, so it was prohibited while my parents became.

Speaker 6 (20:35):
Parents to see if they still got it.

Speaker 7 (20:38):
My parents switched back to swinging when they had the
house to themselves again, and loan and bhold they still
got it. Hosting swinger parties was something my parents did frequently,
usually with themes cute. My parents were planning to host
another swinger party, but my mom was leaning towards calling

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it off so that I could come home and stay
for as long as I wanted. If my parents were
forced to cancel, it would be the first party that
they called off since the VID. The theme was promn
I never expected my dad to go that hard in
the too much information category, but as soon as he
crossed that threshold, he got all out of his system.
I stayed with my parents for a total of two

(21:19):
days before it came abundantly clear to me that knowledge
might be power for some people, but for me, knowledge
was a fake punishment. My mom, who was unaware that
I Loki knew that she was a swinger. Mom attempted
to convince me to stay longer, and she almost succeeded,
But I was just done with my dad using our
father son bonding time to play guess which one of
our neighbors are also swingers? No, oh gosh, I used

(21:42):
a newber to get back to my apartment.

Speaker 6 (21:44):
No more dad rides.

Speaker 7 (21:45):
I've never been so happy to return to a place
that was haunted by my failed relationship.

Speaker 6 (21:53):
Oh my goodness.

Speaker 3 (21:55):
You know.

Speaker 7 (21:55):
What I do know is that you can listen to
full episodes with more stories just like this one. Just
search Okay Storytime on your favorite podcast app Worthy that's
Apple Podcasts, Spotify.

Speaker 6 (22:04):
IHeartRadio, whatever you choose. We'll be there, We'll be there.

Speaker 7 (22:08):
My ex and I broke up because of a tattoo
her friend passed away, Oh, I'm sorry, which promoted her
to literally get his name tattooed on the back of
her neck. The friend was someone my ex used to
sleep with before she met me.

Speaker 3 (22:22):
Wow.

Speaker 7 (22:24):
I made it clear to her prior to the tattoo
that I understood that it was her body to do
with whatever she wanted, but as someone who was prepared
to be with her forever, it was gonna be uncomfortable
for me to see another guy's name on her body
for the rest of our lives, especially the name of
a guy that passed away that she had casual, spicy
sleep with. Hmm, my eggs got the tattoo anyway. The

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tattoo was small and barely visible. That was her defense.
I knew it was there, that was enough. It was
also very thing visible.

Speaker 6 (22:54):
In certain positions.

Speaker 7 (22:55):
We argued about the tattoo until we eventually said enough
hurtful things that could now be unsaid. Clearly, the tattoo
was worth losing me because the tattoo is still there
and I'm not well.

Speaker 6 (23:06):
Not much you can do about getting rid of the tattoo.

Speaker 7 (23:08):
When there are some comments. Second creative says, I can't
stay here. Too many sad memories two days later, save me.

Speaker 6 (23:15):
From the horrible things I now know, sad memories.

Speaker 7 (23:19):
That's exactly what happened, OPI responded, I'm gladly relieve the
pain of my relationship getting napalmed, then listening to my
dad makeup synonyms for swingers like no no monogamos. The
real six says, don't tell your ex the no no monogamo.
She might add it to the list of spells she
wants to tattoo.

Speaker 6 (23:39):
On her back. Oh that's so good.

Speaker 7 (23:42):
Relevant reference says how much their decor is pineapple themed?
OP says a few comments my previous posts made me
aware of the meeting behind the pineapple and the swinger community,
So I've actually been on the lookout for anything that
so much as remotely resembled a pineapple whenever I was
with my parents, But to this day, no pineapples. That
being said, based on what I know now thanks to

(24:04):
my father, I actually won't be surprised if my parents
were literally living in a pineapple house like sponge Pops
that only other no no monogamos could see.

Speaker 6 (24:14):
And that is the end of that story. Man, what a.

Speaker 5 (24:18):
Turn in this story. My partner finally proposed, but I'm
no longer interested.

Speaker 6 (24:26):
Awkward.

Speaker 5 (24:27):
My partner bought the ring a long time ago. He
previously insisted that we had to live together to see
if we were compatible before he could propose, and that
he wouldn't propose otherwise.

Speaker 3 (24:37):
I think that's part.

Speaker 5 (24:38):
By the way, this comes from Feisty eighty seven ninety
nine on the Arsla Shoky story. Time suffered it so
I have been ready for much longer than he has,
and that's not his fault, of course. But after waiting
and waiting, I have gone from anxiety to hope, to
excitement and finally just numbness. He didn't intend for me
to know, but my sister, who helped him finalize the

(24:59):
ring out of the one I had liked, was happy
about it and couldn't keep the.

Speaker 6 (25:02):
Secret that he's proposing in just under a week.

Speaker 5 (25:06):
It makes sense now that he was trying to get
me to take a couple of days off to go
away for a mini break to the town in which
we met.

Speaker 6 (25:12):
But I couldn't get leave approved.

Speaker 5 (25:14):
She noticed that I've been feeling quite low throughout the
holiday season, and she thought it was because I was
waiting for a proposal. But the realities that I gave
up on it a month or two ago. A month
or two I've tried to convince myself that it's what
I still want, but that ship is sailed. It's quite
strange to be in the process of falling out of
love with him gradually. He's twenty nine and I'm about

(25:34):
to turn twenty nine. I fear I'm being irrational here
because in total we've been together for only three years,
but he's been telling me for a year and a
half that he will soon propose. I feel compelled to
say yes now because everything is in place, but I
don't feel in love with him anymore. He seems happy
to talk about marriage now and is brought up marrying
in autumn a bunch of times, and I wish I

(25:55):
still felt the same joy at discussing wedding plans that
I did before. Relevant comments is one three years is
nothing considering you could be spending the rest of your
life with this person. Be glad you realize now, Opie says,
I've only begun feeling this way when he kept saying
a proposal was coming soon and didn't propose for a
year and a half, and his insistence on living together
when he knew it was not something I was comfortable

(26:17):
with without being engaged. How long ago did Opie move
in with her boyfriend? Was it fine for her to
live with them? Opie says only a few months ago.
And I shouldn't have done it because I was not
happy to. I used to share a flat with my
friend and had done.

Speaker 3 (26:30):
So for years.

Speaker 5 (26:31):
The only way to live together was to move into
the flat that he's been renting because he lives on
his own. Big mistake, doing something that didn't feel right
to me at all. No, it's actually been fine living
with him, but living together before engagement was really something
I did not want to do, but he made it
a condition to get engaged after he bought the ring
earlier in the year. I shouldn't have agreed to it,
but I did, and that's where the resentment has come from,

(26:53):
along with the year and a half wait. Commoner two says,
to feel that much resentment after such a rather short time,
which is yeah, my opinion is is sign that you
weren't right for each other anyway. Honestly, three years of
dating and requesting to live with each other before marriage
are totally reasonable at your age.

Speaker 6 (27:08):
I agree me too.

Speaker 5 (27:10):
Objectively, you are being a bit unfair here, but if
you're just not feeling anymore, so be it. It's better
to end things now before the engagement. This is no
base for a lifetime commitment.

Speaker 6 (27:20):
I completely agree too.

Speaker 5 (27:21):
Opie says, I don't think feeling resentment after waiting for
a year and a half is soon at all. He
said he would propose soon, and soon is not more
than a few months, certainly not over a year. I
disagree with them. He should have been honest that he
wasn't ready, instead of dragging this for a year and
a half. Opie is blaming her boyfriend for choices, and
she needs to communicate with her boyfriend about the issue,

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or so I think some of the comments are saying.
Opie says, I don't believe I am, especially as he
wasn't communicating clearly with me on the issue until a
few months ago. Sometimes you do things that you feel
will work out fine, but you don't realize until later
how they will make you feel. I felt pushed into
making that decision because of the various conversations that we
had earlier this year year, in which he shared things

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that he should have done a long time ago?

Speaker 1 (28:04):
Like what?

Speaker 8 (28:05):
Like?

Speaker 3 (28:06):
What?

Speaker 5 (28:07):
Commina three says two questions numbness aside? Do you want
to marry him? Like take away all of the pomp
and circumstance and the emotional politics around it. Do you
want him to be your life partner? What the f
is up with your sister? Why did she spill the beans?
I get it if she knew you were checking out
and felt you needed a heads up. But if she
didn't know that, and it doesn't sound like she did,
what she did isn't okay anyway. It's normal to be

(28:30):
almost a little blue and getting engaged later than he wanted.
It doesn't mean that it won't work out unless you
don't want it to. It could mean that you just
need to have a good, healthy fight where you air
out all of your frustration that he has held you
hostage on this for so long.

Speaker 3 (28:43):
I think, is I want?

Speaker 5 (28:46):
Obi says there was a time until recently when I
really wanted him to be my life partner and I
thought we were a good match, but not anymore. She
was mistaken and thought that I had been feeling low
because he hadn't proposed, so she was trying to cheer
me up, thinking I'd be thrilled. He told her he
had everything planned and ready for a proposal on our anniversary,
so she thought I would be happy.

Speaker 6 (29:05):
Dang, she's saying exactly what's gonna happen to update.

Speaker 5 (29:09):
In the middle of twenty twenty three, he said he
was proposing soon, but a year later he still hadn't
and finally admitted he wouldn't until we lived together, even
though he had bought a ring. This was despite me
asking him a couple of times what was holding things up,
and he always assured me it would happen. Soon after
he finally shared this with me, he kept insisting I
move in, even though I wasn't interested in that before

(29:29):
an engagement, but I did because of how much I
loved him, and the resentment had been slowly building up
ever since. I know it's my fault for moving in,
and I should have been firmer about my boundaries. He
knew from very early on that I didn't want to
set up a household slash home with a partner without engagement.
Early in the relationship, eight to nine months in, he
wanted me to move in, but I told him that
I wouldn't do that with someone unless I was going

(29:51):
to marry the person and was engaged. He said at
that time that was okay and that he understood. So
why did he say he was going to propose soon?
Last year? Knowing where we still on this matter, Knowing
he was going to propose, and realizing I didn't want
to marry him anymore, I told him on Saturday night
that we couldn't be together anymore. He didn't take it well.
He told me I had blindsided him and that he

(30:12):
thought we both wanted a future together. He initially said
he didn't know what he did wrong, and I had
to explain to him that he knew we had issues
regarding him always having his way and him knowing I
was uncomfortable about moving in before an engagement. The truth is,
whatever we disagree, I always end up giving in. He
doesn't compromise and isn't very flexible. I pointed this out
to him before and accept and he accepted that it

(30:34):
was an issue. Yet nothing changed. Now that I'm ending things,
he's saying he'll work on it and it's not something
to break up over. We could probably work through the
resentment and improve our communication, but I don't know if
I'll ever feel the same way about him again. Also,
given that he kept saying he was proposing soon but
waited for eighteen months, I worry that he might again
drag his feet when it comes to other things, like

(30:55):
having kids or even with planning the wedding. He woke
up this morning, the thirty first, the day he was
planning to propose on as it's our anniversary, and said
he couldn't believe what was happening.

Speaker 6 (31:05):
He said it didn't.

Speaker 5 (31:06):
Feel real because we should be getting engaged today, but
instead we were in the process of breaking up. He
even asked at one point if we could try again,
saying our relationship had been happy for both of us
and that living together we had been very compatible irrespective
of how I felt about moving in. He asked if
I would consider giving the relationship another chance if we
took a break from each other for some time.

Speaker 3 (31:27):
Again. I don't think this is a good idea.

Speaker 5 (31:30):
The days since I ended the relationship have been really tough,
but it was the right thing to do because we
are incompatible. People in my previous post mentioned that I
just wanted to marry and get engaged and didn't care
who to but that's not true. My ex whom I
was from university, was keen to marry me and brought
it up soon after we started our first jobs.

Speaker 6 (31:48):
However, there were a.

Speaker 5 (31:49):
Range of issues in that relationship and I didn't think
it would work, So after trying to resolve our issues
in not being able to for a year, I had
to end that relationship. If a marriage and engagement were
all I wanted, I would have married him and ignored
the issues. I genuinely thought my current partner well x
now and I were a great match, but I suppose
I was wrong. I was living in a flat with

(32:10):
a friend and it was ideal for me in every way.
I had to find someone to take over my lease,
and I did this to move in with him. Now
I have to start looking for a new place again.
I've already started, and fortunately I live in a city
where finding a place won't be too difficult. My friend
said I should not move out in a rush, since
I'm paying half the rent towards this place, But the
reality is that this place never felt like home because

(32:32):
I moved in begrudgingly. Again, I know it's my fault,
but I can't live in what is essentially his home
if we aren't going to be together, but you can
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Speaker 3 (32:47):
Search a book a start time.

Speaker 5 (32:48):
My sister said that I should think about the fact
that I'm going to be twenty nine and about how
it might be difficult to find someone have children with
before I hit my mid thirties. But it's better to
be single than in a relationship that's not right. I
know that I might not anyone else anytime soon or
at all, because you never know what life is going
to bring, but that's okay. There are other things in
my life that I plan to focus on, like studying

(33:08):
for a post rad diploma that I've been wanting to
do for some time. I know it'll be fine soon
as he's quite resilient, and then both of us can
get on with our lives. Rel the comments, a down
voted commenter says, in this case, his hesitancy paid off
because it allowed the OPI to realize that they weren't
impatible for reasons unrelated to proposing. He was correct not
to propose. It saved a future divorce. This wasn't his intent.

(33:31):
But the overall issue here was the Opie wasn't happy
with how decisions were made in the relationship the partner was.
It took years for the Opie to express this. Now
that she has both can move on with their lives.
In this case, the issue appears to be she didn't
communicate with him the issues she was having. He was
quite clear that he wanted to live with someone before
getting married and proposed after a reasonable length of time

(33:52):
after it occurred. It's good she was finally able to
communicate and move on. Opie says he was not clear
about this and waited a year to tell me why
it wasn't And this was after early on the relationship
when he wanted us to live together. I had told
them I wouldn't live with someone unless the relationship was
going to lead to marriage and I was engaged, and
he said that was fine and continue the relationship. Commoner

(34:12):
one says, did he need help with bills? Why did
you need to move in and pay half? Opie says
he didn't need help with paying the bills, but I
chose to pay as I think that's fair. I would
not be comfortable with him picking up the bills for
both of us when we both work. Commoner two says,
he didn't fight for you. You'll meet the one you
know now what you don't want, and that's a good start.
And stick to your boundaries and goals always. Opie says

(34:33):
he's been quite difficult since that day, particularly about me
leaving and looking for somewhere to live, But I don't
want him to make it any more difficult by fighting
for me. Just can't wait to be out of the place.
Commoner three says he doesn't compromise and isn't very flexible.
I pointed this out to him before and he accepted
that it was an issue, yet nothing changed. You are
doing the right thing. Commoner four says, don't fall for

(34:54):
the trap of going back to a man who was
only willing to consider changing his ways when you already
have your foot out the do or he won't change,
and even if he does, it will only be temporary,
and that is the end of the story.

Speaker 3 (35:06):
Here's johny og host here.

Speaker 1 (35:07):
We're gonna get back to the stories, but he's a
quick three minute break of ass from our sponsors.

Speaker 8 (35:11):
I told my sister's boyfriend my life is none of
his business.

Speaker 3 (35:14):
He keeps judging me because I'm not a stay at
home mom.

Speaker 5 (35:18):
Well, why don't you mind your own beeswax boom roasted.

Speaker 8 (35:22):
So I Female twenty two, have an older sister, Female
twenty eight. She has four kids, and she loves being
a mom and wants to be a stay at home mom,
and I encourage her to do whatever she wants. By
the way, this comes from user appropriate food fifty eight
fifty eight, and you can submit your stories to the
r slash okay storytime subreddit. So she herself understands that

(35:42):
I have no desire to be a mom right now,
if not ever. I have two other older sisters who
are like me, who don't want to be a stay
at home mother.

Speaker 3 (35:50):
This is important to the story.

Speaker 8 (35:52):
Her boyfriend is mad at me boyfriend male twenty seven,
because he asked me when I'm going to settle down
and that he can introduce me to his friend, male
twenty five, who wants to stay at home wife. I
told him no that I don't want to date anyone
this year, and he got mad at me for some
reason and asked me why. So I told him my
ex boyfriend left me with trust issues. My ex cheated

(36:12):
on me for six months into a three year relationship.
He told me we broke up in twenty twenty three
and I should start getting back out there, and I
told him it's not his business, and he dropped it.
Two days ago, he asked me if I wanted to
be a stay at home wife and mother, and I
told him no that I don't and I'm not even
sure I want kids, let alone to get married. He
got defensive since his mom was a stay at home

(36:33):
wife and mom, and I told him I don't see
anything wrong with being a stay at home mom, but
I don't personally want to depend on a man for anything,
and once again he got defensive and said, not all.

Speaker 6 (36:44):
Mad are the same.

Speaker 8 (36:45):
He said, my sister wants to be a stay at
home wife and mom, and I told him, congratulations on
finding that out with my sister, but I, once again
do not want to be a stay at home mom.
He got mad because he overheard my conversation about me
getting an IUD as well and told me I'm roo
God's plan to make me a mom one day, and
I told him whether I want kids or not is
not his business. He got mad at me and told

(37:06):
me to get out of his home, so I did.
My older sister's asking me to apologize to him and
to not get an IUD since if I get pregnant
that it's God's plan. And she also told me I
should reconsider being a stay at home mom. I told
her not everyone has that dream, and she accused me
of not respecting stay at home mothers or wives, which
is nothing but live. Oh.

Speaker 5 (37:27):
He's just like, I don't want to do that, and
she's like, you hate me.

Speaker 3 (37:30):
Yeah.

Speaker 5 (37:31):
I was like, no, it's just not my thing.

Speaker 8 (37:34):
These people don't seem to be able to let other
people be different in any way.

Speaker 5 (37:39):
No, they're like, if you're not like us, you're Satan's Bam,
you go into eighteen double hockey stay Indeed, indeed, everyone
knows God only likes one type of person.

Speaker 3 (37:52):
Its housewives.

Speaker 5 (37:54):
That's it.

Speaker 3 (37:55):
You stay at home.

Speaker 5 (37:56):
He's really into Desperate Housewives.

Speaker 8 (38:00):
My two other older sisters are on my side and
said my sister's boyfriend shouldn't be concerned with how I
live my life and that if I don't want to
depend on anyone for the rest of my life, that's
my choice.

Speaker 3 (38:11):
He also said I'm gonna go to h double hockey sticks.

Speaker 6 (38:15):
For be and by.

Speaker 8 (38:16):
So I screamed that, I guess his girlfriend my sister
is also going there.

Speaker 3 (38:21):
Because she's bye as well. She already knew about Did
he not like think that through? I guess not.

Speaker 6 (38:27):
He really didn't know.

Speaker 5 (38:28):
They're gonna make an exception because she's a state home mom.

Speaker 3 (38:31):
But yeah, he's like, that's.

Speaker 9 (38:32):
Why I'm trying to tell you that you need to
be at at home mom. I marry a man because
it cancels out, it cancels out the sin of being hot.
It's all written down. You read the Bible.

Speaker 3 (38:43):
You don't go to heaven. You do go to purgatute
the Bible.

Speaker 8 (38:47):
Oh oh, I think we just did we just do
a da Vinci.

Speaker 6 (38:51):
Code right now, just freaking cracked.

Speaker 3 (38:53):
Are you freaking Dan Brown up in here? Yeah?

Speaker 8 (38:56):
Now their friends are calling me and a hole, saying
that he cares about what I do with my body
since it's God's body and I should respect it.

Speaker 3 (39:05):
And become a mom soon.

Speaker 8 (39:07):
So am I the ale for telling my sister's boyfriend
it's not his business if I don't want to be
a stay at home wife or mom.

Speaker 5 (39:13):
No, no, no no, And you need different friends, You
need just a different family you need, you need different
people in your life. You need to give him a
Bible and just write on the runt of it, just
underline bye and then and then cross out bowl and

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just write mind your own business.

Speaker 3 (39:38):
Yeah bye, mind your own business.

Speaker 6 (39:41):
Bye bye.

Speaker 3 (39:44):
That's it.

Speaker 5 (39:45):
Bye Comma, bye boy, yeah bye boy.

Speaker 3 (39:48):
Bye boy. And then you have it.

Speaker 6 (39:50):
And that's my advice to you.

Speaker 3 (39:52):
And it's a clarify.

Speaker 8 (39:53):
I did put this in the comments, but three out
of her four kids aren't even his. My sister has
a seven four three and soon to be newborn at
number two. I also get asked this a lot about
why I was discussing getting an IUD to my sister's boyfriend.
I wasn't discussing it to him. Me and my three
sisters were all discussing it at his house, but he
wasn't there. He walked in when I said I was

(40:14):
thinking of getting an IUD, and that's when he butted
into the conversation. And as soon as he said God's body,
not my body, me and my other two sisters started
talking to him about it, and he raised his voice,
so I raised mind and eventually we left. Since I
don't like conflict.

Speaker 5 (40:29):
All those religious people forgot the whole point of God
giving us free will. Yeah, that's like his whole thing,
so we could exercise the free will.

Speaker 3 (40:43):
Yeah, check this out. Free will check the Bible, free
will check?

Speaker 8 (40:47):
Whoa spun my hat all the way around? Why I
don't know? I have free will?

Speaker 6 (40:52):
Got free will?

Speaker 3 (40:53):
Go free will?

Speaker 6 (40:54):
What are you gonna do about it?

Speaker 3 (40:55):
That apps, what are you gonna do about it? I
got free will? Baby? All right?

Speaker 8 (41:00):
We got some comments here. Natural Inevitable fifty says this
guy sounds.

Speaker 3 (41:04):
Like a creep.

Speaker 8 (41:04):
Who is he to dictate what you do with your life,
your career, and your body. I hope your sister knows
about this and supports you, not.

Speaker 3 (41:10):
The a hole. Hope, he responds.

Speaker 8 (41:12):
My sister, who is with him, wholeheartedly supports him and
that I should be a stay at home mom. She
wants me to apologize to keep the peace, but I
told her I'm done keeping the peace. He also supports
the termination ban, which is his opinion. Me on the
other hand, I'm pro choice. He wants a national ban
for every instance, which makes me more nervous to be

(41:32):
in a room with him. She also supports this Lee
La Lalli Love says, not the a whole. His views
on stay at home moms and traditional gender roles are
his own and he shouldn't be imposing them on you.
Actual spell forty six thirty four says he's not really
that traditional. He's not married to the mother of his child. Ooh,
good intelligence twenty eight sixty seven. People are quote traditional
only when it's convenient to them. Not the a whole

(41:54):
was the judgment.

Speaker 3 (41:55):
However, we got an update.

Speaker 5 (41:56):
I don't know. Yeah, my only thought is that this
guy is a hypocrite and an a hole and I
wouldn't want to be around him either.

Speaker 6 (42:05):
Keep your keep your mouth to yourself, dude.

Speaker 8 (42:07):
And it's like, wow, why how comes sometimes like the
rules don't apply to you? Yeah, I don't like, can't
it just be like all cool, like love that neighbor
and stuff?

Speaker 3 (42:21):
Also be like, can't.

Speaker 5 (42:22):
You listen to the first thing?

Speaker 6 (42:23):
Yeah, religion?

Speaker 8 (42:24):
Can't you just like actually follow like the cool parts
that are being taught instead of just being like God
hates you if you're not stay at home mom.

Speaker 3 (42:32):
That's a wild take.

Speaker 6 (42:33):
Like, I don't know, you got it.

Speaker 5 (42:35):
Guys got to read the New Testament because Jesus was
doing a lot of love and in that Testament, And.

Speaker 6 (42:44):
That's all I gotta say it like.

Speaker 3 (42:45):
That, it was like woodstock in the New Testament. There's
so much love going on all everybody.

Speaker 6 (42:51):
Oh and I saw.

Speaker 8 (42:53):
I gotta say, did he flip those tables in that
in the New test in it?

Speaker 5 (42:57):
Oh?

Speaker 3 (42:58):
He got mad flipping them table Yeah.

Speaker 5 (43:00):
Because he was a freaking radical socialist. Hey, you cant
be selling things in this house.

Speaker 8 (43:05):
Yes, you don't be so anti capitalism, anti idolatry, capitalist principles.

Speaker 3 (43:13):
Yeah, I haven't read the Bible anyway. Update, So here
we go. This is the update. Woh.

Speaker 8 (43:18):
I already knew I was going to go no contact
with her boyfriend, as I don't feel safe around him.
But I went ahead and called my sister to tell
her and why I chose no contact. And she is
now super mad at me, saying I overreacted and all
that fun stuff. So I asked her if they were
going to apologize. She said, they don't owe me an apology.
I owe him an apology. He overheard us on the

(43:40):
phone and once again got into the conversation, and I
told him I have nothing to say to him. He
told me he wanted to know an answer to two
of his questions. Why I don't want to be a
stay at o mom. I told him it's really none
of his business and to stay in his lane. Why
I don't want to date or marry his friend, told
him that he isn't my type and never will be,
and not talk to me again. I bet you he

(44:01):
doesn't listen. Yeah, that's my money.

Speaker 3 (44:05):
My money's on here.

Speaker 5 (44:06):
I'm gonna put money on that talking to you. Double
down on that.

Speaker 8 (44:09):
He told me, if I don't stop overreacting, I won't
have anything to do with my nephews and niece, and
that I'm not gonna lie got to me, and I
told him for my mental health, I'm done being around
and talking to him. And my sister said, okay, you
made your choice and now we'll make ours. So now
I'm no contact with both of them. Also found out.
My dad found out yesterday and this morning after I

(44:30):
was on the phone with them, he went in yelled
at Josh and told him to back off. Nice and
that his daughter wasn't for sale or anything like that.

Speaker 3 (44:38):
Yeah nice ooh when they got into a fistfight.

Speaker 5 (44:40):
Oh and I mean wait, read the next line, and apparently.

Speaker 8 (44:43):
My dad won y Why literally w father w you
had to put one in the W or the L column.

Speaker 3 (44:52):
You put Op's dad in a W.

Speaker 6 (44:54):
Yep, yah sucks to suck.

Speaker 5 (44:58):
Maybe if you were closer to God, he would have
helped you win.

Speaker 8 (45:02):
Yeah, maybe God would have infused himself into that straight right. Yeah, yeah,
I'm not totally sure about that though about the w oh okay, well,
you know what I'm sure about. I'm sure that you
can listen to full episodes with stories like this. All
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his dad nh About as easy as you gets right.

Speaker 6 (45:25):
There ain't nothing easier, and.

Speaker 8 (45:28):
You can listen to us for thousands of hours forever, forever, forever.

Speaker 6 (45:32):
But there is a little bit more to the story.

Speaker 8 (45:34):
There's a little bit more life. Let's get you go
ahead and finish it. Yeah, I honestly these people contact right,
It's time to move on these You are better without
these people in your lives. There any anyone who wants
to just like control you and put you in a
little box.

Speaker 3 (45:45):
That's not good, So no bueno.

Speaker 8 (45:48):
Let's continue my dad called me and apologized and asked
me personally why I don't want to be a stay
at home mother. So I told him the reason, which
had to do with my dad and stepmom. He apologized
to me, saying that he never meant to do that tour.
He was very abusive to her but never apologized for it.
So interesting, father's got issues. Maybe let's rescind that and

(46:10):
go back to neutral neutral Neutral. So I decided to
cut off my sister and her boyfriend, which sucked because
I won't be able to see my niece and nephews anymore,
but my mental health and physical health is more important
to me.

Speaker 3 (46:23):
To watch absolutely comments. Op says.

Speaker 8 (46:26):
There is one more thing that was said that I
forgot to mention. So in my last post, there was
so many people telling me to ask him when he's
going to marry my sister since they're not living in
God's plan, So I asked him. His response was it's
not my business to know, to which I said, and
it's not his business to know anything about what I
do with my body and who I date and all that.

(46:46):
He got angry with me and proceeded to cuss me out.

Speaker 5 (46:49):
Oh but I don't understand because you're a woman. You're
a woman, so anything that he does is okay because
he's a man.

Speaker 8 (46:59):
Yeah, that's the missing ingredient. See missing ingredient. Yeah, not
a man, not a man, missing ingredient. He got angry
with me and proceeded to cuss me out. I honestly
just laughed. New Fishing twenty five ninety six. So it's
his business to know about yours Quiet Moon twenty one
ninety one. It's like he's trying to groom her to
be his sister wife or a communal wife with his friend. Yeah,
creepy healthy brain fifty three fifty four. He probably promised

(47:22):
his mate that he could have the sister. Okay, Yeah,
that's gross and that's the end of that story.

Speaker 6 (47:28):
Well, what a fun thing to end on.

Speaker 5 (47:32):
I brought up wedding drama from years ago, and my
sister lost it.

Speaker 3 (47:37):
Where is it? I don't know where?

Speaker 6 (47:39):
Where does the drama go?

Speaker 3 (47:40):
Oh? Sorry, I was that's your sister.

Speaker 5 (47:42):
I female thirty seven married my amazing husband male forty two,
seven years ago. We dated for six and a half
years before we got engaged, and I was thirty when
we got married. Hobby was thirty five. I mentioned this
because I'm from a small town in Indiana less than
eight thousand population, and it is normal for people to
get married young twenty one or twenty two. By the way,
this comes from frog Jump seventy four and if you

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Speaker 8 (48:08):
So.

Speaker 5 (48:08):
I am one of seven kids, five girls, two boys,
and was the sixth in my family to get married.
I was also the oldest out of all the girls
when I married. My sisters had all married by twenty
four years old, way away. When my husband proposed, I
was so filled with joy and love and I didn't
want to drag things out to plan a wedding. I
knew that he was my forever and just wanted to
be married to him. We got engaged in January and

(48:30):
married in July, which is not that's not, honestly like
two too quick.

Speaker 3 (48:33):
I know some people take like a year to plan,
but I feel like seven months is plenty. Yeah.

Speaker 5 (48:38):
Our options for venues were limited because there aren't many
in the area, so many people book one to two
years in advance. In the end, we decided to get
married on my family's farm. We were happy about this
because it would help cut costs. We paid for ninety
percent of our wedding with a bit of help from
our parents, and it would help us keep the guestless
small because the barn could only hold one hundred people.

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It is a tradition in my family that all of
the women pitch in mom aunts, grandma's and sisters to
help plan the event and diy what we can to
help cut costs. This is where the first issue came up.
My parents and fiance's parents made a list of people
to invite, keeping in mind that we were keeping it
a small affair. They invited those close to them, but
kept their lists small to respect our wishes for a

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small event. Also, with the guest limit, we decided not
to have children attend the reception. We made this decision
because A, I have fourteen nieces and nephews just from
my siblings, my husband has ten, and B we wanted
to have a full bar and didn't feel comfortable doing
that with so many kids around. Two of my sisters
were very upset by this because they wanted their children
to be included in the special day. Funny enough, they

(49:44):
both didn't include children in their weddings slash receptions. We
included the kids by having them at the rehearsal dinner
and telling the parents that they could attend the wedding
ceremony but not the reception. I thought that this was
fair because all of my siblings live on the same
street as my parents, so they didn't have to go
far to drop off the kids with a sitter after
the ceremony. We also offered to pay for a few
babysitters for the kids, as well as order pizza, snacks,

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and movies for them.

Speaker 6 (50:08):
It seems like they got it all sorted out.

Speaker 3 (50:09):
It seems like it.

Speaker 6 (50:10):
I'm just like they got it all sorted out.

Speaker 3 (50:12):
I anticipating that shoe to drop.

Speaker 5 (50:15):
The second issue was that although my mom, aunts and
grandma were a great help with the planning, my sisters
told them that they all had lunch and decided that
they weren't going to help with the planning or DIY
part because as I was in my thirties, I was
an old maid. Girl was like exactly thirty.

Speaker 3 (50:34):
What are we dugging about?

Speaker 6 (50:36):
Hikes? And also just like insane.

Speaker 5 (50:38):
However old she was, she could be sixty and that's
still not cool.

Speaker 3 (50:43):
You called all of us old maids this morning.

Speaker 5 (50:45):
Now that I did not say old maids, I said
old because everyone was gaslighting me because I heard on noise.

Speaker 8 (50:51):
I heard you say old maids.

Speaker 5 (50:55):
That's crazy, and that most of the things that we
did for their weddings wouldn't be appropriate for someone who's
getting married later in life. I have great friends, and
after I got over the initial hurt, I had a
great time with the planning, surrounded by great women who
supported me. Fast forward to the rehearsal dinner. I knew
going into that day that my sisters weren't on the
best of terms with each other. I wasn't one hundred

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percent sure what happened, as none of them wanted to
talk about it, and I had spent the past months
busy with wedding planning. My sisters were all bridesmaids. Knowing
that they weren't on great terms with each other, I
spoke with each of them separately and told them to
be on their best behavior for the weekend, and they
all agreed that they would. We get through the rehearsal
and move over to the area for dinner. We had
some games and a drink station to keep people occupied

(51:38):
before dinner. We also had a photographer there that day
because I wanted photos of Hobby and I with the
nieces and nephews. Things started out great, and we were
having a lovely time hanging out with the kids and
taking photos. The photographer asked all of my siblings and
their spouses and children to gather so that we could
take a group photo. I was helping to gather everyone,
and I commented to my now husband about how blessed

(51:59):
ill to have all of my family there and that
I was having a great day. I turned back to
the group just in time to see two of my
older sisters arguing and see the older one slap the
other one in the face.

Speaker 3 (52:13):
Oohoo, there's that other shoe I was talking about.

Speaker 5 (52:17):
I'm gonna assume this is two of my other sisters
arguing because if he said that she was the oldest sister.

Speaker 3 (52:24):
Yeah, no, it's not her, right. Wait what this says?

Speaker 5 (52:27):
Two of my older sisters arguing? But I'm assuming that
I meant to say other sister. I just froze. After
a few seconds, I just turned around and walked away.
I ended up standing behind a barn where I knew
I would have a few minutes alone to calm down.

Speaker 3 (52:41):
Why you start?

Speaker 5 (52:42):
Why these sisterstt in drama?

Speaker 3 (52:44):
Just somebody you know son in drama. It's like they
were raised in a barn.

Speaker 9 (52:48):
Ooh.

Speaker 5 (52:50):
At some point I heard someone calling my name, so
I walked around the corner to see my dad and grandma.
They could tell that I had been crying and asked
what happened. I told them about what shall be known
as the slapping, and they said that they'd handle it.

Speaker 3 (53:03):
The slapping, the slapping directed by M Night. Shall slap
it on.

Speaker 8 (53:08):
Oh yeah, the steepest, the steepest m M steepest M
Night's step.

Speaker 3 (53:14):
The salons.

Speaker 5 (53:15):
Yes, I was probably given a glass of wine and
told the chill for another few minutes before pictures would resume.
When I walked back to the group of photos, I
noticed that my oldest sister wasn't there and that her
husband and children were all gone. We took photos with
the rest of the group, enjoyed a delicious meal and
had a few cocktails before heading home for the night
to prep for the wedding the next day. Fast forward

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to now. Remember I said that I was the sixth
kid of seven to get married. Well, the last remaining
unmarried child in my family just got engaged two weeks ago,
and it is my twin brother, Mail thirty seven.

Speaker 6 (53:49):
We'll call him James.

Speaker 3 (53:50):
Oh, good for James. Hey, good for you, James, good fun, James,
good time, the James.

Speaker 5 (53:56):
I'm so excited for him and his absolutely wonderful fiance.
He was a great person and I'm so happy that
he held out until he found the right partner in Jessica,
female thirty five. I was so excited when they called
to tell us the good news, as he had kept
it a secret from all of us. Jessica's mother passed
away five years ago, and she called my mother to
ask for some help with the planning. They got engaged

(54:16):
just before Christmas and our planning on getting married this June.
My mom was so excited to be asked, and she
planned a brunch for all of the girls in her
family and also invited Jessica's grandma and aunts so that
we could all meet and discuss the wedding. While at
the brunch, Jessica got the same speech from my sisters
that I did. Since she's older, they don't want to help.
She pulled me aside and asked me if i'd be

(54:37):
willing to help out, and I let her know that
I'm happy to do whatever I can to make her
day special. We set a time to gather at my
mom's house the next week to start planning. The day
before we were supposed to meet up, Jessica called me
and asked me if I could bring some photos from
my wedding because my brother had mentioned to her that
it was one of his favorite weddings that he had
attended and he had a lot of fun. We met

(54:57):
a bit early at my mom's house and I had
brought a flow drive with our photos, so we got
some coffee and started looking through them. While we were
looking through the photos, my oldest sister showed up, and
we didn't realize that she was there. When we got
to the rehearsal dinner photos just asked why my oldest
sister and her family worked in the family photos. I
avoided the question at first, but she asked again, so
I explained to her what happened at our rehearsal dinner.

(55:19):
But I'm going to explain to you that you guys
can listen to more episodes and stories like this if
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a little bit left to this tale where Opie's gonna
kind of we're to find out what happened, indeed, what
preempted the slap.

Speaker 3 (55:42):
I would just like to have one comment, yeah overall,
which is that it doesn't matter when you get married.
It doesn't matter if you're the last one. Doesn't matter
if you're the first one.

Speaker 6 (55:53):
Or if you're in the middle.

Speaker 3 (55:55):
Truly, it doesn't matter if you get married at all.

Speaker 5 (55:59):
Yeah, if you want someone to love and you find
that person love, you love them, and that's all that matters.

Speaker 8 (56:07):
Hey, I'm gonna let that one just hang out there
because I was just hang out there. That was Put
a bow on that one, wrap it up, put it
underneath the Christmas tree.

Speaker 3 (56:18):
That was a gift.

Speaker 5 (56:19):
You're welcome, But there's a little bit left. She thanked
me and told me that she felt obligated to include
myself and all of my sisters and her bridal party,
but was hesitant because my sisters have never treated her well.
My sister overheard this and lost it. She said that
I was just bringing this up to make her look
bad when everyone knows that she's the nice sister.

Speaker 3 (56:37):
The sister, and the slap off.

Speaker 6 (56:40):
You can't.

Speaker 5 (56:40):
You can't just like dub yourself the nice sister. Well,
that's kind of like a title that other people have
to give you.

Speaker 3 (56:46):
She didn't dub herself.

Speaker 6 (56:47):
She's like everyone.

Speaker 8 (56:48):
Everyone knows that exactly. That's what she said. She everyone
else dubbed her the nice.

Speaker 5 (56:53):
It's not my fault that everyone told me that I'm
the nice sister.

Speaker 3 (56:56):
You're sounding like the other sister.

Speaker 5 (56:59):
She has complain to our whole extended family that I
have been telling lies about her to the bride so
that I can be the star of the wedding, and
said that I have always been jealous of her because
my wedding wasn't nearly as beautiful as any of her
five weddings.

Speaker 3 (57:12):
Five did five weddings did five?

Speaker 5 (57:15):
So am I the asual for telling the bride what
really happened?

Speaker 3 (57:19):
And edit.

Speaker 5 (57:20):
My oldest sister has been married five times. Three of
the weddings were large events. They happened in her twenties.
The last who have been small events with just immediate
family when she was thirty two and forty. So I
guess it doesn't matter as long as you the first
time you get married, it's when you're twenty.

Speaker 8 (57:37):
Right, the other think the other ones don't count. I
got the first one in our right, I got the
first one. Yeah, it's like a combo. It's like it's
it's twenty and then you multiply by the next one.

Speaker 3 (57:48):
That's how many points that you get as a bride.

Speaker 8 (57:51):
Yeah, so with five weddings, she has so many bridal
points that it's undisputed that she.

Speaker 3 (57:56):
Is the nicest sister.

Speaker 8 (57:57):
You can't beat her because how could someone have that
many bridal points if they weren't nice?

Speaker 6 (58:01):
That's what I'm saying.

Speaker 8 (58:02):
And I don't know what system I just invented, but
I feel bad for whoever wants to try to.

Speaker 5 (58:06):
They're gonna keep the system going on everywhere. But that
is the end of that story.

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My parents demand financial support for their.

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Vehicle, and they guilt tripped me when I refused.

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Why don't you guilt trip them right back?

Speaker 8 (58:24):
First of all, I'm sorry for the mess. I'm very
emotional right now. Well it's okay, I'm twenty eight female
immigrated to Canada at eleven with my parents back home.
My parents were very comfortable and once they moved to Canada,
we were middle class. And I'll admit, while I wasn't spoiled,
I never missed anything growing up.

Speaker 3 (58:42):
By the way, this.

Speaker 8 (58:43):
Comes from user tall Memory seventy five thirteen, and you
can submit your stories to the r slash Okay storytime
subrendit who So I'll spare the details, but my relationship
with my parents wasn't the best growing up.

Speaker 3 (58:55):
While they never hit me, they were emotionally abusive.

Speaker 8 (58:57):
My mom was mean and my dad was emotionally unavailable
and always wrapped up in his own world. I was
very ambitious from a young age. When I turned sixteen,
I got myself not only one, but two jobs h
h H, working eighty hours during the summers until I
turned twenty and moved out for college. I was financially
illiterate and irresponsible, so honestly, I spent all my money,

(59:20):
but I paid for everything myself except I lived there
for free. I had free food and free public school
education and free medical expenses.

Speaker 3 (59:27):
At twenty two, I got admitted into law school.

Speaker 8 (59:31):
My parents never directly said to me that they were
proud but never missed an opportunity to brag. When I
asked them for a laptop for college, my dad sat
me down and registered me for a student loan and
told me.

Speaker 3 (59:41):
Welcome to the real world. You're now on your own kid.

Speaker 8 (59:44):
When my sister got into college this year, he bought
her a laptop. Whenever I mentioned needing money during college,
he told me to use the student loan money. During
the first two years of college, my mom gave me
a monthly allowance of four hundred dollars, so I was
grateful for that. Later, I discovered that she took my
tax credit for the tuition I took a loan out for.
When I confronted them, they told me I was selfish
and ungrateful. I missed over seven thousand dollars worth of

(01:00:07):
tax return, so they pretty much paid what she gave me.
I told them that I was going to do my
taxes alone the year after, so she cut me off.
Fast forward three years later, I graduated from law school
and also did a master's degree, but I was in
one hundred and forty thousand dollars in student loan debt.
I'll admit college tuition is not that expensive in Canada,
And part of it was because I was irresponsible with money.

Speaker 3 (01:00:28):
What do you mean? Wait a minute, what do you
mean what does that mean?

Speaker 8 (01:00:33):
That's not you can't just be like I had one
hundred and forty thousand dollars in student loan debt, but
actually it was I bought a car for one hundred
thousand dollars, So really, yeah, what is that?

Speaker 5 (01:00:43):
Because as Honeybee says, do they have free medical help
and school in Canada? I'm well, I'm assuming that, Oh,
he's probably paying for some sort of private healthcare.

Speaker 3 (01:00:53):
Yeah, they do have private Yeah they have Yeah.

Speaker 5 (01:00:55):
You have the option there, and then maybe they're going
if they're going to like law school, probably more expensive.

Speaker 3 (01:01:04):
I just love it.

Speaker 5 (01:01:04):
Also, yeah, kind of crazy that the.

Speaker 3 (01:01:06):
Ambiguousness of that comment.

Speaker 8 (01:01:08):
I mean, most of it was because I was financially irresponsible.
It's like, you don't just randomly rack up one hundred
and forty thousand dollars of debt.

Speaker 3 (01:01:15):
Gotta be real bad.

Speaker 5 (01:01:17):
But it's just like it's like using their card. They're like, oh, yeah,
just put it in my credit card.

Speaker 3 (01:01:22):
I like how they're like, I'm not spoiled.

Speaker 8 (01:01:24):
But also I can kind of accidentally rack up six
figures of debt.

Speaker 3 (01:01:29):
Yeah, that's kind that you're spoiled as flippity doo do. True.

Speaker 8 (01:01:34):
So I got my first job at a good law firm,
and my salary was one hundred and thirty thousand dollars
a year. I was stupid and told my parents how
much I made, so for them, I was rich and
it was the time to collect their return on their investment.
Little did they know I have seventeen hundred dollars a
month in student loan repayment. I live on my own
and expenses do rack up. I also had some mental

(01:01:55):
health issues, so I had to take three months off
of work. I don't blame my parents for my financial mistakes,
but I racked up ten thousand in credit card debt
on top of my student loans. I was trying to
live like my friends who made the same salary, but
they didn't have loans, and.

Speaker 3 (01:02:09):
That was a mistake.

Speaker 8 (01:02:10):
So I decided to be very strict on my budget
to pay off the debts as soon as possible. Since
I have little self control, I don't keep much in savings.

Speaker 3 (01:02:18):
I just pay off as much as I can.

Speaker 8 (01:02:20):
My parents always make comments on how frugal I became,
and how I never spend money on them. So on
two different occasions, we went to the restaurant with my
brother and sister. Then they gave the whole bill to me.
The first time I paid it and the second time
I refused. I visit them less and less now, but
every time they make comments on how rich I am
and how I never spend money on them, which is
that is weird?

Speaker 3 (01:02:40):
It is weird.

Speaker 6 (01:02:41):
Why are they asking you?

Speaker 5 (01:02:42):
I don't understand, because again I thought they were rich.
I mean, I feel like they lost all their money.

Speaker 8 (01:02:48):
I think they when they moved to Canada, they weren't
making as much as they made that.

Speaker 5 (01:02:52):
Must previously, yeah, but like to the point where they
have to beg ope for money.

Speaker 3 (01:02:57):
Well, I don't know it just I don't know. So
we're gonna keep going.

Speaker 8 (01:03:01):
They would always make comments on how rich I am
and how I never spend money on them. Keep in mind,
I got my mom a phone. I gave my dad
three hundred bucks on his birthday.

Speaker 3 (01:03:08):
Same for my mom.

Speaker 8 (01:03:10):
And years ago, when I was still in college, I
was parking my aunt's car and I bumped his car.

Speaker 3 (01:03:15):
I swear it was just a.

Speaker 8 (01:03:16):
Tiny little bump on the door. So he asked me
to give him a thousand dollars for the repair. I
told him I was broke, so he had told me
that I'll have to pay for it when I graduate.
Low key, this sounds like you're being financially like abused
or manipulots.

Speaker 5 (01:03:30):
Yeah, he probably like, I don't know, put the car there.
He like, drove the car behind you, and he's like,
you ran into my car one thousand dollars for a
little day's trick or exploitive. Yeah, for real, you could
buff that out.

Speaker 8 (01:03:41):
Yeah, honestly, they sell tools for like five dollars that
you could probably pull that dent right out of the medal.
This week, they decided to buy an Audi and needed
to sell their old car, so my dad asked me
to give him the thousand dollars. He never repaired it
and he wasn't planning, but he told me that he
would have to lower the price one thousand dollars when
negotiating because he's selling it on Facebook market. Therefore, I'll

(01:04:04):
have to give him the money since I use all
my money to pay back as much debt as possible.
The holidays were pricey, so I literally have only five
hundred dollars in my account, so I tried to explain
to them for the first time that I'm actually broke
and can't pay for it.

Speaker 3 (01:04:18):
They were mad at me.

Speaker 8 (01:04:18):
And told me again that a lot of people my
age were financially supporting their parents.

Speaker 6 (01:04:26):
I can tell you that ain't true.

Speaker 3 (01:04:27):
Chat. Is that a lie?

Speaker 5 (01:04:28):
Chat? Chat?

Speaker 6 (01:04:29):
That ain't true?

Speaker 3 (01:04:30):
Chat? Are we being lied to?

Speaker 1 (01:04:33):
Oh?

Speaker 3 (01:04:33):
He continues, This is when I lost it.

Speaker 8 (01:04:36):
I started crying and told them that most of my
friends didn't have to pay a penny for their education,
and all they asked for is for them to not
guilt trip me for not financially supporting them. They told
me that my friend's parents were rich, and once again,
I'm an ungrateful brat.

Speaker 3 (01:04:49):
They are far from broke.

Speaker 8 (01:04:51):
They just bought a bigger house in Canada, have two
apartments and a big home back home.

Speaker 3 (01:04:56):
I broke down. I took a long.

Speaker 8 (01:04:57):
Walk, and when I came back, I tried to explain
to them calmly that their love felt conditional, since they
made me feel like I had to pay them back
for existing. So my dad told me that the thousand
dollars was just for the principle, you made a mistake,
you have to pay for it. And the other comments
about supporting them were just jokes.

Speaker 6 (01:05:14):
Now they're trying to run it back.

Speaker 3 (01:05:15):
They're trying to run it back the good old fashioned No.

Speaker 6 (01:05:18):
No, you know, I was just joke us. It's all jokes.

Speaker 5 (01:05:22):
If you had paid us, we would have taken it.

Speaker 6 (01:05:24):
But it's all jokes.

Speaker 8 (01:05:25):
Also, you know it's a joke. One thousand dollars based
just on principle. Yeah, that's a one hundred bucks, right,
that's a principle. Maybe two hundred, maybe.

Speaker 5 (01:05:33):
Two makes it. That's that's if we're not capped out
it two THI big den.

Speaker 8 (01:05:39):
Hey, Yeah, he reminded me that he bought me glasses
the until high school. I told him it's the bare
minimum since I can't actually see without them. He's like,
he really said, Yeah, I remember all the times I
didn't neglect you.

Speaker 5 (01:05:54):
It's like, remember all the times when I helped you
with your disability?

Speaker 8 (01:05:58):
Mm hm no, Well, remember daughter, who I didn't consult
with on if they wanted to exist or not. Remember
when I single handedly prevented.

Speaker 3 (01:06:10):
You from being blind?

Speaker 7 (01:06:11):
Mmm.

Speaker 3 (01:06:12):
You're welcome purely out of the goodness of my heart.

Speaker 5 (01:06:15):
And also you should pay me now goodness of my heart,
and also the promise of money in the future.

Speaker 8 (01:06:22):
Honestly, this is what I would do if I was
opeaged really quick before you go back to the story, yeah,
I would immediately stop caring about these people, right, they
are literally just trying to suck money out of you
and make your own itemized list.

Speaker 3 (01:06:34):
Of everything that you owe them.

Speaker 8 (01:06:36):
Right and once you give them that money, just be like, now,
never ask me for a single thing ever again.

Speaker 3 (01:06:43):
We're even, and then cut them off and be done.

Speaker 5 (01:06:46):
Or don't give them money and then just cut them off.

Speaker 3 (01:06:49):
Yeah, I mean either one, you know.

Speaker 8 (01:06:51):
He also said that he paid for my phone during
high school and that I will get a big inheritance
from the real estate they have. He then added, may
God never make us dependent on you, blamed me for
making a scene for one thousand dollars, reminded me that
he sacrificed his career for us when he moved to Canada,
and told me that I will regret my behavior and
the way I was treating them. See how bitter they get,
how spicy sugar doesn't.

Speaker 3 (01:07:13):
Work, how spicy they get.

Speaker 8 (01:07:15):
M M edit, thank you so much for everyone for
your kind words, I just wanted to clarify I don't
actually financially support them, and I don't think they're living
beyond their means. However, I think they were expecting to
get spoiled once me and my siblings graduated in exchange
for their sacrifices, and now they are salty and disappointed.

Speaker 3 (01:07:33):
If I could afford it, I would, but in this
economy a faint no way. Op.

Speaker 5 (01:07:39):
He's got jokes, and also I said, oh he's got debt.
Oh yeah, she's got jokes and debts jokes, debt jokes.

Speaker 8 (01:07:50):
Also in college, my mom randomly called me once and
was complaining on how she was tired of working. She said,
if you and your brother give me a thousand dollars
a month when you graduate, I could retire. You should
just start calling everyone in the Yellow Book and making
that same.

Speaker 5 (01:08:02):
Day, She's just like, if you all give me a
if you all give me ten dollars, if a thousand
people give me ten dollars, just start.

Speaker 3 (01:08:11):
A group chat with a bunch of strangers, say can I.

Speaker 6 (01:08:14):
Have the bucks?

Speaker 3 (01:08:14):
Thank you, and then you just keep going down the line.

Speaker 8 (01:08:18):
I told her politely that it's not fair to start
my professional life with such a burden. Since she's in
her early fifties and able bodied. She got mad and
gave me the silent treatment for weeks.

Speaker 3 (01:08:28):
And by the way, you don't have to endure the silent.

Speaker 8 (01:08:30):
Treatment because you can listen to full episodes with stories
like this whenever you want, and you can hear.

Speaker 3 (01:08:35):
Us go blah blah blah blah blah blah.

Speaker 8 (01:08:37):
All you have to do wrong is go through Spotify
or Apple Podcasts or any place where you consume podcasts
in search.

Speaker 3 (01:08:46):
Okay, storytime, do it? You won't.

Speaker 8 (01:08:49):
Oh did you hear that? You're lay down the gauntlet.
She just said what she say.

Speaker 6 (01:08:55):
Do it?

Speaker 5 (01:08:55):
You won't.

Speaker 3 (01:08:57):
Oh my god, are you gonna take that? Couldn't be me.
But hey, look you've got a little bit of story.
Leb uh. Let's just go ahead and run right into it.

Speaker 5 (01:09:09):
I'm run right into it, full steam ahead, like.

Speaker 3 (01:09:11):
A brick could choot choo. We will run.

Speaker 8 (01:09:15):
Finally, my mom was complaining to my sister that she
had to give a gift to her friend because her
friend gave a gift to my sister on her birthday,
and how much she had to repay for the gift
we received during our lives.

Speaker 3 (01:09:26):
What is going on here?

Speaker 5 (01:09:28):
He's bad parents?

Speaker 6 (01:09:30):
Hey? Yi?

Speaker 3 (01:09:31):
Yeah.

Speaker 8 (01:09:31):
I told her we didn't choose to be born, and
she told me I didn't decide to have children, it
was God's decision.

Speaker 3 (01:09:38):
Besides, I could.

Speaker 8 (01:09:39):
Have kicked you out at eighteen and asked you to
pay for groceries when you got your first job, like
white people. I explained to her that maybe one percent
of white people did that comments. I mean, honestly, I
don't even think that's a race thing. It's just it
depends on well you need to like do you need
all of the money, Like where's your income at exactly?

Speaker 5 (01:09:57):
Like I also, I'm wondering possibly if this is like
the comments about, oh, like kids your age age are
caring for their parents, if that's like potentially like probably
cultural maybe yeah, potentially.

Speaker 8 (01:10:10):
I feel like it's almost a cultural thing that like
white people completely abandon their parents.

Speaker 5 (01:10:15):
It's you know, I mean, I mean when the parents
were saying, oh, you need to take care, like children
your age are taking care of their parents earlier in
the story, it's.

Speaker 8 (01:10:24):
Weird because culturally, I wonder where they came from before
they came to Canada. Because like pretty much everywhere else
on earth besides like America and like Western society or culture,
whatever you want to call it, it's very normal and
like basically expected thing to continue to live near your family. Yeah,
and like your your parents and whatever, like it's the
nucleus stays pretty tight.

Speaker 5 (01:10:44):
Yeah.

Speaker 8 (01:10:44):
But in you know, like American society or you know,
Western North American culture, it's like if you don't get
out of time, like the longer you're at home, like
you're just the more of a loser you become, which
is like not at all looked at like that everywhere
else on earth essentially, So it is like maybe there's
a little bit of that where it's like, oh, I

(01:11:05):
thought we were gonna stay tight or whatever, and it
seems like you're just trying to go.

Speaker 6 (01:11:09):
Do something tight.

Speaker 3 (01:11:11):
I thought we were gonna be cool.

Speaker 8 (01:11:12):
We moved to Canada, and now you're just like you
got all these gross Canadian ideals.

Speaker 6 (01:11:17):
You do with those Canadian ideas.

Speaker 8 (01:11:19):
Anyway, let's finish it off. Comments Number one, Please do
not give them any money. You're not the a hole.
You've been very kind and generous. But this is another
example of them showing that they do not see you
as someone to love, only someone to use. Anything they
bought you from the day you were born to the
day you turned eighteen is the bare minimum. That's their
job as parents. They didn't want to shell out the money.

(01:11:40):
They don't have kids. You worked hard to get where
you are now, and you did it without their help.

Speaker 7 (01:11:45):
Well I don't know.

Speaker 8 (01:11:46):
I think she got some They don't get to demand
things from you now. Op he replied, thank you so
much for your kind words. When I told my mom
during the argument that I didn't ask to be born,
she called me ungrateful and told me that she could
have kicked me out as soon as I turned eighteen
and could have given me the bare minimum to survive
during my childhood like some parents do.

Speaker 3 (01:12:03):
Wow.

Speaker 6 (01:12:04):
Well, that's the end of that story.

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