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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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My boyfriend chose another girl over me.

Speaker 1 (00:17):
Shit happens.

Speaker 3 (00:19):
My twenty one female boyfriend twenty three male of almost
five years kicked me out of an online game to
play with another girl. This might sound stupid and insecure,
but it is what it is. There's this mobile game
my boyfriend and I play together. He taught me how
to play it a few months ago. It's a multiplayer
game with teammates. Sometimes you play together and often he

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plays with his friends. Are we talking about Clash of
Clans right now?

Speaker 1 (00:42):
Is that multiple Class Royal? I've been playing Class Royal
my girl, she's better than me. It's kind of frustrating.

Speaker 3 (00:48):
He's slightly addicted to it, but it makes him happy,
so I don't mind. By the way, this comes from
user kicked me out of the game. And if you
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Speaker 1 (00:58):
I'm Dakota and I'm baby, no money.

Speaker 3 (01:01):
And we're here to give you good advice, but we
don't always have all the answers.

Speaker 1 (01:06):
Or really bad advice. Depends what you want.

Speaker 3 (01:08):
So we'd only know what we'd do if you would
do something different. Let us know in the comments. Op says,
a few weeks ago, my boyfriend added this random girl
from his town on Facebook.

Speaker 1 (01:17):
Cringe, that's big red.

Speaker 3 (01:19):
Flag, maybe a little red flag. And then I saw
him playing with her in matches. Right, the red flag
is getting bigger. I thought it was weird that he
didn't ask me to play, because he usually does, so
I asked about it. He said, she's just someone he
met on Facebook and it's no big deal. Whatever.

Speaker 1 (01:35):
Facebook market plays link up on the game bro come on.

Speaker 3 (01:38):
Later that day, while he's playing with her, he decides
to add me to the team. The game allows you
to use the microphone to talk with teammates, and the
second I got in, she saw and she said, very
shrilly and obnoxiously, who is this? Who's Ashley? Ashley being
my name? He told her I'm his girlfriend. And what

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does she do? She leaves the game?

Speaker 1 (02:03):
Oh? How old are they?

Speaker 3 (02:05):
I think they're like early twenties.

Speaker 1 (02:07):
I wonder if it's PUBG. My brother plays PUBG all
the time. PUBG Mobile is actually really fun on mobile.

Speaker 3 (02:12):
Yeah, wow, I had no idea. I thought they were
like a dead platform.

Speaker 1 (02:15):
Now OBG, and they're back, No, they've been back. Wow.

Speaker 3 (02:18):
Okay, Pubg's cooking.

Speaker 1 (02:19):
I mean if I was her, I mean, like, how
do you get linked up on Facebook? This must be
some middle of America shit, But like, yeah, you should
be worried. Yeah, I think she's she's coming to steal
your man's as soon as she.

Speaker 3 (02:31):
Like goes who is this and then logs out, Yeah,
it's like the alarms should be at full blast.

Speaker 1 (02:37):
She's probably just trying to mess with her head.

Speaker 3 (02:40):
She's the proto girlfriend.

Speaker 1 (02:41):
Yeah, the worst.

Speaker 3 (02:43):
So Opie says. I got mad. I asked him what
that f was that about? How she just left without
saying hey or anything, questioning who I was, and then
leaving at the mention of the word girlfriend. He told
me it's not a big deal and she just had
something to do.

Speaker 1 (02:59):
So I let it go.

Speaker 3 (03:00):
Oh, don't let it go next time. A side note,
I fully trust my boyfriend. Bad decision, that's not the
issue here. Fast forward to today, my boyfriend and I
are about to play, and he asks if he can
invite her to the team, and I said sure, I'm
willing to give her a chance. He introduced her to
me by saying, Ashley, this is X. She's a great girl.

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She studies X in college. I think a lot of
people study X in college. Well, her attitude put me off,
to say the least. I said Hi to her and
she said hi back. I tried to make conversation with
her and she would respond in one word answers. I'd
try to make jokes and she wouldn't respond. Anything my
boyfriend said, however, was met with extended responses, laughter and jokes,

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and she calls him by a nickname.

Speaker 1 (03:43):
WHOA okay sas this is past.

Speaker 3 (03:45):
The point of no return already they got a nickname.
They were bantering throughout the game, while I felt stupid.
Whenever he said something nice about me to his other
teammates about how smart I am, she wouldn't respond. I
kept my cool until the match was over and told
him she was annoy me. I asked how he didn't
feel that something was off. He said, there's no girl
in my eyes but you, But that is not my issue.

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She clearly has something against me, and I'm annoyed that
he doesn't see it or care. Right after that, we
were all playing another match when he texts me privately,
go ahead and study. We're gonna call Jack to come
play with us. Jack is a friend of his that
I know and have played with before. So he ultimately
kicked me out of the team, but kept that girl
in to play with him and his other friends. I

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was fuming. I told him I felt like he'd rather
play with her than me, and he said he knew
I had studying to do, so he kicked me out.
I didn't even have any studying to do, because I
told him twenty minutes earlier I'm on top of things
and I'm doing okay study wise, So I felt like
that was a cop out. He said, I'm overreacting. He's
just like, bab I'm just just trying to keep you responsible.
Man just wants you to be the best version of

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yourself you can be. Well, I flirt with Jenny from
Facebook marketplace.

Speaker 1 (04:53):
Yeah, I don't like. I feel like it really depends
if he drops his you know, like the valorant like voice,
like guys drop their voice like the cooler Hey, man,
you got to join the lobby. So if he's doing that,
then it's definitely red flags and he's trying to impress her.
But yeah, I mean it does seem pretty suss specifically

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Facebook marketplace dating, like not that big of a fan,
but yeah, I mean you should be. He's on thin
ice right now.

Speaker 3 (05:20):
Yeah, I think the big honestly, the biggest red flag
is that because there's sure there's a reality where maybe
he doesn't like actually want, like he's not trying to
flirt with this girl. Yeah, but the moment you're like,
partner is like, yo, she's got like beef with me
clearly right, Like she doesn't like me, and you're just
going and not really like if he doesn't care about that,
that's actually a red flag.

Speaker 1 (05:40):
Yeah, I mean if you're doing nothing, like let's say
your partner has a bad time with someone and it's
she's not like ostracized immediately, then you're doing something wrong
exact in your own behavior. So yeah, he needs to
be taken out for a spanking.

Speaker 3 (05:55):
Let's see if OP gives him one. So he says,
I'm overreacting and I probably am. You're not, girl, No,
you're not, You're right on top of it. But I'm
still pissed and he's still playing with her. At this
very moment, I'm not quite sure what to do. I'm
thinking of just leaving it be, but I'm so damn
annoyed and I felt so disrespected by that girl. I
realized I probably sound ridiculous, but maybe it's because there's

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nothing else to worry about right now. I just feel
like he doesn't care about my feelings. That's the nail
on the head right there. We have a great relationship. Otherwise,
I'll admit I have been jealous lately and it annoys him.
But what is the right course of action here? Should
I let it go? Or do I have a right
to talk to him about it again? We have an
update after this. Honestly, I think you just need to
hop in the lobby on the other side and just dominate.

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Yeah on once you get that.

Speaker 1 (06:41):
Like if you she already has had the like actual
conversation with him, right yeah, Yeah, So I think just
open it up again and if he doesn't see like
the light that this is a very serious matter, then
he can go fuck himself. But yeah, I mean, when
it comes to a relationship, I mean it's just the
open communication and like understanding what the partner needs right,
so it doesn't seem like the boyfriend is doing that

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good of a job of like mending your insecurity here,
and it's totally fine to be insecure if this is
upsetting you, and set a boundary and be like, look,
she's whack. I'm in real life, she's on Facebook marketplace,
So that would be my best take is like, you know,
sit him down, take him out for a nice dinner
so he can't leave as soon as like the main

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course sits down. Be like we got to talk and
then make it serious and make it like, you know,
don't downplay your feelings because that's cringe, because if it is,
it upset you enough to write the story. So you
could also send him these clips of all both of
us saying like, hey, stopping a douchebag bro, and hope
it helps.

Speaker 3 (07:43):
You. Got to listen to your partner, Yeah, you gotta
listen to your partner's got a problem with somebody. You
kind of have a problem with somebody, Yeah, you know
to some level. All right, we've got the update. I
do want to say, though, you hit the clear communication.
That's like our cornerstone Yeah, ninety nine percent of all
problems in a relationship completely by just like clear, upfront, honest,

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vulnerable communication early not late.

Speaker 1 (08:06):
Yeah, so, because you don't want to build a resentment
and then then you're you're just holding two l's because
you're resentful, and then you didn't communicate properly. But sometimes
two l's equals a W, but not very often.

Speaker 3 (08:19):
All right, let's hit the update. So first of all,
thank you everyone for your responses. I read every single
one and took everyone's insights into account. You were all
very kind. Oh nice. That does not always.

Speaker 1 (08:29):
Have positive, positive reinforcement, crazy online insane.

Speaker 3 (08:33):
Absolutely, this is a positive update. Okay, I know in
my original replies I seemed set on breaking up with him,
but I'll explain what happened.

Speaker 1 (08:41):
After we both.

Speaker 3 (08:41):
Calmed down, I told him we needed to actually have
a talk about what was going on. I was still
super upset and I cried. There's nothing wrong with that.
Once he realized how bad it was making me feel,
he apologized profusely and admitted it must have made me
feel like crap. He said, she truly means nothing to him.
Nothing to him, She's just a Facebook market place girlfriend. Babe,
I just needed a teammate. She just became a part

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of the gaming group with him and his friends. He
told me when he kicked me out he truly thought
I had work to do. I told him that wasn't
his decision to make, and that I could have left
if I felt I had work to do, and he
agreed and apologized. I told him that the fact she
plays with him and his friends so often made me
feel like I was second best, and he took full
responsibility for making me feel that way. He really felt

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bad about me feeling excluded and wasn't really thinking about
how much it affected me. I asked him how he
would feel if the roles were reversed. If I found
a random guy to play with on Facebook Marketplace and
kick my boyfriend out of the game for this guy
played with him for hours on end every day and
ignored my boyfriend for him. He said it wouldn't be
happy at all and would lose his school the same
way I did. So he finally understood where I was

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coming from and was nothing but apologetic. Asking how to
make it right, he said he'd do anything to remedy
the situation and make me.

Speaker 1 (09:53):
Happy about it. Blocker, got a.

Speaker 3 (09:54):
Blocker, and also you got to grind my RuneScape account.

Speaker 1 (09:57):
You gotta get Escape up please? Yeah? Nine nine everything
by next week.

Speaker 3 (10:02):
Yeah, he said. If I wanted him to stop playing
with her completely and end his friendship with her, he would.
He said, I'm the most important thing in his life,
and no game or girl could get in the way.
I didn't tell him to stop playing with her, but
I said I would like to be more included and
called to play the same way he was doing with her.
That I should be his first choice and not some
random girl. He agreed, and now he calls me to

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play with his friends multiple times a day, plays with
just me, and hasn't played with her nearly as often.
I don't mind if he does, though, since we've cleared
the air, he said she is truly nothing but a
casual friend and make sure to mention me during games.
I also told him her disrespectful attitude towards me bothered me,
but he told me she's just shy around people she
doesn't know, and that generally she barely talks during games,

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and also that she has no one else to play with.
He said to me, Babe, aren't you beautiful? Aren't you smart?
Aren't you successful? And sexy? You're all of those things.
So a random girl on a game shouldn't have you
doubting yourself. I'm getting suspicious. I'm a little susp at
this point.

Speaker 1 (11:01):
I mean, it really depends what game we're playing here.
That's like the most important factor.

Speaker 3 (11:05):
I think he's playing games with her heart a little bit.
I mean, just do because if she's like, you know,
doing like the yes no, like uh huh like responses
to his girlfriend, and then whenever he talks, she's like,
oh my god, that was the finance thing I everson
in my whole life, Like, oh my god, Like you
send me a picture you like.

Speaker 1 (11:20):
He should you should send it back to me.

Speaker 3 (11:23):
Yeah, Like you know something's going on there. It's not
just like oh, she just like doesn't have any friends, babe.
Like that just sounds like BS to me.

Speaker 1 (11:30):
I mean I would just say, take the next step
and tell him to unfriend her, just rid of rid
of the whole situation. If you're having any second feelings,
they say nothing could it be? So I would just
go ahead and delete her. Yeah.

Speaker 3 (11:44):
Then you know, for a fact, if he continues communication
with her after, it's like all right, now you're you're
like you're moving sneaky style. Yeah, you know.

Speaker 1 (11:52):
It also depends on how long this relationship has been
going on for, because it's like if they are in
a very very committed relationship, then there is probably some
to being like okay, like maybe it's totally fine and
maybe he wants to go talk and have a friend
that is a girl on a game.

Speaker 3 (12:09):
Yeah, they've been together for five years, so I feel
like it's enough time to like be able to have
a platonic you know, yeah, you don't have to be
like hyper territorial, but it should also be enough time
to understand how to put your girl's feelings first.

Speaker 1 (12:22):
Yeah, no, totally totally. I think the issue is is
like she's whack and then he's being like defensive for her. Yeah, yeah,
that would give me heb GB's I think. But honestly, like, yeah,
it really it really depends the game because if it
is valerant, then she's cooked, like for sure, because that's
like that's like that's like the game where you like
guys hit on girls for sure.

Speaker 3 (12:43):
You got to you gotta get the recording of his
voice and see if it goes lower when she gets
in the lobby. So I told him it wasn't that
I was doubting myself because I am hot and sexy,
but that I was feeling disrespected by this girl and
how she obviously has a thing for him. He even
said if she has the thing for him, he has
me as his queen, so he'd never look anywhere else.

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He apologized for telling me to leave if it bothered
me so much, and said it was something that slipped
out in the heat of the moment since I kept
nagging him about it and he got annoyed. I feel
better now. I do want to make other friends to
play with so I don't feel so dependent on him,
but I feel better about the whole situation. Thank you
everyone for your help. And there's a second update. O.
What's the over under on a breakup?

Speaker 1 (13:26):
Here?

Speaker 3 (13:27):
Is it a?

Speaker 1 (13:28):
I mean from we had the second update the third up?
It No, it's update number two, update number two, so
I mean, like the I guess the first update. The
first update, it sounded like it was like fine, but
maybe it just hit hit hell really quick. I think the.

Speaker 3 (13:40):
Biggest thing with stuff like this when somebody like makes
a mistake and they're like, oh baby, I'll do like
whatever you like. I'll change like anything is. It's like
you gotta hold him accountable. It's like people can like
change and like modify behaviors for like a week or two,
but it's like it's the long term, like two months,
three months of like all right, are they actually committed
to making this change? So we'll see if he kept

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hanging around Facebook Marketplace update number two. I deleted the
account I made the original post so on, so I
don't have the links to them. Not sure how many
people remember, but he got a lot of attention around April.
Quick recap for those who didn't see it. Boyfriend of
five years kicked me out of an online game to
play with another girl. The one time we did play together,
she would call him nicknames, ignore me, and just generally

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be rude. I knew something was up, but he convinced
me it's all in my head. I ended up leaving him.

Speaker 1 (14:28):
Damn, my god, it's game over.

Speaker 3 (14:34):
We got back together shortly after my post, Oh hit
us with the twists and turns. This was in April.
I continued to be suspicious of this girl, strange comments
she would leave on a social media weird behavior on
his end, he told me he has no texts with
her and doesn't talk to her at all. When I'd
ask to look through his messages with her, he said
he hasn't talked to her in months and forgot what
she looked like. I don't even know. I've I wiped

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her from my entire memory. Babe, I don't even know
who you're talking about. I'm just he's the only girl
I've ever met.

Speaker 1 (15:01):
Bro, this guy's so fucking fried.

Speaker 3 (15:05):
I'd find him on the phone late at night and
he would tell me it was his male friend. Whenever
I'd ask about her, he would tell me, I'm being insecure,
I'm overthinking, I'm jealous. There's nothing going on. He would
never cheat on me. He deserves all of my trust
and I shouldn't worry. In my original post, I mentioned
how I knew he would never cheat on me because

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of how much I trust him. But my gut was
telling me something was wrong the entire time. Yesterday, the
girl came to me with proof. She confessed it all.
She gave me all the screenshots, pictures, and the works.
Oh God, she had the guilty conscience. She came out
they were in a relationship. The whole time. No way,
he told her he only talks to me once a month.

Speaker 1 (15:49):
Whoa, you've been.

Speaker 3 (15:50):
Together for five years?

Speaker 1 (15:51):
They lived together?

Speaker 3 (15:52):
Oh my god. When he would offer to delete her
off social media to make me happy, he would go
and text her apologizing for doing so, saying he really
had to. She showed me the screenshots of that, and
every time I'd ask him, he would straight up lie
to me. Seeing the proof made the world come crashing
down on my head.

Speaker 1 (16:11):
Bro, how do you have that much time? Like I
get it, Like there are people who are like serial
cheaters and shit and like go out of their way
to do that. But it's like, just play the game, right,
like if you were they in real life.

Speaker 3 (16:23):
I don't know. I think it was all digital. It
was like a digital girlfriend experience. Digital lovers cringe.

Speaker 1 (16:31):
You are cringe, bro, you are cringe.

Speaker 3 (16:33):
So that girl was laughing on the phone. She was
happy that she was a homewrecker. Basically, it was a terrible,
terrible phone call. Okay, we have a little bit more
story here, but like, honestly, yeah, I think my spidy
sense is kicked in. I just felt like that guy
talking about all those like he's like, oh, yeah, I'll
do anyone who was like I'll do absolutely anything when
it's like the most obvious.

Speaker 1 (16:54):
Solution is just so yeah.

Speaker 3 (16:58):
And you're just like going to work around anything else.

Speaker 1 (17:00):
I don't think I've ever been in a situation where
I'm like slash bagging on the floor where I'm like,
I'll do anything to like resume our relationship to a
healthy point.

Speaker 3 (17:09):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (17:10):
So, yeah, I'm sorry that this happened to you. It's
it's lame. I've been cheated on. Most people have been
cheated on, and it's very uh it's like a disgusting feeling.
I don't really have you been cheated on?

Speaker 3 (17:21):
I not to my knowledge, thank god, Yeah, I think,
but uh yeah, I've always been like I would never
do it the other way either, you know, because it's
just so it's so easy not to.

Speaker 1 (17:31):
Yeah, it's so it's so easy, and if you want to,
then clearly the relationship isn't in your favor or slash
like going well in your eyes. So it's like just
end it and save this person tumultuous amount of the
next three weeks, you know, like a brutal, brutal three weeks.
So it's like I've never really understood why people cheat,
Like I get it. They're like there's like fundamental insecurities

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that you Yeah, I think it's that. And then also
just like you know, it depends on like how they
were aged. My first girlfriend cheated on me, like really bad.
And the issue with it is she called me like
several years later and was like, I was just really insecure.
I didn't have any friends. I was raised in this household,

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and this is like why my behavior was like this.
So I obviously forgave her. I mean this was years later. Yeah,
But it's just it is interesting why people want to
do that. I feel like sometimes it might be a
product of like the relationship being too comfortable and then
they want to like spice things up, but they don't
really know how to because clearly this guy's communicative abilities

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are in the gutter, and he like doesn't if he
was just like, hey, like I want to be like
tied up and whipped by you, and this will solve
all of my insecurities in our relationship, then why not
do that? You know what I mean?

Speaker 3 (18:46):
So you could just buy those on Facebook market, yeah,
instead of a fake girlfriend.

Speaker 1 (18:51):
Or yeah, you know, you can go make a whatever
you want to do, is it's possible, just go buy it.
But I'm sorry that this happened to you. And if
you are watching this, ca.

Speaker 3 (19:00):
Yep, and you're up now, and you're up now. He's broke,
you got the baby, no money, seal of approval there
is all right, let's finish this story. So he broke
down when I confronted him, pathetic. He cried more than
I've ever seen him cry before. He said he was
gonna attempt to herself unalive with me on the phone,
so I had to call for help to get him
medical attention over Facebook marketplace, shame from the block. Come on, man,

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He said he couldn't imagine a world without me in it.
He should have thought about that before. I am destroyed.
Is my worst nightmare. I never dreamed he would do
this to me. He says, it was all big mistake.
But for six months, six months of phone calls and
romantic exchanges, a couple of outings, so they did meet
in photo exchanges, late night video calls, straight up directly

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lying to me and making me feel like I was crazy,
gaslighting me this whole time. I can't believe it. I
feel like I'm dreaming trust your gut for the love
of God, don't let anyone tell you you're overthinking or jealous.
If you feel like something is off, it is and
that is the end of that story.

Speaker 1 (20:03):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (20:04):
I mean, honestly, if your gut checked and you're like
something is wrong, you just gotta talk about it.

Speaker 1 (20:10):
Yeah. I mean, every single time I've had a gut
feeling in a relationship historically, I've been like, something does
not feel right here, and then I progressively like start
crashing out more and more and more and more, and
then it just gets to a point where I'm like
so unhealthy in the relationship that I'm just like, this
is not healthy for me, so I just kind of
give up on it. But yeah, definitely, if you have

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any sort of feeling and it progressively gets worse, you
gotta just either cut it off or tell them about it.
If they don't do anything about it, you gotta just ditch.
That's it.

Speaker 3 (20:43):
That's the biggest enemy of that is uh, we call
the chronic people please the CPPs. Yeah, theppppiece. If you're
a chronic people pleaser, you cannot you can't. You just
push everything down. You're like, I don't need to care
about that feeling whatever that would probably rock the boat.
I used to kind of be that guy honestly for
a while, but uh, you just gotta it doesn't help anybody. Yeah,

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trying to be like, oh well, I'll just put my
stuff to the side, because then it just like, I
don't know, it's like this little gnarled up ball of
like the snowballs, bad stuff, and it just like pops.
One day, You're like, I can't take it anymore. I
got I gotta get all this off my chest. And
now it's like an avalanche instead of just like a Hey,
let's have a maybe a frank discussion. Yeah, gotta be
open to whatever could happen. All right, how are we doing? Chat?

Speaker 1 (21:29):
Yeah? Chat? How are we feeling? Are we go toed
or yeah? Are we go to with the sauce? Great advice.
People need to listen to their gud and feelings more often.

Speaker 3 (21:36):
Yeah that guy. Guys, that's the peril of Uh, don't
let the Facebook marketplace girl join your squad and ruin
your whole life. All right, we've got another story here.
Let's go ahead and get into it. I deleted my
girlfriend's game so she would pay attention to me.

Speaker 1 (21:51):
I mean.

Speaker 3 (21:54):
What game though?

Speaker 1 (21:55):
Yeah? Really what game? Which?

Speaker 3 (21:57):
Which game? There's a trigger warning here for abuse, which
that's a bad sign. Let's just start by saying that I,
twenty four male, love my girlfriend Aliyah, twenty female very much.
She's a super hard working girl and she spends a
lot of time on classes trying to get the highest
grades possible for applying to nursing a school in the
near future. When she's not doing that, she's doing chores

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or cutting down on her ever growing to do list.
And when she's not doing that, she's spending two hours
a day playing the SIMS. This is where the problems
come in playing the Sims. Okay, so this comes from
user Jiffy Biscuits, And if you want to submit your
own stories, go to the r slash Okay storytime stubber
at it.

Speaker 1 (22:37):
I'm Dakota and I'm baby no money, and we're here to.

Speaker 3 (22:40):
Give you some good advice, maybe a little goofly. But
we're not the all knowing, all seeing eye. We don't
have all the answers. So if you would do something different,
let us know in the comments, because we only know
what we would do. Ohp he says, After all the
stuff she does, Aliyah doesn't have as much time to
spend with me as she could. She's a perfectionist too,
so when she's doing the more serious stuff like school,

(23:01):
she puts in more effort than necessary, which is time consuming.

Speaker 1 (23:05):
Classic dude, classic.

Speaker 3 (23:07):
Who is this guy? It's like, Babe, you could get ds,
you can get c's, like they're gonna give you the degree.

Speaker 1 (23:13):
Honey, just fail for me.

Speaker 3 (23:14):
Please fail for me, bab. I love a failure and
we can fail up together. We're gonna fail fail up
to the top. It really got to me that, even
knowing this, she'll spend so much time on the SIMS.
It's something frivolous she's doing when we already only get
so little time together. She's also an adult, so essentially
playing digital dolls almost every day is kind of something

(23:36):
she ought to grow out of by now.

Speaker 1 (23:38):
Or you're setting yourself up for a disaster, bro dude, and
the trigger warning with abuse on this too, it's kind
of crazy. What Yeah, I don't even know why I
want to listen to this story.

Speaker 3 (23:46):
This is gonna I don't know where this is gonna turn.
I decided to step in and have her cut back
on this sim playing. I obviously didn't delete the whole game,
but I think you're deleting little save files she was
working on would deter her from spending so much time
on it. Crazy that decision backfired tremendously, dude. I can't

(24:08):
imagine how upset I if anyone deleted like a little
save I had it. I'm like, wait, where do where
my progress go?

Speaker 1 (24:14):
Dude? Yeah? I used to play so Mu's World of Warcraft,
and if my mom like deleted my main character with
like three hundred days played, I think I would actually
run away. I would run away from home. I would
be like, I don't know, I don't know how to
deal with this. Dude.

Speaker 3 (24:26):
That was like my first addiction. Like nine years old.
I started playing World of Warcraft.

Speaker 1 (24:30):
Oh my gosh.

Speaker 3 (24:31):
I was like, I need me a mount yeap yesterday.
I'm on the grind. When she logged onto her game,
she thought there was some kind of glitch going on
and kept restarting it until I explained to her that
I removed the saves.

Speaker 1 (24:45):
Bro, you are a demon.

Speaker 3 (24:48):
Is where do they make you? Dude? You were built
in a SIMS laboratory. She absolutely flipped out on me,
saying she'd been playing in that save file since like
twenty seventeen, and I had ruined years of game progress.
But like SIMS isn't even a gold game, Like there's
no goals, Like there's no progress, Bro.

Speaker 1 (25:06):
Who are you brother?

Speaker 3 (25:07):
I told her she was overreacting because she still has
the game and she could just remake her same little
characters if it mattered so much, but it doesn't need to,
and maybe now she can focus more on adult interest
like her loved ones.

Speaker 1 (25:22):
Wow, how old is this guy?

Speaker 3 (25:23):
This guy is like twenty five. This guy he's doing,
this guy is twenty four. Okay, I'll give him.

Speaker 1 (25:29):
Imagine even just solved the issue of him not having
time with her and being like more invested in her
interests and just playing SIMS with her exactly, Like crazy,
how hard that is?

Speaker 3 (25:39):
Crazy? Idea, Maybe just play the game your girlfriend's been
playing for like I don't know what six or seven
years at this point the inventor folks bet she didn't know. God,
I'm just trying to think of what I would actually
do if I had a partner who like I've heard
the stories of like people playing two K, you know,
and it's like their partner like deletes like they're like,

(26:00):
you know, their career profile or something, and then it's like, well,
it's like and it's like an April Fool's joke or something, right,
like yeah, that's usually the context of people doing it
is like aha, like I praying to you, but this
guy's just being like, actually, I just know what's best
for you, and the SIMS is getting in the way
of you holding my hand.

Speaker 1 (26:14):
What were the comments like on this post? I feel
like everyone would have cooked his ass.

Speaker 3 (26:19):
Yeah, oh, we've got something better than the comments. Uh oh,
I think we've got her response on it, Aliyah bruh,
I think we do. Okay, Well, let's okay. Basically, Aliah
left immediately saying she was so stupid to leave her
gaming laptop at my place and now she won't answer
my calls. I know that this is a total overreaction,

(26:39):
but I started to feel a little bad once I
realized it may not be as easy to redo her
characters as I initially thought. So am I the a
hole for deleting my girlfriend's Yeah, SIMS saves one hundred
thousand percent my guy, No, you are not my guy.

Speaker 1 (26:54):
How out of touch do you have to be? Like
if it's something that is her like pastime, that's like, hey,
that's like let's say you liked going on walks and
sniffing bushes and then you went around the whole city
and burned all the bushes. Yeah, yeah, you know what
I mean. It's like, well, there goes all the bushes. Honey,
spend more time with me.

Speaker 3 (27:14):
Yeah, it's like, now we can read books together.

Speaker 1 (27:17):
With me.

Speaker 3 (27:18):
You can just sit in my proximity as my girlfriend
does pottery, and I just I can't imagine like if
I walked in and just like smashed all the pottery
she made and I was like, yeah, no, I just
figured now we can, like I don't know, go on a.

Speaker 1 (27:29):
Walk like all the clay in the world. She's like
started protesting against clay. Yeah, and got clay ache in
there too. Why not o clay aching?

Speaker 3 (27:41):
That's the deep cut clay aching. Wherever you are, brother,
I hope you're doing good. Now we have Aliyah's response,
not in the flesh, but digitally in the flesh. Here
we go, folks, strap in. I love it when we
have both sides. She starts, did you really think I
wouldn't find this post? Did you really think I wouldn't

(28:02):
see how you've been talking about me. I shudder to
think what you've said in what you deleted. Why don't
you tell them the real story? Ooh, about how you
not only deleted the save files but also hammered the
backup thumb drive so hard there's a dent on your
countertop now while I cried for you to stop. You're

(28:22):
a monster, bro, a demon. Why don't you tell them
about how you tag along to my school groups after
bio because you don't want me to be out of
your sight. Why don't you tell them about how my
best friend who's so called in love with me literally
lives in another state and only visits once or twice
a year.

Speaker 1 (28:40):
Why don't you tell them about how.

Speaker 3 (28:41):
When my mother was sick a few months ago, you
were blowing up my line all day every day for attention,
knowing I was her primary caregiver twenty four to seven.
Why are you telling them you work full time or
that you manage a grocery store when you part time
manage the fast food place inside it. Ooh, this guy's
being like, yeah, I like I'm the manager of the Walmart.
It's like, no, you're like the assistant manager at the

(29:02):
McDonald's in the Walmart.

Speaker 1 (29:04):
B Uh, this guy is absolutely cooked. I love it.

Speaker 3 (29:08):
I love it. I want you to take this to
heart when I say this, I genuinely have been so
much worse off for knowing you.

Speaker 1 (29:15):
Oh dude, honestly, Oh, you just laid him to rest
six feet deep.

Speaker 3 (29:20):
There's no coming back from that. I don't think anyone's
ever said something that brutaled me in my whole life.
Just like, look at you, dead in the eyes, me like,
my life is worse ever since I knew you, I.

Speaker 1 (29:32):
Mean fair enough. Oh how long were they together? I'm
not sure.

Speaker 3 (29:36):
I don't think there were dates on this one. Yeah, uh, okay.
You've destroyed my self esteem with your constant criticisms of
what I enjoy. You've controlled me in every way for
as long as I've known you. You don't understand boundaries
or when no means no. Your family treats me like
I'm a dog, and your friends are equally punk a holes.

(29:58):
You ruined something I spent years of my life growing
up with, and I could never bring myself to forgive
and forget that, no matter how much love I've poured
into you. And She's like actively mourning her SIMS.

Speaker 1 (30:09):
Wow, that's crazy.

Speaker 3 (30:10):
I mean she's like there was Johnny, there was Tommy,
there was Timmy.

Speaker 1 (30:14):
There was the baby that I threw in the in
the trash case. Yeah, and all those.

Speaker 3 (30:20):
People in that pool they can't get out.

Speaker 1 (30:22):
I just don't understand what the how is this guy?
I mean, maybe their relationship wasn't great. It clearly wasn't
saying you go that far to like ruin her only enjoyment,
you know what I mean?

Speaker 3 (30:35):
Like, yeah, it's just like the school principal vibes. It's
like not like a like a relationsis like we're just like, well,
I clearly am the adulting renal what's best? And I'm
gonna ground you from your SIMS profile because I think
honestly he's probably like somewhat jealous of the Sims.

Speaker 1 (30:52):
He literally is.

Speaker 3 (30:52):
He's like she like she plays for two hours and
there's like men in that game. Yeah, and like should
I be the only one.

Speaker 1 (30:58):
They don't really talk back to her? Yeah, Like I
wonder why? Yeah, I mean I feel like, have you
ever been in a relationship where like you kind of
wish you had more time with them? No? Yeah, of
course I get it. But then it's a simple conversation.

Speaker 3 (31:11):
But yeah, it's just something you like work around. It's
not something you're like, all right, you need to start
giving up all of the things that you enjoy so
you can spend more time with me. It's more like,
all right, so like okay, we've got a window on
like Thursday, Like you.

Speaker 1 (31:24):
Know, maybe, bro, you just weren't that fun.

Speaker 3 (31:27):
Yeah, dude, if this guy's secretly deleting save files, this
guy's not fun at.

Speaker 1 (31:32):
All, dude.

Speaker 3 (31:32):
This guy he's the school principal. Okay, op continues, I
hate you for what you did to me, dude. Honestly,
I think I think I don't know how long they've
been together, but for this level of response, I feel
like it had to have been for a minute, like
they might have been like high school sweethearts or something.
Because this, like that level of resentment has to build
up over all.

Speaker 1 (31:52):
What if the story was fake could be.

Speaker 3 (31:54):
It doesn't feel fake though. This feels like very real
hatred coming person. I I hate you for what you
did to me and for what you've been doing, and
I mean that. I'm gonna make this so crystal clear.
Since you didn't understand it. The first time we are through,
go f yourself, and there's an update from Alia. Oh

(32:15):
my lord, all right, yeah, sometimes you need to absolutely
know when to cut your losses, and this is one
of those moments.

Speaker 1 (32:21):
It would be like, I feel like not replying Elia,
not replying would be like power movement. She won. Ye,
but I'm excited to hear this one.

Speaker 2 (32:30):
Hey, it's John here, og host of the show. We're
gonna get back to these juicy stories. But here's a
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Speaker 3 (32:35):
Okay, Hi there, it's Alah here. From the infamous post
about my sims fly getting deleted. I just wanted to
put a little placeholder update on my page for anyone
who's read that post. Our ages. For one, there was
some confusion about when my ex and I got together.
We knew each other all our lives since our families
are close, but we started dating when I was twelve

(32:56):
and he was sixteen. Oh my lord, I know that
that is. That's like a that feels like it might
as well be like twelve and thirty at that point.
Like the difference the difference between twelve and sixteen is
kind of like absurd? Am I wrong?

Speaker 1 (33:12):
Like? Yeah, I mean I went to high school. When
I once I went to high school, I remember everyone
in like grade twelve, and I was just like, damn, bro,
like these people in grade twelve, Like that's just crazy,
Like their lives must be a movie. Yeah. And then
I was like, ah, you know, just walking around high school.

Speaker 3 (33:28):
Oh my god, it's twelve, it's grades and that's like fourteen.
This dude's like a sophomore in high school dating a
fifth grader.

Speaker 1 (33:35):
That's crazy. You done fucked up.

Speaker 3 (33:36):
I don't know kind of lock that guy up for that,
but we need to figure it out retroactively. We actually
have a five year age gap. I'm newly twenty and
he turns twenty five this year. Hope that clears it up.
And there's some missing info. Not only did he delete
the saves and clear the recycling bin, he pulled out
my backup drive and smashed it with a hammer. Once
he realized. I was upset that he'd done the first

(33:59):
two things or what I mean. He's clearly a terrible guy,
but you know he stands on business. He's like, I
deleted it, and you know what, if you're gonna be
mad about it, I'm gonna smash.

Speaker 1 (34:09):
Your hard drive. That's so crazy.

Speaker 3 (34:11):
This guy's terrible.

Speaker 1 (34:12):
You're doing way too much, my man.

Speaker 3 (34:13):
He lied about not knowing it was such a detailed
Oh oh sorry, I just got a wave of disgust
thinking about how he wrote that first post, being like, yeah,
so like I deleted them, and I felt so bad
once I realized that I might have made a mistake
and she's not calling me back. It's like, dude, you
smash the hard drive with a hammer in front of
her while she like cried, oh monster.

Speaker 1 (34:34):
Yeah, I guess good point. He like doubled down. Yeah,
I mean he probably felt he probably felt bad and
was like, you know what, fuck it, let's feel worse.
I want her to feel even worse.

Speaker 3 (34:42):
If I'm already here, I'm going deeper. Okay. He lied
about not knowing it was such a detailed game because
I talked to him about it tons of times before.
This was not a matter of spending time together. We
regularly spend hours of every day with each other. He
would insist to come along to any class or class
related activity that he wouldn't get kicked out of, like

(35:02):
my bio study group. I gave him as much attention
as I possibly could, but it was never ever enough.
Summer is in just three weeks, so we would have
had time. Then he was just being awful to me.
He is a generally jealous, overprotective, condescending person. He pressured
me and despice the activities throughout our relationship, and his
friends and family were all incredibly discriminatory to me. It's

(35:26):
past time for him to be gone from my life,
and I'm still coming to terms with all the ways
he has wrecked me. And to clear up some questions,
my seven year save existed across three laptops over time.
Seven years. Oh, seven years of work, seven years of
not just work, seven years of love.

Speaker 1 (35:45):
Yeah, that's pain. I mean the closest game I've ever
played to Sims is like World Croaster Tycoon and like,
oh yeah, yeah, I mean it's a similar concept adjacent, Yeah,
it's adjacent game. And like, dude, I remember when I,
like my brother or sister would like touch my save.
I guy, like I want to watch them fall off
the log Like I want to watch them like crash
into the logs.

Speaker 3 (36:04):
Don't touch this, don't fix this, stop it. You're ruining
my empire. Yea broken bones and shattered bodies.

Speaker 1 (36:11):
My final destination print.

Speaker 3 (36:13):
For oh okay, my seven year save existed across three
laptops over time, so those who were skeptical of it
being able to survive on one for so long were right,
Oh wow, there's like SIMS sleuths out there being like
this is fake. Clearly your stave file couldn't have stayed
on the laptop that'll time. I did have a password
on my gaming laptop. He memorized it to get in freak.

(36:36):
He mentioned that I said I was dumb for leaving
my laptop at his place, and I said that because
he's done something similar before when I left my phone unattended,
He went through it, promised never to do it again,
only for me to find out months later he had
logged onto my Instagram account and was reading my messages daily.

(36:57):
Some people wondered why I have no mention of him
on my page. That's because I was always on edge
with him going through my phone, so I deleted anything
about him that I'd post in my comment history six
months ago. There are two replies I made under a
post about him forcing me to kiss him at stop lights. Bab,
if you're gonna be my passenger princess, you gotta pay.

Speaker 1 (37:15):
The kiss tax. That's so crazy.

Speaker 3 (37:17):
That's like the most pathetic thing I've ever heard. I'm
sorry that this is the only remnant of proof that
I've been with him. I tried to cover my tracks
to avoid his anger.

Speaker 1 (37:25):
Damn.

Speaker 3 (37:26):
So we have a little bit more story left. But
do we have any like you crack the seal here?
You have any like finishing, Like, this.

Speaker 1 (37:34):
Guy's gotta get arrested, bro, he does.

Speaker 3 (37:36):
It feels like this guy has done illegal things. Yeah,
he's asking for kisses at stop lights? Is at least
a five year sentence?

Speaker 1 (37:44):
Yeah, that's nuts. I mean, what's like if she doesn't
want to kiss you? Brother? Like, what are you doing? Yeah?

Speaker 3 (37:49):
Like, what do you do? Help your game? My dog?
You gotta be a little more attractive as the driver,
you know. Yeah, maybe put on a tuxedo, be like
a little shit fur, put.

Speaker 1 (37:58):
The white gloves on. Real passenger princess.

Speaker 3 (38:00):
Yeah, mix it up a little bit, do something. Yeah,
on a real level, though, Like, I'm glad clearly she's
out of this, and especially when you're in a relationship
for like so long. It's like she said, like this
is someone that she's known like basically your whole life.
It can be really hard to like kind of see
people for how they really are when you kind of
have those like filters over them where it's like, oh,
but they couldn't they couldn't be that bad because like

(38:20):
you know, like, well, we've known each other forever, and
it's like, oh, we've been dating since I was fucking
I mean, honestly, like the sixteen twelve age gap. Immediately,
if I'm a friend of hers, I'm like, what are
you doing? And if I'm a friend of his, I'm like, clearly,
I don't even think this guy probably had any friends.
That was probably the first problem, because there's no way
if I'm like a sophomore in high school, my sixteen
year old buddy, it's like, yeah, I got a girlfriend,
I'm like who, It's like, oh, she's in fifth grade.

(38:42):
I'd be like, we need to I don't know where
we need to go.

Speaker 1 (38:46):
Then, bro, you that you should start playing sims because
you can't be doing that in real life.

Speaker 3 (38:52):
I'd be introducing him to the pool with no ladders. Oh,
go ahead, let's go swimming.

Speaker 1 (38:57):
Yeah, guests on top of the building, and then here's
the here's the pool jump in it.

Speaker 3 (39:01):
Yeah, all right, we've got a little update here to
cap us off. Glad she found that. I mean, hey,
the sims for save file hammer smash being the ultimate
like deal breaker, red flag.

Speaker 1 (39:11):
I mean, I feel if you're breaking anything with that
much like volition on breaking it to like ruin her passion.

Speaker 3 (39:19):
Yeah, if that's the third layer. He deleted it, Then
he deleted the recycle bin files. Then he smashed the
hard drive with the hair. If you're smashing anything with
a hammer in a relationship, that's it's probably not long
for this world. We have a small update. Did you
have something to say?

Speaker 1 (39:34):
No, it's just like it's funny because it's like even
in the note she said, he deleted it and then
went to the recycling bin to delete it again. Right, yeah,
you knew what he was doing.

Speaker 3 (39:42):
He knew exactly what he was doing. And that's why
that first post makes me feel so disgusting.

Speaker 1 (39:46):
How vild typically like, how vile do these stories typically get?

Speaker 3 (39:51):
This?

Speaker 1 (39:52):
This is like gnarly, this.

Speaker 3 (39:53):
Is pretty like deceptive. We get some that are life,
we get.

Speaker 1 (39:57):
Some that go deep damn bro, But uh.

Speaker 3 (40:00):
You know, it's good to be on the other side
of it and just say, hey, we're not in that situation.
You know, it's it's valuable to be able to tell
those stories because it's like if just one person who's
like watching can go like, oh wait, that's my situation
and it is that messed up. Yeah, oh maybe I can, like,
maybe I should reassess some stuff. That's what makes it valuable,
that makes it worth it.

Speaker 1 (40:16):
Yeah, we love you.

Speaker 3 (40:17):
Chat And if you have a boyfriend who's leating your
SIMS four saved files, delete him, delete them, delete him
and put him in the pool.

Speaker 1 (40:24):
Delete him and send it an ante at vast or
mcafe or whatever, a vast virus on his ass and
fire all that ship.

Speaker 3 (40:34):
Yeah the fake uh dude, that guy. That guy built
an empire off of basically fake software worked. He made
like a there was like a deal. He may be
like Microsoft, you have it on like every computer automatically.
Just what a genius.

Speaker 1 (40:47):
I remember my dad raising me. He always delete that,
always deleted, get rid of it. We'll install this good one.

Speaker 3 (40:53):
Yeah. I was using Norton.

Speaker 1 (40:56):
Yeah Norton, Yeah, classic Norton.

Speaker 3 (40:58):
No free sponsors, but shout out Norton, protect your files.
We got a small update. I was too anxious to
try to retrieve the loss saves myself. So I'm going
to a local tech shop in a few days to
see what the professionals can do, and the laptop will
remain off until then.

Speaker 1 (41:14):
I swear.

Speaker 3 (41:14):
If she gets these save files back, I'm gonna like
that's like we won the super Bowl.

Speaker 1 (41:18):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (41:19):
I've looked into a restraining order. Probably great idea, and
ultimately it looks like I won't be able to do
much as of now, but I can collect evidence and
get cameras installed around my home. I don't go out
in public alone anymore, and I'm never without a trusted person.
I appreciate all the people who have felt my hurt
with me and or sent me well wishes. I ask

(41:40):
that no one else offers me money. I won't accept it.

Speaker 1 (41:42):
Good for you, girl, I'm so sorry that all has
happened to you. Dude, that's really really unfortunately.

Speaker 3 (41:47):
Yeah, that's got to be really scary. That bust out
the hammer, smashing your heart on the copy is just scary.
So I'm glad you got friends that are rolling with
you right now. That's really good. And yeah, just self
defense is so valuable. Everyone should have some se wins
of self defense.

Speaker 1 (42:01):
Also chat, let's dox him and yo, what if we
found out his email? Brouh found out his email and
like spammed his email with Sims. Yeah, just like photos
of Sims.

Speaker 3 (42:14):
We just keep sending sending screenshots of the the sim
Grim Reaper coming for the people in pool.

Speaker 1 (42:20):
That's great.

Speaker 3 (42:21):
Yeah, man, okay, I appreciate all the people who have
felt my hurt with me and were sent me while wishes.
I ask that no one else offers me money. I
won't accept it. I just want to know who the
people were who were offering here.

Speaker 1 (42:33):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (42:34):
Lastly, this is my lived experience, not just internet drama,
so please be considerate. And the final update in all caps,
my saves are restored a year. Let's fucking go seven
years of love back in. That's it.

Speaker 1 (42:49):
Hey, it's John here.

Speaker 2 (42:49):
We're gonna get back to this episode, but a quick
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Speaker 3 (42:53):
Sorry for taking a while to tell everyone. I went
to a local tech shop a few days ago and
they helped me to recover everything. I hadn't had the
chance to update due to finals, and I'm typing this
all my way to class but yes, for anyone still wondering,
I got everything back and that is the end.

Speaker 1 (43:09):
Of that story.

Speaker 3 (43:10):
Amazing, honestly the best ending we could have possibly.

Speaker 1 (43:13):
Yeah, that's super ideal, dude. Yeah, whenever you play video games,
it like auto saves to the to like the drive
because it's a single player game, right Sims, I mean
you can play online. I think it is.

Speaker 3 (43:23):
I think it is single player. I don't know if
they've updated.

Speaker 1 (43:26):
Which is definitely moding it to shit.

Speaker 3 (43:28):
So yeah, like, actually my girlfriend had a SIMS obsession,
fully motted out Zims. Yeah, she had like all the
mods for everything, and uh, that was her, that was
her life. All right. I think we've got some red
flags and green flags, red flag, green flag to finish
off the stream here, all right, just do the first
fun all right. We're just gonna grab bag it right now.

Speaker 1 (43:50):
So that's a really good ending, And I honestly, Elia,
I'm so sorry that that all happened to you. That's
some bullshit. Yeah, no one should have anybody in their
space like breaking a thumb drive to intentionally ruin your fun.
So I even years. Yeah, I mean I hope that
guy goes to therapy and figures it out and apologizes
like politely to you.

Speaker 3 (44:10):
I'm sorry, dude, Yeah it was very thoughtful. Yeah, I'm
sure a lie is up right now. She's probably playing
the sims.

Speaker 1 (44:16):
Oh yeah, eight years in eight.

Speaker 3 (44:19):
Years all right? So red flag or green flag they
talk highly about their ex and are on friendly terms
with them.

Speaker 1 (44:27):
Depends on how distant the relationship was, like how many
years apart.

Speaker 3 (44:32):
But like when they broke up versus when you're together now.

Speaker 1 (44:35):
Yeah, I would just like a neutral flag, it really
And it depends on how healthy the relationship is, yeah,
but it can it can sway both ways, for sure.

Speaker 3 (44:43):
I think for me the thing that would be like
leaning to red would be the beginning where it's like
they talk highly about their exit. It's like you can
like be like, yeah, my extra is great. But it's
like if it's like every time you like talk about
your ex's about how they're like the number one person
of all time.

Speaker 1 (44:56):
Yeah, and that's the best waynecessary.

Speaker 3 (44:58):
It's like, come on, what are we doing?

Speaker 1 (45:00):
Okay?

Speaker 3 (45:00):
They usually take more than thirty minutes to respond to
your texts.

Speaker 1 (45:03):
I mean it depends on how busy they are. Yeah,
if they're an incredibly busy person, then I'd be like, yeah,
there's it's totally fine. But thirty minutes is fine. I mean,
like it's very contextually depends.

Speaker 3 (45:14):
I'd almost feel like it's a green flag just because
it's like, yeah, they like no, they have their own life. Yeah, totally,
they're not just waiting to like, yeah, like jump in,
okay after three months of dating they don't want labels
on the relationship yet.

Speaker 1 (45:27):
Depends if you guys spoke about it, that is true.
I mean, to be honest, in this day and age,
you can rush it or you can go slow. Three
months is typically a good time to figure it out.
I would say that's like the right amount of time. Yeah,
and then past that, I think it would be you're
kind of getting your your chain jerked. But yeah, three
three to four months is like cause, i mean my sister,

(45:49):
my sister met her husband and they've been together for
fourteen years now, and it's like it took them a
while to put a label on it because they weren't
they were doing long distance from the jump, and they
they took a while. Oh yeah, like oh yeah, you
know what, let's actually be in a partnership here. So
it's like if you label too early, you can actually
like set back the relationship, yeah, because it's like become friends,

(46:11):
fall in love, and then be like all right, we're
boyfriend girlfriends. So it's all it's really dependent. But I
would say like leaning more on the red flag, because
if you are seeing each other very often, then you're
kind of cooked. If someone's like always you know, straying
away from the answer of what they are.

Speaker 3 (46:26):
Yeah, I mean if you're spending like three or four
days a week together for three months, yeah, it's like
you should kind of know like if you want to
or not. Yeah, like do you want to make this
like more legit? And if you're just like, oh, I
mean I don't know, I'll just do another three months.
All right, another one right here? Okay, you've been dating
for four months, but they haven't introduced you to any
of their friends or family. Four months third of a year.

Speaker 1 (46:47):
Four months friends is crazy. Family I can get depending
on like how you were raised, Like my parents there
really open minded and like willing and hilarious and goofy.
So it's always nice to just like get the stand
have of approval from my parents really early on, because
it's just like there's no reason to beat around the
bush and I'm so close with them, but yeah, not
introducing your friends is like crazy talk. Yeah. I remember

(47:09):
one of my best friends never I didn't even know
he had a girlfriend for two years and to be fair,
he was away at university and I was away at university,
but he never brought it up. And they're definitely gonna
get married, Like their relationship is incredible. But it's just like,
my parents still don't think he has a girlfriend even
though they've met her. And yeah, so I would say

(47:30):
it's more of a red flag. But on the parents side,
it's like really depends like parents just like that's the
ball game, that's like, that's the hard hard ball. It
depends on how you were raised. But I would say
definitely red flag on the not inviting your friends to
hang out.

Speaker 3 (47:44):
No friends, no friends for four months? Yeah, do you
even have friends?

Speaker 1 (47:47):
Yeah, you definitely don't have friends.

Speaker 3 (47:48):
Bro, let's see, that's uh okay, there is Oh here's one.
They always speak their mind no matter how others take it.

Speaker 1 (47:56):
That's a green flag. Yeah, I mean, honestly, he's the
best ball zy Yeah.

Speaker 3 (48:00):
Or is it like I feel like that one's kind
of ambiguous because it's like, you gotta be honest, but
you also got to have a little tact sometimes, you
know what I mean. It's like the principle of like
having like the pregnant wife who's like, do I look good?
You gotta be like, yeah, honey, you look great. Said,
it'd be like, well you look like a large pregnant woman.
It's like, well, I was honest, but maybe Taylor, she
looks beautiful.

Speaker 1 (48:21):
Okay. If it's like honestly, he is the best policy world.
Green flag. If someone has no filter, you're cooked. Yeah,
but I would still lean more on the yellow, Like
it's like a yellow flag. It's like, depending situationally, you're
probably fine, but yeah, if you're doing that, then it's
definitely a red flag.

Speaker 3 (48:38):
Yeah. What what color do you get when you mix
red and blue? Her red and green?

Speaker 1 (48:41):
Is that blue?

Speaker 3 (48:42):
Red?

Speaker 1 (48:42):
What color is purple?

Speaker 3 (48:44):
Purple? Purple? Red and blue? Is purple? Red? And green?

Speaker 1 (48:47):
Just advotage orange? Orange? Red? Green is orange? Orange flag
red and green orange?

Speaker 3 (48:52):
Somebody bust out the primary color wheel brown?

Speaker 1 (48:55):
Please chat saying brown brown.

Speaker 3 (48:57):
It's a brown flag.

Speaker 1 (48:58):
Poop flag. Honestly is the best policy unless your opinion sucks.
Thank you, Okay, I agree.

Speaker 3 (49:04):
Yeah, that's I mean, honesty is always the best. What
we always say, you gotta be honest. There's no sense
in not being honest. And let's do the last red
flag green flag here. They are overly kind to everyone.
They've got Golden Retriever energy.

Speaker 1 (49:17):
It's a green.

Speaker 3 (49:18):
Flag like everyone, I mean, like everybody.

Speaker 1 (49:23):
I feel like it. It depends on the minutia of
the relationship. Like if let's say overly kind individual, Golden
Retriever individual is being overly kind and your partner, the
Golden Retriever's partner is like an insecure by default, then like,
you know, maintain the boundary, set the boundary. I'd be like, hey,
like being overly kind of this person makes me uncomfortable.
To be overly kind of this person, I think that

(49:45):
would be fine. It really depends on like how the
relationship is working in my opinion. But I mean, like
there's no harm to having someone I mean, I would
way rather prefer to that than an overly head, you know, like.

Speaker 3 (49:59):
Just someone is just me, just everyone, just a mean,
declawed house cat, just angry at the world.

Speaker 1 (50:07):
I mean, there's some merit to that. At least that
person would be like very conscious of what's happening, probably
wouldn't go talk to anyone. If you're really that insecure,
then it would maybe working your relationship and then you
guys could just hate on everyone and anyone.

Speaker 3 (50:21):
Be like she chose me. I mean that's why I
love because it's like when the cat's a little picky,
you gotta have the cat be a little picky. I
love cats. Dogs, the big dogs. I like the biggest
dogs and the smallest dogs. You know, the middle dogs,
they can still I still rock with the middling, middle
sized dogs, but it's.

Speaker 1 (50:40):
The big dogs. My homie has a used to have
like a Great Dane. Oh he did juicer, absolutely massive dogs.

Speaker 3 (50:48):
My grandpa my mom's side, would raise dogs for like
like hunting stuff. And he had like three Great Danes
that he had trained with like a rope. So it's
like if he like spun the rope like a certain
way like that would like they would just like run
out and like do whatever.

Speaker 1 (51:01):
Like he was a super cool great dude.

Speaker 3 (51:04):
He owned like a junkyard. He was a crazy man.

Speaker 1 (51:07):
Yeah, you would you like to plug your dropping an
album in eighteen days, it's going to be a movie.
And I just want to say I'm sorry to the
second story. I'm sorry you went through that bullshit, and
I hope that restraining order is working because that guy's
a loser. Yeah no, this was really fun. I don't
really like go out of my way to like listen

(51:28):
to stories very often, so it was like an audiobook
in real time. It was nice. I really enjoyed it.

Speaker 3 (51:32):
Yeah, well, thank you, Yeah, mister money, thank.

Speaker 1 (51:35):
You for having me on board today in chat. Hope
you guys enjoyed.

Speaker 3 (51:38):
All right, folks, Well, that is the end of the
baby no money stream, So if you of us, make

Speaker 1 (51:43):
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