Her parents ORDERED me to sleep on the couch... now its their turn! r/AITAH | Reddit Stories - ok storytime

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 4 (00:11):
Her parents ordered me to sleep on the couch. Now
it's their turn.

Speaker 1 (00:15):
I sentence you to one night on the couch.

Speaker 4 (00:18):
I mailed twenty five, and my girlfriend he mailed twenty six.
I've been together for about four and a half years now.
Her and I moved in together just over a year
ago as well. We were going to after her degree,
but a falling out with her roommate happened, which led
to us moving in a year early. Our relationship has
been fine. We don't argue, often, support each other's separate interests,

(00:38):
and overall living together has been quite an hassel free
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our such Okay Storytime subreddit. So the only thing that
has caused minor arguments between us is that she hates confrontation.
For example, she works as a supervisor of part time

(00:58):
and where she works, the people being hired for her
to train are paid more than her. She hasn't gotten
a raise of any kind in over a year, which
is illegal. She refuses to bring it up to the
manager or anyone at all. This is frustrating, especially since
she moved into my place. She hasn't been able to
afford to put anything forth. I own the place myself,

(01:18):
including paying for our car, insurance, gas, all the bills
except for we go fifty to fifties for groceries. It's
been tough for how much I get paid because it's
not a lot. But it shouldn't be much longer.

Speaker 1 (01:30):
Oooh, someone's getting a raised. It's get raised.

Speaker 4 (01:34):
Anyways. Her family and I have been decently close. They've
helped me move a couple of years ago, they helped
her move than last year, and we visited them for
all major holidays and visit decently often since we got together.
Her family and I don't agree on one thing, which
is my religion. Oh and depending on where you live,
that might be the breaking thing as well.

Speaker 1 (01:53):
Yeah, it can be a tough one.

Speaker 4 (01:55):
I am not religious, but they are quite Christian and
my girlfriend is nonpracticing unknowingly to them, so whenever I
go over, they are overly over the top on everything.
My girlfriend's words, not mine, on their religion and constantly
try to force me to join them in their practices.
Whenever I decline, they say things under their breath like, oh,
I'll fix you.

Speaker 1 (02:16):
That's you know.

Speaker 4 (02:17):
I hate that because it's so condescending, and I have
jokingly manner. I say things like I'll pray for you,
I'll put Bible verses in your pockets.

Speaker 5 (02:23):
Different, that's better. Being like i'll pray for you is
different than like, oh, we'll fix you.

Speaker 6 (02:27):
Oh.

Speaker 1 (02:27):
I know you're saying no right now, but we're gonna
get you. I got you some holy water. Water you
drinking holy Water's gotta be so refreshing.

Speaker 4 (02:34):
But we never visited for long, so it's never been
much of an issue, usually two to four hour at
a time. They live around six hours away from us
in another city. My girlfriend moved to my city around
seven years ago before we met. This is where I
believe and everyone else that I am being the a
hole in.

Speaker 1 (02:51):
The current issue.

Speaker 2 (02:52):
Okay.

Speaker 4 (02:52):
We stayed at their house for the first time overnight
a couple of months ago, and while there for around
six hours, it was all going well until it got
around night time. They told me I should get the
couch ready, and I was confused, as my girlfriend has
a room sizeable for the both of us, so I question,
I thought i'd sleep with girlfriend's name, and they declined,
saying that our relationship wasn't at that level in their eyes. Okay, yeah,

(03:14):
that's that's fair, brother, that's fair. The fan is the
fairest thing I've ever heard. You should you knew what,
you know, what you're signed up for. Come on, super
religious family sleeping over in their house. Do you think
they're just gonna be like, yeah, start doing the horizontal
mambo over there, and we don't care.

Speaker 1 (03:31):
We don't care you're not married, do our daughter, We
don't care. Not gonna happen. I mean, I reta saw
that from my way.

Speaker 4 (03:37):
Dude, yeah, dude, I mean as soon as the Senate started,
I was like, oh, yeah, okay, I hope that's not
the re like.

Speaker 5 (03:43):
I hope this does not become the focal point of
like and that's why I hate her family.

Speaker 4 (03:48):
Like, come on, brother, I have some thoughts on it,
but I am leaning that Opie low Key is the
a hole here because it's their house, their rules.

Speaker 5 (03:54):
Well, I haven't seen what they could be if they're like, oh,
like then yeah, really, it depends on their reaction here.

Speaker 4 (04:01):
I accepted and did not want to argue, as it's
their house and their rules. Okay, but I'm quite.

Speaker 1 (04:06):
Tall six', six all, right show, off.

Speaker 4 (04:09):
AND i grew a lot of that WHEN i was
young and in an incredibly short amount of, time which
resulted in a lot of medical back pain and issued
for my entire, life making me unable to do SPORTS
i used to. Love SO i told THEM i wouldn't
be able to sleep on the couch, sadly especially since
it was barely bigger than a love. Seat, okay BUT
i would be more than, okay purchasing a room at

(04:30):
a hotel for myself or my and my. Girlfriend they
also live within a couple of minutes from some, hotels
So i'd most likely be able to find a room close.
By they SAID i was turning it way too big
of a deal and to respect their, beliefs and after
back and, forth they eventually said they gave up and
told me to sleep WHEREVER i. Wanted they were not
happy and went to bed. THEMSELVES i was going to

(04:52):
purchase a hotel for, myself but my girlfriend got upset
at me for attempting to do. So SO i stayed
on the, couch which resulted in zero sleep and my
back hurting for a couple of, days but at LEAST
i was able to watch some good.

Speaker 1 (05:05):
MOVIES i.

Speaker 4 (05:05):
Nor they brought it up the next day and we eventually.
Left since THEN i felt quite, guilty as my girlfriend,
SAID i shouldn't have argued in their. House, okay So
i'm on ops side. NOW i thought he was gonna be, like,
WELL i just should be able to suit my. Girlfriend
but he's ad their, house their. Rules, okay So i'm
on a peace side. Now months, later they were wondering
if they could visit us and stay with. Us my

(05:27):
girlfriend AND i, agreed of, Course but before they, ARRIVED
i let them know that our couch wasn't quite big
enough for two, people and they were very. CONFUSED i
told them they would be sleeping on the couch and
they asked. WHY i told THEM i felt they didn't
respect our relationship to their, standards AND i followed the
rules under their, house so they should follow. Mine oh my, god, no,

(05:48):
bro this was your turn to become the bigger person
and you're at their.

Speaker 1 (05:52):
Level.

Speaker 5 (05:52):
Dude come, on, dude, now you're just being like it's
not even like a, gotcha it's like you're just being
kind of childish and. CRINGEY i would say that's WHAT
i would. CLASSIFY i, agree childish and.

Speaker 4 (06:03):
Cringe they argued once again that since they are, married
their relationship is more respect in than. HOURS i told
them that being married doesn't mean that for, me and
if they are coming to my house they will follow
the rules of such. Too they end up hanging up
and texting my girlfriend they would not come over UNTIL
i would apologize to them and was in the right.
Mind this led to my girlfriend AND i arguing about,

(06:24):
this and she agrees that their relationship is more respectable
due to being, married AND i told her that marriage
isn't what grants me respect for a. Relationship it's the
foundation it's built on and how two people treat each
other and those around. Them so SHOULD i apologize and
allow them to sleep in the spare. Bedroom my girlfriend
BELIEVES i am being incredibly, childish, petty and, unreasonable WHICH

(06:46):
i definitely AGREE i am being, petty BUT i still
don't feel right allowing them to do whatever they want
in my house if they don't respect my relationship with their.

Speaker 1 (06:55):
Daughter.

Speaker 4 (06:56):
Bro they were happy and didn't say anything about us moving,
in but feel weird about us sleeping in the same
bed at their, house WHICH i found weird but also
never brought.

Speaker 1 (07:06):
Up that is actually kind of. Weird, wait they were about.
It so they move in, together they live.

Speaker 5 (07:09):
Together the parents didn't care about, that but now at
their house they're, like you got to sleep on the.

Speaker 1 (07:14):
Couch it's like.

Speaker 5 (07:15):
We already literally live in the same house. Together, yeah
so that he's kind of cringe on the parent's, Part
but you can't do this back crazy well like, married
of course they're more. LEGITIMATE i, mean of COURSE i
don't like what he's, doing BUT i also don't like
that the parents were weird about.

Speaker 1 (07:30):
That but then they live together in the whole, hotel
like you will, whatever go to do.

Speaker 5 (07:34):
Whatever they're, like you got to Be it's less about
mad and more about them being, like, no you can't
go to a.

Speaker 1 (07:39):
Hotel you're making this too big a. Deal it's, LIKE
i can't the hotel on your.

Speaker 5 (07:41):
Couch but all this is everyone just kind of needs
to like let people be.

Speaker 1 (07:45):
More, yeah and but clearly we're talking about.

Speaker 5 (07:48):
Boyfrid, ope he's LIKE i, Agree i'm being, petty but
it's like you were also being childish and, Unreasonable, like.

Speaker 4 (07:55):
Come, on, dude call me. One what does your girlfriend
bring to the? Relationship whoa? Dang it sounds like she
is content to slog away. Underpaid what you take on
the burden of most of the. Finances how did.

Speaker 1 (08:08):
It sound like that you'd joke? Her well because of
earlier sentence at the beginning of the.

Speaker 4 (08:13):
Story well, earlier, yeah they, Know, okay they briefly mentioned.
It that seems inadequate unless she takes on more of
a burden in the. Home so if you're putting, more
she used to take. More, though regarding sleeping on the
couch at their, HOUSE i understand it as their house
and many religious people do not allow unmarried couples to
stay in the same room. Overnight how is that your
girlfriend didn't already know? This she should have discussed it

(08:36):
with you in. Advance, well she's non. Confrontational many couples
opt for a hotel room close, by so there isn't
any conflict in these. Situations you really have a medical
condition that made it so painful you couldn't bear, It
and if, so then it seems your girlfriend could not
care less about your? Comfort why was she mad at
you and didn't want to sleep on the couch with
the medical. Condition could it be that your girlfriend is

(08:57):
hoping this, situation her parents and her agreement with it
will convince you to.

Speaker 1 (09:02):
Propose who the heck is this? Commoner where did you come?

Speaker 5 (09:06):
From it sounds like somebody who hasn't experienced the real
world in too.

Speaker 4 (09:09):
Long opie says she pays half of her, groceries but that's.
It everything ELSE i pay. FOR i do the majority
of the chores as, well since she's usually studying When
i'm off to, work BUT i would say we are
equal on laundry. DUTIES i do the rest of the, cleaning,
dishes et. Cetera though she's never had a serious relationship
prior to, me just an on and off in high,
school SO i assume she never invited anyone to stay over.

(09:30):
Before it would have been nice to know, earlier if,
possible since driving over there is incredibly hard on my,
back BUT i did have no idea until that very,
moment AND i found out later that her older sister
and their boyfriend are also told to sleep in different,
rooms so they as well just never sleep. OVER i
do really have a medical. Condition as a, CHILD i
had minor, scoliosis just as did my father that was

(09:53):
fixed non, surgically but later on and through growing taller
at such a ray has led to a lot of
life long. Paint the rapid growth of my spine led
to unknowingly at the, time to me very higher risk of.
Injury AND i used to play rugby at the, time
which led to me being injured and having many issues
with stability and pain AS i continue to. Grow it's

(10:14):
not a self, Diagnosis it's been a lifelong of doctor, visits,
adjustments et. Cetera he wasn't mad THAT i did not
want to sleep on the. Couch she was mad THAT
i already made it into a big of a deal
for not agreeing and keeping my mouth, shut and IF
i got a hotel THAT i would be making it
even bigger of a. Deal, yeah before we continue With,
OPIE i understand the medical. THING i think got to

(10:35):
take care of. Yourself with the girlfriend being non, confrontational
so it's, like she's just mad because your parents are,
mad are you?

Speaker 1 (10:41):
Right, Yeah she's, like why are you talking back to my?

Speaker 5 (10:44):
PARENTS i don't even do, that and it's, Like I'M
i clearly was just trying to say my back is
broken AND i can't sleep on this. Couch, YEAH i
was again at no. Place DO i feel LIKE opi
was going to get a hotel out of?

Speaker 1 (10:57):
Spite?

Speaker 5 (10:58):
Yeah, yeah it was, like, uh, okay really give it to.
Him it is what it, is that's WHAT i gotta.
Do and then it was, like, no you, can't Or
i'll be.

Speaker 1 (11:06):
Mad meet your.

Speaker 4 (11:07):
Girlfriend possibly her parents got married within six months of
meeting each. Other if for me believe that we have
no reason being together any longer than that if we
are not. Married they have made a lot of offhand
comments about, such never directly at.

Speaker 1 (11:21):
Us for, Example i'm so.

Speaker 4 (11:22):
Glad we got married when we, Did waiting any longer
would have been stupid and things like. That but my
girlfriend AND i agreed that we wouldn't discuss marriage until
she finished her degree and was in a more stable.

Speaker 5 (11:33):
Job.

Speaker 4 (11:33):
Yeah, wait also an extra comment, too for you're the
whole if being a petty a hobles we got an.

Speaker 5 (11:39):
Update, NO i was just, saying it's again that that
commenter who's like.

Speaker 3 (11:43):
Your girlfriend is just the worst girlfriend up or she's
still in.

Speaker 1 (11:47):
School she's she's still. Studying, yeah, yeah you, know like
she doesn't. Contribute it's like she's literally not even out of.

Speaker 4 (11:54):
College, dude you just gotta go, like don't be, supportive
you know, whatever over the.

Speaker 1 (12:01):
Obstacles hugh.

Speaker 4 (12:02):
Updates, hey it's been twenty days AND i sort of
forgot about, this but read, it autologged me and reminded.
ME i thought i'd give an update and ask for more.
Advice SO i read the, comments and it helped me
realize from an outside perspective THAT i was one hundred
and ten percent being.

Speaker 1 (12:16):
A petty a. Hole, okay.

Speaker 4 (12:18):
GOOD i already saw of knew, that but hearing people
with no connection to us confirmed it helped open my.
EYES i pulled my girlfriend aside the next day after
my post and. APOLOGIZED i ADMITTED i was being, childish,
petty and, ahole and THAT i wasn't acting my. AGE
i was more acting like a, toddler not sharing. Toys
she agreed and laughed at my, analogy then forgave me

(12:40):
as long AS i called her, parents which was my next. Plan,
ANYWAYS i called her, parents said it roughly the same,
thing and they, agreed did not. Laugh they told me
they would find another date in the future and reschedule
staying with, us WHICH i told them sounded great and
we hung up oh.

Speaker 1 (12:53):
As, Well but the, Comments i'm.

Speaker 5 (12:55):
SORRY i was just, Like, okay, yeah ye are now
so so what? Now so the real world's? Nice sounds
like we're going to the reddit. World but the comments
and some profit messages helped me realize as well that
my girlfriend's lack of initiative was SOMETHING i needed to
seriously talk to her about and stop letting go IF
i planned on marrying. HER i thought of how to
say EVERYTHING i wanted, to et, cetera and a day

(13:17):
or two LATER i decided.

Speaker 1 (13:18):
To talk to.

Speaker 4 (13:19):
HER i told her how MUCH i loved her the
person she, is and brought up many things she brings
to our relationship and to start things. Out THEN i brought,
up how if we're going to work more in a
healthy manner as we get more serious and, conjointed things
do need to be more equal between. Us SO i
wanted to work on a. COMPROMISE i pay for everything
except fifty to fifty for. GROCERIES i do the majority

(13:40):
of the cooking and, cleaning et. Cetera as you all.
Know she got quite upset at this and was trying
to say she doesn't have value in our. Relationship BUT
i try to reassure, her and the conversation sort of ended.
THERE i stuck to my, ground and two days LATER
i brought it up once. Again once the dust. Settled
while the conversation was, rocky we worked on a compromise
that she will ask her boss about the race she

(14:02):
deserves and will begin doing more of the cooking and,
cleaning not more than, before but more than. ME i
asked her also if she would talk to her parents
about the whole trying to convert me, thing and, well
baby steps not gonna happen. Yet, anyways WHY i still need?
Advice so wait before we get into what he needs advice.
About did that conversation kind of go? Well it seems

(14:22):
like he brought it, up you, know. Nicely it seemed
like it went half. Well, Yeah, anyways WHY i still need?
Advice since we had that last, CONVERSATION i, thought, well
things should be, better but she's been. Cold she's been
only cooking really quick meals like frozen, stuff mac and,
cheese AND i tried talking to her about. It i'd
be happy to teach her the Stuff i'd make for,
us but she always, says if you don't like, it

(14:43):
make a stuff you, do which is. Fair BUT i
know she's as good as a cook AS i. AM
i tried talking to her if things are stressing her,
out and she. DECLINES i tried asking if anything's, wrong
and she, declines et, cetera et. Cetera she's been, cold
and her spicy sleep life took a nose dye from
once every two days to only twice since my last,
post and it's been twenty days.

Speaker 5 (15:04):
Merely really logging all of your. Histories, huh it's break
up With it's time break? Up?

Speaker 1 (15:11):
Wait, WAIT i Think i'm advocating Break, wait there's more
talk about no break up with?

Speaker 4 (15:16):
Her, okay, okay, wait oh my. GOSH i tried feeding
into her love. Languages she likes words of affirmation a,
lot So i've been complilating her extra and reassuring, her
but she seems. Uninterested i've tried asking her IF i
explained anything badly or said the wrong thing about the conversation.
Above she says. No what CAN i do to make
her feel? Happier she barely even greets me.

Speaker 1 (15:39):
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Speaker 1 (15:51):
Up a big old cauldron of.

Speaker 4 (15:53):
Stories we got an. Update we got a freaking. UPDATE
i don't think break. Up they've been together for four
and a half. Years it just like this was the
first time you've had a hard conversation.

Speaker 1 (16:02):
Been together for that. Long, yeah, dude here's What i'll.

Speaker 5 (16:05):
Say the fact that he's got lifelong back problems and
that's why he didn't want to sleep on the, couch
AND i assume his girlfriend probably knows, that and that
she still got mad at him that. Night it's like
she has some kind of like hang up with her.
Parents she can't confront. Anybody but that starts with probably
the parents being domineering in the house as she's growing,
up so she cannot talk.

Speaker 1 (16:26):
Back it's the parent's. Way it is what it.

Speaker 5 (16:27):
Is to now that op is like created this, confrontation
which was really just LIKE i want to BET i
can sleep in without being in pain. NOW i don't
think she's going to be able to let that, go
because it feels like she's programmed to not confront her
parents and it has become she won't confront anything or.

Speaker 4 (16:44):
Anyone, yeah because every time she tried to whoever, did
she got shut down, immediately.

Speaker 5 (16:48):
Right so if she can't get over, THAT i don't
see how y'all are going to actually be able to
have like a marriage and like a like a you
know h it's and.

Speaker 1 (16:56):
If she won't open up to you about it and
she won't talk to you about, it move.

Speaker 5 (16:58):
On.

Speaker 4 (16:59):
Update i'm current deciding to do two things as comments
have just a spend a week doing everything for myself by,
myself watch WHAT i please, make just my own, food
and finally take the. Classes i've been waiting for her
to agree to pottery and bakery and just do my
own thing and see how she treats. It my main
fear is that she will just see this as hetty

(17:20):
and THAT i am doing the same thing AS i
almost did to her parents in my last.

Speaker 1 (17:25):
POST b try to talk to.

Speaker 4 (17:26):
Her one more time about all of, this which most
likely she won't be receptive to tell her HOW i,
feel WHAT i want in the relationship and what needs
to change if she wants to. WORK i obviously fear
she will break up with me for, that but if she,
does it's probably for the.

Speaker 5 (17:42):
Best we'll got another. Update break, up please please break up.

Speaker 4 (17:46):
UPDATE i THINK i will choose a and try to
give her a slight taste of her medicine and then
bring up HOW i. Felt, okay but Maybe, kenny maybe
she will understand better once she sees me doing my own.

Speaker 5 (17:57):
Thing he's doing this out of the wrong play emotionally
like he's been, like maybe if she gets a taste
FOR o, medicine stop. It you doing stuff just for
you for a week is just for. You if you're
making it so that she gets a taste for own,
medicine now it's for. Her do things you want to
do just because you want to do, them not because
you want, to like prove some kind of point to
your girlfriend.

Speaker 1 (18:16):
Who's treating you like, weirdly you, Know just do.

Speaker 5 (18:19):
It and then see how she. Reacts, ye, Like i'm
just doing me for a, Week and if she can't
deal with, that break, up wake. Up my ex partner's
girlfriend is claiming my daughter as, Hers SO i confronted, Her,
no that's.

Speaker 1 (18:33):
Mine january, twentieth twenty.

Speaker 5 (18:35):
Nineteen i'm using a throwaway because mutual, friends you've read.

Speaker 1 (18:38):
It sorry for the.

Speaker 5 (18:39):
Lank my twenty seven female ex boyfriend Is james twenty eight.
Male james AND i dated for three years between spring
twenty fourteen and the end of winter twenty. Seventeen since my,
daughter for, female is obviously older than, three it's clear that.

Speaker 1 (18:53):
She is not Biologically.

Speaker 5 (18:54):
James's her father was not someone who wanted to be
involved with her and signed away all rights when she was,
born so he is not in the. Picture by the,
way this comes from user using a fab, throwaway and
if you want to submit your own, stories go to
the r slash ooka storytime. Subreddit So james AND i
were originally, friends which grew into a relationship when my
daughter was around the age of. One as my daughter

(19:15):
grew a little bit, older she Saw james as a
de facto, parent a role that he happily stepped up.
To she knows that he is not quote unquote, daddy
but had the strongest bond with him of anyone outside
of the biological. Family our relationship finished due to a
difference in personal, Timelines james wanted to buy a house.
Together we had been living together for the past, year

(19:38):
but we still each had our own places and moved
to another city for. Work WHILE i was happy WHERE
i was, located it became a self imposed, ultimatum and
While james didn't actually, move it was clear that the
relationship was. Over we stayed, friends and he changed from
de facto dad to fun Uncle james to my. Daughter,
yeah that's, okay IT'S i feel like that can be

(19:59):
de facto dad And funkle are kind of. Like that's
a lateral.

Speaker 1 (20:03):
MOVE i like. THAT i like That funkel and de
Facto dad people are stepping. UP i like.

Speaker 5 (20:08):
It we have both made sure that she was stable
about the, situation something that she clearly seems to. Be
AS i do with other, Friends my daughter AND i
will occasionally Visit, james who sometimes has my daughter without
me there for a couple of hours at a time
IF i have to run errands or something. SIMILAR i
have no reason at all to worry About james with my,
daughter who is always all smiles and five more minutes

(20:29):
WHEN i get. Back about six months, ago Though james
started Dating tracy twenty four. Female she's someone that he
works with WHO i actually first met while we were.
Dating don't worry about. Her their relationship itself is not the. Issue,
however there have been instances that have caused concern in
the past few. Months the first was When james invited

(20:51):
me and my daughter around for a playdate With james's,
nephew who he was. Babysitting tracy was there, too WHICH i. Expected,
however when we arrived In james greeted my daughter with a,
hug she commented on how she looked like her, daddy Meaning. James, okay,
okay maybe, Okay we're gonna keep.

Speaker 4 (21:09):
Going we're gonna gather some more, information just trying to
understand the. World she's, Young, okay.

Speaker 1 (21:12):
Maybe she just doesn't.

Speaker 5 (21:13):
Know, yeah Both james AND i said that my daughter Wasn't,
james's which is Something james later said had come up
in conversation between them.

Speaker 1 (21:21):
Before she only remarked.

Speaker 5 (21:23):
That she meant they had a strong father daughter, bond
WHICH i thought was odd but.

Speaker 1 (21:28):
Ignored there have been a couple of other times.

Speaker 5 (21:30):
Where i've Seen, tracy either out and about or at planned,
events when she has said that my daughter really likes
spending time With, james which OBVIOUSLY i, know THOUGH i
just took it as awkward ex's. Chat the Reason i'm
posting is about what happened.

Speaker 1 (21:44):
A couple days.

Speaker 5 (21:44):
Ago. Again james was babysitting his nephew and had invited
myself and my daughter to the park for an. Afternoon
we get there and everything is fine until my phone
rings And i'm told that there's an emergency in the
office THAT i have to sort out BECAUSE, X y
AND z aren't picking up their. PHONE i mentioned, this
And james And tracy offer to look after my daughter
and stay in the park WHILE i rush over to the,
office which is five minutes, away to sort out the.

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Problem i'm gone for about half an. Hour, overall the
issue wasn't really an, issue as it never, is and
WHEN i get, back everyone is WHERE i left them
and all.

Speaker 1 (22:15):
Happy what is your, Suspicion, Riley.

Speaker 2 (22:17):
They're gonna take your.

Speaker 4 (22:18):
Daughter they're gonna kidnap your. Kid, no we're gonna be, like,
oh this is fun on playing as. That look at,
me playing as. Mom we're gonna keep her.

Speaker 5 (22:25):
FOREVER i highly doubt, this so we start getting ready
to go home When tracy mentions to me that someone she,
knew an amateur, photographer happened to be in the park
taking pictures of the landscape and had taken a couple
of shots of the group my daughter, included and that
she'd send them over because they were apparently really.

Speaker 1 (22:42):
Sweet.

Speaker 5 (22:42):
OGRAHAM i was a bit perturbed by someone apparently just
coming over and photographing my, child BUT i thought glass
half full and decided it was only a nice. GESTURE
a couple of hours, Later tracy sends me over the
solo pictures of my. Daughter she says that she didn't
give her friend permission to use any of the solo
pictures of my daughter on her professional, page but the
ones of the scenery and Of james's nephew were on,

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there and IF i wanted to give, consent then my
daughters could be on there. Too they were actually very,
cute AND i looked on the photographer's page to see
the rest of them from the, day and there were
some sweet candids of the nephew and some nice couple
shots Of james And. Tracy but the last picture on
there was a family style portrait of everyone my daughter.
Included the caption said something like The james's surname And tracy's,

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surname know how to have? Fun don't use my daughter
as like a prop in your. Cosplay, Family why do.

Speaker 4 (23:36):
We stop using my daughter to gather more clients for
your photography.

Speaker 5 (23:40):
Business maybe it was just a misunderstanding that, guess one,
picture one picture that you would generate photographers in. Cahoots,
NOW i don't.

Speaker 4 (23:47):
KNOW i, mean if it was a good photo and they're,
like and people were, LIKE i want to fill that,
MOMENT i want that moment to be embedded on my wall,
forever probably so never.

Speaker 5 (23:55):
Know SO i immediately messaged the page asking for the
picture to be taken, down as it had my daughter
in it without my. Permission they, replied apologizing for the,
issue saying That tracy had said that the little girl Was.

Speaker 1 (24:06):
James's and that he gave his.

Speaker 5 (24:09):
CONSENT i then Messaged, james asking him not to give
consent for anything involving my daughter and to Remind tracy
yet again that he is not my daughter's. Father he,
replied saying that he never gave his consent for any
group pictures to be on, there and he resented the.
ACCUSATION i Messaged tracy later, on making it clear THAT
i didn't want my daughter to be used in any

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kind of situation where the facts weren't clear and No
james was not her.

Speaker 1 (24:33):
FATHER i did not get a Reply, okay clear there's
something going on With tracy. HERE i don't know where
to go from.

Speaker 5 (24:40):
HERE i don't want to be that ex girlfriend who
tries to get her ex to sneak around behind his
girlfriend's back for him to see my. Daughter but at
the same, time he's done nothing to Stop tracy from
acting out this charade of my daughter Being james's and therefore,
hers AND i could see why this is a big.
Deal part of me is like with you, know thinking
just within, Myself i'm, like does that even?

Speaker 1 (25:00):
Matter it's LIKE i wouldn't even.

Speaker 5 (25:01):
Care it's, LIKE i know that's my, Daughter, yeah BUT
i don't want my daughter getting confused about who's her,
dad who's?

Speaker 1 (25:09):
Daddy who's right?

Speaker 5 (25:09):
Exactly so if she's whenever she's around him and she's
being told That james is her, dad, yeah you know
what happens when now she's, like why doesn't Daddy james
live with, Mommy it's, like well they're. Not that's ah
now you're she's confused and probably it's gonna make her,
upset and so that's WHY i that's, YEAH i did
the math in my own. Head i'm, like why would it?

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MATTER i feel like that's why it matters the.

Speaker 4 (25:32):
Most he sounds like a conversation and some boundaries need
to be laid.

Speaker 1 (25:35):
Out.

Speaker 5 (25:35):
YEAH i think actually this is a perfect moment to
approach a situation with. Curiosity clearly there's something going on With,
Tracy SO i would say talk To, tracy be, like hey,
girl why is it that this keeps? Happening, yeah don't
come at her like ready to your, Perspective just be with,
curiosity be, like why is it that you see her As?
James's IF i just cut them both, out then my

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daughter will be, confused THOUGH i know that she'll bounce.
BACK i know That james will be hurt, too BUT
i need to put mine and my daughter's feelings before.
That it's just getting to me that we were able
to be fine and stable through our whole, breakup yet
a completely avoidable situation is what we'll finish this? Off
SHOULD i just move on Without james And tracy in
my and my daughter's? LIVES AM i simply overreacting and

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becoming that quote unquote x regardless and there are some
top comments here we. GO i am not a troll.
Today this seems super simple to. Me don't leave your
kid alone with people who want to pretend she is.
Theirs let her, visit for, sure but when you're, there done.
Deal if they offer to be alone with her, again
Decline and if they push for a, reason why tell them?

Speaker 1 (26:38):
Why and a deleted.

Speaker 5 (26:40):
User, says the confusing part is it's like op he
Wants james to be a fill in, dad but he
can't make any.

Speaker 1 (26:45):
Decisions the whole thing is a bit.

Speaker 5 (26:47):
Weird i'd say cut both of them, off as it'll
only get more. CONFUSING i didn't get that vibe that
op he Wants james to be a fill in?

Speaker 1 (26:54):
Dad where was? That where did that come?

Speaker 5 (26:56):
From?

Speaker 4 (26:57):
Yeah that is a little. Weird, OKAY i don't. Know
umm'll see different. Things, YEAH rtt seven.

Speaker 5 (27:02):
Ninety it's only going to get more awkward and uncomfortable
moving forward as your daughter, ages especially when you get
a new. Partner best bet is to cut them off
and move. On your daughter is young and will be
fine without them in her.

Speaker 1 (27:13):
Life drawberry.

Speaker 5 (27:14):
Blonde hayes, SAYS i Think james choosing to keep someone
Like tracy around does say a lot about his character
and how stable a role model he may be in
five to ten to fifteen. Years the influence his partners
have On ope's daughter may only increase as she gets
closer to puberty and idolizes females she aspires to be.

Speaker 1 (27:31):
Like one might, Think, ah but it's only an hour or.

Speaker 5 (27:34):
Two kids are very, impressionable especially in a single parent.
Household there's an update from three days after the original.

Speaker 1 (27:41):
Post, HONESTLY i mean, DEFINITELY i don't.

Speaker 4 (27:46):
Know everyone's making too quick of a decision. Exactly you
need to fill it out. First there was to make
a decision from. There you just need more context.

Speaker 5 (27:53):
Exactly there was nowhere near enough, INFORMATION i feel, like
in that story for most of those comments to assume that.

Speaker 1 (27:58):
Stuff, yeah so we do have an update. Here let's
get into.

Speaker 5 (28:01):
It SO i got a lot more interest in my
post THAN i. Expected while some were either end of the,
spectrum the majority seemed to suggest That james was to
involved in my daughter's. LIFE i had a long think
about WHY i had pursued this route to, CLARIFY i
did not Force james into this. Position he was happy
to maintain a relationship with my daughter given that he
had been in her life for several. Years the comments

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concerning where my daughter would be When james settled down
and got married and had kids of his own also
made me think this situation was definitely one of, convenience
especially given the fact that our relationship ended Since james
wanted to move away AND i did. NOT i definitely
had no plans to challenge any Of james's life, choices
nor DID i ever expect him to prioritize myself and

(28:43):
my daughter over anything. Else SOMETHING i seemed not to
convey clearly in my original post was That james really
is just a friend and has been for the past
year to, me and so because of, THAT i don't
quote unquote use him for anything that a parent would.

Speaker 1 (28:57):
Do on The he's not a babysitter or daycare. Posts
he sees.

Speaker 5 (29:00):
Her maybe once every six, weeks which, is for those
who may be, wondering.

Speaker 7 (29:04):
That's not a.

Speaker 4 (29:05):
LOT i think ten times a.

Speaker 1 (29:07):
Year maybe it's awesome to keep in. TOUCH i like.

Speaker 5 (29:10):
That, Yeah SO i see nothing wrong here, Yet and
since our relationship. Ended he's been alone with her three
times at, most so this is not me using our
former relationship as a tool for free. Childcare he asks
to see my, DAUGHTER i don't make him make time for.
Her as a final clarifying, point this has never been
A i want him so you can't have him. Situation
our time together will always be, cherished BUT i do

(29:32):
not want to pursue a romantic relationship With james, again
and he doesn't with.

Speaker 1 (29:36):
Me onto the.

Speaker 5 (29:36):
Update after reading the comments to my post and thinking
over the, ISSUES i decided to send Both james And
tracy messages apologizing for my reaction and my heat of
the moment. Accusations the day AFTER i made the, Post
james responded saying that it was water under the bridge
and he would have been annoyed too in the situation.
Okay tracy's response was. Different all she sent was a message,

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SAYING i know he is his daughter's.

Speaker 1 (30:00):
Father.

Speaker 5 (30:01):
OKAY i assured her That james was not my child's,
dad and even went as far as to apologize IF
i had seemed off with her or if my current
relationship With james was an. Issue she asked if we
could meet up and, talk WHICH i agreed. To we
met for coffee and she said that she had been
off with, me but not because of my relationship With. James,
okay she said the last year she had found out

(30:24):
that she was, infertile and While james knew and was,
supportive seeing him with my little, girl who she knew
he helped raise for several years got to, her which
resulted in comments about him as.

Speaker 4 (30:36):
Daddy h, oh so her being, Infertile she's, like, oh
this is my way of becoming a. Mother oh, oh keep,
going keep, going keep, going keep, going keep. GOING i
need to understand, them my curiosity. People she then said
that the whole photographer situation was set.

Speaker 1 (30:52):
UP i, know my, GOD i know it Was. Wait
how did the?

Speaker 4 (30:57):
Mom how did ope go to the?

Speaker 1 (30:59):
Job?

Speaker 4 (30:59):
Wait did she she set that up? Too how does
she get called?

Speaker 1 (31:01):
Away? Wait keep? Going keep? Going? Okay.

Speaker 5 (31:03):
Okay she had asked her friend who lived near the,
park to come and take some pictures of, Her, james
and the children as soon as it was clear THAT
i was going to have to, Leave so she literally
did do the exact joke THAT i. Made she Told
james the same thing she told me about the friend
happening to be in the park and wanting some portfolio,
shots but told the friend out Of james's, earshot THAT
i was totally fine with the pictures, happening and That

(31:25):
james was my daughter's, father so she had an on site. Parent,
regardless she was the one who suggested the family portrait.
Shot she told the friend to stick that one, online
but that the individual ones of my.

Speaker 1 (31:35):
Daughter needed to go through me.

Speaker 5 (31:36):
First she didn't think THAT i would be interested in
looking at the other photos and THOUGHT i wouldn't see.
It she said that having a picture of, her her,
partner a little, boy and a little girl was enough
to quote keep her going since her medical news was
hitting her.

Speaker 1 (31:47):
HARD i can't argue with that at.

Speaker 5 (31:50):
All tracy ended by saying that Since james is the
only father my daughter has ever, known she is there
for the closest thing she will ever have to a
child with. HIM i didn't quite know how to, Respond
but what about? Adoption how would you, Respond?

Speaker 4 (32:05):
Riley this thing called adoption where if you another person
really want a kid and you can't have a, kid
can an. Adopt please do not take my. Child this
is my. Child you can't have my CHILD.

Speaker 5 (32:15):
I don't Think tracy's trying to take the, child to be,
clear it WAS i. DON'T i don't think. So but
the but the role, play but.

Speaker 4 (32:23):
The Emotional the thing that gets me is the emotional
like in this, way this kid kind of saved her
in a way or like helps her keep. GOING i
that is tricky to me BECAUSE i don't. KNOW i
just don't want her to think that this is her
kid in a, way shape or. Form So i'm gonna be,
Like i'm gonna need you to take a step, Back.

Speaker 5 (32:39):
Tracy, YEAH i THINK i think that is kind of
the way to go about. IT i Think denise, McConkey
i think that's how obsession.

Speaker 1 (32:45):
Starts.

Speaker 5 (32:46):
Though, sure, sure but she's but she's been. Vulnerable people
who could be grow these. Obsessions they don't ever tell
you you're not ever having this conversation with them up. Front
is something you learn after they're in a jail. Cell
SO i don't think that she's anywhere near that. Level,
also but not. Wrong it does need to be addressed
where it's LIKE i get, You i'm sympathetic for your,
situation and of course it's something that she should get
therapy before get professional help to process and deal, with but,

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like you can't use my kid as a coping.

Speaker 1 (33:11):
Mechanism that's not.

Speaker 5 (33:12):
Right after reading many comments on my post saying THAT
i was a jealous harpie and That tracy was an innocent,
bystander or even calmer versions of that, MINDSET i was
surprised that my actual suspicions were actually somewhat. Correct this
was not the REASONING i ever thought was behind, this.
THOUGH i thanked her for her honesty and asked if
she was talking to anyone else about. This she said she,

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wasn't but she knew that she should. Be she also
said That james knew nothing of the extent to which
she was, feeling other than sometimes she was a little.
Blue we spent a while searching online for local mental
health specialists and left it with her promising to make
an appointment and to talk To. James which is understandable
That james doesn't, know because that's a really scary thing.

Speaker 1 (33:51):
To tell your.

Speaker 5 (33:51):
Partner, yeah because it's, like, dang is that just like A,
Okay i'm, infertile i can't have. Kids it's kind of
driving me. Crazy it's, like, Well i'm just gonna leave
you now that's the FEAR i would. Assume after getting,
HOME i Contacted james to say THAT i believed that
there needed to be some distance established between him and
my daughter to benefit everyone involved in the. Situation he
said he, agreed and that he would always be there

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for my daughter if she needed. HIM i asked my
daughter that evening more out of curiosity as to how
she Views, james and all she said was he was
the nephew's. Uncle So i'm taking that to mean that
she is by no means dependent on him at the very,
least and by the, way you can become dependent on
listening to stories just like this in full episodes that
you can find On spotify And iHeartRadio And apple podcasts

(34:35):
wherever you listen to, podcasts Search okay story, time and
you can listen until your ears fall off, yep which they.
Won't it hasn't happened yet that we know, of but
there is a first time for.

Speaker 1 (34:46):
Everything M it's not zero, percent but we should finish the.

Speaker 5 (34:49):
STORY i don't know if this is the end of,
this And i'm SURE i will get some criticism for
not cutting Out james, altogether or for even limiting the
existing contact BUT i believe this will benefit, everyone Including,
tracy in the long. Run thank you again for everyone's,
advice and we have some top comments. Here h Travel
bug eight nine to. EIGHT i think everyone here acted
super maturely and at least a lot of the loose

(35:10):
ends have been tied off because of communication. Exactly good
on you for all being mature adults. Here ope it
doesn't happen as often as it Should Wanton Wanton walton,
SAYS i, MEAN i wouldn't say That tracy acted super maturely,
exactly BUT i commend her for eventually communicating what was
going on with.

Speaker 1 (35:28):
Her that is mature of.

Speaker 5 (35:29):
Her only ONE i could think, of Says tracy's manipulation
of the photography session and having it posted online was.
Terrifying also hyphenated names, Already tracy is. BOLD i do
hope she can let go of the idea of your
daughter being hers by extension Of, james and that she.

Speaker 1 (35:44):
Gets the help she.

Speaker 5 (35:45):
Needs but definitely stay, away Because i'm getting. Creepy walk
into a hospital and kidnap a baby vibes from, her
and isn't that the most appropriate way to end that
story of all? Time that's the beauty of everyone having
their own thoughts and brains is that we can all
see things through our own, lenses and sometimes we don't
see things the same. Way.

Speaker 3 (36:02):
John, here we're gonna get back to this juicy, story
but a quick three minute break of ads from our.
Sponsors i've kept my marriage a secret from my mom
for over a.

Speaker 7 (36:09):
Decade, well maybe she's not nice.

Speaker 3 (36:12):
Now when we made the announcement of our family, engagement
our families were super, excited but especially my.

Speaker 7 (36:19):
Mother, okay it's positive so. Far she's excited for your.

Speaker 3 (36:23):
Engagement she claims to be a very family oriented. PERSON
i was really looking forward to this bonding experience with.
HER i was approaching my late twenties AND i was
still under the illusion that maybe if we planned my wedding,
together she would start treating me better in our. Relationship
maybe she would finally see me as the individual adult
THAT i.

Speaker 2 (36:41):
Am.

Speaker 7 (36:42):
Mmmm seems like wishful thinking.

Speaker 3 (36:44):
Now her AND i had a very difficult time in
my early childhood due to certain romantic partners my mother
dated and her recklessness with.

Speaker 2 (36:51):
Money sounds like not a winning.

Speaker 3 (36:53):
Combination she also severely bullied me from childhood and the
teen years all the way up to just a few.

Speaker 2 (36:59):
Years i'm thirty nine years, old.

Speaker 7 (37:02):
Bullying why is she bullying her own?

Speaker 3 (37:04):
Child SO i was gasolt into thinking that that was
just completely. NORMAL i thought that all mothers were supposed
to be extremely tough on their, daughters even if they
said the, coldest cruelest.

Speaker 2 (37:15):
Things, ah even if they were.

Speaker 3 (37:18):
Untrue things that were said they're true now because she said,
so and That i'm a liar by.

Speaker 2 (37:23):
Nature bad children burn in.

Speaker 3 (37:25):
Hell oh my, Goodness, okay we're getting a very clear
taste of work your mom.

Speaker 7 (37:29):
The grinch pre pre him having his heart.

Speaker 3 (37:33):
Grown the tension of planning our wedding first began just
a week after the. Announcement my mom would randomly call
me on the weekend to discuss things like catering and flower,
arrangements which you would think would be all nice and.
Dandy on one of the phone, calls she cussed me
out because she wanted to serve barbecue And brunswick.

Speaker 6 (37:51):
Stew to give you guys an idea of What brunswick stew,
Is it's a, hardy tomato based, stew typically made with
a combination of meats and vegetablescludes, chicken pork or small,
game along with various vegetables like lima, beans, corn, potatoes and.

Speaker 7 (38:05):
Okra so it's just kind of like an everything.

Speaker 1 (38:08):
Stew, yeah quite a combat pretty, much and barbiue.

Speaker 6 (38:10):
Sauce barbue sauce and ketchup are commonly added for.

Speaker 3 (38:13):
FLAVOR i was already escalating now to. MYSELF i found
an incredibly odd that she knows THAT i absolutely despise
buns with. STEW i have to be in the mood for.
Barbecue it's not something THAT i usually choose to. Eat
she didn't even try to ask what we. Wanted she
just called us all selfish for wanting different food choices
when it all came to planning the. Decor and keep in, mind,

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again this is. HER i believe this is her wedding.
DINNER i, Yes when it came to planning the, DECOR
i wanted an enchanted, forest a fairy tale THEME i
like very. CUTE i had a pinchest board with ideas
that were all really good to. GO i thought she
would be proud of me for being. Prepared my husband
AND i absolutely Loved lord of The, rings the, book the.

Speaker 7 (38:54):
Movies yeh, yeah, yeah it's my.

Speaker 2 (38:59):
Wedding we like.

Speaker 3 (38:59):
That we did not want to do a costplay type.
Wedding we just wanted to borrow from the aesthetic of the.
Movie not that there's anything wrong with costplay weddings, weddings mind.
You she was set on having a country Western mason
jar burlap barn, wedding.

Speaker 7 (39:14):
Which kind of makes sense with The brunswick barbecue kind of.

Speaker 1 (39:17):
Food, yeah it als the mom's.

Speaker 7 (39:21):
Theme, yeah for the mom's, theme it makes.

Speaker 6 (39:22):
Sense everyone's saying it's very common in like The, South, Georgia.
Virginia this all makes.

Speaker 7 (39:28):
Sense, yeah you're gonna have a country weddings And mason
jars and The Brunswick stu is going to be in
The mason.

Speaker 1 (39:37):
Jars, cute but not What op wants.

Speaker 7 (39:40):
Exactly.

Speaker 3 (39:41):
Mother now this is WHEN i really had to start
masking my. Anchor i'm hyper aware that her AND i
have opposite, tastes and there's nothing inherently wrong with. That
i'm the type of person who really loves reading fantasy,
novels manga and watching animated and horror movies slash. SHOWS
i am a big time nerd goth and dang proud of.
It big Time rush tell the, dude shout out to.

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Them it wasn't even that she didn't Like The lord
of The. Ring she adores those movies and had a
great time watching it with the whole family when they came.
Out so it was very confusing as to WHY i
was having so much. PUSHBACK i was so desperate for
a connection with her THAT.

Speaker 2 (40:19):
I ignored our.

Speaker 3 (40:20):
Past in my preteen and ten, YEARS i was not
allowed to express myself in any way because my mother
was convinced that my interests were goth.

Speaker 2 (40:29):
Trash she's just.

Speaker 7 (40:31):
Like you want A lord of The ring's, wedding that's.

Speaker 3 (40:34):
Disgusting my mother was convinced that my interests were goth
trash and it was only for crappy, artists, weirdos, salutes rug,
users and it would turn me attracted to the same
gender or gender diverse, people and Then i'd never be
able to get anywhere in.

Speaker 7 (40:50):
Life aren't you actively getting married? To like a?

Speaker 3 (40:52):
MAN i would be ashamed and embarrassment to the, family
jokes on.

Speaker 2 (40:56):
You i'm non, binary so it, worked let's freaking.

Speaker 1 (41:00):
Go, yeah oh.

Speaker 3 (41:03):
Man so she would not listen to any of our
suggestions and would purposefully talk over, me cut, me, off
or just flat out scream. Tasteful she would also tell
me how juvenile and classless our choices. Were she, said
my lavender and my husband's choice of cream wouldn't mesh well.
Together HOW i have no eye for this type of event.
PLANNING i was used to my mom being like. THIS

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i was shrugging things off while boiling. INSIDE i thought
IF i just kept pushing, gently we would eventually come to.

Speaker 2 (41:31):
Some sort of.

Speaker 3 (41:33):
Understanding AS i originally opened my story with my Cousin gigi's,
wedding this is where reality came crashing upon.

Speaker 2 (41:41):
Me we had an absolutely magnificent.

Speaker 3 (41:44):
Time it was a beautiful, venue the food was, delicious
and my cousin looked like a. PRINCESS i was ecstatic for.
Her so this is Cousin gigi's. WEDDING i believe everyone
was stacking on compliments to my mother because she was
the matron of honor and Helped gigi plan every little thing.
Thing apparently they really enjoyed planning it, together WHICH i
thought was a good. SIGN i had gone to the

(42:05):
restroom AND i ran into my. Mom we were the
only people in. There we were washing her hands in the,
sink AND i smiled really, big turned to her and,
said you did an amazing job With, gigi AND i
really look forward to what we could do together with my.

Speaker 1 (42:17):
WEDDING i really look forward to working with you in the.

Speaker 2 (42:20):
Future.

Speaker 3 (42:21):
Now AS i went out of the, BATHROOM i felt
her grab my upper left arm and she squeezed, hard
slightly digging in her long acrylic, fingernails and she pulled
me close to her face and, said you and your
fiance just show the f up and shut.

Speaker 2 (42:35):
Up i'm planning. Everything this is not about, you this
is not about. Him this is my day to.

Speaker 7 (42:43):
See we've just figured out why giving your mom control
of any part of your wedding is a bad, idea
because now she thinks that it's about.

Speaker 2 (42:57):
HER i stood there, alone.

Speaker 3 (42:58):
SHAKING i had to hide and cry alone and fix
my makeup before returning to the. Reception WHEN i told
my fiance what had, happened he was seriously taken. Aback
he has an extremely loving, mother so this chilled him
to the. Bone he was, like how in the heck
does a mother feel like, that especially when you're such a,
wonderful loving.

Speaker 7 (43:16):
Person Ooh op grew despite their.

Speaker 2 (43:21):
Mother now it finally dawned on.

Speaker 3 (43:22):
Me why WOULD i let someone who has had two
divorces a broken engagement from the guy that cheated on
her last husband With, wow that's a story we got to,
read and now a rebound husband give me advice on?
Anything that is the question of the. Hour, yes, QUESTION
i think's on all of our. Minds we came up

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with a plan. Together my fiance AND i lied to my,
mother telling her that we were just too stressed about
planning a wedding and that we were just happy how
we are and that we're in love and that is good.

Speaker 2 (43:55):
Enough she didn't get.

Speaker 3 (43:57):
Angry she said that she was happy not to have
to spend the money and that she'd respected my decision
for years to. Come after this, decision quote, unquote she
would hold it over my head in front of family
that every cousin was getting married except for. Me during
all of, THIS i have a very close friend who
was about to move To. OREGON i didn't know we
would see each other in person. Again we had known

(44:18):
each other since high school AND i really wanted him
to be at our. Wedding he was like the BROTHER
i never. Had he had also become very good friends
with my, fiance so he wanted him there, too so
we started planning a backyard wedding so we could get
everyone together without the extress of travel and.

Speaker 7 (44:35):
MONEY i think they're planning a secret wedding right.

Speaker 3 (44:37):
Now that, weekend we met up at our Favorite chinese
restaurant with my fiance's family and talked about things that
my mother had. Done they agreed to keep it a
secret from my family BECAUSE i did not plan on inviting.
HER i couldn't invite anyone else in my family because
they adore her and think that she's an amazing. Mother
they wouldn't want to believe the reality of the. Situation

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my fiance's family are the greatest People i've ever. Known
they sat with, me listened and cried with, me feeling
my pain and supporting. Everything they happily kept everything off
of social media and blocked her on. Everything everyone officially
hates my mom too nice.

Speaker 1 (45:11):
Woo cheersday Hating.

Speaker 2 (45:13):
BOB i guess there we.

Speaker 3 (45:15):
Go my longtime friends since high school were eager to support.
Me they are my ride or die. GANG i did
not break a single sweat about having a non traditional
wedding Because i'm an Extremely i'm an incredibly non traditional.
Person it didn't have a lot of, decorations but the
food was. Scrumptious the company was, immaculate though weather was.
Perfect The justice of The peace was such a kind

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woman and conducted the. CEREMONY i felt absolutely ethereal and
gorgeous in my black satin wedding dress and purple ombre.

Speaker 1 (45:45):
Hair ah.

Speaker 3 (45:47):
Fun we got married the day Before, halloween and it
was truly the happiest day of my.

Speaker 1 (45:53):
Life.

Speaker 3 (45:54):
Nice after everything was said and, DONE i started keeping
my mother at arm's, reach going lower contact a little
more each, year and going to. Therapy NIC i found
out things between her AND i were a heck of
a lot worse THAN i thought that can.

Speaker 2 (46:08):
Happen not.

Speaker 1 (46:09):
Nice not. Nice she also had hidden my autism diagnosis.

Speaker 2 (46:13):
From me for over twenty.

Speaker 7 (46:15):
Years like she found it and then was like put that.

Speaker 3 (46:19):
AWAY i found out from one of my other cousins
who overheard a wasted confession at a family.

Speaker 2 (46:25):
Party. Wow, wait like.

Speaker 7 (46:26):
Your mom's wasted confession was that you have. Autism she's,
LIKE i didn't know to tell my order or my
child as.

Speaker 3 (46:38):
Autism you can listen to full episodes that have. STORIES
i KNOW i know just like. This i'm Sorry i've
kept it from. You it's On, Apple, spotify wherever you
get your. Podcasts you just have to. Search, okay, Storytime,
sofia THERE i said. It so last year was our
tenth wedding Anniversary wow Slash forward. Epilogue, secretly though, SECRETLY

(47:03):
i also went no contact with my mother right After
Mother's day of that. Year, dang everything was extra special
for a wedding. Anniversary we went to an airbnb that
looked exactly like A hobbit. House love that. Buyer it
was absolutely. Incredible that was one of the happiest.

Speaker 2 (47:19):
Days of my.

Speaker 3 (47:19):
Life and in the future we planned to renew our
vows and she wouldn't be invited to that. Either thank
you for sticking with me through this crazy. Ride thank
you for your. Time so AM i the a? Hole?

Speaker 1 (47:32):
Sophia, TRUTHFULLY i think.

Speaker 7 (47:33):
NO i think you kind of answered the question that
we were asking of you, know when does an End
and it seems like you just kind of slowly went
no contact so you never really had to tell.

Speaker 1 (47:46):
Her, yeah you at a.

Speaker 7 (47:47):
WAY i refuse to reconnect with my son because he
was the one who abandoned.

Speaker 2 (47:53):
Me don't do it.

Speaker 7 (47:57):
Forty five female have a son my previous. MARRIAGE i
got pregnant way too, young at the age of twenty
from my high school Sweetheart david forty five. Mail we
got married at twenty two after graduating. College by the,
way this comes From Silly struggle twenty five twenty eight
and if you want to submit your own, stories go
to the r Slash hookay storytime subured.

Speaker 5 (48:16):
It So.

Speaker 7 (48:19):
David was rich and he didn't want me to, work
SO i was just a. Housewife my son was the
apple of my. EYE i gave everything to.

Speaker 1 (48:27):
Him he was my.

Speaker 7 (48:28):
World we were really close AND i never had a
doubt in my mind THAT i would never be alone
as long AS i had. Him that is until ten
years ago WHEN i found out that my husband was
cheating on me with a young colleague of. His what was,
worse my fifteen year old son knew about. It he
hid the affair from. ME i imagine how BROKEN i.

(48:52):
WAS i was betrayed by the two PEOPLE i cared
about most in the. WORLD i asked my son why
he did, it why he hurt. Me his response was
that his dad told him not to say. Anything he
bought him gifts to keep his mouth, shut and having
a young stepmom made him popular amongst his. FRIENDS i
was blindsided WHEN i learned that my husband had even
taken my little boy to meet that. Woman they made

(49:16):
excuses saying they were on a ski, trip but they
had taken his mistress with. THEM i felt like a.
Fool in the divorce, ruling my son chose my ex over.
ME i was heartbroken once everything was. Finalized he didn't
even want to. Visit oh, sorry this is really really.
AWFUL i tried reaching out to him once he turned,

(49:39):
eighteen but he. Refused at that, POINT i gave up
and went on with my. LIFE i would still get
sad over the, years wondering how he was, doing but
EVENTUALLY i moved on and met. Somebody he was a
single father of two. Girls we got, married and just
a few days after our, WEDDING i found OUT i
was pregnant. Again, babe the, pregnancy it was a. NIGHTMARE

(50:01):
i wanted to meet my son and tell him he
was going to be a brother to a baby, girl
but my labor was difficult AND i nearly passed away
after giving. Birth oh my. GOODNESS i still wanted to see,
him BUT i knew he didn't want to see, me
SO i let go of the. Idea over the, years
the memories of him just became vague AS i immersed
myself in my new. FAMILY a week, AGO i received

(50:22):
a series of messages from him On. Facebook he said
he missed me a lot and wanted to meet. Up
it took me by. Surprise after ten years of, silence
now he wants to see. Me Why i've been going
over every possible. Reason the worst part IS i don't
feel excited about. It as a, MOTHER i KNOW i
should be over the, moon But i'm. Not my parents

(50:44):
and husband know HOW i, feel and they've been pushing
me to meet. Him they SAY i need, closure after,
all he's my, son BUT i don't know IF i
want to relive the same. Trauma so AM i in the?
Wrong and there are a couple edits and another. Update i'm.
Conflicted IF i do meet, HIM i won't invite him
to my. House maybe a public place. INSTEAD i don't

(51:04):
know if he wants something from, me BUT i will be.
Cautious and another. Edit i've decided to meet him, today
But i'm taking my husband with. Me he won't be
with us. Directly but he'll be watching from a. Distance
for those of you calling me a neglectful mother who
never tried to reach, OUT i hope you never have
to experience what it's like to be rejected and lied
to by your own. CHILD i know many of you

(51:26):
will justify it by saying he was only, fifteen but
betrayal is still betrayal. REGARDLESS i will be keeping my,
distance and there is an.

Speaker 3 (51:35):
Update oh, MAN i am, afraid but also potentially.

Speaker 2 (51:40):
Excited I'm i'm. Nervous i'm.

Speaker 7 (51:43):
Nervous i'm, nervous BUT i think it could be good
AND i have. HOPE a lot of you have been
requesting an. UPDATE i finally met my son after so many.
Years he was not a boy. Anymore he was a.
Man you look taller THAN i. Remembered so, ANYWAYS i
read your. Comments some of you gave me good. SUGGESTIONS
i prepared myself for any possible. Outcome he could be

(52:05):
there to meet me and tell me about his, life maybe,
reconcile or maybe he wanted. Something regardless of what it,
WAS i kept my guard. UP i asked him to
meet me in a public. PARK i asked my husband
to be somewhere nearby so we could see. Me my
son came five minutes AFTER i. Arrived he was all grown.

Speaker 1 (52:23):
UP i won't.

Speaker 7 (52:24):
LIE i wanted to cry right, there BUT i held my.
Composure he said hi to, me AND i. SMILED i
commented that he had grown up and looked really. Nice
he just. Nodded we sat down and it was. SILENT
i was expecting him to say something at, first but
FINALLY i asked what he was up to these. Days
he told me he was doing. Fine he just finished

(52:44):
college and was going to apply for grad. SCHOOL i
said that was. Great then there was an awkward. Silence.
Again he broke the silence and, said you must be
wondering WHY i contacted.

Speaker 2 (52:56):
You, eyah that's what we want to.

Speaker 1 (52:58):
Know that's what everyone's.

Speaker 7 (52:59):
One we're. CURIOUS i, Replied for ten years you haven't
tried to contact, Me but why. NOW i can't help
but wonder why you're trying to contact me when you
told me years ago that you didn't want me near
you BECAUSE i embarrassed. You his face got serious and he,
SAID i know, that BUT i need something from. YOU

(53:20):
a lot of you suggested he must be here to
ask for. Money, well you guys were, right damn. It
he asked me for. Money be him out with twenty thousand.

Speaker 1 (53:29):
Dollars oh, no high hope.

Speaker 5 (53:34):
Guy.

Speaker 7 (53:35):
No he said he needed it because he wanted to
go to law school and his father couldn't afford it
after losing a lot of money a few years ago
due to his failed. Business his company went bankrupt and
he also had three more kids with his mistress turned.
Wife that's why they didn't have money for him to
go to grad. School it sank my. Heart after ten,
YEARS i was finally meeting. HIM i was hoping we

(53:57):
could reconcile and that he would Understand i've been, through
or maybe even realized that my husband had been lying to.
Him but, no he just wanted money from. ME i
told HIM i couldn't give him, money especially not such
a huge. Amount he got defensive and kept asking why?
Not then he, asked is this about dad's? Affair? Jeez
when will we get over?

Speaker 5 (54:18):
It?

Speaker 7 (54:19):
OH i asked, him why do you hate? Me what
HAVE i done to deserve your? Hatred HAVE i ever
raised my? Voice HAVE i ever hit you or said
no to?

Speaker 5 (54:30):
You?

Speaker 7 (54:31):
Then why you always pushed me? Away WHEN i tried
to get closer to. You why what DID i do
to deserve? It he took a deep breath and, said
you don't. Understand. Mom you really expected me to come with.
You you would. Nothing at Least dad could afford the
LIFESTYLE i, wanted and my friends actually Liked carla the.
Stepmom everything was fine until you discovered his affair and

(54:52):
ruined my deal With.

Speaker 1 (54:53):
DAD i get.

Speaker 7 (54:54):
It you didn't hit me or scold, me but you
weren't able to afford the LIFE i. Wanted this child
is a. MONSTER i asked him if he really thought
that his father's affair was the best thing for any of.
US i sacrificed a lot for, him yet he chose
someone he had only met when he was. Fourteen he
said he didn't want to talk about it because it
was so many years, ago and THAT i should just drop.

(55:15):
IT i asked why he never tried to visit. Me
was it his dad stopping? Him was it SOMETHING i.
DID i had tried to reach out multiple, times but
he never answered or made an. EFFORT i gave him,
space thinking he was coping with a divorce. Too he
yelled THAT i was really. Annoying he said his dad
hadn't stopped. Him he himself didn't want to meet me
BECAUSE i lived in a small apartment with only two.

(55:36):
Bedrooms he hated living in a place like. That he
ignored me on his eighteenth birthday because the GIFT i
gave him was cheap and stale compared to what his
dad and others had given. HIM i. Agree my gift
was a box of his favorite cookies and an old vintage.
WATCH i was struggling a lot at the, time SO
i couldn't afford to buy him expensive. Stuff but does
that mean he should have ignored me like?

Speaker 1 (55:57):
THAT i had.

Speaker 7 (55:58):
ENOUGH i told him firmly THAT i would not be
giving him. MONEY i had spent years wondering where he
was and how he was. Doing yet he was still so.
Disrespectful throughout our whole. Conversation he didn't even ask HOW i.
Was he just went straight to the. MONEY i had
been hoping we could move. On he had no idea

(56:18):
how much of a MESS i. Was WHEN i found
out the MAN i loved so much had betrayed, me
and then my own son had lied.

Speaker 1 (56:25):
To me for.

Speaker 7 (56:25):
HIM i thought we had a special. Bond my mind
had been running through so many possibilities maybe his dad
had lied to him about, me or maybe he had
been mad about SOMETHING i. Did but NOW i finally
had the. TRUTH i didn't want to be HIS. ATM
i wanted to be his, mother even when he rejected.
ME i was tired of feeling, rejected, mistreated and taken for.

(56:49):
Granted he kept getting, defensive saying THAT i couldn't do
this to, him that was ruining his, life and THAT
i owed it to. HIM i told him, NO i
couldn't trust him with such a large sum of.

Speaker 2 (57:00):
Money you, know it's.

Speaker 3 (57:01):
Funny she did become AN. Atm, yeah a tired, MOTHER.

Speaker 7 (57:04):
A tired Mother, john a tired mom, wow spinning, bars.
Staying he snapped and told me to cut the bs
because he KNEW i had money and could easily give him.
SOME i told him, no again and. Again at one
point he stood, up screaming THAT i was ruining his
life and THAT i owed it to. HIM i called

(57:26):
my husband and he rushed over to keep my son
away from. ME i now know THAT i should have
trusted my. INSTINCTS i cried a lot WHEN i got.
HOME i lost him. FOREVER i know a lot of
you will call me a bad. Mother you'll call me self,
absorbed But i'm. Sorry i've spent a lot of time
in therapy to get over the pain of losing my
husband and my. SON i cannot have him in my
life only to be used as AN. Atm even IF

(57:49):
i had given him the, money there was no guarantee
that he wouldn't have ghosted me, afterward or that he
wouldn't come back later asking for more when the money ran.
OUT i cannot go through that pain. AGAIN i may
be able to forgive him for what he said to,
me BUT i don't THINK i will ever forget. It
he hated me BECAUSE i had no. MONEY i would
have been fine with weekly, visits but he never wanted. That,

(58:12):
ADDITIONALLY i discovered during our conversation that he was the
first one to find out about my husband's, affair and
he asked his dad to buy him a new phone
in exchange for his. Silence oh my, goodness he blackmailed his.
Dad this kid is. EVIL i. Lost that's ALL i
have as an. Update i'm sorry if there are any,
mistakes and, no his birthday was not the only TIME

(58:35):
i reached. Out like many of you, ASSUMED i tried
to reach out before that many many times he said
he didn't want to or had other. EXCUSES i respected
his decision and didn't bother him too. MUCH i finally
gave up trying when he was, eighteen BUT i still
checked his social media for quite a while UNTIL i
gave up on that. Too but you should never give

(58:56):
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much As i'm hurt by his actions that, DAY i
still hope he learns responsibility and. Matures that being, SAID
i hardly THINK i have the energy to consider reconciling
in the, future even if he comes and says. Sorry

(59:18):
it was already too much for me to be there
yesterday just to be humiliated. Again and that is the
end of that. Story ouch ouch, out Big.

Speaker 2 (59:28):
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Speaker 1 (59:31):
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to help support the. Show my daughter SAYS i embarrassed
her at, school but it's not my.

Speaker 1 (59:39):
Faults, Mom he's so.

Speaker 3 (59:42):
Embarrassing this is a throwaway account to protect the privacy of.
EVERYONE i thirty nine female have a, Daughter, natalie nine,
female who is in third. Grade her regular teachers on
medical leave indefinitely after having an open.

Speaker 2 (59:53):
Heart surgery ooh.

Speaker 3 (59:56):
Auchi her class is being covered by a long term
sub Named coffee fifties. Female by the, way this comes
from a long jumping song seventy. Eighteen if you want
to submit your own, story go to the r slash
okay Storytime separate it. So Missus coffee is majorly interested
in classic movies and shows an older age appropriate movie
On friday afternoon if the class finishes all their work

(01:00:17):
for the, WEEK i am one hundred percent in favor
OF i love that great, idea great. Idea natalie is,
very very sensitive to animal injuries slash. Death this is
a child who cried for half an hour after hearing
about a. Giraffe a giraffe a, draft a giraffe that passed.

Speaker 2 (01:00:34):
Away in a zoo states. Away what a little.

Speaker 3 (01:00:36):
Sweetheart although she has been diagnosed with anxiety, disorder her
sensitivity isn't the result of trauma or a mental.

Speaker 2 (01:00:43):
Illness it's just who she. Is On, thursday at about.

Speaker 3 (01:00:45):
One, Pm Missus coffee sent out a message on the
parent notification app congratulating the students on their hard, work
announcing that the students will be Watching The Never Ending.

Speaker 7 (01:00:55):
Story they already, nice see you.

Speaker 3 (01:00:59):
Drinking for those, unfamiliar The Never Ending story CONTAINS i,
MEAN i could have, guessed and especially upsetting scene where
a horse passes.

Speaker 7 (01:01:10):
Away it's so, sad it's so.

Speaker 3 (01:01:12):
Sad so a scene like this that would cause most
people to choke up could potentially.

Speaker 2 (01:01:16):
Result in a full on meltdown For.

Speaker 3 (01:01:18):
Natalie natalie knows movie scenes aren't real and that no
actual animals are.

Speaker 2 (01:01:22):
Hurt this is just her.

Speaker 3 (01:01:24):
RESPONSE i messaged Missus coffee on the app and briefly
told her About natalie's sensitivity and asked her if she
could quietly Warn natalie about the scene and allow her
to be excused if she.

Speaker 1 (01:01:33):
Prefers the scene is about four minus.

Speaker 2 (01:01:35):
Law just skip the.

Speaker 1 (01:01:36):
Scene oh, no you, can't you.

Speaker 7 (01:01:40):
Can't that's it's important scene in the.

Speaker 3 (01:01:43):
MOVIE i didn't hear anything for about an hour until
Missus coffee made another post on the notification app announcing
rather curtly that the movie was.

Speaker 1 (01:01:51):
Canceled, dang no reason was.

Speaker 3 (01:01:54):
GIVEN i figured that the class was acting, up and
she canceled the movie just as a. Punishment WHEN i
picked Up natalie from, school she was furious with. Me
she said THAT i embarrassed her and got movie day.
CANCO i asked her what in the world she was talking.
About she, said Missus coffee canceled the movie because quote
some parents objected to the. Content while glaring At, NATALIE

(01:02:16):
i Asked natalie if she was sure Missus coffee was
talking about. HER i never objected to the, movie AND
i was certainly not trying to imply that it shouldn't be.
SHOWN i explained to her about the horror scene and
THAT i was just trying to keep her from being
caught off guard by a sad animal. Scene she accepted this,
explanation AND i told her THAT i would talk to Missus.
COFFEE i decided to bypass the notification and talk directly
to Missus coffee in person the next, morning no digital

(01:02:41):
pixels in, between to avoid any. MISUNDERSTANDING i thought maybe
she was having a rough day and would sleep on
it and. RECONSIDER i asked her if she really thought
THAT i was objecting to the. MOVIE i only wanted
my daughter to be prepared for something that could be
potentially upsetting to. Her Missus coffee then proceeded to tell
me THAT i was Babying natalie and that fish. Stuff
to be, Fair natalie's excessive emotional displays can be, irritating

(01:03:04):
AND i do agree that she will eventually need to
learn to control. It but having this sprung on her
in school didn't seem to be the appropriate time or
place to try to toughen her. Up but as it turned,
Out Missus coffee obviously called Out natalie in front of her.

Speaker 2 (01:03:18):
Peers that is the part that has me.

Speaker 3 (01:03:20):
Upset her classmates are upset with her over something that
never had to be a big deal in the first.
PLACE i know THAT i should have talked To natalie
before going to the, teacher but you know what they
say about. Hindsight i'm not sure what to do to
make this. Right aside from this, Incident Missus coffee is
a great teacher And natalie enjoys her. Class i'm not
ready to get the principle. Involved SHOULD i have just

(01:03:41):
kept my mouth shut and hope for the. Best do
you guys Think i'm Babying? NATALIE i just left the
meeting with Missus coffee and don't want to do anything
to fuel the.

Speaker 2 (01:03:49):
Fire but we have some. Comments ladies and.

Speaker 3 (01:03:51):
Gentlemen comment to number, one perhaps you could have given
your daughter the heads up. Yourself teachers also cold have also,
subbed could have subbed another movie in if she was
inn comfort truble showing. IT i am a, teacher and
that teacher is. Wrong you try to talk to the
teacher with horrible. Results the principle needs to know what. Happened,
ALSO i have a highly functioning autistic child AND i
have done exactly what you. Did give the teacher your

(01:04:13):
heads up about the possibility of having a, breakdown not
the a. Hole and the reply, SAYS i grew up
in the time of the Never Ending, story AND i
wouldn't show it to my. Kid that horse scene is,
horrific like deeply. Traumatized, yeah my kids.

Speaker 1 (01:04:26):
Are i'm showing it to MY.

Speaker 3 (01:04:27):
Gid it's good they had different standards in the. Nineties
more than one kid would have been upset by. That
so for, STARTERS i am not a helicopter. PARENT i
allow my children age appropriate freedom to make their own
decisions and sort out their own. Problems not only knows
not to come with me about a school work issue
until she has talked to the teacher. First she's very

(01:04:49):
brave where it really. Counts she has a reputation for
standing up to other kids being. Bully that's, awesome. Dude
that to me is like top to your parenting. Cards
hush out to, you. Opee put it this. Way no
one has picked on her little other and sister more than.
Once maybe she's freaking throwing.

Speaker 7 (01:05:03):
A, Dad it's, like how dare?

Speaker 3 (01:05:05):
You her sensitivity to animals is the only thing that
sets her off like, this with the draft incident being
the most extremes THAT i.

Speaker 2 (01:05:11):
Recall it's usually.

Speaker 3 (01:05:12):
Seeing passed away animals on the side of the road
or seeing those animal rescue charities that gets her.

Speaker 2 (01:05:17):
Going, natalie take the video.

Speaker 7 (01:05:19):
The trailers on the, ads it's just like falling.

Speaker 1 (01:05:23):
DUDE i mean those are sad one of the sad, Puppies,
David what AM i supposed to? Do not cry.

Speaker 3 (01:05:28):
Exactly natalie is not really A tv, person but doesn't
really like to sit down for full movies at.

Speaker 2 (01:05:33):
Home she. Did she did See The Lion, king but
she was about three to.

Speaker 3 (01:05:37):
Four years old and it didn't really register what was
happening now About natalie's. Class there are about five kids
in that class who like to clown around and. Disrupt
natalie tells me that they have they can be very
rude when. Corrected her regular, Teacher missus t h could manage,
them but they've been a nightmare For Missus. COFFEE i
talked To natalie about asking her to demonstrate what. Happened

(01:05:59):
playing the role Of Missus, coffee she said movie day
was canceled because parents objected to the, content while giving,
me playing the role Of, natalie a death. Glare natalie then,
said one of the troublemakers, said, hey it's not my
fault this, time while pointing At, natalie, Laughing eh. Dang
Missus coffee did nothing to correct. Them natalie further explained

(01:06:19):
That Missus coffee started showing the movies to try to
get the kids to. Behave it went okay the first,
week But Missus coffee canceled and reinstated the movie so
often that it became a game to those unruly. Kids,
plus the kids were starting to complain That Missus c's
movie choices were boring and they should just Watch coco
or The Mario.

Speaker 2 (01:06:38):
Bros.

Speaker 3 (01:06:38):
Movie from What i'm, piecing. Together Missus coffee was starting
to regret the whole movie as a reward, system and
my message gave her the out she. Needed, ooh that's not.
Good you gotta stand on your, choices Missus, coffee brew
on your. DECISIONS i Asked natalie if she wanted to
see the Art tack, scene just so she would know
what all the fuss was, about and she. DECLINED i

(01:06:59):
believe more out of lack of interest than. ANXIETY i
didn't push that. ISSUE i was going to try to
talk to her again On monday. Morning if it doesn't go,
well WILL i will get the principle. Involved and we've
got update number. Two SO i went in this morning
to talk to Missus coffee, again but there was another sub,
there Missus, helen Whom natalie knows. Well natalie was happy

(01:07:20):
to see her and gave her a. Hug she informed
me that Missus coffee had been reassigned at her own,
request to the high, school not the same ONE i teach.

Speaker 1 (01:07:28):
At thank, Goodness Oh op is also a, teacher, right that's? Right.

Speaker 3 (01:07:32):
Oh Missus helen also told me that missus t regular
teacher was tentatively scheduled to come back On march, Seventeenth
so if all goes, well things will Be things will
be back to normal in just two. WEEKS i Believe
Missus allen can get the class back under. CONTROL i
took the advice many of you gave and spoke to
the assistant, Principal Missus. Fetterbottom Missus fetterbottom seemed shocked and
told me that she had personally Banned Missus coffee from

(01:07:54):
showing The Never Ending story because it hadn't gone through
the school's approval process for.

Speaker 7 (01:07:58):
Movies ehoh blamed it On, natalie and it wasn't Even natalie's, fault.

Speaker 3 (01:08:03):
So someone else must have tipped off the. Admin If
Missus coffee was salty that she got called out for blatantly.

Speaker 2 (01:08:09):
Defying the, rules then that has nothing to do With
natalie or with. Me that's true. Facts another true.

Speaker 3 (01:08:15):
Fact if you want full, episodes shock full of stories
just like this for your entertainment, pleasure go To, Spotify
apple or your favorite podcast app and Search, okay, Storytime
what are you still doing waiting?

Speaker 2 (01:08:32):
Here what are you? Doing why are you still waiting
to search up the? PODCAST i searched it. UP i
still don't know.

Speaker 3 (01:08:38):
Why Missus coffee glared At natalie and led the class
to believe that the movie cancelation was her. FAULT i
also don't know what the admin is going to do
with the INFORMATION i gave. Him but if Missus coffee
ever subs In natalie's class, again she better treat her
very nice and kind.

Speaker 2 (01:08:50):
Or there will be serious.

Speaker 1 (01:08:52):
Problems that's WHAT i like to.

Speaker 3 (01:08:54):
Hear WHEN i picked Up, natalie Missus helen said that
on her last day of, something she will Take natalie
to the media center and let her pick from among
the approved movies and will have a movie makeup day with.

Speaker 2 (01:09:08):
Popcorn, yeah Chrissus helen is.

Speaker 7 (01:09:10):
On makeup day with. Popcorn oh my, goodness favorite. Teacher we've.

Speaker 2 (01:09:15):
IMPROVED i want to go to this.

Speaker 1 (01:09:16):
School, yeah you never popcorn at my. School, yeah sign
you never had movie day religious.

Speaker 7 (01:09:22):
Trauma let's.

Speaker 1 (01:09:24):
Go let's. Go SO i guess all's.

Speaker 2 (01:09:28):
Well that ends? Well, OH i almost.

Speaker 3 (01:09:29):
Forgot not one Of natalie's classmates said anything to her
about the movie cancelation the day

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