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00:14 r/relationships - I [22F] had s*x with my neighbor [30M] once. Is his current behavior weird or am I being over dramatic?
19:44 r/relationship_advice - My neighbor is destroying my s*x life/relationship
36:11 r/AITAH - AITA? I had to finally tell a former neighbor/friend who takes way too much advantage of my kindness?
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:14):
I hooked up with my neighbor and now he's stalking me.
Run girl, I twenty two female, made the mistake of
having spicy sleep with my neighbor. Thirty mail. We all
know the saying, the.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
Boy next door, don't give him the door. No wait, wait,
the boy next door, don't give him the back door.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
You just rhymed door with door.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
It rhymed.
Speaker 2 (00:34):
You could have said, don't be for the boy next.
Speaker 1 (00:36):
Door, don't be for the boy next door.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
The what I was talking about was don't crap or
you eat. We live in the same building and I
came home from a night out about two weeks ago
and met him in the hallway. We got talking and
he invited me back to his place. We had a drink.
One thing led to another, and we had spicy sleep.
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Speaker 1 (01:03):
I'm Sophia, I'm Riley, and OHP says.
Speaker 2 (01:05):
I have to admit the spicy sleep was pretty awkward
and bad. Oh I'm cringing as I write this. But
as we were doing it, he told me he loved me.
We had spoken about twice before this night. Crazy.
Speaker 1 (01:21):
Sometimes it helps sometimes when you know you know.
Speaker 2 (01:24):
So I got my first impression then maybe he was
a bit strange. I was really embarrassed by the whole
thing and decided to just avoid him, thinking he would
get the hint that it was just a wasted one
time thing and I wasn't interested that I kept seeing
him all the time. I think he must have worked
out what time I leave and get back from work,
because I started bumping into him way more than I
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used to.
Speaker 1 (01:46):
I don't know if he'll get the hint that you're
ignoring him. If you guys did that, he got the
hint that now he loves you.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
So I feel like you gotta be like, hey, dude,
it's not I'm not feeling it. Especially when you see
them a lot, you gotta say, hey, dude, I'm not
feeling it. I kept the conversation short and acted uninterested.
Hoping he would back off. He persisted, and then a
few days ago he added me on Facebook, which I ignored.
The next time I saw him, he asked me why
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I hadn't accepted his friend request. So I decided to
be more assertive and said something like the other night
was fun, but I'm really not interested in anything. He
was quite upbeat and replied, Okay, that's cool, but we
can still be friends. So I thought maybe I had
been a bit immature towards him, and now that I've
told him my intentions, we could be friends.
Speaker 1 (02:31):
Yeh, and I love you.
Speaker 2 (02:32):
We could be friends, and I love you so much,
I still think he's being over friendly with me. I'm
sure he's waiting to bump into me because I see
him constantly. He's not shy about asking personal questions about
ex boyfriends and stuff, which I find weird. On Facebook,
he has liked so many of my pictures and messaged
a couple times asking me to hang out. Is his
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behavior weird or am I just being over dramatic? And
there is an update? No, he's being weird.
Speaker 1 (03:00):
Weird, it's been weird.
Speaker 2 (03:01):
I don't know how you prevent like, how you stop
him from being weird because you've already kind of said, hey,
not interested. I think you could be a little bit
more firm and say like, hey, yeah, you know, I'm flattered,
but really don't want anything. I got a lot of friends,
don't even want you to be my friends.
Speaker 1 (03:21):
You know what's been helping me recently. How would Sandra
Bullick respond to this?
Speaker 2 (03:26):
In what movie?
Speaker 1 (03:27):
Any movie?
Speaker 2 (03:28):
Well, and while you were sleeping, she's like kind of shot.
She would probably go along with the relationship. So you
gotta be careful about which movie. I'm thinking Oceans eight
that was gonna be my next How would Sandra Bullick
and Oceans eight respond to this? Yeah, because she's a
bad butt. She's a bad butt.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
That's what I would do exactly. There you go.
Speaker 2 (03:48):
That's your advice. Watch Ocean's eight. Oh or you no
Ocean's eleven, Oceans eight, ocean z Yeah, watch Oceans eight.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
And if you're in a scenario, what do I do?
Speaker 2 (03:56):
What would WWSB.
Speaker 1 (03:59):
Wait ww sp I eight?
Speaker 2 (04:04):
Yeah, there we go, solved it. Update. Thanks for the advice.
I've learned. My lesson about having spicy sleep with someone
I don't really know and can't avoid it happens the
first thing I did was delete and block him from Facebook,
but I still had to deal with him in person.
I coincidentally ran into him on Monday. He asked, have
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you deleted your Facebook or something? Because I can't find
you anymore. Actually, he's probably like Pwinces.
Speaker 1 (04:35):
I've seen that guy. I like claps his feet together. No, yeah,
that's concerning. Oh yeah yeah, and he goes ten in
the It's really cringe.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
I told him he's a nice guy, but I feel
like I'm leading him on by hanging out together since
I'm really not interested. He replied that really does just
want to be friends, and that it would be more
awkward now if we're not. It's like a threat. I said,
I don't want to give you the wrong impression, so
I think it's best for now if we're not, and
quickly left. I felt bad saying it, but he was
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overwhelming me. I haven't seen him since then, but last
night I got a rambling long letter through my door.
Speaker 1 (05:11):
Oh dear Opie.
Speaker 2 (05:13):
No no no, no, no no no. You didn't give
me much chance to speak the other night, and there's
more I wanted to say. Though. This might actually be
an easier way for me to explain my thoughts and feelings.
I know we had only talked a few times before
our trist right or what trist.
Speaker 1 (05:36):
Bro that's old English, but I felt like there.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
Was an obvious connection between us. I'm sure you must
have felt it too, or I didn't think you would
have come home with me that night. I'm not the
type of guy who sleeps with girls. I don't really know,
but I was extremely attracted to you, and when it
appeared you reciprocated my feelings, I wouldn't help myself. When
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you told me you weren't interested in anything romantic, I understood,
even if it was not what I wanted to hear.
I don't know anything about your personal life, part of
the reason why I'm not usually interested in one night's stance,
and so of course I realized why you might not
be interested in me. However, I think it's strange you
don't at least want to be friends. We shared a
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very intimate moment with each other, and you can't pretend
it never happened. It therefore seems only logical that we
become friends. It only makes it more awkward if we aren't.
I just want to say, if you feel embarrassed or
worry that I think of you as sluty. Don't be
I don't judge you. That would be a terrible double standard.
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Don't be careful because some men see your behavior as sluty,
especially if you refuse to talk to them after It
seems like he's one of those men.
Speaker 1 (06:55):
Oh interesting, he's like some men, not me, Tom, I
would never think this, but some guys. Mind.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
Some guys would think this, just like when a guy
doesn't call a girl after they sleep together, he's seen
as an a hole. Really, the point of me saying
all this is just to repeat that I understand you're
not interested in a relationship with me, and I respect that. However,
I'm just gonna say it.
Speaker 1 (07:15):
I really like you back there.
Speaker 2 (07:18):
You're a fun, smart and beautiful girl, and I would
love to get to know you more. I don't think
you can deny that we got along very well before
that night, and I don't think what happens should change anything.
Don't think you're leading me on. I'm a grown guy
and I know that no means no and can handle
just being friends with you. This is so long, but
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I respect what you said to me, even if it
hurt a little and we'll keep my distance from you
for now. If you change your mind, and if you
ever want to talk to me or if you need anything,
you know where I live, and I will always welcome you.
That's what neighbors are for, right that evil evil? I'm scared.
Speaker 1 (07:58):
Okay, okay, okay, as long. Yeah, this guy keeps his word.
Not a bad letter? What not a bad calls sluty?
Speaker 2 (08:06):
He said, I'm not calling you sluty, but most people
would call you sluty he did.
Speaker 1 (08:12):
But not a bad letter in the regards if he
got everything off his chick.
Speaker 2 (08:14):
That's true.
Speaker 1 (08:15):
Hopefully that's an ended here. M I agree, only if
he keeps his word. This is a great letter. I
would if there was someone like this in my life. Yeah,
I made a mistake and I did this, and they
gave me a letter like this. I would be so
happy knowing, Okay, it's over with you, it's over.
Speaker 2 (08:29):
They're done. He's not gonna talk to me anymore, he
said he wouldn't.
Speaker 1 (08:33):
Also if we went to a literature major. Yeah, I
guess you what what century was this letter written?
Speaker 2 (08:40):
Just because the tryst you just really like the trust
I think I think this is this is just very
we I think we nailed it. This is the Fedora
nice guy. I think that's absolutely the energy that this
man is giving.
Speaker 1 (08:53):
I thought it would be eighteen fifty sure something around
that time.
Speaker 2 (08:58):
Eighteen fifty something.
Speaker 1 (08:59):
Yeah, that knows what redd it is.
Speaker 2 (09:01):
I feel bad because he obviously likes me and has
put a lot of emotional value on what happened. But
I can't deal with someone this intense. I've been through
a similar scenario where I've had to let down a
man and then he sent me a really weird text.
Speaker 1 (09:17):
Oh yeah, it was so weird.
Speaker 2 (09:20):
It was really strange. So don't feel bad. Ope, you
let him down as nicely as you could.
Speaker 1 (09:26):
There reports that letter I thought were nice.
Speaker 2 (09:29):
Yeah, most of its most of it weird. His letter
confirmed that he is odd. So I'm glad I was
upfront with him. Yes, and there is a second update
to it. It never ends. It never ends. Ob he's
gonna have to move. Oh gosh, update too. He went
about a week without contacting me.
Speaker 1 (09:49):
Wow, a whole week.
Speaker 2 (09:50):
That's a new record. But yesterday I was getting stuff
out of my car and heard his voice say, Hey,
do you need a hand? I politely said hey, no, Oh,
I'm fine.
Speaker 1 (10:01):
Thanks, step back, step back, She's.
Speaker 2 (10:03):
Got like bear spray sh He got offended and started
getting mad at me. He said something like, what's your problem.
I'm only trying to help you. All I've ever done
is be nice to you, but you still act like
a witch. That was so nice of you to say that.
Was really nice of you to call it be a witch.
Speaker 1 (10:19):
So nice man.
Speaker 2 (10:20):
He stormed off before I could respond. I was shocked
and embarrassed because people around probably heard everything. Good. This morning,
I woke up to another letter, Dear o Pe, I
want to apologize for shouting at you earlier. I let
my anger get the best of me, and I'm sorry
about that. But I can't help but get frustrated at
your behavior. I get that you're not interested in me
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and that you don't want to be my friend, even
if I do find it strange. However, when someone's trying
to help you, it's good manners to accept it for
at the very least be grateful. Again. I'm sorry, and
I realized I need to think about the way I acted,
and we'll try not to do it again. By the way,
this is how adults deal with awkward situations. They don't
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pretend they never happen. I hope you accept my apology
in the little bit of advice I gave you.
Speaker 1 (11:11):
Okay, number one, have you ever seen Seinfeld?
Speaker 2 (11:13):
They avoid all of their problems.
Speaker 1 (11:15):
Yeah, and those are adults. Yeah, that's how people kind
of respond, even though it's Stevie, it's how we think.
Speaker 2 (11:21):
And I think you're you're definitely not acting like an
adult in this situation, Sir.
Speaker 1 (11:26):
I think the only way to respond is with the
little voodoo doll that kind of looks.
Speaker 2 (11:30):
Like him, and it's got a bunch of needles in it.
Speaker 1 (11:33):
It's got all the needles in its head. Yeah, and
you give it to them.
Speaker 2 (11:36):
Yeah, and you say.
Speaker 1 (11:37):
I love you? Do you wait? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (11:39):
Maybe do you do? You kind of reverse psychology him
matches freak here and and go really hard. I would worry,
I would worry something would.
Speaker 1 (11:47):
Get Sometimes when you match someone's freak.
Speaker 2 (11:49):
Like this, Yeah, they're too freaky.
Speaker 1 (11:51):
Yeah, they show you another level.
Speaker 2 (11:53):
This letter is worse because he's not even trying to
hide the insults and is being totally patronizing. He seems
to have gotten over his love for me, but now
has some grudge. If he really thinks all this about me?
Why does he even want to be friends? And there
is a third update. It doesn't stop. He wants to
be friends because he wants control over the situation. And
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he feels upset that you've rejected him because he thinks
highly of himself and you're kind of showing him that
he's not that great, and he doesn't know how to
deal with that.
Speaker 1 (12:26):
Like to know where the line is until we can
get a restraining order?
Speaker 2 (12:29):
Yeah, I mean, once he starts harassing her, which he is,
but like, I guess.
Speaker 1 (12:34):
How many more letters do we need?
Speaker 2 (12:35):
We'll save all the letters.
Speaker 1 (12:37):
Definitely, can we frame them? We start all our strong
guy friends around kind of have a situation, Yeah, frame
them and then boom, oh you know what you do? Maybe?
Speaker 2 (12:47):
I mean, like I don't know if this would necessarily work,
but like you could get a guy friend and pretend
that the guy friend is like someone you're dating or
a boyfriend or something, and then have him because unfortunately,
sometimes guys only less and guys, So maybe that would work.
But there is a third update. I called my brother
and told him about the situation. He was adamant I
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shouldn't contact him and should call the cops if he continues,
So I decided not to communicate with my neighbor, probably
the best. I regret telling my brother because he didn't
help the situation. Oh No, I had stayed at my
friend's house Friday night and came back Saturday morning in
the same clothes. He was in the hallway when I
got back. I'm sure he had been waiting for me,
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and said, I don't appreciate getting threatening messages from your brother.
I found out that my brother had sent him a
message telling him to leave me alone. He started saying
stuff like why can't you tell me this yourself? Why
can't you at least stalk to me. He got angry,
repeating what he had said in the letters, and for
the first time actually scared me. Then he called me
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a salute to my face and I said, if this,
I'm not listening to you anymore, leave me alone, and
went straight to my apartment. I think now that it's
you know, we're getting more and more verbal abuse, especially
after the parking lot thing and now here. I feel
like you could get you know, the car at least
put like in request to the police or something.
Speaker 1 (14:12):
Yeah, just so.
Speaker 2 (14:13):
You have a paper trail or request for restraining order
or something like that.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
Also, if you were putting this scenario and some dude
who's making you feel this way, I'm not gonna message him. No,
I'm probably gonna show up.
Speaker 2 (14:27):
You show up you.
Speaker 1 (14:28):
Oh yeah, I'm not going to store. Hey are you
this guy?
Speaker 2 (14:31):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (14:31):
Okay, great? Yeah. If you ever say nother word to
this woman over here, things in the future will happen.
Speaker 2 (14:37):
Yeah. Did you just like leave a letter like did
the brother just leave a letter that does nothing?
Speaker 1 (14:42):
It does nothing show force. Ah, that makes me so mad.
Speaker 2 (14:47):
I found out my brother had messaged him. You need
to leave my sister alone. You're creeping her out. If
you don't, there will be consequences.
Speaker 1 (14:54):
Okay, we'll say that in person.
Speaker 2 (14:55):
Yeah, go to him and say there will be God
get a gang of guys, yeah, even though, Yeah, who's
your entourage?
Speaker 1 (15:03):
When I'm thinking, Seraf and I don't really have a
lot of scary looking friends.
Speaker 2 (15:11):
You're so sweet looking.
Speaker 1 (15:12):
Yeah, they're actually delightful. Maybe Christian, he's tall.
Speaker 2 (15:16):
Even though I was worried this might have provoked him,
I decided to call the police. Smart. The next morning,
I woke up to another letter drop I'm sorry for
some of the things I said to you yesterday I
didn't mean them, but the heat of the moment got
to me. I did feel threatened by what your brother
said to me. All I've tried to do is talk
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to the person I live next door to after I
had spicy sleep with them. You've made it pretty clear
you're not interested in me, and I've accepted that have you. However,
I've explained to you multiple times that I find it's
strange you don't want to talk, so I think you
should be more understanding to my feelings instead of just
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labeling me a creep. I think we need to talk
like adults in person because I feel so frustrated that
you don't understand what I've tried to say to you
in my letters, and the only way to do it
now is face to face. I won't let my anger
get the better of me like it has previously, and
surely you must see this is a better idea than
getting your brother to send me messages. There was no
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way I was going to talk to him in person again,
as the last two times we spoke he just got
angry with me and called me a salute and a witch.
I wanted the whole situation over now. So I called
the police. It was the non emergency line, and they
were actually very helpful, and they asked me to go
to the station and I had to show all the
stuff he sent me, the letters and Facebook messages. They
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filed a report and originally they offered to call him,
but when I told them I didn't have his number,
they said they would go and talk to him.
Speaker 1 (16:51):
Let me go.
Speaker 2 (16:52):
Okay, finally, if your brother can't go in person, then
the police will. But there is a little bit left
to this story. Do you have any final thoughts?
Speaker 1 (17:02):
Glad? I'm glad this you know the police will probably
put it into it, hope, I hope.
Speaker 2 (17:07):
I hope so.
Speaker 1 (17:09):
And I know for facts there are a lot of
you that have been through similar situations like this, which
I would have said, I'm sorry, I'm so sorry you
went through that, and no one should ever go through this.
Speaker 2 (17:19):
It's not fun, not fun, not fun.
Speaker 1 (17:22):
We're making an app called call your brother, called the
Right Brother.
Speaker 2 (17:26):
There we go, oh that called the right brother.
Speaker 1 (17:28):
Call the Right Brother, and then they will put it
into all this stuff.
Speaker 2 (17:30):
You get you get a nice a nice person to
come come show up and yell at another guy for you.
Speaker 1 (17:38):
Mm, yeah, you have.
Speaker 2 (17:39):
Some, you have people who have been vetted by other women.
Go and uh, pully a creepy guy for you.
Speaker 1 (17:47):
There we go and it comes in waves. On one
it's an it's like a little story. One, it's a
nice guy. Yeah, could you stop one it's like a
ruffer guy. And then it's a final boss.
Speaker 2 (17:56):
Yeah, and it's like five guys squirtle squad, squirrel and
they blast him with like water, it's like a fire rose.
Speaker 1 (18:07):
Yeah, that's our services, Squirtle Squad.
Speaker 2 (18:12):
I just want to make this clear for those He
responded to me before, saying going to the cops was
too far. No, it's not. This isn't a restraining order.
He hasn't been charged or anything. All I've done is
file a police report and we have both agreed to
not contact each other, and if either one of us
contacts each other, then it will go further. I was
sort of expecting for him to send another letter after this,
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but he hasn't. I know, it's only been a couple
of days, but I do feel better about the situation. Now.
I'm going to stay here for now. I might talk
to my landlord, but I don't think he'd let me
break my lease if I feel like I don't want
to stay, I think my brother would help me out
with money. Do you feel bad about what happened? And
of course I should never have had spicy sleet with him.
I don't think that's the takeaway. I think that he
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should have been respectful after you did.
Speaker 1 (18:57):
I'm also on the side you should meet someone's mother
before you have spicy sleep with them. At least know
what their parents are. So I'm gonna agree with you
on that one. Op, you should maybe feel that's a
tough one.
Speaker 2 (19:08):
There's like ninety percent of people I feel like, don't
do that.
Speaker 1 (19:12):
Well, I'm different, So I'm a woman's doctor. I gotta know, like,
I gotta see like the woman that made my woman,
and I gotta make sure like, okay, I gotta I understand. Oh.
Speaker 2 (19:26):
The number one lesson I have learned is don't sleep
with your neighbor. But if anyone reading this finds themselves
in a similar situation, I guess my advice is trust
your instinct and go talk to the cops because they
can be helpful and it doesn't mean they're going to
start arresting people anyway. Thanks for all the advice, it
was appreciated.
Speaker 1 (19:44):
My neighbor is ruining my spicy life move. This is
so incredibly ridiculous, but here it is. My boyfriend and
I have spicy sleep. Whether it's at six am or
four pm, our next door neighbors starts pounding on the
bedroom wall, then starts pounding on our apartment front door.
This has been going on for six months.
Speaker 2 (20:04):
It's not because they're angry, it's because they're jealous trying
to join.
Speaker 1 (20:08):
They trying to join by always come from psych CALLI
and if you want some of your own stories, go
to the r slash Okay story times subreddit. We're not loud.
Neither of us barely makes any noise when we have
spicy sleep. But then how does he know? After the
first time this occurred, my boyfriend went as far as
to replace his bed frame, put up soundproofing between the
bed and the wall, and usually pulls the bed away
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from the wall before we start.
Speaker 2 (20:33):
Say much else you can do?
Speaker 1 (20:36):
Yeah, you gotta put on a movie. Yeah, pull the
bed away from the wall and then make sure no
one's home. That's usually yeah.
Speaker 2 (20:42):
My parents when they first moved into like when they
first moved into their first apartment in La their neighbor
they had very thin walls. Their neighbors non stop with
to have spicy sleep together, and my parents were like
it was terrible, like it was crazy.
Speaker 1 (21:00):
Good for them, Man, can't go crazy when our neighbor
pounds on the wall. We can't really continue having spicy sleep.
It breaks our concentration to spoils the mood completely. This
last occurrence was particularly bad. My boyfriend and if at
frisky at six am. The neighbors started pounding on our wall,
then started pounding on our door, and our dogs started barking.
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Then he started screaming at someone in the hallway that
we have so much spicy sleep we must not have jobs.
Not even true, since our spicy sleep life has significantly
dropped because of this.
Speaker 2 (21:34):
Do you guys just have really thin walls? Maybe you
gotta play like really loud music.
Speaker 1 (21:39):
I really love where I live now it's it's forest.
Speaker 2 (21:42):
Or you need to go talk to him and say
when are you gone?
Speaker 1 (21:47):
Can we have a schedule? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (21:49):
Please? When are we allowed to sleep together?
Speaker 1 (21:51):
We try maybe once a couple of weeks now, and
even then it causes us anxiety that he could start
banging on the wall at any minute. My boyfriend doesn't
want me confronting him and just wants us to ignore him.
This is a two way street. He could ignore you, guys,
but he's not. So I think I feel like we're
giving the bully the satisfaction of winning, because, let's face it,
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he's winning.
Speaker 2 (22:14):
I think you guys gotta go him. I think you
guys gotta you gotta go full force. You gotta start
getting louder. Yeah, you're gonna start banging back.
Speaker 1 (22:25):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (22:28):
I think that's the only way.
Speaker 1 (22:30):
He's destroying our spicy sleep life and causing friction between
me and my boyfriend. We have a foster dog that's
scared of men, so this morning I was getting him
ready to go outside. I opened the door and the
neighbor is standing in the hallway. I immediately slam the
door closed, and my dog starts barking because he saw
the guy. A neighbor stands in the hallway screaming that
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my dog needs to be put down. My goodness, I
waited for him to leave and then went out, only
for him to be standing outside of the building screaming
at me that my dog needs to put down. So
I lost it and curse to him, telling him to
shut up about my dog. First time this happened, he
tried to complain about us having spicy sleep at four
in the afternoon because it was upsetting his baby.
Speaker 2 (23:11):
I think you pounding on the walls is upsetting your baby.
And also quiet hours are like probably eight to ten pm,
so you don't have literally any leg to stand on. Dude.
Speaker 1 (23:23):
I told him it wasn't a problem and closed the
door on him. And my boyfriend left the apartment and
stood at the bottom of the building stairs listening to
the guy tell him that he was polite to me,
but I was rude to him. Sure, he's trying to
tell me what to do in my own home. After
interrupting our spicy sleep life. My boyfriend got mad at
me for losing my temper, which I totally did. I
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think you should back up your girlfriend. When it comes
to the guy, you'll probably be like, I didn't really
appreciate the way you handled it. But at this point, man,
there's a reason your girlfriend's so mad. Yeah, because she
hasn't had the big oh in a while.
Speaker 2 (23:58):
Oh okay, well, I was gonna say I think that
he could caught like the boyfriend could go to his
girlfriend and say like, hey, like, you know, let's handle
this a little differently, But when you're talking to the guy,
it's got to be like, don't talk to my girlfriend
like that, you know.
Speaker 1 (24:12):
Yep, squirtles sky in front Squirtle squad. Yes, every time since,
I haven't done a dang thing, and apparently neither has
my boyfriend. He hasn't even talked to the landlord after
I asked him to, so I called the landlord myself.
The landlord's response is he doesn't want to get involved,
but I can call the police if the neighbor pounds
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on my door again. What are my options? The police
have been called on this guy multiple times in this
building for multiple reasons. Ironically, he would have screaming matches
with his girlfriend so bad that other people in the
building would call the cops. Ye still cause this crap.
So I don't see how that's going to help. Plus
it takes hours for the police to show up. My
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boyfriend doesn't want me confronting the neighbor. My boyfriend won't
confront the neighbor. My landlord isn't any Meanwhile, that dude
is causing so much damage and talking crap about my dog,
which makes me red. I don't know how he knows
we're having spicy sleep. My boyfriend doesn't make any sounds
louder than a gasp. I cover my mouth when I okay,
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make sounds. You don't need to tell us all this.
We have very specific, same routine every time. That doesn't
last long. The frame was replaced after the first neighbor
freaked out. There's soundproofing foam between the bed and the wall,
and my boyfriend usually moves the bed away from the
wall before we start.
Speaker 2 (25:33):
Okay, well, clearly none of that is working if he
knows every time.
Speaker 1 (25:37):
Yeah, she talks a little bit more about what they do.
So my boyfriend has nixed the idea of having super
loud spicy sleep. Ah, come on, playing loud music, playing corn,
or various other lat means of antagonizing the neighbor. Since
this is a shared space, I'm not going to do
stuff behind his back while he's at work. We have
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an update, lame.
Speaker 2 (26:01):
The boyfriend doesn't want to do anything.
Speaker 1 (26:03):
Yeah, he just wants to.
Speaker 2 (26:05):
Let his girlfriend get yelled at, which is so much
scarier for her.
Speaker 1 (26:09):
That is pretty scary. Uh. He dumped the boyfriend.
Speaker 2 (26:12):
Yeah, i'd dump him and move.
Speaker 1 (26:14):
Dang.
Speaker 2 (26:15):
I wouldn't done him move, but I would move.
Speaker 1 (26:17):
Uh. Yeah, I would definitely be looking for other places.
Speaker 2 (26:20):
Yeah, like, if this is going to keep going, go
find somewhere the thicker walls and.
Speaker 1 (26:25):
It is weird the guy knows every time you're doing it.
Speaker 2 (26:27):
Yeah, well, I just I'm just assuming that nothing they're
doing is actually working. Okay, if he knows every time,
like you know, probably not that soundproof.
Speaker 1 (26:37):
We have an update. I don't know what's going on
with the neighbor. My dog is barked at him when
a dog walker has taken him out immediately brought them
both back inside until my neighbor went into his apartment,
and my neighbor didn't say a word. I have no
idea of seeing someone he didn't recognize was the difference
if he didn't feel like it or if the landlord
had another talk with him. I thirty female ended it
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with my my boyfriend thirty mail.
Speaker 2 (27:01):
Yeah, okay, I honestly support that. He wasn't doing anything
to support you.
Speaker 1 (27:07):
I was gonna I thought it was a little extreme,
but I was leaning that way too.
Speaker 2 (27:10):
I was leaning towards it. I only didn't want to
say it because I thought that was too extreme because
you were like, oh really, but now I fully support
you breaking up with your boyfriend.
Speaker 1 (27:19):
I only said really in the context if we don't
we haven't seen how this guy is. He might be
a nice guy.
Speaker 2 (27:24):
I don't know anything else except for how he's handling
this situation.
Speaker 1 (27:27):
But act.
Speaker 2 (27:29):
But Opie also said that it was causing other problems
in the relationship, so it's probably kind of an amalgamation.
Speaker 1 (27:35):
After I made the previous post, my ex and I
had a long conversation with their couple's therapists, where their
therapist took my ex aside and said we shouldn't do
anything confrontational regard to the neighbor. She told me she
appreciated that I'm a firecracker, but felt that it could
get me or my ex hurt. But something that came
up in the sessions is my ex swearing up and
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down if someone was disrespectful to me, he would in me.
Our therapist felt that this was true, but.
Speaker 2 (28:03):
He didn't but he likes so he's saying, if someone
disrespected you, I defend you. Yeah, but he like specifically didn't.
Speaker 1 (28:10):
What oh dude, I heard a fire fire line. It
was words that don't back up actions. Is manipulation?
Speaker 2 (28:17):
Well, yeah, he's saying. He's like, oh, yeah, totally. It's
like the thing of like if a guy's like, yeah,
there was a robber, I'd like beat him up, and
then in the actual situation they run away or something.
You know.
Speaker 1 (28:29):
Yeah, except when I started thinking about certain past events
important contexts. My ex and I had an open relationship,
so sleeping with other people was totally fine. He has
a female best friend he had slept with prior to
our relationship, who at the beginning of our relationship the
really nasty things about me.
Speaker 2 (28:46):
Yikes.
Speaker 1 (28:47):
He shut it down initially, then forgot about her being
nasty to me and started making plans to sleep with her. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (28:53):
This guy sting.
Speaker 1 (28:56):
Literally only has enough blood for one head. Yeah that's
what I'm thinking.
Speaker 2 (29:01):
Wait, that was good. Did you come over that?
Speaker 1 (29:03):
That's a big saying that.
Speaker 2 (29:06):
Yeah, you could have said I did, and I would
have believed you.
Speaker 1 (29:10):
I wouldn't lie to you. However, he was surprised when
I was offended once when I was walking our previous dog, Princess.
He starts, Princess, we live in a metal world. She
started being on the ground and a man started yelling
at me because he had placed a cardboard box I
foot away from where she was being I got mad
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and yelled back that he should have put it on
the ground if he didn't want it to get dirty.
Later that night, my ex took Princess out for another walk,
and this same man followed my ex down the block
to complain about me. You need to change where you live.
Speaker 2 (29:46):
Yeah, everyone's complaining about you. Well, maybe you're in the
f I'm like, if all of your neighbors are complaining
about you, you and your dog, and every time anyone
says anything about your dog, you're like, don't talk about
my dog.
Speaker 1 (30:00):
Really weird place. Yeah, or you're the problem.
Speaker 2 (30:02):
You're the problem.
Speaker 1 (30:03):
All my exes did will say okay and walk away.
Speaker 2 (30:06):
Honestly, in that situation, he's probably the best. I understand
the over arching issue here.
Speaker 1 (30:12):
When I ask why he didn't defend me, he said
he didn't want a physical fight to break out. Then
today happened. Our current dog is a foster who is
reactive towards everything. He had a really rough start in
life with his previous owners, who never walked him socialized
him and kept him tied to a grate for most
of his life. As a result, he lunges at all dogs, cats,
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and the occasional stranger human. We can't tell what specifically
triggers him about which strange humans, but we know if
we have him on a relaxed leash and notice someone
behind us or ahead of us, we need to roll
him in and keep him close in case he lunges.
I'm doing so much to train this out of him.
My ex doesn't join me on walks unless it's around
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the block, doesn't like walking our dog for longer than
ten minutes, and never picks up poop.
Speaker 2 (31:00):
Shouldn't be a dog owner.
Speaker 1 (31:01):
Yeah, At the end of the day, so our dog
pooped on grass and we had a brief discussion about
how my ex never picks up poop While my ex
is holding our dog's leash. I go to pick up
the poop and my ex neither doesn't notice the person
walking towards us or forgets the real in the dog.
The dog is on a loose leash and runs towards
the person walking towards us. The person is totally understandably
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scared and then starts feeling filth about how he will
be mean to our dog. I look at the guy
and want to say something, but my brain goes, no,
your ex doesn't like it when you confront people. So
I look at my ex who just stands there and
does nothing as a guy walks very slowly away screaming
about beating up our dog the entire time.
Speaker 2 (31:46):
Oh man, I think he just wants like a guy
who's gotta be like the protector, you know. She wants
a guy's gotta be like in your face, gonna stand
up for uh.
Speaker 1 (31:57):
And I think you got you got.
Speaker 2 (31:58):
Someone who's non confrontational. And I think just going forward.
Now you know what you want and what you're looking for,
and you can be a little bit more particular about
that when you're dating people.
Speaker 1 (32:11):
Agreed, I'm seeing giant teddy bear. Man. Yeah, but he
moves very slowly and he's very protective. That's kind of
the vioulding.
Speaker 2 (32:20):
Yeah, I think that's what you want.
Speaker 1 (32:22):
So after this we got home, I completely lost it.
I had a fight with my ex where I told
him he has a clear pattern of doing nothing when
either I'm disrespected or our family as a unit is threatened.
Every time he has the same excuse that could turn
into a physical confrontation. On top of that, he has
previously kept me from confronting people, and it's affecting my
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ability to stand up for myself and what I care for.
I told him today we could have walked away on
his own given me the dog and told me to
walk away, said sorry, I didn't have a proper hold
on the dog, but now I do, so you're not
in danger or my personal confrontational favorite shut up the
dogs under control f off, and I told him it
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was over.
Speaker 2 (33:07):
I will say, with reactive dogs, you gotta like really
be on it. And I don't think that you can
kind of confront in those situations because you are in
the wrong, Like, yeah, that guy is like awful and
shouldn't be like being all that hatred, but like, yeah,
your dog lunged at him. Yeah, dogs can be dangerous
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and you have to if you have a reactive dog,
you really gotta be on it.
Speaker 1 (33:31):
You know.
Speaker 2 (33:31):
I've seen situations where like a person with a reactive
dog gets really protective of their dog and starts, you know,
kind of fighting back, and it's like, okay, honestly, you
just need to bring the situation down apologize. If they
keep spewing hatred, you walk away. I honestly think that
is the best situation, like best way to go about
it in that situations when.
Speaker 1 (33:52):
You are at faults.
Speaker 2 (33:55):
Yeah, because your dog almost you know, or did lunge
at someone. That's the only thing I will say.
Speaker 1 (34:00):
You should go work on a horse ranch and have
a house with a bunch of land where you can
keep all your dogs. This feels like the best for you. Yeah,
I would love that for you.
Speaker 2 (34:08):
Yeah. I think when you have a react to dog,
you have to be like not reactive person, you know,
like you can't two reactive people. Is not because you
seem like a reactive person, Opie, And I feel like
that is not a good energy match.
Speaker 1 (34:20):
I won't say I'm in the right honestly, don't feel
like it. But I know I feel more helpless with
him than I have in the past on my own.
And that's the end of that one. Like another favorite
saying I'm on being with you is like being with
myself but harder.
Speaker 2 (34:33):
Dang, wow, there we go, there we go.
Speaker 1 (34:36):
Good for you, Opie. I hope, yeah, I hope you
find some peace in your life.
Speaker 2 (34:40):
And some thicker walls but that's the end of that story,
and we've got another one coming. Rind up.
Speaker 1 (34:45):
Hey y'all, it's John og Host here. We're gonna get
back to the story. So but here's a quick three
minute break from as for more sponsors. Okay, so quick, okay,
story Tom. I live in a in a place where
there's like a car garage. So we got this one neighbor.
He's a little a little odd from a few times
seen him, I don't know, I don't get like a
good vibe from him. So I had this like diet doctor,
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like a diet coke bottle, like a near where like
I was parked or whatever it was. It was in
my area. I like it moved off to the side.
But I didn't put that there because I don't drink that, naw,
And my roommate Alex doesn't drink that either, So it's
just like, okay, weird. But yesterday when I was getting
out of my car, I looked in that neighbor he's
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like my car neighbor. I looked in his car and
I saw the exact kind of bottle, like that coke
bottle in his car.
Speaker 2 (35:36):
He's putting it in your area.
Speaker 1 (35:38):
So I guess he must have like left one in
the area and then just let it sit over there
where it was. Alex got it thankfully.
Speaker 2 (35:45):
But yeah, I was like, that's weird.
Speaker 1 (35:47):
Dude, that's your trash.
Speaker 2 (35:49):
And trash is like right there too, Like he could
have thrown it out, like the trash can aren't they
like right there?
Speaker 1 (35:55):
No, no, you have to go upstairs. Yeah, but he
just didn't pick up his trash. So that's strike one,
trick one, my dude. Next time I see it happen,
I'm gonna put it on his car.
Speaker 2 (36:04):
Yeah, put it in his car as you should.
Speaker 1 (36:06):
There you go.
Speaker 2 (36:07):
That's that's on him.
Speaker 1 (36:08):
Yep. I'm gonna do the next one. Ready for us.
Speaker 2 (36:11):
I've had enough of my free loading.
Speaker 1 (36:13):
Friend found to pay up.
Speaker 2 (36:14):
I am a very kind and caring person, and I
take after my dad. He was very charitable and he
liked to help people who were in need. He was
a very rich man. So this friend and I got
along well, and occasionally we would take our children to
parks and county fairs, movies, et cetera.
Speaker 1 (36:30):
Oh that's home, my great grandpa was. Oh, I try
to be like that.
Speaker 2 (36:33):
Yeah, I think you are. Thanks her three kids have
behavioral issues. She lets them get away with anything. She
just sits back and smiles while her kids destroy everything
in other people's homes. By the way, this comes from
Snoo Riffers five seven oh three and if you want
to spend your own stories, go to the yr slash Okay, storytime,
separate it. Her boyfriend, the father of two of her
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three children, is not around much one dime, she insisted
on taking her minivan to a county fair. I would
have preferred to take my own vehicle and just come
home when my kids six and three got tired. So
my friend Angie asked if we can go have season
The gas fair enough, but I gave her fifty dollars
and told her forty dollars for gas and ten dollars
for parking. The next day, she's moved up, came over
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bright and early to pick us up. She said, we
need gas, and we go to the gas station and
she looks at me says we need gas. I said, okay,
forty dollars is going to get you a full tank
of gas. She still kept looking at me and my purse.
I reminded her that I already gave her the money.
She said that's for food and tickets for her kids fifteen, twelve,
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and nine. Oh oh, so wait, I'm sorry, I'm paying.
I'm paying for your kids to go out.
Speaker 1 (37:44):
Interesting that that's new. And I guess she wants to
give you a round so she can start, you know,
hugging you like a piggie bank.
Speaker 2 (37:51):
Yeah, she's thinking, well, my kids really want a truro
and I just thought you would be buying that.
Speaker 1 (37:56):
I would like to know why they picked a pig
for the piggie bank.
Speaker 2 (37:59):
It's a good question.
Speaker 1 (38:00):
I don't know. Some one of the comments helped me how.
Speaker 2 (38:02):
I saw my husband pull up his truck and my
kids wanted to be with Tad. I just told Angie
that I think we'll all just go home and she
and her kids can go by themselves. I was really
pissed by then.
Speaker 1 (38:13):
Just let everyone know. This is evil Angie, not my Angie.
Speaker 2 (38:16):
This is not good Angie.
Speaker 1 (38:17):
I don't know who this woman is, no affiliation.
Speaker 2 (38:19):
To our Angie. And occasionally when a group of us
would have a girl's night out, she would come too,
eat and drink, and then she would reach over and
whisper that she doesn't have any money.
Speaker 1 (38:29):
Girl.
Speaker 2 (38:30):
She goes, I don't have any money.
Speaker 1 (38:33):
Girl.
Speaker 2 (38:34):
I paid a couple of times, but insisted she pay
me back. I waited weeks for the money before we
all went out again as usual. She leans in and
whispers that she doesn't have any cash or a card
to pay.
Speaker 1 (38:48):
Girl.
Speaker 2 (38:49):
I said, I only have forty dollars and that's enough
to pay for my order and my share of the tip.
She turned red and got emotional. My friends chipped in
to pay for a share, and later we decided not
to include her anymore because we can't support freeloaders. Yeah,
you shouldn't be going out if you don't have the
money to go out. End of story. Unless your friends
explicitly say, like you said, your friends, I'm sorry, like
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I can't afford to go out right now, and they say, oh,
like we're gonna pay for you.
Speaker 1 (39:15):
You know, well, I'll say if you had money, I
said what you wanted to eat? Yeah, And that's contextual,
and that's between friends in this scenario. Thanks to the
last till the check shows.
Speaker 2 (39:25):
Up, because she goes, ooh, I've already eaten. I don't
have any money to pay for this, right.
Speaker 1 (39:30):
I think they're looking for a cleaner in the bag.
Speaker 2 (39:32):
I was about to say, this is like that episode
of Victorious where Tory and I think Kat are eating
at the sushi place and they don't have enough money
to pay for the sushi, and so then they have
to be little dish cleaners.
Speaker 1 (39:44):
What do restaurants do in that scenario? I wonder, I
think you get like arrested really where the police are good,
Like I'm gonna get arrested for well, you even get arrested,
but the police can get called there. Yeah, because like
for a mcdouble, you have to pay first for you
get the food.
Speaker 2 (39:58):
Yeah. Mmm. I have always helped her, even after she
moved away. I would give them groceries and anything I
had extra. She even called ones to see if we
had any booze left over from a previous party. She
was going to drive to at least ten liquor stores
to get here for half a bottle of rum. I
don't drink hard booze anyway, and we're just not big drinkers.
I told her I had poured it out and thrown
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the bottle away. Her kids are so badly behaved that
every one of us dreads seeing them. They are entitled
and they have to eat everything and leave it halfway
because they saw something else, waste it and go on.
So I was in the hospital last week for eight days.
Speaker 1 (40:37):
Oh wait, what you can't just skip like that.
Speaker 2 (40:39):
Yeah, we're skipping forward. She's in the hospital now. My
husband went to the grocery store to grab some things
and he ran into Angie with her kids in tow.
He told her that I was at home recovering from
a pretty big surgery and my aunt was here to help.
He'd been home for barely ten minutes when Angie and
her kids showed up.
Speaker 1 (40:57):
Oh heck, are they trying to rob?
Speaker 2 (41:00):
They're like ha ha oh pie'ce benridden. It's finally on
time to strike. Oh no, we didn't think to check
the security cameras before My husband answered the door, and
they all pushed past him, even as he was saying,
I told you she's not up for company. The kids
immediately tried going upstairs, and my aunt didn't let them.
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The reason they were there was because the oldest one's
birthday was the next day. He kept asking me to
give him some cash for his birthday. I want cash
for my birthday. Give me money, And he's like, I
am in bed recovering from surgery now, and he's like,
but mom said, you'd give me money.
Speaker 1 (41:38):
I just wants that's it.
Speaker 2 (41:41):
H I said, Nope, no more birthday gifts or cash.
That I've been nice to everyone and people take advantage
of me, and that I was not up for company
and every time they all have high expectations, I said,
I really needed them to go home. They all left
in a huff, and Angie called one of our friends
in the group to witch about how I've changed and
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was mean and basically a knucklehead to our kids.
Speaker 1 (42:05):
Dude, get a reality check, chump check?
Speaker 2 (42:08):
Oh what?
Speaker 1 (42:08):
Yeah? Okay? Yesterday for everyone knowing, I was on the
live stream, yeah, and the code and I were talking
about how this guy was getting put down by his
girlfriend and he decided to break up. I was like,
sometimes those scenarios you need chump check, where you see
if you're the Trump and the scenario, and I'm gonna
work on building an app, yeah, where you put your name.
Speaker 2 (42:28):
Second app we have in this episode. Wait, what's the
other app is find a Brother?
Speaker 1 (42:33):
Find a brother?
Speaker 2 (42:33):
Yes, yes, right brother.
Speaker 1 (42:34):
We have find the Right Brother. And then we have
this one called chump check, where you put your name
put like your relationship your mom, dad, brother or sister,
you know whatever in this case friend, and then you
give a little context about what's going on, and then
from that we make quiz answers or questions.
Speaker 2 (42:52):
Yeah, it's like the yes or no thing like if
this yes, if this no?
Speaker 1 (42:57):
Yeah, exactly, And then from there you put a referral
for your friend, and then it also gets sent a
link to cross reference.
Speaker 2 (43:04):
Oh, I like it, and there they find out that
they're the chump, and.
Speaker 1 (43:08):
Then we'll see who the chump is.
Speaker 2 (43:10):
It's good stuff.
Speaker 1 (43:11):
I think this is what's needed here. That's what the
world needs.
Speaker 2 (43:14):
Does wanting to rest and recover at home without people
coming over uninvited make me an ale? And also for
not feeding them or giving them sodas and other things
they wanted. And there's some comments, let's get into them,
com and one not the ale. I'm sorry it took
so long, but it's good that you stuck up for yourself.
I would have cut contact with her long ago. I
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tend to be kind and giving, but I'll ghost you
if you don't treat me with the respect. If you're
feeling emboldened, tell her not to expect anything from you
anymore unless it's on your terms and you offer it yourself.
Whether it's conscious or not, I bet it is. She's
using you. If your friends didn't think she was using you,
they would have kept inviting her when you went out.
This lady isn't your friend.
Speaker 1 (43:57):
She's a leech.
Speaker 2 (43:58):
Opie says thank you. Just last year before Christmas, I
saw her at Target for kids toys, and my husband
and I decided to give her eighty dollars for her
to buy her kids something on our behalf, and as
we were leaving, she came up running to ask us
to loan her twenty dollars because she wanted to buy
a Disney movie. We looked at her and I said
I just gave you eighty dollars and that she should
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use that money. She said, I need to buy something
else with that money, but I'll pay you back. Before
I could say anything, my husband said absolutely not, and
that we have gifts to buy for other kids. Reply says,
I have a friend that used to do this type
of thing. The difference was that they were easily one
of my kindest friends. After the first dozen times I
heard I'll pay you back, I told them that I'd
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still be friends, but our friendship would no longer have
any money involved. Smart we're still friends today, okay. Or
I just learned that you couldn't lend them money, which
is hard if they're nice. Yeah, yeah, it's like, oh,
they're so nice, but I can't. I can't give them money.
In your case, though she doesn't sound like she gives back,
it's very much a one way street. There's nothing left
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in this relationship for you. It's nice to care for
your friends, but don't forget to care for yourself too.
Opie says, my problem is I have a bleeding heart,
which I got from my dad. We always help the
less fortunate. I am glad you put a stop to
your friends mooching. I don't think I want to even
be friends with her, mostly because of her needs and
her kids. I was more than kind to them and
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even help them with groceries. Don't tell my husband. It's
a really bad feeling to realize that people use you
and they hate it when you put a stop to
it and get mad. M reply says, give your bleeding
heart to the people who deserve it.
Speaker 1 (45:35):
Not the ale facts. It's hard to see who to
give it to. When the person run in front of
you needs it as well.
Speaker 2 (45:42):
Common two says, not the a hole. Givers have to
set limits because takers never do. This woman is not
your friend. Common three says, not the a hole. Stop
feeling bad. You're a good friend and she's a mooch.
I'm guessing she would have dumped you long ago if
it weren't for you giving her money all the time.
I doubt she will ever be a better friend, So timed,
let the friendship go. Your friend group will probably also
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get sick of her completely. And there is an update, folks,
But any final thoughts before we jump into this update.
Speaker 1 (46:09):
I had to go by the rule of thumb. Yeah,
if I see this person, am I excited? Do I
enjoy the person I am when I get home at
the end of the day after hanging out with them?
Speaker 2 (46:19):
Yeah? I mean, like, what do they offer to you? Yeah?
Because I want to be excited to call all my
friends and hang out with them. And like, obviously there
are you know, shifts and stuff and sometimes seasons. Yeah,
there's seasons. But for the most part, if you're dreading
talking to your friend or seeing them every time.
Speaker 1 (46:38):
Then they shouldn't be your friends.
Speaker 2 (46:40):
They shouldn't be your friend. But there's an update.
Speaker 1 (46:42):
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Speaker 2 (46:47):
Thank you for all the support many of you showed.
I couldn't let the family be homeless, so I called
a friend who works for a homeless shelter that works
with families with underage kids. They're going to go in
the shelter and have room and board, and eventually they
will get two connecting bedrooms as they become available.
Speaker 1 (47:02):
Way are they homeless? Wow? Yeah, that was dang. I
guess dang, I guess you Yeah, I guess.
Speaker 2 (47:09):
So. Yeah, they will get breakfast, lunch, dinner with snacks,
et cetera. They have to be in by a certain
time every night and won't be allowed to come and
go as they please after nine pm. I believe there's
more to this story, but goodness, I mean, I do
want to say, like, she might be a terrible friend,
but I don't want anyone who has kids to be
in this situation. So it's good that you helped her
find a safe place.
Speaker 1 (47:30):
I was about to say, you know, it's not.
Speaker 2 (47:31):
Ideal at all, because they don't have a house, but
they have a roof over their head, which is good
for you know, especially when you have young kids. But
I mean for anyone.
Speaker 1 (47:39):
But hopefully you can sleep good tonight knowing you yeah,
you still care and love them, but you just can't
evolve yourself in the scenario.
Speaker 2 (47:46):
Yeah, but there's a little bit left. The mother will
have to get random tests done to make sure she's
not using They will all be required to follow house
rules and guidelines, and the mother will have to find
a job and save any money she earns. They have
to save now for their first and last month's front
and deposit. The kids will have school buses pick them
up and drop them off. It's a six to twelve
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month program and they will have to be on their
best behavior. That's a really good program.
Speaker 1 (48:12):
This is awesome. It's kind of cool to see how
this probe. These people are interviewing, intervening in these people's
lives and giving them more structure. I feel like sometimes
a lack of structure, it can be difficult. Yeah, and
they're giving them that and it might be a good
role model for kids because they probably didn't have any
structure going up.
Speaker 2 (48:30):
Yeah, And also it's really hard to save money while
you're actively trying to keep yourself off the streets. So
providing them a safe place is going to be really helpful.
There will be help for them with their behavioral issues.
This former friend, Angie has found out it's me who
arranged all this, and she wants to thank me, but
I prefer that she just leaves us alone and takes
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advantage of this opportunity. You didn't want to move in
with her mother because she has rules as well, so
I don't know how they will deal with the rules
at the shelter. I think I have done my share.
Now the ball is in her court. If she doesn't
want her kids taken away. Wow, well I wish that
woman luck because I don't want her to have her
kids taken away. But yeah, it makes sense. Balls court now, Yeah, OK,
you did what you could. You were getting taken advantage of.
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You don't want to burn yourself to keep her warm,
so you did what you did, and you did what
you could. But that's the end of that story and
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Speaker 2 (00:14):
I hooked up with my neighbor and now he's stalking me.
Run girl, I twenty two female, made the mistake of
having spicy sleep with my neighbor. Thirty mail. We all
know the saying, the.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
Boy next door, don't give him the door. No wait, wait,
the boy next door, don't give him the back door.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
You just rhymed door with door.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
It rhymed.
Speaker 2 (00:34):
You could have said, don't be for the boy next.
Speaker 1 (00:36):
Door, don't be for the boy next door.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
The what I was talking about was don't crap or
you eat. We live in the same building and I
came home from a night out about two weeks ago
and met him in the hallway. We got talking and
he invited me back to his place. We had a drink.
One thing led to another, and we had spicy sleep.
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Speaker 1 (01:03):
I'm Sophia, I'm Riley, and OHP says.
Speaker 2 (01:05):
I have to admit the spicy sleep was pretty awkward
and bad. Oh I'm cringing as I write this. But
as we were doing it, he told me he loved me.
We had spoken about twice before this night. Crazy.
Speaker 1 (01:21):
Sometimes it helps sometimes when you know you know.
Speaker 2 (01:24):
So I got my first impression then maybe he was
a bit strange. I was really embarrassed by the whole
thing and decided to just avoid him, thinking he would
get the hint that it was just a wasted one
time thing and I wasn't interested that I kept seeing
him all the time. I think he must have worked
out what time I leave and get back from work,
because I started bumping into him way more than I
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used to.
Speaker 1 (01:46):
I don't know if he'll get the hint that you're
ignoring him. If you guys did that, he got the
hint that now he loves you.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
So I feel like you gotta be like, hey, dude,
it's not I'm not feeling it. Especially when you see
them a lot, you gotta say, hey, dude, I'm not
feeling it. I kept the conversation short and acted uninterested.
Hoping he would back off. He persisted, and then a
few days ago he added me on Facebook, which I ignored.
The next time I saw him, he asked me why
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I hadn't accepted his friend request. So I decided to
be more assertive and said something like the other night
was fun, but I'm really not interested in anything. He
was quite upbeat and replied, Okay, that's cool, but we
can still be friends. So I thought maybe I had
been a bit immature towards him, and now that I've
told him my intentions, we could be friends.
Speaker 1 (02:31):
Yeh, and I love you.
Speaker 2 (02:32):
We could be friends, and I love you so much,
I still think he's being over friendly with me. I'm
sure he's waiting to bump into me because I see
him constantly. He's not shy about asking personal questions about
ex boyfriends and stuff, which I find weird. On Facebook,
he has liked so many of my pictures and messaged
a couple times asking me to hang out. Is his
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behavior weird or am I just being over dramatic? And
there is an update? No, he's being weird.
Speaker 1 (03:00):
Weird, it's been weird.
Speaker 2 (03:01):
I don't know how you prevent like, how you stop
him from being weird because you've already kind of said, hey,
not interested. I think you could be a little bit
more firm and say like, hey, yeah, you know, I'm flattered,
but really don't want anything. I got a lot of friends,
don't even want you to be my friends.
Speaker 1 (03:21):
You know what's been helping me recently. How would Sandra
Bullick respond to this?
Speaker 2 (03:26):
In what movie?
Speaker 1 (03:27):
Any movie?
Speaker 2 (03:28):
Well, and while you were sleeping, she's like kind of shot.
She would probably go along with the relationship. So you
gotta be careful about which movie. I'm thinking Oceans eight
that was gonna be my next How would Sandra Bullick
and Oceans eight respond to this? Yeah, because she's a
bad butt. She's a bad butt.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
That's what I would do exactly. There you go.
Speaker 2 (03:48):
That's your advice. Watch Ocean's eight. Oh or you no
Ocean's eleven, Oceans eight, ocean z Yeah, watch Oceans eight.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
And if you're in a scenario, what do I do?
Speaker 2 (03:56):
What would WWSB.
Speaker 1 (03:59):
Wait ww sp I eight?
Speaker 2 (04:04):
Yeah, there we go, solved it. Update. Thanks for the advice.
I've learned. My lesson about having spicy sleep with someone
I don't really know and can't avoid it happens the
first thing I did was delete and block him from Facebook,
but I still had to deal with him in person.
I coincidentally ran into him on Monday. He asked, have
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you deleted your Facebook or something? Because I can't find
you anymore. Actually, he's probably like Pwinces.
Speaker 1 (04:35):
I've seen that guy. I like claps his feet together. No, yeah,
that's concerning. Oh yeah yeah, and he goes ten in
the It's really cringe.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
I told him he's a nice guy, but I feel
like I'm leading him on by hanging out together since
I'm really not interested. He replied that really does just
want to be friends, and that it would be more
awkward now if we're not. It's like a threat. I said,
I don't want to give you the wrong impression, so
I think it's best for now if we're not, and
quickly left. I felt bad saying it, but he was
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overwhelming me. I haven't seen him since then, but last
night I got a rambling long letter through my door.
Speaker 1 (05:11):
Oh dear Opie.
Speaker 2 (05:13):
No no no, no, no no no. You didn't give
me much chance to speak the other night, and there's
more I wanted to say. Though. This might actually be
an easier way for me to explain my thoughts and feelings.
I know we had only talked a few times before
our trist right or what trist.
Speaker 1 (05:36):
Bro that's old English, but I felt like there.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
Was an obvious connection between us. I'm sure you must
have felt it too, or I didn't think you would
have come home with me that night. I'm not the
type of guy who sleeps with girls. I don't really know,
but I was extremely attracted to you, and when it
appeared you reciprocated my feelings, I wouldn't help myself. When
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you told me you weren't interested in anything romantic, I understood,
even if it was not what I wanted to hear.
I don't know anything about your personal life, part of
the reason why I'm not usually interested in one night's stance,
and so of course I realized why you might not
be interested in me. However, I think it's strange you
don't at least want to be friends. We shared a
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very intimate moment with each other, and you can't pretend
it never happened. It therefore seems only logical that we
become friends. It only makes it more awkward if we aren't.
I just want to say, if you feel embarrassed or
worry that I think of you as sluty. Don't be
I don't judge you. That would be a terrible double standard.
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Don't be careful because some men see your behavior as sluty,
especially if you refuse to talk to them after It
seems like he's one of those men.
Speaker 1 (06:55):
Oh interesting, he's like some men, not me, Tom, I
would never think this, but some guys. Mind.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
Some guys would think this, just like when a guy
doesn't call a girl after they sleep together, he's seen
as an a hole. Really, the point of me saying
all this is just to repeat that I understand you're
not interested in a relationship with me, and I respect that. However,
I'm just gonna say it.
Speaker 1 (07:15):
I really like you back there.
Speaker 2 (07:18):
You're a fun, smart and beautiful girl, and I would
love to get to know you more. I don't think
you can deny that we got along very well before
that night, and I don't think what happens should change anything.
Don't think you're leading me on. I'm a grown guy
and I know that no means no and can handle
just being friends with you. This is so long, but
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I respect what you said to me, even if it
hurt a little and we'll keep my distance from you
for now. If you change your mind, and if you
ever want to talk to me or if you need anything,
you know where I live, and I will always welcome you.
That's what neighbors are for, right that evil evil? I'm scared.
Speaker 1 (07:58):
Okay, okay, okay, as long. Yeah, this guy keeps his word.
Not a bad letter? What not a bad calls sluty?
Speaker 2 (08:06):
He said, I'm not calling you sluty, but most people
would call you sluty he did.
Speaker 1 (08:12):
But not a bad letter in the regards if he
got everything off his chick.
Speaker 2 (08:14):
That's true.
Speaker 1 (08:15):
Hopefully that's an ended here. M I agree, only if
he keeps his word. This is a great letter. I
would if there was someone like this in my life. Yeah,
I made a mistake and I did this, and they
gave me a letter like this. I would be so
happy knowing, Okay, it's over with you, it's over.
Speaker 2 (08:29):
They're done. He's not gonna talk to me anymore, he
said he wouldn't.
Speaker 1 (08:33):
Also if we went to a literature major. Yeah, I
guess you what what century was this letter written?
Speaker 2 (08:40):
Just because the tryst you just really like the trust
I think I think this is this is just very
we I think we nailed it. This is the Fedora
nice guy. I think that's absolutely the energy that this
man is giving.
Speaker 1 (08:53):
I thought it would be eighteen fifty sure something around
that time.
Speaker 2 (08:58):
Eighteen fifty something.
Speaker 1 (08:59):
Yeah, that knows what redd it is.
Speaker 2 (09:01):
I feel bad because he obviously likes me and has
put a lot of emotional value on what happened. But
I can't deal with someone this intense. I've been through
a similar scenario where I've had to let down a
man and then he sent me a really weird text.
Speaker 1 (09:17):
Oh yeah, it was so weird.
Speaker 2 (09:20):
It was really strange. So don't feel bad. Ope, you
let him down as nicely as you could.
Speaker 1 (09:26):
There reports that letter I thought were nice.
Speaker 2 (09:29):
Yeah, most of its most of it weird. His letter
confirmed that he is odd. So I'm glad I was
upfront with him. Yes, and there is a second update
to it. It never ends. It never ends. Ob he's
gonna have to move. Oh gosh, update too. He went
about a week without contacting me.
Speaker 1 (09:49):
Wow, a whole week.
Speaker 2 (09:50):
That's a new record. But yesterday I was getting stuff
out of my car and heard his voice say, Hey,
do you need a hand? I politely said hey, no, Oh,
I'm fine.
Speaker 1 (10:01):
Thanks, step back, step back, She's.
Speaker 2 (10:03):
Got like bear spray sh He got offended and started
getting mad at me. He said something like, what's your problem.
I'm only trying to help you. All I've ever done
is be nice to you, but you still act like
a witch. That was so nice of you to say that.
Was really nice of you to call it be a witch.
Speaker 1 (10:19):
So nice man.
Speaker 2 (10:20):
He stormed off before I could respond. I was shocked
and embarrassed because people around probably heard everything. Good. This morning,
I woke up to another letter, Dear o Pe, I
want to apologize for shouting at you earlier. I let
my anger get the best of me, and I'm sorry
about that. But I can't help but get frustrated at
your behavior. I get that you're not interested in me
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and that you don't want to be my friend, even
if I do find it strange. However, when someone's trying
to help you, it's good manners to accept it for
at the very least be grateful. Again. I'm sorry, and
I realized I need to think about the way I acted,
and we'll try not to do it again. By the way,
this is how adults deal with awkward situations. They don't
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pretend they never happen. I hope you accept my apology
in the little bit of advice I gave you.
Speaker 1 (11:11):
Okay, number one, have you ever seen Seinfeld?
Speaker 2 (11:13):
They avoid all of their problems.
Speaker 1 (11:15):
Yeah, and those are adults. Yeah, that's how people kind
of respond, even though it's Stevie, it's how we think.
Speaker 2 (11:21):
And I think you're you're definitely not acting like an
adult in this situation, Sir.
Speaker 1 (11:26):
I think the only way to respond is with the
little voodoo doll that kind of looks.
Speaker 2 (11:30):
Like him, and it's got a bunch of needles in it.
Speaker 1 (11:33):
It's got all the needles in its head. Yeah, and
you give it to them.
Speaker 2 (11:36):
Yeah, and you say.
Speaker 1 (11:37):
I love you? Do you wait? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (11:39):
Maybe do you do? You kind of reverse psychology him
matches freak here and and go really hard. I would worry,
I would worry something would.
Speaker 1 (11:47):
Get Sometimes when you match someone's freak.
Speaker 2 (11:49):
Like this, Yeah, they're too freaky.
Speaker 1 (11:51):
Yeah, they show you another level.
Speaker 2 (11:53):
This letter is worse because he's not even trying to
hide the insults and is being totally patronizing. He seems
to have gotten over his love for me, but now
has some grudge. If he really thinks all this about me?
Why does he even want to be friends? And there
is a third update. It doesn't stop. He wants to
be friends because he wants control over the situation. And
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he feels upset that you've rejected him because he thinks
highly of himself and you're kind of showing him that
he's not that great, and he doesn't know how to
deal with that.
Speaker 1 (12:26):
Like to know where the line is until we can
get a restraining order?
Speaker 2 (12:29):
Yeah, I mean, once he starts harassing her, which he is,
but like, I guess.
Speaker 1 (12:34):
How many more letters do we need?
Speaker 2 (12:35):
We'll save all the letters.
Speaker 1 (12:37):
Definitely, can we frame them? We start all our strong
guy friends around kind of have a situation, Yeah, frame
them and then boom, oh you know what you do? Maybe?
Speaker 2 (12:47):
I mean, like I don't know if this would necessarily work,
but like you could get a guy friend and pretend
that the guy friend is like someone you're dating or
a boyfriend or something, and then have him because unfortunately,
sometimes guys only less and guys, So maybe that would work.
But there is a third update. I called my brother
and told him about the situation. He was adamant I
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shouldn't contact him and should call the cops if he continues,
So I decided not to communicate with my neighbor, probably
the best. I regret telling my brother because he didn't
help the situation. Oh No, I had stayed at my
friend's house Friday night and came back Saturday morning in
the same clothes. He was in the hallway when I
got back. I'm sure he had been waiting for me,
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and said, I don't appreciate getting threatening messages from your brother.
I found out that my brother had sent him a
message telling him to leave me alone. He started saying
stuff like why can't you tell me this yourself? Why
can't you at least stalk to me. He got angry,
repeating what he had said in the letters, and for
the first time actually scared me. Then he called me
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a salute to my face and I said, if this,
I'm not listening to you anymore, leave me alone, and
went straight to my apartment. I think now that it's
you know, we're getting more and more verbal abuse, especially
after the parking lot thing and now here. I feel
like you could get you know, the car at least
put like in request to the police or something.
Speaker 1 (14:12):
Yeah, just so.
Speaker 2 (14:13):
You have a paper trail or request for restraining order
or something like that.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
Also, if you were putting this scenario and some dude
who's making you feel this way, I'm not gonna message him. No,
I'm probably gonna show up.
Speaker 2 (14:27):
You show up you.
Speaker 1 (14:28):
Oh yeah, I'm not going to store. Hey are you
this guy?
Speaker 2 (14:31):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (14:31):
Okay, great? Yeah. If you ever say nother word to
this woman over here, things in the future will happen.
Speaker 2 (14:37):
Yeah. Did you just like leave a letter like did
the brother just leave a letter that does nothing?
Speaker 1 (14:42):
It does nothing show force. Ah, that makes me so mad.
Speaker 2 (14:47):
I found out my brother had messaged him. You need
to leave my sister alone. You're creeping her out. If
you don't, there will be consequences.
Speaker 1 (14:54):
Okay, we'll say that in person.
Speaker 2 (14:55):
Yeah, go to him and say there will be God
get a gang of guys, yeah, even though, Yeah, who's
your entourage?
Speaker 1 (15:03):
When I'm thinking, Seraf and I don't really have a
lot of scary looking friends.
Speaker 2 (15:11):
You're so sweet looking.
Speaker 1 (15:12):
Yeah, they're actually delightful. Maybe Christian, he's tall.
Speaker 2 (15:16):
Even though I was worried this might have provoked him,
I decided to call the police. Smart. The next morning,
I woke up to another letter drop I'm sorry for
some of the things I said to you yesterday I
didn't mean them, but the heat of the moment got
to me. I did feel threatened by what your brother
said to me. All I've tried to do is talk
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to the person I live next door to after I
had spicy sleep with them. You've made it pretty clear
you're not interested in me, and I've accepted that have you. However,
I've explained to you multiple times that I find it's
strange you don't want to talk, so I think you
should be more understanding to my feelings instead of just
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labeling me a creep. I think we need to talk
like adults in person because I feel so frustrated that
you don't understand what I've tried to say to you
in my letters, and the only way to do it
now is face to face. I won't let my anger
get the better of me like it has previously, and
surely you must see this is a better idea than
getting your brother to send me messages. There was no
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way I was going to talk to him in person again,
as the last two times we spoke he just got
angry with me and called me a salute and a witch.
I wanted the whole situation over now. So I called
the police. It was the non emergency line, and they
were actually very helpful, and they asked me to go
to the station and I had to show all the
stuff he sent me, the letters and Facebook messages. They
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filed a report and originally they offered to call him,
but when I told them I didn't have his number,
they said they would go and talk to him.
Speaker 1 (16:51):
Let me go.
Speaker 2 (16:52):
Okay, finally, if your brother can't go in person, then
the police will. But there is a little bit left
to this story. Do you have any final thoughts?
Speaker 1 (17:02):
Glad? I'm glad this you know the police will probably
put it into it, hope, I hope.
Speaker 2 (17:07):
I hope so.
Speaker 1 (17:09):
And I know for facts there are a lot of
you that have been through similar situations like this, which
I would have said, I'm sorry, I'm so sorry you
went through that, and no one should ever go through this.
Speaker 2 (17:19):
It's not fun, not fun, not fun.
Speaker 1 (17:22):
We're making an app called call your brother, called the
Right Brother.
Speaker 2 (17:26):
There we go, oh that called the right brother.
Speaker 1 (17:28):
Call the Right Brother, and then they will put it
into all this stuff.
Speaker 2 (17:30):
You get you get a nice a nice person to
come come show up and yell at another guy for you.
Speaker 1 (17:38):
Mm, yeah, you have.
Speaker 2 (17:39):
Some, you have people who have been vetted by other women.
Go and uh, pully a creepy guy for you.
Speaker 1 (17:47):
There we go and it comes in waves. On one
it's an it's like a little story. One, it's a
nice guy. Yeah, could you stop one it's like a
ruffer guy. And then it's a final boss.
Speaker 2 (17:56):
Yeah, and it's like five guys squirtle squad, squirrel and
they blast him with like water, it's like a fire rose.
Speaker 1 (18:07):
Yeah, that's our services, Squirtle Squad.
Speaker 2 (18:12):
I just want to make this clear for those He
responded to me before, saying going to the cops was
too far. No, it's not. This isn't a restraining order.
He hasn't been charged or anything. All I've done is
file a police report and we have both agreed to
not contact each other, and if either one of us
contacts each other, then it will go further. I was
sort of expecting for him to send another letter after this,
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but he hasn't. I know, it's only been a couple
of days, but I do feel better about the situation. Now.
I'm going to stay here for now. I might talk
to my landlord, but I don't think he'd let me
break my lease if I feel like I don't want
to stay, I think my brother would help me out
with money. Do you feel bad about what happened? And
of course I should never have had spicy sleet with him.
I don't think that's the takeaway. I think that he
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should have been respectful after you did.
Speaker 1 (18:57):
I'm also on the side you should meet someone's mother
before you have spicy sleep with them. At least know
what their parents are. So I'm gonna agree with you
on that one. Op, you should maybe feel that's a
tough one.
Speaker 2 (19:08):
There's like ninety percent of people I feel like, don't
do that.
Speaker 1 (19:12):
Well, I'm different, So I'm a woman's doctor. I gotta know, like,
I gotta see like the woman that made my woman,
and I gotta make sure like, okay, I gotta I understand. Oh.
Speaker 2 (19:26):
The number one lesson I have learned is don't sleep
with your neighbor. But if anyone reading this finds themselves
in a similar situation, I guess my advice is trust
your instinct and go talk to the cops because they
can be helpful and it doesn't mean they're going to
start arresting people anyway. Thanks for all the advice, it
was appreciated.
Speaker 1 (19:44):
My neighbor is ruining my spicy life move. This is
so incredibly ridiculous, but here it is. My boyfriend and
I have spicy sleep. Whether it's at six am or
four pm, our next door neighbors starts pounding on the
bedroom wall, then starts pounding on our apartment front door.
This has been going on for six months.
Speaker 2 (20:04):
It's not because they're angry, it's because they're jealous trying
to join.
Speaker 1 (20:08):
They trying to join by always come from psych CALLI
and if you want some of your own stories, go
to the r slash Okay story times subreddit. We're not loud.
Neither of us barely makes any noise when we have
spicy sleep. But then how does he know? After the
first time this occurred, my boyfriend went as far as
to replace his bed frame, put up soundproofing between the
bed and the wall, and usually pulls the bed away
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from the wall before we start.
Speaker 2 (20:33):
Say much else you can do?
Speaker 1 (20:36):
Yeah, you gotta put on a movie. Yeah, pull the
bed away from the wall and then make sure no
one's home. That's usually yeah.
Speaker 2 (20:42):
My parents when they first moved into like when they
first moved into their first apartment in La their neighbor
they had very thin walls. Their neighbors non stop with
to have spicy sleep together, and my parents were like
it was terrible, like it was crazy.
Speaker 1 (21:00):
Good for them, Man, can't go crazy when our neighbor
pounds on the wall. We can't really continue having spicy sleep.
It breaks our concentration to spoils the mood completely. This
last occurrence was particularly bad. My boyfriend and if at
frisky at six am. The neighbors started pounding on our wall,
then started pounding on our door, and our dogs started barking.
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Then he started screaming at someone in the hallway that
we have so much spicy sleep we must not have jobs.
Not even true, since our spicy sleep life has significantly
dropped because of this.
Speaker 2 (21:34):
Do you guys just have really thin walls? Maybe you
gotta play like really loud music.
Speaker 1 (21:39):
I really love where I live now it's it's forest.
Speaker 2 (21:42):
Or you need to go talk to him and say
when are you gone?
Speaker 1 (21:47):
Can we have a schedule? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (21:49):
Please? When are we allowed to sleep together?
Speaker 1 (21:51):
We try maybe once a couple of weeks now, and
even then it causes us anxiety that he could start
banging on the wall at any minute. My boyfriend doesn't
want me confronting him and just wants us to ignore him.
This is a two way street. He could ignore you, guys,
but he's not. So I think I feel like we're
giving the bully the satisfaction of winning, because, let's face it,
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he's winning.
Speaker 2 (22:14):
I think you guys gotta go him. I think you
guys gotta you gotta go full force. You gotta start
getting louder. Yeah, you're gonna start banging back.
Speaker 1 (22:25):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (22:28):
I think that's the only way.
Speaker 1 (22:30):
He's destroying our spicy sleep life and causing friction between
me and my boyfriend. We have a foster dog that's
scared of men, so this morning I was getting him
ready to go outside. I opened the door and the
neighbor is standing in the hallway. I immediately slam the
door closed, and my dog starts barking because he saw
the guy. A neighbor stands in the hallway screaming that
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my dog needs to be put down. My goodness, I
waited for him to leave and then went out, only
for him to be standing outside of the building screaming
at me that my dog needs to put down. So
I lost it and curse to him, telling him to
shut up about my dog. First time this happened, he
tried to complain about us having spicy sleep at four
in the afternoon because it was upsetting his baby.
Speaker 2 (23:11):
I think you pounding on the walls is upsetting your baby.
And also quiet hours are like probably eight to ten pm,
so you don't have literally any leg to stand on. Dude.
Speaker 1 (23:23):
I told him it wasn't a problem and closed the
door on him. And my boyfriend left the apartment and
stood at the bottom of the building stairs listening to
the guy tell him that he was polite to me,
but I was rude to him. Sure, he's trying to
tell me what to do in my own home. After
interrupting our spicy sleep life. My boyfriend got mad at
me for losing my temper, which I totally did. I
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think you should back up your girlfriend. When it comes
to the guy, you'll probably be like, I didn't really
appreciate the way you handled it. But at this point, man,
there's a reason your girlfriend's so mad. Yeah, because she
hasn't had the big oh in a while.
Speaker 2 (23:58):
Oh okay, well, I was gonna say I think that
he could caught like the boyfriend could go to his
girlfriend and say like, hey, like, you know, let's handle
this a little differently, But when you're talking to the guy,
it's got to be like, don't talk to my girlfriend
like that, you know.
Speaker 1 (24:12):
Yep, squirtles sky in front Squirtle squad. Yes, every time since,
I haven't done a dang thing, and apparently neither has
my boyfriend. He hasn't even talked to the landlord after
I asked him to, so I called the landlord myself.
The landlord's response is he doesn't want to get involved,
but I can call the police if the neighbor pounds
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on my door again. What are my options? The police
have been called on this guy multiple times in this
building for multiple reasons. Ironically, he would have screaming matches
with his girlfriend so bad that other people in the
building would call the cops. Ye still cause this crap.
So I don't see how that's going to help. Plus
it takes hours for the police to show up. My
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boyfriend doesn't want me confronting the neighbor. My boyfriend won't
confront the neighbor. My landlord isn't any Meanwhile, that dude
is causing so much damage and talking crap about my dog,
which makes me red. I don't know how he knows
we're having spicy sleep. My boyfriend doesn't make any sounds
louder than a gasp. I cover my mouth when I okay,
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make sounds. You don't need to tell us all this.
We have very specific, same routine every time. That doesn't
last long. The frame was replaced after the first neighbor
freaked out. There's soundproofing foam between the bed and the wall,
and my boyfriend usually moves the bed away from the
wall before we start.
Speaker 2 (25:33):
Okay, well, clearly none of that is working if he
knows every time.
Speaker 1 (25:37):
Yeah, she talks a little bit more about what they do.
So my boyfriend has nixed the idea of having super
loud spicy sleep. Ah, come on, playing loud music, playing corn,
or various other lat means of antagonizing the neighbor. Since
this is a shared space, I'm not going to do
stuff behind his back while he's at work. We have
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an update, lame.
Speaker 2 (26:01):
The boyfriend doesn't want to do anything.
Speaker 1 (26:03):
Yeah, he just wants to.
Speaker 2 (26:05):
Let his girlfriend get yelled at, which is so much
scarier for her.
Speaker 1 (26:09):
That is pretty scary. Uh. He dumped the boyfriend.
Speaker 2 (26:12):
Yeah, i'd dump him and move.
Speaker 1 (26:14):
Dang.
Speaker 2 (26:15):
I wouldn't done him move, but I would move.
Speaker 1 (26:17):
Uh. Yeah, I would definitely be looking for other places.
Speaker 2 (26:20):
Yeah, like, if this is going to keep going, go
find somewhere the thicker walls and.
Speaker 1 (26:25):
It is weird the guy knows every time you're doing it.
Speaker 2 (26:27):
Yeah, well, I just I'm just assuming that nothing they're
doing is actually working. Okay, if he knows every time,
like you know, probably not that soundproof.
Speaker 1 (26:37):
We have an update. I don't know what's going on
with the neighbor. My dog is barked at him when
a dog walker has taken him out immediately brought them
both back inside until my neighbor went into his apartment,
and my neighbor didn't say a word. I have no
idea of seeing someone he didn't recognize was the difference
if he didn't feel like it or if the landlord
had another talk with him. I thirty female ended it
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with my my boyfriend thirty mail.
Speaker 2 (27:01):
Yeah, okay, I honestly support that. He wasn't doing anything
to support you.
Speaker 1 (27:07):
I was gonna I thought it was a little extreme,
but I was leaning that way too.
Speaker 2 (27:10):
I was leaning towards it. I only didn't want to
say it because I thought that was too extreme because
you were like, oh really, but now I fully support
you breaking up with your boyfriend.
Speaker 1 (27:19):
I only said really in the context if we don't
we haven't seen how this guy is. He might be
a nice guy.
Speaker 2 (27:24):
I don't know anything else except for how he's handling
this situation.
Speaker 1 (27:27):
But act.
Speaker 2 (27:29):
But Opie also said that it was causing other problems
in the relationship, so it's probably kind of an amalgamation.
Speaker 1 (27:35):
After I made the previous post, my ex and I
had a long conversation with their couple's therapists, where their
therapist took my ex aside and said we shouldn't do
anything confrontational regard to the neighbor. She told me she
appreciated that I'm a firecracker, but felt that it could
get me or my ex hurt. But something that came
up in the sessions is my ex swearing up and
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down if someone was disrespectful to me, he would in me.
Our therapist felt that this was true, but.
Speaker 2 (28:03):
He didn't but he likes so he's saying, if someone
disrespected you, I defend you. Yeah, but he like specifically didn't.
Speaker 1 (28:10):
What oh dude, I heard a fire fire line. It
was words that don't back up actions. Is manipulation?
Speaker 2 (28:17):
Well, yeah, he's saying. He's like, oh, yeah, totally. It's
like the thing of like if a guy's like, yeah,
there was a robber, I'd like beat him up, and
then in the actual situation they run away or something.
You know.
Speaker 1 (28:29):
Yeah, except when I started thinking about certain past events
important contexts. My ex and I had an open relationship,
so sleeping with other people was totally fine. He has
a female best friend he had slept with prior to
our relationship, who at the beginning of our relationship the
really nasty things about me.
Speaker 2 (28:46):
Yikes.
Speaker 1 (28:47):
He shut it down initially, then forgot about her being
nasty to me and started making plans to sleep with her. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (28:53):
This guy sting.
Speaker 1 (28:56):
Literally only has enough blood for one head. Yeah that's
what I'm thinking.
Speaker 2 (29:01):
Wait, that was good. Did you come over that?
Speaker 1 (29:03):
That's a big saying that.
Speaker 2 (29:06):
Yeah, you could have said I did, and I would
have believed you.
Speaker 1 (29:10):
I wouldn't lie to you. However, he was surprised when
I was offended once when I was walking our previous dog, Princess.
He starts, Princess, we live in a metal world. She
started being on the ground and a man started yelling
at me because he had placed a cardboard box I
foot away from where she was being I got mad
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and yelled back that he should have put it on
the ground if he didn't want it to get dirty.
Later that night, my ex took Princess out for another walk,
and this same man followed my ex down the block
to complain about me. You need to change where you live.
Speaker 2 (29:46):
Yeah, everyone's complaining about you. Well, maybe you're in the
f I'm like, if all of your neighbors are complaining
about you, you and your dog, and every time anyone
says anything about your dog, you're like, don't talk about
my dog.
Speaker 1 (30:00):
Really weird place. Yeah, or you're the problem.
Speaker 2 (30:02):
You're the problem.
Speaker 1 (30:03):
All my exes did will say okay and walk away.
Speaker 2 (30:06):
Honestly, in that situation, he's probably the best. I understand
the over arching issue here.
Speaker 1 (30:12):
When I ask why he didn't defend me, he said
he didn't want a physical fight to break out. Then
today happened. Our current dog is a foster who is
reactive towards everything. He had a really rough start in
life with his previous owners, who never walked him socialized
him and kept him tied to a grate for most
of his life. As a result, he lunges at all dogs, cats,
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and the occasional stranger human. We can't tell what specifically
triggers him about which strange humans, but we know if
we have him on a relaxed leash and notice someone
behind us or ahead of us, we need to roll
him in and keep him close in case he lunges.
I'm doing so much to train this out of him.
My ex doesn't join me on walks unless it's around
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the block, doesn't like walking our dog for longer than
ten minutes, and never picks up poop.
Speaker 2 (31:00):
Shouldn't be a dog owner.
Speaker 1 (31:01):
Yeah, At the end of the day, so our dog
pooped on grass and we had a brief discussion about
how my ex never picks up poop While my ex
is holding our dog's leash. I go to pick up
the poop and my ex neither doesn't notice the person
walking towards us or forgets the real in the dog.
The dog is on a loose leash and runs towards
the person walking towards us. The person is totally understandably
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scared and then starts feeling filth about how he will
be mean to our dog. I look at the guy
and want to say something, but my brain goes, no,
your ex doesn't like it when you confront people. So
I look at my ex who just stands there and
does nothing as a guy walks very slowly away screaming
about beating up our dog the entire time.
Speaker 2 (31:46):
Oh man, I think he just wants like a guy
who's gotta be like the protector, you know. She wants
a guy's gotta be like in your face, gonna stand
up for uh.
Speaker 1 (31:57):
And I think you got you got.
Speaker 2 (31:58):
Someone who's non confrontational. And I think just going forward.
Now you know what you want and what you're looking for,
and you can be a little bit more particular about
that when you're dating people.
Speaker 1 (32:11):
Agreed, I'm seeing giant teddy bear. Man. Yeah, but he
moves very slowly and he's very protective. That's kind of
the vioulding.
Speaker 2 (32:20):
Yeah, I think that's what you want.
Speaker 1 (32:22):
So after this we got home, I completely lost it.
I had a fight with my ex where I told
him he has a clear pattern of doing nothing when
either I'm disrespected or our family as a unit is threatened.
Every time he has the same excuse that could turn
into a physical confrontation. On top of that, he has
previously kept me from confronting people, and it's affecting my
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ability to stand up for myself and what I care for.
I told him today we could have walked away on
his own given me the dog and told me to
walk away, said sorry, I didn't have a proper hold
on the dog, but now I do, so you're not
in danger or my personal confrontational favorite shut up the
dogs under control f off, and I told him it
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was over.
Speaker 2 (33:07):
I will say, with reactive dogs, you gotta like really
be on it. And I don't think that you can
kind of confront in those situations because you are in
the wrong, Like, yeah, that guy is like awful and
shouldn't be like being all that hatred, but like, yeah,
your dog lunged at him. Yeah, dogs can be dangerous
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and you have to if you have a reactive dog,
you really gotta be on it.
Speaker 1 (33:31):
You know.
Speaker 2 (33:31):
I've seen situations where like a person with a reactive
dog gets really protective of their dog and starts, you know,
kind of fighting back, and it's like, okay, honestly, you
just need to bring the situation down apologize. If they
keep spewing hatred, you walk away. I honestly think that
is the best situation, like best way to go about
it in that situations when.
Speaker 1 (33:52):
You are at faults.
Speaker 2 (33:55):
Yeah, because your dog almost you know, or did lunge
at someone. That's the only thing I will say.
Speaker 1 (34:00):
You should go work on a horse ranch and have
a house with a bunch of land where you can
keep all your dogs. This feels like the best for you. Yeah,
I would love that for you.
Speaker 2 (34:08):
Yeah. I think when you have a react to dog,
you have to be like not reactive person, you know,
like you can't two reactive people. Is not because you
seem like a reactive person, Opie, And I feel like
that is not a good energy match.
Speaker 1 (34:20):
I won't say I'm in the right honestly, don't feel
like it. But I know I feel more helpless with
him than I have in the past on my own.
And that's the end of that one. Like another favorite
saying I'm on being with you is like being with
myself but harder.
Speaker 2 (34:33):
Dang, wow, there we go, there we go.
Speaker 1 (34:36):
Good for you, Opie. I hope, yeah, I hope you
find some peace in your life.
Speaker 2 (34:40):
And some thicker walls but that's the end of that story,
and we've got another one coming. Rind up.
Speaker 1 (34:45):
Hey y'all, it's John og Host here. We're gonna get
back to the story. So but here's a quick three
minute break from as for more sponsors. Okay, so quick, okay,
story Tom. I live in a in a place where
there's like a car garage. So we got this one neighbor.
He's a little a little odd from a few times
seen him, I don't know, I don't get like a
good vibe from him. So I had this like diet doctor,
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like a diet coke bottle, like a near where like
I was parked or whatever it was. It was in
my area. I like it moved off to the side.
But I didn't put that there because I don't drink that, naw,
And my roommate Alex doesn't drink that either, So it's
just like, okay, weird. But yesterday when I was getting
out of my car, I looked in that neighbor he's
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like my car neighbor. I looked in his car and
I saw the exact kind of bottle, like that coke
bottle in his car.
Speaker 2 (35:36):
He's putting it in your area.
Speaker 1 (35:38):
So I guess he must have like left one in
the area and then just let it sit over there
where it was. Alex got it thankfully.
Speaker 2 (35:45):
But yeah, I was like, that's weird.
Speaker 1 (35:47):
Dude, that's your trash.
Speaker 2 (35:49):
And trash is like right there too, Like he could
have thrown it out, like the trash can aren't they
like right there?
Speaker 1 (35:55):
No, no, you have to go upstairs. Yeah, but he
just didn't pick up his trash. So that's strike one,
trick one, my dude. Next time I see it happen,
I'm gonna put it on his car.
Speaker 2 (36:04):
Yeah, put it in his car as you should.
Speaker 1 (36:06):
There you go.
Speaker 2 (36:07):
That's that's on him.
Speaker 1 (36:08):
Yep. I'm gonna do the next one. Ready for us.
Speaker 2 (36:11):
I've had enough of my free loading.
Speaker 1 (36:13):
Friend found to pay up.
Speaker 2 (36:14):
I am a very kind and caring person, and I
take after my dad. He was very charitable and he
liked to help people who were in need. He was
a very rich man. So this friend and I got
along well, and occasionally we would take our children to
parks and county fairs, movies, et cetera.
Speaker 1 (36:30):
Oh that's home, my great grandpa was. Oh, I try
to be like that.
Speaker 2 (36:33):
Yeah, I think you are. Thanks her three kids have
behavioral issues. She lets them get away with anything. She
just sits back and smiles while her kids destroy everything
in other people's homes. By the way, this comes from
Snoo Riffers five seven oh three and if you want
to spend your own stories, go to the yr slash Okay, storytime,
separate it. Her boyfriend, the father of two of her
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three children, is not around much one dime, she insisted
on taking her minivan to a county fair. I would
have preferred to take my own vehicle and just come
home when my kids six and three got tired. So
my friend Angie asked if we can go have season
The gas fair enough, but I gave her fifty dollars
and told her forty dollars for gas and ten dollars
for parking. The next day, she's moved up, came over
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bright and early to pick us up. She said, we
need gas, and we go to the gas station and
she looks at me says we need gas. I said, okay,
forty dollars is going to get you a full tank
of gas. She still kept looking at me and my purse.
I reminded her that I already gave her the money.
She said that's for food and tickets for her kids fifteen, twelve,
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and nine. Oh oh, so wait, I'm sorry, I'm paying.
I'm paying for your kids to go out.
Speaker 1 (37:44):
Interesting that that's new. And I guess she wants to
give you a round so she can start, you know,
hugging you like a piggie bank.
Speaker 2 (37:51):
Yeah, she's thinking, well, my kids really want a truro
and I just thought you would be buying that.
Speaker 1 (37:56):
I would like to know why they picked a pig
for the piggie bank.
Speaker 2 (37:59):
It's a good question.
Speaker 1 (38:00):
I don't know. Some one of the comments helped me how.
Speaker 2 (38:02):
I saw my husband pull up his truck and my
kids wanted to be with Tad. I just told Angie
that I think we'll all just go home and she
and her kids can go by themselves. I was really
pissed by then.
Speaker 1 (38:13):
Just let everyone know. This is evil Angie, not my Angie.
Speaker 2 (38:16):
This is not good Angie.
Speaker 1 (38:17):
I don't know who this woman is, no affiliation.
Speaker 2 (38:19):
To our Angie. And occasionally when a group of us
would have a girl's night out, she would come too,
eat and drink, and then she would reach over and
whisper that she doesn't have any money.
Speaker 1 (38:29):
Girl.
Speaker 2 (38:30):
She goes, I don't have any money.
Speaker 1 (38:33):
Girl.
Speaker 2 (38:34):
I paid a couple of times, but insisted she pay
me back. I waited weeks for the money before we
all went out again as usual. She leans in and
whispers that she doesn't have any cash or a card
to pay.
Speaker 1 (38:48):
Girl.
Speaker 2 (38:49):
I said, I only have forty dollars and that's enough
to pay for my order and my share of the tip.
She turned red and got emotional. My friends chipped in
to pay for a share, and later we decided not
to include her anymore because we can't support freeloaders. Yeah,
you shouldn't be going out if you don't have the
money to go out. End of story. Unless your friends
explicitly say, like you said, your friends, I'm sorry, like
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I can't afford to go out right now, and they say, oh,
like we're gonna pay for you.
Speaker 1 (39:15):
You know, well, I'll say if you had money, I
said what you wanted to eat? Yeah, And that's contextual,
and that's between friends in this scenario. Thanks to the
last till the check shows.
Speaker 2 (39:25):
Up, because she goes, ooh, I've already eaten. I don't
have any money to pay for this, right.
Speaker 1 (39:30):
I think they're looking for a cleaner in the bag.
Speaker 2 (39:32):
I was about to say, this is like that episode
of Victorious where Tory and I think Kat are eating
at the sushi place and they don't have enough money
to pay for the sushi, and so then they have
to be little dish cleaners.
Speaker 1 (39:44):
What do restaurants do in that scenario? I wonder, I
think you get like arrested really where the police are good,
Like I'm gonna get arrested for well, you even get arrested,
but the police can get called there. Yeah, because like
for a mcdouble, you have to pay first for you
get the food.
Speaker 2 (39:58):
Yeah. Mmm. I have always helped her, even after she
moved away. I would give them groceries and anything I
had extra. She even called ones to see if we
had any booze left over from a previous party. She
was going to drive to at least ten liquor stores
to get here for half a bottle of rum. I
don't drink hard booze anyway, and we're just not big drinkers.
I told her I had poured it out and thrown
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the bottle away. Her kids are so badly behaved that
every one of us dreads seeing them. They are entitled
and they have to eat everything and leave it halfway
because they saw something else, waste it and go on.
So I was in the hospital last week for eight days.
Speaker 1 (40:37):
Oh wait, what you can't just skip like that.
Speaker 2 (40:39):
Yeah, we're skipping forward. She's in the hospital now. My
husband went to the grocery store to grab some things
and he ran into Angie with her kids in tow.
He told her that I was at home recovering from
a pretty big surgery and my aunt was here to help.
He'd been home for barely ten minutes when Angie and
her kids showed up.
Speaker 1 (40:57):
Oh heck, are they trying to rob?
Speaker 2 (41:00):
They're like ha ha oh pie'ce benridden. It's finally on
time to strike. Oh no, we didn't think to check
the security cameras before My husband answered the door, and
they all pushed past him, even as he was saying,
I told you she's not up for company. The kids
immediately tried going upstairs, and my aunt didn't let them.
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The reason they were there was because the oldest one's
birthday was the next day. He kept asking me to
give him some cash for his birthday. I want cash
for my birthday. Give me money, And he's like, I
am in bed recovering from surgery now, and he's like,
but mom said, you'd give me money.
Speaker 1 (41:38):
I just wants that's it.
Speaker 2 (41:41):
H I said, Nope, no more birthday gifts or cash.
That I've been nice to everyone and people take advantage
of me, and that I was not up for company
and every time they all have high expectations, I said,
I really needed them to go home. They all left
in a huff, and Angie called one of our friends
in the group to witch about how I've changed and
(42:01):
was mean and basically a knucklehead to our kids.
Speaker 1 (42:05):
Dude, get a reality check, chump check?
Speaker 2 (42:08):
Oh what?
Speaker 1 (42:08):
Yeah? Okay? Yesterday for everyone knowing, I was on the
live stream, yeah, and the code and I were talking
about how this guy was getting put down by his
girlfriend and he decided to break up. I was like,
sometimes those scenarios you need chump check, where you see
if you're the Trump and the scenario, and I'm gonna
work on building an app, yeah, where you put your name.
Speaker 2 (42:28):
Second app we have in this episode. Wait, what's the
other app is find a Brother?
Speaker 1 (42:33):
Find a brother?
Speaker 2 (42:33):
Yes, yes, right brother.
Speaker 1 (42:34):
We have find the Right Brother. And then we have
this one called chump check, where you put your name
put like your relationship your mom, dad, brother or sister,
you know whatever in this case friend, and then you
give a little context about what's going on, and then
from that we make quiz answers or questions.
Speaker 2 (42:52):
Yeah, it's like the yes or no thing like if
this yes, if this no?
Speaker 1 (42:57):
Yeah, exactly, And then from there you put a referral
for your friend, and then it also gets sent a
link to cross reference.
Speaker 2 (43:04):
Oh, I like it, and there they find out that
they're the chump, and.
Speaker 1 (43:08):
Then we'll see who the chump is.
Speaker 2 (43:10):
It's good stuff.
Speaker 1 (43:11):
I think this is what's needed here. That's what the
world needs.
Speaker 2 (43:14):
Does wanting to rest and recover at home without people
coming over uninvited make me an ale? And also for
not feeding them or giving them sodas and other things
they wanted. And there's some comments, let's get into them,
com and one not the ale. I'm sorry it took
so long, but it's good that you stuck up for yourself.
I would have cut contact with her long ago. I
(43:36):
tend to be kind and giving, but I'll ghost you
if you don't treat me with the respect. If you're
feeling emboldened, tell her not to expect anything from you
anymore unless it's on your terms and you offer it yourself.
Whether it's conscious or not, I bet it is. She's
using you. If your friends didn't think she was using you,
they would have kept inviting her when you went out.
This lady isn't your friend.
Speaker 1 (43:57):
She's a leech.
Speaker 2 (43:58):
Opie says thank you. Just last year before Christmas, I
saw her at Target for kids toys, and my husband
and I decided to give her eighty dollars for her
to buy her kids something on our behalf, and as
we were leaving, she came up running to ask us
to loan her twenty dollars because she wanted to buy
a Disney movie. We looked at her and I said
I just gave you eighty dollars and that she should
(44:20):
use that money. She said, I need to buy something
else with that money, but I'll pay you back. Before
I could say anything, my husband said absolutely not, and
that we have gifts to buy for other kids. Reply says,
I have a friend that used to do this type
of thing. The difference was that they were easily one
of my kindest friends. After the first dozen times I
heard I'll pay you back, I told them that I'd
(44:41):
still be friends, but our friendship would no longer have
any money involved. Smart we're still friends today, okay. Or
I just learned that you couldn't lend them money, which
is hard if they're nice. Yeah, yeah, it's like, oh,
they're so nice, but I can't. I can't give them money.
In your case, though she doesn't sound like she gives back,
it's very much a one way street. There's nothing left
(45:01):
in this relationship for you. It's nice to care for
your friends, but don't forget to care for yourself too.
Opie says, my problem is I have a bleeding heart,
which I got from my dad. We always help the
less fortunate. I am glad you put a stop to
your friends mooching. I don't think I want to even
be friends with her, mostly because of her needs and
her kids. I was more than kind to them and
(45:23):
even help them with groceries. Don't tell my husband. It's
a really bad feeling to realize that people use you
and they hate it when you put a stop to
it and get mad. M reply says, give your bleeding
heart to the people who deserve it.
Speaker 1 (45:35):
Not the ale facts. It's hard to see who to
give it to. When the person run in front of
you needs it as well.
Speaker 2 (45:42):
Common two says, not the a hole. Givers have to
set limits because takers never do. This woman is not
your friend. Common three says, not the a hole. Stop
feeling bad. You're a good friend and she's a mooch.
I'm guessing she would have dumped you long ago if
it weren't for you giving her money all the time.
I doubt she will ever be a better friend, So timed,
let the friendship go. Your friend group will probably also
(46:02):
get sick of her completely. And there is an update, folks,
But any final thoughts before we jump into this update.
Speaker 1 (46:09):
I had to go by the rule of thumb. Yeah,
if I see this person, am I excited? Do I
enjoy the person I am when I get home at
the end of the day after hanging out with them?
Speaker 2 (46:19):
Yeah? I mean, like, what do they offer to you? Yeah?
Because I want to be excited to call all my
friends and hang out with them. And like, obviously there
are you know, shifts and stuff and sometimes seasons. Yeah,
there's seasons. But for the most part, if you're dreading
talking to your friend or seeing them every time.
Speaker 1 (46:38):
Then they shouldn't be your friends.
Speaker 2 (46:40):
They shouldn't be your friend. But there's an update.
Speaker 1 (46:42):
John here og host. We're gonna get back to these stories,
but a quick three minute break from ass for more sponsors.
Speaker 2 (46:47):
Thank you for all the support many of you showed.
I couldn't let the family be homeless, so I called
a friend who works for a homeless shelter that works
with families with underage kids. They're going to go in
the shelter and have room and board, and eventually they
will get two connecting bedrooms as they become available.
Speaker 1 (47:02):
Way are they homeless? Wow? Yeah, that was dang. I
guess dang, I guess you Yeah, I guess.
Speaker 2 (47:09):
So. Yeah, they will get breakfast, lunch, dinner with snacks,
et cetera. They have to be in by a certain
time every night and won't be allowed to come and
go as they please after nine pm. I believe there's
more to this story, but goodness, I mean, I do
want to say, like, she might be a terrible friend,
but I don't want anyone who has kids to be
in this situation. So it's good that you helped her
find a safe place.
Speaker 1 (47:30):
I was about to say, you know, it's not.
Speaker 2 (47:31):
Ideal at all, because they don't have a house, but
they have a roof over their head, which is good
for you know, especially when you have young kids. But
I mean for anyone.
Speaker 1 (47:39):
But hopefully you can sleep good tonight knowing you yeah,
you still care and love them, but you just can't
evolve yourself in the scenario.
Speaker 2 (47:46):
Yeah, but there's a little bit left. The mother will
have to get random tests done to make sure she's
not using They will all be required to follow house
rules and guidelines, and the mother will have to find
a job and save any money she earns. They have
to save now for their first and last month's front
and deposit. The kids will have school buses pick them
up and drop them off. It's a six to twelve
(48:06):
month program and they will have to be on their
best behavior. That's a really good program.
Speaker 1 (48:12):
This is awesome. It's kind of cool to see how
this probe. These people are interviewing, intervening in these people's
lives and giving them more structure. I feel like sometimes
a lack of structure, it can be difficult. Yeah, and
they're giving them that and it might be a good
role model for kids because they probably didn't have any
structure going up.
Speaker 2 (48:30):
Yeah, And also it's really hard to save money while
you're actively trying to keep yourself off the streets. So
providing them a safe place is going to be really helpful.
There will be help for them with their behavioral issues.
This former friend, Angie has found out it's me who
arranged all this, and she wants to thank me, but
I prefer that she just leaves us alone and takes
(48:51):
advantage of this opportunity. You didn't want to move in
with her mother because she has rules as well, so
I don't know how they will deal with the rules
at the shelter. I think I have done my share.
Now the ball is in her court. If she doesn't
want her kids taken away. Wow, well I wish that
woman luck because I don't want her to have her
kids taken away. But yeah, it makes sense. Balls court now, Yeah, OK,
you did what you could. You were getting taken advantage of.
(49:14):
You don't want to burn yourself to keep her warm,
so you did what you did, and you did what
you could. But that's the end of that story and
the end of this episode. So if you love us,
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