I managed to outthink my brother’s fiancée… now her wedding plans have backfired! | Reddit Stories | EP2105 - ok storytime

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I managed to outsmart my brother's fiance. Now her wedding
scheme's backfired on her. I'm currently in medical school and
live across the country from my brother family. I was
surprised when his fiance asked me to be a bridesmaid
because I barely know her, but she wants to have
all siblings in the wedding. By the way, this comes
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Ever in it so, I made it clear that their
wedding was during my final exam week, and while I
was able to get an accommodation to take my last
two exams early, I still wouldn't be able to help
much with planning or being present at things like a
bachelorette party or bridal shower.

Speaker 1 (00:53):
She said this was fine.

Speaker 3 (00:54):
It would mostly just be to have an even number
of bridesmaids to groomsmen and for pictures. There's a group
chat that was created months ago that I would read
through every couple of days to get updates on things
I needed to do, namely to order a bridesmaid dress
links percent with three styles to choose from, and we
would be updated on colors later. So a couple weeks

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go by and I ask what color to order? Bride
says she's still thinking about it. A couple more weeks
go by and she's still thinking about it. Then a
couple more weeks you get the idea. Now it's at
the point that if I don't order this dress in
a couple of days, it won't be here in time.
So I ask on Saturday what color? No response in

(01:38):
the group chat to me. I asked again yesterday Sunday,
what color do I need to order? Then I'm flooded
with messages lambasting me for not ordering a dress yet
from her sisters and my sister and her. My sister
called me told me to get my crap together and
order a dress already because my lack of preparedness is

(01:58):
causing the bride into anxiety because she doesn't think my
dress will be here on time for the wedding. She
texted me this morning.

Speaker 1 (02:06):
Don't forget to order your dress.

Speaker 3 (02:07):
Love you with smiling and kissing emojis. Still no one
had told me what color. I've scoured the group chat
for a mention of dress colors or an image of
a dress, but only the maid of honors sent a
photo of her dress, and I don't know if she
has a special color. There's thousands of messages, so it's
not simple to find anything. Everyone else can meet in person,
so I assume the decision on color was related in person.

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I can't tell if I'm being purposely excluded. About an
hour ago, my brother called me, pleading with me to
work things out with the bride because she's panicking about me.
I tried to explain this to him, and he told
me he doesn't care. It's a petty lady's issue, and
since I'm not there for anything else, this is the
least I can do. Because the bride thinks I don't
like her because I wouldn't come to anything, he's taking

(02:52):
her side. They know I'm in medical school, I have
literally no say in my schedule, and I'm on the
other side of the country five and a half hours
by play and you freaking told them that you wouldn't
be able to be a part of anything exactly. I'm
fed up with them and contemplating telling my instructors the
wedding was moved and I will take my exams at
the regular time. I'd have more time to study that way. Anyway,

(03:14):
I haven't told anyone in my family. I'm considering this.
Would I be the ale? I called my mother and
asked her what the color for the bride'smaid dresses are.
She said, lavender, cool, easy, Okay. The only color option
on the website that I would call lavender are named pearly, lilac, periwinkle,
and orchid purple. I text the maid of honor bride's
sister to ask what dress color and got a multi

(03:37):
paragraph long lecture about not having ordered my dress yet.

Speaker 1 (03:41):
Ah, oh my gosh.

Speaker 3 (03:44):
Basically, they're trying so hard to accommodate me being across
the country by including me in the group chat. She
said she didn't remember the shade name, but it's a
dusty purple, then sent a blurry picture of a wrinkled
order confirmation. The shade name was mulberry on the dress website.
That is a darker wine purple cle I told her this,
and she said to order the light light or dusty
purple color. I sent her a screen shot with a

(04:06):
list of shade names and asked which of these. She
said she didn't know because everyone ordered their dresses so
long ago, and asked for pictures of the dresses in
different shades from the website. So I sent screenshots of
all the light purple colors. No response for a while,
so I called her on the phone, which she was
upset about because it's past ten pm over there now.
Her response was, look, I don't care what your problem
is with me and my sister, but if you want

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to stay in good standing with his family, you need
to get your ducks lined up curly. I ignored the
lecture and comments and asked.

Speaker 1 (04:34):
What color? There you go? We go, there you go.

Speaker 3 (04:37):
That's literally all she wants me. Of the three I sent,
which one is it her? I don't remember. I'll have
to ask one of the other bridesmaids for her receipt.
I'll get back to you. I want to bash my
head in the wall. I called my second brother, the
one not getting married. He said they're pulling similar things
with him and he feels like he was deliberately given
the wrong dates for the bachelor party by the best
man bride's brother so that he would miss whoa. He

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inadvertently learned about the change date the morning of, and
when he asked the best man, he told him it
must have slipped his mind to tell him, then joked
that he wouldn't have missed much since he probably wouldn't
enjoy any of the festivities anyway. Yeah, they've been making
closet guard jokes and comments to him that he's been ignoring,
but he thinks they're trying to get him to back
out of the wedding. So if we both back out,
then there will be an even number of bridesmaids to groomsmen. Again,

(05:24):
only speculation on our parts, of course. Quick update. I
was seriously considering pulling out, but the collective rage here
and my mating motivation to study is me thinking by
this point, with how this post took off, I wouldn't
be surprised if they find it at some point, so
I don't want to reveal my cards just yet. Thank
you to the comments that gave me the idea. I
guess I'll be making an update mid June if all

(05:46):
goes to plan and there are some comments and an update,
what do you think, op, he's gonna do?

Speaker 1 (05:52):
I think? I think Op, he's just gonna buy one
of the dresses. Yeah, it's gonna show up. Then the
bride is gonna be mad because it's not the right cau. Yeah,
she's gonna be like I freaking tried, freaking I've tried, tried,
and she's gonna confront her at the wedding. Yeah, it'd
be a whole thing.

Speaker 3 (06:09):
Yeah, that's what I'm gonna say.

Speaker 1 (06:10):
Okay, well, let's fine out, let's fine O.

Speaker 3 (06:12):
Well, first of some comments common one not the a hole,
But I have a question, were you and your brother's
close at all? Because with what she's doing to you
and your other brother, it almost sounds like she's trying
to push you to away from the groom, Like it
seems like she's purposely trying to make you and your
brother look like clowns who couldn't be bothered to care
or something. I am almost getting vibes that she is
trying to slowly cut his family out of the groom's life.

(06:34):
This is setting off so many red flags in my head.
Maybe you should have a talk with your mom to
see if there's been any other signs of her either
isolating the groom or other signs of possible abuse. I'm
not trying to jump to conclusions. She might just be
a witch, but the flags are a fly in. Opie says,
I was never close with my older brother, the one
getting married. Younger brother and I were outcast, nerdy kids,

(06:56):
and we're always close. I don't think the bride is
trying to isolate my old brother. She's actually quite enamored
with my mom and sister. She's always posting on Instagram
about getting many petties with my mom or going out
for a mom and daughter lunch and coffee, usually with
some kind of sweet caption about how she can feel
her mom in heaven acting through my mom or something.

Speaker 1 (07:15):
Whoa.

Speaker 3 (07:16):
And she considers my sister her twin, like they were
separated at birth. She likes half of us, it seems.
And there is another update. Yeah, it seems like she
just doesn't like you guys. Yeah I would say, which sucks, right,
But yeah, that does seem to be the case, and
so silly. Seems like you have a plan. But my

(07:37):
other advice is just to drop out of the bridle party.
At this point, I'd be like, I'd be like, you guys,
are you know what? Yeah, I'm done. And then you
take your brother and say, hey, this is not petty
bridle women stuff. Yeah, I am being mistreated and I'm
not going to be a party bridle party exactly. Update two,
thanks to some responses, I called the bridle slawn and

(08:00):
asked what colors were ordered?

Speaker 1 (08:01):
Smart? Smart, but like, what a headache to have to
go literally all that when they have just told them, yeah,
four dresses in the color of flint, one in mulberry.

Speaker 3 (08:12):
The maid of honor was setting me up to believe
mulberry was the color of.

Speaker 1 (08:15):
All the dresses.

Speaker 3 (08:16):
Oh, pe was so freaking right.

Speaker 1 (08:17):
Oh my gosh, they had a different dress for that
braid of honor.

Speaker 3 (08:20):
Yeah h ah. So I ordered one in mulberry and
one in flint. I only let the maid of honor
know I purchased a mulberry dress. I caught a red
eye to be there for the versal. They had a
room to get ready in the morning and wanted all
the dresses stored there. I show up with the mulberry dress.
The bride begins crying because it's too late to fix it.
She asks if I would be upset if I asked

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to drop out because Mulberry is for the maid of honor.
I pretended like I had made such a big mistake.
I said, I know a girl that works at the salon.
Let me call her and see if there's any way
to make it right, and if it not, I'll step
down because I want you to have the perfect day.
I show back up the next morning to start getting
ready with the correct dress in tow. My friend looked
to the back from me and I just had this
return yesterday where to the odds exact style, color, and

(09:04):
my size. It's a sign silence, then an awkward that's
amazing now, I'll be honest. I thought the revenge would
be that they had to have me and my younger
brother in the wedding and photos. I couldn't have planned
the next part.

Speaker 1 (09:20):
I'm so excited right now. Wow.

Speaker 3 (09:22):
They had to explain to the makeup artist that there
was an additional bridesmaid, meaning they planned from the beginning
that I wouldn't be in the wedding.

Speaker 1 (09:30):
Wow. So they're not just like being really annoying and
not communicating, They like actually hate.

Speaker 3 (09:36):
Don't want her in it, but actually, freaking you hate
to This was a whole plan. The ceremony went fine,
we took photos after then there was no place settings
for me and little bro with the wedding party at
the reception since they banked on one less bridesmaid and
one less groomsman being present. The table was almost not
long enough. Two chairs had to be thrown on the end.
We didn't get food initially because we were actually in

(09:59):
the seating plan at tables, so our plates were brought
to those place settings. I can tell my brother groom
seemed ticked off at the staff for seemingly not having
things set up properly, but the bride and best man
diverted his attention.

Speaker 1 (10:12):
Dude, wake up, God, wake up. Oh my god, not
the servers.

Speaker 3 (10:16):
It's your freaking wife.

Speaker 1 (10:18):
Yeah, this is too many, too many to believe that
it's a coincidence.

Speaker 3 (10:23):
Before he the groom left, he found me and said
he asked the meat of honor why the settings were wrong,
and he was told I asked to be dropped from
the wedding party weeks ago. Then showed up and demanded
to be in the wedding. Oh he's got freaking.

Speaker 1 (10:34):
Proof, man, dude, for real, she got freaking proof. She's
got receipts.

Speaker 3 (10:38):
I said, I didn't ask to be dropped, and showed
in my phone where she gave me a thumbs up
on the dress. He noticed the screenshot was not the
dress I was currently wearing, so I said I had
to last minute switch it out after confusion on the color.
He seemed satisfied with that. They left on their honeymoon
and my brother returned several days early alone, so you
can guess.

Speaker 1 (10:58):
How that went. And there is a final light. But oh,
my god, this is so much messier that I thought.

Speaker 3 (11:05):
Oo wow, dude, maybe if you had listened to the
petty lady problems, you wouldn't have had to marry and
then divorce your wife immediately.

Speaker 1 (11:15):
Yeah, wow, jez, this is so satisfying.

Speaker 3 (11:18):
So incredibly satisfying. You're so incredibly stupid, my dear. Wow,
Sorry y'all for such a lapse in time. I've been
so busy with things for school this summer. Then classes
started up again, and on top of that, the events
kept unfolding, so it didn't seem like there was a
good time for an update that wouldn't be massively lacking
in some kind of conclusion. That said, here's what I

(11:40):
intend as the final update. At first my little brother's
perspective on the wedding. He said that our older brother
of the groom had approached him early on and asked
if it was okay if his friend was the best man.
Little brother said he wasn't bothered by that. However, our
brother's friends have never been very nice to my little brother,
so he was prepared for more of the same kind

(12:00):
of circus, mostly teasing, name calling, anti gay language used
casually like it's two thousand and five and we call
lame things attracted the same gender. And after preference everything
with no homo, one of the things they started to
do was call my little brother the feminine version of
his name. Oh my god, your brother sucks. Your older
brother freaking sucks. Now. He did tell me some information

(12:21):
that makes it more clear why a certain someone might
have wanted him out of the wedding party. Basically, at
some point, very strong but unreciprocated feelings were expressed to
my little brother. Seeing how popular the story has become,
it would be potentially identifying to give more details in
case anyone involved found this. Even if someone isn't able,
I'm not going to accidentally out them in a very

(12:43):
public way.

Speaker 1 (12:44):
Okay.

Speaker 3 (12:44):
So someone in the groom's party was maybe interested in
Opie's little brother, and that's and then like try to
get back at him. Beyond that, he said he was
getting the cold shoulder in general and felt squeezed out
from our own family. Apparently, at a family dinner with
our parents, mom said that the bride and maid of
honor bride's sister were like the second and third daughter

(13:05):
she never had. Our dad asked if she meant third
and fourth daughters. So my own mother forgot she birthed me.
I guess or she's terrible at addition, not sure which
is worse. Back to the wedding, the groomsmen slash groom
were set to go play golf in the morning before
the ceremony. After the reversal night when I had the
wrong color dress and was dropping out quote unquote, the

(13:28):
best man called my little brothers stating I had dropped
out and since he was set to walk with me,
then he didn't need to show up to golf. But
the next morning they called him asking where he was
and said I had made a scene to be back
in the wedding, so he was back in two on
the golf course. Our older brother was annoyed with him
and said he should have come anyway, even if I
was being dramatic. Again, little brother didn't mention that the

(13:48):
best man explicitly told him over the phone not to
show up. So that's what was going on with the
groomsman that morning. Now for the real updates, boy juicy,
Our brother came home a few days early from the
honeymoon and was staying in a hotel. It was hard
even for family members he's close with to to get
in touch with him for a couple days. The public story,

(14:10):
thanks to my sister doing damage control, became that he
had gotten ill and came home early, but told his
wife to stay and enjoy the trip, and that their
apartment plumbing is being renovated, hence the hotel. Again, this
has gotten so public that I feel eventually someone I
know may see it, if not already, and share it
with someone involved. I don't want to divulge too many

(14:30):
personal details, so I'll try to stick with what is
mostly public information. After arriving home a few days after
my brother, his wife stayed with her parents home for
about a week. It seems that some kind of collaborative
effort on part of my mom and sister and presumably
her brother got him to talk to her, and then
they were back together. A week or so after coming home,

(14:51):
they moved back into their apparently newly renovated apartment. Everyone
ignored or forgot the fact that they didn't speak for
a week.

Speaker 1 (14:58):
Then it's been.

Speaker 3 (14:59):
All smar les and perfect pictures on Instagram, Lots of
sappy one month anniversary, two month anniversary, et cetera type
of posts. So at that point I didn't have much
to update on. Kind of boring to say. Don't know
what happened on the honeymoon. They're back together like nothing
happened now. A couple days ago, there was a pregnancy
announcement on her social media.

Speaker 1 (15:18):
On social media, that's how you find out. Uh.

Speaker 3 (15:22):
Something to note is my older brother has never wanted children,
and especially not children genetically related to him. He is
a childhood care survivor and he's always said he couldn't
stand it if it was genetic. He's very serious about this,
as in he was considering a vasectomy. Wow. I recently
spoke with my sister on the phone and mentioned how
this was very strange to me that they're announcing a pregnancy.

(15:44):
She said, and this is a quote, Well there's nothing
for getting a pill here, and there can't fix if
you want to.

Speaker 1 (15:50):
Get your way, you know.

Speaker 3 (15:52):
Wow. My response was, that's basically spicy related to and
she scoffed at me for saying it's anything similar.

Speaker 1 (16:00):
Oh my god, Oh wow, dude. Let's just hope that
that it's not genetic and that doesn't happen like, oh
my definitely manipulative relationship when horrible.

Speaker 3 (16:15):
Ah, but you know what's not horrible listening to full
episodes of stories just like this. Just go to Spotify,
Apple Podcast, or your favorite podcast app and search up
Oka Storytime. I still don't know exactly what happened on
the honeymoon. I'm regretting not telling my older brother more
at this point, but I'm also not sure that petty
ladies drama over a dress color would have gotten him
to leave her. Clearly he put up with a lot

(16:36):
of drama from her anyway. I am internalizing the guilt, though,
so I'm sorry. This isn't a particularly satisfying update. And
there are some final comments to finish off common one.
Your mom's sister, bride and bride's brother friends are all
such a holes. She's essentially baby trapped him after he
explicitly said he doesn't want kids because of the possibility

(16:57):
that they could go through care, which is true in
some way. People with the family history of can pretend
to get tested at an early age to make sure
that they don't also have it. It also sounds like
majority of your family are anti towards your brother, coming
from a by person. Even if they themselves don't make
these comments, the fact that they don't stick up for
him when others do makes them just as bad, if

(17:19):
not worse. They are his family, They're your family. They're
supposed to be some of your biggest advocates whenever it
comes to family. If one of their friends says something
out of pocket, it is their responsibility to correct it.
They should be the person in between you and the friend,
acting as a buffer. I honestly wonder how your brother
has stayed with that woman for so long. Does he

(17:40):
feel like he can't get out because mom and sister
A love her so much? Has he been worn down
to the point where he can't leave? Is he a
prick who decides that the things she does to wrong
his family aren't that bad, so he stays at the wedding.
It sounded like he was upset that the staff forgot
about you and your brother, so it looks like he
cares somewhat, But his behavior is so strange. How is
he not picked up on this strange behavior?

Speaker 1 (18:02):
Op?

Speaker 3 (18:02):
I am truly sorry that this has been going on
in your family. Your best bet is to take your
younger brother and run, even though I know it's not
gonna be easy or possible. Right now, you two sound
like you're going to be each other's support system throughout this,
like you have been to this point as your dad
expressed any kind of input at all on this, other
than when he had to remind your mother of your existence,

(18:23):
which I can somewhat understand. I mean, my mom will
call me by my sister's name when trying to get
my attention, but given the context of what yours is like,
I feel like there's more than just forgetfulness. I hope
everything turns out all right, especially because there's now a
pregnancy involved. If it comes down to it, you might
just need to air out every single thing that has happened.
Maybe your brother can make better decisions once he's hit

(18:45):
with a brick of information. All the lying, all the
gas lighting, the ganging up on the two of you,
the huge elaborate plan to punt both of you out
without actually saying it, and all because they're anti and
she wanted the esthetic, even pictures, the text, and by
her friend admitting to making sure his wife got pregnant
after they agreed not to for some very valid reasons.

(19:06):
That betrayal of trust cuts so deep. I don't know
how he could stay if he knew. If that fails,
it honestly might need to be turned into a low
slash no contact situation to save you and your younger
brother your sanity and well being. Let them live with
their aft up choices and drama filled life once everyone
knows all the details, especially your brother, And that is

(19:28):
the end of that story.

Speaker 1 (19:30):
Wow, my bridezilla sister's wedding was chaos. Now everyone's finally
seeing her true colors. So satisfying. Oh yeah, my sister
is getting married at the end of July in Hawaii.
She is shocked more people aren't going. She is surprised
that more people can't go to their destination wedding. She's
also shocked that it's too expensive for people. By the way,

(19:52):
this comes from bammiammy, and if you want to submit
your own stories, good to the our slash Okay Storytimes subreddit.
So she knows that I don't I have a job
right now and my boyfriend is in heavy therapy in
another state, but continues to bully me and my eight
month old baby. She sucked. She is resentful because I
can't pay my way to her wedding, even though she
chose to get married there knowing I can't afford it

(20:15):
and said it's okay. She micromanaged the bridesmaids and had
us all get wedge shoes for the wedding so we
wouldn't sink in the grass. Of course, she has stiletto heels.
This should go over well. Her friends that are just
wives of her fiance's friends are spoiled brats, but she
doesn't freaking have friends exactly. They're not very nice. I

(20:37):
shouldn't be surprised. She accused uncle of being high maintenance
when I went around her to tell him about the
potential hazards for him because he has a compromised immune
system from stage five leukemia. She has the nerve to
put him at risk. She excludes my boyfriend and father
of my baby from the wedding because she can't. Nobody
else is excluded. His PTSD came back after ten years

(20:59):
from serving in Afghanistan. I've been away from him for
four months, and they refuse to let our first reunion
be their wedding week in Hawaii. She says she knows
PTSD is real, but is afraid of his triggers and
is shocked that he won't tell her his life story
what I told them. Other guests have plus ones. Why
is my plus one not invited? She doesn't even want

(21:21):
him on the island let and loan the wedding.

Speaker 3 (21:23):
Dude, that's what so insane and so sensitive, out.

Speaker 1 (21:28):
Of line, so out of line. He's moving to the
same town in a month. My boyfriend is okay with
it all. I'm live bid. The groom is especially douchey
and is on her side. Queensila didn't want my then
five month old baby at the bridal shower because she
takes too much attention. My mom wasn't allowed to pay

(21:48):
attention to the baby. We ate alone in the kitchen,
away from the guests. Oh my god, that's so insane, douse,
you have a baby there, Yeah, dude. My cousin and
fellow host sat with me, so I wouldn't allow she's
too kind. My godparents want me to cut her out
of my life because my uncle had to do the same.
She talks crap behind her in law's backs, even though
they're also pitching in a lot of money and are

(22:11):
doing their best to help. I called her a bridezilla
to her face, and she didn't even flinch. She wears
it like a badge of honor.

Speaker 3 (22:19):
Wow.

Speaker 1 (22:20):
She asks if her maid of honor seems frazzled, like
she's trying to ruin her life. While she's at it,
her best friend wants a small wedding after this craziness.
Oh wow. I told her that venue was usually one
fifteenth of the cost of the entire wedding. She looked
at me like I offended her. I tried to help,
but she would rather be shocked by the bills and
create more drama. Her hair always looks almost orange because

(22:43):
her friend is a professional hairstylist and that's what my
sister likes. The one time it was slightly more blonde,
than orange. She made her friend fix it. Her friend
had a one month old baby at home waiting for her.
Oh wow. When my sister came home, she looks like
her hair was back to her natural color because her
friend must have been fed up.

Speaker 3 (23:02):
That's funny.

Speaker 1 (23:02):
She has no idea what her hair normally looks like.
Lack of introspection and inspection. Not sure how to label that.
So I guess these are just all reasons to not
like this.

Speaker 3 (23:12):
Yeah, she's like and I'm gonna tell you more things
about her because she freaking sucks in all areas of
her life, not.

Speaker 1 (23:18):
Just to do with the wedding, right exactly. She asked
my parents two weeks before the wedding to double their contribution.
Oh wow, that's insane. What a surprise. This happened three
days ago. My sister makes more than my parents, yet
expects them to keep forking more money over if my
mom lets my boyfriend come to the wedding. My sister

(23:40):
said that my mom is not invited to the wedding.
That's the kicker. My dad said that he won't go
if my mom doesn't go, it's a crap show. Oh
my gosh, So just because OPI has a boyfriend that
she wants to come to the wedding. Yeah, Like they're like, okay,
you can do that, but then your mom is in
love to your mom? Can come? Is your mom or
your boyfriend? Pick pick? Why yelled? I hate her, She's

(24:03):
out of my life. After the wedding, I hope she
doesn't reproduce, and there is an update she says, so
crap hit the fan a lot.

Speaker 3 (24:14):
Oh gosh.

Speaker 1 (24:16):
All of her family showed up to celebrate their union,
and on the day before the ceremony, they go on
a private boat cruise with just some friends and a
handful of family. I could tell people were hurt by that,
but not surprised. At the rehearsal, the officiant was basically
rolling his eyes because the bride and groom couldn't agree
on anything. Queen Zilla also said no to so many

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traditional aspects of the religious ceremony. Her sister in law
basically had enough of the banter and shut down. She's
very laid back, but even she was at her wits end.
At the dinner, I told my favorite uncle what was happening.
He was ready to pick sides. I told him, I'll
deal with all of that after the wedding. You don't
have to make sides. I'm just venting. I told him

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how crazy it all was. He was shocked because we
seemed close. It's just been like this my entire childhood,
so we can fake normal. The day of the wedding,
Queenzila was appalled my baby was giving kisses to her
mother in law to say hello, this five month old baby.
She's like, get that baby out of there. How damn
baby's kissing my mother. It's an unloyal five month all.

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Oh my gosh. We all got ready and my sister
was super rude to her mother in law and sister
in law. Her best friend joked that she was staying
out of the way because she didn't want to get hit.
Oh boy, I was like, why do you look like
you've been hit before? We finally made it to the
staging area and the setting was beautiful. It was hot
as heck for all the bridesmaids in my side of

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the family. We were in full sun. Everyone was informal wear,
complaining about the heat. My sister had the nerve to
tell my leukemia patient uncle that he couldn't have the
umbrella up during the ceremony. Whoa most people would assume
to do that. He's incredibly smart. She was micromanaging everything
and couldn't even enjoy herself. At the cocktail hour, it

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was a ten minute walk across the property. Only like
one tenth of the guests actually went. The bridal party
had photos during this time. I ran and somehow got changed,
beed the baby, and beat the rest of the bridle party.
My aunt and uncle helped feed the baby while I
rushed around. I made sure I did my duty as
bridesmaid and made sure the bride looked okay for the photos.

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The mister tent was like a waterfall and was out
of place and not used. The in laws and sister
did not show up for the photos, nor could they
be contacted by phone, so they totally missed out. We
made our way to the reception hall, but the wedding
planner messed up and didn't have the favors on the table,
guest book out, nor lays on people that needed them.

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I made sure to tell them a job well done
because they pissed the bride off royally. Lol. We finally
got inside up to three hours outside and we were
still hot in the ballroom. The baby ended up being
too hot and just wanted to dance on the dance
floor and meet people. I waited and waited for the
first dance, and they kept saying they weren't going to
do it. They finally did and it was a nice moment,

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but then they called for couples to join them. I
lost my crap. I quietly exited stage left and went
to the bathroom to cry it out. My sweet Auntie
saw me and checked on me. She brought my mom
to who wasn't enjoying herself and was oblivious to joy
and pain at the night. I don't blame her. I

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hugged the bride and groom and said I loved them
and I'm so glad that.

Speaker 3 (27:35):
They were happy.

Speaker 1 (27:37):
We went back to the room and rested. It was exhausting,
but we got through it. Baby handsed it all better
than I did. On our way out of the hotel,
I ran into the groom's family. They picked up the
baby and played and said, you're the real reason we celebrate.
They know how crappy the bride was and baby is
pure joy. They're like, don't you forget we hate the

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bride and you're the best.

Speaker 3 (28:00):
Do you have the star of the day, little baby.

Speaker 1 (28:01):
The baby's like, yeah, they don't you forget it?

Speaker 3 (28:07):
Yeah?

Speaker 1 (28:07):
Probably like, thank you so much for over making this day. Okay,
you've saved baby, and the papers like.

Speaker 2 (28:16):
It.

Speaker 1 (28:17):
I'll never tell my sister, but we all had an
okay time. I'm glad it's over. It was all just
for Instagram photos. My entire family now sees why I
don't like my sister or the groom. It only took
eighteen years for them to understand my point of view.
I'm not sure where we go from here, but I
don't trust either of them. By the way, you can

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always trust that we've got full episodes, more stories just
like these. Just go to Spotify, Apple Podcasts, whatever your
favorite podcast app is and search. Okay, story time, We're
gonna be there for you. We're gonna be there for you.
You bet your bottom dollar.

Speaker 3 (28:51):
No, your sister just seems like a lot, But you
know your baby saved the day, and at the end
of the day, it's all matters.

Speaker 1 (28:58):
You got the baby, You got a little five month old.
Everyone else seems to be in agreement with you, and
not liking your sisters exactly seems seems what more do
you need exactly, but there is a little bit more.
My kid doesn't even really like them. I'm guessing this
is the parents. I'm not sure if they'll be invited
to her birthday that's coming up. Oh wow, and I

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forgot to say thank you all for your encouragement and kindness.
You helped me get through the wedding, knowing I wasn't
alone suffering her wrath. And at number two also forgot
to say that she didn't think her other sister for
her help. She did so much. People are peeved and
that is it. Hey, it's John here.

Speaker 2 (29:37):
We're gonna get back to this episode, but a quick
three minute break with aswer more sponsors.

Speaker 3 (29:41):
The bride's future sister in law tried to hijack the wedding,
but she got humiliated.

Speaker 1 (29:47):
Try to mess with the bride, you get the horns. Yep.

Speaker 3 (29:52):
To start off, I'm attending three weddings this year. Wow,
all great friends of mine and all of which I'm
extremely excited about. This This post is about the first
wedding of the three, which is nine days away. Sorry
if the background is a bit long. By the way,
this comes from Zuribie and if you want to sumit,
your own stories got to our slash ookey storytime separate it.
My friend be got engaged last year. She wanted a small,

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elegant wedding and we've been planning it since the day
the rock got on her finger. She's having fifty guests,
ten tables of four and ten more at the top table.
The location is this beautiful wooded area full of leafy
fruit trees owned by her step grandparents, and they very
kindly agreed to let her have it and pay for
the tables and chairs. Were a bridal party of four girls,

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including her future sister in law. One reason why the
wedding is so small is because she and her fiance
wanted to put in more money towards the house. They
both work good jobs and want to start a family soon,
so they decided on a large house. They also don't
want to spend their life savings on one day, all
of which I totally agreed with. Her sisters are pitching

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in to help decorate the place with fairy lights before
the wedding. The groomsmen offered to turn up the day
before and lug around the heavy stuff, including arranging the
chairs for ceremony and table and chairs for the reception dinner.
I've been with Bee through the catering, renting linens and servewear,
and the cake and the dress fittings, and I think
we've spent about five k on the whole wedding so far,

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not accounting for the generous help offered by her friends
and family in terms of labor. Her cousins are helping
with wedding favors, a little basket showpiece of crystal fruit
since the wedding is in an orchard, and some handmade
chocolate from someone her cousin's sister met in Belgium. In
all of this, be constantly counsel, blessings and thanks everyone.
She gave us complete freedom over our dress choices, and

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one of the bridesmaids is doing our hair and makeup
on the day. B is getting a professional to do hers,
but even that was upon our insistence that she had
to look like the star she was. We've finalized the caterer,
the seating, the menu and invitations. The future sister in
law enters the picture. The sequence of events is numbered
for chronology number one. The bride's made dresses, day of

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the dress appointment. Everyone's on time, except future says to
o a lah who's not only an hour late, but
doesn't even apologize to the kind dress consultant for making
her weight. The rest of us picked out the dress already,
each one in a different colors, summer, but the same style.
Future sister in law makes us weight while she ransacked
the shop and pulls out a white short pattern dress.

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Consultant says they can dye the pattern dress any color.
Future sister in law wants it white.

Speaker 1 (32:30):
You're not getting white, Carly. Come on, we tried to
explain that's impossible. She walks out.

Speaker 3 (32:37):
A couple of days after the appointment. Future sister in
law emails us saying she's very hurt by how we
behaved at the fitting, but is willing to let it
go and in compensation, the bride can pay for her
bride'smaid dress. Bees almost going to say yes, but I
put my foot down.

Speaker 1 (32:54):
Good Good.

Speaker 3 (32:56):
Week later, future sister in law emails the group again
wants to add fifty teen people to the guest list,
a sap all out of town guests. I calculate, based
on her demands that B would sholl out at least
another fifteen hundred conservatively, and asked her to refuse. All
of this brings us to yesterday, where future sister in
law joins us for a little party at Bee's house.

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One of the bridebaids and I thought it would be good.
B relax a little, so we got comfy cushions, funny movies,
wine coolers, and some snacks. B was pleasantly happy until
future sister in law began making a list of requirements
for her out of town guests, who Be had refused
to invite. She adds that her guests will be arriving
a couple of days early, and it would be nice

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for Bee and her fiance future sister in law's brother
to pick them up at the airport. Bee has been
watching her in quiet horror. Then future sister in law
pulls out the icing on the cake. You guessed it,
the white pattern dress. B bursts into tears and goes
off the back porch to have a good cry. One
of the girls through future sister in law out. Future

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sister in law leaves, threatening Bee. This is insane, is
Bee's problem?

Speaker 1 (34:07):
Yeah?

Speaker 3 (34:07):
Shouldn't the freaking brother, the groom to be yea be
the one dealing with his sister?

Speaker 1 (34:14):
Right? Guys be have to deal with the sister. I agree,
I agree. And the fact that she's making all of
these demands it's not even her wedding, not even her wedding,
not her wedding. This is crazy. I need help.

Speaker 3 (34:26):
I've been trying to convince B that future sister in
law shouldn't even be in the bridal party, but B
is too soft and says this was the only thing
her fiance requested. Because apparently future sister in law doesn't
have many friends. Gee, I wonder why. Exactly, yeah, exactly,
because no one likes her. Future sister in law has
now instigated a family coup by playing the victim to
her mother. Bee's future mother in law, who already has

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a million problems with the wedding, and B is a
nervous wreck. We got win from a mutual friend of
both families that future mother in law is now calling
her family's guests and telling them the wedding off. The
wedding is in nine days. How do I fix this?
I'd appreciate any help I can get. Bee has had
enough to face and I really want this to be
a special day for her.

Speaker 1 (35:10):
Edit.

Speaker 3 (35:10):
Sorry, I think I forgot to mention that right after
the out of town guess email. We went to her
future husband, who doesn't recognize any of the names on
the list. He said he'd talked to her, but requested
BE to keep her on in the bridal party, as
future sister went on, doesn't have any other friends, and
then B should say, no, your sister has been creating
so many problems and has been incredibly disrespectful if you

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want her in the wedding party groom side exactly. B
doesn't want to let him down, as he's basically letting
her have the run of the wedding in every other aspect.
And there are some comments and an update, but any thoughts.

Speaker 1 (35:48):
It's so so it kind of feels like like the
term like always the bridesmaid, never the bride, but in
this sense, it's like, yo, once the bride, never the bridesmaid,
you know what I mean? Like she just she doesn't.
It's just so ridiculous to think, like because she doesn't
have any other friends to be in their party, their
wedding party, and she's like, well, let me have this. Yeah,

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I just want to wear white at your wedding. Yeah,
as if it's like just as important as being a
pride or something. Like exactly, no, no, no, no no.
But there are some comments common ones.

Speaker 3 (36:21):
Since this is the future husband's family, he needs to
deal with them exactly. He needs to put his foot
down and support his future wife. If he doesn't, then
I don't think it bodes well for their future marriage.
Opie says. Future husband doesn't know about the dress yet,
only future mother in law does. He did find out
about the additional guests when I showed him the list
to ask him if if these were people he really

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wanted at the wedding, my polite way of trying to
hint that he should refuse. Well, I was the one
surprised because he took one long look at the list
and said he doesn't know any of these people. Between
the post and now, I've had a short discussion with
Bete where we decided to send out short announcements to
everyone saying how much Bee and future husband are looking

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forward to having them there. In case her future mother
in law has actually convinced people the wedding is off,
they'll know it isn't smart. It's like, hey, gosh, it's
gonna be so fun having that wedding the same day
that it was before, right, and not being canceled. Yeah,
common too. I know Bee is being hesitant to tell
her fiance about this, but I think for her sake,

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you have to. She can't begin a life with someone
with all this crap piling up against her that he
doesn't even know about it. His family is problem. When
my fiance's family starts on their crap, I tell my
fiance to deal with them, And when my family starts
on their crap, I deal with them. Letting things go
like this will just lead to a blow up that's
only gonna hurt what should be a happy couple. Opie says, thanks.

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I'm considering forwarding this thread to her and making her
read this. I agree that it's time she stood up
for herself, and I'm not gonna be around all the
time in case her mother in law or a sister
in law does something.

Speaker 1 (37:59):
And there is an update, Oh boy, any new thoughts. No.

Speaker 3 (38:05):
I agree with the comment saying he needs to go
talk to the fiance and just say like, hey, yeah,
I was at the I wanted to let you know
I was at the dress fitting yeap, and this is
how your sister was acting, right, Just let him know.

Speaker 1 (38:19):
Yeah, And I completely agree with the comment that was
like your family, your problem, which is like so appropriate.
It's kind of like if you have a friend over
and they spill something, you say.

Speaker 3 (38:29):
That you spill this.

Speaker 1 (38:30):
Yeah, you know what I mean.

Speaker 3 (38:31):
Oh yeah, they freaking broke the lamp. Yeah, but there
is an update.

Speaker 1 (38:35):
Okay.

Speaker 3 (38:36):
After getting some advice on Reddit, I sent me the
postlink and a little more convincing later, we took the
matter to her future husband. In the intervening time, we
found out that she had tried to call the baker
and changed the wedding cake to five plain vanilla sheet
cakes as opposed to the beautiful three tier cake he
had designed. He told her that any changes had to

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be made only by the bride. She tried convincing him
that she was the maid of honor and was taking
over these duties, but he called me, thank god, amazing,
I'm sorry if the groom doesn't do anything about it now,
I'd yeah, so angry. Absolutely, Since I was the one
coordinating with him the whole time, and asked if this
was the cake, I told him that future sister in

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law was a saboteur and to ignore all her calls
for frum her. We took the issue to future husband, who,
for the first time since I've known him in nearly
three years, flew into an actual rage. Finally, finally, finally,
he drove us to his mother's house, where future sister
in law is staying till the wedding, and ripped her

(39:39):
a new one. They are officially uninvited from the wedding.
His mother and future sister in law keep sending me
and be angry passive aggressive text and emails, but we're
blocking them. In the last one, his mother sent a
vitriolic message saying she would make sure that Bee was
completely alienated from their family and their social circle and

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make her suff her in loneliness till she left us. Sun.

Speaker 1 (40:02):
That is aggressive.

Speaker 3 (40:05):
This lady is crazy, like like the crazy apple, doesn't
fall far from the crazy. All jokes on her. Everyone
in future husband's family loves Be. After dear husband banned
his mother and sister from the wedding, Bee received a
few phone calls, mostly from his mother's tennis club friends.
They started going on about how Bee was already ruining

(40:26):
the family and she should at least let mother in
law and sister in law intend the wedding. One of
them went so far as to tell Bee once the
honeymoon phase was over, dear husband would lose interest in her.
B cried, I block numbers. Fast forward to two days
before the wedding. Once mother in law and sister in
law had realized that Bee wasn't budging and dear husband

(40:47):
was no contact, they started on us bridesmaids. Now Sophie
is a lawyer. Apparently sister in law called her about
fifty times during a client meeting and pissed her off
to no extent. She came to me and said that
if this was going to be the case, she would
much rather drop out of the wedding. I sent out
a text with mother in law and sister in law's

(41:08):
numbers and asked both of them to block it. Then
the email torrent started, how they were being systematically removed
from their son's life by a gold digging witch, and
that as women we would understand that they never meant
to ruin the wedding. I must confess I softened up
a little, but the reference to my friend as a
gold digger really pissed me off. All the emails were ignored.

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Day of the wedding, we were all getting ready at
Bees's step grandparents cottage, which sits right at the boundary
of the venue. The venue is an orchard that belongs
to them, and they volunteered to have the wedding there
and paid for the furniture rentals. So it was just
as four girls. And when the doorbell rang, I ran
down to get it because I thought it was the
beautician coming up to do Bee's hair and makeup. It

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was sister in law. She's like, I'm here to do
your makeup and ruin it. She was standing with two
bags and tried to push her way in. When I
opened the door, I almost fell over but managed to
hold her out. I reminded her that not only was
she out of the bridal party, she was not invited
at the wedding. She made a big fuss about how

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she was willing to ignore our hurtful behavior of the
nerve and that she was only there because she didn't
want the wedding party to be uneven. We now had
four groomsmen but only three bridesmaids. After sister in law
got chucked out, I told her we didn't care about
crop like that and she should get out before I
called security.

Speaker 1 (42:32):
We didn't have any, but it just seemed like a
good thing to say.

Speaker 3 (42:35):
She huffed and puffed and tried to blow them down,
but left after a few minutes. So we're all back
to getting dressed. I pulled Sophie and Kira aside to
keep an eye out for sister in law now that
I know she's nearby. Just as we guessed, we spotted
her again. Her mom's SUV was parked right across the
road from the entrance to the compound, and we could

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see mother in law and sister in law sitting inside.
And guess what the witch had changed into the white dress.
And that's when you get the paintball out. There you go,
and you just start there you go. Bah. Sophie is
very level headed on like my short tempered self. She
told me to simply ignore it. Everyone's dressed and ready.

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Guests have arrived. They're seated with some champagne, and we
position be just inside the back door of the cottage.
Path from the there leads directly to the wedding clearing.
The doorbell ring again. I stammered out some excuse but
asking the caretaker to call me if there was some
issue with guest parking, and rushed out to the front
of the house. Sure enough, it's mother in law and

(43:36):
sister in law in white. Mother in law sees me
and snaps, hissing about how she's here to destroy me.
I tell her, Okay, you guys can sit in the
back at the wedding if sister in law changes into
a non white dress. Mother in law refuses, insisting that
it's a family party and her daughter should get equal
importance to the bride. At this exact moment, one of

(43:59):
the groom's men, let's call him Brian, is crossing the entrance.
He takes one look and realizes what's going on. He
forcibly escorts mother in law and sister in law out
of the property, threatening to call the cops. Luckily, the
ceremony went on with no issues. We add to the
reception area. It's like a minute's walk from the wedding area,
just a little further into the clearing. Everyone's having fun.

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Sophie and I are trying to organize some photo calls
between glasses of champagne when we notice Kira's missing. We
rush around the place and finally to the front of
the house, where the greatest scene of my life meets
my eyes. Turns out Kira and one of the groomsmen
snuck off for a little makeout sash after the ceremony.
He he whoa, And they caught sister in law and

(44:41):
mother in law entering the gates again. Probably thought they
could get in since the front of the compound was deserted.
Kira is a little more like me than Sophie, so
she tripped sister in law into the mud. White dress
smattered with mud. It might have been rude, but I
laughed right there.

Speaker 1 (44:59):
Not rude. But these people are crazy.

Speaker 3 (45:01):
Yeah, you can't be rude to crazy people because they're crazy.

Speaker 1 (45:04):
Absolutely, these people deserve it. The perfect thing could have happened.
I love Kira.

Speaker 3 (45:10):
Good job, Kia, soph He hurried over and dragged Hira
back kind of a little snippy before firmly instructing mother
in law and sister in law to leave before she
a lawyer called the police and filed the case of
breaking and entering. I think this kind of got to
them because they actually drove off and the rest was
just a huge fun party. And you know what else

(45:31):
is a huge fun party? What listening to full episodes
with stories just like this? Just go to Spotify, Apple Podcasts,
or your favorite podcast app and search up. Okay, story
time props to this bridal party for like Bee's ride
or Die. Yeah, because it seems like Bee has not
been involved in having to wrangle the mother and sister.

Speaker 1 (45:51):
In law at a right. They're taking care of it. Yeah,
they are exactly care of it. The job of like
the maid of honor and the whole bridal party party
is to protect the bok.

Speaker 3 (46:02):
You ain't getting in. Don't even freaking try it. Bust
her this girl. Oh my goodness, my guys, but there's
a little bit left. I should once again mention a
few things. Be doesn't know anything about mother in law
and sister in law even being in the compound during
the wedding. We kept it from her and we don't
intend to tell her until she gets back from her honeymoon.

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To all the editors who gave us support and advice,
thank you so so much. Your kindness has meant a
lot during this hard time. I will be forever grateful
to you all. I've never been harangued so much by
someone in my life. I only hope they keep away
from b now that lines have been set, and that
is the end of that story.

Speaker 1 (46:43):
Wow. Man, oh man, what a crazy wedding. I'm so
glad that it ended up with a muddy dress and
then driving kicked out.

Speaker 3 (46:51):
Yeah the sunset anger. Yeah, I don't want to see
you around these parts ever again.

Speaker 1 (46:56):
Ever. But yeah could be. Good job, Ope, amazing, good
job bridle party, and I'm glad that be got out.
Happy wedding, Happy wedding.

Speaker 3 (47:04):
Hey, it's Sam.

Speaker 1 (47:05):
We're going to get back to these stories. But here's
three minutes of bads for our sponsors. My friend berated
me at her wedding over a small mistake, so I
ended our friendship that Yeah once mo, mistake friendship over. Hi'll,
So my friend just had her wedding this past weekend.
I was the maid of honor, although not the original
maid of honor due to drama with the bride and

(47:26):
her best friend a few months ago, and she only
had one other bride'smaid due to some drama that unfurled
over the year leading up to the wedding. By the way,
this comes from Love Prairie Dog and if you want
to submit your own stories, just going to our slash
Okay story Times subreddit. I've tried my best for the
past multiple months to step up, be there for the bride,
be a good friend, and take whatever stress I can

(47:47):
off her shoulders. I've bought her in the groom numerous
things and a nice present, as well as treated them
to coffee and meals as I know they've been inundated
with wedding bills. I've taken off work and missed her
engagements to be there for her and truly step up
as made of honor. All of this I was happy
to do. Day of the wedding, I tried my hardest

(48:08):
to do everything and finish last minute daycrafts that hadn't
been finished. I made numerous trips to and from the
venue in full hair and makeup to finish things and
make sure that the bride was as relaxed as she
could be on her wedding day. What a good person
you are.

Speaker 3 (48:22):
Yeah, I don't think she's gonna be happy about anything,
though I agree.

Speaker 1 (48:27):
I was happy to do all of this. She's my friend,
and although I haven't had my own wedding, I can
only imagine the kind of stress she was under. However,
it was difficult considering it was only me and one
other bride's maid carrying on all the duties fast forward
to the ceremony. She tells me beforehand that if the
groom turns around before she's ready, she will leave the

(48:49):
ceremony and we'll have to do it all over again.
So I felt an intense stress, as I didn't want
to mess things up and have a whole scene happen
because I told him to turn around too early. I
walked down the aisle and in my nerves, I stand
too far to the side so I cannot see the bride.
I am rather short. Admittedly I messed up. I should

(49:10):
have moved closer to the groom so that I could
see the bride. I was nervous, and honestly, I didn't
think about where I ended up standing. I moved closer
to the groom a little too late to see the
bride make a small gesture with her fingers, signaling to
me that she wanted him to turn around. At this point,
I told him to turn around. I apologized to the
groom after the ceremony for the weight and confusion, as

(49:31):
he had been looking at me and I was delaying
and giving the motion. However, he said it was okay,
so we continued to have a great night. I thought
that given everything else went wonderfully. I was just being
overly anxious about my mistake and that in the grand
scheme of things, it didn't matter too much. For the record,
I'm still beating myself up about it. Don't literally don't. Don't,

(49:52):
Oh my, I certainly do.

Speaker 3 (49:54):
Not. A real friend wouldn't beat you up about that, exactly.

Speaker 1 (49:59):
I'm upset that when I made a mistake that day,
it was that moment. Fast forward to the morning after
the ceremony, the bride in front of the groom and
another member of the party chewed me out, shouting that
I ruined the moment and that it was really effing crappy.
She said that it was her wedding day, as if
I didn't already know that, and that I really messed

(50:20):
up because everyone saw her make the gesture. She proceeded
to shout, even after I was crying and profusely apologizing,
She excused her behavior, saying, I don't even care that
you're crying, because it was my moment. Honestly, it was
kind of scary. No one else intervened, and she hasn't
apologized since. Come on, no one else did anything. Come on,

(50:43):
she's not even replying to my texts. I know that
she's getting ready for her honeymoon, so I won't be
reaching out to give her time to relax with her husband. However,
I'm genuinely hurt by how she approached me about it.
Since she was heard about my mistake, I absolutely would
want her to let me know. I know I messed up.
I'm just hurt by how she communicated her frustration. I
had tried my hardest to do everything perfectly to be

(51:06):
there for her and wait on her hand and foot.
I'm not sure what more I could have done anyway.
Apologies for the long post. I just wanted to ask
if her reaction was totally warranted given my mistake, or
if it was kind of too much. Please be honest.
I want to be able to find peace with the situation. Thanks,
and there is more to this story. But what's our
answer for her more than kinda you're not the ale, No,

(51:28):
she's a psycho. It was a tiny little mistake, but
all it deserves is like my bad. Yeah, you don't
need to be crying. No, you don't need to be
profusely apologized now, not at all. At a certain point,
the person who like you think you made a mistake
for that they can be in the wrong too.

Speaker 3 (51:46):
And also, honestly, I don't even think she should have,
like the bride should have brought that.

Speaker 1 (51:50):
Up at all. Like I don't even think her.

Speaker 3 (51:52):
Being like, oh, hey, like you know you made that?

Speaker 1 (51:54):
That would have been weird too. Yeah. People probably didn't
even notice or think about it. Yeah, and then now
they know about it because the bride's like yelling about it, yeah.

Speaker 3 (52:02):
In front of everyone. Like that's so much more embarrassing.

Speaker 1 (52:05):
Edit forgot to mention, but she told me that I
should have approached her immediately after the ceremony to apologize.
She said that it was rude that I didn't do so.
I told her that she was taking photos and was
just married, so I didn't think it was a good time.
She still said that this was another mistake on my part.
Edits number two. Hi'all, thank you for your honest and

(52:26):
encouraging words. I've decided that she no longer deserves my friendship,
and under no circumstances should I ever accept that treatment again. Yes, good,
that's right. I'm done apologizing and have no desire to
reach out to her. Looks like she doesn't have any
friends left. I wish I felt bad, but I honestly don't.
On too better friends and brighter skies, And there are

(52:47):
some comments. Common Number one says, I'm not trying to
sound harsh here, but you really really need to grow
a spine and realize that she isn't your friend. You
have no reason to apologize. Don't even think about it.
You let her walk all over you. You really need
therapy to get some self esteem and need to learn
to stand up for yourself. You did everything right and
gave so much to a crappy person. Drop her completely,

(53:10):
and now you know why others bailed on her prior
to you. OPI responds, I am in therapy. As I've
said in other comments, I'm already dropping her as a friend.
This weekend was the first time I felt maltreated by her,
and I plan on making it the last time. I
appreciate your response, but I ensure you that I do
have self esteem. I was just blinded by trying to
make this wedding as good as it could be for her.

(53:31):
I'm a romantic and a giver, but I don't think
that that means I have low self esteem? Am I naive?
Maybe dumb and overly anxious, especially when it comes to
not recognizing red flags with former bridesmaids. Heck, yes, but
I assure you I'm confident in myself and what I deserve.
That's why I'm ending the friendship. Go you go, you,
you go girl. You freaking go girl. Oh girls, because

(53:53):
you're killing it and I like it. Comment number two says,
I think you should accept that you were never going
to make the bride. No one could. After all you
did for her. Her only response was to find a
tiny moment to be angry about and blame you for
the ingratitude is stunning. I commend you for doing the
best you could for that person, because you are kind
and well meaning and the world needs more people like you. Sadly,

(54:16):
now you know that some people cannot be pleased no
matter what you do, and knowing that is important. We'll
recognize the impossible to please sooner and now save yourself
a lot of headache in the future. Don't text or
call her. Let her become the ex friend she was
always going to become. Ask her other bridesmaids and there
is an update. Man so Op says, I received a

(54:40):
lot of support and thank you for all of that
it's nice to know that there are kind people out there,
especially to win anonymous on the internet. After reading all
the responses and speaking with my therapist, I thought it
would be best to send the bridezilla a text. I'm
big on closure, and although I was anticipating a nasty response,
I knew for my own well beating I needed to
air out my feeling. Yes, I waited until she was

(55:02):
back from her honeymoon and numerous days so that she
and her husband could decompress. Then I sent a text,
which we will see soon. She quickly replied, and as anticipated,
was nasty. She lied numerous times. She did ask me
to be maid of honor, and I did apologize numerous times.
I did not belittle her in front of her mother

(55:22):
in law. All I did was offer some help to
take stuff to the storage locker. I also was not pissied,
nor did I sigh at all that day. I have
highlighted the super egregious bits if you don't want to
read all of it. I responded with the message ending
the friendship and a subsequent block on everything. Other than
providing an update, I just wanted to ask for advice

(55:44):
for those who have lost friends. Due to them being
Bridezilla's How have you moved forward? How do you find peace?
Thank you again, folks, and we have the receipts of
the text conversation. I like to hear so my text,
Hey bride's name I wanted to I waited to reach
out till y'all got back from your honeymoon and had

(56:04):
time to decompress. I've been thinking a lot about your
wedding weekend leading up to your wedding, and during that weekend,
I've truly stepped up as your friend. I've been there
when no one else was. I went out of my
way to show up for you and prove to you
that you're not alone. Over your wedding weekend, despite my
pet's request to relax and desperately needing to prepare for
a job interview, I focused solely on you. I crafted,

(56:26):
made trips to and from the reception. Was the bad
guy to the wedding planner. I waited on you hand
and foot, bringing you water, food, and even scraping lipstick
off of your teeth. I was tasked with things that
aren't even the maid of honors responsibility. I was under
an immense amount of pressure from you to make the
day perfect. I tried my best and was and my

(56:47):
best was pretty freaking amazing. The morning after your wedding,
a major line was crossed. There's a huge difference between
being blunt and being rude and disrespectful. Your outburst towards
me was the latter. Dah only did you berate me,
but you did so in front of your husband and groomsmith,
Even after I was sobbing and apologizing for something I

(57:08):
shouldn't have had to apologize for. You were relentless. If
you were upset about something, I would of course want
you to bring it to my attention, but in a
respectful way. Under no circumstances, not even on your wedding
day or in the morning after. Is it appropriate for
you to speak to me like that, however you may
justify it. I did not deserve that treatment. What I
do deserve is a huge apology and an even bigger
promise that you won't treat me like that again. If

(57:30):
you choose to not reply or reply with anything but
an apology, I'll assume you're content with this friendship ending.
I meant everything I said in my maid of honor speech.
You are my best friend and I love you, However,
I will not allow myself to be belittled and maltreated.
And the Bridezilla responded, yeah, that's a really good text,
very mature.

Speaker 3 (57:51):
U uh uh yeah, point point points, firm, and don't
talk to me every end.

Speaker 1 (57:55):
Bridezilla responds, you really can't deal with any criticism. Wow, okay,
I mean I always knew that, but wow, I'm sorry
for blowing up at you the day after. I wanted
to handle it differently, for sure, but you totally talking
down to me and doing against me in front of
my mother in law was not okay at all and

(58:16):
not needed. It was not your place. Everything you did
was made of honor jobs. Maybe when you're the maid
of honor for your sister or a bride, you'll see that.
It was my day and I could have been rude,
but I really tried to be as chill as possible.
You were noticeably stressed the night before about the cards,
and I was super chill about finishing them the next day.
I asked you to do so much because, like I mentioned,

(58:38):
I only have two bridesmaids my brother and groomsmen, and
bridesmaid number two's grandpa passed away that morning. So I
didn't want to put too much on her. If you
thought it was too much and we'd never speak again
for that, then on your day you will see and
regret it. I shouldn't have blown up in front of
my husband, sure, but I couldn't hold it in anymore.

(58:59):
And I'm I'm not going to dance around and say
you ruining my epping wedding ceremony was fine, and care
more about your feelings than my own debt.

Speaker 3 (59:08):
Girl, you ruined your own debt. Dude, you're you're blowing up,
ruins your own day.

Speaker 1 (59:14):
Yeah, No one else ruined your debt exactly. You ruined
it exactly. Like what do you even see as it
being ruined? Is it the crying that you caused? Or
is it the little motion that you had to do
to make him turn around? Yeah? Which one was actually bigger?

Speaker 3 (59:27):
Yeah? Come on, This is like if you're in the
play and there's some sort of like I don't know
prop thing that's missing or whatever, yeah, and then you
just start sobbing on stage. Yeah, and the audience is like,
I didn't even I didn't even know that they are
supposed to be there? What just happened? Come on, man, but.

Speaker 1 (59:45):
The text continuous. I tried to be as kind as possible.
It's not my fault. You can dish it out but
can't take it. I always feel like I'm walking on
eggshells around you. I appreciate everything you did. I know
it's not coming through through text, but I didn't seem
like offering to me in person was an option from
your tone. So I'll try here. You made the day,
for sure, you helped so much, and I thought I

(01:00:08):
said thank you, but it's being a bridesmaid. You don't
get a trophy. Oh my god, Oh my god, you
crazy Wench. That's crazy. I hate you, my god. I
really appreciate you and would do it for you a
thousand times over without any pat on the back. I
don't know how you want me to say thank you, Mark.

(01:00:29):
I never expected to need to grovel and worship the
ground you walked on for being my bridesmaid. And don't
you effing dare throw the relaxation and interview in my
face when you never told me I don't feel guilty.
You should be an adult about that. You can communicate
your feelings and stress level. I could tell you were
pissed and anxious the morning of, the morning of, with

(01:00:50):
all your sighing. So when you were sitting in the
living room waiting for hair or whatever, you barely had
to lift a finger and bridesmaid number two was running around.
If you needed a minute, you're capable. You could have
told me I crossed the line by yelling. Sure. I
yelled once and held my tongue. I may not have
said nice things, but I didn't berate you. So chill girl.

(01:01:14):
She was crying and you kept yelling at her. Dude, Yeah,
and I crossed the line by yelling, Yeah, I crossed
a line. Sure, yeah, yes, leave it a yeah lost line?
Yeah No, that's crazy. You just can't handle anything. Oh
my god, I should have done a lot worse for

(01:01:34):
you ruining my ceremony. I'm over it. You can't take
responsibility and weren't even going to apologize or address it
at all. You still haven't apologized in that text, no
one ever said you didn't do a good job. In fact,
instead of feeling better or getting an apology myself, the
whole thing at the house was me consoling you and
letting my feelings go to the wayside. Time to go.

(01:01:56):
Cut you out of the wedding fix. Also, you weren't
made of honor. I never asked you. You just assumed,
not because I didn't want you or wouldn't have picked
you after I just truly didn't want the titles anyone,
after all the bs, and you just didn't care and decided.
You are a great friend and person and I have
love for you, but I need you to grow up.

(01:02:19):
By the way, we have love for you. Whenever you
are a great person and you check out more episodes
stories just like this one on Spotify, Apple podcast whatever
your favorite podcast app is just okay, story of time,
we gotcha, do it before we go into that. That's
just so insane. I really do hate the like excuse

(01:02:39):
for something bad or like yeah, not even an apology,
but of just saying like, well, it could have been worse,
even worse. I could have, I could have I'm alive
to you, Yeah it could have been worse. So you
should be grateful. You're welcome what I didn't do, Like,
that's that's crap, crap, by ah, but you responded again,

(01:03:01):
I'm a great friend, and me walking away from this
friendship now is me growing up. I deserve a better
friend and don't deserve to be talked to the way
you talk to me and have just texted me. When
I get married, I'll be at peace knowing that I'm
not the type of person to belittle my friends even
under stress. Maybe one day you'll realize that you single
handedly destroyed this friendship. Maybe not, And that's okay. Genuinely

(01:03:23):
wishing you and your husband all the best, and that
is the end of that story. That's what we like
to freaking see. That really is oh my gosh, we
like to freaking see what a headache. Yeah, with people
like that, it's like why even bother sending the text,
Like at it certain point you just have to like
stop responding and yeah, like let them just like know

(01:03:44):
if I got that dectually, I just wouldn't respond. Oh yeah,
like the first pride, I would be like okay, yeah,
because I've I've honestly been in conversations like that where
it's like, Okay, yes I made a mistake and I'm
admitting to that, but it's like you don't need to
like respond like that. Yeah. I find it really silly.

Speaker 3 (01:04:00):
When people like go like just like text and text
and I'm like, yeah, well, like I just think, like
just braining someone over text is already.

Speaker 1 (01:04:09):
Yeah, it's so silly, Goose. It's so silly, Goose. Like,
if you're actually mad at someone, go talk to them
in person. Yeah, And with someone that like texts like
that too. It's like they're if they're mad about one thing,
and then they start bringing up all these other things.
It's like you just can't respond to that because it's
like then you have.

Speaker 3 (01:04:24):
To like yeah, and then you're trying to defend yourself
again through text. Yeah, and it's just not gonna happen.
So yeah, just walk away. Know that you're better and
that you don't need a friend like that, agreed, and
that you just are a better person. You just don't
need it.

Speaker 1 (01:04:42):
Yeah, but I'm glad you did.

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