I REFUSE to share my inheritance with my stepsisters… because we never got along! - r/AITAH | Reddit Stories | EP2176 - ok storytime

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I refuse to share my inheritance with my stepsisters because
we never got along.

Speaker 2 (00:21):
Ooh, sorry, you should have played nicer if you wanted
my v bucks swamp womp.

Speaker 3 (00:28):
I thirty one Maile refuse to get my stepsisters any
of my inheritance. My father began dating a woman when
I was eight years old. He and my mother had
already split. The woman he began dating had three other
children from another relationship. Me and my stepmother never got along.
I never got along with her or her children, and
this relationship only seemed to get worse when I moved

(00:48):
in with my father when I was twelve years old.
By the way, this comes from Maleficent to Split seventy
nine eighty six, And if you want to submit your
own stories, go to the our sush Okay Storytime sub breddit.
So for context, my father is a very emotionless man.
He made it very clear to my stepmother that she
would not parent me and he would not parent her children.
Each would deal with their own children, a rule which

(01:10):
he abided by, and she did not wait. Gramps said this, no,
this is this is Oh he's dad. Oh, get remarried
and she they both have children, and he was like,
we gotta stick with our own kind. We can't be
we can't be cross parenting here.

Speaker 2 (01:24):
Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, that's insane.

Speaker 3 (01:26):
Yeah, absolutely yeah. To be clear, although he was not
emotionally there for her children, he did buy them everything
they wanted.

Speaker 2 (01:32):
Which, as we all know, is what matters most of course,
of course, in every story we've ever heard.

Speaker 3 (01:37):
Exactly they went to private schools, they always had the
latest tech and money, and when they came of age,
he bought each of them a car. Spending money was
my father's way of being emotional. This is exactly how
he was with me all the way through my teens.
She would increasingly try to control my life, what I
could do, where I could go, what money I was allowed,
what I could eat. If I mentioned it to my father,

(01:59):
he would talk to her and it would stop for
a couple of months, but then begin again. The cycle
continued all throughout my childhood, and to be honest, nothing
she did really bothered me. After years of being around them,
they all just became irrevelant to me. As harsh as
it sounds, I had no negative or positive feelings towards
any of them. Fast forward to when I was fifteen,
and this was when the relationship between myself and her

(02:20):
and her children really took a turn for the worse.
My father got diagnosed with oh NO. As soon as
he was diagnosed, he wrote a will and left me everything,
the house, the cars, his money, his savings, his other properties,
his business, literally everything. The will was left with his
solicitor and a copy was given to him. He placed
this within with all his other documents, in a secure

(02:42):
place so people would know if anything happened to him,
what his wishes were. My father was given the all
clear after a year of getting treatments and surgeries. It
seemed as soon as he was given the all clear,
my stepmother found his will and exploded. She came into
my room with her oldest daughter, who didn't even live
with us at the time, screaming at me, telling me
that I had manipulated my father and to get out

(03:04):
of her house. Right now before she calls the police.
I was sixteen. How had I manipulated him?

Speaker 2 (03:11):
Yeah? You goodness, I can't believe you've manipulated your father
into acting and behaving the exact way he's always acted
since for forever.

Speaker 3 (03:20):
Get out of my house. Yeah, get out, sixteen year old,
that's insane.

Speaker 2 (03:24):
Yeah, she's just mad that she gets ain't getting no money, which, yeah,
you'll never see anything get between people faster than.

Speaker 3 (03:31):
Money, money, money, money, money. I left, as I said previously,
nothing these people could say to me wouldever bother me.
They were irrelevant to me. I rang my father and
informed him what had happened. Also said previously, my father
is emotionless. I have never heard him change his tone
of voice, let alone get angry. He turned up to
the house within twenty minutes of getting my phone call,
and as soon as he was back, he told my

(03:53):
stepsisters to leave so that he and my stepmother could
My stepsisters came outside and all four of us were there,
and I believe, for the first time in my life,
I heard my father raise his voice. I couldn't make
out what he was saying, but after five minutes he
came out of the house and told me to get
into his car. We were going to get food. That's scary.

Speaker 2 (04:10):
It is like where we're going.

Speaker 3 (04:11):
Get in the car.

Speaker 2 (04:12):
We're gonna go get food, and then you're trapped.

Speaker 3 (04:14):
Yeah, in the car. He went back to his normal self.
My dad's never tried a hiding anything from me, So
I asked what he said to my stepmother. He had
told her everything he owns goes to me, and that
will never change the next few years. I don't think
my stepmother or stepsisters spoke to me. Maybe menial things
like hello, goodbye, but definitely not a conversation, not until

(04:36):
I was eighteen. When I was eighteen, my dad and
stepmother gathered me and her children and informed us all
that they were buying a new family home. My stepmother's
oldest daughter said, oh, that's nice. He'll get a good
price for this one, and before my stepmother replied, my
father interrupted and informed us all that he wasn't selling,
he was giving the house to me. Whoa oh, giving

(04:57):
the mom so pee ooh. This was his house, he
had bought it before he even met my stepmother. Every
one of them turned and in unison began screaming at me,
how I take all of my father's money and things
along those lines. I didn't even know my father was
giving me the house. I didn't even know he was
buying a new one. My oldest stepsister began hysterically screaming

(05:18):
for me to give her the house. She had a
husband and a child, she needed it, and I was
going to UNI, so I didn't. That's a lot of
information to be thrown at you, and then screamed again
at you to.

Speaker 2 (05:31):
Sew anger, Do we think that screaming at op and
demanding that she give you the house is the best
way to go about this situation, even from a selfish perspective, Yeah, I.

Speaker 3 (05:43):
Don't think so. I don't think screaming is to get
your way is ever going to actually work.

Speaker 2 (05:48):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (05:48):
My father then piped up with his calm unchanging voice
that the new house being bought would be split equally
between himself and my stepmother, so when they pass, I
would get his fifty percent and they would share their
mother's fifty percent. This did not help the situation, and
instead I began getting screamed at more. So give her
a break.

Speaker 2 (06:08):
But they're gonna already have another house. Yeah, they're buying
another house. Yeah, op's getting the original house that dad
bought for himself. I don't see why we can't just
all get along here.

Speaker 3 (06:18):
It's like, well, he's not dead yet, you guys, he
hasn't passed away yet. Like, you don't need to be
thinking about what you're gonna get when he passes right now. Yeah,
you don't need to be getting mad about that. Yeah,
that's kind of dark to do, man. I don't know.
I was indifferent to them, so it didn't really phase me,
and we moved on. Twelve years later, I am now
thirty years old. My stepmother and my father have been
broken up for about three years. Whoa still living together?

(06:42):
Just completely separate?

Speaker 2 (06:43):
Oh that sounds fun.

Speaker 3 (06:46):
That's crazy, man. I haven't spoken to my stepsisters in
ten years, even though I see at least one of
them every other week. My stepmother got diagnosed with terminal
Oh my goodness, Oh my god, I can't get a break.
She only had twelve to eighteen months to live. She
moved in with her eldest daughter due to needing round
the clock care, and my father couldn't provide it for her.
So four months pass and none of them have contacted

(07:07):
my father, not once. He had a stroke and ended
up going into a coma.

Speaker 2 (07:12):
Whoa, my god.

Speaker 3 (07:13):
After being in the coma for two weeks, I reached
out and let my stepmother know. I didn't delay on purpose.
They just never crossed my mind.

Speaker 2 (07:21):
Which I guess is again it makes sense. It's like
everything has always been separated. Yeah, it's been three years
now since the previous part of that story you just heard.

Speaker 3 (07:30):
Don't blame you. The day after I informed her, I
went around to his house to collect all of his
documents in preparation for his passing. I wanted everything ready
rather than having to search for it, and his locks
had been changed. This didn't bother me. I just went
home and forgot about it. Three weeks later, my father
came out of his coma and was due to be
sent home. He was severely unwell, but he was alive.

(07:51):
So I went round to my stepmother, got the new keys,
and took him home. After a week of being home,
he received a letter from his pension informing him of
a benefit area change. So he rang and his pension
had been changed into my stepmother's name.

Speaker 2 (08:06):
All financial crimes, you become what now?

Speaker 3 (08:10):
My father had three private pensions, and every one of
them had been changed, his signature had been forged on
documents felony. We then went through every important thing that
was of value, pension, cars, bank accounts, everything. She had
changed all of my father's car log books into her
name and his pensions. In total, around eight hundred and

(08:33):
fifty thousand dollars worth of assets and money she would
have stolen if he had passed away when he was
in his coma eight hundred and fifty thousand.

Speaker 2 (08:43):
I wonder if this is like the crime equivalent of
like unrealized capital gains. Yeah, where it's like, yeah, you
almost stole eight hundred and fifty thousand dollars worth of assets,
but because you didn't, technically you're not going to go
to jail to dude.

Speaker 3 (09:00):
I don't know though, I think she should.

Speaker 2 (09:02):
I think she maybe might need to go somewhere. Yeah,
for almost stealing nearly a million dollars from this, uh,
from OPI's dad.

Speaker 3 (09:11):
Yeah, so it sound like he was just like alive
and well and she did this like he very well
could have passed away.

Speaker 2 (09:16):
I think she was doing this. So the forgery you
can definitely get got for for sure, right, but you can't.
I don't think you can get got for like stealing
eight hundred and fifty K because you didn't, you tried to,
you wanted to, So I'm sure there's a different crime
corresponding penalty for that.

Speaker 3 (09:29):
Dude. I don't know. However, the one good thing from
this was when we rang the mortgage company for the
property they had bought together, they had informed us that
the property was in fact bought on a joint mortgage,
which means both of them own one hundred percent of
the property. If one dies, the survivor gets one hundred
percent of the property. This wasn't an issue for my father.
He said she could have one hundred percent if he

(09:50):
passes away before it sells. Once confronted with the attempted theft,
she just said, I thought you would have wanted me
to have it. I thought you would have wanted me.

Speaker 2 (09:58):
To have it. I'm going to go to the bank
and do that same thing. I'm gonna steal all the
money out of the vault, and then when the cops
arrest me, I'm gonna say I just thought they wanted
me to have that money.

Speaker 3 (10:07):
Yeah, I thought they just loved me. Really, And they'll say, oh, okay,
you're just a little baby.

Speaker 2 (10:12):
Okay, we'll let you out. We don't have any room
for babies in jail, so we'll let you go.

Speaker 3 (10:18):
Exactly after this, the relationship between them soured. They both
wanted to sell the house. However, she wanted one hundred
percent of it. They agreed that he would get thirty
and she would get seventy. He was happy to give
it to her. So we were going through some more
of his documents and found his life insurance documents. I
knew my father was wealthy, but I never imagined how
wealthy until I saw how much the life insurance policy

(10:40):
was four and I was downed as one hundred percent beneficiary. Wow,
you're getting You're getting bank dude, touching to ching. Whilst
reading through the life insurance documents, I noticed a small
section on a cohabiting policy. So my father rang them
and they informed us, Yes, even though I was down
as beneficiary, she would be still entitled to claim fifty

(11:01):
percent because they are legally in a cohabitation partnership. Doesn't
matter that they are no longer together. They have a
joint mortgage, which is all the proof she would need. So, okay,
let me get this straight. They have a joint mortgage.
So that means that if he passes away, then she
still has access to like fifty percent of well she
gets the house.

Speaker 2 (11:19):
The joint I think the joint mortgage is, oh, okay,
is a different thing.

Speaker 3 (11:23):
I see the fifty percent that she would beginning would
still be.

Speaker 2 (11:25):
From the life insurance posit I think the joint, the
joint mortgage and the cohabitation is more of just like
a just like it kind of just gives more weight,
like or what's it called credence. It's like it solidifies
the life insurance policy more. It's like, we guys have
a joint mortgage and you're cohabitating, right, So it's like, yeah,
she is still entitled to fifty percent of the life
insurance policy.

Speaker 3 (11:45):
And I think the point I think that's the point
of that. I don't know, that's crazy though, that's pretty wild.

Speaker 2 (11:49):
Yeah, I mean I would say stop living with the
woman who tries to steal everything out from under your
daughter's nose. Yes, absolutely, yeah, and didn't care that you
were in one.

Speaker 3 (12:00):
So, after my father had taken a turn for the
worst and after speaking to a solicitor, me and him
devised a plan. We had asked the solicitor to send
a letter to them informing that my father would not
sell the property unless it was a seventy thirty split
to him. To be honest, he probably is entitled to
that because she never paid a penny for anything. He
didn't care about the house, just the life insurance. Now,

(12:21):
one of my stepsisters is a solicitor, and we were
hoping that her first reaction would be to ensure that
her mother got at least fifty percent and not thirty
point five, and we were correct. A week after our
solicitors sent the letter, we received a notice of separance
from my stepsister informing my father that on the grounds
that he and my stepmother had split, they are both
entitled to fifty percent of the house. This is what

(12:44):
we needed to legally show that she is no longer cohabiting. Okay,
so it seems like we're on the right ish track.

Speaker 2 (12:50):
Yes we are. We are playing the game.

Speaker 3 (12:52):
Playing the game. My father passed three weeks after we
received this whoa, whoa, whoa. Oh my gosh, I was
not expecting that to happen. At his funeral, my stepmother
and stepsisters turned up and they were joyous, happy, and laughing.
This didn't really bother me. I knew how petty they
were and expected it anyway. Six months after my father's funeral,

(13:13):
my wife and child were out with friends out of
play area for the kids, and my eldest stepsister was
there with her husband and children. I could see them
staring and giggling, and eventually they came over. They mentioned
the house and how we tried and failed to rob
twenty percent of it from them, and some other things.
Then she started to say disrespectful things about my father
and I snapped. I told them we didn't care about

(13:35):
the house. My dad didn't want my stepmother to get
his life insurance oof. My stepsisters went quiet for around
thirty seconds and then started asking what I meant. I
just grabbed my child and me and my wife left.
The next day, I was bombarded with phone calls asking
what my father had left me, and I told them
every single thing I got an inheritance. I told them

(13:59):
right down to the last penny, and then proceeded to
brag about how we needed them to file for the
severance because if we did, they would block and delay
its suspecting something. He's just like monologuing their evil plan
to these these people.

Speaker 2 (14:13):
Now, oh yeah, I mean it's I think at this point,
I hope, at least at this point, there's nothing that
can be done. The father has passed away. None of
the stuff that has been laid out can be changed,
been done. It's it's fine, not everything.

Speaker 3 (14:26):
I was then non stop harrassed for the next couple
of weeks, being told I didn't deserve the money, that
I should split it four ways because he was all
of our father, not just mine. Then the threats started,
and I received a letter from my stepmother's youngest daughter,
who was a solicitor, informing me of legal proceedings that
they were going to take.

Speaker 2 (14:44):
Blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah.
There's just get over it.

Speaker 3 (14:48):
You think you should do.

Speaker 2 (14:49):
You deserve absolutely nothing. You showed up to his funeral
and you laughed and smiled. Yeah, you're basically cartoon villains.

Speaker 3 (14:57):
Yes, that's evil. Yeah. Talk. So now, after four months
of this, we were informed today that they have no
legal claim to any of my father's inheritance due to
all his paperwork, will and beneficiaries on his policies which
he was in sound mind when he completed it has
ruled in my favor. Indeed, I received another phone call

(15:19):
from my eldest stepsister after I found out about winning
the case, begging me to split the money in assets
or at least give them the money from the house
that my father and their mother owned together.

Speaker 2 (15:28):
Dude, that's gonna be the biggest no for me of
all time.

Speaker 3 (15:32):
My god, Yeah, I.

Speaker 2 (15:34):
Have one question. Did you laugh at my father's funeral?
The answer is yes, about that twenty percent that we
failed to get from you? Were you laughing and smiling
and giggling about getting the one up on my dad?

Speaker 3 (15:46):
If that answers yes, this answer is no.

Speaker 2 (15:48):
Ee. Come on, come on. If you say no, then
I'm gonna go be like, Oh, there was someone who
looked exactly like you at the funeral who did that?
That's crazy. Go find your doppelganger. You want to make
some money, you want some real money. Go find your
twin and you can make a whole circus act.

Speaker 3 (16:06):
But with you and your doppelganger, Well, he's got a
million dollar ideas? Are here full of them?

Speaker 2 (16:10):
Call E B. Barnum or whatever?

Speaker 3 (16:13):
TB.

Speaker 2 (16:13):
What was his name? What was his first name Barnum
pt pt Barhum. Yeah, I said eb Barnum, e b.
I think that's actually a guy as a character from
Perry Mason. I'm gonna stop turning the brain off.

Speaker 3 (16:25):
Turn the brain off, but I want you to turn
your brain on and go to Spotify, Apple Podcasts, iHeartRadio
and go search up. Okay, storytime, where what are you
gonna find?

Speaker 2 (16:35):
Zacona, We're gonna you find like twelve hundred plus hours
of stories to listen to.

Speaker 3 (16:41):
Dude, so many stories, full episodes with full of stories,
just like this, full of stories, and we gotten some
more to this story, but we have any final thoughts
before we roll on in.

Speaker 2 (16:51):
I just really like that the time jump between like, yeah,
so they submitted all this paperwork and they're like we're
gonna sue you and like take the money, and then
it was like so I immediately on the case and
it's like, yeah, so there was nothing going on there,
ye had no shot. Yeah, And I'm glad because honestly,
the amount the absurd disrespect of like going to the
funeral and openly basically being happy that he's passed because

(17:15):
he's insane financially from it, Dude, It's so gross.

Speaker 3 (17:19):
They just don't go to the funeral. If you are
happy that someone has passed away, don't go to the funeral. Yeah,
it's so incredibly evil and disrespectful.

Speaker 2 (17:28):
Don't come to my house, don't don't call me.

Speaker 3 (17:31):
But we do have a little bit more so. My
wife believes that I should just give them something to
leave us alone, but that would go against what my
father wanted. Me and my wife both earned good money,
so we wouldn't miss it. And the only one of
my stepsisters who earns decent money is the solicitor. The
other two are desperate for money. But when I think
about it, I'm constantly reminded that I don't actually care

(17:52):
for these people, so why should I help them out?
So am I the a hole? We do have a
quick edit just to make it clear. Oh, my stepmother
passed away around three months ago. The house was sold
for one point two million, so they did receive inheritance
around two hundred k each, assuming that she left equal
amounts to each of her children. And that is it.
So they just still want even more want.

Speaker 2 (18:15):
I would say womp womp to those you know, look,
and it's like, I don't know, is there a situation,
you could be the aliers, like maybe, like you know,
I would say if there were like kids involved, It's
like maybe if you've got the money to help set
them up like positively in the future because the children
are innocent. But there's no kids in this context. Well,
I mean, but I see, you have your own kids.

(18:36):
You gotta watch out for them first.

Speaker 3 (18:38):
And it's just like you don't owe them anything. You
literally don't know them anything. It was they were always
mad at Op for like getting things from the father
when it was not Op's choice at all. OPI was
just like, I just found out that I'm getting this.
Why are you out to me?

Speaker 2 (18:52):
They're like, you manipulated your father.

Speaker 3 (18:54):
Answer.

Speaker 2 (18:54):
I'm sixteen, I'm learning about trigonometry exactly.

Speaker 3 (18:58):
So it's like, what is the point, Like, there's they
never cared about They never were nice about this whole
money thing. It's just no, you're definitely not the a hole.
Keep your money. You don't owe them anything.

Speaker 2 (19:10):
Yeah, my stepdaughter's mother has horrible hygiene. It's affected my
help go wash.

Speaker 3 (19:18):
Just think yourself.

Speaker 2 (19:19):
I twenty nine female, am four months pregnant with my
and my husband's first baby. We are very happy for
our baby and excited to be parents, but my pregnancy
proved to be more difficult than I expect it. The
main problem is I have extreme nausea. Some smells that
I used to like before now make me sick. I
can smell everything around me, and the things that make
me very, very sick are food and body odor.

Speaker 3 (19:41):
Oh no.

Speaker 2 (19:43):
By the way, this comes from user critical Net twenty
eight twenty one, and if you want to submit your
own stories, go to our slash Okay storytime subburd it. So,
my husband has a daughter from his previous relationship, Violet thirteen, female,
and as per the custody agreement, she comes to stay
with us every week from Friday after school to Sunday
afternoon slash evening. I have nothing against Violet, and we
used to have a decent relationship, but she thinks and

(20:06):
it's making it impossible to live in my own home.
Oh no, Yes, Op is talking in the literal sense. Yeah,
her mother is against chemical deodorance, so she buys her
some natural things. No, do not cover the sweat smell.

Speaker 3 (20:20):
Don't work?

Speaker 2 (20:21):
Don't they don't?

Speaker 3 (20:22):
I don't believe they work.

Speaker 2 (20:24):
It's not only that she smells, it's also her clothes
that have a very nasty smell, like sweat and musty
and old. It's a very nasty combination, and it's making
me barf every time I am near her. We tried
finding solutions, but with no results. Violet refuses to wear
the clothes that are in our house and that are
clean and fresh. Instead, she comes from her mother's place

(20:45):
with a set of clothes and pajamas, wears them while
she is here, and takes them back to her mother's
each Sunday. That is a strange little fixation there. I
wonder why that's happening.

Speaker 3 (20:54):
Like she washes her closes her mom's house.

Speaker 2 (20:56):
Well, it's like, yeah, she refuses to wear any clothes
that didn't come from her mom's house.

Speaker 3 (21:00):
Interesting.

Speaker 2 (21:00):
I'm just hoping it's not like I'm wearing these on
purpose to like upset ope stes.

Speaker 3 (21:04):
Yeah, I'm sure it's not.

Speaker 2 (21:05):
She always refuses, saying that her clothes are clean, yeah,
so clean that she stinks. Her mother refuses to cooperate
on this as well. She refuses to convince Violet to
allow us to wash her clothes because we don't use
natural products and claims her daughter does not smell it.
Became an entire nightmare for me to live in my
own house while she's here. I tried, I really did

(21:27):
try different approaches, but they always failed. During lunch your dinner,
I tried staying as far away from her as possible,
but I can still smell her hacking smell yeah, which
results in me not being able to eat and very
often puke in my guts out oh gosh. When she
is here, I fill the house with a lot of
scented candles and wear a lot of perfume on myself

(21:49):
in order to have another predominant smell. Sometimes it helps,
sometimes it doesn't, but it's not healthy for me to
live in a house filled with smoke and perfume. As
I said, After trying multiple solutions and discussing with the
mother who refuse to cooperate with us, my husband got
tired of seeing me sick and told Violet and her
mother that she cannot come to our house anymore until
I give birth. He explained to them that I need

(22:09):
to be able to relax and enjoy being in my
own home, which I can't do anymore due to their
refusal to be understanding of our situation. So far, this
all sounds pretty reasonable to me.

Speaker 3 (22:19):
Absolutely, she's pregnant, she's pruggr. You gotta do what you
can for these pregnant people, man, you really do. They're
going through a lot just to have another human exist
in the world.

Speaker 2 (22:28):
She's got hypersensitivity right now. Yeah, And she's like, you know,
maybe you wouldn't be too stanky if I wasn't hyper
sensitive right now right Violet's mother sent me a nasty text.
I wonder if it's as nasty as her smell, accusing
me of being the reason why my husband is abandoning
his daughter. No one is abandoning anybody. We will start
allowing her to come over after I give birth. She said,

(22:51):
as a woman, I should make an effort and make
my husband be closer to his kid. In response, I
sent her the following message, quote, well, as a woman,
you should be able to understand that pregnancy sickness is
not something I can control. Also, as a woman, you
should be focused on your daughter's hygiene and not let
her smell like a dumpster babe.

Speaker 3 (23:10):
Oh, she's right, she's right, because I mean that first
text saying like, as a woman, you should want to
rebo your man. It's like that has nothing to do
with being a woman. The second one, I mean, the
hygiene one also not really.

Speaker 2 (23:22):
Anything to do with the woman's being a person. But like,
but if you're as a.

Speaker 3 (23:26):
Woman, yeah you should. You should know as a woman
with a kid too, you should know, like what pregnancy is,
Like I guess you know, unless you go a different route.
But if we're assuming here, then yeah, like her comeback
made a lot more sense than the original insult.

Speaker 2 (23:40):
True. She replied that I have no idea how hard
it is to be in her situation, and that I
am a nutstaf of criticizing a fellow mother. You're literally
criticizing a fellow soon to be mother.

Speaker 3 (23:52):
You started it. You mean you started it.

Speaker 2 (23:54):
You're saying that she's abandoning your child. That's not criticism. Yeah,
exactly crazy. We have an update here, let's go ahead
and jump in. I have received a lot of feedback
from you. Thank you very much for your kind words.
For those who came to my post only to share
negative energy and spread your childhood trauma on me, the
only thing I can say is that I feel sorry
for you, and I hope you never experienced the symptoms

(24:16):
that some of us face.

Speaker 3 (24:17):
During pregnancy.

Speaker 2 (24:18):
I have seen so many idiotic replies and so many
people thinking that a woman can push a button and
stop getting sick. Because at finettall you need to deal
with that. You people are insane. This is not how
it works. Some of you demanded me to leave my
own house to go stay at a hotel. I'm obviously
not going to do this. I also went to my
doctor for a check up and discussed alternative solutions some

(24:39):
of you gave me. Many people suggested I should use
VICX on my upper lip, and my doctor told me
he does not recommend that for frequent use. Once in
a while is okay, like if you need to go
somewhere and you need to block certain smells, But on
a weekly basis, three days a week, he said very
firmly no. He also gave me a lot of crap
for all the perfume and candles that I use. It
instructed us to use as few things as poss What

(25:00):
he recommended was to keep away from things that make
me sick, have things around us clean, and keep the
windows open as much as possible for fresh air to
get into the house. Now the update, my husband is
very firm on the decision to not have Violet around
our house until I give birth and until we see
her respecting our home in our rules. As mentioned in
multiple replies, he will still see his daughter as per
the custody agreement, but they will meet outside our home.

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He's like, well, Violet, welcome to the tent in the backyard.

Speaker 3 (25:27):
Yeah, we're going camping this week and next Week's so fun.

Speaker 2 (25:31):
For the next five months, it's camp out time. I
have a stick of deodorant that you could put off.

Speaker 3 (25:42):
Could I offer you a nice clean towel for our
beautiful shower matrix?

Speaker 4 (25:47):
Red pill, blue Pill? But it's a stick of deodorant
and a tent.

Speaker 2 (25:52):
Yes, yeah, yeah, it's a stick of deodorant and a
can of Sterno's.

Speaker 3 (25:58):
Like, what do you want?

Speaker 2 (26:01):
Opposed to some of your beliefs that we intend to
abandon her or permanently ban her from our house because
I want my baby to replace her, We don't, and
you are very deranged. I don't know how you operate
and think, but my baby will never be a replacement
for anyone. He will be his own person. He's already
extremely loved and will continue to be. He will always
have security and everything he needs and yes, I can

(26:23):
provide everything for him on my own. Of course, I
want him to have his father in his life, but
it's not like I will ever depend on a man
or can't provide for my kids, so I need to
push away his step siblings. Yesterday, my husband picked up
Violet from school and took her to my mother in
law's house. The plan was for Violet to spend the
weekend at mother in law's, my husband to see her
during the day and come back to sleep at our house.

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Husband and mother in law intended to use the occasion
of Violet staying at her place to discipline her and
get her used to a clear routine. She gets home,
she takes a shower and changes her clothes. Unfortunately, everything
has turned into a circus. When husband and got to
my mother in law's house, she was requested to go
take a shower and her clothes over to be washed

(27:04):
and wear something clean as expected. She refused and they
started arguing. Violet kept saying that her clothes are clean
and that I'm not around, so there's no need for
her father and grandmother to bother her. Based on what
my husband told me, he tried to keep his cool
and enforce the rules. But my mother in law just
lost it.

Speaker 3 (27:20):
Oh man.

Speaker 2 (27:21):
Mother in law was very furious and started shouting at Violet,
calling her a lot of names like rude and dirty.
She told her that she stinks. She told her that
she should be ashamed of herself. Oh my dear public,
because she's embarrassing everybody around her. And she told her
that she is ruining our family.

Speaker 4 (27:35):
Oh my god, Hey, well, maybe let's not do that,
ruining the family.

Speaker 3 (27:39):
That's crazy.

Speaker 2 (27:40):
The response to the thirteen year old being stinky is
not to give her emotional trauma. Yeah, come on, for
god's sakes, mother in law, puberty.

Speaker 3 (27:50):
These are new stinks that she's having to deal with. Yeah,
come on, gotta learn new hygiene stuff. That's normal at
that age.

Speaker 4 (27:58):
Yeah, being stinky is a part of growing up, and
then you learn how to.

Speaker 3 (28:01):
Not be stinky.

Speaker 2 (28:02):
That's the American way Stinky's got it. Instead of husband
being able to relax in his own house with his
family after a long week of work, he is forced
to spend time outside his home just because she is
a selfish brat. Violet started crying and shouting at my
mother in law, which makes sense. After everyone calmed down

(28:23):
a little. My husband asked Violet, what is it with her?
He told her that she indeed smells bad and everyone
around can feel it. He told her, if she thinks
we are all biased and against her, then he will
call CPS. A counselor will document everything, and he will
take her mother to court for neglect.

Speaker 3 (28:39):
What this guys so extreme?

Speaker 2 (28:41):
This is like using a You know we have an
ant problem, all right, what are we gonna do? Well,
We're gonna shove a hand grenade down into the ant hill.

Speaker 3 (28:49):
Yes, yes, yes, idea just burned down the house. Yeah,
that's so extreme. We don't need to be called CPS
for hormonal stinks. Man.

Speaker 2 (29:04):
He explained to Violet that I am not against her,
No one is against her, but by smelling like this,
she is causing me to get sick a lot, and
showed her some of my medical reports where it's clearly
written that all the symptoms I'm having with this pregnancy.
Violet started crying again and claimed that she thought I
was exaggerating and doing it on purpose because her mother

(29:24):
told her pregnancy sickness is just an excuse and not
something real. Which look, it's like this is probably that's
the classic case of like confirmation bias. She probably was
pregnant and did not have any issues with smell. So
then she goes, well, that's not a real thing, that's
just fake. Yeah.

Speaker 3 (29:38):
It's like, well, yeah, because we all know that everyone's
pregnancy experience is exactly the same, right.

Speaker 2 (29:44):
Experience is relative. Yeah. Unfortunately, mother in law once again
got furious and accused Violet of being a liar. Mother
in law told her that all teenagers spends so much
time online and have access to so much information that
Violet could have just googled pregnancy symptoms and educated herself.
She then she refuses to enable Violet and will come
stay with me? Who what the mom? The mom?

Speaker 3 (30:07):
So now now we're leaving Violet alone at the house.
Mom's like, I can't take it anywhere either.

Speaker 2 (30:12):
No, I think I think it's that the mother in law.
From Ope's perspective, so this is a grandmother and I'm
pretty sure that Violet is staying at her mom's house. Yes,
so it would be more like the ex partner of
Ope's now husband is where Violet lives, and I think
the mother in law maybe lives.

Speaker 3 (30:30):
There as well.

Speaker 2 (30:31):
Okay, that's what it sounds like, which would be Violet's grandma,
So law, now Grandma's like, I'm gonna move in with
Ope and my son.

Speaker 3 (30:38):
It's like, now that we're bringing it up, man, I
don't like it either.

Speaker 2 (30:41):
Yeah, now that it's all out there, you do stink, Violet.
So here's where we all are now. Mother in law
got a bag and came to stay with me yesterday.
She will be staying until tomorrow when Violet is taken
back to her mom's. We took advantage of the situation,
and we also called my sister in law over. So
as I'm riding this, we are have a girl's weekend
at my place and I really enjoy it. And by

(31:03):
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Speaker 3 (31:30):
Okay.

Speaker 2 (31:31):
Husband wanted to take Violet to her mom's and come home,
but I told him not to. He should use this
weekend alone with Violet to fix things and overall parent
her and make her understand our rules and our conditions.
My husband will update us tomorrow on how things went
and what the next steps will be. I have no
idea it's going to happen, but I will not spend

(31:51):
too much energy on it. I need to focus on
my baby and my health, and Violet's parents need.

Speaker 3 (31:55):
To deal with their child.

Speaker 2 (31:57):
And that is the end of that story.

Speaker 3 (32:00):
Oh well, we got a good solution there.

Speaker 2 (32:02):
I kind of like the separation of duty there. It's like, yeh, look,
I get it, but that's not my kid, it's yours,
and I can't be her mom or her you know, So.

Speaker 3 (32:11):
Let those who are directly involved to figure it out
exactly exactly.

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Speaker 3 (32:20):
My sister ruined my wedding, so I blocked her, blocked.
This all started when my sister Ashley was diagnosed with
severe autism and ADHD around the age of two. It
was normal, just a lot of temper tantrums, but at
the age of five, she finally learned that she can
do anything she wants without consequences. That's true. Is an
age koda.

Speaker 2 (32:39):
I'm pretty sure that checks out.

Speaker 4 (32:41):
By the way.

Speaker 3 (32:41):
This comes from Dramatic Hamster and if you want to
submit your own stories, go to the ur slash Okay
story time subreddit. So whenever I had something she didn't have,
my parents would always either get her the same thing
or I had to give it to her. I always
tried to argue back, but my parents always said that
I was being unfair and to be nice to my
sister because of her condition. In some occasions, she would

(33:01):
even run into my room and brag about how mom
was taking her to the store or got a new
toy that I didn't have. Yeah, because she's five. She's
five years old.

Speaker 2 (33:10):
That's a five year old.

Speaker 3 (33:11):
It's a time to learn to not do that though.
I was pretty fed up with this, so I decided
to save up my allowance money for a lock for
my door so I could get some privacy. After my
sister tried one of her attempts to barge into my
room and realize that she couldn't open it. She started
to complain to my parents about it. I tried explaining
to my parents how she can't keep barging into my room.

(33:31):
My parents argued back, seeing how I'm being selfish and
how I should just let her do it because of
her condition. I couldn't win against them and had to
remove the lock. So I don't.

Speaker 2 (33:42):
Okay, Yeah, these parents are terrible. I'm already putting that
out there.

Speaker 3 (33:46):
Yeah, I just don't know how to handle it. I
think it was a little uninformed, perhaps, Yeah.

Speaker 2 (33:51):
But it's not even what's funny is that my indicator
is not even coming from the fact that they're just
like sort of being like, oh, let your sister do
whatever she wants because of her condition. Yeah, it's the
fact that Ope bought a lock at like eight years
old for their door. Yeah, that's why I installed it,
and the parents had no idea.

Speaker 3 (34:06):
That's what I was thinking. I'm like, and it confirms
in the next sentence, just like she's literally eight years
old and now nine that like, it's just this eight
year old screwing in a lock onto their door.

Speaker 2 (34:17):
Yeah, like, I don't know.

Speaker 3 (34:18):
Pretty crazy to me.

Speaker 2 (34:19):
I don't know how you get don't Yeah?

Speaker 3 (34:21):
Yeah, independent eight year old. Fast forward a few months.
I had just turned nine and I wanted to go
to a local arcade with all my friends. But of course,
my sister was complaining about how she couldn't choose where
my party was. Thankfully, my parents didn't let her choose.
When we got to the arcade, it was fine until
we went back into the party room. I was horrified.

(34:42):
Apparently my parents left my sister in the room for
a few minutes to go get me and my friends.
When we came back, the cake was all over the
floor and most of the presents were torn open or destroyed.
I was trying to hold back my tears while my
sister had a big grin on her face. My dad
had to bring her home. However, like all things she did,
she got away with it. My mom was telling me
she can't help it, it wasn't her fault. The only

(35:04):
thing you can do right now is to deal with it.
I broke down into tears after hearing what she said,
and stormed out of the room. Fast forward a few weeks,
I had barely been talking to my parents. Every chance
I got, I would avoid them. Thankfully, my parents let
me install the lock back on my door herself as
a nine year old, after Ashley went into my room
while I was changing. Ever since Ashley got into first grade,
she has constantly been asking for help with her homework,

(35:27):
and by help, I mean playing games while I have
to do it. My parents are always busy during work,
so they forced me to help her. One day, Ashley's
teacher assigned her a class project. The project was to
make your favorite fast food restaurant from cereal boxes. She
decided not to do anything until the last day before
it was due. That was my move in elementary's coming.

Speaker 2 (35:46):
That's the story for every Yeah student, correct a student,
Mom and need to go to the store and you
get a poster board.

Speaker 3 (35:55):
My mom was always like, why didn't you tell me
this earlier?

Speaker 2 (36:00):
No, when to do honey roll morrow?

Speaker 3 (36:03):
Tomorrow? Can you help me do it? That's the move?

Speaker 2 (36:07):
Oh, so you to do it?

Speaker 4 (36:08):
No, thanks mommy the best.

Speaker 3 (36:10):
Like usual, I had to help her again. I was
panicking because it was like nine o'clock and my bedtime
was ten. I asked her what her favorite fast food
place was. She didn't respond until thirty minutes went by,
and then she said, you choose. I was about to scream.
I chose the easiest one to make, which was McDonald's.
Fifty minutes went by. I finished the project, but what
she did it made me almost one two one alive her.

(36:31):
She decided to throw it across the room and stomp
on it. My parents went to check to see all
the noise, and my sister was on the floor pretending
to cry. Seeing how I broke it and I want
her to fail. I was shocked. My parents sided with
her again even before I got to argue back. I
was grounded for weeks. I felt like I wanted to
unlive myself, but I couldn't do it. Fast forward until

(36:51):
I was seventeen. My sister just turned fourteen and she
decided to bring her friend home. I thought nothing of it.
She has friends over all the time, but this time
was different. I went to the back room for like
five minutes, and when I got out, my room was trashed,
bed sheets all over the place, pillows in every corner,
the lamp knocked over. They even threw my computer on
the floor. If you were wondering, yes, I still had

(37:12):
the lock, but they picklocked it. Apparently her friend was
good at picking locks. My parents were on vacation. When
I called them to tell them about it, they just
told me that I was lying and to stop trying
to get my sister in trouble all the time. I
decided I needed to move far away.

Speaker 2 (37:28):
The parents were on vacation. Uh yeah, yeah, So it's
like there's these these are like the like chronically absentee,
like nonexistent, doesn't do anything to actually parent the kid's parents.

Speaker 3 (37:40):
Oh this is hard to hard to read. I spent
all junior and senior year working hard to get a scholarship.
Fast forward A year later, I had my graduation. My
parents and grandparents were all there except for my sister.
My parents came up with the excuse of how she
was sick and couldn't go, But they used that excuse
so many times that I couldn't even care anymore. Graduation
was really fun. My friend and I hosted an after

(38:01):
party at my house. My sister was nowhere in sight.
My parents said that she was sick but wasn't even
at home, or.

Speaker 2 (38:07):
So I thought, mmmmm a thought.

Speaker 3 (38:10):
Probably an hour later, we went to my room to
hang out only to see my sister with her friends
eating all over my bed. I saw crushed up chips
all over the floor. I had had enough. When my
parents saw this, they were furious. They grounded my sister
for a full month and her friends were never allowed over.
I was glad, but I was more glad to get
away from there. Wow. Okay, finally they're punishing her for something.

Speaker 2 (38:33):
Yeah a little late there, yeah.

Speaker 3 (38:36):
Fast forward a few months, I said my goodbyes to
my parents and I headed to college out of the country.
My sister was crying when I left, mainly because I
couldn't do her schoolwork for her anymore. She had to
repeat tenth grade again after she failed her finals for
cheating on her phone. My parents were furious about this.
I don't know if she got punished or not, since
it wasn't spoken about much. Fast forward a few weeks.

(38:56):
College is great so far. I had this girl, Mikayla,
who shared it dorm with me and we became really
great friends. We hung out and ate dinner together almost
every night. I majored as an IT specialist, going to
class every day. I sat next to my future a husband, Steven.

Speaker 2 (39:11):
oOoOO is he in Minecraft?

Speaker 3 (39:15):
It was almost love at first sight. I was a
bit nervous to ask him out on the first day,
but on the second day I had the courage to
ask him out. Wow, you're working fast girl.

Speaker 2 (39:25):
Second day he.

Speaker 3 (39:26):
Said he would love to and he thought I was
pretty cute. Happiness filled my eyes and I hugged him
without thinking. I thought I made a big mistake, but
to my surprise, he was fine with it. Fast forward
three years later, Stephen and I finally graduated from college
and got job offers out of office. After saving money
for a while, we bought a lovely two bed, one
bath house about fifteen minutes from our office. It had

(39:47):
been a while since I checked up on my parents.
I started a FaceTime call with them and we told
each other what had been going on in our lives.
My mom started to mention how Ashley just graduated from
high school and how she would love for me to
come visit again. We didn't mind taking vacation. After we
we got off the plane, I saw my parents waiting
for me, but not Ashley. Apparently Ashley still lives with
them and doesn't have any plans on going to college.

(40:07):
My parents were fine with it and supported her decision.
We all decided to go out for dinner the same night.
It was going well until Ashley started to flirt with Stephen,
which made him a bit uncomfortable. I think that's super fair.
Why why your girlfriend's sister is flirting with you? Why
at the first meeting?

Speaker 2 (40:25):
Why are we the way that we are?

Speaker 3 (40:28):
We don't like that, Ashley, Ashley why. I don't really
remember what he said, but I think he said no
thanks or I'm not interested. And Ashley was a bit embarrassed,
but she had another idea. She decided to scoot her
chair closer to him, which prompted him to push her away,
making him a bit pissed off. She then decided to
lean on him, saying how she is so much better

(40:50):
than I am, and how she is prettier. This got
him so pissed off that he just left the restaurant.
Fast forward eight years, Steve and I are about to
have our wedding. We had low contact with my parents
and sister, but we still invited them. I thought my
sister would have grown up by know. We had our
wedding at this nice hotel. On the wedding day, everything
was looking beautiful. Everyone was there except my sister. My

(41:12):
parents said she was running mate.

Speaker 2 (41:13):
God no, no, no, no no no no no no
no no no.

Speaker 3 (41:16):
I don't like it. I see you see in the
chat everyone ah ooh. That was until she came in
the door with a full on wedding dress. I was
shocked to see her do that. When I called her
out on it, she just said how she should be
able to wear it, and how it costs so much.
Your wedding dresses typiclarly cost a lot of money, but

(41:37):
you typically don't wear them to someone else's wedding.

Speaker 2 (41:40):
Don't you like this dress I got, it's like really
expensive and for weddings. It said it was a wedding dress,
So I decided to wear it to yours.

Speaker 3 (41:47):
Right, I went off on her. I told her that
I had sent out a dress code multiple times and
if she would have read the text I sent this
wouldn't have happened. She started to cry, and my parents
started to defend her, saying that she could just take
the dress off and it would be fine. I thought
that it would be okay. Fast forward to where I
was walking down the aisle. Ashley was sitting with her

(42:09):
arms crossed. I didn't mind it as Stephen, and I said,
are I dos? My sister jumped up and said, bo,
when are we going to get the cake? Oh my gosh,
what that's crazy. Can you imagine how silent it has
to be in that church or that field wherever they're
getting married, and they're just like, I do, I do, bo,

(42:33):
I won't cook.

Speaker 2 (42:34):
Yeah, I'm wild. I'm taking I'm taking you to the ocean, Ashley, Ashley,
I'm taking you to the ocean, and you're gonna hang
out with all the used car batteries that I throw
in there.

Speaker 3 (42:51):
Everyone in the room was staring at her. My parents,
who were sitting next to her, looked really embarrassed, and
you know what, I will look really embarrassed if you
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Speaker 2 (43:11):
It's all. It takes so quick, But there is a little.

Speaker 3 (43:13):
Bit more to this story. My parents tried to get
her out of the room when she ran out of
their arms and went right for the cake. No wait,
this is a recreation of the nine year old birthday. Wait,
she's getting all the cake.

Speaker 2 (43:25):
Give me that cake.

Speaker 3 (43:25):
Oh my gosh. The cake was all over the ground
and I saw her just eating its. Security I had
to escort her out like a.

Speaker 2 (43:35):
Scene out of The Walking Dead.

Speaker 3 (43:37):
Yeah, she's long.

Speaker 2 (43:40):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (43:40):
I was holding back tears as she just ruined my
whole wedding in front of me. After the wedding, I
decided to block Ashley from every site and I posted
about how she ruined my wedding. But I'm starting to
feel guilty. Was blocking her the right thing to do?
And that is the end of the story. Yeah?

Speaker 2 (43:58):
Why?

Speaker 3 (43:58):
Yeah? I mean you could always unblock her. That's not
decided for the rest of your life. So if you
feel guilty like you could still do something about it.

Speaker 2 (44:07):
You are not overreacting here with a blocking Yeah.

Speaker 3 (44:10):
She's not. She has not been good to you pretty
much your whole life. So do what you gotta do
to get her out of there.

Speaker 2 (44:17):
Yeah. I don't know you prioritize your own peace exactly.
But that is the end of the story and the
end of this episode. So if you love us, make
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Speaker 3 (44:26):
We love you and see you tomorrow.

Speaker 2 (44:31):
I found my biological sisters, but I don't want to
meet our biological parents, picking and choosing. I see I
thirty female, AM a Chinese woman who was adopted from
mainland China when I was a baby and grew up
in the UK. I grew curious about my roots and
if I had any family out there, so I took

(44:53):
a twenty three and me test. I found four full
sisters through this test. I am the oldest. My sisters
are twenty nine to only eight, twenty four and twenty
The three middle sisters are in America and the youngest
is in Germany. We have kept in contact via the
Internet and have even met in person twice before the
VIDs started. By the way, this comes from user challenge

(45:15):
Brave seventy twelve and if you want to submit your
own stories, go to the r slash Okay storytime Suburnate.
So I have two brothers I grew up with who
are my parents' biological sons, and as far as I'm concerned,
they and my parents are my true family. But I
have grown close to my biological sisters as we understand

(45:36):
each other a lot. What my parents know of my
birth story is that I was found in an alleyway
in a box, A classic story.

Speaker 3 (45:43):
So you were found in an alleyway in a box.

Speaker 2 (45:46):
Wow, that's where Harry Potter was found. That's not true, well,
not in an alleyway, but it was on the front porch.
My sisters were found relatively the same way. From what
they know, though, they were left outside of buildings in
public areas.

Speaker 3 (45:57):
So I'm a bit more bitter.

Speaker 2 (45:59):
Than they are about how we were abandoned, as I
was left out of the way where I could have
been missed. We recently got contacted by a new family
member found by the test, an eighteen year old full
brother who lives in France with our biological parents. Apparently
they moved there later in life. My biological sisters are
excited by this and eager to meet them. They want

(46:20):
the five of us to fly out together to meet
our brother and family. I've told them I won't stop them,
but I have no interest in meeting the couple who
clearly kept trying to have a boy and abandoned five
daughters that we know of, reminding them there could be
more we don't know about who haven't used twenty three
and meters. They feel I'm being unreasonable in this and
that I should at least go to meet our brother.

(46:41):
I'm fine meeting him one day, but not with them there,
and he and I have been exchanging emails for now.
I know they want the five of us to go
out as a united front in this and me not
wanting to go is disheartening for them, but I honestly
feel bitter in regard to the whole situation. Comments from
Third Truck, I is the charm, not the a hole.

(47:02):
They want to go, you do not. That's fine on
both sides. They have no business pushing you to go
meet biofamily. Shelluler O seven says, not the a hole.
This is a very personal trauma for you, and it
is especially worse for you as the one who is
the oldest and was the closest to not having a
life at all because of their abandonment. I hope you
and your brother form as strong of a bond as

(47:23):
you and your sisters have. It isn't his fault. Your
parents did this, and I hope they all come to
understand your feelings and stop pushing it. OPI says it
was a bit tough to work up the ability to
exchange emails with him, after all, he is the goal
they were clearly aiming for. That resulted in myself and
my bio sisters being abandoned. That being said, I reminded myself,

(47:44):
he's really just a kid and none of this was
his fault.

Speaker 4 (47:47):
Which is like a healthy mindset. But it's also fair
to be like, yeah, this is the kid that they
were waiting for.

Speaker 2 (47:53):
Yeah, exactly. It's a weird situation and you're definitely not
the a hole for being like, I don't know, I
don't want to meet them. Am I ruining my siblings experience?
It's like, you shouldn't be that they gets up to them.

Speaker 3 (48:03):
They can meet the parents if they want. Yeah, you don't, right.

Speaker 2 (48:07):
The baker syst not the ahole. I too and an
adopted person who was abandoned at birth outside of a
bodega in the bad part of town. I also took
a DNA test and ended up meeting my biological family,
and I regret it so very very much. Meeting my
siblings and birth parents sickened me so much that I
feel as though I'll never get my mind back to where.

Speaker 3 (48:28):
It used to be.

Speaker 2 (48:29):
Yesh, well, it sounds like this commentary needs to go
to some therapy about that. And I had the unfortunate
pleasure of being filmed for TV meeting them. It sucked
finding out that I have an older brother with the
same birthday as me, only he got to have a
birthday party and I got left outside in the cold.
Please don't ever think you're an a hole for not
wanting to meet your bio parents.

Speaker 3 (48:48):
You're not.

Speaker 2 (48:49):
Sometimes it's a lot worse than not knowing. Oh p,
He replies, I'm so sorry. The idea of being filmed
for that makes me want to throw up. I'm sorry
you had to put up with that. Agine why dad
suck finding out your oldest brother had the same birthday
as you. I was left in the alley in winter.
I'm not sure my exact birthday, but we have a

(49:09):
rough estimate and nothing else. If you ever want to
talk to someone who's similar in this, feel free to
hit me up toe select six six nine five. Sorry
to ask this, but these things just make my blood boil.
Did they at least seem remorseful? Did they understand how
evil what they did to you was? From what you're saying,
I guess not, and I guess you no longer talk

(49:31):
to them. Opie says, I'm not the one who met
their parents. You'd likely get a reply if you replied
to them. Is a mistake to make on who you
replied to the comics to the comment we just read,
not TOPI, No, I think maybe Opie's siblings are in
the chat, is what that said? No P replied, so okay.
Basically there was another commentary. Who was the one we

(49:52):
read about who went on a game show or whatever
They were talking about their experience, and then another commentary
was responding to that, and Nope was like that it's
not me. Oh yeah, yeah, okay, just keep going. Why
is this in here? To select sixty six ninety five?
Thank you and I'm so sorry you went through this
as a baby. I can only imagine the pain. I
hope you are happy and feel loved and valued by

(50:13):
your real family. There's an update one month later. After
some pushing from my bio sisters over getting in contact
with our bio parents, as while I didn't want to
fly out to meet them with my sisters, they still
want to talk to me, I finally consented to having
a zoom call with our bio parents as that was
the most I could handle. I'll be honest, it was

(50:34):
a shock to the system. I looked so much like
our bio mom. It was a little startling. So I
found out some answers to some important questions. Firstly, why
were we abandoned? As many of you can guess, it
was due to the one child policy. They wanted a son,
but there was additional internal pressure to this. My paternal
grandparents had told them if they kept a daughter, they

(50:56):
would be cut off and not have a penny of
the family money. It's why I was abandoned so differently
from my sisters. It was my paternal grandmother who took
me outside and abandoned me. My bio parents always assumed
that I had passed away and how she left me,
So they took over the abandonment of my sisters, which
is why they were left in better places.

Speaker 3 (51:18):
That like doesn't make it better.

Speaker 2 (51:20):
Man, I can't.

Speaker 3 (51:21):
That's like, that doesn't make it better at all.

Speaker 2 (51:24):
I can't imagine how ice cold you have to be
like a child, the ruthless ice cold, not just one.
It's like the equivalent of like the bird that's like
in the nest and it just like takes one of
the bird chicks up and just throws it out.

Speaker 3 (51:41):
Of the nest.

Speaker 2 (51:41):
It's like I'm done with you.

Speaker 4 (51:42):
It's like just it's like that your parents abandoned five
was it five girls?

Speaker 2 (51:49):
I think another one? It was five girls and then
another boy.

Speaker 4 (51:52):
Yeah, the boy, but abandoned five girls because they didn't
want to lose out.

Speaker 3 (51:56):
On the family money. Is just like, oh yeah, that's pretty.

Speaker 2 (51:59):
So it's like, well, at some point you're prioritizing money
over not being evil. Yeah, so maybe don't be evil?

Speaker 3 (52:07):
Yeah.

Speaker 4 (52:07):
And again, like I understand that there's a lot of
different like government st control things that were going on,
and like with the one child policy, but it's to
do that five times instead of not having another child.

Speaker 2 (52:20):
That is a choice that you made. Were there any
other children? There was one, a boy who would be
twenty two right now. Had everything went to plan, they
had been going to keep him, but apparently something was
wrong about him. I don't know what, and they didn't
expand on that, but apparently my paternal grandfather forced them
to give him.

Speaker 3 (52:36):
Up because he was ashamed.

Speaker 2 (52:38):
Why did they move to France? Gee whiz? I can
only imagine why someone would want to move out of
that situation. Yeah. After our youngest brother was born, they
finally gained financial independence from my paternal grandparents and were
able to move. They were the ones that asked their
son to take the test, hoping to find their other children.
Where does this lead? Wait? What the ones who abandoned

(52:59):
all the children then went, Hey, you should take that
test and find those kids that we abandoned. Hopefully they're
good now.

Speaker 4 (53:07):
Then find out that Opie's alive, and they're like, oh,
I thought I thought you died in that Ali crazy,
You're alive.

Speaker 3 (53:14):
That didn't make any sense, shocking. Where does this leave us?

Speaker 2 (53:17):
They were so happy to talk to me and kept
going on about how they now had most of their
children back and could have it all.

Speaker 3 (53:25):
You can't have it all. You should not be allowed
to have it all because.

Speaker 4 (53:30):
You made these choices. You can't have it all. You
can't just be like terrible and have it all allowed.

Speaker 2 (53:37):
Not really another way to put that, but like, yeah,
I cut them off there and told them they didn't
have us back. I expressed sympathy for what they had
been put through by my paternal grandparents, but pointed out
they chose money over me and over all of us,
and how they could have chosen to simply keep me
or any of the others and make their own way
in life, but they hadn't. I thanked them for the call,

(53:59):
but told I had a family already and had no
further interest in speaking with them. That I'd continue to
be in contact with my bio brother, but this was
all they'd get. They tried to beg me to stay
on the call, but I left, and I admit I
had a little bit of a sob afterwards. My adoptive
brothers ended up taking me out to drink afterwards, and
the three of us got intoxicated while I vented and

(54:21):
cried some. But it helped. It worked through things a lot.
So thanks everyone, I just figured you all deserved an update.
We have some comments here. Mom loves Monsters says I
really hope that the conversation with them gave you some
kind of closure. Thank you for sharing this update with us.
Laney twenty says yes, at least she got a few
questions answered. Seems like it would be better to know

(54:42):
than to always wonder. Doesn't exactly make it easier, but
perhaps provides some closure. Robinetta, I really hate the one
child policy. It sucks for so many people, especially girls,
because they are usually almost always treated horribly or given
up and treated worse. I know some families would rather
leave to another country than have to pick and choose

(55:02):
a child. If you choose not to be involved with
your bio parents, then I feel it's for the best,
because at the end of the day, they literally did
choose money over you, and what would have happened if
you were never found? Me and we one two three
says and also kept choosing to have children they abandoned
until they got the right one. They can feel bad
or they want culture pressure. I sympathize, but they did

(55:25):
this with all the daughters and one brother who wasn't
right quote unquote, Robinetta replies, exactly, all because they want
the perfect child. When I first watched the documentary about
the One Child the Rule, my heart broke seeing how
the girls they gave up were treated. So many cultures
treat girls like they are only good for home care
and birthing kids. I grew up in a household where
I was supposed to take care of everyone, despite being

(55:47):
a child myself. I have a daughter now and I
refuse to treat her the way I was. And we
have an update from two years later. Hopefully the sibling
dynamic isn't being impacted here.

Speaker 3 (55:59):
Yeah, I mean, I'm sure these a little bit.

Speaker 4 (56:02):
They also didn't really know each other until recently, like
they all found each other through the twenty three and me.

Speaker 2 (56:06):
Yeah, I think everyone should just be allowing everyone to
feel however they decide they feel about the situation.

Speaker 4 (56:13):
Like and again, I mean a lot of people are
commenting in the chat that, of course we have never
been through anything like this, and we'll never understand the
societal pressure or you know, in this case, the one
child policy and how that affects families and stuff like. Obviously,
i don't know how that feels, and I'm sure it's
not wasn't an.

Speaker 3 (56:30):
Easy decision to give up the children.

Speaker 4 (56:32):
But regardless of that, it does not mean that OP
owes them a relationship.

Speaker 2 (56:36):
Two years later, Hello everyone, I never expected to return
to this throwaway, but here I am a little refresher.
Myself and my four biological sisters were abandoned due to
the one child policy and found each other later in life,
as well as our bioparents and a younger brother. It
has come to my attention that my youngest biosister, who
is twenty two and lives in Germany. Has been in
regular contact with our Bio parents after the initial meeting,

(56:59):
and they offered to quite a bit of comfort after
her longtime boyfriend cheated on her and that relationship fell apart.
She has now revealed to us that she plans to
go to Guangzhou in the near future to meet a
man who are bio parents wish her to meet, as
he is supposedly the son of their friend, and our
Bio parents are apparently paying for this entire trip for

(57:19):
I'm sorry, she's about to go get maybe arranged with
a relationship right now from these people. Are we rocking
with that? I?

Speaker 3 (57:27):
Yes, she is.

Speaker 2 (57:28):
Look I know, I just said we should let everyone
feel how they want to feel about the situation. I
don't know if I feel like you should go get
set up with their friend in China. I don't know
if that's the vibe, because they might be friends with
people who would also be down with abandoning children.

Speaker 3 (57:43):
That would be a little bit skeptical.

Speaker 2 (57:44):
I think, yeah, I don't know if you guys are
the best matchmakers. It's just a well, at least you
know the guy's probably got money, because they seem to
prioritize that they better.

Speaker 3 (57:52):
Of money, so they did a lot of work to
have that money.

Speaker 2 (57:55):
Our sisters are a bit hesitant about this, but no
one wants to tell her it's a stupid idea, as
they feel she's a grown woman and it's up to her. Well,
you could still tell her it's a dumb idea and
live with the fact she is a grown woman. I
tried to express concern, but she would not hear it.
Solely on the dreamy idea of meeting a handsome man
from the country of our birth. I'm worried about her

(58:15):
and how badly this could go wrong. I also have
my doubts about the validity of the situation, as something
seems incredibly off about it. So I reached out to
her adoptive grandparents to let them know her plans and
my concerns about this whole situation. They were horrified by this,
as they had no idea, and their immediate concern was
that this was a potentially dangerous situation, and they assured

(58:38):
me they would handle this.

Speaker 3 (58:40):
Yeah, I mean it really could be dangerous.

Speaker 2 (58:42):
I mean you're essentially being shuttled off to a completely
different place to meet a guy who's definitely literally being
introduced to you as like a product, where it's like, oh,
this is our daughter. You could marry this and then
it would be yours and you can have her, and
then she can have some of your money, and then
you'd be your thing. Does she realize that's what she's

(59:03):
essentially signing up, where she's commodifying herself into like a
bride object.

Speaker 4 (59:09):
I don't think the problem here is necessarily arranged marriage,
because I think that, you know, our arranged marriage is
part of a lot of different cultures. But I think
the issue here is that it doesn't feel like she
is thinking this through at all, Like I don't know
if I because I think that in a lot of
arranged marriages where they're successful, you have family members that
you trust. She doesn't know these people. The only thing

(59:30):
that she knows about them is that they abandoned her.
So I would not trust these people to find me
a match that would.

Speaker 3 (59:36):
Work for me. Yeah, we already know what she wants. Money.

Speaker 2 (59:40):
I'm gonna get a hot Chinese rich man. Yeah, my
hot rich Chinese man, and that's it is who I
meant to be with. She has since reached out demanding
to know why I got in contact with her. Grandparents,
as it was not my place, and she can make
these decisions for herself. I told her that she may
want to wear rose tinted glasses when it comes to

(01:00:02):
our biological parents, but I'm not gonna let her fly
across the world to a likely dangerous situation to meet
a man she's never even spoken to before, which she
told me if he was a creep, she'd at least
get a free.

Speaker 3 (01:00:13):
Holiday out of it.

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if you can do anything to really stop this person.
You can run interference, but that.

Speaker 3 (01:00:50):
You've done the things that you can do.

Speaker 4 (01:00:52):
You contacted her family, you said, hey, this is happening,
just thought you should know. But at that point after that,
there's really not much else you can do, as you
guys only have recently become close or I don't even
know if you're close, but you've only recently come into
contact with each other.

Speaker 3 (01:01:06):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (01:01:07):
We ended up arguing quite a bit over this, with
some heated words being exchanged. Our bio sisters have told
me I shouldn't have went behind her back like that,
and if it was a mistake, she needed to learn
from it herself. But I worry she may not have
had the chance to learn from it if it was
a mistake.

Speaker 4 (01:01:24):
Yeah, some mistakes are really dangerous and you can't really
come back from them.

Speaker 2 (01:01:29):
Yeah, sometimes you cannot do some mistakes. Sometimes you got
to learn from other people's mistakes. Yeah, like the mistakes
made in the movie Taken. I'll give you one guess
what happens in that movie. Someone's taken, someone gets taken.

Speaker 4 (01:01:41):
Interesting, But I don't have any guesses about the end
of the story, so it's find out, okay.

Speaker 2 (01:01:45):
Meanwhile, my adoptive brothers have expressed relief I'm not that
much of an idiot, or else they'd have locked me
in my room until that idea left my head. I
do think they needed her plans for her own safety
if nothing else. But maybe I'm an and could have
handled it better. Was I wrong to go behind her
back like this? Somebody needed to know. She was basically

(01:02:06):
being like, yeah, I don't know. If he's a creep,
I'll get a free vacation. It's like, ooh, you might
get a permanent vacation.

Speaker 3 (01:02:12):
There's so many.

Speaker 4 (01:02:12):
Things that can happy again, Yeah, there are so many
dangerous things that can happen when you're abroad with people
that you don't know. Very sad story. Wow, but OPI
seems like she's in a much better place with much
better people. At least there's that. That's the end of
that story.

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My I thirty nine female, lost my mom fourteen years
ago to cancer and my dad seventy five male, were
married three years later to Nancy, seventy one female. They
met online and married nine months after they met. During
the time they were dating, I was never allowed to
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Normally I'd be like nine months, that's so quick. But

(01:03:03):
I feel like when you're seventy five, you're like, let's
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I did, and they were both quiet and seemed nervous.

(01:03:28):
They had gotten some of my favorite restaurant takeout for lunch.
Nancy went to the bathroom after lunch, and Dad brought
out chocolate cake. I realized what they were going to
tell me, as Dad had been nervous about telling me
when he had proposed to someone else the year before
that fell through for several reasons, and Nancy was his rebound,
and that they were trying to bribe me with food
like I was a toddler. I was upset because that

(01:03:51):
should have been a conversation between me and my dad,
only especially because I still lived with him, although I
had been saving money to move out. It probably wasn't
the most mature move, but I grabbed my keys in
purse and left the house before Nancy came out of
the bathroom. When I came back hours later, it was
to a piece of chocolate cake on the counter and
a note that they were getting married in a month
and I had a month to move out. In a

(01:04:12):
petty move, I refused to touch that piece of cake.
They were moving to a house my dad bought for
her with money he made from selling my mom's child
at home, which he did without telling me because he
knew I would be upset, so he denied me the
chance to be on the property one last time for closure.
Because my dad had made comments to me less than
six months after my mom passed away about different women

(01:04:33):
at church, he knew that he didn't want a date.
It felt like he never grieved her. I had a
really hard time with this and acted out some. I
did go to the wedding and Nancy's friend came up
to me and asked what she had ever done to
me to treat me so terribly. I told her it
wasn't any of her business. My friend, Ivy, came with me,
and her job was to keep me from becoming a
viral video. I was behaving for her sake and so

(01:04:53):
I would still have two functional arms. After it was over,
we stayed and ate a piece of cake, which was
the nastiest tasting wedding cake both Ivy and I had
ever had, and left early. About a year later, I
wrote my dad and Nancy a letter apologizing for my
part of this, but I received no apology from them
for how they hurt me. Well, we were at a
different place in our lives, as if that made up

(01:05:14):
for how they had hurt me. Nancy would always put
her family before my side of the family, and she
seemed to want to drive a wedge between my siblings
and me and our father. I also tried reaching out
to my step siblings during the early years of their marriage.
I wanted to build a better relationship, but they weren't interested.
That was hard, but I can't make people like me.
The only family that lives close to me is the

(01:05:36):
toxic half of my mom's family, whom I am no
contact with. My siblings lived six and twenty two hour
drives away from me. Nancy's family was the only family
I had close by, and I felt very alone every
time I was with them for family gatherings. Fast forward
to twenty twenty one. I had been diagnosed with a
number of different health issues since they married, and I

(01:05:58):
had to change how I ate because of that. I
also did an elimination diet and found that I had
a mild dairy allergy milk, chocolate, and cheese. I had
to go dairy free to stop the nausea, stomach aches,
and other gi problem.

Speaker 2 (01:06:10):
Sorry it's not funny, but it's just the way that
was written makes it sound like it's like irip milk
chocolate and cheese, eat like a charcouterie board with just
like milk chocolate candies and like swishy.

Speaker 3 (01:06:22):
That good opie's entire diet. Yeah, that sounds so good.

Speaker 4 (01:06:26):
My dad and stepmom didn't make me a dairy free
cake for my birthday that year. It was laxtose free
and it's still upset my stomach. Wait, it was lactose free,
so maybe they just kind of misunderstood, like it wasn't
dairy free, but it was lactose free, and so they
thought that would be fine. I was frustrated with them
because as I had slowly changed what I ate to
stay healthy and prevent medical problems. They would not accommodate

(01:06:47):
my needs at family gatherings, but they would if I
came to their house to.

Speaker 3 (01:06:50):
Have dinner with them. But they literally did. They tried.

Speaker 4 (01:06:54):
I feel like they just made a mistake maybe, but
also I don't know. At Christmas, I came into a
family gathering where the menu was supposed to be spaghetti
and was changed last minute to pizza. Nothing they were
serving was safe for me to eat. They did offer
to make me a sandwich, but I declined because I
was upset and had lost my appetite.

Speaker 2 (01:07:11):
Okay, so they offered to fix the problem, and then
you said no because I want to be upset. Sorry,
I had to translate that for you. Yeah, not saying
that they're fine, not saying that they have not, you know,
been annoying, but.

Speaker 4 (01:07:23):
Annoying, and they've been rude, but like they it feels
like you were being more childish than your age. I
left shortly thereafter because Nancy's grandkids were screaming and gave
me a migraine. In fall of twenty twenty two, I
got a text from my dad apologizing for some perceived slight.
My therapist was encouraging me to talk to my dad
about how I felt. Yeah, because I don't think you've

(01:07:44):
done that.

Speaker 2 (01:07:45):
Give that therapist a raise in retrospect.

Speaker 4 (01:07:47):
This might have been a conversation better had in person,
but I think it would also hurt worse when he
blew me off. I sent him a text saying that
this didn't bother me, but I was really hurt that
they would not accommodate my dietary needs. A family gatherings
and at Christmas, I was the only one who didn't
have presents to open because they allegedly didn't exchange gifts
for adults.

Speaker 2 (01:08:06):
Thirty, you're not getting Christmas presents like that at the
Christmas party for the kids. You're not. Also said you
lied at the very beginning. You lied. You said this
didn't really bother me, it's bothering you.

Speaker 3 (01:08:18):
You're lying.

Speaker 4 (01:08:18):
They said that's what dirty Santa was for. Although I
usually ended up with stuff I didn't like, every other
adult had at least one gift, even though they were
supposedly just doing gifts for the kids on Christmas.

Speaker 2 (01:08:28):
Night, but thirty buy yourself your own Christmas presence you're thirty.

Speaker 4 (01:08:32):
Well, okay, no, I think thirty year old should get
Christmas gifts. I disagree with that. I also explained that
not every dish had to be dairy free, but I
just wanted enough for an actual meal. I was raised
in a tradition of hospitality, where if you have people
over to your house, you accommodate their needs within reason.
It does seem, you know, okay, I will say.

Speaker 2 (01:08:49):
Oh, he's being a professional victim right now.

Speaker 3 (01:08:52):
Really quickly. I think it is.

Speaker 4 (01:08:53):
It can be annoying if like you're not getting gifts
and everyone else is getting gifts.

Speaker 3 (01:08:56):
I will give you that.

Speaker 4 (01:08:57):
I think it's annoying if you're not, like there's literally
never any dairy free options, even though they know about
your thing. But I don't think it's fair to say
that they're not trying to accommodate because they offered to
make you food.

Speaker 3 (01:09:09):
Offered to make you food.

Speaker 2 (01:09:10):
By the way, they do do an adult gift exchange,
so you do could have gotten a president. It's like
dirty Sannah literally and it's like, I don't.

Speaker 4 (01:09:16):
Know, Yeah, I think the fact that I will say
it is a little bit sus that OP didn't get
any gifts when other the people got like one gift.
I think, so that's where I'm like, uh, seems like
that's a little weird.

Speaker 3 (01:09:27):
Yeah, but I don't know if you, as the.

Speaker 4 (01:09:29):
Host, are buying hot dogs and hamburgers for everyone, neither
of which I can eat. Is it really that hard
to buy a piece of chicken and throw it on
the grill with some salt and pepper. Apparently so, because
I would have to bring food for me and also
something to contribute to their meal. Anyways, I've never heard
back from my dad for three days, and then it
was a Happy Friday and hours for a week. I
told them right there that I would not be coming

(01:09:50):
for Thanksgiving. I guess they didn't believe me, because Nancy
texted me the week of Thanksgiving about the dinner. I
explain what had happened and why wouldn't be there. I
also let her know that we could a conversation about Christmas.
This is her response to me, verbatim. I am not
ready to have this conversation with you. My concern and
disappointment is your choice not to spend Thanksgiving with your dad. Instead,

(01:10:12):
you dump this crap on him about food and gifts.
I would eat crap or starve to be able to
be with my dad on Thanksgiving. One day, you could
regret this decision. Your dad won't be around forever. I
should mention at this point that Nancy is a Christian counselor. Yes,
you read that right. She's a counselor. A counselor just
referred to my feelings as crap.

Speaker 2 (01:10:32):
Yeah, hey, buddy, that's called cold water. Sometimes you gotta
have it because she's not wrong. Yeah, dad could drop
dead tomorrow, dude.

Speaker 4 (01:10:40):
I think she has her own control issues because her
ex cheated on her with their daughter in law's sister.

Speaker 2 (01:10:45):
Woof.

Speaker 4 (01:10:46):
She told my best friend that she rules her family
not long after they got married.

Speaker 3 (01:10:51):
I don't know what that means, we keep reading.

Speaker 4 (01:10:53):
That is why I think the exclusion all these years
has been intentional. I am not close to my step
siblings in all but one basically ignit for me. The
one who does talk to me is kind, but I
think they are also people pleasers, so they go along
with what Nancy says. Anyways, back to Thanksgiving. The next day,
I got bombarded with text from my stepsister's husband. He
was very pushy about my coming to Thanksgiving, but I

(01:11:15):
held my ground. My mom's birthday was the day before
Thanksgiving that year, so I went to a hockey game
that night, got home very late, and slept late the
next morning before going to Thanksgiving dinner with a friend.
Nancy also hates hockey, saying that it teaches kids to
be and that violence never solves anything. Nancy loves to
put down what I like and will say lots of
things like that.

Speaker 3 (01:11:35):
When I liked the Hunk.

Speaker 2 (01:11:36):
Nancy will say lots of things like this is never
the answer that monster.

Speaker 4 (01:11:41):
Well, she says she hates hockey because it teaches kids
to be violent.

Speaker 3 (01:11:44):
That's little silly. Yeah, that is a little extra.

Speaker 4 (01:11:47):
When I liked the Hunger Games books and was excited
about seeing the movies in theaters, she would say that
it's glorified violence and taught kids to become school shooters
were violent. Okay, then girl doesn't know the Hunger Games
because the whole point is that is really anti You're
not getting the point there.

Speaker 3 (01:12:02):
Anyways.

Speaker 4 (01:12:02):
It was good to go to the hockey game because
I had missed going to games. It honored my mom,
as we went to a lot of hockey games when
we had a local hockey team, and it gave a
certain fighter finger to Nancy. Nancy and her family were
nice to me through my birthday and Christmas that year. Okay,
then Nancy started yelling at me on a trip to
see my brother over in ear.

Speaker 2 (01:12:21):
Ear right, because you're probably like driving your father insane.

Speaker 4 (01:12:25):
My sister in law was sitting with me when it happened,
and I think she finally realized that everything I told
her over the years about how I felt about Nancy
was legitimate. My family can't celebrate Christmas on Christmas because
Nancy's family does that, and God forbid they are inconvenienced.
We're always relegated to having our Christmas close to New
Year's and Nancy always seems to find a way to

(01:12:46):
ruin it. Anyways, Dad defended Nancy's behavior and was dismissive
of my complaints. He's always like this, so I don't
know why it still hurts so much. When my mom
was mean to me during her treatment, he would defend her,
saying that she was going through the chain of life. Yes,
he used menopause as an excuse for her behavior.

Speaker 2 (01:13:04):
There's absolutely no way that Opie is now going back
and being like my mom was mean to me while
she was going through There's no way, right, is that
what just happened?

Speaker 4 (01:13:14):
Wait and then but that I'm gonna read this next sentence. First, Yes,
he used menopause and as an excuse for her behavior,
but that doesn't excuse how awful mom was to me.

Speaker 3 (01:13:23):
In the end.

Speaker 4 (01:13:24):
I shouldn't be someone's emotional one two bag. Really pause, Opie, No,
you shouldn't be. To be clear, you should not be
someone's emotional one.

Speaker 3 (01:13:33):
Two one bag.

Speaker 4 (01:13:34):
But I think it's also really important to remember that
when people are going through cancer, it messes with your brain. One,
it's terrifying because you're going through the process of like
actively passing away when you know that it's happening and
you know that there's nothing that you can do. And
also it's literally changing your brain. So I think it's
a little bit fair that your dad was defending your mom.

Speaker 2 (01:13:56):
Can we maybe point to something your mom was going
through that could have made her maybe a little emotion
charged her unstable, maybe the thing she was in the
hospital for.

Speaker 3 (01:14:03):
Anyway, his most important relationship in life is that of
his wife, and he will defend whoever is in that position,
whether it is my Mom or Nancy, even when they're
hurting me.

Speaker 2 (01:14:13):
This is actually the first time where it's like professional
victim has entered the story, like this is a professional victim.

Speaker 4 (01:14:20):
The following year, Thanksgiving was the last straw. I regretted
saying yes to going as soon as I agreed to it,
but they said they would try to work on making
sure I had what I needed for my dietary restrictions okay,
which Nancy keeps getting confused about. She likes to say
I'm gluten free when it's dairy free, and she also
paints it as a fad diet that I'm doing. She
does a new diet every other month, so that's rich

(01:14:41):
coming from her.

Speaker 3 (01:14:41):
She's seventy, which is yeah, like a whole comment. I think,
I mean, like one probably older than that. She's older.

Speaker 4 (01:14:47):
Thanksgiving that year was my mom's birthday, and I was
already having a tough time. I get there and I'm
told that I won't be seated with my dad. For
the first time ever, they have assigned seats. My seat
is in a different room for my dad, and I'm
with my stepsisters in laws. They're nice people, but we
have nothing in common. They didn't speak to me the
whole meal between that and my mom's birthday and them

(01:15:09):
not making all of the few dishes I asked for
dairy free.

Speaker 3 (01:15:12):
I was so close to losing it.

Speaker 4 (01:15:13):
Which I think OP is right for being upset when
they've communicated that they need some dairy free options and
were told that there would be some. I think this
is fair. Yeah, I'm trying to the few.

Speaker 2 (01:15:24):
No no, no, no, no, no, no. W's for Op
in this story. Babe, we're thirty nine, we know we're
allergic to dairy. We got to start taking accountability. You
want to make sure that you have food to eat
at the place where you've been repeatedly having issues with
people not understanding what you can and can't eat, time
to bring your own stuff. It's not being mad at
other people, I think in.

Speaker 4 (01:15:44):
This case because they had the conversation, But I think
going forward, I'd be like, well, they don't care about
my dietaria struction so old.

Speaker 2 (01:15:52):
They're in their seventies.

Speaker 4 (01:15:53):
It could literally just be like I just it's I
think there is a little bit of leave way and
call give but not. I left and went for a
walk in the park behind my stepsister's house and watched
the squirrels for about forty five minutes. When I came back,
everyone but my dad, Nancy, and my stepsister's family were gone.
I sat down with my dad and talked. I told
him that today I had been a rough day, and

(01:16:14):
he changed the subject. I also wasn't going to be
able to see my brother that year.

Speaker 2 (01:16:18):
For Christmas.

Speaker 4 (01:16:18):
We had been renting a house somewhere in the middle
of the drive between his house and ours to celebrate
our Christmas. I only ad Thursday to Sunday available, but
Nancy made reservations for Friday to Monday without talking to me.
I couldn't go because I would have had to drive.
I also couldn't drive that far on my own because
of migrains and other health issues. As I sat there

(01:16:39):
talking with my dad, I overheard that the reason Nancy
had made the reservation starting on Friday was because her
niece was coming in from out of state. Gina's mom
is Nancy's sister, and she passed away unexpectedly when Gina
was little. They treat Gina like royalty, and even though
they could afford to go see her whenever they want,
and I cannot afford to go see my brother unless

(01:16:59):
I go with my dad. She had to spend one
extra day with Gina and deny me the opportunity to
see my brother for Christmas. Another example of our side
of the family getting the short stick. I left and
went home and watched movies that Mom and I used
to watch and ate pumpkin pie. Because Nancy's weirdo family
won't eat pumpkin pie on Thanksgiving. That's messed up. Actually,
I agree they are weird. Some people just don't like

(01:17:21):
pumpkin that's crazy. Pie is the best dessert ever.

Speaker 2 (01:17:25):
Yes, that is actually the craziest thing that you could
have said.

Speaker 3 (01:17:30):
It's true ever my favorite dessert. You can maybe argue the.

Speaker 2 (01:17:33):
Best fite all pie based desert favorite.

Speaker 3 (01:17:37):
As soon as you move it out of that can dessert?

Speaker 2 (01:17:40):
Man, stop lying.

Speaker 3 (01:17:41):
No, I'm not lying.

Speaker 2 (01:17:42):
I'm not even lying.

Speaker 4 (01:17:45):
When I was three years old, they found me in
a pumpkin pet maybe that was for three or four.
My aunt was like, oh, like, there's just dessert and
I was like, what's that And she's like, pumpkin pie,
but you're not gonna like it, like you don't want it,
And I was like, no, I want it.

Speaker 3 (01:17:57):
You're like all I bet and she's like, okay, like
you're not gonna lie. I had it. I was like,
this is amazing.

Speaker 4 (01:18:03):
More and then one time my other arm though, I
was like this is amazing. The other time, another aunt
babysat for me, and she took Sam and I to
a grocery store and she said, you guys can pick
out one thing. Sam picked out a big bag of chips.
I picked out a whole pumpkin pie. I love funking pie.

Speaker 3 (01:18:18):
Oh my god, she loves my god like it's not
a lie.

Speaker 2 (01:18:24):
I only like pumpkin pie that one time a year,
and only a little bit. I'll eat one.

Speaker 4 (01:18:29):
I think punkin pie is so good because I only
have it one time of year.

Speaker 3 (01:18:33):
That's why you do.

Speaker 2 (01:18:35):
It's the best dessert when you have it one time.

Speaker 3 (01:18:37):
It's so good.

Speaker 2 (01:18:38):
Yes, I agree with you. We have to have a
conversation about this later, because what's going on.

Speaker 4 (01:18:44):
I have always had to make it for myself because
no one but Dad would eat it.

Speaker 3 (01:18:48):
Why would you eat it? Girl? Just save it? Yeah.

Speaker 2 (01:18:51):
See, look now she's trying to be a victim about
having more pumpkin pie to eat.

Speaker 3 (01:18:56):
Wait, there's a really funny comment.

Speaker 4 (01:18:57):
I lay in bed that night and decide that I
was not gonna let me treat it like that again.

Speaker 3 (01:19:01):
I didn't think that they would respond well to uh,
you stink it.

Speaker 4 (01:19:05):
I'm not coming back until you treat me a better message. Instead,
I found other places to be when I knew they
were gathering. I work with women who have been mistreated
on Christmas and helped out a friend whose spouse had
a serious medical issue at Thanksgiving last year. I'm catching
some flak from some people who actually do seem to
miss me. This, however, is the plan until something drastically changes,

(01:19:25):
and it doesn't seem that anything will change. Nancy's brother
passed away this year, and they didn't mention me in
the obituary, even though I am supposed to be family
and did spend a lot of time with them over
the years. I took time off work to go to
the funeral and burial. After the burial, I was asked
come to a meal for the family. They were having
a meal back at the church for the family. I
just looked at them and said no. They didn't let

(01:19:47):
me know this ahead of time, presumably because they didn't
want to deal with my dietary restrictions. I told them no,
and then I had to get back to work.

Speaker 3 (01:19:54):
Here's a killer thought.

Speaker 2 (01:19:55):
Maybe they didn't tell you ahead of time, because you've
kind of made it very clear you don't mess with
any of these people. So they are like, maybe we
just like won't let's not talk to op. Op doesn't
like it when we talk to them.

Speaker 4 (01:20:06):
Because Nancy's brother passed away this year and they didn't
mention me in the obituary. Why would you be mentioned
in the obituary?

Speaker 2 (01:20:11):
Again, just I'm so go outside, Op, actually, Op, go inside.

Speaker 4 (01:20:16):
I legitimately don't understand why you would be mentioned in
the obituary for your dad's step like your stepmother's brother
that you have no relation to.

Speaker 2 (01:20:27):
Well, she wanted to be in the obituary, saying how
and by the way, Nancy sucks. I don't understand why
you would be my step grandma. I don't like her anyway,
and that's in the obituary.

Speaker 3 (01:20:38):
Let's keep going.

Speaker 4 (01:20:40):
I continue to distance myself from them, and I really
struggle through the Thanksgiving and Christmas holidays because my mom's birthday,
the anniversary of her death, and my birthday, which was
the day after we buried my mom, are all between
those holidays. I can't hold my trauma plus thirds anymore.
Nancy's cheating act still comes to all their holiday gatherings,
and it causes a lot of tension, even though they

(01:21:02):
would like to pretend that they're one big, happy family.
I think that's why Nancy responds to me the way
she does now, because I shattered the illusion that they
were one big, happy family by advocating for what I needed.
I haven't totally stopped seeing them for the holidays. I
get together with my dad sometimes Thanksgiving weekend and away
from the family gathering, and we had a tradition of
Christmas breakfast with just my dad, me and Nancy. However,

(01:21:25):
I refuse to be there for the family gatherings where
I feel unseen and unwanted. By the way, You're always wanted.
And you can go listen to full episodes with stories
just like this. Just go to Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or
iHeartRadio and search.

Speaker 3 (01:21:39):
Up Bookey story Time. This is a little bit more
to this story. But do you have any final thoughts?

Speaker 2 (01:21:44):
Yeah? I think what was that last sentence right before
the tagline, because that was really.

Speaker 4 (01:21:49):
I refuse to be there for the family gatherings where
I feel unseen and unwanted.

Speaker 2 (01:21:53):
I refuse to be there. So now this is going
to start the loop, the spiral of It's like, well,
you're not there because you feel a certain way, so
you remove yourself. Everyone sees you remove yourself and they go.
I guess OP doesn't want to be here anymore, So
no one's gonna say, oh, we need to go fix this.

Speaker 3 (01:22:12):
It's gonna go well.

Speaker 2 (01:22:13):
OP, as an adult who is thirty nine, has made
her own choice and does not want to associate with us,
So we will respect that choice. I guess, yeah, especially
considering it was made in a way that feels a
little hostile.

Speaker 3 (01:22:27):
Maybe she doesn't even want to hear from us.

Speaker 2 (01:22:29):
In the first place, but instead I feel like OP
is gonna take years of probably like silence or a
little to no contact as like, see, I was right,
they all hate me. They want nothing to do with me.
You have put yourself in this position right now.

Speaker 3 (01:22:43):
Yeah, I mean, OPI is a dairy allergy? Is that it?
Or is there more?

Speaker 4 (01:22:48):
Because I said so? They said they couldn't eat hot
dogs or hamburgers either. I don't know, but there's a
little bit more. They are the only people in my
life who flattern't refuse to accommodate my dietary restrictions, and
it's very hurtful to me. It's interesting because Nancy's grandson
is now gluten free. I haven't heard why, but they
are accommodating that. The family also accommodated when my stepsister

(01:23:08):
had the VID and couldn't stand the taste of onions.
They tasted awful to her, so they would leave them
out for It's not that they can't accommodate, it's that
they won't. So am I the a hole?

Speaker 2 (01:23:18):
I don't even know if you're an a hole? You're
just like kind of childish.

Speaker 4 (01:23:21):
I think that you are. Like, if that is the case,
I think again. I think you're valid for being upset,
but like, just the way that you've reacted, it feels
very childish.

Speaker 2 (01:23:29):
It's like knowing that you're thirty nine really changes the
way this story gets processed in our head, and it's
like that's you know, it's like that's a reality of existence.
It's like you will have more sympathy for like the
small child than you will for the fifty year old adult. Yeah,
because the small child is just a little more blameless
and also can't make their own food right. It doesn't
understand Like even if you were twenty, it's like, all right,

(01:23:50):
you still don't really get the ins and outs of
like being an adult. It's like and honestly, like a
lot of us never like that's kind of the big
lie is that, like at some point you wake up
and you're like, I get it. It's like everyone seems
to just be like no, no, no, we make it up
the entire time, and some of us just end up
in better positions than others. But like once you hit forty, dude,
it's like I can't hear you being in your victim

(01:24:13):
mentality state. You need to be solving problems instead of
amplifying them and then trying to say, see, everyone, look
at this.

Speaker 3 (01:24:20):
That's the end of that story.

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