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00:12 r/AITAH - [4] Aitah for refusing to adopt my stepdaughter?
13:43 r/JUSTNOFAMILY - I Hid My Wheelchair From My Stepsister “Who Needs It”
31:38 r/AITAH - aita for refusing to pick up my half brother from school until his step mom apologizes to me?
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey, this is Sam.
Speaker 2 (00:00):
This is John, your og Okay Storytime podcast host, and
we got some delicious, juicy stories coming up. But if
you want to hear that deliciousness, you know, just stick
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our sponsors. I refuse to adopt my stepdaughter.
Speaker 1 (00:14):
She's gonna have to find new parents now.
Speaker 2 (00:16):
I'm thirty female and my husband is thirty four male,
and my stepdaughter is twelve. My stepdaughter's mom passed away
when she was two, and I came into her life
when she was eight. We have a close relationship that
I feel is normal for a stepparent. She doesn't call
me mom, and that's okay. I want her to do
whatever she's comfortable with. By the way, this comes from
Rare Ranger forty fifty six, and if you want to
sumit your own stories, go to the r slash Okay
(00:38):
Storytime Separate it. I'm Sophia, I'm Riley, and Op says
these past few weeks she's been asking if I would
adopt her, apparently as she had talked with my husband
and he told her it would be a good idea
to ask me. I told her to let me think
about it. When I asked my husband why he thought
adoption was a good idea. He said it would make
her feel like family and prove her from feeling different
(01:01):
from our kids when the baby comes.
Speaker 1 (01:03):
Real quick PowerPoint power point. I'm gonna need a PowerPoint
twelve year old.
Speaker 2 (01:08):
Yeah, you have to give me good reasons why I
should adopt you.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
I'm gonna need a pros and cons list, and I
need you to think about the cons here.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
What can you do for me? Sharks, I'm here today
to ask you to adopt me. Gotta do a shark pitch.
I told him the kid's not even here yet, so
if that's the case, then let her therapist talk to
her about it. First. He asked why I didn't want
to adopt her. I told him that we aren't on
that level yet. She doesn't call me mom and has
never really treated me like a real mom, more like
(01:36):
a bonus adult when she needs one. And I said
that's fine, But if I adopt her, that means I'm
her mom, and if she doesn't see me as mom,
then why would I adopt her? I told her I
wouldn't adopt her right now, and she was sad and
started crying. It feels like she wants like this is
kind of the way that she's transitioning into seeing you
as mom.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
Yes, legally on paper.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
Yeah, she's like, you're not my mom and it's legal.
Speaker 1 (02:01):
Oh but what if the school calls, They're gonna call
for my mom. And if it's not on paper, she
can't call.
Speaker 2 (02:07):
You can't come. You just can't come. It's the rules.
I see it to be real.
Speaker 1 (02:12):
I've met twelve year old girls. Sometimes they can be evil.
Speaker 2 (02:16):
Do you think that she's got another plot going on?
Speaker 1 (02:19):
I don't know why, but that is in the back
of my head. In that could be, you know, from
twelve year old Riley getting rejected by the girls. That
would mean to me, Yeah, that could also be in
my head.
Speaker 2 (02:31):
Maybe she just wants to be adopted and that's it,
no ulterior motives. I explain that she doesn't really see
me as mom and that if we got closer in
the future, I would consider it, But I think she
needs to understand what she's asking first. How long is
four years? So it's not like that long, but it
definitely would be, you know, fairly long for you know,
(02:55):
a kid who's eight years old and is now twelve,
like those are pretty Yeah, it's a third the mental years.
Speaker 1 (03:01):
Yea.
Speaker 2 (03:03):
She told her grandmother on her mom's side, and they
said it was disrespectful of my husband to even suggest it. Well,
his family thinks I should just do it to make
the girl feel part of the family. I do think
it's weird that the dad brought it up to his
daughter before talking to Opie about it, Like, I feel
like it could have been, Hey, how do you feel
about adopting her? You know, wanted to gauge reaction, and
(03:26):
then if OPI was like, yeah, she if she's down,
I'm down. Yeah, and then you go to the daughter.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
Yes. This feels like a little game of chest somehow.
Speaker 2 (03:35):
So he's trying to trap It feels like he's got
the plot.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (03:40):
The main reason I won't adopt her is because I
don't feel as she's asking for the right reason. I
think she's asking because she doesn't want to feel left out,
not because she wants me to be her mom. Also,
she has other mother figures. Her grandmother and aunt have
done a lot of motherly things with her, and some
people don't count them as mother figures, but I do.
I never said adopt was off the table. It just
(04:02):
mainly is for now until she gets older, understands it more,
and wants me because she sees me as a mom.
Let me explain what I mean when I say she
doesn't treat me like a mom. If she was old
enough to go wedding dress shopping, she wouldn't pick me
for that. She would go to her aunt and grandma,
and nothing's wrong with that. Since I'm not her.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
Mom, I see what you're saying.
Speaker 2 (04:20):
But I know if I had my own daughter, that's
a mother daughter experience. I want so for things you
go to a mom for, she goes to them, and
nothing's wrong with that. But if she was my daughter,
I would expect her to go to me. Do I
see her as my daughter? Kinda? I do, but I
also see her as a stepdaughter. I know some people
think feeling left out is a reason to get adopted,
(04:41):
but in my opinion, it's not. For example, last year,
she was upset that we went to my mom for
Christmas and she went to her mom's parents, so she
felt left out. We said every other Christmas she could
come with us, and she was happy. If I adopted her,
that wouldn't have fixed the issue at all. It would
have just put a bandit on it and she still
would have fell left out.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
Hot take real quick. Yes, and now we're just giving
our best advice. We haven't been through any of this before,
so if you have, leave your comments down below. If
I'm marrying someone and they have a kid, yeah, I
would try to be a great father figure. I'd probably
try and put as much emphasis as I can, and
hopefully my partner in the scenario would too. Doesn't really
(05:24):
feel like that's the focus of this family. So this
is why it feels out of the blue to request
this exactly.
Speaker 2 (05:30):
It feels like, oh, he wasn't trying to, you know,
pressure her stepdaughter into seeing her as any like in
any type of way. She was just like, whatever you're
comfortable with. And it doesn't seem like they have a
bad relationship, no, But now it feels like the dad
is trying to pressure it. Probably because he's about to
have a kid. Yeah, he's like, I want my whole
family to be like united and stuff.
Speaker 1 (05:50):
Yeah, and right for the throat he's going rather than hey,
let's have a picnic, a family picnic. Let's I don't know,
go to a water part. Yeah, do some mother do
some family actists.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
I feel like he could he could work on the
bonding before he suggested the adoption.
Speaker 1 (06:07):
See before the adoption, I'm stepdad, dude. We're playing Katan.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
Yeah, do work every night.
Speaker 1 (06:12):
Every night, we'ren Peyton, noil's getting some tea time going.
We're doing it all.
Speaker 2 (06:20):
So if she feels like she doesn't belong, I'd rather
figure out why she feels that way rather than adopt
her and have her still feel that way about her
calling me mom. I assume if I adopt her she
would call me mom since I would be her mother.
But if she didn't, it would be okay. And I
didn't tell her I wouldn't adopt her. I said, nought
right now and maybe later when she's like fifteen to
(06:40):
twenty and we may have a closer relationship. We've already
planned to do family therapy sessions again and she's in
therapy and there are some comments there's a couple. Do
you have any thoughts before we get into these comments.
Speaker 1 (06:53):
Again, haven't been through this before. I would try and
be a mother figure if I was opied.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
Yeah. I think they should have talked about it before
hand before they brought in the daughter, because now she's
all she's gonna be disappointed. You know, she got her
hopes up about this adoption thing, and Hope about twelve, well,
it's like telling you know, it's like going to her
like the twelve year old and being like, we're going
to Disneyland before talking to Ope, and then Op's like, what,
(07:18):
we don't have the money for that, And then OP
has to be like, sorry, we're not going to Disneyland
instead of just like having the conversation beforehand.
Speaker 1 (07:26):
That happened to a cousin of mine.
Speaker 2 (07:27):
That's rough.
Speaker 1 (07:28):
They went too universal though. Oh that's something because Disneyland
was just super expensive.
Speaker 2 (07:32):
It's super expensive. Oh my gosh. Yeah. Common On says
agree with grandmother should have been discussed with all adults
before she was told to go and ask you reply.
And since OP can't control what her husband does or
change the crappy way he handled it, she should have
had a talk with the stepdaughter about why she wants
this and what she's hoping for. In this situation, it
looks like Ope did a lot of assuming without actually
(07:53):
speaking to the stepdaughter, which is just always a recipe
for a disaster. It's possible stepdaughter genuinely wants to have
a mother daughter relationship with stepmom, but is worried about
rejection or that step mom doesn't view her that way.
This fear would be amplified by the new baby on
the way, a real child for the step mom, a
fear OP accidentally just confirmed, whether intentional or not. And
(08:16):
how did the discussion between the husband and stepdaughter come about.
Did husband recommend it out of the blue or was
the stepdaughter talking to him about something. Everyone sucks here
between OPI and her husband. Yeah, well, yeah, it does
feel like, especially based off of the twelve year old's
reaction of crying, it does feel like she did really
(08:36):
want op to be a mother figure for her, and
it feels like I would agree with that common op
did make a lot of assumptions like yeah, she wouldn't
go to me, she doesn't call me mom. It's like
maybe she wanted to do all that and this was
the transition.
Speaker 1 (08:48):
OPI, maybe you needed to initiate some of that stuff.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
Yeah, as eight year old, Well you couldn't initiate like
calling me mom, but ooh there are yeah, other things.
Speaker 1 (08:58):
The thing she was saying, like if she went wedding
dress shopping. You could have been like, Hey, would you
like me to go with you? Yeah? Hey you want
to go get some I don't know, fun coffee thing.
Speaker 2 (09:08):
Yeah, I think there is. I don't think that you're
wrong about wanting to make sure that she knows what
adopting her would mean. But I do think that the
kind of relationship building falls a lot on you to
kind of push forward.
Speaker 1 (09:24):
I now, because you're you're the adult. Yeah yeah.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
Comment two says, I think she's asking because she doesn't
want to feel left out. Wanting to be on equal
standing in your family is an incredibly valid reason. She's twelve.
She looks up to you think very carefully about what happens.
Next reply, it was painful to read the post. All
the adults in this stepdaughter's life are focused on the
adoption because they think that's the issue, whether op is
(09:48):
a mom figure or not. But the real issue is
why does the stepdaughter feel she's going to be left out?
And there is an update, Let's get into it. Update
says I'm back with an update and would like to
clear up a few things about Christmas. She spends it
with her mom's side because they asked for that holiday
for people who asked why I don't go with her,
(10:08):
it's because they don't like that my husband started dating
before she was eighteen. He had to wait ten years
to date. That's insane. And they talked bad about me
in their language, their aspanek, which caused a lot of
problems between them and my husband. Sometimes he goes and
sometimes he doesn't. People also asked if I take her
out during the school year, I let her pick if
(10:30):
she has time to go out on Friday, I have
to pick her up early for a therapist, and then
if she doesn't have schoolwork or projects that need to
be done, we may go out for lunch and shopping,
or to the park or just do something. If you ask,
why not the weekend She spends most of those with
their grandmother and their family. Another thing people asked about
was whether we had a conversation about this before marriage.
(10:50):
It was touched on and I told him that he
would need to talk to everyone, including her mother's side,
but then it never really came up again. So on
to the update. Last week, me, my husband, and my
stepdaughter all talked about why she wanted to be adopted.
To sum it up, when we have our kids, she
doesn't want to have a different mom than them, or
be different than them, which we understood. We told her
(11:13):
the reality of what would probably happen if I adopted her.
We explained that her mom's side would most likely end
up not speaking to her again. We would change her
last name, she has her mom's and probably her birth certificate.
She thought about that and asked if she could still
keep her last name and see her mom's side. We
said maybe to the last name, since it's already hard
(11:33):
enough when we go places and register her places and
they wonder why we don't have the same last name.
We also told her that her siblings' names would be hyphenated.
We told her that her mom's side of the family
is a wild card and that if they find that
disrespectful and stop talking, we can't control them and make
them talk to her. She talked about how she didn't
want to lose them, and we just listened.
Speaker 1 (11:54):
That's so much her twelve year old to process.
Speaker 2 (11:57):
Yeah, it's just a lot. She's like, oh, wait, okay,
I just wanted you to be my mom. Yeah, and
now you're telling me if you are my mom, I
lose my entire you know, maternal side of the family.
And also I have to change my name.
Speaker 1 (12:12):
That's a lot for twelve year old to decide, and
the way you were logically going through it.
Speaker 2 (12:18):
Also, why would she have to change your name? It
doesn't make sense to me because I'm wondering, like you know,
if if she already didn't have her dad's name.
Speaker 1 (12:26):
Why, I think for looks because OPI has her husband's
last name. Yeah, the daughter, the stepdaughter does not have
the husband's last name.
Speaker 2 (12:36):
Does it really matter that much to them? I guess.
So the next few days we went to her therapist,
just me and her. Her dad had worked that day
and couldn't make it. Her therapist talked to both of
us and afterwards said that if she was still persistent
in around six months to a year, then go ahead
and do it, but to try other options to make
her feel like family and use this time to try
(12:58):
to get the mom's side on board. But if we can't,
then that will need to be a serious conversation that
we need to have with her. Right now, adoption seems
to be a temporary solution she created that will make
things better. So the therapist wants every other monthly family
visits with us to try to see if we can
make a permanent solution to her problem. I think that's good.
I think y'all went to therapy and realized, oh, you
(13:20):
know what, we don't want to rush into this because
it is a big decision for her as well as
a twelve year old. And so I think this is
a good idea. Take it slow more tt Yeah, see
if there's another way to fix this and keep including her,
make sure she feels included.
Speaker 1 (13:37):
Came nights ktan every night.
Speaker 2 (13:39):
But that's the end of that story, and we've got
another one and coming right up.
Speaker 1 (13:43):
I had to hide my wheelchair from my stepsister.
Speaker 2 (13:47):
She can't move.
Speaker 1 (13:49):
I seventeen female have misaligned hips, causing significant pain when
I walk distances without assistance from a wheelchair or cane.
I usually use the cane when going to the All
with friends, since maneuvering the wheelchair is annoying there, but
I prefer the chair because it allows a pillow on
my bad hip. By the way, this comes from turtle fanatics,
(14:11):
and if you want to speA your old stories, go
to the r sash Okay story. So I'm Subreddit, I'm Riley,
I'm Sophia, and before we get in to the story notes.
We are here to give our best advice. We haven't
been through all these experiences, so if you have, please
put your comments down below. OPI says, yesterday, my mom
called to explain that my stepsister, eighteen female, tore her
(14:32):
acl and need to use my wheelchair after her surgery.
Speaker 2 (14:37):
That's absolutely crazy. No, you can't have my wheelchair. I
also feel like you can usually get like you know,
I mean, it probably costs money, but you usually can
get that as part of like if she needed it, Yeah,
she might be able to get, like, you know, a
cheaper one as part of insurance. Oh yeah, it's usually
they give you crutches when you you know.
Speaker 1 (14:58):
Also your Facebook post away from finding another wheelchair, Yeah.
Speaker 2 (15:03):
You don't need o Pee's wheelchair.
Speaker 1 (15:05):
But it has a pillow.
Speaker 2 (15:06):
They can put a pillow in there. But it's fine pillow.
She's fine.
Speaker 1 (15:11):
I don't have any malice towards my step sailings. But
mom married my stepdadd right before the VID hit, and
I've been stuck in my father's house during lockdown four.
I've only met them a handful of times. The issue
is that the weekend she's planned to come home. It's
the same day my friends and I are going on
a colonial tour around the city for my birthday.
Speaker 2 (15:32):
What's a colonial tour?
Speaker 1 (15:34):
Hot? Take could see Abe Lincoln, George Washington. People make
bread with their fun dresses on.
Speaker 2 (15:41):
Oh yeah, they've got like one of those milk the
butter churners of course.
Speaker 1 (15:45):
Yeah, I think that.
Speaker 2 (15:46):
What a butter churner? Yeah, I love butter.
Speaker 1 (15:49):
Good. Mine's so dirty. What do that again? No, movement, it's.
Speaker 2 (15:54):
A butter churner.
Speaker 1 (15:55):
Move Uh, put your head out of the gutter.
Speaker 2 (15:59):
So it was in the gutter.
Speaker 1 (16:01):
We have to work with.
Speaker 2 (16:02):
Unbelievable, I know.
Speaker 1 (16:05):
Agreed. I asked if she could get crutches from the
doctor instead. Mom said it would come out of pockets
since her insurance won't cover it. My father's plane covers
mine as a child, I told her the stepsister could
have my cane, but I need my wheelchair since the
tour involved a whole day of walking. My mom got
annoyed and started sighing while shaking her head like I
(16:28):
wasn't understanding. It's an ACL she needs the wheelchair. How
could he needs it? Yeah, you really can't walk, but
she needs it for the ACL.
Speaker 2 (16:40):
She needs it for it, I don't know. It's slightly
uncomfortable for her.
Speaker 1 (16:45):
Again, if you really wanted the wheelchair.
Speaker 3 (16:48):
Just ask someone to carry you, OPI yeah, carry you,
or one Facebook post away, go to a church, go
to like a I don't know, women's shelter something, or
like ask.
Speaker 2 (17:00):
See if anyone else you know has got crutches.
Speaker 1 (17:02):
I could get a wheelchair today, posting on social media.
Yeah today today, she said, I could use the cane,
but the wheelchair was going to my stepsister. Or I
could reschedule for another weekend, which would likely never happen
since there aren't any refunds and I don't have enough
(17:24):
money for new tickets that I paid for with my
own money.
Speaker 2 (17:28):
And also it's Op's birthday.
Speaker 1 (17:31):
Let her have her old wheelchair for her birthday.
Speaker 2 (17:34):
It's literally her birthday.
Speaker 1 (17:36):
Get out of the keys of my car for my birthday.
Since I'm gonna go get Korean barbecue, I'm borrowing your car.
I need the keys of my car for our birthday.
Speaker 2 (17:43):
Oh I'm borrowing. Can you just can you take a bike?
No k town? No, that would be crazy.
Speaker 1 (17:52):
Ope, that's the same scenario. Yeah, I said, rescheduling was
fine since it was my birthday weekend, but she'd have
to pay for our tickets for us to go again.
She scoffed and said that would cost more than buying crutches.
Speaker 2 (18:06):
Well, perfect, then you can buy the crutches.
Speaker 1 (18:10):
I tried, explaining it would be cheaper than buying a
new wheelchair like mine. She kept shutting me down, saying
my stepsister would get the wheelchair for the weekend and
I should make do with the cane now. The argument
escalated until she ended it with I'm not asking, I'm telling,
and hung up without saying another word.
Speaker 2 (18:32):
If you're at your dad's, then just don't give it
to her. What's she gonna do. She gotta steal a
wheelchair from you. She gonna commit a heist.
Speaker 1 (18:41):
Ope, you have the potential to do something really petty here.
What so petty?
Speaker 2 (18:47):
What give them the wheelchair, sabotage the wheelchair, take out
all the bowl.
Speaker 1 (18:52):
I was saying, give them the wheelchair, put a lock
on it, and the lock is your birthday and if
they know, if they know where your birthday is, then
they can free sure. Or if you have a really
complicated wheelchair, if you get purchases sent to your text
messages from your step mom, then it unlocks it brilliant.
Feeling spiteful, I asked my friend if I could store
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my wheelchair in her trunk for the trip. I was
planning to go to her house after the trip anyways.
My plan was to play dump, saying I forgot it
or something. It didn't help my mood when I looked
up crutch prices and saw she was looking at brand
new ones rather than second hand sides where they are
quarter of the price.
Speaker 2 (19:32):
All right, Yeah, that's what I was thinking. I was
thinking that, like, how much.
Speaker 1 (19:36):
Do you think it is?
Speaker 2 (19:36):
I don't know. Crutches?
Speaker 1 (19:38):
Yep, well I don't.
Speaker 2 (19:40):
I don't know. Thirty fifty bucks?
Speaker 1 (19:43):
Okay, guess how much a wheelchair is?
Speaker 2 (19:45):
A couple hundred probably like four.
Speaker 1 (19:46):
Hundred okay, crutches right now? Twenty two dollars on Amazon,
or a cheap one on Amazon. One hundred twenty bucks.
Speaker 2 (19:56):
For cheap wheelchair? Yeah, dang, well, Olpie's wheelchair. It's probably
more though.
Speaker 1 (20:01):
Yeah, but you don't. It's an ACL dude.
Speaker 2 (20:03):
Yeah, it's fine, You're fine.
Speaker 1 (20:06):
She can hop on one leg. Also, ACL, what's those
fun little scooter things?
Speaker 2 (20:10):
Yeah, get her one of those scooters. Those ones are
so much more cool. Lacel scooter Is that what acl scooter?
Speaker 1 (20:20):
Yeah, it's so funny. All the things that drive are
like twenty one hundred dollars day.
Speaker 2 (20:26):
That's expensive. I honestly think that like insurance probably did
cover a little bit of the price of the crutches,
but she just didn't want to pay anything. She just
wants it free.
Speaker 1 (20:36):
It's called a knee scooter, by the way, for anyone
that is looking this up, Okay, they're like one hundred
and fifty one hundred and twenty five one hundred bucks. Yeah,
one hundred bucks.
Speaker 2 (20:45):
Okay, so get a knee scooter save twenty bucks.
Speaker 1 (20:48):
Boom. When I tried screenshot some and send it to her,
she simply replied, we already have the wheelchair, so it's fine.
I feel like a knucklehead for hiding my chair, but
this will be the first time in years I'm actually
celebrating my birthday, and I don't want to spend it
in pain or resenting my stepsister for making me lose
a lump sum of money I worked overtime for. Either way,
(21:11):
I'll be agitated because Mom won't listen to my suggestions
or see things from my point of view. We haven't
edit a few points to clarify. Yes, I'm turning eighteen
next week. After stepsister surgery, I pointed out both Amazon
and CBS forty dollars crutches to mom before, but we
already have your wheelchair. Answer. I ask why she's so
(21:33):
set on having my wheelchair this morning, and she replied
that stepsister doesn't want crutches. She wants my wheelchair due
to all the padding and extras I've added over the years.
Speaker 2 (21:44):
Well, she can't have my wheelchair due to all the
padding and things. I added.
Speaker 1 (21:50):
I want to take your car because you spent so
much money on it and it goes really fast. This
Honda isn't fast.
Speaker 2 (21:58):
It's not fast at all. It's Yeah, you're in a
and you're like, well, I want the car that's all
souped up.
Speaker 1 (22:02):
Yeah, I don't want my little Toyota. I was going
back to the K Town thing. Yeah, exactly, Like they're
both gonna get you there. Yeah, probably a little faster
and more comfortable, But dude, it's an ACL.
Speaker 2 (22:14):
You're fine. You don't need it. I mean, like obviously
ACL to be clear.
Speaker 1 (22:17):
To be clear, does hurt.
Speaker 2 (22:19):
Yeah, like, it does take a really long time to heal,
but op will never be able to walk in the
same way that you know, her stepsister probably will be
in a like a year or a couple months.
Speaker 1 (22:30):
Yeah, that really got under my skin, and I haven't
spoken to her since. I'm having a long sit down
with my dad when I get home mentally preparing for
the fallout.
Speaker 2 (22:39):
Also, if she needs you know, if the ACL surgery
you know, is so bad that she needs a wheelchair,
then this is just a temporary fix anyway, because she's
only having it for the weekend. Is she gonna keep
borrowing it from op and they're gonna like have joint
custody of this wheelchair or are you gotta get another one? Later?
Speaker 1 (23:00):
I was hoping that Opie could talk to the stepsister. Yeah, like, hey,
I love it, girl, give this to you. I can't
give it to you. I just want to give your
heads up before you get mad. But also I'm getting
a hint that the stepsister would be brad about it,
and you can't even make amends on that end.
Speaker 2 (23:17):
Yeah, I feel like they're probably just like their mom.
Speaker 1 (23:21):
Oh boy, I think they're going to kick her to
the streets since she's eighteen with no will chair.
Speaker 2 (23:29):
I hope not. Well, no, they can't because Opie lives
with her dad right now or is staying with her dad.
So clearly like Opie would be fine even if they
didn't let her come over. Yeah, the mom's house.
Speaker 1 (23:40):
Update, I'll be the first to them in that I'm
an idiot sandwich. After reading all the comments, I was
going to speak to my dad about the whole situation,
but being me, I simply said that stepsister was getting surgery,
so Mom wouldn't have time for me to hang with her.
So I also ask if he'd be fine with me
staying the weekend. And since I'd be gone all day
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with friends and they were even talking about getting dinner afterwards,
no use going to mom's which is three hours in
the opposite direction.
Speaker 2 (24:11):
Dang.
Speaker 1 (24:12):
I had a ton of fun tearing the tour.
Speaker 3 (24:15):
Let's go, Yay, you got your tour and you had
your wheelchair sco queen.
Speaker 1 (24:20):
It was really amazing. My friends kept rotating who would
push me, since people would have moved me forward for
the best few to anyone apprehensive about doing activities with
a visible disability. Wheelchair cane guide dog et cetera. I
couldn't express how fun it was. During the tour and
at the restaurant, I used to have the mentality that
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I was always in people's way and was used to
getting stared at with my cane, But having friends show
up with a small cape for the back and other
trinkets really gave me confidence. And if I ran into anything,
I could blame it on the person driving.
Speaker 2 (24:58):
Ah, that's sweet. You have friends who like actually recognize
that you have a disability rather than your mom and
like are supportive of you.
Speaker 1 (25:08):
One time I had a friend I would go and
play basketball at different places around the county and my
friend's dad was in a wheelchair. Kyle Justice's dad n
he would always been in a wheelchair. One time he
was like in front of a door, it's kind of
like hanging out, and this one person like opened it
and hit him and he's like, no, I can't walk anymore.
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And they were like, I'm so sorry. He's like, it's fine,
already couldn't walk. I also will never ever ever use
a handicap stall again because one time I did when
I was in like seventh grade, Oh, like a stall,
and then he came to use the bathroom and I
was in the handicaps Stoll was like, dang, I had
to like hear him move around to get in the
other stall, and I was like, dude, I could have
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just easily went there, because you never.
Speaker 2 (25:52):
Think, yeah, oh they're just bigger. Yeah, you're like, oh.
Speaker 1 (25:56):
Honestly, I never thought that people use handicap stalls because
they were handicapped. I just thought they were just bigger bathrooms. Yeah,
And then that day I realized, oh, yeah.
Speaker 2 (26:06):
Well sometimes also in the women's in the women's bathroom,
it's because they have like the baby changing station.
Speaker 1 (26:11):
Got it. Well, I was neither they have the two change.
Speaker 2 (26:15):
The baby or handicapped. You're a bad person.
Speaker 1 (26:19):
I was. I felt horrible. Oh man, The idiot sandwich
part came when I was on my way home and
I got a livid phone call from my dad. He
said that Mom had been trying to call me all day.
I'd blocked her number, and she claimed that both Mom
and stepdad were at the house asking for the wheelchair
since I had promised to give it to them. When
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I clarified that Mom had said she wanted to use it,
I told her about the trip, so I couldn't let
her borrow it. By the time I got home, Mom
and stepdad were already gone, and Dad was waiting on
the porch smoking a sick which meant he was very stressed.
My friend asked if I needed help getting my wheelchair
into my car. I said, no, it's harder to yell
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at a person in a wheelchair smart. He found it funny.
Dad didn't. Dad said he told Mom to buzz off.
She tried using the it's my kid logic, but it
doesn't work since I was already four hours away. She
then proceeded to throw a tantrum in her front yard,
throwing herself on the floor and.
Speaker 2 (27:21):
Crying, that's so embarrassing. I'm sorry. She threw herself on
the floor and started crying, that's so embarrassing.
Speaker 1 (27:30):
Let's think about the logic here. Mom is three hours
away from this house COVID time. Yeah, you know, gas
is pretty cheap. Things are pretty tough.
Speaker 2 (27:41):
She drove three hour, Well, it was three hours in
the opposite direction of the tour. The tour so maybe
not necessarily an hour. Yeah, let's say like an hour
from wherever they were going. Hour and a half. She
drove an hour and a half to steal her daughter's
wheelchair and then threw a tantrum on the floor.
Speaker 1 (28:00):
You could have spent twenty minutes driving somewhere if you
called around to pick up a wheelchair.
Speaker 3 (28:05):
Also, just like gas prices, they were pretty good during
that time.
Speaker 2 (28:09):
Yeah, but like I'm just thinking, you know how much
you spend on gas for like they back, Yeah, just
bike some crutches.
Speaker 1 (28:17):
I bet you. They definitely stopped by the gas station
and got drinks and stuff. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (28:21):
I'm like, well, come on, you can spend thirty thirty dollars.
Speaker 1 (28:24):
Yeah they she's ohp sent her forty dollars crutches.
Speaker 2 (28:29):
Yeah, you can spend that.
Speaker 1 (28:31):
It really doesn't surprise me. At this point, Stepdad just
gathered her up into the car and they left shortly after.
Quite the show, from what Dad said. Even some neighbors
came out to see what the fuss was about. I've
heard anything from her since I got home, but I
did get a random, long paragraph text from what seemed
like the POV of a punted dog saying how could
you do this to me? And I thought we were family.
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Not sure if this was from my mom or stepsister.
Since I've blocked that number as will. I don't really care.
At this point. Dad is still agitated at me for
not telling the whole truth, but seeing as it's my
birthday soon, I don't see him staying angry for long.
Speaker 2 (29:11):
Yeah, he can't stay mad at you. It's your birthday.
Speaker 1 (29:14):
Yeah, you can't be mad at your disabled birthday girl.
Speaker 2 (29:18):
Yeah, that's probably what I can see based off of
this post. I feel like op is being like, but Dad,
I can't walk and it's my birthday, Well, you can't
be mad at.
Speaker 1 (29:28):
Me, and he throws are like a pekasig's yeah, and
he's like, all right, you're good, oh man. As for
going no contact with my mom, it's up in the air.
It's easier to say don't ever talk to her again,
especially when I see others with their moms. But I
guess it's time to see her for who she is
rather than what I want her to be. It's nice
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to know others have strained relationships with their moms. Everyone
I know is pretty close with their parents, so I
found myself trying very hard to have the same relationship.
I've since gone over the video in our ring doorbell
to see what had happened. Although you can't really see
what's happening. You can definitely hear mom screaming over anyone
who tries to tell her either to leave or calm down.
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She always demanded to see me. That's when my dad
told her to buzz off, which set off the tantrum.
It would be funny if it was in a compilation
somewhere on YouTube, but it's just sad at this point.
As for my dad being angry, he came in this
morning asking what we were doing for my birthday breakfast.
He's used to my mom being a little out there.
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I've since shown him my post and he told me
about some old wounds I'd forgotten about. For example, my
mom had gone on a camping trip with her boyfriend
at the time during the week she was supposed to
have me fifty to fifty custody. She didn't call dad
until three days later, saying she wasn't getting a signal.
She still didn't come and get me until the next switch.
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I really didn't want to go, but still her as
a kid waiting in the car for your other parent
just to not show. Dad dragged her back to court
to get primary custody. And if you know anything about
family court a father. Getting that is pretty hard. But
I hope you're rolling around having a great time. Yeah,
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and more tours are coming your way.
Speaker 2 (31:18):
Yeah. It seems like at least your dad's, you know,
willing to fight for you. Yeah, that's good. It seems
like you have one good parent.
Speaker 1 (31:24):
And you have some cool friends.
Speaker 2 (31:25):
Yeah, it seems like your friends are super supportive, which
is great. But that's the end of that story, and
we've got another one coming your way. John here og host.
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Speaker 2 (31:38):
My half brother's stepmother blame me for being a bad influence.
Speaker 1 (31:43):
Be a better one than I.
Speaker 2 (31:45):
Seventeen female, have a half brother, eight male. We share
a mom, but I have different dads. I don't see
him often since he primarily stays with his dad, who
I'll call Jeff. By the way, this comes from a
mother's secret lover. And if you want to submit your
own stories, go to the r slash Okay, story time Separated.
I'm Sophia, I'm Riley, and we haven't been through every
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situation that we read about, but we try to give
the best advice we can. If you've been in these situations,
let us know what you would do, op says. Jeff
has been married to Amelia for a few years now.
She has three kids prior to the relationship, and now
she and Jeff have had two more kids together. None
of their children are old enough to drive. Amelia doesn't
like me because she sees me as an extension of
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my mother. They had a falling out since my mom
dated Amelia's brother whoa way what wait sorry, Jeff married
Amelia yep, and then Opie's mom and Amelia were friends yep.
Speaker 1 (32:44):
And then and then Opie's mom dated Amelia's brother.
Speaker 2 (32:47):
Dang uh wow, who turned out to be harmful, and
Amelia called my mom a liar. I don't want to
force a relationship with her, so I just leave it alone.
I rarely see my brother outside of birthdays, and I
have no relationship with his step slash half siblings. I
live very close to my brother's school, and while I
generally don't like kids or being around them, I've agreed
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to pick him up from school a handful of times
when Amelia couldn't. Jeff's hours don't allow him to do so,
and she's a stay at home This all happened this
past May. I'm fairly alternative dyed hair and multiple facial piercings,
and I'm used to getting odd looks or questions from children,
but I never had to get out of the car
to pick my brother up, so this was never an issue.
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My brother was sick and needed to be taken home early,
so Jeff called and asked me to pick him up.
I wasn't busy, so I agreed. This was the first
time I needed to actually enter the building, but I
was on the approved pickup list, so I didn't have
any issues. I went inside, got to the nurse, got
my brother, and dropped him off back home with no
problems until Amelia called me the next day. What did
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she do wrong here, oh, Amelia. I was unaware she
even had my number, so I declined her call first.
When I finally answered, she began to scream at me
for getting her in trouble with the school. Huh, what
what's the issue here? I asked what she meant as again,
I had no problems picking him up, and she started
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to berate me for scaring my brother's classmates. Apparently, one
of the other children in the nurse's office had been
scared of me, as well as a few kids asking
questions when I walked past open classrooms. I don't have
any extreme body modifications, literally, just hair and piercings. But
the boy from the nurse cried to his teacher saying,
class as my brother. That's ridiculous. That little boy needs
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to get over it. Why is he crying about hair?
What the heck?
Speaker 1 (34:42):
I'm trying to think through this kid's mind. Because kids
react all crazy, yeah and whatever. But I don't know, No,
the kid can react that way, but the adults. Yes,
but the adults are like, oh, yeah, that's just how
people are. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (34:59):
Yeah. Then you go and have a conversation with the kid,
be like no, you know, like everyone looks different, and
you know, she's not scared, she's really nice. She's just
picking up her brother. You explain things to them. That's why.
Like let's say a person doesn't have i don't know,
an arm, they're missing an arm, and a kid goes
like what does that man have an arm? And starts crying.
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You'd be like, no, no, people have different, you know, bodies,
and we explain this politely.
Speaker 1 (35:27):
The memes with kids looking at people that are like disabled,
and like, what's that? Why is your arm all messed
up like that? Why do you have a robot hand?
What do you do with that? Are you a robot?
Speaker 2 (35:39):
Kids don't know what they're talking about, that's what you
explain to them.
Speaker 1 (35:42):
Yeah, and they're they're eight, they're eight.
Speaker 2 (35:45):
The teacher then notified Amelia and requested I no longer
do pickups. I don't even think this is legal. Maybe
not the right word, but I mean I should be
able to make a complaint about her requesting this since
it was based on physical appearance. I caused no disruption
and the only people I even saw were the secretary,
front desk admin, the nurse, and the kids in the
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nurse's office. Either way, Amelia told the teacher that was
not an option, but she would tell me to take
out my piercings next time I was at the school.
I feel like multiple empty holes in my face would
be scarier than piercings. But that's neither here nor there.
Speaker 1 (36:19):
Okay, I'm gonna need a picture of what you look
like now so I.
Speaker 2 (36:22):
Can really I need to know if an eight year
old would be scared of you for real, or if
that was just a sensitive eight year old.
Speaker 1 (36:29):
Yeah, is there, Like, I don't know a celebrity or
someone you could show us so we can kind of
get the vibe.
Speaker 2 (36:35):
Yeah, just tell us exactly what piercings you have. I
told Amelia I would not be taking out my piercings
every single time I picked them up, and that usually
I don't even go inside the building or see anyone
for this to be a problem. I don't pick them
up often, but I have quite a few piercings. It
takes me around an hour, sometimes longer to take them
all out, clean them, and put them back in. Those
little balls are obnoxious to screw back in with long
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nails and shaky hands. While I wouldn't be cleaning them
every time I picked them up, it is a long
and tedious process that I don't like to do more
than necessary. She told me it wasn't a big ask,
and while I agree it mostly isn't. I feel more
disrespected than anything, because I think that's a fairly unprofessional
way for the teacher to behave. Amelia told me the
teacher at every right to protect her students. How are
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you protecting the students?
Speaker 1 (37:22):
Everyone closed your eyes, She's back.
Speaker 2 (37:24):
That's absolutely ridiculous. What exactly are you protecting your students from.
Speaker 1 (37:28):
Literally, it's the easiest thing you can do to protect
the students from this. Oh everyone, watch out. There's there's
someone has a tattoo. Close your eyes, hurry, yeah, go ahead.
Oh no, this person doesn't have a leg. Guys, close
your eyes, your eyes, it's a robot leg.
Speaker 2 (37:42):
And that either way, I shouldn't be punishing her because
she wasn't the one asking. I was even more offended
by this because I'm not a threat or danger. I
literally am just alternative. I realized I didn't mention this before,
but my outfit was also entirely appropriate. It was plain
black sweatpants and a teenage mutant ninja turtlesh Amelia said
this was the reason she didn't allow me to be
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around her kids. I've never asked to be around them
since I don't like kids, I said, if she is
an issue with me, she can lose my number and
find someone else to pick my brother up. When she can't.
She continued to scream at me and tell me I
was just like my mom, which was when I finally
hung up and blocked her. When you're trying to get
someone to do something for you. It's not helpful to
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scream at.
Speaker 1 (38:24):
Them unless you don't want them to.
Speaker 2 (38:25):
Do it yet, unless you don't want them to do that.
Speaker 1 (38:27):
Thing, which I'm getting that vibe.
Speaker 2 (38:30):
I've seen my brother maybe twice since then, since I
primarily communicate with him through Jeff. We play roadblocks together,
but he doesn't have a phone or social media. Jeff
told me he was disappointed, and I told him he
has no authority over me, so I don't really care
what he had to say.
Speaker 1 (38:44):
I told Jeff he's eight.
Speaker 2 (38:47):
Yeah, well, no, Jeff's not eight. Jeff's her dad.
Speaker 1 (38:50):
Oh, Jeff's Matt disappointed? Yeah, oh, I thought the eight
year old was disapt.
Speaker 2 (38:54):
Everybody, I'm disappointing you. I don't care what you have
to say. You're eight. Let's play roadblocks.
Speaker 1 (39:00):
Get on here.
Speaker 2 (39:01):
The issue hasn't been discussed since then until today. My
brother starts school next week, and Jeff called me and
told me Amilia requested I started picking up my brother
up again. I said no and reminded him of what
happened last time. He began to get very aggressive, saying
that they weren't asking for much. I told him it
was no longer about the request, and it was how
his wife spoke to me. I said I wouldn't do
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them any favors of any kind. He began to guilt
trip me and ask how my brother would feel knowing
his sister can't stand to be around him, and threaten
to not let me come to my brother's birthday in
a few weeks. I told Jeff I don't care about
not attending my brother's birthday since I don't even like kids,
and I would just see my brother. Another time, he
told me he wouldn't let me be around my brother
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until I apologized to his wife and agreed to pick
my brother up from school. Again, I told him I
would only agree to pick my brother up with an
apology from Amelia and hung up. This puts me in
a kind of difficult position because I could just see
my brother when he has visitation with her, but we
aren't on speaking terms right now. I would have to
break our temporary no contact in order to do this.
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I live with my dad and his mother and see
my mom one to two times a month max. My
dad and grandma say I should just suck it up
and apologize to Amelia. They don't have a good relationship
with my mom and she hasn't been allowed to step
foot in the house since I was twelve. But I
really don't want to do this. Me and my brother
aren't particularly close, but we have a good relationship and
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I don't want to jeopardize it because of an issue
I have with his stepmom. I know he enjoys spending
time with me because I'm his only sister. All of
Amelia and Jeff's kids are boys, so I don't want
to hurt him over this. Am I the a hole
for refusing to pick my brother up from his school
until his stepmom apologizes? And there is an edit? But uh,
what do you think Gopie should do?
Speaker 1 (40:47):
Just not pick up the brother? I don't know, rite
the brother, get the brother like a little gift, yo. Man.
Speaker 2 (40:53):
The thing is, they need you more than you.
Speaker 1 (40:56):
Need them exactly. All I see is you help and
them being I don't know, I guess like angry that
you helped or helped in your own way and not
by their ways, and then now is demanding you to
help more. Yeah, how does that make any sense? You
just don't help anymore? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (41:14):
I think if you could like figure out a day
where you could go talk to your brother and say like, hey,
still love hanging out with you. If they say that,
I don't, that's not true.
Speaker 1 (41:22):
There's some big adult problems. You don't even want to know,
big adult stuff. Oh what's that? So you know how
God Silla and King Kong like had that movie where
they were finding each other and then you just explain
that way.
Speaker 2 (41:35):
But eight year olds are pretty smart. I feel like
when you're you know, when you're eight, you yeah, you
kind of figure out what's going on.
Speaker 1 (41:41):
Dude. My brothers when they were eight were very too sharp.
Speaker 2 (41:44):
No, I've maybe said a lot of it.
Speaker 1 (41:46):
You're I feel like, very witty people people.
Speaker 2 (41:48):
I think people kind of mis understand. Not probably not parents,
but people don't have kids and misunderstand. Like when kids
starts to be able to, you know, understand things, and
I feel like, you know, around like five, they're they're
talking in full set. They get things, they understand what's
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going on.
Speaker 1 (42:09):
Especially the youngest brother out of four, like Rider was
walking like yeah, I think like fourteen months in mm hmm, yeah,
he's actly.
Speaker 2 (42:18):
Two year olds running. They're running around two Roalds are crazy.
Two year olds have so much.
Speaker 1 (42:23):
Energy, especially if they were born during the VID years. Yeah,
have you ever seen a COVID baby? I have, They're
somehow have superpowers. Dude.
Speaker 2 (42:31):
I had to babysit a COVID a two year old
who this was in twenty twenty three.
Speaker 1 (42:37):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (42:37):
Uh and oh my goodness. She was so cute, but
she had so much entergy. We would I would babysit
her for five hours at a time, like every time
I would go, and literally would not stop running in
those five hours. Like we would do laps around the
house because I don't know, we all our games were
always some sort of TAG related Yeah yeah, or I
don't know, with toys, but it was literally like constant running.
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I got such work out.
Speaker 1 (43:00):
It's crazy. I would love the finish walk.
Speaker 2 (43:04):
Can they just go?
Speaker 1 (43:05):
If I was a babysitter and your kid has a
bunch of energy, I would love to come with the
clipboard and just have a list of activities and see
how many reps I can do with this kid before
they get tired. Tag. They seem to like this tag thing,
all right, go go go.
Speaker 2 (43:22):
You just tire them out at times. Later you need
to tell your eight year old brother that.
Speaker 1 (43:30):
You love them.
Speaker 2 (43:31):
You love them? Yeah, edit A few of the reply
seemed kind of confused since the post is long. To clarify,
I'm a girl and I have zero relation to Jeff
or Amelia. Me and my brother share a mother and
stay with our respective fathers. His being Jeff. Amelia is
Jeff's wife, my brother's stepmom. I do not live with
Amelia and Jeff. It's crazy that, Like I think I
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understood that, but just having that laid out clearly, it's
pretty insane that they're expecting so much of OPI, but
also being rude when they're asking for this favor.
Speaker 1 (44:01):
Crazy.
Speaker 2 (44:02):
I've decided to take advice from a few comments and
call the school and ask if there's a policy stating
I cannot pick my brother up with facial piercings. That's
also a probably better idea, because that way you can
just go back to picking them up and don't have
to take your piercings out.
Speaker 1 (44:17):
Straight to the source, I will.
Speaker 2 (44:18):
Likely either agree to disagree with Amelia, depending on how
the call with the school goes and her reaction, or
resume contact with my mom to see my brother during visitation.
Thanks for the advice, and there is an update.
Speaker 1 (44:30):
Okay, let's get into it.
Speaker 2 (44:31):
I did what many of you said and emailed the
school to ask if there wasn't any policy stating I
couldn't do pickups or drop offs or be on campus
due to piercings. Like most of you said, they said, no, Oh,
do you think that the Amelia lied about it just
because she didn't want ope towaar piercings?
Speaker 1 (44:50):
Probably? I would also ask that, yeah, hey, I was
in here a few weeks ago. I upset a kid?
Are they okay? Is anything okay?
Speaker 2 (44:58):
They're like, what kid, what are you talking about? I
explained why I was asking, and they said they would
ask the teacher about the incident, but told me there
was nothing they could do if Amelia took me off
the pickup list. I thanked them and gave them my number,
requesting they call me once they were done investigating the
incident with the teacher. The next day at the school
called me to let me know the teacher confirmed there
was a staring issue, and a few questions from my
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brother's classmates. I had stood in the doorway and waited
for him to collect his things after checking him out
of the nurse's office, but that was all and she
did not say anything of the sort to Amelia. Oh well, well, well,
I decided to call Jeff and let him know about
my conversation with the school and reiterated I would only
continue to pick my brother up with an apology from
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his wife or at least some kind of acknowledgment that
she lied to me. He told me he would have
Amelia call me, so I unblocked her and waited.
Speaker 1 (45:48):
Dang, it looks like, Dann, you have all the cards
in your hand over Yeah, and they have none of that.
Oh wait, they do have one, the blame card, and
it's not working. I'm working.
Speaker 2 (45:59):
She did all to apologize, but it was very reluctant,
and she dropped the bombshell but she's pregnant again and
used that as an excuse.
Speaker 1 (46:07):
Come on, she had the pregnant cards, like.
Speaker 2 (46:09):
Oh, it's I just reacted so badly because I'm I'm
hormonal hormones.
Speaker 1 (46:14):
Dang it, that's it.
Speaker 2 (46:15):
We shouldn't you know?
Speaker 1 (46:16):
It would be funny as if we had cards, Like
there's like a u O game where like you can
put a card down and it has different effects. I
guess like Pokemon.
Speaker 2 (46:24):
Two, I play hormonal.
Speaker 1 (46:26):
I played pregnant card. I affects hormones and cons like
I don't know causes. Yeah, hey it's sam og host.
Speaker 2 (46:35):
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the show. I decided to just let it go because
I don't want to damage my relationship with my brother,
and it just wasn't worth it until today, when I
picked my brother up, he asked why I have so
much metal in my face. He's never said anything before
about the piercings unless I've gotten a new one, so
(46:55):
we asked what caused him to bring it up again.
A lot of you were correct. One of Amelia's older
sons had asked to get his ears pierced, and she
attributed it to me. Even though I never see my
brother's step or half brothers. She's been complaining about it
often around my brother, I guess, trying to bait him
into saying my piercings bothered or scared him too. I
(47:15):
asked him if they did scare him, and he said no,
and he doesn't really think about them. But Amelia constantly
said things like I just don't understand why she does
that to herself. She's so pretty without the metal crowding
her face. I'm not sure how relevant this is, but
her and my mom were close friends before they're falling out.
Amelia has a son about a year and a half
younger than me, not the one asking to get his
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ears pierced, and she often joked about setting us up
before I started leaning more alternative. That's weird, Like, I
know that you guys aren't related at all, but it
is just it just feels weird to want to set
up your son with your steps soun's step son's half sister.
That's weird. I think that's where the she's so pretty
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comments come from. I was frustrated, but didn't want to
upset my brother, so I just decided to change the subject.
Instead of dropping my brother off and immediately leaving, I
told Amelia I wanted to come inside and speak to her.
Speaker 1 (48:09):
Uh oh.
Speaker 2 (48:10):
She told me it wasn't a good time, and I
insisted it was, so she came outside and we talked
on the porch. I told her again that if my
piercings were an issue, she could find someone else to
pick my brother up, but I would appreciate it if
she stopped complaining about them. To the rest of the family.
She told me it was none of my concern what
she said in the privacy of her own home, and
I said, it was my concern when she was actively
(48:32):
trying to bait my half brother into speaking negatively about me.
Do you have any final thoughts?
Speaker 1 (48:37):
She played the hormone card, she tried to and you
called her bluff. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (48:41):
I also liked that. She was like, oh, it's not
a good time, and Ope was like, yeah, it is
is right now.
Speaker 1 (48:45):
I love the tenacity the other right word. I love
the tenacity you have Europi and I wish more people
shared this when calling others BS out.
Speaker 2 (48:54):
Mm HMMU.
Speaker 1 (48:55):
I'm going through a situation right now where I need
to call some BS out. I don't have the tenacity
to do it.
Speaker 2 (49:00):
M you gotta keep pushing, Can you lend me some yeah,
handsome over. Ope. She again told me she could say
whatever she wanted in her own house, and I was
just too tired to argue.
Speaker 1 (49:10):
Dude, Okay, real quick on that comment. Yeah, yeah, you
can say whatever you want your own house. But somehow
it got out of the house. It came into my ears.
Speaker 2 (49:17):
Oh that's so funny, because you're what you're saying inside
your house, I'm hearing about So how how is that private?
Speaker 1 (49:24):
Yeah, so it is my concern because it's somehow leaving
your house and traveling all the way to my ears.
Speaker 2 (49:29):
That would be like saying, oh, like if a parent
was teaching their kid, no, it was saying bad words
or something in their own house, and then teacher says like, hey,
your kid's been like using a lot of swear words,
and they're like, well, I can say whatever I wanted
the privacy of my own home. It's like, well, yeah,
but it's gonna get out when you have kids, their little.
Speaker 1 (49:47):
Parents, they are Oh my gosh, they are.
Speaker 2 (49:51):
She again told me she could say whatever she wanted
in her own house, and I was just too tired
to argue. I told her if my brother came to
me again to tell me she'd been complaining about me,
I would stop picking him up and just see him
during my mom's visitations with him. She was very happy,
but agreed and went back inside, slamming the door in
my face. This should be the last update. I'm just
going to tolerate Amelia in order to maintain contact with
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my brother because I don't care about her antics. And
I have enough other things going on. I'll continue only
communicating with Amelia and Jeff when necessary, and hopefully nothing
else will come out of this. Thanks for the support, y'all.
And that is the end of that story, folks.
Speaker 1 (50:28):
Well or move.
Speaker 2 (50:29):
Yeah, you're doing great, Op, You're doing great.
Speaker 1 (50:32):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (50:32):
This I think that was kind of like the best
thing that you could have done.
Speaker 1 (50:36):
Yeah, good, step by step, Check them with the school,
check them with the teacher. Yeah, confronting the mom. Is
there a way for you to step back from See
The thing though, is if you step back and don't
help as much, it's gonna directly affect the brother.
Speaker 2 (50:50):
Yeah, you get less contact with the brother. So I
think Op's strategy here of just being like, if you
don't respect me, I'm not gonna drive, yeah, you know,
and you need me to drive, because if they didn't
need her, then they'd do it her, you.
Speaker 1 (51:03):
Know, they'd say you can't ever pick them up again.
Speaker 2 (51:05):
By exactly, but they need her to pick them up.
Speaker 1 (51:07):
Such a silly way of trying to get an apology
out of Ope. Yeah, and then it just blows up
in your face yep and doesn't work.
Speaker 2 (51:14):
Silly, silly, But that's the end of that story and
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Speaker 1 (00:14):
She's gonna have to find new parents now.
Speaker 2 (00:16):
I'm thirty female and my husband is thirty four male,
and my stepdaughter is twelve. My stepdaughter's mom passed away
when she was two, and I came into her life
when she was eight. We have a close relationship that
I feel is normal for a stepparent. She doesn't call
me mom, and that's okay. I want her to do
whatever she's comfortable with. By the way, this comes from
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Storytime Separate it. I'm Sophia, I'm Riley, and Op says
these past few weeks she's been asking if I would
adopt her, apparently as she had talked with my husband
and he told her it would be a good idea
to ask me. I told her to let me think
about it. When I asked my husband why he thought
adoption was a good idea. He said it would make
her feel like family and prove her from feeling different
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from our kids when the baby comes.
Speaker 1 (01:03):
Real quick PowerPoint power point. I'm gonna need a PowerPoint
twelve year old.
Speaker 2 (01:08):
Yeah, you have to give me good reasons why I
should adopt you.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
I'm gonna need a pros and cons list, and I
need you to think about the cons here.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
What can you do for me? Sharks, I'm here today
to ask you to adopt me. Gotta do a shark pitch.
I told him the kid's not even here yet, so
if that's the case, then let her therapist talk to
her about it. First. He asked why I didn't want
to adopt her. I told him that we aren't on
that level yet. She doesn't call me mom and has
never really treated me like a real mom, more like
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a bonus adult when she needs one. And I said
that's fine, But if I adopt her, that means I'm
her mom, and if she doesn't see me as mom,
then why would I adopt her? I told her I
wouldn't adopt her right now, and she was sad and
started crying. It feels like she wants like this is
kind of the way that she's transitioning into seeing you
as mom.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
Yes, legally on paper.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
Yeah, she's like, you're not my mom and it's legal.
Speaker 1 (02:01):
Oh but what if the school calls, They're gonna call
for my mom. And if it's not on paper, she
can't call.
Speaker 2 (02:07):
You can't come. You just can't come. It's the rules.
I see it to be real.
Speaker 1 (02:12):
I've met twelve year old girls. Sometimes they can be evil.
Speaker 2 (02:16):
Do you think that she's got another plot going on?
Speaker 1 (02:19):
I don't know why, but that is in the back
of my head. In that could be, you know, from
twelve year old Riley getting rejected by the girls. That
would mean to me, Yeah, that could also be in
my head.
Speaker 2 (02:31):
Maybe she just wants to be adopted and that's it,
no ulterior motives. I explain that she doesn't really see
me as mom and that if we got closer in
the future, I would consider it, But I think she
needs to understand what she's asking first. How long is
four years? So it's not like that long, but it
definitely would be, you know, fairly long for you know,
(02:55):
a kid who's eight years old and is now twelve,
like those are pretty Yeah, it's a third the mental years.
Speaker 1 (03:01):
Yea.
Speaker 2 (03:03):
She told her grandmother on her mom's side, and they
said it was disrespectful of my husband to even suggest it. Well,
his family thinks I should just do it to make
the girl feel part of the family. I do think
it's weird that the dad brought it up to his
daughter before talking to Opie about it, Like, I feel
like it could have been, Hey, how do you feel
about adopting her? You know, wanted to gauge reaction, and
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then if OPI was like, yeah, she if she's down,
I'm down. Yeah, and then you go to the daughter.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
Yes. This feels like a little game of chest somehow.
Speaker 2 (03:35):
So he's trying to trap It feels like he's got
the plot.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (03:40):
The main reason I won't adopt her is because I
don't feel as she's asking for the right reason. I
think she's asking because she doesn't want to feel left out,
not because she wants me to be her mom. Also,
she has other mother figures. Her grandmother and aunt have
done a lot of motherly things with her, and some
people don't count them as mother figures, but I do.
I never said adopt was off the table. It just
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mainly is for now until she gets older, understands it more,
and wants me because she sees me as a mom.
Let me explain what I mean when I say she
doesn't treat me like a mom. If she was old
enough to go wedding dress shopping, she wouldn't pick me
for that. She would go to her aunt and grandma,
and nothing's wrong with that. Since I'm not her.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
Mom, I see what you're saying.
Speaker 2 (04:20):
But I know if I had my own daughter, that's
a mother daughter experience. I want so for things you
go to a mom for, she goes to them, and
nothing's wrong with that. But if she was my daughter,
I would expect her to go to me. Do I
see her as my daughter? Kinda? I do, but I
also see her as a stepdaughter. I know some people
think feeling left out is a reason to get adopted,
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but in my opinion, it's not. For example, last year,
she was upset that we went to my mom for
Christmas and she went to her mom's parents, so she
felt left out. We said every other Christmas she could
come with us, and she was happy. If I adopted her,
that wouldn't have fixed the issue at all. It would
have just put a bandit on it and she still
would have fell left out.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
Hot take real quick. Yes, and now we're just giving
our best advice. We haven't been through any of this before,
so if you have, leave your comments down below. If
I'm marrying someone and they have a kid, yeah, I
would try to be a great father figure. I'd probably
try and put as much emphasis as I can, and
hopefully my partner in the scenario would too. Doesn't really
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feel like that's the focus of this family. So this
is why it feels out of the blue to request
this exactly.
Speaker 2 (05:30):
It feels like, oh, he wasn't trying to, you know,
pressure her stepdaughter into seeing her as any like in
any type of way. She was just like, whatever you're
comfortable with. And it doesn't seem like they have a
bad relationship, no, But now it feels like the dad
is trying to pressure it. Probably because he's about to
have a kid. Yeah, he's like, I want my whole
family to be like united and stuff.
Speaker 1 (05:50):
Yeah, and right for the throat he's going rather than hey,
let's have a picnic, a family picnic. Let's I don't know,
go to a water part. Yeah, do some mother do
some family actists.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
I feel like he could he could work on the
bonding before he suggested the adoption.
Speaker 1 (06:07):
See before the adoption, I'm stepdad, dude. We're playing Katan.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
Yeah, do work every night.
Speaker 1 (06:12):
Every night, we'ren Peyton, noil's getting some tea time going.
We're doing it all.
Speaker 2 (06:20):
So if she feels like she doesn't belong, I'd rather
figure out why she feels that way rather than adopt
her and have her still feel that way about her
calling me mom. I assume if I adopt her she
would call me mom since I would be her mother.
But if she didn't, it would be okay. And I
didn't tell her I wouldn't adopt her. I said, nought
right now and maybe later when she's like fifteen to
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twenty and we may have a closer relationship. We've already
planned to do family therapy sessions again and she's in
therapy and there are some comments there's a couple. Do
you have any thoughts before we get into these comments.
Speaker 1 (06:53):
Again, haven't been through this before. I would try and
be a mother figure if I was opied.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
Yeah. I think they should have talked about it before
hand before they brought in the daughter, because now she's
all she's gonna be disappointed. You know, she got her
hopes up about this adoption thing, and Hope about twelve, well,
it's like telling you know, it's like going to her
like the twelve year old and being like, we're going
to Disneyland before talking to Ope, and then Op's like, what,
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we don't have the money for that, And then OP
has to be like, sorry, we're not going to Disneyland
instead of just like having the conversation beforehand.
Speaker 1 (07:26):
That happened to a cousin of mine.
Speaker 2 (07:27):
That's rough.
Speaker 1 (07:28):
They went too universal though. Oh that's something because Disneyland
was just super expensive.
Speaker 2 (07:32):
It's super expensive. Oh my gosh. Yeah. Common On says
agree with grandmother should have been discussed with all adults
before she was told to go and ask you reply.
And since OP can't control what her husband does or
change the crappy way he handled it, she should have
had a talk with the stepdaughter about why she wants
this and what she's hoping for. In this situation, it
looks like Ope did a lot of assuming without actually
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speaking to the stepdaughter, which is just always a recipe
for a disaster. It's possible stepdaughter genuinely wants to have
a mother daughter relationship with stepmom, but is worried about
rejection or that step mom doesn't view her that way.
This fear would be amplified by the new baby on
the way, a real child for the step mom, a
fear OP accidentally just confirmed, whether intentional or not. And
(08:16):
how did the discussion between the husband and stepdaughter come about.
Did husband recommend it out of the blue or was
the stepdaughter talking to him about something. Everyone sucks here
between OPI and her husband. Yeah, well, yeah, it does
feel like, especially based off of the twelve year old's
reaction of crying, it does feel like she did really
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want op to be a mother figure for her, and
it feels like I would agree with that common op
did make a lot of assumptions like yeah, she wouldn't
go to me, she doesn't call me mom. It's like
maybe she wanted to do all that and this was
the transition.
Speaker 1 (08:48):
OPI, maybe you needed to initiate some of that stuff.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
Yeah, as eight year old, Well you couldn't initiate like
calling me mom, but ooh there are yeah, other things.
Speaker 1 (08:58):
The thing she was saying, like if she went wedding
dress shopping. You could have been like, Hey, would you
like me to go with you? Yeah? Hey you want
to go get some I don't know, fun coffee thing.
Speaker 2 (09:08):
Yeah, I think there is. I don't think that you're
wrong about wanting to make sure that she knows what
adopting her would mean. But I do think that the
kind of relationship building falls a lot on you to
kind of push forward.
Speaker 1 (09:24):
I now, because you're you're the adult. Yeah yeah.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
Comment two says, I think she's asking because she doesn't
want to feel left out. Wanting to be on equal
standing in your family is an incredibly valid reason. She's twelve.
She looks up to you think very carefully about what happens.
Next reply, it was painful to read the post. All
the adults in this stepdaughter's life are focused on the
adoption because they think that's the issue, whether op is
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a mom figure or not. But the real issue is
why does the stepdaughter feel she's going to be left out?
And there is an update, Let's get into it. Update
says I'm back with an update and would like to
clear up a few things about Christmas. She spends it
with her mom's side because they asked for that holiday
for people who asked why I don't go with her,
(10:08):
it's because they don't like that my husband started dating
before she was eighteen. He had to wait ten years
to date. That's insane. And they talked bad about me
in their language, their aspanek, which caused a lot of
problems between them and my husband. Sometimes he goes and
sometimes he doesn't. People also asked if I take her
out during the school year, I let her pick if
(10:30):
she has time to go out on Friday, I have
to pick her up early for a therapist, and then
if she doesn't have schoolwork or projects that need to
be done, we may go out for lunch and shopping,
or to the park or just do something. If you ask,
why not the weekend She spends most of those with
their grandmother and their family. Another thing people asked about
was whether we had a conversation about this before marriage.
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It was touched on and I told him that he
would need to talk to everyone, including her mother's side,
but then it never really came up again. So on
to the update. Last week, me, my husband, and my
stepdaughter all talked about why she wanted to be adopted.
To sum it up, when we have our kids, she
doesn't want to have a different mom than them, or
be different than them, which we understood. We told her
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the reality of what would probably happen if I adopted her.
We explained that her mom's side would most likely end
up not speaking to her again. We would change her
last name, she has her mom's and probably her birth certificate.
She thought about that and asked if she could still
keep her last name and see her mom's side. We
said maybe to the last name, since it's already hard
(11:33):
enough when we go places and register her places and
they wonder why we don't have the same last name.
We also told her that her siblings' names would be hyphenated.
We told her that her mom's side of the family
is a wild card and that if they find that
disrespectful and stop talking, we can't control them and make
them talk to her. She talked about how she didn't
want to lose them, and we just listened.
Speaker 1 (11:54):
That's so much her twelve year old to process.
Speaker 2 (11:57):
Yeah, it's just a lot. She's like, oh, wait, okay,
I just wanted you to be my mom. Yeah, and
now you're telling me if you are my mom, I
lose my entire you know, maternal side of the family.
And also I have to change my name.
Speaker 1 (12:12):
That's a lot for twelve year old to decide, and
the way you were logically going through it.
Speaker 2 (12:18):
Also, why would she have to change your name? It
doesn't make sense to me because I'm wondering, like you know,
if if she already didn't have her dad's name.
Speaker 1 (12:26):
Why, I think for looks because OPI has her husband's
last name. Yeah, the daughter, the stepdaughter does not have
the husband's last name.
Speaker 2 (12:36):
Does it really matter that much to them? I guess.
So the next few days we went to her therapist,
just me and her. Her dad had worked that day
and couldn't make it. Her therapist talked to both of
us and afterwards said that if she was still persistent
in around six months to a year, then go ahead
and do it, but to try other options to make
her feel like family and use this time to try
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to get the mom's side on board. But if we can't,
then that will need to be a serious conversation that
we need to have with her. Right now, adoption seems
to be a temporary solution she created that will make
things better. So the therapist wants every other monthly family
visits with us to try to see if we can
make a permanent solution to her problem. I think that's good.
I think y'all went to therapy and realized, oh, you
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know what, we don't want to rush into this because
it is a big decision for her as well as
a twelve year old. And so I think this is
a good idea. Take it slow more tt Yeah, see
if there's another way to fix this and keep including her,
make sure she feels included.
Speaker 1 (13:37):
Came nights ktan every night.
Speaker 2 (13:39):
But that's the end of that story, and we've got
another one and coming right up.
Speaker 1 (13:43):
I had to hide my wheelchair from my stepsister.
Speaker 2 (13:47):
She can't move.
Speaker 1 (13:49):
I seventeen female have misaligned hips, causing significant pain when
I walk distances without assistance from a wheelchair or cane.
I usually use the cane when going to the All
with friends, since maneuvering the wheelchair is annoying there, but
I prefer the chair because it allows a pillow on
my bad hip. By the way, this comes from turtle fanatics,
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and if you want to speA your old stories, go
to the r sash Okay story. So I'm Subreddit, I'm Riley,
I'm Sophia, and before we get in to the story notes.
We are here to give our best advice. We haven't
been through all these experiences, so if you have, please
put your comments down below. OPI says, yesterday, my mom
called to explain that my stepsister, eighteen female, tore her
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acl and need to use my wheelchair after her surgery.
Speaker 2 (14:37):
That's absolutely crazy. No, you can't have my wheelchair. I
also feel like you can usually get like you know,
I mean, it probably costs money, but you usually can
get that as part of like if she needed it, Yeah,
she might be able to get, like, you know, a
cheaper one as part of insurance. Oh yeah, it's usually
they give you crutches when you you know.
Speaker 1 (14:58):
Also your Facebook post away from finding another wheelchair, Yeah.
Speaker 2 (15:03):
You don't need o Pee's wheelchair.
Speaker 1 (15:05):
But it has a pillow.
Speaker 2 (15:06):
They can put a pillow in there. But it's fine pillow.
She's fine.
Speaker 1 (15:11):
I don't have any malice towards my step sailings. But
mom married my stepdadd right before the VID hit, and
I've been stuck in my father's house during lockdown four.
I've only met them a handful of times. The issue
is that the weekend she's planned to come home. It's
the same day my friends and I are going on
a colonial tour around the city for my birthday.
Speaker 2 (15:32):
What's a colonial tour?
Speaker 1 (15:34):
Hot? Take could see Abe Lincoln, George Washington. People make
bread with their fun dresses on.
Speaker 2 (15:41):
Oh yeah, they've got like one of those milk the
butter churners of course.
Speaker 1 (15:45):
Yeah, I think that.
Speaker 2 (15:46):
What a butter churner? Yeah, I love butter.
Speaker 1 (15:49):
Good. Mine's so dirty. What do that again? No, movement, it's.
Speaker 2 (15:54):
A butter churner.
Speaker 1 (15:55):
Move Uh, put your head out of the gutter.
Speaker 2 (15:59):
So it was in the gutter.
Speaker 1 (16:01):
We have to work with.
Speaker 2 (16:02):
Unbelievable, I know.
Speaker 1 (16:05):
Agreed. I asked if she could get crutches from the
doctor instead. Mom said it would come out of pockets
since her insurance won't cover it. My father's plane covers
mine as a child, I told her the stepsister could
have my cane, but I need my wheelchair since the
tour involved a whole day of walking. My mom got
annoyed and started sighing while shaking her head like I
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wasn't understanding. It's an ACL she needs the wheelchair. How
could he needs it? Yeah, you really can't walk, but
she needs it for the ACL.
Speaker 2 (16:40):
She needs it for it, I don't know. It's slightly
uncomfortable for her.
Speaker 1 (16:45):
Again, if you really wanted the wheelchair.
Speaker 3 (16:48):
Just ask someone to carry you, OPI yeah, carry you,
or one Facebook post away, go to a church, go
to like a I don't know, women's shelter something, or
like ask.
Speaker 2 (17:00):
See if anyone else you know has got crutches.
Speaker 1 (17:02):
I could get a wheelchair today, posting on social media.
Yeah today today, she said, I could use the cane,
but the wheelchair was going to my stepsister. Or I
could reschedule for another weekend, which would likely never happen
since there aren't any refunds and I don't have enough
(17:24):
money for new tickets that I paid for with my
own money.
Speaker 2 (17:28):
And also it's Op's birthday.
Speaker 1 (17:31):
Let her have her old wheelchair for her birthday.
Speaker 2 (17:34):
It's literally her birthday.
Speaker 1 (17:36):
Get out of the keys of my car for my birthday.
Since I'm gonna go get Korean barbecue, I'm borrowing your car.
I need the keys of my car for our birthday.
Speaker 2 (17:43):
Oh I'm borrowing. Can you just can you take a bike?
No k town? No, that would be crazy.
Speaker 1 (17:52):
Ope, that's the same scenario. Yeah, I said, rescheduling was
fine since it was my birthday weekend, but she'd have
to pay for our tickets for us to go again.
She scoffed and said that would cost more than buying crutches.
Speaker 2 (18:06):
Well, perfect, then you can buy the crutches.
Speaker 1 (18:10):
I tried, explaining it would be cheaper than buying a
new wheelchair like mine. She kept shutting me down, saying
my stepsister would get the wheelchair for the weekend and
I should make do with the cane now. The argument
escalated until she ended it with I'm not asking, I'm telling,
and hung up without saying another word.
Speaker 2 (18:32):
If you're at your dad's, then just don't give it
to her. What's she gonna do. She gotta steal a
wheelchair from you. She gonna commit a heist.
Speaker 1 (18:41):
Ope, you have the potential to do something really petty here.
What so petty?
Speaker 2 (18:47):
What give them the wheelchair, sabotage the wheelchair, take out
all the bowl.
Speaker 1 (18:52):
I was saying, give them the wheelchair, put a lock
on it, and the lock is your birthday and if
they know, if they know where your birthday is, then
they can free sure. Or if you have a really
complicated wheelchair, if you get purchases sent to your text
messages from your step mom, then it unlocks it brilliant.
Feeling spiteful, I asked my friend if I could store
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my wheelchair in her trunk for the trip. I was
planning to go to her house after the trip anyways.
My plan was to play dump, saying I forgot it
or something. It didn't help my mood when I looked
up crutch prices and saw she was looking at brand
new ones rather than second hand sides where they are
quarter of the price.
Speaker 2 (19:32):
All right, Yeah, that's what I was thinking. I was
thinking that, like, how much.
Speaker 1 (19:36):
Do you think it is?
Speaker 2 (19:36):
I don't know. Crutches?
Speaker 1 (19:38):
Yep, well I don't.
Speaker 2 (19:40):
I don't know. Thirty fifty bucks?
Speaker 1 (19:43):
Okay, guess how much a wheelchair is?
Speaker 2 (19:45):
A couple hundred probably like four.
Speaker 1 (19:46):
Hundred okay, crutches right now? Twenty two dollars on Amazon,
or a cheap one on Amazon. One hundred twenty bucks.
Speaker 2 (19:56):
For cheap wheelchair? Yeah, dang, well, Olpie's wheelchair. It's probably
more though.
Speaker 1 (20:01):
Yeah, but you don't. It's an ACL dude.
Speaker 2 (20:03):
Yeah, it's fine, You're fine.
Speaker 1 (20:06):
She can hop on one leg. Also, ACL, what's those
fun little scooter things?
Speaker 2 (20:10):
Yeah, get her one of those scooters. Those ones are
so much more cool. Lacel scooter Is that what acl scooter?
Speaker 1 (20:20):
Yeah, it's so funny. All the things that drive are
like twenty one hundred dollars day.
Speaker 2 (20:26):
That's expensive. I honestly think that like insurance probably did
cover a little bit of the price of the crutches,
but she just didn't want to pay anything. She just
wants it free.
Speaker 1 (20:36):
It's called a knee scooter, by the way, for anyone
that is looking this up, Okay, they're like one hundred
and fifty one hundred and twenty five one hundred bucks. Yeah,
one hundred bucks.
Speaker 2 (20:45):
Okay, so get a knee scooter save twenty bucks.
Speaker 1 (20:48):
Boom. When I tried screenshot some and send it to her,
she simply replied, we already have the wheelchair, so it's fine.
I feel like a knucklehead for hiding my chair, but
this will be the first time in years I'm actually
celebrating my birthday, and I don't want to spend it
in pain or resenting my stepsister for making me lose
a lump sum of money I worked overtime for. Either way,
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I'll be agitated because Mom won't listen to my suggestions
or see things from my point of view. We haven't
edit a few points to clarify. Yes, I'm turning eighteen
next week. After stepsister surgery, I pointed out both Amazon
and CBS forty dollars crutches to mom before, but we
already have your wheelchair. Answer. I ask why she's so
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set on having my wheelchair this morning, and she replied
that stepsister doesn't want crutches. She wants my wheelchair due
to all the padding and extras I've added over the years.
Speaker 2 (21:44):
Well, she can't have my wheelchair due to all the
padding and things. I added.
Speaker 1 (21:50):
I want to take your car because you spent so
much money on it and it goes really fast. This
Honda isn't fast.
Speaker 2 (21:58):
It's not fast at all. It's Yeah, you're in a
and you're like, well, I want the car that's all
souped up.
Speaker 1 (22:02):
Yeah, I don't want my little Toyota. I was going
back to the K Town thing. Yeah, exactly, Like they're
both gonna get you there. Yeah, probably a little faster
and more comfortable, But dude, it's an ACL.
Speaker 2 (22:14):
You're fine. You don't need it. I mean, like obviously
ACL to be clear.
Speaker 1 (22:17):
To be clear, does hurt.
Speaker 2 (22:19):
Yeah, like, it does take a really long time to heal,
but op will never be able to walk in the
same way that you know, her stepsister probably will be
in a like a year or a couple months.
Speaker 1 (22:30):
Yeah, that really got under my skin, and I haven't
spoken to her since. I'm having a long sit down
with my dad when I get home mentally preparing for
the fallout.
Speaker 2 (22:39):
Also, if she needs you know, if the ACL surgery
you know, is so bad that she needs a wheelchair,
then this is just a temporary fix anyway, because she's
only having it for the weekend. Is she gonna keep
borrowing it from op and they're gonna like have joint
custody of this wheelchair or are you gotta get another one? Later?
Speaker 1 (23:00):
I was hoping that Opie could talk to the stepsister. Yeah, like, hey,
I love it, girl, give this to you. I can't
give it to you. I just want to give your
heads up before you get mad. But also I'm getting
a hint that the stepsister would be brad about it,
and you can't even make amends on that end.
Speaker 2 (23:17):
Yeah, I feel like they're probably just like their mom.
Speaker 1 (23:21):
Oh boy, I think they're going to kick her to
the streets since she's eighteen with no will chair.
Speaker 2 (23:29):
I hope not. Well, no, they can't because Opie lives
with her dad right now or is staying with her dad.
So clearly like Opie would be fine even if they
didn't let her come over. Yeah, the mom's house.
Speaker 1 (23:40):
Update, I'll be the first to them in that I'm
an idiot sandwich. After reading all the comments, I was
going to speak to my dad about the whole situation,
but being me, I simply said that stepsister was getting surgery,
so Mom wouldn't have time for me to hang with her.
So I also ask if he'd be fine with me
staying the weekend. And since I'd be gone all day
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with friends and they were even talking about getting dinner afterwards,
no use going to mom's which is three hours in
the opposite direction.
Speaker 2 (24:11):
Dang.
Speaker 1 (24:12):
I had a ton of fun tearing the tour.
Speaker 3 (24:15):
Let's go, Yay, you got your tour and you had
your wheelchair sco queen.
Speaker 1 (24:20):
It was really amazing. My friends kept rotating who would
push me, since people would have moved me forward for
the best few to anyone apprehensive about doing activities with
a visible disability. Wheelchair cane guide dog et cetera. I
couldn't express how fun it was. During the tour and
at the restaurant, I used to have the mentality that
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I was always in people's way and was used to
getting stared at with my cane, But having friends show
up with a small cape for the back and other
trinkets really gave me confidence. And if I ran into anything,
I could blame it on the person driving.
Speaker 2 (24:58):
Ah, that's sweet. You have friends who like actually recognize
that you have a disability rather than your mom and
like are supportive of you.
Speaker 1 (25:08):
One time I had a friend I would go and
play basketball at different places around the county and my
friend's dad was in a wheelchair. Kyle Justice's dad n
he would always been in a wheelchair. One time he
was like in front of a door, it's kind of
like hanging out, and this one person like opened it
and hit him and he's like, no, I can't walk anymore.
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And they were like, I'm so sorry. He's like, it's fine,
already couldn't walk. I also will never ever ever use
a handicap stall again because one time I did when
I was in like seventh grade, Oh, like a stall,
and then he came to use the bathroom and I
was in the handicaps Stoll was like, dang, I had
to like hear him move around to get in the
other stall, and I was like, dude, I could have
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just easily went there, because you never.
Speaker 2 (25:52):
Think, yeah, oh they're just bigger. Yeah, you're like, oh.
Speaker 1 (25:56):
Honestly, I never thought that people use handicap stalls because
they were handicapped. I just thought they were just bigger bathrooms. Yeah,
And then that day I realized, oh, yeah.
Speaker 2 (26:06):
Well sometimes also in the women's in the women's bathroom,
it's because they have like the baby changing station.
Speaker 1 (26:11):
Got it. Well, I was neither they have the two change.
Speaker 2 (26:15):
The baby or handicapped. You're a bad person.
Speaker 1 (26:19):
I was. I felt horrible. Oh man, The idiot sandwich
part came when I was on my way home and
I got a livid phone call from my dad. He
said that Mom had been trying to call me all day.
I'd blocked her number, and she claimed that both Mom
and stepdad were at the house asking for the wheelchair
since I had promised to give it to them. When
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I clarified that Mom had said she wanted to use it,
I told her about the trip, so I couldn't let
her borrow it. By the time I got home, Mom
and stepdad were already gone, and Dad was waiting on
the porch smoking a sick which meant he was very stressed.
My friend asked if I needed help getting my wheelchair
into my car. I said, no, it's harder to yell
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at a person in a wheelchair smart. He found it funny.
Dad didn't. Dad said he told Mom to buzz off.
She tried using the it's my kid logic, but it
doesn't work since I was already four hours away. She
then proceeded to throw a tantrum in her front yard,
throwing herself on the floor and.
Speaker 2 (27:21):
Crying, that's so embarrassing. I'm sorry. She threw herself on
the floor and started crying, that's so embarrassing.
Speaker 1 (27:30):
Let's think about the logic here. Mom is three hours
away from this house COVID time. Yeah, you know, gas
is pretty cheap. Things are pretty tough.
Speaker 2 (27:41):
She drove three hour, Well, it was three hours in
the opposite direction of the tour. The tour so maybe
not necessarily an hour. Yeah, let's say like an hour
from wherever they were going. Hour and a half. She
drove an hour and a half to steal her daughter's
wheelchair and then threw a tantrum on the floor.
Speaker 1 (28:00):
You could have spent twenty minutes driving somewhere if you
called around to pick up a wheelchair.
Speaker 3 (28:05):
Also, just like gas prices, they were pretty good during
that time.
Speaker 2 (28:09):
Yeah, but like I'm just thinking, you know how much
you spend on gas for like they back, Yeah, just
bike some crutches.
Speaker 1 (28:17):
I bet you. They definitely stopped by the gas station
and got drinks and stuff. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (28:21):
I'm like, well, come on, you can spend thirty thirty dollars.
Speaker 1 (28:24):
Yeah they she's ohp sent her forty dollars crutches.
Speaker 2 (28:29):
Yeah, you can spend that.
Speaker 1 (28:31):
It really doesn't surprise me. At this point, Stepdad just
gathered her up into the car and they left shortly after.
Quite the show, from what Dad said. Even some neighbors
came out to see what the fuss was about. I've
heard anything from her since I got home, but I
did get a random, long paragraph text from what seemed
like the POV of a punted dog saying how could
you do this to me? And I thought we were family.
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Not sure if this was from my mom or stepsister.
Since I've blocked that number as will. I don't really care.
At this point. Dad is still agitated at me for
not telling the whole truth, but seeing as it's my
birthday soon, I don't see him staying angry for long.
Speaker 2 (29:11):
Yeah, he can't stay mad at you. It's your birthday.
Speaker 1 (29:14):
Yeah, you can't be mad at your disabled birthday girl.
Speaker 2 (29:18):
Yeah, that's probably what I can see based off of
this post. I feel like op is being like, but Dad,
I can't walk and it's my birthday, Well, you can't
be mad at.
Speaker 1 (29:28):
Me, and he throws are like a pekasig's yeah, and
he's like, all right, you're good, oh man. As for
going no contact with my mom, it's up in the air.
It's easier to say don't ever talk to her again,
especially when I see others with their moms. But I
guess it's time to see her for who she is
rather than what I want her to be. It's nice
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to know others have strained relationships with their moms. Everyone
I know is pretty close with their parents, so I
found myself trying very hard to have the same relationship.
I've since gone over the video in our ring doorbell
to see what had happened. Although you can't really see
what's happening. You can definitely hear mom screaming over anyone
who tries to tell her either to leave or calm down.
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She always demanded to see me. That's when my dad
told her to buzz off, which set off the tantrum.
It would be funny if it was in a compilation
somewhere on YouTube, but it's just sad at this point.
As for my dad being angry, he came in this
morning asking what we were doing for my birthday breakfast.
He's used to my mom being a little out there.
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I've since shown him my post and he told me
about some old wounds I'd forgotten about. For example, my
mom had gone on a camping trip with her boyfriend
at the time during the week she was supposed to
have me fifty to fifty custody. She didn't call dad
until three days later, saying she wasn't getting a signal.
She still didn't come and get me until the next switch.
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I really didn't want to go, but still her as
a kid waiting in the car for your other parent
just to not show. Dad dragged her back to court
to get primary custody. And if you know anything about
family court a father. Getting that is pretty hard. But
I hope you're rolling around having a great time. Yeah,
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and more tours are coming your way.
Speaker 2 (31:18):
Yeah. It seems like at least your dad's, you know,
willing to fight for you. Yeah, that's good. It seems
like you have one good parent.
Speaker 1 (31:24):
And you have some cool friends.
Speaker 2 (31:25):
Yeah, it seems like your friends are super supportive, which
is great. But that's the end of that story, and
we've got another one coming your way. John here og host.
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Speaker 2 (31:38):
My half brother's stepmother blame me for being a bad influence.
Speaker 1 (31:43):
Be a better one than I.
Speaker 2 (31:45):
Seventeen female, have a half brother, eight male. We share
a mom, but I have different dads. I don't see
him often since he primarily stays with his dad, who
I'll call Jeff. By the way, this comes from a
mother's secret lover. And if you want to submit your
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I'm Sophia, I'm Riley, and we haven't been through every
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situation that we read about, but we try to give
the best advice we can. If you've been in these situations,
let us know what you would do, op says. Jeff
has been married to Amelia for a few years now.
She has three kids prior to the relationship, and now
she and Jeff have had two more kids together. None
of their children are old enough to drive. Amelia doesn't
like me because she sees me as an extension of
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my mother. They had a falling out since my mom
dated Amelia's brother whoa way what wait sorry, Jeff married
Amelia yep, and then Opie's mom and Amelia were friends yep.
Speaker 1 (32:44):
And then and then Opie's mom dated Amelia's brother.
Speaker 2 (32:47):
Dang uh wow, who turned out to be harmful, and
Amelia called my mom a liar. I don't want to
force a relationship with her, so I just leave it alone.
I rarely see my brother outside of birthdays, and I
have no relationship with his step slash half siblings. I
live very close to my brother's school, and while I
generally don't like kids or being around them, I've agreed
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to pick him up from school a handful of times
when Amelia couldn't. Jeff's hours don't allow him to do so,
and she's a stay at home This all happened this
past May. I'm fairly alternative dyed hair and multiple facial piercings,
and I'm used to getting odd looks or questions from children,
but I never had to get out of the car
to pick my brother up, so this was never an issue.
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My brother was sick and needed to be taken home early,
so Jeff called and asked me to pick him up.
I wasn't busy, so I agreed. This was the first
time I needed to actually enter the building, but I
was on the approved pickup list, so I didn't have
any issues. I went inside, got to the nurse, got
my brother, and dropped him off back home with no
problems until Amelia called me the next day. What did
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she do wrong here, oh, Amelia. I was unaware she
even had my number, so I declined her call first.
When I finally answered, she began to scream at me
for getting her in trouble with the school. Huh, what
what's the issue here? I asked what she meant as again,
I had no problems picking him up, and she started
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to berate me for scaring my brother's classmates. Apparently, one
of the other children in the nurse's office had been
scared of me, as well as a few kids asking
questions when I walked past open classrooms. I don't have
any extreme body modifications, literally, just hair and piercings. But
the boy from the nurse cried to his teacher saying,
class as my brother. That's ridiculous. That little boy needs
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to get over it. Why is he crying about hair?
What the heck?
Speaker 1 (34:42):
I'm trying to think through this kid's mind. Because kids
react all crazy, yeah and whatever. But I don't know, No,
the kid can react that way, but the adults. Yes,
but the adults are like, oh, yeah, that's just how
people are. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (34:59):
Yeah. Then you go and have a conversation with the kid,
be like no, you know, like everyone looks different, and
you know, she's not scared, she's really nice. She's just
picking up her brother. You explain things to them. That's why.
Like let's say a person doesn't have i don't know,
an arm, they're missing an arm, and a kid goes
like what does that man have an arm? And starts crying.
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You'd be like, no, no, people have different, you know, bodies,
and we explain this politely.
Speaker 1 (35:27):
The memes with kids looking at people that are like disabled,
and like, what's that? Why is your arm all messed
up like that? Why do you have a robot hand?
What do you do with that? Are you a robot?
Speaker 2 (35:39):
Kids don't know what they're talking about, that's what you
explain to them.
Speaker 1 (35:42):
Yeah, and they're they're eight, they're eight.
Speaker 2 (35:45):
The teacher then notified Amelia and requested I no longer
do pickups. I don't even think this is legal. Maybe
not the right word, but I mean I should be
able to make a complaint about her requesting this since
it was based on physical appearance. I caused no disruption
and the only people I even saw were the secretary,
front desk admin, the nurse, and the kids in the
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nurse's office. Either way, Amelia told the teacher that was
not an option, but she would tell me to take
out my piercings next time I was at the school.
I feel like multiple empty holes in my face would
be scarier than piercings. But that's neither here nor there.
Speaker 1 (36:19):
Okay, I'm gonna need a picture of what you look
like now so I.
Speaker 2 (36:22):
Can really I need to know if an eight year
old would be scared of you for real, or if
that was just a sensitive eight year old.
Speaker 1 (36:29):
Yeah, is there, Like, I don't know a celebrity or
someone you could show us so we can kind of
get the vibe.
Speaker 2 (36:35):
Yeah, just tell us exactly what piercings you have. I
told Amelia I would not be taking out my piercings
every single time I picked them up, and that usually
I don't even go inside the building or see anyone
for this to be a problem. I don't pick them
up often, but I have quite a few piercings. It
takes me around an hour, sometimes longer to take them
all out, clean them, and put them back in. Those
little balls are obnoxious to screw back in with long
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nails and shaky hands. While I wouldn't be cleaning them
every time I picked them up, it is a long
and tedious process that I don't like to do more
than necessary. She told me it wasn't a big ask,
and while I agree it mostly isn't. I feel more
disrespected than anything, because I think that's a fairly unprofessional
way for the teacher to behave. Amelia told me the
teacher at every right to protect her students. How are
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you protecting the students?
Speaker 1 (37:22):
Everyone closed your eyes, She's back.
Speaker 2 (37:24):
That's absolutely ridiculous. What exactly are you protecting your students from.
Speaker 1 (37:28):
Literally, it's the easiest thing you can do to protect
the students from this. Oh everyone, watch out. There's there's
someone has a tattoo. Close your eyes, hurry, yeah, go ahead.
Oh no, this person doesn't have a leg. Guys, close
your eyes, your eyes, it's a robot leg.
Speaker 2 (37:42):
And that either way, I shouldn't be punishing her because
she wasn't the one asking. I was even more offended
by this because I'm not a threat or danger. I
literally am just alternative. I realized I didn't mention this before,
but my outfit was also entirely appropriate. It was plain
black sweatpants and a teenage mutant ninja turtlesh Amelia said
this was the reason she didn't allow me to be
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around her kids. I've never asked to be around them
since I don't like kids, I said, if she is
an issue with me, she can lose my number and
find someone else to pick my brother up. When she can't.
She continued to scream at me and tell me I
was just like my mom, which was when I finally
hung up and blocked her. When you're trying to get
someone to do something for you. It's not helpful to
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scream at.
Speaker 1 (38:24):
Them unless you don't want them to.
Speaker 2 (38:25):
Do it yet, unless you don't want them to do that.
Speaker 1 (38:27):
Thing, which I'm getting that vibe.
Speaker 2 (38:30):
I've seen my brother maybe twice since then, since I
primarily communicate with him through Jeff. We play roadblocks together,
but he doesn't have a phone or social media. Jeff
told me he was disappointed, and I told him he
has no authority over me, so I don't really care
what he had to say.
Speaker 1 (38:44):
I told Jeff he's eight.
Speaker 2 (38:47):
Yeah, well, no, Jeff's not eight. Jeff's her dad.
Speaker 1 (38:50):
Oh, Jeff's Matt disappointed? Yeah, oh, I thought the eight
year old was disapt.
Speaker 2 (38:54):
Everybody, I'm disappointing you. I don't care what you have
to say. You're eight. Let's play roadblocks.
Speaker 1 (39:00):
Get on here.
Speaker 2 (39:01):
The issue hasn't been discussed since then until today. My
brother starts school next week, and Jeff called me and
told me Amilia requested I started picking up my brother
up again. I said no and reminded him of what
happened last time. He began to get very aggressive, saying
that they weren't asking for much. I told him it
was no longer about the request, and it was how
his wife spoke to me. I said I wouldn't do
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them any favors of any kind. He began to guilt
trip me and ask how my brother would feel knowing
his sister can't stand to be around him, and threaten
to not let me come to my brother's birthday in
a few weeks. I told Jeff I don't care about
not attending my brother's birthday since I don't even like kids,
and I would just see my brother. Another time, he
told me he wouldn't let me be around my brother
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until I apologized to his wife and agreed to pick
my brother up from school. Again, I told him I
would only agree to pick my brother up with an
apology from Amelia and hung up. This puts me in
a kind of difficult position because I could just see
my brother when he has visitation with her, but we
aren't on speaking terms right now. I would have to
break our temporary no contact in order to do this.
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I live with my dad and his mother and see
my mom one to two times a month max. My
dad and grandma say I should just suck it up
and apologize to Amelia. They don't have a good relationship
with my mom and she hasn't been allowed to step
foot in the house since I was twelve. But I
really don't want to do this. Me and my brother
aren't particularly close, but we have a good relationship and
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I don't want to jeopardize it because of an issue
I have with his stepmom. I know he enjoys spending
time with me because I'm his only sister. All of
Amelia and Jeff's kids are boys, so I don't want
to hurt him over this. Am I the a hole
for refusing to pick my brother up from his school
until his stepmom apologizes? And there is an edit? But uh,
what do you think Gopie should do?
Speaker 1 (40:47):
Just not pick up the brother? I don't know, rite
the brother, get the brother like a little gift, yo. Man.
Speaker 2 (40:53):
The thing is, they need you more than you.
Speaker 1 (40:56):
Need them exactly. All I see is you help and
them being I don't know, I guess like angry that
you helped or helped in your own way and not
by their ways, and then now is demanding you to
help more. Yeah, how does that make any sense? You
just don't help anymore? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (41:14):
I think if you could like figure out a day
where you could go talk to your brother and say like, hey,
still love hanging out with you. If they say that,
I don't, that's not true.
Speaker 1 (41:22):
There's some big adult problems. You don't even want to know,
big adult stuff. Oh what's that? So you know how
God Silla and King Kong like had that movie where
they were finding each other and then you just explain
that way.
Speaker 2 (41:35):
But eight year olds are pretty smart. I feel like
when you're you know, when you're eight, you yeah, you
kind of figure out what's going on.
Speaker 1 (41:41):
Dude. My brothers when they were eight were very too sharp.
Speaker 2 (41:44):
No, I've maybe said a lot of it.
Speaker 1 (41:46):
You're I feel like, very witty people people.
Speaker 2 (41:48):
I think people kind of mis understand. Not probably not parents,
but people don't have kids and misunderstand. Like when kids
starts to be able to, you know, understand things, and
I feel like, you know, around like five, they're they're
talking in full set. They get things, they understand what's
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going on.
Speaker 1 (42:09):
Especially the youngest brother out of four, like Rider was
walking like yeah, I think like fourteen months in mm hmm, yeah,
he's actly.
Speaker 2 (42:18):
Two year olds running. They're running around two Roalds are crazy.
Two year olds have so much.
Speaker 1 (42:23):
Energy, especially if they were born during the VID years. Yeah,
have you ever seen a COVID baby? I have, They're
somehow have superpowers. Dude.
Speaker 2 (42:31):
I had to babysit a COVID a two year old
who this was in twenty twenty three.
Speaker 1 (42:37):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (42:37):
Uh and oh my goodness. She was so cute, but
she had so much entergy. We would I would babysit
her for five hours at a time, like every time
I would go, and literally would not stop running in
those five hours. Like we would do laps around the
house because I don't know, we all our games were
always some sort of TAG related Yeah yeah, or I
don't know, with toys, but it was literally like constant running.
(42:59):
I got such work out.
Speaker 1 (43:00):
It's crazy. I would love the finish walk.
Speaker 2 (43:04):
Can they just go?
Speaker 1 (43:05):
If I was a babysitter and your kid has a
bunch of energy, I would love to come with the
clipboard and just have a list of activities and see
how many reps I can do with this kid before
they get tired. Tag. They seem to like this tag thing,
all right, go go go.
Speaker 2 (43:22):
You just tire them out at times. Later you need
to tell your eight year old brother that.
Speaker 1 (43:30):
You love them.
Speaker 2 (43:31):
You love them? Yeah, edit A few of the reply
seemed kind of confused since the post is long. To clarify,
I'm a girl and I have zero relation to Jeff
or Amelia. Me and my brother share a mother and
stay with our respective fathers. His being Jeff. Amelia is
Jeff's wife, my brother's stepmom. I do not live with
Amelia and Jeff. It's crazy that, Like I think I
(43:52):
understood that, but just having that laid out clearly, it's
pretty insane that they're expecting so much of OPI, but
also being rude when they're asking for this favor.
Speaker 1 (44:01):
Crazy.
Speaker 2 (44:02):
I've decided to take advice from a few comments and
call the school and ask if there's a policy stating
I cannot pick my brother up with facial piercings. That's
also a probably better idea, because that way you can
just go back to picking them up and don't have
to take your piercings out.
Speaker 1 (44:17):
Straight to the source, I will.
Speaker 2 (44:18):
Likely either agree to disagree with Amelia, depending on how
the call with the school goes and her reaction, or
resume contact with my mom to see my brother during visitation.
Thanks for the advice, and there is an update.
Speaker 1 (44:30):
Okay, let's get into it.
Speaker 2 (44:31):
I did what many of you said and emailed the
school to ask if there wasn't any policy stating I
couldn't do pickups or drop offs or be on campus
due to piercings. Like most of you said, they said, no, Oh,
do you think that the Amelia lied about it just
because she didn't want ope towaar piercings?
Speaker 1 (44:50):
Probably? I would also ask that, yeah, hey, I was
in here a few weeks ago. I upset a kid?
Are they okay? Is anything okay?
Speaker 2 (44:58):
They're like, what kid, what are you talking about? I
explained why I was asking, and they said they would
ask the teacher about the incident, but told me there
was nothing they could do if Amelia took me off
the pickup list. I thanked them and gave them my number,
requesting they call me once they were done investigating the
incident with the teacher. The next day at the school
called me to let me know the teacher confirmed there
was a staring issue, and a few questions from my
(45:19):
brother's classmates. I had stood in the doorway and waited
for him to collect his things after checking him out
of the nurse's office, but that was all and she
did not say anything of the sort to Amelia. Oh well, well, well,
I decided to call Jeff and let him know about
my conversation with the school and reiterated I would only
continue to pick my brother up with an apology from
(45:41):
his wife or at least some kind of acknowledgment that
she lied to me. He told me he would have
Amelia call me, so I unblocked her and waited.
Speaker 1 (45:48):
Dang, it looks like, Dann, you have all the cards
in your hand over Yeah, and they have none of that.
Oh wait, they do have one, the blame card, and
it's not working. I'm working.
Speaker 2 (45:59):
She did all to apologize, but it was very reluctant,
and she dropped the bombshell but she's pregnant again and
used that as an excuse.
Speaker 1 (46:07):
Come on, she had the pregnant cards, like.
Speaker 2 (46:09):
Oh, it's I just reacted so badly because I'm I'm
hormonal hormones.
Speaker 1 (46:14):
Dang it, that's it.
Speaker 2 (46:15):
We shouldn't you know?
Speaker 1 (46:16):
It would be funny as if we had cards, Like
there's like a u O game where like you can
put a card down and it has different effects. I
guess like Pokemon.
Speaker 2 (46:24):
Two, I play hormonal.
Speaker 1 (46:26):
I played pregnant card. I affects hormones and cons like
I don't know causes. Yeah, hey it's sam og host.
Speaker 2 (46:35):
We get it back to these delectable stories. But here's
three minutes of ads from our sponsors to help support
the show. I decided to just let it go because
I don't want to damage my relationship with my brother,
and it just wasn't worth it until today, when I
picked my brother up, he asked why I have so
much metal in my face. He's never said anything before
about the piercings unless I've gotten a new one, so
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we asked what caused him to bring it up again.
A lot of you were correct. One of Amelia's older
sons had asked to get his ears pierced, and she
attributed it to me. Even though I never see my
brother's step or half brothers. She's been complaining about it
often around my brother, I guess, trying to bait him
into saying my piercings bothered or scared him too. I
(47:15):
asked him if they did scare him, and he said no,
and he doesn't really think about them. But Amelia constantly
said things like I just don't understand why she does
that to herself. She's so pretty without the metal crowding
her face. I'm not sure how relevant this is, but
her and my mom were close friends before they're falling out.
Amelia has a son about a year and a half
younger than me, not the one asking to get his
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ears pierced, and she often joked about setting us up
before I started leaning more alternative. That's weird, Like, I
know that you guys aren't related at all, but it
is just it just feels weird to want to set
up your son with your steps soun's step son's half sister.
That's weird. I think that's where the she's so pretty
(47:57):
comments come from. I was frustrated, but didn't want to
upset my brother, so I just decided to change the subject.
Instead of dropping my brother off and immediately leaving, I
told Amelia I wanted to come inside and speak to her.
Speaker 1 (48:09):
Uh oh.
Speaker 2 (48:10):
She told me it wasn't a good time, and I
insisted it was, so she came outside and we talked
on the porch. I told her again that if my
piercings were an issue, she could find someone else to
pick my brother up, but I would appreciate it if
she stopped complaining about them. To the rest of the family.
She told me it was none of my concern what
she said in the privacy of her own home, and
I said, it was my concern when she was actively
(48:32):
trying to bait my half brother into speaking negatively about me.
Do you have any final thoughts?
Speaker 1 (48:37):
She played the hormone card, she tried to and you
called her bluff. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (48:41):
I also liked that. She was like, oh, it's not
a good time, and Ope was like, yeah, it is
is right now.
Speaker 1 (48:45):
I love the tenacity the other right word. I love
the tenacity you have Europi and I wish more people
shared this when calling others BS out.
Speaker 2 (48:54):
Mm HMMU.
Speaker 1 (48:55):
I'm going through a situation right now where I need
to call some BS out. I don't have the tenacity
to do it.
Speaker 2 (49:00):
M you gotta keep pushing, Can you lend me some yeah,
handsome over. Ope. She again told me she could say
whatever she wanted in her own house, and I was
just too tired to argue.
Speaker 1 (49:10):
Dude, Okay, real quick on that comment. Yeah, yeah, you
can say whatever you want your own house. But somehow
it got out of the house. It came into my ears.
Speaker 2 (49:17):
Oh that's so funny, because you're what you're saying inside
your house, I'm hearing about So how how is that private?
Speaker 1 (49:24):
Yeah, so it is my concern because it's somehow leaving
your house and traveling all the way to my ears.
Speaker 2 (49:29):
That would be like saying, oh, like if a parent
was teaching their kid, no, it was saying bad words
or something in their own house, and then teacher says like, hey,
your kid's been like using a lot of swear words,
and they're like, well, I can say whatever I wanted
the privacy of my own home. It's like, well, yeah,
but it's gonna get out when you have kids, their little.
Speaker 1 (49:47):
Parents, they are Oh my gosh, they are.
Speaker 2 (49:51):
She again told me she could say whatever she wanted
in her own house, and I was just too tired
to argue. I told her if my brother came to
me again to tell me she'd been complaining about me,
I would stop picking him up and just see him
during my mom's visitations with him. She was very happy,
but agreed and went back inside, slamming the door in
my face. This should be the last update. I'm just
going to tolerate Amelia in order to maintain contact with
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my brother because I don't care about her antics. And
I have enough other things going on. I'll continue only
communicating with Amelia and Jeff when necessary, and hopefully nothing
else will come out of this. Thanks for the support, y'all.
And that is the end of that story, folks.
Speaker 1 (50:28):
Well or move.
Speaker 2 (50:29):
Yeah, you're doing great, Op, You're doing great.
Speaker 1 (50:32):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (50:32):
This I think that was kind of like the best
thing that you could have done.
Speaker 1 (50:36):
Yeah, good, step by step, Check them with the school,
check them with the teacher. Yeah, confronting the mom. Is
there a way for you to step back from See
The thing though, is if you step back and don't
help as much, it's gonna directly affect the brother.
Speaker 2 (50:50):
Yeah, you get less contact with the brother. So I
think Op's strategy here of just being like, if you
don't respect me, I'm not gonna drive, yeah, you know,
and you need me to drive, because if they didn't
need her, then they'd do it her, you.
Speaker 1 (51:03):
Know, they'd say you can't ever pick them up again.
Speaker 2 (51:05):
By exactly, but they need her to pick them up.
Speaker 1 (51:07):
Such a silly way of trying to get an apology
out of Ope. Yeah, and then it just blows up
in your face yep and doesn't work.
Speaker 2 (51:14):
Silly, silly, But that's the end of that story and
the end of this episode. So if you love us,
make sure to subscribe.
Speaker 1 (51:20):
We love you and see you tomorrow.
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