I WARNED my dad’s girlfriend that she’d never see my baby again…if she kept PUSHING her religion on him! | Reddit Stories - ok storytime

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Speaker 3 (00:13):
I warned my dad's girlfriend that she'd never see my
baby again if she kept pushing her religion on him.

Speaker 1 (00:19):
I'm gonna have to push my baby down a river.
Then it becomes Prince of Egypt.

Speaker 3 (00:23):
I love that movie for context. I twenty six female,
come from a Catholic family, but my parents decided not
to raise me and my siblings as such. My father
due to a crisis of faith he had years ago,
and my mother because she hated practicing it. We were
all baptized for our grandparents' sakes, but nothing beyond that.
We never prayed, didn't have any first communions, and didn't
read the Bible. I didn't even set foot in a

(00:44):
church until I was fourteen. By the way, this comes
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Storytime Suppered. I'm very grateful for that upbringing. Today I'm
agnostic and I don't have a great relationship with the church.
My husband's family is also Catholic, but he doesn't practices.
Our first child was born earlier this month, and we
decided to raise him without religion. Neither of our extended

(01:06):
families cared much, but we've been having some trouble with
a few people over it. My father has been dating
a Christian woman for six years. I'll admit I like her,
but I don't dislike her either. Before I got pregnant,
she wasn't the preachy type to me, at least she
wasn't happy when I told her I was agnostic, but
didn't try to change my mind. You did talk about
her religion a lot and kept trying to get my

(01:26):
father to engage with it frequently, but not much beyond that.
Soon after I announced my pregnancy, my husband and I
had dinner with my father and his girlfriend, during which
she told us she knew the perfect place for the baptism.
We said we weren't planning on baptizing our baby, and
from that moment she got annoyingly preachy to me and
my husband. It was mostly indirect stuff, such as giving

(01:47):
the whole family speeches about how glad she was to
have Jesus in her life, but some were impossible to
mask as unrelated. You gave me a decorative cross for
the nursery on my baby shower, tried to make us
all say grace during Christmas dinner, which we'd never done
before with or without her, and kept bringing up a
priest friend of hers who just so happened to author
do baptism. My husband and I stood by our decision.

(02:09):
Fast forward to now. Our baby was born a couple
weeks early. He was pretty much full term, but we
were all still worried. He's perfectly healthy and we're all
doing well. Yesterday, my father and his girlfriend came over
to see the baby. While I was telling them about
my labor and how it was at the hospital, she
told me she had been praying for us the whole time,
and that we should all praise Jesus for giving us
such a beautiful blessing as my son. Unrelated to her

(02:31):
previous preachiness or not. I lost whatever patience I had.
I said, you know what I'm done. The more you
talk about Jesus and religion and whatever, the less you'll
see my child. She was quiet the rest of the visit.
After they left, my father called me. He told me
he understood. I was frustrated, but I shouldn't have been
so rude to his girlfriend. He told me her intentions

(02:52):
were pure and she was only behaving like this because
of how important her religion was to her. I don't
think I'm wrong for my feelings, but I am worried
I was too rude. Am I the a hole? And
there are comments and an update?

Speaker 1 (03:04):
What do you think?

Speaker 3 (03:05):
Really?

Speaker 1 (03:05):
I think the mom needs to be or the girlfriend
needs to be going at this different way. Yeah, because
the whole beating someone the Bible approach not very.

Speaker 3 (03:14):
No, it's just I think it's frustrating because Ope and
her husband have both stated many times that they are
not interested in this. They have not been rude or
anything about the girlfriend's religion, but they're like, no, somewhere
doing that's not what we're doing for our kid. It's
not what we're doing for our kid. And she still
is trying to like push and push and push. And

(03:34):
I think it's even more frustrating that the dad doesn't
seem to see the problem in this either. Like OPI's dad.

Speaker 1 (03:40):
Not saying anything.

Speaker 3 (03:41):
Yeah, He's like, oh no, she's just you know, she
just loved you guys, and she cares a lot about
her religion, and it's like, okay, but you need to
respect our boundaries.

Speaker 1 (03:47):
Too, Yeah, And I'm like my approach with it is like,
I hope people can have any encounter with Jesus, and
if they do and they want to explore that, great,
but you can't. The more you try to force that,
the less that's coming from. Yeah, you know, Jesus coming
from your religion. So like, maybe you should pray about it.
Did you pray about it? Did you pray about it?

Speaker 3 (04:04):
Maybe she should go and pray on her own time.
But there are some comments not the a whole. Maybe
remind your dad what's important to you. She can have
her faith, but when she starts pushing that on others,
that's her crossing boundaries. And op replies, my father tends
to humor her when it comes to these things, which
kind of surprises me, because she pushes her faith onto
him more than onto us. I'm obviously okay with him

(04:26):
doing that for himself, but not one extends to me
and my siblings. And a down voted comment says, you're
the ahle, whether you are religious or not. For most
people who do have a relationship with God, praying for
somebody is them showing love. Your baby could have had complications,
and she prayed for him because that was the most
she could do to help the baby. It's kind of
bogus that you can't see her trying to show love

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only because you don't like the way she did it.
That's weird. And op responds, I have no problem with
her praying for my child, but that is something she
can do without announcing it or expecting us to do
the same, especially when talking to a family she knows
full well is no religious And I.

Speaker 1 (05:01):
Will add on to them the big Man above did
have problems with all the people in the streets praying like,
oh my gosh, look how great I am praying to God. Yeah.

Speaker 3 (05:09):
He would just be like, go do it on your
own diet.

Speaker 1 (05:11):
Yeah, I go do it in your tom like I
see what people don't see interview.

Speaker 3 (05:15):
Reward from it.

Speaker 1 (05:16):
Yeah, that's what she's doing, and it's not coming from
a humble place. That's really kind of weird too.

Speaker 2 (05:21):
It is like she's kind of doing like an eye
for an eye kind of things, like I prayed for you.

Speaker 3 (05:26):
Now you have to baptize exactly.

Speaker 2 (05:28):
It's like, now you have to do all of this
without my consent.

Speaker 4 (05:32):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (05:33):
No. And I'd also be really worried about like because
we've read other stories where you know, kids have been
baptized without the permission of the parents. Oh yeah, And
so I'd be worried, you know, if she's this, if
she's getting this kind of pushy that if she were,
you know, taking care of the kid, what would she do.
But there's an update. Hey, folks, update time. This might
get a little long. I showed my post, along with

(05:55):
your comments and my replies to my husband. He told
me he agreed I had been rude to my father's girlfriend,
but thought she had pushed me to the point in
which I had no other choice. He was actually surprised
I lasted so long without saying anything. For the record,
I'm not opposed to religion or to Catholicism. I have
religious friends. I've seen godspell, and I've visited churches without
catching fire. One of the most beautiful places I've ever

(06:16):
been to was the Metropolitan Cathedral in Brazilia. I managed
to endure preaching us for short periods of time. I'm
just not religious. There are many reasons why I don't
have a good relationship with the church, most of which
I'm not comfortable sharing. I will say that I've been
agnostic since I was a teenager, and people have been
trying to tell me I'm wrong and I need to
be Christian or Catholic for longer than that. I also

(06:38):
live in a very religious country, which never helped my case.
I have always loathed people who obsessively preach about their
faith to others. I find it incredibly disrespectful and hypocritical.
I wouldn't run around telling people what I think as
an agnostic, and I expect my acquaintances to do the same.
Sometimes you need to be an ale to get your
point across. I wish i'd understood that sooner. I think
I downplayed how stressful it was to deal with my

(07:00):
father's girlfriend's behavior during my pregnancy. Everything happened a lot
quicker than I expected. On Monday, my older brother informed
me our father and his girlfriend had told him about
what happened, apparently expecting him to take their side. He
took mine, and they ended up having a short fight.
I decided to sort this out with my father before
it extended to my sister. A couple days ago, my

(07:21):
husband and I called my father and his girlfriend to
talk about the subject. I told her that as much
as I appreciate how much she seems to care about
our son, both me and my husband are uncomfortable with
the way she's been trying to push her faith onto
our family. We don't want to raise our son as
well as any other kids we have in the future,
with religion, and we expect the people who will be
a part of his life respect that. I told her

(07:43):
that moving forward, we wouldn't accept any religious gifts Cross's,
Virgin marya, figurines, et cetera, wouldn't entertain any attempts to
make us pray or say grace, and would shut down
any speeches about accepting Jesus into our hearts. My husband
counted seven in December alone. No more hinting that we
should baptize as our child either. She is free to
pray for us if she wants, but we don't want

(08:03):
to know about it. We will respect her faith as
long as she respects our boundaries. I think that's a
good way to put it. I think that I think
you guys, you know, put the boundaries up. It wasn't rude.
It was just saying, you can do that on your
own time, but if you want to have a relationship
with us, this is how it's gonna work. She remained
quiet while I said all of this. When I finished,
she said, can't you at least put the cross I
gave you in his room? Not gonna lie? That was

(08:26):
one of the most frustrating things I'd heard someone say
to me in a while. My husband nearly lost his patience.
I replied with, this is exactly what we're talking about.

Speaker 1 (08:35):
No.

Speaker 3 (08:35):
The answer has always been no and will always be no,
and if you keep refusing to accept that, we will
restrict your access to our son. It's that simple. We
didn't talk much after that. She apologized and we said
we forgave her. Then we said our goodbyes. Later that day,
my sister went to their place and she said my
father's girlfriend was very quiet and seemed upset. My father

(08:55):
called me on his own yesterday and we talked a
little more about this. He did try to defend his
girlfriend a bit, and if I had a coin for
every time he said it's just how she is, I'd
be very rich. But he mostly focused on apologizing to me,
I accepted it. His girlfriend also texted me with another apology.
She sounded more sincere this time. I told her, I
don't want her to think I'm doing this out of

(09:17):
disrespect for her religion. I simply don't share her beliefs.
You told me. She understood by the way. I understand that.
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is a little bit left to this story, but any
final thoughts.

Speaker 1 (09:35):
I just hope she sees what she's doing. She should
go read about the Pharisees.

Speaker 3 (09:39):
But there's a little bit left to the story.

Speaker 1 (09:41):
All right, let's go, and this is it.

Speaker 3 (09:43):
I don't think this is over, but I feel like
I've wasted more than enough energy for now. Part of
me is still hopeful this will pass away on its own.
Unless my father's girlfriend tries holy waterboarding me sometime soon.
I won't update again. My son is happy, healthy and loved.
That's all I care about right now. Thank you, guys.
I wish you all well, right, we wish you well.

Speaker 2 (10:02):
That's Sometimes the power of religion.

Speaker 3 (10:04):
Seems like everything was okay. They had the conversation, the
girlfriend seems to have listened, seems like everything's good.

Speaker 1 (10:12):
The mother of my daughter's boyfriend is horrible. She tried
to force me to cancel our trip break them up.
I forty female and the mother of a very nice
girl who is dating a very nice boy, both nineteen. However,
she is not quiet when it comes to criticism when
she sees bs going on in her social life, including
boyfriend's mother's behavior. By the way, this comes from Extension

(10:35):
Student one, p. Fifteen. If you want to spit your
own stories, but to our slash okay story dumps up right.
So I've heard stories from the boyfriend's mother thirty seven, being,
in my daughter's words, a lower scale version of one
of those weird boy moms. She tended to be overbearing,
making very specific tailored jokes for boyfriend, like not only
being able to drive my daughter in his car for

(10:57):
a month, but letting him drive the other people. Another time,
my daughter accidentally left a spicy kiss on his cheek.
I wasn't happy about it either, but I wasn't expecting
a verbal apology to me from him about it. She
was from my daughter and when I was told it
made me uncomfortable. He has also been pinned with punishment
for actions of his sister that I suppose he didn't

(11:18):
try to stop despy him not knowing it's happened enough
that the sister only stays at mom's because she won't
punish her like their dad does, and only punishes the boyfriend.
She's renowned for making up those kinds of excuses from
being an educator. She is one of those parents who
will call and make excuses for their daughter's behavior and
doing this once, the vice principal told her of a

(11:41):
situation they hadn't addressed with her kids yet regarding too
much shedd a. I never heard about it and our friend.
The principal said they weren't in trouble when my daughter
went asking, and even said the vice principal was out
of line giving boyfriends a mother that information. She even
said in front of my daughter at least three times
that boyfriend and a close friend with the same disability

(12:01):
could be a cute couple, despite this girl being extremely
manipulative and in a relationship herself before she and boyfriend
had stopped being friends. Despite all of this, I always
tried to get my daughter to see the good size
and at least try and see it from a different
side and not to be driven crazy by the mom.
She continued to be a bit odd, but we met
for a senior event that she put off agreeing to

(12:24):
until a week before. We'd been inviting boyfriend for months
and she wanted to do it all along until she
didn't want to do it. She seemed nice and told
me she wanted to take my daughter to a concert
that summer. I agreed, and we kept talking and I
felt like it went well. The concert came up and
went to EG Double hockey Sticks. They drove a big
seater car with two adults and four other adult kids

(12:45):
that broke down halfway through the trip. My daughter messaged
me but kept it brief. The car broke down, boyfriend's
mom was screaming and freaking out, not doing anything to
fix the problem. My daughter looked up rental car services
and recommended they call the police to find a local toe.
It took half an hour to do this, and when
they did, boyfriend's mom used boyfriend's money without telling him.

(13:05):
He only knew he paid for the rental car, but
later found out she took money for everything without telling him.
Uber Toe repairs toe about three thousand dollars and so
after the fact, what kind of parents takes a break
the kid.

Speaker 3 (13:17):
Yeah, like, took three thousand dollars away from your son.
I'm what tech.

Speaker 1 (13:22):
No, my mom, thank you. Mother had no ties to
my bank account whatever. She even took me to the
bank to get a set up and had no ties
to it.

Speaker 3 (13:29):
Right, my parents should not be taking out money from
your child's bank account unless you talk to them, and
there's like, honestly they should be doing it, but it
should be like, oh, okay, we needed this money has
to go out because we're paying for your college or something.

Speaker 1 (13:43):
This made my daughter even more uncomfortable, less about the
event and more about the character boyfriend's mother displayed. I
agreed and understood, but again I didn't want to play
devil's advocate and try to sympathize this babst behavior seemed
a little important for what ended up happening. We planned
my daughter's trip for months. We went for her birthday
slash senior trip to a destination at first only two

(14:04):
hours away, and then a final one that was four
At the first destination, as we were about to leave,
boyfriend got a call through my daughter's phone. He got
grim and was a bit sad and wouldn't talk to
my daughter about it. Before we get to what happened,
keep in mind she knew where we were when she
called because she wanted an update for every little thing,
leaving the driveway, getting on the highway, everything. She does

(14:26):
this for everything for her nineteen year old. We made
it to dinner at the final destination and boyfriend was
still quiet, but told me he had to talk to me.
I felt uncomfortable because I knew my daughter was distraught
about not knowing what was going on, but I said
I would because I was the adult and I needed
to know what was up. He said something at home
and boyfriends and mother needed to talk to me, I said.

(14:46):
When we get to the hotel after dinner, we a
got in the car, started driving in another country and
heard the horror phrase, let me get the phone to her.
As I try to navigate this place with my husband
always hand on the phone to talk to boyfriends and mother.
She did the worst thing that could happen. Did our
nephew had a tumor. They found out that afternoon I
was going to be operated on tomorrow question mark. I

(15:06):
felt awful. We have our own bad luck on trips,
with family members passing away and getting sick every trip
without fail. I felt sympathetic. That was until I was
told that boyfriend had to somehow get home to see
his cousin. I was in a car with four other
people who had been in the car for a total
of six hours. I couldn't just turn around and leave
without telling them or consulting my husband. I did try

(15:27):
and make an effort, though, saying we could try and
get back earlier, and we intended tomorrow, leaving a couple
of hours and getting there maybe around seven. I got
the equivalent of have a heart, he needs to be
here soon. God they wait, wait, wait, I didn't know
what sooner should be.

Speaker 3 (15:43):
Okay. Also, they've just driven all of this way. They
can't just turn around immediately. That's insane. What do you
mean to have a heart? Figure you figure it? If
you need him to be back there, then figure out
a flight. I don't know.

Speaker 1 (15:54):
Yeah, yeah, you can't.

Speaker 3 (15:55):
Just tell people that they have to turn around after
a seven hour drive.

Speaker 1 (15:58):
Or whatever how long they drive was it seems like
immediately at least this boyfriend's mother uses everyone of their
little minions to do xyz for her.

Speaker 3 (16:06):
Yeah, she's trying to control everyone, and she's like, okay, well,
you have to turn around.

Speaker 1 (16:09):
I threw out that we could leave right in the morning,
but hopefully get there for four and she got pissed.
She yelled that this was a family tragedy and that
would be too late, that his cousin might not wake
up the same and boyfriend had to be there in
person to see him before he went under. I stood
my ground and said I needed to talk with my
husband before I made any decisions. I was not going

(16:30):
to turn around and just leave without talking to my
husband like she clearly was wanting. She bit back, saying
that if the shoe were on the other foot, you
do everything to get my daughter back home. That pretty
much ended the conversation. My husband ended up driving four
hours back to meet up halfway with boyfriend's mom or
not even saying thank you to him, and just taking
boyfriend on our way home. The next day, boyfriend told

(16:51):
my daughter on the way home his mom doubled down
and said she hated me and felt bad for my
daughter and husband. She didn't drop the animosity getting mad
about boyfriend wanting to go to family events with those
people and now inserting herself on some important dates like
a tattoo my daughter paid for, or boyfriend you didn't contribute,
but just blew up. You won't let him do simple

(17:11):
things we offer, like borrowing my daughter's car. By the way,
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dude boom, borrow us all day if you want, We'll
be there. My daughter is now more uncomfortable, not just
because of this, but also how because boyfriend's mom is

(17:33):
pregnant and is still smoking green in front of her
when she's there and talking about baby stuff. Am I
they able for not leaving another country at eleven at
night to get boyfriend home to see his cousin for
what I found out later.

Speaker 3 (17:46):
Was exploratory surgery. I freaking knew it.

Speaker 1 (17:49):
I feel like I added fuel to the fire that
I didn't need to. But I also feel that it
wasn't my impromptu choice to make.

Speaker 3 (17:56):
Yeah, no, I knew it. I knew it. Exploratory just
saying like they were checking if there was anything there.
It wasn't like a It's not like an actual.

Speaker 1 (18:04):
Surgery you just found.

Speaker 3 (18:06):
They're looking for something to see. I believe that's my
understanding of exploratory surgeries, that you're looking if there are
any like malignant tumors or anything.

Speaker 1 (18:13):
Dude, some high strung parents just rub me the wrong way.
I don't know how to deal with them. I feel
uncomfortable around them, and I don't want to be near
it whatsoever. Just ah, it's like, why are we feeling
this way. Life's gonna happen. It's gonna be all right.
You can't control the world, to be honest, I don't
think anyone would fault you for wanting to finish your
daughter's senior trip before rushing back for a family emergency.

(18:36):
I mean, it's not like you were shrugging it off
and refusing to help it all. You were still trying
to find a solution and be there for your daughter
as well as boyfriend's family. Sometimes you just can't please everyone,
and you have to do what's best for your own
family too. Hope, He says, completely agree. I hold no
animosity towards boyfriend's mom. Just don't appreciate the immature behavior
and doubling down. Stuff happens and it can get emotional.

(18:58):
I just feel bad about this effect boyfriend and girlfriend's relationship.
In regards to boyfriend's mother's side of the family, she
took her sister's truck to get him, and have no
doubt this spread like this stuff tends to coming too.
There was actually an emergency because the boyfriend's mom sounds
like the super controlling type would make up an emergency
to make him come home. Hope. He says. She has

(19:19):
tried to guilt trip him into coming home from a
camping trip on his birthday before, but nothing so dramatic
yet and what we know he blew it bit out
of proportion in the most serious way I can say.
In context to the scenario of a brain tumor, she
said it would change the cousin's personality and he possibly
would remember people, making it sound like they were operating

(19:40):
to a possibly removing some or all of the tumor.
She is on disability after being a LPN or a
back surgery, so semi credible. It more ended up being exploratory,
opening him up to get a view of what's going on.
Still dangerous because brain surgery, but not nearly as invasive
as she made it out as context, he got diagnosed

(20:01):
in scheduled surgery in less than twenty four hours. That's impossible, right,
They need time for tests, They need to check up
before putting someone under and that's the end of the story.

Speaker 3 (20:11):
Dang, well, yeah, I don't trust this mom. She's sussed.
It's like, what do you do in I think you
just offer the boyfriend a safe space, you know, where
he can have people who love and support him, because
it seems like his mom is really out of whack.

Speaker 1 (20:23):
Yeah, my ex's new girlfriend is furious that his family
still talks to me. She wants him to cut contact.

Speaker 3 (20:34):
Dang, they like you better than her.

Speaker 1 (20:36):
February eighteenth, twenty twenty five. So I'm divorced. I will
freely admit that I'm most at fault for the divorce.
I never should have been married. But hindsight is twenty twenty.
As they say, my own family is a crap show
and a half. I've known my exis family for the
majority of my life. By the way, this comes from
no consequence forty one. If you want to spit your

(20:57):
own stories, go to our starsh Okay, storytime subredy. When
we split up, some of his family has kept in
contact with me, including his mom and one of his sisters.
It's nothing crazy, but we grab a drink from time
to time, and his mom just checks in to see
how I'm doing. Knowing how family is, she worries about me,
even though I tell her not to. We split a

(21:18):
few years ago, and the divorce was final more than
a year and a half ago. Despite me being the
a hole in my marriage, my ex doesn't have any
crazy bitterness and we have a decent relationship now. In
the years since we split, he's never had an issue
with his family staying in contact with me. I know
for sure because I've asked inter new girlfriend. They've been

(21:41):
married for six months or so. She's twenty seven and
he's sneaking up on forty. Not that big of a deal,
but she's not a fan of the fact that he's
been married before. As I've gotten more serious, she's taken
extreme exception to the fact that his mother and sister
in particular are still keep in contact with me. I'm
petty and laughed my boat off the first time she

(22:03):
came at me all about it. Probably. I talked with
his mom and sister though, and told them I totally
understand if they need to cut contact to keep the peace.
They assure me that they would do what they want
to do and not with the girlfriend of a hot
minute demands. Yeah, since I'm still in contact with them,
she's taking the mature approach for posting all my misdeeds

(22:26):
on social media, some of which have impacts on people
that don't deserve it. Well, maybe deserve it a little,
but in any case, it's rocking a lot of boats.
Three weeks ago, I was out with friends at a bar.
The new girlfriend was there with the axs. She was
livid and demanded I immediately leave. I gave the appropriate

(22:46):
response and laughed, turned around and continued my conversation. She
proceeded to hit me from behind and smashed my head
into the bar top. I lost consciousness for a few
and when I came to it, he was being pulled
away and the cops were being called. I declined charges
at the time, but was told if I changed my
mind to contact them. So since being petty and posting

(23:10):
everything about me, I'm thinking maybe those charges sound a
whole lot better. My ex is begging me not to,
saying he will rein her in and get her to stop.
But man, I want to pull the trigger now and
just do it.

Speaker 3 (23:23):
Do it. You should have done it earlier.

Speaker 1 (23:26):
As I've admitted, I'm not the good guy in this story,
but am on the a hole if I do file
charges against this girl.

Speaker 3 (23:33):
No, you would be stupid not to file charges. She
attacked you.

Speaker 1 (23:38):
Yeah, we got we got some comments. Press charges for sure.
Facebook won't do much, but you can print them out
to show a pattern of aggression with her. It will
reinforce the harmful act charge and might get you a
restraining order against her. Op response to that, Even if
what she posts is the truth, she's not posting lies,

(23:59):
but at the same time, it's things from years ago
and causing a lot of undue stress for people, including me.
Comment or two. Your ex husband here is kind of hilarious.
I'm imagining he's standing in front of you, with you
having the biggest black eye from getting your face smashed
to the table by her, and having the audiitity to say, basically,
I can fix her. Opie says, this makes me smile

(24:21):
because it's kind of like him. Imagine a hot, massive
six or four, formal football player with the softest heart ever.
He sees the best in everyone to his own detriment.
He's really a great guy and deserves so much better.
I don't know this girl's story, but it's a safe
bet he thinks he can fix her too. Prominy three
husband has really not upgraded his game. He really needs

(24:44):
therapy to stop with the toxic women, Opie says Loo.
I'm pretty sure I told him this exact same thing
after the incident and OPI wind and OP pressed charges.
OP To be fair, it's not for her. I have
a guilt about what I did to my ex. I
definitely was the a hole to him, so I didn't
press charges for him. But things have starting to go

(25:05):
off the rail since. So it wasn't for her, it
was for my ex. He's ultimately a good guy that
always wants to fix people that are in some way
broken hints o our doomed marriage. He knew going into
it that I had issues, but he cared and wanted
to give me a shot. I don't know much of
anything about this girl because frankly, I didn't feel like

(25:25):
it concerned me, but maybe he felt she was his
next one to fit fix and it's not going well.
Opi on the relationship with her ex mother in law.
My ex mother in law is one of the best humans.
She's long been the mother I've always wished I had,
even when I was the a hole. She called me
on it but still cared. I've told her in my

(25:47):
ex that I understand and will bow out at any time,
but she's still there for me. Ohpi clarifies on being
involved with her exes family. I'm honestly not involved in
my exes family. My relationship with his sister predates our relationship,
and his mom only checks in on my life and
fills me in on her friend gossip, and my ex
is fine with this. We are friends long before our

(26:09):
romantic relationship, and while we aren't friends to speak anymore,
there isn't animosity. Did op know the girlfriend and if
she's apologetic? Opie says, I honestly don't know next to
nothing about this girl. While my ex move past all
our issues and we are good now, I don't feel
the need to find out all the details on his

(26:30):
new woman. She was apparently highly intoxicated, and he claims
it's highly out of character for her to be physical
and violent. But the pettiness now is just too much.

Speaker 3 (26:41):
I don't care if it's out of character, you shouldn't.
There's no excuse. There's no excuse for that.

Speaker 1 (26:47):
Absolutely, she's like overwhelmed with jealousy. It's weird. Oh so
what did you do?

Speaker 3 (26:52):
Tell us?

Speaker 1 (26:53):
Tell us did OP have any kids with her ex husband?
We have no kids, but he has one with his
first wife. They don't live nearby anymore. So I er
has been directed at me. First wife and I are
very good friends. If you can believe that. How did
the girlfriend know about Ope's past with X? Part of
some therapy I was in. I had a journal where

(27:14):
I wrote out things. I stupidly forgot it when I
moved out, and it was with his things. She found it.
She found therapy journals I forgot about and left behind.
She's posting things from those.

Speaker 3 (27:27):
That's messed up. Also, the fact that the ex is
in doing anything about that is also messed up. Like one,
she assaulted Op that's crazy, ah, And two she's posting
private thoughts and things and it seems like the ex
is aware of that because she's posting them on a
public forum and he's not doing anything. And is still

(27:47):
expecting OP to just be chill with it and not,
you know, press charges.

Speaker 1 (27:53):
All right, February nineteenth the next day, So today I
learned that my ex actually did split with the girlfriend
this past weekend.

Speaker 3 (28:01):
That makes sense. It would be insane if he stayed
with her. She's crazy.

Speaker 1 (28:05):
After reading many of the comments, I've decided I was
going to go ahead with the charges. I gave my
ex mother in law a call just to let her know,
and so she could let my ex know if she
had a heads up. I don't know or want to
know the details of the breakup, but he ended it
and told his mom that he understands if I wanted
to press charges and that he never should have asked

(28:28):
me not to in the first place.

Speaker 3 (28:30):
Good.

Speaker 1 (28:31):
I spoke with the officer today and that's done. Likely
little will happened to her, but at least there's some consequences.
I had a lot of people asking why we divorced
in the comments and dms without getting it, without getting
too far into it, I've always been someone that didn't
believe in monogamy. I freaking knew it or believed it

(28:52):
was something I was capable of. I knew it. I
knew she cheated. I knew it.

Speaker 3 (28:55):
Well wait wait, let's read the next sentence.

Speaker 1 (28:57):
My AX was aware of this going into our relationship.
I was on board for many years on our own
definition of our marriage and relationship and by definition, if
you want to have a good time and continue this
great thing we got going on here, go to your
favorite podcast platform searcial up, okay, story time on Apple, Spotify,

(29:19):
wherever you listen to podcasts, and we'll have stories as
crazy as this one. Anyways, back to this, Over the years,
I could tell that it weighed on him, so I
tried to change believe in the things he did, but
ultimately it just didn't work. I ended the marriage, large
part because he wanted more kids and I did not.
I was at the angel and the end was a

(29:41):
little messy, but we came to a good place. Thanks
again for the messages. Those who maybe more laugh more
than they should have. And that is the end of
that story.

Speaker 3 (29:50):
Wow, I need more information about anything I do. I
need more information real Yeah, like what did you and
I mean it seems like you were going to press
the charges? What happened with that's he's bringing with his girlfriend?
How did she take it? What did you do? Did
you cheat? I don't understand.

Speaker 1 (30:10):
I think she cheated. I think well she was like.

Speaker 3 (30:12):
Oh, we had an understanding that I didn't do monogamy.

Speaker 1 (30:15):
I hadn't understanding.

Speaker 3 (30:16):
But then but then they like it.

Speaker 1 (30:18):
He didn't. He probably didn't agree with it. It didn't
work out. Lack of communication, Slash being on the same page.

Speaker 3 (30:24):
All right, I guess that's fine. Sam.

Speaker 1 (30:29):
Here, we're gonna get back to the stories.

Speaker 3 (30:30):
But here's three of it's bads from our sponsors. My
wife Sex is terminally ill. His make a wish is
to spend a day with her. I thought make a
Wish was for kids. Hello Reddit, my wife, let's call
her Susan and I have been married for eight years.
I've known her even before we were together, during which
she was dating someone named Ken, obviously not her real name.

(30:53):
We were all part of a choral group in our church.
By the way, this comes from throw a Last Wish
and if you would have submit your own stories, go
to our slash oakey his storytime sub read it. So
the three of us were actually quite good friends, and
I genuinely thought Susan and Ken were going to be married.
Slash be together for a long time. It was a
shock when Susan told me that they're no longer together.

(31:15):
According to her, one day, Ken just decided that he
wanted to move interstate. When we asked why, he didn't explain.
The next day, he asked Susan if she wanted to
join him. Confused, Susan said no since she thought it
was way too soon and she has work commitments. He
then proceeded to break up with her, leaving Susan very
depressed and confused. According to an information from friend several

(31:37):
months after the breakup, Ken had planned this for a
long time and that he was seeing someone else inter state. However,
these were all allegations based on some texts, and until
now Susan never found out why he left or why
he broke up with her. It was all very confusing.
When asked by friends on why they were no longer together,

(31:57):
she simply said, I don't know. He just broke up
with me because I don't want to move interstate with him.
Years past, we all forgot about it. Susan started to
open up to me more and then we started dating.
The rest followed anyway. Yesterday, Susan received a call from
Ken's mom. She's a nice lady who semi frequently watches
our performances and volunteers during the Christmas carol season. It

(32:20):
was all very sudden because we only see her once
or twice a year, and she never called in the past.
She told Susan that Ken is terminally ill and has
been for the past couple months. He is in a
local hospital interstate. The hospital has a mini Make a
Wish foundation run by volunteers, and apparently Ken's request is
to go to the National Park for a picnic with her.

(32:43):
It's all weird, right, I thought it was a bluff too,
but it all seems legit. I talked to Ken's mom
and we both agreed that it's odd. Ken's mom said
that Susan doesn't have to say yes, she's simply passing
on what Ken said. The prognosis for Ken is grim,
and we don't know how much time we have left.
I suppose the sooner we decide, the better. Susan is

(33:04):
obviously confused. She wants nothing to do with Ken again
after what he's done to her and a lengthy period
has passed since then, but she admitted that she would
feel bad refusing his last wish, especially if his prognosis
is that grim. She said jokingly, Well, you don't have
to worry about me cheating. He's got to pass away anyway.
A bit dark, but I mean she has a point. Personally,

(33:27):
I'm torn too. I trust Susan and I know nothing
romantic or anything will come from this if she chooses
to see Ken. But why does he want to see
her now her closure? That's the only thing I can
think of. You will most likely have a hospital volunteers
stick around when he goes to the outing, so it's
not like he can do anything weird, But why hurt?
Why not use his wish for something else, reversing the situation. However,

(33:50):
if I'm terminally ill and obviously have an intention to
meet someone, et cetera, and it gets rejected, I would
be beyond depressed. I know how awful it must be
for your life wish to be rejected. Am I looking
too much into this? Should we honor his wish and
let Susan spend the day with him or should we
just refuse? Any input is appreciated and edit forgot to

(34:12):
add that when going for the picnic there will be
a hospital volunteer taging along to supers Ken so they
won't be alone. And there is an update.

Speaker 1 (34:19):
Sophia, how does it go till death do us part?

Speaker 3 (34:24):
But they weren't married.

Speaker 1 (34:26):
I mean they were married, so he could do that.

Speaker 3 (34:31):
I think that one. You gotta listen to what Susan wants.
Is she gonna be super uncomfortable doing this because she
was pretty hurt about the situation. It seems. I don't know,
I don't know what would you do in this situation.
Your beautiful girlfriend that you have right now is messaged
by an ex and the exes is passing away and says,

(34:57):
my make a wish is for you to to spend
a day with me at a national park.

Speaker 2 (35:02):
That's crazy, bro, your that's your one.

Speaker 3 (35:04):
That's just what I'm doing.

Speaker 1 (35:07):
Is I'm going to say no, but that if he
keeps pursuing that, I'm going to help his day become closer.

Speaker 3 (35:15):
But there is an update. So my wife got hold
of Ken's mom and we managed to ask more questions
and clarifications. Thanks to those of you for your input
on this one. Ken's mom only just heard about his
plan to see Susan yesterday, not no mention of it
at all. Throughout his hospital's day. Ken has been reaching
out to a lot of people recently, including his high
school friends. She thinks that this could be a blanket

(35:38):
attempt to reconcile with many people. When asked if she
remembered anything slush if Ken said anything rebreak up with Susan.
Susan actually asked this question herself. She said that she
didn't even know both of them broke up until a
couple weeks after. That's crazy. An interesting thing, she said
is that Ken has always felt that there's nothing much
for him to do in the state. He was a

(35:59):
rich from the state we're in, and that he wanted
to do something different. He may have jumped the pew
too quickly, landed a job too soon without consulting Susan
he didn't, and freaked when realizing Susan was not ready
to move. Ken's mom thinks this is most likely the
cause of the breakup, even though Ken never told her
exactly why. They're not very close. Upon hearing this, Susan

(36:21):
thinks it makes sense, but she said what he did
was still not very nice because he never told her
that he was unhappy with their living arrangements at the time.
Even Though Ken did well in his new job, it
was very stressful and he got into weed, alcohol, heavy smoking.
These contribute to his current illness. That sucks. It has
been confirmed a medical volunteer will accompany him if he

(36:43):
does choose to go outside hospital grounds. Since Ken is
getting more unsteady on his feet, he will most likely
be wheelchair bound soon, according to her. When asked why
meeting Susan in a park was his idea, Ken's mom
simply had no idea. Ken is happy for me to
accompany Susan to the park venue wherever it may be. Oh,

(37:04):
that's an added this is an added kind of variable. Now,
so now you get to go with Angie to this
date not a date.

Speaker 2 (37:13):
Listen, if I know this is like not even a
threat anymore. I know this guy is not making it. Yeah,
I'm like, all right, Carly, let's go see her.

Speaker 4 (37:22):
I think if you're cool with your ex, let's go
see your no funny business, let's go great. Yeah, I
would like, I want to respect the wishes of someone's
literal last wish. I'm like, that's a weird wish, bro,
but like yeah, sure, Like if that's what you want,
you don't want to talk to Disneyland or go to
another country.

Speaker 3 (37:39):
You want to do that. I feel like now that
he's kind of like allow you know, oh he's allowed
to come, I think it's chill.

Speaker 1 (37:45):
Yeah, I I if it was for me, I don't know, man,
I'd do this for certain axes.

Speaker 2 (37:52):
Yeah, exactly, That's what I said.

Speaker 1 (37:54):
Ever thing.

Speaker 3 (37:55):
He is also fine with us meeting him in the hospital,
but there is a strict two person a day visiting
rule and a place at the moment, so his mom
may not be able to look after him if the
both of us rock up at the same time. His
mom would likely would like to visit him daily to
help with daily living baths. Ken is reluctant with a
Skype call or phone call in general. Kenswolm stated that

(38:15):
his speech is quite slurred at his stage, and he
hasn't been eating and drinking much lately, so his mouth
is dry most days, so it's uncomfortable for him to speak.
Writing a letter is not something he can do these
days due to him being drowsy from medication flash dated.
Dictating would be hard too, because see point above. She's
been helping him type emails to friends some days. There

(38:36):
is a possibility of Ken being transferred to his mom's
home for his end of life if it gets to
that stage. Ken's mom reiterates that Susan can decline the offer,
and with everyone everything going on in the world, she
would understand if she can't make it, but she hopes
that we would consider it for her son. With this
update and conversation with his mom, we're more inclined to

(38:58):
go instead of not going. Yeah, still would like some
thoughts on what we may have missed, though I think
it covers everything.

Speaker 1 (39:04):
Now.

Speaker 3 (39:05):
We will be in regular contact with his mom until
we know what's going on. Susan and I did a
mini risk assessment and we conclude that this is pretty harmless.
She said she still feels apathetic towards him, but would
still feel bad if she doesn't go to visit, so
she would like to go with me. Now that Ken
and his mom said it's okay for both of.

Speaker 1 (39:22):
Us to go, I will say this changes things.

Speaker 3 (39:24):
I think it changes a lot. I think before I
was like a little bit of reservations, but I was
still like, yeah, I probably can.

Speaker 1 (39:29):
And then you throw like the terminally ill part into it. Yeah,
can't really do much. You can't make moves on my girl.

Speaker 2 (39:36):
That's what I'm saying.

Speaker 3 (39:36):
That's what I'm saying, terminally ill. And also you can
go with your partner, and it seems like he just
wants to make amends.

Speaker 2 (39:44):
This is like you want to make sure this person
like rest rest in peace literally, you know.

Speaker 3 (39:49):
But there is another update Update three. Susan and I
just got back from doing shopping and chores and we
had some more talks about this. We actually reached out
to a a couple of our friends in the choral group,
and one of them actually knew Ken's been unwell, just
didn't know that he's that unwell. No one really talks
about Ken in our group because Susan and I are

(40:09):
still there. The fact that he's this unwell has been
kept under wraps quite tightly. Susan said, it seems like
she has the power to make Ken's end of life
a bit easier, so she would like to visit him
along with me and listen to what he has to say,
if any and that's the end of it. We don't
know what the logistics will be when this will happen,
since obviously it would require a lot of planning from

(40:30):
Ken's family as well and himself, but I will post
an update once we all meet him. Since there seems
to be a lot of interest in this, We've texted
our choral group members to perhaps visit him together when
the time is right and restrictions are lifted, and they
were all keen to send him off with one last song,
the Irish Blessing. We will be reading through the comments
and replying the best we could. For those of you

(40:52):
saying make a Wedge foundation is for kids, we know this.
This is the hospital's version of it, run completely by volunteers.
It is only available in their end of life care facilities.
I'm sure there is a proper name for this. And
Ken's mom said make a wish because it explains what
they do. Simply why at the bark no clue? Probably
because it's pretty. But Ken must have said to the

(41:13):
organizer with his mom and she simply related with him
being that sick. I'm sure he didn't really care so
much about the location, as signified by his willingness for
a change of venue and for me to join in too.
And why did we decide to post this on Reddit? Well,
because it's simply a very weird occurrence It was a
joke actually, Susan said, why not post this on ra

(41:34):
and see what kind of interesting perspectives we get. If
it's just Ken and he's not passing away and he
wants to meet Susan at the park out of the blue,
then the answer would have been heck no from the
both of us. But the fact that he's been reaching
out to others after revelation with his mom of course
and unwell makes it a bit more complicated. There is
a third update. We will be seeing Ken next week.

(41:57):
The hospital doesn't allow large groups, so it will be
the two of us visiting. The choir group will visit separately.
Thank you all for your input. We will make a
post with an update on how that goes. Oh that
was a short update, and there is a fourth U date.
We're gonna barrel into that one. The meeting actually went
really well, okay great, So after a couple of reschedules,
we drove to the hospital to see Ken and his

(42:18):
mom earlier this week. We arrived quite early in the morning,
around eight am. His mom stays with him overnight most days,
so it was good timing for her to hand over
Ken to us while she goes back and rest. A
redditor suggested an idea that we brought in a care
package for her, and we did. It's just a box
filled with a couple pairs of warm socks, moisturizer, books,

(42:39):
and toiletries. She burst into tears when receiving those. It
was such a great idea. Anyway, Firstly, we came together,
my wife and myself, and we did a small ketchup.
It was a slow process since Ken couldn't really speak
too long in one go, if that makes sense, so
it had to be broken up in sections. I asked
him if he would like some time alone with Susan,

(42:59):
and he's said yes. So I left both of them
alone and went out for a walk and to do
a bit of remote work on my laptop. I just
told her to text me if she needs anything. So
I left Susan and Ken for about a couple hours
before Susan texted me that I can come back up anyway.
During this time, basically, Susan asked what happened to Ken,
why did he move interstates so soon? And was there

(43:20):
another motive behind it? Well, the story goes as follows.
For finally finding out the reason why Ken broke up
with Susan. Years later, Ken was working a low paying
job at the time and was feeling like he was
never going to get any career progression. Susan and myself
knew Ken has always been creative minded. He got a

(43:41):
diploma and film and everything, but we didn't know is
that behind everyone's back. During that time, he was searching
for a career opportunities in film and animation industry. He
put in a job application for fun, and a few
months later got offered a position as an intern animator
something along those lines. According to Susan, he was stoked,
but he didn't expect that he would actually get the job. Therefore,

(44:03):
he actually never planned anything in advance. But you should
tell your partner about that, regardless of whether or not
you think it's gonna happen. The job required him to
move interstate asap, and Ken felt pressure to say yes
since he's applied to other similar jobs in the past
but got rejected. Hence by it took him by surprise
and he didn't do any planning. It's the well, I

(44:24):
won't get it anyway, so why should I make arrangements mentality,
according to Susan, So he asked Susan to move with him,
but left out the job details, since as an intern,
he will get paid even less than what he's earning
with a lot of voluntary work, he was scared that
Susan will not approve of the lower way. He left
out the details and just asked her to move out

(44:44):
with them. He admitted it was stupid and apologized for
being immature about it. After the breakup and after working
a few months as an intern, he said that working
in the industry is not like what he thought it
would be. There was a lot of crunch time, to
the point where him and the other interns were spending
most of their time in the office, even sleeping while
waiting for the program Code Animation to finish compiling. Dang,

(45:06):
I'm not tech savvy, but I figured animations take a
long time to set up. Yeah. He then got into
booze since everyone in the office also drinks. This then
turned to severe drinking to cope with stress. This then
turned to smoking and substances. Anyway, he stuck it out
and became a technical lead, but he said he had
zero social life or support apart from a couple of colleagues,

(45:29):
and that he's burning himself out every day. The support
he got was basically a small group that goes out
on social drinks only that's why he kept going back
into booze and substances. He's been in and out of
hospital with booze poisoning and actually never sought help. He
said he might also be depressed, but he's earning enough
just to pay rent with all his booze expenses, so

(45:50):
he didn't seek any help. He also did a lot
of other bad decisions that are popcornworthy but way too
long to include here, things that got him arrested fire
from his job, so he had to find another, et cetera,
et cetera. When asked about the park situation, he said
there was no malice intended. It was only because he
was sick of being in a hospital all the time

(46:10):
with no window of opportunity to go outside, and that's it.

Speaker 1 (46:14):
Really.

Speaker 3 (46:15):
His substance abuse got him to where he is now.
I managed to catch up with him and reminisce about
the good old days when we were still hanging out together.
Told them it's hard to see anyone these days due
to the VID. He said that a few of his
old friends from school have visited him and he was
so happy that they still care. He told me that
he tried reaching out to his former girlfriend as well
to apologize, but only Susan turned up. He has had

(46:38):
other relationships since breaking up with her. He said, he's
sad about it, but he would like to tie up
loose ends while he still has the time. Okay, Oh,
that's so sad.

Speaker 1 (46:48):
It is sad. It is sad to hear that he
had a rough life and things in it the way
it led.

Speaker 3 (46:53):
To this, and it's really I mean, I'm sure it's
devastating for him to you know, go through all that
and then kind of have that period of reflection as
he's passing away that he's made all these mistakes and
this is the only time that he's going to have
to fix them.

Speaker 1 (47:10):
Yeah. Good on you guys for giving him the space
to apologize. That is I mean, that's really big. You
don't have to Yeah. Yeah, and now they have all
the context here is incredible.

Speaker 3 (47:20):
In terms of his prognosis, I asked, and he said
he doesn't know, though there are plans for him to
continue end of life care at home and he would
prefer it that way. When we left Ken, I asked
Susan what she thought of everything, and she told me
that she felt a lot better now that she's gone
and seen him. She then told me all of the
story above. During the ride back home, plenty of time

(47:42):
she was cursing and saying, man, I can't believe you
did that. What a dumb person. So for those of
you who are worried that she might go back to Ken,
sorry to burst your bubble. I don't think it's happening.
I mean, he's also passing away. I asked her how
she's feeling again the next day, and she's pretty much
forgotten about it and just hope that his mom can
cope with this since she's a nice person. He does
look a lot less guilty, though, so I'm glad we

(48:03):
did go. We haven't really touched on this topic again
for days now, since we've been focusing more on work
and our upcoming road trip. They're literally taking.

Speaker 1 (48:11):
A vacation, dude.

Speaker 3 (48:12):
This is literally what I said. But you know what
is upcoming full episodes with stories just like this. Just
go to Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favorite podcast stapp
and search a pokey story time. But there is just
a teeny teeny bit left to the story. But I
think that it all worked out. I mean, it's still
really sad that you know, this man is passing away,

(48:33):
but it seems like he had that moment of closure. Yeah,
and also that OPI and his wife didn't feel uncomfortable
giving that to him. But there's a little bit left
to the story. Thanks for all the editors who chimed
in and helped from both perspectives. In these uncertain times,
we should still try to be kind to others. And
if there's any takeaway from this is to seek help

(48:55):
if you need it. Obviously, Ken was in a bad
spot but spurred by bad influences. If you know a
friend of yours who's spiraling out of control or starting
to get into destructive habits, reach out. Who knows you
might save a life. That's sad. That is a sad
note end on OUCH. But that is the end of

(49:15):
that story. And I mean it's very sad, but it
worked out in some ways.

Speaker 1 (49:21):
Yeah. Yeah, I'm just proud of you guys for being
the angels.

Speaker 3 (49:25):
Yeah, I mean, yeah, you definitely did not have to
do that, so it's very very kind of you.

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Hey y'all, it's John og Host here.

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My entitled ex stepmother feels entitled to a relationship with
me after six years of no contact.

Speaker 1 (49:47):
Sounds like you got to earn that one.

Speaker 3 (49:48):
Mm hmmm. I twenty four female, am a child of divorce.
My biological parents split when I was four years old.
My mother started dating again when I was seven to
a wonderful man, and I love him to death. But
my absolute idiot of a father dated several women between
the time I was four to eight. Half of the
time he was in and out of my life as
it was. But that's not what this is about. By

(50:09):
the way, this comes from DMG fifty six twenty and
if you want to spit your own stories, go to
our slashowcase story time separate it. This is about his
last girlfriend, his wife prior to his dad. My stepmother,
whom I affectionately call my ex step witch SB, walked
into my life after she met my dad while she
was in a women's rehab group in my hometown where
my dad and his Christian rock band Plane buried Bible

(50:30):
Belt area of the southern US. I always had an
issue with the women girls that walked into my life
because of bullying due to my absolutely insane name that
this man gave me, as well as his first girlfriend
after leaving my mother, abusing me and my little sister
when we were very young, not to mention that the
reason he and my mother divorced was because he was
constantly on substances. So I was very aware of what

(50:51):
her rehab group was for, which made my skepticism even worse.
She showed up one day when I was eight and
a half. I remember because it was summer and my
birthday was in January. It was my dad's week fifty
to fifty custody and Dad was going to take me
and my sister to our uncle's house to go swimming,
but we were waiting for stepmother. It was that day
that Dad told me and my at the time seven
year old sister that they were dating and had been

(51:12):
for three months without saying anything to us for minder contacts.
My dad screamed at my mom for not telling her
that she was dating someone, so there were issues in
that for me. I distinctly remember looking at my dad,
then at stepmother, then back at Dad and her again
until I pointed at her and told my dad she's
going to do something bad. That was the beginning of
our day. Name fast forward to not only my dad

(51:33):
getting married to this woman, but me being used by
her as a test subject for her psychology degree. What
She never finished this, By the way, I was eleven
at this time and playing in my bedroom with my
sister and cousin, waiting for lunch after church on Super
Bowl Sunday of twenty twelve. My sister and cousin were
on the computer that was in my room because we
didn't have enough TVs. They were playing Movie Star Planet,

(51:54):
which was all the rage at the time, and were
using the camera feature. When the flash went off, I
started to feel funny, to say the least, so much
so that I started seeing red dots everywhere. I told
the two of them, and my cousin made the joke
that I was about to have a seizure, and to
my surprise, he was right. Now, this next part I
don't have much memory of other than stories for my sister,
cousin and Dad telling me after I came to Apparently,

(52:16):
the two of them ran downstairs to get a drink,
leaving me on the bed until my dad came upstairs
to get me for lunch. Apparently I was having a
full ran mouth seizure out of nowhere, and my dad
did everything he could think of to keep me from
hurting myself while calling nine one.

Speaker 1 (52:30):
One time out terrified. Did this woman make you have
a seizure somehow? Now? Was that why she was testing you?
And was like, hey, you're about to have a seizure
and they called it too soon right before that it
actually happened. Well then that was the cousin that called it. Well,
some information probably slipped. I probably heard it through the
Vince was like, good a seizure, then boom.

Speaker 3 (52:50):
I remember waking up a little in the ambulance and
my dad telling me I was okay and I should
go back to sleep, which I did. Next I knew
I heard noises, one of those being touchdown Patriots my
dad cheering. The first thing I said after waking up
was asking if he was watching the Super Bowl without me.
That's when the room exploded. It was the first time
since I was very young that my mom and dad
were in the same room and not screaming at each other,

(53:12):
not the last, but that's a different story. I remember
looking around after my eyes adjusted to see I was
in a white room, a hospital room, still in my
church dress that I was going to change out after
lunch and before the game. My mom and dad called
the doctor back in to check on me, and I
was scheduled for so many different appointments after that, including
a sudden re entry to the hospital because we found
out I was allergic to the seizure med they gave

(53:33):
me while I was unconscious. Oh USh, just hit after
hit man. This part was told me years later by
my mother when I was about seventeen. Apparently, while I
was passed out and getting tests done, stepmother, instead of
checking on me, caulled our pastor to pray over me.
He was a good man, but I now have nothing
to do with the Christian faith because of stepmother and

(53:53):
my dad. But because it was a smaller hospital and
involved a child, it was only direct family allowed inside
the room with me. Stepmother told the hospital staff that
she was my biological mother. We looked nothing alike, and
she was twenty eight when I was eleven. When my
real mom showed up, the pastor, who was outside the
room told her it was family only, and when she
told him that she was my mother, and thankfully one

(54:14):
of the new nurses that showed up was a friend
of my mom's, she was let in and Stepmother was
punted out. From what I'm told, stepmother got yelled at
by our pastor for lying to him about my mother
not having anything to do with me or my sister,
when in fact she was very involved in her lives.
Good on the pastor. I was supposed to go to
her house that day after she got off work, which
was conveniently right after the Super Bowl. Anyway, after I

(54:35):
was released from the hospital and my mom took me
home to her house, things were okay. I was off
school for a week because the seizure came out of nowhere,
and my primary wanted to have me come in every
other day for checkups just in case things changed. However,
when I went back to my dad's I had gotten
off school after my first day back, and while I'm
doing my tours, which was washing dishes that day, stepmother

(54:55):
came into the kitchen while my dad was in their
bedroom playing World of Warcraft and told me that I
was on my fault, that the church is mad at her,
and she hated me for it. This lady's crazy, he
put it.

Speaker 1 (55:05):
They're putting a lot of pressure on.

Speaker 3 (55:06):
A child who literally didn't do any was in a like,
was in, you know, in the hospital, and then you
lied about being her mother, and then her actual mother
said no, I'm her mom. And that's what got you
in trouble again. I'm eleven, and this twenty eight year
old woman is blaming me for her getting in trouble
with a man she lied to. Not to mention that.
She and my dad would tell me anytime I was

(55:27):
sick after the seizure, it was on my head, or
you're overreacting. Your pain can't be hospital level. My dad
was a Navy veteran, so he always used that line
whenever I was hurting, not realizing that medication I had
been taking for years made my pain tolerance severely low. Ironically, though,
they were sort of right, explained further down. Since that day,
we absolutely despised each other to the point that no

(55:48):
matter what I did, I was getting Bible thumped, even
going so far as to make me late for an
assignment for my freshman English class in high school because
I made the mistake of claiming Greek mythology made more
sense to me than the Bible. This still holds true
to this day. I'm practicing Norse pagan moon Wigan. She
even got so insecure about my blatant hatred of her
that she asked me to show her my messages between

(56:08):
me and my counselor that I was assigned because of
dual self harm attempts. I was fourteen at that time,
and even I, someone who at the time was studying
away forensic science and had an unhealthy obsession with criminal
minds in law and order, knew that was illegal as heck,
and told my counselor about it at our next session.
That nonsense got shut down very fast, Thankfully. She's been

(56:29):
mostly out of my life since I was seventeen, when
my father passed away of a substance ode wow withdrawal
induced heart attack. Me and my father had apparently been
on substances again, big shocker and a personal I told
you so on my part, and subjecting me and my
sister to the fumes, which made me violently ill for
several months, and we didn't know why until Dad passed.
The last time I saw her was six months after

(56:51):
he passed away when I turned eighteen, and I got
the one thing of my dad's that I wanted, which
was a twelve string electric guitar big music Family. However,
that wasn't the last time she tried to make contact
with me. Recently, while I was in college, already stressed
out because of more health issues that stemmed from the
seizure incident coming up and the sudden passing away of
one of my dad's four sons, stepmother started to spam

(57:13):
my Facebook messenger asking how I was doing, if school
was going good, all this kind of crap, only to
yell at me for coming out as a demi girl
semi non binary that leads towards the feminine side. I
was using dayvam at the time, and she called me
an abomination, which was strange because I didn't tell her
or anyone else outside of my college friends who were
on the other side of the country from where she

(57:35):
was back in my home state. Apparently, my one brother,
who still has contact with her for some reason, told
her about me, asking to be called sibling on our
brother's obituary, thinking I still talked to this woman like
my sister did occasional. He was fully aware I hated
her with the burning passion, but not exactly why. I'm
not close with any of my brothers for various reasons.
But that's besides the point. Stepmother was tormenting me over

(57:57):
the phone while I was studying away for finals before
returning home to get medical tests done. I'm to find
out I have epilepsy, autism and a vain malformation in
my brain that nobody cared to check after my seizure
because the neurologist I saw in my home state at
the time was an idiot and claimed I had the
seizure due to low blood sugar ugh, which come to
find out, is a massive side effect of the epilepsy

(58:18):
in the malformation. I'm sorry they didn't do any other
checks when you had a seizure. They were just like, oh,
I don't know, she didn't eat enough.

Speaker 1 (58:24):
What typical girls.

Speaker 3 (58:25):
Oh my god, that's so frustrating. I do have a
blood sugar issue, but when I sees it gets dangerously
low due to a plethora of other issues hormone and
chemical wise in my messed up body. I now have
to go to the capital of my home state after
dropping out of college because of insurance issues and to
have a consultation with a neurosurgeon to see if they're
going to put me through radiation or just cut the

(58:46):
malformation out of my brain. I went to Facebook in
order to warn anyone on either side of my family
since my epilepsy was genetic and I'm the first to
have it on either side, as well as update my
cousins who I still have contact with in that part
of the state if they wanted to be Stepmother effing commented,
saying I should go see her instead. Lock this woman,
block her. Why is she still Why are you still

(59:07):
texting her? I nearly screamed. I was so mad that
she was still acting all lovey dovey to me, But
thankfully my boyfriend was able to calm me down enough
not to do something stupid and commented himself that if
any of my family wanted to stay in contact with me,
they will keep Stepmother away from any information on my
location and life. So far, only my uncle, my dad's

(59:27):
last living sibling, and his sons are the only ones
who still keep regular contact with me or my sister
from my dad's side. I have little contact with my
mom's family my entire life, other than one of my
two brothers on her side. I have my fingers crossed
that the situation gets better before I lose my whole mind.
But I have a feeling she won't come anywhere near
me or our hometown because of how many bridges she's

(59:49):
burnt here by hurting me and my sister mall down,
lots of motorcycle bikers who happen to be family to us.
By the way, you guys are family to us, and
you should listen to full episodes with stories us like this.
Just go to Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favorite podcast
stapp and search at Pokey story Time. She's been ruining
my life on and off since I was a kid,
and I hope with this I can now have some
piece away from her while I deal with everything. I

(01:00:11):
am eternally grateful to my boyfriend for keeping me sane
during all of this stuff, as well as my younger
sister and stepdad who have been helping me with appointments
and paying for my medication while I work on getting
my disability process. And that is the end of that story.

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