I’m furious with sister in law…she’s been demanding my wife take a DNA test! | Reddit Stories | EP2139 - ok storytime

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Speaker 1 (00:18):
I'm furious with my sister in law. She's been demanding
my wife take a DNA test.

Speaker 3 (00:23):
No thank you.

Speaker 4 (00:24):
And it's I'm Not your Father week on Okay Storytime.
Or we're diving into jaw dropping paternity twist with family
confessions that I'll have you asking is this really my dad?
But let's dive into this one. I'm using a dummy
account for obvious reasons. My wife gave birth to our
baby boy just two weeks ago. Since she's been suffering

(00:45):
from mood swings and gets angry easily, I thought it
was postpardrum, so I tried to convince my wife to
seek help from a professional to what she refused, and
she kept refusing, so I just gave up instead of
forcing her. And by the way, this comes from Admirable
Use sixty nine and if you want to spit your
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(01:06):
I brought it. So I started providing as much emotional
and physical support as I could. I don't know what
my wife was struggling with because my sister in law
was asking my wife for a DNA test.

Speaker 1 (01:19):
So are you the bad guy or she the bad guy?
Who's the bad guy here?

Speaker 3 (01:23):
The sister in law for asking for a DNA test?

Speaker 1 (01:25):
Okay?

Speaker 4 (01:25):
So the reason, this is the reason why the wife
has been like in a mood. My wife told me
the truth when I found her crying in her bedroom.
When I told her that she can trust me, she
absolutely needs to tell me what she's been thinking, otherwise
I won't be able to help her. She told me
that my sister in law has been asking her to
do a DNA test. Is proved that the baby is

(01:46):
really mine and owes us, And when she refused to
do that, she kept questioning whether the baby is truly
mine or not.

Speaker 1 (01:56):
My wife is religious. She wouldn't even show her face
to another man. Having spicy sleep with another man is
out of the question.

Speaker 4 (02:03):
I asked her why she did not tell me the truth.
She said she didn't want me to doubt her. I
told her that I would never doubt her and a
DNA test is unnecessary. I went to my sister in
law and asked her why she did harass my wife
and said that she insulted my wife by asking for
a DNA test. She said she was just looking out

(02:23):
for me, and she thought my wife is trapping me
because she's from a different religion. Oh, lovely, I said
she had no right to pester my wife and speak
on my behalf. I don't want a DNA test and
she should not be worried about it. I told her
that she should stay away from both of us for
now because my wife just gave birth to my son

(02:45):
and we need to focus on my wife's health and
her son. But now my sister in law and my
brother keeps calling me in, texting me that I'm kind
of being unfair to her and she was trying to
help me in a way, and I'm inexperienced. And many
men never found out that their children's aren't really theirs,
but somehow someone else's step one back off. I know

(03:06):
my son is mine and my wife and I trust her,
and I can bet my balls that my wife would
never betray me, but I don't know how to explain
it to my sister in law and my brother because
they don't even want to listen to me. So am
I the a hole?

Speaker 1 (03:22):
Guys? OPI was not the a hole?

Speaker 3 (03:24):
Yeah, obviously not. I mean your brother and your his
wife are trying to like, I don't know, trap your
wife or like accuser of all this stuff, and you're
defending her rightfully.

Speaker 4 (03:34):
So a religious like Okay, I thought it was because
of money. I was like, how could they get money
out of this? But I'm always saying it help people
get money out of things. We have a comment asking
why doesn't Opie's wife want to show her face to
anyone who is not female?

Speaker 1 (03:46):
OPI, What am I supposed to do?

Speaker 4 (03:48):
Should I force my wife and tell her she needs
to show her face to other humans to interact with him?
My wife can do whatever she wants, and I can't
really force her to do something she doesn't want to.
OPI on his wife's religion. She wears it's Muslim. I thought,
so she keeps her whole body covered from hands to
feet with gloves and socks.

Speaker 1 (04:06):
Is Muslim? I'm not.

Speaker 4 (04:07):
We both are culturally apart. The only reason we're married
and with each other right now is because we are
in love. And yes, I think the issue is about
religion and culture.

Speaker 3 (04:17):
Yeah, I mean your sister in law is making these
accusations and it seems like I mean she even said, oh, well,
she's not from our religion. Yeah, so it does seem
like she is basing it off of the fact that
your wife is Muslim.

Speaker 4 (04:30):
If I knew that my sister in law would start
questioning my wife if she gave birth to my son,
I would have kept her far away from my wife.

Speaker 1 (04:37):
I don't understand why commenters.

Speaker 4 (04:39):
Here are more worried about my wife covering herself and
just ignore everything about my sister in law and her
doubt about my son isn't actually mine?

Speaker 3 (04:47):
Typical Reddit, typical red it being like why are you
giving your wife like religious autonomy?

Speaker 4 (04:53):
I love it when they get fixated on a recipe,
like so what was the recipe that they ruined?

Speaker 1 (04:57):
Could you share that here?

Speaker 3 (04:58):
They're like you, like, how dare you like a press
your wife by letting her wear a burka?

Speaker 1 (05:04):
Don't let her do that? Like that's what she wants
to do. Can we focus on the issue here or not?
This other stuff.

Speaker 3 (05:10):
It doesn't even have anything to do with this.

Speaker 4 (05:12):
But other times they're like, maybe there is an age gap.
Maybe you guys should think about the age gap where opie?

Speaker 1 (05:17):
Yeah.

Speaker 4 (05:17):
Anyways, we got an update May eighth, twenty twenty five,
more than three weeks later. Long story short of my
previous post. My sister in law asked my wife for
a DNA test to prove that a new born is
actually mine behind my back, when I myself am the father,
never asked for it or doubted my wife. I asked
my sister in law, why should my wife need to

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prove herself and do a paternity test? Why did she
not ask another woman from our family to prove themselves?
And she shouldn't have question and insulted my wife after
two weeks of giving birth when she is so mentally unstable.
My sister in law said she was looking out for me,
and same crap about many men never finding out their

(05:59):
t isn't theirs, or found out when it's too late.
I told her that she's creating unnecessary drama in my
life and I have no doubts and I trust my wife.
I told her that I am for now going to
cut her and my brother out of our lives because
I want to focus on my wife's self and our
son and stop talking to them. That was about a

(06:20):
month ago. I've been focusing on taking care of my
wife and our son. My wife still refuses to seek
medical treatment, but she's far more stable than she was
last month. She does physical and breathing exercises and isn't
a much better place. But yesterday the villain calls back
and she said she doesn't want to break the family apart.
She wants to talk to my wife and apologize to her.

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I said, I'll think about it, but system less said,
if I'm not ready yet to forgive her, I should
at least not cut my brother and let him visit
his nephew. Oh so maybe it's about seeing the kid.

Speaker 3 (06:54):
Yeah, she's got all taller root motives.

Speaker 4 (06:56):
I told my wife everything, and she said she's willing
to talk to my wife and accept her apology because
we cannot cut my brother and his wife out of
our lives permanently. Now I'm thinking if I should let
my sister in law talk to my wife.

Speaker 1 (07:10):
My wife is a lot better than.

Speaker 4 (07:12):
Before, and I took a lot of effort, and if
she insults my wife again. I fear my wife might
get depressed and angry again. My wife is very religious
and covers her face in front of other men. I'm
still bothered by the fact that my sister in law
doubted a woman like my wife when she herself is
a woman. Got relevant comments Opie's wife should seek for

(07:32):
medical treatment. My wife is not against medical care. My wife,
throughout her pregnancy saw it medical treatment, and my wife
is definitely not against medical treatment like a vaccination, et cetera.
My wife just didn't want to seek help or get
medicated for her mood swings, and she wanted to handle
it herself.

Speaker 3 (07:50):
Ooh, I wondered if she has PPD.

Speaker 4 (07:52):
I'm one hundred percent sure she'd been successful, but my
sister in law said something about paternity bs and it
was her breaking point.

Speaker 1 (07:59):
I cannot force my wife. She's not like my.

Speaker 4 (08:01):
Newborn like I can just pick them up and get
them vaccinated. She doesn't want to. She doesn't have to
as long as she can take care of herself and
her family. My wife is a strong woman, but with
what my sister in law said, she can get a
bit angry, which is why I'm reluctant in trying to
keep my sister in law away from her, because I
don't want my sister in law to split our progress

(08:22):
just because she has a different agenda. Another commenter says
postpartum depression is not mood swings. The normal baby blues
mood swings only as a week or so after birth.
It's also not something to be handled on your own.

Speaker 3 (08:36):
Yeah, exactly. Like if it's just you know, she's sad, like,
maybe that could be hand alone. But if it's pretty
intense mood swings right after giving birth, it could be PPD,
in which case you might need some extra help, and
that's okay.

Speaker 4 (08:49):
It is serious and has devastating long term effects. It
can impact the ability to bond with the baby, It
will impact your marriage. It will impact all aspects of life,
and not for the better. It's also not a matter
of strength. It's an imbalance in brain chemistry and hormones.
She didn't cause it. It isn't a weakness, and it

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won't really get better on its own. Untreated. It can
linger for years. I did not know this was that serious.

Speaker 3 (09:17):
I mean, I knew it was serious, but I didn't
know yours. The effects on the brain it had.

Speaker 4 (09:22):
Untreated, it can develop into postpartum psychiosis. Whoa Jesus, and
it can be dangerous. Rather than just damaging, it can
be life threatening for mother and a baby. If she
won't mention it herself, you can call her doctor or
the baby's pediatrician and tell them. They can't tell you
things about her due to privacy, but you can tell

(09:43):
them about your concerns. When I had my baby, it
was actually the pediatrician that did the most of the
screening for PbD.

Speaker 1 (09:50):
And that's party.

Speaker 4 (09:51):
Because we saw him more, but also because it is
a danger to the baby as well.

Speaker 3 (09:56):
I think if she's having problems, obviously you cannot force
your wife to do do anything, But I do think
that encouraging her to get help be a good idea.

Speaker 1 (10:03):
Drag her to the doctors. You got this PPD and
you we gotta get it out. Yeah, yep. Sometimes I
force people to drink water.

Speaker 3 (10:11):
That's good waterboard.

Speaker 1 (10:12):
Thom Yeah, exactly. I put like a washcloth over the
face and pour a lot of water on them.

Speaker 3 (10:16):
You're like, tell me that true. Yeah, what's the sketchwel
for today?

Speaker 1 (10:21):
Exactly?

Speaker 4 (10:22):
Hope, he says to this comment, I know, and at
best I can advant my wife to seek therapy. Beyond that,
I can't do anything else. Like you've said a million times.

Speaker 3 (10:31):
He's like, I can't do anything, guy, I'm.

Speaker 4 (10:34):
Kind of doubting that you are forcing your wife to
do things because he's like, I can't force my wife
to not do anything, starting to doubt your dog. If
she doesn't want to, I can't keep trying to convince her.
She'll think that I'm maybe trying to force her. And
I don't care about anything else. But I absolutely do
not want my wife to think that I'm forcing her. Really,
I didn't know that. When I posted here a month ago,

(10:54):
commenters were more interested in my wife's need to cover herself.
Why does my wife need to cover her face when
I can show it to another woman? This time, it's
not that different either, though as not as bad as
my previous post. I feel like I'm making a huge
mistake by posting here. I post it here to seek
advice on whether I'm right or wrong to keep my
sister in law away from my wife. That's all I

(11:15):
wanted to know. I'm not deglintful. My priority is my
wife and my son, and I do not want to
force my wife for therapy unless she wants to I
pressure her. Okay, they're just comments.

Speaker 3 (11:25):
Is it empty?

Speaker 1 (11:26):
No?

Speaker 4 (11:27):
Okay, Okay, we get the point, op And by the way,
you could get right to the point after this story
by going to your favorite podcast platform, that being Apple, Spotify, iHeartRadio,
searching up Okay storytime and seeing crazy, flipping, wild stories
just like this one, Sophia, which one's your favorite?

Speaker 3 (11:43):
I liked the prank one.

Speaker 1 (11:44):
No, your pat your favorite podcast episode?

Speaker 3 (11:47):
This one?

Speaker 1 (11:47):
You haven't even listened to it yet.

Speaker 3 (11:49):
Oh, it has to be one that I ever listened to.

Speaker 1 (11:51):
You're not listening to a podcast.

Speaker 5 (11:52):
No.

Speaker 1 (11:52):
I listened to it this morning and it was you
and Alex.

Speaker 3 (11:54):
That's nice. I live the podcast. I don't need to
listen to it.

Speaker 1 (11:58):
You don't need to listen to it.

Speaker 3 (11:59):
Sometimes listen to parts where I'm being funny.

Speaker 4 (12:01):
You don't need to listen to the podcast. But you
do get a load of this guy over here. Anyways,
one more comment. Why haven't you demanded proof sister in
law hasn't cheated herself, Opie says, because I don't care
what she does. My focus is on my wife and mine.
We were born until she said she wants to apologize
to both of us. I still doubt her intentions. I'm
gonna three info. Are you certain that you allow your

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sister in law and brother back in that they will
not continue to pester your wife? You think they may
just want to be using you as an apology as
a way back in. Your wife's reasoning about not wanting
to break up family is notable, but I don't necessarily
think she makes the best decisions. She decided not to
tell you that they were pestering you. Also, she's not

(12:44):
causing a family rift. They are by their behavior. If
they want to apologize, they can send a letter. If
your brother wanted to see the baby, he and his
wife should have thought about that before spewing ugliness. Opie says,
I'm not certain. How do you not trust her or
my brother that they would not want to hurt my

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wife and.

Speaker 1 (13:06):
That's the end of that story.

Speaker 4 (13:07):
I think that's true, because I mean, I don't know
they want to see the baby.

Speaker 1 (13:11):
People do crazy things to see babies.

Speaker 3 (13:13):
That's true. We've read a whole bunch of stories about
people doing crazy things to see babies.

Speaker 1 (13:18):
Especially dude mother in laws and seeing babies.

Speaker 3 (13:21):
Yeah, they want to see those babies. They'll do whatever
they can and get their grubby little hands on them.

Speaker 5 (13:25):
Yeah.

Speaker 4 (13:25):
The mother in laws will see their like, you know,
son or daughter get married and then just go crazy
and they go no contact.

Speaker 1 (13:32):
And as soon as they get newborn, sniff of.

Speaker 3 (13:35):
Them newborn, they're like, let me in there.

Speaker 1 (13:39):
They just crawl out from whatever hole they were in.

Speaker 3 (13:41):
And they like, I can give me the baby.

Speaker 1 (13:43):
The baby. Yeah, guys, that is the last of that.
I'm not your father week.

Speaker 4 (13:49):
I would probably call up your dad, this father's say
and say hey and say, hey, you're my dad, right.

Speaker 1 (13:54):
Kind of get a paternity test, yeah, and see the
birth certificate.

Speaker 3 (13:57):
It's a great thing to do for it with your
father and this father's Yeah.

Speaker 1 (14:00):
Great activity.

Speaker 3 (14:01):
Yeah, little father child bonding.

Speaker 4 (14:03):
You were ninety eight percent might be my dad. Yeah,
you don't know what your dad unless you do a
DNA test.

Speaker 3 (14:08):
That's what they say.

Speaker 1 (14:10):
My friend thinks my girlfriend is lying about her job,
so I investigated.

Speaker 3 (14:16):
We've got to find the truth.

Speaker 1 (14:18):
I don't know what to think. The situation is that
a buddy I've known for a few years who's dating
another friend of mine has informed me that my girlfriend,
who I've known for eight months, is lying about her occupati.
Where's the proof. Oh, I'll give you one guess as
to what her real occupation.

Speaker 3 (14:36):
Is lying mmm CIA undercover spy.

Speaker 1 (14:40):
He is an EMT and she claims to be a
nurse at a certain hospital in our city. EMT buddy
swears up and down there's no way she works there.
By the way, this comes from user powerful profession And
if you want to submit your own stories, go to
the r slash Okay storytime subbredy. So this is really
shocking to me. She's in scrubs all of the I've

(15:00):
picked her up from the hospital she claims to work at.
She has medical books all over her apartment, at et cetera,
at cetera what CMT buddy and my girlfriend have only
met once, on a double date with my other friend.
They did talk shop a little bit, and he's basing
this accusation on that one conversation. He told me he

(15:21):
would bet money that she had never stepped foot on
the ward she claims to work in. For reference, she
says she's a psych nurse at this prestigious hospital, and
EMT Buddy asked her which unit she worked on. Apparently
there are two at the hospital, east and West. He
tested her by asking do you work on North or South?
And she said North, and that she referred to patients

(15:41):
being violent as code gray and that is not the
terminology used at that hospital. There were more small technical
details he claimed she got wrong, like their nurses stations
being open and not enclosed spaces, things like that.

Speaker 3 (15:55):
Maybe she's just like a janitor or something at the hospital,
you know, like maybe she has a job where it's
not an with the medical stuff.

Speaker 1 (16:01):
Maybe she's lying about that. Maybe she's just like really
non confrontational. It's like she's got this EMT guy being like, yeah,
do you work in the north of the South, And
she's just like, I don't want to make him feel
like not.

Speaker 3 (16:12):
Stupid, Like, oh this man doesn't understand that.

Speaker 1 (16:14):
Yeah, so I'll just be like the north unit, Yeah,
North is the closest to West.

Speaker 3 (16:20):
Yeah, So do you really think about it?

Speaker 1 (16:23):
On one hand, why would she lie about being a nurse,
But also what does he gain from lying about her
lying being a nurse? I don't know jack about the
medical profession. To be frank, this whole thing makes me
feel co wazy. How do I even bring this up?
Degenerate scholar says you can easily look up her license

(16:43):
status by googling nursing license verification in your state and
then simply entering her name. It will tell you what
kind of license she has and how long she's been
licensed in your state. If she doesn't hold one, you
have a starting point for the conversation. Many people who
work in health care facilities wear scrubs. It doesn't mean
that they have any direct care response abilities.

Speaker 3 (17:00):
That's what I'm thinking.

Speaker 1 (17:01):
Yeah, Also, she would be required to have a photo
ID with her credentials listed on it. You can settle
the question by asking to see her name badge. Not
that platypus. This is exactly it. I'm looking up my
nursing professors now and I can find all of their licenses. Also,
how has she said that she's gotten her nursing degree?
Did she do a bachelor's program or an associates like

(17:21):
you should be able to ask to see her degree
and she should have a copy. You could also ask
to see her graduation pin. Nurses go through a pinning
ceremony at the end of their time in school, and
most people keep their pins. However, I feel like this
is not really answering OPI's question of like, how do
I go about this?

Speaker 3 (17:37):
Yeah, because you can't be like he see your nursing degree? Pin, Yeah,
can I see it? That was so that's perfect, that's
how you ask.

Speaker 1 (17:47):
I think she's lying to you because she sees prestige
in being a nurse, or should I say pristie. Nurses
are considered the most trusted professionals in the US. You've
definitely seen those sappy bumper stickers and memes about how
nurse it's our angels we all have. She will one
hundred percent try to tell you that the phone call
today led to you not finding her because of privacy regulations.

(18:08):
She may even say it's because of hippop. Ask to
see her badge, ask for her license number. If she
tries to claim that she doesn't have these things, she's
making excuses. Your badge literally taps you in the different
hospital wings and elevators in some places, even let you
use yours to tap into the charting system. OHP says,
she told me that she has a BSN. I can't
find that she's licensed in our state. She's a liar,

(18:33):
so she's lying belying.

Speaker 3 (18:36):
Why you always lie?

Speaker 4 (18:38):
Uh?

Speaker 1 (18:38):
Why you always lie in uh the prestige? Yeah, edit
to add more because I can't seem to shut up.
I looked up some of my classmates on the State
Registry who are working as CNAs or mas, and their
license info isn't showing up. I wouldn't doubt that if
you've picked her up from work and she that she
does actually work there, she's a tech or something, and
was lying to seem prestige.

Speaker 3 (19:00):
That's what I'm thinking. I'm thinking she works there, but
just isn't a nurse. Yeah, Like that's what I was saying, Like, oh,
maybe she's a janitor or maybe like it's something more
technical or something. She's like, she's just not a nurse.

Speaker 1 (19:10):
Maybe she's like maybe she's actually like the hospital administrator. Yeah,
she's like actually like the number one person there.

Speaker 3 (19:17):
So she lied to make her seems herself a little
more approachable. She's like, I like run the hospital.

Speaker 1 (19:22):
She's like, yeah, I'm in the psyche word. And the
guy's like, yeah, what.

Speaker 3 (19:26):
Names like Miranda or something, and she's like, yeah, I'm Miranda,
Hospital Miranda. I didn't know how to tell you.

Speaker 1 (19:34):
It's the family business. Yeah, it's the family business.

Speaker 3 (19:37):
Yeah, hospital, that's my last I'm a proud hospital.

Speaker 1 (19:41):
I'm a seventh generation hospital.

Speaker 3 (19:43):
Yeah, I'm Miranda nurse.

Speaker 1 (19:45):
I didn't know how to tell you, okay, Opie says
in response to that, she's probably a tech or something else. Oh,
she talks so much crap about text I think she
would rather be than cop to being a tech. Now that,
Platypus says, what kind of medical books does she have
in her house? Like Gray's Anatomy or hone and focus

(20:06):
on adult health, medical Surgical Nursing second edition? Are they
books to make her look fancy or books that she
may have used in school? Medical books is pretty generic. Well,
she has a bunch of them. I know she has
a DSM and physicians Desk Reference. I reckon she reads
them a lot because those are always on the coffee table.
She has a whole bookshelf full of books about diseases

(20:26):
and medications, skittles and whiskey two eight nine. Call when
she's supposed to be working and ask for her. If
she works there, she'll answer and you can bring her
food or coffee or something. She doesn't there's a communication
error in your relationship that needs to be addressed. I
wouldn't one hundred percent be positive on your friend's knowledge
due to the difference in their jobs. Slash rolls Op says,

(20:47):
she's supposed to be working right now until seven. I'm
gonna call Thanks Gray, I'm sorry but that it's so
wild to me that they need that. Maybe they didn't
need a Reddit post to get there. Yeah, but I'm like,
but it does feel like it's like they're like, what
do I do? M call her?

Speaker 3 (21:00):
My first thought was like, call the hospital, go to
the go, drop off lunch for her at the hospital.
I don't know, like these are I don't even think
you need to outright be like.

Speaker 1 (21:09):
You're lying to be yeah, Op, just like someone's lying
to me, like what do I how do? What do
I do about this? Skills and whiskey? Be prepared to
buy her that coffee if she's working, ha ha, wish
she all the best? PS. We want an update, Op says, well, Well,
I called and at first they thought I was asking
about a patient and said they couldn't talk about them

(21:31):
without their code, And I said, no, no, no, she
works there. And the woman I spoke with said, no
one with that name works there. I asked about the
other unit, and she told me she knows everyone who
works in sight. I thought maybe she goes by a
different name, so I started to describe her, and the
lady got upset and told me I have to go geez.
I guess she thought I was effing with her. I
don't know what to think wandering around. Says Dang, that's

(21:54):
gonna be a hard conversation. Be prepared to get backlash
and redirection. Stick to the point is lying and for
what reason? It sounds like the end of the relationship.
Can you imagine what would have happened if there was
a genuine medical emergency? A very scary thought.

Speaker 3 (22:08):
Odd, Yeah, you're on a plane and someone's like, I
need a doctor. You're like, well, my my girlfriend's a nurse.

Speaker 1 (22:12):
She's no, I'm not. I'm not working right now.

Speaker 3 (22:16):
She's like, I actually, i'm I'm I'm sick.

Speaker 1 (22:20):
I'm on the clock.

Speaker 3 (22:21):
She's like, I actually don't do those type of things.
I need my books.

Speaker 1 (22:24):
I need my books, I need my reference materials. I'm
not ready. Yeah, okay, so Op says, I don't understand
why someone would go through so much effort to lie
about being a nurse. If she is lying about it,
I'm going to hold off on any judgment until I
talk to her in person and we have an update.

Speaker 3 (22:40):
I mean, god forbid a girl have a hobby, you know,
God forbid a girl manifest God forbid.

Speaker 1 (22:46):
It's like it's called manifestation. Actually is at the hospital,
but she's every dating. Yeah, she she shows up in
scrubs and she just like is in like a janitorial
closet or supplying closet, and she's like, a right, come on,
today's the day. Today. Today, you just walk up to
a page and you're gonna take their blood.

Speaker 3 (23:02):
Yeah, She's like, this is how being a nurse works.
You just walk in, you dressed for the job that
you want, not the job that you have, and I'm
gonna go out there and I'm just gonna start doing
it and no one's gonna question it because I'm dressed
like a nurse.

Speaker 1 (23:13):
Well, this chick is completely insane. Mystery solved. She doesn't
work at the nice hospital. She works at a not
so nice hospital, and not as a nurse, but as
a phlebbottomy technician. Whatever the f that is?

Speaker 3 (23:29):
Wait wait, wait, wait, what is a flabbotomy? Because I'm
thinking lobottomi, but obviously.

Speaker 1 (23:34):
I think it's about your phlem phlebotomy.

Speaker 3 (23:37):
Someone look up flebotomy.

Speaker 1 (23:39):
I'm assuming a bottom new words.

Speaker 3 (23:41):
Bottomy must be like taking like something, taking out something.

Speaker 5 (23:45):
Blebotomy is the process of drawing blood from a vein,
typically using a needle and a collection tube, for laboratory
testing or, in some cases, for therapeutic purposes, like removing
excess red blood cell.

Speaker 1 (23:55):
I was right.

Speaker 3 (23:56):
I was also right.

Speaker 1 (23:57):
I was like she was hiding the class. Has it
been like, all right, you're just gonna go up to
your patient and you're just gonna take their breath.

Speaker 3 (24:04):
That's what she does. And she just does blood work.

Speaker 1 (24:07):
Oh my god.

Speaker 5 (24:08):
Ale botaby technician also noticed ale bottomist is a healthcare
professional trained to draw blood samples for various medical procedures.

Speaker 3 (24:15):
Wow, okay, so she just draws blood. She just wanted
to seem like she was cooler than she was.

Speaker 1 (24:19):
So this is still yeah, Well, she's just not at
the best hospital. She's at the worst hospital.

Speaker 3 (24:24):
Yeah, and she was lying about it to seem cooler.

Speaker 1 (24:26):
Okay, she failed out of nursing school and is seriously obsessed.
She said she got a TBI her third year into
her bachelor's program and was unable to finish. A TBI
to something something infection, tuberculosis, booty infection, traumatic brain injuries, Oh,
not super relevant.

Speaker 3 (24:47):
She got a traumatic brain injury that might have affected
her personality.

Speaker 1 (24:52):
She forms a lot.

Speaker 3 (24:53):
I think that totally informs what she might be lying
about things day.

Speaker 1 (24:58):
Okay, she had a traumatic brain injury her third year
into her bachelor's program and was unable to finish. I
may have forgiven all of that, but it's clear she
has a tenuous at best grasp on reality and went
on a bizarre rant about how she could be a doctor,
how she saves lives and she's a genius, she knows
more than anyone in the world when it comes to
the medical field. She claims she could perform surgery on people,

(25:18):
that she had healing powers, that she's the greatest person
in the world, on and on. Seriously unhinged type crap.
I had to tap out because she was really scaring me.
I've never been in such close proximity to someone having
a mental breakdown. I wasn't supposed to see her until yesterday,
and I ambushed her at her apartment finally I just
had to leave. I feel bad about confronting her. I

(25:41):
probably shouldn't have left her alone at all after that.
Update number two, This is a really long story that
I must condense for character limit. I hope this sense
of it all remains intact. My ex girlfriend deceived me
for our entire relationship. She told me she was a
very important charge nurse with a BSN and worked at
a prison stigious hospital in our area. Here in reality,

(26:02):
she is not a nurse at all, but a phlebottomy technician,
and not at a prestigious hospital either. She had a
total breakdown when I confronted her about all of this
and ended up getting put on an involuntary psych hole.
I do not know how she did it, but she
got herself released after only two days and is completely
off the rails. She broke into my house. I came

(26:24):
home from work the other day and she was in
my shower, not taking a shower, just chilling in there
with my cat.

Speaker 5 (26:32):
That's freaky.

Speaker 1 (26:33):
Yeah, I was about to say that actually sounds like
the freakiest way you could be in someone's announced. Oh brother, Okay,
that really effing freaked me out. She ran off before
the cops came, and then they couldn't find her. She
moved here a few months before we started dating, and
I didn't know any of her family. After she broke
into my house, I did some Internet salouthing and tracked
down her parents an older brother. I was able to

(26:56):
make contact with her mom because they have a landline
with a listed number, and I told her the situation.
I gave her all the information I knew about my ex.
Her mom thanked me very much because apparently my ex
went ghost on her family about a year ago. Her
mom told me they would take care of it and
just wanted her to come back home. Her brother called
me very frantically shortly after I got off the phone

(27:19):
with their mom, and I talked to him for a while.
He said he was flying out first thing to hunt
my ex down. Wrong wrong verb.

Speaker 3 (27:27):
My god, I've got a hunt down a damn.

Speaker 1 (27:31):
I gotta hold on the ghost that was yesterday. I
was satisfied and relieved with the response, And by the way,
you can get all kinds of satisfaction and probably a
healthy dose of relief fine listening to full episodes with
stories like this on Spotify and iHeartRadio and Apple podcasts. Literally,
wherever you listen to podcasts sarch okay, story time and

(27:52):
there you will have twenty four hours times fifty three,
that's how much time you can spend listening to stories.
Go do it, do do it?

Speaker 2 (28:01):
Man?

Speaker 1 (28:01):
What are we thinking? Like do we do we like?
Do we like approach this? And like do we are
we are we just leaving it up to the family now,
like are we getting involved to be like hey, good luck?

Speaker 3 (28:12):
Like just yeah, I think right now this is a
medical issue. Now it's no longer like, uh, let's have
a conversation, let's talk this out. This is like she
is undergoing kind of a medical problem and she needs
professional help that you cannot provide given the fact that
you know, you didn't know that she wasn't a nerd.
You know, like like we've already had our our moment

(28:33):
where Opie's already struggled in the past with trying to
get this woman, you know, or trying to get information
out of this woman. So I feel like we just
need to give the hand her off to her parents.

Speaker 1 (28:43):
A nice little handoff, like a little shovel past.

Speaker 3 (28:46):
You've done your work, you call them up, You've let
them know what the deal is at that point, I
feel like it's just making sure that you're safe and
that she's not going to break into your apartment anymore.

Speaker 1 (28:55):
Yes, but yeah, I spoke to some friends today about
this situation, and they think I did too much and
shouldn't have involved her family because I don't know the dynamic.
They could be abusive and got ghosted for good reason.
My good friend said, Honestly, I didn't think about that
at the time, and now I feel crappy.

Speaker 3 (29:14):
Don't feel crappy.

Speaker 1 (29:15):
Yeah, that's like that's being.

Speaker 3 (29:16):
Like, is your friend making you feel bad about trying
to get this woman help?

Speaker 1 (29:20):
Yeah, it's just a what if what if ism?

Speaker 3 (29:23):
Yeah, it's like it's like, oh, what if she was
an undercover spot and you just got like blueer cover.

Speaker 1 (29:28):
It's like, Okay, she broke in my house, dude, is
she literally broken my house? Relevant comments from quidamitra is
your cat? Okay. I don't want to freak you out
anymore than you already are, but you might consider a
visit to the vet to make sure she didn't poison
your cat or harm it in any way. Ohp he says,
thank you for your concern. He seems fine. My ex
always loved him and I never thought she was capable
of hurting an animal. But then again, I never thought

(29:49):
she'd lie to me for eight months or break into
my house, So yeah, I'll take him to the vet.
Good looking out, Sam for eight nine to one. The
odds are her family knows best how to help her,
and it's in her best inch. They know you have
no knowledge of any abuse, So while it's possible it's
not on you, you made the best call you could
with the information you had for both her and your safety.
Oh p he says. Her mom and brother seemed like

(30:10):
decent people on the phone. But on the other hand,
no one goes their entire family for a year for
no reason. They said she ran off her right at
the beginning of twenty eighteen, and no one had heard
from her since. Perpetual Window Pane says, not the ahole.
It sounds like this girl needs far more help than
you can give her. Based on your verbiage. You found
out from their mother that she's been estranged from her
family for over a year. That's not your responsibility to

(30:32):
take strange hypotheticals and things into account before considering your
own safety. If someone broke into my house and was
handling my animals, I'd do whatever I could to ensure
it wouldn't happen again. Exactly, OHP says. My friends told
me I should have let the police handle it, as
that's their job. They think by doing what I did,
I made the situation worse. She turns out to not
be on good terms with her own family.

Speaker 3 (30:53):
No, why that's so silly, Like you have no, I
don't understand why this friend is making it. You feel
so bad about the situation, Like you don't know why
are you coming up with these hypotheticals to make up
you feel bad?

Speaker 1 (31:05):
Just like I just also don't understand the logical already
even done well, you shouldn't have gotten her family involved.
You just made everything worse. You should have had her
arrested by an energy you know.

Speaker 3 (31:16):
You should have had given her like a criminal record
instead of calling her family.

Speaker 1 (31:20):
You're just gonna make her situation worse by not throwing
her in jail. Yeah, that's that's what, which will also
be temporary.

Speaker 3 (31:26):
That is also a wild thing to say.

Speaker 1 (31:28):
Oh, you may have made the situation worse, not just
for her, but they are worried that she could retaliate
against me for doing that. Op on how she broke in.
I live in a pretty good area. I don't use
the dead bolt. She either had a key to my
place that I didn't know about, or she picked the
locks somehow. So you don't even know how she broke in.

Speaker 3 (31:46):
It's concerning.

Speaker 1 (31:47):
That's the end of that story.

Speaker 3 (31:48):
What what that's concerning? You should you should get some
more locks on that door.

Speaker 1 (31:53):
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Speaker 3 (31:58):
My friend keeps miss he's treating my two year old.
I'm ready to cut her off.

Speaker 1 (32:02):
Yeah, I mean I'd cut the two year old off
as well, like I'm sick of it.

Speaker 3 (32:06):
She's a pain in the butt. Throwaway because my friend
as my main account. I met my friend Monica online
when both of our children were about a year old,
and we quickly became close friends. Our kids are exactly
the same age and we live not far from each other,
so it was perfect. By the way, this comes from
Throwaway Baby Panic And if you want to submit your
own stories, go to our slash Okay storytime Separate. So

(32:28):
she helped me out by watching my daughter some days
of the week while I worked, as she was a
stay at home mom and wanted her son to have
friends and make a little extra money, so I got
discount childcare and it was a win win. We had
a joint birthday party this year from the kids and
it was great. She also watches our other friends' kids
sometimes and they're starting to have the cutest little friend group.
I know that she loves all of the kids and

(32:50):
would never do anything to harm them at all. Ever
since I met Monica, she struggled in her relationship and
with her mental health. I know this is not her fault,
but I think it is art to impact her ability
to watch my child, and some things have happened and
been said that I have no idea what to do about.
I don't want to take my daughter somewhere else and
have her resent me, but I also don't want to

(33:11):
ruin my daughters or my friendships based on something I
may be overreacting about. Sorry, I know I'm jumping ahead,
but here's the story. Monica's son, Austin, was born with
some deficiencies. He's not up to par and his speaking specifically,
and they think he might be on the spectrum. However,
Austin is so advanced in his motor development he was
walking and climbing before he was one, whereas my daughter

(33:32):
is the exact opposite. She talks on the level of
a three and a half year old. She just turned
to but she just started really being able to run
and jump. Both of these are fine. I am a
firm believer that babies develop at their own rates. If
they need outside help, that's fine, and there's no shame
in that. But I really try not to compare one
baby to another, which is good. I think she's the

(33:52):
same way as well, but I know it can be
hard when you are with them both so often. I
mention this because I'm not sure if her comments are
from jealousy or one. But recently I've noticed little passive,
aggressive comments made about my daughter to me that rubbed
me the wrong way. Monica is on the spectrum and
I am not. So I'm not sure if maybe she
was trying to joke and it just came out wrong,
or if she actually just secretly not like my daughter.

(34:15):
The other day, my daughter Sarah was at Monica's house
playing with Austin's toys, and was playing with the mouse toy.
Austin walked up and snatched it from her. We have
really been working on my daughter using her words when
she's upset and not just reacting and being mean. So
I was super happy and proud when my daughter, very
calmly said, have that back, asking dad the toy.

Speaker 1 (34:33):
Back, have that back, Maybe have that back, have that
back back. Yes, exactly, it's like that. It was Sophia.

Speaker 3 (34:41):
Monica said, no, that's Austin's. I thought that was a
little weird because at this age it is really important
to teach about sharing and taking turns. But I thought
maybe it was a special toy or something, and did
not say anything. Monica then turned to me and said,
I love Sarah and everything, but she's really entitled to
Austin's toys, and then just kind of chuckled. This rubbed
me the wrong way, but did not make me really

(35:03):
mad until after I had thought about it for a
while when I was home later that day. It is
my opinion that if you run a little daycare like this,
then the toys are for all the kids. Whenever we
watch Austin for her, we hide all of Sarah's special
toys she's really possessive of and let Austin play with anything.
As long as one child is not taking toys from
the other and they're sharing, well it's fine. So this

(35:24):
comment was very out of left field for me. I
did not say anything because at the end of the day,
she's right, it is Austin's toy. It just got me
thinking that if she's like this and talking bad about
my daughter while I'm there, what is she saying when
I'm not around.

Speaker 1 (35:37):
She's a two year old? Like, what do we do?
Her sense of entitlement is kind of concerning to me.

Speaker 3 (35:42):
It's like, she's two, I'm gonna cancel her And she
literally asked she out for it back. That's the thing, Like,
that wasn't eve entitlement. I was just saying, hey, I've
got back, I.

Speaker 1 (35:50):
Have that back, Hi, I want to go back. I'm two.

Speaker 3 (35:54):
Another thing is that she and Austin never leave the
house except to go to Starbucks or Target, so they
are in a little bubble and do not have super
strong immune systems. Sarah goes to pre k most days
and went to daycare before I met Monica, so she
has added all the baby sicknesses and was able to
build up more of an immunity them. The preschool does
all it can to prevent illness, checking temp every day,

(36:16):
sanitizing toys every day, but there's only so much you
can do with a bunch of little kids. And also
just like sometimes I mean, I don't know about their daycare,
but with a lot of daycares, I mean, and also
summer camps, which is where I'm pulling this information from. Okay,
parents just send their kids in sick because they're like,
I'm working so that my kid's going to school.

Speaker 1 (36:33):
Yeah, They're like, well it's the kids going.

Speaker 3 (36:35):
Yeah, and they have like they have like a fever,
and you're like, you can't have them here, and they
just keep sending them anyway. Because of this, Sarah has
caught a cold. Monica then went on to say it
was all fair and thought they've been sixth since August
and missed a lot of work. Maybe this is the case.
I don't know, but whenever Sarah's sick, I tell her
to let me know if I need to come and
get her in order to prevent them from being sick.

(36:56):
So I feel like, if this was the case, why
did she never text me until after they got sick
each time. The most recent thing that has made me
look back on everything and really rethink stuff happened about
two to three weeks ago, and I still have no
clue what to do. Monica and her husband have always
had on and off relationship issues, but this time it
got really bad. They were driving back from somewhere with

(37:17):
the kids in the back seat and had a huge fight.
Her husband was driving, and he apparently had really bad
anger problems. According to her, he started yelling at Monica
and driving really scary, speeding up, slamming on brakes with
the kids in the cot Sarah and jail.

Speaker 1 (37:34):
Jail now to jail.

Speaker 3 (37:35):
I'm sorry. If I had my child in someone else's
car and found out that they were driving recklessly and
also screaming in front of my I'd be like, you're
never being around my child again.

Speaker 1 (37:47):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (37:48):
Then when they got home, he yelled at Monica more
and then just stormed out of the house and drove away.
This was right before I came to pick up Sarah,
maybe three to five minutes before. When I got there,
Sarah was perfectly happy, but when I went to put
her in the car, she started screaming like crazy. Yeah,
I mean, she's probably freaking traumatized from all that reckless
driving that she was just experiencing.

Speaker 1 (38:10):
You traumatize my kid, I traumatize you. Yeah, your watch out,
so the warning is out there.

Speaker 3 (38:17):
Yeah. We went back inside, but she could not stop
freaking out. She was hyperventilating, crying hysterically. She normally does
not cry much, and if she's upset, she asks for
a hug and then says she's all better. But this
does not happen this time. Oh my god, this seems
like the sweetest little child. And I'm so angry at Monica.
I would literally never let my child around Monica.

Speaker 1 (38:37):
Again. No, I had neither of them, neither of them.

Speaker 3 (38:40):
Sarah kept saying she wanted to go, but whenever I
tried to put her in the car to leave, she
freaked out again. She's fine now and has been asking
about them and going to their house, so I'm very
confused about it. I mean, also, she's two, so she
doesn't probably quite understand why she's having these emotions.

Speaker 1 (38:53):
Yeah right, Yeah, she's just like that's weird. She's like,
I want to leave, but when I get in the car,
I'm really upset.

Speaker 3 (39:01):
I don't understand why this happens. I do not know
what is best for her. All I know is this
cannot happen again, and I have told them this. Since then,
I've been messaging our other friends who sometimes have her
kids there, and have gotten even more information. This is
where I have to change some details and leave a
lot out on the off chance Monica sees his post
because I promised not to tell her anything until this friend,

(39:23):
let's call her Rachel friends, is on the TV at
work well can find alternate care for her kids. The
gist of what Rachel told me is that Monica has
reached out to another friend about her mental health and
said some really concerning things, and it's clear she needs
some help. According to what Rachel heard from this other friend,
a lot of the issues are stemming from the stress
of watching the kids, which is not something you want

(39:45):
to hear about. The girl who's freaking running a daycare.

Speaker 1 (39:49):
Cant imagine she's gonna pull a shining on the kids
get him mad at it.

Speaker 3 (39:53):
Yeah, both Rachel and I have agreed it would be
wise to find alternate childcare and are planning on talking
to Monica about it. Good I know so that she
cannot watch Sarah long term anymore. The thing is, I
do not know if I can do this friendship anymore.
She has insulted my daughter to my face, she has
lied to me, she has put my child at risk,
and she is taking advantage of both my and Rachel's kindness.

(40:14):
I know all of this is her mental health and
not her fault. I am trying to be there for her,
but I have given her resources for mental health clinics
in her geographic area and price range. I have offered
for her to go to meetings with me for the
partners of those dealing with regular using. I have tried
to offer her so many resources, but she always declines.
There's only so much I can do if she does

(40:36):
not want to help herself, and it is getting to
the point where it's impacting my mental health and I
need to take care of myself. I don't want to
cut her off completely, and I don't know what to do.
If anyone has been through anything similar, please let me
know and offer advice. I know this post probably does
not make sense, but I do feel better after getting
it off my chest, and there is an update, But

(40:56):
do you any thoughts before we get into it?

Speaker 1 (40:58):
Because I have. Sometimes you are not unable to provide
the kind of care that somebody needs, absolutely, and this
feels like one of those situations, and you can take
a step back, especially for the safety of your actual child,
and be like, hey, we can't continue this, and I want,
I just want, and that you can be like I

(41:18):
just want you to get be more well, be better,
like get better, not you know, make it impersonal, not
like a you need to fix, but it's like, I
just care about you and I can't be around you
if you're just gonna continually like go downhill and you
won't listen to any advice.

Speaker 3 (41:31):
Yeah, I think what you could do is first make
sure that your daughter is not in Monica's care, make
sure that you find alternate care and get her to safety,
and then I think you, yeah, you can have that
conversation with Monica and say, hey, I've noticed that you
seem to be really stressed and kind of unable to
handle the daycare. Can we get you some sort of help?

(41:51):
Is there anything that can lighten this load? I don't
think right now I feel comfortable sending my daughter over,
but that doesn't mean that I want to cut you
out of my life completely.

Speaker 1 (42:02):
Honestly, I'm thinking of like finding out about the because
it's one of my pet peeves, like the aggressive driving
or like reckless driving. You can't because you're emotional. It's
like I will never think of you the same way.

Speaker 3 (42:14):
Again, especially with I mean children, Like it's.

Speaker 1 (42:17):
Kids in the car.

Speaker 3 (42:17):
It's very terrible to reckless drive yourself because you were
in charge of a very very dangerous vehicle or very
dangerous machine that if you are driving reckless so you
could hurt anyone else around you. But to also have
kids in the car, one of which is not even yours.

Speaker 1 (42:33):
Like no, I'm teeing up on that guy, so like
how so extremely how dare I'm I'm laying into that
guy for sure, which is not advice I typically ever give.
But I mean, like my child, was you endangered the
life of my child over your emotions? Yeah, it's like,
let's go to a therapist instead of endangering the children.

Speaker 3 (42:55):
But there is an update, so let's see what does
Hello everyone, this is just a small date. If you
guys remember me, I'm the one whose friend drove recklessly
while my daughter was in their care. Yesterday, I went
to a trunk retreat and found a preschool for the
days when I would need Monica to watch my daughter.
I am planning on calling them and filling out an
application later today. I spoke to the director and she

(43:15):
was super nice, so I'm really excited about this. The
only thing is the age. My daughter would have to
be two by a certain day, and she is three
days behind that. But we think that since they still
do not have a full class, we'll probably allow her
to join. Last night, I texted Monica and let her
know that I was looking for alternate care for Sarah
because watching the kids seem to be stressing her out.

(43:35):
That's exactly what I I did not tell her what
her other friend told us because I did not want
to violate trust. But Monica was understanding. I think she
started off really understanding, but then went on to say
she was trying really hard to not take it personally.
I mean, take it a little personally and make changes. Yeah,
you should take you should be taking it personally. It's
about yeah, exactly, like make changes in your life.

Speaker 1 (43:54):
See, it's like people mix that up where they're like
it's like, oh, I know, it's not about me. It is,
but it's like sometimes it's about it.

Speaker 3 (44:01):
It's about you.

Speaker 1 (44:02):
When it's about your behavior or your decisions, like it
is about you, and you should take it personally.

Speaker 3 (44:08):
I found out via Twitter that she was having a
rough week after I told her about the alternate care,
So I think it was bad timing on my part,
or maybe she's manipulating me.

Speaker 1 (44:17):
I don't know.

Speaker 3 (44:17):
Oh, I mean, it doesn't Honestly, I don't really care
if she's having a rough week. Your daughter was in danger.

Speaker 1 (44:24):
This is true. Also, I think this is in the
middle of the pandemic, which might lend to an even
less stable platform for her, you know, mental health to
stand on. Yeah, like cause it was a lot for
a lot of people to deal with.

Speaker 3 (44:39):
And also how the relationship would be between Monica and
her husband.

Speaker 1 (44:42):
Yeah, degenerating because they're just now they're just constantly around
each other. Yeah. And I see some people that are
like take the kids away from her, and like, I
don't know if you get CPS involved yet, because it's
like again, it's like I've there's there's it's almost like
a coin flip to me. It's like, okay, so you
call CPS. She's unstable, she's having a mental breakdown, Like now,
the dad gets the kids, but the dad's got anger issues.

(45:04):
The dad was like, you know, driving the car like
a maniac. So it's like, do you want the kids
with the dad?

Speaker 3 (45:09):
I think I don't think an eye on it. And
if you see something yeah then yeah then cps. But
there is a little tiny update. Two hours later, she
got into the preschool.

Speaker 1 (45:19):
Nice.

Speaker 3 (45:20):
I was worried because when doing the registration application it
said there was a wait list. But they called and
said she's in and can start asap. I chose to
start next week. They are closed the fifth for the election.
Everyone please remember to vote, so she officially starts the seventh.
I pay the tuition just now and everything. They also
said they do something they're called specials, where every day
they do focused learning in different rotating subjects like music, art, Spanish,

(45:42):
et cetera. I am so excited for she is going
to love it. And there is a second update.

Speaker 1 (45:50):
With a weird title, the weird honest.

Speaker 3 (45:52):
Title, let's jump into it. My problem may be solved,
and I'm not sure how I feel about it.

Speaker 1 (45:58):
Uh, Okay. My bet is that some external organization did
become involved. Yeah, but now she's like, I don't even
know if that was the right. I don't know if
this is a net positive.

Speaker 3 (46:09):
Well, I think maybe another parent like op He was
saying that like her other friend. Oh shoot, I think
maybe another parent gun.

Speaker 1 (46:16):
Oh the words getting out.

Speaker 3 (46:18):
This is kind of an update to my previous post,
so if you want some context, they are on my page.
Sarah start her new preschool this month and absolutely loves it.
She already has lots of friends and is excited to go,
so that's good. We have seen Monica, her husband, and
Austin a little since not having them watched Sarah anymore,
but not like before. Monica admitted that she has really
been neglecting her mental health and I'm trying to give

(46:39):
her space to do that, but I'm not sure she is.
Every time I talk to her, she says something bad
is happening or that she's suppressed. I feel awful, but
there's not really anything I can do, and I have
my own problems to deal with. I'm working with my
therapist to be less of a people pleaser, and one
thing she pointed out is I go out of my
way to solve other problems and not my own. So
I'm trying really hard not to do that. A little

(47:01):
bit of background is needed for this store. Monica and
her husband are not amazing with money. They have enough
to survive barely, but as soon as they get money,
it's spent. They have more toys for Austin than I
can count, and they always have more coming in because
of money issues. Monica and her husband live with her dad.
There are a lot of issues in that relationship, and
her dad is constantly threatening to punter her out over

(47:23):
issues but never falls through. I honestly feel so terrible.
I could not imagine having a parent like that who
only has conditional love to give. Monica and her husband
do not pay rent. They do pay utilities though for
the house.

Speaker 1 (47:36):
Well.

Speaker 3 (47:36):
This time, Monica's dad actually followed through and signed a
new lease for a house. This means Monica has to
move out by a certain time because her dad will
no longer be renting the house they're currently in. I
saw our post on blue Sky, the new Twitter for
those boycotaqelon asking about part time jobs and places for rent,
so I messaged her asking what is up. She explained

(47:57):
how her dad signed a new lease and they have
to be out, have no savings and cannot afford to
live anywhere. I truly feel bad, but there's nothing I
can do to help, so all I could offer was
a listening year. She explained how she has friends on
the other side of the country two thousand and thirty
miles or three thousand, two hundred and sixty eight kilometers
away and may move there. I'm not sure how to feel.

(48:18):
I don't know if it is even going to happen,
even though all the stuff in my other posts happened,
I cannot help but feel sad. I don't know if
I need advice or what. I just wanted to get
all of my feelings out so here I am. There's
a lot more going on as well that I may
get into if anyone wants. With Austin not adjusting to
not having Sarah there and some manipulation impossible ghosting. I
am just very confused about how to feel right now.

(48:40):
Should I be happy or relieved or said or all
of the above. And there is a third update? But
what do you think of?

Speaker 1 (48:48):
What are you thinking I would be? I don't know,
probably all of that. Yeah, I think it's all gat
to not just be one thing about this.

Speaker 3 (48:54):
Absolutely she was your friend.

Speaker 1 (48:55):
There's a lot going on.

Speaker 3 (48:57):
I think I think she was your friend. I think
that she put your ought her in an unsafe position.
I think that she was helping you out in a time,
you know where you needed it. So you know, she
wasn't just one thing. It wasn't black and white.

Speaker 1 (49:09):
And she is.

Speaker 3 (49:11):
She's a She's in a tricky, precarious situation with not
a lot of money or funding or support and stuff.
That is, and it's fair for you to, yeah, if
it's a fair for you to feel bad while also
not being able to help. But there is a third update.
Buckle up, I've I got some tea for you. We
have some selective mudism, cars being repossessed, attempted identity theft.

Speaker 1 (49:34):
You name it, than selective mudism. Wow, my favorite.

Speaker 3 (49:39):
That's funny.

Speaker 1 (49:39):
I see, I was going to do the joke that
I wouldn't have gotten it didn't have a punch line.

Speaker 3 (49:43):
My My previous post can be seen on my account
for context. This is a throway. I was not going
to update, but got two messages and a comment. First,
the relevant info. My daughter loves her new preschool. She
comes home every Tuesday and Thursday talking ab how much
he likes it and her new friends. They post daily
photos and send home art projects all the time. It's

(50:05):
just what I wanted. The only problem is that since
starting she does not talk at school anymore. She used
to talk all the time at her other school and
just stopped. She never talks at the new school. I
know she's learning stuff because she comes home and talks
about it. For example, they had a Christmas program and
she still will not stop singing jingle bells because they
learned it in school. She always says she loves her friends.

(50:26):
I have no clue why she just stopped talking. Interesting,
I mean, I don't know either.

Speaker 1 (50:32):
Yeah, I couldn't tell you.

Speaker 3 (50:33):
I couldn't tell you. I think maybe that's something that
you work with a school, or maybe like a doctor
or a therapist on But also sometimes, yeah, I think
that the fact that she's coming home and is very
still very excited about school is a good sign. But yeah,
definitely definitely look into it. Might be nothing, but always
I think best to check in. Indeed, second, the friend drama,
so it looks like the move will not be happening

(50:54):
at least for now. My friend currently lives with her mom,
and her mom has told her to move out by
the end of twenty twenty four. I heard it got
pushed back to the end of January, and now she
tells me that it is indefinitely put off due to
finances and credit checks. I totally understand having financial issues,
but I honestly feel really bad for my friend having
to live with her mom even longer. Her mom is

(51:15):
a really big liar about a lot of things and
has some manipulative and self absorbed person tendencies. For example,
she does not pay her rent or car payments, and
her car has been repossessed multiple times, and then yells
at my friend for not being responsible with money enough
to find a place to live away from her. She
lied to everyone saying her car was in the shop.
I even gave her rides to work every day for

(51:35):
a week, thinking her car just kept breaking. Nope, it
was repossessed. My friend also got a letter in the
mail saying she was denied a credit card she never
applied for. With some investigative digging, she found out her
mom was the one who applied for it. I, thinking
the move was still happening at the end of the
month at this point, urged her to report it as
identity theft before it could happen again and be successful,

(51:57):
she declined, saying that they cannot get approved anywhere and
are stuck living with her. Honestly, hearing all that my
friend is having to go through, it makes me understand
her and all the issues I was having with some
things better. I am glad my daughter is somewhere different
in terms of her care. But I've decided not to
cut this friend off because I really think she needs
some supportive people in her life. It is hard to

(52:17):
thrive if you are in an environment that is constantly
beating you down. But you'd thrive by listening to more
episodes of stories just like this. Just go to Spotify,
Apple Podcast, or iHeartRadio and search a pokestory time and
you'll thrive. But too have many final thoughts.

Speaker 1 (52:32):
You navigated a very difficult situation. I feel like as
best as you probably could.

Speaker 3 (52:36):
I agree, And also you still have a lot of
sympathy and you know stuff for your friend, which is
really which is not. You didn't have to, you know,
not everyone would, especially after the way that she treated.

Speaker 1 (52:45):
You and treated your kid. Yeah, but I can only imagine.
I get pretty emotional about things sometimes not often, when
I get set off. I get set off pretty big,
and if this is my kid, I'd probably be set
off enormously in a big way. So good job, like
you're teaching.

Speaker 3 (53:00):
You and your daughter are great emotional regulation. But there's
a little bit more. I really shorten the drama with
her and her mom. But if you want any more,
please let me know, and I may post. I work
with her mom and have known her for over two
years now, and it is very complex. I only try
to post stuff I have verified is the truth after
hearing both of their stories. But I have heard so

(53:22):
much stuff it is crazy and I need to sell
someone or I might go insane. And that is the
end of that story.

Speaker 1 (53:28):
Geech, Well, I'm glad you told us.

Speaker 3 (53:30):
Yeah, me too, man O.

Speaker 1 (53:32):
Man can be told, and sometimes you.

Speaker 3 (53:34):
Just got to get your daughter out of a situation
and then you can look after the person who's kind
of going off the rails a little bit.

Speaker 1 (53:40):
Yeah, family, your family comes before your friend in that
context for sure.

Speaker 3 (53:45):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (53:46):
Hey it's John here. We're gonna get back to those stories.
Put a quick three minute ad break from our sponsors
that keep the show going.

Speaker 3 (53:52):
My friend demanded I ignore my grief on her wedding
day because I might steal attention from her. Just get up, dude,
Get up?

Speaker 1 (53:59):
Yeah, why are you sad?

Speaker 3 (54:00):
Walk it off? There's no crying in baseball trigger warning
of loved ones, So if you do not want to
hear about that, skip to the next story. Seven years ago,
I thirty five female, lost my husband, daughter, and mother
in a car accident. Oh my goodness, I am so sorry.
They were hit by a wasted driver who ran a
red light, unliving all of them on impact. Their passing

(54:23):
greatly affected me, and if it weren't for my friends
and years of therapy, I would be in a much
worse place. I am very thankful for their support and
have been able to process my grief properly. By the way,
this comes from Warm Blanket twelve, And if you want
to spit your own stories, go to our slashokey Storytime
separated it So two years ago I took a job
offer that provided more benefits than my previous one and

(54:45):
move far away from my city. I travel back occasionally
to meet up with friends and of course, to visit
my family's graves on their anniversary. It is a seven
hour car drive or around an hour by plane. Due
to the VID. Last year, I drove to avoid contact
with people and stayed at my old house. This year,
I planned to do the same, but I ran into
an issue with my friend having her wedding in my

(55:06):
old city. My friend Amy, thirty three female, announced she
was engaged last year to her boyfriend of three months.
My friend Group and I were quite shocked, as we
had never even met him nor knew she was dating anyone. Yeah,
I mean she was only dating for three months. Hm,
that's insane. Yeah, we usually tell each other these things. Nonetheless,

(55:27):
we congratulated her and were happy for her. They were
supposed to have their wedding last year, but couldn't do
to the VID, so they postponed it to this year.
We are not in the US and the VID cases
are now fewer than ten. In my country, gatherings of
fewer than fifteen people are allowed, and that is what
Amy decided to do for her wedding. About a week ago,
Amy called me privately to tell me her plans for

(55:48):
the wedding. She told me that she is having it
on the same day as my family's anniversary and would
like me to not visit their graves, instead attending the wedding.
I'm sorry. So she picked it knowing that you couldn't
do that. Yeah, that's so strange. I thought it was
gonna be like, oh, she didn't know the day or

(56:10):
forgot about the day and then put planned the wedd
But like for her to be like, no, I planned
the wedding and you specifically can't go to your family's passing,
and she's like, move it. Maybe you just reschedule that's
to pass it?

Speaker 1 (56:24):
Like what.

Speaker 3 (56:25):
I was quite shocked that she planned her wedding on
that specific day and question why she picked it. Amy
told me she just liked the dates that I can't
just gate keep it a certain day. When I asked
why I couldn't visit my family's grave, she told me
she didn't want my sadness and grief to take attention
away from her wedding.

Speaker 6 (56:42):
These are big red flag, Oh callous, big red flag,
Oh callous. If it was the kind of thing where
it was like this is just like how the schedules
worked out, and like when these are available and stuff
like that, I'm so sorry, Like that's just happens to me.
When it is there any way that that could work
out for you, you know, what I mean, maybe no, but
this is like, no, I picked it because I don't
want you to go visit your family's grives and you

(57:03):
can't visit them actually at all. Yeah, it's just like,
can you just like not be sad for a second,
Like you're gonna ruin my day of your son, can
you like not be I.

Speaker 3 (57:10):
Was incredibly stunned by what she said. I know I
can be quite emotional, but I also know how to
compose myself and behave at certain events. Here's where I
think I might be the ale. I told Amy that unfortunately,
I will not miss out on visiting my family's graves.
I tried to offer a compromise and told her that
if my emotions were such a problem, I would visit
their graves after the wedding. She said she wanted my

(57:32):
support for the entire day and want to be a
to dedicate it to her, but she would think about
my offer. Honestly, I would be like, no, it's not
an offer. This is what I'm doing. You can either
not have me come to your wedding or like that
this is how it's going.

Speaker 7 (57:44):
Yeah, like just accept that I'm gonna feel my emotions
and don't let it affect your dave.

Speaker 1 (57:49):
You don't want to.

Speaker 3 (57:50):
It's been a week and I have not heard from her.
I feel like I should just go to the wedding
to keep the peace, as I owe it to her,
especially after all the support and love she gave me
after my family's But isn't given to you now, Like,
isn't capable of being kind to you right now?

Speaker 1 (58:04):
Right?

Speaker 3 (58:05):
But it still doesn't feel right to attend the wedding
and forget about my family. Would I be an ale
if I told her I won't be attending the wedding
at all if she hasn't reached a decision. No, your
friend is the a hole. She's treating you like your
feelings don't matter. Yeah, and that she is the most
important person in the world. The world does not revolve
around her. Agreed. Yeah, but there are some comments not

(58:29):
the Ale. I'm so sorry for your loss, But I
have a question. Why is Amy allowed to gate keep
that day for her own but not you? After all,
her wedding anniversary will be on that date from now on.
Will she try to force you to forget about your
loss every year? I think it's really insensitive and selfish
of her and reply trying to control your emotions in
addition to your actions. She doesn't only want you at

(58:51):
her wedding, she wants to control what you do with
the time you're not at her wedding, as if that
would stop you from being sad. Exactly. It's like, honestly,
probably you not going to the Great Wood make you
more sad because you would feel guilty. Yeah, reply this,
Amy gets zero say, and what you do with your
day Go to your family's graves and do your usual ritual,
then go to the wedding. If she asks, tell her

(59:12):
what you do when not at her wedding is none
of our business. In fact, text her that right now
and withdraw your compromise. You don't need to compromise with her.
Reply Frankly, I think OPI could also tell the other
friends about what is happening, because Opie should not have
Amy weaponize this with others. Opie, do not compromise with
anyone on this. And there is an update. Wow, do

(59:32):
you have any thoughts before we get into it?

Speaker 1 (59:34):
Yeah?

Speaker 7 (59:34):
I just think like if this was a conversation that
they had of being like, you know, hey, by the
way this is gonna be like is that gonna be
a problem.

Speaker 3 (59:44):
How are you gonna feel? You can totally feel whatever
emotions you are.

Speaker 7 (59:47):
This is just like a day that I liked and
that worked out, you know, like that would probably be okay.

Speaker 1 (59:53):
Yeah.

Speaker 7 (59:53):
The fact that she said, like your sadness is gonna
ruin my day, that's like totally crossing the line.

Speaker 3 (01:00:00):
Absolutely, But there is enough date. I want to start
off by saying thank you to everyone who replied. I
was not expecting my post to get this level of attention.
I have read all of your comments and thank you
once again. I am in tears and became an emotional
mess after reading your thoughtful responses. Thank you for the
love and support. They've always felt like some sort of
emotional burden to my friends, So thank you for your

(01:00:22):
encouraging messages and for telling me to keep my head
up high. Even though we were all strangers on the internet.
It feels like I've gained a new family. Now for
the update, I did what some of you suggested and
called my other friends to let them know what Amy
had asked to me. They were quite livid and angry
on my behalf, as they had no idea what Amy
was planning for the wedding.

Speaker 1 (01:00:41):
We arranged a.

Speaker 3 (01:00:41):
Zoom call with her the next day to discuss why
she was being so insensitive to me. I'm sure Amy
took that race.

Speaker 1 (01:00:48):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (01:00:49):
Well, the call was quite a battle. It started off calm,
then Amy just blew up. Boy, you guys were right
when you said that Amy was jealous of the attention
I received during my family's passing anniversary. Her wedding was
a way to shift the attention towards her. She tried
to explain that by having the wedding on that day,
it would turn a negative situation into a positive one.

(01:01:09):
When she realized she wasn't convincing enough, it felt as
though a mask had fallen from her face. She started
yelling and insulting me, saying that she was tired of
playing the supportive friend role in that it's been seventy years.
I should just get over it. By no hour, just
go join my family in the ground. Oh my god,
that's crazy. I would literally if I were her, I

(01:01:31):
would never talk to this woman again. Absolutely. If I
were any of the friends on this call, I would
never talk to this one. Absolutely, I'd be like, you
are not the person I.

Speaker 1 (01:01:38):
Thought you were. Yeah, goodbye, whoa.

Speaker 3 (01:01:42):
My friends lost their anger and called her every name
in the book. I am honestly just shocked and disappointed
in the person who used to be my friend. It
breaks my heart knowing I lost another person in my life.
But I guess you guys are right. She never really
was a friend. Looking back at her friendship, I now
realize it was often one sided on my part. I
wish it hadn't taken me so long to see it.

(01:02:05):
No one in our friend group of six people is
going to her wedding now. We have decided to go
no contact with Amy and block her on all social media.
My friends have offered to visit my family's graves with me,
and I accept it.

Speaker 1 (01:02:15):
All. That's so sweet.

Speaker 3 (01:02:17):
Yeah, you're just finding out who your real friends are,
and it's like, really that I have had to happen
this way. But we are now planning to make a
scrap book with my family's pictures for once. I'm actually
looking forward to this day and we'll start planning more
meaningful activities like this. Thank you once again to everyone
for helping me through this. And please remember do not
drink and drive. I'm begging you, please don't please drink

(01:02:40):
responsibly and drive safely everyone all. And I'm just not
gonna segue into this one. By the way, you can
listen to full episodes of stories just like this. Just
go to Spotify, Apple Podcast, or iHeartRadio and search Booky Storytime.
But there is a little bit left to the story.
But really really awful that Amy treated you like this,

(01:03:04):
But I'm glad that you have real friends who are
willing to be there for you. Yeah, that's super sweet because,
like obviously, Amy meant so much to Opie.

Speaker 7 (01:03:12):
It's like if she just loses her and doesn't have
anyone else there to support her that's like her only person,
that would be like she's alone. But I'm so glad
that all of these other friends are offering all this
and all this support.

Speaker 1 (01:03:26):
Nice.

Speaker 3 (01:03:27):
Some are asking about Amy's fiance and his thoughts. We
haven't heard anything, as we still haven't even met him.
We tried several times to meet him last year, but
something always came up. I guess we'll never know his
true feelings.

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