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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey, this is Sam. This is John, your og Okay
Storytime podcast host, and we got some great stories coming up.
Before that, we have a quick two minute break from
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Speaker 2 (00:09):
My husband has a secret son from a past partner.
Speaker 3 (00:11):
Hold up, Sam, how do we know? Do we have
the DNA test?
Speaker 1 (00:14):
Well, John, luckily it's mother. May I have a DNA
test week on the Okay Storytime podcast. So let's jump
in to what this person has to say. My husband
thirty two male, and I twenty nine female, have been
a pretty typical couple up until now, I would say, so, yeah,
things are changing. Dual income, no kids, and we're hoping
(00:35):
to have one or two within the next few years,
but are in no rush and are enjoying this time
in our lives again until now. By the way, this
comes from Love Child fifty three to forty Sex And
if you want to submit your own stories, go to
the r slash Okay Storytime subredit.
Speaker 2 (00:52):
So.
Speaker 1 (00:52):
I have a white collar job and he works for
a startup. Of course, we had our problems what couple doesn't,
but have always made managed to work through them and
seem to always come out stronger. And I have the
Blue John. Something happens. What happens got our inciting into it.
My husband received a Facebook message over the weekend from
(01:13):
a woman saying that he is the father of her
five year old son.
Speaker 4 (01:19):
Okay, why is it every time there's a Facebook message
just never like hey, you know you dropped one hundred dollars,
or like, oh, I'm a Nigerian prince and I need
to give you two million dollars. That would be great
to be to move funds for the air of my throne.
You know, it's never that. It's always oh, here's your
secret son, Oh here's your here's the affair partner that
(01:39):
you're guys sleeping with.
Speaker 3 (01:40):
It's it's it's never good.
Speaker 1 (01:42):
I want good news in my Facebook message and I
never get any. Maybe one day the Nigerian Prince well
will be waiting for me, all of those.
Speaker 4 (01:52):
All of our Facebook messages to just stop yelling into
the microphone.
Speaker 1 (01:55):
If we won't, won't we are going to continue yelling.
So although he didn't immediately remember who she was, man,
it's a player. After confirming a few details, he was
able to place her as a one night stand right
before we just started dating.
Speaker 3 (02:10):
I mean, that's pretty compelling evidence.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
Man is prolific.
Speaker 3 (02:13):
That's not good.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
Man was slang and way that's not good in wild
oats again.
Speaker 1 (02:19):
Oh oh, that's Sally's Sally number four. Although it might
seem that there could be overlap between her and me,
given the kid's birthday and you know math, yikes. I
do believe him when he said that he slept with
her only once a month before we started dating. The
(02:42):
punctuation on that is a little little suns is it?
You only somewhe her once a month or once a
month before we started dating.
Speaker 4 (02:51):
I mean, this is sounded like once a month. I guess,
I guess there isn't if it's a one night stand,
just like it's a one night stand, it's a one
night stand.
Speaker 3 (03:03):
Yeah it's not.
Speaker 2 (03:04):
It's once a month a month.
Speaker 3 (03:06):
Once a month stand is crazy, that's why.
Speaker 2 (03:09):
Yeah, dude, he's gone monthly delivery.
Speaker 3 (03:13):
Yeah he can.
Speaker 2 (03:14):
We have a little bit.
Speaker 3 (03:16):
You know, I'm a little busy this.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
Week a six week thing. Yeah, I got this new
girl in the block. Well, this isn't an infidelity situation.
On the one hand, though I'm irrationally angry at them.
This should not be my problem, and I was not
the one who decided to have unprotected, spicy sleep with
(03:38):
someone I did not know while wasted.
Speaker 2 (03:41):
Amen.
Speaker 1 (03:42):
Amen, sister. Well, we bought a house a year ago
that in hindsight, was probably more of a reach than
we should have done. So money is very tight at
this point in time. We live in a completely different province,
so logistically speaking, having a relationship with this child WI
will be difficult. I'm not saying it's impossible. I'm not
saying it wouldn't be worth it. I'm just saying it
(04:03):
will be harder than if we were still in the
same city. So already, op is like, I want to
make this relationship with this kid work for for my husband.
Speaker 3 (04:13):
Yes, So I mean that's.
Speaker 1 (04:15):
Kind of that's kind of a nice move on her part.
Speaker 4 (04:18):
W move because again, assuming what we know is true,
which is true that they they basically conceive the baby
before the relationship, It's like, Okay, you can't like fault
him no for that, you know, But now it's like, Okay,
my husband.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
That was that was me way long ago.
Speaker 3 (04:36):
I'm a different person.
Speaker 1 (04:37):
Thirty days before when I met you, I was a
changed man.
Speaker 3 (04:41):
Yeah, let me tell you what a count.
Speaker 2 (04:46):
But I took on that fatherly duty.
Speaker 1 (04:48):
At the same time, I'm likely getting ahead of myself
as there is no confirmation that he is even his son. Yep,
they don't know where's the DNA desk?
Speaker 2 (04:57):
Got it?
Speaker 3 (04:57):
Gotta give it to me.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
She has a meeting with her lawyer on September eighth
to discuss how to go about getting a paternity test done,
which to me implies that since lawyers are getting involved,
she will be going after him for that money that yes, moolah,
which she is entitled to and is her right if
he is his son.
Speaker 2 (05:17):
Which I love how OPI is, like, I guess, I
guess so.
Speaker 4 (05:21):
I mean she's so like I feel like she's very
like level headed and reasonable, very very down to earth
and just like earth this is what it is.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
Yeah, yeah, which I feel like if I was getting
this Facebook message, I don't know if I would be
as reasonable as Op. So he props to up for
for Wayne both sides.
Speaker 4 (05:39):
I'm actually curious for everyone watching comment below if you
think that they should only be entitled to like the
husband's side of the money, because if there's intermingled funds, like, is.
Speaker 3 (05:50):
That really like effect?
Speaker 2 (05:52):
Is that fair? Yeah?
Speaker 3 (05:53):
Is that fair?
Speaker 2 (05:53):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (05:54):
Well, a different side of me feels robbed, and the
protective side of me also feels like my husband has
been robbed, albeit in a different way. He didn't know
about this child and consequently has missed many of the
traditional milestones. He broke down in the middle of our
living room, apologizing and saying that he had always imagined
that his children would be with me, and that this
(06:15):
is not the kind of father he wanted to be.
Speaker 4 (06:18):
I mean, it does suck like that he he didn't know,
he didn't know. You can't you kind of I mean,
I guess you can blame him, you know, doing the
lap in the willie, but like, ah, I do still
feel for.
Speaker 2 (06:31):
Him, yeah, you know.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
I And also I think this reaction like if I
was a wife, all right, damn I got a good one.
Speaker 2 (06:37):
That's good, you know. You know. It's like like he
wants to be a good father.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
That's what he really He's like sad, you know, what
do you want to hear as a wife green flat.
His first instinct, though, if it comes to it, is
to pay child support, but to not have any presence
in his life since his future family is with me.
Speaker 4 (06:54):
Oh, He's like he's like, Babe, I want to be
the best father ever, but only to your hid you
I guess I mean not W.
Speaker 1 (07:05):
I feel like a less of a W. Yeah, less
of a do at least you, I guess know he's
committed to you. I don't know is that a word now?
I don't think I honestly, I don't think it is.
I feel it's lots of a W. But I would
love to know what y'all think. And given how my
post probably sounds, you would think this would make me happy,
but that actually just made me even sadder and even
more disappointed my husband. The kid looks exactly like how
(07:28):
my husband looked at five, and I think he should
get to know him, even if this impacts my life negatively,
since this is not the kid's fault.
Speaker 2 (07:36):
Wife yep, I.
Speaker 1 (07:37):
Told him to just reflect for a while and did
not make any decisions until we know more. But I
am hoping that once the shock has worn off, he'll
want to have a relationship with him. Also, John, if
you're new here, which I know you are, you just
can't know.
Speaker 3 (07:52):
What this is.
Speaker 1 (07:53):
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Speaker 2 (08:12):
Oh my, hey, it's Sam, your og host. Here.
Speaker 1 (08:15):
We're gonna get back to the stories. But here's three
minutes of ads from our sponsors. But on Facebook, she
was rambling and made it sound like the kid had
a hard life and was mistreated by your previous partner
who was presenting as the father. So on top of it,
this is a sad situation. So Op's like, hey, like
you kind of have a responsibility, man.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
Up do something.
Speaker 3 (08:33):
Yeah, yeah, like this this is your kid.
Speaker 2 (08:36):
This is your kid.
Speaker 3 (08:37):
Indeed, and uh, the kid proceeds.
Speaker 2 (08:39):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (08:39):
I feel like I feel like the moral compass of
OP is pretty high, which is pretty great. I mean,
like you don't you don't. You don't throw any woman
in this situation and have her actly. I feel like
OP is like balanced and and like all right, like
like be the best man you can.
Speaker 4 (08:55):
Be as far as like the Okay Storytime podcast principles
like op is kind of like hitting every checkbox so far,
I would say, I.
Speaker 1 (09:03):
Don't know if this is even relevant, but the mother
of his child is not the most stable person. There's
a very loose connection between her and me, although I
don't know her personally. Oh, I have heard of her
throughout the years via mutual friends. My best friend's boyfriend's
brother used to be friends with her. That is quite
the grape vine something though, so this is a pretty
(09:24):
distant connection. And I remember the stories showing she's not
the most sane person in the world. So it's like
kind of having her in the fold, you're inviting drama.
Speaker 2 (09:34):
Into your life.
Speaker 1 (09:35):
Yeah, at the same time, it meant nothing and the
stories were amusing as I had nothing to do with her,
But now this is the person he and by extension
I will maybe have to co parent with. And although
my husband and I make a typical middle class income
ADK combined, so we're not hurting, but by no means
are we wealthy. My parents have a lot of money,
(09:57):
let's go. But and so par to me wonders if
she will go after me or what her expectations are
when it comes to that. So she's like, I see
those dollars signs parents? Is that even parents? Is that
a thing?
Speaker 3 (10:10):
Grand printal rights well brands for enough to get the money.
Speaker 1 (10:14):
I don't think it is the thing. But what what
she could like, you know, if you have if she's like, oh,
I can sue them for everything they have, and I
know that their parents are going to help out, like
they can sue for the five years Yeah of back pay.
Oh that's a lot, five years of monthly back pay
(10:36):
for child support. That's like at least you know, let's
say one thousand dollars minimum per month.
Speaker 4 (10:42):
And you just go and you know, get rid of
the grandparents. Uh, op and Harris all the money? Now
you go after that.
Speaker 1 (10:49):
Boom boom are you saying to get rid of Like yeah,
like get get rid of it, rid of like you know,
get that hair Like all.
Speaker 4 (10:56):
Right, let me let me, let me go real crazy
on these grandparents. They're gone. Sure with the fishes, all
of her family's inheritance goes to Op.
Speaker 1 (11:05):
Now she can sue her for millions, Yeah, millions. But
I'm definitely getting ahead of myself. The only people we
have told so far are my parents. He has a
better relationship with my parents than with his, and they
told us not to make decisions at the moment until
we know what is going on, that the child may
not even be his. Again, we have not done the
paternity test, so we're going to ahead of ourselves, and
(11:25):
that it is suspect that she is only getting in
touch with us now. They advised us to reduce both
of our online footprints, especially his, delete LinkedIn, make Instagram
and Facebook completely private, et cetera, limit contact with her
and wait until her lawyer formally contacts him for a
paternity test and child support and go from there. I,
generally speaking, tend to believe things at face value and
(11:48):
could be naive sometimes, so it was hard for me
to hear that she could be contacting us for selfish reasons.
She kept saying she wanted to do right by her
son and for him to know his father. The point
was not to give her and her lawyer any more ammunition.
I feel their reality their wealth has forced them to
be more cautious and calculated, as this type of thing
has happened in their circle and has turned out to
(12:10):
be a money grab. But I guess they are right,
so it seems like the parents, because they're they're wealthy,
have had people sue them or go after them for
like various things, or like, hey, don't don't believe everyone
who comes at you with a with a lawsuit and
a paternity test.
Speaker 4 (12:26):
Dude that when you have multiple people coming after that's crazy.
Speaker 1 (12:31):
I mean, dude, I feel like it happened. That has happened,
you know, I do think that. I guess like the
sage wisdom of the parents might might help in this situation.
Speaker 3 (12:40):
Yeah, oh a thousand.
Speaker 1 (12:42):
Yeah, yeah, the most recent one since we spoke to
my parents, he has not responded to any of her
Facebook messages. I guess to not give her extra ammo
in the lawsuit or whatever. Right, The most recent one
she has sent was whether or not he wanted to
get to know his son. I guess I don't really
have a question, but more needed to rant since like
an not really talk to my friends about this. I'm
not sure what my next step should be, how I
(13:04):
even should feel about the situation, and I need tips
on how to temper the selfish side of me. I
need to be there for him, but I'm having a
hard time even looking at him in the eyes, and
although my vows do mean something and I would not
actually do this, part of me just wants to leave
as this was not what I signed up for and
our reality, no matter what happens next, will be very
(13:26):
different going forward. I mean yeah, yeah, super different, super different.
I mean there's no escaping it. I do love again.
That op is like feeling this duty to the relationship.
She's not just trying to abandon ship and recognizing these
emotions that might not be like completely rational or completely
what she actually wants to do deep down, if she's
(13:47):
following her moral compass, like like these emotions exist, she's.
Speaker 4 (13:50):
Not letting the emotions take her to a place of
making a potentially rash decision. But she's like, hey, I
am feeling these things. I'm acknowledging these things and trying
to sift through and figure out what is the.
Speaker 3 (14:03):
Best thing to do because it's a crazy situation.
Speaker 1 (14:05):
Crazy situation, and I think it's about to get crazier.
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Before that, we have a quick two minute break from
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Speaker 2 (00:09):
My husband has a secret son from a past partner.
Speaker 3 (00:11):
Hold up, Sam, how do we know? Do we have
the DNA test?
Speaker 1 (00:14):
Well, John, luckily it's mother. May I have a DNA
test week on the Okay Storytime podcast. So let's jump
in to what this person has to say. My husband
thirty two male, and I twenty nine female, have been
a pretty typical couple up until now, I would say, so, yeah,
things are changing. Dual income, no kids, and we're hoping
(00:35):
to have one or two within the next few years,
but are in no rush and are enjoying this time
in our lives again until now. By the way, this
comes from Love Child fifty three to forty Sex And
if you want to submit your own stories, go to
the r slash Okay Storytime subredit.
Speaker 2 (00:52):
So.
Speaker 1 (00:52):
I have a white collar job and he works for
a startup. Of course, we had our problems what couple doesn't,
but have always made managed to work through them and
seem to always come out stronger. And I have the
Blue John. Something happens. What happens got our inciting into it.
My husband received a Facebook message over the weekend from
(01:13):
a woman saying that he is the father of her
five year old son.
Speaker 4 (01:19):
Okay, why is it every time there's a Facebook message
just never like hey, you know you dropped one hundred dollars,
or like, oh, I'm a Nigerian prince and I need
to give you two million dollars. That would be great
to be to move funds for the air of my throne.
You know, it's never that. It's always oh, here's your
secret son, Oh here's your here's the affair partner that
(01:39):
you're guys sleeping with.
Speaker 3 (01:40):
It's it's it's never good.
Speaker 1 (01:42):
I want good news in my Facebook message and I
never get any. Maybe one day the Nigerian Prince well
will be waiting for me, all of those.
Speaker 4 (01:52):
All of our Facebook messages to just stop yelling into
the microphone.
Speaker 1 (01:55):
If we won't, won't we are going to continue yelling.
So although he didn't immediately remember who she was, man,
it's a player. After confirming a few details, he was
able to place her as a one night stand right
before we just started dating.
Speaker 3 (02:10):
I mean, that's pretty compelling evidence.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
Man is prolific.
Speaker 3 (02:13):
That's not good.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
Man was slang and way that's not good in wild
oats again.
Speaker 1 (02:19):
Oh oh, that's Sally's Sally number four. Although it might
seem that there could be overlap between her and me,
given the kid's birthday and you know math, yikes. I
do believe him when he said that he slept with
her only once a month before we started dating. The
(02:42):
punctuation on that is a little little suns is it?
You only somewhe her once a month or once a
month before we started dating.
Speaker 4 (02:51):
I mean, this is sounded like once a month. I guess,
I guess there isn't if it's a one night stand,
just like it's a one night stand, it's a one
night stand.
Speaker 3 (03:03):
Yeah it's not.
Speaker 2 (03:04):
It's once a month a month.
Speaker 3 (03:06):
Once a month stand is crazy, that's why.
Speaker 2 (03:09):
Yeah, dude, he's gone monthly delivery.
Speaker 3 (03:13):
Yeah he can.
Speaker 2 (03:14):
We have a little bit.
Speaker 3 (03:16):
You know, I'm a little busy this.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
Week a six week thing. Yeah, I got this new
girl in the block. Well, this isn't an infidelity situation.
On the one hand, though I'm irrationally angry at them.
This should not be my problem, and I was not
the one who decided to have unprotected, spicy sleep with
(03:38):
someone I did not know while wasted.
Speaker 2 (03:41):
Amen.
Speaker 1 (03:42):
Amen, sister. Well, we bought a house a year ago
that in hindsight, was probably more of a reach than
we should have done. So money is very tight at
this point in time. We live in a completely different province,
so logistically speaking, having a relationship with this child WI
will be difficult. I'm not saying it's impossible. I'm not
saying it wouldn't be worth it. I'm just saying it
(04:03):
will be harder than if we were still in the
same city. So already, op is like, I want to
make this relationship with this kid work for for my husband.
Speaker 3 (04:13):
Yes, So I mean that's.
Speaker 1 (04:15):
Kind of that's kind of a nice move on her part.
Speaker 4 (04:18):
W move because again, assuming what we know is true,
which is true that they they basically conceive the baby
before the relationship, It's like, Okay, you can't like fault
him no for that, you know, But now it's like, Okay,
my husband.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
That was that was me way long ago.
Speaker 3 (04:36):
I'm a different person.
Speaker 1 (04:37):
Thirty days before when I met you, I was a
changed man.
Speaker 3 (04:41):
Yeah, let me tell you what a count.
Speaker 2 (04:46):
But I took on that fatherly duty.
Speaker 1 (04:48):
At the same time, I'm likely getting ahead of myself
as there is no confirmation that he is even his son. Yep,
they don't know where's the DNA desk?
Speaker 2 (04:57):
Got it?
Speaker 3 (04:57):
Gotta give it to me.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
She has a meeting with her lawyer on September eighth
to discuss how to go about getting a paternity test done,
which to me implies that since lawyers are getting involved,
she will be going after him for that money that yes, moolah,
which she is entitled to and is her right if
he is his son.
Speaker 2 (05:17):
Which I love how OPI is, like, I guess, I
guess so.
Speaker 4 (05:21):
I mean she's so like I feel like she's very
like level headed and reasonable, very very down to earth
and just like earth this is what it is.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
Yeah, yeah, which I feel like if I was getting
this Facebook message, I don't know if I would be
as reasonable as Op. So he props to up for
for Wayne both sides.
Speaker 4 (05:39):
I'm actually curious for everyone watching comment below if you
think that they should only be entitled to like the
husband's side of the money, because if there's intermingled funds, like, is.
Speaker 3 (05:50):
That really like effect?
Speaker 2 (05:52):
Is that fair? Yeah?
Speaker 3 (05:53):
Is that fair?
Speaker 2 (05:53):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (05:54):
Well, a different side of me feels robbed, and the
protective side of me also feels like my husband has
been robbed, albeit in a different way. He didn't know
about this child and consequently has missed many of the
traditional milestones. He broke down in the middle of our
living room, apologizing and saying that he had always imagined
that his children would be with me, and that this
(06:15):
is not the kind of father he wanted to be.
Speaker 4 (06:18):
I mean, it does suck like that he he didn't know,
he didn't know. You can't you kind of I mean,
I guess you can blame him, you know, doing the
lap in the willie, but like, ah, I do still
feel for.
Speaker 2 (06:31):
Him, yeah, you know.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
I And also I think this reaction like if I
was a wife, all right, damn I got a good one.
Speaker 2 (06:37):
That's good, you know. You know. It's like like he
wants to be a good father.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
That's what he really He's like sad, you know, what
do you want to hear as a wife green flat.
His first instinct, though, if it comes to it, is
to pay child support, but to not have any presence
in his life since his future family is with me.
Speaker 4 (06:54):
Oh, He's like he's like, Babe, I want to be
the best father ever, but only to your hid you
I guess I mean not W.
Speaker 1 (07:05):
I feel like a less of a W. Yeah, less
of a do at least you, I guess know he's
committed to you. I don't know is that a word now?
I don't think I honestly, I don't think it is.
I feel it's lots of a W. But I would
love to know what y'all think. And given how my
post probably sounds, you would think this would make me happy,
but that actually just made me even sadder and even
more disappointed my husband. The kid looks exactly like how
(07:28):
my husband looked at five, and I think he should
get to know him, even if this impacts my life negatively,
since this is not the kid's fault.
Speaker 2 (07:36):
Wife yep, I.
Speaker 1 (07:37):
Told him to just reflect for a while and did
not make any decisions until we know more. But I
am hoping that once the shock has worn off, he'll
want to have a relationship with him. Also, John, if
you're new here, which I know you are, you just
can't know.
Speaker 3 (07:52):
What this is.
Speaker 1 (07:53):
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to follow us on iHeart or Apple podcasts. We're gonna
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Speaker 2 (08:12):
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Speaker 1 (08:15):
We're gonna get back to the stories. But here's three
minutes of ads from our sponsors. But on Facebook, she
was rambling and made it sound like the kid had
a hard life and was mistreated by your previous partner
who was presenting as the father. So on top of it,
this is a sad situation. So Op's like, hey, like
you kind of have a responsibility, man.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
Up do something.
Speaker 3 (08:33):
Yeah, yeah, like this this is your kid.
Speaker 2 (08:36):
This is your kid.
Speaker 3 (08:37):
Indeed, and uh, the kid proceeds.
Speaker 2 (08:39):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (08:39):
I feel like I feel like the moral compass of
OP is pretty high, which is pretty great. I mean,
like you don't you don't. You don't throw any woman
in this situation and have her actly. I feel like
OP is like balanced and and like all right, like
like be the best man you can.
Speaker 4 (08:55):
Be as far as like the Okay Storytime podcast principles
like op is kind of like hitting every checkbox so far,
I would say, I.
Speaker 1 (09:03):
Don't know if this is even relevant, but the mother
of his child is not the most stable person. There's
a very loose connection between her and me, although I
don't know her personally. Oh, I have heard of her
throughout the years via mutual friends. My best friend's boyfriend's
brother used to be friends with her. That is quite
the grape vine something though, so this is a pretty
(09:24):
distant connection. And I remember the stories showing she's not
the most sane person in the world. So it's like
kind of having her in the fold, you're inviting drama.
Speaker 2 (09:34):
Into your life.
Speaker 1 (09:35):
Yeah, at the same time, it meant nothing and the
stories were amusing as I had nothing to do with her,
But now this is the person he and by extension
I will maybe have to co parent with. And although
my husband and I make a typical middle class income
ADK combined, so we're not hurting, but by no means
are we wealthy. My parents have a lot of money,
(09:57):
let's go. But and so par to me wonders if
she will go after me or what her expectations are
when it comes to that. So she's like, I see
those dollars signs parents? Is that even parents? Is that
a thing?
Speaker 3 (10:10):
Grand printal rights well brands for enough to get the money.
Speaker 1 (10:14):
I don't think it is the thing. But what what
she could like, you know, if you have if she's like, oh,
I can sue them for everything they have, and I
know that their parents are going to help out, like
they can sue for the five years Yeah of back pay.
Oh that's a lot, five years of monthly back pay
(10:36):
for child support. That's like at least you know, let's
say one thousand dollars minimum per month.
Speaker 4 (10:42):
And you just go and you know, get rid of
the grandparents. Uh, op and Harris all the money? Now
you go after that.
Speaker 1 (10:49):
Boom boom are you saying to get rid of Like yeah,
like get get rid of it, rid of like you know,
get that hair Like all.
Speaker 4 (10:56):
Right, let me let me, let me go real crazy
on these grandparents. They're gone. Sure with the fishes, all
of her family's inheritance goes to Op.
Speaker 1 (11:05):
Now she can sue her for millions, Yeah, millions. But
I'm definitely getting ahead of myself. The only people we
have told so far are my parents. He has a
better relationship with my parents than with his, and they
told us not to make decisions at the moment until
we know what is going on, that the child may
not even be his. Again, we have not done the
paternity test, so we're going to ahead of ourselves, and
(11:25):
that it is suspect that she is only getting in
touch with us now. They advised us to reduce both
of our online footprints, especially his, delete LinkedIn, make Instagram
and Facebook completely private, et cetera, limit contact with her
and wait until her lawyer formally contacts him for a
paternity test and child support and go from there. I,
generally speaking, tend to believe things at face value and
(11:48):
could be naive sometimes, so it was hard for me
to hear that she could be contacting us for selfish reasons.
She kept saying she wanted to do right by her
son and for him to know his father. The point
was not to give her and her lawyer any more ammunition.
I feel their reality their wealth has forced them to
be more cautious and calculated, as this type of thing
has happened in their circle and has turned out to
(12:10):
be a money grab. But I guess they are right,
so it seems like the parents, because they're they're wealthy,
have had people sue them or go after them for
like various things, or like, hey, don't don't believe everyone
who comes at you with a with a lawsuit and
a paternity test.
Speaker 4 (12:26):
Dude that when you have multiple people coming after that's crazy.
Speaker 1 (12:31):
I mean, dude, I feel like it happened. That has happened,
you know, I do think that. I guess like the
sage wisdom of the parents might might help in this situation.
Speaker 3 (12:40):
Yeah, oh a thousand.
Speaker 1 (12:42):
Yeah, yeah, the most recent one since we spoke to
my parents, he has not responded to any of her
Facebook messages. I guess to not give her extra ammo
in the lawsuit or whatever. Right, The most recent one
she has sent was whether or not he wanted to
get to know his son. I guess I don't really
have a question, but more needed to rant since like
an not really talk to my friends about this. I'm
not sure what my next step should be, how I
(13:04):
even should feel about the situation, and I need tips
on how to temper the selfish side of me. I
need to be there for him, but I'm having a
hard time even looking at him in the eyes, and
although my vows do mean something and I would not
actually do this, part of me just wants to leave
as this was not what I signed up for and
our reality, no matter what happens next, will be very
(13:26):
different going forward. I mean yeah, yeah, super different, super different.
I mean there's no escaping it. I do love again.
That op is like feeling this duty to the relationship.
She's not just trying to abandon ship and recognizing these
emotions that might not be like completely rational or completely
what she actually wants to do deep down, if she's
(13:47):
following her moral compass, like like these emotions exist, she's.
Speaker 4 (13:50):
Not letting the emotions take her to a place of
making a potentially rash decision. But she's like, hey, I
am feeling these things. I'm acknowledging these things and trying
to sift through and figure out what is the.
Speaker 3 (14:03):
Best thing to do because it's a crazy situation.
Speaker 1 (14:05):
Crazy situation, and I think it's about to get crazier.
We're less than a third through this story. Again, if
you're new here, this is just part one of this story.
We got some juice left to squeeze, so make sure
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(14:29):
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