My boyfriend’s friend called me manipulative for worrying about my sick partner…should I tell him? - r/AITARelationship | Reddit Stories | EP2060

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53:23 r/AITAH - AITA for breaking up with my gf because she chose her guy best friend over me?

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Speaker 3 (00:16):
My boyfriend's friend called me manipulative for worrying about my
sick partner. Should I tell him?

Speaker 2 (00:22):
What are you doing?

Speaker 3 (00:23):
Cut his friend off? So me, twenty two female, and
my boyfriend twenty three male, have been together for three
years now.

Speaker 2 (00:30):
We met in.

Speaker 3 (00:31):
College and it's our first relationship and honestly, he's the
most amazing person I have ever met. He has a
childhood friend Ruby Hmmm, she sounds like she's probably gonna
be jealous. Uh oh, who used to live near his
house and hence they spent their childhood together. By the way,
this comes from deleted on the r slash Okay Storytime
subburt it. So I never had a problem with their friendship,

(00:54):
as my boyfriend thinks of her as a little sister.
But what does she think of him? The real question, however,
she has been single mostly and knew basically everything about him,
and it was very obvious by how close they were,
which was sometimes a insecure and insecurity of mine. In
the beginning, Ruby and I were always respectful towards each other,

(01:15):
but were never really close enough due to different hobbies
and interests. My boyfriend went to his home for a
few days to visit his parents, which is like forty
five minutes from college. He struggles from insomnia, but he
says listening to me helps him sleep, so I always
talked to him before we both fall asleep.

Speaker 4 (01:32):
We love that is that's so cute.

Speaker 3 (01:36):
I used to do this with my best friend in
high school. I would I would read her like the
history textbook to study.

Speaker 4 (01:44):
Good night, Yeah, and he turned a page thirty five
the history of Mesopotamia. Yeah.

Speaker 3 (01:51):
Since he was home, I called him to talk so
he could sleep, and eventually I fell asleep on call
as well. Around seven hours later, I woke up and
text him good morning, to which he wished me good
morning as well. I asked if he slept well, and
he said he slept really well and just woke up.
Were you still on the call? Was the Presumably the
call wasn't still going even though he fell asleep on it.

(02:14):
I was happy since it's rare for him to have
a solid seven hour sleep and was thinking his insomnia
was slightly getting better. I was very excited for the day,
as I had actually planned a small surprise day trip
for both of us that day cute since he was
too busy during Valentine's Day and had been stressed lately,
so I wanted to do something special for him. I

(02:34):
even told his parents about the surprise and they agreed
to help me as well. So I got ready, packed
the necessary things and drove to his house. After I
reached his house and got out of my car, I
saw Ruby outside her house and she came up to me.
I said hello to her, and she asked why I
was there so early in the morning. I told her
I was there to pick my boyfriend up and take

(02:55):
him to a trip. But she said, oh, but you
shouldn't disturb him. He was playing games with them last
night who's them and went to sleep pretty late. Also,
he's a bit sick and is probably sleeping right now.

Speaker 4 (03:07):
Wait what but they already.

Speaker 3 (03:09):
Texted, they already confirmed plans.

Speaker 5 (03:11):
No.

Speaker 3 (03:11):
I told her it's okay, I had talked to him,
but she kept on insisting it's a bad idea. To
disturb him, saying I should go later. Mind your business. Ruby.
I went anyways, and as planned her mum quietly led
me inside and I went upstairs to his room and
knocked on his door. After a while, he opened the door,
but he looked tired and groggy. He was seemingly happy

(03:33):
to see me, but when we hugged, I felt his
body was hot and checked he did have a bit
of a fever, so we canceled the trip and asked
him to rest.

Speaker 4 (03:43):
That.

Speaker 3 (03:44):
Oh no, I told him what Ruby said to me
and asked my boyfriend why he didn't tell me about
being sick. He got a bit flustered and told me
that actually, after I fell asleep, he couldn't sleep due
to fever. So we went and started playing Minecraft with
Ruby and his other friends. He ended up playing the
whole night, and then he got my text and didn't
want to worry. Uh didn't want me to worry about him,

(04:06):
so he just said he just woke up, and then
like an hour later he went to rest. There is
more to the story, but that's a little bit annoying
when you know you have plans with your partner that
day and then you don't communicate that you don't feel
well enough, because it's not I mean, yeah, problem if
you feel sick, But like, why day of would you
not say hey?

Speaker 2 (04:26):
Well, he didn't know because she was.

Speaker 3 (04:28):
But I think he knew that she was coming over.
Oh yeah later, Yeah, I think she He probably didn't
know what was like the plans were, but I think
he knew that she was coming over. Confirmed that morning.
Minecraft goes hard. I was sad with the fact that
he had to lie to me, even for such trivial matters,
and that Ruby knew about his well being but I didn't.
I told him to rest well and that I would

(04:50):
come later to check up on him. He asked if
I was okay, to which I said I was just
a little sad that he had to lie, even for
such small stuff. I told him I understood, though, because
he must have felt burden due to my nagging and
that I should not nag too much. No, I told
him I didn't want him to lie and that I
would stop nagging that much. He said it was not
a burden and that he was sorry. I told him

(05:11):
he didn't have to apologize, gave him a kiss and
told him to rest.

Speaker 4 (05:15):
Then.

Speaker 3 (05:16):
Yeah, while I was going to my car. I saw
Ruby again and she looked pissed. Ruby, stop butting your
head into where it doesn't belong. It seems like, again,
there's more to the story, but it seems like Ruby's
jealous of the relation.

Speaker 4 (05:33):
I think maybe Ruby wants to the boyfriend.

Speaker 3 (05:36):
I think so, And I think she's trying to kind
of push Ope away. Yeah, and she's like, oh, I'm
taking care of him. You're being overbear.

Speaker 4 (05:44):
I know more than you do.

Speaker 3 (05:46):
He's rubbing his face.

Speaker 2 (05:48):
Yeah, he's my.

Speaker 3 (05:52):
Friends.

Speaker 4 (05:52):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (05:53):
Later I got a text from her that basically said
something like, what is your problem? Really? He has a
few days to see his family and you can't even
let him rest for these days. Even though you're his girlfriend.
You don't have to follow him around. What did you
even say to him? Though? After you left, he texted
me and he was worried as you probably threw a
stupid tantrum and now he thinks he made a mistake

(06:14):
and you're angry at him, Like, seriously, why do you
always have to be so dramatic? I respected you since
you made him smile, but dang, you act so manipulative.
That's why he didn't want to tell you he was
sick because you have to make everything so dramatic. He's
an awesome person and honestly, if you want to act
like a pathetic be then it's better you leave us alone.

Speaker 4 (06:36):
WHOA where is his coming out? Ruby?

Speaker 3 (06:39):
I was honestly so shocked when I read all this.
I didn't know what to say, so I didn't reply
to her. I didn't know that she felt that way.
I am honestly so heartbroken. Yes, I am a bit
of an emotional person and cry easily, but I didn't
want my boyfriend to walk on eggshells because of it.
I didn't know he was so bothered by all of it.
I haven't said anything to him as I seriously, you

(07:00):
don't know what to say. He's sick and I don't
want to stress him out. I didn't follow him around,
I didn't throw tantrums. I simply apologized for making him
feel burden and asked him to rest. But you know
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profile and there is a little bit left to this story.

(07:22):
But what are your thoughts? What does OP do here?

Speaker 4 (07:24):
I think one OP needs to kind of tell her
boyfriend about Ruby.

Speaker 3 (07:30):
Absolutely, and you have the text.

Speaker 2 (07:32):
You have, you have, you have the facts, you have
the receipts.

Speaker 3 (07:36):
Yeah, I think you immediately maybe give your boyfriend like
a day to rest because it seems like he has
a few or something. But then once he's feeling a
little better, you talk to him, You say, hey, I
got this text from your friend. I felt like it
was a little bit inappropriate. I was just trying to
express that, you know, I wish you didn't have to
keep that like you were sick, hitting.

Speaker 4 (07:54):
Wish I wish you could, you know, you could tell
me things.

Speaker 5 (07:57):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (07:57):
I wasn't no mad at you, Yeah, disappointed, right, Yeah,
because Ruby, it's so weird. I think I don't think
I've ever texted one of my friend's partners to like
attack them for something. I don't really know if.

Speaker 4 (08:14):
That's Yeah, you would probably just I feel like Ruby
would like, Oh, I feel like maybe it is the
boyfriend like a pushover.

Speaker 3 (08:21):
You think maybe I don't know, maybe you just know
that she's doing We.

Speaker 4 (08:25):
Don't know, because like, yeah, maybe he doesn't know, or
maybe Ruby's like, you know, pounding on him where it's
like she stopped talking to her like why are you
let her take control over your life? Yeah?

Speaker 3 (08:34):
Maybe she was the one who said don't tell her
that you're sick or something.

Speaker 4 (08:37):
Yeah, maybe she's manipulating everything. I feel like what op
he needs to do for sure is definitely talk to
her boyfriend and be like, is this how you actually
feel about me? Or like, what's going on?

Speaker 3 (08:46):
Because that's another conversation. If you're actually upset and you're
actually you know, didn't like the way that I reacted,
then that's a conversation we need to have. But if
this is just Ruby being Ruby, yeah, then that's you know, yeah,
you know, set boundaries with her. Are you for such
a long post? But I don't know how to feel
right now. I don't know if I should talk to
my boyfriend about it or not. My boyfriend is an introvert,

(09:07):
so he does not have a lot of close friends.

Speaker 4 (09:09):
Okay, so and that makes a lot more sense that
that's why.

Speaker 3 (09:11):
He's very attached to it and probably kind of dependent
on or just like values her opinion very highly.

Speaker 4 (09:17):
Yeah, if she's one of his and he doesn't speak up, yeah, yeah,
he's like, I'll just I'll just be quiet. Yeah, I'll
just stay. I'll just do whatever what everybody else wants.

Speaker 3 (09:27):
I think when you have when you don't have a
huge friend circle, there is kind of this uh feeling
that you have to kind of, I don't know, like
appease that to.

Speaker 4 (09:36):
Take the best option you have. Yeah, and in this case,
the only option, which seems like it's going to be
put with a lot of stuff.

Speaker 3 (09:42):
Yeah, you're like that, you don't have to do that
because there will be people who will love you and
respect you and stuff.

Speaker 5 (09:47):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (09:47):
And if you putting up boundaries with your friends makes
them not want to be your friend, then they weren't
right for you.

Speaker 4 (09:52):
They're not your friend.

Speaker 3 (09:53):
Yeah, They're so close, and I don't want him to
lose a friendship. I also fear that if I say
something to my boyfriend will probably get more heard about
it and might start lying more just to make me happy.
I am also so scared of the fact that his
friends might think I am controlling and trying to isolate him.
As technically, Ruby was just concerned for my boyfriend and
might have had an overreaction. She's way overreacting, and that

(10:16):
is the end of that story. My advice stands talk
to Ruby I'm sorry.

Speaker 4 (10:20):
Talk to talk to your boyfriend about Ruby, and talk
to your boyfriend. It seems like, again, to have a
healthy relationship, you can't be always goody goody.

Speaker 3 (10:29):
It seems like you guys are a little bit trying
to like people please a little bit. Because even in
that interaction where he was saying, you know, I'm sorry,
it was like I'm sorry, and the boy was like, no,
I'm sorry. Now we're no, you don't have to be sorry.

Speaker 4 (10:39):
Now we're both sorry, and nothing got resolved. It's just
like now he's sick and you're there, and everyone's kind of.

Speaker 2 (10:47):
A little frustrated. Everyone's sorry, sorry, But that is.

Speaker 3 (10:50):
The end of that story.

Speaker 4 (10:52):
My husband's friends are toxic. I refuse to let them
meet my baby.

Speaker 3 (10:57):
Don't let them meet your baby, babe.

Speaker 4 (11:01):
I twenty two female and my husband thirty male, had
been together for over a year.

Speaker 3 (11:06):
I'm already understanding why why they might be toxic if
he is.

Speaker 4 (11:12):
That big, this is this is Yeah. We have our
first baby four months ago.

Speaker 3 (11:17):
So like six months into the relationship.

Speaker 4 (11:18):
Six month Yeah, that's like, wait, six months into the relationship.
Be of your baby?

Speaker 2 (11:21):
Okay.

Speaker 4 (11:22):
She was a surprise and a happy one at that,
even though we weren't trying and had only been together
six months when we found out about her, she was
the best thing to happen to the both of us.

Speaker 3 (11:31):
Okay, yeah, they're they're doing it.

Speaker 4 (11:32):
Okay's great, great great. By the way, this comes from
user Miserable underscore back underscore eighty six sixty three on
the r slash Okay story time subred. One year ago,
when we were still just dating, my husband took me
to North Carolina to meet his longtime friend group. He
has known them for just about eight years now. It
was really important for them to like me because they

(11:53):
are like family to him. When I met them, everything
seemed to be going well, but as our trip progressed,
they became more and more I guess critical is the word.
They told my husband that they thought I was bad
for him and that he should not be with me
because I would end up getting pregnant, trapping him and
making his life miserable.

Speaker 3 (12:13):
But isn't she already pregnant?

Speaker 4 (12:15):
Yeah?

Speaker 2 (12:15):
Did they not know?

Speaker 4 (12:16):
Do they not know?

Speaker 3 (12:17):
Maybe they don't know.

Speaker 4 (12:18):
I felt some kind of way about this, of course,
but mostly because they only had known me for a
day at this point. Just one day review and you're like, Nah,
she's not the one I'd keep.

Speaker 3 (12:27):
The even if I didn't like them after I don't know,
I wouldn't. I wouldn't tell my friends that I didn't
like their partner, especially after a day.

Speaker 2 (12:35):
Yeah. Yeah.

Speaker 4 (12:37):
Also, I'm black and my husband and his friends are white.
They are all in their mid thirties. My husband defended
me and reassured them that I was not the kind
of person that would purposely get pregnant to trap him.
But in the end they basically told him he's digging
his own grave. This guy's suck eight years down the drain. Yeah,

(12:58):
it's worth mentioning that at the time of the trip,
I was already pregnant, but we didn't know yet. They
made more comments about me and called me mean and
controlling and said that I was taking him away from
them and that I was the reason he wouldn't move back.

Speaker 2 (13:13):
To live with them.

Speaker 4 (13:14):
They also said I hated them because I didn't want
to take a picture with them. I have body dysmorphia
and hate seeing myself in pictures, and my husband knew
this at the time, and so that I didn't have
to if I didn't want to but they then called
me mean and controlling to my face, so I took
a picture. Anyway, Mind you, these people are like mid

(13:35):
thirties and I was twenty at the time. This is
really strange, like so.

Speaker 3 (13:40):
Many power dynamics going on right now. There's like, it's
like these thirty year old bullying a twenty two year old.

Speaker 4 (13:46):
Where's how is your husband?

Speaker 3 (13:48):
Yeah? Is he standing up for you?

Speaker 4 (13:50):
The main issue now is that next week we are
going back to North Carolina to introduce the baby to
his brother who also lives there with the rest of
the friend group.

Speaker 2 (14:00):
I'm nervous because they.

Speaker 3 (14:02):
Are they are what they mean confirmed.

Speaker 4 (14:06):
I'm a little bit worried about how they'll act with
my baby, and also basically everything they told my husband
not to do with me he did. Anyway. I feel
like Opie is just like calling, like all right, all
this stuff is happening.

Speaker 2 (14:21):
Yeah, let's double down.

Speaker 3 (14:23):
Yeah, you definitely need to have a conversation with your
husband because he needs to stand up for you way
more than he is.

Speaker 4 (14:30):
My husband has defended me and even went low contact
with them during the pregnancy because they were being very
mean and unsupportive of my husband. Husband's decision to stay
with me. I heard from one of his other friends
that live in the same state of US as US
that his friend group was trying to get my husband
to abandon me and the baby and just pay child support.

(14:53):
I feel really uncomfortable with going to see them, but
my husband has known that group of people four years,
and I feel like a jerk if I told him
not to contact them anymore. So I'm I the a
hole and is there an update? PS. One of the
couples in the group was really mean to me. I
feel like all of them were really mean to you
because she has been trying to have a baby for

(15:14):
years but was unsuccessful. She cried to my husband on
the phone for an hour about it and basically called
me a bunch of terrible names.

Speaker 2 (15:22):
What why why?

Speaker 3 (15:23):
Because you're jealous that they're having a baby you did not.

Speaker 4 (15:27):
It's like everything I do, I breathe there they hate me.
I smile, they hate me. I can't do any like
it's like, oh, you can't get anything.

Speaker 3 (15:34):
No, you're not for well, like one, you're not the
for not wanting them to see them anymore because he
shouldn't be Like obviously, it looks to lose friends that
you've had for eight years. But if they're if you
want to have a life with this, you know, with
op or if Opie's husband wants to have a life
with her, then he has to make some sacrifices and
he has to stand up.

Speaker 4 (15:55):
For the fact that he's also defended her. And he
is still like no.

Speaker 3 (15:59):
Ye, Like it's like, why would you want to be
friends the fact.

Speaker 4 (16:02):
That they said, abandon her and just pay child support.

Speaker 3 (16:05):
I mean, like, I'm cutting you off now, I'm going
to see you.

Speaker 4 (16:08):
Do you do you hear the words coming out of
your mouth? Do you know how terrible you sound?

Speaker 3 (16:11):
Yeah?

Speaker 4 (16:12):
And I feel like they just don't care, and it's
just this is terrible, and I'm.

Speaker 3 (16:16):
Like a smile. I mean, like on yeah, I think
he should cut off his friends. But then on another level,
I think also OPI just oh, he doesn't have to
see them, OPI has no.

Speaker 2 (16:25):
Yeah, he can go.

Speaker 3 (16:27):
That's another problem.

Speaker 4 (16:28):
You're comfortable letting him go visit his friends and he's
still gonna get berated. Yeah, but he's if he's comfortable
with that. And if you're comfortable with that, great, But
you are not very able. You are not the a hole.
This is This is terrible, and I feel bad for
the husband too, because she's getting the brunt of it,
but he must be getting probably double down.

Speaker 3 (16:48):
Yeah, which I'm like, why do you want to be
friends with these people? I don't know, just treat you
and your partners terribly.

Speaker 4 (16:54):
Edit to D I'm gonna answer some questions. I see
a lot of comments here. I edited this post because
they have read it and this isn't a throwaway one.
The friend group consists of nine people, most of them
are couples. When he was twenty, he moved in with
three of them. Three of these people to escape the
abusive relationship he had with his mother. He has known

(17:17):
them ever since and has worked jobs along with the others.

Speaker 3 (17:20):
It's probably a little trauma bonded with some of them.

Speaker 4 (17:23):
Two, the person who complained about me being pregnant to
him because she herself had wanted to be pregnant, is
basically like his sister. They've known each other for a
long time. He has seen Slash supported her and her
husband through their journey with infertility. He didn't want to
cut her off completely, but did tell her that he
wouldn't be contacting her while I was pregnant, because she

(17:46):
was basically telling him that I didn't deserve to be
pregnant and I did nothing to deserve to be a mom.
Oh my god, there's like mean comments, and then there's
just like.

Speaker 2 (17:56):
It's like why why are you saying that?

Speaker 3 (17:59):
It's oh these people, these people.

Speaker 4 (18:02):
She did later come back and apologized after my pregnancy
was over, saying that she was ready to be an
auntie to our baby. She asked me to yeah, no,
she asked me to give her another chance because she
has been struggling with infertility for about five years now
and has said, and he said, it's very a very
sensitive topic to her. Number three, my husband's brother can't

(18:23):
come to visit us because he is completely financially supporting
his disabled girlfriend currently and he doesn't have the funds
to rent a car and come down and visit. Number four.
My husband used to live in North Carolina, but moved
down here to be with his dad because his dad
recently had to file for a disability and can't drive.
So my husband moved down here a little over two

(18:45):
years ago so he could drive pickup groceries and medication,
or so he can drive pick up groceries. And medication
for his father. He ended up meeting me at work
and we were set up together by one of his
friends that live here. Seems like that's a good friend.

Speaker 2 (19:01):
Yeah, it seems like that's a first friend. Number five.

Speaker 4 (19:05):
I don't think I did anything on the trip to
make them hate me. I don't think you did either.

Speaker 3 (19:09):
It doesn't sound like it.

Speaker 2 (19:10):
No.

Speaker 4 (19:11):
I didn't talk much after we were introduced because they
were mostly reminiscing about past memories since it had been
a whole year since they had all seen each other.

Speaker 3 (19:20):
So it was like, Ah, it's so good to see you.

Speaker 2 (19:23):
Op you Yeah, Oh.

Speaker 3 (19:25):
My god, remember that time we were swimming in the lake.

Speaker 2 (19:28):
Oh, p, you don't deserve to have a baby. Was
that the cheese?

Speaker 4 (19:32):
Like?

Speaker 2 (19:32):
Who is she back?

Speaker 4 (19:34):
But speaking of seeing each other every day, you can
join us live on YouTube every weekday at three pm PSD.
Just tap our profile. Just tap it.

Speaker 3 (19:44):
But before we get into the last bit of that story,
let's let's chat about this. Let's has your advice changed.

Speaker 4 (19:51):
No, my advice is still the same. Just get away
from that. It talks to the environment for not now now,
it's not just for yourself, yep.

Speaker 2 (19:58):
For your baby chield.

Speaker 4 (20:00):
Yeah, and get your husband out of there. I know
he has a lot of traumatic ties and that's understandable,
but it's not.

Speaker 3 (20:07):
Worth putting your child in kind of that negative environment,
especially especially when you have a baby who is not
white around. I mean you confirmed, well, yeah, you don't
want to have that child like having to hear the
stuff that they're saying to you.

Speaker 4 (20:24):
No, and grew up with that environment, yeah, is the
last thing you want. They don't contact me or text
me or harass me. I have absolutely zero text messages
between me and anyone in that friend group. So it's
not like I did anything outside of the trip to
make them dislike me. If I was a little bit
snappy on the trip, it's because I was pregnant and
also feeling really sick, and also you're kind of just

(20:47):
like trying to be on your best behavior, make a
great impression, and it's just so much going.

Speaker 3 (20:51):
I think even if you were snappy, they shouldn't have
sett all that stuff to your face, no or behind
your back, behind your back, none of it, None of
it should have been said.

Speaker 4 (21:01):
And here's the last one. Number six. My husband did
offer to go no contact with them if I wanted to. However,
I feel like making him do that because these are
his friends that have helped him through his abusive relationship
with his mother and they basically gave him a home.

Speaker 3 (21:17):
No, if he's offering, you can take that offer. You
are not for asking him to do that.

Speaker 4 (21:23):
This is yeah, no, no, no, you It's good that
he offered, great that he offered. Talked to him, but
also just whatever your child needs, you know best for
your child. And I feel like you guys have talked
about it.

Speaker 5 (21:34):
Yeah.

Speaker 4 (21:34):
That the fact that he's like willing.

Speaker 3 (21:36):
To go no contact already. Yeah, but that is the
end of that story. My sister shared explicit photos of
me in front of our family.

Speaker 2 (21:46):
Ah, very cool, sister.

Speaker 3 (21:49):
This past weekend was my wedding, and it was technically
my second proper wedding because my husband and I eloped
and got married in Vegas, so this was an event
more for the family than for us. By the way,
this comes from fun Alternative ninety eight eight on the
r Slashokay story Times Separate It. So my sister was
made of honor and she showed a PowerPoint presentation slash

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pick montage during the reception. But I thought it was
gonna be just cute photos and videos of me and
my husband. We've been friends since the first grade, so
there's a lot of material. But instead, my sister was like,
for all of you who don't know, this is my
sister and my husband's names second wedding. Let's see how
the first one went.

Speaker 5 (22:32):
Oh. That was my exact theory was, it's like, this
is gonna be a story of the sister being like,
thanks for taking me to your first wedding. Let's show
everyone how that one went. And here's the thing. We
got married in Vegas.

Speaker 3 (22:45):
Crab got a little weird, and we took a million
pictures and videos and many of them look super inappropriate
out of context and in context.

Speaker 2 (22:55):
Sometimes something's just inappropriate.

Speaker 3 (22:56):
Time something's yeah, you don't need any extra context. Like
we had no bachelor or bachelorette party. So the night
before the wedding, we went to a spicy club with
female spicy dancers and to one with male spicy dancers
as a gag. So there was a pick of me
glaring fake angry at my husband looking at some big
old dese tig oldies and one of my husband doing

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the same while I'm looking at a dude doing the
helicopter with his chunk. There was a pick of us
eating dominoes in a hotel room only in our underwear.
There was a pick of us doing an impromptu schmechsy
cowboy slash cowgirl photo shoot near the Grand Canyon. It's
an inside joke too long to explain. There was a
pick of me at a hotel pool wearing a seriously

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minuscule bikini that may as well be invisible and virtually
my whole butt hanging out with my husband doing the
Will Smith meme. There was a pick of my husband
not wearing clothes, playing the guitar with only the guitar
covering his junk, and me fake singing next to him
wearing only long T shirt. There was even a pick
that had nothing to do with the wedding, of us

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in costume as Cyclops and Emma Frost for a Halloween party.
So it obviously looks like I'm wearing lingerie, which I
was half, and my husband's package in the tight suit
is super noticeable. The presentation finished with an admittedly very
nice montage of pictures and videos of me and my
husband in school and high school, et cetera. Juxtaposed with

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more recent and appropriate pictures, and it was genuinely very
moving and everyone loved that part. But I was seriously
dying of embarrassment about the other picks. I mean, my
grandma was there too, and most and both of my
husband's grandparents too, and a bunch of people who were
technically but not really close to our friends thought it
was hilarious. Though. Am I overreacting for thinking my sister

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crossed the line by including those pictures which I shared
only with her in confidence.

Speaker 5 (24:54):
I think your sister was clearly like not happy about
being on the outside of your Vegas trip?

Speaker 3 (25:00):
Was she not that? Did we have confirmation that she was?

Speaker 5 (25:02):
Obviously it was an elope. So they just kind of
ran off to Vegas and had the time of their lives.
And it sounds like it was cool. Yeah, it sounds
like you had a great time. Yeah, but maybe the
sister could have had a little more tact.

Speaker 2 (25:17):
Yeah in which photo?

Speaker 5 (25:18):
You know?

Speaker 3 (25:18):
Maybe?

Speaker 5 (25:19):
Just like you know rule of three, right, you pick
three funny photos from the Vegas wedding to show hah, Yeah,
don't none where everyone's naked.

Speaker 3 (25:29):
They have to be clothed in it.

Speaker 2 (25:31):
No helicopter ding dongs.

Speaker 3 (25:34):
I think there's a chance that she genuinely thought it
was just like funny and lighthearted. But I think that
she just wasn't thinking about who was going to be
at that wedding.

Speaker 5 (25:43):
Yeah, but I don't think you're You know what happens
in Vegas, right, it stays in Vegas.

Speaker 3 (25:50):
Come to the wedding. Lucky Effective fifteen sixty four says,
thank you, sis for all your hard work in making
the presentation. It only goes to prove what an utterly
sid thoughtless person you are.

Speaker 2 (26:05):
Ohp he says.

Speaker 3 (26:05):
I said to her something to that effect, and she
started crying and called me ungrateful. The part that kills
me is that the second part of the presentation, the
one that didn't include the Vegas picts, was the best
thing ever. Like she somehow found a previously unearthed home
video of my husband and I when we were like
eight years old, saying we were going to marry each
other when we grew up. What And that made me

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so emotional I felt like I was going to faint.

Speaker 2 (26:29):
Yeah, this, you guys suck.

Speaker 5 (26:31):
This feels like a like a genuine just like miscommunication, yeah,
or just like a honest mistake.

Speaker 2 (26:38):
Where she was like, she thought this was gonna be funny, and.

Speaker 5 (26:40):
She's like, I didn't want grandma to see any of
those pictures, but also, I love you so much.

Speaker 3 (26:46):
That was so nice. No, it really is a juxtapositions
like that was the sweetest thing ever and also maybe
a little bit inappropriate.

Speaker 2 (26:52):
Yeah, and then you learned the lesson.

Speaker 3 (26:54):
Yeah, and then at the third wedding, you don't do that.
If she'd stuck to that, it would have been absolutely perfect.
And op when called prude, Opie says, I mean, I
don't think I'm a prude just because I don't want
my grandma and random family members to look at pictures
of me looking at helicoptering, or me at my husband
in our underwear or semi naked, or my hanging out.

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I suppose some people in the audience thought it was fun,
but some probably found it scandalous. I don't think my
sister did it to embarrass me at all. I think
she just wasn't thinking. And there is an.

Speaker 2 (27:27):
Update, Oh, she was thinking. She was thinking, this so funny,
everyone's gonna love this.

Speaker 3 (27:34):
I don't know what that commentary like, what type of
relationship that commentary has with their family for them to
call OPI.

Speaker 2 (27:41):
A prude for not one so prude.

Speaker 3 (27:43):
It's Tanya Gonzalez says the sister did not ask for
permission to use the photos, so it's the sister's fault. Yeah,
that's that's none, non debatable.

Speaker 2 (27:53):
I think she was trying to make it a surprise though.

Speaker 5 (27:55):
That's the thing is, so it's you couldn't really get
permission because she was doing it because I intermedd Yeah,
she's just hey, sometimes you swing and you miss, you know.

Speaker 4 (28:05):
I don't understand why the sister has all the photo
because it'll be sent, I know, but like, why would
you send all the photos? Like what are some of
the scandalous funny stuff? Again, like I said, Vegas should
just stay and but you.

Speaker 3 (28:20):
Know it's not gonna stay in Vegas. This next update,
I'm going to give this little update forclosure sake and
then put this whole thing behind me. First off, I
was taken aback by the amount of comments that said
my sister clearly did this to humiliate me, most likely
out of jealousy, jealousy of what my husband. She's gay
and has been in a loving relationship for ages. My wedding,

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my mom has even offered to pay for her wedding
a million times, and my sister has always declined she
doesn't want one. My trip to Las Vegas, my sister
had wilder nights every other weekend back in the day. No,
I don't think this was done maliciously. She was just
a moron. So the fallout of the pictures, my mom
and aunt blew up at my sister about them, telling

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her that some family members lowke He commented that they
were pretty trashy. My husband assures me that on his
family side, everyone thought it was hilarious and they're all
chill about it. Only one of my elderly aunts approached
me and, referring to the photo where my husband's package
looks sizable in the Cyclops costume, whispered congratulations and walked

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away with a wink and a smile. So that was
wild and unabsessment, but nice. At least someone on my
side of the family can see the bright side. Anyway,
my sister got furious at me and my mom and
called this unbelievably ungrateful and says this is the last
time she does anything for either of us, and right
now she isn't talking to any one of us, and

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I don't feel like talking to her either. Things are
tense with my mom too, because she's kind of blaming me,
saying things like, what were you thinking? Why would you
take those kinds of pictures? I'm not here for the bs,
so I'm kind of muting her too. For the moment,
out of curiosity, I call my sister's partner, let's call
her Rose, who helped her edit the presentation, and asked,
what was my sister thinking including those picks? She said

(30:08):
they cleared it with my husband in advance. I told
him and he was like, what, No, now they're lying liars, Yeah,
says my sister asked him if they could add some
of the Vegas picks to the presentation, but he assumed
they were the non weird, non inappropriate ones, like the
ones of us at the strip, at the gondola thing,

(30:30):
et cetera. Why would he even assume she meant the
inappropriate pictures. She's going to try to claim some misunderstanding
or something, but I don't buy it. I guess like
slight misunderstanding, but I definitely think if I was specifically
talking about the inappropriate pictures, I would have been like,
are these pictures okay to.

Speaker 2 (30:48):
Use, Yeah, but I buy misunderstanding.

Speaker 5 (30:52):
But at the same time, it's like she definitely did
the thing where it was like she was making sure
she didn't get any resistance, being like, yeah, I'm just
gonna use some photos from Vegas.

Speaker 2 (31:02):
That's fine, right, and he was like, yeah, sure.

Speaker 3 (31:06):
By the way, you can join us live every week
to at three PMPSD. Just tap our profile. I know
I'm going to forget my sister eventually, and my mom
will do that too. The portion with the other picks
and videos, and especially the video of eight year old
us seriously moved us so deeply that it's winning the
battle against the full body cringe. I'm still experiencing from

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the picks. I'm going on my honeymoon this weekend and
hoping everything will be back to normal by the time
I come back. I hope you have a crazy honeymoon.
And there are some relevant comments to finish this story off,
But what are your final closing thoughts.

Speaker 5 (31:43):
I think you should just like hang out with your cool,
fun sister more often. Yeah, and she'll probably make your
marriage more fun too.

Speaker 3 (31:50):
I think so too. I think you guys are you're
gonna have some wild times.

Speaker 5 (31:53):
Yeah, hang out with your super cool gay sister who
clearly has wild times that are so wild.

Speaker 2 (31:59):
She didn't even think that your Vegas photos were a
big deal.

Speaker 3 (32:01):
These are so lame.

Speaker 5 (32:03):
Yeah, she's like, I have way cooler. She's like eye parties.

Speaker 3 (32:07):
I was literally walking outside naked, and you're complaining about
a picture where you can't even see anything.

Speaker 2 (32:12):
Yeah, I mean there was a guitar. The there was
literally a guitar.

Speaker 4 (32:16):
You were clothes guys. The helicopter like it was just.

Speaker 2 (32:20):
A photo not a video.

Speaker 3 (32:24):
Actually, I don't, you know, I don't fully understand the
concept of that picture, and I don't think I want.

Speaker 2 (32:29):
To, Well a helicopter's like.

Speaker 3 (32:32):
I don't. Actually I don't need to. I don't need
to visualize it. I don't. We don't need to go
into it.

Speaker 2 (32:37):
Yeah, they need to bring the mom to Vegas.

Speaker 3 (32:39):
Yeah, let the mom have some fun.

Speaker 5 (32:41):
Yeah, but my grandma bringing the grandma who was like
a congratulations, she actually she does.

Speaker 2 (32:47):
She doesn't need to go back to John here. We're
gonna get back to this juicy story. But a quick
three minute break of ads from our sponsors.

Speaker 5 (32:54):
I altered my wedding dress and my sister is fury
that she wanted I think she did. I need an
unbiased opinion on this because I don't know if I
was the a hole. I throw away because I am
active in other communities and I don't want this to mix.
By the way, this comes from user am I the
a wedding dress see you on the r slash okay

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storytime sub reddit. So so, I was supposed to get
married two months ago to my ex partner of five years. Sadly,
we broke it off because he cheated on me at
his bachelor party with buyse dancer. I had this absolutely
beautiful dress that cost me around two thousand dollars out

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of my pocket. I had been very depressed since everything
happened because I felt it was somehow my fault for
not being sexy enough or not giving him what he wanted.

Speaker 3 (33:48):
You were too sexy that he couldn't handle it.

Speaker 5 (33:50):
Yeah, you know that song too sexy It's really about you,
yep pie. So last weekend I decided to take my
power back and I began altering the dress. I have
been sewing for fifteen plus years, so I know what
I'm doing. I cut it a bit, changed the color
to something less wedding y and after a week of work,
I had a beautiful gown that I could use for

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more stuff.

Speaker 2 (34:13):
Now the problem, the problem comes now.

Speaker 5 (34:16):
I uploaded that picture of the dress to Instagram with
a caption that said something along the lines of you
can change the worst memories.

Speaker 2 (34:23):
Or some crap like that.

Speaker 5 (34:25):
My sister hits me up and asks me if that
was my old wedding dress, and I told her yes.

Speaker 2 (34:30):
She then called me and asked me why I had
done this.

Speaker 5 (34:34):
I asked her why it was such a big deal,
and she told me that I could have waited until
after her wedding.

Speaker 2 (34:40):
I was so confused.

Speaker 5 (34:41):
Then she reminded me that when we were staying at
the hotel where my wedding was supposed to happen, my
mom and sister were there cheering me up, and my
sister says something along the lines of, oh, well, if
you're not using it, I will, and we all laughed.
So I thought it was a joke because it was
never brought up again after. She just to ask me
once what material it was, so I assumed she wanted

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something similar. Now my sister is mad at me, and
my mom says she understands both of our point of views,
but that I could have waited five more months until
after her wedding to quote, take my power back.

Speaker 3 (35:16):
You just put postpone taking your power back. You don't
need it right now.

Speaker 2 (35:21):
What do you need all that power for? Are you
trying to save the city? I don't Spider Man a
week from New York?

Speaker 4 (35:31):
What's going on? I'm talking about New York?

Speaker 2 (35:34):
What's going on? You defeat a villain? Your sister was
going to use that dress with great dress.

Speaker 3 (35:41):
Call your sister's responsibility.

Speaker 2 (35:43):
She can't afford a two thousand dollars dress. She can't,
so you need to give her your power for free?

Speaker 4 (35:48):
Uh?

Speaker 2 (35:48):
Are you the a hole?

Speaker 5 (35:50):
And we do have an edit no and an update
beneath it, but I'm going to say no, no.

Speaker 2 (35:57):
Did she spends two thousand dollars on the dress?

Speaker 3 (35:59):
Exactly? Unless she specifically said, Hey, I would love to
buy that dress from you or love to rent it
from you for my wedding. Can we talk about that?
And you had an actual, full on conversation about it.
Not your fault and she should have been more clear.

Speaker 5 (36:13):
Yeah, any any conversation that ends in like a laugh
where She's like, I mean, if you're.

Speaker 2 (36:17):
Not going to use it, I totally will and everyone's
just like.

Speaker 5 (36:21):
And then moves one that is not set on that is,
that is not a buttoned up issue, like, we're done here.

Speaker 2 (36:28):
Okay, so that's my wedding dress.

Speaker 5 (36:30):
Then in five months great exactly, they thought it was
such a great idea.

Speaker 2 (36:33):
They laughed about it.

Speaker 3 (36:35):
Yeah, no, I don't buy it. I don't buy it.
So I'm you're not the ahole. But let me let
me know what you guys think in the chat.

Speaker 5 (36:42):
Yeah, if anything, they're the a hole for not like
supporting you harder.

Speaker 3 (36:46):
Exactly. Why are they persisting that you you delay your power?

Speaker 2 (36:50):
Yeah?

Speaker 5 (36:51):
It's my power and I need right now. Okay, let's
get into this edit edit. What the f is wrong
with some of you?

Speaker 2 (36:59):
Suddenly?

Speaker 5 (37:00):
Hi, the a hole for leaving my ex for cheating
on me because it doesn't count because it.

Speaker 2 (37:04):
Was his bachelor party.

Speaker 3 (37:05):
What is wrong with you? Whoa?

Speaker 5 (37:08):
Do you understand how relationships were? Are you also going
to tell me that if he cheated on a Saturday
count Saturdays for the boys.

Speaker 2 (37:17):
Saturday is for the boys. So if you if.

Speaker 5 (37:20):
You cheat on your wife, if you cheat on your
wife with your boys on a Saturday. It doesn't count.
That's what we've established. Yeah, or if he left the country.
This is hilarious coming from a sub that says cheaters
are the worst people in the world. Cheating is cheating, period.
And now we're onto the update. Am I the ahofa
cutting up and altering my wedding dress into a functional
dress instead of giving it to my sister who can't

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afford it.

Speaker 3 (37:43):
You almost went kind of like South Park impression there.

Speaker 2 (37:47):
Said, I sounded like Eric Cartman. You did a little bit.

Speaker 5 (37:49):
Yeah, okay, okay, I don't like that.

Speaker 3 (37:53):
That wasn't a right.

Speaker 2 (37:55):
Five months update.

Speaker 5 (37:56):
I posted approximately five months ago about my sister being
mad at me for not giving her what was supposed
to be my wedding dress. So, after being assured that
I did nothing wrong, I decided to try to talk
it out with my sister. So I tried calling her,
but she had blocked my numbers. Drama Yo, Yeah, your
sister's wedding is going to be like crazy dramatic too.

Speaker 2 (38:18):
I would try to crash that.

Speaker 3 (38:19):
Lex Bly says, wait, so she asked for the dress
while comforting her sister right after she was cheated on yes, yes,
and then took that as legally binding.

Speaker 4 (38:29):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (38:29):
She was like this is now written in stone.

Speaker 3 (38:32):
Like take your dress, and just like that's funny, and
then they didn't talk about it.

Speaker 2 (38:38):
Thanks for the jokess. I needed that one.

Speaker 5 (38:41):
I was very confused about being blocked and talked to
my mother. She was trying to still stay out of it,
and I got a little mad and said that it
was not fair that my sister was not right because
she never formally asked me and how I was supposed
to just guess that she wanted it. She tried to
justify but it and the end also accepted that my

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sister is wrong. Nonetheless, she told me to just give
her space and that she would just come to terms
with it herself. I waited a few days until I
met her at the supermarket. At first, she tried to
act like she didn't see me, but I planted myself
in front of her. She was just rolling her eyes,
saying she had places to be, and I just said,
you know, I hope you noticed how unfair you're treating me,

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and then I left her alone. That night, I received
a call where I was berated for being selfish for
about twenty minutes by my sister. I asked her if
she was done, and asked her if we could talk
it out like adults. She came over the next night
and we had an exhausting fight, screaming, crying, and after
all was said and done, she actually apologized for everything.

Speaker 2 (39:45):
That's just exactly how adults go. That's how it goes.

Speaker 3 (39:48):
Screaming, crying, rolling around on the floor, and then you apologize.

Speaker 5 (39:52):
Yeah, and the chapel roane plays and then everyone forgives
each other. She was actually kind of jealous of my
dress and of the wedding that I almost had, and
she was embarrassed that she couldn't afford everything that I could,
and that she felt like she failed as an adult
and as a mother.

Speaker 2 (40:08):
And I honestly get it. Wow.

Speaker 5 (40:09):
Oh, he's like, yeah, I get it. My sister is
a broke looser, broke child losser. Oh my god, just
like her sister telling her all the funniest dynamic.

Speaker 3 (40:20):
Yeah.

Speaker 5 (40:21):
Yeah, She's like, no, that's actually you're right. I would
also be embarrassed if I couldn't afford this.

Speaker 3 (40:28):
She's like, I may not have a husband, but at
least I have money.

Speaker 5 (40:31):
She clarifies, not because I think she is a failure,
but because I get how it feels if your brain
tells you you failed at life because you don't have
things that other people have. She apologized also because she
was trying to blame me for her problems, and that
everything was easier if she wasn't the one to blame.
We talked a lot more until recently. I told her

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that we didn't need a fancy dress and that we
could search for something basic and I could help her
decorate it with something. She agreed, and we actually did
get to customize a very basic gown.

Speaker 2 (41:03):
Yes, as we didn't have much time.

Speaker 5 (41:05):
It's not super fancy, and sadly, due to the outbreak
at the wedding or maybe just the timing which was
supposed to happen this month, was canceled. They had a
courthouse wedding where she wore one of my dresses and
she is celebrating in August.

Speaker 2 (41:20):
If it's possible this.

Speaker 3 (41:21):
Might have been during COVID.

Speaker 5 (41:23):
Oh yeah, maybe there was some sort of outbreak and
the wedding got canceled.

Speaker 2 (41:26):
COVID outbreak.

Speaker 5 (41:27):
But you know what's never canceled, you joining us live
on YouTube at three pm Pacific standard time.

Speaker 2 (41:34):
Just tap our profiling. Tap it, you're in it. You're
already right there. That's everything.

Speaker 5 (41:40):
So even if I was not an a hole and
my sister seemed like a brat, she was dealing with
some heavy feelings and I still love her. Thanks for
the judgment and the advice, and that is the end
of that figuring it out.

Speaker 3 (41:51):
I think everyone got their power back, and it's nice
that Op used her her sewing skills to make peace
with their sister.

Speaker 2 (42:00):
Yeah, she's like, you wanted my dress, don't worry.

Speaker 5 (42:02):
I'm gonna make you say yes toed. It was I'm
gonna make you a dress that you gotta say yes.

Speaker 3 (42:08):
To, make you a dress that you can't refuse.

Speaker 2 (42:11):
I'm gonna make him a dress that he can't refuse.
He's gonna be wearing that dress with the fishes.

Speaker 3 (42:18):
I got invited to a wedding as a pity date,
but then they kicked me out.

Speaker 2 (42:22):
Uh, what's a pity.

Speaker 3 (42:24):
I, thirty six female, was asked by my brother forty mail,
to do him a favor and go to a wedding
with his recently divorced best friend forty two Mail Ted
Ted's just out of the marriage and hasn't started dating yet,
but his sister was having her second wedding and he
didn't want to be the only groovesman going alone. By
the way, this comes from Temp Dump nine on the

(42:45):
ur Slashduky storytime Separateate it. So I've known Ted for
years and he's always seemed a decent enough dude when
I bumped into him at my brother's events, lacking plans
last Saturday, being a pity date to a wedding for
him seemed fine. I arrived on my own since he
was in the bridal party and the ceremony in the
art outdoor garden space was lovely. Upon entering the indoor

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reception space, Ted's name was on the seating chart at
the head table. My name was not on the chart anywhere,
not as me, not as Ted's plus one. It was
assigned seating in every chair at every table at a name.
I had not even spoken to Dead at this point,
as he was with the bridal party before the wedding

(43:26):
and taken off to do photos right after. One of
the event staff saw me at the seating chart for
way too long and asked if I needed help. I explained,
my issue, and she called the wedding planner. After about
twenty minutes of standing awkwardly in the lobby type area,
she came and informed me Ted did not have a
plus one for the wedding and they were at some

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kind of fire safety limit for the venue for the
seat to dinner and they could not accommodate me at
the event. She was polite but firm. I wanted to
die of embarrassment, apologize, and texted Ted that the wedding
plan said I had to leave because of occupancy limits
and my not being on the guest list. Then I
hopped in my car and headed home. About a half

(44:08):
hour later, he texted me back saying his sister was
being in a hole and had invited his ex as
his plus one and put her on the seating chart.
There was apparently drama and the X left. He wanted
me to come back and take her spot. It was
still cocktail time, so dinner hadn't even happened yet, and
he had an empty seat next to him at the

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head table. I was already home, changed out of my dress, makeup,
washed off, and looking at takeout menus. I texted him
back that I wasn't comfortable returning when I'd already been
kicked out and I was already home and not in
an invent appropriate state anymore. Anyway, he got very demanding
that I returned because he was embarrassed by not having

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a date and I'd promised to be there for him.
He got my brother in on it too and also
demanded I come back, and he's been guilting me ever
since for leaving his bff in the lurch, which I
think the brother has been gelting.

Speaker 2 (45:02):
Ope.

Speaker 3 (45:03):
Yeah, this has turned into a whole Facebook thing where
Ted's ex has been mocking him for his date running away,
and people are blaming me for ditching him when my
whole job was to be a pity date. Also that
I should have stayed until I talked to Ted himself
instead of texting him. I could have stayed in the
parking lot until he replied. I suppose, but it didn't

(45:24):
occur to me at the time. I also could have
gone back, but really I just didn't want to at
that point. Am I the a hole?

Speaker 2 (45:31):
And there is an update?

Speaker 3 (45:33):
But I think that, well, what do you think?

Speaker 5 (45:36):
I don't think you can really be an a hole
when it's like the entire context is like you're the
pity date. Yeah, you are a nothing date, meant only
for optics to play games between like other people that
you're not even involved in.

Speaker 3 (45:51):
Yeah, he's embarrassed to go solo to a wedding.

Speaker 2 (45:53):
I guess. But then because now his ex wife is
being like.

Speaker 5 (45:58):
Yeah, my ex husband was so late, like his own
date like ran away from him, which is a self
owned because you were married to that guy.

Speaker 2 (46:06):
Yeah, Like what is wrong with these people? I don't know.

Speaker 3 (46:09):
Also, the only thing I would I mean, it's I
was gonna say she should have texted him, which she did,
but I I'm just yeah, I'm wondering why they kicked
her out so quickly and no one like thought to
like double check with any.

Speaker 5 (46:25):
No accommodations, Yeah, no accommodations whatsoever. They were like, we can't,
we cannot let you sit here. If you sit here,
everyone will burst into flames. No, I wouldn't, as per
the fire code. Bless you God, bless No.

Speaker 3 (46:38):
I don't think it's any oh peace all because she
was kicked out, But I definitely think that more people
at that party, shit, like the wedding planner should have
double checked before, just like.

Speaker 2 (46:46):
Setting her home, where's the where's the groom? Where's the
bride from? Where? People in charge? Here?

Speaker 3 (46:54):
Candice horses I would have left and never went back either,
and Heleianna Bain says the bride did Ted dirty? And
now are Art Dutchess. Gonna says not the a hole?
How long was Opie supposed to stay in the car park?
It could have been hours, That's what I yeah, because
no one really thought to check up on Ope, and

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I think the only time that someone did check up
was was when Ted texted her, but she was already
home at that point, which kind of gives me the
idea that it would have been a while.

Speaker 2 (47:28):
I mean, you're a you're a pity date.

Speaker 5 (47:30):
No, it's like you're it's they told you, like, we
can't even let you be here. There's no plus one.
It's not what are you supposed to do? Like be
like I'll have you know. I'm a pity dated.

Speaker 3 (47:42):
I deserve to be here.

Speaker 2 (47:43):
I'm on a mission of positivity.

Speaker 3 (47:46):
But there is an update, so let's get into that
to clarify a couple of things. I knew I wasn't
going to see Ted until after the pictures they got
ready off site and did the arrival at the ceremony
thing and classic cars. I was pre he warned pictures
would be immediately after. Ted even suggested I only show
up at the reception and skip the ceremony because of this,

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but I thought that was rude. Plus I like weddings.
That's some of what got me into the mess, into
this mess in the first place. This is not to
defend Ted, just to explain the logistics drag him for
whatever he deserves, not what was agreed to in advance. Also,
the Facebook drama only started on Friday, which is what
prompted my post From the Facebook drama. My brother realized

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he got a warped version of the story from Ted.
He reached out last night and invited me to a
nice dinner his treat. Later this week. He apologized sincerely.
He also asked my permission to enter the Facebook fray
on my behalf better him than me. We're good. The
rest of the tea is from my brother. Ted Siss

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is the one who introduced Ted to his ex the
ex cheated ooh, and was caught by the affair partner's
wife who went full nuclear You're causing even oblivious Ted
to realize what was going on. Unsurprisingly, they've been having
trouble before this sis was attempting to get them back together,
as the ex never wanted the divorce. Glad I left

(49:13):
before the scheme hit ted in the face. But you
know what, We're gonna hit you in the face with
every week to at three pm pst US Live just
top our profile.

Speaker 5 (49:25):
Shout out to all the comments who also predicted that
that was what was going on. I saw some comments
that were being like, this is the why, like they're
trying to set the ax up.

Speaker 4 (49:34):
No.

Speaker 3 (49:34):
Absolutely, there's like I feel like they told the the
wedding planner to kick her out or something.

Speaker 2 (49:40):
That's why. Yeah, oh yeah, there's no plus one and
because the fire code, it's like we can't because there's
I don't know, I feel like what you tell someone
you just want to get rid of.

Speaker 3 (49:49):
Absolutely, I don't think you would you can kick someone
out who's at the wedding. But what I was gonna
say before we there is a little chunk left of
this story. But I am a little bit annoyed with
the brother because it's good that they made up, but
the fact that he immediately immediately kind of jumped on
her and was like, how dare you do that without

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you know, getting her side of the story.

Speaker 2 (50:11):
Yeah, not not cool. Gross.

Speaker 3 (50:13):
Yeah, but at least he at least he owned up
to it. I was trying to wing man from my brother.

Speaker 2 (50:18):
Yeah, you're messing up my wingman. I need you to
be goose.

Speaker 3 (50:22):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (50:22):
Right now you're like iceman because you're out nice top
gun reference buddy, thanks to Yeah, that's.

Speaker 3 (50:30):
What he is.

Speaker 4 (50:31):
Someone here doesn't watch I've seen Top Gun.

Speaker 2 (50:34):
Someone's never seen Peak cinema before.

Speaker 3 (50:36):
Kimberly Holly says Opi did her part by showing up.
They didn't let her in. Not Opie's fault exactly. Yeah,
I got also just weird that she was lett into
the ceremony and then not the reception.

Speaker 2 (50:48):
You're like, no, no, no, no, this is the pot where you disappear.
I gotta go.

Speaker 3 (50:52):
But there is a little bit more to the story. Finally,
there's no way Ted thought we were hooking up when
we first met. I was a freshman in high school
and he was my brother's big brother in his college fraternity.
It would just be weird. Even though time is passed,
we've never had any vibe of that sort. He knew
I was only a seat filler, and he didn't even
manage to get me a seat. But there are some

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relevant comments. Craig Hack says, So why didn't Ted realize
all of this from the beginning? Why didn't he text
you about it if you were there before the wedding?
Seems like he should have easily realized his ex was
there and questioned his sister not the a hole, but
your brother, Ted and his sister sure sound like they are,
And Opie responds, Ted has always been a bit oblivious
to the world around him beyond what he's actively engaged

(51:37):
in at that moment. Think the sort of guy who
asks when dinner is at barbecue, when it's being served
for the last hour and he's ten feet away from
the grill and a table full of ready to food.
He means well and was probably too busy playing with
the kids to notice.

Speaker 5 (51:51):
So that I want to just say that definitely is
something that Ted did. That specific of an example was like, yeah,
like when Ted was at the barbecue and we were serving
food for an hour and he kept asking.

Speaker 2 (52:02):
Where's the food? No, that happens, Go get your go,
get it yourself right.

Speaker 3 (52:06):
There, Ted, you don't have a waiter. Crag Haak says,
if it was so important for him that you should
be there, he should have made sure you were there anyway.
Biggest a hole is the sister. Don't understand how people
don't get mad at her for what she did, and
Hope says, it's very unclear to me what's up with
the sister. The ex could have been invited before the
divorce and nobody thought to update the list or tell

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her not to show. The sister and ex could have
been crap stirring together. I'm not close to this broader
social circle to have any real insight. I'd kind of
hope they all be too busy to doing drama with
each other to remember I existed at all. Sadly, no,
and that is the end of that story. I think
you just kind of have to distance yourself. You're not

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really Ted's friend. That's your's your brother's friend. And it's
weird that they're making this whole thing about like they're
dragging you into the Facebook drama.

Speaker 2 (52:56):
Yeah, it's it's Facebook drama. It'll pass. Oh, it'll pay you.
I'll find something new to do. Thinking about go be
someone else's pity date.

Speaker 5 (53:04):
Yeah, focus someone's real date instead of a pity date.

Speaker 4 (53:09):
Yeah, I'll be your date.

Speaker 2 (53:11):
You will, folks, and I won't pity you.

Speaker 4 (53:14):
No pity here, no pity.

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Speaker 3 (53:23):
My girlfriend shows her guy best friend over me, so
I want to break up with her?

Speaker 4 (53:28):
What are you doing?

Speaker 3 (53:29):
Seems like she may have already ended the relationship.

Speaker 2 (53:32):
Oh no, what did you do?

Speaker 3 (53:34):
Me and mine now ex have known each other for
ten years since high school. We got super close pretty quick.
I quickly found out she was super into me Back
in high school. She asked me out, but as I
was going through a lot of personal stuff, I told
her I couldn't date anyone right now. By the way,
this comes from minute drawing thirty eight seventy four on
the Hour slash Showcase Storytimes Separate It. So she wanted

(53:56):
to wait for me, but I told her not to
because I had no idea how long it would take
me to get better and didn't want to put burden
of that burden on her. A couple of months later,
she moved on but we remained friends. Fast forward almost
two years, things got better for me and I did
date a girl for three months before it ended. A
couple of weeks after my break I got a text

(54:18):
from her my recent ex, and she brings up the
idea of us dating again a couple of weeks after
the breakup. But two years, that's kind of weird.

Speaker 4 (54:27):
That's really weird, Like, oh, she saw an opportunity.

Speaker 3 (54:31):
I tell her that I need time to think because
I just got out of relationship. But I was open
to taking her out on a date. You know what,
Opie's really communicative, even in high school, was like, you
know what, I'm not ready for relationship love.

Speaker 4 (54:43):
That yeah, good, good on you. It just like, rather
than lie to your sofa and hurt.

Speaker 3 (54:49):
Other people, just knowing yourself, No, you're not running it.
Two days after this conversation, she tells me that she
might be in love with one of her guy best friends.
Don't communicate communicating what you literally just asked him out.

Speaker 4 (55:03):
That's really odd. You're like, oh, I was so ready
for you, but now I'm moving on.

Speaker 3 (55:07):
I took it back. Sorry. I told her to go
pursue it, but she told me that he was dating
someone already, but he told her that if he wasn't
dating someone else, he would have totally dated her.

Speaker 4 (55:16):
What going back to my originals, don't communicate that stuff.
This is so poor.

Speaker 3 (55:21):
What okay? That girl and that guy are crazy because
why is she telling ope this and why is the
boyfriend telling her the other guy telling her that. I
told her I didn't want to feel like a second
choice or backup and backed out of it. We did
remain friends. I'd be like, you seem like you have
something going on. I don't want to get in there.
During the start of lockdown, she asked me out on

(55:42):
a date and we did go and then started dating.
Around eight months into the relationship, I find a Discord
server with only her and the guy best friend. Eight
months back in Uni, a bunch of us started using
Discord to play games, discuss about classes, et cetera. I
was actually pretty so prized to find out they had
tons of corn shared there, oh, photos, videos, links, et cetera,

(56:07):
and kept discussing about it regularly, and the conversations did
not seem like two platonic friends. That's not a platonic
friend move. That guy knew that we were dating and
even he was in a relationship, he hasn't respected that
relationship from the get go.

Speaker 4 (56:21):
He told there was zero I think there's zero respect
among among that.

Speaker 3 (56:28):
I told her to stop and leave the server, and
she initially refused, but then did leave and then told
me that she was sorry and what she did wasn't okay.
She said she did not have feelings for him at all,
and it meant nothing, You're a liar. Things seemed okay,
but then this guy remained friends with her and very
occasionally met her since they lived very close to each other,

(56:48):
which I found out a year ago, and in the
year things got a little bad. In four years of
us dating, we had broken up with each other for
four months when I had to move to another city
out of out for work and thought long distance wouldn't
work out, But we decided to try long distance and
put an insane amount of effort to make it work.

(57:09):
During which she dated a guy and broke up with him,
but kept contact with him until recently. He would constantly
keep flirting with her even if he didn't engage, but
she refused to cut contact with him or tell him
she's dating someone, and she also ended up doing substances
at a party and kept defending herself, saying that her
friends forced her to girl girl girl. I have always

(57:32):
been against it, and she knew about it. And a
month ago, this guy best friend started to hang out
with her a lot, and I found out that he
had broken up with his long.

Speaker 2 (57:42):
Term girlfriend rot Row, and.

Speaker 3 (57:44):
We know what he said before. I instantly thought he
was trying to use her as a backup because he
knew that she had feelings for him a while ago.
One day, she went to watch a movie with him
that me and her had planned to watch for months,
and she kept saying how she was excited to go
watch it with me, but I could. I couldn't go
on day one and had to keep it for the weekend.
She then told me she didn't want to wait for

(58:04):
me and told me she'd go with him instead.

Speaker 4 (58:07):
What the heck?

Speaker 3 (58:08):
This is just like a really inappropriate friendship.

Speaker 4 (58:10):
I don't like the girlfriend. The girlfriend.

Speaker 3 (58:15):
Just disrespecting all of the boundaries.

Speaker 4 (58:19):
Communicates all these things.

Speaker 3 (58:21):
Yeah, she's not doing that, She's not giving him that
same courtesy. After the movie, I confronted her and told
her that this isn't okay, and I don't feel okay
with her hanging out with him so frequently since since
she had a past with him. I told her he
is just trying to use her as a rebound for
what happened. She disagreed and fought, saying he's different and

(58:41):
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Speaker 4 (58:49):
Just dab a rebound, Tap tap it.

Speaker 3 (58:51):
A few days later, the guy invited her to a party.
I told her I wasn't comfortable with her going alone.
I prefer that she takes either me or one of
her friends who I know will take care of her.
She refused, saying that I am just doubting him and
that he's a different guy. Hope he has no proof
of that. But then I just found out that he
was slowly starting to get flirty with her. So I

(59:12):
told her to stop hanging out with him and gave
her an ultimatum. She either chooses me or him, and
there is a little bit left to the story. But
what are your final thoughts here?

Speaker 4 (59:23):
I would just say, I'm say I choose me. Yeah,
you two have yourselves.

Speaker 3 (59:29):
Yeah, if you're going to continuously continue to disrespect the
boundaries that I am trying to place in the relationship.
And I know that you have like a past with
him and we're considering dating him.

Speaker 4 (59:41):
Just there's so many things that are tied with him
that is just like it's.

Speaker 3 (59:45):
Like, you know what you can be with it.

Speaker 2 (59:46):
The facts are there.

Speaker 4 (59:47):
Yeah, I've seen everything, and the fact that you guys
have pretty much verbally said I date you if if you.

Speaker 3 (59:55):
Know, if these circumstances. Yeah, so I think honestly, I
wouldn't give the ultimate if she can't, if you've brought
it up before, and if she can't respect that multiple times,
then just break up with her.

Speaker 4 (01:00:05):
There's ultimately made them there's it's not worth it. The
fact that she keeps just it's kind of like a
verbal slap in the face exactly.

Speaker 3 (01:00:11):
But there is a little bit left to this story.
She told me I was more important and chose me
over him, but it is a few days later, when
the party was nearer, she told me she cannot do
that because she has known him for five years and
told me she cannot choose. She started to call me
controlling and told me things are different. She kept saying

(01:00:31):
it's not a big deal. Sharing explicit things with friends.
I told her that these are and have always remained
my boundaries, and she has crossed them multiple times, and
I broke up with her. I deserve Yeah, you deserve
way better.

Speaker 4 (01:00:50):
Bye Bye.

Speaker 3 (01:00:51):
Now I am confused whether what I did was in
fact too much. Most of my pretty close friends keep
telling me that she was absolutely insane, But I still
don't know how to feel. Just the fact that she
like hounded you two years later, right off the bat.

Speaker 2 (01:01:05):
It wasn't like you got her.

Speaker 4 (01:01:07):
She's like, ah, he's mine, kind of like psycho behavior
that she's like, oh, yeah, he's single, he's mine. You
know yourself the best, and if they are not respecting that,
what's best for you? Get him out of there. But also,
if your friends told you that she's insane, your friends
also know you better too. She might be insane. Your

(01:01:28):
friends are an outside's perspective of seeing everything, so usually
your friends have the best advice.