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00:00 r/BestofRedditorUpdates - AITA for cutting all contact with my family because of a prank? (New Update)
17:48 r/AITAH - AITA for not wanting to share my inheritance with my sister?
37:30 r/BestofRedditorUpdates - AITA for not wanting a relationship with my stepmom and step sister after my dad died?
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 3 (00:17):
My family pranked me and now I'm through with them.
Speaker 1 (00:21):
No jokes.
Speaker 3 (00:23):
I twenty seven female. I've always had a complicated relationship
with my family. They've always been the type of people
who think any joke is fine as long as someone laughs,
no matter who gets hurt. Over the years, I've tried
to brush it off and not let it bother me
too much. But this time they cross the line. I
can't ignore it. By the way, this comes from Spiritual
(00:44):
Ad fifty en. If you want to spend your own stories,
go to the RCI Showcase stories. I'm Subreddit. I relate
a lot. No, I relate a lot trying to get
a laugh out of someone. Yeah, I know, but none
at someone's cost.
Speaker 1 (00:55):
Oh really? Uh huh yeah, yeah, don't at anyone's cost.
That didn't hurt you though it hurt my pride.
Speaker 3 (01:06):
So recently, I achieved something big in my life. I
bought my first home after saving for years ingrat night.
It's something I worked incredibly hard for, sacrificing vacations, nights out,
and basically anything extra to make it happen.
Speaker 1 (01:20):
The prank is that they were they like, found a
random house, sold it to her, quote unquote, and then
she's like, yeah, I bought my first home. And then
they're like pranked. That was sake. We stole your money
and you don't have a house. And she's like, that's
a terrible thing you've done. It's so funny. Everyone's laughing. Uh.
Speaker 3 (01:43):
It's like the opposite of the bus when they were
like move that bus.
Speaker 1 (01:46):
Yeah, yeah, move that bus, there's nothing there.
Speaker 3 (01:50):
I was beyond proud of myself and excited to finally
have a place to call my own. Naturally, I wanted
to share this milestone with my family, even though our
relationship has always been a few weeks ago, we had
a family dinner to celebrate my new home. Everything seemed
fine at first. They congratulated me, asked about the house,
and seemed genuinely happy for me. But halfway through the night,
(02:11):
my brother thirty mail and sister twenty five female handed
me an envelope.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
Dude, was all right, I'm gonna be right.
Speaker 3 (02:19):
No. They said it was a surprise to help me
with my home.
Speaker 1 (02:23):
Oh oh okay.
Speaker 3 (02:25):
I see I'm lost, but I'm gonna keep you going.
I opened it and inside was what looked like a
legal notice stating my house purchase has been canceled because
of clerical error, that it was now being sold to
someone else. It even had an official looking letterhead, my
name and details about the house.
Speaker 1 (02:46):
Wait, so the brink is just the opposite of what
I said the break was gonna be. They just said
that you don't have a house.
Speaker 3 (02:54):
The banks take it back the house, none of your
checks cleared.
Speaker 1 (02:57):
Oho? How did they approach that? They said, we have
im thinking for you. Okay, okay, bows is that I've
approached them?
Speaker 3 (03:03):
So this is what happened next. I was in complete shock.
Everyone around the table started laughing, and my brother yelled, gotcha.
Turns out they had a fake letter and thought it
would be hilarious to see my reaction. I burst into tears,
which only made them laugh harder. They even recorded the
whole thing on their phones and posted on social media.
What here's my thought one that was funny?
Speaker 1 (03:25):
What, Yeah, it was pretty funny. I would have I
would have laugh.
Speaker 3 (03:28):
I would have I would have done that, and I
would have been like, oh my gosh, it's good too
once you started crying, Yeah, jops over.
Speaker 1 (03:35):
Jokes over, Oh my god, I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry.
I thought you would, like, kid, it's not like she's sobbing,
Like that's insane given the context that I have, if
this was the only prank they've ever done, funny, but
since they always try to get it, Opie, the thing
is that you know that they have a prank channel
on YouTube all the time, Like if they're posting this
(03:57):
on social media, they absolutely have a break channel. And
it's like the worst thing that you've ever seen. Dude.
So okay, I will the only thing I'm gonna give,
not them per se, but I will critique about uop is,
why did you think your family had a Like wouldn't
(04:18):
it have gone to you? How did they get a
hold of it? Yeah, like I would have if I
knew that they were, you know, pranksters, And I can't
imagine it was a very good recreation, Like why did
you immediately believe that your family has somehow gotten hold
of a bank statement that just said hilarical error. You
(04:40):
don't have the house. Yeah, oh sorry, they said to
us rather than you. Yeah, I feel like your family
pranks it because you're really gullible. Not that not that
they're right for it, but I think you're an easy target,
op and they know that.
Speaker 3 (04:57):
Sensitive, so that's why.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
Yeah, you're easy it. Don't hurry good for that.
Speaker 3 (05:01):
Oh dang, my little brother's kind of like this. Yeah,
you'll get upset pretty easily. Just what it is. Okay.
When I finally managed to speak, I told them how
cruel this was. Buying this house is the biggest thing
I've ever done, and they turned into a joke at
my expense. Their response, you're so sensitive, it was just
a prank. Lighting up.
Speaker 1 (05:19):
Also, did they post that on social media immediately? Were
they like, oh, this is going on YouTube? Like how
did you know? And you know?
Speaker 3 (05:28):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (05:28):
Did you find it later? Probably later?
Speaker 3 (05:31):
Yeah, I left the dinner early, completely heartbroken at your
own house. I hate them worth slamming on, Opie, but dude,
you're making it easy, Like.
Speaker 1 (05:43):
Yeah, your family is mean and like kind of bullying you.
Speaker 3 (05:47):
I I have some more thoughts on this, but I'll
tell it later. A few days later, I decided I'd
had enough. This wasn't the first time they pulled a
prank like this. Over the years, they've humiliated me countless times,
once ruining a job interview outfit by accidentally spilling coffee
on it, another time pretending to lose my dog just
to see me panic.
Speaker 1 (06:08):
Okay, See, those those ones are not cool. Those ones
are much more. Honestly, those ones are much worse than
this one, because this one, I feel like, is so
like see through.
Speaker 3 (06:17):
Yeah, but this is the straw.
Speaker 1 (06:19):
Yeah, yeah, she's like anymore.
Speaker 3 (06:22):
I cut off all contact. I didn't make a scene.
I just stopped responding to messages, blocked them on social media,
and decline invites to family events. Now I'm getting guilt
tripping messages from extended family saying I'm being selfish and
tearing the family apart. My mom even left me a
voicemail crying about how much she misses me and begging
me to come back. But I can't bring myself to
(06:43):
forgive them. This prank felt like the final straw, and
I don't see how I can trust them again. So raddit.
Am I the a hole for cutting off my family
over this prank? Like Sophia said, not the worst one.
But if the dynamic in the family is always you're
the butt of the.
Speaker 1 (06:58):
Joke, it's not fun. It's not fun. Yeah, Like it
feels like in if this were just that joke alone,
I'd be like, well, cutting your family off is pretty unreasonable.
But yeah, it seems like it's been years and years
of this kind of behavior, so.
Speaker 3 (07:14):
It makes sense the set of boundary. Some people go
no contact and then over time.
Speaker 1 (07:19):
Yeah, maybe it's like they realized that, you know, they
shouldn't treat you like this, and you can kind of
just go to limiting contact and you know, you can
always change it.
Speaker 3 (07:30):
Yeah, having a serious conversation with people, yeah, will be good.
Speaker 1 (07:33):
They like, this is what happens when you treat me
like this. Yeah, I will consider contact, But there needs
to be a whole lot of change.
Speaker 3 (07:41):
Gotta be another butt around here, because that can't be
the only one. It's not making fun of brother.
Speaker 1 (07:46):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (07:47):
Top comment best comment is fifteen says you're rightfully upset
because it wasn't a brank, it was bullying. It was
just a joke. Bs is something every bully does to
justify humiliating people. Okay, this was a humiliation tactic. Yeah,
they thought it would be fun to upset you on
your big night and then take videos of it and
post it on social media. And your mom is crying
(08:08):
that she misses you. No, she had an opportunity there
to rip them a new one about their behavior and
treating you with kindness and respect, and she thought it
would be better to go along with a prank. You
deserve much better than this. I'm glad you finally desired
call an into their bullying. Don't let them in or
extend any family members pressure you into doing anything you
(08:29):
don't want to do. I'm sorry that they couldn't Just
let you be happy for your achievement. Congrats on the
new home. We just got an update from Ope.
Speaker 1 (08:38):
I think that the family is going to try a
lot harder to get back into her life. Yeah. I
feel like this might end with her kind of reconciling
with some family members and then we'll find out that,
like some family members suck more than others. I like that.
So we're aheaded But just just hold your boundaries strong. Yeah,
that's kind of the main thing. Whether you're you know,
(09:01):
gonna go back into ear like have contact with them
or not. Just make sure you know what your boundaries are.
They know what your boundaries are, and then you go
for it.
Speaker 3 (09:09):
Step by step. Right there you update. Thank you all
for the advice and support. I want to provide an
update because things have escalated in ways I never expounded no.
After I went no contact with my family, I thought
they'd eventually accept my decision and move on. But that
hasn't been the case.
Speaker 1 (09:26):
They're like, now we're pranking her for real.
Speaker 3 (09:29):
Watch out, we'll see how your car works without breaks. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (09:32):
Literally, They're like, oh, you thought that was bad. Now
that you're no contact with us, you got we had
nothing protecting.
Speaker 3 (09:40):
You, whatever protector in the first place. Then that's the case.
Speaker 1 (09:45):
Some familial bond.
Speaker 3 (09:47):
For the past few weeks, my brother and sister have
been trying to get me to see the funny side
of their prank. They've shown up in my house uninvited
multiple times, banging on the door and demanding to talk
to me. At first, I ignored them, but it became
clear they weren't going to stop. One evening, I caught
(10:07):
them standing outside my house with their phones out, recording
themselves while yelling things like she can't take a joke
and let's see how long she can hide. It felt
more like pestrumint than an attempt to reconcile.
Speaker 1 (10:21):
I think that they're doing all of this for their
YouTube channel. Really yeah, like OP is their main source
of content. Oh and they need they need their star back.
Speaker 3 (10:31):
Oh shoot, so we're gonna keep this thing going with
that her.
Speaker 1 (10:34):
They make so much money from OP And now she's
she's gone, and all the all the commenters are like, wait,
where'd OP go? What happened with OPI They're like, we
can't let them know that we've we've badgered her until
she caught contact.
Speaker 3 (10:50):
The final straw came when I discovered my car I'd
been egged overnight.
Speaker 1 (10:54):
It can't stop, and.
Speaker 3 (10:55):
My security camera caught my brother and sister doing it.
I confronted them through text, telling them they crossed the
line and needed to stop. That response, You're so dramatic,
you're going to laugh about this one day, dude.
Speaker 1 (11:08):
I think you need to go full you either you
have two options, police or full force. Attack them back.
You start, you start leaving. I don't know, like nare
in the champoo bottle. Yeah, your tepee the house.
Speaker 3 (11:28):
Honestly, you just get a couple of boys and give
them some money.
Speaker 1 (11:30):
Yeah, you say, hey, I got a job. Hey, you kid,
I get a job for you. Use an address, go.
Speaker 3 (11:39):
Wild, do things I never thought about doing.
Speaker 1 (11:41):
Yeah, yeah, I trusted kids.
Speaker 3 (11:43):
At this point, I realized I couldn't handle this on
my own. I went to the police and filed a report.
She went with the option number one and find a
report for PESTRUMNT. He took my statement, reviewed the footage
from my security camera, and agreed that this behavior was unacceptable.
My siblings were contacted and warned to stay away from me.
(12:05):
Their reaction more mocking responses and calling me a snitch
and accusing me of tearing the family apart. Some of
my extended family members are siding with them, saying I
should have just talked it out instead of involving the police,
but others, especially those who have seen the footage, are
horrified and fully support my decision.
Speaker 1 (12:26):
Well, yeah, the reasonable people in your family exactly what
I said. I was like, some people are gonna prove
that they're better than you thought, and some people like
your brother and sister are you to prove that they're
a whole lot worse.
Speaker 3 (12:37):
Yeah. This ah ah for a mix of relief and sadness.
It's hard to accept that my own family treat me
this way, but I also feel safe for knowing I've
taken steps to protect myself. I'm focusing on building a
new life in my home and surrounding myself with people
who respect them and support me.
Speaker 1 (12:57):
Nice.
Speaker 3 (12:57):
All right, and we sadly have another update.
Speaker 1 (13:00):
Oh no, no, Ophie, I hope it ends with you.
I don't know, like moving, Well, no, you just buy
your house? Can sure? She's worked so hard? Yeah, just
get one of those really intense security systems that like
there's like a trip wire and everything, and like there's
like dogs. Yeah yeah. And I was like, you have
(13:22):
just crossed the trip It's like and the police are
called every time you trip the trip wire.
Speaker 3 (13:28):
Ding. Oh I thought there'd be like a trap way
foremast Oh no, no, no, no, like Dennis the minist
of the house.
Speaker 1 (13:34):
Oh like holdlone Yeah yeah, yeah, you could home alone
your house, I guess if you.
Speaker 3 (13:38):
Want to, dude, some of those are cruel.
Speaker 1 (13:40):
I mean a lot of the home alone shops are
pretty off intense. You could die. Yeah, I'm surprised that
the burgers didn't. Yeah, they too.
Speaker 3 (13:51):
Nearly three months later, I know I have updated in
a while, and honestly, it's because dealing with all of
this has been exhausting. Even after finally the police report,
my brother and sister wouldn't let up. I wanted to
believe they'd eventually get bored and move on, but instead
they doubled down. Oh, the mocking messages didn't stop. They
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even bragged about the warning they received, creating it like
a joke, because everything is a joke.
Speaker 1 (14:16):
Yeah, they're posting on their on their channel. I just
got the police just freaking gave me a warning. Oh
like I'm gonna listen to that. My extended family will
still split. Some still told me I was overreacting, while
others admitted they were disturbed by my siblings behavior.
Speaker 3 (14:34):
Then things escalated. My security cameras caught them trespassing on
my property again, this time leaving a massive toilet paper
and shaving cream all over my driveway. That was finally strong.
I went back to the police and provided the new
footage showing that they had ignored the warning. This time,
I filed for restraining word I feel like.
Speaker 1 (14:56):
It's come to that. Hey, they can't stop bothering you.
That's what you gotta do something.
Speaker 3 (15:00):
Yeah, I had more than enough evidence to prove that
their behavior was escalating, and after presenting everything security footage,
text messages, and police reports to the judge, they granted it.
They were legally ordered to stay away from me, my home,
and my workplace.
Speaker 1 (15:17):
Yeah, there we go. Tucks that I had to come
to that.
Speaker 3 (15:21):
But you know, but how did they respond?
Speaker 1 (15:24):
Oh?
Speaker 3 (15:24):
Not well, of course they acted like it was a joke.
But then they realized I wasn't playing their game anymore.
The pestimen had finally stopped. The restraining order forced them
to keep their distance, and for the first time in
a long time, I felt safe, sensing a butt.
Speaker 1 (15:41):
I'm a little bit worried that they are not gonna
listen to this. The restraining orders last forever six months
to five years.
Speaker 3 (15:48):
Okay, so no, so are Yeah, this can be increased
or decrease at the dissertation of the court. Mm hmm,
just saying, yeah, So I guess it's Hey, we're gonna
give two year restraining worders.
Speaker 1 (15:59):
Yeah, so they might come back around in two years
or something. So just keep an eye on them and
hopefully they listen to the law if they're not going
to listen to you.
Speaker 3 (16:08):
Some family members still don't understand why I had to
take things this far, but I don't need their approval.
I did what I had to protect myself. So a
Google slide goes a long way.
Speaker 1 (16:18):
Yeah, you just show all the evidence of what your
sister and brother have been doing, and you just send
it to everyone. Don't you say, Hey, anyone who thinks
that you know this is not serious, Here you go.
Speaker 3 (16:30):
My home is now a place of peace, not anxiety.
My phone is quiet, my life is my own. Again,
to anyone dealing with toxic family members who refuse to
respect your boundaries, don't be afraid to stand up for yourself.
You are not obligated to tolerate mistreatment just because it
comes from family. Your safety and well being come first,
And if they want to call me a snitch for
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defending myself, so be it. I'd rather be a snitch
than a doormat. Stay Strong's strong, that's it.
Speaker 1 (16:59):
Well, here you go. Okay, well, hopey, I'm proud of
you too. You know you couldn't it like it was
too much. They kept pushing you. So you stood up
for yourself and that's and now like half your family
at least is realizing that you know, that's not okay,
And yeah, you were treated was not okay.
Speaker 3 (17:18):
Yeah, not at all, dude. I thought the joke was
all right.
Speaker 1 (17:23):
Yeah, well the first joke, I was like, well, it's
like a bad joke, but it's not like so so serious.
But coupled with everything else over the line, yeah yeah,
get it hit.
Speaker 3 (17:34):
If you're gonna pull a joke, make sure it's funny.
Speaker 1 (17:36):
Come on, make sure everyone's I don't know, just get
everyone in on it.
Speaker 3 (17:40):
See that story, got another one coming for you.
Speaker 1 (17:43):
John.
Speaker 2 (17:43):
Here, we're gonna get back to this juicy story, but
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Speaker 1 (17:48):
My sister demanded a larger share of our inheritance, but
I refuse, no more money for you. So I twenty
eight mail, recently lost my father. It was a really
tough time, but we knew it was coming because he
had been sick for a while before he passed. He
made it clear in his will that I would inherit
the majority of his estate, including his house and a
(18:10):
significant amount of money. My sister twenty five. Female would
receive a smaller amount, mostly sentimental items and a bit
of cash. By the way, this comes from Feisty Implement
sixty eight, twenty three and if you want to sumit
your own stories, go to the r slash. Okay, story
time separated. So here's the thing. My sister and my
dad didn't have a good relationship. She moved out when
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she was eighteen and they barely spoke after that. My
dad tried to reconnect several times, but she always shut
him down. I, on the other hand, took care of
him during his illness, visiting him almost every day and
handling all his medical appointments. Now my sister's furious. She's
calling me selfish and saying that it's unfair she got
(18:55):
so little. She thinks I should split the inheritance fifty
to fifty. I told her I respected Dad's wishes and
that I don't think it's my responsibility to change what
he wanted, especially given the circumstance.
Speaker 3 (19:07):
Yeah, because again I'm gonna say it transactional. Yeah, what
was a relationship like with dad and sister? Was it
very transactional? Why did she move out?
Speaker 1 (19:19):
Yeah, it seems like they didn't have the best relationship.
My first immediate advice before we haven't really gotten too
far into it, is if you have a good relationship
with your sister and you want to continue having a
good relationship with your sister fifty five, Yeah, if you
don't and you don't really care about it, and you
think that she's only trying to get the money and
(19:40):
she doesn't actually want a relationship with you, and keep
it the way.
Speaker 3 (19:43):
It is interesting, that's kind of my este I would
keep what is given. I mean, if like I have
three houses, my sister doesn't have. I have a house,
I have a good relationship with her, I'd give her
a house.
Speaker 1 (19:56):
Well, I'm just thinking, like if I had this same
relationship with my brother but I do now and I
found out that I was going to be given like
let's say it was gonna be like seventy thirty or
like sixty forty or something, I personally would be like,
you know what, I love my brother fifty to fifty Okay,
but if I have the relationship that oh he probably
has with his sister, which is you will okay now.
Speaker 3 (20:20):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (20:20):
She argues that family is family and it's not fair
to punish her for their strange relationship, But I think
it's not my fault they didn't get along.
Speaker 3 (20:28):
Yeah, don't pull that stitch crap on me.
Speaker 1 (20:30):
You know, Hanna, he had years to fix things with him,
but she chose not to My mom they're divorced. Is
on her side, saying that I should do the right
thing and give her more money to keep the peace,
buy her silence. Some friends agree with her, while others
think I'm justified in keeping what I was given. So
(20:50):
am I the a hole for not wanting to share
my inheritance with my sister?
Speaker 3 (20:54):
Pros and gons list? Yeah, pro more money, he shuts up.
If you split it firstwoting bro, she shows up, Colin
get a lot less money.
Speaker 1 (21:03):
I also do. We I don't think it's say you
know what the split is?
Speaker 3 (21:09):
No, Yeah, but she got a lot more than than
you sister did. Yeah, so I'm gonna say maybe like
eighty twenties, but.
Speaker 1 (21:18):
Yeah, probably it seems like, yeah, she's pretty upset, So yeah,
I think again, I have the same thoughts. If you
want that relationship, if you have a good one, already
do the fifty to fifty if you don't, And she's
just kind of money, you know, money hungry, and you're like, oh,
she actually doesn't really care about having a relationship with
(21:39):
me at all. This was my dad's wishes. Who am
I to say no to what he wants? Yeah, and
it's I've seen some comments saying this is fake from
the out key details. So let me clear a few
things up. First. About my sister's estrangements. It wasn't something
that happened overnight. After my parents' divorce. She sided heavily
(22:02):
with my mom and gradually distance herself from our dad.
She blamed him for their splits, and even though Dad
tried to reconcile over the years, she was unwilling to
meet him halfway. I'm not saying she's a bad person.
Divorces are messy, but it's not like Dad cut her
off for no reason. Second, I know some of you
might think Dad was playing favorites, but I don't see
(22:23):
it that way. I think he divided things based on
who was there for him in his final years. It
wasn't about punishment, it was about recognition. Lastly, for those
saying I'm conveniently painting myself as the golden child, I
promise that's not my intention. My sister had her reasons
for stepping back, but I stepped up because I felt
it was the right thing to do. That's why this
(22:45):
situation is so hard. I'm trying to honor my dad's wishes,
but I also don't want to completely ruin my relationship
with my sister. Hope this clears up some of the gaps.
And why did my parents get divorced? My parents divorce
happened when I was twelve and my sister was nine.
It wasn't one big event. It was a combination of things.
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My dad worked long hours running his own business, and
my mom felt neglected. She also said Dad had a
controlling personality, which caused a lot of tension. Oka On
the other hand, Dad felt Mom wasn't supportive of his
career and resented him for working so much. Eventually, they
just couldn't make it work and they decided to separate. Okay,
my sister blamed Dad for the divorce because in her eyes,
(23:29):
he was the one who chose work over family. Mom
didn't exactly help. She would make comments about how Dad
cared more about his business than his kids. I think
this shaped my sister's perspective and made her more distant
from him, I see, yeah.
Speaker 3 (23:44):
And family is family. She's the reason she brought that up.
He's choosing you over.
Speaker 1 (23:51):
Her, which I think in some ways it might feel
like that's what OP is doing to her again of
like choosing this money or or her you know, their
dad over her again over yeah god, yeah, And I
feel like maybe she's sensing feeling that betrayal. I there's
there's more and more questions. I hope he's gonna answer.
(24:12):
I do think that you could have a sit down, like,
don't involve your mom, don't involve other family members, say like, hey,
I'm sup working this out. Just sit down with your sister,
say like this is why dad gave me this money. Yeah,
I you know, I was helping them out for a
long time. And I understand that you had a difficult
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relationship with dad and that's kind of your own thing.
And yeah, like have that mature conversation if you want to, again,
if you want to kind of make sure that your
your relationship with your sister doesn't completely break down. If
you don't want to do fifty to fifty, maybe you
just increase it a little bit. Yeah, yeah, Like if
it's like eighty twenty, maybe it goes to like seventy
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thirty or so. You know, that's not saying that you
have to do this. We're legally entitled to that money,
but throw the talent. I think, I think there is
a way where you I don't know, I just feel
like a piece then like, oh, well, you know, I
don't want to dishonor my dad's wishes. And at the
end of the day, it is like, you want the money,
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which is fair, and you were given the money because
you're legally entitled to it. But yeah, I just think,
see if you can save this relationship if you want
to with your sister. Yeah, and that doesn't necessarily mean
just giving her all the money. It just means having
a conversation. It's good. It was a really good thought.
And also you can ask why does she need this money,
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because you know, is there something going on in her life?
And maybe it's not I'm going to go to fifty
to fifty, but I absolutely will help you if there
is something that you need, like the sister's in idle
to this money, yeah, or she thinks she is when
it legally she's not not. Yeah, there's just a lot
of things that went wrong. The Dad kept trying to
reach out. Yeah, you didn't want to talk to him.
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It's a divorce. It didn't work out. Why were my
sister and dad so conflicted? After the divorce? I stayed
with Dad while my sister lived with mom. Dad tried
to stay involved in her life, but the distance, both
physical and emotional, made things harder. Over time, my sister
started avoiding him. For example, he'd call her but she
wouldn't pick up. He'd send gifts or letters, and she'd
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never acknowledge them. One of the big breaking points came
when she graduated high school. Dad showed up through her
graduation uninvited because he wanted to celebrate her, but she
got upset and accused him of trying to make it
about himself. After that, they barely spoke. Why didn't my
sister visit when Dad was sick? This is something only
my sister can fully explain, but I think it goes
(26:43):
back to their strain relationship. By the time Dad got sick,
they hadn't spoken in years. I reached out to her
multiple times, telling her how serious things were, but she
said she wasn't ready to see him. Dad was hurt,
but never angry. He just said she asked to come
on her own terms. Unfortunately she never did Dan that.
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I mean, she's gonna regret that of Actually, if she
doesn't already.
Speaker 3 (27:07):
I have hundreds to wipe her tears with.
Speaker 1 (27:09):
No, and that is her own cross to bear, not yours.
But yeah, I just again, don't sacrifice this relationship with
your sister until you're very sure that it needs to
be sacrificed or it needs to be you know ended.
Why didn't Dad just leave everything fifty to fifty? I
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asked myself this too. I think Dad felt the inheritance
should reflect the relationships he had. He knew I had
been there for him throughout his illness, and he wanted
to recognize that. At the same time, he didn't want
to completely exclude my sister, which is why he left
her sentimental items and some money. I don't think it
was about punishing her. I think he just wanted to
acknowledge the reality of her family dynamic. Hope this clears
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up some of the questions people have been asking, and
there is an update, But do you have any thoughts
before we jump in?
Speaker 3 (28:01):
I think the sister is gonna come harder. They're doubling down. Yeah,
what do you what do you call it? Whenever old
people try to sign things but they aren't of their mind.
Speaker 1 (28:10):
Oh like yeah, like he wasn't it Yeah, basically today
right by and to be able to sign that, Yeah, he.
Speaker 3 (28:17):
Wasn't all there.
Speaker 1 (28:17):
She checked him to give him all the money. Yeah. Yeah.
I think I'm still of the try and see if
you can communicate with your sister, have the conversation. But
you know, she might just want that money. You might
just be after that money. I also do think, like
op he was saying, like, oh, I don't think my
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dad was punishing her. I think it was just reflecting.
I think it like it is kind of a punishment.
You know. It's like you weren't there for me, so
you don't get this money. That's not to say that
it isn't valid, but she's gonna see it that way
because it is. You know, she didn't do something, so
she doesn't get the money. Yeah, and that's in a way,
you know, and she has to live with that again.
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She doesn't get to I have that moment with her
dad and reconciliation, doesn't get this money because she wasn't there.
Speaker 3 (29:07):
Yeah, And I don't think it was fair both ways.
I think the sister of views things in one way
and the other.
Speaker 1 (29:13):
Yes, absolutely, divorce is tricky on kids and adults alike updates.
After thinking it through and reading a lot of your comments,
I've decided I'm not giving my sister anything beyond what
Dad left her. His will was clear, and I'm not
going to disrespect his wishes to appease someone who didn't
even bother to visit him when he was passing away.
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I tried to be reasonable and explain my side, but
it's pointless. My sister is still sending me nasty texts,
calling me names, and acting like I stole from her.
My mom is no better. She basically turned this into
a full on guilt trip, saying things like you're tearing
this family apart and you're just like your father. Honestly,
if being just like dad means standing my ground, I'll
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take it as a compliment. I think you living with
your dad and your sister living with your mom, you
have like cemented those kind of relationships.
Speaker 3 (30:09):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (30:09):
I think your mom was always going to side with
your sister because you, in her mind, probably sided with
your dad. Yeah, and she has a lot of resentment
towards him. Literally. Yeah, at this point, I'm done trying
to keep the peace. They can say whatever they want
about me not changing my mind. I'm gonna do what
I want with the inheritance and move on with my life.
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If that means cutting some people off, so be it.
To everyone who says I'm not the ale. Thank you.
Feels good to have some validation. Now I'm focusing on
honoring Dad's memory and making the most of what he left.
And there is a second update. Oh my gosh, do
you think sister's gonna get worse, gonna double down or
I guess now triple down or have a change of heart.
Speaker 3 (30:51):
Yeah, the sister's calling her names. There's nothing she can do.
Speaker 1 (30:55):
Right with the sister. Yeah, well legally no, so might
pester him a little bit or a lot of it.
Speaker 3 (31:02):
Okay, in which case you know, Yeah, yeah, the person was.
Speaker 1 (31:08):
Pranked a bunch.
Speaker 3 (31:09):
Yeah, here's that. Yeah, I think it's fine.
Speaker 1 (31:12):
Legally she can't do anything. Relationship wise, you might have. Yeah,
it seems like you're probably gonna lose that relationship. But
it doesn't seem like you want it though.
Speaker 3 (31:21):
Yeah, that's true. That's true.
Speaker 1 (31:24):
It seems like you kind of lost it when that
divorce happened already, dang sadly. Update two, So, six months
after my dad passed and the inheritance was finalized, my
sister completely lost it. I thought things were rough before,
but this took it to a whole new level. First,
she tried to sue me, No way. She claimed I
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manipulated dad, but you said into changing the will and
accused me of undue influence. Throw the roses, saying I
isolated her from him while he was sick and pressured
him while he was medicated.
Speaker 3 (31:59):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (32:00):
Absolutely, it was full of lies and reached so far.
I don't even know how she said it with a
straight face. She even had two friends of hers signed
statements saying they felt something was off, even though neither
of them were around our family.
Speaker 3 (32:14):
Yeah, just fill it in. The vibecond was just off.
Speaker 1 (32:18):
She wasn't even around her own father. How were they
around the father? How?
Speaker 3 (32:23):
Also, how a statement from two friends saying something fell off?
Good to do anything?
Speaker 1 (32:27):
It's not, That's the thing she's grasping for straws. Her
case got tossed quickly. Judge dismissed it with prejudice, so
she can't try again. I thought that would be the
end of it. Nope, and this is what I said.
She started pestering me. Yep, she did exactly what both
of us said. Constant texts, emails, calls from private numbers.
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She made burner accounts on social media and commented on
anything I posted, signed me up for mailing lists. And
then I walked outside one day and someone had spray
painted thief across my garage. I have cameras now, Yeah,
it was her Clara's day. Had to file a police
report and that's dyll in progress. Then she showed up
at the house while I was gone for the weekend,
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broke in through a back window. You wrecked the place,
ripped pictures off the wall, poured something on the couch,
smelled like bleach, broke furniture, went through drawers, dumped boxes
of my dad's stuff on the floor, left a note
on the bathroom mirror that just said you don't deserve this.
Thank you for the note that proves you were there.
Speaker 3 (33:30):
You idiots.
Speaker 1 (33:34):
She was capable of this. She absolutely did not deserve
any of this money. Yeah, I reported the break and
there's now a criminal case open against her. It gets worse. Wow, right,
After that, she started telling extended family and mutual friends
that I harmed her when we were younger. That's where
I draw the line. Yeah, you can sue her for
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freaking slander.
Speaker 3 (33:57):
Defamation, yeahinology. All right, Well, I guess we can do
a joint case.
Speaker 1 (34:03):
And then if she's writing anything, it's libel. It's not
just petty inheritance drama anymore. She crossed a line that
can't be uncrossed. I've never done anything like that, obviously,
and hearing that kind of accusation come from your own
sibling is something I don't think i'll ever process. I
have nothing to hide, and I've already spoken to a lawyer.
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If she says it publicly again, I'm filing a defamation suit.
Final thoughts.
Speaker 3 (34:29):
It's crazy that someone feels this entitled.
Speaker 1 (34:32):
Yeah to money that they didn't earn, money.
Speaker 3 (34:34):
That didn't earn, and they're gonna spend the rest of
their lives trying to get the money instead of building
well and getting well.
Speaker 1 (34:40):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (34:40):
As you can see, this is a trait of hers
and it's transactional. Yeah, and she wants things that doesn't like.
Of course, she wanted Tom with her dad, and that
was bad. That like, she didn't get that and things
didn't end up that way.
Speaker 1 (34:52):
But all this, yeah, I mean she made a choice,
did not visit her dad, and she was she was
an adult. You. She's twenty five now, so this was recent,
probably around twenty three or twenty four when she made
that decision to not go. Uh Op was there for
his dad the whole time. And then not only does
she have the audacity to demand this money, she then
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goes on to Lake Harass. Ope just terribly. I mean,
no normal person does that when they don't get something
they want. But there's a little bit left to the story. Ope,
you made the right decision, and it sucks that you
have to cut off your probably your mom too, your
mom and sister, but you know your piece is worth
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more than all this. My mom is still trying to
play both sides. She says things like, your sister's just
grieving in her own way, grieving someone she didn't see
for years, is grieving. As if that justifies any of this.
It doesn't. We're done. I've cut contact with both of them.
If there's a takeaway here, it's that people can spiral
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in ways you never expect when money and guilt get
mixed other. I kept thinking, surely this is the last straw,
but it just kept going. I'm tired, I'm angry, and
I'm done. I'll keep the house, I'll keep what Dad
left me, and I'll keep my distance. Right, look at that,
Look at that open Keep that house, keep your money.
Speaker 3 (36:19):
Wow, it's so crazy that after someone gets broken in. Yeah,
we had two stories. People get you know, things get
broken in, then they get security cameras. You think these
siblings would think a little bit, Well, they're clearly not smart.
Speaker 1 (36:32):
No, because I'm she's trying to file these like suits
that have no like no holding it all, like all terrible,
terrible weird. Yeah, like there's no ground for them to
stand on. And yet she's like, yeah, this's gotta work.
I'm gonna get all of this money that I have
no legal right to, dude, or I'm going to harass
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my brother until he files a police report and she
probably gets arrested.
Speaker 3 (36:58):
And honestly i'd counter, so.
Speaker 1 (37:01):
Well, yeah, now you can sue her for defamation, you
can see her for breaking into your house.
Speaker 3 (37:07):
Go through.
Speaker 1 (37:07):
Well, I think it's going through. I think filed criminal charges.
Speaker 3 (37:10):
So now it's she's going to be rested. Yeah, okay,
thank you.
Speaker 1 (37:13):
Oh yeah no, this is now a criminal case because
she's stupid enough to have like left. But folks, that
is the end of that story.
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Speaker 1 (37:30):
I want to cut off my step family after my
father passed away.
Speaker 3 (37:34):
I guess there's no reason you stick around them.
Speaker 1 (37:36):
My parents got a divorce when I was six, and
I haven't seen my mom since she was harmful. My
dad were married when I was eight. My stepmom wasn't harmful,
but we never clicked. She tried to be my new
mom right off the bat, and I found it weird,
and she didn't like how I wasn't opened to the
idea right away. By the way, this comes from cut
stepfam And if you want to sit your own stories,
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go to the r slash. Okay, storytime separated.
Speaker 3 (38:00):
Oh people are like cars. You just get a new
one and it's fine.
Speaker 1 (38:03):
And it's fine and they'll adjust immediately. She also had
a daughter who's one year younger than me. We didn't
hit it off either. Don't get me wrong, she's a
totally fine person, but as kids, she was the typical brat,
so I guess it made it hard for us to
really bond as kids.
Speaker 3 (38:18):
And then she had a sister that was just like her,
but they weren't as pretty as you. And then your
dad left and you always had to clean the house,
and then you met a prince. It's going to work
out for you.
Speaker 1 (38:27):
Once I hit my teens, I had a rough patch
of being rebellious and overall not a good person. My
dad gave me space like I needed, but my step
mom didn't see it that way, and we fought a
lot because of it. My stepsister was all right during
teen years. She got the more quiet and keep to yourself,
so we didn't really have any complex. But me and
my step mom didn't hit it off, and once I
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turned eighteen, I moved out first chance I got. I
am now twenty four and my dad sadly passed away
from cancer, so I didn't get along with my stepmom.
I never stopped loving my dad. He texted daily. When
I moved out. It was rough on me, and I
do appreciate my step mom helping me with the funeral,
but that was a couple of months ago, and I
haven't really talked to her since. My stepsister has invited
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me over for Christmas, and honestly, I don't know if
I want to go, not because I don't like them,
but because it's the same house that we grew up
in and it will remind me too much of my
dad and I'm still grieving.
Speaker 3 (39:23):
Oh.
Speaker 1 (39:24):
I know my stepsister and stepmom are too, but ef
it sucks because I don't know. I just want to
be left alone for some time to process because it
was only three months ago. Am I the a hole
if I don't show up to Christmas Day at my
stepmom's place? And there are some comments and an update,
But what do you think?
Speaker 3 (39:41):
I recently had sown pass and it was my dad,
it was my great grandfather, and I feel in that scenario,
i'd want to be there just to like grieve it
and let it all out.
Speaker 1 (39:52):
Yeah, this feels different because it's not like people that
she's emotionally attached to. It's kind of just people she's
been forced into p amity with.
Speaker 3 (40:00):
And they don't seem to have her best interest at mine.
It's sort of this is how I think things should
go about and you have to do that, and during
this grieving process it's such a very like sensitive time. Yeah,
and you kind of need a little bit of grace
more than you need to do this this.
Speaker 1 (40:19):
Yeah, I don't think that you should do anything just
because you're you think you're expected to or it's like, oh,
well I should see my stuff, And it's like, whatever
you need to get through this time is the most
important thing. And if they say, hey, you know, we
want you to come to Christmas dinner, you can just
say I appreciate the offer. It's really kind of you,
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but I think I want to take some time alone
to the process and that's okay. And if you don't
understand that, then you know you're not great people. I
mean next, No, you don't want to see them. Yeah,
it seems like you guys don't vibe. But it seems
like they're normal and not crazy for the most part, So.
Speaker 3 (40:56):
That moment's wanted a relationship with you. Yeah, nothing came naturally.
Speaker 1 (41:01):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (41:02):
Uh, that'st off.
Speaker 1 (41:03):
That's top comment, not the a hole. It was nice
of them to include you, but you, by all means
don't have to accept their offer. I'm sorry. For your loss.
If you need an excuse and want to potentially keep
the door open in case you change your mind in
the future, you can say you're still grieving and would
rather be alone, which is nice. Then so it's good advice.
Opie says, I'll say that I don't know what I
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want yet. I could one day feel like I miss
and want them, but not right now. My dad's sister,
my aunt, has been a great mother figure to me
once my bio mom left me and my dad, so
I call her my deaf immediate family. Comeder says, you
are not the a hole if you choose to cut
them out, but people change, and somewhere along the road
you will probably regret such a hard decision. Why even
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cut them out? They're a living bridge to your late dad.
He loved them, and he not only lives in your heart,
but there's also And then Opi responds, I probably ask
the wrong question. I won't cut them out. I was
just wondering if I'd be the a hole for not
showing up. I won't lie. I'm still grieving and kind
of want to spend it with my aunt, my dad's sister,
because she's been a mother figure ever since my actual
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mom left me. And Ope also responded to another commoner saying,
I worded this wrong. Should have said it more as
me not going to them this holiday. I appreciate what
they've done for me, and cutting them out isn't really
something I want to do. Commoner says, what do you
have to lose? My opinion is just go for it.
By reaching out to you, it probably means she likes
you at least a little bit and obviously cares for
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your well being. If she wants to put food in
your bellet, Opie says, I like your style. I'll I'll
try and go and see what happens. Oh, okay, now
it seems like Opie is going to Christmas dinner.
Speaker 3 (42:38):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (42:38):
Everyone was like, don't cut them off to it, and
she was like, I wasn't planning to. I guess. Okay.
Speaker 3 (42:44):
Kind of awkward right now.
Speaker 1 (42:45):
Yeah, there is no ill will for either. And I
do respect my stepsister a bit because she had to
deal with me being a rebellious nod my teen years
and she could have defe hated me for that and
she didn't. And sorry about your dad too. I talked
to him every day, even if it was like a
five second good morning. He tried his damnedest to give
me the best because my mom was harmfules heck, and
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just abandoned me, And another commoner says, not the ale.
It's understandable that you don't want to spend the rest
of your life trying to force a relationship with people
you don't really have a deep connection with. But I
do think it's lovely that they helped you with the
funeral arrangements and invited you for Christmas even though they
weren't obligated to, so clearly they're not bad people. Perhaps
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just keep them on your Christmas and Birthday card list
and check in on them every now and then we
got clickbaited. I thought everything's fine. Yeah, I mean, I
op you lost your father, which is awful, but uh,
in terms like of the step family, there seemed pretty chill.
And Opie's like, I don't know, I just I wasn't
up for it this year, but maybe I'll be good
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by Thanksgiving next year. Yeah, they're better be a turn.
Speaker 3 (43:51):
There better be a turn for the worst. And people
on crazy yeah cutget to wheels.
Speaker 1 (43:58):
This update would be wild. Something's gonna happen, and Opie says,
I like that idea. There is no ill will for
either of them, but I feel no love for them,
though I do respect my stepsister for what I put
her through, with the constant fighting and still being at
the very least cordial. Omer says, not the ale, since
you have to grieve your own way, but keep in
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mind that they are grieving too and might want you
there to patch things up and have a fresh start.
Opie says, I know I want to be there. I
know I wasn't an easy teen, and I'm forever grateful
for my step mom not hating me for it or
my stepsister not resenting me for it. I won't be
able to make it to this holiday, but I want
to be there for them because I really am the
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only male family figure either of them have now, and
Opie's male. I didn't know that. I didn't know that either,
but there is an update. Oh boy, I decided not
to cut my step family out of my life. I
thought that was on the table. Opie's like, I've decided
to get you said that it wasn't even gonna happen
to get Yeah. Literally, She's like, I'm gonna cut them back,
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and then she's like, guys, guys, I don't know where
you got that idea from. I'm not gonna what the
guy sorry, He's like, I don't know where you got
that idea from. I was never going to cut them out.
And then here he is again, and bro my second
question if I was day whole, if I go or not,
and people say, it's up to me. So I went
to my stepmom's place for Christmas. This was my first
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time with my stepmom and stepsister without my dad. It
was super hard because I sat in the seat he
always sat on, and I just broke down crying. I
am forever grateful for both my stepsister and stepmom. Whoa
because we all just had a group hog on our
couch while I bawled my eyes out. Stop wait oh,
if he's like, that's okay. I didn't want to say
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it earlier, but I felt like I think Ope and
step family just kind of misunderstood each other when they
were growing up, and he never really gave them a chance.
And then when he was you know, it's he left
at eighteen. It's been you know, a couple of years.
Now he's twenty four, and I feel like you've matured
and they've also, you know, realized that space. Yeah, you've
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had some space and you have this loss that you
all have experienced for this person that you all love.
And I was like, yeah, maybe you could probably give
them another chance. And it seems like you did.
Speaker 3 (46:14):
This is cute. I love it. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (46:16):
Sometimes you feel like you want to be alone after
like a terrible thing happens, or just like you're very sad, but.
Speaker 3 (46:22):
That's not what you should do.
Speaker 1 (46:24):
Then you realize that, oh wow, actually, when I'm with people,
it's it's so much better and I don't have to
sit in my sadness.
Speaker 3 (46:30):
You have to go hang out with your stepmom. That's
always one relationship exactly. Just do that, Just do it.
Speaker 1 (46:36):
We had brunch and it went well, though I was
holding in tears for the whole thing. This was the
first time I could see that they actually did care
for me, and I care for them. They're my family.
I didn't stay the night because I define couldn't do that,
but I left around eleven at night. This was the
first time I felt like a full family unit and
not the bad kid who fought with my stepmom and
wasn't the nicest to my stepsister. I thanks them so
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much much for not holding a grudge. When I went
through my teen rebel phase, I hugged them both goodbye
and went home. I feel like me giving them a
shot and going to my dad's place helped me realize
that these are the people who have always been there
for me. I mean, they were the ones who didn't
give up on me when I was a troubled teen,
and I love them both for its Oh do you
(47:20):
have any finals, dude?
Speaker 3 (47:22):
Just misinterpretation. This shows that space helps them absolutely.
Speaker 1 (47:28):
And also, don't like I think that a lot of times,
you know, we hold on to the grudges or the
feelings that we had when we were teenagers, which are
heavily influenced by being a teenager, and now you're an
adult and you're gonna have different feelings and thoughts.
Speaker 3 (47:44):
And give people a chance. I remember, right before I
left for college, I was pretty like me and my
mom were just like button heads with about everything. And
then I left for college and things seemed to chill out.
And then it got rough for a little bit because
I didn't have like the best relationship with another woman.
My mom didn't like that. But other than that, everything
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was fine. Yeah, and we're cool now, but it takes
it took a little bit for us to be on
the safe.
Speaker 1 (48:09):
Yeah. Now, as you grow, you your relationships change, That's true.
I text my stepsister almost daily now. This is so sweet,
even if it's just a good morning or I have
a day off and I call my step mom a
bit two now, but it goes a bit deeper, and
I've started to really trust her like a boss.
Speaker 3 (48:27):
That's what you guys always wanted all.
Speaker 1 (48:31):
Thank you all for the advice and to not cut
them out, because it really did help me realize that
we are a family. We have been since I was eight,
and I love and care for both of them very much.
Comeder says, you, sir, just grew up. Feels good, doesn't it.
I got closer to my stepmother when I warmed her
at a burial in the up of Michigan. Well, my
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father was mourning the loss of his parents. Put the
pass behind you. You want a good grandmother in your kids'
lives when you have kids, Opie says, I. I was
a bad kid and brother growing up, and I regret that.
I'm so glad neither of them held that against me
and just saw it as a Brady teen. Once I
have kids, I think having a good aunt and grandma
will be awesome for them. Yeah. Yeah, this is great,
(49:16):
so good.
Speaker 3 (49:17):
You're crying.
Speaker 1 (49:18):
I'm not crying. I'm not crying. Shut up. I'm just
so sweet. I love this. I love love family. This
is they're so cute. Like again, like Opie. Really, I
like to think that, like Opie's dad is, you know,
look good it because this is probably what he always wanted,
all the people he loved to be connected, and he's like,
you know, like loss is really hard, but also out
(49:41):
of loss you get like this beautiful you know, coming together.
Speaker 3 (49:45):
Personally, not a fan of this story. I like it
because I want I need more disruption and more things
like that we're wrong everything.
Speaker 1 (49:58):
He just every I went right.
Speaker 3 (50:01):
He just had a concern and he figured it out
and it was great.
Speaker 1 (50:04):
Yeah. You know what, sometimes we used the reminder that
not everything is gonna get worse and worse and worse.
Speaker 3 (50:09):
Nah, that's not what I'm here for, No way, I'm
here for.
Speaker 1 (50:13):
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Speaker 3 (00:17):
My family pranked me and now I'm through with them.
Speaker 1 (00:21):
No jokes.
Speaker 3 (00:23):
I twenty seven female. I've always had a complicated relationship
with my family. They've always been the type of people
who think any joke is fine as long as someone laughs,
no matter who gets hurt. Over the years, I've tried
to brush it off and not let it bother me
too much. But this time they cross the line. I
can't ignore it. By the way, this comes from Spiritual
(00:44):
Ad fifty en. If you want to spend your own stories,
go to the RCI Showcase stories. I'm Subreddit. I relate
a lot. No, I relate a lot trying to get
a laugh out of someone. Yeah, I know, but none
at someone's cost.
Speaker 1 (00:55):
Oh really? Uh huh yeah, yeah, don't at anyone's cost.
That didn't hurt you though it hurt my pride.
Speaker 3 (01:06):
So recently, I achieved something big in my life. I
bought my first home after saving for years ingrat night.
It's something I worked incredibly hard for, sacrificing vacations, nights out,
and basically anything extra to make it happen.
Speaker 1 (01:20):
The prank is that they were they like, found a
random house, sold it to her, quote unquote, and then
she's like, yeah, I bought my first home. And then
they're like pranked. That was sake. We stole your money
and you don't have a house. And she's like, that's
a terrible thing you've done. It's so funny. Everyone's laughing. Uh.
Speaker 3 (01:43):
It's like the opposite of the bus when they were
like move that bus.
Speaker 1 (01:46):
Yeah, yeah, move that bus, there's nothing there.
Speaker 3 (01:50):
I was beyond proud of myself and excited to finally
have a place to call my own. Naturally, I wanted
to share this milestone with my family, even though our
relationship has always been a few weeks ago, we had
a family dinner to celebrate my new home. Everything seemed
fine at first. They congratulated me, asked about the house,
and seemed genuinely happy for me. But halfway through the night,
(02:11):
my brother thirty mail and sister twenty five female handed
me an envelope.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
Dude, was all right, I'm gonna be right.
Speaker 3 (02:19):
No. They said it was a surprise to help me
with my home.
Speaker 1 (02:23):
Oh oh okay.
Speaker 3 (02:25):
I see I'm lost, but I'm gonna keep you going.
I opened it and inside was what looked like a
legal notice stating my house purchase has been canceled because
of clerical error, that it was now being sold to
someone else. It even had an official looking letterhead, my
name and details about the house.
Speaker 1 (02:46):
Wait, so the brink is just the opposite of what
I said the break was gonna be. They just said
that you don't have a house.
Speaker 3 (02:54):
The banks take it back the house, none of your
checks cleared.
Speaker 1 (02:57):
Oho? How did they approach that? They said, we have
im thinking for you. Okay, okay, bows is that I've
approached them?
Speaker 3 (03:03):
So this is what happened next. I was in complete shock.
Everyone around the table started laughing, and my brother yelled, gotcha.
Turns out they had a fake letter and thought it
would be hilarious to see my reaction. I burst into tears,
which only made them laugh harder. They even recorded the
whole thing on their phones and posted on social media.
What here's my thought one that was funny?
Speaker 1 (03:25):
What, Yeah, it was pretty funny. I would have I
would have laugh.
Speaker 3 (03:28):
I would have I would have done that, and I
would have been like, oh my gosh, it's good too
once you started crying, Yeah, jops over.
Speaker 1 (03:35):
Jokes over, Oh my god, I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry.
I thought you would, like, kid, it's not like she's sobbing,
Like that's insane given the context that I have, if
this was the only prank they've ever done, funny, but
since they always try to get it, Opie, the thing
is that you know that they have a prank channel
on YouTube all the time, Like if they're posting this
(03:57):
on social media, they absolutely have a break channel. And
it's like the worst thing that you've ever seen. Dude.
So okay, I will the only thing I'm gonna give,
not them per se, but I will critique about uop is,
why did you think your family had a Like wouldn't
(04:18):
it have gone to you? How did they get a
hold of it? Yeah, like I would have if I
knew that they were, you know, pranksters, And I can't
imagine it was a very good recreation, Like why did
you immediately believe that your family has somehow gotten hold
of a bank statement that just said hilarical error. You
(04:40):
don't have the house. Yeah, oh sorry, they said to
us rather than you. Yeah, I feel like your family
pranks it because you're really gullible. Not that not that
they're right for it, but I think you're an easy target,
op and they know that.
Speaker 3 (04:57):
Sensitive, so that's why.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
Yeah, you're easy it. Don't hurry good for that.
Speaker 3 (05:01):
Oh dang, my little brother's kind of like this. Yeah,
you'll get upset pretty easily. Just what it is. Okay.
When I finally managed to speak, I told them how
cruel this was. Buying this house is the biggest thing
I've ever done, and they turned into a joke at
my expense. Their response, you're so sensitive, it was just
a prank. Lighting up.
Speaker 1 (05:19):
Also, did they post that on social media immediately? Were
they like, oh, this is going on YouTube? Like how
did you know? And you know?
Speaker 3 (05:28):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (05:28):
Did you find it later? Probably later?
Speaker 3 (05:31):
Yeah, I left the dinner early, completely heartbroken at your
own house. I hate them worth slamming on, Opie, but dude,
you're making it easy, Like.
Speaker 1 (05:43):
Yeah, your family is mean and like kind of bullying you.
Speaker 3 (05:47):
I I have some more thoughts on this, but I'll
tell it later. A few days later, I decided I'd
had enough. This wasn't the first time they pulled a
prank like this. Over the years, they've humiliated me countless times,
once ruining a job interview outfit by accidentally spilling coffee
on it, another time pretending to lose my dog just
to see me panic.
Speaker 1 (06:08):
Okay, See, those those ones are not cool. Those ones
are much more. Honestly, those ones are much worse than
this one, because this one, I feel like, is so
like see through.
Speaker 3 (06:17):
Yeah, but this is the straw.
Speaker 1 (06:19):
Yeah, yeah, she's like anymore.
Speaker 3 (06:22):
I cut off all contact. I didn't make a scene.
I just stopped responding to messages, blocked them on social media,
and decline invites to family events. Now I'm getting guilt
tripping messages from extended family saying I'm being selfish and
tearing the family apart. My mom even left me a
voicemail crying about how much she misses me and begging
me to come back. But I can't bring myself to
(06:43):
forgive them. This prank felt like the final straw, and
I don't see how I can trust them again. So raddit.
Am I the a hole for cutting off my family
over this prank? Like Sophia said, not the worst one.
But if the dynamic in the family is always you're
the butt of the.
Speaker 1 (06:58):
Joke, it's not fun. It's not fun. Yeah, Like it
feels like in if this were just that joke alone,
I'd be like, well, cutting your family off is pretty unreasonable.
But yeah, it seems like it's been years and years
of this kind of behavior, so.
Speaker 3 (07:14):
It makes sense the set of boundary. Some people go
no contact and then over time.
Speaker 1 (07:19):
Yeah, maybe it's like they realized that, you know, they
shouldn't treat you like this, and you can kind of
just go to limiting contact and you know, you can
always change it.
Speaker 3 (07:30):
Yeah, having a serious conversation with people, yeah, will be good.
Speaker 1 (07:33):
They like, this is what happens when you treat me
like this. Yeah, I will consider contact, But there needs
to be a whole lot of change.
Speaker 3 (07:41):
Gotta be another butt around here, because that can't be
the only one. It's not making fun of brother.
Speaker 1 (07:46):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (07:47):
Top comment best comment is fifteen says you're rightfully upset
because it wasn't a brank, it was bullying. It was
just a joke. Bs is something every bully does to
justify humiliating people. Okay, this was a humiliation tactic. Yeah,
they thought it would be fun to upset you on
your big night and then take videos of it and
post it on social media. And your mom is crying
(08:08):
that she misses you. No, she had an opportunity there
to rip them a new one about their behavior and
treating you with kindness and respect, and she thought it
would be better to go along with a prank. You
deserve much better than this. I'm glad you finally desired
call an into their bullying. Don't let them in or
extend any family members pressure you into doing anything you
(08:29):
don't want to do. I'm sorry that they couldn't Just
let you be happy for your achievement. Congrats on the
new home. We just got an update from Ope.
Speaker 1 (08:38):
I think that the family is going to try a
lot harder to get back into her life. Yeah. I
feel like this might end with her kind of reconciling
with some family members and then we'll find out that,
like some family members suck more than others. I like that.
So we're aheaded But just just hold your boundaries strong. Yeah,
that's kind of the main thing. Whether you're you know,
(09:01):
gonna go back into ear like have contact with them
or not. Just make sure you know what your boundaries are.
They know what your boundaries are, and then you go
for it.
Speaker 3 (09:09):
Step by step. Right there you update. Thank you all
for the advice and support. I want to provide an
update because things have escalated in ways I never expounded no.
After I went no contact with my family, I thought
they'd eventually accept my decision and move on. But that
hasn't been the case.
Speaker 1 (09:26):
They're like, now we're pranking her for real.
Speaker 3 (09:29):
Watch out, we'll see how your car works without breaks. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (09:32):
Literally, They're like, oh, you thought that was bad. Now
that you're no contact with us, you got we had
nothing protecting.
Speaker 3 (09:40):
You, whatever protector in the first place. Then that's the case.
Speaker 1 (09:45):
Some familial bond.
Speaker 3 (09:47):
For the past few weeks, my brother and sister have
been trying to get me to see the funny side
of their prank. They've shown up in my house uninvited
multiple times, banging on the door and demanding to talk
to me. At first, I ignored them, but it became
clear they weren't going to stop. One evening, I caught
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them standing outside my house with their phones out, recording
themselves while yelling things like she can't take a joke
and let's see how long she can hide. It felt
more like pestrumint than an attempt to reconcile.
Speaker 1 (10:21):
I think that they're doing all of this for their
YouTube channel. Really yeah, like OP is their main source
of content. Oh and they need they need their star back.
Speaker 3 (10:31):
Oh shoot, so we're gonna keep this thing going with
that her.
Speaker 1 (10:34):
They make so much money from OP And now she's
she's gone, and all the all the commenters are like, wait,
where'd OP go? What happened with OPI They're like, we
can't let them know that we've we've badgered her until
she caught contact.
Speaker 3 (10:50):
The final straw came when I discovered my car I'd
been egged overnight.
Speaker 1 (10:54):
It can't stop, and.
Speaker 3 (10:55):
My security camera caught my brother and sister doing it.
I confronted them through text, telling them they crossed the
line and needed to stop. That response, You're so dramatic,
you're going to laugh about this one day, dude.
Speaker 1 (11:08):
I think you need to go full you either you
have two options, police or full force. Attack them back.
You start, you start leaving. I don't know, like nare
in the champoo bottle. Yeah, your tepee the house.
Speaker 3 (11:28):
Honestly, you just get a couple of boys and give
them some money.
Speaker 1 (11:30):
Yeah, you say, hey, I got a job. Hey, you kid,
I get a job for you. Use an address, go.
Speaker 3 (11:39):
Wild, do things I never thought about doing.
Speaker 1 (11:41):
Yeah, yeah, I trusted kids.
Speaker 3 (11:43):
At this point, I realized I couldn't handle this on
my own. I went to the police and filed a report.
She went with the option number one and find a
report for PESTRUMNT. He took my statement, reviewed the footage
from my security camera, and agreed that this behavior was unacceptable.
My siblings were contacted and warned to stay away from me.
(12:05):
Their reaction more mocking responses and calling me a snitch
and accusing me of tearing the family apart. Some of
my extended family members are siding with them, saying I
should have just talked it out instead of involving the police,
but others, especially those who have seen the footage, are
horrified and fully support my decision.
Speaker 1 (12:26):
Well, yeah, the reasonable people in your family exactly what
I said. I was like, some people are gonna prove
that they're better than you thought, and some people like
your brother and sister are you to prove that they're
a whole lot worse.
Speaker 3 (12:37):
Yeah. This ah ah for a mix of relief and sadness.
It's hard to accept that my own family treat me
this way, but I also feel safe for knowing I've
taken steps to protect myself. I'm focusing on building a
new life in my home and surrounding myself with people
who respect them and support me.
Speaker 1 (12:57):
Nice.
Speaker 3 (12:57):
All right, and we sadly have another update.
Speaker 1 (13:00):
Oh no, no, Ophie, I hope it ends with you.
I don't know, like moving, Well, no, you just buy
your house? Can sure? She's worked so hard? Yeah, just
get one of those really intense security systems that like
there's like a trip wire and everything, and like there's
like dogs. Yeah yeah. And I was like, you have
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just crossed the trip It's like and the police are
called every time you trip the trip wire.
Speaker 3 (13:28):
Ding. Oh I thought there'd be like a trap way
foremast Oh no, no, no, no, like Dennis the minist
of the house.
Speaker 1 (13:34):
Oh like holdlone Yeah yeah, yeah, you could home alone
your house, I guess if you.
Speaker 3 (13:38):
Want to, dude, some of those are cruel.
Speaker 1 (13:40):
I mean a lot of the home alone shops are
pretty off intense. You could die. Yeah, I'm surprised that
the burgers didn't. Yeah, they too.
Speaker 3 (13:51):
Nearly three months later, I know I have updated in
a while, and honestly, it's because dealing with all of
this has been exhausting. Even after finally the police report,
my brother and sister wouldn't let up. I wanted to
believe they'd eventually get bored and move on, but instead
they doubled down. Oh, the mocking messages didn't stop. They
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even bragged about the warning they received, creating it like
a joke, because everything is a joke.
Speaker 1 (14:16):
Yeah, they're posting on their on their channel. I just
got the police just freaking gave me a warning. Oh
like I'm gonna listen to that. My extended family will
still split. Some still told me I was overreacting, while
others admitted they were disturbed by my siblings behavior.
Speaker 3 (14:34):
Then things escalated. My security cameras caught them trespassing on
my property again, this time leaving a massive toilet paper
and shaving cream all over my driveway. That was finally strong.
I went back to the police and provided the new
footage showing that they had ignored the warning. This time,
I filed for restraining word I feel like.
Speaker 1 (14:56):
It's come to that. Hey, they can't stop bothering you.
That's what you gotta do something.
Speaker 3 (15:00):
Yeah, I had more than enough evidence to prove that
their behavior was escalating, and after presenting everything security footage,
text messages, and police reports to the judge, they granted it.
They were legally ordered to stay away from me, my home,
and my workplace.
Speaker 1 (15:17):
Yeah, there we go. Tucks that I had to come
to that.
Speaker 3 (15:21):
But you know, but how did they respond?
Speaker 1 (15:24):
Oh?
Speaker 3 (15:24):
Not well, of course they acted like it was a joke.
But then they realized I wasn't playing their game anymore.
The pestimen had finally stopped. The restraining order forced them
to keep their distance, and for the first time in
a long time, I felt safe, sensing a butt.
Speaker 1 (15:41):
I'm a little bit worried that they are not gonna
listen to this. The restraining orders last forever six months
to five years.
Speaker 3 (15:48):
Okay, so no, so are Yeah, this can be increased
or decrease at the dissertation of the court. Mm hmm,
just saying, yeah, So I guess it's Hey, we're gonna
give two year restraining worders.
Speaker 1 (15:59):
Yeah, so they might come back around in two years
or something. So just keep an eye on them and
hopefully they listen to the law if they're not going
to listen to you.
Speaker 3 (16:08):
Some family members still don't understand why I had to
take things this far, but I don't need their approval.
I did what I had to protect myself. So a
Google slide goes a long way.
Speaker 1 (16:18):
Yeah, you just show all the evidence of what your
sister and brother have been doing, and you just send
it to everyone. Don't you say, Hey, anyone who thinks
that you know this is not serious, Here you go.
Speaker 3 (16:30):
My home is now a place of peace, not anxiety.
My phone is quiet, my life is my own. Again,
to anyone dealing with toxic family members who refuse to
respect your boundaries, don't be afraid to stand up for yourself.
You are not obligated to tolerate mistreatment just because it
comes from family. Your safety and well being come first,
And if they want to call me a snitch for
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defending myself, so be it. I'd rather be a snitch
than a doormat. Stay Strong's strong, that's it.
Speaker 1 (16:59):
Well, here you go. Okay, well, hopey, I'm proud of
you too. You know you couldn't it like it was
too much. They kept pushing you. So you stood up
for yourself and that's and now like half your family
at least is realizing that you know, that's not okay,
And yeah, you were treated was not okay.
Speaker 3 (17:18):
Yeah, not at all, dude. I thought the joke was
all right.
Speaker 1 (17:23):
Yeah, well the first joke, I was like, well, it's
like a bad joke, but it's not like so so serious.
But coupled with everything else over the line, yeah yeah,
get it hit.
Speaker 3 (17:34):
If you're gonna pull a joke, make sure it's funny.
Speaker 1 (17:36):
Come on, make sure everyone's I don't know, just get
everyone in on it.
Speaker 3 (17:40):
See that story, got another one coming for you.
Speaker 1 (17:43):
John.
Speaker 2 (17:43):
Here, we're gonna get back to this juicy story, but
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Speaker 1 (17:48):
My sister demanded a larger share of our inheritance, but
I refuse, no more money for you. So I twenty
eight mail, recently lost my father. It was a really
tough time, but we knew it was coming because he
had been sick for a while before he passed. He
made it clear in his will that I would inherit
the majority of his estate, including his house and a
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significant amount of money. My sister twenty five. Female would
receive a smaller amount, mostly sentimental items and a bit
of cash. By the way, this comes from Feisty Implement
sixty eight, twenty three and if you want to sumit
your own stories, go to the r slash. Okay, story
time separated. So here's the thing. My sister and my
dad didn't have a good relationship. She moved out when
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she was eighteen and they barely spoke after that. My
dad tried to reconnect several times, but she always shut
him down. I, on the other hand, took care of
him during his illness, visiting him almost every day and
handling all his medical appointments. Now my sister's furious. She's
calling me selfish and saying that it's unfair she got
(18:55):
so little. She thinks I should split the inheritance fifty
to fifty. I told her I respected Dad's wishes and
that I don't think it's my responsibility to change what
he wanted, especially given the circumstance.
Speaker 3 (19:07):
Yeah, because again I'm gonna say it transactional. Yeah, what
was a relationship like with dad and sister? Was it
very transactional? Why did she move out?
Speaker 1 (19:19):
Yeah, it seems like they didn't have the best relationship.
My first immediate advice before we haven't really gotten too
far into it, is if you have a good relationship
with your sister and you want to continue having a
good relationship with your sister fifty five, Yeah, if you
don't and you don't really care about it, and you
think that she's only trying to get the money and
(19:40):
she doesn't actually want a relationship with you, and keep
it the way.
Speaker 3 (19:43):
It is interesting, that's kind of my este I would
keep what is given. I mean, if like I have
three houses, my sister doesn't have. I have a house,
I have a good relationship with her, I'd give her
a house.
Speaker 1 (19:56):
Well, I'm just thinking, like if I had this same
relationship with my brother but I do now and I
found out that I was going to be given like
let's say it was gonna be like seventy thirty or
like sixty forty or something, I personally would be like,
you know what, I love my brother fifty to fifty Okay,
but if I have the relationship that oh he probably
has with his sister, which is you will okay now.
Speaker 3 (20:20):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (20:20):
She argues that family is family and it's not fair
to punish her for their strange relationship, But I think
it's not my fault they didn't get along.
Speaker 3 (20:28):
Yeah, don't pull that stitch crap on me.
Speaker 1 (20:30):
You know, Hanna, he had years to fix things with him,
but she chose not to My mom they're divorced. Is
on her side, saying that I should do the right
thing and give her more money to keep the peace,
buy her silence. Some friends agree with her, while others
think I'm justified in keeping what I was given. So
(20:50):
am I the a hole for not wanting to share
my inheritance with my sister?
Speaker 3 (20:54):
Pros and gons list? Yeah, pro more money, he shuts up.
If you split it firstwoting bro, she shows up, Colin
get a lot less money.
Speaker 1 (21:03):
I also do. We I don't think it's say you
know what the split is?
Speaker 3 (21:09):
No, Yeah, but she got a lot more than than
you sister did. Yeah, so I'm gonna say maybe like
eighty twenties, but.
Speaker 1 (21:18):
Yeah, probably it seems like, yeah, she's pretty upset, So yeah,
I think again, I have the same thoughts. If you
want that relationship, if you have a good one, already
do the fifty to fifty if you don't, And she's
just kind of money, you know, money hungry, and you're like, oh,
she actually doesn't really care about having a relationship with
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me at all. This was my dad's wishes. Who am
I to say no to what he wants? Yeah, and
it's I've seen some comments saying this is fake from
the out key details. So let me clear a few
things up. First. About my sister's estrangements. It wasn't something
that happened overnight. After my parents' divorce. She sided heavily
(22:02):
with my mom and gradually distance herself from our dad.
She blamed him for their splits, and even though Dad
tried to reconcile over the years, she was unwilling to
meet him halfway. I'm not saying she's a bad person.
Divorces are messy, but it's not like Dad cut her
off for no reason. Second, I know some of you
might think Dad was playing favorites, but I don't see
(22:23):
it that way. I think he divided things based on
who was there for him in his final years. It
wasn't about punishment, it was about recognition. Lastly, for those
saying I'm conveniently painting myself as the golden child, I
promise that's not my intention. My sister had her reasons
for stepping back, but I stepped up because I felt
it was the right thing to do. That's why this
(22:45):
situation is so hard. I'm trying to honor my dad's wishes,
but I also don't want to completely ruin my relationship
with my sister. Hope this clears up some of the gaps.
And why did my parents get divorced? My parents divorce
happened when I was twelve and my sister was nine.
It wasn't one big event. It was a combination of things.
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My dad worked long hours running his own business, and
my mom felt neglected. She also said Dad had a
controlling personality, which caused a lot of tension. Oka On
the other hand, Dad felt Mom wasn't supportive of his
career and resented him for working so much. Eventually, they
just couldn't make it work and they decided to separate. Okay,
my sister blamed Dad for the divorce because in her eyes,
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he was the one who chose work over family. Mom
didn't exactly help. She would make comments about how Dad
cared more about his business than his kids. I think
this shaped my sister's perspective and made her more distant
from him, I see, yeah.
Speaker 3 (23:44):
And family is family. She's the reason she brought that up.
He's choosing you over.
Speaker 1 (23:51):
Her, which I think in some ways it might feel
like that's what OP is doing to her again of
like choosing this money or or her you know, their
dad over her again over yeah god, yeah, And I
feel like maybe she's sensing feeling that betrayal. I there's
there's more and more questions. I hope he's gonna answer.
(24:12):
I do think that you could have a sit down, like,
don't involve your mom, don't involve other family members, say like, hey,
I'm sup working this out. Just sit down with your sister,
say like this is why dad gave me this money. Yeah,
I you know, I was helping them out for a
long time. And I understand that you had a difficult
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relationship with dad and that's kind of your own thing.
And yeah, like have that mature conversation if you want to, again,
if you want to kind of make sure that your
your relationship with your sister doesn't completely break down. If
you don't want to do fifty to fifty, maybe you
just increase it a little bit. Yeah, yeah, Like if
it's like eighty twenty, maybe it goes to like seventy
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thirty or so. You know, that's not saying that you
have to do this. We're legally entitled to that money,
but throw the talent. I think, I think there is
a way where you I don't know, I just feel
like a piece then like, oh, well, you know, I
don't want to dishonor my dad's wishes. And at the
end of the day, it is like, you want the money,
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which is fair, and you were given the money because
you're legally entitled to it. But yeah, I just think,
see if you can save this relationship if you want
to with your sister. Yeah, and that doesn't necessarily mean
just giving her all the money. It just means having
a conversation. It's good. It was a really good thought.
And also you can ask why does she need this money,
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because you know, is there something going on in her life?
And maybe it's not I'm going to go to fifty
to fifty, but I absolutely will help you if there
is something that you need, like the sister's in idle
to this money, yeah, or she thinks she is when
it legally she's not not. Yeah, there's just a lot
of things that went wrong. The Dad kept trying to
reach out. Yeah, you didn't want to talk to him.
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It's a divorce. It didn't work out. Why were my
sister and dad so conflicted? After the divorce? I stayed
with Dad while my sister lived with mom. Dad tried
to stay involved in her life, but the distance, both
physical and emotional, made things harder. Over time, my sister
started avoiding him. For example, he'd call her but she
wouldn't pick up. He'd send gifts or letters, and she'd
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never acknowledge them. One of the big breaking points came
when she graduated high school. Dad showed up through her
graduation uninvited because he wanted to celebrate her, but she
got upset and accused him of trying to make it
about himself. After that, they barely spoke. Why didn't my
sister visit when Dad was sick? This is something only
my sister can fully explain, but I think it goes
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back to their strain relationship. By the time Dad got sick,
they hadn't spoken in years. I reached out to her
multiple times, telling her how serious things were, but she
said she wasn't ready to see him. Dad was hurt,
but never angry. He just said she asked to come
on her own terms. Unfortunately she never did Dan that.
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I mean, she's gonna regret that of Actually, if she
doesn't already.
Speaker 3 (27:07):
I have hundreds to wipe her tears with.
Speaker 1 (27:09):
No, and that is her own cross to bear, not yours.
But yeah, I just again, don't sacrifice this relationship with
your sister until you're very sure that it needs to
be sacrificed or it needs to be you know ended.
Why didn't Dad just leave everything fifty to fifty? I
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asked myself this too. I think Dad felt the inheritance
should reflect the relationships he had. He knew I had
been there for him throughout his illness, and he wanted
to recognize that. At the same time, he didn't want
to completely exclude my sister, which is why he left
her sentimental items and some money. I don't think it
was about punishing her. I think he just wanted to
acknowledge the reality of her family dynamic. Hope this clears
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up some of the questions people have been asking, and
there is an update, But do you have any thoughts
before we jump in?
Speaker 3 (28:01):
I think the sister is gonna come harder. They're doubling down. Yeah,
what do you what do you call it? Whenever old
people try to sign things but they aren't of their mind.
Speaker 1 (28:10):
Oh like yeah, like he wasn't it Yeah, basically today
right by and to be able to sign that, Yeah, he.
Speaker 3 (28:17):
Wasn't all there.
Speaker 1 (28:17):
She checked him to give him all the money. Yeah. Yeah.
I think I'm still of the try and see if
you can communicate with your sister, have the conversation. But
you know, she might just want that money. You might
just be after that money. I also do think, like
op he was saying, like, oh, I don't think my
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dad was punishing her. I think it was just reflecting.
I think it like it is kind of a punishment.
You know. It's like you weren't there for me, so
you don't get this money. That's not to say that
it isn't valid, but she's gonna see it that way
because it is. You know, she didn't do something, so
she doesn't get the money. Yeah, and that's in a way,
you know, and she has to live with that again.
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She doesn't get to I have that moment with her
dad and reconciliation, doesn't get this money because she wasn't there.
Speaker 3 (29:07):
Yeah, And I don't think it was fair both ways.
I think the sister of views things in one way
and the other.
Speaker 1 (29:13):
Yes, absolutely, divorce is tricky on kids and adults alike updates.
After thinking it through and reading a lot of your comments,
I've decided I'm not giving my sister anything beyond what
Dad left her. His will was clear, and I'm not
going to disrespect his wishes to appease someone who didn't
even bother to visit him when he was passing away.
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I tried to be reasonable and explain my side, but
it's pointless. My sister is still sending me nasty texts,
calling me names, and acting like I stole from her.
My mom is no better. She basically turned this into
a full on guilt trip, saying things like you're tearing
this family apart and you're just like your father. Honestly,
if being just like dad means standing my ground, I'll
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take it as a compliment. I think you living with
your dad and your sister living with your mom, you
have like cemented those kind of relationships.
Speaker 3 (30:09):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (30:09):
I think your mom was always going to side with
your sister because you, in her mind, probably sided with
your dad. Yeah, and she has a lot of resentment
towards him. Literally. Yeah, at this point, I'm done trying
to keep the peace. They can say whatever they want
about me not changing my mind. I'm gonna do what
I want with the inheritance and move on with my life.
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If that means cutting some people off, so be it.
To everyone who says I'm not the ale. Thank you.
Feels good to have some validation. Now I'm focusing on
honoring Dad's memory and making the most of what he left.
And there is a second update. Oh my gosh, do
you think sister's gonna get worse, gonna double down or
I guess now triple down or have a change of heart.
Speaker 3 (30:51):
Yeah, the sister's calling her names. There's nothing she can do.
Speaker 1 (30:55):
Right with the sister. Yeah, well legally no, so might
pester him a little bit or a lot of it.
Speaker 3 (31:02):
Okay, in which case you know, Yeah, yeah, the person was.
Speaker 1 (31:08):
Pranked a bunch.
Speaker 3 (31:09):
Yeah, here's that. Yeah, I think it's fine.
Speaker 1 (31:12):
Legally she can't do anything. Relationship wise, you might have. Yeah,
it seems like you're probably gonna lose that relationship. But
it doesn't seem like you want it though.
Speaker 3 (31:21):
Yeah, that's true. That's true.
Speaker 1 (31:24):
It seems like you kind of lost it when that
divorce happened already, dang sadly. Update two, So, six months
after my dad passed and the inheritance was finalized, my
sister completely lost it. I thought things were rough before,
but this took it to a whole new level. First,
she tried to sue me, No way. She claimed I
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manipulated dad, but you said into changing the will and
accused me of undue influence. Throw the roses, saying I
isolated her from him while he was sick and pressured
him while he was medicated.
Speaker 3 (31:59):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (32:00):
Absolutely, it was full of lies and reached so far.
I don't even know how she said it with a
straight face. She even had two friends of hers signed
statements saying they felt something was off, even though neither
of them were around our family.
Speaker 3 (32:14):
Yeah, just fill it in. The vibecond was just off.
Speaker 1 (32:18):
She wasn't even around her own father. How were they
around the father? How?
Speaker 3 (32:23):
Also, how a statement from two friends saying something fell off?
Good to do anything?
Speaker 1 (32:27):
It's not, That's the thing she's grasping for straws. Her
case got tossed quickly. Judge dismissed it with prejudice, so
she can't try again. I thought that would be the
end of it. Nope, and this is what I said.
She started pestering me. Yep, she did exactly what both
of us said. Constant texts, emails, calls from private numbers.
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She made burner accounts on social media and commented on
anything I posted, signed me up for mailing lists. And
then I walked outside one day and someone had spray
painted thief across my garage. I have cameras now, Yeah,
it was her Clara's day. Had to file a police
report and that's dyll in progress. Then she showed up
at the house while I was gone for the weekend,
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broke in through a back window. You wrecked the place,
ripped pictures off the wall, poured something on the couch,
smelled like bleach, broke furniture, went through drawers, dumped boxes
of my dad's stuff on the floor, left a note
on the bathroom mirror that just said you don't deserve this.
Thank you for the note that proves you were there.
Speaker 3 (33:30):
You idiots.
Speaker 1 (33:34):
She was capable of this. She absolutely did not deserve
any of this money. Yeah, I reported the break and
there's now a criminal case open against her. It gets worse. Wow, right,
After that, she started telling extended family and mutual friends
that I harmed her when we were younger. That's where
I draw the line. Yeah, you can sue her for
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freaking slander.
Speaker 3 (33:57):
Defamation, yeahinology. All right, Well, I guess we can do
a joint case.
Speaker 1 (34:03):
And then if she's writing anything, it's libel. It's not
just petty inheritance drama anymore. She crossed a line that
can't be uncrossed. I've never done anything like that, obviously,
and hearing that kind of accusation come from your own
sibling is something I don't think i'll ever process. I
have nothing to hide, and I've already spoken to a lawyer.
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If she says it publicly again, I'm filing a defamation suit.
Final thoughts.
Speaker 3 (34:29):
It's crazy that someone feels this entitled.
Speaker 1 (34:32):
Yeah to money that they didn't earn, money.
Speaker 3 (34:34):
That didn't earn, and they're gonna spend the rest of
their lives trying to get the money instead of building
well and getting well.
Speaker 1 (34:40):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (34:40):
As you can see, this is a trait of hers
and it's transactional. Yeah, and she wants things that doesn't like.
Of course, she wanted Tom with her dad, and that
was bad. That like, she didn't get that and things
didn't end up that way.
Speaker 1 (34:52):
But all this, yeah, I mean she made a choice,
did not visit her dad, and she was she was
an adult. You. She's twenty five now, so this was recent,
probably around twenty three or twenty four when she made
that decision to not go. Uh Op was there for
his dad the whole time. And then not only does
she have the audacity to demand this money, she then
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goes on to Lake Harass. Ope just terribly. I mean,
no normal person does that when they don't get something
they want. But there's a little bit left to the story. Ope,
you made the right decision, and it sucks that you
have to cut off your probably your mom too, your
mom and sister, but you know your piece is worth
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more than all this. My mom is still trying to
play both sides. She says things like, your sister's just
grieving in her own way, grieving someone she didn't see
for years, is grieving. As if that justifies any of this.
It doesn't. We're done. I've cut contact with both of them.
If there's a takeaway here, it's that people can spiral
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in ways you never expect when money and guilt get
mixed other. I kept thinking, surely this is the last straw,
but it just kept going. I'm tired, I'm angry, and
I'm done. I'll keep the house, I'll keep what Dad
left me, and I'll keep my distance. Right, look at that,
Look at that open Keep that house, keep your money.
Speaker 3 (36:19):
Wow, it's so crazy that after someone gets broken in. Yeah,
we had two stories. People get you know, things get
broken in, then they get security cameras. You think these
siblings would think a little bit, Well, they're clearly not smart.
Speaker 1 (36:32):
No, because I'm she's trying to file these like suits
that have no like no holding it all, like all terrible,
terrible weird. Yeah, like there's no ground for them to
stand on. And yet she's like, yeah, this's gotta work.
I'm gonna get all of this money that I have
no legal right to, dude, or I'm going to harass
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my brother until he files a police report and she
probably gets arrested.
Speaker 3 (36:58):
And honestly i'd counter, so.
Speaker 1 (37:01):
Well, yeah, now you can sue her for defamation, you
can see her for breaking into your house.
Speaker 3 (37:07):
Go through.
Speaker 1 (37:07):
Well, I think it's going through. I think filed criminal charges.
Speaker 3 (37:10):
So now it's she's going to be rested. Yeah, okay,
thank you.
Speaker 1 (37:13):
Oh yeah no, this is now a criminal case because
she's stupid enough to have like left. But folks, that
is the end of that story.
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Speaker 1 (37:30):
I want to cut off my step family after my
father passed away.
Speaker 3 (37:34):
I guess there's no reason you stick around them.
Speaker 1 (37:36):
My parents got a divorce when I was six, and
I haven't seen my mom since she was harmful. My
dad were married when I was eight. My stepmom wasn't harmful,
but we never clicked. She tried to be my new
mom right off the bat, and I found it weird,
and she didn't like how I wasn't opened to the
idea right away. By the way, this comes from cut
stepfam And if you want to sit your own stories,
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go to the r slash. Okay, storytime separated.
Speaker 3 (38:00):
Oh people are like cars. You just get a new
one and it's fine.
Speaker 1 (38:03):
And it's fine and they'll adjust immediately. She also had
a daughter who's one year younger than me. We didn't
hit it off either. Don't get me wrong, she's a
totally fine person, but as kids, she was the typical brat,
so I guess it made it hard for us to
really bond as kids.
Speaker 3 (38:18):
And then she had a sister that was just like her,
but they weren't as pretty as you. And then your
dad left and you always had to clean the house,
and then you met a prince. It's going to work
out for you.
Speaker 1 (38:27):
Once I hit my teens, I had a rough patch
of being rebellious and overall not a good person. My
dad gave me space like I needed, but my step
mom didn't see it that way, and we fought a
lot because of it. My stepsister was all right during
teen years. She got the more quiet and keep to yourself,
so we didn't really have any complex. But me and
my step mom didn't hit it off, and once I
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turned eighteen, I moved out first chance I got. I
am now twenty four and my dad sadly passed away
from cancer, so I didn't get along with my stepmom.
I never stopped loving my dad. He texted daily. When
I moved out. It was rough on me, and I
do appreciate my step mom helping me with the funeral,
but that was a couple of months ago, and I
haven't really talked to her since. My stepsister has invited
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me over for Christmas, and honestly, I don't know if
I want to go, not because I don't like them,
but because it's the same house that we grew up
in and it will remind me too much of my
dad and I'm still grieving.
Speaker 3 (39:23):
Oh.
Speaker 1 (39:24):
I know my stepsister and stepmom are too, but ef
it sucks because I don't know. I just want to
be left alone for some time to process because it
was only three months ago. Am I the a hole
if I don't show up to Christmas Day at my
stepmom's place? And there are some comments and an update,
But what do you think?
Speaker 3 (39:41):
I recently had sown pass and it was my dad,
it was my great grandfather, and I feel in that scenario,
i'd want to be there just to like grieve it
and let it all out.
Speaker 1 (39:52):
Yeah, this feels different because it's not like people that
she's emotionally attached to. It's kind of just people she's
been forced into p amity with.
Speaker 3 (40:00):
And they don't seem to have her best interest at mine.
It's sort of this is how I think things should
go about and you have to do that, and during
this grieving process it's such a very like sensitive time. Yeah,
and you kind of need a little bit of grace
more than you need to do this this.
Speaker 1 (40:19):
Yeah, I don't think that you should do anything just
because you're you think you're expected to or it's like, oh,
well I should see my stuff, And it's like, whatever
you need to get through this time is the most
important thing. And if they say, hey, you know, we
want you to come to Christmas dinner, you can just
say I appreciate the offer. It's really kind of you,
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but I think I want to take some time alone
to the process and that's okay. And if you don't
understand that, then you know you're not great people. I
mean next, No, you don't want to see them. Yeah,
it seems like you guys don't vibe. But it seems
like they're normal and not crazy for the most part, So.
Speaker 3 (40:56):
That moment's wanted a relationship with you. Yeah, nothing came naturally.
Speaker 1 (41:01):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (41:02):
Uh, that'st off.
Speaker 1 (41:03):
That's top comment, not the a hole. It was nice
of them to include you, but you, by all means
don't have to accept their offer. I'm sorry. For your loss.
If you need an excuse and want to potentially keep
the door open in case you change your mind in
the future, you can say you're still grieving and would
rather be alone, which is nice. Then so it's good advice.
Opie says, I'll say that I don't know what I
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want yet. I could one day feel like I miss
and want them, but not right now. My dad's sister,
my aunt, has been a great mother figure to me
once my bio mom left me and my dad, so
I call her my deaf immediate family. Comeder says, you
are not the a hole if you choose to cut
them out, but people change, and somewhere along the road
you will probably regret such a hard decision. Why even
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cut them out? They're a living bridge to your late dad.
He loved them, and he not only lives in your heart,
but there's also And then Opi responds, I probably ask
the wrong question. I won't cut them out. I was
just wondering if I'd be the a hole for not
showing up. I won't lie. I'm still grieving and kind
of want to spend it with my aunt, my dad's sister,
because she's been a mother figure ever since my actual
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mom left me. And Ope also responded to another commoner saying,
I worded this wrong. Should have said it more as
me not going to them this holiday. I appreciate what
they've done for me, and cutting them out isn't really
something I want to do. Commoner says, what do you
have to lose? My opinion is just go for it.
By reaching out to you, it probably means she likes
you at least a little bit and obviously cares for
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your well being. If she wants to put food in
your bellet, Opie says, I like your style. I'll I'll
try and go and see what happens. Oh, okay, now
it seems like Opie is going to Christmas dinner.
Speaker 3 (42:38):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (42:38):
Everyone was like, don't cut them off to it, and
she was like, I wasn't planning to. I guess. Okay.
Speaker 3 (42:44):
Kind of awkward right now.
Speaker 1 (42:45):
Yeah, there is no ill will for either. And I
do respect my stepsister a bit because she had to
deal with me being a rebellious nod my teen years
and she could have defe hated me for that and
she didn't. And sorry about your dad too. I talked
to him every day, even if it was like a
five second good morning. He tried his damnedest to give
me the best because my mom was harmfules heck, and
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just abandoned me, And another commoner says, not the ale.
It's understandable that you don't want to spend the rest
of your life trying to force a relationship with people
you don't really have a deep connection with. But I
do think it's lovely that they helped you with the
funeral arrangements and invited you for Christmas even though they
weren't obligated to, so clearly they're not bad people. Perhaps
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just keep them on your Christmas and Birthday card list
and check in on them every now and then we
got clickbaited. I thought everything's fine. Yeah, I mean, I
op you lost your father, which is awful, but uh,
in terms like of the step family, there seemed pretty chill.
And Opie's like, I don't know, I just I wasn't
up for it this year, but maybe I'll be good
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by Thanksgiving next year. Yeah, they're better be a turn.
Speaker 3 (43:51):
There better be a turn for the worst. And people
on crazy yeah cutget to wheels.
Speaker 1 (43:58):
This update would be wild. Something's gonna happen, and Opie says,
I like that idea. There is no ill will for
either of them, but I feel no love for them,
though I do respect my stepsister for what I put
her through, with the constant fighting and still being at
the very least cordial. Omer says, not the ale, since
you have to grieve your own way, but keep in
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mind that they are grieving too and might want you
there to patch things up and have a fresh start.
Opie says, I know I want to be there. I
know I wasn't an easy teen, and I'm forever grateful
for my step mom not hating me for it or
my stepsister not resenting me for it. I won't be
able to make it to this holiday, but I want
to be there for them because I really am the
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only male family figure either of them have now, and
Opie's male. I didn't know that. I didn't know that either,
but there is an update. Oh boy, I decided not
to cut my step family out of my life. I
thought that was on the table. Opie's like, I've decided
to get you said that it wasn't even gonna happen
to get Yeah. Literally, She's like, I'm gonna cut them back,
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and then she's like, guys, guys, I don't know where
you got that idea from. I'm not gonna what the
guy sorry, He's like, I don't know where you got
that idea from. I was never going to cut them out.
And then here he is again, and bro my second
question if I was day whole, if I go or not,
and people say, it's up to me. So I went
to my stepmom's place for Christmas. This was my first
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time with my stepmom and stepsister without my dad. It
was super hard because I sat in the seat he
always sat on, and I just broke down crying. I
am forever grateful for both my stepsister and stepmom. Whoa
because we all just had a group hog on our
couch while I bawled my eyes out. Stop wait oh,
if he's like, that's okay. I didn't want to say
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it earlier, but I felt like I think Ope and
step family just kind of misunderstood each other when they
were growing up, and he never really gave them a chance.
And then when he was you know, it's he left
at eighteen. It's been you know, a couple of years.
Now he's twenty four, and I feel like you've matured
and they've also, you know, realized that space. Yeah, you've
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had some space and you have this loss that you
all have experienced for this person that you all love.
And I was like, yeah, maybe you could probably give
them another chance. And it seems like you did.
Speaker 3 (46:14):
This is cute. I love it. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (46:16):
Sometimes you feel like you want to be alone after
like a terrible thing happens, or just like you're very sad, but.
Speaker 3 (46:22):
That's not what you should do.
Speaker 1 (46:24):
Then you realize that, oh wow, actually, when I'm with people,
it's it's so much better and I don't have to
sit in my sadness.
Speaker 3 (46:30):
You have to go hang out with your stepmom. That's
always one relationship exactly. Just do that, Just do it.
Speaker 1 (46:36):
We had brunch and it went well, though I was
holding in tears for the whole thing. This was the
first time I could see that they actually did care
for me, and I care for them. They're my family.
I didn't stay the night because I define couldn't do that,
but I left around eleven at night. This was the
first time I felt like a full family unit and
not the bad kid who fought with my stepmom and
wasn't the nicest to my stepsister. I thanks them so
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much much for not holding a grudge. When I went
through my teen rebel phase, I hugged them both goodbye
and went home. I feel like me giving them a
shot and going to my dad's place helped me realize
that these are the people who have always been there
for me. I mean, they were the ones who didn't
give up on me when I was a troubled teen,
and I love them both for its Oh do you
(47:20):
have any finals, dude?
Speaker 3 (47:22):
Just misinterpretation. This shows that space helps them absolutely.
Speaker 1 (47:28):
And also, don't like I think that a lot of times,
you know, we hold on to the grudges or the
feelings that we had when we were teenagers, which are
heavily influenced by being a teenager, and now you're an
adult and you're gonna have different feelings and thoughts.
Speaker 3 (47:44):
And give people a chance. I remember, right before I
left for college, I was pretty like me and my
mom were just like button heads with about everything. And
then I left for college and things seemed to chill out.
And then it got rough for a little bit because
I didn't have like the best relationship with another woman.
My mom didn't like that. But other than that, everything
(48:05):
was fine. Yeah, and we're cool now, but it takes
it took a little bit for us to be on
the safe.
Speaker 1 (48:09):
Yeah. Now, as you grow, you your relationships change, That's true.
I text my stepsister almost daily now. This is so sweet,
even if it's just a good morning or I have
a day off and I call my step mom a
bit two now, but it goes a bit deeper, and
I've started to really trust her like a boss.
Speaker 3 (48:27):
That's what you guys always wanted all.
Speaker 1 (48:31):
Thank you all for the advice and to not cut
them out, because it really did help me realize that
we are a family. We have been since I was eight,
and I love and care for both of them very much.
Comeder says, you, sir, just grew up. Feels good, doesn't it.
I got closer to my stepmother when I warmed her
at a burial in the up of Michigan. Well, my
(48:52):
father was mourning the loss of his parents. Put the
pass behind you. You want a good grandmother in your kids'
lives when you have kids, Opie says, I. I was
a bad kid and brother growing up, and I regret that.
I'm so glad neither of them held that against me
and just saw it as a Brady teen. Once I
have kids, I think having a good aunt and grandma
will be awesome for them. Yeah. Yeah, this is great,
(49:16):
so good.
Speaker 3 (49:17):
You're crying.
Speaker 1 (49:18):
I'm not crying. I'm not crying. Shut up. I'm just
so sweet. I love this. I love love family. This
is they're so cute. Like again, like Opie. Really, I
like to think that, like Opie's dad is, you know,
look good it because this is probably what he always wanted,
all the people he loved to be connected, and he's like,
you know, like loss is really hard, but also out
(49:41):
of loss you get like this beautiful you know, coming together.
Speaker 3 (49:45):
Personally, not a fan of this story. I like it
because I want I need more disruption and more things
like that we're wrong everything.
Speaker 1 (49:58):
He just every I went right.
Speaker 3 (50:01):
He just had a concern and he figured it out
and it was great.
Speaker 1 (50:04):
Yeah. You know what, sometimes we used the reminder that
not everything is gonna get worse and worse and worse.
Speaker 3 (50:09):
Nah, that's not what I'm here for, No way, I'm
here for.
Speaker 1 (50:13):
The t But that's the end of this episode. So
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