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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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for his new family. Did they have like treats and
games that were fun? I don't know.

Speaker 2 (00:20):
I'm fifteen, al living with my mom since she and
my dad fours. My dad just got married to a
woman with two sons thirteen and eight years old.

Speaker 3 (00:29):
They all moved into her house.

Speaker 2 (00:30):
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Speaker 3 (00:36):
I read it.

Speaker 2 (00:37):
Where I'm currently living with my mom isn't great, especially
compared to where my dad lives now. Even the schools
there are much better. My school doesn't send students to
E twenty while this other school sends students twenty, so
it's a huge difference.

Speaker 3 (00:51):
What does that even mean?

Speaker 1 (00:52):
I think that's like a different I'm gonna look it up.
There's like a different school system.

Speaker 3 (00:57):
Yeah, I think it might be twenty and twenty.

Speaker 1 (00:59):
I think I think that might be like in England,
potentially is.

Speaker 2 (01:04):
The alphabet involved, because what is a vedroom the scenario
or tea?

Speaker 1 (01:08):
They just it's just you have to say tea twenty times.
Oh top twenty universe, Okay, T twenty schools.

Speaker 3 (01:14):
Oh T twenty schools.

Speaker 1 (01:15):
Generally refers to the top twenty universities in the United States.
So they're saying that the schools that they could be
going to usually send a lot of students to those
top twenty.

Speaker 3 (01:25):
Well, I see, I see, I see.

Speaker 2 (01:26):
So this school so the school he's at, he won't
get that many opportunities.

Speaker 1 (01:29):
Right, it's like not as prestigious as like it's like
a pipeline to the prem de la Krem.

Speaker 3 (01:35):
That's how you are.

Speaker 2 (01:36):
That kid got a five point zero one with Yell
Scholarship hometown No. Five pun fact, Alexander County is the
most has the most racist high school in North Carolina.
Just found that out the other day. I was like, Wow,
that's that's why I didn't go there, but that that
would have been my school.

Speaker 1 (01:52):
Oh thank god I didn't go there.

Speaker 3 (01:54):
Yeah, I know, I know.

Speaker 2 (01:55):
John said be the change you want to be, and
I'm like, right, yeah, right, but anyways, Oh, that kid
made it out and he was he was Asian though,
and his mom.

Speaker 3 (02:02):
Sorry, I'm basically a cheat code.

Speaker 2 (02:04):
I'm just gonna say. His mom worked at Oriental Cafe.

Speaker 1 (02:07):
She had a restaurant called Oriental Cafe, and my uncle
she knew that the racist would eat there, I guess,
so that's why she named it that. And every time
I went.

Speaker 3 (02:15):
One time in.

Speaker 2 (02:16):
Third grade, I went there and I had a seat. Okay, editor,
add this to the end. Okay, story time, I have
an okay story time.

Speaker 3 (02:22):
I'm gonna take you that. Okay, all right at that
part at the end.

Speaker 2 (02:25):
I got a C in third grade and I went
there and Helen was like.

Speaker 3 (02:29):
Oh no, why are you so sad? And I was like, I.

Speaker 1 (02:32):
Got a seat whatever. My mom was like, whatever, we're
giving you as and b's and season third grade, third grade.

Speaker 3 (02:37):
Yeah, that's crazy.

Speaker 2 (02:39):
Well that's why I got a seat. And then my
mom told her that, and she's like, oh, you see
my son over there. He's studying really hard, and he
had like five books and he was like had his
head in one and like his sister and his other
brother was over there doing the same thing.

Speaker 1 (02:50):
He had assistance. Yeah, he had, he had educational assistance.

Speaker 3 (02:54):
No, they were also studying their material.

Speaker 1 (02:56):
Oh yeah, yeah, sure, they also know they shared the
same brain. They were a high of mind probably.

Speaker 2 (03:01):
But he he got a scholarship and somehow I got
a five point Oh.

Speaker 1 (03:04):
Well, congratuate. I didn't even know you could get a five.
I just I thought four point oh, like four point something.
You could get a little bit over.

Speaker 3 (03:11):
Four, Like a four point five was the max.

Speaker 1 (03:13):
Five the school I went to teach all the classes
at Yale at that point, he.

Speaker 3 (03:18):
Was the man.

Speaker 2 (03:19):
I talked to my mom about it, and she thought
it might be a good idea for me to live
with my dad for the sake of the better school.

Speaker 3 (03:24):
So I brought up the idea my dad.

Speaker 1 (03:26):
He told me.

Speaker 2 (03:28):
He needed to think about it and he would get
back to me after a few days. Told me it
wasn't possible Nashurally. I asked why, and he explained that
their house only has three bedrooms, theirs and one for
each of his son's. He said, this is a new
phase in their lives and they need some time. We
just living together.

Speaker 1 (03:46):
Oh it just it just did that sucks feels wrong?

Speaker 2 (03:52):
Yeah, yeah, you know, just seem to live with one
another without you, right, It's like you're the whole reason is.

Speaker 1 (04:00):
It's like, well, they could adjust to me being there
as well. It's like, what do you mean you have
to adjust? Just seems very dismissive as well.

Speaker 2 (04:06):
He also mentioned my step brothers and I haven't spent
much time together, so there's a chance of conflicts arising.
He thinks I should get to know my stepbrothers better.
For making a big change that could disrupt the family dynamics.

Speaker 1 (04:20):
I have a This guy is just like, I don't
want to rock my own boat, so this feels like
it might cause problems for me, So I don't want
you to move here.

Speaker 2 (04:29):
I didn't agree with his answer, though, I told him
I'd be totally fine sharing a room with my thirteen
year old step brother, and we've never had any.

Speaker 3 (04:36):
Issues when we flung out.

Speaker 2 (04:37):
I also pointed out saying no to this opportunity could
seriously affect my college plans, given that the school in
that area is much better. I explained that I spent
a lot of time at school studying or in extracurricular activities,
so it will not impact a lot of family dynamics.
I'm very obedient and I'll do all the chores they
need at the house. I'll spend the weekends at my

(04:58):
mom's house. To his decision, really wanted to move in,
so I reached out to my grandparents and uncles, talked
to my dad. They had a chat with him. He
called me afterwards pretty angry. He said I should have
accepted his first answer, and now the whole family is
against him, thinking he's not acting correctly.

Speaker 3 (05:15):
Am I the a hole? Wow?

Speaker 2 (05:17):
You just got other people to call you out too,
That's why you're mad.

Speaker 1 (05:22):
I don't how can you get called out by your siblings,
as the dad and your parents, and then your response
is still to go back to your child and say
you shouldn't have done that. That's crazy and that is
pretty crazy.

Speaker 2 (05:36):
I went to a school that was forty five minutes
away from me, so I could, you know, be able
to have more college you know, activities and.

Speaker 3 (05:44):
Like, you know things.

Speaker 2 (05:45):
And I feel like this kid and I are the
same where you know, you get to school at like
seven point thirty and you're probably gonna be there until
like five or six into the evening, so it was
not really gonna bother anything. And then you're probably gonna
hang out friends and stuff, so he's not gonna be
home a lot. So I don't know, and that's what
you're worried about.

Speaker 1 (06:01):
It didn't feel like it's coming from any place other
than like, you know what, I bet there's got to
be something with his wife. Oh he's gotta be like
the new wife is like, well, I thought you loved
my children. Mhmm, And it's like, why can't we just
love all of the children like And it's not even
because it's like it's literally to better their school opportunity.

Speaker 3 (06:22):
So reasonable, it is reasonable, you would think.

Speaker 1 (06:24):
But we got an update, and the most flast thing,
most reasonable thing that's your literal child asking to live
with you when you have a house.

Speaker 3 (06:32):
They can't do that right now.

Speaker 2 (06:33):
Update, Well, I guess any chance of me studying near
my step mom's house is over. A Few days ago,
I messaged my dad asking what time he'd picked me
up on Friday to spend the weekend at their place.
He didn't respond, so I asked again and he said
he would have be picking me up. I wouldn't be
spending the weekend there. Asked why, he said, it's not
his weekend. The next one just really pissed me off

(06:55):
because he never really used to use the weekend is.

Speaker 3 (06:58):
His or not excuse.

Speaker 2 (07:00):
Before he got married, we practically spent every weekend together.
To me the show that he truly chose his new
family over me. He knew I was already upset about
the school situation, and he did this to show that
I'm not welcome there.

Speaker 1 (07:13):
Oh I really like this because it shows that, like,
even when parents are like your parents, they're still just people.
Because now he's taking this out on you unfairly because
you told his parents on him.

Speaker 3 (07:26):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (07:28):
Yeah, it's like thinking about any time like you've been
told on Riley, like, oh god, the same feeling you're like,
I can't believe this guy told on me.

Speaker 2 (07:35):
Actually, it's really nerve wracking, and it really does like
you lose strust in that perpose tough situation being, especially
when you're like work so close together and you're like
a family unit.

Speaker 1 (07:45):
Stop I did it?

Speaker 3 (07:46):
I was it was I don't know what you were
talking about.

Speaker 1 (07:49):
I don't know what I'm talking about either.

Speaker 2 (07:51):
I told him it's okay for him to choose his
new family, but he didn't need to pick me up anymore.

Speaker 3 (07:56):
That he could just forget I exist, and I do
the same.

Speaker 1 (07:59):
Whoa wow, Okay, no contact. So this should be the
moment where he starts being like, well, this is getting
out of hand. I should sort of smooth over the
situation with my daughter or no, I'm sorry son son
with my son.

Speaker 3 (08:11):
I should really smooth out of the situation with my son. Now, well,
it gets worse.

Speaker 2 (08:15):
I logged into Instagram, which I don't use to block him,
and I saw a picture of him in an amusement
park with my step brothers. He had written me and
my boys. He didn't even invite me to go with him.
I have no idea when that was. He truly excluded
me from his life.

Speaker 1 (08:30):
How old is op in this story?

Speaker 3 (08:31):
Fifteen? Wow?

Speaker 1 (08:33):
So this isn't the right thing to do. But I
think if I was fifteen, i'd probably never talk to
my dad again. Oh if I saw something like that,
that would destroy me. You've already made your choice. Oh no,
Pops has got to make this right real big you.

Speaker 2 (08:46):
Got more furious and sent him a message telling him
to enjoy having two sons now instead of just one,
and that I wanted him to go ef.

Speaker 3 (08:54):
Though my dad called.

Speaker 2 (08:55):
Me multiple times and I answered once and he started
scolding me, saying I'm acting like and I hung up
on him and didn't pick up again.

Speaker 1 (09:02):
He is he is a child, he's your child. He's fifteen,
and yes, what is wrong with this guy?

Speaker 2 (09:07):
He sent several messages saying he wants to talk to me.
I was really naive to this whole situation. He placed
me months ago. I couldn't bike to school because of
the knee surgeries I had, and I just realized how
he never once took me to school. He was always
my grandparents or my mom. Lately, I see him very little,
and I thought it was because of the surgeries and recovery,
but apparently he only had space for every other weekend,

(09:29):
whereas before his new family, he was always available for me.

Speaker 3 (09:33):
Oh man, it's sad. My mom is upset with me too.

Speaker 2 (09:36):
He says, I lost my reason that I have to
talk to my dad, and I'm not behaving appropriately. As
far as I'm concerned, I'll never talk to my dad again.
Now I'm going to spend the night locked up in
my room because if I step out, my mom's going
to try to force me to talk to him. I
don't know if I'm doing right or wrong right now.
I'm just really angry and sad. I never thought my
dad could replace me like this. I truly thought he

(09:57):
cared about me.

Speaker 1 (09:58):
That was such a fifteen year old string of sentences
right there. Yeah, never gonna talk to my dad again.
Hiding in my room so no one has to talk
to me. Like, I don't know exactly what I'm doing,
but I'm angry and sad. Yeah, that was like the
triple combo teenager sentences.

Speaker 3 (10:12):
I love it. That's what we go through.

Speaker 1 (10:15):
I mean, I think you could work through this, but
it's like, clearly the responsibility to do most of the
damage control is going to be on your dad. Dad
for sure, but some counseling.

Speaker 3 (10:25):
Or it's just taught.

Speaker 1 (10:26):
This needs to be talked out at the very least,
and dad needs to get vulnerable because what he's doing
to you is not right.

Speaker 3 (10:31):
It's not cool either. It's really messed up.

Speaker 1 (10:35):
Edit.

Speaker 2 (10:35):
People are saying my mom is taking my dad's side. Nope,
she doesn't want me to be in a fight with
my dad. You're saying that we need to talk to
listen to each other. I guess no mom wants their
kid to be in a fight with their dad. But
I don't think I want to talk to my dad tonight.
Also fair update too. He sent a lot of messages
last night. He's saying that we need to talk in
person and that I'm misunderstanding everything. He came over early

(10:58):
this morning, but I told my mom and I didn't
want to talk to him and locked myself in my room.
He wants to come to talk tonight.

Speaker 1 (11:03):
Okay, well I get it. Fifteen fifteen locked in the room.
Totally normal. We're on the right track. You're taking a
little time to get to what you're ready to talk
about it. It's a big thing. Your dad's attitude is
probably not making it any easier. Oh sure, he's very like,
kind of scoldy about it. But yeah, I mean, if
y'all can just because honestly, where the dad's coming from

(11:24):
too is probably he feels hurt.

Speaker 3 (11:26):
He feels hurt. You know, we're all emotional creatures.

Speaker 1 (11:29):
And any for sure, BS that happens like this usually
just comes from people who are hurting for some reason
or another.

Speaker 3 (11:35):
For sure.

Speaker 2 (11:36):
Uptak three, I talked to my dad, but I told
him i'd talked to him if my mom was there too.
The three of us sat down at the table. Mom
said I'd be the first to speak, but when I
started talking, he said it wasn't what I should say
and that I should apologize first. So I apologize to
my dad for swearing at him. Then right after my
mom said, I'm grounding for two weeks for swearing to
my dad. Say you that nothing justified swearing at your father.

(11:58):
This is my first time being grounded in my life.
Then it was my dad's turn to talk. He said
that I'm being immature and unfair. He explained that he
has other people in his life who are now important,
so he can't give me the same attention as before.
I try to talk, and my mom told me to
listen quietly and that I'd have my chance to speak later.
He mentioned that I act like everything has to be
according to my own will and circle back to the

(12:19):
school situation. He told my mom that I talked to
my grandparents and uncles. My mom got upset about that,
adding another week to my ground.

Speaker 3 (12:26):
How does that make literally any sense? Why? Well, just
I don't know.

Speaker 2 (12:31):
They feel like he's acting, he's misbehaving, so they needed
he just talked to his family.

Speaker 1 (12:37):
Yeah, I said, I really want to live with dad
so I can go to the school. Can you try
to convince him? And he's getting grounded for a week
for that.

Speaker 3 (12:44):
That's insane.

Speaker 1 (12:45):
It's kind of in a way.

Speaker 3 (12:46):
It could be manipulating. They could see that, sure, but it's.

Speaker 1 (12:49):
Not like manipulate him to give me money. Here, let
me borrow the car. It's like if you want to
get into a good school. So like if you came
to Kean, you're like, hey, ke On, can you put
this up?

Speaker 2 (13:00):
And then if it didn't work, and then he came
to came to like Jonathan, Sam would be like, hey,
you didn't.

Speaker 1 (13:04):
Do whatever I wanted. Nah, that's kind of too loose
of a look. Bottom line, none of what they're talking
about right now matters because that Instagram post with me
and my boys, that is the key to all of this.

Speaker 3 (13:16):
I see.

Speaker 1 (13:17):
That was the moment where I'm like, I'm not talking
to my dad ever again. Yeah, so where's that at.
I think they're going to get to it. And when
I tried to complain, she said she was disappointed in
me for not understanding that I should respect my parents' decisions.
So I figured out it would be better not to
argue any further as it would extend my grounding. Don't
grounded for three weeks now, both persuearing on my dad
and not respecting his decision. Finally, he said he always

(13:39):
done everything to be president of my life and give
me the best you can. Said, he feels unjustly treated
after years of dedication, and I treat him like he's
done nothing for me. I have to agree that he
is very present and dedicated until recently, but I can't
feel that anymore. When I started talking, my mom said
if my tone got aggressive, the conversation would end as

(14:00):
it meant to be friendly discussion. I try to stay
calm as possible so that the conversation would end before
I could express what I was thinking. I said, I
understood that there is more people and I need to
share my dad's attention with However, these people were always
with him since they lived together, and the little time
I had with him would only be on weekends. I
mentioned that for the first time, he brought up the

(14:20):
legal aspect and that I'm only entitled to be with
him every other weekend. I said this showed that he
deliberately chose to decrease the time we spend together. I
also said that having new people around doesn't mean he
forgid about me or my feelings. Told him that the
photo he posted that the amusement part the captured me
and my boys hurt me deeply. And while I had
seen the photo, so I showed it to her, she

(14:41):
was upset with my dad too. I said, I understood
the difficulty of me moving to my stepmom's house, but
I felt extremely unjustly treated by the arguments present. I'm
so mad that they did not think that that was
two sentences that they spent on the Instagram post. What
that's like emotionally devastating. Also, why is Op as a
fifteen year old, like the stipulation to have this conversation

(15:03):
is like you have to be an emotionless like lawyer basically,
or like, what think about a more emotionally charged conversation
than Hey, Dad, I think you like your new family
more than me.

Speaker 2 (15:14):
I think she just didn't want yelling, and that might
be a deeper reason of you know, non confrontation and everything.

Speaker 1 (15:21):
He's a post just makes me feel like they're real. Yeah,
I don't know. I just don't like this. Op's on
the wrong of being treated wrong and now is grounded
for three weeks.

Speaker 2 (15:32):
It was as if my stepbrother's difficulty sharing a room
with me was just as important as a good educational
opportunity for me. I said, he should be concerned about
my future, but it seems like the only opinions that
mattered are those of his new kids. He said I
was misinterpreting things, but that he'd be more careful about
posting pictures and captions that could hurt me. About the
weekend issue, he said, we're all still adjusting, and indeed

(15:54):
he'd like me to be able to come over every
weekend like it used to be. Now he needs more
predictability since more people aren't involved. I mentioned again that
he was putting others desires ahead of mine, and that
my wishes ever a priority, fair to theirs.

Speaker 1 (16:08):
This guy's just talking words out. He's trying to say,
I need more predictability. Every weekend is just as predictable
as every other weekend. So what are you talking about.
He's he's just he's unable to be like I was wrong.

Speaker 2 (16:21):
Yeah, No, he's just trying to hug himself out of this.
Just showed me that he had a preference fell silent
for a moment, and then said he'd fix the situation.
I'd always be welcome to visit and stay where he lives.
He also said he won't be bringing up the every
other weekend visitation arrangement again. He said that the school
issue is more complicated, but he's still looking into a solution.
He again said I need to understand that circumstances change

(16:44):
and I'm still his priority now there are more people involved.
He mentioned he knows it's not easy for a fifteen
year old, but I'm smart enough to know he's speaking
the truth. He invited me to spend the weekend with him,
but I declined, saying I don't feel welcome at this moment.
That he loves me and that if I ever doubt
that any moment. So that's where we are. There's a
bit of impasse. He's sending me several messages every day

(17:06):
to show he's there for me. I feel like I'm
being a bit unfair to him. On the other hand,
I feel like his new family doesn't want me around.
I don't know where this will lead, but I appreciate
the support from those who wrote in the last post.

Speaker 3 (17:16):
He got net it.

Speaker 2 (17:18):
I think the dad understands that the kid's hurting, and
the dad got his side out.

Speaker 3 (17:23):
He's listening to the kid. Now, Yeah, it's gonna fix it.

Speaker 1 (17:26):
Yeah. I actually I was expecting to be really upset,
but I'm actually I'm pretty happy where we're at. Like
we kind of talked it out. Dad was still definitely
given some BS stuff about Pretty's ability or whatever, but
it's like, clearly he's got no point where he's like, Okay,
I understand where you're at. My son. Now you kind
of know where I'm at, and I'm going to make
more of an effort so that this doesn't happen again. Yeah. Perfect.

(17:48):
And he said he's actually still looking into the school thing. Yeah,
so that's also perfect. He would have just said that
he's looking into it the whole time. You know, that's fine.
I think in that moment he realized what's happening and
he's now going to fix it. Yeah, that's that's what
I've seen. I think you're right on the money with
that edit.

Speaker 2 (18:04):
As I mentioned, I'm grounded right now, so I don't
have much time to respond. I just want to say
I think you guys are being a bit hard on
my dad and my mom, Mom, did it punish me
when I slammed the door in her face and locked
myself in my room in the middle of the week.
You know, I could get upset like I did during
the week and the conversation wouldn't lead anywhere. This is
normal with us teenagers stood by me, for example, in
the situation with the photo to cut them some slack.

(18:25):
He's trying to maintain a balance between supporting me and
exercising pariental control. Of course, I don't like being grounded
and don't agree totally. He has here points, And I
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listen to like all those episodes yep. And on this
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you like where things are?

Speaker 1 (18:53):
I mean, I think you really crushed it with the
he realized in that moment. Towards the end of that conversation,
He's like, yeah, I really did mess up, and now
I'm going to immediately take steps to fix it. Yeah,
which is good. Just dude, to make sure. I'm astounded
that they didn't didn't do a match on to that.
I thought as soon as that came to light, it
would have been a full one eighty. And now Mom

(19:14):
and Op are like, yeah, that was super messed up.
You could have done any other caption besides that one,
and it would have been fun. You could have been like,
fun trip to the amusement park, these goobers, yeah boom.
Anything other than me and my boys with one of
your children missing, one of your other boys, one of

(19:35):
your other boys is not there, it'd be different.

Speaker 3 (19:37):
I vo people as a girl. But yeah, dude, and that.

Speaker 1 (19:40):
Maybe could have genuinely been a case of him being like,
oh oh, I didn't consider that my teenage son might
consider this as like a direct shot at him. Yeah,
and that could have genuinely been the case, because you
know whatever. But I think again, yeah, ugh, this is
the right man.

Speaker 3 (19:58):
What can I say?

Speaker 2 (19:59):
I read read its story for a living. I consume
and analyze Reddit stories, consume the will of the people
I do bro. And two, I realized whenever people talk
or runt, they're only going to talk about the bad
features of other people treating them badly.

Speaker 3 (20:13):
Not anything good.

Speaker 1 (20:14):
That is true. We get a lot of stories where
people they're like, write something out and then they're update
will be like, guys, relax, stop telling me I'm dating
like the spawn of Satan. Yeah, he's not that bad.

Speaker 3 (20:25):
He's not that bad.

Speaker 1 (20:26):
It's just this one thing, right, one thing.

Speaker 2 (20:29):
I'm still sad about the situation with my dad, but
I see that part of the conversation was positive. He
tells me to forget about every over the weekend thing
and that I could go whenever I want. He's been
sending me messages. Even my thirteen year old step brother
messaged me inviting me over, so I can see that
he's making an effort. But I don't want to go
over this week. That's why I said, I'm in a
bit of a dilemma. At the same time, I don't

(20:49):
feel comfortable going to his house, but I've seen an
effort from him in the past few days after the conversation,
and if I don't go, I'll never build a relationship
and fill more at ease.

Speaker 3 (21:00):
Hopefully opespeadies, because that's the end of a story.

Speaker 1 (21:03):
Oh, pe literally say exactly that. Send that in a
message to your debt, say hey, I'm just not ready
to come over this week. I rey like that you're
clearly making an effort. Please keep doing so, and like,
let's try next week. You know it's not wrong for
you to not be ready.

Speaker 3 (21:19):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (21:20):
Yeah, And that's the end of that story. But guys,
we got another one coming up. What are your thoughts?

Speaker 3 (21:24):
How do you feel has your parent left to you
for a new family?

Speaker 1 (21:27):
Let us know when to come, let us know there's
at least so there's gotta be some Batistically, there is
one of you that did get left for a new family. Sorry,
but statistically there is one of you. My friend is
treating me badly and I don't know why because you're
the bed oh am I the a hole for not
paying my friend back after he paid for our drinks.

(21:49):
I've been through a rough patch, which I posted about before,
so I won't rehash that. I don't have many true
friends and fewer that weren't actively avoiding me, and one
is my friend heng Mail thirty nine. By the way,
this country user, isn't she unusual? And if you want
to submit your own stories, go to the our slash
Okay storytime subburd it. So my birthday just passed over
spring break. I don't make enough money for parties or drinks,

(22:11):
so I invited five friends over to my one bedroom
apartment for a small gathering in our group chat. I
got pushedback because they wanted to go out. I said, well,
I can't afford to go out, but I can open
some wine and then all. But my friend Clara pushed
again for going out. Hank said he would pay for me.
I agreed and put on my nicest clothes and we
went for drinks. When the bill came, I looked for Hank,

(22:33):
but he had laughed, Hank, Oh no, we're we doing here? Hank.
I kind of panicked but didn't say anything, but Clara said,
I thought Hank was going to pay for you. Then
when no one said anything, she offered to pay for
some of it, and my other three friends pitched in
a few dollars, but I was still about ten dollars short,
so I just pulled from my gas money for the
month to not ask anyone for help. It was so

(22:54):
embarrassing to fumble around like that. I usually go by
the mantra that if you can't afford to go out,
don't I felt stupid for breaking my own rule. I
texted Hank later, admittedly tipsy, and ask why he had
left me with the bill. He didn't respond, It's gonna
be like I was just kidding. I told you I
was gonna cover. I told you I was gonna pay
for your drinks. I was just joking.

Speaker 2 (23:12):
Or I pay for the drinks, I get water, I
get a little tall glass. Wait, I'm confused, Like I'm
confused to pay for the drinks and I get the bone.
Yet I think had something for op for a while.

Speaker 1 (23:23):
Is that?

Speaker 3 (23:24):
Wait? Wait?

Speaker 1 (23:24):
Did you is that the wait? What a glass of
water is a euphemism for banging?

Speaker 3 (23:30):
Yeah? What stepping up? Tall glass of water?

Speaker 1 (23:34):
I know I've heard that, but I just heard that
about like someone who looks good. Yeah, a tall drink
of waldo.

Speaker 3 (23:39):
Yeah, this is news to me. I'm gonna have to
do research on this.

Speaker 1 (23:42):
I can't. There's no one who can get their hooks
in my brain. You just do this, dude, so more
than you can bro I swear on that thing. No, No,
I lost the story. I just know if I'm gonna
have to look that up. Look, it's a colloquial thing.
That's just what they say in North Carolina North Kagilaggi. Okay.
I then went to our group chat and thanked everyone

(24:04):
for coming out and that it meant a lot. But
another friend said it was fun except when Op ruined
it by crying. Hank texted a laughing emoji saying he agreed,
but that's my thing now.

Speaker 3 (24:15):
Crying out in public. That's so reassuring and comforting. Thanks.

Speaker 1 (24:21):
Who are you?

Speaker 3 (24:21):
Who are these friends? Yeah? You should be able to
cry in fn of your friends?

Speaker 1 (24:25):
Right, Well, let's see, let's have it. I did cry
at one point. I'd gotten choked up, thanking everyone for
celebrating with me as I felt low recently and explained
some of what I wrote in my last post, which
we don't know about, and how I essentially felt like
no one cared about me.

Speaker 2 (24:41):
Oh so she cried because she was expressing gratitude for
the friends she has.

Speaker 1 (24:44):
She literally cried because she was like, I just let
thank you guys for being here. I really appreciate you
guys being in my life, and now I like it
was fun until OPI cried like a big baby.

Speaker 2 (24:56):
Honestly, Yeah, that checks out. Ugh, I want anybody telling
me how much they appreciate me.

Speaker 3 (25:02):
Slame.

Speaker 1 (25:03):
Oh yeah, yeah, Riley needs hate. Don't love Riley, hate him?
Call me you know bad name, don't tell me how
much you like me, call him stinky oohs, and then
smack him on the knee. Felt the call that a
nie slapper.

Speaker 3 (25:18):
Knee slapper.

Speaker 1 (25:19):
That was a weird band. Having this gathering was a
happy thing I can hold on to and remind myself
I do have people who care. I then had gone
to the bathroom to fix my makeup and was all
smiles after that. After my friend's comment in our group chat,
I apologized for ruining things, as I thought it was
all good and hadn't realized I brought the room down.
I thankfully got a gift card from my aunt and

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had a free birthday drink at our favorite bar restaurant,
not the place we were in before. So I went
to listen to the live band that would be coming
out and spotted Hang. I waved at him and he
invited me to sit with him, and I did so. Wait,
that's a weird move when you dodged paying for someone's
drinks and then you're like, come sit next to me,
might get more drinks out of it. How is this
misunderstanding though, no, Hank, I'm not gonna let you trick

(26:02):
me too. Stop it, Hank, I'm upsid. I'm all turned around.
We listened to the band the whole night and stayed
a bit to finish our last drinks. He said he
was surprised to see me out, and I said something
along the lines of, well, I wanted to do something
to lift my spirits, as my ideation was highly I
mentioned that I was diagnosed with major depression and I
have anxiety, so if anything, I cared too much, and

(26:23):
he rolled his eyes and put his hands up in
a mock.

Speaker 3 (26:26):
Surrender and changed the subject.

Speaker 1 (26:27):
The bartender, who knows both of us, checked in with
us to ask if we would have another round, and
Hank said he would. I asked what my tab was
to check and make sure I wasn't overspending past my
gift cards amount, and Hank got mad. He loudly said
Jesus cross and said he gets it already, and if
I want to be an a hole about it, fine.
He threw his card towards the bartender to pay for

(26:49):
both of us. I apologized and said that's not why
I was asking, but he just told me to shut
up about it, and he was done. I felt so embarrassed.
People were looking at us and I tried not to cry,
and Hank looked at me again. He said, oh, you're
gonna cry now and threw up his hands, telling me
I always do this, and he knows I do it
for attention and to freaking get over it.

Speaker 3 (27:08):
Oh wow, Oh that's not a friend.

Speaker 1 (27:13):
And this is when like the bartender calls the bouncer
over and is like, get this belligerent a hole out
of the establishment. Yeah, it seems I think Hanks.

Speaker 2 (27:24):
Things a little bit differently than that, oh boy, or
like that that attitude where just get over it, get
a job, get more money.

Speaker 3 (27:32):
Yeah, just kind of yeah, dah, why don't you just
do that thing instead of complaining that you have no money?

Speaker 1 (27:39):
And then she's like talking about like her mental health,
and he just goes, hey, you got me, all right,
let's talk about anything else.

Speaker 2 (27:45):
It's like, dude, come on as a sore spot for me,
and you don't have friends to understand your sore spots.

Speaker 3 (27:51):
They really are friends.

Speaker 1 (27:52):
Yeah, this guy sounds like he never graduated high school.
I started to cry and said I'm sorry, and some
guy told Ham to pull it back and leave me alone.
Hank cussed him out, threw ten bucks at me, muttering
he wished I would arm myself, and left without his card.

Speaker 3 (28:09):
Yeah, that's not your friend.

Speaker 1 (28:10):
Throw this guy into the sea where the sea monsters
can nibble on him. Why are we doing Yeah, yeah,
that's like a what the heck go that's a throwing
hands type of comment. I'm not gonna lie, so off yourself,
that's what That's what he said. He basically said, go
off yourself, dude. That's like a that's a fight instigating

(28:31):
type of moment. What is wrong with this guy?

Speaker 3 (28:35):
All over? Like nothing over drinks he said he would
pay for and then bailed on. He just doesn't want
to accept how big this is. Frop and just making
a big deal.

Speaker 1 (28:44):
Well, yeah, and that's I think we've we haven't even
touched on that that if this this person's financially insecure,
They're like, I don't want to go out. I don't
have the money to spend, and then all our friends
are like, come on, come out, come out, come out.

Speaker 3 (28:54):
It's like, yeah, we're not on the same boat right now, guys.

Speaker 1 (28:57):
This is crazy that this guy is pulling this The
bartender had already returned his card with the customer receipt
and placed it in front of us. People at the
bar and the staff were kind to me, and I
stayed to calm down. The bartender brought me my other
drink and said my drinks were on the house and
my previous drinks were on Hank. Since she took his card,
meaning he was covering it, an older gentleman made conversation

(29:18):
and eventually asked what that was all about. I explained
about my birthday dinner. He frowned and said women couldn't
expect men to pay anymore, and that it was selfish
of me to expect it, as it was his choice.
What are you talking?

Speaker 3 (29:31):
Well, how are you just lovely?

Speaker 1 (29:33):
Oh?

Speaker 3 (29:33):
That's lovely conversation?

Speaker 1 (29:35):
And this one is just a okay, grandpa type moment.
This is a stranger. Don't waste any emotional energy on
this guy. I later texted in the group chat to
Hank that he left his card and the bartender has it,
and I hope he went home safely. I made no
mention of the argument, but he texted back, Okay, you
want to bring everyone else into it?

Speaker 3 (29:54):
Fine?

Speaker 1 (29:55):
Is this guy just like super drunk right now.

Speaker 2 (29:57):
Probably probably, I think he likes and he won't so
to get drunk so he can talk for her. That's
my underlying that is, actually he's got playground. This is
playground crush behavior. This is like the pulling on the pigtails. Yeah, well,
I don't know about that. It's a little bit more aggravated.

Speaker 1 (30:17):
Mean well, yeah, because he's thirty nine and he's not
an innocent child. But it's like it's the same technique
of like, I have a crush on I don't want
to bother that.

Speaker 2 (30:25):
I just think he was upset. I think he was
upset because he wanted Op just relax, have some drinks,
chill out.

Speaker 1 (30:31):
Oh like that you meant, and she won't do it,
and he's like, oh you you always ruined it. Oh
dde you put that. Now, I've got the idea that
it's he's got a crush. He's got a crush on Op.
He doesn't know how to express it propably. Probably so
he said to everyone that I bullied him into paying,

(30:52):
and it's now my shtick to use in public, and
if you don't, she'll cry and get the bar thinking
you're an ale because I'm selfish and need to be
a spoiled pretty says, even if it's not my birthday anymore.
Oh boy, can we get Hank out of the group? Please?
Can we expedite that?

Speaker 3 (31:05):
Goodness? Gracious? Sorry? Op, this is tough. This is tough.

Speaker 1 (31:08):
Yeah, this is terrible. A few of the group started
berating me and telling me to get over ten dollars
and that Hank let it slide the first couple of times.
I tried to guilt trip him, but that this was
now out of hand. Hope he get new friends. They're
out there. When Hank said he paid for everything, they
said I owed him, and Hank put a Vemo request
screenshot in and texted, I mean I wouldn't hold my breath,

(31:30):
but I will make it easy. Are we all still
remembering that this guy didn't pay for Ope's drinks the
first time when he said he would. Yeah, and this
is all happening because Ope he was asking for to know,
based on her gift card balance, if she could pay
for the drinks on her tab at this other place,
and then Hank took it upon himself to take that

(31:50):
personally and paid for her drinks on his own accord again,
and is now sending a Vemo request this guy. They
built this guy in a stupid lab.

Speaker 3 (31:58):
But this was two instances.

Speaker 2 (32:00):
There's probably been another instances where she's asking about money,
asking about how much something cost. Money, just keeps always
bringing up in smaller ways. But then these last few
times kind of built up more and Hank's like, oh.

Speaker 3 (32:11):
I'm just over it. Okay, I can't be doing this anymore.

Speaker 1 (32:14):
So this was like with the fuse, like ran out
and now this is the explosion.

Speaker 2 (32:18):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (32:19):
Well, the other time she was just checking for herself,
how much is this? I'm good, I won't eat.

Speaker 1 (32:23):
I won't drink you because op sounds like someone who
wouldn't do that. It sounds like she's someone who's like
always aware and if she doesn't have that money, she
doesn't want to go out. So I know, I'm just
so cy.

Speaker 3 (32:34):
What I'm saying is he she's always checking herself, how
much is this? Can I pay for it? Nope, I'm good,
I won't eat. How much? Just dreaming that is like?
And then and then he's like, you're always saying something
about it or.

Speaker 1 (32:46):
Friend would always come up be like no, I'll get
this for you, And she's like, oh, Okay, just stop
being broke. So John here og host. We're gonna get
back to these stories, but a quick three minute break
from house from our sponsors. I explained that I can't
pay him back until payday and explained about the gift card,
and then the texts came rapid fire BS I call bs,

(33:08):
blah blah blah. I muted the notifications and spent time
with my dog watching TV. Now I'm getting iced out
for my friends except for Clara. Save Clara. Clara is
your friend. Two of them have spouses at my job,
and they are avoiding me at work. I feel like
I should just apologize and VENMO the money after I
got paid. I don't have many friends and being alone

(33:30):
is really getting to me. I know I've been hard
to be around lately because I'm not my normal chip
her self, So I know not a lot of people
will want to put up with me.

Speaker 3 (33:39):
Am I the a hole? Oh man, no ah man.

Speaker 1 (33:44):
You going through a tough time does not give your
friends free past to just completely am on you. Yeah,
like just to crade you like this is wild. You
cried tears of like happiness that they were there for
your birth. They and then they mocked you about it.
That's actually one of the most insane things I've ever read,

(34:06):
and that should be an immediate you know what, You're
better off without these people being your friends. Clara is
your friend. Yeah, the only person in the story I've
read as your friend is Clara.

Speaker 3 (34:16):
I agree this.

Speaker 2 (34:18):
I hope you can like go out and do other
things rather than having to interact with these people. Seems
you're stuck because money's tight and you can't like travel
a lot of places, or you might be in a
small area.

Speaker 1 (34:31):
I don't know, there are more people out there. It's
tricky to figure out. But you're smart, you can do that.
I always will suggest the same thing. And it's pickleball,
casual pickleball playing and players.

Speaker 3 (34:43):
What about the.

Speaker 1 (34:44):
Best rock climbing, Well, it's it's it's also a great community,
but it's like the entry level is a little higher
because it's expensive, I would say, And she's maybe financially insecure.
For guys, basketball, basketball, Yeah, any sports. Sports a great
way to meet new people, make new friends.

Speaker 2 (35:03):
Sometimes churches, that's a good place if you're comfortable doing that.
Drum circles, drum circles like literally anything. Yeah, bird watching yeah,
wild watching find uh find the caater theaters huge find
of Uh.

Speaker 1 (35:16):
You know, I don't usually hype up Facebook, but they
do have like a lot of like community pages and stuff.

Speaker 3 (35:21):
Yeah, for certain like in your area.

Speaker 1 (35:23):
If you want to find a group of people who
want to do something you want to do, you can
find it probably on Facebook. Yeah, yeah, you got it.

Speaker 3 (35:29):
You have to be a slightly more extroverted. That stuff.
That is stuff for people I don't even know.

Speaker 1 (35:34):
Yeah, it is true if you're an introvert. I'm just
so confused by how Op's ended up here because they
don't sound, yeah, like anything except like they've been going
through a hard time emotionally, and it's like all of
their friends are just like dehumanizing them for it. Well crazy,
You can never know, true, We don't know. We don't
know how far the rabbit ole goes.

Speaker 3 (35:52):
Okay.

Speaker 1 (35:53):
Edit. I apologized to the group and muted the group chat.
Easter was awful as my family didn't want me there
and I was in to a friends but now that
friend won't speak to me. I wasn't outright uninvited, but
she did privately message me saying it might be best
if I reconsider coming as I bring down a room
wherever I go. New friend?

Speaker 3 (36:13):
Yeah yeah, new friend.

Speaker 1 (36:15):
Yep, that wasn't Clara, was it? Oh? Please tell me
that wasn't Clara, was it? I don't think so. There
wasn't a name. So today was the last straw. We
as a friend group were supposed to have brunch, so
I went, but it was awkward and no one really
spoke to me, so I left early. I got paid
today and I'm considering just ven mowing Hank and hoping
they won't ice me out anymore. Do not send that

(36:36):
man any of your money, please, and there's an update.

Speaker 2 (36:39):
Boy, oh boy, it was me. I'd probably bemo and audios.
I've done that before.

Speaker 1 (36:45):
You would then mow that guy after he said that
to you, or like he said that to Angie.

Speaker 2 (36:50):
So he doesn't have anything over me. Yeah, doesn't have
anything of her Angie. Yeah, we can't keep bringing it up.
Yeah cool, that's fair.

Speaker 1 (36:59):
If that's his only pillared us to build his house on,
or is only you know, stick, I don't know. If
that's the only thing you can lean on and I
take that away, then he has no argument, I guess.

Speaker 3 (37:09):
So I guess it's doing the disrespects math.

Speaker 1 (37:13):
In my head, I guess it's more disrespectful to give
him back the money and then be like, this is
the last time you'll ever hear from me. But then
you could become the bad guy again because it's oh ope,
he's breaking up the whole friend group over ten bucks again.
It's like, I feel like just ghosting all these people
who are based on what I'm reading, treating you like

(37:33):
dirt is your best move. Don't make you friends except Clara.
Keep Clara update. I have five friends on in our
thirties and forties. Quick recap Clara, Bella, Hank, James, and Brett.
I had a disagreement with Hank, which I outlined in
my previous post, but I can't blame everything on it.
I've been suffering from major depression and anxiety, so I

(37:54):
am not my usual chipper self. That is not your fault.
I am usually the dependable friend everyone can rely on,
but lately I've just not had the energy or bandwidth.
I'm estranged from family, so I spend most of my
free time with my friends. I love my friends, and
they all have such wonderful things they bring to our
group that makes it feel whole and fun lately, though

(38:14):
they've expressed displeasure with me as I've been quieter and
prone to tears. I admit I'm tired and emotional lately.
I've lost a great job, my family, and more, all
in a few months. When mentioning my troubles, Clara and
Bella usually would listen more than the others. And when
I mentioned that I'm spending Easter alone, Bella had invited
me to hers after having to fall out with Hank. However,

(38:35):
Bella texted me that night and suggested I reconsider coming
to Easter as our other friends would be dropping in
and she didn't want drama. I asked if I create
drama and she said that I never apologize to Hank
and that I quote bring down any room I come into.

Speaker 3 (38:49):
I didn't cry right then, but I wanted to.

Speaker 1 (38:51):
It just hurt crazy twists that now Opee is the reliable,
dependable friend in the group.

Speaker 3 (38:57):
And they treat her like this if you don't bring value.

Speaker 1 (39:00):
It's a transactional relationship. It's not unconditional. It's conditional. You
have to be this type of person and chip yourself.
And if you're not, and you're going through a hard time.
This is not the vibe you want to be around.

Speaker 3 (39:10):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (39:10):
If you stop providing for the group, if you stop
being dependable for the group, we're just like, where's the
old YOUU? We want to old you back? This new
you sucks. Yeah, that's what it seems like.

Speaker 3 (39:19):
Ugh.

Speaker 1 (39:22):
I ended up spending Easter alone. I didn't want to
ruin the holiday for anyone, so sad we need some
talk therapy. But when I reached out in the group
chat and said happy Easter, no one replied, but they
shared photos of the celebration at Bella's. Then this morning,
at a pre planned brunch, I arrived. I wore makeup,
did my hair, and put on my best smile. I

(39:43):
didn't want to bring down any room, so I was
determined to prove I could be my old chip herself.
But when I arrived, it was awkward. I had made
baskets for everyone and handed them out and they all
fumbled thank you, but I could tell they didn't want
me there. I stayed only long enough to finish the
mo most IOWA ordered and made an excuse that I
had work and had to prepare, which was a half truth.

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But I had plenty of time to spare and prepare.
Clara was the only one who stood up to hug
me and say goodbye, your friend slid Clara. She was
also the only one who opened her basket and thanked
me for the item. I think she was trying to
balance the energy. Yeah, it's like you've got one flashlight
and then a black hole on the other side of
that sea saw. Like the rest, they didn't even open

(40:27):
their gifts. Made each one of them handmade Eastern baskets,
and he didn't open them or.

Speaker 3 (40:33):
Say thank you. Oh he got to catch a hit.
I don't think they want you here. Sad. This is
really sad.

Speaker 1 (40:39):
Take Clara and start your a new group, an even
better group than the best job.

Speaker 3 (40:44):
There we go, Oh man.

Speaker 1 (40:46):
I got to my car and I realized I left
my wallet, so I ran back inside. Now the whole
table's energy was great. They were laughing and talking and
all the awkwardness was gone. I didn't even say anything
as I approached, but Hank and James we're midway saying
something about God. Am I glad she left early. I
thought we would have to deal with her all morning,

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And I just reached and grabbed my wallet and left.
Oh man, this just keeps It's got to get better
at some point, right, it just keeps getting worse. You
know what, It's not gonna get any better until you
leave this group. Yeah, honestly, man, I'm sitting outside my
job in my car, crying not to cry. I have

(41:29):
tried so many things to try and make my friendships work,
but it feels like I fail at every turn. They
are the failures. Yeah, they failed, except Clara. I know
I am not my usual self, but I still want
to celebrate and spend time with them. I miss how
things used to be. I am just at a loss
as to what I should do now. And there is
another update.

Speaker 3 (41:49):
Oh boy, dude, I think right now we already know
how it is.

Speaker 2 (41:54):
I understand that you're in a tough position where you
don't have a lot of people in your life, and
it's it gives me the interesting question, you have horrible
people in your life or no people in your life?

Speaker 1 (42:05):
I says, I take. I take no people, but not permanently.
You only can have no people in their life forever.

Speaker 3 (42:12):
But like.

Speaker 1 (42:14):
These people are your enemy. They treat you like you
are their enemy, except Clara. Except Clara.

Speaker 3 (42:22):
Yeah, this is pretty wild.

Speaker 1 (42:26):
We have another update though, Boy update two, I'm being
called a bigot because I don't want to date my
former friend. Am I the a hole? Is it?

Speaker 3 (42:34):
Hank?

Speaker 1 (42:34):
Is it?

Speaker 3 (42:34):
Hank? I bet you ten bucks? You owe the group that?

Speaker 1 (42:39):
Yeah, Hank, I bet you ten bucks. So I posted
a lot about my struggles and my old friend group.
I can't even begin to think to retype all of that,
so it's all in my past post. But long story short,
Hank was in this group. I sends a text in
the group chat quote, Hey, so I understand from what's
been said and done that I'm not adding an any

(43:00):
joy to this group. It's very clear I am making
things uncomfortable and awkward for everyone. I apologize for any
harm I have caused since my accident and will not
be attending any more group events. I will also leave
this chat. I really wish you all well and cherish
the time we shared. Op I left the group chat immediately,
but got calls and texts from all of them asking why.

Speaker 3 (43:20):
Woh then know why? They're just trying to save face?

Speaker 1 (43:22):
Though, Yeah, that broke my brain for a second.

Speaker 3 (43:25):
How do you not know why? Clara?

Speaker 1 (43:28):
Why? Clara said she understood nice and wanted to stay
in touch and that she too was thinking of leaving
the group. Overall, whoa interesting new group.

Speaker 3 (43:40):
Unlock You and Clara tag team Forever.

Speaker 1 (43:43):
James and everyone else was hitting up my notifications like crazy.
I took a nap and Hank showed up at my house.

Speaker 3 (43:50):
Oh was a gift basket? Was it the easter bat?

Speaker 1 (43:53):
Oh? He should return it if he didn't thank you
for it, or he made you want a new one.
He said he was sorry if he hurt me and
said he was mean because of a crush.

Speaker 3 (44:04):
He had on me.

Speaker 1 (44:05):
Dude, give me my flowers. I need my flowers right
freaking now. Flowers, flowers all round, make a bunch of
cherry blossoms fall down. I called it from a mill
out that was three updates a year old. Yeah, you're
just like dude, this guy annoyed his crush doesn't like him.

Speaker 3 (44:27):
I called it perfect.

Speaker 1 (44:29):
Dang, dude, give it there.

Speaker 3 (44:32):
It was honestly a little bit of a long shot,
but we nailed it.

Speaker 1 (44:36):
It's a long shot.

Speaker 3 (44:37):
Oh my god.

Speaker 1 (44:38):
Wow, I was so confused. You like me so you
made me hate myself for literally days, right, Like, what
are we talking about? What he's in preschool. He's preschool
crushanking on the ponytails. I said, I can't talk, and
to not just show up at my house unannounced.

Speaker 3 (44:59):
Please.

Speaker 1 (45:00):
He asked me to come back to the group because
I'm the quote part of the group. Yeah, because all
of you are heartless. What are we talking about.

Speaker 2 (45:08):
You had a crush on someone. You want to say, Hey,
I'm so glad you left. You brought the room down.

Speaker 1 (45:13):
Yeah, it's crazy.

Speaker 3 (45:14):
And if your friend did say that, like, hey, man
brought up.

Speaker 1 (45:17):
Yeah, exactly, like why, well, being a gentleman, Paul standing
up for women, stand up for you guys, is not
a woman? Guy?

Speaker 3 (45:25):
Stand up for.

Speaker 1 (45:26):
Your friends, stand up for your friends. Oh so hey,
it's sam og host. We're going to get back to
these delectable stories. But here's three minutes of ads from
our sponsors to help support the show. He told me
I'm the heart of the group, and I think my
face betrayed me because I gave him the bombastic side eye.
At how cheesy that was. I said I was tired

(45:47):
and needed to sleep and close the door. Now I'm
getting messages about events like are you still bringing me
a cake to this? Or are you still gonna be
my ride to that. I just feel used and alone.
I thought maybe cutting away from them would help me
feel better, but it just makes me feel worse. I
feel like I let down my friends because, as one
of them put it, I'm just tossing away the only

(46:08):
people who give a crap about me. I don't know,
it doesn't sound like that's what's happening at all. It
sounds like you were the glue holding everyone together, and
without you, they just realize, oh my god, we all
kind of suck.

Speaker 2 (46:20):
We were just making fun of you. Have we have
the guilt of her in order for her to get back.
This isn't what friends do, No, dude, it's weird.

Speaker 1 (46:28):
This is an like they're trying. No one's apologizing.

Speaker 3 (46:31):
No, it's a transactional friendship.

Speaker 1 (46:33):
Yeah, I feel like I let down my friends, which
is not true. They let you down because one of
them said, I'm tossing away the only people who give
a crap about me with them, which they don't. They
just give a crap about the things you do for
them that I'm making fun of you. Yikes, this is
your lowest too. It's like you were clearly in some
kind of accident, some event happened that deeply impacted you.

Speaker 2 (46:53):
From this statement, we can tell they're not doing well. One,
they cannot self reflect in two, what's easier Instead of
owning up like well you want to be friends, they're
blaming you and they're putting blame on you.

Speaker 3 (47:05):
So you could tell that these people are messed up
from the get go.

Speaker 1 (47:07):
Yeah, quite literally, despicable behavior out of this fand group
except for Clara. Dude, Clara, Clara, the real one.

Speaker 3 (47:16):
Love her music? What it's Clara? Ah?

Speaker 1 (47:19):
No? Iknew Clara?

Speaker 3 (47:24):
Oh man, Okay, I can so I'm going to listen
to so on quietly in my ears so we don't
get copyrighted. Listen to your brain.

Speaker 1 (47:31):
So from there, here is what has happened recently. Since then,
I started making some supplemental income on writing recipes for
a local organization that sells different cookbooks. Oh nice, a
freelance cookbook writer. Dude, learn twist. Learn to do that,
post on social media and then make your own cookbook
send it. So, yeah, start making your own cookbooks. It's

(47:51):
something I can do in my free time, and I
enjoy it. It's a lot to catch up on. Sorry,
but here's what happened yesterday, I was sitting at a
local bar. Fairly, I have to that. It's a known
place I frequent, but I was working on recipes for
a new cookbook. The staff there know me as I
live close and I can walk to them. They also
heard some of what happened with my friend group, as
I've told the bartender who asked me why she hadn't

(48:12):
seen me with my friends anymore. When I mentioned writing
about it on Reddit, she once sat with me while
it was slow and read some of it on her phone.
It is a good bartender connection. That's a great that's
a great bartender connector right there, dude. Anyway, Hank arrived
with some of his friends. He announced the staff that
he got a promotion. Was celebrating. Woo, shut up, Hank.

(48:33):
He got some congrats from the folks there, and I
kept my eyes on my notebook, but I could see
him moving towards me. He gave me a really happy hello,
and I mustered a smile and said hi, but went
back to my recipe. He said he was thinking of me,
wanted to know what I'm doing. I said I was fine,
just busy, and he asked with what, I'm a moron?
But I mentioned the recipe book I helped write that's

(48:55):
already out.

Speaker 2 (48:56):
Talk too much, you'd like to share too much information?
You should just it's one of your skills that you have.

Speaker 3 (49:01):
Stone wall this, man, I know someone that does this.

Speaker 1 (49:05):
What stone wall No, or like, we'll just talk to
people who clearly want nothing to do with or have
treated them wrongly.

Speaker 2 (49:12):
I have a friend that got treated really bad and
recently they talk to that person rerect.

Speaker 3 (49:18):
I know what friend you're talking about.

Speaker 2 (49:19):
Did just talk to their acts? I'm like, like, dude,
you can. You know, you can like hit the you
don't have to talk to them anymore. Even if they
contact you, you don't.

Speaker 3 (49:26):
Have to do that.

Speaker 1 (49:27):
Or you can explicitly tell them go away, leave me alone.
I literally don't think about you like this. You can
you can do that here. I single that one sentence.

Speaker 3 (49:36):
I know you want to be nice.

Speaker 1 (49:38):
Never call you again after that sentence.

Speaker 3 (49:39):
I know you want to be nice. Hey, I don't
want to be contacted.

Speaker 2 (49:43):
But also this part is you like to share things
with people, and you're just trying to make conversation even
though it's awkward.

Speaker 1 (49:49):
Oh yeah, I'm sure I'd be looking at him like
his head was on fire. I'm like, are you really
talking to me right now? You're just talking to me
like everything's normal.

Speaker 3 (49:57):
Okay, so so op.

Speaker 1 (50:00):
He mentions the cookbook. He asked where he could get it,
and I mentioned it can be found on Amazon as
it was the most popular site. He looked it up.
He said he was getting the Kindle version, showed me
he purchased it. Thanks, buddy. That's the most useless version too,
where you're gonna read the recipes on the Kindle while
you're cooking. Crazy, just just like an empty purchase as well.

Speaker 3 (50:20):
Wait, don't say that what Some of our people love
the Kindle.

Speaker 1 (50:23):
No, no, I'm the Kindle is good, and some of
them use recipes on the can for a cookbook for cooking.

Speaker 3 (50:28):
Yeah, I feel like it'd be so messy. You get
to get the Kindle all messy like a book. But
it's like a book, dude. It's like a one page book.

Speaker 1 (50:36):
I know, but it's like you gotta like swipe it.
You're gonna get all your food hands all over the
It's like cooking with your phone. I just net, well,
literally the same thing. Oh dude, you just opened my
mind to a whole new universe.

Speaker 3 (50:48):
Whoa you always cook with a cook book or you
cook with your phone?

Speaker 1 (50:51):
Oh god, yeah, oh god, I gotta sit in a
cave and reflect plug for an app that would be
amazing for this, but we're not sponsored, or I can't
say that.

Speaker 3 (51:01):
I can't do it, but it's really far. I can't
say it. I'm gonna shut up. Sorry, editor, take out
the app part, okay.

Speaker 1 (51:08):
I thanked him and said I hoped he would enjoy
it and continued working. He took the hint and went
with his friends, and for a while I was left
to my work and thoughts. I was happy to have
the piece, as I have been working on being alone
and being okay with it, and I've found some solace
and being alone in crowded spaces.

Speaker 3 (51:25):
I also like that.

Speaker 1 (51:26):
I think it's cool. I enjoy the sounds of life
and don't mind being on my own sometimes. When he returned,
he was laughing and had the e book Kindle version
of the book and ordered me another drink, stating, I
know I have to buy you a drink for you
to want to talk to me, and just laugh. I
would again, not even looking at him, he will sort
of gets pushing, so we can talk to her. I'm

(51:50):
not even speaking to this guy's insane. I said he
didn't have to, and I could buy my own drinks.
He kept poking at it, insisting he am I drink,
and then said all right, all right, I'll buy you too,
and asked the bartender to put my first drink on
his tab. I was just exhausted at this point and
thanked him. He showed me his phone with the book

(52:10):
pulled up and went on in at least five minute
critique of the book. This is just pathetic that this
is a forty year old man and he doesn't know
how to handle his crush on op no other than
being an actual ten year old boy about it. Yeah,
that's insane to me, Like this is weird. I know
he hasn't committed a crime, but I feel like they

(52:32):
lock this guy up. If you're forty and you crush
on people like a ten year old, jail, that's a
strong stance. But I'm deeply upset by this man.

Speaker 2 (52:43):
Okay, I have a whole I'm gonna find a list
of people that fit within that category and that we're
gonna throw it in a jail, and you're gonna feel
really bad.

Speaker 3 (52:50):
About yourself.

Speaker 1 (52:51):
We would just can we only their name If they're
named Hank and they're in this story, Heank's probably not
his real name. Del just send this one guy away
from me. Don't want them near me. Okay, so here
comes Hank's critique. My cover art was boring. I didn't
make the cover. Two of the recipes are bland and
not interesting at all. The images looked too commercial and

(53:13):
no one would buy a commercial looking book. And why
are there vegan recipes in it? That's lame and divisive,
And that would be because one of the other writers
is vegan and we found it to be inclusive. To
add a couple of vegan recipes in for the price,
it's not actually engaging enough. And it's not like you're
Paula Deine or something. Okay, real quick, this is my
PSA to literally everyone. At a point, you're gonna be confrontated, No,

(53:38):
you're gonna make conversation with someone that's a fool, fool,
a fool, a literal fool, plumb fool.

Speaker 2 (53:45):
And there's one thing you cannot do with the fool,
and that's called reason. You can never reason with the fool.
This scenario, this is a fool cannot reason with, So
do not give them your time or attention.

Speaker 1 (53:55):
Put the wall up, actually put up? Do they If
they have some kind of divider, you can go three
D you stick up. Yes, it's importable. Anthony Hankwal oh Man,
oh Man, oh Man. I managed to stay calm for
most of it, but it was the tail end when
he laughed at some joke He said at my expense

(54:16):
that I genuinely don't remember, and then said, how about
I take you on a date and I can give
you some pointers. You know I'm a good cook. I said, thanks,
but I hadn't the time between my jobs and this
new gig as a writer. He kept saying come on,
and chuckling and nudging his elbow into my arm, but
his laugh kept sounding more odd. I just looked at

(54:36):
him and said, you told everyone I ruined everything. I
wouldn't want to ruin your time fire. He rolled his
eyes and said that was forever ago, and the fact
that I hadn't gotten over it was crazy to him.
I didn't say much else to him, other than repeating
variations of insults he said about me and how he
clearly would want better than me. It was petty I know,

(54:57):
but I kept it going. It wasn't petty enough for me. Ope, honestly,
you're thinking, and our friend does this too. Our friend goes,
I was mean. Meanwhile, they just like had a polite
conversation with someone that's not being mean. Yeah, this is
a guy who deserves to get a little venom spit
at him because he said some horrific stuff to you

(55:19):
and about you behind your back.

Speaker 2 (55:21):
Please stop giving them your time. Just keep working on
your recipes.

Speaker 3 (55:25):
He says.

Speaker 1 (55:25):
It's great when he said I could take you on
a date. I've wanted more than anything into my life
for you to say you're the last person on earth
I would go on a date with. Yeah, never ask
me that again.

Speaker 3 (55:37):
Literally fact. And by the way, it always keeps going.

Speaker 1 (55:41):
On Spotify, iHeartRadio, and whatever podcast apps you use to
listen to podcasts, you can listen to every episode we've
basically ever made in our entire lives. Just search the
name of our show, Okay, story Time, and then listen
to him on repeat boom all day every day. We've
got some some story left here. I don't know if

(56:01):
we have any closing thoughts. Get rid I.

Speaker 2 (56:03):
Called it, I get rid of him. I called it
my new friends. He was like, you got something going.
Keep it up, keep it up, literally, keep it up.

Speaker 1 (56:10):
I love this exactly. I love when people explore new
things and it's getting somewhere.

Speaker 3 (56:15):
Just keep it up.

Speaker 1 (56:16):
You're a cookbook recipe maker, now, yeah, dude, just keep
it up exactly. Hank got so angry at me and
said to stop mocking him. This is the same guy
who told her to self delete herself. By the way,
the very same guy who told her to do that.
I said, I wasn't that these are actually things he
said were his observations of me, So why be with

(56:40):
someone like that? And he agreed, but said, well then
maybe be grateful. I think you're cute, and I thanked
him but was sarcastic. He then said, you're being too sensitive.
Grow up, and I just replied, I know, I am sensitive.
Why would you want to date someone like that? I'm sorry,
thanks for the drinks, and walked away. I'm getting tech

(57:00):
once again from the group, and many of them are
saying I broke his heart and I'm a bigot because
he's autistic, and I clearly look down on him.

Speaker 3 (57:08):
That never what where did that come from?

Speaker 1 (57:12):
I clearly, we have not a lot of information about
this guy's autism diagnosis. But I would bet every dollar
to my name he's self diagnosed from a TikTok video.
I That's what I would bet. I would bet he
did that, because this guy does not sound like that
exactly at all. It sounds like he's like, Oh, I

(57:32):
can use this as an excuse to just be rude
and mean to people. Yeah, I'll do that. I hate
people who do that. This was news to me, so
I want to reply and defend myself. But even still,
am I the a hole for being petty and mocking Hank? Nope, No,
you didn't mog Hank. You just told him no, I
don't want to go on a day with you. And
you didn't even tell him no. You were just like,
I'm just so busy with my jobs. Like no, you

(57:53):
weren't even mean enough, and you repeated what he said
to you and about so you're good, You're good, Obi,
don't don't.

Speaker 2 (58:00):
Don't give this any more of your time. Can't reason
with the full guys, We're gonna reason with the fact
that we have to go right now. Don't worry, we
have more episodes coming. Literally We're recording them right now,
don't you worry. And if you love us, make sure
to subscribe.

Speaker 1 (58:15):
We love you and see you tomorrow.

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