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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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for his new family. Did they have like treats and
games that were fun? I don't know.

Speaker 2 (00:20):
I'm fifteen mil living with my mom since she and
my dad have divorced. My dad just got married to
a woman with two sons thirteen and eight years old.
They all moved into her house. By the way, this
comes from st twenty three envy And if you want
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Speaker 1 (00:36):
I'm su a read it.

Speaker 2 (00:37):
Where I'm currently living with my mom isn't great, especially
compared to where my dad lives now. Even the schools
there are much better. My school doesn't send students to
T twenty while this other school sends students twenty, so
it's a huge difference.

Speaker 1 (00:51):
What does that even mean? I think that's like a
different I'm gonna look it up. There's like a different
school system. Yeah, I think it might be T twenty
and twenty. I think I think that might be like
in England, potentially.

Speaker 2 (01:04):
Is the alphabet involved, because what is a vedroom the
scenario or tea?

Speaker 1 (01:08):
They just it's just you have to say tea twenty times.
Oh top twenty universe, Okay, T twenty schools. Oh T
twenty schools generally refers to the top twenty universities in
the United States. So they're saying that the schools that
they could be going to usually send a lot of
students to those top twenty. Well, I see, I see,
I see.

Speaker 2 (01:26):
So this school so the school he's that, he won't
get that many opportunities.

Speaker 1 (01:29):
Right, it's like not as prestigious as like it's like
a pipeline to the prem de la Krem.

Speaker 2 (01:35):
That's how you are that kid that got a five
point zero one with Yell Scholarship hometown No.

Speaker 1 (01:41):
Five.

Speaker 2 (01:41):
Fun fact, Alexander County is the most has the most
racist high school in North Carolina.

Speaker 1 (01:46):
Just found that out the other day.

Speaker 2 (01:48):
I was like, Wow, that's as why I didn't go there,
but that that would have been.

Speaker 1 (01:52):
My school I went to. Oh thank god I didn't
go there. Yeah, I know, I know.

Speaker 2 (01:55):
John said, be the change you want to be and
I'm like, right, yeah, right, but anyways, oh, that kid
made it out and he was he was Asian though,
and his mom.

Speaker 1 (02:02):
Sorry, I'm basically a cheat code.

Speaker 2 (02:04):
I'm just gonna say. His mom worked at Oriental Cafe.
She had a restaurant called Oriental Cafe and my uncle.
She knew that the racists would eat there, I guess,
so that's why she named it that. And every time
I went. One time in third grade, I went there
and I had a seat. Okay, editor, add this to
the end. Okay, story time, I have an okay, story time.
I'm gonna tell you later. Okay, all right, at that

(02:24):
part at the end, I got a c in third
grade and I went there and Helen was like, oh.

Speaker 1 (02:29):
No, why are you so sad? And I was like,
I got a seat whatever. My mom was like, whatever,
you're giving you as and b's and season third grade?
Third grade? Yeh, that's crazy.

Speaker 2 (02:39):
Well that's why I got a seat. And then my
mom told her that, and she's like, oh, you see
my son over there.

Speaker 1 (02:43):
He's studying really hard, and he had like five books
and he was like had his head in one and
like his sister and his other brother was over there
doing the same thing. He had assistance, Yeah, he had,
he had educational assistance. No, they were also studying their material.
Oh yeah, yeah, they also know they shared the same brain.
They were a high of mind probably. But he he
got a scholarship and somehow I got a five point Oh, well, congratuate.

(03:05):
I didn't even know you could get a five. I
just I thought four point oh, like four point something,
you could get a little bit over four, Like a
four point five was the max five the school I
went to teach all the classes at Yale at that point.
He was the man.

Speaker 2 (03:19):
I talked to my mom about it, and she thought
it might be a good idea for me to live
with my dad for the sake of the better school.

Speaker 1 (03:24):
So I brought up the idea my dad. He told me.

Speaker 2 (03:28):
He needed to think about it and he would get
back to me after a few days. Told me it
wasn't possible, naturally. I asked him why, and he explained
that their house only has three bedrooms, theirs and one
for each of his son's. He said, this is a
new phase in their lives and they need some time
to adjust the living together. Oh it just oh, it

(03:49):
just did that sucks?

Speaker 1 (03:51):
Feels wrong. Yeah, yeah, you know, just seem to live
with one another without you, right, It's like you're the
whole reason is. It's like, well, they could adjust to
me being there as well. It's like, what do you
mean you have to adjust? It just seems very dismissive
as well.

Speaker 2 (04:06):
He also mentioned my stepbrothers and I haven't spent much
time together, so there's a chance of conflicts arising. He
thinks I should get to know my stepbrothers better. For
making a big change that could disrupt the family dynamics.

Speaker 1 (04:20):
I have a This guy is just like, I don't
want to rock my own boat, so this feels like
it might cause problems for me, So I don't want
you to move here.

Speaker 2 (04:29):
I didn't agree with his answer, though, I told him
I'd be totally fine sharing a room with my thirteen
year old step brother and we've never had any.

Speaker 1 (04:36):
Issues when we flung out.

Speaker 2 (04:37):
I also pointed out saying no to this opportunity, but
seriously affect my college plans, given that the school in
that area is much better. I explained that I spend
a lot of time at school studying or in extracurricular activities,
so it will not impact a lot of family dynamics.
I'm very obedient and I'll do all the chores they
need at the house. I'll spend the weekends at my

(04:58):
mom's house. To his decision, I really wanted to move in,
so I reached out to my grandparents and uncles talk
to my dad. They had a chat with him. He
called me afterwards pretty angry. He said I should have
accepted as his first answer, and now the whole family
is against him, thinking he's not acting correctly.

Speaker 1 (05:15):
Am I the a hole? Wow?

Speaker 2 (05:17):
You just got other people to call you out too,
That's why you're mad.

Speaker 1 (05:22):
I don't how can you get called out by your siblings,
as the dad and your parents, and then your response
is still to go back to your child and say
you shouldn't have done that. That's crazy and that is
pretty crazy.

Speaker 2 (05:36):
I went to a school that was forty five minutes
away from me, so I could, you know, be able
to have more college you know, activities and.

Speaker 1 (05:44):
Like you know things.

Speaker 2 (05:45):
And I feel like this kid and I are the
same where you know, you get to school at like
seven point thirty and you're probably gonna be there until
like five or six into the evening, So it's not
really gonna bother anything. And then you're probably gonna hang
out friends and stuff, so he's not gonna be home
a lot. So I don't know, and that's what you're
worried about.

Speaker 1 (06:01):
It didn't feel like it's coming from any place other
than like, you know what, I bet there's got to
be something with his wife. Oh, it's got to be
like the new wife is like, well, I thought you
loved my children. Mhmm, And it's like, why can't we
just love all of the children to like And it's
not even because it's like it's.

Speaker 3 (06:19):
Literally to better their school opportunities. So reasonable, it is reasonable,
you would think.

Speaker 1 (06:24):
But we got an update. And the most last thing,
most reasonable thing, that's your literal child asking to live
with you when you have a house. They can't do
that right now. Update.

Speaker 2 (06:34):
Well, I guess any chance of me studying near my
step mom's house is over. A Few days ago, I
messaged my dad asking what time he'd picked me up
on Friday to spend the weekend at their place. He
didn't respond, so I asked again and he said he
wouldn't be picking me up. I wouldn't be spending the
weekend there asked why he said it's not his weekend
the next one. This really pissed me off because he

(06:55):
never really used to use the weekend is his or
not excuse. Before he got married, we practically spent every
weekend together. To me, the show that he truly chose
his new family over me. He knew I was already
upset about the school situation, and he did this to
show that I'm not welcome there.

Speaker 1 (07:13):
Oh. I really like this because it shows that, like,
even when parents are like your parents, they're still just people.
Because now he's taking this out on you unfairly because
you told his parents on him. Yeah. Yeah, it's like
thinking about any time like you've been told on Riley, like,
oh god, the same feeling you're like, I can't believe

(07:34):
this guy told on me.

Speaker 2 (07:35):
Actually, it's really nerve wracking, and it really does like
you lose s trust in that person. Tough situation being,
especially when you're like work so close together and you're
like a family unit. Stop I did it, I was
it was I don't know what you were talking about.

Speaker 1 (07:49):
I don't know what I'm talking about either.

Speaker 2 (07:51):
I told him it's okay for him to choose his
new family but he didn't need to pick me up anymore,
that he could just forget I exist and I do
the same.

Speaker 1 (07:59):
Whoa, wow, Okay, no contact. So this should be the
moment where he starts being like, well, this is getting
out of hand. I should sort of smooth over the
situation with my daughter or no, I'm sorry son son
with my son. I should really smooth out of the
situation with my son. Now, well, it gets worse.

Speaker 2 (08:15):
I logged in Instagram, which I don't use to block him,
and I saw a picture of him in an amusement
park with my step brothers. He had written me and
my boys. He didn't even invite me to go with them.
I have no idea when that was. He truly excluded
me from his life.

Speaker 1 (08:30):
How old is op in this story? Fifteen? Wow? So
this isn't the right thing to do. But I think
if I was fifteen, I'd probably never talk to my
dad again. Oh if I saw something like that, that
would destroy me. You've already made your choice. Oh no,
Pops has got to make this right real big.

Speaker 2 (08:46):
I got more furious and sent him a message telling
him to enjoy having two sons now instead of just one,
and that I wanted him to go efim. So my
dad called me multiple times and I answered once and
he started scolding me, saying I'm acting like and I
hung up on him and didn't pick up again.

Speaker 1 (09:02):
He is he is a child, he's your child. He's fifteen,
and yes, what is wrong with this guy?

Speaker 2 (09:07):
He sent several messages saying he wants to talk to me.
I was really naive to this whole situation. He placed
me months ago. I couldn't bike to school because of
the knee surgeries I had, and I just realized how
he never once took me to school. He was always
my grandparents or my mom. Lately, I see him very little,
and I thought it was because of the surgeries and recovery,
but apparently he only had space for every other weekend,

(09:29):
whereas before his new family, he was always available for me.

Speaker 1 (09:33):
Oh man, it's sad. My mom is upset with me too.

Speaker 2 (09:36):
He says, I lost my reason that I have to
talk to my dad, and I'm not behaving appropriately. As
far as I'm concerned, I'll never talk to my dad again.
Now I'm going to spend the night locked up in
my room because if I step out, my mom's gonna
try to force me to talk to him. I don't
know if I'm doing right or wrong right now. I'm
just really angry and sad. I never thought my dad
could replace me like this. I truly thought he cared

(09:57):
about me.

Speaker 1 (09:58):
That was such a fifteen year old string of sentences
right there. Yeah, like, never gonna talk to my dad again,
hiding in my room so no one has to talk
to me. Like, I don't know exactly what I'm doing,
but I'm angry and sad. Yeah, that was like the
triple combo teenager sentences. I love it. That's what we
go through. I mean, I think you could work through this,
but it's like, clearly the responsibility to do most of

(10:20):
the damage control is going to be on your dad.
Dad for sure, but some counseling or it's just some talk.
This needs to be talked out at the very least,
and dad needs to get vulnerable because what he's doing
to you is not right.

Speaker 2 (10:31):
It's not it's not cool either. It's really messed up.

Speaker 3 (10:35):
Edit.

Speaker 2 (10:35):
People are saying my mom is taking my dad's side. Nope,
she doesn't want me to be in a fight with
my dad. You're saying that we need to talk to
listen to each other. I guess no mom wants their
kid to be in a fight with their dad, But
I don't think I want to talk to my dad tonight.
Also fair update too. He sent a lot of messages
last night. He's saying that we need to talk in
person and that I'm misunderstanding everything. He came over early

(10:58):
this morning, but I told my mom and I didn't want
to talk to him and locked myself in my room.
He wants to come to talk tonight.

Speaker 1 (11:03):
Okay, well I get it. Fifteen fifteen locked in the room.
Totally normal. We're on the right track. You're taking a
little time to get to what you're ready to talk
about it. It's a big thing. Your dad's attitude is
probably not making it any easier. Oh sure, he's very like,
kind of scoldy about it. But yeah, I mean, if
y'all can just because honestly, where the dad's coming from

(11:24):
too is probably he feels hurt. He feels hurt. You know,
we're all emotional creatures, and any for sure, BS that
happens like this usually just comes from people who are
hurting for some reason or another. For sure.

Speaker 2 (11:36):
Uptak three, I talked to my dad, but I told
him I talked to him if my mom was there too.
The three of us sat down at the table. Mom
said I'd be the first to speak, but when I
started talking, she said it wasn't what I should say
and that I should apologize first. So I apologize to
my dad for swearing at him. Then right after my
mom said, I'm grounding for two weeks for swearing to
my dad. Say you that nothing justified swearing at your father.

(11:58):
This is my first time being grounded in my life.
Then it was my dad's turn to talk. He said
that I'm being immature and unfair. He explained that he
has other people in his life who are now important,
so he can't give me the same attention as before.
I try to talk, and my mom told me to
listen quietly and that I'd have my chance to speak later.
He mentioned that I act like everything has to be
according to my own will and circle back to the

(12:19):
school situation. He told my mom that I talked to
my grandparents and uncles. My mom got upset about that,
adding another week to my ground.

Speaker 1 (12:26):
How does that make literally any sense? Why? Well, just
I don't know.

Speaker 2 (12:31):
They feel like he's acting, he's misbehaving, so they needed.

Speaker 1 (12:34):
Like he just talked to his family. Yeah, I said,
I really want to live with dad so I can
go to the school. Can you try to convince him?
And he's getting grounded for a week for that. That's insane.

Speaker 2 (12:45):
It's kind of in a way. It could be manipulating.
They could see that, sure.

Speaker 1 (12:49):
But it's not like manipulate him to give me money
or let me borrow the car. It's like if you
want to get into a good school.

Speaker 2 (12:55):
So like if you came to Kean, you're like, hey,
ke On, can you put this up? And then if
it didn't work, and then he came to came to
like johnath samould be like, hey, you.

Speaker 1 (13:03):
Didn't do whatever I wanted. Nah, that's kind of too
loose of a look. Bottom line, none of what they're
talking about right now matters because that Instagram post with
me and my boys, that is the key to all
of this. I see. That was the moment where I'm like,
I'm not talking to my dad ever again.

Speaker 2 (13:19):
Yeah, so where's that at. I think they're gonna get
to it. And when I tried to complain, she said
she was disappointed in me for not understanding that I
should respect my parents' decisions. So I figured out it
would be better not to argue any further as it
would extend my grounding.

Speaker 1 (13:33):
Don't grounded.

Speaker 2 (13:34):
For three weeks now, both were swearing on my dad
and not respecting his decision. Finally, he said he always
done everything to be present in my life and give
me the best he can. He said, he feels unjustly
treated after years of dedication, and I treat him like
he's done nothing for me. I have to agree that
he is very present and dedicated until recently, but I
can't feel that anymore. When I started talking, my mom

(13:57):
said if my tone got aggressive, the conversation would end,
as it meant to be friendly discussion. I try to
stay calm as possible so that the conversation would end
before I could express what I was thinking. I said,
I understood that there is more people and I need
to share my dad's attention with However, these people were
always with him since they lived together, and the little
time I had with him would only be on weekends.

(14:18):
I mentioned that for the first time, he brought up
the legal aspect and that I'm only entitled to be
with him every other weekend. I said, this showed that
he deliberately chose to decrease the time we spend together.
I also said that having new people around doesn't mean
he can forget about me or my feelings. Told him
that the photo he posted that the amusement part with
the caption me and my boys hurt me deeply. And

(14:38):
while I hadn't seen the photo, so I showed it
to her. She was upset with my dad too. I said,
I understood the difficulty of me moving to my stepmom's house,
but I felt extremely unjustly treated by the arguments present.

Speaker 1 (14:50):
I'm so mad that they did not think that that
was two sentences that they spent on the Instagram post.
What that's like emotionally devastating. Also, why is op as
a fifteen year old like the stipulation to have this
conversation is like you have to be an emotionless like
lawyer basically, or like, what think about a more emotionally
charged conversation than Hey, Dad, I think you like your

(15:13):
new family more than me.

Speaker 2 (15:14):
I think that she just didn't want yelling, and that
might be a deeper reason of you know, non confrontation
and everything.

Speaker 1 (15:21):
He said pose just makes me feel like they're real control. Yeah,
I don't know. I just don't like this. Op's on
the wrong of being treated wrong and now is grounded
for three weeks.

Speaker 2 (15:32):
It was as if my stepbrother's difficulty sharing a room
with me was just as important as a good educational
opportunity for me. I said, he should be concerned about
my future, but it seems like the only opinions that
mattered are those of his new kids. He said I
was misinterpreting things, but that he'd be more careful about
posting pictures and captions that could hurt me. About the
weekend issue, he said, we're all still adjusting, and indeed,

(15:54):
he'd like me to be able to come over every
weekend like it used to be. Now he needs more
predictability since more people aren't involved. I mentioned again that
he was putting others desires ahead of mine, and that
my wishes ever a priority compared to theirs.

Speaker 1 (16:07):
This guy's just talking words out. He's trying to say,
I need more predictability. Every weekend is just as predictable
as every other weekend. So what are you talking about.
He's he's just he's unable to be like I was wrong.

Speaker 2 (16:21):
Yeah, No, he's just trying to hug himself out of this.
This showed me that he had preference, fell silent for
a moment, and then said he'd fix the situation. I'd
always be welcome to visit and stay where he lives.
He also said he won't be bringing up the every
other weekend visitation arrangement again. He said that the school
issue is more complicated, but he's still looking into a solution.
He again said, I need to understand that circumstances change

(16:44):
and I'm still his priority now there are more people involved.
He mentioned he knows it's not easy for a fifteen
year old, but I'm smart enough to know he's speaking
the truth. He invited me to spend the weekend with him,
but I declined, saying I don't feel welcome at this moment.
That he loves me and that if I ever doubt
that any moment, So that's where we are. There's a
bit of impasse. He's sending me several messages every day

(17:06):
to show he's there for me. I feel like I'm
being a bit unfair to him. On the other hand,
I feel like his new family doesn't want me around.
I don't know where this will lead, but I appreciate
the support from those who wrote in the last post
he got net it. I think the dad understands that
the kid's hurting, and the dad got his side out.

Speaker 1 (17:23):
He's listening to the kid now, Yeah, it's gonna fix it. Yeah.
I actually I was expecting to be really upset, but
I'm actually I'm pretty happy where we're at. It's like
we kind of talked it out. Dad was still definitely
given some BS stuff about Pretty's ability or whatever, but
it's like clearly he's gotten no a point where he's like, Okay,
I understand where you're at, my son. Now you kind

(17:43):
of know where I'm at, and I'm going to make
more of an effort so that this doesn't happen again. Yeah. Perfect.
And he said he's actually still looking into the school thing. Yeah,
so that's also perfect. He would have just said that
he's looking into it the whole time. You know, that's fine.

Speaker 2 (17:55):
I think in that moment he realized what's happening and
he's now gonna fix it. Yeah, that's that's what I've seen.

Speaker 1 (18:01):
I think you're right on the money with that edit.

Speaker 2 (18:04):
As I mentioned, I'm grounded right now, so I don't
have much time to respond. I just want to say,
I think you guys are being a bit hard on
my dad and my mom. Mom didn't punish me when
I slammed the door in her face and locked myself
in my room in the middle of the week. You
knew I could get upset like I did during the week,
and the conversation wouldn't lead anywhere. This is normal with
us teenagers stood by me, for example, in the situation
with the photo to cut them from slack. She's trying

(18:25):
to maintain a balance between supporting me and exercising pariental control.
Of course, I don't like being grounded and don't agree totally.
She has her points, and I want to point out
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episodes yep, and on this little episode story we got
a little left. How do you like where things are?

Speaker 1 (18:53):
I mean, I think you really crushed it with the
he realized in that moment. Towards the end of that conversation,
He's like, Okay, I really did mess up, and now
I'm going to immediately take steps to fix it. Yeah,
which is good, Just dude, to make sure, I'm astounded
that they didn't didn't do it match on to that.
I thought as soon as that came to light, it
would have been a full one eighty. And now Mom

(19:14):
and op are like, yeah, that was super messed up.
You could have done any other caption besides that one,
and it would have been fun. You could have been
like fun trip to the amusement park, these goobers, yeah boom.
Anything other than me and my boys with one of
your children missing, one of your other boys, of your

(19:35):
other boys is not there, it'd be different. I vo
people as a girl. But yeah, dude, And that maybe
could have genuinely been a case of him being like,
oh oh, I didn't consider that my teenage son might
consider this as like a direct shot at him. Yeah,
and that could have genuinely been the case, because you
know whatever, But I think again, yeah, ugh, this is

(19:57):
the right man. What can I say?

Speaker 2 (19:59):
I read read its story for a living. I consume
and analyze Reddit stories, consume the will of the people
I do bro, and two I realized whenever people talk
or runt, they're only going to talk about the bad
features of other people treating them badly, not anything good.

Speaker 1 (20:14):
That is true. We get a lot of stories where
people they're like, write something out and then they're update
will be like, guys, relax, stop telling me I'm dating
like the spawn of Satan. Yeah, he's not that bad.
He's not that bad. It's just this one thing, right,
one thing. I'm still sad.

Speaker 2 (20:30):
About the situation with my dad, but I see that
part of the conversation was positive. He tells me to
forget about every over the weekend thing and that I
could go whenever I want. He's been sending me messages,
even my thirteen year old step brother messaged me inviting
me over, so I can see that he's making an effort.
But I don't want to go over this week. That's
why I said, I'm in a bit of a dilemma.
At the same time, I don't feel comfortable going to

(20:51):
his house, but I've seen an effort from him in
the past few days after the conversation, and if I
don't go, I'll never build a relationship and feel more
at ease.

Speaker 1 (21:00):
Hopefully, opspuddies, because that's the end of a story. Oh
p literally say exactly that. Send that in a message
to your debt, say hey, I'm just not ready to
come over this week. I really like that. You're clearly
making an effort. Please keep doing so, and like, let's
try next week. You know it's not wrong for you
to not be ready. Yeah. Yeah, And that's the end

(21:21):
of that story. But guys, we got another one coming up.
What are your thoughts? How do you feel has your
parent left to you for a new family? Let us
know when to come, let us know there's at least
so there's gotta be.

Speaker 2 (21:32):
Some Batistically, there is one of you that did get
left for a new family.

Speaker 1 (21:36):
Sorry, but statistically there is one of you. My friend
is treating me badly and I don't know why because
you're the bed oh am I the a hole for
not paying my friend back after he paid for our drinks.
I've been through a rough patch, which I posted about before,
so I won't rehash that. I don't have many true
friends and fewer that weren't actively avoiding me, And one

(21:58):
is my friend Hank Mail thirty nine. By the way,
this country user isn't she unusual and if you want
to submit your own stories, go to the our slash
Okay storytime subburd it. So my birthday just passed over
spring break. I don't make enough money for parties or drinks,
so I invited five friends over to my one bedroom
apartment for a small gathering in our group chat. I
got pushedback because they wanted to go out. I said, well,

(22:19):
I can't afford to go out, but I can open
some wine and then all. But my friend Clara pushed
again for going out. Hank said he would pay for me.
I agreed and put on my nicest clothes and we
went for drinks. When the bill came, I looked for Hank,
but he had laughed, Hank, Oh, no, are we doing here, Hank.
I kind of panicked but didn't say anything, but Clara said,

(22:41):
I thought Hank was going to pay for you. Then
when no one said anything, she offered to pay for
some of it, and my other three friends pitched in
a few dollars, but I was still about ten dollars short,
so I just pulled from my gas money for the
month to not ask anyone for help. It was so
embarrassing to fumble around like that. I usually go by
the mantra that if you can't afford to go out, don't.
I felt stupid for breaking my own rule. I texted

(23:01):
Hank later, admittedly tipsy, and ask why he had left
me with the bill. He didn't respond, it's gonna be
like I was just kidding. I told you I was
gonna cover the I told you I was gonna pay
for your drinks. I was just joking.

Speaker 2 (23:12):
Or I pay for the drinks, I get water, I
get a little tall glass.

Speaker 1 (23:17):
Wait, I'm confused, Like I'm confused.

Speaker 2 (23:19):
To pay for the drinks and I get the bone.
Yet I thinks had something for op for a while.

Speaker 1 (23:23):
Is that wait? Wait? Did you is that the wait?
What a glass of water is a euphemism for banging? Yeah?
What stepping up tall glass of water? I know I've
heard that, but I just heard that about like someone
who looks good a tall drink of waldo. Yeah, this
is news to me. I'm gonna have to do research
on this. I can't. There's no one who can get

(23:44):
their hooks in my brain. You just do this, dude,
so more than you can bro I swear on that thing. No, No,
I lost the story. I just know if I'm gonna
have to look that up. Look, it's a colloquial thing.
That's what's just what they say in North Carolina, North Kagilaggi. Okay.
I then went to our group chat and thanked everyone
for coming out and that it meant a lot. But

(24:06):
another friend said it was fun except when op ruined
it by crying. Hank texted a laughing emoji saying he agreed,
but that's my thing now.

Speaker 2 (24:15):
Crying out in public, that's so reassuring and comforting.

Speaker 1 (24:19):
Thanks, who are you? Who are these friends? Yeah? You
should be able to cry in front of your friends. Right, Well,
let's see, let's se what have it? I did cry
at one point. I'd gotten choked up, thanking everyone for
celebrating with me as I felt low recently and explained
some of what I wrote in my last post, which
we don't know about, and how I essentially felt like

(24:39):
no one cared about me.

Speaker 2 (24:41):
Oh so she cried because she was expressing gratitude for
the friends she has.

Speaker 1 (24:44):
She literally cried because she was like, I just let
thank you guys for being here. I really appreciate you
guys being in my life, and now I like it
was fun until OPI cried like a big baby. Honestly, yeah,
that checks out.

Speaker 2 (24:59):
Ugh, I want anybody telling me how much they appreciate me.

Speaker 1 (25:02):
Slame. Oh yeah, yeah, Riley needs hate. Don't love Riley?
Hate him? Call me you know, bad name. Don't tell
me how much you like me? Call him stinky ooh's
and then smack him on the knee. Felt the call
out a nie slapper, knee slapper. That was a weird man.
Having this gathering was a happy thing I can hold

(25:23):
on to and remind myself I do have people who care.
I then had gone to the bathroom to fix my
makeup and was all smiles after that. After my friend's
comment in our group chat, I apologized for ruining things,
as I thought it was all good and hadn't realized
I brought the room down. I thankfully got a gift
card from my aunt and had a free birthday drink
at our favorite bar restaurant, not the place we were

(25:44):
in before. So I went to listen to the live
band that would be coming out and spotted Hank. I
waved at him and he invited me to sit with him,
and I did so. Wait, that's a weird move. When
you dodged paying for someone's drinks and then you're like,
come sit next to me, might get more drinks out
of it. How is this some misunderstanding? Though, No, Hank,
I'm not gonna let you trick me too. Stop it, Hank,

(26:04):
I'm upside. I'm all turned around. We listened to the
band the whole night and stayed a bit to finish
our last drinks. He said he was surprised to see
me out, and I said something along the lines of, well,
I wanted to do something to lift my spirits as
my ideation was high lately. I mentioned that I was
diagnosed with major depression and I have anxiety, so if anything,
I cared too much, and he rolled his eyes and

(26:24):
put his hands up in a mock surrender and changed
the subject. The bartender, who knows both of us, checked
in with us to ask if we would have another round,
and Hank said he would. I asked what my tab
was to check and make sure I wasn't overspending past
my gift cards amount, and Hank got mad. He loudly
said Jesus cross and said he gets it already, and

(26:45):
if I want to be an a hole about it, fine,
he threw his card towards the bartender to pay for
both of us. I apologized and said that's not why
I was asking, but he just told me to shut
up about it and he was done. I felt so embarrassed.
People were looking at us, and I tried not to cry,
and Hank looked at me again. He said, oh, you're
gonna cry now and threw up his hands, telling me
I always do this, and he knows I do it

(27:06):
for attention and to freaking get over it.

Speaker 2 (27:08):
Oh wow, Oh that's not a friend.

Speaker 1 (27:13):
And this is when like the bartender calls the bouncer
over and is like, get this belligerent a hole out
of the establishment. Yeah, it seems.

Speaker 2 (27:23):
I think Hanks things a little bit differently than that,
oh boy, or like that that attitude where just get
over it, get a job, get more money.

Speaker 1 (27:32):
Yeah, just kind of yeah dah, why don't.

Speaker 2 (27:35):
You just do that thing instead of complaining that you
have no money?

Speaker 1 (27:39):
And then she's like talking about like her mental health,
and he just goes, hey, you got me, all right,
let's talk about anything else. It's like, dude, come on
as a sore spot for me, and you don't have
friends to understand your sore spots. They really are friends. Yeah,
this guy sounds like he never graduated high school. I
started to cry and said I'm sorry, and some guy

(27:59):
told Ham to pull it back and leave me alone.
Hank cussed him out through ten bucks at me, muttering
he wished I would harm myself and left without his card. Yeah,
that's not your friend. Throw this guy into the sea
where the sea monsters can nibble on him. Why are
we doing Yeah, yeah, that's like a what the heck go?
It's a throwing hands type of comment. I'm not gonna

(28:22):
lie off yourself, that's what That's what he said. He
basically said, go off yourself, dude. That's like a that's
a fight instigating type of moment. What is wrong with
this guy? All over? Like nothing over drinks he said
he would pay for and then bailed on.

Speaker 2 (28:39):
He just doesn't want to accept how big this is
frope and just making a big deal.

Speaker 1 (28:44):
Well, yeah, and that's I think we've we haven't even
touched on that that if this this person's financially insecure,
They're like, I don't want to go out. I don't
have the money to spend, and then all our friends
are like come on, come out, come out, come out.
It's like, yeah, we're not on the same boat right now, guys,
this is crazy that this guy is pulling this. The
bartender had already returned his card with the customer receipt
and placed it in front of us. People at the

(29:05):
bar and the staff were kind to me, and I
stayed to calm down. The bartender brought me my other
drink and said my drinks were on the house and
my previous drinks were on Hank. Since she took his card,
meaning he was covering it, an older gentleman made conversation
and eventually asked what that was all about. I explained
about my birthday dinner. He frowned and said women couldn't
expect men to pay anymore, and that it was selfish

(29:26):
of me to expect it, as it was his choice.
What are you talking? Well? How are you just lovely? Oh?
That's lovely conversation? And this one is just a okay,
grandpa type moment. This is a stranger. Don't waste any
emotional energy on this guy. I later texted in the
group chat to Hank that he left his card and
the bartender has it, and I hope he went home safely.

(29:49):
I made no mention of the argument, but he texted back, Okay,
you want to bring everyone else into it. Fine. Is
this guy just like super drunk right now? Probably? Probably.
I think he likes and he wants to get drunk
so he could talk to her. That's my underlying that is,
actually he's got playground. This is playground crush behavior. This
is like the pulling on the pigtails. Yeah, well I

(30:13):
don't know about that. It's a little bit more aggravated.
Mean well yeah, because he's thirty nine and he's not
an innocent child. But it's like it's the same technique
of like, I have a crush on I don't want
to bother that.

Speaker 2 (30:25):
I just think he was upset. I think he was
upset because he wanted OPI just relax, have some drinks,
jill out. Oh like that you meant and she won't
do it, And he's like, oh you you always ruined it.

Speaker 1 (30:37):
Oh see you put that. Now. I've got the idea
that it's he's got a crush. He's got a crush
on Op. He doesn't know how to express it propably.
Probably so he said to everyone that I bullied him
into paying and it's now my shtick to use in public,
and if you don't, she'll cry and get the bar
thinking you're an ale because I'm selfish and need to

(30:59):
be a spoiled pretty says, even if it's not my
birthday anymore. Oh boy, can we get Hank out of
the group? Please? Can we expedite that? Goodness? Gracious? Sorry? Op,
this is tough. This is tough. Yeah, this is terrible.
A few of the group started berating me and telling
me to get over ten dollars and that Hank let
it slide the first couple of times. I tried to
guilt trip him, but that this was now out of hand. Ope,

(31:20):
he get new friends. They're out there. When Hank said
he paid for everything, they said I owed him, and
Hank put a Vemo request screenshot in and texted, I
mean I wouldn't hold my breath, but I will make
it easy. Are we all still remembering that this guy
didn't pay for Ope's drinks the first time when he
said he would. Yeah, and this is all happening because Op,

(31:41):
he was asking for to know, based on her gift
card balance, if she could pay for the drinks on
her tab at this other place, and then Hank took
it upon himself to take that personally and paid for
her drinks on his own accord again and is now
sending a VEMO request this guy. They built this guy
in a stupid lab. But this was two instances.

Speaker 2 (32:00):
There's probably been another instances where she's asking about money,
asking about how much something costs. Money, just keeps always
bringing up in smaller ways. But then these last few
times kind of built up more and Hank's.

Speaker 1 (32:11):
Like, I'm just over it. Okay, I can't be doing
this anymore. So this was like with the fuse, like
ran out and now this is the explosion.

Speaker 2 (32:18):
Yeah, well, the other time she was just checking for herself,
how much is this? I'm good, I won't eat, I
won't drink you because op sounds like someone who wouldn't
do that.

Speaker 1 (32:27):
It sounds like she's someone who's like always aware and
if she doesn't have that money, she doesn't want to
go out. So I know, I'm just so cy.

Speaker 2 (32:34):
What I'm saying is he she's always checking herself how
much is this?

Speaker 1 (32:38):
Can I pay for it? Nope, I'm good, I won't eat.
How much? Just dreaming that is like and.

Speaker 2 (32:43):
Then and then He's like, you're always saying something about it,
or friend would always come up be like, no, I'll
get this for you, and she's like, oh okay.

Speaker 1 (32:50):
Just stop being broke. So John here og host. We're
gonna get back to these stories. But a quick three
minute break from house from our sponsors. I explained that
I can't pay him back until payday and explained about
the gift card, and then the texts came rapid fire,
BS I call BS, blah blah blah. I muted the
notifications and spent time with my dog watching TV. Now

(33:13):
I'm getting iced out for my friends except for Clara.
Save Clara, Clara is your friend. Two of them have
spouses at my job, and they are avoiding me at work.
I feel like I should just apologize and VENMO the
money after I got paid. I don't have many friends
and being alone is really getting to me. I know
I've been hard to be around lately because I'm not

(33:34):
my normal chip her self, So I know not a
lot of people will want to put up with me.
Am I the a hole? Oh ma man, no ah man.
You going through a tough time does not give your
friends free pass to just completely am on you. Yeah,
like just to crade you like this is wild. You

(33:55):
cried tears of happiness that they were there for your
birth they and then they mocked you about it. That's
actually one of the most insane things I've ever read,
and that should be an immediate you know what, You're
better off without these people being your friends. Clara is
your friend. Yeah, the only person in this story I've
read as your friend is Clara. I agree this.

Speaker 2 (34:18):
I hope you can like go out and do other
things rather than having to interact with these people. Seems
you're stuck because money's tight and you can't like travel
a lot of places, or you might be in a
small area. I don't know, there are more people out there.
It's tricky to figure out. But you're smart, you can
do that.

Speaker 1 (34:36):
I always will suggest the same thing, And it's pickleball,
casual pickleball playing and players. What about the best rock climbing, Well,
it's it's it's also a great community, but it's like
the entry level is a little higher because it's expensive,
I would say, and she's maybe financially insecure. For guys, basketball, basketball, Yeah,

(34:58):
any sports. Sports are a great way to meet new people,
make new friends.

Speaker 2 (35:03):
Sometimes churches, that's a good place if you're comfortable doing that.

Speaker 1 (35:06):
Drum circles. Drum circles like literally anything. Yeah, bird watching, yeah,
wild watching. Find uh, find the theater theaters huge, find
of uh. You know. I don't usually hype up Facebook,
but they do have like a lot of like community
pages and stuff for certain like in your area. If
you want to find a group of people who want
to do something you want to do, you can find
it probably on Facebook. Yeah, yeah, you got it. You

(35:29):
have to be a slightly more extroverted. That stuff. That
is stuff for people I don't even know. Yeah, it
is true if you're an introvert. I'm just so confused
by how Op's ended up here because they don't sound yeah,
like anything except like they've been going through a hard
time emotionally, and it's like all of their friends are
just like dehumanizing them for it.

Speaker 3 (35:46):
Well crazy, You can never know, never true. We don't know,
We don't know how far the rabbit ole goes.

Speaker 1 (35:52):
Okay. Edit I apologized to the group and muted the
group chat. Easter was awful as my family didn't want
me there and I was in to a friends. But
now that friend won't speak to me. I wasn't outright uninvited,
but she did privately message me saying it might be
best if I reconsider coming as I bring down a
room wherever I go. New friends? Yeah yeah, new friend? Yep,

(36:16):
that wasn't Clara, was it?

Speaker 3 (36:17):
Oh?

Speaker 1 (36:17):
Please tell me that wasn't Clara? Was it? I don't
think so, there wasn't a name. So today was the
last straw. We as a friend group were supposed to
have brunch, so I went, but it was awkward and
no one really spoke to me, so I left early.
I got paid today and I'm considering just ven mowing
Hank and hoping they won't ice me out anymore. Do
not send that man any of your money, please, and

(36:38):
there's an update.

Speaker 2 (36:38):
Oh boy, oh boy, it was me. I'd probably bemo
and audios. I've done that before.

Speaker 1 (36:45):
You would then mow that guy after he said that
to you, or like he said that to Angie.

Speaker 2 (36:50):
So he doesn't have anything over me. Yeah, doesn't have
anything of her Angie. Yeah, so we can't keep bringing
it up. Yeah cool, that's fair. If that's his only
pillared us to build his house on, or his only
you know, stick I don't know. If that's the only
thing you can lean on, and I take that away,
then he has no argument.

Speaker 1 (37:09):
I guess, So I guess it's doing the disrespect math
in my head. I guess it's more disrespectful to give
him back the money and then be like, this is
the last time you'll ever hear from me. But then
you could become the bad guy again because it's oh ope,
he's breaking up the whole friend group over ten bucks again.
It's like, I feel like just ghosting all these people

(37:30):
who are based on what I'm reading, treating you like
dirt is your best move. Don't make you friends except Clara.
Keep Clara update. I have five friends on in our
thirties and forties. A quick recap Clara, Bella, Hank, James,
and Frett. I had a disagreement with Hank, which I
outlined in my previous post, but I can't blame everything
on it. I've been suffering from major depression and anxiety,

(37:53):
so I am not my usual chipper self. That is
not your fault. I am usually the dependable friend everyone
can rely on, but lately I've just not had the
energy or bandwidth. I'm estranged from family, so I spend
most of my free time with my friends. I love
my friends, and they all have such wonderful things they
bring to our group that makes it feel whole and fun. Lately,

(38:14):
though they've expressed displeasure with me as I've been quieter
and prone to tears. I admit I'm tired and emotional lately.
I've lost a great job, my family, and more, all
in a few months. When mentioning my troubles, Clara and
Bella usually would listen more than the others, and when
I mentioned that I'm spending Easter alone, Bella had invited
me to hers after having to fall out with Hank. However,

(38:35):
Bella texted me that night and suggested I reconsider coming
to Easter as our other friends would be dropping in
and she didn't want drama. I asked if I create drama,
and she said that I never apologize to Hank and
that I quote bring down any room I come into.
I didn't cry right then, but I wanted to. It
just hurt crazy twists that now Opee is the reliable,

(38:55):
dependable friend in the group and they treat her like this.

Speaker 2 (38:59):
If you don't bring value, it's a transactional relationship.

Speaker 1 (39:02):
It's not unconditional. It's conditional.

Speaker 2 (39:04):
You have to be this type of person and Chip yourself.
And if you're not and you're going through a hard time,
this is not the vibe you want to be around.

Speaker 1 (39:10):
Yeah. If you stop providing for the group, if you
stop being dependable for the group, we're just like, where's
the old U? We want to old you back? This
new you sucks. Yeah, that's what it seems like. Ugh.
I ended up spending Easter alone. I didn't want to
ruin the holiday for anyone, so sad we need some
talk there, bop. But when I reached out in the

(39:31):
group chat and said happy Easter, no one replied, but
they shared photos of the celebration at Bella's. Then this morning,
at a pre planned brunch, I arrived. I wore makeup,
did my hair, and put on my best smile. I
didn't want to bring down any room, so I was
determined to prove I could be my old Chip herself.
But when I arrived, it was awkward. I had made
baskets for everyone and handed them out and they all

(39:53):
fumbled thank you, but I could tell they didn't want
me there. I stayed only long enough to finish the
mo mosta I ordered and made an excuse that I
had work and had to prepare, which was a half truth.
But I had plenty of time to spare and prepare.
Clara was the only one who stood up to hug
me and say goodbye. Your friend slid Clara. She was

(40:14):
also the only one who opened her basket and thanked
me for the items. I think she was trying to
balance the energy. Yeah, it's like you've got one flashlight
and then a black hole on the other side of
that seesaw Like the rest. They didn't even open their gifts.
Made each one of them handmade Eastern baskets, and he
didn't open them or say thank you. Oh he got

(40:35):
to catch a hit. I don't think they want you here. Sad.
This is really sad. Take Clara and start your a
new group, an even better group than the best. Jobe.
There we go. Oh man, I got to my car
and I realized I left my wallet, so I ran
back inside. Now the whole table's energy was great. They
were laughing and talking and all the awkwardness was gone.

(40:56):
I didn't even say anything as I approached, but Hank
and James, we're midway saying something about God. Am I
glad she left early? I thought we would have to
deal with her all morning and I just reached and
grabbed my wallet and left. Oh man, this just keeps
It's gotta get better at some point, right, it just

(41:17):
keeps getting worse. You know what, It's not gonna get
any better until you leave this group. Yeah, honestly, man,
I'm sitting outside my job in my car, trying not
to cry. I have tried so many things to try
and make my friendships work, but it feels like I
fail at every turn. They are the failures. Yeah, they failed,
except Clara. I know I am not my usual self,

(41:40):
but I still want to celebrate and spend time with them.
I miss how things used to be. I am just
at a loss as to what I should do now.
And there is another update.

Speaker 2 (41:49):
Oh boy, dude, I think right now we already know
how it is. I understand that you're in a tough
position where you don't have a lot of people in
your life, and it's it gives me the interesting question,
you have horrible people in your life or no people
in your life?

Speaker 1 (42:04):
Says I take no people, but not permanently. No one
can have no people in their life forever. But like
these people are your enemy, they treat you like you
are their enemy, except Clara, Except Clara. This is pretty wild.

(42:26):
We have another update though, boy Update two. I'm being
called a bigot because I don't want to date my
former friend. Am I the a hole? Is it? Hank?
Is it? Hank? I bet you ten bucks? You know
the group that? Yeah, Hank, I bet you ten bucks.
So I posted a lot about my struggles and my
old friend group. I can't even begin to think to

(42:47):
retype all of that, so it's all in my past post.
But long story short, Hank was in this group. I
sends a text in the group chat quote, hey, so
I understand from what's been said and done that I'm
not adding an any joy to this group. It's very
clear I am making things uncomfortable and awkward for everyone.
I apologize for any harm I have caused since my
accident and will not be attending any more group events.

(43:10):
I will also leave this chat. I really wish you
all well and cherish the time we shared. Op I
left the group chat immediately, but got calls and texts
from all of them asking why, oh, then know why?
They're just trying to save face though. Yeah, that broke
my brain for a second. How do you not know? Why? Clara?

Speaker 3 (43:28):
Why?

Speaker 1 (43:29):
Clara said she understood nice and wanted to stay in touch,
and that she too was thinking of leaving the group overall,
whoa interesting new group? Unlock You and Clara tag team forever.
James and everyone else was hitting up my notifications like crazy.
I took a nap and Hank showed up at my house. Oh,

(43:50):
with a gift basket? Was it the easter bat? Oh?
He should return it if he didn't thank you for
it or he made you want a new one. He
said he was sorry if he hurt me and said
he was mean because of a crush he had on me. Dude,
give me my flowers. I need my flowers right freaking now.

(44:10):
Flowers flowers all around, make a bunch of cherry blossoms
fall down.

Speaker 3 (44:18):
I called it from a mill out that was three
updates a year old. Yeah, you're just like dude. This
guy's annoyed his crush doesn't like him. I called it perfect.

Speaker 1 (44:29):
Aang, dude, give it there.

Speaker 2 (44:32):
It was honestly a little bit of a long shot,
but we nailed it.

Speaker 1 (44:36):
It's a long shot. He got there. Oh my god, Wow,
I was so confused. You like me? So you made
me hate myself for literally days, right, Like, what are
we talking about? What he's in preschool? He's preschool crush
ayanking on the ponytails. I said, I can't talk, and

(44:56):
to not just show up at my house unannounced. Please.
He asked me to come back to the group because
I'm the quote part of the group. Yeah, because all
of you are heartless. What are we talking about?

Speaker 2 (45:08):
You had a crush on someone. You want to say, Hey,
I'm so glad you left. You brought the room down.

Speaker 1 (45:13):
Yeah, it's crazy. And if your friend did say that, like, hey,
man brought up Yeah exactly, Like why, well, being a gentleman, well,
standing up for women, stand up guys, is not a woman? Guy?
Stand up for your friends, stand up for your friends.
Oh so, hey, it's sam og host. We're gonn get
back to these delectable stories. But here's three minutes of

(45:35):
ads from our sponsors to help support the show. He
told me I'm the heart of the group, and I
think my face betrayed me because I gave him the
bombastic side eye. At how cheesy that was? I said,
I was tired and needed to sleep and close the door.
Now I'm getting messages about events like are you still
bringing me a cake to this? Or are you still
gonna be my ride to that? I just feel used

(45:58):
and alone. I thought maybe cutting away from them would
help me feel better, but it just makes me feel worse.
I feel like I let down my friends because, as
one of them put it, I'm just tossing away the
only people who give a crap about me. I don't know,
it doesn't sound like that's what's happening at all. No,
it sounds like you were the glue holding everyone together,
and without you, they just realize, oh my god, we

(46:19):
all kind of suck. We were just making fun.

Speaker 2 (46:22):
Of We have to we have to guilt trip her
in order for her to get back. This isn't what
friends do. No, dude, this is weird.

Speaker 1 (46:28):
This is an like they're trying. No one's apologizing. No,
it's a transactional friendship. Yeah, I feel like I let
down my friends, which is not true. They let you
down because one of them said, I'm tossing away the
only people who give a crap about me with them,
which they don't. They just give a crap about the
things you do for them, I'm making fun of you. Keikes,
this is your lowest too. It's like you were clearly

(46:49):
in some kind of accident, some event happened that deeply
impacted you.

Speaker 2 (46:53):
From this statement, we can tell they're not doing well
because one they cannot self reflect in two what's easier
instead of owning up like you want to be friends,
they're blaming you and they' putting blame on you.

Speaker 1 (47:05):
So you could tell that these people are messed up
from the get go. Yeah, quite literally, despicable behavior out
of this friend group, except for Clara, Dude, Clara, Clara
the real one. Love her music what it is? Clara?
Ah No, I love Clara? Oh man, okay I can.

Speaker 2 (47:27):
I'm gonna listen to so on quietly in my ears
so we don't get copyrighted.

Speaker 1 (47:30):
Listen to your brain. So from there, here is what
has happened recently. Since then, I started making some supplemental
income on writing recipes for a local organization that sells
different cookbooks. Oh nice, a freelance cookbook writer.

Speaker 2 (47:44):
Dude, learn learn to do that postal social media and
then make your own cookbook and send it and sell.

Speaker 1 (47:49):
Yeah, start making your own cookbooks it's something I can
do in my free time, and I enjoy it. It's
a lot to catch up on. Sorry, but here's what
happened yesterday. I was sitting at a local bar. Fairly,
I have to that. It's a known place I frequent,
but I was working on recipes for a new cookbook.
The staff there know me as I live close and
I can walk to them. They also heard some of
what happened with my friend group, as I've told the

(48:10):
bartender who asked me why she hadn't seen me with
my friends anymore. When I mentioned writing about it on Reddit,
she once sat with me while it was slow and
read some of it on her phone. Dude, this is
a good bartender connection. That's a great that's a great
bartender connector right there, dude. Anyway, Hank arrived with some
of his friends. He announced the staff that he got
a promotion was celebrating. Woo, shut up, Hank. He got

(48:33):
some congrats from the folks there, and I kept my
eyes on my notebook, but I could see him moving
towards me. He gave me a really happy hello, and
I mustered a smile and said hi, but went back
to my recipe. He said he was thinking of me,
wanted to know how I'm doing. I said I was fine,
just busy, and he asked with what I'm a moron?
But I mentioned the recipe book I helped write. That's

(48:55):
already out.

Speaker 2 (48:56):
Talk too much. You like to share too much information.
You should just it's one of your skills that you have.
Stone wall this, man, I know someone that does this.

Speaker 1 (49:05):
What stone wall no, or like, we'll just talk to
people who clearly want nothing to do with or have
treated them wrongly.

Speaker 2 (49:12):
I have a friend that got treated really bad and
recently they talk to that person.

Speaker 1 (49:17):
I think it was their rect I know what friend
you're talking about. Did just talk to their acts.

Speaker 2 (49:20):
I'm like, I'm like, dude, you can you know you
can like hit the block button right, you don't have
to talk to them anymore. Even if they contact you, you
don't have to do that.

Speaker 1 (49:27):
Or you can explicitly tell them go away, leave me alone.
I literally don't think about you like this. You can
you can do that here right single that one sentence,
I know you want to be nice. Never call you
again after that sentence, I know you want to be nice.

Speaker 2 (49:41):
Just hey, I don't want to be contacted but also
this part is you like to share things with people,
and you're just trying to make conversation even though it's awkward.

Speaker 1 (49:49):
Oh yeah, I'm sure I'd be looking at him like
his head was on fire. I'm like, are you really
talking to me right now? You're just talking to me
like like everything's normal. Okay, so so op. He mentions
the cookbook. He asked where he could get it, and
I mentioned it can be found on Amazon, as it
was the most popular site. He looked it up. He
said he was getting the Kindle version and showed me

(50:11):
he purchased it. Thanks, buddy. That's the most useless version too,
where you're gonna read the recipes on the Kindle while
you're cooking. You crazy. It's just like an empty purchase
as well. Wait, don't say that what. Some of our
people love the Kindle, No, no, I'm the Kindle is good.
Some of them use recipes on the can for a
cookbook for cooking. Yeah, I feel like it'd be so messy,
you get the get the Kindle all messy. It's like

(50:32):
a book, but it's it's like a book, dude, It's
like a one page book. I know, but it's like
you gotta like swipe it. You're gonna get all your
food hands all over the It's like cooking with your phone.
I just net, well, literally the same thing. Oh dude,
you just opened my mind to a whole new universe.
WHOA you always cook with a cook book or you
cook with your phone? Oh god, yeah, oh god. I

(50:54):
gotta sit in a cave and reflect from the plug
for an app. That would be amazing for this, but
we're not sponsored, or I can't say that. I can't
do it. But it's really far out. I can't say it.
I'm gonna shut up. Sorry, editor to take out the
app part. Okay. I thanked him and said I hoped
he would enjoy it and continued working. He took the
hint and went with his friends, and for a while

(51:16):
I was left to my work and thoughts. I was
happy to have the piece, as I have been working
on being alone and being okay with it, and I've
found some solace and being alone in crowded spaces. I
also like that. I think it's cool. I enjoy the
sounds of life and don't mind being on my own sometimes.
When he returned, he was laughing and had the e
book kindle version of the book and ordered me another drink,

(51:38):
stating I know I have to buy you a drink
for you to want to talk to me, and just
laughed I would again, not even looking at him. He
want sort to get might pushing so we can talk
to her. I'm not even speaking to this guy. He's insane.
I said he didn't have to, and I could buy
my own drinks. He kept poking at it, insisting he

(52:00):
am I drink, and then said all right, all right,
I'll buy you too, and asked the bartender to put
my first drink on his tab. I was just exhausted
at this point and thanked him. He showed me his
phone with the book pulled up and went on in
at least five minute critique of the book. This is
just pathetic that this is a forty year old man
and he doesn't know how to handle his crush on

(52:21):
op no other than being an actual ten year old
boy about it. Yeah, that's insane to me, Like this
is weird. I know he hasn't committed a crime, but
I feel like they'll lock this guy up if you're
forty and you crush on people like a ten year
old jail that's a strong stance. But I'm deeply upset

(52:42):
by this man. Okay, I have a whole I'm gonna
find a list of people that fit within that category
and that we're gonna throw it in a jail, and
you're gonna feel really bad about yourself. We would just
can we only their name if they're named Hank and
they're in this story. Henk's probably not his real name.
Just send this one guy away from me. Don't want
them near me. Okay, So here comes Hank's critique. My

(53:05):
cover art was boring. I didn't make the cover. Two
of the recipes are bland and not interesting at all.
The images looked too commercial and no one would buy
a commercial looking book. And why are there vegan recipes
in it? That's lame and divisive, And that would be
because one of the other writers is vegan and we
found it to be inclusive to add a couple of
vegan recipes in for the price. It's not actually engaging enough,

(53:28):
and it's not like you're Pauladine or something.

Speaker 2 (53:31):
Okay, real quick, this is my PSA to literally everyone.
At a point, you're gonna be confrontated.

Speaker 1 (53:37):
No, you're gonna make conversation with someone that's a fool, fool.

Speaker 2 (53:42):
A fool, a literal fool, plumb fool. And there's one
thing you cannot do with the fool, and that's called reason.
You can never reason with a fool. In this scenario,
this is a fool you cannot reason with. So do
not give them your time or attention.

Speaker 1 (53:55):
Put the wall up, actually put up? Do they if
they have some kind of divider, you go three D
thick up. Yes, it's importable. Anthony wal oh Man, oh
Man oh Man. I managed to stay calm for most
of it, but it was the tail end when he
laughed at some joke He said at my expense that

(54:16):
I genuinely don't remember, and then said, how about I
take you on a date and I can give you
some pointers. You know I'm a good cook. I said, thanks,
but I hadn't the time between my jobs and this
new gig as a writer. He kept saying come on,
and chuckling and nudging his elbow into my arm, but
his laugh kept sounding more odd. I just looked at

(54:36):
him and said, you told everyone I ruined everything. I
wouldn't want to ruin your time. Fire. He rolled his
eyes and said that was forever ago, in the fact
that I hadn't gotten over it was crazy to him.
I didn't say much else to him other than repeating
variations of insults he said about me and how he
clearly would want better than me. It was petty, I know,

(54:57):
but I kept it going. It wasn't petty enough for me. Ope, honestly,
you're thinking, and our friend does this too. Our friend
goes I was mean. Meanwhile, they just like had a
polite conversation with someone that's not being mean. Yeah, this
is a guy who deserves to get a little venom
spit at him because he said some horrific stuff to

(55:18):
you and about you behind your back.

Speaker 2 (55:21):
Please stop giving them your time. Just keep working on
your recipes.

Speaker 1 (55:25):
He said. Great when he said I could take you
on a date, I wanted, more than anything into my
life for you to say you're the last person on
earth I would go on a date with. Yeah, never
ask me that again. Literally facts and by the way,
it always keeps going. On Spotify, iHeartRadio and whatever podcast
apps you use to listen to podcasts, you can listen

(55:47):
to every episode we've basically ever made in our entire lives.
Just search the name of our show, Okay, story time,
and then listen to him on repeat boom all day
every day. We've got some some story left here. I
don't know if we have any closing thoughts.

Speaker 2 (56:03):
Called it I get rid of them. I called it
my new friends. Seems like you've got something going. Keep
it up, Keep it up, literally, keep it up. I
love this exactly.

Speaker 1 (56:11):
I love when people explore new things and it's getting somewhere.
Just keep it up. You're a cookbook recipe maker, now, yeah, dude,
just keep it up exactly. Hank got so angry at
me and said to stop mocking him. This is the
same guy who told her to self delete herself. By
the way, the very same guy who told her to

(56:32):
do that. I said, I wasn't that these are actually things.
He said were his observations of me. So hy be
with someone like that? And he agreed, but said, well
then maybe be grateful. I think you're cute, and I
thanked him but was sarcastic. He then said, you're being
too sensitive. Grow up, and I just replied, I know,

(56:53):
I am sensitive. Why would you want to date someone
like that? I'm sorry, thanks for the drinks, and walked away.
I'm getting tech once again from the group, and many
of them are saying I broke his heart and I'm
a bigot because he's autistic, and I clearly look down
on him. That never where did that come from. I
clearly we have not a lot of information about this

(57:15):
guy's autism diagnosis. But I would bet every dollar to
my name he's self diagnosed from a TikTok video. I
That's what I would bet. I would bet he did that,
because this guy does not sound like that at all.
It sounds like he's like, oh, I can use this
as an excuse to just be rude and mean to people. Yeah,

(57:35):
I'll do that. I hate people who do that. This
was news to me, so I want to reply and
defend myself. But even still, am I the a hole
for being petty and mocking Hank? Nope? No, you know,
mog Hank. You just told him no, I don't want
to go on a day with you. And you didn't
even tell him no. You were just like, I'm just
so busy with my jobs. Like no, you weren't even
mean enough, and you repeated what he said to you

(57:57):
and about you. So you're good. You're good. OBI don't
don't don't give this any more of your time. You
can't reason with the full Guys, we're gonna reason with
the fact that we have to go right now.

Speaker 2 (58:06):
Don't worry. We have more episodes coming. Literally we're recording
them right now, so don't you worry. And if you
love us, make sure to subscribe.

Speaker 1 (58:15):
We love you and see you tomorrow.

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