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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:07):
Real quick, we got a two minute break from our
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reconcile with my cheating mother.

Speaker 1 (00:16):
I'm thinking about running away. He shouldn't do that.

Speaker 2 (00:19):
I am seventeen male and had my worst birthday last week.
Don't worry, buddy, there's plenty more context. My dad and
egg Donor divorced when I was fourteen, So yeah, this
is gonna be three years worth of details that happened. Oh,
my egg Donor cheated on my dad and had a
year long affair.

Speaker 1 (00:37):
Oh, we clearly don't like the mom.

Speaker 2 (00:40):
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My dad found out and while separating, explained to me
what happened. I was already mature and having big conversations
with my dad, like politics, so he didn't anything.

Speaker 1 (01:01):
Imagine. The conversation was just red good, blue bad.

Speaker 2 (01:04):
I was fourteen having big boy conversations. I was and
still am disgusted with my donor did we just call
her Deborah egg donor will here to forth be known
as Debrah for that day that I would never call
her mom even now, I either call her by her
name or just say hey you at the start of
the conversations.

Speaker 1 (01:25):
So funny.

Speaker 2 (01:26):
I moved in with her a fair partner. Dad got
the house, but unfortunately couldn't get full custody. I wasn't
given a preference because while I was staying with my
dad during the separation, I got into a fight at school.
I have a bit of a temper reshoe. Deborah's lawyer
used that incident to get joint custody until I turned eighteen.
I was like, wtf in court? I think Deborah slept

(01:48):
with the judge to get that ruling. My dad is
a great human being, never raised his voice and has
always loved me so much. He occasionally says, I love
your son. Makes me cringe, but I accept. My dad
is a very loving person. He always says he has
an ocean of love to give. He loved my mom
so much. Whenever Deborah returned from work, my dad used

(02:10):
to huger, give her a kiss, and ask her how
her day was yes, even when she was having a
year long affair. I don't know what kind of human
she is to keep up that facade when your partner
is loving you so much. Things became serious last month
when I had a huge fight with my entire maternal
side of the family. I was very close with my
maternal grandparents, but I started distancing myself after the divorce.

(02:33):
We visited my grandparents' house and I was pissed that
a fair partner was present with Deborah and the trip
was for an entire weekend.

Speaker 1 (02:42):
I wasn't very keen.

Speaker 2 (02:43):
On spending a weekend with them, but my dad convinced
me it was going to be great, and a boy,
was he wrong. Past two years, my grandparents had asked
me so many times to change my attitude towards Deborah,
but I never cared. Things went crazy when they tried
to have an intervention with me. Grandparents, Deborah, and a
fair partner were present. I was completely blindsided. All four

(03:05):
of them were sitting opposite of me. They gave me
the entire couch to sit by myself. It was like
a therapy session. Egg Donor and grandparents started their attack
one by one while a fair partner was silent. My
temper took over and the a whole version of me
came out. I turned towards a fair partner and said, hey,
you f off. This is between family, honestly, is fair.

(03:27):
I don't think you should have the a fair partner
at whatever little intervention you're having to.

Speaker 1 (03:31):
Be like, you need to be okay with your mom existing.
It's like, shut up, you cheated with my mom.

Speaker 2 (03:35):
Also, here's the person you arguably hate more than anyone
on earth right now, the affair partner.

Speaker 1 (03:39):
Everyone was shocked at my tone.

Speaker 2 (03:41):
Deborah tried to end the intervention because she knew that
what would happen when this side of me came out.
My grandparents didn't budge. I'm their only grandson and they
didn't want to lose connection with me as I started
distancing myself. A fair partner was ashamed and was leaving
when I said other hurtful things. I said, she cheated
on my dad with you, she'll cheat on you with
someone else, correct, So that caused more damage. He couldn't

(04:05):
say a word, and then I hit the final blow.
I hope your son also gets cheated on by his
future wife so he can know what kind of an
ale his father is that in him hard. He was
angry and went out storming. And I will forgive that
because you are between fourteen and sixteen.

Speaker 1 (04:22):
Where's from between fourteen and seventeen? Which, yeah, it's very
black and white.

Speaker 2 (04:26):
And look, I'm not gonna sit here and be like
infidelity is okay or not bad. But it's like there's
not a usually always a black and white. There's a
lot of gray stuff in the middle once you get
into adult land, like why people do things. It's like,
is his mom like an irredeemable monster for like being infidelitous? No?

Speaker 1 (04:47):
Most likely No.

Speaker 2 (04:48):
Does it absolve her of like any responsibility or guilt
coming from op right now?

Speaker 1 (04:54):
Also no?

Speaker 2 (04:54):
But it's like this is just a very emotionally charged
teenager dealing with the employe of his own family. Bro
wanted to follow a fair partner out the door, but
I didn't let her go. I asked her to sit
so once and for all we could finish this. Deborah
started crying, saying, how can her only son treat her
this way? Well, Deborah, you should understand that you have

(05:16):
upset him. Grandparents were disappointed in me, turned towards my
mom and started unloading everything. I explained how much I
loved her, how much Dad loved her, and how she
betrayed us. I brought out the instances when I used
to sleep next to my mom after watching some movies
when I was thirteen, and said how she was my
safe space, how much I cared for her and everything.

(05:38):
I hit her hard with, just imagine how much you've
ruined everything that so much love turned to hatred.

Speaker 1 (05:44):
And the thing is, I don't think Opete does like
fully hate his mom. I think that when you care
about someone so much and they betray you, so angry
because you love them so much and that love is
not gone, just so confusing and you're like, ah, like
you made me so so angry and there's so much
emotion in here because you were so important to me.

(06:04):
He just like doesn't have the.

Speaker 2 (06:06):
Words, has zero experience, and need is therapy big time.
She couldn't control her sobbing. After that, even my grandparents
started to cry. It was hard seeing my grandfather cry,
but what can you do when you raise? Deborah started
to shift blame towards my dad, saying he had poisoned me.

Speaker 1 (06:22):
Classic victim card move.

Speaker 2 (06:24):
The thing is my dad, after the divorce, attended therapy
sessions to get his life back on track. The last
step of that therapy was to make a video about
your feelings. My dad made a video about how he
forgave Deborah and wished her a great life. He was
supposed to send this video to Deborah, but couldn't, so
he sent it to me. I played the two year
old video and everyone just sat silently, no shocking reaction,

(06:45):
no nothing, because they knew how great of a person
my dad was. Deborah couldn't control her emotions. I even
doubled down by saying me and Dad loved you so
much that we were ready to take a bullet for you.
But now, even if you pass away tomorrow, I will
not be visiting your funeral. That's probably a lie, little
too far, though, not gonna make anybody feel better, not
even you.

Speaker 1 (07:03):
Op. It's just like, this is a kid who needs
therapy so badly, with all of that pain and stuff
that he's going through.

Speaker 2 (07:10):
I turned towards my grandparents and started shouting at them,
asking how they could raise their daughter to be a cheater.
I so wanted to use the W word, but controlled myself.
I also said that now I can't trust girls in
my school and I am scared to get a girlfriend. Buddy,
that was gonna happen either way. Don't worry about that.

Speaker 1 (07:28):
You gotta fix that now before Ope, he gets this
like very unhealthy view of women, because very worsome if
that OPI is saying this one hundred percent.

Speaker 2 (07:37):
Both my grandparents and Deborah didn't say anything, couldn't stand
there anymore, and called my dad to pick me up.
My grandparents apologized to my dad when he came to
pick me up for how he was treated during the divorce.
My dad knew something was up, but didn't say anything.
Deborah and a fair partner had gone out for a walk.
I forgot to mention my dad started dating again and

(07:57):
had met an amazing woman. She is also a divorcee
with no kids. She treats my dad amazingly and he
deserves someone amazing. All of that huge fight in my grandparents'
house led to what happened last week on my birthday. Oh,
this was all a prelude. This wasn't even the story.
Deborah came to my birthday without the affair partner, which

(08:19):
was shocking, but I didn't care. After the party, Both
Deborah and my dad were having a conversation on the
balcony and I could hear everything. It was shocking to
know that Dad and Deborah were in contact for a
week before, where she begged my dad for forgiveness and
my dad forgave her. On the balcony, she was asking
if they could reconcile and start a new chapter. I

(08:42):
was shocked to hear that, as was my dad. She
said she broke up with a fair partner because she
realized she's still in there with Dad.

Speaker 1 (08:49):
What a load of bullcrap. Ohouch, this is where you go, Deborah.

Speaker 2 (08:53):
I forgave you, but I'm not forgetting Yeah, there's a difference.

Speaker 1 (08:58):
We've moved on.

Speaker 2 (08:59):
I wish no ill upon you. However, I don't wish
to have you back.

Speaker 1 (09:03):
I don't love you, you may love me. Can't say
the same by you. Don't worry, deb You'll make it through.
So they had realized.

Speaker 2 (09:08):
I heard everything and came into the living room so
all three of us could discuss this. What was shocking
was that my dad was actually considering saying we could
again become a family.

Speaker 1 (09:18):
Dating someone, know, you, literally dating someone.

Speaker 2 (09:22):
I shouted at him and asked him to recall how
much Deborah betrayed us, how he had to go to
therapy to get his life back on track.

Speaker 1 (09:31):
Dad was stuck in between.

Speaker 2 (09:32):
Or tried everything to convince Dad, recalling how great our
family was and that we could go back to that.
I was having none of it and asked egg Donor
to leave. Had asked me to speak respectfully to her,
as I said, he is a great human. I even
mentioned how a fair partner and Deborah were together for
years but didn't get married. She said it was their choice.

(09:53):
I couldn't take it anymore and went a brutal on
my dad. Teenager anger problems. He said, when you were
hugging and kissing your wife as soon as she came home,
asking her how her day went, she was somewhere moaning
to some other guy's strokes. You did not say that,
Kimberly Fine. They literally stole your line. Literally, I saw
it in there. At some point she's talking about backshots

(10:14):
of words for the son and the dad. Dad, talk
to your therapist about this before you make any decisions.

Speaker 3 (10:21):
Please stop putting your son in the middle of this.

Speaker 2 (10:24):
Not a time for this to be talked out with
your son.

Speaker 1 (10:29):
No don't be like, hey, thinking about with your mom, Like, no,
having that conversation with your son, that was a huge whiff.

Speaker 2 (10:38):
Op needs therapy, therapy, which is again the dad's responsibility.
Dad's really dropping the ball on, like what does Opie
actually need to thrive?

Speaker 1 (10:47):
I agree, like oh, he's like, oh, Dad's such a
great person. It's like okay, but he's not taking into
consideration what you need as a child.

Speaker 2 (10:53):
Yeah, where's your therapy? He got his therapy, where's yours?
That hit my dad hard. He looked at me in shock.
Imagine that's a shocking to hear come out of the
mouth of your child.

Speaker 1 (11:02):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (11:02):
Also said if they get back together, I will run
away and never contact you say a word, and just
left to take a walk. I knew then and there
I said something horrible. Deborah also left without saying anything.
He called my dad. He did not pick up the
first time, but when he did, I apologized and asked
why he would ever consider taking her back. I said,

(11:23):
he has an amazing girlfriend right now, and this was
something my dad didn't know. He thought I hated his
girlfriend like I hated the affair partner. But as soon
as I said that, he asked me to say the truth,
whether I really like his girlfriend and wouldn't object if
she became part of our family. I happily said yes,
and that I wouldn't hesitate to call her mom. That's
also therapy therapy time.

Speaker 1 (11:45):
I don't know. It feels like, oh, he's like sting
the situation to get with Like, I don't think you would.
Do you actually see her as your mom? Or are
you just saying that so that your dad won't get
back together with your bio.

Speaker 2 (11:56):
Well, I think Op has made the decision that his
mom is dead to him yea, and that now they're like, well,
if you marry your girlfriend and that I can haven't
mom again.

Speaker 1 (12:03):
I can make her mom.

Speaker 2 (12:04):
But it's like you can't therapy, which is not something
you can understand as a teenager, maybe inherently unless you're
like one of those, you know. I feel like Millie
Bobby Brown was a great example of just like a
genius emotionally genius kid because she played it like do
she stranger things? A lot of times kids can't get
emotion I was like, what are you talking about?

Speaker 1 (12:23):
Like this is.

Speaker 2 (12:23):
Clearly one of those cases. It's not happening. Oh, I
want to call her mom. Dad was very happy to
hear that, which again Dad should have immediately been like,
you need therapy if you're thinking that. When Deborah got
around in knowing this, she got angry and asked how
I could choose someone else over her. I said, I
will pick even the devil over you. She said, I
was heartless and what I said and did was very hurtful.

(12:46):
She was right about that.

Speaker 1 (12:48):
Like just a big old therapy chant. No advice for
you other than therapy.

Speaker 2 (12:52):
My dad asked me to go to therapy and get
my temper under control as well as my mouth, and
I am considering it. Grandparents call and said it's time
to forgive Yebra like my dad did. I said no.
Said what I said and did on my birthday was wrong.
So I'm out of a hole for saying to my
father I will run away if he reconciles with my

(13:13):
cheating mother.

Speaker 1 (13:15):
I don't think the ale. I just think that you
are very emotionally confused need a lot of help.

Speaker 2 (13:21):
No one's the a hole here except I mean the
mom for cheating mom.

Speaker 1 (13:26):
I think your grandparents for saying that you have to
forgive your mom. I don't think that anyone can rush
or free iveness or demand it. Dad for not getting
into therapy sooner, I think that's just like a lot
of mistakes being made, just a lack of therapy.

Speaker 2 (13:38):
I'd be like, if you're calling your mom the devil,
I would just end your just guess you can anger issues.
It's like I'm concerned. I'm like genuinely concerned about you. Hi, guys,
it's been two weeks since my original post and I
have come bearing an update. First things first, I read
all your comments under my post. Man.

Speaker 1 (13:53):
People on Reddit love supporting cheaters.

Speaker 2 (13:55):
First, I'll answer a few doubts for those who are
saying my dad alienated me against DEBRAA.

Speaker 1 (14:00):
You need to know one thing.

Speaker 2 (14:01):
When dad got the house, she moved in with a
fair partner, so I got to know at that time
only that she cheated. My dad never said so. I
was fourteen when they separated, meaning I already knew what
cheating meant. Coming to some good news, as you guys
and my dad suggested, I started therapy.

Speaker 1 (14:18):
Yay.

Speaker 2 (14:20):
It's been great. Granted only two sessions have happened, but
still it's great. There is a lot of anger and
hatred that I have to deal with and it's going
to take some time getting over it. Now coming to
the update, I got a drunk call from the affair
partner last week, and man, he revealed a lot A
fair partner.

Speaker 1 (14:38):
Didn't even know that he was a fair partner.

Speaker 2 (14:41):
Which why is calling you exactly? I don't know if
I would trust a single word that comes out of
the rank affair partner calling you. Yeah, you guys heard
that right? Egg Donor aka Deborah, while cheating, said that
Dad and her were separated and were sleeping in separate rooms,
and also said that they were together now for my
sake and as soon and as I joined high school,
they were gonna get divorced. I was shocked out of

(15:03):
my mind, as none of those were true. Dad and
her always had date nights and had also gone on
a trip just the two of them in that one
year she was cheating. The partner said he didn't know
about any of that and thought he was in a
legitimate relationship until I spilled everything at my grandparents' house.

Speaker 1 (15:18):
Find that very very hard to believe.

Speaker 2 (15:20):
He said the comment about his son was a real
kick in the pants, and that's when he decided to
break up with Deborah. He said, have a good life
and cut the call. Man, I feel bad for a
fair partner. He didn't know he was in a cheating relationship.
Now this all makes sense. Remember when I said f
off to a fair partner in my grandparents' house. Egg
Donor tried to stop the intervention, but I cut her

(15:42):
off and spilled everything. Even my grandparents know the entire truth.
Everybody was being lied, like even her parents. That's why
I was like, how we got really? I then confronted
my mom about all of this. My egg Donor was
first angry that fair partner was drunk called me and
I guess she is still a mother. Then she came
clean and started crying, saying that she still loved Dad,

(16:05):
but this was like an adrenaline rush kind of thing
and she just made a mistake. I just got the
call as I couldn't hear any more excuses. She said
one thing that I shouldn't tell my dad as he
is happy now and she doesn't want to disturb his
happiness what he already knows. Because by the way, you
can listen to full episodes with stories that are a
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(16:28):
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Speaker 1 (16:45):
Can make a little Talian say this is not real.

Speaker 2 (16:49):
Even I think I shouldn't say anything to my dad,
especially about a fair partner drunk dialing me, because I
know for sure Dad is going to ruin his life.
For those wondering, my dad is rich and his lawyers
are sharks.

Speaker 1 (17:01):
Get this.

Speaker 2 (17:01):
My parents never signed a prenup yet Deborah did not
get anything in the divorce except for custody. My dad
has connections, so I don't know what he will do
to a fair partner. I'm thinking of going no contact
with mom after I turn eighteen and go to college.
It's because I loved her for fourteen years and going
no contact is a scary thought.

Speaker 1 (17:19):
So guys, what should I do? Should I go no contact?

Speaker 2 (17:22):
You know what I think, before you make any of
those decisions, you should just keep going to therapy.

Speaker 1 (17:25):
Thee keep going to therapy m HM.

Speaker 2 (17:28):
And that is where you're not going to find out
whether you should go no contact with your mom until
you go on there.

Speaker 1 (17:33):
Edit.

Speaker 2 (17:33):
No, you're going to find out when in contact with
your mom in therapy.

Speaker 1 (17:36):
But that's the end of that story. My stepmother treated
me awfully. It ruined my relationship with my father collateral damage.
As the title says, this happened quite a few years
ago when I thirty female was a kid, but the
entitlement still stings. My parents were in the middle of
a nasty divorce. My dad had moved several hours away

(17:58):
and was now living with the other party because of
the divorce named in the solicitor's papers aka my stepmother.
By the way, this comes from mycologist false two three
three two and if you want to smit your own stories,
go to r slash Okay, storytime separate it. So, even
though I was only a kid, I was semi aware
of what was really going on. It wasn't the first
time my dad had moved out because of another woman,

(18:20):
but it was the first time the word divorce had
been mentioned. In the past. He had always come home
after a few weeks full of apologies. So when my
stepmother first met me and loudly declared call me ma'am,
I was immediately in her bad books by saying, no,
thank you. Come on, guys, what are we doing? Why
are we asking new kids to call you mom?

Speaker 4 (18:41):
I'm your mom?

Speaker 1 (18:42):
Nay, I don't know.

Speaker 2 (18:44):
Yeah, well did you just shit?

Speaker 1 (18:45):
They but her entitlement only got worse. While Dad was
in the process of moving in with my stepmother and
sorting custody of me with mom and solicitors, he would
sometimes take me out on day trips, but stepmother always
came too, and I became her little project. I wasn't
the prettiest kid, but my mom has always said I
should enjoy being a kid and not worry about looks

(19:07):
for now. In contrast, stepmother's kids, one older than me,
one younger, both wore makeup and dressed like they were
going to a nightclub, and as stepmother's little project, I
had to look like I was going club. In two
my clothes would be removed as soon as she saw
me and replaced with crop tops and mini skirts. She'd
sit me down and force my hair into plats with
hair gel. My original clothes would always conveniently go missing

(19:30):
when it was home time, but my mom couldn't play
that game with my new trashy clothes. If a single
hair clip I had been forced to wear went missing,
then Dad would be calling up my stepmother's behalf thinking
about seless it as in peace for theft of property
as a custody arrangement was eventually worked out as me
living full time with Mom staying with Dad for the

(19:50):
school holidays, and that first and last week was rough
on me. Well fairness, my dad did try to keep
me entertained, but I wasn't used to living with other children.
I was an only child at plus, sleeping in a
strange place after never being away from my mom for
my whole life equals an uncomfortable situation. Through a few days,
I confessed privately to my dad that I missed Mom.

(20:11):
Now I can see how that would hurt his feelings,
but I wasn't asking to go home. I was actually
angling to use his mobile to call her. I'd used
the stepmother's landline the day before, but she had hovered
listening the whole time, and it just felt awkward. Had
it looked upset but told me to go and eat
some lunch, and off I went, and here's where stepmother's

(20:32):
in tidal beabe you're exploded. Sitting next to my stepsister,
I suddenly had a plate slapped down in front of
me by my stepmother. There. I was confused, but said
thank you and started to eat. Throughout the meal, she
started making snide comments in my direction while talking to
her daughter, things like, ah, well that then, sweetheart, thie,
you'll never disappoint me. I'm like somewhat. I know. I

(20:54):
was a very timid kid, so I don't know where
I got the burst of confidence to say something. But
I said, is something and stepmother snapped back, you know what, uppy.
Her father's very important to me and you've really hurt
his ceilings. I tried to explain, but she snatched my
plate and stalked out of the room. I followed her,
still hungry, and tried to take my plate back, but
she just unleashed on me. Standing in the hallway with

(21:17):
this almost stranger screaming in my face. Is something I'm
never going to forget. I was apparently an ungrateful brat,
and she washed her hands of me. I burst into
tears and completely shrank into myself as she just kept screaming,
where is dad? Little reminder I was a child under
ten years old and she was over thirty. My only

(21:39):
crime was missing my mother. I honestly think that she
should have been the adult here and had a bit
of empathy. How entitled you have to be to think
it's okay to go crazy at a sobbing kid. So yeah,
not something I'm likely to forget and results I got
taken home that day several hours driving with Dad sat
in total bun crushing silence. It did damage our relationship, unfortunately.

(22:01):
It's one of the things favorite adjectives phone crushing. Yes,
it's a good. One thing is that I don't think
your stepmom is damaging your relationship with the dad. I
think your dad is damaging his relationship with you, that
he's not standing up for you. Was he there? Like?
Did he leave? Did he have to go to work? Like?
What does he work at night? Like? What do we do?
I think he was still there.

Speaker 2 (22:18):
I refuse to believe that dad was present to hear
fully throated screaming at a child and did not step in,
like he had to have been gone. Because also the
stepmom sounds pretty opportunistic, So.

Speaker 1 (22:31):
Maybe yeah, maybe she like went in on ope when
he was gone, that's my guess. There's more. While stepmother
was squawking the house down, I vivid remember seeing him
through my waterfall of tears, standing at the top of
the stairs, watching us and saying nothing. I have no
idea what he said to my mom to explain why
I was home two days early, but I never spoke

(22:53):
to her about it. Today is actually the first time
I've spoken about it, other than to my husband when
we first met and were swapping off full family stories. Fortunately,
the only two occasions I've seen my stepmother in the
two decades since, I've been at family gatherings where we've
happily ignored each other edit, just correcting some spelling mistakes
and saying wow and thank you guys. Up until now,

(23:15):
I suppose I was gaslighting myself into thinking I somehow
deserved her shouting at me like she did. I just
wanted to add a detail post blow up. The custody
and arrangement changed after that day. I never stayed at
or visited stepmother's house again. Instead, it was agreed that
Dad would pick me up from school every other Friday
and we would stay with his parents until Sunday afternoon

(23:37):
when he dropped me back with Mom, And honestly, it
was always awkward from there, mostly because I was resentful
that he didn't jump in and defend me against stepmother.
I still don't know why he didn't, as he had
always and still does if he get getting sentimental. But
if anyone spoke to me like that or ever hurt me,
he'd beat them up. See where my gas slighting comes from.

(24:00):
He always said he'd be on my side, so the
fact that he wasn't must mean I really deserved it,
et cetera, et cetera. Also, my dad and stepmother weren't
married at the time of the entitlement explosion. They got
married a few months later on holiday abroad. I wasn't invited,
but my invitation arrived only a week before they were
due to leave.

Speaker 2 (24:17):
And it was half hearted at that.

Speaker 1 (24:19):
Dad blamed the solicitors for not delivering the message quickly enough.
Even though they were divorced by then, the situation was
still very hostile and messages were passed via solicitors for
about a year post divorce. Mom was keen to keep
things official for a while as Dad tended to get
overly and loudly offended at everything. One time he dropped
me off with mom, they started arguing and her new

(24:41):
boyfriend got involved. Then the following week, a solicitor's letter
appeared claiming their party had been injured by their mom.
Wasn't keen on me attending their wedding. Too many horror
stories of kids getting abducted by a parent during or
following a divorce, So I said no, thank you and
didn't go. I half looked out of place anyway. Full disclosure,

(25:03):
Though I still love my dad. We get on well
when we chat via text occasionally, but we don't see
each other much. I just don't like the majority of
his choices, stepmother being a big fat one. Literally. Dad
always used to gloat about she was to my mom.
How he traded up about her stomach was flatten, her
belly button pierced, whereas my skinny mom still had a

(25:25):
saggy belly from having me. Stepmother, of course, reveled in
his compliments. I always remember her swinging her red hair
around in a really exaggerated way whenever he set out
gorgeous she was. She's like, oh, I'm so pretty interesting.
Tables have turned, though, over two decades later, and my

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mom looks exactly the same as she did back then,
except for gray hair. But Stepmother is now rather big
and her red hair is now really red, clearly out
of a box. The two occasions in two decades that
I've seen stepmother went like this. The first was a
family party for grandparents' sixtieth anniversary. In front of everyone,
she exclaimed apie and kissed my cheeks like she was

(26:06):
thrilled to see me nor me when everyone stopped looking.
My grandparents are very proud people and clearly didn't tell
extended relatives that their son had got divorced and remarried
two decades.

Speaker 2 (26:16):
Hmmm, I don't know. Maybe they know, and then people
just weren't saying anything. I'm thinking that maybe Dad low
key was like, all right, I'm just picking new family
over my daughter, but then also made it like I'm
gonna make it so that my daughter never has to
experience that again. But also I'm not gonna be brave
enough to just straight up tell my wife she was

(26:37):
way here's the line. You are way out of line
talking to my kid like that. We don't know if
that happened, but it's like, yeah, whatever.

Speaker 1 (26:44):
For the whole day, people kept saying to me, oh,
your blank's daughter. Your mom looks so different, her red
hair looks interesting. And I had great fun repeating the
phrase that's definitely not my mom. Dad left her for
that one. Wait, people thought that your mom was They
knew your mom, but thought that your mom who looked

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like your stepmom. Now, ooh, who are these people? The family,
the extended family members at like at the grandparents sixtieth
wedding anniversary, they had met Opie's mom before. How close
were you really to these people? Like?

Speaker 2 (27:15):
How much do you need to care? They don't even
know what your mom even looks like.

Speaker 1 (27:17):
Craz never found out if dad or stepmother heard. I
avoided them throughout and left early. You should never leave
early because we have so many full episodes with stories
just like this waiting for you. Just go to Spotify,
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but there is a little bit more to the story.
Any final thoughts.

Speaker 2 (27:37):
I certainly wouldn't let a woman screaming at my child
for no reason get away with it.

Speaker 1 (27:42):
The second time was my wedding. Stepmother was absolutely not invited.
It was just meant to be a tiny ceremony parents only,
but Dad called a few days before and impleaded just
for the ceremony, not the reception. Don't worry, you won't
know she's there. Highly doubt that with her behavior, I
highly doubt that we won't know that she's there. For
some background, my mother in law had already be kind

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of taken over parents' only wedding suddenly included a lot
of her relatives, so I just shrugged. Whatever, nothing's really
how I wanted anyway, so why not. True to his word,
Dad and stepmother didn't interact with anyone and left immediately after,
although stepmother couldn't resist a tiny flash of entitlement by
bringing her own camera. Note, my mom didn't attend the

(28:24):
wedding after hearing that my dad was invited. Also, she
was very ill at the time, so she obviously didn't
want Dad to see her that way. But we visited
her after the sception and I gave her my bouquet,
which was nice. Nice.

Speaker 2 (28:36):
I think in like a really sort of cowardly and
misguided way, the dad thought he was doing what was
best for op because immediately like that, clearly action was taken.
Because the custody arrangement immediately changed after that interaction with
the screaming happened, and she had said something about how
she missed Mom, which, dude, if you're a father in

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a divorced parent situation, you have to understand it.

Speaker 1 (29:02):
Hey's Sam.

Speaker 2 (29:02):
We're gonna get back to the stories, but here's three
minutes of bads from our sponsors. I planned a party
for my mother, but my sister just had to ruin it.

Speaker 3 (29:11):
She's a freaking party pooper.

Speaker 2 (29:13):
I female twenties have been planning my mom's Sarah's birthday
milestone for the past year. She and I have a
pretty much non existent relationship with one another, but despite this,
it has always been a dream of hers to have
a big party to celebrate this particular birthday, which she
wanted all her children to be involved in planning, and
given all the sacrifices she made for us growing up, it's.

Speaker 1 (29:35):
The least I could do.

Speaker 2 (29:36):
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Last year, I asked my siblings female twenties and male
twenties if they would like to help out with planning something.
My brother Liam said he would rather not be involved
because he has ongoing problems with Sarah. My sister, Lisa's

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said she also had no interest in being involved because
Sarah didn't throw her a four thousand plus dollar baby
shower for her second baby. I mean, hey, I demand
four thousand dollars as tribute mother, Mama.

Speaker 1 (30:13):
Give me four thousand dollars for all of my babies.
I chose not to push things more.

Speaker 2 (30:18):
I respected their decisions, did my research, and settled on
a luxury weekend for Sarah. Are two godmothers and five
other aunts. The budget for this was quite generous, not
including their gifts. I paid for everything myself because Lisa
and Liam had been clear about wanting no involvement. The
only other people that were involved were one of my
godmothers and a paternal aunt. Coordinating everyone's schedules required it.

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In terms of who knew what the plans were, the
only person I told directly was Sarah's sister. Well, I
found out that Lisa has been telling everyone about the plans,
which were one supposed to be a surprise, and two
she had nothing to do with. According to Lisa, she
single handedly planned and paid for everything because Liam and

(31:05):
I are selfish. I was told this by one of
my aunts, and my cousin corroborated the information. Funny enough,
Lisa messaged me to find out if I was still
going ahead with the plans for Sarah, and given the timing,
I don't doubt she has been telling everyone these lies.
She has also been insistent that I spend additional money

(31:26):
to hire a makeup artist and hairstylist and pay twenty
four hundred dollars for theater tickets on top of everything,
because it's a better idea. To be clear, the agenda
is a luxury spa weekend with access to full facilities,
afternoon tea, a private five star dinner, and two hour
long massage sessions each. In addition to this, everyone was

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receiving a luxury gift, Sarah is getting a designer handback,
and the godmothers and aunts were getting designer purses. I
would have been fine with Lisa asking to be involved,
even if she was not contributing to the costs. My
issue is that she has been dishonest with everyone and
is now trying to change what I have spent over
six months properly organizing without spoiling things for the birthday ladies.

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I will admit I'm frustrated because Sarah has heard about
everything and believes that Lisa is the one who planned
and paid for the weekend and that I'm being selfish
because of our falling out. So now is when you
just go, here's the receipts. Hey, hey, here's this really
cool bank statement. You want to look at it.

Speaker 1 (32:29):
Look at the money, follow the paper trail. Come on.

Speaker 2 (32:32):
It hurt to hear what Sarah truly thought about me
from Liam, but she thinks about the priest.

Speaker 5 (32:37):
Donn alive?

Speaker 1 (32:38):
Be good dingity doodle leap.

Speaker 2 (32:41):
When you realize people are being informed by deceit and
you have the truth, the truth shouts that you free.

Speaker 1 (32:48):
Yeah, just show the truth anyway.

Speaker 2 (32:50):
Eh. It's also frustrating because despite how awful Sarah has
been in the past, I remembered how important this was
to her and have tried to make the effort. I
have no intention of taking credit. I want to throw
this now. Why people were worried I was gonna throw
it earlier, Now I'm actually gonna throw.

Speaker 1 (33:05):
It because what is why ap?

Speaker 2 (33:07):
Why Liam said he would tell Sarah it was me
who arranged all of it and that Lisa is a
lying cow. Part of me wants to cancel it all
and let Lisa explain what happened. The other part is
telling me to just go along with it and be
the bigger person. Would I be the a hole for
canceling the weekend?

Speaker 1 (33:24):
Yes? You would.

Speaker 2 (33:25):
It might be important to note that these are not
their only birthday plans. All eight of them have booked
a week long holiday abroad to celebrate together. Regardless of
what happens with my arrangements, they will still have a celebration,
and there is an update. You would be totally the
a hole if you canceled the weekend. You would be
an a hole to yourself and to everyone else if

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you don't just go, hey, actually she's lying.

Speaker 1 (33:49):
I did this. I think I'm a little bit confused,
quite truthfully. Who's what's this weekend? Lisa?

Speaker 2 (33:55):
This is like birthday super Birthday weekend extravaganza from Milestone Birthday.
I'm guessing it's like fifty or sixty zero or something,
and this was supposed to be a secret birthday that
OHP spent all.

Speaker 1 (34:07):
This money in time planning and preparing.

Speaker 2 (34:09):
I got the keeping a secret, and now Lisa's going
I did it, and oh peace be.

Speaker 1 (34:14):
Mean before we cancel everything for everyone, I think we
just say, hey, y'all, that's not true.

Speaker 2 (34:22):
I don't know why Lisa's been saying that she's been
the one planning this, but it's not true, and it's
been me, And since mom already knows about the.

Speaker 1 (34:29):
Secret, I just want to put it out there. I
just don't understand why we would like punish everyone for
someone's one person's lie.

Speaker 2 (34:35):
Yeah, you're like, I'm being the bigger person by ruining
everyone's trip instead of just being like, my sister's lying.
That's weird. Anyways, let's move on. Yeah, it doesn't have
to be like a she's lying.

Speaker 1 (34:46):
Let's could just be like, hey, like, I think there's
been some kind of miscommunication. I paid for everything here, Jesus,
I can't.

Speaker 2 (34:53):
If you're this non confrontational, it's an issue you need
to learn how to confront moments of conflict disagreement in
your life. Lisa's actively lying about something you're doing, if
you just need to say that full stop everything else,
just say she's lying. Here's the update, though, I decided
to cancel part of the weekend. I did not think
it was fair that the others would be missing out

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due to Lisa and Sarah. Yeah, after speaking with the hotel,
they were happy to cancel the rooms, dinner and fully
refund me. The SPA has a different policy, and because
I paid for sixteen hours of SPA time, they were
only willing to either fully refund me with gift vouchers
meaning they would have a year to use them on
an alternative date, or partially refund me for eight hours

(35:36):
and gift voucher the rest. Alternatively, I could keep the
booking without them being guests and they would still have
their day pass for the SPA facilities. I have chosen
not to cancel the SPA due to this. They will
have an afternoon tea and SPA day. Okay, so it's
still a weekend, just not as elaborate of a weekend.
Everyone will still be receiving the gifts I bought. I

(35:57):
had already purchased them in advance, as it is too
much effort to now try and return them. There have
been some developments about the situation, which I will explain further.
As it stands, I have now cut off Lisa, not
really due to the situation, but because of some other
things mentioned. Sarah has tried to apologize to me. Liam
has told her that I am not interested in her
apology and that this will be the last time she

(36:19):
hears from me in a while.

Speaker 1 (36:21):
While we know Sarah is Opie's mom, Lisa's Opie's sister,
Opie is thrown this big old thing for her mom
and for some other aunts and family members. Okay, Lisa
lies and says, I I plan this.

Speaker 2 (36:35):
I've got it right here. So not only did she
not actually hear that, she's hearing it secondhand from her brother.
And she's only saying this because she's informing that off
of Oh she's acting this way, it must be because
we had that falling out, not because that's not how
she really.

Speaker 1 (36:51):
Thinks about you. This is in the context of a lie.

Speaker 2 (36:54):
Other family members got involved, and the divide is painfully obvious.
My paternal side agree with my choices, my maternal side
not so much. I don't really care about what they
think at this point.

Speaker 1 (37:07):
Here's some more developments.

Speaker 2 (37:09):
A couple of days ago, I spent the day with
my paternal aunt that had initially helped me to arrange
the schedules. She told me that she had heard Lisa
had been talking badly about me to some relatives. Now
to confirm, Lisa and I did not have any apparent
ongoing issues with one another before all of this happened.
We have had disagreements and reconciled in the past, as

(37:31):
is expected in my family, and I mostly did so
because I have a nephew who doesn't like not being
able to speak with me. Think of the children, Good job, Opie.
There is speculation amongst relatives that she is jealous about
the fact I'm having a baby, potentially a girl. All
the other babies that have been born into the family
Sarah's grandchildren included, have been boys. If I have a girl,

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she will be the first granddaughter and great granddaughter. Now
that this has been mentioned, it kind of makes sense
because Lisa was off when I told her that I
would pregnant, Like.

Speaker 1 (38:00):
Yeah, kind of.

Speaker 2 (38:01):
Now that I say that, it makes sense that when
I told her I was pregnant full time, she turned
bright red and steam started to come out of her ears. Yah,
and she said, I'm gonna get you for this. I'm
gonna get my pretty It's starting to make sense now.

Speaker 1 (38:15):
Yeah, and then she flew off on a broomstick and
stole my dog.

Speaker 2 (38:20):
She made a disgusted noise and called me problematic. Are
you sure she didn't just mumble the word pregnant. She
was also making a point of saying that her children
are the best grandchildren and the favorites. Lisa is not
entirely wrong about that. Part of the reason Sarah and
I do not speak now is because of how she
treated my son, her second born grandchild. Months after I

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had him, Lisa miraculously fell pregnant with her second child.
Sarah was responsible for arranging a separate first birthday from
my son because my relatives were being difficult about making
the journey to where I live, even though I constantly
made it to them so that they could see my son.
It turned out to not be a party for my son.
It was, in fact for Lisa. This led to me

(39:03):
calling Sarah out on a load of issues and cutting contact.
I do not know the full extent of what has
been said because no one has told me anything. My
aunt said. It is likely to upset me if I
found out. I mentioned the situation with Lisa and Sarah
to see what she thought she was not pleased about
any of it, and has made contact with both Sarah

(39:24):
and Lisa. She plans on coming over next week to
talk to me in person about what happens. My aunt
thinks Lisa has done this because Sarah wants to be
involved with my children. Apparently she has been devastated ever
since I called her out on things after that party
two years ago. She realized she crossed the line and
the only reason I had reconciled with her was because
I wanted my son to have a relationship with his grandparent.

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She ruined it for herself by saying I didn't care
enough to make an effort for her birthday. Sarah might
have changed her mind about me. What Sarah might have
changed her mind about me?

Speaker 1 (39:54):
What do you mean?

Speaker 2 (39:55):
Lisa would get to keep Sarah to herself, which means
more money spent on her.

Speaker 1 (40:00):
Like Lisa is perhaps trying to destroy the already fraught
bond between Sarah and Ope so that she can get
more money spent on her by Sarah. Yeah, so maybe
it was supposed to be.

Speaker 2 (40:13):
Lisa saying I didn't care enough to make an effort
for her birthday means Sarah might have changed her mind
about me. Lisa would get to keep Sarah to herself,
which means more money spent yeah on her.

Speaker 1 (40:24):
Basically, Opia is saying, I think that Lisa lied because
she wanted Sarah to spend all of the money right.

Speaker 2 (40:30):
She wants Sarah to be number one grandma for her kids.
And by the way, you can spend more time listening
to full episodes with stories just like this on Spotify. iHeartRadio,
Apple podcasts wherever you listen to stories or podcast search. Okay,
story time, and you have fifty four days now, fifty

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four days if I sum correze. But we don't have
fifty four days of story left.

Speaker 1 (40:57):
We only have a little bit of story left.

Speaker 2 (40:59):
And I think you know this story has gone.

Speaker 1 (41:02):
Twisty turney, up and down, left and right.

Speaker 2 (41:04):
I'm not sure what's going on, but I do know
one thing with absolute certainty, and what is that You
should have just called Lisa out when you learned she
was lying.

Speaker 1 (41:14):
This was a two miners out man text message right
up in a group chat.

Speaker 2 (41:19):
Looking back on all of this, I don't know why
I even bothered trying to do something for Sarah. If anything,
I am more disgusted by Lisa and Sarah. Now that
things are coming to light, I had forgotten a lot
of how I was treated by Sarah due to postpartum
depression and the constant gas lighting from my maternal side.
This whole thing has made it so clear to me
they're all toxic. I do not want any of them

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in my life except for Liam, and.

Speaker 1 (41:43):
That is the end of that story.

Speaker 2 (41:44):
And honestly, it sounds like Liam might be one of
the most toxic people in your life because he is
the one who told you that your mom said that,
even though it was based on a lie. I feel
like there's more information we're not getting about Ope's dynamic
with her mother. Yeah. That would probably really inform us
as to why she was so oh quick to be like,
all right, I'm done. I heard you say one thing about.

Speaker 1 (42:05):
Me by on my back. It's just a really bad Yeah.
I think it was already a really bad relationship. Yeah.
I think that's why we're not fully clued in onto that.

Speaker 3 (42:11):
My husband's family keeps excluding my daughter. So I stopped
treating them as one.

Speaker 1 (42:16):
They don't deserve it.

Speaker 3 (42:18):
February first, twenty twenty five, I thirty eight female and
my husband fifty male, have been married for ten years
and have a one year old daughter together. He has
a son thirty male and a daughter twenty eight female
from a previous marriage. Since my husband and I have
been together, I've always bought his children's birthday presents, Christmas presents,
and gifts and cards for every holiday. By the way,

(42:39):
this comes from Miss de Lulu Land and if you
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slash Okay story Time a separated it. They have always
made snag comments about me being too festive, but my
love language is gift giving. Well, they both have children now.
His son has three children under the age of five,
and his daughter has twin two year old daughters. This

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past Christmas, his daughter and her husband hosted our family
Christmas party. During the gift exchange, each household exchanged the
gift that they bought for the other households. For context,
his children have never bought Christmas presents for me, which
I'm fine with. I have always been the one to
purchase the gifts for my step children and my step grandchildren,
while my husband gives the adult kids gift cards. So

(43:22):
while the gifts were being passed out, it quickly became
a parent that this year, they not only didn't buy
anything for me, but nothing for my one year old daughter,
their half sister either. So everyone at the party had
gifts to open. My husband, my step son and his wife,
their three sons, my.

Speaker 1 (43:38):
Stepdaughter, her husband, and twin daughters had all bought for
each other, and I had bought for all of them,
but not one person bought anything for their baby sister.

Speaker 3 (43:50):
I gathered my things and my daughter and we left. Afterwards,
I told my husband that I had never been made
to feel like part of the family, and that's one thing,
but for them to exclude their own half sister, who
is part of their blood is completely different thing. I
told them I will never spend a dime on his
family because they are not mine. Also, they decided to

(44:12):
do a family photoshoot and didn't include my daughter. So
am I the a hole? And there are some comments.

Speaker 1 (44:19):
But what do you think. I don't think you're the
a hole for like bringing up that concern. I think
that like because I feel like the present thing in
concern to the one year old feels it like she's
not gonna remember, So I think it's just saying, like, hey,
I feel excluded you know, right right.

Speaker 3 (44:37):
Yeah, I do think like it's a little petty to
just leave right away and to like already make this
decision that you're not gonna do this. But I mean,
I guess if you've been feeling like this.

Speaker 1 (44:47):
For a while. But I think that's the thing. I
think that's why I'm saying, like it feels more like
you are being.

Speaker 3 (44:52):
Excluded, right right, So I get that, but I think
you know, we always have a conversation first, but I
can't no, honestly. The one says your husband never said
anything to you never getting gifts from them? What was
your husband's reaction to your child getting no gifts? What
was his reaction to what you told him? Your husband
is as much of the problem, it seems, Opie says, No,

(45:16):
my husband never commented on them never getting anything from me,
but he did say that he was upset how they
treated the baby, but not to them. He hasn't brought
it up to his adult children. Yes, he is part
of the problem. He has never set boundaries with his children,
nor advocated or equal respect. Alarming paper eighty three fifty
seven says, no more gifts. You tried, but you're done

(45:38):
with them after ten years, you would think they'd get
a clue.

Speaker 1 (45:41):
Just curious.

Speaker 3 (45:42):
Were you the reason that your husband broke up with
his ex wife? If so, that may be why they're
so hostile and honestly, I'd write them both a letter
and explain that you have been handling gifts for your
husband's family for ten years, but will no longer be
doing so after the way they treated their half sister
during the holidays. Any gift requests, et cetera should be
directed towards your husband, and your husband is an a

(46:03):
hole for letting them get away with this bs for
ten years. Let him know that he's on his own
from now on for birthdays and holidays. You are done
with them, and Opie responds No, He and their mother
divorced when his son thirty male was seven and daughter
twenty eight female was five. He and I started dating
when they were sixteen and eighteen, So, yeah, lots of

(46:25):
time had passed. Yeah, we do have an update. So
February sixteenth, twenty twenty five, fifteen days later, Well, I
had a long talk with my husband again after reading
all the responses I got his opinion is that his
children have no opinion of our age difference. However, they
just don't consider me part of their family, and he
doesn't think that they look at our daughter as their sister,

(46:47):
which I completely respect because they are entitled to their
own opinions as well as their own feelings. With me
respecting their feelings. Comes they're no longer part of my family,
I will act accordingly as.

Speaker 1 (47:01):
Just their father's wife. As for my daughter, she is
just that my daughter.

Speaker 3 (47:06):
Valentine's Day has come and gone, and I did not
get a thing for his children or grandchildren. I splurged
on my daughter and it felt really great. I did
remind him a week before Valentine's Day that it was
coming up and that his grandkids would probably be expecting something.
He neither bought anything for his children, nor his grandchildren,
nor our daughter, and he didn't buy anything from me

(47:27):
as well.

Speaker 1 (47:28):
This is an issue. Didn't buy anything for you for
Valentine's Start. Yeah, not getting anything for the kids, I
honestly understand. Yeah, I get it likely Valentine's Day.

Speaker 3 (47:36):
Yeah, Like part of I'm almost thinking, like when they
were saying you're too festive, I wonder if if that's
a very nice way of them trying to say.

Speaker 1 (47:44):
Like you get gifts for every holiday.

Speaker 3 (47:47):
Yeah, like you get gifts, and I feel guilty aboutno
getting you gifts, So I'm gonna put that idea out
there that it's just a too festive thing, so I
don't I'm not expected to also give gifts. He made
a comment about feeling some type of way of the
separate between me and his family, almost as though it
was my own decision, and I quickly reminded him that
I am just respecting the wishes of his family and

(48:08):
that they belong to him and they are nothing to me.
In short, this marriage most likely will not last for
multiple reasons, not just the issues of this post. Also,
I fail to leave out a key detail. He was
married to another woman between his children's mother and mine
in his marriage, and according to him, that woman treated

(48:29):
his children very, very poorly. I don't know her, so
I can't speak about her. I only know what he
told me, and that story is completely one sided. He
also thinks that that may be the reason why his
children treat me the way that they do, due to
pass traumas from his second wife. That is interesting, interesting
key detail that very well could be the reason. But

(48:50):
we do have some relevant comments mind taker says, there
isn't a world where the father didn't bring a piece
of crap home and not given f about how it
affected his family. Not an effing change, anything else happened.
This guy is a d bag and either wealthy enough
to keep scoring women despite his personality, or really efing

(49:10):
good looking but completely passed away behind the eyes. Opie
has bad taste in men. Opie responds, he isn't wealthy.
He and I both make upper middle class incomes. He
presents himself as an amazing man.

Speaker 1 (49:24):
In the beginning. Everyone who knows him speaks about what
a great guy he is, and I did too.

Speaker 3 (49:29):
About two years into our marriage, I began to see
some red flags and I.

Speaker 1 (49:33):
Was already in love, so I ignored them.

Speaker 3 (49:35):
But now that I have my own child to think about,
I cannot ignore them anymore. For me, this feels like
a small thing, but I think for OPI, it's like
this has been building and building and building. She's been
mistreated for so long, right, She's.

Speaker 1 (49:49):
Like, oh wait, this is the start of what they've
been doing to me. And maybe it doesn't really matter
because it's a one year old. But I know the
like I've seen the future, because so it's already happen.

Speaker 3 (50:00):
Right right, Like I could see how this is going
to develop even more. Yeah yeah, and then somehow he
hasn't seen it either. Yeah, but now he cares when
it's like about his kid, no, not his wife's wife.
Fearless Pen fourteen twenty says he sounds like a self
absorbed person to be honest, OPI responds, I've often thought
the same. I saw a bit of the same behavior
in one of his children at first, and then realized

(50:22):
that the behavior had derived from my husband. But I'm
not a psychiatrist, so it's just an opinion.

Speaker 4 (50:29):
But we have another update see all right, Mama dive
in February nineteenth, twenty twenty five, three days after the
first update.

Speaker 3 (50:41):
So I Facebook messenger called his second ex wife last night.
I wasn't sure if she would even want to talk
to me, since I'm the new wife, but she did
and we had a pleasant conversation. She disclosed that she
and his son, adolescent at the time, never had any issues,
but his daughter, also an adolescent at the time, was
a bit difficult think princess mentality. She told me stories

(51:05):
where my husband had blatantly disregarded her feelings when it
came to his daughter treating her poorly. She said that
his daughter always made it clear that she was the
queen of her daddy's castle. She eventually separated herself from
interacting with the kids, which took a toll on their marriage.
She also disclosed that she had found out that in
the beginning of his in my relationship that he was

(51:27):
spicy sleeping with his supervisor. Wait wait wait wait wait
her husband, the husband husband husband cheated on the second wife.

Speaker 1 (51:36):
Oy YoY, whoa that's bad. Yeah, that's bad.

Speaker 3 (51:42):
This led me to confront my husband, and after hours
of denial, he finally admitted for context. Last summer, I
caught him spicy texting his supervisor and I told him
to leave.

Speaker 1 (51:54):
But we had a new baby.

Speaker 3 (51:57):
We started going to marriage counseling for the fidelity, and
he swore that he disclosed everything to me. Uh uh oh,
But he never told me that they had previously been
spicily involved, even during the first few months of our relationship.
Now I'm supposed to believe that after nine years, just
out of the blue, they started spicy texting at random.

(52:19):
But nothing has continued to go on between them all
this time that we've been married. Yeah, that would be
very hard to believe. But you know what's very easy
to believe.

Speaker 1 (52:28):
What is the fact that we've got more full episodes
of stories just like this one on Spotify, Apple Podcasts
or iHeartRadio. I don't believe it. Just a joky story
time you'll see, crazy you'll see but oh wow, big development.
Wowee wowiee son been man's a cheater, Yeah, chumpkin eater

(52:49):
eating those pumpkins. Oh wow, that's yeah.

Speaker 3 (52:53):
Pay attention to red flags, yeah, you know, very important.

Speaker 1 (52:57):
Yeah, when you notice your partner is behaving great in
other aspects of your life, they might also have already
not behaved you know that loyally in other areas well.
He clearly does not care about you to the same
extent that you know. He doesn't care about this relationship
or your family, eh, anywhere near as much as you care.

Speaker 3 (53:17):
Yeah, definitely not. That is so so disappointing. Yes, my goodness,
But there is a little bit more to this story.
Needless to say, I contacted a divorce attorney this morning.
I'll keep you guys updated on the progress. If my
attorney feels like it will not have an impact on
my case. We do have some relevant comments. Lyndon Lil

(53:38):
Blueball says, maybe the kids just knew their dad would
eventually f this marriage up too, so they didn't want
to get too invested. Nah, they were raised by a
self absorbed person and became the same as the dad.
Uh Linnavi says, eh, I can't really blame the kids
for not seeing the one year old as their sister
given the age gap there. They were already living on

(54:00):
their own with their own families and kids by the
time the sister was born, and that's it.

Speaker 1 (54:04):
That's so yeah, which I like, I kind of agree
yeah with that comment. But I think for Op it
was just this kind of culmination of years of mistreatment
towards her.

Speaker 3 (54:14):
Yeah, And I can understand that it felt very unfair
when she's like buying gifts for literally everyone and then
I mean, one, they're not getting gifts like for her too,
or at least not everyone is. And then also they're
not getting gifts for the one year old and that
and that can be very disappointing.

Speaker 1 (54:30):
But wow, yeah, they're getting divorced. That is not where
I thought the story was gonna.

Speaker 2 (54:35):
Go it on.

Speaker 1 (54:35):
I thought I was hoping for some any sort of
I don't know, yeah, any sort of good resolution. But
you know, hey, it's Sam. We get back to the stories.
But here's three minutes of ads from our sponsors. I
ended our family because my partner didn't get me a
Mother's Day gift. Well that's a bad partner. The title
sounds like I'm being spoiled, but bear with me. I'm

(54:58):
thirty four female and have been with my I partner,
forty seven male for nearly eleven years. He has one
child from his marriage that ended at least five years
before I met him, so I am not the other woman.
He was divorced when I met him. We have a
child together now too. By the way, this comes from
throw a Daisy maybe, And if you want to smit

(55:19):
your own stories, go to the r slash. Okay, storytime
subured it so. When I first met him, his ex
wife wouldn't let him see his child. Oh my god.
But I supported and financed him through the courts and
we got access. I treat this child like my own,
but understand when things like Mother's Day come around that
I didn't get anything to mark the day. They aren't
my child. Christmas presents and birthday presents were small token

(55:43):
gifts as we were very poor due to a court
eating our finances. Valentine's was usually a slightly nicer home
cooked meal and maybe some cheap flowers, not roses or anything,
but again, we were literally living paycheck to paycheck, though
I might add I was the only one working. Why
is it your partner working? Do you live in paycheck
to paycheck? When my partner finally decided he was ready

(56:06):
to go back to work two years after court was finalized,
but he was still depressed about the whole thing. I
was very supportive. I did his CVS, applied for the jobs,
and took him to the interviews, et cetera. He finally
landed a really good job that he loves. Finances obviously
became much better, and though I am still the main breadwinner,

(56:27):
we have a lot more disposable income. He bought a ring,
not a massively expensive one, as I'm not one for
those things like that. It was about one hundred and
twenty pounds and proposed to me. I said yes. Fast
forward three years. We still aren't married, but we are
after a lot of trouble, expecting a baby. I'm overjoyed.

(56:50):
He's overjoyed, but it's kind of like he's the one pregnant.
He's just going through He's like, you don't understand. I
have a lot of hormonal things going on right now.
I'm having a really hard time. I would really like
it if you would support me in this. He is
snappy with me all the time. I make a mistake,
drop a plate or something, and he curses me out.
It feels like he's trying to alienate me from his

(57:12):
other child. He left me less than an hour after
our child was born because he was tired. I'm sorry
he was tired after you just gave birth. Dude, Come on,
I'm too tired to be upset. But I do file
the way in my head for later. Don't marry this man.

(57:32):
I kept in the hospital a few days after the
birth as I lost a lot of blood. But he
barely stays fifteen minutes a day and shouts at me
when I ring him because he's exhausted and trying to
rest before the baby comes home.

Speaker 3 (57:44):
Oh my god, insane, that's insane.

Speaker 1 (57:49):
Crazy. I'm reading this back and I feel so dumb,
But I'll continue with the original question. Money is still fine?
After the baby is born. Birthdays and Christmases are nice presence.
Valentines is better. Flowers they'll purchase the day after so
they're cheaper. First Mother's Day, nothing he bought for his
own mom. I don't talk to my mom, so he

(58:10):
knew it was Mother's Day. I had gotten him something
from the kids, as I have done every year for
Father's Day. So I asked him that night. Why. His response,
you're not my mom. That's messed up, dude. It's about
celebrating the mothers in your life, not just your mom. Yeah,
she's she's the mother of your child, literally of your child.

(58:32):
Come on. I was so hurt and we had a
massive fight about it. He promised to make it up
and said he didn't realize it was that important. I said,
all I wanted was a card I could show my
friends and family, instead of being mortified by telling them
I got nothing when they asked me what I got.
Birthdays and Christmases were thoughtful and nice. Valentines was flowers,
on time and out to dinner. We were getting on great.

(58:54):
And then this year I give him his Valentines and
he says thanks and opens it, glances at me and
was like, oh, I don't have time to get your jet.
I'll nip into the garage on the way to dinner
his favorite restaurant that I booked. I told him not
to bother. You can make it up to me on
Mother's Day. Though I was hurt but trying not to
be spoiled. It's just today, after all. Well, Mother's Day

(59:15):
is this weekend coming. I asked him if we had
any plans with his mom or if I could book
us into this wee high teething. He looked at me
and was like, Oh, I've sordid mom, but I'm actually
going away this weekend. Dude, this man can't do anything.
Why he can't do anything right for you? He does,
He does not prioritize you in any.

Speaker 3 (59:35):
Way, because this is the second Mother's Day that she's
had being a mom. Right, yeah, And she said you
can make it up. She said, you can make up
Valentine's Day for me with Mother's Day.

Speaker 1 (59:44):
And he was like yeah. And then he's like, oh,
I'm leaving. I'm gonna be gone, It'll be gone. I
forgot to say. We had to swap from the April
date to next because a friend couldn't go. Boys weekend away.
I looked at him and said, okay, well you said
you would make up for Valentine on Mother's Day? Have
you got me something from our child? Or should I
get myself something? He was like, oh, yeah, you can

(01:00:06):
get yourself something if you want. I haven't really had time.
I do not like this man. I asked what he
got his mom, and he gave me a massive list.
I told him I was done. Now he's calling me
spoiled and saying he will go for full custody, that
I'm throwing our family away over some stupid commercialized holiday.
I told him it was just the tip of the

(01:00:27):
iceberg and that I was sick of him. He is
now staying with his mom and I'm sat here with
our toddler and there is an update. But you thought,
my gosh, so many yeah, yike, so many thoughts. What
what do you mean you didn't have time? You obviously
had time to talk to your boys and also to
get your mom things. Yeah, like a huge list of things.

(01:00:48):
And you can't get your wife one thing.

Speaker 3 (01:00:51):
Right, But instead you decided to spend your time with
uh planning a trip for Mother's Day weekend. We're gonna
leave your wife at home alone with the kids, because
I feel like that's also another good thing to do
on Mother's Day.

Speaker 1 (01:01:04):
If you, you know, have a mother of your child,
you know where it's like you're you can make it
easier for them and not have them take care of
them exactly exactly. It's like there are so many ways
that you can be a good partner. Yeah, and show
your partner that you appreciate them and that you care
for them, and you're doing everything incredibly wrong. Okay, first

(01:01:27):
things first, thanks to everyone that has taken the time
to comment, I mean everyone. It's given me a lot
to think about and a lot of advice. I would
like to also address the comments about mistreatment of my stepchild.
I came into this child's life when they were five
years old. When I first started dating their dad, he
was seeing them and was paying child support through CSA. However,

(01:01:49):
as we dated, he was fighting with their mom more
and more about getting to see them, as she was
canceling visits repeatedly for really weak reasons. Usually this happens
after my ex refuse to give her extra money or something.
So I do know that it was one hundred percent
a good part of why he wasn't seeing the child.
I met the child a few times before suggesting we

(01:02:10):
go to court for a court order. This was after
asking the child if they would like to start coming
and staying over at ours more. They always said yes.
In court, the judge ordered a social worker to speak
to the child and ask her what she wanted, as
things had gotten very bad between her parents and a
lot of stupid things like accusations of substances, et cetera.

(01:02:32):
The words my stepchild used with the social worker were
I want to stay at daddy's, but mommy said she'll
be lonely and sad and cry all the time, so
I can't. He is a good dad in that he
loves his kids and plays with them. He never misses
a CSA payment. Everything else above paying child support and
playing with the kids is left to me. I have
a great relationship with my stepchild, and they tend to

(01:02:54):
confide to me well before either of their parents. To
be honest, her mom seems a lot, but I also
haven't spoken more than three words to hers, so I
don't know. I also now understand why she hates me.
As of now, I have told him we are over
and I am looking for a smaller place to stay
closer to my friends and family. I have been to
a solicitor this morning, not the same one as we

(01:03:15):
used before, as she wasn't available and I wanted to
get the ball rolling. They are getting me a temporary
order of custody or something like that. I can't remember
exactly what it was called, but it means he can't
kidnap my son and we need to get a proper
custody order in place. He has swung between begging me
to stay, not caring, and threatening me that I will

(01:03:36):
regret this. Not sure what he means, but it's all
been texts which I'm ignoring but screenshotting. He has not
tried to actually come back to the house as far
as I'm aware, though, I really can't explain why I
let this go on like this. I had a very
bad upbringing and that my mom was incredibly active, which
I'm not getting into. It was only after she left
us that people knew the extent. And by left us,

(01:03:58):
I mean she left me and my two siblings in
a house by ourselves for a good few days before
we were brave enough to leave and find someone to
call her dad, who my mom took away from us.
This probably is why I was happy to support my
partner through court, because I've seen parental alienation firsthand. I

(01:04:18):
have no problem with my axe seeing my son. I
have no problem with him taking him out, et cetera.
I have a problem with him wanting full or even
fifty percent custody because the man can't look after himself.
He sleeps on the sofa if my son's sick, because
he gets a headache, if he's too tired. I was
once so sick I could barely lift my head and
asked him to take our son downstairs and let me

(01:04:41):
sleep for a few hours. One morning. Three hours later
I came down, my son was in the same nappy
that was so full, his pjs were wet, and he
was eating dry cereal out of the box for breakfast
at nearly lunchtime. I mean, your husband does not know
how to take care of his kids.

Speaker 3 (01:04:55):
Yeah, Like even if even if the kids are saying
that they like him, they like we was probably my parent. Yeah, yeah,
but he doesn't know how to take care of kids
right right, like he's being their friend and.

Speaker 1 (01:05:05):
Not their parent. Exactly exactly. I am not leaving my
three year old with that clown. I genuinely thought he
loved me. We used to literally just spend hours together,
laughing and talking, and I was happy. I was stressed
because I was working flat out. We had court, my
grandparents passed away, my stepdad passed away. It was a

(01:05:25):
terrible time. But he made me laugh and we were happy.
We got our We got our stepchild two nights a week,
and I loved them so much. I felt the hard
work was worth it for them. He was depressed, or
so he said. To be honest, I don't know how
he sold that one to me. He got his child,
and he was literally laying about home all day, every day,

(01:05:46):
playing the games I paid for well, I could barely
afford makeup and cut my own hair for crying out loud.
I am an idiot. I see that now. Maybe the
small achievements made the crap seem worth. It had an
eye home. We got to see stepchild, he got a job,
we got engaged. We tried and lost a baby, but

(01:06:07):
got pregnant really quick and unexpectedly after. And you know
what else is unexpected The fact that we have full
episodes with stories just like this. Just go to Spotify,
Apple podcasts or iHeart radio and search a focused story time,
but there is a little bit left to the story.
Do me final thoughts, I don't know it. Just go
easy on yourself a pee. Like you might feeling an

(01:06:29):
idiot afterwards, but in the moment, you didn't know, you
didn't know, you didn't know.

Speaker 3 (01:06:34):
And there was probably like I don't know if he
was yelling at her for like random things or like
like right, is that what I heard correctly?

Speaker 1 (01:06:42):
Yeah?

Speaker 3 (01:06:42):
Yeah, like if you're if he's yelling at you for
stupid things and like not being there for you and stuff.
I really doubt that this pregnancy was the only time
that he was yelling at her. Hey, so I wouldn't
be surprised if there was like some sort of manipulation
going on in there.

Speaker 1 (01:06:56):
So don't blame yourself for you know, getting manipulated. Yeah. Yeah,
he seems like changed, yea not a great guy, terrible
partner really right, Just like I mean from the start
of him not being like leaving an hour after you
get birth, he just was never going to be an
involved parent, yeah, exactly, Like he may be a fun parent,

(01:07:18):
but not ready to put in the work. Then it
was like pop the bubble at burst. I'm running myself
into the ground at work, keeping a tidy home, caring
for a toddler who's always sick, and trying to support
a teenager through their GCSEs and life in general. And
he just doesn't care. As long as he's comfortable and
has time to play his video games, see his friends

(01:07:40):
and family, and do whatever the heck he does on
his phone. He really doesn't care less about what I do.
I'm finally just done, heartbroken, tired, but really and truly done.
And that is the end of that story. Whoa youch Yeah?
I mean, very valid, very valid. I think the only
thing I would have said is, like, you know, if

(01:08:03):
anybody's in that situation where they're noticing their partners really
not stepping up in the way that they need to
them to have those conversations before ye talk them out,
say like, hey, I really need a partner. Yeah, if
that's not working, trying couple's therapy something, and you know,
if nothing is changing, then divorce. Yeah, but good on

(01:08:24):
you for moving on with the divorce and recognizing that
you know you deserve better treatment than this.

Speaker 3 (01:08:28):
Exactly, I discovered my husband's betrayal, so I got back
at him, as you should. This is a long post,
so strap in guys. I now thirty four female and
my ex husband now thirty six male.

Speaker 1 (01:08:46):
Let's call him Bob.

Speaker 3 (01:08:47):
We're married for nearly ten years, together for twelve, but
had known each other since our early teens. By the way,
this comes from Spirited Lecture eight oh six, and if
you want to submit your own stories, go to the
ur slush Okay, story time separred it. So he moved
four hours away from his family to be with me.
But we were happy, or so I thought. Over our
twelve year relationship. We got married, had two beautiful children,

(01:09:10):
and bought our home. The one thing that he always
wanted was a canine companion, but I never did. Eventually
I caved and we adopted a little doggie sidekick. This
is important later over the years, he went through countless jobs.
He would constantly be on sick leave or wait months
between ending one job and starting another. He lost his
job when I was six months pregnant with our youngest

(01:09:32):
and didn't get back into work until he was four
months old. I, however, worked all the hours I could
to keep food on the table and the bills paid.
My ex mother in law was sending fifteen hundred pounds
a month to help us pay the mortgage and his
side of the bills. He paid for the mortgage and
his car, and I paid everything else.

Speaker 1 (01:09:51):
He lost his job in the summer of twenty twenty three,
and in early twenty twenty four, my friend's husband offered
him a job working for his company.

Speaker 3 (01:09:59):
All he needed to do was speak to the managing director.
He did this and self sabotaged the interview, telling them
that he was depressed and would struggle to work.

Speaker 1 (01:10:08):
Come on, why would you do that?

Speaker 3 (01:10:11):
Why would you go into a job interview and be like, yeah,
I'm not gonna be Why would you even do the
job interview?

Speaker 1 (01:10:16):
If you're gonna do that, just be like, hey, I'm
not looking for anything right now? Yeah, self sabotage in
the interview. Exactly safe to say.

Speaker 3 (01:10:24):
I was not best pleased, and this caused an argument
of epic proportions. The next day, I was going to
a baby shower and he said that he would drive
me there and take the kids to the local park,
but he decided to stay in bed.

Speaker 1 (01:10:38):
I found child care for the children and went anyway.

Speaker 3 (01:10:41):
While I was there, I received a text saying that
he was off to see his family and would be
back at some point.

Speaker 1 (01:10:47):
Fair enough, it may have been what he needed.

Speaker 3 (01:10:50):
Ten days later, around the children's bedtime, he rocks up,
banged the door open and said, miss me, just to
let you know the marriage is over. We are selling
the house and getting rid of the dog.

Speaker 5 (01:11:02):
What whoa what energy is that? He just he kicks
the door open, goes USh me. Marriage over, taking the house.

Speaker 1 (01:11:13):
Getting rid of the dog.

Speaker 3 (01:11:15):
That's crazy?

Speaker 1 (01:11:16):
What that? What did she do? This so so wild? Uh?

Speaker 3 (01:11:24):
This sent my son into a complete meltdown. I was
in front of the kids.

Speaker 1 (01:11:28):
Yeah, I thought it was just at the same time
as the bedtime, around the bedtime they probably like about
to go to bed. Oh my god, Oh my gosh.

Speaker 3 (01:11:39):
This sent my son into a complete meltdown, as the
dog is his best friend in the whole world. I
ended up leaving with the children and went to stay
with my family. I wasn't able to take the dog
with me due to my parents having a cat who
hates dogs. Over the coming months, I occasionally went down
to the house to get the things that the kids
needed toys, clothes, et cetera. But he expected me to

(01:11:59):
ask for permission before going to the house. I think not.
Here are a few things that he did while I
was living out my parents. He didn't set up the
bills in his name. I had canceled everything which was
in my name. If I'm not living there, I'm not paying.
He saw the kids for two hours a week after school,

(01:12:21):
one of which my son was feeling poorly, and by
the time I got to him, he was nearly hospitalized
due to how high his fever was. Yes, because Bob
forgot to give him pain relief or even buy some
from the shop that he had been in earlier that day,
knowing that his son was unwell.

Speaker 1 (01:12:39):
Wow, terrrible dad. Terrible dad alert, Oh my goodness.

Speaker 3 (01:12:44):
He also started packing all his belongings, but said that
he wasn't moving out. Strange but important for the next part.
He tried to sell the house without my permission or acknowledgment.
He begged me to sell the house so that he
would pay for the divorce if I agreed to sell,
but he was informed at once the divorce was finalized,
then I would think about it.

Speaker 1 (01:13:04):
This is where it gets juicy.

Speaker 3 (01:13:06):
I had been to my parents for abround six weeks
when I decided to go to the house and get
some bits I needed for the warmer weather for me
and the children.

Speaker 1 (01:13:14):
When I walked in, he was sat on the sofa
looking worried.

Speaker 3 (01:13:18):
He informed me that the house was being repossessed due
to the arrears on the mortgage.

Speaker 1 (01:13:23):
What arrears, I wasn't aware of any.

Speaker 3 (01:13:26):
He said that it was from when he was out
of work and only paying the bare minimum. Plausible, yes,
But when he said that it was seven thousand pounds,
something didn't sit right. He's lying to you, Yeah, he's
been lying to you. The next day I rung the
mortgage company and explained my situation. I explained that I
had never dealt with the mortgage, so I literally have
no clue about all this. The lovely woman I spoke

(01:13:49):
to told me that he had not been paying the
mortgage for a year and had canceled the payments thirteen
months before. As you would expect, I was angry all
of it, but I used it to my advantage. I
asked the mortgage company to send me a printed version
of the mortgage statement, and my plan was set into motion.

(01:14:10):
It was the longest two weeks of my life. As
you will remember from earlier in my post, my ex
mother in law was sending him money to cover all
of the bills, including the mortgage, so I wrote her
a letter explained what I had found out, and nicely
attached a copy of the statements for proof. This letter
sat on my bedside table for weeks, and every time

(01:14:32):
I spotted it, I giggled a bit. A few weeks later,
he asked if he could have the children as his
cousin forty five female let's call her Tracy, was visiting.
I agreed and they had a lovely time. He said
that he was off away that weekend of Tracey's family
to see them, as it had been a while, perfect
timing for part two.

Speaker 1 (01:14:52):
Of my plan.

Speaker 3 (01:14:53):
He went on Thursday, which was also the day that
I sent the letter to mother in law. Next day
recorded delivery and I would be informed when it had
been received. On the Friday, I went to the house
to get more things, only to find the security chain
that had been put on the inside of the door
so I couldn't get in.

Speaker 1 (01:15:13):
What is locking her out? Ye yi?

Speaker 3 (01:15:17):
I went to the neighbors who were quote looking after
the dog to ask for the back door keyt to
which he looked confused. The dog had been left in
the cage and was going to be in there all weekend,
no food, no water, and sitting in her own mess.

Speaker 1 (01:15:34):
I broke the chain off of the door to get her.
She was a mess. She was skinny and covered in fleas.
At this point I haven't seen her in maybe four weeks.
The house was disgusting.

Speaker 3 (01:15:45):
The smell was vile, and there was rubbish all over,
empty adult soda cans, moldy food, you name it. Only
days earlier my children were playing in that mess.

Speaker 1 (01:15:58):
Dude, you gotta call like CPS, animals, animal, you know whatever,
right like this is, oh my gosh, this just hazardous
and also just like abuse to your animal.

Speaker 2 (01:16:09):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (01:16:09):
Absolutely. I felt sick to my stomach. How can he
even think that that was an acceptable place to have
the children in?

Speaker 1 (01:16:17):
He wrung me.

Speaker 3 (01:16:18):
Not long after I got in the house and I
told him everything I told him I know about the mortgage.
I told him I was taking over the mortgage and
that he can come and get his stuff out of
the house. I punted his sorry butt out, good, good good.
He was aware that his mom had gotten my letter
and had ripped him a new one because of it.

(01:16:40):
The next day, I rallied my troops and we got
the house cleaned, tidied, and livable again. Me and my
babies had our home back, but not before I got
some revenge. Bob has a shoe issue. He keeps all
his shoes in the original boxes. So being the petty
bee I am, I separated every pair, put them in
different bags, and put the boxes in the recycling. There

(01:17:03):
were some important documents which were folded into tiny squares
and placed in different bags. I unpacked the expensive knife
set that I bought and put it back into my kitchen,
and the best one I found a half used box
of Viagra, so I pocketed that for later.

Speaker 1 (01:17:22):
Pettiness. This is pretty wild. I'm a little worried about Yobi. Yeah.

Speaker 3 (01:17:26):
Later that night he rung and I told him everything
it would be on the driveway the next day for
him to come and collect it or it was going
in the bin. Sure enough, he turned up and greeting
him was the packet of viagra front and center of
all his stuff. Me and my troops were all watching
from the bedroom window while him, Tracy and his friend

(01:17:47):
packed everything into the cars, and my uncle and aunt
sat on the bench opposite watching and waving him off.
By the way, just like how you're watching us.

Speaker 1 (01:17:57):
Now. You can also listen to us on bough By,
Apple Podcasts or iHeartRadio. We've got full episodes, more stories
just like this one. So search okay, story time, So
we're on there, We're on there. But oh my gosh,
there's a little bit more to the story.

Speaker 3 (01:18:10):
But wow, wow wait whow.

Speaker 1 (01:18:13):
I'm also just a little bit confused with like what
what the actual pettiness is, Like she, yeah, I put
all the shoes into bags and put them on.

Speaker 3 (01:18:21):
The I think maybe it's maybe playing to his organizational
issues or something. If he always like keeps them in
certain boxes. He's just like she's just separating them and
spreading them all out. So it's like hard to deal with.
I've seen some petty moves that are worse than that.

Speaker 1 (01:18:38):
Yeah, I mean it's really like it doesn't sound like crazy. Yeah.
I was really worried about the knife thing. I was like,
is she gonna put a knife in that bit? Oh?

Speaker 3 (01:18:46):
Yeah, she's doing anything the knife, She's just keeping the knives.

Speaker 4 (01:18:49):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (01:18:49):
I mean, like, I don't recommend pettiness, especially when it's
like anytime you know, someone's messing with another person's property.
That can get a little bit dicey in terms of reality.
But it seems like you haven't really done anything right.
A few days later, I found out that Bob and
Tracy were in a relationship. Dude, I freaking called it.

Speaker 3 (01:19:12):
Yes, they are cousins.

Speaker 4 (01:19:13):
No, I didn't call that.

Speaker 1 (01:19:15):
I just thought, oh, he's lying that they're not cousins
and they're actually in a relationship, but they're buff. Yeah.
I was like, wait a second, wasn't it like the
family that was like helping him out.

Speaker 3 (01:19:23):
Like Bob and Tracy are in a related with their cousin.

Speaker 1 (01:19:28):
And Bob is the husband. Yeah, jail, Oh my gosh, police, police, jail.

Speaker 3 (01:19:37):
So he had cheated on me with her before we
had split up.

Speaker 1 (01:19:42):
Oh my gosh.

Speaker 3 (01:19:43):
He is still a jobless bum living four hours away
from his kids with his mom, who, by the way,
didn't take kindly to me, outing.

Speaker 1 (01:19:50):
Her son as such a bad person.

Speaker 3 (01:19:53):
He sees his children once every six weeks and is
forced to pay child sports. As for me, I'm still
living in my house.

Speaker 1 (01:20:00):
I have been promoted, I have a new partner who
is amazing, and me my two children and our Doggie
sidekick are all doing amazing and that is the end
of that story. What I didn't I didn't see that coming. Yeah,
I didn't see that coming.

Speaker 3 (01:20:18):
Some crazy left turns in that one.

Speaker 1 (01:20:20):
There's so many left turns that we did a circle,
We did a circle, we did a little like I
guess a square, accidentally kept it and we actually kept
it in its Yeah. Wow, Wow, not.

Speaker 3 (01:20:32):
Where I was expecting that was gonna go.

Speaker 1 (01:20:34):
No, got, You're out of that. Yeah, glad you're doing
well now, crazy journey to get there, but wow,

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