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00:00 r/relationships - My(24F) fiancee(27M) left me for his "on that got away" but now wants me back.
22:32 r/relationships - My (26/F) boyfriend (28/M) has become suspiciously close to a model (26/F) he photographs, and has a practically naked photo of her as the wallpaper on his phone.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
My fiance left me for the one that got away.
Now he wants me back.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
So in a way, now you're the what Yeah, who
got away?
Speaker 1 (00:09):
It's a vicious cycle.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
Yeah, wh whoa woo whoa.
Speaker 3 (00:13):
My fiance and I had been together three years. He
was my first boyfriend. We laughed, cried, worried, and were
happy together. Our families had mixed really well. Our moms
became close friends really fast. He was my best friend,
my confidante, my support, my comfort. I looked at him
(00:33):
and could see our future together. God, I'm even crying
remembering one time we took a blanket, went outside and
looked up at the stars like in some book. I
never thought something like this could happen to me. The
man I loved could have never done anything like that
to me. By the way, this comes.
Speaker 1 (00:50):
From deleted and if you want to spend your own stories,
go to our slash Okay storytime separate it.
Speaker 3 (00:54):
So it all started about two months ago. His ex
high school sweetheart together seven years, move back to our
country and wanted to catch up with Mark Big name.
He told me they broke up because they were unable
to sustain a long distance relationship. When she left to
pursue postgraduate studies. They hadn't been in contact for about
(01:14):
five years. He sent him an email. He showed it
to me and it was completely platonic. She was just
curious about what he had become. He asked me if
he could meet her, and I said yes. I trusted him,
so he went. But when he came back he was
a bit withdrawn.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
Wow.
Speaker 4 (01:33):
Wow, I mean, hey, I agree, though, you gotta let
him go if he is there's trust there.
Speaker 2 (01:37):
It's like you dated seven, you know.
Speaker 3 (01:39):
Yeah. You should never go into like forbid people to
do things.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
That's well.
Speaker 4 (01:47):
If a guy walks into a cafe with his ex
and immediately comes back and is like, I'm uncertain of everything,
do you know that's not a guy you want to
be in a relationship with.
Speaker 3 (01:57):
Exactly like he he should be able to walk into
the bar and be like, Wow, thank god, I'm not
dating her anymore.
Speaker 4 (02:04):
What a previous partner? Yeah, emphasizing previous previous.
Speaker 3 (02:09):
He's usually really chatty, but he was dismissive when I
asked him how it went, et cetera.
Speaker 1 (02:13):
I let it go.
Speaker 3 (02:15):
However, the following weeks he was off and on his phone.
He'd pick random fights with me and didn't look me
in the eyes when we had spicy sleep, didn't whisper
loving words either. I'm really touchy and clinging. And in
our three years together he had never once recoiled or
refused my embrace, but he started doing it. I usually
hug him like a huala when he comes back home
(02:37):
from work. I'm a bit childish, I know, but he
only let me do it twice. It was such a
sudden change. I asked him what was wrong, but he
just said he wasn't feeling too good nowadays. Nowadays he
wasn't feeling too good nowadays.
Speaker 4 (02:52):
Ever since I met up with my ex, I just
haven't felt very good.
Speaker 1 (02:57):
I feel like im so Yeah.
Speaker 3 (02:58):
If someone told me I I'm not feeling two good nowadays,
I'd be like, you need to go to the doctor.
Speaker 1 (03:04):
What do you mean nowadays?
Speaker 4 (03:06):
Yeah? Now nowadays it's like it's been how long? How
many days? Yeah?
Speaker 3 (03:11):
I know, because if you said I'm not feeling too good,
that means like there's an end to that.
Speaker 1 (03:17):
But nowadays it's like that could go on for a while.
Speaker 3 (03:21):
On a Saturday, I went to visit his grandma, as
we usually knit together.
Speaker 1 (03:24):
She taught me, and I was gone the whole day.
Speaker 3 (03:27):
I feel really close to her because she adopted me
easily and reminds me of my own who passed away
when I was in high school. When I came back,
I found him packing his stuff. My whole world fell apart.
He was being so cowardly. He told me he was
sorry for making me suffer like this. But sometimes life
gets you a second chance, and you have to recognize
(03:49):
it for what.
Speaker 2 (03:49):
It is, a second chance brol has.
Speaker 3 (03:52):
She even said that she's interested in him like she
must have right. Right, you wouldn't just throw everything because
you saw your ex one.
Speaker 4 (04:02):
You wouldn't blow up your whole life for a thought.
Speaker 3 (04:06):
That I that he loved me, but when he met
his ex, he realized the feelings weren't the same. He
said he regretted letting go over, that he had found
himself again, that it had been difficult, but he had
to take this chance.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
His ex wanted him back. She realized what she'd lost
and risked losing for good when he told her he
was getting married. He supposedly refused her at first, but
as time passed and they talked together, his old feelings
came back. He hoped I would forgive him one day
and understand.
Speaker 3 (04:36):
But also, I'm sorry, she asked him, presumably like or
told him that she still had feelings, and instead of
cutting her off and being like, hey, I'm in a relationship, sorry,
can't talk to you, he continued to talk to her
until he developed feelings.
Speaker 4 (04:55):
I'm pretty they were probably already here exactly. That's what
I'm saying. I like just the notion of like this.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
Yeahang, he was.
Speaker 3 (05:01):
A little bit interested if he kept telling me. I
cried as he was talking. It sounds stupid, but it
was as if it was a stranger in front of me.
He said he would still pay rent and part of
the bills until our lease was up and I could
find another place. He makes a lot more than me,
and I wouldn't be able to afford living in our
apartment on my own. I begged him not to make
(05:23):
this mistake, that he was being fooled by an idealized
memory of their past together, that he was having cold feet,
but he was like a wall. He didn't even look
at me. At about ten pm, there was a truck
outside with one of his friends waiting for him. He
apparently came to help him move. I wasn't really close
with that particular friend, but he did seem sorry for me.
(05:43):
Mark hugged me goodbye and left. This man blew up
his life.
Speaker 4 (05:50):
Yeah, man, I have that's rough in the moment, that's
super rough. Ye, but you're honestly you're better off. Yeah,
because what if he pulls this exist exact same stunt
when you're married, about like something like about like kids,
like you guys have kids, and all of a sudden
he's like, oh, sorry, babe, I know it's cowardly, but
I gotta leave because life only gives you one a
(06:12):
second chance and I can't be a father or what
you know, like if it could have been a lot worse.
Speaker 3 (06:17):
Obviously, this still really really is like sucks. It is awful.
Speaker 4 (06:22):
But but if he can blow it up like this,
he can blow it up in any other Yep, he's
able to blow it up flippant LYE.
Speaker 1 (06:29):
I hadn't cried.
Speaker 3 (06:30):
That hard in years. I slept in our spare room
not to feel the emptiness of our room. When his
things were gone, I sent to the deepest pathetic, uh.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
The deepest pathetic.
Speaker 3 (06:40):
The deepest pit of patheticness, and tried to call him,
but it went to voicemail. I have no idea where
he went, but assumed he was now living with his
ex after three weeks of talking again. How ridiculous. Sh
that's embarrassing for him.
Speaker 1 (06:57):
To be clear, You've done nothing wrong, You're in the clear,
and he's embarrassing himself.
Speaker 4 (07:03):
Yeah. I mean, look, sometimes feelings about exes get real
confusing and muddy.
Speaker 2 (07:12):
But like, you were ready to marry this woman?
Speaker 3 (07:14):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (07:15):
Right? They were they engaged already or were they had
just they had they just been talking about it.
Speaker 1 (07:20):
I think it's I think they were engaged. Oh, I
think this is fiance.
Speaker 2 (07:23):
He blew up in an engagement for your high school sweetheart. Yep.
Speaker 4 (07:27):
I mean, and look, I shout out to all the
high school sweethearts who are out there, because they do.
Speaker 2 (07:31):
They are they listened.
Speaker 1 (07:33):
To the show sweetheart who you broke up with?
Speaker 4 (07:35):
Right exactly?
Speaker 1 (07:37):
And then we're in a relationship with someone else for
three years.
Speaker 4 (07:40):
Can you even call them the high school sweetheart anymore? Yeah,
it's like it's over it ended. Yeah, now it's like
you're you're you're an adult engagement blow up.
Speaker 2 (07:51):
Heart. I don't know.
Speaker 3 (07:53):
I'm really lucky to have supportive friends and family. My
best friend even moved in for five days. My parents
wanted me back home with them, but I wasn't ready
to leave. Mark is a bit messy and I'm manic,
so it felt weird having everything perfectly neat. I missed
his messiness. It was as if he was the one
making our house a home. He used to joke about
(08:16):
me wanting the house to look like it was on
sale or in a catalog. Not waking up to make breakfast,
not seeing him read lying on the sofa while I studied,
felt weird. Not buying his favorite snack or protein powders
when doing groceries felt weird. Just get Jack to the gym,
be your own protein powder, start buying your own protein.
Speaker 1 (08:36):
I felt really lost at first. It was like grieving.
Speaker 3 (08:40):
Usually when people break up the relationship was going south,
but to me, it came out of nowhere.
Speaker 1 (08:45):
I still loved him.
Speaker 3 (08:47):
I was still planning the wedding and working on my
side to build our future together.
Speaker 1 (08:51):
It was all gone in a day.
Speaker 3 (08:54):
I wished I had been smarter and refused that he
meet the one that got away.
Speaker 1 (08:59):
But again, I'm I mean, you can't.
Speaker 3 (09:02):
Say no that would have messed up another area, you know,
that would have hurt your relationship as well.
Speaker 4 (09:09):
I think that there there can be like a conversation
and if you do come to the decision, it's like, well, no,
I don't want you to reconnect with your ex that
you broke up with only because the distance was getting
in between you guys we're about to get married. It's
like she doesn't seem appropriate. If you can have that
conversation and it's like productive, like yeah, sure, but if
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it's like you say that and then he's like, well, no,
I really do want to meet this person. Now you're
kind of at a crossroads exactly. You either have to
be like okay with it and have the trust or
like be like, well that's my deal breaker.
Speaker 3 (09:44):
His family was dumbfounded. I still went to see his
grandma and she told me he was a fool, that
he would come crawling back to me.
Speaker 1 (09:51):
She was the first person who managed to make me laugh.
Nice his mom, My mom.
Speaker 3 (09:56):
And I started making calls to cancel all reservations. Luck
the store accepted to take back the dress. We didn't
pay much for the location as we canceled early. Next
was to inform the guests. He had been gone for
about three weeks. Then his family was furious with him,
so they didn't contact him much. The only contact I
(10:16):
had with him was the sign check he made to
cover the wedding cancelation. However, about a week ago, I
received a.
Speaker 1 (10:23):
Letter from him.
Speaker 3 (10:24):
He apologized for leaving me like this, said he made
the biggest mistake of his life, that he couldn't believe
what he had done. That he was writing me this
letter because he didn't have the courage to face me.
Speaker 1 (10:35):
You were right.
Speaker 3 (10:36):
I was running after a perfect relationship that had never existed.
I regretted so much. I thought I was in love
with her, but in reality, I was in love with
what she represented my younger self with no responsibility and
only dreams. I had cold feet and got afraid of
moving forward into this new segment of my life. I
couldn't stop thinking about you when I was with her.
Speaker 2 (10:58):
She's not you.
Speaker 1 (10:59):
She doesn't know me or love me like you. She
doesn't smell like you.
Speaker 2 (11:03):
Ah, this dude just figured out other people exist.
Speaker 3 (11:06):
I missed hearing you sing randomly throughout the day. I
missed having someone nagging me to pick up my stuff.
Speaker 1 (11:13):
I miss planning Halloween parties for the kids with you.
Speaker 3 (11:17):
At the time I'm writing this letter, we would probably
have been decoration shopping had I not been a fool.
Everyone told me. But I was a blind fool. I
would do anything to go back into the past and
slap some sense into myself. I would do anything for
you to forgive me. I know we had already started
canceling everything, but I'm ready.
Speaker 1 (11:39):
To pay for everything myself.
Speaker 3 (11:41):
You can date someone else to even scores if you want.
Speaker 4 (11:46):
H as long as you come back to me.
Speaker 1 (11:51):
This is embarrassing.
Speaker 2 (11:53):
What was that line about the deepest pathetic yep.
Speaker 3 (11:56):
That's this time this man lug underneath the pit and
found out that there's even more patheticness that you can
that you can fall into.
Speaker 4 (12:08):
It's like, you know, how have you seen those memes
of like someone writing something it's just like on fire
because it's so good. This is the opposite where it's
so pathetic as he's writing it. It's just making like
womp like sound effects as he's writing it. That is crazy.
You don't it's so desperate and so again just selfish.
Just mee mee. I realized that I did this. I
(12:32):
did that I.
Speaker 3 (12:33):
Would write the whole letter, but I'm on my iPad
and it's tiring. I just gave the important parts. He
kept on with apologies and begging me to forgive him.
Speaker 1 (12:43):
Now.
Speaker 3 (12:43):
I told my family left friends out for the moment,
and his mom and grandma. Grandma had a very satisfying
told her to show a moment. However, she's rooting for
me to forgive him. His mom was supposed to send
a formal letter to guests to tell them the wedding
was off, but is now waiting for my answer.
Speaker 1 (13:00):
I don't know what to do.
Speaker 3 (13:01):
I love him with all my heart, but what he
did to me, I don't know if I can get
over it. He made me feel worthless. He threw me
away as if I was no one to him. After
three years, he gave up on us for some ghost
from his past when we were at our happiest. If
he can leave me when we're doing good, how will
we sustain a marriage?
Speaker 4 (13:19):
Boom?
Speaker 3 (13:20):
Will he leave the moment things get hard? He hurt
me so badly and expects me to forgive him. He
wants us to meet on Sunday, but I'm not sure
I'm willing to. I need some perspective, what would you
do in my situation and there is an update, but
what would you do?
Speaker 2 (13:37):
I'd probably go on Sunday.
Speaker 4 (13:40):
I would absolutely go, and I would just sense sense
it out, sort of feel out what's.
Speaker 2 (13:47):
Going on with him.
Speaker 4 (13:49):
I don't think there's a universe where I'm getting back
together with him anytime soon.
Speaker 1 (13:56):
No, definitely not getting married to him.
Speaker 4 (13:59):
Like, if there is, it's like, it's gonna take a
lot of work and you're gonna have to rebuild that trust.
But it's so fundamentally broken. Oh yeah, that I don't
know if I'd be able to trust anything that he says.
Where he's like, oh, yeah, I would never do that again,
and I'll never It's like, yeah, but I think you
could do it this time exactly. I didn't think you
were capable of doing that ever in the first place. Yeah,
So it's probably just it's gone over the cliff at
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this point.
Speaker 3 (14:23):
Absolutely, No, I don't. I do think that you should
go Sunday because I think that you deserve an explanation
from him in person, Yeah, where he defends what you
know or not defends his actions, but explains his actions.
H And at the end of that, I don't think that.
I don't think this relationship can work out.
Speaker 4 (14:44):
Yeah, No, I think you should definitely go to Sunday.
I think that, And I think that they already feel
this way. It's like this is not happening again. But
just see what kind of weasily wormy little things he
has to try to say to wiggle his way out
of this. Yeah, and then just be like, hey, not happening, goodbye.
Speaker 2 (15:03):
Yeah, don't talk to me.
Speaker 3 (15:05):
And also just like know his mom and his grandma,
while they may love you, while they may you know,
I think that you're great, ultimately they're probably more on
his side because they're related.
Speaker 4 (15:18):
So people just root for like a situation.
Speaker 3 (15:21):
Yeah, And but I'm not even saying like they don't
have yours, you know, like they don't like you or
they're I don't know, just like working against you. At
the end of the day, they probably have his interests
in mind over yours. So like the grandma was saying, oh,
I want you get to get back together. She loves
her grandson, so he was like, no, that's probably not
(15:45):
your best interest. But there is an update. I didn't
plan on updating, or at least not so soon, but
I have another problem boy. So Mark wanted to meet
on Sunday, but I unblocked him from my phone and
told him I didn't want to meet oh, and to
please not contact me anymore.
Speaker 1 (16:06):
He answered, please, baby, I need to talk to you.
Can we meet another day.
Speaker 3 (16:11):
I know I'd up real bad and hurt you deeply,
but I'll do anything to make it up to you.
Speaker 1 (16:17):
Anything you ask, I'll do it.
Speaker 3 (16:19):
Needless to say, it just angered me more. How dare
he use terms of endearment with me? I just blocked
him again. After that, I met his mom on Saturday
and told her to proceed with the notification of cancelation.
We had an emotional moment, and she told me even
though she would have really wanted us to stay one
big family, she would have done the same in my place.
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She had hoped I would find the strength to forgive him,
but she understands, and so the wedding is indeed still
being canceled. My poor brother, I told him personally, had
already bought his plane tickets from Australia but got a refund.
Speaker 1 (16:55):
Well, maybe you guys coulda hung out.
Speaker 2 (17:00):
Well, yeah, you should have just chilled out, I.
Speaker 3 (17:01):
Goes, I rearranged all the furniture in the house and
bought new betting sets to make a new start, and
moved to the spare room for good. It looks really
different and I like it. Apparently he told our friends,
because some brought it up to me asking if we
were getting back together, but said they didn't want to side.
On Sunday evening, I had a visitor. I never have
(17:22):
people coming this late usually. It was around nine pm.
When I went to look through the people, I saw.
Speaker 4 (17:28):
Mark with his X ew so so he again he
flip flopped. This guy. You got bring this guy to
the beach because he's just a pair of flip flops.
Speaker 3 (17:39):
My maybe, Icee, your conspiracy is that he's bringing the
X to be like, oh no, no, no, like I
am in love with you, see, like we're not getting
back together, you know, no, I doubt it, dude. This
guy's this is my swaps He's yeah. I seriously had
a moment of panic. He mustill have the key for
the main entry, since he managed to get to my
(17:59):
door without using the intercom. I don't know if it
was a cowardly thing to do, but I just chose
not to open it. I know they knew I was there,
and I heard him ask me to please let him
in that he just wanted to talk through the door. Honestly,
even though I feel better, I don't think I'm emotionally
stable enough to deal with him, and especially him with
(18:20):
his ex. They stayed about fifteen minutes and then they left.
I thought he would get the message, but they came
again yesterday around the same time, and I didn't open again.
They waited even longer. I know I'm not being an adult,
so now I don't know what to do. I feel
nervous in my own house because I dread the moment
they'll come back. He knows my schedule and he came
(18:42):
at the time where I usually come back from my
Zumba class. However, yesterday was a holiday, so we didn't
have class. I'm afraid he will come again, and I
don't think I can face him. What should I do.
I know I can't run away forever, but I need
more time, and you will always have more your time
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Speaker 1 (19:05):
Podcasts, or iHeartRadio and search of Bookey story Time.
Speaker 2 (19:08):
You're gonna need more time.
Speaker 4 (19:09):
Yeah, there's almost hours worth of content to listen to,
so indubitably in dubiously.
Speaker 1 (19:21):
Well, I'm not dubious about it.
Speaker 2 (19:23):
I think it's a dubious amount of.
Speaker 3 (19:25):
Yeah, it's like, wow, there's no way they could possibly
have all of that.
Speaker 4 (19:30):
What would indubiously mean? Is that the opposite of dubious dubious?
Speaker 1 (19:36):
There, so maybe there is no doubt or.
Speaker 4 (19:37):
That would that be undubious? Anyway, this conversation is dubious.
Speaker 2 (19:42):
Let's what.
Speaker 4 (19:44):
I mean. Like, I don't think you have to wait
for anything, Like you need to be like mech bullhorn,
like megaphone.
Speaker 2 (19:51):
You are not getting back with me.
Speaker 1 (19:54):
It's over gone from me.
Speaker 3 (19:57):
So unfortunately, I don't think that you could call the
police on him, but I do think that you could
text him or call him up and say, hey, I
don't want to talk to you and your girlfriend or
your ex or whatever, leave me alone.
Speaker 2 (20:09):
Yeah, or just did you put a note on the door.
Speaker 4 (20:11):
I really think he should call his grandma and have
her be the one that tells him, like, hey, leave
her alone.
Speaker 2 (20:17):
You mess him up?
Speaker 4 (20:19):
Yeah, because I think Grammy is like Granny will be
able to digest It's like, dude, you messed up, and
we all told you you were being an idiot, and
then you did it and now you have to live
with your idiot decisions.
Speaker 1 (20:31):
Literally, But there's a little bit left.
Speaker 3 (20:36):
Is this worth calling the police over? I fear it
would make the problem bigger than it is and hurt
our family relations.
Speaker 1 (20:43):
Our moms are really close, and really he's not dangerous.
Speaker 3 (20:46):
I think he hasn't contacted me enough for it to
be considered intimidation anyway. Should I just be a big
girl and open the next time he or they come,
or do I.
Speaker 1 (20:56):
Wait it out? Also, why the heck is he bringing art?
Speaker 3 (21:00):
I'm curious, but I want to stand by my decision
and that is the end of the story for now.
Speaker 4 (21:07):
I mean, yeah, this is if you have like a
two door setup where it's like you have the inner
door and the outer door.
Speaker 2 (21:14):
Yeah, just to open the door and be like, I
am done, go away. You can have him or not.
I don't care. Leave me alone.
Speaker 4 (21:24):
You come back again, I'm gonna start figuring out how
to get you charged for harassment. Yeah all right, Yeah,
And then it's like, oh, the family, the family dynamic
is getting messed up because of this guy. Desperately coming
around trying to convince you to take him back. Yeah,
that's not you, it's him. He's cause on his own trouble.
Speaker 2 (21:43):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (21:44):
Ah man, Yeah no, I think that you can.
Speaker 3 (21:47):
I think to a certain extent, you might have to
face him a little bit just to tell him to
stop coming and bothering you. But yeah, yeah, it seems
like you're pretty set on not taking him back, which
is good.
Speaker 2 (22:00):
Yeah, and you should.
Speaker 4 (22:01):
It should be just a quick thing, open the door, crack,
go away. No, not talking to you today or tomorrow
or next week.
Speaker 2 (22:07):
Do leave me alone.
Speaker 1 (22:09):
Yep, exactly. But that is the end of that story,
so we're gonna jump into the next one.
Speaker 4 (22:15):
Indeed, my boyfriend is way too close to another model.
She's his phone wallpaper. Oohoo, that is maybe his girlfriend. Yeah,
well are you at least maybe the lock screen?
Speaker 3 (22:30):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (22:30):
Are you also a model?
Speaker 2 (22:32):
I think so. Uh, let's find out.
Speaker 4 (22:37):
So my boyfeet is a fashion photographer, meaning he works
alongside many beautiful women in his profession, stylists, hair and
makeup artists, and of course models.
Speaker 2 (22:49):
This is actually how we met.
Speaker 4 (22:51):
By the way, this comes from user ex girl on
the phone and if you want to submit your own stories.
Go to the r slash Okay storytime subreddit. So I
modeled my way through college and he photographed me after
like one of his French girls, after which we became
friends and eventually started dating. We have been together now
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for almost three years. I've since stopped modeling, but he
is still a photographer. Never once in our relationship has
he given me any reason to question his fidelity. With
the exception of me, he has never dated or even
befriended any of the models he has photographed. That is,
until Rachel came into the picture. Who's Rachel a model?
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Of course, I've met Rachel. She seems like a fun chick,
the type of girl who draws a lot of positive
attention just by entering a room. She's beautiful, but her
personality really shines through. She makes you feel like you're
her best friend when you're talking to her. A very
cool person through and through.
Speaker 1 (23:56):
Nice.
Speaker 4 (23:57):
That being said, I'm not the only one who feels
this way. My boyfriend also adores Rachel. The first time
he photographed her, he stayed late at the studio and
discussed ideas for their next shoot for nearly three hours. OOO.
Speaker 1 (24:13):
Nothing nothing, explicitly wrong.
Speaker 4 (24:16):
Yet it's a pretty productive professional relationship.
Speaker 2 (24:20):
I would hope.
Speaker 4 (24:21):
Yeah, three hours. I hope it stayed pretty on topic.
Hmm hmmm. He was actually late for a night out
with me because of Ito, but okay, He's always had
terrible time management, so I didn't think anything of it.
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The lateness has now become a steady recurring factor. When
they have shoots together. They hang out long after the
stylists and makeup artists leave the studio.
Speaker 2 (24:52):
They also text.
Speaker 4 (24:53):
A lot, and he's always smiling to himself and laughing
when he reads the messages she sends him. Ro rout
Row is right right Row. At first he would show
them to me and try to include me in on
all the fun without me asking, but he abruptly stopped
doing that around two weeks ago. He tilts his phone
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away from me now when Rachel messages him.
Speaker 1 (25:20):
Not great, so not great.
Speaker 4 (25:23):
I see two reasons that that could possibly happen.
Speaker 1 (25:26):
Right.
Speaker 2 (25:26):
One is clearly because it's like.
Speaker 4 (25:28):
He's into Rachel and they're texting flirtitiously, stitiously. The other
reason might be because he saw how negative you would
react to the messages he was showing you, and now
he's like, well, I just want to make it. I
won't bring that up around the more likely one definitely
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option one. Yeah, right, yeah, you don't tilt the phone
and hide your phone unless you got something to hide,
something to be ashamed about.
Speaker 1 (25:56):
Right.
Speaker 3 (25:56):
So Also there's like a difference between show like for
your second option, there's a difference between showing all of
the texts and not showing them and then also like
tilting the fun way, you know, like he could have
just been like, oh she doesn't like when I show
her all these texts, I'm just not going to show it.
Speaker 1 (26:16):
But now he's like actively hiding them.
Speaker 3 (26:18):
Yeah, it's like, oh suspicious, Oh.
Speaker 4 (26:22):
Yeah, but oh and she's like, what are you? Don't
worry about it, don't.
Speaker 1 (26:28):
He's like, I'm not touching anyone.
Speaker 3 (26:29):
I could see in your your sunglasses that you're texting Rachel.
Speaker 4 (26:32):
It looks like that, but it's clashed the clans. Babe,
back to the story. I'm not the jealous type, but
if my boyfriend had a history of doing this with
other models, i'd let it slot. The fact that he
is only like this with Rachel and I guess me
makes me wary of what might have transpired between them.
Speaker 3 (26:52):
Oh, I was just gonna say, you should also take
into consideration how he treated you in the lead up
to your relationship. Are there any like similarities? Because if
you guys said that, you know, you started photographing you,
you became friends, and then you started dating. So are
you seeing a similar timeline in how your boyfriend and
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Rachel intercut?
Speaker 4 (27:13):
What is the OPE and Rachel boyfriend interaction venn diagram?
Speaker 1 (27:19):
What I like right now?
Speaker 2 (27:20):
Yep?
Speaker 4 (27:21):
How much crossover do we have? Rachel herself has stopped
talking to me. We used to communicate and have an
easy casual friendship the Instagram and Snapchat, but she pretty
much ignores me.
Speaker 2 (27:33):
Now is it guilty conscience? I don't know.
Speaker 4 (27:36):
The real cherry on top is my boyfriend now has
a photo of Rachel as the wallpaper on his phone.
He's apparently proud of the concept and the editing and
claims it has nothing to do with Rachel herself.
Speaker 2 (27:51):
Which is totally believable, but doesn't sit right with me now.
What it is believable in a way.
Speaker 4 (27:59):
I know for potographers who have pictures of people, pictures
they've taken.
Speaker 2 (28:06):
In this context.
Speaker 1 (28:08):
There on their homes.
Speaker 2 (28:10):
Well, yeah.
Speaker 4 (28:10):
Well, it's like you know people who take like headshot
photos and they're like, this is like the best, Like
I just the best one I've taken. Are they just
like you know people? But no, it's well, like Riley
has this for Angie. It's like he has a bunch
of no, no, no, I'm just listening. It's a bunch
of different pictures of Angie.
Speaker 1 (28:27):
See.
Speaker 4 (28:27):
So it's like, yes, I've seen photographers who like have
a bunch of different pictures where they're like, these are
my best my best work. However, given the context of
the story, it is very unbelievable. Yeah, that it's just
happens to be Rachel. No, the girl you're low key
obsessed with, No, not even low key yeah key obsessed with.
Speaker 3 (28:52):
He's pulling on me in college. It's like everything's just
a little bit in love with Rachel.
Speaker 4 (28:57):
I told him that the Rachel photo wasn't sitting with me,
and he told me I was being irrational. Rachel is single,
by the way, She and her boyfriend broke up around
three weeks ago.
Speaker 1 (29:09):
Which is when he started texting her and not showing
you the texts.
Speaker 4 (29:14):
So you be the judge of that. Yeah, I think
we all can judge exactly what's going on here.
Speaker 1 (29:19):
The timeline ain't at it up.
Speaker 2 (29:21):
The logical jump is very very small.
Speaker 3 (29:25):
It's very small. It's less of a jump in more
of a hop.
Speaker 4 (29:29):
I really don't want to fall into the jealous girlfriend trope,
but what else am I to think? I don't want
to make crazy demands and accuse my boyfriend of cheating
on me, even emotionally. But he really does seem to
be fond of this girl in a way that really
hurts me. He has other female friends and he doesn't
act that way with them.
Speaker 1 (29:47):
So she's not in love with them exactly.
Speaker 2 (29:50):
We all know what's I think, we know, we all know.
Speaker 1 (29:53):
All we all know what's happening here.
Speaker 4 (29:56):
He's capable of being friendly with a girl without flirting
or actings bitious, but with Rachel, it's different. He has
slowly become very attached to her, and I feel like
I'm losing him. I have expressed this to him a
couple of times, but he always tells me I have
nothing to worry about and that he and Rachel are
just kindred. When it comes to photography, the long nights
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and constant texting and phone wall paper mean nothing. Oh,
by the way, she's practically unclothed in the photo and
it wasn't taken for any sort of publication, just for fun.
Am I being irrational? Unreasonable? How would you feel in
this situation? And what would you do? And there's a
mini update. Oh, he and I are meeting for lunch
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in an hour. Extra mini update, he confessed.
Speaker 1 (30:42):
Oh, there's the thing that none of us.
Speaker 2 (30:44):
We surprised by. Eh, I'm actually kind of surprised you confessed.
Speaker 4 (30:50):
It was reading to me like a guy who just
was desperate to get her to break up with him,
Like we've read stories like that.
Speaker 2 (30:56):
I just don't no.
Speaker 1 (30:58):
Surprisingly, he had the wherewithal to tell her.
Speaker 4 (31:02):
I guess hey, it all came. He couldn't keep the
facade up any longer. Let's get into the update. We
all know exactly what's happening. Let's get into it. I'd
like to address a few things. My boyfriend, my ex boyfriend,
has never taken a noodle or even partially noodle photo
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of me. Although I modeled in high school and university,
my primary focus has always been stage acting.
Speaker 2 (31:31):
He took my head shots. That's how we met.
Speaker 4 (31:35):
Not that it really changes anything, but It's just a
bit of insight. When we were younger, and when that
relationship was new, I would accompany him to his shoots
all the time. But my own career is very time
consuming nowadays. I know of multiple model photographer relationships where
they accompany each other to every shoot, and I don't
have anything against doing that, but I personally would rather
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just trust that my partner is on their best behavior. Obviously,
what happened here kind of squashes that, but I do
stand by it. If I have to be there in
order to make sure my partner's faithful, chances are they'll
find other ways to cheat big time.
Speaker 1 (32:10):
Agree.
Speaker 2 (32:11):
Yes, they're just gonna get sneakier exactly.
Speaker 3 (32:15):
There's no I mean, it's it's not healthy or helpful
to try. And you know, make your relationship into like
a backpack kid, you know, right, like that kid. That
kid's gonna escape if he wants to.
Speaker 2 (32:29):
A backpack kid. Yeah, you know, in what way.
Speaker 1 (32:33):
Like if you keep a leash on your partner.
Speaker 4 (32:36):
Oh okay, yeah, I thought I was just thinking of
the guys who used to run through the hallways with
like their arms out.
Speaker 1 (32:43):
Oh no, sorry, different time of backy kid.
Speaker 3 (32:45):
I'm talking about like a leash That was the incorrect term.
Speaker 1 (32:49):
I was like leash child.
Speaker 4 (32:52):
Anyway, I'm flattered by the offers, but no, I will
not be meeting anyone for drinks anywhere. Sorry for the
blunt is just yeah, now here comes the good stuff,
or I guess the bad stuff. I met him for
lunch Friday afternoon. We went to our favorite sushi joint
overlooking the ocean, and I ordered more than I could handle,
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stuff in my face while trying to decide how to
broach the topic of Rachel, but most importantly, our relationship.
I went into a meeting with a righteous butt kicking
speech prepared, but I forgot every word of it almost
immediately after we sat down. I guess you could tell
there was something on my mind, because he asked me
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if I was all right.
Speaker 1 (33:36):
Dude, what do you what? I thought?
Speaker 4 (33:39):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (33:39):
Wait, is this maybe before the confession? Do we think?
Speaker 2 (33:44):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (33:44):
I think this is potentially pre confession?
Speaker 2 (33:46):
Is pre confessed?
Speaker 4 (33:47):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (33:47):
Yeah, okay, okay, I'm ready now.
Speaker 4 (33:49):
So he asked me if I was all right if
he had done anything to upset me. Snort, Yes, Ian,
you've upset me very much.
Speaker 2 (33:56):
Actually know Ian. As soon as I gathered the confidence
to look him in the eyes.
Speaker 4 (34:02):
I point blank asked him, what's going on between you
and Rachel. His mouth flew open, as if he were
completely and utterly taken aback by the implication.
Speaker 1 (34:15):
Rachel he's like me and Rachel. And he's like, yeah, he's.
Speaker 3 (34:20):
Like me, me love with Rachel, Me, me, me staring
into Rachel's beautiful eyes.
Speaker 1 (34:30):
Me wanting to have three kids with Rachel. He's like,
I didn't, I didn't say that, me wanting to marry Rachel.
Speaker 4 (34:39):
I think you said all you need to say, Ian God,
when I would love if.
Speaker 2 (34:46):
So.
Speaker 4 (34:47):
His mouth flew open as if he were completely and
utterly taken aback by the implication. But I cut him
off with do not bs me, you goof. I tried
my best not to let anger get the best of me.
I really did. I wanted to stay cool, calm, and collected,
like so many women on this sub you know the
ones those intense stories of cheating husbands where the wife
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takes to our relationships, garners a ton of support and
then updates us later with a well constructed storybook post
detailing the evidence she has collected against him and the
meeting that she had with her uncle or sibling who
just so happens to be a divorce lawyer. Yeah, I'm
not a legend like that. I wish I were, but
I'm honestly just in over the emotional doormat. And I
knew going into this meeting that I was either going
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to cry or gouge his eyes out with my mind
because I had somewhere to be later, I took a
hard left and got super super angry. He could see
it in me, the anger bubbling over. The people in
the restaurant were starting to stare at us too. In
order to save face, I threw money on the table
with a tip and told him to meet me in
the parking lot. If I had me blade on me,
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I can't say for certain I wouldn't have channeled my
inner jet.
Speaker 2 (35:57):
And beat his shark butt to the pavement.
Speaker 1 (36:00):
Okay, a little West Side story.
Speaker 2 (36:01):
Kidding, a hey, kidding, totally kidding. No one's getting yeah, yeah, yeah,
no one's getting.
Speaker 1 (36:08):
Okay.
Speaker 4 (36:10):
We met inside my car. He climbed in after me,
his head down as though he were ashamed or I
don't know, gaudy. I asked him how, and he explained
everything to me. No preamble whatsoever. The moment he met Rachel,
he felt some type of way towards no way. And
this whole time he's been to you, the girl.
Speaker 2 (36:34):
You don't have to worry about it.
Speaker 1 (36:35):
He's like, no, no, you don't understand. It's totally put
on it. I wonder if that's why her boyfriend broke
up with.
Speaker 4 (36:41):
Her, because of the thing that she's got going over
the inn. Hmmm, well, birds of a feather flocked together.
He couldn't tell whether it was just a silly crush
or something more, but he knew she felt it too.
Speaker 1 (36:55):
Oh my god, it's so cute. Bars how cult.
Speaker 4 (37:03):
They kissed the first night they met.
Speaker 1 (37:06):
Oh, he cheated on you? Wow, Okay, and then lie
to you about it. Cheat their cheat, their pumpkiny the
whole time.
Speaker 2 (37:13):
Okay, the night he nearly stood me up.
Speaker 4 (37:18):
That that same night they had crazy, emotional, forbidden, spicy sleep.
Speaker 2 (37:23):
The night she and.
Speaker 4 (37:24):
Her boyfriend called it quits, and they've been effin ever since.
Speaker 1 (37:28):
Wow.
Speaker 4 (37:29):
He mentioned that he always used a Wiener wrapper with her,
but I don't care. I'm getting tested.
Speaker 1 (37:35):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (37:36):
Oh, and because so many people asked in the original post,
I figure I should mention Rachel was the one who
was broken up with in her previous relationship. I don't
know why or how. I didn't ask, and I don't
care to know. Funnily enough, Ian said he doesn't want
to be with Rachel. He wants to be with me.
Speaker 1 (37:55):
Oh, that's funny because you should have realized that, you know,
before you cheated on Opie.
Speaker 2 (37:59):
That's crazy because you've been with Rachel this whole time.
Speaker 3 (38:03):
It's funny because you like you were with op you know,
You're like, you don't understand.
Speaker 2 (38:07):
I had to be with her.
Speaker 3 (38:08):
To realize that I wanted to be with you. Yeah,
And I also couldn't tell either. You know, I couldn't
tell you about that is that it I couldn't be
with you both at the same time.
Speaker 1 (38:18):
Right.
Speaker 5 (38:20):
It's a delicate game, you know what. It's basically the
Game of Thrones. I've been playing, hmm, which is a
really cool thing. You should watch it, and you should
then you'll understand watch Game of Thrones.
Speaker 4 (38:34):
He said he doesn't want to be with Rachel, he
wants to be with me, and he even provided text
messages to show that he's the one who decided not
to pursue anything with her on official grounds, except you
already did herfoon, you already did this with her.
Speaker 1 (38:51):
I'm sorry. I'm sorry.
Speaker 3 (38:55):
To pursue anything on official brown rob instead of asking
for a loan, Yeah, you.
Speaker 4 (39:03):
Rob the bank, you go back to the bank, you go,
I'm not gonna rob you guys again.
Speaker 2 (39:07):
Yeah, promise No, I'm gonna rob you guys. And also,
can I get a loan?
Speaker 4 (39:12):
Thanks, I've got a lot of assets now back and
leverage against it.
Speaker 1 (39:16):
Can I put my money like those are the assets
you stole from us?
Speaker 4 (39:20):
And you go, well, I'm not doing that anymore, guys
while we talk in circles. But I told him I
give zero f's about what he wants, and unless he
can go without his eyes, he should get the f
out of my car and erase me from his mind
before I erase him, I literally said that.
Speaker 1 (39:37):
Girl, yes, yes, please, okay.
Speaker 4 (39:42):
In any case, I went home later that day, posted
an update for you guys on the original and had
a couple of drinky poos. My friends and family, and
most of Ian's friends and family have rallied around me
in support. I guess he told his mother we broke
up and how it happened because she called me this
morning and said she's disgusted with her son and that
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if I need anything at all, she's always there for me.
Speaker 2 (40:05):
For real, you.
Speaker 4 (40:05):
Guys, I'm going to miss his family. They are good people,
the best people. This is my first real adult breakup,
by the way, the type of breakup where you're required
not only to break up with your partner but with
their family and friends as well. These people you've spent
so much time getting to know and growing to love
are suddenly not in your life anymore. And it's kind
of daunting, really daunting and sad and infuriating all at
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the same time.
Speaker 2 (40:29):
So that's the conclusion to this story. That's what happened.
Thank you again to everyone.
Speaker 4 (40:35):
And by the way, you'll be thanking yourself if you
go listen to full episodes with stories like this on Spotify, iHeartRadio,
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Speaker 2 (40:58):
So we've got a little bit more story lift.
Speaker 1 (41:01):
Yeah, you're gonna be.
Speaker 2 (41:03):
Better in the long run.
Speaker 4 (41:05):
It's hard, you know, it is hard, even a relationship
where everything's become so intertwined. It's not easy.
Speaker 3 (41:13):
No, never, But I mean, this man cheated on you
and lied to you and only fest up when you
had to confront him about it after multiple times of
being like, Hey, I don't like this is not making
me comfortable.
Speaker 1 (41:28):
I don't like how close you guys are. Yeah, so
he is not the one for you at all.
Speaker 3 (41:34):
And also I'm pissed at Rachel because it's I mean,
he said that Rachel and her were kind of friends
at the beginning of the story.
Speaker 2 (41:41):
Yeah, they were like, oh we get along. Yeah, another
model friend of mine.
Speaker 1 (41:45):
Yeah, but from the beginning, Rachel's been you know, hook his.
Speaker 4 (41:49):
Kissed your man immediately night one. Dang, But there's a
little bit more note do the person who said violence
is never the answer and I should have never threatened
my ex, you're right, You're absolutely right. But if you're
ever in a situation where you're lying, cheating ex refuses
to leave your car the first dozen times you ask,
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I dare you not to lose your crap and say
things you don't mean just so he gets the f
out and doesn't see you cry.
Speaker 2 (42:17):
Microscopic update.
Speaker 4 (42:19):
So far, his mother, his teenaged step brother, and two
male friends of his have reached out to me saying
how disgusted and shamed and embarrassed they are on his behalf,
on top of three mutual friends. It hasn't even been
two days yet, guys, and that is the end of
that story. Yeah, I think given the context of the situation,
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a lot of those friends and family will be more
apt to take your side than his.
Speaker 1 (42:46):
Absolutely, he cheated on you.
Speaker 4 (42:49):
Yeah, so I wouldn't be too worried about like losing
your connections because really he's gonna probably lose them more
than you.
Speaker 1 (42:57):
Absolutely.
Speaker 3 (42:57):
And also it seems like the one good thing he's
done is tell the truth to his friends and family.
Speaker 4 (43:03):
At least, yeah, at least he fessed up there.
Speaker 1 (43:07):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (43:07):
I just can't imagine doing such a bold face lie.
We're just right out of the gate. Really, it's like
she's your phone wallpaper, and you're like, yeah, no, it's
just I like that shot.
Speaker 3 (43:18):
Just he' latly obvious that you're in love with this
girl and cheating with her, and then just continue to
lie like not even like he didn't try to hide
it at all.
Speaker 4 (43:28):
I don't even give him in love, dude, he's just
just infatuated.
Speaker 2 (43:31):
Yeah, I wouldn't even give him that.
Speaker 3 (43:35):
But that is the end of that episode. So if
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Speaker 2 (43:39):
We love you and see you tomorrow.
My fiance left me for the one that got away.
Now he wants me back.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
So in a way, now you're the what Yeah, who
got away?
Speaker 1 (00:09):
It's a vicious cycle.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
Yeah, wh whoa woo whoa.
Speaker 3 (00:13):
My fiance and I had been together three years. He
was my first boyfriend. We laughed, cried, worried, and were
happy together. Our families had mixed really well. Our moms
became close friends really fast. He was my best friend,
my confidante, my support, my comfort. I looked at him
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and could see our future together. God, I'm even crying
remembering one time we took a blanket, went outside and
looked up at the stars like in some book. I
never thought something like this could happen to me. The
man I loved could have never done anything like that
to me. By the way, this comes.
Speaker 1 (00:50):
From deleted and if you want to spend your own stories,
go to our slash Okay storytime separate it.
Speaker 3 (00:54):
So it all started about two months ago. His ex
high school sweetheart together seven years, move back to our
country and wanted to catch up with Mark Big name.
He told me they broke up because they were unable
to sustain a long distance relationship. When she left to
pursue postgraduate studies. They hadn't been in contact for about
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five years. He sent him an email. He showed it
to me and it was completely platonic. She was just
curious about what he had become. He asked me if
he could meet her, and I said yes. I trusted him,
so he went. But when he came back he was
a bit withdrawn.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
Wow.
Speaker 4 (01:33):
Wow, I mean, hey, I agree, though, you gotta let
him go if he is there's trust there.
Speaker 2 (01:37):
It's like you dated seven, you know.
Speaker 3 (01:39):
Yeah. You should never go into like forbid people to
do things.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
That's well.
Speaker 4 (01:47):
If a guy walks into a cafe with his ex
and immediately comes back and is like, I'm uncertain of everything,
do you know that's not a guy you want to
be in a relationship with.
Speaker 3 (01:57):
Exactly like he he should be able to walk into
the bar and be like, Wow, thank god, I'm not
dating her anymore.
Speaker 4 (02:04):
What a previous partner? Yeah, emphasizing previous previous.
Speaker 3 (02:09):
He's usually really chatty, but he was dismissive when I
asked him how it went, et cetera.
Speaker 1 (02:13):
I let it go.
Speaker 3 (02:15):
However, the following weeks he was off and on his phone.
He'd pick random fights with me and didn't look me
in the eyes when we had spicy sleep, didn't whisper
loving words either. I'm really touchy and clinging. And in
our three years together he had never once recoiled or
refused my embrace, but he started doing it. I usually
hug him like a huala when he comes back home
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from work. I'm a bit childish, I know, but he
only let me do it twice. It was such a
sudden change. I asked him what was wrong, but he
just said he wasn't feeling too good nowadays. Nowadays he
wasn't feeling too good nowadays.
Speaker 4 (02:52):
Ever since I met up with my ex, I just
haven't felt very good.
Speaker 1 (02:57):
I feel like im so Yeah.
Speaker 3 (02:58):
If someone told me I I'm not feeling two good nowadays,
I'd be like, you need to go to the doctor.
Speaker 1 (03:04):
What do you mean nowadays?
Speaker 4 (03:06):
Yeah? Now nowadays it's like it's been how long? How
many days? Yeah?
Speaker 3 (03:11):
I know, because if you said I'm not feeling too good,
that means like there's an end to that.
Speaker 1 (03:17):
But nowadays it's like that could go on for a while.
Speaker 3 (03:21):
On a Saturday, I went to visit his grandma, as
we usually knit together.
Speaker 1 (03:24):
She taught me, and I was gone the whole day.
Speaker 3 (03:27):
I feel really close to her because she adopted me
easily and reminds me of my own who passed away
when I was in high school. When I came back,
I found him packing his stuff. My whole world fell apart.
He was being so cowardly. He told me he was
sorry for making me suffer like this. But sometimes life
gets you a second chance, and you have to recognize
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it for what.
Speaker 2 (03:49):
It is, a second chance brol has.
Speaker 3 (03:52):
She even said that she's interested in him like she
must have right. Right, you wouldn't just throw everything because
you saw your ex one.
Speaker 4 (04:02):
You wouldn't blow up your whole life for a thought.
Speaker 3 (04:06):
That I that he loved me, but when he met
his ex, he realized the feelings weren't the same. He
said he regretted letting go over, that he had found
himself again, that it had been difficult, but he had
to take this chance.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
His ex wanted him back. She realized what she'd lost
and risked losing for good when he told her he
was getting married. He supposedly refused her at first, but
as time passed and they talked together, his old feelings
came back. He hoped I would forgive him one day
and understand.
Speaker 3 (04:36):
But also, I'm sorry, she asked him, presumably like or
told him that she still had feelings, and instead of
cutting her off and being like, hey, I'm in a relationship, sorry,
can't talk to you, he continued to talk to her
until he developed feelings.
Speaker 4 (04:55):
I'm pretty they were probably already here exactly. That's what
I'm saying. I like just the notion of like this.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
Yeahang, he was.
Speaker 3 (05:01):
A little bit interested if he kept telling me. I
cried as he was talking. It sounds stupid, but it
was as if it was a stranger in front of me.
He said he would still pay rent and part of
the bills until our lease was up and I could
find another place. He makes a lot more than me,
and I wouldn't be able to afford living in our
apartment on my own. I begged him not to make
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this mistake, that he was being fooled by an idealized
memory of their past together, that he was having cold feet,
but he was like a wall. He didn't even look
at me. At about ten pm, there was a truck
outside with one of his friends waiting for him. He
apparently came to help him move. I wasn't really close
with that particular friend, but he did seem sorry for me.
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Mark hugged me goodbye and left. This man blew up
his life.
Speaker 4 (05:50):
Yeah, man, I have that's rough in the moment, that's
super rough. Ye, but you're honestly you're better off. Yeah,
because what if he pulls this exist exact same stunt
when you're married, about like something like about like kids,
like you guys have kids, and all of a sudden
he's like, oh, sorry, babe, I know it's cowardly, but
I gotta leave because life only gives you one a
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second chance and I can't be a father or what
you know, like if it could have been a lot worse.
Speaker 3 (06:17):
Obviously, this still really really is like sucks. It is awful.
Speaker 4 (06:22):
But but if he can blow it up like this,
he can blow it up in any other Yep, he's
able to blow it up flippant LYE.
Speaker 1 (06:29):
I hadn't cried.
Speaker 3 (06:30):
That hard in years. I slept in our spare room
not to feel the emptiness of our room. When his
things were gone, I sent to the deepest pathetic, uh.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
The deepest pathetic.
Speaker 3 (06:40):
The deepest pit of patheticness, and tried to call him,
but it went to voicemail. I have no idea where
he went, but assumed he was now living with his
ex after three weeks of talking again. How ridiculous. Sh
that's embarrassing for him.
Speaker 1 (06:57):
To be clear, You've done nothing wrong, You're in the clear,
and he's embarrassing himself.
Speaker 4 (07:03):
Yeah. I mean, look, sometimes feelings about exes get real
confusing and muddy.
Speaker 2 (07:12):
But like, you were ready to marry this woman?
Speaker 3 (07:14):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (07:15):
Right? They were they engaged already or were they had
just they had they just been talking about it.
Speaker 1 (07:20):
I think it's I think they were engaged. Oh, I
think this is fiance.
Speaker 2 (07:23):
He blew up in an engagement for your high school sweetheart. Yep.
Speaker 4 (07:27):
I mean, and look, I shout out to all the
high school sweethearts who are out there, because they do.
Speaker 2 (07:31):
They are they listened.
Speaker 1 (07:33):
To the show sweetheart who you broke up with?
Speaker 4 (07:35):
Right exactly?
Speaker 1 (07:37):
And then we're in a relationship with someone else for
three years.
Speaker 4 (07:40):
Can you even call them the high school sweetheart anymore? Yeah,
it's like it's over it ended. Yeah, now it's like
you're you're you're an adult engagement blow up.
Speaker 2 (07:51):
Heart. I don't know.
Speaker 3 (07:53):
I'm really lucky to have supportive friends and family. My
best friend even moved in for five days. My parents
wanted me back home with them, but I wasn't ready
to leave. Mark is a bit messy and I'm manic,
so it felt weird having everything perfectly neat. I missed
his messiness. It was as if he was the one
making our house a home. He used to joke about
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me wanting the house to look like it was on
sale or in a catalog. Not waking up to make breakfast,
not seeing him read lying on the sofa while I studied,
felt weird. Not buying his favorite snack or protein powders
when doing groceries felt weird. Just get Jack to the gym,
be your own protein powder, start buying your own protein.
Speaker 1 (08:36):
I felt really lost at first. It was like grieving.
Speaker 3 (08:40):
Usually when people break up the relationship was going south,
but to me, it came out of nowhere.
Speaker 1 (08:45):
I still loved him.
Speaker 3 (08:47):
I was still planning the wedding and working on my
side to build our future together.
Speaker 1 (08:51):
It was all gone in a day.
Speaker 3 (08:54):
I wished I had been smarter and refused that he
meet the one that got away.
Speaker 1 (08:59):
But again, I'm I mean, you can't.
Speaker 3 (09:02):
Say no that would have messed up another area, you know,
that would have hurt your relationship as well.
Speaker 4 (09:09):
I think that there there can be like a conversation
and if you do come to the decision, it's like, well, no,
I don't want you to reconnect with your ex that
you broke up with only because the distance was getting
in between you guys we're about to get married. It's
like she doesn't seem appropriate. If you can have that
conversation and it's like productive, like yeah, sure, but if
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it's like you say that and then he's like, well, no,
I really do want to meet this person. Now you're
kind of at a crossroads exactly. You either have to
be like okay with it and have the trust or
like be like, well that's my deal breaker.
Speaker 3 (09:44):
His family was dumbfounded. I still went to see his
grandma and she told me he was a fool, that
he would come crawling back to me.
Speaker 1 (09:51):
She was the first person who managed to make me laugh.
Nice his mom, My mom.
Speaker 3 (09:56):
And I started making calls to cancel all reservations. Luck
the store accepted to take back the dress. We didn't
pay much for the location as we canceled early. Next
was to inform the guests. He had been gone for
about three weeks. Then his family was furious with him,
so they didn't contact him much. The only contact I
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had with him was the sign check he made to
cover the wedding cancelation. However, about a week ago, I
received a.
Speaker 1 (10:23):
Letter from him.
Speaker 3 (10:24):
He apologized for leaving me like this, said he made
the biggest mistake of his life, that he couldn't believe
what he had done. That he was writing me this
letter because he didn't have the courage to face me.
Speaker 1 (10:35):
You were right.
Speaker 3 (10:36):
I was running after a perfect relationship that had never existed.
I regretted so much. I thought I was in love
with her, but in reality, I was in love with
what she represented my younger self with no responsibility and
only dreams. I had cold feet and got afraid of
moving forward into this new segment of my life. I
couldn't stop thinking about you when I was with her.
Speaker 2 (10:58):
She's not you.
Speaker 1 (10:59):
She doesn't know me or love me like you. She
doesn't smell like you.
Speaker 2 (11:03):
Ah, this dude just figured out other people exist.
Speaker 3 (11:06):
I missed hearing you sing randomly throughout the day. I
missed having someone nagging me to pick up my stuff.
Speaker 1 (11:13):
I miss planning Halloween parties for the kids with you.
Speaker 3 (11:17):
At the time I'm writing this letter, we would probably
have been decoration shopping had I not been a fool.
Everyone told me. But I was a blind fool. I
would do anything to go back into the past and
slap some sense into myself. I would do anything for
you to forgive me. I know we had already started
canceling everything, but I'm ready.
Speaker 1 (11:39):
To pay for everything myself.
Speaker 3 (11:41):
You can date someone else to even scores if you want.
Speaker 4 (11:46):
H as long as you come back to me.
Speaker 1 (11:51):
This is embarrassing.
Speaker 2 (11:53):
What was that line about the deepest pathetic yep.
Speaker 3 (11:56):
That's this time this man lug underneath the pit and
found out that there's even more patheticness that you can
that you can fall into.
Speaker 4 (12:08):
It's like, you know, how have you seen those memes
of like someone writing something it's just like on fire
because it's so good. This is the opposite where it's
so pathetic as he's writing it. It's just making like
womp like sound effects as he's writing it. That is crazy.
You don't it's so desperate and so again just selfish.
Just mee mee. I realized that I did this. I
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did that I.
Speaker 3 (12:33):
Would write the whole letter, but I'm on my iPad
and it's tiring. I just gave the important parts. He
kept on with apologies and begging me to forgive him.
Speaker 1 (12:43):
Now.
Speaker 3 (12:43):
I told my family left friends out for the moment,
and his mom and grandma. Grandma had a very satisfying
told her to show a moment. However, she's rooting for
me to forgive him. His mom was supposed to send
a formal letter to guests to tell them the wedding
was off, but is now waiting for my answer.
Speaker 1 (13:00):
I don't know what to do.
Speaker 3 (13:01):
I love him with all my heart, but what he
did to me, I don't know if I can get
over it. He made me feel worthless. He threw me
away as if I was no one to him. After
three years, he gave up on us for some ghost
from his past when we were at our happiest. If
he can leave me when we're doing good, how will
we sustain a marriage?
Speaker 4 (13:19):
Boom?
Speaker 3 (13:20):
Will he leave the moment things get hard? He hurt
me so badly and expects me to forgive him. He
wants us to meet on Sunday, but I'm not sure
I'm willing to. I need some perspective, what would you
do in my situation and there is an update, but
what would you do?
Speaker 2 (13:37):
I'd probably go on Sunday.
Speaker 4 (13:40):
I would absolutely go, and I would just sense sense
it out, sort of feel out what's.
Speaker 2 (13:47):
Going on with him.
Speaker 4 (13:49):
I don't think there's a universe where I'm getting back
together with him anytime soon.
Speaker 1 (13:56):
No, definitely not getting married to him.
Speaker 4 (13:59):
Like, if there is, it's like, it's gonna take a
lot of work and you're gonna have to rebuild that trust.
But it's so fundamentally broken. Oh yeah, that I don't
know if I'd be able to trust anything that he says.
Where he's like, oh, yeah, I would never do that again,
and I'll never It's like, yeah, but I think you
could do it this time exactly. I didn't think you
were capable of doing that ever in the first place. Yeah,
So it's probably just it's gone over the cliff at
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this point.
Speaker 3 (14:23):
Absolutely, No, I don't. I do think that you should
go Sunday because I think that you deserve an explanation
from him in person, Yeah, where he defends what you
know or not defends his actions, but explains his actions.
H And at the end of that, I don't think that.
I don't think this relationship can work out.
Speaker 4 (14:44):
Yeah, No, I think you should definitely go to Sunday.
I think that, And I think that they already feel
this way. It's like this is not happening again. But
just see what kind of weasily wormy little things he
has to try to say to wiggle his way out
of this. Yeah, and then just be like, hey, not happening, goodbye.
Speaker 2 (15:03):
Yeah, don't talk to me.
Speaker 3 (15:05):
And also just like know his mom and his grandma,
while they may love you, while they may you know,
I think that you're great, ultimately they're probably more on
his side because they're related.
Speaker 4 (15:18):
So people just root for like a situation.
Speaker 3 (15:21):
Yeah, And but I'm not even saying like they don't
have yours, you know, like they don't like you or
they're I don't know, just like working against you. At
the end of the day, they probably have his interests
in mind over yours. So like the grandma was saying, oh,
I want you get to get back together. She loves
her grandson, so he was like, no, that's probably not
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your best interest. But there is an update. I didn't
plan on updating, or at least not so soon, but
I have another problem boy. So Mark wanted to meet
on Sunday, but I unblocked him from my phone and
told him I didn't want to meet oh, and to
please not contact me anymore.
Speaker 1 (16:06):
He answered, please, baby, I need to talk to you.
Can we meet another day.
Speaker 3 (16:11):
I know I'd up real bad and hurt you deeply,
but I'll do anything to make it up to you.
Speaker 1 (16:17):
Anything you ask, I'll do it.
Speaker 3 (16:19):
Needless to say, it just angered me more. How dare
he use terms of endearment with me? I just blocked
him again. After that, I met his mom on Saturday
and told her to proceed with the notification of cancelation.
We had an emotional moment, and she told me even
though she would have really wanted us to stay one
big family, she would have done the same in my place.
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She had hoped I would find the strength to forgive him,
but she understands, and so the wedding is indeed still
being canceled. My poor brother, I told him personally, had
already bought his plane tickets from Australia but got a refund.
Speaker 1 (16:55):
Well, maybe you guys coulda hung out.
Speaker 2 (17:00):
Well, yeah, you should have just chilled out, I.
Speaker 3 (17:01):
Goes, I rearranged all the furniture in the house and
bought new betting sets to make a new start, and
moved to the spare room for good. It looks really
different and I like it. Apparently he told our friends,
because some brought it up to me asking if we
were getting back together, but said they didn't want to side.
On Sunday evening, I had a visitor. I never have
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people coming this late usually. It was around nine pm.
When I went to look through the people, I saw.
Speaker 4 (17:28):
Mark with his X ew so so he again he
flip flopped. This guy. You got bring this guy to
the beach because he's just a pair of flip flops.
Speaker 3 (17:39):
My maybe, Icee, your conspiracy is that he's bringing the
X to be like, oh no, no, no, like I
am in love with you, see, like we're not getting
back together, you know, no, I doubt it, dude. This
guy's this is my swaps He's yeah. I seriously had
a moment of panic. He mustill have the key for
the main entry, since he managed to get to my
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door without using the intercom. I don't know if it
was a cowardly thing to do, but I just chose
not to open it. I know they knew I was there,
and I heard him ask me to please let him
in that he just wanted to talk through the door. Honestly,
even though I feel better, I don't think I'm emotionally
stable enough to deal with him, and especially him with
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his ex. They stayed about fifteen minutes and then they left.
I thought he would get the message, but they came
again yesterday around the same time, and I didn't open again.
They waited even longer. I know I'm not being an adult,
so now I don't know what to do. I feel
nervous in my own house because I dread the moment
they'll come back. He knows my schedule and he came
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at the time where I usually come back from my
Zumba class. However, yesterday was a holiday, so we didn't
have class. I'm afraid he will come again, and I
don't think I can face him. What should I do.
I know I can't run away forever, but I need
more time, and you will always have more your time
with us. To listen to full episodes with stories just
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like this, just go to Spotify, Apple.
Speaker 1 (19:05):
Podcasts, or iHeartRadio and search of Bookey story Time.
Speaker 2 (19:08):
You're gonna need more time.
Speaker 4 (19:09):
Yeah, there's almost hours worth of content to listen to,
so indubitably in dubiously.
Speaker 1 (19:21):
Well, I'm not dubious about it.
Speaker 2 (19:23):
I think it's a dubious amount of.
Speaker 3 (19:25):
Yeah, it's like, wow, there's no way they could possibly
have all of that.
Speaker 4 (19:30):
What would indubiously mean? Is that the opposite of dubious dubious?
Speaker 1 (19:36):
There, so maybe there is no doubt or.
Speaker 4 (19:37):
That would that be undubious? Anyway, this conversation is dubious.
Speaker 2 (19:42):
Let's what.
Speaker 4 (19:44):
I mean. Like, I don't think you have to wait
for anything, Like you need to be like mech bullhorn,
like megaphone.
Speaker 2 (19:51):
You are not getting back with me.
Speaker 1 (19:54):
It's over gone from me.
Speaker 3 (19:57):
So unfortunately, I don't think that you could call the
police on him, but I do think that you could
text him or call him up and say, hey, I
don't want to talk to you and your girlfriend or
your ex or whatever, leave me alone.
Speaker 2 (20:09):
Yeah, or just did you put a note on the door.
Speaker 4 (20:11):
I really think he should call his grandma and have
her be the one that tells him, like, hey, leave
her alone.
Speaker 2 (20:17):
You mess him up?
Speaker 4 (20:19):
Yeah, because I think Grammy is like Granny will be
able to digest It's like, dude, you messed up, and
we all told you you were being an idiot, and
then you did it and now you have to live
with your idiot decisions.
Speaker 1 (20:31):
Literally, But there's a little bit left.
Speaker 3 (20:36):
Is this worth calling the police over? I fear it
would make the problem bigger than it is and hurt
our family relations.
Speaker 1 (20:43):
Our moms are really close, and really he's not dangerous.
Speaker 3 (20:46):
I think he hasn't contacted me enough for it to
be considered intimidation anyway. Should I just be a big
girl and open the next time he or they come,
or do I.
Speaker 1 (20:56):
Wait it out? Also, why the heck is he bringing art?
Speaker 3 (21:00):
I'm curious, but I want to stand by my decision
and that is the end of the story for now.
Speaker 4 (21:07):
I mean, yeah, this is if you have like a
two door setup where it's like you have the inner
door and the outer door.
Speaker 2 (21:14):
Yeah, just to open the door and be like, I
am done, go away. You can have him or not.
I don't care. Leave me alone.
Speaker 4 (21:24):
You come back again, I'm gonna start figuring out how
to get you charged for harassment. Yeah all right, Yeah,
And then it's like, oh, the family, the family dynamic
is getting messed up because of this guy. Desperately coming
around trying to convince you to take him back. Yeah,
that's not you, it's him. He's cause on his own trouble.
Speaker 2 (21:43):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (21:44):
Ah man, Yeah no, I think that you can.
Speaker 3 (21:47):
I think to a certain extent, you might have to
face him a little bit just to tell him to
stop coming and bothering you. But yeah, yeah, it seems
like you're pretty set on not taking him back, which
is good.
Speaker 2 (22:00):
Yeah, and you should.
Speaker 4 (22:01):
It should be just a quick thing, open the door, crack,
go away. No, not talking to you today or tomorrow
or next week.
Speaker 2 (22:07):
Do leave me alone.
Speaker 1 (22:09):
Yep, exactly. But that is the end of that story,
so we're gonna jump into the next one.
Speaker 4 (22:15):
Indeed, my boyfriend is way too close to another model.
She's his phone wallpaper. Oohoo, that is maybe his girlfriend. Yeah,
well are you at least maybe the lock screen?
Speaker 3 (22:30):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (22:30):
Are you also a model?
Speaker 2 (22:32):
I think so. Uh, let's find out.
Speaker 4 (22:37):
So my boyfeet is a fashion photographer, meaning he works
alongside many beautiful women in his profession, stylists, hair and
makeup artists, and of course models.
Speaker 2 (22:49):
This is actually how we met.
Speaker 4 (22:51):
By the way, this comes from user ex girl on
the phone and if you want to submit your own stories.
Go to the r slash Okay storytime subreddit. So I
modeled my way through college and he photographed me after
like one of his French girls, after which we became
friends and eventually started dating. We have been together now
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for almost three years. I've since stopped modeling, but he
is still a photographer. Never once in our relationship has
he given me any reason to question his fidelity. With
the exception of me, he has never dated or even
befriended any of the models he has photographed. That is,
until Rachel came into the picture. Who's Rachel a model?
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Of course, I've met Rachel. She seems like a fun chick,
the type of girl who draws a lot of positive
attention just by entering a room. She's beautiful, but her
personality really shines through. She makes you feel like you're
her best friend when you're talking to her. A very
cool person through and through.
Speaker 1 (23:56):
Nice.
Speaker 4 (23:57):
That being said, I'm not the only one who feels
this way. My boyfriend also adores Rachel. The first time
he photographed her, he stayed late at the studio and
discussed ideas for their next shoot for nearly three hours. OOO.
Speaker 1 (24:13):
Nothing nothing, explicitly wrong.
Speaker 4 (24:16):
Yet it's a pretty productive professional relationship.
Speaker 2 (24:20):
I would hope.
Speaker 4 (24:21):
Yeah, three hours. I hope it stayed pretty on topic.
Hmm hmmm. He was actually late for a night out
with me because of Ito, but okay, He's always had
terrible time management, so I didn't think anything of it.
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The lateness has now become a steady recurring factor. When
they have shoots together. They hang out long after the
stylists and makeup artists leave the studio.
Speaker 2 (24:52):
They also text.
Speaker 4 (24:53):
A lot, and he's always smiling to himself and laughing
when he reads the messages she sends him. Ro rout
Row is right right Row. At first he would show
them to me and try to include me in on
all the fun without me asking, but he abruptly stopped
doing that around two weeks ago. He tilts his phone
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away from me now when Rachel messages him.
Speaker 1 (25:20):
Not great, so not great.
Speaker 4 (25:23):
I see two reasons that that could possibly happen.
Speaker 1 (25:26):
Right.
Speaker 2 (25:26):
One is clearly because it's like.
Speaker 4 (25:28):
He's into Rachel and they're texting flirtitiously, stitiously. The other
reason might be because he saw how negative you would
react to the messages he was showing you, and now
he's like, well, I just want to make it. I
won't bring that up around the more likely one definitely
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option one. Yeah, right, yeah, you don't tilt the phone
and hide your phone unless you got something to hide,
something to be ashamed about.
Speaker 1 (25:56):
Right.
Speaker 3 (25:56):
So Also there's like a difference between show like for
your second option, there's a difference between showing all of
the texts and not showing them and then also like
tilting the fun way, you know, like he could have
just been like, oh she doesn't like when I show
her all these texts, I'm just not going to show it.
Speaker 1 (26:16):
But now he's like actively hiding them.
Speaker 3 (26:18):
Yeah, it's like, oh suspicious, Oh.
Speaker 4 (26:22):
Yeah, but oh and she's like, what are you? Don't
worry about it, don't.
Speaker 1 (26:28):
He's like, I'm not touching anyone.
Speaker 3 (26:29):
I could see in your your sunglasses that you're texting Rachel.
Speaker 4 (26:32):
It looks like that, but it's clashed the clans. Babe,
back to the story. I'm not the jealous type, but
if my boyfriend had a history of doing this with
other models, i'd let it slot. The fact that he
is only like this with Rachel and I guess me
makes me wary of what might have transpired between them.
Speaker 3 (26:52):
Oh, I was just gonna say, you should also take
into consideration how he treated you in the lead up
to your relationship. Are there any like similarities? Because if
you guys said that, you know, you started photographing you,
you became friends, and then you started dating. So are
you seeing a similar timeline in how your boyfriend and
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Rachel intercut?
Speaker 4 (27:13):
What is the OPE and Rachel boyfriend interaction venn diagram?
Speaker 1 (27:19):
What I like right now?
Speaker 2 (27:20):
Yep?
Speaker 4 (27:21):
How much crossover do we have? Rachel herself has stopped
talking to me. We used to communicate and have an
easy casual friendship the Instagram and Snapchat, but she pretty
much ignores me.
Speaker 2 (27:33):
Now is it guilty conscience? I don't know.
Speaker 4 (27:36):
The real cherry on top is my boyfriend now has
a photo of Rachel as the wallpaper on his phone.
He's apparently proud of the concept and the editing and
claims it has nothing to do with Rachel herself.
Speaker 2 (27:51):
Which is totally believable, but doesn't sit right with me now.
What it is believable in a way.
Speaker 4 (27:59):
I know for potographers who have pictures of people, pictures
they've taken.
Speaker 2 (28:06):
In this context.
Speaker 1 (28:08):
There on their homes.
Speaker 2 (28:10):
Well, yeah.
Speaker 4 (28:10):
Well, it's like you know people who take like headshot
photos and they're like, this is like the best, Like
I just the best one I've taken. Are they just
like you know people? But no, it's well, like Riley
has this for Angie. It's like he has a bunch
of no, no, no, I'm just listening. It's a bunch
of different pictures of Angie.
Speaker 1 (28:27):
See.
Speaker 4 (28:27):
So it's like, yes, I've seen photographers who like have
a bunch of different pictures where they're like, these are
my best my best work. However, given the context of
the story, it is very unbelievable. Yeah, that it's just
happens to be Rachel. No, the girl you're low key
obsessed with, No, not even low key yeah key obsessed with.
Speaker 3 (28:52):
He's pulling on me in college. It's like everything's just
a little bit in love with Rachel.
Speaker 4 (28:57):
I told him that the Rachel photo wasn't sitting with me,
and he told me I was being irrational. Rachel is single,
by the way, She and her boyfriend broke up around
three weeks ago.
Speaker 1 (29:09):
Which is when he started texting her and not showing
you the texts.
Speaker 4 (29:14):
So you be the judge of that. Yeah, I think
we all can judge exactly what's going on here.
Speaker 1 (29:19):
The timeline ain't at it up.
Speaker 2 (29:21):
The logical jump is very very small.
Speaker 3 (29:25):
It's very small. It's less of a jump in more
of a hop.
Speaker 4 (29:29):
I really don't want to fall into the jealous girlfriend trope,
but what else am I to think? I don't want
to make crazy demands and accuse my boyfriend of cheating
on me, even emotionally. But he really does seem to
be fond of this girl in a way that really
hurts me. He has other female friends and he doesn't
act that way with them.
Speaker 1 (29:47):
So she's not in love with them exactly.
Speaker 2 (29:50):
We all know what's I think, we know, we all know.
Speaker 1 (29:53):
All we all know what's happening here.
Speaker 4 (29:56):
He's capable of being friendly with a girl without flirting
or actings bitious, but with Rachel, it's different. He has
slowly become very attached to her, and I feel like
I'm losing him. I have expressed this to him a
couple of times, but he always tells me I have
nothing to worry about and that he and Rachel are
just kindred. When it comes to photography, the long nights
(30:17):
and constant texting and phone wall paper mean nothing. Oh,
by the way, she's practically unclothed in the photo and
it wasn't taken for any sort of publication, just for fun.
Am I being irrational? Unreasonable? How would you feel in
this situation? And what would you do? And there's a
mini update. Oh, he and I are meeting for lunch
(30:39):
in an hour. Extra mini update, he confessed.
Speaker 1 (30:42):
Oh, there's the thing that none of us.
Speaker 2 (30:44):
We surprised by. Eh, I'm actually kind of surprised you confessed.
Speaker 4 (30:50):
It was reading to me like a guy who just
was desperate to get her to break up with him,
Like we've read stories like that.
Speaker 2 (30:56):
I just don't no.
Speaker 1 (30:58):
Surprisingly, he had the wherewithal to tell her.
Speaker 4 (31:02):
I guess hey, it all came. He couldn't keep the
facade up any longer. Let's get into the update. We
all know exactly what's happening. Let's get into it. I'd
like to address a few things. My boyfriend, my ex boyfriend,
has never taken a noodle or even partially noodle photo
(31:23):
of me. Although I modeled in high school and university,
my primary focus has always been stage acting.
Speaker 2 (31:31):
He took my head shots. That's how we met.
Speaker 4 (31:35):
Not that it really changes anything, but It's just a
bit of insight. When we were younger, and when that
relationship was new, I would accompany him to his shoots
all the time. But my own career is very time
consuming nowadays. I know of multiple model photographer relationships where
they accompany each other to every shoot, and I don't
have anything against doing that, but I personally would rather
(31:55):
just trust that my partner is on their best behavior. Obviously,
what happened here kind of squashes that, but I do
stand by it. If I have to be there in
order to make sure my partner's faithful, chances are they'll
find other ways to cheat big time.
Speaker 1 (32:10):
Agree.
Speaker 2 (32:11):
Yes, they're just gonna get sneakier exactly.
Speaker 3 (32:15):
There's no I mean, it's it's not healthy or helpful
to try. And you know, make your relationship into like
a backpack kid, you know, right, like that kid. That
kid's gonna escape if he wants to.
Speaker 2 (32:29):
A backpack kid. Yeah, you know, in what way.
Speaker 1 (32:33):
Like if you keep a leash on your partner.
Speaker 4 (32:36):
Oh okay, yeah, I thought I was just thinking of
the guys who used to run through the hallways with
like their arms out.
Speaker 1 (32:43):
Oh no, sorry, different time of backy kid.
Speaker 3 (32:45):
I'm talking about like a leash That was the incorrect term.
Speaker 1 (32:49):
I was like leash child.
Speaker 4 (32:52):
Anyway, I'm flattered by the offers, but no, I will
not be meeting anyone for drinks anywhere. Sorry for the
blunt is just yeah, now here comes the good stuff,
or I guess the bad stuff. I met him for
lunch Friday afternoon. We went to our favorite sushi joint
overlooking the ocean, and I ordered more than I could handle,
(33:15):
stuff in my face while trying to decide how to
broach the topic of Rachel, but most importantly, our relationship.
I went into a meeting with a righteous butt kicking
speech prepared, but I forgot every word of it almost
immediately after we sat down. I guess you could tell
there was something on my mind, because he asked me
(33:35):
if I was all right.
Speaker 1 (33:36):
Dude, what do you what? I thought?
Speaker 4 (33:39):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (33:39):
Wait, is this maybe before the confession? Do we think?
Speaker 2 (33:44):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (33:44):
I think this is potentially pre confession?
Speaker 2 (33:46):
Is pre confessed?
Speaker 4 (33:47):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (33:47):
Yeah, okay, okay, I'm ready now.
Speaker 4 (33:49):
So he asked me if I was all right if
he had done anything to upset me. Snort, Yes, Ian,
you've upset me very much.
Speaker 2 (33:56):
Actually know Ian. As soon as I gathered the confidence
to look him in the eyes.
Speaker 4 (34:02):
I point blank asked him, what's going on between you
and Rachel. His mouth flew open, as if he were
completely and utterly taken aback by the implication.
Speaker 1 (34:15):
Rachel he's like me and Rachel. And he's like, yeah, he's.
Speaker 3 (34:20):
Like me, me love with Rachel, Me, me, me staring
into Rachel's beautiful eyes.
Speaker 1 (34:30):
Me wanting to have three kids with Rachel. He's like,
I didn't, I didn't say that, me wanting to marry Rachel.
Speaker 4 (34:39):
I think you said all you need to say, Ian God,
when I would love if.
Speaker 2 (34:46):
So.
Speaker 4 (34:47):
His mouth flew open as if he were completely and
utterly taken aback by the implication. But I cut him
off with do not bs me, you goof. I tried
my best not to let anger get the best of me.
I really did. I wanted to stay cool, calm, and collected,
like so many women on this sub you know the
ones those intense stories of cheating husbands where the wife
(35:09):
takes to our relationships, garners a ton of support and
then updates us later with a well constructed storybook post
detailing the evidence she has collected against him and the
meeting that she had with her uncle or sibling who
just so happens to be a divorce lawyer. Yeah, I'm
not a legend like that. I wish I were, but
I'm honestly just in over the emotional doormat. And I
knew going into this meeting that I was either going
(35:30):
to cry or gouge his eyes out with my mind
because I had somewhere to be later, I took a
hard left and got super super angry. He could see
it in me, the anger bubbling over. The people in
the restaurant were starting to stare at us too. In
order to save face, I threw money on the table
with a tip and told him to meet me in
the parking lot. If I had me blade on me,
(35:53):
I can't say for certain I wouldn't have channeled my
inner jet.
Speaker 2 (35:57):
And beat his shark butt to the pavement.
Speaker 1 (36:00):
Okay, a little West Side story.
Speaker 2 (36:01):
Kidding, a hey, kidding, totally kidding. No one's getting yeah, yeah, yeah,
no one's getting.
Speaker 1 (36:08):
Okay.
Speaker 4 (36:10):
We met inside my car. He climbed in after me,
his head down as though he were ashamed or I
don't know, gaudy. I asked him how, and he explained
everything to me. No preamble whatsoever. The moment he met Rachel,
he felt some type of way towards no way. And
this whole time he's been to you, the girl.
Speaker 2 (36:34):
You don't have to worry about it.
Speaker 1 (36:35):
He's like, no, no, you don't understand. It's totally put
on it. I wonder if that's why her boyfriend broke
up with.
Speaker 4 (36:41):
Her, because of the thing that she's got going over
the inn. Hmmm, well, birds of a feather flocked together.
He couldn't tell whether it was just a silly crush
or something more, but he knew she felt it too.
Speaker 1 (36:55):
Oh my god, it's so cute. Bars how cult.
Speaker 4 (37:03):
They kissed the first night they met.
Speaker 1 (37:06):
Oh, he cheated on you? Wow, Okay, and then lie
to you about it. Cheat their cheat, their pumpkiny the
whole time.
Speaker 2 (37:13):
Okay, the night he nearly stood me up.
Speaker 4 (37:18):
That that same night they had crazy, emotional, forbidden, spicy sleep.
Speaker 2 (37:23):
The night she and.
Speaker 4 (37:24):
Her boyfriend called it quits, and they've been effin ever since.
Speaker 1 (37:28):
Wow.
Speaker 4 (37:29):
He mentioned that he always used a Wiener wrapper with her,
but I don't care. I'm getting tested.
Speaker 1 (37:35):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (37:36):
Oh, and because so many people asked in the original post,
I figure I should mention Rachel was the one who
was broken up with in her previous relationship. I don't
know why or how. I didn't ask, and I don't
care to know. Funnily enough, Ian said he doesn't want
to be with Rachel. He wants to be with me.
Speaker 1 (37:55):
Oh, that's funny because you should have realized that, you know,
before you cheated on Opie.
Speaker 2 (37:59):
That's crazy because you've been with Rachel this whole time.
Speaker 3 (38:03):
It's funny because you like you were with op you know,
You're like, you don't understand.
Speaker 2 (38:07):
I had to be with her.
Speaker 3 (38:08):
To realize that I wanted to be with you. Yeah,
And I also couldn't tell either. You know, I couldn't
tell you about that is that it I couldn't be
with you both at the same time.
Speaker 1 (38:18):
Right.
Speaker 5 (38:20):
It's a delicate game, you know what. It's basically the
Game of Thrones. I've been playing, hmm, which is a
really cool thing. You should watch it, and you should
then you'll understand watch Game of Thrones.
Speaker 4 (38:34):
He said he doesn't want to be with Rachel, he
wants to be with me, and he even provided text
messages to show that he's the one who decided not
to pursue anything with her on official grounds, except you
already did herfoon, you already did this with her.
Speaker 1 (38:51):
I'm sorry. I'm sorry.
Speaker 3 (38:55):
To pursue anything on official brown rob instead of asking
for a loan, Yeah, you.
Speaker 4 (39:03):
Rob the bank, you go back to the bank, you go,
I'm not gonna rob you guys again.
Speaker 2 (39:07):
Yeah, promise No, I'm gonna rob you guys. And also,
can I get a loan?
Speaker 4 (39:12):
Thanks, I've got a lot of assets now back and
leverage against it.
Speaker 1 (39:16):
Can I put my money like those are the assets
you stole from us?
Speaker 4 (39:20):
And you go, well, I'm not doing that anymore, guys
while we talk in circles. But I told him I
give zero f's about what he wants, and unless he
can go without his eyes, he should get the f
out of my car and erase me from his mind
before I erase him, I literally said that.
Speaker 1 (39:37):
Girl, yes, yes, please, okay.
Speaker 4 (39:42):
In any case, I went home later that day, posted
an update for you guys on the original and had
a couple of drinky poos. My friends and family, and
most of Ian's friends and family have rallied around me
in support. I guess he told his mother we broke
up and how it happened because she called me this
morning and said she's disgusted with her son and that
(40:02):
if I need anything at all, she's always there for me.
Speaker 2 (40:05):
For real, you.
Speaker 4 (40:05):
Guys, I'm going to miss his family. They are good people,
the best people. This is my first real adult breakup,
by the way, the type of breakup where you're required
not only to break up with your partner but with
their family and friends as well. These people you've spent
so much time getting to know and growing to love
are suddenly not in your life anymore. And it's kind
of daunting, really daunting and sad and infuriating all at
(40:29):
the same time.
Speaker 2 (40:29):
So that's the conclusion to this story. That's what happened.
Thank you again to everyone.
Speaker 4 (40:35):
And by the way, you'll be thanking yourself if you
go listen to full episodes with stories like this on Spotify, iHeartRadio,
Apple podcasts wherever you listen to podcasts. Just search Okay,
story time and you've got almost thirteen hundred hours where
the story's tell many hours, which is a lot of hours,
don't know if you're aware of that. It's plenty, plenty hours.
Speaker 2 (40:58):
So we've got a little bit more story lift.
Speaker 1 (41:01):
Yeah, you're gonna be.
Speaker 2 (41:03):
Better in the long run.
Speaker 4 (41:05):
It's hard, you know, it is hard, even a relationship
where everything's become so intertwined. It's not easy.
Speaker 3 (41:13):
No, never, But I mean, this man cheated on you
and lied to you and only fest up when you
had to confront him about it after multiple times of
being like, Hey, I don't like this is not making
me comfortable.
Speaker 1 (41:28):
I don't like how close you guys are. Yeah, so
he is not the one for you at all.
Speaker 3 (41:34):
And also I'm pissed at Rachel because it's I mean,
he said that Rachel and her were kind of friends
at the beginning of the story.
Speaker 2 (41:41):
Yeah, they were like, oh we get along. Yeah, another
model friend of mine.
Speaker 1 (41:45):
Yeah, but from the beginning, Rachel's been you know, hook his.
Speaker 4 (41:49):
Kissed your man immediately night one. Dang, But there's a
little bit more note do the person who said violence
is never the answer and I should have never threatened
my ex, you're right, You're absolutely right. But if you're
ever in a situation where you're lying, cheating ex refuses
to leave your car the first dozen times you ask,
(42:10):
I dare you not to lose your crap and say
things you don't mean just so he gets the f
out and doesn't see you cry.
Speaker 2 (42:17):
Microscopic update.
Speaker 4 (42:19):
So far, his mother, his teenaged step brother, and two
male friends of his have reached out to me saying
how disgusted and shamed and embarrassed they are on his behalf,
on top of three mutual friends. It hasn't even been
two days yet, guys, and that is the end of
that story. Yeah, I think given the context of the situation,
(42:40):
a lot of those friends and family will be more
apt to take your side than his.
Speaker 1 (42:46):
Absolutely, he cheated on you.
Speaker 4 (42:49):
Yeah, so I wouldn't be too worried about like losing
your connections because really he's gonna probably lose them more
than you.
Speaker 1 (42:57):
Absolutely.
Speaker 3 (42:57):
And also it seems like the one good thing he's
done is tell the truth to his friends and family.
Speaker 4 (43:03):
At least, yeah, at least he fessed up there.
Speaker 1 (43:07):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (43:07):
I just can't imagine doing such a bold face lie.
We're just right out of the gate. Really, it's like
she's your phone wallpaper, and you're like, yeah, no, it's
just I like that shot.
Speaker 3 (43:18):
Just he' latly obvious that you're in love with this
girl and cheating with her, and then just continue to
lie like not even like he didn't try to hide
it at all.
Speaker 4 (43:28):
I don't even give him in love, dude, he's just
just infatuated.
Speaker 2 (43:31):
Yeah, I wouldn't even give him that.
Speaker 3 (43:35):
But that is the end of that episode. So if
you love us, make sure to subscribe.
Speaker 2 (43:39):
We love you and see you tomorrow.
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