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My fiance's entire family treated us poorly, so we cut
them all off. Do it? And this is directly from
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The last few years have been a struggle financially, so
I needed every penny I had. I mean, we just
appreciate that you watch us anyway. I love you guys,
and I would appreciate some helpful guidance on this situation.
This is a very long story, so bear with me.
I twenty six female, am writing this on behalf of
my fiance twenty five mail as he is now second
guessing his decision and would like some outside perspective. By

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characters Uncle, fiance's uncle thirty eight male Steven, uncle's kid,
fiance's cousin fifteen male aunt, fiance's aunt forty five and
female Brian aunt's kid. Fiance's cousin well male Lauren aunts kids,

(01:27):
fiance's cousin seven female mother in law fiance's mom forty
one female Henry. Oh gosh, mom's kid. Fiance's half brother
eight male Sam, mom's kid, fiance's half brother three male,
Oh p me twenty six female, Oh There's more, Oh
my God. Yachtce twenty five male Bibi op and fiance's
child four male only three weeks older than Sam and

(01:48):
mother in law's grandson. First, a bit of backstory of
the day before the incident, New Year's Eve. We had
our own plans for New Year's Eve. Just stay at home,
enjoy each other's company and obviously have bibe their kid
in the house. Uncle was up from down south. He
lives near London, for the New Year. This is the
first year he's ever been up for New Year. He
came up with his son, Stephen, fiance's cousin. We had

(02:09):
gone to mother in law's house earlier in the day
as her Christmas present had finally arrived and we wanted
to see uncle. We gave the present to mother in law,
some photo frames and heart shape magnets with Bibe, mother
in law, and sam Bebe's uncle, which she didn't seem
to really care about so much for her always saying
she likes sentimental stuff. Then some other friends of the

(02:31):
family turned up at mother in law's house and she
basically proceeded to forget that we were there at all
or bebe her grandson. So we left because we felt
like we were getting the way. Later on in the
day aunt of fiance's aunt started messaging Fiance asking what
he was doing that night. Fiance obviously said nothing really,

(02:52):
just staying at home with op and Beebee then asked
him to come down for drinks at mother in law's
house or the night. Fiance said no, as he's betting
it with me and we have baby in the house.
Aunt then told fiance that uncle's up. Fiance said, p knows,
we've already seen him and he's not leaving me. He
did tell Aunt that Uncle could come to our house

(03:12):
for a few drinks if he wants, though. Aunt then said,
and I quote, you're spending it with family. Nice to
know I'm not considered part of the family, even though
I've been with fiance for eight and a half years
at this point, and we even have a child together.
But that clearly means nothing. Anyway, Fiance said no again
and left it at that. Then we went to the

(03:33):
high Street where they were doing a New Year's parade.
The parade usually lasts about one hour. Aunt and uncle
arranged to meet each other and the rest of fiance's family,
but didn't ask to meet us. We just happened to
run into them as they left mother in law's house,
so we all went to the parade together. Baby was
obsessed with Sam and wanted to stay with him, so
we all walked together with the parade. It's at this

(03:56):
point that I should mention that Uncle is a heavy drinker,
a high functioning one, always has a drink in his
hand day or night, but still walks and behaves as normal.
Aunt is also a heavy drinker. And cannot handle her
drink at all, becomes very irresponsible and usually looks for
a fight. So we're walking at the back of the
parade and at some point, Aunt, who was in charge

(04:18):
of Sam and Henry as mother in law was at work,
dumped Sam on me and fiance and said she'd be
back in ten minutes. She was running to the shop. Shocker.
We didn't see her again until an hour later. End
of the parade. Uncle kept walking with us, periodically drinking
and if you haven't watched Terry Potter and you've seen

(04:39):
Hermione's bag that can hold everything, that was what a
jacket was like, but with beer. The parade finished and
we all headed back to mother in law's house. As
beat Sam so no choice. We were then stood outside
until Aunt turned up from wherever she had been, as
she was the only one with the key. We all
went in. The kids went and played in the living room,
and me, fiance, uncle, and Aunt went into the kitchen.

(05:00):
For the record, the kids in this house at that
point are Baby four, male op and fiance's kid, Sam
three male mother in law's kids, fiance's half brother, Henry eight,
male mother in law's kid, fiance's half brother, Brian, twelve,
male aunt's kid, fiance's cousin Steven fifteen male uncles kids
fiance's cousin. Aunt starts asking us to stay for drinks
since we didn't have any plans. Obviously, we said no

(05:23):
because we still have baby. Then Aunt tells us it's fine,
She's spoken to mother law and said it'd be fine
if baby stay the night. Then once the boys were settled,
we'd all go to the pub for one drink. Uncle
was also agreeing with her. I said, uh, but what
about the kids. They're asked to be an adulton house.
They aunt and uncle said it would only be one
drink and Steven, the fifteen year old, could take care

(05:45):
of all of them. Take care of a four year old,
a three year old, an eight year old.

Speaker 4 (05:50):
And a twelve year old. Oh my gosh, that is
too much. That's a lot of kid and does that
count the baby two? I think baby is four? Oh okay, gotcha, gotcha?
Oh too young.

Speaker 3 (06:02):
Obviously I wasn't happy with this, so they changed it
to staying at the house for drinks instead. We OPI
and fiance said only if it was okay with mother
in law. But we were assured by Aunt that it
was fine, So we went back to our house to
grab baby's things to stay overnight and grab a takeaway
as we hadn't eaten yet and it was almost nine pm.
We got back to mother in law's house and Aunt

(06:23):
is walking out the door with a vodka bottle in hand.
She says she was away to get Lauren, aunt's daughter
seven female, from Lauren's friend's house, that she'd be back
in ten minutes. At this point it's nine to fifteen pm,
and no surprise, she doesn't come back until after eleven.
She genuinely did go to get her daughter from their
friend's house. She just stayed at the house and drank

(06:44):
with her daughter's friends, Sarah, some female mom, Fiona thirty
five female and then mother in law comes in the
door from work. We check with her if it's okay
for baby to stand the night, and if not, we
just go home. Looking back, I don't think she was
okay with it. However, on the night she didn't give
that impression. She kept saying of course, it's fine. We

(07:05):
had asked her over four times, and once not in
front of everyone, just in case she was saying yes.
Because they were all there, but she kept insisting it
was fine, So eventually we give in and I start
to get Baby ready for bed. I offered to read
to both boys, Baby and Sam a bedtime story, since
they'd be sharing a bed together, so it makes sense
they go to bed at the same time. Right.

Speaker 1 (07:26):
Nope.

Speaker 3 (07:28):
Mother in law is adamant that I must put baby
to bed first and that he needs to be asleep
before she can put Sam to bed. She also would
not let me read a bedtime story to them together,
as Sam likes three stories, not just one. Go I said,
I can read three stories. It wasn't a problem, but
I got told to just put baby to bed, so

(07:48):
I did that. Then ten minutes later, mother in law
tried to put Sam to bed. I had a feeling
Baby would wake up when mother in law went in
as she was going to read the three stories with
the light onto Sam. Gosh, so I told her if
baby gets up, to just call me her fiance and
we'd settle him. And she says, yeah, sure and then
leaves to put Sam to bed. She never shouts for us,

(08:10):
and I send fiance up four times over the next
hour to check if baby was awake or if mother
in law needed help. Each time, she told fiance to
go away, leave her alone, and that she was fine.
So eventually we just stayed downstairs in the living room,
figuring she's an adult, she'll tell us if she needs
us or if baby is awake, especially because she keeps
sending fiance away. Uncle and the other kids, Stephen, Brian,

(08:33):
and Henry were play fighting in the living room downstairs,
which I told them to keep down multiple times as
the youngest baby and Sam were trying to sleep. Mother
in law then comes downstairs and has a go at everyone,
which is actually fair. Then she goes back upstairs. A
little while later, I can hear movement upstairs and one
of the older kids goes to the toilet. When they
come back, I ask if they saw anyone when they

(08:55):
were up there, but they said they only saw mother
in law taking Sam to the toilet. I presume that
baby was still sleeping since she hadn't said anything and
the older kid had only seen Sam up. Eventually, me,
fiance and uncle are sitting in the kitchen just talking.
The other kids are watching TV in the living room.
Mother in law comes down the stairs at eleven pmsh

(09:16):
and just tells us to leave already and go to
the pub. We say, we don't really want to. We
were gonna have drinks here and spend it all together. Yeah,
I mean like they're gonna leave at eleven, right, I
guess that is pup time.

Speaker 4 (09:27):
I don't know, I guess so, but I've just kind
of assumed that parents.

Speaker 3 (09:32):
Yeah, and she said just off to the pop already,
grabs herself some water and then goes back upstairs. So
we decide, okay, she does not want us here, We'll
go for one drink and come back. As we're heading
out of the house, here comes on walking down the
street with their daughter, Lauren, Lauren's friends Sarah, and Lauren's
friend's mom. Fiona Aunt asks where we're going, and we

(09:54):
tell her the pub. She then starts whining things she
wanted to go. We said we had waited for her,
but she had been away almost two hours, BLUs she
had brought Fiona and Sarah. Aunt then turns to Fiona
and begs her to come to the pub and leave
Sarah and Lauren at mother in law's house or the record.
Mother in law has never met Fiona and Sarah and
does not know them. Sarah then starts begging her mom Fiona,

(10:17):
not to leave her or go to the pub at all.
We say it's fine, we'll stay at the house. We
didn't really want to go to the pub anyway. Then
Aunt changes her mind and says she'll stay at mother
in law's house with Fiona, the kids and brings and
bring in the bells with mother in law right because
it's New Year's. This is a chaotic New Year's dude,
it really is. Man, what a way to start off
the new year. Yeah, I mean we're almost at I

(10:38):
guess I was like wondering, I forgot that it was
New Year's and I was wondering why everyone was up
so late. Oh ye. We ask if she's sure, and
she's like, yeah, it's totally fine, and then she, Fiona,
and the kids go into mother in law's house. So
we ope, fiance and uncle leave and head for the pub,
a ten minute walk from mother in law's house. We

(11:00):
get to the pub and order a drink each. You
start drinking them and talking when there's a tap on
our shoulder. We turn around to see Aunt standing right
behind us. Only Aunt. She then proceeds to order a drink.
We ask what she's doing there, and she says she
changed her mind. We asked if Fiona went home with
her daughter Sarah.

Speaker 1 (11:20):
Nope.

Speaker 3 (11:20):
Aunt ditched them in mother in law's kitchen, and we're like,
what the f She just like was in the house
with them and then dipped. Yeah. She was like, okay,
you guys stay there. Huh. So we put our drinks
down and tell her we have to go back. It's
not fair to Fiona or mother in law. She agrees,
and it takes a bit of forceful coaching from Uncle
to get her to leave. We start heading back to

(11:41):
mother in law's when Aunt spots some more people she
knows across the street and makes a bee line for them,
leaving us behind. Uncle followed her across the street. He
reminded her we have to go. She then proceeds to
leave with the other people to go back to the
pub and shouts bye bye to us in a childish
sing song voice while laughing this girl he's bad at parenting. Yeah. Like,

(12:02):
she literally just like left her kid and her kid's
friend and mom. Yeah, and was like, okay, I'm going
to the pub now bye. I have been So we're
like ef it, forget about her and head back to
mother in law's. Fionna is standing in the kitchen smoking
out the back door. Sarah and Lauren are both in
the kitchen. Me, fiance and uncle joined them in the kitchen.
The older kids are still in the living room, and

(12:23):
mother in law is still upstairs. At this point, it's
like eleven forty pm. We talked with Fiona for five
minutes before she leaves with Sarah and Lauren to go
to the high Street for the bells. Uncle takes all
the older kids to the high Street for the bells.
Me and fiance opt to stay at mother in law's
to bring in the bells with her. He gets to
midnight and Fiance goes up to talk to his mom.

(12:45):
She tells him to f Off, I don't want to
see you. I don't want to speak to you right now.

Speaker 1 (12:50):
Just f off.

Speaker 4 (12:51):
Girl is not having a good New Year's eat. She
just needs to be left alone. Yeah, she could do
what she wants. Bally, We're not gonna talk to you
and yet.

Speaker 3 (12:59):
No, no, no, you're kid home too. Yeah. She then
shut her bedroom door in Fiance's face, so Fiance comes
back downstairs. He didn't even have to tell me what
she said. As I could hear her she shouted it
at him, So we're feeling very uncomfortable as we sat
in the kitchen. Mother in law then comes down the
stairs for a sig A little while later, doesn't say

(13:20):
a word to us. As she comes back in, she says,
if you weren't here, I'd never have been put in
this situation. We try to talk to her again and
she just interrupts us, saying, I don't want to see
you or speak to you until tomorrow. Get out, and
with that she goes back up the stairs. So I'm
feeling incredibly guilty. I've no idea what she's talking about
or how it's all our fault. All I want is

(13:42):
to take my son and fiance and go home. Obviously,
baby is asleep, and if I go get him, i'd
wake Sam, which would make mother in law even angrier.
So we decided to stay awake at her kitchen table.
It was currently twelve fifteen am, and as soon as
it's seven am, we'd take baby and leave. I also
cleaned her kitchen of all opened, slash, half eaten food, booze,

(14:03):
and dishes. I then cleaned her living room of all
the toys that baby and Sam had played with just
any little thing I could do to help and not
make her so angry. Uncle comes back and sits at
the table with us. The older kids go into the
living room to watch a movie. Aunt then comes in
the door at twelve twenty am. She's not quiet and
slams the door. We tell her to keep it down.

(14:26):
She ignores us. Ask swhere fiones. We said she'd gone
back to her house with Sarah and Lauren. Aunt then
grabs more booze and leaves the house, slamming the door again.
Mother in law comes down, pissed off, telling us to
keep it down, and we're like, we're trying. Beyance says
he's shattered and can't stay awake. So we decide to
go home and come back first thing in the morning

(14:47):
to get baby. As we're leaving, guess who's walking down
the street towards the house Aunt with Lauren. Lauren is
in tears and crying. An is shouting about how Fiona
is a witch and nobody likes her anyway. We decided
to stay to help calm Louren down and keep Aunt quiet,
to not anger mother in law further, I can soole
Lauren as best as I can. She then goes into

(15:08):
the living room with the older kids and cries into
her brother's arms. Why is mom like this?

Speaker 4 (15:14):
Oh?

Speaker 3 (15:15):
Her brother Brian just hugs her, telling her that it
will be all right. Aunt is raging in the kitchen,
except now it's about our missing phone. She's lost it.
We ask her if she left it at Fiona's house,
but she says that which won't have it. We're trying
to explain maybe she left it on a table or something,
or if it fell out of her pocket when she
was walking back. We look on five three sixty the

(15:36):
family Tracking app and it says it was just outside
the house but wasn't connected to the internet. Aunt then
demands us to phone it. We explain we can't because
we don't have her number and it's not connected to
the internet to be able to do it through messenger.
We had to explain this to her five times. Eventually
we gave up and Uncle went out to look for

(15:57):
her phone on the street with Aunt turn it was
in her coat pocket the whole time, the coach she
was wearing. Of course, this woman sounds exhausting. Yeah, oh
my goodness, I would not want to go to any
family function that she was at. Do you have any
thoughts about what you can do to manage this this
like nightmare of a New Year's or just like your

(16:18):
family going forward to take a little a brief sojourn
or a brief intermission.

Speaker 4 (16:23):
Yeah, I don't even know, because I just when people
get like wild and crazy like this, you just like
you just can't. Yeah, you can't reason with them, can't
make them any less insane, you know, Like ah, I
just feel like you just have to stay away from them,
or like, you know, just be like.

Speaker 3 (16:43):
Okay, there she goes again.

Speaker 4 (16:45):
But like it's hard when it's family, you know what
I mean. Yeah, that's hard to do. That sucks that
the kids are are, you know, feeling it too and
not liking how this ant is reacting. And I honestly
don't know how you would like stop that person from
being like that.

Speaker 3 (17:04):
I I have no idea. The thing is like, you
can't communicate with an unreasonable person. Yeah, so you could
try and have a conversation with her and say like, hey,
this behavior is pretty upsetting for your kids and for us. Yeah,
but like I don't think she'll listen to that. Yeah,
in which case it's just kind of like limiting being
around her when you can, but also like trying to
have that relationship with your your nieces and nephews.

Speaker 4 (17:26):
Still, yeah, it's tricky. It's very tricky.

Speaker 3 (17:30):
She then decides to leave again and go to another
friend's house, Danny's. Danny's whole family are longtime friends of
fiance's family. Uncle comes back into mother in law's house.
Uncle then gets a phone call from Danny, but turns
out it is Aunt using Danny's phone and begging him
to come to Danny's house. Uncle says nope and hangs up.

(17:51):
Seems like the.

Speaker 4 (17:51):
Uncle's chill, which is good. Yeah, that's good.

Speaker 3 (17:54):
Aunt does the same thing using Danny's phone and phone's
fiance is saying the same thing. Beyonce hangs up on
her mid sentence. Then ten minutes later, fiance gets another
call from Danny. This time it's actually Danny, and she
says they're welcome to go over if they want, and
that some family members of Danny's are over visiting and
fiance and uncle haven't seen them in years. I offer

(18:16):
to stay at mother in law's house if they wanted
to go and have a catch up with those family friends.
They had just come to the decision to go when
the front door slams open and Aunt comes back, shouting
uncle and fiance's names. She's come to take them to
Danny's and she wasn't gonna take no for an answer.
Aunt was told to keep it down by all three
of us, and she says, who cares. Mother in law

(18:39):
then comes down the stairs angrily whisper shouting at Aunt,
get the f out of my house before I hit you,
and don't come back. Uncle and fiance get her out
and go to Danny's. Mother in law comes back upstairs.
Then five minutes later, it's about one forty am. Mother
in law comes running down the stairs, phone in hand,
shouting where is the uncle. I tell her he's gone

(19:00):
Danny's with fiance and Aunt. Just then fiance barges through
the front door, shouting I'm not being done. I'm having
done with this, mamly. His mom then turns to him
and says, it's your own fault. Fiance then shouts Aunt
hit me across the face with her shoe. Then Uncle shoved, punted,
and the old one too. Oh my god. Mother in

(19:20):
law says it's karma. You deserved it. You shouldn't have
shoved aunt. Uncle was only protecting Aunt. Never mind, the
uncle does not seem chill. I was livid at this point.
So Aunt had been shouting outside and wouldn't keep it down.
Fiance had told her to be quiet and to shut
up multiple times. Aunt then started calling Fiance horrible names bester, ale, wiener, head,

(19:43):
et cetera for talking back to her. Fiance told her
to stop, as there was no need for it. She
then said, I'll hit you. Then she did with her shoe,
which she had been walking in all night so it
was dirty and wet as it had been raining. Fiance
then shoved her heart after she hit him, and because
she weigs nothing and was off balanced because she was intoxicated,
she went sprawling across the car park is outside mother

(20:05):
in law's house. Uncle then shoved and the old one
tued and punted Fiance, saying you never hit a woman.
Then Fiance came in the house, so obviously I said
it was self defense from fiance and he didn't hit her,
just shoved her away. And mother in law says Fiance
never shut up, laid hands on her at all, and
I thought, ohpe, he shoved her far too hard, and

(20:26):
I'm like what and aud didn't hit him across the
face hard. It's not okay to hurt someone just because
she's older and his family. Uh, and what uncle did
was definitely uncalled for. So fiance said, we're leaving, We're
taking baby and leaving, and mother in law says, no,
you're not, You're not taking baby. Then physically stands on

(20:47):
the staircase blocking her axis and shoves fiance back when
he tries to get past. She then tells us to
get him in the morning. I insist on getting her son,
as I am no longer comfortable leaving him with fiance's family.
Mother in law would not let either of us passed,
insisting we will get him in the morning, and it's
not fair to wake baby up and Sam up at
this time two am. Then outside mother in law's house,

(21:09):
mother in law is once again telling fiance that it's
karma and it's his own fault, that she had an
awful night and nobody cared about her or checked to
see if she was okay, and as far as she's concerned,
we all decire for what we got that night. She
launches into I had to take care of your son
and my son. I'm not saying it's a problem, but
he's your son, not mine. Is this all on New

(21:29):
Year's Eve? So much is happening right now. This is
the longest night. He didn't go to sleep until eleven
forty five pm. I had to take care of him.
I had to take him to the toilet, change his
nap because he pooed, and take care of Sam. Nobody
thought about me. Maybe I wanted to get out, And
what will my neighbors think of everything tonight? I don't
even want to talk to you or see you. The

(21:49):
amount of times that people asked if you needed help
or if you needed them to take care of the babies.
And I'm like, if i'd known baby was up at all,
and especially at that time, i'd have handled him and
taken him home. And it's not like we didn't check.
She kept telling us to f off, and now she
won't even let me dig my son home. We obviously
don't get anywhere with mother in law. She's just blaming
the whole situation on fiance. We go home, fiance passes

(22:13):
out of sleep. I stay up all night because I
can't sleep knowing my son is with those people. Mother
in law eventually messages at seven forty am saying that
baby was awake. She messaged fiance's phone, so I didn't
see it straight away. I saw it at seven fifty
am and message we're on our way, And she then
messaged two minutes later saying she had put him back
to bed. So I'm livid she knew I wanted to

(22:36):
get him straight away. And then you say, I don't care.
I don't freaking care that's my kid. I'm gonna call
the police if you don't give me my kid. Yeah. Literally,
we're in the grounds for no contact here or very
very late in contact. I mean this physical assault. And
also she's like keeping your kid is blaming you being
like your fiance being attacked on him.

Speaker 4 (22:57):
Yeah, I know.

Speaker 3 (22:58):
She keeps saying like I'm so done with this family.

Speaker 4 (23:00):
You're not gonna talk to you again.

Speaker 3 (23:01):
I'm good, good, I don't want to talk to you.

Speaker 4 (23:03):
Like finally she's she's making the decision.

Speaker 3 (23:06):
Yeah, so me and fiance head down in my car
at eight fifteen am to get him. We're sat in
the car outside mother in law's house, phoning mother in
law to say we're here, as she wanted to hand
him over at the door. Beyonce really didn't want any
contact with Uncle Laurant. We phoned four times, no answer,
gave it fifteen minutes, phoned a few more times nothing.

(23:27):
Fiance said to give it another ten minutes. He didn't
want to wake anyone up because he was still trying
to be nice. It gets to eight forty five am
and we call a few more times, still nothing. We
walk around the house to see if anyone is up
and if the door would be open. We can see
the older kids up in the kitchen, but no adults.
Fiance wants to give it more time, but at this
point it's nine am, and I'm like, it's a reasonable

(23:49):
hour to wake anyone up, and if we don't go
into the house and get baby, then I'll phone the
police to get him and everyone will be awake anyway.
At this point, she has had my child since last
night and was not physically allowing us to get them.
Fiance knows I'm serious, so we go in as the
front door is open. I say hi to the older
kids and ask if any of the adults are up.

(24:09):
They say uncle is sleeping, mother in law is sleeping,
and aunt just came in an hour ago and is
passed out. Dang, she like she was out all night wild.
So fiance sneaks upstairs to get baby, who was not
back asleep but was playing with toys in the dark
bedroom and a soiled nappy while mother in law and
Sam were still sleeping. So fiance brings baby down and

(24:32):
I've grabbed his bag, coat, and shoes. Fiance then goes
back upstairs and sneaks around the room to grab baby,
Sucky's cuddly toys, pillows, and dummy. He comes back down
without waking any of the adults and we f off
home and never speak to them again. Edit. This was
the straw that broke the camel's back. There are other
things over the years, and we've had enough. That was
a pretty big straw. Yeah, I'm you know. We read conversation,

(24:55):
we read stories where there's no communication and then you
just cut contact. This is not one of them. This
is a crazy, crazy family. Yeah, And you don't have
to deal with them. Don't put up with them, not
at all this year alone. End of June, Beyonce's grandparents
are up from down South, and them plus aunt's family
plus mother in law's family go on days out for

(25:16):
family meals at restaurants. We asked ahead of time if
there were any plans, and we're told no. Then fiance
will look on his family tracking app and notice they
have fed off, and when he confronts them, it's always
the same. It was a last minute decision or we
weren't sure you'd come. We never refused ever, and they
could have messaged or asked. Then there was the bonfire

(25:38):
night this year. We asked if there was any plans
to meet up, got told there everyone was doing their
own thing. So we went to McDonald's and as we
pulled up, who were all in there enjoying time together.
Mother in law's family, aunt's family, and his grandparents. Beyonce
obviously said something to them. They brushed it off and
told us to sit with them. Then they left before

(26:00):
our food even arrived. Then there was baby's birthday this year.
Not one of fiance's family wished baby a happy birthday.
My family was messaging me since six am saying happy
birthday to baby. My brother even messaged as soon as
he got up for work he was working night shift,
and not one message from fiance's family. I then sent
videos photos of baby's birthday at the carnival on my

(26:22):
family chat and everyone was interacting and stuff. Then fiance
told me to post it on his family chat, so
I did. Keep in mind, none of them have said
happy birthday at all we got was a thumbs up
emoji from fiance's granddad. Even the next day, New Year's Eve,
when we were at mother in law's house, she wasn't
interested in how her only grandchild's birthday was. And that's

(26:44):
just this year. This type of stuff has been going
on since I first met my fiance eight and a
half years ago. I mean, yeah, this is your your
family is or his family is just really really whack
not so yeah, yeah, like I think this is you know,
you can try and have a really limited relationship with them,

(27:05):
but I think unfortunately you have to get rid of
the expectation that they are going to do anything to
you or try and involve you in any way. Yeah,
because they clearly just like don't care about you in
the way that you've been trying to care about them.
And I think it's just like time, you know, you
can focus on your own family ope mm hm h
and your extended family on your side because they clearly
care about you. Guys, yeah, and just just put some

(27:27):
distance between your fiance's family.

Speaker 4 (27:29):
Absolutely, it's not worth it, not worth it at all.

Speaker 3 (27:32):
Mother in law would always leave fiance in his room
and go out to dinner or days out with her
long term boyfriend and Henry, their son, fiance's half brother,
and not tell fiance. Fiance would go downstairs, not knowing
that they had gone, and phone to ask where they
were and be told they're having family time, and defend
for himself. When my fiance was eighteen and stayed with

(27:52):
her and her long term boyfriend, he would transfer his
mom money one hundred pounds a month. Eventually, this led
to conflict between my fiance and his mom's boyfriend, as
his mom's boyfriend owned the house and was accusing fiance
of not paying the full amount. Fiance had to show
his mom's boyfriend his bank statements to prove he had
been paying. Yeah, he's giving them like one hundred dollars

(28:14):
and he's like, dude, I'm literally paying you on hundred dollars.
Why are you complaining? Yeah? Yeah. Turns out mother in
law had been taking some of fiance's money for herself
and not transferring the full amount on. Of course, she was.
This wasn't the only thing that she had done to
cause the relationship between my fiance and his mom's boyfriend
to break down, which resulted in him getting punted out

(28:36):
more than once until I rented a flat at eighteen
and offered for him to move in. We dated just
over a year before moving in together. There have been
times where Aunt has been irresponsible and fiance would receive
calls off his mom begging him to go to aunt's
house and stay there until Aunt came home, usually intoxicated,
so there was an adult in the house. Even if

(28:56):
fiance had work at five am, it didn't matter. Mother
in law cry on the phone to him, saying, please
help your mother. I can't go because of your brothers
and families meant to help family except when fiance needs help.
Of course. Of course, of course, this happens several times,
including when I was pregnant. The day we found out
the gender of our baby, we were at aunt's house

(29:17):
until two am looking after her kids because she decided
to just go out. Oh my goodness, this aunt is
a terrible mother, honestly neglectful, even marry neglectful. I mean,
she's going out all hours of the night and drinking
and not leaving her kids with random people.

Speaker 4 (29:32):
Yeah exactly.

Speaker 3 (29:34):
So, Yeah, they're selfish and we don't need people like
that in our lives. Fionce deserves better. He is worth
way more than how they make him feel. He is
sadly convinced himself at times that he's adopted, as in
his mind, this is the only logical reason his family
doesn't appear to care or leave him out of everything.
I think a better way to think about that is like,
maybe you're adopted because you're the only sane person here. Yeah. Yeah, Honestly,

(29:58):
it breaks my heart to hear him talk about it
self like this, and I remind him how much he's
left by me, our son and my family. My family
and I are in full support of fiance and know
he deserves so much better. He means the world to us,
and there is no way I am letting babies suffer the
same as fiance has. It stops now. Mother in law
also chucked it in our faces that she bends up

(30:19):
her back where it's to help us out with childcare
so I can work. She hasn't elp since April twenty
twenty four. Mother in law goes five months, if not
more at a time without seeing baby, her grandson, talking
to him, or even asking us how he is. She
doesn't care, and it's so obvious she only cares when
somebody asks her about her grandchild. It's all about appearances.

(30:40):
But you know what can appear on your Spotify, Apple
podcast or iHeartRadio. What full episodes of stories just like this,
just look up okay, story time, no way, But there
is a little bit left to the story, I mean,
final thoughts.

Speaker 4 (30:55):
It's sad, but it's necessary that this separation kind of
needs to happen a little bit. You know, maybe you
could do things here and there for like family events
or for like the nieces and nephews like birthdays or something.

Speaker 3 (31:08):
Yeah, you know you can.

Speaker 4 (31:09):
You can take them out for special occasions, because I'm
sure that's probably the saddest part about yeah, the disconnectationship. Yeah,
but at the same time, it's like this is not
gonna be good for your mental health.

Speaker 3 (31:23):
No, so no. And also safety, yeah, you know if
true husband got attacked. Yeah, there's a little bit left
to the story. Also, like I say, we don't use
her for childcare, and the few times that she offered
and we accepted at the start of the year. She
now throws in our face and says we never offer,
which we did, but she always says no, And eventually

(31:44):
we told her to tell us if she wants to help,
because we're sick of being told no, but she just
throws it in our faces and calls us ungrateful. I
have since removed both mother in law and aunt off
the collection list and emergency contacts for our son at nursery.
There have been so I'm updated since this incident, which
I can add if you would like. Hence why fiance
is second guessing himself and wondering if he has gone

(32:07):
over the top by cutting them all off. So am
I the angle for going no contact with my fiance's
whole family and cutting them out of our lives? Was
our answer, big old no, absolutely not. You do not
deserve this treatment. Just be around the people who support
you and love you, and show that support and love

(32:28):
and don't expect it's not just one side it like
they expect all this stuff from you and then don't
actually show up.

Speaker 4 (32:35):
Yeah, yeah, absolutely absolutely you are worth more than that.

Speaker 3 (32:42):
Sam.

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My boyfriend's friend ruined my designer bag. I'm considering legal actions.

Speaker 1 (32:51):
I'm about to legally throw you in jail for that.

Speaker 3 (32:54):
What I'll try to keep it short and sweet. I
recently bought an authentic designer purse. I realized the pri
which I have to do so, but I work an
extremely demanding job that requires I work very long hours
and get compensated well to do so. It's something I've
wanted my entire life, and I've finally reached a point
where i could afford to do it. By the way,
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if you want to smit your own stories, go to
the r slash. Okay, storytime supparate it's not super relevant.
But I grew up poor, so in a way it
was cathartic for me to buy something frivolous that I
really wanted, which is partially why it means so much
to me. I've had this purse less than a month
and I've only worn it out twice, once to a
work event and once to a nice dinner we went
on with my boyfriend and his friends this last weekend.

Speaker 1 (33:35):
We were hanging.

Speaker 3 (33:36):
Out at my boyfriend's friend's house after the dinner, and
I hung my purse on the chair behind me. At
this point I trusted everyone in the house and wasn't
really concerned about it. We've all been hanging out for
years now. We moved to another room right next to
the one we were in to play a game. When
I came back, my purse was right where I left
it when we left for the night. I grabbed it
and thought it felt heavier, but didn't look inside of

(33:56):
it until I went to unload it when we got home.
For some reason, if someone thought it would be funny
to put uncovered red yellow shots into my purse with
a white interior, where they proceeded to leak the entire
inside with stained a splotchy pink shade. And to say
I was livid is an understatement. We're all between thirty
to sixty. We have some older folks that are family

(34:18):
friends of people in the group who hang out with
us sometimes, so everyone is old enough to not do
something so stupid. I attempted to clean it, to no avail.
My boyfriend reached out to the group chat that I
was about half of his friends in it and asked
if anyone knew who'd done it. One person admitted they
saw someone do it and told us who it was.
One of the older members of the group who's known
for messing with people's belongings, but never to this degree.

(34:39):
For example, when we went swimming last summer, he filled
the pockets of my shorts up with Chex mix. It
was annoying, but didn't really damage anything. Also, no one
really finds his antics funny.

Speaker 5 (34:48):
Well, that's some personal problem, because that was hilarious Chex
mixed pocket.

Speaker 1 (34:52):
I'm fully on board with that.

Speaker 3 (34:53):
In my opinion, it's common sense to refrain from putting
red goo that turns liquity when warm into a white bag.
But he claims that he was just being funny and
didn't think it would leak. I asked him for money
to either repair the bag or replace it, and he
claims he does not have that much money. He says
the bag look cheap, so he didn't think it would
be a big deal even if the shots had lead.

(35:14):
I know that he has ample assets, multiple sports cars,
a million dollar home, et cetera, and can find a
way to compensate for what he damaged. When I pointed
this out. He told me that it was my fault
for bringing around an expensive bag and that something could
have easily been spilled on it instead. Wow, I would
have been upset if that had been the case. Obviously,
I wouldn't have been anywhere near as upset. Because this
has been done intentionally and is now being blamed on me,

(35:37):
I can take responsibility and say I shouldn't have left
it out of my sight, but I knew no one
in the house would steal it or the contents in it,
and I never would have thought someone would fill it
with sticky red goo, regardless of how expensive or cheap
it was. I told him that he needed to define
the money or I would be suing him for the damages,
and a couple of people in the group think I'm
going too far. My boyfriend is thankfully as angry as
I am, and I don't want the situation to come

(35:57):
at the cost of any of his friendships. But I
all so want to be compensated for my property that
I worked my butt off for. Would I be the
ale if I take legal action or should I try
some other method to recoup my losses? I personally don't
think so, because this wasn't an accident, but some people
think I'm going too nuclear and there is an update.
I had my appointment to have the bag looked at.
They would be able to mostly repair it. However, it's

(36:19):
likely that the liquid seep through the lining and may
have damaged the bag beyond repair. They wouldn't know until
they really got into it. Even so, the smell of
crusty old jello and liquor would likely linger and deteriorate
any resell value the purse may have in the future.
For these reasons, I will be going after him for
the entire value of the purse. Thank you to the
person who mentioned that this could hurt resell value in

(36:40):
the future. I didn't even think of this. I asked
the person that looked at it, and she told me
the severity of the staining and odor definitely would. Thankfully,
it is not a limited edition bag and I can
currently buy anyone. Hopefully that this doesn't change anytime soon,
as I really love my bag. I am going to
reach out to my attorney in the morning to see
if he can help me or refer me to someone
who can. I can't update again with what they say,

(37:00):
but I'm pretty sure I have a strong leg to
stand on. To answer some questions, why don't I punt
this guy for the friend group? Easiest answer here is
that it isn't my friend group. The man is a
family friend of one of my boyfriend's friends. He truthfully
isn't around much, but it seems like whenever he is,
he causes problems, so I'm not sure why he's still
invited even occasionally. My boyfriend and I made it clear

(37:21):
we would never be in the same place as him
ever again, which kind of puts the ball in everyone
else's court. Does he not like you? Or does he
torment everyone? He has a weird fixation with me mostly,
but he does also torment most of the women in
the group. I mentioned this in the comments, but it
may have gotten buried. But during my first interaction with him,
I had left my phone out while I had quickly
gone to the bathroom. At some point, he snatched my

(37:42):
phone up once somewhere else else, took a picture of
his butt, and replaced my phone in the same spot.
I found the pictures a few hours later when I
opened my camera roll to show someone my dog, and
my boyfriend asked me, horrified why I had a hairy
butt in my phone. I was mortified and had no explanation,
and it wasn't until this man was hammered that he
admitted he did it. We were all disgusted and he

(38:05):
stopped being invited for a while because my boyfriend refused
to be around him. Last year, he started being invited
again and immediately started pranking me in harmless ways. He
likes to do this with new girlfriends, especially, I noticed,
and I am one of the newest in the friend group,
even though it's been a few years now. One of
my boyfriend's friends started dating a new girl and she
got a similar treatment, but nothing as severe. He really

(38:25):
likes to tamper with our clothes mostly. I hate that.
I don't know what the motive is, but he doesn't
usually mess with the guys, just the women. Yeah, did
he steal anything?

Speaker 4 (38:33):
No.

Speaker 3 (38:34):
As I mentioned, he's wealthy and I don't think he'd
really do anything like that. He doesn't seem like the
type to get a thrill from theft. Rather he wants
to annoy women. I only kept my credit card, a
small amount of cash, par keys, and a sentimental keychain
in the bag. Everything was sticky and coated, in good
but everything was also their small edit. Also, all the people,
all of your friends, quote unquote, who think that you're

(38:56):
going overboard by wanting to sue him when he's behaved
like after the booty pick, well, she should never have
come back after that.

Speaker 5 (39:03):
It's just like such a weird thing to take a
stance on when it's like his reaction should clearly be like,
oh my god, it ruined your bag.

Speaker 1 (39:12):
I can't believe I did this.

Speaker 5 (39:14):
I'm so sorry, Like that was, oh my god, such
a dumb I'm so dumb for that.

Speaker 3 (39:18):
I'm sorry.

Speaker 1 (39:18):
Yes, and let me fix it. Let me do this,
Let me how do I make this?

Speaker 3 (39:21):
Fat?

Speaker 1 (39:21):
Do I fix this?

Speaker 3 (39:22):
A lot of people have taken to accusing my boyfriend
of some nasty things, setting this up, not defending me,
being spineless, et cetera. I just wanted to take a
second to say none of this is true and is
mentioned throughout the posts. The first instance of this man
being weird, my boyfriend screamed at him about how what
he had done to me was awful, whether or not
he saw it as a joke. We left immediately after,
and he told his friends that he did not want

(39:43):
to be invited when that man was around. It took
several years for it to blow over and for his
friends to attempt to have us all together again for
a birthday party. My boyfriend made it clear that if
he ever did anything to harm me again, that would
be it, and he promised he wouldn't. After all of
that situation, the offender did calm down towards me a
lot until now, which is why I didn't feel that
worried about him and comfortable leaving my purse out of

(40:04):
my sight for thirty minutes. My boyfriend not physically attacking
this man is in him being spineless. It's him being
mature and realizing that hurting him was only going to
result in him getting charges that would impact his career
in life. How that this has all happened, my boyfriend
has defended me and said we will do everything we
need in order to get me a new purse. It
was me that was worried about it, causing him to

(40:24):
lose friends, as I know this group is very important
to him. Consensus not the a hole and Obie says
it was twenty eight hundred dollars. My understanding is if
it can be clean, costs would be around four hundred dollars.
If it cannot repairs, could be anywhere from seven hundred dollars.
It just needing to be replaced. I am taking it
into being looked at tonight and I'll have a more
solid answer. If the liquids spilled in the car, I'm

(40:44):
shocked it didn't because they were borderline liquid by the
time I found them. The fact it didn't soak through
the exterior of the bag or on the friend's furniture
or in our cars shocking, but speaks to the quality
of the interior of the pack. Expost An attorney says
she needs proof he did it for small claims court
him responding to my text claiming he put jello shots
in a purse suffice, he refused to acknowledge it was

(41:05):
my specific purse via text, just kept saying that he
put them in a cheap looking purse and refused to
acknowledge that it was mine or brand. It's unfortunately not
my group to exclude him from, but after this I
won't be present when he's around. I always felt gross
about him because of his tricks. When I first started
coming around, I had left my phone on the table
when I went to and we already found out about

(41:25):
the butt picture.

Speaker 1 (41:26):
You're like, I refuse to talk about that ever again.

Speaker 3 (41:28):
After that, we avoided him like the plague, until this
last summer, where he yet again targeted me, but in
a much milder way. We've seen him once or twice since,
and he didn't do anything to me or my stuff,
so I was hoping he had scaled back. He wasn't
supposed to be there this weekend. He wasn't invited to
the dinner, but sure enough he came after and was
acting normal, so I thought I was safe. Fries. My
boyfriend doesn't even care for the guy and would never

(41:50):
want to see something I care a lot about and
spent a ton on get damaged. Somebody says the purse
wasn't even that expensive, because since it wasn't thirty thousand dollars,
is this person the billionaire and not?

Speaker 1 (42:00):
I guarantee you that person is just broke.

Speaker 3 (42:02):
Twenty eight hundred is a lot when you work your
butt off. That he's married, though I've never met his wife,
so she could be made up, but I doubt it.
I can only assume she enjoys the money he brings
in and ignores the fact that he's a jack butt,
or maybe she's the same way. Who knows. Somebody says
the boyfriend and the prankster have an affair. Okay, a
lot of the crazy accusations have been made about my
boyfriend here, but this is the craziest. My boyfriend does

(42:23):
not have any close relationship with this guy, let alone
some secret rendezvous. I'm also very confident that my partner
isn't attracted to the same gender. But even on the
off chance that I somehow entirely miss gage is spicy
related identity in the several years we've been together, and
I wouldn't imagine he would have been having spicy relations
with an overweight, immature, stinky, fifty year old man. For
this theory to shake out, he must also be sleeping

(42:44):
with another man in the friend group, as he had
bullied another girlfriend in a similar manner. He had taken
and hit her phone and made her think she lost
it once she panicked for a while searching, he gave
it back.

Speaker 5 (42:54):
In what way could that have given him positive reinforcement? Yeah,
everyone stared at me in an awkward silence as I
gave her phone backed, and then just generally moved on.

Speaker 1 (43:04):
And tried to ignore what I had done.

Speaker 3 (43:06):
I got a quote for repair, but it was likely futile,
as the smell of cheap liquor would likely remain, even
if only faintly. Additionally, as a kind commetter pointed out,
doing so drastically effects resell value should I ever choose
to sell it. For these reasons, I was pursuing him
for replacement purse. I laid all of the information out
in writing tim and had my boyfriend in hand delivered
him summarize. I broke the cost of replacement down to

(43:28):
the penny, and threatened legal actions should he not replace
what he damaged. The next day, one of my boyfriend's
other friends showed up with a check made payable to
me for the entire amount. I'm sure you all wish
it was more exciting than that, but I, for one,
am just glad it's over. The only thing that could
be seen as funny is the memo line in the check,
which was see you next Tuesday, Bunny. I deposited the
check and it cleared, so thankfully he didn't try to

(43:50):
play any additional games by having it bounce. I think
he knew I was serious and didn't want any more
costs adding up, should I take him to court? So yeah,
that's it. One other quick thing about my boyfriend. Since
most people didn't read the end of my og post,
people accused him of so many nasty things, setting up
the whole thing, not protecting me enough. One person even
theorized that my boyfriend was having an affair with this guy.

(44:11):
None of these things are true. My boyfriend really isn't
close with this guy. He's been around him occasionally, but
they never hang out one on one or talk outside
of when he's in a big group. He's gotten into
arguments with him regarding how he treated me in the past,
and was firm with his dance on us not being
around him anymore after this incident. It seems like people
think that if he's not resorting to violence, he's a
bad guy, but I personally think the opposite. We both

(44:33):
have good careers and him attacking this guy would have
led to an arrest and charges, and we don't want that.
My boyfriend is a great guy that stood by me
and helped me with all of this and was definitely
not involved. He's banned from them, and my boyfriend at
the beginning of this said we would no longer be
around him period if he wrote see you next Tuesday
or the actual word. He wrote the euphemism, so he
wrote see you next.

Speaker 1 (44:53):
He wrote down nice Tuesday was word.

Speaker 3 (44:54):
I'm sure he thought he was being slicked more than
one way. He knew we refused to see him going forward.
To think saying I'll see you is an insult in
and of itself. It was a chanel. But that is
the end of that story. Thank goodness that you want
to have to be around this man.

Speaker 1 (45:08):
Ever, you never have to spend twenty eight hundred dollars
on chanell ever again. Yeah, hey, y'all, it's John og
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Speaker 2 (45:14):
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Speaker 5 (45:18):
I bought my boyfriend flowers and then he got furious.

Speaker 3 (45:22):
Maybe he was allergic.

Speaker 5 (45:23):
Okay, So my boyfriend twenty two male and I twenty
one female, have been together for about five months and
it's been good so far. But about a week ago
I was at his apartment and he told me that
most men only receive flowers when they've passed away. He
then went on a bit of a rant about women
not caring as much as men when it comes to
their partners, and then men want shows of affection too.

(45:45):
By the way, this comes from user quirky Wait seven
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stuff about it. I honestly took this all as a
hint that he wanted flowers, So yesterday I went to
Whole Foods and picked out all the flowers I thought
he would like and put them together in a big bouquet.
I also got him a coffee, some chocolates, and a

(46:05):
few other things I thought he would like. I've done
things like this before, just minus the flowers. I usually
put a game Pass gift card or a Lego set,
et cetera. I feel like this is important because I
don't want anyone to think I don't show him affection
or get him gifts. I definitely do, so I show
up to his apartment with literally the biggest smile. I

(46:26):
was so excited to see his reaction, but when I
gave him the flowers, he got a super uncomfortable look
on his face and wouldn't touch or kiss me at all.
I asked him what was wrong and if he liked
the flowers, and then he just kind of blew up
at me, saying that flowers are only for apologizing, and
that if I cheated on him, I needed to tell
him right now. I was shocked and started crying because

(46:47):
I have never and would never cheat on anyone. He
took the flowers to the kitchen and threw them in
the trash, which honestly felt like extremely disrespectful. He told
me to get out of his apartment and that he
didn't have time for cheating.

Speaker 1 (46:59):
Witches these words.

Speaker 5 (47:00):
Every time I tried to explain, he said he didn't
want my excuses, and when I'm ready to tell him
who the man is, then I can talk to him then.
But there is not a man, and I didn't cheat
on him. I just thought he wanted flowers. I've never
thought of flowers as just an apology. He's never gotten
them for me, but I just thought he didn't like
showing love that way, so I buy them for myself
every week. I'm just so confused and hurt by his reaction,

(47:21):
and I don't know what to do to fix the situation.
Am I the a hole for buying him flowers? Do
women really only buy flowers? As an apology. I'm so confused.
There is an edit. I'm completely overwhelmed by the responses.
Everyone's making me realize that he is not worth my
time at all.

Speaker 3 (47:37):
Nope.

Speaker 5 (47:37):
I tried to do something nice for him and he
threw it back in my face. I texted him and
told him that we need to talk, and his response
was finally ready to confess or what. So that tells
me he's done no critical thinking on his end about
the situation. We're meeting for lunch tomorrow and I'll update
everyone after. Thank you for the kind replies and for
opening my eyes to what an a hole this guys is.

(47:57):
I'm just glad I didn't waste years of my life.
There's another edit. Clarify his parents gift each other flowers regularly,
so he has seen flowers given to a partner for
reasons other than cheating. His mother gifted him flowers for
his college graduation, so he has received flowers previously and
this is not the first time. Also, I have had
a few people tell me it's weird of me to

(48:18):
gift him things like the lego sets, et cetera that
I have mentioned. It's telling you this, don't listen to
everybody who is telling you this. He told me at
the beginning of our relationship that his love language is
gift giving and he loves receiving gifts.

Speaker 1 (48:30):
That's why I do it.

Speaker 3 (48:30):
Okay, I'm sorry.

Speaker 1 (48:32):
Like I love language is getting money.

Speaker 3 (48:34):
Your love language isn't gift giving. If it's just that
you like receiving gifts, that's not what the love language
gift gifting means.

Speaker 1 (48:42):
Uh.

Speaker 3 (48:42):
It means. It means that you like giving gifts. That's
what love language means.

Speaker 1 (48:47):
I love languages. When you hear I like.

Speaker 4 (48:49):
When people give me stuff like duh.

Speaker 5 (48:51):
I did not think it would come across as weird
in any way. I only spend around fifty bucks each time,
which is nothing for me as I have a well
paying job. I was in a relationship for two years previously,
and I gave my partner monthly gifts throughout the entire relationship.
So I'm in no way trying to love bomb him.

Speaker 3 (49:07):
A love bombing thing. Anyone who said that was love
bombing is is not well versed.

Speaker 5 (49:11):
I just always want my partner to know they are
loved and appreciated.

Speaker 1 (49:14):
Big update.

Speaker 5 (49:15):
Everybody. His mother is asking if she can call me
what do I do? His mother loves me and is
honestly an angel. I don't know what he's told her
about the situation. Should I be worried?

Speaker 1 (49:24):
Sorry for updating so many times. I'm gonna take the
call from his mother.

Speaker 5 (49:27):
I don't think she means any harm in calling me,
but if it gets hostile, I'll hang up. I'm also
considering canceling lunch tomorrow, but it partially depends on how
this phone call goes. I've also had someone suggest just
sending them both the link to this post, which I'm
considering everyone's opinions on that would be appreciated. I told
his mother she can call me this evening, so I'll
update after that as well. We have some comments bad

(49:48):
war What the hell? This dude is a major a
hole for sure, certainly not the a hole I'd be
over the moon to receive flowers, and this dude certainly
sounded like he was asking for flowers without asking for them.
This is either rage bait or your boyfriend is just
a total knucklehead for sure, and showing his true colors
blazing sunflower land. He probably wanted to vent about how
women have it so much better than men and picked
the one thing he thought he would never receive as

(50:09):
a man as his example of women having the good
life when men suffered.

Speaker 1 (50:13):
When she showed up with.

Speaker 5 (50:14):
Her gifts, she took away his ability to rant, so
he jumped into saying she cheated.

Speaker 1 (50:18):
He just wanted to rant and insult her.

Speaker 5 (50:19):
How dare she show up with a thoughtful give rather
than apologize for being a woman who uses men?

Speaker 1 (50:24):
The next one's gonna say the same thing. Let's go update. Hey,
we're on the update Guyso.

Speaker 5 (50:30):
All right, guys, this isn't the update any of you
were expecting. Or maybe it is, and it's definitely not
the one I was expecting to give. But his mom
called me, and it was both him and his mom
on the phone. I pretty quickly told them I wasn't
willing to talk to both of them. But my ex
boyfriend was crying, like crying, actual tears.

Speaker 1 (50:47):
So I listen.

Speaker 5 (50:49):
Is your Mommy told me that he had been talking
to her about us, and she wants him to talk
to me with her support so he can tell me everything.
He started it by telling me how he hasn't felt
like I'm what he wants in a woman. I'm not
willing to move in with him yet, and he's someone
who only wants to date for six months before getting engaged,

(51:10):
which he had not ever.

Speaker 1 (51:11):
Told me before, so this surprised me.

Speaker 5 (51:14):
This would mean he wants to be engaged next month,
which is way too soon for me. He also told
me that he has trauma around cheating because his high
school girlfriend cheated on him in junior year and you
guessed it, apologized with a rose. Then he told me
that he wants someone who is less career focused and
someone who wants to have kids and not work. He

(51:35):
said he thinks some of my ideals and morals are skewed,
but wouldn't tell me which ones or what he meant.
Then he just told me he wants a birthing unit,
essentially I'm paraphrasing. He also told me he's realized I'm
a quote unquote radical feminist, which I think is extreme
because while yes I'm a feminist, I don't hate all
men or think they're all bad. I never talked badly
about them to him and have really given him no

(51:57):
reason to think that. Aside from being pro choice, he's
been red pilled. He said he can't date someone who
doesn't respect him. And emasculates him. He said, the flowers
I gave him showed him that I viewed him as feminine,
and also showed that I was cheating. Oh my god,
he wasn't even kidding it was the flowers. I told
him again that I was not and had never cheated
on him, and asked if he had cheated on me before.
He was quiet and I kid you not for a

(52:19):
full two minutes, and then asked me to define cheating.
I asked if he'd slept with someone else, and he
said no. I asked why he mentioned the flowers if
you thought flowers were emasculating, and he said it was
more about the fact that men are treated and I quote,
more as slaves than humans in our society. He said
it was less about him wanting flowers and more about
him feeling like women aren't owed flowers. That was enough
explanation on where he was coming from for me. I

(52:39):
told him our relationship was clearly over and we don't
share the same ideals.

Speaker 1 (52:42):
He said he was willing to work on it if
I would make changes to become wife material. I said
no and hung up.

Speaker 5 (52:48):
So, yeah, lunch is definitely canceled and we're not together anymore,
but don't worry. He would have skipped lunch to watch
another Andrew Tait Mega compilation, clearly because that's where he's
getting all of his thoughts and opinions from. His mom
didn't really say much other than that she would miss
me and would always care about me. By the way,
if you miss us and you care about us, you
can go listen to full episodes the stories just like

(53:10):
this on Spotify. iHeartRadio, Apple podcasts. Wherever you listen to podcasts,
just search, Okay, story time, do it fifty eight consecutive
days worth of stories. I know it all seems like
it was best for me, but I'm heartbroken and I
didn't expect our relationship to end like this.

Speaker 1 (53:28):
He knew I wanted to work on my.

Speaker 5 (53:29):
Career, wait to have kids, et cetera, and always said
he was fine with it, so it seems like he
changed all of his expectations suddenly. I've been crying NonStop
since the call, and I don't know what to think.

Speaker 1 (53:38):
You should think?

Speaker 3 (53:39):
Thank God, Hey, thank hallelujah, goodness gracious that I got
out of this relationship with this terrible baby man manchild
of a man.

Speaker 1 (53:47):
The baby took the big red pill, and now he says,
google Goga, I hate women.

Speaker 5 (53:52):
Where's my Bugatti? Googoogoo, go Gotti. I feel so stupid
for not seeing that he was like this sooner, and
I just wish I had never dated him. I hope
that gives some closure to everyone, and I appreciate everyone's
help and kind words. Thank you everyone. And we have
some comments here. Let's just read the last one. Candid
Quail nine nine to two seven says, just read the update.

(54:12):
I know it's rough, but wow, consider yourself lucky. This
guy is cheating in some way if it took him
so long to respond, yeah, oh.

Speaker 3 (54:19):
My god, I forgot that. He'll also freaking said defined cheating.

Speaker 1 (54:23):
Yeah.

Speaker 5 (54:23):
Literally, was like, I'm gonna play a four D chess move,
so a defined cheating.

Speaker 1 (54:29):
Hmm. Can I sleep with anybody?

Speaker 5 (54:31):
No?

Speaker 3 (54:31):
No, I guess not.

Speaker 1 (54:32):
And now you've already defined cheating, so I'm not a cheater?

Speaker 3 (54:34):
Yeah? Yeah, can improve it, can't freakuld prove it.

Speaker 5 (54:36):
Man, No one turns on a dime like he just did.
You are both so young getting married after six months
that your age is crazy. He has a lot of
growing up to do and his mommy knows that you
will be just fine, hope. He says, I'm just glad
our relationship ended when he started expressing these views.

Speaker 1 (54:51):
I'd rather that than him hide it from me. Boom.
And that is the end of that story.

Speaker 3 (54:58):
Indeed, bow Man, oh man, and watch out, guys, keep
an eye out.

Speaker 1 (55:01):
Thank god you could have had a red pill husband instead.

Speaker 3 (55:04):
It's just a crazy and you can find a better,
better person. Yes, baby, lordy, lordie, that's the end of
that story.

Speaker 1 (55:12):
Who and the end of that episode.

Speaker 3 (55:14):
Yes. So if you love us, make sure to subscribe.

Speaker 1 (55:17):
We love you and see you now.

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