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Speaker 1 (00:00):
My friend used my husband's spout to get pregnant and
didn't tell me.

Speaker 2 (00:04):
I feel like that's the courteous thing to do, is
to at least let them know.

Speaker 1 (00:09):
You got an extra kid. This happened about six years
ago now, and I'd like to share it with the
Okay fam Well. In order to tell this story, I
need to start at the beginning. This friend and I
have been friends since we were like six. We were
always together because our families were friends. Our friendship grew
stronger over the years to a sister like relationship, or

(00:30):
so I thought anyway. Our families even lived in the
same house for a few years when we were younger,
and we shared a bedroom like real sisters. By the way,
this comes from grumpy Granny twenty on the r slash
Okay storytime subreddit directly.

Speaker 3 (00:46):
So direct from the source.

Speaker 1 (00:48):
People used to tell me that she was a little
weird when I wasn't around. I used to get warnings
all the time that she would talk about me behind
my back, never consider us friends, but someone she would
hang out with when she was bored. Things like that.
I always ignored it because I loved my friend and
didn't want to believe she was awful, but in reality,

(01:08):
she was awful to my face often and I'd still
overlook it young and.

Speaker 3 (01:13):
I, yeah, I can see that she.

Speaker 1 (01:16):
Was also displaying jealousy and controlling behavior. Some examples are
when I got a job, it wasn't even that great
because she made more money than me. At her real job,
she worked as a housekeeper with her mom in a
nursing home. She was always in relationships that were toxic
and was always crying or complaining about it. But if
I said anything, her anger would be direct at me,

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because I just don't understand relationships. She was only a
year older than me, but acted as if she was
my caretaker, and if I didn't do things that were
what she wanted, I'd feel her wrath or she ignored
me until I apologized for things I didn't even know
I did was wrong.

Speaker 3 (01:57):
It sounds like a nightmare friend.

Speaker 1 (02:00):
Very nightmarish. This behavior did not get better with age,
but I was blinded by years of friendship and have
learned very hard lessons. When I was twenty and she
was twenty one, she got in a relationship with her
now fiance, Caitlin twenty three female and it was all great.
They were great together and we got along. Then when
I got in a relationship with my now husband, he

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fit into the little group gray and we all had
fun together. We hung out often and did a couple
things together all the time. I will add this friend
had a drinking problem since about sixteen. She couldn't function
outside of work without a drink in her hand and
was constantly inebriated, brutal, absolutely brutal. I didn't really mind
this because it didn't affect me, and when we were

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younger it was whatever. We always had a good time
and sometimes I'd partake in inebriated activities with her and
it was all good. Until one day when I went
to hang out with them. I had just found out
a week before that I was pregnant with my daughter
and I was alone. I was about six weeks along.
She was one of the first people I told, and
I was over to celebrate the news with them while

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my husband was at work. She was drinking pretty heavily
that evening, and we were talking like normal and making
jokes and having fun. Then she looked at me and said,
can I ask you something really deep and important? And
I said, of course.

Speaker 3 (03:16):
Go ahead. That's what else are friends are for?

Speaker 1 (03:18):
She said that since she and her fiance couldn't conceive naturally,
she wanted to do a She wanted a sperm donor,
but she also said that if they didn't have the
money to do IVF, that they'd have to save for
a while to do it. Then she dropped the bomb.
She said, do you think it would be okay if
we used your husband's sperm for our baby? Since we
really can't afford IVF, maybe it could be natural. We

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could always save up if that makes you uncomfortable, but
it would take so much longer to have a baby,
and I wanted our babies to grow up together.

Speaker 3 (03:50):
Did she just say do it natural?

Speaker 1 (03:53):
If you do it naturally, how many times are you
gotta be doing it naturally?

Speaker 3 (03:56):
Yeah? I don't know. This is up to a year
of Did she forget?

Speaker 2 (04:00):
Like how like the baby just doesn't necessarily happen? Like
at one time?

Speaker 1 (04:04):
Who knows? Dude? My stomach immediately turned into knots and
I just stared at her. I literally couldn't talk or
move in that moment, and just said what she said,
if it was natural, it would be with me and
I would make sure it didn't have to take too
many times to happen, so you don't get hurt.

Speaker 3 (04:22):
You know.

Speaker 1 (04:23):
My jaw was on the floor. I just said, I'm
actually feeling a lot of nausea, and I think I
need to go. We can talk later, and left as
quick as I could walk. Oh my gosh. Yeah, I
got home and I was so shaken from that conversation
that I just cried and cried. It was probably the
emotions from pregnancy, at least that's what I'm blaming it on. Loo.

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When my husband got home, I immediately told him what
she said, and he was just as floored as I was.
I cried in his arm and he held me all
night while he tried to get some sleep. The next day,
that conversation was the only thing I could think about,
so I decided I was done with her. I wanted
it in the friendship before this, because I was finally

(05:06):
seeing all the red flags. But this was just the
yodel that started the avalanche for me.

Speaker 2 (05:13):
The yodel that started the avalanche. I'm stealing that. That
is so good, That is so clever, And shout out
to your husband for also being like appalled by this.

Speaker 1 (05:22):
I texted her everything that was on my mind, all
the years of the thing she's done and said about
me or to me, the red flags I've seen in
the relationship, what she said the night before, and how
it made me feel. I told her I wanted to
have some time to think about what this friendship means
to me, and that I would likely not want to
continue the friendship and wished her the best. This message
was loud and thought out, and I poured my heart

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into it while I was trying to see through the tears.
The message I got in response be get out of
your feelings. That's way too much and I'm not reading
all that have the day you deserve. I blocked her,
and my husband blocked her right away right there, and
was done with the relationship for good, or so I thought,
Oh my.

Speaker 3 (06:02):
Gosh, No, no, we were right there.

Speaker 1 (06:05):
So you get this long time's message and was like,
I'm not reading all that have your day?

Speaker 3 (06:09):
Yeah, she literally hits you with your audacity too long?
Didner read you?

Speaker 1 (06:12):
Thought I was done with the juice? Oh no, that
was just us because it got so much worse. A
year later, I glanced on my husband's phone when I
got up that morning because the phone lit up with
a message. Can anyone guess who was there?

Speaker 3 (06:25):
With a Hey?

Speaker 1 (06:25):
If you guess the see you next Tuesday, you get
a virtual cookie. I merely woke up and asked, one
why was she unblocked? And two why was she texting
him like they were buddies?

Speaker 3 (06:35):
Oh? No, maybe you have a read a husband.

Speaker 1 (06:38):
Husband.

Speaker 3 (06:39):
No, no, he did the tactical decision.

Speaker 1 (06:41):
He told me he didn't know that he will block
her again. I said, no, I want you to text
her and ask her why she's messaged you. He said
he wouldn't do that. So we fought for a while,
and I took the baby and left to my grandparents' house.
My birth giver was there. I hadn't cut her off yet,
but that's what I will call her, Stephanie Tyler looking

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self and she was helping me to get to the
bottom of all this, not out of kindness. She just
likes drama. She got a hold of my ex friend
and asked her directly, what's going on. Ex friend proudly
omitted that she and my husband had never cut contact
with each other at all. As a matter of fact,
he would drop me off at work, then go to
her house and hang out with her and her fiance

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behind my back for months. Another cherry on top.

Speaker 3 (07:27):
Oh my gosh, that's horrific.

Speaker 1 (07:32):
This has been happening even before I stopped the friendship.
They would talk about me behind my back while we
were friends, hang out with me without me knowing, et cetera,
et cetera. When we were friends. I would also wonder
to myself why she would give me weird looks all
the time when we hung out all together. And then
I knew why she sent my esso. So many screenshots

(07:52):
of these messages going back to when they first met
through me about two years or so. So now it's
the husband doing.

Speaker 3 (07:58):
This to her.

Speaker 2 (07:59):
Yeah, I'm I'm taking I redact everything I said that
was positive about the husband, about the husband being a
w He's not, he's your husband.

Speaker 3 (08:07):
Dang, we almost.

Speaker 1 (08:08):
I was devastated, to say the least. It wasn't physically cheating,
but it was definitely a form of cheating, definitely more emotional.
Once he was cornered with proof, he broke and told
me everything and apologized for months and months. It took
me a very long time and lots of therapy to
change on his part to forgive him and stay. We
are still together and she has been cut off for
about six years now. It feels nice to let all

(08:30):
this out, even if it is to strangers.

Speaker 2 (08:32):
Loo.

Speaker 1 (08:33):
We are doing so much together these days and had
had another child together. He hasn't given me any reason
not to trust him. In the same time, we've taken
to hill. Thanks for reading, y'all, and sorry if it
was hard to read. I have ADHD in my mind
always is a jumble mess. This guy we all have.
Dad's good that you guys worked it out. I could
understand why the husband had a hard time cutting off
your friend because they were friends before. Edit to add

(08:56):
I left my husband for almost a year after everything
came out. I wasn't sorry at first because I stayed
for about a month after, but I couldn't take it
anymore and I left with the baby. He began to
ask and beg for another chance, but I wouldn't even
consider at first. About six months after I left, we
talked more and I told him my conditions for even
considering getting back together. The first was individual therapy for

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the both of us, and the second was couple's counseling.
He agreed to both and we did individual at first,
and then we went to couple counseling. It was a
hard road, but we learned that there were many things
wrong in the relationship the way it was before, and
the counselor helped to break it all down so we
could work on it. They gave us tools we could
use to help, and it took a while, but it
helped a lot. After another five months of therapy and counseling,

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I decided I would give it another go. He had
shown me what he did was stupid mistake and that
he doesn't forgive himself for acting the way he did
during and after what had happened. I still get a
little insecure at times, and he reassures me and gives
me his phone to put my mind at ease. I
told him that if I were to get any whidth
of that anything thing was wrong, I was leaving and

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would never come back. I immediately will go into my hot
girl summer phase and play the field and let him
wallow in the misery of his own making. It's a
long healing journey, but I've had a lot of work
to learn to trust him again. Even if it's not
at one hundred percent, I still want to try and
make it work. Unless something happens, then I'm leaving with
or without proof. But I can prove you that we

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will be live every weekday on YouTube at three pm PSD.
Just tap a profile. We have a little bit more.
They worked on it.

Speaker 2 (10:29):
They did op did the work, the hard work, because yeah,
you better believe it.

Speaker 3 (10:35):
That's not easy to do.

Speaker 2 (10:37):
Individuals therapy and then couples counseling and then like actually,
because there's a difference between just going and then applying
the things that you are talking about and learning in
those sessions to your real life.

Speaker 3 (10:48):
That's hard, hard work.

Speaker 1 (10:50):
And as for the physical.

Speaker 3 (10:51):
Treating, oh boy, I.

Speaker 1 (10:54):
Don't think that's the case. My ex friend is a
lesbian and her girlfriend was always with them when they
hung At least that's what the girlfriends told me before
I cut contact with them both. Again, I hope it's
not the case, but I'm choosing to believe it's not
unless something tells me otherwise. Thank you for reading and
wishing me well. I appreciate you guys so much, and
I appreciate you too. Yeah, I'm still hung up on

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the physical cheating. This friend came up with the idea
to have a baby. Natural, I understand that, Like, you know,
the daughters. I feel like the daughters were just an excuse.
I don't understand it. It was just an excuse to maybe
try to sleep with your husband.

Speaker 2 (11:29):
Yeah, I mean, I mean it just it's not a
thing that you do. You just say that you're gonna
save up for IVF.

Speaker 3 (11:37):
Yeah, that's you.

Speaker 2 (11:38):
Don't say that you want to like sleep with your
friend's husband.

Speaker 1 (11:42):
Naturally. Come. I planned my boyfriend's surprise party on the
same day his friend planned his. Now everyone's mad at me.
How you gonna be double the surprise, double the fun.
That's what I always married.

Speaker 3 (11:55):
Yeah, backstory.

Speaker 1 (11:57):
I arranged a surprise party for my boyfriend and added
his friends into a group chat. I further asked them
to add any other of his friends they would think
would like to come. I didn't really know them well
at the time, but didn't know how majority of these
people would prefer having very detailed and set instructions on
how to do things in order to achieve a surprise party.

Speaker 3 (12:19):
By the way, this.

Speaker 1 (12:19):
Comes from Terrible Meaning four one on the r slash
ok storytime subredding so info. Boyfriend has two friend groups,
A childhood friends plus's brother B University friends group A.
Childhood friends are the type of people who have a
separate group chat and three discord meetings lasting way over
an hour each just to plan a weekend trip to

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Codeham in d Mark. I didn't attain this information before
the conflict see below. College friends are the type of
people with all respect, don't fluss over the details, and
just like most people, do the planning. My boyfriend said
he wanted to eat at this particular restaurant, so I
figured out that I could grant his wish by doing both.
Initially by gathering people in his cramped living room space

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for shock value, then together to walk to the dinner place.
But his brother said it wouldn't work because he suggested
to counteract my boyfriend's wishes by bringing my boyfriend to
his his place instead. Childhood friends suggested better ideas, and
it was a lot of back and forth. Sometimes I
found it overwhelming to answer all the questions, Oh boy,
I already see the I see you. I took a

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final decision and said we'll have the surprise party at
the restaurant at six pm. The restaurant gave us fifteen
minutes proper to pimp up the place. At that point,
I just decided to buy all the decorations to do
it all myself because I didn't ask them to neither
split the bill nor help me, so I left that
option open for whatever they feel like. I truly didn't
care as long as they showed up on time.

Speaker 2 (13:44):
Yeah, that's the most important thing for the surprise parties.
Gotta be on time.

Speaker 1 (13:47):
Six pm at Dakota's Pizza Place.

Speaker 3 (13:50):
Gotta get you, gotta be there.

Speaker 1 (13:52):
Come on. Show up at five forty five to help
set up direct directions the build up. I only had
this banner left to put up. After single handedly blowing up, bluing,
and tying twenty balloons to the ceiling, I began stressing
when I realized I needed help and it was five
minutes left. I asked his brother, but he was too
busy writing your card, and I asked another from the
childhood Friends group, but he turned his back. The college

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friends came in just in time and offered some help,
despite the whole Childhood Friends showing up earlier and witnessing this. Later,
I found out that both groups had different experiences of
the group chat and the event itself. Some of the
college friends disclosed to me that they found some of
the childhood friends somewhat cold. So the childhood friends didn't
grow up. They didn't realize that they weren't in the

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center of attention.

Speaker 2 (14:38):
Jealous they like, why does our friend have new friends
from college.

Speaker 1 (14:43):
The conflict posts my surprise party. One girl in the
childhood friends personally sent me and my boyfriend snaps of
eighty percent of my boyfriend's inner circles friends at another
surprise birthday party of his best friend. I know that
sometimes you sent a snap to all of your friend
in Snapchat without thinking, but these were more like long

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but videos of the same event. So I asked, how
come my boyfriend is not invited. I didn't finish explaining
that I would not take it personally, but if I
was left out, that's okay to only invite my boyfriend alone.
Then I started to overthink whether the fact someone got
left out from my surprise party and asked another one
in the childhood friends about how come he didn't ask

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his friend for my surprise party. Did that make sense?

Speaker 3 (15:27):
Nope?

Speaker 2 (15:28):
Or not?

Speaker 3 (15:28):
That's what they said. That's what they said. That doesn't
make sense.

Speaker 1 (15:31):
Basically, someone got left out and got jealous. Yeah, I
fed up big time by asking at all, because people
who take things personally will feel attacked. Well, turns out
some of these people take things personally, so I apparently
started armageddon or whatnot by Loki asking questions on Snap.
They chose to leak it out to the rest of

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the party and they all blamed me for ruining the
atmosphere without me even being there. They discussed how bad
I was in my own surprise group. They just caused
how bad I was in my own surprise group party
chats since they felt like I didn't validate their suggestions
and responded to slowly because these are the high maintenance
childhood friends are high maintenance. They're like, what aout this?

Speaker 3 (16:13):
What about that? We should do this?

Speaker 1 (16:14):
We do that, And She's just like, I just want
to have dinner with my boyfriend and have like a
dump found look on his face.

Speaker 2 (16:20):
I just wanted to go surprise and then okay, then
we can just move forward.

Speaker 1 (16:25):
Yeah, my boyfriend didn't defend me and said he asked
for an intervention. So basically me against eleven people from
the childhood friend group. I needed time to work through
this because I could wrap my head around this. I
later agreed to meet these people in a neutral space
to explain myself and my communication in a public space.
The result they didn't want me to meet in a

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public space, and I felt I wasn't in the right
mindset to meet them at their space since I was
worried about two endings, one me getting run over and disassociated,
or two me shaming the whole effing group and burn
all the bridges.

Speaker 2 (17:01):
Well, yeah, those are definitely two suboptimal results that you'd
want to avoid.

Speaker 1 (17:06):
They threaten that there will be a no next time
because one of the childhood friends had taken their day
off to discuss this. So my boyfriend responded with the group,
I want to separate my lives for now. I wrote
a reasonable lengthy post in the group chat to explain
and express my opinions of this whole ordeal. In short,
I explained that I don't really owe people who talk

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behind my back anytime of the day, but are willing
to meet you guys in a neutral space to discuss
this and it is not even about me either, but
in fact that you were crap talking to me about
one of your own friend's girlfriends behind his back. I
want you to feel comfortable with asking or expressing your
opinions to me or him instead of assuming stuff because

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I know we are different people. I got no response.
Well that's a group chat.

Speaker 2 (17:52):
I know. Want to response. This is how old are they?
Here's early twenties. This feels very very early twenties to me.

Speaker 1 (17:57):
Thirty two male, thirty two females.

Speaker 2 (17:59):
Oh no, oh, there is way too much BS to
be dealing with the early thirties thirties are these people?

Speaker 3 (18:06):
These people are ridiculous the result.

Speaker 1 (18:09):
I think my boyfriend should have defended me from the
get go, but he tried to be diplomatic, so his
friends uninvited me to one of their weddings just two
weeks ahead. He said, I did everything worse by writing
that response. I think the crap talking based on miscommunication
and the withdrawal from the wedding invitation as a punishment
and having passive aggressive partner revoked a deep childhood trauma

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in me. I fell into a deep, acute depression, to
the point where I one day woke up with a
total broken mind because I could have stopped blaming myself. Luckily,
my friends picked me up on the same day because
I acted strange. Now I've severely scared my own friends
because I'm sort of the last person they would expect
that from. Since I've unerionically prevented others from doing the same.

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Am I wrong for defending and standing up for myself?
And are the childhood friends what we define as bullies?

Speaker 3 (18:59):
How do I figure or move.

Speaker 1 (19:00):
On from this? Thanks for any reply, And by the way,
you can join us live every weekday at three PMPST.

Speaker 3 (19:06):
You just tap her profile we have an update.

Speaker 1 (19:08):
What are our thoughts?

Speaker 2 (19:10):
I definitely don't think you're the a hole for like
clearly expressing like how you felt in that situation. These
people were talking about you behind your back, and it
always sucks to be like somebody's partner and then you
find out their friends like don't like you.

Speaker 3 (19:26):
That's always rough.

Speaker 1 (19:27):
And plus it's weird that your boyfriend's not defending you
at all.

Speaker 2 (19:32):
Oh yeah, that's this situation that's definitely a big red flag.

Speaker 3 (19:35):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (19:36):
So it's like they've probably said some of this stuff
to your boyfriend. Oh yeah, and he's like been like,
come on, guys and knock it off.

Speaker 3 (19:42):
And it too.

Speaker 1 (19:42):
I want to underline that I didn't want to get
rid of myself because of one guy and eleven people
that are not even my friends. It felt like waking
up to her nightmare, realizing I chose this partner in
the thirties and blame myself heavily for not making better
decisions At this time, I feel like I kind of
rebrest back to when I was kid and was severely bullied.
And the title of the original post is my now

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ex boyfriend didn't defend me, so I defended myself. Was
I wrong for doing that?

Speaker 3 (20:10):
So they broke up?

Speaker 2 (20:11):
Okay, yep, it's good that guy clearly was not on
your side.

Speaker 1 (20:15):
Oh heck no, hack no, And plus, like, what the
heck with all these the childhood friends need to like
chill out, just be true to you.

Speaker 2 (20:22):
That's right, You've got all this toxic baggage that were
these groups of people. Now they're out of your life.
Thank goodness. I'm moving away, but I'm too guilty to
leave my friend's disabled son. When I was in college,
I got a job looking after an elderly couple's middle
aged disabled son, John on afternoons and some weekends. Okay,

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John is unable to take care of himself and requires
constant supervision, but he is an overall very pleasant person.
I grew up with two severely disabled siblings, so I'm
quite comfortable with John. I don't have any formal caretaking experience,
and because Jan and Jerry were retired, I was almost
never complaly alone with John. They took on the heavy lifting,
so to speak, but they liked to have me around
so they can have the freedom to run errands by themselves,

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go on walks, take naps, et cetera. Caring for John
was truly a full time job, and hiring me helped
to lessen the burden. They were extremely kind people paid
me well and treated me like family. Nice and by
the way, this comes from user pickle the Sunflower on
the r slash Okay storytime subriddity. So over time I
grew very close with Jan, Jerry, and John. I brought
over meals for them every week and we would eat together.

Speaker 1 (21:28):
That's so sweet.

Speaker 2 (21:29):
It stopped being about the compensation, although they did compensate
me generously.

Speaker 3 (21:33):
This whole situation went on for about four years.

Speaker 2 (21:35):
Once I graduated college, I stopped working for them formally,
but still spent time with them regularly. Around this time,
Jerry passed away.

Speaker 3 (21:42):
Oh.

Speaker 2 (21:44):
Jan and I remained close and I went back to
assisting her with John on a part time basis, even
though I had a full time job at this time.
John is Jan and Jerry's only child, and all of
their siblings are either dead or live far away. They
had many close friends from church and around the community,
but it was still difficult to find Jan the support
that she needed. About a year after Jerry passed away,
Jan was diagnosed with cancer. She continued to care for

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John full time, even while battling cancer and undergoing treatment,
but eventually, as her disease continued to progress, she moved
John to live in a full time assisted living center.
Towards the end of her life, we visited him together
and she expressed her fear that he would have no
visitors and become depressed.

Speaker 3 (22:20):
After she passed away.

Speaker 2 (22:21):
She asked me if I would continue to visit him regularly,
and I agreed. She told me that this was her
only dying witch. Jan passed away over three years ago,
and I've remained a part of John's life ever since.
I visit his care facility that is over an hour
away at least twice a week because it is important
to me to uphold my promise to Jant Why so weak?

(22:41):
You're a person of principal ope, and I respect that
you're an angel. However, my husband recently received a once
in a lifetime job offer across the country. We're talking
thousands of miles away. I'm so happy for my husband,
but I can't seem to get this awful pit out
of my stomach. If it wasn't for John, I would
have absolutely no hesitation moved away, But I can't let
go of my overwhelming guilt. John really does have no

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other visitors. If he's lucky, a church friend will come
by once every six months or so. If I leave,
he will be alone. Yes, he has his caretakers, but
they care for dozens of people each day. Most of
the other patients in this care facility are far less
amicable and pleasant than John is, so he has difficulty
making friends. The personal connection is just not there, and
without it, I worry he will regress.

Speaker 3 (23:25):
Oh that's a lot. That's a lot to worry about.

Speaker 2 (23:28):
I really don't know if I can move across the
country in good conscience, but I know refusing to leave
could jeopardize my marriage. Do I have any options? Legally
if I wanted to pursue moving John to a care
facility in my new city. Money is extremely tight, so
I can't fathom hiring a lawyer or taking on any
personal financial responsibility over John. But I just don't know
what to do. Sorry for the length.

Speaker 3 (23:48):
Wow, you're an absolute angel. Yeah, but let's get into
this edit.

Speaker 2 (23:52):
Thank you all for the overwhelming amount of replies. I
never expected this post would receive so much attention. I'm
still sorting through my feelings, but I have to accept
that it would be crazy to put my life on
hold j just to be there for John. Thank you
all for the amazing suggestions. I'm going to get John
a tablet and planned bi weekly video conversations. That idea
never occurred to me. We'll start video chatting before I leave,
so he has a chance to get used to the

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new form of communication in conjunction with the usual in
person visits. Of course, I'm also in the process of
working with his church to find him more visitors. Thank
you all so much. My husband thanks you. In response
to the question over who has power of attorney over John,
to be completely honest, I don't know. I would imagine
it's one of his answer uncles. That worries me, however,
because they are all in their eighties and nineties.

Speaker 3 (24:34):
I have a lot of unanswered questions about John's future.

Speaker 2 (24:36):
But I do know Jan and Jerry planned well financially,
and he has a large trust. I'm going to talk
with the staff at his care facility and see if
they can give me any additional information. And here comes
the update. So far, everything is played out as positively
as it can.

Speaker 1 (24:51):
For op I see some maneuvering.

Speaker 3 (24:52):
Yeah, that was pretty slick.

Speaker 2 (24:54):
Last time I posted, I was overcome with guilt about
the prospect of leaving my disabled friend to move across
the country. I honestly couldn't tell you the amount of
hours I cried over the situation. It opened up so
many cans of worms. Before this, I was living on autopilot.
Coming to terms with the situation made me realize that
I'm still grieving my parents. I still feel guilty about
not putting in enough work taking care of my disabled siblings,

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therefore putting the burden onto my parents. Oh yes, there's
a whole lot that's being unpacked right here.

Speaker 3 (25:22):
Oh wow, I.

Speaker 2 (25:23):
Feel guilty about not visiting my siblings more. I miss
Jan and Jerry terribly. I missed when I was younger,
and everything seemed so much easier. I didn't want to
leave my home of thirty years, but I knew I
had to. I was so scared of letting my husband down.
I just had so many emotions tangled up in my
promise to Jan, my commitment to John, and the prospect
of moving thousands of miles away. I received so much

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great advice in my post. I know I didn't reply
to most of the commenters, aside from a few special
private messages, but I really can't put into words how
much all the support meant to me.

Speaker 3 (25:53):
It really helped me when I was.

Speaker 2 (25:54):
In a low place. So here goes with the update.
My husband and I bit the bullet and made the
big move this February where I left. I bought you
on a tablet and we practiced video calling three or
four times. Honestly, it didn't work very well. He didn't
seem to connect with me as well through Skype. He
was distracted and irritable, and he didn't seem to recognize
that it was me inside that tiny computer. The last
time I visited him, I was heartbroken. I gave him

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a huge hug.

Speaker 3 (26:17):
And a kiss.

Speaker 2 (26:18):
He's not normally super into physical contact like that, but
he took it really well. I gave him a care
package of some of his favorite candies and treats, and
he was really happy.

Speaker 3 (26:25):
It was so bittersweet.

Speaker 2 (26:27):
I can't say I ever really felt confident in choice,
but I can confidently say that you can join us
live on YouTube every weekday at three PMPST.

Speaker 3 (26:38):
Just tapped the profile what a CTA bro paint.

Speaker 1 (26:41):
I was like, really connected with the story.

Speaker 3 (26:43):
It was smooth. Come on, it was smooth, and we
got a little bit left here.

Speaker 2 (26:48):
But okay, let's let's talk about where Op's at.

Speaker 3 (26:52):
Did a good move.

Speaker 1 (26:53):
I think this is what is best for you to
grow as a person and going around the country. That's
just the best you can do.

Speaker 3 (26:59):
You did it.

Speaker 2 (26:59):
Yeah, it's definitely a hard decision, and there's a lot
different stuff mixed up into it, like your commitment to
you know, Jan, and then your own stuff with your
own siblings and your own parents. And from my perspective,
I don't think you've done anything wrong. I think you
did right by Jan and and by John.

Speaker 1 (27:14):
Oh yeah, oh yeah, yeah, yeah.

Speaker 3 (27:16):
So let's finish this off here.

Speaker 2 (27:18):
We continued with video calls bi weekly until about two
months ago when I received a call from his treatment
facility that John passed away after choking on a plastic
game piece.

Speaker 3 (27:28):
Oh oh my god. That's horrible. Oh my god. I'm sorry.

Speaker 2 (27:32):
That's Oh, that's horrible. I'm still utterly devastated. He was
one of the most special people I've ever known, and
it's hard to accept the reality of him really being gone.
It's still a shock to me just typing this out.
I know Jan and Jerry believed in heaven, so I
like to think that they are all together, happy and
at peace.

Speaker 3 (27:48):
Now I miss all three of them very much.

Speaker 2 (27:51):
Oh wow, I mean, is there is that negligence on
the part of the care facility, Like isn't he supposed
to be in like a full assisted living scenario?

Speaker 1 (28:00):
Like, dude, I don't know. I mean game piece. He
may have just been doing his own thing, like a
like the recreational part, and no one was like right
there to see it, and he takes it off.

Speaker 2 (28:10):
It might have been a hard thing to catch. Yeah,
it's terrible.

Speaker 3 (28:17):
Sorry.

Speaker 1 (28:20):
Oh there's more.

Speaker 3 (28:21):
Yeah, there's just a little bit more.

Speaker 2 (28:22):
I can't thank this sub and my professional licensed therapist
for the support. I know this is a really depressing update,
but I've wanted to thank all of the commenters on
my original post for a while, and it seemed fitting
to make.

Speaker 3 (28:35):
A final post. And that is the end one story.

Speaker 2 (28:40):
I suspect that you are going through it, or we're
going through it.

Speaker 3 (28:44):
And I wish you all the best.

Speaker 2 (28:46):
In navigating the emotional mine field that you have found
yourself in, and I hope that you can find solace
in truly believing that they're all in a better place
right now. They are.

Speaker 3 (28:57):
They are there together together.

Speaker 4 (29:00):
My boyfriend and my best friend cheated on me. I
just found out. My friends all knew. I found it
a month ago that the love of my life and
my best friend have been having an affair for at
least the past year. That's devastating. After looking into it more,
not only did all of our friends know, but they

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have also been actively hanging.

Speaker 3 (29:23):
Out with them.

Speaker 4 (29:24):
That's disgusting. I am a socially awkward individual, so making
friends for me is hard. I met all of them
through my best friends, so I guess it's natural that
they chose him over me. By the way, this comes
from visual cow six five seven on the Okay storytime
Separate It.

Speaker 3 (29:39):
So I hated all of them.

Speaker 4 (29:41):
I spent twenty four to seven with one of them
when their parent died because they didn't want to be
alone and were a danger to themselves. I was there
for another when her boss was harassing her and she
needed help finding a new job. I let another one
stay at my place for free for three months because
his parents kicked him out when he told them.

Speaker 3 (29:58):
He was gay.

Speaker 4 (30:00):
All six of those a holes had been through so much,
and I was there for every one of them. Now
I realize they all just kept me around to use
me when they needed, including my girlfriend and best friend.
I helped the man start his business when no one
would invest in him. Still hasn't really taken off, and
he still asks for my time to help him do things.

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I've been working day night to help her pay off
the medical bills from her surgery after she had an accident.
I've been out of the house for a few months
because my mother was sick and I needed to help her.
But I still commute back ten hours every weekend to
make sure my girlfriend is doing all right. App you're
doing too much. I have gone through her phone and
seen all the pictures, the flirty messages, and the group

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chats out all of them planning outings, meetings and whatnot.
I've seen the disparaging messages about me, the I love yous,
Oh my god, and then basically flip flopping between still
loving me, leaving me, not wanting to hurt me anymore,
and then realizing they need me, they all still need me.
I was pissed, and I mean I was so angry.

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I scared myself. The thing about being the go to
guy for help and being the quiet one is that
people trust you. They tell you things, things that can
get you in a lot of trouble. Oh Dozpia have
blackmail material?

Speaker 1 (31:16):
I know things.

Speaker 4 (31:17):
I spent the past month preparing my plan, getting everything
in order to absolutely implode their lives in a way
you can never recover without someone altruistically help helping you out.
But who will help them?

Speaker 2 (31:31):
Not me?

Speaker 4 (31:32):
And they can't ask each other because they will all
be in the same dang boat. Everything was ready. I
had pictures, videos, and text logs. Oh my god, I'll
be really at A receipt police would have been up
in December. I wasn't renewing that I have a new
job lined up which would pay less, but I know
I will enjoy. All My main items were out, and
the rest I didn't care for. I pretended to go

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out to my mom's. I waited an hour and came back.
I could see them through the windows, him and her
cuddling and kissing while they all sat around chatting like
it's a regular day. They were hugging and kissing each
other in front of everyone. That's, oh my god, that's disgusting.

Speaker 3 (32:11):
No class whatsoever.

Speaker 4 (32:13):
I took a picture of that scene. I was ready
to send the text and emails, basically, ready to set
their lives ablaze. But I couldn't. No matter how much
someone has hurt me, I can't be responsible for ruining
someone's life. Sure they did the things, and I was
just unearthing them, it would have still been my decision
that burned them all, and there would have been collateral
damage to people who did nothing. Ope, he is truly

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the bigger person here.

Speaker 2 (32:37):
You don't want to cause collateral damage with your shenanigans, but.

Speaker 4 (32:41):
It's like, damn, all of these people were terrible to you.
I had come this far and had to do something, though,
so I just sent the picture in the group chat
and looked in. One by one they checked the message
and started panicking. I guess one of them finally spots
my car and I see them all look at me. Oh,
he's like in the window, just like hold aother camera,

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just waiting for someone to notice him. I don't know
what was going on in their heads. Was it panic, regret, guilt, sadness,
who knows. I started my car and as I started
driving off, my ex came out, barefoot in the cold,
moving as fast as she could in her state. I
don't know if she was crying because of guilt or regret,
but I didn't care. I drove off to my mom.

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They called me a bunch of times and sent me
thousands of messages. I used to read all of them,
and with each one I felt less for them. It
went from asking to forgiveness, to anger to groveling, basically
to questions about how they will do the things I
used to do for all of them so ridiculous. So
be like, how am I going to get to my

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job if no one drives me?

Speaker 2 (33:46):
And oh he's like what, Yeah, They're like, didn't you
know you signed up to be the group parent. You
take care of all of us, and we do nothing
for you. And we do nothing for you except clearly upset.
You just make you mad. I don't care. I'm getting
a new number on Monday. I still get a new
sobbing voicemail from my ex every twenty to thirty minutes
asking for me to come back. I get texts from

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my ex best friend to come back and beat him up,
that he would sell everything he owns and give it
to me. My friend's apologizing for their parts and wanting
to be pals again. I don't know what drives this,
but they know. I've read some of them. I think
I'm over it. I don't feel angry anymore, and I
feel happy. I didn't do what they did to me.
It would never have been satisfying for me. And there

(34:30):
is an update. What are your thoughts right now? I
think the good move is to be over it. I
think it's just move on. I think their attempt to
sort of I don't know, for him to be like,
come here and I'll just let you beat me up
and I'll sell everything that I own. It's like, even
if they did do that, it wouldn't change anything. It's
never going to be back to where it was. Nothing

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fixes that that it would just be like, Wow, not
only do I have the trauma of everything else that
I've had to go through, but I just beat up my.

Speaker 3 (34:58):
Best friend like and I don't feel good about it.

Speaker 4 (35:01):
Yeah, weird, weird behavior.

Speaker 3 (35:04):
Let them go. They're in the past, Now send them
off to the sun.

Speaker 4 (35:07):
Anyone who is willing to lie for that long yeah,
is insane.

Speaker 3 (35:12):
Yeah about that?

Speaker 4 (35:13):
That's crazy. That's crazy behavior. And there is an update.
Hi everyone, I happen to remember this account, so I
decided why not update you all. First of all, my
mom is doing much better and is preparing for a
five K. Her goal is to complete one by twenty
twenty five. Thank you for all your well wishes. I
would like to tell you everything with me is going
great and I'm doing amazing. That my ex friends and

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girlfriend are doing terribly and our destitute life isn't a
movie or a storybook, and things don't work out the
way we would like them to. Wait, no, no, but
it can't get pretty close to one. Oh okay, cool,
I like the switch up there.

Speaker 3 (35:46):
That was a double switch.

Speaker 4 (35:47):
Yeah, I'm doing amazing. My new job has been one
of the most fulfilling experiences of my life. Since I
stopped paying for unnecessary medical bills and rent for a
place I never really cared for, I've saved so much
money I decided to finally invest that money into something
worthwhile myself. I didn't hit the gym or anything, but

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I did get some work done on my teeth nice,
get some in visi.

Speaker 3 (36:10):
Lines, some new chompers.

Speaker 4 (36:12):
Oooh, they had some minor discoloration when they shaped it
for a crown and removed the layers. It looked like
it was painted with pepsi or something.

Speaker 3 (36:20):
Damn.

Speaker 4 (36:20):
It was a boost in confidence. I started buying more
and more clothes and building outfits. I started anti anxiety meds,
which it brought me out of my shell. I feel
so much better. I met someone a few weeks ago.
We've been talking through text and it seems to be
going well. I don't really know what's going on with
the people I left behind. I heard rumors that came

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from a long chain of people, so don't trust them really.
My ex and ex best friend are having a baby,
which has caused financial issue for them with the medical
debt and struggling business venture, but are somehow making it work.

Speaker 2 (36:52):
Good for them, I guess for making it work. But
also good on you for staying away from that friend
group because now they've got a baby on the way.

Speaker 4 (36:59):
Oh, I realized he was talking about the girl that
betrayed him. But I mean, like, I guess, I was like,
I love that. No, I'm changing my energy a little bit. Still,
like it's fine.

Speaker 2 (37:07):
I guess people deserve to have their pregnancy celebrated. That
I suppose, even given the context. But good you forgetting
out of there before you had to deal with that exactly.

Speaker 3 (37:15):
Imagine. I love that.

Speaker 1 (37:17):
There we go.

Speaker 3 (37:18):
Yeah.

Speaker 4 (37:18):
Another one of them has gotten engaged to his girlfriend.
Last I remember he was single, so don't even know
for how long they've been involved. The one I housed
for three months is doing fine as well, but may
have gotten an STD from one of his one night buddies.
I love that. I'm sorry, I don't love that.

Speaker 3 (37:32):
I'm just one night buddies. That's what I love about
that is one night buddies.

Speaker 4 (37:36):
I have no information on the last dude, so it
seems like they're all getting their you know, their lives
are not doing that great.

Speaker 2 (37:42):
I think without ope, it would have been pretty been
a lot worse off.

Speaker 3 (37:46):
That's where they're at right now.

Speaker 4 (37:47):
So a mixed bag of good for me and a
little bad for them, but not terrible, just normal life issues.
It's close as one gets to karmic justice. I guess.
The last contact I had with my ex was an
email six months ago. She detailed how sorry she was
about the fallout of her actions. She just fell in
love with him while still loving me and didn't really
know how to proceed from there. Not like that, not like.

Speaker 3 (38:10):
How you did, not at all what you did.

Speaker 4 (38:12):
That was the worst way to do it.

Speaker 2 (38:13):
Actually, I can empathize with that, though, like life can
get complicated and if you have real feelings for two
people at the same time, it's hard to navigate.

Speaker 3 (38:21):
Just don't do it like she did. Talk to your partner.

Speaker 4 (38:24):
It was a bad time for her, as she relied
on me so much. That made her resentful, and something
about being with him made her feeling control.

Speaker 3 (38:32):
That's a terrible reason.

Speaker 4 (38:33):
You know what you can control? Joining us live every
weekday at three PMPST on YouTube. Just tap our profile.
That's right, and there is a little bit left. But
do you have any closing fault?

Speaker 3 (38:42):
I mean, you know, I will say this.

Speaker 2 (38:45):
I think it's probably a blessing in disguise that Op's
ultimate revenge plan sort of got, you know, mixed, because.

Speaker 3 (38:52):
It ended up working out just fine.

Speaker 2 (38:54):
You're on the up, there on the down and if
you didn't have to go out of your way to
do it, and that stuff doesn't make you feel good.

Speaker 3 (39:00):
On the tail end of it.

Speaker 4 (39:01):
There's a little bit left to the story. She ended
it with how much she regrets her actions and the
hurt she caused, but doesn't regret loving me or him,
and that she still loves us both and will always
be here if I need her. I never responded because
there was no need. I can understand her perspective in
this doesn't mean I can done her actions, but I
can somewhat forgive her and move on from this permanently.

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Humans are complex, and so is love. Sometimes we hurt
the ones we love the most. While I don't like
her or her actions, I do believe she loved us both.
She doesn't seem to have any reason to lie anyway.
Se le Vi having a good evening, guys, and don't
spend your energy getting upset or anything on my behalf.
And that is the end.

Speaker 3 (39:42):
What a kind.

Speaker 2 (39:43):
That closing statement so kind. Don't get any of your
energy wrapped up in my story.

Speaker 4 (39:47):
I forbid my boyfriend from going to a wedding with
his ex girlfriend, especially since I wasn't invited.

Speaker 2 (39:54):
A guy just found out how girlfriends work. He's like,
I don't invite my ex, I invite the one I'm with. Now.

Speaker 4 (40:00):
For context, me and my boyfriend Sam have been together
for a year and a half. We broke up last
summer for two months, but got back together. During our break,
Sam met up with his ex girlfriend, Rachel, whom he
dated for four years prior to our relationship. By the way,
this comes from Candid Plankton on the Okay Storytime severed
it so they only met once and nothing came of it. However,

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Rachel still has feelings for Sam and was hoping they
would rekindle things. Rachel was enraged and threw a fit
whenever she found out that me and Sam got back together.
She sent him a lot of really nasty messages and
continued to do so for several months afterward, even though
he never responded to her. Rachel and Sam both of
mutual friends who are getting married. They were both asked

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to be bridesmaids and groomsmen in the wedding. In February,
Rachel asked the bride if it would be okay if
Sam did not have a plus one for the wedding,
because she wouldn't be able to handle seeing him with
anyone else. I don't think you can ask that. Whenever
Sam found out out, he immediately contacted both the bride
and groom. They assured him that Rachel's request would not

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have an impact on the decision for plus one. Since then,
she has still continued to try to reach out to Sam,
including going as far as contacting me via Instagram regarding
the upcoming wedding. She started to harass me and even
admitted that contacting me was for her own self gain.
In April, me and Sam were both invited to the
engagement party. Of course Rachel was there, but we were

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having such a great time that we barely even noticed
her existence. At three am that night, Rachel texted Sam,
yet again degrading both of us. She told Sam that
he was not going to be getting a plus one
to the wedding and did not make a fuss about it.
Like last time. I found the comment odd because invitations
had not been sent out, yet why is she the

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one telling him this instead of the bride or groom. Regardless,
Sam finally responded to Rachel and told us to never
contact us again. Fast forward to the present day. Sam
got the wedding invitation and it did not include a
plus one. He contacted the groom and the response was
that they had to prioritize other couples who have been together,

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longer lived together, and or both know the bride and
groom due to the budget. I know one hundred percent
that a wedding should only be about the bride and
groom and what they want. If they don't want Sam
to have a plus one, that is their call. I'm
not entirely convinced that Rachel did not have a part
in that decision. She's a lot closer to the bride

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than Sam is to the groom. So am I the
a hole for asking my boyfriend not to go to
the wedding without me? This would mean he would have
to drop out of.

Speaker 3 (42:39):
Being a groomsman.

Speaker 4 (42:40):
The only reason I felt uncomfortable with him going is
due to the relentless harassment about the wedding by Rachel.
If she had been respectful and leftis alone. I would
have no problem with him going without me. However, that
was not the case. She has continuously disrespected me, my boyfriend,
and our relationship. She has no clue what a boundary is.
Us want this to be over and there is an

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update and I have thoughts.

Speaker 3 (43:03):
I do too. What are your things? You both got thoughts?

Speaker 2 (43:06):
I do think, especially because he's a groomsman, I think
if you kept him from going to this, it would
be an a hole.

Speaker 4 (43:12):
I think it would be an a whole move to
say you cannot go to this wedding, especially because he's
been so respectful about this whole situation. He's been like,
you know what, I'm cutting Rachel off. Yeah, I'm not
talking her, she texts me, I said, don't talk to me.

Speaker 2 (43:24):
Ever, again, he's done all the right things in terms
of how to communicate with the person who's the problem.

Speaker 3 (43:29):
The person who's the problem is not getting married. It's
not their wedding.

Speaker 4 (43:32):
This person is just extrasson. And I think that if
if he doesn't want to go, that's a different story.
But I don't think that you can not allow him
to go.

Speaker 2 (43:40):
You can't because also that means still she's winning then
if you don't allow him to go, Rachel just won
that entire encounter.

Speaker 3 (43:46):
She has power over your existence. This completely just.

Speaker 4 (43:50):
Don't even think about it.

Speaker 2 (43:51):
Irrelevant woman, Rachel is now going to dictate what you
and your husband can do.

Speaker 4 (43:56):
Your relationship has lasted the test of time, so don't
let her.

Speaker 3 (44:01):
They are married, right, Oh he is married to this.

Speaker 4 (44:03):
I think that's sir.

Speaker 2 (44:05):
Boyfriend, never mind, but they're lasting. So I always either
assume people are married or too many assumptions.

Speaker 4 (44:10):
But there is an update. My boyfriend talked to the groom.
Due to the budget, they had to limit plus ones
to couples who live together or who will be traveling
out of town to attend couples that live together. That's
such a specific.

Speaker 2 (44:22):
Yeah, it feels like a gotcha type thing that and
it does feel like Rachel's influencing this a little bit clearly.

Speaker 3 (44:27):
I don't know.

Speaker 4 (44:28):
Yeah, it feels like she said before, I'm gonna make
sure that you can't bring your girlfriend.

Speaker 2 (44:32):
It's not it's gonna be like we don't want anyone
who's been living in sin or wait, is it the opposite,
they don't live Yeah, yeah, like.

Speaker 4 (44:39):
We only watch you or if you're living sin. I
just think that. I mean, it seems like they said
that Ope's boyfriend was one of the grooms men.

Speaker 3 (44:48):
You should let him take his girlfriend to the wedding.
He's your grooms men, he's one of the boys.

Speaker 4 (44:53):
The wedding is being paid for by the bride's family.
It seems like they had an input on who was invited.
The groom did not know so the full extent of
Rachel's behavior towards me and my boyfriend. The groom was
also surprised to hear Rachel told my boyfriend in April
he would not be getting a plus one, as they
had not decided at that time.

Speaker 3 (45:11):
Suspicious.

Speaker 4 (45:12):
My boyfriend did come to see that it was disrespectful
for the bride and groom to not allow him to
have a plus one, even if his ex was not attending.
The wedding party should have priority over regular guests. With
that being said, he does not want to completely burn
a bridge with the groom, which I don't want that
damnin either. We both agreed it will be fine for
him to attend the ceremony but skip the reception. The

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groom said I would be allowed to attend the rehearsal, dinner,
and welcome party. As far as Rachel, my boyfriend plans
to ignore her and immediately shut down any of her antics.
My boyfriend is truly disgusted with Rachel and her psychotic behavior. Ultimately,
she wanted to break things up between me and my boyfriend,
but she's only made us stronger. And there is another update.

Speaker 3 (45:55):
Oh yeah, you guys.

Speaker 4 (45:56):
Are jacked in the relationship department.

Speaker 2 (45:59):
Your relationship has so many veins in its arms because
it's so yoked.

Speaker 4 (46:03):
You're drinking the relationship protein power.

Speaker 3 (46:05):
Yeah, and you're getting relationships steroids. Yeah as well.

Speaker 4 (46:09):
Kimberly Finan says Rachel influenced them, But they could just
be hoping to avoid any last minute breakups that would
waste a plate cost items. Like they've been together for
some time. I guess because they did break up for
two months.

Speaker 3 (46:22):
Oh wait, I forgot about that.

Speaker 2 (46:24):
Yeah, that is a little maybe that's why they're like,
only if you're live in Sin, if you're committed enough
to live in Sin, then you can come to our wedding.

Speaker 4 (46:31):
But it seems like you guys aren't willing to do that.
But there's an update. The groom told my boyfriend months
ago that I would be allowed to attend the rehearsal dinner,
welcome party, and part of the reception. We were told
they would not be allowed to attend the ceremony or
dinner portion of the reception due to the budget. After
the formalities are completed, I will be allowed to attend.
A week before the wedding, of the groom invited my

(46:53):
boyfriend to brunch on Sunday, the day.

Speaker 3 (46:54):
After the wedding.

Speaker 4 (46:55):
He said it was going to be super cash thing. I, however,
was not invited to this brunch. But that's even weirder.
That's not even I mean, unless they're paying for the brunch.

Speaker 3 (47:05):
I would assume that secret brunch.

Speaker 4 (47:08):
My boyfriend reassured me he would not be attending without me.
During the wedding versal, my boyfriend decided to double check
with the groom about me coming to the versal dinner.
Turns out I had been uninvited.

Speaker 3 (47:20):
From the dinner. Oh so now you're uninvited from everything.

Speaker 4 (47:23):
Twice Opie has been told that she was allowed to
come to these events and.

Speaker 3 (47:26):
Is being uninvited.

Speaker 2 (47:27):
Okay, I think at this point, if you're the husband,
you gotta not go out of on principle, being like,
why are you guys? Oh, the boyfriend, the boyfriend. I
keep assuming that these people are married. I keep assuming
that they're married. They're acting they're not even living in sin.

Speaker 4 (47:40):
They're not well, would it be living in sin if
they were?

Speaker 3 (47:43):
Okay, this is a really hard spot to be in. Yeah,
I am picking between the guy, get.

Speaker 2 (47:47):
Married, your buddy, your homie, and like, they're clearly disrespecting
your girlfriend.

Speaker 4 (47:51):
Oh, that's a rough spot to be in iteat. Turns
out I had been uninvited from the dinner. We were
informed of this thirty minutes before the start. That's that's ridiculous.
That's ridiculous. Oh, the groom told my boyfriend I did
not have a seat, but he would love to have
me at the welcome party. Afterward, my boyfriend skipped the
rehearsal dinner. This boyfriend is great.

Speaker 3 (48:13):
Check in every box. Right.

Speaker 4 (48:15):
We ended up going to a local bar until the
welcome party started. Once we got to the welcome party,
the groom came up to me and apologized for the politics,
which sounds less like a budget issue and more like
Rachel was.

Speaker 3 (48:27):
Throwing a fix.

Speaker 2 (48:28):
Yeah, it sounds like You've just let the cat out
of the.

Speaker 4 (48:31):
Bear, like you just said something you didn't mean to say.
He told me he was happy I was there and
looked forward to having me at the reception tomorrow. Two
people commented on us missing reversal dinner, but I just
changed the subject. After the welcome party ended, we all
rallied to a bar close by. I was standing at
the bar talking to one of the guests when the
bride inputed herself into our conversation. The bride would only

(48:54):
look at and talk to the other girl, even though
I was adding input into the conversation. It was just
like the interview who could de flaw Did with Blake Lively.
I felt so uncomfortable that I ended up walking away.
The next day before the wedding, I met up for
brunch with the girl. She informed me that as soon
as I walked away, the bride started talking crap about me.

(49:15):
The bride told her I was originally invited to the wedding,
but that Rachel, my boyfriend's ex, said she would not
be able to handle it. Rachel figure it out. The
girl said it seemed like the bride was trying to
get her to not be friends with me and to
exclude me. She said it seemed like the bride was
trying to get her to take Rachel's side as well.
The bride admitted she was being petty, but that she
just didn't care. Mind you, I had just met this

(49:36):
girl and we were just casually chatting at the bar.
Why the bride wanted to focus on causing drama and
excluding me the night before her wedding is beyond me,
My girl, focus on getting married. You need to focus
on your wedding. Around eight pm is when all the
formalities were finished and I was able to attend.

Speaker 3 (49:53):
I'm not gonna lie.

Speaker 4 (49:54):
Dancing with my boyfriend in front of his ex girlfriend
felt extremely good.

Speaker 3 (50:00):
I love that for you.

Speaker 4 (50:00):
I swear we did not do it on purpose, but
wherever his ex went, we were always right there.

Speaker 3 (50:05):
She could not.

Speaker 4 (50:06):
Avoid us even if she tried. At one point, the
brian and groom were in the center dancing. I was
directly across from his ex in her line of sight.
She completely turned her back just so that she couldn't
see me, even though everyone else was facing forward. The
only people who would talk to us were the other
groomsmen and their dates. We ended up telling several of
them the full story because they had no idea, So

(50:27):
the whole night felt like sweet revenge. I will say
many times the groom came up to me and said
he was happy I was there. Whether he meant it
or it was performative, I have no idea. I also
don't care at this point. The only reason my boyfriend
did not drop out of the wedding was because we
were told I was not invited due to the budget.
We were assured several times that I had nothing to
do with the ax, which we now know is not true.

(50:49):
If my boyfriend had been given the full truth.

Speaker 3 (50:51):
He would have dropped out.

Speaker 4 (50:52):
Yes, we know this because the boyfriend stands on business.

Speaker 3 (50:55):
On the business at all times.

Speaker 4 (50:57):
Whenever I found out the truth, it was already too late. Yeah,
because they told you thirty minutes before the thing.

Speaker 3 (51:02):
They tried their best to ruin it.

Speaker 2 (51:03):
But you know who's really been coming in clutches all
the groomsman, the boyfriend, all the boys.

Speaker 3 (51:08):
The boys are coming in boys story.

Speaker 4 (51:10):
They know how to do it. My boyfriend was at
the event at the venue taking pictures, and the wedding
was starting in an hour, and you know what started
an hour ago this live and you can join us
live every weekday at three PMPSD on YouTube. Just tab
our profile. Once the couple gets back from their honeymoon,
I and my boyfriend plan on having a conversation with
the groom. My boyfriend said he will be reevaluating their

(51:33):
friendship and that is the end of that story. I
think that's very fair. I think we have Ope and
her excellent boyfriend, who, as we said, stood on that business,
and we have a groomsman at a bridesmaid who are
just caring about Rachel and her problems and not about
the groomsman Opie's boyfriend.

Speaker 3 (51:50):
So we don't need them. We don't want them, don't
need them.

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