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Speaker 3 (00:09):
My future sister in law excluded me from her wedding
and my brother let it happen Ie as add brother.
This is a long one. I should start all the
way back at the beginning. Around a year ago, my
thirty female younger brother twenty seven male let's call him Bill,
proposed to his girlfriend, twenty six female we'll call her Lori,
and they got engaged. He's not a very open person,

(00:31):
so we didn't really see it coming or no, he
was planning to do that. My now husband, thirty one male,
and I had been discussing getting married, and it was
well known among our families that we would be getting
engaged soon. We had just had a baby a few
months prior, so we wanted to do it sooner than later.
Both my husband and I had been talking to my
sister twenty eight female we'll call her Sarah, to plan

(00:53):
a proposal. Neither one of us realized the other was
making plans to propose. Ooh, by the way, this comes
from Guilty Hospital sixty five ninety seven on the ar
slash Shoky story time separated. My plan was to propose
a spring break while we were visiting my husband's family
and friends out of state, and his plan was for summertime.
So I bade him to the bench. Oh okay, I

(01:15):
don't know why. I thought you were talking about your siblings.
So you and your partner both planned to propose at
the same time.

Speaker 4 (01:20):
That's super cute.

Speaker 5 (01:22):
Like, I don't know, is it because you're taking attention
from the other? I think, yeah, whoever does it?

Speaker 4 (01:27):
First?

Speaker 2 (01:27):
It's like cool?

Speaker 5 (01:28):
And then the second could you imagine like all right,
it's like that like that fun game of like, oh
love that you love that?

Speaker 3 (01:35):
Yeah?

Speaker 2 (01:35):
What I think?

Speaker 3 (01:36):
Not for gender stereotype reasons. I do need to be
proposed to just because I just would No, I just
I just would think that they don't like I would
always be guessing.

Speaker 5 (01:48):
You've seen those things.

Speaker 3 (01:49):
I need them to. I need them to like ensure
that they you know, okay.

Speaker 2 (01:54):
But what if you don't. Yeah, what if you don't
do it, maybe they're you know, they'll be fine. I'm
always in.

Speaker 3 (02:02):
That's me. We ended up engaged two months after my
brother Bill and his fiance Laurie. This really upset her
and she made it very well known.

Speaker 2 (02:14):
Of course.

Speaker 3 (02:15):
Well, then my husband's father passed away suddenly and it
was decided that we needed to move back to his
home state to help his mother. We wanted to get
married prior to moving. We decided to do a very
small ceremony, no guess, just got married down by the river.

Speaker 4 (02:28):
Sweet River in nature adorable that.

Speaker 3 (02:33):
We planned a family vacation out of state to see
some of my family the weekend after the wedding. I
ended up inviting my siblings and their families to also
join us, as well as our mother, who lives out
of state. I planned to do a reception during the
vacation since we didn't really do a wedding. This caused
another issue with Laurie. She complained to my Sarah, my
sister Sarah, and my mother that she was worried that

(02:55):
the vacation would be all about me and the fact
that I just got married and not her and her engagement.
Long story short, I decided not to do the reception
to avoid any drama or hurt feelings. Of course, there
was other drama throughout the vacation started up by her.
I won't get into it all, he breathed.

Speaker 4 (03:14):
I was comprehending, got youa verbally.

Speaker 3 (03:17):
After this vacation, we were planning to move cross crunching.
I owned my house and decided that I would give, yes,
give no. I did not sell it to Bill.

Speaker 4 (03:26):
What give you home?

Speaker 3 (03:27):
Give your house to Bill?

Speaker 2 (03:29):
What a lot?

Speaker 6 (03:29):
I want?

Speaker 1 (03:30):
That?

Speaker 2 (03:30):
Can we have?

Speaker 5 (03:30):
That?

Speaker 1 (03:31):
Can?

Speaker 3 (03:32):
I have brothers given a house as he was living
with our father, and I thought it would be nice
to give him a house to start his new family
in That house at flaws and needed a lot of work.
But he's very handy and it wasn't anything he couldn't
handle himself. So kind I allowed him to begin renovations
on parts of the house a couple of months prior
to us moving. When it came closer to time to move,
there were even more issues. Laurie was talking to my

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siblings complaining that they didn't have the deed yet and
worried I wouldn't do it before I moved now I
I told them several times I would not be able
to get it until I had quit my job. I
had given my notice and would quit a few weeks
prior to the move. I didn't do the deed before this,
as I would have to take time off work to
do it. I just told Bill this again when he
asked about it, but Laurie continued complaining to anyone who

(04:16):
would listen, saying I was trying to screw them out
of a house.

Speaker 2 (04:20):
You were giving given.

Speaker 3 (04:23):
Shut your mouth, you were given a house. Stop complaining.
Oh my goodness, you didn't have to have that house
at all.

Speaker 2 (04:30):
I'll take it. I'll take it if she's not.

Speaker 3 (04:31):
Going to be happy about it. I really didn't understand
this or how she could think that if I didn't
want to give my brother the house, I wouldn't have Yeah. Anyways,
of course I got the deed transferred once I was
done working and handed it over to Bill as promised.
We were planning to do the move in two trips.
First trip one week, fly back the next week, and

(04:52):
make the second trip. I allowed them access to the
whole house except for my bedrooms. After the first trip,
I stored electronics in my bedroom as well as well
as still had my bed set up so I could
sleep after my flight back and before I made the
next dry LORII through an absolute fit about not being
able to go into my room before I was fully moved.
She insisted this wouldn't work for her and that I

(05:12):
was hurting her son. Six mail. She wanted to paint
it for a son to use and didn't want to wait.
She said that if they waited, he wouldn't have time
to get settled better school before school started. We moved
at the end of July. School starts end of August. Again,
you are they have a house right now, they're living
in a place right now. You are being given a house.

(05:33):
You don't get to decide when you get a take
over the house.

Speaker 7 (05:38):
Or complain or complain that I can. And it's just
a terrible freakin' Look.

Speaker 3 (05:44):
If you were renting out a house or even buying
a house, you can't just say to the people who
are living there. You can'd just be like, actually, and
we want you to move a couple months before, because
they would say no, the least starts at this time,
so you have to wait. And that's what's happening here,
except you're being given a house for free. I explained
that it was just one room and we would have

(06:05):
to and she would have to wait as I couldn't
leave all the electronics in my car for a week
while I was out of state, and then I still
needed my bed. She wanted to move things out and
back in, and I said no. I explained that while
I don't think she would break anything, I did not
want to risk an accident happening and everyone being put
in a bad spot slash awkward situation. This was still
not okay with her. She was running to my sister

(06:26):
and my mother complaining, and it caused a big argument
in my family.

Speaker 4 (06:30):
Are people agreeing with her?

Speaker 3 (06:31):
I don't know.

Speaker 4 (06:31):
Are people like better they give them the house earlier?

Speaker 3 (06:34):
Yeah, this is crazy. She went as far as to
tell my mother that it's not like she did something big.
She didn't give us a bunch of money or anything.
The house needs work.

Speaker 4 (06:42):
So much lack of gratitude.

Speaker 7 (06:47):
Yeah, and she's so like entitled thankfulness, and there's a
ton of entitlement and projecting that on everyone and just
making everyone's problem. I'm wondering if like Opie's talking to
her brother, I hope.

Speaker 3 (07:01):
So, yeah, Like, hey, your wife is being really ungrateful.

Speaker 4 (07:04):
I'm giving you this house, she does not want it.
What's up with your wife?

Speaker 2 (07:09):
Here.

Speaker 4 (07:10):
I agree, what's going on? What's going on here?

Speaker 3 (07:13):
She also made similar comments to my sister, insinuating that
it was no big deal and everyone needed to stop
acting like I did something great by giving them the house.

Speaker 2 (07:21):
Who said that?

Speaker 4 (07:21):
Who was the sister The sister, sorry, the sister in law.
Oh okay, but yeah, Bill's wife, the one that's been complaining.

Speaker 3 (07:27):
My husband and I talked with Bill and worked everything
out with him, so everyone was happy. Well, I wasn't
exactly happy after it all, since there was no appreciation,
and this woman was not the last bit grateful that
they were given a house. She even went out on
to publicly thank everyone who helped them with moving and renovations,
all while never mentioning the people who gave them the house.

(07:50):
That is, I would you're not getting the house I
give you?

Speaker 2 (07:55):
Take it? Act.

Speaker 3 (07:56):
I probably wouldn't because I would feel bad, But I would.

Speaker 2 (07:59):
Be yes, tell us, how you really do? Yeah?

Speaker 4 (08:02):
Tell us?

Speaker 3 (08:04):
I would be like, how freaking dairy do you think
you are?

Speaker 7 (08:10):
That's what I would be like, Well, I need a
house quicker because of the room and my and my
children and.

Speaker 3 (08:15):
My children and my son. I don't care about your spawn.

Speaker 2 (08:18):
Oh demons.

Speaker 3 (08:20):
Don't get me wrong, I.

Speaker 7 (08:21):
Was just gonna say I would talk to the brethren,
what the actual f is going on? What you see
the ridiculousness of this.

Speaker 3 (08:28):
It's ridiculous.

Speaker 4 (08:29):
And if he's like, no, then I'd be like.

Speaker 3 (08:31):
Then you don't go to my house.

Speaker 7 (08:33):
I mean I would be like, I'm not sure if
I want to go through this, yeah, this anymore if
you're not understanding like.

Speaker 3 (08:38):
What the problem said. Don't get me wrong. I didn't
do it for the attention or wanting a big thank you,
but it did hurt that she was not at all
appreciative or grateful. It hurt that she was willing to
say so many bad things about me when I only
tried to help them and do something nice for them. Well,
we moved and all was well. In September, I flew
back to my home state for a family reunion. During

(09:00):
this time, I found out that Laurie had concerns about
me being able to still be a bridesmaid in her
wedding with me living so far away. I heard this
through my sister Sarah. I reached out and discussed things
with LORII and assured her it would be okay and
that I could fly up early for the wedding to
be a part of everything. She wasn't going dress shopping
or any other things leading up to the wedding, so
we only needed to come a week early for a

(09:22):
bachelorette party and a walk through. All seemed good when
I headed back home. Then a month or two later,
Laurie messaged me asking if I was still going to
be in the wedding. I told her I would and
that was that. Then are you still be in the wedding?

Speaker 2 (09:37):
Wedding?

Speaker 3 (09:38):
Then another month later she asked again, and so she
was stressed up. He's like, She's like, I just don't
know what they're going to be in my wedding or not.

Speaker 4 (09:44):
He's like, I'm going, yeah, gotta be there. I'm going.

Speaker 3 (09:48):
I told her if it would be less stressful for
her to not have me in the wedding, that's fine, know,
hurt feelings. Well, she decided I wouldn't be in the wedding.

Speaker 2 (09:55):
Dang now.

Speaker 3 (09:56):
At some point prior to us moving, while hanging out
with my siblings and theirs else, we were talking about
wedding stuff. Us girls got talking about dresses and I
mentioned that if things go as I hope they will.
Then I'll be pregnant at the time of the wedding.

Speaker 4 (10:08):
Okay, Laurie's not gonna like that.

Speaker 3 (10:10):
She's just like, if things are gonna I hope that's
a lot of information.

Speaker 4 (10:14):
Girl, What just tho she's trying to get pregnant?

Speaker 7 (10:17):
Oh yeah, Laurie's I see you, Lois, Laurie's not gonna
like it to know. How how dare you be pregnant
just so that you could ruin my wedding it.

Speaker 3 (10:27):
I commented that if it goes as planned, I shouldn't
be too big by then, though, so it might not
matter much on sizing. Well, this really upset Laurie. I
guess her and Bill were trying for a baby and
it wasn't going well. She responded to me, saying, well,
it must be nice to be able.

Speaker 2 (10:43):
To plan it, just like the other stories.

Speaker 3 (10:46):
Yeah. She went outside, and after a few minutes I
followed and apologized I had.

Speaker 2 (10:50):
Struggled, apologized for what I don't know for.

Speaker 3 (10:52):
I don't know. I had struggled to get pregnant in
the past, and honestly thought I couldn't have any more kids,
so I had some insight into how she was feeling.
We talked and hugged and all seemed well. Whoa a
lot of conversation. So that brings me back to where
I was a few months ago. I found out I
was pregnant and things had gone just as planned. Laurie
was the only one not to congratulate us or acknowledge

(11:13):
it whatsoever, which wasn't much of a surprise, and I
didn't talk to her directly about it, just posted on
social media. The wedding is in a month now, and
I'll be halfway through my pregnancy at the time of
the wedding. I was talking to Laurie today and was
having a hard time remembering something she was asking about,
so I made an offhand comment about must be pregnancy brain.
She didn't say anything to me about it, and our
conversation continued as it should.

Speaker 4 (11:35):
She's not She's like.

Speaker 3 (11:39):
Vice.

Speaker 2 (11:40):
Well, I guess.

Speaker 3 (11:41):
She texted Sarah complaining that I brought up my pregnancy
out of nowhere, and.

Speaker 6 (11:46):
She brought up candleback that you're having a biological situation
that is changing your whole life and how your whole
body and you brought that up.

Speaker 4 (11:58):
How you're relevant? How dare you king day?

Speaker 3 (12:02):
And how she just can't handle me going on and
on about it, and she's already thick of hearing about
it now. This is the first time that I have
said anything about my pregnancy or being pregnant directly to her.
I've also only made three social media posts about it
so far, nothing very overboard at all, and when I
was talking to her, it was just the one comment.
Then we started talking about her wedding more. Laurie asked

(12:22):
if I would be seeing my mom before the wedding.
My mom lives in another state, far from any of us.
Laurie said that she was worried about her wedding turning
into a family reunion and was hoping I could see
my mother ahead of time. Weddings are like half family unions. Honestly,
that's like a I feel like that's a kind of
a normal thing.

Speaker 7 (12:39):
It seems like the frame that she's like viewing reality, yeah,
is like all about me.

Speaker 4 (12:44):
Mean, if any situation happens, how does it affect me?

Speaker 2 (12:46):
Yeah?

Speaker 7 (12:46):
And if I don't like that, then it's that person's
problem and they're doing it on purpose in order to
affect me.

Speaker 3 (12:52):
Exactly, And was hoping I could see my mother ahead
of time. I told her I thought my mom might
be coming over to where I was staying early so
we could get ready for the wedding together. She went
on to ask if I was staying with my other
brother twenty five mail we'll call him Earl, who lives
alone in a four bedroom house. I said, yes, that's
the plan. It's well known and has been discussed that
I will stay with him whenever I come back, since
he has so much space and nobody else does well.

(13:14):
I guess she had been planning for the girls to
get ready for the wedding at Earl's house, which, according
to her, was no longer going to work if I
was staying there. I didn't really see the issue, but
it's her wedding and I didn't want to cause problems.
I offered to leave the house for the day so
that I didn't ruin their plans. I mentioned that I
could go to my dad's house, which was just a
couple miles up the road, and that it wouldn't.

Speaker 2 (13:33):
Be a big deal.

Speaker 3 (13:34):
She insisted that I not do that and that she
could get ready at her sister's house.

Speaker 2 (13:38):
Well.

Speaker 3 (13:38):
Then Sarah was messaging me saying that Laurie and her
family are getting ready together, but that Sarah was being
left out. Sarah was supposed to be doing Laurie's hair,
so this didn't exactly make sense. The plan got sorted
and the bride would do makeup at her sister's then
come to Earl's house so Sarah could do her hair
and she could put her dress on. This is very
close to the venue. Sarah would be getting ready with

(13:59):
myself and our mind. This way we get her all
our talking out before the wedding, so it didn't turn
into a family reunion. Sarah told me Lauria had said this. This,
along with some other things, has my sister, my mother,
and myself feeling very unwanted at the wedding. We have
definitely made a few jokes about things we could do
to get even though none of us are serious, nor

(14:19):
would we cause any issues at the wedding.

Speaker 2 (14:21):
So what if?

Speaker 3 (14:22):
What if if we guys a little bit of.

Speaker 4 (14:25):
A house back mid wedding? What what I'm not saying?

Speaker 2 (14:28):
What was she doing? What was she doing?

Speaker 4 (14:30):
Domm I like to see it.

Speaker 3 (14:32):
I feel like I'm at a major loss here. I
don't seem like anything. It doesn't seem like anything I
do is right. If I don't go to the wedding,
I will definitely be the bad guy. Plus I really
want to be there for my brother. I also already
bought plane tickets, so I definitely make so I'm definitely
making the flight back. Lauria has made it clear, at
least from my point of view, that she doesn't want
me at her wedding. It seems to me that she's

(14:53):
very worried I will just draw attention away from her,
between me living so far away and me being pregnant. Honestly,
I think she she's also worried about my mother, since
she also lives far from everyone. Nobody has seen my
mother since the family vacation last summer. I guess at
the end of it all, I know what I will do.
I will show up to the wedding, and I will
try to be as quiet and distant from everyone as

(15:13):
possible to not cause further issues.

Speaker 7 (15:16):
Question answer, It's a rhetorical question. Why, okay, Why why
is op being so accommodating? Yeah, of Laurie because a
lot of people pleasing tendencies. But this is going to continue.
Laurie will continue being Laurie. She will be in the
family ongoing and you will continue to see her, she

(15:36):
will continue to make things about her. You will continue
to try to accommodate her, which will be an impossible task.
Or you could ask yourself like what am I willing
to to shift?

Speaker 4 (15:50):
And what am I not? And I'm just going.

Speaker 7 (15:52):
To act as I'm going to act with you know,
some basic consideration, and if Laurie has a big reaction
on Laura's that's on Laurie.

Speaker 3 (16:01):
I agree. I think it's just like putting your line
in the sand and being like, Okay, I these are
my boundaries and she doesn't get a walker around all
over them.

Speaker 4 (16:08):
What are the boundaries?

Speaker 3 (16:09):
I don't know. That's a fra pi. I can't put
those boundaries in.

Speaker 2 (16:13):
Give me the house.

Speaker 3 (16:14):
Yeah, I'll never bring up my baby if you give
me back my house. I will spend time with my
family members prior to the wedding as well as the
day after, so I'm not taking up any of Laurie's
time during her special day. Again, weddings are family reunions.
They are understandably they're about the people getting married, but
like to a certain extent, it is about seeing people

(16:36):
that you haven't seen.

Speaker 4 (16:36):
In a while.

Speaker 3 (16:37):
Yeah, like that. That usually is the time when the
extended family all get together, because that's like a it's
an important ceremony. So it is a family reunion and
is regardless yeah the bride, yes, No, regardless of what
you do, other people are going to be treating it
like a family reunion, and if you don't, you're just

(16:59):
one person not doing so.

Speaker 2 (17:00):
Laurie's just got up Tom.

Speaker 3 (17:01):
Hopefully the wedding goes smoothly and she receives all the
attention she desires. At this point, I think I know,
no matter what I do, she'll never like me. Yeah,
and quite honestly, the feeling is mutual. As always, I
play nice for family occasions. Oh what what and such.
I'll do my best not to stir the pot. I
love my brother dearly, and I'm glad he has found

(17:22):
someone who makes him happy.

Speaker 4 (17:23):
Dure thet sure that pot stir.

Speaker 3 (17:26):
The Sorry this was so long. I did leave a
lot out while trying to include anything relevant. This has
been a year long ordeal, so it isn't the easiest
to get everything in the right order and tell it
in the least confusing way possible. Hopefully I have enough
information for you to get a clear view of what
is going on. I would love to hear everyone's input
and how they would handle the situation. I, by no

(17:48):
means think I'm perfect and am fully aware that I
made mistakes throughout all of this. And there is a
little update to finish the story off. But too many
final thoughts.

Speaker 7 (17:57):
Just that I hope Opie, that you could get over
the fear of upsetting people, because it will become an
impossible task to not upset this human Yeah, you will
have to abandon and contort yourself in endless ways to
be able to do it, and you will still not
be able to do it.

Speaker 3 (18:15):
Yep, yep. And just because she is your brother's wait, okay,
you know what I'm gonna be honest, I was a
little bit confused. Who's getting married the.

Speaker 4 (18:24):
Brother and Laurie. Who's Sarah sister of op okay?

Speaker 3 (18:29):
And who got the house Laurie and the brother?

Speaker 2 (18:31):
Yeah?

Speaker 3 (18:32):
Update, Sorry I'm a little late going to the update.
Flying made mede my morning sickness much worse and it
took me a bit to get balanced back out after
getting home. Prior to my flying back home for the wedding,
I heard about a lot more drama, but all small things.
Most drama revolved around a major lack of planning and
nobody really knowing what was going on. Now being said,

(18:52):
the wedding went on without complications. The guys got everything
set up that morning and my mother put the arch together.
My mother, my sister, and her four kids got ready
with me along with some others. When the bride showed
up an hour prior to the wedding, I took the kids,
seven total to the venue to get them out of
everyone's way. It was very cold out, so we ended
up waiting in the vehicle while we waited for everyone
to be ready. Some of the older kids went out

(19:13):
to play and sit with other relatives. Well, I kept
the youngest ones where they could stay warm. I had
that part because I actually missed the whole ceremony. Oh,
it only lasted maybe fifteen minutes. Bride was supposed to
message my mother when they were heading to the venue
so everyone could take their seats. No message ever came. Wait,
I'm sorry, you guys were all like waiting in the
car because it was cold, and no one texted you.

Speaker 4 (19:33):
That's crazy, it's her wedding.

Speaker 2 (19:35):
Dame got sure, but like, why didn't.

Speaker 3 (19:37):
No one else. No one else was like, hey, where.

Speaker 2 (19:41):
Do they go?

Speaker 3 (19:43):
My mother checked on me right after the ceremony, not
realizing I didn't know it had started. Well, she wasn't there.

Speaker 2 (19:49):
My bad. I guess.

Speaker 3 (19:50):
That's so funny. But you know what would be You're
bad if you didn't listen to more stories on episodes
just like this. Just go to Apple podcast, Spotify or
your favorite podcast topp and search up. Okay, story time
and there is a little bit left to the story.

Speaker 2 (20:06):
Hit it.

Speaker 3 (20:07):
We did pictures and then met at the indoor location
for the reception. The reception was very hectic and unorganized,
kids running around everywhere and controlling the dance floor.

Speaker 2 (20:16):
Oh, they're just.

Speaker 8 (20:17):
To have fun.

Speaker 3 (20:19):
It was really great seeing all the family gun and
catching up with everyone, though it's not a family reunion. Ope,
you shouldn't be catching up with anyone.

Speaker 4 (20:26):
We're just seeing each other, but we're not talking.

Speaker 3 (20:29):
We're not talking.

Speaker 4 (20:30):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (20:31):
The bride and groom both seem very happy. So in
the end, all is well, I guess, And that is
the end of that story. There you have it. Yeah,
just just just live your life and don't let other
people pull you down.

Speaker 8 (20:44):
At I refuse to attend my sister's wedding. She used
my baby name for her dog. That's not for the dog,
that's for the child, for a human.

Speaker 2 (20:57):
What are we doing?

Speaker 8 (20:58):
I twenty nine female and married to my husband, thirty
one male, and we're currently expecting our first child after
years of trying. Well, congratulations, it's been a really emotional journey.
There were some fertility struggles, we lost a pregnancy, and honestly,
we weren't sure if we'd ever get here. But now
I'm six months along with a healthy baby girl, and

(21:21):
we are over the moon. Let's go by the way.

Speaker 2 (21:24):
This comes from.

Speaker 8 (21:24):
User Fiarra Ferracti. Yes, fuser Ferracti on the r slash. Okay,
storytime stubred it. So Ever since I was a teenager,
I've had a favorite name, Lilah.

Speaker 2 (21:40):
Cute.

Speaker 8 (21:40):
It's my dream name for a daughter, and I've talked
about it so many times that my whole family knows
it's my name, quote unquote.

Speaker 2 (21:48):
It has a special meaning to me.

Speaker 8 (21:49):
My late grandmother was named Delilah, and it's my way
of honoring her. My husband loves the name too, So
we've decided pretty early on that this would be our
base girl's name. Six months ago, my younger sister, Emma
twenty seven female, got a Golden Retriever puppy. We were
all excited for her. She's always been an animal lover

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and was thrilled to finally get her own dog. But
when she introduced us to the puppy, she casually said
this is Lila girl by and everyone said, hold on,
wait a minute, back up. That doesn't look like a
human baby. Uh oh, that looks like a doll.

Speaker 2 (22:27):
It's furry. What are we doing? At first, I thought
she was joking.

Speaker 8 (22:34):
I even laughed and said, no way, Emma, you know
that's my baby name, but she just shrugged and said
it's a name, not a copyright. I thought it was
cute for a dog. I was honestly stunned.

Speaker 2 (22:51):
Sewer, yeah, yeah, yeah, can we put this person in
the sewer?

Speaker 8 (22:55):
No, I'm saying, like Sue, yeah, but also can we
put her in the sewer? I was honestly stunned. I
didn't want to make a big scene, so I let
it go in the moment, but it really bothered me.
As time went on, the whole family started referring to
her dog as Lilah and it's become the default association.
At my baby shower last month, I was talking to

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some family members about the nursery, and when I mentioned
naming the baby Lilah, my aunt literally laughed and said,
You're not actually naming your baby after Emma's dog, right, Uh, Auntie, Auntie,
we all know it's my daughter's name.

Speaker 2 (23:32):
No.

Speaker 8 (23:33):
I felt humiliated. I tried to brush it off, but
the more I think about it, the more it hurts.
I finally sat Emma down privately and told her how
I was feeling. I explained how important the name is
to me, how it's tied to Grandma, and how much
it means to me after everything we've been through to
have this baby. Emma rolled her eyes and said, oh

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my god, you're seriously still mad about this. It's it's
just a dog's name. You don't own Lilah. I told
her that while I'm still going to name my daughter Lilah,
she has now made it very awkward for me. She
laughed and said awkward for you, not me. Yeah, okay,
we're she no longer deserves the sewer. This clown buffoonery

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is getting her sent to the sun.

Speaker 2 (24:23):
Now.

Speaker 8 (24:24):
Emma is getting married in two weeks, and I'm supposed
to be her maid of honor, but I've been feeling
more and more like I can't do it. I don't
want to stand up there and celebrate her when I
feel like she doesn't respect me or care about my feelings.
Last week, I told her that I wasn't sure I
could attend the wedding because of how hurt I've been
about everything.

Speaker 2 (24:41):
She lost it.

Speaker 8 (24:43):
She called me selfish and accused me of ruining her
big day over something as stupid as a name.

Speaker 2 (24:49):
Wow.

Speaker 8 (24:50):
Yeah, she's called oh pee selfish. That's funny because you
know how many infinite names you can give a dog.

Speaker 2 (24:59):
Coy truly infinite, infinite, yeah, infinitismal Yeah.

Speaker 8 (25:05):
And she wants to go, I'm naming it Lilah, the
one name that you've been obsessed with forever.

Speaker 1 (25:12):
I do have to say, cute name, yeah, not that
that that she should take it for a dog, but
couldn't name the dog Leah or literally anything else.

Speaker 2 (25:26):
Yep, come on.

Speaker 8 (25:29):
She even told me you're the one making this a thing.
Nobody cares except you. My parents are siding with her,
saying I'm being petty and hormonal and need to let
it go because family is more important than a name.

Speaker 2 (25:44):
Oh my, I did I? Oh P.

Speaker 8 (25:47):
I thought everyone knew about this, right it did? Now
everyone said it's my name? Like was it an assumption
that everyone knew about this?

Speaker 2 (25:53):
Like? Or what's going on? Why? What? What's happening here?

Speaker 8 (25:58):
My husband, on the other hand, is it's furious w husband,
He says, Emma has been dismissive and mean, and I
shouldn't have to put my feelings aside just to keep
the peace. Now I feel torn. I know skipping her
wedding is a huge deal, and I don't want to
cause a permanent rift, but I also feel like Emma
has completely dismissed my feelings and made this whole situation worse.

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Am I the a hole for not attending her wedding?

Speaker 3 (26:22):
Hmmm?

Speaker 8 (26:24):
Oh that's actually hard, right, But like I think it
being treated like that, like for something that is such
a priority to you and was for a long time
known to be it's like, I gotta say, you're justified
and being like, I don't know if I could just
suck it up and act like everything's fine and be
happy on your day.

Speaker 2 (26:43):
So maybe I just shouldn't be there because low key.

Speaker 1 (26:45):
It's almost like already taking the name is so bad.
But it's almost more the reaction to her being like, hey,
what what's up, Like why do you do that? When
her and the parents are basically like, oh, you're just overreacting,
like like it's just a name, Like it's not a
big deal. And she's like, I went through all the

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struggle to get her and finally be pregnant. I I
had this name chosen for so long, it was my name,
and like, you guys.

Speaker 2 (27:13):
Are just completely disregarding all of that.

Speaker 1 (27:16):
That to me is almost like it's it's almost like, Okay,
you don't You don't even care about the struggles I
went through. You have no no empathy for what I
went through as a woman to bear this child.

Speaker 2 (27:28):
Exactly that.

Speaker 5 (27:29):
Yeah, and the name was to honor, you know, it's
to honor somebody, to the grandma.

Speaker 2 (27:34):
Yeah, like do you hate your grandma? Like you want
to like what is your grandma? Dog? Now, let's get
into some there's some relevant comments here. Let's do it.
We all agree that the sister is stinky. Let's good,
let's get do it.

Speaker 8 (27:47):
From k Rose fifty nine, If family were more important
than a name, Emma would have named her dog something else.
But yes, exactly, yes this op. Tell Emma and your
parents exactly this, and for them to stop pretending Emma
didn't do this intentionally, that you don't know why she
chose to be malicious, but she absolutely knew what she

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was doing, because everyone knows you've been wanting to name
your daughter Who's on the way, Lilah since you were
a child. Call it what it was, outright maliciousness. Tell
them Emma needs to come clean about why she stole
the name from you and from your daughter for her dog.
What was she trying to accomplish and why did she
want to hurt you? Is it jealousy? Is it attention?

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Everyone needs to stop turning it around on you and
pretending that it's not a big deal. Ask them why
you should stand for your sister who would intentionally hurt
you like that, and then do what feels right for you.
Once your beautiful daughter gets here, your sister's dog's name
won't pull their attention. If anyone teases you over it,
don't get weepy and upset. Just know that you're in

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the right, Stand tall and flip the script straight up.
Tell them that your sister took the name. She knew
you were giving your daughter for her, and you just
can't imagine why she would.

Speaker 2 (29:02):
Do that, could you? Yeah, flipping around on them like, yeah,
my sister did this. Isn't this wild that she would
do that.

Speaker 8 (29:09):
Let your sister be the flustered one, and once your
daughter is here, your parents and others will be flocking
to see her. No matter what you do about the wedding.
Ultimately you hold all of the cards. And I agree
with the other commenters. If you ever get a pet
and want to take her baby's name, go for it.
Which don't do that, that's just messy, but it would

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probably be like a sea aren't you upset?

Speaker 1 (29:33):
Now?

Speaker 2 (29:34):
Stupid? Like what are you doing?

Speaker 8 (29:37):
But by the way, I would never call you stupid
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think that last comment was pretty much perfect.

Speaker 2 (30:00):
I was like, perfect advice.

Speaker 8 (30:01):
It's the advice I would give, not saying I'm perfect,
but I'm just saying that that advice. It's like, just
can continue to move on because you literally do hold
all of the cards. In overtime, you can flip that
script and be like, yeah, it's I named she and
she knew I was gonna name my daughter Elilah, isn't it.
Why do you think she named the dog Lila just
to get it me right? Why why would she do that?

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And now suddenly the sister's gonna go, h well I
didn't know or I didn't and then everyone's gonna go, well,
yeah you did know. We all knew, right, mm hmmm.
So yeah, just you just name your beautiful daughter Lilah. Yes,
and stick with your husband, who is a beautiful w
husband for sticking up for you, and you don't have

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to feel bad at all for not going to your
stinky sister's wedding who went out of her way to
be malicious and try to kind of scam you. I mean,
it's not a scam. I can't think of a better word.
I got to like swindle. She tried to swindle the
name Lilah away from you by like making it her
dog's name. So then you're naming your daughter after a dog,

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which is absurd because it's your grandma.

Speaker 2 (31:08):
Anyway, let's finish this story.

Speaker 8 (31:10):
Now, let's finish this off, hippie, Liz lemon, OPI, this
is it?

Speaker 2 (31:15):
Is that the same as your sister's dog. Answer?

Speaker 8 (31:17):
Yes, this is the name that honors our grandmother that
I had been hoping to use since high school. My
sister's choice to use it for her dog, literally at
the end of my fertility journey, is a choice I accept.
But we'll never understand. You're not being mean, you're not
name calling, You're just stating facts, acceptance, and any reasonable
person we'll see what's going on here.

Speaker 2 (31:37):
She's a huge jerk. And that is the end of
that story. And I concur your sister was being a
huge jerk.

Speaker 8 (31:46):
Putting it lightly, Yeah, putting it literally as lightly as possible.

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Speaker 1 (31:56):
My sister and her friends are furious with me for
eating at a hospital cafeteria.

Speaker 2 (32:01):
Well, are you in the hospital. They make me sick.
I don't care. They make me sick. Oh, okay, hear
me out.

Speaker 1 (32:08):
I worked just a few blocks away from the hospital,
and I get there pretty quickly by bicycle. The cafeteria
is quaint and it has good prices, so usually once
a week or so I'll go there for lunch. The
food isn't what I would call amazing, but they have
a nice variety from time to time. The staff even
recognizes me, and they're always pleasant. They don't mind that
I'm just there for lunch, and it's far quieter eating

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there than at any local restaurant. I'm on the spectrum.
I don't like loud noises, so the quiet lunches in
this place are a godsend for me on some days.
By the way, this comes from same philosopher nine to
twenty seven on the Arslasha Okay, storytime supper day. So
recently my sister found out that I've been eating at
the hospital. My sister went off on me over how
hospital cafeterias are only supposed to be there for the

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people who are at the hospital because they need to
be I retorted that I was get the business, and
it's not like I was taking the food out of
the mouths of patience, right exactly, but the question is should.

Speaker 2 (33:07):
You do that?

Speaker 1 (33:07):
I only went there once a week, so what was
the big deal? But she still insisted that I was wrong.
So then she got our parents involved, and they are
siding with her. They are telling me that I should
only be eating at the hospital if I had an
actual reason to be there. I told them they were
all crazy and it was just normal food that I
was paying for. But now neither they or I are

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back are backing down, and I'm torn. Am I the
ahle for going to eat lunch in a hospital cafeteria
once a week just because I work nearby? There is
an update, and let me tell you something that it
gets a lot worse. You think like, oh, this is
gonna be some benign No, we are not even close
to Like, we're not even a quarter of the way

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through yet.

Speaker 2 (33:52):
Update.

Speaker 1 (33:53):
Now, the situation escalated so radically that I cannot believe
something so dumb actually happened. My sister did the pettiest
thing she's ever done to me, and for completely undeserved
reasons too.

Speaker 2 (34:08):
So when my.

Speaker 1 (34:08):
Sister found out that I was eating at the hospital cafeteria,
she went off on me over how that food is
just for the people who are at the hospital because
they need to be. We ended up in a big
argument about it, which I told her it wasn't like
I was taking food from the mouths of patients. Then
she went to our parents to get them on her side,
like always, and they immediately sided with her, just like

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I thought they would.

Speaker 2 (34:30):
They backed her. They backed her up.

Speaker 1 (34:32):
On how that hospital cafeteria was not a place to
go eating casually, and we had a big argument. They
spent days hounding me and telling me that I was
wrong and I and demanded that I stop.

Speaker 2 (34:44):
So we went to Reddit. We wanted to get the truth,
and here I learned.

Speaker 1 (34:49):
That not only was I not doing anything wrong, but
it's very common thing for people to just go and
eat at hospital cafeterias just because they like it is.

Speaker 2 (34:58):
Wait, well, is that that I hope the situation would
just fade away. But a few days.

Speaker 1 (35:03):
Later, my sister called me asking if I had stopped
eating at the hospital, and I said no, and then
it started all over again. My parents then called me,
fuming and acting like I was supposed to stop going
because they said so. I reminded them that I don't
live under their roof anymore, and this is exactly the
kind of reason why I moved out. They take my

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sister's side in almost everything. Well that's fair.

Speaker 8 (35:29):
I just feel that you keep telling me I can't
eat at these cafeterias.

Speaker 2 (35:34):
I can't live like this.

Speaker 1 (35:36):
They huffed and puffed about it. This time, the fight
didn't stay at home, though, other relatives found out because
my sister tried to broaden her support. She was so
set on enforcing her will upon me that she went
looking for help from other relatives, but our parents were
the only ones on her side, and my uncle personally
admonished my parents and her over the phone for for it.

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Once I told him what had actually happened, he told
them that they were only siding with my sister.

Speaker 2 (36:05):
Because she's their favorite.

Speaker 1 (36:06):
At least we got one family member on opie side
and their terrible parents for ever playing favorites to begin with.
Then cousin went to eat with me at the hospital
cafeteria and said he'd like to go there once a
week too, as he also works nearby and bicycles everywhere.

Speaker 2 (36:23):
The war is.

Speaker 8 (36:24):
Growing, This snowball is starting to grow, so.

Speaker 1 (36:29):
We've run into each other at lunch there already sends
them he was actually rather pleased to find out the
food was made healthier than most other places. He's kind
of a picky eater, so this place is kind of
like his new lunch hangout. And my sister got even
angrier after finding out that there were other people in
the family eating at the hospital now too, But once outed,

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my parents back down due to the embarrassment. They apologized
to me gave me some malarchy that they honestly thought
eating at the hospital was weird and that they felt
like they just needed to defy and my sister. I
told him that they'd been placating my sister for so
long that it's all they do whenever she starts something
with anyone. She's been treating me like a condescending control
freak and a bully since we were teenagers, even though

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I'm older than her, and they just keep enabling that.
But I won't put up with it anymore. My parents
ended up conceding and apologized. Then they made my sister
apologize to me too, and I could tell she hated.

Speaker 2 (37:24):
Every second of it because he tried to speak to
me through her teeth at first.

Speaker 1 (37:28):
Later on, my parents invited me to dinner for as
another form of an apology, but it felt more like
a show to look good for the rest of the
family because they told everyone about it even before it happened.
The dinner was great, I can't deny.

Speaker 2 (37:42):
But it was great.

Speaker 8 (37:45):
No surprisingly better than hospital cafeteria food, which was a
shock to me.

Speaker 2 (37:49):
Oh my god.

Speaker 1 (37:50):
My parents had cooked a turkey, arguably one of my
favorite things to eat. I love the drumsticks, slavin and gravy,
and yeah, I'm kind of a pig when I eat them,
but I can't help it. My sister always thought it
was hilarious, and it was one of the few things
I don't mind her laughing about, so I thought nothing.

Speaker 2 (38:07):
Of why she was so gigly at dinner.

Speaker 1 (38:09):
Later after that family dinner, I noticed that my bike
was missing.

Speaker 2 (38:14):
Hmm.

Speaker 1 (38:14):
Put some ice us in the chat. I parked it
in the backyard, out of sight, but it was just gone.
I freaked out because it was my only mode of transportation.
My parents did panic a bit with me, but my
sister seemed just the opposite. She actually looked happy and
started giggling.

Speaker 2 (38:29):
The worst poker face of all time.

Speaker 5 (38:31):
Hmmm.

Speaker 1 (38:32):
I immediately suspected her, but she played innocent. She even
gave the I can't believe you'd think I'd do something
like that bline. Now, I already knew that she was
extremely petty, the sister, but this was a whole new
level of it for her. So I said that I
was gonna go over to the neighbor because I know
they have cameras and they had seen what happened, and

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then i'd call the cops.

Speaker 2 (38:55):
My sister suddenly.

Speaker 1 (38:56):
Looked panicked, and I got mad and said I knew
it was her and demanded my bike back. She started
crying and saying that she didn't do anything, and my
parents were immediately taking her side while scolding me for
daring to accuse her. So I had had enough and
said I was going to the neighbors. Excuse me. So
I was going to the neighbors to ask to check

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their cameras, and then I would be calling the police.
My sister finally fasted up and called me to come back.
I didn't know, Please don't do it right about to
get the hammer a justice, little lady. The looks on
our parents' faces after they had just offended her were priceless.

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My sister said that she was so angry at me
for having made her apologize for something she believed she
was right about. She had planned to have a couple
of her friends to come and grab my bike during dinner.
She said her friends were in a minivan with it
just down the street. She then started saying that I
couldn't call police on her anyway, because I'm her big brother, OPI.

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Our parents backed that up too, but I pulled out
my phone and I started marching outside again. They ran
after me, with my sister begging and crying for me
to stop. I called her a brat, and then I
told my parents I couldn't believe they were still defending
her when she was acting this way. Our parents finally
hit their enabling limit with her and told her to
make her friends bring my bike back immediately.

Speaker 2 (40:21):
She got on her.

Speaker 1 (40:22):
Phone while sniffling and called her friends up, but then
she suddenly ran into her room to talk to them.
I couldn't hear a thing she said through the door
because it was all whispers, and our parents looked very
worried too. My sister would never have willingly admitted that
she had stolen my bike. She just kept sobbing that
it was only a prank, over and over again. It's

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just a prank, bro Literally, it's.

Speaker 2 (40:46):
Brother, my kid, my flesh and blood.

Speaker 8 (40:49):
Now that I've been caught especially, it's just a prank,
that's it.

Speaker 1 (40:54):
And she also kept using the excuse that's just a
cheap bike. Anyways, I bought it used some months ago
for fifty dollars. But it's in great shape, respect and
it's my main mode of transportation. My sister kept looking
at our parents for backup, and that time they just couldn't,
so she just slumped down in a chair, hugging her
knees and waiting.

Speaker 2 (41:14):
For the rest of us.

Speaker 1 (41:15):
My sister looked increasingly freaked out the longer her friends
took to bring my bike back, and was repeatedly texting them.
Even though my sister said her friends were just down
the street. It took them roughly an hour to bring
my bike back. They finally pulled up in the mini
van with my bike shoved in the back, and it
was completely soaked in all muddy, like it had been

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just pulled out of a wet, muddy ditch.

Speaker 8 (41:43):
Yeah, I get destruction of property type beat.

Speaker 1 (41:49):
I would love to press play on that. Yeah, that
would be great. I would play that on repeat.

Speaker 2 (41:55):
Yeah, I yikes.

Speaker 1 (42:00):
The bike is a seven hundred c so it's too
tall for either of them to ride. So they just
drove right up and stole the bike by dragging it
into the van so fast as fast as they could
before taking off. I say they stole it because I
was because I was almost certain in the moment my
sister had told them to dispose of my bike. Had

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I not point had I not pointed out the neighbors
have cameras, I may have not gotten it back.

Speaker 2 (42:27):
Now.

Speaker 1 (42:27):
When her friends finally did arrive, their legs were all
muddy and wet and nearly up to their knees. They
both begged me not to report them to the police
for taking the bike. I asked, while recording them, to
tell me the truth and pointed to the neighbor's cameras
during did my sister want them to get rid of

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my bike?

Speaker 2 (42:49):
They broke down and said yes.

Speaker 1 (42:52):
Op is like a master interrogator right now, just cracking
the truth. And they looked, oh, oh yeah, I think
you think you're so tough. You were the little friends like,
oh oh yeah, let's go speels bike. He's squealing like
a freakin' pig. They brought it down and say yes.
My sister wanted them to take the bike and dump
it in a pond a few miles away, and they

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had to go back and get it. When they realized
they were caught, my bike had been nearly completely submerged
in muddy water. Thankfully, I didn't have many added accessories
on it other than a detachable headlight in my water bottle,
but the water bottle was missing. I wasn't surprised, but
by what my sister's friends told me, and I had
told them to tell our parents too.

Speaker 2 (43:33):
They laid into my sister till she was bawling on
the floor, kicking and pounding like a toddler. I had
never seen my sister act like that since she was
actually a toddler, and I found it mortifying that she
was still like this on the inside.

Speaker 1 (43:47):
Then she shut herself in her room. Her friends were
banned from ever coming to my parents' house again. Then
my sister was forced to come out of our room
by her mother, by our mother and make another bit
apology to me. So our father then forced her to
wash and oil my bike from stem to stern under
his supervision while I took a part in the headlight

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and cleaned it out to dry it. By the time
my sister was done, it.

Speaker 2 (44:13):
Was dark outside. She glared at me like I was
the devil when she came back in.

Speaker 1 (44:17):
The house, but our parents shut her attitude right down
and said they'd never been more embarrassed by her in
their lives.

Speaker 2 (44:25):
She went back to her She.

Speaker 1 (44:27):
Went back to crying in her room, and I had
a very frank discussion with my parents about my sister's
childlike behavior and how it stemmed from their spoiling and enabling.
I said, I couldn't believe I had to be the
voice of reason, but the fact that she was on
the floor crying like a toddler, kicking and pounding showed
me that she's still mentally a child because of them.

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And they kept making me the scapegoat when she screwed up,
so she barely knows any sense of accountability. For once,
they didn't argue with me about it, and then my
father silently drove me and my bike back to my
apartment with his SUV. He also gave me some money
to replace my bike's missing water bottle before we parted

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get him a new freaking bike, bro. I'm sorry, I.

Speaker 2 (45:11):
Think we need a little bit more there.

Speaker 1 (45:13):
We need we need more than like ten dollars for
a water bottle.

Speaker 2 (45:17):
Come okay? Yikes.

Speaker 1 (45:20):
So my sister and her click used to harass me
a fair bit whenever we ran into each other. They
made fun of me as a group whenever possible, and
I usually just ignored them because they bored me, and
that really seemed to tick them off. But after the
bike incident, I got sent numerous messages from numbers I
don't know cussing me out for making my sister cry
over a silly prank, A silly prank of you throwing

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my bike into a pond, hoping I never have it again.

Speaker 2 (45:46):
It's just a prank, bro, What only form of transportation
going to work? Everything?

Speaker 1 (45:52):
Like my God knowing her, my sister probably fed everyone
she knew a very different story on what actually happened.
I texted lengthy replies of what actually happened, and even
stated I have recordings of her friends admitting the truth.
Send it, send it, send it, send it all, do it,
Send it to everyone mass text. Some people at my

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sister's college found out what actually went down. I see
you in the chat oo, maybe from texts, maybe from
her friends who spilled the beans, but it embarrassed my
sister so much that she came home having a crying
tantrum about how people there were calling her and her
friends bees and bike thieves. I may not have gone

(46:35):
to college.

Speaker 2 (46:36):
Wait, I'm sorry? Was that was that?

Speaker 3 (46:38):
What was that sound?

Speaker 8 (46:39):
Is that the sound of the consequences of your actions
showing up?

Speaker 3 (46:43):
Or oh my? Oh oh wait you're not used to that,
are you?

Speaker 2 (46:48):
Oh well, hey, welcome to reality. Yeah, that's what happens.
You get what your freaking deserve. God.

Speaker 1 (47:00):
Now, I may not have gone to college, but I
know students who need them and are very protective of
their bikes. A lot of them live on shoestring budgets
after all, My sister said someone even joked that they
shouldn't leave a bike around her because it might just
disappear if she had to apologize someone.

Speaker 2 (47:17):
Yes, that's five. Yes, great humor. She's the proper use
of shame. Yeah for real.

Speaker 1 (47:24):
My sister ended up so upset that she refused to
leave her room for three days to have her pity party.

Speaker 2 (47:32):
My parents called me up to try and turn everything
on me. Again.

Speaker 1 (47:36):
I reminded them about the discussion we had just days before,
and that they needed to stop babying her and let
her deal with the repercussions of her own actions. If
she fails at her classes again, it's because she's not
trying like she should be. Then I went off on
them how they were just looking for someone to blame
to make her feel better. She made the problem, not me,

(47:58):
and I wasn't going to be the one they make
the scapegoat anymore. My sister is an adult and she
needs to act like it.

Speaker 2 (48:04):
They sound. They sounded defeated and then apologized before hanging
up the call.

Speaker 1 (48:09):
Looks like they were genuinely hoping that I just sit
back and take the blame so my sister would get better.
But I never will again. By the way, you can
never take anyone's crap again. And join us live every
weekday at three pm PST.

Speaker 2 (48:26):
Just have our profile.

Speaker 1 (48:27):
We're on YouTube, Facebook, TikTok join join right now, Join
the party. But Dakota, Yes, we have to talk.

Speaker 2 (48:38):
Let's talk. We have to communicate. Brother. Wow, Indeed, what
did we just witness?

Speaker 8 (48:48):
I think we witnessed the end result of when parents
like ruin their kid. Yeah, in like the way where
instead of like it's it's kind of its own form
of neglect in that you neglected to teach your kid
how the world functions. Definitely, definitely, like, yeah, you're throwing
a tantrum because you have to throw in a like

(49:10):
because you have to make an apology at college age.

Speaker 2 (49:13):
Like she's behaving like an eight year old straight up.

Speaker 8 (49:16):
And even then at eight years old, it's still like,
all right, we should be understanding how to be like
nice to people.

Speaker 1 (49:24):
Yeah, honestly that's a compliment for her, Like she is
acting like pure toddler energy.

Speaker 8 (49:31):
Right, this is Terrible two's type Sun Absolutely absolutely, but
like I don't see a path forward other than her
like it because the parents won't.

Speaker 2 (49:42):
The parents need to give the cold water. I don't
even think the parents can.

Speaker 8 (49:46):
I think they are beyond repair, Like yeah, their their
fundamental relationship and dynamic with their daughter is so broken,
yes that I don't think they can do anything to
help her at this point.

Speaker 1 (49:59):
So let me ask you this, Like, it seems pretty
clear that like she maybe there's more incidences where she
embarrasses herself again, but it doesn't show signs of her
like stopping. Do we go like load and no contact?

Speaker 2 (50:15):
Do you think we go? Yeah?

Speaker 5 (50:16):
No, I'm I would go no contact. She doesn't want
to talk to me, she wants to just bully me.

Speaker 1 (50:23):
Yeah, but let's finish the story now. My parents are
trying to pretend this all never happened, and my sister
as well as her clique are avoiding me at all costs,
which I suppose is fine with me because I don't
want any more drama. But the next time something like
this happens from him, I won't take it from him. Okay,

(50:46):
And that's the end of that is a that is
a mic drop right there.

Speaker 2 (50:51):
That is a mic drop right there.

Speaker 1 (50:52):
I won't take it from them. I like, you know,
as good as it can. And I think I think.

Speaker 2 (51:03):
The sister might. Yeah, you know what, I'll just leave
it at that. That is the best way that it
could end.

Speaker 5 (51:09):
She's got to learn some way, got learn she's yeah
or she doesn't care. And it's not Opie's job either
at all.

Speaker 8 (51:16):
So it looks like she's gonna have to learn the
hard way, which is all of the people around her
that she used to think thought she was cool are
not going to be.

Speaker 2 (51:23):
Like, oh, Yeah, it's you, the weird bike thief dude.

Speaker 1 (51:26):
The fact that these people give Like if my friend
was like, oh, hey, I'm gonna like take my brother's
bike and like hide it in like a like a
lake with mud and stuff, I'd be like, no.

Speaker 2 (51:35):
Well at first, when you you'd be like, what did
he do? Yeah, like to do something.

Speaker 8 (51:39):
Yeah, he's eating lunch at a hospital once a week.

Speaker 1 (51:45):
Hey, it's John here Og, host of the show. We're
gonna get back to these juicy stories. But here's a
quick three minutes of ads from our sponsors. My boyfriend
stole a stranger's ice cream because someone.

Speaker 2 (51:54):
Dared him double dog dare you? I guarantee you it's
just a frank bruh brother.

Speaker 1 (52:02):
But we were walking around this evening and he, the
boyfriend I believe, mentioned wanting to get ice cream, hadn't
brought any money, and neither had I. We usually take
a walk after dinner and don't buy stuff during it
unless we decided beforehand that we wanted to get something
that night. By the way, this comes from Communist manifesto.
On the our side started talking out name, so as

(52:25):
we're walking past a group of people, he made a
sudden movement to the side, and then started running in
the opposite direction full speed.

Speaker 2 (52:34):
I wonder what could have happened? Yes, what are you
doing to move? What?

Speaker 1 (52:47):
It was so fast I hadn't seen exactly what he did.
People were saying things like, holy crap and OMG. Another guy,
another guy said he took my ice cream.

Speaker 2 (52:59):
And that's when I realized what had happened. He had
ethicstole this guy's ice cream on a busy street. Wow.

Speaker 1 (53:09):
I was absolutely shocked and mortified. Everyone around us had
seen it or else quickly got told about it. They
were staring and pointing down the street where he was
still running.

Speaker 3 (53:19):
There's the ice cream bandit to get.

Speaker 2 (53:22):
Him, get him on business. Oh my god. I couldn't
believe what I was seeing.

Speaker 1 (53:27):
I apologized repeatedly to the man whose ice cream he grabbed.
I apologize repeatedly to the man whose ice cream he grabbed,
then said I was going to go find him and
got myself out of there, utterly humiliating. Well, he'd nearly
made it back to the house in that time. I
got there a few minutes later and found out that
he had been crouched in the stairway fiercely eating the

(53:50):
ice cream out of the cup. He scrambled when he
heard me coming, dropping the ice cream everywhere. He literally
left the cup on the stairs and ran away from
me up to our apartment.

Speaker 8 (54:01):
They lived together, and I assume no words have been
exchanged yet either.

Speaker 2 (54:07):
Yeah, just silent, primal fear of.

Speaker 1 (54:12):
But I had the key, so he was just standing
there when I got up there, I of course demanded
an explanation. He had the balls to deny that he
had done anything. I've done nothing wrong.

Speaker 2 (54:25):
That wasn't me, that was the other beast.

Speaker 8 (54:28):
Maybe this guy is somehow on a real life hard
mode where someone was like, the next person you see
eating ice cream, you have to take it and then
deny you did anything.

Speaker 1 (54:40):
Yuas so, he insisted he didn't know what I was
talking about. I sort of lost it and just started
yelling at him. The cup is down the stairs, Your
hands and mouth are covered in the ice cream. A
dozen people literally saw you snatch it right out of
a guy's hand. What the F do you mean you

(55:01):
don't know? He then changed the story and said that
it was.

Speaker 2 (55:04):
Just a joke. There it is. It was just a prank.
It was just a prank. It was just a prank.

Speaker 5 (55:10):
Brown.

Speaker 1 (55:11):
He decided to re enact a YouTube prank video or
a random stranger.

Speaker 2 (55:17):
How is that a prank?

Speaker 1 (55:18):
After I let us inside, I kept asking what makes
him think that that's okay to do?

Speaker 2 (55:23):
And he changed the story again. Bro Bro is layered. Okay,
he's very complex. Bro has two wolves inside of him.

Speaker 8 (55:33):
One wolve wants ice cream and those dogs are barking,
and the other, I guess, is a liar.

Speaker 2 (55:41):
I don't know there something None of this is making
any sense. What's going on? Well, here's the new explanation.

Speaker 1 (55:49):
Okay, this time he said he doesn't know why he
did it.

Speaker 2 (55:54):
It was just an urge.

Speaker 1 (55:56):
I didn't even know what to say, so I told
him I needed some time to my I'm seriously disturbed.
He's got no good reason. This is completely out of
character for him. He's always very mild reserved and treats people,
especially me, very kindly. He's the last person I had
thought would do something like this. What do I do
next to figure out what the f that was about?

(56:18):
How can I know if he's even being honest? Opie
relevant comments really.

Speaker 8 (56:23):
Quick here, like there is a way to do this
where it's not a villain. Like, the way to do
it is certainly not run away with the stranger's ice
cream and eat it alone in a stairwell. It's like,
maybe take the ice cream, eat it in front of
the guy, and you go ha, No, this was like
a social experiment.

Speaker 2 (56:43):
Uh, here's like twenty five dollars, okay, And even.

Speaker 8 (56:47):
Then it's still like veried close to the edge of like,
this is what are you doing? The fact that there's
no camp, there's nothing, this is just for him.

Speaker 2 (56:57):
It's like, I don't know.

Speaker 8 (56:59):
Also, you can leave the ice cream intact, like you don't,
you don't. Just I don't know what this guy was thinking.
But there's a way to do it where you're not
the villain. And he did it the wrong way. This
this guy's.

Speaker 2 (57:11):
Breaking my brain.

Speaker 1 (57:12):
Man, Well, we we might have some explanation that may
or may not help us figure this way.

Speaker 2 (57:17):
Wait, I just really quick.

Speaker 8 (57:18):
The only way this is acceptable is if he got
paid to do it, because this was secretly an episode
of Impractical.

Speaker 2 (57:23):
Jokers, And that's it. That's all. That's it, Because because
then that that's it, I'll leave it at that. That's it.

Speaker 1 (57:34):
That's the only that's the only thing Dakota will accept
impractical jokers. Well, opie is added in the comments, So
adding this to a top comment so anyone's still following
will see. Last night, I asked him again what he
was thinking. He said, Jesus, I don't know. I already
told you. Oh God, I said, I couldn't accept that

(58:02):
answer because it's not a real answer.

Speaker 2 (58:05):
I told him we needed to talk about it because.

Speaker 1 (58:07):
After reading some comments, some of the comments last night,
I needed to know if something was going on with
him mentally.

Speaker 2 (58:14):
He said it wasn't.

Speaker 1 (58:15):
I started naming possible things he could get stressed about,
like job, family, money, and he said it was all
going fine. And to my knowledge, that's true. If something's
going on, then he's hiding it.

Speaker 2 (58:26):
Well.

Speaker 1 (58:27):
He was visibly annoyed by my questioning, and when I
eventually asked if he realized how bizarre it was, he.

Speaker 2 (58:33):
Snapped, who often cares, Please stop bothering me.

Speaker 8 (58:36):
I'm busy, Okay, Now this is when you just go,
I'll stop bothering you forever because.

Speaker 2 (58:42):
I'm breaking up with you. Yeah, that's for.

Speaker 8 (58:45):
Real, Like there's no going back from that now. Yeah,
I don't care what explanation you have after that, goodbye forever.

Speaker 2 (58:52):
Cyon a right.

Speaker 1 (58:53):
Yeah, he refused to talk about it anymore after that,
but has been talking about other stuff as normal. It's
like he just pretending that it never happened. If it
hadn't happened, there's nothing about his behavior right now that
would be weird to me. So now I feel like
I'm crazy if I just bring it up anymore. I
don't know if I need to just forget about it
like he is or what. I'm still stunned and very confused.

(59:17):
We have some more relevant comments here from Alma Zeuzer
zero nineteen, who says if he had if he had
had a lapse in judgment and thought it was a
funny prank, then I feel like he would be laughing
when you found him and being all like, dude.

Speaker 2 (59:30):
Did you see a look on their faces? Ah wants
an ice cream, babe? Instead.

Speaker 1 (59:35):
The way he wrote it, it sounds like he was
furiously eating the ice cream he stole and then ran
away from you when he saw you coming, So he
wasn't doing it as a joke. The way you write
it sounds like he was manic, like an animal, completely
going on instinct.

Speaker 8 (59:48):
Yes, like like the spirit of a chimpanzee just inhabited
his body.

Speaker 1 (59:56):
Bro he wanted ice cream that badly that he grabbed
someone's ice cream out of their hand, high tailed at
home and started shoveling down his throat greedily, and then
ran away once he saw you coming. All of that
sounds so insane. I don't even know what to say.
I think he's probably embarrassed and doesn't want to talk
about it. If it was a psychotic episode or something

(01:00:17):
tied to mental illness, I wouldn't expect him to know
Slash realize this. So asking him, did you have a
psychotic episode? Do you have a history of mental illness?
Isn't going to be very fruitful, and it will just
make him more defensive. You see, you have to get
him to see a professional, but don't be accusatory or
make him feel like he's crazy. Ope, he responds to

(01:00:39):
this comment, Yes, the way you describe it is exactly
how it happened. He wasn't laughing at any point when
he was trying to convince me it was a joke.
He sounded more defensive and panicky than amused with himself.
If I can't tell him about the possibility of a
psychotic episode. Then how can I get him to see
someone he won't see any reason to go. We have

(01:01:02):
what I believe is our final update. This is our
final update here.

Speaker 2 (01:01:09):
Please please give us something. Do you break up? Uh?
Are they better? Are you serious? We have one final
update for him to prove he's worth it. Let's get it.

Speaker 1 (01:01:24):
So I finally got the explanation from him yesterday. Okay,
it's all going to be revealed. Turns out that he
was in a discord server chat where all the members
dare each other to humiliate themselves by doing outlandish things
in public that they would never do. He told me

(01:01:44):
he's left the group because the experience was really stressful
to him.

Speaker 8 (01:01:50):
You know what's really stressful, not just saying that from
the very beginning.

Speaker 2 (01:01:56):
Dude, how was that hard? I don't understand.

Speaker 8 (01:02:00):
Still breaking up breaking up with this guy at mock fifteenth,
I am breaking up with this guy. And also, he
needs to go to the moon. I don't think he's
earned the sun. I don't think he's earned the orc cloud.
But my god, he needs to go to the moon
and look at the Earth and say, please.

Speaker 2 (01:02:16):
Let me back, give a move.

Speaker 8 (01:02:17):
I promise I won't do anything like this again. To
the moon with this one. Send him, get him out
of here.

Speaker 2 (01:02:23):
Oh yay.

Speaker 1 (01:02:24):
He told me he's left the group because the experience
was really stressful to him, not exciting like he thought
it would be when he joined. It was the first
time that he'd taken one of the dares. He said
that afterwards he just didn't know what to say and
couldn't believe that he'd actually done it. Oh, I was saying,
I sadded myself. By the way, if you want to

(01:02:46):
unsadden yourself, you can join us live every weekday at
three pm PSD top of our profile. We're live on Facebook,
on YouTube TikTok. You're watching join.

Speaker 2 (01:02:55):
And don't forget the twitch babies, so we know you're
out there. We know you're out there. Love you all.
So yeah, you're still You're still team. Just dump them.

Speaker 8 (01:03:05):
I'm honestly, this is one of the worst explanations it
could have ever been, is that there's no reason for
him to not He's just like, I didn't know what
to say.

Speaker 2 (01:03:13):
It's like, you say, it's a prank. What what I
will say this? And I think you're gonna hate me.

Speaker 1 (01:03:22):
I would like I think he's on probation, and like
any slip up that happens, like okay, horrible explanation, horrible reason, stupid,
why did you not tell me all of those things?
Like look, you embarrassed me, like all those things. You
can ever do that again? If it happened, I guess

(01:03:43):
one time, and maybe I'm like thinking about it in
terms of my own relationship, but I'm like, if it
happened one time.

Speaker 8 (01:03:49):
It does depend on how long you've been together, what
your actual how how tightly knit you are.

Speaker 2 (01:03:54):
Yeah, yeah, this is someone you've been dating for like
a couple of months. Get back to the moon.

Speaker 8 (01:03:59):
Yeah, And you know what you say, probation, It's like,
technically that's on our on our cosmic ranking scale of
like people's naughtiness, Like the moon is essentially probation, cause
over the moon and then you get to come back
to Earth after you stay there for a while and
realize how absolutely ridiculous your decisions and behavior works. So
I think, break up with this guy, right, and then

(01:04:20):
if he really does try to make it up to you,
maybe you consider.

Speaker 2 (01:04:25):
Letting him back if that's something you want.

Speaker 8 (01:04:27):
But honestly, I don't think I'd ever be able to
look at the guy the same way again.

Speaker 1 (01:04:31):
That's and that's perfectly fair. I I totally understand anyone.
They couldn't stay with him again.

Speaker 5 (01:04:36):
Every time you see ice cream in public with him,
you're like, oh, are you gonna do it?

Speaker 2 (01:04:40):
Trauma?

Speaker 8 (01:04:41):
Every time trauma see ice cream for the rest of
my life, regardless, I'm gonna think of this guy. Yeah,
you've now You've now imprinted a permanent memory upon ice
cream for me.

Speaker 2 (01:04:52):
I don't know.

Speaker 5 (01:04:52):
Oh, he did say that, like he's a good guy,
Like he's never done anything, Like he's very reserved.

Speaker 2 (01:04:58):
That's what I was saying.

Speaker 5 (01:04:59):
I'm like, what drove him to do this?

Speaker 1 (01:05:02):
I know, I guess this is the one. But but
you know what honestly happens with so many of these stories.
I feel like because they're like, oh, they're the most
perfect person, but and then describes it proceeds to describe
the worst thing anyone's ever done, and then is like, oh, but.

Speaker 2 (01:05:15):
Also like they suck it all these other airs, So
like okay, so yeah, so they're terrible.

Speaker 1 (01:05:18):
Yeah yeah, they're like they're amazing, except you know, they
kicked my mom down a flight of stairs. And actually
they're like really terrible and they like hate me and
they like are a horrible partner too. So it's like, yeah, yeah,
I feel like I feel like this guy falls in
that category. If he does get him out of here,
I'm I'm I'm totally I'm totally good with with dumping him.

Speaker 2 (01:05:37):
I wouldn't get mad at anyone ye dumped him.

Speaker 1 (01:05:39):
Yeah, But to finish out, he was extremely apologetic for
acting like a lunatic causing me to worry about him.

Speaker 2 (01:05:45):
We had a long talk about it last night.

Speaker 1 (01:05:48):
I believe he genuinely regrets it. He knows that what
a stupid f up, that it was not much else
to stay. Really just wanted to come back. Now that
I got all the answers, Thank you to everyone who
tried to make sense out of it in the original
post and who gave me advice for talking with him.
It looks like, at least as of now, at least
where we just left it, they are staying together.

Speaker 8 (01:06:12):
Okay, Yeah, I would break as soon as the like,
oh we're still talking about this, drop it. That's when
I leave instantaneously, because you already First of all, sir.

Speaker 2 (01:06:24):
Who on earth do you think you're talking to you.

Speaker 8 (01:06:28):
Just you just like went full Gollumn mode, stole a
stranger's ice cream, and now you have the nerve to
be like, shut up, we're not talking about it. Uh,
you're right, because I'm leaving forever, like go to the moon,
still still to the moon, with this one, still to
the moon. I don't care how remorsefully is. He could
be remorseful on the moon and then come back.

Speaker 2 (01:06:50):
That's the whole point. Man a little bit, but he
asked to go to the moon. That's the whole point
of it. Discord cord our just oohown dance.

Speaker 1 (01:07:05):
Oh yeah, our discord would never no, our discord would
never write never, I would hope, I would hope never.

Speaker 2 (01:07:15):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, I.

Speaker 1 (01:07:16):
Like the plane. Yeah, I'm super on board. I'm super
super on board for this, the moon to the moon.

Speaker 8 (01:07:21):
I just don't think and look, clearly, the op is
more cueued into their relationship and how much of it
it would be, how how worth it it would be
to say the sky.

Speaker 2 (01:07:32):
Yeah, but the eyes can't. I can't.

Speaker 1 (01:07:35):
With everything we have, He's not a keeper, everything, all
the context we have, He's not a keeper.

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