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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey, this is Sam. This is John, the og story
Time podcast host.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
Oh yeah, and we got some great stories coming up.
Speaker 3 (00:06):
But before that, we get a teeny two minute break
from the sponsors that keep this show propped up like
a little house.
Speaker 4 (00:12):
Oh yeah, my girlfriend wants me to sleep with her
twin to improve her confidence.
Speaker 3 (00:18):
So I, twenty three male, am in.
Speaker 4 (00:21):
This very bizarre situation right now. I've been dating this
amazing girl twenty two female for a little over two years,
and it's been an absolute blast.
Speaker 3 (00:29):
She's attractive, cheerful.
Speaker 4 (00:30):
Kind, supportive. We have a great relationship. She also happens
to have an identical twin and they're pretty close.
Speaker 3 (00:37):
By the way.
Speaker 4 (00:38):
This comes from throw a twin twenty two on the
r slash Showka Storytime Separated. So they've been staying together
here since they started university. They go to different universities
though they're a bit different personality wise. But the twin
is also a very kind girl, and we get along
pretty well naturally. We all hang out together very often,
and I'm pretty comfortable with both of them. I think
of her twin as my own sister in a way. Anyway,
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the twin was dating this guy, thirty male, for almost
a year. I never particularly liked him. I thought he
was an arrogant prick, but I tolerated him when we
all hung out together for drinks once in a while.
Well turns out I was correct. He was cheating on
her with his ex, and they eventually broke up. This
was six months ago. Needless to say that the girl
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was devastated. She took it very hard. She became kind
of depressed, and her self esteem and self worth weren't
doing that great. The fact that it was her first
relationship didn't help either. I guess you started not wanting
to go out that much. We tried to do our
best to drag her out, of course, to see and
meet new people, and why not even hooked up with someone.
I even tried to set her up with one of
my friends, who was single at the time and honestly
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a great guy overall. But no bueno. It's not only us.
Her own friends also tried to help her, but she
just won't cooperate. She says she wants to meet nice guys,
yet she's always being in a bee and whiny about it,
never liking anyone. She keeps comparing them to that prick simultaneously,
she keeps whining and saying she's not pretty nice and
other crap like that, which is not even remotely true,
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but no matter how many times we tell her, she
just won't believe it. Now, I know she's feeling pretty
down about the whole thing, and I understand that and
don't hate her, but I'd be lying if I said
I didn't find it annoying because it's starting to affect
our relationship. My girlfriend always worries about her and tries
to help her a little too much. They proceed to fight,
and then my girlfriend takes it out on me and
we're not even at the good part yet. No, no, yeah,
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I think you need to as it's there's more, obviously,
but I think you need to set up some boundaries
to have a talk with your girlfriend because pretty exhausting
when you have one friend who's just always kind of
putting the same burden on you. Yeah, and you're like, okay, well,
I'm telling you how to fix it, and you're not
taking any of that advice. So I don't know why
you're telling me over and over then, Right, So, yesterday
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my girlfriend was staying at my place. We had spicy
sleep and afterwards, we were lying down talking, you know,
usual stuff, until she says she wants to ask me
for a bit. I'm like sure, then proceeds to tell
me she'd like me to have spicy sleep with her sister.
Speaker 5 (03:07):
Oh oh, oh, oh weird.
Speaker 3 (03:13):
Weird.
Speaker 4 (03:14):
At first, like any sane man, I thought that either
she was joking or that I fell asleep and was
dreaming I was starring in one of those corn movies
with twins. Sadly, she wasn't joking at all, and I
was wide awake. She probably realized I had a WTF
look on my face and then proceeded to rationalize it.
She told me that her twin already had a slight
crush on me, and at the moment, I'm probably the
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only guy she trusts. She says, she thinks it will
greatly improve her sister's self esteem and mood.
Speaker 3 (03:39):
No.
Speaker 4 (03:41):
No, She told me she already talked about it with
her twin and the twin was okay with it.
Speaker 3 (03:45):
Ikey, akay with it? No ikey. I want to know
who first came, who said this, Whose idea was it?
Who offered yeah?
Speaker 5 (03:54):
Because he asked if the girlfriend is saying that like
she to her yeah about it, and the sister was like, yeah,
I guess, and like what yeah, why was that?
Speaker 3 (04:06):
Why was that your thought?
Speaker 4 (04:07):
Or if the sister came to Opie's right, my friend
was like, hey, I want to sleep with your boyfriend, right,
Like both of these are bad.
Speaker 5 (04:14):
Yeah, weird situations all around, no matter how you look
at it.
Speaker 4 (04:17):
She reassured me multiple times she won't get mad about
it and she won't even be present. I hope that, yeah, what,
I hope she wouldn't be present. I hope this hasn't happened.
But geez, she could just stay at my place while
I go to theirs and do the deed. It would
only be one time, and I could just pretend her
sister was her. She said, Heck, I don't even have
to take the whole thing, seriously, I just need to
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have Spicy sleep with her sister and then hold her
tightly for a bit so that she feels wanted and
desired and.
Speaker 3 (04:43):
Crap like that.
Speaker 4 (04:44):
She was practically begging me to bang herself. Oh my gosh, honestly,
I would break up. Yeah, I think it would break
up over this. I would too, absolutely, I would. Actually
In the end, I said, I'll think about it for
a bit and left it at that. I couldn't effing
sleep that night. That was yesterday. Today, I'm kind of
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avoiding my girlfriend. We texted a bit, and thank god,
she hasn't mentioned anything about it yet. I'm freaking out.
Twin sus jokes aside, I don't think this is normal.
She was talking about it like it was nothing. The
spicy sleep itself is not such a big deal for me.
I mean, they look almost exactly the same, and I'm
pretty comfortable with her twin. I think if I accepted,
it can potentially ruin our relationship. I'm sorry, wait, wait,
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wait wait, So if he was like, I'm actually kind
of down, but I feel like I would ruin the relationship.
Speaker 5 (05:30):
I feel like it wouldn't be like that. Yeah, that's
just well, but that's just crazy. She says she won't
get mad, but I heavily doubt it, and I also
heavily doubt it will help her sister, unless something suspicious
is going on that I'm not aware of. Also, I
am fearing that if I have Spicy Sleep with the twin,
not only will things get really awkward between the three
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of us, but the twin might later get jealous and
start sabotaging our relationship.
Speaker 3 (05:55):
Yeah. Yeah, honestly, my.
Speaker 4 (05:57):
Girlfriend was pretty serious about the whole thing, though, she
like she really wanted me to do it. I am
having some really dark thoughts right now. Perhaps the twin
is manipulating her and is taking advantage of me and
my girlfriend. Perhaps my girlfriend is weirder than usual. I
feel guilty having such thoughts for two girls I hold
in high regard.
Speaker 3 (06:13):
Oh man, I think have no clue what to do.
Speaker 4 (06:16):
I am thinking of suggesting that we get her to
therapy to feel better or something.
Speaker 3 (06:21):
Yeah, sounds like a good plan.
Speaker 4 (06:22):
I've talked about this with two of my friends, but
the efforts just won't take the situation. Seriously, I'm getting
paranoid at this point, but I just don't want to
ruin this nice thing I have with my girlfriend. That's all.
And there is an update to finish this story off.
But honestly, I think I would still break up in
this situation. Yeah, just like really, I don't know, it's
just like weird. It's just weird. Yeah, Like I feel
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like weird.
Speaker 5 (06:44):
If OP is down, then like maybe their relationship isn't
that serious to begin with. Yeah, So like I guess
maybe in their situation, they don't need to break up
if it's just not that serious at all.
Speaker 3 (06:57):
But if it was, then yeah, you should probably break up.
Speaker 4 (07:00):
Yeah if you were like, this is someone I care
about and you're asking me to sleep with someone else
for her confidence, right, I guess Like what it just
feels like really like just like Op's girlfriend is using
him to make her sister feel better. But there is
an update. I read and skimmed through most of your comments.
Speaker 3 (07:17):
Guys.
Speaker 4 (07:17):
Anyway, here's a brief update. So I met with my
girlfriend earlier today and it was pretty good. I think
we met and talked. She brought it up. Turns out
she was feeling like crap the whole time yesterday, deeply
ashamed and terrified.
Speaker 3 (07:29):
Okay, turn around.
Speaker 4 (07:31):
She started crying, saying she was regretting it all day
yesterday and she is now one hundred percent sure. She
doesn't want to share me with anyone. She doesn't even
want to imagine me being inside another woman, and was
terrified that if I said yes, then she wouldn't be
able to do anything to stop it since she suggested it.
She mentioned that she is deeply sorry and is now
afraid that I think she's not normal and I'm going
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to leave her and stuff. I reassured her that I
love her, I think she's perfectly normal, and I'm not intending.
Speaker 3 (07:57):
To leave her or anything like that. I don't think
she's perfectly normal. I don't know if I was perfectly normal.
Speaker 4 (08:04):
Once things calm down a bit, we talked about what
prompted it. Apparently she and her sister talk an awfully
effing lot about spicy sleep and relationships and are very
open about it, which in turn means they're talking about
our relationship and me a lot. According to my girlfriend,
the sister has fantasized quite a few times about me
how I would look unclothed or when having spicy sleep,
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but my girlfriend never thought anything of it since it
wasn't particularly serious, as in, I'll steal your boyfriend, and
to be fair, throughout the relationship, I never once got
the impression that the sister was hitting on me at
any point or doing something looking to escalate things. My
girlfriend admitted she was actually flattered. Her sister found me
attractive and desirable, and we would be flattered if you
joined us live every weekday at three PMPST on YouTube
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just tap a profile and there's just a teensy bit more.
But I feel like Op's girlfriend needs to pay attention
to the red flags her sister is demonstrating, because it's
really not normal to be like, ooh, you're friend so hot.
I was thinking about how it would be, like what
it would be like to like sleep with them, right,
But there's a little bit left to the story. Things
got more intense this last month, though, and the sister
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was way more vocal about it. My girlfriend eventually started
entertaining the idea of me getting intimate with her sister,
not in a it's hot kind of way, but more
of a wanting to share something I greatly treasure kind
of way, as per her worts. They talked about it
and the sister was very on board with it. That's
pretty much it. We're both meeting the sister in the
evening to clear things up. Hopefully things go back the
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way they were. I mean, it's not like anything bad
has actually happened. Opie is too chill about this. This
is so so so weird.
Speaker 3 (09:39):
That little part just said that they're like thinking about
it again. Pretty much.
Speaker 4 (09:43):
No, so, Opie's sister had always kind of had a
crush on OPI it seems like, yeah, but then recently,
I think in the past couple, Yeah, in the last month,
the sister was like, oh my god, I would love
to sleep with him. Bah bah, like just getting really
intense about it. Yeah, to the point where Opie's girlfriend,
I guess kind of like, oh.
Speaker 3 (10:02):
Well you can, maybe that would be maybe that would work.
And now they're going to talk about Okay, okay, let's
we're not doing this. So it's just like a.
Speaker 5 (10:11):
Little bit of backstory and what they're gonna do about
it exactly, okay, exactly, but still, yeah, it's really weird, strange,
unique little situation. Yeah, really individue pretty funny. Honestly, it's like, uh,
that's a little weird.
Speaker 3 (10:28):
But like, I guess it's so good to you. And
there's another one so she looks like you, so I
guess it's fine, wouldn't be that bad.
Speaker 4 (10:36):
But that's just crazy, weird, weird, weird.
Speaker 3 (10:41):
But that's the end of that story.
Speaker 5 (10:43):
My fiance has sent spicy pigs to his guy friend.
I think he's cheating on me. We've been together for
three years. We have great spicy sleep. He tells me
he loves me he wants kids. He tells me it's
just a joke and that they do this because it's funny.
His best we'll call him Tyler for the sake of
this post. They usually talk spicy to each other all
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the time. By the way, this comes from you slash
raccoon flat five two six five on the arc slash Okay,
storytime Separate. So I have seen over his shoulder text
saying things like I'm a pound your a so hard
that it's gonna hurt to walk days after. And I
have seen photos of both of them sending pictures of
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their wieners. I was snooping last night. I know I
shouldn't do that, but Tyler sent my fiance a photo
of his Are we say these his?
Speaker 3 (11:38):
I don't even know what to say either.
Speaker 5 (11:40):
But Tyler sent my fiance a photo of his wiener
a couple of days ago, and my fiance said nice wiener,
bro and other things like too bad, I'm not kay,
or like it almost seems like they're joking but sending
actual pictures of their junk, like multiple times.
Speaker 3 (11:57):
Both of them hard talking like this pretty regularly. Am
I the a hole? Please help?
Speaker 5 (12:02):
We are set to get married soon, and I'm worried
he is cheating on me with Tyler. Edit. I don't
have a problem with him being gay. I have a
problem with him cheating on me. Small little update. I'm
going to play cool for a couple of days and
just keep an eye on their behavior. Tyler is coming
over to hang out this coming Tuesday afternoon, and I.
Speaker 3 (12:20):
Might say something to gauge their reactions.
Speaker 5 (12:22):
Not sure what yet, but something to see if they
look at each other weird or something.
Speaker 3 (12:27):
I'll update later when I know my plan.
Speaker 5 (12:29):
I hope this turns out all to be some sort
of big joke between them, and there is two more updates,
man updates.
Speaker 4 (12:37):
I mean, I guess I don't know what their friendship
vibe is, uh huh, but I think it's really just
like I don't think that they're sleeping with each other, yeah,
based off the text. Yeah, However, I think that they
kind of want to.
Speaker 2 (12:51):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (12:51):
I think like maybe they just haven't realized exactly.
Speaker 5 (12:53):
I feel like maybe it's something like in the back
of their head they're like, well, I mean, I like
seeing pictures of his junk. Yeah, sleep, but I'm not
gay gay But then like later maybe they'll find out like, Oh,
that's what that means.
Speaker 3 (13:05):
I actually I like it. Yeah. But update number one
this is on October ninth, twenty twenty four, four days later.
Speaker 5 (13:13):
Wow, I'll start with that. I didn't say anything when
they were together. I was full of anxiety and all
in my head and I just couldn't do it. I
brought it up this morning before he left for work.
I said something to the nature of I looked at
your phone and I would love to know why you
two are spicy texting with each other. I'm not comfortable
with it, and we need to talk about this. Are
you gay or He literally burst out laughing As I'm
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tearing up asking this, He said, this is all a
big joke. He says that this whole thing started because
they were making fun of some home and people who
are insecure with their second and it went from jokes
to full on wiener picks.
Speaker 3 (13:50):
He said.
Speaker 5 (13:51):
They talk about how it's so funny that seeing a
wiener makes you gay or people find it gross, when
in fact it's no different than a picture of an
ear or a hand. It's a big inside joke because
straight men are not supposed to act like this, and
people who think that makes you gay or weird?
Speaker 3 (14:06):
Are just insecure or childish?
Speaker 2 (14:08):
Okay? Sure?
Speaker 5 (14:11):
He says that it started with just sending pictures of
readers from the internet and eventually led to them sending
their own because of.
Speaker 3 (14:17):
The shock value. I literally do not know what to
think about this.
Speaker 5 (14:21):
I told him to stop it now, and he said
he would respect that and not do it anymore, but
also said that I needed to chill, and that he
doesn't like that I looked at his phone.
Speaker 4 (14:30):
That's fair, that that's hard is fair. But still, I mean,
you are sending intimate pictures, right. I did see him
start talking on his phone as he was leaving the driveway,
probably moaning about me. And there is another update. But
what do we think? Do we think he's cheating or
do we think I don't think he's cheating, But I
really think he should look at I just like, I
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totally understand, because I do think that a lot of people,
a lot of men especially, are like, oh, that makes
you get if you do this, it makes you get.
The only thing that makes you get is if you're gay.
Speaker 5 (15:05):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (15:05):
Yeah, But let's get into the next update, shall we.
Now this is now oh an update from the fiance
on October eleventh, whoa you all right?
Speaker 5 (15:15):
So I sent this to my soon to be wife
to post for me. We had a heartfelt and serious
discussion about what she's been thinking, and then she told.
Speaker 3 (15:23):
Me about her Reddit posts. I will be honest.
Speaker 5 (15:26):
I've shared these with Tyler and we find this all
super hilarious, as.
Speaker 3 (15:30):
Well as my fiance now that she understands.
Speaker 5 (15:32):
All three of us hung out a few days ago
and talked about it and we shared a good laugh. Conclusion,
our sense of humors are much more developed than your
average redditor.
Speaker 4 (15:42):
Guys are, so they're just so they're just like just
super like here and you guys just don't really understand
it's done here.
Speaker 5 (15:49):
Yeah, and a lot of people said gay humor between
straight men is normal, but snapchatting a picture of your
hard wiener when they're not expecting it is too far
and not funny. People on these posts are the ones
making it spicy, not us. We just find it hilarious
because it's unexpecting and shocking, and people's reactions when we
tell them we do this, like all of yours, is
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funny asv to us. This is not a secret among
our group of guy friends and a handful of other
dudes have seen our.
Speaker 3 (16:18):
Widers besides just us too.
Speaker 5 (16:20):
Okay, sure, After my conversation with my fiance and Tyler,
we agreed we wouldn't behave like this anymore if it
made her uncomfortable. There's nothing wrong with being gay, and
if either of us were gay, then we wouldn't have
a problem with that or keep it a secret.
Speaker 3 (16:36):
It's not our fault.
Speaker 5 (16:37):
We've unlocked peak humor and you guys are projecting all
of your perception of sex or insecurities onto the situation.
Speaker 3 (16:45):
Yeah, it seems like Opie's partner is very secure, so
that we live in a pretty dark world.
Speaker 5 (16:53):
And I'm not sure a lot of the men in
these threads got bullied and called gay when they were
in school growing up. Your fear of people thinking you're
gay is not my problem or has anything to do
with my life. It's perfectly okay if you wouldn't send
a photo of your wider to one of your friends.
Speaker 3 (17:09):
But if my bud Tyler wants to hit one of.
Speaker 5 (17:11):
Our bros with a Weier pick randomly every six months
when they're least expecting it, and everyone involved just finds
it funny, and who gives an f It's not his fault.
You have a weak sense of humor. You see a
peepy and think of it as inherently spicy, then that
says more about you than it does. That's funny to
answer a lot of people's questions. No, I would not
care if my fiance set a picture of her the
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Jay j to one of her girlfriends as a joke. Literally,
wouldn't bother me in the slightest. If it bothers you,
that's you. I also saw a woman in one of
the threads who said she'd forced her husband because he
wanted to try some spicy things that.
Speaker 3 (17:44):
She thought was gay. Oh, what we're talking about?
Speaker 4 (17:48):
That's okay, Yeah, No, that does not Yeah, so obviously
the understanding.
Speaker 3 (17:54):
Of second the community is limited.
Speaker 5 (17:57):
A man and woman engaging in a spicy act is
not gay in any capacity. When two men engage in
spicy or romantic behavior, that's it. Do people send weirder
pigs in a spicy capacity?
Speaker 3 (18:10):
Obviously? Sometimes it's just funny. Get over it. Sorry, you're
insecure about people seeing your wiener.
Speaker 1 (18:16):
It's just a peepee.
Speaker 3 (18:17):
Like my Wiena's great.
Speaker 5 (18:20):
I want everyone to see it because I think that's
a neat slapper.
Speaker 3 (18:24):
It's not going to urt you.
Speaker 5 (18:26):
This is a very weird, backwards Puritan society we live in.
Speaker 3 (18:30):
After speaking about it with my fiance and Tyler together, she.
Speaker 5 (18:33):
Understands it's just a big joke to us, even though
it's not her particular sense of humor. She said she
doesn't know if she's okay with it, so we agreed
we won't act like that anymore. She's my soulmate and
I love her very much. Everyone telling her to run
away or break up with me is an effing. It's
projecting their own crappy relationship experiences onto us.
Speaker 3 (18:52):
Maybe learn to give advice objectively instead of projecting. Next time.
You don't know us.
Speaker 5 (18:57):
You don't know the dynamics of my relationship or of
my friendships. But you know what you do know is
that you can join us live every weekday at three PMPST.
Speaker 3 (19:08):
Just trap our profot tap it.
Speaker 5 (19:12):
I appreciate everyone who actually tried to offer her thoughtful,
compassionate advice that led us to communicating about this so
we could move past it. For the men messaging her
on here and flirting, I would like to say you
took advantage of her during an emotional time, and she
told me about how she played into this and will
not do it again. I don't have a Reddit, but
my wife will show me this post later tonight and
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then we're moving on from all this.
Speaker 3 (19:35):
BS. Good bye, we turn around my hand drop.
Speaker 4 (19:39):
Yeah, my girlfriend lied about being on a trip. Is
our relationship over? My girlfriend Amy and I went on
her first date about a year and a half ago,
took things slowly while being exclusive, and have been officially dating. Overall,
the relationship has been pretty good, minus some small hiccups
in communication that she chalks up to her neuro day.
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By the way, this comes from throwaway lying locate on
the Okay storytime subvert it.
Speaker 5 (20:04):
So.
Speaker 3 (20:05):
Amy isn't great with.
Speaker 4 (20:06):
Texting, which I thought was a red flag at first
until I found out She's like that with almost everyone,
most of her friends and family included. To give a
little background, Amy and a few of her girlfriends go
to this conference a few states over twice per year.
It's a two day event, which they usually turn into
a five day vacation because it requires a flight and
hotel and.
Speaker 3 (20:26):
Is in a nice city.
Speaker 4 (20:27):
Amy's friend group is typically very active on social media
during these trips, posting on their Instagram story during All
Points Flights Conference Beach, et cetera. This weekend was supposed
to be their third time attending. Amy and her friends
have had their flights and hotels booked for a few months,
confirmed by some of their posts on social media, being
excited about having everything booked. Unfortunately, the conference was canceled,
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but they already booked everything, so they decided to still
enjoy vacation. My girlfriend and I had a date night
last weekend. She was telling me about how excited she was.
Speaker 3 (20:58):
For her trip.
Speaker 4 (20:59):
All was good, but at the end of the date
I caught a glimpse of Amy's phone. She was on
her airline app and it looked like she was reading
cancelation policies. We had a long day and I was
tired and felt like I was snooping slash being nosy,
so I didn't say anything. During the week I asked
Amy to hang out the day before the flight, emphasizing
that I wanted to see her before her trip. Unfortunately,
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she was meeting up with her group of coworker friends
so she couldn't.
Speaker 3 (21:23):
No worries.
Speaker 4 (21:24):
The morning of her flight, I texted her wishing her
a safe flight and a happy trip, and she liked
my message. We haven't talked since. As I said, she's
not a big Texter, so we usually don't text much
besides planning dates and in emergencies. I figured she was
on her trip, so I haven't texted to plan a date.
Speaker 3 (21:41):
Now on to the meat of the issue. Uh oh.
Speaker 4 (21:45):
Amy is now supposed to be a few days into
her trip and I noticed none of her friends were
posting on Instagram. I thought that was weird because they
usually post a lot, but I shrugged it off. That
was until tonight Amy started posting videos of her at
a show. Oh it looked fun, and I didn't think
twice about it until the ending, where the show host
called out thank you, and then the name of the
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major city nearby where we live. Approximately thirty minute dry.
I looked up the name of the show, and of
course it was in that nearby city this weekend, meaning
she wasn't on that vacation after all, and never thought
to say anything to me about it.
Speaker 3 (22:23):
WHOA, why not?
Speaker 5 (22:25):
Yeah, if you're just going to a concert, why not
say say something.
Speaker 3 (22:29):
Is going fishes? She out of the concert.
Speaker 1 (22:31):
Win.
Speaker 4 (22:33):
I did a little snooping on Venmo and found out
that over two weeks ago, Amy's friend paid her back
the money that Amy had sent her for the hotel
and car rental, So she's known the trip was canceled
for two weeks and hasn't said anything to me every
time I brought it up. Where do I go from here?
I feel like I'm suddenly spiraling, going crazy, overthinking everything
lately to see if I've missed any signs. I've already
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started assuming the worst, and I'm panicking. I'm out of
town for the weekend, and I feel like this is
totally thrown off my trip. Is this worth a conversation
or is the relationship already over? Is there any reason
she would have not said something by now? Even if
she tells me the trip was canceled right when I
see her before I confront her, would that still justify
not telling me until after the trip? Please? Any advice
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is greatly appreciated. And edit, her best friend just uploaded
a picture of them during the show, so I know
she wasn't there with some guy, but that doesn't explain
the lying. And there is an update to finish this
story off. Wow, but like such a weird lie, such
a weird like why so.
Speaker 3 (23:37):
Wait did it say something about her being with the guy?
Speaker 4 (23:39):
I know?
Speaker 3 (23:39):
She wasn't she was? I mean that we know of that.
Speaker 5 (23:42):
We know because I feel like an evil scheme like this,
it would be it would be like, oh, great, he
already knows I'm going on the trip.
Speaker 3 (23:50):
It didn't work out, but that's fine.
Speaker 5 (23:51):
He doesn't need to know that because I'm gonna spend
this time with this other guy instead.
Speaker 4 (23:56):
Yes, it would be the evil scheme, which may or
may not be what she has done.
Speaker 3 (24:01):
Yeah, that's what I'm gonna guess. That's the theory. I
think that might be my guess as well. Why else
would you lie? But there is an update.
Speaker 4 (24:09):
Hey everyone, I had some dms asking for an update,
so here it is to quickly summarize my last post.
A few weeks back, my girlfriend was supposed to go
on a trip a few states away to go to
a conference. I came to find out that the conference
was canceled and she didn't actually go, and never even
bothered to tell me. She lied by omission about it
by not telling me. When I texted her to have
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a good flight, I found out she didn't go because
her best friend posted a picture of them at a
show in a local nearby city. So here we are
almost a month later. I was a wreck and spiraling
these past few weeks, and after being together for almost
two years, I was too panic to reach out and
ask to see her. During the three weeks since her
plan trip, she hasn't reached out once to me.
Speaker 3 (24:52):
WHOA.
Speaker 4 (24:53):
That wasn'tuntil yesterday when she casually reached out like we
hadn't just ignored each other for three weeks and asked
to see a movie. So I I just finally saw
her tonight in the car I asked about her trip.
Her facial response was really weird, like she got caught
off guard. I'm guessing she was expecting me to forget
about it after a few weeks of not seeing her.
She just said it was okay, which instantly confirmed my suspicions.
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I asked her what she had done, and she said
she went to that conference one day, which, as I
said in my last post, was canceled, and went to
a show after before returning home. The day after I
made my original post, I asked her which and she
claimed the show that was in our local city. I
was driving at the time and it was dark out,
so I waited to confront her as I didn't want
to get emotional and endangerous. I confronted her for lying
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about the trip, doubling down and lying about the conference,
and trippling down to lie about the show. Her immediate
response was to start deflecting, saying that if this is
making me upset, to imagine how she felt that her
conference and trip were canceled. Sorry, How that makes no
sense what she said, how she was so heartbroken and
upset that the conference was canceled, which was canceled five
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weeks ago, that she didn't want to talk about it.
She kept saying that she doesn't owe it to me
or anybody else to tell us about her business and
what's going on in her life. But you're dating him,
You've been dating him for a year and a half.
Speaker 5 (26:08):
Yeah, yeah, And like I could see being upset about
a trip, being sure, but a conference a common friend,
Oh sad about a conference?
Speaker 3 (26:15):
Pa, good about this conference? Gonna stop talking to your boyfriend?
Speaker 1 (26:19):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (26:19):
Insane?
Speaker 4 (26:20):
I'm so Also, I just don't think that's true about
like her saying, oh, I don't know, I don't know
anyone information about my life. When you're in a relationship
with someone, there is a certain expectation that you're going
to share about each other's, like what's going on around,
especially when it regards like.
Speaker 3 (26:34):
Where you are, what you're doing.
Speaker 4 (26:37):
I of course called her out for gaslighting me, to
which her response was, she's not gaslighting me. Kind of ironic,
I guess. When I talked about how it made me
feel and that she damaged my trust for her, she
again tried to belittle my feelings by rolling her eyes
and saying that it was only a show. This conversation
ended up opening a much bigger issue in our relationship
that I didn't mention in my last post. Generally, Amy
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treated me really poorly throughout the relationship. She was hot
and cold, put zero effort into communication, and it never
felt like she made a priority. She gave me zero
affection or compliments, despite drooling and crushing over male celebrities
all day. She's made little effort to connect me and
her family and friends. We've talked about all of this
a few times now. She would always say she was
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overwhelmed with some new excuse and promise it would get better.
I would cave and agree to work through things as expected,
things never got better. This time was the same where
she blamed a new job for being overwhelmed and that's
why she's been so distant. But this time was different.
I guess her blatant lie to my face and your
guys's comments in the back of my mind gave me
power to put my foot down. I broke up with
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her then and there. She kept begging me for one
more chance to think on it for a few days,
that she cares about me and didn't intend to hurt me,
all that nonsense. But the whole time I was the
one bawling, and there wasn't a tear on her face. Wow,
your face, come watch our faces Every weekday, anth at
the NPST does stap farv woo.
Speaker 3 (27:58):
That's so messed up.
Speaker 4 (27:59):
And there's a little bit the story, but it just
feels like she just didn't really care about this relationship.
It really broke my heart ending things. But I've also
really grown to hate myself for putting up with her
treatment for so long. I'm hurting a lot right now,
and I'm scared to get back into the dating world
after two years of aging and some weight gain. I
really loved her with every bit of my heart, and
I'm terrified to picture my life without her. I really
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want to call her up again and give her one
final chance to get things right, but I know I'd
never forgive myself if she didn't change and broke my
heart again. I'm hurting bad and I could really use
some words of encouragement right now.
Speaker 3 (28:31):
Thank you. And that is the end of the story.
Speaker 1 (28:35):
Sam.
Speaker 2 (28:36):
Here we're gonna get back to the stories, but here's
three of it's bad from our sponsors. An unknown coworker
has been stealing my food for months, so I added
laxatives to expose them. For the past three months, someone
at my job has been consistently stealing my food that
I bring from home so I don't have to use
the snack machine or walk across the street to McDonald's
like the majority of my coworkers do. By the way,
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this comes from user and RG on the r slash
Owksey time separated. So July, in the first month, I
noticed someone had been gradually taking some of my food.
One out of three slices of pizza gone, twenty percent
of my soup gone, Cheeto's bag completely gone, etc. I
didn't think much of it and simply decided to now
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attach a please don't touch paper sign up my stuff August.
In the second month, at the start of the month,
my food became untouched, but progressively went back to the
usual September. At the beginning of the third month, I
asked coworkers if they had taken or knew who was
taking my food, and no one had a clue, which
is kind of believable, as most of us take our
lunches separately. I decided to eat McDonald's or go to
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seven eleven and stop bringing food. But then it started
effing with my financial stability. Ten days of paycheck working
day paycheck, consistantly buying food. October third, Thursday, I decided
to take matters into my own hands. Last week, my
friend told me about an Instagram reel that she saw
where a girl put laxative into her own food to
see who is the culprit. That's exactly what I did today.
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What I wasn't expecting was for the girl late twenties
to have an allergic reaction to an ingredient and ended
up going to the hospital. You got caught.
Speaker 1 (30:09):
I don't know about laxatives. I'm not a fan of
spicy food. You can do spicy food laxatives because I
saw a video of this guy that didn't want trespassors
on his land and people that were stilling like his
forerunners and stuff. So we put a bear trap down.
You can't do that.
Speaker 2 (30:26):
Oh that that's crazy.
Speaker 1 (30:27):
Yeah. No, he said, I'm gonna put this bear trap down,
and then he like explained the process, and then at
the end of the video he's like, actually, this is illegal.
You can't do that. It was like a good like oh,
just like it's like an education thing, like he was
like this and then at the end and he stated, actually,
you can't do this. This is illegal, and this is
a good education video.
Speaker 2 (30:45):
But I feel like he should put that the very
beginning of the video first.
Speaker 1 (30:47):
Well, it was it was for engagement. It was people
were gonna be like, you can't do that, and then
he'd be like, did you watch the end of the video. Anyways,
that's what this feels like.
Speaker 2 (30:56):
After work, all of us went to visit her in
the hospital, where we all talked about what happened and
admitting to putting laxative into my own food. Six out
of the eight co workers, all girls, were disgusted by
my actions and we're on her side. One girl's whatever
about it, and the last guy said she shouldn't have
been touching my food to begin with. I told the
girl that I hope she gets better and went home,
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but I didn't apologize for what I did, and I'm
not going to October fourth. This is the next day. Today,
day off. I received a phone call from our supervisor,
who I spoke to about my issue between after the
first month, and told me she can't help me there
because she's not our mom, and essentially told me I
had to apologize to her or else I wouldn't be
able to come back to work until I do, and
I'm assuming if I take too many days off, I'd
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just be fired for not coming to work. Update number one.
I just received a text from my supervisor telling me
the coworker doesn't need to apologize and it's up to
her discretion if she chooses to apologize or not for
stealing my food. I hate this.
Speaker 1 (31:53):
I do not agree with setting traps. I agree with
the spicy trap, but not the lax of trap. No,
they shouldn't have been doing this anyways. If you were
anticipating someone to do this.
Speaker 2 (32:01):
It's like saying, oh, someone keeps stealing my car and
takes it for personal use and they return it, like
and I'm paying for all the gas. And then oh,
they got an accident in my car and it's my fault.
I didn't even let them drive the car.
Speaker 1 (32:13):
But like you took the brakes out of your car,
that's it. You're harming them, like you're intentionally putting out
for value.
Speaker 2 (32:19):
Again, op was like, who's eating my food? And no
one coughed up. Update number two, I'm a male for
those who keep referring to me as she, even though
I never mentioned my gender little Update three, the male
coworker who was on my side told me the girl
is going to take legal action for attempting to offer
he overheard the girls talking today at work. Update number four,
many of you, OPI is the Ahle voters are forgetting
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the fact that my please do not touch sign never left.
Even though it stopped working eventually, it's I still kept
it there, so when she took my laxative food from
my plastic bag, the sign please do not touch my
food was still on it. Update number five. My supervisor
is HR. There's no one else in the HR department
update number six. It was pretty late last night, four am,
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and was talking to family members to see what my
options are whether I should apologize and stay at my.
Speaker 1 (33:06):
Job or leave.
Speaker 2 (33:07):
But f that I'm not apologizing, you think they would know,
like if they opened it, they would see the ingredients,
or like if it was like that obvious, I want
to know what she was allergic to.
Speaker 1 (33:15):
Yeah, yeah, how's it Ritney I Celand. How's his legal action?
It's his food. He can put whatever he wants in
his food. Yeah, have allergies, don't touch other people's stuff. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (33:24):
And here's a little more info about my work to
give more insight. I work at a senior facility where
I work as a medicine technician. Oh no, My coworkers
are nurses, caretakers, and front desk. The girl who stole
my food is front desk. We have an obsolete no
food or drinks rule outside the break room that's pretty small.
We can't use the kitchen to store our food due
to fear of cross contamination. I sort of have a
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desk to put my stuff. But like I said, there's
a rule, and the hr slash supervisor is pretty strict
on that. The supervisor called me about an hour ago,
telling me she's with the girl in the hospital and
now it's my time to apologize, or I could come
in person to do it, and I said absolutely not,
absolutely not, absolutely not. She kept insisting, but in a
tone where I was one hundred percent at fault, not
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her who has been stealing my food for two and
a half months straight. Number seven. Have been reading some
more comments with a lot of question so I'll answer
them here so everyone can see. One, she's not poor.
She drives at twenty twenty at least Lexus SUV LMO. Two.
My supervisor is HR. Our other manager works from home
and only comes home once or twice a week to
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meet with the elderly's families. Yes, I could have spoken
to him, but knowing him as he's not around much,
would tell me to reach out to the HR lady
as she's a higher position than him. Three. I live
in South California, but not La.
Speaker 1 (34:41):
San Diego, San Diego, Orange County.
Speaker 2 (34:44):
Four doctors said the allergic reaction might have been the
laxative or my food, which was chicken noodle soup that
I made from scratch at home the morning of. They're
still running tests.
Speaker 1 (34:53):
Okay, tom out. You made chicken to a suit the
morning off and put laxative in it? Why not just
like have a can? That doesn't makes sense.
Speaker 2 (35:01):
He's a cook, it's his food.
Speaker 1 (35:02):
But still like, I'm gonna make holemake homemade chicken soup
and then put laxs in it. Okay, I would have
got Campbell's and put laxes in it. I wanna, I
wanna go that far.
Speaker 2 (35:12):
Maybe he doesn't like Cambells.
Speaker 1 (35:14):
He's not gonna eat it.
Speaker 2 (35:15):
It's his food. You can do whatever he wants.
Speaker 1 (35:17):
He's not gonna eat he put laxes in it. Why
did he wasted some putting lass and food that's gonna
make that he?
Speaker 2 (35:22):
Yeah, what I think you're just come on, come on,
I feel like you like taking people's food.
Speaker 1 (35:27):
No, I don't like taking people's food. I'm just saying,
why would you take the time? Okay, here we go. Okay.
If I'm gonna put laxes or something, I'm gonna buy
like for breakfast, I'm gonna buy like a Chick fil
a burrito. I'm not gonna go handmade of gaburrito and
then put laxes in it.
Speaker 2 (35:40):
Maybe he was just making one batch of soup like
like while so, yeah, that could maybe he's just making it.
Speaker 1 (35:45):
If he didn't make a batch of soup, I'm pissed. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (35:47):
Five. She didn't go to the hospital because she was
crapping herself senseless from the laxative. She went because she
complained of a huge stomach ache in rash line from
below her belly button to between her rib cage. Six.
Shifts between employees and sometimes managers always aligned for those
saying how we could all go to the hospital. You
either work six am to two pm, two pm to
ten pm, or ten pm to six am. Update number eight.
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One of my coworkers is now in the hospital for
the same conditions, big stomach ache and rash line down
the stomach, lining.
Speaker 1 (36:16):
More than one person.
Speaker 2 (36:17):
Doctors are now certain it wasn't the laxative, as she
didn't eat my soup compared to the first girl.
Speaker 1 (36:22):
Interesting, so it's not his fault, not his fault. That's crazy.
I like that's coincidental. What if someone else in the office.
It's like there's street people and the guy, the guy
that was like, you shouldn't have story your food, it's
been happening to him too.
Speaker 2 (36:34):
We're gonna find out. Update number nine. Someone from Home
Office HQ is being sent down tomorrow morning to figure
out what's going on as our HR as a huge
crab stain on her hands. Doctors are running tests for
the second girl and trying to figure out why two
coworkers are having the same issues. Dave HR. Doctors and
male coworker now ruled out my soup as the cause
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of all of this.
Speaker 1 (36:56):
Okay, he's out.
Speaker 2 (36:57):
It's ebola.
Speaker 1 (36:58):
He's out. It's a bola not launched, it's an std OH.
Speaker 2 (37:02):
Update number ten. Both girls are not under quarantine and
no one is allowed to visit them until the hospital
clears that they're not contagious. I'm required to report to
work tomorrow for a meeting between myself, HR, some of
my coworkers, and the Home Office Rep. Update number eleven.
The Home Office rep called me to inform me that
I'm formerly being sue tomorrow by the first girl.
Speaker 1 (37:22):
Why but that your suit's ruled out. You know what,
Go ahead and sue and then counter sue for mental exhaustion.
Speaker 2 (37:27):
Yeah, that I'm formerly being sued tomorrow by the first
girl and her husband, although she's unsure what I'm being
sued for.
Speaker 1 (37:33):
She's, Oh, that's hilarious that you know. The lawyer's really
gonna have a good take of that.
Speaker 2 (37:37):
We want to sue him?
Speaker 1 (37:38):
Why I don't Noh, no things about right.
Speaker 2 (37:41):
Update number twelve just answering some more questions about the
whole situation. I contacted a family lawyer this morning, but
he's currently out of town until Monday morning, so I'll
be speaking to him soon. I told him the gist
of what's happening, including being sued for unknown reasons until
I'm served my papers. Both girls are fine, light diarrhea,
and the rat seems to be going away from after
giving them benadryl pepto invitamins through an IV. Some people
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think they're on their deathbeds. Although it's quite the opposite
lull from what my male coworker has told me, I
wasn't the only victim of getting their food stolen by
this girl. The only difference is I'm the only one
calling her out on it. October fifth, Saturday. This is
it's like three days.
Speaker 1 (38:19):
It's a long three days. I think he's gonna get fired.
Speaker 2 (38:22):
I would sue if I got fired, I would sue
because what did you do? Nothing? Update number thirteen, finished
my meeting with my supervisors and coworkers. The HR lady
is now under investigation and has been put under temporary leave.
Speaker 1 (38:34):
What wait wait, the first girl.
Speaker 2 (38:41):
The first girl will be fired by the end of
the day, although I'm still being supposedly sued and we're
still trying to figure out how they got sick.
Speaker 1 (38:49):
HR guy, HR guy did it? HR Lady?
Speaker 2 (38:52):
I think HR lady is just in it with the girl.
We're trying to talk to the second girl on what
could have happened, but she doesn't want to say anything.
Update number four Fourtine, not long after my last update,
the first girl's husband was sent to the hospital in
quarantine for the same symptoms as the other two. The
doctors are ninety percent sure that whatever is causing this
is transferable by bodily fluids.
Speaker 1 (39:15):
You think, you think, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah yeah.
Speaker 2 (39:18):
It makes sense for the husband to be sick in
this case, but we have no idea how the second
girl is sick. All three are now under quarantine. HR
has been fired. First girl has been fired. HR Lady
is going to sue the company for psychological trauma and
is stress. According to my coworker's lull. Update number fifteen.
I'm currently at work for the time being, and Home
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office rep is in charge. For those dumb enough to
ask in question how we'd know all this That doctors
are keeping me and the Home office Rep informed, as
I'm still considered the starting root cause of all this.
On top of that, the first girl is still gossiping
to my coworkers. Do phones not exist now? Loll side note,
I've yet to be served any papers. I've never been
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sued before, so I'm not sure sure how long this
takes or if the girls even started the process. HR
only gave me a heads up yesterday that she's going to,
not that she already has Saturday night Update number sixteen.
All right, this has been a long two days for me,
and this might be the last update, at least for now,
until this whole thing blows over. I've been trying to
make sense of everything that has happened lately, but now
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I don't know where to begin, so I'll try my best.
As I said earlier, the HR lady was being investigated,
and during the investigation they found out she had the
same symptom three weeks ago and quietly checked herself into
a hospital but is now almost fully recovered. I don't
think she quarantined as she hasn't missed work since her
last vacation earlier this year. Apart from that, she also
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confessed to having spicy sleep relationships with both girls in
the hospital for the past two months, so we both
called it and both girls having no idea of the
other's spicy relationship with HR. The home office rep believes
the husband got sick via the wife, as he's never
stepped foot into the facility, has never met any of
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his wife's coworkers or supervisor.
Speaker 1 (41:03):
Oh my gosh, the HR.
Speaker 2 (41:05):
Lady has been arrested for knowingly spreading an infectious disease
without the knowledge of the other person twice. The hospital
will be contacted by the company to inform them of
this incident and see what medications slash treatment she was
given as HR goes to a fancier hospital and what
they are dealing with. HR has possibly dropped legal action
unless they were empty threats. From the beginning Monday morning,
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I'll be talking to my lawyer to sue the wife
and the rest of the six women for emotional distress
and lying. As it seems none of this was my
fault to begin with, and I'm still not going to
apologize for anything. I've been standing my ground since day one,
as you should. Ope, good for you. I think I'll
do one more update once everyone is cleared from the
hospital and everything's back to normal.
Speaker 5 (41:49):
Woo.
Speaker 2 (41:50):
October sixth, Monday Night Update number seventeen the finale, the
final update.
Speaker 1 (41:55):
Oh my gosh.
Speaker 2 (41:57):
Unfortunately, someone that knows me or what's going on at
the company that I worked for finally saw my post
and sent it to home office, no resulting in them
firing me as California is an at will employee state.
Speaker 1 (42:10):
No, you messed up.
Speaker 2 (42:12):
You done messed up, Aaron. After talking things over with
my lawyer and the company themselves, I could have sued
them and the girls for all the chaos that's transpired,
and they would have countersued basically their reputation as I
haven't revealed their employer versus me being in a debt,
as I don't have the funds to go against the
entire company or the time, so I decided to let
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it go.
Speaker 1 (42:33):
Dude, come on, you could have cashed out.
Speaker 2 (42:35):
No, that's that's a big that's a big. That's a
David vers Goliath kind of thing. I was going to
start looking for a new job anyways, once this crap
show literally was over as for everyone else. Both girls
and the husband have now been released from the hospital
but are advised to stay home. The infection was found
out to be viral gastro and territis or something very
close to it, which would explain the stomach achees, diarrhea, fever,
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and it being highly contagious, but not the rash and
why it took so long for them to get sick.
The hr lady was never arrested as I originally assumed,
but was questioned and at some point called the wife
to tell her that she confessed everything, including that she
was seeing the second girl behind her back, but she
loved her the wife and wanted to be with her.
The wife told her it was over and that she's
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with her husband, as the husband was right next to
her at the time of the call. Unfortunately for her,
the husband is going forward with the divorce and in
the meantime has kicked out the wife from their home.
If the wife had a huge nervous breakdown, started throwing
crap around the house and admitted to not only having
a spicy relationship with HR, but the second girl from
the hospital without HR or anybody's knowledge for the past year.
Speaker 1 (43:42):
This is messy, which.
Speaker 2 (43:43):
Is hard to believe, and she might just be saying
crap to get the last laugh. Nevertheless, the wife is
now staying with a relative an hour away to figure
things out and calm down the husband. Myself and the
male ex coworker are currently at the husband's house helping
clean the mess she made, packing up the wive's belongings,
and sharing each other's side of the stories as we
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might be all sick already anyways, got it. We've been
here for the past ten hours, laughing our butts off
and drinking Margarita's Beautiful. I show them my Reddit post
as it doesn't matter anymore now that I'm fired. Come
to find out, the husband's a pretty chill guy, unlike
his crazy soon to be ex wife, food stealing ex wife.
He offered me his place to stay for free if
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I have a hard time finding a decent job and
let me the Lexus his wife was using, as I've
been taking Uber a while after my car broke down
a year ago and haven't been able to save up
from how expensive Uber is dude, do you think this
is real?
Speaker 1 (44:37):
I don't know. Man.
Speaker 2 (44:38):
Everything sounded everything sounded real until the end here where
it's like, ah no, everyone's together everyone.
Speaker 1 (44:43):
I think I think it's raw. I think it's real.
But dude, he looked out though. Oh yeah, he looked
out big.
Speaker 2 (44:47):
This is why I was packing my lunches. And you
can pack your lunches and eat it with us because
we're live three pmpst every day, so have lunch with
us and just tap our profile. I'm going to start
looking for a new job tomorrow and a hoefully put
this whole mess behind me. This weekend, me and the
boys are planning to get drinks and watch some football
at our local sports bar if we're all in good health.
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Thank you to all who supported me and rode this
wild bat crap crazy rollercoaster with me. Thank you, Op.
That was a wild one.
Speaker 1 (45:17):
That was beautiful. I like that a lot. I just
got a new job and I am already feuding with
one of my coworkers.
Speaker 2 (45:23):
Quit not worth it.
Speaker 1 (45:25):
I thirty one mal autistic, just started a new job
hosting at a locally owned Italian restaurant. I really enjoy it.
My coworkers and I are very well together. I found
myself fitting in quite well compared to other jobs. At
previous jobs, I have developed poor reputations because of my
social awkwardness and lack of social awareness and such. Due
to my previous jobs, I have taken to telling literally
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everyone I meet that I am autistic and let them
know that it's okay to tell me if they feel
uncomfortable or they think I act inappropriate, because that's how
I learned. By the way, this comes from a big
programmer ninety six to twenty three on the R size Okay,
storytime subriter. I have a few people I really get
along with at the job, just more than a hey,
how are you. One person shall be called Ignacious Twiny
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Mail likes to make fun of my weight, intelligence, and
other such inappropriate aspects such as the size of my genitalia.
He's young, and I don't really care. I definitely have
grown to the point that I actually understand he doesn't
actually mean anything he's saying. On Friday night, it was
busy and Ignacious decided to make a joke about my
intelligence again attempted to prove I am smart by telling
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him a riddle with various few outcomes, which makes it
seem like I am reading someone's mind. I followed him
around to finish telling him the riddle. However, he began
to grow very annoying. I did not initially perceive this
any annoyance I saw I wrote off as he's joking
in our typical way. He was not joking, and he
told me to shut up. I do not. As a
hard rule, I allow people to tell me to shut
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it up. He told me to shut up. I told
him I was serious, but he continued to tell me
to shut up. I follow him into the kitchen and
try to explain why this is such a sore spot
for me. He told me to leave. I finish what
I was trying to say and left to acquiesce to
his demand and gave him time to get over it.
But the rest of the night I persevered on the issue,
as people on the spectrum are prone to do. I
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told my coworkers so that everyone is informed about my
feelings on this particular phrase. On Saturday, Ignacious began making
noises that indicated that he thought I smell bad or
I was obstructing his path because he was joking with me.
I felt his ire had subsided. I told him he
would need to talk about the issue we had the
previous night. He flat out said no no. I told
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him that in that case, our relationship would strictly be professional.
I asked him if he understood though he had told
me before, he did not appreciate this phrase. When I
realized this, I felt bad, but I did not say
anything to apologize. I let the matager know that we
were essentially feuding. This was to prime her for me
coming to complain in the event that ignacious insulted me again.
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As part of our professional relationship. I do not want
to accept his jokes as jokes if they include demeaning
and vulgarity. She said, Okay, she's really good at understanding me,
and I think she knows that. I just like to
make sure everyone is informed. Okay, I like that that.
I love that about you, Bop. I want to make
sure everyone's informed. Sometimes people aren't informed.
Speaker 2 (48:17):
I'm not informed. I didn't know my stories were that
bad when I.
Speaker 1 (48:22):
Read no, No, it's not you, it's me too. It
happens to me too. Bro Okay, Okay, you're good, it's us.
It's honestly, I will say it is the story. You
read like that when you read crazy. Okay, it's truly
not you, I hope. So throughout the rest of the shift,
Ignacious and I didn't make much eye contact, but we
did speak politely with thank you and excuse me. I
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prefer we'd be on good terms. But it does feel
acceptable here. However, I still wonder if I handled this correctly.
So am I the bad Apple and we have a bonus?
Am I the bad Apple post? What do we think here?
Speaker 2 (48:54):
No, this is very odd behavior from Ignacious.
Speaker 1 (48:59):
Yeah, twenty, he's just a twenty year old teenager.
Speaker 2 (49:02):
That doesn't that's not an excuse to be rudude and
bullying in a way.
Speaker 1 (49:08):
But it's a restaurant service. I mean, guys, if you
guys have worked at a restaurant, you guys know that
we have people like this.
Speaker 2 (49:14):
Come on, yeah, come on, I know, I know, I know,
I know, but this is not okay, this is unprofessional.
And even OP was like, let's be professional, and op
is doing the right thing.
Speaker 1 (49:25):
So no, yeah, I love what OPI's doing making it
sure everyone's informed, like he knows about that he's autistic
and that's harder for people to relate with him. But
I think he's doing a fantastic job of informing everyone,
and I think, honestly that is probably why he's excelling
at this job rather than others.
Speaker 2 (49:42):
That's great, Yeah, because he's doing they're doing something I
don't think anyone else done before in the past. So
there's oh, whoa, like you're actually speaking up. Yeah, and
you want to whoa, You're doing this for the betterment
of everyone.
Speaker 1 (49:55):
Yeah, yeah, And it's super sweet. He wants to be
friends with this kid.
Speaker 2 (49:58):
Yeah, like maybe the kid like if you guys were friends.
I get teasing, and I think that's what the kids
trying to do.
Speaker 1 (50:04):
We're not like, hey you, We'll tell you a fat fuck
Jesus Christ. That's why what you're saying.
Speaker 2 (50:09):
I mean, I know, but Jesus Christ or bro.
Speaker 1 (50:13):
You smell like uh uh, you smell like cat piss. Yeah,
come on, God, Well that was horrible.
Speaker 2 (50:20):
There's no excuse for a kid to be rude and
like like say mean things and throw things at people.
But let's just keep reading. Let's see if the kid
follows you know what.
Speaker 1 (50:29):
No, let's just I'm gonna keep reading now. I'm gonna
keep reading now. Bonus, am I the bad Apple. On Saturday,
the day before Father's Day, we began to get slammed.
The restaurant's clientele is very persistent on where they want
to sit and very rude when making requests. In addition
to seating them, I need to make sure that all
of the servers get an even amount of tables and
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bust the tables while the servers can't get to them.
This actually is pretty easy. The hardest part is dealing
with the aggressive mannerisms of our guests and processing them.
My coworkers are very very gracious about listening to my complaints,
but I feel like I've crossed a couple of lines.
On Saturday, we had a group of women come in
and requesting a table for five. I gave them exactly that.
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They then told me they needed a bigger table because
additional guests would be joining them. The newest waitress will
call her Sue eighteen female serve them. Apparently, there was
an issue with a gift card and SEUs spent an
ignoredant amount of time trying to fix it. Meanwhile, several
tables were done and they needed to be bussed. I
tried to keep up with bussing tables, but it got
very confusing and overwhelming. I did my best to keep up.
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The way I tried to clear tables is to take
the trash than the cups, than the dishes. I then
have to take and wipe and reset the silverware. I
don't have any issues with this normally, but I felt
like it was being left to do on my own
throughout the shift. With so many tables, I needed to
switch up my strategy to doing more at once and
focusing on one table out of time. However, I often
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forgot which tables I needed to work on. When returning
from the dishpit, I just began resuming on the nearest table,
and that leaves two unavailable tables that are half bussed,
as opposed to one unavailable table one unbus table. This
became unbearably overwhelming when a table of twelve came in
for Father's Day and the only table we could see
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them had the seven women. Sue had no time to
help me clear the table. I went to the server
who was being promoted soon Devin. I told her that
I had a table of twelve coming in and the
only place to sit them was not clean. Because Sue
had been working on the gift card. Devin said she
was too busy. I said I understood, and though I
felt bad for interrupting her, I still needed help. I
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asked for guidance. She told me to work on my
own pace and seat them when I was ready. This
was actually very helpful, though not exactly what I was
looking for. I got it ready in time for the
bulk of the party to arrive. Then I had to
work on several other tables I had not even been
able to get to. Veronica twenty eight female was working
this section. Several times I saw her turn around and
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talking to one of the cooks. I did see her
doing her work, but it felt like I had to
beg her to help me clear the tables. I felt
quite the same with Quinn twenty four mail. It was
overwhelming and I had to take a break and collect myself,
which makes me feel worse. Quinn is constantly playing on
his phone, but I asked him to help me as well.
I only ask as a last resort because I know
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I can't handle all of them. A couple of people
came into Quinn's section and asked to sit at multiple
other tables because she did not like where I sat them.
I had to tell them that there were no other
Quan tables. So after everything, I talked to Devin. Devin
doesn't like conflict at all. I do not know how
she's going to do with that as a manager, but
I guess we'll find out. So I apologize for being
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abrasive and anxious. I complained that I felt that Quinn
and Veronica were not helping when they should have. She
told me to keep in mind that they pay me
to bust their tables. I had never heard this before,
but I acted like I knew. I did know. I
got a share of credit card tips, but it's truly
not enough to justify leaving me overwhelmed. I do my
best to bust the tables, but I might need some
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mother accommodations to make it smoother. Eventually, I calmed down,
but I felt terrible for complaining, especially to Devin. I
asked her later if we were okay. She said yes,
But I still felt terrible because I have a hard
time forgiving myself. But I will forgive you if only
you show up at three PMPSD live when we are
on YouTube. Just tap our profile.
Speaker 2 (54:21):
Tap it, dude.
Speaker 1 (54:22):
I am so informed by every single scenario right now.
Speaker 2 (54:25):
It's very detailed like that.
Speaker 1 (54:28):
I wish I thought this way.
Speaker 2 (54:29):
I like the way that we're being told this. It's
just I feel like at.
Speaker 1 (54:33):
This restaurant, they're just gonna be crazy.
Speaker 2 (54:36):
I think they're just hiring a lot of young ens,
young ins.
Speaker 1 (54:39):
And I like Op's attentiveness. This is a really good
skill I wonder like outside of the restaurant industry where
you could like put this to use. No, it is
a good skill set.
Speaker 2 (54:50):
And but I just don't appreciate how they don't respect.
Speaker 1 (54:53):
Oh that's just restaurantize. People don't really respect people. Dev's awesome. No, yeah, yeah, yeah,
but it's just ignacious.
Speaker 2 (54:59):
Come on, It's just like again, I feel like a
lot of these kids are just or a lot of
these people that are new hires or whatever working there
are just they're just kids. Yeah, they don't know how to act,
and they're just like, oh, you're a little bit older.
Speaker 1 (55:11):
But uh, I think I think OPG is ranting.
Speaker 2 (55:14):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (55:15):
I also talked to Veronica about this. Veronica is super
sweet and seems to genuinely like me. I told her
I felt okay discussing this with her because she knows
I love her. And I know she'll forgive me. Oh.
So she explained that she is never just stopped and
talking unless she is intentionally stopped to break from Mark.
Other times she had other things to take care of.
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I understood this, and I felt terrible about again for complaining.
I really appreciated her explaining it to me, but I
still feel terrible. So am I the bad apple for complaining? Opie?
You're just you're just gonna process this and you're good dude.
Speaker 2 (55:50):
Yeah, I think you're You're definitely allowed to complain. You're
not a bad apple for it. Nah, But if it
can you know, if it persists, it's not. If it's
if it's stressing you out that much.
Speaker 1 (56:00):
Yeah, leave.
Speaker 2 (56:01):
Yeah, it's not worth it.
Speaker 1 (56:03):
Hey, y'all, it's John og Host here. We're gonna get
back to the stories. But here's a quick three minute
break from as for more sponsors. Our newest coworker is
a nightmare to work with. I reached my.
Speaker 2 (56:13):
Breaking point, no more nightmare fuel.
Speaker 1 (56:15):
I finally had enough. I three or three female work
for a casino and I'm on the floor crew and
use machines to clean floors along with other daily tasks.
My work is imperfect. I guess no work will ever be.
But we got a new hire two months ago, and
from the moment he stepped into the meeting room, I
knew he was gonna be some kind of drama. It
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started out fine, as most things do, but then he
started giving my lead of the floor crew crap. By
the way, this comes from depressed coworker ninety one on
the r Slash showcase story Tom Subrender. So he would
always comment on how he couldn't understand him. Lead has
a thick African American accent, and instead of just asking
him to slow down or repeat himself, he would just
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say I can't understand you. Then I would tell the
new hire fifty something male. By the way, Lead is
fifty something male. He would put his hand up in
my face and get this cocky look like, just let
me handle this. They kept having problems and not getting
along with the new hire. I'll call him Willy to
save time, because this is really dragging on. Started screaming
at d let's call him David the lead, and really
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acting like a total you know all and smug and rude.
We would have a meeting with the four of us
on the floor group me David Willie, and one other
woman I'll call her Mary, And the meeting consisted of
David saying how Willy was yelling and cussing him out
all the time and was always mad. And then Willy
literally stands up doing this discussing upper lip twitch thing
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he does to really put on that he's a big
mad baby, and I swear he yells freaking I said,
freaking not effing dude, just fire him. Okay, we why
is he still working here? What are we doing?
Speaker 2 (57:58):
This is so weird, This is weird.
Speaker 1 (58:00):
I'm uh fifty old man, dude, come on, which to
this point I almost laughed out loud. If my supervisor
hadn't asked me to take notes of the meeting, I
probably would have. Then, after being a monster, Willy decides
to go to David stick out his hand to shake,
and when he does, Willy grabs d in a hug
and holds his bald head and apologizes and everyone claps foray.
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With that bs over, we go on with her night.
We work overnight, and when I see Willy later, I
tell him he did a good job and he says
it was all put on, and he feels sorry for David.
And all his other bs. I quickly got tired of
hearing and went on. Willy also complains NonStop. He bees
all the time about David not knowing what he's doing,
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which is sometimes true. Him doing the assignment sheet wrong
also true. But then there's just the NonStop, endless itching
about anything to anyone that will make eye contact with him.
He says, Mary, the other woman has no manners because
she simply, hey, can you leave that door open to him?
When he was shutting a door and turns around and says,
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oh can I now now Mary doesn't want anything to
do with him. This guy sucks either because of his
attitude is so bad. Yeah, this guy sucks. I don't
like this story.
Speaker 2 (59:16):
I don't like this guy.
Speaker 1 (59:18):
Then comes today, I really struggle with confrontation. I take
a couple of anxiety meds, couple of depression meds, zan
daily prescription just to get through the work. I'm also
on blood pressure meds, and I just started a med
called Noltreuston to help me lose weight that can make
you irrable. Everyone at work knows my issues. We get
to work. I cak in around ten, Willie at eleven.
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It's just us two to night on floors. Once again,
the assignment paper is wrong. Shocking. He's pisce already because
Mary's name is on it and she's off. And David
even asked me, does Mary work Mondays? And I told him,
for the third week in a row, no, she doesn't
work Mondays. Well, her name is on it, and he's
pissed because, well, who was supposed to do that work
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when her name's on it? And I'm thinking, you've been
here for over two months. We have to go through
this every single week. I go to help my team
take out the trash in a restaurant and they come
back around the corner and Willie is complaining to one
of my leads that I abandoned him. Wow, and he
has to hunt me down now after two months. Oh
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and a weird waste call. I forgot to mention I
gave Willy my number to be a good coworker at
first and answer questions if I was there, because, like
I said, I know David isn't the best lead. Well,
Willy calls me wasted and just tries keeping me on
the phone, asking how to call out because he was
sick or some crap, even though I could clearly tell
he was wasted being a drinker myself until I started
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the Nile treks. On he introduces me to his girlfriend
slat fiance, so that's the woman he takes care of.
It changes with his mood like the effing wind, and
I finally say I have to go. Sorry, I know
this is along. He also sent me a wasted tax,
so I just blocked him last week. He hasn't asked
and I haven't brought it up.
Speaker 2 (01:01:04):
Wa, this is strange.
Speaker 1 (01:01:05):
Yeah, this is kind of weird.
Speaker 2 (01:01:06):
This, This is like okay, I'm like, okay, this understanding now.
I'm just like I'm kind of confused on what's really
going on here.
Speaker 1 (01:01:12):
Yeah, Will, he's just been weird. Will. Will he's just
skipping work. Will he's being harassing. Maybe not harassing, but
Will he's like like crossing the work boundary with Ope.
Speaker 2 (01:01:22):
I don't like this. Yeah, like I said, I don't
like this story. I don't know, I don't know where
this is going. I hope this is just like that's it.
Speaker 1 (01:01:27):
I think it's just vincing dude. Yeah, it's getting to me.
Speaker 2 (01:01:30):
Okay, you got this last like you got this?
Speaker 1 (01:01:35):
Yeah, Oh I know, I got it. I know, well
back today with him talking loud and complaining, saying he
doesn't know what to do and I abandon him, which
I am not his boss in any ways, and he
is such a no at all and why would I
try to tell him anything? Lot only break and say
you're making me uncomfortable and says, how am I making
you uncomfortable? I don't remember at all of well because
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I got so worked up. He says. I said, I'm
tired of your bs and that sounds like something I
would say, But there is audio, so if they want
to pull it, they will. I just had to walk
away from him and go to the woman's locker room.
I heard him boohooing about how everyone is against him
and yells at him and he's either going to quit
or go to HR, which good riddance, but he won't.
Speaker 2 (01:02:18):
Fine do it.
Speaker 1 (01:02:19):
But you can come to YouTube every weekday at three
PMPs two when we go live. Just tap our profile,
just tap it.
Speaker 2 (01:02:25):
Let this guy go.
Speaker 1 (01:02:26):
Why is he still working?
Speaker 2 (01:02:28):
Why is he still here? The fact that he's just
making this so much stress more stressful in the workplace,
more like just anxious anxiety and anxious driven. Yeah, what's
the point what do you bring to the table here
other than like a headache and like just stress, yeah
weird and complaining.
Speaker 1 (01:02:44):
Yeah, we're almost done. I swear I heard him walk
past the locker room and he says he was leaving
to get me to come out, but I stayed in
there and come to find out, he didn't leave. So
they put him on the north side and me on
the south so we'd work away from each other. But honestly,
I don't know what to do. My friend said she
talked to him and feels like she slided, so I
guess I offend in. But how am I supposed to
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be around this middle aged white man baby? He wants
everyone to listen to him itch or talk about how
great he is and kiss his butt, And I have
news for him. He's not the first I've met, and
I won't kiss his butt or put up with his mouth.
But he is way better at raising his voice and
now I'm not saying curse words, so probably because he's
an fing professional at this, I DeKay what to do?
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IDKA how to control my emotions when I get worked up,
even when I'm on a full dozes in or if
I flip out in the next little BS meeting they
have what if I call him a manchild in in
cell to his face. I don't want to walk out.
I would rather be fired, but I do like my job.
That's the end of this.
Speaker 2 (01:03:43):
Do it, honestly, see what happens. I think you need
to call him out. It's to the tipping point that
he's just walking over everyone and he gets to do
whatever he wants.
Speaker 1 (01:03:52):
Yep, do it.
Speaker 2 (01:03:53):
Just call him out. And if he starts boohooing or
starts crying, you like, you know what. I have all
the facts here, so red receipts are on.
Speaker 1 (01:04:02):
Yeah pull audio, yeah, pull audium. But that's you on
the street. That's the end of the episode.
Speaker 2 (01:04:07):
You did so great, buddy.
Speaker 1 (01:04:08):
Thanks to