My husband ABANDONED me to spend the night with another woman… while I was pregnant! | Reddit Stories | EP2222 - ok storytime

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This is John, this is Sam, your og Okay Storytime
podcast hosts. We have some spectacular stories coming up, but
real quick, we get a two minute break from our
lovely sponsors keeping this ship sailing. My husband abandoned me
to spend the night with another woman. Why I was pregnant.
Terrible timing, that's not what we want. So I twenty
one female, pregnant approaching week thirty nine, and my husband,

(00:23):
twenty five female, is very nice and supportive and.

Speaker 2 (00:26):
What I believed be the ideal fother.

Speaker 1 (00:28):
My pregnancy went especially fine, besides some physical accidents that
left the baby completely unharmed. It was and still is
the happiest time in my entire life. We did a
lot of stuff together, like dining out, hiking, and strolling
around and generally got really close.

Speaker 2 (00:43):
But I also shut.

Speaker 1 (00:44):
Down a bit, detached my mind and started not caring
about hobbies and previous interests that much anymore.

Speaker 2 (00:50):
He sometimes commented on.

Speaker 1 (00:51):
It, but only because he thought that I would have
a problem with that. By the way, this comes from
pregnant rage and if you want to submit your own stories,
go to the r slash Okay Storytime sub reddit. So
two days ago I had bought a concert ticket for
a band he really liked a month before, and he
was all excited about it. But when he came home
that day, exhausted from work, he was really tired and

(01:11):
thought about skipping the concert. He had skipped quite a
few things that he would have found interesting over the
course of the last weeks and months because he was
tired or enjoyed sitting at home with me staring at
the internet. More as I talked to him about it,
because it had been a pain to get the ticket
and he'd been so excited about these bands, he told
me that he didn't want to leave me alone.

Speaker 2 (01:31):
He would stay with me, et cetera, et cetera.

Speaker 1 (01:34):
I told him that I didn't need that, that if
I suddenly went into labor, I would still be at
home when the concert was finished.

Speaker 3 (01:42):
Is she not going to the concert?

Speaker 2 (01:43):
Wait?

Speaker 3 (01:44):
She got tickets for him to go to the concert.

Speaker 1 (01:46):
Yeah, So I believe running it back here to catch
us all up to speed.

Speaker 2 (01:51):
Ope.

Speaker 1 (01:51):
He had bought concert tickets for a band that he
liked a month before.

Speaker 2 (01:55):
And he was like all excited. He was like ready
to go.

Speaker 3 (01:57):
Come some work, is like I don't want to go,
but I'm just wondering is she going like, was she
supposed to go with them? Or was she like, this
is for you, you know, have fun.

Speaker 1 (02:07):
I think yeah, she had bought I believe for the
both of them. And as I talked to him about it,
because it had been a pain to get the tickets
and he'd been so excited to see these bands, he
told me that he didn't want to leave me alone.

Speaker 2 (02:17):
He would stay with me, et cetera, et cetera. Ye,
so I think it is just for him. Yes, I
think you're right. I think it is just for him. JK.
I told him that I didn't need that.

Speaker 1 (02:25):
Then if I suddenly went to labor, I would still
be at home when the concert was finished, and so
on and so forth. He finally went and took my
cell phone with him because it's the only one that
can actually call people.

Speaker 2 (02:37):
Oh what will?

Speaker 1 (02:38):
I kept his phone that can only be called right
now because he didn't buy credits for him.

Speaker 3 (02:44):
I think you sh I mean, I understand, you know,
maybe financial difficulties, but I think we could maybe maybe
figure that out because you have a pregnant wife who
probably needs to call you if she goes into labor.

Speaker 2 (02:57):
It does seem like a very important I guess with
this phone. Sat.

Speaker 1 (03:01):
Honestly, this sounds like us today with our tech problems.
It's like, all right, we've got one this phone in
this phone. If we just swap them, maybe it'll work
and we can get what we need.

Speaker 3 (03:11):
Call me crazy, But should the person who's pregnant have
the one that can call people and the one who's
had a concert being able to receive calls?

Speaker 2 (03:21):
Yes? Why did they do that?

Speaker 1 (03:23):
This is a little bit Uh. I don't know if
I'm following logic here, Sophia. Okay, so he went to
the concert, then called me when it was ready, and
I picked him up and drove him home. Everything is fine.
So we got through the whole concert. No, no emergency labor,
no not being able to.

Speaker 2 (03:39):
Get to each other. Everything good. We're back home, We're safe.

Speaker 3 (03:42):
Have you ever gone to a concert alone?

Speaker 1 (03:43):
Oh? Yeah, I don't know.

Speaker 3 (03:44):
If I'm alone, concert kind of go.

Speaker 1 (03:46):
I would highly suggest it, especially if you have an
artist that you don't have anyone to go with you.

Speaker 2 (03:51):
I would do it.

Speaker 3 (03:52):
Just go.

Speaker 2 (03:52):
Highly suggest you make friends there, and you make friends
maybe there you go. Okay.

Speaker 1 (03:56):
The next day he had planned to go to a
cultural events that one distant front of ours hosts. Those
are held around every week or every other week and
are somewhat intellectual in high class and attitude. He very
much enjoys because he can't relate to people our age
and how they.

Speaker 2 (04:12):
View life and they're in their thirty twenty one and
twenty five, oh oh, twenties.

Speaker 1 (04:16):
Okay, sounds he's so mature literally potentially possibly highly pretentious.

Speaker 3 (04:23):
Yeah, I mean, like, I don't know, I feel like
you should get those credits on your phone.

Speaker 2 (04:30):
We just kind of fixed the phone. Does whut?

Speaker 3 (04:32):
I don't know if you judge, everyone.

Speaker 2 (04:34):
Is yeah, right, come on.

Speaker 1 (04:37):
But although he wants to go, he never ends up
going because he decides that day that it's too late,
or he's too tire quote unquote or whatnot. Most of
the time, when he comes home from work and slips
out of his clothes immediately, I know that he isn't
going anywhere else. So it was on this day I
knew he wouldn't go again. The second he entered our apartment,
he told me that he felt a bit sick. So

(04:58):
I rubbed his back and wrapped him in a blanket
and suggested a hot shower. But since he had already
started staring into Facebook and declined all my approaches, I
left him alone.

Speaker 2 (05:07):
Now onto what made me mad?

Speaker 3 (05:10):
I like the breakdown?

Speaker 2 (05:11):
Right, this is great, great section titles.

Speaker 3 (05:13):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (05:13):
About an hour later he told me that he was
considering going over to let's call her Elle's place. Hmmm, No,
he's going to is going to El's? No, He's like,
I don't want to go out. I don't want to
be here with you. I'm gonna go to ell else.
How about no, oh, go to Know's place. Yeah, that's
where you stay. Where you're at with your pregnant freakin' wife.

(05:34):
You can't call anybody.

Speaker 2 (05:37):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (05:38):
Now, a bit of backstory might be needed here. We
are both in a circle of friends who, to shortly
explain it, occasionally meet up and perform freeform shows or plays. Sophia,
did one of your friends secretly submit a story to
the subreddit this is Riley? No, Riley? Can we scan
our Slasha? Okay, story time to expose the identity of

(05:59):
one of his friends?

Speaker 4 (06:00):
Here?

Speaker 3 (06:00):
Yeah?

Speaker 2 (06:00):
Yeah, I find it. There we go easy. He's on
the case. The hobbit guy seventies hobbit Yep, that's there.

Speaker 3 (06:08):
We go, we found it Riley pulled a mean trick
on me.

Speaker 1 (06:13):
Uh oh okay. Storytime later. Elle joined at about the
same time as we did. She is as old as
my husband most are older again twenty five husband, twenty
one wife, and lives together with her boyfriend who's the
head of a band and about ten years older than her.
This boyfriend is currently on tour. My husband has lately
rejected all of my wishes to go to these groups
meetups together, although they are great fun and rather enlightening.

(06:35):
Most of the time, I end up going anyway once
and staying at home with him the other times. Now
I've already noticed that he had been chatting with Ellen
Facebook for quite some time. Wonder if there's any connection
to his massive amounts of Facebook time and these staring
at Facebook.

Speaker 3 (06:53):
Mmmmm, I don't like face and he's always tired, doesn't
want to go anywhere, probably because he's already hang out
at EL.

Speaker 1 (07:04):
I've already done activities.

Speaker 3 (07:06):
With LL and all the time at work. He's not
at work, so dire with L.

Speaker 1 (07:11):
She had also at some point recommended a book about
gory perverted unaliverse, fitting exactly into the dark Gothic stereotype
she obviously wants to fulfill. Okay, and my husband went
and bought it immediately. Now it sits here and collects dust.
But they really seem to get along well.

Speaker 3 (07:27):
Dude, when someone's buying a book that someone recommended, immediately rush.

Speaker 2 (07:33):
Rush, not it.

Speaker 3 (07:34):
They're into him, They're into those.

Speaker 2 (07:36):
Oh and so he know she loves books.

Speaker 3 (07:38):
I've bought many books that people I like recommended me.

Speaker 2 (07:42):
She does it all the time. She knows all the time,
all the time.

Speaker 1 (07:46):
Oh No, I always had the suspicion that she couldn't
quite stand me. That was weird because usually I'm the
one who backed off when meeting new females. But I
initially really liked her and we chatted quite well. But
she seemed to get more cold and distant towards me
over time. Times I sent her mail to her and
her boyfriend about something we agreed to do and that
I really made an effort to plan. Maybe an email

(08:06):
she just didn't answer because of all the stress from
things that they had planned that my husband regularly attends
and I do not. Since I was once explicitly disinvited,
another red flag, Why are you disinviting your friend's white.

Speaker 3 (08:21):
I truly think like, I don't think that you always
have to hang out with like your friend and their partner. However,
I think it's pretty explicitly Uninviting them is very weird.

Speaker 1 (08:31):
Little crazy, very weird. So he thought about visiting her.
She lives about seven tram stations away. I was happy
on the one hand, because he managed to crash almost
all of his friendships over the last few months. But
I also was somewhat skeptical because, well, he had just
decided not to attend a really interesting cultural and social
event and only yesterday made a big fuss about not

(08:53):
wanting to leave me alone. Yeah, He's like, yeah, oh,
I don't want to go to the culture been. Oh Elle,
let's say, oh my god, I have to go.

Speaker 3 (09:00):
Love to be there.

Speaker 2 (09:01):
I want to see El. She's so great. I want
to go over there and see her and hang out with.

Speaker 3 (09:05):
Her and read all those books.

Speaker 1 (09:07):
I want to abandon my pregnant wife of thirty nine
weeks to be with Ell.

Speaker 3 (09:11):
That's about to pop, pregnant one big belly, big belly
full of baby, big belly full of baby.

Speaker 2 (09:17):
Mm hmm, that's right.

Speaker 1 (09:19):
But I thought nothing about it and said, yeah, why
don't you go? In not even five minutes, he was
all dressed up and on his way. This was the
fastest I has ever seen him prepare for going out since.

Speaker 2 (09:31):
We have lived here together. Yikes.

Speaker 1 (09:33):
He told me he would call me if he needed
to be picked up like yesterday.

Speaker 2 (09:36):
Again, opis you know callless?

Speaker 3 (09:39):
I also think it's kind of wild that Opie's his
freaking uber driver.

Speaker 2 (09:42):
Yes, I guess they only have one car.

Speaker 3 (09:44):
But big belly much bait. What did you say?

Speaker 1 (09:47):
Big belly full of baby, big belly full of baby, lady,
big belly full of baby uber. No no, no, no, no,
no no, don't do that now. First I played some
games on the computer. Then that got boring, so I
surfed around, drew a bit, gamed again. The time was
just flowing by, but getting slower and slower. At ten PM,
he left between six and seven. By the way, I
was already kind of frustrated and decided that if I

(10:10):
weren't pregnant, I would now start getting wasted. Okay, But
instead I got sad and seriously angry. I tried to sleep,
but I couldn't. Long story shorts. He came home at
one a m. An hour after midnight. I was already
furious inside, but I kept calm. The first thing I
heard from him was, what you're still awake?

Speaker 3 (10:28):
Yeah? I've been waiting for you, big belly oil a baby,
waiting for you.

Speaker 1 (10:32):
I thought I could just seek in and you wouldn't
notice me, wouldn't even know I was here, and you know, hey,
el gook cold.

Speaker 2 (10:39):
You're still awake?

Speaker 5 (10:42):
It ok?

Speaker 3 (10:43):
Elle was just here for book club?

Speaker 2 (10:45):
Yeah, oh god, i'd be reading something and it's not
a book. Oh what is it?

Speaker 3 (10:50):
Magazine?

Speaker 2 (10:51):
Oh god? The first thing I heard from him was,
what you're still awake?

Speaker 1 (10:55):
It turned out that he had called, but the phone
obviously was in the car or something. I already had
noticed this, but didn't go down to get it because
I couldn't use it to call him anyways.

Speaker 2 (11:04):
Yeah, they really need to fix his ponus. They got up.
Why they got U she's about?

Speaker 3 (11:09):
I don't know, Like they didn't say specifically that they
can't afford it. They just said he didn't buy the credits. Yeah,
you gotta buy the credit A big belly full of baby,
pregnant wife.

Speaker 1 (11:19):
Buy the credits bare minimum. If you want to see
l you unlock that by.

Speaker 2 (11:23):
Buying the credits. That's the fairest of minimum. Not that
you should be seeing her anyways.

Speaker 1 (11:26):
Yeah, he had to walk home half an hour, which
I absolutely expected since he had stayed longer than any
public transport would go. Now we get onto the next section,
why it may be mad and how he described it.

Speaker 2 (11:37):
So it got worse Jopter three. It turned out that
they just sat on the couch for six hours. Howk hmmm.

Speaker 3 (11:46):
No, no, no, no, I'm just talking to you.

Speaker 2 (11:52):
No, no, you're not I'm not touching you. I'm just
talking to you. Touch me, I'm not touching, just talking
to me.

Speaker 3 (12:01):
Sure, I was doing a stitch impression.

Speaker 5 (12:04):
Do it?

Speaker 2 (12:05):
We can't do this.

Speaker 1 (12:06):
He told me that they had such a good talk
that it didn't occur to him to even lead.

Speaker 3 (12:10):
Well, maybe you should occur these fists.

Speaker 2 (12:13):
Ooh oh no, oh, no, Sophia hold her back.

Speaker 1 (12:16):
He obviously tried to call me in between, but since
I didn't answer the phone, he decided he would just
let his pregnant wife sit at home for a few
more hours.

Speaker 2 (12:23):
After that messed up.

Speaker 1 (12:24):
Please note that I had no idea how long he
would stay. He explicitly did not tell me when he
left because he didn't know himself, so he thought it
was fine and all right. I, however, think that if
you just spontaneously pay someone to visit, that you do
not stay until one o'clock in the morning. Yeah, this
is a fair point. I was shattered and already in
tears for quite a few reasons. First, I cannot remember

(12:46):
the time that he just sat and talked with me
for six consecutive hours.

Speaker 2 (12:49):
There it is. I was waiting for that one.

Speaker 1 (12:51):
Sure we might have done things together for six hours
or longer, but actual actions are mostly interrupted by him
flaming the place we go to or the people who
are there, or him having some sort of idea of
me that doesn't quite fit, and explaining to me in
every detail why it sucks.

Speaker 2 (13:08):
What I do and how I'm doing it. I mean,
when do we just.

Speaker 1 (13:11):
Call it wow? Just like you know, not call it.
I'd be like, hey, we need to have a sea
or yea.

Speaker 3 (13:16):
Now, yeah, I don't think you call it because obviously,
you know, I need to figure out, figure it out,
figure out what's going on, figure out like why he's
doing this, because obviously being pregnant is hard for you.
And also I'm sure like he's sensing like he's seeing
a change of the relationship just because you are in
a more vulnerable state right now, and so have that
conversation so that you're ready for when the baby comes,

(13:36):
because it's gonna get infinitely harder, you know.

Speaker 1 (13:39):
Or or we could take our phone with milk credits. Yeah,
toss that bad boy into the into the trams so
you run over. Now, we really have to be closer together, Yeah,
I mean like it forces us to everywhere together, to communicate,
to be together for six hours because I can't leave.

Speaker 3 (13:56):
You because I got no phone. I can't I can't
go on Facebook. I have to talk to you.

Speaker 2 (14:01):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (14:02):
Screen agers?

Speaker 2 (14:03):
Screen agers? Yeah?

Speaker 3 (14:04):
Op?

Speaker 2 (14:04):
And that's old? Is that? Teenagers?

Speaker 3 (14:09):
So people?

Speaker 4 (14:09):
He said screen because screen has two e's in it,
replacing the.

Speaker 3 (14:13):
Teen basically is a thing where like when you know
teenagers are on their phone all the time, you call
him a screenager. But the joke now is that like
whenever anyone's on their phone all the time, you're like, oh,
you screenager.

Speaker 1 (14:25):
I knew by context clues, but but you still ask.

Speaker 2 (14:28):
But I still asked.

Speaker 1 (14:31):
I am sad now And if we sit at home
talk looks like him diving up from the computer screen
that he's been glued to for quite some time, explaining
a new line and a thought to me, and then
finishing the talk pretty fast to keep reading.

Speaker 3 (14:45):
So it sounds like he's talking at you.

Speaker 1 (14:47):
Yeah, doesn't sound like a conversation, the babe I just
saw it was funny meme and it was like pretty cool.

Speaker 2 (14:53):
But yeah, so and he's back, babe.

Speaker 3 (14:55):
So I went on to this white website that talked
about these theres and did you know that the grass
is actually grass? It's actually phosphorus and the government doesn't
want you to know that.

Speaker 4 (15:09):
Yeah, Like why why do you get an issue when
you touch it? And why are the aliens in the ocean?

Speaker 2 (15:14):
Why?

Speaker 3 (15:15):
That's cool babe today And he's like, okay, I'm done,
Like I was just gonna tell you about my day.

Speaker 2 (15:20):
And he's like, I sorry, way more memes.

Speaker 1 (15:22):
Uh huh, God forbid I say something he doesn't expect
that requires further discussion about the subject. Oh my god.
Oh actual exchange of conversation. Then he usually just gets
defensive and tells me why his idea is right. But
they just talked. They just talked together, Like he told
me he didn't feel the need to look into the
Internet or a book while talking to her because I

(15:44):
don't surprise him anymore. In a conversation, he can understand
me and thus has capacity free to process relevant information.

Speaker 3 (15:52):
What is he talking about?

Speaker 2 (15:54):
This man?

Speaker 1 (15:55):
I I guessed before that he was a pompous, a
hole and insufferable, and I was correct.

Speaker 3 (16:01):
Oh my goodness, I'm sorry to say to your pregnant wife. Yeah,
I just don't like talking to you anymore because you
just don't surprise me.

Speaker 1 (16:09):
You're just like, like did your words are like so
simple that my big fat freaking brain is just like
working on overdrive and I can just I can just
have a conversation and scroll a million feeds at once
and just taking all the information.

Speaker 3 (16:22):
He already freaking said, Oh, yeah, like, I just don't
relate to other people my age, So we are like
I'm sure if OPI's twenty one and he's twenty five,
he probably also thinks that she's like less mature, not
as smart as him, which is such a weird like
acky power dynamic.

Speaker 2 (16:39):
And buddy, why did you marry her and have a
baby with her?

Speaker 1 (16:42):
If you believe it? Come on, I think that's exactly
what's happening here. He's like, oh, you know, I'm so sophisticated. Uh,
this will be, you know, an easy get for me. This,
this kind of gal.

Speaker 3 (16:52):
Elle's probably his aid or around.

Speaker 2 (16:54):
Is it? Yep? Guys, yoicks now that I'm sharper than.

Speaker 3 (16:59):
Ever, John also a little bit bigger than me.

Speaker 1 (17:03):
You This girl obviously manages to catch his interest for
hours after hours, although he said if he knew her
as well as me, he probably would be bored by her. Yeah,
glad to hear that a random girl whose interest he
had previously only regarded as shallow and uninformed, manages to
spark his interest in contrast to his pregnant wife.

Speaker 2 (17:22):
Oh my god.

Speaker 1 (17:23):
I asked him how they even got the idea to
meet up, after informing me that he didn't like being
questioned that way. He told me that Elle was describing
to him how she didn't feel well to him over
over Facebook, and as he told her, he did not either.

Speaker 2 (17:36):
Oh I'm you're not feeling well. I'm not feeling well.

Speaker 3 (17:39):
Feeling well either, we should not feel well together.

Speaker 1 (17:41):
So she asked him if he would like some tea.
This obviously was exciting enough to jump out of his
chair and dash forward.

Speaker 3 (17:48):
Dude, emotional cheating at the very least.

Speaker 2 (17:50):
Ooh, great point.

Speaker 1 (17:51):
Great point contrary to the countless, countless times in the
pregnancy where I didn't feel like sitting at home any
longer and suggested going swimming, going outside, flying the new
kite we got, enjoying the city, enjoying one of these
several huge parks in our immediate proximity. No, either he
was too tired, didn't feel well, or didn't want to
go as far. He kindly informed me that for her,

(18:15):
driving to the next district with two tram lines was
not at all a huge deal, while going four stations
with a single one huge park with me is just
too much of a hassle to put up with. Once
he sits at home and stares into the screen, he's just.

Speaker 3 (18:31):
Not interested in you right now, which saw it's awful
like he's just he's completely emotionally invested in l right now,
and so nothing you do is good enough.

Speaker 1 (18:41):
You just have to wait and see if he'll ever
be interested in you. He won't, but you'll just wait
and see for eternity and then he never will be.

Speaker 2 (18:48):
Yeah, it's all good. Just waits.

Speaker 1 (18:50):
Your kids are fifty, because then you will not be
breathing anymore, and you'll both not be breathing anymore because
you'll be so old that it just happens anyways, yep,
and then voila.

Speaker 3 (19:01):
Or conversation, either one of those.

Speaker 2 (19:03):
Or you could wait, you know, one hundred years. So
I'm just saying nothing. Yeah, cheap the same phone with
no credit.

Speaker 3 (19:10):
Or you can wait until the heat death of the universe.

Speaker 1 (19:12):
There we go, we can all burnt together without getting
to the root, cause there we go. And it was
just so uncomfortable sitting on the sofa the whole time,
because we have no sofa. Not sure what that means,
I asked sarcastically. We indeed don't have one, but we
have a comfy bed, lots of sitting pillows, and an
awesome dining table we bought in order to make our
home look all nice and classy for being a family. Well,

(19:34):
a sofa could be good to And yes, that was
indeed the reason. It had not occurred to him once
in the entire time that he could look into the
Internet or into a book, something that he seems hooked
to do when sitting around here. If he isn't really
immersed in one book. He runs back to the Internet
almost every idle moment to check Facebook, read things and whatnot.

(19:54):
But here he talked to a person he didn't know,
and so had to listen intensely. Listen, I, babe, I
don't here, so I gotta be I gotta be locked in.
I gotta gotta open.

Speaker 3 (20:03):
I know everything about you and everything else I don't
want to know about you so exact perfect.

Speaker 1 (20:08):
You're so simple and so basic, and there's there there's
zero complexity to you.

Speaker 2 (20:12):
There's I know everything there is to know. Come on.

Speaker 1 (20:15):
He had bought some adult sodas because he didn't want
to appear empty handed, of course, you know, to the
tea that she was offering him.

Speaker 3 (20:23):
You know, I'm sorry she she said, come over for tea,
and he brought beer.

Speaker 1 (20:28):
Yep, I don't want to peer empty handed to the
place that already has the beverage will be consumed.

Speaker 3 (20:32):
Beverage that we talked about. So I'm gonna bring another beverage.

Speaker 2 (20:35):
The one without booze. By the way. Yeah, waits, come on.

Speaker 1 (20:39):
After they had finished their tea, they drank two of
those each. It's not that I'm angry at him. Drinking
booze when I can't. That's why I bought the adult soda.
It bothers me that he takes them as a gift
when visiting a lonely bored goth girl, and they decide
to drink them both together in an atmosphere of extreme
comfort that miraculously removes all worries about his pregnant wife.

Speaker 3 (20:59):
I forgot she bought him the drinks, and then he
takes them to go drink them with another girl.

Speaker 2 (21:04):
Yep, yep. Oh.

Speaker 1 (21:07):
I hate this man, and Nobey says, I've done nothing wrong.
You just don't interest me. So I go on Facebook
and read because I hate you and should be married
to you, but I am. Anyways, we're having a baby.

Speaker 3 (21:18):
Yikes. Song of the day, Song of the summer. Maybe beer.

Speaker 1 (21:23):
I would have left earlier if I had reached you
on the phone, but since he didn't, he just decided
to stay even longer. I asked him if he had
least talked to her about the play that I had planned.
I remember they're part of that friend circle that were
going to place.

Speaker 2 (21:35):
Howe we forget that.

Speaker 1 (21:36):
I have until now sent three emails about and received
only one answer.

Speaker 2 (21:41):
On the second one saying, oh, we don't have much
time at.

Speaker 1 (21:43):
The moment, but you keep doing what you're doing, as
he previously had told me he would. No, But instead
they listened to a forty minute recording of their activity
that happened a month ago and pondered about the details
of it.

Speaker 2 (21:57):
Wild let's play.

Speaker 1 (21:58):
Back, Sophia, you're telling me you don't play back up
an hour of tape from your play performances? Oh, and
and analyze what you've done?

Speaker 2 (22:09):
Do you do that? Not an hour?

Speaker 3 (22:12):
But we do watch ours? No, I don't think I've
ever done forty minutes?

Speaker 1 (22:16):
Do you do forty minutes when your pregnant wife is
at home and you're out with someone who you secretly
find so much.

Speaker 2 (22:23):
More more interesting interesting? And oh my gosh, I can
hold a conversation with you.

Speaker 3 (22:28):
I don't do that. Gotta be honest.

Speaker 1 (22:29):
She doesn't do it. That's the key, ladies and gentlemen,
So my stance on things. What's bothering me the most
about the oh so effing important and interesting thing they
do is that she elle impersonates some kind of goddess
of lust. I think in this play that they're reviewing.
Oh okay, there are also other girls who had impersonated

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that very goddess of lust, experienced ones that can do
this very well. But somehow Elle doing it sparked interest
in my husband because he feels that he is unresolved
issues and he wants to tap tap into that sort
of consciousness to find out more about himself.

Speaker 3 (23:07):
What I'm sorry. He's telling you that, oh, L is
playing a Goddess of Lust and that actually awoke something
at me. And he didn't think you'd connect the dots
that he meant he was attracted to her.

Speaker 2 (23:20):
The other girls. I did.

Speaker 3 (23:21):
But it's not as smart as he thinks.

Speaker 1 (23:24):
This guy, is he The way he looks at other
people is how he actually is.

Speaker 2 (23:28):
He's like, oh, I'm amongst all these imbeciles and the plebeians.

Speaker 3 (23:32):
Yeahs brother.

Speaker 2 (23:36):
Level, it's called a mirror. Yeah.

Speaker 3 (23:39):
Amy Lenz says, Oh no, he wants to tap into L.

Speaker 2 (23:43):
That's exactly correct. Wants to tap that that's exactly correct.

Speaker 1 (23:46):
He had already told me this and asked me if
I had problems if he would repeat that impersonation.

Speaker 2 (23:51):
With her alone.

Speaker 1 (23:53):
What I'm Sophia, He needs to perfect his character alone
with her, with the Godess of lust.

Speaker 2 (24:00):
Alone before he brings it to the public theater.

Speaker 3 (24:03):
That second kids in high school who had to do
a kiss Steine in our plays would be like, yeah,
we're gonna rehearse alone. We all knew they wanted.

Speaker 2 (24:11):
To kiss practice alone. Come on, big deal.

Speaker 1 (24:15):
I don't have any problems with that. I even encouraged it, dude.
But the only reason I did that maybe that experienced
girl or probably me could also do it for him.
Could you know practice as this goddess of lust was
that they both agreed on doing the dark Gothy Lust
impersonation together up until the point where she told her

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boyfriend that they would be doing this and he said
that it was not a good idea, essentially forbidding it.

Speaker 2 (24:41):
Yeah, So what makes me effing mad about that.

Speaker 1 (24:44):
Just hanging out on the couch along with listening to
the recording and discussing it, is that there was pension
between them in the first place. Kank, Holy crap. I
would even be okay if he took her home and
eft her silly if he told me. I have reassured
him that several times. But instead he goes over to
her place and just feels so f and comfortable just

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talking to her, leaving me alone. Let me make sure
I understand this because.

Speaker 2 (25:09):
I'm going to read this back. Okay, I'm gonna read
this back.

Speaker 1 (25:12):
What holy crap? I would even be okay if he
took her home and fed her silly, if he told
me I have reassured him of that several times. But
instead he just goes over to their place and feels
so f and comfortable just talking to her while leaving
me alone. So I think op is saying that maybe

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there's some polyamorous leanings or a full blown locked in
nature to their relationship. I guess so where she's okay
with you know, physical intimacy, but it seems the emotional
part of like, hey here, I am like carrying all
this yeah, litter, your baby in all this emotional weight,
and you don't even care about me.

Speaker 2 (25:54):
Okay, all right, he can, he can f her silly. Okay,
it's all good, it's fine.

Speaker 3 (26:00):
I'm sure he will.

Speaker 2 (26:01):
It's okay, Riley, all right, it's okay.

Speaker 4 (26:03):
Why why why are we giving people permission to do this?
It's all why?

Speaker 2 (26:08):
Now Here's when it all crashed down on me.

Speaker 3 (26:11):
Wow, yeah, no one could have seen that coming.

Speaker 1 (26:15):
The thing is that he didn't do anything wrong. He
visited her, they had a good talk. He came back
not violating any agreement on the schedule because there wasn't any.
And that's when it occurred to me that it was
actually me who had a problem, because I pretty much
ruined my evening when he wasn't even back. I pretty
much incited a furnace of hate and anger that I

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kept feeling with every detail that he told me about
his evening. I can't deny that I am boring.

Speaker 2 (26:42):
Girl.

Speaker 3 (26:42):
You're pregnant. No you you don't. You're not doing much
because you're pregnant.

Speaker 2 (26:48):
No you're not. Wait why why say this? It's okay,
You're not boring.

Speaker 3 (26:53):
Everyone is a little bit interesting.

Speaker 2 (26:55):
Come on.

Speaker 1 (26:56):
I might know a lotch, but most of it is
factual knowledge, and I am a very introverted person, so
I don't speak with much emotion.

Speaker 2 (27:03):
I also like to keep myself short.

Speaker 1 (27:05):
He always tells me that I show nothing of my
thoughts and feelings, which might be true, but I'm used
to just not flaunting them around, especially when I'm not
being listened to some goth girl. OPI he's really honing
in all this goth things got she happens to be
everything my husband likes that I am not, like small girly,
quirky rock styled covered in tattoos who obviously either disdains

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or flat out despises me, catches his attention with one
half hearted tentence something that I didn't manage to do
with countless more creative suggestions for things he actually liked
over the past two weeks. Again, remember she would be
suggesting going out to the park, doing some activities together,
flying the kite, rubbing his back, running him showers when
he says he's too tired, like oh op, pregnant. AF

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is tending to this man, Yeah, like big time. There
must be something in my way to suggest things that's
even more unappealing than a written want some tea opie.
You've done, You've truly done everything, you have done your
part of the bargain. Absolutely, Then he just sucks and
is not interested in you, and and doesn't quite frankly,

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it doesn't give a dang about you.

Speaker 2 (28:11):
No, doesn't care about you at all. From where I'm sitting,
nor from where I'm sitting on from where.

Speaker 1 (28:16):
Both of us are sitting, this efing girl sits at
home while her boyfriend is on tour, complaining to a
married man how she doesn't feel well, and directly reacts
he's got a boyfriend too, he's on tour. Oh, Sophie,
she's lonely.

Speaker 3 (28:30):
Slnely, and she's sick and she needs some tea and
some company.

Speaker 1 (28:34):
Have some tay, may I want to talk to you
because like my boy he's a rocker, he's on tour.

Speaker 3 (28:40):
You know when to talk to. I mean, oh my god, girl,
and I know.

Speaker 2 (28:44):
One to talk to. Oh my goodness.

Speaker 1 (28:46):
Yes, she asked how I was quote unquote, but it
would have been pretty rude towards my husband himself a
father to be not to be interested in his offspring.
I don't count that as niceness towards me. She obviously
didn't care that I sat at home without any idea
of how along my husband might be away, and also
didn't care that he fruitlessly tried to reach me. It
also did not occur to them to try and reach
me over Facebook. I mentioned I'd be on the computer

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all evening, So we do have one method of communication,
one line of talking. The way of communication both seem
to follow all day long when they're not currently hanging
out on the couch with each other. I hate that
girl with a passion, although I tried my best to
be nice to her, but instead she rubs me with
her disdain and ignorance in the face about what I

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took my time to do. That if I trust her,
actually interested her, and instead finds the time to just
chat with my husband for hours, And I hate me
for obviously being some sort of boring slob who can't
even make the very same thing remotely interesting for my husband.

Speaker 2 (29:43):
Man, I must suck. We talked about this, No you don't.

Speaker 1 (29:46):
And then I hate me for drifting off into a
rage when he finally came home.

Speaker 2 (29:51):
Do not hate yourself with that.

Speaker 3 (29:52):
Don't blame yourself.

Speaker 2 (29:53):
Don't blame yourself.

Speaker 3 (29:54):
Communicate And if he communicates that he doesn't like you,
then maybe we explore other men.

Speaker 1 (30:00):
Mar If someone does something to us, Sophia that is frustrating,
is it bad that we're frustrated?

Speaker 3 (30:07):
No, John, No, it's not.

Speaker 2 (30:09):
In fact, it is human.

Speaker 3 (30:11):
It's human.

Speaker 2 (30:12):
Dare I say?

Speaker 1 (30:12):
I didn't even have actual accusations for him. It was
more or less an empty rant about how I'm envious
of her because she manages to keep his interest. I
felt and feel like the stereotypical jealous wife one doesn't.

Speaker 2 (30:24):
Want to come home to. What made me cry.

Speaker 1 (30:26):
Even more in despair was the realization that Elle would
either get to know from my anger sending her the
message that I am indeed jealous of her, although they
just decided to hang out together like two befriended adults,
and thus essentially dragging me into the position of the
crazy wife who already is much less interesting than her husband.

Speaker 3 (30:46):
Dude, if your husband's saying that you're done, yep, you're dye,
it's he can't be saying that that's not okay.

Speaker 1 (30:53):
Correct, or not to hear about my anger sending her
the message that it's totally looking fine to invite a
married man and for tea and then hang with him
until one am in the morning. I didn't even want
to talk about it that evening because I knew it
was futile. My husband obviously had noticed that I was
sobbing into my pillow and kept asking me what my
problem was. Buddy, Buddy, Buddy, buddy, dude, buddy.

Speaker 3 (31:14):
The self awareness of a piece of toast.

Speaker 1 (31:18):
Truly, but I'm just imagining like it's It's like a
cartoon and it goes, you know, and then it pops
up to his brain and it's just a piece of
to It's like SpongeBob style. When I told him to
put myself himself in my situation, he did not manage
to find out what was okay.

Speaker 3 (31:36):
So I'm you and my husband has just told me
that he finds me boring. I'm not seeing the problem here.

Speaker 1 (31:44):
You know, Sophia, he's not the hottest toaster on the shelf.

Speaker 2 (31:48):
Let's just say that his settings don't go very far.

Speaker 5 (31:52):
Nope.

Speaker 1 (31:53):
And on top of that, we have plan to go
to the zoo today and take some photos. So you're
telling me you did it plans and.

Speaker 3 (32:00):
You literally made plans. You're making plans and he's like,
oh no, I.

Speaker 2 (32:05):
Want to go have tea for her with six hours
to want to.

Speaker 3 (32:07):
I'm sorry he's calling you boring. You're the one making
plans and every time you made plans, so I'm tired.
I don't want to do that.

Speaker 2 (32:14):
Key Boring is the boring one.

Speaker 3 (32:16):
He's boring.

Speaker 1 (32:16):
Here's gaslighting you and projecting you're basic and you're boring.

Speaker 2 (32:20):
Colley.

Speaker 1 (32:21):
I still feel like crap even after sleeping. But it
was a most wonderful and warm, sunny day, and I
managed to actually feel fine up to the point we
went our own way. Once out of the door, he
already started dropping vague hints about how the day was
perfect and his mood would have been perfect to what
I would have had the perfect day if it weren't
for my annoying, evil pregnant wife who keeping me from

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enjoying this amazing life I would have if it weren't
for my pregnant wife.

Speaker 3 (32:49):
Was he saying like she had op made plans And
then he's like, well, if I had been able to
do my my other plans, it would have been perfect,
Like I had this perfect day all planned out, and
now you've ruined by like making me to the zoo.

Speaker 1 (33:00):
Yeah, yeah, I think, yeah, his mood would have been
perfectly if they hadn't had that. I think this whole
perfuffle and I've decided not to react to such vague
drama sturing long ago, but you deserve to because he's
clearly not respecting you.

Speaker 3 (33:14):
Well, I just think that I understand that you might
not want to like break up or leave him right
now because you're about to have a baby, like literally
about to yes, but I do think as of right now,
if you're not going to do that, literally, just not
ignore him, but live your life. If you want to
go to the park, yeah, go to the park. Like,
obviously there are things that you can't do right now
because you're pregnant, but like, if there's something that you

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want to do that you know you can do, don't
wait for him. If he's going to be off hanging
out with some other girl, do what you want to do. Yeah,
have fun, I have the baby. Hopefully you have an
extended family like support system kind of thing, and then
leave him because he sucks.

Speaker 1 (33:50):
Run a marathon, yeah, do an iron man, become the
world squatting champion.

Speaker 3 (33:55):
Yeah. Pregnant.

Speaker 2 (33:56):
All things you can do while you're pregnant, exactly.

Speaker 1 (33:58):
So, later he suggested he felt very hurt and torn
because of yesterday. Obviously he had a problem with the
fact that I got angry. This pissed me off so
much that I decided not to say anything because we were
in public, and when we arrived at the zoo, it
slowly slipped into a normal mood between us, but it
was not resolved. That is correct, That's what happens when
you don't address the things that bother you.

Speaker 3 (34:19):
Mm hmm.

Speaker 1 (34:20):
It wasn't resolved at all. When we came home, he
conveniently fell asleep right away.

Speaker 3 (34:24):
Dude, that's so annoying. I was so annoying. You want
to try and hang out with the person and.

Speaker 1 (34:30):
They just sleep right And we have an update. He's
John og Host. We're gonna get back to the stories,
but a quick three minute break of ads.

Speaker 2 (34:36):
From our sponsors.

Speaker 1 (34:37):
So if we've kind of are give you give me,
could you tell me what you would I think you
gave the brilliant solution of like, hey, go live your life.
Go like do what fulfills you, it makes you happy,
especially in this interim time where we're still, you know,
kind of need each other with the baby coming and
all this like pre and post a birth time period.
But what would you if you had the chance to

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sit down with this husband, what would you say to.

Speaker 3 (35:00):
I would say, look after your pregnant wife doing that,
stop talking to a lady in a relationship, and uh,
be more interesting, Yes, I said it.

Speaker 2 (35:11):
Be more interesting yourself, buddy.

Speaker 1 (35:13):
Amy Lynn says, Opie is growing a whole human and
this man thinks that he is tired yeah, come on,
come on, nice, try buddy, nice, try well updates. So
today my husband was skyping with his sister, my bridesmaid,
and since I like her very much and they don't
happen to be online at the same time very often,
I didn't want to mope around gaming in another room

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and unplug my laptop. Moving into his desk. At some point,
he gave me the mic so to speak to talk
to her. I had noticed earlier that he was reading
other things meanwhile, like he always does when talking to
his family. So he's reading a book while he's talking
to his family. He sounds so boring, insufferable. Oh my goodness,
he sounds boring with his mom. I can understand that

(35:56):
very well, although I still find it uncourteous.

Speaker 2 (35:59):
It is with his sister. I feel kind of sorry
for her.

Speaker 3 (36:02):
I'm sorry to be talking to someone and then.

Speaker 2 (36:04):
Be like, and you know what book he's reading, the
one that.

Speaker 3 (36:08):
Uh, oh, you're so right, you're so right whatever.

Speaker 2 (36:12):
Yeah, yeah, that's all right.

Speaker 1 (36:14):
As I looked up because his sister had her webcam activated,
I noticed that he was not only reading but Facebook.
He's doing this, he's pulling the Yes, he's pulling the no, No,
he's pulling the I'm in school.

Speaker 3 (36:26):
Oh he's got that, You're right, yeah, And she's like,
I know on that page a really long time.

Speaker 1 (36:33):
And you're really reading, reading really thoroughly there. Now, guess
with whom was he on Facebook chat with? It was
the goth girl with the goth girl. I had enough
decency not to read their text to while talking to
my sister in law just one time. The talk had
shifted to him again, and his sister had noticed that
he wasn't reacting to her question and obviously heard him

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typing and ash.

Speaker 3 (36:54):
Doing it silent.

Speaker 2 (36:55):
Stay what he's not even doing it on silence?

Speaker 3 (36:58):
Right, If you're gonna talk text other people while you're
talking to someone, least put it on silent.

Speaker 1 (37:03):
Man, bro has the audacity. And it's not even hit
just his wife, like it's his family.

Speaker 2 (37:06):
Like, yeah, this guy stucks, he sucks. Oh.

Speaker 1 (37:09):
So his sister asked, Hey, are you chatting with someone
else too? I looked at the conversation they were currently
chatting about how the goth girls cleavage was judged in
one situation, whether by photo or live.

Speaker 3 (37:24):
Leave him and with your sister, it's.

Speaker 1 (37:29):
Part of the goddess of lust.

Speaker 2 (37:32):
No reviewing the footage.

Speaker 3 (37:36):
I forgot about that.

Speaker 1 (37:38):
We're viewing the footage. Okay, we need to be the
best actors and actresses. We can be the best thespians.
I decided I did not exactly want to know what
kind of situation they were talking about. Well, the rest
of the evening went kind of nice, except for one
situation later where I was back at my usual laptop
place because it had a run out of electricity, and

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was writing a message to a fellow pregnant lady when
he asked, well, why are you writing that much? Why
are you typing that much over there, to which I
promptly answered. But until going to bed, he was really
nice and loving, not in a usual way, it just
felt great as ever, And since he hasn't been exactly
suspicious or secretive earlier, I nearly decided to drop the issue.
I mean, there was the very suspicious thing of him

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talking about Elle's cleavage. Yeah, with her that was, you
know a little.

Speaker 2 (38:25):
Bit so fine.

Speaker 3 (38:26):
It's fine because she's okay with them hooking up.

Speaker 2 (38:29):
I guess right, f and her silly, as I hope
he put it.

Speaker 1 (38:33):
But it bugged me too much, and so after cuddling
up in bed and turning off the lights. I told
him that the situation with the girl bothered me.

Speaker 3 (38:40):
Yeah, we finally got there, Hope. He's like, I'm putting
my foot down. Yes, you hang it out with lle bothers.

Speaker 1 (38:48):
Me since I wanted things to stay nice. I told
him that it bothered me. And then she obviously hates
my guts but still chooses to hang around with him
that much. The conversation promptly took a turn to well,
if she doesn't like you, do you expect her to
still talk to you exactly as much as she talks
to me?

Speaker 2 (39:05):
Is she just hates you? So it makes sense, right, Hope.

Speaker 3 (39:07):
He was like, yeah, she's really nasty to me. And
he's like, well, why would she talk to you? Then
it's like, no, you shouldn't be talking to her.

Speaker 2 (39:14):
That's that's the solution, my brother in Christ.

Speaker 1 (39:17):
This already alerted me a bit, hadn't He stated a
few days ago that he wouldn't even consider her as
a friend.

Speaker 3 (39:23):
Wait, I'm sorry. Someone in the chat said, uh, now
we gotta judge John's cleavage too because of the Oh no,
because of the thing in the story.

Speaker 2 (39:33):
Oh no, that was funny. It twas a giggle.

Speaker 1 (39:37):
Of course, I did not expect this, I explained calmly,
and then actually told him about my feelings how I
felt that she chose to ignore my emails where I
actually tried to do something for her for her, I
thought you were doing this for yourself. True, but I
was going out of my way to share it with
her and get next to no reaction, but still find
time enough to chat with him about.

Speaker 2 (39:55):
Obviously a relevant thing. I told him.

Speaker 1 (39:57):
I was offended by the fact that she chose to
spend so much time I'm talking to him while simultaneously
deciding to do so dedicatedly and not give an f
about me and the fact that we are married. After
this explanation, and I really made an effort to use
lots of eye messages to make my feelings clear, says
I've often been accused of talking like.

Speaker 2 (40:16):
A log book or a lawyer.

Speaker 1 (40:18):
I got surprisingly little to almost no reaction at all.
Mostly I don't know, huh uh, what the F do
you not know that I am currently not telling you about?
I am telling you the information? What isn't computing?

Speaker 2 (40:35):
How are you not receiving? How do you not know
what I literally just told you.

Speaker 1 (40:38):
So I told him, with a bit more urgency, that
I still don't like that behavior of hers at all,
and that I expected more respect from her.

Speaker 2 (40:44):
No reaction.

Speaker 1 (40:45):
Well, I guess I can't really expect respect from someone
just like that, I almost asked, promptly, getting a yeah, indeed, concerned,
I steered over to then I have to make obvious
assumptions that do not please me at all if she
chooses to disrespect and disregard your wife just like that
while intentionally approaching you that much. And then he says,
maybe it isn't intentional, he said.

Speaker 3 (41:07):
Guy is dumb, Maybe he's a toast.

Speaker 2 (41:10):
You've got it all wrong, pregnant wife. No, I don't.

Speaker 3 (41:13):
You don't understand the wheels that are churning because you're
just a silly twenty one year old. I'm old for
my age. I'm mature.

Speaker 1 (41:23):
You see, babe, your brain doesn't stop like freaking developing
to your like twenty four, like twenty five like, and my.

Speaker 3 (41:30):
Brain is so fully developed you wouldn't. It's not even funny.

Speaker 2 (41:34):
That brain, big brain, that's what I am.

Speaker 3 (41:37):
Your big belly full of baby, big man full.

Speaker 2 (41:41):
Of brains.

Speaker 1 (41:43):
Got him so on my notion that it would bother
me even more if it wasn't unintentional, I again got
no reaction. At that point, I already felt like crap
because I decided to speak about how I feel freely
and openly, just one time, like he always does to me,
and I got basically ignored but definitely not confirmed. So
I decided to end that talk because maybe he was

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tired and therefore not answering anymore. He's tired of being
married to you because he sucks rocks, I thought, which
actually seems incredibly naive even to me right now, and said, well,
I only know that I have a really bad feeling
about this whole situation that I don't want to just
ignore it, especially since I even have some factual reasons
for it, like the fact that you two were talking

(42:24):
about her cleavage. Yeah, and there's silence. There's no response,
just a few minutes of silence. Later, the driyer had
finished his cycle, creating an even heavier silence in the room.

Speaker 3 (42:34):
She was like, Duomo, and she's like, you just don't
realize anything. It's like, dude, yeah, the dryer going off.

Speaker 2 (42:45):
I'm gonna go get that babe. Upon this my husband
said good night.

Speaker 3 (42:49):
No, he said it quietly John upon that as I.

Speaker 1 (42:52):
Said good night, quietly, friendly and happily, as nothing had happened.

Speaker 3 (42:56):
Dude, I think he's got like that fifty first states,
Like he doesn't remember anything, you know, like the except
instead of it happening every time the day ends, it
happens every time the tryer finishes. He just forgets everything.

Speaker 1 (43:08):
It's just yeah, wow, and he's ready to go to sleep, yeah,
like we always.

Speaker 2 (43:13):
Is whenever something yep, dude.

Speaker 1 (43:16):
I replied good night and turned away, upon which he
said some kind of nice stuff that actually managed to
make me smile.

Speaker 2 (43:21):
I don't care. Yeah, no, And soon he fell asleep.

Speaker 1 (43:24):
But I couldn't because that whole talk was so awful,
and this extended not talking was so unlike him. He
didn't even try to start a discussion like he always
does when I criticize something, because he's usually good at them.
That every moment I spent thinking about how it went
and how I felt, I felt more and more like crap.
My obvious conclusion is that this woman is never going

(43:45):
to babysit my son ever.

Speaker 3 (43:47):
Dude, what what that was the conclusion? Why was that
on the table.

Speaker 1 (43:53):
Hopefully there's a million other conclusions that draw the line
way further than that. We we just need to this
at this point. Yes, we need to talk and understand
all this stuff, but we just need to leave him.

Speaker 2 (44:03):
Yeah, I'm sorry, he's gotta go.

Speaker 3 (44:05):
You gotta go.

Speaker 1 (44:06):
Let's reach a point he needs to understand how royally
he has aft up here. And I still have hope
that my dearest husband is only so disgustingly friendly towards
her because he seemed really excited about the idea to
have free babysitting available.

Speaker 3 (44:20):
Babe, come on, babe, you're smarter than this.

Speaker 2 (44:23):
Dang, but what did I read in r slash parenting?

Speaker 1 (44:26):
No one ever offers free babysitting just because he's that
good of a person, So be aware the things I
definitely want to avoid are approaching him with all the
blame I can muster up. I still believe that this
goth girl is a huge witch, and I hate her guts.
I know that my husband plays a part in enabling her,
but technically he does nothing wrong, and I think I
would have noticed if he was hiding something.

Speaker 3 (44:45):
He's not hiding anything. He's doing it very blatantly.

Speaker 1 (44:48):
He's doing it very blatantly, and I think he is
doing things wrongs, namely, most importantly not caring or having
any concern.

Speaker 3 (44:55):
For his pregnant why he's pregnant wife?

Speaker 1 (44:57):
And I definitely don't want to turn into the jealous
housewife demand to know everything they talk about. That's so
interesting even I am boring.

Speaker 2 (45:04):
No, he's not. He is interested in psychology. In the mind.

Speaker 3 (45:08):
He sounds like a night.

Speaker 2 (45:09):
And he's a pedagogue. What is that?

Speaker 3 (45:12):
Uh?

Speaker 1 (45:15):
Pedagogue? Can we sue that is that? Ped I am
a lover of feet.

Speaker 2 (45:28):
Maybe he paints them, not children and.

Speaker 3 (45:31):
A log I don't know. He's organic, yes, a pedagogue.

Speaker 5 (45:37):
A pedagogue is a teacher, often with the connotation of
being a strict, formal, old fashioned one. The word can
also refer to someone who is pedantic, dogmatic, or narrow minded.

Speaker 3 (45:49):
Did he call himself a pedagogue?

Speaker 1 (45:50):
I think that's wow. I think he got the dictionary
dot com word of the day.

Speaker 3 (45:55):
And I'm a pedagogue And she said, oh wow, that
sounds fair.

Speaker 2 (46:00):
I see who is it?

Speaker 5 (46:01):
Me?

Speaker 3 (46:01):
Is a teacher?

Speaker 1 (46:03):
You wouldn't know it, all right, Dand it is of
a high intelligence.

Speaker 2 (46:08):
Then you possess my DearS.

Speaker 3 (46:09):
Okay, gosh, he stands like a nightmare.

Speaker 2 (46:13):
Hey, it's John here.

Speaker 1 (46:14):
We're gonna get back to this episode, but a quick
three minute break with Asrama sponsors. His sister is about
to become a grade school teacher and currently has an
internship in a school for mentally challenged ill or otherwise
quote unquote special students, and she chose to write nonsense
with that goth girl because his sister only speaks about
the children.

Speaker 3 (46:32):
Yeah, and you only speak about l though.

Speaker 2 (46:35):
Yeah, in her cleavage and her freaking cleavage. We'll stop that, weirdo.
But let's get into the end of the story.

Speaker 3 (46:41):
Let's do it.

Speaker 2 (46:42):
But what can I do?

Speaker 1 (46:43):
I think I will go into the zen mode and
continue doing what makes me happy as long as he
treats me nice Incorrectly, he has done none of those things.

Speaker 2 (46:50):
He will not ever do this, and yeah, he's not
gonna change.

Speaker 1 (46:52):
But then again, there's that little voice in my head
telling me that I am a huge butt hat for
even considering that you're not at all. Still, I feel
strangely calm, even though I think I should be crying
uncontrollably right now. I only feel a slight clenching of
my teeth as an expression of my discomfort with that girl.

Speaker 2 (47:09):
No, seriously, I'm at a loss of what to do.

Speaker 1 (47:11):
I fear that with every mention of her, and especially
if I turn into she's stealing you and you let
it happen, I create an atmosphere of you're crazy, I
would never do that, which I firmly believe, as well
as heightened the chance that he starts thinking about her
that way and discovers that she's actually able to provide
him with more support or other means of recognition than
I am able to, which is obviously also true.

Speaker 3 (47:34):
Girl. Huh, girl, girl, girl, girl girl, little.

Speaker 2 (47:38):
Girl, talk to me, Sophia.

Speaker 3 (47:40):
Oh, he needs to divorce him? Yes, Like, he's not
no saving this, He's gone not he like the op
seems to think. Oh, like, I'll push him further into
our arms. He's in her arms, he's cuddling in. They're
discussing our cleavage. It's too late, and it's nothing that
you did or have done, or you know, can change.

(48:01):
It's not on you, it's on him.

Speaker 2 (48:03):
That is boring.

Speaker 3 (48:04):
Boring.

Speaker 2 (48:05):
Yes, I couldn't agree more.

Speaker 3 (48:06):
Any manic pixie dreamgirling. This goth girl.

Speaker 4 (48:10):
Yeah, this is let them have each other. It could happen. Huh,
it could happen to anybody.

Speaker 1 (48:17):
It can, I would hope not. But ladies and gentlemen,
that is the Internet saga. Butts, I have a treat
for you. That's one more story before we leave this episode.

Speaker 3 (48:26):
Let's hit it. But let's get into this next story. Okay,
my wife's hobby is destroying our marriage.

Speaker 2 (48:34):
Don't let it. I think as of last.

Speaker 3 (48:37):
Night, it looks like my thirty eight male marriage is
headed towards divorce, largely in part due to my wife's
thirty five female hobby of running.

Speaker 2 (48:46):
Oh no, run away.

Speaker 3 (48:49):
As a bit of background, we have been married for
eleven years and have a few kids under tent. When
we met years ago, my main hobbies were yoga and
casually participating in triathlons. My wife enjoyed fitness activities at
the time, but didn't do anything in particular. Over time,
she started to get involved in both yoga and triathlon
so that we could spend time together doing it. By

(49:10):
the way, this comes from analysis own six point eight
and if you want to submit your own stories, go
to the r slash. Okay, storytime separate it. So this
morphed here and there as we got married and had kids,
and time marched on, but we were always doing something.
When my wife became pregnant with our second child, she
decided that she liked yoga so much that she would
like to pursue being an instructor. This was time intensive

(49:33):
and costly. What did that say?

Speaker 2 (49:35):
Nothing did say? Set? Did you say anything? John? What
did I say?

Speaker 5 (49:41):
John?

Speaker 2 (49:41):
What did that say? He took his fingers and he
typed out the words. Tell Sophia her hair stuck.

Speaker 3 (49:48):
That wasn't me. I'm coming for you.

Speaker 2 (49:50):
Get him. You have full permission to.

Speaker 3 (49:53):
Thank This was time intensive and costly. We did it.
After our second was born, she left her office job
to be a stay at home mom and to start
teaching yoga on the side. She loved this so much
she decided she wanted to do fitness full time when
the kids were both in school, so in preparation, she
picked up multiple other certifications to teach many different things,

(50:17):
including personal training. As our kids got older, she started
teaching more and more, but quickly realized that this was
taking a toll on her body and burning her out.
It just wasn't possible to do this full time for
It was about this time four years ago that she
thought maybe it was just the wrong fitness path and
maybe she should pursue running coaching. I supported this, as

(50:38):
we were both running together at the time and doing
small races. At this point, she is teaching multiple types
of fitness classes and working on her running certification. She
also starts putting significant effort into her personal running.

Speaker 2 (50:50):
I didn't know you could be certified and.

Speaker 3 (50:52):
Running certified certified?

Speaker 2 (50:55):
Is it certified? Runner? Boys?

Speaker 3 (50:57):
Certified running coach?

Speaker 2 (51:01):
Run Run, Run, Run.

Speaker 4 (51:02):
You're getting certified to walking really fast? Like, how does
that even work?

Speaker 3 (51:06):
She started preparing for her first marathon when the VID hit.
Instead of backing off the training since there were no races,
she decided to stay in marathon shape just in Kates,
never know when you need a run a marathon, that's right.
For two years she spent significant time every week on running,
which I fully supported, although I thought that level of
training with no down season was not a great idea.

(51:27):
During this time, she started running with different groups and
got to know many.

Speaker 2 (51:30):
Of the local runners.

Speaker 3 (51:31):
Eventually, the VID ends and she can do her first marathon.
She's looked, our kids are now in school full time
as well. Through her relationship, she gets offered a part
time job doing small running programs for a local store.
This new job paid just over three thousand dollars in
twenty twenty two, and that was before tax was taken out.
In exchange for this, she gives up two to three

(51:51):
week nights and one weekend morning.

Speaker 2 (51:53):
Is it three thousand a year or I don't know.

Speaker 3 (51:56):
I'm really wondering that.

Speaker 2 (51:57):
That is a space change. Important question.

Speaker 3 (51:59):
She stopped being in full marathon training mode since she started.
Between personal running and her running group, she spends a
little over twenty hours a week on running. Around eight
months ago, she decides she is fully burnt out on
her other endeavors and quits teaching classes entirely. That's the
background and now the issues. In order to fit this
all in and to run with her personal running buddies,

(52:21):
even though she's home during the day when the kids
are in school, she has moved her schedule. Most days
of the week. She gets up at four am to
do her run. This is when her friends meet. In
her mind, this is getting her running in when it
doesn't impact me or the family. The problem is that
all she has done is shift waking hours. My day
with her is essentially waking up and getting the kids
ready for school while I get ready for work. She'll

(52:43):
get home in the middle of this, and I'll leave
for work. I get home and either we eat dinner,
have a kids sport event, or she leaves for training group.
On a good day, I will have two hours with
her until she's asleep just after the kids around eight.
On a bad day, she walks in the door around
eight and falls asleep. Girl, you're going too hard. You're obsessed.
This is an addiction.

Speaker 2 (53:02):
Let me run till I can't run anymore.

Speaker 3 (53:05):
Kimberly Holly docks a little army, says, what the hell
is Op's wife running from?

Speaker 2 (53:09):
Oh hot, take doctor.

Speaker 4 (53:11):
We read a story about a chick that was doing
a lot of gym and she would just always go
to the gym, always go to the gym, and we thought.

Speaker 2 (53:16):
She was addicted.

Speaker 3 (53:17):
She was cheating. She was cheating.

Speaker 2 (53:19):
Fuck, just my pee? Is she cheating at four am
in the morning.

Speaker 3 (53:24):
Yeah, you gotta get it in early.

Speaker 4 (53:27):
Yeah, if some people are running at four am in
the morning, what's the difference between running and running?

Speaker 2 (53:32):
You know what I'm saying, is that how people are
trying to start their day.

Speaker 3 (53:34):
I guess so disgusting God. I then sit alone in
the living room for a few hours before I head
to bed. The next day, the whole thing starts over again.
Around three months ago, things got even more complicated. She
decided that three thousand dollars a year was not enough
for her to contribute financially, and fitness just wasn't gonna
be a full time career. She decided to get a
full time office job. This girl's gotta have no time

(53:57):
with anyone, Okay. This was a difficult emotional decision for
as she felt she was giving up on what she
was passionate about. Now, the day looks the same, except
she's working during the day and then running out the
door to go to her running roots, which she is
now calling a hobby. She's fully unable to step away
from this unless it is a fully scheduled off day.
She will not miss running if we're on a family vacation.

(54:19):
She's got to find a way to get a run
in every day. I feel like this is like who
runners are. I feel like every runner I know is
this intense and crazy, Like.

Speaker 2 (54:27):
I need to wake up a farm every day.

Speaker 3 (54:29):
I need a run.

Speaker 2 (54:30):
I need to run.

Speaker 3 (54:31):
Yeah. I have become so unbearably lonely, and I work
a high stress job that pays well but is always
weighing on me. In some way. I feel that I'm
a pretty good husband. I'm involved with the kids. I
help with their school projects and take them to their
sporting events. I practice with them in the yard all
the time. I do at least my fair share of
the housework, including dishes and laundry and other cleaning. I

(54:52):
take care of myself physically by working out on my
lunch hour, so you don't have to take more time
from the family. Dude, Oh my gosh, this poor.

Speaker 1 (55:00):
I love how he's like, Yeah, I squeeze in my
fitness during lunch so it doesn't interfere with all of
the other twenty hours of fitness that she's got going on.

Speaker 3 (55:08):
I just have no relationship with my wife since she's
always gone or sleeping. This has been an ongoing discussion
for months now. I have expressed how lonely I am.
I have told her that I don't need much, but
I do need some affection from her. I would love
to just sit on the couch and cuddle and watch
a movie.

Speaker 2 (55:24):
Sometimes, are you kidding me? It's too much? You're respecting
too much? That is, that is way too much. She's
got a run.

Speaker 3 (55:29):
Maybe you can watch a movie while she runs.

Speaker 1 (55:32):
You can buy a couch that could be planted on
her shoulders, so that o.

Speaker 4 (55:38):
And you're like, I've also seen some couples like one
will be running and the other one.

Speaker 2 (55:42):
Will be like on a bike.

Speaker 3 (55:43):
You know, I've expressed my needs directly and multiple times,
but nothing has changed. This all came to a head
last weekend. It started with a rare date night. She
ran a race Saturday morning, so I spent the morning
with the kids, getting the house cleaned, yard mode and
everything taken care of. I have cool ordinated to have
a sitter watch the kids and make dinner reservation. The
night went well, but when we got home around eight thirty,

(56:06):
she fell asleep right away without saying a word to me. Later,
a while talking about a family vacation this year, do
you let me know that she has been planning two
destination marathons in early spring. I had heard her mention
she was wishing she could do one of them, but
due to timing, I cannot go with her. Since the
kids are in school. I thought this meant it was
still a discussion. One of these will cost thousands of

(56:26):
dollars to attend.

Speaker 2 (56:27):
Good Things. She makes two thousand dollars a year.

Speaker 3 (56:29):
Yeah, thank goodness.

Speaker 2 (56:30):
That will cover one we hopefully.

Speaker 3 (56:31):
I think she makes that a month or she was
making it a month.

Speaker 2 (56:34):
No, sa a year.

Speaker 1 (56:35):
It said three go back, go back. I was surprised. Yeah,
I was like, oh, I surprise you did comment.

Speaker 3 (56:40):
I like, totally did.

Speaker 4 (56:41):
It's three thousand a year. Check it out dingus. But
how much money does a wife make a year.

Speaker 3 (56:46):
In twenty twenty?

Speaker 2 (56:47):
Wow? No, no, it is.

Speaker 3 (56:49):
It doesn't specify.

Speaker 2 (56:50):
Watch it literally it literally said that did come on,
you decided that three thousand dollars a year? Yeah, you're right.

Speaker 3 (56:57):
That's insane. That's insane. I'm totally miss thought.

Speaker 4 (57:00):
Wow, wow, Wow, she's running away from a job application
fa okay, and her marriage.

Speaker 3 (57:09):
One of these will cost thousands of dollars to attend.
She has made up her mind that she's going to both,
since one is for a Boston qualifier and the other
was offered for free. Does she even make money from these? No,
she didn't want to tell me about these, since she
thought it would upset me. Yeah, although she claims she
dropped hints. Then she has a new job, this will
take nearly all of her time off, and we will

(57:29):
not be able to have a family vacation. She's not
willing to miss either of these. Top it all off,
she then told me that she will be gone on
our anniversary in two weeks. Yeah, because she was invited
to be a pacer for a race coming up and
was offered a free hotel to do it.

Speaker 4 (57:44):
A free hotel is going to make you freaking miss
your wedding anniversary.

Speaker 2 (57:47):
Of course.

Speaker 3 (57:48):
Honestly, Like, if you've had these convers I think you
sit her down and you say like, hey, it's not working.
If nothing changes, it's this relationship doesn't exist.

Speaker 2 (57:56):
But I got a run.

Speaker 3 (57:57):
I got a run, babe, I got her run.

Speaker 2 (58:00):
What do you expect me to do? Not run all
the time.

Speaker 3 (58:04):
She has never done this before and is excited to
try it. She claims she hasn't committed to this already
and is still deciding, but I'm pretty sure she already
said yes and just hasn't told me yet. I was
very hurt by this, since I already feel like I
am a much lower priority than running to her. This
all broke me. I dumped and told her how this
made me feel. There were tears on both sides. She

(58:24):
claims that she feels I am always mad at her
and not supportive of her, and she has to keep
her running life from me. This is what leads the
lack of affection and explain my feelings and reiterated how
lonely I am. I asked her if she would be
willing to find a compromise and maybe focus on shorter races,
and she told me no, that if I made her
do that, then she would resent me, and this is
what makes her happy. There's a little bit left to

(58:45):
the story.

Speaker 1 (58:46):
Hmmm, what is opie do OPI? I think you know
it is already pretty clear. But the answer she just
gave when he said, he's not saying, oh my gosh,
you can't run to it. He's like, okay, how can
you still get what you clear and enjoy and us
still have some modicum of a relationship, us still have
family time together.

Speaker 2 (59:07):
And she's like absolutely not. Yeah, well then I literally.

Speaker 3 (59:11):
Don't think that you can continue the relationship if your
partner is unwilling to compromise At all, and here's that
you're lonely and doesn't care. Yes, doesn't work, like if
she wants to focus on running full time, then she
can't have the relationship too.

Speaker 2 (59:23):
Yep.

Speaker 3 (59:24):
I asked if she would try couples therapy, and while open,
there isn't a time that would work based on her
new job. Yeah, how is she going to fit couple's
therapy in.

Speaker 2 (59:32):
That doesn't on a run?

Speaker 3 (59:33):
Yeah, she's like, if we're doing it while I'm running? Sure?

Speaker 2 (59:36):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (59:36):
There was one small win when I asked her if
I hypothetically asked her to take one week off from running,
would she'd be able to do it?

Speaker 2 (59:43):
She said no. Well, uh huh that was the small win.
I thought she's gonna say yes.

Speaker 3 (59:48):
She said no, she would be mad if I asked,
and unable to actually do it anyway. Huh. Upon saying this,
she said that it makes it sound like she's addicted
to running.

Speaker 2 (59:56):
Girl, you said it. I don't believe that's wrong.

Speaker 3 (01:00:00):
You said that she will consider individual's therapy, but we
will see what she does there. For my part, I
came into work and scheduled the psychologists appointment for tomorrow.
It's virtual, but I'll see if it helps me work
through this. On my end, I do want to say
I am proud of her, and she's doing amazing. She's
not on a level where she wins races or at
the very least her age group, but has come at
such a huge cost. I love her, but don't know

(01:00:21):
how much longer I can reasonably keep this up. I'm
sure I come across as an unsupportive monster, and that
this is also one sided. I have seen how the
running community rallies around itself, and I'm somewhat worried I'll
get torn apart on that level as well. I'm just lonely.
I miss my wife.

Speaker 4 (01:00:36):
Oh man thang and I'm like reading one of his
posts and he's talking about how one of the groups
has two ladies in it, and another group that she
goes to is just entirely full of men.

Speaker 2 (01:00:46):
Dude, I think she has time, she man.

Speaker 3 (01:00:49):
I literally don't think. I don't think she's thinking about
other men at all. I don't think. I don't think
she's thinking about anybody but running. That's it. I don't
think she's it cable.

Speaker 2 (01:00:57):
That's fair, that's fair. Yeah, I mean this ain't gonna work.

Speaker 3 (01:01:00):
Yeah, Unfortunately, I do think this relationship is over If
she's not even willing to consider taking a week off,
going to your anniversary, getting therapy, not much else you
can do. I agree, But unfortunately we don't know what
happens after that, because that's the end of the story
and the end of this episode and the end of
this stream.

Speaker 1 (01:01:18):
Oh my three for one. No no, no, no no.

Speaker 3 (01:01:22):
You hate to hear it, you hate to hear it.

Speaker 1 (01:01:23):
Well, if you love us, make sure to subscribe. We
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