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My husband chose his parents over me and our baby.

Speaker 4 (00:17):
Seems like he's got some priorities here.

Speaker 3 (00:19):
Trigger warning for abusive relationships. I am a twenty seven
year old woman and my husband, who will call Eric,
is twenty five. We met at university, got married and
recently had a baby.

Speaker 1 (00:31):
Yay.

Speaker 3 (00:32):
My husband has the habit of living with his parents
no being an only child, he wants to be with
them all the time. Since we moved in with them,
life has become heck for me. By the way, this
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Okay Storytime suppared it. I'm Sophia, I'm Riley, and I'm Keon,
and we're here to give good advice. Goofy, But we

(00:54):
don't have all the answers. We only know what we do,
so let us know what you would do. In the
comments and op says they don't know the meaning of
privacy and come into our room whenever they want. On
many occasions, I've had to change my clothes, even putting
them on backwards. I have communicated this discomfort to him,
but he simply does nothing.

Speaker 4 (01:15):
Yeah, because he likes the approval of his parents, he
gets off on it.

Speaker 3 (01:20):
I'm I'm really concerned about this situation here. On one occasion,
his father even came in when I was practically without
clothes on. I had to quickly cover myself and he
left the room anyway. The dogs they have at home
are very dirty, and the doctor prohibited us from having
animals near our baby, but my husband got angrier and
preferred to ignore the doctor. You need to leave. My

(01:41):
baby has sensitive skin and is allergic to dogcare. The
dogs also do their business inside the house, especially in
the kitchen, since they make them sleep there due to
the cold weird. Last Sunday, our baby ran out of
milk because I don't have enough so she is mixed breastfeeding.
That morning, I became desperate because of her crying. Days ago.

(02:01):
I had told Eric that there wasn't much left in
the bottle, but he got upset and decided to ignore me,
I don't work because I couldn't finish my degree. I
sat on the bed crying helplessly as I couldn't buy
the jar of milk myself and had to wait for
him to give me the money or buy it himself.
You're being made to rely on someone now. Financially, you're

(02:22):
not able to leave because again finances, you're in an
unsafe living condition, and also your baby's in an unsafe
living condition. If you have any family members or anyone
that you can reach out to, please do.

Speaker 4 (02:34):
And your boyfriend's not his own man husband, oh sorry,
husband even worse, ha ha ha.

Speaker 3 (02:41):
My mother in law entered the room without knocking and
reminded that breakfast had been served. I had no appetite
to eat. When I get depressed, my body doesn't accept anything.
I told her that I wouldn't eat, that I would
go get the milk. I told her in a low voice,
because I had already cried and was depressed. He left
and then came back in and started yelling at me,
telling me that I'm inconsiderate, that I always behave like this,

(03:04):
and that she's not there to put up with my whims. Eric,
upon seeing his mother's reaction. Simply threw a suitcase at
me and told me to pack my things.

Speaker 4 (03:12):
Oh my gosh, he.

Speaker 3 (03:13):
Insisted and told me that it was all my fault,
that I can't even give enough milk to my baby,
that this was the last time I insulted his family,
and that I should hurry up and pack everything so
that I would stop bothering his parents.

Speaker 1 (03:25):
Youww.

Speaker 3 (03:26):
I simply packed everything I could and put it in
the car, and we went to my apartment. I stayed
crying while he left to return his father's car. That afternoon.
I cried until I was tired. When he arrived, he
didn't speak to me and just slept in the living room.
I insisted on talking, but he just told me that
he was sick of me and that he wanted me
to go back to my parents' house. You should they

(03:48):
live in another state. It's been three days, and today
I tried again, but it was worse. He told me
that he didn't love me, that he didn't consider me family,
and that his grandmother had complained that he was kicking
her out of the house house. I told him that
was a lie, but he said, I can't take your
side because they're my family. He also told me that
his parents will withdraw their support if he continues with me.

(04:10):
He still has his thesis to finish, and his parents
are paying his graduation expenses. He just looked at me
and said, go with your parents and take the baby.
I'm looking for a woman who wants to live in
my parents and grandparents' house. You're not wife material. Go
with yours and make your life so I can make mine.
I'll send you money for the baby's expenses.

Speaker 1 (04:29):
And that's it.

Speaker 4 (04:29):
Oh my gosh, what how did this happen?

Speaker 3 (04:32):
I'm gonna be honest with you, Op. It probably doesn't
seem like it right now, because this is really awful
and he's treating you terribly, But this is probably the
best thing that could happen.

Speaker 4 (04:43):
Yeah, because right now you're.

Speaker 3 (04:44):
In a really terrible situation. You have no privacy, you
have no support for your child, and right now he's
offering to financially support you while you get to go
live with your parents with your baby. That is so
much better, so much better, which is wild.

Speaker 4 (05:01):
This is insane.

Speaker 3 (05:01):
And also, where's he gonna find this magical woman that
wants to stay with his parents?

Speaker 4 (05:06):
I was so was stare with me and my parents
so they could make me popcorn in hot chocolate.

Speaker 2 (05:11):
It's his mommy, It was my mommy. Mommy's the only
woman for him.

Speaker 4 (05:14):
Dude, what the heck?

Speaker 3 (05:16):
I couldn't believe it. I was reduced to begging for
four days, even though the mistake was his parents and
I was still being blamed for it. I already bought
my plane ticket for me and my baby. Today he
packed his things and went to his parents' house. Despite
everything I told him and begged him, he didn't care
and there any advice, and there is an update. But
my advice is leave, ye leave, absolutely leave, Do not

(05:40):
stay here, don't beg to stay here, leave, get out,
take your baby and go.

Speaker 4 (05:44):
Not worth it at all.

Speaker 3 (05:47):
But there is an update. Today he came in his parents'
car and took us to our baby's physical therapy session.
But he took advantage of the fact that I was
not at home to pick up all his things from
the apartment. I'm not going to deny that not seeing
his clothes or things hurt me. When he came to
drop us off after physical therapy, I wanted to talk
to him. I wanted him to come to his senses

(06:08):
and see that. I just wanted to keep our family together,
but he just left me there crying, standing at the door,
waiting for him to turn around and regret his decision.
I sent him messages and the only thing he told
me is that he has already made his decision and
he will not go back. At the moment, I am devastated,
and I spoke to my mother to have moral support.
I would appreciate your input, and there is a second update.

(06:30):
Again my input is leave.

Speaker 4 (06:32):
Yes, stay with your parents.

Speaker 3 (06:33):
This man is terrible.

Speaker 4 (06:34):
See if you can rebuild yourself. Yeah, not a great
place to be, Bopy.

Speaker 3 (06:39):
Last week I took a flight to get to my parents' house.
He signed the travel authorization and here I am at
my parents' house. I was able to talk with my
mother and she advised me to let things go and
that one day he will regret it and come back.
But a week is past. Why would you want him
to come back. I'm sorry. If I were your mother,
I would not be saying don't worry, he'll come back
to you.

Speaker 4 (07:00):
Go girl.

Speaker 3 (07:01):
He has not returned, and he barely talks to me
to find out how our baby is doing. I'm desperate.
It is painful for me to see that from one
day to the next, my marriage my family was destroyed
by my in laws. It for sure was not destroyed
by your in laws. This was destroyed by your husband.

Speaker 4 (07:18):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (07:19):
From the start, I know that I must move forward,
but it is difficult. It still hurts me to know
that my partner, the one I chose for life, has
betrayed me in that way. Even so, I decided to
go ahead and look for a job and ask my
father to help me finish my studies. I don't want
to remain stuck in depression. Another update, you need to

(07:40):
leave this man behind and take care of your baby.

Speaker 4 (07:42):
Yep, you gotta take care of you and your own now,
because he doesn't consider you no your own and I
mean the force process. Start filing for crowd custody if
you can.

Speaker 3 (07:53):
Yeah, definitely file for custody. Definitely file for divorce, get alimony,
get child support. That update three, I decided to make
zero contact with him, and I have not heard from
him for more than two weeks. My parents told me
not to ask for pension since I have their support.
He just continued with his life. As a friend told me,
it still hurts me and about the postpartum depression. I

(08:16):
think it did affect me because it was not good
for me, not being able to breastfeed my baby well,
and the constant pressure for my in laws. I plan
to open a cafeteria with a very good friend. My
baby is improving thanks to physical therapy, but now I
have to return to the city where I lived with
him to pick up my things and move near my parents.
I don't know if he will repent one day, but

(08:37):
I don't want to fall again and forgive him. I
won't deny that. I felt tempted to call him and
ask him to reconsider, but there is no point in
turning back. I want to heal my soul and focus
on my baby and moving forward. I already found out
that his mother wants to pair him with her best
friend's daughter, and that felt like a betrayal. It's not easy,
but I don't want to cry for him anymore. My

(08:57):
baby's health has improved significantly since we left that house
with the dirty dogs. Her skin allergies are clearing up,
and she seems more comfortable. It breaks my heart that
her own father shows animals over her well being, but
at least now I can protect her properly. My parents
have been incredibly supportive, and seeing how they treat me
with the basic respect and dignity has reminded me what

(09:19):
I deserve. My father immediately helped with the baby's needs
without making me feel ashamed. My mother listens to my
concerns without yelling at me. This is what family should
be like. God ugh ugh, I mean yeah, this guy,
terrible husband, terrible father. Good riddance.

Speaker 4 (09:36):
I'm still confused. I hope he didn't see this coming,
or he signs of it.

Speaker 3 (09:41):
Well. I think she absolutely did see the science. I
think she was just so stuck got it. The cafeteria
plan is moving forward, and I'm excited about having my
own income and independence. It feels good to think about
building something of my own, something that no one can
take away from me based on their family's approval or disapproval.
I still have moments where I miss that's what I
thought our marriage was. But I'm beginning to understand that

(10:03):
what I miss might have been an illusion. A man
who truly loved me wouldn't have thrown a suitcase at
me while I was crying over a hungry baby. A
man who truly loved me wouldn't have told me I'm
not wife material instead of working together to solve our problems.

Speaker 4 (10:17):
Kim really find says piggybacking reseis my Piec's comment, what
did receives my pieces day? Dang Man, Stockholm is real.
Everyone acts like it's so easy to leave and not
feel adequate after being brainwashed.

Speaker 3 (10:30):
Oh yeah, I mean like OPI has clearly been brainwashed
because she's in the situation with her baby where their
baby's not safe, she is not safe, and she's like
desperate to go back.

Speaker 4 (10:39):
That's so true. And kibberly fun says, you can tell
he and his family have always been awful. No one
would learn to accept that treatment with his parents as
supporting as hers appear to be. I forget that. I've
been kind of in a situation, not as severe, but
in a situation where I'm like, oh no, she's great.
She actually does love my family. It's like, like reality, man,

(11:02):
people tell you who they really are. I think Kat
said that, gotta listen.

Speaker 3 (11:06):
Gotta listen. There's a little bit left though, the hardest
part is accepting that my daughter will grow up knowing
her father chose his parents' house overbuilding a family with us.
But maybe that's better than growing up in a house
where she would have learned that love is conditional. It's
absolutely better. I'm scared about the future, but for the
first time in months, I'm also cautiously optimistic. I don't

(11:27):
know if Eric will ever regret his decision, but I'm
starting to hope that by the time he does, I'll
be strong enough to know that I deserve better. My
baby deserves better too, and I'm going to make sure
she gets it, even if it means doing it alone.
And that is the end of that story. But yes, Op,
you are much better off without this guy.

Speaker 4 (11:46):
Oh, good riddance. Good ridden that man.

Speaker 3 (11:49):
He's terrible.

Speaker 4 (11:51):
Just how do you wake up as a father one
day and be like, I don't want you anymore. You
are a family.

Speaker 3 (11:55):
He's so used to his parents taking care of him,
and now he has this child that he has to
take care of, and he's like, wait, no, I don't
want to do that. I don't want to take care
of a kid.

Speaker 4 (12:04):
I'm considering paying for a guy flirt with my wife?
Why I twenty seven mal have been married to my wife,
twenty nine female for two years, but we've been best
friends since high school. Recently, we were getting ready for
a party. She was having a hard time. She was
getting frustrated because her hair was weird, her makeup didn't
look right, and nothing fit quite right. I suggested my

(12:26):
favorite dress of hers, and she said, you looked like
a potato in it. She got so frustrated she almost
gave herself a breakdown. By the way, this comes from
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Speaker 1 (12:40):
I'm Riley, I'm Sophia, I'm Keon, and we're here to give.

Speaker 4 (12:44):
Good advice goofully, but we don't always have the answers.
We only know what we do know. So let us
know what you would do in the comments, hope, he says.
During this, she asked me why I was with her.
She says, she's like a five on a good day,
but that's being generous. I told her not to lie
to herself. Always felt she's a solid seven on a
bad day and a ten and beyond when she's all

(13:06):
dulled up. I tried to reassure her that she could
wear a trash bag and draw a mustache on her
face with the raccoon eyes, and I still think she's
the most attractive woman in the room, and as her husband,
my opinion is the only one that matters. This made
her giggle and seem to boost her spirits. Moments like
this aren't uncommon because she's always had body image issues.

(13:28):
It doesn't help that her sister is an Instagram model
with tons of followers, and the few friends she has
like to talk about random guys in their dms or
guys of the club who try to pick them up. Okay,
simple saw off here.

Speaker 3 (13:43):
You pay a guy to flirt with your wife.

Speaker 4 (13:45):
Okay, that's playing Z.

Speaker 3 (13:48):
To improve her mood, Plan A and confident.

Speaker 4 (13:51):
You surround her with different friends.

Speaker 3 (13:54):
I agree, Yes, that is the real plan. It's saying, hey,
your friends are maybe a bad influence on you, yeah,
and making you feel bad about your body.

Speaker 4 (14:03):
This is so weird. At the party, what if friends
asked why we were late? But I've told her it
was hard to find something that looked good. Her friend said,
you look okay and you're married, so it's not that
big of a deal.

Speaker 3 (14:16):
Bye. Yeah, you need new friends, girl, you need new friends.
I'm sorry if my friend came in and was like yeah,
I just I couldn't find anything to wear, and I
just wasn't feeling good. I'm going you look hot girl,
hotty with the body, damn, but what I'm gassing her up?

Speaker 4 (14:35):
But what if I generinely do not like what you're
wearing and I'm like, you could have wore a different
pair of pants.

Speaker 3 (14:40):
Not if I'm already at the venue, not telling me
that if I'm at home. If I'm here and I
come to you and say, hey, what do you think
about this outfit? Yeah, sure you could be like. But
if I'm at the venue and I say, yeah, like,
I just had a really tough time, like figure out
what to wear, I don't care if you think it's
the otherest thing I've ever worn. You better be telling
me you look great?

Speaker 4 (14:59):
But what if you up in an ugly outfit but
already have one of my backpack I'm ready to.

Speaker 2 (15:02):
Give you here, you guys your birthday suit?

Speaker 3 (15:04):
It better be But what keon? What there's just nothing
in the bag?

Speaker 4 (15:10):
Well I always got that for key on in my
back pocket. AnyWho, dude, I love to see you caked
up jiggling around.

Speaker 2 (15:16):
Ew what you know you wish could be coming true.

Speaker 3 (15:22):
Read this story.

Speaker 4 (15:25):
Oh my gosh. My wife shrugged and said, I know
I shouldn't care like you said. I'm married, so as
long as my husband likes how I look, that's all
that matters. Right. It's just I don't know. He's been
in love with me forever, but I think his opinion
is skewed. We all laughed, and I made a comment
about always having eyes for my wife. She smiled and
said it's hard for her to believe she's attractive as

(15:46):
I claim, since outside of me, she can count on
one hand the number of times she's ever been hit
on in her adult life. All the women around her
have to beat people away with sticks. For her, he's
been flirted with three times all of She told me
when she got home.

Speaker 2 (16:02):
Maybe, just maybe it's because people respect you and you
have a ring on your hand, like you know, you're married.

Speaker 3 (16:09):
I think there's just different types of looks. Yeah, and
that's okay. You know, just because you don't get like
hit on on the street by like strangers doesn't mean
that you're not pretty.

Speaker 4 (16:19):
Yeah, we grade. Once was a guy she had seen
talked at twelve other women at closing time before he
got to her and said you're alone. I'm alone. Want
to change that? Or she could respond he said, never mind,
walk to another woman.

Speaker 3 (16:31):
Ouch ooh tough, tough, Yeah, that's rough man, that's rough.

Speaker 4 (16:37):
Another was a guy who could barely speak English. All
she can make out was him saying, you beautiful, We
go your place. He said no, thank you. Then her
friend heard him talk to his friends in Spanish about
how she was a stupid American girl and something about
easy green cord if you call him pretty. And he
came up to my wife with a drink. Told him, no,

(16:59):
thank you, I'm married. He muttered under his breath and
walked away. I don't like the third one. Sad, all right,
we're getting this over with. The third guy was during
her twenty first birthday. This guy who had to be
in his seventies walked up and was being obnoxiously flirtatious,
but also ended up walking away. This, on top of
her existing body image is shoes makes her think she's

(17:20):
not attractive outside of me and her ex. But we
don't talk about him. The only time anyone has ever
acknowledged her attractiveness were guys who were desperate with no
other options, As she said, being a last resort or
gelbait fantasy isn't really much of an ego boost. I
don't get why anyone would think she was unattractive or

(17:41):
why she isn't fighting men off. I say she looks
like a mix of young here a nightly young Raanona
rider and mid twenties and halfway broh my mind would
Carly knows hiss Head's already getting bused.

Speaker 3 (17:54):
Sounds beautiful, yeah, but also I will say when onen
Ryder didn't think that she was very pretty, and she's
a gorgeous woman.

Speaker 4 (18:00):
But apparently she doesn't catch anyone's eyes like mine, which
isn't necessarily a bad thing. More of her for me
at the party, I had a thought. Every month we
do a group date night with her friends, and I
had the idea that I could invite some of my coworkers,
or if it came down to it, find some regulars
I know at the bar and ask them to flirt
with my wife, maybe even pay them if they're hesitant.

(18:23):
Don't go too hard like they're trying to take her home,
but some light flirting and a few compliments.

Speaker 3 (18:29):
No no, because if she ever finds out that you
paid people to flirt with her. That's gonna be like
devastating to her self confidence.

Speaker 4 (18:38):
Have you not seen any TV shows?

Speaker 3 (18:40):
Oh, this is not gonna work out.

Speaker 4 (18:42):
Have you not seen any TV shows where like the
friends set them up on a date that they put
together and they like.

Speaker 3 (18:47):
Bribed them or like had a bet that they could
take this person out, this girl out. And then she's like,
I was just st a bet. Don't do this, sop.

Speaker 4 (18:56):
Have you done that?

Speaker 2 (18:57):
No, I've never done that, I was gonna say, And
they start singing uh, I love you baby yeah on
the school steps.

Speaker 3 (19:03):
And then she reads a really sad poem in class
about him. Is that a thing?

Speaker 2 (19:07):
Is that idea? And he got her a guitar and
I'd fixed it all.

Speaker 3 (19:10):
Yeah, And then they were fine, that's not what's gonna
happen here, o, p don't do this.

Speaker 4 (19:15):
I figured having a few random guys complimenting her would
give her an ego boost and maybe help her realize
that she is actually attractive. But when I mentioned this
idea to my sister, since she sometimes works at a bar,
she said it was a terrible idea. Not because I'm
asking guys hit of my wife, but because of my wife.
Ever found out the truth. She'd be devastating exactly.

Speaker 3 (19:35):
She'd be like, oh, you had to pay people. It'd
be devastating.

Speaker 4 (19:39):
It'd be like, oh, my gosh, was that one movie
with Jennifer Lawrence that just came out.

Speaker 3 (19:44):
No hard feelings, no hard feelings, know that that's what's
happening now.

Speaker 4 (19:48):
At the end, there's this one scene.

Speaker 3 (19:49):
Where she's naked and she fights people on the beach.

Speaker 4 (19:52):
I wasn't gonna talk about that one.

Speaker 3 (19:53):
Yeah, but that's what you're thinking.

Speaker 4 (19:54):
No, I was thinking about the one where she was
on like those skate rolling things and she's trying to
go up the stairs.

Speaker 2 (19:59):
Just skate only things, you mean roller skates.

Speaker 4 (20:02):
Yeah, I'm not with it to day you got Oh my,
I can't even speak. I can't speak, guys. I'm so sorry.
I can already see the comments from a month from now.
I'm just gonna get through this. Sorry, off his shoppy.

Speaker 3 (20:15):
It's okay with editors.

Speaker 4 (20:16):
Just please, editors, please don't make it choppy. They get choppier,
my sister said. The poor girl already thinks she looks
like a sad boiled egg. If you did this, she
found out, you feel worse because wow, the only time
someone might think I'm attractive is when my husband pays them.
And since you're at a bar, the chances of drunken
yodels keeping their mouths shut about the truth is near impossible.

(20:40):
Someone's gonna slip, and all you can accomplish is losing
money and hurting your wife. But I don't know what
else to do to help my wife. Would it be
the a hole if I were to pay someone to
flirt with my wife to help her boost her ego?
We have an update.

Speaker 3 (20:53):
I advise strongly against this. For your own sake, I
advise against this. Do not do this. So don't do this.

Speaker 4 (21:02):
They'll do it. You are a very sweet guy. I
see where you're coming from. Wrong approach.

Speaker 3 (21:08):
Pay for therapy instead the boost to confidence.

Speaker 4 (21:12):
Or I don't know, go do something shopping spree, shopping spree.

Speaker 3 (21:16):
New outfits, let's get her a.

Speaker 4 (21:18):
Haircut, maybe working out with her, because I feel like
sure I could be that. Sometimes, like whenever you work
out with someone and you both are like doing something hard,
your endorphins go crazy and then you kind of have
a bonding thing, like you went through war together. I
did that once with Keon.

Speaker 3 (21:33):
All great options let's do that and not this idea.

Speaker 4 (21:37):
Update. Before I respond to some things, just let me
say that I appreciate the offer, but there is no
need to send a message offering to hit on my wife.
I realized my mistake and will not be taking up offers.

Speaker 2 (21:50):
Good.

Speaker 4 (21:51):
There's these random men on instagram sending me pictures of
their whatnots. Oh, now just happened?

Speaker 3 (21:57):
Hope not.

Speaker 4 (21:58):
I'm not going to do it. Instead, I'll look into
a lot of your suggestions and try that out. I'd
only thought of this because one of her points was
to why she didn't think she was attractive was that
she never gets hit on. So I thought, if the
lack of flirting is the problem, then wouldn't more flirting
be the solution. As you pointed out, that's a bad idea.

(22:20):
My wife has recently started therapy, but it's slow work.
She was hesitant for the longest time because she came
from a family that believed if you can't fix your
own problems, you're not really trying hard enough, and mental
illness isn't real. Just get over it. It's all in
your head.

Speaker 3 (22:37):
I will say a lot of I mean for her,
I think therapy is going to be really helpful, because
I think a lot of what people are attracted to
is confidence. I don't think you have to be conventionally
attractive do have that, So I think if you project confidence,
you'll find that more people are attracted.

Speaker 4 (22:54):
I agree her friends aren't the best, but they're the
only ones she has. It's very much a sunk cost
fallacy type of deal because they've been friends since they
were babies. I'll work on trying to get her out
more by new friends, but I know he already has
started to distance herself from them a bit, since their
lifestyles and views don't align with hers anymore. Yes, I'm
using my sister's account. Yes, my wife has read it. Yes,

(23:17):
not the greatest idea, But I don't think she'll come
across this post because she doesn't follow these types of forms.
And I chose to use my sister's account instead of
making a throwaway because if I had a throwaway, it'd
still be on my phone, and my wife uses my
phone all the time for random stuff. I thought if
she found a Reddit notification and read the post, it

(23:38):
blowed the idea. So I asked my sister to use
her since I see her every day, and I could
keep up with things without risking my wife coming across
a notification. It's still online, man. Yeah, iding those three
instances of your wife being hit on, I think someone
can kind of zero in and figure out it was

(23:59):
about this. Yeah, yes, I rated her on a number SCO.
I know a lot of you instantly condemned me for
that and for not saying she's a tent all the time.
Here's the thing. She likes to rate things herself. Her food, chows,
everything feels. It's an easy way to put it into perspective,
but how she feels about something where words might not

(24:21):
fully accomplish her feelings. And yes, I did say she
was a ten all the time, but that's because when
I have said that in the past, she says, now
I know you're lying. No one's a perfect ten twenty
four to seven. Heck, my sister has to spend so
much time making herself look like a ten. So I've
learned that she won't take it seriously if I say
she's always a ten. She said she was a five,

(24:43):
and in her gauge, five is an average person. That's
why I said seven at worst, because it's true as
far as she believes even when she's at her worst,
she's still better than your average person. Could I have
told her in the moment that she's always a ten? Yes,
but I know her enough to know that you roll
her eyes and tell me to stop exaggerating. So I

(25:05):
say a number to her that is more realistic. I
wasn't worried that my wife would cheat on me in
the scenario, as she's not one to cheat. We've been
friends for years before we started dating. Before we dated,
we had a boyfriend she started dating in high school.
He was inniputative and would cheat on her and then
turned it around like it was her fault that he cheated.

(25:25):
Because of that, she has a disdain towards cheating. There
was even a girl she was friends with who used
to be the one to gass her up the most.
This friend cheated with her boyfriend one time when blackout wasted,
and my wife put all contact with her because she
has zero tolerance for cheating. So no, I wasn't worried
about that. So what do we think.

Speaker 3 (25:46):
I think that your wife it seems like she has
a lot of really beautiful friends. Yeah, and I have
a lot of very beautiful friends and I've I've also experienced,
you know, like times when they are hit on, yeah,
a lot more than me when I'm out with them,
And I think it's like she's probably experiencing that kind
of thing of being like, no one ever hits on me.

(26:06):
But it's because when you're out with really beautiful people,
they tend you know, it just happens. But that doesn't
mean that you're any less beautiful.

Speaker 2 (26:14):
Yes, hyping you up is one thing, but people flirting
with you doesn't mean you're not.

Speaker 3 (26:18):
No.

Speaker 2 (26:18):
Back to my point, it's because maybe you have a
ring on and people are respectful of that. One Also too,
it could be how you want to be approached. You
can be perceived like, oh, she doesn't want to be
approached that's okay, And that could make sense because you're
a married woman, you're out with your friends and you
don't want to talk to people. You don't want to
go out there and flirt.

Speaker 3 (26:35):
Yeah, I mean yeah. Also, presumably you're not like talking
to people in a flirting manner because a lot of
the people that like have flirted with me, I've been
flirting with It's like a two way street.

Speaker 4 (26:43):
Yeah, men get scared to talk to women. Nowadays. Yeah, also,
you have one really hot friend? What did you have
one really hot friend? I think all my friends are hot,
but we have one that's super hot.

Speaker 3 (26:53):
What I really, are you just talking about your girlfriend? Yeah?

Speaker 4 (26:57):
No, won't post a pic of her boo and I won't.
I'll ask her to post the pic either. It's not
because I secretly don't think she's attractive or whatever, but
because I think it'd be extremely counterproductive, simply because I
know there are way too many people on Reddit that
take joy and tearing down attractive women for one reason
or another. But I don't want to expose my wife

(27:17):
to that, especially since I've seen the comments and messages
some people have sent her sister, calling her fat and
ugly and all sorts of rude and untrue things. Her
sister ignores the remarks and just blocks those people, but
I know my wife would take every insult personally, which
she doesn't need to. So yeah, thanks again. I'll be

(27:38):
looking into spas and photographers in my area, and I'll
talk to my sister and her sister to see if
they will take her out for a girl's self care day.
Thank you all so much.

Speaker 3 (27:49):
I also think like a boudoir photo shoot. It sounds
like silly, but like making a woman feel like sexy,
it probably would boost her confidence.

Speaker 4 (27:59):
Yeah, I like your pure of heart, Opie.

Speaker 3 (28:03):
You love your wife, you think she's hot.

Speaker 4 (28:05):
You double checked and cross referenced your idea before.

Speaker 3 (28:08):
You yeah, before you did it. Don't don't do that.

Speaker 2 (28:11):
God.

Speaker 4 (28:11):
The update was so I hard. This guy named Bob
from the bar.

Speaker 3 (28:14):
Yeah, he's gonna stirt with my wife and he run
away together.

Speaker 4 (28:18):
He vomited all over her, and then I proceeded to
tell her what I hate, how much I p hate him.

Speaker 3 (28:24):
Oh, that would be terrible. But uh, that's the end
of that story. And we got another one coming right up.

Speaker 4 (28:29):
And I'm going to retire to go work on super
secret stuff.

Speaker 1 (28:32):
Buck.

Speaker 3 (28:32):
Guys, my partner and his family deceived me for years.

Speaker 1 (28:37):
Lies deception.

Speaker 3 (28:39):
I thirty female, have been with my partner, Bill, thirty
four male, for four years. I have an eight year
old son from a prior relationship that Bill is basically adopted.
We just had our daughter in June. He comes from
a very Catholic family and I am Baptist. By the way,
this comes from Dubsy Pup And if you want to
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storytime suppered it.

Speaker 1 (29:01):
I'm Sophia, I'm Dakota, and I'm Keon, and we're here.

Speaker 3 (29:04):
To give good advice goofly, but we don't have all
the answers. We only know what we'd do, So let
us know what you do in the comments. As Op says,
when we first began dating, I didn't meet his family
until a year in. When I questioned why, he said
his mom is really difficult to deal with and he
didn't want to hurt my feelings. When I finally did

(29:25):
meet her, I was interrogated about my past, my faith,
old I needed to convert or it was a red
flag that I wasn't who she pictured Bill with, et cetera. Dang,
the first time you met.

Speaker 1 (29:36):
Her pretty intense, Hicks.

Speaker 3 (29:38):
I left crying because I had never been criticized in
that manner by someone I'd never met before. We rarely
went to see his family because every time we did,
I left crying and feeling bad about who I am.
Yeah that's not great, is he liken you? Then his
sisters would start some drama. They're all about my age,
since Bill is the oldest child long story short, his

(30:00):
sister's fiance was found on Tinder, and they came up
with a theory that I made the profile to frame him.

Speaker 1 (30:06):
What that's so far of a reach.

Speaker 3 (30:09):
That's insane. Imagine being like, oh my god, my fiance's
on Tinder. It must be my siblings.

Speaker 1 (30:17):
Ye girlfriend, that's just cope, that's just pure copium.

Speaker 3 (30:21):
The whole family exiled me, and I was no longer
welcome or acknowledged in any way anyone else here. That's
saying if they believe lies about you without confronting you first,
they were always looking for a way to be against you.
That is how this feels. This happened in summer of
twenty twenty three. In summer of twenty twenty four, Why
is that water murky?

Speaker 1 (30:42):
You don't drink gray water?

Speaker 3 (30:43):
Why is it murky?

Speaker 2 (30:44):
It's not water.

Speaker 1 (30:45):
You don't drink gray water water. This is my doctor water. Now,
I'm just kidding. This is I had an energy drinking
here earlier, and it's mixed with water.

Speaker 3 (30:52):
In summer twenty twenty four, Bill told me he had
been trying to get his family to meet up with
us so we could make amends, but his mom kept
cancer The visits because she couldn't stand to be around me.
This hurt me because it's not in my character to
ever do anything like I was being accused of. I
wrote his mom a very nice letter about how I
would like to make amends and how I didn't want

(31:13):
them to think I'm a bad person, but there was
no reply. Bill later told me that his mom thought
it was a sweet letter and that she wasn't mad
at me. In October twenty twenty four, we found out
that we were expecting. It was a complete surprise, but
we were happy and ready to move forward with our
lives together. Bill also proposed, and I was happy to
be engaged to him. In December twenty twenty four, Bill

(31:34):
told me that he had notified his parents of our
news and they were shocked. I asked him if we
could meet up with them, but he told me they
didn't want to. In February twenty twenty five, his mom
found my Amazon registry and threw a complete fit about
the baby's name, what was on my registry, and the
fact that I had the audacity to have a baby
shower because it was my second child and it's not

(31:56):
in etiquette. I had to delete my registry and start
a private one to share only with my family and
friends so his mom and sisters couldn't creep on it anymore.
They were monitoring everything anyone bought for me and would
text Bill saying I didn't actually need those things.

Speaker 1 (32:11):
Where's Bill? Bill, Bill saying, shut up, Mom, Josh, hush, hush, hush,
shut up to me, stop talking to me.

Speaker 3 (32:20):
In March twenty twenty five, Bill told me that his sister,
the one who married the tender guy, had a baby,
and that's why his parents didn't want to meet up
or be involved with anything.

Speaker 1 (32:29):
Stop lying, Bill, I a why this conveniences Bill.

Speaker 3 (32:34):
Your parents just don't like a pee and also ope,
get the hint that these people don't like you. They
felt like his sister should off the spotlight and it
didn't need to be advertised that Bill and I were
expecting because we weren't married and should be a shame.

Speaker 1 (32:49):
Shame baby. You're having a shame baby.

Speaker 3 (32:53):
Bill needs to create a lot of boundaries with his parents.
In June twenty twenty five, I gave birth to our daughter,
who is I gave up trying to get his parents
and sisters to come around when the baby was two
weeks old, Bill asked me to accompany him to his parents' house.
I was reluctant because of how they treated me during
my pregnancy, but I am the type to give a
second chance. We went and everything went okay, but his

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mom said something that made my mind wonder. I got
your letter last year, but I didn't reply because I
didn't know you guys were still together. I asked Bill
about it, and he said he had no clue why
she'd said that. He also notified his parents with me
there that we were engaged. His mom said she was
hurt that he didn't tell her. She has also been
texting him recently to make a public apology because his

(33:37):
sisters are upset they weren't notified from the beginning. Maybe
you weren't notified because you guys suck and have been
rude to Opie the whole time you've known her.

Speaker 1 (33:46):
Yeah, maybe you don't know because you are not worthy
of knowing right now based on your behavior.

Speaker 3 (33:52):
I'm not sure why they were upset since they don't
like me. Why would we celebrate our good news with
people who accused me of bad thing At the same visit,
I asked for his mom's number so I could share
pictures of the baby. We later had a phone call
and asked what she meant by not knowing we were together.
This is when the bomb dropped and my life changed.

Speaker 1 (34:14):
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but he's a quick three minute break of ass from
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Speaker 3 (34:19):
She told me that Bill told the family we broke
up after I was accused of making the Tinder profile
in twenty twenty three.

Speaker 1 (34:27):
Oh and he never clarified. No.

Speaker 3 (34:32):
Bill said that Bill lied to his family.

Speaker 1 (34:35):
Why.

Speaker 3 (34:36):
I asked when he told them we were together? She
said they only found out we were still together after
Bill's sister's friends saw us at a theater production with
my son in January twenty twenty five, took our picture
weird and sent it to his sister. They confronted him,
and this is when he told everyone I was pregnant
as well. Everyone flipped out. I asked his mom why

(34:57):
she didn't question him when she got my letter, He
said Bill. I told the family that I was crazy
and kept trying to contact him, even though he wanted
me to leave him alone, all while he was playing
with my son, sleeping in my bed, coming to my
family functions, etc. She did admit that I didn't need
a baby shower because it was my second child and
I didn't need to have attention on myself. I let

(35:18):
her know that according to etiquette, it's appropriate to have
a second baby shower after five years my son is eight,
especially when it's a different gender, but we agreed to disagree.
Bill also told me that he never talked to or
saw his family. His mom notified me that he went
there almost every Sunday. The day as he went back
to his apartment after staying with me all weekend, supposedly

(35:40):
to catch up on work. I confronted Bill immediately. He
was remorseful, but has not made any effort to fix anything.

Speaker 1 (35:46):
Huh, I am so confused now.

Speaker 3 (35:49):
Well, it seems like Bill is such a coward that
when his family expressed that they really didn't like Opee,
and why is he with Opee? Instead of being like,
I'm going to defend my partner and the mother of
my child against this onslaught of hatred from my family,
I'll get a lie to them and tell them I'm
not with her.

Speaker 1 (36:06):
Oh, Billy boy.

Speaker 3 (36:08):
I really tried to make amends after being accused of
bad things, and I extended the olive branch with the letter.
Bill even encouraged me that they would reply soon. All
while he was telling them I was crazy and obsessive.
I gave him back the ring good and left the house.
We got together. His excuse was that his mom was
very unaccepting of me, and it put him in a
bad spot. Who who ooh who I'm sorry, Oh, mommy

(36:34):
was upset, so you couldn't tell the truth.

Speaker 1 (36:36):
Yeah, oh, my parents didn't like you, So I told
them you were obsessive and crazy and we broke up.

Speaker 3 (36:41):
Yeah, I'm sure that's gonna help. Sure, that's gonna help
their relationship.

Speaker 1 (36:45):
What was your plan long term there? Big dog Bill?

Speaker 3 (36:50):
Bill?

Speaker 1 (36:50):
Bill Bill, No No.

Speaker 3 (36:53):
I told him that his loyalty stood with his mom
and sisters, but it should have been with me if
he truly loved me. I came back because I do
want to fix things. No, but I don't even know
where to begin.

Speaker 1 (37:05):
Not here, begin with someone else, anyone else. This guy
fundamentally lied to your face for like a year. Would
did suppose it? Breakup happened in twenty.

Speaker 3 (37:14):
Twenty three, did it? Yeah?

Speaker 1 (37:16):
I remember that was a date that was said, So
he lied and maintained this lie about his family and
with James.

Speaker 3 (37:23):
Yeah tinerprovo on twenty twenty three January twenty twenty five.

Speaker 1 (37:25):
At least like a year and a half, a year
in change, maybe two years. Oh, that guy has lost
his rights to be with you. Yep, yep, because he
is a scoundrel.

Speaker 3 (37:40):
I am so humiliated. He let me believe that his
family was being very hateful towards me and unaccepting, when
actually they had no clue I was even around. I
thought he was on my side about everything and that
he had cut off his family, but he was over
there all the time, pretending I didn't exist, even well
into my pregnancy. I do not believe that he would
have come clean eventually if I hadn't gotten pregnant. I

(38:01):
am certain I would have still been his dirty little secret.
Then why are we trying to get back together with
this guy? If you fundamentally believe that he would never
have told you the truth? Why are we with him?
He would hold me while I cried about how his
family was being so hateful towards me. Now I know
they weren't being anything towards me, because they didn't even
know I was around. He randomly asked me last night
what he can do to fix things between us? Leave

(38:23):
op alone. I think he may have realized that my
behavior and demeanor towards him have significantly changed. I stopped
cooking dinner and just fended for ourselves. I only spoke
to him about the baby, stop responding when he told
me he loved me. I started filling my own bucket
rather than putting in useless effort with him. I told
him that I couldn't truly say I am in love
with him and want to spend my life with him.

(38:45):
I let go of those dreams back in July. We
were supposed to get married this December, but along with
the lies, he refused to set a date or pick
a venue when we were engaged.

Speaker 1 (38:54):
Yeah, probably because he was trying to spin the gears
on like how do I out and fire? Yeah, bake
family to be at the wedding. That also hates.

Speaker 3 (39:04):
My wife, hmm. Tricky. He keeps asking me what he
can do to fix things, and I truly don't know
or care. I've accepted things for what they are and
I'm just working with what I got until I've got
done with graduate school. He asked if he could take
me out this weekend, just me and him, and honestly,
I don't want to. It feels like he's trying to
love bomb me enough to buy more time, but I
don't want to be part of it. Then don't be.

(39:26):
I feel like I'm content with how it is. I'm
able to read my books, work on school, spend time
with my kids, and do my own thing just with
Bill in the next room. In the past two months,
since this all came out, I have tried to put
an effort to fix things stop. I told them what
I needed, apology from him, conversation with his family about everything,
full honesty from now. But I wasn't getting it. He

(39:48):
was still hiding from me, little stuff like him going
to a basketball game with his family and telling me
it was with his friends. It's like he doesn't want
to mix his life with me and his life with
his family. I will say that is my put an
effort to include me. His sisters except the one with
the tender husband, have reached out and tried establishing a
relationship with me. His dad even includes me in conversations

(40:09):
and asks if I need anything. It seems like The
only one that is opposed to us all moving past
things is Bill. Why are you moving past this?

Speaker 1 (40:18):
Stop moving past?

Speaker 3 (40:19):
Stop it.

Speaker 1 (40:20):
This is not even a thank you, it's just next.

Speaker 3 (40:23):
Yeah. I'm torn, I'm hurt, I'm numb. I want this
to work out, but I'm finding it difficult to forgive him. Then,
don't he made me look like a fool in every
way possible? I don't want to feel disgusted every time
I talk to him, but I do. Then why are
we here? I really wanted to get married in December
before all of this. Thinking of it now, I'm not
even sure he would hang out with me on our

(40:44):
wedding day. He still tells white lies all the time.
I don't know what to do.

Speaker 1 (40:48):
I want to scream.

Speaker 3 (40:50):
Why aren't you to have a relationship with a man
you hate?

Speaker 1 (40:55):
She says. I don't know what to do. I guess
I'll get married to him as.

Speaker 3 (41:00):
An established relationship with my son. We have our daughter,
we have a house. I'm stuck. Oh you're not. You're
not stuck. No, you're not, You're not stuck.

Speaker 1 (41:08):
Not really.

Speaker 3 (41:09):
My mom told me I could come back home with
the kids. Not stuck.

Speaker 1 (41:13):
Literally, next sentence, not.

Speaker 3 (41:15):
Stuck, but she wants me to try to work it out.

Speaker 1 (41:18):
What why? What is wrong with all of you?

Speaker 3 (41:22):
I feel so defeated. I can feel myself being on
autopilot every day. I am normally a very bubbly person
and I have a larger than life personality. I'm funny
and fun to be around. I like to sing and
dance at the kitchen and shower. I'm not that person
right now, and I don't know if I can get
her back. You not with him, you won't with this,
Not with him around, You will with when you're not

(41:43):
with him, you will when you've moved out.

Speaker 1 (41:45):
You're basically just like, Yeah, I mean, life right now
is fine. I go to work, I spend time with
the kids. There's a tumor in the room next to me. Yeah,
that I hate? I mean, or maybe not. I don't
know what you feel about this guy. Why do you
want to work things out with him so much? He's
a pressure from your family?

Speaker 3 (41:59):
Is like religious values. I don't know what is it?

Speaker 2 (42:02):
She can fix him?

Speaker 3 (42:04):
And not being this way to prove a point to
Bill or make him regret things. It was a slow
decline to this point, and I think that's what sparked him,
asking what he can do to make things okay. I
hope that whoever reads this can help me with kind,
apathetic words. I need to know if this can be
fixed it cannot, how to begin to fix it, don't?
And how to forgive him? Don't?

Speaker 1 (42:22):
I love wrestling. Mama's comments like they already have the baby.
A marriage will fix everything. No, it will not.

Speaker 3 (42:30):
It won't. Don't get married. I've offered couple counseling, but
we're both very busy with work, school and taking care
of two kids. I think we would be able to
go every once in a while if I knew it
would be worth my time. I know counseling's on the table,
but I'd like more advice.

Speaker 1 (42:44):
Please get it off the table.

Speaker 3 (42:46):
But there is a little bit left to this story.

Speaker 1 (42:48):
The only way counseling should be on the table is
if he's your next boyfriend. Yeah, and you're about to
do the chick a bount Wow. Okay, uh what why
else would he be on the table? I see tables
are four dinner.

Speaker 3 (43:03):
You have a dinner with your new boyfriend. You can
do it.

Speaker 1 (43:05):
You're not stuck. You all these factors around you that
make it harder, a little more complicated, or but you're
not stuck. Stuck, you're not even married.

Speaker 3 (43:13):
You're not married, you don't have to go through divorce proceeding.

Speaker 1 (43:15):
Do you have a house together? Who owns the property?
Go back moving with your mom and go I tried,
it didn't work. Knit loop.

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Speaker 3 (43:24):
But here's three minutes fads from our sponsored update. I
texted him and gave him a recap of how he
hurt me and how he created this false narrative, then
watched me cry or fake things. I guess my hopes
of making this post was to get some insight on
if things can be fixed and how it seems like
everyone is in agreement that it's too far gone. Good job, Red,

(43:44):
I sort of knew that as well, and just needed confirmation.
I'll be planning my exit strategy and hopefully things will
start looking up for me. Good leave, get out of there,
plan that exit strategy.

Speaker 1 (43:55):
Well, I mean, I guess this was just like maybe
it was just like a last desperate ploy, just like
throwing this out on the internet. Oh, he's like, maybe
I'm insane, Yeah, maybe me thinking I need to leave
him is insane, and the internet will let me know
that I'm actually totally overreacting and this is what everyone
goes through pre marriage. Jitters.

Speaker 3 (44:17):
Yeah, and everyone's like, that's crazy, leave him. And she
was like, oh, okay, we're good.

Speaker 1 (44:20):
Dang all right, ah everyone eat you. I thinks I
should leave him, darn Okay, all right, then, okay, I
guess I gotta do that.

Speaker 3 (44:28):
I gotta go. But uh, that's the end of that story, folks.
And we got another one.

Speaker 1 (44:34):
My husband said, his mother will always come before me divorce.
Why don't you tell him to get married to his mom.
I thirty three female, got married to my husband forty
mail a month and a half ago. We dated for
more than a year and a half, and while we
had several ups and downs, we were really happy together. Clearly,
you didn't know enough about him if you never heard

(44:56):
he was a mama's boy.

Speaker 3 (44:58):
Yeah, yep, might are rushed into that a little bit
at bit a little bit.

Speaker 1 (45:03):
His mother is a widow who lives in their apartment
raising his niece as his brother is a single father
with soul custody. My parents, his mother, and I all
live in the same city. My husband lived in his
apartment forty five minutes from the city. By the way,
this comes from user BS two one two off and
if you want to submit your own stories, go to

(45:25):
the r slash Okay storytime suburn it. I'm Dakota, I'm Sophia,
I'm Keon, and we're here to give good advice. Be goofully,
But we don't have all the answers, so we only
know what we'd do. But if you would do something else,
let us know. In the comments, Opie says his mother
and niece used to spend weekends at his house, whether
he was there or not, since they have the keys.

(45:48):
When we were dating, I always left his apartment during weekends,
knowing they would come. The first time he asked me
to stay, I did, but we had to sleep in
the living room, leaving the bedroom for his mother and niece. Okay, considerate, right,
kind of extra considerate, Yeah, offering the bed to at
least there's no holes in them.

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The second time was the same. I was so uncomfortable
that I declined staying After that, did you ask like
why though, you just were like, I just won't come anymore.
You weren't like, hey, why are we on the floor
in the living room? I'm guessing I don't know, yeah.

Speaker 3 (46:33):
Especially if that's like some of the first times that
I don't know you stay or was it just the
first time that she stayed when that family.

Speaker 1 (46:38):
Yeah, I think it was when they were over, so
that she doesn't stay there on the weekends anymore, because
that's what happens when the family comes over. So why
didn't you say anything?

Speaker 3 (46:45):
I feel like if I had a partner and they
were like, you have to stay on the floor if
my family's over, I'd just be like, I don't need
to stay over that night. I'll just come over when
they're gone Sti'll meet them. Just don't need to sleep over.

Speaker 1 (46:57):
Why are they staying here if there's no room for them?

Speaker 3 (47:00):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (47:00):
When we decided to get married, I bought a nice
apartment near his so we could have our own place.
He was really happy about it, and we both saw
it as our place. It's crazy because only one of
you bought it. He works and travels a lot, about
twice a week. Every time he's here. I want to
spend time with him, but he always tries to split

(47:22):
time between me and his mother and niece. We usually
go out all together, even though we still have some
outside dinners just the two of us. I was always
worried about this closeness with his mother and niece and
felt he needed to put some boundaries in place and
give us more time alone. Some things that bothered me.
When we were looking for a new apartment, we visited

(47:42):
several together. When we found this one, we both agreed
not to tell anyone, not even our family. He went
ahead and told his mother and niece and even took
them there to show them the place when you weren't there.
Why did he go back on his word? He said,
He said, I give you my word, they give.

Speaker 3 (47:59):
You my but but my word means nothing.

Speaker 1 (48:02):
We'll have a secret, little place, secret place.

Speaker 3 (48:05):
Stop showing mommy around. Get her out of here.

Speaker 1 (48:08):
The new apartment has two bedrooms. He always refers to
the second one as his niece's room. And when I
say it's my office.

Speaker 3 (48:16):
Ah, that's funny. And if he said, oh, yeah, this
is my niece's room, I'd be like, no, this is
my apartment that I pay for. That I like you
to stay at. But it's my apartment and that's my office,
so no, it's not your niece's room.

Speaker 1 (48:30):
Need to learn to be more like, hey, no, what
did that mean, instead of just being like, oh, that
was that was weird.

Speaker 3 (48:37):
That's my office.

Speaker 1 (48:38):
That was weird. Move on and get married doom.

Speaker 3 (48:42):
Not moving on from that.

Speaker 1 (48:43):
Every weekend we have to spend it with them going oh,
wait a minute on, let me double check. This is
from the arch slash Showy story Time.

Speaker 2 (48:53):
Just about to ask, oh, man, hey, why are we doing.

Speaker 1 (48:57):
We gotta wake up.

Speaker 3 (48:59):
Don't't be with this man and he sucks.

Speaker 1 (49:00):
You gonna start asking the questions when they arise. Oh,
it's so much easier to push them to the back
of your mind. But it's only easier in the moment
because you pay the debt down the line, going out
paying for everything and doing whatever his mom and niece want.
If he comes back and doesn't go directly to his
mom or at least call her, she calls him sad,

(49:24):
saying he forgot about her and that she has no
one in this world. Guilt tripper, guilt. Maybe your husband's
just been chronically guilt tripped. Probably his brother decided to
leave the country to search for a job abroad. So
every weekend, when my husband doesn't hear, I have to
drive them to his apartment on Friday and pick them
up on Sunday. I was okay with this for a

(49:44):
few times, but now it's a rule, like I'm the
dedicated driver while there are other family members who can
do it.

Speaker 3 (49:52):
And that's when you start saying, hey, sorry, can't do
this all the time, I got plans, can't do it, Sorry,
got find other people? Why not?

Speaker 1 (50:00):
They will cry and you'll go because I can't do it.

Speaker 3 (50:03):
I'm busy, but you totally can.

Speaker 1 (50:06):
That's crazy because I'm telling you directly that I can't
miss that, so you'll have to figure something else out.

Speaker 3 (50:13):
It's in a movie that day. Sorry, easy peasy.

Speaker 1 (50:16):
My husband's aunt lives ten minutes from his apartment and
works in our city, so she's always driving there and
could do it easily, but it always falls to me
because you're not.

Speaker 3 (50:27):
Saying no, yeah, you gotta say nope, no, thank you.

Speaker 1 (50:30):
Every time I ask my husband to visit my parents,
I have to literally beg and he's always saying no.
He's only accepted twice since our wedding every time, he
asks that we stay a short time because he doesn't
want to spend a lot of time with them. Now
we're packing to move before the end of the month. Well,
it's me packing while he just enjoys the new apartment

(50:53):
and plans the barbecues he wants to have there. Last Friday,
before he traveled, my husband told me he wanted us
to have have dinner with his mom and niece on
Sunday after picking them up, and I said, sure, today
is Sunday. He came back from his work travel this morning, slept,
and then woke up. At two pm. His niece called him.

(51:14):
I told him not to tell her we're coming now,
to tell her in two hours. He finished the call,
turned to me saying, no, he wants to go now.
I said, please, no, let's go later since we'll have
dinner with them. He was angry and told me no,
he wanted to go right away. I said I was
tired and didn't want to spend the whole afternoon with
his mom and niece. That I was okay to go

(51:36):
pick them up and have dinner, but couldn't do the
whole afternoon as I wasn't in the mood. He got
very angry and left the house, came back a few
minutes later, cursed me and said I was being disrespectful
and that it was like saying I didn't want to
see his mother. Hey, doufish, that's exactly what she said.

Speaker 3 (51:52):
Yeah, she does not want to see your mother.

Speaker 1 (51:54):
She didn't want to see him.

Speaker 3 (51:55):
Not right then ailed it doesn't want to see your mama.

Speaker 1 (51:58):
This leave this man, Leave him. He said they spent
the whole weekend alone and needed him. He said that
his mother will always come before me, that she's the
only one he has in the world after losing his dad,
and that he wouldn't let anyone, including me, distance him
from her. I was shocked. I never tried to distance
him from her. I just want him to give me

(52:19):
and our couple a real place in this life. I'm
tired of always having to spend time with him and
his family other than at night. He always talks about
his family and him like a team, with me being
the outsider, and I hate that I feel alone in
our relationship. I feel like I always have to go
the extra mile to make this relationship work, and it's

(52:41):
never just about him and me, even when we want
to travel or go somewhere. We need to make sure
his mother and niece aren't too sad. Stop it.

Speaker 3 (52:50):
You gotta leave him. This relationship can't work out if
he always prioritizes his mama.

Speaker 1 (52:55):
You either need to leave him or he needs serious counseling,
comprehensive therapy to move beyond being this.

Speaker 3 (53:03):
Like he's attached to his mind. I don't know, it's
like he in a unhealthy way.

Speaker 1 (53:07):
I don't know who is convinced him, but he believes
that without his presence these women will disintegrate into nothing,
that they will just like just melt away without his presence.
And if they're telling him that they need to stop,
and he needs to be able to hear that from
his wife, that it's a toxic dynamic. And if you can't.

Speaker 3 (53:28):
Hear it, then you can't be his wife.

Speaker 1 (53:30):
There's the door because it's your apartment, right if your
name's on the apartment, garam there. My husband gives them
money and spends a lot of time with them beforehand
so they don't resent him. Who's I don't know if
there's much left no in the tank for this unless

(53:52):
he's gonna immediately agree to full blown therapy and reassessing
and reevaluating. But I can't see chain dynamic.

Speaker 2 (54:03):
Shout out to Mingming, is he Filipino?

Speaker 3 (54:05):
Hmm?

Speaker 2 (54:06):
Good was not supposed to mean.

Speaker 1 (54:07):
He could be anything. He could be anyone. He could
be one of you.

Speaker 3 (54:12):
But hopefully he's not going to be your husband for much.

Speaker 4 (54:14):
Luck.

Speaker 2 (54:14):
Well, this story is one of ours, so good luck.

Speaker 1 (54:17):
Our fight ended with him cursing me, God, bless you,
thank you, demanding that I apologize for saying I don't
want to spend time with his mother. I was crying
and powerless. He went by himself, picked them up, spent
the afternoon with them, and had dinner with them. Now
he's back sitting and working without talking to me or
even looking at me. I feel like this is how
my whole life will be, him choosing his family over me,

(54:40):
while I didn't even ask him to choose. All I
said was that I wanted to go later and not
spend the whole afternoon with them. Am I wrong? What
should I do? How can I make him understand that
this is very tiring for me? Should I let go
this marriage?

Speaker 3 (54:54):
Eh?

Speaker 1 (54:55):
The truth, yes, shall set you free?

Speaker 3 (54:58):
Should let go all of the marriage? I got there?
You got there?

Speaker 2 (55:03):
Let go.

Speaker 1 (55:04):
You let it go. You say, get out of my house,
Get out of my house, Go live with your mom,
go live through love it. Oh my god, they're gonna
love living.

Speaker 3 (55:15):
They're gonna be so happy. You can drive them so
all their things. It'll be great.

Speaker 1 (55:19):
You have solommer parties every night. Yeah, it'll be great.

Speaker 3 (55:22):
You can sleep on the floor and they can sleep
in your bed. Wooo woo woo, woo woo boo.

Speaker 1 (55:28):
On a real level, it sounds like there's a lot
of complicated factors going into the why he feels that
way with like the loss of his father.

Speaker 3 (55:35):
Absolutely, it doesn't mean that you have to but you
don't have to stay here.

Speaker 1 (55:39):
If he is unwilling to change, you do not have
to stay no matter how reasonable it is for him
to feel the need.

Speaker 4 (55:48):
To do this.

Speaker 3 (55:49):
Yeah, in his mind, but that is the end of
that story and the end of this episode. I guess
we're gonna read some comments. It sounds.

Speaker 1 (56:02):
This is from the video my mother in law Demn's
a Family Honeymoon from September fifth, twenty twenty five. Opie's
pregnancy announcement using her nephew's shirt got stolen by her
sister in law who pretended to be pregnant, and when
the truth came out to the family, the family blamed
op for being unclear. The sister in law then escalated

(56:23):
by hacking Opee's Amazon account, stealing baby names, and forcing
the whole family to use a different nickname for Op's
newborn daughter, until Opie finally cut them all off. In
a shocking twist, the sister in law had her own baby,
then immediately abandoned both the child and Opie's brother, and

(56:43):
now the same toxic family wants op to care for
the abandoned nick you baby.

Speaker 3 (56:48):
That was a crazy story.

Speaker 2 (56:49):
I remember, Oh my, I ah, don't think I was
on that one.

Speaker 3 (56:52):
I remember that one. It was crazy.

Speaker 2 (56:54):
Booker Maiden says second, Opie's family is toxic. One day,
when that child survives, she's to come back and demand
to be his mother. BPD. Tis truly BPD. That's one
of the comments.

Speaker 1 (57:07):
I hope they don't demand be the mother.

Speaker 2 (57:10):
Another comment from Danny x a x K. People like
op who are such terrible pushovers really piss me off. Like, bro,
stand up for yourself, If not only for yourself, then
stand up for the sake of your daughter.

Speaker 4 (57:25):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (57:25):
It's one of the hardest things you can learn how
to do. If you don't know how to do it.

Speaker 3 (57:28):
Yeah, if you haven't been time really yeah, just.

Speaker 1 (57:30):
And then it comes a moment and the damn breaks
and then you're like, how could I ever have done that?
I will never go back.

Speaker 2 (57:36):
And this final comment from Tina gillen Water five eight
eight eight. F you're afraid of someone stealing a name,
you can always give a fake name you hate in
hopes they may name their kid the name you hate
instead of what you want.

Speaker 1 (57:50):
Yeah, you should be like, I'm gonna name my kid garbage.

Speaker 2 (57:53):
We had one story, Oh it were you there for this,
I'm gonna name my kid hun It was I think
it was Angie myself from Riley is one of the
member's only streams. We had a story like this and
she took the name Hittila Attila. Then no, Hittila, Pittilaia yes,
and she's like, oh, yeah, I'm combining my aunt's like

(58:14):
Matilda and something else and Hotilda something like that, but no, no,
it's a h Hittila. And I think a lot of
people remember in chat if you guys remember that story,
that was a crazy one. We're so waiting for an update.
But the sister in law took that name because you know,
OPI was like, I'm gonna use that for my daughter. Supposedly,
when Opie released the name, it was like Rose or

(58:37):
something very sweet, and she was like, why would you
use that name? Because you were going to use it.
I combined the guy from Germany, Yeah, and Attila the Hunt, Well,
why would you.

Speaker 3 (58:49):
Even name your child Hittila.

Speaker 2 (58:51):
Tila because again that Opie's sister in law was like
so obsessed with her.

Speaker 1 (58:56):
Signed off on that.

Speaker 3 (58:57):
The husband be like, yeah, it's like.

Speaker 1 (58:59):
Naming your k Like, I mean, clearly those are two
horrific combos

Speaker 3 (59:03):
A dolphin, but it's like a dolphin

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