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Speaker 1 (00:15):
Hmmm.
Speaker 2 (00:16):
My husband's ex wore her wedding dress to my wedding
because I asked her to.
Speaker 1 (00:20):
It's the bride for thee and the bride for me.
Ooh who.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
Last weekend, my husband twenty seven male and I thirty female.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
Got married.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
Congrats, ingrats. It was a great wedding and I had
a great time leading up to it.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
There's only been one thing that's left a sour taste
in my mouth.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
It's all the sour candy I ate. Oh. By the way,
this comes from Wedding Dress Throw eleven and if you
want to submit your own stories, go to the r
slash Okay Storytime supreddit. So growing up, I always wanted
a big princess wedding. I know some people see those
as tacky and immature, but it was always my dream.
You know what, you deserve your dream, Upey.
Speaker 1 (00:56):
As part of this, the theme of the wedding was
ballroom nice.
Speaker 2 (01:01):
Just a room for ball I feel like I feel
like that's being like. My flavor for this cake is vanilla,
that's what it gives. And I told everyone to wear
the nicest things they owned, and told the women in
particular to try to outshine me.
Speaker 1 (01:16):
Quote unquote put some ice us in the chat.
Speaker 2 (01:18):
I even went as far as telling the married women
to wear their wedding dresses. Okay, this is an interesting
thing to do.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
We're all getting married.
Speaker 2 (01:29):
We are getting married.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
We are getting married, all fifty of us. I do, no, no, no,
we do. Oh god. I didn't care about being out dressed.
Speaker 2 (01:36):
Instead, all I wanted was to fulfill the aesthetic in
my head that I had for the wedding, which included
everyone else looking nothing less than extravagant and no before
people ask, I don't regret my decision. It was really
special to see my mom, aunts and bridesmaids all in
their own dresses on my big day. It kind of
felt like they were passing the torch onto me. Then
(01:58):
I really enjoyed that experienence. Now onto my husband's friend.
My husband has this friend I will call Kate twenty
seven female. Kate is my husband's childhood friend and first love,
first love is at the wedding.
Speaker 1 (02:14):
Oh oh no, does Kate have a wedding dress?
Speaker 2 (02:18):
Uh? Oh oh, it's too perfect. My husband comes from
a small town and the majority of his friends he's
known since adolescens, and their senior year of high school,
Kate and my husband got engaged. There we go so
ex fiance too. So it's an ex fiance at your wedding.
She's gonna probably wear the dress she bought to marry
your husband. That's gonna be totally fun. Ooh fun, right,
(02:42):
how do I feel about that?
Speaker 3 (02:44):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (02:45):
Do we love that? Is that the greatest thing ever?
Speaker 2 (02:47):
Oh? Now, this is kind of normal where they're from
to get engaged in high school a senior year. They
called off the wedding and never went.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
Through with it. It was mutual.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
They felt they were growing up too fast and wanted
to slow down. The calling off the wedding was the
end of the relationship, but they stayed friends. I knew
this information prior to getting with my husband and never
had a problem or felt jealous because I'm friends with
a few exes myself. In fact, two of my exes.
Speaker 1 (03:16):
Were invited to our wedding.
Speaker 2 (03:17):
Okay, we're having an ex off who can invite the
most exes and ex fiance They just got confused about
what X mass was supposed to be.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
Oh God is mass?
Speaker 2 (03:27):
No? Mass isn't about weddings, is it. I'm looking at
our resident Catholic.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
That's a choice. Yeah, mass is just true. There's no
no wedding.
Speaker 2 (03:35):
Wait what there's not a mass for weddings.
Speaker 3 (03:38):
There is the ceremony is the well they called that
a mask. No it's not well no, yeah, you wouldn't
be a mass. It would be a ceremony and hanging it.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
Okay, I was trying to see if my joke made
sense or not. It still doesn't.
Speaker 2 (03:49):
No, because I said an X mass like the mass,
like the mass being because there's all these ex'es and
it was at their wedding. But a wedding's not a mass,
and I don't know that because I'm not the pope.
Speaker 3 (04:00):
Sorry, all right, it is a ceremony in the church
though sometimes.
Speaker 2 (04:03):
Yes, Okay, point being, what are we doing? Dakota is
not the pope? News flash?
Speaker 1 (04:08):
Why are we making our wedding on extreme mode? Why
are we doing this?
Speaker 2 (04:13):
We have to invite all of our exes, Dakota, that's
the only attendees available.
Speaker 1 (04:16):
Yes, that's what matters most.
Speaker 2 (04:18):
That's all we're doing. One of my exes was my
bridemaid I'm by, and the other was invited as a
guest along with his current girlfriend. I've never had a
problem with Kate being my husband's ex, but I have
had a problem with Kate as a person, as she
is kind of witchy and gossips like she is still
in high school. A few examples of this are just
(04:38):
a month into our relationship, she confessed to my husband
she still has some lingering feelings well, to which he
responded that they had already tried and it didn't work.
He said that if she brought it up again, he
would cut her off out of respect for me. I
wasn't that mad at the time, because I understood they
had a long history and my relationship with him was
just starting out, and she owed it to herself to
(04:58):
see if there was anything still there before it was
too late. Okay, sorry I was. I was like, she
told you she still had feelings for your fiance, but
right before you got married. She's still going to a
wedding a few months into the relationship, but still this
was this was before that, but it's like immediately like, okay,
so we should like really take some time and space
(05:18):
so that you can like just get back to zero
with you, right, Yeah, not just like oh, like that's
just Kate being Kate.
Speaker 3 (05:28):
It's just.
Speaker 2 (05:30):
Why are we making our wedding about everyone we used
to date? Because it's got to be Chahan and Kate
plus eight of your exes two thousands TV reference that's
mine early two thousands Lifestyle TV Shemstone. However, after she
was turned down, her attitude towards me changed to fake
nice and started calling me things like cougar or asking
(05:53):
me how I was expected to make a relationship work,
as I want to be an anesthesiologist, which would require
long work hours. God forbid a woman work and be married.
God forbid a woman be a hard working antas caesiologist.
Speaker 1 (06:06):
This is illegal.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
She would also tell my husband's whole friend group how
she doesn't like my loud personality, and when I confronted
her about all those things, she would just say, oh,
it was just a joke, or you're so loud. I
felt like you would just go off, go off?
Speaker 1 (06:21):
What does that? What does that even mean?
Speaker 2 (06:23):
I don't I just don't like the thing of It's like, No,
that thing I said about your personality was just a joke, Yeah,
I said, without you around, exactly, It's not a joke.
Speaker 1 (06:34):
You're just insulting me.
Speaker 2 (06:36):
It's like if you said to your close, close friend
that you're wearing circus pants. But but it's to be fair,
that's not what I said.
Speaker 3 (06:47):
I said to be fair, Sorry, Son, I mean to
be fair. You were in the room.
Speaker 2 (06:53):
What do you mean.
Speaker 3 (06:53):
John was in the room when you said those pants
look like circus pants.
Speaker 2 (06:56):
Right in Here's where I said they were pants, you
said downstairs. I did not call them circus pants when
I first saw them.
Speaker 1 (07:05):
I was in the room.
Speaker 3 (07:06):
You said. Yes, John was in there with his pants,
and you said those pants look like circus pants. John
didn't hear you. I heard you, and I said those
pants are cool.
Speaker 2 (07:14):
No, John was outside. Christian heard me say they were pants.
Speaker 3 (07:19):
I heard you say, and John was there. John didn't hear.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
Well, we'll never know the truth. We will never know.
Speaker 2 (07:25):
We'll never know other than either way, John didn't hear that.
John's pants rock all right. And i'd him for those
pants because I've also always envied the pins drip pants.
I had a pair I had to get rid of
drop some pinstriped pants in the challities a gentleman. There's
more crap, but if I typed at all, I would
(07:48):
never get to the point. Now, Kate has her own
husband that i'll call Gerald. Kate and Gerald both make
average in terms of finances as they're both teachers. Kate
teaches kindergarten and Gerald teaches scene years. They got married
last year. Okay, so Kate is married on.
Speaker 1 (08:03):
A teacher salary.
Speaker 2 (08:04):
Kate wasn't able to afford the most luxurious wedding dress
out there, but I always had the impression that she
was happy with it. Kate does have another wedding dress
from when she was going to marry my husband that
her dad paid for, who has unfortunately passed now, which
in terms of fanciness, is a bit nicer. But obviously
she didn't want to wear that dress to her own wedding. Yeah,
(08:25):
that makes sense. I was expecting Kate to wear the
wedding dress that she wore to her own wedding to ours,
But when I looked and saw her, she had the
wedding dress she was supposed to wear when she was
going to get married to my husband, Oops, Paul Ahole
or not?
Speaker 3 (08:43):
No?
Speaker 1 (08:44):
No oh?
Speaker 2 (08:45):
Is is Kate Kat the ael? No, Kate's not the
ale no oh, P asked for this? Oh p, and
that's for this? Sofiel, real quick, what's your take?
Speaker 3 (08:57):
I think that it would be hard for OP to
necessarily call her out on it, but I think it's
pretty weird. I'd probably be if I were the husband,
I'd be like, I don't know if I want to
have a relationship with you in anyway. Now to the
you know this X ex fiance.
Speaker 2 (09:15):
Yeah, yeah, but she got asked, I agree, no more
relationship with me because you want to marry me. But
whyfe He better not be mad because she expressly approved this.
We shall We're literally fifty to fifty split in chat
of now it's more of the a hill but coma
below what you think we're gonna We're gonna keep on
rolling here. So when I saw her, I immediately went
(09:38):
what the f but decided to drop it because I
didn't want a conflict on our wedding day.
Speaker 1 (09:42):
I mean, you dropped it because it's what you asked for. Sorry,
it's the last time I'll say that.
Speaker 2 (09:47):
My husband, however, was also confused on why she wore
that one and asked her about it without me even
having to tell him I was uncomfortable. She responded with, well,
your wife wanted such a big princess wedding. I thought
i'd wear this one because it follows the theme. More,
don't tell me she's upset about it. She's the one
who said, come in your nicest clothes, and this is
(10:07):
my nicest dress.
Speaker 3 (10:09):
Pretty telling that. Opie hasn't said anything yet. The husband
brought it up, and then she immediately was like, oh,
to tell me your wife is upset. She wanted her
wife to be upset. Do you wanted to be upset?
Speaker 2 (10:22):
Isn't that also exactly what OPI had just said, where
it's like, Ope.
Speaker 3 (10:26):
He never expressed it. OPI never expressed it.
Speaker 2 (10:28):
Right, But the dress she was going to marry my
husband and is nicer than the one she wore.
Speaker 3 (10:34):
No, But I'm saying I'm not saying like her reasoning
is necessarily wrong. I'm saying that she said immediately the
first thing that she said to Opie's husband was, oh,
don't tell me that she's upset.
Speaker 2 (10:43):
Well, of course, of course, but she's on brand for
your theme's on the brand football.
Speaker 3 (10:50):
You're defended in so hard, Dakota.
Speaker 2 (10:53):
She didn't ask for it. I wouldn't have to. If
you love her so much, why don't you just marry
her in her dress?
Speaker 1 (11:00):
I think she's wrong for doing it.
Speaker 2 (11:01):
I don't think she's right for trying to like guilt
the husband into whatever she's trying to do. Yeah, to
worm her way back in is foolish in not going
to work, but she It'd be like if you got
mad at someone for wearing a red dress to your
wedding when you said everyone should wear red, then you're like,
why are you wearing red?
Speaker 3 (11:20):
But I think the point is that Opie hasn't said
anything yet. You know, yes, she's internally angry. She has
not told anyone that she's angry.
Speaker 2 (11:29):
Yeah wait, I'm any Wait, yeah, let's yeah, Well let's
see it. We'll see if Opie says. I feel like
I'm not allowed to be upset, even.
Speaker 1 (11:38):
Though I am. Oh, and I.
Speaker 2 (11:39):
Know that this is my fault, but the whole thing
has left a really bad taste in my mouth. I
would have never been okay with her wearing that one
if I had known she was going to And I
feel like she should have asked. I keep telling myself
it's not that big of a deal, and during the daytime,
when I'm distracted, I don't even think about it. But
I've always been a night owl and makes me feel
crappy every time I think about.
Speaker 1 (12:00):
It before I fall fall asleep.
Speaker 2 (12:02):
Wow, this is this is staying staying on Opie shows
have looked real good.
Speaker 1 (12:08):
Sorry you got outshined out. Oh that's tough.
Speaker 2 (12:12):
So now I'm here complaining on Reddit like a loser and.
Speaker 1 (12:15):
I feel pathetic. Oh I don't say that, OPI.
Speaker 2 (12:17):
But we do have an update or about halfway through
this story, but many more in this episode, Dakota, it
is on her mind every time she goes to sleep.
Do we reach out and and say something if you're
Opie to who to a past version of myself? Okay,
and I go, Hey, first of all, let's not invite
(12:40):
anyone's ex fiancee to the wedding. First move. First move,
didn't marry you, I'm marrying this other person. You're not
You're not coming, Yeah person, I was going to marry yep.
Speaker 1 (12:51):
And yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:52):
Then also, if you make wear your wedding dress part
of the dress code and then one of the ex
fiancees in question, where's her beautiful wedding dress she was
going to use for your husband? And then you go,
I feel bad. You need to just look in the mirror.
That's what you need to do. Look in the mirror
(13:13):
and go I did this, and slowly chip away at
that until you're okay with it.
Speaker 1 (13:19):
What say you, Sophia?
Speaker 3 (13:20):
I think that yeah, maybe maybe if we had had
a little bit of hindsight, could have maybe seen this coming. However,
I think trying to be a solution oriented, I think
that you should talk to your husband about this and say, yeah,
that was weird, right, that was strange that she brought
(13:41):
up that, Oh does it bother your wife before I
even mentioned anything? And maybe maybe we don't continue a
relationship with this person.
Speaker 2 (13:50):
I do think that it's not a huge logical gap
for her to be like, is your wife upset? How
have the weird wedding where all these women are wearing
wedding dresses and you're her ex fiance? Like? Is she upset?
Speaker 3 (14:02):
But if it's not a huge logical gap, then why
didn't she ask before? Why didn't she make Because she's.
Speaker 1 (14:10):
Like she's like, I'm sorry.
Speaker 3 (14:12):
I think it's pretty I think it is pretty self
explanatory that you don't wear the dress that.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
You were gonna wear with, of course.
Speaker 3 (14:20):
The groom of a different wedding.
Speaker 2 (14:22):
In every other wedding story we've read, this would be
immediately the most unhinged thing you could ever do to dress.
Speaker 1 (14:29):
Invitation said, hey, by the way, wear your wedding dress.
She's using that.
Speaker 2 (14:32):
She's using that as a tool, I think to be
able to wear the other wedding dress, which again on.
Speaker 1 (14:39):
Tape, it is that's what she's saying. I know he
said that.
Speaker 2 (14:44):
Oh p agrees, but like put yourself in Kate shoes.
Would you be like, Okay, yes, I do technically have
a nicer dress, but I'm not gonna wear the dress
that I was gonna marry her now husband in right,
Like true, I'll just do the wedding pretty bold. However,
I would just not be inviting ex fiances to the wedding.
Speaker 1 (15:04):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (15:04):
It's like uh also that yes, yes, it's like uh,
it's it's uh.
Speaker 1 (15:14):
I can't even think of an example.
Speaker 2 (15:15):
It's it's jumping in the mud puddle and then going
where'd all this mud come from? You signed up for this.
Speaker 3 (15:22):
I do think it's a one point I will make
is this is not her fiance or ex fiance. This
is her husband's ex fiance.
Speaker 2 (15:29):
So look, I also want to make it her. I'm
seeing comments and people are like, I'm not understanding her
underhanded mentality.
Speaker 1 (15:37):
I do, I get it. I don't.
Speaker 2 (15:38):
I don't.
Speaker 1 (15:39):
I don't approve of her doing it.
Speaker 2 (15:42):
But it's like I can't call her an a hole
because it was literally the uniform.
Speaker 3 (15:46):
Yeah I can call her an a hole.
Speaker 2 (15:48):
Yeah, you know, I think I will go ahle because
she's using she's using the rules as a weapon. Yeah,
I think that's that's what it is, even though again
technically it was uh technical okay, morally not okay. Uh
someone said in chat yeah, I think, uh yeah. But
it's hard, but I don't think. I don't think, Opie,
(16:09):
it's hard to like, let OPI get mad at her,
I guess qurot unquote, because not let OPI get mad
at her. But like she did follow the rules, so
you literally set up like a crap buffet for yourself.
And he said, why does this why does this taste
so bad?
Speaker 1 (16:25):
It's you did it?
Speaker 3 (16:26):
To be fair, she didn't specifically say everyone wear a
wedding dress. She said, outshine me.
Speaker 1 (16:30):
Yeah, and she was like, do it wear your wedding dress?
Speaker 3 (16:32):
Yeah? And she said, yeah, married people wear your wedding
dress and that's.
Speaker 1 (16:35):
The shiniest dress.
Speaker 2 (16:36):
Sure, we have an update, ladies and gentlemen, let's dive
into it.
Speaker 1 (16:40):
Hello, guys, here's the update.
Speaker 2 (16:42):
So I talked to my husband about it this morning,
and when I brought it up, he immediately let out
a sigh of relief. He said, I didn't know how
to bring it up because you didn't seem bothered. But
when I saw her in that dress, I thought it
was very weird that she wore that one. He went
on to say that he even considered asking her to
leave because he thought it was rude. But because I
had no reaction to the dress, he thought that I
either didn't care or didn't recognize it.
Speaker 1 (17:03):
But either way it is. I do wonder how she
recognized it.
Speaker 2 (17:06):
But besides the point, either way, if I wasn't if
I wasn't bothered, he didn't want to disturb my peace
of mind by punting her out. We discussed and we're
going to have a talk with her, not just about
the dress, but about.
Speaker 1 (17:18):
Her treatment of me in general.
Speaker 2 (17:20):
I'm sorry. This is just so ridiculous to me because
imagine you do kick her out for wearing that dress,
and then the conversation becomes OPI really kicked her out
because she outshined her. She really asked to be outshined,
and then kicked out the girl who outshined her. She
lose no matter what.
Speaker 3 (17:38):
Out shining and wearing the dress that you were gonna
wear with her Beyoncet.
Speaker 2 (17:42):
Bottom line, if there's any situation in which any of
your wedding goers wearing their wedding dress is going to
actually upset you instead of be like this cool little
fun theme thing that you're doing, don't do it, or
don't invite your husband's ex fiance.
Speaker 1 (18:06):
But we have to invite all of our exes. Yours
have to do it squarely. Your fault. I cannot be
mad at Katie.
Speaker 2 (18:14):
I can't.
Speaker 1 (18:15):
I can be mad at Katie to go ahead.
Speaker 3 (18:18):
I can be mad.
Speaker 1 (18:19):
I think I'm a little a goofy. She's a goofy
for doing this. That's a goofy move. It was on
the invitation. It is true. It was on the invitation.
This is she followed the rules.
Speaker 2 (18:30):
She follow the rules lay gentlemen, and explain that going forward,
she will not be a friend in our lives.
Speaker 1 (18:34):
Cutting off good.
Speaker 2 (18:35):
After this talk, I decided to let it go and
focus on my new marriage. This was a small thing,
and now after I've talked that with my husband, I
feel kind of silly.
Speaker 1 (18:43):
I let it bother me this much.
Speaker 2 (18:45):
I'm at peace she will no longer be in our lives,
and that is enough for me. Someone said, you gave
her the chance to wear the dress her dad got
her and gave her as a gift. That was kind
of a huh moment for me, because no matter what
her intentions were, that is true, and I'm glad that.
Speaker 1 (19:02):
She got to have that moment.
Speaker 2 (19:04):
Oh, I see, so it was kind of like a
oh moment. She's like, oh wait, I guess that is.
Speaker 3 (19:10):
Kind of special, huh.
Speaker 2 (19:13):
Which, okay, Yeah, whatever whatever you need to do to
get to okay with this is whatever you need to do.
Speaker 1 (19:19):
Yeah, I guess.
Speaker 2 (19:20):
I guess that's because her dad passed away and it's like, oh,
I'm wearing this, Yeah, he gave me right.
Speaker 1 (19:25):
End of update.
Speaker 2 (19:26):
The rest of this is just answering questions and explaining
what the wedding looked like we do have. More commonly
asked question is how did we even know what the
dress looks like? I said it in a few comments,
but I've seen it a couple of times before in
her closet, usually when my friends, said I was wondering,
not too Usually, when my husband's friends group hangs out,
(19:46):
the guys all get ready at one of their places
and all the girls get ready at one of our places.
Then we all meet up to wherever we're going, whether
that's a pub crawl, a concert, a music festival, et cetera,
et cetera. Kate hosts pretty regularly, and it's during those
times that I've seen it in her closet while she
looks for something to wear. And when she got married
to Gerald, she put her other wedding dress right next
to the high school one asked for my husband, I
(20:08):
asked him about that today and he said when they
broke up, Kate asked if he wanted to if he
wanted to see the dress, since there was no point
in hiding anymore, and he said yes, wow, and he wait,
he remembered that dress from like fifteen years ago from
seeing it once, must have been pretty stunning.
Speaker 1 (20:28):
Is that suspicious chet? Now that suspicious chat?
Speaker 2 (20:33):
I think not?
Speaker 1 (20:34):
I think maybe chat? What do we think?
Speaker 2 (20:37):
And then when they told their friends the news, the
friends also wanted to see the dress, so she put
it on for them too, and ladies and gentlemen, Obi
said that the updates were over.
Speaker 1 (20:46):
Well we've got update number two.
Speaker 2 (20:49):
Ohp he's a dirty little fibber.
Speaker 1 (20:50):
Ooh little liar, pretty little liar.
Speaker 2 (20:53):
Hi. So I don't know if anyone still cares or
still remembers of my post, but I thought i'd make
another update here Before I go in, I would just
like to make a disclaimer that these are all things
my husband and I heard through mutual friends slash connections,
so who knows how much of his information has been
dramatized for gossip. Hearsay. We've got hearsay, We've got a
(21:14):
whole lot. Let's go through the grape vine. Organic When
my husband talked to I think I called her Kate
in this post. She reacted as expected and started calling
me a jealous and controlling wife to anyone who would listen.
We didn't let her bother us, though neither I nor
my husband knew this, but apparently her Kate and her
(21:34):
husband Gerald have been struggling for quite some time and
have been going to couples therapy. Ooh, so did Kate
see this as her like, absolute hail Mary, just wear
the dress to their wedding and she's so stunning that
Opie's husband is like, I just gotta marry you right now.
I just got a dump. I got a dump op
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on the spot, and just marry you because you look
so gosh darned delicious. Dude. She simply followed the instructions. Okay, okay, okay,
here's an example, right, Okay, you throw a party, you
say everybody bring your dog. Everybody bring your dog, bring
your bring bring all your dogs. Okay, everybody brings their dogs,
and all their dogs are maybe a little small. They're
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like a little small, medium sized dogs. And then you
have a friend who brings like the great Bernard dog,
just a massive dog, big boy. Everyone's like, whoa look
at this person pulling up with their dog like everybody
else was told to do. Just because it's a different dog. Now,
this person's wrong. And regardless of if the vibe of
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a bunch of chihuahuas and one Saint Bernard makes any
sense or not. You asked for this, so I cannot
in clear conscience, look clearly, she's being she's being scummy.
It's a scumbag move by Katie. It is so I
don't know. Again, look in that mirror, gonna look find
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who's responsible. That's where you look.
Speaker 1 (22:59):
I would say she was she like basically that had happened.
I'll give you that. She seshat in the stage for
it to happen. For sure.
Speaker 2 (23:05):
Dude, if I'm gonna if I have an ex fiance,
she's not coming to my actual wedding.
Speaker 1 (23:10):
I don't care how long it's been. She's not gonna
be there. That happen.
Speaker 2 (23:14):
No, especially if the wardrobe is where your wedding dress.
We shall see, we shall see what happens to Kate
and opee dang it. When my husband cut her off,
Gerald sat down and asked him if he really thought
that Kate wore that dress out of spite, and my
husband answered truthfully and said, yes, we thought. Gerald asked
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because he thought we were being ridiculous, But I guess
he was wondering the same thing himself, because he brought
up that whole wedding dress thing in their therapy oh,
now we're teaming up with old Gerald. Carold spelled in
the most annoying way I've ever seen Carol True. In
their most recent session, it's being said that Kate finally
admitted that she always thought of my husband as the
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one guy who got away, and that she wore the
dress out of spite and not just because it was
her fanciest or because of sentimental values. Shocking. We figured
it out. We've got it, ladies and gentlemen, Look, yes,
that's the intent. And still doesn't matter to me what
it still doesn't matter. She could have chose the other
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trip because because you could have just make through the ale.
But if if you if she showed up and she
was uninvited, a hole, If this wasn't part of the
the vibe, a hole.
Speaker 3 (24:30):
I'm gonna I'm going to change your little your little examples.
This is like if you throw a party and everyone
invites the little chuhuahuas and you have a Saint Bernard
that you know likes to eat up little chihuahuas.
Speaker 1 (24:44):
You're like, ooh, this dog loves.
Speaker 3 (24:45):
To eat up little chihuahuas. And and then you bring
the dog and it eats a bottle little chihuahuas. And
then you're like, you told me to bring.
Speaker 2 (24:53):
The dog, so what if on the instructions it said,
I bet you think your big dog can eat our
but it can't. I dare you to try. And then
you show up with your saint Bernard and everyone goes,
WHOA look at this monster. Dude. I'm sorry, that's not
what it said. You wrote it on the invitation though
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she said where your best dress and outshine me.
Speaker 3 (25:16):
I think it would have been like bringing your biggest dogs.
Speaker 2 (25:20):
So regardless, dog is fine, regardless of Katie's intent at
this point, which I agree is.
Speaker 1 (25:25):
Wrong and bad.
Speaker 2 (25:28):
The fact that the entire set up was do this thing.
To me, it's just don't invite your husband's ex fiance
because then you know she's gonna.
Speaker 1 (25:37):
Wear a dress.
Speaker 3 (25:38):
You agree with that part.
Speaker 1 (25:39):
Like, so what are we doing?
Speaker 2 (25:40):
I'm more upset at the people who set this whole
thing up, rather than the chaotic little gremlin in the
mix that we all knew, we all should have known
was gonna do something like this. But why did we
give them the silver platter to do it on and
then get mad about it? All?
Speaker 3 (25:56):
Right? Keep going?
Speaker 1 (25:57):
You invited the vampire into your house.
Speaker 2 (26:00):
What it is you invited the vampire into your home
and you're saying, why is the vampire training the blood
out of my veins?
Speaker 1 (26:07):
Well, we've got more to this story.
Speaker 2 (26:09):
Me go. Her husband, Gerald then asked her if she
would go back to my husband if he if he
decided to divorce me. She said no, but apparently she
hesitated and Gerald knew that she was lying. Again, that
is what my husband and I have been told. So
I don't know how much of that is accurate, but
it's being said from multiple people that that is what
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Gerald is telling. Anyone who will ask WHOA Gerald's spilling
the secrets, Jerald spilling beans, dude, Jarald spill in the jar.
What I do know for sure is that Gerald is
filing for divorce. Oh no, He's already served her and
is taking her to court in a few months as
she's trying to fight to have ownership of some of
his assets. Since this all came out, I've had a
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load of apologies from people who said rude things about
me or stop being friends with me. After my husband
and I agreed to cut off Kate. Most people who
had known her for a while believed what she was
saying about me and no longer wanted to associate themselves
with me after causing unnecessary high school drama. Their tunes
have obviously changed, but I'm not interested in forming relationships
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with anyone who gossiped or didn't believe me. The whole
thing was so dramatic for no reason. That always really
bothers me, because it's like get in front of it.
Then I don't know, it's like being like, well, I
just won't say anything, and then everyone gets all mad
and upset and it's like, yeah, because you should have
said something.
Speaker 1 (27:32):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (27:32):
It's tough though, because it's like sometimes you're like, Okay,
I don't want to, like I don't even even though
they wronged me, I don't want to like put them
on blasts.
Speaker 1 (27:40):
I just want to like move on. And but then
the other person goes and just reaching out to be
a d MS. Yeah, you don't make it a war,
a public war or anything.
Speaker 2 (27:48):
You just like just hey, you just like some level
of damage control, because just all pure passiveness is like yeah,
then it just gets more messed up because you let
this person run around say whatever they want. It does
run the risk of that every time it does run
the risk that. So anyways, I just thought i'd write
this for any if any of you were still curious
for more info, but onto some pictures. I'm not going
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to post any, but I will explain how it looked
for those who wanted to know. So firstly, lots of
people showed up in wedding dresses and that was absolutely beautiful.
One thing my friends from college did was a fifties
Marilyn Monroe type clam and it was a killer. One
of the staff was able to find a red carpet
and we took a bunch of black and white photos
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on them. I had about five girls whar They're Kings dresses,
which was gorgeous. Finally, some parents decided to dress their
little girls up in actual princess costumes, which I thought
was really cute. And by the way, you know what
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Speaker 1 (29:01):
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Speaker 2 (29:04):
But ladies and gentlemen, we are so close to the
finale this story, but we got way more in store
for this episode, so stay tuned.
Speaker 1 (29:11):
The guys also dressed really well too.
Speaker 2 (29:13):
One guy did a sequin tucks, quite a few went
for a rock star type suit. My husband's best man
who went for this really gorgeous red velvet tucks. And
my dress was this really shimmery, really poofy ball gown
type dress with a flower design on the veil that
I got custom made for me. Then I had it
designed where I could actually unattach the poofy part of
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the dress for the reception, and by doing that, it
turned into a long, sleek, white, shimmery dress with a
leg slit that does sound like a fire dress. And
that is it. Now describe Kate's dress. Yeah, she didn't.
Oh it was too hot. And Kate's dress was just imagine.
Really all of this just comes down to she's just
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mad that her dress was just excellent.
Speaker 1 (29:59):
She's just too hot.
Speaker 2 (30:00):
She like does eat all this stuff about like and
he's the she's the ex fiance and all this stuff.
It's like, really, she's just like, she really did look
great in that dress, and I did not like it.
Speaker 1 (30:11):
It's just undeniable. It's just unniable.
Speaker 2 (30:13):
But yes, you know what's uh the only thing it's
hotter than Kate in her dress?
Speaker 1 (30:17):
You this next story?
Speaker 2 (30:20):
I disagree. I think both of those things can be
hotter than Kate. That's right, folks. Hey's John Og host.
We're gonna get back to the stories, but a quick
free minute break of ads from our sponsors. My husband
got jealous during our wedding because of a girl from
his past.
Speaker 1 (30:37):
Uh oh, this sounds familiar.
Speaker 2 (30:39):
I twenty five female, got married to my husband, twenty
four male, Jim, a week ago after dating for two
and a half years. Jim has a friend called Misha,
twenty two female, who was invited to the wedding. He
and Misha have known each other since high school and
we're close friends. And Misha had a very obvious crush
on Jim from what he and others who know them
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have told me. By the way, this comes from user
Throwaway Wedding Night, And if you want to submit your
own stories, go to the r slash Okay storytime subreddit.
And if you know people have crushes on your partners,
don't invite them to your wedding. Ooh, so Jim told
me this after I met Misha for the first time
and confessed that he leaned into her crush and led
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her on throughout their high school years and for a
little while after before we got together, because he was
struggling with his mental health and he really liked her attention.
He seemed genuinely guilty about all of that. Because he
thought Misha was a nice girl and a good friend,
and because he showed guilt, I didn't feel the need
to bring it up or argue about it, despite thinking
it was a crappy thing to do. Plus, Misha is
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a nice girl who has never overstepped boundaries and has
been nothing but kind and friendly towards me, and I
now consider her a friend too. Misha moved away to
the city last year and has done really well for
herself and has a long term boyfriend who none of
us have met yet. So when it came to sending
wedding invites, I told her she was welcome to bring
him as her plus one.
Speaker 1 (32:00):
Is it the boyfriend from Canada? Is this the boyfriend
from camp?
Speaker 2 (32:04):
He's a boyfriend from another school across town. You guys
don't know him. So the first red flag came when
Jim was weirdly resistant to the idea of Misha bringing
her boyfriend, but he excused it on being concerned about
the number of guests we invited, and the matter was dropped.
Speaker 1 (32:21):
Sophie ainting out of Thoon over there.
Speaker 3 (32:26):
He wants to marry Mesha.
Speaker 2 (32:28):
Ooh, he wants a Misha marriage. He wants to marry Mesha,
a Mesa marriage. When the wedding day came, Misha showed
up in this beautiful dress, nothing inappropriate for a wedding,
and with her boyfriend on her arm, who I'll admit
is a very handsome guy. Think of Kit Harrington type,
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say McQueen. It's McQueen as Kit Harrington saying McQueen in
Game of Thrones.
Speaker 1 (32:57):
Anyway, Wait, who is Kit Harrington?
Speaker 3 (32:59):
Get Rington is John snow Ah.
Speaker 2 (33:01):
Yes, she's also lost weight and has a haircut that
suits her better, and I thought she looked great. We
also found out throughout the night that her boyfriend is
very successful and earns more than practically anyone else who attended.
Speaker 3 (33:13):
I bet she is that because they told you that.
Speaker 2 (33:16):
Who knows. Throughout the reception, I noticed Jim glaring at
Misha and her boyfriend. The whole time, and he was
really cold and short towards her when she came over
to congratulate us and give us a gift.
Speaker 1 (33:26):
Well, it's cold and short up north Ooh.
Speaker 2 (33:27):
Yeah, got him, I know that's right. He was also
straight up kind of rude to her boyfriend when Misha introduced.
Speaker 1 (33:34):
Us to him.
Speaker 2 (33:35):
When his mom, who has always known and liked Misha,
mentioned that she was glad Misha found a great guy
and praised her boyfriend for being so nice, jim snapped,
at least she won't be desperate and hung up on
me for the rest of her life, which I thought
was cruel and uncalled for.
Speaker 1 (33:51):
Oh god, Jimbo, what are we doing?
Speaker 3 (33:55):
What are we doing?
Speaker 1 (33:56):
Jimbo? Yeah, at least so finally get over me, I guess. Oh,
Jimmy not good.
Speaker 2 (34:03):
However, I didn't challenge him because I didn't want to
argue at my wedding. Despite the fact that he frankly
sounded bitter. The whole thing has left an awful taste
in my mouth, and I can't help but think that
Jim got jealous that Misha has found a guy who's
honestly quite a catch, who she's clearly very in love
with and is now completely over.
Speaker 1 (34:21):
Jim. We have a little half update here.
Speaker 2 (34:25):
After getting some pms from people, I decided to go
through his phone while he was napping after work, and
needless to say, this marriage is over. Whoh ooh. I'll
post a real update when I have everything sorted out.
Whoa oh, it's about to get crazed. I got okay,
So all right thoughts theories?
Speaker 1 (34:44):
I mean, maybe it's.
Speaker 2 (34:47):
The classic classic, Uh, you don't want them until you
can't have them, that's right.
Speaker 1 (34:54):
Jim was Jim's the husband's name, right, Jim? Yeah, Jim.
Speaker 2 (34:59):
Jim was just like, oh, you know, it's all good,
she can come to the wedding whatever. The second, not
only was she taken, but taken by a rich John
Snow rich John Snow.
Speaker 1 (35:11):
Uh.
Speaker 2 (35:12):
And she's also you know, she's got a better haircut
and a slimmer figgere.
Speaker 1 (35:19):
Dude, I mean, Jim's Jim's a whack ball for this.
Speaker 2 (35:23):
And I wonder what he said. Do you think he
sent desperation texts? You think he sent like messages to Misha,
like I saw you and I realized that actually I've
always been in love with you on my whole life.
Speaker 1 (35:34):
I think I think it's gonna be like, yeah, I'll
leave her for you. Ooh yeah, ooh yeah. Okay, I'm
calling it.
Speaker 2 (35:40):
I'm calling it all right, let's let's get We got
some comments stuck in my mind. Seventy seven says it's
giving bitter. Can't imagine how that must have been for you.
Says a lot about his character To be honest op
he says it felt a lot like watching a kid
get upset at another kid for playing with a toy
they personally never wanted to play with in the first place,
if that makes any sense, And I'm just gonna go
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right to the update here we go.
Speaker 1 (36:03):
Oh boy.
Speaker 2 (36:03):
Pretty much the day after my original post, I got
some PMS from people suggesting that I go through my
husband Jim's phone to see if he and me show
were truly just friends before this and that nothing romantic
happened between them that would explain his reaction.
Speaker 1 (36:17):
At the wedding.
Speaker 2 (36:18):
Mmm.
Speaker 1 (36:19):
He always takes.
Speaker 2 (36:19):
A forty five minute nap after work, and so I
used that as my opportunity to swipe his phone from
where it was charging on his desk so that I
could look through it. I've seen him put in this
passcode a ton of time, so that wasn't an issue. Ope,
now you're the a hole.
Speaker 1 (36:34):
Uh oh, you snooping.
Speaker 2 (36:35):
You're betraying a man in his most sacred hour, nap time,
nappy time.
Speaker 1 (36:43):
Clearly, I'm just kidding.
Speaker 2 (36:44):
But if you feel like you got a snoop, there's
already there's already bigger problems.
Speaker 1 (36:50):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (36:51):
I didn't find anything in his text messages with her,
but I know that Jim goes on Instagram a lot,
so I checked there too. The immediate red flag was
that he used an app lock that required a passcode
to access Instagram. But the dumbbutt used the same pass
code that he uses to unlock his phone, so I
got into it right away. And what would you know,
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I go to his messages with Misha and find messages
from him the morning after our wedding, telling her how
beautiful she'd looked that night, how much he'd missed her,
how he felt that her boyfriend being there spoiled his
opportunity to catch up with her, and that he was
desperate to meet up with her.
Speaker 1 (37:31):
Oh dude.
Speaker 2 (37:32):
Misha never replied to these messages, and he sent some
more to her later that day. Oh no, no, I
thought I thought that that was gonna be it, but
it's gonna be worse. Oh man, okay, How'm ready being right?
Never felt so terrible?
Speaker 1 (37:46):
Right?
Speaker 2 (37:48):
Just you open the phone with all these messages on
the screen, you can smell the desperation oozing from the pixels.
Speaker 1 (37:56):
I don't like it.
Speaker 2 (37:59):
I won't get into what he said because they were
very personal insults that were frankly just gross. But just
think about the kind of stuff you would read on
that nice guy's subreddit. Misha left him on red and
when I clicked on her account, it appears that she's
blocked him. I scrolled through their messages quite far back,
and I believe nothing romantic has happened between them. Yeah.
I think you can believe that just based on how
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Misha reacted yep, which was immediate.
Speaker 1 (38:22):
Oh ooh, blocked, blocked, blocked book.
Speaker 2 (38:26):
I wish that was all, But looking into his other
conversations on Instagram, I found that he's been messaging other
girls on there. They seemed like aspiring Instagram model types
from our area. Do you click on one of those ads?
There's hot local aspiring Instagram models types in your area.
Speaker 1 (38:45):
They want to talk.
Speaker 2 (38:46):
To you click three weird laws that aspiring Instagram models
in your area are going to follow. Also, do you
want to meet up with them? Most of these conversations
were just him shooting his shot and getting left on red,
but others had evolved into flirting, and two of them
resulted in spicy texts, Oh god. And the most embarrassing
part of it all the noodles he was sending to
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these women weren't even of him. I know what his
body looks like, and he doesn't have chisel dabs and isn't.
Speaker 1 (39:15):
That well and down? Oh my god. Wow, bro needs
a lot of help.
Speaker 2 (39:22):
Dang dude, bros so pathetic, He's become pathetological. Okay, wait
a second, I have to ask this very quickly. What
is worse him actually sending mudes of himself or using
someone else? I think funny enough using someone else.
Speaker 1 (39:41):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (39:41):
If I'm like a partner, I'm like, yeah, my partner
doesn't even have it going on enough to send pictures
of himself to these women. Not only is he cheating
on me, but he's even insecure about cheating on me. Yeah,
Like that is double double bad. Hana says, it's just
getting so sad. Like, yeah, this is just this is
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just sad.
Speaker 1 (40:05):
Golly.
Speaker 2 (40:06):
No, at least you won't have to have a this
guy is your husband anymore.
Speaker 1 (40:10):
Yep.
Speaker 2 (40:10):
So I think he must have found a man's profile
on some adult website and used those pictures and just
cropped the face out. These two conversations happened in the
past six months. I ended up texting his mom and
his brother from my phone, asking him to come and
pick him up from the apartment, and then I went
to wake him up. I told him that I knew
about the girls he was messaging on Instagram and that
he needed to pack a bag and get out before
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I started throwing his stuff onto the street and causing
a scene. He started crying and begging me not to
remove him from our house and swore that they were
just messages and that he would never actually cheat on me. Dude,
but I don't believe him for a second. You've already
cheated my guy. You've already done it. I think you're clear,
(40:55):
like aching desire to cheat on her with Misha though,
pretty clear, right, even if nothing else had happened, Yes,
just the messages you sent to Misha, Yeah, would have
been enough to be like all right, so we're not
doing this right that the Misha messages in terms of
him like reaching out, wanting to get with her, and
all the messages afterwards of like, oh if he doesn't
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like get his way, he will turn into a nasty
monster baby boy. So I'm all the way out.
Speaker 1 (41:26):
It's an over me dog Deskostin.
Speaker 2 (41:28):
Then he had the nerve to tell me that he
didn't want me to tell anyone else about what he'd done,
but I had left the room and started ignoring him.
By that point he left with his mom and brother
and is staying there now.
Speaker 1 (41:40):
From what I know.
Speaker 2 (41:41):
I've blocked him on everything for the time being, until
I'm ready to tell him that I'm seeking a moment. Thankfully,
where I'm from, you can get one almost no questions asked,
as long as you haven't been married for longer than
thirty days, and I've already looked into the process. I
haven't really left my apartment at all this week, and
I've been calling in sick to work because i don't
feel like I can face people. I'm just so embarrassed
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that I've wasted over two years on this man, and
that I married him in the first place. I don't
feel like I can even talk to people about this,
so posting here has helped, and i'd like to thank
you all for your kind words, advice, and support. I
might reach out to Misha when the dust is settled,
but I think I'll need to build up some courage
for that. And we have a second update four months later.
Speaker 1 (42:27):
Four months later.
Speaker 2 (42:30):
I'm afraid because what happened that warranted a whole update
four months later? Maybe like just like chatting with Misha.
Hopefully it's just a nice little Misha chat. Maybe maybe
her and me Sha become bessies. That would be great.
That would be an awesome update.
Speaker 1 (42:46):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (42:47):
Yeah, and they live happily ever after, I hope. So
let's get into this second update. Let's see it with
much mystery and intrigue.
Speaker 1 (42:56):
Hey, it's John here.
Speaker 2 (42:57):
We're gonna get back to this episode, but a quick
three minute break with Asper sponsors. Hello, everyone, I just
thought i'd give an update to my situation since I
still get messages of support on here every week or so.
You'll be glad to hear that I was able to
get the annulment and I didn't have to go through
a messy.
Speaker 1 (43:13):
Divorce with Jim. Let's freaking god, let's go.
Speaker 2 (43:17):
I struck an agreement with him that I wouldn't tell
a soul about his cheating or what happened with Misha,
and would leave him alone forever if he agreed to
the annulment and got it over quickly.
Speaker 1 (43:27):
I did end up sticking to my.
Speaker 2 (43:28):
End of the bargain, but it ended up not mattering
because it turns out his brother is quite the gossip
and let the cat out of the bag over Christmas
after getting into an argument with Jim while wasted nice
in justice as a way of being served. Yeah, it
was JD JD. Is that the Justice Department or Jack
(43:48):
Daniels boom nice one. A lot of Jim's family were
pissed and asked for the money they contributed to his
half of the wedding fund. Ooo.
Speaker 1 (44:02):
Fair enough.
Speaker 2 (44:03):
Yeah, and some of our mutual friends have cut contact
with him. A couple of our friends plastered everything on
Facebook and humiliated him, and it was interesting to watch
the back and forth between them and Jim. Honestly, I
lived in our apartment and covered the rent on my
own while he lived at his parents until the lease
ended back in January. Now, I'm living with my dad
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and I planned to stay here for a while and
take things easy. In January, I also tried reaching out
to Misha via text, asking if she'd like to meet
up for coffee to talk about anything. I never had
a response directly from her, but a few days later
I got a call from her number and it was
her boyfriend on the other end.
Speaker 1 (44:41):
Oh.
Speaker 2 (44:42):
He said they were both sorry for what had happened
to me and that they hope I'm doing well, but
that Misha thought it was best to cease any contact,
as this whole ordeal had made her anxiety and mental
health problems spiral and had landed her back in therapy.
Speaker 1 (44:56):
Yeah, yeah, she she doesn't have to be involved. Well,
you know, I totally respect that.
Speaker 2 (45:02):
Mental health issues signed. If I'm Misha, I'm like, no,
I'm not talking to you.
Speaker 1 (45:06):
Leave me alone.
Speaker 2 (45:07):
Yeah, no, I don't want to say anything, one hundred percent.
Leave me out of it. I was pulled into this.
I did literally nothing, and all this crap happened though.
Speaker 1 (45:17):
I'm out.
Speaker 2 (45:18):
I don't want to really talk to you, and I
don't feel you shouldn't really want to talk to me.
Speaker 1 (45:21):
Just leave, leave, yeah, leave, Yeah.
Speaker 2 (45:26):
I did ask her why she never told me that
Jim had messaged her the day after the wedding, and
her boyfriend confessed that he advised her not to get involved.
His direct words were, I'm sorry to sound rude, but
it's not her circus exactly.
Speaker 1 (45:40):
Hmm.
Speaker 2 (45:40):
I'm a little disappointed that she doesn't want to talk
to me, but I get where she's coming from, and
I can't force her to do anything. To be honest,
I think she's been looking for a way to divorce
herself from our hometown and the people she and Jim
knew back in high school for a while now. As
for me, I'm also in therapy as I want to
sort through these feelings and get back to feeling good
about myself again before I even think about entering the
(46:02):
dating scene.
Speaker 1 (46:04):
Yeah, but you.
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Speaker 1 (46:25):
Birth of listening hours. Wow, Wow, wow, very nice.
Speaker 2 (46:30):
We do have a little bit a little story here.
Do we have any thoughts, Sophia, I think we.
Speaker 3 (46:37):
Have at least five minutes verth the thought. Oh, I
think you should tell your thoughts.
Speaker 1 (46:44):
We have so many thoughts.
Speaker 2 (46:46):
Granted, you know, Jim has exposed himself to be the
like quintessential nice guy, the guy who is so insecure,
you know, cheating at the drop of the hat, who
knows what else he's done in the passive relationship. This
is just like recently would have got with me chef.
(47:07):
She led him like it's it's it's just everything he does,
he's inverse of mindus. Touch everything he touches turns to dukie.
So I think we need to take him where the
dukie is, and that is the grbagio, and just toss
him out, let him leave him behind, leave him behind,
(47:28):
don't get bitter, don't get nasty, Just leave him in
the pad, get your therapy, gets you, get your yourself
love on, and just just keep on trucking.
Speaker 1 (47:37):
That's what I think. I just I agree.
Speaker 2 (47:39):
I agree with all of that. Do you have any
idea the raw willpower I had to channel to not
cut you off after you said Jim exposed himself not
immediately well, yeah, he exposed himself, except he exposed actually
some random guy when he sent those pictures to those
Instagram models.
Speaker 1 (48:00):
I'm very proud of you.
Speaker 2 (48:01):
I held that in dude, you christed as long as possible.
I still let it out now that I was perfect timing,
I'm powerless.
Speaker 1 (48:07):
It was perfect. I still I'm very proud of you.
Speaker 2 (48:11):
A prisoner of my own insane twisted mine of.
Speaker 1 (48:15):
His own brain.
Speaker 2 (48:17):
Okay, but you know what, We're ready, Let's get into it.
We're ready, We're ready to We're ready to finish this story.
You have fished the story yet, so buckle in.
Speaker 3 (48:25):
I thought I thought you had fished the story.
Speaker 2 (48:27):
Huh, you can go what perfect, Sophia. We're gonna, We're
gonna iron these out. I've also been firm about ending
friendships with anyone who's taken Jim's side, as I don't
want him finding his way into my life again. So far,
he stayed away from me and hasn't tried to contact me,
although his mom reached out over Christmas to ask me
(48:48):
if there was any chance I might forgive Jim and
take him back, as in her opinion, you too are
just meant to be together. No, imagine she calls Jim
and she's like, look, it made aware about what your
mommy thought about this situation. Now that mommy's told me
she wants us to be together, I guess I'll give
it a shot. No, Mommy, No, I didn't respond to her,
(49:12):
and I've blocked her on pretty much everything.
Speaker 1 (49:14):
Now there we go.
Speaker 2 (49:15):
Thank you again for all your kind words and support.
I'm certain leaving that a hole would have been harder
for me had I not had hundreds of comments backing
me up. And that is the end of that story.
Positive social proof. We love to see it. You do, good, frope,
we do. Get away from all of the madness, get
(49:38):
far away and live your life. What are you gonna do?
Speaker 1 (49:42):
What are you gonna do?
Speaker 2 (49:42):
You don't even need to pick it apart anymore.
Speaker 1 (49:44):
It's a mess. We already know. We already know it's
a mess.
Speaker 2 (49:47):
You should high five yourself every day like I dodged
that bullet.
Speaker 1 (49:51):
Let's freaking go. Yeah, thank god. The annulment was good.
Speaker 2 (49:55):
It was easy. My goodness, we did it. But ladies
and gentlemen, that's the end of that episode. It is
obviously wow. Well, and you know what, you know what
they say when it's the end of the episode.
Speaker 1 (50:05):
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Dude, you mess literally I totally threw me off totally
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Speaker 1 (50:19):
Yeah. I don't know why. It's just like totally.
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Speaker 1 (00:15):
Hmmm.
Speaker 2 (00:16):
My husband's ex wore her wedding dress to my wedding
because I asked her to.
Speaker 1 (00:20):
It's the bride for thee and the bride for me.
Ooh who.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
Last weekend, my husband twenty seven male and I thirty female.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
Got married.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
Congrats, ingrats. It was a great wedding and I had
a great time leading up to it.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
There's only been one thing that's left a sour taste
in my mouth.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
It's all the sour candy I ate. Oh. By the way,
this comes from Wedding Dress Throw eleven and if you
want to submit your own stories, go to the r
slash Okay Storytime supreddit. So growing up, I always wanted
a big princess wedding. I know some people see those
as tacky and immature, but it was always my dream.
You know what, you deserve your dream, Upey.
Speaker 1 (00:56):
As part of this, the theme of the wedding was
ballroom nice.
Speaker 2 (01:01):
Just a room for ball I feel like I feel
like that's being like. My flavor for this cake is vanilla,
that's what it gives. And I told everyone to wear
the nicest things they owned, and told the women in
particular to try to outshine me.
Speaker 1 (01:16):
Quote unquote put some ice us in the chat.
Speaker 2 (01:18):
I even went as far as telling the married women
to wear their wedding dresses. Okay, this is an interesting
thing to do.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
We're all getting married.
Speaker 2 (01:29):
We are getting married.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
We are getting married, all fifty of us. I do, no, no, no,
we do. Oh god. I didn't care about being out dressed.
Speaker 2 (01:36):
Instead, all I wanted was to fulfill the aesthetic in
my head that I had for the wedding, which included
everyone else looking nothing less than extravagant and no before
people ask, I don't regret my decision. It was really
special to see my mom, aunts and bridesmaids all in
their own dresses on my big day. It kind of
felt like they were passing the torch onto me. Then
(01:58):
I really enjoyed that experienence. Now onto my husband's friend.
My husband has this friend I will call Kate twenty
seven female. Kate is my husband's childhood friend and first love,
first love is at the wedding.
Speaker 1 (02:14):
Oh oh no, does Kate have a wedding dress?
Speaker 2 (02:18):
Uh? Oh oh, it's too perfect. My husband comes from
a small town and the majority of his friends he's
known since adolescens, and their senior year of high school,
Kate and my husband got engaged. There we go so
ex fiance too. So it's an ex fiance at your wedding.
She's gonna probably wear the dress she bought to marry
your husband. That's gonna be totally fun. Ooh fun, right,
(02:42):
how do I feel about that?
Speaker 3 (02:44):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (02:45):
Do we love that? Is that the greatest thing ever?
Speaker 2 (02:47):
Oh? Now, this is kind of normal where they're from
to get engaged in high school a senior year. They
called off the wedding and never went.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
Through with it. It was mutual.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
They felt they were growing up too fast and wanted
to slow down. The calling off the wedding was the
end of the relationship, but they stayed friends. I knew
this information prior to getting with my husband and never
had a problem or felt jealous because I'm friends with
a few exes myself. In fact, two of my exes.
Speaker 1 (03:16):
Were invited to our wedding.
Speaker 2 (03:17):
Okay, we're having an ex off who can invite the
most exes and ex fiance They just got confused about
what X mass was supposed to be.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
Oh God is mass?
Speaker 2 (03:27):
No? Mass isn't about weddings, is it. I'm looking at
our resident Catholic.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
That's a choice. Yeah, mass is just true. There's no
no wedding.
Speaker 2 (03:35):
Wait what there's not a mass for weddings.
Speaker 3 (03:38):
There is the ceremony is the well they called that
a mask. No it's not well no, yeah, you wouldn't
be a mass. It would be a ceremony and hanging it.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
Okay, I was trying to see if my joke made
sense or not. It still doesn't.
Speaker 2 (03:49):
No, because I said an X mass like the mass,
like the mass being because there's all these ex'es and
it was at their wedding. But a wedding's not a mass,
and I don't know that because I'm not the pope.
Speaker 3 (04:00):
Sorry, all right, it is a ceremony in the church
though sometimes.
Speaker 2 (04:03):
Yes, Okay, point being, what are we doing? Dakota is
not the pope? News flash?
Speaker 1 (04:08):
Why are we making our wedding on extreme mode? Why
are we doing this?
Speaker 2 (04:13):
We have to invite all of our exes, Dakota, that's
the only attendees available.
Speaker 1 (04:16):
Yes, that's what matters most.
Speaker 2 (04:18):
That's all we're doing. One of my exes was my
bridemaid I'm by, and the other was invited as a
guest along with his current girlfriend. I've never had a
problem with Kate being my husband's ex, but I have
had a problem with Kate as a person, as she
is kind of witchy and gossips like she is still
in high school. A few examples of this are just
(04:38):
a month into our relationship, she confessed to my husband
she still has some lingering feelings well, to which he
responded that they had already tried and it didn't work.
He said that if she brought it up again, he
would cut her off out of respect for me. I
wasn't that mad at the time, because I understood they
had a long history and my relationship with him was
just starting out, and she owed it to herself to
(04:58):
see if there was anything still there before it was
too late. Okay, sorry I was. I was like, she
told you she still had feelings for your fiance, but
right before you got married. She's still going to a
wedding a few months into the relationship, but still this
was this was before that, but it's like immediately like, okay,
so we should like really take some time and space
(05:18):
so that you can like just get back to zero
with you, right, Yeah, not just like oh, like that's
just Kate being Kate.
Speaker 3 (05:28):
It's just.
Speaker 2 (05:30):
Why are we making our wedding about everyone we used
to date? Because it's got to be Chahan and Kate
plus eight of your exes two thousands TV reference that's
mine early two thousands Lifestyle TV Shemstone. However, after she
was turned down, her attitude towards me changed to fake
nice and started calling me things like cougar or asking
(05:53):
me how I was expected to make a relationship work,
as I want to be an anesthesiologist, which would require
long work hours. God forbid a woman work and be married.
God forbid a woman be a hard working antas caesiologist.
Speaker 1 (06:06):
This is illegal.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
She would also tell my husband's whole friend group how
she doesn't like my loud personality, and when I confronted
her about all those things, she would just say, oh,
it was just a joke, or you're so loud. I
felt like you would just go off, go off?
Speaker 1 (06:21):
What does that? What does that even mean?
Speaker 2 (06:23):
I don't I just don't like the thing of It's like, No,
that thing I said about your personality was just a joke, Yeah,
I said, without you around, exactly, It's not a joke.
Speaker 1 (06:34):
You're just insulting me.
Speaker 2 (06:36):
It's like if you said to your close, close friend
that you're wearing circus pants. But but it's to be fair,
that's not what I said.
Speaker 3 (06:47):
I said to be fair, Sorry, Son, I mean to
be fair. You were in the room.
Speaker 2 (06:53):
What do you mean.
Speaker 3 (06:53):
John was in the room when you said those pants
look like circus pants.
Speaker 2 (06:56):
Right in Here's where I said they were pants, you
said downstairs. I did not call them circus pants when
I first saw them.
Speaker 1 (07:05):
I was in the room.
Speaker 3 (07:06):
You said. Yes, John was in there with his pants,
and you said those pants look like circus pants. John
didn't hear you. I heard you, and I said those
pants are cool.
Speaker 2 (07:14):
No, John was outside. Christian heard me say they were pants.
Speaker 3 (07:19):
I heard you say, and John was there. John didn't hear.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
Well, we'll never know the truth. We will never know.
Speaker 2 (07:25):
We'll never know other than either way, John didn't hear that.
John's pants rock all right. And i'd him for those
pants because I've also always envied the pins drip pants.
I had a pair I had to get rid of
drop some pinstriped pants in the challities a gentleman. There's
more crap, but if I typed at all, I would
(07:48):
never get to the point. Now, Kate has her own
husband that i'll call Gerald. Kate and Gerald both make
average in terms of finances as they're both teachers. Kate
teaches kindergarten and Gerald teaches scene years. They got married
last year. Okay, so Kate is married on.
Speaker 1 (08:03):
A teacher salary.
Speaker 2 (08:04):
Kate wasn't able to afford the most luxurious wedding dress
out there, but I always had the impression that she
was happy with it. Kate does have another wedding dress
from when she was going to marry my husband that
her dad paid for, who has unfortunately passed now, which
in terms of fanciness, is a bit nicer. But obviously
she didn't want to wear that dress to her own wedding. Yeah,
(08:25):
that makes sense. I was expecting Kate to wear the
wedding dress that she wore to her own wedding to ours,
But when I looked and saw her, she had the
wedding dress she was supposed to wear when she was
going to get married to my husband, Oops, Paul Ahole
or not?
Speaker 3 (08:43):
No?
Speaker 1 (08:44):
No oh?
Speaker 2 (08:45):
Is is Kate Kat the ael? No, Kate's not the
ale no oh, P asked for this? Oh p, and
that's for this? Sofiel, real quick, what's your take?
Speaker 3 (08:57):
I think that it would be hard for OP to
necessarily call her out on it, but I think it's
pretty weird. I'd probably be if I were the husband,
I'd be like, I don't know if I want to
have a relationship with you in anyway. Now to the
you know this X ex fiance.
Speaker 2 (09:15):
Yeah, yeah, but she got asked, I agree, no more
relationship with me because you want to marry me. But
whyfe He better not be mad because she expressly approved this.
We shall We're literally fifty to fifty split in chat
of now it's more of the a hill but coma
below what you think we're gonna We're gonna keep on
rolling here. So when I saw her, I immediately went
(09:38):
what the f but decided to drop it because I
didn't want a conflict on our wedding day.
Speaker 1 (09:42):
I mean, you dropped it because it's what you asked for. Sorry,
it's the last time I'll say that.
Speaker 2 (09:47):
My husband, however, was also confused on why she wore
that one and asked her about it without me even
having to tell him I was uncomfortable. She responded with, well,
your wife wanted such a big princess wedding. I thought
i'd wear this one because it follows the theme. More,
don't tell me she's upset about it. She's the one
who said, come in your nicest clothes, and this is
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my nicest dress.
Speaker 3 (10:09):
Pretty telling that. Opie hasn't said anything yet. The husband
brought it up, and then she immediately was like, oh,
to tell me your wife is upset. She wanted her
wife to be upset. Do you wanted to be upset?
Speaker 2 (10:22):
Isn't that also exactly what OPI had just said, where
it's like, Ope.
Speaker 3 (10:26):
He never expressed it. OPI never expressed it.
Speaker 2 (10:28):
Right, But the dress she was going to marry my
husband and is nicer than the one she wore.
Speaker 3 (10:34):
No, But I'm saying I'm not saying like her reasoning
is necessarily wrong. I'm saying that she said immediately the
first thing that she said to Opie's husband was, oh,
don't tell me that she's upset.
Speaker 2 (10:43):
Well, of course, of course, but she's on brand for
your theme's on the brand football.
Speaker 3 (10:50):
You're defended in so hard, Dakota.
Speaker 2 (10:53):
She didn't ask for it. I wouldn't have to. If
you love her so much, why don't you just marry
her in her dress?
Speaker 1 (11:00):
I think she's wrong for doing it.
Speaker 2 (11:01):
I don't think she's right for trying to like guilt
the husband into whatever she's trying to do. Yeah, to
worm her way back in is foolish in not going
to work, but she It'd be like if you got
mad at someone for wearing a red dress to your
wedding when you said everyone should wear red, then you're like,
why are you wearing red?
Speaker 3 (11:20):
But I think the point is that Opie hasn't said
anything yet. You know, yes, she's internally angry. She has
not told anyone that she's angry.
Speaker 2 (11:29):
Yeah wait, I'm any Wait, yeah, let's yeah, Well let's
see it. We'll see if Opie says. I feel like
I'm not allowed to be upset, even.
Speaker 1 (11:38):
Though I am. Oh, and I.
Speaker 2 (11:39):
Know that this is my fault, but the whole thing
has left a really bad taste in my mouth. I
would have never been okay with her wearing that one
if I had known she was going to And I
feel like she should have asked. I keep telling myself
it's not that big of a deal, and during the daytime,
when I'm distracted, I don't even think about it. But
I've always been a night owl and makes me feel
crappy every time I think about.
Speaker 1 (12:00):
It before I fall fall asleep.
Speaker 2 (12:02):
Wow, this is this is staying staying on Opie shows
have looked real good.
Speaker 1 (12:08):
Sorry you got outshined out. Oh that's tough.
Speaker 2 (12:12):
So now I'm here complaining on Reddit like a loser and.
Speaker 1 (12:15):
I feel pathetic. Oh I don't say that, OPI.
Speaker 2 (12:17):
But we do have an update or about halfway through
this story, but many more in this episode, Dakota, it
is on her mind every time she goes to sleep.
Do we reach out and and say something if you're
Opie to who to a past version of myself? Okay,
and I go, Hey, first of all, let's not invite
(12:40):
anyone's ex fiancee to the wedding. First move. First move,
didn't marry you, I'm marrying this other person. You're not
You're not coming, Yeah person, I was going to marry yep.
Speaker 1 (12:51):
And yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:52):
Then also, if you make wear your wedding dress part
of the dress code and then one of the ex
fiancees in question, where's her beautiful wedding dress she was
going to use for your husband? And then you go,
I feel bad. You need to just look in the mirror.
That's what you need to do. Look in the mirror
(13:13):
and go I did this, and slowly chip away at
that until you're okay with it.
Speaker 1 (13:19):
What say you, Sophia?
Speaker 3 (13:20):
I think that yeah, maybe maybe if we had had
a little bit of hindsight, could have maybe seen this coming. However,
I think trying to be a solution oriented, I think
that you should talk to your husband about this and say, yeah,
that was weird, right, that was strange that she brought
(13:41):
up that, Oh does it bother your wife before I
even mentioned anything? And maybe maybe we don't continue a
relationship with this person.
Speaker 2 (13:50):
I do think that it's not a huge logical gap
for her to be like, is your wife upset? How
have the weird wedding where all these women are wearing
wedding dresses and you're her ex fiance? Like? Is she upset?
Speaker 3 (14:02):
But if it's not a huge logical gap, then why
didn't she ask before? Why didn't she make Because she's.
Speaker 1 (14:10):
Like she's like, I'm sorry.
Speaker 3 (14:12):
I think it's pretty I think it is pretty self
explanatory that you don't wear the dress that.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
You were gonna wear with, of course.
Speaker 3 (14:20):
The groom of a different wedding.
Speaker 2 (14:22):
In every other wedding story we've read, this would be
immediately the most unhinged thing you could ever do to dress.
Speaker 1 (14:29):
Invitation said, hey, by the way, wear your wedding dress.
She's using that.
Speaker 2 (14:32):
She's using that as a tool, I think to be
able to wear the other wedding dress, which again on.
Speaker 1 (14:39):
Tape, it is that's what she's saying. I know he
said that.
Speaker 2 (14:44):
Oh p agrees, but like put yourself in Kate shoes.
Would you be like, Okay, yes, I do technically have
a nicer dress, but I'm not gonna wear the dress
that I was gonna marry her now husband in right,
Like true, I'll just do the wedding pretty bold. However,
I would just not be inviting ex fiances to the wedding.
Speaker 1 (15:04):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (15:04):
It's like uh also that yes, yes, it's like uh,
it's it's uh.
Speaker 1 (15:14):
I can't even think of an example.
Speaker 2 (15:15):
It's it's jumping in the mud puddle and then going
where'd all this mud come from? You signed up for this.
Speaker 3 (15:22):
I do think it's a one point I will make
is this is not her fiance or ex fiance. This
is her husband's ex fiance.
Speaker 2 (15:29):
So look, I also want to make it her. I'm
seeing comments and people are like, I'm not understanding her
underhanded mentality.
Speaker 1 (15:37):
I do, I get it. I don't.
Speaker 2 (15:38):
I don't.
Speaker 1 (15:39):
I don't approve of her doing it.
Speaker 2 (15:42):
But it's like I can't call her an a hole
because it was literally the uniform.
Speaker 3 (15:46):
Yeah I can call her an a hole.
Speaker 2 (15:48):
Yeah, you know, I think I will go ahle because
she's using she's using the rules as a weapon. Yeah,
I think that's that's what it is, even though again
technically it was uh technical okay, morally not okay. Uh
someone said in chat yeah, I think, uh yeah. But
it's hard, but I don't think. I don't think, Opie,
(16:09):
it's hard to like, let OPI get mad at her,
I guess qurot unquote, because not let OPI get mad
at her. But like she did follow the rules, so
you literally set up like a crap buffet for yourself.
And he said, why does this why does this taste
so bad?
Speaker 1 (16:25):
It's you did it?
Speaker 3 (16:26):
To be fair, she didn't specifically say everyone wear a
wedding dress. She said, outshine me.
Speaker 1 (16:30):
Yeah, and she was like, do it wear your wedding dress?
Speaker 3 (16:32):
Yeah? And she said, yeah, married people wear your wedding
dress and that's.
Speaker 1 (16:35):
The shiniest dress.
Speaker 2 (16:36):
Sure, we have an update, ladies and gentlemen, let's dive
into it.
Speaker 1 (16:40):
Hello, guys, here's the update.
Speaker 2 (16:42):
So I talked to my husband about it this morning,
and when I brought it up, he immediately let out
a sigh of relief. He said, I didn't know how
to bring it up because you didn't seem bothered. But
when I saw her in that dress, I thought it
was very weird that she wore that one. He went
on to say that he even considered asking her to
leave because he thought it was rude. But because I
had no reaction to the dress, he thought that I
either didn't care or didn't recognize it.
Speaker 1 (17:03):
But either way it is. I do wonder how she
recognized it.
Speaker 2 (17:06):
But besides the point, either way, if I wasn't if
I wasn't bothered, he didn't want to disturb my peace
of mind by punting her out. We discussed and we're
going to have a talk with her, not just about
the dress, but about.
Speaker 1 (17:18):
Her treatment of me in general.
Speaker 2 (17:20):
I'm sorry. This is just so ridiculous to me because
imagine you do kick her out for wearing that dress,
and then the conversation becomes OPI really kicked her out
because she outshined her. She really asked to be outshined,
and then kicked out the girl who outshined her. She
lose no matter what.
Speaker 3 (17:38):
Out shining and wearing the dress that you were gonna
wear with her Beyoncet.
Speaker 2 (17:42):
Bottom line, if there's any situation in which any of
your wedding goers wearing their wedding dress is going to
actually upset you instead of be like this cool little
fun theme thing that you're doing, don't do it, or
don't invite your husband's ex fiance.
Speaker 1 (18:06):
But we have to invite all of our exes. Yours
have to do it squarely. Your fault. I cannot be
mad at Katie.
Speaker 2 (18:14):
I can't.
Speaker 1 (18:15):
I can be mad at Katie to go ahead.
Speaker 3 (18:18):
I can be mad.
Speaker 1 (18:19):
I think I'm a little a goofy. She's a goofy
for doing this. That's a goofy move. It was on
the invitation. It is true. It was on the invitation.
This is she followed the rules.
Speaker 2 (18:30):
She follow the rules lay gentlemen, and explain that going forward,
she will not be a friend in our lives.
Speaker 1 (18:34):
Cutting off good.
Speaker 2 (18:35):
After this talk, I decided to let it go and
focus on my new marriage. This was a small thing,
and now after I've talked that with my husband, I
feel kind of silly.
Speaker 1 (18:43):
I let it bother me this much.
Speaker 2 (18:45):
I'm at peace she will no longer be in our lives,
and that is enough for me. Someone said, you gave
her the chance to wear the dress her dad got
her and gave her as a gift. That was kind
of a huh moment for me, because no matter what
her intentions were, that is true, and I'm glad that.
Speaker 1 (19:02):
She got to have that moment.
Speaker 2 (19:04):
Oh, I see, so it was kind of like a
oh moment. She's like, oh wait, I guess that is.
Speaker 3 (19:10):
Kind of special, huh.
Speaker 2 (19:13):
Which, okay, Yeah, whatever whatever you need to do to
get to okay with this is whatever you need to do.
Speaker 1 (19:19):
Yeah, I guess.
Speaker 2 (19:20):
I guess that's because her dad passed away and it's like, oh,
I'm wearing this, Yeah, he gave me right.
Speaker 1 (19:25):
End of update.
Speaker 2 (19:26):
The rest of this is just answering questions and explaining
what the wedding looked like we do have. More commonly
asked question is how did we even know what the
dress looks like? I said it in a few comments,
but I've seen it a couple of times before in
her closet, usually when my friends, said I was wondering,
not too Usually, when my husband's friends group hangs out,
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the guys all get ready at one of their places
and all the girls get ready at one of our places.
Then we all meet up to wherever we're going, whether
that's a pub crawl, a concert, a music festival, et cetera,
et cetera. Kate hosts pretty regularly, and it's during those
times that I've seen it in her closet while she
looks for something to wear. And when she got married
to Gerald, she put her other wedding dress right next
to the high school one asked for my husband, I
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asked him about that today and he said when they
broke up, Kate asked if he wanted to if he
wanted to see the dress, since there was no point
in hiding anymore, and he said yes, wow, and he wait,
he remembered that dress from like fifteen years ago from
seeing it once, must have been pretty stunning.
Speaker 1 (20:28):
Is that suspicious chet? Now that suspicious chat?
Speaker 2 (20:33):
I think not?
Speaker 1 (20:34):
I think maybe chat? What do we think?
Speaker 2 (20:37):
And then when they told their friends the news, the
friends also wanted to see the dress, so she put
it on for them too, and ladies and gentlemen, Obi
said that the updates were over.
Speaker 1 (20:46):
Well we've got update number two.
Speaker 2 (20:49):
Ohp he's a dirty little fibber.
Speaker 1 (20:50):
Ooh little liar, pretty little liar.
Speaker 2 (20:53):
Hi. So I don't know if anyone still cares or
still remembers of my post, but I thought i'd make
another update here Before I go in, I would just
like to make a disclaimer that these are all things
my husband and I heard through mutual friends slash connections,
so who knows how much of his information has been
dramatized for gossip. Hearsay. We've got hearsay, We've got a
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whole lot. Let's go through the grape vine. Organic When
my husband talked to I think I called her Kate
in this post. She reacted as expected and started calling
me a jealous and controlling wife to anyone who would listen.
We didn't let her bother us, though neither I nor
my husband knew this, but apparently her Kate and her
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husband Gerald have been struggling for quite some time and
have been going to couples therapy. Ooh, so did Kate
see this as her like, absolute hail Mary, just wear
the dress to their wedding and she's so stunning that
Opie's husband is like, I just gotta marry you right now.
I just got a dump. I got a dump op
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on the spot, and just marry you because you look
so gosh darned delicious. Dude. She simply followed the instructions. Okay, okay, okay,
here's an example, right, Okay, you throw a party, you
say everybody bring your dog. Everybody bring your dog, bring
your bring bring all your dogs. Okay, everybody brings their dogs,
and all their dogs are maybe a little small. They're
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like a little small, medium sized dogs. And then you
have a friend who brings like the great Bernard dog,
just a massive dog, big boy. Everyone's like, whoa look
at this person pulling up with their dog like everybody
else was told to do. Just because it's a different dog. Now,
this person's wrong. And regardless of if the vibe of
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a bunch of chihuahuas and one Saint Bernard makes any
sense or not. You asked for this, so I cannot
in clear conscience, look clearly, she's being she's being scummy.
It's a scumbag move by Katie. It is so I
don't know. Again, look in that mirror, gonna look find
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who's responsible. That's where you look.
Speaker 1 (22:59):
I would say she was she like basically that had happened.
I'll give you that. She seshat in the stage for
it to happen. For sure.
Speaker 2 (23:05):
Dude, if I'm gonna if I have an ex fiance,
she's not coming to my actual wedding.
Speaker 1 (23:10):
I don't care how long it's been. She's not gonna
be there. That happen.
Speaker 2 (23:14):
No, especially if the wardrobe is where your wedding dress.
We shall see, we shall see what happens to Kate
and opee dang it. When my husband cut her off,
Gerald sat down and asked him if he really thought
that Kate wore that dress out of spite, and my
husband answered truthfully and said, yes, we thought. Gerald asked
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because he thought we were being ridiculous, But I guess
he was wondering the same thing himself, because he brought
up that whole wedding dress thing in their therapy oh,
now we're teaming up with old Gerald. Carold spelled in
the most annoying way I've ever seen Carol True. In
their most recent session, it's being said that Kate finally
admitted that she always thought of my husband as the
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one guy who got away, and that she wore the
dress out of spite and not just because it was
her fanciest or because of sentimental values. Shocking. We figured
it out. We've got it, ladies and gentlemen, Look, yes,
that's the intent. And still doesn't matter to me what
it still doesn't matter. She could have chose the other
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trip because because you could have just make through the ale.
But if if you if she showed up and she
was uninvited, a hole, If this wasn't part of the
the vibe, a hole.
Speaker 3 (24:30):
I'm gonna I'm going to change your little your little examples.
This is like if you throw a party and everyone
invites the little chuhuahuas and you have a Saint Bernard
that you know likes to eat up little chihuahuas.
Speaker 1 (24:44):
You're like, ooh, this dog loves.
Speaker 3 (24:45):
To eat up little chihuahuas. And and then you bring
the dog and it eats a bottle little chihuahuas. And
then you're like, you told me to bring.
Speaker 2 (24:53):
The dog, so what if on the instructions it said,
I bet you think your big dog can eat our
but it can't. I dare you to try. And then
you show up with your saint Bernard and everyone goes,
WHOA look at this monster. Dude. I'm sorry, that's not
what it said. You wrote it on the invitation though
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she said where your best dress and outshine me.
Speaker 3 (25:16):
I think it would have been like bringing your biggest dogs.
Speaker 2 (25:20):
So regardless, dog is fine, regardless of Katie's intent at
this point, which I agree is.
Speaker 1 (25:25):
Wrong and bad.
Speaker 2 (25:28):
The fact that the entire set up was do this thing.
To me, it's just don't invite your husband's ex fiance
because then you know she's gonna.
Speaker 1 (25:37):
Wear a dress.
Speaker 3 (25:38):
You agree with that part.
Speaker 1 (25:39):
Like, so what are we doing?
Speaker 2 (25:40):
I'm more upset at the people who set this whole
thing up, rather than the chaotic little gremlin in the
mix that we all knew, we all should have known
was gonna do something like this. But why did we
give them the silver platter to do it on and
then get mad about it? All?
Speaker 3 (25:56):
Right? Keep going?
Speaker 1 (25:57):
You invited the vampire into your house.
Speaker 2 (26:00):
What it is you invited the vampire into your home
and you're saying, why is the vampire training the blood
out of my veins?
Speaker 1 (26:07):
Well, we've got more to this story.
Speaker 2 (26:09):
Me go. Her husband, Gerald then asked her if she
would go back to my husband if he if he
decided to divorce me. She said no, but apparently she
hesitated and Gerald knew that she was lying. Again, that
is what my husband and I have been told. So
I don't know how much of that is accurate, but
it's being said from multiple people that that is what
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Gerald is telling. Anyone who will ask WHOA Gerald's spilling
the secrets, Jerald spilling beans, dude, Jarald spill in the jar.
What I do know for sure is that Gerald is
filing for divorce. Oh no, He's already served her and
is taking her to court in a few months as
she's trying to fight to have ownership of some of
his assets. Since this all came out, I've had a
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load of apologies from people who said rude things about
me or stop being friends with me. After my husband
and I agreed to cut off Kate. Most people who
had known her for a while believed what she was
saying about me and no longer wanted to associate themselves
with me after causing unnecessary high school drama. Their tunes
have obviously changed, but I'm not interested in forming relationships
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with anyone who gossiped or didn't believe me. The whole
thing was so dramatic for no reason. That always really
bothers me, because it's like get in front of it.
Then I don't know, it's like being like, well, I
just won't say anything, and then everyone gets all mad
and upset and it's like, yeah, because you should have
said something.
Speaker 1 (27:32):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (27:32):
It's tough though, because it's like sometimes you're like, Okay,
I don't want to, like I don't even even though
they wronged me, I don't want to like put them
on blasts.
Speaker 1 (27:40):
I just want to like move on. And but then
the other person goes and just reaching out to be
a d MS. Yeah, you don't make it a war,
a public war or anything.
Speaker 2 (27:48):
You just like just hey, you just like some level
of damage control, because just all pure passiveness is like yeah,
then it just gets more messed up because you let
this person run around say whatever they want. It does
run the risk of that every time it does run
the risk that. So anyways, I just thought i'd write
this for any if any of you were still curious
for more info, but onto some pictures. I'm not going
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to post any, but I will explain how it looked
for those who wanted to know. So firstly, lots of
people showed up in wedding dresses and that was absolutely beautiful.
One thing my friends from college did was a fifties
Marilyn Monroe type clam and it was a killer. One
of the staff was able to find a red carpet
and we took a bunch of black and white photos
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on them. I had about five girls whar They're Kings dresses,
which was gorgeous. Finally, some parents decided to dress their
little girls up in actual princess costumes, which I thought
was really cute. And by the way, you know what
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Speaker 1 (29:01):
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Speaker 2 (29:04):
But ladies and gentlemen, we are so close to the
finale this story, but we got way more in store
for this episode, so stay tuned.
Speaker 1 (29:11):
The guys also dressed really well too.
Speaker 2 (29:13):
One guy did a sequin tucks, quite a few went
for a rock star type suit. My husband's best man
who went for this really gorgeous red velvet tucks. And
my dress was this really shimmery, really poofy ball gown
type dress with a flower design on the veil that
I got custom made for me. Then I had it
designed where I could actually unattach the poofy part of
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the dress for the reception, and by doing that, it
turned into a long, sleek, white, shimmery dress with a
leg slit that does sound like a fire dress. And
that is it. Now describe Kate's dress. Yeah, she didn't.
Oh it was too hot. And Kate's dress was just imagine.
Really all of this just comes down to she's just
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mad that her dress was just excellent.
Speaker 1 (29:59):
She's just too hot.
Speaker 2 (30:00):
She like does eat all this stuff about like and
he's the she's the ex fiance and all this stuff.
It's like, really, she's just like, she really did look
great in that dress, and I did not like it.
Speaker 1 (30:11):
It's just undeniable. It's just unniable.
Speaker 2 (30:13):
But yes, you know what's uh the only thing it's
hotter than Kate in her dress?
Speaker 1 (30:17):
You this next story?
Speaker 2 (30:20):
I disagree. I think both of those things can be
hotter than Kate. That's right, folks. Hey's John Og host.
We're gonna get back to the stories, but a quick
free minute break of ads from our sponsors. My husband
got jealous during our wedding because of a girl from
his past.
Speaker 1 (30:37):
Uh oh, this sounds familiar.
Speaker 2 (30:39):
I twenty five female, got married to my husband, twenty
four male, Jim, a week ago after dating for two
and a half years. Jim has a friend called Misha,
twenty two female, who was invited to the wedding. He
and Misha have known each other since high school and
we're close friends. And Misha had a very obvious crush
on Jim from what he and others who know them
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have told me. By the way, this comes from user
Throwaway Wedding Night, And if you want to submit your
own stories, go to the r slash Okay storytime subreddit.
And if you know people have crushes on your partners,
don't invite them to your wedding. Ooh, so Jim told
me this after I met Misha for the first time
and confessed that he leaned into her crush and led
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her on throughout their high school years and for a
little while after before we got together, because he was
struggling with his mental health and he really liked her attention.
He seemed genuinely guilty about all of that. Because he
thought Misha was a nice girl and a good friend,
and because he showed guilt, I didn't feel the need
to bring it up or argue about it, despite thinking
it was a crappy thing to do. Plus, Misha is
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a nice girl who has never overstepped boundaries and has
been nothing but kind and friendly towards me, and I
now consider her a friend too. Misha moved away to
the city last year and has done really well for
herself and has a long term boyfriend who none of
us have met yet. So when it came to sending
wedding invites, I told her she was welcome to bring
him as her plus one.
Speaker 1 (32:00):
Is it the boyfriend from Canada? Is this the boyfriend
from camp?
Speaker 2 (32:04):
He's a boyfriend from another school across town. You guys
don't know him. So the first red flag came when
Jim was weirdly resistant to the idea of Misha bringing
her boyfriend, but he excused it on being concerned about
the number of guests we invited, and the matter was dropped.
Speaker 1 (32:21):
Sophie ainting out of Thoon over there.
Speaker 3 (32:26):
He wants to marry Mesha.
Speaker 2 (32:28):
Ooh, he wants a Misha marriage. He wants to marry Mesha,
a Mesa marriage. When the wedding day came, Misha showed
up in this beautiful dress, nothing inappropriate for a wedding,
and with her boyfriend on her arm, who I'll admit
is a very handsome guy. Think of Kit Harrington type,
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say McQueen. It's McQueen as Kit Harrington saying McQueen in
Game of Thrones.
Speaker 1 (32:57):
Anyway, Wait, who is Kit Harrington?
Speaker 3 (32:59):
Get Rington is John snow Ah.
Speaker 2 (33:01):
Yes, she's also lost weight and has a haircut that
suits her better, and I thought she looked great. We
also found out throughout the night that her boyfriend is
very successful and earns more than practically anyone else who attended.
Speaker 3 (33:13):
I bet she is that because they told you that.
Speaker 2 (33:16):
Who knows. Throughout the reception, I noticed Jim glaring at
Misha and her boyfriend. The whole time, and he was
really cold and short towards her when she came over
to congratulate us and give us a gift.
Speaker 1 (33:26):
Well, it's cold and short up north Ooh.
Speaker 2 (33:27):
Yeah, got him, I know that's right. He was also
straight up kind of rude to her boyfriend when Misha introduced.
Speaker 1 (33:34):
Us to him.
Speaker 2 (33:35):
When his mom, who has always known and liked Misha,
mentioned that she was glad Misha found a great guy
and praised her boyfriend for being so nice, jim snapped,
at least she won't be desperate and hung up on
me for the rest of her life, which I thought
was cruel and uncalled for.
Speaker 1 (33:51):
Oh god, Jimbo, what are we doing?
Speaker 3 (33:55):
What are we doing?
Speaker 1 (33:56):
Jimbo? Yeah, at least so finally get over me, I guess. Oh,
Jimmy not good.
Speaker 2 (34:03):
However, I didn't challenge him because I didn't want to
argue at my wedding. Despite the fact that he frankly
sounded bitter. The whole thing has left an awful taste
in my mouth, and I can't help but think that
Jim got jealous that Misha has found a guy who's
honestly quite a catch, who she's clearly very in love
with and is now completely over.
Speaker 1 (34:21):
Jim. We have a little half update here.
Speaker 2 (34:25):
After getting some pms from people, I decided to go
through his phone while he was napping after work, and
needless to say, this marriage is over. Whoh ooh. I'll
post a real update when I have everything sorted out.
Whoa oh, it's about to get crazed. I got okay,
So all right thoughts theories?
Speaker 1 (34:44):
I mean, maybe it's.
Speaker 2 (34:47):
The classic classic, Uh, you don't want them until you
can't have them, that's right.
Speaker 1 (34:54):
Jim was Jim's the husband's name, right, Jim? Yeah, Jim.
Speaker 2 (34:59):
Jim was just like, oh, you know, it's all good,
she can come to the wedding whatever. The second, not
only was she taken, but taken by a rich John
Snow rich John Snow.
Speaker 1 (35:11):
Uh.
Speaker 2 (35:12):
And she's also you know, she's got a better haircut
and a slimmer figgere.
Speaker 1 (35:19):
Dude, I mean, Jim's Jim's a whack ball for this.
Speaker 2 (35:23):
And I wonder what he said. Do you think he
sent desperation texts? You think he sent like messages to Misha,
like I saw you and I realized that actually I've
always been in love with you on my whole life.
Speaker 1 (35:34):
I think I think it's gonna be like, yeah, I'll
leave her for you. Ooh yeah, ooh yeah. Okay, I'm
calling it.
Speaker 2 (35:40):
I'm calling it all right, let's let's get We got
some comments stuck in my mind. Seventy seven says it's
giving bitter. Can't imagine how that must have been for you.
Says a lot about his character To be honest op
he says it felt a lot like watching a kid
get upset at another kid for playing with a toy
they personally never wanted to play with in the first place,
if that makes any sense, And I'm just gonna go
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right to the update here we go.
Speaker 1 (36:03):
Oh boy.
Speaker 2 (36:03):
Pretty much the day after my original post, I got
some PMS from people suggesting that I go through my
husband Jim's phone to see if he and me show
were truly just friends before this and that nothing romantic
happened between them that would explain his reaction.
Speaker 1 (36:17):
At the wedding.
Speaker 2 (36:18):
Mmm.
Speaker 1 (36:19):
He always takes.
Speaker 2 (36:19):
A forty five minute nap after work, and so I
used that as my opportunity to swipe his phone from
where it was charging on his desk so that I
could look through it. I've seen him put in this
passcode a ton of time, so that wasn't an issue. Ope,
now you're the a hole.
Speaker 1 (36:34):
Uh oh, you snooping.
Speaker 2 (36:35):
You're betraying a man in his most sacred hour, nap time,
nappy time.
Speaker 1 (36:43):
Clearly, I'm just kidding.
Speaker 2 (36:44):
But if you feel like you got a snoop, there's
already there's already bigger problems.
Speaker 1 (36:50):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (36:51):
I didn't find anything in his text messages with her,
but I know that Jim goes on Instagram a lot,
so I checked there too. The immediate red flag was
that he used an app lock that required a passcode
to access Instagram. But the dumbbutt used the same pass
code that he uses to unlock his phone, so I
got into it right away. And what would you know,
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I go to his messages with Misha and find messages
from him the morning after our wedding, telling her how
beautiful she'd looked that night, how much he'd missed her,
how he felt that her boyfriend being there spoiled his
opportunity to catch up with her, and that he was
desperate to meet up with her.
Speaker 1 (37:31):
Oh dude.
Speaker 2 (37:32):
Misha never replied to these messages, and he sent some
more to her later that day. Oh no, no, I
thought I thought that that was gonna be it, but
it's gonna be worse. Oh man, okay, How'm ready being right?
Never felt so terrible?
Speaker 1 (37:46):
Right?
Speaker 2 (37:48):
Just you open the phone with all these messages on
the screen, you can smell the desperation oozing from the pixels.
Speaker 1 (37:56):
I don't like it.
Speaker 2 (37:59):
I won't get into what he said because they were
very personal insults that were frankly just gross. But just
think about the kind of stuff you would read on
that nice guy's subreddit. Misha left him on red and
when I clicked on her account, it appears that she's
blocked him. I scrolled through their messages quite far back,
and I believe nothing romantic has happened between them. Yeah.
I think you can believe that just based on how
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Misha reacted yep, which was immediate.
Speaker 1 (38:22):
Oh ooh, blocked, blocked, blocked book.
Speaker 2 (38:26):
I wish that was all, But looking into his other
conversations on Instagram, I found that he's been messaging other
girls on there. They seemed like aspiring Instagram model types
from our area. Do you click on one of those ads?
There's hot local aspiring Instagram models types in your area.
Speaker 1 (38:45):
They want to talk.
Speaker 2 (38:46):
To you click three weird laws that aspiring Instagram models
in your area are going to follow. Also, do you
want to meet up with them? Most of these conversations
were just him shooting his shot and getting left on red,
but others had evolved into flirting, and two of them
resulted in spicy texts, Oh god. And the most embarrassing
part of it all the noodles he was sending to
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these women weren't even of him. I know what his
body looks like, and he doesn't have chisel dabs and isn't.
Speaker 1 (39:15):
That well and down? Oh my god. Wow, bro needs
a lot of help.
Speaker 2 (39:22):
Dang dude, bros so pathetic, He's become pathetological. Okay, wait
a second, I have to ask this very quickly. What
is worse him actually sending mudes of himself or using
someone else? I think funny enough using someone else.
Speaker 1 (39:41):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (39:41):
If I'm like a partner, I'm like, yeah, my partner
doesn't even have it going on enough to send pictures
of himself to these women. Not only is he cheating
on me, but he's even insecure about cheating on me. Yeah,
Like that is double double bad. Hana says, it's just
getting so sad. Like, yeah, this is just this is
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just sad.
Speaker 1 (40:05):
Golly.
Speaker 2 (40:06):
No, at least you won't have to have a this
guy is your husband anymore.
Speaker 1 (40:10):
Yep.
Speaker 2 (40:10):
So I think he must have found a man's profile
on some adult website and used those pictures and just
cropped the face out. These two conversations happened in the
past six months. I ended up texting his mom and
his brother from my phone, asking him to come and
pick him up from the apartment, and then I went
to wake him up. I told him that I knew
about the girls he was messaging on Instagram and that
he needed to pack a bag and get out before
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I started throwing his stuff onto the street and causing
a scene. He started crying and begging me not to
remove him from our house and swore that they were
just messages and that he would never actually cheat on me. Dude,
but I don't believe him for a second. You've already
cheated my guy. You've already done it. I think you're clear,
(40:55):
like aching desire to cheat on her with Misha though,
pretty clear, right, even if nothing else had happened, Yes,
just the messages you sent to Misha, Yeah, would have
been enough to be like all right, so we're not
doing this right that the Misha messages in terms of
him like reaching out, wanting to get with her, and
all the messages afterwards of like, oh if he doesn't
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like get his way, he will turn into a nasty
monster baby boy. So I'm all the way out.
Speaker 1 (41:26):
It's an over me dog Deskostin.
Speaker 2 (41:28):
Then he had the nerve to tell me that he
didn't want me to tell anyone else about what he'd done,
but I had left the room and started ignoring him.
By that point he left with his mom and brother
and is staying there now.
Speaker 1 (41:40):
From what I know.
Speaker 2 (41:41):
I've blocked him on everything for the time being, until
I'm ready to tell him that I'm seeking a moment. Thankfully,
where I'm from, you can get one almost no questions asked,
as long as you haven't been married for longer than
thirty days, and I've already looked into the process. I
haven't really left my apartment at all this week, and
I've been calling in sick to work because i don't
feel like I can face people. I'm just so embarrassed
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that I've wasted over two years on this man, and
that I married him in the first place. I don't
feel like I can even talk to people about this,
so posting here has helped, and i'd like to thank
you all for your kind words, advice, and support. I
might reach out to Misha when the dust is settled,
but I think I'll need to build up some courage
for that. And we have a second update four months later.
Speaker 1 (42:27):
Four months later.
Speaker 2 (42:30):
I'm afraid because what happened that warranted a whole update
four months later? Maybe like just like chatting with Misha.
Hopefully it's just a nice little Misha chat. Maybe maybe
her and me Sha become bessies. That would be great.
That would be an awesome update.
Speaker 1 (42:46):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (42:47):
Yeah, and they live happily ever after, I hope. So
let's get into this second update. Let's see it with
much mystery and intrigue.
Speaker 1 (42:56):
Hey, it's John here.
Speaker 2 (42:57):
We're gonna get back to this episode, but a quick
three minute break with Asper sponsors. Hello, everyone, I just
thought i'd give an update to my situation since I
still get messages of support on here every week or so.
You'll be glad to hear that I was able to
get the annulment and I didn't have to go through
a messy.
Speaker 1 (43:13):
Divorce with Jim. Let's freaking god, let's go.
Speaker 2 (43:17):
I struck an agreement with him that I wouldn't tell
a soul about his cheating or what happened with Misha,
and would leave him alone forever if he agreed to
the annulment and got it over quickly.
Speaker 1 (43:27):
I did end up sticking to my.
Speaker 2 (43:28):
End of the bargain, but it ended up not mattering
because it turns out his brother is quite the gossip
and let the cat out of the bag over Christmas
after getting into an argument with Jim while wasted nice
in justice as a way of being served. Yeah, it
was JD JD. Is that the Justice Department or Jack
(43:48):
Daniels boom nice one. A lot of Jim's family were
pissed and asked for the money they contributed to his
half of the wedding fund. Ooo.
Speaker 1 (44:02):
Fair enough.
Speaker 2 (44:03):
Yeah, and some of our mutual friends have cut contact
with him. A couple of our friends plastered everything on
Facebook and humiliated him, and it was interesting to watch
the back and forth between them and Jim. Honestly, I
lived in our apartment and covered the rent on my
own while he lived at his parents until the lease
ended back in January. Now, I'm living with my dad
(44:24):
and I planned to stay here for a while and
take things easy. In January, I also tried reaching out
to Misha via text, asking if she'd like to meet
up for coffee to talk about anything. I never had
a response directly from her, but a few days later
I got a call from her number and it was
her boyfriend on the other end.
Speaker 1 (44:41):
Oh.
Speaker 2 (44:42):
He said they were both sorry for what had happened
to me and that they hope I'm doing well, but
that Misha thought it was best to cease any contact,
as this whole ordeal had made her anxiety and mental
health problems spiral and had landed her back in therapy.
Speaker 1 (44:56):
Yeah, yeah, she she doesn't have to be involved. Well,
you know, I totally respect that.
Speaker 2 (45:02):
Mental health issues signed. If I'm Misha, I'm like, no,
I'm not talking to you.
Speaker 1 (45:06):
Leave me alone.
Speaker 2 (45:07):
Yeah, no, I don't want to say anything, one hundred percent.
Leave me out of it. I was pulled into this.
I did literally nothing, and all this crap happened though.
Speaker 1 (45:17):
I'm out.
Speaker 2 (45:18):
I don't want to really talk to you, and I
don't feel you shouldn't really want to talk to me.
Speaker 1 (45:21):
Just leave, leave, yeah, leave, Yeah.
Speaker 2 (45:26):
I did ask her why she never told me that
Jim had messaged her the day after the wedding, and
her boyfriend confessed that he advised her not to get involved.
His direct words were, I'm sorry to sound rude, but
it's not her circus exactly.
Speaker 1 (45:40):
Hmm.
Speaker 2 (45:40):
I'm a little disappointed that she doesn't want to talk
to me, but I get where she's coming from, and
I can't force her to do anything. To be honest,
I think she's been looking for a way to divorce
herself from our hometown and the people she and Jim
knew back in high school for a while now. As
for me, I'm also in therapy as I want to
sort through these feelings and get back to feeling good
about myself again before I even think about entering the
(46:02):
dating scene.
Speaker 1 (46:04):
Yeah, but you.
Speaker 2 (46:05):
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Speaker 1 (46:25):
Birth of listening hours. Wow, Wow, wow, very nice.
Speaker 2 (46:30):
We do have a little bit a little story here.
Do we have any thoughts, Sophia, I think we.
Speaker 3 (46:37):
Have at least five minutes verth the thought. Oh, I
think you should tell your thoughts.
Speaker 1 (46:44):
We have so many thoughts.
Speaker 2 (46:46):
Granted, you know, Jim has exposed himself to be the
like quintessential nice guy, the guy who is so insecure,
you know, cheating at the drop of the hat, who
knows what else he's done in the passive relationship. This
is just like recently would have got with me chef.
(47:07):
She led him like it's it's it's just everything he does,
he's inverse of mindus. Touch everything he touches turns to dukie.
So I think we need to take him where the
dukie is, and that is the grbagio, and just toss
him out, let him leave him behind, leave him behind,
(47:28):
don't get bitter, don't get nasty, Just leave him in
the pad, get your therapy, gets you, get your yourself
love on, and just just keep on trucking.
Speaker 1 (47:37):
That's what I think. I just I agree.
Speaker 2 (47:39):
I agree with all of that. Do you have any
idea the raw willpower I had to channel to not
cut you off after you said Jim exposed himself not
immediately well, yeah, he exposed himself, except he exposed actually
some random guy when he sent those pictures to those
Instagram models.
Speaker 1 (48:00):
I'm very proud of you.
Speaker 2 (48:01):
I held that in dude, you christed as long as possible.
I still let it out now that I was perfect timing,
I'm powerless.
Speaker 1 (48:07):
It was perfect. I still I'm very proud of you.
Speaker 2 (48:11):
A prisoner of my own insane twisted mine of.
Speaker 1 (48:15):
His own brain.
Speaker 2 (48:17):
Okay, but you know what, We're ready, Let's get into it.
We're ready, We're ready to We're ready to finish this story.
You have fished the story yet, so buckle in.
Speaker 3 (48:25):
I thought I thought you had fished the story.
Speaker 2 (48:27):
Huh, you can go what perfect, Sophia. We're gonna, We're
gonna iron these out. I've also been firm about ending
friendships with anyone who's taken Jim's side, as I don't
want him finding his way into my life again. So far,
he stayed away from me and hasn't tried to contact me,
although his mom reached out over Christmas to ask me
(48:48):
if there was any chance I might forgive Jim and
take him back, as in her opinion, you too are
just meant to be together. No, imagine she calls Jim
and she's like, look, it made aware about what your
mommy thought about this situation. Now that mommy's told me
she wants us to be together, I guess I'll give
it a shot. No, Mommy, No, I didn't respond to her,
(49:12):
and I've blocked her on pretty much everything.
Speaker 1 (49:14):
Now there we go.
Speaker 2 (49:15):
Thank you again for all your kind words and support.
I'm certain leaving that a hole would have been harder
for me had I not had hundreds of comments backing
me up. And that is the end of that story.
Positive social proof. We love to see it. You do, good, frope,
we do. Get away from all of the madness, get
(49:38):
far away and live your life. What are you gonna do?
Speaker 1 (49:42):
What are you gonna do?
Speaker 2 (49:42):
You don't even need to pick it apart anymore.
Speaker 1 (49:44):
It's a mess. We already know. We already know it's
a mess.
Speaker 2 (49:47):
You should high five yourself every day like I dodged
that bullet.
Speaker 1 (49:51):
Let's freaking go. Yeah, thank god. The annulment was good.
Speaker 2 (49:55):
It was easy. My goodness, we did it. But ladies
and gentlemen, that's the end of that episode. It is
obviously wow. Well, and you know what, you know what
they say when it's the end of the episode.
Speaker 1 (50:05):
Well, what do they say, Dakota, If you love us,
make sure you subscribe.
Speaker 3 (50:09):
If you.
Speaker 1 (50:12):
Love us, make sure to subscribe.
Speaker 2 (50:13):
Dude, you mess literally I totally threw me off totally
instead of you.
Speaker 1 (50:19):
Yeah. I don't know why. It's just like totally.
Speaker 2 (50:22):
Okay, Well I sew if you love us, make sure
you subscribe.
Speaker 1 (50:30):
We love you and I see it themorrow
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