My landlord banned from my apartment because of my roommate’s lies…but no one believes me!

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
My landlord banned from my apartment. Oh there's that's there's
something missing there. I'm gonna say it's me. My landlord
banned me from my apartment because of my roommates lies.
But no one believes me from breathing. No, alright, your band.

(00:33):
Oh I'm subbed. I'm subbed. Wow, that was a close one.
I know. Good thing you subbed? All right? Okay, So
for some backstory, I need to explain how I met
my entire roommate. I had been working at this one

(00:54):
restaurant that had many locations, so when my mom decided
that she wanted to move in with her new boyfriend,
I was able to transfer my job to a different
location with a raise. Wow. That's okay. By the way,
this comes from user Paloma Loma Lee, and you can
submit your stories on the r slash. Okay, storytime suburd.

(01:18):
So it was my senior year and I hated everybody
at my house and at school. Oh okay, okay. It
was my senior year and I was in my hater
arc U. It was finally at my new job that
I found a friend. She was my manager and was
a few years older than me. I didn't care because

(01:39):
now at least I had a friend. There was a
lot of drama at that store, and eventually we had
gotten closer and had talked about moving in together after
I graduated. Okay, we hadn't expected that I would lose
my job right before I moved in, so my mom
and the money my father sent in child support was

(02:00):
my bills and some groceries until I had gotten a
job later. Okay, here is the original cast. More will
be added along the way. Everyone's names have been changed.
Me Duh female roommate, Mila, male roommate Robert, my boyfriend Frederick. Okay, okay,

(02:24):
So my roommates moved in weeks before me. I had
my room already picked out, though I spent a weekend
with Mila cleaning her apartment and moving her stuff to
the new house. I should have known by how disgusting
her apartment was that she wouldn't be the most clean roommate,
but I let it slide. The restaurant that we worked

(02:44):
at put her and I through a lot, and she
told me a lot of the mess was due to
the depression she fell into as a result. I ignored
it and helped her move in and put everything together.
There was still so many boxes in my room. On
the day that I wanted to move in, she was
sleeping on the couch When me and my stepdad had
moved in. She got up in a huff, pretty much

(03:06):
half nude, shuffling her boxes into various places. Oh dear,
oh pause a plural. I tried to apologize, but she
brushed it off. As I moved my things in, she
began lighting a cigarette in the living room. What babe,

(03:30):
not anymore, that's not what we're doing. That they My
stepdad didn't say anything, but I knew he wanted to. Yeah,
you should go, hey, don't go do that outside. That's
all you say. Easy, you know what I say?

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Now. Everybody comment and chat so that you'll get one
of those gifted memberships. My stepdad did not say anything
about the smoking, but I knew he wanted to. That
day went by fine, and that's how a lot of
the days were when I lived with her, but she
got increasingly more controlling. I moved in the middle of
the summer and didn't start school until February. I didn't

(04:30):
get a job until like October or something. In the meantime,
I took care of the house and hung out with
my boyfriend. Now fair warning, I wasn't in the same
headspace as I am now, and a lot of my
actions during this year aren't reflective of the person that
I am now, so please don't judge me too hard.
I was a sugar baby just for some spending cash.

(04:52):
My mom pretty much paid my bills, and my boyfriend
would give me gas, money and stuff. I don't agree
with it now, but I was comfortable before I started school.
I spent my days at the house cleaning, cooking, and
taking care of her old dog, watching copious amounts of
Criminal Minds, and smoking with my boyfriend. You know, typical
stoner housewife stuff. You know, I was just living the

(05:14):
unemployed stoner housewife dream.

Speaker 3 (05:16):
That's that's that's a new one. I don't know about
that one. That that the stoner housewives, the stoner housewife. Well,
now you're getting the inside.

Speaker 1 (05:25):
Scoop new character unlocked yep, and this well never mind.
So uh so, Remember when I said I didn't have
a lot of money. Mela made way more than me,
but insisted that I made my mom buy groceries for
the both of us because she had more bills than me.
I guess that would have been fair if, like, we

(05:47):
liked to eat a lot of the same things, but
we couldn't. Mela is allergic to bread, which cut down
on a lot of the cheap food we were able
to have in the house. No pizza, no sandwiches, no
garlic bread, no burgers, no hot dogs. It also didn't
help that our other roommate used half of the kitchen
space and left the other half for me and Mela.
He never helped clean the kitchen unless it was to

(06:11):
be about us. Mela and I were the only ones
to clean out the refrigerator, clean all of the counters,
or sweep the rest of the house. All he would
do was clean his dishes and whatever counter he used
and take out the trash, which low key, well, that
doesn't sound wrong at all. Talk to me, Well, I

(06:34):
don't know. It sounds like she's like, yeah, And he
would always clean his own dishes, and he would always
clean his space and he'd take out the trash. Disgusting.
Sounds like he's doing exactly what he needs to do.
I mean like when terms of the other chores, like,
have y'all heard of the chore wheel? I only know
spin the wheel. That's the only wheel I've ever heard of. Literally,

(06:55):
just be like, hey, you're vacuuming this week? I mean
he yeah, Like, uh, I think maybe just more communication there? Cool? Sorry? Um.
Robert would tell us that since he was the person
that was there the least, that he didn't have to
clean anything else. Mila also worked between forty and fifty

(07:16):
hours a week, so she wasn't home much. So this
led to me deep cleaning the house on the regular, which, honestly,
if you're unemployed at this moment, you cannot complain about
that at all. Sorry, that's my perspective on that you
don't got a job, and you've got two roommates with jobs,
you're gonna be cleaning the house during the day. I
would extink, Well, but if you're paying the rent though, yeah,

(07:40):
but if you it's okay, It's true. If you're all
paying rent, that's one thing family yes, family is like, okay, kid,
you'll go clean up, but as long as the roommate is,
you better be pretty busy looking for jobs if you're
not cleaning anything. Oh game, that's what I'm saying. Looking
for jobs after I fire myself. Me looking for John's

(08:02):
after I fire myself. You're fired? Please, no, John, don't
fire yourself. No, please give me your jacket. Can you
at least teach us how to swag? That's all the
one step tutorial right there. Okay, So so this led

(08:24):
me to deep cleaning the house on the regular, so sweeping, mopping,
keeping the tables cleared off and clean, doing mine and
Meala's laundry that I disagree with that she should do
her own laundry, and other things. Uh, here's where the
title comes in. Mila was one of the dirtiest people
I've ever seen. Keep in mind, she's literally eight years

(08:45):
older than me. There would be times that I would
try to hang out with her in her room and
there would be clothes on the floor to the point
where I couldn't see the floor. She used sheets to
cover her windows, but rarely opened them, so the room
always smelled stale. Ooh, it's just musty buffu. She would

(09:05):
have dishes with dryed on food cups, half filled trash
on the floor, the whole bit. So I would go
into the mess and clean up the best I could.
Same with the bathroom and dining room. Okay, so now
you're cleaning too much? Yep, all right, I just meant like,
maybe do a little vacuum, maybe like wipe off the countertops.

(09:29):
Definitely don't do your disgusting trash hoarder roommates laundry and
clean her room for her. That's not what you do.
That's big effects. So, however, the mess seemed to flow
over into the other rooms. She had a shelf of
old perfumes and other bathroom supplies with no room for
my things. Oh maybe they shared this bathroom, now that

(09:52):
I'm thinking about it.

Speaker 4 (09:53):
Uh.

Speaker 1 (09:54):
The medicine cabinet was taken over by her medicine and such.
The shower had tons of products and even a small
tub of even more of her products under the sink.
The bathroom was overrun with her stuff. The only thing
I brought was a fairly big set of towels. We eventually, sorry,
I'm just imagining the contrast between these two people. She's

(10:14):
got like a half dozen like giant fluffy towels, and
this other person has an entire cosmetics department scattered about
the bathroom. And this person's just like we're doing I
put my towels. I don't know, dude. Now I just
want to be wrapped in a big fluffy towel. Oh dude,
I'm basically wrapped in a big fluffy A blanket is
just a towel with that's not supposed to get wet.

(10:38):
You're blowing my mind right now. You're welcome everybody. So
we eventually. I'm just I'm just I'm just me baby. Uh,
he's just a baby. We eventually furnished the rest of
the house. We bought a used couch, had two recliners

(10:59):
up a Poussan chair. I don't know. Do you please
look up Poussan chair, find a Puissan and can you
also google if blankets are just towels that don't get wet,
get one what a Poussan chair is And they say,
I don't know if that's what it's called. Why where

(11:22):
did you get that idea? O? P Hey, we want
some Poosan ch chairs. So it's gonna hit that the
same way okay. Continuing on, she also had a love
seat and side tables and a coffee table. With time,

(11:45):
we got more wall decorations and comfort items, most of
which were permanently stained with dog urine. I didn't mind.
Especially Maybe you should mind, actually, especially when I learned
how to drive and went to my boyfriend's house more often.
After that, I was really only home to change or

(12:06):
stay the night at my house. Sometimes I would even
do her hair and she would do mine. After I
died my hair pink gone. With the days in a row,
I would be stuck in the house. I stayed with
my boyfriend a lot, smoked a lot of the Devil's lettuce,
and took some other psychedelic substances. Naughty, naughty October rolls

(12:31):
around and I get a job at the new restaurant
that Mila was working at. I worked with her for
maybe a week before she got into trouble and got
transferred to an equally nasty store. I soon made a
lot of friends there and was making a bunch of money,
so I stopped being a sugar baby. I would be
going to work. Oh I forgot that it was a
peace job. I forgot about that too. That was a

(12:51):
peace job, Loki. I thought you just meant that your
boyfriend was just like taking care of you. I didn't. No, No,
I understanding literal sugar baby and sugar baby and on
the side, I got cham. Oh, gotcham.

Speaker 2 (13:02):
This is I think it's a a passenger chair.

Speaker 1 (13:06):
H we want some passa what's up with that banana?
Can you please pull up the banana chair?

Speaker 2 (13:14):
I knew it. I knew this the first thing.

Speaker 1 (13:17):
Why is that thirty two hundred dollars from Wayfair? Just that? No,
please pull that up. No, that chair looks so comfortable.
You can look that up later. No, I need the
banana chair. You need to read. Okay, fine on, you
hate me, I live with you and works. I don't.
I work with you. We don't need that chair in

(13:39):
our apartment, all right, but we're looking up that banana
chair or so help me god. So I would be
going to work for about forty hours a week, and
after that I would go hang out with friends or
go to my boyfriend's house. But Mila still expected me
to clean the house and do the laundry and still
buy her groceries. So no, that's not that. It's not

(14:00):
the program here. She hated Frederick, her boyfriend, and he
hated her back. There was an incident that happened one
night where he had parked in the driveway and Mila
told him to move his car because she didn't want
to park on the street. It had been raining, and
she was whining about the time that she parked on
the side of the road one time and her car
got hit. So I guess it's okay for Frederick's car

(14:21):
to get hit instead. Okay. Tension between them only escalated
when Frederick got kicked out and was CouchSurfing between me
and a friend's house. This wasn't bad. We just avoided
Meela like the plague. I'm sure there were a lot
of little things that sucked, but one that sticks out
the most at the moment is Halloween. So I remember

(14:41):
I didn't really have friends after I graduated and I
stayed in the house. But on the other hand, both
of my roommates had friends. They had plans to go out,
and I helped Mila get ready and watched as they
pre partied. I had a last minute plan pop up
as they left. I got ready and went over to
my friend's house to play guitar hero Ah those are

(15:04):
the memories of that. They're all fat in.

Speaker 3 (15:07):
My day, back in my day, our day.

Speaker 1 (15:11):
Because we're the old ones. We're the golden boys. That's right,
golden boy, that was my day. So I get there,
thirty minutes, drive and hang out for about a half
hour before my roommate calls me. She tells me that
she's locked herself out. I asked her if she checked
the back door, because we never locked it. She said

(15:32):
that she was pretty sure that she locked it before
she left. It was pretty cold that night, and she
asked me to let her in. Hey, everybody, lock your
back doors. Lock your back doors. Hey, we're gonna have
a door. Lock it or open your back door? No, no, no, pause,
your door wide open? What's wrong with that? You know

(15:55):
what now that you mentioned it, John, I can't think
of a single thing while with that.

Speaker 3 (15:59):
I mean, you can lock the back door, but keeps
the front door wide open. You could park a big
car in the little garage, you know, like a really
big car in a little garage that.

Speaker 1 (16:11):
Hopping out trying to walk it off. You could do that.
Did you pick up that bar that I just laid down?
That that was an eminem bar? I don't listen to
much eminem I can't lie. You parked a humongous truck
in a two car garage. Oh yeah, anyway, you see

(16:35):
what happens when we talk about backdoors folks, good things.
I get really excited now now. I later found out
that she had left her keys with my roommate. I
rush all the way home, expecting to see her outside shivering,
but instead she's in a car with some dude. She
made me cancel my plans so that she could go

(16:56):
smash some dude like smash bros. Yeah, exactly, gotcha. I
just went to my room and cried, that's what I
do thing. Hey did I write this? Cody? Got something
you want to tell us? Buddies with you? Fast wait,

(17:20):
fast forward, fast forward to February. When I started school,
I was going pretty much full time for thirty five
hours a week, plus going to work for about the
same amount of time. I drove at least fifty hours
a day. That's not possible. I'm gonna say that true.
I would drive fifty hours a day both ways when

(17:45):
I was going to school back in my day, stuff man,
fifty hours both ways. The days were longer, fifty hours
the days were one hundred and fifty hours long. Fifty
hour drive there, fifty hour drive back, no SLI get
back in the car, fifty hour drive back to school.
That's a tough life. Oh god. So I drive at

(18:10):
least fifty minutes a day. But it was worth it.
I was happy, but still my roommate wanted more of
my time. When I would get home, she would make
comments about how she felt like I was avoiding her,
or how she hadn't seen me in days. If I
was home when she got home and I left, she
would make even more comments about how I was running
away from her. Low key, you are so she's right

(18:32):
on the money. It was just the beginning of her
basically trying to suffocate me. It was also around this
time I believe that I got a cat, even though
my mom is allergic. Yeah, okay, shout out to people
allergic to cats. It's that one.

Speaker 2 (18:51):
Oh no, that one over there, Sophia too.

Speaker 1 (18:54):
Oh, that one over there. She wrote me into this. Sorry,
I was born like the s t have a choice. Yeah,
I think you do. Though. Anyway, in the spring, our
cars had gotten broken into. I had a lot of
valuable things taken out of my car with no damage,
while Mela had gotten the most damage done to her
car and had almost nothing taken out. Her car ended

(19:18):
up being totaled. We never found the guys, so she
was short on cash for a while, and I was
always there to help her sell things for rent or
whatever she needed. We got through it, but our relationship
is getting worse. Mela and I started to hate the
increasingly berating comments from Robert. She hated him, but continued
to hang out with him and go out with him.

(19:39):
They both were irritated with each other, and I really
just hated them both. I wanted out. Mela and I
had started to look for new apartments since we were
sure that Robert was going to move out. Due to
our strained relationship, I had talked to my mom about
moving back in with her and she said yes. I
had told Mela this in early May. It was at
this time that we talked about Mila taking care of

(20:01):
my cat for me while I get to while I
wait to get another place of my own. I offered
to pay the peas pay the fees. I offered to
pay well the fees with my peas and carrots. I
offered to pay for the fees and everything. She flipped out,

(20:24):
and I'm pretty sure she went to her mom's house
a few hours away. I didn't care. I was pissed.
It was also around this, Wait, I didn't care. I
was pissed. That's that didn't make any sense? Uh? Or
does it? Yeah? Or does it? Let us know chat

(20:45):
makes sense or not. It was also around this I
don't know what you want. You're you're off the record.
I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm not sorry. It was also
around this time that I met mine now boyfriend, Shiloh. Oh,

(21:06):
that's a good name. He lived about forty minutes away
from me when I lived in my house, and I
would see him all of the time. One time I
got pulled over. As a result, I ended up going
to jail. You know, dang, you skipped a couple steps there.
I got pulled over. Long story short, Now I'm in jail.
Oh god, Well, i'd forgotten to pay a few speeding

(21:28):
tickets and had a warrant out for my arrest.

Speaker 2 (21:30):
Oh god, Okay, okay, Before he read any more of this,
is Opie in a hole.

Speaker 1 (21:37):
Like I feel like a here definitely possible. Give us
your argument.

Speaker 2 (21:44):
It's just with everything that Opie does, Like you're enabling
one your crappy roommate, and also you just seem like
a crappy human being in my opinion, Like I don't know.

Speaker 1 (21:54):
She did say that this is not her anymore, oh
anymore good? She's like, I've changed. Oh yeah, but.

Speaker 2 (22:01):
That's in this story. In this story, is Opie an
a hole? Because that's the context we're getting. We don't
we're not getting context of Opie. Now, we're in context
of Opie of who they were.

Speaker 3 (22:12):
Scroll up on chat a little bit. Someone said, uh,
Opie is chaotic.

Speaker 1 (22:16):
I think that.

Speaker 3 (22:17):
Uh oh yeah, Vexed Moxie says, OPI is chaotic. To
tell that's for sure, I'm trying. I mean, she does
it seems like she kind of like enables the roommate
and then like turns it around to like kind of
hate on her arm. Yeah, so that that is, that
is that is definitely a whole behavior.

Speaker 1 (22:33):
Opie also did say it's just like I have no
friends and now I made one friend, and you wonder
why you have no friends, because you're kind of an ahole.
Sometimes people who don't have friends. I learned this. There's
a guy in my school quick little okay story time
before I finished this story because we're towards the end here.
But there was a kid who like didn't have any
friends and people were kind of like mean to him,
and I was like, I'm gonna try to be this

(22:54):
kid's friend. Like, so I just started to try to
talk to him, and anything I said, it'd be like, ah, no,
you're stupid, that's not right. And I'd be like, oh,
that's this is why everyone hates this kid, because he's
actually just like a mean, nasty guy. Yeah, and you know,
maybe that's his defense mechanism, but yeah, if you're just
like mean and nasty, people aren't gonna like And that's

(23:18):
the end of my story. Let's go back into this story.
I don't know if there's a subreddit about the best
experiences in jail, but if there is, a boy, oh boy,
do I have a story for it. Anyways, you're gonna
hit us with anyways after that, I need to hear

(23:39):
your jail story. She's definitely chaotic. This is just like
two chaotics.

Speaker 3 (23:43):
I was in jail and then I was just like, back, yeah,
we need to look at this person.

Speaker 2 (23:47):
This is It's very weird because like one minute, like
off filled cups.

Speaker 1 (23:52):
That really gets at me, but like, yeah, anyway, yeah
in jail. Yeah. Can you look go to this person's
profile keon and see if they have another post about jail?
Yeay please? Anyways, this set a lot of things in
action for me. I stayed in for about thirteen hours,
and as soon as I was bailed out, my mom

(24:13):
took me home to pack up and move. They even
rented a U haul for it. I packed up as
much as I could in two hours. Most of my
belongings are in trash bags in places of boxes. Oh
excuse me. I threw most of my stuff out or in,

(24:34):
I'm not sure. I threw most of my stuff and
moved into my mom's place. I had to skip out
on utilities that month, and my rent was paid by
my deposit. Both of my roommates were pissed off, but
Mila at least had the respect for me to tell
me that I could come get the rest of my
stuff later. A week or so later, I take my
key and go to my house. The front door was unlocked,

(24:55):
like always. I got all of the stuff that I
still had there. Mila started to move we've already and
took a lot of my stuff, including clothes, makeup and
other things. I never did get my shape tape back.
The heck is shape tape.

Speaker 3 (25:09):
I get like like like body wear. That's what I'm
guessing shape tape like spanks kind of kind of type.

Speaker 1 (25:16):
Perhaps maybe to change your shape tape for your shape.
That's what I believe. Sorry, I mean myself giggle. Okay.
I took what I could back window panes to my
china cabinet, floor mats for my car, blankets that my

(25:36):
grandmother made me. I got as much as I could
and help my cat for the last time. We'll take
the cat with you. What window panes to your china cabinet?
I have so many questions for OP I had too
many plates I couldn't fit the cat, namely, why didn't
you take your cat? And what happened in jail? To

(25:56):
any plates? Doing plates? Man? But you know what, we
don't have too many of what episodes, oh full episodes
with stories like this, we don't have enough. We just
keep making more of them, and you can go listen
to them on Spotify or Apple podcasts or wherever you
get your podcasts from. Just search okay, story time and

(26:19):
you will find the backlogs. You'll find the archives, that's facts,
and there you can peruse them. So uh oh France
and your pants shape tape is booby tape. Oh oh okay,
there you go.

Speaker 3 (26:36):
Tape for your shape, tape for your shape.

Speaker 1 (26:41):
Okay, So before we finish this story, because we do
have a little bit of story left, yes, sir, Like
what Keon said earlier, right bringing into question the nature
of OP, John, tell me what you're feeling on op is,
op is op and A.

Speaker 3 (26:58):
You know, I have been so critically focused on this
entire story, so I understand in full depth and detail
every single aspect of what happened.

Speaker 1 (27:06):
Your brain totally blanked as soon as we saw the
banana chair.

Speaker 3 (27:10):
Like banana, But no I have I have understood at
least enough to know that OP. I think it is
the like cleaning, enabling and then turning around and hating.
Whereas specifically, whereas you could have just been like, Okay,
you know what, this is your mess, I'm not gonna
deal with it anymore. Literally, yeah, take it on and

(27:34):
just go live your life. I'm gonna go live mine
and move out to enabling to Yeah. I think I
think OP is at least kind of the a hole. Yeah,
an ahole. Multiple multiple people are a holes.

Speaker 1 (27:47):
Yeah, I think it might be like multiple people are
are stinky here type situation. Definitely, your roommate Milo's trash
can for stealing your stuff though, that's super whack. Hopefully
you can get that back somehow. Maybe maybe maybe a
little clandestine mission pulled by one of someone who's she's

(28:08):
still living with, or you gotta repoe your stuff. I
like it. Yeah, I kind of am in agreement. I
think my first red flag was when she was like,
I am unemployed and I have to clean the apartment
that I'm at all day. It was like have to.
It was like you kind of should low key not

(28:30):
but not. Then she would go. Then she would like
we were saying, like she would go beyond what would
be I would consider normal for that where it's like
you shouldn't do your roommates laundry, you shouldn't clean your
roommate's room, just like a light I'm not yeah whatever,
that was my firse like, what, okay, that was the first,
but you know he did say, they're not this person anymore,

(28:53):
so maybe we'll get an insight into the new them. Yeah,
the prolong this story here, here's where we are now, Yes,
let's see. So later, I got a text from my
old landlord telling me that I was banned from going
back to the house. Apparently Mila had told him that
I broke in and went through her room. She told

(29:16):
me that she didn't feel safe. And I even told
him that I hadn't even used my key to get in.
He said that they changed the locks already. I was pissed.
She blamed me for something I didn't even do. I
then tried frantically to find a place for me to
put my cat, but she had already offered him up
to anyone that would take him. Heartbroken, I blocked her.

(29:37):
I heard nothing from her again. You know, she just
gave your cat away? What? Too many plates? What is
going on here? Too many plates? How's this person giving
your cat away? Because don't let her do that? What
are we doing? That's insane? It was her cat, right, Yes,

(30:01):
that's something you could have agency about. Oh my god.
And there was nothing I could do. It was powerless.
She gave my cat away. It's like, no, go get it,
you're doing king cat? Yeah?

Speaker 5 (30:17):
What?

Speaker 1 (30:19):
Fast forward a couple months, I met my new job,
and I get a series of texts from her new
roommates about how she was such a crappy person and
how I never deserved Oh about how I was such
a crappy person and how I never deserved my cat
in the first place. Not your decision to make. I'm

(30:43):
finding that person in throwing hands immediately. Yeah. Yeah, you
you who stole my cat. You repossessed my stolen cat.
Oh girl. I tried to explain what happened and how
I can't even get him, which still breaks my heart.

(31:04):
I just finally blocked them. Thanks for reading, and that's
the end. I am so confused. Did I miss something, dude,
just drop some Yeah. So the the mom is allergic
to the cat, which is why she couldn't take the cat.

(31:24):
But she said at the beginning of the story that
she got the cat even though her mom is allergic.
So I'm confused. You suck low key for letting somebody
just get rid of your cat. Yeah, that's so weird,
even if it's your mom. Yeah, live somewhere else, get

(31:46):
out to not live with your mom. You have a
cat to take care of, old pink on no money?
It works, Yeah, I agree. Usually I don't read a
lot of stories where everyone sucks, but everyone sucks everyone
everyone sucks in this story. Oh god, well that is

(32:12):
the end of that. All she wrote. That is literally
all she wrote. That's it. He was like, goodbye, bye bye.

Speaker 2 (32:20):
I had I looked up the account. Uh, no update
on jail or anything. It's they don't have any other
They have other posts. Their posts are like talking about lows.

Speaker 1 (32:32):
Lows. Yeah, maybe that's where they went, dude, I don't know.

Speaker 2 (32:37):
I went to g and then there was one of
the posts, one of their posts like my first level
is someone with a neck beard.

Speaker 1 (32:42):
And I was like, I'm confused, Yeah, well this person
is really this person was confusing. Yeah, this is a
confusing person.

Speaker 3 (32:51):
Maybe it was what objects do you need to break
out of prison Low's checklists.

Speaker 1 (32:58):
They caught me. They caught me at the home improvement store.
I was trying to break out of your spoon.

Speaker 2 (33:04):
To use out of Jack cleanser of that story.

Speaker 1 (33:08):
Oh, salsa, they did it on MythBusters. Salsa. It takes
a long time. You use electrolysis to you to you
rust the bars and then you can break them out.
Apparently that happened in a Spanish prison. That's awesome. Ye, dude, respect,
but we got some thanks for that's twenty five bucks

(33:33):
on the tip link where we save thirty percent from
certain two bum Yes.

Speaker 3 (33:39):
Oh hey look us John will know. It's Matt Lawrence
tonight too. I feel so old around you youngins these days.
Ha Oh, I know Matt Lawrence's it's me.

Speaker 1 (33:52):
I look like Matt Lawrence. Wait, not the newscaster guy right?

Speaker 2 (33:57):
No?

Speaker 4 (33:57):
Here? Yeah?

Speaker 1 (33:58):
Can you do a side by side? Keon? And by
the way, I swear to God, if you lose that banana,
if you lose that banana chair, don't.

Speaker 2 (34:05):
You kind of look like him? You don't really look
like I need.

Speaker 1 (34:08):
A face, I can copy it. Let's see it. I'll
see it. You need to face so I can mask.
Oh yeah, he kind of doesn't look like me. It's
just the smile. We've got big old mouths and our eyes.
Our eyes are squinty. His core face is like this.
This area is.

Speaker 2 (34:26):
Not like a triangle face. Yeah, I'm not saying he's not.
He's a good looking guy, the od looking guy.

Speaker 1 (34:33):
He looks kind of like a Luig. Oh he does
look like a little Luigi all right. Next one though,
Next one, Henda Hana Hana for the forty five dollar

(34:54):
us D donation. Thank you, we thank you, We say silently,
thank you, Hannah if you have silent thanks and thank
you Little bourb for the five dollars. There is a
food you can feed cats to help reduce the allergens
they shed. That's crazy, did not know that. Let's freaking go. Yeah,
very allergic to cats. Yeah he has quite done all.

Speaker 2 (35:15):
The stuff except for the injections. But yeah, that's expensive.

Speaker 1 (35:19):
Oh, let's subject you to bed to be a paaper. No,
we did not a page. Thanks for the five bucks
thank you page. Thanks for the twenty five bucks page.
Page says more time and that we got, that we got,
and that we got. Okay, Leoli been Tomona, thank you
for gifting five Okay Storytime memberships to the stream. And

(35:43):
vix Makes thank you for gifting one Okay Storytime membership
to the Stream. We deeply appreciate the growing family. Annette,
thanks for the five hundred Filipino pestos, grow the fame.
Okay to try pronouncing my last name Tayau. She's gonna

(36:07):
tell ya, I don't know. She didna come back and
be like, no, it's not to Yao is it Tayo?
And we've done this too many times, Tayo Tao? Oh, Annette, Okay, hey,
thanks for gifting twenty okay Storytime memberships. Yes, we bow
down to all the members. Five forgiven the five from

(36:28):
us Sell fives. That's because they like the street rock.
Creek O two two three for the Dalla, thanks for
the Buckarouski, Hannah Rife Schneider. Nice, thank you, and welcome
to the Knights. I think you have a night's last name.
If I've ever heard one, sof Schneider. That pronunciation is crushed,

(36:54):
Am Sue Rife Schneider. Al right, Creek oh two two three?
Things again for the Buck Buckaruski. Uh, and we're caught up.
Caught up? Hey, hey, and now I caught up? What
you look at that?

Speaker 2 (37:11):
Joe, John, how you dealing on your throat?

Speaker 1 (37:14):
Good? Okay, story Time.

Speaker 3 (37:17):
Yeah, I've been Uh, I've been recording a little more
music in the morning lately because of all the things happening.
And I started just almost yaking every morning.

Speaker 1 (37:29):
That's just John. Are you pregnant? Huh? Are you pregnant?
You've been yacking from delivering the hot five.

Speaker 3 (37:37):
Delivering the bars, maybe too much soap, and now it's
creeping into the streams. So I'm desperately. I booked a
doctor's appointment yesterday. But it's like I've always had a
bad gag reflex, but it's getting like real bad.

Speaker 1 (37:50):
It is progressing at like as you just talk, like
you talk too much in it and I'm just gagging
off of talking. Is it acid reflex or anything? I
think it might be. I think it might be. It
might Yes, stop drinking the Go Go juice. Oh yeah, dude,
I bet you that's what it is. You're drinking too
much chromium. But you know what, there's gonna got chromium

(38:11):
in those drinks. How much chromium you should be drinking? None?
Zero zero chromium chromium.

Speaker 2 (38:20):
That one drink that had that I won't name it,
but it's forever being named.

Speaker 3 (38:27):
But uh, what I was gonna say, Oh, chat, if
you have any suggestions, I'm trying to Oh god, I
love that the meme, but yeah, drop your suggestion. I'm
literally like gonna talk to like a vocal coach to
the doctor like everybody to try and figure this out,
because like I literally, if I I fear I might Yeah,

(38:49):
but I'm gonna.

Speaker 1 (38:50):
I'm gonna try to read this one is the next one,
if you want, I want to give it as it's
a longer one. It's a two. It's like a two
three two four. So it's fine, it's okay if you
don't need to read it. Okay, maybe next Yeah, both
normal size.

Speaker 2 (39:02):
This one, this one were both both stories are like
two three two four.

Speaker 1 (39:05):
So I no longer am in need of my blanket. Okay,
but yeah, you'll get the next one.

Speaker 2 (39:13):
John, just give your give you your give your throat
a little little rest.

Speaker 1 (39:17):
I'm trying. I'm trying, dude.

Speaker 2 (39:20):
We gotta we gotta figure out your gag reflex there, Budy, Dude,
I got the craziest gag reflex ever, Like truly.

Speaker 1 (39:28):
Yeah, is crazy.

Speaker 3 (39:31):
I don't say that, but it's true.

Speaker 1 (39:36):
France in your hands.

Speaker 3 (39:36):
That's what my sister suggested, and my my sister and
dad both take it.

Speaker 2 (39:39):
So soon's this, y'all talk about go go dos?

Speaker 1 (39:42):
What is that? That's our own name for it. It
is highly highly caffeinated beverage. That's the caffeinated beverage. Yes. Also,
I just want to say, fran I do see your
I see your comments in there fran about me being
the ha funny man ADHD king, and I appreciate it.
I love the ADHD.

Speaker 2 (40:01):
I just I know I'm a little party pooper, but
I gotta I gotta keep in money eyes.

Speaker 1 (40:05):
It's fair. Can's been crushing lightly. I need to be
held accountable. Sometimes I will make it.

Speaker 2 (40:10):
I have the banana stream, I have to poop chat
dropped at speaking of you raised yourself so you look taller,
and I'm gonna make you look small.

Speaker 1 (40:18):
Okay, while you do that, pull up the banana fine,
I'll do it on my phone.

Speaker 3 (40:23):
I also, it's feel like I'm slightly off kilter only
in the split screen.

Speaker 1 (40:28):
Yes, so fixed that my crazy.

Speaker 2 (40:30):
I feel right a little like I think like one
moment you are in the moment you're.

Speaker 1 (40:34):
Not here, I'm great, and then full screen I'm.

Speaker 3 (40:38):
Great, but just in the mex Yeah, just in the
split screen, just in the split screen. Thanks for all suggestions, guys,
I'm gonna be I'm gonna check that out.

Speaker 1 (40:47):
Dude.

Speaker 3 (40:47):
Uh jam hand keeps asking me about com.

Speaker 1 (40:54):
I don't know what's going on with that? What jam
jam Han's been going going off in the chat this
The stream keeps asking me about Kanye. I don't know why.
So just to fill in everyone on the banana chair,
it is thirty two hundred dollars and sixty nine thirty two,

(41:15):
one hundred and sixty nine dollars. It is the Leisure
Starfish Chair by timber Craft Designs. And I would normally
say no free sponsors, but I'm doing the opposite. Buy
nothing from these people. They are selling a polyester banana
chair for the thirty three hundred dollars.

Speaker 6 (41:39):
No no, no, no, no no no no, no, no
no no no. Also, John, you have good am.

Speaker 1 (41:49):
I what is these Oh my god, what is this stuff?
I think? Oh oh my, it be illegal. Still slightly
to the left the right to this way. Some of
the worst furniture I've ever seen in my life. For

(42:10):
thirty four hundred dollars, that's not bro For twenty eight
hundred dollars, DA Code has seen my couch. Just freaking
that couch. That's a perfect couch. A buck fifty. That's
honestly insane. Dude. You just the streets provide man four
thousand dollars for something called the American style rotating a

(42:34):
leisure chair, and it's like a bunch of like seals.
That's perfect. Yeah, you're perfect. It's just that you know
what it is.

Speaker 3 (42:45):
You see the space between my shoulder and my other shoulder,
like this shoulder's a lot of space the shoulder.

Speaker 1 (42:51):
No all space, jacket, I know. But look at this.
What that's fourth thousand dollars. That's a chair. It's like
a circular chair. I think. Yeah, that's four thousand dollars.
Much better, Yeah, no, much better. Yeah, we'll roll with that.
We're roll with that. And I made it a little

(43:11):
bit bigger. Yeah that works. Yeah, we we we close.
We close unless something crazy happens. Your arms are just
so big. John. Guys, if you need furniture, go to
in a state sale. Okay, don't go to the streets.
Go do in a state sale. Go to the streets,
go to the yard sale. Okay, do not be buying
new furniture for four Because we were picking. John would

(43:33):
add a couple of minutes.

Speaker 3 (43:34):
Hey, we're gonna give you a couple of minutes. Chat, yeah,
get it back up, story put it like, yeah, yeah,
we're gonna.

Speaker 1 (43:39):
Give it to you. Give them one more. We don't
give it to you, o, K, don't give it to you?
Are you ready, Yes, sir, my roommate made my freshman
year horrible, but she got what she deserved in the end.
Expelled calling it? Oh, calling it? You'll see? Is that
your ICU? That's right? You rip go let's go. What's it?

Speaker 5 (44:04):
So?

Speaker 1 (44:05):
This is from last year, my freshman year of college,
and I was told to Reddit would love this crap.
Not my first post, but it's like my third, so
I'm sorry for any errors, and I hope this is
the right forum for this. So some basic information. My
dad is a professor at the college I attend ad
junked and teaches the core classes everyone is required to take.

(44:28):
This comes in later. What does ad junked mean? What
is an adjunct professor? Is it a professor that you
add junked to? No? I know someone who adds some junk.
By the way, you can add your junk to never mind. Nope,
I can't. Nope. I'm sorry. I was. I'm sorry. By

(44:50):
the way. This comes from user rin Maru thirteen, and
you can submit your stories on the r slash showcase
story times. I read it, heyo, So I was trying
to figure out how to make junk segue into that.
I like it. It was for the stars. It didn't work, though.
I was really hyped up to be starting college like
most people are who isn't excited to move out of

(45:12):
their parents' house, get some independence and choose what they
want to study for once, And of course I was
excited to make new friends, specifically hoping to bond with
my roommate. Since everyone I knew who had been through
college said their closest friend was their freshman year roommate.
Everyone was just shouting my name in the chat because
of what I said. Now, I was going to a

(45:36):
local college, but since I went to a small high school,
no one else was going to this one, favoring the
larger ones like some whatever. So since I didn't know anyone,
I had a roommate randomly assigned to me enter entitled roommate.
Let's call her Jasmine. As soon as I got her number,

(45:58):
I texted her to ask about her interests and try
to bond, as well as trying to work out who
would bring what to furnish the room, standard stuff when
you're planning to spend a year living with someone. Pretty
much from the start, I got weird vibes from Jasmine.
Very short kirt replies and very little clarity on what
she was bringing. I didn't really see this as a

(46:19):
red flag, though, since I thought she was just shy
or nervous. I know I was, but things started getting
weird fast. For example, I told her that I had
a mini fridge we could share, and that would mean
she wouldn't have to buy one and could instead handle
something else. She refused, saying that she didn't want to

(46:40):
share a fridge and would instead be bringing her own,
which is honestly like super normal. I don't think that's weird. Yeah,
it's a mini fridge. It's like y'all probably want two
of those, right, But OP says, okay, weird and inconvenient
that our limited room space now had to accommodate an
extra fridge, But she promised to also bring a couple

(47:01):
extra things that I couldn't afford, so I was willing
to shrug it off. And then we met oh Man,
Jasmine's parents were really nice when I met them, friendly,
saying they would that they really hoped we would be friends,
that we'd look out for each other and all that
good stuff. It made me pretty hopeful. That night, she

(47:23):
and I drew up our roommate agreement for him, and
she asked if she could FaceTime her boyfriend from time
to time since they were in a long distance relationship.
I was totally fine with that and agreed since I
was and still am in a long distance relationship and
understood how it felt to not see your significant other. Well,
it turns out that when she said FaceTime from time

(47:44):
to time, she meant every single day, all hours of
the day, without headphones at full volume. Ah, I don't
see anything wrong with that. I'm just kidding you put
your headphones on. Put your headphones on, dummy, and whisper, Hey, dummy,

(48:05):
I can hear that. Make it so I can't just
facetiming you because my freaking roommate sucks. It is like,
really freaking stupid.

Speaker 5 (48:15):
I fight.

Speaker 1 (48:16):
I hate them bad, dude. That was so funny. If
that's the latent conversations where it's like, yeah, she still sucks,
like looks directly at her. She's so annoying. Wait wait,
let me turn it back on full volume. When you say, oh, yeah,
you think she sucks too, Yeah, I totally agree. Yeah, yeah, yeah,
that's why I love you, babe. Yeah, So I would

(48:38):
leave in the morning, and she would be up talking
to her boyfriend, walking to the car together, talking to
her boyfriend. Come back from coming back from class, she'd
be in her room as if she had never left,
talking to her boyfriend. And every single night I would
have to deal with her talking to her boyfriend because
they slept with FaceTime on. Gross cringe, that's so cute. No, No,

(49:07):
normalize sleeping apart. You're god, that's already. You don't need
to be on your face time as you go to sleep.
You're sleeping, you're sleeping. No, exactly normal, No, it's normal.

Speaker 7 (49:32):
Hang up, go to sleep, go to door. Okay, m hmmm.

Speaker 1 (49:43):
It got to the point where I did not feel
comfortable changing clothes in my own room and would go
to change in the community bathroom because I didn't want
to risk her boyfriend seeing me undressed. Yeah, I mean
that's you can you could probably like press the issue, yes, yes,
be like, hey, can you like maybe not have the

(50:06):
camera on? I got no clothes on.

Speaker 2 (50:10):
It's called a phone call, not a FaceTime.

Speaker 1 (50:13):
Ooh what's that? Yeah, come on, I'm come on man,
come on, man from gen Z. Anyway, Okay, so are you?
It was at this time excuse me. It was at
this time that I got officially diagnosed with depression, as
well as social and general anxiety, which was definitely not

(50:34):
helped by my living situation. As a result, I struggled
to do basic things like keep my desk clean or
even get out of bed to go to classes. It
was a rough time. Jasmine got fed up with my
desk being piled with papers and school books after a bit,
but instead of coming to me and asking me to
clean that, she took pictures of everything and then emailed

(50:55):
my dad using his professor's school email and told him
to tell me to lean up. Oh my, what a
what a whack move? That is the wackest move. Yes, whack,
so so whack, Like you're gonna get whacked for pulling
something that whack? Whoa? I mean not really, you're sleeping

(51:16):
with the fishes. No, no, not like that. I meant
like paper, you know, like a like an exhibitionist boxing match.
You're gonna die. Whoa, Florida John, That's what said. Oh
you got me.

Speaker 3 (51:34):
Hey, I'm not wearing a suit jacket, but I am
wearing a jacket jacket.

Speaker 1 (51:38):
Yeah, it's true. That's all I'm saying. Security for Oh, so,
I got a confused text from my dad, who was up,
uh up under the impress you see, Oh yeah, under
the impression. Yes, I got a confused text from my dad,
who was under the impression that she had asked me

(51:58):
a lot of times to clean up and I just
ignored her, when in reality I had never once been asked.
Let it be known that Jasmine never cleaned her messas either.
The room was covered in clumps of her hair. I
know it's hers because she had black hair and I'm blonde,
and she never swept. It got to the point where
I would do all the cleaning for room checks, yet

(52:20):
she complained about me the one time I didn't clean
my desk during a depressive episode. Other things that happened
I will list below because describing them all in detail
would take too much time. Ooh boy, we got bullet points.
Oh here we go, Here we go, gentlemen. Pull point
number one. Hey left her TV on full volume and
then fell asleep with the remote hidden in her blankets somewhere.

(52:43):
The TV was primarily controlled by that remote, and I
could not find the power button and slept on a
couch in the common area that night. Oh low key.
I feel like you failed the survival check on that one.
Like unplugged the TV from the wall. What are you
doing pull the plug out of the thing to do
was hidden? I don't think so doing like unless they're

(53:07):
using like a CRT or like the HDM just grab
you can just go right up to the monitor and
go and pull that right out and it's off. So
not letting you get away with that one. Op. Sorry,
let's see bull point number two. Bull point number two,
Hey never actually brought the items for the room she
had promised to bring. No rug no cleaning supplies, no nothing.

(53:30):
That's not very good. Okay. Number three told her boyfriend
she wanted to flush my pet fish because he wasn't
a pretty beta fish. I loved fish and hearing the
band the band Fish, and I heard this while wearing
headphones that she thought were playing music. I kept a
close eye on my fish after that. She also broke

(53:51):
up with her boyfriend every few weeks, wailed about it
loudly to her friends on guess what FaceTime, oh sing,
and then they would get back together that same night.
Not the worst thing ever, But if you're going to
scream at your boyfriend over the phone. Please don't do
it while I'm studying in the room. For she sent
me text saying I wasn't a good person, that she
had never been rude to me, and that I should

(54:13):
come correct. When I spoke to her after I finally
got up the nerve to confront her about her actions,
oh boy.

Speaker 3 (54:20):
Um ooh m. She did the bad touch, spicy self time.

Speaker 1 (54:28):
She did the bad touch and talked dirty to her
boyfriend while I was in bed and she thought I
was asleep. Needless to say, I didn't sleep well at
all while that was going on. Also, op time to go, Hey,
I'm away, I am not sleep Hey, I can hear you, sap.

Speaker 3 (54:48):
I mean, after a while, I could see a non
confrontational person being just worn down and just being like,
not that you should make make yours self known, but yeah,
you go, and those rooms aren't You were probably in
like a bunk bed or like a twin bed that
is three feet away from the other one. So you

(55:08):
just find something to knock on and you go, hey guys,
h sorry.

Speaker 1 (55:14):
Hi, hi, Hi, I'm awake. Just for future reference, Okay,
I went to my Ra multiple times and asked her
to speak to Jasmine about this. She brought us a
few times. She brought us in a few times for
us to talk things out, but that was just a
time for us to vent our feelings and for the

(55:35):
ra to send us on our way without actually doing
anything to help, and without her saying that I was
in a toxic environment. I didn't have grounds to move rooms,
so I was stuck in this situation and nothing changed.
This was also around the time when that story was
going viral about the racist girl. Wait about that racist
girl rubbed used tampons on her African American roommates things,

(55:59):
And considering that I attended a southern college in the
heart of the Bible Belt with a predominantly white student
population and Jasmine was the only black girl on the hall,
I wasn't sure how far the crazy would extend, and
I didn't want to anger her to the point that
she decided she would accuse me of being racist towards
her whoof Yeah, that was a tricky one. We got
there though. I was like, oh, no, is this about

(56:21):
to get really bad? But it's like Loki Op, He's
just like and I also feel like I can't do
anything because everyone will be like racism.

Speaker 3 (56:29):
She Yeah, she's worried how it might come off or
that people. Yeah, I know the context of their situation. Yes,
I guess.

Speaker 1 (56:38):
Yes, looking back now, I know that wouldn't have made sense.
Most of my friends at the time were and still
are African American and all knew what was going on
and would have vouched for me. But freshman year was me.
But freshman year me was terrified. All of this came
to the ground conclusion the week before finals. I lent

(56:59):
her money earlier in the year, twenty bucks, and I
had a night out with a friend that I wanted
cash for, so I asked her to pay me back
over texts since I kept forgetting and wanted it in writing.
Here's how it played out me. Hey, Jay, Jasmine just
wanted to let you know that I'm going out tonight
and I would appreciate it if you could pay back

(57:19):
that twenty dollars I lent you in January, Jasmine, John's
not gonna John's not gonna do jazz, he or keon.
You want to do you can't do it. I got you,
I gotcha, you got jazz. Now I'll do it right, Yeah, yeah,
as normal as possible. Yeah, I'll do it, but I

(57:40):
don't have the money. I know for a fact that
she has a job on campus that gives a paycheck
every other week. Well, you've had months now, and I
get that money can be tight, but I've given you
a lot of time to pay me back. So please
either venmo me or leave it in cash on my desk.
No reply, And then my phone rings and it's Jazz,
and so I answer it me, Hey, who the F

(58:05):
do you think you are?

Speaker 2 (58:06):
Me?

Speaker 3 (58:08):
You have no right to text my number asking me
for money I don't have I haven't paid in months.
I don't have the money. Don't ever text me again.
You don't have the right to speak to me that way.
You should speak to me in person about this.

Speaker 1 (58:25):
Click immediately hangs up. I immediately break down and cry
for a while before calming down and deciding that I'll
talk to her again after that night. Also, this is
twenty dollars, like that was a lot of college student.
I'm broke, listen, man, just no, but just like it's

(58:48):
not about like, look, I know that you can't it's
not I've been in the spot where I can't afford
twenty bucks. But it's like I just mean more of
like the you don't have the right to message me.
It's like, this is not that serious. Yeah it's twenty bucks. Nah.

Speaker 3 (59:05):
And and she's just like like she's being very calm,
like she's saying what she needs to say is like hey,
just like leave it on my desk or whatever. But
I feel like her communication did not cross the line.

Speaker 1 (59:20):
No, it didn't get to the point where she deserved
to be like told off. No way true. Wow?

Speaker 2 (59:26):
So wow, whoa, whoa, Woh.

Speaker 1 (59:32):
It's for sure thirty minutes school. Oh oh, we have
just hit another. We got another one another. It's another
quick thirty.

Speaker 3 (59:42):
From your favorite boy band.

Speaker 1 (59:45):
Boy band. N oh yeah, that's the that's it.

Speaker 3 (59:49):
I literally had a question and then Kean just like
beautifully answered it with.

Speaker 1 (59:52):
His beautiful fucking facial. Oh get him here. Oh wow,
your face he's shake he's trembling. He's trembling. That's what
I do with power. Oh god. Uh Okay, if she
wants me to talk in person, then I'll do that too.
I just want my money back, So when she gets back,

(01:00:16):
I give her some time and then hesitantly bring up
money again. It's my money, and I want to know
she's a lot more calm this time, but still evasive.
Oh Jasmine, Oh yeah, I get that, but I haven't
paid in months. They messed up something with my information,
so I'm waiting on a bunch of paychecks. Me. Oh man,

(01:00:39):
that sucks. I'm sorry. But you have been going to
bars every weekend with your friends, so you seem to
have money for that. So I really just like my
twenty dollars. Why the f are you all up in
my business like that? That is so rude. Well, you're
talking on the phone all the time, so I like

(01:01:01):
listening in on conversations. He dropping, you are so rude.
That's why every.

Speaker 3 (01:01:06):
One of the halls. That's what every one of the
halls thinks you are. Everyone says you're rude. That's why
no one likes you or talks to you. That's why
you don't have any friends.

Speaker 1 (01:01:16):
Ouch. I knew I didn't have more than one or
two friends on the hall, but that immediately triggered my
social anxiety and made me think back over my actions
and worry that the blame really was on me. So
I'm trying not to cry now, me raising my voice.
Maybe if you actually used headphones and didn't talk on
FaceTime all hours of the day. I wouldn't know all

(01:01:38):
your business, but you're pretty thing. Or do ignore when
I may have lost my cool? What the F? What
the F did you just say to me? I have
a boyfriend and being in a long distance relationship hard

(01:02:01):
and talking on FaceTime helps. I know I'm in a
long distance relationship too, oh, plot twist. But I make
sure I talk when you aren't in the room or
I leave the room, and I use headphones for privacy,

(01:02:22):
and I don't talk all the time. Well, you must
have a terrible relationship because I've never seen you facetiming.
And yes, we are going two years strong, while you
can't even last three weeks without a breakup. At that moment,
my neighbor from the next room came over and knocked

(01:02:44):
and asked for us to quiet down. Can you guys
shut up? Please?

Speaker 5 (01:02:49):
No?

Speaker 1 (01:02:50):
Okay? I got up and left my room, going to
try to find somewhere quiet to cry. The girl next door,
an actual angel of a girl, saw me and went
with me downstairs, bringing the ra and sitting with me
and bringing me tissues while I sobbed and spilled everything
about Jasmine to her and comforting me saying that no

(01:03:11):
one thought I was rude at all, and that I
was liked by many people on the hall. I was
just not around to hear it. My Ra finally decided
to escalate things to her boss, who talked to me
and Jasmine separately, and even though she could not do
anything for us, she promised to give me priority housing
next year and pulled strings to get me into the

(01:03:32):
nicest housing on campus where I have sweet style living
with my own private room, and I'll have that for
the rest of my college career. Just really quickly. I
have to say that I love that. There's two comments
right next to each other in the chat that says,
I hate this Dakota voice so much, and then the
next one says, top notch voice, Dakota.

Speaker 3 (01:03:55):
You can't please them all, but Dakota.

Speaker 1 (01:04:00):
Oh, I got the full spectrum. I got the love
and the hate, So I need to get the tattoos
on my knuckles. Jasmine paid me my twenty dollars because
I had her agreeing in writing that she owed me
and could not deny the fact, and then I blocked
her and deleted all connections to her. After she moved out,
I was ready to forget all about her and move on.

(01:04:21):
There's no real victory here. This isn't pro revenge or anything,
but I do have some closing info you might find satisfying.
So remember how I said that my dad was a
professor teaching a required class. Well, for some reason, Jasmine
decided to take his course, meaning that at the end
of the semester I got all the details from my
dad regarding her behavior in his class. By the way,

(01:04:43):
we're gonna tell your dad on you. If you don't
listen one more time. If you don't right now, if
you don't listen to full episodes with stories like this,
what are you gonna do? We will be informing the faculty,
oh god, and they're gonna report back to us whether

(01:05:06):
or not you've gone to Spotify or Apple Podcasts or
wherever you get your podcasts from and have searched. Okay,
story time, because that is all you need to do
to find a bottomless well of juicy episodes that you
can just draw from at any moment. So true, bestie,

(01:05:28):
I don't know if you cooked or you burnt it.
I don't know if you did there. Teddy just goes,
don't tell my dad shit. Oh okay, okay, So we
are approaching the end of the story here before we
finish it. You know, like I think I never had

(01:05:55):
to deal with an ra. I didn't go to university
like that, so I can't speak same. But at the
same time I can say that, like, clearly you needed
more evidence, so gather more evidence. Like and also, this
person's young. You know, they're eighteen nineteen, they just went
to college and freshmen. I think learning to be more
secure in your own sort of thought processes and decisions

(01:06:19):
something that we learn as we get older. For sure,
this is not something we always have when we're.

Speaker 4 (01:06:24):
A fresh a fresh adult, but yeah, it's like you
should definitely be able to be like, hey, I just
can you not be on the phone all the time,
Like it's it's distracting I'm trying to focus on studying.

Speaker 1 (01:06:38):
Or it's like or can you just use headphones? And
if she's like no, absolutely not, then it's like, all right, well,
I don't know. I'm I'm gonna I guess talk to
Ari about this because it's like I feel like I
need a new roommate. I feel like we're not getting along. Yeah,
I think you could have maybe found a way to
get that move, to get that move to happen, because

(01:07:01):
it was like, oh the r A can't move me
out because it's not toxic. But I think if you
could have gotten her be like, hey, we both aren't
liking each other, right, let's both get new roommates.

Speaker 2 (01:07:09):
That's very It's very odd because as someone who did
go to university and you know, had the dorm life,
but using a university.

Speaker 1 (01:07:18):
Oh look at me over here with my big university
cake that I drag around all day. We're just a
couple of country bumpkins, aren't we over here? I tell
you I didn't ever go to no higher education. But
I'm uh dang it, I can't remember where I was
gonna say, I graduated from a Baylor. Hey, yeah, I

(01:07:38):
graduated from bail of Hay University. Yeah, Baylor, Now that's
where I'm from. From Baylor. I'm from Baylor. I was by.
I'm a big Bayler. There ain't no why in that
university is b a I l e R or b
A l e R. You were saying, speechless, hey college boy,

(01:08:02):
what are you talking about? Big college boy? Pulling a Dakoda?
And I lost my train of thought. No, yeah, I
feel like we're going to talk about the ra as
esause Oh you want me to do Yeah, yeah I do.
We were just going, yeah, little goofin, little new boot,

(01:08:23):
goofing on you. That's all. So I kind of lost
it now.

Speaker 2 (01:08:28):
It's it was pretty easy to like, if you had
a complaint, you would go to the ra A and
be like, okay, cool, the ra A would like try
and what they did at the very end there, they
would have done that at the very beginning.

Speaker 1 (01:08:42):
I don't understand.

Speaker 2 (01:08:43):
That's very weird that, yeah, this wasn't heard in the
first like complaint.

Speaker 1 (01:08:49):
Yeah, there was some stipulation. It was like, oh, well
because there's no like proof that it's toxic. But it's like,
where's the line for toxic being drawn these days by
an R.

Speaker 3 (01:09:02):
I feel like as soon as that was the you know,
the the spicy solo face time, Oh yeah, actually.

Speaker 1 (01:09:09):
Such face time. Yeah yeah, that's like hello, no, thank you, no.

Speaker 3 (01:09:15):
I feel like that would have at least that point,
but also possibly and also op he was saying, oh
she didn't go to the RI and the R told
her that, right, it was like, oh, I don't have
enough yet to prove that it's top No, she did.

Speaker 1 (01:09:28):
She went to the R and R was like, Nah,
we can't. We can't move you out. Make it more toxic, code,
make it more toxic. Yeah, well, let's see how the
story is. Let's see what happens to toxic J turns
out Jasmine missed so often it did absolutely no homework,
and did so poorly on exams that he had no

(01:09:51):
choice but tough fail. And when I checked the student
registry this year, she is no longer attending the school.
Because if I had to guess, I would say.

Speaker 5 (01:10:00):
It's because she never went to classes and spent most
of her study time on her phone.

Speaker 1 (01:10:06):
Yeah. If I had a.

Speaker 5 (01:10:08):
Guess, it's because she's on the phone with a boyfriend
touching on.

Speaker 1 (01:10:12):
Near mind nothing Wait wait I missed? Uh could you
just like fully detail out. I'm just gonna fully detail
it out. That's probably because she was on the phone
with a boyfriend touch you know who? Ha? Okay, who's ha?
Who's har? Who had dinner first? As for me, I

(01:10:33):
am still at this school. I have three great suite mates,
with two more good friends moving in next year. I
have awoo, that's a lot of space. It's who is it?
Three four five. That's six people in one suite. It's
a lot.

Speaker 3 (01:10:51):
I think some of them they have like little it's
almost like those hotel rooms, you know, it's a little connector.

Speaker 1 (01:10:55):
And then yeah, maybe I don't know. That's wild to me.
I have a solid GPA, a healthier mental state, a
stable relationship, have kept my scholarship, and most importantly, I've
grown a spine with the help of therapy, anxiety medication,
and realizing my own self worth. Yeah, go off, quote
let's go. It's like that's I love that because that's

(01:11:17):
that's all we needed right there. So I'd say I
came out on top karmas a b two bees uh,
and that is the end of that story. And that's
actually the end of that episode. But we're not doing that.
But we're not doing that because oh okay, wow.

Speaker 2 (01:11:42):
My takeaway to that is, if you are a college
student and you are not comfortable in your living situation,
especially as a freshman, speak to an RA or the
norm manager or whoever someone high up and like, you know,
just don't don't say anything. I mean, you gotta see something. Yeah, dude,
you have rights. You're paying so much money to be there.

(01:12:02):
You are paying a stupendous amount of money to be there.
But I feel like you can speak your mind. All
kids like it.

Speaker 3 (01:12:09):
Sometimes you really got to like they still feel like,
oh I'm at school and like oh, like.

Speaker 2 (01:12:13):
Then they're walking on eggshells and they're like, oh no,
I don't have a voice, and like I just want
to be a cool kid and not be like the
tattletale like nah, do your thing.

Speaker 1 (01:12:20):
This is where you get to fresh restart and get
to be an adult.

Speaker 3 (01:12:23):
And and if you need kind of like Op, like
I feel like Op kind of needed help, like coming
out of her shell like that, talk to a therapist,
your friend, your parents, et cetera. Like if you're like
I really want to do this, but I have a
hard time doing it, talk to someone who will kind
of like I feel like someone be like, uh, yeah,
you're ten trillion percent within your right.

Speaker 1 (01:12:44):
To do that.

Speaker 2 (01:12:45):
You gets like that helps and usually a lot of
the validation, Yeah, a majority of campuses or a lot
of campuses, actually, I would say maybe all of them.
They do have like therapy sessions for students that usually
you don't make as Yeah, so that's a great point.
If you are again a student right now listening to
us or watching us, do that. Talk to someone, talk

(01:13:05):
to an adult. I don't know, talk to somebody.

Speaker 1 (01:13:10):
That ra goofed. There's no way that. Yeah, I really
don't like how the RA like they could have handled
it immediately. I know it's hard to find like.

Speaker 2 (01:13:18):
I know it's hard like because it does happen where
they can't move people in the dorm and they can't
take you and like, okay, there's no more rooms and
there's no space, but they can try and maybe switch
you out with someone who else is helping in a
complaint with their roommate.

Speaker 1 (01:13:30):
That does sometimes happen. Oh oh, oh, that's what I'm
doing to the ra. Oh he kicked him three times
in the mouth. And so so this next story, John,
it's thirty six hundred. That's a lot for my throat.

Speaker 2 (01:13:48):
Yeah, I'll give you a lot for your threat.

Speaker 1 (01:13:51):
That's a lot of words to holy pause pause what
I just or what? Oh? Chat note chat heard you?
What chat knows what you said? Oh, you had a
lot to say about your ah throat anyway.

Speaker 2 (01:14:13):
Yeah, so I'll give him my honey tea, I will
warm water, take liquids.

Speaker 1 (01:14:20):
I will take this bird in the PUNI shoulders, today's
the first day. Oh yeah, Kofi supporter, thanks for the
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Do you want to read another story instead of the
three K?

Speaker 1 (01:17:10):
Like another episode? I don't know. You can just read
story two or something. Well, there's only two stories.

Speaker 2 (01:17:15):
Yeah, read the second one, but then John, I'll have
to read the first one. No, just read the second one.
Or do you want John to read the second one?
The second one John.

Speaker 1 (01:17:23):
Read, I'll read the long one. Yeah, I will read
the long the two K one.

Speaker 2 (01:17:26):
That's why the second story is a two K. Do
you want to read that one, John?

Speaker 1 (01:17:29):
Or that? I think I could do two K? Do
you want to read the two K? Or do you
want to read the three I'll be doing? I will
be doing this one? Nice?

Speaker 2 (01:17:35):
Do you want to do the two K or three K?
What do you mean you can switch?

Speaker 1 (01:17:38):
There's only two episodes.

Speaker 2 (01:17:39):
I know you can do. There's a three, there's a three.

Speaker 1 (01:17:42):
This is like four?

Speaker 2 (01:17:44):
Yeah, this is pretty much four. Do you want to
do the four KNA?

Speaker 1 (01:17:46):
Do the four? Do the two K? I'm doing the four?

Speaker 2 (01:17:48):
Okay, check out your throat because you're the one who
burnt your mouth.

Speaker 1 (01:17:52):
Oh well, my mouth it's numb, so it's probably gonna
hurt later, Achie. That's so good. Yeah. I basically put
boiling water into the thermos and then forgot that it
was such a good thermis and then I drank boiling
water is just too high quality. Oh I think this
Christian saw me like I literally took a sip and
then it just like spilled out of my mouth like

(01:18:15):
a narsty. Don't clip that, don't clip that chat, don't
clear girlfriend, don't clip me my.

Speaker 3 (01:18:23):
I don't know what's going on in chat right now.
Chat is just going banana.

Speaker 1 (01:18:27):
Slate has a girlfriend.

Speaker 2 (01:18:29):
Sam has a girlfriend who as a girlfriend?

Speaker 1 (01:18:31):
No, he doesn't.

Speaker 3 (01:18:32):
I think this is maybe fake news. This is not well,
is their girlfriend and there's a girlfriend?

Speaker 1 (01:18:37):
You know?

Speaker 2 (01:18:39):
Not?

Speaker 1 (01:18:39):
Sam does not have a girlfriend. Sam does not do
anything outside of the like read that guy has a girlfriend.
Read my boyfriend? Sorry, holy is he god? Damn? Oh

(01:19:01):
my god? Okay, dude, whoo okay, here we go. My
boyfriend's friend accused me of aggression, so I asked him
to defend me next time. What's going on here? I
think she met the boyfriend. What's going on here? Yeah,

(01:19:23):
well we're gonna find out, okay. I thirty four female
and my boyfriend thirty three male, have been together for
a little over a year. When I met him, he
mentioned he wanted to start a D and D group
with his friends. I agreed, even though I didn't know
anything about those kinds of games. I wanted to spend
time with him and thought it was a good way
to meet and integrate with his friends. By the way,

(01:19:46):
this comes from user Potato Queen fan, and you can
submit your stories on the r slash Okay storytime subred
So the D and D group consists of my boyfriend, me,
his two best friends who are women, and they have
boyfriends who have also become my boyfriend's close friends. They've
known each other since elementary school and when he introduced

(01:20:07):
me to them, we seemed to get along well. We
completed an entire campaign which lasts several months. For those
who don't know, Yeah we know about that. Oh yeah,
we know about that, and the last sessions were in November.
At this point, my boyfriend and I have been together
for a year and four months and have only ever
had one argument due to a misunderstanding. We have a beautiful,

(01:20:30):
healthy and loving relationship. Yesterday, while I was with him,
I saw a Facebook post about a movie that one
of his friends, who will call Elba, is obsessed with.

Speaker 2 (01:20:42):
Like Idris, like Idris, Idris, Elba so handsome.

Speaker 1 (01:20:47):
I wanted to tag her, but her name didn't show up.
I searched my profile and saw that I no longer
had her as a friend. I checked my boyfriend's profile
and she didn't show up at all. I sent my
boyfriend a screen sh and asked him what was going on.
I was very confused because the last time I saw
her at a D and D session, everything seemed fine.

(01:21:08):
We laughed, and when we said goodbye, she hugged me
and wished me a merry Christmas. I noticed my boyfriend
was avoiding the topic. I asked him to check with
her to see if she was upset or if she
had deleted her account. He didn't want to say anything
and asked me to just forget about it. But something
in his tone told me he was hiding something. Can

(01:21:29):
you guess? Do I guess? I see you? Oh you
see something? Do you he done? Smooched your mouth? Oh oh,
straight mouth smooching. That's what I'm thinking. Okay, okay, yep,
she blocked me. Oh no, that's well, okay. Oops. When

(01:21:54):
my boyfriend finally told me what was going on, I
was in shock and felt terrible. I pushed him for
the full story and asked to see the conversation with her.
A month ago, she messaged him, asking is everything okay
with your girlfriend? And whether I had been abusive towards him.
My boyfriend replied that everything was fine and asked why
she was asking that. She said, at the last gathering,

(01:22:15):
your girlfriend yelled at me, attacked me, was aggressive towards me,
and even turned red with rage. I was worried she
might be abusive towards you. But if everything's fine, that's
great to hear. WHOA, that's a lot to come out
of left field. Wow. True.

Speaker 3 (01:22:35):
Now I'm like, do we have an unreliable narrator? Is
the friend getting out? I don't know what something.

Speaker 1 (01:22:41):
Is going on here. We must search for the truth
and let us continue on. Let's figure this out. Ezekiel,
you didn't scare me. I don't know what you're talking about.
At the gathering, she mentioned, the three women in the
group stayed at the table chatting about the Joka move.
Be Oh wait, did I skip anything? No? Okay, okay.

(01:23:06):
At the gathering. She mentioned the three women in the
group stayed at the table chatting about the Joker movie.
I mentioned that there were many inaccuracies regarding mental health,
such as how Lady Gaga's character couldn't be possibly be
a psychiatrist as portrayed based on her profile and delusion.
She wouldn't have been able to finish medical school, let
alone complete a long specialty like psychiatry. The other girlfriend,

(01:23:28):
let's call her Sophia, supported my argument, adding that her
profile wouldn't have allowed her to even get into medical school.
Elba got furious, saying that if there are pedo priests,
then there can also be crazy doctors, and if there
are touchy doctors, there can also be delusional women practicing medicine. Um,

(01:23:51):
that's not that's a false equivalency. Uh, She's like, what
does this have to do with Bah? You have picked
the weirdest hill to die on. So we disagreed, and
we should know, as Sophia is a doctor and I

(01:24:12):
have a PhD in psychology and psychotherapy. Coming from a
place of knowledge, we explained to her that it wasn't possible.
The argument didn't lead anywhere. It was already very late
around one am, so we said goodbye and left it
at that, or so I thought. Oh. My boyfriend replied
to Elba, saying that he didn't see any violence that night,

(01:24:33):
but wanted to understand where she felt it happened. She
responded that I yelled at her, and he replied that's
just how she is. She's effusive. Her whole family's like that.
If they don't yell, they don't listen to each other.
She lost her temper and she can be crazy ish
at times, but everything is fine between us. Note on
this point, what my boyfriend said really hurt me. Not

(01:24:54):
only do I feel like he agreed with her, but
he also spoke badly about my family, essentially called me
crazy in my eyes, and didn't defend me from a
direct attack on my character. At this point, I was
on the verge of tears. I asked him to ask
her why she blocked me anyway, Even though I already
knew the answer, I wanted to hear what she would say.
Elbow replied that she didn't feel she owed anyone an explanation,

(01:25:17):
didn't have to answer to anyone, and that it was
a long story. She typed for what felt like hours
and When she finally sent the message, I was stunned. Quote,
your girlfriend is aggressive and violent. The last time we
saw each other, she yelled at Sophia and her boyfriend
and raised her voice to you. She's a terrible person
and I have no interest in interacting with her at all.
She's your girlfriend and you can do whatever you want,

(01:25:39):
but I don't want her near me or my boyfriend.
She's full of hatred and has anger issues that make
her unfit to be around us. She's full of crap,
and I don't tolerate someone yelling at my loved ones.
She is crazy, and we think she's too aggressive and
too violent. Didn't repeat yourself at all there, my boy
My boyfriend replied, why why do you think that? And

(01:26:01):
that was it. At that moment, I broke down crying,
not just because of what she said, but also because
during the previous gathering she hugged me, wished me a
merry Christmas, and acted as if everything was fine. Additionally,
my boyfriend didn't defend me or say anything in my favor. Instead,
he wanted to quote understand why she viewed me that way,

(01:26:22):
and also the we part stood out, she made it
seem like all my boyfriend's friends thought I was violent
while I while he was texting her, I wrote a
message in the group chat we all shared, and then
left the group, deciding not to be a part of
the D and D table anymore to avoid further conflict.
Here's the message I sent, quote Hi everyone. First of all,

(01:26:46):
I want to apologize. If at any point you felt
any kind of aggression from me towards you, please believe me.
That was not my intention. Second, I just realized that
I've been blocked on social media, and after talking with
my boyfriend, he told me there was even a conversation
where I was accused of being violent towards him. Knowing
that more than one person in my boyfriend's close friend
group sees me as a bad person or even violent

(01:27:08):
towards him hurts me deeply. For everyone's well being, I'm
leaving the group. Please believe me that my boyfriend didn't
want to tell me anything, and I never wanted this
to happen. Sophia and her boyfriend. I deeply apologize if
I offended you or spoke harshly, it was never my intention.
Believe me. I've been crying NonStop and feel terrible. I
wish you all a very merry Christmas and a happy

(01:27:29):
new Year. I hope that the new campaign is a success,
and I send you my best wishes. I have some
thoughts about that, but before we get into that, we're
gonna keep going a little bit. Seconds after I sent
that message, Elba sent a five minute voice note, followed
by another seven minute one. In the voice note, she

(01:27:52):
yelled at my boyfriend, saying why did she send that?
That stupid girl is childish and spoiled. The right thing
to do would have been to message me to to
apologize and fix things, but no, she prefers everyone to
find out so she can play the victim. She's manipulative
and selfish. What matters here is you and that this
is your group of friends and she's ruining it and
being abusive, and of course, that manipulative Bee cries, what

(01:28:15):
else can she do but act offended. She's a terrible
person and that's why I don't want her near me.
I don't even want to see her stupid face. If
you want to keep her as your girlfriend, that's your problem,
but I don't agree with it. And I hope that
soon no one will want her around. Okay, And that
that was the voice memo response from Elba, right Rightture.

(01:28:37):
So my main point was, hey, girl, you're about to
make things even worse, and not because you're a terrible person,
but because the people that you're talking to, namely this
person Elba, is awful. Yeah. So trying to have this
like amicable piece piece message of like I'm removing myself.

(01:28:58):
Sorry if I upset anyone, you're actually doing the opposite.
You're stirring the pot even harder. And I guess this
was sent directly to I don't know if this was
sent in the group chatter to the group boyfriend.

Speaker 3 (01:29:09):
It kind of sounded like it was like the communication
was happening in the group at least from Ope's message in.

Speaker 1 (01:29:15):
But and now at this point, if I'm privy to
that voice message and the boyfriend isn't immediately like hey,
first of all, Elba, watch your mouth. Yeah, Like, second
of all, who do you think you're talking to? Third
of all, watch your mouth again. If that's not the conversation,

(01:29:35):
then I'm breaking up with the guy. Yeah yeah, I
think now it's Op. I think Op brought up a
lot of good points.

Speaker 3 (01:29:41):
Is like, hey, my boyfriend did defend me, my boyfriend,
Like it was just like oh why, Like, yeah, one
thing I was gonna say, maybe op did just like
reading the context clues of like what the boyfriend said,
maybe did. Maybe op did grow up in a household
where communication, you know, very communication styles were present. So

(01:30:02):
maybe Opie like communicates kind of more a quote unquote
aggressively than the average person, and that is maybe a
bit jarring to some people, even though OPI does not
have any intention or like actual aggression, like intended aggression
behind it, I guess so to say, but Elba's still wild.

Speaker 1 (01:30:24):
Yeah, Elba is still wilin. It is true low key,
though I was gonna saying that first the first, like
my boyfriend's not defending me, it's like, well is he
is it? Because he already knows how this person is
and he's not even gonna bother putting any energy into
it where it's like I mean, yeah, I feel like

(01:30:45):
at that point you almost just like don't even respond. Yeah,
it's like this person's just ridiculous. It's just being like,
all right, let me see if I can open her mind,
and he's just like why do you feel that way?
He's just asking her a question like, hey, yeah, where
are your feelings coming from? Stupid? Why I could? I could?

Speaker 3 (01:31:03):
I could see that, But honestly, I feel like, what
do you think the best move would have been for him?

Speaker 1 (01:31:06):
I mean, clearly you have to be like, hey, shut
your mouth, but my girlfriend. Don't talk to her like that. Yeah,
that's you have to say that every time.

Speaker 2 (01:31:14):
I get to say, just like a crazy conspiracy theory,
maybe she just sucks a D and d op and
they just don't want they want her out of the campaign.
They're like, nah, so let's just make this really really
wild accusation because she sucks a D and D.

Speaker 1 (01:31:29):
That's another good wild take right here. Yeah that is
like that. Yeah, let's let's see where this goes. Find out.
I didn't ask my boyfriend what he replied to her
because I couldn't stop crying. In the year I had
been spending time with Elba, I never had an argument
or conflict with her, and hearing her say all that
about me hurt deeply. Sofia and her boyfriend sent me

(01:31:51):
private messages immediately after Elba's voice note. Sophia says, baby,
what happened? When have you ever been aggressive? Honestly, I've
never noticed anything like that. Please don't apologize. You really
don't need to. You're important to me, and I hope
we can continue being close. Even though we haven't known
each other for very long. I already consider you a friend.
You've helped me so much during my crisis is and

(01:32:12):
supported me when my friend group broke apart. I care
about you a lot, and I hope we stay friends. Yes,
so this is just confirmation. Elba sucks. Elba sucks. Elba sucks.
We know that, Sofia's boyfriend. We saw what you wrote,
but we've never felt anything like what you're describing. If
we did or said something to make you think otherwise,
we're truly sorry. We've never felt any aggression or anything

(01:32:34):
of the sort. Neither Sophia nor I think that way.
On the contrary, you've always been a great friend to us.
If you ever felt a bad attitude from us, please
forgive us too. Let's continue being friends. We care about
you a lot. Elba's boyfriend messaged my boyfriend saying he
had decide with Elba, but admitted that everything had gotten
out of hand and expressed how sorry he was about

(01:32:56):
the situation. At this point, I felt better. With the
support messages from Sophia and her boyfriend, I found the
courage to tell my boyfriend I can no longer be
around Elba. Yes, I never want to be near her again,
and you needed and you need to decide. Either you
side with her and we end our relationship, or you
side with me and you keep her away from me

(01:33:18):
and understand that I never want to see her again
in my life. So my boyfriend got up and started
saying I needed to stop talking. Oh oh oh. He
said he was having a panic attack, that he couldn't
make a decision like that, and that he never thought
it would get to this point. He said he wasn't

(01:33:39):
able to decide, so I will continue reading before I
get into my I have thoughts, Yes, I have thoughts, Yes,
but I will continue to read. Okay, we'll think too.
I waited for him to calm down, gave him his
anxiety pill and a glass of water. Note I'm a
psychotherapist and I specialize in helping people in crisis. And

(01:34:01):
once we were in a better place, I simply said,
it's late, you should go home, think about it, and
we'll finish this conversation another day when we're calmer. He
told me he didn't want to leave me like that.
By that time, I had been crying for over two hours.
But I insisted that for his safety, he should go
home before eleven PM and that we could pause the
discussion for now. So my thought talk to me, I

(01:34:28):
understand not wanting to ever see this person again, right yep.
And it's one of your boyfriend's best friends. So it's
you're now putting your relationship between a rock and a
hard place. When it's true, like your boyfriend should defend you.
But to now be like, well, I have to never

(01:34:50):
see this person again, and if you're not going to
facilitate that alongside me, then we're done. That is not
the right move in my head. Yeah, you're giving it.
From my perspective, you're giving the power in your relationship
to Elba because now it's sure. It's like you can say, well,
it's up to my boyfriend to decide whether he wants

(01:35:10):
me or her, But it's like you're making her presence
the fulcrum of like where your relationship is going to go. Now.

Speaker 2 (01:35:18):
Well, I mean, he he's like with everything coming of
light and with everything going on, he's actually having a
I don't know. Maybe he's not having a panic attack,
but it sounds like he's actually having a panic attack
and you can't think of that situation.

Speaker 1 (01:35:29):
Yeeah.

Speaker 2 (01:35:30):
So I'm giving him that credit of like take a breather,
and what OP is saying like, Okay, this is a
very tough conversation. I know this is a lot to process,
and you are you cannot process any of it at
this moment.

Speaker 1 (01:35:41):
Take a breather.

Speaker 2 (01:35:42):
We'll talk about this some other time or you know,
when you actually are back to reality. I think he
needs more like what's going on here between the both
of them, of Elba and Op.

Speaker 3 (01:35:54):
Yeah, I totally agree, and also w move on Op
for realizing like okay, we need to just pause rather
let me help them right double down on it rather.

Speaker 2 (01:36:03):
Than attacking him or jumping to conclusions. It's like, oh
my god, he's actually having a panic attack. And if
you've ever seen somebody with having a panic attack, it's
kind of scary. Yeah, being in one the person having
the panic attack and to seeing that person having a
panic attack one hundred percent.

Speaker 1 (01:36:16):
Oh yeah, I've had I had won my life and
it's like oh stops, brain stops working, my body starts shaking.

Speaker 2 (01:36:25):
I think I had a panic attack a couple of times,
but I witnessed someone having a panic attack, and like
mine was mild, and I was like, whoa, are you okay?
Do I need to call the ambulance. You're like no, no, no, no,
but like like I can't breathe. I can't breathe, but
oh my god, what And like I was like, breathe
and all the breathing techniques that I know. But it's
wild to see that in the moment, the.

Speaker 1 (01:36:43):
Mind is powerful. The mind.

Speaker 3 (01:36:45):
Yeah, and yeah, I think that again to echo, like
get both of your sentiments. Really, I think that the
way that op framed it was like she could have
I think she could have said something along the lines
of like, honestly, I'm really hurt, and like, you know,

(01:37:05):
I know this is an extreme ask, and I'm not
trying to like make you choose or whatever, but like
I almost feel like I want to ask you to,
uh stop seeing Elba or something like that.

Speaker 1 (01:37:19):
Like I feel like you.

Speaker 3 (01:37:20):
Can essentially communicate very close to the same message or
at least the way you're feeling, Like you can tell
someone how you're feeling without telling them you have.

Speaker 1 (01:37:28):
To do this if that makes sense. Yeah, And to
be clear, I think somebody did comment, and I think
it's right that she didn't actually say that he can't
see Elba anymore, just that he has to keep Elba
from away from Ope.

Speaker 2 (01:37:44):
I think Elba was kind of like giving like a
like like pushing.

Speaker 1 (01:37:48):
It the idea of you have to pick. Well, no
Op was saying that, right, like it's either me or her. Right.
Did she say something? I read it because a commenter
I can't remember. I think it was actually blind Bee. Okay, yeah, yeah,
through that she needs. Yeah, Basically she said that she
doesn't want anything to do without Elba and that he

(01:38:11):
would have to be okay with that and kind of
play keep play the keep away game. So it's like
he would have to facilitate, like, well, it's I got
to make sure that Alba's not coming over to that
house or that if we go somewhere that Elba's.

Speaker 2 (01:38:23):
Yeah, he's having the thought process of like how do
I how do I make this work for both of it?
But again, he's probably having so many thoughts in his
head right now of how do I navigate this without
losing one or the other?

Speaker 1 (01:38:35):
Got it?

Speaker 3 (01:38:35):
Okay, if but blind I might have misunderstood. I I
agree with blind B. I think that that was Yeah,
blindBy says, no Ope was saying Elba needs to be
kept away from op and that if her boyfriend doesn't
keep Elbow wait, they can't be together.

Speaker 1 (01:38:49):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (01:38:49):
I totally understand that. Yeah, that's I think I misunderstood.

Speaker 1 (01:38:53):
I still don't like that though, because I still feel
like it puts too much power in Alba's hands. It does,
It's like it gives it gives too much power to Elba.
This Elba should have nothing to do with your relationship. No,
if anything, it should be like, I want you to
make it clear to Elba that the way she spoke
to me was unacceptable or spoke about me to you
is unacceptable and will not be entertained. That's one thing

(01:39:15):
I can be like, all right, yeah, you need to
make him be like, hey, don't talk about my girlfriend
to me like that. Yeah, that's not I'm not here
for that. I can also.

Speaker 3 (01:39:24):
Understand her request, though it be like, hey, I just
like like if she doesn't set the boundary of like, hey,
I honestly just like don't want to be in the
same room with Elba and I need your help in
making sure that happens. Then she could end up in
the same room with Elba, because it's like it kind
of sucks, like ideally she doesn't like quote unquote hold

(01:39:46):
that space. But it's almost like, but then if you
don't say that, then it could happen.

Speaker 1 (01:39:51):
I just think it's like your give like this person
does not mess with you, She does not f with you.
Elba is your op opponent, your opposition.

Speaker 2 (01:40:02):
How about like OP in the relationship. I don't know,
like she's taking I think I think from Alba.

Speaker 1 (01:40:09):
I don't know. OP needs to be able to walk
into a room with Alba present and completely ignore her existence.
That's it. I don't know. That's it to me. That's
and I know that not everyone's gonna agree with that
and everybody some people are gonna be like, I mean,
I think it's what you can do whatever you want.
But in my head, it's just like, how are you
gonna let someone else dictate where you can be? Do

(01:40:30):
you know what I mean? That's that's where anyway, Yeah,
she's totally and she's fine to set whatever boundary she
deems necessary, but I'm like, don't let her win you're
letting Elba win. Anyways, back to the story, that was
a long tangent.

Speaker 5 (01:40:46):
Uh.

Speaker 1 (01:40:46):
I told my mom about it, about the whole situation,
and she's on my side, saying that my boyfriend didn't
defend me, which that is true. He should have immediately
been like, hey, just stop bashing my girlfriend. Why are
you bashing my girlfriend?

Speaker 2 (01:41:01):
To me a question like why where is this coming from?

Speaker 1 (01:41:04):
Yeah? Yeah, he should have set boundaries with Elba and
that I'm in the right. Sophia and her boyfriend also
make me feel like I didn't do anything Elba is
accusing me of. But at this point I need to ask,
am I the a hole for asking my boyfriend to
defend me, stand up for me and never put me
in front of Elba again?

Speaker 7 (01:41:23):
No?

Speaker 1 (01:41:23):
I wouldn't say you're an a hole for that. No, No,
I wouldn't say you're an a hole for that. Yeah,
maybe I might disagree with that the last part. I
agree with the rest of it, and I don't think
you're an ahole. I agree. Here's an update. Heio cool.
Thanks to everyone who commented. I read all your comments
and upvoted them to show that I genuinely took every
word into account. I deeply appreciate your perspective. It has

(01:41:45):
helped me through a very difficult and painful time. Let's
get to what everyone wants to know. Last night we
sat down to talk calmly. Keep in mind that more
than four days had passed since the incident before we
had this conversation. Don't like it is four days? The
first days today and then we will talk later. Uh?

(01:42:08):
Pretty good?

Speaker 2 (01:42:10):
Uh? Uh?

Speaker 1 (01:42:13):
That day, the day of the incident, I asked him
to stop responding to her, as it was only giving
her more ammunition to keep attacking me, and I didn't
want him talking about me anymore. That same day, I
realized he kept replying to her, and I knew he continued.
We sat down in the living room and I said,
first of all, I want you to know I'm not angry.

(01:42:34):
I'm sad, and I want us to talk and figure
out how we can fix this. I love you, and
I want to know if you're okay and if you
feel ready to talk. He told me he hadn't eaten
because he was anxious about our talk, but otherwise he
was fine and wanted to talk too. I first asked
if he could show me what he had replied to
Elba over the past few days. When he showed me,

(01:42:55):
I saw that Elba kept sending hateful messages about me
and my boyfriend replied not my not by defending me,
but by validating her with things like why do you
feel that way? I'm sure she didn't mean it like that.
Let me talk to her.

Speaker 3 (01:43:10):
Eh, that's bad, no good.

Speaker 1 (01:43:16):
Uh. There were several voice notes of her attacking me
and countless messages. I had blocked her a day before
seeing him. Apparently she tried to contact me via text
to clear things up. She sent him screenshots of her
messages and to me and said she's immature and childish.
Why did she block me? She has zero emotional intelligence
and is manipulative. Dude, defend your girlfriend. You've lost all

(01:43:42):
any legs to stand on poll break up or not
break up? Do we just break up? I'm breaking up,
I'm breaking all I'm influencing I breaking up. Yeah.

Speaker 2 (01:43:54):
I gave this guy the benefit of the doubt and
he had four days to like and he's still not
defending any things like I'm hearing you. I'm hearing you
elbow like hmm. That sounds okay, okay.

Speaker 1 (01:44:06):
Maybe maybe my girlfriend does suck? Yeah, you know, maybe
maybe literally maybe Elba, You're you're you're kind of kind
of great guy. You suck guy. You're the suck guy,
said the suck guy.

Speaker 2 (01:44:20):
Who are you yelling at?

Speaker 1 (01:44:22):
Oh he's boyfriend? Okay, oh oh oh okay, we're back.
And we're back, babe, and we're back. Okay cool oo okay.
I handed his phone back and told him three things
before anything else. Number One, what I'm about to say
doesn't mean we're breaking up. I want to continue as

(01:44:44):
a couple. Number Two, when I'm going to share our
decisions I've already made, not to punish you or make
you feel bad. Number Three, I love you, and nothing
I'm about to say changes that context. We had been
talking about getting married and moving in together by mid
next year, or on our second inniverse read three months
before the year ends. When we discussed marriage, he said
he only wanted a civil wedding, but I want a

(01:45:05):
church wedding, not just because it's important to me, but
also to my family. He said he didn't want to
stand in front of a pedo priest and didn't even
want the civil ceremony, only to live together. That who
else was saying words like that, Yeah.

Speaker 3 (01:45:19):
Mmmm, Elba callback Elba callback to el Remember, remember that's crazy.

Speaker 1 (01:45:24):
Uh. I told him, no, that my family a bit
more traditional and I wanted to do it the right way.
Quote unquote, He replied, if your mom never got married,
why would she care if you don't. At the time,
I didn't think much of it, But after all this,
it feels like a huge red flag. Yeah, just dunked
on your mom, dude, that's that's awful. He actually he

(01:45:48):
double dunked. He not only dunked on, he dunked on
you and your mom in the same breath.

Speaker 3 (01:45:54):
And again the way he said, like literally the same
exact phrase she did. I'm like, oh, she has him rapped,
Elba has the boyfriend wrapped around her finger influencing him.

Speaker 1 (01:46:06):
Maybe, Yeah, I'm doing a little bit more. I don't know,
who knows, I don't know. Seems like it, at the
very least, we could say that Elba it definitely has
a thing for Opie's boyfriend, or why would she be
trying so viciously hard? Come on? No, I told him

(01:46:28):
I wanted to cancel our plans to get married and
move in together. I explained that we weren't in a
healthy place and needed to resolve these issues before taking
such an important step, which is true. I also clarified
that I didn't want him to stop seeing his friends
or playing D and D, and that, out of respect
for Sophia and her boyfriend, he should continue doing so. Finally,
I told him I needed time to heal, that my

(01:46:50):
heart was broken and I wasn't acting out of anger,
but trying to give us space to heal and figure
out how and if we could stay together. He lost it.
He had another panic attack. Oh dear, crying. He begged
me not to cancel our plans, saying he loved me
and didn't want any of this and felt I was

(01:47:10):
punishing him. I'm starting to get mad.

Speaker 3 (01:47:16):
Yeah, OPI also shout out to OPI. Opie did a
great job communicating in this specific conversation, like really just
said what she said and stood stood firm on her
own wants and boundaries and everything. But also it's like,
you know, I'm not trying to attack you.

Speaker 1 (01:47:35):
I still love you. I still want to try and
work this out. But here is how I which is
so hard, being like, hey, by the way, we're not
getting married and moving in together to have that be
like a and we're okay. Yes, that's hard. I feel
like she did it right. Yeah so oh. After pressing him,
he finally admitted what he was thinking when he validated

(01:47:58):
Elba's points. The campaign is really important to me. I
know it's childish, but I'd already written things for your character,
and it's important that you play with me and my friends.
If I cause problems, the group might disband. If I
don't side with Elba, she'll isolate me and turn everyone
against me, like she did with Chris, a friend who

(01:48:18):
was also part of the group but got excluded because
Elba hated her boyfriend. And if I don't agree with her,
we'll lose our friendship with the group. I waited for
him to calm down, then told him what I thought
about everything he'd said. I'm not asking you to leave
your friends. I've always believed couples should have friendships or

(01:48:40):
groups outside of the relationship. I never ask you to
leave them. I asked you to defend me, set boundaries
or respect that I can no longer be around Elba.
And everything you're saying confirms what I've been thinking. I
can't stay in the same group with her. Even if
Sophia still invites me to her wedding, I'd only congret,
only go to congratulate her, and then leave. If you

(01:49:03):
want to stay for the party, I wouldn't be upset,
but I won't risk being in a place with Elba
and Booze. And what you're saying shows me this too.
I'm not your priority. Your priority is your D and
D group and your friends. I'm not That's that's right,
that's it. Why don't you just take that guy? Ball

(01:49:23):
him up like this? Oh, get him out it.

Speaker 2 (01:49:28):
I kind of call it though. It's like it has
to do something with the D and D group.

Speaker 1 (01:49:32):
I knew it. Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah yeah, Now throw
that thing over there. Ha, good, I did it. Okay,
we're back to Hannah for eighty dollars. Ooh, Hannah. Hannah
knows what she's doing. You're dangerously close something dangerously close.

(01:49:53):
So what you I'm not your priority. Your priority is
your D and D group and you were friends. I'm
not packs. And that's another reason we're not in a
place to think about living together. Because our priorities aren't
Excuse me, because our priorities aren't aligned. He asked for

(01:50:14):
time to fix this, saying he wanted to redeem himself
and start acting differently to show me I'm his priority.
He asked me to put our plans on pause instead
of canceling them. I told him, for example, about the
church wedding, I feel there's no middle ground because I'm
the one pressuring for it, and if it happens, people
would think I manipulated him. If I were his priority,

(01:50:36):
he'd at least consider it without those comments, because it's
important to me. Now I feel like I'm manipulating him.
As Elba claims, he asked me to stop mentioning her,
but I told him I couldn't because now I see
her as being in the middle of our relationship. We
talked a bit more, coming back to the same conclusion.
I'm not his priority and he needs to talk to

(01:50:57):
Sophia and her boyfriend to avoid losing them. The next day.

Speaker 3 (01:51:04):
Well, there's some good news. We're gonna make it to
this next day because that's right Broke's, and that's Hannah
and Wingles and Wingles and the whole wing.

Speaker 1 (01:51:21):
We're gonna to all of them. Oh my god. Anonymous
and somebody anonymous, somebody just had to donate fifty bucks. Yeah,
we're almost. We're gonna get to the next one too.
We're gonna have to add an hour. Oh we're one
hundred and twenty dollars away from an hour. Oh my goodness. Yeah,
it's just all right, fine it Yeah, let's go. Let's go,

(01:51:42):
let's go. The next day, after we talked, he sent
me a voice message saying he re read the conversation
and felt angry. Initially, he thought I was exaggerating, but
during our talk, I pointed out several parts where Elba
insulted and belittled to him, and where she tried to
manipulate him like yours. But if you're smart, you'll see
how violent your girlfriend is. And I'd hate to have

(01:52:04):
to disband the group like we did with Chris. But
people like your girlfriend shouldn't be around us. After rereading,
he realized I was right and wasn't reacting emotionally. What
hurt him most about our convo was when I said,
right now, I couldn't sleep with you if we were
living together. I feel sad and tonight I'll shower, have dinner,
and go to bed with my dog. It comforts me
to just to sleep, just to snooze. It comforts me

(01:52:29):
to know you won't be there so I can cry
and be with my thoughts and you don't feel responsible
for making me feel better. I need to sit with
my feelings, not with you. When I said that, he
told me. At that moment, I understood that I wasn't
a safe space for you. You're right, I can't be a
good husband or life partner because I'm not giving you

(01:52:50):
what you need, security, protection and care. You are not
being manipulative, you are sharing your needs and what I
should be doing as a good boyfriend. Instead of trying
to soothe Elba, I should have been comforting you and
taking you away from her and from all of the damage. Okay, first,
great thing he said these He seems like they both

(01:53:11):
seem pretty emotionally mature.

Speaker 3 (01:53:14):
It well, he maybe maybe his anxiety ramps up and
then he goes into he goes to crazy town.

Speaker 1 (01:53:20):
Yeah, but he might have also been blinded by how
long he's been friends with this girl. Yeah, friends for
a long time.

Speaker 3 (01:53:27):
It seems like maybe some some influencing factors maybe took
him away. But when he's at baseline, which seems like
where he was just there, that that was a I
think very thoughtful response.

Speaker 1 (01:53:41):
Yes. Indeed, this afternoon he spoke with Sophia and her
boyfriend and told them everything. They were obviously shocked, but
asked us to have dinner with them to talk. From
the messages, I can tell we'll still be able to
maintain a friendship with them, He said, a firm boundary
with Elba, telling her he couldn't allow her to keep
speaking to us that way. He blocked her and sent

(01:54:02):
her boyfriend in apology for the drama, saying he still
considered him a friend but understood if he had to
pick sides. And by the way, I want you to
pick our side. Oh, and you can do that by
listening to full episodes with stories like these on Spotify,
Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts. All you
gotta do is search up Okay story time, and there

(01:54:24):
they are. Let's go limitless, endless liss theoretically endless episodes
for you to listen to at your pleasure. I mean,
do you have anything else to add to here? I think,
I mean, oh, what did the pole say? By the way, Oh, we.

Speaker 2 (01:54:41):
Never did a poll. We just said breakup like they
were doing breakup. Chasous and unanimous like everyone was saying breakup.

Speaker 3 (01:54:49):
I will say that while Ope did show in that
response a lot of thoughtfulness, I you kind of have
to grade it on the whole, you know. Uh, And
I think and you know, I think it was his
he had panic attacks and everything else, which understand, but

(01:55:13):
I don't know that does that mean that Op's just
at the whim of uh whenever these things happen and
basically not having his support or like feeling attacked you you.

Speaker 1 (01:55:25):
Know what I'm trying to say, like right where it's like, yeah,
like next time this happens, Oh, he's gonna to do
the same thing again.

Speaker 3 (01:55:32):
Yeah, where it's like and and again, not not to
shame him for his panic attacks, because that's not at
all what should be done here, but kind of like
saying like, hey, look, you know, you know you have
you have these panic attacks and everything, and I don't
know when I'm gonna be supported and when I'm going
to feel kind of like left hung out to dry,

(01:55:52):
you know, and and not that that's I understand, you
have the panic attacks, and that's really ultimately like basically
be on your control. And I understand that, and I
don't like blame you for that. But at the same time,
like that kind of just leaves me, uh like where
I don't know if I will be able to be
fully supported or not. You know, sometimes you answer the

(01:56:13):
great way, and sometimes you answer where I'm like I am,
just because earlier I felt like it was like, yeah,
you are prioritizing a freaking Dungeons and Dragons game they
called it.

Speaker 1 (01:56:26):
I knew it.

Speaker 2 (01:56:27):
I knew, I knew like there was at a core
of this it has to do something with the D
and D group because of just like that's how it
usually it is.

Speaker 1 (01:56:35):
Sometimes it's giving neck beard. Sometimes when you invest a
lot into a campaign, you gotta see it through. Imagine,
imagine all the cool stuff that he's written about her
character that no one will ever find out anymore. Where
was the I'm just I'm kidding.

Speaker 2 (01:56:58):
You're on the line of reality and fantasy. My guy,
I'm your actual girlfriend is an I need of you.
You need to be an actual person for her.

Speaker 1 (01:57:08):
D and D blurs the line of reality and fantasy.

Speaker 3 (01:57:11):
And honestly, what one more quick thing I think now
And shout out to blindBy as well for explaining exactly
what she said, because I misinterpreted a little bit earlier.
I'm honestly like, I feel like OPI is very entitled
to say, like, I honestly kind of feel hurt that
you want to continue friendship with her and that you
are Yeah, you said about the boundary for me, but like,

(01:57:33):
why would you want to continue being.

Speaker 1 (01:57:36):
It is true? That's a huge red flag to be like, yeah, oh,
this person's sending slam dunk voice memos that are seven
minutes long to my to my phone, and I'm not
being like, hey, shut your dirty mouth. That is weird.
That is weird. Anyway, I know this isn't the update

(01:57:57):
many people wanted. I understand that ending the relationship is
what many would have chosen, but I feel that for
my sake and his, I need to give this a chance.
He's always a good guy, despite how it might seem.
He always tries to show me he loves me. Him
coming around and giving me my place makes me think
we might be able to work it out. And I

(01:58:18):
feel like this whole drama is due to external forces
and issues we need to work on as a couple
and as individuals. My boyfriend mentioned that he felt like
he lost me even when I told him that I
was not breaking up with him. He said, I let
you down so hard that only because you are mature
and amazing, you stayed with me. I want to prove

(01:58:40):
to you that I deserve you. Sophia and her boyfriend
have been supportive, and we've created a new group with
just the four of us, Just the four of us.
We can place me in need, just the four of us.

Speaker 5 (01:58:56):
Just the mod without Alba, so uh so we can
stay in touch and plan double dates the four of us.

Speaker 1 (01:59:08):
That genuinely makes me happy and gives me some comfort
about the situation. Thank you so much for all your comments.
I don't think there will be more updates, but I
promise to share if anything else happens. Happy new Year
to all and to all a new year, and that
that story.

Speaker 2 (01:59:29):
I'm going to look up if there's an update.

Speaker 1 (01:59:34):
Oh oh you m there's no update because of from
two weeks ago. What a crazy story though, that was
lots of twists, lots of turns. I mean I didn't
know what to think.

Speaker 3 (01:59:50):
Yeah, I low key like part of me respects Op
for continuing and just like really kind of giving her
boyfriend a big chance and having a lot of faith
in it, and then the other part of me is
run you know.

Speaker 1 (02:00:03):
I mean, like I think you got you move forward
with this, this knowledge of this you know event. Like
she said, it's like this is just the one thing
that's happened. Yeah, I don't know, literally, a perfect relationship
for a year and four months and now this thing
has happened. Yeah.

Speaker 2 (02:00:17):
I think I personally think the boyfriend was just like
people pleaser. He just wanted everything to be peachy, Like
I can make this work. I can make everyone, like
I can please everyone. I can do this. Yeah, no
one's gonna you know that a great point.

Speaker 1 (02:00:31):
I can manage everything. Yeah.

Speaker 2 (02:00:33):
No, Sometimes you just gotta let go of people that
are toxic. They're not toxic to you, but they're toxic
to your loved ones.

Speaker 3 (02:00:39):
Yeah, trum And can he learn to basically let go
and improve on that over time?

Speaker 1 (02:00:45):
Seems possible. I think so. They seem very emotionally intelligent,
They seem pretty mature. She's a psychotherapist. Yeah. The fact
that if she can fix him, I bet she can.

Speaker 2 (02:00:53):
No, honestly, Oh, this was like the most calm like
an op was ever like I've ever seen in a store.
Like she didn't jump to conclusions she's like cheating or
like nah no. She was like, let's sit down. This
is how I feel, and I want you to hear
how I feel.

Speaker 1 (02:01:09):
And that's that.

Speaker 2 (02:01:10):
It was like okay, that's wow. That was great. And
he was like okay, and it he just yeah, he
just didn't have a big spine.

Speaker 1 (02:01:19):
Took him small spined activities. I have to use the bath,
the little facility room. We'll talk to the

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