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00:00 r/BORUpdates - My mom wants to invite my ex whom i cheated on in my wedding, and my fiance is absolutely furious, HELP
18:55 r/AITAH - AITAH if I blow up my dad’s secret relationship by telling my stepmom?
36:35 r/okstorytime - My narcissistic Mother wants me to cut my father (step dad) out of my life. If I don’t she will cut me out of her life.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This is intergalactic John, This is Alien sarm on the
International Oka Storytime podcast station, and we have some human
stories coming up, not alien, but before we make a landing,
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before we get to these interstellar stories.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
My mother demanded that I invite my ex to my wedding.
It made my fiance furious.
Speaker 3 (00:24):
They're an expert, reason right.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
I, twenty eight male, was a terrible person in the
past great start, which I have moved on from. Used
to drink a lot, and had cheated on my ex
twenty seven female countless times in our three year relationship. Yikes.
I don't know how she's stuck with me for so long.
So one day she found out I was cheating again
(00:47):
and broke things off, which I don't blame her for.
Speaker 3 (00:50):
I Yeah, are already see where this story's going.
Speaker 2 (00:54):
I was cut off by my family, which was heartbreaking.
By the way, this comes from Maintenance Alone twenty five
eighty four And if you want to spit your own stories,
go to the r slash Okay, story Time Separate. So
I eventually improved myself gotten therapy and eventually apologized and
reconciled with my family. I found out my mother and
my ex were still in contact, which I didn't mind.
(01:15):
They were close even when I was with her. My
family invites my ex to family gatherings as her family
is let's say, not that good, which I again don't care.
We both are civil and don't interact. Eventually, I met
a new girl, twenty eight female, and one year later
I'm engaged to her.
Speaker 3 (01:33):
All right, yeah, she.
Speaker 2 (01:35):
Knows how I was in the past, as I told.
Speaker 3 (01:37):
Her that was gonna be my I was going.
Speaker 2 (01:40):
Does she know about all that stuff or planning a
wedding to host only close friends and family. Then rob
le marive that my mother, who's close with my ex,
wants to invite her to the wedding, and my fiancee
is absolutely furious. And the reason my mother is giving
is that if the family event.
Speaker 3 (02:00):
Okay, I understand when mothers and girlfriends or ex girlfriends
are really tight and they're cool, like I'm pretty cool
with some of the dads of the girlfriends I used
to date. I understand you always have that idea of family,
But the family event, yeah.
Speaker 2 (02:15):
Wedding, their wedding, it's not a family event.
Speaker 3 (02:18):
No, you can invite them over for a Wednesday dinner, yeah,
or like you know, Sunday lunch whatever. Cool family.
Speaker 2 (02:24):
Also, why would his ex, who we cheated on multiple times,
even want to go to the wedding?
Speaker 3 (02:31):
I know why?
Speaker 2 (02:31):
Is she like jealous? Is she trying to get back
at him for all the stuff that he did?
Speaker 3 (02:35):
Still got a lot of love for him. If you're
willing to stay with someone after they cheated with you
multiple times, I understand once trying to get through it.
Speaker 2 (02:44):
I don't think she knew. I think she found out
and then broke up with it.
Speaker 3 (02:47):
No, she knew, said yeah she knew, and then the
last time she found out and broke up with them.
So I think there's still a lot of love left
even if you're still even if you're hanging out the
mom after they're done, have you done with them? Come on?
Speaker 2 (03:04):
Come on, you.
Speaker 3 (03:05):
Love with the family, you want that you want to
be in that wedding dress. Maybe she's going to thinking, oh,
maybe she'd forget to put.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
It on and all and all, and I'll honestly, I
don't want her to be in my wedding too. I
called her to talk about it and she told me
the same dang thing. He doesn't want to be in
my wedding, but my mother's insisting, which is infuriating.
Speaker 3 (03:23):
Okay, I found the problem stupid.
Speaker 2 (03:25):
That's a stupid excuse. Oh, I get it. I don't
want to be there either, But your mom said I
gotta do it.
Speaker 3 (03:33):
You just say no, and she's got to do it
for the mom. You know how many white chicken chili
she'd made for her, the mom white chicken chili chi. Yeah,
white chicken chili, the white chicken chili. But to think, right,
gian you know about white chicken chili.
Speaker 2 (03:48):
Are you saying like the color white or like a
white person chicken chilli?
Speaker 3 (03:51):
No, just like a white chicken chili.
Speaker 4 (03:53):
What you said. I did not explain any of that.
Speaker 2 (03:56):
It's a chili, white chicken chili.
Speaker 3 (03:58):
Yeah, it's like a type of chili people do. Okay, guys,
do you know how my dog's out? Do I need
to go put them on?
Speaker 2 (04:03):
Go put your feet your feet away? Gro But what socks?
I don't want to see your gout socks.
Speaker 3 (04:14):
Fine, I'll leave you with this. The girlfriend feels entitled
or not entitled, feels like she owes the mom, so
she's gonna do whatever the mom wants. White chicken chili
is awesome. Thank you the rest, Thank you.
Speaker 4 (04:27):
I don't understand. Also, have you have you seen me?
Speaker 2 (04:32):
What?
Speaker 3 (04:32):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (04:34):
Can't that white chicks chili? Oh?
Speaker 4 (04:36):
Yeah, I just don't comments.
Speaker 2 (04:38):
Why I don't understand?
Speaker 5 (04:40):
I need Yeah, he just said he didn't really explain it.
He just said white chicken chili color.
Speaker 4 (04:46):
Can someone explain it?
Speaker 2 (04:47):
Yeah? Better than beans and chicken. It's real now, that
makes sense. It's white.
Speaker 5 (04:53):
But what's the purpose of a chicken chill? Is it
like an olive branch.
Speaker 3 (04:57):
It's just a type of just the type of spice
as you do it. Riley, your feet look like my brother's.
You know what your brother's feet. They're going to comment,
how would you not?
Speaker 2 (05:07):
Tom? I don't want to see them? All right, guys,
this all right? My mother is still saying she won't
come if my ex isn't coming, and my fiance had
arguments with her. I am seriously thinking of not inviting
her at the moment. But if she doesn't come, I'm
afraid that I might be cut off from my family again.
(05:27):
This is so infuriating, and comments Aqua Tumbo says, it's
your wedding, not your mom's wedding. Tell your mom outright,
she doesn't want to come. I don't want her to come.
Fiance doesn't want her to come. Stop being weird about
it and let it go. Do not invite her. It
is a weird entitlement when parents dictate guess lists anyway,
(05:49):
unless they're paying, they get no say. If they are paying,
you have the right to draw boundaries. Good luck. If
your mom is that hung up on it, maybe you
have to let her go to next Effect says you
realize your mother hasn't forgiven you right, and there is
an update a day later. But oh, dude, awesome, Ashley says,
time to Elope. Maybe I mean you really, you know,
(06:12):
want to keep this relationship with your family. If that
is kind of priority, you might. I feel like the
options are you either don't have the wedding and a lope,
or you have the wedding and tell your mom to
stick it.
Speaker 3 (06:24):
I think this is way out of proportion here. I
don't think we needed a lope or cancel the wedding.
I believe every person that has a wedding something there's
a problem. There's some sort of problem some way, somehow,
someone's not happy with something. If you think about a
high level. The wife's family. All good, nothing's going on there, mom, dad, brother, cousin, sister, whatever,
(06:45):
everything's good there Opie's family. The only person that's upset
is the mom.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
Second option of telling her to stick it.
Speaker 3 (06:51):
Yeah, so you can stick it. And I think just
go on about things she doesn't like it, okay, whatever
you can't, don't, don't ruin your whole day wedding and
all that stuff. Secret wedding. I don't even think so.
I think you just go on as usual, business usual.
Speaker 2 (07:08):
There is an update though, My brother thirty four mail
called me to say that I did the right thing,
which was a relief. Let's go going further. I would
probably go low contact with my mother. My ex called me,
Me and my fiance talked to her on speaker and
she apologized and said she said no to my mother
and won't drop it. I said, okay, And of course
she's not inviting. My father said he's not coming if
(07:31):
his wife is not coming, which is valid. So the
wedding is actually small with fifty people, but the planned
reception is huge with one hundred and fifty people, which
my father is throwing on my behalf. My mother will
be there so there might be drama and Edits should
have added that my father and father in law both
are throwing receptions together. I will have security just in case.
(07:53):
In the wedding comments, G Drama says, I'm glad you
put your foot down. Since your father is hosting for
the reception, are you sure he won't cancel it from
being pressured by your mother? That's my worry. Do you
have a backup plan just in case? Hope? He says,
father said, mother won't do anything stupid out the reception,
and X is not invited in.
Speaker 3 (08:13):
The reception, the mom has a backup plan.
Speaker 2 (08:17):
Yeah, She's like, don't worry, everything's going according to plan.
Speaker 3 (08:21):
Oh shoot, the bride didn't show up. Ah, who can
we have the repeat.
Speaker 2 (08:25):
Rids in like a closet.
Speaker 3 (08:26):
He's going, oh, let me out, yes, Scoobye dude tied up. Yeah,
that happened in the Bible once.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
What this guy?
Speaker 3 (08:34):
This guy sorry, little okay, Bible time. Sorry this one
dude works seven years to marry a woman.
Speaker 2 (08:40):
Huh.
Speaker 3 (08:40):
And the dad so in the Jewish culture, your old
body is veiled so you don't see the face until
you get married. So then when he got married to
her and said, I do lifted up. It was the sister. Yeah,
we had to work another seven years. I do another wife. Sorry,
imagine that. Imagine that's what the mom's trying to do here.
Speaker 2 (08:58):
Yeah, she's like, Yeah, you've married your ex who broke
up with you because you'd sucked. Dare you remarkable pair?
So your dad's not going to go to his own
son's wedding because his wife is a data shot. But
we'll go to the reception looking like a loser who
didn't go to his own son's wedding.
Speaker 3 (09:18):
Got it?
Speaker 2 (09:19):
Opie says, I don't know. My brothers don't have close
relationships with my dad. To be honest, I am the
favorite child who was spoiled rotten by him. That was
the reason I was terrible in the past. That's crazy.
I'm sorry, you're the favorite child and your dad's not
even coming to your wedding. Update two, mother and father
aren't coming to the reception either. Who could have seen
(09:41):
that coming? Three days later, so I had a talk
with father in law and fiance about the situation, and
my father in law will alone cover the reception cost.
I offered some money to him, but he refused, saying
I'm like his son, which made me your Oh okay,
so ope, he's Beyonce's dad is paying for everything now,
(10:02):
and my father and father in law had a doubting
match on the phone about it, so father and mother
aren't coming to the reception anymore. Beyonce is happy, and
I'm happy that our wedding and reception area are going
to be drama free. We will definitely have security there,
but it's gonna be hard explaining to everyone what happened,
and many people are going to bail out of the wedding.
(10:23):
I haven't talked to them since, and we'll probably contact
father after the wedding and reception are over. I think
if anyone says, why aren't your parents here, you say,
they really wanted my ex to come and then refuse
to show up.
Speaker 3 (10:34):
You see that my ex or my bride. Yeah, good
thing and getting a new family.
Speaker 2 (10:39):
Yeah, Like literally, you just go, they really wanted my
ex to show up, and she didn't want to show up,
and so they refuse to come.
Speaker 3 (10:46):
That's ridiculous.
Speaker 2 (10:47):
That's exactly what happened at the end. Like, at the
end of the day, your ex didn't want to come,
and they're making a decision because your ex didn't want
to come. Yeah, it wasn't like yeah, you also said
I don't want her to come, but she made that
decision in the end. So I don't even know what
what they're doing.
Speaker 3 (11:06):
Yeah. Also, do you get what I'm saying about him
getting a new family? Yeah, with with her the wife,
all right, give rid of the old family, get a
new one. Thing. That's yeah, that's wild. Why'd you're making
a stance like this? Well, the eggs there and you're
not even gonna sho go for the wedding.
Speaker 2 (11:22):
Last night, I'm gonna be honest, I cried like a baby,
saying that my mother and father aren't gonna be there.
But my fiance comforted me. Probably the most amazing woman
I've met. Can't wait to spend my life with her.
And I failed my PhD exam Lol. Results came a
few hours ago. Gotta try afterwards. I guess going forward,
I'm probably gonna be low contact with father and no
(11:43):
contact with mother. And some comments Toofuti says, man, life's
thrown some wild curveballs at you. Keep your chin up. Remember,
at the end of the day, it's about you and
your amazing fiance. Wishing you both the drama free and
lovely day. MCA says, and don't contact father after your wedding.
Let him reach out to you. He chose not to attend,
(12:05):
and Opie says, okay, lucky guess says OPI. That device
is solid. Do not bow down to your parents, do
not reach out first, let them come to you. And
absolutely they are not allowed back in your lives until
they give a heartfelt apology to your wife. That should
be the first step. In fact, a phone call should
go something like this, thank you nothing, thank you comment
(12:28):
or but there is a third update, folks.
Speaker 3 (12:30):
Real quick. I feel like they are allowed to give
a heartfelt apology up until OPI and the fiance have.
Speaker 2 (12:41):
Oh and then it's like you're too late, too late.
Speaker 3 (12:44):
Yeah, you have this window.
Speaker 2 (12:45):
Trying to get back to be grandparents.
Speaker 3 (12:47):
Yeah, you have this window of whenever everything dropped out
and up until I have kids, because dude, mother in law's,
father in law's mother and father's all come crawling crawling
back the kids whenever they have them.
Speaker 2 (13:00):
Let them come back and say, oh, well, we just
want to see the kids. We just feel so bad
about how everything happened. It's like No, you had made
no attempts, you know, hypothetically to come back and apologize,
and now you want to be here with the kids. Yeah,
what's to stop you from making some other demand in
the future.
Speaker 3 (13:17):
I think we should have a game show whenever parents
want to come back in for the kids' lives, like, oh,
they wrecked my lives would go no contact, they want
to come in, Okay, game show.
Speaker 2 (13:28):
What have you learned?
Speaker 3 (13:29):
What have you learned? And how much money is going
to cost for you to come back for the kids?
And then use all that money you win, Yeah, putting
to a savings account and by the time, yeah they're eighteen,
they got a college fund. Perfect.
Speaker 2 (13:39):
But there is a third update. I am married now
and she's the most wonderful woman I could have gotten
ten days later.
Speaker 3 (13:46):
Ten days later.
Speaker 2 (13:47):
Yes, so yesterday I got married.
Speaker 1 (13:50):
Yay.
Speaker 2 (13:51):
It was the happiest day of my life. But yeah,
it suck not having my parents there, whom I thought
wouldn't go this much against me. They didn't even come
to the reception either. I honestly cried after the reception,
but my fiance was understanding and comforted me. I couldn't
have asked for a better half than her. My exit
sent a message of congratulations after the wedding, which I
(14:12):
replied with thanks. Such an awkward situation for her. So awkward.
She's like, your mom keeps bullying me to come to
your wedding. I don't want to come. Congrats though about
your wedding.
Speaker 3 (14:25):
I hope her kind of the reason. You know your
parents aren't at your wedding. Sorry question mark.
Speaker 2 (14:33):
After the wedding, I still haven't contacted my parents, but
my father sent an air fryer as a wedding gift
to my address, which is like an appliance.
Speaker 3 (14:41):
So gotta use it, dude, I I can't wait.
Speaker 2 (14:46):
Well, aren't you gonna? Isn't isn't the one we have?
Speaker 1 (14:49):
Your?
Speaker 3 (14:50):
Who's this?
Speaker 5 (14:51):
That?
Speaker 3 (14:52):
It was here? Whatever I got here?
Speaker 2 (14:53):
Maybe you can get rid of it.
Speaker 3 (14:54):
You don't like it?
Speaker 5 (14:55):
No?
Speaker 3 (14:56):
Why not?
Speaker 2 (14:56):
So big?
Speaker 3 (14:57):
I like it. I'll take it.
Speaker 2 (14:58):
I'll just with me. Yeah, take a with you. I mean,
Christian's got his Sam doesn't use the air fire.
Speaker 3 (15:03):
I'm the only one that really uses it exactly right.
Speaker 2 (15:06):
It's all yours. Thanks, Thanks, Happy birthday. Thanks, But there
is a little bit left do this story.
Speaker 3 (15:14):
Do you have any final thoughts perfectly executed. This makes
me want to write a book called the Sop Book.
Uh huh, and it and it talks about all the
things like you were encountered with this, Yeah, this is
how you see And then we have links to our
videos on it.
Speaker 4 (15:27):
I like it.
Speaker 3 (15:28):
I like it. And then at the back of the
book we have like descriptions of like sunt cost fallacy,
we give it a definition or like what's another one
key on like word branching, monkey branching.
Speaker 4 (15:37):
Yes, I would say monkey branching. Was you were too Yeah, wait,
it's a very common one.
Speaker 3 (15:42):
Did you guys, Like, do you guys just separately think
of that and then set it together.
Speaker 4 (15:45):
We honestly do that more than you think.
Speaker 2 (15:47):
Yeah, we're constantly on the same top like, yeah.
Speaker 3 (15:50):
That's wild, very weird. I don't anyways. Anyways, that's all
I have to say. It's just Op, you have executed
this perfectly where I want to write a book.
Speaker 2 (15:59):
Yeah. I think it's just like, you know, if you're
ever worried about how your family's going to react to
something that you and your partner have decided, and you're like, oh,
they're gonna leave me, They're gonna you know, cut me
off or whatever. If they're willing to cut off family
members because they don't get their way, that they don't
really care about you, and that sucks.
Speaker 3 (16:18):
They don't respect ya, and they're not going to respect
your family. They're gonna act like Kimberly Holly said, a
great point. They're gonna come crawling back with their attitudes
are still gonna be the same. You should add kids
with your ex.
Speaker 2 (16:30):
Indeed, but let's finish this off. Their reception was awesome too.
Thanks to y'all for those wonderful comments. I honestly thought,
I don't deserve all this due to how terrible I
was in the past. But people can change. If you
have done something wrong in the past, don't let it
define yourself, keep it in your mind and move on.
You can change.
Speaker 3 (16:50):
And what I like about this is he he came
out said what he did. Yeah, but you can see
while he's riding. Oh yeah, he's the levelheaded I think.
So at first I was like, yeah, I don't blame
her for making out of you.
Speaker 2 (17:01):
Is like, h what, But yeah, I mean what you
did deserve to be broken up with. She should not
have stayed with you after that. But it seems like
you have you know, learned since then.
Speaker 3 (17:11):
Yeah, I agree, Yeah, I am playful.
Speaker 2 (17:13):
Rainbow good for you. Growth is uncomfortable and messy, but
you pushed through it. You held firm on boundaries, owned
your past, and chose love built on mutual respect. That's
real redemption. And hey, enjoy that air fire. It's heavy peace.
In appliance form, Willing Lemon says, well done on your
self awareness, admitting fault and consciously trying to be a
(17:35):
better person. Unfortunately, there would still be doubters and negative people.
Ignore them and just keep making positive changes. I am
sorry about your family. I think even your ex saw
it was inappropriate for her to attend. Your mom has
lots of issues, and if she was truly a friend
slash cared for your ex, she wouldn't want her at
your wedding. It would have created drama that your ex
(17:56):
would have been in the spotlight slash firing line for
your mom. Not attending your wedding is just a symptom
of the bigger relationship issues. But not attending was the
final nail. It was a time when she could witness
you truly being happy. It's like she can't forgive you
for something you did to someone else. She's holding on
to something that everyone else has moved on from. I
(18:17):
guess this is her hill. She hasn't even given your
wife a fair chance. Go for therapy and embrace your
wife's family. They sound great, congratulations. When you grow, learn
and work on your character, you deserve to be happy.
Speaker 3 (18:30):
Good luck, And.
Speaker 2 (18:31):
Opie says, yeah, she's a good person. I brought drama
into ex's life. Glad she moved on now, and I'm
not there. I have a new half to focus on.
And Folks, that's the end of that story. And there
you go. Opie's figuring it out. And now you've got
a new family to figure it out with.
Speaker 3 (18:47):
Oh and that's lovely, and you can make new family.
Speaker 2 (18:51):
Keep it going, keep the cycle going. Anyway, what's the
next story?
Speaker 3 (18:55):
I expose my cheating father to my stepmother expose So
while this whole thing has spiraled over the past month
and I'm still kind of shocked. Or Father's Day, I
talked to my dad and he said he was going
off roading with my sister's fiance. Last minute he canceled,
and he said he pulled a calf muscle and would
need to be staying at home weird since he usually
(19:18):
pushes through the pain for the sake of doing fun things.
But okay, I'll buy it the pain to do fun things.
Speaker 2 (19:24):
No that he he'd hurt himself.
Speaker 3 (19:26):
Oh yeah that but like he but like you see
the other half of it. Yeah, he pushes himself through
pain for the fun things.
Speaker 2 (19:32):
Wink wink.
Speaker 3 (19:33):
By the way, this comes from past entrepreneur of seventy
eight and if you want to seeing old stories, Tody
guard slash Owkay Streight time celebrate it. So around the
same time, my step mom and her sister told me
they would be out of town for the weekend and
show my dad lots of love while they're gone, and
that they felt bad they had to leave him alone
for that weekend and stuff. I didn't go see him,
long story, I don't have a close relationship with him,
(19:56):
and sit on the Happy Father's Day text and I
left it there. Turns out my brother did go over there.
He called my dad beforehand, and when he got there,
my dad made it pasta dinner for two. There was
a woman over a decade younger than him. Oh oh
oh he has never seen before.
Speaker 2 (20:17):
Right row mm mmmmmm. That's not good. I don't like that.
Speaker 3 (20:24):
That's not m m m. My dad said he's a
very old friend from work that they've known each other forever,
but we've literally never seen him with a platonic female
friend in our lives.
Speaker 2 (20:36):
Dude, I don't buy it one bit, not once.
Speaker 3 (20:39):
Whenever he's around women, it's either his partner or his
friend's wives, partner's friends, et cetera, and he rarely talks
to them.
Speaker 2 (20:46):
Dude, I mean, but so he had planned, it seems like,
to have no one over for Father's Day because everyone
like couldn't make it. Whatever. He seemingly has this whole
pasta romantic dinner, things set up, and I know one
of his sons comes over and is like, hey, here
to wish you a happy Father's Day.
Speaker 3 (21:05):
Oh my gosh, imagine oh I made a supasta and
then he sees the other woman. Wait now I see
it now, oh man. Fast forward. I texted him on
the fourth of July saying happy fourth, and he says
he's out of state at a family friend's house, sort
of a house of someone I'm much closer with than
(21:25):
he is. He doesn't even like them, But I wonder myself,
what's up? But don't think too deep about it. I
just brush it off. But it gets weirder. My sister
calls me. A couple of weeks later. My dad had
called her and told her he was going to a
cant site three hours away just to take pictures and
set of nature. Cannot emphasize enough how much this is
(21:46):
not his vibe at all. He said he was going alone,
then complained about his wife being bored and never going
anywhere with him. I think he literally looked up what's
the best lie to tell my wife that I'm doing
so I can go see my other girlfriend.
Speaker 2 (22:01):
I'm sorry, Wait, so he said that his wife is boring.
Speaker 3 (22:04):
He said, I'm gonna go out in nature and have fun,
sit out in nature for three hours. Gosh, my wife
doesn't want to do anything with me because she's bored
to me.
Speaker 2 (22:11):
So boring, weird. That's that's obviously a lie.
Speaker 3 (22:16):
Yeah, we know where he's going, we know, we know
what you're doing.
Speaker 2 (22:19):
The dinner man.
Speaker 3 (22:21):
Remember that one girl that just went on long drives
all the time. Oh, there's some girl that at night
who just go on long drives until three o'clock in
the morning. It was like a in a story. In
a story. Yeh, it's like, dude, we know where you're going.
Speaker 4 (22:34):
She ended up, well, yeah, but I used to go
on late night drives.
Speaker 3 (22:38):
But we knew where you were going.
Speaker 4 (22:39):
No, you didn't. He was in high school.
Speaker 5 (22:41):
We knew I was going down pch listening to music
with my windows rolled down in the heat on.
Speaker 3 (22:51):
Oh, he was definitely on.
Speaker 5 (22:53):
I didn't talk to women in high school. Liar, scared
of women about it. I'm doing all boyschool.
Speaker 2 (23:00):
That's true, all right.
Speaker 3 (23:01):
Anyways, my sister kept repeating, well, be safe out there alone.
Tilly finally omitted he wasn't going alone. He's going with
an old friend, a very old friend. But we learned
earlier not really that that old. But didn't want to
tell his wife because it's a woman.
Speaker 2 (23:19):
Mmm, if we don't want to tell our partner about something,
maybe just because we know we're doing something wrong.
Speaker 3 (23:27):
Then right before strip, he calls and asks me to
watch a labordoodle that belongs to a friend.
Speaker 2 (23:33):
Dude, is he going? He who belongs to a friend.
Every time he says it, he's like, I got a
very old friend, I'm going camping with a front Why
are you? What's this?
Speaker 3 (23:45):
Yeah? Why can I hear the air quotes on that
it's weird. You can tell when someone says air quotes
around like certain words. I just know it's the same
woman's dog too. I asked that the dog is good
with other dogs and birds, and he casually drops that
they brought the dog with them to that friend's house
for the fourth of July, which his wife does not
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know about. He explicively told my sister that he went
alone as well. I agree to watch the dog because
I wanted to meet her, see if I just forgot
someone from the past or something, and get a sense
if this is really a big deal. They show up today.
I've never met this woman, probably fifteen years younger than
my dad. And when I ask, so, where are you headed,
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he just freezes and says, oh, uh, just have some
things to do. L I A R. I'm pissed. Some
things things to.
Speaker 2 (24:39):
Do, maybe some people, maybe some people's father's.
Speaker 3 (24:42):
Oh father, Oh dang editors, you know what to do there? Dang?
Speaker 2 (24:51):
All right?
Speaker 3 (24:51):
Then our children does it as he sees it? Yeah, dude,
what the world? These guys gonna get better?
Speaker 2 (25:00):
So his father's wife is not his mom. It's a
little bit an unclear if Opee's dad. I don't think
Opie's dad's current partner is his mom is Opie's mom.
I'm pretty sure Opie's this is Opie's stepmom.
Speaker 3 (25:13):
But yeah, it's okay, stepmom. I think so mentioned in
the time that's I assumed. I also texted a mutual
friend who was at the property on the fourth. They
confirmed my dad brought this woman and said he was awkward,
plain they were just friends even though no one asked,
and that my dad told them not to tell anyone
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she was there. So I now know that my dad
brought this woman on two solo trips, had her over
for dinner on Father's Day while his wife was out
of town, introduced her to people while saying, don't tell me.
She's actively lying about where she's going. Now I'm ninety
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nine percent sure mom's step mom does not know about
any of this. She's so sweet. She and my dad
are supposed to move out in a home less than
a month from now. I have had conversations with her,
and she always says never worries about my dad cheating,
He's not that guy. That they are just so good together,
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and that's the last thing she worries.
Speaker 2 (26:18):
About baby girl. She's gotta be the first thing you
worry about.
Speaker 3 (26:22):
She says she likes not worrying because she doesn't like
the person she becomes when she has to worry.
Speaker 2 (26:27):
You don't have to worry about it. It's happening. You
don't have to like think about it. It just is,
it exists.
Speaker 3 (26:33):
There's a sprinkle of gas lighting right here.
Speaker 2 (26:35):
Yeah, it's like it's like, oh, you don't have to
worry that the oven is on.
Speaker 3 (26:38):
It's on.
Speaker 2 (26:39):
You got to go turn it off.
Speaker 3 (26:41):
Gotta go turn it off.
Speaker 2 (26:42):
You know for a fact.
Speaker 3 (26:43):
It's on the way that she said that she doesn't
like the person she becomes when she worries, shows that
they that her and her husband have had conversations. I
don't like how you're so jealous all that. I don't
like her always asking for my location when I ask
to be alone for three hours.
Speaker 2 (26:56):
He's gasled her, and she's like, oh, I don't have
to worry about it. He would never do that. Yeah,
oh yeah, A.
Speaker 3 (27:02):
Little teddy bear camera will tell you everything. This has
been keeping me up at night because in my heart
I would have already told if it were anyone else,
but I have this tugging feeling that since it's my parents,
it's not my place, but Sophia, it's your place. There
we go, it's your place. There we go.
Speaker 2 (27:21):
You're seeing something happening it's not okay.
Speaker 3 (27:23):
Would I be the a hole if I told her
I'm scared he's going to blow up on me. He's
sort of the agro self desorb type, and I'm just
really nervous. If you told, would you go straight to
her and lay it all out? Would you try to
be more discreet in helping her discover the truth? Thanks
in advance. This is all really stressing me out. We
have an update. I kind of like the idea of
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letting her figure it out on herself.
Speaker 2 (27:48):
I think I think he just goes. I think he
goes to the step mom and says, hey, I just
wanted to let you know he's been hanging out with
this woman.
Speaker 5 (27:58):
Uh.
Speaker 2 (27:59):
You don't even have to nest necessarily be like he's
cheating on you. I think you just say, like, hey,
like you did you know he was hanging out with
this woman or like went on this trip with her.
Just wanted to like make sure you knew that.
Speaker 6 (28:10):
Wrestling Mama says I'm snitching. I like the idea of
laying it out, trying to let her discover what's going on. Yeah,
that seems cool. My friend did that one time to me.
Something really crazy happened, and I kind of just I'm like,
do what's wrong with you?
Speaker 3 (28:25):
You like, think about it? And I always said those
think about it, and he said think about it fifteen
times and then I came to the conclusion said it
out loud and he just.
Speaker 2 (28:32):
Went, Okay, so you didn't basically just tell you.
Speaker 5 (28:35):
No.
Speaker 3 (28:36):
I was like, wait, so this happened. He's like, think
about it. This happened, dude.
Speaker 2 (28:40):
He's just telling you that. He always said a stake
about it, but it takes longer. It's like think about it. No,
don't think about it, think about it.
Speaker 5 (28:50):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (28:51):
I don't know. It's just if she hasn't said her mind,
you probably did just tell her. Yeah yeah, I think
you just tell her. Oh ah, i'llp date I did it.
I went over to my step mom's house while my
dad was out of town and told her everything.
Speaker 2 (29:04):
I know.
Speaker 3 (29:05):
She was totally blindsided. She was angry, she was absolutely
shattered what she was shaking and said she never saw
this coming. You told me things had actually been going
better lately, No, cause dad's in a better mood.
Speaker 5 (29:20):
Now.
Speaker 2 (29:21):
Yeah, that happens a lot though, when someone's like going
to the gym, there'd be nicer and it's all out
of the blues. Sometimes. I mean, sometimes it's just because
things are looking up.
Speaker 3 (29:31):
But sometimes my friends would go on a trip come
back and just be like real giddy and like be
happy about life, and I'm like, what happened, Like, oh,
just get back from a trip. But then you find
out what happened and you're like, oh, yeah, you came.
Speaker 2 (29:44):
Back from my trip.
Speaker 4 (29:45):
Friends have done this with ten told you these things
just go off one in mind.
Speaker 2 (29:49):
Okay, Okay, wow, all right, are you not happier from
a back for your trip? Yeah? But now that it
makes me, you're making it sound like it's more than
what happened.
Speaker 3 (30:01):
I didn't say anything. I didn't say anything more happened.
I'm just saying some people come back happier from drim. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (30:06):
Sometimes you Okay, complimented to feel good, Okay, And that's
not a crime.
Speaker 3 (30:13):
My dad had taken her out on a date just
the day before and was being unusually affectionate and sweet
he really thought they were in a good place, or
I told her anything. He was cheerfully patting and brought
up that shrimp pasta your dad makes. Oh no, my
sister and I just froze. That's what he made for
the other woman. We both felt sick. He was so
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happy and welcoming and excited to have us there. It
was heartbreaking. She mentioned that usually he invites her and
her sister to church every weekend, and he had randomly
stopped doing that over the past month. He also stopped
inviting another family member who usually goes too. Apparently. She
had actually wanted to go on this recent trip with him,
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but he told her he had to take a certain
road that she hates because of how he drives on it,
said it would be dangerous, so she stayed behind. They
had a location sharing app for years, mostly in case
of emergencies. She rarely checks it unless she needs to
if he's near a store or something. But after I
talked to her, she decided to look. That was when
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everything started to click for her. He hadn't gone to
work at all that day. He drove to a nearby
town eight at a Prankberia, Oh takarayah Tacorea. Yeah like
taco eded Tagaria for hours, then checked into an inn.
We later found out that her sister overheard him booking
that room, and he specifically asked for a king side
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bed instead of two queens, since she didn't think anything
about it at the time. He normally booked kings for
work travel. My stepmom texted him while he was still
at the restaurant, pretending like she had figured out a
way to make the drive after all. He then said
something like you're not answering because your girlfriend is with you.
Huh ooh, and finally told him to pack a bag
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and get out.
Speaker 2 (32:06):
Pack Yeah, girl, yes, live your life, Live your life,
picky man, Yes, do you wrong?
Speaker 3 (32:14):
No way. He never replied he did a call. He
just went on with his night and stayed at the
hotel with the other woman.
Speaker 5 (32:21):
Ugh.
Speaker 3 (32:22):
The next morning, he finally called. At first he denied
anyone was with him, Then he admitted someone was, but
claimed it was just a friend. He told my stepmom
this was her fault for never going anywhere with Oh.
Speaker 2 (32:35):
My gosh, you suck, dude. You never want any fun
things with me. Sue me for trying to find somebody
who wants to go on adventures.
Speaker 3 (32:44):
Do you like to forge, Sophia forge Porgee, like go
out and like gather things foradge. Yeah, like go out
and shop and gather things, or like go to thrift
store and like gather things.
Speaker 2 (32:55):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (32:55):
I feel like that's what she needs in her life. Yeah,
go forage, go gather things. When she pointed out that
she knew it wasn't a work trip, he first denied
that too, then backtracked and said, yeah, you're right, it's
not work, but it's not what you think. She's just
a friend that we have benefits with and we f
all the time. That's just a friend. That is a
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wild take give Oh my.
Speaker 2 (33:18):
God, I get that his benefits I get dental you
know what that applies?
Speaker 5 (33:23):
Right? Yes?
Speaker 3 (33:24):
Oh my, that is wild the joke wild, that's the joke.
I was not expecting. Yes, it does.
Speaker 2 (33:34):
He gets healthcare.
Speaker 3 (33:36):
Anyways, away from that, told him to come pack a
bag and leave, insisted on coming home to talk it out.
I really hope she sticks to her pupews and doesn't
let him spin this into anything. But then what it
is As for me, I still have the labor dude.
After telling her I texted my dad said, I just
outed you to your wife. I hope this was a misunderstanding.
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What the is actually going on? Call me back. It's
been over fifteen hours, no call, no text, nothing.
Speaker 2 (34:06):
I think you did the right thing, OPI I think
he's probably. I think he's definitely cheating on his wife.
Speaker 3 (34:10):
Why do you think he's not replying back to me because.
Speaker 2 (34:13):
He knows he's been caught. He's like, ah, shoot, I've
been caught. Might as well enjoy my time with this
girl before I have to go deal with that. Yeah yeah,
I mean, like, how do you get out of that?
He admitted to it. He admitted to being with her,
He just didn't admit to, you know, cheating with her.
But that's not obvious.
Speaker 3 (34:29):
I agreed, Kean, he got caught.
Speaker 5 (34:31):
You know, it's one of those things where it's like,
what's the right thing to do, And it's like, even
if that's the cost of your father's relationship with you,
you did the right thing.
Speaker 2 (34:41):
Absolutely.
Speaker 3 (34:42):
I sent that message because I didn't want my siblings
to take the blame or be put in a position
where he tries to guilt them. My stepmom had already
let him know she knew, but I wanted him to
hear it from me that I was the one who
said something. Every time my phone rings, I get nervous
it's gonna be him. But I feel better having gotten
it off my chest. I do think I did the
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right thing. One thing I'm especially glad about. I stopped
my stepmom from moving into a new house with him.
When I got her a place to talk, he was
literally hacking. That part crushed me. Thankfully, she'll be staying
in the home she already shares with her sister instead.
Oh wow, that said. My partner thinks I should have
given my dad a warning.
Speaker 2 (35:24):
First so he could lie more. Though this is But
the thing is, it doesn't even seem like, oh, he
has that good of a relationship with his dad or
with their dad anyway.
Speaker 3 (35:33):
So it's like, maybe why maybe the partner wanted to
give him an ultimatum, being like, hey, you have to
tell her what I'm gonna talk.
Speaker 2 (35:40):
That's what we're saying. But my point is like, oh,
he doesn't really have a good relationship with their dad anyway.
If they gave the data heads up, he probably would
have figured it out a way to lie more.
Speaker 3 (35:54):
I doubt that I think you come off with the
ultimatum you tell her everything or I will, And I'm
going to talk to her on Saturday to make sure
she has everything stract. That's what I would do, but
you who knows, it could be a way too, something
like tell her or I will. He believes it would
have hurt less coming from him, and maybe it would have.
I doubt that it probably did hit harder coming from
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me with all the details. I know some family members
are going to have mixed feelings about how I handle this,
But I stand by it.
Speaker 2 (36:23):
Yeah, I stand by it to Opie. And that's the
end of that story, folks. In that story, we got
to another one.
Speaker 3 (36:29):
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First, my mother wants me to cut off my dad.
Speaker 3 (36:38):
What'd your daddy due? Then?
Speaker 2 (36:39):
And this is from the r slash Okay storytime subured
it boo. I thirty female had a very rough upbringing
as a child. My birth father isn't in my life
and disown me from birth. My mother took care of
me most of my life with the help of my
grandmother and her various boyfriends. Over the years. By the way,
this comes from Technical Fan thirteen hundred and if you
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want to spend your own stories, go to the r
slash Okay storytime separated so over the years, though my
mother accused me many times of being the reason her
boyfriend's never worked out. Fast forward a few years she
met my now father, fifty one Mail, who has been
there for me through thick and thin and protected me
from my mother before I was sixteen. He was the
one to keep the peace when my mother had her episodes.
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I swear she's bipolar and ADHD, but refuses to talk
to someone about this, And when my younger brother and
sister were born, he was the one to make sure
I never felt unwanted. Fast forward to when I turned sixteen.
A week later, my mother punted me out and cut
contact with me to limit it, stating it was because
he didn't want me part of the family anymore. But
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this was her version, as he continued to support me
and offered financial aid when I needed it for school.
I'm sorry, I don't really care that he offered financial
aid and support. He didn't Your mother kicked you out,
and he didn't leave her. Your mother kicked a sixteen
year old out and he wasn't like, whoa, that's a
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red flag. I gotta go, and I'm still gonna help out.
Speaker 3 (38:11):
You know.
Speaker 2 (38:12):
Ope, But that's crazy that he stayed.
Speaker 3 (38:15):
Yeah, that's very multi layered right there.
Speaker 2 (38:19):
After several years, they broke up and filed for separation.
Speaker 3 (38:22):
There we go, he should That was probably one of
the big killers in the house.
Speaker 2 (38:27):
You left your child. That's a little weird.
Speaker 3 (38:29):
It probably took him a while like that happened, and
it took him a little bit more time to really
get that figured out.
Speaker 2 (38:35):
But I told them both I wouldn't take sides, and
that I would be there for my brother and sister,
who weren't even teenagers yet. This upset my mother and
her side of the family, and they completely cut me
out of the family for twelve years.
Speaker 3 (38:49):
Oh my out for no reason.
Speaker 2 (38:53):
You're cutting out people, Willy Nilly.
Speaker 3 (38:55):
I'm so sorry. That's it.
Speaker 2 (38:56):
That's you can't just cut out people. That is, and
also your children.
Speaker 3 (39:01):
You deserve to be loved unconditionally. Yeah, I'm so sorry.
Speaker 2 (39:05):
Fast forward again to now this past year of twenty
twenty three, eight to twenty twenty four, I have been
diagnosed with a rare blood clotting disorder that causes me
to clot easily in my body with minimal injuries. It
got worse as twenty twenty four came around and I
was hospitalized for many months because I was diagnosed with
eight clots on my lungs. My other half and his
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family were amazing and supportive throughout the scary time of
my life. I decided to try and reach out to
my grandmother and my mother again. At first, they seemed
hesitant because they knew I was still in contact with
my father, but they got over it and came to
see me and spend time with me in the hospital.
That is till one day my mother said that if
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I was still in contact with my father that she
would cut me off for good and never speak with
me again. Dude, the amount of times that she's cut
you off, I'd be like, fine, you throw my relationship
with you around so oh carelessly. I don't want to
continue to be around you. At the time, it was
stressful and I needed my family's support and wanted them there,
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so I cut contact with him for a few months,
which I know now wasn't right of me. I had
to be transferred to another hospital and had to have
a ten hour surgery to remove the cloths from my
lungs as I was now in heart failure.
Speaker 3 (40:22):
Oh my god.
Speaker 2 (40:23):
After the surgery, I stayed in the hospital for about
two weeks until I was discharged.
Speaker 3 (40:27):
Oh my gosh.
Speaker 2 (40:29):
I just to threaten your child with disownment when they're
in the hospital getting eight hour surgery.
Speaker 3 (40:38):
They don't love you.
Speaker 2 (40:38):
There's ten hour surgery. When I was discharged, I called
my mother to let her know and let her know
I was arranging for a way home when she piped
up and said she would come get me, which was
no small feet as she lived three to four hours
away from the major hospital I was staying in. At
the time, she seemed okay with coming and getting me,
but after she arrived, I told her the plans. My
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other half and his parents had offered to let me
stay with them as they have an elevator and I
live in a three story apartment building with no elevator.
At the time, I was very weak on my legs.
She became very upset and said I was copping out
and being weak because I wouldn't attempt the three flights
of stairs. After major open chest surgery. Yeah, you're being
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a weak Wow. Yeah, why would you? Why would you
want to tough anything out? When you just had open
heart surgery or open chest surgery. I'd be like, Uh, yeah,
I'm gonna take it easy. I'm not walking up three
flights of stairs. Do you want to get your chest
open up? I see how it feels for you.
Speaker 3 (41:39):
This infuriates me.
Speaker 2 (41:41):
I explained that even the physiotherapist in the hospital and
doctors said it was a good idea. Till I was
feeling strong enough to attempt the steps, she became physically
upset and demanded I get dressed and ready to go.
The whole car ride home was uncomfortable, and I could
see She texted my grandmother demanding she to take me
the rest of the way home after they met so
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she didn't have to see my other half and his
parents for context. I did tell her my other half
and his dad offered to meet half way for her
and take me the rest of the way home, but
she refused and said she didn't mind. Clearly minds. Once
I finally was home, I hoped that my mother and
I could rebuild our relationship, but she started a pity
party over text with me one night, and since she's
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been strained with her texting. I have since reached back
out to my father and we are now back to
speaking after I explained the situation and made my point
that I wanted them both in my life, but I
refused to be a spy for either of them, which
he fully respects and just wants to make sure I'm
okay and I'm doing what's best for my health. My
sister is the only one besides myself who was in
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contact with my father and mother. Since I got into
contact with my father again, my mother has gone back
to her strained little to no text contact with me.
We're generally not caring at all. I recently went back
to the hospital again a complication with my medications, and
her side of the family didn't reach out to me
or seem like they cared.
Speaker 3 (43:06):
My gosh.
Speaker 2 (43:07):
My father's side, though even if I'm not blood, has
continue to love and cherish me like one of their own.
I would love some advice on what I should do
regarding all of this, as my mother seems to control
the narrative around her side of the family. Should I
cut off my father and his side and risk losing
his love and my brother or should I just let
it go and not worry about all of this? Thank
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you for the advice ahead of time, and there is
an update.
Speaker 3 (43:34):
Hey is John og host.
Speaker 1 (43:35):
We're gonna get back to the stories, but a quick
free minute break of ads from our sponsors.
Speaker 2 (43:39):
But what do you think, Riley?
Speaker 3 (43:41):
I think wanting a relationship with your mother is really
sweet and in a perfect world that is a possibility. Sadly,
we know the type of person your mother is. Yeah,
we know what will happen you choose. It's sort of
like you have two arms, warn arms not really working,
but you think if you give one arm more blood,
you're going to cut off your other arm, Like I'm
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gonna cut off my right arm, so I get my
left arm more more blood, hoping that it'll work more.
That's probably not gonna happens.
Speaker 2 (44:09):
Keep gone.
Speaker 3 (44:10):
Yeah, you should work with the hand that works, in
the arm that works the most, and just kind of
let the other one, you know, Yeah, dissolve, that's really
what's gonna happen.
Speaker 2 (44:18):
I think the thing is that you're going to keep
trying to just fulfill all of these demands from your mom,
and she's going to keep moving the goalpost and saying, oh, well,
you can't do this. If you want a relationship with me,
you can't do this. Oh, I'm going to cut you
off if you do this, and she's going to keep
doing that because she has already done that. Yeah, and
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she's already cut you off before. And so why would
we want to try and have a relationship with someone
based off of, you know, those demands that are just completely,
you know, unfair. Whereas your dad, on the other hand,
has shown time and time again that he loves and
cares for you and you know, doesn't care about your
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mom's demands. So I feel like you just go go
with the person who has shown time and time again
that they love you and care for you and support you. Yeah,
and don't demand anything in return.
Speaker 3 (45:10):
You can tell a lot about a person that gives,
like kicks out their kid at sixteen. Yeah, that's where
I get it from right there, and you'll understand it
one day.
Speaker 2 (45:20):
But there's an update. I took the time and read
through each and every comment and sat down and talked
it over with my other half and his family. I
have decided to go low contact with my mother and
grandmother based on what she has done to me and
my past and how she is now still trying to
control me. Recently, with the New Year, I was again
hospitalized due to anemia and now having a rare blood
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type due to my antigens around my blood cells, so
I had to remain in the hospital for a few
weeks over New Years. During this time, I did reach
out to my family. This included my mother, grandmother, siblings,
and my father. My mother just seemed happy to have updates,
but never gave me any advice or guy or bothered
to come and see me. For the few weeks I
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was in the hospital again, my grandmother kept promising to
come see me, but that kept changing based on her mood.
Be honest, the only ones who did seem concerned were
my other half's family and my father and siblings. So
let's have a relationship with people that actually care about you.
Speaker 3 (46:19):
Here we go.
Speaker 2 (46:20):
The moment I texted him, he instantly texted me and
asked me why and where I was. Unfortunately, with how
the weather is and where I live versus where he lives,
it's harder for him to come down and see me
at this time of year. So we have made plans
to see each other in the summer. I know a
few people did ask a few questions regarding a few things,
(46:40):
and I'll try my best to answer those questions. Andy,
and all information I have on my biological father was
told to me by my grandmother and mother from when
I was a child till now as an adult. It's unfortunate,
but it's all I know, and they never kept contact
with anyone from his side. My other half did buy
me a DNA test kit, so I am looking for
(47:01):
the test results soon. If I have an update on this,
I will post again.
Speaker 3 (47:05):
No freaking way is what turned to a DNA test?
Speaker 5 (47:08):
Dang.
Speaker 3 (47:10):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (47:12):
Some things I didn't mention before was that my mother
did try and convince me that my other half was
trying to poison me and make me sick for insurance claim.
Why did we we need to get so far away
from your mom? Huh?
Speaker 3 (47:26):
She probably try to pull that on your dad.
Speaker 2 (47:30):
Yikes. She was convinced that the food he was making
me was poisoned, and she had somehow convinced twelve other
people of this fact as well, people that don't know
anything about me or my life except through her. What
your mom is crazy?
Speaker 3 (47:44):
This is wild.
Speaker 2 (47:45):
Your mom's crazy. Get out of there.
Speaker 3 (47:46):
This is so crazy.
Speaker 2 (47:48):
Literally, get out of there.
Speaker 3 (47:49):
Yeah, cut off.
Speaker 2 (47:50):
Not care about you. Your dad does though he loves
show with him. Yeah, and you got your your partner
and your partner's family.
Speaker 3 (47:58):
It's just so hard to wish and want a relationship
with your mom and understanding these are the colmfounds that
it's in and hoping you can't. I'm not blaming you
ope at all for a hoping that you had a
good relationship with your mom. Yeah, just hard to realize.
It's just hard to open up too.
Speaker 2 (48:13):
There is there is, but uh, there's a little bit
left to the story. I think, opee, you're on the
right track. Cut your mom off. Just have a relationship
with your dad.
Speaker 3 (48:23):
There you go.
Speaker 2 (48:24):
I told her that it's not possible, as he loves me.
She has had no respect for him or his family
since the day twelve years ago. He stood up against
her for my sake because I was in the midst
of a panic attack because of my decision to see
my father and siblings when she had separated from it.
But she didn't know that I actually have life insurance
on him and on myself. But she has no right too,
(48:47):
So if something were to happen to me, she has
no right to it. Since these facts and all the comments,
I have decided to stay low contact with her and
my grandmother. It does hurt because it just feels like
they couldn't convince me to do what they wanted. But
to be honest, I don't care because I'm happy and
healthy and living my life with my spouse who I love.
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It's their choice if they want to continue the low
contact or if they want to be in my life.
As many of you have comment, thank you again everyone,
and edit. I forgot to mention that I had decided
not to cut off my father. It will take time,
but we are going to try and rebuild our bond.
I apologized and made sure to text him after reading
everyone's comments and telling him how much I love and
(49:31):
appreciate him in my life. Let me go at the
end of that story.
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see clear.
Speaker 2 (50:03):
Yeah, that like this relationship with their mom is not healthy.
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Real, probably Wiley Wilson.
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That's pretty on the news.
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I am not.
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Speaker 2 (00:18):
My mother demanded that I invite my ex to my wedding.
It made my fiance furious.
Speaker 3 (00:24):
They're an expert, reason right.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
I, twenty eight male, was a terrible person in the
past great start, which I have moved on from. Used
to drink a lot, and had cheated on my ex
twenty seven female countless times in our three year relationship. Yikes.
I don't know how she's stuck with me for so long.
So one day she found out I was cheating again
(00:47):
and broke things off, which I don't blame her for.
Speaker 3 (00:50):
I Yeah, are already see where this story's going.
Speaker 2 (00:54):
I was cut off by my family, which was heartbreaking.
By the way, this comes from Maintenance Alone twenty five
eighty four And if you want to spit your own stories,
go to the r slash Okay, story Time Separate. So
I eventually improved myself gotten therapy and eventually apologized and
reconciled with my family. I found out my mother and
my ex were still in contact, which I didn't mind.
(01:15):
They were close even when I was with her. My
family invites my ex to family gatherings as her family
is let's say, not that good, which I again don't care.
We both are civil and don't interact. Eventually, I met
a new girl, twenty eight female, and one year later
I'm engaged to her.
Speaker 3 (01:33):
All right, yeah, she.
Speaker 2 (01:35):
Knows how I was in the past, as I told.
Speaker 3 (01:37):
Her that was gonna be my I was going.
Speaker 2 (01:40):
Does she know about all that stuff or planning a
wedding to host only close friends and family. Then rob
le marive that my mother, who's close with my ex,
wants to invite her to the wedding, and my fiancee
is absolutely furious. And the reason my mother is giving
is that if the family event.
Speaker 3 (02:00):
Okay, I understand when mothers and girlfriends or ex girlfriends
are really tight and they're cool, like I'm pretty cool
with some of the dads of the girlfriends I used
to date. I understand you always have that idea of family,
But the family event, yeah.
Speaker 2 (02:15):
Wedding, their wedding, it's not a family event.
Speaker 3 (02:18):
No, you can invite them over for a Wednesday dinner, yeah,
or like you know, Sunday lunch whatever. Cool family.
Speaker 2 (02:24):
Also, why would his ex, who we cheated on multiple times,
even want to go to the wedding?
Speaker 3 (02:31):
I know why?
Speaker 2 (02:31):
Is she like jealous? Is she trying to get back
at him for all the stuff that he did?
Speaker 3 (02:35):
Still got a lot of love for him. If you're
willing to stay with someone after they cheated with you
multiple times, I understand once trying to get through it.
Speaker 2 (02:44):
I don't think she knew. I think she found out
and then broke up with it.
Speaker 3 (02:47):
No, she knew, said yeah she knew, and then the
last time she found out and broke up with them.
So I think there's still a lot of love left
even if you're still even if you're hanging out the
mom after they're done, have you done with them? Come on?
Speaker 2 (03:04):
Come on, you.
Speaker 3 (03:05):
Love with the family, you want that you want to
be in that wedding dress. Maybe she's going to thinking, oh,
maybe she'd forget to put.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
It on and all and all, and I'll honestly, I
don't want her to be in my wedding too. I
called her to talk about it and she told me
the same dang thing. He doesn't want to be in
my wedding, but my mother's insisting, which is infuriating.
Speaker 3 (03:23):
Okay, I found the problem stupid.
Speaker 2 (03:25):
That's a stupid excuse. Oh, I get it. I don't
want to be there either, But your mom said I
gotta do it.
Speaker 3 (03:33):
You just say no, and she's got to do it
for the mom. You know how many white chicken chili
she'd made for her, the mom white chicken chili chi. Yeah,
white chicken chili, the white chicken chili. But to think, right,
gian you know about white chicken chili.
Speaker 2 (03:48):
Are you saying like the color white or like a
white person chicken chilli?
Speaker 3 (03:51):
No, just like a white chicken chili.
Speaker 4 (03:53):
What you said. I did not explain any of that.
Speaker 2 (03:56):
It's a chili, white chicken chili.
Speaker 3 (03:58):
Yeah, it's like a type of chili people do. Okay, guys,
do you know how my dog's out? Do I need
to go put them on?
Speaker 2 (04:03):
Go put your feet your feet away? Gro But what socks?
I don't want to see your gout socks.
Speaker 3 (04:14):
Fine, I'll leave you with this. The girlfriend feels entitled
or not entitled, feels like she owes the mom, so
she's gonna do whatever the mom wants. White chicken chili
is awesome. Thank you the rest, Thank you.
Speaker 4 (04:27):
I don't understand. Also, have you have you seen me?
Speaker 2 (04:32):
What?
Speaker 3 (04:32):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (04:34):
Can't that white chicks chili? Oh?
Speaker 4 (04:36):
Yeah, I just don't comments.
Speaker 2 (04:38):
Why I don't understand?
Speaker 5 (04:40):
I need Yeah, he just said he didn't really explain it.
He just said white chicken chili color.
Speaker 4 (04:46):
Can someone explain it?
Speaker 2 (04:47):
Yeah? Better than beans and chicken. It's real now, that
makes sense. It's white.
Speaker 5 (04:53):
But what's the purpose of a chicken chill? Is it
like an olive branch.
Speaker 3 (04:57):
It's just a type of just the type of spice
as you do it. Riley, your feet look like my brother's.
You know what your brother's feet. They're going to comment,
how would you not?
Speaker 2 (05:07):
Tom? I don't want to see them? All right, guys,
this all right? My mother is still saying she won't
come if my ex isn't coming, and my fiance had
arguments with her. I am seriously thinking of not inviting
her at the moment. But if she doesn't come, I'm
afraid that I might be cut off from my family again.
(05:27):
This is so infuriating, and comments Aqua Tumbo says, it's
your wedding, not your mom's wedding. Tell your mom outright,
she doesn't want to come. I don't want her to come.
Fiance doesn't want her to come. Stop being weird about
it and let it go. Do not invite her. It
is a weird entitlement when parents dictate guess lists anyway,
(05:49):
unless they're paying, they get no say. If they are paying,
you have the right to draw boundaries. Good luck. If
your mom is that hung up on it, maybe you
have to let her go to next Effect says you
realize your mother hasn't forgiven you right, and there is
an update a day later. But oh, dude, awesome, Ashley says,
time to Elope. Maybe I mean you really, you know,
(06:12):
want to keep this relationship with your family. If that
is kind of priority, you might. I feel like the
options are you either don't have the wedding and a lope,
or you have the wedding and tell your mom to
stick it.
Speaker 3 (06:24):
I think this is way out of proportion here. I
don't think we needed a lope or cancel the wedding.
I believe every person that has a wedding something there's
a problem. There's some sort of problem some way, somehow,
someone's not happy with something. If you think about a
high level. The wife's family. All good, nothing's going on there, mom, dad, brother, cousin, sister, whatever,
(06:45):
everything's good there Opie's family. The only person that's upset
is the mom.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
Second option of telling her to stick it.
Speaker 3 (06:51):
Yeah, so you can stick it. And I think just
go on about things she doesn't like it, okay, whatever
you can't, don't, don't ruin your whole day wedding and
all that stuff. Secret wedding. I don't even think so.
I think you just go on as usual, business usual.
Speaker 2 (07:08):
There is an update though, My brother thirty four mail
called me to say that I did the right thing,
which was a relief. Let's go going further. I would
probably go low contact with my mother. My ex called me,
Me and my fiance talked to her on speaker and
she apologized and said she said no to my mother
and won't drop it. I said, okay, And of course
she's not inviting. My father said he's not coming if
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his wife is not coming, which is valid. So the
wedding is actually small with fifty people, but the planned
reception is huge with one hundred and fifty people, which
my father is throwing on my behalf. My mother will
be there so there might be drama and Edits should
have added that my father and father in law both
are throwing receptions together. I will have security just in case.
(07:53):
In the wedding comments, G Drama says, I'm glad you
put your foot down. Since your father is hosting for
the reception, are you sure he won't cancel it from
being pressured by your mother? That's my worry. Do you
have a backup plan just in case? Hope? He says,
father said, mother won't do anything stupid out the reception,
and X is not invited in.
Speaker 3 (08:13):
The reception, the mom has a backup plan.
Speaker 2 (08:17):
Yeah, She's like, don't worry, everything's going according to plan.
Speaker 3 (08:21):
Oh shoot, the bride didn't show up. Ah, who can
we have the repeat.
Speaker 2 (08:25):
Rids in like a closet.
Speaker 3 (08:26):
He's going, oh, let me out, yes, Scoobye dude tied up. Yeah,
that happened in the Bible once.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
What this guy?
Speaker 3 (08:34):
This guy sorry, little okay, Bible time. Sorry this one
dude works seven years to marry a woman.
Speaker 2 (08:40):
Huh.
Speaker 3 (08:40):
And the dad so in the Jewish culture, your old
body is veiled so you don't see the face until
you get married. So then when he got married to
her and said, I do lifted up. It was the sister. Yeah,
we had to work another seven years. I do another wife. Sorry,
imagine that. Imagine that's what the mom's trying to do here.
Speaker 2 (08:58):
Yeah, she's like, Yeah, you've married your ex who broke
up with you because you'd sucked. Dare you remarkable pair?
So your dad's not going to go to his own
son's wedding because his wife is a data shot. But
we'll go to the reception looking like a loser who
didn't go to his own son's wedding.
Speaker 3 (09:18):
Got it?
Speaker 2 (09:19):
Opie says, I don't know. My brothers don't have close
relationships with my dad. To be honest, I am the
favorite child who was spoiled rotten by him. That was
the reason I was terrible in the past. That's crazy.
I'm sorry, you're the favorite child and your dad's not
even coming to your wedding. Update two, mother and father
aren't coming to the reception either. Who could have seen
(09:41):
that coming? Three days later, so I had a talk
with father in law and fiance about the situation, and
my father in law will alone cover the reception cost.
I offered some money to him, but he refused, saying
I'm like his son, which made me your Oh okay,
so ope, he's Beyonce's dad is paying for everything now,
(10:02):
and my father and father in law had a doubting
match on the phone about it, so father and mother
aren't coming to the reception anymore. Beyonce is happy, and
I'm happy that our wedding and reception area are going
to be drama free. We will definitely have security there,
but it's gonna be hard explaining to everyone what happened,
and many people are going to bail out of the wedding.
(10:23):
I haven't talked to them since, and we'll probably contact
father after the wedding and reception are over. I think
if anyone says, why aren't your parents here, you say,
they really wanted my ex to come and then refuse
to show up.
Speaker 3 (10:34):
You see that my ex or my bride. Yeah, good
thing and getting a new family.
Speaker 2 (10:39):
Yeah, Like literally, you just go, they really wanted my
ex to show up, and she didn't want to show up,
and so they refuse to come.
Speaker 3 (10:46):
That's ridiculous.
Speaker 2 (10:47):
That's exactly what happened at the end. Like, at the
end of the day, your ex didn't want to come,
and they're making a decision because your ex didn't want
to come. Yeah, it wasn't like yeah, you also said
I don't want her to come, but she made that
decision in the end. So I don't even know what
what they're doing.
Speaker 3 (11:06):
Yeah. Also, do you get what I'm saying about him
getting a new family? Yeah, with with her the wife,
all right, give rid of the old family, get a
new one. Thing. That's yeah, that's wild. Why'd you're making
a stance like this? Well, the eggs there and you're
not even gonna sho go for the wedding.
Speaker 2 (11:22):
Last night, I'm gonna be honest, I cried like a baby,
saying that my mother and father aren't gonna be there.
But my fiance comforted me. Probably the most amazing woman
I've met. Can't wait to spend my life with her.
And I failed my PhD exam Lol. Results came a
few hours ago. Gotta try afterwards. I guess going forward,
I'm probably gonna be low contact with father and no
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contact with mother. And some comments Toofuti says, man, life's
thrown some wild curveballs at you. Keep your chin up. Remember,
at the end of the day, it's about you and
your amazing fiance. Wishing you both the drama free and
lovely day. MCA says, and don't contact father after your wedding.
Let him reach out to you. He chose not to attend,
(12:05):
and Opie says, okay, lucky guess says OPI. That device
is solid. Do not bow down to your parents, do
not reach out first, let them come to you. And
absolutely they are not allowed back in your lives until
they give a heartfelt apology to your wife. That should
be the first step. In fact, a phone call should
go something like this, thank you nothing, thank you comment
(12:28):
or but there is a third update, folks.
Speaker 3 (12:30):
Real quick. I feel like they are allowed to give
a heartfelt apology up until OPI and the fiance have.
Speaker 2 (12:41):
Oh and then it's like you're too late, too late.
Speaker 3 (12:44):
Yeah, you have this window.
Speaker 2 (12:45):
Trying to get back to be grandparents.
Speaker 3 (12:47):
Yeah, you have this window of whenever everything dropped out
and up until I have kids, because dude, mother in law's,
father in law's mother and father's all come crawling crawling
back the kids whenever they have them.
Speaker 2 (13:00):
Let them come back and say, oh, well, we just
want to see the kids. We just feel so bad
about how everything happened. It's like No, you had made
no attempts, you know, hypothetically to come back and apologize,
and now you want to be here with the kids. Yeah,
what's to stop you from making some other demand in
the future.
Speaker 3 (13:17):
I think we should have a game show whenever parents
want to come back in for the kids' lives, like, oh,
they wrecked my lives would go no contact, they want
to come in, Okay, game show.
Speaker 2 (13:28):
What have you learned?
Speaker 3 (13:29):
What have you learned? And how much money is going
to cost for you to come back for the kids?
And then use all that money you win, Yeah, putting
to a savings account and by the time, yeah they're eighteen,
they got a college fund. Perfect.
Speaker 2 (13:39):
But there is a third update. I am married now
and she's the most wonderful woman I could have gotten
ten days later.
Speaker 3 (13:46):
Ten days later.
Speaker 2 (13:47):
Yes, so yesterday I got married.
Speaker 1 (13:50):
Yay.
Speaker 2 (13:51):
It was the happiest day of my life. But yeah,
it suck not having my parents there, whom I thought
wouldn't go this much against me. They didn't even come
to the reception either. I honestly cried after the reception,
but my fiance was understanding and comforted me. I couldn't
have asked for a better half than her. My exit
sent a message of congratulations after the wedding, which I
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replied with thanks. Such an awkward situation for her. So awkward.
She's like, your mom keeps bullying me to come to
your wedding. I don't want to come. Congrats though about
your wedding.
Speaker 3 (14:25):
I hope her kind of the reason. You know your
parents aren't at your wedding. Sorry question mark.
Speaker 2 (14:33):
After the wedding, I still haven't contacted my parents, but
my father sent an air fryer as a wedding gift
to my address, which is like an appliance.
Speaker 3 (14:41):
So gotta use it, dude, I I can't wait.
Speaker 2 (14:46):
Well, aren't you gonna? Isn't isn't the one we have?
Speaker 1 (14:49):
Your?
Speaker 3 (14:50):
Who's this?
Speaker 5 (14:51):
That?
Speaker 3 (14:52):
It was here? Whatever I got here?
Speaker 2 (14:53):
Maybe you can get rid of it.
Speaker 3 (14:54):
You don't like it?
Speaker 5 (14:55):
No?
Speaker 3 (14:56):
Why not?
Speaker 2 (14:56):
So big?
Speaker 3 (14:57):
I like it. I'll take it.
Speaker 2 (14:58):
I'll just with me. Yeah, take a with you. I mean,
Christian's got his Sam doesn't use the air fire.
Speaker 3 (15:03):
I'm the only one that really uses it exactly right.
Speaker 2 (15:06):
It's all yours. Thanks, Thanks, Happy birthday. Thanks, But there
is a little bit left do this story.
Speaker 3 (15:14):
Do you have any final thoughts perfectly executed. This makes
me want to write a book called the Sop Book.
Uh huh, and it and it talks about all the
things like you were encountered with this, Yeah, this is
how you see And then we have links to our
videos on it.
Speaker 4 (15:27):
I like it.
Speaker 3 (15:28):
I like it. And then at the back of the
book we have like descriptions of like sunt cost fallacy,
we give it a definition or like what's another one
key on like word branching, monkey branching.
Speaker 4 (15:37):
Yes, I would say monkey branching. Was you were too Yeah, wait,
it's a very common one.
Speaker 3 (15:42):
Did you guys, Like, do you guys just separately think
of that and then set it together.
Speaker 4 (15:45):
We honestly do that more than you think.
Speaker 2 (15:47):
Yeah, we're constantly on the same top like, yeah.
Speaker 3 (15:50):
That's wild, very weird. I don't anyways. Anyways, that's all
I have to say. It's just Op, you have executed
this perfectly where I want to write a book.
Speaker 2 (15:59):
Yeah. I think it's just like, you know, if you're
ever worried about how your family's going to react to
something that you and your partner have decided, and you're like, oh,
they're gonna leave me, They're gonna you know, cut me
off or whatever. If they're willing to cut off family
members because they don't get their way, that they don't
really care about you, and that sucks.
Speaker 3 (16:18):
They don't respect ya, and they're not going to respect
your family. They're gonna act like Kimberly Holly said, a
great point. They're gonna come crawling back with their attitudes
are still gonna be the same. You should add kids
with your ex.
Speaker 2 (16:30):
Indeed, but let's finish this off. Their reception was awesome too.
Thanks to y'all for those wonderful comments. I honestly thought,
I don't deserve all this due to how terrible I
was in the past. But people can change. If you
have done something wrong in the past, don't let it
define yourself, keep it in your mind and move on.
You can change.
Speaker 3 (16:50):
And what I like about this is he he came
out said what he did. Yeah, but you can see
while he's riding. Oh yeah, he's the levelheaded I think.
So at first I was like, yeah, I don't blame
her for making out of you.
Speaker 2 (17:01):
Is like, h what, But yeah, I mean what you
did deserve to be broken up with. She should not
have stayed with you after that. But it seems like
you have you know, learned since then.
Speaker 3 (17:11):
Yeah, I agree, Yeah, I am playful.
Speaker 2 (17:13):
Rainbow good for you. Growth is uncomfortable and messy, but
you pushed through it. You held firm on boundaries, owned
your past, and chose love built on mutual respect. That's
real redemption. And hey, enjoy that air fire. It's heavy peace.
In appliance form, Willing Lemon says, well done on your
self awareness, admitting fault and consciously trying to be a
(17:35):
better person. Unfortunately, there would still be doubters and negative people.
Ignore them and just keep making positive changes. I am
sorry about your family. I think even your ex saw
it was inappropriate for her to attend. Your mom has
lots of issues, and if she was truly a friend
slash cared for your ex, she wouldn't want her at
your wedding. It would have created drama that your ex
(17:56):
would have been in the spotlight slash firing line for
your mom. Not attending your wedding is just a symptom
of the bigger relationship issues. But not attending was the
final nail. It was a time when she could witness
you truly being happy. It's like she can't forgive you
for something you did to someone else. She's holding on
to something that everyone else has moved on from. I
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guess this is her hill. She hasn't even given your
wife a fair chance. Go for therapy and embrace your
wife's family. They sound great, congratulations. When you grow, learn
and work on your character, you deserve to be happy.
Speaker 3 (18:30):
Good luck, And.
Speaker 2 (18:31):
Opie says, yeah, she's a good person. I brought drama
into ex's life. Glad she moved on now, and I'm
not there. I have a new half to focus on.
And Folks, that's the end of that story. And there
you go. Opie's figuring it out. And now you've got
a new family to figure it out with.
Speaker 3 (18:47):
Oh and that's lovely, and you can make new family.
Speaker 2 (18:51):
Keep it going, keep the cycle going. Anyway, what's the
next story?
Speaker 3 (18:55):
I expose my cheating father to my stepmother expose So
while this whole thing has spiraled over the past month
and I'm still kind of shocked. Or Father's Day, I
talked to my dad and he said he was going
off roading with my sister's fiance. Last minute he canceled,
and he said he pulled a calf muscle and would
need to be staying at home weird since he usually
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pushes through the pain for the sake of doing fun things.
But okay, I'll buy it the pain to do fun things.
Speaker 2 (19:24):
No that he he'd hurt himself.
Speaker 3 (19:26):
Oh yeah that but like he but like you see
the other half of it. Yeah, he pushes himself through
pain for the fun things.
Speaker 2 (19:32):
Wink wink.
Speaker 3 (19:33):
By the way, this comes from past entrepreneur of seventy
eight and if you want to seeing old stories, Tody
guard slash Owkay Streight time celebrate it. So around the
same time, my step mom and her sister told me
they would be out of town for the weekend and
show my dad lots of love while they're gone, and
that they felt bad they had to leave him alone
for that weekend and stuff. I didn't go see him,
long story, I don't have a close relationship with him,
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and sit on the Happy Father's Day text and I
left it there. Turns out my brother did go over there.
He called my dad beforehand, and when he got there,
my dad made it pasta dinner for two. There was
a woman over a decade younger than him. Oh oh
oh he has never seen before.
Speaker 2 (20:17):
Right row mm mmmmmm. That's not good. I don't like that.
Speaker 3 (20:24):
That's not m m m. My dad said he's a
very old friend from work that they've known each other forever,
but we've literally never seen him with a platonic female
friend in our lives.
Speaker 2 (20:36):
Dude, I don't buy it one bit, not once.
Speaker 3 (20:39):
Whenever he's around women, it's either his partner or his
friend's wives, partner's friends, et cetera, and he rarely talks
to them.
Speaker 2 (20:46):
Dude, I mean, but so he had planned, it seems like,
to have no one over for Father's Day because everyone
like couldn't make it. Whatever. He seemingly has this whole
pasta romantic dinner, things set up, and I know one
of his sons comes over and is like, hey, here
to wish you a happy Father's Day.
Speaker 3 (21:05):
Oh my gosh, imagine oh I made a supasta and
then he sees the other woman. Wait now I see
it now, oh man. Fast forward. I texted him on
the fourth of July saying happy fourth, and he says
he's out of state at a family friend's house, sort
of a house of someone I'm much closer with than
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he is. He doesn't even like them, But I wonder myself,
what's up? But don't think too deep about it. I
just brush it off. But it gets weirder. My sister
calls me. A couple of weeks later. My dad had
called her and told her he was going to a
cant site three hours away just to take pictures and
set of nature. Cannot emphasize enough how much this is
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not his vibe at all. He said he was going alone,
then complained about his wife being bored and never going
anywhere with him. I think he literally looked up what's
the best lie to tell my wife that I'm doing
so I can go see my other girlfriend.
Speaker 2 (22:01):
I'm sorry, Wait, so he said that his wife is boring.
Speaker 3 (22:04):
He said, I'm gonna go out in nature and have fun,
sit out in nature for three hours. Gosh, my wife
doesn't want to do anything with me because she's bored
to me.
Speaker 2 (22:11):
So boring, weird. That's that's obviously a lie.
Speaker 3 (22:16):
Yeah, we know where he's going, we know, we know
what you're doing.
Speaker 2 (22:19):
The dinner man.
Speaker 3 (22:21):
Remember that one girl that just went on long drives
all the time. Oh, there's some girl that at night
who just go on long drives until three o'clock in
the morning. It was like a in a story. In
a story. Yeh, it's like, dude, we know where you're going.
Speaker 4 (22:34):
She ended up, well, yeah, but I used to go
on late night drives.
Speaker 3 (22:38):
But we knew where you were going.
Speaker 4 (22:39):
No, you didn't. He was in high school.
Speaker 5 (22:41):
We knew I was going down pch listening to music
with my windows rolled down in the heat on.
Speaker 3 (22:51):
Oh, he was definitely on.
Speaker 5 (22:53):
I didn't talk to women in high school. Liar, scared
of women about it. I'm doing all boyschool.
Speaker 2 (23:00):
That's true, all right.
Speaker 3 (23:01):
Anyways, my sister kept repeating, well, be safe out there alone.
Tilly finally omitted he wasn't going alone. He's going with
an old friend, a very old friend. But we learned
earlier not really that that old. But didn't want to
tell his wife because it's a woman.
Speaker 2 (23:19):
Mmm, if we don't want to tell our partner about something,
maybe just because we know we're doing something wrong.
Speaker 3 (23:27):
Then right before strip, he calls and asks me to
watch a labordoodle that belongs to a friend.
Speaker 2 (23:33):
Dude, is he going? He who belongs to a friend.
Every time he says it, he's like, I got a
very old friend, I'm going camping with a front Why
are you? What's this?
Speaker 3 (23:45):
Yeah? Why can I hear the air quotes on that
it's weird. You can tell when someone says air quotes
around like certain words. I just know it's the same
woman's dog too. I asked that the dog is good
with other dogs and birds, and he casually drops that
they brought the dog with them to that friend's house
for the fourth of July, which his wife does not
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know about. He explicively told my sister that he went
alone as well. I agree to watch the dog because
I wanted to meet her, see if I just forgot
someone from the past or something, and get a sense
if this is really a big deal. They show up today.
I've never met this woman, probably fifteen years younger than
my dad. And when I ask, so, where are you headed,
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he just freezes and says, oh, uh, just have some
things to do. L I A R. I'm pissed. Some
things things to.
Speaker 2 (24:39):
Do, maybe some people, maybe some people's father's.
Speaker 3 (24:42):
Oh father, Oh dang editors, you know what to do there? Dang?
Speaker 2 (24:51):
All right?
Speaker 3 (24:51):
Then our children does it as he sees it? Yeah, dude,
what the world? These guys gonna get better?
Speaker 2 (25:00):
So his father's wife is not his mom. It's a
little bit an unclear if Opee's dad. I don't think
Opie's dad's current partner is his mom is Opie's mom.
I'm pretty sure Opie's this is Opie's stepmom.
Speaker 3 (25:13):
But yeah, it's okay, stepmom. I think so mentioned in
the time that's I assumed. I also texted a mutual
friend who was at the property on the fourth. They
confirmed my dad brought this woman and said he was awkward,
plain they were just friends even though no one asked,
and that my dad told them not to tell anyone
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she was there. So I now know that my dad
brought this woman on two solo trips, had her over
for dinner on Father's Day while his wife was out
of town, introduced her to people while saying, don't tell me.
She's actively lying about where she's going. Now I'm ninety
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nine percent sure mom's step mom does not know about
any of this. She's so sweet. She and my dad
are supposed to move out in a home less than
a month from now. I have had conversations with her,
and she always says never worries about my dad cheating,
He's not that guy. That they are just so good together,
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and that's the last thing she worries.
Speaker 2 (26:18):
About baby girl. She's gotta be the first thing you
worry about.
Speaker 3 (26:22):
She says she likes not worrying because she doesn't like
the person she becomes when she has to worry.
Speaker 2 (26:27):
You don't have to worry about it. It's happening. You
don't have to like think about it. It just is,
it exists.
Speaker 3 (26:33):
There's a sprinkle of gas lighting right here.
Speaker 2 (26:35):
Yeah, it's like it's like, oh, you don't have to
worry that the oven is on.
Speaker 3 (26:38):
It's on.
Speaker 2 (26:39):
You got to go turn it off.
Speaker 3 (26:41):
Gotta go turn it off.
Speaker 2 (26:42):
You know for a fact.
Speaker 3 (26:43):
It's on the way that she said that she doesn't
like the person she becomes when she worries, shows that
they that her and her husband have had conversations. I
don't like how you're so jealous all that. I don't
like her always asking for my location when I ask
to be alone for three hours.
Speaker 2 (26:56):
He's gasled her, and she's like, oh, I don't have
to worry about it. He would never do that. Yeah,
oh yeah, A.
Speaker 3 (27:02):
Little teddy bear camera will tell you everything. This has
been keeping me up at night because in my heart
I would have already told if it were anyone else,
but I have this tugging feeling that since it's my parents,
it's not my place, but Sophia, it's your place. There
we go, it's your place. There we go.
Speaker 2 (27:21):
You're seeing something happening it's not okay.
Speaker 3 (27:23):
Would I be the a hole if I told her
I'm scared he's going to blow up on me. He's
sort of the agro self desorb type, and I'm just
really nervous. If you told, would you go straight to
her and lay it all out? Would you try to
be more discreet in helping her discover the truth? Thanks
in advance. This is all really stressing me out. We
have an update. I kind of like the idea of
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letting her figure it out on herself.
Speaker 2 (27:48):
I think I think he just goes. I think he
goes to the step mom and says, hey, I just
wanted to let you know he's been hanging out with
this woman.
Speaker 5 (27:58):
Uh.
Speaker 2 (27:59):
You don't even have to nest necessarily be like he's
cheating on you. I think you just say, like, hey,
like you did you know he was hanging out with
this woman or like went on this trip with her.
Just wanted to like make sure you knew that.
Speaker 6 (28:10):
Wrestling Mama says I'm snitching. I like the idea of
laying it out, trying to let her discover what's going on. Yeah,
that seems cool. My friend did that one time to me.
Something really crazy happened, and I kind of just I'm like,
do what's wrong with you?
Speaker 3 (28:25):
You like, think about it? And I always said those
think about it, and he said think about it fifteen
times and then I came to the conclusion said it
out loud and he just.
Speaker 2 (28:32):
Went, Okay, so you didn't basically just tell you.
Speaker 5 (28:35):
No.
Speaker 3 (28:36):
I was like, wait, so this happened. He's like, think
about it. This happened, dude.
Speaker 2 (28:40):
He's just telling you that. He always said a stake
about it, but it takes longer. It's like think about it. No,
don't think about it, think about it.
Speaker 5 (28:50):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (28:51):
I don't know. It's just if she hasn't said her mind,
you probably did just tell her. Yeah yeah, I think
you just tell her. Oh ah, i'llp date I did it.
I went over to my step mom's house while my
dad was out of town and told her everything.
Speaker 2 (29:04):
I know.
Speaker 3 (29:05):
She was totally blindsided. She was angry, she was absolutely
shattered what she was shaking and said she never saw
this coming. You told me things had actually been going
better lately, No, cause dad's in a better mood.
Speaker 5 (29:20):
Now.
Speaker 2 (29:21):
Yeah, that happens a lot though, when someone's like going
to the gym, there'd be nicer and it's all out
of the blues. Sometimes. I mean, sometimes it's just because
things are looking up.
Speaker 3 (29:31):
But sometimes my friends would go on a trip come
back and just be like real giddy and like be
happy about life, and I'm like, what happened, Like, oh,
just get back from a trip. But then you find
out what happened and you're like, oh, yeah, you came.
Speaker 2 (29:44):
Back from my trip.
Speaker 4 (29:45):
Friends have done this with ten told you these things
just go off one in mind.
Speaker 2 (29:49):
Okay, Okay, wow, all right, are you not happier from
a back for your trip? Yeah? But now that it
makes me, you're making it sound like it's more than
what happened.
Speaker 3 (30:01):
I didn't say anything. I didn't say anything more happened.
I'm just saying some people come back happier from drim. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (30:06):
Sometimes you Okay, complimented to feel good, Okay, And that's
not a crime.
Speaker 3 (30:13):
My dad had taken her out on a date just
the day before and was being unusually affectionate and sweet
he really thought they were in a good place, or
I told her anything. He was cheerfully patting and brought
up that shrimp pasta your dad makes. Oh no, my
sister and I just froze. That's what he made for
the other woman. We both felt sick. He was so
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happy and welcoming and excited to have us there. It
was heartbreaking. She mentioned that usually he invites her and
her sister to church every weekend, and he had randomly
stopped doing that over the past month. He also stopped
inviting another family member who usually goes too. Apparently. She
had actually wanted to go on this recent trip with him,
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but he told her he had to take a certain
road that she hates because of how he drives on it,
said it would be dangerous, so she stayed behind. They
had a location sharing app for years, mostly in case
of emergencies. She rarely checks it unless she needs to
if he's near a store or something. But after I
talked to her, she decided to look. That was when
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everything started to click for her. He hadn't gone to
work at all that day. He drove to a nearby
town eight at a Prankberia, Oh takarayah Tacorea. Yeah like
taco eded Tagaria for hours, then checked into an inn.
We later found out that her sister overheard him booking
that room, and he specifically asked for a king side
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bed instead of two queens, since she didn't think anything
about it at the time. He normally booked kings for
work travel. My stepmom texted him while he was still
at the restaurant, pretending like she had figured out a
way to make the drive after all. He then said
something like you're not answering because your girlfriend is with you.
Huh ooh, and finally told him to pack a bag
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and get out.
Speaker 2 (32:06):
Pack Yeah, girl, yes, live your life, Live your life,
picky man, Yes, do you wrong?
Speaker 3 (32:14):
No way. He never replied he did a call. He
just went on with his night and stayed at the
hotel with the other woman.
Speaker 5 (32:21):
Ugh.
Speaker 3 (32:22):
The next morning, he finally called. At first he denied
anyone was with him, Then he admitted someone was, but
claimed it was just a friend. He told my stepmom
this was her fault for never going anywhere with Oh.
Speaker 2 (32:35):
My gosh, you suck, dude. You never want any fun
things with me. Sue me for trying to find somebody
who wants to go on adventures.
Speaker 3 (32:44):
Do you like to forge, Sophia forge Porgee, like go
out and like gather things foradge. Yeah, like go out
and shop and gather things, or like go to thrift
store and like gather things.
Speaker 2 (32:55):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (32:55):
I feel like that's what she needs in her life. Yeah,
go forage, go gather things. When she pointed out that
she knew it wasn't a work trip, he first denied
that too, then backtracked and said, yeah, you're right, it's
not work, but it's not what you think. She's just
a friend that we have benefits with and we f
all the time. That's just a friend. That is a
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wild take give Oh my.
Speaker 2 (33:18):
God, I get that his benefits I get dental you
know what that applies?
Speaker 5 (33:23):
Right? Yes?
Speaker 3 (33:24):
Oh my, that is wild the joke wild, that's the joke.
I was not expecting. Yes, it does.
Speaker 2 (33:34):
He gets healthcare.
Speaker 3 (33:36):
Anyways, away from that, told him to come pack a
bag and leave, insisted on coming home to talk it out.
I really hope she sticks to her pupews and doesn't
let him spin this into anything. But then what it
is As for me, I still have the labor dude.
After telling her I texted my dad said, I just
outed you to your wife. I hope this was a misunderstanding.
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What the is actually going on? Call me back. It's
been over fifteen hours, no call, no text, nothing.
Speaker 2 (34:06):
I think you did the right thing, OPI I think
he's probably. I think he's definitely cheating on his wife.
Speaker 3 (34:10):
Why do you think he's not replying back to me because.
Speaker 2 (34:13):
He knows he's been caught. He's like, ah, shoot, I've
been caught. Might as well enjoy my time with this
girl before I have to go deal with that. Yeah yeah,
I mean, like, how do you get out of that?
He admitted to it. He admitted to being with her,
He just didn't admit to, you know, cheating with her.
But that's not obvious.
Speaker 3 (34:29):
I agreed, Kean, he got caught.
Speaker 5 (34:31):
You know, it's one of those things where it's like,
what's the right thing to do, And it's like, even
if that's the cost of your father's relationship with you,
you did the right thing.
Speaker 2 (34:41):
Absolutely.
Speaker 3 (34:42):
I sent that message because I didn't want my siblings
to take the blame or be put in a position
where he tries to guilt them. My stepmom had already
let him know she knew, but I wanted him to
hear it from me that I was the one who
said something. Every time my phone rings, I get nervous
it's gonna be him. But I feel better having gotten
it off my chest. I do think I did the
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right thing. One thing I'm especially glad about. I stopped
my stepmom from moving into a new house with him.
When I got her a place to talk, he was
literally hacking. That part crushed me. Thankfully, she'll be staying
in the home she already shares with her sister instead.
Oh wow, that said. My partner thinks I should have
given my dad a warning.
Speaker 2 (35:24):
First so he could lie more. Though this is But
the thing is, it doesn't even seem like, oh, he
has that good of a relationship with his dad or
with their dad anyway.
Speaker 3 (35:33):
So it's like, maybe why maybe the partner wanted to
give him an ultimatum, being like, hey, you have to
tell her what I'm gonna talk.
Speaker 2 (35:40):
That's what we're saying. But my point is like, oh,
he doesn't really have a good relationship with their dad anyway.
If they gave the data heads up, he probably would
have figured it out a way to lie more.
Speaker 3 (35:54):
I doubt that I think you come off with the
ultimatum you tell her everything or I will, And I'm
going to talk to her on Saturday to make sure
she has everything stract. That's what I would do, but
you who knows, it could be a way too, something
like tell her or I will. He believes it would
have hurt less coming from him, and maybe it would have.
I doubt that it probably did hit harder coming from
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me with all the details. I know some family members
are going to have mixed feelings about how I handle this,
But I stand by it.
Speaker 2 (36:23):
Yeah, I stand by it to Opie. And that's the
end of that story, folks. In that story, we got
to another one.
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First, my mother wants me to cut off my dad.
Speaker 3 (36:38):
What'd your daddy due? Then?
Speaker 2 (36:39):
And this is from the r slash Okay storytime subured
it boo. I thirty female had a very rough upbringing
as a child. My birth father isn't in my life
and disown me from birth. My mother took care of
me most of my life with the help of my
grandmother and her various boyfriends. Over the years. By the way,
this comes from Technical Fan thirteen hundred and if you
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want to spend your own stories, go to the r
slash Okay storytime separated so over the years, though my
mother accused me many times of being the reason her
boyfriend's never worked out. Fast forward a few years she
met my now father, fifty one Mail, who has been
there for me through thick and thin and protected me
from my mother before I was sixteen. He was the
one to keep the peace when my mother had her episodes.
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I swear she's bipolar and ADHD, but refuses to talk
to someone about this, And when my younger brother and
sister were born, he was the one to make sure
I never felt unwanted. Fast forward to when I turned sixteen.
A week later, my mother punted me out and cut
contact with me to limit it, stating it was because
he didn't want me part of the family anymore. But
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this was her version, as he continued to support me
and offered financial aid when I needed it for school.
I'm sorry, I don't really care that he offered financial
aid and support. He didn't Your mother kicked you out,
and he didn't leave her. Your mother kicked a sixteen
year old out and he wasn't like, whoa, that's a
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red flag. I gotta go, and I'm still gonna help out.
Speaker 3 (38:11):
You know.
Speaker 2 (38:12):
Ope, But that's crazy that he stayed.
Speaker 3 (38:15):
Yeah, that's very multi layered right there.
Speaker 2 (38:19):
After several years, they broke up and filed for separation.
Speaker 3 (38:22):
There we go, he should That was probably one of
the big killers in the house.
Speaker 2 (38:27):
You left your child. That's a little weird.
Speaker 3 (38:29):
It probably took him a while like that happened, and
it took him a little bit more time to really
get that figured out.
Speaker 2 (38:35):
But I told them both I wouldn't take sides, and
that I would be there for my brother and sister,
who weren't even teenagers yet. This upset my mother and
her side of the family, and they completely cut me
out of the family for twelve years.
Speaker 3 (38:49):
Oh my out for no reason.
Speaker 2 (38:53):
You're cutting out people, Willy Nilly.
Speaker 3 (38:55):
I'm so sorry. That's it.
Speaker 2 (38:56):
That's you can't just cut out people. That is, and
also your children.
Speaker 3 (39:01):
You deserve to be loved unconditionally. Yeah, I'm so sorry.
Speaker 2 (39:05):
Fast forward again to now this past year of twenty
twenty three, eight to twenty twenty four, I have been
diagnosed with a rare blood clotting disorder that causes me
to clot easily in my body with minimal injuries. It
got worse as twenty twenty four came around and I
was hospitalized for many months because I was diagnosed with
eight clots on my lungs. My other half and his
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family were amazing and supportive throughout the scary time of
my life. I decided to try and reach out to
my grandmother and my mother again. At first, they seemed
hesitant because they knew I was still in contact with
my father, but they got over it and came to
see me and spend time with me in the hospital.
That is till one day my mother said that if
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I was still in contact with my father that she
would cut me off for good and never speak with
me again. Dude, the amount of times that she's cut
you off, I'd be like, fine, you throw my relationship
with you around so oh carelessly. I don't want to
continue to be around you. At the time, it was
stressful and I needed my family's support and wanted them there,
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so I cut contact with him for a few months,
which I know now wasn't right of me. I had
to be transferred to another hospital and had to have
a ten hour surgery to remove the cloths from my
lungs as I was now in heart failure.
Speaker 3 (40:22):
Oh my god.
Speaker 2 (40:23):
After the surgery, I stayed in the hospital for about
two weeks until I was discharged.
Speaker 3 (40:27):
Oh my gosh.
Speaker 2 (40:29):
I just to threaten your child with disownment when they're
in the hospital getting eight hour surgery.
Speaker 3 (40:38):
They don't love you.
Speaker 2 (40:38):
There's ten hour surgery. When I was discharged, I called
my mother to let her know and let her know
I was arranging for a way home when she piped
up and said she would come get me, which was
no small feet as she lived three to four hours
away from the major hospital I was staying in. At
the time, she seemed okay with coming and getting me,
but after she arrived, I told her the plans. My
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other half and his parents had offered to let me
stay with them as they have an elevator and I
live in a three story apartment building with no elevator.
At the time, I was very weak on my legs.
She became very upset and said I was copping out
and being weak because I wouldn't attempt the three flights
of stairs. After major open chest surgery. Yeah, you're being
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a weak Wow. Yeah, why would you? Why would you
want to tough anything out? When you just had open
heart surgery or open chest surgery. I'd be like, Uh, yeah,
I'm gonna take it easy. I'm not walking up three
flights of stairs. Do you want to get your chest
open up? I see how it feels for you.
Speaker 3 (41:39):
This infuriates me.
Speaker 2 (41:41):
I explained that even the physiotherapist in the hospital and
doctors said it was a good idea. Till I was
feeling strong enough to attempt the steps, she became physically
upset and demanded I get dressed and ready to go.
The whole car ride home was uncomfortable, and I could
see She texted my grandmother demanding she to take me
the rest of the way home after they met so
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she didn't have to see my other half and his
parents for context. I did tell her my other half
and his dad offered to meet half way for her
and take me the rest of the way home, but
she refused and said she didn't mind. Clearly minds. Once
I finally was home, I hoped that my mother and
I could rebuild our relationship, but she started a pity
party over text with me one night, and since she's
(42:25):
been strained with her texting. I have since reached back
out to my father and we are now back to
speaking after I explained the situation and made my point
that I wanted them both in my life, but I
refused to be a spy for either of them, which
he fully respects and just wants to make sure I'm
okay and I'm doing what's best for my health. My
sister is the only one besides myself who was in
(42:46):
contact with my father and mother. Since I got into
contact with my father again, my mother has gone back
to her strained little to no text contact with me.
We're generally not caring at all. I recently went back
to the hospital again a complication with my medications, and
her side of the family didn't reach out to me
or seem like they cared.
Speaker 3 (43:06):
My gosh.
Speaker 2 (43:07):
My father's side, though even if I'm not blood, has
continue to love and cherish me like one of their own.
I would love some advice on what I should do
regarding all of this, as my mother seems to control
the narrative around her side of the family. Should I
cut off my father and his side and risk losing
his love and my brother or should I just let
it go and not worry about all of this? Thank
(43:30):
you for the advice ahead of time, and there is
an update.
Speaker 3 (43:34):
Hey is John og host.
Speaker 1 (43:35):
We're gonna get back to the stories, but a quick
free minute break of ads from our sponsors.
Speaker 2 (43:39):
But what do you think, Riley?
Speaker 3 (43:41):
I think wanting a relationship with your mother is really
sweet and in a perfect world that is a possibility. Sadly,
we know the type of person your mother is. Yeah,
we know what will happen you choose. It's sort of
like you have two arms, warn arms not really working,
but you think if you give one arm more blood,
you're going to cut off your other arm, Like I'm
(44:02):
gonna cut off my right arm, so I get my
left arm more more blood, hoping that it'll work more.
That's probably not gonna happens.
Speaker 2 (44:09):
Keep gone.
Speaker 3 (44:10):
Yeah, you should work with the hand that works, in
the arm that works the most, and just kind of
let the other one, you know, Yeah, dissolve, that's really
what's gonna happen.
Speaker 2 (44:18):
I think the thing is that you're going to keep
trying to just fulfill all of these demands from your mom,
and she's going to keep moving the goalpost and saying, oh, well,
you can't do this. If you want a relationship with me,
you can't do this. Oh, I'm going to cut you
off if you do this, and she's going to keep
doing that because she has already done that. Yeah, and
(44:39):
she's already cut you off before. And so why would
we want to try and have a relationship with someone
based off of, you know, those demands that are just completely,
you know, unfair. Whereas your dad, on the other hand,
has shown time and time again that he loves and
cares for you and you know, doesn't care about your
(45:00):
mom's demands. So I feel like you just go go
with the person who has shown time and time again
that they love you and care for you and support you. Yeah,
and don't demand anything in return.
Speaker 3 (45:10):
You can tell a lot about a person that gives,
like kicks out their kid at sixteen. Yeah, that's where
I get it from right there, and you'll understand it
one day.
Speaker 2 (45:20):
But there's an update. I took the time and read
through each and every comment and sat down and talked
it over with my other half and his family. I
have decided to go low contact with my mother and
grandmother based on what she has done to me and
my past and how she is now still trying to
control me. Recently, with the New Year, I was again
hospitalized due to anemia and now having a rare blood
(45:42):
type due to my antigens around my blood cells, so
I had to remain in the hospital for a few
weeks over New Years. During this time, I did reach
out to my family. This included my mother, grandmother, siblings,
and my father. My mother just seemed happy to have updates,
but never gave me any advice or guy or bothered
to come and see me. For the few weeks I
(46:03):
was in the hospital again, my grandmother kept promising to
come see me, but that kept changing based on her mood.
Be honest, the only ones who did seem concerned were
my other half's family and my father and siblings. So
let's have a relationship with people that actually care about you.
Speaker 3 (46:19):
Here we go.
Speaker 2 (46:20):
The moment I texted him, he instantly texted me and
asked me why and where I was. Unfortunately, with how
the weather is and where I live versus where he lives,
it's harder for him to come down and see me
at this time of year. So we have made plans
to see each other in the summer. I know a
few people did ask a few questions regarding a few things,
(46:40):
and I'll try my best to answer those questions. Andy,
and all information I have on my biological father was
told to me by my grandmother and mother from when
I was a child till now as an adult. It's unfortunate,
but it's all I know, and they never kept contact
with anyone from his side. My other half did buy
me a DNA test kit, so I am looking for
(47:01):
the test results soon. If I have an update on this,
I will post again.
Speaker 3 (47:05):
No freaking way is what turned to a DNA test?
Speaker 5 (47:08):
Dang.
Speaker 3 (47:10):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (47:12):
Some things I didn't mention before was that my mother
did try and convince me that my other half was
trying to poison me and make me sick for insurance claim.
Why did we we need to get so far away
from your mom? Huh?
Speaker 3 (47:26):
She probably try to pull that on your dad.
Speaker 2 (47:30):
Yikes. She was convinced that the food he was making
me was poisoned, and she had somehow convinced twelve other
people of this fact as well, people that don't know
anything about me or my life except through her. What
your mom is crazy?
Speaker 3 (47:44):
This is wild.
Speaker 2 (47:45):
Your mom's crazy. Get out of there.
Speaker 3 (47:46):
This is so crazy.
Speaker 2 (47:48):
Literally, get out of there.
Speaker 3 (47:49):
Yeah, cut off.
Speaker 2 (47:50):
Not care about you. Your dad does though he loves
show with him. Yeah, and you got your your partner
and your partner's family.
Speaker 3 (47:58):
It's just so hard to wish and want a relationship
with your mom and understanding these are the colmfounds that
it's in and hoping you can't. I'm not blaming you
ope at all for a hoping that you had a
good relationship with your mom. Yeah, just hard to realize.
It's just hard to open up too.
Speaker 2 (48:13):
There is there is, but uh, there's a little bit
left to the story. I think, opee, you're on the
right track. Cut your mom off. Just have a relationship
with your dad.
Speaker 3 (48:23):
There you go.
Speaker 2 (48:24):
I told her that it's not possible, as he loves me.
She has had no respect for him or his family
since the day twelve years ago. He stood up against
her for my sake because I was in the midst
of a panic attack because of my decision to see
my father and siblings when she had separated from it.
But she didn't know that I actually have life insurance
on him and on myself. But she has no right too,
(48:47):
So if something were to happen to me, she has
no right to it. Since these facts and all the comments,
I have decided to stay low contact with her and
my grandmother. It does hurt because it just feels like
they couldn't convince me to do what they wanted. But
to be honest, I don't care because I'm happy and
healthy and living my life with my spouse who I love.
(49:09):
It's their choice if they want to continue the low
contact or if they want to be in my life.
As many of you have comment, thank you again everyone,
and edit. I forgot to mention that I had decided
not to cut off my father. It will take time,
but we are going to try and rebuild our bond.
I apologized and made sure to text him after reading
everyone's comments and telling him how much I love and
(49:31):
appreciate him in my life. Let me go at the
end of that story.
Speaker 3 (49:35):
Guys, if you've got a story, you need some advice whatever, Literally,
this is the best example of we're in Probably not
gonna read that story yet, but our community is always
their helping people and guys, everyone in the live stream,
if you're ever like I want to, you know, give
people advice and I want to help people out, go
to our reddit. There's so many of us, so many
they are wanting some help, needing some advice, and you
(49:56):
can directly comment and help some people out. You maybe
change someone's perspective this because op seemed to kind of
see clear.
Speaker 2 (50:03):
Yeah, that like this relationship with their mom is not healthy.
Speaker 3 (50:06):
Exactly exactly, and it's so hard and as family, you
got to keep each other accountable. And that's what we do.
And that's why I freaking love Okay story Time and
everyone that goes there and freaking comments on the subreddit.
Speaker 2 (50:17):
It's a brand community, beautiful thing.
Speaker 3 (50:19):
Sometimes I have put things on Okay story Subreddit under
an alias just to see what people say. Yeah, I
have a time or two oh right crazy and we
may have read one or two for.
Speaker 4 (50:32):
Real, probably Wiley Wilson.
Speaker 3 (50:36):
Who is I am not Riley?
Speaker 2 (50:38):
That's pretty on the news.
Speaker 5 (50:40):
I am not.
Speaker 2 (50:42):
Miss Kitty Kat says. I've said it once, I've said
it a thousand times. Blood is not family love ye,
But folks, I love this episode and unfortunately it's come
to an end.
Speaker 3 (50:56):
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Speaker 2 (51:01):
I'll do them. We love you, and see it omorrow.
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