My mother-in-law has disrespected me throughout my pregnancy…I want to ban her from seeing my kids! | Reddit Stories - ok storytime

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My mother in law has disrespected me throughout my pregnancy.
I want to ban her from seeing my kids. You
know what, just banner forever from everything banned. This is
kind of rambly and long. Sorry in advance. Back in February,
I twenty five gave birth to my beautiful baby girl,
who I'll call Jay, and before I went into labor,
I had my mom come to help me with the

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newborn and postpartum phase as she wasn't able to do
so with my son, who's four I'll call him A.
She stayed for about ten days and then sadly had
to leave. By the way, this comes from user Harry
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to the r slash Okay Storytime subreddit. Well, my mother
in law was given very strict guidelines by me to

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follow if she came to visit.

Speaker 4 (01:00):
One.

Speaker 3 (01:01):
She cannot bring her two granddaughters, ages ten and eight. Two,
she cannot be sick. Three wash your hands. Four do
not treat this as a vacation.

Speaker 5 (01:14):
I feel like three is just common sense.

Speaker 3 (01:17):
Definitely wash your hands around the newborn and child. My
mom had similar rules, as I did not want to
seem biased.

Speaker 4 (01:23):
And this is where things go south.

Speaker 3 (01:25):
Dear husband twenty five I'll call him eight, said I
hate his family because I didn't want mother in law
forty nine to bring her two granddaughters with her, and
she was adding fuel to the fire by saying I've
never liked her or them, and I'm just trying to
keep her from seeing my kids. So I explained to
husband that I am three weeks postpartum and do not
want more than just mother in law visiting, as his

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nieces have serious behavioral problems that cause me severe anxiety
and stress, which is not good for me. But I'm
also worried about exposure in germs as they're coming from
a different state and traveling through several major airports, not
to mention they're just not clean in any way, and
have even been caught blowing their noses on my couch
during their stay at my house before just last year.

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Husband said he understood and told mother in law my demands,
but ultimately she brought the girls anyway. We had a
huge fight about how she had been treating me while
she was staying, how she had not been washing her hands.
I forgot to mention I also have an autoimmune disease
and also had complications from the birth and was ordered
on bed rest.

Speaker 4 (02:25):
The girls were being.

Speaker 3 (02:26):
Very loud and even screaming at each other and slamming doors,
which woke up my baby countless times, and whenever I
would fall asleep, they would all disappear with a and
wouldn't come back the entire day, leaving me home alone
with a newborn. When I was told to not leave
my bed unless absolutely necessary, yeah, that seems like a nightmare.

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I was forced to go out for dinner and sat
at a table for two hours, which resulted in me
throwing up the entire drive home in agonizing pain, and
then told I was scarring the girls because they had
to witness my dramatics. According to my mother in law,
they spent almost every day gone, treating their visit like
a vacation while I was left home alone.

Speaker 4 (03:06):
With the newborn.

Speaker 3 (03:07):
They were here for two weeks and the entire two weeks.
I only saw A a few times. I told husband
that I shouldn't be left alone because I was still
on bed rest and can't be getting up to cook,
clean and take care of the newborn. So they stayed
home for a couple of days.

Speaker 5 (03:22):
Why is the mother in law not taking care of
anything here? It seems like the mother in law's doing
nothing in her power to take care and help because
she's on vacation.

Speaker 3 (03:30):
Obviously, during those days, mother in law made a huge
mess in the kitchen, cooking foods she knew I was
allergic to, so I ended up having to cook for
myself anyway and clean. And then mother in law, husband,
the girls, and A all got sick. Yes, more like
the girls came here sick. Mother in law ended up
getting sick from them, which in turn got A and

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husband sick too, which we call A.

Speaker 4 (03:54):
It's call him Albert.

Speaker 2 (03:56):
Jay is Judy.

Speaker 3 (03:58):
When that happened, she tried to gaslight me into saying
it was just allergies and I needed to stop keeping
Judy from her. I never left my room with Judy
as I was on bed rest and was told I
could not sit due to another complication.

Speaker 4 (04:12):
I had a few days before she got there.

Speaker 3 (04:14):
I brought up to my husband how I felt like
I was being ignored, ostracized, and like I was a
single mom. And husband told me I deserved being left
home alone with Judy because I wasn't making an effort
to be a part of the family. Why does everyone
in this story stick so hard?

Speaker 5 (04:29):
Everyone hears husband's the nieces.

Speaker 4 (04:32):
Yeah.

Speaker 5 (04:32):
Only people here I don't are Judy, Helper and Opie.

Speaker 4 (04:36):
Yeah.

Speaker 5 (04:36):
And you know what, there's still time for the children
to as well. I mean, the children came sick and
were screaming. Even I don't care because they were double
digit ages, they could be at least a little bit respectful, especially,
I guarantee you. Opie said, hey, girls, did you just
be a little quiet or like, be a little bit
more cleanly because I just, you know, had a baby
and they're sleeping.

Speaker 3 (04:56):
I can tell you exactly what they said. No, that's
exactly what this is due. And then they ran as
fast as they could. Mother in law heard what I
said in regards to the ostracizing and stormed out of
the room and took Albert with her, locked the door
to our guest room with Albert and the girls in it.
I told husband I don't feel comfortable with her doing that,

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and he instead went to comfort her and told her
she doesn't need to worry about me.

Speaker 4 (05:23):
He'll handle me.

Speaker 5 (05:24):
Bro, this sounds literally like a horror movie.

Speaker 4 (05:27):
Why are you being just disregarded?

Speaker 5 (05:30):
You just gave birth, disregarded as a human being now.

Speaker 3 (05:33):
Then she came out and started calling me all sorts
of names and telling me I deserve to be treated
like crap. I broke down and started crying, and he
left the room to be with his family in the
guest room. After that, he and the rest of them
ignored me and left every morning before I woke up
until I confronted him one day in the kitchen. Mother
in law joined into our fight and started yelling at me,

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telling me I was being abusive towards the girls and
her and because I was abused by my dad, I
should know how it feels and know what I'm doing
is wrong.

Speaker 4 (06:03):
Wow, like me not coming out of the room telling
the girls not.

Speaker 3 (06:06):
To scream or slam doors, kissing Judy cough when they
try to hold Judy, wipe their noses on their hands
and then wipe their hands on my couch. And husband
was standing behind her, smirking and just staring at me.

Speaker 5 (06:18):
I really hate the husband. I hate the mother in law.
I hate the husband.

Speaker 4 (06:21):
So far everyone on your husband's side of the family
is trash, including.

Speaker 5 (06:24):
Him, the nieces as well. I called it. I told
you the nieces, I guarantee you ope, he's going to
tell the nieces, Hey, could you please do not do that?

Speaker 4 (06:32):
Yeah?

Speaker 3 (06:32):
And they did exactly what I said, And I guarantee
you mother in law and forced it. I just stared
at her and then left the kitchen and told her
they needed to leave. When they came back, mother in
law came over to me and grabbed my shoulder, then
got in my face and said sorry.

Speaker 4 (06:47):
I yelled at you.

Speaker 5 (06:48):
What a way to apologize?

Speaker 3 (06:49):
Yeah, with the most condescending tone, and rolled her eyes.
Then left and sat in our front yard with Albert
and the girls. Husband came in a short while later
and just stared at me and then left when I
didn't say anything back to him. What the entire time
they were here, they disrespected me, left dirty underwear in
the hallway and guest room all over the floors, and

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mother in law left nasty smelling pads all over the bathroom.

Speaker 5 (07:14):
Floor.

Speaker 3 (07:14):
So when they finally left a few days after her
fake apology, she hid a pair of her dirty underwear
in the guest room and left her pads in the bathroom.

Speaker 4 (07:22):
Never interact with these people again.

Speaker 3 (07:24):
When I talk to a husband about everything that transpired,
he and I finally talked things out and he realized
how much of a butthole he was, but didn't apologize,
and then excused his mother's behavior as that's just how
she is and said to her apology was genuine.

Speaker 4 (07:40):
She's just an abrasive person.

Speaker 3 (07:42):
I told him I would no longer have contact with
mother in law and will not be visiting her anymore either,
which includes the kids, as I do not wander her
treating me like that in front of my children.

Speaker 4 (07:52):
Again, Fully support this decision.

Speaker 5 (07:54):
And guess what, what do you think husband's gonna say?

Speaker 3 (07:56):
Oh? I bet you he's gonna be like, you're over reacting,
Oh honey, relaxed.

Speaker 4 (08:01):
No, honey, it's just the way my mother is. She's
a monster.

Speaker 5 (08:05):
You just gave birth to our child. You need to relax.

Speaker 4 (08:09):
Yep.

Speaker 3 (08:09):
Because of how his mother acted, Albert now disrespects me
and refuses to listen to me unless husband intervenes. Albert
even called me a bee and flipped me off. What
I wonder where he learned that from what this is?

Speaker 4 (08:24):
Crazy?

Speaker 3 (08:25):
Husband is saying that I shouldn't cut contact, shouldn't keep
my children away from mother in law just because I'm
mad at her.

Speaker 4 (08:32):
So am I the a hole?

Speaker 2 (08:33):
No?

Speaker 3 (08:34):
No, I feel so bad that you married into this
poopy diaper family.

Speaker 4 (08:38):
Yeah.

Speaker 5 (08:38):
I was gonna say, oh, the husband is gonna make amends,
but no, no, no, no, husband double down and didn't
even apologize to you.

Speaker 3 (08:44):
It's like, first of all, when they show up and
they're starting to treat it like vacation, that's my mom
and she's disrespecting my wife and be like, mom, you're
going home.

Speaker 4 (08:52):
Get out, You're going home. You are going home.

Speaker 5 (08:54):
First of all, they should have never been there because
that was your wish and you just had a baby.

Speaker 3 (08:59):
Well she did say it's like you can come, just like,
don't bring the kids, don't She had just a couple
of demand.

Speaker 5 (09:05):
They want to see the baby.

Speaker 4 (09:06):
I can see the baby later.

Speaker 3 (09:07):
Also, it sounds like they didn't want to see the
baby because they left them abandoned alone at the.

Speaker 4 (09:12):
House all day.

Speaker 5 (09:13):
I feel so about for op, let's get into the update.

Speaker 3 (09:15):
I plan on talking to him my husband again tomorrow
since I also want to.

Speaker 4 (09:21):
Ask him about the texts I read.

Speaker 3 (09:23):
I've currently changed everything on my social media so she
can't see my pictures of my children, but I didn't
block her so I can still see if she's posting
things about us, as she posted a very snide post
on Father's Day that was a dig at me, so
I want to retain what connection to her. I do
have to save every piece of evidence of her mistreatment
towards me. She has full custody of her two granddaughters

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as their parents were both abusing substances. She is married,
but daughter in law was busy at the time. Daughter
in law has never once been rude or mean to
me in any way, and surprisingly has taken my side before.
She has gone on several vacations for weeks before and
left them with extended family before, which is why I

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suggested waiting until they were able to take the girls,
but she insisted on coming as it was spring break
and I was trying to exclude her from an important
time in our lives by making her wait.

Speaker 5 (10:15):
Oh so she's selfish. I mean, we already knew.

Speaker 3 (10:18):
That you had a baby. But this is about us.
This is actually all about us. It's spring break, spring
break vacation. We cut my mother in law off when
I got pregnant with my son, Albert, back in twenty nineteen.
We lived long distance for about two and a half
years before we got married, and I took another year
before I moved in with him. I ended up getting
pregnant pretty much right after I moved in. When she

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found out I was pregnant, she told him I was
cheating on him and left our home state.

Speaker 4 (10:42):
Pregnant and that our son was not his. She's always
had it out for you.

Speaker 3 (10:46):
Then. Yeah, husband ended up cutting her off while I
was pregnant with Albert, as I had been having horrible
complications during the pregnancy and he was having to be
my caretaker. So when she was saying I was pregnant
because I cheated and a lot of other things, he
cut her off, and his dad was the one that
ended up talking him into letting her back into our
lives after Albert was born. The reason why my husband

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and I didn't divorce was because he didn't treat me
like this my last pregnancy, and he even cut her
off for me, So when this happened with my daughter,
it took me by surprise and I didn't know how
to react. I have many people saying I'm spineless for
letting it happen to me, so I wanted to address
those coments as well, which that's ridiculous. You were literally
ordered to be in bed. You weren't in a place

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to fight any of these people.

Speaker 5 (11:31):
Yeah, why are people calling you spineless when you already
made your demands or your wishes at the very beginning
of the story, and none of those were granted. No
one respected it. Your husband is an a hole.

Speaker 3 (11:43):
After Judy's birth, I had several complications which caused me
to be put on bed rest, one of which being
my uterus prolapsing and having to have a procedure done
to put it back in properly.

Speaker 4 (11:54):
And to do physical therapy. Dude, you can't catch a break.

Speaker 3 (11:56):
I was in tremendous amounts of pain during that time,
so I was unable to do much of anything, much
less voice any concerns of mine, as I could barely
talk without wanting to puke from the pain. I wasn't
able to have pain meds because I fed judy, so
the doctors did not prescribe me anything to help with
the pain besides ice packs. I was unable to stand
up for myself because I honestly didn't even have that

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energy or mental capacity to do that, as taking care
of my baby and my body being riddled with pain
were the only things that occupied my mind. Husband's attitude
and how he treated me came as a complete shock,
and I didn't know how to process anything he had
said or done. I grew up in a very abusive family,
and my mom and I were lucky to escape with

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our lives. I mentioned earlier that my mother in law
had brought up my past abuse when she was yelling
at me while my husband just stood there and smirked,
So that honestly made me just shut down.

Speaker 5 (12:47):
Oh dude, with that too.

Speaker 4 (12:49):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (12:49):
I just want to let anyone who's listened to this
not like if this is like, oh this has happened
to me, Like you do not have to stand for that,
and you deserve better.

Speaker 5 (12:58):
Your mother in law used your trauma as pretty much
a weapon. The husband smirking is what's getting me that
really pisses me off. He flipped sides back to your
mother and selorityes.

Speaker 3 (13:07):
Put his foot down. He would know how to put
his foot down. Already just a trash situation. By that time,
I was just exhausted. Husband had always been supportive of
me and had stood up to her several times before
this whole situation happened, So I had an inkling that
mother in law was doing something behind the scenes. I'll
be posting another update shortly as while I was writing
this one, husband and I were having a discussion that

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ultimately brought lots of things to light.

Speaker 4 (13:32):
And here he is that update.

Speaker 3 (13:33):
So husband and I had about a three and a
half hour talk last night. He admitted he did a
lot of things wrong and apologized for all of it.

Speaker 5 (13:42):
I don't take the apology.

Speaker 3 (13:43):
I mean with thank god he's at least like doing that.
But yeah, it's that doesn't make it better, Like I
need more than that, Yeah, way more now. He said
he was listening to what mother in law was telling
him and thought that I deserved how they treated me
because mother in law was in his ear the whole time.
What what, I'm sorry, You're a full grown man and
you can't think for yourself. That's the lamest excuse I've

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ever heard, it's like, oh, sorry, my brain was totally
turned off. My mom was doing all my thinking for me.
That's almost as equally big of a red flag as
like the way like I would have almost preferred that you,
I don't know, were just like, yeah, I was just
in a bad mood, so I was treating you bad.

Speaker 5 (14:20):
Take accountability a hole? Yeah, ugh, my mom made me
do it, bro.

Speaker 4 (14:25):
My mommy made me do it. Shut up.

Speaker 3 (14:27):
He also admitted that he was enabling her and at
the time thought I was being a witch because I
was being rude to them by constantly telling them I
needed the girls to quote stop being kids because they
would be screaming in the house or playing too loudly,
as well as saying they couldn't go places because I
needed help at home, even though they thought I was
perfectly fine since they saw me up and about to

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get food or water. It was literally one of the
demands you laid out, No, do not bring the girls.

Speaker 5 (14:58):
So now your husband's a moron too, A holick moron,
no alic morn, moronic, a hole. Thank you, your husband's
a moronic a hole.

Speaker 4 (15:06):
He said.

Speaker 3 (15:07):
None of that excuses how he acted, and realized that
he was trying to please her because of how she
had also treated him when he was a kid, and
how she tries to be a part of his life now.
He didn't realize that her attitude, her treatment of me,
and her comments were made out of spite and excused
it as her just being her. He pretty much owned

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up to everything and said he was the biggest problem
because he enabled her and was being abusive because she
wanted a vacation and he wanted Albert to be able
to be part of it. But I was trying to
keep Albert home. I don't think she had any problem
with Albert having spending a day with his grandma. It
was the fact that every one of you left and

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left her alone with the newborn when she was told
to be on bedrass.

Speaker 5 (15:52):
And then kind of taunting her at the same time, like, oh,
you're ruining the vacation because you have to stay home
and you can't go out to dinner because you just
had a babe.

Speaker 4 (16:00):
Stupid.

Speaker 5 (16:01):
Also, Albert is twisted in the mind now because his
grandmother took him away and now is calling his own
mom negative things.

Speaker 3 (16:09):
It's pathetic. You don't know what to think. You're letting
your mom think for you. Your mom made you think, ooh,
she's being an a hole because she doesn't want Albert
to spend time with us. So I told him how
she would constantly pull Albert away from me and alienated
him from me while she was here, and he said
a lot of things I told him he didn't know

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about and what she was doing. He had no idea
she was doing because she would do it behind his back.
So he thought my attitude and how upset I was
was unwarranted. He said, now that he knows what she
was actually doing and how much I was really suffering,
he feels horrible and regrets everything. Husband also said that
the truck thing was done because he couldn't afford the

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truck anymore and he wanted to make sure we had
enough money for the baby, so he was scared we
wouldn't be able to provide for her in Albert. The
reason it's not in mother in law's name is because
she had claimed bankruptcy in the past, and she still
has a few years before she can have the truck
under her name and any assets under her name.

Speaker 4 (17:09):
Maybe she took the truck. I don't know.

Speaker 3 (17:11):
As for them making plans for him and Albert to
go visit her. He said he had brought it up
to me at one point, but he can see now
that I probably don't remember because I was dealing with
so much other stuff and my recovery as well as
some stress from this whole situation, So when he.

Speaker 4 (17:25):
Brought it up, he didn't bring it up at the
right time.

Speaker 5 (17:28):
Heck, we don't even know about this, so yeah.

Speaker 3 (17:31):
I told him that mother in law is not welcome
around our kids and Albert will not be going with him.
We agreed that mother in law is no longer welcome
around our family and I'll be cutting contact with her.
She's no longer allowed to see our kids or be
around them at all. I did tell him that I
didn't want to become a driving wedge between him and
his family, as he had told me some things about
how his mom treated him during his childhood and how

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she was trying to fix their relationship.

Speaker 4 (17:55):
I doubt it.

Speaker 3 (17:56):
I feel like she's trying to weasel her way back
into your relationship. I said he could have contact with her,
but she will not be near me or my children.
He said that he'll be going low contact with her
as he realized she hasn't changed, and until she can
genuinely apologize for how she was while she was here,
he's not going to take her words at face value

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or believe her anymore. We will also be going to counseling,
as her treatment of me brought up a lot of
past trauma and even caused some problems between me and husband,
as well as behavioral issues with Albert. I can't believe
that this would cause issues with your husband earlier.

Speaker 5 (18:30):
Yeah, it's like your husband.

Speaker 3 (18:32):
Became your number one enemy. Your husband was reveling in
the fact that you were like.

Speaker 5 (18:37):
You were being called out by his mom.

Speaker 3 (18:39):
Yeah, he was basically like, oh, like rubbing his hands together,
that she has to be home alone in pain, taking
care of the baby.

Speaker 5 (18:46):
She's getting yelled at by my mommy because she deserves it.
She's getting put in her place. Bro, his husband doesn't
deserve you.

Speaker 3 (18:53):
Ope, at least from the sound of what I've heard,
that's so bad. He would need to do a lot
to get back in my good graces. Has admitted that
during the time his mom was yelling at me in
the kitchen and said things about my past abuse, he
was not listening and was mentally not there because he
was shocked I had raised my voice, as I've never
done that before.

Speaker 4 (19:13):
Shut up, you weren't there, you were smirking.

Speaker 5 (19:15):
We were there, We remember.

Speaker 4 (19:16):
He said.

Speaker 3 (19:17):
The smirk on his face wasn't because of mother in law,
but because I had grown up and finally stood up
for myself by raising my voice and showing my anger
as I usually try to be quiet and just avoid
confrontation when we fight.

Speaker 5 (19:28):
Boo lame.

Speaker 4 (19:29):
The apple has not fallen far from the tree.

Speaker 3 (19:30):
Sky is lying to you, and he's trying to manipulate
you into thinking that he was actually what your cheerleader.

Speaker 4 (19:36):
This guy's pathetic lame, a pathetic lie, he said.

Speaker 3 (19:40):
In hindsight, it was really rude of him, and he
wishes he could go back and make it so I
shouldn't have had to raise my voice in the first place.
Husband thinks that it's pointless to confront his mom about
what she did to me when he was in another
room or when she thought he couldn't hear, as he
knows she will only deny or gaslight him and try
to manipulate him into thinking I made it up. So's
it's just going to tell her our agreement on contact

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with her. My parents know of the whole situation and
came to help us with the house and for Albert's birthday.
I think having them here has helped Albert's attitude and
behavior as well, because he saw how my parents were
not letting him get away with being treated that way,
as well as how they treated me. Now he's back
to being his usual sweet self, and every now and

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then has his moments, but we're working through them together.
I don't hold how he was treating me against him,
as he is just a child and had such bad examples.

Speaker 4 (20:32):
Monkey see, monkey do. And speaking of doing, I want
you to do something. I want you to listen to
full episodes with stories like this.

Speaker 3 (20:40):
All you have to do is go to Spotify or
Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts and search
Okay story time, and there you.

Speaker 4 (20:46):
Will find a.

Speaker 3 (20:48):
Near limitless selection of full episodes with stories like this.

Speaker 5 (20:53):
And we're still adding to it to this day daily. Tomorrow,
we are adding daily the next day. So before we
finished this story, I mean, what do we do here
as Opie.

Speaker 3 (21:03):
You know it's complicated. You just had another child, you
already have a child. You know a lot of people
are going to jump to like you need to leave
this guy, and it's like, well, I think there needs
to be at the very least an extremely serious conversation
where it's like, hey, this cannot happen ever again.

Speaker 5 (21:21):
And it looks like that's the point in case right now.
But I think Opie deserves a vacation after she gets
at some rest, actually gets to hang out with the baby,
actually just the kids, just get you know, get some
relaxation sometime to herself. But I think husband needs to
make and show you know how much he cares and
loves and how much he messed up by giving her

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an actual vacation.

Speaker 4 (21:42):
He needs to take action and go above and beyond.

Speaker 3 (21:46):
And I think that needs to be part of the
conversation where it's like, dude, what has transpired in the
last week has made me seriously doubt the logistics of
this relationship.

Speaker 5 (21:54):
You as a husband, you as a father, you as
anything in this family is on just the nice yeah.

Speaker 3 (22:01):
And it's like all it takes is one week with
your mom and all of a sudden, now you're my
number one enemy, You're my opponent.

Speaker 5 (22:07):
Now you've turned her against me.

Speaker 3 (22:09):
Like how do you let your mom convince you that
your bedridden postpartum wife is actually just being an a hole.

Speaker 5 (22:17):
With everything that Opie told us.

Speaker 4 (22:19):
Don't you see her standing up getting herself food and
water so that she doesn't literally die.

Speaker 5 (22:25):
Why aren't you doing that?

Speaker 4 (22:26):
Yeah, maybe you should be getting the food and water.

Speaker 3 (22:28):
Look at her thinking, she's so cool getting her own
food and water.

Speaker 4 (22:33):
She's fine, let's go to the aquarium.

Speaker 5 (22:35):
I think it's the phrase action speak louder than the words,
and I think it's gonna take a lot of action here.

Speaker 3 (22:40):
Yeah, to speak louder, just be honest, own it. God dang,
all right, let's finish this story. Things came out about
his mom and his past, which are not mine to share,
but that past played a role in what happened. I
signed him up for individual therapy and to us for counseling.
I'm not excusing or condoning his behavior, but I haven't
left him because I knew there was a driving force

(23:01):
behind it all.

Speaker 2 (23:02):
Yeah.

Speaker 4 (23:02):
I think that's another good point.

Speaker 3 (23:03):
It's like, this is clearly there's a traumatic relationship there
between the husband and his mom that has been the
catalyst for this behavior.

Speaker 4 (23:12):
It comes from childhood. Things are complex. I'm glad.

Speaker 1 (23:15):
Ope he can see that, but still he needs to
make up for it.

Speaker 4 (23:18):
I told him he has one.

Speaker 3 (23:19):
Last chance and if this happens again, me and the
kids will be gone. Thank god, Thank you everyone for
the advice and advice. Yeah, well you're welcome and you're welcome,
and thank you. Yes, thank you. And that is the
end of that story.

Speaker 5 (23:34):
My brother in law sister is trying to sabotage his wedding,
so I exposed her.

Speaker 4 (23:38):
Get exposeded nerd.

Speaker 5 (23:41):
It's sabotage.

Speaker 4 (23:43):
Shabah blah blah blah blah blah.

Speaker 5 (23:46):
It was my cousin sister's wedding and we are Indian.
So if you are Indian or know an Indian, or
have a friend or been to a wedding, you know
the drill, the day's long wedding events, the heavy dresses
and jewelry, and also some serious family drama. By the way,
this comes from user Klutz twenty six twenty seven, and
by the way, you can submit your stories on the

(24:06):
r slash ok. Storytime subpared it. So my cousin and
I are very close, even if there is a huge
age gap between us. Naturally, when her wedding came around.
I was very excited and I helped a lot with
planning and decorations and with the food, literally everything. It
was exactly as we have imagined her wedding to be, like,
just perfect in every way possible. But again, it's a wedding.

(24:29):
How is a wedding ever complete without drama. The man
that my cousin was marrying, my current brother in law,
is an amazing man who has been with my cousin
since their college days. They were friends in their college
days and when they started working, they joined the same company,
so they remained close to each other. The friendship turned
into love and they decided to date, and eventually here
we are getting married. Both the families were informed and

(24:52):
everyone is very happy with their decisions except one person.
It was brother in law's sister.

Speaker 3 (24:58):
Mmmmm.

Speaker 5 (24:59):
She didn't have any personal problems with my cousin. Her
only issue was that her best friend liked my brother
in law. Let's name this friend the idiot, because she
truly is an idiot, and this is honestly the nicest
word I can use for her. We're gota changed the
name idiot to a Dina all right. When Idiot found
out that brother in law loved someone else and was
getting married. She went ballistic. She has been trying to

(25:22):
get his attention for so many years and he wasn't
ever interested, as he's always been head over heels for
my cousin. I understand that she was upset. I have
been a girl in love and in heartbreak too, but
I wouldn't try to break up someone else's marriage because
of my heartbreak. Yes, she tried to stop their marriage
via brother in law's sister. The two came up with

(25:43):
all types of absurd accusations about my cousin and tried
to not honestarily sneak in the accusations by means of
messages from unknown numbers to my cousin's then future father
in law and mother in law. This included emails and
even letters delivered to their doorstep. My cousin was really
stressed because she thought that the father in law and
mother in law would think the accusations were true and

(26:04):
would stop the wedding. I told her, don't worry, Sisso
I am here at dramatic music here and imagine a
cape on my back. My cousin's father, my maternal uncle,
me and my brother first went to the father in
law and mother in law to let them know that
all of this was false and that my cousin is innocent.
We asked them for some time and that we will
find proof of who has been sending these messages and

(26:25):
will let them know everything, and that they are free
to judge and make their own decisions. We got permission
from them and decided to get to work immediately. They're
like Scooby Doo, and we went to work. One thing
I forgot to mention was that brother in law used
to live in his own house in a different state
from where his parents lived after he got a job.
Before this, my cousin and brother in law used to

(26:46):
live on one town and went to college together. Once
they got their jobs, they both came to my city,
and then brother in law got his own house and
my cousin came to live with me. His family came
to live with him when he told them that he
wanted to marry to help with the wedding arrangements. What's
unfortunate is that the sister also brought her best friend, aDNA.
What did that mean?

Speaker 3 (27:06):
His family came to live with him when he told
them that he wanted to marry to help with the
wedding arrangements. I guess he wanted to get married to
help with the wedding arrangements, or is that just a
typo and that he just wanted to help with the wedding.

Speaker 5 (27:23):
I think he wanted to help with the way. What's
unfortunate is that the sister also brought her best friend, aDNA,
who was in love with my brother in law since
she was fifteen and my brother in law was seventeen.
I mentioned brother in law having his own separate house
in a new town because it was important to mention
both his sister and aDNA didn't know. He installed security

(27:43):
cameras in his house, and the camera was pretty well
hidden so they couldn't have noticed either. We asked brother
in law if we could see the cameras recordings, and
we saw someone early in the morning, around four am,
dropping off the letter. Guess who it was, Dakota, do
you have a guess?

Speaker 4 (27:59):
It was a Dinaina?

Speaker 5 (28:03):
Adina Adina. We showed it to my cousin's father in
law and mother in law and they cross questioned Adena
about it and she was in tears and admitted to everything.

Speaker 4 (28:12):
I've low key wish we would have just called her
the idiot this whole time.

Speaker 5 (28:15):
I think that's a little too of herus is it?

Speaker 3 (28:17):
Because she is being an idiot and you know what,
and she was trying to break up this union, So
I think she's very stinky.

Speaker 5 (28:26):
She's very stinky, a stinky adena. She and brother in
law sister apologized for everything they were forgiven, and it
was happily ever after, or so you thought. Everything after
that was pretty peaceful. All their ragements were made, and
we are now at the wedding day. My cousin was
really jumping and on her toes the whole time. She

(28:46):
was panicking so much about everything. My brother and I
had to sit her down and talk her out of
her panic. She however, mentioned that she was scared that
aDNA might try to pull some six stunt to ruin
her wedding day.

Speaker 4 (28:59):
Well, she should be scared, because you're talking about an idiot.

Speaker 5 (29:01):
The wedding day is the perfect day to make things
go away. I however, told her to calm down because
I wouldn't let my precious angel's wedding get ruined. Op's
ready on standby, and I knew that you always need
to have a backup plan prepared in advance in situations
like this, and so I did. I collected a lot
of information and evidence just in case. I had my

(29:24):
suspicions that they would do something to mess up the
wedding way before it even became a thought in my
cousin's mind. So I did a little research about the two.
Since we all come from the same hometown, I got
in contact with my friends who still lived in the
town that my cousin and brother in law used to
live in. I asked around about these two baboons and
found out that brother in law sister had a boyfriend
and had even slept with him. Oh, premarital spicy time

(29:51):
is a big no no here. As for Edna, I
found out that she was slowly getting brother in law
sister into illegal substances and into becoming a a call girl.
Who whoah, Dina, You're such a bad influence. Again, that's
a big no no. And I think no parent would
want their child to do something that would cause trouble

(30:12):
for them and the child as well. I knew my
cousin's father in law and mother in law would be
worried about their daughter and take action immediately if I
let them know about this. I would have told him
this after the wedding was over, and that would have
been in private, so no one else would know. But
I guess the girls wanted something else. Oh boy, Opie
was ready, like she had the holster and she was

(30:33):
like ready to go pute. Once the wedding ceremony started
and the guests were all there, they were enjoying themselves.
Everyone was having fun and giving their blessings to their
new husband and wife to be. These two paint in
the butts were going around and gossiping about my cousin
to everyone. We noticed that, and we came up with
a quick solution. I asked my two male friends, who
are very attractive, to go and talk to the girls. However,

(30:55):
I told them to switch on their recorder and be
with them no matter what. Oh some like secret agent
stuff here, spy stuff. God bless my two friends. They
did exactly what I told them without question. They came
to me after an hour or so and told me
what was going on. The two girls were planning to
ruin her wedding dress. When I tell you that crap

(31:16):
was costly, it was costly. It was really heavy, with
all these heavy stonework that was done on the cream
colored lahenga.

Speaker 4 (31:23):
Because this is like an Indian wedding dress.

Speaker 5 (31:26):
And if it was stained, it would be ruined. We
could not afford that at any cost. She was taking
a glass of juice from the juice counters and tried
sitting right behind the bride, but I stepped in and
told her to go sit behind her brother and that
I would sit behind my cousin. She was trying so hard,
but my brother and I kept pushing her off and
away from my cousin.

Speaker 3 (31:47):
Dude, crazy, Just like sitting there with a glass of
juice ready to throw that ohp right.

Speaker 5 (31:52):
Now is secret service. She's keeping an eye on everything
and she knows who prime target is. Eventually, she did
make to throw it, but it accidentally landed on someone
from the groom's side, and she got scolded by her.
While her grumpy face was funny to see, I still
had enough because if that auntie wasn't there, it would
have been my cousin. After the wedding was over, people

(32:15):
were going to start taking photos with the couple. I
announced that my brother and I had some things to say. Initially,
we talked about the bride and groom, but then we
shifted the attention to the groom's sister and her friend.
We played the audios of the calls I had with
her friends in the hometown as a surprise to the
groom's sister. I don't like that.

Speaker 4 (32:34):
I don't like that either. Not a fan of that.

Speaker 5 (32:37):
I wouldn't have done that, because now you're putting the
attention on them just a little bit. I know, maybe
in the hindsight it's like, oh, that's funny, and maybe
your cousin wanted it, but that's taking attention for our
way from the wedding. I would have just confronted them personally,
like I have this evidence. If you keep going, I'm
gonna do this exactly. There are a lot of angry faces,
some on the sister and some on my brother and I.

(32:58):
I tried to explain that had she and her friend
tried to ruin my cousin's sister's wedding dress, this would
have been broadcasted to the entire wedding venue. I then
called my two male friends, and both of their faces
were in gasps. Both of them pulled out their phones
and I played the recordings on one of the phones.
One of the phones which explained how they were still
spreading fake news about my cousin and also them planning

(33:20):
to ruin my cousin's dress. We also got the video
recording of them actively trying to throw the red colored
drink on my cousin's dress as well. Both of them
got kicked out from there and weren't allowed to enter
until the rest of the ceremony was over good. Both
of them stood outside making attempts to convince anyone who
would listen to them and let them in, but no

(33:40):
one paid heed to any of them. Once everyone got home,
they were scolded badly, and my brother in law sister
kept screaming at me that I was so mean and
rude to have their truths exposed to not just her family,
but to every relative and friend who was there to
witness the show.

Speaker 3 (33:56):
Oh sounds like this stinky lady doesn't like her stinky
business being aired out in public. But that's just what
happens when you make a little plot at someone's wedding.

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Speaker 4 (34:27):
This one exactly, and you should listen to all of them.

Speaker 5 (34:30):
Yes, there's another relevant update, but where are we at?

Speaker 3 (34:33):
Yeah? Honestly, these people should like recount themselves lucky that
they were even let back into the wedding at all,
or that anyone still wants to talk to them, Like
if I find out you're the kind of person who
plots against the wife on their wedding day to look
what ruined their wedding dress.

Speaker 5 (34:50):
Again, I'm not a big fan of how you did it,
how you did it in front of everyone. This should
have been like, you know, I have this in my
pocket ready to be let known that you will be exposed.
Rather than just expose them, I would have like, stop
your crap before I, you know, revealed the truth back
to the story. While my cousin was glad that I
had her back and my brother is standing in support

(35:11):
of me, my parents and some of our relatives think
that it should have dealt within the family and shouldn't
have been exposed to anyone outside of the immediate family members.
Am I the a hole? Note? I am sorry if
the post ended up being too long, but I just
wanted to give all the contacts that would be required
to judge the entire situation and my actions as well. Also,

(35:31):
something doesn't make sense. Just blame it on my sleepy
head because I wrote it in half sleep mode.

Speaker 4 (35:36):
Half sleep mode.

Speaker 5 (35:37):
Okay, so are you the a hole?

Speaker 3 (35:40):
No?

Speaker 5 (35:41):
But I think I would have done it in a
better way. But in the broader spectrum of things, you
are not the a hole.

Speaker 4 (35:47):
Yeah, no, I agree, I agree.

Speaker 5 (35:49):
That's the end of that story. John.

Speaker 2 (35:51):
Here, we're gonna get back to this juicy story. But
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Speaker 3 (35:56):
My in laws banned me from Christmas, so I said,
and them dollars store gifts ho ho no throwaway account
for anonymity. I thirty one female married my soon to
be ex husband, male thirty three in twenty eighteen. My
in laws never liked me and made it clear I
soon to be ex insisted that they're just putting up
a tough exterior and that they'll grow to love me.

(36:18):
And by the way, this comes from user potential low
eighty six forty five. And if you want to submit
your own stories, where do you go the r slash
showcase story times. I read it, of course, to show
how evil they are. One time I joined them for
dinner and brought a cake I had made because I
always raised to be a gracious guest, and when I
stepped into the kitchen offered the cake to his mother
as a thank you for inviting me. She took the

(36:40):
plate over to the garbage bin, dumped it in, and
handed me the plate back. When I told my husband
what she did, he confronted her, and all of a sudden,
the crocodile tears started as she claimed she grabbed the
plate but didn't get a good grip. I let go
too quickly and it fell to the floor, so of
course it had to be thrown away. My sister in
law confirmed that was what happened. Soon to be ex

(37:01):
owned his own business, and they called me a gold
digger behind his back. Of course, they insisted on prenup,
which I didn't care about because I never thought my
marriage would end and it would appease them and may
allow them to finally treat me kindly. No, his business
failed once the VID hit. We went through his savings
and my own trying to keep it afloat. I refused

(37:21):
to go into debt to keep it going, so he
closed it down in twenty twenty two. He was suffering
from really bad depression because he lost his business and
couldn't find any new work. He suggested we moved to
his hometown, closer to his family so he had a
larger support network. Against my best judgment, we did. He
wanted to only work part time while he trained to
restart his business, so I became the main breadwinner, and

(37:44):
as with most wives, I became the person in charge
of buying gifts. Stupid old me thought that buying them thoughtful,
expensive gifts would finally make them see I wanted to be.

Speaker 4 (37:53):
Accepted by them.

Speaker 3 (37:54):
Gifts to us were a couple's gift, but clearly for
my soon to be X only every holiday was spent
with them, monthly dinners with the whole family. After a year,
I realized that if I ever tried to talk or
join a conversation, everyone would go quiet, so I just
stopped talking. When I visited in early December, they finalized
plans for Christmas. A few days later, my soon to
be ex said his family decided they didn't want me

(38:16):
to join them for Christmas Eve dinner and Christmas lunch.
Because I ruined the family vibe, I replied, fine, we'll
do our own thing instead. My soon to be ex
sheepishly looked away and said he was still going to go.
I was livid and so disappointed in him. That was
the moment I knew my marriage was over. So I
returned the presence I had bought for his family. In
their place, I got one pair of novelty business socks

(38:39):
for father in law, a supermarket brand bottle of shampoo
for mother in law, and the nastiest, thankiest, stinkiest perfume
I could find at the dollar store for sister in law.
The most expensive gift was a large raw hide bone
for brother in law and his wife's chihuahua, too big
for it to get its jaw around, rendering it useless.

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I saved about six hundred to put on a deposit
for a new apartment. My husband came home from Christmas
lunch telling me I humiliated him and embarrassed him in
front of his family. I asked him, why would he
think I'd buy nice gifts for people who clearly don't
like me and don't want me around? Served divorce papers
last week. Remember how he was supposed to be a
millionaire by now, so we had that prenup soon to be.

(39:23):
X is not eligible for any of my savings. It
was required to keep separate accounts, and he's not eligible
for alimony. He doesn't have money for rent and auto insurance.
Not my problem anymore. Some of my friends and family
and on my side are proud that I went out
in a blaze of glory. Others are telling me that

(39:43):
I was being way too petty, which isn't really like me.

Speaker 4 (39:46):
So am I the a hole?

Speaker 3 (39:48):
Anybody telling you that you were being too petty? Look,
I only advocate not being like petty or like seeking
vengeance for our own peace. Yes, our own piece. So
here's some comments. Ope's response. Commenter says, I would say,
be glad you did not have children with him. Yeah,
you could say that again. Be glad you can escape
and be free with no strings ps. This relationship should

(40:09):
be a learning lesson on the love that you want
for yourself and the life you want, not as a loss.
Opie responds. First thing I did after I moved into
my new apartment was adopt an older car, an older cat.
I adopted Lightning McQueen from the shelter cell. He was
allergic and I couldn't ever adopt one since we first
started living together. We're just two old hags living our

(40:31):
best lives. After being rejected, I wouldn't even say you
were rejected. I'd say that you like woke up and
realized that you didn't want to be with somebody who
literally has jellyfish spine. Yeah, you rejected him as he's
so so deserts Yeah, low desert. That person has no
business being in your life. Commenter says, you're not old silly,

(40:51):
so glad you're enjoying the company of an older cat.
Car is interesting, but not as cuddly that your kitty
friend will appreciate you and will show far more than
you assume to be ex EVI did. Don't just notice
the typo, says Ope, keeping it in because it's actually hilarious.
Commenter says, not the a hole. He chose his family
over you and still expect you to buy all the presents.
This was perfectly planned and well deserved for every one

(41:13):
of them, including him. OPI says he only worked twelve
hours a week at Walmart so he could do non
existent work restarting his business. I made just over six figures,
and I can't believe I didn't realize years ago. I
was the family at M commenter, not the a hole.
So thoughtful of them to insist on a prenup. I
hope you send them a sincere thank you note after

(41:34):
the divorce is finalized.

Speaker 2 (41:36):
Real op says.

Speaker 3 (41:37):
My lawyer even laughed at that prenup that was set
up for him is going to be what we use
for me. It required both spouses to maintain separate bank
accounts and each spouse could keep one hundred percent of
their savings. No spouse eligible for aliment ah. No update,
many things to everyone for their support in my last post,
I thought i'd send a small update first for those

(41:59):
who asked how deposit on my new apartment was only
the six hundred dollars I saved on the gifts. It
certainly wasn't I had to dip into savings, but that
six hundred dollars helped. My soon to be X didn't
bother reaching out to me after I left until he
was served the divorce papers and my lawyer made it
clear were exercising the prenup. Then it was loving voicemails
and texts I never picked up from him and his

(42:20):
family for a few days, trying to convince me to
come back, which eventually turned into threatening and cruel voicemails
and texts. When it was clear that I wasn't going
to budge, my lawyer suggested, I don't block them so
we have evidence of harassment if needed. Basically, give them
the rope so that they can make their own fate
with this object ecise. But then last night I got
a call after call from my soon to be X.

(42:43):
I stupidly picked it up, thinking that there was some
kind of emergency. I barely got hello out when he
said the rent is a week late. I told him
that's strange because I paid my landlord six days ago.

Speaker 4 (42:53):
Ah nicey uh. He paused and sighed dramatically and replied, no,
the rent for here where I live.

Speaker 3 (43:06):
I reminded him I don't live there ooh, and he
shouldn't expect rentque His parents both texting me that they're
going to sue me to pay the remainder of the lease. Entirely,
I'm not worried about having an eviction on my record
since the apartment is in his parents' names. When we
first announced we were moving to his hometown, they rented
an apartment for us right away so we could move

(43:26):
right in. They've been renewing the lease each year. We
had to pay his parents and then they write a
check to the landlord, who has no idea who soon
to be X and I are let alone that we
live there.

Speaker 2 (43:36):
Dude, I love how the parents set them They they're
the ones that pushed the prenup. They're the ones that
did this lease. They dug their own grave, and I
love it.

Speaker 3 (43:44):
The parents were like just completely set themselves up for
for maximum failure, red flag. I know. I'm glad I
had a few weeks to prep my leaving since they'd
probably used the fact that it's their apartment to punt
me out immediately.

Speaker 4 (43:58):
And by the way, I.

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Till your heart's content.

Speaker 2 (44:20):
And that's a touchdown.

Speaker 3 (44:21):
And that right, there's a touchdown. In fact, I'm gonna
call that two touchdowns. There's a little bit of story
left here, so let's finish it off. Divorce is probably
going to be a bumpy ride with this man child
and his psycho parents. Any advice from anyone who's been
through it is welcome. And we have some comments from
OP here. Commenter says, do you even have a contract
at the place you're soon to be ex's living? I
don't think they have a basis for suing you. What

(44:42):
does your lawyer say?

Speaker 4 (44:43):
Yeah?

Speaker 3 (44:44):
And OP says, lawyer is confident they don't have any
legs to stand on. I haven't signed any type of lease,
and utilities are in their name too, because they were
afraid of having too many names connected to the apartment
and the landlord finding out, so they are on the
hook for everything that doesn't get paid. But hey, it
was their choice, and they're scheming f around and find
out boom baffo and that faffo.

Speaker 4 (45:05):
Is the end of that story. Ooh, believe it on
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That's right. We love a good fat po to edit
it off on.

Speaker 4 (45:10):
That's true.

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Speaker 2 (45:18):
I served my husband divorce papers the day before. He
thought he was coming back home. Oh that's what he thinks.
Oh gott you think you thought. Trigger warning. There's some
substance of use and violence in this story. If that
is something that you want to skip, go to the
next story and we'll see there. I'm sorry, this is
really long backstory. I fifty nine female, was married to
my now ex fifty seven male we'll call him Ed

(45:40):
for ten years and we were together for thirteen in total,
but originally met him forty years ago as teenagers. He
was in my circle of friends, but we never dated.
By the way, it comes from a CACS sixty five,
And if you want to submit your own stories, go
to the r slash Okay Storytimes sober So. We used
to live in Florida, but when I was nineteen, I
moved back to Michigan, where I'm originally from. Twenty seven
years later, I went back to the city in Florida

(46:01):
where I used to live to visit friends. I ran
into Edwall on vacation and we began talking on the
phone daily. Three months later, he left for Florida and
moved in with me. Three years later, we got married,
not my first.

Speaker 5 (46:12):
But his first.

Speaker 2 (46:13):
We had her ups, we had her downs, but we
mainly got along fine and didn't argue much. He would
throw tantrums if things didn't go his way and would
punish me by sleeping on the edge of the bed,
which was fine with me, or he would not talk
to me and slam things. That doesn't sound great. Two
years into our marriage, things went horribly wrong when he
got into substances.

Speaker 5 (46:31):
It was horrible.

Speaker 2 (46:32):
One night, I finally had had enough and was on
the phone with my mother in law telling her I
was sending him back to Florida when the Sheriff's Department
knocked on my door. Someone had found my husband unconscious,
attacked in a ditch a block from our house. We
lived in a small village with woods across the street.
I raced the hospital and didn't recognize him when I
saw him. He was so swollen. Now, my husband was
a man who could fight, and he was strong. Come

(46:53):
to find out, he took three men to do this.
They thought they could rob him since it was payday,
But when he had been home purposefully, he had left
his wall at home. I sat with him twenty four
to seven while he was in neuro says trauma ICU.
I slept on a couch in his room. I prayed
over him, I bathed him and took care of him
even after he came home. This actually saved his life.
He got clean, went back to work full time, always

(47:14):
putting me and my grandson first before his needs. He
went to work and came back home and that was it.
Four years later, I finished my education and became an
ordained priest and have been a pastor at my church
ever since. At first he didn't mind, but then he
would say things like I didn't set up for this.
Even though I never pushed church on him, I knew
he believed in God and prayed daily. I would invite
him to Christmas and Easter service, and he also came

(47:36):
when I ordained my grandson, who calls him Grandpa, who
was baptized. For several years, things were really good. Then
suddenly he began coming home from work, showering, changing clothes
and leave it.

Speaker 4 (47:48):
That's some suspicious behavior.

Speaker 2 (47:49):
It's almost as shocking.

Speaker 4 (47:51):
Shocking.

Speaker 2 (47:52):
Indeed, seven years things were really good. Then he began
coming home from work, showering, changing clothes, and leaving. At
first he said it was to watch whatever sports were
play on TV because we didn't have live TV. Then
he told me that he'd be back whenever he got back.
Then things went back to how they were. We laughed
a lot, we joked around, and I began getting the
usual kiss goodbye before I left for work. Why toight,
he had done his laundry like he always did, and

(48:13):
I talked to him while he was folding it. He
never wanted me to do his laundry, so that wasn't new.
We ended the night laughing as he was trying on
some old clothes. The next morning, woke up and went
out to the living room to ask what time he
had to be at work at, but he was gone.
I assumed that he had to be there early, so
I walked back in the bedroom and saw his key's
on the bed, which made me wonder why he would
walk to work on such a cold day. It was

(48:35):
December first. Dakota Darius say, things are getting escalatingly suspicious.

Speaker 4 (48:39):
Yeah, he's going up the escalator of suspicion right.

Speaker 2 (48:43):
Now, eskelats of suspicion. I started leaving the bedroom again
and noticed his laundry basket missing. So I went to
the laundry room and it wasn't there. I went back
into the bedroom and noticed his closet was empty. I
called him to see where he was at and asked
if he had moved out, and of course his answer
was yes. Come to find out that he had met
a woman at his job who works for one of
those shopping apps where people buy and deliver your groceries.

(49:06):
He worked for a large grocery store chain. He had
moved in with her. Over the next six months, he
called almost daily and would say things like, our marriage
will survive this, just give me time. He even told
me he would be mad if I began date. During
one of our phone calls, he told me he wasn't
happy with her and it was going down to Florida
to visit family. He wanted to come back to me
when he came back to Michigan. The plan was he

(49:28):
would pack his things that he couldn't live without, believe
a few things at his new girlfriend's house to make
her think he was coming home to her. He planned
on giving a two week notice to his job while gone,
and planned on looking for another job when he came home.
By this time, I knew I didn't want him back.
I found myself worth again and had made new friends
with neighbors once he was gone. Come to find out,

(49:49):
nobody liked him. Even the woman at the gas station
across the street told me how he flirted with them
when he came in. Even an elder at my church
found out he was cheating, but didn't tell me because
she didn't want to hurt.

Speaker 4 (49:59):
Can we normal telling people that they're being cheated on?

Speaker 3 (50:02):
Please?

Speaker 4 (50:03):
Please? Can we normalize that? I know there's a lot
of like, and there's maybe very seldom. There are some
occasions where it's like, maybe mind your own business.

Speaker 2 (50:11):
But anonymous, not like that, but like that boom. I
went to the courthouse and got a divorce packed and
filled out all the paperwork. Where I live, I was
able to serve him myself. I decided that since he
chose to end our marriage while working at the store,
I would officially end it there. So the day he
was supposed to fly to Florida, I made sure I
looked really good, new hairstyle, new makeup, am my outfit.

(50:34):
I went to his job, found him and handed him
the divorce papers. I told him that he was wrong.
Our marriage wasn't surviving this. You should have seen his face.
He was actually upset with tears in his eyes, and
for a moment I felt bad, But then I reminded
myself what he had done to me. He didn't just
leave me in the middle of the night, but he
stopped talking and doing things with my grandson, who thought
Grandpa was the greatest. Left me in a house I

(50:55):
couldn't afford without him, and I would have been homeless.
My church hadn't have paid for him apartment. He told
me women were stupid. He actually thought that he could
come home as if nothing had happened. That was one
thing that he said to me on the phone, because
I never brought up the past. Last week, six months
after a divorce was final, my car was repossessed. When
we were together, he got two loans and I agreed

(51:16):
to use my SUV as collateral because I never pictured
my life without him, and now here we are picturing
your life without him and no suv. Now I wasn't
notified because they sent him the letters. They wanted me
to pay off his loans to get it back.

Speaker 5 (51:30):
I burst out laughing a hahaha.

Speaker 2 (51:33):
And said that will never happen. So my question is
am I the a hole for serving him the way
I did. There's an update. Thank you for the comments
and for the support. Here's a reminder of what happened.
My now ex husband got a loan while we were
married and used my own car as collateral. A year later,
he left me for someone he met at work. He
kept telling me that our marriage would survive, just to
give him time. He ended up not being happy with her.
Planned to come back to me after he left to

(51:55):
visit his family out of state. He planned on not
telling his girlfriend he was leaving her, pulling the that's
that's his classic, bae. It's the classic classic boom.

Speaker 4 (52:04):
Hey, I've done this one before. It was a huge hit.

Speaker 2 (52:08):
His plan was to return home to me when he
came home the day before he left to visit his family.
I served him with the divorce pace Two weeks ago,
my car was repossessed and the bank wanted me to
pay off three grand of his two loans that he'd
stopped paying on seventy fifty seven hundred total. I was
willing to pay in my car off, but told them
I'd never pays for his loans and they refused. Here's
what happened since my post. So we're getting into the
real juice now. I found out where my car was

(52:30):
being held at two cities away. When I went to
the website, I discovered that it's also a location where
they sell repossessed cars at an online auction. They hold
it every Monday for twenty four hours. I called and
asked if I could have my belongings out of it,
and they said yes. When I arrived, they had my
things in a bag, including my license plate. I registered
online and this past Monday began bidding for my car.

(52:51):
I ended up buying my car for twenty seven hundred. Wow,
that is like three thousand dollars cheaper than the full
payout of all the loans. When I showed up to
get my car, the people laughed and said I'm not
the first person to do this. I put my plate
back on and went home. By the way, you can
slap a plate in your car, drive home and listen
to the greatest show on Earth. In fact, full episodes

(53:12):
of it with stories just like this. You go to Spotify,
Apple wherever you listen search Okay, story time, You're welcome. Huzzah,
listen to the pod.

Speaker 3 (53:20):
Now.

Speaker 2 (53:21):
I know the bank can still come after me for
the balance, but I honestly don't care if it hits
my credit report. I don't use credit cards, and in
October my daughter closed on a brand new house. I
had no other bills except my cell in utilities. I'm
now living with her and my grandson. I was lucky
enough to have enough time in to retire when my
muscular distro feat began causing more health issues and the
money that goes to my other bank. My mother in

(53:41):
law was happy to give me his new address so
I can sue my ex for the other half of
our income tax return that he kept last year.

Speaker 3 (53:49):
Let's go.

Speaker 2 (53:50):
She's even having us, me, daughter, grandson day with her
when we visit Florida during my grandson's spring break.

Speaker 3 (53:56):
Op has Literally the mom is really like, I choose
you over my own son, which I mean, it makes
sense at this point.

Speaker 2 (54:03):
We love to see it. We honestly love to see.

Speaker 4 (54:05):
He's a stinky little closet emptier.

Speaker 2 (54:07):
Right she's calling Ed's ex girlfriend Teresa Trina Tracy everything
except her real name, which to start with the letter T.
I love woman.

Speaker 4 (54:16):
That's nice.

Speaker 5 (54:16):
And you know, we we like that a little bit.

Speaker 4 (54:19):
We like being a little annoying sometimes. Hmmm, if it's
annoying people.

Speaker 2 (54:23):
The people who truly like this man right here. Oh,
he did everything and he still he leaves no word,
gets with new girl, pulls the same thing on her,
and expects he's coming back to open arms.

Speaker 4 (54:35):
Yeah, because he's Ladies, just so dumb.

Speaker 2 (54:37):
What a crazy thing to think. He says that said
out loud on the phone to her about their's own situation.

Speaker 3 (54:46):
You, my friend, are the stupid one. Wow, my friend
my enemy. That's a whole other can of words. I'm
at the open right now. This guy my enemy, enemy,
he's my enemy.

Speaker 2 (54:57):
But that's the end of that story.

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