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0:00 r/JUSTNOMIL - MIL tries to convince all her family that I stole her son from her
19:08 r/JUSTNOMIL - Me [30 F] with my husband [30 M] aren't sure what to do about my mother in law [50s F]
38:39 r/AITAH - AITA for refusing my in-laws long term visits
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey, this is Sam, this is John, and we are
the founding hosts of Okay Storytime podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
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Speaker 1 (00:08):
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we'll get into the episode.
Speaker 3 (00:16):
My mother in law thinks I stole her son. Now
she's turning her family against me.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
Maybe you should put it back, then put them back.
Speaker 3 (00:23):
So me, eighteen female and my boyfriend nineteen Maile have
been together for almost two years. We have known each
other since fifth grade, became good friends somewhere in elementary
school that only dated since tenth grade with a break
during the summer, so we could solve some personal issues.
By the way, this comes from ELI two two to two,
and if you want to smit your own stories, go
(00:44):
to the r slash Okay Storytime Separate it. So initially
his mother liked me and wanted to meet and have
a conversation, but it all went downhill last year when
I didn't recognize her and didn't greet her. Since then,
I've been disrespectful in her eyes. From that moment, She's
started picking fights whenever me and my boyfriend hung out.
Last year, I moved alone into my parents' apartment, and
(01:06):
I proposed to my boyfriend to have sleepovers once a week,
since we didn't have a car yet and we only
hang out outside of mall's.
Speaker 2 (01:13):
Oh, I thought you proposed, I know.
Speaker 3 (01:16):
I thought, yeah, I was like propose and then who know,
proposed to have sleepovers?
Speaker 4 (01:20):
Icy.
Speaker 3 (01:21):
He was on board, but on the night he had
to come, his mother started guilt tripping him about.
Speaker 5 (01:25):
Leaving her all alone or not caring about his sick
grandma and how not having him there well un alive. Yes,
him being gone for one night will end his grandma
checks out.
Speaker 6 (01:39):
Yeah, grandma wouldn't want that. Yeah, grandma probably doesn't even notice.
Speaker 3 (01:43):
Yeah, grandma's If grandma's that sick, she is not aware
that her grandson is in and out of yah at all.
A boyfriend lives with his mom and grandma. The plan
was abolished and we only hung out during the day.
Around this time, she started insulting me to my boyfriend
in many ways. Some examples are substance youth are because
(02:03):
she heard me and boyfriend on the phone when she
tried to guilt trip him again. Cult test because apparently
a man can only leave his mom when he's in
a cult. Gold digger because my boyfriend brought me gifts
for my birthday and anniversary. Yes, of he, the eighteen
year old is a gold digger for being in a
relationship with a nineteen.
Speaker 2 (02:22):
Year old who I can guarantee has little to no money. Yeah,
he has no assets.
Speaker 3 (02:30):
Which because I will for sure cheat on him. Pasn't
because my parents moved to the countryside to work in
agriculture and many others.
Speaker 2 (02:37):
She's a grasping at straw what peasant because your family's
like farmers. That's insane, that's crazy.
Speaker 6 (02:46):
Also part of a cult. Leaving your mom for another woman,
that's called marriage.
Speaker 2 (02:51):
That's just called marriage. Girl.
Speaker 3 (02:52):
Of course, my boyfriend started picking fights because of this
behavior with her, and all the hopes of a relationship
with her crumbled. Meanwhile, father in law bought him a
car and we started going away on holidays or having
sleepovers on occasion like my birthday, New Year, anniversary, et CETERA.
Fast forward half a year, since I want to get
to the point of the story. There haven't been any
(03:13):
major conflicts during this time, only insults.
Speaker 2 (03:16):
Mostly.
Speaker 3 (03:17):
Me and boyfriend finished our final high school exam. He
turned nineteen and we graduated. We had a sleepover for
his nineteenth birthday where she tried to guilt trip him again, saying, instead.
Speaker 2 (03:28):
Of starting this new chapter of your life together, you
go and start it with somebody else. Your mother is
obsessed with you, dude.
Speaker 3 (03:38):
This is like Oedipus, but like and in this version
of Oedipus, your mom is actually obsessed with you.
Speaker 6 (03:45):
I thought, what's that a motel baits hotel, bait hotel
that the bab baits yeah, or something like that bits
in a motel or hotel?
Speaker 2 (03:56):
Yeah? Is it that?
Speaker 3 (03:58):
It's that which to alarm bells for both of us
because of emotional genetic copy pasting bs we've seen all
over the internet with boy. Mom's boyfriend got an incredible
ick from this and came over with no problems.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
He's like, yeah, I gotta go.
Speaker 3 (04:12):
He got better over the months with managing her guilt tripping.
I feel like when she lays it on that thick.
I mean like sometimes I like further and further into
this hole of being like, oh, yeah, I have to
listen to what my mom says. But sometimes they lay
it on so thick. You're like, oh, my mom's crazy.
Speaker 2 (04:29):
Ooh.
Speaker 3 (04:30):
A week later, we decided to do the big step
with a form of moving in together, staying together from
Thursday to Monday every week, so not actually fully moving
in together, it seems, which she had known about since
I got the apartment. She freaked out and tried everything
to make him stay home, bringing his grandma into this
and everything.
Speaker 2 (04:48):
Your grandma's gonna die.
Speaker 3 (04:50):
You've got to live your grandma, dude. The week went fine,
and he only had to deal with a ton of
guilt tripping and false crying when he got home. A
crucial de is that she's a singer but barely gets
any concerts, maybe because she sucks, but I don't know.
She signed a contract for a concert Saturday across the country,
and she expected her son to drive her there without
(05:13):
any confirmation. Boyfriend said that he won't drive her, but
she started again with immense skilt tripping, crying, screaming, basically
throwing a tantrum. That same night, we almost fought because
he's tired of this behavior and just wants to get
it done so she can leave him alone. But I'm
against the idea of keeping the peace when she keeps
pulling conflicts out of nowhere.
Speaker 6 (05:33):
Dude, this is wild. Yeah, her name a country you'd
be okay with driving your mam across? What country is
so small that you'd be okay with driving your mom across?
Speaker 2 (05:42):
Uh? Oh, Vatican? Ah, I would go further from my mother.
Speaker 6 (05:48):
I know, I was just a recent last minute, I'll
drive you across the country.
Speaker 2 (05:53):
What country would you have to be in at that moment?
Let us know, folks, what country would you be okay
driving your mom across? Last minute? Same story.
Speaker 3 (06:01):
Boyfriend goes to pick me up from my parents on
Thursday so we can go home, but unexpectedly, his mother
calls me. She got the number from his phone when
he was sleeping and threatened to call me and my
parents many times. The condo went like this shortened because
I don't remember every word. We talked for four minutes.
Hi Eli, Hi, H'm boyfriend's mom.
Speaker 7 (06:23):
Okay, I think you heard that I signed a contract
for ex city and boyfriend needs to drive me for that.
He told me he can't drive me his mom because
he had to attend some party and stay with you.
Speaker 2 (06:33):
For the weekend. Yeah.
Speaker 6 (06:35):
I don't understand why you're calling me and how you
have my number. I'm pretty sure this is a dispute
with your adult son, who can choose for himself, not
with me. And I'm pretty sure he has no obligation
towards something that wasn't communicated and agreed upon with him.
Speaker 2 (06:55):
Don't you hear yourself?
Speaker 5 (06:57):
He can't try makee me confu foar forced him to
leave with my manging and touch your razer voice on me.
Speaker 6 (07:03):
I'm not raising my voice and I don't think your
son can be forced at eighteen. You can go by train.
I can send you the links for booking a ticket
if it's so hard to find alternatives, And don't try
to parent me. Not even my mom does that. And
do you think you can?
Speaker 2 (07:22):
You want me to go by train with luggage for
an entire day while he drives you around. That's it.
Speaker 3 (07:28):
I'm calling your parents to tell him about this, mind you.
I was respectful during the entire conversation, just fed up
with her drama, especially calling me to complain about her
non existent relationship with boyfriend. After this, I texted her
that my parents are busy people and to not even
try to bother them with this, since they'll take my
and my boyfriend's side.
Speaker 6 (07:48):
My favorite part of this altercation. She had asked permission
for opee, which is another woman basically wrangling the sun around.
Speaker 2 (07:58):
Yeah, for the permission. He can't choose herself. It's exactly yeah.
Speaker 3 (08:02):
It's like, oh no, I have to get you to
give him permission otherwise he won't listen.
Speaker 2 (08:07):
It's like he has a new owner now. So I
got a nineteen, he's nineteen. He's making his own choices.
Speaker 6 (08:13):
I didn't know you could make your own choices in nineteen.
I thought you had to be like twenty.
Speaker 3 (08:17):
I thought, yeah, I thought you you became an adult
at twenty one.
Speaker 6 (08:20):
Yeah, something like that. I was like, wait, I don't
have to listen to what more mom says. That's just advice.
Speaker 3 (08:25):
Way, She continued to text me about how she is
his mom, it priority, et cetera. One text that stuck
was I raised him and it would be nice for
this to do the same, which had us disgusted once again.
The conversation ended with a text from me telling her
to lose my number and to stop this whole show
(08:45):
because we're all adults. Meanwhile, boyfriend called her, told her
she's out of line, stupid, and to stay away from
his relationship. She didn't talk with him for the entire weekend,
but Friday afternoon, father in law called because mother in
law called him. Eat up and discuss this. Mother in
law told father in law that boyfriend ran away from home,
that he disrespected her and encouraged me to do the same,
(09:09):
that she has no one by her side now, and
if he can drive her to her concert on Saturday,
she's going to anyone. Girl, Just get a train to train,
get anything ai, Yeah, come on girl. Saturday morning, his
cousin and aunt called boyfriend and asked to meet up
to talk. They met up in the evening and discussed
the whole situation. She insisted on him still being by
(09:32):
his mother's side, but also understanding how difficult she is,
that we can be together, but family comes first, or
that she wants to meet me because she doesn't believe
I am as bad as mother in law makes me look.
Boyfriend went home yesterday, but mother in law said she's
too tired to talk. Yeah, sure, and that she'll have
a conversation with him tomorrow. Overall, boyfriend is pretty overwhelmed
(09:53):
and mad, and I'm just upset. I have an okay
relationship with father in law. We talk on video call
from time to time when boyfriend stays with me, and
kind of that's all. He's not a reliable person in
this whole ordeal, so we keep our distance. His aunt
is okay ish. I've never had a conversation with her,
but she's from my countryside, so I heard things about
(10:13):
her from my dad and there is an update.
Speaker 2 (10:16):
Goodness, gracious. I don't think you have to like he
has to listen to his aunt. Yeah, no, yeah, I
think you like have that conversation with him, and you know,
continue being on his side and saying whatever you want
to do is fine by me. But you know your
your mother doesn't get to treat you like this. You
don't get a just deal.
Speaker 3 (10:36):
You don't have to deal with her kind of terrible
attitude and terrible behavior.
Speaker 2 (10:40):
Bag boy, drive me.
Speaker 3 (10:42):
Yeah, that's not okay. You're an adult. She doesn't get
to demand things from you.
Speaker 2 (10:46):
Oh dude, how does it get to this point.
Speaker 3 (10:50):
Oh, she's probably been this way her whole his whole life, true,
and it's just about getting her way. And she's like
the sweetest person when she gets away and then OP
slightly offends her and she's like, well, now, you're my
enemy for a life.
Speaker 2 (11:04):
Out of here. Oh dude, mothers, don't behave like that. Please,
don't do this. Don't behave like this.
Speaker 3 (11:11):
Don't treat your your son like your husband, like you
have this weird possessive relationship with.
Speaker 2 (11:17):
Him, like that's weird. It's not okay, But there is
an update.
Speaker 3 (11:21):
Mother in law cried and tried to hug boyfriend during
the whole conversation. Boyfriend said that there's gonna be stronger
boundaries from now on that he will not accept being
disrespected or hearing her talk crap about our relationship or me.
Mother in law tried to protest, saying she was the
one disrespected when I told her to go by train
and when I shouted at her. But boyfriend shut that
(11:44):
up quickly by pointing out he said the same thing.
Why is it disrespectful when I do it but not
when he does? Because she's in love with her son.
Mother in law tried to insist that no family of
theirs likes me. She doesn't like me because I'm disrespectful
and drift boyfriend away from them. Father in law doesn't
like me simply because he doesn't like me. Butternal grandma
(12:04):
doesn't like me because both times I came to her place,
I had a.
Speaker 8 (12:07):
Full face up makeup on the horror Oh my goodness wow.
And the aunt from the previous story won't accept someone
with my behavior because she has a son the same
age's boyfriend. Boyfriend said he doesn't believe her since she
constantly lies to make her story more appealing, and that
if they really think about me like this, then contact
(12:29):
is going to be limited. He won't be close with
people who disrespect his girlfriend and relationship.
Speaker 2 (12:35):
Dude, good is your boyfriend?
Speaker 3 (12:37):
I mean, like, we don't often. We always have like
stories where we have like a son who's super enmeshed
with his family and stuff and always listens to his mommy.
And usually those guys are much older than your boyfriend
this guy, and he's reacting a lot more. He's acting
a lot more maturely than those guys are. Yeah, it
(12:58):
pops to him for that.
Speaker 6 (13:00):
Because there's a point where the family's like, we don't
like her because of X, Y and Z.
Speaker 2 (13:05):
But everything they're saying is false. It doesn't sound right.
Speaker 3 (13:09):
Yeah, you know, if your whole family doesn't like your partner,
maybe like look at why what they're saying, see if
there's any.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
Truth to that. But sometimes it's like, oh, it's just
the whole family. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (13:22):
Boyfriend told mother in law about his perspective of the situation, girlfriend,
wanting to stand up for him when his own mother
pushes boundaries and my perspective. Mother in law randomly calling
me to complain and gaslight me, then getting mad when
I don't bend over. He said, insults about me are
of course off limits, and this will never be up
for discussion, not even if I did something bad to him.
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Mother in law try to defend herself, saying she'll stop
the insults, then I stop insulting her, telling her to
take the train as an insult. Now, apparently boyfriend shut
that BS down. This was the longest point in their conversation.
But it doesn't include me. You can skip it if
you want. Mother in law strressed him about his futures,
saying it's time to choose a UNI and a career path.
(14:06):
Every time somebody asks boyfriend about his future plans, he
just says, I don't know, or I'll figure it out,
because who has their life figured out at nineteen? All
his family insists on police academy four years or police
school ten months. Boyfriend's opened to police school to some degree,
but doesn't like the fact that he will only come
home once every two weeks. His mother will try to
(14:28):
guilt trip him into staying those days with her instead
of me. We will be separated for ten months by
two hundred and fifty kilometers. Definitely European, because if they
were in Canada that would be crazy to go across
the country.
Speaker 2 (14:41):
Oh yeah, yeah, definitely.
Speaker 3 (14:42):
European, and pretty much the aspect of being a policeman sucks.
He's in it for the salary he gets right out
of school if he gets the job in or near
our city. Mother in law found out where my parents live,
and boyfriend got mad and said that if she steps
foot near their house, he will move out and cut off.
I'll contact with her until she passes away. Oh my god,
good honestly good on. Yeah, he's putting up those boundaries.
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They're strong boundaries. Don't go harassed my girlfriend's parents. Mother
in law panicked and said she won't go there. Why
would she try to find their address then, because she's
not the type to start conflicts, or she.
Speaker 2 (15:17):
Called your parents to try to dispute it. I don't
think did she call She did, I'm gonna call your parents,
she threatened out, Oh yeah, I don't know if she
had their phone numbers. I think she was just threatening things. Overall.
Speaker 3 (15:28):
Mother in law is trying to act nice right now
so she can get boyfriend's trust back what happened, or
to get them in a comfortable position to start in
argument again. Now to some minor parts of the story,
mother in law insists I'm dragging boyfriend down and that
his academic performance went down since he's been dating me.
She asked about my final exam grade and was bitter
(15:49):
when she heard I got an eight point eight five
boyfriend got an eight point eight eight. But I still
think she's in denial about it.
Speaker 2 (15:56):
Boom, But there is a little bit left to this story.
I know one of you has been in a situation
like this before with a crazy mother in law.
Speaker 6 (16:05):
I feel like I kind of have where my ex's
parents didn't want me around because her brother didn't like me. Yikes,
and so he's like, hey, you have to leave now
he's coming home.
Speaker 2 (16:16):
You have to leave. That's so weird.
Speaker 6 (16:18):
It really was weird, and I could have I couldn't
go out the same exit he was coming in.
Speaker 2 (16:22):
What Yeah, because he was going to like fighting.
Speaker 3 (16:25):
Oh my goodness, Oh my goodness. If I with parents
that kid, I'd be like, gin you get over it.
Speaker 2 (16:30):
He was twenty seven that still living with his parents.
I had a full salary. It's crazy. Wow, he was jealous.
I don't know, it's weird. That was a weird. That
guy was not really set up for success by his family.
Now and the mother in law is trying to rest
not set up for her son for success. But uh,
he's you're doing great, dude.
Speaker 3 (16:50):
You're you're trying to get out of there. You're trying
to set those boundaries keep going. Yeah, seemingly got a
nice girlfriend and op and just you know, find the
family members who are on your side and kind of
keep your distance from the.
Speaker 2 (17:03):
Ones that aren't. Boom.
Speaker 3 (17:04):
Mother in law told boyfriend about how much father in
law hates me. Boyfriend is taking this with a grain
of salt, but is still extremely concerned and angry, so
he refused to meet with father in law or let
him speak to me until they have a conversation and
boyfriend figures out who's lying. As of today, mother in
law has mostly respected boundaries no fights, no calls during
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our days together.
Speaker 2 (17:27):
Nothing. Boyfriend hasn't talked to father in law yet since
he has distanced himself from him a lot. Grandma, mother
in law's mom, gave boyfriend money with the condition that
he leaves me. Yikes.
Speaker 3 (17:38):
Oh, so the grandma is also on mom's side. She's like,
I take this money, take it and leave her, or
I'll pass away and it'll be your faulty.
Speaker 2 (17:49):
Well, it's inherited, like inherited, I guess, yeah, because you
brought up, you're gonna your grandma if you don't come home.
Grandma gave that I did it her, but he.
Speaker 7 (18:03):
Usued being that excuse strns really sticking in there.
Speaker 3 (18:09):
What mother in law started arguing with her to shut
up about me. Oh okay, now she's on your res'
side because she knows what will happen if she's not
or boyfriend will not come home to the him anymore.
So the conversation she had with boyfriend probably struck a nerve.
At least it worked, you know, she like very clearly
thinks that her relationship, you know, prizes her relationship with
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her son dude in a very unhealthy way.
Speaker 2 (18:32):
But how many, how many jars. Is this guy opening
around the house? Yeah? How many light bulbs is this
man fixing?
Speaker 8 (18:39):
Hey?
Speaker 2 (18:39):
Yeah, yay? How many plumbing his shoes is he taken
tending to I don't know.
Speaker 3 (18:44):
It's too helpful around the house. But uh, that is
the end of that story. Keep doing what you're doing. Ope,
and your boyfriend keep doing what he's doing.
Speaker 2 (18:52):
And this is a sign not to be so helpful
around the house. Yeah, I don't know. That's why I
have to helped Sophia out in months. Uh this lender
get used to me not being her No, not bad.
Speaker 3 (19:05):
Anyway, that's the end of that story, So we're gonna
jump into the next one.
Speaker 2 (19:08):
My mother in law loves the guilt trip me. I
don't know what to do. Guilt trip her back?
Speaker 6 (19:14):
My husband thirty mail and I thirty female. I've been
having a bit of trouble with my mother in law
fifties female since the birth of my son two mail.
To lay the base, my mother in law runs an
in home licensed daycare. She keeps as small with a
narrow age range because that's what she's comfortable with. She
currently has four children, one and a half day other
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than my son that visits she hasn't had more than
four children in her daycare since I've known my husband.
By the way, this comes from It's Levi essay and
if you want to smit your old stories, go to
the r slash.
Speaker 2 (19:45):
Okay, storytime supredded.
Speaker 6 (19:47):
So when I was pregnant with my son, my mother
in law kept telling us and everyone at any chance
that we got, how fortunate we are to have her
around because she would get free daycare. It was a
nice thought, and I appreciate it that she seemed like
she would always be there for us to help us out.
I also have a mother and three sisters, all of
whom who are nannies. By the way, yeah, she's got options.
Speaker 2 (20:10):
So piece like that's nice. You're one of one of many.
Thank you, though, good lie.
Speaker 6 (20:16):
After my son was born, we only got two visits
during the newborn period from hers, by her living twenty
minutes away. She said that was because I had family
around that would help, so she didn't think we needed her.
When she did visit, instead of bringing food, helping clean,
or watching the baby so we could all rest, all
she and my father in law wanted to do was
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play board games with us, and I found it odd
and exhausting, but accepted it as one of her quirks.
I was just happy that she was around. As my
son got older, it became clear that my mother in
law was not at all comfortable with newborns. She didn't
want to watch him without one of us around, which
again was fine, but she did judge every call we
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made in regard to our son. We were burping him
too hard, you'll make his heart stop. That went as
far as asking what certifications the nurse who had told
us that we were in fact burping correctly.
Speaker 2 (21:12):
Let me see what school that nurse went to. Yeah,
She's like, I'll buy it. Girl, You're not even comfortable
holding the baby. What do you know? Looks crazy because
you were a parent. How are you're not comfortable holding
a baby? Yeah? Weird? I want to listen to anything.
I'd be like, uh, thank you. But if you're not
gonna be helpful, then I got three other people here. Yeah,
who can be? I don't know. I mean my niece.
Speaker 6 (21:34):
I think I could hang out with my newborn niece,
but she starts crying, I'm gonna be Uncomfortable'm like.
Speaker 2 (21:39):
What do I do? Poop?
Speaker 6 (21:42):
She even called my mother to tattle on me for
propping a bottle for him, because that's not up to
daycare standards.
Speaker 3 (21:49):
Dude, she's not even at daycare or oh wait, what
does she say for propping them propping.
Speaker 2 (21:55):
Up a bottle? It's not up to daycare standards, dude.
Is she at the daycare when I'm so, she's at
home feeding your kids.
Speaker 3 (22:02):
She's at home and the ground. The mother's like, that's
not daycast down. She's like, I'm not add the daycare.
Speaker 2 (22:09):
What do you mean?
Speaker 6 (22:10):
Then, at any family gathering we attended, she would literally
just come up and snatch my son from my arms
and hold him so everyone could see her holding him.
Speaker 2 (22:21):
Yeah, she's just doing the lion king. She's like, see
I have the child. Oh my gosh, dude. Again whatever,
it's her thing.
Speaker 6 (22:28):
I guess I was really annoyed that she would just
snatch him without asking or even signaling that she wanted him,
But I wasn't going to make a fight over wanting
to hold my son. I feel now that she's getting
more and more controlling as the years have gone by.
I guess it's closer she's getting daycare age. Yeah, it's
gonna be way more controlling.
Speaker 2 (22:48):
Yup.
Speaker 7 (22:49):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (22:49):
The second that that kid can go into daycare, she's like,
can bright me's mine ring ring the child.
Speaker 6 (22:55):
My mother in law has begrudgingly watched my son on
the odd day that I need to get something done,
I'm gonna stay at home. It was never my plan,
but it just kind of happened, starting around one and
a half, with a little consistency like once a week,
sometimes twice. Then it morphed into if he stays, I
should stay too and help her out. Basically, it's turned
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to me being her unpaid assistant whatever my son is
in daycare. You think that's how she often says what
a huge favor she's doing for us when she watches him,
that he's a bad kid, or spoiled or something. He
really isn't. He's intelligent, a guid. Everyone that spends time
with my son falls in love with him. He's also
well spoken for a two year old. Even says hello
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and thank you, often without even being asked to do so.
There have been several times that I've been frustrated with
her because she's canceled on me or changes the plan
without telling me.
Speaker 2 (23:50):
For example, when my son was.
Speaker 6 (23:52):
A few months old, she was going to come and
take me shopping or something while my husband spent some
time canoeing with my father fun. She told me she
would pick me up right after church in the morning.
She decided without telling me, she would spend the morning
with her husband and go late to church. So I'm
left with an infant who I'm not sure if I
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should put down for a nap because his grandma is
supposed to be there to pick us up.
Speaker 2 (24:16):
My husband and I share one car. She later insists
it wasn't a big deal because she just changed the
plan to accommodate her husband. Oh lovely, Mmmm, not the
person you're gonna pick up it's Opie's husband. Okay, yeah, yeah,
she's not. She doesn't care about like actually helping take
care of ever your kid. She just didn't seem to
understand that I didn't care what she did, or even
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that she was late. I just find it rude changing
plans or cancel without communicating or getting time to accommodate.
She often canceled a daycare day for my son while
I was getting him ready to go into the car.
Literally every time she's canceled on me, it's been this short.
I honestly.
Speaker 3 (24:56):
I mean, I know it's really hard to get childcare for,
you know, your kids, but I feel like it's kind
of like a.
Speaker 2 (25:02):
Three strikes rule. Okay, if she's left.
Speaker 3 (25:04):
You in a lerge multiple times with this short of notice,
I feel like you gotta find someone else who's more
reliable and just be like, hey, I understand, you know
you want to help out, but you're not reliable and
I need someone who is.
Speaker 6 (25:17):
Yeah, yeah, that makes sense. This all kind of came
to a boiling point this weekend, after two years of this.
She had agreed to watch my son on Saturday so
my husband and I could go to my aunt's fiftieth
birthday party. I also had to go to a baby
shower that same morning, which I was bringing my son to.
My husband had to work that morning. She sent me
a text while I was at this baby shower. Hi,
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I'm really sick with the severe cold and sore throat,
so I can't talk. Do you want grandson around me?
Speaker 2 (25:46):
Also?
Speaker 6 (25:46):
If I get worse, I'm not sure if I'll be
able to watch him. I was again annoyed.
Speaker 3 (25:51):
Do you want grandson around me? Is so like, well,
you know, if you're a good parent. You wouldn't You
wouldn't subject your son to me to my sickness. I
feel like she's not even sick.
Speaker 2 (26:02):
No, she probably isn't. She's probably got like a sniffle.
Hey could drop on the phone real quick. Yeah, hey,
call you. It's just like yikes.
Speaker 6 (26:10):
I wasn't annoyed, but this was the first time that
she gave me more than an hour's warning. So I
forded the text to my husband so we could see
if his coworker, who has been asking to watch our
son was available. She was on vacation, so she was out.
Speaker 2 (26:24):
Dang.
Speaker 6 (26:25):
I got out of the baby shower after my husband
had gotten off work. I needed a nap because I'm
thirty three weeks pregnant and I've been exhausted. And his
mother proceeds to call and yell at us for not
calling her immediately to check and see how she's feeling.
Speaker 2 (26:39):
You just said he could watched him. Basically, Yeah, I
just think you didn't. Yeah. I just told you I
was sick and you didn't call it.
Speaker 3 (26:46):
Yeah, and she's calling to yell at you with her
with her law your wait a second, Yeah, the voice
that she supposedly doesn't have a Sophia.
Speaker 2 (26:53):
Did she say she'd have a voice, Yeah, she did
say that.
Speaker 5 (26:56):
Funny.
Speaker 2 (26:56):
Funny how that works. Hmmm. They told us that of
course she was still willing to watch him. Why would
we assume she couldn't watch him because she said she
couldn't watch him.
Speaker 6 (27:06):
Then Monday, she texts me and request that my son
and I join her at daycare on Wednesday because she
has Bible study Tuesday and Thursday. With it being six
weeks until her next baby is do. I text her
back saying I didn't think that I would be able
to make it this week because I have a lot
to do this week to get ready for the baby,
so I need to be at home.
Speaker 2 (27:25):
I thought that was the end.
Speaker 6 (27:26):
She text me back asking if my husband can just
drop him off before work that day pick him up afterwards.
He works from twelve to eight thirty PM. I text
him and let him know we should talk through it
because we've both generally been thinking about not doing daycare
Monday through Thursday, since with that being his work schedule,
it doesn't seem fair to our son. He goes to
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sleep there, but since she won't allow him to sleep over,
we wake up around eleven to go home. After two
and a half hours, she sends me this passive aggressive text.
So this is a tough decision about having husband drop
off grandson tomorrow.
Speaker 2 (28:04):
I thought you'd be pleased at this offer. What I
don't even know what she's what she's saying.
Speaker 6 (28:10):
Oh, since I didn't ask you, Yeah, I suggest that
someone else do it.
Speaker 2 (28:14):
Yeah, it should be happy. He's just the other parent
who also isn't available, Like what in they share car?
You're not helpful at all, mother in law.
Speaker 6 (28:23):
I did dex back because I was busy taking care
of my son while running errands all day. Like I
told her, I had a lot to do. I didn't
think that two and a half hours was enough time
to get upset like that. She even called my husband
to check and see if.
Speaker 2 (28:36):
I was okay. Oh man, what not? Dude? If I'm married,
I'm just thinking of Angie at this point. Yeah. If
I'm married Angie and someone calls me, hey, how's Angie feeling,
I'd respond, you should probably check with her. Yeah, why
are you calling me? Like, why aren't you calling your
son literal son? Oh boy?
Speaker 6 (28:57):
My husband didn't talk to her that night, and she
went off the wall, yelling at him. He talked about
how we can't just hold it against her that she
got sick.
Speaker 2 (29:06):
We weren't.
Speaker 6 (29:07):
We weren't even going to bring it up with her
because people get sick and sometimes she deserves time off.
But she kept yelling at my husband for things like, oh,
and thanks for not calling your mother this weekend to
see how she was feeling since you knew she was sick,
and how hard she works for us while she's watching
our son.
Speaker 3 (29:26):
Yeah, if you can, if you can afford anything else,
or if you can bring her to your your mom,
your sister.
Speaker 2 (29:32):
This is not worth it.
Speaker 6 (29:34):
It doesn't seem very mother in law of her to
bring up I'm doing so much for you.
Speaker 2 (29:40):
Yeah, blah blah blah blah blah, you owe me. It's
like feeling this out of the kindness of your heart.
This was actual love. Love has no score.
Speaker 3 (29:48):
No, she said the daycare was free, but there's no
such thing as a free lunch. You're paying, your paying
a lot, and that's through having to listen to her whining.
Speaker 6 (29:58):
Yep, that's uh, that's what that Jerry's Sinfield episode. Oh man,
that's such a good one, oh Man classic. And also
it's not that much extra work watching him now that
he used too, because he fits into her daycare. It's
all about the daycare and how we don't appreciate how
hard she works and that we can't consider her an
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unreliable form of childcare. She only calls and cancels on
me because I'm not working, so it's fine. So basically
from what my husband told me, she admitted that she
knowingly cancels on me without notice because she doesn't respect
my time because I'm a stay at home mom, but
I'm supposed to drop everything I'm doing during the day
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to answer her every text and call because she doesn't
think I'm doing anything all day. Dude, this is I
feel like my mom wrote this. Yeah, because my grandma
does this to.
Speaker 2 (30:52):
My mom a lot.
Speaker 6 (30:53):
She's like, I can only be on my time, dada YadA,
this YadA YadA. That can't do this all the time,
and it's all it's all of my mom because she
she does work at the Sawmeal Song, but she is
basically staying home mom, like helping out with stuff. She's
a point person for like basically three families.
Speaker 2 (31:09):
Yeah, she's doing a lot of work. She's it's crazy. Yeah,
Oh dude, no.
Speaker 3 (31:14):
And I mean, like, I'm tricky for Ope and her
husband who are trying to you know, parent this new
child and then also have another one on the way
and then have a mother in law Sash his mom.
Every time she helps it comes with a side of
like her harassment.
Speaker 6 (31:32):
Yeah, basically ugh. And he brought up that I help
her whenever I do stay during her daycare.
Speaker 2 (31:39):
Yeah nope, he's always roped into being an assistant. She
said that that's what I owed her to say the least.
Then we brought up how we're not paying her for daycare.
Speaker 4 (31:46):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (31:47):
Yeah, if she's got a hold that over your.
Speaker 6 (31:49):
Head, I just don't know what to do about the
situation anymore. She has a tendency to throw temper tantrums
whenever she doesn't exactly get her way. She will even
do silent treatment as an adult we are adult children,
which I don't feel is necessarily a healthy thing to
do to resolve an issue. It just feels like an
emotional manipulation to me. But again, I would love some
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perspective and help. My mother thinks we should just not
use her day care services and make her realize that
she's then missing time with her only grandkit. I just
don't know what to do. I've never met someone who
has shown that much disrespect to me and felt justified
in it. I obviously don't want to cut her off
from seeing my son, but I don't want him growing
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up with such negativity and feeling unwanted.
Speaker 2 (32:36):
Advice. We got an update again the phone screen time out.
Speaker 3 (32:42):
Yeah, and I also think it's you don't necessarily have
to cut her off from seeing her grandson, but you
at least cut her off from taking care of him
on daycare.
Speaker 2 (32:52):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (32:52):
Again, if you can't afford it somewhere else, because this
is not it's not worth having to the aggravation or
also the lack of.
Speaker 2 (33:01):
Reliability from her. Oh yeah, I constantly canceling on you.
That's like that.
Speaker 3 (33:06):
You don't want that from a daycare, from any other
professional daycare, that would not happen.
Speaker 2 (33:11):
Yeah, agreed, agreed. H update, Hey it's Sam.
Speaker 1 (33:14):
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Speaker 2 (33:18):
We had to.
Speaker 6 (33:18):
Cancel last Friday with my mother in law because she
caught us off guard and I forgot how we made
plans with my mom to go visit and my grandfather
with the grand babies and they're Halloween costumes. We told
her we would drop off her son the next Friday.
Turns out my grandfather was sent to the hospital with
aemonia Thursday night. We decided I had to call her
because it was late. We don't expect her to drop
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everything last minute for daycare. Maybe this was our mistake,
but I feel like anything we would have done in
this situation was wrong. Oh well, we found out that
my grandfather had passed away on Halloween.
Speaker 2 (33:52):
I'm sorry.
Speaker 6 (33:53):
It was a very sudden and shocked all of us.
We haven't heard from her the rest of the week
until we got an email from my husband's brother. It
was one of the ugliest emails I've ever read. Basically,
it said that we were horrible people. They've been rude
and unthankful to my in laws ever since my son
was born. He could tell because of our body language. Also,
apparently they've changed their plans around to suit us. News
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to me, considering we've gone out of our way to
adjust to my mother in law's schedule, and apparently, according
to her, we've entirely disowned her and have threatened to
never allow her to see Nathan. Again, all of this
is new to me.
Speaker 2 (34:29):
But she has a history of throwing tantrums and lie
to get her away. She's literally lying, and at this
point now you know that she's gonna lie to everyone
around you to get her way, and that you can't
put up with that.
Speaker 3 (34:42):
You have to set those boundaries and say, okay, oh
we're not thankful, then.
Speaker 2 (34:46):
We won't take your services anymore. The easy, easy fix,
No more Nathan for you. Yeah, ahha, funny.
Speaker 6 (34:54):
We tried calling all of them immediately to schedule a
time to talk in person because this is all gotten
out of hand. All of their phones rang three times
before going to voicemail. Turns out all three of them
were at lunch together.
Speaker 2 (35:05):
Huh yeah, they're all emailing. You're like nah, which we say, ooh,
that's good.
Speaker 6 (35:10):
My mother in law to sent me a text saying
that they were having lunch with my brother in law
and wanted to do this talk in person. I responded
and said I agreed. Three hours later, they said that
they were leaving my brother in law's place. It was
six thirty at the time. My son's bedtime in seven thirty,
so obviously this talk wasn't happening this weekend, as soon
a text last night asking when we should come over
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to talk. I've yet gotten a response. I've been really
upset this whole time, crying several times because of the
initial accusations. But I'm not sure what I should do.
I don't quite know what action to take. I don't
think it's going to be feasible to completely cut them out,
but boundaries need to be made, obviously.
Speaker 2 (35:51):
I am just definitely feeling like this has been more
of a power play than genuine emotional upset on her part,
mostly because nobody has been contacting us to try instead
of time to sit down and resolve this. Yeah, because
they know what's up.
Speaker 3 (36:06):
They know, they know they're trying to get They know
that you are in need of her help in taking
care of your kid, or they think that you are,
and so they're gonna use that power to assert their dominance.
Speaker 2 (36:20):
Yeah, And they're.
Speaker 3 (36:22):
Use that that need of yours to assert their dominance.
And then you can set those boundaries and say, actually
we don't need you.
Speaker 2 (36:28):
Yeah, thank you. There you go.
Speaker 6 (36:30):
I feel like if she was really feeling like we
just owned her, wouldn't it be a priority to her
to have contact us and schedule a time to resolve this.
Speaker 2 (36:38):
Am I wrong?
Speaker 6 (36:39):
I'm just not sure what course of action to take
to cause the least amount of drama. I think I'm
losing my voice. No, my husband has been fuming about this,
and we'll support his family.
Speaker 2 (36:51):
Me and my son.
Speaker 6 (36:52):
Nice that it could have been another way. Yeah, we
got an update.
Speaker 2 (36:56):
Yikes.
Speaker 3 (36:58):
Well you know what positive? Your husband's on your side. Yeah,
he's not back in his crazy mom.
Speaker 2 (37:04):
Oh my god. Ah.
Speaker 3 (37:05):
And you're just gonna have to set boundaries and it sucks.
And I know you don't want to cut contact.
Speaker 2 (37:09):
You don't necessarily have to cut contact completely, but you
definitely can't rely on her for daycare or any sort
of Yeah, she's out of the question there. Yep. Salvage
something maybe, hopefully, but you know not right now, she's
spreading lives. It's not worth it. No update too.
Speaker 6 (37:27):
My mother in law finally texted me and wanted to
schedule the time to talk things out. My husband and
I have talked and decided this is really her last chance.
Speaker 2 (37:35):
It isn't really.
Speaker 6 (37:36):
Feasible for us to completely cut contact out of our life,
but if she's unwilling to accept anything, we have to
say we're willing to go that route. We are going
to stay strong with the facts and not get caught
up in her gas lighting. We're also not going to
talk without my father in law present. He has stuck
up for us in the past during a situation where
what we said was logical. We'll see how this goes,
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but honestly, I'm not going to get my home up
that she'll listen or totally prepared to walk out for
the long haul if we need to. It's become a
parent that this has all just been a power play.
Speaker 2 (38:09):
Yeah, I think that's it. That's all you can do
right now.
Speaker 3 (38:12):
Yes, Like if you need to create some boundaries and
create some walls.
Speaker 2 (38:18):
Super smart to have a father in law there, Yeah, absolutely, Yeah,
I think I've been everyone there getting ears about what's
actually exactly instead of her spreading lies and manipulating people.
Maybe even get the brother in law in law yeah
and be like, hey, you thought you said all those
nasty things to me, this is what actually is going.
Speaker 6 (38:34):
On, and you can listen but not say a word. Yeah,
that's in that story. We got one more for you, guys.
Speaker 3 (38:40):
My mother in law treats me terribly but acts innocent
around my husband.
Speaker 6 (38:44):
I didn't do anything.
Speaker 3 (38:46):
I am a white female married to an Indian male,
both in our thirties. While I understand in that culture
it is common to have your parents come to stay
with you for months every year when living abroad, this
situation feels crazy to me.
Speaker 2 (39:00):
That's normal.
Speaker 3 (39:01):
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Speaker 2 (39:07):
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Speaker 3 (39:09):
So in the last four years they have come three times,
each time being longer than the last. This time around,
they are here for four months the whole summer.
Speaker 2 (39:19):
That's wild, not girl summer, parents summer.
Speaker 3 (39:25):
These are my issues with their visits and why I
told my husband I can no longer handle them living
in the house with us. Personal hygiene and cleansiness are
a huge issue. They don't wash their hands after going
to the bathroom, we're before cooking or touching food.
Speaker 2 (39:39):
Yuck.
Speaker 3 (39:39):
They don't clean up after themselves, and if mother in
law sometimes washes dishes, she does a terrible job. I
can still see her lipstick on the cups after she
washes them. When father in law uses the bathroom, he
peas all over the floor every time? Are these children?
Speaker 2 (39:55):
What ease? Get some aim dogs? Sometimes a few spots
on the floor or other times full on puddles.
Speaker 3 (40:02):
You what the first time that would happened, I would
talk to my husband immediately and be like, this is
unacceptable and gross and I won't live like this, or
get the potty train them, or get them pads. They
both wear sandals in the house and walk in it
without oh, without realizing it and track it all over
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the house.
Speaker 2 (40:24):
Are these like dogs like they're walking in their own pea?
This is insane? These are adults. How are they acting
like this? That I should know that?
Speaker 3 (40:36):
There are some health and balance issues with father in law,
but he has too much pride to accept or use
any type of medical devices and guards on the toilet
to help him or sit down to pete. I'm usually
the one cleaning it up literally, no, no, no, I'd
be like, hey, husband, you clean this up right now.
Speaker 2 (40:54):
Get your parents out of my house. I'm not cleaning
up your dad's pee.
Speaker 3 (40:58):
You They both leave the house the whole day, so
there's no privacy or space from them. Mother in law
is quite rude and ignores me when I speak, or
just cuts me off anytime I try to talk. She
plays it off innocent with my husband, like she doesn't
realize she's doing that and doesn't mean to. But I
don't buy that. Mother in law will act very different
when my husband isn't around. All kinds of small things
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that add up. For example, if I'm mopping the floor,
she'll walk over the spot I just finished mopping. They
can be pretty destructive to our home and usually break
quite a few things when they come, like cupboards and
doors from slamming them too aggressively, not using exhaust fans
when taking showers so mold grows, et cetera. They use
mothballs back in their home in India. When they come here.
Speaker 2 (41:43):
Everything they bring a reeks like.
Speaker 3 (41:45):
Mothballs, and I never ever have been able to fully
get the smell out of the room they stay in.
Mothball fumes are highly toxic, and we also have a cat.
If they leave the door open, the smell goes through
the rest of the house and stinks for hours.
Speaker 2 (41:59):
Oh my god.
Speaker 3 (42:00):
They show zero signs of empathy, remorse, or any other
feelings towards how they affect us or our home. It
seems as though they genuinely don't care about anyone but themselves.
Mother in law expects my husband to pay for everything
for them and shows no appreciation, not even a simple
thank you. When my husband tries to talk to them
about their behavior, mother in law sends him a massive
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text message guilt tripping us for having some type of
living standards and boundaries. These messages will be things along
the lines of we will just leave and never come back. Yeah, please,
I'll just stay in India with little money in my
bank account while you live your life here, even though
it's because of me you got to move in the
first place. I could write a novel with all the
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specific moments that have happened in the last three visits.
These have been ongoing issues every time they come, and
it only gets worse. I also can't help but feel
that mother in law is very calculated and manipulative and
knows exactly what she's doing. I sometimes wonder if she's trying.
Speaker 2 (43:00):
To push me out.
Speaker 3 (43:01):
Yeah, yes, she's absolutely trying to push you out of
the house.
Speaker 2 (43:06):
This is like psychological warfare. This is crazy.
Speaker 3 (43:10):
And if your husband either one, go talk to your husband,
say this is what's been going on, and if he
says anything other than I'm so sorry, I'll get them
out then have a way more serious conversation or leave.
Speaker 2 (43:23):
He needs to go talk to that night, to your
own boy. We read about her. Yeah, he's much more
mature than this, because you.
Speaker 6 (43:28):
Are family now, and if your extended family isn't one
to listen, you gotta get him out of there.
Speaker 2 (43:34):
Agreed.
Speaker 3 (43:35):
So am I the Ale for putting my foot down
and refusing to allow these long term visits in the future.
Even though she's saying she has no money, Well, then
why is she spending money on a flight? She was
considering buying a second property in India.
Speaker 2 (43:48):
So I don't believe that. I think they are fully
capable of getting a short term rental when they come
and there is an update.
Speaker 3 (43:55):
But no, you're not the Ale. No, no, I would
demand that. I'd be like, uh no, they're not standing here.
They're disgusting. They're leaving their little pea puddles everywhere. Yes,
it's gross and your husband needs to go to therapy.
If he's like, oh, well, they're my family, I get like, no.
If they're not going to respect the house, by good riddance.
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But there is an update, and I'm really open that
ope people talk some sense into her husband.
Speaker 2 (44:21):
Ugh, that's the pea puddles for me. H, No.
Speaker 3 (44:24):
It's disgusting. And then tracking them through the house. Oh,
my husband sees the issue here and has spoken to
them multiple times about these issues. They just never change
or don't care. I think he's stuck in a tough
place because he doesn't want to hurt anyone's feelings.
Speaker 2 (44:40):
I do.
Speaker 3 (44:40):
I spoke to him and told him bluntly how I
feel and that I don't want any future long term visits.
He agrees with me. I just hope this doesn't cause
resentment one day and ruin our marriage. I mean, you
already have resentment for his parents, so if they stay here,
you're gonna have resentment for sure. If they don't, you
might have resentment, but you can work it out. He's amazing,
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and it would be devastating to divorce over his parents.
Like I said, his mom is a master at guilt
tripping and making him feel like a terrible person.
Speaker 2 (45:09):
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Speaker 1 (45:11):
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Speaker 2 (45:15):
My in laws will officially no longer be staying with us. Hooray, Yeah,
let's go. Since my original post, I started noticing things
misplaced in my and my husband's room. Oh.
Speaker 3 (45:29):
I know it sounds crazy of me, but she definitely
brings it out of me. I asked my husband if
he's okay with it if I set up a camera
in the room an arm it when he and myself
were both gone. He agreed, so I set it up.
I now a video footage of my mother in law
going in the room, rummaging through everything thoroughly, like she
owns the place and everything in it. I also watched
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her steal some of my items out of our room.
When I got home from work, I noticed she left
a sweater in there while she was busy trying on
my blouses and stealing one of them.
Speaker 6 (46:00):
What.
Speaker 3 (46:01):
I confronted her with it, and she gave me some
lame excuse after first pretending she didn't know what it
was bro I then asked her bluntly if she had
been rummaging through my room. Of course, she lied and
then sent me very long text messages trying to guilt,
trip me and make me feel terrible for accusing her
of such things. I won't get into too much detail
of the text since it was basically a short novel,
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but to sum it up, it was saying I was
shocked she was at accusations, how she's basically the best
person ever and would never do anything like that, and
now everyone loves her, how I hurt her feelings. The
actual texts in full would blow your mind. It really
goes to show how manipulative and good of a liar
she is. I did give her some opportunities over the
next week after to come clean and be honest without
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forcing her to by showing her the videos. She didn't.
Instead just trashed me some more. So I showed her
the videos in private and let her watch herself stealing.
She still just kept repeating that she he wasn't stealing
and had some other dumb excuses.
Speaker 2 (47:03):
How's her she does? How's her hands not red?
Speaker 5 (47:05):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (47:05):
What?
Speaker 3 (47:06):
No, she's been caught redhead And she's like, no, no, no,
this is I ah, my hands just look like that.
Speaker 6 (47:11):
Normally it's someone else's someone else's hands, that's AI.
Speaker 3 (47:16):
She's like that, we're in person. She's like, it's a
I don't know how they do it. I have showed
my husband as well, and he no longer wants them
to stay here in the future. Either you got some
prove because he I mean, without the proof, she probably
would have been like, your wife is accusing me and
I never would do that.
Speaker 2 (47:34):
She's a liar. How does her husband not have her what?
This is wild?
Speaker 3 (47:38):
So I guess I never had to put my foot down.
She basically banned herself from staying with us.
Speaker 2 (47:43):
Nice. My husband has yet to talk to her about
the videos. Update three We have a third one third
update and I hope my my husband never or my
husband cut off his mom or like the parents went home,
listened to it and got their flight back home.
Speaker 3 (47:58):
Oh yikes, hopefully not that, but I hope they're home
and not here. Up date three, my husband finally had
the talk with his mom. It took so long because
she doesn't want her husband to know about any of this,
so she'll only talk about it when he is sleeping
before her or away from the property, which never happens.
We didn't get any type of reaction we would have
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wanted or hoped for it. She gave them a meaningless
sorry and said she didn't know why she did it,
just tried to blame it on issues she has with
her husband. She never fully accepted or admitted to all
the things she did. My husband also tried to ask
her if she had an issue with me based on
her behavior every single visit. She also said no, no issues.
I was really hoping she would take this time to
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be honest and put everything on the table to maybe
work through any issues, but obviously that will never happen.
He did tell her that they will no longer be
welcome to stay with us in the future for any
amount of time. They would have to get their own
place or short term rental. But there is a little
bit left to this story.
Speaker 2 (48:56):
Any final thoughts.
Speaker 6 (48:57):
We won.
Speaker 2 (48:58):
We did it. One you on the water.
Speaker 4 (49:00):
She's out and you have blackmail. Yeah, you have a
literal proof of her. This is horrible, But you have
proof of her stealing. Yeah, that she doesn't want her
husband to know. Well, if she keeps acting out, guess
who's gonna know?
Speaker 2 (49:14):
Yeap, yep, I guess that's the way it's gotta be.
Or she could just leave. Yeah, she and her husband
can go, and if they want to come visit, they
can go get a place, stay in a hotel. I
don't care, stay away, You and your pea podles can
go somewhere else disgusting.
Speaker 3 (49:30):
Now we just wait out the last twoish weeks till
they leave. We don't speak to each other at all,
except for her fake good morning in front of her
husband so he doesn't suspect her of any wrongdoing. She
likes to blame him for everything that goes wrong and
doesn't like to recognize her own faults Selfishly, I was
hoping it would make her want to leave sooner after
my husband called her out for her behavior because we
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now have to redo a bathroom and a half father
in law flooded the basement bathroom and as you know,
pissed all over the other one y what and redo
the bedroom They stand because of the moth bell smell
and also because it's super awkward and uncomfortable in.
Speaker 2 (50:06):
The outday center. An invoice peeze.
Speaker 3 (50:10):
Yeah, I'd be like, hey, this is for all the
damages that you guys cast in the house and also
emotional damages because I.
Speaker 2 (50:15):
Hate you guys. Ah terrible. How how do people live
like this?
Speaker 3 (50:20):
I have no idea, but good on you for standing
up for yourself and your husband for listening to you
and standing up for himself. Go pee outside again, Peez,
you can't. You're not trusted to do it inside. You're
terrible at it. Well that's the end of this episode
and the end.
Speaker 4 (50:36):
Of this Oh you said it, ha ha I stole
your words, dang it.
Speaker 3 (50:41):
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My mother in law thinks I stole her son. Now
she's turning her family against me.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
Maybe you should put it back, then put them back.
Speaker 3 (00:23):
So me, eighteen female and my boyfriend nineteen Maile have
been together for almost two years. We have known each
other since fifth grade, became good friends somewhere in elementary
school that only dated since tenth grade with a break
during the summer, so we could solve some personal issues.
By the way, this comes from ELI two two to two,
and if you want to smit your own stories, go
(00:44):
to the r slash Okay Storytime Separate it. So initially
his mother liked me and wanted to meet and have
a conversation, but it all went downhill last year when
I didn't recognize her and didn't greet her. Since then,
I've been disrespectful in her eyes. From that moment, She's
started picking fights whenever me and my boyfriend hung out.
Last year, I moved alone into my parents' apartment, and
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I proposed to my boyfriend to have sleepovers once a week,
since we didn't have a car yet and we only
hang out outside of mall's.
Speaker 2 (01:13):
Oh, I thought you proposed, I know.
Speaker 3 (01:16):
I thought, yeah, I was like propose and then who know,
proposed to have sleepovers?
Speaker 4 (01:20):
Icy.
Speaker 3 (01:21):
He was on board, but on the night he had
to come, his mother started guilt tripping him about.
Speaker 5 (01:25):
Leaving her all alone or not caring about his sick
grandma and how not having him there well un alive. Yes,
him being gone for one night will end his grandma
checks out.
Speaker 6 (01:39):
Yeah, grandma wouldn't want that. Yeah, grandma probably doesn't even notice.
Speaker 3 (01:43):
Yeah, grandma's If grandma's that sick, she is not aware
that her grandson is in and out of yah at all.
A boyfriend lives with his mom and grandma. The plan
was abolished and we only hung out during the day.
Around this time, she started insulting me to my boyfriend
in many ways. Some examples are substance youth are because
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she heard me and boyfriend on the phone when she
tried to guilt trip him again. Cult test because apparently
a man can only leave his mom when he's in
a cult. Gold digger because my boyfriend brought me gifts
for my birthday and anniversary. Yes, of he, the eighteen
year old is a gold digger for being in a
relationship with a nineteen.
Speaker 2 (02:22):
Year old who I can guarantee has little to no money. Yeah,
he has no assets.
Speaker 3 (02:30):
Which because I will for sure cheat on him. Pasn't
because my parents moved to the countryside to work in
agriculture and many others.
Speaker 2 (02:37):
She's a grasping at straw what peasant because your family's
like farmers. That's insane, that's crazy.
Speaker 6 (02:46):
Also part of a cult. Leaving your mom for another woman,
that's called marriage.
Speaker 2 (02:51):
That's just called marriage. Girl.
Speaker 3 (02:52):
Of course, my boyfriend started picking fights because of this
behavior with her, and all the hopes of a relationship
with her crumbled. Meanwhile, father in law bought him a
car and we started going away on holidays or having
sleepovers on occasion like my birthday, New Year, anniversary, et CETERA.
Fast forward half a year, since I want to get
to the point of the story. There haven't been any
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major conflicts during this time, only insults.
Speaker 2 (03:16):
Mostly.
Speaker 3 (03:17):
Me and boyfriend finished our final high school exam. He
turned nineteen and we graduated. We had a sleepover for
his nineteenth birthday where she tried to guilt trip him again, saying, instead.
Speaker 2 (03:28):
Of starting this new chapter of your life together, you
go and start it with somebody else. Your mother is
obsessed with you, dude.
Speaker 3 (03:38):
This is like Oedipus, but like and in this version
of Oedipus, your mom is actually obsessed with you.
Speaker 6 (03:45):
I thought, what's that a motel baits hotel, bait hotel
that the bab baits yeah, or something like that bits
in a motel or hotel?
Speaker 2 (03:56):
Yeah? Is it that?
Speaker 3 (03:58):
It's that which to alarm bells for both of us
because of emotional genetic copy pasting bs we've seen all
over the internet with boy. Mom's boyfriend got an incredible
ick from this and came over with no problems.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
He's like, yeah, I gotta go.
Speaker 3 (04:12):
He got better over the months with managing her guilt tripping.
I feel like when she lays it on that thick.
I mean like sometimes I like further and further into
this hole of being like, oh, yeah, I have to
listen to what my mom says. But sometimes they lay
it on so thick. You're like, oh, my mom's crazy.
Speaker 2 (04:29):
Ooh.
Speaker 3 (04:30):
A week later, we decided to do the big step
with a form of moving in together, staying together from
Thursday to Monday every week, so not actually fully moving
in together, it seems, which she had known about since
I got the apartment. She freaked out and tried everything
to make him stay home, bringing his grandma into this
and everything.
Speaker 2 (04:48):
Your grandma's gonna die.
Speaker 3 (04:50):
You've got to live your grandma, dude. The week went fine,
and he only had to deal with a ton of
guilt tripping and false crying when he got home. A
crucial de is that she's a singer but barely gets
any concerts, maybe because she sucks, but I don't know.
She signed a contract for a concert Saturday across the country,
and she expected her son to drive her there without
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any confirmation. Boyfriend said that he won't drive her, but
she started again with immense skilt tripping, crying, screaming, basically
throwing a tantrum. That same night, we almost fought because
he's tired of this behavior and just wants to get
it done so she can leave him alone. But I'm
against the idea of keeping the peace when she keeps
pulling conflicts out of nowhere.
Speaker 6 (05:33):
Dude, this is wild. Yeah, her name a country you'd
be okay with driving your mam across? What country is
so small that you'd be okay with driving your mom across?
Speaker 2 (05:42):
Uh? Oh, Vatican? Ah, I would go further from my mother.
Speaker 6 (05:48):
I know, I was just a recent last minute, I'll
drive you across the country.
Speaker 2 (05:53):
What country would you have to be in at that moment?
Let us know, folks, what country would you be okay
driving your mom across? Last minute? Same story.
Speaker 3 (06:01):
Boyfriend goes to pick me up from my parents on
Thursday so we can go home, but unexpectedly, his mother
calls me. She got the number from his phone when
he was sleeping and threatened to call me and my
parents many times. The condo went like this shortened because
I don't remember every word. We talked for four minutes.
Hi Eli, Hi, H'm boyfriend's mom.
Speaker 7 (06:23):
Okay, I think you heard that I signed a contract
for ex city and boyfriend needs to drive me for that.
He told me he can't drive me his mom because
he had to attend some party and stay with you.
Speaker 2 (06:33):
For the weekend. Yeah.
Speaker 6 (06:35):
I don't understand why you're calling me and how you
have my number. I'm pretty sure this is a dispute
with your adult son, who can choose for himself, not
with me. And I'm pretty sure he has no obligation
towards something that wasn't communicated and agreed upon with him.
Speaker 2 (06:55):
Don't you hear yourself?
Speaker 5 (06:57):
He can't try makee me confu foar forced him to
leave with my manging and touch your razer voice on me.
Speaker 6 (07:03):
I'm not raising my voice and I don't think your
son can be forced at eighteen. You can go by train.
I can send you the links for booking a ticket
if it's so hard to find alternatives, And don't try
to parent me. Not even my mom does that. And
do you think you can?
Speaker 2 (07:22):
You want me to go by train with luggage for
an entire day while he drives you around. That's it.
Speaker 3 (07:28):
I'm calling your parents to tell him about this, mind you.
I was respectful during the entire conversation, just fed up
with her drama, especially calling me to complain about her
non existent relationship with boyfriend. After this, I texted her
that my parents are busy people and to not even
try to bother them with this, since they'll take my
and my boyfriend's side.
Speaker 6 (07:48):
My favorite part of this altercation. She had asked permission
for opee, which is another woman basically wrangling the sun around.
Speaker 2 (07:58):
Yeah, for the permission. He can't choose herself. It's exactly yeah.
Speaker 3 (08:02):
It's like, oh no, I have to get you to
give him permission otherwise he won't listen.
Speaker 2 (08:07):
It's like he has a new owner now. So I
got a nineteen, he's nineteen. He's making his own choices.
Speaker 6 (08:13):
I didn't know you could make your own choices in nineteen.
I thought you had to be like twenty.
Speaker 3 (08:17):
I thought, yeah, I thought you you became an adult
at twenty one.
Speaker 6 (08:20):
Yeah, something like that. I was like, wait, I don't
have to listen to what more mom says. That's just advice.
Speaker 3 (08:25):
Way, She continued to text me about how she is
his mom, it priority, et cetera. One text that stuck
was I raised him and it would be nice for
this to do the same, which had us disgusted once again.
The conversation ended with a text from me telling her
to lose my number and to stop this whole show
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because we're all adults. Meanwhile, boyfriend called her, told her
she's out of line, stupid, and to stay away from
his relationship. She didn't talk with him for the entire weekend,
but Friday afternoon, father in law called because mother in
law called him. Eat up and discuss this. Mother in
law told father in law that boyfriend ran away from home,
that he disrespected her and encouraged me to do the same,
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that she has no one by her side now, and
if he can drive her to her concert on Saturday,
she's going to anyone. Girl, Just get a train to train,
get anything ai, Yeah, come on girl. Saturday morning, his
cousin and aunt called boyfriend and asked to meet up
to talk. They met up in the evening and discussed
the whole situation. She insisted on him still being by
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his mother's side, but also understanding how difficult she is,
that we can be together, but family comes first, or
that she wants to meet me because she doesn't believe
I am as bad as mother in law makes me look.
Boyfriend went home yesterday, but mother in law said she's
too tired to talk. Yeah, sure, and that she'll have
a conversation with him tomorrow. Overall, boyfriend is pretty overwhelmed
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and mad, and I'm just upset. I have an okay
relationship with father in law. We talk on video call
from time to time when boyfriend stays with me, and
kind of that's all. He's not a reliable person in
this whole ordeal, so we keep our distance. His aunt
is okay ish. I've never had a conversation with her,
but she's from my countryside, so I heard things about
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her from my dad and there is an update.
Speaker 2 (10:16):
Goodness, gracious. I don't think you have to like he
has to listen to his aunt. Yeah, no, yeah, I
think you like have that conversation with him, and you know,
continue being on his side and saying whatever you want
to do is fine by me. But you know your
your mother doesn't get to treat you like this. You
don't get a just deal.
Speaker 3 (10:36):
You don't have to deal with her kind of terrible
attitude and terrible behavior.
Speaker 2 (10:40):
Bag boy, drive me.
Speaker 3 (10:42):
Yeah, that's not okay. You're an adult. She doesn't get
to demand things from you.
Speaker 2 (10:46):
Oh dude, how does it get to this point.
Speaker 3 (10:50):
Oh, she's probably been this way her whole his whole life, true,
and it's just about getting her way. And she's like
the sweetest person when she gets away and then OP
slightly offends her and she's like, well, now, you're my
enemy for a life.
Speaker 2 (11:04):
Out of here. Oh dude, mothers, don't behave like that. Please,
don't do this. Don't behave like this.
Speaker 3 (11:11):
Don't treat your your son like your husband, like you
have this weird possessive relationship with.
Speaker 2 (11:17):
Him, like that's weird. It's not okay, But there is
an update.
Speaker 3 (11:21):
Mother in law cried and tried to hug boyfriend during
the whole conversation. Boyfriend said that there's gonna be stronger
boundaries from now on that he will not accept being
disrespected or hearing her talk crap about our relationship or me.
Mother in law tried to protest, saying she was the
one disrespected when I told her to go by train
and when I shouted at her. But boyfriend shut that
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up quickly by pointing out he said the same thing.
Why is it disrespectful when I do it but not
when he does? Because she's in love with her son.
Mother in law tried to insist that no family of
theirs likes me. She doesn't like me because I'm disrespectful
and drift boyfriend away from them. Father in law doesn't
like me simply because he doesn't like me. Butternal grandma
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doesn't like me because both times I came to her place,
I had a.
Speaker 8 (12:07):
Full face up makeup on the horror Oh my goodness wow.
And the aunt from the previous story won't accept someone
with my behavior because she has a son the same
age's boyfriend. Boyfriend said he doesn't believe her since she
constantly lies to make her story more appealing, and that
if they really think about me like this, then contact
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is going to be limited. He won't be close with
people who disrespect his girlfriend and relationship.
Speaker 2 (12:35):
Dude, good is your boyfriend?
Speaker 3 (12:37):
I mean, like, we don't often. We always have like
stories where we have like a son who's super enmeshed
with his family and stuff and always listens to his mommy.
And usually those guys are much older than your boyfriend
this guy, and he's reacting a lot more. He's acting
a lot more maturely than those guys are. Yeah, it
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pops to him for that.
Speaker 6 (13:00):
Because there's a point where the family's like, we don't
like her because of X, Y and Z.
Speaker 2 (13:05):
But everything they're saying is false. It doesn't sound right.
Speaker 3 (13:09):
Yeah, you know, if your whole family doesn't like your partner,
maybe like look at why what they're saying, see if
there's any.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
Truth to that. But sometimes it's like, oh, it's just
the whole family. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (13:22):
Boyfriend told mother in law about his perspective of the situation, girlfriend,
wanting to stand up for him when his own mother
pushes boundaries and my perspective. Mother in law randomly calling
me to complain and gaslight me, then getting mad when
I don't bend over. He said, insults about me are
of course off limits, and this will never be up
for discussion, not even if I did something bad to him.
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Mother in law try to defend herself, saying she'll stop
the insults, then I stop insulting her, telling her to
take the train as an insult. Now, apparently boyfriend shut
that BS down. This was the longest point in their conversation.
But it doesn't include me. You can skip it if
you want. Mother in law strressed him about his futures,
saying it's time to choose a UNI and a career path.
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Every time somebody asks boyfriend about his future plans, he
just says, I don't know, or I'll figure it out,
because who has their life figured out at nineteen? All
his family insists on police academy four years or police
school ten months. Boyfriend's opened to police school to some degree,
but doesn't like the fact that he will only come
home once every two weeks. His mother will try to
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guilt trip him into staying those days with her instead
of me. We will be separated for ten months by
two hundred and fifty kilometers. Definitely European, because if they
were in Canada that would be crazy to go across
the country.
Speaker 2 (14:41):
Oh yeah, yeah, definitely.
Speaker 3 (14:42):
European, and pretty much the aspect of being a policeman sucks.
He's in it for the salary he gets right out
of school if he gets the job in or near
our city. Mother in law found out where my parents live,
and boyfriend got mad and said that if she steps
foot near their house, he will move out and cut off.
I'll contact with her until she passes away. Oh my god,
good honestly good on. Yeah, he's putting up those boundaries.
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They're strong boundaries. Don't go harassed my girlfriend's parents. Mother
in law panicked and said she won't go there. Why
would she try to find their address then, because she's
not the type to start conflicts, or she.
Speaker 2 (15:17):
Called your parents to try to dispute it. I don't
think did she call She did, I'm gonna call your parents,
she threatened out, Oh yeah, I don't know if she
had their phone numbers. I think she was just threatening things. Overall.
Speaker 3 (15:28):
Mother in law is trying to act nice right now
so she can get boyfriend's trust back what happened, or
to get them in a comfortable position to start in
argument again. Now to some minor parts of the story,
mother in law insists I'm dragging boyfriend down and that
his academic performance went down since he's been dating me.
She asked about my final exam grade and was bitter
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when she heard I got an eight point eight five
boyfriend got an eight point eight eight. But I still
think she's in denial about it.
Speaker 2 (15:56):
Boom, But there is a little bit left to this story.
I know one of you has been in a situation
like this before with a crazy mother in law.
Speaker 6 (16:05):
I feel like I kind of have where my ex's
parents didn't want me around because her brother didn't like me. Yikes,
and so he's like, hey, you have to leave now
he's coming home.
Speaker 2 (16:16):
You have to leave. That's so weird.
Speaker 6 (16:18):
It really was weird, and I could have I couldn't
go out the same exit he was coming in.
Speaker 2 (16:22):
What Yeah, because he was going to like fighting.
Speaker 3 (16:25):
Oh my goodness, Oh my goodness. If I with parents
that kid, I'd be like, gin you get over it.
Speaker 2 (16:30):
He was twenty seven that still living with his parents.
I had a full salary. It's crazy. Wow, he was jealous.
I don't know, it's weird. That was a weird. That
guy was not really set up for success by his family.
Now and the mother in law is trying to rest
not set up for her son for success. But uh,
he's you're doing great, dude.
Speaker 3 (16:50):
You're you're trying to get out of there. You're trying
to set those boundaries keep going. Yeah, seemingly got a
nice girlfriend and op and just you know, find the
family members who are on your side and kind of
keep your distance from the.
Speaker 2 (17:03):
Ones that aren't. Boom.
Speaker 3 (17:04):
Mother in law told boyfriend about how much father in
law hates me. Boyfriend is taking this with a grain
of salt, but is still extremely concerned and angry, so
he refused to meet with father in law or let
him speak to me until they have a conversation and
boyfriend figures out who's lying. As of today, mother in
law has mostly respected boundaries no fights, no calls during
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our days together.
Speaker 2 (17:27):
Nothing. Boyfriend hasn't talked to father in law yet since
he has distanced himself from him a lot. Grandma, mother
in law's mom, gave boyfriend money with the condition that
he leaves me. Yikes.
Speaker 3 (17:38):
Oh, so the grandma is also on mom's side. She's like,
I take this money, take it and leave her, or
I'll pass away and it'll be your faulty.
Speaker 2 (17:49):
Well, it's inherited, like inherited, I guess, yeah, because you
brought up, you're gonna your grandma if you don't come home.
Grandma gave that I did it her, but he.
Speaker 7 (18:03):
Usued being that excuse strns really sticking in there.
Speaker 3 (18:09):
What mother in law started arguing with her to shut
up about me. Oh okay, now she's on your res'
side because she knows what will happen if she's not
or boyfriend will not come home to the him anymore.
So the conversation she had with boyfriend probably struck a nerve.
At least it worked, you know, she like very clearly
thinks that her relationship, you know, prizes her relationship with
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her son dude in a very unhealthy way.
Speaker 2 (18:32):
But how many, how many jars. Is this guy opening
around the house? Yeah? How many light bulbs is this
man fixing?
Speaker 8 (18:39):
Hey?
Speaker 2 (18:39):
Yeah, yay? How many plumbing his shoes is he taken
tending to I don't know.
Speaker 3 (18:44):
It's too helpful around the house. But uh, that is
the end of that story. Keep doing what you're doing. Ope,
and your boyfriend keep doing what he's doing.
Speaker 2 (18:52):
And this is a sign not to be so helpful
around the house. Yeah, I don't know. That's why I
have to helped Sophia out in months. Uh this lender
get used to me not being her No, not bad.
Speaker 3 (19:05):
Anyway, that's the end of that story, So we're gonna
jump into the next one.
Speaker 2 (19:08):
My mother in law loves the guilt trip me. I
don't know what to do. Guilt trip her back?
Speaker 6 (19:14):
My husband thirty mail and I thirty female. I've been
having a bit of trouble with my mother in law
fifties female since the birth of my son two mail.
To lay the base, my mother in law runs an
in home licensed daycare. She keeps as small with a
narrow age range because that's what she's comfortable with. She
currently has four children, one and a half day other
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than my son that visits she hasn't had more than
four children in her daycare since I've known my husband.
By the way, this comes from It's Levi essay and
if you want to smit your old stories, go to
the r slash.
Speaker 2 (19:45):
Okay, storytime supredded.
Speaker 6 (19:47):
So when I was pregnant with my son, my mother
in law kept telling us and everyone at any chance
that we got, how fortunate we are to have her
around because she would get free daycare. It was a
nice thought, and I appreciate it that she seemed like
she would always be there for us to help us out.
I also have a mother and three sisters, all of
whom who are nannies. By the way, yeah, she's got options.
Speaker 2 (20:10):
So piece like that's nice. You're one of one of many.
Thank you, though, good lie.
Speaker 6 (20:16):
After my son was born, we only got two visits
during the newborn period from hers, by her living twenty
minutes away. She said that was because I had family
around that would help, so she didn't think we needed her.
When she did visit, instead of bringing food, helping clean,
or watching the baby so we could all rest, all
she and my father in law wanted to do was
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play board games with us, and I found it odd
and exhausting, but accepted it as one of her quirks.
I was just happy that she was around. As my
son got older, it became clear that my mother in
law was not at all comfortable with newborns. She didn't
want to watch him without one of us around, which
again was fine, but she did judge every call we
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made in regard to our son. We were burping him
too hard, you'll make his heart stop. That went as
far as asking what certifications the nurse who had told
us that we were in fact burping correctly.
Speaker 2 (21:12):
Let me see what school that nurse went to. Yeah,
She's like, I'll buy it. Girl, You're not even comfortable
holding the baby. What do you know? Looks crazy because
you were a parent. How are you're not comfortable holding
a baby? Yeah? Weird? I want to listen to anything.
I'd be like, uh, thank you. But if you're not
gonna be helpful, then I got three other people here. Yeah,
who can be? I don't know. I mean my niece.
Speaker 6 (21:34):
I think I could hang out with my newborn niece,
but she starts crying, I'm gonna be Uncomfortable'm like.
Speaker 2 (21:39):
What do I do? Poop?
Speaker 6 (21:42):
She even called my mother to tattle on me for
propping a bottle for him, because that's not up to
daycare standards.
Speaker 3 (21:49):
Dude, she's not even at daycare or oh wait, what
does she say for propping them propping.
Speaker 2 (21:55):
Up a bottle? It's not up to daycare standards, dude.
Is she at the daycare when I'm so, she's at
home feeding your kids.
Speaker 3 (22:02):
She's at home and the ground. The mother's like, that's
not daycast down. She's like, I'm not add the daycare.
Speaker 2 (22:09):
What do you mean?
Speaker 6 (22:10):
Then, at any family gathering we attended, she would literally
just come up and snatch my son from my arms
and hold him so everyone could see her holding him.
Speaker 2 (22:21):
Yeah, she's just doing the lion king. She's like, see
I have the child. Oh my gosh, dude. Again whatever,
it's her thing.
Speaker 6 (22:28):
I guess I was really annoyed that she would just
snatch him without asking or even signaling that she wanted him,
But I wasn't going to make a fight over wanting
to hold my son. I feel now that she's getting
more and more controlling as the years have gone by.
I guess it's closer she's getting daycare age. Yeah, it's
gonna be way more controlling.
Speaker 2 (22:48):
Yup.
Speaker 7 (22:49):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (22:49):
The second that that kid can go into daycare, she's like,
can bright me's mine ring ring the child.
Speaker 6 (22:55):
My mother in law has begrudgingly watched my son on
the odd day that I need to get something done,
I'm gonna stay at home. It was never my plan,
but it just kind of happened, starting around one and
a half, with a little consistency like once a week,
sometimes twice. Then it morphed into if he stays, I
should stay too and help her out. Basically, it's turned
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to me being her unpaid assistant whatever my son is
in daycare. You think that's how she often says what
a huge favor she's doing for us when she watches him,
that he's a bad kid, or spoiled or something. He
really isn't. He's intelligent, a guid. Everyone that spends time
with my son falls in love with him. He's also
well spoken for a two year old. Even says hello
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and thank you, often without even being asked to do so.
There have been several times that I've been frustrated with
her because she's canceled on me or changes the plan
without telling me.
Speaker 2 (23:50):
For example, when my son was.
Speaker 6 (23:52):
A few months old, she was going to come and
take me shopping or something while my husband spent some
time canoeing with my father fun. She told me she
would pick me up right after church in the morning.
She decided without telling me, she would spend the morning
with her husband and go late to church. So I'm
left with an infant who I'm not sure if I
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should put down for a nap because his grandma is
supposed to be there to pick us up.
Speaker 2 (24:16):
My husband and I share one car. She later insists
it wasn't a big deal because she just changed the
plan to accommodate her husband. Oh lovely, Mmmm, not the
person you're gonna pick up it's Opie's husband. Okay, yeah, yeah,
she's not. She doesn't care about like actually helping take
care of ever your kid. She just didn't seem to
understand that I didn't care what she did, or even
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that she was late. I just find it rude changing
plans or cancel without communicating or getting time to accommodate.
She often canceled a daycare day for my son while
I was getting him ready to go into the car.
Literally every time she's canceled on me, it's been this short.
I honestly.
Speaker 3 (24:56):
I mean, I know it's really hard to get childcare for,
you know, your kids, but I feel like it's kind
of like a.
Speaker 2 (25:02):
Three strikes rule. Okay, if she's left.
Speaker 3 (25:04):
You in a lerge multiple times with this short of notice,
I feel like you gotta find someone else who's more
reliable and just be like, hey, I understand, you know
you want to help out, but you're not reliable and
I need someone who is.
Speaker 6 (25:17):
Yeah, yeah, that makes sense. This all kind of came
to a boiling point this weekend, after two years of this.
She had agreed to watch my son on Saturday so
my husband and I could go to my aunt's fiftieth
birthday party. I also had to go to a baby
shower that same morning, which I was bringing my son to.
My husband had to work that morning. She sent me
a text while I was at this baby shower. Hi,
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I'm really sick with the severe cold and sore throat,
so I can't talk. Do you want grandson around me?
Speaker 2 (25:46):
Also?
Speaker 6 (25:46):
If I get worse, I'm not sure if I'll be
able to watch him. I was again annoyed.
Speaker 3 (25:51):
Do you want grandson around me? Is so like, well,
you know, if you're a good parent. You wouldn't You
wouldn't subject your son to me to my sickness. I
feel like she's not even sick.
Speaker 2 (26:02):
No, she probably isn't. She's probably got like a sniffle.
Hey could drop on the phone real quick. Yeah, hey,
call you. It's just like yikes.
Speaker 6 (26:10):
I wasn't annoyed, but this was the first time that
she gave me more than an hour's warning. So I
forded the text to my husband so we could see
if his coworker, who has been asking to watch our
son was available. She was on vacation, so she was out.
Speaker 2 (26:24):
Dang.
Speaker 6 (26:25):
I got out of the baby shower after my husband
had gotten off work. I needed a nap because I'm
thirty three weeks pregnant and I've been exhausted. And his
mother proceeds to call and yell at us for not
calling her immediately to check and see how she's feeling.
Speaker 2 (26:39):
You just said he could watched him. Basically, Yeah, I
just think you didn't. Yeah. I just told you I
was sick and you didn't call it.
Speaker 3 (26:46):
Yeah, and she's calling to yell at you with her
with her law your wait a second, Yeah, the voice
that she supposedly doesn't have a Sophia.
Speaker 2 (26:53):
Did she say she'd have a voice, Yeah, she did
say that.
Speaker 5 (26:56):
Funny.
Speaker 2 (26:56):
Funny how that works. Hmmm. They told us that of
course she was still willing to watch him. Why would
we assume she couldn't watch him because she said she
couldn't watch him.
Speaker 6 (27:06):
Then Monday, she texts me and request that my son
and I join her at daycare on Wednesday because she
has Bible study Tuesday and Thursday. With it being six
weeks until her next baby is do. I text her
back saying I didn't think that I would be able
to make it this week because I have a lot
to do this week to get ready for the baby,
so I need to be at home.
Speaker 2 (27:25):
I thought that was the end.
Speaker 6 (27:26):
She text me back asking if my husband can just
drop him off before work that day pick him up afterwards.
He works from twelve to eight thirty PM. I text
him and let him know we should talk through it
because we've both generally been thinking about not doing daycare
Monday through Thursday, since with that being his work schedule,
it doesn't seem fair to our son. He goes to
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sleep there, but since she won't allow him to sleep over,
we wake up around eleven to go home. After two
and a half hours, she sends me this passive aggressive text.
So this is a tough decision about having husband drop
off grandson tomorrow.
Speaker 2 (28:04):
I thought you'd be pleased at this offer. What I
don't even know what she's what she's saying.
Speaker 6 (28:10):
Oh, since I didn't ask you, Yeah, I suggest that
someone else do it.
Speaker 2 (28:14):
Yeah, it should be happy. He's just the other parent
who also isn't available, Like what in they share car?
You're not helpful at all, mother in law.
Speaker 6 (28:23):
I did dex back because I was busy taking care
of my son while running errands all day. Like I
told her, I had a lot to do. I didn't
think that two and a half hours was enough time
to get upset like that. She even called my husband
to check and see if.
Speaker 2 (28:36):
I was okay. Oh man, what not? Dude? If I'm married,
I'm just thinking of Angie at this point. Yeah. If
I'm married Angie and someone calls me, hey, how's Angie feeling,
I'd respond, you should probably check with her. Yeah, why
are you calling me? Like, why aren't you calling your
son literal son? Oh boy?
Speaker 6 (28:57):
My husband didn't talk to her that night, and she
went off the wall, yelling at him. He talked about
how we can't just hold it against her that she
got sick.
Speaker 2 (29:06):
We weren't.
Speaker 6 (29:07):
We weren't even going to bring it up with her
because people get sick and sometimes she deserves time off.
But she kept yelling at my husband for things like, oh,
and thanks for not calling your mother this weekend to
see how she was feeling since you knew she was sick,
and how hard she works for us while she's watching
our son.
Speaker 3 (29:26):
Yeah, if you can, if you can afford anything else,
or if you can bring her to your your mom,
your sister.
Speaker 2 (29:32):
This is not worth it.
Speaker 6 (29:34):
It doesn't seem very mother in law of her to
bring up I'm doing so much for you.
Speaker 2 (29:40):
Yeah, blah blah blah blah blah, you owe me. It's
like feeling this out of the kindness of your heart.
This was actual love. Love has no score.
Speaker 3 (29:48):
No, she said the daycare was free, but there's no
such thing as a free lunch. You're paying, your paying
a lot, and that's through having to listen to her whining.
Speaker 6 (29:58):
Yep, that's uh, that's what that Jerry's Sinfield episode. Oh man,
that's such a good one, oh Man classic. And also
it's not that much extra work watching him now that
he used too, because he fits into her daycare. It's
all about the daycare and how we don't appreciate how
hard she works and that we can't consider her an
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unreliable form of childcare. She only calls and cancels on
me because I'm not working, so it's fine. So basically
from what my husband told me, she admitted that she
knowingly cancels on me without notice because she doesn't respect
my time because I'm a stay at home mom, but
I'm supposed to drop everything I'm doing during the day
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to answer her every text and call because she doesn't
think I'm doing anything all day. Dude, this is I
feel like my mom wrote this. Yeah, because my grandma
does this to.
Speaker 2 (30:52):
My mom a lot.
Speaker 6 (30:53):
She's like, I can only be on my time, dada YadA,
this YadA YadA. That can't do this all the time,
and it's all it's all of my mom because she
she does work at the Sawmeal Song, but she is
basically staying home mom, like helping out with stuff. She's
a point person for like basically three families.
Speaker 2 (31:09):
Yeah, she's doing a lot of work. She's it's crazy. Yeah,
Oh dude, no.
Speaker 3 (31:14):
And I mean, like, I'm tricky for Ope and her
husband who are trying to you know, parent this new
child and then also have another one on the way
and then have a mother in law Sash his mom.
Every time she helps it comes with a side of
like her harassment.
Speaker 6 (31:32):
Yeah, basically ugh. And he brought up that I help
her whenever I do stay during her daycare.
Speaker 2 (31:39):
Yeah nope, he's always roped into being an assistant. She
said that that's what I owed her to say the least.
Then we brought up how we're not paying her for daycare.
Speaker 4 (31:46):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (31:47):
Yeah, if she's got a hold that over your.
Speaker 6 (31:49):
Head, I just don't know what to do about the
situation anymore. She has a tendency to throw temper tantrums
whenever she doesn't exactly get her way. She will even
do silent treatment as an adult we are adult children,
which I don't feel is necessarily a healthy thing to
do to resolve an issue. It just feels like an
emotional manipulation to me. But again, I would love some
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perspective and help. My mother thinks we should just not
use her day care services and make her realize that
she's then missing time with her only grandkit. I just
don't know what to do. I've never met someone who
has shown that much disrespect to me and felt justified
in it. I obviously don't want to cut her off
from seeing my son, but I don't want him growing
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up with such negativity and feeling unwanted.
Speaker 2 (32:36):
Advice. We got an update again the phone screen time out.
Speaker 3 (32:42):
Yeah, and I also think it's you don't necessarily have
to cut her off from seeing her grandson, but you
at least cut her off from taking care of him
on daycare.
Speaker 2 (32:52):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (32:52):
Again, if you can't afford it somewhere else, because this
is not it's not worth having to the aggravation or
also the lack of.
Speaker 2 (33:01):
Reliability from her. Oh yeah, I constantly canceling on you.
That's like that.
Speaker 3 (33:06):
You don't want that from a daycare, from any other
professional daycare, that would not happen.
Speaker 2 (33:11):
Yeah, agreed, agreed. H update, Hey it's Sam.
Speaker 1 (33:14):
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Speaker 2 (33:18):
We had to.
Speaker 6 (33:18):
Cancel last Friday with my mother in law because she
caught us off guard and I forgot how we made
plans with my mom to go visit and my grandfather
with the grand babies and they're Halloween costumes. We told
her we would drop off her son the next Friday.
Turns out my grandfather was sent to the hospital with
aemonia Thursday night. We decided I had to call her
because it was late. We don't expect her to drop
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everything last minute for daycare. Maybe this was our mistake,
but I feel like anything we would have done in
this situation was wrong. Oh well, we found out that
my grandfather had passed away on Halloween.
Speaker 2 (33:52):
I'm sorry.
Speaker 6 (33:53):
It was a very sudden and shocked all of us.
We haven't heard from her the rest of the week
until we got an email from my husband's brother. It
was one of the ugliest emails I've ever read. Basically,
it said that we were horrible people. They've been rude
and unthankful to my in laws ever since my son
was born. He could tell because of our body language. Also,
apparently they've changed their plans around to suit us. News
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to me, considering we've gone out of our way to
adjust to my mother in law's schedule, and apparently, according
to her, we've entirely disowned her and have threatened to
never allow her to see Nathan. Again, all of this
is new to me.
Speaker 2 (34:29):
But she has a history of throwing tantrums and lie
to get her away. She's literally lying, and at this
point now you know that she's gonna lie to everyone
around you to get her way, and that you can't
put up with that.
Speaker 3 (34:42):
You have to set those boundaries and say, okay, oh
we're not thankful, then.
Speaker 2 (34:46):
We won't take your services anymore. The easy, easy fix,
No more Nathan for you. Yeah, ahha, funny.
Speaker 6 (34:54):
We tried calling all of them immediately to schedule a
time to talk in person because this is all gotten
out of hand. All of their phones rang three times
before going to voicemail. Turns out all three of them
were at lunch together.
Speaker 2 (35:05):
Huh yeah, they're all emailing. You're like nah, which we say, ooh,
that's good.
Speaker 6 (35:10):
My mother in law to sent me a text saying
that they were having lunch with my brother in law
and wanted to do this talk in person. I responded
and said I agreed. Three hours later, they said that
they were leaving my brother in law's place. It was
six thirty at the time. My son's bedtime in seven thirty,
so obviously this talk wasn't happening this weekend, as soon
a text last night asking when we should come over
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to talk. I've yet gotten a response. I've been really
upset this whole time, crying several times because of the
initial accusations. But I'm not sure what I should do.
I don't quite know what action to take. I don't
think it's going to be feasible to completely cut them out,
but boundaries need to be made, obviously.
Speaker 2 (35:51):
I am just definitely feeling like this has been more
of a power play than genuine emotional upset on her part,
mostly because nobody has been contacting us to try instead
of time to sit down and resolve this. Yeah, because
they know what's up.
Speaker 3 (36:06):
They know, they know they're trying to get They know
that you are in need of her help in taking
care of your kid, or they think that you are,
and so they're gonna use that power to assert their dominance.
Speaker 2 (36:20):
Yeah, And they're.
Speaker 3 (36:22):
Use that that need of yours to assert their dominance.
And then you can set those boundaries and say, actually
we don't need you.
Speaker 2 (36:28):
Yeah, thank you. There you go.
Speaker 6 (36:30):
I feel like if she was really feeling like we
just owned her, wouldn't it be a priority to her
to have contact us and schedule a time to resolve this.
Speaker 2 (36:38):
Am I wrong?
Speaker 6 (36:39):
I'm just not sure what course of action to take
to cause the least amount of drama. I think I'm
losing my voice. No, my husband has been fuming about this,
and we'll support his family.
Speaker 2 (36:51):
Me and my son.
Speaker 6 (36:52):
Nice that it could have been another way. Yeah, we
got an update.
Speaker 2 (36:56):
Yikes.
Speaker 3 (36:58):
Well you know what positive? Your husband's on your side. Yeah,
he's not back in his crazy mom.
Speaker 2 (37:04):
Oh my god. Ah.
Speaker 3 (37:05):
And you're just gonna have to set boundaries and it sucks.
And I know you don't want to cut contact.
Speaker 2 (37:09):
You don't necessarily have to cut contact completely, but you
definitely can't rely on her for daycare or any sort
of Yeah, she's out of the question there. Yep. Salvage
something maybe, hopefully, but you know not right now, she's
spreading lives. It's not worth it. No update too.
Speaker 6 (37:27):
My mother in law finally texted me and wanted to
schedule the time to talk things out. My husband and
I have talked and decided this is really her last chance.
Speaker 2 (37:35):
It isn't really.
Speaker 6 (37:36):
Feasible for us to completely cut contact out of our life,
but if she's unwilling to accept anything, we have to
say we're willing to go that route. We are going
to stay strong with the facts and not get caught
up in her gas lighting. We're also not going to
talk without my father in law present. He has stuck
up for us in the past during a situation where
what we said was logical. We'll see how this goes,
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but honestly, I'm not going to get my home up
that she'll listen or totally prepared to walk out for
the long haul if we need to. It's become a
parent that this has all just been a power play.
Speaker 2 (38:09):
Yeah, I think that's it. That's all you can do
right now.
Speaker 3 (38:12):
Yes, Like if you need to create some boundaries and
create some walls.
Speaker 2 (38:18):
Super smart to have a father in law there, Yeah, absolutely, Yeah,
I think I've been everyone there getting ears about what's
actually exactly instead of her spreading lies and manipulating people.
Maybe even get the brother in law in law yeah
and be like, hey, you thought you said all those
nasty things to me, this is what actually is going.
Speaker 6 (38:34):
On, and you can listen but not say a word. Yeah,
that's in that story. We got one more for you, guys.
Speaker 3 (38:40):
My mother in law treats me terribly but acts innocent
around my husband.
Speaker 6 (38:44):
I didn't do anything.
Speaker 3 (38:46):
I am a white female married to an Indian male,
both in our thirties. While I understand in that culture
it is common to have your parents come to stay
with you for months every year when living abroad, this
situation feels crazy to me.
Speaker 2 (39:00):
That's normal.
Speaker 3 (39:01):
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Speaker 2 (39:07):
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Speaker 3 (39:09):
So in the last four years they have come three times,
each time being longer than the last. This time around,
they are here for four months the whole summer.
Speaker 2 (39:19):
That's wild, not girl summer, parents summer.
Speaker 3 (39:25):
These are my issues with their visits and why I
told my husband I can no longer handle them living
in the house with us. Personal hygiene and cleansiness are
a huge issue. They don't wash their hands after going
to the bathroom, we're before cooking or touching food.
Speaker 2 (39:39):
Yuck.
Speaker 3 (39:39):
They don't clean up after themselves, and if mother in
law sometimes washes dishes, she does a terrible job. I
can still see her lipstick on the cups after she
washes them. When father in law uses the bathroom, he
peas all over the floor every time? Are these children?
Speaker 2 (39:55):
What ease? Get some aim dogs? Sometimes a few spots
on the floor or other times full on puddles.
Speaker 3 (40:02):
You what the first time that would happened, I would
talk to my husband immediately and be like, this is
unacceptable and gross and I won't live like this, or
get the potty train them, or get them pads. They
both wear sandals in the house and walk in it
without oh, without realizing it and track it all over
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the house.
Speaker 2 (40:24):
Are these like dogs like they're walking in their own pea?
This is insane? These are adults. How are they acting
like this? That I should know that?
Speaker 3 (40:36):
There are some health and balance issues with father in law,
but he has too much pride to accept or use
any type of medical devices and guards on the toilet
to help him or sit down to pete. I'm usually
the one cleaning it up literally, no, no, no, I'd
be like, hey, husband, you clean this up right now.
Speaker 2 (40:54):
Get your parents out of my house. I'm not cleaning
up your dad's pee.
Speaker 3 (40:58):
You They both leave the house the whole day, so
there's no privacy or space from them. Mother in law
is quite rude and ignores me when I speak, or
just cuts me off anytime I try to talk. She
plays it off innocent with my husband, like she doesn't
realize she's doing that and doesn't mean to. But I
don't buy that. Mother in law will act very different
when my husband isn't around. All kinds of small things
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that add up. For example, if I'm mopping the floor,
she'll walk over the spot I just finished mopping. They
can be pretty destructive to our home and usually break
quite a few things when they come, like cupboards and
doors from slamming them too aggressively, not using exhaust fans
when taking showers so mold grows, et cetera. They use
mothballs back in their home in India. When they come here.
Speaker 2 (41:43):
Everything they bring a reeks like.
Speaker 3 (41:45):
Mothballs, and I never ever have been able to fully
get the smell out of the room they stay in.
Mothball fumes are highly toxic, and we also have a cat.
If they leave the door open, the smell goes through
the rest of the house and stinks for hours.
Speaker 2 (41:59):
Oh my god.
Speaker 3 (42:00):
They show zero signs of empathy, remorse, or any other
feelings towards how they affect us or our home. It
seems as though they genuinely don't care about anyone but themselves.
Mother in law expects my husband to pay for everything
for them and shows no appreciation, not even a simple
thank you. When my husband tries to talk to them
about their behavior, mother in law sends him a massive
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text message guilt tripping us for having some type of
living standards and boundaries. These messages will be things along
the lines of we will just leave and never come back. Yeah, please,
I'll just stay in India with little money in my
bank account while you live your life here, even though
it's because of me you got to move in the
first place. I could write a novel with all the
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specific moments that have happened in the last three visits.
These have been ongoing issues every time they come, and
it only gets worse. I also can't help but feel
that mother in law is very calculated and manipulative and
knows exactly what she's doing. I sometimes wonder if she's trying.
Speaker 2 (43:00):
To push me out.
Speaker 3 (43:01):
Yeah, yes, she's absolutely trying to push you out of
the house.
Speaker 2 (43:06):
This is like psychological warfare. This is crazy.
Speaker 3 (43:10):
And if your husband either one, go talk to your husband,
say this is what's been going on, and if he
says anything other than I'm so sorry, I'll get them
out then have a way more serious conversation or leave.
Speaker 2 (43:23):
He needs to go talk to that night, to your
own boy. We read about her. Yeah, he's much more
mature than this, because you.
Speaker 6 (43:28):
Are family now, and if your extended family isn't one
to listen, you gotta get him out of there.
Speaker 2 (43:34):
Agreed.
Speaker 3 (43:35):
So am I the Ale for putting my foot down
and refusing to allow these long term visits in the future.
Even though she's saying she has no money, Well, then
why is she spending money on a flight? She was
considering buying a second property in India.
Speaker 2 (43:48):
So I don't believe that. I think they are fully
capable of getting a short term rental when they come
and there is an update.
Speaker 3 (43:55):
But no, you're not the Ale. No, no, I would
demand that. I'd be like, uh no, they're not standing here.
They're disgusting. They're leaving their little pea puddles everywhere. Yes,
it's gross and your husband needs to go to therapy.
If he's like, oh, well, they're my family, I get like, no.
If they're not going to respect the house, by good riddance.
(44:15):
But there is an update, and I'm really open that
ope people talk some sense into her husband.
Speaker 2 (44:21):
Ugh, that's the pea puddles for me. H, No.
Speaker 3 (44:24):
It's disgusting. And then tracking them through the house. Oh,
my husband sees the issue here and has spoken to
them multiple times about these issues. They just never change
or don't care. I think he's stuck in a tough
place because he doesn't want to hurt anyone's feelings.
Speaker 2 (44:40):
I do.
Speaker 3 (44:40):
I spoke to him and told him bluntly how I
feel and that I don't want any future long term visits.
He agrees with me. I just hope this doesn't cause
resentment one day and ruin our marriage. I mean, you
already have resentment for his parents, so if they stay here,
you're gonna have resentment for sure. If they don't, you
might have resentment, but you can work it out. He's amazing,
(45:01):
and it would be devastating to divorce over his parents.
Like I said, his mom is a master at guilt
tripping and making him feel like a terrible person.
Speaker 2 (45:09):
And there is a second update. John here og host.
Speaker 1 (45:11):
We're gonna get back to these stories, but a quick
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Speaker 2 (45:15):
My in laws will officially no longer be staying with us. Hooray, Yeah,
let's go. Since my original post, I started noticing things
misplaced in my and my husband's room. Oh.
Speaker 3 (45:29):
I know it sounds crazy of me, but she definitely
brings it out of me. I asked my husband if
he's okay with it if I set up a camera
in the room an arm it when he and myself
were both gone. He agreed, so I set it up.
I now a video footage of my mother in law
going in the room, rummaging through everything thoroughly, like she
owns the place and everything in it. I also watched
(45:50):
her steal some of my items out of our room.
When I got home from work, I noticed she left
a sweater in there while she was busy trying on
my blouses and stealing one of them.
Speaker 6 (46:00):
What.
Speaker 3 (46:01):
I confronted her with it, and she gave me some
lame excuse after first pretending she didn't know what it
was bro I then asked her bluntly if she had
been rummaging through my room. Of course, she lied and
then sent me very long text messages trying to guilt,
trip me and make me feel terrible for accusing her
of such things. I won't get into too much detail
of the text since it was basically a short novel,
(46:23):
but to sum it up, it was saying I was
shocked she was at accusations, how she's basically the best
person ever and would never do anything like that, and
now everyone loves her, how I hurt her feelings. The
actual texts in full would blow your mind. It really
goes to show how manipulative and good of a liar
she is. I did give her some opportunities over the
next week after to come clean and be honest without
(46:45):
forcing her to by showing her the videos. She didn't.
Instead just trashed me some more. So I showed her
the videos in private and let her watch herself stealing.
She still just kept repeating that she he wasn't stealing
and had some other dumb excuses.
Speaker 2 (47:03):
How's her she does? How's her hands not red?
Speaker 5 (47:05):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (47:05):
What?
Speaker 3 (47:06):
No, she's been caught redhead And she's like, no, no, no,
this is I ah, my hands just look like that.
Speaker 6 (47:11):
Normally it's someone else's someone else's hands, that's AI.
Speaker 3 (47:16):
She's like that, we're in person. She's like, it's a
I don't know how they do it. I have showed
my husband as well, and he no longer wants them
to stay here in the future. Either you got some
prove because he I mean, without the proof, she probably
would have been like, your wife is accusing me and
I never would do that.
Speaker 2 (47:34):
She's a liar. How does her husband not have her what?
This is wild?
Speaker 3 (47:38):
So I guess I never had to put my foot down.
She basically banned herself from staying with us.
Speaker 2 (47:43):
Nice. My husband has yet to talk to her about
the videos. Update three We have a third one third
update and I hope my my husband never or my
husband cut off his mom or like the parents went home,
listened to it and got their flight back home.
Speaker 3 (47:58):
Oh yikes, hopefully not that, but I hope they're home
and not here. Up date three, my husband finally had
the talk with his mom. It took so long because
she doesn't want her husband to know about any of this,
so she'll only talk about it when he is sleeping
before her or away from the property, which never happens.
We didn't get any type of reaction we would have
(48:18):
wanted or hoped for it. She gave them a meaningless
sorry and said she didn't know why she did it,
just tried to blame it on issues she has with
her husband. She never fully accepted or admitted to all
the things she did. My husband also tried to ask
her if she had an issue with me based on
her behavior every single visit. She also said no, no issues.
I was really hoping she would take this time to
(48:39):
be honest and put everything on the table to maybe
work through any issues, but obviously that will never happen.
He did tell her that they will no longer be
welcome to stay with us in the future for any
amount of time. They would have to get their own
place or short term rental. But there is a little
bit left to this story.
Speaker 2 (48:56):
Any final thoughts.
Speaker 6 (48:57):
We won.
Speaker 2 (48:58):
We did it. One you on the water.
Speaker 4 (49:00):
She's out and you have blackmail. Yeah, you have a
literal proof of her. This is horrible, But you have
proof of her stealing. Yeah, that she doesn't want her
husband to know. Well, if she keeps acting out, guess
who's gonna know?
Speaker 2 (49:14):
Yeap, yep, I guess that's the way it's gotta be.
Or she could just leave. Yeah, she and her husband
can go, and if they want to come visit, they
can go get a place, stay in a hotel. I
don't care, stay away, You and your pea podles can
go somewhere else disgusting.
Speaker 3 (49:30):
Now we just wait out the last twoish weeks till
they leave. We don't speak to each other at all,
except for her fake good morning in front of her
husband so he doesn't suspect her of any wrongdoing. She
likes to blame him for everything that goes wrong and
doesn't like to recognize her own faults Selfishly, I was
hoping it would make her want to leave sooner after
my husband called her out for her behavior because we
(49:51):
now have to redo a bathroom and a half father
in law flooded the basement bathroom and as you know,
pissed all over the other one y what and redo
the bedroom They stand because of the moth bell smell
and also because it's super awkward and uncomfortable in.
Speaker 2 (50:06):
The outday center. An invoice peeze.
Speaker 3 (50:10):
Yeah, I'd be like, hey, this is for all the
damages that you guys cast in the house and also
emotional damages because I.
Speaker 2 (50:15):
Hate you guys. Ah terrible. How how do people live
like this?
Speaker 3 (50:20):
I have no idea, but good on you for standing
up for yourself and your husband for listening to you
and standing up for himself. Go pee outside again, Peez,
you can't. You're not trusted to do it inside. You're
terrible at it. Well that's the end of this episode
and the end.
Speaker 4 (50:36):
Of this Oh you said it, ha ha I stole
your words, dang it.
Speaker 3 (50:41):
But that she be able to do with herself. So
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