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r/AITAH - AITA for cutting my wife's stepmother off from my kids until she deletes her Instagram account?
r/AITAH - AITA for yelling at my mother after she kept pestering us about grandchildren?
r/AITAH - AITA for screaming and banning my step mother after what she said to my mother?
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey, this is Sam. This is John the og story
time podcast host.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
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Speaker 1 (00:06):
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from the sponsors that keep this show propped up like
a little house.
Speaker 3 (00:12):
Oh yeah, my stepmother than a law keeps posting pictures
of our kids online.
Speaker 4 (00:17):
So we threaten to cut her off.
Speaker 1 (00:19):
Or is she saying that these are my kids, like, hey,
look at my kids. She's trying manifest, manifest manifest, No,
don't do it. The secret babies. My wife and I have.
Speaker 3 (00:30):
Two children, eight male and five female, and we are
expecting a third. Since our oldest was born, we have
been clear and consistent about not wanting pictures of them
posted online. It was my it was my wife's idea,
but mutual decision.
Speaker 1 (00:42):
So that that's a thing that's like like people are
doing nowadays. They're like, oh, like, I don't know, of
having our children everywhere online is a good idea. All
the cool y Casey Nistat doesn't post his kids online,
and he's a cool guy, and he's a cool guy.
Speaker 4 (00:54):
That's a very freaking cool guy you know who also.
Speaker 1 (00:56):
Doesn't post her kids. Oh I think Jeff Bezos probably true,
but he doesn't have kids, so that's probably one of
the main He.
Speaker 4 (01:05):
Just has these bad boys.
Speaker 1 (01:06):
Yeah, dude, Jeff is freaking out.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
Absolutely.
Speaker 4 (01:10):
Yea, let's get him and Mark Zuckerberg and a ring team.
I'd do. My money is a Mark, I'd pay for that.
I don't know. Bro bro freaking bro Lex Luthor versus
like frat boy. He's not a frat boy, but he
looks like one with his curly hair.
Speaker 1 (01:26):
Dude, but he trains jiu jitsu. Now he's like a
BJJ champion.
Speaker 4 (01:33):
He is a BADDY champion. Have you seen that emphasis
on the I have seen a little bit.
Speaker 1 (01:37):
I know where you're going. I know the emphasis on
the the first two letters.
Speaker 2 (01:40):
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Speaker 3 (01:44):
Oh god, but you know this story came from Mission
Atmosphere sixteen. And if you want to send me your
own stories, go to the arsat Shokey story Time, subur
send it in.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
We might read it.
Speaker 3 (01:52):
So most of our friends and family have no problem
with that, but we've had problems with my wife's stepmother.
She has on several occasions posted photos of her children
on her Instagram without our consent, crossing the line granny.
Most are harmless pictures of her with them or family
photos with more people in them, but there have been
a few times she took pictures of the kids behind
(02:14):
their backs and posted them. Every time we see it's
just a bad picture.
Speaker 1 (02:18):
If it's behind their back.
Speaker 4 (02:19):
Though, dude, be it better photography?
Speaker 1 (02:21):
Yeah, get try of them like you want? You want
in front of their back?
Speaker 4 (02:26):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (02:26):
Well, I guess is behind their back? Wait, if you're
taking a picture, yeah, if you're taking a picture behind
the back, then you're getting someone's back exactly. Yeah, you
want to see like this the face. But also I
feel like in front of behind the back almost feels
like it's like it like like this is but my
(02:47):
front is behind my back.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
I think you're a dude. You're diving deep into this, dude.
Speaker 1 (02:52):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (02:52):
Anyway, every time we see a photo of our children
on Instagram page, we tell her to delete it. She
always does, but the next time she sees them it
happens again. We've been having this discussion with her daughter
since our daughter was born. She never listens. I want
to ask real quick, everyone in chatt and comments and Sam,
how many you set this boundary with your stepmother? How
(03:15):
many times? Does she have to like post before you
do cut off where it was like you can't see
the kids anymore. You told her to No, she keeps
posting fifteen fifteen, Wow, I think ten. Maybe guys, let
us know in the comments what your number is. I'm
very I'm very curious to.
Speaker 1 (03:35):
Say, only because like this, it's such a normal behavior
to like post pictures of people, so it's like a
hard behavior to unlearned. So fifteen chances seems.
Speaker 3 (03:45):
Like a lot of chances. That's an ample themount. I
think you're giving them a good opportunity. So my family
spent New Year's Eve at a rented beach house with
some of my wife's paternal family. We returned home on
January first. That same day, my wife's stepmother posted several
pictures from the trip. Buried between them were three photos
of our kids on the beach. They're wearing swimsuits, except
(04:07):
for one of the pictures, don't seem aware they're being photographed.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
My wife and I talked and we both call.
Speaker 1 (04:12):
A candid That's that's what everyone's doing these days, the
candid Instagram. That's what's most important. That's what that's what Yeah, dude,
my my, my Instagram very UNCANDID I need to I
need to get on it.
Speaker 3 (04:27):
Yeah, bro, we we don't post. We post one hundred
times a day on the show and zero times zero.
Speaker 1 (04:32):
Yeah, I know I need to get I need to.
I want my Instagram to be aesthetic.
Speaker 4 (04:36):
We'll get there, guys.
Speaker 1 (04:38):
I wanted to be like like a like a like
a hot girl that only travels. I mean, that's that's
what I want. That's peak, that's peak, that's very peak. Now.
Speaker 3 (04:46):
My wife and I talked and we both agreed we'd
given her step mother enough chances. As long as she's
active on social media, she will continue posting pictures of
our children without our consent. We called her yesterday and
said that she he won't be allowed to see back
her kids unless she deletes her Instagram account.
Speaker 4 (05:04):
Ooh, okay, that's a poll. That's a poll.
Speaker 3 (05:07):
Delete ig or nah dold we tell her to delete
ig or nah.
Speaker 5 (05:12):
I'm very curious to hear what you have to say
under or under a thousand followers.
Speaker 1 (05:18):
Oh, like, if it's like if it's if it's over
a thousand followers, then.
Speaker 4 (05:21):
It's like, oh no, is it monetized?
Speaker 1 (05:24):
I would I feel I don't know, it's too much.
Speaker 3 (05:27):
Yeah, I think like deleting all the photos of your
kids totally, that is totally fair, totally reasonable.
Speaker 4 (05:34):
Yeah, deleting the whole account.
Speaker 3 (05:36):
She probably she probably just likes posting memories like it's
like it's like a photo book, you.
Speaker 4 (05:41):
Know, a family.
Speaker 1 (05:42):
I mean like, for example, my dad takes way too
many pictures at every event.
Speaker 4 (05:47):
You know, he just but he just likes. He just
likes having He just likes having pictures. It's cute.
Speaker 1 (05:50):
It's like he's not gonna he's not doing anything with it.
He just likes he likes just like having them. Yeah,
and I think a lot of people's instagrams are the same.
I think it's too much, it's too I think it's
too much. But I love knowing you guys.
Speaker 2 (06:00):
Let us know.
Speaker 3 (06:00):
So that means that she won't have any kind of
contact with them, receive pictures, or be invited to their events.
She cried during the call and tried to promise us
that she would delete the New Year's Eve post and
never do anything like that again. But we told her
that we can't trust her. She can keep her account
if she wants to, but she won't be allowed or
but she won't be allowed near our kids if she does.
(06:20):
My father in law, who's also against posting pictures of
children on social media, called my wife last night. He
agreed that her stepmother crossed the line, but said cutting
her off from our children was an exaggeration.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
I agree. I agree with that completely, Like she crossed
the line by posting those pictures, which you specifically told
her not to. But it like to cut someone off
over that feels so aggressive?
Speaker 4 (06:43):
Yeah, cutting off is?
Speaker 3 (06:45):
Yeah, it is. It is aggressive. I'm chew on that one. Yeah,
because that's kind of a tricky one. He said that
she just started to make money with social media, but
she also loves our kids very much, and it's cruel
to force her to choose. She's monetized. It's monetizing. Granny's
trying to get her bag up. Okay, I don't think
(07:06):
that we're in the wrong here, but I'm still worried
we're taking this too far?
Speaker 4 (07:09):
Am I the A hole?
Speaker 3 (07:10):
We have some relevant comments coming up, but really quickly, first.
Speaker 2 (07:14):
Is ob the A hole?
Speaker 4 (07:15):
Yes?
Speaker 1 (07:15):
Or no? I want to say a hole because it's
your kids and you can decide like what yes you want,
But it seems overly strictly, yes, she crossed a boundary
that you specifically put and maybe yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
Yeah, it's not it's not a it's not quite an
a hole.
Speaker 3 (07:32):
It's not like fifty one percent a hole, but it
is it's too much, and it's it's not a crime
worthy of the punishment, or it's just.
Speaker 1 (07:40):
Like, hey, like we need proof that you're you're you're,
you're not going to do this, So I think we
need to take a break for like a month, And
maybe that accomplishes the the same thing as like saying
I feel like saying like like we're gonna take a
break from seeing you for a little bit because we
really like don't don't want this, but we'll see you
(08:02):
in a little bit. And then it's like you know,
you know when your iPhone you put in a password
too many times and it's like, hey, you can't, You're
not going to put in a password for the next minute,
and then you put in a password wrong again or
two minutes, and then I just like keeps going up
and up. I think you iPhone password her yep, where
it's like, hey, you put in too you made too
many boo boos. We're not going to see you for
(08:23):
like a month, and then you go again and she
she posts pictures of your kids two months. Yeah, I
go two months later she post pictures foret four months yep,
double yeah.
Speaker 4 (08:36):
That's the perfect solution.
Speaker 3 (08:37):
That's what I think I would do, because she because
that should teach any sane person their lesson.
Speaker 4 (08:41):
Or or or.
Speaker 3 (08:44):
Split on the revenue. Hey man, we gotta get this
is my kids we're talking about.
Speaker 1 (08:50):
We got to get compensated. We gotta we gotta bump
that up.
Speaker 3 (08:52):
Any I'm sorry, but that monstiction about to go to
me ninety ten kids, that's a that's a call run
right there.
Speaker 2 (09:00):
Okay, oh man, so we got some relevant comments.
Speaker 3 (09:03):
Commentary number one says, not the a hole she started
making money off of social media translates into my mind too.
She knows that posting kids will help engagement and pay more.
That is another thing I thought about that we haven't
talked about yet, and I would never allow that stand
your ground.
Speaker 1 (09:17):
You've given her true posting kids pays more.
Speaker 3 (09:20):
Well no, so think about this, right, if she just
started monetizing her account and then she noticed, like I mean,
it's like puppies, you know, cute kids or whatever, like, oh,
that probably she's got she's putting out granny content. Probably
cute grandkids is grade a freaking.
Speaker 1 (09:35):
Great granny influencers.
Speaker 3 (09:37):
Like, bro, they're out here, like here's here's my depends,
here's the top, here's my review of these.
Speaker 4 (09:43):
You know, all kinds of granny content.
Speaker 1 (09:44):
Man, who's the oldest influencer that you watch?
Speaker 3 (09:48):
Uh, there's the there's the house with all the old
people in it.
Speaker 1 (09:52):
Oh yeah, yeah, I know what you're talking about here
talking about Okay, yeah, yeah, Okay.
Speaker 4 (09:56):
That's gotta be that's they're pretty up there.
Speaker 2 (09:59):
Lo key, dude.
Speaker 3 (10:00):
Being old is a hack for creating content. By the way,
anyone out there that's like freaking old, but.
Speaker 1 (10:04):
You have to be old. You have to be old though, yeah,
like like I was. I was when I was searching
for Grandpa's in New York. There's like the cute grandpa factor. Yeah,
and you have to be like like eighty plus and
then you're like a cute grandpa, but like eighty minus,
you're not like cute yet. Yeah, you have to do
be like like a little bit more frail and a
little bit more helpless, and then you get into cute,
(10:27):
cute territory.
Speaker 2 (10:27):
Yeah, like Paris, that's cute, dude.
Speaker 4 (10:31):
But then our generation, it's just gonna be a lot
of old people on social media. It's gonna be rad
it's gonna be sick, it's gonna be but it's just
gonna be like, oh, it's another old person.
Speaker 2 (10:42):
True, so get it while you can.
Speaker 1 (10:45):
No, I think, I think. I think social media is
generally a young person game. A lot of people, a
lot of people die out.
Speaker 4 (10:51):
Let me ask you this, Are you gonna stop creating
content at eight years old?
Speaker 1 (10:54):
Hell?
Speaker 4 (10:54):
No? There you go me either. That's true. I'm finna
be one hundred years old, like okay, granddaddy, Oh turback?
Speaker 1 (11:04):
Use okay, granddaddy for fifteen percent off on.
Speaker 5 (11:08):
Yeah, running it back now, it depends use my personal
link anyways.
Speaker 4 (11:17):
Self choke.
Speaker 3 (11:18):
So you've given her a chance, commenter says, since she
won't accept it, you can give you can now give
her a deadline or you'll make the choice for her
permanently and then we have an update. But what was
the what was the final results in the poll? It
was it was definitely makes so forty three percent said
hey delete the oh sorry. Forty six percent said delete
(11:39):
the IG. Fifty four percent said it's too far, so
barely a majority, but the majority says.
Speaker 4 (11:44):
That is too far and don't necessarily ask for that.
Speaker 1 (11:47):
Yeah, yeah, I feel like there's something. Yeah, I think
it's too much. I do think there needs to be
a line drawn, yes for sure, But I don't know
if I would if I personally would go that far.
But I totally understand that there with people who are
who want to be extremely careful with their children, I
would go that far.
Speaker 3 (12:06):
Yeah, we want to we want to just punishment here
where we're all for the punishment of the crime, but
gotta do it right.
Speaker 1 (12:11):
And we do realize like, yeah, there are there are
there are weirdos out there first Store, but like ninety
percent of people post their kids, like ninety nine percent
of people post their kids on social media. Yeah, and
so it's just like I feel like it's a I
feel like it's a hard habit to to like like
(12:35):
let go of. Maybe for some people, I will say,
though we don't know exactly how many times she's done it,
but if she's done it, like getting into three, four, five, six, seven, eight,
like unless you have a memory problem, that's I feel
like that's just like blatantly disrespecting like the boundary you want.
I feel like it goes away from like, oh, a
person likes sharing in general to just like they just
(12:57):
straight up don't give an f. Yeah, there needs to
be consequences, for sure, but deleting the right content, Yeah,
the right consequences. I don't know if deleting ig is
like the right content. We need a fair verdict here
because like, also you could just download stabchat or Facebook.
Speaker 2 (13:11):
Oh man, you know that's true. But also there's a
big old update.
Speaker 1 (13:18):
Hit me with it.
Speaker 2 (13:19):
Hey, folks, I thought i'd give you an update.
Speaker 3 (13:21):
I think I got into a lot of detail in
the comments, but I feel like I should mention the following. So,
my wife's stepmother is forty five. I'm not bowling the
elderly here, So we're we're not quite in like full granny.
She hasn't gone full granny yet. She has sixty thousand
followers on Instagram. Well, that also changes it.
Speaker 1 (13:39):
That's a that's a decent amount.
Speaker 3 (13:40):
Yeah, her Instagram account is not focused solely on my children.
Speaker 2 (13:44):
She started out as.
Speaker 3 (13:44):
A lifestyle blogger a few years ago, and she started
posting family stuff as well. And by the way, Sam,
if you're looking for a date, we'll uh, we'll get that.
We'll get that ig pulled up for you. I heard
she's great with kids. O.
Speaker 1 (13:58):
Man, Oh, she have the teeth that she can take out,
because that changes things for.
Speaker 2 (14:06):
Me, right, that's the that's the green flat asset.
Speaker 4 (14:10):
That's an asset. That's an asset.
Speaker 3 (14:11):
And now at least half of her content revolves around that.
She tries to post pictures of my kids every time
she takes them. Almost every time we see her, she
posts a new picture. She has also posted more photos
of my daughter than my son. Both me and my
wife are on Instagram, but not very actively. She has
a private account and another one for her job. I
(14:32):
only have a personal account, in which I rarely post anything.
Neither of us have ever posted our children's faces in
any of these accounts. My wife doesn't see her stepmother
as a parent. She started dating my father in law
when my wife was twenty years old, and they're not
very close. My children don't see her as a grandmother either.
This isn't about me looking for a reason to cut
ties with my in laws. I get along very well
(14:52):
with my wife's father and besides her behavior concerning social media.
Speaker 4 (14:55):
I have no problem with her stepmother.
Speaker 3 (14:57):
I really shouldn't have to explain why me and my
wife don't want pictures of.
Speaker 4 (15:01):
Our children online.
Speaker 2 (15:02):
If you're a parent.
Speaker 3 (15:03):
Who has no problems with other postings, uh uh with
others posting photos of your kids, that's fine. I'm not
here to change your mind, nor would I attempt it
if I were. Your decisions regarding your children are your own,
as our mine, and none of.
Speaker 4 (15:16):
Us live in the United States. So yeah, those are
those are the quick updates, and there's more there.
Speaker 2 (15:20):
But I feel like that does paint a lot more context.
Speaker 1 (15:24):
And sixty K is a lot to expose your children to.
Speaker 3 (15:27):
Yeah, this is this isn't like I was picturing again
like a freaking sweet cute little granny just.
Speaker 4 (15:33):
Like oh hey snap snap snap.
Speaker 3 (15:35):
No, this is like I am legitimately like I'm influencing.
I'm influencing, I'm getting them brand deals, I'm getting I'm
getting all that stuff, and uh and you're not only
disrespecting my wish, but there's like a kind of added
layer to it. It's like you're kind of like using
my kids, you know, which I I don't.
Speaker 4 (15:55):
I don't like that.
Speaker 1 (15:57):
Yeah. Yeah, I mean I.
Speaker 4 (16:00):
Feel like at the end of the day, it's just like, hey,
respect the boundary that I.
Speaker 1 (16:03):
Find you could. And I think that's why I don't
think op's an a hole. It's like you can put
whatever boundaries that you want. Yeah, me personally, like, I
don't know if I would. I would like as delete
the Instagram because I don't know if that's helpful.
Speaker 4 (16:15):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (16:16):
Oh, and also that also low key makes it a
little bit more ridiculous on the flip side for them
to ask that, because that's like maybe a source of
like our livelihood, you know.
Speaker 1 (16:25):
Yeah, but I think you you, I think, like putting
distance between this person it does make sense. I don't,
But I just I don't think they asking for the
deleting Instagram makes sense. One month time out, Yeah, one
month time out, and then any picture you post another
two months, and then more, more and more and more.
Speaker 4 (16:42):
These are not content creator parents.
Speaker 3 (16:43):
We're dealing with her, Yeah, Okay, we kind of break
it down for so I read your comments and talk
to things with my wife. As upset as we are
about this, we feel the need to deal with it fairly.
So we have to take into consideration that one, per
stepmother's account is not focused solely on our children, and two,
we had never threatened her with loss of contact before,
so our.
Speaker 2 (17:02):
Ultimatum might have been too sudden.
Speaker 3 (17:04):
Okay, Okay, so we're kind of like they're kind of
seeing what we're saying here.
Speaker 2 (17:08):
That said, we are.
Speaker 3 (17:09):
Still not comfortable with our children being posted on social media,
and we regret not effectively stopping this sooner. So, however
we move forward, we need to make it clear that
we are serious.
Speaker 4 (17:19):
About this boundary.
Speaker 3 (17:20):
So a few days ago, my wife and I met
her father and stepmother at their place. We left the
kids with my wife's mother, and we sat them down
and told them that we'd retract the ultimatum, but we
don't trust her stepmother to not sneak pictures of our
children again. We decided to propose what many of you suggested,
a no phone policy, which we would all abide by.
Whenever my wife's stepmother saw our kids, she also would
(17:43):
no longer receive any pictures of them anymore, and if
she ever posted a photo of our children anywhere again,
then we would cut her off from them. My father
in law agreed right away, but his wife got offended.
She said that she couldn't control how she used her phone.
What huh oh oh, no ah ah, I can't get you.
Speaker 1 (18:05):
That's dumb.
Speaker 3 (18:06):
Come on, come on now, come on now. I'd be
influencing so much, huh.
Speaker 4 (18:11):
I would be checking the comments of the posts, like
what kind of vibe we got going on here? Yeah?
Speaker 1 (18:18):
I can't imagine. I mean, it could for sure be weird,
but it also could just be like a normal, just
mommy blogger thing.
Speaker 3 (18:25):
Yeah, I feel like she's a mommy blogger, But I
do believe that probably that perform. Like she Opie said,
she had already transitioned into doing like half of like
family content, So these posts probably perform very well.
Speaker 4 (18:38):
That's and she's kind of using it. That's that's what
I think. Let me know what you think of the comments.
Speaker 3 (18:42):
She tried to promise us she'd stop posting the kids again,
but we said no, we can't trust her anymore, and
we have no intention of giving her more chances.
Speaker 2 (18:49):
The four of us hadn't argued about this. My father
in law mostly took our side.
Speaker 3 (18:53):
It lasted for a while, and my wife's stepmother started
by apologizing, but eventually started trying to defend. She told
us she always thought that we were overreacting and that
lots of people post pictures of her children online every
day without any problems. We asked her why she was
so insistent on posting pictures of our kids. She tried
to dodge the question at first, but admitted that the
posts with the kids got more engagement.
Speaker 2 (19:17):
We called it.
Speaker 3 (19:17):
She used the New Year's post as an example. It
was only up for a little over twenty four hours
before she took it down, but she claimed it was
one of her most successful posts ever.
Speaker 1 (19:28):
WHOA.
Speaker 3 (19:28):
When I asked her why she thought that had happened,
she said, it's because the kids look so cute in them.
My wife looked at my stepmother and said, no, it's
because they're barely dressing them. You cannot convince us that
a photo of our five year old daughter in a
swimsuit is getting attention from thousands of strangers because she's cute.
Speaker 2 (19:46):
Either you're an idiot or you know what you're doing.
Speaker 4 (19:50):
By posting those pictures.
Speaker 2 (19:52):
I mean, just the risk.
Speaker 4 (19:54):
Alone, and if there's a lot of like the like
to comment to save ratio is high. Oh god, yeah,
that astly wasn't even really thinking about.
Speaker 3 (20:06):
That even even the which again is why, like, listen,
respect the boundary that these parents have set, because that's
what they want to do. And then also, why would you,
you know, if someone's worried about that, why why even
go anywhere potentially near.
Speaker 4 (20:22):
That as a concern, right like go icky? So she
started crying.
Speaker 3 (20:32):
She said her content was wholesome, her followers are good people,
and that we had no right to control her like that.
Speaker 4 (20:37):
My father in law was silent. That is when we
gave up.
Speaker 3 (20:42):
We told her to keep her Instagram, but except she
is losing access to our kids. She tried to make
more excuses, including some of my followers think they're my kids,
which my wife was furious about. But we stood our
ground and went home. By the way you're going home,
if you're going to work, if you're traveling across the
country and you're looking for two thousand episodes of the
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All of our episodes will pop up, full episodes with
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the end of the story.
Speaker 1 (21:17):
I feel weird. Yeah, I feel bad.
Speaker 3 (21:21):
I think, yeah, when it when it reaches like this again,
I believe already because it was their boundary. They sat
like that's already the first stop of like, nah, you
gotta stop doing it. But with all the details and
context of the step mother, I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 2 (21:38):
I don't know if I would.
Speaker 3 (21:39):
Want my kids around her because I'm like one just
disgusted and just like leaves such a bad, bad vibe.
Speaker 4 (21:46):
You know what I mean. I I I'm not liking
this nether am I like, like, I don't know, how
can you not realize that?
Speaker 1 (22:00):
I don't know. I thought, just people like taking pictures
of their kids. Yeah, why does the internet always have
to be weird?
Speaker 4 (22:08):
It does be doing that. It's people, it does be
doing that. Yes the end.
Speaker 3 (22:15):
My father in law called me and my wife later
that night. He told me he was disappointed in my
wife and was taking our side. We're not sure how
to deal with him. Either of us want to cut
him off from the kids, but we're not certain we
can trust him either. My wife just told him we
need some space, and he said that that was fine.
I am exhausted, and my wife is doing even worse.
But we've spoken about this and we're both also relieved.
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We've still got work to do, but nothing we can
handle over now. We've got two amazing children and a
baby on the way, and they will always be our
number one priority.
Speaker 4 (22:44):
Thank you all for your support.
Speaker 3 (22:45):
I'm busy with the kids, so I can't promise or
apply to as many comments, but I'll do my best.
And you know what, I guess hope he didn't because.
Speaker 2 (22:51):
He'll be dead.
Speaker 4 (22:52):
So that's it.
Speaker 1 (22:53):
That was fun.
Speaker 4 (22:54):
Yep, Yeah, yeah. I think it's hitting him hard because
he just looks for the best in people. He was
and he was just blindsided by this.
Speaker 1 (23:03):
Blindsided was like, I also have sixty thousand Instagram.
Speaker 4 (23:08):
Whoa, whoa, But you get more success posting key on
his cheeks than you do the other thing. True, and
you don't do the other thing.
Speaker 1 (23:18):
There are no.
Speaker 2 (23:18):
Other things here?
Speaker 4 (23:19):
Yeah? What children there? I don't I've never I've lived
in LA for a year. Honestly, I haven't seen a kid.
I haven't. I can't tell you the last time I
saw a child near this place.
Speaker 1 (23:33):
Oh do you have a school close? Though?
Speaker 4 (23:35):
Actually, last night.
Speaker 1 (23:39):
Like there's a school like very close. You've never seen
a kid walking home from school.
Speaker 4 (23:45):
Maybe last year, but there was a kid in his
dad playing basketball last night. I remember that. Yeah, yeah,
but don't worry. Sam, You're good. You're good, dude.
Speaker 2 (23:57):
So that's it.
Speaker 4 (23:59):
That's it.
Speaker 1 (23:59):
I feel like that's all the gaess. We got to
take that one. Can we not read stories like that?
I don't want to read stories like that anymore.
Speaker 2 (24:07):
But we got another story for you.
Speaker 1 (24:09):
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My mother kept nagging us to give her grandchildren. I
finally snaffed and did it. For context, I male twenty
six and my girlfriend of six years, female twenty seven
are staunchly child free. We were each our own kind
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of autistic and neither of us want children because of
how neurotic we can be at times. By the way,
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So this is an okay story talk about Rojo. We
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Speaker 4 (25:02):
Because we can't say right right.
Speaker 1 (25:07):
That's because we punt started in our careers early and
saved early on. I'm a journey man electrician and in
the process of getting my electrical engineering degree, and my
girlfriend is on her way to become a nurse practitioner.
We're both super busy, as you can imagine, with both
ork and school and such, and it can get rough
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at times, but we manage. My father passed away a
year ago. SADR, you're on a roll today, brother, you're
on an absolute today. Sam's back many for the book
says the censorship is getting aggressive.
Speaker 2 (25:47):
Out don't get at us.
Speaker 1 (25:49):
It's ridiculous. Don't get I said, kick you out, and
we got demonetized the entire channel, but ridiculous. My father
passed a year ago and it sent shockwaves throughout our
small family. And now my mother moved us in after
selling her house because she was getting too old to
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live on her own. She had me at thirty four.
That's that's rather that's rather late. Right, that's rather late.
Speaker 4 (26:16):
My mom had us at like thirty four and thirty seven.
Speaker 1 (26:20):
Oh wow, that's rather late. Straight up, Well, she looks great,
that's right, she sh That is my Mama, I love
you to your mom. She had me at thirty four
and she lived out in the country, so it wasn't
safest for her there. She cooks and cleans while we work,
buys the groceries with her social security, and generally tries
to make herself useful, even though we tell her it
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isn't necessary. We appreciate her efforts due to how busy
we are. Our diets absolutely have improved. That sounds win.
Sounds like a win. But we're worried because she doesn't
have a lot of hobbies and oftentimes doesn't know what
to do with herself. I'm not sure why she hasn't
looked for any hobbies, but that's her choice. I suppose
get her into underwater aerobics.
Speaker 4 (27:03):
Ooh smart, I.
Speaker 1 (27:06):
Kind of want to join like an aerobics class with
a bunch of eighty year olds and you just get
like all the hot goss.
Speaker 3 (27:12):
You would absolutely do the hot goss in those with
the with their little like yeah, with the bonnets, with
the bonnets and everything.
Speaker 1 (27:18):
Wouldn't that be fun?
Speaker 4 (27:19):
Be crazy?
Speaker 1 (27:20):
It would kind of be fun.
Speaker 4 (27:21):
Dude.
Speaker 2 (27:21):
There's there's a granny you can find help make friends.
Speaker 1 (27:25):
Good place to go oh, that's yeah, very visual. Integrate
with the grannies, Yep, yeah, I I integrated with an
underwater Uh what's it called a gun?
Speaker 2 (27:38):
I infiltrated underwater.
Speaker 1 (27:39):
Aerobics class to make friends with Grandma's The date of grandma.
Speaker 4 (27:45):
Up in the ante. Yeah, I like that and win
her love and inheritance. Whoa, now we're talking.
Speaker 1 (27:52):
That's all right a story, Ali, Rayce and Sam would
data immediately immediately say I'm her only child, And recently,
over the past few months, she started to pass to
the both of us about giving her grandchildren she can spoil.
At first, I made a joke about our cat being
her grandchild and it was funny, but did not stop.
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I figured it was just a phase that she moved on,
but she didn't. Every day she just kept making these
little comments about grandchildren and that our kids would be adorable.
It was easy to ignore her first, but she wouldn't stop.
Then one day I had a hard week at work
and didn't get enough sleep at all, and while she
was making breakfast the next morning, she kept bringing it
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up and kept trying to make it into a serious conversation,
talking about how a grandchild would make her so happy.
I finally snapped and told her to let it go,
and I got loud, nothing serious, but I did tell
her that she was unbearable when all she thought about
was grandchildren, and I couldn't understand why she couldn't just
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get the f over the fact that me and my sign,
if we can other, we're child free and happy.
Speaker 6 (29:03):
Huh.
Speaker 1 (29:03):
She continued the rest of the meal in silence and
proceeded to give me the cold shoulder for the rest
of the day. That was several weeks ago. She's like
a completely different person now. She still cooks and cleans
and stuff, but she barely talks it all. And when
there's nothing to do, she just sits on the couch
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and rots away, eyes glazed over as she watches family feud,
antique road show, and whatever else old people watch.
Speaker 2 (29:32):
Dude, what a great that was, just such a great portrait.
I can just see it so clearly.
Speaker 4 (29:38):
Am I whoa yeah?
Speaker 1 (29:41):
Full sad?
Speaker 2 (29:42):
Yeah, dude.
Speaker 1 (29:44):
She never wants to go anywhere or do anything, especially
not with us. Whenever I try to have a conversation
with her that's more than discussing a basic necessity, she
just gives me a dirty look, a dirty bitter look,
and I usually back off. She just fall into eternal
sleep with whatever chores she sets out to do that day.
We don't require anything from her. This is all out
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of her own volition. And then she just watches TV.
Watching is a strong word. She more just like sits
there and just rocks. I can't think of a better
word for it.
Speaker 4 (30:17):
The O G brain rot, Yeah, O G brain rot.
Speaker 1 (30:19):
Due for Antique road Show and watching the late night commercials.
What what's the thing where you buy stuff?
Speaker 4 (30:26):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (30:27):
Oh yeah yeah.
Speaker 3 (30:29):
Watching that arguably worse than worse than today's brain rot,
just because I was around so many freaking Florida grannies
that were just freaking just.
Speaker 4 (30:39):
Had a community, you know, it had, it had substance,
it had there was something.
Speaker 1 (30:46):
There, something there at QBC. You want to go back
to the QBC.
Speaker 4 (30:50):
Days, I'd probably be happier.
Speaker 3 (30:52):
For a second, I thought you were saying I had
a community, the Florida grannies that were yeah.
Speaker 1 (30:57):
No, you've always had. Finally, John, it was around people.
Speaker 2 (31:02):
You can't wait, guys.
Speaker 1 (31:04):
So recently, me and my girlfriend were talking and we
found a great deal on a cruise and decided to go.
Since we had massed a lot of pto. We bought
the tickets and surprised her with one, thinking a cruise
from Buddha Pist to Amsterdam would cheer her up. She
just clowered at the tickets like I handed her a
bag of dog crap as a birthday gift and then
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asked me what it was for. I told her that
we wanted to go on a cruise with her to
maybe cheer her up and help her get out of
the house.
Speaker 4 (31:32):
I like it.
Speaker 1 (31:33):
Her response, John, Oh no.
Speaker 6 (31:35):
Why why did you start to pretend that you care
about my happiness? All of us are that. I want
nothing to do with descifront.
Speaker 4 (31:46):
Dad, dude who turns on a cruise? That is a
sad person. Man.
Speaker 3 (31:52):
It is hard to be happy on a boat with
an unlimited cafe, unlimited buffet.
Speaker 1 (31:56):
It is hard to be happy.
Speaker 2 (31:57):
It's hard to not be happy. Sorry, my words are
all mixed up.
Speaker 1 (32:01):
Have you been on a cruise?
Speaker 2 (32:03):
I did go once?
Speaker 1 (32:03):
Yeah, that makes sense. Age.
Speaker 4 (32:09):
He loves them, man, he just loves them.
Speaker 1 (32:11):
Gick it enough, gig it enough. Cat that man on
a golf course or.
Speaker 2 (32:16):
A cruise playing what's this one? Riley playing Jackson? I
don't know stick with the idea.
Speaker 4 (32:25):
It's like old person hockey chat comments.
Speaker 1 (32:27):
You should play sick and hoop.
Speaker 4 (32:30):
See him on a Thursday night playing bingo, Monday morning
reading the newspaper.
Speaker 1 (32:38):
Yeah, John's out on our porch just getting the kids
off our lawn every day. That's why Riley hasn't seen
any kids in ages.
Speaker 2 (32:49):
That's a good callback.
Speaker 1 (32:51):
I felt sooo excited to get.
Speaker 4 (32:58):
Frigging shuffle board man. Humble board is fun. It looks
really try some time.
Speaker 1 (33:04):
You've not tried it?
Speaker 4 (33:05):
Next person, next old person? Cruise are gone?
Speaker 1 (33:06):
Yeah, shoot my shot. I feel like I feel like
doing a cruise would be I feel like the idea
of cruises is fun, but I don't know if it's
actually fun in practice, I think. But anyway, I felt
so dirty when she said that, Like I couldn't even
be in the same room as her, and I left
the house entirely for a few hours to go get
some fresh winter air. And even now I'm still processing
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what the heck is going on. My mother is like
a completely different person now, and I don't know if
it's my fault or not. Am IV a hole? Did
I cause this? There are some comments There is n
up date TLDR for everyone who's just getting in the stream. Ops,
mama wanted some grand babies and ope, and their partner
is like, hey, we're child free and we love it.
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And then Mama is like and she lives with them,
and so it's super sad and now just rots in
front of the TV and seems completely dejected. And know
he's asking, am I the a hole?
Speaker 4 (34:04):
Yep? I don't say no, no, say no dude.
Speaker 3 (34:07):
I mean like, I love the effort, you know, I
love standing on like, hey, I don't want kids.
Speaker 4 (34:13):
You're standing on on what?
Speaker 1 (34:14):
Standing on business?
Speaker 4 (34:15):
What you want?
Speaker 3 (34:15):
You're standing on business owns and and uh, you're also
trying to be like, hey, like let's go on a cruise,
let's get out, let's have some fun.
Speaker 1 (34:23):
You know. It's again like actively trying to get a
little little gma on her on our feet.
Speaker 4 (34:30):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (34:30):
This is actually this is I feel like a great
example of where it's like someone could be terrible to you,
where it's like they're disrespecting your boundary, like constantly asking
you to have the kids, and you're like, you know what,
let me let me fight it with kindness. Yeah, let's
go on a cruise. Let's enjoy ourselves. It's not working now,
but I just think it's such a classy move.
Speaker 1 (34:48):
Yeah, age Serenity does say, yeah, she is lonely. That's probably.
That's probably that, That's.
Speaker 4 (34:53):
What I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (34:53):
Like, and I think she's just so caught up in
that depressive state that she just prefers to just like
kind of just sit in the anger versus get out
and enjoy.
Speaker 4 (35:04):
If she won on one so bad, she could go get one.
Speaker 1 (35:07):
Sure you can adopt when's too old to adopt.
Speaker 4 (35:11):
They there's got to be some kind of rules on.
They go through an intensive like the innrocess.
Speaker 2 (35:19):
Yeah, are you fit? Are you capable?
Speaker 4 (35:21):
Yeah? So if it doesn't look like you're functioning live
day to day very well, they probably won't give it
to you. So sorry, it's true.
Speaker 1 (35:29):
Man has his gird under control. I think he's functioning. Dude,
well enough, my gourd has not been gurden as hard.
Oh he hasn't been good, hasn't has hasn't been good?
Speaker 4 (35:40):
Yep, I pooped in a bowl. Pooped in a ball.
I pooped in a bowl. They're going to test it.
Speaker 1 (35:45):
They're going I also pooped in a bowl recently dude. Well,
actually it was like a little little diaper that you
put on the toilet.
Speaker 3 (35:51):
Oh, they gave me a straight up bowl. They're talking
hard plastics on, Like did you just like squat?
Speaker 4 (35:56):
Nah?
Speaker 3 (35:56):
That was straight on? There you standing, not understanding. I
figured it out. You could put it on where you
sit normally. But at first I had it backwards, and
I'm like, if I was a woman, this would work.
And then I'm like, I have it backwards, turn it around.
Speaker 2 (36:12):
Fin it worked.
Speaker 1 (36:13):
Bang, I'm I don't. I can't fully visualize it, but
maybe that's for the best. So sounds like she stopped
living for herself and moved into your home in order
to live for your hypothetical children. This is just my opinion,
but I doubt she was too old to live alone
since she can still care for herself and for you too.
It sounds like you guys need to sit down and
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discuss what her expectations were when you guys decided to
combine households. It could be that she resents you for
bursting her bubble and hope you replied, I think you're right.
We were just worried about her living alone, especially since
my dad passed. And another reply said, she's depressed and
still grieving. Need some therapy and somewhere else to live.
She's making all of your lives miserable. And we got
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an update. What do we want to happen here?
Speaker 3 (36:59):
This is a question, And I'm almost like, do we
pull it? Like, do we have her move out? Because
she's living with them right Yeah? She's living with them
right now. That's a tough one, man, because it's like.
Speaker 1 (37:08):
Because but also it's like she's super lonely, so would
would would having her move out actually accelerate the brain
rot even worse? Yeah? Would she be? She'd be watching
that QBC twenty twenty four hours a day, seven days.
Speaker 4 (37:24):
Some girlfriends, dude.
Speaker 1 (37:26):
Yeah, I think he's granny friends. Need some granny friends. Ye,
that's true, dude. Underwater aerobics. That's what I'm talking about.
That's that's what I'm as. I'm talking about what I'm saying.
Kimberly find says she resents him for not busting a
nut with fall through. Kimberly fine, eloquent, eloquent couldn't have
said about ourselves? Yep?
Speaker 4 (37:47):
Couldn't.
Speaker 1 (37:47):
Couldn't really couldn't. I mean, you stole the words right
out of my mouth. But we got an update. Hey,
oh she moved out.
Speaker 4 (37:56):
Whoa.
Speaker 1 (37:56):
It was all a blurber the day after the whole
ticket and we sat down with her during breakfast and
told her that it might be best if she got therapy.
Speaker 6 (38:07):
Oo.
Speaker 1 (38:09):
She said she wanted nothing to do with a therapist
and that she knew she was fine, It's just that
she had an ungrateful son. I was in shock from
the sheer audacity of her statement, and my significant other
almost immediately lost her crap. They started verbally fighting, and
I broke the both of them up so I could
settle it. My mom looked to me as if she
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expected me to defend her, but I didn't. My significant
other came first. My significant other will always come first,
unless I know, beyond a shadow of a doubt that
she's all the way in the wrong. I asked my
girlfriend to leave me and my mother alone so I
could talk to my mother in private, and I let
her know that I loved her, just in case it's important.
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Once we were alone, I told my mother that it
was therapy and accepting the fact that she wouldn't get
grandchildren or move out, so she chose the latter. She
packed her bags, cleaning her room, and try to write
me a check for rents. I told her not to
do that because the intention was never financial, and she
was welcome to stay here and retire as long as
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she remained pleasant and civil. But then she said that
I wasn't acting like her son, I was acting like
her landlord, so she would treat me as such.
Speaker 4 (39:26):
Oh wow, jeez.
Speaker 1 (39:29):
I took the check, ripped it up and told her
to get out whoa which I will tell you to
get the f out if you're not listening to our
podcast every day we release on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, wherever
you get your podcasts. And the great thing about a
podcast you can be doing other things. You could be
fun and you could be uh, I know, twinkling your toes.
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You could we could be you could be douche in
your butt. Whatever you need to do that that that
takes hands, you can buy and free, you know, and
listen to the pod.
Speaker 4 (40:04):
Yeah, you could do it, you know.
Speaker 1 (40:05):
So uh, keep everything clean, keep everything tidy, and listen
to the pod that wherever you get your podcasts, there's
a little bit up date. Oh but yeah, what do
we think about where we are right now?
Speaker 4 (40:19):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (40:20):
I mean, uh, pretty. I like the way that Opie
handled it.
Speaker 3 (40:26):
Notice he now it is a hard decision to kind
of like either tell or ask or give you know,
your your own mom the option to like move out
when it clearly seems like she would benefit from saying
with someone. But he did give her the option of like, hey,
you can like live with us and you know, just
accept like hey, we won't be having kids and everything,
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or like like you can move out because like we're not.
I don't know if the.
Speaker 1 (40:51):
Option was better than I think the option. I think
the option really helps. Yeah, and uh, I think it's
the I think it is the most kind thing to do.
Speaker 2 (41:01):
Yeah, you good get over their friend.
Speaker 1 (41:06):
Yes, but we got another update. So I'm still in shock.
I don't know how to feel. I haven't tried calling her.
I figured it'd be best to give her a week
or so of time, but part of me also thinks
that I should call her. I don't know where she'd go.
We practically have no family and she sold her house.
She has plenty of cash from that aforementioned sale, though,
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so she could rent a place. And a comment says, quote,
I was acting like a son. I was acting like
her landlord. This is what you have to remember. A
woman who thinks you having boundaries you won't break for her,
is you not acting like her son? Is not someone
who respects you. A woman who thinks you were expecting respect?
Is you acting like her landlord? Is someone who will
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give who will only give respect to those she feels
aren't a position of power over her, not a loved
one or an equal. You are not a problem here.
Her premise for your relationship to function and away she
would accept is fundamentally skewed, with her as an authority
and you as a subordinates. And there is a reply.
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She sees you that child. She sees you as a child,
her child, not as a grown adult man. And she's
trying to assert control over you, your girlfriend in your home.
She's absolutely in the wrong, but she wants parental control
dynamics over you, which means you'll never be able to
live with her because of how she views you and
your relationship. Aka, she never grew up from being a
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mom to a child to a mom of an adult man.
Another comment, for the love of all that is holy,
double check any forms of birth control you use for
signs of tampering if it were me, I'd toss any
form of BC or little little uh action. Yeah, have
some protection that were in the house while she was
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living there and buy new ones just for peace of mind.
And that is where that story ends.
Speaker 3 (42:59):
Wow, jeez, Yeah, no good good takes. And you know
Op tried, Oh.
Speaker 1 (43:08):
Pep did try. I mean the cruise was really really nice.
Speaker 2 (43:10):
I thought that was really sweet.
Speaker 1 (43:12):
Yeah, it's not his fault that, you know, she she
you can lead the horse to water, but you can't
take it out of its rotting chair.
Speaker 3 (43:19):
And then where's the point where, uh, you know you
can just keep going and you know, just fail and just.
Speaker 1 (43:26):
Just be miserable. She's gonna make it.
Speaker 4 (43:29):
Yeah, She's literally gonna make your life miserable.
Speaker 1 (43:31):
So it's like there's a point. Yeah, there is a point.
Speaker 2 (43:33):
There's a point, but there's also well, how many minutes
are we?
Speaker 4 (43:37):
Uh, we have one more story?
Speaker 3 (43:39):
Yeah, we always have one more story. Hey, it's John here,
og host of the show. We're gonna get back to
these juicy stories. But here's a quick three minutes of
ads from our sponsors. My stepmother screamed my biological mother
during my engagement dinner, so I banned her from my wedding.
Speaker 1 (43:54):
Yeah, get her out of here, your bank, your band.
You can scream in a little straight jackets outside.
Speaker 4 (44:00):
And not in here.
Speaker 3 (44:02):
Well, I twenty five female, have a wonderful relationship with
my stepmother and father, as well as with my mother.
My mother had me with my father when she was
eighteen and my father was nineteen years old. Soon after
my mother brought me home, she ditched me in the
middle of the night ouch, and nobody had seen her
for years. My stepmother came into my life when I
was one years old, and she has a daughter of
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her own a few years older than me. My father
and stepmother married when I was three and my step
miss and when my stepsister was eight.
Speaker 4 (44:30):
By the way, this comes from deleted.
Speaker 3 (44:32):
But if you want to submit your stories and not
to lead them, good osha shky story time, send them
in and we just might read it.
Speaker 4 (44:37):
Yeah, dude, our suburb is at like eleven thousand before
I know, popping off.
Speaker 1 (44:41):
Let's let me go pippy poppin'.
Speaker 2 (44:43):
We're our slash shoky story back. That's very better than ever.
They can't show you.
Speaker 3 (44:48):
Oh anyway, So I saw my stepmother as a mom
and called her mom. She did everything a mother is
supposed to do for their daughter. She treated she never
treated me like I was an outsider. I'm very close
with everyone in my family now. My mother did try
to come back in my life, the bio mother when
I was five years old, because she was pregnant at
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the time with my little sister, but my father didn't
let her. He was very hesitant until I turned seven.
He allowed my mother to slowly come back into my life.
She was a stranger to me. She did have my
little sister who I got to meet when and she
was two at the time. She told me the reason
she ran away was that she has mental problems and
wanted to get help. I was very cold towards her.
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I didn't call her mom, and she didn't force me.
She took her time and let me have my space
until I finally started to get close to her and
my little sister. My mother did have a great job
and a big home.
Speaker 4 (45:43):
Okay, so it seems like she kind of got her
act together. It seems like we're kind of on the come.
Speaker 1 (45:50):
On up and up, We're up and oh.
Speaker 2 (45:53):
I became very close to my mother and my sister,
my father and stepmother allowed me to bring my little
sister to my house all the time, and everything was.
Speaker 1 (46:00):
Great until there's always an until everything was great, until
it all went down hill, until until.
Speaker 4 (46:09):
My girlfriend proposed to me.
Speaker 3 (46:12):
Oh, we are planning a small wedding at my mother's
lake house with our close friends and family. The whole
problem started when I wanted to have my mother sit
in the front and my stepmother didn't like that. Remember
the stepmother that was like originally amazing and then mom
bio mom that was not amazing at first. Right, so
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the roles are maybe so now now reverse could be switching,
could be switching.
Speaker 1 (46:37):
Wait wait wait, so the op's girlfriend proposed and like
there was like a proposal ceremony kind of thing.
Speaker 3 (46:44):
Uh, they're now discussing who's gonna sit where at the wedding.
Oh now we're talking, you know, seating arrangement at the wedding.
Speaker 1 (46:51):
Big deal, that's big deal. A lot a lot can
a lot can fall apart based on who you're sitting
next to. Oh yeah, as we've seen.
Speaker 4 (47:01):
My goodness ten thousand hours catalog.
Speaker 1 (47:04):
Yeah, who would have known that seats would end relationships?
But hey they do.
Speaker 4 (47:10):
Here we are they do?
Speaker 1 (47:11):
In one face and on a relationship time.
Speaker 2 (47:15):
Samuel Daughter twenty twenty five.
Speaker 4 (47:17):
He's just handing him out now, he's just giving him
out like freak candy today.
Speaker 1 (47:20):
Just one. I thought that was a chair, not a
jawline that could cut glass all over the flames.
Speaker 3 (47:30):
Oh, so we're getting back to the story, lares, gentlemen.
She wanted her family and my father's family to sit
in the front while while my mother is in the back.
My stepfather is fine with my little sister in the front,
though I did disagree and thought that that was the
end of it. When it came to dancing, I wanted
to dance with my mother and father. My stepmother asked
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if she was getting a dance. I did say no,
and she was quiet for a while. When I was
going to get my wedding dress, I bought my three
best friends who were my maid of honor in my
maids little sister, stepsister, and my mom and my step mom.
My stepmother was upset and I asked her what was wrong,
and she told me that she is uncomfortable that my
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mother was here. I told her that she is my mother.
My stepmother cut me off and said that she was
she was my mother, not my bio mom. I told
her not to say that and to not ruin my day.
She stayed quiet the whole time. I guess she told
my stepsister, and my stepsister said that my stepmother has
been upset about the whole wedding planning.
Speaker 1 (48:33):
Now like step mama is gonna be some step grandmam.
Speaker 3 (48:37):
She's oh, she's she's she's not gonna be happy until
bio mom is taken out by security.
Speaker 1 (48:43):
That's the only thing I wonder, like, this is not
what you should do. And maybe you just like uninvite her,
but for peace of mind, potentially, maybe you just give
her a dance, you know, but like thirty seconds, like
one song.
Speaker 2 (48:58):
The problem is, I think this is a creep.
Speaker 1 (49:02):
This is it's crazy.
Speaker 4 (49:04):
If she if she gets her way in one area,
who's to say she's not emboldened emboldened to and she
left open in the middle of the night.
Speaker 1 (49:13):
Incorrect, That was the biological mom. But but but uh,
you know again was misunderstood.
Speaker 4 (49:23):
Let's talk about that, miss Einstein. And then he invented gravity. Bro, Yeah,
he invented discovered it.
Speaker 1 (49:30):
He invented gravity.
Speaker 3 (49:31):
Okay, I said what I said, So watch out for
Riley's invention coming to the theater. Yeah, this show, this
show right here, he is actually inventing a lot of stuff.
Riley Riley is the Einstein of this pod right now.
True literally never been stroken in the existence of you.
Come to the Live Shoon tomorrow, you'll you'll definitely see.
Speaker 4 (49:52):
There we go. It's gonna be good, can be good.
Speaker 1 (49:54):
Oh baby.
Speaker 2 (49:55):
So she feels that my bio mom is in the
way the step mom us, when my bio.
Speaker 3 (50:01):
Mom hasn't done anything wrong and respected my stepmother's space
as well. I told my stepsister that my step mom
is not liking my bio bio mom is not my problem,
and then she needed to just put her big girl
pants on an actor age.
Speaker 1 (50:19):
Step mindy put.
Speaker 4 (50:20):
Your pants on.
Speaker 1 (50:23):
Yeah, honestly, stepmom is throwing a fuss for no god
stop bang good reason, real quick, real quick.
Speaker 4 (50:30):
My theory is, give me give it to mom. Step
Mom was great when she got the she owned the place,
when she owned the related.
Speaker 3 (50:39):
Trophy trophy, and now there's nothing more in your face
than you've been demoted. Bio mom gets a dance and
you don't get a dance. She that's like clear as
day in her crazy brain.
Speaker 1 (50:52):
Yeah yeah, although I you know, like if I all right,
all right here, right right, I'm just gonna give you
a little little thing, little thing. Right. You're adopted yep,
from birth?
Speaker 6 (51:05):
What no, no, you.
Speaker 1 (51:08):
Somewhere cast you out one, but so yeah, you were wanted.
You were wanted to the point of someone adopting you. Right,
and the step mom just like loves you so much
for one hundred and thirty years. She takes care of you.
Now he takes care of you until you get married. Right,
and then all of a sudden, all of a sudden, bam,
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biological mom comes in and You're like, hey, I know
you just took care of me for my whole life,
but I'm going to give this dance to my bio mama.
I feel like I feel like, you know, adopted mama
is going to feel a little sad. Well, just like Rob,
Just like Rob. This is call back to the Rob story.
(51:55):
This is the Rob story all again.
Speaker 3 (52:00):
Here's the thing though, what she started going back in
Opie's life when she was just seven years old.
Speaker 4 (52:04):
Bio mom did.
Speaker 3 (52:07):
So. From seven to twenty five, bio mom has been
a part of Obi's life and and stepmom and stepmom
and Bio mom.
Speaker 4 (52:18):
They were like, hey, you need to take it slow.
We're not going to give you, and she was like fuck.
Speaker 3 (52:21):
She always respected the slowness and the space that everyone
was requesting.
Speaker 1 (52:26):
She always did, I think I think you give both
a dance.
Speaker 2 (52:30):
I like both a dance.
Speaker 1 (52:31):
I think I like both both.
Speaker 4 (52:32):
Dance is fun.
Speaker 1 (52:32):
I mean it's not like well, it's it's like you
can extend this thing by three minutes to give another.
Speaker 4 (52:38):
Dance your wedding. Guys, we gotta be fun with it.
Speaker 1 (52:41):
Yeah, we have fun, dude.
Speaker 4 (52:42):
That's what I would do.
Speaker 1 (52:42):
Dance with them both at the same time. One gets
the back, when that gets the front. A dance A
little little sandwich.
Speaker 4 (52:48):
These are moms, bro, so.
Speaker 1 (52:52):
One's not related to Mom's gonna be sandwich.
Speaker 4 (52:57):
There he is. You guys missed them so much.
Speaker 3 (53:02):
Maybe try try five starting this new year off, right,
let's go. My stepsister got mad and just walked away.
She told my father and he called me. He said
he said what I said was uncalled for, and wanted
me to include my stepmother in more and my mother
less whoa uh. He said that she raised me like
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her own and that she feels like she's getting replaced.
I told him I wasn't replacing her and she was included. Uh,
she just having a recent problem with my mother when
she didn't before. He just hung up and I ignored
them both for a while. Then I hosted a late
engagement dinner and invited all my friends and family.
Speaker 1 (53:41):
Dude, I think he's been a little whack. I'm nearing
on Op's the a hole. Huh oh, I'm near and
on it. Yeah, I'm I'm cuspin.
Speaker 2 (53:50):
I think like, I think that she should respect stepmom's hurt.
Speaker 1 (53:56):
Yeah, it's the Rob situation. It's the Robs like for
for all those that don't know, Rob was like the
perfect step dad and then all of a sudden, Op's
real dad comes in and then she kicks Rob out
of the wedding and doesn't allow Rob to walk her
down the aisle.
Speaker 4 (54:13):
We don't like that.
Speaker 1 (54:14):
We don't like that, not like that. We don't like
that one bit.
Speaker 3 (54:17):
Now, everything was going great until my bio mom wanted
to give a speech to me and my fiance. She
gave a wonderful speech and when she said I was
a special daughter she was lucky to raise.
Speaker 1 (54:28):
Uh oh, put I see you in the chat.
Speaker 4 (54:33):
In there, guys. Put them, We're just smack them smack.
Speaker 1 (54:38):
Do see what's coming?
Speaker 4 (54:40):
You see the big one. It's it's huge. I see you.
I don't. I'm sorry, guys, I'm trying.
Speaker 2 (54:45):
My stepmother got up and told her to shut the
f up. I'm her mother.
Speaker 1 (54:51):
Well she like she like Shrek objected. Yep, oil ob
jug that's lame.
Speaker 2 (54:56):
I'm the mother.
Speaker 1 (54:57):
That's lame too. I think. I think the difference between
this person and Rob is Rob just like silently suffered.
Speaker 4 (55:04):
Just saying just go to op and say, hey, you
know what, I'm gonna be honest with you. I do
feel hurt. Yeah, you know, I feel like I raised you,
and then you can have a good emotional conversation.
Speaker 1 (55:15):
Just just talk it out.
Speaker 4 (55:18):
Just do it.
Speaker 1 (55:19):
I think, I think, honestly both are both are a
little bit in the wrong right now.
Speaker 4 (55:22):
I agree. I agree.
Speaker 3 (55:24):
She said that my mom abandoned me when I was
just a newborn baby and missed a lot of my milestones.
Speaker 4 (55:29):
And she raised me when I was barely one years
old and taught me.
Speaker 3 (55:32):
To walk and talk, changed me, fed me everything a
mother was supposed to do, and walked out. Oh wow,
everyone was stunned, and my mother was crying and wanted
to leave. I was comforting her. I went to go
after my stepmom and I screamed at her for ruining
my engagement dinner and what she said to my mom.
Speaker 6 (55:50):
Uh.
Speaker 3 (55:51):
Stepmom tried to talk, but I screamed over her, and
I told her that she is banned from my wedding
and I wanted to get her out of my life. Paul,
ban or not, I'm very curious. This is so sad,
very curious. My stepmother just left and hasn't messaged me
or anything. My father doesn't want to talk to me
or my stepsister. I feel like I did the wrong
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thing and should have just not said anything.
Speaker 4 (56:15):
Am I the A hole?
Speaker 3 (56:16):
We have a quick edit and we're getting that pull up,
but first I have to pull the one and only
Samuel Donner.
Speaker 1 (56:23):
Do we pay in the stepmomuh? OPI is the a hole,
but so is the step mom. OPI is the a
hole because she kicked step mom out of participating in
the wedding. That's not cool. Step moom did have a
significant uh responsibility in raising you, and that should be respected. However,
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when the step mom like objects at your engagement party.
I think that's whack. What should have happened is you
should have like just had a like a one on
one conversation. But like, also the punishment for what Op's
doing is going to be She's not going to have
her step mom in her life.
Speaker 4 (57:04):
That's that's what's going to happen.
Speaker 1 (57:05):
And maybe she doesn't care, but I think Op is
was I think Op was the a hole first, but
but I think because yeah, because I mean understandable, like
she's so hurt, but like that also is just not
a good move. And if we're looking at like how
do you do it? We look back at Rob and
Rob had this happen to him and just kind of
(57:27):
like suffered silently, and then after the wedding was like, hey,
like this really really hurt me. I want I want
you to I want you to know.
Speaker 2 (57:35):
There we go, There we go.
Speaker 3 (57:36):
A shockingly ninety one percent of chat is saying to
not ban the step mom from the wedding. Let me
know if you guys are understanding that right because everyone's
the hole here though, Yeah, yeah, yeah, everyone is.
Speaker 1 (57:51):
The a hole. Yeah, Like can we can we go
op a hole or everyone's a whole? Let's see it.
I would love to know what you guys think on
that one. Op's the a whole. Stepmom's reaction was very emotional.
Op's the a hole due to three parents not having
a conversation. Kayle mc campus says, I feel like OP
invited both stepmom and buy a Mom to the engagement
party knowing shit would hit the fan. Lucy Ford says
(58:14):
Opie's huge a hole, Stepmom as a tiny a hole.
Jellybis says to understand, they need to have a conversation.
OP needs to grow the f up. Yep.
Speaker 3 (58:23):
People are passionate. Well we gotten met at least gentlemen.
To anyone saying that I'm only after my mother's money,
It's not true. My mother insisted she wanted me to
have my wedding at her lake house. Oh I forgot
about that part. I wanted to do it somewhere else
in the beginning, so I accepted it. I don't care
for an expensive wedding, As I said, it's small weddings
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only with close family and friends. I'm not after anyone's money.
Even at seven, I wasn't. We weren't expecting you to
Op to be honest another at it, I am not
after my mother's money, just doubling down. My fiance and
I are paying for most of it, and we have
got decent jobs to pay for a wedding. So again,
not after my mom's my mom's money.
Speaker 1 (59:05):
Oh no, it sounds like you're getting pretty defensive over here.
Speaker 2 (59:08):
Yeah, dude, if you're explaining, you're losing bruh.
Speaker 3 (59:11):
Edit, my stepmother is not sitting in the back. Please
stop assuming she's sitting in the front with the rest
of the family. Not sure where everyone read that she
was sitting in the back. She wanted my mother to
sit in the back, which got me upset, and I
never told her she was gonna be sitting at the
back of the wedding. So please again, my step mom
is not sitting in the back of the wedding. She's
sitting in the front.
Speaker 4 (59:32):
Hey, is she sitting in the back or the Is
she sitting in the front of the way. I feel
like you're really really trying to justify yourself. All right,
and we've got the final update.
Speaker 1 (59:42):
Fire update.
Speaker 3 (59:46):
Everyone of you guys has called me names and my
mom names, which I didn't appreciate. Y'all started assuming I
was only after my mom's money. Assumed that my stepmother
was to sit in the back.
Speaker 4 (59:58):
As we've heard, true.
Speaker 3 (01:00:01):
All I came here for was opinions of others, not
to be degraded or be called names. But here is
the update. I finally got a hold of my stepmother
through my stepsister. My stepmother and I agreed to meet
at my house. When she got there, she looked very sad,
and I just gave her a big hug. I told
her how much I love her and she's the best
mom anyone can ask for. We sat down together and
(01:00:22):
had like a three to four hour conversation. We both
apologized in the end, and my step mom wanted to
apologize to my mom for what she said. She also
said she understands if she wasn't getting a dance, she
is just grateful to be there and watch her daughter
get married, aw, which made us both cry. I told
her how sorry I was about shouting at her and
(01:00:43):
banning her. I told her it was in the heat
of the moment and I should have just comforted her.
I didn't want I didn't want her out of my life,
and she told me that she will stay in my
life forever and accept my decisions and support them.
Speaker 2 (01:00:56):
We both hugged it out.
Speaker 4 (01:00:58):
She left home.
Speaker 3 (01:00:59):
We have been texting and calling each other every day.
My dad and stepsister have been texting and calling me too.
My mom has also gotten an apology for my step mom.
My mom apologized to my stepmother. And now we are
all excited for the wedding. Can't wait to marry the
girl I have loved forever. Oh, by the way, there's
something that you've loved for forever.
Speaker 1 (01:01:20):
Yeah, there is, and it's us. And if you a
big wet kiss right now?
Speaker 2 (01:01:25):
Oh, Sam's given that, not me.
Speaker 3 (01:01:28):
But what I will give you is two thousand episodes
of full episodes just like this said it wrong, but
you get the idea. Go to Spotify, good Apple podcasts,
Go to your favorite podcast app search Okay, story.
Speaker 2 (01:01:42):
Time and play away. I promise it is something you
won't regret.
Speaker 3 (01:01:46):
But as we are nearing the end of the story,
dear Samuel, we have gotten a phenomenal update here.
Speaker 1 (01:01:52):
It's great. I mean it's great. I think this is
this is what should have happened way earlier.
Speaker 3 (01:01:58):
Yes, I will give him credit for ultimately having conversation
too it, because to be honest, we don't.
Speaker 4 (01:02:02):
Always see it. We always have that resolution, but it's
better late than never.
Speaker 3 (01:02:07):
And you know what, maybe this had to happen for
them to come to the table like this and be
totally I love the vulnerability and as Fanny says, yay
communication a communication.
Speaker 1 (01:02:19):
We love communication on this show. That is car We're
a big communication gap, communicating to the max. Communicate with
me now.
Speaker 3 (01:02:28):
I'm just grateful for my friends and family, especially my stepmother,
who has given me everything I wanted in life. My
stepsister and my father are still a bit upset with me,
but are still nice to me. All my friends are
on my side, and my mom did feel awful about
the whole situation. She didn't intend to put my step
mother and stepfather and my father down. Even my little
sister was really upset with my mother and I. She's
not talking to my mother as she really cares for
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my stepmother and has been spending time with her a lot.
She has told me that she sees step mom as
her true and only mother. I hope in the future
that she will talk to our bio mom and we
can all go back to our lives normally and no
more hostility towards one underne Hey.
Speaker 1 (01:03:06):
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Speaker 2 (01:03:08):
That's a great note to end the episode on.
Speaker 1 (01:03:13):
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Speaker 2 (00:04):
Oh yeah, and we got some great stories coming up.
Speaker 1 (00:06):
But before that, we get a teeny two minute break
from the sponsors that keep this show propped up like
a little house.
Speaker 3 (00:12):
Oh yeah, my stepmother than a law keeps posting pictures
of our kids online.
Speaker 4 (00:17):
So we threaten to cut her off.
Speaker 1 (00:19):
Or is she saying that these are my kids, like, hey,
look at my kids. She's trying manifest, manifest manifest, No,
don't do it. The secret babies. My wife and I have.
Speaker 3 (00:30):
Two children, eight male and five female, and we are
expecting a third. Since our oldest was born, we have
been clear and consistent about not wanting pictures of them
posted online. It was my it was my wife's idea,
but mutual decision.
Speaker 1 (00:42):
So that that's a thing that's like like people are
doing nowadays. They're like, oh, like, I don't know, of
having our children everywhere online is a good idea. All
the cool y Casey Nistat doesn't post his kids online,
and he's a cool guy, and he's a cool guy.
Speaker 4 (00:54):
That's a very freaking cool guy you know who also.
Speaker 1 (00:56):
Doesn't post her kids. Oh I think Jeff Bezos probably true,
but he doesn't have kids, so that's probably one of
the main He.
Speaker 4 (01:05):
Just has these bad boys.
Speaker 1 (01:06):
Yeah, dude, Jeff is freaking out.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
Absolutely.
Speaker 4 (01:10):
Yea, let's get him and Mark Zuckerberg and a ring team.
I'd do. My money is a Mark, I'd pay for that.
I don't know. Bro bro freaking bro Lex Luthor versus
like frat boy. He's not a frat boy, but he
looks like one with his curly hair.
Speaker 1 (01:26):
Dude, but he trains jiu jitsu. Now he's like a
BJJ champion.
Speaker 4 (01:33):
He is a BADDY champion. Have you seen that emphasis
on the I have seen a little bit.
Speaker 1 (01:37):
I know where you're going. I know the emphasis on
the the first two letters.
Speaker 2 (01:40):
Yeah, well, you know where this story came from.
Speaker 3 (01:44):
Oh god, but you know this story came from Mission
Atmosphere sixteen. And if you want to send me your
own stories, go to the arsat Shokey story Time, subur
send it in.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
We might read it.
Speaker 3 (01:52):
So most of our friends and family have no problem
with that, but we've had problems with my wife's stepmother.
She has on several occasions posted photos of her children
on her Instagram without our consent, crossing the line granny.
Most are harmless pictures of her with them or family
photos with more people in them, but there have been
a few times she took pictures of the kids behind
(02:14):
their backs and posted them. Every time we see it's
just a bad picture.
Speaker 1 (02:18):
If it's behind their back.
Speaker 4 (02:19):
Though, dude, be it better photography?
Speaker 1 (02:21):
Yeah, get try of them like you want? You want
in front of their back?
Speaker 4 (02:26):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (02:26):
Well, I guess is behind their back? Wait, if you're
taking a picture, yeah, if you're taking a picture behind
the back, then you're getting someone's back exactly. Yeah, you
want to see like this the face. But also I
feel like in front of behind the back almost feels
like it's like it like like this is but my
(02:47):
front is behind my back.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
I think you're a dude. You're diving deep into this, dude.
Speaker 1 (02:52):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (02:52):
Anyway, every time we see a photo of our children
on Instagram page, we tell her to delete it. She
always does, but the next time she sees them it
happens again. We've been having this discussion with her daughter
since our daughter was born. She never listens. I want
to ask real quick, everyone in chatt and comments and Sam,
how many you set this boundary with your stepmother? How
(03:15):
many times? Does she have to like post before you
do cut off where it was like you can't see
the kids anymore. You told her to No, she keeps
posting fifteen fifteen, Wow, I think ten. Maybe guys, let
us know in the comments what your number is. I'm
very I'm very curious to.
Speaker 1 (03:35):
Say, only because like this, it's such a normal behavior
to like post pictures of people, so it's like a
hard behavior to unlearned. So fifteen chances seems.
Speaker 3 (03:45):
Like a lot of chances. That's an ample themount. I
think you're giving them a good opportunity. So my family
spent New Year's Eve at a rented beach house with
some of my wife's paternal family. We returned home on
January first. That same day, my wife's stepmother posted several
pictures from the trip. Buried between them were three photos
of our kids on the beach. They're wearing swimsuits, except
(04:07):
for one of the pictures, don't seem aware they're being photographed.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
My wife and I talked and we both call.
Speaker 1 (04:12):
A candid That's that's what everyone's doing these days, the
candid Instagram. That's what's most important. That's what that's what Yeah, dude,
my my, my Instagram very UNCANDID I need to I
need to get on it.
Speaker 3 (04:27):
Yeah, bro, we we don't post. We post one hundred
times a day on the show and zero times zero.
Speaker 1 (04:32):
Yeah, I know I need to get I need to.
I want my Instagram to be aesthetic.
Speaker 4 (04:36):
We'll get there, guys.
Speaker 1 (04:38):
I wanted to be like like a like a like
a hot girl that only travels. I mean, that's that's
what I want. That's peak, that's peak, that's very peak. Now.
Speaker 3 (04:46):
My wife and I talked and we both agreed we'd
given her step mother enough chances. As long as she's
active on social media, she will continue posting pictures of
our children without our consent. We called her yesterday and
said that she he won't be allowed to see back
her kids unless she deletes her Instagram account.
Speaker 4 (05:04):
Ooh, okay, that's a poll. That's a poll.
Speaker 3 (05:07):
Delete ig or nah dold we tell her to delete
ig or nah.
Speaker 5 (05:12):
I'm very curious to hear what you have to say
under or under a thousand followers.
Speaker 1 (05:18):
Oh, like, if it's like if it's if it's over
a thousand followers, then.
Speaker 4 (05:21):
It's like, oh no, is it monetized?
Speaker 1 (05:24):
I would I feel I don't know, it's too much.
Speaker 3 (05:27):
Yeah, I think like deleting all the photos of your
kids totally, that is totally fair, totally reasonable.
Speaker 4 (05:34):
Yeah, deleting the whole account.
Speaker 3 (05:36):
She probably she probably just likes posting memories like it's
like it's like a photo book, you.
Speaker 4 (05:41):
Know, a family.
Speaker 1 (05:42):
I mean like, for example, my dad takes way too
many pictures at every event.
Speaker 4 (05:47):
You know, he just but he just likes. He just
likes having He just likes having pictures. It's cute.
Speaker 1 (05:50):
It's like he's not gonna he's not doing anything with it.
He just likes he likes just like having them. Yeah,
and I think a lot of people's instagrams are the same.
I think it's too much, it's too I think it's
too much. But I love knowing you guys.
Speaker 2 (06:00):
Let us know.
Speaker 3 (06:00):
So that means that she won't have any kind of
contact with them, receive pictures, or be invited to their events.
She cried during the call and tried to promise us
that she would delete the New Year's Eve post and
never do anything like that again. But we told her
that we can't trust her. She can keep her account
if she wants to, but she won't be allowed or
but she won't be allowed near our kids if she does.
(06:20):
My father in law, who's also against posting pictures of
children on social media, called my wife last night. He
agreed that her stepmother crossed the line, but said cutting
her off from our children was an exaggeration.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
I agree. I agree with that completely, Like she crossed
the line by posting those pictures, which you specifically told
her not to. But it like to cut someone off
over that feels so aggressive?
Speaker 4 (06:43):
Yeah, cutting off is?
Speaker 3 (06:45):
Yeah, it is. It is aggressive. I'm chew on that one. Yeah,
because that's kind of a tricky one. He said that
she just started to make money with social media, but
she also loves our kids very much, and it's cruel
to force her to choose. She's monetized. It's monetizing. Granny's
trying to get her bag up. Okay, I don't think
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that we're in the wrong here, but I'm still worried
we're taking this too far?
Speaker 4 (07:09):
Am I the A hole?
Speaker 3 (07:10):
We have some relevant comments coming up, but really quickly, first.
Speaker 2 (07:14):
Is ob the A hole?
Speaker 4 (07:15):
Yes?
Speaker 1 (07:15):
Or no? I want to say a hole because it's
your kids and you can decide like what yes you want,
But it seems overly strictly, yes, she crossed a boundary
that you specifically put and maybe yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
Yeah, it's not it's not a it's not quite an
a hole.
Speaker 3 (07:32):
It's not like fifty one percent a hole, but it
is it's too much, and it's it's not a crime
worthy of the punishment, or it's just.
Speaker 1 (07:40):
Like, hey, like we need proof that you're you're you're,
you're not going to do this, So I think we
need to take a break for like a month, And
maybe that accomplishes the the same thing as like saying
I feel like saying like like we're gonna take a
break from seeing you for a little bit because we
really like don't don't want this, but we'll see you
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in a little bit. And then it's like you know,
you know when your iPhone you put in a password
too many times and it's like, hey, you can't, You're
not going to put in a password for the next minute,
and then you put in a password wrong again or
two minutes, and then I just like keeps going up
and up. I think you iPhone password her yep, where
it's like, hey, you put in too you made too
many boo boos. We're not going to see you for
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like a month, and then you go again and she
she posts pictures of your kids two months. Yeah, I
go two months later she post pictures foret four months yep,
double yeah.
Speaker 4 (08:36):
That's the perfect solution.
Speaker 3 (08:37):
That's what I think I would do, because she because
that should teach any sane person their lesson.
Speaker 4 (08:41):
Or or or.
Speaker 3 (08:44):
Split on the revenue. Hey man, we gotta get this
is my kids we're talking about.
Speaker 1 (08:50):
We got to get compensated. We gotta we gotta bump
that up.
Speaker 3 (08:52):
Any I'm sorry, but that monstiction about to go to
me ninety ten kids, that's a that's a call run
right there.
Speaker 2 (09:00):
Okay, oh man, so we got some relevant comments.
Speaker 3 (09:03):
Commentary number one says, not the a hole she started
making money off of social media translates into my mind too.
She knows that posting kids will help engagement and pay more.
That is another thing I thought about that we haven't
talked about yet, and I would never allow that stand
your ground.
Speaker 1 (09:17):
You've given her true posting kids pays more.
Speaker 3 (09:20):
Well no, so think about this, right, if she just
started monetizing her account and then she noticed, like I mean,
it's like puppies, you know, cute kids or whatever, like, oh,
that probably she's got she's putting out granny content. Probably
cute grandkids is grade a freaking.
Speaker 1 (09:35):
Great granny influencers.
Speaker 3 (09:37):
Like, bro, they're out here, like here's here's my depends,
here's the top, here's my review of these.
Speaker 4 (09:43):
You know, all kinds of granny content.
Speaker 1 (09:44):
Man, who's the oldest influencer that you watch?
Speaker 3 (09:48):
Uh, there's the there's the house with all the old
people in it.
Speaker 1 (09:52):
Oh yeah, yeah, I know what you're talking about here
talking about Okay, yeah, yeah, Okay.
Speaker 4 (09:56):
That's gotta be that's they're pretty up there.
Speaker 2 (09:59):
Lo key, dude.
Speaker 3 (10:00):
Being old is a hack for creating content. By the way,
anyone out there that's like freaking old, but.
Speaker 1 (10:04):
You have to be old. You have to be old though, yeah,
like like I was. I was when I was searching
for Grandpa's in New York. There's like the cute grandpa factor. Yeah,
and you have to be like like eighty plus and
then you're like a cute grandpa, but like eighty minus,
you're not like cute yet. Yeah, you have to do
be like like a little bit more frail and a
little bit more helpless, and then you get into cute,
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cute territory.
Speaker 2 (10:27):
Yeah, like Paris, that's cute, dude.
Speaker 4 (10:31):
But then our generation, it's just gonna be a lot
of old people on social media. It's gonna be rad
it's gonna be sick, it's gonna be but it's just
gonna be like, oh, it's another old person.
Speaker 2 (10:42):
True, so get it while you can.
Speaker 1 (10:45):
No, I think, I think. I think social media is
generally a young person game. A lot of people, a
lot of people die out.
Speaker 4 (10:51):
Let me ask you this, Are you gonna stop creating
content at eight years old?
Speaker 1 (10:54):
Hell?
Speaker 4 (10:54):
No? There you go me either. That's true. I'm finna
be one hundred years old, like okay, granddaddy, Oh turback?
Speaker 1 (11:04):
Use okay, granddaddy for fifteen percent off on.
Speaker 5 (11:08):
Yeah, running it back now, it depends use my personal
link anyways.
Speaker 4 (11:17):
Self choke.
Speaker 3 (11:18):
So you've given her a chance, commenter says, since she
won't accept it, you can give you can now give
her a deadline or you'll make the choice for her
permanently and then we have an update. But what was
the what was the final results in the poll? It
was it was definitely makes so forty three percent said
hey delete the oh sorry. Forty six percent said delete
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the IG. Fifty four percent said it's too far, so
barely a majority, but the majority says.
Speaker 4 (11:44):
That is too far and don't necessarily ask for that.
Speaker 1 (11:47):
Yeah, yeah, I feel like there's something. Yeah, I think
it's too much. I do think there needs to be
a line drawn, yes for sure, But I don't know
if I would if I personally would go that far.
But I totally understand that there with people who are
who want to be extremely careful with their children, I
would go that far.
Speaker 3 (12:06):
Yeah, we want to we want to just punishment here
where we're all for the punishment of the crime, but
gotta do it right.
Speaker 1 (12:11):
And we do realize like, yeah, there are there are
there are weirdos out there first Store, but like ninety
percent of people post their kids, like ninety nine percent
of people post their kids on social media. Yeah, and
so it's just like I feel like it's a I
feel like it's a hard habit to to like like
(12:35):
let go of. Maybe for some people, I will say,
though we don't know exactly how many times she's done it,
but if she's done it, like getting into three, four, five, six, seven, eight,
like unless you have a memory problem, that's I feel
like that's just like blatantly disrespecting like the boundary you want.
I feel like it goes away from like, oh, a
person likes sharing in general to just like they just
(12:57):
straight up don't give an f. Yeah, there needs to
be consequences, for sure, but deleting the right content, Yeah,
the right consequences. I don't know if deleting ig is
like the right content. We need a fair verdict here
because like, also you could just download stabchat or Facebook.
Speaker 2 (13:11):
Oh man, you know that's true. But also there's a
big old update.
Speaker 1 (13:18):
Hit me with it.
Speaker 2 (13:19):
Hey, folks, I thought i'd give you an update.
Speaker 3 (13:21):
I think I got into a lot of detail in
the comments, but I feel like I should mention the following. So,
my wife's stepmother is forty five. I'm not bowling the
elderly here, So we're we're not quite in like full granny.
She hasn't gone full granny yet. She has sixty thousand
followers on Instagram. Well, that also changes it.
Speaker 1 (13:39):
That's a that's a decent amount.
Speaker 3 (13:40):
Yeah, her Instagram account is not focused solely on my children.
Speaker 2 (13:44):
She started out as.
Speaker 3 (13:44):
A lifestyle blogger a few years ago, and she started
posting family stuff as well. And by the way, Sam,
if you're looking for a date, we'll uh, we'll get that.
We'll get that ig pulled up for you. I heard
she's great with kids. O.
Speaker 1 (13:58):
Man, Oh, she have the teeth that she can take out,
because that changes things for.
Speaker 2 (14:06):
Me, right, that's the that's the green flat asset.
Speaker 4 (14:10):
That's an asset. That's an asset.
Speaker 3 (14:11):
And now at least half of her content revolves around that.
She tries to post pictures of my kids every time
she takes them. Almost every time we see her, she
posts a new picture. She has also posted more photos
of my daughter than my son. Both me and my
wife are on Instagram, but not very actively. She has
a private account and another one for her job. I
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only have a personal account, in which I rarely post anything.
Neither of us have ever posted our children's faces in
any of these accounts. My wife doesn't see her stepmother
as a parent. She started dating my father in law
when my wife was twenty years old, and they're not
very close. My children don't see her as a grandmother either.
This isn't about me looking for a reason to cut
ties with my in laws. I get along very well
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with my wife's father and besides her behavior concerning social media.
Speaker 4 (14:55):
I have no problem with her stepmother.
Speaker 3 (14:57):
I really shouldn't have to explain why me and my
wife don't want pictures of.
Speaker 4 (15:01):
Our children online.
Speaker 2 (15:02):
If you're a parent.
Speaker 3 (15:03):
Who has no problems with other postings, uh uh with
others posting photos of your kids, that's fine. I'm not
here to change your mind, nor would I attempt it
if I were. Your decisions regarding your children are your own,
as our mine, and none of.
Speaker 4 (15:16):
Us live in the United States. So yeah, those are
those are the quick updates, and there's more there.
Speaker 2 (15:20):
But I feel like that does paint a lot more context.
Speaker 1 (15:24):
And sixty K is a lot to expose your children to.
Speaker 3 (15:27):
Yeah, this is this isn't like I was picturing again
like a freaking sweet cute little granny just.
Speaker 4 (15:33):
Like oh hey snap snap snap.
Speaker 3 (15:35):
No, this is like I am legitimately like I'm influencing.
I'm influencing, I'm getting them brand deals, I'm getting I'm
getting all that stuff, and uh and you're not only
disrespecting my wish, but there's like a kind of added
layer to it. It's like you're kind of like using
my kids, you know, which I I don't.
Speaker 4 (15:55):
I don't like that.
Speaker 1 (15:57):
Yeah. Yeah, I mean I.
Speaker 4 (16:00):
Feel like at the end of the day, it's just like, hey,
respect the boundary that I.
Speaker 1 (16:03):
Find you could. And I think that's why I don't
think op's an a hole. It's like you can put
whatever boundaries that you want. Yeah, me personally, like, I
don't know if I would. I would like as delete
the Instagram because I don't know if that's helpful.
Speaker 4 (16:15):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (16:16):
Oh, and also that also low key makes it a
little bit more ridiculous on the flip side for them
to ask that, because that's like maybe a source of
like our livelihood, you know.
Speaker 1 (16:25):
Yeah, but I think you you, I think, like putting
distance between this person it does make sense. I don't,
But I just I don't think they asking for the
deleting Instagram makes sense. One month time out, Yeah, one
month time out, and then any picture you post another
two months, and then more, more and more and more.
Speaker 4 (16:42):
These are not content creator parents.
Speaker 3 (16:43):
We're dealing with her, Yeah, Okay, we kind of break
it down for so I read your comments and talk
to things with my wife. As upset as we are
about this, we feel the need to deal with it fairly.
So we have to take into consideration that one, per
stepmother's account is not focused solely on our children, and two,
we had never threatened her with loss of contact before,
so our.
Speaker 2 (17:02):
Ultimatum might have been too sudden.
Speaker 3 (17:04):
Okay, Okay, so we're kind of like they're kind of
seeing what we're saying here.
Speaker 2 (17:08):
That said, we are.
Speaker 3 (17:09):
Still not comfortable with our children being posted on social media,
and we regret not effectively stopping this sooner. So, however
we move forward, we need to make it clear that
we are serious.
Speaker 4 (17:19):
About this boundary.
Speaker 3 (17:20):
So a few days ago, my wife and I met
her father and stepmother at their place. We left the
kids with my wife's mother, and we sat them down
and told them that we'd retract the ultimatum, but we
don't trust her stepmother to not sneak pictures of our
children again. We decided to propose what many of you suggested,
a no phone policy, which we would all abide by.
Whenever my wife's stepmother saw our kids, she also would
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no longer receive any pictures of them anymore, and if
she ever posted a photo of our children anywhere again,
then we would cut her off from them. My father
in law agreed right away, but his wife got offended.
She said that she couldn't control how she used her phone.
What huh oh oh, no ah ah, I can't get you.
Speaker 1 (18:05):
That's dumb.
Speaker 3 (18:06):
Come on, come on now, come on now. I'd be
influencing so much, huh.
Speaker 4 (18:11):
I would be checking the comments of the posts, like
what kind of vibe we got going on here? Yeah?
Speaker 1 (18:18):
I can't imagine. I mean, it could for sure be weird,
but it also could just be like a normal, just
mommy blogger thing.
Speaker 3 (18:25):
Yeah, I feel like she's a mommy blogger, But I
do believe that probably that perform. Like she Opie said,
she had already transitioned into doing like half of like
family content, So these posts probably perform very well.
Speaker 4 (18:38):
That's and she's kind of using it. That's that's what
I think. Let me know what you think of the comments.
Speaker 3 (18:42):
She tried to promise us she'd stop posting the kids again,
but we said no, we can't trust her anymore, and
we have no intention of giving her more chances.
Speaker 2 (18:49):
The four of us hadn't argued about this. My father
in law mostly took our side.
Speaker 3 (18:53):
It lasted for a while, and my wife's stepmother started
by apologizing, but eventually started trying to defend. She told
us she always thought that we were overreacting and that
lots of people post pictures of her children online every
day without any problems. We asked her why she was
so insistent on posting pictures of our kids. She tried
to dodge the question at first, but admitted that the
posts with the kids got more engagement.
Speaker 2 (19:17):
We called it.
Speaker 3 (19:17):
She used the New Year's post as an example. It
was only up for a little over twenty four hours
before she took it down, but she claimed it was
one of her most successful posts ever.
Speaker 1 (19:28):
WHOA.
Speaker 3 (19:28):
When I asked her why she thought that had happened,
she said, it's because the kids look so cute in them.
My wife looked at my stepmother and said, no, it's
because they're barely dressing them. You cannot convince us that
a photo of our five year old daughter in a
swimsuit is getting attention from thousands of strangers because she's cute.
Speaker 2 (19:46):
Either you're an idiot or you know what you're doing.
Speaker 4 (19:50):
By posting those pictures.
Speaker 2 (19:52):
I mean, just the risk.
Speaker 4 (19:54):
Alone, and if there's a lot of like the like
to comment to save ratio is high. Oh god, yeah,
that astly wasn't even really thinking about.
Speaker 3 (20:06):
That even even the which again is why, like, listen,
respect the boundary that these parents have set, because that's
what they want to do. And then also, why would you,
you know, if someone's worried about that, why why even
go anywhere potentially near.
Speaker 4 (20:22):
That as a concern, right like go icky? So she
started crying.
Speaker 3 (20:32):
She said her content was wholesome, her followers are good people,
and that we had no right to control her like that.
Speaker 4 (20:37):
My father in law was silent. That is when we
gave up.
Speaker 3 (20:42):
We told her to keep her Instagram, but except she
is losing access to our kids. She tried to make
more excuses, including some of my followers think they're my kids,
which my wife was furious about. But we stood our
ground and went home. By the way you're going home,
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Speaker 1 (21:17):
I feel weird. Yeah, I feel bad.
Speaker 3 (21:21):
I think, yeah, when it when it reaches like this again,
I believe already because it was their boundary. They sat
like that's already the first stop of like, nah, you
gotta stop doing it. But with all the details and
context of the step mother, I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 2 (21:38):
I don't know if I would.
Speaker 3 (21:39):
Want my kids around her because I'm like one just
disgusted and just like leaves such a bad, bad vibe.
Speaker 4 (21:46):
You know what I mean. I I I'm not liking
this nether am I like, like, I don't know, how
can you not realize that?
Speaker 1 (22:00):
I don't know. I thought, just people like taking pictures
of their kids. Yeah, why does the internet always have
to be weird?
Speaker 4 (22:08):
It does be doing that. It's people, it does be
doing that. Yes the end.
Speaker 3 (22:15):
My father in law called me and my wife later
that night. He told me he was disappointed in my
wife and was taking our side. We're not sure how
to deal with him. Either of us want to cut
him off from the kids, but we're not certain we
can trust him either. My wife just told him we
need some space, and he said that that was fine.
I am exhausted, and my wife is doing even worse.
But we've spoken about this and we're both also relieved.
(22:36):
We've still got work to do, but nothing we can
handle over now. We've got two amazing children and a
baby on the way, and they will always be our
number one priority.
Speaker 4 (22:44):
Thank you all for your support.
Speaker 3 (22:45):
I'm busy with the kids, so I can't promise or
apply to as many comments, but I'll do my best.
And you know what, I guess hope he didn't because.
Speaker 2 (22:51):
He'll be dead.
Speaker 4 (22:52):
So that's it.
Speaker 1 (22:53):
That was fun.
Speaker 4 (22:54):
Yep, Yeah, yeah. I think it's hitting him hard because
he just looks for the best in people. He was
and he was just blindsided by this.
Speaker 1 (23:03):
Blindsided was like, I also have sixty thousand Instagram.
Speaker 4 (23:08):
Whoa, whoa, But you get more success posting key on
his cheeks than you do the other thing. True, and
you don't do the other thing.
Speaker 1 (23:18):
There are no.
Speaker 2 (23:18):
Other things here?
Speaker 4 (23:19):
Yeah? What children there? I don't I've never I've lived
in LA for a year. Honestly, I haven't seen a kid.
I haven't. I can't tell you the last time I
saw a child near this place.
Speaker 1 (23:33):
Oh do you have a school close? Though?
Speaker 4 (23:35):
Actually, last night.
Speaker 1 (23:39):
Like there's a school like very close. You've never seen
a kid walking home from school.
Speaker 4 (23:45):
Maybe last year, but there was a kid in his
dad playing basketball last night. I remember that. Yeah, yeah,
but don't worry. Sam, You're good. You're good, dude.
Speaker 2 (23:57):
So that's it.
Speaker 4 (23:59):
That's it.
Speaker 1 (23:59):
I feel like that's all the gaess. We got to
take that one. Can we not read stories like that?
I don't want to read stories like that anymore.
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Speaker 2 (25:47):
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Speaker 1 (25:49):
It's ridiculous. Don't get I said, kick you out, and
we got demonetized the entire channel, but ridiculous. My father
passed a year ago and it sent shockwaves throughout our
small family. And now my mother moved us in after
selling her house because she was getting too old to
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live on her own. She had me at thirty four.
That's that's rather that's rather late. Right, that's rather late.
Speaker 4 (26:16):
My mom had us at like thirty four and thirty seven.
Speaker 1 (26:20):
Oh wow, that's rather late. Straight up, Well, she looks great,
that's right, she sh That is my Mama, I love
you to your mom. She had me at thirty four
and she lived out in the country, so it wasn't
safest for her there. She cooks and cleans while we work,
buys the groceries with her social security, and generally tries
to make herself useful, even though we tell her it
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isn't necessary. We appreciate her efforts due to how busy
we are. Our diets absolutely have improved. That sounds win.
Sounds like a win. But we're worried because she doesn't
have a lot of hobbies and oftentimes doesn't know what
to do with herself. I'm not sure why she hasn't
looked for any hobbies, but that's her choice. I suppose
get her into underwater aerobics.
Speaker 4 (27:03):
Ooh smart, I.
Speaker 1 (27:06):
Kind of want to join like an aerobics class with
a bunch of eighty year olds and you just get
like all the hot goss.
Speaker 3 (27:12):
You would absolutely do the hot goss in those with
the with their little like yeah, with the bonnets, with
the bonnets and everything.
Speaker 1 (27:18):
Wouldn't that be fun?
Speaker 4 (27:19):
Be crazy?
Speaker 1 (27:20):
It would kind of be fun.
Speaker 4 (27:21):
Dude.
Speaker 2 (27:21):
There's there's a granny you can find help make friends.
Speaker 1 (27:25):
Good place to go oh, that's yeah, very visual. Integrate
with the grannies, Yep, yeah, I I integrated with an
underwater Uh what's it called a gun?
Speaker 2 (27:38):
I infiltrated underwater.
Speaker 1 (27:39):
Aerobics class to make friends with Grandma's The date of grandma.
Speaker 4 (27:45):
Up in the ante. Yeah, I like that and win
her love and inheritance. Whoa, now we're talking.
Speaker 1 (27:52):
That's all right a story, Ali, Rayce and Sam would
data immediately immediately say I'm her only child, And recently,
over the past few months, she started to pass to
the both of us about giving her grandchildren she can spoil.
At first, I made a joke about our cat being
her grandchild and it was funny, but did not stop.
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I figured it was just a phase that she moved on,
but she didn't. Every day she just kept making these
little comments about grandchildren and that our kids would be adorable.
It was easy to ignore her first, but she wouldn't stop.
Then one day I had a hard week at work
and didn't get enough sleep at all, and while she
was making breakfast the next morning, she kept bringing it
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up and kept trying to make it into a serious conversation,
talking about how a grandchild would make her so happy.
I finally snapped and told her to let it go,
and I got loud, nothing serious, but I did tell
her that she was unbearable when all she thought about
was grandchildren, and I couldn't understand why she couldn't just
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get the f over the fact that me and my sign,
if we can other, we're child free and happy.
Speaker 6 (29:03):
Huh.
Speaker 1 (29:03):
She continued the rest of the meal in silence and
proceeded to give me the cold shoulder for the rest
of the day. That was several weeks ago. She's like
a completely different person now. She still cooks and cleans
and stuff, but she barely talks it all. And when
there's nothing to do, she just sits on the couch
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and rots away, eyes glazed over as she watches family feud,
antique road show, and whatever else old people watch.
Speaker 2 (29:32):
Dude, what a great that was, just such a great portrait.
I can just see it so clearly.
Speaker 4 (29:38):
Am I whoa yeah?
Speaker 1 (29:41):
Full sad?
Speaker 2 (29:42):
Yeah, dude.
Speaker 1 (29:44):
She never wants to go anywhere or do anything, especially
not with us. Whenever I try to have a conversation
with her that's more than discussing a basic necessity, she
just gives me a dirty look, a dirty bitter look,
and I usually back off. She just fall into eternal
sleep with whatever chores she sets out to do that day.
We don't require anything from her. This is all out
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of her own volition. And then she just watches TV.
Watching is a strong word. She more just like sits
there and just rocks. I can't think of a better
word for it.
Speaker 4 (30:17):
The O G brain rot, Yeah, O G brain rot.
Speaker 1 (30:19):
Due for Antique road Show and watching the late night commercials.
What what's the thing where you buy stuff?
Speaker 4 (30:26):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (30:27):
Oh yeah yeah.
Speaker 3 (30:29):
Watching that arguably worse than worse than today's brain rot,
just because I was around so many freaking Florida grannies
that were just freaking just.
Speaker 4 (30:39):
Had a community, you know, it had, it had substance,
it had there was something.
Speaker 1 (30:46):
There, something there at QBC. You want to go back
to the QBC.
Speaker 4 (30:50):
Days, I'd probably be happier.
Speaker 3 (30:52):
For a second, I thought you were saying I had
a community, the Florida grannies that were yeah.
Speaker 1 (30:57):
No, you've always had. Finally, John, it was around people.
Speaker 2 (31:02):
You can't wait, guys.
Speaker 1 (31:04):
So recently, me and my girlfriend were talking and we
found a great deal on a cruise and decided to go.
Since we had massed a lot of pto. We bought
the tickets and surprised her with one, thinking a cruise
from Buddha Pist to Amsterdam would cheer her up. She
just clowered at the tickets like I handed her a
bag of dog crap as a birthday gift and then
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asked me what it was for. I told her that
we wanted to go on a cruise with her to
maybe cheer her up and help her get out of
the house.
Speaker 4 (31:32):
I like it.
Speaker 1 (31:33):
Her response, John, Oh no.
Speaker 6 (31:35):
Why why did you start to pretend that you care
about my happiness? All of us are that. I want
nothing to do with descifront.
Speaker 4 (31:46):
Dad, dude who turns on a cruise? That is a
sad person. Man.
Speaker 3 (31:52):
It is hard to be happy on a boat with
an unlimited cafe, unlimited buffet.
Speaker 1 (31:56):
It is hard to be happy.
Speaker 2 (31:57):
It's hard to not be happy. Sorry, my words are
all mixed up.
Speaker 1 (32:01):
Have you been on a cruise?
Speaker 2 (32:03):
I did go once?
Speaker 1 (32:03):
Yeah, that makes sense. Age.
Speaker 4 (32:09):
He loves them, man, he just loves them.
Speaker 1 (32:11):
Gick it enough, gig it enough. Cat that man on
a golf course or.
Speaker 2 (32:16):
A cruise playing what's this one? Riley playing Jackson? I
don't know stick with the idea.
Speaker 4 (32:25):
It's like old person hockey chat comments.
Speaker 1 (32:27):
You should play sick and hoop.
Speaker 4 (32:30):
See him on a Thursday night playing bingo, Monday morning
reading the newspaper.
Speaker 1 (32:38):
Yeah, John's out on our porch just getting the kids
off our lawn every day. That's why Riley hasn't seen
any kids in ages.
Speaker 2 (32:49):
That's a good callback.
Speaker 1 (32:51):
I felt sooo excited to get.
Speaker 4 (32:58):
Frigging shuffle board man. Humble board is fun. It looks
really try some time.
Speaker 1 (33:04):
You've not tried it?
Speaker 4 (33:05):
Next person, next old person? Cruise are gone?
Speaker 1 (33:06):
Yeah, shoot my shot. I feel like I feel like
doing a cruise would be I feel like the idea
of cruises is fun, but I don't know if it's
actually fun in practice, I think. But anyway, I felt
so dirty when she said that, Like I couldn't even
be in the same room as her, and I left
the house entirely for a few hours to go get
some fresh winter air. And even now I'm still processing
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what the heck is going on. My mother is like
a completely different person now, and I don't know if
it's my fault or not. Am IV a hole? Did
I cause this? There are some comments There is n
up date TLDR for everyone who's just getting in the stream. Ops,
mama wanted some grand babies and ope, and their partner
is like, hey, we're child free and we love it.
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And then Mama is like and she lives with them,
and so it's super sad and now just rots in
front of the TV and seems completely dejected. And know
he's asking, am I the a hole?
Speaker 4 (34:04):
Yep? I don't say no, no, say no dude.
Speaker 3 (34:07):
I mean like, I love the effort, you know, I
love standing on like, hey, I don't want kids.
Speaker 4 (34:13):
You're standing on on what?
Speaker 1 (34:14):
Standing on business?
Speaker 4 (34:15):
What you want?
Speaker 3 (34:15):
You're standing on business owns and and uh, you're also
trying to be like, hey, like let's go on a cruise,
let's get out, let's have some fun.
Speaker 1 (34:23):
You know. It's again like actively trying to get a
little little gma on her on our feet.
Speaker 4 (34:30):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (34:30):
This is actually this is I feel like a great
example of where it's like someone could be terrible to you,
where it's like they're disrespecting your boundary, like constantly asking
you to have the kids, and you're like, you know what,
let me let me fight it with kindness. Yeah, let's
go on a cruise. Let's enjoy ourselves. It's not working now,
but I just think it's such a classy move.
Speaker 1 (34:48):
Yeah, age Serenity does say, yeah, she is lonely. That's probably.
That's probably that, That's.
Speaker 4 (34:53):
What I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (34:53):
Like, and I think she's just so caught up in
that depressive state that she just prefers to just like
kind of just sit in the anger versus get out
and enjoy.
Speaker 4 (35:04):
If she won on one so bad, she could go get one.
Speaker 1 (35:07):
Sure you can adopt when's too old to adopt.
Speaker 4 (35:11):
They there's got to be some kind of rules on.
They go through an intensive like the innrocess.
Speaker 2 (35:19):
Yeah, are you fit? Are you capable?
Speaker 4 (35:21):
Yeah? So if it doesn't look like you're functioning live
day to day very well, they probably won't give it
to you. So sorry, it's true.
Speaker 1 (35:29):
Man has his gird under control. I think he's functioning. Dude,
well enough, my gourd has not been gurden as hard.
Oh he hasn't been good, hasn't has hasn't been good?
Speaker 4 (35:40):
Yep, I pooped in a bowl. Pooped in a ball.
I pooped in a bowl. They're going to test it.
Speaker 1 (35:45):
They're going I also pooped in a bowl recently dude. Well,
actually it was like a little little diaper that you
put on the toilet.
Speaker 3 (35:51):
Oh, they gave me a straight up bowl. They're talking
hard plastics on, Like did you just like squat?
Speaker 4 (35:56):
Nah?
Speaker 3 (35:56):
That was straight on? There you standing, not understanding. I
figured it out. You could put it on where you
sit normally. But at first I had it backwards, and
I'm like, if I was a woman, this would work.
And then I'm like, I have it backwards, turn it around.
Speaker 2 (36:12):
Fin it worked.
Speaker 1 (36:13):
Bang, I'm I don't. I can't fully visualize it, but
maybe that's for the best. So sounds like she stopped
living for herself and moved into your home in order
to live for your hypothetical children. This is just my opinion,
but I doubt she was too old to live alone
since she can still care for herself and for you too.
It sounds like you guys need to sit down and
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discuss what her expectations were when you guys decided to
combine households. It could be that she resents you for
bursting her bubble and hope you replied, I think you're right.
We were just worried about her living alone, especially since
my dad passed. And another reply said, she's depressed and
still grieving. Need some therapy and somewhere else to live.
She's making all of your lives miserable. And we got
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an update. What do we want to happen here?
Speaker 3 (36:59):
This is a question, And I'm almost like, do we
pull it? Like, do we have her move out? Because
she's living with them right Yeah? She's living with them
right now. That's a tough one, man, because it's like.
Speaker 1 (37:08):
Because but also it's like she's super lonely, so would
would would having her move out actually accelerate the brain
rot even worse? Yeah? Would she be? She'd be watching
that QBC twenty twenty four hours a day, seven days.
Speaker 4 (37:24):
Some girlfriends, dude.
Speaker 1 (37:26):
Yeah, I think he's granny friends. Need some granny friends. Ye,
that's true, dude. Underwater aerobics. That's what I'm talking about.
That's that's what I'm as. I'm talking about what I'm saying.
Kimberly find says she resents him for not busting a
nut with fall through. Kimberly fine, eloquent, eloquent couldn't have
said about ourselves? Yep?
Speaker 4 (37:47):
Couldn't.
Speaker 1 (37:47):
Couldn't really couldn't. I mean, you stole the words right
out of my mouth. But we got an update. Hey,
oh she moved out.
Speaker 4 (37:56):
Whoa.
Speaker 1 (37:56):
It was all a blurber the day after the whole
ticket and we sat down with her during breakfast and
told her that it might be best if she got therapy.
Speaker 6 (38:07):
Oo.
Speaker 1 (38:09):
She said she wanted nothing to do with a therapist
and that she knew she was fine, It's just that
she had an ungrateful son. I was in shock from
the sheer audacity of her statement, and my significant other
almost immediately lost her crap. They started verbally fighting, and
I broke the both of them up so I could
settle it. My mom looked to me as if she
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expected me to defend her, but I didn't. My significant
other came first. My significant other will always come first,
unless I know, beyond a shadow of a doubt that
she's all the way in the wrong. I asked my
girlfriend to leave me and my mother alone so I
could talk to my mother in private, and I let
her know that I loved her, just in case it's important.
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Once we were alone, I told my mother that it
was therapy and accepting the fact that she wouldn't get
grandchildren or move out, so she chose the latter. She
packed her bags, cleaning her room, and try to write
me a check for rents. I told her not to
do that because the intention was never financial, and she
was welcome to stay here and retire as long as
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she remained pleasant and civil. But then she said that
I wasn't acting like her son, I was acting like
her landlord, so she would treat me as such.
Speaker 4 (39:26):
Oh wow, jeez.
Speaker 1 (39:29):
I took the check, ripped it up and told her
to get out whoa which I will tell you to
get the f out if you're not listening to our
podcast every day we release on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, wherever
you get your podcasts. And the great thing about a
podcast you can be doing other things. You could be
fun and you could be uh, I know, twinkling your toes.
(39:52):
You could we could be you could be douche in
your butt. Whatever you need to do that that that
takes hands, you can buy and free, you know, and
listen to the pod.
Speaker 4 (40:04):
Yeah, you could do it, you know.
Speaker 1 (40:05):
So uh, keep everything clean, keep everything tidy, and listen
to the pod that wherever you get your podcasts, there's
a little bit up date. Oh but yeah, what do
we think about where we are right now?
Speaker 4 (40:19):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (40:20):
I mean, uh, pretty. I like the way that Opie
handled it.
Speaker 3 (40:26):
Notice he now it is a hard decision to kind
of like either tell or ask or give you know,
your your own mom the option to like move out
when it clearly seems like she would benefit from saying
with someone. But he did give her the option of like, hey,
you can like live with us and you know, just
accept like hey, we won't be having kids and everything,
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or like like you can move out because like we're not.
I don't know if the.
Speaker 1 (40:51):
Option was better than I think the option. I think
the option really helps. Yeah, and uh, I think it's
the I think it is the most kind thing to do.
Speaker 2 (41:01):
Yeah, you good get over their friend.
Speaker 1 (41:06):
Yes, but we got another update. So I'm still in shock.
I don't know how to feel. I haven't tried calling her.
I figured it'd be best to give her a week
or so of time, but part of me also thinks
that I should call her. I don't know where she'd go.
We practically have no family and she sold her house.
She has plenty of cash from that aforementioned sale, though,
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so she could rent a place. And a comment says, quote,
I was acting like a son. I was acting like
her landlord. This is what you have to remember. A
woman who thinks you having boundaries you won't break for her,
is you not acting like her son? Is not someone
who respects you. A woman who thinks you were expecting respect?
Is you acting like her landlord? Is someone who will
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give who will only give respect to those she feels
aren't a position of power over her, not a loved
one or an equal. You are not a problem here.
Her premise for your relationship to function and away she
would accept is fundamentally skewed, with her as an authority
and you as a subordinates. And there is a reply.
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She sees you that child. She sees you as a child,
her child, not as a grown adult man. And she's
trying to assert control over you, your girlfriend in your home.
She's absolutely in the wrong, but she wants parental control
dynamics over you, which means you'll never be able to
live with her because of how she views you and
your relationship. Aka, she never grew up from being a
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mom to a child to a mom of an adult man.
Another comment, for the love of all that is holy,
double check any forms of birth control you use for
signs of tampering if it were me, I'd toss any
form of BC or little little uh action. Yeah, have
some protection that were in the house while she was
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living there and buy new ones just for peace of mind.
And that is where that story ends.
Speaker 3 (42:59):
Wow, jeez, Yeah, no good good takes. And you know
Op tried, Oh.
Speaker 1 (43:08):
Pep did try. I mean the cruise was really really nice.
Speaker 2 (43:10):
I thought that was really sweet.
Speaker 1 (43:12):
Yeah, it's not his fault that, you know, she she
you can lead the horse to water, but you can't
take it out of its rotting chair.
Speaker 3 (43:19):
And then where's the point where, uh, you know you
can just keep going and you know, just fail and just.
Speaker 1 (43:26):
Just be miserable. She's gonna make it.
Speaker 4 (43:29):
Yeah, She's literally gonna make your life miserable.
Speaker 1 (43:31):
So it's like there's a point. Yeah, there is a point.
Speaker 2 (43:33):
There's a point, but there's also well, how many minutes
are we?
Speaker 4 (43:37):
Uh, we have one more story?
Speaker 3 (43:39):
Yeah, we always have one more story. Hey, it's John here,
og host of the show. We're gonna get back to
these juicy stories. But here's a quick three minutes of
ads from our sponsors. My stepmother screamed my biological mother
during my engagement dinner, so I banned her from my wedding.
Speaker 1 (43:54):
Yeah, get her out of here, your bank, your band.
You can scream in a little straight jackets outside.
Speaker 4 (44:00):
And not in here.
Speaker 3 (44:02):
Well, I twenty five female, have a wonderful relationship with
my stepmother and father, as well as with my mother.
My mother had me with my father when she was
eighteen and my father was nineteen years old. Soon after
my mother brought me home, she ditched me in the
middle of the night ouch, and nobody had seen her
for years. My stepmother came into my life when I
was one years old, and she has a daughter of
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her own a few years older than me. My father
and stepmother married when I was three and my step
miss and when my stepsister was eight.
Speaker 4 (44:30):
By the way, this comes from deleted.
Speaker 3 (44:32):
But if you want to submit your stories and not
to lead them, good osha shky story time, send them
in and we just might read it.
Speaker 4 (44:37):
Yeah, dude, our suburb is at like eleven thousand before
I know, popping off.
Speaker 1 (44:41):
Let's let me go pippy poppin'.
Speaker 2 (44:43):
We're our slash shoky story back. That's very better than ever.
They can't show you.
Speaker 3 (44:48):
Oh anyway, So I saw my stepmother as a mom
and called her mom. She did everything a mother is
supposed to do for their daughter. She treated she never
treated me like I was an outsider. I'm very close
with everyone in my family now. My mother did try
to come back in my life, the bio mother when
I was five years old, because she was pregnant at
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the time with my little sister, but my father didn't
let her. He was very hesitant until I turned seven.
He allowed my mother to slowly come back into my life.
She was a stranger to me. She did have my
little sister who I got to meet when and she
was two at the time. She told me the reason
she ran away was that she has mental problems and
wanted to get help. I was very cold towards her.
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I didn't call her mom, and she didn't force me.
She took her time and let me have my space
until I finally started to get close to her and
my little sister. My mother did have a great job
and a big home.
Speaker 4 (45:43):
Okay, so it seems like she kind of got her
act together. It seems like we're kind of on the come.
Speaker 1 (45:50):
On up and up, We're up and oh.
Speaker 2 (45:53):
I became very close to my mother and my sister,
my father and stepmother allowed me to bring my little
sister to my house all the time, and everything was.
Speaker 1 (46:00):
Great until there's always an until everything was great, until
it all went down hill, until until.
Speaker 4 (46:09):
My girlfriend proposed to me.
Speaker 3 (46:12):
Oh, we are planning a small wedding at my mother's
lake house with our close friends and family. The whole
problem started when I wanted to have my mother sit
in the front and my stepmother didn't like that. Remember
the stepmother that was like originally amazing and then mom
bio mom that was not amazing at first. Right, so
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the roles are maybe so now now reverse could be switching,
could be switching.
Speaker 1 (46:37):
Wait wait wait, so the op's girlfriend proposed and like
there was like a proposal ceremony kind of thing.
Speaker 3 (46:44):
Uh, they're now discussing who's gonna sit where at the wedding.
Oh now we're talking, you know, seating arrangement at the wedding.
Speaker 1 (46:51):
Big deal, that's big deal. A lot a lot can
a lot can fall apart based on who you're sitting
next to. Oh yeah, as we've seen.
Speaker 4 (47:01):
My goodness ten thousand hours catalog.
Speaker 1 (47:04):
Yeah, who would have known that seats would end relationships?
But hey they do.
Speaker 4 (47:10):
Here we are they do?
Speaker 1 (47:11):
In one face and on a relationship time.
Speaker 2 (47:15):
Samuel Daughter twenty twenty five.
Speaker 4 (47:17):
He's just handing him out now, he's just giving him
out like freak candy today.
Speaker 1 (47:20):
Just one. I thought that was a chair, not a
jawline that could cut glass all over the flames.
Speaker 3 (47:30):
Oh, so we're getting back to the story, lares, gentlemen.
She wanted her family and my father's family to sit
in the front while while my mother is in the back.
My stepfather is fine with my little sister in the front,
though I did disagree and thought that that was the
end of it. When it came to dancing, I wanted
to dance with my mother and father. My stepmother asked
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if she was getting a dance. I did say no,
and she was quiet for a while. When I was
going to get my wedding dress, I bought my three
best friends who were my maid of honor in my
maids little sister, stepsister, and my mom and my step mom.
My stepmother was upset and I asked her what was wrong,
and she told me that she is uncomfortable that my
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mother was here. I told her that she is my mother.
My stepmother cut me off and said that she was
she was my mother, not my bio mom. I told
her not to say that and to not ruin my day.
She stayed quiet the whole time. I guess she told
my stepsister, and my stepsister said that my stepmother has
been upset about the whole wedding planning.
Speaker 1 (48:33):
Now like step mama is gonna be some step grandmam.
Speaker 3 (48:37):
She's oh, she's she's she's not gonna be happy until
bio mom is taken out by security.
Speaker 1 (48:43):
That's the only thing I wonder, like, this is not
what you should do. And maybe you just like uninvite her,
but for peace of mind, potentially, maybe you just give
her a dance, you know, but like thirty seconds, like
one song.
Speaker 2 (48:58):
The problem is, I think this is a creep.
Speaker 1 (49:02):
This is it's crazy.
Speaker 4 (49:04):
If she if she gets her way in one area,
who's to say she's not emboldened emboldened to and she
left open in the middle of the night.
Speaker 1 (49:13):
Incorrect, That was the biological mom. But but but uh,
you know again was misunderstood.
Speaker 4 (49:23):
Let's talk about that, miss Einstein. And then he invented gravity. Bro, Yeah,
he invented discovered it.
Speaker 1 (49:30):
He invented gravity.
Speaker 3 (49:31):
Okay, I said what I said, So watch out for
Riley's invention coming to the theater. Yeah, this show, this
show right here, he is actually inventing a lot of stuff.
Riley Riley is the Einstein of this pod right now.
True literally never been stroken in the existence of you.
Come to the Live Shoon tomorrow, you'll you'll definitely see.
Speaker 4 (49:52):
There we go. It's gonna be good, can be good.
Speaker 1 (49:54):
Oh baby.
Speaker 2 (49:55):
So she feels that my bio mom is in the
way the step mom us, when my bio.
Speaker 3 (50:01):
Mom hasn't done anything wrong and respected my stepmother's space
as well. I told my stepsister that my step mom
is not liking my bio bio mom is not my problem,
and then she needed to just put her big girl
pants on an actor age.
Speaker 1 (50:19):
Step mindy put.
Speaker 4 (50:20):
Your pants on.
Speaker 1 (50:23):
Yeah, honestly, stepmom is throwing a fuss for no god
stop bang good reason, real quick, real quick.
Speaker 4 (50:30):
My theory is, give me give it to mom. Step
Mom was great when she got the she owned the place,
when she owned the related.
Speaker 3 (50:39):
Trophy trophy, and now there's nothing more in your face
than you've been demoted. Bio mom gets a dance and
you don't get a dance. She that's like clear as
day in her crazy brain.
Speaker 1 (50:52):
Yeah yeah, although I you know, like if I all right,
all right here, right right, I'm just gonna give you
a little little thing, little thing. Right. You're adopted yep,
from birth?
Speaker 6 (51:05):
What no, no, you.
Speaker 1 (51:08):
Somewhere cast you out one, but so yeah, you were wanted.
You were wanted to the point of someone adopting you. Right,
and the step mom just like loves you so much
for one hundred and thirty years. She takes care of you.
Now he takes care of you until you get married. Right,
and then all of a sudden, all of a sudden, bam,
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biological mom comes in and You're like, hey, I know
you just took care of me for my whole life,
but I'm going to give this dance to my bio mama.
I feel like I feel like, you know, adopted mama
is going to feel a little sad. Well, just like Rob,
Just like Rob. This is call back to the Rob story.
(51:55):
This is the Rob story all again.
Speaker 3 (52:00):
Here's the thing though, what she started going back in
Opie's life when she was just seven years old.
Speaker 4 (52:04):
Bio mom did.
Speaker 3 (52:07):
So. From seven to twenty five, bio mom has been
a part of Obi's life and and stepmom and stepmom
and Bio mom.
Speaker 4 (52:18):
They were like, hey, you need to take it slow.
We're not going to give you, and she was like fuck.
Speaker 3 (52:21):
She always respected the slowness and the space that everyone
was requesting.
Speaker 1 (52:26):
She always did, I think I think you give both
a dance.
Speaker 2 (52:30):
I like both a dance.
Speaker 1 (52:31):
I think I like both both.
Speaker 4 (52:32):
Dance is fun.
Speaker 1 (52:32):
I mean it's not like well, it's it's like you
can extend this thing by three minutes to give another.
Speaker 4 (52:38):
Dance your wedding. Guys, we gotta be fun with it.
Speaker 1 (52:41):
Yeah, we have fun, dude.
Speaker 4 (52:42):
That's what I would do.
Speaker 1 (52:42):
Dance with them both at the same time. One gets
the back, when that gets the front. A dance A
little little sandwich.
Speaker 4 (52:48):
These are moms, bro, so.
Speaker 1 (52:52):
One's not related to Mom's gonna be sandwich.
Speaker 4 (52:57):
There he is. You guys missed them so much.
Speaker 3 (53:02):
Maybe try try five starting this new year off, right,
let's go. My stepsister got mad and just walked away.
She told my father and he called me. He said
he said what I said was uncalled for, and wanted
me to include my stepmother in more and my mother
less whoa uh. He said that she raised me like
(53:23):
her own and that she feels like she's getting replaced.
I told him I wasn't replacing her and she was included. Uh,
she just having a recent problem with my mother when
she didn't before. He just hung up and I ignored
them both for a while. Then I hosted a late
engagement dinner and invited all my friends and family.
Speaker 1 (53:41):
Dude, I think he's been a little whack. I'm nearing
on Op's the a hole. Huh oh, I'm near and
on it. Yeah, I'm I'm cuspin.
Speaker 2 (53:50):
I think like, I think that she should respect stepmom's hurt.
Speaker 1 (53:56):
Yeah, it's the Rob situation. It's the Robs like for
for all those that don't know, Rob was like the
perfect step dad and then all of a sudden, Op's
real dad comes in and then she kicks Rob out
of the wedding and doesn't allow Rob to walk her
down the aisle.
Speaker 4 (54:13):
We don't like that.
Speaker 1 (54:14):
We don't like that, not like that. We don't like
that one bit.
Speaker 3 (54:17):
Now, everything was going great until my bio mom wanted
to give a speech to me and my fiance. She
gave a wonderful speech and when she said I was
a special daughter she was lucky to raise.
Speaker 1 (54:28):
Uh oh, put I see you in the chat.
Speaker 4 (54:33):
In there, guys. Put them, We're just smack them smack.
Speaker 1 (54:38):
Do see what's coming?
Speaker 4 (54:40):
You see the big one. It's it's huge. I see you.
I don't. I'm sorry, guys, I'm trying.
Speaker 2 (54:45):
My stepmother got up and told her to shut the
f up. I'm her mother.
Speaker 1 (54:51):
Well she like she like Shrek objected. Yep, oil ob
jug that's lame.
Speaker 2 (54:56):
I'm the mother.
Speaker 1 (54:57):
That's lame too. I think. I think the difference between
this person and Rob is Rob just like silently suffered.
Speaker 4 (55:04):
Just saying just go to op and say, hey, you
know what, I'm gonna be honest with you. I do
feel hurt. Yeah, you know, I feel like I raised you,
and then you can have a good emotional conversation.
Speaker 1 (55:15):
Just just talk it out.
Speaker 4 (55:18):
Just do it.
Speaker 1 (55:19):
I think, I think, honestly both are both are a
little bit in the wrong right now.
Speaker 4 (55:22):
I agree. I agree.
Speaker 3 (55:24):
She said that my mom abandoned me when I was
just a newborn baby and missed a lot of my milestones.
Speaker 4 (55:29):
And she raised me when I was barely one years
old and taught me.
Speaker 3 (55:32):
To walk and talk, changed me, fed me everything a
mother was supposed to do, and walked out. Oh wow,
everyone was stunned, and my mother was crying and wanted
to leave. I was comforting her. I went to go
after my stepmom and I screamed at her for ruining
my engagement dinner and what she said to my mom.
Speaker 6 (55:50):
Uh.
Speaker 3 (55:51):
Stepmom tried to talk, but I screamed over her, and
I told her that she is banned from my wedding
and I wanted to get her out of my life. Paul,
ban or not, I'm very curious. This is so sad,
very curious. My stepmother just left and hasn't messaged me
or anything. My father doesn't want to talk to me
or my stepsister. I feel like I did the wrong
(56:12):
thing and should have just not said anything.
Speaker 4 (56:15):
Am I the A hole?
Speaker 3 (56:16):
We have a quick edit and we're getting that pull up,
but first I have to pull the one and only
Samuel Donner.
Speaker 1 (56:23):
Do we pay in the stepmomuh? OPI is the a hole,
but so is the step mom. OPI is the a
hole because she kicked step mom out of participating in
the wedding. That's not cool. Step moom did have a
significant uh responsibility in raising you, and that should be respected. However,
(56:43):
when the step mom like objects at your engagement party.
I think that's whack. What should have happened is you
should have like just had a like a one on
one conversation. But like, also the punishment for what Op's
doing is going to be She's not going to have
her step mom in her life.
Speaker 4 (57:04):
That's that's what's going to happen.
Speaker 1 (57:05):
And maybe she doesn't care, but I think Op is
was I think Op was the a hole first, but
but I think because yeah, because I mean understandable, like
she's so hurt, but like that also is just not
a good move. And if we're looking at like how
do you do it? We look back at Rob and
Rob had this happen to him and just kind of
(57:27):
like suffered silently, and then after the wedding was like, hey,
like this really really hurt me. I want I want
you to I want you to know.
Speaker 2 (57:35):
There we go, There we go.
Speaker 3 (57:36):
A shockingly ninety one percent of chat is saying to
not ban the step mom from the wedding. Let me
know if you guys are understanding that right because everyone's
the hole here though, Yeah, yeah, yeah, everyone is.
Speaker 1 (57:51):
The a hole. Yeah, Like can we can we go
op a hole or everyone's a whole? Let's see it.
I would love to know what you guys think on
that one. Op's the a whole. Stepmom's reaction was very emotional.
Op's the a hole due to three parents not having
a conversation. Kayle mc campus says, I feel like OP
invited both stepmom and buy a Mom to the engagement
party knowing shit would hit the fan. Lucy Ford says
(58:14):
Opie's huge a hole, Stepmom as a tiny a hole.
Jellybis says to understand, they need to have a conversation.
OP needs to grow the f up. Yep.
Speaker 3 (58:23):
People are passionate. Well we gotten met at least gentlemen.
To anyone saying that I'm only after my mother's money,
It's not true. My mother insisted she wanted me to
have my wedding at her lake house. Oh I forgot
about that part. I wanted to do it somewhere else
in the beginning, so I accepted it. I don't care
for an expensive wedding, As I said, it's small weddings
(58:44):
only with close family and friends. I'm not after anyone's money.
Even at seven, I wasn't. We weren't expecting you to
Op to be honest another at it, I am not
after my mother's money, just doubling down. My fiance and
I are paying for most of it, and we have
got decent jobs to pay for a wedding. So again,
not after my mom's my mom's money.
Speaker 1 (59:05):
Oh no, it sounds like you're getting pretty defensive over here.
Speaker 2 (59:08):
Yeah, dude, if you're explaining, you're losing bruh.
Speaker 3 (59:11):
Edit, my stepmother is not sitting in the back. Please
stop assuming she's sitting in the front with the rest
of the family. Not sure where everyone read that she
was sitting in the back. She wanted my mother to
sit in the back, which got me upset, and I
never told her she was gonna be sitting at the
back of the wedding. So please again, my step mom
is not sitting in the back of the wedding. She's
sitting in the front.
Speaker 4 (59:32):
Hey, is she sitting in the back or the Is
she sitting in the front of the way. I feel
like you're really really trying to justify yourself. All right,
and we've got the final update.
Speaker 1 (59:42):
Fire update.
Speaker 3 (59:46):
Everyone of you guys has called me names and my
mom names, which I didn't appreciate. Y'all started assuming I
was only after my mom's money. Assumed that my stepmother
was to sit in the back.
Speaker 4 (59:58):
As we've heard, true.
Speaker 3 (01:00:01):
All I came here for was opinions of others, not
to be degraded or be called names. But here is
the update. I finally got a hold of my stepmother
through my stepsister. My stepmother and I agreed to meet
at my house. When she got there, she looked very sad,
and I just gave her a big hug. I told
her how much I love her and she's the best
mom anyone can ask for. We sat down together and
(01:00:22):
had like a three to four hour conversation. We both
apologized in the end, and my step mom wanted to
apologize to my mom for what she said. She also
said she understands if she wasn't getting a dance, she
is just grateful to be there and watch her daughter
get married, aw, which made us both cry. I told
her how sorry I was about shouting at her and
(01:00:43):
banning her. I told her it was in the heat
of the moment and I should have just comforted her.
I didn't want I didn't want her out of my life,
and she told me that she will stay in my
life forever and accept my decisions and support them.
Speaker 2 (01:00:56):
We both hugged it out.
Speaker 4 (01:00:58):
She left home.
Speaker 3 (01:00:59):
We have been texting and calling each other every day.
My dad and stepsister have been texting and calling me too.
My mom has also gotten an apology for my step mom.
My mom apologized to my stepmother. And now we are
all excited for the wedding. Can't wait to marry the
girl I have loved forever. Oh, by the way, there's
something that you've loved for forever.
Speaker 1 (01:01:20):
Yeah, there is, and it's us. And if you a
big wet kiss right now?
Speaker 2 (01:01:25):
Oh, Sam's given that, not me.
Speaker 3 (01:01:28):
But what I will give you is two thousand episodes
of full episodes just like this said it wrong, but
you get the idea. Go to Spotify, good Apple podcasts,
Go to your favorite podcast app search Okay, story.
Speaker 2 (01:01:42):
Time and play away. I promise it is something you
won't regret.
Speaker 3 (01:01:46):
But as we are nearing the end of the story,
dear Samuel, we have gotten a phenomenal update here.
Speaker 1 (01:01:52):
It's great. I mean it's great. I think this is
this is what should have happened way earlier.
Speaker 3 (01:01:58):
Yes, I will give him credit for ultimately having conversation
too it, because to be honest, we don't.
Speaker 4 (01:02:02):
Always see it. We always have that resolution, but it's
better late than never.
Speaker 3 (01:02:07):
And you know what, maybe this had to happen for
them to come to the table like this and be
totally I love the vulnerability and as Fanny says, yay
communication a communication.
Speaker 1 (01:02:19):
We love communication on this show. That is car We're
a big communication gap, communicating to the max. Communicate with
me now.
Speaker 3 (01:02:28):
I'm just grateful for my friends and family, especially my stepmother,
who has given me everything I wanted in life. My
stepsister and my father are still a bit upset with me,
but are still nice to me. All my friends are
on my side, and my mom did feel awful about
the whole situation. She didn't intend to put my step
mother and stepfather and my father down. Even my little
sister was really upset with my mother and I. She's
not talking to my mother as she really cares for
(01:02:50):
my stepmother and has been spending time with her a lot.
She has told me that she sees step mom as
her true and only mother. I hope in the future
that she will talk to our bio mom and we
can all go back to our lives normally and no
more hostility towards one underne Hey.
Speaker 1 (01:03:06):
Bota Bing bought a boom.
Speaker 2 (01:03:08):
That's a great note to end the episode on.
Speaker 1 (01:03:13):
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