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00:17 r/WhatShouldIDo - [4] Found out my mom is cheating on my dad with the same doctor that gave birth to my little sister in the delivery room and I feel disgusted.
11:01 r/okstorytime - I'm positive my husband is cheating on me and not being able to prove it is driving me crazy
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:01):
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Speaker 4 (00:16):
Stick around.
Speaker 5 (00:17):
My mother is cheating with the doctor that delivered my sister.
Just recently, I was on my mom's tablet on Instagram
when a notification popped up and said trip to Washington. Now,
about a year ago, my mom took a girl's trip
to Washington. My friend texted me back as soon as
the notification came up, so I tapped on the photos
(00:38):
and went to swipe out when I saw a dude.
Speaker 2 (00:41):
Dude.
Speaker 6 (00:41):
I don't know a dude. Dude, you say the dude.
Speaker 5 (00:46):
So as soon as I went back to the photos,
I saw a photo of my mom and the dude
in bed.
Speaker 6 (00:52):
With each other at the hotel.
Speaker 2 (00:54):
Disgusting.
Speaker 5 (00:55):
By the way, this comes from, I am you know.
And if you want to submit your own stories, go
to the r slash Okay Storytime Separated.
Speaker 6 (01:03):
It's and I'm Angie.
Speaker 2 (01:04):
I'm Dakota.
Speaker 4 (01:05):
I'm Keon, and we're here to give good advice.
Speaker 5 (01:08):
Goofily, but we don't have all the answers. We just
know what we would do in this situation. So let
us know what you would do in the comments. So oh,
he says.
Speaker 6 (01:15):
I looked more and also saw a video of the
guy and my mom kissing, and the guy kissing all
my mom's neck and shoulder.
Speaker 3 (01:22):
Why why are we watching this? Get stop it stop.
Speaker 6 (01:27):
That's when it hit me. This wasn't some random guy.
Speaker 5 (01:30):
This was the doctor that delivered my little sister in
twenty nineteen.
Speaker 2 (01:35):
That was when that hit you.
Speaker 3 (01:37):
It wasn't until I saw him kissing my mom's neck
that I realized, isn't that my sister's birthing doctor.
Speaker 5 (01:46):
So now I've been real distant from my mom. Every
time I'm around her, I just feel disgusted. And then
a week after finding out, I couldn't hold back. I
went through her phone and found messages with her and
the guy since twenty nineteen. Oh my god, since the
baby was born. I wonder how old the sister is.
They were talking about things I.
Speaker 6 (02:05):
Wish not to repeat.
Speaker 5 (02:07):
Needless to say, I don't like being around my mom. Now,
so tell me what did I do about this situation?
And there are some comments, but Dakota, what does she
do about the situation?
Speaker 3 (02:16):
Is it unclear? If mom is married right now? Mom
is cheating with this.
Speaker 6 (02:23):
Doctor by ope, his reaction, That's what I'm assuming.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
If she's cheating, that's not good, and it makes sense
why you don't want to be around your mom.
Speaker 3 (02:31):
But if it's just like, ooh, this is the doctor
that delivered my sister, Yeah, I don't think that that's
really that big of a deal.
Speaker 5 (02:41):
I agree, but it is also just kind of weird,
Like if it wasn't a cheating situation, it is kind
of weird that, like the sister was born in twenty nineteen,
and that's also when they started talking.
Speaker 6 (02:52):
So, I mean, you know what delivery doctors see up
in there.
Speaker 3 (02:55):
I mean, hey, it's kinda they bonded over a traumatic experience.
Speaker 6 (03:00):
I guess, dramatic in different ways.
Speaker 5 (03:03):
I just U I'm honestly surprised that a delivery doctor
would want to be with a woman after that.
Speaker 2 (03:11):
Yes, they're all gay.
Speaker 5 (03:14):
Well I mean that Citic woman, That's what I'm saying,
you know what I mean, I don't know maybe that's
a hot take.
Speaker 3 (03:20):
I think there is some sort of isn't there like
a I guess some ethic thing where it's like when
you you're a doctor, you're not really supposed to, you know,
make your your patience your.
Speaker 6 (03:31):
Yeah, I think so.
Speaker 5 (03:33):
And we do have an update here. It's been about
thirteen hours since this post went up. But okay, first,
thank you guys for the suggestion on gathering up evidence
and showing it to my dad.
Speaker 6 (03:44):
Okay, Arah cheating.
Speaker 4 (03:48):
Yep, but who's the father?
Speaker 5 (03:51):
Shorry to say, But that went out the window when
I found out the bottom half of the tablet was
broke and couldn't enter the passwords. So so I decided
to just tell him straight up. When I told him
that I suspected Mom was cheating, he said he had
known about it at first, but she promised to stop
and even showed him that she cut all contact with him.
Oh my gosh, so this has been happening. They've already
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argued about this. Oh my goodness.
Speaker 3 (04:17):
Yeah, I don't know if that ended up working out
the way you wanted to cheat?
Speaker 6 (04:21):
Yeah, I don't think so.
Speaker 5 (04:23):
He then said he was starting to get suspicions again
when her and the doctor started working at the same hospital,
and she kept saying that they were friends. So then
I asked my dad when he found out, and he
said around late twenty twenty or early twenty twenty one.
But here's the thing, my mom went on that girl's
trip in twenty twenty three.
Speaker 6 (04:42):
When I told my dad.
Speaker 5 (04:43):
That, he looked shocked and then asked if I was serious,
to which I replied yes. Usually my dad is strong
and would never cry, but this time he just broke
down and cried for about thirty minutes, and I just
hugged him the entire time.
Speaker 2 (04:58):
Oh my gosh.
Speaker 5 (04:59):
Even though I I couldn't show the evidence, he told
me he one hundred percent believes me. But to bear
with him because he is still trying to save enough
money to the point where he can live comfortably without her.
Oh my gosh, she's just like opening up a portal
of all of her parents' problems that she just had
no idea about.
Speaker 6 (05:16):
That's rough.
Speaker 2 (05:17):
You shouldn't have to be dealing with this.
Speaker 6 (05:19):
Yeah, yeah, he said, he's close. He just needs another
few months. He thanked me so much for telling him,
even though it hurts so much to hear he loved that.
I told him.
Speaker 5 (05:29):
Anyway, my mom's at work right now. I took my
dad to a cafe to cool our minds off and relax.
Speaker 6 (05:34):
He appreciates it. I'll update you guys with more information
if it's important.
Speaker 5 (05:38):
Thanks for reading, and we sure do have a second
update with important information.
Speaker 3 (05:42):
Yeah, there's definitely more important information there to be digest.
Speaker 6 (05:46):
Yeah, I am so sorry, Opie. My goodness.
Speaker 2 (05:50):
Well, I mean, at least you did. I feel like
that is the right thing.
Speaker 3 (05:53):
I would always rather be told what's actually going on,
rather than being like, yeah, I don't know. I just
thought it would upset you, so I didn't tell you
at all, and would just, you know, let you continue
living a lie.
Speaker 2 (06:05):
And I'd be more mad about that.
Speaker 3 (06:07):
Yeah, I'd be like, duh, of course I'm gonna be
upset my wife is cheating on me with I would
assume a hot doctor.
Speaker 6 (06:15):
A hot doctor.
Speaker 5 (06:16):
Update number two, Hello, guys, not sure why, but I'm
getting a lot of troll comments. Let me tell you this,
this is my life, so do not try to say
that it's ai. Secondly, those of you saying I'm a
selfish baby obviously haven't been through things in their life
like this and if they have, it was probably them cheating. Anyways,
I showed my dad the post and he was kind
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of worried that they would find our identity. But after
I informed him that no names or addresses were given
out and this is a burner account, he was fine.
After he saw the comments, he actually started to question
my little sister being his. So we decided to take
a DNA test behind my mom's back. He did it
just a few hours ago and they said they will
send the results in about a week.
Speaker 6 (06:57):
I'll update when that happens, and.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
Weis sure, do you have another? Oh?
Speaker 6 (07:01):
Okay, my goodness.
Speaker 2 (07:03):
I think that it is his baby?
Speaker 5 (07:06):
Yeah, put up a poll if we can't baby or
no baby, I think that legitimate or illegitimate.
Speaker 2 (07:12):
I would indeed claim that it is his baby.
Speaker 5 (07:15):
I'm gonna guess it's his. If the conversation started when
the baby was.
Speaker 3 (07:19):
Born, yeah, I think it would be wild if that
was like you delivered your own baby, and then you're
like all right, yeah.
Speaker 2 (07:25):
Right, and then I will just like, yes, that a
secret piece of lore for my own.
Speaker 6 (07:30):
Life, right.
Speaker 2 (07:32):
I know.
Speaker 5 (07:32):
I feel like if they were like a married couple
and he was delivering the baby. I honestly feel like
that would be some sort of bonding moment, some sort
of like I don't know, it's like.
Speaker 3 (07:43):
Yeah, for some reason, when the doctor delivered the baby,
he held it out in front of him like, wow, uh,
this is your baby though, yes, this is clearly your baby.
Speaker 2 (07:55):
Here, take this away from me. Goodbye, my child. What
did what did you? Nothing? Nothing?
Speaker 6 (08:02):
I know my son?
Speaker 5 (08:04):
And uh, there is another update, so let's find out. Yeah,
the results came back a few days early. But nonetheless,
the DNA results came back positive. That's a weight off
my dad's chest. So dad's baby, not doctors. Anyways, my
dad has been promoted to supervisor, and since him and
my mom had no prenup, this is gonna be kind
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of hard. My dad got a lawyer, a nice one too,
and the divorce papers should be handed to my dad
on Tuesday to avoid my mom seeing the papers.
Speaker 2 (08:33):
Now, I think you gotta get a mean divorce lawyer.
You can't get a nice one. You get a mean one.
Speaker 5 (08:39):
He's gotta like roast you every hour, top of every
hour them like, give me more money.
Speaker 2 (08:44):
Roast your wife that cheated on you with the doctor.
Speaker 5 (08:47):
Well yeah, hopefully it's nice to Opie's dad and mean
to the wife.
Speaker 2 (08:51):
Yes, my dad.
Speaker 5 (08:52):
Said he's going to give it to her for their anniversary,
which is on June twelve. So we's just luck and
there is a updates. But serving divorce papers on your
anniversary is crazy.
Speaker 2 (09:05):
As you say it overwrites it.
Speaker 3 (09:07):
It's like, no, this is no longer our anniversary, it's
our divorcitary.
Speaker 6 (09:11):
Yeah, I guess. I mean that's kind of nice.
Speaker 5 (09:13):
You have a you know, one anniversary for everything, one
anniversary for your ex marriage and then one for your
or same one for your divorce.
Speaker 3 (09:23):
Happy divorce aniversary, ob happy fiction day.
Speaker 5 (09:31):
We do have a fourth update now, divorce papers served. Yes, sir,
I'll start crying and stuff. But me nor my dad
cared because the affair is still going well, not anymore,
my goodness. But nonetheless, my dad is letting her.
Speaker 6 (09:48):
Keep the house.
Speaker 5 (09:49):
Oh wow, he just got a raise and decided to
let my mom have the house.
Speaker 6 (09:52):
I guess he's still got love for her.
Speaker 2 (09:54):
I don't know.
Speaker 5 (09:55):
He also decided not to move into an apartment but
a condo instead. Man, But I'm telling you, life is
about to be good now. Thanks to all, my dad
is still in trauma therapy. I'm not sure what it's called,
but he's in trauma therapy. Thank y'all so much for
reading this.
Speaker 2 (10:10):
He's in drama therapy.
Speaker 3 (10:11):
I don't know if he's in trauma therapy, but he's
in drama therapy. I don't know what trauma therapy, but
it's trauma therapy, right.
Speaker 6 (10:18):
But yeah, what a crazy wackadoo story.
Speaker 5 (10:20):
I really I wonder if Ope had problems with her
mom before, because I feel like, if.
Speaker 6 (10:25):
If my mom cheated, which she definitely would not do.
Speaker 5 (10:28):
Okay, but if my mom or dad cheated for that matter,
again would not do I feel like I would be mad,
but I would still have some sort of love in
my heart.
Speaker 6 (10:40):
Riley, do it again. Give the people what they want
they need.
Speaker 3 (10:43):
Quite interesting juxtaposition of you being like, yeah, I know
they would still have love in their heart even you know,
through all this, and then Riley's.
Speaker 2 (10:54):
Just like, just bounce on that.
Speaker 3 (10:55):
Crazy anyway, We've got another story. Sorry for you, coming
right up. I know my husband is cheating on me,
but I can't prove it.
Speaker 6 (11:05):
You gotta find the evidence.
Speaker 3 (11:07):
Trigger warning for an emotionally abusive relationship and extreme gas
lighting and This comes directly from our subreddit, Get your
cheating husband out of here. I should first emphasize that
when I claim I'm positive, it's because he has admitted
to cheating on me in the past, but now swears
that he never has. So let me just start off
(11:28):
by saying, you can just leave your husband.
Speaker 2 (11:31):
He already admitted he cheated on You can just leave him.
You've got the proof. What are you talking about?
Speaker 6 (11:37):
Proof is in the pudding.
Speaker 3 (11:38):
People, My yeah, and he cheated in that pudding. Cheat pudding.
My husband and I, both in our early to mid thirties,
are supposed to celebrate our ten year anniversary this fall.
It has been very rough ten years. By the way,
this comes from us. Your odds sorbet is sixty seven
and thirty three. And if you want to submit your
own stories, go to the r slash story time subburedt
(12:00):
where this story was submitted.
Speaker 2 (12:02):
I'm Dakota, I'm Angie, I'm Keon, and we hate to
give you good advice.
Speaker 3 (12:06):
Goofully, leave your husband, but we don't know all the
answers leave your husband.
Speaker 2 (12:10):
We just know what we would do, leave your husband.
So if you would do something else in the comments,
let us know, as op says.
Speaker 3 (12:18):
When we first met, we were both out of very
bad marriages. I have kids with my ex, who made
my life horrible for years anytime I tried to move on.
My husband's ex was a heavy drinker who made horrible
choices under the influence, including driving wasted and getting caught cheating.
We clicked instantly. Drama bond like, oh, we both have
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terrible partners, what's be together perfect? I was hesitant about
dating him because I wasn't sure I was ready to
put my faith in another man just to be heartbroken again.
He eventually wore me down, and our first couple of
years together felt like magic until I got pregnant. It
was like his person now, and he completely changed overnight.
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He became increasingly irritated with me and would randomly snap
over things he misunderstood, then later apologize, blaming the stress.
My pregnancy became high risk and I had to resign
from my job. His ex had screwed him over financially,
and he was stuck paying off a car she crashed.
Once I resigned, the bills fell solely on him. I
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understood distress, so I let it slide far too many times,
right before our baby was born, I overheard his parents
demanding that they forced me to get a DNA test.
When I brought this up, my husband looked mortified and
said he would confront them. After random CPS visits to
our home, we decided to move away.
Speaker 2 (13:43):
Oh, so his parents are terrible too.
Speaker 3 (13:46):
My husband was certain it was his mother since all
the information given about me and my kids was incorrect,
but his information was one hundred percent correct.
Speaker 2 (13:55):
We moved to another state.
Speaker 3 (13:56):
Our beautiful baby was born, and life seemed to get
worse go day.
Speaker 6 (14:03):
So sad.
Speaker 3 (14:03):
That's not the adjective I expected there, right. He resented
me from moving so far from his family, even though
it was his choice to go no contact on a
daily basis. He constantly made disrespectful jabs at me. A
couple of times he butt diled me at work, and
I overheard him telling his coworkers terrible things about how
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I had let myself go. I was struggling tremendously with
postpartum depression. I decided to go back to work and start.
Speaker 2 (14:33):
Bettering my appearance.
Speaker 3 (14:35):
After a couple of years, we moved back to his
home state and gave his family another chance. I agreed
hoping it would give me back my loving husband. Our
first week back, his mom pulled him aside, not knowing
I was in the bathroom on the other side of
the door, and she began pestering him about the DNA test,
and he told her he would see. When I asked
him about it later, he refused to give me any information.
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Things were getting better around the house, but he was
also spending much less time there. We both worked opposite shifts,
and he would stay out until all hours of the night,
claiming to be helping his mom or fishing alone until
well after three in the morning.
Speaker 2 (15:13):
Oh baby, that's just when all the fish are really biting.
Speaker 6 (15:16):
No one else is fishing at that hour, so they
all are mine.
Speaker 2 (15:19):
I get all the midnight fish.
Speaker 3 (15:21):
You know what they say, Yeah, the midnight fisherman uses
the worm to his advantage.
Speaker 6 (15:26):
That's the old thing say.
Speaker 2 (15:28):
That is what they say. Don't look into it.
Speaker 3 (15:32):
I started to have my doubts then, but I never
imagined he'd be cheating. I told him I was willing
to do a DNA test if he had doubts, but
I would not be the one to pay for it.
He reassured me that he had no doubts, and for
a while things started getting better. Then came the pandemic
and I once again had to quit my job to
stay home with the kids. My mental health plummeted, and
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I became a recluse, leaving my house less than twenty
times in a two year span. Pandemmy little by little,
I started noticing text messages already opened on my phone,
which I knew was odd because I have ADHD and
make it a habit not to open messages until I'm
ready to respond. I downloaded an app that would take
a picture every time my phone was unlocked. That resulted
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in hundreds of photos of my husband's forehead, proving he
had been searching through my phone. I confronted him and
showed him the pictures, but he still denied it. This
caused me to download spyware and set up two factor identification.
Speaker 2 (16:30):
We later learned that my phone was cloned.
Speaker 3 (16:34):
I have a group chat with a few very close
girlfriends and we keep everything color coded. Randomly, my messages
and reactions changed from my designated color to the default black,
and the ladies in the group pointed it out. Only
I hadn't been the one to write in the group
that day, I took my phone to get checked and
we found some suspicious downloads. The tech worker assured me
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that the cloned phone would have needed to come into
close contact with my phone. Since I hadn't seen my
ex in over a year, that was highly unlikely, and
by the time quarantine lifted, my mental health was the
lowest it had ever been.
Speaker 4 (17:08):
This is so much. This is way too much to
be like, I know you're cheating, Like.
Speaker 3 (17:14):
Yeah, if he's already admitted to you that he cheated,
he cheated.
Speaker 4 (17:17):
The fact that your app has the like it takes
a photo and he's like, this is like way too
much to really look, I gotcha.
Speaker 6 (17:26):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (17:27):
So before the hacking, I had started making a name
for myself with my artwork and short stories. I was
getting close to twenty commissions a week. At some point
during the hacking, about eighty percent of my digital artwork
randomly deleted from my phone.
Speaker 2 (17:42):
I was heartbroken. You should have been on a war path. Yeah,
that was your husband.
Speaker 6 (17:47):
That's terrible.
Speaker 2 (17:48):
That was your husband messing around with your phone.
Speaker 5 (17:50):
You have change your past code, dude, And if he
brings it up as a problem, be like, oh, I
didn't realize you needed my phone for anything?
Speaker 2 (17:58):
Yeah?
Speaker 6 (17:58):
What you doing there?
Speaker 3 (18:00):
A few weeks later, I received a legal letter accusing
me of plagiarism and a season desist on my online shop.
Speaker 7 (18:05):
What.
Speaker 2 (18:06):
I got legal advice from a.
Speaker 3 (18:07):
Lawyer who confirmed the documents as legit, but believed I
could fight it, though it would be costly.
Speaker 2 (18:13):
We decided to shut down my shop.
Speaker 3 (18:15):
We also had more random CPS visits, though we were
quickly closed out as unwarranted. During my mental health spiral,
my close friends were trying to get me to look
more into my husband. They were positive he had been
cheating and were genuinely afraid he was doing something to
me to cause my mental health to get so bad.
They even stated he might be working with his family
to make me seem unstable so he could get full
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custody when he left me. At first, I shut that
down immediately because I could not see this man cheating
on me.
Speaker 2 (18:44):
But after some time I had to force.
Speaker 3 (18:46):
Myself to take off the rose colored glasses and see
what was really going on.
Speaker 2 (18:50):
I was essentially living in m ax shift prison.
Speaker 3 (18:53):
We had cameras all over the house to watch the kids,
as well as family trackers on our phones. I started
getting alerts telling me to ask him to turn his
location back on.
Speaker 2 (19:01):
He would turn it off after leaving.
Speaker 3 (19:03):
The house, but I learned that if I called him,
it would ping his location. Whether he answered or not,
he would be parked near the wooded area behind his job.
He started leaving hours early and returning home hours late,
stating he was getting overtime. He would yell at me
if I called him at work. Honestly, just like straight
up all this other bs. If you have a partner
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who just yells at you, yeah, leave them.
Speaker 2 (19:29):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (19:29):
I feel like I honestly don't care if he cheated
or not at this point, Like he has proved himself
to be so terrible in general. I mean, if you
had like problems with your your pregnancy, if your pregnancy
was high risk, then like that is one hundred percent
because of the stress that he was causing.
Speaker 2 (19:46):
Like if he yeah, very well could be if.
Speaker 5 (19:48):
He was stressed out during your pregnancy. First of all,
why what are you stressed about? And then also like
if he didn't know how to handle that stress and
was making you more stressful for you when you're the
one that's pregnant, like that already is so terrible. I
don't care if he.
Speaker 2 (20:06):
Cheated or not.
Speaker 3 (20:06):
I don't even need the confirmation that he's cheating, which
all of that behavior definitely is a massive red flag
that he would be.
Speaker 2 (20:15):
Yeah, if he's yelling at you for just calling him,
it's over. Yeah, it's over.
Speaker 3 (20:21):
He came home one day with a mark on his neck,
but swore that it was from me, even though we
hadn't been intimate in months. I'll admit I let him
get away with so much, but after a while I
couldn't keep ignoring everything.
Speaker 5 (20:34):
Oh my gosh, he's like baby. It was the curling iron.
I just burned myself with a curling iron.
Speaker 2 (20:39):
He's bald.
Speaker 6 (20:40):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (20:42):
I would wake up in the middle of the night
to him being gone, and the cameras from the living room,
front door, and outside would be disabled.
Speaker 2 (20:48):
There is a giant.
Speaker 3 (20:50):
Looney Tune style like cartoon sign that just says he's cheating.
Speaker 2 (20:55):
Yeah, and he's carrying it around with him.
Speaker 6 (20:58):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (20:58):
I would wait for him to come back.
Speaker 3 (20:59):
Sometimes I'm accidentally falling back asleep, other times pretending to
be asleep to see what he would do. He'd usually
go straight to the bathroom and run the sink water
splashing himself before climbing back into bed. I confront him
about it in the morning, but he denied doing it
and show me the camera footage not picking him up leaving.
That's what you just confront him when he gets back
in bed, which you probably don't want to do that
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because he sounds scary.
Speaker 2 (21:21):
You should leave him and take the kids.
Speaker 3 (21:24):
After a while, it became increasingly hard to stay awake
at night, which worried me since I naturally suffer from insomnia.
My mental health was so bad I couldn't be sure
what was real or fake. One night, I woke up
abruptly after hearing him leave. I sat up for two
hours and laid back down when I heard him come back.
Immediately after he entered our room, I was hit with
the strongest latex and lubricant smello.
Speaker 6 (21:47):
Yeah, the smell was strong.
Speaker 2 (21:49):
Strong smell. I shot up in bed sniffing around.
Speaker 3 (21:53):
He had dropped an open Wiener wrapper on the floor
right next to our bed on his way to the bathroom.
I didn't even wait for him to come out. I
immediately called him out on it, and he came out
like a deer in headlights, surprised.
Speaker 2 (22:06):
I was awake. He swore he hadn't been anywhere.
Speaker 3 (22:09):
I threw the wrapper at him and immediately started packing
my things.
Speaker 4 (22:13):
Was it a used one?
Speaker 2 (22:15):
I think it was the rappers.
Speaker 4 (22:16):
Oh oh, okay.
Speaker 6 (22:18):
A weeder wrapper wrapper.
Speaker 2 (22:19):
That's okay, rapper squared Okay.
Speaker 4 (22:22):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (22:23):
He ripped my bags out of my hands, screaming at
me that I was crazy. He's swearing that I was
making up everything in my head. We didn't use rappers
because I have a latex allergy. You know, they maked
those without latex.
Speaker 6 (22:37):
Well exactly, But I think the point is is that.
Speaker 3 (22:40):
Well I know, yeah, no fair. I was just saying, like,
like nar ways to be safe with a latex.
Speaker 4 (22:46):
He just was trying to make balloon animals. That's all
he want. He was just trying to hardest making balloon animals.
Speaker 2 (22:51):
Yeah, he was just practicing his clownsmanship.
Speaker 5 (22:53):
He wanted to do that challengdar. You like, fill it
with water and put it on someone's head.
Speaker 2 (22:57):
We should do that. That was That's really funny.
Speaker 3 (23:00):
We hadn't been able to use them in over a year,
so it did not come from us. He swore he
didn't know where it came from. But by now I
was so tired of turning the other cheek. I screamed
that I hated him, I wanted a divorce and could
no longer trust him. He swore that it was all
happening in my head and I needed to get help now.
One thing I will say about me is as a mother,
I take mental health very seriously. If someone tells me
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that my mental instability is at risk of causing home
to my kids, I'm going to listen every time. So
I checked myself into a psychiatric hospital, got put on
psych meds and antidepressants.
Speaker 6 (23:32):
That is so crazy. His guy's lighting worked to the
fullest extent.
Speaker 2 (23:37):
I'm so sorry. Op.
Speaker 3 (23:38):
Yeah, I hope that your story can be a lesson
to everyone that you can just leave. You don't have
to let the guy be in charge of anything. Although
this was a very challenging time, you know, you'd already
gone through a lot. There's the pandemic, the isolation. You said,
it was hard to tell what was real.
Speaker 5 (23:55):
Oh my gosh, trust yourself, people, you know easier something done.
But if you are ending up in a psychiatric word
because of a relationship or after being in a hard relationship,
that's the sign that it is not good.
Speaker 3 (24:09):
You know, there's really never an excuse to just like
yell at your partner. My doctor later admitted that it
was the wrong medication, as it resulted in me hearing voices,
Oh my god. But in my doctor's defense, she was
going off the information provided to her by my husband
and his family. It was not accurate information. After that,
my husband started spending more time at home. He stopped
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sneaking out at night, and initially cut contact with whoever
he was seeing. He came clean and admitted to cheating,
although he refused to tell me who it was. His
justification was that he somehow believed I was cheating on
him with my ex and had supposedly received proof from someone,
but wouldn't tell me who. When I asked how he
could believe I would risk my family for a man
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who had destroyed me, his excuse was that because I
never wanted to be near my ex, it made him
feel like I was hiding things. This guy definitely was
cheating on you with his AX.
Speaker 2 (25:03):
Yeah, yeah, exactly.
Speaker 6 (25:04):
He's just you know, blaming everything on you.
Speaker 2 (25:07):
He said.
Speaker 3 (25:07):
The reason his family wanted the DNA test was because
he told him he thought my ex was the father
of our child, and that resulted in them calling CPS,
hoping I would get scared and leave him, But he
didn't want me to think he was behind it, so
he cut his family off and later blamed me for it.
Speaker 4 (25:22):
This guy's pathetic. Yeah sucks.
Speaker 2 (25:24):
I'm really sorry that you ended up marrying the worst guy.
Speaker 5 (25:28):
After paying it, after being in a bad relationship previously.
I honestly, I don't even believe that he was in
a bad relationship before, which is what was mentioned before.
Speaker 6 (25:38):
They both were in bad relationships.
Speaker 5 (25:39):
I feel like he was probably in a bad relationship,
but it was all his fault.
Speaker 6 (25:43):
Yeah, he was making it bad.
Speaker 3 (25:45):
Yeah as bad, It is all bad. We decided to
do couples therapy. Spoiler, it's been two years and we
still haven't gone what. I stopped bringing it up as
I realized it was never going to happen. But he
was home every day being my loving husband again. He
would stay on the phone with me his entire work day,
which honestly just upset me because it proved he'd been
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lying for years. I was going to individual therapy weekly,
so I felt we were finally moving past it. Fast
forward to now we have new phones and new numbers.
Why I know that you've been through a lot. You
need to leave this man immediately.
Speaker 4 (26:21):
Why put yourself through it more? I get it, but
it's like, what's holding you to this relationship with this man? Now?
Speaker 2 (26:27):
You need to lean on your family this man, this
man has.
Speaker 3 (26:30):
Put you under some sort of spell, and you need
to get out of this relationship.
Speaker 4 (26:35):
Is he hot?
Speaker 3 (26:36):
No, it's definitely not that you need to take your
kids with you to your family's house and divorce this
guy and cite everything that has happened as the reason
why this is not a situation that should be fixed.
Speaker 2 (26:50):
To be fixed by leaving, that's the only way it
can be fixed.
Speaker 3 (26:54):
I haven't had a single issue with my accounts being
hacked since, and my mental health was the best it's
been in year. My psychiatrist ended our sessions and removed
me from all psych medications with a detailed note and
why I don't need the medication in case someone tries
to use it against me. I'm still in individual therapy
and I'm no longer having trouble staying awake. Our ten
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year anniversary is coming up, and we have never had
a good anniversary. I learned a few years ago that
the reason he chose this date was it was the
day before his anniversary with his ex.
Speaker 2 (27:24):
So he's always bitter on our special day.
Speaker 6 (27:28):
Why did he choose the date? Why didn't?
Speaker 5 (27:30):
Is there not like a factual like anniversary that you
could decide to go with. I know some people like
if they have a kind of you know, uncertain but
getting to their relationship, they will choose one. But I
feel like if we're choosing one, that's not a good
one to choose.
Speaker 4 (27:45):
It's also like a terrible excuse to be like, ah,
it's our special day, but you know, you know how
I feel about this day.
Speaker 2 (27:52):
I feel like you.
Speaker 6 (27:53):
Should be over that, so you should be done for.
Speaker 4 (27:55):
Ten years too. Ten years.
Speaker 6 (27:57):
I forgot that's how long they were together.
Speaker 4 (28:00):
Ten years. And he's like, mm, you know, I'm gonna
feel a little down today, like I'm just not happy.
Speaker 2 (28:05):
I lame the worst, one of the worst.
Speaker 3 (28:09):
Increasingly, over the last few months, he started acting distant again, responses,
staying in the bathroom for hours, intentionally misunderstanding me, and
as of the last three weeks, constantly getting me mixed
up with things he did with other people. I asked
him if I needed to be worried, and he rolled
his eyes at me. I told him I was afraid
he might be cheating again, and he blew up at me,
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saying he's never cheated on me before, and he's tired
of me accusing him.
Speaker 6 (28:34):
He literally admitted to it. Yeah, literally admitted to it.
Speaker 4 (28:37):
That's crazy.
Speaker 5 (28:38):
And then like while she was in the psych word
or something, or while she's on the wrong medication.
Speaker 2 (28:43):
Right, oh op, he continues.
Speaker 3 (28:44):
I reminded him that he admitted it, and he scares
that he never admitted to it and that it's in
my head again.
Speaker 2 (28:51):
Yeah, you need to leave this guy.
Speaker 4 (28:52):
This guy's crazy.
Speaker 3 (28:53):
He's got you questioning literally, like what's real and like
if you, like you had no mental health issues to
the point where like you were delusional about what was
really happening. He was trying to convince you that him
cheating on you was a delusion in your own head,
which is not true.
Speaker 4 (29:08):
Would we call this guy psychotic? I don't know what's
the term for this kind of person, because that.
Speaker 3 (29:12):
Yeah, he's psychotic. This is psychotic. To be able to
do this is psychotic. I didn't sleep at all last night,
so while the kids were at school today, I decided
to take a nap for a couple hours. After waking up,
I saw an alert on my phone that someone had
accessed my bank app at exactly twelve fifty eight. I
knew for a fact it wasn't me because my alarm
didn't wake me up until one thirty, and I haven't
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downloaded the bank app on my new phone yet. I
was panicking to my husband about it because it means
someone's still accessing my private information somehow, and he annoyingly
said it was probably me and I had just mixed
up the time. I told him it couldn't have been
me because I was asleep, which he promptly replied, how
could you have been asleep when I was on my
lunch break at that time and we talked my whole break.
Speaker 2 (29:55):
I pulled out my phone, showing him the time logs.
Speaker 3 (29:58):
We stopped talking at ten forty four, when he told
me he was going to call the electric company and
call me right back, but I told him not to.
Speaker 2 (30:05):
Worry about it because I needed a nap. Desperately.
Speaker 3 (30:07):
I tried to pry more from information about this supposed
phone call, because he often mixes up our conversations with
things He swears I tell him, but I genuinely have
no idea what he's talking about.
Speaker 2 (30:19):
Bab.
Speaker 3 (30:19):
He's trying to gaslight you into just being like, Oh,
I'm unwell and.
Speaker 2 (30:25):
I don't know what's going on. I have to listen
to him. Leave him.
Speaker 3 (30:29):
This guy is like unbelievably abusive, and you need to
leave him. If you are still with him, you need
to be gone yesterday. Call your family, Call your friends.
Your friends were telling you they were concerned about this guy.
Anyone in your support system who could help you right now,
you need to talk to them and just fully go.
No contact with your husband, serve him divorce papers, let
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lawyers handle it is over.
Speaker 2 (30:55):
It needs to be over.
Speaker 4 (30:56):
It's the fact that you're questioning your sanity on a
daily basis pretty much. Come on, what's the underlying denominator here?
It's always him. You're like this and then like wait,
did I do this? He's like, yeah, no, you did
do it, and it's oh boy. I feel like once
you get out of this relationship, it's gonna be the
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biggest weight off your shoulders.
Speaker 2 (31:18):
Yeah, truly done here.
Speaker 1 (31:20):
We're gonna get back to this juicy story. But a
quick three minute of break of ads from our sponsors.
Speaker 2 (31:24):
My gut lately has been screaming at me to pay attention.
Speaker 3 (31:27):
I checked his phone tonight for the first time in
over a year and found nothing, literally nothing. No call
to the electric company, no calls from his boss, nothing.
Speaker 2 (31:37):
Just our phone calls. So he's got a second phone.
Speaker 3 (31:39):
I also found out he has a work phone, but
he doesn't bring it home, so I have no way
of checking it. I know he's cheating again. I'm not stupid.
I'm just tired, too tired to fight, too tired to care.
I tried to give him an easy out, but he
won't take it. We have a little bit more story left,
but it's just it's time to leave. You summon the courage,
lean on your friends, lean on your family, make sure
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you know the kids are okay, and leave your husband.
Speaker 2 (32:05):
He's abusive.
Speaker 3 (32:06):
I'm so afraid that if I start digging again, I'll
send myself back down a spiral that I genuinely can't afford.
Speaker 2 (32:12):
I'd rather just not care.
Speaker 3 (32:14):
I have no family, I have no friends, and I
live in a state that I have zero ties to
and aren't afforded any resources. What happened to the friends
in the beginning of the story. Anybody find local shelters, anything,
there has to be some way, anything is better than this.
Speaker 2 (32:30):
I'm stretched so thin.
Speaker 3 (32:31):
I'm basically saran wrap, just clinging to myself to keep
myself together. My therapist says, I'm handling it all pretty well,
but I don't think I am.
Speaker 2 (32:39):
I stay up every night and just cry all the time.
And that is the end of that story. Man.
Speaker 3 (32:44):
I know that's really hard to hear. But it's not
gonna get better until you leave this guy. Yeah, it
is not gonna get better.
Speaker 2 (32:50):
Until you leave this guy. I don't know how your
therapist is not telling you the same thing.
Speaker 4 (32:54):
Therapist has got to be in cahoots with the husband.
But again, even if it's because this is one of
our own, but.
Speaker 2 (32:59):
Yeah, change your bank information as well.
Speaker 3 (33:01):
There's is a comment some seeing Yeah, can't call the bank,
cancel everything, change all the bank info one hundred percent.
Speaker 4 (33:07):
I'll go ahead and message you, op and make sure
you know everything's okay, especially with everything. I hope everyone
in our community can message you and hopefully just give
you the push that you need to get out of
this relationship, because this is and years of your sanity
just being played with, toyed with. It's not worth it.
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You deserve to live a good life, not this is
not a good life. Oh man waking up on a
daily basis to this.
Speaker 2 (33:35):
And it's like we'll get better, but then he just
gets worse.
Speaker 4 (33:37):
Yeah, you know, and you're taking like bread crumbly to you.
Speaker 2 (33:40):
He got you on psychiatric meds you didn't need. You
were hearing voices. This guy's not a partner.
Speaker 4 (33:46):
Just get away from this this guy. Yeah, that's all
I can say.
Speaker 2 (33:49):
We can just read the next story. That's all we
can do.
Speaker 7 (33:53):
My ex refuse to block the woman he secretly slept
with after getting me pregnant, directly from the subreddit guys, I,
forty one female, am seven weeks pregnant with the baby
of my ex boyfriend, forty two male. We broke up
because he was continuing to communicate and sleep with a
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sixty year old woman he'd been in a situationship with for.
Speaker 6 (34:19):
The previous eight years.
Speaker 7 (34:22):
Which I didn't know about until I sought out more
information on the question page.
Speaker 3 (34:29):
Well, sounds like a good reason to break up with somebody.
In my opinion, that's definitely a perfectly reasonable situation to
break up with someone over.
Speaker 4 (34:39):
That's the opening.
Speaker 7 (34:40):
By the way, this comes from fair Supermarket forty five,
twenty nine, And if you want usubmit your own stories,
go to the r slash okay storytime subreddit where this
is from. And I'm Carly, I'm.
Speaker 2 (34:53):
Dakota, I'm key On and Wow.
Speaker 7 (34:55):
And we're here to give good advice. Goofily, But we
don't have all the answers. We only know so what
we would do. So letus know what you would do
in the comments. And Opie says, my stipulation for us
to communicate is that he tells this woman he is
done with her and not to contact him anymore. He
wants to talk about a romantic future with me. I
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want to talk about peacefully co parenting. I have one child,
he has none, and he always wanted one. I've always
wanted a second. He doesn't want to have a child
where he is not in a relationship with the child's
mother in the same home. I was deceived into the
relationship to begin with. I had known about his eight
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year situationship with this much older woman who honestly is
physically unattractive, works in finance and is in an elite
white upper class community with horseback riding and country clubs.
Divorced with grown children.
Speaker 3 (35:53):
Yeah, he's getting that money. He's getting that old rich
white lady money.
Speaker 7 (35:58):
The roast of who is honestly physically Unattractivisi.
Speaker 3 (36:02):
Yeah, why she's a physically unappealing, financially attractive, rich white lady.
Speaker 7 (36:10):
He just wants to go horseback riding at the country club.
I never would have wanted anything to do with him
for this story. Let's call her Fifi. His timeline. He
met Fifi eight plus years ago. About a year and
a half in he got into a serious relationship with
a different woman for two years. We'll call her Nelly.
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While with Nellie, he continued to sleep with Fifi. He
never took Fifi on dates. He made her park her
car around the corner from his house. He had some weird,
spicy related stuff with Fifi while maintaining his relationship with Nellie,
insisting he was not physically attracted to Nelly, all the
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while sleeping with Fifi on the side.
Speaker 3 (36:57):
Toss all of this into a river. Toss it all
in the river yourself.
Speaker 4 (37:05):
With the river, cowbot comun and cues.
Speaker 5 (37:09):
Ew died take out genters in its ownhole new world, Like, is.
Speaker 3 (37:15):
There a service in Bali where I can have all
my memories of the last thirty seconds erased?
Speaker 6 (37:20):
Nope.
Speaker 7 (37:21):
He said he wanted to end his relationship with Nelly
but didn't know how, so he was trying to get
caught cheating. Fiefe sent dirty photos and videos of him
cheating to Nelly. I'm assuming he denied it or said
the videos were old. Either way, Eventually, Nellie showed up
at Fifi's home while he was there in the morning.
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Fast forward to May of twenty twenty four. This man
and I start talking and it was not a really
great relationship. Spicy, sleepily. We were compatible, and it could
have been a very good relationship if he had been
emotionally available. I felt him being emotionally unavailable. So I
went on the tee page and found Feefe. She blocked
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me on Facebook. I googled her phone number and called her.
Speaker 2 (38:11):
Wait, what is the tea app?
Speaker 7 (38:13):
I don't know for sure, that's the tea app. The
tea app is like a place where you can like
report about men and stuff like this is yeah, I'm
assuming yeah, And we spoke for one and a half hours.
Fefe said they were together physically in April twenty twenty four,
the last time. She never admitted to sleeping with him
while he and I were together, but I know she did.
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She shared spicy related text messages between the two of them.
He was telling her he was not seeing anyone over
and over when he was seeing me. He told her
repeatedly he missed her reaching out to her. When confronted,
he said he didn't do anything wrong. He swore he
didn't cheat and didn't feel bad for the text. Just
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the way he spoke about this woman made me sick,
no respect for her at all. I dumped him even
without the cheating. He was cheap, lazy, deceitful, dishonest, judgmental, discriminatory,
closet guard, uncultured, selfish, greedy, and lacking a backbone and
a proper chin.
Speaker 4 (39:20):
Damn, that last one is crazy.
Speaker 3 (39:22):
I hate to say this, but at some point, when
you dunk on an X at that level, you also
dunk on yourself because you.
Speaker 2 (39:28):
Were dating them.
Speaker 7 (39:29):
I mean, she got other pretty quickly.
Speaker 2 (39:30):
I'm glad you did. I'm just letting you know. Optically,
you go, yeah, that was also.
Speaker 4 (39:36):
You dated them and he has no chin.
Speaker 2 (39:39):
But I'm glad you're out the fair glad. I'm glad
that you're out.
Speaker 3 (39:42):
It's just a warning, you know, don't accidentally self dunk
on yourself.
Speaker 4 (39:46):
Sometimes you gotta go through the bad to get to
the good.
Speaker 2 (39:49):
I know, agreed. I'm just saying maybe, just you.
Speaker 4 (39:52):
Know, it's called a learning experience.
Speaker 6 (39:55):
Whatever.
Speaker 7 (39:56):
I saw him one last time in the beginning of September.
Now I'm pregnant. Oh, we have a little bit more
what you think.
Speaker 2 (40:06):
And always use protection kids.
Speaker 3 (40:09):
Then you don't have to have a baby with the
apparently the ugliest grossest dude on the planet.
Speaker 7 (40:15):
Someone goes is the sixty year old preggers too. My god,
they can raise their kids together.
Speaker 2 (40:20):
The sixty year old is not pregnant.
Speaker 7 (40:22):
We don't know that.
Speaker 4 (40:23):
I know that.
Speaker 2 (40:25):
I know that. You never know, sixty year old. You
never know not pregnant, never know. Nope, never No.
Speaker 1 (40:32):
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Speaker 7 (40:39):
Before I knew for sure I was pregnant, I asked
him to dinner, my treat. My only stipulation was that
he messaged this woman, requesting her to never contact him
again and block her.
Speaker 2 (40:52):
Bro you're paying for his dinner after he cheated on you.
Speaker 7 (40:55):
Because also, here's the other part of this, It's like
she probably was. I'm the only one reaching out every time.
He's just gonna reach it. Don't contact me, he's gonna
contact her.
Speaker 2 (41:05):
You paid for his dinner. She cheated on you.
Speaker 7 (41:09):
He called me crazy, He said I was obsessed with
her and childish. He said he would not do that.
He says he's not in contact with her. Now. Am
I the a hole for requesting that this man tells
this woman to not contact him again and block her
in order to give me peace of mind? Is this
really such an irrational, ridiculous request. That's the end of
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that story. No, can we just dump this man instead?
Speaker 4 (41:36):
Though you should be bff jillies with the sixty year
old and go horseback riding with her, or not leave.
Speaker 3 (41:44):
This man if you can't afford to raise the child,
give it up for adoption.
Speaker 2 (41:47):
If you can.
Speaker 3 (41:48):
None of that is okay. Neither of those two stories
were okay in any way. You both need to leave
the terrible, pathetic men that are in your life. I'm
sorry that you are pregnant with this man's child, but
he's not good.
Speaker 2 (42:01):
It's not like, am I the a hole?
Speaker 3 (42:02):
For Yeah, you're gonna be the a hole to yourself
if you stay with his guy.
Speaker 2 (42:06):
That's what I think.
Speaker 7 (42:07):
And you're one of us. So I hope that you're
watching maybe and you can take this advice and just
leave this man run away.
Speaker 4 (42:16):
So we have comments from a video My best friend
stole my business And this was posted on September nineteenth,
twenty twenty five. And here's a little tiald ar. Opie
planned a camping trip for her eighteenth birthday with three
close friends, but they all bailed last minute, claiming they
had to catch one of their cats who got outside.
I remember this story one. For two whole days, the
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friends kept making excuses about why they couldn't leave this
outdoor cat, who again regularly goes outside anyway to come celebrate.
When Opie's boyfriend called them out for ditching her for
her birthday over a cat that wasn't even missing, it
turned into a huge fight where the friends ganged up
with nasty personal attacks. Later, the three friends sent Opia
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photo of themselves flipping her off and blocked her everywhere
making clear that the cat was just an excuse to
ditch her birthday. If you're curious to know the full story,
you can go watch the full video. Wow, yeah, I
do remember that.
Speaker 7 (43:15):
Do you think that might have been either just you
and me for you and me and so Fea.
Speaker 4 (43:20):
I know Sophia was there because we were all like
what but we have some comments. We have a common
hear from Lady Justice. Susan. I wouldn't leave if my
strictly indoor cat got outside. No way, no how am
I going anywhere until I can get him back in.
He's never been outside before, and I would lose all
my crap if he did. Anyone who doesn't understand that
would be cut out of my life immediately. Here's the thing, Susan,
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it was an outdoor cat.
Speaker 7 (43:42):
It was an outdoor cat. I do think there was
a reason that they had to get the cat inside
for something, because they were living storm. I think I
don't remember there being something else where. It was like
the cat did need to come inside. And I was
very much on the side of opia being like yeah
get there, of the friends of being like yeah, get
the cat inside, but they were not trying. We allot
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any way to get this cat inside, Like they weren't
shaking treats around. There was a lack of effort.
Speaker 4 (44:10):
Yeah, I remember that it took There were three of them.
There were three people, and they knew where the cat was,
They knew their cat was. It was surrounded, it was
on the next it was like the next side, and
took them two days to get this cat. If I
really need the urgency to get.
Speaker 7 (44:23):
My cat, like under the porch or something too, like
they could have just crawled under and grabbed the cat.
There was definitely like they could have gotten this cat.
It was an excuse.
Speaker 4 (44:32):
Yeah, I think that was really dumb. Another comment here
from Cables eighty four fifteen. I'd never leave an indoor
slash outdoor cat outside when I'm going to be away
for three days, completely separate from the friend's behavior afterwards.
I'd be pissed if my friend was not being understanding
of that. The cat is clearly very important to Rihanna
the save for your life comment, And I'd cut friends
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off if they were adding stress because I was more
worried about my cat than their party. And cats can
be very hard to get they are so fast and
ba can climb and even if you grab them, they
start scratching you because of its instincts to let them go.
I have scars andrew ands shirts as the souvenirs. And again,
you have a cat.
Speaker 7 (45:13):
You know this, You've had that, Yeah, anytime that I
have to grab I had to grab my cat one
time hiding under We knew where he was hiding, and
the fire alarm went off and we had to get
out of the apartment really fast, and I grabbed a
towel and I shimmied under where he was, and my
other roommate like covered in case he ran out the
other side, also with a towel, and we wrapped that
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around him and threw him in his carrier and went
on like I totally understand though that that was like
best case scenario, and I have struggled to get him
out of places before. All that aside, though, they basically
admitted that it was an excuse to not go to
this birthday. Like, yes, I do remember being like, ohpe
come on, like their cat is stuck outside. They give
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him a break, but after five hours actually mean to Opie.
Speaker 4 (46:02):
At the end, it was like okay, one hour, get it. Yeah,
a couple hours we get it. But it's been like
six hours to get one cat and there's three of you, right.
Speaker 7 (46:11):
And like what Jenna saying, the mom of the girl
who was trying to catch the cat was home. Yeah,
so like the cat wasn't gonna be left alone. She
lived with her family. There was many other things she
could have done.
Speaker 4 (46:21):
I remember all of us were like, we're siding with
the people who want to get the cat. That makes
so much sense, and were like, switch, what are you doing? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (46:28):
And wait?
Speaker 4 (46:29):
One final comment here by Zappora eighty five. I have
a strictly indoor cat, but to be frank, he's a
from a farah, so he likes to escape. On occasion
when he has escaped before, we look for him for
fifteen minutes and then leave him outside. He always comes
back in the morning mewing like he's made a huge
mistake and he needs a warm bet. I would never
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abandon someone's birthday because my silly boy got outside. And
the fact that her cat is an indoor outdoor cat
is insane.
Speaker 7 (46:59):
Right, They always I even I had an indoor cat
get out and we were panicking because there's woods near
the back of my house. Then and he came back.
He got hungry. They know where they're going. He wanted
to explore a little bit. He came right back. He'd
me out at the door.
Speaker 2 (47:13):
We let him in.
Speaker 4 (47:14):
If it was a brand new cat, makes sense.
Speaker 7 (47:17):
That had never been outside. You like, he was strictly indoors.
You did not know where he was. He wasn't like
somewhere that you guys had eyes on him and you
were genuinely like he could be gone.
Speaker 4 (47:29):
But the thing is, the cat was literally in like
the neighbor's yard.
Speaker 7 (47:32):
I think it was in their yard. I think it
was just under something.
Speaker 4 (47:35):
It is either under something it was. It wasn't far,
it was right there, and they.
Speaker 7 (47:38):
Weren't trying treats like I remember it, just being like
come on.
Speaker 4 (47:41):
They were just like hanging out like the cats outside.
Speaker 7 (47:43):
He just didn't want to go to the birthday ye later.
Speaker 4 (47:46):
Yeah, that is the end of the comments, and this
is the end of the episode.
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My mother is cheating with the doctor that delivered my sister.
Just recently, I was on my mom's tablet on Instagram
when a notification popped up and said trip to Washington. Now,
about a year ago, my mom took a girl's trip
to Washington. My friend texted me back as soon as
the notification came up, so I tapped on the photos
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and went to swipe out when I saw a dude.
Speaker 2 (00:41):
Dude.
Speaker 6 (00:41):
I don't know a dude. Dude, you say the dude.
Speaker 5 (00:46):
So as soon as I went back to the photos,
I saw a photo of my mom and the dude
in bed.
Speaker 6 (00:52):
With each other at the hotel.
Speaker 2 (00:54):
Disgusting.
Speaker 5 (00:55):
By the way, this comes from, I am you know.
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Speaker 6 (01:03):
It's and I'm Angie.
Speaker 2 (01:04):
I'm Dakota.
Speaker 4 (01:05):
I'm Keon, and we're here to give good advice.
Speaker 5 (01:08):
Goofily, but we don't have all the answers. We just
know what we would do in this situation. So let
us know what you would do in the comments. So oh,
he says.
Speaker 6 (01:15):
I looked more and also saw a video of the
guy and my mom kissing, and the guy kissing all
my mom's neck and shoulder.
Speaker 3 (01:22):
Why why are we watching this? Get stop it stop.
Speaker 6 (01:27):
That's when it hit me. This wasn't some random guy.
Speaker 5 (01:30):
This was the doctor that delivered my little sister in
twenty nineteen.
Speaker 2 (01:35):
That was when that hit you.
Speaker 3 (01:37):
It wasn't until I saw him kissing my mom's neck
that I realized, isn't that my sister's birthing doctor.
Speaker 5 (01:46):
So now I've been real distant from my mom. Every
time I'm around her, I just feel disgusted. And then
a week after finding out, I couldn't hold back. I
went through her phone and found messages with her and
the guy since twenty nineteen. Oh my god, since the
baby was born. I wonder how old the sister is.
They were talking about things I.
Speaker 6 (02:05):
Wish not to repeat.
Speaker 5 (02:07):
Needless to say, I don't like being around my mom. Now,
so tell me what did I do about this situation?
And there are some comments, but Dakota, what does she
do about the situation?
Speaker 3 (02:16):
Is it unclear? If mom is married right now? Mom
is cheating with this.
Speaker 6 (02:23):
Doctor by ope, his reaction, That's what I'm assuming.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
If she's cheating, that's not good, and it makes sense
why you don't want to be around your mom.
Speaker 3 (02:31):
But if it's just like, ooh, this is the doctor
that delivered my sister, Yeah, I don't think that that's
really that big of a deal.
Speaker 5 (02:41):
I agree, but it is also just kind of weird,
Like if it wasn't a cheating situation, it is kind
of weird that, like the sister was born in twenty nineteen,
and that's also when they started talking.
Speaker 6 (02:52):
So, I mean, you know what delivery doctors see up
in there.
Speaker 3 (02:55):
I mean, hey, it's kinda they bonded over a traumatic experience.
Speaker 6 (03:00):
I guess, dramatic in different ways.
Speaker 5 (03:03):
I just U I'm honestly surprised that a delivery doctor
would want to be with a woman after that.
Speaker 2 (03:11):
Yes, they're all gay.
Speaker 5 (03:14):
Well I mean that Citic woman, That's what I'm saying,
you know what I mean, I don't know maybe that's
a hot take.
Speaker 3 (03:20):
I think there is some sort of isn't there like
a I guess some ethic thing where it's like when
you you're a doctor, you're not really supposed to, you know,
make your your patience your.
Speaker 6 (03:31):
Yeah, I think so.
Speaker 5 (03:33):
And we do have an update here. It's been about
thirteen hours since this post went up. But okay, first,
thank you guys for the suggestion on gathering up evidence
and showing it to my dad.
Speaker 6 (03:44):
Okay, Arah cheating.
Speaker 4 (03:48):
Yep, but who's the father?
Speaker 5 (03:51):
Shorry to say, But that went out the window when
I found out the bottom half of the tablet was
broke and couldn't enter the passwords. So so I decided
to just tell him straight up. When I told him
that I suspected Mom was cheating, he said he had
known about it at first, but she promised to stop
and even showed him that she cut all contact with him.
Oh my gosh, so this has been happening. They've already
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argued about this. Oh my goodness.
Speaker 3 (04:17):
Yeah, I don't know if that ended up working out
the way you wanted to cheat?
Speaker 6 (04:21):
Yeah, I don't think so.
Speaker 5 (04:23):
He then said he was starting to get suspicions again
when her and the doctor started working at the same hospital,
and she kept saying that they were friends. So then
I asked my dad when he found out, and he
said around late twenty twenty or early twenty twenty one.
But here's the thing, my mom went on that girl's
trip in twenty twenty three.
Speaker 6 (04:42):
When I told my dad.
Speaker 5 (04:43):
That, he looked shocked and then asked if I was serious,
to which I replied yes. Usually my dad is strong
and would never cry, but this time he just broke
down and cried for about thirty minutes, and I just
hugged him the entire time.
Speaker 2 (04:58):
Oh my gosh.
Speaker 5 (04:59):
Even though I I couldn't show the evidence, he told
me he one hundred percent believes me. But to bear
with him because he is still trying to save enough
money to the point where he can live comfortably without her.
Oh my gosh, she's just like opening up a portal
of all of her parents' problems that she just had
no idea about.
Speaker 6 (05:16):
That's rough.
Speaker 2 (05:17):
You shouldn't have to be dealing with this.
Speaker 6 (05:19):
Yeah, yeah, he said, he's close. He just needs another
few months. He thanked me so much for telling him,
even though it hurts so much to hear he loved that.
I told him.
Speaker 5 (05:29):
Anyway, my mom's at work right now. I took my
dad to a cafe to cool our minds off and relax.
Speaker 6 (05:34):
He appreciates it. I'll update you guys with more information
if it's important.
Speaker 5 (05:38):
Thanks for reading, and we sure do have a second
update with important information.
Speaker 3 (05:42):
Yeah, there's definitely more important information there to be digest.
Speaker 6 (05:46):
Yeah, I am so sorry, Opie. My goodness.
Speaker 2 (05:50):
Well, I mean, at least you did. I feel like
that is the right thing.
Speaker 3 (05:53):
I would always rather be told what's actually going on,
rather than being like, yeah, I don't know. I just
thought it would upset you, so I didn't tell you
at all, and would just, you know, let you continue
living a lie.
Speaker 2 (06:05):
And I'd be more mad about that.
Speaker 3 (06:07):
Yeah, I'd be like, duh, of course I'm gonna be
upset my wife is cheating on me with I would
assume a hot doctor.
Speaker 6 (06:15):
A hot doctor.
Speaker 5 (06:16):
Update number two, Hello, guys, not sure why, but I'm
getting a lot of troll comments. Let me tell you this,
this is my life, so do not try to say
that it's ai. Secondly, those of you saying I'm a
selfish baby obviously haven't been through things in their life
like this and if they have, it was probably them cheating. Anyways,
I showed my dad the post and he was kind
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of worried that they would find our identity. But after
I informed him that no names or addresses were given
out and this is a burner account, he was fine.
After he saw the comments, he actually started to question
my little sister being his. So we decided to take
a DNA test behind my mom's back. He did it
just a few hours ago and they said they will
send the results in about a week.
Speaker 6 (06:57):
I'll update when that happens, and.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
Weis sure, do you have another? Oh?
Speaker 6 (07:01):
Okay, my goodness.
Speaker 2 (07:03):
I think that it is his baby?
Speaker 5 (07:06):
Yeah, put up a poll if we can't baby or
no baby, I think that legitimate or illegitimate.
Speaker 2 (07:12):
I would indeed claim that it is his baby.
Speaker 5 (07:15):
I'm gonna guess it's his. If the conversation started when
the baby was.
Speaker 3 (07:19):
Born, yeah, I think it would be wild if that
was like you delivered your own baby, and then you're
like all right, yeah.
Speaker 2 (07:25):
Right, and then I will just like, yes, that a
secret piece of lore for my own.
Speaker 6 (07:30):
Life, right.
Speaker 2 (07:32):
I know.
Speaker 5 (07:32):
I feel like if they were like a married couple
and he was delivering the baby. I honestly feel like
that would be some sort of bonding moment, some sort
of like I don't know, it's like.
Speaker 3 (07:43):
Yeah, for some reason, when the doctor delivered the baby,
he held it out in front of him like, wow, uh,
this is your baby though, yes, this is clearly your baby.
Speaker 2 (07:55):
Here, take this away from me. Goodbye, my child. What
did what did you? Nothing? Nothing?
Speaker 6 (08:02):
I know my son?
Speaker 5 (08:04):
And uh, there is another update, so let's find out. Yeah,
the results came back a few days early. But nonetheless,
the DNA results came back positive. That's a weight off
my dad's chest. So dad's baby, not doctors. Anyways, my
dad has been promoted to supervisor, and since him and
my mom had no prenup, this is gonna be kind
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of hard. My dad got a lawyer, a nice one too,
and the divorce papers should be handed to my dad
on Tuesday to avoid my mom seeing the papers.
Speaker 2 (08:33):
Now, I think you gotta get a mean divorce lawyer.
You can't get a nice one. You get a mean one.
Speaker 5 (08:39):
He's gotta like roast you every hour, top of every
hour them like, give me more money.
Speaker 2 (08:44):
Roast your wife that cheated on you with the doctor.
Speaker 5 (08:47):
Well yeah, hopefully it's nice to Opie's dad and mean
to the wife.
Speaker 2 (08:51):
Yes, my dad.
Speaker 5 (08:52):
Said he's going to give it to her for their anniversary,
which is on June twelve. So we's just luck and
there is a updates. But serving divorce papers on your
anniversary is crazy.
Speaker 2 (09:05):
As you say it overwrites it.
Speaker 3 (09:07):
It's like, no, this is no longer our anniversary, it's
our divorcitary.
Speaker 6 (09:11):
Yeah, I guess. I mean that's kind of nice.
Speaker 5 (09:13):
You have a you know, one anniversary for everything, one
anniversary for your ex marriage and then one for your
or same one for your divorce.
Speaker 3 (09:23):
Happy divorce aniversary, ob happy fiction day.
Speaker 5 (09:31):
We do have a fourth update now, divorce papers served. Yes, sir,
I'll start crying and stuff. But me nor my dad
cared because the affair is still going well, not anymore,
my goodness. But nonetheless, my dad is letting her.
Speaker 6 (09:48):
Keep the house.
Speaker 5 (09:49):
Oh wow, he just got a raise and decided to
let my mom have the house.
Speaker 6 (09:52):
I guess he's still got love for her.
Speaker 2 (09:54):
I don't know.
Speaker 5 (09:55):
He also decided not to move into an apartment but
a condo instead. Man, But I'm telling you, life is
about to be good now. Thanks to all, my dad
is still in trauma therapy. I'm not sure what it's called,
but he's in trauma therapy. Thank y'all so much for
reading this.
Speaker 2 (10:10):
He's in drama therapy.
Speaker 3 (10:11):
I don't know if he's in trauma therapy, but he's
in drama therapy. I don't know what trauma therapy, but
it's trauma therapy, right.
Speaker 6 (10:18):
But yeah, what a crazy wackadoo story.
Speaker 5 (10:20):
I really I wonder if Ope had problems with her
mom before, because I feel like, if.
Speaker 6 (10:25):
If my mom cheated, which she definitely would not do.
Speaker 5 (10:28):
Okay, but if my mom or dad cheated for that matter,
again would not do I feel like I would be mad,
but I would still have some sort of love in
my heart.
Speaker 6 (10:40):
Riley, do it again. Give the people what they want
they need.
Speaker 3 (10:43):
Quite interesting juxtaposition of you being like, yeah, I know
they would still have love in their heart even you know,
through all this, and then Riley's.
Speaker 2 (10:54):
Just like, just bounce on that.
Speaker 3 (10:55):
Crazy anyway, We've got another story. Sorry for you, coming
right up. I know my husband is cheating on me,
but I can't prove it.
Speaker 6 (11:05):
You gotta find the evidence.
Speaker 3 (11:07):
Trigger warning for an emotionally abusive relationship and extreme gas
lighting and This comes directly from our subreddit, Get your
cheating husband out of here. I should first emphasize that
when I claim I'm positive, it's because he has admitted
to cheating on me in the past, but now swears
that he never has. So let me just start off
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by saying, you can just leave your husband.
Speaker 2 (11:31):
He already admitted he cheated on You can just leave him.
You've got the proof. What are you talking about?
Speaker 6 (11:37):
Proof is in the pudding.
Speaker 3 (11:38):
People, My yeah, and he cheated in that pudding. Cheat pudding.
My husband and I, both in our early to mid thirties,
are supposed to celebrate our ten year anniversary this fall.
It has been very rough ten years. By the way,
this comes from us. Your odds sorbet is sixty seven
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where this story was submitted.
Speaker 2 (12:02):
I'm Dakota, I'm Angie, I'm Keon, and we hate to
give you good advice.
Speaker 3 (12:06):
Goofully, leave your husband, but we don't know all the
answers leave your husband.
Speaker 2 (12:10):
We just know what we would do, leave your husband.
So if you would do something else in the comments,
let us know, as op says.
Speaker 3 (12:18):
When we first met, we were both out of very
bad marriages. I have kids with my ex, who made
my life horrible for years anytime I tried to move on.
My husband's ex was a heavy drinker who made horrible
choices under the influence, including driving wasted and getting caught cheating.
We clicked instantly. Drama bond like, oh, we both have
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terrible partners, what's be together perfect? I was hesitant about
dating him because I wasn't sure I was ready to
put my faith in another man just to be heartbroken again.
He eventually wore me down, and our first couple of
years together felt like magic until I got pregnant. It
was like his person now, and he completely changed overnight.
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He became increasingly irritated with me and would randomly snap
over things he misunderstood, then later apologize, blaming the stress.
My pregnancy became high risk and I had to resign
from my job. His ex had screwed him over financially,
and he was stuck paying off a car she crashed.
Once I resigned, the bills fell solely on him. I
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understood distress, so I let it slide far too many times,
right before our baby was born, I overheard his parents
demanding that they forced me to get a DNA test.
When I brought this up, my husband looked mortified and
said he would confront them. After random CPS visits to
our home, we decided to move away.
Speaker 2 (13:43):
Oh, so his parents are terrible too.
Speaker 3 (13:46):
My husband was certain it was his mother since all
the information given about me and my kids was incorrect,
but his information was one hundred percent correct.
Speaker 2 (13:55):
We moved to another state.
Speaker 3 (13:56):
Our beautiful baby was born, and life seemed to get
worse go day.
Speaker 6 (14:03):
So sad.
Speaker 3 (14:03):
That's not the adjective I expected there, right. He resented
me from moving so far from his family, even though
it was his choice to go no contact on a
daily basis. He constantly made disrespectful jabs at me. A
couple of times he butt diled me at work, and
I overheard him telling his coworkers terrible things about how
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I had let myself go. I was struggling tremendously with
postpartum depression. I decided to go back to work and start.
Speaker 2 (14:33):
Bettering my appearance.
Speaker 3 (14:35):
After a couple of years, we moved back to his
home state and gave his family another chance. I agreed
hoping it would give me back my loving husband. Our
first week back, his mom pulled him aside, not knowing
I was in the bathroom on the other side of
the door, and she began pestering him about the DNA test,
and he told her he would see. When I asked
him about it later, he refused to give me any information.
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Things were getting better around the house, but he was
also spending much less time there. We both worked opposite shifts,
and he would stay out until all hours of the night,
claiming to be helping his mom or fishing alone until
well after three in the morning.
Speaker 2 (15:13):
Oh baby, that's just when all the fish are really biting.
Speaker 6 (15:16):
No one else is fishing at that hour, so they
all are mine.
Speaker 2 (15:19):
I get all the midnight fish.
Speaker 3 (15:21):
You know what they say, Yeah, the midnight fisherman uses
the worm to his advantage.
Speaker 6 (15:26):
That's the old thing say.
Speaker 2 (15:28):
That is what they say. Don't look into it.
Speaker 3 (15:32):
I started to have my doubts then, but I never
imagined he'd be cheating. I told him I was willing
to do a DNA test if he had doubts, but
I would not be the one to pay for it.
He reassured me that he had no doubts, and for
a while things started getting better. Then came the pandemic
and I once again had to quit my job to
stay home with the kids. My mental health plummeted, and
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I became a recluse, leaving my house less than twenty
times in a two year span. Pandemmy little by little,
I started noticing text messages already opened on my phone,
which I knew was odd because I have ADHD and
make it a habit not to open messages until I'm
ready to respond. I downloaded an app that would take
a picture every time my phone was unlocked. That resulted
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in hundreds of photos of my husband's forehead, proving he
had been searching through my phone. I confronted him and
showed him the pictures, but he still denied it. This
caused me to download spyware and set up two factor identification.
Speaker 2 (16:30):
We later learned that my phone was cloned.
Speaker 3 (16:34):
I have a group chat with a few very close
girlfriends and we keep everything color coded. Randomly, my messages
and reactions changed from my designated color to the default black,
and the ladies in the group pointed it out. Only
I hadn't been the one to write in the group
that day, I took my phone to get checked and
we found some suspicious downloads. The tech worker assured me
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that the cloned phone would have needed to come into
close contact with my phone. Since I hadn't seen my
ex in over a year, that was highly unlikely, and
by the time quarantine lifted, my mental health was the
lowest it had ever been.
Speaker 4 (17:08):
This is so much. This is way too much to
be like, I know you're cheating, Like.
Speaker 3 (17:14):
Yeah, if he's already admitted to you that he cheated,
he cheated.
Speaker 4 (17:17):
The fact that your app has the like it takes
a photo and he's like, this is like way too
much to really look, I gotcha.
Speaker 6 (17:26):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (17:27):
So before the hacking, I had started making a name
for myself with my artwork and short stories. I was
getting close to twenty commissions a week. At some point
during the hacking, about eighty percent of my digital artwork
randomly deleted from my phone.
Speaker 2 (17:42):
I was heartbroken. You should have been on a war path. Yeah,
that was your husband.
Speaker 6 (17:47):
That's terrible.
Speaker 2 (17:48):
That was your husband messing around with your phone.
Speaker 5 (17:50):
You have change your past code, dude, And if he
brings it up as a problem, be like, oh, I
didn't realize you needed my phone for anything?
Speaker 2 (17:58):
Yeah?
Speaker 6 (17:58):
What you doing there?
Speaker 3 (18:00):
A few weeks later, I received a legal letter accusing
me of plagiarism and a season desist on my online shop.
Speaker 7 (18:05):
What.
Speaker 2 (18:06):
I got legal advice from a.
Speaker 3 (18:07):
Lawyer who confirmed the documents as legit, but believed I
could fight it, though it would be costly.
Speaker 2 (18:13):
We decided to shut down my shop.
Speaker 3 (18:15):
We also had more random CPS visits, though we were
quickly closed out as unwarranted. During my mental health spiral,
my close friends were trying to get me to look
more into my husband. They were positive he had been
cheating and were genuinely afraid he was doing something to
me to cause my mental health to get so bad.
They even stated he might be working with his family
to make me seem unstable so he could get full
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custody when he left me. At first, I shut that
down immediately because I could not see this man cheating
on me.
Speaker 2 (18:44):
But after some time I had to force.
Speaker 3 (18:46):
Myself to take off the rose colored glasses and see
what was really going on.
Speaker 2 (18:50):
I was essentially living in m ax shift prison.
Speaker 3 (18:53):
We had cameras all over the house to watch the kids,
as well as family trackers on our phones. I started
getting alerts telling me to ask him to turn his
location back on.
Speaker 2 (19:01):
He would turn it off after leaving.
Speaker 3 (19:03):
The house, but I learned that if I called him,
it would ping his location. Whether he answered or not,
he would be parked near the wooded area behind his job.
He started leaving hours early and returning home hours late,
stating he was getting overtime. He would yell at me
if I called him at work. Honestly, just like straight
up all this other bs. If you have a partner
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who just yells at you, yeah, leave them.
Speaker 2 (19:29):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (19:29):
I feel like I honestly don't care if he cheated
or not at this point, Like he has proved himself
to be so terrible in general. I mean, if you
had like problems with your your pregnancy, if your pregnancy
was high risk, then like that is one hundred percent
because of the stress that he was causing.
Speaker 2 (19:46):
Like if he yeah, very well could be if.
Speaker 5 (19:48):
He was stressed out during your pregnancy. First of all,
why what are you stressed about? And then also like
if he didn't know how to handle that stress and
was making you more stressful for you when you're the
one that's pregnant, like that already is so terrible. I
don't care if he.
Speaker 2 (20:06):
Cheated or not.
Speaker 3 (20:06):
I don't even need the confirmation that he's cheating, which
all of that behavior definitely is a massive red flag
that he would be.
Speaker 2 (20:15):
Yeah, if he's yelling at you for just calling him,
it's over. Yeah, it's over.
Speaker 3 (20:21):
He came home one day with a mark on his neck,
but swore that it was from me, even though we
hadn't been intimate in months. I'll admit I let him
get away with so much, but after a while I
couldn't keep ignoring everything.
Speaker 5 (20:34):
Oh my gosh, he's like baby. It was the curling iron.
I just burned myself with a curling iron.
Speaker 2 (20:39):
He's bald.
Speaker 6 (20:40):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (20:42):
I would wake up in the middle of the night
to him being gone, and the cameras from the living room,
front door, and outside would be disabled.
Speaker 2 (20:48):
There is a giant.
Speaker 3 (20:50):
Looney Tune style like cartoon sign that just says he's cheating.
Speaker 2 (20:55):
Yeah, and he's carrying it around with him.
Speaker 6 (20:58):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (20:58):
I would wait for him to come back.
Speaker 3 (20:59):
Sometimes I'm accidentally falling back asleep, other times pretending to
be asleep to see what he would do. He'd usually
go straight to the bathroom and run the sink water
splashing himself before climbing back into bed. I confront him
about it in the morning, but he denied doing it
and show me the camera footage not picking him up leaving.
That's what you just confront him when he gets back
in bed, which you probably don't want to do that
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because he sounds scary.
Speaker 2 (21:21):
You should leave him and take the kids.
Speaker 3 (21:24):
After a while, it became increasingly hard to stay awake
at night, which worried me since I naturally suffer from insomnia.
My mental health was so bad I couldn't be sure
what was real or fake. One night, I woke up
abruptly after hearing him leave. I sat up for two
hours and laid back down when I heard him come back.
Immediately after he entered our room, I was hit with
the strongest latex and lubricant smello.
Speaker 6 (21:47):
Yeah, the smell was strong.
Speaker 2 (21:49):
Strong smell. I shot up in bed sniffing around.
Speaker 3 (21:53):
He had dropped an open Wiener wrapper on the floor
right next to our bed on his way to the bathroom.
I didn't even wait for him to come out. I
immediately called him out on it, and he came out
like a deer in headlights, surprised.
Speaker 2 (22:06):
I was awake. He swore he hadn't been anywhere.
Speaker 3 (22:09):
I threw the wrapper at him and immediately started packing
my things.
Speaker 4 (22:13):
Was it a used one?
Speaker 2 (22:15):
I think it was the rappers.
Speaker 4 (22:16):
Oh oh, okay.
Speaker 6 (22:18):
A weeder wrapper wrapper.
Speaker 2 (22:19):
That's okay, rapper squared Okay.
Speaker 4 (22:22):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (22:23):
He ripped my bags out of my hands, screaming at
me that I was crazy. He's swearing that I was
making up everything in my head. We didn't use rappers
because I have a latex allergy. You know, they maked
those without latex.
Speaker 6 (22:37):
Well exactly, But I think the point is is that.
Speaker 3 (22:40):
Well I know, yeah, no fair. I was just saying, like,
like nar ways to be safe with a latex.
Speaker 4 (22:46):
He just was trying to make balloon animals. That's all
he want. He was just trying to hardest making balloon animals.
Speaker 2 (22:51):
Yeah, he was just practicing his clownsmanship.
Speaker 5 (22:53):
He wanted to do that challengdar. You like, fill it
with water and put it on someone's head.
Speaker 2 (22:57):
We should do that. That was That's really funny.
Speaker 3 (23:00):
We hadn't been able to use them in over a year,
so it did not come from us. He swore he
didn't know where it came from. But by now I
was so tired of turning the other cheek. I screamed
that I hated him, I wanted a divorce and could
no longer trust him. He swore that it was all
happening in my head and I needed to get help now.
One thing I will say about me is as a mother,
I take mental health very seriously. If someone tells me
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that my mental instability is at risk of causing home
to my kids, I'm going to listen every time. So
I checked myself into a psychiatric hospital, got put on
psych meds and antidepressants.
Speaker 6 (23:32):
That is so crazy. His guy's lighting worked to the
fullest extent.
Speaker 2 (23:37):
I'm so sorry. Op.
Speaker 3 (23:38):
Yeah, I hope that your story can be a lesson
to everyone that you can just leave. You don't have
to let the guy be in charge of anything. Although
this was a very challenging time, you know, you'd already
gone through a lot. There's the pandemic, the isolation. You said,
it was hard to tell what was real.
Speaker 5 (23:55):
Oh my gosh, trust yourself, people, you know easier something done.
But if you are ending up in a psychiatric word
because of a relationship or after being in a hard relationship,
that's the sign that it is not good.
Speaker 3 (24:09):
You know, there's really never an excuse to just like
yell at your partner. My doctor later admitted that it
was the wrong medication, as it resulted in me hearing voices,
Oh my god. But in my doctor's defense, she was
going off the information provided to her by my husband
and his family. It was not accurate information. After that,
my husband started spending more time at home. He stopped
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sneaking out at night, and initially cut contact with whoever
he was seeing. He came clean and admitted to cheating,
although he refused to tell me who it was. His
justification was that he somehow believed I was cheating on
him with my ex and had supposedly received proof from someone,
but wouldn't tell me who. When I asked how he
could believe I would risk my family for a man
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who had destroyed me, his excuse was that because I
never wanted to be near my ex, it made him
feel like I was hiding things. This guy definitely was
cheating on you with his AX.
Speaker 2 (25:03):
Yeah, yeah, exactly.
Speaker 6 (25:04):
He's just you know, blaming everything on you.
Speaker 2 (25:07):
He said.
Speaker 3 (25:07):
The reason his family wanted the DNA test was because
he told him he thought my ex was the father
of our child, and that resulted in them calling CPS,
hoping I would get scared and leave him, But he
didn't want me to think he was behind it, so
he cut his family off and later blamed me for it.
Speaker 4 (25:22):
This guy's pathetic. Yeah sucks.
Speaker 2 (25:24):
I'm really sorry that you ended up marrying the worst guy.
Speaker 5 (25:28):
After paying it, after being in a bad relationship previously.
I honestly, I don't even believe that he was in
a bad relationship before, which is what was mentioned before.
Speaker 6 (25:38):
They both were in bad relationships.
Speaker 5 (25:39):
I feel like he was probably in a bad relationship,
but it was all his fault.
Speaker 6 (25:43):
Yeah, he was making it bad.
Speaker 3 (25:45):
Yeah as bad, It is all bad. We decided to
do couples therapy. Spoiler, it's been two years and we
still haven't gone what. I stopped bringing it up as
I realized it was never going to happen. But he
was home every day being my loving husband again. He
would stay on the phone with me his entire work day,
which honestly just upset me because it proved he'd been
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lying for years. I was going to individual therapy weekly,
so I felt we were finally moving past it. Fast
forward to now we have new phones and new numbers.
Why I know that you've been through a lot. You
need to leave this man immediately.
Speaker 4 (26:21):
Why put yourself through it more? I get it, but
it's like, what's holding you to this relationship with this man? Now?
Speaker 2 (26:27):
You need to lean on your family this man, this
man has.
Speaker 3 (26:30):
Put you under some sort of spell, and you need
to get out of this relationship.
Speaker 4 (26:35):
Is he hot?
Speaker 3 (26:36):
No, it's definitely not that you need to take your
kids with you to your family's house and divorce this
guy and cite everything that has happened as the reason
why this is not a situation that should be fixed.
Speaker 2 (26:50):
To be fixed by leaving, that's the only way it
can be fixed.
Speaker 3 (26:54):
I haven't had a single issue with my accounts being
hacked since, and my mental health was the best it's
been in year. My psychiatrist ended our sessions and removed
me from all psych medications with a detailed note and
why I don't need the medication in case someone tries
to use it against me. I'm still in individual therapy
and I'm no longer having trouble staying awake. Our ten
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year anniversary is coming up, and we have never had
a good anniversary. I learned a few years ago that
the reason he chose this date was it was the
day before his anniversary with his ex.
Speaker 2 (27:24):
So he's always bitter on our special day.
Speaker 6 (27:28):
Why did he choose the date? Why didn't?
Speaker 5 (27:30):
Is there not like a factual like anniversary that you
could decide to go with. I know some people like
if they have a kind of you know, uncertain but
getting to their relationship, they will choose one. But I
feel like if we're choosing one, that's not a good
one to choose.
Speaker 4 (27:45):
It's also like a terrible excuse to be like, ah,
it's our special day, but you know, you know how
I feel about this day.
Speaker 2 (27:52):
I feel like you.
Speaker 6 (27:53):
Should be over that, so you should be done for.
Speaker 4 (27:55):
Ten years too. Ten years.
Speaker 6 (27:57):
I forgot that's how long they were together.
Speaker 4 (28:00):
Ten years. And he's like, mm, you know, I'm gonna
feel a little down today, like I'm just not happy.
Speaker 2 (28:05):
I lame the worst, one of the worst.
Speaker 3 (28:09):
Increasingly, over the last few months, he started acting distant again, responses,
staying in the bathroom for hours, intentionally misunderstanding me, and
as of the last three weeks, constantly getting me mixed
up with things he did with other people. I asked
him if I needed to be worried, and he rolled
his eyes at me. I told him I was afraid
he might be cheating again, and he blew up at me,
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saying he's never cheated on me before, and he's tired
of me accusing him.
Speaker 6 (28:34):
He literally admitted to it. Yeah, literally admitted to it.
Speaker 4 (28:37):
That's crazy.
Speaker 5 (28:38):
And then like while she was in the psych word
or something, or while she's on the wrong medication.
Speaker 2 (28:43):
Right, oh op, he continues.
Speaker 3 (28:44):
I reminded him that he admitted it, and he scares
that he never admitted to it and that it's in
my head again.
Speaker 2 (28:51):
Yeah, you need to leave this guy.
Speaker 4 (28:52):
This guy's crazy.
Speaker 3 (28:53):
He's got you questioning literally, like what's real and like
if you, like you had no mental health issues to
the point where like you were delusional about what was
really happening. He was trying to convince you that him
cheating on you was a delusion in your own head,
which is not true.
Speaker 4 (29:08):
Would we call this guy psychotic? I don't know what's
the term for this kind of person, because that.
Speaker 3 (29:12):
Yeah, he's psychotic. This is psychotic. To be able to
do this is psychotic. I didn't sleep at all last night,
so while the kids were at school today, I decided
to take a nap for a couple hours. After waking up,
I saw an alert on my phone that someone had
accessed my bank app at exactly twelve fifty eight. I
knew for a fact it wasn't me because my alarm
didn't wake me up until one thirty, and I haven't
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downloaded the bank app on my new phone yet. I
was panicking to my husband about it because it means
someone's still accessing my private information somehow, and he annoyingly
said it was probably me and I had just mixed
up the time. I told him it couldn't have been
me because I was asleep, which he promptly replied, how
could you have been asleep when I was on my
lunch break at that time and we talked my whole break.
Speaker 2 (29:55):
I pulled out my phone, showing him the time logs.
Speaker 3 (29:58):
We stopped talking at ten forty four, when he told
me he was going to call the electric company and
call me right back, but I told him not to.
Speaker 2 (30:05):
Worry about it because I needed a nap. Desperately.
Speaker 3 (30:07):
I tried to pry more from information about this supposed
phone call, because he often mixes up our conversations with
things He swears I tell him, but I genuinely have
no idea what he's talking about.
Speaker 2 (30:19):
Bab.
Speaker 3 (30:19):
He's trying to gaslight you into just being like, Oh,
I'm unwell and.
Speaker 2 (30:25):
I don't know what's going on. I have to listen
to him. Leave him.
Speaker 3 (30:29):
This guy is like unbelievably abusive, and you need to
leave him. If you are still with him, you need
to be gone yesterday. Call your family, Call your friends.
Your friends were telling you they were concerned about this guy.
Anyone in your support system who could help you right now,
you need to talk to them and just fully go.
No contact with your husband, serve him divorce papers, let
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lawyers handle it is over.
Speaker 2 (30:55):
It needs to be over.
Speaker 4 (30:56):
It's the fact that you're questioning your sanity on a
daily basis pretty much. Come on, what's the underlying denominator here?
It's always him. You're like this and then like wait,
did I do this? He's like, yeah, no, you did
do it, and it's oh boy. I feel like once
you get out of this relationship, it's gonna be the
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biggest weight off your shoulders.
Speaker 2 (31:18):
Yeah, truly done here.
Speaker 1 (31:20):
We're gonna get back to this juicy story. But a
quick three minute of break of ads from our sponsors.
Speaker 2 (31:24):
My gut lately has been screaming at me to pay attention.
Speaker 3 (31:27):
I checked his phone tonight for the first time in
over a year and found nothing, literally nothing. No call
to the electric company, no calls from his boss, nothing.
Speaker 2 (31:37):
Just our phone calls. So he's got a second phone.
Speaker 3 (31:39):
I also found out he has a work phone, but
he doesn't bring it home, so I have no way
of checking it. I know he's cheating again. I'm not stupid.
I'm just tired, too tired to fight, too tired to care.
I tried to give him an easy out, but he
won't take it. We have a little bit more story left,
but it's just it's time to leave. You summon the courage,
lean on your friends, lean on your family, make sure
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you know the kids are okay, and leave your husband.
Speaker 2 (32:05):
He's abusive.
Speaker 3 (32:06):
I'm so afraid that if I start digging again, I'll
send myself back down a spiral that I genuinely can't afford.
Speaker 2 (32:12):
I'd rather just not care.
Speaker 3 (32:14):
I have no family, I have no friends, and I
live in a state that I have zero ties to
and aren't afforded any resources. What happened to the friends
in the beginning of the story. Anybody find local shelters, anything,
there has to be some way, anything is better than this.
Speaker 2 (32:30):
I'm stretched so thin.
Speaker 3 (32:31):
I'm basically saran wrap, just clinging to myself to keep
myself together. My therapist says, I'm handling it all pretty well,
but I don't think I am.
Speaker 2 (32:39):
I stay up every night and just cry all the time.
And that is the end of that story. Man.
Speaker 3 (32:44):
I know that's really hard to hear. But it's not
gonna get better until you leave this guy. Yeah, it
is not gonna get better.
Speaker 2 (32:50):
Until you leave this guy. I don't know how your
therapist is not telling you the same thing.
Speaker 4 (32:54):
Therapist has got to be in cahoots with the husband.
But again, even if it's because this is one of
our own, but.
Speaker 2 (32:59):
Yeah, change your bank information as well.
Speaker 3 (33:01):
There's is a comment some seeing Yeah, can't call the bank,
cancel everything, change all the bank info one hundred percent.
Speaker 4 (33:07):
I'll go ahead and message you, op and make sure
you know everything's okay, especially with everything. I hope everyone
in our community can message you and hopefully just give
you the push that you need to get out of
this relationship, because this is and years of your sanity
just being played with, toyed with. It's not worth it.
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You deserve to live a good life, not this is
not a good life. Oh man waking up on a
daily basis to this.
Speaker 2 (33:35):
And it's like we'll get better, but then he just
gets worse.
Speaker 4 (33:37):
Yeah, you know, and you're taking like bread crumbly to you.
Speaker 2 (33:40):
He got you on psychiatric meds you didn't need. You
were hearing voices. This guy's not a partner.
Speaker 4 (33:46):
Just get away from this this guy. Yeah, that's all
I can say.
Speaker 2 (33:49):
We can just read the next story. That's all we
can do.
Speaker 7 (33:53):
My ex refuse to block the woman he secretly slept
with after getting me pregnant, directly from the subreddit guys, I,
forty one female, am seven weeks pregnant with the baby
of my ex boyfriend, forty two male. We broke up
because he was continuing to communicate and sleep with a
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sixty year old woman he'd been in a situationship with for.
Speaker 6 (34:19):
The previous eight years.
Speaker 7 (34:22):
Which I didn't know about until I sought out more
information on the question page.
Speaker 3 (34:29):
Well, sounds like a good reason to break up with somebody.
In my opinion, that's definitely a perfectly reasonable situation to
break up with someone over.
Speaker 4 (34:39):
That's the opening.
Speaker 7 (34:40):
By the way, this comes from fair Supermarket forty five,
twenty nine, And if you want usubmit your own stories,
go to the r slash okay storytime subreddit where this
is from. And I'm Carly, I'm.
Speaker 2 (34:53):
Dakota, I'm key On and Wow.
Speaker 7 (34:55):
And we're here to give good advice. Goofily, But we
don't have all the answers. We only know so what
we would do. So letus know what you would do
in the comments. And Opie says, my stipulation for us
to communicate is that he tells this woman he is
done with her and not to contact him anymore. He
wants to talk about a romantic future with me. I
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want to talk about peacefully co parenting. I have one child,
he has none, and he always wanted one. I've always
wanted a second. He doesn't want to have a child
where he is not in a relationship with the child's
mother in the same home. I was deceived into the
relationship to begin with. I had known about his eight
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year situationship with this much older woman who honestly is
physically unattractive, works in finance and is in an elite
white upper class community with horseback riding and country clubs.
Divorced with grown children.
Speaker 3 (35:53):
Yeah, he's getting that money. He's getting that old rich
white lady money.
Speaker 7 (35:58):
The roast of who is honestly physically Unattractivisi.
Speaker 3 (36:02):
Yeah, why she's a physically unappealing, financially attractive, rich white lady.
Speaker 7 (36:10):
He just wants to go horseback riding at the country club.
I never would have wanted anything to do with him
for this story. Let's call her Fifi. His timeline. He
met Fifi eight plus years ago. About a year and
a half in he got into a serious relationship with
a different woman for two years. We'll call her Nelly.
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While with Nellie, he continued to sleep with Fifi. He
never took Fifi on dates. He made her park her
car around the corner from his house. He had some weird,
spicy related stuff with Fifi while maintaining his relationship with Nellie,
insisting he was not physically attracted to Nelly, all the
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while sleeping with Fifi on the side.
Speaker 3 (36:57):
Toss all of this into a river. Toss it all
in the river yourself.
Speaker 4 (37:05):
With the river, cowbot comun and cues.
Speaker 5 (37:09):
Ew died take out genters in its ownhole new world, Like, is.
Speaker 3 (37:15):
There a service in Bali where I can have all
my memories of the last thirty seconds erased?
Speaker 6 (37:20):
Nope.
Speaker 7 (37:21):
He said he wanted to end his relationship with Nelly
but didn't know how, so he was trying to get
caught cheating. Fiefe sent dirty photos and videos of him
cheating to Nelly. I'm assuming he denied it or said
the videos were old. Either way, Eventually, Nellie showed up
at Fifi's home while he was there in the morning.
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Fast forward to May of twenty twenty four. This man
and I start talking and it was not a really
great relationship. Spicy, sleepily. We were compatible, and it could
have been a very good relationship if he had been
emotionally available. I felt him being emotionally unavailable. So I
went on the tee page and found Feefe. She blocked
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me on Facebook. I googled her phone number and called her.
Speaker 2 (38:11):
Wait, what is the tea app?
Speaker 7 (38:13):
I don't know for sure, that's the tea app. The
tea app is like a place where you can like
report about men and stuff like this is yeah, I'm
assuming yeah, And we spoke for one and a half hours.
Fefe said they were together physically in April twenty twenty four,
the last time. She never admitted to sleeping with him
while he and I were together, but I know she did.
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She shared spicy related text messages between the two of them.
He was telling her he was not seeing anyone over
and over when he was seeing me. He told her
repeatedly he missed her reaching out to her. When confronted,
he said he didn't do anything wrong. He swore he
didn't cheat and didn't feel bad for the text. Just
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the way he spoke about this woman made me sick,
no respect for her at all. I dumped him even
without the cheating. He was cheap, lazy, deceitful, dishonest, judgmental, discriminatory,
closet guard, uncultured, selfish, greedy, and lacking a backbone and
a proper chin.
Speaker 4 (39:20):
Damn, that last one is crazy.
Speaker 3 (39:22):
I hate to say this, but at some point, when
you dunk on an X at that level, you also
dunk on yourself because you.
Speaker 2 (39:28):
Were dating them.
Speaker 7 (39:29):
I mean, she got other pretty quickly.
Speaker 2 (39:30):
I'm glad you did. I'm just letting you know. Optically,
you go, yeah, that was also.
Speaker 4 (39:36):
You dated them and he has no chin.
Speaker 2 (39:39):
But I'm glad you're out the fair glad. I'm glad
that you're out.
Speaker 3 (39:42):
It's just a warning, you know, don't accidentally self dunk
on yourself.
Speaker 4 (39:46):
Sometimes you gotta go through the bad to get to
the good.
Speaker 2 (39:49):
I know, agreed. I'm just saying maybe, just you.
Speaker 4 (39:52):
Know, it's called a learning experience.
Speaker 6 (39:55):
Whatever.
Speaker 7 (39:56):
I saw him one last time in the beginning of September.
Now I'm pregnant. Oh, we have a little bit more
what you think.
Speaker 2 (40:06):
And always use protection kids.
Speaker 3 (40:09):
Then you don't have to have a baby with the
apparently the ugliest grossest dude on the planet.
Speaker 7 (40:15):
Someone goes is the sixty year old preggers too. My god,
they can raise their kids together.
Speaker 2 (40:20):
The sixty year old is not pregnant.
Speaker 7 (40:22):
We don't know that.
Speaker 4 (40:23):
I know that.
Speaker 2 (40:25):
I know that. You never know, sixty year old. You
never know not pregnant, never know. Nope, never No.
Speaker 1 (40:32):
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Speaker 7 (40:39):
Before I knew for sure I was pregnant, I asked
him to dinner, my treat. My only stipulation was that
he messaged this woman, requesting her to never contact him
again and block her.
Speaker 2 (40:52):
Bro you're paying for his dinner after he cheated on you.
Speaker 7 (40:55):
Because also, here's the other part of this, It's like
she probably was. I'm the only one reaching out every time.
He's just gonna reach it. Don't contact me, he's gonna
contact her.
Speaker 2 (41:05):
You paid for his dinner. She cheated on you.
Speaker 7 (41:09):
He called me crazy, He said I was obsessed with
her and childish. He said he would not do that.
He says he's not in contact with her. Now. Am
I the a hole for requesting that this man tells
this woman to not contact him again and block her
in order to give me peace of mind? Is this
really such an irrational, ridiculous request. That's the end of
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that story. No, can we just dump this man instead?
Speaker 4 (41:36):
Though you should be bff jillies with the sixty year
old and go horseback riding with her, or not leave.
Speaker 3 (41:44):
This man if you can't afford to raise the child,
give it up for adoption.
Speaker 2 (41:47):
If you can.
Speaker 3 (41:48):
None of that is okay. Neither of those two stories
were okay in any way. You both need to leave
the terrible, pathetic men that are in your life. I'm
sorry that you are pregnant with this man's child, but
he's not good.
Speaker 2 (42:01):
It's not like, am I the a hole?
Speaker 3 (42:02):
For Yeah, you're gonna be the a hole to yourself
if you stay with his guy.
Speaker 2 (42:06):
That's what I think.
Speaker 7 (42:07):
And you're one of us. So I hope that you're
watching maybe and you can take this advice and just
leave this man run away.
Speaker 4 (42:16):
So we have comments from a video My best friend
stole my business And this was posted on September nineteenth,
twenty twenty five. And here's a little tiald ar. Opie
planned a camping trip for her eighteenth birthday with three
close friends, but they all bailed last minute, claiming they
had to catch one of their cats who got outside.
I remember this story one. For two whole days, the
(42:40):
friends kept making excuses about why they couldn't leave this
outdoor cat, who again regularly goes outside anyway to come celebrate.
When Opie's boyfriend called them out for ditching her for
her birthday over a cat that wasn't even missing, it
turned into a huge fight where the friends ganged up
with nasty personal attacks. Later, the three friends sent Opia
(43:01):
photo of themselves flipping her off and blocked her everywhere
making clear that the cat was just an excuse to
ditch her birthday. If you're curious to know the full story,
you can go watch the full video. Wow, yeah, I
do remember that.
Speaker 7 (43:15):
Do you think that might have been either just you
and me for you and me and so Fea.
Speaker 4 (43:20):
I know Sophia was there because we were all like
what but we have some comments. We have a common
hear from Lady Justice. Susan. I wouldn't leave if my
strictly indoor cat got outside. No way, no how am
I going anywhere until I can get him back in.
He's never been outside before, and I would lose all
my crap if he did. Anyone who doesn't understand that
would be cut out of my life immediately. Here's the thing, Susan,
(43:41):
it was an outdoor cat.
Speaker 7 (43:42):
It was an outdoor cat. I do think there was
a reason that they had to get the cat inside
for something, because they were living storm. I think I
don't remember there being something else where. It was like
the cat did need to come inside. And I was
very much on the side of opia being like yeah
get there, of the friends of being like yeah, get
the cat inside, but they were not trying. We allot
(44:04):
any way to get this cat inside, Like they weren't
shaking treats around. There was a lack of effort.
Speaker 4 (44:10):
Yeah, I remember that it took There were three of them.
There were three people, and they knew where the cat was,
They knew their cat was. It was surrounded, it was
on the next it was like the next side, and
took them two days to get this cat. If I
really need the urgency to get.
Speaker 7 (44:23):
My cat, like under the porch or something too, like
they could have just crawled under and grabbed the cat.
There was definitely like they could have gotten this cat.
It was an excuse.
Speaker 4 (44:32):
Yeah, I think that was really dumb. Another comment here
from Cables eighty four fifteen. I'd never leave an indoor
slash outdoor cat outside when I'm going to be away
for three days, completely separate from the friend's behavior afterwards.
I'd be pissed if my friend was not being understanding
of that. The cat is clearly very important to Rihanna
the save for your life comment, And I'd cut friends
(44:54):
off if they were adding stress because I was more
worried about my cat than their party. And cats can
be very hard to get they are so fast and
ba can climb and even if you grab them, they
start scratching you because of its instincts to let them go.
I have scars andrew ands shirts as the souvenirs. And again,
you have a cat.
Speaker 7 (45:13):
You know this, You've had that, Yeah, anytime that I
have to grab I had to grab my cat one
time hiding under We knew where he was hiding, and
the fire alarm went off and we had to get
out of the apartment really fast, and I grabbed a
towel and I shimmied under where he was, and my
other roommate like covered in case he ran out the
other side, also with a towel, and we wrapped that
(45:36):
around him and threw him in his carrier and went
on like I totally understand though that that was like
best case scenario, and I have struggled to get him
out of places before. All that aside, though, they basically
admitted that it was an excuse to not go to
this birthday. Like, yes, I do remember being like, ohpe
come on, like their cat is stuck outside. They give
(45:58):
him a break, but after five hours actually mean to Opie.
Speaker 4 (46:02):
At the end, it was like okay, one hour, get it. Yeah,
a couple hours we get it. But it's been like
six hours to get one cat and there's three of you, right.
Speaker 7 (46:11):
And like what Jenna saying, the mom of the girl
who was trying to catch the cat was home. Yeah,
so like the cat wasn't gonna be left alone. She
lived with her family. There was many other things she
could have done.
Speaker 4 (46:21):
I remember all of us were like, we're siding with
the people who want to get the cat. That makes
so much sense, and were like, switch, what are you doing? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (46:28):
And wait?
Speaker 4 (46:29):
One final comment here by Zappora eighty five. I have
a strictly indoor cat, but to be frank, he's a
from a farah, so he likes to escape. On occasion
when he has escaped before, we look for him for
fifteen minutes and then leave him outside. He always comes
back in the morning mewing like he's made a huge
mistake and he needs a warm bet. I would never
(46:50):
abandon someone's birthday because my silly boy got outside. And
the fact that her cat is an indoor outdoor cat
is insane.
Speaker 7 (46:59):
Right, They always I even I had an indoor cat
get out and we were panicking because there's woods near
the back of my house. Then and he came back.
He got hungry. They know where they're going. He wanted
to explore a little bit. He came right back. He'd
me out at the door.
Speaker 2 (47:13):
We let him in.
Speaker 4 (47:14):
If it was a brand new cat, makes sense.
Speaker 7 (47:17):
That had never been outside. You like, he was strictly indoors.
You did not know where he was. He wasn't like
somewhere that you guys had eyes on him and you
were genuinely like he could be gone.
Speaker 4 (47:29):
But the thing is, the cat was literally in like
the neighbor's yard.
Speaker 7 (47:32):
I think it was in their yard. I think it
was just under something.
Speaker 4 (47:35):
It is either under something it was. It wasn't far,
it was right there, and they.
Speaker 7 (47:38):
Weren't trying treats like I remember it, just being like
come on.
Speaker 4 (47:41):
They were just like hanging out like the cats outside.
Speaker 7 (47:43):
He just didn't want to go to the birthday ye later.
Speaker 4 (47:46):
Yeah, that is the end of the comments, and this
is the end of the episode.
Speaker 7 (47:51):
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