My nephew WRECKED my gaming setup… now I’m taking my sister to court! | Reddit Stories - ok storytime

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My if you wrecked my gaming setup now I'm taking
my sister to court. That's definitely not a very pro
gamer move. April eleventh, twenty twenty five. Hi read it.
I'm female, twenty five and I'm honestly at my breaking
point with this one. I need outside perspective because my
entire family is acting like I'm first standing my ground.
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So I twenty five female. I am a student software
developer and pretty serious PC gamer. In my free time,
I live alone in a one bedroom apartment that I've
spent years making cozy and functional. I saved up for
a long time to build my dream PC setup, triple monitors,
custom mechanical keyboard, ergonomic chair, the works altogether. My rig

(00:56):
is worth a bit over two thousand dollars and I
take care of it like it's a dang child. Last weekend,
my older sister, thirty female, I asked if she could
crash in my place for one night because her apartment
was being fumigated and her husband was out of town.
She has a three year old son, Max, who let's say,
is spirited. H I love him, but he's a little
chaos goblin. I hesitated, but she swore that she'd keep

(01:19):
an eye on him, and that I bet it would
just be for one night. They show up Saturday afternoon,
and immediately it's clear that she wasn't kidding about Max
being harmful. Within ten minutes of arriving, he had pulled
four books off my shelf, thrown my houseplants on the floor,
spilled my juice or spilled juice on my area rug.

Speaker 2 (01:36):
Well, at least it wasn't your juice.

Speaker 3 (01:37):
Then ten minutes, Yeah, at least it's not your juice.

Speaker 2 (01:39):
Yeah, So that is that is a true chaos Deed's
that's a little above my pay grade if that's my place. Yeah, man,
I'm like, hey, man, I get it. Yeah, three three.
I can't be letting damage my abode.

Speaker 3 (01:55):
I let him in Okay, I tried to stay chill.
He's three, I get it, but I asked my sister
politely to please keep him out of my office where
my PC setup is. She rolls her eyes and goes,
he's just exploring. He's curious, it's normal, but she closes
the office door. Anyway, Cut to Sunday morning. I wake
up to screaming Max had apparently woken up before his
mom managed to open the office door, and decided that

(02:17):
my setup was his new jungle gym. He pulled down
one of my monitors, cracking the screen. He stuck crackers
into the PC towers ventilation slots I'm not kidding, yanked
out my keyboards keycaps and had colored on my chair
with permanent marker and the cherry on top. Heyboard apple
juice into the tower into it? That's bad.

Speaker 2 (02:37):
Ooh yeah, this isn't like he's spirited. This is like
he has like literal behavioral issues. Yeah. Needs to have
it addressed by professionals, absolutely, because that or at the
very least, like mom, start parenting your child.

Speaker 3 (02:52):
Yeah, yeah, what do we do it?

Speaker 2 (02:54):
WHOA? How did we get to where the kid thinks
this is okay?

Speaker 3 (02:57):
Yeah?

Speaker 2 (02:57):
I know, they're three, sure.

Speaker 3 (02:58):
But the mom thinks it's okay, that's what's happening. The
mom was just like, he's just curious.

Speaker 2 (03:02):
Are we correcting Anything's just all that.

Speaker 3 (03:05):
When I tell you I went silent, I mean passed
away silent. My sister comes in, sees the damage and
just says, oh, no, no, in this incredibly flat tone,
like someone knocked over a cup of coffee. Let me
actually read ja oh.

Speaker 2 (03:19):
No no, oh no, oh no.

Speaker 3 (03:23):
I start freaking out, and she has the audacity to say,
you probably should have babyproofed the room if it was
that important to you.

Speaker 2 (03:31):
Girl, You've been here for less than twenty four hours.
I didn't know I needed to lock down this place
like Fort Knox for real.

Speaker 3 (03:37):
You're not gonna babyproof something if if you don't have
a baby, you close the door. Yeah, how is a
three year old gonna open a door? Three, there's smell.
I lost it. I told her that. One she knew
he wasn't supposed to be in there. Two, this is
my space, not a dang daycare. And three babyproofing a
two thousand dollars gaming setup is not a standard requirement
for adults living alone. She told me to calm down

(04:00):
and said that he's just a kid and stuff is replaceable,
and I told her that she could replace it. Then
she said that she didn't have the money right now,
but maybe in a few months she could give me
a few hundred. I told her that I wasn't acceptable
and that she needed to take full responsibility. Absolutely. She
left in a huff, and now my whole family is
blowing up my phone. My mom says I'm being materialistic
and should understand them. My nephew didn't mean it. My

(04:22):
dad said that I should have locked the door if
it was that important. My brother actually said, why do
you even need three monitors anyway? And that's kind of overkill?

Speaker 2 (04:29):
What is wrong? Saw family? Yeah, what is going on here?

Speaker 3 (04:33):
It's absolutely insane, Absolutely insane. I've filed acclaim with my insurance,
but there's no guarantee to be covered since it was
technically a guest damage. I also told her that if
she does not pay up, I'll take her to court
for what happened. Now I'm getting text from my sister
demanding an apology for blaming her kid for being curious.
I told her that I would drop it if she
covered the cost of repairs and policements, or at least

(04:54):
met me halfway, and she blocked me. All right, we're
going to court. Packed the bags, We're going to court.

Speaker 2 (05:00):
I'm a lawyer, up, girl, and you might want to
get some money for that, because it's gonna now be
more expensive because you're gonna have to pay for a lawyer,
and then you're gonna have to pay me.

Speaker 3 (05:08):
Yeah, So am I overreacting if I take my sister
to court over this? We do have a small update. Wow,
just wow. Four hours later, I wake up from my
nap to this. Thank you guys. It'll take a bit
for me to read all of this, but my sister
has still not unlocked me, but her husband reached out
to find out what happened. I'm sorry I don't have
more to tell yet, but I'll update again when I do. Seriously,

(05:29):
thanks for the insights to everyone. My head is a
lot clearer now, and we do have another update. I
think we know our answer though, right, we don't think
it's unreasonable. No, no, go ahead too, but we do
have an update.

Speaker 2 (05:42):
Oh so hey, y'all.

Speaker 3 (05:45):
My sister's husband reached out, as mentioned earlier, and we're
working out a solution. If possible. He's been really understanding
and as have all of you.

Speaker 2 (05:53):
H W brother in law, dude, W brother in law.
Let's go.

Speaker 3 (05:56):
Also to clarify the office situation, my one bedroom apartment
is on the smaller side. Thirty two, thirty three.

Speaker 2 (06:03):
Three and fifty is small.

Speaker 3 (06:05):
This was meters that's like a New York square meters.

Speaker 2 (06:08):
I think that's probably like maybe a bit smaller than
this room for.

Speaker 3 (06:12):
Five square feet it might be maybe. Yeah. So the
landlord converted an old ex's clothes cabinet into a makeshift office.
It's weird, but the building is from the forties, and
I guess they had to get creative with the space
with an old tenant or something. So it's living room,
sister and her kids slept there, plus the kitchen. I
slept there, and the office. So thanks for all the
supports and the award. I really don't have the words

(06:35):
for how nice people have been in both DMS and
the comments so some of Op's comments. Ope responds to
some of the comments. I really appreciate your comment. I
feel as if you nailed exactly how I've been feeling,
but couldn't articulate it in the moment. Wish we saw
what that was commenting on uh BO, It's okay. It's
comforting to know that I'm not totally off base here.

(06:56):
I will need to see what I'm willing to do
with the situation. I don't want to lose my family,
but I don't want to start begging to be heard either,
So thank you Opiongoing no contact? Yeah, I'm not ready
to go full no contact right now, but I really
appreciate your perspective. It's definitely something I'll keep in mind
if things keep escalating and no one starts showing even
a little bit of respect for my boundaries. I just
want accountability, not drama. But if they keep pushing, I

(07:17):
won't hesitate to step back. I don't think I want
to know my family if they can't appreciate the work
I put into my hobbies. Thank you for the insight.
We've got some commenter downvoted questions. Does your office door lock?
If so, why wasn't I locked? Uh How was this
unattended three year old able to get his hands on
crackers and apple juice in an apartment that he is
presumably not familiar with. Why were these items so easy

(07:38):
for him to get to.

Speaker 2 (07:39):
I'm going to answer those questions ahead of time.

Speaker 3 (07:41):
You got it all right?

Speaker 2 (07:42):
Three year old wakes up, gets into the bag that
their mom probably brought with them, and gets the snackies.

Speaker 3 (07:49):
Yeah, probably not as hard question. If you knew in
advance that he and your sister were coming, why didn't
you make any effort to either secure delicate or important
items or remove them somewhere that he can't reach. Oh,
he does respond, responds to the first question. The office
is a converted clothes closet. The door has no lock.
It's just a heavy, old door. To be honest, I've

(08:10):
been wondering if my sister might have opened it for him.
I just don't get why. And on the crackers a juice,
They weren't mine. Sister brought them. I had no idea
that he had access to them during the night until
after the fact, but I would I would trust Dakota's
guest there. Snack bag, snack bag. And then to the
third question, I didn't get much notice. I saw her
message around ten am Saturday, and they arrived around two

(08:31):
pm same day. My place was a mess, so I
spent most of the time cleaning before they came back
in hindsight, Yeah, I should have been more cautious with
my setup, but it didn't even cross my mind that
anything like this would have happened, as I thought the
office area was inaccessible to him.

Speaker 2 (08:44):
Yeah, you know that is a good point because that,
I feel like informs why the sister was being like,
you're just mad. Yeah, because he was being curious. And
it's like, well, how could you possibly say that? But
then that would make sense if she was the one
who saw him like he wanted to go in that
room and then she opened the door. So that's why
she's being defensive because she knows all of this is

(09:04):
her fault. Right, she won't admit that. Now, she's gonna
make it like you're a monster who's trying to yell
at my kid.

Speaker 3 (09:10):
Right. But Opie continues on that what he did pull
off the shelves was moved higher up and out of
reach and in an area where he could be kept
an eye on. Interesting, So maybe she did take them
some things down and let him into the office if
he couldn't even reach it.

Speaker 2 (09:24):
I again, it's like I think, given that it's a
big door three years old, it's like, I bet you
this is not a This is not a parent that
screams like I set boundaries. It's it's probably more just
like I don't know if it's like a soft parentings
or whatever those parenting styles are, right, I bet you
it's like you know, there's no corrections, nothing is ever wrong,
and nothing's ever nothing ever needs to be changed, Like, oh,

(09:45):
baby wants to go in that room, but baby gets
to go in that room. Yeah, baby wants to smush
crackers and apple juice into the computer. Baby gets to
do that, right, No, no, no, no.

Speaker 3 (09:53):
No, But we do have a second top dridge. Would
you look at that? Woo? This one is on April sixteenth,
twenty twenty five, five days later. These are recent. Hey again,
I just wanted to post a quick update since it's
been a little under a week and a few people
asked what happened next. Things are better, pretty effing weird
and still ongoing, but here's where we're at. Last Saturday,

(10:13):
my brother in law came over to check out the
damage himself. He actually brought Max the toddler with him,
which I was almost livid about at first, but he
had a reason. He asked Max to try opening the
office and closet door this. I like what this is going.

Speaker 2 (10:28):
Gathering evidence now and guess what.

Speaker 3 (10:31):
The kid couldn't do it. The door was too heavy
for him. You can probably guess where this is going.
Brother in law offered to take my PC to the
store that originally built it for me, just to see
what was fixable. I agreed, but asked for something in writing,
just so I had some peace of mind. We put
together a little agreement that he'd be responsible for it
while it was with him.

Speaker 2 (10:51):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (10:51):
Yeah, it was just a formality and would not hold
much merit anywhere, but it helped me feel a little
bit more in control. On Monday, he dropped it off
at the shop and gave them my note so that
they can keep me updated. He also told me that
he confronted my sister about how things played out. I
sent him my original Reddit post too. He read the
comments and apparently showed them to her. She still hasn't
unblocked me, and from what I've heard, was not happy

(11:12):
about the fact that my brother in law is actually
listening to me. I also shared the post in some
comments with my parents and brother, since no one really
believed me before. My parents still don't fully get it,
but they've at least stopped pushing back. My brother is
more understanding now, though for some reason, he mostly wanted
to talk about how many people saw the post. I
don't think either of those three still really care, and

(11:32):
I'm fine if they see this do better anyway. I
went to see the PC today Wednesday. Here the shop
said that it's mostly salvageable. It needs a very very
careful internal clean and a few fans replaced and some
wiring fixed, but overall the main parts survived somehow.

Speaker 2 (11:47):
Thank goodness, real the motherboard. The motherboard is intact.

Speaker 3 (11:52):
Brother in law told me that he'll cover the cost
of repair, no hesitation. When I brought up what my
sister said about not being able to pay even two
hundred dollars, he said, she's lying, dude, what's going? Of course,
he also said he's not sure Max actually did all
the damage. He thinks the door was left open on purpose,
or that my sister might have even done some herself.
The sister's over here like poor apple juice and swishing

(12:12):
crackers and stuff. She's just like, oh, he's the kid,
got the kid?

Speaker 2 (12:17):
Where did this come from?

Speaker 3 (12:18):
Dude? I don't know.

Speaker 2 (12:19):
What is the history we're missing here that this is
based off.

Speaker 3 (12:23):
Yeah, what gotta be other crazy things that the sister
has done, no doubt, but continuing on, based on the
height of the tower and where the crackers ended up,
it didn't quite add up to a toddler acting alone.
Apparently she's been telling him I have a gambling problem.
I did get a bit hooked on Genchin like four
years ago, I guess, and that maybe this whole thing
will wake me up, which is new. She used to

(12:44):
be supportive or at least indifferent. No idea where that
switch came from.

Speaker 2 (12:49):
I bet it came from the baby. So there's probably
like the I don't respect your hobby. I don't respect
what you like, but I'm also kind of jealous that
you lack the responsibilities in your day to day that
I have to have, namely like my child. So it's
like this computer is like an expression of in a
way your freedoms that I have. I'm going to destroy
it because I'm a jealous, vindictive sister.

Speaker 3 (13:11):
Right, And maybe even if she wasn't like, oh, like
you're free, so I'm gonna get revenge, maybe she's just like, well,
you get to like same kind of thing. But just
like you get to be free, so this won't even
matter to you. Yeah, and I can totally do all
this and express all this anger in stupid little ways
and you'll be fine, right wrong, wrong. So yeah, that's
where we're at. My PC is being cleaned up and fixed,

(13:32):
and brother in law is covering the costs. Sister still
has me blocks and won't talk to me boo. I'm
still tempted to start something with my sister TVH, but
especially if she actually did all this on purpose. I'm
still not ruling out small claims courts depending on how
things go. Thanks again to everyone who responded to the
original post. Seeing how many people understood what happened really
helps me hold the line with my family when I

(13:52):
felt like I was losing my mind. One thing I've
been turning over in my head lately is what if
my sister did do something to my setup on purpose.
I don't want to believe that. It feels like such
a stretch, but the more I think about it, the
less so I guess. But then I remember how she
acted when I asked her to keep Max out of
the office. The eye roll and the he's just curious
comments like she didn't take any of it seriously. And

(14:14):
now hearing from my brother in law that she's been saying,
I have a crippling gaming gambling whatever, uh you regular
user problems and need to grow up. It's just weird.
She used to be so cool about it, never super
into games herself, but she got that it was important
to me. Something changed.

Speaker 2 (14:30):
I don't know when or why.

Speaker 3 (14:32):
And if this was some weird way to make a
point or teach me a lesson, that's messed up. You're
not our mom. How about talking first instead of this.
I don't want to jump to conclusions, but the more
I think about it, the less it makes sense that
Max could have done all that alone. It's sick if
she blamed her own son for it.

Speaker 2 (14:47):
Yeah, and not in like the cool way, like in
the like place. Shit that's twisted.

Speaker 3 (14:52):
Absolutely so yeah, not accusing anyone outright, but that thought
is there now. And if you're my sister reading this,
which I'm guessing you are, because I bet you'd love
to look at the comments that are on your side
a lot. I don't know why you blocked me. I
don't know what shifted in your head about all this,
But if you actually had anything to do with damaging
my setup, whether it was on purpose or just through
complete carelessness. If you you know I worked hard for that,

(15:15):
you know what that rig meant to me, and you
know that I would never do something like this to
your stuff. And by the way, what you know, all
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Speaker 2 (15:34):
We're even on YouTube. You can watch us on YouTube.

Speaker 3 (15:37):
Man, you can just listen, just listen, listen and watch,
listen or watch. But there still is a little bit
more to the story. But if yeah, what, yeah, what's
going on over here?

Speaker 2 (15:47):
I think I'm just like doing everything through brother in law. Now, yes,
and I know, just handle it that way, but I don't.
I don't. I don't think she's gonna want to come
back around, but I wouldn't let her back around anyway
in your space.

Speaker 3 (16:01):
I'm really wondering, like what else she will get up
to in her life and blame on her child. He's
only three and she's destroying property and all this stuff,
and like letting her child destroy all this stuff and
just like being like, oh, he's just curious.

Speaker 2 (16:14):
It's so hard to imagine she'd do that in other contexts.
I feel like you have this entire sibling dynamic that's
been there for so long, and he knows like where
this could be coming from. But my gut is it's like,
because she can game and have these hobbies and doesn't
have a kid of her own, and clearly like the
sister's kid is like, uh, whether you like special needs

(16:34):
or nor divergent or whatever, it like has a higher
degree of like care and attention required.

Speaker 3 (16:41):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (16:41):
Yeah, she's probably stressed out by all that, and it's
just like, you know what screwed. And in her own
weird head, she's like, I'm actually helping her, I'm helping
her grow up and let her gaming problem, right, And
it's like, well, you're actually just doing destruction of property.

Speaker 3 (16:56):
Exactly, and just not just blaming it on everyone else,
eving your three year old son.

Speaker 2 (17:01):
You're criming, and blaming it on your toddler.

Speaker 3 (17:04):
Your son, You're criming, dude. So if Max really did
all of this on his own, I hope you're paying
closer attention now not for my sake, but for his.
Read the comments on my first post again from the
other parents and people with younger siblings who clearly know
better than you. That's all. Thanks for reading those of
you who did, and there are some comments commented. Number

(17:24):
one says, wait, I thought the whole family was blowing
up your phone telling you how mean you were, Opie, Yes,
a week ago before my first post. Is there something
I can clarify for you here? My sister was talking
incredible smack about me to them, making it seem like
I screamed at her child over a minor mistake. I
do see people going haha blowing up her phone, and
I don't understand what is wrong with the wording. Commentarer says,

(17:45):
I think chatchypt is being used a lot on Reddit lately,
especially in and with a whole type subs, and a
common indicator is that it's a fake post. Is that
AI always uses blowing up my phone phrase? Interesting? I
guess I'm gonna start using blowing up my phone and
everything that I write just to combat AI.

Speaker 4 (18:01):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (18:03):
Phone commentarre and number two says, I'm really glad that
things are turning for the better, but what about the
other damages like the gaming chair and keyboard, et cetera. Oh,
he says, my chair is okay. The cushion, legs and
back are stained with red permanent marker, but I've learned
to live with it. Coworkers and I are trying to
find a chemical to fix the situation on the cushions,
but an ethanol solution small amounts. I don't want to

(18:24):
ruin the chair further. Has slowly been working at cleaning
the other parts. Being a janitor does have its perks.
And the keyboard, I could not find all the key
caps that were pulled off. I replaced the missing ones
with an old keyboards ones, both mechanical, so it's a
bit awkward, but it works for now. I might get
some custom ones for it if I find some that fit.
A cracked monitor, on the other hand, needs to be replaced.

(18:45):
I guess calling it cracked was a kindness in itself.
Still got the other two left, and at least it
wasn't the most expensive one. But yeah, Another commenter says, Margie,
just having your brother in law pay for a new
keyboard and monitor or professional cleaning for the chair, that's
all part of the repairs. Ohp he says. We're waiting
to see if my sister confesses to anything. If so,
she will be paying out of her own pocket and

(19:06):
paying back, not my brother in law. If she confesses
and refuses, then well, the computer is essential, but the
keyboard works and I still have two monitors. That's why
I'm willing to wait for the other damage to be resolved. Now.
On the gambling problem, I'll admit during the ban, I
did spend thirty dollars on Gain You when she came out,
but that was the worst of it and it was
so worth Oh my god, Oh my god. I don't

(19:28):
play much more, mostly stuck on Marvel Rivals right now.
But the overall margin from Genschen released to this day,
I've spent under six hundred dollars. I get it. Even
that might look crazy to people who don't play video games.
But she's gambling problem, ruh.

Speaker 2 (19:42):
I don't know, dude. I like, you can't tell anybody
what spend their money on, but yeah, like three hundred
dollars for one character in a theoretically free game that's
almost like an entire different game console. That's like, yeah,
that's like five Triple A games, right that you can
BET's like of hours of gameplay.

Speaker 3 (20:02):
Yeah, I know. But and then I think about it too,
because my brother plays video games and he likes uh,
card games and stuff, and he'll spend he'll like mention
dropping like four hundred dollars on stuff, and I'm like, oh,
like what, it's not so much money. And then I
think about me at the fabric store and like, okay,
got it. I got to take step back.

Speaker 2 (20:19):
It's all relative. Some people would be like, you're spending
four hundred dollars on fabric. Meanwhile, some people are like,
you're spending three hundred dollars on a video game character.
It's like, it's all relative.

Speaker 3 (20:28):
Hobbies are just expensive if you're really into them. So
she should be more concerned of what I spend on
Pokemon packs in this economy if she's gonna be concerned
over something exactly exactly, And that's the end of that story.

Speaker 2 (20:39):
People I used to work in the industry, don't buy packs.
Buy cards. Yeah, buy what you want, don't waste your
money on random packs.

Speaker 3 (20:49):
You're ready here first, folks. That sounds like great advice, though, I.

Speaker 2 (20:52):
Mean, yeah, if you're a collector, collect the things you like. Yeah,
but if you know, if you enjoy the experience of
a random pack that but sure, don't just like be
all right, I'm gonna get thirty five packs so that
hopefully I can get this one card. It's like, right,
you can buy that one card for a fraction of
the cost of all of those packs, right. My sister

(21:14):
in law recently lost her husband. Should my wedding be postponed? Eh?

Speaker 3 (21:19):
Sure, it's really all.

Speaker 2 (21:20):
About the vibe there. March twenty seven, twenty twenty five.
I thirty four male, am supposed to get married next month.
Now I'm not sure it's going to happen. My partner's sister,
thirty five female, was widowed last month. I've gotten a
front row seat of how it has rocked my soon
to be in laws. Everyone has really tried going above
and beyond or his sister making sure she's as comfortable
as possible, And I truly can't imagine, you know, you'd

(21:43):
probably have to institutionalize me if something happened to my boy.
By the way, this comes from user Remarkable rust to
thirty and if you want to submit your own stories,
go to the r slash Okay Storytime submurday. So my
partner's mom came to him a few days ago and
asked if he would consider postponing the wedding. She said
they would cover all the lost money and would help
us replan, et cetera. Apparently, his sister has said there's

(22:04):
no way she can attend the wedding, and his mom
knew how important it was to him to have her there,
so she just wanted to offer an alternative plan. I'm
not very sentimental, but my partner is Our wedding was
planned for the ten year anniversary of when we met.
That's something that meant a lot to him, which makes
it mean a lot to me too. I'm trying to
be sympathetic, but I'm just effing raging. I can't help it.

(22:25):
My emotions aren't allowing me to be objective. Well that
sounds like a you problem. Ope, Now, I mean, look, emotions,
we all have them, but it's like we can't let
our emotions dictate all of our actions all of the time.

Speaker 3 (22:36):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (22:37):
I think this is a moment that requires more understanding
than rage.

Speaker 3 (22:40):
Agreed. Agreed.

Speaker 2 (22:43):
I know his mom came to him in good faith,
but it makes me so angry to think about this
being put on his shoulders. A month before our wedding,
he was so excited, and now I'm worried that if
we don't reschedule, he's just going to be in his
head the whole time, feeling guilty and unable to fully
enjoy himself. I know his sister is hurting. I'm trying
my absolute hardest not to piss off the family that
is soon to be mine, one that's already mine in

(23:05):
a lot of ways. But still, I'm so mad. I'd
appreciate some objective point of views, and there is an
edit here. I think just being mad is okay, but
just like, be mad at the situation. Yeah, don't be
mad at sister or family or anyone. No one is
doing this. It's like it's just a really unfortunate situation. Yeah,

(23:25):
getting lots of she's and hers in and comments I'm
a man doesn't have much weight in the story. He
just wanted to clear that up. Amy the a Hole
has no consensus, but op received mixed reactions, and we
have some comments here coming. Number one. This sounds like
something you should discuss with your partner, not random people
on the internet until you do or don't actually know
how he feels. Whatever you decide together is the right

(23:45):
decision for you as a couple. Just understand that there
may be consequences with familial relationships depending on the choice
you make. Ohp he says. We have talked and he's torn.
I'm trying to follow his lead because this impacts him
more than me. But I'm just so frustrated. Never at him,
but at them for putting him in this position, by
putting this weight on his shoulders. Planning has been a
lot of work, but it's exciting because we know what's

(24:07):
coming now. We either have to do it for a
second time, rebooking everything without the same excitement, or we
have a wedding where, no matter how good my partner feels,
there will be guilt and sadness thrown into It's unfair.
I'm half inclined to agree to cancel it all and Elope,
no distractions, just us. Commenter number two says, cancel, get
the money back from the in laws, Elope to somewhere fantastic,
throw a massive first anniversary party. Uh oh, he says,

(24:30):
I'm open to this. I've always been indifferent to a
big wedding. That's why I'm so focused on my husband's feelings.
Throughout all of this. This is his baby. I just
want to see him so so happy. I'll talk to
him about it, and as long as he's satisfied, I am.
And I guess there isn't a whole part of me
that's still frustrated with how long we spent planning only
to have it thrown away. But that's something I'm trying
to work on. Being flexible isn't always my strong suit.

(24:51):
We've a downvoted commenter. Yeah you're the ale. Do you
have no empathy slash sympathy? While I understand you have
a wedding with a lot of expenses, this is a
situation where you make the best of it, as it
wasn't intentional. Harboring resentment over something like this is wild
op he says. Of course, I have sympathy for them.
I hate that any of this happened. Her husband was
a good man. It's not about the expenses. I'm frustrated

(25:13):
because my priority, my partner, is being put in a
real crappy position. I'm more mad at the world than
at his family. I just know how much this means
to him, Like, that's my guy, my other half. I
hate knowing he has to make this decision. I hate
that he's going to feel selfish and weird about going
through with something he's put his time, effort, and heart
into it. All effing thanks. Okay, you really didn't write

(25:34):
that like you had. It was not written like you
were mad at the world. It was written specifically, actually,
like you were mad at the parents for bringing this
up right.

Speaker 3 (25:40):
And maybe maybe that is true. I don't you know,
I don't want to say that that's not how you feel.

Speaker 2 (25:45):
It could have been the intent. The intent was just
sad at the world, But you wrote like you were
mad at the parents exactly.

Speaker 3 (25:50):
But you know, when you're asking for people's opinion on
something like that, you want to give him all the
context and all the details that you can, all.

Speaker 2 (25:58):
The deets how you feel or a juice little detail. Yeah, ope,
on if his in laws really like him. My soon
to be mother in law and I are really close.
There have been circumstances in my life that have made
me really wary of parental figures, but I trust her completely.
That's why I know she made the offer with good intentions.
OPI should consider on working things out with his fiance

(26:19):
to figure out what steps to take and have grace
for his sister in law and mother in law, especially
his partner on the family tragedy. OPI says, I appreciate
the perspective. Taking care of my fiance feels like the
easiest thing in the world. It always has. Taking care
of other people doesn't quite come so naturally for a
large portion of my teens in early twenties, I was
pretty isolated. Being by myself was something of a survival

(26:39):
mechanism back then, and then I met him. I was
like the human embodiment of a one human pet who
loves one person and reluctantly puts up with everyone else.
I've grown up a lot in the last decade i've
known him. His family has been really good to me.
I think in times like these, when I'm scared and
angry and sad, I go back to my one human
stray cat mode, hoping that made even the tiniest semblance
of sense. It did to me. Not sure why all

(27:01):
these animal analogies are coming out in my comments either.
The point is sometimes I'm not a great at big picture.
I can't imagine what it would be like in her shoes,
having to go on with the knowledge of so many memories.
I'm not trying to be unempathetic at all. I'm just
trying to juggle a lot right now. OPI on his
fiance making decisions regarding the wedding and how he's supporting him.
Opie says, my fiance is going to make a decision

(27:22):
over the next coming days, and I'm going to support
whatever he chooses. This would be super nice, though, I
would love two weeks far, far away from everyone in
the world besides him. Well, yeah, you might, but like
he might be wanting to stay close to his family
because they just went through like a massive loss, right
and are probably going to want to lean on each other. Right,
So I get though, they Opie explain stray Cat one

(27:43):
person mentality bad at big picture. Yeah, but like that's
another big picture thing where it's like you might not
you'd feel like that it's right to go out of
town for two weeks right now.

Speaker 3 (27:52):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (27:52):
I mean it did happen a month ago, but that's
not a lot of time. Yeah, And I mean if
you feel like with something like that, if.

Speaker 3 (27:56):
You're bad at big picture and you're like saying that,
that means you're aware of it. So it's like you
don't want to keep feeding into that. If you know
that this probably isn't the right time to be bad
at the big picture, you know what I mean, like
work against it. If you know what's a problem.

Speaker 2 (28:09):
I think the best bed is just like whatever your
partner's thinking right now, just support that you.

Speaker 3 (28:14):
Know exactly exactly.

Speaker 2 (28:15):
Thank you for the kind comments. They mean a lot.
I love him in a way I wish I could
tell fifteen year old me about to give old me
some hope. I would do any number of ridiculous things
to make him happy. He's the kindest, sweetest person, dental
and warm. I learn so much from him. There's an
update from two and a half weeks later. I'm a
married man. WHOA, So they did? They went through with
the wedding, all right, Okay, the elopes.

Speaker 3 (28:37):
I don't know.

Speaker 2 (28:37):
Let's find out.

Speaker 3 (28:38):
Let's find out.

Speaker 2 (28:39):
I let my husband take the lead on making the
decisions here and let him know I would support whatever
he chooses. After some discussion, we decided to cancel the
wedding and Elope instead.

Speaker 4 (28:48):
Right what is sere is?

Speaker 2 (28:55):
My husband said he wouldn't feel right gathering all his
family and our friends without his sister present, But it
was still very important to him that we got married
on the date we first met. It was perfect, It
was exactly the right choice. Was quiet and intimate and us.
There's nothing in the world I love more than seeing
him smile, and he was stuck in perpetual smile a mode.
I was so worried if we had the wedding, I

(29:16):
would look over and see him looking anything less than thrilled,
because it wasn't how he envisioned it. Without his sister there,
I think the complete change and expectation made it easier
for him to let go. Again, exactly the right choice.
We're on cloud nine. In the lead up, there was
a lot of calling vendors, friends and family to let
them know we were canceling. It was very short notice
and we weren't rescheduling anything, so we lost all of

(29:38):
our deposits. Our loved ones were really understanding of our decision,
at least they were over the phone. We had very
few people flying it, only three friends and his mom
agreed to cover their flights as well. Finally, to address
my anger, most of it was directed towards the universe,
but I'll admit that I was mad at my mother
in law. Discussions about our wedding and his sister's grief
were ones we were already having still a th third party.

(30:00):
Coming to him and making this request felt cruel in
the moment that it felt like a guilt trip, like
unnecessary pressure on my husband when he was already having
to make these decisions. Anyway, we eventually made the choice
we wanted to make, but he did tell me at
one point he didn't want his mom to think he
was heartless if we had the wedding without his sister.
And by the way, we would never consider you heartless.

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Speaker 3 (30:41):
I mean, I think that seems like a good way
to deal with things. Listened to the fiance now husband
right and saw how he felt, saw you know, what
he wanted to do, because that's really the most important thing,
like we were saying before, and then they got a
looked and everyone's all happy. Now you can have like
another party for like an anniversary or something.

Speaker 2 (31:03):
Yeah, big old one year anniversary, right, Yeah, yeah, you
know exactly. I think it was salvaged, exactly, salvaged the
situation we weren't. Then. I do want to not to
put op on blast, but I'm kind of doing that
go ahead. I feel like, ohp, he needs to own
their anger a little bit more. I think maybe you
know's some therapy or some counselor whatever to work through
and figure out what's going on there. Yeah, because that

(31:25):
post was really written, and I understand in hindsight you
can be like I was probably more mad at the universe,
but in that moment, you were directing all of that
anger onto your in laws, specifically your mother in law.

Speaker 3 (31:35):
Yeah, And it's like and then we're kind of like, no,
I'm just mad at the universe.

Speaker 2 (31:38):
Her daughter's husband had just you know, she was trying
to figure out. Yeah, she wasn't trying to be like,
hey you need to do this and this is now
on you. It's more like, hey, we are now in
a completely different situation than we were. We planned this wedding, yep,
so we got to figure out what's going to happen
with your sister? And if she's she can't come yea,
so can we move it or not? Like what's going on? Yeah,
that is just a mom being a mom, right, So

(31:59):
I would would address your anger. Yeah, that's it's a
bit of an issue.

Speaker 3 (32:02):
I wouldn't have thought about that. But that's good, good insight.

Speaker 2 (32:06):
Let's finish the story. Oh yeah, emotions were running high
for everyone. I don't think his mom would ever think
he's heartless. I know no one was out to get us.
His mom was doing her best to make the day
comfortable for everyone, and navigating that is basically impossible. Still,
I'm not sorry for my anger. Might want to work
on that, and maybe that still makes me the a hole,
but I'll be the a hole who loves his husband

(32:26):
and puts him first in every situation. Might want to
just do a little diggin'.

Speaker 3 (32:30):
Listen to the core of that anger.

Speaker 2 (32:32):
Baby. Yeah, we have some more relevant comments here.

Speaker 4 (32:35):
Congratulations to both and to a lifetime of happiness.

Speaker 2 (32:40):
Don't know why I did that. Voice op says thank you,
and also to all the other commenters sending congratulations. I
feel so lucky. Peace was something that didn't exist for
me for most of my life, particularly in my late
teens and early twenties, and then he came along and
chained everything. A comment or two says, does the family
know yet? Op says nope. We've been in hotel suite

(33:00):
having a little staycation all weekend, so neither of us
have been on our phones much at all. My mind
has just been on him. Comment to three says, not
the ahle. You put your husband first, made a kind choice,
and handled it with love. Congrats on your marriage. I agree.

Speaker 3 (33:13):
Oh yeah, I agree.

Speaker 2 (33:14):
I think that is the end of that story.

Speaker 3 (33:16):
I don't.

Speaker 2 (33:16):
I don't think they're an a hole for the anger.
I just think it's something they should probably like get
to the bottom of. That's all.

Speaker 3 (33:21):
Yeah, Yeah, it's very easy to get a little loss
with anger and yeah, anger management and all that.

Speaker 2 (33:28):
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Speaker 3 (33:34):
My uncle took my mother's life insurance money, so I
cut them all off. You should take the money. My
mother passed away in twenty twenty three from cancer. No,
I'm so sorry, I'm sorry. I found out that she
had it. Three weeks before she passed, her health started
to decline rapidly and she was about to enter her
hospice care. By the way, this comes from Entertainer City
twenty three and if you want to submit your own stories,

(33:55):
go to the r slash Okay story time step Creddit.
My older brother had known about her cancer for two
years but never told me. We weren't close at all,
and he explained that she was supposed to tell me,
but she never did. Since we didn't speak to one another,
it sort of made sense that he assumed that I
already knew. Here's where things get a little rough. My
mother's youngest brother, who was probably in his early forties,
was passive, aggressive, and self absorbed. The only times we

(34:17):
saw him and other family members were mostly on holiday.
After she passed away, my brother and I immediately started
looking for my mother's belongings to arrange the funeral. Since
she was in hospice, she was no longer responsive and
had started experiencing sundown. There was no time for me
to ask her anything. In preparation. We came up short,
and when the time arrived to make the arrangements, things
became even more complicated. One day, that uncle came to

(34:38):
find her belongings and insisted that we'd cremate her. My brother,
being a minister, didn't believe in cremation, and my little
sister was also against. My mother was loved by many,
and I wanted her to have a proper burial deliberated
by loved ones. When I heard my uncle suggested cremation,
I felt disappointed. It seemed like he was trying to
rush the process. Keep in mind, this was only a
couple of days after her passing. On the day that

(34:59):
we were finalizing funeral arrangements, my siblings and I, along
with my mother's middle brother, were sorting things out. Once
we saw the insanely expensive funeral, we tried to find
a solution. We decided to call her job to see
if we could access her life insurance policy or at
least find out who the beneficiary was. Keep in mind
that I had never dealt with anything like this in
my twenty seven years of life. My brother was on

(35:20):
the phone with her job when we found out that
the beneficiary was our youngest uncle. My brother flipped out, saying,
I'm done with this. Y'all can take care of everything.
And left immediately.

Speaker 4 (35:30):
WHOA like he just I can't take the responsibility or
is he just like maybe I get it, emotions are
really high.

Speaker 3 (35:36):
Yes, I don't know. Or maybe he just really hates
that youngest uncle. I don't know. I don't know.

Speaker 4 (35:41):
But before we get back to the story, usually there's
something in the will or like because my father told
me he.

Speaker 3 (35:47):
Wants to be premated right, like what they want.

Speaker 4 (35:50):
What they want, like what kind of buriller service they want,
or how they want to you know. Usually that's especially
with you know you're going to go away soon, especially
with like answers like that. Usually it's said by the
person or it's in the wills.

Speaker 3 (36:02):
Yes, sometimes I was numb, no clear thoughts, just distraught.
While trying to comfort my little sister, my mother's middle
brother called our uncle to request his assistance so we
could get things in order cool. On the day of
our family meeting, the youngest uncle gave us details on
how everything would be handled, asking for our input. One
of my aunts said, well, once you get the money,
make sure you give them some help with their expenses

(36:23):
while they figured things out. Over the next few months,
it's my little sister and I were taking over the
house and managing new bills on top of our responsibilities.
His wife chimed in, he's not like that. He'll make
sure that they're good.

Speaker 4 (36:34):
Don't worry.

Speaker 3 (36:35):
Funeral was paid for and we were moving forward. The
youngest uncle received the money and asked for a list
of debts that needed to be cleared in my mother's name.
No problem, But before my mother's health started to decline
a month before hospice, she had told me, if anything
happens to me, don't let your uncle take my money.
He's snooping around. I was confused and didn't understand why
she was saying that. He never came to our home.

(36:56):
We always went to his. They had the money, they
were wealthy. After my my mother's debts were settled, my
sister and I asked out of curiosity, when we would
receive our share of the remaining funds. That's when things shifted.
He became defensive. We waited a few days and then
asked again. The house we were living in was twenty
nine years old and things needed to be fixed. We
wanted to take care of repairs before further damage occurred.

(37:17):
But instead of answering us directly, he got defensive, saying,
y'all are being ungrateful instead of checking in on me.
But he had never checked on us, As I mentioned before,
we only saw him on holidays. He had always been
judgmental towards us. Now I'll acknowledge my own mistake. I
was upset, mad and angry, so I made a TikTok video,
never expecting it to go viral. I wasn't getting much

(37:39):
attention on there anyway. I just needed someone to hear
me out because I felt like I was suffocating from
everything happening. I didn't say anything crazy, just mentioned how
true colors show and a loved one passes. I also
directed a message of my uncle, saying you will reap
what you sew and you should be ashamed of what
you're doing. Hey, get to put that on the internet.
Put it on the internet.

Speaker 4 (37:59):
Oh yeah, you wanted to vent your your family stuff
and all this hard hardship.

Speaker 3 (38:05):
Yep, on TikTok TikTok.

Speaker 4 (38:07):
You didn't have a diary or something, right.

Speaker 3 (38:09):
Just get a piece of paper, write it downe all right?

Speaker 2 (38:12):
Yeah?

Speaker 4 (38:13):
Not one for airing out stuff like that on the internet,
because once it's out there, it's out there.

Speaker 3 (38:17):
It's out there, at least in this story, it's anonymous.
True relatively, The video went viral and it was shared widely.
There you go, he found out, and a division began
with the family, though to be fair, the family had
already been fractured since my grandparents passed away a decade ago.
Keep in mind, I never said his name. I just
said my uncle, and I had three uncles. My brother

(38:39):
stepped in trying to mediate. He told me, they want
you to take the video down and apologize. I declined
I was speaking my truth and I never said who
was then one of my closest cousins at the time.
We are no longer close or in contact. He chimed in, saying,
you know you're wrong. This should stay within the family.
He's just trying to help the situation. You need to
stop and let him handle things. I wish I could

(39:00):
visually show you all who this uncle is. But he
is not a good person, and I hate to say that.
Over the years he has done wrong to other family members.
He gave his parents heck when they were alive. When
my grandfather was passing away of diabetes, this uncle took
over his bank account and started doing malicious things It
was a toxic cycle that had played out in the
previous generation, and my sister and I refused to continue it.

(39:23):
We were the only ones willing to stand up and
say no. I never responded to that cousin because my
anger wasn't directed at him, it was my uncle. Finally
I tried to have a respectable conversation with my uncle.
He completely tore me down. He told me you have
nothing going for yourself, you're not responsible, and a bunch
of other negative things. In reality, I was always at

(39:45):
work on a production set or resting before my next shift.
I never gave my mother trouble. I handled the responsibilities.
I was in my own world trying to figure out life.
After that conversation, I realized I needed to find peace
in order to move forward. The stress was so overwhelming
that I ended up in the hospital. My tropinin levels
were high and they thought that I was about to
have a heart attack. I was in therapy every week

(40:06):
trying to cope with my grief and the family drama.
It was too much, so I decided I was done.
Besides my sister, my mother's middle brother, whom we were
already close with, and a couple of cousins. I had
to let the rest of them go. I still love them,
but from a distance. The stress had sent me into
a deep depression for months. By the way, I'm gonna
send you over to whatever your favorite podcast app is,

(40:29):
whether that's iHeart Radio, Spotify, Apple Podcasts, you choose. Just search, okay,
storytime and you'll find episodes of stories just like this one.
Just get on over there.

Speaker 4 (40:37):
Yeah, do that right after this, Right after this, we
got a lot for you.

Speaker 3 (40:42):
Yeah, we've got a little bit more into this story.
But what you got lots of like I don't know.

Speaker 4 (40:46):
Yeah, there's a lot of unpack here. Yeah, I'm a
little confused as well. They're like the family dynamic is
just it seems very interesting. It seems like one uncle
is just out.

Speaker 3 (40:55):
For it all.

Speaker 4 (40:56):
Yeah, but again, where is Shouldn't there be a will?

Speaker 3 (41:00):
Right, I'm very confused.

Speaker 2 (41:01):
Where is the will?

Speaker 3 (41:02):
Yeah, we've got a beneficiary. Yeah, so it's like there's
something in there about money and shares and stuff like that.
But it's just like, maybe it's not because the youngest
uncle was the beneficiary, so maybe he's the problem.

Speaker 4 (41:16):
I do not Yeah, I would like to see the
will because or like at least get some information, because
I've told this to actually a couple of people. I'm like,
you know, wills are really important, Like yeah, no, Matt,
like at this age, even for our age, like you
never know sucks, but you never know, never know, and
you have something in writing or writing and then if
not it goes it just goes to state and that
gets more stickier.

Speaker 3 (41:37):
Huge mess. Yeah, yeah, I know. So there's gotta be
answers something.

Speaker 4 (41:41):
There's gonna be answer somewhere because it just seems like
everyone's pointing the finger at You're the problem.

Speaker 3 (41:45):
No, you're the problem. One.

Speaker 4 (41:47):
We're grieving over a family member here, and why is
it so harsh for us to come together?

Speaker 3 (41:52):
Honestly? Now is the time? Yeah, Anny, there is a
little bit more into this story. PS. I don't speak
with my brother because one we were never closed to,
so he bailed on us during the funeral arrangements when
I had hoped we could build a relationship. And three
at the funeral, he decided to preach the sermon and
told the entire church that my sister and I were spoiled,
which made no sense. My mother was a single parent,

(42:13):
working and sacrificing to provide for us all those years.
He had been punted out of the house at fifteen
and went to live with my older uncle because he
was a troubled kid who had caused my mother a
lot of stress. He needs to heal before we can
even have a relationship. So am I the a hole
for cutting off my family? And there are some comments?
Comment to number one says, just a quick response to this,

(42:33):
I won't go into all the similarities between our situations
or my comment would be as long as your post.
But my mother and I were BFFs. I mean, I
do have other BFFs, but she's definitely right near the
top of the list. As for my siblings, nieces and nephews,
all absolutely trash that I only tolerated when my mother
wanted us all to get together for a special occasion.
She passed away eight years ago, and although I miss

(42:53):
her terribly, I wasn't completely devastated when she passed away
because I knew we'd made the most of every minute
that we had. But my mother passing did have one
huge silver lining. I never have to see a single
one of my family members ever again. As the British say,
they are a complete pack of see you next Tuesdays
and the fact that they are out of my life forever.
I wish I could send you a selfie up the

(43:14):
grin on my face right now just thinking about it.
So don't be ashamed at all for using this as
an opportunity to make some positive changes in your life. Yeah,
I mean as very much as the silver lining for sure. Yeah,
I agree.

Speaker 4 (43:26):
I mean, sure, you may be bound by blood, but
you're not forced to talk to them, you know, if
they really are toxic in your life, or they just
cause trouble and they don't want to hear you out,
or you don't have a civil conversation, there's my point.

Speaker 3 (43:37):
Yeah, you're good. But that's the end of that story.
We have another one for We got another one coming up.

Speaker 4 (43:42):
My family pressured me to give my sister my wedding venue,
so we excluded them.

Speaker 3 (43:47):
It's yours, not bears.

Speaker 4 (43:49):
My fiance and I have been together for eight years
and engaged for three. I was doing my PhD program
and was juggling planning the wedding. My fiance took much
of that work, but it was perfect because our dream
venue was booked until after my graduation. By the way,
this comes from user paper Weight Ferry on the r
slash Okay story times up, reread it and you could
submit your stories right there too, and maybe we can
read it from there. So what we did is book

(44:10):
our dream venue three years in advance. It is a
really beautiful venue. The only slot we got was September
of this year. My sister got engaged a few months
ago to her fiance. They were planning on having a
spring wedding next year. They had no venue lined up,
but had a few vendors lined up as well as
a set date. Yesterday, our parents invited us and our
significant others to a family barbecue where my sister announced

(44:31):
to our extended family that she is expecting. Everyone was
so happy for her and my brother in law, who
is a great guy. My Nan asked my sister if
the wedding was still on the set date or if
they were going to wait because of the baby. She
said no, that she had hoped to move it to September.

Speaker 3 (44:44):
No big deal.

Speaker 4 (44:45):
We don't have many out of town guests, so they
could attend both weddings no problem. Nan was happy and
asked sister if she needed help planning such a short
notice wedding. My sister then turned around and said, that's
what I wanted to talk to you about. I was
really hoping we could kind of like take e your venue.
I really can't stress myself too much with planning a
wedding while going to maternity class, and I think it

(45:05):
is so beautiful. It would really mean a lot to me.
It went silence, but everyone was looking at me, expecting
me to say yes, of course, everything for my little sister.
My brother in law looked very uncomfortable and told her
that they had talked about this and that it was
not okay to put me on the spot. But my
sister just said, don't be like that. My sister wants
to do what's best for me, so it's no big deal.

(45:28):
I just said, well, it kind of is.

Speaker 3 (45:31):
I don't know.

Speaker 4 (45:31):
I have my heart really set on the venue, and
you the crying. She stormed off. Nan told me that
I was being selfish because she needed the venue more
than I did.

Speaker 3 (45:41):
I tried to defend myself, and my mother said.

Speaker 4 (45:43):
You waited three years, would have a wait a few
more months. When has your sister ever asked you for something?
A few comments later, my fiance got really mad and
we left My sister called me crying and said that
it was unfair that I always get what I want
and that I could have done this one thing for her.
Dad said, it's just a venue, and what matters is
the person who you are marrying. He is kind of right,

(46:05):
but we have been planning for so long. My fiance
is furious with my family and doesn't even want my
sister to come. Now now my family's threatening to not
come because I'm being selfish and my sister needs it
more than me because having a baby is too stressful.
You have an update. My brother in law called me
and apologized for the inconvenience. He told me he had
discussed it with my sister and she had told him

(46:27):
she would not ask. He is probably mad at her
now and warn me that my sister is blaming me
for potentially ruining her marriage. My father sent me about
five texts along the lines of I hope you're happy.
Your sister hasn't stopped crying since yesterday, and so on
and so on. My fiance and I have decided to
boot my sister from the bridal party and replace her
with my aunt, who is the only family member that

(46:48):
took my side. We have not decided whether or not
we will invite my family as a whole. Furthermore, my
mom took it upon herself to tell us. She called
fiance's parents and told them that it would be best
if my sister gets it because she is preclampsia runs
in the family, whatever that means. My future father in
law told them to f off and basically my mom
a new one for expecting something so ridiculous and that

(47:09):
they were going to lose me if they kept playing favorites.
So my mom is now crying too and saying that
my father in law is a But this is just
getting so pathetic. It seems straight out of a bad
soap opera. My in laws are driving to us currently
with some supper and wine and basically told me not
to worry and that no matter what happens, they will
be my safety net. I cried, here's happiness and we
have a second update. Wow, another one, another one.

Speaker 3 (47:34):
Gosh, just like freaking cry babies, Just because someone is
crying doesn't mean that they get what they want like this.

Speaker 4 (47:40):
Come on, I hate that excuse of she got pregnant,
give her everything she wants. She's first in line, so
it hasn't been that long, but this post blew the
heck up. I was expecting only a few answers, but
the support was overwhelming. What buckled my mind is that
the story flooded over to mainstream media. But let's get
to the story. So since this went viral, a lot happened.

Speaker 3 (48:00):
This is about my sister.

Speaker 4 (48:00):
My sister saw this story while browsing on her Reddit account.
She lost her mind. She accused me of painting her
like a looney and misinterpreting facts some info. My sister
got a wind of the situation due to various media
outlets and went on Reddit. She said that I was
being unfair, that she is family, and that she asked
nicely because she loves me. She also underlined the fact
that the opinion of internet strangers doesn't count because family's

(48:22):
more important and I should focus on making my family happy.
The only text I sent back was this, I am
sorry that you perceived it in that way. I did not,
in any sort distort what happened. As you might notice,
I didn't describe your tone, nor exaggerated anything. Perhaps you
have that night differently in your mind than I do,
but I digress. I am sick and tired of benting
to your will. My whole life, I have been your

(48:43):
servant and your doormat. Remember all the birthdays I had
to share with you because you would throw a tantrum
because you didn't get any presents, or when you cried
so that I would fill out job applications for you.
The thing that hurt me the most till now is
when you ruined my graduation.

Speaker 3 (48:56):
I am done.

Speaker 4 (48:56):
I admit that I also spoiled you, but I will
not any longer. If you want to marry so badly
before your baby's born, then you could look at Hotel
X that over's last minute weddings. I've spent too much
time planning my wedding to gift it to you, and
if you want to ruin our relationship over this, then
go ahead. I always sleep sound and safe knowing that
this wasn't my fault. She only sent me a Wow,

(49:18):
you must love me so very much and then block me.
She un blocked me this morning to send me this
wedding planner. Hello, dear, I got the message from your
mother and will proceed with the rebooking of the venue
on the spot. However, this will have extra costs as
we have to change the names on the contract. Please
come by my office tomorrow so we can sign the
new contract. Sister, that's great, I'll be there at nine.

(49:40):
You to Opie's parents. My parents haven't actually written to
me since the thing with my father in law.

Speaker 3 (49:45):
My older brother.

Speaker 4 (49:46):
Yes, I have an older brother, but he lives in
another city and wasn't at the barbecue. That's why I
didn't mention him. Plus, he initially could not come to
the wedding because of work and change his plans. After
hearing about the whole story, my brother contacted me and
wanted to know what happened because he got a weird story.

Speaker 3 (50:00):
From Mom and dad.

Speaker 4 (50:01):
Mom had told him that I had offered prior to
the barbecue to give up the venue to my sister
and that I humiliated her. I told him what really happened,
and he had no problem believing me. We talked a
lot about our parents' behavior, and he confessed that him
moving was partially due to our parents being and I quote,
crapheads to us. He told me that Mom had gotten
wind of the post and was mad at me for

(50:22):
betraying my family. I haven't written to my parents. What
so many of you advise to do because I have
come to the terms with the fact that they love
my sister more than me, if they love me at all.
And now let's get to the wedding. We sat together
and set passwords with the majority of our vendors and
also with the venue directly. We didn't talk to our
planner yet, which is why the text for my sister
worries me so much. Also, we canceled the catering that

(50:43):
my parents paid for, so short term we won't be
able to get a full catering like we wanted to,
but all our friends and my fiance's family will help
us prepare a buffet and everyone is going to chip in.
That will be our bachelor party as we will have
to spend more on our food now we canceled our
bachelor parties and we will have a family and friends
cooking session. Thank you again for helping me see how
toxic my family is. I will try to sort it out.

(51:04):
If they apologize from the bottom of their hearts, they
will be allowed into my wedding. But if not, well,
I still have my brother who would be walking me
down the aisle, and my aunt. And by the way,
you can walk and listen to us with stories just
like this. Just go to Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your
favorite podcast app and look up okay story, there's a
little bit more to this story. But Angie, there have.

Speaker 3 (51:24):
Been so many lines throughout this whole story that are
just like, oh, well, if you really loved me, you
would do this. I hate this.

Speaker 4 (51:30):
Yeah, They're they're using love as like a weapon.

Speaker 3 (51:33):
Right, But then also it's like, well, what about you
loving me? What about that? Because if you really loved me,
you would let me have the venue exactly. So are
we just agreeing that no one loves me right now?

Speaker 4 (51:43):
Yeah?

Speaker 3 (51:43):
Now that's what that is.

Speaker 2 (51:44):
Literally.

Speaker 4 (51:45):
I was going to say, yeah, no one, yeah, no
one seems to be on your side other than one
family member, your aunt, well and your brother.

Speaker 3 (51:51):
Yeah, and the crazy you're in laws and stuff.

Speaker 4 (51:54):
Yeah, but anyone in your side is just so anti you.
They're like, she's pregnant, she gets whatever she wants.

Speaker 3 (52:00):
He's the princess. I want op to go down to
that that wedding venue thing at nine am or whatever,
like when the parents have to meet over there and
be like, no, don't give them the venue, you know, yeah,
because like it's.

Speaker 4 (52:13):
Weird because even the brother in law, like the brother
or the husband of Opie's sister, is just like, yeah,
I like, this was not supposed to happen. I'm sorry,
but guess whatever. She says, yeah, kind of goes.

Speaker 3 (52:26):
He's see sister and then the parents.

Speaker 4 (52:28):
He's like, I can't do anything. He's a princess, my child.
Let's go ahead and finish the story. On to update
number three. We call my planner and she was actually
really horrified. She told me she had never talked to
my mother since the day we went to book the venue.
She assured me that even if they were to call
and say that I wanted it, I had to be
present and make any changes. I was gonna say, that's

(52:49):
kind in the contract too, like you can't change it
from some like under someone's note.

Speaker 3 (52:53):
Yeah, especially if it's like a stranger out they're doing that,
Like the secter comes in.

Speaker 4 (52:57):
She said, I could have the wedding, right, okay if
she's and she says it sure. So we informed everyone
that will work for us on our wedding, and they
offered to higher security for that day at a reduced price.
And that is the end of the story. It just
looks like they talked to the wedding planner. Planner's like, no,
this is good, this is okay. They'll talk at the venue,
but they will hire security. Cooh and they get I

(53:17):
guess they got it for a reduced price for that day.

Speaker 3 (53:20):
It's for sympathy. For sympathy, They're like, yo, this is crazy. Yeah,
oh good, Well that's very nice of them, is that wedding? Yeah,
that's that's wild. Yeah, Oh my gosh.

Speaker 4 (53:30):
Why do you need to change your exact wedding to
whatever somebody else had. I hate when people do that, like, oh,
their wedding is cool. I want exactly that.

Speaker 3 (53:38):
Yeah, just all of those excuses I've heard so many times,
and it's the stupidest arguments, like right, oh, if you
love me, you would have done this. Another one that
was was like, oh, I've never asked you for anything,
and it's like that doesn't mean I can just do it.

Speaker 4 (53:51):
I mean, yeah, exactly. It's that argument of oh, could
I have your window seat? Yeah, you know, I'm pregnant,
have your window seat. It doesn't work like that. It
doesn't work like, oh, because you're pregnant, you get everything
you want.

Speaker 2 (54:02):
Yeah that sucks.

Speaker 1 (54:03):
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Speaker 3 (54:10):
My family created chaos at my wedding. It turned into
a nightmare. I'll never forget. Nightmare, nightmare, nightmare. For context,
I now thirty five female, am on the spectrum with
both autism and ADHD, but went undiagnosed until three years ago.
So at the time of my wedding, I was undiagnosed
and living with the family who to this day does
not understand by the way that comes from wisdom pancakes

(54:31):
and if you want to submit your own stories, go
to the our slash. Okay, story time is separredit so
for more context. I have an older sister not on
the spectrum, and while we were growing up, our parents
promised us a wedding fund of ten k each that
we could spend in any way on our weddings. However,
if we wanted to elope or just not have a wedding,
we would receive that ten k in a check. By
the time both of my sister and I got married,

(54:53):
she the year before me, my parents were divorced and
financially quite different from each other, So okay, now onto
the app actual wedding drama. It all kind of starts
with my sister's wedding the year before mine. My sister
and I have never been that close. She has always
found me strange, weird, quirky, pick your favorite word. So
when she was putting together her list of bridesmaids, I

(55:14):
had always assumed that i'd be on the list, but
never imagined that she'd make me her maid of honor.
Apparently this was for appearance's sake, since she did not
let me plan her bachelorette party, did not let me
give a speech at the reception. I hate speaking publicly,
so I didn't mind that and kept me out of
most of the wedding photos. My sister was a huge
party person at the time and drank a lot, whereas

(55:34):
I still don't drink booze today. I did everything that
she asked me to do, which was very little, and
kept my mouth shut about every opinion I had. She
had her gigantic grand wedding in her big church with
her alcohol fueled reception to follow. She was incredibly happy,
and I was happy for her. The next year, my
boyfriend and I decided to get married since he was
going into the military. We got engaged. He left for

(55:56):
basic training and specialty training right after, and the wedding
to place two weeks after he got home. A month
after that, we left to live in Japan on an
air Force base. Given that my fiance was in another
state and very busy, and right after he came back,
we were to leave another country. Neither of us wanted
a wedding. It didn't make a ton of sense since
we were already married on paper for the military paperwork.

(56:18):
I wanted my ten k to throw a small party
and leave. My dad offered up his half and my
mother did not. This is where every problem began. On
top of not upholding the original agreement, he couldn't afford
to anymore, everything that she did pay for had to
be approved by her. She did not approve of my
plan to throw a small party in a lope, she
would only pay for anything relating to a wedding. This

(56:39):
made me pretty upset, so I said to myself, I
can do wedding with five K, and since I was
now having a wedding out of spite, I was spending
all of her money. First, I realize I sort of
created a beast of an issue by doing this, But
here goes the tea. She wouldn't let me buy the
three hundred dollars wedding dress I found online and loved,
made me go dress shopping with her my sister, and

(57:00):
buy a dress that I was just fine with but
didn't love like the first one. I had originally wanted
something with color. Pale colors and white don't really look
good on me since they blend in a bit with
my beacons of gonder skin tone. I tried to make
my best friend my maid of honor since it made sense.
My sister had since moved to another state with her
husband and would only be in town for the actual
wedding itself. She lost her mind at this, raving on

(57:23):
and on about how I was her maid of honor
and how she's my sister so it's only right and fair.
So almost in mirror to how it went with her
bachelorette party, my friend planned everything and my sister was
barely involved. She showed up in town the day before
the wedding her gift to me and made it to
the party, so her gift is just making it there
the day before the wedding. Thanks she brought a bunch

(57:44):
of booze, knowing I don't drink, and brought one of
her own friends without telling or asking me first. The
two left early, thankfully, and my friends and I got
to sit around and be happy and sad about the
wedding and the fact that I was moving across the
world in a month. So now for the wedding day.
Things that happened on the groom's side. The best man
forgot the wedding rings in his apartment forty five minutes

(58:05):
away from the church.

Speaker 4 (58:06):
You had one job, You had one job. How do
you forget the most important thing?

Speaker 3 (58:11):
Dude? Dude, that's crazy. And he didn't notice until an
hour before the ceremony was supposed to start. The groom's
entire family did not attend the wedding. His father is
discriminatory towards me. I'm white, and so is the groom's father.
But his father married a Filipino woman when he was
stationed in the Philippines and was determined for his son
to marry a woman of a similar ethnicity. With a

(58:32):
tight fisted control over the entire rest of the family,
none of them attended. In his sister's defense, she was
eight months pregnant and lived three hours away. You skyped
in for the ceremony. Things that happened on the bride side.
In my changing room, my best friend was doing my
hair and getting it to stay fat. My mom kept
going on about how I wasn't wearing any makeup. This
is because I never wear makeup. He kept insisting that

(58:53):
this being my wedding day, it was different and I
needed to look pretty for once. Wow. Wow, Literally, my
friend put a couple of fluffs of power around my cheeks,
while frowning, turned to my mom and said, there, does
she look pretty now? Now? My friend was a good
friend on this day. She went back to doing my hairs.
My sister stood at the back of the room, crowing
on and on about her own wedding the year before.

(59:14):
My other brides made slammed a hairbrush on the table
and says, well, thankfully, this is her wedding today, and
the room got quiet again. I had to sneak out
after I got my dress on so I could go
sit on the stairs alone for a few minutes to
cry no makeup to ruin though. Thankfully my dad caught
me and asked me if I wanted to shut it
all down, no questions asked. Everyone's here. It's too late now,

(59:36):
I said, But I was dumb. The ceremony went okay,
from what I can remember of it. It wasn't very long,
and I didn't have very many people in attendance, probably
less than a hundred. The reception is where it got worse.
Remember how I wasn't allowed to give a speech at
my sister's wedding, even though I was the maid of honor.
My sister decided that that didn't apply both ways. She
wrote a speech and didn't tell me. The best man

(59:56):
gave his speech that I did know about. It was
lovely and he was very nervous, a bunch of shine nerds,
we all were, but he did great. My sister took
the microphone out of his hands and proceeded to basically
roast me in front of our whole family and all
of my friends. This is not a speech, that's a roast.

Speaker 4 (01:00:14):
What's going on you? I feel like your mom, your sister?
Why is everyone else for you?

Speaker 3 (01:00:19):
Yeah? I leave this woman alone. She just wants to
get married. Man. She made several references to how I
wasn't normal, how all of this was so different from
how she would have done things, and how my now
husband was the only guy I've ever dated that she
approved of or even liked. I stayed friends with a
few of my exes and they were all in the audience,
so to roasting them too, She's like, I see one

(01:00:41):
of the exes are here, and the reason I didn't
like that one baha. And there's another one and oh
I hate you this person's here. Yeah, oh my gosh,
crazy dude. But she actually just had no idea that
they were in the audience. Oh whoa even worse.

Speaker 4 (01:00:57):
So they're oblivious. I love that even worse.

Speaker 3 (01:01:00):
She's just gonna like roast all these people. And then
later they walk up to her and she's like, uh what,
I who said that?

Speaker 4 (01:01:07):
My sister, Like, you know, when Op and I broke up,
we were cool, right right.

Speaker 3 (01:01:12):
She's probably just gonna roast them to their face. Again,
I wouldn't put it faster.

Speaker 4 (01:01:15):
She just wants she's trying to put the spotlight in
her Yeah, all she wants is the spotlight.

Speaker 3 (01:01:20):
She just wants the attention. We know who else wants
the attention us? We want the attention from you. Yes,
you just gotta go to I heeart Radio, Spotify, Apple Podcasts,
whatever your favorite podcast app is. Because you know what,
we have full episodes with more stories just like this one.
Just go search. Okay, story time, That's all I gotta do,

(01:01:40):
pretty easy. Please give us the attention, please.

Speaker 4 (01:01:43):
Please speak see please.

Speaker 3 (01:01:45):
But there is a little bit more to the story.
Should we just jump right in or final thoughts? No,
I want to see how this turns out. Me too.
I mean, we're already at wedding time, right. You can't
get any right disaster right right then. To top it off,
we had not paid the absurd fee for having booze
at our reception since my husband and I didn't drink.
There would be an even bigger fee if we brought

(01:02:06):
in any booze without signing that part of the contract.
My sister knew this because she used the exact same
venue for her reception the year before. She snuck in
booze anyway and got wasted less than an hour into
the reception. I shut the whole thing down inside of
two hours. Hobby and I went back to our hotel room,
and I cried the whole I no. I guess the

(01:02:27):
moral of the story, the very long story, is to
just not have the wedding if you don't want to
have the wedding, and that is the end of it.

Speaker 4 (01:02:35):
No, don't say that, No you want to have the wedding.
But if Dakota were here, he would say secret wedding, wedding, wedding,
secret wedding. At the end of the day, your wedding
just needs to be you and your partner. Yeah, I'm
sure you need a couple of witnesses, but for legal fees,
for legal reasons, legal things. But at the end of

(01:02:56):
the day, it's just between you and your partner.

Speaker 1 (01:02:58):
Ye.

Speaker 4 (01:02:59):
If you really knew it was going to be this
huge fiasco, on this unfortunate fiasco, I wouldn't go, you know,
put up with it or are you? I wouldn't have
invited them. That's not fair. They're just very selfish And
I'm sorry that you had a crappy wedding. Yeah, there
is a possibility that you can, you guys, even though
the wedding already happened and you guys are married, do
you guys can still celebrate in another fashion and like

(01:03:19):
do like a small little thing that is just so
the wedding you do deserve.

Speaker 3 (01:03:25):
Man, I'm so sorry. O peet out.

Speaker 4 (01:03:28):
Well, I would have a conversation with them and then
go low contact or not even conversations to tell them. Okay,
you guys did especially to your sister. What you did
was so selfish and I don't care what you think,
but you ruined my wedding.

Speaker 3 (01:03:41):
Yeah, you ruined my day. Definitely make sure that the
sister pays for that alcohol fee.

Speaker 4 (01:03:45):
Yeah, and let them know, like, hey, I am not
happy with you. I think it's best we don't talk.
I did this all for your wedding and you didn't
do anything in respect for mine.

Speaker 3 (01:03:55):
Not fair, not fair at all. But that is the
end of that story at the end of this episode.
Would you look at that. That's not fair to you, guys,
but the truth. So if you love us, make sure
to subscribe. We love you and see you tomorrow.

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