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00:00 r/relationship_advice - I [36F] removed a friend [37F] from Facebook without saying anything because she can be very mean and aggressive, and a confrontation seemed unavoidable. After sending me several messages I didn't reply to, she's now bothering my family. What can I say to her?
12:24 r/BestofRedditorUpdates - I (26M) am taking a step back from my (24F) friend since they started dating someone
32:13 r/BestofRedditorUpdates - Uninviting Someone We Never Actually Invited In The Very First Place
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Speaker 3 (00:18):
My obsessed friend keeps harassing me, leave me alone. About
a month ago, I, thirty six female, realized that every
time I saw a post from her, thirty seven female,
it made me upset. We don't even live in the
same state anymore, but I don't want her to have
this kind of control over my emotions anymore. By the way,
this comes from could the Speed one And if you
want some of your own stories, go to the our
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slash owcase stories. I'm Subredding, I'm Sophia, and I'm Riley.
Speaker 4 (00:43):
Did you forget your Dave for second? There?
Speaker 3 (00:45):
I was gonna say I was key On, I'm Riley,
I'm not key on.
Speaker 2 (00:49):
I'm Sophia.
Speaker 4 (00:50):
I think I'm key On.
Speaker 3 (00:51):
There we go and OPI says background we weren't together
about ten years ago. For two years when we met,
she was incredibly negative and controlling, constantly telling me how
to make decisions in my life, like not getting a
dog because I wouldn't care for it properly. Well, ha,
my puppa will be seven this Halloween.
Speaker 2 (01:08):
Joke's on you.
Speaker 3 (01:09):
At the same time, she seemed to idolize me and
Claire I was her best friend almost.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
Immediately interesting interesting dynamic.
Speaker 3 (01:17):
There After knowing her for only two weeks, she became
upset and started crying because I didn't invite her to
a girl's night with my friends I'd known since high school.
She said she didn't have many friends and thought I
was really awesome. Hmmm. She begged me to invite her
to everything I did, and would bring up any instance
of me doing something without her, making me feel guilty
(01:38):
about it.
Speaker 2 (01:38):
I know someone like this.
Speaker 4 (01:40):
Do we know them?
Speaker 2 (01:40):
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (01:41):
Wait, can you make her? Can you meet?
Speaker 4 (01:42):
Her?
Speaker 3 (01:42):
Remarks?
Speaker 2 (01:43):
No, it's all it's fine.
Speaker 3 (01:44):
I want to know. Ah, I thought, Okay, everyone struggles sometimes.
Maybe she's just looking for friends. About three months after
meeting her, she started dating a guy from work. Cool.
I thought, perhaps it's the come boost she needed. To
feel better about herself. Fast forward a year and a half,
my friend insisted I'd be a bridesmaid one of two
(02:07):
at her wedding. Fine. She and her new husband bought
a house a mile and a half away from mine,
loudly proclaiming there will be much better houses, but we
got this one because we're so close now to you.
Speaker 2 (02:20):
Guys, why are they trying to be so close to
you now?
Speaker 3 (02:22):
We're so close to you? We love you? Omg josh okay.
Six months later, my fiance cheated on me. Yikes, I
left him, sold the house should My friend was furious
with me, screaming that I abandoned her and was an
awful friend.
Speaker 2 (02:37):
Girl Obi was cheated on.
Speaker 3 (02:40):
She said she never would have bought that house if
she'd known I was gonna move?
Speaker 2 (02:43):
Why are you buying houses based off of Op's whereabouts?
Speaker 3 (02:47):
And that there was no point in her living there
now and complain that we aren't two couples anymore.
Speaker 2 (02:53):
Dude at that born and I would cut her off
like if she said that, I'd be like, girl, do
you understand you gotta live your own life?
Speaker 3 (03:01):
What we're getting out here going on? But a year later,
I was healthy and happy when I met some awesome
Brazilian man. We dated and eventually moved farther away. She
moved to another state. When I decided to marry my Brazilian,
I stupidly let her guilt trip me into making her
my bridesmaid.
Speaker 2 (03:20):
Girl, you can't let these type of people guilt trip
you into inviting them to.
Speaker 4 (03:24):
Things you didn't learn the first time.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
Just let them be sad, yeah, or don't tell them
about I don't know.
Speaker 4 (03:30):
That's also very crazy that you just call your partner
my Brazilian.
Speaker 2 (03:34):
When I went to marry my Brazilian.
Speaker 3 (03:36):
Whatever I think Brazilian man, I think of a hot
Brazilian man with the six pack abs a in a speedoup.
Speaker 4 (03:43):
Okay, Okay, I don't think about it.
Speaker 3 (03:46):
I think about or maybe that guy in Riley's mom's head.
Speaker 4 (03:50):
Sure huh.
Speaker 3 (03:51):
My soon to be Osmond invited his huge family. About
fifty people traveled from Brazil alone. She insisted on coming
to my wedding alone, even though it was clear I
was friends with her husband too. She missed her first flight,
forcing someone to leave the rehearsal dinner to pick her
up forty five minutes away instead of arriving that morning
as planned. She got so wasted at the rehearsal dinner
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that a group of us had a carrier back to
the hotel room. At the reception, she continued her sloppy
drinking ended up in bed with a married groomsman from Brazil.
Speaker 2 (04:23):
Isn't she like married? Uh?
Speaker 3 (04:25):
Yeah, yeah, yikes. After she'd been missing for about an hour,
other guys found them and alerted me, causing the entire
wedding to come crashing with the halt while more than
one hundred people ask each other, but isn't she married?
Speaker 2 (04:39):
That's what I asked? Isn't she married?
Speaker 3 (04:42):
This was especially frustrating after she'd insisted on dancing alone
during the anniversary dance because she wouldn't let her husband attend.
Speaker 2 (04:50):
Because she wanted to go hook up with another guy.
Speaker 3 (04:52):
She scowled me and made angry faces in every wedding picture,
even during her bridesmaid speech that she insisted on giving.
Speaker 2 (05:01):
Oh pee, You need to learn a fantastic word. It's
called now. It works in any situation.
Speaker 3 (05:08):
Fun fact, it's a complete sentence too.
Speaker 2 (05:11):
A complete sentence.
Speaker 4 (05:12):
You can also do the Spanish version, No for.
Speaker 3 (05:15):
The German version yet or the Australian version nor Claire.
A year later, my husband and I were happily married
while she left her American husband and was trying to
immigrate to Brazil to be with the guy she cheated
on at my wedding. Hum. She constantly complained about how
things weren't going well or how she was somehow wronged.
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In every situation, nothing was ever her fault. She blamed
her ex husband for their divorce and never told him
she cheated on him at my wedding. So yeah, if
she has no idea why I removed her from my life,
she's completely oblivious. Is it even worth responding? I feel like,
if you don't have anything nice to say, why light
(05:58):
the pod on fire?
Speaker 2 (05:59):
You know, I would just cut her off, talk to
her husband and tell her that she cheat done him,
but definitely just cut her off. This woman is obsessed
with you. Yeah, and she models her entire life after you,
and that's just too much.
Speaker 3 (06:13):
It is weird. Oh yeah, that's why she's getting after
the Brazilian guy.
Speaker 1 (06:16):
Mm hmm.
Speaker 3 (06:19):
Comment number one. Here's the deal. If you had set
boundaries sooner, I'd say ignore her. But you have a
zero backphone in this relationship. You willingly participate in the
blossoming of the friendship. You let her into your life
despite allegedly not wanting to. You don't just ask people
to be a bridesmaid because they annoy you and not
I agree. You don't spend genuine and significant time with
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the person and then act like it's all on them
and that they are just some nuisance. You completely enabled
her behavior. I agree, given the history of your relationship
with her, it seems typical now that you would do
another spineless thing, not confront her at all, and delete
her out of nowhere. This lady is clearly unhealthy and
(07:00):
probably codemindent, but you have not helped the situation. You
are no better. Please respond to her and be very
clear about what you did and why you did it.
You are one hundred percent correct to detach from her,
but ghosting is cruel and in this situation unjustified. Comment
to Yes, respond to her. She is a person and
(07:20):
used to be your friend. The compassionate thing to do
is respectfully respond to her once. Only once is enough.
Being compassionate also benefits yourself, not just the other person.
Tell her very respectfully why you did the thing that
you did. Do not attempt to convince her of anything.
Make it short and direct, Do not send her a paragraph,
say something like I value you as a person and
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respect the friendship we used to have, but at this
point in my life, I just think we are two
different people. I feel it's best for us to go
our separate ways. Something like that, but obviously not the
exact same thing. Tailor it to fit your situation, but
make sure it's objective and clean.
Speaker 2 (07:58):
I I agree. I think they talk.
Speaker 3 (08:00):
We got an update.
Speaker 2 (08:01):
I think talking to her is good just because you guys,
I mean, she was in your wedding. But yeah, I
think maybe just like be honest if you're gonna be
separating or you know, from her. I do kind of
agree with those comments in terms of Op's kind of
enabling this behavior, because I think that if you do
not like someone and you don't want to be their friend,
(08:22):
which it kind of seems like, oh, he never really
wanted this girl around, it is worse and almost meaner
to lie and like have like continue that friendship. And
I'm not talking about I'm not talking about the type
of people that you don't like and you have to
see them occasionally at like the gym or in friend
group settings and stuff, and you just have to put
(08:43):
up with them. That's different.
Speaker 3 (08:45):
It feels like you're leading them on.
Speaker 2 (08:46):
Yeah, but like having this woman in your bridal party,
hanging out with her one on one, like living near her,
that is that's leading her on, and it's it's cruel. Yikes,
you know it's it's very reasonable that you don't want
her to be your friend, but like, like stop hanging
out with her at this point. Maybe tell her why.
Speaker 3 (09:04):
I agree, Yeah, tell her why make it? Just say
it once and be done with it. I don't think
you gotta spend a lot of time.
Speaker 2 (09:11):
Just be like, hey, I don't think this friendship is
really working out.
Speaker 3 (09:13):
About two weeks after I posted here, she sent a
message to my sister saying that I'm a lot of
trouble that after my last relationship ended, I forgot what
was important, meaning.
Speaker 2 (09:23):
Her everything revolves around her.
Speaker 3 (09:26):
Told my sister, I was jealous because her Brazilian man
is hotter than mine. What my husband that has a
six pack, where's a thong occasionally and it's just hot.
Speaker 2 (09:36):
That's not what it says.
Speaker 4 (09:37):
That's what I read Riley's projecting between the lines.
Speaker 3 (09:42):
I don't want that. That's just what's embedded to my brain.
What did you Whenever you think of a goth chick,
you think of a chick wearing makeup and black hair, don't.
Speaker 4 (09:51):
You, because that's what it is.
Speaker 3 (09:52):
Okay, Well, that's what a Brazilian man is to me, hot.
Speaker 2 (09:55):
Man in the speedo?
Speaker 4 (09:56):
What did you grow up with that? Brazilian men?
Speaker 3 (10:00):
Why are you so concerned with this? Keon?
Speaker 4 (10:01):
You?
Speaker 3 (10:02):
Good bro?
Speaker 4 (10:02):
I'm so great, but I'm just concerned. I'm not concerned.
I think about Ail, I think about soccer.
Speaker 3 (10:10):
Three weeks after my Reddit post, she sent me a
direct message saying she'd supported me through a lot and
that I wouldn't have made it without her, and I
owed her an explanation. I decided this was the time.
Thanks to the replies in my previous post, the words
flowed much easier than I thought they would. I realized
our relationship was not healthy from the beginning. I think
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it's time we go our separate ways. I wish you
the best.
Speaker 2 (10:34):
I think that's perfect.
Speaker 3 (10:35):
Her reply was a list of all the time she'd
help me, putting me in her wedding. What loo to
the guys? She later cheated on at my wedding and
including the other time she helped me by inviting herself
last minute on her road trip she didn't want to
go on, then complaining the entire weekend. She was obviously
upset and sent ten or twelve long messages before finally stopping.
(10:59):
She posted seven or eight passive aggressive real friends are
post on Facebook according to mutual friends, we have a
little bit more here.
Speaker 2 (11:07):
I think after that you just stopped texting her. Yeah,
you've said what you need to say, and then we
just stopped responding after that. If she's gotta keep going on.
Speaker 4 (11:16):
And on and guess what easy thing you can also do?
Speaker 3 (11:18):
Block block block, bink boom, you're out of here. Mm hmm,
I agree, I agreed. Hope you continues. She showed up
at my dad's house that evening, very wasted, standing on
the porch screaming for them to tell her the truth,
What truth about what? My stepmother called the police after
about fifteen minutes, when it became clear she wasn't leaving.
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They didn't even open the door. Two officers arrived and
she proceeded to yell at them. She was arrested. The
officers gave my dad their information mentioned restraining orders and
left no contact from her since dang, I'm glad I
don't live near here anymore.
Speaker 2 (11:54):
M boo good day.
Speaker 3 (11:56):
Knows what that woman would have done if you lived
near here?
Speaker 2 (11:59):
Y Hi, Thank goodness you got out of there. I mean,
it sucks that you got cheated on, but you know
certain the good things came out of it in that
you had to move away from this crazy lady.
Speaker 3 (12:11):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:12):
Yeah, and you found out how Brazilian man.
Speaker 3 (12:14):
That's right there you go.
Speaker 2 (12:15):
But that's the end of that story, folks, And we've
got another one coming right up.
Speaker 3 (12:20):
Yay. Sophia's favorite part of the day is reading stories.
Speaker 2 (12:24):
I stepped back from our friendship after she had a date,
but she didn't like it.
Speaker 3 (12:29):
You can't have your cake and eat it too, So I.
Speaker 2 (12:31):
Twenty six mail talked to my close friend twenty four
female and suggested we tone back on our hangouts and
chats because they told me a couple of weeks ago
that they have started officially dating someone. Oh I'm genuinely
happy for She told me that they have been seeing
each other for six months and called it official a
(12:52):
month ago. Who is this keon?
Speaker 4 (12:55):
It was like four months.
Speaker 3 (12:56):
Come on, it's like four What are you someone that
is from LA? Yeah, that's how every LA relationship is going. Okay,
don't count yourself out of this. Don't count yourself.
Speaker 2 (13:06):
Out of this and this yet.
Speaker 3 (13:08):
Yes, you are five, you are right now, it's not
even it's not even the month. Yeah, no in two months?
Speaker 2 (13:15):
No?
Speaker 3 (13:15):
Oh my god. Yeah, dude. Times moving so slow.
Speaker 2 (13:18):
By the way, this comes from hard to follow, and
if you want to submit your own stories, go to
the r slash. Okay, storytime? Supured it? So now, before this,
we could talk and hang out pretty often, platonically, at
least in my perspective, about a few times a week
and almost daily with late night chats upwards of three am.
Speaker 3 (13:37):
See why are you not with her if I'm talking
to three am every night? Yeah, you're in banking, you're
in love.
Speaker 2 (13:43):
I don't talk to anyone until three am at night.
Speaker 3 (13:47):
Actually, I've pulled like every time we see my boy
rags we pull all niners all the time.
Speaker 2 (13:51):
Yeah, I know, I'm not.
Speaker 3 (13:52):
We have a lot to catch up on.
Speaker 2 (13:53):
We've known each other for a few years and met
at a doctor's office when she noticed me playing a
gotcha game and we talked and bonded from our mutual
love of games and nerdy stuff.
Speaker 3 (14:03):
And then you got her.
Speaker 2 (14:04):
Now. Of course, I think both guys and gals can
be great friends with boundaries and lines. However, in my mind,
if I was seeing someone, I wouldn't really want them
hanging out with and talking NonStop with a guy to
this extent, especially if I don't know them.
Speaker 3 (14:20):
I like Opie's respective on this, giving the you know respective, He's.
Speaker 2 (14:24):
The one I'm going into it with a lot of respect.
Speaker 3 (14:26):
I like this.
Speaker 2 (14:27):
I think that if Opie and his friend had kind
of a very normal, not normal friendship, but you know,
like they weren't talking until three am, they were just
hanging out a couple times a week, and you know,
normal friendship stuff, then I'd be like, Oh, you don't
have to cut back on that. But I understand why
he wants to cut back on this stuff.
Speaker 3 (14:44):
I agreed. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (14:45):
She told me about her relationship a couple of weeks
ago and mentioned that her boyfriend has gotten a little
nosy recently. Whenever we would text about stuff. I asked
her if she told and showed him our chats and stuff.
She said no, because she deserves a private life too. Yeah, okay,
but you can you don't necessarily have to approach it
from the sense of like here you can look through
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all my stuff so that we trust each other. It
can just be like, oh god, this is what he said,
Like he said this today.
Speaker 3 (15:11):
If Angie and I started dating today and we were
hanging out, I'd be like, Hey, by the way, one
of my close friends is Sofia. This is what I
talked about on our first days, like my roommates Sofia,
she's awesome, she's great. You'd love her. And I mentioned
you in these conversations and would kind of get things
rolling on that so we you know, and then you
guys eventually met. It would be so weird if you
guys never met we like work together, hang out or friends.
Speaker 2 (15:34):
No, I do you think it's kind of weird when
people don't bring their partners around their friends.
Speaker 3 (15:38):
Also, I'm okay with girls having guy friends, but this
is like I'm not okay with girls having guy friends.
If that makes sense. You know what you see? Do
you kind of see the difference here?
Speaker 2 (15:47):
Well, I think there is a difference here because you're
staying up until three am. Like this is like a
very close relationship.
Speaker 3 (15:54):
Kind of dipping into the emotional assistance.
Speaker 2 (15:57):
I would agree, which is which Opie understands. I completely
understand that, but we really only talk about games, movies, comics,
et cetera. It wouldn't hurt to just show him. I
suggested it. She again said no and that he doesn't
really like our interests. That's completely fine, and I dropped it, though,
after informing her that from a guy's perspective, talking to
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a dude then hiding the conversations and being secretive about
it can seem dang sucks. As for the boyfriend, I
know next to nothing about him, and she always skirted
around any details about him. Our mutual friends know about
him apparently, though for some reason she always seems to
be pretty secretive about it. Sort of feels like I'm
just being left in the dark. I have other female
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friends and relationships and this was never an issue. According
to her, she just doesn't want us to know about
each other as it may start conflicts since she talks
to me more often than him. She's also mentioned that
she tells him she's hanging out with the girls whenever
we meet up to hang out, so she's lying. So
this is just totally not a gay. I know she's lying.
Speaker 4 (17:00):
Oh somebody is insecure?
Speaker 2 (17:02):
Yeah, I h why is she lying?
Speaker 3 (17:05):
Also wrestling, Alma says she has a crush of a pe. Yeah.
Why are you not dating?
Speaker 2 (17:08):
Though?
Speaker 3 (17:09):
Op?
Speaker 2 (17:09):
Well, I think that if she's using you to talk
again until three in the morning, and also lying to
her current boyfriend about your guys's relationship and being unwilling
to share kind of what you guys are talking about,
this is not okay.
Speaker 3 (17:22):
Like, for example, my girlfriend has a guy be's friend.
It's her neighbor that she grew up with. All the time,
they go out and they talk about things that they
have in common, and it's totally cool and fine, but
they're not hanging out multiple times a week till three
o'clock in the morning. You know, they're just like, oh,
let's catch up in great And I feel like you
do need that in a relationship where you're not relying
on your partner for all these things.
Speaker 4 (17:41):
I absolutely agree for guys not to have anything incommon. Oh,
you'll be like at least one thing.
Speaker 3 (17:47):
Yeah, the boink, And that's all they have in common,
which is.
Speaker 2 (17:51):
To me kind of mean and a bit dishonest. I
talked with her further about her relationship, and she's pretty
serious about him and loves him. After rolling over it
for a few days, I suggested to her that we
should probably take a couple steps back and hang out
or talk a bit less, because I want her to
focus on herself and her relationship.
Speaker 3 (18:09):
Gold Star FORPI.
Speaker 2 (18:11):
I do genuinely care for her and want the best
to come her way. I also don't really want to
be the topic of drama to add to my list
of stress. I explained this to her as kindly and
as understanding as I could, but she just sort of
blew up at me and stormed off. Later on, she
sent me a truckload of messages, some sad, some angry,
some rude remarks on my looks.
Speaker 3 (18:33):
That's probably why she doesn't want to date you, is
because you look ugly.
Speaker 2 (18:37):
Because you're ugly.
Speaker 3 (18:38):
Dang Probably. I mean, the emotional side seems to be there,
but she's probably She's probably someone that likes a physical
look too.
Speaker 2 (18:46):
Yesterday morning I woke up to some messages from some
mutual friends calling me names and berating me for pushing
her away. I'm so confused right now. Last night she
told me she wants to talk today. Our mutual friends
also seemed to have stopped the instrument too. I think
I'll meet her again today to see just what is
going on. Is there anything I should ask her specifically?
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I do want us to stay friends, of course, and
just want to set some boundaries that we may not
have initially established. And there are some comments, but I
would be like, hey, why are you talking to our
other friends? Like why are you complaining to our other
friends about this? Could we have that conversation?
Speaker 4 (19:23):
And also I'm doing this for you.
Speaker 2 (19:25):
Yeah, I'm just trying to create you know, I'm trying
to save your relationship in the long run.
Speaker 3 (19:29):
She's probably going to everyone yeah, saying, oh my gosh,
he doesn't want to talk to me anymore, he hates me,
blah blah blah blahh.
Speaker 2 (19:36):
That's not at all what's going on? Why are you
being so mean? But there are some comments and hopefully
they'll they'll help Oppe figure out what to do.
Speaker 3 (19:45):
And some people are saying that the boyfriend's.
Speaker 4 (19:48):
Fake, oh to get op jealous or something.
Speaker 3 (19:50):
Ooh see how he really feels about the Relationshipah.
Speaker 4 (19:54):
Get gem jealous or wound him up or something.
Speaker 2 (19:57):
Like that blank Lizard says, definitely establish the boundaries. Let
her know you don't want any part in her dishonesty
with her boyfriend. I think it would probably help all
parties if you did meet. Could help put everyone at ease.
I think it's a little bizarre that she's keeping you
away from him, so I definitely ask her why that is.
It's also not your job to moderate her relationship with
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her boyfriend and who she talks to and how often.
If boyfriend has a problem with how much she talks
to you, that's up to him to bring it up.
You sound like a supportive friend. I don't think you're
overstepping by maintaining that friendship. That said, if she's being
cagy over introducing the two of you for other reasons,
that's something you're gonna want to find out. Boo boop
boop boop beep, boop boop beep. She's acting weirdly possessive
(20:42):
of you. I would never talk to a friend the
way she's talking to you. Please think would you do
or say these things to a friend? And if your
answer is no, then why are you making excuses for
this friend? Because she's never mahade like this before. It's
just your way of trying to minimize the situation. The
comments from mutual friends, such as her boyfriend is better
than you did not just come out of nowhere. She's
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talking negatively about you to others. There's just a lot
of inappropriate behaviors going on here that should not be
excused or minimized. Yum and Opie says, Yeah, you're probably right.
I don't really know what they talk about, as I
don't appear in our friend group pretty often, so I'm
not as tightly interwoven with them as her. I've just
been thinking back on a lot of the things and
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started noticing the small stuff when I was more oblivious
at the time. She always did this thing where she
would tug on my shirt to get my attention or
lightly slap my back when excited.
Speaker 3 (21:35):
She likes you, well you.
Speaker 2 (21:37):
She would laugh really hard at dumb jokes so much
you then go really quiet if it seemed like I
ignored her when spacing out. When hanging out in group
with said mutuals, she'd always be glued to my side,
even when I went to talk to some others across
the room.
Speaker 3 (21:53):
Oblivious.
Speaker 2 (21:56):
She would also interject when any of our female friends
came up to talk to me about something and changed
the subject to something else. If she wasn't invested. Thinking
on it, it's a tad creepy in a way. Her possessiveness,
as you call it, has sort of ramped up since
she announced to me that she was in a relationship.
One moment that stands out to me now is recently,
at a party, I jokingly asked her to wingman me tonight,
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and she vehemently denied in all seriousness, stating, none of
these girls are good for you.
Speaker 3 (22:25):
Trust me, There's only one girl good enough for you here.
Speaker 2 (22:28):
Why are another girls good for ope?
Speaker 3 (22:30):
Oh girl, because there's only one that is worthy. Yeah,
it's her of unlocking his chastity belt, you know.
Speaker 2 (22:37):
I just shrugged it off. Is she keeping me as
a backup or something? I really don't see platonic friendships
working like this, Boo Boo Beep says. It definitely sounds
like she wants to keep you as a backup or
just as her guy friend that gives her all the
attention she wants yep, without the commitment.
Speaker 3 (22:54):
That's what I was about to say, yeap.
Speaker 2 (22:55):
Yeap, Yeah, yeah, exactly what she wants. Let me ask
you this, what do you think what happen to your
friendship with her? Once you have a girlfriend? Do you
think she'll be nice? Do you think she'll respect your relationship?
Keep in mind she's not respecting her own relationship. And
there is an update two days later.
Speaker 3 (23:12):
Oh boy, Yeah, this is definitely.
Speaker 2 (23:15):
He's finally figuring it out.
Speaker 3 (23:16):
This is definitely the girl has a backup or another
friend that she gets all the attention to. I've seen
this happen where this guy and girl will be hanging out.
The guy kind of has a crush on her, but
she's not. She's just like, oh, we'll just be friends.
And the guy's hanging out because he thinks there's still
a chance. But then the guys going out kind of
dating know the girls, and that girl gets a little
jealous and starts getting a little bit more snappy and spiteful.
Speaker 2 (23:39):
Because she doesn't have that attention anymore.
Speaker 3 (23:41):
That's who you are, Opie, and you've gotten yourself in
slippery sloued, which I think you could if you like
your back you can definitely get out of this.
Speaker 2 (23:48):
But it doesn't seem like Opie does. It seems like
he just wants friendship update two days later. So we
met a couple days ago and talked at our usual cafe.
As soon as I walked in, she seems really awkward
in fidgety. Not a second after I sat down, she
blurted out an apology for snapping and storming off, as
well as all the things that were said from her
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and by our mutual friends. I was about to apologize
as well, However, she told me I didn't need to
apologize for anything, and she had to really tell me
something and asked me to just keep an open mind.
Speaker 3 (24:21):
Keep an open mind.
Speaker 2 (24:22):
I think she's gotta confess. Confused, I nodded. She told
me that she wasn't exactly honest with me oh a while,
and that she's been lying to me. It turns out
she never had a boyfriend.
Speaker 3 (24:34):
You guys were right, What the hell?
Speaker 2 (24:36):
I'm shocked. I was like, No, there's no way, there's
no way that she could lie to everyone.
Speaker 3 (24:42):
Crazy did crazy?
Speaker 2 (24:45):
No, wonder all your guys' friends were like, what, like, oh,
why are you switching up? Why are you not being
friends with her?
Speaker 3 (24:51):
He lives in Canada, he goes to a different school,
all the things. He's just not in town right now.
Speaker 2 (24:56):
I'm shocked. I'm shocked.
Speaker 3 (25:00):
No sense you guys called that I was.
Speaker 2 (25:02):
I didn't believe you, guys.
Speaker 3 (25:03):
I was kind of on the fence about it, but
I was more on the no. I was on the
no side. I thought he was real. Also, OP never
said I know what a social looks like, yeah, or
try to reach out because Ope seems like the guy that.
Speaker 2 (25:12):
Well, we just believe that he existed, So I believed Op.
Speaker 4 (25:15):
Again.
Speaker 5 (25:15):
The thing that really stood out to me is like,
I've never met the guy or talked to the guy,
and we have nothing in common.
Speaker 2 (25:22):
Yeah, nothing is Yeah, yeah, she called out. It turns
out that she has liked me for a long time.
Speaker 3 (25:27):
Now I called it.
Speaker 2 (25:29):
Well, that wasn't that well, But because of how long
we've been friends, she didn't know how to bring it
up and instead made a fake boyfriend. Our mutual friends
decided to help her out. Everyone was in on this
and cook up a story about her having a boyfriend
to test the waters and see if I would be
jealous and awaken my feelings and fight for her. This
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is becoming a TV drama. Oh my god, all of
your friends are dumb.
Speaker 4 (25:56):
Also, they probably didn't know to that extent.
Speaker 3 (25:59):
Nob they knew.
Speaker 2 (25:59):
They cooked up the story.
Speaker 3 (26:01):
Also, if she's this crazy as friends as friends, think
how crazy it's gonna be under the sheets.
Speaker 2 (26:08):
Oh wait, no, okay.
Speaker 3 (26:10):
Well, I mean, come on, Kean, back me up here,
don't back them up, back me up here.
Speaker 2 (26:14):
Don't back them up, Kean, don't back them out. If
they're toxic out here, think about that and Mingming, I
think they're like twenty.
Speaker 4 (26:20):
Five a starfish who knows no wonder.
Speaker 2 (26:23):
I knew next to nothing about the boyfriend. She was
trying to spin the story that she was keeping our
friendship a secret as to, in her words, keep the
door open for me. She started hinting that her boyfriend
started getting nosy and a little jealous of how much
we talk as to start stirring the pot with me.
Speaker 3 (26:40):
Dude.
Speaker 2 (26:41):
However, that had literally the opposite effect. As soon as
I started trying to help her fix her boyfriend issue,
she thought it was a good sign and we could
start broaching the topic of relationships. I know the sounds
convoluted as f and I'm just as confused as y'all are.
Speaker 3 (26:57):
You can watching too much TV, girl, This is crazy.
Speaker 2 (27:02):
You just talk to him, talk to him, be an
adult your feelings.
Speaker 3 (27:06):
I like you also, Opie, how oblivious do you have
to be to now understand that, OPI, that this girl
has a crush on you, Like what talking to three
o'clock in the morning and you don't even think she
has a crush on you?
Speaker 2 (27:19):
Literally, I'm like, that was never that was never put
on it.
Speaker 3 (27:22):
If I ever talked to a girl past three o'clock
in the mornings because I somewhat have a crush on
her multiple nights in a row or more than one night.
Speaker 2 (27:28):
There's no way that you were disrupting your sleep schedule
that much, unless, like some or at least one person.
Speaker 3 (27:33):
Has feeling I could probably chut out with Sophia like
once till three o'clock in the morning, but after that
it wouldn't be multiple nights. I couldn't do that. I
get so bored to her.
Speaker 2 (27:41):
After that I would be asleep, She wouldn't be away.
Speaker 3 (27:45):
Riley, you have to go to bed.
Speaker 2 (27:47):
Okay, let's play red den redemption.
Speaker 4 (27:50):
She probably thought, because this girl seems like the type
to overthink a bunch and like make this elaborate plan.
The fact that like she's probably like he doesn't get
the hint, like I touched his back.
Speaker 2 (28:02):
Yeah, I touched his back.
Speaker 4 (28:03):
I rubbed his back like multiple times, and I'm like
close to him. He should understand. Maybe he just like
needs the next an extra push.
Speaker 2 (28:10):
Though, from my perspective, she flatly refused any of my
suggestions to assuage her imaginary boyfriend's jealousy, So I just
suggested to her that we should tone us down a bit.
This apparently frustrated her, and that led to her blow up.
She vented to her friends and they pestered me a
bit idiots, telling me I'm throwing away something good and
all that. That's when some comments from our mutuals started
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making even more sense.
Speaker 3 (28:34):
They're just trying to you, knowing wing woman badly.
Speaker 4 (28:38):
You think one of your friends would have been like, hey,
like low key, she like this is just because she
likes you.
Speaker 3 (28:45):
Yeah yeah. Also, whatever TV show, reality TV show you
guys are all watching together on Thursday night, it pixel melts.
Speaker 2 (28:52):
They're all watching the summer I Turn pretty, and they're
getting all of their advice from that check.
Speaker 3 (28:57):
I was gonna say that, but I didn't want to
offend you some No, you said it.
Speaker 2 (29:00):
If anyone's getting their relationship advice from the summer, I
turn pretty stop or Euphoria stop. Those those shows are
not for relationship advice. It's to point and be like, ah,
these people are terrible at relationships. At that point, I
just had a blank expression, trying to dismantle the most
complicated pick up attempt of my life. So I just
asked her what in her right mind would make this
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entire setup even remotely work in the real world. Crickets,
but there is a little bit left to this story. Yeah,
these people are too old to be acting this stupid.
Speaker 3 (29:34):
Honestly, this happened to me, and I found her attractive.
I'd be down.
Speaker 2 (29:39):
Yeah, you'd be like kind of flattered, You're crazy kind
of flatter.
Speaker 3 (29:42):
I like the intention here, I like the work and
efforts all for me. Yeah that I kind of would
in a way.
Speaker 2 (29:48):
Wow.
Speaker 3 (29:49):
But once we're getting that relationship, we're gonna boundaries. We're
gonna have to get some things.
Speaker 4 (29:53):
We're gonna rework some stuff.
Speaker 3 (29:55):
Yeah, we're gonna rewire some brains.
Speaker 2 (29:56):
Yeah. Do you okay, wait, poll, do you think that
Ope is going to go for this?
Speaker 4 (30:00):
Oh?
Speaker 3 (30:01):
No, I think no, I don't think so. I think no, Yeah,
never did we Once hear him say I like her,
but maybe it's pretty.
Speaker 2 (30:08):
But maybe that maybe it's like a switcheroo, you know,
where he's like he realizes after, just like he realizes,
I don't know who's like. I didn't even consider her
before because she had a boyfriend. Okay, now I realized
she doesn't. I actually do like her.
Speaker 3 (30:23):
Oh that there could be something there because they're no
longer dating.
Speaker 4 (30:27):
So everyone saw something there.
Speaker 3 (30:29):
Yeah, everyone saw something there except for OP.
Speaker 2 (30:32):
Except for Op.
Speaker 4 (30:34):
That's crazy.
Speaker 1 (30:34):
Wow.
Speaker 3 (30:35):
But then Op needed to come to his own consistence
about it exactly. They were broken up, so then he
could He was like, oh, wow, this actually might be something.
Speaker 4 (30:43):
And OP was like, hmm, maybe I think I like this.
Speaker 3 (30:47):
Yeah that makes sense.
Speaker 4 (30:48):
Yeah, I think that makes sense for OP.
Speaker 3 (30:50):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (30:51):
She just apologized again for all this drama and was
bold enough to ask if we can be an item
or at the very least go back to how things were.
Speaker 3 (30:59):
I don't. I don't, I don't.
Speaker 2 (31:01):
We're not very split, but we got three votes yes,
nine votes no. At this point I just felt a
rolling headache and was still processing everything. Still am really
I just told her I need some space for now
to consider this fiasco here I am. Now I'm probably
not gonna dater.
Speaker 3 (31:20):
No oh pay for love love.
Speaker 2 (31:25):
I thought she'd known me long enough that she could
have just asked me to my face and I would
have given it serious consideration. Now I don't think so.
I'm still going through with it and taking a step
back from all of this, including the mutuals. Thanks for reading, guys.
It seems like, oh p he's.
Speaker 3 (31:42):
No OPI is definitely not physically attracted to her, because
if he was, he would definitely make it happen because
the emotional aspect is there.
Speaker 2 (31:49):
Yeah, we know they have emotional connection.
Speaker 3 (31:51):
Oh you got to do is be like I find
you spicily like looking good, and I'm just I just
let's talk together, right. All that stuff can't fix crazy, no,
but you can sure have fun with it.
Speaker 2 (32:03):
EWW, We've got another story, folks, because that one's over.
Speaker 3 (32:08):
He's Johnny og host here.
Speaker 1 (32:09):
We're gonna get back to the stories.
Speaker 3 (32:10):
But he's a quick three minute break of ASTHM form
our sponsors. I'm uninviting a friend I never actually invited
in the first place.
Speaker 2 (32:16):
Well, then it's not a problem.
Speaker 3 (32:18):
My fiance Mike thirty four. Mail has an acquaintance Jin,
thirties female, and it's looking like we will have to
uninvite her, though she was never actually invited to our
wedding to begin with. We know Jin through mutual friends,
but in our wider social circles she's on the fringe
due to incidents that happened years before we were around.
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By the way, this comes from Montrealska's surprise and if
you want us to your own stories, go to the
Our Size showcase stories. I'm subread at Opie says, despite
being in a serious relationship and moving in with her partner,
Gin has made it clear she has a crush on Mike,
my husband, oh sorry, my fiance. There was a period
where she was text bombing him constantly. On the most
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active day, she see him over fifty messages fifty. She
tried flirting and asked him to meet up for drinks
alone after work. Mike doesn't reciprocate those feelings, and since
decline any one on one interaction good. He shared the
message threads with me because he saw the red flags
and didn't want any room for doubt. When things were
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less obvious, she tried arranging double dates but we generally declined.
One time we went out with him, she made a
butt of herself at the restaurant with gross PDA displays
and trying to dive into spicy sleep talk with kids
with then earshot at the next table.
Speaker 2 (33:42):
No, let's not do that. Let's be aware, be aware
when we're out and about.
Speaker 3 (33:48):
I was a waiter one time and I walked in
on these adults sharing their Adam and Eve search histories
and showing what they were going to get each other.
And there was a double date. It was like two.
Speaker 4 (34:00):
I was like, ah, I don't actually know what that
is they were telling you.
Speaker 3 (34:04):
No, I just walked up on it while I was like,
what do you guys want to drink?
Speaker 4 (34:07):
And they're like, they're like each other.
Speaker 2 (34:09):
And you left. You walked around.
Speaker 3 (34:10):
I wanted to. It was a weird table. All of us,
including her partner, told her we weren't comfortable with where
she was pushing the conversation. She pouted and said we
weren't any fun. She made a big show of wanting
to be girlfriends with me in front of Mike, but
I've never heard from her since. She's made zero effort.
This past weekend, we learned that Jin has been telling
others in our social circles that she's invited to our
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wedding and asking about our gift registry. We don't have one.
We're having a tiny ceremony with less than ten people
and a bigger catered party, but the guest list is
still under fifty due to cost and our friend's backyard capacity.
And even if we weren't having an intentional small wedding,
she still wouldn't be invited because neither of us considered
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her an actual friend.
Speaker 2 (34:56):
I have known people in my like throughout my life
as like, when you are the person who hosts parties,
there's always people that want to come to these parties,
and it's very hard to like invite certain people and
then not others, and you have to be very careful
about how you do that because you want to you
don't want to exclude people, but also don't want to
invite people that you don't like, and some people will
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just invite themselves and you have to be like, Okay,
I guess they're coming to the party, but it is annoying.
Speaker 3 (35:27):
I'm trying to think I have two people in my mind.
Speaker 2 (35:29):
You might know one of them, but this is just
kind of like throughout my life. Yeah, as a as
a person who hosts a lot.
Speaker 3 (35:35):
She's herd. She wasn't invited to his stag party, which
was just a board game night, but she was never
in consideration. She also complained that I overlooked her for
a shower or bachelorette. I didn't even have a shower
because we already are established homeowners and have zero reason
to invite someone who's been disrespectful and isn't my friend.
Speaker 2 (35:58):
It's just you're not my friend.
Speaker 3 (36:00):
Yeah, two separate friends, let us know Jen is spreading
this tale.
Speaker 2 (36:03):
I would be like, Oh, I'm just confused. We're not friends.
Speaker 3 (36:07):
We're not friends. This is weird. We're trying to get
with my husband and it's not working. I feel like
she's doing anything she can to get to the husband.
Speaker 2 (36:14):
Yeah, I agree.
Speaker 3 (36:15):
One tried to understand why she was lying, but by
keeping casual and playing dumb, but she kept invading their questions.
My guess is she's doing this for two reasons. One,
she believes she and Mike are friends and her feelings
are hurt, and she's possibly trying to ferret out details
about the ceremony and party locations. We don't think anyone
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we invited would share this information given the general history. No,
there's a chance she could manipulate it out of someone.
We decided we need a direct conversation with gen Via
text to make it clear she's not invited and that
her behavior is bizarre. After the conversation, we planned a
blocker on social media and messaging platforms. Is this unhinged? Yes?
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Should I vote energy to a thirty something woman who
behaves this way? No? Is this totally absurd? Yes? Does
she need serious help? Definitely?
Speaker 2 (37:10):
I just think if you've shown her no indication that
you guys are friends and she just keeps inviting her, like,
you can absolutely put boundaries down and say, hey, I
just like, these are kind of closer people in our
life that are coming to these events, So I'm gonna
have to put up some boundaries.
Speaker 3 (37:25):
I agree, short and simple, to the point.
Speaker 2 (37:28):
You've never you've never, seemingly never given her any indication
that you guys are friends. So I don't know why.
Speaker 3 (37:34):
Yeah, I really would like it's so weird. The thing
I don't like to read about Reddit stories is I
can't put face names to faces or understand dynamics of
you know whatnot. That would be so much nicer if
I know a friend dynamic and it would be helpful.
I just need five minutes of a video of who
everyone is.
Speaker 2 (37:51):
Yeah, just give me a whole Mmm.
Speaker 5 (37:54):
I would love like especially when when you like read
their like they're like their parentheses, you know what they said. Yeah,
I want a voice recording how they actually sound like,
because sometimes we could be misconstruing it, where like she
sounds sassy, where when she's like, oh no, she sounds nice.
Speaker 3 (38:09):
I agree, because some stories, some things could be misconstrued
over text and actually means another thing than the tone
that was said.
Speaker 2 (38:17):
But here does seem pretty straightforward that she's just not
your friend.
Speaker 4 (38:22):
Yeah, that's weird behavior.
Speaker 3 (38:23):
Opie seems to be snippeted in the bud right now
in this update.
Speaker 1 (38:27):
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Speaker 4 (38:28):
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Speaker 3 (38:33):
Three months later, it's been a while to get back
to this. Summer has been busy with final wedding planning details. Previously,
I posted about having to uninvite my soon to be
husband's acquaintance Jin, even though she was neither invited and
would never be invited. The background is that Jin was
interested in Mike and making it obvious despite being in
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a committed relationship. Mike wasn't interested and thought that politely
showing no reciprocation would let her crush run its course. Instead,
she started telling mutual friends we had invited her when
we had it, and complained about never being invited to
stag or bachelorette parties despite lacking friendship with either of them.
Speaker 2 (39:16):
That's so weird. And her friends weren't like, well, you
guys aren't that close. Yeah, why would you be invited
to those? You're not that close.
Speaker 3 (39:23):
Some friends just want you to hear what you want
to hear.
Speaker 2 (39:26):
Yeah, they're just like, yeah, yes men.
Speaker 3 (39:28):
Uh nev nevan Eva. We weren't initially concerned about her
crashing the wedding or replies to my original posts pressed
upon us that we should be more worried. We took
those comments to heart, and we set up measures with
vendors to prevent her from meddling. The venue owner our
friend whose backyard were using agree she likely won't show up,
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but has security measures in place. Oh wow, including voice
and movement activated cameras that would alert him if she
appeared at the driveway. Okay, how did the voice thing when?
Speaker 2 (40:00):
Yeah, Oh it's weird. It's like you hear you hear
like a scuffle, someone's whispering in the bushes, and it's
like someone's in the bushes.
Speaker 3 (40:11):
The way the property is configured, she'd have to go
through the house and she wouldn't make it that far.
The conversation with Gin happened while I was helping a
friend who broke their wrist and needed a ride to
the er. Mike added me as a third to the
text conversation, so I caught up to it afterward in
the waiting room. Mike opened by wanting to understand if
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there was some misunderstanding, noting the confusion it was causing. Surprisingly,
Jin didn't object to my inclusion and feigned concern about
the stress those rumors were creating, rumors you started.
Speaker 2 (40:45):
Yeah, Yeah, She's like, oh, it's terrible, it's terrible that
these rumors are are flying around.
Speaker 3 (40:52):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (40:53):
I would never want that, And they're like you, you
you started them.
Speaker 3 (40:57):
No, I would never want that for you guys, she
started a wildfire and isn't giving Opie or Mike a
bucket of water.
Speaker 2 (41:06):
She's actively fanning the flames, and she's like, Oh, this
is terrible. Oh it's gonna burn your house down. Oh
it's so bad.
Speaker 3 (41:14):
He pointed out that two separate people had noted her
complaints about being excluded from pre wedding celebrations and her
claims about being invited to our wedding. Jen denied it
at first. She insisted she had it spoken to at
least one of them, and that whatever she said to
the other was probably a misunderstanding. Her vision was that
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she understood she hadn't been invited and assumed her exclusion
was expense spase. She also said she didn't expect to
be invited to pre wedding events because it would be
weird to have a girl at an all male bachelor party,
assuming it would involve spicy gloves. Mike's actual stag party
is a board game night, because that's a hobby that
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gives him joy. But he didn't get into those details.
He just responded that he chose an activity he liked,
he had nothing to do with gender, and he was
keeping it small. Mike responded to her wedding invite denial
was showing her screenshots conversations with the people who brought
this to our attention. They'd given full permission to share. Wow,
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He's like receipts, Yeah, he's got it all. Liar.
Speaker 2 (42:25):
He's like, I know you're a liar, and I proove.
Speaker 3 (42:27):
Jen's tone immediately shifted and she started insisting on moving
to video chat. Weird, if if you're kind of losing
about it, why are you going to video chat?
Speaker 2 (42:37):
I don't know what Jen wants here?
Speaker 3 (42:39):
Jen is mysterious, Mike denied. She kept denying what she said,
insisted those people were lying and causing drama, and got
increasingly upset with all caps, typing and excessive exclamation points,
claiming people in our social group never let her move
on from the past, and we're out to her, and
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then you.
Speaker 2 (43:00):
Send that to all the people that she's that have
said that she's spreading the rumors.
Speaker 3 (43:04):
And then you block her exactly. Mike responded, and he
was sorry if that was the case. He didn't hold
those sentiments and wasn't around when that all went down,
but wanted to emphasize two points. First, an invitation to
the wedding was absolutely not on the table, and second,
while he considered them friendly, his takeaway from their interactions
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was that she was interested in him in a way
that he could not reciprocate if he misread her intentions.
There was at least a desire for friendship he didn't
feel was appropriate to pursue because much of what she
wanted to discuss was awkward and inappropriate given that he
really doesn't know her. He's engaged and she has a
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long term partner.
Speaker 2 (43:49):
Yeah, okay, they both they all are taken.
Speaker 3 (43:53):
And Jin's gonna take this. Yeah, well no with a
maturity No, and in a way probably moved past this
with humility. No. At that point, she kept reiterating how
no one would ever let her move on from ten
years ago.
Speaker 2 (44:13):
It's like, no, that was yesterday girl, and was.
Speaker 3 (44:16):
Upset that no one would recognize her efforts at changing,
claiming the wider social group went out of their way
to bully neurodivergent people. She didn't provide a reason or
apology for making things uncomfortable with her flirting attempts. I'm
confused what happened ten years ago?
Speaker 2 (44:32):
I don't know. I feel like she's claiming that all
of this stuff that's coming up right now happened ten
years ago, when it's like, no, like you're actively creating
issues today.
Speaker 3 (44:40):
Yeah, so I don't really did she cheat or something?
And then she feels like these friends are trying to
come after her.
Speaker 2 (44:46):
I don't understand.
Speaker 3 (44:48):
Did we miss something?
Speaker 2 (44:49):
I don't know? She does keep bringing up the ten
years thing.
Speaker 3 (44:52):
He started to tell her it was probably good in
the conversation since they weren't going to resolve this, but
she beat him to it by blocking him. A few
days later, Mike got messages from her partner, who was
upset that Jin was being attacked and bullied by us
because of her checkered past and present.
Speaker 2 (45:11):
Her checkered present, she's annoying. What Also, your freaking partner
is in love with another guy. Dude, why are you
defending her?
Speaker 3 (45:20):
The guy was trying to defend her, which I understand,
and he wasn't around for those past events. Also, Jin's
not giving him the full idea of what's happening.
Speaker 2 (45:28):
Absolutely lying to him as she has done to everyone else.
Speaker 3 (45:32):
Based on his messages, I assume Jin misrepresented the past
to him as well. Mike thank him for reaching out,
said he understood he was being protective and asked what
the partner understood about everything. The partner repeated Jin's version
that her good friend Mike was being a bad friend
by excluding her and allowing others to bully her about
being autistic and past behavior, and that we had abruptly
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uninvited her because I decided she was a threat and
was jealous. Mike sat him straight by explaining he never
considered Jin a close friend, friendly at best, and wasn't
around for those past events, so his opinions of Gin
were his own. He made it clear Jin had never
been invited to the wedding in the first place.
Speaker 2 (46:16):
Yes, she was never supposed to come.
Speaker 3 (46:19):
He also shared that Jin had been inappropriate in communication
with flirty texts, emojis and request to meet one on one,
offering to share those messages.
Speaker 2 (46:28):
Yeah, show this guy that good, show him the proof.
Speaker 3 (46:33):
Keon, have you seen this happen before?
Speaker 4 (46:35):
Not to this extent?
Speaker 5 (46:36):
No, okay, No, It's it's like we did have somebody
that we're like, we don't want you to hang out
with us anymore. Yeah, and they're like, oh okay, and
they would keep asking, but they wouldn't like do this.
Speaker 4 (46:48):
This is this is weird?
Speaker 2 (46:49):
Is bad?
Speaker 4 (46:49):
This is really bad.
Speaker 2 (46:50):
This is bad. She keeps doing it. Yeah, I think that, Like, uh,
I think you've done it. You give the proof to
the partner and then you say, hey, we're really just
not friends with her.
Speaker 3 (47:00):
Sorry.
Speaker 2 (47:01):
If you're upset about this, goodbye, block.
Speaker 3 (47:03):
Onto my neurodivergent thing. If she is autistic, and she
might have trouble understanding social cues, but Mike did the
right thing by telling her straight up how he felt
and doing it bluntly. Not bluntly, but clearly. But she
still went out of her way to lying to her partner.
Speaker 2 (47:21):
Yeah, it's like, you don't just get away with everything
just because you say you're a nerd A version.
Speaker 3 (47:25):
It's weird.
Speaker 2 (47:26):
It's not a free pass.
Speaker 3 (47:28):
We got a little bit left here. Jin's partner asked
to see some of it. Ooh uh oh, and Mike
shared the more obvious, blatant examples. The partner didn't say
much after that, just thanked Mike and the conversation went away.
We haven't heard from him since. But my guess is
our version didn't match hers, and the jig was up.
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Jin made some vague social media posts about being betrayed
and misunderstood, but Mike didn't take debate. He hasn't blocked
her on Instagram because he wants to keep tabs for now,
but she's mostly back to her usual content selfies. About
a month later, we ran into her at a birthday party.
She didn't say anything to either of us, but didn't
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look happy to see us. We kept our distance, stayed cordial.
No drama resulted, no word on her partner. All I
know is he didn't come with her that night. We
weren't going to ask.
Speaker 2 (48:23):
There we are and they broke up. Yeah, they broke
up and you never have to see Jen again.
Speaker 3 (48:28):
Yay kind Oh no, she has a mastermind plan to
get Mike into her pants.
Speaker 2 (48:35):
I surely hope not. Watch out for Jen.
Speaker 3 (48:38):
People are smart.
Speaker 2 (48:39):
She's a tricksy one.
Speaker 3 (48:40):
She might you never know.
Speaker 2 (48:41):
That's the end of that story and the end of
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Speaker 3 (00:18):
My obsessed friend keeps harassing me, leave me alone. About
a month ago, I, thirty six female, realized that every
time I saw a post from her, thirty seven female,
it made me upset. We don't even live in the
same state anymore, but I don't want her to have
this kind of control over my emotions anymore. By the way,
this comes from could the Speed one And if you
want some of your own stories, go to the our
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slash owcase stories. I'm Subredding, I'm Sophia, and I'm Riley.
Speaker 4 (00:43):
Did you forget your Dave for second? There?
Speaker 3 (00:45):
I was gonna say I was key On, I'm Riley,
I'm not key on.
Speaker 2 (00:49):
I'm Sophia.
Speaker 4 (00:50):
I think I'm key On.
Speaker 3 (00:51):
There we go and OPI says background we weren't together
about ten years ago. For two years when we met,
she was incredibly negative and controlling, constantly telling me how
to make decisions in my life, like not getting a
dog because I wouldn't care for it properly. Well, ha,
my puppa will be seven this Halloween.
Speaker 2 (01:08):
Joke's on you.
Speaker 3 (01:09):
At the same time, she seemed to idolize me and
Claire I was her best friend almost.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
Immediately interesting interesting dynamic.
Speaker 3 (01:17):
There After knowing her for only two weeks, she became
upset and started crying because I didn't invite her to
a girl's night with my friends I'd known since high school.
She said she didn't have many friends and thought I
was really awesome. Hmmm. She begged me to invite her
to everything I did, and would bring up any instance
of me doing something without her, making me feel guilty
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about it.
Speaker 2 (01:38):
I know someone like this.
Speaker 4 (01:40):
Do we know them?
Speaker 2 (01:40):
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (01:41):
Wait, can you make her? Can you meet?
Speaker 4 (01:42):
Her?
Speaker 3 (01:42):
Remarks?
Speaker 2 (01:43):
No, it's all it's fine.
Speaker 3 (01:44):
I want to know. Ah, I thought, Okay, everyone struggles sometimes.
Maybe she's just looking for friends. About three months after
meeting her, she started dating a guy from work. Cool.
I thought, perhaps it's the come boost she needed. To
feel better about herself. Fast forward a year and a half,
my friend insisted I'd be a bridesmaid one of two
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at her wedding. Fine. She and her new husband bought
a house a mile and a half away from mine,
loudly proclaiming there will be much better houses, but we
got this one because we're so close now to you.
Speaker 2 (02:20):
Guys, why are they trying to be so close to
you now?
Speaker 3 (02:22):
We're so close to you? We love you? Omg josh okay.
Six months later, my fiance cheated on me. Yikes, I
left him, sold the house should My friend was furious
with me, screaming that I abandoned her and was an
awful friend.
Speaker 2 (02:37):
Girl Obi was cheated on.
Speaker 3 (02:40):
She said she never would have bought that house if
she'd known I was gonna move?
Speaker 2 (02:43):
Why are you buying houses based off of Op's whereabouts?
Speaker 3 (02:47):
And that there was no point in her living there
now and complain that we aren't two couples anymore.
Speaker 2 (02:53):
Dude at that born and I would cut her off
like if she said that, I'd be like, girl, do
you understand you gotta live your own life?
Speaker 3 (03:01):
What we're getting out here going on? But a year later,
I was healthy and happy when I met some awesome
Brazilian man. We dated and eventually moved farther away. She
moved to another state. When I decided to marry my Brazilian,
I stupidly let her guilt trip me into making her
my bridesmaid.
Speaker 2 (03:20):
Girl, you can't let these type of people guilt trip
you into inviting them to.
Speaker 4 (03:24):
Things you didn't learn the first time.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
Just let them be sad, yeah, or don't tell them
about I don't know.
Speaker 4 (03:30):
That's also very crazy that you just call your partner
my Brazilian.
Speaker 2 (03:34):
When I went to marry my Brazilian.
Speaker 3 (03:36):
Whatever I think Brazilian man, I think of a hot
Brazilian man with the six pack abs a in a speedoup.
Speaker 4 (03:43):
Okay, Okay, I don't think about it.
Speaker 3 (03:46):
I think about or maybe that guy in Riley's mom's head.
Speaker 4 (03:50):
Sure huh.
Speaker 3 (03:51):
My soon to be Osmond invited his huge family. About
fifty people traveled from Brazil alone. She insisted on coming
to my wedding alone, even though it was clear I
was friends with her husband too. She missed her first flight,
forcing someone to leave the rehearsal dinner to pick her
up forty five minutes away instead of arriving that morning
as planned. She got so wasted at the rehearsal dinner
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that a group of us had a carrier back to
the hotel room. At the reception, she continued her sloppy
drinking ended up in bed with a married groomsman from Brazil.
Speaker 2 (04:23):
Isn't she like married? Uh?
Speaker 3 (04:25):
Yeah, yeah, yikes. After she'd been missing for about an hour,
other guys found them and alerted me, causing the entire
wedding to come crashing with the halt while more than
one hundred people ask each other, but isn't she married?
Speaker 2 (04:39):
That's what I asked? Isn't she married?
Speaker 3 (04:42):
This was especially frustrating after she'd insisted on dancing alone
during the anniversary dance because she wouldn't let her husband attend.
Speaker 2 (04:50):
Because she wanted to go hook up with another guy.
Speaker 3 (04:52):
She scowled me and made angry faces in every wedding picture,
even during her bridesmaid speech that she insisted on giving.
Speaker 2 (05:01):
Oh pee, You need to learn a fantastic word. It's
called now. It works in any situation.
Speaker 3 (05:08):
Fun fact, it's a complete sentence too.
Speaker 2 (05:11):
A complete sentence.
Speaker 4 (05:12):
You can also do the Spanish version, No for.
Speaker 3 (05:15):
The German version yet or the Australian version nor Claire.
A year later, my husband and I were happily married
while she left her American husband and was trying to
immigrate to Brazil to be with the guy she cheated
on at my wedding. Hum. She constantly complained about how
things weren't going well or how she was somehow wronged.
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In every situation, nothing was ever her fault. She blamed
her ex husband for their divorce and never told him
she cheated on him at my wedding. So yeah, if
she has no idea why I removed her from my life,
she's completely oblivious. Is it even worth responding? I feel like,
if you don't have anything nice to say, why light
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the pod on fire?
Speaker 2 (05:59):
You know, I would just cut her off, talk to
her husband and tell her that she cheat done him,
but definitely just cut her off. This woman is obsessed
with you. Yeah, and she models her entire life after you,
and that's just too much.
Speaker 3 (06:13):
It is weird. Oh yeah, that's why she's getting after
the Brazilian guy.
Speaker 1 (06:16):
Mm hmm.
Speaker 3 (06:19):
Comment number one. Here's the deal. If you had set
boundaries sooner, I'd say ignore her. But you have a
zero backphone in this relationship. You willingly participate in the
blossoming of the friendship. You let her into your life
despite allegedly not wanting to. You don't just ask people
to be a bridesmaid because they annoy you and not
I agree. You don't spend genuine and significant time with
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the person and then act like it's all on them
and that they are just some nuisance. You completely enabled
her behavior. I agree, given the history of your relationship
with her, it seems typical now that you would do
another spineless thing, not confront her at all, and delete
her out of nowhere. This lady is clearly unhealthy and
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probably codemindent, but you have not helped the situation. You
are no better. Please respond to her and be very
clear about what you did and why you did it.
You are one hundred percent correct to detach from her,
but ghosting is cruel and in this situation unjustified. Comment
to Yes, respond to her. She is a person and
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used to be your friend. The compassionate thing to do
is respectfully respond to her once. Only once is enough.
Being compassionate also benefits yourself, not just the other person.
Tell her very respectfully why you did the thing that
you did. Do not attempt to convince her of anything.
Make it short and direct, Do not send her a paragraph,
say something like I value you as a person and
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respect the friendship we used to have, but at this
point in my life, I just think we are two
different people. I feel it's best for us to go
our separate ways. Something like that, but obviously not the
exact same thing. Tailor it to fit your situation, but
make sure it's objective and clean.
Speaker 2 (07:58):
I I agree. I think they talk.
Speaker 3 (08:00):
We got an update.
Speaker 2 (08:01):
I think talking to her is good just because you guys,
I mean, she was in your wedding. But yeah, I
think maybe just like be honest if you're gonna be
separating or you know, from her. I do kind of
agree with those comments in terms of Op's kind of
enabling this behavior, because I think that if you do
not like someone and you don't want to be their friend,
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which it kind of seems like, oh, he never really
wanted this girl around, it is worse and almost meaner
to lie and like have like continue that friendship. And
I'm not talking about I'm not talking about the type
of people that you don't like and you have to
see them occasionally at like the gym or in friend
group settings and stuff, and you just have to put
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up with them. That's different.
Speaker 3 (08:45):
It feels like you're leading them on.
Speaker 2 (08:46):
Yeah, but like having this woman in your bridal party,
hanging out with her one on one, like living near her,
that is that's leading her on, and it's it's cruel. Yikes,
you know it's it's very reasonable that you don't want
her to be your friend, but like, like stop hanging
out with her at this point. Maybe tell her why.
Speaker 3 (09:04):
I agree, Yeah, tell her why make it? Just say
it once and be done with it. I don't think
you gotta spend a lot of time.
Speaker 2 (09:11):
Just be like, hey, I don't think this friendship is
really working out.
Speaker 3 (09:13):
About two weeks after I posted here, she sent a
message to my sister saying that I'm a lot of
trouble that after my last relationship ended, I forgot what
was important, meaning.
Speaker 2 (09:23):
Her everything revolves around her.
Speaker 3 (09:26):
Told my sister, I was jealous because her Brazilian man
is hotter than mine. What my husband that has a
six pack, where's a thong occasionally and it's just hot.
Speaker 2 (09:36):
That's not what it says.
Speaker 4 (09:37):
That's what I read Riley's projecting between the lines.
Speaker 3 (09:42):
I don't want that. That's just what's embedded to my brain.
What did you Whenever you think of a goth chick,
you think of a chick wearing makeup and black hair, don't.
Speaker 4 (09:51):
You, because that's what it is.
Speaker 3 (09:52):
Okay, Well, that's what a Brazilian man is to me, hot.
Speaker 2 (09:55):
Man in the speedo?
Speaker 4 (09:56):
What did you grow up with that? Brazilian men?
Speaker 3 (10:00):
Why are you so concerned with this? Keon?
Speaker 4 (10:01):
You?
Speaker 3 (10:02):
Good bro?
Speaker 4 (10:02):
I'm so great, but I'm just concerned. I'm not concerned.
I think about Ail, I think about soccer.
Speaker 3 (10:10):
Three weeks after my Reddit post, she sent me a
direct message saying she'd supported me through a lot and
that I wouldn't have made it without her, and I
owed her an explanation. I decided this was the time.
Thanks to the replies in my previous post, the words
flowed much easier than I thought they would. I realized
our relationship was not healthy from the beginning. I think
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it's time we go our separate ways. I wish you
the best.
Speaker 2 (10:34):
I think that's perfect.
Speaker 3 (10:35):
Her reply was a list of all the time she'd
help me, putting me in her wedding. What loo to
the guys? She later cheated on at my wedding and
including the other time she helped me by inviting herself
last minute on her road trip she didn't want to
go on, then complaining the entire weekend. She was obviously
upset and sent ten or twelve long messages before finally stopping.
(10:59):
She posted seven or eight passive aggressive real friends are
post on Facebook according to mutual friends, we have a
little bit more here.
Speaker 2 (11:07):
I think after that you just stopped texting her. Yeah,
you've said what you need to say, and then we
just stopped responding after that. If she's gotta keep going on.
Speaker 4 (11:16):
And on and guess what easy thing you can also do?
Speaker 3 (11:18):
Block block block, bink boom, you're out of here. Mm hmm,
I agree, I agreed. Hope you continues. She showed up
at my dad's house that evening, very wasted, standing on
the porch screaming for them to tell her the truth,
What truth about what? My stepmother called the police after
about fifteen minutes, when it became clear she wasn't leaving.
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They didn't even open the door. Two officers arrived and
she proceeded to yell at them. She was arrested. The
officers gave my dad their information mentioned restraining orders and
left no contact from her since dang, I'm glad I
don't live near here anymore.
Speaker 2 (11:54):
M boo good day.
Speaker 3 (11:56):
Knows what that woman would have done if you lived
near here?
Speaker 2 (11:59):
Y Hi, Thank goodness you got out of there. I mean,
it sucks that you got cheated on, but you know
certain the good things came out of it in that
you had to move away from this crazy lady.
Speaker 3 (12:11):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:12):
Yeah, and you found out how Brazilian man.
Speaker 3 (12:14):
That's right there you go.
Speaker 2 (12:15):
But that's the end of that story, folks, And we've
got another one coming right up.
Speaker 3 (12:20):
Yay. Sophia's favorite part of the day is reading stories.
Speaker 2 (12:24):
I stepped back from our friendship after she had a date,
but she didn't like it.
Speaker 3 (12:29):
You can't have your cake and eat it too, So I.
Speaker 2 (12:31):
Twenty six mail talked to my close friend twenty four
female and suggested we tone back on our hangouts and
chats because they told me a couple of weeks ago
that they have started officially dating someone. Oh I'm genuinely
happy for She told me that they have been seeing
each other for six months and called it official a
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month ago. Who is this keon?
Speaker 4 (12:55):
It was like four months.
Speaker 3 (12:56):
Come on, it's like four What are you someone that
is from LA? Yeah, that's how every LA relationship is going. Okay,
don't count yourself out of this. Don't count yourself.
Speaker 2 (13:06):
Out of this and this yet.
Speaker 3 (13:08):
Yes, you are five, you are right now, it's not
even it's not even the month. Yeah, no in two months?
Speaker 2 (13:15):
No?
Speaker 3 (13:15):
Oh my god. Yeah, dude. Times moving so slow.
Speaker 2 (13:18):
By the way, this comes from hard to follow, and
if you want to submit your own stories, go to
the r slash. Okay, storytime? Supured it? So now, before this,
we could talk and hang out pretty often, platonically, at
least in my perspective, about a few times a week
and almost daily with late night chats upwards of three am.
Speaker 3 (13:37):
See why are you not with her if I'm talking
to three am every night? Yeah, you're in banking, you're
in love.
Speaker 2 (13:43):
I don't talk to anyone until three am at night.
Speaker 3 (13:47):
Actually, I've pulled like every time we see my boy
rags we pull all niners all the time.
Speaker 2 (13:51):
Yeah, I know, I'm not.
Speaker 3 (13:52):
We have a lot to catch up on.
Speaker 2 (13:53):
We've known each other for a few years and met
at a doctor's office when she noticed me playing a
gotcha game and we talked and bonded from our mutual
love of games and nerdy stuff.
Speaker 3 (14:03):
And then you got her.
Speaker 2 (14:04):
Now. Of course, I think both guys and gals can
be great friends with boundaries and lines. However, in my mind,
if I was seeing someone, I wouldn't really want them
hanging out with and talking NonStop with a guy to
this extent, especially if I don't know them.
Speaker 3 (14:20):
I like Opie's respective on this, giving the you know respective, He's.
Speaker 2 (14:24):
The one I'm going into it with a lot of respect.
Speaker 3 (14:26):
I like this.
Speaker 2 (14:27):
I think that if Opie and his friend had kind
of a very normal, not normal friendship, but you know,
like they weren't talking until three am, they were just
hanging out a couple times a week, and you know,
normal friendship stuff, then I'd be like, Oh, you don't
have to cut back on that. But I understand why
he wants to cut back on this stuff.
Speaker 3 (14:44):
I agreed. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (14:45):
She told me about her relationship a couple of weeks
ago and mentioned that her boyfriend has gotten a little
nosy recently. Whenever we would text about stuff. I asked
her if she told and showed him our chats and stuff.
She said no, because she deserves a private life too. Yeah, okay,
but you can you don't necessarily have to approach it
from the sense of like here you can look through
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all my stuff so that we trust each other. It
can just be like, oh god, this is what he said,
Like he said this today.
Speaker 3 (15:11):
If Angie and I started dating today and we were
hanging out, I'd be like, Hey, by the way, one
of my close friends is Sofia. This is what I
talked about on our first days, like my roommates Sofia,
she's awesome, she's great. You'd love her. And I mentioned
you in these conversations and would kind of get things
rolling on that so we you know, and then you
guys eventually met. It would be so weird if you
guys never met we like work together, hang out or friends.
Speaker 2 (15:34):
No, I do you think it's kind of weird when
people don't bring their partners around their friends.
Speaker 3 (15:38):
Also, I'm okay with girls having guy friends, but this
is like I'm not okay with girls having guy friends.
If that makes sense. You know what you see? Do
you kind of see the difference here?
Speaker 2 (15:47):
Well, I think there is a difference here because you're
staying up until three am. Like this is like a
very close relationship.
Speaker 3 (15:54):
Kind of dipping into the emotional assistance.
Speaker 2 (15:57):
I would agree, which is which Opie understands. I completely
understand that, but we really only talk about games, movies, comics,
et cetera. It wouldn't hurt to just show him. I
suggested it. She again said no and that he doesn't
really like our interests. That's completely fine, and I dropped it, though,
after informing her that from a guy's perspective, talking to
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a dude then hiding the conversations and being secretive about
it can seem dang sucks. As for the boyfriend, I
know next to nothing about him, and she always skirted
around any details about him. Our mutual friends know about
him apparently, though for some reason she always seems to
be pretty secretive about it. Sort of feels like I'm
just being left in the dark. I have other female
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friends and relationships and this was never an issue. According
to her, she just doesn't want us to know about
each other as it may start conflicts since she talks
to me more often than him. She's also mentioned that
she tells him she's hanging out with the girls whenever
we meet up to hang out, so she's lying. So
this is just totally not a gay. I know she's lying.
Speaker 4 (17:00):
Oh somebody is insecure?
Speaker 2 (17:02):
Yeah, I h why is she lying?
Speaker 3 (17:05):
Also wrestling, Alma says she has a crush of a pe. Yeah.
Why are you not dating?
Speaker 2 (17:08):
Though?
Speaker 3 (17:09):
Op?
Speaker 2 (17:09):
Well, I think that if she's using you to talk
again until three in the morning, and also lying to
her current boyfriend about your guys's relationship and being unwilling
to share kind of what you guys are talking about,
this is not okay.
Speaker 3 (17:22):
Like, for example, my girlfriend has a guy be's friend.
It's her neighbor that she grew up with. All the time,
they go out and they talk about things that they
have in common, and it's totally cool and fine, but
they're not hanging out multiple times a week till three
o'clock in the morning. You know, they're just like, oh,
let's catch up in great And I feel like you
do need that in a relationship where you're not relying
on your partner for all these things.
Speaker 4 (17:41):
I absolutely agree for guys not to have anything incommon. Oh,
you'll be like at least one thing.
Speaker 3 (17:47):
Yeah, the boink, And that's all they have in common,
which is.
Speaker 2 (17:51):
To me kind of mean and a bit dishonest. I
talked with her further about her relationship, and she's pretty
serious about him and loves him. After rolling over it
for a few days, I suggested to her that we
should probably take a couple steps back and hang out
or talk a bit less, because I want her to
focus on herself and her relationship.
Speaker 3 (18:09):
Gold Star FORPI.
Speaker 2 (18:11):
I do genuinely care for her and want the best
to come her way. I also don't really want to
be the topic of drama to add to my list
of stress. I explained this to her as kindly and
as understanding as I could, but she just sort of
blew up at me and stormed off. Later on, she
sent me a truckload of messages, some sad, some angry,
some rude remarks on my looks.
Speaker 3 (18:33):
That's probably why she doesn't want to date you, is
because you look ugly.
Speaker 2 (18:37):
Because you're ugly.
Speaker 3 (18:38):
Dang Probably. I mean, the emotional side seems to be there,
but she's probably She's probably someone that likes a physical
look too.
Speaker 2 (18:46):
Yesterday morning I woke up to some messages from some
mutual friends calling me names and berating me for pushing
her away. I'm so confused right now. Last night she
told me she wants to talk today. Our mutual friends
also seemed to have stopped the instrument too. I think
I'll meet her again today to see just what is
going on. Is there anything I should ask her specifically?
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I do want us to stay friends, of course, and
just want to set some boundaries that we may not
have initially established. And there are some comments, but I
would be like, hey, why are you talking to our
other friends? Like why are you complaining to our other
friends about this? Could we have that conversation?
Speaker 4 (19:23):
And also I'm doing this for you.
Speaker 2 (19:25):
Yeah, I'm just trying to create you know, I'm trying
to save your relationship in the long run.
Speaker 3 (19:29):
She's probably going to everyone yeah, saying, oh my gosh,
he doesn't want to talk to me anymore, he hates me,
blah blah blah blahh.
Speaker 2 (19:36):
That's not at all what's going on? Why are you
being so mean? But there are some comments and hopefully
they'll they'll help Oppe figure out what to do.
Speaker 3 (19:45):
And some people are saying that the boyfriend's.
Speaker 4 (19:48):
Fake, oh to get op jealous or something.
Speaker 3 (19:50):
Ooh see how he really feels about the Relationshipah.
Speaker 4 (19:54):
Get gem jealous or wound him up or something.
Speaker 2 (19:57):
Like that blank Lizard says, definitely establish the boundaries. Let
her know you don't want any part in her dishonesty
with her boyfriend. I think it would probably help all
parties if you did meet. Could help put everyone at ease.
I think it's a little bizarre that she's keeping you
away from him, so I definitely ask her why that is.
It's also not your job to moderate her relationship with
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her boyfriend and who she talks to and how often.
If boyfriend has a problem with how much she talks
to you, that's up to him to bring it up.
You sound like a supportive friend. I don't think you're
overstepping by maintaining that friendship. That said, if she's being
cagy over introducing the two of you for other reasons,
that's something you're gonna want to find out. Boo boop
boop boop beep, boop boop beep. She's acting weirdly possessive
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of you. I would never talk to a friend the
way she's talking to you. Please think would you do
or say these things to a friend? And if your
answer is no, then why are you making excuses for
this friend? Because she's never mahade like this before. It's
just your way of trying to minimize the situation. The
comments from mutual friends, such as her boyfriend is better
than you did not just come out of nowhere. She's
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talking negatively about you to others. There's just a lot
of inappropriate behaviors going on here that should not be
excused or minimized. Yum and Opie says, Yeah, you're probably right.
I don't really know what they talk about, as I
don't appear in our friend group pretty often, so I'm
not as tightly interwoven with them as her. I've just
been thinking back on a lot of the things and
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started noticing the small stuff when I was more oblivious
at the time. She always did this thing where she
would tug on my shirt to get my attention or
lightly slap my back when excited.
Speaker 3 (21:35):
She likes you, well you.
Speaker 2 (21:37):
She would laugh really hard at dumb jokes so much
you then go really quiet if it seemed like I
ignored her when spacing out. When hanging out in group
with said mutuals, she'd always be glued to my side,
even when I went to talk to some others across
the room.
Speaker 3 (21:53):
Oblivious.
Speaker 2 (21:56):
She would also interject when any of our female friends
came up to talk to me about something and changed
the subject to something else. If she wasn't invested. Thinking
on it, it's a tad creepy in a way. Her possessiveness,
as you call it, has sort of ramped up since
she announced to me that she was in a relationship.
One moment that stands out to me now is recently,
at a party, I jokingly asked her to wingman me tonight,
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and she vehemently denied in all seriousness, stating, none of
these girls are good for you.
Speaker 3 (22:25):
Trust me, There's only one girl good enough for you here.
Speaker 2 (22:28):
Why are another girls good for ope?
Speaker 3 (22:30):
Oh girl, because there's only one that is worthy. Yeah,
it's her of unlocking his chastity belt, you know.
Speaker 2 (22:37):
I just shrugged it off. Is she keeping me as
a backup or something? I really don't see platonic friendships
working like this, Boo Boo Beep says. It definitely sounds
like she wants to keep you as a backup or
just as her guy friend that gives her all the
attention she wants yep, without the commitment.
Speaker 3 (22:54):
That's what I was about to say, yeap.
Speaker 2 (22:55):
Yeap, Yeah, yeah, exactly what she wants. Let me ask
you this, what do you think what happen to your
friendship with her? Once you have a girlfriend? Do you
think she'll be nice? Do you think she'll respect your relationship?
Keep in mind she's not respecting her own relationship. And
there is an update two days later.
Speaker 3 (23:12):
Oh boy, Yeah, this is definitely.
Speaker 2 (23:15):
He's finally figuring it out.
Speaker 3 (23:16):
This is definitely the girl has a backup or another
friend that she gets all the attention to. I've seen
this happen where this guy and girl will be hanging out.
The guy kind of has a crush on her, but
she's not. She's just like, oh, we'll just be friends.
And the guy's hanging out because he thinks there's still
a chance. But then the guys going out kind of
dating know the girls, and that girl gets a little
jealous and starts getting a little bit more snappy and spiteful.
Speaker 2 (23:39):
Because she doesn't have that attention anymore.
Speaker 3 (23:41):
That's who you are, Opie, and you've gotten yourself in
slippery sloued, which I think you could if you like
your back you can definitely get out of this.
Speaker 2 (23:48):
But it doesn't seem like Opie does. It seems like
he just wants friendship update two days later. So we
met a couple days ago and talked at our usual cafe.
As soon as I walked in, she seems really awkward
in fidgety. Not a second after I sat down, she
blurted out an apology for snapping and storming off, as
well as all the things that were said from her
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and by our mutual friends. I was about to apologize
as well, However, she told me I didn't need to
apologize for anything, and she had to really tell me
something and asked me to just keep an open mind.
Speaker 3 (24:21):
Keep an open mind.
Speaker 2 (24:22):
I think she's gotta confess. Confused, I nodded. She told
me that she wasn't exactly honest with me oh a while,
and that she's been lying to me. It turns out
she never had a boyfriend.
Speaker 3 (24:34):
You guys were right, What the hell?
Speaker 2 (24:36):
I'm shocked. I was like, No, there's no way, there's
no way that she could lie to everyone.
Speaker 3 (24:42):
Crazy did crazy?
Speaker 2 (24:45):
No, wonder all your guys' friends were like, what, like, oh,
why are you switching up? Why are you not being
friends with her?
Speaker 3 (24:51):
He lives in Canada, he goes to a different school,
all the things. He's just not in town right now.
Speaker 2 (24:56):
I'm shocked. I'm shocked.
Speaker 3 (25:00):
No sense you guys called that I was.
Speaker 2 (25:02):
I didn't believe you, guys.
Speaker 3 (25:03):
I was kind of on the fence about it, but
I was more on the no. I was on the
no side. I thought he was real. Also, OP never
said I know what a social looks like, yeah, or
try to reach out because Ope seems like the guy that.
Speaker 2 (25:12):
Well, we just believe that he existed, So I believed Op.
Speaker 4 (25:15):
Again.
Speaker 5 (25:15):
The thing that really stood out to me is like,
I've never met the guy or talked to the guy,
and we have nothing in common.
Speaker 2 (25:22):
Yeah, nothing is Yeah, yeah, she called out. It turns
out that she has liked me for a long time.
Speaker 3 (25:27):
Now I called it.
Speaker 2 (25:29):
Well, that wasn't that well, But because of how long
we've been friends, she didn't know how to bring it
up and instead made a fake boyfriend. Our mutual friends
decided to help her out. Everyone was in on this
and cook up a story about her having a boyfriend
to test the waters and see if I would be
jealous and awaken my feelings and fight for her. This
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is becoming a TV drama. Oh my god, all of
your friends are dumb.
Speaker 4 (25:56):
Also, they probably didn't know to that extent.
Speaker 3 (25:59):
Nob they knew.
Speaker 2 (25:59):
They cooked up the story.
Speaker 3 (26:01):
Also, if she's this crazy as friends as friends, think
how crazy it's gonna be under the sheets.
Speaker 2 (26:08):
Oh wait, no, okay.
Speaker 3 (26:10):
Well, I mean, come on, Kean, back me up here,
don't back them up, back me up here.
Speaker 2 (26:14):
Don't back them up, Kean, don't back them out. If
they're toxic out here, think about that and Mingming, I
think they're like twenty.
Speaker 4 (26:20):
Five a starfish who knows no wonder.
Speaker 2 (26:23):
I knew next to nothing about the boyfriend. She was
trying to spin the story that she was keeping our
friendship a secret as to, in her words, keep the
door open for me. She started hinting that her boyfriend
started getting nosy and a little jealous of how much
we talk as to start stirring the pot with me.
Speaker 3 (26:40):
Dude.
Speaker 2 (26:41):
However, that had literally the opposite effect. As soon as
I started trying to help her fix her boyfriend issue,
she thought it was a good sign and we could
start broaching the topic of relationships. I know the sounds
convoluted as f and I'm just as confused as y'all are.
Speaker 3 (26:57):
You can watching too much TV, girl, This is crazy.
Speaker 2 (27:02):
You just talk to him, talk to him, be an
adult your feelings.
Speaker 3 (27:06):
I like you also, Opie, how oblivious do you have
to be to now understand that, OPI, that this girl
has a crush on you, Like what talking to three
o'clock in the morning and you don't even think she
has a crush on you?
Speaker 2 (27:19):
Literally, I'm like, that was never that was never put
on it.
Speaker 3 (27:22):
If I ever talked to a girl past three o'clock
in the mornings because I somewhat have a crush on
her multiple nights in a row or more than one night.
Speaker 2 (27:28):
There's no way that you were disrupting your sleep schedule
that much, unless, like some or at least one person.
Speaker 3 (27:33):
Has feeling I could probably chut out with Sophia like
once till three o'clock in the morning, but after that
it wouldn't be multiple nights. I couldn't do that. I
get so bored to her.
Speaker 2 (27:41):
After that I would be asleep, She wouldn't be away.
Speaker 3 (27:45):
Riley, you have to go to bed.
Speaker 2 (27:47):
Okay, let's play red den redemption.
Speaker 4 (27:50):
She probably thought, because this girl seems like the type
to overthink a bunch and like make this elaborate plan.
The fact that like she's probably like he doesn't get
the hint, like I touched his back.
Speaker 2 (28:02):
Yeah, I touched his back.
Speaker 4 (28:03):
I rubbed his back like multiple times, and I'm like
close to him. He should understand. Maybe he just like
needs the next an extra push.
Speaker 2 (28:10):
Though, from my perspective, she flatly refused any of my
suggestions to assuage her imaginary boyfriend's jealousy, So I just
suggested to her that we should tone us down a bit.
This apparently frustrated her, and that led to her blow up.
She vented to her friends and they pestered me a
bit idiots, telling me I'm throwing away something good and
all that. That's when some comments from our mutuals started
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making even more sense.
Speaker 3 (28:34):
They're just trying to you, knowing wing woman badly.
Speaker 4 (28:38):
You think one of your friends would have been like, hey,
like low key, she like this is just because she
likes you.
Speaker 3 (28:45):
Yeah yeah. Also, whatever TV show, reality TV show you
guys are all watching together on Thursday night, it pixel melts.
Speaker 2 (28:52):
They're all watching the summer I Turn pretty, and they're
getting all of their advice from that check.
Speaker 3 (28:57):
I was gonna say that, but I didn't want to
offend you some No, you said it.
Speaker 2 (29:00):
If anyone's getting their relationship advice from the summer, I
turn pretty stop or Euphoria stop. Those those shows are
not for relationship advice. It's to point and be like, ah,
these people are terrible at relationships. At that point, I
just had a blank expression, trying to dismantle the most
complicated pick up attempt of my life. So I just
asked her what in her right mind would make this
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entire setup even remotely work in the real world. Crickets,
but there is a little bit left to this story. Yeah,
these people are too old to be acting this stupid.
Speaker 3 (29:34):
Honestly, this happened to me, and I found her attractive.
I'd be down.
Speaker 2 (29:39):
Yeah, you'd be like kind of flattered, You're crazy kind
of flatter.
Speaker 3 (29:42):
I like the intention here, I like the work and
efforts all for me. Yeah that I kind of would
in a way.
Speaker 2 (29:48):
Wow.
Speaker 3 (29:49):
But once we're getting that relationship, we're gonna boundaries. We're
gonna have to get some things.
Speaker 4 (29:53):
We're gonna rework some stuff.
Speaker 3 (29:55):
Yeah, we're gonna rewire some brains.
Speaker 2 (29:56):
Yeah. Do you okay, wait, poll, do you think that
Ope is going to go for this?
Speaker 4 (30:00):
Oh?
Speaker 3 (30:01):
No, I think no, I don't think so. I think no, Yeah,
never did we Once hear him say I like her,
but maybe it's pretty.
Speaker 2 (30:08):
But maybe that maybe it's like a switcheroo, you know,
where he's like he realizes after, just like he realizes,
I don't know who's like. I didn't even consider her
before because she had a boyfriend. Okay, now I realized
she doesn't. I actually do like her.
Speaker 3 (30:23):
Oh that there could be something there because they're no
longer dating.
Speaker 4 (30:27):
So everyone saw something there.
Speaker 3 (30:29):
Yeah, everyone saw something there except for OP.
Speaker 2 (30:32):
Except for Op.
Speaker 4 (30:34):
That's crazy.
Speaker 1 (30:34):
Wow.
Speaker 3 (30:35):
But then Op needed to come to his own consistence
about it exactly. They were broken up, so then he
could He was like, oh, wow, this actually might be something.
Speaker 4 (30:43):
And OP was like, hmm, maybe I think I like this.
Speaker 3 (30:47):
Yeah that makes sense.
Speaker 4 (30:48):
Yeah, I think that makes sense for OP.
Speaker 3 (30:50):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (30:51):
She just apologized again for all this drama and was
bold enough to ask if we can be an item
or at the very least go back to how things were.
Speaker 3 (30:59):
I don't. I don't, I don't.
Speaker 2 (31:01):
We're not very split, but we got three votes yes,
nine votes no. At this point I just felt a
rolling headache and was still processing everything. Still am really
I just told her I need some space for now
to consider this fiasco here I am. Now I'm probably
not gonna dater.
Speaker 3 (31:20):
No oh pay for love love.
Speaker 2 (31:25):
I thought she'd known me long enough that she could
have just asked me to my face and I would
have given it serious consideration. Now I don't think so.
I'm still going through with it and taking a step
back from all of this, including the mutuals. Thanks for reading, guys.
It seems like, oh p he's.
Speaker 3 (31:42):
No OPI is definitely not physically attracted to her, because
if he was, he would definitely make it happen because
the emotional aspect is there.
Speaker 2 (31:49):
Yeah, we know they have emotional connection.
Speaker 3 (31:51):
Oh you got to do is be like I find
you spicily like looking good, and I'm just I just
let's talk together, right. All that stuff can't fix crazy, no,
but you can sure have fun with it.
Speaker 2 (32:03):
EWW, We've got another story, folks, because that one's over.
Speaker 3 (32:08):
He's Johnny og host here.
Speaker 1 (32:09):
We're gonna get back to the stories.
Speaker 3 (32:10):
But he's a quick three minute break of ASTHM form
our sponsors. I'm uninviting a friend I never actually invited
in the first place.
Speaker 2 (32:16):
Well, then it's not a problem.
Speaker 3 (32:18):
My fiance Mike thirty four. Mail has an acquaintance Jin,
thirties female, and it's looking like we will have to
uninvite her, though she was never actually invited to our
wedding to begin with. We know Jin through mutual friends,
but in our wider social circles she's on the fringe
due to incidents that happened years before we were around.
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By the way, this comes from Montrealska's surprise and if
you want us to your own stories, go to the
Our Size showcase stories. I'm subread at Opie says, despite
being in a serious relationship and moving in with her partner,
Gin has made it clear she has a crush on Mike,
my husband, oh sorry, my fiance. There was a period
where she was text bombing him constantly. On the most
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active day, she see him over fifty messages fifty. She
tried flirting and asked him to meet up for drinks
alone after work. Mike doesn't reciprocate those feelings, and since
decline any one on one interaction good. He shared the
message threads with me because he saw the red flags
and didn't want any room for doubt. When things were
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less obvious, she tried arranging double dates but we generally declined.
One time we went out with him, she made a
butt of herself at the restaurant with gross PDA displays
and trying to dive into spicy sleep talk with kids
with then earshot at the next table.
Speaker 2 (33:42):
No, let's not do that. Let's be aware, be aware
when we're out and about.
Speaker 3 (33:48):
I was a waiter one time and I walked in
on these adults sharing their Adam and Eve search histories
and showing what they were going to get each other.
And there was a double date. It was like two.
Speaker 4 (34:00):
I was like, ah, I don't actually know what that
is they were telling you.
Speaker 3 (34:04):
No, I just walked up on it while I was like,
what do you guys want to drink?
Speaker 4 (34:07):
And they're like, they're like each other.
Speaker 2 (34:09):
And you left. You walked around.
Speaker 3 (34:10):
I wanted to. It was a weird table. All of us,
including her partner, told her we weren't comfortable with where
she was pushing the conversation. She pouted and said we
weren't any fun. She made a big show of wanting
to be girlfriends with me in front of Mike, but
I've never heard from her since. She's made zero effort.
This past weekend, we learned that Jin has been telling
others in our social circles that she's invited to our
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wedding and asking about our gift registry. We don't have one.
We're having a tiny ceremony with less than ten people
and a bigger catered party, but the guest list is
still under fifty due to cost and our friend's backyard capacity.
And even if we weren't having an intentional small wedding,
she still wouldn't be invited because neither of us considered
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her an actual friend.
Speaker 2 (34:56):
I have known people in my like throughout my life
as like, when you are the person who hosts parties,
there's always people that want to come to these parties,
and it's very hard to like invite certain people and
then not others, and you have to be very careful
about how you do that because you want to you
don't want to exclude people, but also don't want to
invite people that you don't like, and some people will
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just invite themselves and you have to be like, Okay,
I guess they're coming to the party, but it is annoying.
Speaker 3 (35:27):
I'm trying to think I have two people in my mind.
Speaker 2 (35:29):
You might know one of them, but this is just
kind of like throughout my life. Yeah, as a as
a person who hosts a lot.
Speaker 3 (35:35):
She's herd. She wasn't invited to his stag party, which
was just a board game night, but she was never
in consideration. She also complained that I overlooked her for
a shower or bachelorette. I didn't even have a shower
because we already are established homeowners and have zero reason
to invite someone who's been disrespectful and isn't my friend.
Speaker 2 (35:58):
It's just you're not my friend.
Speaker 3 (36:00):
Yeah, two separate friends, let us know Jen is spreading
this tale.
Speaker 2 (36:03):
I would be like, Oh, I'm just confused. We're not friends.
Speaker 3 (36:07):
We're not friends. This is weird. We're trying to get
with my husband and it's not working. I feel like
she's doing anything she can to get to the husband.
Speaker 2 (36:14):
Yeah, I agree.
Speaker 3 (36:15):
One tried to understand why she was lying, but by
keeping casual and playing dumb, but she kept invading their questions.
My guess is she's doing this for two reasons. One,
she believes she and Mike are friends and her feelings
are hurt, and she's possibly trying to ferret out details
about the ceremony and party locations. We don't think anyone
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we invited would share this information given the general history. No,
there's a chance she could manipulate it out of someone.
We decided we need a direct conversation with gen Via
text to make it clear she's not invited and that
her behavior is bizarre. After the conversation, we planned a
blocker on social media and messaging platforms. Is this unhinged? Yes?
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Should I vote energy to a thirty something woman who
behaves this way? No? Is this totally absurd? Yes? Does
she need serious help? Definitely?
Speaker 2 (37:10):
I just think if you've shown her no indication that
you guys are friends and she just keeps inviting her, like,
you can absolutely put boundaries down and say, hey, I
just like, these are kind of closer people in our
life that are coming to these events, So I'm gonna
have to put up some boundaries.
Speaker 3 (37:25):
I agree, short and simple, to the point.
Speaker 2 (37:28):
You've never you've never, seemingly never given her any indication
that you guys are friends. So I don't know why.
Speaker 3 (37:34):
Yeah, I really would like it's so weird. The thing
I don't like to read about Reddit stories is I
can't put face names to faces or understand dynamics of
you know whatnot. That would be so much nicer if
I know a friend dynamic and it would be helpful.
I just need five minutes of a video of who
everyone is.
Speaker 2 (37:51):
Yeah, just give me a whole Mmm.
Speaker 5 (37:54):
I would love like especially when when you like read
their like they're like their parentheses, you know what they said. Yeah,
I want a voice recording how they actually sound like,
because sometimes we could be misconstruing it, where like she
sounds sassy, where when she's like, oh no, she sounds nice.
Speaker 3 (38:09):
I agree, because some stories, some things could be misconstrued
over text and actually means another thing than the tone
that was said.
Speaker 2 (38:17):
But here does seem pretty straightforward that she's just not
your friend.
Speaker 4 (38:22):
Yeah, that's weird behavior.
Speaker 3 (38:23):
Opie seems to be snippeted in the bud right now
in this update.
Speaker 1 (38:27):
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Speaker 4 (38:28):
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Speaker 3 (38:33):
Three months later, it's been a while to get back
to this. Summer has been busy with final wedding planning details. Previously,
I posted about having to uninvite my soon to be
husband's acquaintance Jin, even though she was neither invited and
would never be invited. The background is that Jin was
interested in Mike and making it obvious despite being in
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a committed relationship. Mike wasn't interested and thought that politely
showing no reciprocation would let her crush run its course. Instead,
she started telling mutual friends we had invited her when
we had it, and complained about never being invited to
stag or bachelorette parties despite lacking friendship with either of them.
Speaker 2 (39:16):
That's so weird. And her friends weren't like, well, you
guys aren't that close. Yeah, why would you be invited
to those? You're not that close.
Speaker 3 (39:23):
Some friends just want you to hear what you want
to hear.
Speaker 2 (39:26):
Yeah, they're just like, yeah, yes men.
Speaker 3 (39:28):
Uh nev nevan Eva. We weren't initially concerned about her
crashing the wedding or replies to my original posts pressed
upon us that we should be more worried. We took
those comments to heart, and we set up measures with
vendors to prevent her from meddling. The venue owner our
friend whose backyard were using agree she likely won't show up,
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but has security measures in place. Oh wow, including voice
and movement activated cameras that would alert him if she
appeared at the driveway. Okay, how did the voice thing when?
Speaker 2 (40:00):
Yeah, Oh it's weird. It's like you hear you hear
like a scuffle, someone's whispering in the bushes, and it's
like someone's in the bushes.
Speaker 3 (40:11):
The way the property is configured, she'd have to go
through the house and she wouldn't make it that far.
The conversation with Gin happened while I was helping a
friend who broke their wrist and needed a ride to
the er. Mike added me as a third to the
text conversation, so I caught up to it afterward in
the waiting room. Mike opened by wanting to understand if
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there was some misunderstanding, noting the confusion it was causing. Surprisingly,
Jin didn't object to my inclusion and feigned concern about
the stress those rumors were creating, rumors you started.
Speaker 2 (40:45):
Yeah, Yeah, She's like, oh, it's terrible, it's terrible that
these rumors are are flying around.
Speaker 3 (40:52):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (40:53):
I would never want that, And they're like you, you
you started them.
Speaker 3 (40:57):
No, I would never want that for you guys, she
started a wildfire and isn't giving Opie or Mike a
bucket of water.
Speaker 2 (41:06):
She's actively fanning the flames, and she's like, Oh, this
is terrible. Oh it's gonna burn your house down. Oh
it's so bad.
Speaker 3 (41:14):
He pointed out that two separate people had noted her
complaints about being excluded from pre wedding celebrations and her
claims about being invited to our wedding. Jen denied it
at first. She insisted she had it spoken to at
least one of them, and that whatever she said to
the other was probably a misunderstanding. Her vision was that
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she understood she hadn't been invited and assumed her exclusion
was expense spase. She also said she didn't expect to
be invited to pre wedding events because it would be
weird to have a girl at an all male bachelor party,
assuming it would involve spicy gloves. Mike's actual stag party
is a board game night, because that's a hobby that
(41:58):
gives him joy. But he didn't get into those details.
He just responded that he chose an activity he liked,
he had nothing to do with gender, and he was
keeping it small. Mike responded to her wedding invite denial
was showing her screenshots conversations with the people who brought
this to our attention. They'd given full permission to share. Wow,
(42:21):
He's like receipts, Yeah, he's got it all. Liar.
Speaker 2 (42:25):
He's like, I know you're a liar, and I proove.
Speaker 3 (42:27):
Jen's tone immediately shifted and she started insisting on moving
to video chat. Weird, if if you're kind of losing
about it, why are you going to video chat?
Speaker 2 (42:37):
I don't know what Jen wants here?
Speaker 3 (42:39):
Jen is mysterious, Mike denied. She kept denying what she said,
insisted those people were lying and causing drama, and got
increasingly upset with all caps, typing and excessive exclamation points,
claiming people in our social group never let her move
on from the past, and we're out to her, and
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then you.
Speaker 2 (43:00):
Send that to all the people that she's that have
said that she's spreading the rumors.
Speaker 3 (43:04):
And then you block her exactly. Mike responded, and he
was sorry if that was the case. He didn't hold
those sentiments and wasn't around when that all went down,
but wanted to emphasize two points. First, an invitation to
the wedding was absolutely not on the table, and second,
while he considered them friendly, his takeaway from their interactions
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was that she was interested in him in a way
that he could not reciprocate if he misread her intentions.
There was at least a desire for friendship he didn't
feel was appropriate to pursue because much of what she
wanted to discuss was awkward and inappropriate given that he
really doesn't know her. He's engaged and she has a
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long term partner.
Speaker 2 (43:49):
Yeah, okay, they both they all are taken.
Speaker 3 (43:53):
And Jin's gonna take this. Yeah, well no with a
maturity No, and in a way probably moved past this
with humility. No. At that point, she kept reiterating how
no one would ever let her move on from ten
years ago.
Speaker 2 (44:13):
It's like, no, that was yesterday girl, and was.
Speaker 3 (44:16):
Upset that no one would recognize her efforts at changing,
claiming the wider social group went out of their way
to bully neurodivergent people. She didn't provide a reason or
apology for making things uncomfortable with her flirting attempts. I'm
confused what happened ten years ago?
Speaker 2 (44:32):
I don't know. I feel like she's claiming that all
of this stuff that's coming up right now happened ten
years ago, when it's like, no, like you're actively creating
issues today.
Speaker 3 (44:40):
Yeah, so I don't really did she cheat or something?
And then she feels like these friends are trying to
come after her.
Speaker 2 (44:46):
I don't understand.
Speaker 3 (44:48):
Did we miss something?
Speaker 2 (44:49):
I don't know? She does keep bringing up the ten
years thing.
Speaker 3 (44:52):
He started to tell her it was probably good in
the conversation since they weren't going to resolve this, but
she beat him to it by blocking him. A few
days later, Mike got messages from her partner, who was
upset that Jin was being attacked and bullied by us
because of her checkered past and present.
Speaker 2 (45:11):
Her checkered present, she's annoying. What Also, your freaking partner
is in love with another guy. Dude, why are you
defending her?
Speaker 3 (45:20):
The guy was trying to defend her, which I understand,
and he wasn't around for those past events. Also, Jin's
not giving him the full idea of what's happening.
Speaker 2 (45:28):
Absolutely lying to him as she has done to everyone else.
Speaker 3 (45:32):
Based on his messages, I assume Jin misrepresented the past
to him as well. Mike thank him for reaching out,
said he understood he was being protective and asked what
the partner understood about everything. The partner repeated Jin's version
that her good friend Mike was being a bad friend
by excluding her and allowing others to bully her about
being autistic and past behavior, and that we had abruptly
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uninvited her because I decided she was a threat and
was jealous. Mike sat him straight by explaining he never
considered Jin a close friend, friendly at best, and wasn't
around for those past events, so his opinions of Gin
were his own. He made it clear Jin had never
been invited to the wedding in the first place.
Speaker 2 (46:16):
Yes, she was never supposed to come.
Speaker 3 (46:19):
He also shared that Jin had been inappropriate in communication
with flirty texts, emojis and request to meet one on one,
offering to share those messages.
Speaker 2 (46:28):
Yeah, show this guy that good, show him the proof.
Speaker 3 (46:33):
Keon, have you seen this happen before?
Speaker 4 (46:35):
Not to this extent?
Speaker 5 (46:36):
No, okay, No, It's it's like we did have somebody
that we're like, we don't want you to hang out
with us anymore. Yeah, and they're like, oh okay, and
they would keep asking, but they wouldn't like do this.
Speaker 4 (46:48):
This is this is weird?
Speaker 2 (46:49):
Is bad?
Speaker 4 (46:49):
This is really bad.
Speaker 2 (46:50):
This is bad. She keeps doing it. Yeah, I think that, Like, uh,
I think you've done it. You give the proof to
the partner and then you say, hey, we're really just
not friends with her.
Speaker 3 (47:00):
Sorry.
Speaker 2 (47:01):
If you're upset about this, goodbye, block.
Speaker 3 (47:03):
Onto my neurodivergent thing. If she is autistic, and she
might have trouble understanding social cues, but Mike did the
right thing by telling her straight up how he felt
and doing it bluntly. Not bluntly, but clearly. But she
still went out of her way to lying to her partner.
Speaker 2 (47:21):
Yeah, it's like, you don't just get away with everything
just because you say you're a nerd A version.
Speaker 3 (47:25):
It's weird.
Speaker 2 (47:26):
It's not a free pass.
Speaker 3 (47:28):
We got a little bit left here. Jin's partner asked
to see some of it. Ooh uh oh, and Mike
shared the more obvious, blatant examples. The partner didn't say
much after that, just thanked Mike and the conversation went away.
We haven't heard from him since. But my guess is
our version didn't match hers, and the jig was up.
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Jin made some vague social media posts about being betrayed
and misunderstood, but Mike didn't take debate. He hasn't blocked
her on Instagram because he wants to keep tabs for now,
but she's mostly back to her usual content selfies. About
a month later, we ran into her at a birthday party.
She didn't say anything to either of us, but didn't
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look happy to see us. We kept our distance, stayed cordial.
No drama resulted, no word on her partner. All I
know is he didn't come with her that night. We
weren't going to ask.
Speaker 2 (48:23):
There we are and they broke up. Yeah, they broke
up and you never have to see Jen again.
Speaker 3 (48:28):
Yay kind Oh no, she has a mastermind plan to
get Mike into her pants.
Speaker 2 (48:35):
I surely hope not. Watch out for Jen.
Speaker 3 (48:38):
People are smart.
Speaker 2 (48:39):
She's a tricksy one.
Speaker 3 (48:40):
She might you never know.
Speaker 2 (48:41):
That's the end of that story and the end of
this episode. So if you love us, make sure to subscribe.
Speaker 3 (48:46):
We love you and see you tomorrow.
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