My sick brother is now asking for FORGIVENESS after cheating with my fiancée! | Reddit Stories | EP2363 - ok storytime

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My sick brother is now asking for forgiveness after cheating
with my fiance.

Speaker 4 (00:22):
This is so complicated.

Speaker 3 (00:24):
My brother, forty seven Mail has always been my role model.

Speaker 5 (00:27):
No.

Speaker 3 (00:28):
He was the valedictorian of his graduating class in high
school and simultaneously the captain of the football team and
got all the change and he still does. I forty
four Male, practically worship the ground he walked on. He
taught me everything I needed to know about women. I'm
gonna tell you something you need to know about women.
I'm gonna take them, all of them from you, work

(00:50):
and just life in general. By the way, this comes
from throw eight nine nine nine and just for update two.
And if you want to submit your own stories, go
to the marsage. Okay story Time, separate it. I'm Sophia,
all righty, I'm Keon, and we're here to give good advice. Goofy.
But we don't have all the answers. We only know
what we'd do, so let us know what you would
do in the comments, and OP says thirteen years ago,

(01:14):
I was engaged to be married to a girl forty
two females, whom I thought at the time was the
woman of my dreams.

Speaker 4 (01:20):
Do we get a name for her?

Speaker 3 (01:22):
Uh?

Speaker 5 (01:22):
Cinderella? Do Cindy for short?

Speaker 2 (01:25):
Yeah?

Speaker 3 (01:26):
Ok, right sidey Cindy, whom I thought was the woman
of my dreams. My brother was the obvious choice for
best man at our wedding. One day, three weeks before
the wedding, I arrived early at the venue where we
did our rehearsals. To my surprise, when I drove into
the parking area, I found both my brothers and fiance's
cars already parked next to each other.

Speaker 5 (01:48):
Oh what I mean, they're automatically cheating?

Speaker 3 (01:51):
Yeah, the cars were parked next They couldn't even hide it.
They couldn't even park down the street.

Speaker 4 (01:56):
Come out, stop assuming things. They're probably planning a surprise.

Speaker 3 (01:59):
Yeah, a surprise, A surprise wedding. You're no longer getting
married to her surprise birthday. I proceeded to park right
next to my brother's car, which is when I caught
him doing probably the worst thing a brother could ever
do to his sibling, having Spicy sleep the car in
the parking lot.

Speaker 4 (02:21):
I did. This is the second worst thing. The first thing,
the first worst thing you could do is be having
Spicy to sleep with you.

Speaker 3 (02:26):
That is pretty bad. But the second worst thing is
having Spicy sleep with your fiance in the car of
the parking lot of the venue you're getting.

Speaker 5 (02:37):
Married, broad in broad daylight.

Speaker 3 (02:39):
In broad daylight.

Speaker 4 (02:40):
She likes the thrill.

Speaker 3 (02:42):
Also, just to be clear, he arrived early at the
venue where we did rehearsals. This was right before the rehearsal.

Speaker 1 (02:49):
Is right.

Speaker 3 (02:52):
People were about to show up, and they thought that
they could get away with.

Speaker 2 (02:55):
They want they want to thrill.

Speaker 4 (02:57):
They wanted a quickie and then dude and camp little
wedding is much cheaper than a divorce everyone.

Speaker 2 (03:02):
I guess they just weren't fast enough.

Speaker 3 (03:04):
Needless to say, I was mortified. Long story short, the
wedding was called off and I completely severtised with them both.
Since then, how could he do this to me?

Speaker 4 (03:14):
Yeah?

Speaker 3 (03:15):
I loved him and trusted him completely, and he betrayed
me in the worst possible way. He ruined our family too,
because I got a restraining order against him.

Speaker 4 (03:23):
Oh my gosh, just for that.

Speaker 3 (03:25):
Yeah, I mean, yeah, I got That's pretty traumatic, dude,
it's traumatic. But I'm wondering maybe if he tried to
reach out.

Speaker 2 (03:34):
He imagines like, that wasn't me.

Speaker 3 (03:36):
What are you talking about?

Speaker 2 (03:37):
That wasn't your wife? Are you feeling your wife?

Speaker 3 (03:39):
That was a woman who looks like your wife? And
we have never seen or even spoken to each other
since our parents know never to have us both at
their house at the same time because I told him
I would probably unlive him or he would unlive me
if we ever saw each other again. Fair, that's rough
for your parents. I am now married to a beautiful
woman and have two lovely kids.

Speaker 4 (04:01):
All right, you moved on, Thank goodness.

Speaker 3 (04:03):
We're good. We're good now. Recently, my brother was diagnosed
with a terminal disease and has been lobbying different members
of our family to get me to speak with him,
which I've been refusing to do. Yesterday, the doorbell rang
in the morning and I found none other than my
terminally ill brother at the door. It was completely surreal.

(04:24):
He got down on his knees crying and begged for
my forgiveness. I told him I would think about it
and tell him my answer within a week. Okay, I
think GOP's answer might be no, what do you think?
Do you think it's a no? Or yes?

Speaker 4 (04:37):
What would you do this happened to me? Yeah, I
would forgive him. I would forgive if you moved on
to I've moved on. You have nothing, like I don't
have anything that I'm holding against you, but I will
not be around you. No, I do not trust you.
I think I would make that boundary.

Speaker 3 (04:52):
I think that's a great boundary saying like, you know what,
sure we can move past that. I'm not gonna make it,
you know, any effort into being a friend.

Speaker 4 (05:02):
I'm a big believer in forgiving.

Speaker 1 (05:04):
Yeah.

Speaker 4 (05:04):
I mean I haven't been through very traumatic things, but
I still feel like, you know, what happens to you sucks,
but it's your responsibility to go through it. And it's like, yeah,
and really, and the way that you have to do it,
And if your way of getting past this with your
brother is forgiving, do it.

Speaker 3 (05:20):
It's just working through that and like hopefully you went
to therapy and all that. Yeah, even though most of
my anger has subsided, I just don't know if I
have it in me to let this go. Should I
forgive him? Relevant comments panic Bread says, Yes, I think
you should forgive him. You should forgive him for him,
and you should forgive him for you. If you don't
forgive him and he passes away, you might feel a

(05:42):
lot of regret when you're older. Forgiveness is as much
for the person doing the forgiving as it is for
the person being forgiven. If you think that you don't
have it in you, you need to do some soul
searching about that. What he did to you was really,
really terrible. But life moves on and people grow and change.
What happened with him led you to the happy life
you have now. I was carrying this pain and hate

(06:04):
in your heart, helping you.

Speaker 4 (06:06):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (06:06):
Yeah, good point, and op responds. One part of me
wants to forgive him so he can pass away in
peace and so that our entire family can heal again.
But in all honesty, another part of me just wants
to see him suffer for what he did. When I
saw him crying, looking desperate, the way he did, it
really got to me. He told me, it's the single
greatest mistake he's ever made. And he's regretted it. Since

(06:31):
I want to believe him, but it's just incredibly difficult.

Speaker 4 (06:34):
I could hand that there might be bs behind it too.
Mm hmmm, if he's coming to you in that way. Yeah,
because some people, I'm not saying everyone, but some people
use crying as a manipulation tactic. M given this guy scenario,
I doubt that's what it is. But also understanding this
guy's charisma, Yeah.

Speaker 3 (06:52):
This is a person who you know, has managed to
have a lot of people like him.

Speaker 4 (06:57):
Yeah, women, include your experts, say, I don't.

Speaker 3 (07:00):
Think that he necessarily is doing this as a way
to you know, swindle o pee. I think this is
the words of a man who probably does have a
lot of regrets in his life and is about to
pass away.

Speaker 4 (07:12):
Again.

Speaker 3 (07:13):
That doesn't mean that OPE owes him anything. It just
makes it a lot harder because this person betrayed you. Yeah,
cheek Britt says, just remember that forgiving someone isn't saying
what you did is okay. It's saying I no longer
hold it against you. You have a new family and
are happy, by the sound of it. I think forgiving
him before he passes would give both of you some
closure and lived a long term burden from yourself as

(07:35):
well as him. Please consider this deeply. What he did
was truly terrible, and I would never tell you otherwise.
But as the post above says, forgiveness is as much
for you as it is for him. If you can
find it in your heart to let go of this hurt,
I promise you will feel this benefit. After all, he
is passing away and will soon be gone. It's you

(07:57):
who will continue to carry it with you after his passing,
and you deserve more than that. Yeah, I wouldn't want
you to have to live the rest of your life
thinking about that moment, thinking about that relationship.

Speaker 5 (08:09):
M hmm.

Speaker 3 (08:09):
I think that gives him more power, you know, and
what he did more power. And I think forgiving him
allows you to just be like, you know what, We've
had that conversation. I've done what I can. He's gone,
and I've let that, like release.

Speaker 4 (08:23):
It his problems in the ground with him. Someone asked
would he be apologizing if he wasn't sick, though I'm.

Speaker 3 (08:30):
Sure he wouldn't be, or you know, most likely would
not be. I think that when you get this sick
and when you are, you know, when you have that
that looming thing over you. I think it does absolutely
change how you view the world and how you view
past mistake.

Speaker 4 (08:44):
Because you realize you don't have a lot of time.
I heard a quote recently. I think this is from
Donald Glover, but he said, you only live once, and
it is whenever you realize you only have one life
to live. Yeah, something like that. It was good, It
was a good quote. Someone helped me out here. But
he's realizing this actually means something to me, my life.

Speaker 3 (09:02):
Pits Doubo seven says he doesn't get a free pass
just because he's now passing away. If it was such
a big regret, why didn't he apologize sooner?

Speaker 4 (09:10):
I was about to ask, you've had a decade.

Speaker 3 (09:12):
I think either Well, there was a restraining order.

Speaker 4 (09:14):
Was a restraining order, a lot of family, he was
trying to talk to a lot of family.

Speaker 3 (09:18):
Okay, yeah, But I still think that he probably you know,
didn't have that at least like immediacy or that feeling
of immediacy until he found out this information about his
terminal illness. And I think that is wrong. But I
think it happens to a lot of people when they,
you know, discover something like that.

Speaker 4 (09:36):
Mm hmm.

Speaker 3 (09:36):
Hope, he said. He sent a letter every year on
my birthday for the past thirteen years telling me how
sorry he is.

Speaker 4 (09:43):
Wow.

Speaker 3 (09:44):
Ugh, the restraining order made it impossible for him to
get to me. Ultimate Realis says, what's the situation like
aside from the illness? Did he marry your former fiance
or anyone else? Does he have children? Hope? He says
he never really settled down with anyone. He's a good
looking guy, always been the playboy type who could get
any woman he wants. I haven't kept tabs on the fiance.

(10:05):
For all I know, she could be in China or
even passed away. I have no clue. Witty this way
come says, how did you get a restraining order? Did
you leave something out? It'll just hand those things out
like dinner menus Opie says yes. Shortly after it happened,
our parents tried to sit us down to sort things out.
It ended up getting extremely physical. This is when I

(10:27):
told my parents that getting us together in the same
room would result in us unaliving the other and they
should never do it again.

Speaker 4 (10:34):
Oh my gosh.

Speaker 3 (10:35):
After this incident, I obtained a permanent restraining order perro.
It's renewable every five years, and there is an update
eleven days later.

Speaker 4 (10:44):
Oh man, what do you think I was curious of
whenever they met that one time? If OPI was married yet? Again,
I think that's a good question, because have a wife
and kids help you move on a little bit more,
because that's kind of in the past.

Speaker 3 (11:01):
My opinion stays the same. I think your brother hurt
you deeply, and if you really don't think that you
can forgive him, that's completely your decision. But this is
your only chance. Yeah, And do you want that whole Like,
do you want that kind of terrible thing that happened
to you to have power over you for the rest
of your life?

Speaker 4 (11:20):
In some way, a little voice in my head is saying, yeah,
lying though for what?

Speaker 3 (11:27):
Though? Lying about being terminally ill?

Speaker 4 (11:29):
M hm, And that that question I've asked if he
was lying, what would he want out of it?

Speaker 3 (11:35):
I don't money to Stealop's wife again two for two, Yeah.

Speaker 4 (11:41):
Because I'm not really seeing a reason to lie, so
I don't. Yeah, I think he's I don't think he is.

Speaker 3 (11:45):
And also all like the family and friends have heard
about it. And also I think he like saw him
and he looked pretty bad. So over the course of
the week, my brother's health took a rapid downward spiral,
and I began to realize that, as many of you advised,
my time to sort this thing out was fast running out.
I eventually decided to visit him on Thursday at my parents'
house where he's in hospice. Oh my gosh, I have

(12:07):
a one on one. I told him I forgive him
for everything that's ever happened between us, and that I
wish things had gone differently. It was extremely emotional as
we both wept in hot There was a little bit
left he was lying, but yeah, no, I yeah, he's
not lying. I think that's really lovely. Yeah, I'm really
proud of uop, because that it was not an easy

(12:30):
thing to do, nor something that you owed him.

Speaker 5 (12:32):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (12:33):
I think that it seems like it was helpful for you,
which I think was always our advice on why to
do it.

Speaker 4 (12:40):
Healing moments, yay win win.

Speaker 3 (12:44):
At the time, he was still very cognizant and able
to articulate that he knows he doesn't deserve my forgiveness,
but he's thankful for it. I've been staying with my
parents since then to help feed him, bathe them, and
talk with him when he's not too tired.

Speaker 4 (12:57):
Uh so he got your brother back too.

Speaker 3 (13:00):
The fact that I'm now in a position to help
him when he's the way he is now has given
us both a lot of closure. I don't feel any
bitterness at all towards him, just love in all honesty.
I only wish I'd had it in me to let
go of this sooner, which is you know, I mean, like, oh,
so many people regret those things, But just be thankful
that you had the courage, yeah, to do it now,

(13:22):
because you're never gonna get your brother back. He still
the words out of my mouth, comments common ones is
I think he would receive very different advice if he
had made the same post now, replies says, I feel
like a ton of the people pushing forgive the person
for yourself and not for them don't understand the difference
between forgiveness and moving the f on in your life
so that the person who harmed do is no longer
taking up space in your head or heart. Yes, but

(13:44):
I don't think you this commenterre quite understands that sometimes
in not forgiving someone, you were allowing them to take
up space in your head and heart. Oh yeah, which
is what was happening here.

Speaker 4 (13:56):
Yeah, like he was still.

Speaker 3 (13:57):
Holding on to that grief and and anger, and in
forgiving his brother, he was able to let it.

Speaker 4 (14:03):
Go, and it seems like the family as a whole
is able to tonight. Yeah yeah.

Speaker 3 (14:09):
Comment WO says, literally, what place did brother think he
had an attacking opee after he ft OPI's beiance. I
completely agree with you. Even if I could move on
from the cheating, I'm not moving on from being attacked
by my homewrecker brother for what exactly, catching them in
the act, being upset at them, leaving fiance and the
dust booo. So he regretted it later, I'd be stuck

(14:31):
asking myself if he was just pivoting because he couldn't
beat me into submission, or because he actually realized he
was a monstrous pus. I don't like these comments, honestly.
I think these comments are like very bitter people maybe
who are maybe putting their own experiences on the study.
Because we just found out from Ope that he appreciated

(14:52):
the time that he gets with his brother, and it's like, Wow,
I was able to forgive him, and you know, like, yeah,
that horrible thing happened, and it's not right what he did.
But we're realizing in this moment where he's incredibly sick,
that this is all the time that we have left.
And I think that all those commentaries to ignore that
is crazy.

Speaker 4 (15:10):
Forgiveness is a hard It is a hard path. It's
not for many, and it takes a lot of self
sacrificing and selfishness make it happen. Guys, enough about dead brothers.
Let's get onto another story, shall we. My parents gave
my sister the same amount of money I saved for
two years.

Speaker 3 (15:29):
What the heck? Mom and Dad?

Speaker 4 (15:33):
I don't even know how to process this, so I'm
just going to type it out. I'm twenty eight female,
and my sister Elsa twenty two females. We're a talk
called and our parents are Gudnar and Bernite. I always
thought they were pretty fair with us growing up. Maybe
what's wrong Depending on how much money you've saved up
for two years will be a deciding factor, that's true.

(15:53):
If it's like two.

Speaker 3 (15:54):
Grand, yeah, then yeah they can just give that out
twenty grand. And they're giving a twenty grand out too much.

Speaker 4 (16:00):
By the way, this comes from and if you submit
your own stories, go to the r slash okay story
done sub reddit. I'm Riley, I'm Sophia, I'm and we're
here to give good advice goofully. Yeah, and we don't
have all the answers uh ah, but if you have
anything you want to say, put down below up please.
As Op says, for the past two years, I've been

(16:22):
saving for a trip to Japan.

Speaker 3 (16:24):
Who is it?

Speaker 4 (16:25):
Who ever was going to Japan?

Speaker 3 (16:26):
Everyone and their mother is going to Japan.

Speaker 2 (16:28):
I've talked to so many people.

Speaker 3 (16:29):
Literally again, I'm trying to convince Sam to take us
to Japan for an experture.

Speaker 2 (16:33):
They want to go.

Speaker 5 (16:33):
They want to go to Japan for their thirtieth birthday.

Speaker 2 (16:35):
And I'm like, that's what that's you me?

Speaker 4 (16:38):
Literally, I'm the only person that idea everyone before they
turn thirty is getting diagnosed with like you know, neurodivergence. Yeah,
wanting to do something to themselves and going to Japan
or getting their masters done, getting your graduate.

Speaker 1 (16:53):
That's literally all.

Speaker 3 (16:54):
I don't know what the second one meant, but the
graduate degree, I would agree.

Speaker 2 (16:58):
What are you gonna do when you turned thirty? Riley?

Speaker 4 (17:00):
Get married, have kids.

Speaker 2 (17:01):
That's what it is.

Speaker 3 (17:02):
I don't know. Yeah, that's true.

Speaker 5 (17:03):
That was the other I think the four paths are
tripped to Japan. Their masters being like an athlete or
like track star or whatever, like they love running five
k's or ten cas runners or like CrossFit which is
really gross.

Speaker 3 (17:19):
Oh yeah, I.

Speaker 5 (17:22):
Or getting married and tied down and like settling down
the kids tied down?

Speaker 3 (17:28):
Who were you tied out?

Speaker 4 (17:30):
All right? Anyways, Opie's going to Japan, like everyone and
their mother is going. It's been my dream since I
was a teenager.

Speaker 5 (17:37):
Me too.

Speaker 4 (17:37):
I am a children's book illustrator, so I don't have
amazing money, but I've been budgeting hard. Dude. Good marketing
can absolutely change.

Speaker 3 (17:46):
Yeah, you can get a pretty popular children's book out there.

Speaker 2 (17:49):
Put that plug in the reddit.

Speaker 4 (17:50):
Yeah. Skipping coffees, not buying new clothes, and mil prepping
every week. I've saved almost forty five hundred sec is
forty three hundred dollars.

Speaker 3 (18:01):
Are you just growing up?

Speaker 4 (18:02):
Okay? That is a pretty good chunk of money.

Speaker 3 (18:05):
M hm.

Speaker 4 (18:05):
I was proud of myself. I'm finally booking the trip
for April.

Speaker 1 (18:09):
Everyone's going in April.

Speaker 3 (18:11):
Everyone's going in April.

Speaker 5 (18:13):
Time to go.

Speaker 3 (18:15):
It's too hot.

Speaker 5 (18:16):
Not hot, Yeah, it's not hot. It's like the perfect temperature,
and it's cheap and it's cheap.

Speaker 4 (18:21):
Yesterday, my parents announced in our family group chat that
they're giving else forty five hundred Sweetest Crown her as
a graduation gift for finishing her certificate program a six
month certificate program in ausome administration or something.

Speaker 3 (18:37):
So freaking bs, that is pretty crazy.

Speaker 4 (18:40):
When I graduated from university with my illustration's degree four
years of work, they took me to dinner and gave
me a card with five hundred second.

Speaker 3 (18:50):
That's wow, blatant favoritism.

Speaker 4 (18:52):
What's up? Oh, abologies, No.

Speaker 3 (18:54):
Pretty fair of you to be upset. Did they get
the exact same amount of money as what OPI had saved?

Speaker 4 (19:00):
Yeah, yeah, forty five?

Speaker 3 (19:02):
Did you like tell people, Oh, I've saved this much money,
so I'm going to Japan?

Speaker 4 (19:05):
I mean, I mean this seems like it's been a
lifestyle that Opia has been accomplishing here. Yeah. Yeah, so
she's probably been like.

Speaker 3 (19:13):
Yeah, yeah for a minute, Oh my god, that's up
five hundred. I would understand if they had different financial
situation back then and then that change but I still
think that they should give opia a certain amount.

Speaker 4 (19:30):
Yeah, my family helps us like in different ways. Like,
for example, my cousin is getting a house. She's revamping
my great grandpa's house into something new, so like our
grandparents are helping her out with that, and they're like,
whenever you guys need help, one day it is up
and we'll like make that happen. So it's like that's
kind of how my family flows. It's not always even

(19:51):
all the time, but it's like when people need it. Yeah,
I hold my mom to ask about it right, to
stay calm and ask why are the difference? She's said,
not the same situation that Elsa struggled more with school.
She struggled with six months with the office get a
straight A certificate.

Speaker 3 (20:08):
That's crazy for them to be like, well, she struggled
really hot on the six month degree and you were
fine with your four year one, so we actually don't
care about you at all. Because of that, she said.

Speaker 4 (20:20):
They wanted to celebrate her finally finishing something that I
had always had it easier academically. According to her, I
didn't need these same encouragements.

Speaker 3 (20:30):
I hate that they're presenting it that way because it's
like you did well, so we actually don't reward you,
and she's doing poorly, so we're rewarding her for that. Yeah,
I'm so confusing to hear. As you know, for a
p I'm assuming.

Speaker 4 (20:43):
Y'all five hundred seconds only fifty three dollars bucks.

Speaker 3 (20:46):
They gave you fifty three bucks. I think it was dang,
that's up.

Speaker 4 (20:52):
I didn't have it easier. I worked part time through
my entire degree, took out loans, and handled my own schedule.
I just didn't complain about it constantly like Elsa does.
So basically I'm being punished for not being a mess.

Speaker 3 (21:05):
Doesn't seem that way.

Speaker 4 (21:06):
I told my mom this felt really unfair. She got offensive.
She said I was making this all about money and
that she thought i'd be happy for my sister. I
am happy for but I'm also hurt. Those two things
can exist at the same time. It's frustrating. Whatever parents are, like,
the only feeling you can feel forwards me is gratitude. Yeah,

(21:27):
it's like you're not giving me the right to actually
fill out what I need to exactly.

Speaker 3 (21:31):
You're like limiting my emotions based off what you want
to hear because you don't want to hear me, like,
actually tell you the truth.

Speaker 4 (21:39):
Yeah. Helsa texted me later saying she heard I was
upset about her gift and that she was sorry I
felt that way. Weird. I never trust anyone that's like,
I'm sorry you feel that way.

Speaker 3 (21:50):
Just sar you feel that way. That must really suck
that you're not getting any money from her parents.

Speaker 4 (21:55):
She wasn't sorry about the situation too, sorry I felt
that way. I've been crying on and off since yesterday.
Two years of sacrifice and discipline. They just hand her
the same amount, like it's nothing, Like my effort means nothing.

Speaker 3 (22:10):
Giving her the same amount feels so targeted and on purpose,
like that wasn't an accident. I think they wanted to
send you some sort of message.

Speaker 4 (22:20):
Fifty three bucks that's pocket chance to them that he says, yeah,
my dad hasn't said anything. He never does when mom
makes decisions. I don't even know if he agrees or
if he just doesn't want to fight about it. Am
I being petty about money? Or is this actually unfair?
We got some comments here.

Speaker 3 (22:39):
No, it's not fair. It's not fair. There's not much
you can do. Yeah, maybe limiting like the relationship that
you have with them, if they're gonna treat you this way, agreed.
I think you just have to frame this for your
own sanity in the way of I have the money
to go to Japan. It really is awful and annoying
that my parents just gave that same amount to my

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sister for no reason. But you know what, I'm happy
that I was able to save up. I was able
to use my own hard work to you fulfill this
dream that I've always had, and just kind of frame
it that way so that you're not constantly, you know,
over analyzing why your parents did this because there's no.

Speaker 4 (23:17):
Good reason they're legitly is not okay. Educators fifty seven says,
the she struggled more so she deserves more logic is wild,
Like sorry for being competent, my dad for not collapsing
every semester, I guess. Robin Reef says exactly. It's like
all the hard work, sacrifice, and discipline over the years

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just don't count because you didn't make a big show
of struggling. Totally unfair. My Reddit user name forty two
says you aren't wrong for being upset. Elsa is clearly
your mother's favorite. Expect the same kind of treatment. If
you have children, hers will always get more time, attention, praise, gifts,
and financial assistance. Same goes for in inheritance. Expect it

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all to go to Elsa. You can't tell them how
to spend their money, but when they're older and they
need help, they can look to Elsa for assistance.

Speaker 3 (24:10):
Exactly see what that investment did for them.

Speaker 4 (24:13):
Oh my gosh. Also, OPI, if you're watching this, literally
go on TikTok and promote all your books that you got. Yeah.

Speaker 3 (24:20):
Smart, you can just start reading them.

Speaker 4 (24:22):
On TikTok or something, yeah, and make them fun or whatever,
make a good experience with it, and you're literally like
a few marketing videos away from being so many trips
to Japan. You could live in Japan.

Speaker 3 (24:35):
You could live in Japan.

Speaker 4 (24:36):
Sofia's dream, I.

Speaker 3 (24:38):
Don't know if that's necessarily my dream. I need to
see Japan first.

Speaker 4 (24:41):
What is your dream?

Speaker 3 (24:42):
My dream? H Melbourn, that would be one of That's
like one place I would love to live in. Or London.

Speaker 4 (24:49):
Mois Goblinet says, I mean, yeah, the favoritasm is loud,
but the messed up part is Opie's mom pretending it's
some logical, neutral decision instead of just saying I wanted
to do this for Elsa like I least own it.
Gaslighting your kid while giving the other a whole bag
is crazy behavior. Munch says. Question was the money amount

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given to your sister just an opportrary amount or did
they choose your exact amount for a reason. Op First off,
do not let them take away your victory. You did
an awesome thing, and you should be very proud of
the savings, accomplishment and your degree. If you squint really
hard and twist your head just at the right angle,

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what they said about you being able to achieve or
your sister could not is a compliment.

Speaker 3 (25:37):
Yeah, it's true. I mean like you kind of just
have to reframe it. It's like, you know what, people suck,
But they're right. I am a capable I am way
more capable than my sister. I don't need their help.

Speaker 4 (25:49):
I was gonna touch on that you're going to Japan, dude, what'd.

Speaker 3 (25:53):
She gonna do with her life? Rely on your parents?

Speaker 4 (25:55):
She's probably gonna spin that money. Yeah, asap, we have
an update two days later.

Speaker 3 (26:02):
What do you think I think the same thing I
thought before. Yeah, I think you just have to reframe
it and not focus on your parents.

Speaker 4 (26:09):
What about predictions connections?

Speaker 3 (26:12):
I think that her parents are going to be like,
why would you? Why are you so I'm grateful? Yeah?

Speaker 4 (26:19):
You parents love pulling that card? Are you so ungrateful?

Speaker 1 (26:23):
Like?

Speaker 4 (26:23):
YO want money, I'll put you in this world? Yeah,
I can take you out of it. Have you gotten
that one? Keon? Yeah, I haven't gotten that one.

Speaker 3 (26:33):
I've never gotten that I can take you out of it.

Speaker 4 (26:35):
I've never gotten either one of those sentences. Man, what
about you guys?

Speaker 5 (26:39):
You want to pull your parents?

Speaker 1 (26:43):
You update?

Speaker 4 (26:45):
I posted a few days ago about my parents giving
my sister elsa forty five Swedish colner for finishing a
six month certificate program, when all I got was five
hundred Swedish corner for completing a four year university degree.
For all of my USD currency fans, sister was given
forty three hundred dollars. She was given fifty three dollars.

Speaker 5 (27:06):
Yeah, and I guarantee you. The parents are also like,
don't compare yourself to your sister.

Speaker 3 (27:10):
Yeah, right, so you're in different you're on difference.

Speaker 5 (27:13):
Look at you you're you're doing so well on your own.
She's struggling.

Speaker 2 (27:17):
Don't compare yourself.

Speaker 5 (27:19):
Come on, you should just be happy you got something.

Speaker 4 (27:21):
A lot of you told me I wasn't being petty
and that the favoritism was real. I needed to hear that.
Here's what happened.

Speaker 3 (27:29):
Ooh.

Speaker 4 (27:30):
I sided to talk to my dad directly. He usually
stays out of things like this, but I thought maybe
one on one he'd be honest with me. I asked
him to meet me for coffee yesterday and I laid
it all out, the differences in gifts, the years of
feeling like Elsa got more support than I did, and
the she struggled more justification that basically punishes me for

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being responsible. He was quiet for a long time and
he said something that broke me. Your mother and I
always knew you'd be fine. You're the strong one. Elsa
needs help. That's just how it is.

Speaker 3 (28:04):
It is such a parent logic, I think, or at
least these you know, I see the logic that they
think is right. But as a child, to hear that
and just, you know, not have them understand that that
is blatant favoritism is so frustrating.

Speaker 4 (28:19):
Yeah, like, who doesn't want yeah, forty five sweet corner,
I don't want forty five sweeth corners. Neglect.

Speaker 3 (28:26):
It's like having like two kids and one of them
can tactically, you know, cook or something or knows how to,
but so the mom only ever makes or like the
parent like mom or dad only ever makes food for
food for that point, yeah, yeah, and it's like, yeah,
I can technically cook a meal, but like, can't we
just make food for everyone?

Speaker 4 (28:45):
Give them support with time an effort, not just financial.

Speaker 3 (28:51):
Like that one kid only knows how to make like
eggs and that's it.

Speaker 4 (28:54):
I'm the strong one, so I guess I get less
because they decided when I was a kid that I
didn't need them the same way Elsa needs him. I
asked him, if you realize that being strong meant I
just stopped asking for help because I knew I would
get it. I worked twenty five hours a week through
university while Elsa's part time job was too stressful, so

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they covered her expenses. That I've been financially independent since
I was twenty two, but they still paid Elsa's phone bill.
He looked uncomfortable and said he never thought about it
that way. That's the problem. They never thought about it
at all.

Speaker 3 (29:31):
Yeah, well, that's an issue. They're also kind of allowing Elsa.
Oh yeah, you know they're not benefiting Elsa by giving
her all of these hands hand out, oh, just because
she's having trouble.

Speaker 2 (29:41):
Yeah.

Speaker 5 (29:42):
I questioned them, and like, when are you gonna stop this?
Then you gonna keep doing this until this is gonna
be until you guys pass away, and then when you
guys pass away, what's she gonna do?

Speaker 3 (29:51):
Yeah, doesn't make sense, not helping anyone.

Speaker 5 (29:54):
I hate it's helping Elsa in the short run, but
in the long run and not doing anything.

Speaker 3 (29:58):
Serenity Horse France says it's enabling incompetence. This is my sister.
Ooh rough.

Speaker 4 (30:04):
I told him I wasn't angry about the money specifically,
I was angry about what it represented a live time
of being the kid they didn't worry about, which translated
into being the kid they didn't invest in. He said
he talked to my mom last night. My mom called.
I thought maybe she'd apologize, maybe my dad got through

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to her. Instead, she said I had upset your father
by making him feel guilty and that I needed to
let this go. Because it was ruining Elsa's celebration.

Speaker 5 (30:36):
It is don't compare yourself, don't bring this up.

Speaker 4 (30:39):
Elsa's celebration still not about me at all. I told
my mom I needed some space and I loved them,
but I couldn't pretend this didn't hurt. She said I
was being dramatic and holding your grudge over money, that
she raised me better than this. I haven't responded. I
don't know what to say. I don't even know what
they raised you. Man, it sounded like you raised yourself.

Speaker 3 (31:00):
Oh, like you figured all of this out, and then
she comes to you and has the audacity to say
you made your father feel guilty? Does she know what
guilt means? Means that he knows he did something wrong.

Speaker 4 (31:10):
It feels like OP got the fundamentals of being like
an adult. Yeah, pretty relatively quickly. Yeah, But you can
still support your child that understands those fundamentals in other ways. Yeah,
and you have a great opportunity to do that. It
sounds like you guys got another forty five thousand Swedish
calling her somewhere.

Speaker 3 (31:28):
Yeah, let's use that.

Speaker 4 (31:29):
I know you Swedish people got homes and Airbnb's out
there that's what Leon had his parents run that, that's
what he did.

Speaker 5 (31:36):
Those are very different, Riley. Swiss and Swedish people are
very different.

Speaker 4 (31:41):
It's snowy where he is.

Speaker 2 (31:42):
Snows in both of them. Brother.

Speaker 4 (31:44):
Oh wait Switzerland and Sweden. Yeah, that's two different places.

Speaker 1 (31:47):
Guys.

Speaker 4 (31:48):
Wait, what do you call Swedish people?

Speaker 2 (31:50):
Swedish? Swiss people? Swiss?

Speaker 4 (31:57):
Oh? Man?

Speaker 2 (31:58):
Wow?

Speaker 4 (31:58):
Wow, you learned something new every day, guys, you really do.
Elsa texted me this morning.

Speaker 3 (32:05):
She's probably like, stop trying to get them to take
my money away.

Speaker 4 (32:08):
She said, Mom told me you're upset about the money thing.
I didn't ask them for it, they offered. It's not
my fault. They wanted to do something nice for me.
She's right up, girl, she didn't ask, but she also
didn't acknowledge that the discrepancy is real or my feelings
are valid. Just more so, are you feel that way energy.

Speaker 3 (32:28):
Sor you don't like that I'm rich? She'd probably going
to Japan too.

Speaker 4 (32:32):
But still going to Japan.

Speaker 3 (32:33):
Nice. Yeah, I feel like Elsa's gotta show up too
and be like, well, I had the money too.

Speaker 4 (32:39):
Yeah, I'm so proud of myself for saving that amount
of money on my own, but something I shifted. I
think I finally see my family clearly, and I don't
know if I can unsee it. We have a little
bit more from op I'll be commented right after the post.
Something my dad keeps echoing in my head is you're
the strong one. I've heard versions of that my whole life.

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You're so independent, you always figure it out. We never
have to worry about you. I used to think this
was a compliment. Now I realize it was just an excuse.
We don't have to pair at you to say.

Speaker 3 (33:13):
It's like, yeah, we don't have to like acknowledge you.

Speaker 2 (33:15):
They're literally saying we don't like you.

Speaker 5 (33:16):
Yeah, yeah, yeah yeah.

Speaker 3 (33:20):
Vincea says, we know you can handle the glect better.

Speaker 4 (33:22):
Browley is true a way to justify giving me less, attention,
less support, less money, less everything. I wasn't born strong.
I became strong because I had no other choice, preaching
because every time I needed something, Elsa needed it more.
Because I learned early that my problems were less important
than hers. Wild wild ob dang Man, crazy story. But

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we all love a good golden child complex in a family.

Speaker 2 (33:51):
Who's the golden child in your family?

Speaker 4 (33:52):
I think writer. I used to be, but then I moved.

Speaker 3 (33:55):
You lost the Golden Child.

Speaker 5 (33:57):
Okay, you know that one. Okay, Sophia, I don't think no,
come on, we know your dad's your dad's favorite.

Speaker 3 (34:06):
I have a dad's favorite.

Speaker 2 (34:08):
True or false.

Speaker 3 (34:08):
I don't think so.

Speaker 2 (34:09):
I mean, I don't think they. They just say that, Vincent.
I kind of think it's me.

Speaker 3 (34:21):
But we've got another story to read.

Speaker 1 (34:24):
Oh boy, guess what we got. We got our slash
Okay story Time Exclusive. Hey, this is Sam, this is John,
and we are the founding hosts of Okay Storytime Podcast,
and we have some foundational stories coming up for you.
But the thing is, this foundation needs a little support

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get into the episode. I was excluded from my sister's
wedding to watch the dogs.

Speaker 3 (34:53):
Well, someone's gotta do it.

Speaker 1 (34:55):
Someone's gonna let them out. Woo or female. My sister
thirty things female. Have always had a difficult relationship. We
were born twenty one months apart. It's like double Irish twins,
and fought so badly as kids, typically sibling stuff. Mostly,

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I always looked up to my sister and kind of
wanted to be just like her. By the way, this
comes from a throway account on the r slash okay
story time stubreddit, and if you want to submit your
own stories, go to that subreddit. I'm Sam, I'm Sophia,
I'm ke On, and we're here to give good advice goofily.
But we do not have all the answers. Do you
dare think we do?

Speaker 3 (35:35):
We don't.

Speaker 1 (35:36):
We only know what we would do. So if you
want to let us know what you would do, put
your answers in the comments so we can read them
judge us. As Op says, I would be the typical
annoying little sister. I've never been that who wanted to
hang out with her and her friends whenever she had
friends over. I we like hanging out with her, banks out.
She did it really want me around her friends, so

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things were always tense between us. She would pick on
me at school in front of her friends.

Speaker 5 (36:03):
Yeah, how dare you?

Speaker 1 (36:04):
Yeah, so if anyone was picking on me, it was.

Speaker 5 (36:07):
Like, I have a room you don't stores.

Speaker 1 (36:11):
But in the same breath, defend me. If anyone else joined.

Speaker 3 (36:14):
In, classic yeah that's my sibling. Yeah, shut up about
my brother.

Speaker 2 (36:21):
What I.

Speaker 1 (36:25):
Can say what I want to my sister, but you
can't say that is basically what she would tell them.
Even into our twenties, our relationship remained the same, me
just wanting to spend time with my sister and she
resenting me for it. My parents always took her side. Yes,
she is the golden child and can do no wrong
in my parents' eyes. Both my sister and I have

(36:46):
been married in divorce. We both unfortunately chose bad men
to attach ourselves to and then had to escape. My
sister got married not long after graduating high school. When
she told me she was getting married, she asked me
to be involved in the wedding. Involved in what way?
I want you to be involved by walking out the
door and never coming back.

Speaker 3 (37:05):
I want you to be involved in the cleanup.

Speaker 1 (37:07):
I want you to be involved in the wedding, actually
so much. I want you to be married too. I
want you to marry this guy. He is such a
bad guy. I would be the beta test. They weren't
having any bridesmaids or grooms men, so she asked if
I would help my parents decorate and take pictures. I
gladly accepted and would do anything for her, no matter

(37:28):
Our difficult relationship. I've always and will always love my
sister fiercely and would do anything for her. Her marriage
ended and she met her now husband shortly thereafter. O truly,
he is absolutely perfect for her. Any overlap, Yeah, that's
the real question, any overlap.

Speaker 3 (37:46):
How involved was he in the last bunny?

Speaker 1 (37:47):
Ooh, I think it was right smack dab in the middle.
But that's just me projecting my own thoughts thoughts into
this situation, not myself, but not myself. I'm not the
meat in the middle. Actually, I have been the meat
in the middle once what not intentionally? Okay, I was
unintentional meet in the middle, oh man, I could not
ask for a better man to be with my sister.

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I love my brother in law dearly and love how
great he treats her. At this point, our relationship was
still pretty strained. I got hurt over and over again
by her and my parents. She would come visit my
parents while I still lived there, and it really hurts
to see how differently they've treated us. Several times I

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would be in my room giving my sister and brother
in a lot of time with my parents, only to
come out to find them getting ready to leave. To
go do something with my parents out even telling me
or offering me to go, that's so sad, unincluded.

Speaker 3 (38:42):
I'd be like, if I went to Stranger Things Finale
without you and didn't even tell you.

Speaker 1 (38:47):
That would be terrible.

Speaker 3 (38:48):
That'd be terrible.

Speaker 1 (38:49):
That would be terrible, which apparently in the theaters we're
gonna go see it, Yeah we are. If I asked
where they were going and if I could go, everyone
would be really mad at me and begrudgingly let me
go with them. It really hurt to see how unwanted
I was during those times.

Speaker 5 (39:02):
They don't like you so sad.

Speaker 1 (39:04):
When I left my ex husband in twenty twenty, I
was really surprised that my sister was truly there for me.
She understood what I was going through, having been through
it herself, and genuinely just wanted to help. Ever since,
our relationship has been great. We video chat almost every
day and finally have that sister bond that had been
wanting all my life. On to the issue, Oh boy,

(39:25):
oh man, that wasn't the issue. This is is the
issue my sister and my brother in law's wedding. That's
the issue. I was still living with parents at this time.
My sister and brother in law had already gotten engaged,
but did it seem keen on the idea of getting
married again. My brother in law has also been married
and divorced before, so it was a mutual decision between them.

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We were planning a family vacations to the beach that
was supposed to include me, my parents, my sister, and
brother in law. Nothing was reserved or paid for yet,
but locations were picked in date set. One night, my
mom and sister were talking about the vacation and my
mom asked if she could throw a small wedding while
at the beach for my sister and brother in law.
They talked for a bit and my sister and brother
in law agreed. Wedding planning started right then. I had

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no clue this was going on.

Speaker 3 (40:14):
Dang, they really don't like you. That's so sad.

Speaker 1 (40:18):
I don't like you. I know, clues is going on.
I got a message from my sister next day telling
me about the wedding. I was so excited for her.
Her next message crushed me. Will you stay home and
watch the dog?

Speaker 3 (40:30):
Oh man, what a punch in the stomach. Geez Jesus, think,
Oh my gosh, you're getting married.

Speaker 1 (40:37):
Yeah, and you you're gonna look at the dogs. You're
gonna be married to the job looking at some dogs.
I'm throwing you a bone here.

Speaker 3 (40:45):
I am not looking after your dog, so you can
get married without me there.

Speaker 1 (40:49):
Yeah, no, this is I think this is a little
a little ridiculous, right, I mean, I think Op wants
to share and all the love of her family, and
the family is consistently excluding her. That's terrible. Yeah, it's terrible.
I told her that I really wanted to be there
for her and I didn't want to miss her wedding
or the vacation. She got really mad. I walked out

(41:09):
of my room to talk to my mom. When I
opened my door, my mom shot me a passing glare
from the couch. I tried to tell her I wanted
to be there for my sister. I was crying and
I was devastated. My parents were livid with me. They
called me selfish and unreasonable, asking how could I expect
them to take all three dogs with us.

Speaker 3 (41:27):
It's not even saying oh, he's just saying, like, can
we find someone else to watch?

Speaker 1 (41:32):
There are dogs dog sit In fact, not only.

Speaker 3 (41:34):
Are their dog sitters website.

Speaker 1 (41:36):
There's a website where you can list your home for
people to stay at your house for free and for
them to mind your dogs for free. Yeah, it's called
dog swap or something.

Speaker 3 (41:46):
So you wouldn't even have had to pay.

Speaker 1 (41:48):
Yeah, like, there's plenty of options here. My parents had
two dogs, one very elderly needing daily medication. All those
are the kind of the dogs that need like anal medication.

Speaker 3 (41:59):
I looked out after a really really old dog that
needed like ten different medications.

Speaker 1 (42:03):
Did I have to did you have to put it
in the butt? No? No, okay, I feel like old
dogs need like butt medications.

Speaker 3 (42:08):
Of this dog, this dog, but it would pee everywhere
it would pee. I would constantly be stepping in like
puddles of pea that I.

Speaker 1 (42:16):
Because he didn't minister the butt medication.

Speaker 3 (42:18):
It was to the point where, like every morning at
five because I had to take care of that dog
and two giant labs. And it was to the point
where like I had to sleep with all the dogs
because otherwise they would bark. So like that dog slept
on the bed and I was told that I had
to sleep on the bed and in the morning it
would wake me up at five in the morning to
go out to the bathroom, and so I would wake
up and literally like put the dog off the bed

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to go and take him outside, and he would just
pee in the corner.

Speaker 4 (42:44):
Well.

Speaker 1 (42:45):
So basically one is elderly needing daily medication. My sister
had a dog that went into heat while we were
gone with no supplies for her.

Speaker 3 (42:52):
Dang, that's tough.

Speaker 2 (42:53):
She probably knew it.

Speaker 1 (42:53):
Too, so he wanted me to stay home with the
three dogs alone for a week. Also, with my mental health,
it's well known that I don't do well i'm alone
for long periods. I felt extremely pressured, with everyone so
mad at me, I caved and stayed home. I cried
that entire week. I never felt so unwanted to my
own family. I just wanted to be there to help
celebrate my sister and brother in law's love and marriage.

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I was absolutely crushed, and no one cared. It's been
I think eleven years since their wedding. Oh wow, eleven years.
My sister and I have not really spoken about this
because I don't want to ruin the great relationship we
have now, but this still weighs heavily on me. Anytime
anyone brings up her wedding. I'm right back in those
feelings of abandonment and oppression. I don't know if I'll

(43:35):
ever get past this. It just hurts so much. I
love my sister so much, but it has never felt
like the love is reciprocated. So what should I do?
Should I have the tough conversation with my sister about
how I feel about her wedding? Should I just try
to let it go as it was eleven years ago
and just enjoy the relationship I have now with my sister?
What should I do?

Speaker 3 (43:53):
You should?

Speaker 1 (43:54):
And there's an update?

Speaker 5 (43:55):
Sure, man, I don't know. If you bring something from
eleven years ago, she's still feeling.

Speaker 2 (44:01):
The sister's gonna not care at all.

Speaker 1 (44:03):
Oh she might not if they have a good relationship now,
maybe I think give your sister a chance to care.

Speaker 3 (44:08):
I think that, like, you are still feeling those emotions
and still feeling that hurt. If you don't bring it up,
you're gonna keep feeling it, and it's gonna make your
relationship that you have now.

Speaker 1 (44:18):
If you are like, let's say it's all good on
her side, the relationship is damaged on your side. If
you're feeling this every time it's brought up, so like,
you know, give her the chance to try to make
it right.

Speaker 5 (44:29):
If it is eating I mean, we don't know how
the response is gonna be. But if this has been
eating away at you for eleven years, you gotta.

Speaker 2 (44:36):
Get it off here.

Speaker 5 (44:37):
You got to take it off and get this off
your chest, yeah, your back, whatever, you gotta get this off.

Speaker 1 (44:41):
Yeah, I got that. Put that old dog to rest,
Let sleeping dogs lie.

Speaker 2 (44:46):
Well yeah, I was gonna say that's leaving the way.

Speaker 1 (44:49):
Yeah, that's the wrong. Why he's got to go more
like like like put the dog your rest is in, Like, no,
you know it doesn't work, doesn't work. Wake wake your
dogs up, Wake your dog up. Don't let one dog
sleep in this town. But sir, we got an update. Hey,
this is Sam, this is John, and we are the

(45:11):
founding hosts of Okay Storytime Podcasts.

Speaker 2 (45:14):
And we have some foundational stories coming up for you.

Speaker 1 (45:16):
But the thing is, this foundation needs a little support
get into the episode. I talked to my sister this morning.
I told her how everything involving her wedding went down.
From my point of view, I was crying the whole time.
The more I spoke, the angrier she got, not with me,
but with our mom.

Speaker 3 (45:38):
Did her mom lie, see this is what you got
to bring things up? Not eleven years later, Yeah, this
is a lesson because we're I think we're about.

Speaker 2 (45:46):
To find out and learn it.

Speaker 3 (45:47):
We find out some dirty, some dirty secrets about those
dogs that were sleeping.

Speaker 1 (45:52):
Yep, sleeping dogs that are about to be woken up.

Speaker 3 (45:54):
And I think this is a lesson to always bring
up those feelings of anger and resentment so that they
don't fester.

Speaker 1 (46:01):
Yep. A fester and angers is a worse anger. That's
what they say, what.

Speaker 3 (46:06):
They always say.

Speaker 1 (46:07):
My sister was told by our mother that I was
already okay with staying home with the dogs, that I
just needed to be officially asked, but would you want
your sister to be there?

Speaker 5 (46:15):
Yeah?

Speaker 3 (46:16):
I would have been.

Speaker 1 (46:16):
Like regardless, I'm like what Honestly.

Speaker 3 (46:19):
Yeah, No, I would have talked to her and said like, hey,
you know, I know you said that you're okay with,
you know, staying with the dogs, but I want you
to be there.

Speaker 1 (46:27):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (46:27):
I called I call that caw b X ridiculous.

Speaker 1 (46:31):
I think those sleeping dogs are still sleeping.

Speaker 3 (46:34):
Thin Those sleeping dogs are lying.

Speaker 1 (46:36):
Yeah, ooh that they are. So she was never told that.
I was never okay with the idea. She said, if
it was a matter of not enough room for me,
she would have booted out their friend to make room
for me. She told me that no matter how our
relationship was at the time, she absolutely did want me there.
She said she was very disappointed with our mother. So
now I'm stuck. I'm very glad I talked to my sister.

(46:58):
I feel much better now, but my sister and I
are left with a lot of questions that only our
mother knows the answers to. Here we are days away
from Thanksgiving, where both my sister and I will be
celebrating at my parents' house. There could be another update
waiting for us in our slash okay storytime.

Speaker 5 (47:15):
The best time to bring up family drama?

Speaker 3 (47:18):
Yeah, you could find out?

Speaker 1 (47:19):
Yeah you want? Can you look? I really want to
bring it up after the Thanksgiving meal when it's just
my parents, my fiance, myself, and my sister. But my
sister is staying with my parents for a few days,
so she wants me to wait. I totally understand. I
don't want to put her in an uncomfortable situation with
her parents. I am at least very glad that my
sister understands how I feel and isn't happy about how

(47:40):
this went down either is completely on my side about this,
and that is enough for me for now.

Speaker 3 (47:46):
And that's maybe the end of the story.

Speaker 1 (47:48):
That's maybe the end of the story unless no update,
no update on our slash. Okay, story time, but hopie,
if you want to submit the update, let us know.

Speaker 2 (47:59):
That'd be great.

Speaker 1 (47:59):
Yeah.

Speaker 5 (48:00):
Maybe maybe they're working on it. Maybe they're still working
off the turkey.

Speaker 3 (48:03):
You have until the end of the comments comments from
the video. My fiance is furious that I'm asking to
celebrate our marriage and this was posted November twenty one,
twenty twenty five.

Speaker 1 (48:13):
Okay, so we're reading some comments.

Speaker 3 (48:14):
Opi and her fiance argued about buying a house versus
having a wedding. She just wanted a small way to
celebrate signing the marriage papers, but he screamed at her,
called her names, and refused therapy. After repeated fights and
emotional abuse, op he moved out, documented everything, and ultimately
broke up. She realized his anger and controlling behavior were

(48:36):
toxic and staying wasn't safer.

Speaker 1 (48:39):
That is crazy that you realize that on the precipice
of buying a house slash getting marriage. Thank goodness, thank goodness,
you didn't do that.

Speaker 3 (48:46):
And if you're curious to know the full story, you
can go watch the full video. But we have some
comments from that.

Speaker 2 (48:50):
Video, Yes, we do.

Speaker 4 (48:52):
Well.

Speaker 5 (48:52):
You have a comment here by steph is Back. They say,
OPI are you dating my ex? Your guy sounds exactly
like my ex, which is why he's an ex.

Speaker 3 (49:03):
A lot of xes sound similar.

Speaker 1 (49:04):
Yeah, yeah, is this true? That's something I think I
saw was all bad relationships are bad in different ways,
but all good relationships are good in the same way.

Speaker 4 (49:13):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (49:13):
I think that's true.

Speaker 3 (49:14):
Yeah, I would say so obviously, not like the like specifics,
but yeah, but like the same You know, you get
someone who's generous and caring and spends time.

Speaker 5 (49:24):
I think, so you learn. It's a learning thing. We
have another comment here by Abigail Oberhauser, working twenty for
the first story. My husband and I got married for
under seven hundred dollars.

Speaker 1 (49:35):
What the heck?

Speaker 2 (49:36):
Nice?

Speaker 5 (49:36):
I mean, I know people do some really cheap weddings.

Speaker 1 (49:38):
I mean, also, you could just like you could just
not do what you could just so we've thrown a
one hundred person party. Yeah, you could just do that
and it was like what two hundred bucks?

Speaker 5 (49:47):
Yeah, you kill everyone to bring something.

Speaker 1 (49:49):
Yeah, you put a bunch of chairs in the backyard.

Speaker 3 (49:52):
You bring your potlock wedding every wedding.

Speaker 2 (49:55):
That's actually really fun.

Speaker 3 (49:56):
It's a cool wayf they want a budget wedding, you
just throw a potlock wedding and get someone to officiate.

Speaker 2 (50:00):
But yeah, work really well.

Speaker 5 (50:01):
Abigail continues, so saying, I spent months looking and thrifted
my dream vintage wedding dress for twenty five dollars.

Speaker 3 (50:07):
Wow.

Speaker 4 (50:09):
Cool, if you.

Speaker 5 (50:09):
Put your mind to it, I think anyone could do that. Yeah,
he wore a suit we thrifted over many years. My
dad happened to fit a suit I thrifted back in
high school.

Speaker 2 (50:17):
It was made for him.

Speaker 5 (50:18):
We got married in a local church that was absolutely beautiful,
for only one hundred and fifty dollars.

Speaker 1 (50:22):
One hundred and fifty bucks.

Speaker 3 (50:24):
Dag, you guys are savers.

Speaker 1 (50:26):
You guys are savers. Sa Also people like spend like
tens of.

Speaker 3 (50:31):
Thousands, if not more, a lot of money.

Speaker 1 (50:34):
I know someone who spent seven hundred thousand dollars on
their wedding and got divorced six months later.

Speaker 3 (50:39):
That's that's only amazy.

Speaker 2 (50:41):
Yeah, it's all.

Speaker 1 (50:41):
It's also the is that not ridiculous?

Speaker 3 (50:44):
Ridiculous?

Speaker 1 (50:44):
That's ridiculous.

Speaker 2 (50:45):
That sounds disgusting.

Speaker 1 (50:46):
That's disgusting. You could put it down payment on like
a really nice house line.

Speaker 5 (50:50):
Yeah, and continuing there. For Abigail, the only flour holes
were made for my wedding buquet. It was just direct
family and we went to a sushi place after to celebrate.
Our family friend is a professional bographer and did our
photos for free. It's also who you know. Yeah, yeah,
this is so we can be married, have a small wedding,
live together, build our finances, and save for a house
and wedding. Like Sam said, he's been saving for a

(51:11):
down payment since before we were engaged. Since we both
come from poverty and we want to break the cycle,
we plan to have a proper wedding with relatives and
friends once we have the separate savings.

Speaker 1 (51:20):
Built break that poverty cycle. Yeah, break it, get break it.

Speaker 5 (51:25):
And we live in a rented house until work moves
him out and his contact is up The point is
there are always ways of doing what he wanted without
being absurd. He's weaponizing the situation. There are actual solutions.
We plan all the above over many months in the
wedding itself.

Speaker 3 (51:38):
In two weeks, yeah, I mean, at the end of
the day, you found out who this guy was.

Speaker 5 (51:44):
I think it Also, we've seen it in many stories
that weddings bring out that type of person, like the
real person they are, especially when high stress and everything.

Speaker 4 (51:53):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (51:53):
Yeah, I want to go through a high stress situation
with your like something that puts you in a high
stress situation with a partner, I think, Yeah, you know,
going on a road trip or having a doll.

Speaker 5 (52:02):
And we have one last comment here by King Snorby.
I love that Stooroby.

Speaker 2 (52:06):
Uh.

Speaker 5 (52:07):
I pick whichever would not put me in debt lol.

Speaker 1 (52:10):
Yeah, agreed, But.

Speaker 3 (52:12):
That's the end of those comments and the end of
this episode.

Speaker 1 (52:15):
Yeah. So, if you love us, make sure subscribe

Speaker 3 (52:17):
We love you and see it tomorrow.

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