My sister-in-law HIJACKED my son’s birthday… so I refuse to babysit for her! | Reddit Stories | EP2033 - ok storytime

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 4 (00:16):
My sister in law hijacked my son's birthday, so I
refused to babysit for her.

Speaker 5 (00:21):
You hijack, you get no seit.

Speaker 4 (00:23):
You missed with my son. No, I'll never look after
your son again. I have thirty eight female and married
to my husband, Joe, thirty eight male. We have been
married for six years now and have two children together,
our four year old son and two year old daughter.
I also have my older son, fourteen, Mail, whose father
is not active in his life. By the way, this
comes from Cool Trust eight thousand and eight and if

(00:45):
you want to spit your own stories, go to our Sashoke.
Storytime subured it so. Additionally, four point five years ago,
while I was pregnant with our son, my best friend
of twenty five years passed away. When she passed away,
I took in my god son, who is now seventeen,
with a seventeen year old a fourteen year old, a
four year old and a two year old in the house.

(01:07):
I'm pretty busy even as a stay at home mom.

Speaker 6 (01:10):
I'm at a holder.

Speaker 4 (01:11):
That's how a lot of kids, and also kids with
Matt like very different needs.

Speaker 7 (01:17):
Very different needs, and you're probably ubering them everywhere, taking
them practices, all this stuff.

Speaker 4 (01:22):
My fourteen year old has always been home educated, and
my younger two will be as well. This is important
and you'll see why. My godson finished his schooling as
per his mother's wishes and is now in college. My
fourteen year old will also be going to college once
he completes his GCSEs. He has already earned three at
only four fourteen years old.

Speaker 5 (01:42):
Wow.

Speaker 4 (01:43):
My brother in law, Tom thirty five male, and his
girlfriend Jenna twenty nine female have been together for two
and a half years. Neither of them have much of
a relationship with my kids, and that's fine, no big deal.
Until this year, we just assumed they weren't kid people
and honestly never expected Tom or Jenna to have children.

(02:03):
They're perfectly okay people, to be clear, but they never
showed much interest in our youngest children. Aside from a
birthday card with a gift card inside, they've also rarely
acknowledged the older two kids. That all changed last Christmas
when they announced they were expecting.

Speaker 5 (02:21):
Oh wow, that's kind of a switch up.

Speaker 4 (02:23):
Yeah, everyone, including my mother in law, was completely surprised,
but extremely supportive. There was even more surprise in January
when they found out they were expecting twin girls. As
the months passed and my two year old outgrew clothes
and baby gear, I offered them to Jenna to help out.
She was very grateful. In July, they welcomed their two

(02:46):
adorable little girls. The whole family bent over backward to
support Jenna and Tom. When the twins were just over
two weeks old, Jenna had a medical emergency and was
hospitalized for a few days. Tom explained that with Jenna
only receiving maternity pay and his paternity leave already taken,
they couldn't afford for him to take any more time

(03:07):
off work. I was more than happy to help out,
so for five days I watched the newborns alongside my
own children so that Tom could continue working and have
time to visit Jenna in the hospital, which is so
incredibly like kind generous of op Absolutely two newborns plus
four kids like just one newborn is such a huge undertaking.

(03:33):
It was exhausting but completely necessary at the time, and
if I had my time again, I'd absolutely do the
same thing. Once Jenna was released, Tom picked up the
twins but looked upset. He explained that Jenna had been
told to take it easier for a few weeks, and
he was worried about how she would manage regular household
duties and meal prep without him having to cut work hours,

(03:54):
which they couldn't afford. Honestly, I felt bad for him.
He works hard, but money just doesn't stretch that far
these days. My husband and I are far from wealthy,
but we are comfortable and our arrangement works for us.
I'm incredibly fortunate to be in a position where I
can stay home and raise our children. I offer Tom
that if Jenna was ever feeling overwhelmed, I wouldn't mind

(04:16):
helping out from time to time. Over the next few days,
I batch cooked meals and drop them off at their
home to try and make things easier. Aw things that
are just so incredibly generous, and I keep feeling like
something like the shoes about to drop whenever I stop by.
I always had my younger children with me, but still
took the time to tidy up the kitchen, make sure

(04:38):
the twins were fed and changed, and help however I could.
That said, I have four children and my own household run,
so I could only do so much. But for those
few weeks I did everything in my power to help.
My husband, Joe was overwhelmed by how much I was doing.
My mother in law also helped Jenna whenever she could,

(04:59):
but she still works, so her time was limited. By September,
Jenna was doing much better physically, so I began to
scale back the help I was offering. By that point,
I had filled her entire chest a freezer with enough
meals to last them at least another six weeks, if
not longer, all at our expense, But I digress. Since then,

(05:22):
I have watched the twins a few times. They are
now almost five months old, and they're absolute darlings. My
children and I are very fond of them. Last weekend
was my four year old's birthday. After a fun soft
play party with his friends, my husband and I planned
a family dinner for him. In attendance were me, my husband,
are four kids, my mother in law sixty four female,

(05:43):
her special friend John sixty five, mail, Tom, Jenna and
their twins. Side note, I don't know why my husband
and Tom called John our special friend. They're weird about
calling him her boyfriend. John and mother in law don't
live together, but have been supporting each other for the
last decade and seem happy. No big deal, he's always
been wealth. Jenna had recently reconnected with her much younger sister,

(06:07):
Ashley twenty female and asked if she could bring her
I agreed because I was happy to see Jenna expanding
her support network. Okay, everything was going great until May
through dinner, when Jenna mentioned that, after seeing how well
my fourteen year old was doing with home education, she
was seriously considering it for the twins.

Speaker 7 (06:29):
But they but they can't do that, right because if
he is to stay at home, mom, yeah, and their
family and like their family can't. But I don't think
you're able to.

Speaker 4 (06:41):
Oh no, no, no, no, no no no. The conversation didn't
exactly come out of nowhere. My mother in law had
just been asking about how I planned to transition my
four year old into homeschooling. I told Jenna I thought
it was great. She was considering home education and assured
her that if she ever needed a guidance, I'd be
happy to help. I see you. I think Jenna's gonna

(07:03):
be like, you should homeschool with my kids. You should
just you should just teach my kids.

Speaker 6 (07:08):
What's another paracid?

Speaker 4 (07:10):
What's another what's another two kids? I thought that would
be the end of it, But boy, was I wrong.
Jenna looked confused and turned to Tom as if I
was missing something. Tom buried his head in his shirt.
My husband noticed and asked if everything was okay. Jenna
then said she had just assumed that since I'd be
watching the twins when she went back to work in

(07:31):
two months, I would also be the one to provide
their education when the time came. Why did he be
agreed that she was watching the kids?

Speaker 7 (07:43):
Remember whenever she said she, you know, teaches her own kids,
that's when she agreed to teach my Oh remember, Lord?

Speaker 5 (07:49):
Do you remember that part?

Speaker 4 (07:50):
Lordy Lord? Fine print is entitled yeah, you must have
not read it when I didn't write it there. I'm sorry.
When was there ever an agreement for me to watch
the twins once you go back to work? I said?
Jenna said, Well, things you don't work, Tom and I
thought it just made the most sense for the twins
to come here rather than pay for childcare since we
can't afford it. I recognize that not affording childcare is

(08:17):
a big problem for a lot of people, but that
is not a peace problem. Yeah, that's your problem as
the parents. It's your problem, and you can ask for
help for other people. But if they say no.

Speaker 5 (08:30):
You got to figure that out.

Speaker 4 (08:31):
It's not their problem.

Speaker 5 (08:32):
Yeah, oh my gosh.

Speaker 4 (08:34):
I quickly looked to my husband for support, and he
confirmed that no conversation about this had ever taken place.
Jenna insisted that it would just be like when I
was in the hospital. She explained that the twins would
come to us, meaning me, when both she and Tom
were at work. You said it made the most sense
for them, Yeah, getting free childcare. Of course, that makes
the most sense for you. She even added, don't worry,

(08:57):
it's not like we're gonna expect you to cook meals
and everything like last time, although it would be appreciated
from time to time.

Speaker 8 (09:05):
Y'all are the most freaking, oh my, just entitled, entitled
people I ever met.

Speaker 7 (09:15):
Can we do like a small little rebel? Just as
small and small? Whenever we have our houses. Yeah, our
compound has figured it out. We could probably have like
each day we can go to one person's house and
they have like family dinners or whatever.

Speaker 4 (09:28):
I would love that.

Speaker 7 (09:28):
Yeah, it's like Monday's tesdays and you can make it great.
If not, don't worry about it. Yeah, and like.

Speaker 4 (09:34):
I'll take care of our kids.

Speaker 5 (09:35):
Yeah. Oh yeah, so the honors are going to come over,
the whole donors are coming all.

Speaker 7 (09:41):
Well, we got all the do we got the donner
party and the fry party here.

Speaker 6 (09:46):
Yeah, what's going on?

Speaker 4 (09:49):
This is our compound?

Speaker 5 (09:50):
Yeah, we got a compound. You want to join?

Speaker 2 (09:52):
Yeah?

Speaker 6 (09:52):
Sure, I love you guys. Why not?

Speaker 5 (09:54):
All right? Cool? Yeah, yeah, we'll get you there. You
and Dakota can have a place.

Speaker 6 (09:57):
Yeah oh no, no, no, no, okay, I mean Carly
can have a place.

Speaker 5 (10:01):
Yeah, sure, you guys, you and Carly can.

Speaker 4 (10:03):
I honestly didn't know where to look or what to say. Thankfully,
at that moment, my two year old started fussing, tired
from the evening. My mother in law, apparently sensing the awkwardness,
quickly stood up and offered to take her to bed.
I thanked her and sensing the conversation wasn't ending anytime soon.
Encouraged my four year old to follow grandma upstairs and

(10:24):
help her find everything she needed to settle her youngest.
Both older boys, also picking up on the tension, excused
themselves and headed outside to the little man cave I
had set up for them in the shed. They were, oh,
let's go. That just left me, my husband, Tom, Jenna, Ashley,
and John sitting around the table. The twins were asleep
in the next room in their pram. The conversation continued,

(10:46):
with Jenna excitedly talking about how much she was looking
forward to returning to work in a few months. My husband,
noticing how uncomfortable I was, took the lead. He firmly
stated that at no point had anyone to say with
either of us the idea of me watching the twins
while they worked. To be clear, this would mean five
days a week Monday, Tuesday, Thursday, Friday, Sunday.

Speaker 5 (11:10):
Oh what.

Speaker 4 (11:12):
Jenna responded that she didn't think it would be that
big of a deal since, in her words, oh, he
just stays home with the kids all day anyway, It's
not like it would be any real hardship.

Speaker 5 (11:24):
Then you do it, Yeah, yeah, about you watched them
five days out.

Speaker 4 (11:28):
Do you watch your own kids five days out of
the week?

Speaker 7 (11:31):
Oh, she already has so many, like it probably won't
even be that big.

Speaker 1 (11:34):
Of a deal.

Speaker 4 (11:34):
Or why don't you watch your own kids? I hate
this person? Weird At that, my husband defended me again.
He pointed out that et at that of everyone at
the table, I arguably worked the hardest, since I was
raising four children, maintaining a home, and taking full responsibility
for their education. He told them that if they perceived

(11:56):
that as me not doing anything, then they were welcome
to try it themselves. Yeah, I like your husband. Tom
looked embarrassed and horrified. Jenna, on the other hand, looked offended.
She then said that at least her children were related
to mine. You about to make a crack at that
seventeen year old you about to you about to say

(12:16):
something about the opie's literal like adopted son. I think so, Opie,
I'm sense and ops about yourself. If if you're trying
to get someone on your side and you're out here
saying that, dude, y'all don't know Hell no, no, Unlike
my seventeen year old godson, since since he was just

(12:39):
dumped on your laps a few years ago. This is
where I may be the a hole. I lost it. Girl,
You're not the a hole.

Speaker 3 (12:47):
Yeah.

Speaker 4 (12:47):
If you poke a bear and they lash out, that's
on you.

Speaker 5 (12:51):
Yeah, that's not her person with the stick in their hand.

Speaker 4 (12:54):
I told her, in no uncertain terms, how dare she
come into my home and talk about my seventeen year
old that way? He wasn't dumped on us. His mother
and I had been best friend since before Jenna was
even born. When my friend was dying, her one wish
was that he come to live with me, because I
was the one constant he had known in his entire life.
His biological father had emigrated to New Zealand when he

(13:16):
was two and had never even returned for a visit
until I met my husband. My best friend and I
had raised her boys as single mother's side by side.
There was nowhere else in the world that my god
son belonged more than in my home.

Speaker 6 (13:30):
Yeah.

Speaker 4 (13:30):
Jenna immediately tried to backtrack, saying all she meant was
that if I didn't mind caring for someone else's child
full time, she didn't see why I would have an
issue caring for her children part time.

Speaker 7 (13:40):
Tom out you're just trying to switch to sob being
trying to manipulate this in a way that works for you.

Speaker 4 (13:45):
Early, early, I would literally be like, I don't want
to see you guys.

Speaker 7 (13:48):
Ever again, Well that was nice. You're not getting any
more chicken palm pie.

Speaker 4 (13:54):
Yeah you're not. I'm not cooking for y'all. Ever again,
that would suck.

Speaker 5 (13:57):
Dude.

Speaker 4 (13:58):
Oh John bless him, looked extremely uncomfortable and excuse himself
to go upstairs and help mother in law wrangle the
little ones into bed. I told Jenna that whilst I
loved the twins, I was not in a position to
commit to watching them for that much time. Every reason
I gave she countered. I told her that I don't
have a seven seater car, so if I made this commitment,

(14:19):
I'd be committed to either having to keep all the
children in the house or leaving the older two boys
at home so I could have enough space in the
car for my two youngest plus the twins. She didn't
see an issue with that, since the boys are old
enough to be left. I pointed out that part of
our home education plan involved regularly driving my fourteen year
old to day trips and social gatherings to ensure he's

(14:41):
not missing out on anything. And I wouldn't be able
to do this if I was also caring for her
twins because of the car space. She said, well, he's
already got three gcsees, though, we surely can just ride
it out until he's sixteen and head off to college
with just those three. This woman doesn't know anything about parenting.

Speaker 7 (14:58):
She doesn't, and she doesn't I'm a freaking clue. She's like, Oh,
let me delegate this.

Speaker 4 (15:03):
Yeah, you can't delegate your parenting, girl.

Speaker 7 (15:05):
And you were right. They aren't kid people. Doesn't seem
like they. She wants to take any responsibility yea, ope.

Speaker 4 (15:11):
Yeah, op. He said that at the beginning. Oh, I
didn't expect these people to have kids. They don't want
these kids. Don't they want you. They want the optics
of having kids, but they want you to take care
of them. I told her that's absolutely not how it works,
and that she would have to come up with an
alternative arrangement. The conversation went back and forth for some time.
Tom was mostly quiet, Ashley looked like a deer in

(15:34):
headlights aside from the odd smirk, and my husband was
firmly on my side of things. Jenna, however, was insistent
this made the most sense for her family and couldn't
understand why I was being so unreasonable. Basically, the gist
of it was that Tom and Jenna had assumed I'd
have no issue taking care of the twins for them

(15:55):
for free. They wanted me to have them for five
days a week, including us, say, which is the one
day a week my husband is guaranteed to have off work,
so we allocate it for family time. Sometime later, my
mother in law appeared back downstairs, having successfully gotten my
two year old settled into bed. She told me that
my four year old was asking for me to read

(16:16):
them a story. I excuse myself and headed upstairs. I
spent a little extra time on his bedtime reading, mainly
because it was birthday and I felt bad that dinner
had turned into this. I hope that by the time
I came back, the conversation would have moved on. I
doubt it. I doubt it because they haven't gotten what
they wanted.

Speaker 7 (16:34):
They haven't gotten what they wanted, and they still got
to put these kids in someone else's hands, and these kids.

Speaker 4 (16:40):
Off Twenty minutes later, I couldn't have been more wrong.
When I got back downstairs, my husband was still arguing
with his brother and Jenna about the situation.

Speaker 7 (16:50):
What what what kind of crazy town did you guys
just come from.

Speaker 4 (16:54):
I'd be like, you guys need to leave now. I
don't want to see you.

Speaker 5 (16:58):
Now, right freaking now.

Speaker 4 (17:01):
I noticed when I glanced the doorway that the twins
pram wasn't in the other room, so I asked where
they were. Jenna stated that they'd woken up fussy, and
since they were trying to make my husband see sense,
they asked my fourteen year old and seventeen year old
to occupy them, and now they're handing off the kids
to yet another group. She then made a comment about

(17:22):
how easy it would be for me to have twins
because my boys were capable of helping.

Speaker 5 (17:26):
What, let's parentify their kids.

Speaker 4 (17:29):
Yeah, so she's like, she's like, okay, you guys, compare
my kids. And he's like no, and she's like, okay,
what about your kids? Compare my kids? Also, the one
that she literally said you can just get rid of
like you already was like you already have like a
random kid dumped on you was too much. I just
insulted that kid, and now she's like, oh, you have
to parent my kids. Yeah, by the way you compare

(17:50):
my kids, that really rough. Make it makes a wrong way.
It was me the wrong way. She made disparaging remarks
about my lifestyle, which was one thing, but asking my
children to watch her twins just so she could argue
her point further did something to me. I removed myself
from the room and went out to the shed. To
be clear, this is basically a fully functioning room. It

(18:12):
has heating, electricity, et cetera.

Speaker 5 (18:14):
I want to sit like this now.

Speaker 4 (18:17):
Yeah, well we do kind of a shed, we just
don't have heating.

Speaker 7 (18:20):
Oh yeah, we don't have heating. It is almost fully functional. Yeah,
but I'm like a show to play video games in.

Speaker 4 (18:26):
Only a video game shit the bear.

Speaker 6 (18:29):
Well gamer shit gamer shit y gamer channel.

Speaker 4 (18:32):
Fully functional. We'll just make a whole gaming corner in there.

Speaker 5 (18:36):
Where would we put it in that closet?

Speaker 4 (18:38):
Yeah, in the closet, and we'll have beauty bean bags.

Speaker 5 (18:43):
My gosh.

Speaker 4 (18:44):
Yeah, it's a special place I created for my older
two boys to escape from the craziness of having younger
children around. They hang out there. They've got their game
system and mini fridge and their own space. Neither of
my younger children have ever been in there, because I've
made sure it's a safe place for my older boys
to retreat to. I don't agree with parentifying children. Good

(19:06):
on you. When I got there, I saw my seventeen
year old desperately trying to calm one of the twins
while my fourteen year old was rocking the pram with
his foot to keep the other one asleep. I apologized
to them, strap the baby my seventeen year old was
holding back into the pram and took the twins back inside.
I told Jenna she needed to leave my house and

(19:27):
go home to tend to her babies. At this point,
I was done. The audacity had gone too far. Tom
was trying to encourage Jenna to leave, and this was
when Ashley decided to have her say. She told Jenna
that if she'd known what a witch I was, she'd
never have wanted to come to dinner anyway. She said,
I was clearly unhinged, only cared for myself and didn't

(19:50):
know what the meaning of family was. Oh, so this
is the mother in law. Al yeah, girl, you I'm
sorry if you have anything to say about someone who
is not the parent of these kids, not parenting these kids,
then you do it. You'll take care of these kids.

Speaker 7 (20:09):
The only way I'm saying yes to this offer, yeah,
is if she signs a contract that the kids stay
with me until they're three.

Speaker 4 (20:19):
It's like, Okay, I'm adopting these kids.

Speaker 5 (20:20):
I'm adopting you're giving I'm adopting them.

Speaker 7 (20:23):
And I also have a business on the side, so
they have to work with for me until they're twenty three.

Speaker 4 (20:30):
Dang, we're paying them.

Speaker 5 (20:31):
We're paying them.

Speaker 7 (20:31):
We're paying them because it works as our taxes as
tax reduction, and they will be fine.

Speaker 5 (20:37):
But we have workers to work at a sawmill. That's
what I do on oh two helpers.

Speaker 4 (20:42):
Heck you I got them.

Speaker 5 (20:43):
Yeah, oh yeah.

Speaker 7 (20:43):
They can start picking green bees when they're seven, when
they're five.

Speaker 4 (20:48):
As of children, they.

Speaker 5 (20:50):
Can start working. They can start shoveling at four.

Speaker 4 (20:52):
This mother in law is crazy. Literally, I just be like, Okay,
you take care of the kids. If you think that
I'm not, If i'm not, if I don't know what
the meaning of family is, then you take.

Speaker 7 (21:03):
Care of because yeah, I take care of the kids.
When they're four, they start working on the sawmill in
between the like lumber going down the green chain.

Speaker 5 (21:11):
We have a teacher teaching them how to like add exactly,
and they have like a how.

Speaker 4 (21:15):
Any lumber are on the how did you got today?

Speaker 7 (21:19):
And they do like they ride the ABC's on the
lumber with mark and they do addition to substraction on it.

Speaker 4 (21:25):
If I split the lumber into four? How what faction
is that? Unfortunately, my seventeen year old had followed me
back inside and did not take kindly to Ashley talking
to me that way. He told her to never speak
to me like that again. Mother in law was desperately
trying to keep the peace, but I was done.

Speaker 6 (21:43):
Shout out to the seventeen year old.

Speaker 4 (21:46):
Is Ashley not the mother in law? His mother in law?
Who's Ashley?

Speaker 6 (21:50):
Is that the sister?

Speaker 4 (21:52):
Can someone remind me who Ashley is?

Speaker 5 (21:53):
I think Ashley's a twenty year old?

Speaker 4 (21:56):
Oh, Mami says, I think Ashley is the sister, not
mother in law. Okay, so we have Ashley is the sister,
and then John is the brother and Jenna is the
sister in law.

Speaker 6 (22:10):
Yeah, okay, cool, A lot of characters here.

Speaker 4 (22:13):
My seventeen year old told Ashley that if she didn't leave,
he'd remove her himself, since he was closer to her
age than anyone else was. Jenna then told him to
watch his mouth or he would have to deal with
her since he wasn't even family.

Speaker 5 (22:25):
Po pop pop pop bam, bam bam, Goeta, taste your
own medicine.

Speaker 4 (22:35):
That was the final straw. I started counting down from
ten and told her to get out of my house. Honestly,
the whole thing was ridiculous and my poor four year
old's birthday meal had been totally hijacked. Jenna, Ashley, Tom,
and their babies left. Mother in law's special friend also
saw fit to leave. I took some time to talk

(22:56):
to my boys, especially my seventeen year old, because that
boy had been through so much and this is his home.
He was okay, he's nerdiverse and has additional needs, but
he is fiercely predictive of me and his now siblings.
Mother in law helped my husband clear the table. When
I got back from speaking to the older boys. Mother
in law apologized. You said she had been told beforehand

(23:17):
that I would be watching the twins, but had assumed
it was a mutual agreement between us. I assured her
it hadn't been. She admitted she felt bad that she
wasn't able to help Tom and Jenna more than she
currently does. Honestly, if I had had the capacity to
do it, I likely would have, But five days a
week was way too much, especially when it hadn't even

(23:38):
been discussed, it had just been assumed. It's been a
week now and Jenna has been blocked by me after
blowing up my phone with calls and texts about how
rude I was to her. Tom stopped by the other
night in an attempt to smooth things over and asked
if there was any way I'd be willing to help
with childcare. I reiterated that as much as I love
and adore the twins, I just can't take on that

(24:00):
level commitment and still maintain my fourteen year old's education.
I think you also say, also, even if I could,
I don't want to because you guys are incredibly rude,
and you guys.

Speaker 5 (24:11):
Suck selp absorbs.

Speaker 7 (24:13):
Yeah, because I know the second you hand off the twins, Yeah,
there's gonna be taken.

Speaker 4 (24:18):
You give them an inch, tickt them mile.

Speaker 5 (24:20):
They're gonna Hey can you also do this? Hey?

Speaker 7 (24:22):
Can you also in my house and before you know,
more kids you're gonna be weed eating in their house
as they're sipping on lemonade inside watching a baseball game.

Speaker 4 (24:30):
And you're like fanning them well, feeding them grapes. I
worked way too hard on his education for the past
decade to let it fall apart. Now, I did offer
to have the twins one day a week on your
too nice, opie, you are too freaking nice.

Speaker 7 (24:45):
Maybe they were just they were just looking for one
day and they were like, we's just gonna start with five.

Speaker 4 (24:49):
Yeah, and then worked the area because that's the one day.
My son doesn't have any commitments that require me to
leave the house. But besides that, there really isn't anything
more I can do. We are part of a very
large homeschooling community in our area and have lots of
clubs and groups we attend. Even my youngest two are
involved in them. But getting to these activities requires a car,

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and like I said, I physically wouldn't be able to
fit all of the children in my five seater car.
Tom even suggested to my husband that we purchase a
bigger car since there are six of us anyway, but honestly,
it's never been an issue. My husband and I both
have cars, so when he's around, if we're all going somewhere,
we just use both. It's never been a big deal

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until now. After Tom left, my husband asked if I
if I'd be interested in getting a bigger car. I
told him I wasn't opposed to the idea, since running
just one car for family outings would be cheaper in
the long run. However, I wasn't keen because it would
give Tom and jen On the idea that I now
had space for the twins. Four kids under five plus

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two teenagers five days a week is just too much.
My fourteen year old also has additional needs that require
one on one time for his education. Right now, our
younger two are on a pretty good schedule that allows
me to make that happen. But if I had two
babies in the house for most of the week, plus
needing to focus more heavily on my four year old's education,

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I just wouldn't have the time to give my son
the attention he needs. And honestly, call me petty, but
after the way Jenna spoke about me and my seventeen
year old, I'm not inclined to do anything more to
help than the one Tuesday a week I already agreed
to abs a freaking loot. Dude, You're already giving so
much to one day a week is a lot. It

(26:35):
is it's for people to mistreat you. We found our
mother in law has agreed to take the twins on
a Sunday as she doesn't work weekends, so that left
Tom and Jenna with having to find childcare for three
days a week. Jenna still hasn't let up. I unblocked
her this morning to message her because I found out
she's been texting my two older boys asking them to

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ask me to reconsider, et cetera. She even told fourteen
year old that having the twins around would help him
feel more part of the family. Let me remind you
these people have always been indifferent to the older two boys.
Mother in law is always loved and doated on all
four of my children. It's just Tom and Jenna that
view the older two differently. That was I just I

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like zoned out reading that? Yeah, how did that happen?

Speaker 5 (27:25):
I don't know? You zone out a lot?

Speaker 6 (27:27):
What what did I just read?

Speaker 9 (27:29):
You?

Speaker 3 (27:29):
Have you have.

Speaker 7 (27:30):
Fully comprehended how to zone out in any time at all?

Speaker 5 (27:35):
Crazy.

Speaker 7 (27:35):
It's like a superpower. You know how people freeze time?
You don't how to zone out?

Speaker 4 (27:40):
Sorry, I just like was fully thinking about like getting
a C in third grade.

Speaker 7 (27:46):
Oh, I got to see in third grade two, I
was thinking about starting out the YouTube channel and it
was going to be reading bedtime stories to kids.

Speaker 4 (27:54):
That that's insane. Sorry, does anyone know what happened? Just then?

Speaker 6 (27:58):
You want to reread that one more time?

Speaker 5 (27:59):
Just one sentence and I can go back.

Speaker 6 (28:01):
One page, to go back one page. Just hey, show screen,
look at ust Us. You're okay, what you happened? You're
you're you're.

Speaker 4 (28:11):
Perfect because I never stopped reading.

Speaker 6 (28:14):
Yeah, you get you're gonna strange.

Speaker 3 (28:16):
You go okay.

Speaker 4 (28:17):
I don't know how I did that. Jenna doesn't. I'm
blocked this morning to messenger. I read it. I read
it well. I don't think I need to reread it.

Speaker 6 (28:24):
I think I like you don't like when you drive
the car and like you're driving for a long time
and you're like I'm here. Yeah, yeah, that's what.

Speaker 7 (28:30):
You get on Instagram and drive it down the road
and you're like, oh, I'm finally made it.

Speaker 4 (28:35):
What okay?

Speaker 6 (28:36):
What do you do? We get the car excellent, I'm ready.
Are you good? Take a deep breath. Every took a
deep breath.

Speaker 4 (28:43):
That was weird.

Speaker 6 (28:43):
Get back on track.

Speaker 4 (28:45):
So, as of this morning, I rescinded my offer to
help on a Tuesday to let them figure it out.

Speaker 5 (28:50):
There.

Speaker 4 (28:50):
We got you shut as you should.

Speaker 5 (28:53):
Yeah, and they don't.

Speaker 4 (28:54):
You don't owe them a.

Speaker 5 (28:55):
Tuesday, hold them any day, because what are you getting
out of this Nothing? They're not paying you no money.

Speaker 4 (29:01):
They're not freaking paying you.

Speaker 5 (29:02):
You don't even know these kids. You don't even like
these people.

Speaker 4 (29:05):
You don't like them. They suck.

Speaker 7 (29:07):
You're getting no labor out of these children. Come back
around when they are able to lift rock and maybe we'll.

Speaker 4 (29:15):
Talk lift a rock.

Speaker 7 (29:20):
Well, whenever you till the garden, there's rocks and sticks.
So put to work, yeah, exactly, making them work it.
If I'm sad in other kids, if I take care
for free, they're gonna have to give me something. I
also saw in the chat someone had a dog and
they're like, my beagle needs to needs a job. Treats

(29:41):
and tennis balls are expensive, and I was thinking, how
can I how can my dog pay itself rent?

Speaker 6 (29:47):
What?

Speaker 5 (29:48):
Like?

Speaker 7 (29:48):
How can it pay for its own food. How can
it pay for its toys and everything?

Speaker 6 (29:52):
Instagram?

Speaker 4 (29:53):
Oh okay, Nicole, your brain hurt all that bs and
it just went straight up the ear. I was like,
I can't listen.

Speaker 7 (30:01):
To that is actually smart because I do if I
get a job. I wanted to be self sustaining in
its own way.

Speaker 6 (30:06):
Yeah, I take what a dog?

Speaker 5 (30:09):
Yeah?

Speaker 6 (30:09):
Oh he said, team wanted to be.

Speaker 4 (30:11):
Able to pay for it. My husband is sad because
this has caused a rift between him and his brother,
but he totally supports me in my decision, especially after
seeing the messages that Jenna sent to fourteen year old.
I hate that he's sad, but feel strongly that I
made the right decision. Mother in law has said she's
staying out of the argument because she's worried Jena will
use any stance she takes as a way to alienate

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her from the twins' lives. So after all that, am
I the ale? I'm gonna be honest mother in law one?
So one, there is an update. Two, You're not the ale. Three.
I think if the mother in law just says I
I'll take care of the kids, they won't cut her
out of the life. Whatever she says, you know, if

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she stands up for op but she's like, I'll take
care of the kids on Tuesday. They'll be like, okay, cool,
because they need someone to take care of these kids
for free.

Speaker 3 (31:02):
Yeah.

Speaker 4 (31:03):
I feel like the mother in law is being kind
of a coward honestly, Like I feel like they're not
going to kick her out as long as as long
as she gives them childcare because that's what they're desperate. Yeah,
and Jia girl says she's desperate for childcare. Yeah, but
there is an update.

Speaker 5 (31:20):
There is an update that is pretty wild.

Speaker 7 (31:23):
Yeah.

Speaker 5 (31:23):
I don't know, like, why are we handing these kids off?

Speaker 4 (31:26):
Yeah, just parent your kids.

Speaker 2 (31:28):
I agree with whatever Sophia said.

Speaker 5 (31:29):
Thank you.

Speaker 4 (31:31):
I said parent your kids, parry kids, or pay for childcare.
I understand that you guys are like you don't have
a lot of money, which is like a huge problem,
but like, stop making it other people's problems. And there
is an update.

Speaker 7 (31:44):
Let's go, Riley, make your dog their own YouTube channel
and teach it tricks to work for its food and board.

Speaker 6 (31:51):
She teach the dog how to like press the buttons.

Speaker 4 (31:54):
This is what you do? You say, you have a
stream and it's just like a like it's this area,
but it's there's nothing here. And you say, if anyway,
if you donate, we'll bring the dog on. Okay, every
one dollar we bring the dog on for a.

Speaker 7 (32:10):
Minute, I will I think I will start a social
media like all right, this guy needs to pay for
it's written board.

Speaker 6 (32:16):
We should get like a puppy cam.

Speaker 5 (32:17):
Yeah, puppy cam. Okay.

Speaker 4 (32:19):
We put like a little GoPro on the dog. Okay,
and it's it's like but no, but so that you
can still see the dog. It's the train guy, you know,
the train guy who like has a gop on his face.

Speaker 2 (32:29):
It's like it's like.

Speaker 6 (32:31):
Like that, it's like his.

Speaker 7 (32:34):
You could probably get a GoPro camera and have it
live feeds, so then if someone donates it shows for
like a split second.

Speaker 4 (32:40):
I'm gonna get a goat and and get a and
call it a goat pro.

Speaker 5 (32:45):
Goats are not that expensive, by the way, and.

Speaker 4 (32:48):
They pay for themselves because they clean the backyard.

Speaker 6 (32:51):
Look at you, we should do go It's actually surprisingly expensive.

Speaker 5 (32:58):
Guess how much it would cost for an hour or
goat yoga?

Speaker 4 (33:00):
Three?

Speaker 6 (33:02):
Oh that was not our for how many people, just
like in general.

Speaker 7 (33:05):
Just to bring them out because you gotta you gotta think.
You gotta put them in the trailer. You got to
bring him out to wherever, and then you got to
run around and you gotta put them back in the
trailer and do it. It's just transportations the most. But
you can just go to my house and do goat yoga.

Speaker 4 (33:17):
Yeah, we just do yoga with your goats. You have goats?

Speaker 5 (33:20):
Yeah, oh cool. You didn't know that pygmy goats and
Nigerian dwarf goats.

Speaker 4 (33:25):
Dang, that's cool.

Speaker 6 (33:27):
You're talking about these goats are like the best goats
are out.

Speaker 5 (33:30):
No, that was some lady that came to our yea.

Speaker 6 (33:33):
Yeah, but you talked about it and like you could
have the best goats around.

Speaker 5 (33:36):
I could goes of the same breed.

Speaker 6 (33:38):
Yeah for sure.

Speaker 1 (33:39):
Hey it's Sam. We'll get back to the stories. But
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Speaker 4 (33:44):
Update. Hey, it's been a little while now since I
posted about my brother in law and his girlfriend hijacking
my son's fourth birthday with some insane ideas that I'd
be providing full time, free childcare for their infant twins.
Anyone following the comments would have seen this screenshots where
Jenna wound up uninvited for Christmas after she repeatedly insulted

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my teenage children simply for existing.

Speaker 5 (34:10):
Finally some consequences.

Speaker 4 (34:12):
Yeah, not because they'd done anything wrong. My husband supported me,
and when I spoke to my mother in law in
the following days, she was understanding and shared that she
would still be attending our family Christmas. Good. My husband
Joe still tried to maintain some semblance of a relationship
with his brother Tom, but he kept his distance where

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Jenna was concerned. Yeah, I mean they're both crazy, dog cute?
Whose talk is that dog?

Speaker 5 (34:39):
That going back?

Speaker 6 (34:40):
That's on the dog's head?

Speaker 4 (34:43):
It's a little beanie.

Speaker 6 (34:43):
Oh, it's a little beanie.

Speaker 3 (34:44):
That's so cute.

Speaker 6 (34:46):
I was like, what is that?

Speaker 4 (34:46):
That's so cute?

Speaker 5 (34:48):
Sorry?

Speaker 6 (34:50):
What's your dog's name?

Speaker 5 (34:51):
Gracie Gracy.

Speaker 4 (34:53):
It got quiet for a while, then the week leading
up to Christmas, Jenna started up again. She was messaging
Joe and my two older boys, seventeen and fourteen, saying
she'd gotten them gifts for Christmas and asking if they'd
like to come by and collect them. She also invited
us all to their house for dinner on December twenty second.
I was reluctant to agree, but my husband and mother

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in law were hopeful we'd all be able to move
past everything. I spoke to the boys, and my fourteen
year old was okay with going. My seventeen year old
wasn't too keen on it if if I wasn't going
to attend, so I agreed to go, with the understanding
that if he felt uncomfortable at all, we'd leave. When

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December twenty second rolled around, we loaded all the kids,
as well as the twins presence, into both cars. Just
as we were about to leave, my seventeen year old
started experiencing a severe panic attack. Oh no, Joe and
I agreed that I would stay home with him, so
we moved the little ones over to his car and
he headed off. Since Tom and Jenna live only fifteen

(35:55):
minutes away, I figured they'd be back in a few hours.
I went back side with my seventeen year old and
we put on his favorite Christmas movie, the one he
used to watch with his mom every year before she passed. Oh.
We were looking forward to a quiet couple of hours together.
Not even halfway into the movie, the front door burst
open and my two year old and four year old

(36:17):
came running in excitedly waving new toys in the air.

Speaker 7 (36:20):
Ohkay, okay okay. I thought it was like, yeah, the
twins came in or something.

Speaker 4 (36:26):
Looking past them, I saw my husband, who had a
face like thunder, and my fourteen year old, who looked
absolutely heartbroken and defeated. I quickly got the little one
set up to play in their bedroom before heading back
downstairs to find out what had happened. My fourteen year
old handed me two gift backs. One had his name
on it, and the gifts inside had already been opened.

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We think seventeen year old is exactly the same, he muttered.
I don't know how to put into words the anger
I felt for a bit of context that I lightly
touched on last time. Both my seventeen year old and
fourteen year old are nerdiverse. They have difficulties with food
and differing presentations of autism. Neither boy is overly keen
on eating full meals, and they gravitate towards more beige foods.

(37:10):
Over there, binge, this is beige. I'm assuming like playing foods?

Speaker 5 (37:16):
Got it?

Speaker 6 (37:16):
Yeah? Yeah, we did that yesterday. Where like someone someone
was dating pretty much the color beige, like they're just
a boring guy.

Speaker 5 (37:24):
Oh oh got it.

Speaker 7 (37:25):
So I'm like, I thought it was Binge foods because
I know someone that we work with that also binges foods,
And I'm.

Speaker 6 (37:30):
Like, who binges foods?

Speaker 7 (37:32):
Who's the person that has something that they always will
reheat over and over and over again and.

Speaker 5 (37:37):
Then eat it later it's done?

Speaker 3 (37:40):
Yeah?

Speaker 7 (37:41):
Sure, Because I'm like, if that's the case, we could
just have little snacks for him, Like it's like a
little egg hunt and he's like, oh, I found a snack,
and then he eats it and then like a little.

Speaker 5 (37:50):
Bit later, it's still there.

Speaker 4 (37:51):
It's a snacker.

Speaker 5 (37:52):
He's a snacker. He hates a minute. He makes himself
full meals, but he just snacks.

Speaker 4 (37:56):
He's a snacker. Yeah, he's not a binger. He's a snacker.

Speaker 5 (37:59):
Yeah. Worry for John. Lucky's my great grandpa.

Speaker 6 (38:02):
Like John, I'm telling you John's death worry I have for.

Speaker 7 (38:05):
My great grandpa. I have the same amount for John.
I don't know why.

Speaker 6 (38:11):
I'm telling did you before we get back to the story, Sorry,
did you see how he did with the bobbing for
apples yesterday?

Speaker 5 (38:17):
I'm looking that over right, now right now, far from it.

Speaker 4 (38:22):
Dang, maybe do well just because of I have I
have tenacity, but also I don't want to get wet.

Speaker 6 (38:31):
You don't really get I don't know for this one
it did, they didn't get really wet, but thanks man.

Speaker 4 (38:36):
Over the years, I've found plenty of ways to work
around this, and I've managed to get different foods into
their diets. But vegetables, that's a hill They're both willing
to fall to pass away on unless I'm super sneaky
with them. Veggies rarely make it past their plates. If
they're incorporated into a meal like mac and cheese with
broccoli and sweet corn, or pasta dishes where everything is combined,

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they'll eat them. But if I were to serve a
roast with vegetables on the side, they leave them untouched.
It's fine. We work around it and they're both super
healthy kids. Now a bit more context in England in
the run up to Christmas? What are you doing? I
always watching you watch it sound.

Speaker 6 (39:13):
I'm telling you the sound. I was taking.

Speaker 4 (39:17):
A pause because I want to watch John just.

Speaker 6 (39:19):
Put on the South put on the ound. Squeaky Girl
aka Colleen has donated one hundred dollars. Love you, guys,
you put a smile on my face every stream and
we love you. And time time, John.

Speaker 7 (39:32):
Time, John Time, guys, go to the livestroom yesterday and
go to three minutes in forty six, three hours and
forty six minutes.

Speaker 4 (39:44):
I'm just realizing that, like how much like grossness must
be in that water once, like if you do it
at like a party.

Speaker 6 (39:52):
Yeah, I mean I was watching it and I was like, no,
they don't like that, especially John and Dakota. No.

Speaker 4 (40:00):
In England, in the run up to Christmas, supermarkets run
promotions where four or five vegetables are sold for fifteen
pounds each. A packet of potatoes, a bag of carrots,
a bag of parsnips, a bag of sprouts, et cetera.
Sounds great. Can you guess what the gifts Jenna so
lovingly went out of her way to buy my two
older boys. Yep, In my fourteen year old's gift bag

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were a bag of white potatoes, a bag of carrots,
a bag of sprouts, a bag of parsnips, one head
of broccoli, and half a swede. What's what's a swede?
In this context?

Speaker 6 (40:35):
It's half of Josephine, I'm sweat to sweet.

Speaker 4 (40:40):
I'm not sure if I'm pronouncing. Oh, it's what is
that sweete?

Speaker 7 (40:46):
A radish kind of try sweet Swedish turnip.

Speaker 5 (40:50):
Oh, it's a turn up, it's a it's a road
a baga rudebiga. Okay, you say, then a rude baga
or swede that is a root vegetable.

Speaker 6 (40:58):
Oh, rude biga is a swede. He's really good thing.
I did not know that. I love rudebegga. Do you
like ridebagga?

Speaker 1 (41:04):
Yeah?

Speaker 7 (41:04):
And everyone put him in the chat? Do we just
get up from hand on everyone?

Speaker 9 (41:12):
Si je.

Speaker 4 (41:13):
My seventeen year old's gift bag was still wrap, but
it was pretty obvious that it contained the same Yes,
you read that right. This woman had spent ninety pence
per child on a bag of vegetables. Vegetables they won't eat.
I was seething, and my younger to you ask. While
my two year old was gifted a light up Princess

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Tiara and a wand and Disney Princess bubble wand and
some fairy wings, my four year old received an army
tank with figurines, a duplo train, and a plush shark
he's obsessed with sharks right now. They both also got
a chocolate selection box each. Joe said that as soon
as my fourteen year old opened his gift, Jenna laughed
and said she was doing him a favor by trying

(41:54):
to expand his limited palate. I'm about to expand the
amount of hunches that are being introduced to your face.

Speaker 7 (42:03):
You might expand your face circumference because remember in Invincible
when when Omniman and the other guy, Oh yeah, and
they expanded his face.

Speaker 4 (42:13):
Yeah, that's kind of a spoiler.

Speaker 6 (42:14):
But yeah, yeah, wait to spoil it.

Speaker 5 (42:16):
You don't even know what I'm talking about.

Speaker 6 (42:18):
I watch Invincible.

Speaker 4 (42:19):
Well you've already seen that episode.

Speaker 5 (42:21):
Yeah, you were there. Still, you're complaining about something you
shouldn't even complain about.

Speaker 6 (42:25):
I'm complaining for the people.

Speaker 4 (42:27):
My fourteen year old excused himself to the shed, and,
like the amazing older sibling he is, my seventeen year
old followed him. Joe told me that fourteen year old
had been silent the entire ride home. After reeling off
a list of expletives I'm not proud of, I calmed
myself down and went to talk to the boys. My
fourteen year old asked me if you always ruined family
meals because he didn't eat vegetable.

Speaker 5 (42:47):
Now you just made him better because you didn't eat
the other vegetables.

Speaker 4 (42:50):
Yeah, I would be like, I get more for me.

Speaker 7 (42:53):
I remember when my parents wanted me and my brother
to eat vegetables, and then we liked them, and then
they regretted it the second Oh so there's no more
Brussels sprouts left.

Speaker 4 (43:02):
Yeah, dude, when I like, I feel like I've always
mostly liked vegetables, but there are certain things that I
didn't eat. But like, vegebles are so good. Man, When
you realize when you're a kid and you realize that
vegetables are freaking delicious.

Speaker 6 (43:14):
I'm more of a veggiees guy than fruits guy.

Speaker 4 (43:16):
Same, I agree. I mean, I love fruits, but like potatoes,
those zog fruits give me a minnick in green beans.
My gut system is not made to digest all the fruits.

Speaker 6 (43:27):
Ye Oh, well, I called it. I was like, get ready, guys,
because there's a lot of fiber. I love fruits.

Speaker 4 (43:33):
I told him that was far from the truth, that
everyone has foods they like and don't like. It reminded
him that even Dad technically a stepdad, but fourteen year
old chooses to calm Dad eats lots of foods that
I don't like. We turned it into a little game
of listing foods we each disliked but that others enjoyed.
I reassured him that Jenna was clearly going through something,
but that she had absolutely, absolutely no excuse for treating

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him and his brother that way. Both boys were confused,
rightfully so, because Jenna had literally reached out to them
saying she'd gotten them gifts, she had completely set them
up to be humiliated. I didn't want to comfort Jenna immediately,
so I left it for a few hours. Oh confront,
I was like, why would you comfort her? I didn't
want to confront Jenna immediately, so I left it for

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a few hours. That's when phone started blowing up. What
happened next can only be described as ironically beautiful karma.
Earlier in the day, when we loaded the cars to
head to Jenna and Tom's house, one of the twins
gift bags had been placed in the boot of my car.
In the chaos of switching cars after my seventeen year

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old decided to stay home, It inadvertently got overlooked.

Speaker 5 (44:43):
I see you, Okay, I see you.

Speaker 4 (44:46):
So my next contact from Jena that evening was a
string of semi semi abusive text messages about how dare
we only buy for one of the twins and not
the other? Okay, I see so one of the gifts
bags got left in the car by accident for the twins.
She has the audacity just like, how dare you didn't

(45:09):
get my baby baby? Don't even don't even think baby
a gift when I humiliated your two sons.

Speaker 5 (45:19):
Yep.

Speaker 7 (45:19):
Also fun fact, I didn't get my little brother's anything
for Christmas until last Christmas because I knew they would
not even remember because we're getting gifts from everyone else,
They're not gonna remember what they what I got them.
And then I got them a big president. I got
them an Xbox, and my little.

Speaker 4 (45:33):
Brother cried, that's a good gift. They were brother gift.

Speaker 5 (45:36):
I saw him, I got it.

Speaker 7 (45:37):
He was like, and he's like, I don't know what
we're gonna do this year. Like I actually have like
adult money now, and like crap.

Speaker 4 (45:45):
Yeah, I start putting adult money and I started getting
good gifts. Man. It took me to like the first
really good gifts you took me to London and I
was like, oh wow, yeah, it went from we started
with a wi one year. I was like, whoa, we
got me a wight who took you to damn oh
for my birthday. She went on about how awful it
must have made them feel to be singled out like that.

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It was a genuine oversight, and to be clear, the
twins are not even six months old. They definitely would
not have noticed my kids. However, they've tolerated years of
this BS and Jenna had gone too far. The best
part she followed it up with a message that I
had better correct that mistake by the time they came
for dinner Christmas Day, she was not invited for dinner.

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She hasn't been since last month, and it was not
open for change. That evening, once the littles were in
bed and Joe was playing call of duty with the
older boys, I set off to Jenna and Tom's house,
gifts in tow. When I knocked on the door, Tom
answered his face pale. I handed him the missing gift
bag for the other twin and explained that it had
been left behind by mistake. He was full of excuses,

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claiming He had no idea what Jenna had done until
he saw my fourteen year old open the gifts. He
said they had been arguing about it all evening and
that he was at his wits end with her. Oh freak,
cib me a river, little little violin for you. I
put one hand up and told him, Wait, okay, sorry,

(47:16):
what was that from.

Speaker 6 (47:17):
Wait?

Speaker 4 (47:19):
They don't love you like I love you. Wait, they
don't love you. Then I asked to speak with Jenna.

Speaker 5 (47:27):
The professions professionals I work with.

Speaker 4 (47:31):
He invited me inside work.

Speaker 6 (47:33):
You want to have kids work for you.

Speaker 4 (47:34):
Guys my bice.

Speaker 5 (47:35):
Yeah, they'd probably they know how they'd be like, they'd
be locked in.

Speaker 4 (47:39):
It hurts.

Speaker 3 (47:41):
What did you do?

Speaker 4 (47:41):
I don't know. I think I'm flexing too much. Man,
I'm covered in bruises actually from climbing.

Speaker 6 (47:45):
Give me a flex.

Speaker 4 (47:47):
It hurts, It hurts.

Speaker 6 (47:49):
You shouldn't climb, No, I have to.

Speaker 4 (47:53):
Jenna saw me and immediately jumped to her feet, making
excuses about needing to tend to her babies. I told
her that Shirley Talk could handle it, and Tom, catching on,
quickly excused himself and went upstairs. I turned to Jenna
and asked her what the Hecker problem was with my kids,
why she felt the need to single them out and
make them feel bad for existing. He rolled her eyes

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and snapped back, asking why it mattered when it was
evident I didn't care about hers. I reminded her that
this whole thing started because she assumed I would watch
her babies full time, and when I couldn't, she decided
to be vindictive. I told her she had taken things
too far by pretending to extend in all a branch
to my children only to try and humiliate them. She

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rolled her eyes again and muttered that if it was
such a big deal, she'd have Tom pick up a
gift card for each of them before they came over
on Christmas Day. Y'all aren't coming over on Christmas Day?

Speaker 7 (48:48):
Girly, Yeah, I think you early.

Speaker 4 (48:51):
You're not invited.

Speaker 5 (48:53):
You're done.

Speaker 4 (48:54):
Then she flopped back onto the sofa like she was
the one exasperated with me. That was the moment I needed.
I reminded her again that she was not welcome in
her home, not on Christmas or any other day, that
she had crossed the line by humiliating my children, that
it was one thing to be indifferent to them as
she had been before, but to go out of her

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way to make them feel small was despicable. Then I
tipped out the other gift bag I had been holding,
the one filled with all the potatoes and vegetables she
had ever so kindly gifted my sons, and dumped it
into her lap. I remarked that since she was clearly
planning to show up at her house for Christmas dinner,
she might need these to these back to prepare a

(49:35):
meal for herself. I love hope. He went from like
I am the most helpful person to like, don't freaking
mess with me.

Speaker 7 (49:44):
Yeah, you got to. You gotta put your mama bear
face on. I was surprised she didn't like, here's the
twins thing, take that out, put something else in it,
and then put it back in. Yeah, like put a
steak in it and be like oh yeah, you're well, no,
that'd be evil towards a twin, because like, I can't
eat it in a choke and die.

Speaker 4 (50:00):
Oh well, Opie wasn't there when they opened it.

Speaker 5 (50:03):
I know, but they have a twin gift basket.

Speaker 4 (50:07):
Oh to the Jenna's okay, gotcha. Yeah, But also like
the kids wouldn't the twins wouldn't. Well, I guess they
would have noticed.

Speaker 7 (50:16):
The twins are opening them up. They're like four ninety four.
They're like, they're like five months.

Speaker 5 (50:21):
They can't even hold their head up. They're like, that's
what they're doing right now.

Speaker 4 (50:26):
And then I left. As I pulled out of the driveway,
she followed me to the front door and threw a
carrot at my windscreen. Yes, this woman was in the
street throwing carrots at my car. As I rounded the corner,
I caught a glimpse of Tom appearing and ushering her
back inside. By the time I got home, Tom had
already called my husband to explain what had happened. I
hadn't told Joe what I planned to do, only that

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I needed to pop out for a bit, not because
I was trying to be deceitful, but because I knew
he would try to talk me down and I had
had enough. Thankfully, he wasn't mad at me. In fact,
he found it mild amusing when I told him about
Jenna chasing me outside and throwing carrots at my car.
I checked the car this morning, just in case, and
it's fine, no cracks. Then my mother in law called.

(51:12):
She had already heard about what happened. She wasn't upset, well,
not with me anyway. When she found out about Jenna's
stunt with my boys, she was furious with both Jenna
and Tom. Tomorrow is Christmas, and suffice it to say,
we have no plans for Tom, Jenna, or unfortunately the
twins to join us. I honestly can't believe what this
whole saga has turned into, and I feel devastated for

(51:35):
my older two boys who have clearly been affected. Last night,
while I was preparing dinner, my seventeen year old came
up to me and said he'd be willing to try
cauliflower if it would make me happy. I told him
that he could eat whatever he wanted, and that there
would never be a time when eat what he does
or doesn't eat would affect my happiness. I only care
that he's happy. Aw For the record, he didn't eat

(51:57):
the cauliflower. Meanwhile, my four thirteen year old has been
very withdrawn. Joe took the older boys out to place
snooker yesterday. What that is snooker? BRIT's in the chat?
What's snooker?

Speaker 6 (52:09):
Snooker? Look?

Speaker 5 (52:10):
Hey, Siri, what's snooker?

Speaker 6 (52:12):
Watch you pull up snooky.

Speaker 7 (52:14):
Snucker is a Q sport played on It's like a
pool game. Wait, Snuker is a no Snooker and pool
are Q sports with distinct gameplay and rules. Snooker is
played with a larger table with smaller pockets and uses
twenty one colored balls and a white que ball.

Speaker 5 (52:32):
Okay to English thing.

Speaker 4 (52:34):
Hoping to cheer them up. But when they got home,
Joe said, fourteen year old was unusually quiet. He sat
in the corner and didn't join in, which is not
like him at all. But you know what is like
you guys to do? Yeah, listen to full episodes with
stories just like this. Just go to Spotify, Apple Podcasts,
or your favorite podcast app and search up Okay.

Speaker 5 (52:53):
Story time, do it with your ear holes.

Speaker 4 (52:56):
It's just like you.

Speaker 7 (52:58):
And I understand being a listener because I have one
podcast that I want to listen to, but I can't
because there's so much content and I don't have that
kind of content here in the day. But I'm starting
to watch YouTube like a TV show.

Speaker 4 (53:08):
I love that.

Speaker 7 (53:09):
I also don't have a hobby anymore. Why not because
I finished my projects?

Speaker 4 (53:14):
Oh you should just start doing more of that. But
you can make like scrap books who just like like
fun ones. Like it doesn't have to be like of
a person. It can just be like you cut out
magazines and stuff that'd be fun.

Speaker 5 (53:27):
I don't know if I want to do that.

Speaker 4 (53:28):
Okay, well you don't have to.

Speaker 5 (53:29):
I'll find another hobby.

Speaker 6 (53:31):
Yeah, the objective's not there, I know. For Riley, it's
just like Angie, Yeah, exactly, I.

Speaker 4 (53:37):
Just get into like like bracelet making.

Speaker 5 (53:40):
What I am in the middle of making a brace
you could make bracelets for but we do that together.

Speaker 4 (53:46):
Ah. But there's a little bit laft to the story.
And I'm glad that he put put stuck to her guns,
put her foot down, didn't.

Speaker 7 (53:55):
Let Jen a walk all over and I'd be buying
the biggest fish I can in my local su supermarket
and throwing an at.

Speaker 6 (54:01):
Her card fasted of a fish. Brother.

Speaker 5 (54:04):
It's stinky.

Speaker 4 (54:04):
It's stinky. I'm still beyond live with Jenna, and I
don't think I want to come face to face with
her anytimes in the future. I believe mother in law
will be visiting Tom and Jenna today Christmas Eve to
see the babies. Her and John will be spending Christmas
Day with us as originally planned. I don't feel like
the a hole any longer. You're not girl. I feel
like my actions were entirely justified given the level of

(54:26):
indifference in mockery Jenna showed to my children. But feel
free Redda to tell me if I'm wrong.

Speaker 6 (54:31):
Also, Merry Christmas, Merry Christmas.

Speaker 4 (54:34):
Merry Christmas. You're not wrong, girl. Those people are crazy.
But that is the end of that story.

Speaker 5 (54:42):
I'm Christmas and the end of this episode.

Speaker 4 (54:44):
Yeah, well, I have a final thought. Jenna sucks. Yeah,
you're taking good care of your kids. Your excellent parenting skills,
uh are impressive, honestly, And I really hope that Tom
leaves Jenna. They have two kids. Maybe I don't know,

(55:05):
Like I don't know if I necessarily want them to divorce.

Speaker 5 (55:07):
Because they have kids. Spicy Cat whipped.

Speaker 4 (55:10):
I think Tom is cowed?

Speaker 5 (55:13):
Cow does that we call it? What's the word for it?

Speaker 4 (55:16):
Like, what's the word like when like about a man.
It's like it's like being whipped, but like it's a
different word. It's like cowd or something. I'm forgetting the
word right now.

Speaker 6 (55:30):
To see you is it a no.

Speaker 4 (55:33):
It's like cowed. But I think there's a there's an
actual term for it, but I'm forgetting it. But that's him.
Oh my god, but that's him and he it's yeah,
I'm not thinking. I'm thinking of a different one.

Speaker 5 (55:46):
I forgot it.

Speaker 4 (55:48):
I don't know if he's gonna I don't know if
they're gonna get divorced. He seems pretty like afraid of Jenna.
I think that, like I would hope they go to
like therapy or something because they have cuckolded. That's also
not the word I was that is. That is another
word for it. But that is the end of that story.

(56:09):
So we're gonna finish it. If you love us, make
sure to subscribe.

Speaker 5 (56:16):
We love you as seamorrow.

Speaker 9 (56:21):
Hey, it's John here, og, host of the show. We're
gonna get back to these juicy stories. But here's a
quick three minutes of ads from our sponsors.

Speaker 3 (56:27):
This is an episode from Deep within the Archives.

Speaker 9 (56:30):
Time for okop relam idiot coworker wants me to get
the manager to punish me. Okay, sure, but you're not
gonna like what happens next.

Speaker 3 (56:42):
I mean, this is like, why would ok want to
be punished?

Speaker 1 (56:46):
Why would they ask for the punishment unless they're into
like BDSM or something. Punish me please daddy, which.

Speaker 9 (56:51):
Which But it's work related, But it's like, yeah, it's
you didn't meet your Q four quotas. Oh god, your
retention is down four percent month over. My company takes
safety very seriously, to the point where we have safety
briefings on the regular to keep us updated. Yesterday we
had a talk on compact or safety, which is like
giant machine to just like compact stuff. Yeah, one of

(57:14):
our big rules is to never ever, under any circumstances,
climb into the compactor unless it's unhooked from power sources.

Speaker 3 (57:22):
O dude, why would you ever climb into.

Speaker 9 (57:24):
I feel like that's just a recipe for disease.

Speaker 1 (57:27):
That's like a final destination. Getting crushed by a compactor
sounds like gotta be one of the worst ways to go.

Speaker 9 (57:36):
Because also you have like a few seconds where you
know what's happening instantly. Sounds like common sense, right, Yes, well,
dear reader, as you're about to learn, apparently common sense
ain't that common.

Speaker 1 (57:47):
It ain't that common anymore, at least in the US.
Everyone out here being crazy.

Speaker 9 (57:51):
After getting our briefing, we get our assignments and are
scent on our merry way. I go to my area,
lean it and pull the trash. As I'm walking to
the compactor, what I say sticking out of it is
two trousered legs that must be a.

Speaker 3 (58:03):
Human hopefully hopefully living, hopefully.

Speaker 9 (58:08):
After the shock lasting in nanosecond war off, I started yelling.

Speaker 2 (58:11):
What are you doing, you idiot?

Speaker 4 (58:13):
Don't go crawling around in there.

Speaker 2 (58:15):
I know I shouldn't have yelled, but I was so mad.

Speaker 3 (58:18):
Dude. Well, I mean, definitely yell. Get the fuck out
of there, man quickly.

Speaker 2 (58:23):
How do you stop someone from like doing something so
dangerous like that?

Speaker 8 (58:25):
Like?

Speaker 9 (58:25):
What else do you do? Maybe idiots like I don't
know what, like you have to yell at the banking
get out. I'm about to keep well, mister idiot fell
out of it and then starts yelling at me.

Speaker 2 (58:37):
Now you go yelling at me, where's your manager?

Speaker 9 (58:40):
Get me a run?

Speaker 2 (58:40):
Now I'm really destroying.

Speaker 6 (58:42):
My being an idiot.

Speaker 3 (58:44):
God damn oh man.

Speaker 9 (58:45):
Also, I don't know why we always go to the
Southern accident just so funny. At this point, melicious compliance
mode has been activated. I put on my sweetest smile
and say, of.

Speaker 2 (58:54):
Course, I'm so sorry.

Speaker 9 (58:57):
Let me get my manager here. Mister idiot smirks and
is like the girl. I call my manager over and
I ask her check it out. Meanwhile, mister idiot is
smiling like the cat who got the cream.

Speaker 2 (59:07):
Maybe they are Southern.

Speaker 3 (59:08):
Never heard that phrase, Yeah, it sounds like a Southern phrase.

Speaker 2 (59:10):
Neither have I.

Speaker 9 (59:11):
I'm fighting to keep from smiling because my manager, Miss Heroin,
as in the hero take safety as seriously as I do.
I've seen her reduce full men to tears over safety issues.
Miss Heroin shows up and mister idiot says, you should
treat your workers, not to yale yay.

Speaker 2 (59:29):
Miss Heroin turns to me and says, and why well
you yelling at him?

Speaker 9 (59:33):
Because I caught him climbing into the compactor and I
was scared he'd be done crushed up. Mister idiot goes
from looking like a contented cat to looking like a
scolded putred dog.

Speaker 3 (59:46):
You smelly.

Speaker 9 (59:47):
After a sweet verbal thrashing, Miss Heroin calls mister idiot's manager.
Within thirty minutes, mister idiot was clearing out his desk,
still smelling of garbage.

Speaker 3 (59:59):
Oh shit, you got fired.

Speaker 2 (01:00:01):
Got cross.

Speaker 1 (01:00:05):
The whole real full crush in the compactor, That's what
I've learned.

Speaker 9 (01:00:08):
Has anyone there's got to be someone that watches that's
worked on the compactor somebody, Yeah right, gotta be tell
us your crazy compactor story.

Speaker 3 (01:00:16):
Yeah yeah, and please hopefully you haven't lost any limbs.

Speaker 9 (01:00:18):
And no trouser legs hanging out at the bottom real quick, though,
do you think mister idiot was the whole?

Speaker 3 (01:00:25):
I mean, mister idiot for sure is the a hole.

Speaker 1 (01:00:28):
What I would love for like everyone to answer, is like,
is actually is actually? Because like, yes, that guy wasn't
supposed to be in there, and you know how that
shit eating grin was kind of like a dick, But oh,
he basically took the actions that got him fired.

Speaker 3 (01:00:43):
So does he does he deserve that? Maybe he does.

Speaker 2 (01:00:46):
Yeah, that's a pretty hard hammer to drop.

Speaker 9 (01:00:48):
So my girlfriend thinks I hooked up with an underraged
house teaper.

Speaker 3 (01:00:53):
Okayop, this is okay Op.

Speaker 1 (01:00:56):
I'm Samuel Donner and I'm John Fry and we tell
the funniest stories on the end.

Speaker 9 (01:01:00):
Sam, have you ever had a mishap where nothing actually
went wrong, but there might have been an interaction where
a girl, a girlfriend or lady friend might have perceived
that as a nefarious.

Speaker 1 (01:01:11):
Maybe not nefarious, but my girlfriend always, my girlfriend gets
mad at me a lot for thing dumb things I say.
I tend to be blunt in my conversations. Like for example,
when I was in Hawaii, she was like, I was
with like Christian and some of my other friends and
we were just like chilling, and like Arianna called and

(01:01:32):
she's like, how's Hawai? And I'm like, and my girlfriend's
not there. She wanted to go, but she couldn't make it.
And I'm like, it's literally perfect. I can't think of
anything else that would make this trip better. I loved
it so much. And Christian elbows me and he's like, bruh,
you're talking to your girlfriend, I mean. And I'm like,
I mean, it would, it would make a better vi

(01:01:53):
you were here. So I put my foot in my
mouth a lot.

Speaker 4 (01:01:57):
That one.

Speaker 9 (01:01:58):
I would let you slide, just cause you're just like
embracing the moment, the loveliness around you, you know what I mean?

Speaker 2 (01:02:04):
Like that one, I've got to get a pass, you know.
Oh my goodness.

Speaker 9 (01:02:08):
Well, today we have a situation where something happens and
the guy is in a not great situation that is
not actually his false and'sing. My girlfriend thinks I hooked
up with an underaged housekeeper.

Speaker 3 (01:02:23):
Oh God, not a good look at all.

Speaker 2 (01:02:26):
Yeah, not great.

Speaker 9 (01:02:28):
So due to personal and travel reasons, me, twenty six male,
and my girlfriend twenty four female live in a military hotel.
We've stayed in many hotels over the span of five years,
but lived at this one for almost a full year now.
And at this one, a housekeeper knocks on our door.
They knock on every door to ask if we need service.
I don't feel harassed or bothered by them, so I
always let them inside, unless it's the weekend and I'm

(01:02:49):
sleeping in. My girlfriend usually declines if she answers the door,
which again I don't mind because I'll just ask next
time for towels, trash, et cetera. Now, recently, these past
three months, we have a new housekeeper. She's a high
cool female around seventeen, and is very kind and very funny.
I am in no way interested in her. She's a child,
she's the same age as my sister. I only speak
to her about the room, linen changed, cleaning times, et cetera.

(01:03:10):
All right, all professional, all professional, over the last few weeks,
I've been chatting with the girl about games, TV shows,
small talk or whatever, just while she's cleaning, so it's
not awkward.

Speaker 2 (01:03:20):
I started to look forward.

Speaker 9 (01:03:21):
To it since we were both keeping up on Euphoria,
a TV series, and since my girlfriend doesn't watch it,
that was nice to get all hyped up with someone
about it.

Speaker 1 (01:03:29):
And also is a TV series about underage people. Yeah,
hook you up there and doing drugs. Dirony is not
lost us.

Speaker 9 (01:03:38):
I ran into our housekeeper coming out of the elevator
and into the lobby on Saturday, and she asked how
excited I was for the new episode. I lost my
entire train of thought and we just talked for about
five minutes about what we think is going to happen
and how I was so.

Speaker 2 (01:03:49):
Ready for the next episode.

Speaker 9 (01:03:50):
I left after that, and she wished me a good day,
and my girlfriend was standing by the main doors looking.
I thought she was mad I made her wait so long,
but she ended up saying things like replacing me already,
and oh no, why don't you hold the door open
for me? You'd probably do it for your new girlfriend.

Speaker 2 (01:04:07):
Oh god.

Speaker 9 (01:04:08):
I laughed and dismissed it, because the girl's a child.
She's seventeen, and I have no sexual or romantic interest
in her. Yeah, even if she was a minor. I'm
only interested in my girlfriend that way. This girl is
just someone who happens to share a common interest as
me that I see occasionally.

Speaker 1 (01:04:23):
Yeah, you can talk about TV shows like this. This
girlfriend should not be jealous. The next day, I wash
up around two for a date with my girlfriend. She's
out getting her nails done and I'm doing my thing
fresh out of the shower, and I didn't hear, but
there was a knock since I was showering at that moment,
and our housekeeper must have come in just as I
was turning the shower off. She's holding a bunch of linen,

(01:04:45):
probably to change the sheets since she thinks that.

Speaker 2 (01:04:48):
The room is empty.

Speaker 9 (01:04:49):
I walk out of the bathroom, she walks into the
main room and we both immediately stop. She immediately apologizes
and leaves, but my girlfriend is coming into the room
and sees me with a towel around my waist. Oh no,
I know. The whole thing is a terrible series of
events to see ah, and my girlfriend is convinced something's

(01:05:10):
happening between us. I'm not mad about her lack of
trust when it seems that she has the clear evidence
that is, assuming I'm cheated based off what she saw.
I'm just upset that she thinks I would touch a kid.
This girl is seventeen, and I'm not into that. We
argued for hours, and I keep repeating this point as
my main argument. I would never cheat, and you know that.

(01:05:31):
But Babe, this girl is seventeen. She's a kid. Do
you hear yourself? She kept repeating that the girl is
practically an adult. I felt so sick. She's the same
age as my younger sister, and I hope no one
says that about her when she's still in high school.
I asked my girlfriends for space, but she thinks this
further proves her theory of cheating.

Speaker 3 (01:05:48):
Oh no, oh no.

Speaker 2 (01:05:51):
Then my girl win. You can't win.

Speaker 9 (01:05:53):
Then my girlfriend contacted the girl superior and the girls
shared the same story as me.

Speaker 3 (01:05:57):
Is the girlfriend trying to get this? How keeper fired?

Speaker 2 (01:06:00):
It seems so?

Speaker 9 (01:06:01):
Oh no, I'm not sure what happened in that case,
but I'm not sure how to proceed from here. Oh
I know how this seems to my girlfriend, and I
can understand why she took it that way. But I
don't want to be with someone who can view me.

Speaker 2 (01:06:13):
As a pedophile.

Speaker 9 (01:06:14):
I don't care if the girl is seventeen or freshly
seventeen or whatever. I hate that my girlfriend thinks I
would ever do anything like that. And there is an update.

Speaker 3 (01:06:22):
There's an update.

Speaker 1 (01:06:23):
I hope it gets resolved and it's all peaceful and nice.

Speaker 9 (01:06:27):
Yes, so me and my girlfriend talked things out and
brought it to an end. Housekeeper was present with a
supervisor three hours ago when we addressed the whole situation.
In the end, it was nothing more than my girlfriend
than my girlfriend projecting because she herself had slept with
the hotel groundsman and thought that she was seeing a

(01:06:48):
sign of unfaithfulness from me when it was nothing of
the sort. Wait what yep, oh girlfriend, she was the
guilty one.

Speaker 2 (01:06:55):
No, I'm moving on.

Speaker 9 (01:06:57):
Tellson around two weeks once I sorted the paperwork out
with my chief and I know the situation is crappy,
but thank you to everyone who gave some good advice.

Speaker 3 (01:07:05):
Oh no, Op got wrecked.

Speaker 9 (01:07:08):
The one thing I will say is like Op, He's like, oh,
it's it's uh, you know, how could you think I
could touch someone like those situations happened, so like you
know what I.

Speaker 3 (01:07:19):
Mean, Like, yeah, I don't know.

Speaker 9 (01:07:21):
I don't blame I know the girlfriend was projecting and everything,
but like you know, those those are our precarious situations.

Speaker 1 (01:07:27):
But in the end of the day, the girlfriend cheated,
so she was, yeah, opjecting one. But damn that that
whole situation sucks. But you know it doesn't suck. Oh
my goodness. Subscribing to your friends, okop Yeah, subscribe on YouTube,
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