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00:00 r/entitledpeople - My entitled sister, and the house that was never hers
13:59 r/relationship_advice - Wife (32f) wants me (32m) to cut off my sister (24f) due to her not “helping” us out with something a month ago. I don’t know how to properly approach this situation with her?
29:37 r/relationships - I [20M] am staying at my older sister's [26F] for a while until I can get back on my feet; I requested she cool down the display of affection with her female partner [26F], but I feel really guilty now because I feel I may have overstepped my bounds.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey, this is Sam, this is John. We're the ancient
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Speaker 2 (00:17):
My sister wants to steal my mom's house.
Speaker 3 (00:20):
Sounds like she should get her own house.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
It's been a decade and this is the first time
I've ever written this down. I guess I'm still angry.
Reading a few stories here made me think about when
my dad passed away and everything that led up to
it and what came after. I'm trying to hide some
identifying details in case someone I know stumbles across this,
but if a specific person does, I want you to
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know I haven't forgotten and I'll not forgive you.
Speaker 3 (00:47):
Oh No.
Speaker 2 (00:48):
By the way, this comes from ADHD is my power,
And if you want to submit your own stories, go
to the r slash. Okay, Storytime separate it. So I'm Riley,
I'm Sophia, and I'm what you call an accident child.
Speaker 3 (01:01):
Us me too.
Speaker 2 (01:03):
Hello, wait, wait, wait, that's that's the story, not me.
Dad already had kids from his first marriage and didn't
want more. My mom was never supposed to get pregnant
because she'd had tumors removed from her ovaries that should
have made conception impossible.
Speaker 3 (01:19):
Oh my goodness, it sounds like they were making room.
Speaker 2 (01:21):
But as the eighties bled into the nineties, I came
along anyway. That's crazy to be told that you literally
can't have children, and then and then you just come
along anyway.
Speaker 3 (01:32):
Well as a woman doctor. Yeah, if you.
Speaker 2 (01:35):
Remove the well known woman doctor.
Speaker 3 (01:37):
Thank you, Sophia. If you remove the ovaries, it makes
room for the babies to be made. One knows that.
If you remove the tumors from the ovaries.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
Everyone knows that too.
Speaker 3 (01:47):
If you didn't know that, you need ovaries to have babies.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
And there we go. Thankfully, my parents never treated me
with the contempt that many unwanted children in dirt. My sister, however,
more than made up for their kind Oh no, what
does that mean she hates Opee more than.
Speaker 3 (02:05):
Made up for their kindness. I think, what does that mean?
Speaker 2 (02:08):
Opie's parents were really nice to Opee, but the sister
was terrible to Opie. I see, over a decade older
than me, she never liked me. She could put on
a decent facade when others were watching, but everyone knew
she didn't care for me. I can only remember her
being truly nice to me twice when my grandfather passed away,
and the one time she drove me to the airport.
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As for my mom, she damn near hated her. My
sister had convinced herself that my mother broke up her parents' marriage,
even though our dad didn't meet my mother until years
after his divorce was finalized. Heck, my dad's ex wife
and my mom became good friends and still are to
this day. No one ever understood where my sister's twisted
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narrative came from, but she clung to it like gospel.
Oh gosh, yikes, that's so hard when everyone's chill with
the situation except for the one kid. He's like a
I'm never gonna forgive any of you.
Speaker 3 (03:05):
It's so shiny and bright in nature, is outside, it's.
Speaker 2 (03:09):
Fine, go touch grass.
Speaker 3 (03:11):
A trainy and gloomy er.
Speaker 2 (03:13):
In the early twenty tens, my dad got sick, the
kind of sick where everything hits you at once, like
your body just decides it's done playing fair. He ended
up in a coma for a month. The doctors didn't
expect him to make it, but somehow he pulled through.
Though he came back permanently disabled and was forced into retirement.
After months bouncing between hospitals and rehab facilities, he finally
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came home. That's when I learned a hard truth. The
government stops caring about you the moment you can't make
the money and can only take money from them. So
I moved back in with my parents to help out.
For two years, I worked full time, attended school full time,
and served as my dad's caregiver.
Speaker 3 (03:54):
Oh.
Speaker 2 (03:54):
Mom and I tag team discarred during the week, and
every weekend I'd watch him for eight to ten hours
while she went to work. All their savings had evaporated
paying his medical bills. If their house hadn't been paid off,
they would have lost it. Most of my time with
dad involved helping him to the bathroom, assisting him in
the shower, and cleaning up when he didn't make it
in time, oh or when the medications made him violently ill.
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The stress aged me rapidly. When I was in my
late twenties. Most people thought I was pushing forty. Oh.
My sister meanwhile, graced us with her presence maybe two
or three times a year, or contribution, clipping his toenails
because he liked how she did it. So she's his
nail tech twice a year. And that's it.
Speaker 3 (04:36):
That's tough.
Speaker 2 (04:38):
She never once dealt with the real caregiving, never witnessed
the worst moments, never saw him at his most vulnerable.
She knew the financial strain we were all under, yet
she still found ways to ask him for money.
Speaker 3 (04:49):
That's crazy, Dad, you get a little bit from the government,
Can I take one?
Speaker 2 (04:53):
And I have to take some of that from the government.
Speaker 3 (04:54):
Please, you're not going to use it. You can't, you're disabled.
Speaker 2 (04:57):
Thank you. Then he passed away. It happened quickly, the
way these things sometimes do. One Friday, he started acting strange,
so we rushed him to the hospital. They discovered he'd
had a minor heart attack, but given his poor health,
it triggered a cascade of organ failure.
Speaker 3 (05:13):
Oh my gosh.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
The following Monday morning, I said goodbye to my father
as I watched him take his last breaths.
Speaker 3 (05:19):
I didn't really expect this episode to give me at
the heart. Yeah, it's so early.
Speaker 2 (05:25):
On, so sad, and then you have your sister just
being kind of terrible this whole time while you're well,
you're dealing with this really just terrible loss.
Speaker 3 (05:34):
Okay, could be worse. She could be stealing that not
doing his nails.
Speaker 2 (05:38):
That's true. She could be well, yeah, it's kind of
like payment for in the nails if you think about it.
Speaker 3 (05:44):
This expensive neiltex out there, it's very expensive.
Speaker 2 (05:47):
I'll give my sister credit because she was somewhat kind
during those final days. It wouldn't last. We held a
small memorial service at the house. My brothers had flown
in beforehand to help with arrangements. Dad didn't have a will,
but he told us what he wanted each of us
to have. It wasn't much since Mom was still alive,
but we divided his possessions peacefully among ourselves, setting aside
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items we knew our sister would want. When she arrived,
she immediately began walking through the house like she was shopping,
calling DIBs on everything in sight. She became furious when
she wanted something already promised to someone else. His pupuke collection,
for example, was supposed to be split between one of
my brothers and me, since we both served in the
military and were the only one with any interest in firearms.
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But she was livid that she wasn't getting one. You
don't She's like, I never cared about this before, but
I want one now.
Speaker 3 (06:40):
Guys, you can sell those two. I guess that might
be why she wants that, just wants money.
Speaker 2 (06:45):
She even tried claiming items that belonged to my mother,
which we quickly shut down.
Speaker 3 (06:50):
Carl, what you can't have the whole.
Speaker 2 (06:52):
You can't have everything. The memorial service itself went smoothly
until that day. I'd been drinking for over a day
at that point, trying to says two years of stress,
compounded by the fact that I'd been laid off from
my job the same day my dad passed away. At
one point, we decided to take a shot in Dad's memory,
and my sister wanted to join us. We told her
we were pouring them now, and she promptly disappeared. We
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waited several minutes, even going outside to look for her,
but couldn't find her anywhere, so the ten plus family
members present took the shot without her. She suddenly reappeared
and threw an absolute fit that we hadn't come to
get her. She stormed out and drove home that night.
I feel like she was waiting in the shadows, just.
Speaker 3 (07:33):
She was in the closet.
Speaker 2 (07:35):
If they try and have the shot, I'm gonna I'm
gonna come out and get so mad at them.
Speaker 3 (07:39):
It's a good party trick. Yeah, all take a shot, disappear,
and then right when they take the shot, Ah, I
wanted to take it with you. Guys, man, well, what
the he.
Speaker 2 (07:48):
And then you get all mad at them and then
they feel bad.
Speaker 3 (07:51):
Guys, use that for the next time we have at
a party and you want to leave early.
Speaker 2 (07:55):
A couple of months later, Mom needed all the children's
signatures to take full possession Dad's truck. My brothers and
I signed without hesitation, but my sister made a huge
fuss because she believed the truck should have gone to
her instead of Mom.
Speaker 3 (08:08):
Oh my god.
Speaker 2 (08:09):
I eventually moved across the country to live with my
brother and start fresh. Mom decided to follow and put
the house on the market. The house had been my
maternal grandparents' home, which Mom inherited when they passed. Dad
was never on the deed as far as the state
was concerned. The house belonged solely to my mother. That
didn't stop my sister from making it a federal case.
Speaker 3 (08:30):
Federal What I think she's joking? Oh, we know.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
My sister wanted to pursue legal action to force Mom
into selling her the house for well below market value.
I thought she was joking. Huh. My sister's own mother
put a stop to that nonsense, telling her daughter that
if anyone deserved the house after Mom, it was me.
My sister scoffed at the idea that my grandparents' house
would be my inheritance instead of hers, despite having no
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blood relation to my mother's family whatsoever.
Speaker 3 (08:59):
How can you raise eight this much greed, Yeah, to
the point that you are dissolving your support system and family.
Speaker 2 (09:06):
Well, it's just kind of crazy to me because this
isn't her mom, Like the house fully belongs to Opee's mom.
Speaker 3 (09:13):
Dad lived in it.
Speaker 2 (09:14):
Yeah yeah, she's like, well, my dad lived here, so
I can take whatever I want. But it's like it
goes to Ope's mom. Opie's half sister, who has no
relation to Opie's mom, is trying to take Opie's mom's
house crazy. So Mom sold the house and moved to
my area. A few months later. Mom was devastated. It
was close to the one year anniversary of my dad's passing,
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and my sister had written her a vicious letter. In it,
she berated Mom for not giving her the house, not
selling it to her, but giving it to her for free.
So she's like, I'm not mad that you didn't try
to sell it to me, I'm mad that you didn't
give it to me just for free. What not giving
it to you for free? She argued that since it
was her father's home, Mom never had the right to
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sell it to anyone else and should have handed it
over to my sister at no cost.
Speaker 3 (09:59):
She's over taking my greed man. Yeah, there's nothing else.
Speaker 2 (10:02):
I mean, like, truly, she was taking money from people
that were getting payments from the government, and presumably Opie's
mom still doesn't have that much money and needs the
money from selling the house. And yet this woman is
still like, I'm gonna take whatever I can get from you.
Speaker 3 (10:18):
And the worst thing about all of this is even
if you gave it to her for free, Yeah, she's
gonna ask for repairs to be done. Oh yeah, is
this to be done. You owe it to her.
Speaker 2 (10:28):
Well, she'd never find things. Yeah, think about that for
a moment. This house had belonged to my maternal grandparents,
people completely unrelated to her. Again, Yeah, came passed down
on Opie's mom's side. Yet she still believed with absolute
certainty that when Mom decided to sell, the house should
have been given to her for nothing. That was the
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day I decided to cut my sister off for good.
It's been almost ten years now and I haven't spoken
to her once, neither of my brothers, except when one
was diagnosed with cancer and she suddenly tried reaching out
to him. In my opinion, she was trying to weasel
her way into his good graces in case he passed
and left her something. He's been in remission for years now.
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In that time, I've gotten married, had two beautiful daughters,
and never heard from my sister once during any of
these major life events. My mom lives with us now.
She's in her seventies but looks fifty, and she gets
to see her granddaughters every day. She has many friends
and an active social life. I haven't seen her this
happy in years.
Speaker 3 (11:29):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (11:29):
If I passed before though, she'll be glad to know
I'm leaving her something in my will. It's a beautiful
epoxy display featuring my two middle fingers and a butt
made especially for her.
Speaker 3 (11:41):
I love it.
Speaker 2 (11:43):
Oh he is petty and angry ten years later, and
I get it. But there is a little bit left
to the story. Do you have any final thoughts?
Speaker 3 (11:51):
So actually smart move to leave someone? Yeah, something a
little bit of something I saw a while ago with
his grandmother caught off her son or something, gave all
the inheritans, opie, but gave her son a dollar.
Speaker 2 (12:06):
Yeah, because they can't contest it because it's like, no,
you got something.
Speaker 3 (12:10):
Yeah, it's not like, oh I didn't get anything. She
must have like forgotten about me, didn't She wasn't thinking right. No,
that was a very intended amount of money just for you. Yeah,
it was very intentional.
Speaker 2 (12:21):
Absolutely, But I would still be angry about this, do ope.
Your sister sucks. Yeah, and she's greedy and she doesn't
really care about her support system, and it seems like
it's just her, Like it's not even her mom causing trouble,
it's just her.
Speaker 3 (12:34):
A real quick okay story my pastor told me where
I asked him something like if like substances could like,
you know, take over someone. He's like, well, I won't
saw what was it guilt or shame or oh it's
actually kind of a gross story. Actually I don't have
a story that's like appropriate for the show because I
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just remembered how bad it was. But moral of it, Yeah,
you could be overtaken by anything if you let it
consume you, and you lose the.
Speaker 2 (13:02):
People that love you or you know that could be
your support system, and then you're alone and you've maybe
have money most times not because you're the more you
try and get it, the easier it, you know, goes away.
Speaker 3 (13:15):
And it doesn't sound like she was fighting for millions.
It's probably a couple thousand.
Speaker 2 (13:18):
Dollars for like, yeah, nothing pennys. But folks, there's a
little bit left to the story, so we're gonna read it.
Some people think I should forgive and move on, that
family is family, that life is too short for grudges,
but some betrayals cut too deep, especially when they happened
during your darkest moments. I spent two years sacrificing my
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twenties to care for our father while she clipped his toenails.
Twice a year and then tried to profit from his passing.
She showed me exactly who she was when it mattered most.
I believe her. So yeah, it's been a decade and
I'm still angry, and I'm okay with that, and we're
okay with that too. But folks, that's the end of
that story, and we've got another one coming right up.
Speaker 3 (13:59):
My wife was furious that I helped my sister after
she rejected us.
Speaker 2 (14:04):
Sometimes she gotta be a better person.
Speaker 3 (14:06):
My wife, thirty two female, and I thirty two male,
have a six month old baby. Oh, and he is
the lie of our lives. Before some was born. However,
my sister twenty four female, made it known that she
was not a baby person. I've known this literally our
whole lives, and my wife even knew this. But I'm
starting to wonder if she didn't take it quite seriously.
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By the way, this comes from Throwaway Family Upset eleven
and if you want to smit your own stories, go
to the r So I show okay, storytime, So I
bred it. My sister came to her baby shower, where
she again made it known that while she was happy
for us, she wouldn't have much to do with the
kid until at least they were older. This is the
dad dog theory.
Speaker 2 (14:46):
Mm hmmm, Yeah, she's got a bond with this kid.
I see what she's saying, though, because I feel like
a lot of times, when you have a kid, or
you know someone as a kid in the family, everyone
around them is expected to babysit. So she's probably just
saying like, I'm not gonna baby sit your child. You know,
when it's older and it is fun.
Speaker 3 (15:04):
Sure, I'll take it out for some dreams.
Speaker 2 (15:06):
Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 3 (15:08):
You could just say I don't want to babysit your kid.
Speaker 2 (15:10):
I don't I don't want a baby, I don't want
to see your kid.
Speaker 3 (15:13):
I remember my wife making a comment long lines of oh,
he's gonna love his auntie or you'll love him when
he gets here, or something like that. My sister just
laughed it off, but I saw the irritation in her eyes.
I talked to my wife that night and told her
that my sister was serious. I know her, and she
really doesn't like babies or small children's. I feel like
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answer to her, so we would have tried to force
her into an interaction much with her little one until
she's ready. We had a bit of a back and forth,
but the conversation basically ended with my wife saying, okay,
of course we won't force her. Fast forward a few months,
our baby boy is here. My sister showed up at
the hospital and brought us a balloon to show her support,
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but she didn't really interact much with or look at
our newborn, and she quickly left. My wife was too
distracted with doting on and loving our son to really notice.
Fast forward a few months when our son was five
months old and I planned to have a nice dinner
date for the two of us at a very exclusive restaurant,
a place she's always wanted to go that was always
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booked out. I surprised her with a reservation that I
had booked a few months in advance, around her birthday.
I thought it would be good for the both of
us to have a night out, take a quick breather
from parenthood, and reconnect as a couple. She was very
excited for it, and so was I. A few hours
before a reservation, however, our babysitter canceled.
Speaker 2 (16:37):
Dam that sucks. That's rough, all.
Speaker 3 (16:40):
Right, babysitter, You either find someone or you're paying for
my dinner.
Speaker 2 (16:43):
Yeah, I honestly, I feel like day of cancelation. You've
gotta find someone. Why are you canceling as a baby,
as a previous babysitter, Why are you canceling day of.
Speaker 3 (16:52):
He's twelve year olds acting like they run the world.
Speaker 2 (16:55):
Unbelievable.
Speaker 3 (16:56):
My wife frantically suggested we call my sister, since our
parents parents are both aged and not able to move
around much. I knew my sister was going to say no,
but my wife was very insistent. I tried calling a
few friends first, but everyone was busy or couldn't since
it was very last minute. Finally, after my wife insisted
some more, I called my sister. I told her what
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was going on, and of course I was right about
her answer. She said she was sorry, but she didn't
want to. I told my wife this. My wife asked
me if I could put her on speakerphone. I was hesitant.
After I put it on speaker, my wife shouted loudly
onto the phone, why won't you come watch your nephew?
Speaker 2 (17:37):
Yikes? Yikes, sister was awkward? Is like if in an
alternate world where Sam wouldn't want to take care of
my kids?
Speaker 3 (17:47):
Alternate You don't know about this world.
Speaker 2 (17:49):
No, he definitely would want to take care of my kids.
He'd be great, He's gonna be great uncle. But in
an alternate world where he doesn't want to take care
of my kids, I feel like it would be so
like I would be just so upset at my partner
if they like shouted at him after he told us
that he didn't, you know, after she said to them,
I don't want it, like I don't want to be
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a part of it. I'll be part of it later.
I don't do kids, blah blah blah blah. And then
and then she's like, put her on the phone, put
on the put her on speaker.
Speaker 3 (18:17):
She's really wanting some nice dinner time with you.
Speaker 2 (18:19):
Though, Like personally, personally it was me, I I would
be like, oh, you guys need help. I'm gonna help
you take care of the kids. That's my own personal thing.
I would help to take care of the kids. However,
she's made it very clear that she doesn't want any involvement,
So like, you gotta respect those wishes.
Speaker 3 (18:37):
You know what I would do? You know those uh
at police stations, those like baby things, baby drop offs, Yeah,
put in the baby, drop off, my god, and then
go on the date and then come back and be like,
oh my god, my baby, my baby.
Speaker 2 (18:52):
That's great advice.
Speaker 3 (18:54):
Hey, do you want to go the d You booked
it months ahead. What else are you sposed to do?
Nah was silent for a moment. She said she wasn't
comfortable or I've said why not, he's your nephew.
Speaker 2 (19:06):
Oh my goodness, girl.
Speaker 3 (19:07):
At this point I took her off the speakerphone and
till my sister I'd call her back. My wife was
hysterical and in tears. We didn't end up making the reservation.
Speaker 2 (19:15):
Clearly not.
Speaker 3 (19:17):
I tried to confront her by telling her that we
could still do something that weekend for her birthday, and
that I just rescheduled the reservation for whenever they were
next available. But she wasn't in a good mood for
a couple of days after this occurred, and I knew
at that point that she really disliked my sister. Yesterday
was a day that everything went south. I got a
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call from my sister saying that she needed to come
here to take her to the hospital. She was having emergency.
She lives less than ten minutes away. This was at
about eleven pm, baby and wife are asleep. I texted
my wife where I was going before I left, just
in case she woke up, and then I left, which
is important because during the stage sleep is very important
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for the wife, so you don't want to wake her up. Yeah,
everything went well. My sister is okay, but we didn't
get out of hospital around six am. When I got
home this morning, my wife, I first, didn't say a
thing to me. I asked her if she got my
messages throughout the night and if she was all right.
She didn't speak. I went to my office to work, Yes,
I work on Sundays, and about ten minutes later, she
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barged into the room and started yelling. She told me
that it's insane that I left her in the middle
of the night to go help someone that doesn't want
to help us. She said that if it was that
big of an emergency, my sister should have called an
ambulance and that I should have woken her up to
tell her first.
Speaker 2 (20:36):
Okay, well, okay, I The only thing that I kind
of agree with is the wake her up, because if
this is an emergency, even though she needs her sleep.
In terms of baby, I would have been like, hey,
I just found out this emergency thing. I need to go.
I'll be back, like, I'll be back when I can.
Speaker 3 (20:52):
I'll keep you updated.
Speaker 2 (20:53):
I probably would have woken her up.
Speaker 3 (20:55):
I don't know. If I knew my wife hasn't slept
solid for a minute, I probably would have let her
set some text and explained in the text, yeah, hey,
which I didn't wake you up because you really need
some sleep and I love you, but my sister.
Speaker 2 (21:08):
That's the only point I would give to the wife. Though.
On the other hand, I'm sorry you guys. Going to
a dinner is not an emergency.
Speaker 3 (21:15):
A booked out dinner, just wanted to go, and it's
birthday dinner.
Speaker 2 (21:19):
Yeah, really really sucks that you don't have anyone who
could like come. It's like that terrible I sat watch
your baby. So sad it's not an emergency, you know.
I would hope that if you were having an emergency
and you needed someone to watch this kid, your sister
would do it, because if she didn't, if you had
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an actual emergency and your sister said, no, I cannot
watch your child because I'm not a kid person, she's.
Speaker 3 (21:44):
The a Yeah, point blank, point blank.
Speaker 2 (21:46):
You didn't have an emergency. Your opie's sister was having
an emergency, and therefore op he needed to go help
them or help his sister.
Speaker 3 (21:55):
We went back and forth for a bit, but in
the end she told me that if I don't cut
my sister off, she doesn't know what will happen to
our relationship, Oh my goodness, and that I need to
prioritize our family.
Speaker 2 (22:06):
I really, I don't know.
Speaker 3 (22:09):
I don't like this. Probably the reason why the sister
was so adamant about not watching the babies because she
knew that you would make her babiesit your kid.
Speaker 2 (22:18):
No, I really feel like I would to have a
conversation with my wife and say like, hey, why are
you so adamant that specifically my sister needs to be
the one? You know when she told us and you
said that you agreed, So why why now are you
coming and say like did you never actually agree and
you were just trying to.
Speaker 3 (22:37):
Placate me, which is weird? Why all of a sudden
do we need to do this?
Speaker 2 (22:41):
Yeah, like, I'm not don't give me this weird ultimatum
just because you lied.
Speaker 3 (22:47):
I know she is still upset about what happened last month,
but to completely cut off my sister. I don't think
that that's at all an appropriate thing to do. All
my sister did was assert her boundaries. I won't lie.
I was hurt and a bit frustrated when we lost
our reservation, but I got over it because I've known
that my sister wouldn't want much to do with the
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baby for a while. I love my wife and my
family more than anything, but my sister is also one
of my loved family members. She's shown up in a
way to the baby shower and the birth, other than
when caring for the baby. My wife and I haven't
spoken much today, but I don't want things to continue
like this. I don't know how to approach the subject.
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She's still dealing with postpartum hormones.
Speaker 2 (23:30):
So yeah, I can definitely see that.
Speaker 3 (23:33):
So I understand she may be feeling on edge and
protective of the baby. But I feel like we should
address this sooner rather than later. I just want to
in a delicate, passionate way towards both of them. We
have some comments.
Speaker 2 (23:44):
Yeah, I think that I think your wife is definitely
going through some sort of like crimonal thing or like PbD,
and I don't know, like this is tough for her.
She's going through this big change of being coming among Yeah,
and I think that, like maybe, and I don't want to.
You know, I've never obviously been a parent, but I
think when you have your kid, you're like, this is
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the most important person in the world. Oh yeah, And
then someone else doesn't think that, and you're like, what,
you don't think my child's the most important thing in
the world.
Speaker 3 (24:14):
Yeah, you got a little bit of a god complex
going on. It is hard. If my brother said he
wouldn't watch my kid when I need them in a
clutch moment, that would be hard.
Speaker 2 (24:23):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (24:24):
And now I'm thinking if my sister in law said
that in a way, I'd probably be like, I don't
know how I feel about that.
Speaker 2 (24:31):
I definitely would. The problem is that.
Speaker 3 (24:34):
But I wouldn't cut them off. I would not cut
them off.
Speaker 2 (24:36):
The problem is that she told everyone to advance what
she wanted her role to be. And op knows this
about her and OPI's super understanding, but his wife just
seemed to think that she could convince her otherwise, and
that that's the issue. It's like she came into this
whole thing with the expectation that she could change Op's sister.
Speaker 3 (24:56):
Comment one, your wife is an a hole. Your sister
said she's had for you guys, but she's not comfortable
interacting or babysitting. Your wife is not entitled to your
sister's time and she shouldn't be stopping all over her boundaries.
Tell your wife that the way she treated your sister
was entitled and wrong. You will not be cutting off
your sister and your wife needs to grow up. Additionally,
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your sister wasn't the only person that said no to
this last minute request. Is your wife going to cut
out the multiple friends who declined that night? There's an
unfair double standard happening here. Otherwise, on top of crossing
your sister well established boundaries, comment to there was a
difference of priority between making a dinner reservation exactly needed
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to go to the hospital asap. One is about pleasure
and the other is about health. It sounds like your
wife never actually respected your sister's feelings about kids and
dismiss them because she obviously knew better, And now she's
trying to manipulate you to cut her off because the
sister isn't giving in to her demands. You are kind
of a fault for letting it go oh that far
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and calling your sister and putting her on speaker. She
had been very clear with you, but you still chose
to put her in this situation because you didn't feel
like standing up to your wife. It's time she understands
that just because she thinks something should take priority doesn't
mean others will see it that way, that your sister
has always been clear about it, and that she has
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done nothing out of character, that you don't see what
she's done as bad. You can ask for a favor
and the person you ask has a right to say
no for whatever reason. Otherwise you were not asking, you
were commanding, and none of you have that right to
order your sister and treat her time as your own,
even though it's what your wife wants you to do.
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She is not respecting your sister and looking very entitled.
Hope Hee response this comment gave me some perspective. I
kept thinking that perhaps my wife was having a hard
time understanding. She's very family oriented and always wanted children,
considers it her purpose in life, so maybe she couldn't
understand sister's point of view. At first, I explained it
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many times to her, and there were some instances where
she seemed to understand, but now looking back at it,
she didn't really get it. I think she thought once
the baby got here, everything would change and I'd be surprised,
so I shall upset that it didn't. I admit putting
sister in that situation was a thoughtless act. Wife was
just really pestering me. Anne was getting angry and angrier,
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and I felt very overwhelmed. So I gave in. Sister's
not a bad person, she's just not a kid person.
And that's the end of that story.
Speaker 2 (27:38):
I think, yeah, yeah, you knew going in. And I
think Ope is juggling this really hard, or is standing
between these two very difficult situation of knowing his sister
and knowing his wife and trying to manage both of
those personalities, which is a difficult position to be in.
But I think, ohp, he's doing his best.
Speaker 3 (27:58):
He's doing his best. It's not a fair place to be.
He knows what he has to say to his wife.
I think he's procrastinating.
Speaker 2 (28:07):
Absolutely, He's like, I really don't want to do that.
Speaker 3 (28:12):
Maybe procrastinate for a week.
Speaker 2 (28:14):
No, she said, she's like not even talking to him.
Maybe too then, dang, no, I think to talk to
your wife as soon as possible get this figured out.
Your sister's not going away, your wife's not going away,
and your kid's certainly not going away. So let's let's
work on this.
Speaker 3 (28:29):
If your wife is very family oriented, she probably needs
to see an act from the sister in a way. Yeah,
I guess it's reminded of that.
Speaker 2 (28:38):
I think it's it's how is your sister showing up
for you guys in other ways? Because I think that
it is one thing to say I'm not gonna be
there for your kid in like a nanny way, but
if she's not showing up for you guys or helping
you out in any ways because you don't have to.
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You don't have to be there for the kid in
the sense of like holding the kid, taking care of
the kid, et cetera. You can say like, hey, I
know you guys are going through a really you know,
big change right now. You know I made you dinner
one night, Like how are you showing up in other
ways if you can't show up in this way? Because
I think it's valid to say I can't show up
in this way. Yeah, but I don't know. I think
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I'm the kind of an active service person. So I'm like,
how else are you helping these people who are new parents?
Speaker 3 (29:26):
Yeah, but that's the end of that story. And we
got another sister combo coming up for you.
Speaker 1 (29:31):
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Speaker 2 (29:36):
First, my sister's girlfriend is uncomfortable with me living with them.
Speaker 3 (29:40):
What do you can do by it?
Speaker 2 (29:41):
H twenty mail found myself in a bit of a
pickle recently. The apartment I was renting with my roommate, God,
it's rent jacked up by the landlord and neither of
us could afford to stay. He moved back in with
his parents, but my parents live too far away and
the rent in this city is incredibly expensive. Spend most
of my time studying and work only part time, but
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even then I've been getting far fewer hours because my
boss says he doesn't need me around that much. By
the way, this comes from maybe overstep to and if
you want to submit your own stories, go to the
r slash Okay storytime separate it. So my lovely sister
twenty six, female, whom I love more than anyone in
the world was kind enough to offer a helping hand.
She told me I could stay at her place free
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of charge for as long as I needed. I thought
this was incredibly kind of her, and I promised I
wouldn't stay a day longer than I had to. Oh,
this is great, Everything's fine. Dang. She basically told me
that it's my home as much as it is hers,
even though she pays for everything. I've tried my best
to insist she take rent for me to make it fair,
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but she refused, saying I should save up whatever money
I earn for myself. So I've been doing all the
chores like cleaning, shopping, and cooking. It's great living with her.
We're having so much fun, and I genuinely feel like
she enjoys me being here. That sibling living together is great. Woo.
Speaker 3 (31:04):
I had a good run for about a month or two. Yeah,
and then it ended with me doing all the dishes.
Speaker 2 (31:10):
Rough man, that sucks. Yeah. Sam doesn't cook enough to
have that.
Speaker 3 (31:14):
Many dishes to remember the nick cook?
Speaker 2 (31:16):
Oh where are these dishes coming from?
Speaker 3 (31:18):
I wasn't the best roommate either, But good for you.
I'm glad you're having a good experience.
Speaker 2 (31:22):
Yeah, I mean, Sam's not even here right now.
Speaker 3 (31:24):
He'll never be here, never here.
Speaker 2 (31:26):
Here's where I think I overstepped my boundaries. My sister
is by and she's had this lovely woman, twenty six
female as her partner for as long as I can remember,
maybe since graduating from high school. She's a really lovely person,
and I think my sister is really lucky to have her. Unfortunately,
marriage equality isn't legal yet in our country, but if
it ever is, I'm sure they would definitely get married.
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My sister's girlfriend I've known for quite a while. She's
really into video games and likes a lot of the
same movies and anime as me, so we've been good
friends for some time. I mean, you've known her since
your sister was an high school so yeah, makes sense.
We often game together or go to the movies together.
I know it's probably a bit weird going to the
movies just me and my sister's girlfriend. No, I don't
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think that's.
Speaker 3 (32:11):
Weird unless you're like I'm always hanging around my sister's
friends and I don't have any friends of mine own,
then I can see that being weird.
Speaker 2 (32:18):
But my sister really doesn't mind at all. And usually
they aren't the sort of movies that would interest her. Anyway,
she comes over to my sister's apartment quite a bit,
and I noticed something they never did when they were
together at our parents' house. They're really open with displays
of affection, and it's quite frequent. Like sometimes she'd be
over in the morning when I'm having breakfast and she
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and my sister would start making out in the kitchen,
touching each other and all that stuff. Okay, okay, that's
a little bit. That's a little too far.
Speaker 3 (32:49):
Now.
Speaker 2 (32:49):
I'm the farthest thing from a closet god you could
think of, and most straight guys would probably be turned
on by that site. Okay, it's your sister, it's your sister,
but this is my sister. So I feel incredibly put
off and uncomfortable when this happens. Yeah, okay, I don't
even think you needed to include that line.
Speaker 3 (33:08):
Well, he's being real.
Speaker 2 (33:11):
Guys, it's your sister, it's your sister.
Speaker 3 (33:14):
Being real. Here he's saying that there's public affair display
of two women. One is my sister. I don't know
how to feel about it. What am I supposed to do?
That's what he's basically.
Speaker 2 (33:25):
He says he feels about it.
Speaker 3 (33:27):
He feels he does feel uncomfortable by it because he
knows what is making it feel inside. This is between
the lines, Sophie said. Most between the lines.
Speaker 2 (33:36):
He said, most trade guys would probably be turned on
by this. But I feel incredibly put off and uncomfortable.
Speaker 3 (33:42):
He's just he's adding that in there. Riley, I'm I, okay,
just denying the truth. Then ew I think it's gross too.
I'm just reading doing lives. This guy doesn't know how
to deal with it.
Speaker 2 (33:56):
Okay, that's his sister. And also I feel like, personally,
if anyone was doing this, I would get uncomfortable.
Speaker 3 (34:03):
Yeah, if it's like two goldfish kissing any anything, anything,
two turtles doing it, keep it in doing it.
Speaker 2 (34:10):
Okay, everyone's seen that video. But anyway, I often tried
to leave the room when they get all lovey dovey together.
But when I'm having breakfast at the table, usually all
I can do is stare down at the table and
pretend I'm not there, and it could go on for minutes.
Speaker 3 (34:25):
Sag. The cereal is so good, dude, Ope, you're missing
it man, anytime they do No, you're not even letting
me finish.
Speaker 2 (34:34):
You said, you're missing it, missing.
Speaker 3 (34:36):
Out on a great opportunity to play any song you
want to during that moment, So they'll stop. She will
be coming, okay, anything to turn off the move.
Speaker 2 (34:49):
Oh, I just be like, ew, gross, there you go. Yeah,
you can just.
Speaker 3 (34:56):
In you. You don't have to sit there and let
it happen. Dude.
Speaker 2 (34:59):
My brother was making out with his girlfriend in front
of me. I'd be like, stop, you.
Speaker 3 (35:06):
Get a room, man, get a room.
Speaker 2 (35:08):
That's that's what I would do. So here's where I
think I overstepped my bounds. I approached my sister in
a really polite manner, requested that she'd be more aware
of my presence. I told her I have nothing against them,
but she's my sister, so naturally i'd feel uncomfortable seeing
her in that situation. Constantly. I asked if she could
just be aware of my presence and maybe tone it
down when I'm in the same room. She instantly agreed
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and thought she should have thought of that earlier. Honestly,
I feel like maybe girlfriend is the is the instigator
of this, you know, like of all the the not
in like a oh, her brothers. I think it's like
a I think she's the more touchy one, and that's
probably why I op's sister didn't really think of it,
because she's kind of like, oh yeah or yeah, sure,
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wis I offered to get out of the apartment way
more often than I do. I already often take time
out to go to the library at university and study
during the night, or just go watch a movie on
my own during the weekend, so that my sister and
her girlfriend can have the entire apartment to themselves. So
kind of you. I do take precautions to make sure
I'm not constantly in the way of their relationship, but
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I also acknowledge that because of the situation, there are
some times where I'm gonna be unable to help being around.
And your sister should recognize that she has offered you
a place to stay kind of indefinitely, and you're doing
chores or open out and stuff. She was to take
that back, Yeah, she can't, just kind of she can
start a conversation with you anyway. After I had that
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conversation with my sister, the next morning, her girlfriend was
over as usual. Her girlfriend leaned into kiss her, but
my sister backed away and told her, I think we
shouldn't do that stuff when my brother's around. It makes
him feel weird. No, no, no, no.
Speaker 3 (36:49):
No, man, No, I was not executed so poorly at all.
Speaker 2 (36:55):
This is what you do. You take your girlfriend aside,
not when she about to kiss you take her, take
her side, call her up, text her. I don't care
you say. Hey, I talked to my brother. He was
feeling a little bit uncomfortable, like when we do a
lot of PDA, if we could just tone it down
or you know, like give him a little bit of
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just be a little respectful of his presence. Yeah, that's
the conversation we have. We don't go, oh, sorry, my
brother thinks it's weird. That sounds like he's homophobic.
Speaker 3 (37:27):
Yeah, or also like, oh he gets turned off by
his sister kissing other girls.
Speaker 1 (37:32):
No, it's not at all.
Speaker 3 (37:34):
No.
Speaker 2 (37:34):
I instantly apologized and left the kitchen. No, oh, he's
the bad guy. But my sister still insisted that it
was weird doing it when I was nearby.
Speaker 3 (37:43):
Dude, not nearby.
Speaker 2 (37:45):
Her girlfriend seemed pretty pissed off by the whole thing,
but silently accepted it. I could tell she blamed me
and felt I was in the way of the relationship.
I regretted having brought it up with my sister since
I'm a guest in her home. The thing is that
you're not really a guest, like you live there. You're
her roommate. She is very kindly allowing you to live there.
But like, I feel like there is a difference between
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a person who's visiting for the day, you know, like
that type of guest, and a roommate who you are
very kindly allowing to live there. And it is a
different situation than like a roommate who's paying. Of course,
I feel like.
Speaker 3 (38:19):
It's a situation of til you get back on your feet,
not roommate. I don't think that they're a roommate necessarily.
Speaker 2 (38:26):
I think I think he's a roommate. I think it's
like I think it is different than a roommate pays,
Like he's not on that level. But I think that
like when you're there for kind of an indefinite amount
of time and you've offered to pay, and you're doing
all that chores and stuff, I feel like it is
different than just a guest.
Speaker 3 (38:42):
Yeah, And then at that point, if I was ope,
I thought would go to you know, my sister's girlfriend.
Speaker 2 (38:49):
I did not mean it that way, just like I
love you guys, but it's just like I felt a
little comfortable with the PDA.
Speaker 3 (38:56):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (38:57):
After a few days, her partner seemed to have let
it go, and I was trying to make myself scarce
as much as possible to give them space and privacy.
Her partner was being nice to me again and the
coldness seemed to have disappeared. We were sitting in the
apartment playing video games in the afternoon when my sister
came home from work around the usual time, and like
she always does, she gave me a hug and a kiss,
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like she does every day. Her girlfriend instantly fumed and
started lashing out at her, telling her it was unfair
she was still kissing and hugging me in front of her,
but she wouldn't do anything with her if I was
in the same apartment. I tried to stay silent, but
it escalated into a pretty big argument. At first, her
girlfriend started lashing out at my sister, but then she
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directly turned to me and started blaming it on me,
saying I was interfering in their personal life and I
had no place to When her girlfriend lashed out at me,
my sister got really angry with her girlfriend and started
shouting back and defending me, saying it was not my idea,
but hers and I had done nothing wrong and she
shouldn't dare say a word against me. I ever seen
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my sister angry like that before. She's normally such a calm,
lovely person. And not only was she really angry, but
angry at the woman she loved. And again again, the
sister's not quite getting it because she's having this very loud,
aggressive argument in front of her brother, which is on
a difference, you know, on the opposite spectrum, but is
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the same thing as having a bunch of PDA in
front of your brother.
Speaker 3 (40:25):
The intention from the sister seems good, but it's just
the way she goes about.
Speaker 2 (40:30):
It is It's like, you guys, keep involving your brother
in the very intimate parts of your relationship, like aggressive
arguments and like PDA, and it's like all he's asking
is just wait a time out of the room.
Speaker 3 (40:43):
Please let me finish my cereal start nacking out.
Speaker 2 (40:47):
I just stayed silent, and after her girlfriend had left,
I apologize to my sister. She insisted I had nothing
to apologize for, but I feel incredibly guilty still and
know deep down that the whole thing my fault. It's
not your girlfriend. Sorry. Your sister's girlfriend is going to
blame it on you because that's how it was kind
of told to her, But it really is just your girlfriend. Sorry.
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Your sister's girlfriend and your sister have bad communication skills, yeah,
and don't really know how to differentiate between what is
public and what is private. And also that you know
it could be like she felt like she had to
hide it a little bit with uh when she was
living with your guys' parents and feels a little bit
more comfortable around the space. But regardless, she really needs
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to understand that it is different now that you are
living with her, and if she can't do that, if
it doesn't work, then she has to let you know
that you can't live with her. Yeah, but she can't
do this while you are here, and she's saying it's
fine that you're here. I massively overstep my bounds where
I shouldn't have. You really didn't and now may have
caused a rift in my sister's relationship. I hate myself
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right now for what happened, and I'm feeling incredibly stupid.
And guilty. Wish there was some way to help, but
I'm worried anything I say or do could unintentionally make
things worse. And there is an update.
Speaker 3 (42:06):
Folks, Oh my goodness, but what do you think It
also sounds like there's a layer beneath just the PDA. Yeah,
op asked the sister, Hey, I don't want you to
do anything while I'm like can physically see you.
Speaker 2 (42:20):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (42:21):
The sister took it as, oh, you look for us
anything near us, even if you're in the same apartment
in us, I'm not gonna do it.
Speaker 2 (42:27):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (42:28):
And maybe this is just like my hypothetical thing. Maybe
the sister actually isn't okay with the PDA, found an
excuse for it, and is now using that anytime her
girlfriend's around. And then her girlfriend gets upset at the
sister because she wants to, you know, be a physical,
be affectionate, but she's not having it because, oh her
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the excuse is here. Maybe there's a little bit more
there than just the brother.
Speaker 2 (42:53):
No, I agree. I think oftentimes when you have like
people who are like really PDA, there is one person
who's someone not saying that, Like, it's not like both
of them doing it. But like you have one person
who is maybe more of an instigator. Yeah, and maybe
she's realizing Oh yeah, my brother brought it up. Oh
I am a little bit more self conscious of it now.
Speaker 3 (43:09):
Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (43:11):
But there is an update, folks, Hey, John Ogi hoist here.
Speaker 3 (43:14):
We're gonna get back to this episode. But a quick
three minute break of ads from a sponsor's keeping the
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Speaker 2 (43:19):
Unfortunately, my sister and her girlfriend broke up. Dude, that's
not your fault. Yeah, however, it was not my fault.
It's not your fault. Oh they were having Yeah, they
were having so many more problems. If all it took
for them to break up was you been like, hey,
can you cool it? And they were like, how dare you? Yeah,
your sister had a lot of other problems in that relationship. Yeah,
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it seems they've had some problems for a while. I
just haven't known anything about it. I had a talk
with my sister about what I had said. I basically
told her that when I asked her to tone it down,
I didn't mean to avoid any form of physical contact
with her girlfriend, just to avoid the over the intense stuff.
I pointed out how I'd noticed they had suddenly got
so cold and frosty with each other, and I hoped
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she wasn't taking my polite request too far. She told
me it wasn't my fault at all. They had some
issues for a while. I just didn't know about it. Honestly,
I was surprised because they'd been together for so long
and they always seemed like the perfect couple. They were
always so happy and so much in love around each other.
My sister told me she loves her girlfriend so much,
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but there are two sides to her. There is the
side of her that is really loving and caring and kind,
but there's the other side where she is sometimes overly possessive, controlling,
and demanding, which honestly might be why there is so
much PDA, because it's kind of like that asserting dominance
thing of like, oh God, I want it. It seems
there's an ongoing communication problem. I called that. I saw
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it where whenever my sister denies her something, their girlfriend
gets angry and demanding, and this sometimes escalates into fights.
They always make up, and the girlfriend always ends up
apologizing and saying she's sorry and loves her, which is
why they've never broken up. Ooh, yeah, not great. Yikes,
a little love bombing, Yeah, yeah, absolutely no, Yeah, it's
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you know, you have this big fight and then she's like, no,
I'm sorry, I love you, and blah blah blah. I
told her I had no idea about all of this.
There's a lot that I don't know. I told my
sister that this sounds serious and if this is a
real problem, she needs to have a serious talk with
her girlfriend or end things if she's not listening, my
sister said she entirely agreed, but was herself scared of
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the outcome. I told her I'd always have her back.
She asked me if i'd maybe say something to her
girlfriend about it, since I was good friends with her
and me game often together. I told her maybe I could,
but I think this is something she needs to address herself. Absolutely,
don't do that. Do not talk to her girlfriend about that.
Speaker 3 (45:57):
That's that is not that Yeah, how about it.
Speaker 2 (46:01):
That's crossing the line for sure. Yeah, yikes, Yeah, that
would see, that's probably why they have problems in the relationship.
Speaker 3 (46:10):
That is, I don't know. I can't imagine that. Does
she not have enough friends outside of this? Yeah, that's
my other question.
Speaker 2 (46:17):
Well, I wonder if the girlfriend has been pretty controlling
about who she can and can't be friends with and
maybe monopolizing her time.
Speaker 3 (46:24):
Oh yeah.
Speaker 2 (46:25):
A few days later, I was at home playing games
with my sister's girlfriend while my sister was at work.
The girlfriend said to me, it doesn't really bother you
that much when your sister and I kiss, does it?
Speaker 1 (46:36):
What?
Speaker 2 (46:37):
And I don't really think it's your place to get
in between our relationship. You're just a guest in her home.
Speaker 3 (46:43):
Ooh ooh.
Speaker 2 (46:45):
I told her. I agreed and didn't say much else
and just steered away from the topic. Stop trying to
evolve Opee Cross. Like literally, they're both trying to get
Ope to be this kind of like mediator in their
relationship or just kind of scapegoat. Like on Op's sister's side.
She wants them to be the mediator, and then the
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girlfriend wants him to be the scapegoat. And it's like,
I just don't even want to be involved.
Speaker 3 (47:09):
I don't want to be here.
Speaker 2 (47:10):
I just I just want to be in the library.
That's it.
Speaker 3 (47:13):
I just want to eat my frosted flakes without my
sister making back out, That's all I ask. Also, I
think the girlfriend's or sister's girlfriend wants to be around
yeah with the brother playing video games so she can
still have an end.
Speaker 2 (47:25):
When my sister came home, she said hi to us.
It was a much colder high to her girlfriend than
to me. She came up gave me a hug and
a kiss from behind as usual. Her girlfriend quickly got
upset and stood up, demanding to know why she showed
such affection towards me but not towards her, and it
escalated into an argument. Yikes. My sister gave me a
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look and I knew she was going to break up
with her. She gave me the keys to her car
and told me to go to the shops and watch
a movie or something. Go out, come back later.
Speaker 3 (47:55):
Here's twenty bucks.
Speaker 2 (47:56):
Here's twenty bucks by yourself. Something nice. I went out
alone for the to the night, mostly sitting in the
movie theater until quite late. I got a text from
my sister asking why I was out for so long,
and that she didn't mean for me to be gone
that long. Oh be, He's like, I didn't even want
to chance it.
Speaker 3 (48:12):
Yeah, she's think you both take things too far.
Speaker 2 (48:15):
I got home and saw she was crying pretty badly.
They had broken up as expected. Apparently, it wasn't nice.
I can't imagine it would be. I did what I
could to make her feel better, and we talked things over.
I had really thought the relationship was the one, but
it seemed not. Not everything is meant to be, and
there was a lot that I apparently didn't know about it.
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It was all happy and perfect on the outside, but
it seemed there were huge tensions on the inside. Since
her girlfriend was over at my sister's apartment quite often,
there was some of her stuff there. My sister asked
me to take it back to her since she didn't
want to see her again. She said I should do
it since I'm her friend, and she told me I
could still be friends with her and game with her
if I wanted to. Their breakup shouldn't affect that. I
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feel like this is how she treated Ope, he should
affect it.
Speaker 3 (49:02):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (49:03):
I drove some of the stuff back to her ex
girlfriends the next day and I had a brief chat
with her.
Speaker 3 (49:07):
Oh my gosh, dude, stopped talking to her. Dude, you dude,
you don't understand where you are to her, You're you're
the bait. On the end, of a fishing look, and
you keep no, you keep going up to the earth,
so you could become the bait.
Speaker 2 (49:19):
I've had to do this before with like a ex
friend when they broke up with their partner. I had
to go bring stuff to the partner and they were
just downstairs, so it wasn't like a whole you know,
enough to drive, but I had to go down. So
I'm like having a conversation with the ex friend yeah,
and hearing them cry about it, and then I had
to go downstairs. And then also that partner started because
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I was kind of friends with them before. Yeah, And
so then they're complaining about it to me, and I'm like, dude,
why stop, don't put me in this.
Speaker 3 (49:51):
Don't put me in this. I had to do this
to a to my ex's friend. I was kind of close,
not really kind of close, but I hung out with
her a lot and she was going Atlanta to see
her again, and I gave her back all the stuff
and I gave her like, I gave her a big
hug and was like, all right, give this to her
because I wasn't able to get my ex a big
hug before we broke up, because I thought I was
gonna see her again. And then I gave her back
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the little lego piece she got me, so take care
of it. She's like, you don't want it. I'm like,
I'm good, and then I lotted a lot of weight
by that time. She's like, oh you look great. I
was like, good, Okay, tell excellent.
Speaker 2 (50:25):
You don't have to tell anyone.
Speaker 3 (50:26):
That Actually, don't tell anyone that.
Speaker 2 (50:28):
Don't tell anyone. She was also quite upset, and I
just basically said, I'm really sorry the way things turned out.
She apologized for trying to blame me for some of
the deep seated problems they had. We both agreed, even
though we're good friends, we should stay apart for a
long while now because of the breakup.
Speaker 3 (50:47):
You guess they're good friends.
Speaker 2 (50:48):
But there is a little bit left do this story.
Do you have any final thoughts?
Speaker 3 (50:52):
This is just this is tough. This is a tough one.
I feel like your sister has already kind of made
up her mind and was just done with the whole thing.
Speaker 2 (51:01):
Yeah. I think she was just finding excuses to distance
herself from her girlfriend.
Speaker 3 (51:06):
Yes, and it wasn't tough for the sister. It's just
awkward for.
Speaker 2 (51:09):
You to be Yeah, to be the excuse.
Speaker 3 (51:12):
But I will say, probably earned yourself another three months stay.
Speaker 2 (51:16):
Yeah, now, there's nothing, there's nothing that's preventing you from staying. Oh,
good luck, Opie, and I hope that you You know
your room situation is okay.
Speaker 3 (51:27):
I hope so too, But there's a little left.
Speaker 2 (51:29):
My sister thanked me for my help. She's still pretty
upset even now, obviously. I mean they've been dating since
high school, so, but it's expected when you have a
major breakup from such a huge relationship. I didn't pry
too much or ask for any gossip or info that
wasn't freely given to me by her. I told her
I'll work on finding a place to move to, but
she said purely and honestly that she would rather I
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stay in her apartment for the time being. Yeah, she
probably wants the comfort. She's like, I have no d
and I'm alone. Please stay with me.
Speaker 3 (51:57):
You ever stay with her, or she's gonna adopt kittens. Yeah,
all at once.
Speaker 2 (52:01):
She said she's going through a major emotional trauma and
really need someone to rely on and a confidant to
always speak to and be there for her so she
doesn't feel alone and helpless, and she'd be happy if
I stayed there for the time being. I told her
I'd be happy with that too. Oh. I've been doing
most of the cooking, shopping, and house chores for the
past few days while my sister's been sulking in bed
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or on the couch. I think she might have even
caught a cold or something oof rough. But I'm happy
to help in whatever way I can. I called my
parents and told them what had happened. They were pretty upset.
They didn't know how bad things were either, and offered
to help in whatever way they can, although they're both
far away. Aw, that's good. It's good that she has
this really great support system in her family.
Speaker 3 (52:46):
Mm hmm. Everyone's pitching in helping out.
Speaker 2 (52:48):
I love that.
Speaker 3 (52:49):
I could see myself doing that for my sister and
my brother got broken up with I'm just getting pizza, like,
you'll be fine.
Speaker 2 (52:55):
That's what you did for me. I got you pizza,
but no, I just supporting me. Oh you were just
you were good support.
Speaker 3 (53:01):
I remember getting did get you pizza you're talking about
talking about?
Speaker 2 (53:06):
Nah?
Speaker 3 (53:06):
Yeah, you gotta be there and you come by whenever. Oh, thanks,
five minutes away.
Speaker 2 (53:11):
Yeah, I've already come over once you have you have yeah, yeah,
maybe Sunday.
Speaker 3 (53:15):
Cool, I'll be round perfect. All right, Well that's the
end of this episode. Uh, reach out to your sibling,
tell them, love them. Tell them that if hypothetically you
stayed with them and they said that it was okay
for free, and then you told them to stop being
PDA with their significant other and then they broke up,
that you would be there for them. He would be there.
Speaker 2 (53:35):
Tell him that if you're calling them that specific thing. Yeah,
but folks, that's the end of that story and the
end of this episode. So if you love us, make
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Speaker 3 (53:46):
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Speaker 2 (00:17):
My sister wants to steal my mom's house.
Speaker 3 (00:20):
Sounds like she should get her own house.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
It's been a decade and this is the first time
I've ever written this down. I guess I'm still angry.
Reading a few stories here made me think about when
my dad passed away and everything that led up to
it and what came after. I'm trying to hide some
identifying details in case someone I know stumbles across this,
but if a specific person does, I want you to
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know I haven't forgotten and I'll not forgive you.
Speaker 3 (00:47):
Oh No.
Speaker 2 (00:48):
By the way, this comes from ADHD is my power,
And if you want to submit your own stories, go
to the r slash. Okay, Storytime separate it. So I'm Riley,
I'm Sophia, and I'm what you call an accident child.
Speaker 3 (01:01):
Us me too.
Speaker 2 (01:03):
Hello, wait, wait, wait, that's that's the story, not me.
Dad already had kids from his first marriage and didn't
want more. My mom was never supposed to get pregnant
because she'd had tumors removed from her ovaries that should
have made conception impossible.
Speaker 3 (01:19):
Oh my goodness, it sounds like they were making room.
Speaker 2 (01:21):
But as the eighties bled into the nineties, I came
along anyway. That's crazy to be told that you literally
can't have children, and then and then you just come
along anyway.
Speaker 3 (01:32):
Well as a woman doctor. Yeah, if you.
Speaker 2 (01:35):
Remove the well known woman doctor.
Speaker 3 (01:37):
Thank you, Sophia. If you remove the ovaries, it makes
room for the babies to be made. One knows that.
If you remove the tumors from the ovaries.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
Everyone knows that too.
Speaker 3 (01:47):
If you didn't know that, you need ovaries to have babies.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
And there we go. Thankfully, my parents never treated me
with the contempt that many unwanted children in dirt. My sister, however,
more than made up for their kind Oh no, what
does that mean she hates Opee more than.
Speaker 3 (02:05):
Made up for their kindness. I think, what does that mean?
Speaker 2 (02:08):
Opie's parents were really nice to Opee, but the sister
was terrible to Opie. I see, over a decade older
than me, she never liked me. She could put on
a decent facade when others were watching, but everyone knew
she didn't care for me. I can only remember her
being truly nice to me twice when my grandfather passed away,
and the one time she drove me to the airport.
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As for my mom, she damn near hated her. My
sister had convinced herself that my mother broke up her parents' marriage,
even though our dad didn't meet my mother until years
after his divorce was finalized. Heck, my dad's ex wife
and my mom became good friends and still are to
this day. No one ever understood where my sister's twisted
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narrative came from, but she clung to it like gospel.
Oh gosh, yikes, that's so hard when everyone's chill with
the situation except for the one kid. He's like a
I'm never gonna forgive any of you.
Speaker 3 (03:05):
It's so shiny and bright in nature, is outside, it's.
Speaker 2 (03:09):
Fine, go touch grass.
Speaker 3 (03:11):
A trainy and gloomy er.
Speaker 2 (03:13):
In the early twenty tens, my dad got sick, the
kind of sick where everything hits you at once, like
your body just decides it's done playing fair. He ended
up in a coma for a month. The doctors didn't
expect him to make it, but somehow he pulled through.
Though he came back permanently disabled and was forced into retirement.
After months bouncing between hospitals and rehab facilities, he finally
(03:37):
came home. That's when I learned a hard truth. The
government stops caring about you the moment you can't make
the money and can only take money from them. So
I moved back in with my parents to help out.
For two years, I worked full time, attended school full time,
and served as my dad's caregiver.
Speaker 3 (03:54):
Oh.
Speaker 2 (03:54):
Mom and I tag team discarred during the week, and
every weekend I'd watch him for eight to ten hours
while she went to work. All their savings had evaporated
paying his medical bills. If their house hadn't been paid off,
they would have lost it. Most of my time with
dad involved helping him to the bathroom, assisting him in
the shower, and cleaning up when he didn't make it
in time, oh or when the medications made him violently ill.
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The stress aged me rapidly. When I was in my
late twenties. Most people thought I was pushing forty. Oh.
My sister meanwhile, graced us with her presence maybe two
or three times a year, or contribution, clipping his toenails
because he liked how she did it. So she's his
nail tech twice a year. And that's it.
Speaker 3 (04:36):
That's tough.
Speaker 2 (04:38):
She never once dealt with the real caregiving, never witnessed
the worst moments, never saw him at his most vulnerable.
She knew the financial strain we were all under, yet
she still found ways to ask him for money.
Speaker 3 (04:49):
That's crazy, Dad, you get a little bit from the government,
Can I take one?
Speaker 2 (04:53):
And I have to take some of that from the government.
Speaker 3 (04:54):
Please, you're not going to use it. You can't, you're disabled.
Speaker 2 (04:57):
Thank you. Then he passed away. It happened quickly, the
way these things sometimes do. One Friday, he started acting strange,
so we rushed him to the hospital. They discovered he'd
had a minor heart attack, but given his poor health,
it triggered a cascade of organ failure.
Speaker 3 (05:13):
Oh my gosh.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
The following Monday morning, I said goodbye to my father
as I watched him take his last breaths.
Speaker 3 (05:19):
I didn't really expect this episode to give me at
the heart. Yeah, it's so early.
Speaker 2 (05:25):
On, so sad, and then you have your sister just
being kind of terrible this whole time while you're well,
you're dealing with this really just terrible loss.
Speaker 3 (05:34):
Okay, could be worse. She could be stealing that not
doing his nails.
Speaker 2 (05:38):
That's true. She could be well, yeah, it's kind of
like payment for in the nails if you think about it.
Speaker 3 (05:44):
This expensive neiltex out there, it's very expensive.
Speaker 2 (05:47):
I'll give my sister credit because she was somewhat kind
during those final days. It wouldn't last. We held a
small memorial service at the house. My brothers had flown
in beforehand to help with arrangements. Dad didn't have a will,
but he told us what he wanted each of us
to have. It wasn't much since Mom was still alive,
but we divided his possessions peacefully among ourselves, setting aside
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items we knew our sister would want. When she arrived,
she immediately began walking through the house like she was shopping,
calling DIBs on everything in sight. She became furious when
she wanted something already promised to someone else. His pupuke collection,
for example, was supposed to be split between one of
my brothers and me, since we both served in the
military and were the only one with any interest in firearms.
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But she was livid that she wasn't getting one. You
don't She's like, I never cared about this before, but
I want one now.
Speaker 3 (06:40):
Guys, you can sell those two. I guess that might
be why she wants that, just wants money.
Speaker 2 (06:45):
She even tried claiming items that belonged to my mother,
which we quickly shut down.
Speaker 3 (06:50):
Carl, what you can't have the whole.
Speaker 2 (06:52):
You can't have everything. The memorial service itself went smoothly
until that day. I'd been drinking for over a day
at that point, trying to says two years of stress,
compounded by the fact that I'd been laid off from
my job the same day my dad passed away. At
one point, we decided to take a shot in Dad's memory,
and my sister wanted to join us. We told her
we were pouring them now, and she promptly disappeared. We
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waited several minutes, even going outside to look for her,
but couldn't find her anywhere, so the ten plus family
members present took the shot without her. She suddenly reappeared
and threw an absolute fit that we hadn't come to
get her. She stormed out and drove home that night.
I feel like she was waiting in the shadows, just.
Speaker 3 (07:33):
She was in the closet.
Speaker 2 (07:35):
If they try and have the shot, I'm gonna I'm
gonna come out and get so mad at them.
Speaker 3 (07:39):
It's a good party trick. Yeah, all take a shot, disappear,
and then right when they take the shot, Ah, I
wanted to take it with you. Guys, man, well, what
the he.
Speaker 2 (07:48):
And then you get all mad at them and then
they feel bad.
Speaker 3 (07:51):
Guys, use that for the next time we have at
a party and you want to leave early.
Speaker 2 (07:55):
A couple of months later, Mom needed all the children's
signatures to take full possession Dad's truck. My brothers and
I signed without hesitation, but my sister made a huge
fuss because she believed the truck should have gone to
her instead of Mom.
Speaker 3 (08:08):
Oh my god.
Speaker 2 (08:09):
I eventually moved across the country to live with my
brother and start fresh. Mom decided to follow and put
the house on the market. The house had been my
maternal grandparents' home, which Mom inherited when they passed. Dad
was never on the deed as far as the state
was concerned. The house belonged solely to my mother. That
didn't stop my sister from making it a federal case.
Speaker 3 (08:30):
Federal What I think she's joking? Oh, we know.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
My sister wanted to pursue legal action to force Mom
into selling her the house for well below market value.
I thought she was joking. Huh. My sister's own mother
put a stop to that nonsense, telling her daughter that
if anyone deserved the house after Mom, it was me.
My sister scoffed at the idea that my grandparents' house
would be my inheritance instead of hers, despite having no
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blood relation to my mother's family whatsoever.
Speaker 3 (08:59):
How can you raise eight this much greed, Yeah, to
the point that you are dissolving your support system and family.
Speaker 2 (09:06):
Well, it's just kind of crazy to me because this
isn't her mom, Like the house fully belongs to Opee's mom.
Speaker 3 (09:13):
Dad lived in it.
Speaker 2 (09:14):
Yeah yeah, she's like, well, my dad lived here, so
I can take whatever I want. But it's like it
goes to Ope's mom. Opie's half sister, who has no
relation to Opie's mom, is trying to take Opie's mom's
house crazy. So Mom sold the house and moved to
my area. A few months later. Mom was devastated. It
was close to the one year anniversary of my dad's passing,
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and my sister had written her a vicious letter. In it,
she berated Mom for not giving her the house, not
selling it to her, but giving it to her for free.
So she's like, I'm not mad that you didn't try
to sell it to me, I'm mad that you didn't
give it to me just for free. What not giving
it to you for free? She argued that since it
was her father's home, Mom never had the right to
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sell it to anyone else and should have handed it
over to my sister at no cost.
Speaker 3 (09:59):
She's over taking my greed man. Yeah, there's nothing else.
Speaker 2 (10:02):
I mean, like, truly, she was taking money from people
that were getting payments from the government, and presumably Opie's
mom still doesn't have that much money and needs the
money from selling the house. And yet this woman is
still like, I'm gonna take whatever I can get from you.
Speaker 3 (10:18):
And the worst thing about all of this is even
if you gave it to her for free, Yeah, she's
gonna ask for repairs to be done. Oh yeah, is
this to be done. You owe it to her.
Speaker 2 (10:28):
Well, she'd never find things. Yeah, think about that for
a moment. This house had belonged to my maternal grandparents,
people completely unrelated to her. Again, Yeah, came passed down
on Opie's mom's side. Yet she still believed with absolute
certainty that when Mom decided to sell, the house should
have been given to her for nothing. That was the
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day I decided to cut my sister off for good.
It's been almost ten years now and I haven't spoken
to her once, neither of my brothers, except when one
was diagnosed with cancer and she suddenly tried reaching out
to him. In my opinion, she was trying to weasel
her way into his good graces in case he passed
and left her something. He's been in remission for years now.
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In that time, I've gotten married, had two beautiful daughters,
and never heard from my sister once during any of
these major life events. My mom lives with us now.
She's in her seventies but looks fifty, and she gets
to see her granddaughters every day. She has many friends
and an active social life. I haven't seen her this
happy in years.
Speaker 3 (11:29):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (11:29):
If I passed before though, she'll be glad to know
I'm leaving her something in my will. It's a beautiful
epoxy display featuring my two middle fingers and a butt
made especially for her.
Speaker 3 (11:41):
I love it.
Speaker 2 (11:43):
Oh he is petty and angry ten years later, and
I get it. But there is a little bit left
to the story. Do you have any final thoughts?
Speaker 3 (11:51):
So actually smart move to leave someone? Yeah, something a
little bit of something I saw a while ago with
his grandmother caught off her son or something, gave all
the inheritans, opie, but gave her son a dollar.
Speaker 2 (12:06):
Yeah, because they can't contest it because it's like, no,
you got something.
Speaker 3 (12:10):
Yeah, it's not like, oh I didn't get anything. She
must have like forgotten about me, didn't She wasn't thinking right. No,
that was a very intended amount of money just for you. Yeah,
it was very intentional.
Speaker 2 (12:21):
Absolutely, But I would still be angry about this, do ope.
Your sister sucks. Yeah, and she's greedy and she doesn't
really care about her support system, and it seems like
it's just her, Like it's not even her mom causing trouble,
it's just her.
Speaker 3 (12:34):
A real quick okay story my pastor told me where
I asked him something like if like substances could like,
you know, take over someone. He's like, well, I won't
saw what was it guilt or shame or oh it's
actually kind of a gross story. Actually I don't have
a story that's like appropriate for the show because I
(12:55):
just remembered how bad it was. But moral of it, Yeah,
you could be overtaken by anything if you let it
consume you, and you lose the.
Speaker 2 (13:02):
People that love you or you know that could be
your support system, and then you're alone and you've maybe
have money most times not because you're the more you
try and get it, the easier it, you know, goes away.
Speaker 3 (13:15):
And it doesn't sound like she was fighting for millions.
It's probably a couple thousand.
Speaker 2 (13:18):
Dollars for like, yeah, nothing pennys. But folks, there's a
little bit left to the story, so we're gonna read it.
Some people think I should forgive and move on, that
family is family, that life is too short for grudges,
but some betrayals cut too deep, especially when they happened
during your darkest moments. I spent two years sacrificing my
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twenties to care for our father while she clipped his toenails.
Twice a year and then tried to profit from his passing.
She showed me exactly who she was when it mattered most.
I believe her. So yeah, it's been a decade and
I'm still angry, and I'm okay with that, and we're
okay with that too. But folks, that's the end of
that story, and we've got another one coming right up.
Speaker 3 (13:59):
My wife was furious that I helped my sister after
she rejected us.
Speaker 2 (14:04):
Sometimes she gotta be a better person.
Speaker 3 (14:06):
My wife, thirty two female, and I thirty two male,
have a six month old baby. Oh, and he is
the lie of our lives. Before some was born. However,
my sister twenty four female, made it known that she
was not a baby person. I've known this literally our
whole lives, and my wife even knew this. But I'm
starting to wonder if she didn't take it quite seriously.
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By the way, this comes from Throwaway Family Upset eleven
and if you want to smit your own stories, go
to the r So I show okay, storytime, So I
bred it. My sister came to her baby shower, where
she again made it known that while she was happy
for us, she wouldn't have much to do with the
kid until at least they were older. This is the
dad dog theory.
Speaker 2 (14:46):
Mm hmmm, Yeah, she's got a bond with this kid.
I see what she's saying, though, because I feel like
a lot of times, when you have a kid, or
you know someone as a kid in the family, everyone
around them is expected to babysit. So she's probably just
saying like, I'm not gonna baby sit your child. You know,
when it's older and it is fun.
Speaker 3 (15:04):
Sure, I'll take it out for some dreams.
Speaker 2 (15:06):
Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 3 (15:08):
You could just say I don't want to babysit your kid.
Speaker 2 (15:10):
I don't I don't want a baby, I don't want
to see your kid.
Speaker 3 (15:13):
I remember my wife making a comment long lines of oh,
he's gonna love his auntie or you'll love him when
he gets here, or something like that. My sister just
laughed it off, but I saw the irritation in her eyes.
I talked to my wife that night and told her
that my sister was serious. I know her, and she
really doesn't like babies or small children's. I feel like
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answer to her, so we would have tried to force
her into an interaction much with her little one until
she's ready. We had a bit of a back and forth,
but the conversation basically ended with my wife saying, okay,
of course we won't force her. Fast forward a few months,
our baby boy is here. My sister showed up at
the hospital and brought us a balloon to show her support,
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but she didn't really interact much with or look at
our newborn, and she quickly left. My wife was too
distracted with doting on and loving our son to really notice.
Fast forward a few months when our son was five
months old and I planned to have a nice dinner
date for the two of us at a very exclusive restaurant,
a place she's always wanted to go that was always
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booked out. I surprised her with a reservation that I
had booked a few months in advance, around her birthday.
I thought it would be good for the both of
us to have a night out, take a quick breather
from parenthood, and reconnect as a couple. She was very
excited for it, and so was I. A few hours
before a reservation, however, our babysitter canceled.
Speaker 2 (16:37):
Dam that sucks. That's rough, all.
Speaker 3 (16:40):
Right, babysitter, You either find someone or you're paying for
my dinner.
Speaker 2 (16:43):
Yeah, I honestly, I feel like day of cancelation. You've
gotta find someone. Why are you canceling as a baby,
as a previous babysitter, Why are you canceling day of.
Speaker 3 (16:52):
He's twelve year olds acting like they run the world.
Speaker 2 (16:55):
Unbelievable.
Speaker 3 (16:56):
My wife frantically suggested we call my sister, since our
parents parents are both aged and not able to move
around much. I knew my sister was going to say no,
but my wife was very insistent. I tried calling a
few friends first, but everyone was busy or couldn't since
it was very last minute. Finally, after my wife insisted
some more, I called my sister. I told her what
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was going on, and of course I was right about
her answer. She said she was sorry, but she didn't
want to. I told my wife this. My wife asked
me if I could put her on speakerphone. I was hesitant.
After I put it on speaker, my wife shouted loudly
onto the phone, why won't you come watch your nephew?
Speaker 2 (17:37):
Yikes? Yikes, sister was awkward? Is like if in an
alternate world where Sam wouldn't want to take care of
my kids?
Speaker 3 (17:47):
Alternate You don't know about this world.
Speaker 2 (17:49):
No, he definitely would want to take care of my kids.
He'd be great, He's gonna be great uncle. But in
an alternate world where he doesn't want to take care
of my kids, I feel like it would be so
like I would be just so upset at my partner
if they like shouted at him after he told us
that he didn't, you know, after she said to them,
I don't want it, like I don't want to be
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a part of it. I'll be part of it later.
I don't do kids, blah blah blah blah. And then
and then she's like, put her on the phone, put
on the put her on speaker.
Speaker 3 (18:17):
She's really wanting some nice dinner time with you.
Speaker 2 (18:19):
Though, Like personally, personally it was me, I I would
be like, oh, you guys need help. I'm gonna help
you take care of the kids. That's my own personal thing.
I would help to take care of the kids. However,
she's made it very clear that she doesn't want any involvement,
So like, you gotta respect those wishes.
Speaker 3 (18:37):
You know what I would do? You know those uh
at police stations, those like baby things, baby drop offs, Yeah,
put in the baby, drop off, my god, and then
go on the date and then come back and be like,
oh my god, my baby, my baby.
Speaker 2 (18:52):
That's great advice.
Speaker 3 (18:54):
Hey, do you want to go the d You booked
it months ahead. What else are you sposed to do?
Nah was silent for a moment. She said she wasn't
comfortable or I've said why not, he's your nephew.
Speaker 2 (19:06):
Oh my goodness, girl.
Speaker 3 (19:07):
At this point I took her off the speakerphone and
till my sister I'd call her back. My wife was
hysterical and in tears. We didn't end up making the reservation.
Speaker 2 (19:15):
Clearly not.
Speaker 3 (19:17):
I tried to confront her by telling her that we
could still do something that weekend for her birthday, and
that I just rescheduled the reservation for whenever they were
next available. But she wasn't in a good mood for
a couple of days after this occurred, and I knew
at that point that she really disliked my sister. Yesterday
was a day that everything went south. I got a
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call from my sister saying that she needed to come
here to take her to the hospital. She was having emergency.
She lives less than ten minutes away. This was at
about eleven pm, baby and wife are asleep. I texted
my wife where I was going before I left, just
in case she woke up, and then I left, which
is important because during the stage sleep is very important
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for the wife, so you don't want to wake her up. Yeah,
everything went well. My sister is okay, but we didn't
get out of hospital around six am. When I got
home this morning, my wife, I first, didn't say a
thing to me. I asked her if she got my
messages throughout the night and if she was all right.
She didn't speak. I went to my office to work, Yes,
I work on Sundays, and about ten minutes later, she
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barged into the room and started yelling. She told me
that it's insane that I left her in the middle
of the night to go help someone that doesn't want
to help us. She said that if it was that
big of an emergency, my sister should have called an
ambulance and that I should have woken her up to
tell her first.
Speaker 2 (20:36):
Okay, well, okay, I The only thing that I kind
of agree with is the wake her up, because if
this is an emergency, even though she needs her sleep.
In terms of baby, I would have been like, hey,
I just found out this emergency thing. I need to go.
I'll be back, like, I'll be back when I can.
Speaker 3 (20:52):
I'll keep you updated.
Speaker 2 (20:53):
I probably would have woken her up.
Speaker 3 (20:55):
I don't know. If I knew my wife hasn't slept
solid for a minute, I probably would have let her
set some text and explained in the text, yeah, hey,
which I didn't wake you up because you really need
some sleep and I love you, but my sister.
Speaker 2 (21:08):
That's the only point I would give to the wife. Though.
On the other hand, I'm sorry you guys. Going to
a dinner is not an emergency.
Speaker 3 (21:15):
A booked out dinner, just wanted to go, and it's
birthday dinner.
Speaker 2 (21:19):
Yeah, really really sucks that you don't have anyone who
could like come. It's like that terrible I sat watch
your baby. So sad it's not an emergency, you know.
I would hope that if you were having an emergency
and you needed someone to watch this kid, your sister
would do it, because if she didn't, if you had
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an actual emergency and your sister said, no, I cannot
watch your child because I'm not a kid person, she's.
Speaker 3 (21:44):
The a Yeah, point blank, point blank.
Speaker 2 (21:46):
You didn't have an emergency. Your opie's sister was having
an emergency, and therefore op he needed to go help
them or help his sister.
Speaker 3 (21:55):
We went back and forth for a bit, but in
the end she told me that if I don't cut
my sister off, she doesn't know what will happen to
our relationship, Oh my goodness, and that I need to
prioritize our family.
Speaker 2 (22:06):
I really, I don't know.
Speaker 3 (22:09):
I don't like this. Probably the reason why the sister
was so adamant about not watching the babies because she
knew that you would make her babiesit your kid.
Speaker 2 (22:18):
No, I really feel like I would to have a
conversation with my wife and say like, hey, why are
you so adamant that specifically my sister needs to be
the one? You know when she told us and you
said that you agreed, So why why now are you
coming and say like did you never actually agree and
you were just trying to.
Speaker 3 (22:37):
Placate me, which is weird? Why all of a sudden
do we need to do this?
Speaker 2 (22:41):
Yeah, like, I'm not don't give me this weird ultimatum
just because you lied.
Speaker 3 (22:47):
I know she is still upset about what happened last month,
but to completely cut off my sister. I don't think
that that's at all an appropriate thing to do. All
my sister did was assert her boundaries. I won't lie.
I was hurt and a bit frustrated when we lost
our reservation, but I got over it because I've known
that my sister wouldn't want much to do with the
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baby for a while. I love my wife and my
family more than anything, but my sister is also one
of my loved family members. She's shown up in a
way to the baby shower and the birth, other than
when caring for the baby. My wife and I haven't
spoken much today, but I don't want things to continue
like this. I don't know how to approach the subject.
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She's still dealing with postpartum hormones.
Speaker 2 (23:30):
So yeah, I can definitely see that.
Speaker 3 (23:33):
So I understand she may be feeling on edge and
protective of the baby. But I feel like we should
address this sooner rather than later. I just want to
in a delicate, passionate way towards both of them. We
have some comments.
Speaker 2 (23:44):
Yeah, I think that I think your wife is definitely
going through some sort of like crimonal thing or like PbD,
and I don't know, like this is tough for her.
She's going through this big change of being coming among Yeah,
and I think that, like maybe, and I don't want to.
You know, I've never obviously been a parent, but I
think when you have your kid, you're like, this is
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the most important person in the world. Oh yeah, And
then someone else doesn't think that, and you're like, what,
you don't think my child's the most important thing in
the world.
Speaker 3 (24:14):
Yeah, you got a little bit of a god complex
going on. It is hard. If my brother said he
wouldn't watch my kid when I need them in a
clutch moment, that would be hard.
Speaker 2 (24:23):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (24:24):
And now I'm thinking if my sister in law said
that in a way, I'd probably be like, I don't
know how I feel about that.
Speaker 2 (24:31):
I definitely would. The problem is that.
Speaker 3 (24:34):
But I wouldn't cut them off. I would not cut
them off.
Speaker 2 (24:36):
The problem is that she told everyone to advance what
she wanted her role to be. And op knows this
about her and OPI's super understanding, but his wife just
seemed to think that she could convince her otherwise, and
that that's the issue. It's like she came into this
whole thing with the expectation that she could change Op's sister.
Speaker 3 (24:56):
Comment one, your wife is an a hole. Your sister
said she's had for you guys, but she's not comfortable
interacting or babysitting. Your wife is not entitled to your
sister's time and she shouldn't be stopping all over her boundaries.
Tell your wife that the way she treated your sister
was entitled and wrong. You will not be cutting off
your sister and your wife needs to grow up. Additionally,
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your sister wasn't the only person that said no to
this last minute request. Is your wife going to cut
out the multiple friends who declined that night? There's an
unfair double standard happening here. Otherwise, on top of crossing
your sister well established boundaries, comment to there was a
difference of priority between making a dinner reservation exactly needed
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to go to the hospital asap. One is about pleasure
and the other is about health. It sounds like your
wife never actually respected your sister's feelings about kids and
dismiss them because she obviously knew better, And now she's
trying to manipulate you to cut her off because the
sister isn't giving in to her demands. You are kind
of a fault for letting it go oh that far
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and calling your sister and putting her on speaker. She
had been very clear with you, but you still chose
to put her in this situation because you didn't feel
like standing up to your wife. It's time she understands
that just because she thinks something should take priority doesn't
mean others will see it that way, that your sister
has always been clear about it, and that she has
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done nothing out of character, that you don't see what
she's done as bad. You can ask for a favor
and the person you ask has a right to say
no for whatever reason. Otherwise you were not asking, you
were commanding, and none of you have that right to
order your sister and treat her time as your own,
even though it's what your wife wants you to do.
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She is not respecting your sister and looking very entitled.
Hope Hee response this comment gave me some perspective. I
kept thinking that perhaps my wife was having a hard
time understanding. She's very family oriented and always wanted children,
considers it her purpose in life, so maybe she couldn't
understand sister's point of view. At first, I explained it
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many times to her, and there were some instances where
she seemed to understand, but now looking back at it,
she didn't really get it. I think she thought once
the baby got here, everything would change and I'd be surprised,
so I shall upset that it didn't. I admit putting
sister in that situation was a thoughtless act. Wife was
just really pestering me. Anne was getting angry and angrier,
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and I felt very overwhelmed. So I gave in. Sister's
not a bad person, she's just not a kid person.
And that's the end of that story.
Speaker 2 (27:38):
I think, yeah, yeah, you knew going in. And I
think Ope is juggling this really hard, or is standing
between these two very difficult situation of knowing his sister
and knowing his wife and trying to manage both of
those personalities, which is a difficult position to be in.
But I think, ohp, he's doing his best.
Speaker 3 (27:58):
He's doing his best. It's not a fair place to be.
He knows what he has to say to his wife.
I think he's procrastinating.
Speaker 2 (28:07):
Absolutely, He's like, I really don't want to do that.
Speaker 3 (28:12):
Maybe procrastinate for a week.
Speaker 2 (28:14):
No, she said, she's like not even talking to him.
Maybe too then, dang, no, I think to talk to
your wife as soon as possible get this figured out.
Your sister's not going away, your wife's not going away,
and your kid's certainly not going away. So let's let's
work on this.
Speaker 3 (28:29):
If your wife is very family oriented, she probably needs
to see an act from the sister in a way. Yeah,
I guess it's reminded of that.
Speaker 2 (28:38):
I think it's it's how is your sister showing up
for you guys in other ways? Because I think that
it is one thing to say I'm not gonna be
there for your kid in like a nanny way, but
if she's not showing up for you guys or helping
you out in any ways because you don't have to.
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You don't have to be there for the kid in
the sense of like holding the kid, taking care of
the kid, et cetera. You can say like, hey, I
know you guys are going through a really you know,
big change right now. You know I made you dinner
one night, Like how are you showing up in other
ways if you can't show up in this way? Because
I think it's valid to say I can't show up
in this way. Yeah, but I don't know. I think
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I'm the kind of an active service person. So I'm like,
how else are you helping these people who are new parents?
Speaker 3 (29:26):
Yeah, but that's the end of that story. And we
got another sister combo coming up for you.
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Speaker 2 (29:36):
First, my sister's girlfriend is uncomfortable with me living with them.
Speaker 3 (29:40):
What do you can do by it?
Speaker 2 (29:41):
H twenty mail found myself in a bit of a
pickle recently. The apartment I was renting with my roommate, God,
it's rent jacked up by the landlord and neither of
us could afford to stay. He moved back in with
his parents, but my parents live too far away and
the rent in this city is incredibly expensive. Spend most
of my time studying and work only part time, but
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even then I've been getting far fewer hours because my
boss says he doesn't need me around that much. By
the way, this comes from maybe overstep to and if
you want to submit your own stories, go to the
r slash Okay storytime separate it. So my lovely sister
twenty six, female, whom I love more than anyone in
the world was kind enough to offer a helping hand.
She told me I could stay at her place free
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of charge for as long as I needed. I thought
this was incredibly kind of her, and I promised I
wouldn't stay a day longer than I had to. Oh,
this is great, Everything's fine. Dang. She basically told me
that it's my home as much as it is hers,
even though she pays for everything. I've tried my best
to insist she take rent for me to make it fair,
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but she refused, saying I should save up whatever money
I earn for myself. So I've been doing all the
chores like cleaning, shopping, and cooking. It's great living with her.
We're having so much fun, and I genuinely feel like
she enjoys me being here. That sibling living together is great. Woo.
Speaker 3 (31:04):
I had a good run for about a month or two. Yeah,
and then it ended with me doing all the dishes.
Speaker 2 (31:10):
Rough man, that sucks. Yeah. Sam doesn't cook enough to
have that.
Speaker 3 (31:14):
Many dishes to remember the nick cook?
Speaker 2 (31:16):
Oh where are these dishes coming from?
Speaker 3 (31:18):
I wasn't the best roommate either, But good for you.
I'm glad you're having a good experience.
Speaker 2 (31:22):
Yeah, I mean, Sam's not even here right now.
Speaker 3 (31:24):
He'll never be here, never here.
Speaker 2 (31:26):
Here's where I think I overstepped my boundaries. My sister
is by and she's had this lovely woman, twenty six
female as her partner for as long as I can remember,
maybe since graduating from high school. She's a really lovely person,
and I think my sister is really lucky to have her. Unfortunately,
marriage equality isn't legal yet in our country, but if
it ever is, I'm sure they would definitely get married.
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My sister's girlfriend I've known for quite a while. She's
really into video games and likes a lot of the
same movies and anime as me, so we've been good
friends for some time. I mean, you've known her since
your sister was an high school so yeah, makes sense.
We often game together or go to the movies together.
I know it's probably a bit weird going to the
movies just me and my sister's girlfriend. No, I don't
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think that's.
Speaker 3 (32:11):
Weird unless you're like I'm always hanging around my sister's
friends and I don't have any friends of mine own,
then I can see that being weird.
Speaker 2 (32:18):
But my sister really doesn't mind at all. And usually
they aren't the sort of movies that would interest her. Anyway,
she comes over to my sister's apartment quite a bit,
and I noticed something they never did when they were
together at our parents' house. They're really open with displays
of affection, and it's quite frequent. Like sometimes she'd be
over in the morning when I'm having breakfast and she
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and my sister would start making out in the kitchen,
touching each other and all that stuff. Okay, okay, that's
a little bit. That's a little too far.
Speaker 3 (32:49):
Now.
Speaker 2 (32:49):
I'm the farthest thing from a closet god you could
think of, and most straight guys would probably be turned
on by that site. Okay, it's your sister, it's your sister,
but this is my sister. So I feel incredibly put
off and uncomfortable when this happens. Yeah, okay, I don't
even think you needed to include that line.
Speaker 3 (33:08):
Well, he's being real.
Speaker 2 (33:11):
Guys, it's your sister, it's your sister.
Speaker 3 (33:14):
Being real. Here he's saying that there's public affair display
of two women. One is my sister. I don't know
how to feel about it. What am I supposed to do?
That's what he's basically.
Speaker 2 (33:25):
He says he feels about it.
Speaker 3 (33:27):
He feels he does feel uncomfortable by it because he
knows what is making it feel inside. This is between
the lines, Sophie said. Most between the lines.
Speaker 2 (33:36):
He said, most trade guys would probably be turned on
by this. But I feel incredibly put off and uncomfortable.
Speaker 3 (33:42):
He's just he's adding that in there. Riley, I'm I, okay,
just denying the truth. Then ew I think it's gross too.
I'm just reading doing lives. This guy doesn't know how
to deal with it.
Speaker 2 (33:56):
Okay, that's his sister. And also I feel like, personally,
if anyone was doing this, I would get uncomfortable.
Speaker 3 (34:03):
Yeah, if it's like two goldfish kissing any anything, anything,
two turtles doing it, keep it in doing it.
Speaker 2 (34:10):
Okay, everyone's seen that video. But anyway, I often tried
to leave the room when they get all lovey dovey together.
But when I'm having breakfast at the table, usually all
I can do is stare down at the table and
pretend I'm not there, and it could go on for minutes.
Speaker 3 (34:25):
Sag. The cereal is so good, dude, Ope, you're missing
it man, anytime they do No, you're not even letting
me finish.
Speaker 2 (34:34):
You said, you're missing it, missing.
Speaker 3 (34:36):
Out on a great opportunity to play any song you
want to during that moment, So they'll stop. She will
be coming, okay, anything to turn off the move.
Speaker 2 (34:49):
Oh, I just be like, ew, gross, there you go. Yeah,
you can just.
Speaker 3 (34:56):
In you. You don't have to sit there and let
it happen. Dude.
Speaker 2 (34:59):
My brother was making out with his girlfriend in front
of me. I'd be like, stop, you.
Speaker 3 (35:06):
Get a room, man, get a room.
Speaker 2 (35:08):
That's that's what I would do. So here's where I
think I overstepped my bounds. I approached my sister in
a really polite manner, requested that she'd be more aware
of my presence. I told her I have nothing against them,
but she's my sister, so naturally i'd feel uncomfortable seeing
her in that situation. Constantly. I asked if she could
just be aware of my presence and maybe tone it
down when I'm in the same room. She instantly agreed
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and thought she should have thought of that earlier. Honestly,
I feel like maybe girlfriend is the is the instigator
of this, you know, like of all the the not
in like a oh, her brothers. I think it's like
a I think she's the more touchy one, and that's
probably why I op's sister didn't really think of it,
because she's kind of like, oh yeah or yeah, sure,
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wis I offered to get out of the apartment way
more often than I do. I already often take time
out to go to the library at university and study
during the night, or just go watch a movie on
my own during the weekend, so that my sister and
her girlfriend can have the entire apartment to themselves. So
kind of you. I do take precautions to make sure
I'm not constantly in the way of their relationship, but
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I also acknowledge that because of the situation, there are
some times where I'm gonna be unable to help being around.
And your sister should recognize that she has offered you
a place to stay kind of indefinitely, and you're doing
chores or open out and stuff. She was to take
that back, Yeah, she can't, just kind of she can
start a conversation with you anyway. After I had that
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conversation with my sister, the next morning, her girlfriend was
over as usual. Her girlfriend leaned into kiss her, but
my sister backed away and told her, I think we
shouldn't do that stuff when my brother's around. It makes
him feel weird. No, no, no, no.
Speaker 3 (36:49):
No, man, No, I was not executed so poorly at all.
Speaker 2 (36:55):
This is what you do. You take your girlfriend aside,
not when she about to kiss you take her, take
her side, call her up, text her. I don't care
you say. Hey, I talked to my brother. He was
feeling a little bit uncomfortable, like when we do a
lot of PDA, if we could just tone it down
or you know, like give him a little bit of
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just be a little respectful of his presence. Yeah, that's
the conversation we have. We don't go, oh, sorry, my
brother thinks it's weird. That sounds like he's homophobic.
Speaker 3 (37:27):
Yeah, or also like, oh he gets turned off by
his sister kissing other girls.
Speaker 1 (37:32):
No, it's not at all.
Speaker 3 (37:34):
No.
Speaker 2 (37:34):
I instantly apologized and left the kitchen. No, oh, he's
the bad guy. But my sister still insisted that it
was weird doing it when I was nearby.
Speaker 3 (37:43):
Dude, not nearby.
Speaker 2 (37:45):
Her girlfriend seemed pretty pissed off by the whole thing,
but silently accepted it. I could tell she blamed me
and felt I was in the way of the relationship.
I regretted having brought it up with my sister since
I'm a guest in her home. The thing is that
you're not really a guest, like you live there. You're
her roommate. She is very kindly allowing you to live there.
But like, I feel like there is a difference between
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a person who's visiting for the day, you know, like
that type of guest, and a roommate who you are
very kindly allowing to live there. And it is a
different situation than like a roommate who's paying. Of course,
I feel like.
Speaker 3 (38:19):
It's a situation of til you get back on your feet,
not roommate. I don't think that they're a roommate necessarily.
Speaker 2 (38:26):
I think I think he's a roommate. I think it's
like I think it is different than a roommate pays,
Like he's not on that level. But I think that
like when you're there for kind of an indefinite amount
of time and you've offered to pay, and you're doing
all that chores and stuff, I feel like it is
different than just a guest.
Speaker 3 (38:42):
Yeah, And then at that point, if I was ope,
I thought would go to you know, my sister's girlfriend.
Speaker 2 (38:49):
I did not mean it that way, just like I
love you guys, but it's just like I felt a
little comfortable with the PDA.
Speaker 3 (38:56):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (38:57):
After a few days, her partner seemed to have let
it go, and I was trying to make myself scarce
as much as possible to give them space and privacy.
Her partner was being nice to me again and the
coldness seemed to have disappeared. We were sitting in the
apartment playing video games in the afternoon when my sister
came home from work around the usual time, and like
she always does, she gave me a hug and a kiss,
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like she does every day. Her girlfriend instantly fumed and
started lashing out at her, telling her it was unfair
she was still kissing and hugging me in front of her,
but she wouldn't do anything with her if I was
in the same apartment. I tried to stay silent, but
it escalated into a pretty big argument. At first, her
girlfriend started lashing out at my sister, but then she
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directly turned to me and started blaming it on me,
saying I was interfering in their personal life and I
had no place to When her girlfriend lashed out at me,
my sister got really angry with her girlfriend and started
shouting back and defending me, saying it was not my idea,
but hers and I had done nothing wrong and she
shouldn't dare say a word against me. I ever seen
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my sister angry like that before. She's normally such a calm,
lovely person. And not only was she really angry, but
angry at the woman she loved. And again again, the
sister's not quite getting it because she's having this very loud,
aggressive argument in front of her brother, which is on
a difference, you know, on the opposite spectrum, but is
(40:21):
the same thing as having a bunch of PDA in
front of your brother.
Speaker 3 (40:25):
The intention from the sister seems good, but it's just
the way she goes about.
Speaker 2 (40:30):
It is It's like, you guys, keep involving your brother
in the very intimate parts of your relationship, like aggressive
arguments and like PDA, and it's like all he's asking
is just wait a time out of the room.
Speaker 3 (40:43):
Please let me finish my cereal start nacking out.
Speaker 2 (40:47):
I just stayed silent, and after her girlfriend had left,
I apologize to my sister. She insisted I had nothing
to apologize for, but I feel incredibly guilty still and
know deep down that the whole thing my fault. It's
not your girlfriend. Sorry. Your sister's girlfriend is going to
blame it on you because that's how it was kind
of told to her, But it really is just your girlfriend. Sorry.
(41:11):
Your sister's girlfriend and your sister have bad communication skills, yeah,
and don't really know how to differentiate between what is
public and what is private. And also that you know
it could be like she felt like she had to
hide it a little bit with uh when she was
living with your guys' parents and feels a little bit
more comfortable around the space. But regardless, she really needs
(41:34):
to understand that it is different now that you are
living with her, and if she can't do that, if
it doesn't work, then she has to let you know
that you can't live with her. Yeah, but she can't
do this while you are here, and she's saying it's
fine that you're here. I massively overstep my bounds where
I shouldn't have. You really didn't and now may have
caused a rift in my sister's relationship. I hate myself
(41:55):
right now for what happened, and I'm feeling incredibly stupid.
And guilty. Wish there was some way to help, but
I'm worried anything I say or do could unintentionally make
things worse. And there is an update.
Speaker 3 (42:06):
Folks, Oh my goodness, but what do you think It
also sounds like there's a layer beneath just the PDA. Yeah,
op asked the sister, Hey, I don't want you to
do anything while I'm like can physically see you.
Speaker 2 (42:20):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (42:21):
The sister took it as, oh, you look for us
anything near us, even if you're in the same apartment
in us, I'm not gonna do it.
Speaker 2 (42:27):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (42:28):
And maybe this is just like my hypothetical thing. Maybe
the sister actually isn't okay with the PDA, found an
excuse for it, and is now using that anytime her
girlfriend's around. And then her girlfriend gets upset at the
sister because she wants to, you know, be a physical,
be affectionate, but she's not having it because, oh her
(42:49):
the excuse is here. Maybe there's a little bit more
there than just the brother.
Speaker 2 (42:53):
No, I agree. I think oftentimes when you have like
people who are like really PDA, there is one person
who's someone not saying that, Like, it's not like both
of them doing it. But like you have one person
who is maybe more of an instigator. Yeah, and maybe
she's realizing Oh yeah, my brother brought it up. Oh
I am a little bit more self conscious of it now.
Speaker 3 (43:09):
Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (43:11):
But there is an update, folks, Hey, John Ogi hoist here.
Speaker 3 (43:14):
We're gonna get back to this episode. But a quick
three minute break of ads from a sponsor's keeping the
show alive.
Speaker 2 (43:19):
Unfortunately, my sister and her girlfriend broke up. Dude, that's
not your fault. Yeah, however, it was not my fault.
It's not your fault. Oh they were having Yeah, they
were having so many more problems. If all it took
for them to break up was you been like, hey,
can you cool it? And they were like, how dare you? Yeah,
your sister had a lot of other problems in that relationship. Yeah,
(43:43):
it seems they've had some problems for a while. I
just haven't known anything about it. I had a talk
with my sister about what I had said. I basically
told her that when I asked her to tone it down,
I didn't mean to avoid any form of physical contact
with her girlfriend, just to avoid the over the intense stuff.
I pointed out how I'd noticed they had suddenly got
so cold and frosty with each other, and I hoped
(44:05):
she wasn't taking my polite request too far. She told
me it wasn't my fault at all. They had some
issues for a while. I just didn't know about it. Honestly,
I was surprised because they'd been together for so long
and they always seemed like the perfect couple. They were
always so happy and so much in love around each other.
My sister told me she loves her girlfriend so much,
(44:27):
but there are two sides to her. There is the
side of her that is really loving and caring and kind,
but there's the other side where she is sometimes overly possessive, controlling,
and demanding, which honestly might be why there is so
much PDA, because it's kind of like that asserting dominance
thing of like, oh God, I want it. It seems
there's an ongoing communication problem. I called that. I saw
(44:51):
it where whenever my sister denies her something, their girlfriend
gets angry and demanding, and this sometimes escalates into fights.
They always make up, and the girlfriend always ends up
apologizing and saying she's sorry and loves her, which is
why they've never broken up. Ooh, yeah, not great. Yikes,
a little love bombing, Yeah, yeah, absolutely no, Yeah, it's
(45:15):
you know, you have this big fight and then she's like, no,
I'm sorry, I love you, and blah blah blah. I
told her I had no idea about all of this.
There's a lot that I don't know. I told my
sister that this sounds serious and if this is a
real problem, she needs to have a serious talk with
her girlfriend or end things if she's not listening, my
sister said she entirely agreed, but was herself scared of
(45:37):
the outcome. I told her I'd always have her back.
She asked me if i'd maybe say something to her
girlfriend about it, since I was good friends with her
and me game often together. I told her maybe I could,
but I think this is something she needs to address herself. Absolutely,
don't do that. Do not talk to her girlfriend about that.
Speaker 3 (45:57):
That's that is not that Yeah, how about it.
Speaker 2 (46:01):
That's crossing the line for sure. Yeah, yikes, Yeah, that
would see, that's probably why they have problems in the relationship.
Speaker 3 (46:10):
That is, I don't know. I can't imagine that. Does
she not have enough friends outside of this? Yeah, that's
my other question.
Speaker 2 (46:17):
Well, I wonder if the girlfriend has been pretty controlling
about who she can and can't be friends with and
maybe monopolizing her time.
Speaker 3 (46:24):
Oh yeah.
Speaker 2 (46:25):
A few days later, I was at home playing games
with my sister's girlfriend while my sister was at work.
The girlfriend said to me, it doesn't really bother you
that much when your sister and I kiss, does it?
Speaker 1 (46:36):
What?
Speaker 2 (46:37):
And I don't really think it's your place to get
in between our relationship. You're just a guest in her home.
Speaker 3 (46:43):
Ooh ooh.
Speaker 2 (46:45):
I told her. I agreed and didn't say much else
and just steered away from the topic. Stop trying to
evolve Opee Cross. Like literally, they're both trying to get
Ope to be this kind of like mediator in their
relationship or just kind of scapegoat. Like on Op's sister's side.
She wants them to be the mediator, and then the
(47:06):
girlfriend wants him to be the scapegoat. And it's like,
I just don't even want to be involved.
Speaker 3 (47:09):
I don't want to be here.
Speaker 2 (47:10):
I just I just want to be in the library.
That's it.
Speaker 3 (47:13):
I just want to eat my frosted flakes without my
sister making back out, That's all I ask. Also, I
think the girlfriend's or sister's girlfriend wants to be around
yeah with the brother playing video games so she can
still have an end.
Speaker 2 (47:25):
When my sister came home, she said hi to us.
It was a much colder high to her girlfriend than
to me. She came up gave me a hug and
a kiss from behind as usual. Her girlfriend quickly got
upset and stood up, demanding to know why she showed
such affection towards me but not towards her, and it
escalated into an argument. Yikes. My sister gave me a
(47:46):
look and I knew she was going to break up
with her. She gave me the keys to her car
and told me to go to the shops and watch
a movie or something. Go out, come back later.
Speaker 3 (47:55):
Here's twenty bucks.
Speaker 2 (47:56):
Here's twenty bucks by yourself. Something nice. I went out
alone for the to the night, mostly sitting in the
movie theater until quite late. I got a text from
my sister asking why I was out for so long,
and that she didn't mean for me to be gone
that long. Oh be, He's like, I didn't even want
to chance it.
Speaker 3 (48:12):
Yeah, she's think you both take things too far.
Speaker 2 (48:15):
I got home and saw she was crying pretty badly.
They had broken up as expected. Apparently, it wasn't nice.
I can't imagine it would be. I did what I
could to make her feel better, and we talked things over.
I had really thought the relationship was the one, but
it seemed not. Not everything is meant to be, and
there was a lot that I apparently didn't know about it.
(48:36):
It was all happy and perfect on the outside, but
it seemed there were huge tensions on the inside. Since
her girlfriend was over at my sister's apartment quite often,
there was some of her stuff there. My sister asked
me to take it back to her since she didn't
want to see her again. She said I should do
it since I'm her friend, and she told me I
could still be friends with her and game with her
if I wanted to. Their breakup shouldn't affect that. I
(48:59):
feel like this is how she treated Ope, he should
affect it.
Speaker 3 (49:02):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (49:03):
I drove some of the stuff back to her ex
girlfriends the next day and I had a brief chat
with her.
Speaker 3 (49:07):
Oh my gosh, dude, stopped talking to her. Dude, you dude,
you don't understand where you are to her, You're you're
the bait. On the end, of a fishing look, and
you keep no, you keep going up to the earth,
so you could become the bait.
Speaker 2 (49:19):
I've had to do this before with like a ex
friend when they broke up with their partner. I had
to go bring stuff to the partner and they were
just downstairs, so it wasn't like a whole you know,
enough to drive, but I had to go down. So
I'm like having a conversation with the ex friend yeah,
and hearing them cry about it, and then I had
to go downstairs. And then also that partner started because
(49:43):
I was kind of friends with them before. Yeah, And
so then they're complaining about it to me, and I'm like, dude,
why stop, don't put me in this.
Speaker 3 (49:51):
Don't put me in this. I had to do this
to a to my ex's friend. I was kind of close,
not really kind of close, but I hung out with
her a lot and she was going Atlanta to see
her again, and I gave her back all the stuff
and I gave her like, I gave her a big
hug and was like, all right, give this to her
because I wasn't able to get my ex a big
hug before we broke up, because I thought I was
gonna see her again. And then I gave her back
(50:13):
the little lego piece she got me, so take care
of it. She's like, you don't want it. I'm like,
I'm good, and then I lotted a lot of weight
by that time. She's like, oh you look great. I
was like, good, Okay, tell excellent.
Speaker 2 (50:25):
You don't have to tell anyone.
Speaker 3 (50:26):
That Actually, don't tell anyone that.
Speaker 2 (50:28):
Don't tell anyone. She was also quite upset, and I
just basically said, I'm really sorry the way things turned out.
She apologized for trying to blame me for some of
the deep seated problems they had. We both agreed, even
though we're good friends, we should stay apart for a
long while now because of the breakup.
Speaker 3 (50:47):
You guess they're good friends.
Speaker 2 (50:48):
But there is a little bit left do this story.
Do you have any final thoughts?
Speaker 3 (50:52):
This is just this is tough. This is a tough one.
I feel like your sister has already kind of made
up her mind and was just done with the whole thing.
Speaker 2 (51:01):
Yeah. I think she was just finding excuses to distance
herself from her girlfriend.
Speaker 3 (51:06):
Yes, and it wasn't tough for the sister. It's just
awkward for.
Speaker 2 (51:09):
You to be Yeah, to be the excuse.
Speaker 3 (51:12):
But I will say, probably earned yourself another three months stay.
Speaker 2 (51:16):
Yeah, now, there's nothing, there's nothing that's preventing you from staying. Oh,
good luck, Opie, and I hope that you You know
your room situation is okay.
Speaker 3 (51:27):
I hope so too, But there's a little left.
Speaker 2 (51:29):
My sister thanked me for my help. She's still pretty
upset even now, obviously. I mean they've been dating since
high school, so, but it's expected when you have a
major breakup from such a huge relationship. I didn't pry
too much or ask for any gossip or info that
wasn't freely given to me by her. I told her
I'll work on finding a place to move to, but
she said purely and honestly that she would rather I
(51:50):
stay in her apartment for the time being. Yeah, she
probably wants the comfort. She's like, I have no d
and I'm alone. Please stay with me.
Speaker 3 (51:57):
You ever stay with her, or she's gonna adopt kittens. Yeah,
all at once.
Speaker 2 (52:01):
She said she's going through a major emotional trauma and
really need someone to rely on and a confidant to
always speak to and be there for her so she
doesn't feel alone and helpless, and she'd be happy if
I stayed there for the time being. I told her
I'd be happy with that too. Oh. I've been doing
most of the cooking, shopping, and house chores for the
past few days while my sister's been sulking in bed
(52:24):
or on the couch. I think she might have even
caught a cold or something oof rough. But I'm happy
to help in whatever way I can. I called my
parents and told them what had happened. They were pretty upset.
They didn't know how bad things were either, and offered
to help in whatever way they can, although they're both
far away. Aw, that's good. It's good that she has
this really great support system in her family.
Speaker 3 (52:46):
Mm hmm. Everyone's pitching in helping out.
Speaker 2 (52:48):
I love that.
Speaker 3 (52:49):
I could see myself doing that for my sister and
my brother got broken up with I'm just getting pizza, like,
you'll be fine.
Speaker 2 (52:55):
That's what you did for me. I got you pizza,
but no, I just supporting me. Oh you were just
you were good support.
Speaker 3 (53:01):
I remember getting did get you pizza you're talking about
talking about?
Speaker 2 (53:06):
Nah?
Speaker 3 (53:06):
Yeah, you gotta be there and you come by whenever. Oh, thanks,
five minutes away.
Speaker 2 (53:11):
Yeah, I've already come over once you have you have yeah, yeah,
maybe Sunday.
Speaker 3 (53:15):
Cool, I'll be round perfect. All right, Well that's the
end of this episode. Uh, reach out to your sibling,
tell them, love them. Tell them that if hypothetically you
stayed with them and they said that it was okay
for free, and then you told them to stop being
PDA with their significant other and then they broke up,
that you would be there for them. He would be there.
Speaker 2 (53:35):
Tell him that if you're calling them that specific thing. Yeah,
but folks, that's the end of that story and the
end of this episode. So if you love us, make
sure to subscribe.
Speaker 3 (53:46):
We love you and see you tomorrow.
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