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Speaker 1 (00:14):
My stepsister and I fought constantly as kids. Now she
wants to reconcile sounds fishy to me. My mom passed
away when I was six, and my dad remarried when
I was nine. The woman he married had a daughter
one year younger than me, so she was eight. By
the way, this comes from One Last Time seventeen thirteen
on the Okay Storytime subured it so. At first I

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loved having a new mom. She wasn't the best and
will never replace my real mom, but I appreciate her
trying to be there for me, and I am pretty
close with her and my dad. At first, I loved
having a sister and we got along great. I loved
having a playmate during vacations and always having a play
or two. The problems really started to amp up when

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I was thirteen and she was twelve. It seemed like
no matter what I did when unpunished in her eyes,
and she had to mock me constantly being a hot
headed thirteen year old usually meant I'd retaliate and we
would have those long, screaming matches till either of our
parents told us to knock it off, or they would
send up to different parts of the house to cool off.

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I also started playing football in high school, and my
problem was that I was constantly getting injured. In eight
years eleven to eighteen, I broke my arm pinky wrist,
got two concussions, tore my ACL, sprained my MCL, and
dislocated my shoulder. Maybe that's a sign that you should
stop playing football.

Speaker 4 (01:36):
Usually people stop after an aco dang.

Speaker 1 (01:39):
On top of all that, I was kind of chubby.
I don't want to say I was fat. I was
about one hundred and eighty to two ten from the
ages of fourteen to eighteen at six two okay, probably
like all.

Speaker 4 (01:49):
Like like your football player, Yeah, I'm six one and
one hundred eighty.

Speaker 1 (01:53):
Yeah, so it's like he's probably like called blake muscle.

Speaker 5 (01:56):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (01:57):
She used to make fun of me for my injuries
and my weight, which were very touchy subjects for me.
Her favorite insult was you fat, cripple loser.

Speaker 4 (02:04):
She could have been way more clever, just saying that's
just mean. Yeah, that's me, and she could have been
way funnier too.

Speaker 1 (02:09):
Yeah that was just like bam bam bam ouch or
maybe if you lost some weight you wouldn't get injured
so often. Back then, those insults really pissed me off,
but I kept trying to be the older brother and
just told her to shut up, fight back, or storm off.
She also loved to embarrass me when friends were over
by bringing up dumb stuff I did when I was
like nine or ten. My friends are great people, but

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we tease each other a lot and would usually remember
anything embarrassing we did and bring it up later, so
whatever she said to them would always get back. I
did talk with her if she could just shut up
when I have my friends over, and she basically told
me to f off and that it's her house too.
At this point in my life, sixteen years old, I
am super pissed at how crappy she's treated me over

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the years.

Speaker 4 (02:51):
She's just being a sister, a bad one. You didn't
do this, I know.

Speaker 1 (02:54):
I cause some if and usually fought back when she
got snippy and bratty at me. But to me she
started more fights than I did. I did try to
talk to my dad and stepmom about the way me
and her treat each other, and they basically said it's
normal sibling rivalry. I don't think that's a normal sibling.
It goes beyond me and.

Speaker 4 (03:11):
Brother didn't really have a relationship until I started driving
and we spent more time together.

Speaker 1 (03:15):
Yeah, her antics got a lot worse and her words
gotten more and more mean filled and vile, which meant
I would retaliate with just as mean and vile filled insults.
I will not sit here and say I wasn't just
as mean to her as she was to me. I
used to bully her relentlessly for these hair buns she
would wear from thirteen to fourteen. If you want a picture,
just look up. The buns lay a war from Star Wars.

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I also told her plenty of times that I hate
her and don't consider her family. I have apologized so
much for those two because I feel bad. Even though
she hasn't apologized, I know she feels bad too. I
bet there were some other moments, but they didn't happen
to me, so I probably forgot them. I moved out
when I was eighteen, without ever sending her a text
message goodbye or even telling her I was moving out

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the past five years of unpleasantness between us made me
happy that I didn't have to see her. A year later,
she moved out, and I still resented her for how
we treated each other. We go almost two years without
speaking other than on holidays, and that's really only dry stuff,
nothing big. I am now twenty one and she's twenty
and I got a text the other night asking why

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we aren't close like we were when we were kids.
I basically said, I don't care to get along with
you or get close because of how we treated each
other as kids.

Speaker 3 (04:27):
She told me to grow up, you grow up be
close with me.

Speaker 1 (04:29):
Now she's like, why aren't you close to me? And
he's like, well, we weren't close, and she's like.

Speaker 3 (04:33):
Grow up, come on, let's do it.

Speaker 1 (04:35):
And not even an hour later, I get a call
from my dad asking why I have so much hate
for my sister in quotes years since we have lived together.
I told him I'll be cordial and I won't cut
her out of my life, but I don't need or
want to be close with her. How do I go
about telling her that I don't want us to be
close yet until we both want to be close, but

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leaving the door open for her not to resent me
and we can still love each other at it. I
would like to point out that I was just as
mean to my stepsister. I don't have examples because it's
been five years and didn't stick with me like hers did,
but our fighting growing up did go both ways. Edit too.
Some people have said that I shouldn't cut her out
of my life, and I agree with that. I love
her and want to be there for her, but I

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don't like her enough to be close with her. And
Edit three I added more to the story of how
I was crappy to her too, and there is an
editor's note. Opie was voted not the ale, and there
are some relevant comments and an updates. But before we
get into that, what do you think Opie should do?

Speaker 4 (05:32):
He's right, they should not like pursue healthy relationship until
he's ready for it, because she may be, but she's
still a child and she wants something out of him.
That's what I want to know.

Speaker 1 (05:44):
Yeah, No, that is a good question. Yeah, maybe she's
like trying to get something out of this. I do
think that it's going to hurt your relationship more in
the long run if you force it when you're not ready. Yeah,
but I think it seems like you both. I mean,
she wants it out, but like you down the line
seem to want it. So you both want it eventually,
maybe just like slowly. It doesn't have to happen as fast,
like maybe it's just like talking to each other at

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holidays first, like having actual conversations. Yeah, but there are
some relevant comments Opie when told maybe his sister matured
and changed honestly, Opie says, I do want a relationship
at some point with her, but some insults are a
bit too fresh and could still hurt. I also want
to explore life without being bogged down with a friendship
I don't want with a person I wouldn't like In

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due time, I would like there to be a close
bond between us, just not yet. And don't get me wrong,
I love her and if she needed me, I'd be
there in a second, but I don't want to really
have that let's go get drinks any buddies type of
relationship at this point. I hope she knows that if
any dude tried to harass her, I'd be on him
in the second I remembered I knocked the daylights out
of a dude who slapped her butt when we were

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at the beach. So it's like, only I could be
mean to you. If she ever needed to talk to
me about advice, of course i'd be there for her.
Just don't think I want that super close relationship yet,
and I would love a super close relationship with you.
You guys, where you watch episodes of stories like this
on Spotify, on Apple Podcasts or any of your podcast apps.

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Just search up Okay, start time. Yeah, and there is
a little bit more to this story. There's an update,
but any final thoughts to finish us all.

Speaker 4 (07:16):
He's not ready yet and I appreciate his emotional maturity
to admit that I agree.

Speaker 1 (07:22):
But there is an update. After our text commo that
led to my dad calling me asking what's wrong between us,
I texted her about a meetup at my place. This
was the first time we actually met Slash hung out
outside of the family gathering before she came over. That
realization gave me a new look on our relationship. The
whole sit down went well. We actually got along and

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there wasn't any name calling or anything neat. We talked
about how we treated each other, and this was the
first time I've ever heard her apologize for how she
treated me growing up, and I did the same. We
talked about how the text commo went and I came
to the conclusion that I still had the old image
of how she was when I last saw her at seventeen,
and was using that to picture her now. She still

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kind of acts the same kind of moody, but can
hold it in so much better now. But it's a
lot better. We talked it out and spent about half
the day together just hanging out, and I'll admit I
enjoyed it. I don't think we'll ever be super duper close,
but it's a step in the right direction and there
isn't a wall of tension between us anymore. Thank you
all for the advice in comments. It really came in

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handy and I all right, And there are some final
comments deleted. Says I'm really envious but extremely proud of you.
Up until now, I still can't make things right between
my big system me, but that's okay. Maybe we just
need to mature and talk it out. Opie says, give
her a shot, Invite her to a coffee meetup. That's
what we did, and it really helped make sure it's

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public so things can't escalate to an actual screaming match.
And that is the end of that story. But it
seems like Opie's got on the path to working in
it very amicable. Yeah, it seems like they're gonna figure
it out, and I appreciate that. But that is the
end of that story.

Speaker 4 (09:00):
My sister went hostile at her own wedding because I
revealed I'm already married.

Speaker 1 (09:05):
I don't understand. I need more information now.

Speaker 4 (09:09):
I am a twenty seven year old woman who is
married to another man who is twenty eight at the
time I am writing this. Our family is relatively accepting
of us, even though it can be awkward depending on
the person, and the two of us have been married
for four months. By the way, this comes from warm
document seventy nine on the r slash Okay story Tom Sawbredditt. So,
my older sister, who I will be calling amy for

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the sake of mine and my family's privacy, has always
been very accepting of my relationship and has very openly
supported me for years. Anne was the one to help
me come out to the rest of the family called
it cool. About a year ago, my sister got engaged
to a man I will be referring to as Mark.
He is also a very nice man, has never treated

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me or my husband rudely at any point in the
six years we've known each other prior to their engagement.
My sister, however, slowly began treating me differently after she
started planning the wedding. For example, she wants me to
take off my wedding ring when I walk her down
the aisle to hand her off to the groom. Our
father passed away three years ago, which is why I'm

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doing this part. And she wants her husband to be
to remove my husband from his list of groomsmen because
it would simply be too distracting, whatever that means.

Speaker 1 (10:25):
I hate that because she says that she's an ally,
but she doesn't want anyone else to know.

Speaker 4 (10:31):
I told her, no, I will not be taking off
my wedding ring to walk her down the aisle, but
I will be willing to compromise and wear gloves while
I hand her off and during the ceremony and take
them off for the reception. Safe to say, she freaked out.
She told me word for word that if I wore
my wedding ring and saw a matching one on my

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husband's finger, then people would ask about it and take
the spotlight oh bay from her. I reiterated my point.
I won't take it off, but I will cover her
with gloves, silk ones that people will wear with tuxedos,
sometimes not medical ones in case my husband was willing
to as well, and if it bothered her that much,

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then we'll cover it up during the reception too. For
about three months, she left it at that, and she agreed,
even though that she was all huffy about it. Now
four to about a week before the wedding, I had
been helping her plan multiple aspects of her wedding alongside
her bridesmaid and made of honor, such as helping her
decide on what cake design, what flavors she liked best,

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or what color scheme would look nice for her beach
wedding and so on. She hasn't let me see the dress,
which would be fine if it wasn't for the snide
comment she made about me possibly stealing the dress for myself.
I was confused and asked, why on earth I do that,
considering the fact I'm happily married.

Speaker 3 (11:55):
I crap you not. She told me word for word, Well,
since you're you.

Speaker 4 (11:59):
Know, one a am.

Speaker 1 (12:01):
I thought it might be some.

Speaker 4 (12:03):
Weird cross dressing fetish or something.

Speaker 1 (12:06):
She's so oh my god, this is the least supportive person.

Speaker 4 (12:12):
I didn't even know what to say, so I just
walked out of there.

Speaker 3 (12:15):
Ah dang, that's so tough.

Speaker 4 (12:17):
On the day of the wedding, everything goes smoothly. I
walk her down the aisle and take my seat, and
the ceremony went smoothly. During the reception, me and my
husband were by the food area I don't know the
exact name of it in English, bear with me, and
the mother of the groom, who neither me or my
husband knew very well at all, approached us and began

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talking to us before promptly and rather aburtly, asking if
my husband and I were married. I promptly said yes
and quickly redirected the conversation to something else. I'm not
ashamed of my same marriage in any way, shape or form,
but I'd rather not discuss the details of it with
someone who might as well be a stranger, and certainly

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not someone else's wedding. My sister hears this and quite
literally storms over and screams at me for making her
wedding about.

Speaker 1 (13:08):
Me, thus creating a scene.

Speaker 3 (13:11):
My wedding, this is all about me. Don't you dare
talk about yourself?

Speaker 4 (13:15):
This is crazy Why she's so jealous? One Two she
knows marriage is about to fill and doesn't want someone
who is happily married to be talking because she's.

Speaker 1 (13:27):
And she's like, wow, Op and his husband are having
the best time. They're having a great life. And she's like,
if anyone knows that, then they'll think that his marriage
is better than mine.

Speaker 4 (13:37):
Let me cook here, Let me cook here. Sam dropped
this crazy quote on me and said, the same amount
of happiness you are on a plane to your destination
is what you will have on the destination. So like,
if you're like moderately happy on the plane, you're gonna
be moderately happy at the place you're going.

Speaker 1 (13:52):
What if there's like a baby crying, I still.

Speaker 4 (13:54):
Think that that should show what kind of person you are.
Even if there is something mildly annoying, that should then
reflect how you feel in those high moments here. Anyways,
what I'm trying to say here is that I think
the sister may have put a lot of emphasis on
this day and not the reason.

Speaker 1 (14:09):
She's saying, Oh, this is about.

Speaker 4 (14:10):
Me, about me and all the things. I think is
why her marriage won't last, because she's not like all,
this is the reason I'm getting married.

Speaker 1 (14:15):
She is about you as a couple, and it's not
about you putting down other people, which you are.

Speaker 4 (14:21):
She tells me how it was ridiculous of me to
have trying to make it all about me, and that
this is what she was afraid of me asking this
about myself and my marriage and saying that she never
truly loved me, and that I was a insert slur
and so was my husband, and she was just trying
to be nice to me, that I was her baby.

Speaker 1 (14:42):
I think she's she's a terrible person and a hater,
and she does not deserve up in.

Speaker 4 (14:48):
Front of all of your family. That's ridiculous. I would
never cut her off. After a lot of yelling and
quite a few hurtful words, if I may say so,
she literally drags me and my husband out of her
recept and storms off, my husband and I both quite hurt,
leaving without saying a word. As of now, my entire
family is mad at me for not being very thoughtful

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at my sister's wedding and blocked me, and I am
unable to explain myself to anyone. If there are any
further changes, I will be updating this post. We got
an update.

Speaker 1 (15:19):
I'm so sorry. That's really hard.

Speaker 4 (15:21):
Like I said, whoever hears the news first, they.

Speaker 1 (15:23):
Believe Yeah, that's really hard. Update.

Speaker 4 (15:27):
All right, guys, I have some updates. I don't think
this whole situation is over with, but I certainly have
more to add. Okay, So about three days ago, my
brother in law texted me. He's been one of the
only ones not to block me, but he didn't text
me either, and he apologized to me, and he told
me to apologize to my sister because I had hurt
her and betrayed her, which I just didn't get at all.

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He's probably hearing her itch about it all the time,
and he's like, please make it stop, just apologize.

Speaker 1 (15:54):
But I'm in a horrible marriage.

Speaker 4 (15:56):
She is the one who called me slurs and try
to make me hide my marriage, which by the same
she made no one else do because a few people
were asking. And she's the one who feels hurt. I frankly,
just didn't want anything to do with her or her
bs at the moment, and told him that I'd think
about it. I wasn't apologizing, but that was just to

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get him off my back. Don't turn my phone off
immediately after a few hours later, my sister unblocks and
texts me, and this is how the conversation goes. Just
note that the name is fake and a lot of
Google translated because it's not originally in English. I will
be substituting my name for Mark for privacy reasons. There
is also a bit of heavy language in this Amy,

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Hey Mark me, Amy? What do you want?

Speaker 1 (16:43):
Amy?

Speaker 4 (16:43):
I just wanted to say that you told my husband
you apologize to me, but you still haven't me. Obviously,
I didn't do anything wrong. Why would I apologize, Amy?
You did, though, You made my wedding day about yourself
like a wiener? What the is wrong with you? A hole?

Speaker 5 (17:01):
Me?

Speaker 1 (17:01):
I'm the a hole here.

Speaker 3 (17:03):
You called me.

Speaker 4 (17:03):
A slur for no reason. You overreacted, Amy, I needn't
do anything wrong. I hate her, Amy. It's true that
you are an insert slur and insert another derogatory home
slur and a wiener to I my ad no straight
man should have done what you did at my wedding.

Speaker 3 (17:20):
Well, too bad, they slay.

Speaker 1 (17:22):
What Your sister is the worst person ever? Black hole,
She's bad.

Speaker 4 (17:26):
This is like abandoning your brother and throwing them under
the bus, and just keep throwing them under a bus,
a new bus with fool of kids that are heavy,
not the cheerleader bus, the football kid bus. No, a
straight man might have done what I did at your wedding.
You just wouldn't have cared about it if it didn't happen,
because I believe you only pretended to care about me. Wow,
how righteous of you to make my feelings about you

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once more? You really aft up and made my day horrible.

Speaker 1 (17:54):
Girl, you major day horrible. If you don't hate in
your heart, it's gonna be bad.

Speaker 5 (17:57):
Me.

Speaker 3 (17:57):
What that was wrong with you?

Speaker 4 (17:59):
I did do anything wrong. I just answered a question.
I didn't get really wasted, stripped and proclaim my marital
status to everyone in the reception? Did I tell me
the truth? You were being an itch it about this
because you are actually upset by me answering the question,
and you are being a bully because I admitted to

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being gay. Amy. Wow, you call yourself a feminist while
actively dismissing my feelings.

Speaker 1 (18:26):
I'm sorry, she's claiming to be a feminist.

Speaker 4 (18:30):
You're just being a wiener right now. Me, what does
me being a feminist have anything to.

Speaker 1 (18:34):
Do with this?

Speaker 4 (18:36):
You honestly are being a wiener in this situation. Amy,
stop just using being a USI and apologized. It's not
going to emasculate you just to say you're sorry for
once in your effing life.

Speaker 3 (18:49):
Me what, I don't feel embarrassed to apologize.

Speaker 4 (18:52):
I apologize when I'm wrong.

Speaker 3 (18:53):
You know this.

Speaker 4 (18:55):
I'm not in the wrong, and I won't apologize to
just make you stop throwing a pain trump like a
five year old who got told no for the first
time in their life. Amy, can you just calm down?
You are completely losing.

Speaker 1 (19:06):
She's making me insane.

Speaker 4 (19:08):
I am calm Amy, just f off. You made me
so absent. I canceled my beach honeymoon and now we
have to figure something out. Go play dress out with
your husband. I hate her.

Speaker 1 (19:20):
This woman is driving me insane.

Speaker 4 (19:23):
And we could drive you insane with more stories like
this on your favorite podcast platform, Apple, Spotify, whatever you
listen on, Come check us out search Okay story Tom
on those podcast platforms, and we got a little bit
more here. Right now, I don't even want to hear it.
Sophia's done.

Speaker 1 (19:38):
I hate this woman so much.

Speaker 4 (19:41):
I want to know what she was using him for,
because you played the tend this whole time. I know
it's like, why what did he pay for for the wedding?
Because the dad wasn't around, he definitely helped out. That's
what I want to know.

Speaker 1 (19:51):
She freaking suck you, despicable human being, and.

Speaker 4 (19:54):
Ob being the amazing guy is probably didn't think of it.
I just got lost my sister. Not I also got
used and was abandoned by my sister. Just abandon and
you don't got to call.

Speaker 1 (20:02):
Names used, op, I'm sorry.

Speaker 4 (20:05):
After that, we stopped texting, mostly because I thought she
was acting like a five year old and I truly
didn't want to deal with it now. Literally half an
hour before I started writing this, I got a package
at my door that was wrapped up in tacky Christmas
wrapping paper and it said it was from Amy. My
sister confused. I opened it, crap you not. There was

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a white bikini and lingerie set inside with a note
from my sister saying, since I'm not going to the
beach anymore. I thought I might give this to you.
The only blah blah blah I know enjoyed dressing up
for your husband.

Speaker 1 (20:37):
You freaks. Wow, what a nightmare the person. I can't
believe she like tricked everyone into thinking.

Speaker 4 (20:43):
She was an ally okay and ending with an overly
obvious x XI. I'm your sister, Amy. That's all I
have for you. If more happens, I will update again.
And that's all the updates we got right now. Holy crap.

Speaker 1 (20:54):
Being this hateful of a person and thinking that you're
still in the right, You're the worst. Bye, Bye bye.
I won't miss you. Everyone's upset. I left my brothers stranded.
It's because what he wanted was illegal.

Speaker 4 (21:08):
If the cobs aren't watching, nothing's illegal.

Speaker 1 (21:10):
So I twenty four female went to a festival with
my boyfriend twenty six mail and my uncle fifty two male.
It was for the whole weekend, and my uncle lives
in a truck with a horse trailer which is now
converted into a motor room. He's not poor, he just
loves the lifestyle with his two small dogs. By the way,
this comes from Princess bamby two thousand on the Okay
Storytime severed it. So it's worth mentioning that I'm not

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super close with my older brother thirty one Mail because
he's hard work, selfish and emotionally draining. You'll see why
that being said, he's still my brother. We didn't plan
to go with my brother and it was sheer coincidence
that he was there at the same festival as us.
We knew he was there, but he didn't know we
were there initially, and we decided to have a good
time whilst avoiding him like the plague, and then afterwards

(21:54):
we would have wanted it to go down like OMD.
I had no idea you were there, small. Oh eh,
that's not what happened. My boyfriend and I camped in
a tent next to my uncle's truck, and despite the
twelve hours of rain on the Saturday, we were all
having a great time and did well to steer clear
of my brother, who was there with his girlfriend. The

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festival was about a two hour trip from his hometown
using public transport. That may not sound like much to
people in the US or other bigger countries, but with
the cost of travel in the UK and the inconvenience
of catching trains and buses. It's really hard work. So
on the Sunday evening, my brother spotted my boyfriend somewhere
at the festival. Brother began calling me non stop, very

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late on Sunday night and early hours of Monday morning.
I really just wanted to enjoy this last night, so
I didn't respond. When I went to bed, he was
still calling and messaging and didn't stop until I finally
answered around three am. He gave me this whole story
about how his girlfriend is awful because she wanted to
hear certain music with her friends while he wanted to

(22:59):
go to different st just for other music. Now I
understand group safety and all that, but if there was
a group of friends, perhaps they could have split the
group back, or he could have gone wherever he wanted
and she would have been safe with her friends and
they could beat up later. She never said they have
to be right next to each other the entire time,
but my brother seemed to want to stay with her
every second. Anyway, my brother tells me the story about

(23:20):
how awful she spent him, although it mostly sounds like
he's the difficult one. And it's three a m. And
I just want to sleep. So I said, maybe we
can meet up for a sig, a coffee and a
hug before we all leave in the morning, and he
responded with, Yeah, that sounds really nice. I appreciate it, sis,
and so I went back to sleep. When I woke up,
I had loads more miss calls and messages for my brother,

(23:43):
my mom, and my brother's friend, who was not at
the festival. Apparently, according to his friend and our mother,
his girlfriend had left him stranded at the festival. Whoa
his phone was on low batteries, so I guess he
told his friend and mum what it was happening so
they could try and get through to me in the
event that his phone died, which it did. I speak
to a friend and mom and they tell me he's
waiting on a specific landmark at the festival and I

(24:05):
need to go find him. Great. I'm a little hungover,
but I go in search of my brother while my
boyfriend packs the tent up ready to leave. Okay, his
girlfriend didn't leave him stranded. Instead, he got pretty pissed
with her because she wanted to break up with him
after his behavior at the festival, but she insisted that
She'll still make sure he can get home. Okay, they
can talk about it with a clear head when they're

(24:27):
not hungover or coming down from substances. Brother didn't like this, and,
having confirmed that I was at the festival, decided to
pack his crap because he didn't want to spend almost
two hours in the car with that be and left
her tent early hours of Monday morning to continue calling me.
So he's just lying about the whole situation. What the heck? Yikes.
Rather than calling a taxi to get him to a

(24:49):
train station or rudder, he used all of his phone
battery trying to track me down. He could have potentially
left himself stranded in this big old field in the countryside.
Of course, I know it's go isn't the villain, But
Brother is the kind of person that me and the
rest of my family have to tiptoe around to avoid
annoying him. He punched doors in the past and broke them.

(25:10):
And he's always blocking the entire family because of an
argument with one of us and then unblocking us when
he feels better. Kind of loses the impact of blocking someone.
So knowing that she probably did nothing wrong and she
was the one who bought his ticket. I kept quiet
during his rants and monologues, knowing that I'll ask my
uncle to drive him home, since my uncle lives in

(25:31):
the same town as him, and my boyfriend's car is
parked on uncle's land. However, there's only space in the
cab of the truck for a driver and two passengers.
It's illegal here to drive around with people in the
back of a van or truck unless it is specifically
set up for people to walk with ease between the
cab and the back of the truck while the vehicle
is moving. It's a converted horse trailer, so obviously it's

(25:54):
not set up that way. Uncle suggested that we put
brother in the back and drive him to the nearest
trains station so he can complete the journey alone. He
had travel fairs, so that's not an issue. It's still illegal,
but it's not driving for two hours under illegal circumstances illegal.

Speaker 4 (26:09):
He could lay down on the bed the trae.

Speaker 1 (26:13):
It was tough to persuade Brother to understand that's the
best we could do, but he's settled for it under
the condition that I sit in the back of the
truck with him for the journey to the station so
we can chat. We didn't chat the entire time. Instead,
he was on the phone to all of his friends
telling them how awful is now ex girlfriend was. I
thought we left on good terms, and although I often

(26:34):
can't stand to be around him, he's sounds like a
nightmare if everyone hates him. I was glad he was safe,
and I hugged him goodbye before he ran for his train.
He messaged me to say he got home safely. It's
been a couple of weeks now and I currently have
a pretty severe ear affection, which I suspect I got
from the festival. Anyway, I've since been receiving hateful messages
from my brother and mother for not driving him all

(26:56):
the way home, which I didn't understand because it wasn't
it was my uncle's. Yeah, why is OP getting the flak?

Speaker 4 (27:04):
That is kind of crazy.

Speaker 1 (27:05):
He got home, he took the train, No one was stranded.
What I thought it was fine, But I guess maybe
his toxic mind or some of his toxic friends, not
all of them are toxic. I've convinced him that I
didn't try hard enough to persuade my uncle to illegally
drive him all the way home. I get where he's
coming from. Here's where I may be the a hole.
If we could illegally drive him to the station with

(27:26):
no issues, why not the rest of the journey? Admittedly
I didn't want to be around him anymore, and he'd
want me to sit in the back with him for
the entire journey. I don't have the mental strength for that,
and maybe that's my problem. But you guys will have
a problem if you don't listen to more episodes like
this on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or your favorite podcast up.

(27:47):
Just search up. Okay, story time, and then we won't
have a problem. But there is a little bit left
to the story. But do you a need final thoughts?

Speaker 4 (27:53):
Hot take? Hot take, I'm disagreeing with Opie. Whoa if
my brother was in a tight situation, even if I
didn't like him in the stage, I hates him like
he sucks, But he'd be in the back of the
truck laying down for two hours.

Speaker 1 (28:05):
She said, he would probably make her do it like
sit in the back of the drug too.

Speaker 4 (28:08):
No, no, no, he's either sitting in the back of
the drug or he's not coming. Yeah, that's what's happened.

Speaker 1 (28:12):
This is kind of a situation where, like, you know,
you have had friends or something where there's too many
people and so someone's got to sit on someone's lap
or something, and it's like that, and it's like, Okay,
if it's ten minutes away, that's fine, but if it's
a two hour trip, can't have someone sitting on people's
lap because that's dangerous. So I feel like that's this situation. Yeah,
if you already don't like your brother, it's like, eh, true, Yeah,

(28:33):
your mom and your brother can get over it. He
got home, he's fine. When I said it's not my truck,
they all started talking crap about my uncle. When I
stood up for him. They said I'm the wrong because
he's not my real uncle. He's just my dad's friend
of thirty plus years, and the safety of my brother
should have been the top priority. They said, I left
him stranded in a strange town. He's like thirty, and

(28:54):
he took the train. He's fine. Yeah, Apparently I just
didn't try hard enough to convince my uncle to break
the law for my brother's sake. And that makes me
the ahle, so am I the ale ps. He's my
half brother. We share a mother, but not a father.
So he doesn't really know this uncalled mine and comments
not sorry twenty nineteen says he's totally right. He can
never depend on you for anything, including a legal activity.

(29:17):
He should remember that for the future and leave you alone.
That's true. Yeah. Ope, he's like, yeah, you're right. I
did really let you down. You should never rely on me.

Speaker 4 (29:25):
There we go.

Speaker 1 (29:26):
It's not you going no contact, it's him protecting himself
from your evil, wicked ways of check's notes, not promising
him anything or convincing people he doesn't know to break
the law for room sarcasm on it being your fault.
He's an idiot and that is rarely curable. Yeah, every
requirement thirteen says. He sounds exhausting. Maybe it's time for
you to block him your mother too. Yeah, he's aptly sick,

(29:48):
and he's a baby, and he's thirty years old and
he needs to grow up. Yeah, but I don't know
if you will.

Speaker 4 (29:54):
There's this thing called man childism, and he's definitely got it.

Speaker 1 (29:57):
He's got it. But that is the end of that story. Here.

Speaker 2 (30:00):
We're gonna get back to this episode, but a quick
three minute break with Asrama sponsors my.

Speaker 1 (30:04):
Sister's maid of honor humiliated me with her wedding speech.
The whole family was disappointed. Dude, you got whole family
disappointment and you are the maid of honor made of dishonor.
I twenty seven female, was a bridesmaid at my older
sister's wedding last week. The wedding was beautiful and everything
seemed perfect until the reception. During the reception, the maid

(30:27):
of honor, who has been my sister's best friend since childhood,
gave her speech. By the way, this comes from few
setting forty nine seventeen and if you want to submit
your stories, go to Okay storytime. Severed it. It was
emotional in all, but then she made a joke about
how I was the family screw up who finally managed
to do something right by not messing up my bridesmade duties.

(30:48):
Everyone laughed, but I didn't find it funny. For context,
I've had a few rough years. I struggled with my
mental health and dropped out of college for a while.
I've since gotten my life back on track, but still
a sensitive topic for me. Hearing that joke in front
of all of our family and friends wasn't funny at all.
My sister's best friend and I never really got along,

(31:09):
but still I never expected something like this from her,
especially since the day wasn't about me at all. Then
why bring me up in the speech. I tried to
stay composed, but I felt the tears coming, so I
quietly left the reception and went outside to collect myself.
My sister followed me out and asked what was wrong.
When I told her, she said it was just a
joke and she meant nothing bad. I try to go

(31:32):
back inside, but I just couldn't, and I ended up
leaving the wedding early. My parents understand why I was upset,
but my sister is angry with me. I do feel
terrible for leaving, but I also feel like I had
the right to feel hurt and humiliated. Of course she did, absolutely,
I mean, there was a mean comment that wasn't necessary
at all. Edit I said nothing at the moment because
I didn't want to cause a scene on my sister's

(31:53):
special day. And I can't reason with her right now
because she will just ask me if I haven't been
taking my meds lately. That's what she does when she
angry with me. So I'm giving her some time to
maybe realize how her best friend's joke was out of line.
Edit too. Someone asked me if my sister's best friend
and I argued before slash, did I give her a
reason to do this? My sister's best friend and I
never went past high. She told me before a few

(32:15):
years ago that she in general, doesn't feel comfortable around
someone struggling mentally because in her head, God only knows
what they're capable of. Since she said this, slash to
this day, I just try to avoid her. There is
an update. The same day I posted, my dad called
to check up on me and see if my sister
and I had talked things out. When I told him no,
he said it's better if we talk about it now

(32:37):
and assured me that I have nothing to apologize for.
If my sister thinks she has nothing to apologize for,
then the least she can do is make her best
friend apologize or fully realize that the joke was out
of line. By the way, my brother and I met
four days ago, and he told me that brother in law,
my sister's husband, didn't like the way a maid of
honor called me a screw up in front of everyone,

(32:58):
and some of those who left voice later that they
did so out of nervousness.

Speaker 3 (33:02):
That is true. I've been there. Sometimes you laugh because
it's just like.

Speaker 1 (33:06):
AH could also have been like, oh, maybe they're friends
or something like there is a point to this joke
that everyone's in on, instead of oh, this person's at
the butt of the joke. On Monday, my sister called
me to talk. When I made it to her place,
her best friend was on the phone and didn't put
it down for a second. My sister started by saying
that just a few years ago, I would have laughed
hard and not taken the joke as an insult. I

(33:27):
told her maybe some laughed because they didn't know the
reason she called me as grew up were context. When
I was sixteen, something happened and that's why I struggled mentally,
really badly between sixteen to eighteen. When I was seventeen,
I was diagnosed with PTSD and later with depression and anxiety.
Since then, I don't like it when someone touches my head,
especially my hair and the back of my head sashed neck.

(33:50):
My sister knows everything. During our conversation, my sister did
most of the talking. At some point, I felt like
my sister had called me just to blame again without
trying to understand my perspective.

Speaker 3 (34:03):
I'm sorry, but just the next level of an a hole.

Speaker 5 (34:06):
You are someone like fell off the rails because they
got traumatized, and now you're gonna be.

Speaker 3 (34:11):
Like, oh yeah, look at the screw up.

Speaker 5 (34:13):
Now she did something right, unlike ever since she got traumatized,
Like go back into your little pit, you orc.

Speaker 1 (34:21):
When I tried to talk, she put her hand on
the back of my neck and pulled me toward her
with each sentence, as if to say, do you understand
or okay? I hated it and felt irritated. I honestly
kept thinking if I pushed her away, would I be
in the wrong. Would they just call me mental and
tell family I got physical. I tried to leave, but
she insisted that no one was leaving until we sort

(34:42):
this out. She told her best friend to just apologize.
She refused and reminded my sister that I was the
reason her husband got angry at her on their wedding
day because I couldn't take a joke. And when I
tried to explain why at it, I told her if
she had focused her speech on the bride and groom,
that maybe he wouldn't have had a reason to be angry.
At least Opie's brother in law is on her side.

Speaker 3 (35:02):
How is she not being like.

Speaker 5 (35:03):
Oh, it's my fault that your husband didn't like her joke.
It's your friend's fault. It's not my fault that your
husband has a conscience.

Speaker 1 (35:11):
She refused to listen and brushed my words off. She said, yeah, whatever, sorry.
I was glad it was finally over, And as I
was about to leave, I heard her say, can't take
a joke that everyone knows it's true, Then it's not
a joke. What are we dying? Both of them laughed,
but my sister stopped mid laugh and apologized. I didn't

(35:31):
say anything and left. And that's when you cut these
people off, and you say, yeah, no, they weren't joking.
And whenever anyone asks and you say and they say,
what do you mean, No, it's totally a joke, You're like, no,
they confirmed it wasn't a joke. Wow, I hate these people.
I think I've had enough. I mean, I know I've
had a rough few years. I dropped out of college
for a while. Fine, but I've since gotten my life

(35:52):
back on track. My parents helped me through it all
and never made me feel like a burden. At first,
I was on some strong meds that made me feel tired,
slash sleepy most of the time. After a while, I
started to feel a little better with therapy and my
family's support. During that period, it was me, my parents,
and my brother. My sister was three hours away for
a job and used to visit sometimes and would often

(36:13):
bring her best friend along with her. Looking back, I
don't want to say she hates me, but I know
she felt ashamed of have a family member struggling with
mental health issues. I don't know how to explain this.
I've made up my mind and decided to go no
contact for now. I think that is a good idea.
If my parents and my brother, who were there when
I was going through it all, never made me feel
that they're ashamed of me, then why would she. I'm

(36:35):
still on some meds, but feel so much better than before.
I have a stable job at my own place and
friends who love me for who I am. I can
say I'm proud of myself a little. I love my
family to death and try to maintain a relationship with
my sister all these years, but I'm trying to improve myself,
not constantly be reminded of what I was a few
years ago. And there is an update. But oh boy,

(36:59):
death and cut these people off.

Speaker 3 (37:01):
Get rid of your sister does not deserve you.

Speaker 1 (37:03):
No, people are gonna realize who she is eventually, and
then she's gonna be like, h you took away everyone
from me, and you're gonna say, Nope, that was you.

Speaker 5 (37:11):
Yeah, like Loki, this might be the start of her
losing her husband from the way that she's reacted to
all this.

Speaker 1 (37:16):
Her husband was defending you and she's not. And she's
still doubling down on her best friend. Yeah.

Speaker 5 (37:21):
If I was him and I saw her treating op
this way, I would have to be like, oh my god,
did I just make the biggest mistake of my life.
I'm this monster truly.

Speaker 1 (37:31):
And at the end of the day, even if it
was a joke, if it hurts someone's feelings, apologize. Yeah.

Speaker 5 (37:37):
When you're making a joke literally about a specific person,
their reaction is the benchmark.

Speaker 3 (37:42):
Was it good or bad? If their reaction's bad, bad.

Speaker 1 (37:45):
Joke, you say, oh my god, I'm so sorry. I
didn't be like that. Update too. Hey, this happened a
few days ago, but it's been a busy week for
me and I was a bit hesitant to update. I
went to see my parents with my brother. My dad
texted me before too to let me know that my
sister was coming too. I did want to cause any
problems between her and my parents by telling them about
what she and her best friend did, but when she

(38:06):
started the conversation with lies, I told them everything and
made it clear that I'm not asking them to take
sides and that I will still come to family gatherings,
but I won't engage with her in any way. Perfect.

Speaker 3 (38:18):
That's perfect.

Speaker 1 (38:19):
It's like you can still have a relationship with her.
I just won't be doing that. My dad couldn't let
the facts that she grabbed me by the back of
my neck slide, but my mother tried to make it
seem like it was out of desperation to make me
accept her apology.

Speaker 3 (38:32):
No, she knew what she was doing. There's no way
she didn't.

Speaker 1 (38:35):
I'm sorry. No one just grabs someone's neck. I don't
think that's a normal response to anything. And adding in
the fact that she knows that Opie does not like that.
I've never seen anyone do that in real life. What
my sister said next did it for my mom. She
asked them, how is anyone still supposed to remember what
exactly triggers me after all these years, and that I

(38:56):
already got over it since I didn't react, And what
if I've been fake out all of these years. I
know I shouldn't have said this, and I really regret
it now, but I told her I wish she could
go through exactly what I went through. Maybe then she
could give me a better example of how I should
have handled it all. She told me to get over
it and stop begging magazines to post about what happened
at the wedding and left. My dad told me later

(39:17):
that her best friend's younger sister read about it in
People magazine. Dang, it was posted on their Instagram, and
get over it. She's the only one who still brings
up what happened. My mother now understands why I decided
to go no contact. My dad and brother are one
hundred percent supportive of my decision, but I can't stop
thinking about what she said. She tried to trigger a
reaction out of me and now thinks I've been faking

(39:39):
it because I didn't give her one. It's been eleven years,
years of therapy and meds. Of course I've gotten better,
not one hundred percent, though, Since I felt irritated, and
if it wasn't for me being already labeled crazy, I
would have shoved her away. I feel like I should
have cut contact with her the moment she asked my
parents why I didn't stay for the party and wait
for my brother to come pick me up. The reason

(40:01):
I left the party was because some of the guys
who were invited were much older than I was, and
they were getting wasted and loud. Two of them followed me.
First thing my sister told my parents was and still
believed that I left with them because I was naive
and just scared. In a shame to admit it, your
sister freakings, even after both of them confessed everything. But

(40:21):
I was young, I guess, and cutting contact with her
wasn't something I could do. Oh, your sister is a
terrible person.

Speaker 3 (40:29):
Yeah, she's she's the worst.

Speaker 1 (40:30):
You're better off, but you're not better off without us.
So come listen to more episodes with stories like this
on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favorite podcast app. Just
search up Okay, storytime, and there is a little bit more.
But oh my god, oh my god, never see your
sister again. Yeah, dude, I mean until she gets like
serious help, some sense knocked into her.

Speaker 3 (40:52):
She has no business having a relationship with you.

Speaker 1 (40:55):
She doesn't deserve one. There is a little bit more
to the story. I also want to mention, how word
if my partner has been through all of this From
the day I told him everything, he has been incredibly understanding,
even though I never asked him to and he never
told me. But I know. He still goes through each
movie slash series before we watch it together to make
sure there aren't any scenes that could make me uncomfortable.

(41:17):
It's very sweet. When I put something on, he finds
a way to distract me for a few minutes to
check it before we watch. He has never made me
feel like a screw up. He makes me feel like
I still deserve to be loved. Thank you to each
of you for your kind comments and reaching out in private.
And that is the end of that story. My sister
ditched my wedding for a musical festival, so I blocked her. Blocked.

(41:40):
She's like, I can't go to your wedding. I've got
gaja when am I supposed to do?

Speaker 3 (41:45):
Megan d Stallion is on stage bye.

Speaker 1 (41:48):
I apologize for the length of this, but it's messy
af I thirty female, got married back May twenty fifth
of this year to my now husband thirty one male.
After being together is seven and a half years. By
the oh way, this comes from beginning smoke to sixteen
and if you want to submit your stories, go to
our slash Okay storytime suvered it. I have an older sister,
thirty seven female, who when I got engaged, was over

(42:10):
the moon, excited and wanted to help plan everything with me.
We live about two hours apart from one another, and
she has significant social anxiety that prevents her from comfortably
driving long distances and being in social situations. She frankly
avoids them when she can or I tried to include
her where I could, asking her opinion on things, sharing
my ideas and inspopics. She was relatively unresponsive for a

(42:34):
lot of it. She said she wanted to be involved
in planning the shower, so I had my mom and
bridal party include her in the chat. My bridal shower
comes around and she isn't there. My mom informs me
that my youngest niece is sick and my sister didn't
want to share the cooties. I didn't receive a message
from her until the next day explaining what happened. Kisses
me off. It's an adequate excuse, but you need to

(42:56):
give the excuse before the party.

Speaker 3 (42:59):
You know that you're sick before that, I would assume.

Speaker 5 (43:02):
Dude a text, okay, even before you become acutely sick.

Speaker 3 (43:05):
You can feel it coming on.

Speaker 1 (43:06):
If you're going to cancel on something, tell people in advance.
She also didn't attend my batch, but I really wasn't
expecting her to, as she does not drink and would
definitely not drive the two hours to get there. In April,
she sent me a message asking for me to remove
her partner and his daughter from the guest list as
they have broken up. I consult her, told her I'm
so sorry and asked if she wanted to talk. He

(43:27):
did not. I tried to respect her, but would often
send her short messages wishing her well with no response back.

Speaker 3 (43:34):
Well.

Speaker 1 (43:34):
On the Sunday before my wedding, six days she messages
me and ask me if there's any way I could
add them back onto the guest list because they would
really like to attend.

Speaker 3 (43:43):
Now, this is just nonsensical.

Speaker 1 (43:45):
This is too much for a wedding. I was shocked,
but after my dad talked me down and agreed to
pay for their plates if the caterer would let them,
I told her I would try. I had to reprint
my seating chart. I had to make them place guards
and get additional favors. The caterer said, no problem. We
said up the money, and I let her know that
I was so excited everyone was able to come.

Speaker 3 (44:03):
Again.

Speaker 1 (44:03):
Well, it comes to the day of my wedding. I
walked down the aisle, I say my vows, I go
and sign my marriage license. And when I stand the side,
finally getting to look out of the group gathered for us,
I see no sign of my sister, her partner, and
two out of three of my nieces. She she literally
asked you to add her back in. I'm upset, but

(44:25):
I continued on with my day. I had to tell
the photographer they weren't there for the photos in front
of a large group of people, which was embarrassing, but
I didn't let it ruin my day.

Speaker 3 (44:35):
I talked to my one.

Speaker 1 (44:36):
Niece, fifteen that did come thanks to my older brother
picking her up. My sister didn't even get ready. She
didn't buy a gift, a card, nothing. I didn't address it,
but let it go. The next day I sent her
a message and told her how I upset I was.
We added out I understand her mental illness and respect
that it was all too much for her, But what
have at least appreciated an explanation, a text saying she

(44:59):
wasn't able to make it anything For the next month.
She only sent me a message on my birthday and
that was it. No contact. She didn't comment on the
pictures I shared up my wedding. You didn't say anything
at the picture I texted her with my niece and
I at the wedding. I finally had enough and called
her out on it and attempted to bury the hatchet
well today, I found out this past week that she

(45:19):
attended a local music festival with hundreds, if not over
thousands of people attended in the rain, about twenty five
minutes away from where I had my wedding. I'm livid
and just pausing right there.

Speaker 5 (45:32):
There are a few things I despise more than like
hiding behind a nonexistent mental illness diagnosis to like just
excuse you being selfish.

Speaker 1 (45:41):
People do this for like if they have a mental
health sometimes they still excuse selfishness. And it's like, okay,
you're like how to have mental health problems, but like
you have to own up to the mistakes and the
hurt that you're causing people.

Speaker 5 (45:54):
It's not a get out of jail free card for
your behavior. It's like it informs where your behavior comes from.

Speaker 3 (45:59):
But now you have to do the work.

Speaker 5 (46:00):
It'd be like being like breaking your arm and then
being like, no, I can just never work again. It's
because my arm broke, And it's like, did you do
anything about it? Did you get a cast, did you
get a splint, did you put it in a slingk?

Speaker 1 (46:12):
Whatever?

Speaker 3 (46:12):
It'll never heal. It's like, cause you're not doing anything
about it.

Speaker 1 (46:17):
But let's continue. She can attend that the music festival,
but not my eighty person wedding. I'm ready to block
her on everything and not hear her out for anything.
Every time she didn't attend, it was her anxiety. She
couldn't drive there herself, she couldn't have be around that
many people, et cetera. I respected it. I understand it,
but this is too far for me. So I need

(46:38):
to know. Am I the a hole? If I just
block her everywhere and don't hear her out? And there
is an update. I think, because maybe she's your sister,
you could just send her a text and be like, hey,
I don't think this relationship is healthy for me, Like,
I think you could have somewhat of a conversation with her.
You can still cut her off.

Speaker 5 (46:54):
I think she needs maybe a little wake up call
that her behavior has consequences.

Speaker 1 (46:59):
Like, don't let her be She's like, oh my god,
oh Pete cut me off for no reason, Like just
be like, hey, your behavior was unacceptable. I cannot continue
this relationship right now.

Speaker 5 (47:06):
Yeah, I feel like you're lying and manipulating, and I
don't want to condone it or be a part of it.
So just tell me, hey, if you don't want to
go to my wedding, just tell me all right, Or
if you have something else you'd rather do instead, just
say that.

Speaker 1 (47:19):
Don't waste anybody's time. But there is an update, So
thank you for everyone for commenting. I have some backstory
and an update. My sister is actually my stepsister. Our
parents started dating when I was nine and she was sixteen.
She hated me and my mom. She was rude all
the time, but as she grew up and we got
to know each other better, we became closer. She wasn't
always this anxious, but has been through some trauma that

(47:41):
really amped up the anxiety. I've always been supportive of
her and been up all through the night texting or
talking to her mid anxiety attack. She had my oldest
nieces and moved in with my mom and stepdad and I.
I helped her take care of my baby niece at
the age of fifteen after school. When she moved out.
Shortly after, I went on a trip with my parents
and she said they deliberately planned it for after she

(48:02):
moved out. When I went to college, she said, the
only reason I could do it was because they helped me.
This was not true at all. Sure, they helped me
with a couple of textbooks and paid my two hundred
dollars parking pass for the year, but that was it.
When I bought my first house completely independently at twenty two,
she said I must have had them co signed, because
there's no way. All through this, they helped her move
many many times. They would buy my niece all her

(48:24):
back to school supplies and her snowsuits. They would spoil her.
And then as my sister had another relationship with her
new partner, his daughter as well, and then when she
had my third niece, they continued to spoil all of them.
I'm not a jealous person, so this has never bothered me.
They are their grandparents and help out whenever they can.
It just bothered me that she's never accounted for how

(48:45):
hard I've worked and always assumed someone helped me with it.
I didn't explain this because I've moved past it and
will do anything and everything I can for my nieces.
I've taken them on sleepovers and spent hundreds of dollars
on birthdays and Christmas. I would say we got closer,
but she really only reaches out to me when she
was wanting emotional support, happy to oblige or for the girls. Also,

(49:06):
the partner she was bringing to my wedding been together
ten years. He's cheating on her and she is cheating
on him.

Speaker 3 (49:12):
They're perfect for each other.

Speaker 1 (49:13):
Were they about to break up? What happened there?

Speaker 3 (49:15):
He probably has an excuse for that too, like oh,
I have depression and.

Speaker 1 (49:19):
He's like, I actually have to cheat on you. My
doctor told me to do it. She said. The only
reason they're still together is because it's too expensive to
move out herself. Now for the update. My parents were
furious with her for not attending, but heard her out
and said that what she did was not okay, but
it's not their torch to carry. You can carry that torch.

Speaker 5 (49:37):
You can carry that torch like an Uri Khai trying
to break down the wall of elms Deep.

Speaker 1 (49:44):
I blocked my sister on all forms of social media
and asked that she connect with me only for the
girls or if she wanted to attempt to reconnect with me.
She asked why so I told her I was hurt.
She is adamant that she did not go to the concert. Girl,
why are you lying?

Speaker 3 (49:57):
A perfect example of why this is happening.

Speaker 1 (50:01):
The person who told me was her own mom. Girl,
you've been caught. Her mother then started harassing me and
my mom, saying that it wasn't true. I'm not sure
what to believe at this point, but I told her
I need a break to think about this. Her response, fine,
do what you want, but do not talk to my daughter.
A fifteen year old niece. I alwill talk to her
every now and then. Well, this is incredibly upsetting to me.
I'm trying to recognize that I have set boundaries and

(50:23):
she's setting her own. I don't like them, but I
don't imagine she liked mine. By the way, I like
when you guys listen to more episodes with stories like this.
Just go to Okay story Time on Apple Podcasts, Spotify
or your favorite podcast app, and there is a little
bit left to the story. Yeah, I would say like
talking to her was a good idea, because you still
want to have a relationship with your nieces, but it does

(50:44):
seem right now with her youngest niece, she kind of
has to say.

Speaker 5 (50:47):
Oh key, she's old enough to decide what relationship she
wants to have with her family members.

Speaker 1 (50:52):
Yeah, in like three years, she'll probably come back to
you and be like, yeah, my mom's crazy.

Speaker 5 (50:57):
Yeah, I think you've done the right thing here. You
didn't make any decisions that I think would make everything
go nuclear or like make things worse. You basically just
put it straight out there. You're like, these are my boundaries.
This is why I'm putting them up. This is what
I would like to see and you left the door open.
You were like, and if you do want to reconnect,
you can contact me, but don't contact me for anything else.

Speaker 3 (51:19):
We're done.

Speaker 1 (51:20):
But there is a little bit more to this story,
so let's get into it. Maybe I just shouldn't have
messaged her at all, but I didn't want to text
at two am saying she was having a panic attack
and wanted to talk. Why should I continue to support
her emotionally when she doesn't care about me. I didn't
want to go absolutely no contact because I love my
nieces and I value my relationship with them, but it
seems that isn't an option. I'm okay being an ahole.

(51:42):
It's no skin off my back. I just don't want
to lose my relationship with the girls. And that is
the end of that story.

Speaker 3 (51:49):
Perfect thinking of the children. Hey, it's Sam. We're going
to get back to these stories. But here's three minutes
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Speaker 5 (51:56):
I warned my sister's friend to get security for her wedding,
to keep my problematic sister out, keep her out, be gone.

Speaker 1 (52:05):
From me, and stay out.

Speaker 5 (52:07):
My sister will call her Susan thirty seven female got
married a while back. Her friends were a huge help
to her and also the bridesmaids for her wedding. By
the way, this comes from user Persephone on Earth and
you can submit your story to our slash Okay storytime now.
One of the bride'maids let's call her Buffy thirty seven female,

(52:28):
has been her friend for almost twenty years now and
was the maid of honor at Susan's wedding. They have
had arguments and then rekindled their friendship over and over
again over the years. Buffy has been super excited about
her own upcoming wedding. She had been wearing a placeholder
engagement ring. Didn't make a big deal of her wedding
at Susan's wedding, just casually mentioned it was happening to

(52:50):
those who had come from states away who were also
her friends, not random people. She was very respectful and
put out a ton of fires so Susan wouldn't be
stressed as much about her wedding and just generally went
above and beyond or Susan. Now that Buffy's wedding is
getting closer, she tried to lean a little on Susan
for help with hers Since Susan was going to be

(53:11):
her maid of honor too. Susan has constantly made excuses
for why she can't help, has constantly asked Buffy to
do favors.

Speaker 3 (53:20):
For her instead, or generally just brushed her off.

Speaker 5 (53:23):
How are you gonna hit someone with the Uno reverse
card after they were the maid of honor at your wedding?
You're like, actually, can you do me a favor? All
this came to a head when Susan was moving into
a new house with her husband. Her husband suddenly got
deployed to Gaza, so he ended up not being able
to help with the move. She has been complaining about
being lonely, how hard her life is, how she'll be

(53:46):
all alone and has to do everything herself. She knew
when she married him that he might be deployed for
possibly years at a time. She complains about how she's
always worried he won't come back, which is valid and awful,
but she acts like her own actions have no impact
on him being sent to Gaza. She convinced him not
to take a deployment to Japan just before the fighting started.

(54:09):
Her reason she would have to learn a new language
and would have no friends. She also had demanded that
they get a dog just before the wedding, and now
that he's not here, the dog doesn't get walked and
is stuck in a crate almost all day. She refuses
to try and train her. She complains constantly about the
dog getting into her chocolate and says it's not her

(54:30):
fault she keeps eating it. Susan has never tried to
keep it somewhere out of the dog's reach. Buffy gave
her solid and valid advice, but she ignored it. Susan
just keeps giving Buffy these long rants about how bad
the dog behaves, but does nothing about it. Susan demanded
that Buffy and her other bridesmaid let's call her Genie
thirty six female, come over and help her move into

(54:53):
the new house. Buffy and Genie explained that they were
already super busy with the wedding work and had taken
a lot of time to listen to her, that Susan
hadn't accepted any of their advice and they needed to
focus now on arrangements for Buffy's wedding. They said they
were disappointed she wasn't helping them and often distracted from
or derailed conversations about the wedding. To focus on Susan. Instead,

(55:14):
Susan exploded on them. Susan laid into them about how
she does so much for them, how she always buys
them things which she does buy stuff, but often things
they never asked her to buy. She does it on
her own whim, and that they should be dropping everything
to help her right now. She said a lot more

(55:34):
horrible things to both of them and screamed at them
for never helping her when she needed it. Hello, do
you not remember this was the maid of honor at
your wedding? Genie have decided to go no contact with her.
I apologized to both of them for having to deal
with it, but that this is classic.

Speaker 3 (55:49):
Susan behavior since we've been.

Speaker 1 (55:51):
Kids, Classic Susan always ruining friendships and lives.

Speaker 5 (55:56):
They asked a bit more about it, and I explained
how things were growing up, that she's manipulative and has
always been the golden child, got everything she ever wanted,
and if I denied her anything, I would be punished,
So she came to expect this of everyone around her.
They were shocked because she had been telling them that
I had been doing all this stuff to her. I
told them that she has mastered Darva when she was

(56:18):
a kid, so it really didn't shock me. I apologize
to them both sincerely because they did not deserve this,
and I thanked them for having put up with her
and been her friends for all this time. I told
them that it was Susan's loss to throw away such
patient and lovely people. They emphasized that I wasn't the
one who needed to apologize, and especially not apologize for
her crappy behavior. That was something she should be doing.

(56:40):
I'm now torn on whether I should warn Buffy to
get security, because I wouldn't be shocked if she went
to the wedding and made a scene. She has done
this kind of thing to me many many times. For
my graduation dinner, she threw a massive screaming fit because
she didn't want to go to a sushi restaurant. My
dad said it was fine and we would do it
some other time and took us to her favorite place instead.

Speaker 1 (57:01):
What.

Speaker 5 (57:01):
No, At that point, you're being excluded, The grown sister
throws a tantrum. Hi, sister, you're going home. You're excluded
from the graduation now, literalllly bye bye. I don't want
you there. Very very bad parenting there He then tried
to avoid actually going through with it until my stepmother
told him off about his disregard for me, even on

(57:23):
my special occasions.

Speaker 3 (57:24):
When we finally did go, she blew up and.

Speaker 5 (57:27):
Screamed about how there was nothing she liked and stormed out.

Speaker 1 (57:30):
Then why did you go stupid?

Speaker 3 (57:32):
If you don't like sushi, don't go to the sushi restaurant.

Speaker 1 (57:35):
If someone's like, hey, we're going to sushi Ni, they'll
be like, actually, we're not going to sushi.

Speaker 3 (57:39):
I don't like it, or just order gioza.

Speaker 5 (57:41):
So the whole restaurant stared at us for the rest
of the meal, and I was humiliated. I really don't
want something like that to happen at Buffy's wedding. So
would I be the a hole for warning my sister's
friends to higher security for the wedding to keep her out? Sorry,
this ended up being so long. I just wanted to
get as much info as I could so you could

(58:02):
make an informed decision and we have an update.

Speaker 3 (58:04):
But hit me with the SOFIA where are we at?

Speaker 1 (58:06):
I don't think you would be the ale. You're not
hiring the security beyond their back. You're not saying you
have to hire a security you're just advising them. I
think it's fine to offer advice in this situation.

Speaker 5 (58:15):
Yeah, I think you've been maybe conditioned to think that
your like thoughts and opinions like shouldn't be voiced. And
that's why it's like, I don't know, sh would I
be crossing in line. It's like your sister's already basically
been like I want nothing to do with these people
who were already not It's like they would probably understand
if anything, they'd be like, oh my god. Thank you
for letting us know that this is how she is.
We have not been tapped into that aspect of her

(58:36):
personality clearly, as we were kind of shocked at how
she's been behaving recently. So if you really think that
we're gonna need a bouncer to keep her from ruining
the wedding, thank you.

Speaker 1 (58:46):
Update.

Speaker 5 (58:46):
First, I want to thank everyone who commented and encouraged
me to speak up. I struggle with self confidence and
often worry it will be taken the worst possible way.

Speaker 1 (58:54):
Thank you for.

Speaker 5 (58:55):
That trauma, but you guys help me push to do
the right thing despite my fears.

Speaker 3 (59:00):
Thank you so much. And here's the update after I
mustered up the courage.

Speaker 5 (59:05):
I reached out to Buffy, laying out things Susan had
done in the past, that I was not reaching out
out of spite and I wouldn't be able to forgive
myself if I didn't warn her, and somehow Susan ruined
her day. I recommended they get security and maybe ask
some friends to keep an eye out just in case.
She responded that she already had it covered. She figured

(59:25):
that Susan might try something, and she already has it
set up so anyone who is not on the guest
list cannot come into the building. Susan was her maid
of honor, but she has since been completely removed from
the wedding and Buffy has gone full on no contact
with her because I don't have time for that high
school drama.

Speaker 1 (59:44):
B s good, good dated round. Don't want Susan boss
her way.

Speaker 3 (59:50):
As adults, there's no time to have people like this
in your life.

Speaker 1 (59:54):
No, my goal this hears, just be more straightforward. I
don't have time for all the like, but no, I
have an army to lead.

Speaker 5 (01:00:03):
She was thankful that I reached out, though, and she
had set up passwords for the vendors. She made it
clear she had even cut off childhood friends for being
like this, and she had no problem doing it for
anybody who tried to bring unnecessary drama into her life.
I also found out exactly what broke the camel's back,
and it's so stupid and Betty, I can't even the
utter audacity of this bee. Since it's getting closer to

(01:00:27):
the wedding, Buffy wanted a more solid headcount. She asked
Susan if she could reach out to our parents, like
literally our mom and dad, to see if they were
still going to come to the wedding. They hadn't gotten
official invitations because Susan was supposed to be the maid
of honor and they had talked about a lot during
the planning for Susan's wedding. They all had been working
with each other to try and make sure it was perfect,
so it didn't seem like it needed an official invitation. Susan,

(01:00:50):
this delusional bee. Susan told Buffy it wasn't her effing
job to ask them, and as the bride, she should
effing do it herself. Buffy told her that she was
pretty sure as the maid of honor, it was her
job to be helping get the final touches done. Susan
blew up and it led to a huge argument, but
basically Susan pulling the I'm so overwhelmed, why is no

(01:01:11):
one helping me? Throwing it in her face. I've bought
so much for you. Again, she wasn't asked to buy
those things. I'm not letting you use the leftover decorations
for my wedding anymore, just spewing utter.

Speaker 3 (01:01:23):
Bs.

Speaker 5 (01:01:23):
Buffy said she was cutting her off because she's too
old for this foolishness and high school bs. Buffy hasn't
spoken to her since we did get the story.

Speaker 1 (01:01:31):
Thank you, Yeah, because we deserve to know. Yeah. No,
I think that was the right move. I mean, Buffy's
a nightmare. I mean not Buffy. Sorry, Susan's the nightmare.
Buffy seems cool. Buffy's a vampire slayer, and she slaid
that vampire Susan, She's a freaking energy vampire.

Speaker 5 (01:01:44):
I apologized to her again, and she said I wasn't
the one who needed to apologize. We chatted a bit
more about things, and we will be keeping in touch
from here on out. I told her if there was
anything I could help with, I would and if she
needed someone to talk to, I was here for she said,
she really I appreciated it and went to bed. So
Buffy was already anticipating Susan's possible attempts and had taken

(01:02:06):
measures already.

Speaker 3 (01:02:07):
It was a huge relief. As for Susan's dog, I
ended up reaching out to my dad.

Speaker 5 (01:02:12):
Oh my god, yeah, the dog. The dog being neglected.
Save the dog. I ended up reaching out to my dad,
explaining the situation to him and asking if he could
check on her since she seemed to be struggling with
her husband being gone. I made it very clear this
wasn't me trying to be vindictive, cruel, or mean. I
was genuinely concerned that the dog was not getting the
proper care and treatment it deserved. It sounded like her

(01:02:34):
living condition wasn't any better than being stuck in a shelter.
And by the way, I want you stuck listening to
full episodes with stories like this.

Speaker 3 (01:02:42):
I want you being.

Speaker 5 (01:02:43):
Stuck in a podcast loop and you can get stuck
in it on Spotify or Apple Podcasts or wherever you
listen to podcasts. Just search Okay story time and you
will have the limitless you know, the archives, the complete archives,
so we do have a little bit more story belaying
where we at here, where we at, we are we
feel in I.

Speaker 1 (01:03:03):
Think this is all going as planned as need to be.

Speaker 5 (01:03:07):
You're not doing anything wrong in Susan's honestly, that's where
we're at. Please let the dad take the dog, and
these don't get a dog if you can't take care of.

Speaker 1 (01:03:14):
It at the end of the night. If you cannot
take care of the pat, you should not have a pat.

Speaker 3 (01:03:17):
Yeah, bipet, that's really easy to take care of, like
a fish.

Speaker 5 (01:03:20):
I haven't heard back at all, but I'm hoping he
will at least check on her. I decided not to
call animal control because it would also impact her husband.
He's a good man and was taking the dog for
several mile runs every morning, working on her training, and
just generally took good care of her. I would hate
for him to never be able to adopt a dog
again for something happening when he's not there.

Speaker 1 (01:03:41):
Well, then you call him up and you say, hey,
your dog is being mistreated. You need to I don't know,
do something about that.

Speaker 5 (01:03:47):
I hope this update finds you all well, and thank
you all once again for giving me the courage to
do what needed to be done. I was honestly really
scared that I would end up in Susan's crosshairs, or
that I might not be believed at all.

Speaker 3 (01:03:59):
Well, thank Goodnes, that's not what happened. That's the end
of that story.

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