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0:00 r/relationship_advice - Wife (22f) of nearly 2 years tells me (23m) spark, passion, etc. has never been in our relationship. How do I react to that?
26:52 r/relationships - Me [29 M] with my [23 M/F] Wife. Came home from work, She told me she's leaving me. I'm lost.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey, this is Sam. This is John, the OG story
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Speaker 2 (00:06):
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a little house.
Speaker 1 (00:12):
Oh yeah, my wife cheated on me with my best friend.
Not great.
Speaker 3 (00:21):
Me twenty three male and my wife twenty two female,
met when we were fourteen when I was playing in
an out of state baseball tournament, and instantly we hit
it off.
Speaker 1 (00:30):
An American love story. Oh. She helped me through my parents'
divorce and I helped her through her sister's asking. Oh
my goodness.
Speaker 3 (00:36):
We talked often about how much we loved each other
and have been together ever since. My friends would often
say how I would lock myself in my room and
talk to her instead of hanging out with them. By
the way, this comes from whack Attack and if you
want to submit your own stories, go to the r slash.
Speaker 1 (00:51):
Okay, story time to stop about it.
Speaker 3 (00:52):
So we visit each other often until I moved to
her state when I was seventeen. We were married in
November of twenty twelve, four years after I moved. Okay,
things were beyond amazing for the entirety of our relationship.
So that's the end of story.
Speaker 1 (01:06):
What do you think to go to Yeah, it sounds
like everything was perfect exccept Oh no, except I know
there's a second half. He's going crazy.
Speaker 3 (01:17):
Except for three months when I faced a deep depression,
we were very spicy, cuddly, loving and inseparabowl most of
the time we spent together. In March of this year,
I started to notice a lack of affection coming from
her end, and I was quite jealous of my best friend,
who my wife spends a lot of time with and babies.
I don't drink booze due to having a heavy drinking father.
(01:39):
They drink together nearly every night, and she usually doesn't
come to bed until three am at the earlier.
Speaker 1 (01:46):
And You're just like, that's totally chill.
Speaker 3 (01:48):
You're gonna let that happen, buddy, Riley told me you
go to sleep at like two to three am. Me.
Speaker 1 (01:53):
Yeah, no, that's what you said to me. Yeah, yeah,
about you. So, hey, she's just following the Riley Wilson plan. No,
I'm not.
Speaker 4 (02:00):
Well, Maybe she is well, depends on what she's doing.
Is she at home or is she with the guy
that is a Yeah, it's kind of unclear, be insane.
Speaker 1 (02:07):
If they were just hanging out in the living room
every night until three am, drinking together, right, that would
be more insane than her being out let's You're like, yeah,
that's weird, Loki. I usually do.
Speaker 3 (02:18):
Not go with them because I wake up rather early. Okay,
so it is out of the house because I wake
up rather early to go work out and go to
grad school. We talked about a relationship after I told
her I was upset, and she told me that our relationship.
Speaker 1 (02:30):
Had zero passion and that she wasn't happy with me.
I mean, wait, what had zero passion? I kind of
got to agree with the zero passion If you don't care,
she's hanging out with someone, some other guy intil three
he said, he's upset. Did you care enough to do
anything about it? Though?
Speaker 4 (02:47):
I mean, he's telling her now, But she can't say
zero passion because they were very passionate right before, like
three months ago, right like this, everything was good.
Speaker 1 (02:54):
They were super cluddly spic related.
Speaker 5 (02:56):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:57):
I think it's depression. I think that's the timeline. Yeah, yeah,
I think, oh he got he got the DEPRESSI and
she said, oh, he's not a perfect person. I guess
I'll have to figure it out. And best friend came in.
You DEPRESSI no DEPRESSI. And what should I do when
my boyfriend's depressed, I'll sleep with his best friend.
Speaker 3 (03:15):
That's a brilliant IDEA good job, Dakota mean Op's girlfriend. God,
So I asked her to work on it with me,
help me make it better, and that it won't be easy.
Speaker 1 (03:27):
She agreed.
Speaker 3 (03:28):
Since then, we have not had any spicy contact, have
not cuddled, have not held hands, have had two dates
despite me asking at least twice a week, and have
made out once. We have not gone to bed within
two hours of each other, and she has slept on
the couch or in my friend's bed.
Speaker 1 (03:44):
If you tie, ah, so this is fully not your girlfriend. No, no,
she just likes sleeps in his bed, cool friend's bed. Yeah,
I'm confused. Why we are staying she just sleeps on
my friend's bed whatever? Like why?
Speaker 3 (03:59):
Well, my birthday was last Monday and all I got
was a happy birthday, No kiss, know anything.
Speaker 1 (04:04):
Dude, most people don't even get that keeps getting better.
Speaker 3 (04:08):
About one month ago, she told me she doesn't think
we have ever had the spark or passion she's talking about.
She thought that loving me was enough to get us
through anything. Despite all of that, I still love her
with all that I am. I cannot imagine being without her.
She's been my best friend for nearly ten years.
Speaker 1 (04:23):
She's been the.
Speaker 3 (04:24):
Anchor in my life for just as long. I keep
racking my brain to try and understand what she means,
but that spark and passion has been there for me.
I don't really know what to do any I love
this woman. She's the most beautiful person I know. She's
the driving force of why I'm in grad school to
provide for her and hopefully our future children. She makes
me even better. I want nothing more than to be
(04:45):
with her, and it seems like it's sliding out from
under me.
Speaker 1 (04:48):
This is my first Reddit post.
Speaker 3 (04:49):
I don't really have much of anyone else to talk
to because my best friend is Part of the problem
is that your friend, buddy, the first time she slept
in his bed, he could be like whoa best friend
and ex friend, ex friend and wife? I believe right, yeah, wife?
What are both of y'all doing? Why is there that
(05:10):
makes me insanely uncomfortable? Like this is way too much Dakota,
you have a face.
Speaker 1 (05:16):
It hurts. It hurts me. I am in anguish. Oh oh,
this is what obe has to do right now, go
to talent, and that's why he went to the value you. Yeah,
she's not your girlfriend anymore. She's his girlfriend and she
probably cheated on you, and that's why she's not gonna
go Well, babe, we don't have this spark. I'm cheating
(05:38):
on you. I slept with your best friend. We have
this bark, but not you and I. She's not gonna
say that, so we don't have a spark. Why'd you
do that?
Speaker 3 (05:46):
You made the spark go away because I hopped on
your friend's disco stick and bounced around like a clown.
Excuse me, excuse me, Dakota, look at me.
Speaker 1 (05:58):
Excuse me. You're excused. No, you're not excused. I am
excusing you from being my girlfriend. Classes in session and
you're freaking late. We're gonna teach you about morals. Yeah,
we're gonna send you back to philosophy. One oh one.
Speaker 4 (06:14):
Also, what I would like to see in this next
little bit is roleplay between you two where Dakota puts
the talent on as the girl and then you're the guy.
Speaker 1 (06:21):
I would love that. Is this like a cameo request?
Like are you submitting this through Fiver or something? Yes,
I'm submitting this right now. I'd love to see that.
Speaker 3 (06:30):
We're gonna do a breakdown of what could happen and
then what should happen before we get into the update. Okay,
stay buckled, and we're going to get there. So you
guys seem to be pretty accepting and helpful. How do
I get the spark or passion back if she hasn't
felt it in our entire relationship? We have some relevant
comments before that, Dakota and I are.
Speaker 1 (06:48):
Going to act out.
Speaker 3 (06:50):
Yes, I am going to play the role of op
and then Dakota is going to play.
Speaker 1 (06:55):
The role of why. Yeah okay guy, hmm yeah.
Speaker 3 (07:01):
Listen, we've had an incredible ten years together. But you know,
it kind of hurts me a lot that you are
hopping on someone's.
Speaker 1 (07:12):
Freaking disco stick up and down. That's crazy. What First
of all, I am not doing that, and also I
don't even like you and I never did.
Speaker 3 (07:20):
Okay, well, you know what. That hurts me so much,
But what is our ten years of relationship meting?
Speaker 1 (07:24):
Oh boring? Boring, boring, boring, years old, boring.
Speaker 3 (07:29):
You know what's really boring? The divorce papers you're about
to get served.
Speaker 1 (07:33):
Oh now, I love you, See I actually love you
more than anything else on earth. Please don't do this
to me? Why are you doing this to me? Here's
the thing.
Speaker 3 (07:42):
I don't know if I can I want to give
you the chance because I've loved you for ten years,
but I don't know if I can get I don't
know if that is the right move. So I'm gonna
have to sit and think. And I don't like this.
The switch up feels now disingenuine. Yeah, can I be
honest with you? If I can break character for a second,
I'm gonna tell you you shouldn't get back with me.
Wait wait, but you still have the time, so I
don't know who's talking.
Speaker 1 (08:02):
Thank you. I've been the woman the whole time. Oh
and yeah, you should break up with me. Break up
with me. I'm actively pulling you down into the abyss
break up with me? End it? That is correct? Yep? Well,
we've got some relevant comments. See what they have to say.
Like Johnny Cash said the ring of fire, Oh ring fire?
Speaker 3 (08:20):
Comment to number one says, why is your wife regularly
out drinking till three am with another man. That's the
first thing to address. Not okay, Opie says, your guess
is as good as mine. I try to go out
with them as often as they can. It's just that
it's nearly an everyday occurrence, and I don't drink, so
I always feel like a third wheel. Strange that I
felt that way with my wife. Yeah, buddy, it is
(08:41):
a little strange, isn't it. Reply Have you asked her
to stop splash cut back? You can't start working on
your relationship unless she's physically there with you now with
someone else, hope, he replies.
Speaker 1 (08:50):
I have.
Speaker 3 (08:51):
Usually gets upset and thinks I'm calling her a heavy drinker.
I've even asked her if we could do something other
than go to bars, maybe bowling, concerts, musicals and anything else,
and it has yet to happen. She also makes it
a point to say nothing is happening between the two
of them, which I believe for the most part.
Speaker 4 (09:07):
Like preemptively, what do you mean for the most part,
which I believe for the most part.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
What part are you believing, Opie?
Speaker 3 (09:14):
Or sweet baby Boy? Also a reminder I might have
us wrong I believe they're like twenty two, dingis butt?
How old are these people? Twenty three and twenty two?
Twenty three and twenty two?
Speaker 1 (09:24):
Where are parents here? It's like, so the parent's responsibility
is to like teach the children what you shouldn't tolerate,
you know, in a relationship. Do they know? I mean
that might not.
Speaker 3 (09:35):
Be something that I'm running to tell my parents, like,
oh yeah, you know, my wife is just like, no
sleeping this other guy's bed all the time.
Speaker 1 (09:41):
No, it's not about them being your counsel. Now, it's
that way. Before they hit twenty two, they should have
had a blueprint for what is unaccepted. But this should
have been it. Yeah, this is wild.
Speaker 4 (09:51):
Yeah, some people are im previous to a good parent.
This is like my age. Imagine me doing this.
Speaker 3 (09:55):
Yeah I could not, Eh, I cannot. Yeah, we have
comment or number two. She's most likely checked out of
your relationship. You need to sit down and ask her
if she still wants to be with you. If she is,
she needs to start working on your relationship with you,
and it needs some serious work. If she isn't truly
willing to work on it, you should leave. Maybe it
will be temporary. When she realizes what she lost. Maybe
it won't, but I'm guessing that because she got married
(10:16):
young and never got to flirt and sleep around, now
she's just wanting to do that.
Speaker 1 (10:19):
Oh I didn't even think about that.
Speaker 3 (10:21):
She may actually be doing it or just fantasizing, but
I'm fairly sure that is what's going on. And we
have our update. Dakota, you're on team divorce. What's your step? Like,
walk me through what do you want to do?
Speaker 1 (10:34):
Well? I also just it just hit me that they've
been together since they were like in fourteen, eighth grade
or whatever. Yep, Like, so yeah, she chaiting. You know.
I feel like now a lot of those kind of
relationships that start really really young, it's like there will
be a conversation around this time where it's like, do
we open our relationship because we've literally like never experienced
(10:55):
anything with anyone else, Like, if we're going to stay
together forever, do we think that it's realistic that we
can pull that off? People can? Some people can't. Sometimes,
you know, it's just it's hard having Like it's it's
hard having only one relationship to base everything off of.
Speaker 3 (11:08):
Yeah, but we know real people in real life who
had a the opposite of the same starting point, but
the opposite in terms of extremely successful.
Speaker 1 (11:16):
Yeah, it's it's not like necessarily it's not wrong outright,
it's just like that is for sure. Why op is
like just like kind of rolling with this. It's all
that they know, so they're not going to let it go.
And that's kind of the negative side. But what you
gotta say is, yes, say it's time to move on,
It's time to leave. I don't know's she might as
well be screaming at you that she's over it and
she's done. I got two words that will solve this
(11:39):
whole thing. Go all pass, all past for.
Speaker 4 (11:43):
Your best friend, well, I mean for her. I was saying,
you give her a hall pass, let her go explore
the world of all amazing disc jockeys out there.
Speaker 1 (11:53):
Sure, if you did that three years ago, maybe if
you did that before anything happened.
Speaker 4 (11:58):
For sure, or maybe now if you still want to
be with forever and you don't care who she's.
Speaker 1 (12:01):
With, but you care who she's with, buddy, I think
we got to care that your girlfriend's sleeping with your
best friend. I think we have to on Princess, just
let her.
Speaker 3 (12:09):
Sleep in everyone's bed every night. What does OP do though?
Well updates? I found out on August eighteenth, while on
vacation with the two of them and a few other
friends at a friend's beach house in Florida, my wife
was wasted at eleven am in the morning and left
her phone in the house while she went to lunch
with him, and I knew I had to take my chance.
Speaker 1 (12:29):
Just like this guy's operating like he doesn't have any evidence,
which is insane.
Speaker 3 (12:33):
He's operating like he doesn't know. He knows that they
were literally in a bed together.
Speaker 1 (12:38):
She just left wasted to go to brunch with him
after waking up in the same bet.
Speaker 3 (12:44):
We don't know that for this night, but other nights
I would bet other knights.
Speaker 1 (12:47):
I'd bet it.
Speaker 3 (12:48):
So after reading some crude texts and several I love you,
I knew it was over.
Speaker 1 (12:54):
Now we know.
Speaker 3 (12:54):
In the hope of not making a scene, I called
the girl whose house we were staying at and told
her what was going on, my stuff and was headed
to my car to drive back to text.
Speaker 1 (13:03):
Wow. Long drive.
Speaker 3 (13:04):
That's when my wife and friends came up the elevator.
They saw all of my stuff and asked what was
going on. Now, that's an awkward elevator.
Speaker 1 (13:11):
Rye.
Speaker 3 (13:12):
I simply said I'm going home, and after further questioning
and some quips and laughs from them, blurted out, I
know you guys are affing. Oh my gosh, you had
it chocolate blue. His response was, what the heck are
you talking about? No, we're not freaking op over here
thinking we're freaking boning.
Speaker 1 (13:29):
Yeah. Her response instant tears. Well, there you go.
Speaker 3 (13:32):
That's how you know she's in she's crying tears of
joy that he is speaking his mind.
Speaker 1 (13:39):
Not that she's like pod or anything. No, no, no,
that's not an at all. It's like a in court,
being like on the stand and you're like your honor.
I have never seen that. Oh what's the red stuff
on my hands is paint? Though? Actually no, the I know.
I just put my hands up in the red. Dad
looks suspicious. I'm a And then you cry tears of
(14:00):
joy because you don't. I'm gonna cry about this now. God,
so oh god. I love my boys.
Speaker 3 (14:09):
She walked with me to my car and told me
that it started in April, but she knew she wanted
to leave me long before that, that I was a
wonderful person, that I'll be happier with someone else, that
something between us was missing, and that she didn't need
me like she.
Speaker 1 (14:22):
Just honestly, I'm just shut up. Just shut your home mouth,
don't talk to me, Go back, go hang out with
your man, because it's not me. Who are you talking to.
Speaker 3 (14:31):
All I could respond with was that she made me
the happiest I had ever been, that she was all
I had ever needed, and that I never needed her.
Speaker 1 (14:42):
I wanted her. Oh good, take interesting.
Speaker 3 (14:46):
He also said, wait, that she was all I ever
needed and that I never needed her. I wanted a
little contradictory, but we're gonna keep going. As I go
back up the elevator, her new boyfriend comes down nearly
in tears and asked if I wanted to talk to him, Bro, you.
Speaker 1 (14:59):
Want to No? No? And all I said was never again? Eh?
I mean, look, this is great. How was this not
happening any earlier? How did you not you felt this
for so long? And it took like wow. When they
went to brunch together without me, I saw and I
love you in the phone, and that's when I knew
everything was over.
Speaker 3 (15:19):
Because you know, Dakota was just laying out a calmon
and understandable scenario, which is like, hey, we've been together
since freaking teenagers. We're still twenty two, twenty three, we're
still young. Is this what do we want to go explore?
Live life independently or maybe the people see this is
what really makes us?
Speaker 1 (15:34):
Hey, you know that makes sense. But Dakota, what did
she do? She didn't talk about any of that, and
she just went and banged his best friend. Are you serious? Yeah?
She just straight up just went and banged his best
friend for like months, but months and months and months.
Speaker 3 (15:47):
When she could have just said, Hey, can we talk
about this coming explore? I'm trying to understand. I know
it's my heart. Let's talk about she and bonus points.
Speaker 1 (15:55):
While she was doing that, she was actively trying to
sabotage the relationship by saying, oh, we've never had a spark.
I've never actually felt anything for you.
Speaker 3 (16:04):
Boner points. What boner points? He wanted to say boner
points instead of bonus points.
Speaker 1 (16:08):
Ah no, but I have none. This is the opposite
of that. Zero boner points. Yeah, this is like the worst.
Speaker 3 (16:15):
Oh boy, yeah, Well, on my way back down the elevator,
they're at the bottom.
Speaker 1 (16:19):
God, what is it with this elevator?
Speaker 3 (16:21):
The homeowner told them that they were welcome, so in tears,
he asked me if I would give them a ride
back for three hundred.
Speaker 1 (16:29):
Dollars at a zero and I'll think about it. M
A two Yeah, thirty, I need thirty now he's going
through divorce. Man, thirty. G's the three grand. I'll sit
there in silence. Oh, guys, can say whatever you want.
I won't be able to hear you. You're insane. That's crazy.
What do you mean for three grand? Uh huh? For
three thousand dollars? I would sit there in complete side.
You think I can associate drive divorced. I'm checked, I'm dissociating.
(16:53):
I might actually be on Dakota side. Now, dude, Yeah,
I'm gonna sit there and they're gonna go. Can we talk.
I'm gonna just say I do the click click, I
turned the volume up on the radio. Oh my gosh,
we know what said to that. I laugh.
Speaker 3 (17:04):
I told him every time you f or, I hope
you know. I wish you would have pulled the trigger.
Speaker 1 (17:09):
Oh no, oh my god.
Speaker 3 (17:12):
He had depression issues and was ready to unlive himself.
But decided not to because I had offered him a
room at my wife and I his house to help
him get back on his feet. Ohki dude, okay, just
to take a quick steck into diccond who's worse in
that situation?
Speaker 1 (17:26):
This is why?
Speaker 3 (17:27):
Okay, so OPI could have addressed this weight early, been
like what you're doing is unacceptable and like sleeping with
sleeping in his bed, like hanging out to three and
the things that the facts that he knew, like why
are you doing to this?
Speaker 1 (17:37):
But why why are you hurting me? This is this
is not fair.
Speaker 3 (17:40):
He could have said all that, but by not addressing it,
that's what pent up the rage and resentment. To have
him say such a like that is too Yes he
did it an a trrocious thing to you your best friends.
Speaker 1 (17:51):
But we don't need to say that. Sure, we don't
need to say that. But it's understandable. Ah no, come on,
no to do it. I know I'm saying that in
that moment after the this is what the fourth time
they're trying to provoke a conversation with OPI. I'm not
saying I approve of it. Yeah, I'm not saying that
it's a good thing to say. I'm just saying, you
bring in your best friend, you literally in your heart,
You're like, I'm saving I just saved my best friend's life.
(18:14):
And how does he repay you? He sleeps with your
wife and now this he's for the fourth time trying
to be like, hey, can we like, we'll pay you
three hundred dollars and that'll make up for It's like,
do I approve of it? Of course not. Do I
understand it? Yes? Again, I don't know. That's a deep cut.
I'm saying I understand it, not that I condone it.
Speaker 4 (18:35):
I don't even Yes, does he pushed the limit by
fire with fire? But in this case, there's no like
fire to win. It's all gonna burn a lot.
Speaker 1 (18:42):
You're not gonna feel good later about having said that.
Speaker 4 (18:44):
Yeah, But also you get like, you go to your
friend's house, you're feeling down. They help you get back
on your feet, and this is how you pay them.
That's what I'm saying. It's not it is insane.
Speaker 1 (18:54):
You cannot condone it, but you can understand it. It's
still not gonna and he's gonna feel bad about it later.
I'm all. That's all I'm saying. I'm just saying I
understand why he said that, gotcha. It's just I'm not
saying it's okay, but I understand it too much.
Speaker 3 (19:08):
But Opie says, I then drove thirteen hours straight home,
called everyone I could think of, including both of their parents,
who I wouldn't hesitate to call my own.
Speaker 1 (19:16):
Wow.
Speaker 3 (19:16):
When I got home, I was packing my things and
saw my wife's journal slash diary slash writing notebook.
Speaker 1 (19:21):
At this point, I don't care anymore, but I read it.
Speaker 3 (19:23):
Gets a story written and dated March fourteenth about their
very detailed.
Speaker 1 (19:27):
Spicy sleep life. Why do people detail the stuff in
their journal?
Speaker 3 (19:29):
It's crazy how they would wait for me to go
to sleep and f on our couch, slash in my car,
slash in my bed when I wasn't home, slash in
his bed, slashed in our shower, slash in our garage.
Speaker 1 (19:40):
So it was just hot for her. She just liked
how sneaky and hot it was. Oh my god.
Speaker 3 (19:46):
Another poem was dated February twenty fourteen, detailing how a
shadow haunted her, but he was her future and her
true love. Oh so, Opie was a shadow that all
she could taste was his lips. This was Opie, the
ex wife is a bad poet.
Speaker 1 (20:03):
I just imagine that like a strange curse, like the
Midas Church, where everything you touched her ins into gold.
It's like you can't taste anything unless it's lip shaped.
Like but I imagine she was like, oh, taste the lip.
I love the taste of lip. This was all before
I had ever known she was unhappy. We were still
(20:24):
having spicy sleep regularly up until mid March, even had
spicy sleep twice in very.
Speaker 3 (20:29):
Early April, so she was lying about all that too.
All of her friends have abandoned her. I now live
with her former best friend, the owner of the beach house,
and two of her other friends.
Speaker 1 (20:38):
They've all said their pieces to her and been blocked
in the process.
Speaker 3 (20:42):
I filed for divorce finally on Friday, and my god,
does it feel good.
Speaker 1 (20:46):
I am so relieved to be out of it.
Speaker 3 (20:47):
I was racking my brain for so long trying to
figure out what I was doing wrong.
Speaker 1 (20:52):
Turns out I wasn't. That's right.
Speaker 3 (20:54):
But yeah, I mean, just to kind of reiterate the
point we've been saying throughout this is like op was
so well within his right, and I think This is
just kind of you.
Speaker 1 (21:03):
Know, young young boy man.
Speaker 3 (21:07):
Early twenty two year old man, vibes of just like
oh what do I say? Like how do I figure
this out? And it's like, no, you're not doing anything wrong.
Your wife completely betrayed you and it's completely okay, and
she should be confronted because she needs to know, Hey,
look at this insanely fed up thing you're doing to me.
Speaker 1 (21:30):
What is this? What's they think? This is a story
that shows the importance of having counsel. You have to
be able to talk about your relationship with the other
people in your life, like your friends. It's like, you know,
because if you don't. I can only imagine if I
was in this position and I was talking to my
friends when I was in my early twenties and I
explained what was going on, they would have been like,
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you need to break up with her yesterday? What are
you doing? Yeah, I know you've been with her for
ten years? What are you doing? You just be in
his bed, you know. But it doesn't sound like OPI
had that, And I don't know if that's a byproduct
of the relationship or just Op's prerogative, but yeah, you
have more than just the person in front of you
to base your perspective off of. You know, I just
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imagine the friends could have helped greatly. I agree, like
anyone at any outside perspective whatsoever on the situation. Anyone.
Speaker 3 (22:22):
Well, boys and girls, let's get into the finale here.
So now I'm recovering slowly, I'm sure, but I now
have a sudden strong.
Speaker 1 (22:28):
Interest in women. Oh shock, Oh, I have really quickly.
I just have to realize it was his best friend
who was doing the cheating. Yep. So your counsel would
have been like, you're tripping. Dang, a lot of gas lighting.
Oh my god, yeah, you were in an unwrintable situiza.
Speaker 3 (22:45):
Yep, am, yeah, yeah, cards are stacked. Maybe the cards
were stacked. Is it just a rebound being interested in
other women. I'm not sure. I'm not pushing the issue
or anything. And I haven't dated in nine years. I mean,
granted you were freaking fourteen. Brother, well he starts here, okay,
but i'd like to. I know it's still probably too soon,
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but I do long for it because I've had it
and now it's missing. That being said, I'm happy to
be single. I'm enjoying just being me currently, but wouldn't
mind someone just really quick. Op I would highly advise
not jumping right into a relationship right now.
Speaker 1 (23:21):
Yes, be single, nah, jump in rebound, be some Dennis
Rodman that rebounds don't have to be relationships. Pet.
Speaker 3 (23:28):
It could be literally rebounding a actual physical basketball because
you're hitting the court and up in your game.
Speaker 1 (23:33):
It could be truly.
Speaker 3 (23:34):
It could be you are building beds because beds also
portrayed you in the process, and by building learning how
to build beds, you are reclaiming that or destroying them
or destroying them.
Speaker 1 (23:47):
Yeah, start a new business and might start a rage room. Yeah,
I like that. That's your rebound. So many things somebody
offs so many opts.
Speaker 3 (23:55):
I actually kind of feel like our relationship has been
over for longer than a month. I mean, I was
living a live last seven months. She promised me we
would work on our marriage, while all she was doing
was working on him. But I would appreciate any advice
about the future and dating after divorce. I'm kind of worried. Actually,
I feel like no one will want me for that
reason alone. Absolutely not. How do I go about dating
as a divorce twenty three slash twenty four year old
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when I'm ready.
Speaker 1 (24:17):
Is it as daunting as it seems? Yeah? And no,
I mean yeah no, but yeah, what do you mean? No? Yeah,
dating is daunting. We can accept that. Well, it's daunting,
but I would say, like it's work. I mean, it
can be worthwhile, but it's risky for sure. I mean
it's well.
Speaker 3 (24:35):
I think the thing that popped into my head was like,
we can get all of these ideas and preconceived notions
and try to.
Speaker 1 (24:42):
Think of a good example. Uh, work at tomato in it.
Speaker 3 (24:45):
Here we go, I will cooking, cooking, okay, okay, So
when you're cooking, sometimes there might be a technique where
it's like I don't know, hard, sorry, I have to
go drumming.
Speaker 1 (24:55):
I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry. Yeah, I'm dropping the
tomato drumming.
Speaker 3 (24:59):
This might not can next to my non drummers out there,
but bear with In drumming, sometimes it's easier to like
when you're playing with both hands, it kind of just
like flows, it's natural. But then sometimes they're like, play
with one hand. You can see how that'd be like
kind of weird in your brain, right, like, oh, like
playing with both hands and oh, now I gotta just
play with one hand.
Speaker 1 (25:15):
But you're doing the same thing.
Speaker 3 (25:17):
You're literally doing the same thing with the one hand,
but your brain is just tricking you. There's just a
thing that your brain is telling you, Oh, this is weird,
this is hard, this is awkward. No, actually, you were
doing that same thing before. So I would say, like,
you have this kind of cloud hanging over you. But
imagine an alternative universe where you're just like, Okay.
Speaker 1 (25:36):
I haven't really you know, dated much.
Speaker 3 (25:37):
I'm just gonna start dating, and you wouldn't be thinking
about it.
Speaker 1 (25:41):
It's looky a little bit kind of the same thing.
I didn't have you until the end and then I
got you. Y, thank you. I knew it was. It's
a very niche I'm sorry. I feel like it's similar
to what I would say, which is just I don't know.
I can only say how I move through stuff. Yes,
and I moved through things based on just like vibe,
does it feel right? It's taken me, I guess, a
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hot minute to get to a point where I can
be in tune with that. Yeah, I was about to ask,
how's that going? It's good, But like you have to
know when things feel wrong and you have to be
able to identify it and then have like the conviction
to be like, nah, but this does feel wrong, Like
that photo, actually photo feels wrong, and I know that
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feels wrong. I don't have to have anyone tell me.
You see the full body. Let's go full body, look
ow curvy. I'm snatched though I am snatched, pretty snash,
but but that feels wrong. So I think what you
need to find op is you need to take the
time to figure out what feels right and what feels
wrong for you. You can't do that in a relationship because
there's no room for exploration.
Speaker 3 (26:45):
That's right, and his producer Riley is kindly pointing out
that is the end of that one.
Speaker 1 (26:49):
But we's got more we do. Let's go. I'm ready.
My wife told me she's leaving me. Bye by my to.
Speaker 3 (26:57):
Begin Me twenty nine mail and my wife twenty three female.
We're married in late twenty fourteen. We've only been married
for a little over three months to the day. We
started dating around three and a half years ago.
Speaker 1 (27:07):
So I know it's just you think it's already a
bad sign when it's like we've been married three months
to the day. Just feel like it's like count in
the days.
Speaker 3 (27:15):
I don't know, I feel like it's an omen hmm,
well we will see about that. We started dating around
three and a half years ago, when I was twenty six,
she was twenty one. Popped the question after two years together,
planned the wedding for one year, and got married.
Speaker 1 (27:28):
Everything was great.
Speaker 3 (27:29):
By the way, this comes from Divorced thor Away one, two, three,
five and if you want to submit your own stories,
go to the r slash Okay storytime start about it.
So about a month ago she started acting different. I
can't really put it into words, but it's a lot
like the Uncanny Valley studying nuances that just clew you
into the fact that something isn't right. Asking her if
something was wrong led to the obvious and infamous I'm fine,
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I'm fine.
Speaker 1 (27:50):
Those are my favorite. So if it's so obvious and infamous,
why are we married? Oh? That's the question. I would
never marry someone I can't have a conversation with.
Speaker 4 (27:58):
Talk to me even so, you would never bark like no, right,
I would have first, I wouldn't.
Speaker 1 (28:05):
Yeah, we can't do this, Hey, deaf people, you hearing
this right now? That was actually that scay I like that.
Speaker 3 (28:12):
Oh my god, all right, we'll get We'll give that
one to Riley. So around this time it came to
my attention. I asked us to her phone after noticing
her guarding it constantly that she was talking to a
coworker on social media. How the exchange wasn't anywhere near
as damning as what you tend to read about on here,
but still worrisome. The coworkers had a few things that
I told her across some real boundaries that that we
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had Step, I really wish you were here to rub
my head and make me fall asleep, and I'm trying
to get out with you tonight.
Speaker 1 (28:40):
Mm. Yeah, so those are fishy. Those are fishy, very fishy. Okay,
not cool.
Speaker 3 (28:46):
The rest of it was her getting upset that he
didn't tell her what he was doing over time. Here's
the part where I take a lot of the keats.
I've had some real trust issues in this relationship. She
was texting Slash the leading texts to an ex behind
my back for stall three months earlier in the relationship,
and we broke up. We ended up working it out,
but that trust was really broken that day. The real
tragedy is that I disrespected the sanctity of our marriage
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by entering into it with someone I didn't trust. I
was too afraid to lose her. I I think that's
a great self aware to say.
Speaker 1 (29:17):
Gotta love the twenty twenty hind sight.
Speaker 3 (29:19):
Listen, it's like, hey, I chose to like go into
it knowing that I didn't feel the foundation of drust
wasn't there.
Speaker 1 (29:27):
Yep. And you know what's okay Dakota.
Speaker 3 (29:29):
Saying, hey, look, I'm tempted to do and I want
to get married to you, but I feel the foundation
of trust isn't there.
Speaker 1 (29:35):
And how long it was? Four years Breen a half
years and a half years, so getting Op is twenty
four ish. He's now around there.
Speaker 4 (29:43):
Yeah, Op is twenty nine and currently wife is twenty three.
Speaker 1 (29:47):
Oh I thought I thought Ope was the younger one. Yep.
Speaker 3 (29:49):
Okay, that's another boy, Okay, Yeah, twenty one and twenty
six when they met.
Speaker 1 (29:53):
Well, well, well, I'm well, it's glad you I'm glad
you know it now, ma'am. Yeah, hey all, it's John
Ogi host here. We're gonna get back to the story. So,
but here's a quick three minute break from ask for response.
Speaker 3 (30:05):
So I find these messages about forty five minutes before
we leave for work, and she comes out and sits
on the couch and starts crying and says she's not happy. I,
of course, attempted to console her and ask her if
it had anything to do with this mysterious coworker. She
said it did not, and she was just unhappy with
her whole life. She insinuated that she was unhappy with
our marriage, and I asked if she was actually sitting
here contemplating divorce, something I told her I don't do
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unless there's adultery.
Speaker 1 (30:30):
She said, I.
Speaker 3 (30:31):
Don't know op it takes. If someone's like, hey, I
don't want to be in this relationship, you can't. I
don't do divorce. You're gonna stay married to me for eternity. Well,
I mean you told her what she needs to do
to get divorced.
Speaker 4 (30:46):
Yeah, I'm about to say, here's the manual, because I
don't know if you decide to marry someone, wouldn't the
I'm not happy in this relationship come up earlier? You
know you would hope? No, Okay, yeah, you know, like
it's like I want to be with you for the
rest of my life.
Speaker 1 (31:01):
It's not like three months in I before right, intangibly,
all that changed is we're now married, and you're just like,
my whole life is a mess? Is it because you're
married to me? So you can't leave me as easily?
Like you feel trapped like it's like those are the
only things you could be upset about now, So go.
Speaker 3 (31:19):
Ahead, go date the guy at your office. It seems
very fish, very very very effish, she said, I don't know.
I really feel that moment was the beginning of the end.
She became distant. All spicy sleep stopped, and she was cold, rude,
and simply checked out.
Speaker 1 (31:34):
She started staying at work. She's a call center rep
and extra.
Speaker 3 (31:38):
Sixty to ninety minutes late every day, stating that she
was on a long call.
Speaker 1 (31:42):
Yeah, I bet he does have a long call.
Speaker 3 (31:44):
Ooh nice one. I was gonna say the call wasn't
the only thing that was long. Oh God. She was
no longer affectionate, was no longer loving. No matter what,
she didn't want to do anything that could be considered
a marital asset. I'm glad she did this. We discussed
counseling less than a week ago. She wanted to do it,
so did I. I asked her earlier today what she
wanted me to bring home for dinner, since she had
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spent the entire day at her families. She said nothing.
I got one word answers all day long today and
not a single reply to and I love you or hey.
Speaker 1 (32:14):
I'm at ork love you. It was okay, why okay,
I love you? Why? Why? Why? Oh fishy? Oh god,
yeah that's pretty fishy.
Speaker 3 (32:26):
Yeah, pretty pretty pretty fishy. Oh oh god. Oh that's
too nefarious. That is too spy for this tuna farious.
Speaker 4 (32:40):
Uh uh uh oh oh, man's got some got some
fishy jokes.
Speaker 1 (32:47):
Didn't even mean to do that. I won't even give
myself credit.
Speaker 3 (32:50):
So I walked to the door immediately after work and
she's on the couch crying. I go over hugger and
ask what's wrong. She mutters, I'm leaving.
Speaker 1 (32:57):
Oh, she mutters. She muttered, I'm leaving. I'm leaving. Okay, okay,
dang hit you gotta hit her with the Willy Wonka.
You really mustn't mumble, oh man, who are you a
little pump? A? Part of me, why are you mumbling? Yes? Right?
Speaker 4 (33:14):
Part of me feels like he wants to see if
op he's gonna fight for the relationship, you know, honestly.
Speaker 1 (33:20):
It's like, I'm fine. It's like, no, you're not. What's
going on? Why the hell do I have to fight
for the relationship? We got married three months ago. I
would vite for it. What are we talking about?
Speaker 4 (33:29):
Give her a little one too, like you know, I
mean not like emotionally since not wait no, like, don't
hit her, just like hit the problem she's faced against
about you guys.
Speaker 3 (33:40):
Dive into the emotional complexities.
Speaker 1 (33:43):
Hit yes, exactly that the word don't hit anybody. Riley's
trying words deding. Oh man.
Speaker 3 (33:57):
So I go over hugger and ask what's wrong? She mutters,
I I'm leaving. I felt gone, and though I could cry,
I couldn't get angry. I could only sit down and
put my head in my hand. I calmly told her
that we would need to divide the phone bill. Weird
place to start, and then you of the phone bill.
Speaker 1 (34:14):
It is undeniably a weird place to begin, so odd.
And then I'd keep the dogs so they don't get
split up. She agreed. I told her that I wanted
to be here. When she picked up her stuff from
our house, she said it was never her home. We
moved in in June twenty fourteen. Thankfully, the house was
a gift for my grandmother, and my grandmother's name was
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still Honest. Well, technically it's not either of your houses.
Good on, Mamma. And Grandma comes in in the fourth
act and becomes the real main character. She says, these
two idiots are living in my house, and I want
them both gone.
Speaker 3 (34:48):
Great Granny has come to save the day. I packed
all her stuff up and told my boss what was happening.
She gave me the go ahead to take the next
three to four days off. Who stored it out? She
was crying. She asked me for a hug for some reason.
I don't know why, but I obliged and told her
that I loved her and didn't want this. She said
she didn't either and left. Okay, I know I did
a lot of wrong in my relationship. I wish I
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would have sought help for these trust issues long ago. Yes, thankfully,
she had stated that since we own nothing of value,
the divorce is going to be pretty simple. She gets
her stuff, I get her key, and she's gone. She's
gonna buy me out of the phone bill. What what
I'm sorry, but this is okay, okay, all right.
Speaker 1 (35:26):
We've brought up the phone bill twice and the dog's once.
Speaker 3 (35:29):
Okay, all right, I'm just gonna let it, let it lie,
and I'll get her removed from the phone bole.
Speaker 1 (35:34):
This is just a secret advertisement for a phone company.
At the end of this, ah, I would be so agree.
It's just like and then I found my wife on
my beep like I would buy.
Speaker 3 (35:43):
I would delete this whole episode if that, If that
was true, I would delete this entire episode.
Speaker 1 (35:48):
No free sponsors.
Speaker 3 (35:49):
We didn't buy any sort of marital assets while we
were together, so it should be a clean break. I
hopefully won't even need a lawyer. I have this nagging
feeling that I need to seek the use of a
lawyer anyway.
Speaker 1 (36:00):
Yes, yes, yes, just yeah.
Speaker 3 (36:04):
You're not a lawyer, so just do that that If
the woman I married, the woman that I knew for
almost three years, could turn that quickly, I may need
a lawyer to protect myself at it. I told her
that I had packed her stuff up last night, that
it shouldn't take too long to move it at all.
She asked if I was going to be here when
she came over. I'm a little concerned that ten plus
members of her family are going to show up and
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literally rob me blind. I will update when this is over,
and there's an update. Okay, So now soon to be
ex wife's family of ten plus people might just freaking
rob ope.
Speaker 1 (36:35):
That's a new development. The phone bill is the phone bill?
Is it a precarious situation?
Speaker 4 (36:44):
People do get locked into phone bill like contracts for
a while. Dude, it gets pretty rough. It could be
like two hundred dollars a month.
Speaker 1 (36:53):
Oh oh my god, she's rolling up with the squad though,
ten plus family members. She needs ten plus people to
move her stuff. But y'all own nothing of value. You
know what?
Speaker 3 (37:09):
They need ten people to tug of war style split
this impossible figure out phone bill.
Speaker 1 (37:17):
They're just carrying the phone bill out of the house.
That's what they need people to carry the paper that
the phone bill is printed on because it's so huge.
I bet you one thousand dollars.
Speaker 4 (37:27):
The first person he pulled was the phone company and
he was like, hey man, I'm going through a divorce.
I need to can't split my phone bill up.
Speaker 1 (37:35):
You're never gonna believe this. And then they're like, you're
the first person I'm calling about this. By the way,
I was going to trigger you. Riley. Uh oh, yeah,
you call the phone company and then they keep you
on hold for an hour and a half and hang up.
Oh my gosh, that did happen to me? Don't tell it? Yeah,
I look definitely record, be there, be present. It's like,
it's not about like that. Oh I don't trust it,
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but it's like, yeah, clearly things are ending. We need to, like,
I don't know, make sure no one's doing any foul play.
So I'll be there to make sure you take your
stuff and not mine.
Speaker 3 (38:07):
Dakota, I have one simple question for you, and I'm
so sorry to ask. I apologize with every piece.
Speaker 1 (38:15):
Of my soul. I forgive you. How am I supposed
to record what's going on?
Speaker 3 (38:20):
The damn phone bill is up in the air. How
do I call? How do I have the data to
know I can store this information? My gosh, pocket camera,
I supposed to order one with this phone bill situation.
They're gonna have to go to the public library. Oh
my god, how did you get there? If he doesn't
know how to drive there with his phone?
Speaker 1 (38:40):
Rent cameras from the library. Riley was telling me earlier
today you can rent tools from the library in LA.
Libraries are stick. Dude, is that lie? Riley? Were you
lying to me? I never know when Riley's lying to
me or not because I just trust him, and he
always takes advantage of that. You know, we're lying to me, Dakota.
Speaker 3 (38:59):
We're so trusting, you know, and Riley takes her trust
like a phone bill and just rips it in.
Speaker 1 (39:04):
Half with no regard of eight.
Speaker 3 (39:08):
So, in the night of the event, as I said,
I stayed up all night packing her things and putting
them in the hallway. I texted her the following day
to tell her it was all packed and the sooner
she could get there, the better it would be for
the both of us. She said she was coming around
eleven am. She didn't get there until almost four pm.
During that period of time, I contacted our wireless provider
to get her taken off the bill. This is the
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big moment. This is the big moment. Change the passwords
to every account. I had deleted all social media accounts
after blocking her and her family and any mutual friends.
Speaker 1 (39:39):
I met through her whoa whoa.
Speaker 3 (39:41):
And contacted some friends if any of them were available
to be here with me when her and her family
got here to take her stuff out of the house.
I had three friends go up. Her family didn't even
come to help her on day one, with the exception
of her brother. Day one, the freaking gang of Familia
was the brother who told she was just quote unquote
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two immature for a marriage. Things were friendly between us.
She showed up, stood in the bathroom crying for fifteen minutes.
Speaker 1 (40:07):
A friendly, A friendly crying for fifteen minutes in the bathroom.
Oh my.
Speaker 3 (40:13):
I was nothing but friendly to her and offered to
help move some of the heavier stuff out. She loaded
her car, said she'd be back with a truck later
for big things, and left. My friend said I did
a great job being friendly and helpful, and that it
was as good as it could have went. She never
comes back with a truck. She went to the phone
store to pick out a brand new, expensive smartphone and
an expensive plan to accompany it.
Speaker 1 (40:35):
Never forget to take care of the phone bill.
Speaker 3 (40:39):
That is the most important detail in this story.
Speaker 1 (40:43):
For better or for worse. She was always attached at
the hip to the phone.
Speaker 3 (40:48):
I'm sorry because the word the phone wasn't on until
the next page, so I didn't even know is Op.
Speaker 1 (40:55):
Eighty five, Like what's going on here?
Speaker 3 (40:58):
It's very much giving the like, oh you're so young,
you're just a baby. But he was the one who
got together with her at twenty twenty one in.
Speaker 1 (41:06):
Yeah, sure, let's change those ages. Those are anonymous ages.
Let's make them the real ages. Oh he's seventy six.
And it's like I had to guess. They just those phones.
I gotta get that phone off. That phone they're using,
like the flip phone, the Jitterbug. And then they're like,
I just don't know. I gotta get that phone off
of my And that's why she's like, I can't do this.
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I don't know why I married an eighty year old man.
You can buy the Jitterbug at CVS. No joke. She
divorced him because he kept saying this is a sell
free zone.
Speaker 3 (41:38):
Yeah, hey baby, he probably thinks. He probably thinks the
divorced because of the phone. Honestly, at this point, I
wouldn't be surprised.
Speaker 1 (41:45):
Girl gise me through the phone. That's what she's been
doing with your coworker. Ah, that's true. Another reason to
cancel the phone bill. Yeah, so for better for work.
Speaker 3 (41:56):
She was always attached at the hip to the phone,
so it made sense to me that this would be
a p already for her.
Speaker 1 (42:00):
I am going to be charged a three to four
hundred dollars cancelation.
Speaker 5 (42:07):
Why Bill, I thought you just fixed all that? Why
are we still fall shine phone bill story, which she
states she's going to pay with me, She claims, I
thankfully agreed.
Speaker 3 (42:23):
But I expect that I will be paying this bill alone,
no matter what I'm prepared.
Speaker 1 (42:28):
Would get the money from? What do you mean she's
gonna get the money? She didn't think got the money?
Get the money?
Speaker 3 (42:35):
Day two, after a night with some friends, I need
an extra bit of shut eye. But she is calling
and knocking at my door at nine am in the morning,
bright and early. Part of me suspects she did this
to avoid any of my friends being there. Part of
me suspect she wants to show off her brand new phone.
N I'm just kidding, but likely she just wanted to
get it done. I let her in, said good morning,
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and let her get to work. We did a walk
through of all the other rooms. She agreed there was
there's nothing left in there for her to take. I
shut the doors and made it clear that those rooms
would be off limits when families showed up to help.
Speaker 1 (43:07):
She agreed.
Speaker 3 (43:07):
I tried to give her some of our wedding gifts,
a blender, et cetera, if she wanted them. I told
her I wouldn't mind if she kept the blender. She
was all right with that, to which she gave me
the surprising answer, what you're going to start working out
like you used to? Trying to make me jealous? Ladies
and gentlemen, the phone has taken the back seat to
the new star of the story, the blender home appliances.
Speaker 1 (43:31):
Nowhere are you gonna be using this blender for your
protein shakes after you do the gym? X bae, Dude,
what are you trying to make me jealous? Because it's working?
Speaker 3 (43:40):
Literally, shut up now. This is said very very sarcastically.
A little backstory. I put on about thirty five to
forty pounds over the past few years.
Speaker 1 (43:49):
I used to be a lot more trim, a lot
more muscular. She has known that I.
Speaker 3 (43:52):
Started going back to the gym a few months ago
with her, and that it was something I had used
frequently in the past to assist myself both mentally and physically.
Speaker 1 (44:00):
I gave a lighthearted reply in it. Well that's the plan,
I guess. She then started screaming, me too, motivation motivation, motivation,
me too, motivation, motivation, motivation, I'm gonna pass shut up,
get out of my house, Get out of my grandma's.
Speaker 3 (44:18):
House, and went back to packing her stuff. I started
getting worried at this point. Maybe this ability I thought
she had going into this isn't something she's going to
carry through the entirety of it. She started finding little
things to try and get me upset. With a Christmas
ornament my four year old nephew gave me because it
looked like my dog. It had sat on my computer
desk in the office for three years. She wanted it,
claimed it as hers, and I gladly gave.
Speaker 1 (44:39):
It to her.
Speaker 3 (44:40):
She wanted some brass mouse thing and a piggybank.
Speaker 1 (44:44):
As a mouse. But also I had to stop you
to say, why are you okay with that? I hate
you for being okay with that? Why are you okay
with that? Keep the brass mouse? You say, no, you
can't take the thing my nephew gave me. He's over it.
I do, No, you can't have that. It has on
as a desperate. I'd be like, give me your phone.
It's my phone. You haven't paid me for your phone,
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so give me your phone.
Speaker 3 (45:07):
There is a lot, there is one, and a piggybank
with thirty to forty cents side of it.
Speaker 1 (45:11):
Keep counting.
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Speaker 3 (45:16):
I said they were all hers, and that was absolutely
fine by me. She went into the rooms I closed
off and got those things. That was the last time
she entered any of those rooms. She then asked ified
help her move all of her things to the car,
but once again no one came to help her. I
told her I did not want to assist her anymore
than I have to heavy things. I did this as
calmly and straightforward as I could. This was petty on
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my part, but I feel that in this scenario I
really should be assisting her with this. She got an
attitude about this, and she didn't appreciate how I was
crap talking her with my friends yesterday. Since I wasn't
doing this, I assumed she was trying to once again
get me upset, so I calmly told her I wasn't
I accepted that I've got some blame in this as well,
and I apologized to you for getting married to you
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when I didn't rush. That's high school. It wasn't fair
to you. It disrespects what our marriage is about, and
I am sorry. Her demeanor seemed to change almost instantly.
Speaker 1 (46:08):
Yeah, I mean, I think, just stop giving her your stuff.
And as we're also ignoring the fact that she clearly
cheated on you when she was staying late at work
for those ninety extra minutes, you could say emotionally cheating.
I would bet the cost of that phone cancelation plan
that they were up to something.
Speaker 3 (46:25):
Do you realize what you're saying that is that is
them is fighting words. That is probably the biggest accusation you.
Speaker 1 (46:31):
Can ever make. The phone bill, not to cheating, the
phone bill, the phone the phone bill, To be clear,
it's the phone bill. It's important, it's important. We're gonna
get into the end of the story.
Speaker 3 (46:40):
She packed it all up again, and her father called
me to say they'd be there in a moment.
Speaker 1 (46:44):
She was leaving.
Speaker 3 (46:44):
When I asked for the house key, she gave me
a separate key that wasn't to the home. I tested
it in the front to show her that I knew,
and she muttered something and drove off. Her family got
there two hours later. It was just mom and dad.
They moved the rest out. We were more than amicable
towards each other. It even helped them move some of
the larger pieces to the truck. I wish them both well,
say goodbye and shut the door. At this point, my
closest friend's stepfather called me to ask if I was okay.
Speaker 1 (47:07):
He came by, We had a few drinks, and I
changed the locks.
Speaker 3 (47:10):
The only thing left at this point is the simplified
dissolution of marriage, which I will be getting notorized Monday.
Speaker 1 (47:17):
I guess that's like an official I never heard of that.
I guess if you are only married for three months,
maybe I wonder where this is. There's clearly they have
a window where they're like, yeah, you guys, oops, you
guys did a oopsy We'll just don'tdo that.
Speaker 4 (47:28):
Yeah, and a region where getting a phone bill is
a pain in the butt.
Speaker 1 (47:32):
That's Riley great point. Those are the important thing. I
will say.
Speaker 4 (47:36):
When my grandma had to cancel her phone bill, I
had to do it for her, and it was super
silky smooth, and I saved her ten percent of what
she was paying a.
Speaker 1 (47:43):
Lot of money. We need to get that persons, that
company as a sponsor. That would be lit. We have
such a great story.
Speaker 3 (47:48):
Only thing left at this point is to get the
simplified dissolution of marriage, which I will be getting notorized Monday,
signed by her on Wednesday, the next day she is
free and we'll be turning it in that day. After
this is done, I should be starting the process to
be finishing my divorce in less than a week.
Speaker 1 (48:02):
Oh no, now I see what he says, saying start
to finish the process is taking a week start to finish. Okay,
my divorce is going to be done in a week.
Speaker 3 (48:09):
Yes, so I should be start to finish divorced in
less than a week.
Speaker 1 (48:13):
Thank you to go to.
Speaker 3 (48:14):
I don't really feel any certain way. I haven't missed
her like I have girlfriends past. I haven't stayed it
at night thinking about her. I'm more concerned with her
well being than I am about my anything physical she
may be doing. Those thoughts haven't bothered me at all.
Once we're officially divorced, I'm going one hundred percent no
contact phone number is getting changed. The most important part,
and that is the conclusion.
Speaker 1 (48:35):
Yeah, I feel like as as I've gotten older, that
matters less or impacts less. In order a breakup, she's like,
oh my god, what if she's with someone else, It's
like whatever, we're all apes. Yeah, we are all literally
prime apes. Like whatever, It's okay, I think we lose this.
Speaker 3 (48:51):
I don't know what if you want to call it jealous,
kind of controlling whatever, it's like, oh everyone, no, one's
entitled to anything. That's really what it is at the
end of the day, and weize, oh, you know what,
as long as there's like you know, all right, hey,
this isn't working. Whatever we cleaned, step right, someone goes off,
does there thing?
Speaker 1 (49:07):
All right?
Speaker 3 (49:07):
Whatever I'm not in You're not legally mandated to do whatever,
Like okay, I'm just going to go live my life.
Speaker 1 (49:13):
Yeah, truly, it's like I'm more. Yeah, it's just at
that point, it's okay, we're not together. That's no longer
my jurisdiction. So why would I go out of my
way to concern myself with that? But so, good job, Op,
there we go.
Speaker 3 (49:26):
Hope you have some some good stuff. Yeah, absolutely, Yeah,
that's the end of that story. So if you love us,
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Speaker 1 (00:12):
Oh yeah, my wife cheated on me with my best friend.
Not great.
Speaker 3 (00:21):
Me twenty three male and my wife twenty two female,
met when we were fourteen when I was playing in
an out of state baseball tournament, and instantly we hit
it off.
Speaker 1 (00:30):
An American love story. Oh. She helped me through my parents'
divorce and I helped her through her sister's asking. Oh
my goodness.
Speaker 3 (00:36):
We talked often about how much we loved each other
and have been together ever since. My friends would often
say how I would lock myself in my room and
talk to her instead of hanging out with them. By
the way, this comes from whack Attack and if you
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Speaker 1 (00:51):
Okay, story time to stop about it.
Speaker 3 (00:52):
So we visit each other often until I moved to
her state when I was seventeen. We were married in
November of twenty twelve, four years after I moved. Okay,
things were beyond amazing for the entirety of our relationship.
So that's the end of story.
Speaker 1 (01:06):
What do you think to go to Yeah, it sounds
like everything was perfect exccept Oh no, except I know
there's a second half. He's going crazy.
Speaker 3 (01:17):
Except for three months when I faced a deep depression,
we were very spicy, cuddly, loving and inseparabowl most of
the time we spent together. In March of this year,
I started to notice a lack of affection coming from
her end, and I was quite jealous of my best friend,
who my wife spends a lot of time with and babies.
I don't drink booze due to having a heavy drinking father.
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They drink together nearly every night, and she usually doesn't
come to bed until three am at the earlier.
Speaker 1 (01:46):
And You're just like, that's totally chill.
Speaker 3 (01:48):
You're gonna let that happen, buddy, Riley told me you
go to sleep at like two to three am. Me.
Speaker 1 (01:53):
Yeah, no, that's what you said to me. Yeah, yeah,
about you. So, hey, she's just following the Riley Wilson plan. No,
I'm not.
Speaker 4 (02:00):
Well, Maybe she is well, depends on what she's doing.
Is she at home or is she with the guy
that is a Yeah, it's kind of unclear, be insane.
Speaker 1 (02:07):
If they were just hanging out in the living room
every night until three am, drinking together, right, that would
be more insane than her being out let's You're like, yeah,
that's weird, Loki. I usually do.
Speaker 3 (02:18):
Not go with them because I wake up rather early. Okay,
so it is out of the house because I wake
up rather early to go work out and go to
grad school. We talked about a relationship after I told
her I was upset, and she told me that our relationship.
Speaker 1 (02:30):
Had zero passion and that she wasn't happy with me.
I mean, wait, what had zero passion? I kind of
got to agree with the zero passion If you don't care,
she's hanging out with someone, some other guy intil three
he said, he's upset. Did you care enough to do
anything about it? Though?
Speaker 4 (02:47):
I mean, he's telling her now, But she can't say
zero passion because they were very passionate right before, like
three months ago, right like this, everything was good.
Speaker 1 (02:54):
They were super cluddly spic related.
Speaker 5 (02:56):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:57):
I think it's depression. I think that's the timeline. Yeah, yeah,
I think, oh he got he got the DEPRESSI and
she said, oh, he's not a perfect person. I guess
I'll have to figure it out. And best friend came in.
You DEPRESSI no DEPRESSI. And what should I do when
my boyfriend's depressed, I'll sleep with his best friend.
Speaker 3 (03:15):
That's a brilliant IDEA good job, Dakota mean Op's girlfriend. God,
So I asked her to work on it with me,
help me make it better, and that it won't be easy.
Speaker 1 (03:27):
She agreed.
Speaker 3 (03:28):
Since then, we have not had any spicy contact, have
not cuddled, have not held hands, have had two dates
despite me asking at least twice a week, and have
made out once. We have not gone to bed within
two hours of each other, and she has slept on
the couch or in my friend's bed.
Speaker 1 (03:44):
If you tie, ah, so this is fully not your girlfriend. No, no,
she just likes sleeps in his bed, cool friend's bed. Yeah,
I'm confused. Why we are staying she just sleeps on
my friend's bed whatever? Like why?
Speaker 3 (03:59):
Well, my birthday was last Monday and all I got
was a happy birthday, No kiss, know anything.
Speaker 1 (04:04):
Dude, most people don't even get that keeps getting better.
Speaker 3 (04:08):
About one month ago, she told me she doesn't think
we have ever had the spark or passion she's talking about.
She thought that loving me was enough to get us
through anything. Despite all of that, I still love her
with all that I am. I cannot imagine being without her.
She's been my best friend for nearly ten years.
Speaker 1 (04:23):
She's been the.
Speaker 3 (04:24):
Anchor in my life for just as long. I keep
racking my brain to try and understand what she means,
but that spark and passion has been there for me.
I don't really know what to do any I love
this woman. She's the most beautiful person I know. She's
the driving force of why I'm in grad school to
provide for her and hopefully our future children. She makes
me even better. I want nothing more than to be
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with her, and it seems like it's sliding out from
under me.
Speaker 1 (04:48):
This is my first Reddit post.
Speaker 3 (04:49):
I don't really have much of anyone else to talk
to because my best friend is Part of the problem
is that your friend, buddy, the first time she slept
in his bed, he could be like whoa best friend
and ex friend, ex friend and wife? I believe right, yeah, wife?
What are both of y'all doing? Why is there that
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makes me insanely uncomfortable? Like this is way too much Dakota,
you have a face.
Speaker 1 (05:16):
It hurts. It hurts me. I am in anguish. Oh oh,
this is what obe has to do right now, go
to talent, and that's why he went to the value you. Yeah,
she's not your girlfriend anymore. She's his girlfriend and she
probably cheated on you, and that's why she's not gonna
go Well, babe, we don't have this spark. I'm cheating
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on you. I slept with your best friend. We have
this bark, but not you and I. She's not gonna
say that, so we don't have a spark. Why'd you
do that?
Speaker 3 (05:46):
You made the spark go away because I hopped on
your friend's disco stick and bounced around like a clown.
Excuse me, excuse me, Dakota, look at me.
Speaker 1 (05:58):
Excuse me. You're excused. No, you're not excused. I am
excusing you from being my girlfriend. Classes in session and
you're freaking late. We're gonna teach you about morals. Yeah,
we're gonna send you back to philosophy. One oh one.
Speaker 4 (06:14):
Also, what I would like to see in this next
little bit is roleplay between you two where Dakota puts
the talent on as the girl and then you're the guy.
Speaker 1 (06:21):
I would love that. Is this like a cameo request?
Like are you submitting this through Fiver or something? Yes,
I'm submitting this right now. I'd love to see that.
Speaker 3 (06:30):
We're gonna do a breakdown of what could happen and
then what should happen before we get into the update. Okay,
stay buckled, and we're going to get there. So you
guys seem to be pretty accepting and helpful. How do
I get the spark or passion back if she hasn't
felt it in our entire relationship? We have some relevant
comments before that, Dakota and I are.
Speaker 1 (06:48):
Going to act out.
Speaker 3 (06:50):
Yes, I am going to play the role of op
and then Dakota is going to play.
Speaker 1 (06:55):
The role of why. Yeah okay guy, hmm yeah.
Speaker 3 (07:01):
Listen, we've had an incredible ten years together. But you know,
it kind of hurts me a lot that you are
hopping on someone's.
Speaker 1 (07:12):
Freaking disco stick up and down. That's crazy. What First
of all, I am not doing that, and also I
don't even like you and I never did.
Speaker 3 (07:20):
Okay, well, you know what. That hurts me so much,
But what is our ten years of relationship meting?
Speaker 1 (07:24):
Oh boring? Boring, boring, boring, years old, boring.
Speaker 3 (07:29):
You know what's really boring? The divorce papers you're about
to get served.
Speaker 1 (07:33):
Oh now, I love you, See I actually love you
more than anything else on earth. Please don't do this
to me? Why are you doing this to me? Here's
the thing.
Speaker 3 (07:42):
I don't know if I can I want to give
you the chance because I've loved you for ten years,
but I don't know if I can get I don't
know if that is the right move. So I'm gonna
have to sit and think. And I don't like this.
The switch up feels now disingenuine. Yeah, can I be
honest with you? If I can break character for a second,
I'm gonna tell you you shouldn't get back with me.
Wait wait, but you still have the time, so I
don't know who's talking.
Speaker 1 (08:02):
Thank you. I've been the woman the whole time. Oh
and yeah, you should break up with me. Break up
with me. I'm actively pulling you down into the abyss
break up with me? End it? That is correct? Yep? Well,
we've got some relevant comments. See what they have to say.
Like Johnny Cash said the ring of fire, Oh ring fire?
Speaker 3 (08:20):
Comment to number one says, why is your wife regularly
out drinking till three am with another man. That's the
first thing to address. Not okay, Opie says, your guess
is as good as mine. I try to go out
with them as often as they can. It's just that
it's nearly an everyday occurrence, and I don't drink, so
I always feel like a third wheel. Strange that I
felt that way with my wife. Yeah, buddy, it is
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a little strange, isn't it. Reply Have you asked her
to stop splash cut back? You can't start working on
your relationship unless she's physically there with you now with
someone else, hope, he replies.
Speaker 1 (08:50):
I have.
Speaker 3 (08:51):
Usually gets upset and thinks I'm calling her a heavy drinker.
I've even asked her if we could do something other
than go to bars, maybe bowling, concerts, musicals and anything else,
and it has yet to happen. She also makes it
a point to say nothing is happening between the two
of them, which I believe for the most part.
Speaker 4 (09:07):
Like preemptively, what do you mean for the most part,
which I believe for the most part.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
What part are you believing, Opie?
Speaker 3 (09:14):
Or sweet baby Boy? Also a reminder I might have
us wrong I believe they're like twenty two, dingis butt?
How old are these people? Twenty three and twenty two?
Twenty three and twenty two?
Speaker 1 (09:24):
Where are parents here? It's like, so the parent's responsibility
is to like teach the children what you shouldn't tolerate,
you know, in a relationship. Do they know? I mean
that might not.
Speaker 3 (09:35):
Be something that I'm running to tell my parents, like,
oh yeah, you know, my wife is just like, no
sleeping this other guy's bed all the time.
Speaker 1 (09:41):
No, it's not about them being your counsel. Now, it's
that way. Before they hit twenty two, they should have
had a blueprint for what is unaccepted. But this should
have been it. Yeah, this is wild.
Speaker 4 (09:51):
Yeah, some people are im previous to a good parent.
This is like my age. Imagine me doing this.
Speaker 3 (09:55):
Yeah I could not, Eh, I cannot. Yeah, we have
comment or number two. She's most likely checked out of
your relationship. You need to sit down and ask her
if she still wants to be with you. If she is,
she needs to start working on your relationship with you,
and it needs some serious work. If she isn't truly
willing to work on it, you should leave. Maybe it
will be temporary. When she realizes what she lost. Maybe
it won't, but I'm guessing that because she got married
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young and never got to flirt and sleep around, now
she's just wanting to do that.
Speaker 1 (10:19):
Oh I didn't even think about that.
Speaker 3 (10:21):
She may actually be doing it or just fantasizing, but
I'm fairly sure that is what's going on. And we
have our update. Dakota, you're on team divorce. What's your step? Like,
walk me through what do you want to do?
Speaker 1 (10:34):
Well? I also just it just hit me that they've
been together since they were like in fourteen, eighth grade
or whatever. Yep, Like, so yeah, she chaiting. You know.
I feel like now a lot of those kind of
relationships that start really really young, it's like there will
be a conversation around this time where it's like, do
we open our relationship because we've literally like never experienced
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anything with anyone else, Like, if we're going to stay
together forever, do we think that it's realistic that we
can pull that off? People can? Some people can't. Sometimes,
you know, it's just it's hard having Like it's it's
hard having only one relationship to base everything off of.
Speaker 3 (11:08):
Yeah, but we know real people in real life who
had a the opposite of the same starting point, but
the opposite in terms of extremely successful.
Speaker 1 (11:16):
Yeah, it's it's not like necessarily it's not wrong outright,
it's just like that is for sure. Why op is
like just like kind of rolling with this. It's all
that they know, so they're not going to let it go.
And that's kind of the negative side. But what you
gotta say is, yes, say it's time to move on,
It's time to leave. I don't know's she might as
well be screaming at you that she's over it and
she's done. I got two words that will solve this
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whole thing. Go all pass, all past for.
Speaker 4 (11:43):
Your best friend, well, I mean for her. I was saying,
you give her a hall pass, let her go explore
the world of all amazing disc jockeys out there.
Speaker 1 (11:53):
Sure, if you did that three years ago, maybe if
you did that before anything happened.
Speaker 4 (11:58):
For sure, or maybe now if you still want to
be with forever and you don't care who she's.
Speaker 1 (12:01):
With, but you care who she's with, buddy, I think
we got to care that your girlfriend's sleeping with your
best friend. I think we have to on Princess, just
let her.
Speaker 3 (12:09):
Sleep in everyone's bed every night. What does OP do though?
Well updates? I found out on August eighteenth, while on
vacation with the two of them and a few other
friends at a friend's beach house in Florida, my wife
was wasted at eleven am in the morning and left
her phone in the house while she went to lunch
with him, and I knew I had to take my chance.
Speaker 1 (12:29):
Just like this guy's operating like he doesn't have any evidence,
which is insane.
Speaker 3 (12:33):
He's operating like he doesn't know. He knows that they
were literally in a bed together.
Speaker 1 (12:38):
She just left wasted to go to brunch with him
after waking up in the same bet.
Speaker 3 (12:44):
We don't know that for this night, but other nights
I would bet other knights.
Speaker 1 (12:47):
I'd bet it.
Speaker 3 (12:48):
So after reading some crude texts and several I love you,
I knew it was over.
Speaker 1 (12:54):
Now we know.
Speaker 3 (12:54):
In the hope of not making a scene, I called
the girl whose house we were staying at and told
her what was going on, my stuff and was headed
to my car to drive back to text.
Speaker 1 (13:03):
Wow. Long drive.
Speaker 3 (13:04):
That's when my wife and friends came up the elevator.
They saw all of my stuff and asked what was
going on. Now, that's an awkward elevator.
Speaker 1 (13:11):
Rye.
Speaker 3 (13:12):
I simply said I'm going home, and after further questioning
and some quips and laughs from them, blurted out, I
know you guys are affing. Oh my gosh, you had
it chocolate blue. His response was, what the heck are
you talking about? No, we're not freaking op over here
thinking we're freaking boning.
Speaker 1 (13:29):
Yeah. Her response instant tears. Well, there you go.
Speaker 3 (13:32):
That's how you know she's in she's crying tears of
joy that he is speaking his mind.
Speaker 1 (13:39):
Not that she's like pod or anything. No, no, no,
that's not an at all. It's like a in court,
being like on the stand and you're like your honor.
I have never seen that. Oh what's the red stuff
on my hands is paint? Though? Actually no, the I know.
I just put my hands up in the red. Dad
looks suspicious. I'm a And then you cry tears of
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joy because you don't. I'm gonna cry about this now. God,
so oh god. I love my boys.
Speaker 3 (14:09):
She walked with me to my car and told me
that it started in April, but she knew she wanted
to leave me long before that, that I was a
wonderful person, that I'll be happier with someone else, that
something between us was missing, and that she didn't need
me like she.
Speaker 1 (14:22):
Just honestly, I'm just shut up. Just shut your home mouth,
don't talk to me, Go back, go hang out with
your man, because it's not me. Who are you talking to.
Speaker 3 (14:31):
All I could respond with was that she made me
the happiest I had ever been, that she was all
I had ever needed, and that I never needed her.
Speaker 1 (14:42):
I wanted her. Oh good, take interesting.
Speaker 3 (14:46):
He also said, wait, that she was all I ever
needed and that I never needed her. I wanted a
little contradictory, but we're gonna keep going. As I go
back up the elevator, her new boyfriend comes down nearly
in tears and asked if I wanted to talk to him, Bro, you.
Speaker 1 (14:59):
Want to No? No? And all I said was never again? Eh?
I mean, look, this is great. How was this not
happening any earlier? How did you not you felt this
for so long? And it took like wow. When they
went to brunch together without me, I saw and I
love you in the phone, and that's when I knew
everything was over.
Speaker 3 (15:19):
Because you know, Dakota was just laying out a calmon
and understandable scenario, which is like, hey, we've been together
since freaking teenagers. We're still twenty two, twenty three, we're
still young. Is this what do we want to go explore?
Live life independently or maybe the people see this is
what really makes us?
Speaker 1 (15:34):
Hey, you know that makes sense. But Dakota, what did
she do? She didn't talk about any of that, and
she just went and banged his best friend. Are you serious? Yeah?
She just straight up just went and banged his best
friend for like months, but months and months and months.
Speaker 3 (15:47):
When she could have just said, Hey, can we talk
about this coming explore? I'm trying to understand. I know
it's my heart. Let's talk about she and bonus points.
Speaker 1 (15:55):
While she was doing that, she was actively trying to
sabotage the relationship by saying, oh, we've never had a spark.
I've never actually felt anything for you.
Speaker 3 (16:04):
Boner points. What boner points? He wanted to say boner
points instead of bonus points.
Speaker 1 (16:08):
Ah no, but I have none. This is the opposite
of that. Zero boner points. Yeah, this is like the worst.
Speaker 3 (16:15):
Oh boy, yeah, Well, on my way back down the elevator,
they're at the bottom.
Speaker 1 (16:19):
God, what is it with this elevator?
Speaker 3 (16:21):
The homeowner told them that they were welcome, so in tears,
he asked me if I would give them a ride
back for three hundred.
Speaker 1 (16:29):
Dollars at a zero and I'll think about it. M
A two Yeah, thirty, I need thirty now he's going
through divorce. Man, thirty. G's the three grand. I'll sit
there in silence. Oh, guys, can say whatever you want.
I won't be able to hear you. You're insane. That's crazy.
What do you mean for three grand? Uh huh? For
three thousand dollars? I would sit there in complete side.
You think I can associate drive divorced. I'm checked, I'm dissociating.
(16:53):
I might actually be on Dakota side. Now, dude, Yeah,
I'm gonna sit there and they're gonna go. Can we talk.
I'm gonna just say I do the click click, I
turned the volume up on the radio. Oh my gosh,
we know what said to that. I laugh.
Speaker 3 (17:04):
I told him every time you f or, I hope
you know. I wish you would have pulled the trigger.
Speaker 1 (17:09):
Oh no, oh my god.
Speaker 3 (17:12):
He had depression issues and was ready to unlive himself.
But decided not to because I had offered him a
room at my wife and I his house to help
him get back on his feet. Ohki dude, okay, just
to take a quick steck into diccond who's worse in
that situation?
Speaker 1 (17:26):
This is why?
Speaker 3 (17:27):
Okay, so OPI could have addressed this weight early, been
like what you're doing is unacceptable and like sleeping with
sleeping in his bed, like hanging out to three and
the things that the facts that he knew, like why
are you doing to this?
Speaker 1 (17:37):
But why why are you hurting me? This is this
is not fair.
Speaker 3 (17:40):
He could have said all that, but by not addressing it,
that's what pent up the rage and resentment. To have
him say such a like that is too Yes he
did it an a trrocious thing to you your best friends.
Speaker 1 (17:51):
But we don't need to say that. Sure, we don't
need to say that. But it's understandable. Ah no, come on,
no to do it. I know I'm saying that in
that moment after the this is what the fourth time
they're trying to provoke a conversation with OPI. I'm not
saying I approve of it. Yeah, I'm not saying that
it's a good thing to say. I'm just saying, you
bring in your best friend, you literally in your heart,
You're like, I'm saving I just saved my best friend's life.
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And how does he repay you? He sleeps with your
wife and now this he's for the fourth time trying
to be like, hey, can we like, we'll pay you
three hundred dollars and that'll make up for It's like,
do I approve of it? Of course not. Do I
understand it? Yes? Again, I don't know. That's a deep cut.
I'm saying I understand it, not that I condone it.
Speaker 4 (18:35):
I don't even Yes, does he pushed the limit by
fire with fire? But in this case, there's no like
fire to win. It's all gonna burn a lot.
Speaker 1 (18:42):
You're not gonna feel good later about having said that.
Speaker 4 (18:44):
Yeah, But also you get like, you go to your
friend's house, you're feeling down. They help you get back
on your feet, and this is how you pay them.
That's what I'm saying. It's not it is insane.
Speaker 1 (18:54):
You cannot condone it, but you can understand it. It's
still not gonna and he's gonna feel bad about it later.
I'm all. That's all I'm saying. I'm just saying I
understand why he said that, gotcha. It's just I'm not
saying it's okay, but I understand it too much.
Speaker 3 (19:08):
But Opie says, I then drove thirteen hours straight home,
called everyone I could think of, including both of their parents,
who I wouldn't hesitate to call my own.
Speaker 1 (19:16):
Wow.
Speaker 3 (19:16):
When I got home, I was packing my things and
saw my wife's journal slash diary slash writing notebook.
Speaker 1 (19:21):
At this point, I don't care anymore, but I read it.
Speaker 3 (19:23):
Gets a story written and dated March fourteenth about their
very detailed.
Speaker 1 (19:27):
Spicy sleep life. Why do people detail the stuff in
their journal?
Speaker 3 (19:29):
It's crazy how they would wait for me to go
to sleep and f on our couch, slash in my car,
slash in my bed when I wasn't home, slash in
his bed, slashed in our shower, slash in our garage.
Speaker 1 (19:40):
So it was just hot for her. She just liked
how sneaky and hot it was. Oh my god.
Speaker 3 (19:46):
Another poem was dated February twenty fourteen, detailing how a
shadow haunted her, but he was her future and her
true love. Oh so, Opie was a shadow that all
she could taste was his lips. This was Opie, the
ex wife is a bad poet.
Speaker 1 (20:03):
I just imagine that like a strange curse, like the
Midas Church, where everything you touched her ins into gold.
It's like you can't taste anything unless it's lip shaped.
Like but I imagine she was like, oh, taste the lip.
I love the taste of lip. This was all before
I had ever known she was unhappy. We were still
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having spicy sleep regularly up until mid March, even had
spicy sleep twice in very.
Speaker 3 (20:29):
Early April, so she was lying about all that too.
All of her friends have abandoned her. I now live
with her former best friend, the owner of the beach house,
and two of her other friends.
Speaker 1 (20:38):
They've all said their pieces to her and been blocked
in the process.
Speaker 3 (20:42):
I filed for divorce finally on Friday, and my god,
does it feel good.
Speaker 1 (20:46):
I am so relieved to be out of it.
Speaker 3 (20:47):
I was racking my brain for so long trying to
figure out what I was doing wrong.
Speaker 1 (20:52):
Turns out I wasn't. That's right.
Speaker 3 (20:54):
But yeah, I mean, just to kind of reiterate the
point we've been saying throughout this is like op was
so well within his right, and I think This is
just kind of you.
Speaker 1 (21:03):
Know, young young boy man.
Speaker 3 (21:07):
Early twenty two year old man, vibes of just like
oh what do I say? Like how do I figure
this out? And it's like, no, you're not doing anything wrong.
Your wife completely betrayed you and it's completely okay, and
she should be confronted because she needs to know, Hey,
look at this insanely fed up thing you're doing to me.
Speaker 1 (21:30):
What is this? What's they think? This is a story
that shows the importance of having counsel. You have to
be able to talk about your relationship with the other
people in your life, like your friends. It's like, you know,
because if you don't. I can only imagine if I
was in this position and I was talking to my
friends when I was in my early twenties and I
explained what was going on, they would have been like,
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you need to break up with her yesterday? What are
you doing? Yeah, I know you've been with her for
ten years? What are you doing? You just be in
his bed, you know. But it doesn't sound like OPI
had that, And I don't know if that's a byproduct
of the relationship or just Op's prerogative, but yeah, you
have more than just the person in front of you
to base your perspective off of. You know, I just
(22:14):
imagine the friends could have helped greatly. I agree, like
anyone at any outside perspective whatsoever on the situation. Anyone.
Speaker 3 (22:22):
Well, boys and girls, let's get into the finale here.
So now I'm recovering slowly, I'm sure, but I now
have a sudden strong.
Speaker 1 (22:28):
Interest in women. Oh shock, Oh, I have really quickly.
I just have to realize it was his best friend
who was doing the cheating. Yep. So your counsel would
have been like, you're tripping. Dang, a lot of gas lighting.
Oh my god, yeah, you were in an unwrintable situiza.
Speaker 3 (22:45):
Yep, am, yeah, yeah, cards are stacked. Maybe the cards
were stacked. Is it just a rebound being interested in
other women. I'm not sure. I'm not pushing the issue
or anything. And I haven't dated in nine years. I mean,
granted you were freaking fourteen. Brother, well he starts here, okay,
but i'd like to. I know it's still probably too soon,
(23:07):
but I do long for it because I've had it
and now it's missing. That being said, I'm happy to
be single. I'm enjoying just being me currently, but wouldn't
mind someone just really quick. Op I would highly advise
not jumping right into a relationship right now.
Speaker 1 (23:21):
Yes, be single, nah, jump in rebound, be some Dennis
Rodman that rebounds don't have to be relationships. Pet.
Speaker 3 (23:28):
It could be literally rebounding a actual physical basketball because
you're hitting the court and up in your game.
Speaker 1 (23:33):
It could be truly.
Speaker 3 (23:34):
It could be you are building beds because beds also
portrayed you in the process, and by building learning how
to build beds, you are reclaiming that or destroying them
or destroying them.
Speaker 1 (23:47):
Yeah, start a new business and might start a rage room. Yeah,
I like that. That's your rebound. So many things somebody
offs so many opts.
Speaker 3 (23:55):
I actually kind of feel like our relationship has been
over for longer than a month. I mean, I was
living a live last seven months. She promised me we
would work on our marriage, while all she was doing
was working on him. But I would appreciate any advice
about the future and dating after divorce. I'm kind of worried. Actually,
I feel like no one will want me for that
reason alone. Absolutely not. How do I go about dating
as a divorce twenty three slash twenty four year old
(24:16):
when I'm ready.
Speaker 1 (24:17):
Is it as daunting as it seems? Yeah? And no,
I mean yeah no, but yeah, what do you mean? No? Yeah,
dating is daunting. We can accept that. Well, it's daunting,
but I would say, like it's work. I mean, it
can be worthwhile, but it's risky for sure. I mean
it's well.
Speaker 3 (24:35):
I think the thing that popped into my head was like,
we can get all of these ideas and preconceived notions
and try to.
Speaker 1 (24:42):
Think of a good example. Uh, work at tomato in it.
Speaker 3 (24:45):
Here we go, I will cooking, cooking, okay, okay, So
when you're cooking, sometimes there might be a technique where
it's like I don't know, hard, sorry, I have to
go drumming.
Speaker 1 (24:55):
I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry. Yeah, I'm dropping the
tomato drumming.
Speaker 3 (24:59):
This might not can next to my non drummers out there,
but bear with In drumming, sometimes it's easier to like
when you're playing with both hands, it kind of just
like flows, it's natural. But then sometimes they're like, play
with one hand. You can see how that'd be like
kind of weird in your brain, right, like, oh, like
playing with both hands and oh, now I gotta just
play with one hand.
Speaker 1 (25:15):
But you're doing the same thing.
Speaker 3 (25:17):
You're literally doing the same thing with the one hand,
but your brain is just tricking you. There's just a
thing that your brain is telling you, Oh, this is weird,
this is hard, this is awkward. No, actually, you were
doing that same thing before. So I would say, like,
you have this kind of cloud hanging over you. But
imagine an alternative universe where you're just like, Okay.
Speaker 1 (25:36):
I haven't really you know, dated much.
Speaker 3 (25:37):
I'm just gonna start dating, and you wouldn't be thinking
about it.
Speaker 1 (25:41):
It's looky a little bit kind of the same thing.
I didn't have you until the end and then I
got you. Y, thank you. I knew it was. It's
a very niche I'm sorry. I feel like it's similar
to what I would say, which is just I don't know.
I can only say how I move through stuff. Yes,
and I moved through things based on just like vibe,
does it feel right? It's taken me, I guess, a
(26:02):
hot minute to get to a point where I can
be in tune with that. Yeah, I was about to ask,
how's that going? It's good, But like you have to
know when things feel wrong and you have to be
able to identify it and then have like the conviction
to be like, nah, but this does feel wrong, Like
that photo, actually photo feels wrong, and I know that
(26:24):
feels wrong. I don't have to have anyone tell me.
You see the full body. Let's go full body, look
ow curvy. I'm snatched though I am snatched, pretty snash,
but but that feels wrong. So I think what you
need to find op is you need to take the
time to figure out what feels right and what feels
wrong for you. You can't do that in a relationship because
there's no room for exploration.
Speaker 3 (26:45):
That's right, and his producer Riley is kindly pointing out
that is the end of that one.
Speaker 1 (26:49):
But we's got more we do. Let's go. I'm ready.
My wife told me she's leaving me. Bye by my to.
Speaker 3 (26:57):
Begin Me twenty nine mail and my wife twenty three female.
We're married in late twenty fourteen. We've only been married
for a little over three months to the day. We
started dating around three and a half years ago.
Speaker 1 (27:07):
So I know it's just you think it's already a
bad sign when it's like we've been married three months
to the day. Just feel like it's like count in
the days.
Speaker 3 (27:15):
I don't know, I feel like it's an omen hmm,
well we will see about that. We started dating around
three and a half years ago, when I was twenty six,
she was twenty one. Popped the question after two years together,
planned the wedding for one year, and got married.
Speaker 1 (27:28):
Everything was great.
Speaker 3 (27:29):
By the way, this comes from Divorced thor Away one, two, three,
five and if you want to submit your own stories,
go to the r slash Okay storytime start about it.
So about a month ago she started acting different. I
can't really put it into words, but it's a lot
like the Uncanny Valley studying nuances that just clew you
into the fact that something isn't right. Asking her if
something was wrong led to the obvious and infamous I'm fine,
(27:49):
I'm fine.
Speaker 1 (27:50):
Those are my favorite. So if it's so obvious and infamous,
why are we married? Oh? That's the question. I would
never marry someone I can't have a conversation with.
Speaker 4 (27:58):
Talk to me even so, you would never bark like no, right,
I would have first, I wouldn't.
Speaker 1 (28:05):
Yeah, we can't do this, Hey, deaf people, you hearing
this right now? That was actually that scay I like that.
Speaker 3 (28:12):
Oh my god, all right, we'll get We'll give that
one to Riley. So around this time it came to
my attention. I asked us to her phone after noticing
her guarding it constantly that she was talking to a
coworker on social media. How the exchange wasn't anywhere near
as damning as what you tend to read about on here,
but still worrisome. The coworkers had a few things that
I told her across some real boundaries that that we
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had Step, I really wish you were here to rub
my head and make me fall asleep, and I'm trying
to get out with you tonight.
Speaker 1 (28:40):
Mm. Yeah, so those are fishy. Those are fishy, very fishy. Okay,
not cool.
Speaker 3 (28:46):
The rest of it was her getting upset that he
didn't tell her what he was doing over time. Here's
the part where I take a lot of the keats.
I've had some real trust issues in this relationship. She
was texting Slash the leading texts to an ex behind
my back for stall three months earlier in the relationship,
and we broke up. We ended up working it out,
but that trust was really broken that day. The real
tragedy is that I disrespected the sanctity of our marriage
(29:08):
by entering into it with someone I didn't trust. I
was too afraid to lose her. I I think that's
a great self aware to say.
Speaker 1 (29:17):
Gotta love the twenty twenty hind sight.
Speaker 3 (29:19):
Listen, it's like, hey, I chose to like go into
it knowing that I didn't feel the foundation of drust
wasn't there.
Speaker 1 (29:27):
Yep. And you know what's okay Dakota.
Speaker 3 (29:29):
Saying, hey, look, I'm tempted to do and I want
to get married to you, but I feel the foundation
of trust isn't there.
Speaker 1 (29:35):
And how long it was? Four years Breen a half
years and a half years, so getting Op is twenty
four ish. He's now around there.
Speaker 4 (29:43):
Yeah, Op is twenty nine and currently wife is twenty three.
Speaker 1 (29:47):
Oh I thought I thought Ope was the younger one. Yep.
Speaker 3 (29:49):
Okay, that's another boy, Okay, Yeah, twenty one and twenty
six when they met.
Speaker 1 (29:53):
Well, well, well, I'm well, it's glad you I'm glad
you know it now, ma'am. Yeah, hey all, it's John
Ogi host here. We're gonna get back to the story. So,
but here's a quick three minute break from ask for response.
Speaker 3 (30:05):
So I find these messages about forty five minutes before
we leave for work, and she comes out and sits
on the couch and starts crying and says she's not happy. I,
of course, attempted to console her and ask her if
it had anything to do with this mysterious coworker. She
said it did not, and she was just unhappy with
her whole life. She insinuated that she was unhappy with
our marriage, and I asked if she was actually sitting
here contemplating divorce, something I told her I don't do
(30:28):
unless there's adultery.
Speaker 1 (30:30):
She said, I.
Speaker 3 (30:31):
Don't know op it takes. If someone's like, hey, I
don't want to be in this relationship, you can't. I
don't do divorce. You're gonna stay married to me for eternity. Well,
I mean you told her what she needs to do
to get divorced.
Speaker 4 (30:46):
Yeah, I'm about to say, here's the manual, because I
don't know if you decide to marry someone, wouldn't the
I'm not happy in this relationship come up earlier? You
know you would hope? No, Okay, yeah, you know, like
it's like I want to be with you for the
rest of my life.
Speaker 1 (31:01):
It's not like three months in I before right, intangibly,
all that changed is we're now married, and you're just like,
my whole life is a mess? Is it because you're
married to me? So you can't leave me as easily?
Like you feel trapped like it's like those are the
only things you could be upset about now, So go.
Speaker 3 (31:19):
Ahead, go date the guy at your office. It seems
very fish, very very very effish, she said, I don't know.
I really feel that moment was the beginning of the end.
She became distant. All spicy sleep stopped, and she was cold, rude,
and simply checked out.
Speaker 1 (31:34):
She started staying at work. She's a call center rep
and extra.
Speaker 3 (31:38):
Sixty to ninety minutes late every day, stating that she
was on a long call.
Speaker 1 (31:42):
Yeah, I bet he does have a long call.
Speaker 3 (31:44):
Ooh nice one. I was gonna say the call wasn't
the only thing that was long. Oh God. She was
no longer affectionate, was no longer loving. No matter what,
she didn't want to do anything that could be considered
a marital asset. I'm glad she did this. We discussed
counseling less than a week ago. She wanted to do it,
so did I. I asked her earlier today what she
wanted me to bring home for dinner, since she had
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spent the entire day at her families. She said nothing.
I got one word answers all day long today and
not a single reply to and I love you or hey.
Speaker 1 (32:14):
I'm at ork love you. It was okay, why okay,
I love you? Why? Why? Why? Oh fishy? Oh god,
yeah that's pretty fishy.
Speaker 3 (32:26):
Yeah, pretty pretty pretty fishy. Oh oh god. Oh that's
too nefarious. That is too spy for this tuna farious.
Speaker 4 (32:40):
Uh uh uh oh oh, man's got some got some
fishy jokes.
Speaker 1 (32:47):
Didn't even mean to do that. I won't even give
myself credit.
Speaker 3 (32:50):
So I walked to the door immediately after work and
she's on the couch crying. I go over hugger and
ask what's wrong. She mutters, I'm leaving.
Speaker 1 (32:57):
Oh, she mutters. She muttered, I'm leaving. I'm leaving. Okay, okay,
dang hit you gotta hit her with the Willy Wonka.
You really mustn't mumble, oh man, who are you a
little pump? A? Part of me, why are you mumbling? Yes? Right?
Speaker 4 (33:14):
Part of me feels like he wants to see if
op he's gonna fight for the relationship, you know, honestly.
Speaker 1 (33:20):
It's like, I'm fine. It's like, no, you're not. What's
going on? Why the hell do I have to fight
for the relationship? We got married three months ago. I
would vite for it. What are we talking about?
Speaker 4 (33:29):
Give her a little one too, like you know, I
mean not like emotionally since not wait no, like, don't
hit her, just like hit the problem she's faced against
about you guys.
Speaker 3 (33:40):
Dive into the emotional complexities.
Speaker 1 (33:43):
Hit yes, exactly that the word don't hit anybody. Riley's
trying words deding. Oh man.
Speaker 3 (33:57):
So I go over hugger and ask what's wrong? She mutters,
I I'm leaving. I felt gone, and though I could cry,
I couldn't get angry. I could only sit down and
put my head in my hand. I calmly told her
that we would need to divide the phone bill. Weird
place to start, and then you of the phone bill.
Speaker 1 (34:14):
It is undeniably a weird place to begin, so odd.
And then I'd keep the dogs so they don't get
split up. She agreed. I told her that I wanted
to be here. When she picked up her stuff from
our house, she said it was never her home. We
moved in in June twenty fourteen. Thankfully, the house was
a gift for my grandmother, and my grandmother's name was
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still Honest. Well, technically it's not either of your houses.
Good on, Mamma. And Grandma comes in in the fourth
act and becomes the real main character. She says, these
two idiots are living in my house, and I want
them both gone.
Speaker 3 (34:48):
Great Granny has come to save the day. I packed
all her stuff up and told my boss what was happening.
She gave me the go ahead to take the next
three to four days off. Who stored it out? She
was crying. She asked me for a hug for some reason.
I don't know why, but I obliged and told her
that I loved her and didn't want this. She said
she didn't either and left. Okay, I know I did
a lot of wrong in my relationship. I wish I
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would have sought help for these trust issues long ago. Yes, thankfully,
she had stated that since we own nothing of value,
the divorce is going to be pretty simple. She gets
her stuff, I get her key, and she's gone. She's
gonna buy me out of the phone bill. What what
I'm sorry, but this is okay, okay, all right.
Speaker 1 (35:26):
We've brought up the phone bill twice and the dog's once.
Speaker 3 (35:29):
Okay, all right, I'm just gonna let it, let it lie,
and I'll get her removed from the phone bole.
Speaker 1 (35:34):
This is just a secret advertisement for a phone company.
At the end of this, ah, I would be so agree.
It's just like and then I found my wife on
my beep like I would buy.
Speaker 3 (35:43):
I would delete this whole episode if that, If that
was true, I would delete this entire episode.
Speaker 1 (35:48):
No free sponsors.
Speaker 3 (35:49):
We didn't buy any sort of marital assets while we
were together, so it should be a clean break. I
hopefully won't even need a lawyer. I have this nagging
feeling that I need to seek the use of a
lawyer anyway.
Speaker 1 (36:00):
Yes, yes, yes, just yeah.
Speaker 3 (36:04):
You're not a lawyer, so just do that that If
the woman I married, the woman that I knew for
almost three years, could turn that quickly, I may need
a lawyer to protect myself at it. I told her
that I had packed her stuff up last night, that
it shouldn't take too long to move it at all.
She asked if I was going to be here when
she came over. I'm a little concerned that ten plus
members of her family are going to show up and
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literally rob me blind. I will update when this is over,
and there's an update. Okay, So now soon to be
ex wife's family of ten plus people might just freaking
rob ope.
Speaker 1 (36:35):
That's a new development. The phone bill is the phone bill?
Is it a precarious situation?
Speaker 4 (36:44):
People do get locked into phone bill like contracts for
a while. Dude, it gets pretty rough. It could be
like two hundred dollars a month.
Speaker 1 (36:53):
Oh oh my god, she's rolling up with the squad though,
ten plus family members. She needs ten plus people to
move her stuff. But y'all own nothing of value. You
know what?
Speaker 3 (37:09):
They need ten people to tug of war style split
this impossible figure out phone bill.
Speaker 1 (37:17):
They're just carrying the phone bill out of the house.
That's what they need people to carry the paper that
the phone bill is printed on because it's so huge.
I bet you one thousand dollars.
Speaker 4 (37:27):
The first person he pulled was the phone company and
he was like, hey man, I'm going through a divorce.
I need to can't split my phone bill up.
Speaker 1 (37:35):
You're never gonna believe this. And then they're like, you're
the first person I'm calling about this. By the way,
I was going to trigger you. Riley. Uh oh, yeah,
you call the phone company and then they keep you
on hold for an hour and a half and hang up.
Oh my gosh, that did happen to me? Don't tell it? Yeah,
I look definitely record, be there, be present. It's like,
it's not about like that. Oh I don't trust it,
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but it's like, yeah, clearly things are ending. We need to, like,
I don't know, make sure no one's doing any foul play.
So I'll be there to make sure you take your
stuff and not mine.
Speaker 3 (38:07):
Dakota, I have one simple question for you, and I'm
so sorry to ask. I apologize with every piece.
Speaker 1 (38:15):
Of my soul. I forgive you. How am I supposed
to record what's going on?
Speaker 3 (38:20):
The damn phone bill is up in the air. How
do I call? How do I have the data to
know I can store this information? My gosh, pocket camera,
I supposed to order one with this phone bill situation.
They're gonna have to go to the public library. Oh
my god, how did you get there? If he doesn't
know how to drive there with his phone?
Speaker 1 (38:40):
Rent cameras from the library. Riley was telling me earlier
today you can rent tools from the library in LA.
Libraries are stick. Dude, is that lie? Riley? Were you
lying to me? I never know when Riley's lying to
me or not because I just trust him, and he
always takes advantage of that. You know, we're lying to me, Dakota.
Speaker 3 (38:59):
We're so trusting, you know, and Riley takes her trust
like a phone bill and just rips it in.
Speaker 1 (39:04):
Half with no regard of eight.
Speaker 3 (39:08):
So, in the night of the event, as I said,
I stayed up all night packing her things and putting
them in the hallway. I texted her the following day
to tell her it was all packed and the sooner
she could get there, the better it would be for
the both of us. She said she was coming around
eleven am. She didn't get there until almost four pm.
During that period of time, I contacted our wireless provider
to get her taken off the bill. This is the
(39:29):
big moment. This is the big moment. Change the passwords
to every account. I had deleted all social media accounts
after blocking her and her family and any mutual friends.
Speaker 1 (39:39):
I met through her whoa whoa.
Speaker 3 (39:41):
And contacted some friends if any of them were available
to be here with me when her and her family
got here to take her stuff out of the house.
I had three friends go up. Her family didn't even
come to help her on day one, with the exception
of her brother. Day one, the freaking gang of Familia
was the brother who told she was just quote unquote
(40:01):
two immature for a marriage. Things were friendly between us.
She showed up, stood in the bathroom crying for fifteen minutes.
Speaker 1 (40:07):
A friendly, A friendly crying for fifteen minutes in the bathroom.
Oh my.
Speaker 3 (40:13):
I was nothing but friendly to her and offered to
help move some of the heavier stuff out. She loaded
her car, said she'd be back with a truck later
for big things, and left. My friend said I did
a great job being friendly and helpful, and that it
was as good as it could have went. She never
comes back with a truck. She went to the phone
store to pick out a brand new, expensive smartphone and
an expensive plan to accompany it.
Speaker 1 (40:35):
Never forget to take care of the phone bill.
Speaker 3 (40:39):
That is the most important detail in this story.
Speaker 1 (40:43):
For better or for worse. She was always attached at
the hip to the phone.
Speaker 3 (40:48):
I'm sorry because the word the phone wasn't on until
the next page, so I didn't even know is Op.
Speaker 1 (40:55):
Eighty five, Like what's going on here?
Speaker 3 (40:58):
It's very much giving the like, oh you're so young,
you're just a baby. But he was the one who
got together with her at twenty twenty one in.
Speaker 1 (41:06):
Yeah, sure, let's change those ages. Those are anonymous ages.
Let's make them the real ages. Oh he's seventy six.
And it's like I had to guess. They just those phones.
I gotta get that phone off. That phone they're using,
like the flip phone, the Jitterbug. And then they're like,
I just don't know. I gotta get that phone off
of my And that's why she's like, I can't do this.
(41:28):
I don't know why I married an eighty year old man.
You can buy the Jitterbug at CVS. No joke. She
divorced him because he kept saying this is a sell
free zone.
Speaker 3 (41:38):
Yeah, hey baby, he probably thinks. He probably thinks the
divorced because of the phone. Honestly, at this point, I
wouldn't be surprised.
Speaker 1 (41:45):
Girl gise me through the phone. That's what she's been
doing with your coworker. Ah, that's true. Another reason to
cancel the phone bill. Yeah, so for better for work.
Speaker 3 (41:56):
She was always attached at the hip to the phone,
so it made sense to me that this would be
a p already for her.
Speaker 1 (42:00):
I am going to be charged a three to four
hundred dollars cancelation.
Speaker 5 (42:07):
Why Bill, I thought you just fixed all that? Why
are we still fall shine phone bill story, which she
states she's going to pay with me, She claims, I
thankfully agreed.
Speaker 3 (42:23):
But I expect that I will be paying this bill alone,
no matter what I'm prepared.
Speaker 1 (42:28):
Would get the money from? What do you mean she's
gonna get the money? She didn't think got the money?
Get the money?
Speaker 3 (42:35):
Day two, after a night with some friends, I need
an extra bit of shut eye. But she is calling
and knocking at my door at nine am in the morning,
bright and early. Part of me suspects she did this
to avoid any of my friends being there. Part of
me suspect she wants to show off her brand new phone.
N I'm just kidding, but likely she just wanted to
get it done. I let her in, said good morning,
(42:55):
and let her get to work. We did a walk
through of all the other rooms. She agreed there was
there's nothing left in there for her to take. I
shut the doors and made it clear that those rooms
would be off limits when families showed up to help.
Speaker 1 (43:07):
She agreed.
Speaker 3 (43:07):
I tried to give her some of our wedding gifts,
a blender, et cetera, if she wanted them. I told
her I wouldn't mind if she kept the blender. She
was all right with that, to which she gave me
the surprising answer, what you're going to start working out
like you used to? Trying to make me jealous? Ladies
and gentlemen, the phone has taken the back seat to
the new star of the story, the blender home appliances.
Speaker 1 (43:31):
Nowhere are you gonna be using this blender for your
protein shakes after you do the gym? X bae, Dude,
what are you trying to make me jealous? Because it's working?
Speaker 3 (43:40):
Literally, shut up now. This is said very very sarcastically.
A little backstory. I put on about thirty five to
forty pounds over the past few years.
Speaker 1 (43:49):
I used to be a lot more trim, a lot
more muscular. She has known that I.
Speaker 3 (43:52):
Started going back to the gym a few months ago
with her, and that it was something I had used
frequently in the past to assist myself both mentally and physically.
Speaker 1 (44:00):
I gave a lighthearted reply in it. Well that's the plan,
I guess. She then started screaming, me too, motivation motivation, motivation,
me too, motivation, motivation, motivation, I'm gonna pass shut up,
get out of my house, Get out of my grandma's.
Speaker 3 (44:18):
House, and went back to packing her stuff. I started
getting worried at this point. Maybe this ability I thought
she had going into this isn't something she's going to
carry through the entirety of it. She started finding little
things to try and get me upset. With a Christmas
ornament my four year old nephew gave me because it
looked like my dog. It had sat on my computer
desk in the office for three years. She wanted it,
claimed it as hers, and I gladly gave.
Speaker 1 (44:39):
It to her.
Speaker 3 (44:40):
She wanted some brass mouse thing and a piggybank.
Speaker 1 (44:44):
As a mouse. But also I had to stop you
to say, why are you okay with that? I hate
you for being okay with that? Why are you okay
with that? Keep the brass mouse? You say, no, you
can't take the thing my nephew gave me. He's over it.
I do, No, you can't have that. It has on
as a desperate. I'd be like, give me your phone.
It's my phone. You haven't paid me for your phone,
(45:06):
so give me your phone.
Speaker 3 (45:07):
There is a lot, there is one, and a piggybank
with thirty to forty cents side of it.
Speaker 1 (45:11):
Keep counting.
Speaker 2 (45:12):
Hey, it's Sam. We're going get back to the stories.
But here's three minutes of ads from our sponsors.
Speaker 3 (45:16):
I said they were all hers, and that was absolutely
fine by me. She went into the rooms I closed
off and got those things. That was the last time
she entered any of those rooms. She then asked ified
help her move all of her things to the car,
but once again no one came to help her. I
told her I did not want to assist her anymore
than I have to heavy things. I did this as
calmly and straightforward as I could. This was petty on
(45:37):
my part, but I feel that in this scenario I
really should be assisting her with this. She got an
attitude about this, and she didn't appreciate how I was
crap talking her with my friends yesterday. Since I wasn't
doing this, I assumed she was trying to once again
get me upset, so I calmly told her I wasn't
I accepted that I've got some blame in this as well,
and I apologized to you for getting married to you
(45:59):
when I didn't rush. That's high school. It wasn't fair
to you. It disrespects what our marriage is about, and
I am sorry. Her demeanor seemed to change almost instantly.
Speaker 1 (46:08):
Yeah, I mean, I think, just stop giving her your stuff.
And as we're also ignoring the fact that she clearly
cheated on you when she was staying late at work
for those ninety extra minutes, you could say emotionally cheating.
I would bet the cost of that phone cancelation plan
that they were up to something.
Speaker 3 (46:25):
Do you realize what you're saying that is that is
them is fighting words. That is probably the biggest accusation you.
Speaker 1 (46:31):
Can ever make. The phone bill, not to cheating, the
phone bill, the phone the phone bill, To be clear,
it's the phone bill. It's important, it's important. We're gonna
get into the end of the story.
Speaker 3 (46:40):
She packed it all up again, and her father called
me to say they'd be there in a moment.
Speaker 1 (46:44):
She was leaving.
Speaker 3 (46:44):
When I asked for the house key, she gave me
a separate key that wasn't to the home. I tested
it in the front to show her that I knew,
and she muttered something and drove off. Her family got
there two hours later. It was just mom and dad.
They moved the rest out. We were more than amicable
towards each other. It even helped them move some of
the larger pieces to the truck. I wish them both well,
say goodbye and shut the door. At this point, my
closest friend's stepfather called me to ask if I was okay.
Speaker 1 (47:07):
He came by, We had a few drinks, and I
changed the locks.
Speaker 3 (47:10):
The only thing left at this point is the simplified
dissolution of marriage, which I will be getting notorized Monday.
Speaker 1 (47:17):
I guess that's like an official I never heard of that.
I guess if you are only married for three months,
maybe I wonder where this is. There's clearly they have
a window where they're like, yeah, you guys, oops, you
guys did a oopsy We'll just don'tdo that.
Speaker 4 (47:28):
Yeah, and a region where getting a phone bill is
a pain in the butt.
Speaker 1 (47:32):
That's Riley great point. Those are the important thing. I
will say.
Speaker 4 (47:36):
When my grandma had to cancel her phone bill, I
had to do it for her, and it was super
silky smooth, and I saved her ten percent of what
she was paying a.
Speaker 1 (47:43):
Lot of money. We need to get that persons, that
company as a sponsor. That would be lit. We have
such a great story.
Speaker 3 (47:48):
Only thing left at this point is to get the
simplified dissolution of marriage, which I will be getting notorized Monday,
signed by her on Wednesday, the next day she is
free and we'll be turning it in that day. After
this is done, I should be starting the process to
be finishing my divorce in less than a week.
Speaker 1 (48:02):
Oh no, now I see what he says, saying start
to finish the process is taking a week start to finish. Okay,
my divorce is going to be done in a week.
Speaker 3 (48:09):
Yes, so I should be start to finish divorced in
less than a week.
Speaker 1 (48:13):
Thank you to go to.
Speaker 3 (48:14):
I don't really feel any certain way. I haven't missed
her like I have girlfriends past. I haven't stayed it
at night thinking about her. I'm more concerned with her
well being than I am about my anything physical she
may be doing. Those thoughts haven't bothered me at all.
Once we're officially divorced, I'm going one hundred percent no
contact phone number is getting changed. The most important part,
and that is the conclusion.
Speaker 1 (48:35):
Yeah, I feel like as as I've gotten older, that
matters less or impacts less. In order a breakup, she's like,
oh my god, what if she's with someone else, It's
like whatever, we're all apes. Yeah, we are all literally
prime apes. Like whatever, It's okay, I think we lose this.
Speaker 3 (48:51):
I don't know what if you want to call it jealous,
kind of controlling whatever, it's like, oh everyone, no, one's
entitled to anything. That's really what it is at the
end of the day, and weize, oh, you know what,
as long as there's like you know, all right, hey,
this isn't working. Whatever we cleaned, step right, someone goes off,
does there thing?
Speaker 1 (49:07):
All right?
Speaker 3 (49:07):
Whatever I'm not in You're not legally mandated to do whatever,
Like okay, I'm just going to go live my life.
Speaker 1 (49:13):
Yeah, truly, it's like I'm more. Yeah, it's just at
that point, it's okay, we're not together. That's no longer
my jurisdiction. So why would I go out of my
way to concern myself with that? But so, good job, Op,
there we go.
Speaker 3 (49:26):
Hope you have some some good stuff. Yeah, absolutely, Yeah,
that's the end of that story. So if you love us,
make sure this sprot.
Speaker 1 (49:32):
We love you and see you now.
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