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My wife confessed to her affair because she regretted it.
My wife, I'm twenty seven mal lost after a confession
from my wife twenty nine email, I'm stuck in my
own head and need an outside perspective for some context.
We're college sweethearts, married for six years, and we have
a daughter or female. My wife's not only my first

(00:33):
love but also my best friend. The family we built
means the world to me. Recently, our marriage hit a
rough patch when my in laws fifty nine female and
fifty nine male, stayed with us for a few months.
It put a lot of strain on our relationship. My
mother in law has always been gracious, but my father
in law never approved of us. I'm not on his

(00:57):
top five choices for his daughter.

Speaker 3 (00:59):
Ah.

Speaker 1 (01:01):
He straight up told me I wasn't good enough for her.
He even initially refused to walk her down the aisle
because of his disapproval of me. Oh, he's our biggest obstacle.
By the way, this comes from a throw away radio
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I'm trying to ignore him. We no longer had our
space as a couple and family. My father in law

(01:23):
took over everything and undermining me to our daughter. He
called it his grandfather rights. He came between my wife
and I. She would make excuses for him or say
he still needed her dad. We were pitted against each other.
We stopped communicating, bought often with no resolutions, and intimacy
went extinct. We're still in recovery. We're working on reconnecting.

(01:48):
We went to this retreat for our anniversary, and overall
it was good for us. We were able to talk
and have fun with each other again. Part of the
program was intimacy exercises, basically stared into each other's eyes
in a quiet space for extended period. It's supposed to
help us be present with each other. We decided to
continue these exercises at home, so during our last exercise,

(02:12):
we were staring into each other's eyes. We're talking about
stuff we appreciate and I start telling her how much
she means to me and what specifically I love about her.
She looked like she was in pain the more it
went on. She told me to stop praising her and
how I didn't know everything. I asked her what she meant,
and she confessed to a near physical affair. During our fallout.

(02:36):
She said she was lonely. We were on opposite sides
of the earth, and there was a coworker nineteen mel
showing her with attention and affection. Or that's too young,
nineteen Malde. This girl is like t twenty seven, that's
too young. So this is what's happening. You got a nice,
stable husband at home, and you got this nineteen year
old gen z lunatic being like, ahha with some mommy,

(02:58):
let me try to slide in there. That's what he's doing.
And you're Leonard. You're Leonard letting that little torp do that.

Speaker 4 (03:05):
I think this is one of the downfalls of the
Internet and the mommy fantasy. It's now coming into off
of the Internet. It's not just a Reddit thing, Dang dude,
it's not just a chat thing now.

Speaker 3 (03:15):
It's like real.

Speaker 1 (03:16):
In this case, at first, she ignored him, but his
chasing began feeling good, she softened. She got a high
from that. Sorry, I'm just sitting character here, She got
a high from it. She was engrossed, and they'd have
their lunch break together every day and hung out after work.
Other coworkers teased her about how she had the guy

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wrapped around her finger and him being whipped. She dismissed them,
but felt guilty about what others were perceiving, so he
moved their lunches to ar. She convinced herself the relationship
wasn't wrong because nothing physical occurred in private that shared lingering,

(03:59):
hugs and touches with each other. She eventually resolved to
have spicy sleep with him on their next hangout, but
she stopped because of her love for our family. She said,
while on her way out to meet him, she saw
our daughter and me having a good time playing together,
and how our daughter gave her a drawing over her family.

(04:20):
They reminded her of what we had on our commitment.
I remember that night too, her telling me she was
invited out for a girls' night, her getting ready and
how excited she was, and her suddenly canceling and ignoring
her phone. You know what This reminds me of is
did you ever watch Stranger Things?

Speaker 4 (04:37):
Yeah?

Speaker 1 (04:37):
Remember that whenever Nancy's mom is going out to meet
Billy and then she sees her husband knocked out with
the baby on his chest, and he's like and she
decided to stay. Yeah, this is what's happening right now. Yeah.

Speaker 4 (04:51):
Absolutely.

Speaker 1 (04:52):
Oh man, I'm looking back on it a lot differently now.
I was too numb to respond. It didn't seem real.
She asked me to say something. I asked why she
was confessing now. She said it was weighing on her,
and me speaking so positively about her made it worse.
I asked if she was still involved with a coworker.

(05:13):
She swore she wasn't. She broke things off with him
with no contact and he transferred to a different department.
He said losing our family wasn't worth the risk. I
asked her if she ever planned to tell me. She
admitted no. She convinced herself there wasn't anything to tell
because she didn't go through with it. We got a
little bit more before we get through that. But honestly,

(05:34):
this is emotional cheating, but I think we can work
through it. If this happened, I'd be like, we can
work through this. You didn't do anything, pol you almost did,
but you stopped and thank you for telling also too,
she told him. That's another huge plus there, not plus,
but you know thing to add.

Speaker 4 (05:51):
I I'm on the fence with her because she fully
planned to do it. Like if she didn't happen to
stop and glance at him in that moment, she would
have fully gone out there and.

Speaker 1 (05:59):
Done You think that should divorce?

Speaker 4 (06:01):
No, but I'm just so.

Speaker 1 (06:02):
You think they think you're working out too.

Speaker 4 (06:03):
I think they can work it out, but I don't
think that it's gonna be uneasy process. And I think
that she's I think that she's a lot more at
fault here than he's willing to currently giving her credit
for ror that she's willing to admit because she knew
it was weird. She knew she moved to the car
because she didn't want people commenting on even though she
knew that it's so guilty. Yeah, she felt the guilt.

(06:25):
So that's already there. Like you said, emotional cheating, it's there.
The fact that she didn't go through with it gives
it some grace and wiggle room, like there is potential
to save it, but I don't.

Speaker 1 (06:35):
Know if well.

Speaker 4 (06:37):
I mean, they're gonna have to do the work together.
She's gonna have to do the work together.

Speaker 1 (06:40):
Yeah, I true. So my mother in law knew before me. Oh,
the guilt was eating away at my wife, and she
opened up to her mom. My mother in law told
her I needed to hear the truth from her, and
my wife needed to trust in our relationship. It got
to me to my wh I told her that I

(07:01):
couldn't do this right now and we needed in the exercise.
She kept asking for me not to shut down on
her and proclaiming how she loves me and wants our family.
I told her that I didn't want to hear I
love yous. Right then she said the coworker was the
biggest mistake she's ever made, and she's fully committed to me.
I only told her I needed some space to process. Girl,

(07:23):
give him some space. He needs to figure this out.
He'll come around. Just give him some space.

Speaker 4 (07:28):
This isn't like a oh, hey, I forgot to tell
you I borrowed your credit card, sorry thing.

Speaker 1 (07:35):
No, this is a this is heavy I almost cheated
on you.

Speaker 4 (07:39):
And for him to go from like saying like you're great.
I trust you and everything to this. This is not
something you can bounce back from in in just like
a day, yep, or even like a week. There's healing
in processing. He's got to go through the proper stages
of grief here.

Speaker 1 (07:55):
Mm hmmmm. Sometimes she respects my Space request, sometimes she doesn't.
I moved out to the guest room for the time being.
Sends affirmation texts about her love and what our vows
mean to her. I'm still just really numb right now.
This is heck. I don't know what to do with
her confession. I knew things weren't perfect. I knew we

(08:16):
were in a bad place and working our way back,
but I never expected this. I was here wanting my wife,
wanting to work on our marriage and our family. She
goes off sneaking around with some nineteen year old kid, like,
what the heck? What are we doing here? I don't
relate either. I never looked elsewhere my wife is it
for me to me? She had a place in my

(08:36):
life that no one else could feel. I don't have
anyone to talk to with. My wife is the only
one I could holy be myself with, opening up to
about anything. But I feel like I can't do that now.
It feels like I was drowning and just when I
was getting back on the boat, I was shoved backing
into the water. I am at a complete loss. How
don't move past this. We'll continue to work on my marriage.

(08:57):
We have an update Number one. I think you need
some friends, yep. Because if your wife is your first
love from high school or college and that's all you
got and you can't talk to anyone else right now,
I think you need to expand your your social circle.
That is also kind of tough to be around. We
have an update, but first, I also wanted to clarify

(09:19):
something with my in laws fifty nine male and fifty
eight female that I was asked a lot my wife
twenty nine female, and I opened her home because my
in laws were moving close to us so they could
see our daughter or female for more and one of
the spaces to say while they got everything in order.
Their stay ended up being a lot longer than expected,
and I didn't think my father in law would escalate

(09:40):
to the point that he did. I didn't realize that's
all it had. It had taken on my family. But
my in laws have since moved out the issue is
in my mother in law. Though she has always been gracious,
it's just my father in law on through the update,
I had time to process and was in a lot
better headspace to talk to my wife. There we go,
that's what we she said. Thankfully, we found an opportunity

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when our daughter was at home. I don't want her
exposed to our fights. We were good at keeping her
out of them until my in law stayed. She was
exposed to us fighting.

Speaker 2 (10:12):
Then.

Speaker 1 (10:13):
It's partially why I paused the convost slashed intimacy exercise
after my wife's confession, because it was only leading into
a fight. I did want to cultivate a healthier environment
for our daughter. My wife said she was glad we
were talking again and how she didn't want to hide
things anymore or have secrets from me. She asked where

(10:34):
her confession about the affair left us. I told her
it left us. No, We're good. I know I love her,
I want our family, and I was committed to repairing
our marriage. I thought we were making progress and healing,
but I don't know the full extent of our wounds.
The affair is brand new for me. Around his hiring,
I remember my wife told me she thought he had

(10:54):
a crush on her and that he'd get shy around her.
It was innocent. I never gave it another thought. I
told her I wanted to see their text history. She
said she had deleted his contact and their text, but
she could retrieve it back up from my cloud. Okay, okay.
In supported her account. The timeline ended up to the
night where they were supposed to have spicy sleep. There

(11:17):
weren't any weird gaps. Seeing those texts hurt, like heck,
her indulging another guy in that way, the emotional intimacy
and everything else. She checked out of our marriage and
gave that kid a part of herself. I was completely
shout out.

Speaker 4 (11:30):
Of I feel like, I'm glad that they decided to
work through it. I'm glad that they decided that they
there was something to save here. No, I'm glad that
OPI is mature enough to be like, hey, I don't
want this fight.

Speaker 1 (11:42):
Around our kid.

Speaker 4 (11:43):
Yeah yeah, yeah, the kid's the real the biggest victim.

Speaker 1 (11:45):
Oh yeah, absolutely the victim.

Speaker 4 (11:48):
The trust is going to be hard to build back,
but it's possible.

Speaker 1 (11:51):
Yeah.

Speaker 4 (11:52):
The fact that they're discussing it is good.

Speaker 1 (11:54):
Yeah. Yeah, I agreed, agreed, got a little bit left here.
She said she'd do anything to get us back on track,
that she's committed to me and working on our marriage.
She just wants to make everything right. I said, I
didn't know how to trust her. She lied, schemed, and
had plans to tell me the truth. She decided to
withhold that privilege. She said she was afraid she crossed
the line we couldn't come back from. She had made

(12:17):
huge mistakes and wanted to fix everything. Prior to our marriage,
we had promised each other unconditional love. She was afraid
she lose that from me, that her actions pushed that
love out of orbit. She asked if it was possible
for us to recover and keep rebuilding. I told her
I couldn't give her a definite answer anymore. I'm not

(12:37):
sure if I can forgive the affair, but I'm willing
to give reconciliation a try, so we're entering Cochpol's counseling.
I can't at terms reconciliation without it. There's just too
much to navigate on our own, and the danger of
us falling back into bad communication habits. I want to
be helpful, but I don't know what to expect right now.

(12:57):
I just feel beat down and broken. I don't know
if any thing would come from therapy, but my family
means the world to me. I need to see if
it can be saved. Thank you for everyone's support, and
the resource is shared. It's much appreciated. That's the end
of that one.

Speaker 4 (13:12):
At this point. The only thing that you can hope
for is that therapy will help.

Speaker 1 (13:17):
Yeah.

Speaker 4 (13:17):
Having the outside perspective I think is necessary.

Speaker 1 (13:20):
Yeah.

Speaker 4 (13:20):
I think that if left to their own devices, I
think the hurt would fester.

Speaker 1 (13:24):
Yeah.

Speaker 4 (13:26):
I do think that there is hope, but they have
to maintain a path that's set forth by some like
outside party.

Speaker 1 (13:33):
Yeah, they're definitely. I think it's gonna be another little
rough patch. I love this dynamic. I just want op
to get more male friends and just stick it to
the dad, the father in law and continue down this road.
You're gonna be a strong dad, and you're gonna be
a strong parent, and I see a bright future here.
I love this.

Speaker 5 (13:53):
My boyfriend believed that I'm only dating him because he's rich.

Speaker 3 (13:58):
Well, if I was.

Speaker 5 (14:00):
I Seil twenty nine have been dating my boyfriend Mail
thirty five for almost six months. We've known each other
for about a year and a half. I'm a teacher
and make around fifty k a year and he's a lawyer.
And while his yearly earnings vary based on which clients
and companies he works with, it's always somewhere in the
six figures. By the way, this comes from Peach Teach

(14:21):
seven seven seven and if you want to submit your
own stories, go to the r slash Okay storytime suppered it.
So recently, we attended a family get together at my parents' house.
My parents, a male and female sixties and older brother
male thirty five, had already met him before this, but
also invited some of our extended family and my sister
in law's family as well. Everything was going fine until

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my sister, female thirty two, walked in. We're low contact,
we'd be no contact if my parents didn't want to
have a relationship with her, and nobody told me she
had been invited.

Speaker 3 (14:54):
Not cool. When I asked my mom what was up,
she said she invited her because she needed some inc
meant for what? I encourage her to stay away? Yeah?

Speaker 5 (15:03):
I was absolutely fuming, but decided to see how the
night went and leave if my sister decided to stir
anything up. Thankfully, my sister seemed fine and I didn't
see her much. My boyfriend left early since he was tired,
and I thought that was that boy.

Speaker 3 (15:16):
Was I wrong?

Speaker 5 (15:17):
A week passed with no messages from him, which is
really weird. We text each other every day, just chatting
about our days or making plans for dates. Then all
of a sudden, he texts me to meet up at
a park and that he wanted to talk about something important.
I had no idea.

Speaker 3 (15:33):
What was up. I'm smelling a breakup.

Speaker 5 (15:36):
Oh, I'm smelling that sister told him something at the party.

Speaker 2 (15:40):
Oh oh, oh, well, I think I read ahead, and
then I jumped, yeah, your.

Speaker 3 (15:44):
Sense of smell is two good. We met.

Speaker 5 (15:47):
He doesn't hug me, also out of the ordinary, and
I asked him what's wrong? First thing out of his mouth?
Are you dating me just because I'm rich?

Speaker 3 (15:55):
What the heck? Uh? No, I'm not.

Speaker 5 (15:58):
And I tell him that. He just asks me again.
I ask him where he's getting this from. It's so
out of left field. Then he asked me if I've
ever shared, all my problems would be solved if I've
married rich. I'm a girl, lie I definitely have joked
about that, haven't we all? We all joked about how
all our problems wouldn't go away if we married rich.

Speaker 2 (16:21):
Well, because that's it's true. It's true my problems would
be solved.

Speaker 3 (16:25):
If I won the lottery. That's also true. Probably not
gonna happen.

Speaker 1 (16:30):
Yeah, well, your problems will be solving. Then you'll have
different problems.

Speaker 3 (16:34):
Exactly, But my first level of problems will be solved. Right,
my money problems will be solved.

Speaker 5 (16:38):
But in the same way you say, maybe I should
quit my job and move to Iceland and herd sheep
for the rest of my life.

Speaker 3 (16:43):
I get to girl, you don't have to explain yourself.

Speaker 5 (16:45):
Yeah, anyways, I tell him that and ask him again,
where the heck is this coming from? He said, My
sister told him. Apparently, she introduced herself and they chatted
for a bit. When he told her he was a lawyer,
she said, that makes total sense, because oh he always
wanted to looks like she's living the dream, y'all. I
could have screamed. I can't even describe the emotions I

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was feeling.

Speaker 3 (17:07):
My sister.

Speaker 5 (17:08):
The absolute audacity to take a joke, I said when
I was a depressed teenager with health issues, out of
context and misrepresent me to my boyfriend. Literally insane. I
was shaking. I told my boyfriend that what she said
was entirely out of context and he can't trust her.
But now it just sounds like you're you know, it

(17:29):
sounds like he's like, I've already heard the truth and
now you're just trying to discredit her.

Speaker 3 (17:33):
Yeah, but it's like, well, but it's like, no, she
should be discredited.

Speaker 5 (17:36):
Yeah, but also like, have you not talked to your
boyfriend about your relationship with your sister? I don't know,
because I feel like if you have that poor relationship,
you would have come up and then you could have
been like, well, you know, my sister, she's always saying
stuff like this, right, That's why I don't have a
relationship with her, right.

Speaker 3 (17:50):
And I mean hopefully too.

Speaker 2 (17:51):
The fact that she was like a teenager when she
said this, and yeah, she's like in her late twenties,
I think, like hopefully that explains it too.

Speaker 5 (17:58):
He just kept pressing and asking why would she say
something like that so casually if it wasn't the truth.
I told him, because she's a self absorbed person who's
spent years treating me like the old one two in
bag and never taking accountability. He just couldn't get it,
so I left. I told him that he was going
to take the word of one person who he just
met over the word of all my friends and family

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who will vouch for me that I'm not that kind
of person over all of the months he's spent getting
to know me as a person. Then this wasn't gonna work.
The tears were already starting to come down, but I
managed to hold it together all right until I got
to my car and just sobbed.

Speaker 3 (18:32):
I feel broken. I'm in love with my boyfriend.

Speaker 5 (18:35):
He's the first person I've ever felt comfortable being myself with.
He truly is such an intelligent, mature person. The way
he communicates in our relationship has been truly healing, coming
from the family dynamics I grew up with. But the
biggest fear I've had with dating is that someone wouldn't
trust me. That the person I love and trust the
most would question me on who I am when I've

(18:56):
already shown them, which is why this whole situation is
so confusing and painful.

Speaker 3 (19:00):
I don't get it.

Speaker 5 (19:01):
It's been a few days, and I don't know where
we go from here. I haven't texted him because I
need space, and he hasn't texted me either. Am I overreacting?
I feel like he should have known better than to
just essentially take a stranger's word over mine. Where do
we go from here? Am I overreacting? And there is
an edit? I'll read that really quick. The commenter who

(19:22):
talked about relationships being a two way street really stuck
in my head. I don't think I've handled this properly.
That and the commentary talking about me essentially being the dumper,
and that if I don't want this relationship to end,
I'm the one who needs to.

Speaker 3 (19:34):
Make that clear. All in all, I don't think I
handled this situation. Well.

Speaker 5 (19:37):
I'm gonna text my boyfriend and see if we can
actually just hash everything out. I'm not sure where things
are gonna end up, but I know that neither of
us can make a decision about anything if we don't
talk about it.

Speaker 3 (19:46):
We'll see how it goes.

Speaker 5 (19:47):
There are some comments and an update. Folks, I think
they're both acting very rashally here. Yeah, it seems like
he comes and he says, your sister said that you
marry me because I'm rich.

Speaker 3 (19:58):
Yeah, and she.

Speaker 5 (19:59):
Said no, and he's your sister said that, yeah, you're
marry blah blah blah blah.

Speaker 3 (20:02):
And then she's like, fine, if you you can't even
believe who I am, then we're done. And she's like,
oh so she did. Oh dang.

Speaker 5 (20:09):
I think that he is very much in the wrong,
and I understand why she was very hurt by that,
But I do understand the comment saying like, hey, let's
actually have a mature conversation that's not being fueled by
like big emotions and stuff and like wait, like say,
let's calm down, let's have a mature conversation. If he's
still accusing.

Speaker 2 (20:28):
You, yeah, yeah, because it really does feel very dramatic,
like that whole conversation of him being like, did you
say you wanted to marry me because I'm rich? And
then she's like why would you say that? And she's like,
did you say you want to marry me because I'm rich?
It's like that feels like it's poor. Yeah, it feels
like it's pouring rain. And he's asking like if she

(20:49):
she did this whole con.

Speaker 3 (20:50):
Against his family or something like that, Yeah, that's what
it sounds like, with the level of it, did she
marry me just because I'm the crown prince right? No,
I would never do that.

Speaker 5 (21:01):
Yeah, your sista said that you did prot rain sh
sh Yeah, yeah exactly.

Speaker 3 (21:07):
I just can't even believe you. I don't even know you. Yeah,
it's so dramatic.

Speaker 5 (21:12):
Yeah, there are some comments. Vivid Ad says, has to
be way more to this. If you're paying for all
your own stuff, there's zero reason to believe you're with
him for money. Is he paying your bills? Do you
ask him for money? Does he spend a lot of
money on you? That kind of comment of marrying rich
would make a man making good money feel uncomfortable. But
if there's no reason to believe that, then it shouldn't

(21:33):
be an issue. Opie says, he doesn't pay my bills,
and I definitely don't ask him for money. I was
raised with a we don't have money for stuff like
that dad, so I find asking for money hard, even
if I'm owed it. He definitely is generous with how
he spends money on me. On our first date, he
showed up with flowers and I was stunned because no
one ever did that for me before.

Speaker 3 (21:51):
That's normal.

Speaker 5 (21:52):
He should be doing that. That's not like going above
and beyond. Yeah, exactly after I told him.

Speaker 3 (21:57):
He's brought flowers for every single day consisting stop. I
love that.

Speaker 5 (22:02):
When I told him I was gonna wait a few
months to take my car into the shop because then
I'd have a bit more money saved, it was making
a weird squeaking noise. He literally drove me and the
car to the shop that day and told me not
to worry about it. My safety was more important. And
there is an update three days later. Wow, I honestly think, yeah,
I have that conversation.

Speaker 3 (22:20):
Yeah, because I'm sure conversation, like it seems like everything
else is good.

Speaker 2 (22:23):
Yeah, And in so many of these stories that we read,
it's like they find something out and then that person
who finds out this misinformation is like, we're over, we're
talking about this without having a conversation, and she was like,
oh my gosh, I can't believe you would think this
without having a conversation, And it's like, well, I mean
he's kind of there to have that conversation, yeah, even
though he wasn't really believing her super fast, like that's
what he's there for.

Speaker 3 (22:44):
Yeah, but there is an update, folks. All right, so
let's do it.

Speaker 5 (22:47):
Hi, all, I just want to make an update since
a lot has happened over the weekend. Some comments helped
me realize that simply walking away from the conversation was
not the right thing to do. Yeah, but again, both
of you had very high emotions and and I think
waiting until you are both cooled down.

Speaker 3 (23:04):
Is probably very smart.

Speaker 5 (23:05):
I decided to text my boyfriend on Friday and sent
him this message, Hey, boyfriend, I want to apologize for
leaving things the way I did. I was really upset
and hurt, so I left before my emotions got worse,
which obviously didn't help the situation. Can we meet up
this weekend and talk. I want to see if we
can get on the same page and evaluate our relationship.
He texted me back almost immediately and agreed to meet

(23:26):
up at my place yesterday. He obviously also wants to
get back. Yeah, you guys both want this relationship, and
you let your sister get in the.

Speaker 3 (23:34):
Middle of you.

Speaker 2 (23:35):
Yeah, it's just a gaggle of silly geese over shilly geeses.

Speaker 3 (23:39):
I was pretty nervous. I'm not gonna lie.

Speaker 5 (23:41):
Some people thought that I should just break up with them,
and others thought that maybe there was something deeper going
on that he wasn't telling me Either way, I wanted
to get all the facts smart.

Speaker 3 (23:51):
When I opened the door.

Speaker 5 (23:53):
He was hauling a bouquet of flowers, and I had
a look on his face I've never seen before. Oh.
It was a mixture of sun and concern, which was
kind of overwhelming because he's not really the type to
be so expressive or emotional. He gave me the flowers
and we sat down, and the first words out of
his mouth were I'm so sorry. Ope, I know I
fed up.

Speaker 3 (24:11):
See, guys, sometimes you have a real conversation with people
that you love, yeah, and it works out. You can
solve your problems. Was sold problems. Who would have thunk.

Speaker 5 (24:23):
That apology just really calmed me down because I was
so afraid this was going to be a back and
forth of us trying to defend ourselves for what happened.
He said he was just about to text me to
meet up and talk. When I texted him, I thanked
him for the apology and apologized for my reaction to
and asked him, how did.

Speaker 3 (24:40):
We get here?

Speaker 5 (24:40):
Can you just explain everything from the beginning, so I
can understand. I wasn't prepared for what he told me.

Speaker 3 (24:46):
Oh my goshut the thumb. What do you think he
really excited for this? I don't know.

Speaker 2 (24:50):
I think maybe the sister said more things or something.
I wasn't expecting to have another like twist in this,
and I'm.

Speaker 3 (24:56):
Really very happy. I think the sister said more. I
think so.

Speaker 5 (25:00):
For some context, my boyfriend was not the person he
used to be.

Speaker 3 (25:04):
Oh.

Speaker 5 (25:05):
He used to be a serial womanizer, work aolic type
of guy. I was aware of all this before we
started dating.

Speaker 3 (25:11):
Dude.

Speaker 5 (25:11):
This is the plot of a movie where like the
prince who's always out on the town, woman eyes and people, yeah,
you know, meets this kindergarten teacher at a bookstore or whatever.

Speaker 3 (25:23):
Yeah, and they slowly.

Speaker 5 (25:24):
Fall in love, right, and then he finds out that like,
she wants to be with him for money.

Speaker 3 (25:29):
Yeah, and he's everything's over. Oh yeah, yeah. Yeah. They
have a fight in the rain, in the middle of
the cobblestone streets. In the accent yeah, and they have
a British accent. They've got British accent. His dad, the King,
who was also a lawyer, was his idol. He wanted
to be just like him. Dude, this is exactly what's happened, exactly.

Speaker 5 (25:49):
However, his dad had been married to his mom for
many years, so that was where my boyfriend drew aligne.
He was fine hooking up with women while he was single,
but as soon as he got married that would be
the end and he would be a faithful partner.

Speaker 3 (26:01):
Like his dad, I would hope.

Speaker 5 (26:02):
So yeah, right, kind of that's not like that, that's yeah.

Speaker 3 (26:08):
Yeah.

Speaker 5 (26:09):
Unfortunately for him, things kind of all came crashing down
when he found out his mom had.

Speaker 3 (26:14):
Been cheating on his dad for years now.

Speaker 5 (26:18):
When my boyfriend told his dad about it, and she's
probably cheating with like the prime minister.

Speaker 3 (26:22):
Yeah, yeah, it's some other duke from the other other province.
His dad told him to keep it to himself because
his dad had also been cheating for years. No, oh,
my gosh, I wasn't expecting. Oh this is a movie.
Oh dude, you have a movie script right here. Just

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make everyone British.

Speaker 5 (26:44):
Yeah, make everyone British, and also make your partner the
Prince of England.

Speaker 4 (26:48):
Yah.

Speaker 2 (26:48):
Pitch it to a Hallmark or yeah, like my fair prince.

Speaker 3 (26:54):
Yeah, that's a great name for it.

Speaker 2 (26:56):
My you with the prince? Yeah exactly. Oh my god, gosh,
this is crazy. So is he now gonna be like, well,
I have to follow in my dad's whatsneps. Yeah, well
I'm not to do it.

Speaker 3 (27:05):
I guess I don't have to be faithful like my
dad because he wasn't.

Speaker 5 (27:10):
I think they both knew about the other affair partners
and just decided they cared more about their image and reputation.
So they never got a divorce. Wow, because they're the king.

Speaker 3 (27:18):
Because they can't get a divorce. Exactly.

Speaker 5 (27:21):
My boyfriend was floored. The idealized image of his dad
was shattered, and he got really depressed. He started drinking
and going to bars more off to work, and that's
where he met our mutual friend, Matt. Matt was working
as a bartender and.

Speaker 3 (27:34):
Got to know him a bit. I am seeing this
whole movie play out in my Yeah. No, I really
am too. Ope, I like it. I like it.

Speaker 5 (27:42):
Matt's a wonderful person, the type who really takes an
interest in everyone. Matt helped him get a better handle
on his life and they became friends. My boyfriend completely
changed his lifestyle. He stopped over drinking, cut his hours
down from the eighty to ninety hour work weeks he
used to do, and stopped objectifying women just to sleep
with them.

Speaker 3 (28:01):
That's good, cool. Nice.

Speaker 5 (28:05):
Matt later moved into my city for work, and I
was introduced to him because he started dating one of
my friends, Becta. My boyfriend and I actually met at
Matt and Becca's wedding. Anyways, my boyfriend moved out here
a few years ago to get away from his parents
after his lifestyle changed to essentially restart his life for good.

Speaker 3 (28:23):
Dude, he gave up the crown.

Speaker 1 (28:25):
Wow.

Speaker 5 (28:26):
He moved to have a yeah, yeah, yeah, you could.

Speaker 3 (28:30):
Have like a low key, like simple life, yeah, spotlight.

Speaker 5 (28:33):
And he's like dry, I don't know. He's like walking
on the street one day and ohp he bumps into
him and he's like, do.

Speaker 3 (28:38):
You know who I am? Yeah? And she's like, no,
who are you am?

Speaker 5 (28:42):
I supposed to And he's like, wow, oh my gosh,
I've never met anyone who didn't know who I want.

Speaker 2 (28:49):
She doesn't know me, she just she's the type to
bring a book to a concert.

Speaker 5 (28:53):
She's reading a book at a concert. I've never seen
a girl like that before. I'm my god, he said, quirky,
and then they fall in love and.

Speaker 3 (29:02):
Then the Hathaway. Yes. Well, so that brings us to
last week.

Speaker 5 (29:10):
After I left the park, my boyfriend took what I
said to heart, that the word of my family and
friends should be enough for him to trust me, and
went straight to Matt after to get his thoughts. My
boyfriend said Matt was really kind, letting him explain what
happened without interrupting, but then afterwards Matt really laid into him.
Matt asked him, do you really think that he would
still be living in a crappy one bedroom apartment if

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she was dating used just for money? Has she ever
given you any reason the question of before all of this.
My boyfriend admitted that I had never given him any
reason to question my motives. Yeah, that he knows I'm
generous and not materialistic, But my sister's words got into
his head. He said, it was like listening to a child.
They have no reason to light to you, so I

(29:55):
believed it immediately. I actually don't blame him for that part.
Every single person who has met my sister describes her
as innocent and bubbly and as a very difficult time
seeing her as anything but that. Even my parents still
view her like this despite them knowing how many people
she's cheated on yikes, well, how much of their money
she's wasted and never given back, and how many times
she's joked about unliving them or myself.

Speaker 2 (30:18):
Okay, so that's a when we're looking at a list
of characteristics, it's a wild one to throw in there.

Speaker 5 (30:24):
I didn't know this next part, but my boyfriend opened
up to Matt when they were first getting to know
each other about how many women used him for his money.
People only saw me as Crown Prince Peter. I was
in anything back Crown Prince Peta. And then when I
met Opie, she just saw me as that guy right,
that man on the street that she knocked over, And

(30:44):
I wanted to be that guy who just did laundry
at a laundry Matt and didn't have servants to do
it for him. I knew that his last relationship ended
badly while he still lived out East, but apparently this
was the first major relationship after his lifestyle change, and.

Speaker 3 (30:58):
He really loved her.

Speaker 5 (31:00):
He bought basically everything for her all the time, and
she still cheated on him all of that led him
to become really insecure about people's motives when it came
to dating. He explained that even some of the nicest
women just lit up and acted completely different when he
told them he was a lawyer, crown prince, and it
completely unlived any desire he had to get to know
them better. He told Matt, you didn't want to date

(31:21):
anyone unless he knew someone who could vouch for them personally.
Matt was the one who encouraged him to ask me
out because he already noticed we liked each other and
told my boyfriend that I was a good person. I
know this girl, she comes in here time to time.
She's a real dime a real dime piece.

Speaker 3 (31:38):
Yeah, you should ask her out. Ask her. I don't know, Matt.
I just could never find anyone who loves me for me.
Do you really think she could be the one? And
then she walks in the door, yeah, hair hair blowing.
It's like, oh right, I'll give right.

Speaker 5 (31:57):
Back to their recent conversation, Matt's ad that if my
boyfriend needed more outside confirmation, he should listen to me
and go talk to people in my life to get
a better perspective of what kind of person I am.
He starts interviewing people. There's a whole montage of him
collecting notes about Ope, and everyone's like, Oh.

Speaker 3 (32:13):
He's the nicest gallant girl could ask a friend for.

Speaker 2 (32:17):
I'm seeing he is getting introduced to her family and
you live in like a small, like crammed apartment, and he's.

Speaker 3 (32:23):
Like, but they're really rounded by little kids.

Speaker 5 (32:24):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (32:25):
Yeah, And he's at first like, yeah, it's disgusting, disgusting.
You haven't you don't have your maid come in and
all the kids are like sneezing into their arms, like,
and then they all gather around for it and it's andy.

Speaker 3 (32:37):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (32:38):
Then they all huddled together on the couch and he
sees that they really just value each other.

Speaker 3 (32:42):
And he's like, I really understand the magic of Christmas.

Speaker 5 (32:46):
Now my boyfriend has actually spent the last week doing
exactly that. He even went to my parents were describing
that's what she means, and told them what happened. Apparently
my mom was horrified. She really likes my boyfriend, so
when she found out that inviting my sister I had
essentially caused a rift in our relationship, my mom got
really upset. Her whole aspiration has always been to see

(33:07):
all our children married, and since my sister has said
nothing but failed relationships and I've otherwise been chronically single,
knowing she did anything to mess up my relationship was
probably pretty upsetting to her. He said that she was
crying and very apologetic. He also asked her to give
me space until he had had a chance to apologize
to me himself, which in hindsight makes a lot of
sense because my mom usually calls and texts me every

(33:30):
day and has been mia this whole week. All in all,
my boyfriend said that my friends and family had nothing
but good things to say about me, that I was
absolutely not a gold digger, and anyone who ever suggests
that is just plain wrong. I was crying pretty hard
by this point, hearing everything. My boyfriend kept apologizing and
saying he'd do anything to earn my trust back. But

(33:50):
he also said that if our relationship was going to work,
if my sister might pop up again unexpectedly, he needed
to know everything. He wanted to be prepared for exact
exactly what kind of person she is, so this kind
of thing never happens again. So I told them not
absolutely everything, because there's so much to cover, but once
I started mentioning things, I just kept going, I'm not

(34:11):
going to get into the gritty details on Reddit because
my sister might see it, and also a lot of
it is really painful. But the long and short of
it is she has untreated mental illnesses that was very
obvious from a lot of the comments that she makes yep,
that she refuses to get help for the times we
have gotten her specific help therapy in patient medications. She
has been uncooperative or stop treatment against medical professionals advisement,

(34:34):
and she has a pattern of awful behavior and love
bombing in all of her relationships both familial and romantic,
that she never takes accountability for her This is why
I'm low contact with her. By now, you're probably wondering
if I'm in therapy. I haven't been for some time
because I've been working contracts and didn't have insurance coverage
through work, but I will come September. Something my boyfriend
both agreed to in this conversation is for both of

(34:56):
us to get individual therapy, him to deal with his
unresolved and se securities and trauma around his parents and
past relationship and me because my sister did a number
on me and I've never really opened up about it
in therapy. We're also going to set scheduled weekly times
where we're not necessarily going to go on dates, but
have uninterrupted time to talk openly, especially on any insights

(35:16):
we sat in therapy. By this point of the conversation,
things were getting a little less heavy, and I joked
about how we both have the same trauma reaction of
going silent when things get too intense. We both agreed
that we didn't handle this well, and in the future,
any and all concerns we have will be communicated properly
and immediately. We're not going to run away from each other,
and if we don't understand something, we're going to ask

(35:37):
questions until we do. Since we talked for hours, we
ended up just making dinner at my place and talking
some more. I'm really hopeful for what comes next.

Speaker 2 (35:45):
Anna.

Speaker 3 (35:45):
There are some comments, but do you have any final thoughts.
I think this is great. I think everything about this
is great.

Speaker 1 (35:51):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (35:51):
I now really want to watch a movie where there's
a print in the popp earth kind of thing.

Speaker 5 (35:55):
I agree, but yeah, but the popper is op yeah. Yeah,
and these and they call love love Yeah, And there
I like it. They're not sisters.

Speaker 3 (36:02):
Really funny.

Speaker 5 (36:03):
Yeah, you guys, maybe work on your communication and stay
away from your sister, right, you got this?

Speaker 3 (36:08):
Yeah, I believe in this relationship. I believe in you guys.

Speaker 1 (36:11):
I believe in it.

Speaker 5 (36:12):
Comments Nola says no one told the op that a
boyfriend came around asking about her.

Speaker 3 (36:16):
Odd Opie says, after.

Speaker 5 (36:17):
My boyfriend's convos with Matt and then my parents, he
basically said he had what he needed in his words,
to reassure himself of my intentions just around things out.
He casually reached out to a few more of my
friends and my brother with hey, just curious how you
would describe Ope as a person and what her values
are text Only one of my friends kind of questioned
him about it. He told her that he was in
his head a bit and needed some outside reminders to

(36:38):
reassure him of what he already knew. I'm not surprised
none of my friends said anything to me. We usually
update each other about stuff in person, so I imagine
when I meet up with them they'll bring it up.

Speaker 1 (36:47):
Then Hey, it's Sam, your og host. Here. We're gonna
get back to the stories.

Speaker 3 (36:50):
But here's three minutes of ads from our sponsors. I
don't want to marry my boyfriend anymore.

Speaker 2 (36:56):
Yeh oh, not that he male wanted to marry me
t when he ate female anyway.

Speaker 3 (37:02):
He's stated in marriage is like a noose around the neck. Cool.

Speaker 2 (37:06):
I was absolutely in love with this man. We have
such a beautiful child together. I wanted to marry him
because I wanted to show my absolute commitment commitment I
thought he reciprocated, but over time I just.

Speaker 3 (37:17):
See that I was delusional.

Speaker 2 (37:19):
By the way, this comes from Taita and if you
want to submit your own stories, go to the r
slash Okay storytime separate it. So, after our child was born,
I saw him following a lot of thirst trap girls
on TikTok. I told him how much it hurt me,
especially when my body doesn't look great anymore.

Speaker 3 (37:33):
After pregnancy. My self esteem was at a low point,
mostly hormones.

Speaker 2 (37:37):
But seeing that didn't help, I asked him to unfollow
them and not engage with that content. Every time I
build my confidence up and accept my new body, I
would see him following more girls. I would remind him,
he would unfollow and I had to start building up
my confidence again. For a while it seemed good until
he had to use my phone for work since his broke.
I offered him my phone since he drives for work

(37:59):
and I want to him to have a way to
communicate in an emergency. Months later, I logged back into
my private TikTok the likes and follows.

Speaker 3 (38:07):
It was hundreds of girls.

Speaker 2 (38:09):
He was logged into my private account on his phone,
knowing I was checking in on his account from my end.
I confronted him, told him with the lengths that you
went to try and hide this, him doing it over
and over knowing it hurt me. I consider it cheating
and I won't tolerate it again. He agreed, promised not
to do it again, and we moved on.

Speaker 3 (38:30):
Things were looking up for a bit.

Speaker 2 (38:32):
I'm losing a lot of the baby weight. I had
time to work on my appearance again. Things were feeling
a bit more normal again. Reader, I'm sure at this
point you're screaming on me.

Speaker 3 (38:40):
Run it's gonna happen again. Yeah.

Speaker 2 (38:43):
I was almost there, and you would be right. I
found his Twitter and my recommended. He told me he
didn't have Twitter. When I asked, he was following and
liking again. But I now saw him commenting I had it.

Speaker 3 (38:56):
I told him, and he just said, I don't get it.
I just see it.

Speaker 2 (39:00):
And after back and forth, I told him I don't
want to be with him anymore.

Speaker 3 (39:05):
Maybe you could like have.

Speaker 2 (39:07):
That kind of conversation when you first is brought up like, oh, well,
this is how I see it. I don't see it
as like I want these girls in a relationship. She
was like Gord, which different couples of different feelings about
but like after all this time, Ope, he's explaining how
it makes her feels.

Speaker 3 (39:24):
And then he's just like, I don't get the problems.
Like come on, man, man, I see where you're coming from.
Kid together, Yeah, I know right.

Speaker 2 (39:33):
It's like I know you've told me so many times,
but like, why is this a problem?

Speaker 3 (39:37):
Like that's crazy.

Speaker 2 (39:39):
The only reason why I'm staying is that I will
be danged if I don't get to see my son
every day and he doesn't get to see his father
every day. Now we are back in the growth phase,
but dang, it's been weighing on me every day. I
have moments where I feel happy and confident, but I
just remember these women and how I look nothing like them.
In moments where I look at him lovingly, happy with

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our growth, It's tainted thinking what new way is he
hiding his regular use to these women.

Speaker 3 (40:06):
Him calling me pretty or beautiful feels like a lie.

Speaker 2 (40:09):
There are moments where we are playing with our son
and I'm wondering if it'll be the last time we
do that. Seeing my boyfriend on his phone fixated to
the point where he can't even hear me talking to him,
wondering if his attention is on another woman. Yeah, honestly, Oh,
this is so sad because it's all the like highs
and lows, and it's like, just because it can get

(40:30):
better a little bit doesn't mean that like it's worth continuing.
I'm grieving the me that didn't know any of this.
I wish I was still oblivious. I wish I could
just forget all of it, still blissfully in love with
him and our little family. I wish I no longer
agreed with him when he said marriage would be like
a noose around his neck.

Speaker 3 (40:47):
And there are some comments.

Speaker 2 (40:49):
One comment was downvoted and says your insecurity is not
his faults, although he still should not have lied to you.
I feel like you two did not communicate it correctly,
and just like him, I would see it as porn,
which shouldn't be a problem as long as he still
genuinely appreciates you.

Speaker 3 (41:05):
I could see why that was done voted in a bit.

Speaker 6 (41:07):
Yeah, I think it's coming from a place of like
I get what they're trying to say in terms of
the like, sure, there is a certain amount of insecurity
here that like other people can never control the amount
of insecurity.

Speaker 3 (41:21):
You have about something, right, but.

Speaker 6 (41:25):
Again, like there's a lot of other stuff going on
here as well. Of like if that insecurity has been
communicated and like things were agreed upon and then you
still went.

Speaker 3 (41:36):
Back on that thing, it's like that's where.

Speaker 2 (41:38):
It gets into like right, you know, right, because it's
always the kind of thing where it's like, you know,
at the end of the day, when it comes to insecurity,
it's like you are really the only one that can
actually build yourself up, Like you're the only one that
can I guess kind of do something about it. People
can definitely support you and contribute to that, but you
still sometimes would have to have your own like self love.

Speaker 3 (42:00):
But in this situation specifically, the context is still Yeah.

Speaker 2 (42:04):
Like she did communicate that insecurity exactily, and he seemingly
didn't do anything.

Speaker 3 (42:09):
To reassure her that he does still like her.

Speaker 6 (42:13):
Exactly And somebody says like duchess.

Speaker 3 (42:15):
Cassanda says, I don't know. She's at a boundary that
he agreed to, and it's like, yeah, that's the thing, right, yeah,
And I'm seeing against it.

Speaker 2 (42:22):
Bobie response to that, and I agree, my self esteem
is on me. But seeing him, the man I gave
my heart and soul to ruined my body for actively
seek out and hide his interactions with these women hurts
to see comments makes me wonder if he's messaging these
women or paying these women to see more, would he
f these women if given the chance to continue doing

(42:43):
so after I explicitly told him I consider it cheating
is not hurt done unintentionally. I'm guilty of wanting to
feel enough for him for letting that affect the way
I view my body. My self esteem is on me,
but my lack of trust in him is on him
and his actions. The same commenter says, I over read
the commenting part My bad, But what if?

Speaker 3 (43:05):
What if? What if? Doesn't really help?

Speaker 2 (43:07):
He is addicted to corn, Maybe he needs therapy to
get away from it. Girls posting themselves as their's traps
mostly don't even reply, nor would they ever interact with
the men physically. Have you tried asking him if he
does not feel fulfilled? Spicily related? Opy responds, it's okay,
and yeah, the what ifs are definitely hurting progress.

Speaker 3 (43:27):
But I can't help that.

Speaker 2 (43:28):
My mind is wondering just how deep this goes. And
while most don't comment back, the possibility.

Speaker 3 (43:33):
Is always there.

Speaker 7 (43:35):
Guys he okay, you know, no, fat I don't okay, no, FYP, No,
FYP is really clever, so Fie, well done, well done, darling,
you give up the good work like that.

Speaker 3 (43:49):
I don't get it.

Speaker 5 (43:50):
But no, just like when you don't do like you
don't watch corn or anything and you don't like.

Speaker 2 (43:55):
Oh, it's like a like you know, almost like a
like dry January kind of.

Speaker 3 (43:59):
Yeah yeah, but for like the entire year for the gooners.
Does it stand for maybe we unless we maybe all
figured it out? Well anyway, I just had a clever idea.
But that's okay. Jobs, I'm proud of you.

Speaker 2 (44:12):
We have discussed his needs at length, and while I'm
working on my end to make sure he's satisfied. It's
hard to maintain at times, part of which is because
I'm continuing to try to meet his needs when my trust.

Speaker 3 (44:21):
In him has been abliterated.

Speaker 2 (44:23):
But now this is responding to a longer comment about
corn addictions, Opie says, thank you. Seeing these comments about
corn and regular use changed my perspective for context. He's
an amazing dat started working super early mornings three am
to one pm so he can spend time with his kid.
He's helping me learn Spanish so we can teach our
son to be bilingual. He will help me out with

(44:43):
no questions asked. This is his first real relationship and
we ended up having our kid before our first anniversary.
Before anyone comments, we have been friends for over ten years,
so he's navigating a relationship for the first time in parenthood.

Speaker 3 (44:55):
At the same time, and.

Speaker 2 (44:56):
Since our last discussion on this, he has corrected behaviors
didn't even touch on. He started complimenting my body more,
initiating more, giving me time to work on my self care, nails, skincare,
hair care, et cetera, so I can start feeling like
myself again.

Speaker 3 (45:10):
He started watching corn where the women look more like me.

Speaker 2 (45:14):
Deleted socials where there are thirst, straps, et cetera, all
of which I didn't explicitly ask for. When I say
absolute commitments, I'm here throughout the thick and thin.

Speaker 3 (45:24):
I absolutely believe.

Speaker 2 (45:25):
A relationship can recover from most anything if both are willing,
and we are. We both see now that our relationship
needs to be strong for our son, and we will
do what it takes to make it. And there are
some comments. Bitter pill Pusher too says, you love the
man you want him to be, not the man he is.

Speaker 3 (45:42):
You know what you should do?

Speaker 6 (45:44):
The commenters are always so fascinating and a little bit
funny on these. I love the person. I like to
imagine that this person just scrounges Reddit and on every
single post is like, you.

Speaker 3 (45:55):
Know what you need to do? Yeah, you know what
you need to do? Yeah, vaguely cryptic. Right, it feels
so ominous like you No. I actually that's why I'm here.
You know what you need to do? Yeah? Sorry, I
was actually asking a question to read it. Yeah, yeah.

Speaker 2 (46:11):
Plaine Rosemary says exactly, you can't marry a fantasy if
you're unhappy and he violates your boundaries. Why stay the baby? Wait,
is not the problem here in International Fee twenty two
five to five. You could try a couple's therapy, but honestly,
I don't think he's worth it. And as the mother
of a nineteen year old who has had a lot
of revelations about her dad, your kid will not benefit

(46:33):
from parents who live together but aren't happy together. He
cheated on you, you told him not to do it regularly,
and he dismissed you each time. I don't think he
will change, and there is an updates, but before we
get into it. Yeah, honestly, I kind of feel that
way because like in one of her comments, she was like,
this is his first relationship, like you know, blah blah
blah blah blah.

Speaker 3 (46:53):
Yeah, And I remember seeing things one time where.

Speaker 2 (46:56):
It's like, oh, like it was videos of people trauma
dumping online.

Speaker 3 (47:00):
It was like, I'm going through this hard thing.

Speaker 2 (47:02):
But I keep reminding myself that, like it's their first
time living too, you know.

Speaker 3 (47:06):
So it's like, of course they're gonna make mistakes and whatever, and.

Speaker 2 (47:08):
It's like, okay, but let's look at that in the
opposite perspective. It's Op's first time living and she's not
doing these things you.

Speaker 3 (47:16):
Know what I mean.

Speaker 2 (47:16):
So it's like, just because it's someone's first time, like
going through a relationship or having certain I don't know,
feelings or experiences, doesn't mean that you have to just
put up with it and be okay with it because
you're bringing it up and trying to fix it. And
I mean, it seems like he's doing things now, but
for a while he was being very dismissive of you.

Speaker 3 (47:37):
So everyone was right.

Speaker 2 (47:39):
Yeah. It would just continue to happen connantly, over and
over until I reached a point where when I saw
it again, I just felt numb. I started giving love
to myself, focusing on exercising, diet, creating arts, spending time
with my son. Eventually I decided I couldn't be with
him anymore and I left. Get this, Our son is

(48:00):
almost three, And when he was begging for me back,
he said, I'm sorry, it's just hitting me that we
have a son. OHPI says, effing what anyway, I have
one hundred percent custody and I'm driving.

Speaker 3 (48:13):
This is awesome, And there are some more comments. Commenter says, yep,
and the plus.

Speaker 2 (48:18):
Site is your son won't have his cheating irresponsible but
as a primary role model nop He says, this was
the big realization at the end of it all, he
has a poor male role model, but by me saying
I'm a bad role model as well. That love is
tolerating disrespect and accepting less than the bare minimum. I
love him enough to put my fears of solo parenting aside. Yeah,

(48:41):
that's honestly a really big thing too. Like, if you
don't like what someone's doing in a relationship, but you
like don't know if you want to leave or stay,
imagine teaching your kids that it's okay to do that,
or that it's okay to be treated that way.

Speaker 3 (48:53):
You know, you just got the little kids scrolling on
his feed too. Yeah. Literally, it takes a lot of courage,
and she slight it up. Good job, Dune.

Speaker 2 (49:01):
Another commentary says, congratulations on your independence. Your ex sounds
like a real piece of work, and it is obvious
that you and your kiddo are thriving without him. Also,
he's just now realizing you have a child together. Did
he think you had a dog together for the last
three years? Opie says, my job dropped when I heard
him say this, Like what he later tried to say

(49:22):
that our son is just now getting a personality and
it was hard for him to feel fatherly instincts. Blah
blah blah, But really all parents can see the personality
from very early on. His problem is he decided to
not connect the son until it seemed the relationship was
going to end. And another commenter says, how'd you get
the full custody? Opie says he gave it willingly. Well,

(49:45):
I'm not surprised by that, honestly. Another commentarre says, I
remember your post. I'm so glad you have found a
way to honor.

Speaker 3 (49:51):
And value you.

Speaker 2 (49:52):
You deserve honest and compassionate love. I wish nothing but
the best for you. In this new chapter, Opie responds,
you don't know how how many times I went and
read the comments of that post every time it happened again.
Y'all really were there for me more than y'all could count.

Speaker 1 (50:07):
Hey's johnyo Og host. Here.

Speaker 4 (50:08):
We're gonna get back to the stories, but here's a
quick three minute break of ass from our sponsors.

Speaker 2 (50:12):
My ex boyfriend got our coworker pregnant, so I congratulated them.
I had a twenty eight Asian female found out that
my boyfriend at thirty one, Hispanic mail of three years,
cheated on me with one of our coworkers, and his
sister had a part in it.

Speaker 3 (50:24):
What Last week?

Speaker 2 (50:26):
On Friday, I was at my work desk when my very,
my very nosy lead came up to me, whispering and
asking if I was okay.

Speaker 3 (50:33):
I was confused. She then pulled up.

Speaker 2 (50:35):
Her phone and asked if I had broken up with
my now ex boyfriend because she screenshotted an Instagram post
that was made over the weekend by one of my
coworkers person he cheated on me with. By the way,
this comes from Electronic bar eight four eighty four on
the r slash comfort Level pod subreddit. If you want
to submit your own stories, go to the r slash
Okay story time supbredd it. So I do not have
social media, so I told my nosy lead to show

(50:57):
it to me, and there was a picture of my
coworkers kissing my now ex boyfriend.

Speaker 3 (51:02):
For the world to see.

Speaker 2 (51:03):
On Saturday, I told them that we needed to talk,
so I went over to his house. On my way there,
the same nosy lead send me a screenshot of a
post that was made by my coworker saying that she
was about two months pregnant.

Speaker 3 (51:14):
I called and asked.

Speaker 2 (51:15):
Him to explain himself while I was nearing his house,
and he just stayed quiet. He refused to come out
or see me when I arrived at the house, so
we basically talked through the phone for the time that
I was there. After I sent him the pictures of
the screenshot, not telling him who sent it, he finally
said things happened and he got close to our coworker
after his sister started inviting her to the house.

Speaker 3 (51:35):
Then confessed that he started dating her two months ago.

Speaker 2 (51:38):
The day before his mom's fiftieth birthday, which he invited
her to but told his sister to tell me that
she was the one that invited the coworker. He also
told her to dress in gold, which is his favorite color,
when the theme was hot pink, to which everyone was
wearing but her. On the day of his mom's birthday,
he spent the whole night drinking and talking and dancing
with his sister and our coworker because they claimed that

(51:59):
they didn't want her to feel left out. I was
with the rest of his family. His cousin invited me
to dance since my ex was dancing with our coworker
when suddenly my ex pulled me to the side and
was upset that I was dancing with his cousin. I
told him that I should be the one that's upset
with how he has been acting all night, but just
didn't want to make a scene out of it out
of respect to his mom.

Speaker 3 (52:19):
I ended up saying bye to his mom and said
that I wasn't feeling too well, so I left.

Speaker 2 (52:22):
That was when the cheaters decided that they were going
to go upstairs and make a baby on the night
of his mom's fiftieth birthday while everyone was celebrating downstairs.

Speaker 3 (52:32):
Mind you, he told me all of this over the phone.

Speaker 2 (52:35):
After some time, his sister came down and said that
he had asked me to go back home for the day.
I yelled at her for helping her brother lie to
me for the last two months. Her answer to me
was that she didn't feel like I was good enough
for her brother because I didn't speak Spanish. Yes, Spanish,
and she liked my coworker because she was Hispanic, and
wanted her to date my and wanted her to date
her brother, who is now my ex boyfriend.

Speaker 3 (52:57):
So she set them up.

Speaker 2 (52:59):
After everything that I've done for them and her kids,
helping her daughter get through speech therapy, watching her kids
while she goes out a party, and helping their mom
run errands. All of this wasn't good enough because I
needed to speak Spanish too. His mom came out to
ask what was going on. I told her I came
to say goodbye, and that her son was a dog
and a pos and he can do the explaining to her,

(53:21):
but that I was done. She cried, telling me not
to go and that whatever he did to hurt me
he would get back, so for me to stay. I
told her that he will get what he deserves, but
I was done with her son. I remained professional as
best I can all week when those shifts overlapped at work,
even congratulated them on their pregnancy in front of everyone.

Speaker 3 (53:41):
He called me, to which I picked up and asked.

Speaker 2 (53:44):
He wanted to know where he stands in our relationships
so he can make a decision. I think you've already
made a decision, dude, when you were pointing on your
mom's vivir birthday.

Speaker 3 (53:52):
He says, I just need you to tell me where
you're at. Yeah, cause if you're like down with us
still being together. Yeah, that's crazy.

Speaker 5 (54:02):
See, I'm just trying to get like a sense of
where your head's at, trying to my head.

Speaker 3 (54:08):
My goodness, h oh, he's thinking relationship.

Speaker 2 (54:15):
And he asked if I cannot make a scene or
make things awkward at work. I responded, there's no place
for him to stand when there is no relationship, and
his decision was already made when he decided he wanted
to sleep with another woman and impregnant heart.

Speaker 3 (54:29):
I didn't make things awkward. What they did affected them,
not me.

Speaker 2 (54:32):
This week, his sister ended up quitting after she got
into an argument with another supervisor. And Friday came back
around today and I received some more good news.

Speaker 3 (54:39):
The company ended.

Speaker 2 (54:40):
Up firing him because of a DUI, which he now
has two duys. Am I the a hole side note,
My ex our coworker were all supervisors at the same company.
His sister reports to our coworker. They're all on first
shift and I'm on second shift. And we do have
an update. Wow, but do we have any final thoughts
before we go into this update?

Speaker 8 (55:00):
A lot of crazy stuff happened. It's pretty easy. Yeah, no,
don't go back together with them. Cheated on you and
had a baby with another woman. It's pretty yeah, pretty,
So you're yeah, you're.

Speaker 3 (55:14):
Definitely not the a whole. I don't know what you would.

Speaker 2 (55:17):
Be the a whole for, Like nothing, you didn't do anything,
You didn't do anything, you just I don't know what
you would be the ale for. You left the party
and you congratulated them on the pregnancy. I think that's
a very nice thing to do.

Speaker 3 (55:29):
If they feel guilty, Yeah, that's all they am. That's
on them, man, that's on them. But there is an update.

Speaker 2 (55:36):
So, since my ex boyfriend has been fired, my phone
has been ringing non stop with constant messages going off.
I ended up blocking his number. At work, my coworker
has reported me to HR for Pesterman. My manager, who
has been on personal time off for the past two weeks,
talk to me about it throughout the past week and
asked about what happened. I told my manager that I

(55:57):
haven't done or said anything to my coworkers except for
cold congratulations on her pregnancy and hello, as a fellow
coworker would. I told HR where the proof was that
I was talking about her or making her uncomfortable, and
that they can go ask associates or other management members
if I had said anything about her, also for them
to go ask her to explain to them exactly why
she felt I was pestering her on what grounds. Apparently

(56:20):
associates and management have been talking about her pregnancy and
how my ex boyfriend cheated on me and is the
baby daddy.

Speaker 3 (56:27):
She is saying that I told everyone about it. Pathetic.

Speaker 2 (56:30):
She needs to realize that the only reason everyone knows
is because she purposely posted it on Instagram for the
world to see about her and my ex boyfriend scandalous
relationship and also announcing her pregnancy.

Speaker 3 (56:43):
Yeah, that's a good point too.

Speaker 2 (56:44):
Her coworker told OPE that she was being cheated on like.

Speaker 3 (56:49):
OPI found out after PE.

Speaker 2 (56:50):
Yeah, everyone else is telling OpEd the information. It has
been confirmed by HR after asking management and associates that
I have not said anything to my coworker but that
day when everyone congratulated her on her pregnancy. Also that
I didn't say anything to anyone about my cheating young's
boyfriend and coworker, but that everyone found out through her
post on Instagram. They said that they would talk to

(57:11):
her and handle the situation, but for the time being,
I was to keep a distance fine with me. I'm
not sure how they will take care of the situation,
but I'll wait and see what happens now. Over the weekend,
I went over to their house to get my stuff.
After confirming with his mom that he was not home,
she agreed to help pack my stuff for me as well,
so I can just go in and out. She had
the garage open and was finishing up packing stuff, so

(57:32):
I went to help her finish. As we were finishing,
he pulled up on the driveway, so I grabbed the
last of what I could and told his mom that
I was leaving.

Speaker 3 (57:39):
I rushed to my car, but he stopped me and
said that he wanted to talk. There was nothing to
talk about. His mom told him to let me leave.

Speaker 2 (57:47):
She walks over to pull him to the side, but
he brushes her off.

Speaker 3 (57:50):
He wouldn't let me leave until we talk. That's not scary. No,
it's not scary. No, No, that's yeah.

Speaker 4 (57:58):
No.

Speaker 3 (58:01):
See what you're doing, dude, that's your fault. So that's
your fault because of you. I try to throw tom
hens and I myself.

Speaker 2 (58:08):
Man. He kept saying to listen to him, and he
needed to talk to me. At this point, I was
just over it, I responded, what is there to talk about?
The day I came over here and asked you to
explain to me what happened, you couldn't even come outside
and tell me, Not even for a second did I
see your face. I give you a chance to come
out and explain yourself, but you threw that chance away.
You only spoke with me over the phone, and not
once did you even apologize for having.

Speaker 3 (58:30):
Cheated on me.

Speaker 2 (58:31):
You couldn't even come out to face me, so you
sent your sister to tell me to leave, and that already.

Speaker 3 (58:36):
Explains what you are not. You are not a man.
You can't even own up to your wrongdoing.

Speaker 2 (58:42):
Now that you want to talk, I don't have to listen,
since there is nothing between the two of us.

Speaker 3 (58:47):
Bam. I think that's a banger response. Yeah, I think
you nailed it.

Speaker 5 (58:51):
I really think there's like, like, there's no question here.
You just need to get him out of your life.
And if he keeps bothering you, I don't know, like, yeah,
restraining order absolute. I mean, I'm real, you can report
him and say no, he's literally harassing me.

Speaker 2 (59:05):
He's showing up to my house when people are telling
me him to leave, including me.

Speaker 3 (59:09):
He's not leaving.

Speaker 2 (59:10):
He won't even let me leave, like that's yeah, that's crazy.
I'm rolling my eyes, rolling our eyes over here. I
pushed past him and placed the box in my trunk
and went to get in the driver's seat. He was
still insisting that I talked to him. He then said
that he was sorry, he didn't know what he was thinking,
it was all a mistake, and that he still loves me,

(59:31):
that he wouldn't be with her if she wasn't pregnant.
His mom told him, cheating is not a mistake. You
did it because you wanted to do it. Your love
was not sincere. You wanted someone else. You did the act,
so now you suffer the consequences. I told him, even
if she wasn't pregnant, you still cheated for that alone.

Speaker 3 (59:48):
I will still leave.

Speaker 2 (59:51):
She pulled him away and waved me off as I left.
Since I have his number blocked, he was using his
mom's phone to call me, but I hung up once
I heard it was him. She then sent me a
text my to block her number. Honestly, I feel horrible
that his mom had to witness all of this. She
was such a lovely person. She cared for me as
if I was her daughter. I really do wish the
best for her and her grandkids. But may my ex boyfriend,

(01:00:12):
his sister, and my coworker get all the karma that
they deserve.

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