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00:00 r/offmychest - Wife told me someone else is her soulmate
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46:13 r/BestofRedditorUpdates - AITAH for wanting a divorce after my husband gaslit me into believing him flirting with a coworker was okay because I was “just hormonal”
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey, this is Sam. This is John the og Storytime
podcast host. Oh yeah, and we got some great stories
coming up. But before that, we got a teeny two
minute break from the sponsors that keep this show propped
up like a little house.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
Oh you, my wife left me for her best friend.
That hurts my wife. EM met her best friend Chuck
in high school. They became close friends, and Chuck came
out Em as attracted to the same gender and was supportive.
A year or so later, Chuck came out to his parents.
They disowned him and punted him out. Chuck ended up
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living with Em and her parents for the rest of
high school. By the way, this comes from Few Boys
and Mary ninety nine fifty eight and if you want
to submit your own stories, go to the r slash
Okay Storytime Separate it. So EM and I started dating
after college, and she told me all about Chuck and
how close they were, and now he was like a brother.
I met Chuck and we got along and became friends.
Chuck is a good guy. At the time, Chuck was
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dating a guy and they ended up moving in together
about the same time that EM and I got engaged.
EMM and I have been married for five years. Now,
I'm a project manager and took on a year long
project in another city. I have to leave at five
thirty am every morning and get home around six thirty pm. Wow.
Long day. M and I had a long talk about
my job before I took on this project. We knew
(01:14):
it would be a sacrifice for me to be working
so much, but I'm getting more money than I ever
thought I would. After this project, we can pay off
our student debt and start trying to have a baby.
Speaker 1 (01:24):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (01:24):
We both agreed the money was worth it. Since it's
only a year. That year will be up in late November.
And when was this posted? Because I want to know
how close we are to November. In March, Chuck caught
his boyfriend cheating. He was devastated. M immediately told him
he could move in with us. I was fine with
him moving in, but not happy that EM didn't even
discuss it with me. First. Yeah not good two years
(01:47):
ago via no no month, do be honest O.
Speaker 3 (01:50):
A month does not say yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
Blast.
Speaker 2 (01:53):
Chuck was pretty broken up and EM was giving him
lots of love and attention. I was fine with it
because I know how much he loved Chuck, and he
did need her. I also did my best to support
him and make him feel loved. For a while, this
was fine, but as time went on, EM has continued
to pour all of her attention into Chuck. Sometimes I
get home from work and neither of them are there,
(02:13):
and I found out they went to a movie or
to dinner or something. I don't think there's anything romantic
or spicy between them, but it's been annoying that I
get left out of all the plans. The past few weeks,
several things have happened. The three of us went to
a party and someone joked about Chuck being our third wheel,
and EM said, Chuck isn't the third wheel. I said what, oh,
And she said, I've known Chuck longer than i've known you.
(02:36):
That's not what you want to hear.
Speaker 1 (02:38):
Not, That's not how no.
Speaker 2 (02:40):
Alsophia August August. Okay, so we're so close to November.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
And remind me what is happening In November.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
He finishes his job. So this has been a whole
year of him working super super hard to save up
money so that they can pay off all their debts
and have this baby and stuff. And it's up in
like three months.
Speaker 1 (03:02):
And she's out here yucking it up with Chuck night
come yikes.
Speaker 2 (03:08):
A week or so after that, EM and Chuck went
out dancing one night. I had to work the next day,
so I stayed home. I woke up at about three
am and M was not in bed. I went and
found her and Chuck cuddled up on the couch to
sleep with the TV on. Both of those things made
me uncomfortable. I also realized I had been working so
much I was just sort of letting EM and Chuck
plan everything, and I had not planned a date night
(03:30):
in a while. I decided I needed to be more active,
and so I planned a date night for last Friday.
When I first told them, she was excited, as we
have not been on a date just the two of
us in a while. Friday, I got home at six
thirty and M and Chuck were not there. I took
a shower and got ready. About seven fifteen, I finally
called them, as we had reservations. At eight. She answered him.
(03:50):
When I asked where she was, she said her and
Chuck had gone shopping and we're getting some dinner.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
Yep, knew that was gonna happen. Oh, but I have
my date with chaw.
Speaker 2 (03:59):
Wow. Wow, that's just so so rough to I mean, like,
your partner is working so hard, so hard to provide
this lifestyle that you both said you wanted, and you're off,
like forgetting that you have a husband.
Speaker 1 (04:17):
Where's his going out shopping and getting dinner? Yeah, where's
his cuddles?
Speaker 2 (04:21):
Where are they? I was kind of stunned and asked
about our date. She laughed and said, oh I forgot.
Oh well, and that was that she didn't even invite
me to join them. So a point I should make here.
My dad was very controlling of my mom and had
an anger problem where he would yell and throw things.
He never threw things at us, but it was still
scary as a kid. I have worked very hard to
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not be like him. I've tried to never be controlling
of EM or tell her what to do. I also
tend to shut down when I get angry. When em
forgot our date, I was so mad, so I didn't
say anything right then, but I knew I needed to
address how I was feeling, so later that evening, I
told her we needed to talk. I had written down
some things so I could focused. I started by saying
that I love Chuck and he was always welcome in
(05:03):
our home, but that I felt like our marriage was
suffering and we needed to work on us and blew up.
She thought I was attacking Chuck. I guess I did
word things well, I doubt that, and she started defending
him and attacking me. We have never had a big
fight before. We always talk and work things out. I
was stunned that she was attacking me. She said some
awful things. Then she said, check is my soulmate, and
(05:25):
you just have to get used to that. The thing is,
I don't think that there's anything romantic, like I don't
think they're cheating. Yeah, however, she is still very much
prioritizing Chuck over you, and that's not okay, to the
point where she just called them her soulmate.
Speaker 1 (05:42):
Yeah, that's like it's so like if I'm in opee shoes,
I feel like, okay, Well, this the belief and kind
of the feeling of connection yeah, I had in our
relationship in marriage is like now I okay, Well, like
he's your soul Like, where's the room for me?
Speaker 2 (05:59):
Well, she already said he's the third wheel. She already
said that she's literally.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
Showing you your number three.
Speaker 2 (06:05):
Yeah, Rose says, if Chuck is her soulmate, why is
she with Opee? Because Chuck is not into her like that.
That's literally the only reason you loved I just shut down.
I didn't even know how to process that. I love
Em more than anything in the world, but in that moment,
I realized she loves Chuck more than she loves me.
I thought Em and I were soulmates, but to hear
her say she considers someone else her soulmate has been devastating.
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I don't remember the rest of the talk. She huffed
off after a while and slept on the couch. Her
and Chuck left together on Saturday, and we're gone most
of the day. When they got back, she was acting
like nothing had happened on Sunday. She even made a
small joke and batted her eyes at me, something she
does when she's flirting with me. Normally I love it,
but this time it just made me sick. I told
her this was a busy week at work and I
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was just going to stay at a hotel near the
job site, something I have done a few times before.
So I haven't seen her since Sunday night. I don't
know what to do. Typing all this up has made
me realize I'm really burned out with all of this trial.
Maybe I checked out too much and haven't given her
enough tention. But how do I move forward? Knowing she
will never love me as much as I love her?
Seeing a bunch of comments from women who say they
have more than one soulmate has given me hope. To me,
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you only have one soulmate, But that's not a word
m or I really use, and I just really hope
she means it different than how I took it. We
have been texting back and forth some this week, and
we spoke on the phone last night. It wasn't anything big.
She just called and said she missed me and couldn't
wait until I got home. I'll be home tonight. I
told her we should talk about our fight last Friday,
and she agreed and said she hates that we fought
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and we need to work it out. She said she
loves me. We'll be talking tonight and I guess I'll
find out where I stand and there is an update.
Speaker 1 (07:40):
But what do you think?
Speaker 3 (07:41):
Uh?
Speaker 1 (07:42):
I think I hate this? Yeah, that's what I think.
Speaker 2 (07:44):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (07:45):
Yeah again, Like anytime in any of these stories, when
we see one partner is you know, putting in so
much like he's working, like waking up at five thirty,
working what twelve thirteen hours a day, like absolutely crazy stuff.
And he's not only not receiving support, but she's off
like you know, gall vanting with with Chuck over here,
(08:07):
it's like where's the relationship? Where is it? Because I
can't see it.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
It's not here. I mean, like, regardless of whether or
not it's romantic or not, it's still a betrayal to
have this close of relationship with someone else to the
point where you're sacrificing your relationship with your partner.
Speaker 1 (08:23):
Yeah. I think that's because like, look, you can have
extremely extremely close relationships with other people. That's fine, perfectly fine.
But I think to your point, it's like once it
starts sacrificing and eating away at your relationship and you
are deprioritized, that's the point where it becomes like what
are we doing?
Speaker 2 (08:42):
And also when your partner literally says, hey, this isn't
okay to me anymore, that's when you go, Okay, we
have to figure this out.
Speaker 1 (08:49):
Then yes not let me let me call them my soulmate.
You say you're the third wheel. That's that's right. Don't
do that, don't do it bad.
Speaker 2 (09:00):
But there is an update.
Speaker 1 (09:01):
Let's go.
Speaker 2 (09:02):
I made my first post on Thursday. When I took
the time to think about it all and type it
all out, I realized how burned out I have been
with this work project. Friday morning, I met with my
team and scheduled some time off coming up soon. I'm
in a much better headspace just knowing I have that
downtime soon. And and I had our fight on Friday night.
Then I left on Monday and stayed out of town
all week for my project. During that time, we did
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text back and forth every day, and we talked on
the phone a few times. It was awkward because we
both knew we needed to have a big talk, but
over the phone was not the time or place. And
texted me this Friday and said Chuck was gone for
the weekend so we could spend time just the two
of us, and that she wanted to make up for
our misdate that she literally said, oh yeah, I forgot,
Oh well, oh well. I got home Friday evening and
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we agreed to talk before doing anything else. I had
written out everything I wanted to say, and she sat
and listened We talked for a long time, and we
each went back to some things to get clarification. So
I'm not going to try and replay everything he said,
just the main parts in the way that makes the
most sense. I told her how I didn't like her
joke about me being the third wheel, and how much
it hurt that she forgot our date, and then how
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crushed I was that she said Chuck was her soulmate.
There were some other little things too. When I was done,
she said she was sorry and she was wrong for
saying those things. She said, I am not the third wheel,
and I am her soulmate, and she asked if she
could explain why she did and said what she did.
Wait too many thoughts before we get into very explanations.
Speaker 1 (10:29):
Just so those skeptical going into this meat berry.
Speaker 2 (10:34):
When Chuck's parents first punted him out in high school,
he was in a bad place and had considered taking
his life. He told EM's mom and they got him help.
So when Chuck called in March about his boyfriend cheating
on him, em had freaked out and was afraid he
was going to hurt himself. She said she felt like
she needed him clothes so she could watch him and
keep him safe. I had made a comment about how
for the past six months that seemed like her and
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Chuck were living their best life to gather, and she
said that she had been miserable this whole time, that
she has been on the verge of a nervous breakdown.
After our fight, she knew she was wrong and realized
she needed to get help and let it go. She
talked with Chuck and he promised that he was a
stronger person than he was in high school and promised
that he was not even thinking about hurting himself. They
agreed it was best if he moved out, both to
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give EM and I time to work on us and
so EM wouldn't be obsessing over when he was coming
and going. Em wanted to talk to me last Sunday,
but I had said I needed time and she wanted
to give me space. It was a long talk with
lots of tears. She apologized a bunch of times. She
said she was so concerned with Chuck's mental health that
she attacked me because she thought I was going to
make a move out and she was lashing out. She
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acknowledged that she hurt me and said she loves me.
And she wants to work on herself and fine ways
to deal with fear and worry in a healthy way.
We have never really had a big fight before, and
we both agreed we could have handled it better, her
by not lashing out and me by not shutting down.
We agreed to start couples counseling to help us learn
how to disagree in a more healthy way. That pause
(11:58):
great arm it. So, yeah, here's my thing.
Speaker 1 (12:03):
Do you believe that what she's saying is true about Like,
you know, this was this great fear. She probably had
a lot of anxiety and stress around it. And but
what doesn't what isn't explained for me is the like
did she have to stay Chuck was her soulmate and
not say op is her? Did she have to do
(12:24):
say like you know, oh oh well.
Speaker 2 (12:26):
When it doesn't excuse any of her behavior.
Speaker 1 (12:28):
Yeah, Like not only that, but I just like it
feels like there's still something more or at least I
feel that isn't fully one hundred percent addressed, you know
what I'm saying, Like, like I could, I could totally
understand if it was just for spending time, But the
things that she said to Ope, we're so yeah, just
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really rough, rushing.
Speaker 2 (12:49):
Yeah, absolutely, I mean the third wheel thing that that
was so harsh. But I think whether or not this
is like, you know, just the surface, or if this
is actually the reason behind it, I think it's a
good start, absolutely right. And they've already said, you know,
we're gonna go to therapy. We're gonna keep talking about this,
keep working out healthier ways to communicate, because regardless of
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whether or not she has told him a complete truth
they like or she has right, they need help communicating
because I mean Op is right, like in trying to
not be his father, he didn't even want to communicate,
and then he did try and she like screamed at him,
which is totally on her.
Speaker 1 (13:29):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:30):
Yeah, yeah, So if they want to make this work
at all, they absolutely need therapy.
Speaker 1 (13:35):
I could not agree more.
Speaker 2 (13:37):
We were both emotionally drained after the talk, so we
just ordered some food and stayed in. We cuddled in bed,
watched TV, talked, and just wanted to be together. We
have missed each other a lot these past few months,
and it was really nice to just hold her. The
next day, we took a day date. We went to
breakfast when shopping, saw a movie, and even got pedicures together.
My toes look amazing. Love that times throughout the day
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she would just stop and look at me and say
she had missed me and she was so sorry she
had pushed me away. Today Sunday we called Chuck, who
was staying with another friend. He said he was sorry
he had caused so much stress for him and Tomy.
He acknowledged he had been focused on himself and not
even realized that we were not doing well. He said
he loved us both and is so grateful that we
let him stay while he was getting over his breakup.
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He's looking at a few places and plans to be
out in the next week or two. He did offer
to move out right away, but I am okay with
him staying a little longer. I think having a plan
in place is the most important thing. By the way,
you should plan to listen to full episodes of stories
just like this. Just go to Spotify, Apple Podcast, or
iHeart Radio and search up Okay storytime. But there is
(14:42):
a little bit left to this story. Do you have
any final thoughts?
Speaker 1 (14:46):
You know, I will say, uh. I think seems Chuck
is innocent. I think he was just kind of you.
Speaker 2 (14:51):
Know, well, he was dealing with his own thing exactly.
Speaker 1 (14:53):
He was dealing with his own thing. And you know,
I love what Chuck said, and I could totally see
where especially you probably you get to live with your
best friend. He thought I'd be like, oh, I did
not even realize all the implications was having on you guys.
And you know, we were making great progress. I'm loving
what I'm seeing. You know, Chuck being out I think
will help good to hear Chuck is doing good. I
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would love more talk once we get into the therapy
on those things referring to you that that Opie said.
M said to.
Speaker 2 (15:20):
Ope, Yeah, like I understand that she was prioritizing Chuck
in that moment because she was scared for him. But
you said a lot of really hurtful things, and those
don't just disappear. Op is going to continue to think
about them. So how do we, you know, fix that.
Our relationship took a hit, but we love each other
and we're going to work on it. We set some
boundaries and also agreed to always make each other our
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top priority. I have a few months left on this project,
but we're going to make a point to go on
a proper date at least once a week and reserve
some cuddle time on the weekends. Thank you to everyone
who replied or sent me a message based on my
first post. I got some really good advice. I'm hopeful
this experience will make us better and make our relationship stronger.
And that is the end of that story. Seems like
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it's heading in the right direction.
Speaker 1 (16:04):
We love the growth. And you know what, also shout
out to op who you know, he had this childhood
drama really trying, like seriously, kudos to Ope for all
the effort is putting into like trying to navigate this
in the healthiest way.
Speaker 2 (16:18):
Absolutely, because it's hard, but it is hard doing a
great job.
Speaker 1 (16:21):
And you know what. Also shout out to m for
coming to the table and you know, also trying.
Speaker 2 (16:26):
And recognizing that she made a mistake.
Speaker 1 (16:28):
Important.
Speaker 2 (16:29):
Yeah, takes two to dango, folks.
Speaker 1 (16:31):
That's right.
Speaker 2 (16:32):
Casey Roberts, says Opie's wife NAT twenty success on gas
lighting check marriage saved. I have been seeing everyone in
the comments does not believe em at all. I'm a
little bit more trusting, I guess in this moment because
it feels like they are on the right path.
Speaker 1 (16:49):
They've made a lot of progress. That is true. Chat
wants to see the conflict.
Speaker 2 (16:54):
I want to see. What I want to see in
the future going forward from m is follow through. That's
the real thing that you need to check on and
keep an eye on.
Speaker 1 (17:02):
Take that action, put it to words. Yep.
Speaker 2 (17:05):
Or do you mean take those words and put it
to action?
Speaker 1 (17:08):
No? Okay, no, all right, but you know what I
do mean to read this next story? My husband hit
his other son for ten years where somewhere which it him?
Oh god, Well, my husband and I have been married
for ten years and our son is our only child,
and for the past ten years I thought he was
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my husband's only child as well. By the way, this
comes from broaway r Palm, and if you want to
submit your own stories, go to the r slash okay
storytime subreddit. However, in May, my husband was getting an
honorary doctorate at a local university he's had a long
relationship with business wise and otherwise, my son and I
were in the audience.
Speaker 2 (17:48):
After the reception, I see you, you see the U
I see you?
Speaker 1 (17:52):
Do you see it?
Speaker 2 (17:53):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (17:56):
So after the reception we were walking out when a
man walked up to it. He apologized to my husband instead.
He didn't mean to ambush anybody, but he just wanted
to talk to him. My husband looked shocked, and when
my husband didn't answer, the man called him dad and
begged him to just talk to him and said that
he was there to say he was sorry again, Dad.
Speaker 2 (18:17):
What Dad?
Speaker 1 (18:17):
That you?
Speaker 2 (18:18):
Dad?
Speaker 1 (18:18):
Papa, Papa, Papa.
Speaker 2 (18:20):
I just want to say, I'm sorry, Papa. Why where'd
you love?
Speaker 3 (18:24):
Bey?
Speaker 2 (18:25):
Except he's an adult man.
Speaker 1 (18:26):
That is insane.
Speaker 2 (18:28):
Wow.
Speaker 1 (18:29):
Wow. So my husband recovered and then said the man's
name and asked how he was and if he was
taking care of himself? Is Opie just standing like?
Speaker 2 (18:38):
Obie said?
Speaker 3 (18:39):
Like?
Speaker 1 (18:40):
Huh. The man kept saying, can I talk to you please?
My husband asked him for his phone number and staid
he had to get home, but he would call him later.
After we got home, he broke the news to me
that this guy was his twenty nine year old son
and that he was the product of a relationship with
a girlfriend when he was much younger, stupider, and coming
out of a bad upbringing.
Speaker 2 (19:01):
Wow. And presumably he hasn't seen his son for a while.
Speaker 1 (19:06):
That's what it's looking for. Yikes, hasn't seen the sun
for a while, and why not It's not like you
cheated all yeah.
Speaker 2 (19:12):
Like, why not tell your wife that you have a
child with that you have another child? Why just say it?
Speaker 1 (19:21):
Like, ah, is it because you're kind to hide that
you that you suck?
Speaker 2 (19:26):
Yeah, that's what it was like that you abandoned, like
you didn't take care of your child and you left it.
You left your kid to be taken care of by
their mom.
Speaker 1 (19:34):
Come on, now, let's be better. And that his girlfriend
was on substances and dearly depressed, and that she wanted
marriage but refused to work on her depression, so they
broke up when his son was ten, but he stayed
in his son's life until he was sixteen and then
lost contact. Do you lose contact? I would like the
definition of lost contact please. When I asked why he
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never told me about his kid or stayed in his life,
he told me that a lot of things happened and
he couldn't get past some of the things this son
did that really disappointed him. What things?
Speaker 2 (20:04):
What things? What things did your sixteen year old son do?
Speaker 1 (20:09):
Really? Quick question, canon, Sophia, you have a child? Yeah,
I just like, yes, there are heinous things A human
can do, but the thought of abandoning my child is
kind of inconceivment.
Speaker 2 (20:21):
I also, I know I have completely agree, I completely agree.
I think there are times when you might need to
get your child help or send them to a facility,
you know, because you are not professional and you can't
handle like that the needs that they need or the
needs that they have. But to completely lose contact.
Speaker 3 (20:39):
Acting like they don't exist.
Speaker 2 (20:41):
Yeah, like losing contact to the point where you literally
never mention them. And at sixteen, at sixteen, this kid
is howled twenty nine.
Speaker 1 (20:50):
Wow. He wouldn't elaborate further, and I knew I would
get nowhere if I pushed it. I told him that
my son deserved to know that he had a half brother,
and he was already confused. Ended up telling our son,
but that all backfired when my son asked why he
never knew about him? Great question was almost so per Yeah,
I'll work on my cadence.
Speaker 2 (21:10):
Thanks.
Speaker 1 (21:11):
My husband admitted that he had decided the school his
son was attending was no good. His son was interested
in foreign languages, so he enrolled him in a private
school where kids were fully immersed in Arabic, French, or Spanish.
That offered boarding options for students. He said his son's
mother complained endlessly about her son being four hours away,
and his son started doing badly and not appreciating his
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opportunity for a better life. He started distancing from peers
and would constantly talk about homesickness and let it affect
his studies. Maybe because he has a father who doesn't
care about him. Yeah. He begged his son to stay
the course and use his education to get into a
top college, but his son ended up getting near flunking grades,
not listening to his father's please to work hard, and
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then dropping out in order to re enroll in a
public school at age sixteen. My husband said, I'm.
Speaker 2 (22:00):
Sorry, So your son and his mother both said, hey,
I like can't be in this school anymore. I can't like,
I can't do this. I can't be in the school anymore.
You didn't listen. He started flunking and then made the
decision for himself that he needed to go to public school,
And you're mad at him for that? How old was OPI?
How old is OP? Right now? Do we know?
Speaker 1 (22:21):
We're going to check? You know what? Op and their
partner are older than twenty nine? Do we know that
because I'd be like forties. I doesn't say age for OP.
Speaker 2 (22:31):
It doesn't say age for OP or the perner no
blast in the title.
Speaker 1 (22:36):
Dang it literally bare minimum has to be in his
forty bare minimum right, well, it has to be older.
Speaker 2 (22:42):
Oh yeah, I mean okay, yeah, yeah, I'm thin because
it could be like he had the kid when he
was sixteen. Yeah yeah, but I'm like, yeah, that's the
I could see why he was making some bad parenting
choices if he was a young dad. But like, I
don't know if this is yeah, to leave your kid
behind because your kid wasn't doing good in school and
then made the right decision to move to a different
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school that he knew that he could do better in. Boooo,
come on, maybe there's something more. Maybe we haven't heard
all of the story yet.
Speaker 1 (23:12):
We'll see. We got more to go. So my husband
said that broke his heart and they didn't talk for
a while.
Speaker 2 (23:17):
And no, that was it.
Speaker 1 (23:18):
Wow yep. And in that while, his son ended up
dropping out of public school as well, and they haven't
talked since then. To my horror, my husband told my
son that his half brother had the opportunity to be
a good kid and make his dad proud get a
high paying job. But now he works as a long
haul trucker.
Speaker 2 (23:37):
Oh you suck, dude.
Speaker 1 (23:40):
I mean honestly, the wow horror happened even before that.
Speaker 2 (23:44):
Yeah, the judgment.
Speaker 1 (23:47):
How are you gonna cut off your kid because of sixteen?
I'm grades a sixteen? Who the freak? And guess what?
You know why he was probably getting bad grades, maybe
because his dad isn't in his life and he feels
no support and is just trying to figure out life
without that Pasan's there and things of that nature.
Speaker 2 (24:08):
You know, your support is conditional. And also, like he
might have been able to do okay in public school
had he not literally lost his dad like you left
him after he decided to drop out of the other school.
Speaker 1 (24:21):
Maybe if his dad was actually encouraging him instead of
giving him crushing pressure. Maybe without that crushing pressure, he
would have been able to be more successful. Yeah, in school,
but instead the crushing pressure crushed him.
Speaker 2 (24:35):
Yeah, and being a trucker is fine? Well, like, why
why are you judging him?
Speaker 1 (24:39):
Maybe good money?
Speaker 2 (24:40):
Yeah? Oh the judgment is just disgusting.
Speaker 1 (24:43):
So I try to interject and say that you can
also have a good life and meet you doing those jobs,
but my husband glared at me. My son responded by
saying that he gets all a's and he reads and
understands all the books that my husband.
Speaker 2 (24:57):
That terrible life lesson and of Oh, if I do
well in school and if I do all the things
that my dad tells me, he'll love me. What a
terrible lesson to teach your child.
Speaker 1 (25:09):
Ah, O back, and this kid's only ten, you know
he's this is the conditioning that f F do you
an adult? I asked my husband. I thought he was five.
Speaker 2 (25:18):
Is he ten?
Speaker 1 (25:19):
I think he's their son.
Speaker 2 (25:21):
Yeah, their son?
Speaker 1 (25:23):
Is he ten? Owash check? Maybe it was ten?
Speaker 2 (25:26):
Yeah, I wasn't sure. I might have missed him.
Speaker 3 (25:28):
Been married for ten years and our son is our
only child and for the past ten years. I mean
that would make sense. It's like around ten. Yeah, I'm
still looking.
Speaker 1 (25:34):
Ah yeah, maybe it wasn't.
Speaker 3 (25:36):
It wasn't explicitly said.
Speaker 1 (25:38):
Yeah. Oh, I thought they explicitly said, but at least
he's younger than ten.
Speaker 2 (25:41):
Yeah, he's younger than death.
Speaker 1 (25:43):
I asked my husband if he was going to talk
to his son, and my husband said no, and that
his mother poisoned his mind and set him up for
failure by complaining about missing him and that he gave
many chances to do well, and he blew it in
favor of becoming a cashier to support his mom and
blamed him for sending him to the good school.
Speaker 2 (26:00):
He ruined it by complaining about missing his father.
Speaker 1 (26:04):
And then trying to support his mom to a man
who really was not supporting the mother of his child. Divorce.
Speaker 2 (26:10):
Divorce, Wow, I would be looking at my husband so differently.
Oh my goodness, me running away. I would be like
looking at that man like he was a stranger.
Speaker 1 (26:22):
Truly, I'd be like, wow, like he is a stranger.
Speaker 2 (26:26):
You've hid this child for me for ten years. You
abandoned him, you know, since he was after he was sixteen,
And then try and preach this same messed up philosophy
to our son.
Speaker 1 (26:38):
Oh to my kid. Yeah, oh no, u uh uh.
And then also thinking back to how the his first
son approached him, he's still so craving his like attention
and validation and everything. Oh yeah, Like.
Speaker 2 (26:52):
I'm sorry, I'm sorry, Like you have nothing to apologize for,
you did.
Speaker 1 (26:56):
Nothing wrong, if anything. He's like, I want to be
there for my mom. I want to support my mom like.
Speaker 2 (27:02):
This, craving that both of his kids now have to
make him proud.
Speaker 1 (27:09):
Divorce. Worst. Now it's a month passed and his son
reaches out to me on my Instagram page. We talk
and I feel bad because he seems like a kind,
respectful man who was just desperately sad. He told me
the same thing my husband told me, but also went
into detail about the many times he tried to talk
to my husband, how he showed up to my husband's office,
what was told my husband was out, and how he
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was told he screwed up and blew his chances but
just wanted his dad, and how his dad had changed
his number and pulled the give me your number card
before ah, but he kept hoping that time would stoften
his dat.
Speaker 2 (27:45):
Oh my god, sy sorry, Wait, his son has probably
found him before and said hey, can like, can we talk?
Can we talk? And he said here, give me your
number and then never called him.
Speaker 1 (27:57):
Yep, yep, yep, that's so sad. He also said he
doesn't want money and his mother had taken her own
life recently, and that he just wanted a parent he
made enough to support himself, and that he would also
love to connect with his half brother. I told my
husband that if this was only about him dropping out
of school when he was a sad teenager, he deserved
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to have a chance to reconcile with his dad.
Speaker 2 (28:22):
He deserves a better dad.
Speaker 1 (28:24):
Yeah, and he's a lonely guy who deserves a family.
My husband said I was overstepping my boundary and that
this wasn't my kid or history. So this wasn't my Ah,
the fact that I'm still married to sack of sinking
garbage like yourself.
Speaker 2 (28:40):
Yeah, my goodness.
Speaker 1 (28:42):
He also said that he didn't want me disrupting family
dynamics by introducing somebody who has no relevance to our life.
Speaker 2 (28:48):
No relevance. Your child has no relevance.
Speaker 1 (28:53):
Oh.
Speaker 2 (28:54):
I literally could never look at this man the same ever.
Speaker 1 (28:57):
No, no, wow, How do you think I'm gonna think
about how you view our child? Are you stupid? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (29:04):
Wow?
Speaker 1 (29:05):
No, honey. I love that one. Good that he reads
green eggs at him, So I love him. Then that's
a smart bully. He's like, he's like seventies reading it's
like above. Is he smart? He won't be a trucker
because he reads it out out? Yeah, this is divorce
our son told me that he wants to meet this
man if he is his brother, but at the same
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time he has become terrified of losing his father's Wow.
Speaker 2 (29:31):
He yeah, divorce.
Speaker 1 (29:32):
My husband told me that he didn't think he was
the paternal type when we were dating. You aren't, No,
you aren't. But after I got pregnant, he doted over
our son. Our son is a very sensitive boy, and
starting from a young age, he impressed his father with
his ability to memorize things he heard or read. He
loves me because I don't work and my husband travels
for business. He absolutely adores time with his dad. He
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would always sit on the sofa in his dad's office
and whatever book his dad was reading, he'd read it to.
When he was younger, he'd grab onto my husband's leg
when my husband wanted to go somewhere else to own.
As our son grew up, my husband said he has
taught him how to be patient, But my son is
still always very eager to please. Even when he knows
that something planned for him was all planned by me,
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he'd still gushingly thank my husband. And now my son
is swinging wildly between wanting to meet his half brother
and state his curiosity and fear over his father's projection.
He says that he just wants to be loved by
the people and his family, including any brothers or sisters,
but that he's afraid of losing his father's love like
his half brother, and that he also kind of hates
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his half brother from making my husband upset. This is
so that, this is so so sad. A Kayley says, Oh, hell,
you can't have a sensitive kid with this man. But
this man is going to ruin him, ruin him. Yeah, Hey, y'all,
it's John og Host here. We're going to get back
(30:59):
to the story. Here's a quick three minute break from
aspermre sponsor. What do I do? I am appalled by
my husband's treatment of his older son, and I want
my son to be able to say that he had
an opportunity to get to know somebody that he wanted
to get to know. But my husband is adamant against
giving his older son attention and is still angry about
how he felt his son betrayed him and his efforts
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to give him a better life than the one he
had with his mom. So we're approaching the end of
the story, But do we have any thoughts of.
Speaker 2 (31:31):
You just that you should divorce him and make it
very clear to your child that this is not okay. Yeah,
and that you don't have to prove yourself to get
someone's love, especially not a parent's love, and that you know,
hopefully after that you can have a relationship with your
step son and your child can have a relationship with
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his half brother. But yeah, if your husband can't even
understand and that or doesn't even think that what he
did is wrong, yep, then there's nothing stopping him from
doing it to your son, and that leads to burnout.
A child cannot handle that much pressure.
Speaker 1 (32:12):
Oh they cannot. Yeah, not in the slightest and yeah,
it's so easy. Like I feel like oftentimes in these
stories it's like they focused on the things of like
uh oh, I feel like it's okay for the sun
to media, But it's like, okay, let's look at the
foundation of all of this. Like Sophia said, the husband
doesn't even realize how insanely wrong he is and how
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terrible yeah, this is for his children, which means again,
like Sophia said, he will do it again and he's
all it's lyrics already happening to their child that they have,
and that is an unforgivable thing to do to a child.
That is unforgivable. Agreed in my opinion, I agree, So
(32:56):
run please. I hope that's what the conclusion of the
story is. But let's find it. But by the way,
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of Agill sixty something days worth, so many, so many episodes.
But speaking of episodes, let's get into the conclusion of
this story. Within this episode, Yehaw, our marriage, which has
been mostly smooth sailing, is now filled with unspoken tention,
and my husband doesn't seem to note. But I don't
want to alert my son to it because he'd react
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very badly. I usually am argument avoidant and would never
do anything with our son without talking to my husband
about it first. But I feel like my son needs
counseling help. We have a few comments. Commentator by one says,
your son knows that his father's love is conditional. That's
just a fact. Frankly, I don't understand how you could
stand to be in a room with a man that
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would abandon his child for such selfish reasons, let alone
stay married to him. It just proves so happily do
the same to your son and to you. If you
make the mistake disappointing him, you'll always be looking over
your shoulder, always wondering if this mistake will be the
one that causes him to leave. Mistake, especially since you
say you don't work, so you're entirely reliant on your husband. Point,
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you'd be particularly effed if he did decide you were
a problem too, or if you began to love and
miss your son too much. Does he plan to send
your son to a boarding school? Are you okay with that?
Will he divorce you from missing your son like he
hates his ex for missing hers? What if your son
is attracted to the same gender? Will that not fit
his perfect idea of what a son should be? And
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he'll toss this one aside as well. Your son will
have to walk on eggshells for the rest of his life.
That is not a suitable relationship for you or your son.
If your husband sees no wrongdoing with his past behavior,
most people would have been horribly ashamed to have done
what he has done. Yet he keeps making the same
decision every time his first son tried to be in
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his life. You've reached a crossroads in your life and
your son's life. Make the right decision. Agreed. I completely
agree and completely agree. Hope, given that that was a
relevant comments, that was the advice hope, hope he took
and run with. But we don't know, don't know or not. Yes,
good luck because unfortunately you are going to need it
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with that man. But we have some good luck, and
that is we still have some stories left in this episode.
That's absolutely true. We sure do, we sure we sure do.
Ladies and gentlemen on it.
Speaker 2 (35:35):
Yeah s Memphis says, this story broke my heart. Me too.
I really hope they don't stay.
Speaker 1 (35:40):
Together with this guy because yikes.
Speaker 3 (35:43):
Yeah, if he can do that to his own child, yeah,
insanity and like willingly he was like, oh it was
not that's my will.
Speaker 2 (35:52):
Comment made the point he keeps doing that. He has
made that decision over and over and over.
Speaker 1 (35:58):
I want a way to where we can put people
in jail doing. Yeah, it would be awesome because he
needs to learn his lesson.
Speaker 2 (36:06):
I agree. Can't just abandon your kids.
Speaker 1 (36:09):
Uh oh, I was afraid. Uh oh. It was loading,
but not loading spaghettios.
Speaker 2 (36:20):
My husband blame me for his affair. I'm a thirty
year old female married to thirty four year old male
for over six years. We have two beautiful children, a
three year old and an eight month old. We've been
together for over ten years and our relationship has been
amazing from the beginning. By the way, this comes from
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profess Overthinker and if you want to submit your own stories,
go to the r slash Okay story time Separate at
So about a year ago, I was approximately six months pregnant.
I noticed my husband paying more attention to his phone
whenever he came home from work. So one night during dinner,
when his phone kept dinging, I asked him about it, asked,
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who was your attention lately? It was a female coworker
who had just transferred to his department, along with a
good colleague of his. In this group chat. I had
never heard of this female coworker, so I tried to
play it off as my husband being nice to a
new colleague. Days went by and that phone became the
bane of my existence. It constantly dinged, and I was
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fighting for his attention whenever he got home from work.
I had enough, so one night, while he was showering,
I went through his phone not good, and there it
was the group chat, along with Instagram messages of just
my husband and his female co worker teasing each other
about work. I confronted my husband immediately and confessed that
I had indeed gone through his phone. I was certainly embarrassed,
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as this was a first for me, but I explained
that I had a hunch something wasn't right and needed
to see it for myself. I pointed out that the
group chat was quite unusual, but the private chats on
Instagram were highly inappropriate for married man. I simply requested
that he refrain from having private chats with her, but
I was comfortable with a group chat. He agreed and
apologized for making me feel that way. Oh okay?
Speaker 1 (38:07):
Or did he Oh? Did he just say words? Or
did he lie to you to distract? Because lie?
Speaker 2 (38:15):
Yeah, he was like, she only caught me for that.
Maybe I could just lie a little bit. Oh she
won't catch on.
Speaker 1 (38:21):
Don't do that.
Speaker 2 (38:22):
Don't do that. Don't do that. Watch out, watch out,
watch out.
Speaker 1 (38:26):
John's gonna attack you be afraid.
Speaker 2 (38:28):
A few months later, I am approximately eight months pregnant.
As we were returning home from a summer vacation, my
son's iPad began dinging repeatedly in the backseat of my car,
not the iPad. Unbeknownst to me, my husband had inadvertently
connected his eye clout to our son's iPad. That is bonkers.
Oh no, Suddenly there she was repeatedly appearing on the iPad,
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sending text after text, and this time there were even pictures.
Concerned about those pictures, because that's your son's iPad child. Also, no, okay,
this is another sun right. I was at my wits end.
I confronted my husband with such rage, anger and distrust.
His reasoning was, you're just feeling hormonal right now. This
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isn't you. You're not the jealous and secure type. Once
you're no longer pregnant. You should get to know her,
have a drink with her, and you'll like her. Sir,
you dare sorry you just called the pregnant woman hormonal.
Speaker 1 (39:25):
You dare I'm sorry? Eh, the woman carrying carrying your time,
you're just hormonal, or maybe I'm exactly on the money, Maybe.
Speaker 2 (39:34):
I know exactly what you're up to, and you're freaking
lying to me right now and gas lighting me, using
my own hormones and emotions against me. At eight months pregnant,
I unfortunately caved and believed him and left it at that.
Shortly after welcoming our newborn baby and adjusting to our
new family of four, we experienced pure bliss. However, our
blissful state was short lived as paternity leaved ended and
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my husband returned to work along with my husband's female coworker.
One evening, after we had tucked the children into bed,
I found myself browsing through my husband's phone admiring pictures
of our children. Ding it's her. I instantly and without hesitation,
opened the conversation, and my mouth dropped. He didn't even
try to hide any of them, like, I'm not supporting Ope,
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going through the phone not cool? Yeah, always up conversation. However,
he's not trying to hide it, like he knows that
his wife has seen it or has found it and
gone through his phone before.
Speaker 1 (40:29):
He's like, well, just.
Speaker 2 (40:31):
Gotta keep it, keep that ding on it's not even
going to turn my phone on silent.
Speaker 1 (40:35):
Gotta keep going. As soon as I read the word iPad,
I mean, we already knew what he was, but when
I saw the word iPad, I knew it was over. Yep.
Speaker 2 (40:44):
It was a conversation where my husband was begging her
to work a specialized assignment with just him, the two
of them alone in a car five days a week.
I felt an instant wave of regrets, regret for not
listening to my gut months ago and let him gaslight
me into thinking this situation was all in my head
because of hormones. Now I want a divorce, but my
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husband is now begging me not to ruin our family.
So I read it. Am I the aole for breaking
apart this family? And there is an update. Folks, you're
not breaking it apart.
Speaker 1 (41:16):
You're not breaking it apart. You're not breaking apart. Man,
explain to me how you either cheating or trying. It
hasn't been well. Definitely an emotional fair for Yeah, one
of those we don't know if there's the pictures, I
don't know. It's like it feels like it hasn't been
one hundred and ten percent confirmation yes, I would agree
with that.
Speaker 2 (41:35):
It's not like pictures proof, but or it might be.
Speaker 1 (41:39):
Yeah, he clearly wants to be with Yeah.
Speaker 2 (41:41):
I mean he I mean. But also, regardless of whether
or not he is physically or emotionally cheating, he has
already crossed a boundary that he promised he would like
he would listen.
Speaker 1 (41:50):
To in respect that part.
Speaker 2 (41:52):
Ope, he said, hey, don't have a private chat with her,
and he said okay. He could have said no, I don't,
that's controlling I want you to do that, but he said, okay,
I will do that. I listened to you, and then
he messaged her anyway.
Speaker 1 (42:04):
You're right, I'm sorry. Uh oh, let me go message
over here and keep doing it? Which one is it? Buddy?
Are you sorry and you're not gonna do it? Or
are you gonna keep doing it? Yeah? You kept doing it.
Speaker 2 (42:14):
Kept doing this update. After reading all these comments and
absorbing the advice, I've finally realized that I'm not a
remmoonal and not the sole reason behind this marriage is failure.
As for my husband, I've asked him to leave the
house until I've made a decision. Initially, he didn't believe me,
but when I took the kids and told him he'd
better not be here when I return with them. He
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was beside himself. He completely lost it. He's begged me
to reconsider offering to block her leaving his job and
doing anything else to keep us together. But a few
months ago, I politely asked you to stop texting her privately.
Great point, o Pe.
Speaker 1 (42:49):
Great point.
Speaker 2 (42:50):
His response was, I thought I was just being your friend.
I didn't see it the way you did. What upsets
me is that he didn't take me seriously back then,
But now that I'm packing up our kids and Lee,
he suddenly takes me seriously. Update two, before we get
into that, do you have any thoughts.
Speaker 1 (43:06):
I'm just glad that OPI has deemed through his roots. Yeah,
and just the ugh, the oh, I'm so sorry, I'll
all do all this stuff that it is.
Speaker 2 (43:17):
Yeah, he's a liar. No, you're not sorry.
Speaker 1 (43:20):
You did it. You've shown me what again? Opie was
very smart calling out smartest Sophia, who is so brilliant
to say, you told me months ago that you would
stop doing this. Well, guess what, even if there's no cheating,
the trust has been broken broken. It's a gone. There
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you go absolutely agreed.
Speaker 2 (43:42):
Update two. I return home from an evening out with
my kids, grateful that my husband respected my wishes and
wasn't home when we arrived. After putting the kids to bed,
I received a text from my husband asking if he
could come over and talk so we could resolve our
issues without involving the kids. I agreed. As soon as
I opened the door, he handed me his phone. On
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the other line, I heard her, the female coworker. She
was saying hello, Hello. I immediately hung up his phone
and demanded to know why he wanted me to talk
to her. He claimed they had been discussing all night
about how they could convince me that they were nothing
more than just good coworkers. I reminded him that this
marriage is between the two of us, not three, and
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that the only person who needed to address this mess
was himself. Also again, she said please do not talk
to her one on one, and then he went and
talked to her one on one. And now they're literally
blindsiding you.
Speaker 1 (44:43):
Ending you the phone and she's like, huh, hello, hello, Hello,
who's there.
Speaker 2 (44:49):
He insisted that I speak with her, and even had
the audacity to suggest getting that drink. I told you
to get with her a few months back, when you
were no longer pregnant and crazy. Oh stop stop, I'm
gonna get you. I'm gonna get you. I told him
get out and have that drink for me, because we're done.
It took considerable effort to get him to leave, as
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he sobbed about leaving his children, but I didn't care.
He clearly still wants to gaslight me into believing that
this is my issue with her, not his issue with
disrespecting our marriage and is crazy hormonal life well put
relevant comments. Has Op met her husband's coworker, Obie says,
I actually met her before at a work gathering for
my husband. He introduced me to everyone at the party
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except her. When I finally saw a picture of this
female coworker, I knew I had seen her before and
asked him where I had seen her before. He did
say at the work party, and when I asked, how
come you didn't introduce me to her, he replied, you
were busy getting to know everyone else. Commenter one, It's
so disingenuous of your husband to beg you not to
divorce him when he was actively pursuing this other woman.
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Until you confronted him about his behavior. Had you not
gone through his phone, still be sniffing around that woman
and lying to your face every day about it? You
should most definitely divorce your husband. He's not worthy enough
to be your partner.
Speaker 1 (46:08):
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Speaker 2 (46:13):
Opie says, I did ask him this too. I asked
him what would happen if I never saw this conversation.
He told me he'd most likely continue to lie.
Speaker 1 (46:21):
To me about it.
Speaker 2 (46:21):
Well, at least he's not lying you about that. He's like, yeah,
I probably never would have told you.
Speaker 1 (46:26):
Sorry. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (46:27):
Common or two says your husband is the ale, not you.
He has ghastly you for months, and it is possible
that the coworker is unaware that he's married with kids
as well. Try to get this across to her about
all of this and go from there all the best,
Opie And Opie says, I've actually reached out to her.
She told me she's like that's with all of her
male coworkers, and then proceeded to try and add me
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on social media after she was made aware that she
was causing riffs in our marriage and was shocked and
felt horrible. She definitely knew because she literally went on
the phone.
Speaker 1 (46:56):
She's like hello, Hello, And also I love how she
he's like the ambiguous language of like, oh, I'm like
this with all of my male coworkers. I just sleep
with all of them.
Speaker 2 (47:05):
I sleep with all of them, just well just a
married one. I just start with all of my male
coworkers just so I can hurt you. However, continues to
engage in these conversations with my husband. I am absolutely
not blaming her. My husband was engaging her. However, she
is aware what she's doing. COMMONA three. Leave him. There
is nothing to save here. He's a master manipulator, and
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you're easily manipulated. Please go into the next one with
your guard up and everyone who cares about you guards up.
Opie says, I never thought I was easily manipulated until now.
Our entire relationship has been absolutely wonderful, so it was
easy to make believe this was all in my head
and heightened by my hormones while pregnant. It hasn't been
(47:48):
until recently where I see my babes and think you
will not have a mother who was emotionally controlled by
a man who wants to be a half butt husband
and father while he steps out on us while at work.
For says he'll return to the pursuit after Opie calms down.
He'll just cover his tracks, delete messages, get another phone,
or only communicate in person with the other woman. Opie says,
(48:09):
this is what I'm afraid of.
Speaker 1 (48:11):
We are young, in our prime.
Speaker 2 (48:13):
I can't imagine twenty years from now this happens again
with someone else, because I'll be punting myself thinking I
should have left twenty years ago. What I felt fabulous
about myself and knew I had tons to offer to
someone else who actually appreciated me. And uh, there are
a lot more comments. But do you have any thoughts
about that?
Speaker 1 (48:32):
I mean, ope, he is now thinking the right thought. Absolutely.
Speaker 2 (48:37):
She's like, wait, I there's no reason to stay here.
Nothing's tying me down. He sucks he's prioritizing another woman.
Speaker 1 (48:45):
Ah bye, And I get to like in the beginning
of the story, when she first found about it, it's like,
you're kind of shelsh can be shell shocked. You know,
You're like, oh, I'm in relationship, I'm pregnant with his child,
like all of all of these things, not in the
form in a way, just like, oh, man, there's if
I leave, you know, all these variables going through your head,
and it's like it can be hard to see it initially,
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but yeah, and it's like the reality settles in and
you're like, oh, oh.
Speaker 2 (49:13):
Now I understand now this I'm worth so much more
than this man.
Speaker 1 (49:16):
Yes, and this man is going to keep treating you
like gerbajio And oh what's that? Oh, you don't deserve
to be treated like garbage. You actually deserve to be
treated like the queen you are. Yeah, carrying the child,
the baby, my goodness.
Speaker 2 (49:34):
Yeah, literally carrying his baby.
Speaker 1 (49:36):
Are you kidding? Me?
Speaker 2 (49:37):
Carrying his baby? And they spend another time without another woman, right,
no surre.
Speaker 1 (49:42):
Also a Kayley dropped this comment earlier and chat way
up there, but she said maybe he's the more hormonal
one with all his crying and begging.
Speaker 2 (49:51):
Literally literally, op he should send screenshots of text messages
to her husband's HR department. Opie says, I'm actually friends
with his boss's wife and may have already dropped hints
about how I don't like this girl because she's a
pick me girl. I've planted the seed. What kind of
pictures are involved from the messages, which is what you
were asking, Opie says, they are pictures of her that
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he took all of them at work, so inappropriate attire,
absolutely flirting, cute, playful banter, teasing each other, how they
get on each other's nerves while at we're showing her
pics of her home or her saying wow, are you rich?
What he damn well knows I paid for the house.
Speaker 1 (50:30):
Uh ick, he sucks and he's poor.
Speaker 2 (50:33):
Yop And he's taken it. You know, he's trying to
take all of your credit, Opie. Not a response to
a comment on if her husband is likely to be
a cop, what Opie says, not trying to keep his
job Inden, I just think it's irrelevant. Honestly, I'm actually
the one who works in a field with extremely high
divorce rates, and maybe for that reason, I don't like
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to judge people's marriage success based on their profession. And
thankfully I am absolutely one million percent not concerned about
physical abuse at this time. I am the cop of
the family. I come from a family of officers. He
is not a police officer, so to me, my occupation
is irrelevant because I have never caused harm emotional or
physical to anyone. And there is a third update, folks.
Speaker 1 (51:17):
That's just kind of funny that. Yeah, commentors like like
guessing that he was a cop and she's like, no,
I came from a family of cops, Like why I
never would have Yeah, those dots, No, Like my brain.
Speaker 2 (51:29):
Nailed that commentary, almost nailed it. Yeah, truly, But there's
a little bit. There's there's a third update. Do you
have any thoughts before we get into this third update?
Speaker 1 (51:40):
I think we dive right in, all right, I want
to see what happened.
Speaker 2 (51:43):
It's been almost five months since I've updated all of
you on my original post. We are divorcing finally nice. Originally,
we took some time apart to cool off, dig deep,
and think about what we really wanted while not letting
any of this affect our children. To the best of
our ability, we did couple's therapy, individual therapy, and even
a vacation away just the two of us. Everything just
(52:04):
felt like it was falling back into place, like before
any of this was even a thing, I was starting
to come to terms with the emotional affair and the
gas lighting until well, I'm sure you guessed it. The
female coworker came back, not that I think she ever left.
I was so close to trusting him again, but for
crabs and giggles. I went through his phone one last time,
(52:27):
and by God, wouldn't you believe I found a picture
of my husband in his female coworker's car running errands
for her. I didn't need an explanation. I didn't even
read the context of how and why he was there.
I simply laughed. By the way, you can always laugh
if you listen to full episodes of stories just like this.
Just go Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or Ihart Radio and search
(52:49):
up Okay, storytime.
Speaker 1 (52:50):
Ah ha waw. But there's a little bit.
Speaker 2 (52:53):
Left to the story, so let's just finish her off.
We put the kids to bed, and I said, do
I need to make you an errand list in order
to get your full attention? He automatically knew exactly what
I was referring to. I told him to get out
and maybe call into work the next day because he
should spend the day looking for a divorce lawyer. And
really that was simply it. We are currently in the
divorce process and it's going as smooth as you can imagine,
(53:15):
getting all his legal advice from co workers. Lol. Fominer
Wan says, girl, I knew it. I'm so proud of
you for not falling for his bs. You gave him
every chance and he spit in your face trying to
convince you they were just friends. I'm curious, but did
he run to her hope? He says, I can only
imagine if they weren't having relations before they are now. However,
it wouldn't look good in court to be in a
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relationship with a woman you were having an affair with
while claiming you weren't automatically untrustworthy. Liar and folks, that
is the end of that story. Wowie, well Op in
the end made the right decision.
Speaker 1 (53:48):
That's correct. Yeah, you know, because that guy was if.
Speaker 2 (53:52):
He hadn't already, he was emotionally cheating you on you
at the very least.
Speaker 1 (53:56):
Like it's almost like he was so you know, he's
running her errands, he was like doing all these things
for It's almost like just freaking like, if you're gonna
do it, just do it.
Speaker 2 (54:07):
Literally. Yeah, it's like you're just like you're lying to me,
You're beating around the bush. I'm going to divorce you
and you can go do whatever you want.
Speaker 1 (54:14):
There's something that you know what it is. It's the
i'm not touching you of cheating.
Speaker 2 (54:19):
I'm not cheating. I'm i'm chating.
Speaker 1 (54:21):
I'm just running her errands. I'm just like, I'm not
constantly flirting with her. I'm just like taking pictures of
her all day along. I'm just like spinning my time
with her. I'm just trying to get a work of time.
It's so i can be in a car with her.
Twenty four seven.
Speaker 2 (54:30):
Yeah, bad news, bears, you're emotionally cheating on your wife.
Speaker 1 (54:34):
There it is.
Speaker 2 (54:35):
But folks, that is the end of that story and
the end of this episode.
Speaker 1 (54:40):
Oh I know.
Speaker 2 (54:41):
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Speaker 2 (00:12):
Oh you, my wife left me for her best friend.
That hurts my wife. EM met her best friend Chuck
in high school. They became close friends, and Chuck came
out Em as attracted to the same gender and was supportive.
A year or so later, Chuck came out to his parents.
They disowned him and punted him out. Chuck ended up
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living with Em and her parents for the rest of
high school. By the way, this comes from Few Boys
and Mary ninety nine fifty eight and if you want
to submit your own stories, go to the r slash
Okay Storytime Separate it. So EM and I started dating
after college, and she told me all about Chuck and
how close they were, and now he was like a brother.
I met Chuck and we got along and became friends.
Chuck is a good guy. At the time, Chuck was
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dating a guy and they ended up moving in together
about the same time that EM and I got engaged.
EMM and I have been married for five years. Now,
I'm a project manager and took on a year long
project in another city. I have to leave at five
thirty am every morning and get home around six thirty pm. Wow.
Long day. M and I had a long talk about
my job before I took on this project. We knew
(01:14):
it would be a sacrifice for me to be working
so much, but I'm getting more money than I ever
thought I would. After this project, we can pay off
our student debt and start trying to have a baby.
Speaker 1 (01:24):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (01:24):
We both agreed the money was worth it. Since it's
only a year. That year will be up in late November.
And when was this posted? Because I want to know
how close we are to November. In March, Chuck caught
his boyfriend cheating. He was devastated. M immediately told him
he could move in with us. I was fine with
him moving in, but not happy that EM didn't even
discuss it with me. First. Yeah not good two years
(01:47):
ago via no no month, do be honest O.
Speaker 3 (01:50):
A month does not say yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
Blast.
Speaker 2 (01:53):
Chuck was pretty broken up and EM was giving him
lots of love and attention. I was fine with it
because I know how much he loved Chuck, and he
did need her. I also did my best to support
him and make him feel loved. For a while, this
was fine, but as time went on, EM has continued
to pour all of her attention into Chuck. Sometimes I
get home from work and neither of them are there,
(02:13):
and I found out they went to a movie or
to dinner or something. I don't think there's anything romantic
or spicy between them, but it's been annoying that I
get left out of all the plans. The past few weeks,
several things have happened. The three of us went to
a party and someone joked about Chuck being our third wheel,
and EM said, Chuck isn't the third wheel. I said what, oh,
And she said, I've known Chuck longer than i've known you.
(02:36):
That's not what you want to hear.
Speaker 1 (02:38):
Not, That's not how no.
Speaker 2 (02:40):
Alsophia August August. Okay, so we're so close to November.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
And remind me what is happening In November.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
He finishes his job. So this has been a whole
year of him working super super hard to save up
money so that they can pay off all their debts
and have this baby and stuff. And it's up in
like three months.
Speaker 1 (03:02):
And she's out here yucking it up with Chuck night
come yikes.
Speaker 2 (03:08):
A week or so after that, EM and Chuck went
out dancing one night. I had to work the next day,
so I stayed home. I woke up at about three
am and M was not in bed. I went and
found her and Chuck cuddled up on the couch to
sleep with the TV on. Both of those things made
me uncomfortable. I also realized I had been working so
much I was just sort of letting EM and Chuck
plan everything, and I had not planned a date night
(03:30):
in a while. I decided I needed to be more active,
and so I planned a date night for last Friday.
When I first told them, she was excited, as we
have not been on a date just the two of
us in a while. Friday, I got home at six
thirty and M and Chuck were not there. I took
a shower and got ready. About seven fifteen, I finally
called them, as we had reservations. At eight. She answered him.
(03:50):
When I asked where she was, she said her and
Chuck had gone shopping and we're getting some dinner.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
Yep, knew that was gonna happen. Oh, but I have
my date with chaw.
Speaker 2 (03:59):
Wow. Wow, that's just so so rough to I mean, like,
your partner is working so hard, so hard to provide
this lifestyle that you both said you wanted, and you're off,
like forgetting that you have a husband.
Speaker 1 (04:17):
Where's his going out shopping and getting dinner? Yeah, where's
his cuddles?
Speaker 2 (04:21):
Where are they? I was kind of stunned and asked
about our date. She laughed and said, oh I forgot.
Oh well, and that was that she didn't even invite
me to join them. So a point I should make here.
My dad was very controlling of my mom and had
an anger problem where he would yell and throw things.
He never threw things at us, but it was still
scary as a kid. I have worked very hard to
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not be like him. I've tried to never be controlling
of EM or tell her what to do. I also
tend to shut down when I get angry. When em
forgot our date, I was so mad, so I didn't
say anything right then, but I knew I needed to
address how I was feeling, so later that evening, I
told her we needed to talk. I had written down
some things so I could focused. I started by saying
that I love Chuck and he was always welcome in
(05:03):
our home, but that I felt like our marriage was
suffering and we needed to work on us and blew up.
She thought I was attacking Chuck. I guess I did
word things well, I doubt that, and she started defending
him and attacking me. We have never had a big
fight before. We always talk and work things out. I
was stunned that she was attacking me. She said some
awful things. Then she said, check is my soulmate, and
(05:25):
you just have to get used to that. The thing is,
I don't think that there's anything romantic, like I don't
think they're cheating. Yeah, however, she is still very much
prioritizing Chuck over you, and that's not okay, to the
point where she just called them her soulmate.
Speaker 1 (05:42):
Yeah, that's like it's so like if I'm in opee shoes,
I feel like, okay, Well, this the belief and kind
of the feeling of connection yeah, I had in our
relationship in marriage is like now I okay, Well, like
he's your soul Like, where's the room for me?
Speaker 2 (05:59):
Well, she already said he's the third wheel. She already
said that she's literally.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
Showing you your number three.
Speaker 2 (06:05):
Yeah, Rose says, if Chuck is her soulmate, why is
she with Opee? Because Chuck is not into her like that.
That's literally the only reason you loved I just shut down.
I didn't even know how to process that. I love
Em more than anything in the world, but in that moment,
I realized she loves Chuck more than she loves me.
I thought Em and I were soulmates, but to hear
her say she considers someone else her soulmate has been devastating.
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I don't remember the rest of the talk. She huffed
off after a while and slept on the couch. Her
and Chuck left together on Saturday, and we're gone most
of the day. When they got back, she was acting
like nothing had happened on Sunday. She even made a
small joke and batted her eyes at me, something she
does when she's flirting with me. Normally I love it,
but this time it just made me sick. I told
her this was a busy week at work and I
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was just going to stay at a hotel near the
job site, something I have done a few times before.
So I haven't seen her since Sunday night. I don't
know what to do. Typing all this up has made
me realize I'm really burned out with all of this trial.
Maybe I checked out too much and haven't given her
enough tention. But how do I move forward? Knowing she
will never love me as much as I love her?
Seeing a bunch of comments from women who say they
have more than one soulmate has given me hope. To me,
(07:11):
you only have one soulmate, But that's not a word
m or I really use, and I just really hope
she means it different than how I took it. We
have been texting back and forth some this week, and
we spoke on the phone last night. It wasn't anything big.
She just called and said she missed me and couldn't
wait until I got home. I'll be home tonight. I
told her we should talk about our fight last Friday,
and she agreed and said she hates that we fought
(07:33):
and we need to work it out. She said she
loves me. We'll be talking tonight and I guess I'll
find out where I stand and there is an update.
Speaker 1 (07:40):
But what do you think?
Speaker 3 (07:41):
Uh?
Speaker 1 (07:42):
I think I hate this? Yeah, that's what I think.
Speaker 2 (07:44):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (07:45):
Yeah again, Like anytime in any of these stories, when
we see one partner is you know, putting in so
much like he's working, like waking up at five thirty,
working what twelve thirteen hours a day, like absolutely crazy stuff.
And he's not only not receiving support, but she's off
like you know, gall vanting with with Chuck over here,
(08:07):
it's like where's the relationship? Where is it? Because I
can't see it.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
It's not here. I mean, like, regardless of whether or
not it's romantic or not, it's still a betrayal to
have this close of relationship with someone else to the
point where you're sacrificing your relationship with your partner.
Speaker 1 (08:23):
Yeah. I think that's because like, look, you can have
extremely extremely close relationships with other people. That's fine, perfectly fine.
But I think to your point, it's like once it
starts sacrificing and eating away at your relationship and you
are deprioritized, that's the point where it becomes like what
are we doing?
Speaker 2 (08:42):
And also when your partner literally says, hey, this isn't
okay to me anymore, that's when you go, Okay, we
have to figure this out.
Speaker 1 (08:49):
Then yes not let me let me call them my soulmate.
You say you're the third wheel. That's that's right. Don't
do that, don't do it bad.
Speaker 2 (09:00):
But there is an update.
Speaker 1 (09:01):
Let's go.
Speaker 2 (09:02):
I made my first post on Thursday. When I took
the time to think about it all and type it
all out, I realized how burned out I have been
with this work project. Friday morning, I met with my
team and scheduled some time off coming up soon. I'm
in a much better headspace just knowing I have that
downtime soon. And and I had our fight on Friday night.
Then I left on Monday and stayed out of town
all week for my project. During that time, we did
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text back and forth every day, and we talked on
the phone a few times. It was awkward because we
both knew we needed to have a big talk, but
over the phone was not the time or place. And
texted me this Friday and said Chuck was gone for
the weekend so we could spend time just the two
of us, and that she wanted to make up for
our misdate that she literally said, oh yeah, I forgot,
Oh well, oh well. I got home Friday evening and
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we agreed to talk before doing anything else. I had
written out everything I wanted to say, and she sat
and listened We talked for a long time, and we
each went back to some things to get clarification. So
I'm not going to try and replay everything he said,
just the main parts in the way that makes the
most sense. I told her how I didn't like her
joke about me being the third wheel, and how much
it hurt that she forgot our date, and then how
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crushed I was that she said Chuck was her soulmate.
There were some other little things too. When I was done,
she said she was sorry and she was wrong for
saying those things. She said, I am not the third wheel,
and I am her soulmate, and she asked if she
could explain why she did and said what she did.
Wait too many thoughts before we get into very explanations.
Speaker 1 (10:29):
Just so those skeptical going into this meat berry.
Speaker 2 (10:34):
When Chuck's parents first punted him out in high school,
he was in a bad place and had considered taking
his life. He told EM's mom and they got him help.
So when Chuck called in March about his boyfriend cheating
on him, em had freaked out and was afraid he
was going to hurt himself. She said she felt like
she needed him clothes so she could watch him and
keep him safe. I had made a comment about how
for the past six months that seemed like her and
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Chuck were living their best life to gather, and she
said that she had been miserable this whole time, that
she has been on the verge of a nervous breakdown.
After our fight, she knew she was wrong and realized
she needed to get help and let it go. She
talked with Chuck and he promised that he was a
stronger person than he was in high school and promised
that he was not even thinking about hurting himself. They
agreed it was best if he moved out, both to
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give EM and I time to work on us and
so EM wouldn't be obsessing over when he was coming
and going. Em wanted to talk to me last Sunday,
but I had said I needed time and she wanted
to give me space. It was a long talk with
lots of tears. She apologized a bunch of times. She
said she was so concerned with Chuck's mental health that
she attacked me because she thought I was going to
make a move out and she was lashing out. She
(11:38):
acknowledged that she hurt me and said she loves me.
And she wants to work on herself and fine ways
to deal with fear and worry in a healthy way.
We have never really had a big fight before, and
we both agreed we could have handled it better, her
by not lashing out and me by not shutting down.
We agreed to start couples counseling to help us learn
how to disagree in a more healthy way. That pause
(11:58):
great arm it. So, yeah, here's my thing.
Speaker 1 (12:03):
Do you believe that what she's saying is true about Like,
you know, this was this great fear. She probably had
a lot of anxiety and stress around it. And but
what doesn't what isn't explained for me is the like
did she have to stay Chuck was her soulmate and
not say op is her? Did she have to do
(12:24):
say like you know, oh oh well.
Speaker 2 (12:26):
When it doesn't excuse any of her behavior.
Speaker 1 (12:28):
Yeah, Like not only that, but I just like it
feels like there's still something more or at least I
feel that isn't fully one hundred percent addressed, you know
what I'm saying, Like, like I could, I could totally
understand if it was just for spending time, But the
things that she said to Ope, we're so yeah, just
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really rough, rushing.
Speaker 2 (12:49):
Yeah, absolutely, I mean the third wheel thing that that
was so harsh. But I think whether or not this
is like, you know, just the surface, or if this
is actually the reason behind it, I think it's a
good start, absolutely right. And they've already said, you know,
we're gonna go to therapy. We're gonna keep talking about this,
keep working out healthier ways to communicate, because regardless of
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whether or not she has told him a complete truth
they like or she has right, they need help communicating
because I mean Op is right, like in trying to
not be his father, he didn't even want to communicate,
and then he did try and she like screamed at him,
which is totally on her.
Speaker 1 (13:29):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:30):
Yeah, yeah, So if they want to make this work
at all, they absolutely need therapy.
Speaker 1 (13:35):
I could not agree more.
Speaker 2 (13:37):
We were both emotionally drained after the talk, so we
just ordered some food and stayed in. We cuddled in bed,
watched TV, talked, and just wanted to be together. We
have missed each other a lot these past few months,
and it was really nice to just hold her. The
next day, we took a day date. We went to
breakfast when shopping, saw a movie, and even got pedicures together.
My toes look amazing. Love that times throughout the day
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she would just stop and look at me and say
she had missed me and she was so sorry she
had pushed me away. Today Sunday we called Chuck, who
was staying with another friend. He said he was sorry
he had caused so much stress for him and Tomy.
He acknowledged he had been focused on himself and not
even realized that we were not doing well. He said
he loved us both and is so grateful that we
let him stay while he was getting over his breakup.
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He's looking at a few places and plans to be
out in the next week or two. He did offer
to move out right away, but I am okay with
him staying a little longer. I think having a plan
in place is the most important thing. By the way,
you should plan to listen to full episodes of stories
just like this. Just go to Spotify, Apple Podcast, or
iHeart Radio and search up Okay storytime. But there is
(14:42):
a little bit left to this story. Do you have
any final thoughts?
Speaker 1 (14:46):
You know, I will say, uh. I think seems Chuck
is innocent. I think he was just kind of you.
Speaker 2 (14:51):
Know, well, he was dealing with his own thing exactly.
Speaker 1 (14:53):
He was dealing with his own thing. And you know,
I love what Chuck said, and I could totally see
where especially you probably you get to live with your
best friend. He thought I'd be like, oh, I did
not even realize all the implications was having on you guys.
And you know, we were making great progress. I'm loving
what I'm seeing. You know, Chuck being out I think
will help good to hear Chuck is doing good. I
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would love more talk once we get into the therapy
on those things referring to you that that Opie said.
M said to.
Speaker 2 (15:20):
Ope, Yeah, like I understand that she was prioritizing Chuck
in that moment because she was scared for him. But
you said a lot of really hurtful things, and those
don't just disappear. Op is going to continue to think
about them. So how do we, you know, fix that.
Our relationship took a hit, but we love each other
and we're going to work on it. We set some
boundaries and also agreed to always make each other our
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top priority. I have a few months left on this project,
but we're going to make a point to go on
a proper date at least once a week and reserve
some cuddle time on the weekends. Thank you to everyone
who replied or sent me a message based on my
first post. I got some really good advice. I'm hopeful
this experience will make us better and make our relationship stronger.
And that is the end of that story. Seems like
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it's heading in the right direction.
Speaker 1 (16:04):
We love the growth. And you know what, also shout
out to op who you know, he had this childhood
drama really trying, like seriously, kudos to Ope for all
the effort is putting into like trying to navigate this
in the healthiest way.
Speaker 2 (16:18):
Absolutely, because it's hard, but it is hard doing a
great job.
Speaker 1 (16:21):
And you know what. Also shout out to m for
coming to the table and you know, also trying.
Speaker 2 (16:26):
And recognizing that she made a mistake.
Speaker 1 (16:28):
Important.
Speaker 2 (16:29):
Yeah, takes two to dango, folks.
Speaker 1 (16:31):
That's right.
Speaker 2 (16:32):
Casey Roberts, says Opie's wife NAT twenty success on gas
lighting check marriage saved. I have been seeing everyone in
the comments does not believe em at all. I'm a
little bit more trusting, I guess in this moment because
it feels like they are on the right path.
Speaker 1 (16:49):
They've made a lot of progress. That is true. Chat
wants to see the conflict.
Speaker 2 (16:54):
I want to see. What I want to see in
the future going forward from m is follow through. That's
the real thing that you need to check on and
keep an eye on.
Speaker 1 (17:02):
Take that action, put it to words. Yep.
Speaker 2 (17:05):
Or do you mean take those words and put it
to action?
Speaker 1 (17:08):
No? Okay, no, all right, but you know what I
do mean to read this next story? My husband hit
his other son for ten years where somewhere which it him?
Oh god, Well, my husband and I have been married
for ten years and our son is our only child,
and for the past ten years I thought he was
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my husband's only child as well. By the way, this
comes from broaway r Palm, and if you want to
submit your own stories, go to the r slash okay
storytime subreddit. However, in May, my husband was getting an
honorary doctorate at a local university he's had a long
relationship with business wise and otherwise, my son and I
were in the audience.
Speaker 2 (17:48):
After the reception, I see you, you see the U
I see you?
Speaker 1 (17:52):
Do you see it?
Speaker 2 (17:53):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (17:56):
So after the reception we were walking out when a
man walked up to it. He apologized to my husband instead.
He didn't mean to ambush anybody, but he just wanted
to talk to him. My husband looked shocked, and when
my husband didn't answer, the man called him dad and
begged him to just talk to him and said that
he was there to say he was sorry again, Dad.
Speaker 2 (18:17):
What Dad?
Speaker 1 (18:17):
That you?
Speaker 2 (18:18):
Dad?
Speaker 1 (18:18):
Papa, Papa, Papa.
Speaker 2 (18:20):
I just want to say, I'm sorry, Papa. Why where'd
you love?
Speaker 3 (18:24):
Bey?
Speaker 2 (18:25):
Except he's an adult man.
Speaker 1 (18:26):
That is insane.
Speaker 2 (18:28):
Wow.
Speaker 1 (18:29):
Wow. So my husband recovered and then said the man's
name and asked how he was and if he was
taking care of himself? Is Opie just standing like?
Speaker 2 (18:38):
Obie said?
Speaker 3 (18:39):
Like?
Speaker 1 (18:40):
Huh. The man kept saying, can I talk to you please?
My husband asked him for his phone number and staid
he had to get home, but he would call him later.
After we got home, he broke the news to me
that this guy was his twenty nine year old son
and that he was the product of a relationship with
a girlfriend when he was much younger, stupider, and coming
out of a bad upbringing.
Speaker 2 (19:01):
Wow. And presumably he hasn't seen his son for a while.
Speaker 1 (19:06):
That's what it's looking for. Yikes, hasn't seen the sun
for a while, and why not It's not like you
cheated all yeah.
Speaker 2 (19:12):
Like, why not tell your wife that you have a
child with that you have another child? Why just say it?
Speaker 1 (19:21):
Like, ah, is it because you're kind to hide that
you that you suck?
Speaker 2 (19:26):
Yeah, that's what it was like that you abandoned, like
you didn't take care of your child and you left it.
You left your kid to be taken care of by
their mom.
Speaker 1 (19:34):
Come on, now, let's be better. And that his girlfriend
was on substances and dearly depressed, and that she wanted
marriage but refused to work on her depression, so they
broke up when his son was ten, but he stayed
in his son's life until he was sixteen and then
lost contact. Do you lose contact? I would like the
definition of lost contact please. When I asked why he
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never told me about his kid or stayed in his life,
he told me that a lot of things happened and
he couldn't get past some of the things this son
did that really disappointed him. What things?
Speaker 2 (20:04):
What things? What things did your sixteen year old son do?
Speaker 1 (20:09):
Really? Quick question, canon, Sophia, you have a child? Yeah,
I just like, yes, there are heinous things A human
can do, but the thought of abandoning my child is
kind of inconceivment.
Speaker 2 (20:21):
I also, I know I have completely agree, I completely agree.
I think there are times when you might need to
get your child help or send them to a facility,
you know, because you are not professional and you can't
handle like that the needs that they need or the
needs that they have. But to completely lose contact.
Speaker 3 (20:39):
Acting like they don't exist.
Speaker 2 (20:41):
Yeah, like losing contact to the point where you literally
never mention them. And at sixteen, at sixteen, this kid
is howled twenty nine.
Speaker 1 (20:50):
Wow. He wouldn't elaborate further, and I knew I would
get nowhere if I pushed it. I told him that
my son deserved to know that he had a half brother,
and he was already confused. Ended up telling our son,
but that all backfired when my son asked why he
never knew about him? Great question was almost so per Yeah,
I'll work on my cadence.
Speaker 2 (21:10):
Thanks.
Speaker 1 (21:11):
My husband admitted that he had decided the school his
son was attending was no good. His son was interested
in foreign languages, so he enrolled him in a private
school where kids were fully immersed in Arabic, French, or Spanish.
That offered boarding options for students. He said his son's
mother complained endlessly about her son being four hours away,
and his son started doing badly and not appreciating his
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opportunity for a better life. He started distancing from peers
and would constantly talk about homesickness and let it affect
his studies. Maybe because he has a father who doesn't
care about him. Yeah. He begged his son to stay
the course and use his education to get into a
top college, but his son ended up getting near flunking grades,
not listening to his father's please to work hard, and
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then dropping out in order to re enroll in a
public school at age sixteen. My husband said, I'm.
Speaker 2 (22:00):
Sorry, So your son and his mother both said, hey,
I like can't be in this school anymore. I can't like,
I can't do this. I can't be in the school anymore.
You didn't listen. He started flunking and then made the
decision for himself that he needed to go to public school,
And you're mad at him for that? How old was OPI?
How old is OP? Right now? Do we know?
Speaker 1 (22:21):
We're going to check? You know what? Op and their
partner are older than twenty nine? Do we know that
because I'd be like forties. I doesn't say age for OP.
Speaker 2 (22:31):
It doesn't say age for OP or the perner no
blast in the title.
Speaker 1 (22:36):
Dang it literally bare minimum has to be in his
forty bare minimum right, well, it has to be older.
Speaker 2 (22:42):
Oh yeah, I mean okay, yeah, yeah, I'm thin because
it could be like he had the kid when he
was sixteen. Yeah yeah, but I'm like, yeah, that's the
I could see why he was making some bad parenting
choices if he was a young dad. But like, I
don't know if this is yeah, to leave your kid
behind because your kid wasn't doing good in school and
then made the right decision to move to a different
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school that he knew that he could do better in. Boooo,
come on, maybe there's something more. Maybe we haven't heard
all of the story yet.
Speaker 1 (23:12):
We'll see. We got more to go. So my husband
said that broke his heart and they didn't talk for
a while.
Speaker 2 (23:17):
And no, that was it.
Speaker 1 (23:18):
Wow yep. And in that while, his son ended up
dropping out of public school as well, and they haven't
talked since then. To my horror, my husband told my
son that his half brother had the opportunity to be
a good kid and make his dad proud get a
high paying job. But now he works as a long
haul trucker.
Speaker 2 (23:37):
Oh you suck, dude.
Speaker 1 (23:40):
I mean honestly, the wow horror happened even before that.
Speaker 2 (23:44):
Yeah, the judgment.
Speaker 1 (23:47):
How are you gonna cut off your kid because of sixteen?
I'm grades a sixteen? Who the freak? And guess what?
You know why he was probably getting bad grades, maybe
because his dad isn't in his life and he feels
no support and is just trying to figure out life
without that Pasan's there and things of that nature.
Speaker 2 (24:08):
You know, your support is conditional. And also, like he
might have been able to do okay in public school
had he not literally lost his dad like you left
him after he decided to drop out of the other school.
Speaker 1 (24:21):
Maybe if his dad was actually encouraging him instead of
giving him crushing pressure. Maybe without that crushing pressure, he
would have been able to be more successful. Yeah, in school,
but instead the crushing pressure crushed him.
Speaker 2 (24:35):
Yeah, and being a trucker is fine? Well, like, why
why are you judging him?
Speaker 1 (24:39):
Maybe good money?
Speaker 2 (24:40):
Yeah? Oh the judgment is just disgusting.
Speaker 1 (24:43):
So I try to interject and say that you can
also have a good life and meet you doing those jobs,
but my husband glared at me. My son responded by
saying that he gets all a's and he reads and
understands all the books that my husband.
Speaker 2 (24:57):
That terrible life lesson and of Oh, if I do
well in school and if I do all the things
that my dad tells me, he'll love me. What a
terrible lesson to teach your child.
Speaker 1 (25:09):
Ah, O back, and this kid's only ten, you know
he's this is the conditioning that f F do you
an adult? I asked my husband. I thought he was five.
Speaker 2 (25:18):
Is he ten?
Speaker 1 (25:19):
I think he's their son.
Speaker 2 (25:21):
Yeah, their son?
Speaker 1 (25:23):
Is he ten? Owash check? Maybe it was ten?
Speaker 2 (25:26):
Yeah, I wasn't sure. I might have missed him.
Speaker 3 (25:28):
Been married for ten years and our son is our
only child and for the past ten years. I mean
that would make sense. It's like around ten. Yeah, I'm
still looking.
Speaker 1 (25:34):
Ah yeah, maybe it wasn't.
Speaker 3 (25:36):
It wasn't explicitly said.
Speaker 1 (25:38):
Yeah. Oh, I thought they explicitly said, but at least
he's younger than ten.
Speaker 2 (25:41):
Yeah, he's younger than death.
Speaker 1 (25:43):
I asked my husband if he was going to talk
to his son, and my husband said no, and that
his mother poisoned his mind and set him up for
failure by complaining about missing him and that he gave
many chances to do well, and he blew it in
favor of becoming a cashier to support his mom and
blamed him for sending him to the good school.
Speaker 2 (26:00):
He ruined it by complaining about missing his father.
Speaker 1 (26:04):
And then trying to support his mom to a man
who really was not supporting the mother of his child. Divorce.
Speaker 2 (26:10):
Divorce, Wow, I would be looking at my husband so differently.
Oh my goodness, me running away. I would be like
looking at that man like he was a stranger.
Speaker 1 (26:22):
Truly, I'd be like, wow, like he is a stranger.
Speaker 2 (26:26):
You've hid this child for me for ten years. You
abandoned him, you know, since he was after he was sixteen,
And then try and preach this same messed up philosophy
to our son.
Speaker 1 (26:38):
Oh to my kid. Yeah, oh no, u uh uh.
And then also thinking back to how the his first
son approached him, he's still so craving his like attention
and validation and everything. Oh yeah, Like.
Speaker 2 (26:52):
I'm sorry, I'm sorry, Like you have nothing to apologize for,
you did.
Speaker 1 (26:56):
Nothing wrong, if anything. He's like, I want to be
there for my mom. I want to support my mom like.
Speaker 2 (27:02):
This, craving that both of his kids now have to
make him proud.
Speaker 1 (27:09):
Divorce. Worst. Now it's a month passed and his son
reaches out to me on my Instagram page. We talk
and I feel bad because he seems like a kind,
respectful man who was just desperately sad. He told me
the same thing my husband told me, but also went
into detail about the many times he tried to talk
to my husband, how he showed up to my husband's office,
what was told my husband was out, and how he
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was told he screwed up and blew his chances but
just wanted his dad, and how his dad had changed
his number and pulled the give me your number card
before ah, but he kept hoping that time would stoften
his dat.
Speaker 2 (27:45):
Oh my god, sy sorry, Wait, his son has probably
found him before and said hey, can like, can we talk?
Can we talk? And he said here, give me your
number and then never called him.
Speaker 1 (27:57):
Yep, yep, yep, that's so sad. He also said he
doesn't want money and his mother had taken her own
life recently, and that he just wanted a parent he
made enough to support himself, and that he would also
love to connect with his half brother. I told my
husband that if this was only about him dropping out
of school when he was a sad teenager, he deserved
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to have a chance to reconcile with his dad.
Speaker 2 (28:22):
He deserves a better dad.
Speaker 1 (28:24):
Yeah, and he's a lonely guy who deserves a family.
My husband said I was overstepping my boundary and that
this wasn't my kid or history. So this wasn't my Ah,
the fact that I'm still married to sack of sinking
garbage like yourself.
Speaker 2 (28:40):
Yeah, my goodness.
Speaker 1 (28:42):
He also said that he didn't want me disrupting family
dynamics by introducing somebody who has no relevance to our life.
Speaker 2 (28:48):
No relevance. Your child has no relevance.
Speaker 1 (28:53):
Oh.
Speaker 2 (28:54):
I literally could never look at this man the same ever.
Speaker 1 (28:57):
No, no, wow, How do you think I'm gonna think
about how you view our child? Are you stupid? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (29:04):
Wow?
Speaker 1 (29:05):
No, honey. I love that one. Good that he reads
green eggs at him, So I love him. Then that's
a smart bully. He's like, he's like seventies reading it's
like above. Is he smart? He won't be a trucker
because he reads it out out? Yeah, this is divorce
our son told me that he wants to meet this
man if he is his brother, but at the same
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time he has become terrified of losing his father's Wow.
Speaker 2 (29:31):
He yeah, divorce.
Speaker 1 (29:32):
My husband told me that he didn't think he was
the paternal type when we were dating. You aren't, No,
you aren't. But after I got pregnant, he doted over
our son. Our son is a very sensitive boy, and
starting from a young age, he impressed his father with
his ability to memorize things he heard or read. He
loves me because I don't work and my husband travels
for business. He absolutely adores time with his dad. He
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would always sit on the sofa in his dad's office
and whatever book his dad was reading, he'd read it to.
When he was younger, he'd grab onto my husband's leg
when my husband wanted to go somewhere else to own.
As our son grew up, my husband said he has
taught him how to be patient, But my son is
still always very eager to please. Even when he knows
that something planned for him was all planned by me,
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he'd still gushingly thank my husband. And now my son
is swinging wildly between wanting to meet his half brother
and state his curiosity and fear over his father's projection.
He says that he just wants to be loved by
the people and his family, including any brothers or sisters,
but that he's afraid of losing his father's love like
his half brother, and that he also kind of hates
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his half brother from making my husband upset. This is
so that, this is so so sad. A Kayley says, Oh, hell,
you can't have a sensitive kid with this man. But
this man is going to ruin him, ruin him. Yeah, Hey, y'all,
it's John og Host here. We're going to get back
(30:59):
to the story. Here's a quick three minute break from
aspermre sponsor. What do I do? I am appalled by
my husband's treatment of his older son, and I want
my son to be able to say that he had
an opportunity to get to know somebody that he wanted
to get to know. But my husband is adamant against
giving his older son attention and is still angry about
how he felt his son betrayed him and his efforts
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to give him a better life than the one he
had with his mom. So we're approaching the end of
the story, But do we have any thoughts of.
Speaker 2 (31:31):
You just that you should divorce him and make it
very clear to your child that this is not okay. Yeah,
and that you don't have to prove yourself to get
someone's love, especially not a parent's love, and that you know,
hopefully after that you can have a relationship with your
step son and your child can have a relationship with
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his half brother. But yeah, if your husband can't even
understand and that or doesn't even think that what he
did is wrong, yep, then there's nothing stopping him from
doing it to your son, and that leads to burnout.
A child cannot handle that much pressure.
Speaker 1 (32:12):
Oh they cannot. Yeah, not in the slightest and yeah,
it's so easy. Like I feel like oftentimes in these
stories it's like they focused on the things of like
uh oh, I feel like it's okay for the sun
to media, But it's like, okay, let's look at the
foundation of all of this. Like Sophia said, the husband
doesn't even realize how insanely wrong he is and how
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terrible yeah, this is for his children, which means again,
like Sophia said, he will do it again and he's
all it's lyrics already happening to their child that they have,
and that is an unforgivable thing to do to a child.
That is unforgivable. Agreed in my opinion, I agree, So
(32:56):
run please. I hope that's what the conclusion of the
story is. But let's find it. But by the way,
if you want a palate cleanser, we've got some other
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(33:17):
of Agill sixty something days worth, so many, so many episodes.
But speaking of episodes, let's get into the conclusion of
this story. Within this episode, Yehaw, our marriage, which has
been mostly smooth sailing, is now filled with unspoken tention,
and my husband doesn't seem to note. But I don't
want to alert my son to it because he'd react
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very badly. I usually am argument avoidant and would never
do anything with our son without talking to my husband
about it first. But I feel like my son needs
counseling help. We have a few comments. Commentator by one says,
your son knows that his father's love is conditional. That's
just a fact. Frankly, I don't understand how you could
stand to be in a room with a man that
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would abandon his child for such selfish reasons, let alone
stay married to him. It just proves so happily do
the same to your son and to you. If you
make the mistake disappointing him, you'll always be looking over
your shoulder, always wondering if this mistake will be the
one that causes him to leave. Mistake, especially since you
say you don't work, so you're entirely reliant on your husband. Point,
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you'd be particularly effed if he did decide you were
a problem too, or if you began to love and
miss your son too much. Does he plan to send
your son to a boarding school? Are you okay with that?
Will he divorce you from missing your son like he
hates his ex for missing hers? What if your son
is attracted to the same gender? Will that not fit
his perfect idea of what a son should be? And
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he'll toss this one aside as well. Your son will
have to walk on eggshells for the rest of his life.
That is not a suitable relationship for you or your son.
If your husband sees no wrongdoing with his past behavior,
most people would have been horribly ashamed to have done
what he has done. Yet he keeps making the same
decision every time his first son tried to be in
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his life. You've reached a crossroads in your life and
your son's life. Make the right decision. Agreed. I completely
agree and completely agree. Hope, given that that was a
relevant comments, that was the advice hope, hope he took
and run with. But we don't know, don't know or not. Yes,
good luck because unfortunately you are going to need it
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with that man. But we have some good luck, and
that is we still have some stories left in this episode.
That's absolutely true. We sure do, we sure we sure do.
Ladies and gentlemen on it.
Speaker 2 (35:35):
Yeah s Memphis says, this story broke my heart. Me too.
I really hope they don't stay.
Speaker 1 (35:40):
Together with this guy because yikes.
Speaker 3 (35:43):
Yeah, if he can do that to his own child, yeah,
insanity and like willingly he was like, oh it was
not that's my will.
Speaker 2 (35:52):
Comment made the point he keeps doing that. He has
made that decision over and over and over.
Speaker 1 (35:58):
I want a way to where we can put people
in jail doing. Yeah, it would be awesome because he
needs to learn his lesson.
Speaker 2 (36:06):
I agree. Can't just abandon your kids.
Speaker 1 (36:09):
Uh oh, I was afraid. Uh oh. It was loading,
but not loading spaghettios.
Speaker 2 (36:20):
My husband blame me for his affair. I'm a thirty
year old female married to thirty four year old male
for over six years. We have two beautiful children, a
three year old and an eight month old. We've been
together for over ten years and our relationship has been
amazing from the beginning. By the way, this comes from
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profess Overthinker and if you want to submit your own stories,
go to the r slash Okay story time Separate at
So about a year ago, I was approximately six months pregnant.
I noticed my husband paying more attention to his phone
whenever he came home from work. So one night during dinner,
when his phone kept dinging, I asked him about it, asked,
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who was your attention lately? It was a female coworker
who had just transferred to his department, along with a
good colleague of his. In this group chat. I had
never heard of this female coworker, so I tried to
play it off as my husband being nice to a
new colleague. Days went by and that phone became the
bane of my existence. It constantly dinged, and I was
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fighting for his attention whenever he got home from work.
I had enough, so one night, while he was showering,
I went through his phone not good, and there it
was the group chat, along with Instagram messages of just
my husband and his female co worker teasing each other
about work. I confronted my husband immediately and confessed that
I had indeed gone through his phone. I was certainly embarrassed,
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as this was a first for me, but I explained
that I had a hunch something wasn't right and needed
to see it for myself. I pointed out that the
group chat was quite unusual, but the private chats on
Instagram were highly inappropriate for married man. I simply requested
that he refrain from having private chats with her, but
I was comfortable with a group chat. He agreed and
apologized for making me feel that way. Oh okay?
Speaker 1 (38:07):
Or did he Oh? Did he just say words? Or
did he lie to you to distract? Because lie?
Speaker 2 (38:15):
Yeah, he was like, she only caught me for that.
Maybe I could just lie a little bit. Oh she
won't catch on.
Speaker 1 (38:21):
Don't do that.
Speaker 2 (38:22):
Don't do that. Don't do that. Watch out, watch out,
watch out.
Speaker 1 (38:26):
John's gonna attack you be afraid.
Speaker 2 (38:28):
A few months later, I am approximately eight months pregnant.
As we were returning home from a summer vacation, my
son's iPad began dinging repeatedly in the backseat of my car,
not the iPad. Unbeknownst to me, my husband had inadvertently
connected his eye clout to our son's iPad. That is bonkers.
Oh no, Suddenly there she was repeatedly appearing on the iPad,
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sending text after text, and this time there were even pictures.
Concerned about those pictures, because that's your son's iPad child. Also, no, okay,
this is another sun right. I was at my wits end.
I confronted my husband with such rage, anger and distrust.
His reasoning was, you're just feeling hormonal right now. This
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isn't you. You're not the jealous and secure type. Once
you're no longer pregnant. You should get to know her,
have a drink with her, and you'll like her. Sir,
you dare sorry you just called the pregnant woman hormonal.
Speaker 1 (39:25):
You dare I'm sorry? Eh, the woman carrying carrying your time,
you're just hormonal, or maybe I'm exactly on the money, Maybe.
Speaker 2 (39:34):
I know exactly what you're up to, and you're freaking
lying to me right now and gas lighting me, using
my own hormones and emotions against me. At eight months pregnant,
I unfortunately caved and believed him and left it at that.
Shortly after welcoming our newborn baby and adjusting to our
new family of four, we experienced pure bliss. However, our
blissful state was short lived as paternity leaved ended and
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my husband returned to work along with my husband's female coworker.
One evening, after we had tucked the children into bed,
I found myself browsing through my husband's phone admiring pictures
of our children. Ding it's her. I instantly and without hesitation,
opened the conversation, and my mouth dropped. He didn't even
try to hide any of them, like, I'm not supporting Ope,
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going through the phone not cool? Yeah, always up conversation. However,
he's not trying to hide it, like he knows that
his wife has seen it or has found it and
gone through his phone before.
Speaker 1 (40:29):
He's like, well, just.
Speaker 2 (40:31):
Gotta keep it, keep that ding on it's not even
going to turn my phone on silent.
Speaker 1 (40:35):
Gotta keep going. As soon as I read the word iPad,
I mean, we already knew what he was, but when
I saw the word iPad, I knew it was over. Yep.
Speaker 2 (40:44):
It was a conversation where my husband was begging her
to work a specialized assignment with just him, the two
of them alone in a car five days a week.
I felt an instant wave of regrets, regret for not
listening to my gut months ago and let him gaslight
me into thinking this situation was all in my head
because of hormones. Now I want a divorce, but my
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husband is now begging me not to ruin our family.
So I read it. Am I the aole for breaking
apart this family? And there is an update. Folks, you're
not breaking it apart.
Speaker 1 (41:16):
You're not breaking it apart. You're not breaking apart. Man,
explain to me how you either cheating or trying. It
hasn't been well. Definitely an emotional fair for Yeah, one
of those we don't know if there's the pictures, I
don't know. It's like it feels like it hasn't been
one hundred and ten percent confirmation yes, I would agree
with that.
Speaker 2 (41:35):
It's not like pictures proof, but or it might be.
Speaker 1 (41:39):
Yeah, he clearly wants to be with Yeah.
Speaker 2 (41:41):
I mean he I mean. But also, regardless of whether
or not he is physically or emotionally cheating, he has
already crossed a boundary that he promised he would like
he would listen.
Speaker 1 (41:50):
To in respect that part.
Speaker 2 (41:52):
Ope, he said, hey, don't have a private chat with her,
and he said okay. He could have said no, I don't,
that's controlling I want you to do that, but he said, okay,
I will do that. I listened to you, and then
he messaged her anyway.
Speaker 1 (42:04):
You're right, I'm sorry. Uh oh, let me go message
over here and keep doing it? Which one is it? Buddy?
Are you sorry and you're not gonna do it? Or
are you gonna keep doing it? Yeah? You kept doing it.
Speaker 2 (42:14):
Kept doing this update. After reading all these comments and
absorbing the advice, I've finally realized that I'm not a
remmoonal and not the sole reason behind this marriage is failure.
As for my husband, I've asked him to leave the
house until I've made a decision. Initially, he didn't believe me,
but when I took the kids and told him he'd
better not be here when I return with them. He
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was beside himself. He completely lost it. He's begged me
to reconsider offering to block her leaving his job and
doing anything else to keep us together. But a few
months ago, I politely asked you to stop texting her privately.
Great point, o Pe.
Speaker 1 (42:49):
Great point.
Speaker 2 (42:50):
His response was, I thought I was just being your friend.
I didn't see it the way you did. What upsets
me is that he didn't take me seriously back then,
But now that I'm packing up our kids and Lee,
he suddenly takes me seriously. Update two, before we get
into that, do you have any thoughts.
Speaker 1 (43:06):
I'm just glad that OPI has deemed through his roots. Yeah,
and just the ugh, the oh, I'm so sorry, I'll
all do all this stuff that it is.
Speaker 2 (43:17):
Yeah, he's a liar. No, you're not sorry.
Speaker 1 (43:20):
You did it. You've shown me what again? Opie was
very smart calling out smartest Sophia, who is so brilliant
to say, you told me months ago that you would
stop doing this. Well, guess what, even if there's no cheating,
the trust has been broken broken. It's a gone. There
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you go absolutely agreed.
Speaker 2 (43:42):
Update two. I return home from an evening out with
my kids, grateful that my husband respected my wishes and
wasn't home when we arrived. After putting the kids to bed,
I received a text from my husband asking if he
could come over and talk so we could resolve our
issues without involving the kids. I agreed. As soon as
I opened the door, he handed me his phone. On
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the other line, I heard her, the female coworker. She
was saying hello, Hello. I immediately hung up his phone
and demanded to know why he wanted me to talk
to her. He claimed they had been discussing all night
about how they could convince me that they were nothing
more than just good coworkers. I reminded him that this
marriage is between the two of us, not three, and
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that the only person who needed to address this mess
was himself. Also again, she said please do not talk
to her one on one, and then he went and
talked to her one on one. And now they're literally
blindsiding you.
Speaker 1 (44:43):
Ending you the phone and she's like, huh, hello, hello, Hello,
who's there.
Speaker 2 (44:49):
He insisted that I speak with her, and even had
the audacity to suggest getting that drink. I told you
to get with her a few months back, when you
were no longer pregnant and crazy. Oh stop stop, I'm
gonna get you. I'm gonna get you. I told him
get out and have that drink for me, because we're done.
It took considerable effort to get him to leave, as
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he sobbed about leaving his children, but I didn't care.
He clearly still wants to gaslight me into believing that
this is my issue with her, not his issue with
disrespecting our marriage and is crazy hormonal life well put
relevant comments. Has Op met her husband's coworker, Obie says,
I actually met her before at a work gathering for
my husband. He introduced me to everyone at the party
(45:32):
except her. When I finally saw a picture of this
female coworker, I knew I had seen her before and
asked him where I had seen her before. He did
say at the work party, and when I asked, how
come you didn't introduce me to her, he replied, you
were busy getting to know everyone else. Commenter one, It's
so disingenuous of your husband to beg you not to
divorce him when he was actively pursuing this other woman.
(45:55):
Until you confronted him about his behavior. Had you not
gone through his phone, still be sniffing around that woman
and lying to your face every day about it? You
should most definitely divorce your husband. He's not worthy enough
to be your partner.
Speaker 1 (46:08):
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Speaker 2 (46:13):
Opie says, I did ask him this too. I asked
him what would happen if I never saw this conversation.
He told me he'd most likely continue to lie.
Speaker 1 (46:21):
To me about it.
Speaker 2 (46:21):
Well, at least he's not lying you about that. He's like, yeah,
I probably never would have told you.
Speaker 1 (46:26):
Sorry. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (46:27):
Common or two says your husband is the ale, not you.
He has ghastly you for months, and it is possible
that the coworker is unaware that he's married with kids
as well. Try to get this across to her about
all of this and go from there all the best,
Opie And Opie says, I've actually reached out to her.
She told me she's like that's with all of her
male coworkers, and then proceeded to try and add me
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on social media after she was made aware that she
was causing riffs in our marriage and was shocked and
felt horrible. She definitely knew because she literally went on
the phone.
Speaker 1 (46:56):
She's like hello, Hello, And also I love how she
he's like the ambiguous language of like, oh, I'm like
this with all of my male coworkers. I just sleep
with all of them.
Speaker 2 (47:05):
I sleep with all of them, just well just a
married one. I just start with all of my male
coworkers just so I can hurt you. However, continues to
engage in these conversations with my husband. I am absolutely
not blaming her. My husband was engaging her. However, she
is aware what she's doing. COMMONA three. Leave him. There
is nothing to save here. He's a master manipulator, and
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you're easily manipulated. Please go into the next one with
your guard up and everyone who cares about you guards up.
Opie says, I never thought I was easily manipulated until now.
Our entire relationship has been absolutely wonderful, so it was
easy to make believe this was all in my head
and heightened by my hormones while pregnant. It hasn't been
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until recently where I see my babes and think you
will not have a mother who was emotionally controlled by
a man who wants to be a half butt husband
and father while he steps out on us while at work.
For says he'll return to the pursuit after Opie calms down.
He'll just cover his tracks, delete messages, get another phone,
or only communicate in person with the other woman. Opie says,
(48:09):
this is what I'm afraid of.
Speaker 1 (48:11):
We are young, in our prime.
Speaker 2 (48:13):
I can't imagine twenty years from now this happens again
with someone else, because I'll be punting myself thinking I
should have left twenty years ago. What I felt fabulous
about myself and knew I had tons to offer to
someone else who actually appreciated me. And uh, there are
a lot more comments. But do you have any thoughts
about that?
Speaker 1 (48:32):
I mean, ope, he is now thinking the right thought. Absolutely.
Speaker 2 (48:37):
She's like, wait, I there's no reason to stay here.
Nothing's tying me down. He sucks he's prioritizing another woman.
Speaker 1 (48:45):
Ah bye, And I get to like in the beginning
of the story, when she first found about it, it's like,
you're kind of shelsh can be shell shocked. You know,
You're like, oh, I'm in relationship, I'm pregnant with his child,
like all of all of these things, not in the
form in a way, just like, oh, man, there's if
I leave, you know, all these variables going through your head,
and it's like it can be hard to see it initially,
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but yeah, and it's like the reality settles in and
you're like, oh, oh.
Speaker 2 (49:13):
Now I understand now this I'm worth so much more
than this man.
Speaker 1 (49:16):
Yes, and this man is going to keep treating you
like gerbajio And oh what's that? Oh, you don't deserve
to be treated like garbage. You actually deserve to be
treated like the queen you are. Yeah, carrying the child,
the baby, my goodness.
Speaker 2 (49:34):
Yeah, literally carrying his baby.
Speaker 1 (49:36):
Are you kidding? Me?
Speaker 2 (49:37):
Carrying his baby? And they spend another time without another woman, right,
no surre.
Speaker 1 (49:42):
Also a Kayley dropped this comment earlier and chat way
up there, but she said maybe he's the more hormonal
one with all his crying and begging.
Speaker 2 (49:51):
Literally literally, op he should send screenshots of text messages
to her husband's HR department. Opie says, I'm actually friends
with his boss's wife and may have already dropped hints
about how I don't like this girl because she's a
pick me girl. I've planted the seed. What kind of
pictures are involved from the messages, which is what you
were asking, Opie says, they are pictures of her that
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he took all of them at work, so inappropriate attire,
absolutely flirting, cute, playful banter, teasing each other, how they
get on each other's nerves while at we're showing her
pics of her home or her saying wow, are you rich?
What he damn well knows I paid for the house.
Speaker 1 (50:30):
Uh ick, he sucks and he's poor.
Speaker 2 (50:33):
Yop And he's taken it. You know, he's trying to
take all of your credit, Opie. Not a response to
a comment on if her husband is likely to be
a cop, what Opie says, not trying to keep his
job Inden, I just think it's irrelevant. Honestly, I'm actually
the one who works in a field with extremely high
divorce rates, and maybe for that reason, I don't like
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to judge people's marriage success based on their profession. And
thankfully I am absolutely one million percent not concerned about
physical abuse at this time. I am the cop of
the family. I come from a family of officers. He
is not a police officer, so to me, my occupation
is irrelevant because I have never caused harm emotional or
physical to anyone. And there is a third update, folks.
Speaker 1 (51:17):
That's just kind of funny that. Yeah, commentors like like
guessing that he was a cop and she's like, no,
I came from a family of cops, Like why I
never would have Yeah, those dots, No, Like my brain.
Speaker 2 (51:29):
Nailed that commentary, almost nailed it. Yeah, truly, But there's
a little bit. There's there's a third update. Do you
have any thoughts before we get into this third update?
Speaker 1 (51:40):
I think we dive right in, all right, I want
to see what happened.
Speaker 2 (51:43):
It's been almost five months since I've updated all of
you on my original post. We are divorcing finally nice. Originally,
we took some time apart to cool off, dig deep,
and think about what we really wanted while not letting
any of this affect our children. To the best of
our ability, we did couple's therapy, individual therapy, and even
a vacation away just the two of us. Everything just
(52:04):
felt like it was falling back into place, like before
any of this was even a thing, I was starting
to come to terms with the emotional affair and the
gas lighting until well, I'm sure you guessed it. The
female coworker came back, not that I think she ever left.
I was so close to trusting him again, but for
crabs and giggles. I went through his phone one last time,
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and by God, wouldn't you believe I found a picture
of my husband in his female coworker's car running errands
for her. I didn't need an explanation. I didn't even
read the context of how and why he was there.
I simply laughed. By the way, you can always laugh
if you listen to full episodes of stories just like this.
Just go Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or Ihart Radio and search
(52:49):
up Okay, storytime.
Speaker 1 (52:50):
Ah ha waw. But there's a little bit.
Speaker 2 (52:53):
Left to the story, so let's just finish her off.
We put the kids to bed, and I said, do
I need to make you an errand list in order
to get your full attention? He automatically knew exactly what
I was referring to. I told him to get out
and maybe call into work the next day because he
should spend the day looking for a divorce lawyer. And
really that was simply it. We are currently in the
divorce process and it's going as smooth as you can imagine,
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getting all his legal advice from co workers. Lol. Fominer
Wan says, girl, I knew it. I'm so proud of
you for not falling for his bs. You gave him
every chance and he spit in your face trying to
convince you they were just friends. I'm curious, but did
he run to her hope? He says, I can only
imagine if they weren't having relations before they are now. However,
it wouldn't look good in court to be in a
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relationship with a woman you were having an affair with
while claiming you weren't automatically untrustworthy. Liar and folks, that
is the end of that story. Wowie, well Op in
the end made the right decision.
Speaker 1 (53:48):
That's correct. Yeah, you know, because that guy was if.
Speaker 2 (53:52):
He hadn't already, he was emotionally cheating you on you
at the very least.
Speaker 1 (53:56):
Like it's almost like he was so you know, he's
running her errands, he was like doing all these things
for It's almost like just freaking like, if you're gonna
do it, just do it.
Speaker 2 (54:07):
Literally. Yeah, it's like you're just like you're lying to me,
You're beating around the bush. I'm going to divorce you
and you can go do whatever you want.
Speaker 1 (54:14):
There's something that you know what it is. It's the
i'm not touching you of cheating.
Speaker 2 (54:19):
I'm not cheating. I'm i'm chating.
Speaker 1 (54:21):
I'm just running her errands. I'm just like, I'm not
constantly flirting with her. I'm just like taking pictures of
her all day along. I'm just like spinning my time
with her. I'm just trying to get a work of time.
It's so i can be in a car with her.
Twenty four seven.
Speaker 2 (54:30):
Yeah, bad news, bears, you're emotionally cheating on your wife.
Speaker 1 (54:34):
There it is.
Speaker 2 (54:35):
But folks, that is the end of that story and
the end of this episode.
Speaker 1 (54:40):
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Speaker 2 (54:41):
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