My wife’s wedding ring was DESTROYED… so I secretly replaced it! - r/relationship_advice | Reddit Stories

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:00):
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Speaker 3 (00:04):
We have some rocking stories for you coming up.

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keeping the show rocking and rolling. My wife's wedding ring
was destroyed, so I secretly replaced It is it secret.

Speaker 3 (00:19):
My wife forty.

Speaker 2 (00:20):
Four female, and I forty eight male, have been together
for seventeen years.

Speaker 3 (00:24):
We are still stupid for each other and she is the.

Speaker 2 (00:27):
Apps who loved my life, best friend, confidant, and co conspirator.
By the way, this comes from deleted and if you
want to submit your own story, go to the r
slash Okay Storytime subprend it. So, about two years ago
she started having joint aches and pains and some minor
swelling in her hands, wrist, ankles, et cetera. So off
we go to the general practitioner who gives us a
consult to a rheumatologist. Come to find out she has

(00:51):
rheumatoid arthritis, but no worries.

Speaker 3 (00:54):
She starts treatment.

Speaker 2 (00:55):
Fast forward to a month ago when our North Texas
weather decided to go full men and started changing temperatures, rain,
slash weather by the hour.

Speaker 3 (01:04):
It seemed.

Speaker 2 (01:05):
She woke up after overnight tempts changed and thunderstorms, and
her hands were huge worse. Her small petite fingers looked
like sausages. And even though she had been previously worn
about this, had slept in her wedding ring. So off
to the doctor's office. They had to cut off her ring.
So now for the bad our. Rings were special ordered

(01:27):
from Ireland and custom designed and have words in Gaelic
around the exterior of the ring negating any type of repair,
and they were designed and made seventeen years ago. But
she was absolutely gutted. I assured her we would figure
it out and it wasn't a big deal, but I
could tell to her it was begin Sherlock Holmes mode.

(01:49):
I googled until I couldn't google any more. I was
able to find the original jeweler had closed up shop
ten plus years ago, just due to age.

Speaker 3 (01:58):
I searched some more.

Speaker 2 (02:00):
I finally found his personal Facebook page and I message him,
and wait and wait. I finally get a response from
his daughter and she has noticed a pending message on
her dad's page and that he passed away just six
months ago. I expressed my condolences, and she asked what
the purpose of my inquiry was. I go into a
long diet tribe about what had happened. She tells me

(02:20):
she understands and is so sorry about what had happened.
Thust forward a couple of weeks, I get a message
on Facebook from an unknown person until she explains that
she was a daughter of the jeweler. She explains that
she went through all her dad's designs and looked at
the approximate dates and thinks she found the drawings, details
and molds in her dad's things and wanted me to confirm.

(02:43):
She sent pictures and I confirmed that yes, those are
our rings. She said she would get all this to
us as soon as possible and asked for our address.
I opened my email this morning to find tracking information
and pictures of our rings. She went ahead and had
her brother, who had taken over her father's business, make

(03:03):
our wedding bands again in her original size and two
extra in two larger sizes in case her condition causes
her fingers to swell slash change, and mailed them to
us at no charge. I asked why they did both
as mine was fine, and she said it would not
be fair that my wife had to have a new

(03:24):
ring and I was allowed to keep my old one.
She told me we needed to put our original set
away and to enjoy our new wedding bands. I asked
about compensation, and she said she was honored to keep
her dad's work and spirit alive. Our new wedding bands
will be here Thursday. Trying to think of a romantic
way to present her with them, as she has no
idea any of this took place. Any advice, We have

(03:48):
a quick edit, but first we all three need to
quickly say a romantic setting that we could present this
in Dakota.

Speaker 4 (03:56):
Go.

Speaker 1 (03:56):
It's not romantic, but it'd be funny.

Speaker 5 (03:58):
Go go.

Speaker 6 (03:58):
If you could somehow get your wife to say, well,
we're not just gonna find a new ring under a rock,
and you have them planted right under a rock, you
can go, I don't know, let's look here, Oh look
I found him. Think how think of how like broken
her brain would be in that moment.

Speaker 1 (04:14):
It'd be so hilarious.

Speaker 3 (04:15):
Let's do that one, you know, Okay, here we go.

Speaker 7 (04:17):
I was.

Speaker 3 (04:18):
You gave me just the perfect amount of time to cook.

Speaker 2 (04:20):
You plan out a great day, like hey, honey, We're
gonna go to this this great restaurant.

Speaker 3 (04:24):
It's like fancy, it's big, it's like all this stuff.

Speaker 2 (04:27):
You're like, oh wow, cool. You get her all hyped up.
You keep like mentioning it. Then you hire someone as
like the uber to go there, but secretly they're in
cahoots with you, right, and then the uber driver, he's like,
starts going the wrong way, and then your wife is like, hey,
is this it?

Speaker 3 (04:41):
And you're like hey, dude, like, what's what's going on?
What's going on?

Speaker 1 (04:44):
Where are we going? Like where are we at?

Speaker 3 (04:46):
Oh?

Speaker 2 (04:46):
This is so frustrating. And then finally uh oh he
she's like, just let us get out here. Right, they
get out the freaking car. They're right in front of
the place they first met. And then the wife's like,
oh my gosh, like this is you took what I
was gonna say. And then he's like, oh, this is
this is the place we first met. And he's like,
that's because despite we've only been together seventeen years, our

(05:06):
love is timeless, and from the moment I met you
till the end of time, you just know that you
have my love.

Speaker 3 (05:12):
Here's a new ring you took.

Speaker 8 (05:13):
I was like, oh yeah, go to like your first
date or the first place you met or you know
where you got engaged, and just recreate the moment.

Speaker 3 (05:21):
Yes, that three great ideas.

Speaker 8 (05:24):
Also mine was really dumb too. Had a dumb one
go to a magic show and be like, go with
the magician, like, oh, have her go up there, and
he goes, oh is this your rings?

Speaker 1 (05:35):
Exactly?

Speaker 6 (05:35):
Yeah, honestly, be funny to me. It's got to be
funny for me, just me the magician.

Speaker 2 (05:40):
Or like I've seen people propose on stage on stage,
like at a comedy show where the comedian's roasting the person,
but then it turns into like them proposing on stage
and it was all a fun little gimmick. But anyways,
we got net ited ladies, gentleman, So I rarely keep
anything from her, but didn't want to tell her. I
was trying only for her to be ultimately disappointed. The

(06:01):
absolute hardest thing for me, for me now until they arrive,
will be to not tell her as we tell each
other everything. So now I need to not only figure
out how to do this, but not to spill the
beans until then. Our friends nicknamed us Mickey and Mallory,
as well as Marshall and Lily from How I met
your mother, because we literally tell each other everything.

Speaker 3 (06:21):
Edit number two.

Speaker 2 (06:22):
I thought about taking her to our favorite favorite local
restaurant where I actually proposed to her. She's a nurse,
a via nurse, that's how we met eighteen years ago,
and so always goes to the bathroom to wash her
hands prior to ordering. When I originally proposed, I waited
until she got up to wash her hands and dropped
her ring in the wine glass and waited. I'm thinking

(06:45):
of a repeat there.

Speaker 3 (06:45):
Come to number one. How about you tell her the
story you just told us. Step one.

Speaker 2 (06:51):
Arrive at the dinner, tell her about the story you've
been really wanting to tell her.

Speaker 3 (06:55):
Then show her the designs that the daughter sent you.

Speaker 2 (06:58):
Oh this is pretty good as you tell it. This
by itself is incredibly sweet. Step two order the drinks
to give your aunt and uncle plenty of time for
some subtle, candid initial reaction picks as you tell the
first half of the story. Step three when your life
when your wife leaves to wash your hands, complete the
ring swap as you originally planned. Plot twist, but maybe

(07:18):
put your ring in two so you can replace your
rings together.

Speaker 3 (07:21):
That's cute.

Speaker 2 (07:22):
Step four, when she returns to discover the ring, complete
the story, et cetera, et cetera. Step five, sell the
story rights to Hallmark slash Lifetime because dang it, that's
the most heartwarming story I've ever heard on Reddit. However
you decide to unveal it. What an amazing story and surprise.
Thank you so much for posting it. By the sounds
of it, I'm not the only one whose day has
been made by reading this.

Speaker 3 (07:42):
I'll definitely keep an eye out for.

Speaker 2 (07:43):
Your updates and there is a reply freaking Wingman category
here I will be using this exact outline.

Speaker 3 (07:50):
Thanks.

Speaker 2 (07:51):
So, I have just returned from lunch where my wife
received her new bands. We kept it low key, no pictures,
nod and semi private. What we did was plan to
take her a cut band to the local jeweler after
lunch and invited our two sons before the appointments. While ordering,
oldest son asked to see the damaged cut wedding band,

(08:12):
saying he might be able to fix it. He takes
it below the table and starts acting like he squeezed
and strained, and then placed the fixed band on the
table and ask Mom, if that works, that's great, that's
that's amazing.

Speaker 1 (08:28):
Wow, I would love it, She said, how did you
do that? He's like, I'm just Irish. Yeah, I'm just
it's just an Irish thing. I guess I don't know.
Look of the draw it runs in my blood.

Speaker 2 (08:38):
She is astounded and places the band on her finger,
but it's too big.

Speaker 3 (08:43):
Youngest son says, oh, he can fix that and asks
for the band.

Speaker 2 (08:47):
Wife reluctantly and with a lot of what the f
is going on on her face, hands the band to
our youngest. He takes it below the table and squeezes
it in strains and makes it smaller but not quite perfect.

Speaker 3 (09:01):
When she puts it on. She's now trying to figure
it out.

Speaker 2 (09:04):
As she takes it off, it starts to inspect it.
I take it away from her and do the same
act as our boys, but this time the band fits
perfectly on her finger, and she has quite literally had enough.
She finally takes it off and is expecting it pretty
hard and cannot figure it out until my oldest places
her cut an older band on the table, and our

(09:26):
youngest places to the large band on the table, and
I placed the next size on the table at this point,
she's just staring at all of us, and I explained
what had happened and how I was able to find
the jeweler, etcetera, etcetera, et cetera. I even showed her
the Reddit post and she didn't start crying until reading
the comments and all the caring and support that you

(09:48):
guys had post lunch resorder, and we talked about everything
we ate lunch as of family, parted ways back to
our respective work homes, et cetera. She, my wife, did
mention that after reading all the replies, she would have
unlived me if.

Speaker 3 (10:00):
I had gone full public display and all that.

Speaker 2 (10:03):
So very thankful to those that suggested to keep it
low key in semi private.

Speaker 1 (10:06):
You need rain and sunshine to make a rainbow.

Speaker 2 (10:10):
About that, Dakota, Why are you saying things that are
factually accurate right now?

Speaker 6 (10:15):
Because I read that on a sign in northern California
seven years ago and it never left.

Speaker 3 (10:21):
Oh my god, that is correct.

Speaker 1 (10:23):
One of my favorite places, which I will gatekeep.

Speaker 3 (10:26):
He's doing it right now. He's doing it right now.

Speaker 2 (10:30):
So about the jeweler, They responded to my email regarding
posting the name slash info and would like to maintain
their privacy. The oldest son is making jewelry and doing
repairs only to catch up previous orders and work requests
prior to their father's passing. Once he is all caught up,
they are closing for good.

Speaker 3 (10:47):
Wow.

Speaker 2 (10:48):
They sent copies of the drawings and molds for our
bands and we placed them in our safe at home.
In cases happens again, we can get something made slash designed.

Speaker 3 (10:57):
I followed up.

Speaker 2 (10:57):
Asking if there was any way to pay their kindness
and haven't had a response yet. My wife is planning
on hitting up some local spots and making them a
ticks and gift package and sending it to them. That's sweet,
and that's it. She is extremely happy and overjoyed. I'm
really glad it's over, as I had no idea this
would garner this much attention and now we can go
back to our normal lives. Thanks to everyone for their

(11:19):
suggestions and we are grateful to all the outpouring of
genuine caring. Thank you to everyone that sent silver, gold,
and platinum. It wasn't necessary but greatly appreciated. My God,
what everyone of the story is amazing, even the redditors.

Speaker 6 (11:33):
You're just swimming in precious O their awards, did the
Reddit awards. Dang it, You're right, dang. I was like,
they just sent you got precious.

Speaker 1 (11:41):
Metals is sent to you.

Speaker 3 (11:42):
I could see it after. I can see it having edit.

Speaker 2 (11:46):
The daughter's son and an uncle are all working part
time to finish work that was commissioned prior to their
father's passing. From what was explained to me, none of
them were are or playing to be in the jewelry business.

Speaker 3 (11:57):
And that is the end of that.

Speaker 4 (12:00):
My husband refuses to rehome his dog and it's ruining
our family. Get the dog house, all right? I, forty female,
have been with my husband, forty four male, for seventeen years.
We've weathered every possible scenario that typically breaks couples apart,
situations that require years of therapy to recover from.

Speaker 5 (12:19):
Dang.

Speaker 4 (12:20):
Yeah, I stayed time and time again. I can't believe
my breaking point is a dog, but it has become
the ultimate reminder of how absolutely disregarded.

Speaker 5 (12:30):
I feel in my marriage.

Speaker 4 (12:31):
By the way, this comes from a Green Sunflower seventeen
on the Too Hot Takes subreddit, and if you want
to submit your own stories, go straight to the Okay
story Time subreddit. We have four kids, with three still
living at home along with my oldest son's girlfriend.

Speaker 5 (12:47):
About four years ago, our dog had puppies during her
first heat. She's now Spade.

Speaker 4 (12:52):
We found homes for all but two puppies. We decided
to keep one, but ultimately agreed that three dogs were
too much to handle, so my nephew adopts the second puppy.
We were content with our decision. The kids loved the
puppy we kept Google, a half Kolbe pitt and a
half Blue Healer mix.

Speaker 5 (13:10):
It was small, loving and mild tempered.

Speaker 4 (13:12):
Not even a week later, my husband announced that he
was driving to visit a friend a couple of hours away,
which turned out to be a lie to buy time
for an out of state trip without revealing.

Speaker 5 (13:22):
His real purpose.

Speaker 4 (13:24):
When I got home from work, he had my youngest son,
seven at the time, excitedly lead me to his room,
where my husband and other kids were waiting with the
biggest polar bear looking puppy I'd ever seen. When I
asked whose dog it was, they all exclaimed, it's odd
my husband hadn't brought home just any dog. He'd brought
home a giant Great Pyrenees slash Anatolian Shepherd cross breed.

(13:49):
I immediately asked him to take it back and questioned
how he could make this decision without consulting me. I
knew this would become another responsibility for me, especially since
he was still millitary and deployed three to four days
monthly plus one full month yearly.

Speaker 5 (14:05):
My opinion apparently didn't matter the dog was staying.

Speaker 4 (14:08):
Within weeks, this dog named Gregor, decided he didn't like
Dougle and became extremely aggressive towards him. The attacks weren't warnings.
Gregor was out to ut alive Dougal. I expressed my
concerns and was ignored. This was particularly mind blowing because
our son had been attacked by a dog at age four,

(14:29):
requiring plastic surgery on his face and neck. I wasn't
willing to take chances and had to keep them separated constantly.
One day, Gregor attacked Dougal so viciously that I had
to intervene or it would have ended tragically. Dougaal was
bleeding everywhere and Gregor bit me. During the breakup.

Speaker 5 (14:47):
We agreed it was best to return Gregor, but that
never happened.

Speaker 4 (14:52):
My husband wouldn't budge I ended up finding a new
home for our sweet Google before he or someone else
was seriously injured. My kids were heartbroken. Fast forward to today,
Gregor hasn't shown any aggression since he's become a great guardian,
loves the cats, watches over the sleeping kids, and really
is the goodest boy. His temperament isn't the issue anymore.

(15:12):
The issue is that he's been my responsibility for years.
If you know this breed, you know that they are
not low maintenance. He's one hundred and twenty five pounds
with a double coat of long, thick fur that ideally
needs weekly grooming with regular brushing between sessions, which he's
not getting.

Speaker 5 (15:32):
I do everything for this dog. My husband walks him.

Speaker 4 (15:34):
Before work, but otherwise he doesn't even ask if he's
been walked, fed, or if.

Speaker 5 (15:39):
We even have dog food.

Speaker 4 (15:41):
Mentioning that he hasn't walked, his dog starts a fight.
I handle vaccines, flea medication, neutering, microchipping, and boarding, arrangements
for vacations, But the biggest problem is the shedding. Without
regular grooming and bathing, the shedding is hatastrophic. I'm not
talking average shudding. I'm talking layers of long fur on
every surface, clumps bigger than my hand floating around the floor.

Speaker 5 (16:06):
You can't avoid being covered in dog hair.

Speaker 4 (16:09):
You need shoes in the house unless you're okay with
slabber and dog hair accumulating on your feet. Gregor won't
eat from his bowl. He carries mouthfuls of food to
various spots, dropping it on the floor to eat and
leaving visible slabber puddles. Bades emerge from the dryer, fur covered.
Everything smells like dog. I remove fur from chair legs

(16:30):
and furniture. Daily vacuuming has become a daily necessity, taking
nearly two hours to thoroughly clean our five bedroom house
with two living areas, two halways, dining room, kitchen, and
two bathrooms.

Speaker 5 (16:43):
The house is dirty again within hours. Okay, I have
a solution to this.

Speaker 9 (16:49):
Everyone's gonna hate it.

Speaker 3 (16:50):
I already do say it.

Speaker 5 (16:52):
Say it not?

Speaker 9 (16:54):
That's uh Oh no, Gregor's lost.

Speaker 1 (16:58):
He ran away? Oh no, he ran away?

Speaker 8 (17:04):
Where did he go?

Speaker 1 (17:07):
At what point?

Speaker 5 (17:08):
Like you do honestly, at what point do we do that?

Speaker 9 (17:11):
Because I mean, the osma's not doing anything. Can you
take him somewhere else? I give him a stable home,
but just say he ran away somewhere.

Speaker 4 (17:17):
Honestly, I feel like that's that's worth it. You gotta
get rid of the dog. Your husband really doesn't want that.
Get rid of the husband.

Speaker 5 (17:25):
Yeah.

Speaker 4 (17:26):
I even have to untangle for from the vacuum before starting.

Speaker 5 (17:30):
Oh my god.

Speaker 4 (17:31):
This consumes hours of my day every day just to
maintain basic cleanliness. I can't understand how he's content living
this way. I work full time while handling all shopping, cooking, cleaning, budgeting,
taking our daughter to multiple monthly appointments, and soccer practice,
plus yardwork.

Speaker 5 (17:48):
This task has.

Speaker 4 (17:49):
Become so time consuming that I can't complete everything that
needs doing, much less make time for myself. I'm losing
my sense of identity. This house belonged to my grandparents.
We bought estate after my grandfather passed. Over seven years,
I've personally done most renovations, painting, replacing flooring, refinishing cabinets.
I want to come home and find peace in the

(18:09):
house I've poured so much into. Instead, I dread coming
home because of the work waiting. I don't want company over.
Fur accumulates around base boards and appears on dishes. The
house smells with claw marks on windowsills and door frames.
Dried slobber on floors and windows. I can't keep up.
It's embarrassing. I've expressed my frustrations countless times, explaining how

(18:33):
drained I am. His response, his job is physically demanding.
That statement was demeaning. I may not have physical demands,
but I work in mental health and special needs. I
spend all day caring for people at work, then come
home to more caregiving. I'm mentally and emotionally exhausted. I've
asked him to brush greger weekly and offered solutions.

Speaker 5 (18:54):
He agrees to be more attentive, but never follows through.

Speaker 4 (18:58):
I've tested him by slacking off to see if he'd
notice and take initiative, and he hasn't. When I tell
him he needs to vacuum, he picks up a fur
ball or two.

Speaker 5 (19:06):
He just picks it up. That's not vacuuming.

Speaker 4 (19:09):
He waits until I started vacuuming, the acts angry, claiming
he would have done it before, trying to show me
funny videos while I'm cleaning his dog's mess. Recently, I
asked him to look at the dining room floor fur
piles literally resembling a blanket under the table. I calmly said,
I want you to see this. Tell me if you're
really not bothered living this way, this is where we eat.

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His response, what would you have me do about it?
I asked if he was serious, and suggested he'd take
responsibility for the dog he insists on keeping. I vented
about being burnt out, and he said nothing. When I
asked him to acknowledge that I was trying to have
a conversation instead of remaining silent, he replied, oh, I'm sorry.
I didn't know not saying anything was a bad thing.

(19:52):
The next day, I texted him about my stress. He
simply replied, I understand. Later, during an unrelated argument, he asked,
is there anything else you're upset about? And now I'm
going to look for a home for my dog while
you continue to bash me. He didn't speak to me
for three days. For the record, I never told him

(20:12):
to get rid of his dog. I said I can't
take it anymore, and if he's too tired from work
to provide proper care, we need another solution. We already
have limited time with jobs, kids, twenty one chickens that
he wanted, and three kittens.

Speaker 5 (20:26):
He recently surprised me with yes.

Speaker 4 (20:29):
Three unwaned kittens that became my responsibility.

Speaker 5 (20:34):
I found a home for only one.

Speaker 4 (20:36):
When I asked if he planned to scoop litter boxes, silence,
course not.

Speaker 5 (20:41):
I didn't ask for any of this.

Speaker 4 (20:43):
I've grown resentful toward both him and Gregor. Every time
i'm mop or vacuum, I'm in a bad mood for
the rest of the day and I don't want to
talk to my husband.

Speaker 5 (20:52):
I don't feel like I have a partner. It's a
reminder of how little.

Speaker 4 (20:55):
He appreciates what I do, our lack of communication and respect,
how my needs an opinion aren't considered, and how he
makes huge decisions without me.

Speaker 9 (21:03):
I've realized something in horror movies that in horror movies,
the real thing that the filmmaker is trying to communicate
is whatever is happening when the monster is not there
in this world, Gregor is the monster?

Speaker 1 (21:18):
You removed?

Speaker 5 (21:19):
Gregor?

Speaker 9 (21:19):
Okay, this is what's actually happening. Like in the movie Godzilla.
Did you know that it's a I was talking to
Angie about this is a feminist revenge movie because the
protagonist is a woman and she's getting pulled away from
I think her fiance. That's like this like war Chief,
her dad and then this young guy that she's kind

(21:40):
of fall in love with, and every time one of
them tells her, hey, you should do this with your life,
the monster shows up.

Speaker 3 (21:49):
Zilla movie? Are you talking the first one?

Speaker 5 (21:51):
Like the og?

Speaker 3 (21:52):
The ogg?

Speaker 1 (21:53):
What is og og?

Speaker 3 (21:54):
Like the one in Japan?

Speaker 10 (21:56):
Okay, yeah, so I think look into the US.

Speaker 9 (22:03):
Yeah, so Gregor is just kind of letting you know, hey,
I think this marriage is ready to And.

Speaker 1 (22:09):
You can't blame Gregor. Gregor was just putt in the
wrong place.

Speaker 10 (22:13):
He's just a dog who had a Yeah, you can't
put a crocodile in trained dog a zoo hoping it
doesn't eat all the animals anyway.

Speaker 5 (22:23):
So yeah, yeah, I totally agree.

Speaker 4 (22:24):
It's definitely not just about the dog, and she's realizing
that and good.

Speaker 5 (22:29):
That's good.

Speaker 4 (22:30):
But there is a little bit more into the story.
So now I hope he does rehome the dog if
that's his choice instead of stepping up. That's on him,
But it won't help our relationship. It'll become something that
he holds a grudge over, making me the bad guy
who forced him to get rid of his dog.

Speaker 5 (22:45):
So reddit's am ida whole firm quote making my husband.

Speaker 4 (22:49):
Get rid of his dog. If you read this far,
I truly appreciate it, and there are some comments. Comment
number one says, Opie, it is time to rehome your husband.
Number two says, can't believe he got rid of doogal
worst mistake. Opie says, this is the part that stood
out to me. That poor pup was already established in

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his family, loved by the daughters, then was attacked in
his own home by a new dog, and then tossed
to the side for the new dog's comfort and the
comfort of the husband.

Speaker 5 (23:18):
Yeah, that's huge.

Speaker 4 (23:20):
The first loved pet of a family should always take priority.
I say this as someone who has an a Tillian
Pyrenees and who knows that she is destined to be
a single dog for the rest of her life because
she doesn't get along.

Speaker 5 (23:33):
With other dogs. Cats. She's fine. Am I going to
get one anyway?

Speaker 4 (23:38):
No?

Speaker 5 (23:38):
I made a commitment to give her a home first.

Speaker 4 (23:42):
If I brought an animal into the house that she
could not get along with, unfortunately, that new animal must
be rehomed. When you adopt a pet, you sign a
contract with that animal to protect them. Bringing a new
dog in that doesn't get along and is actively attacking
your dog is a breach of that contract. And Gregor
should have been rehomed, not Dougal. And damn what my

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husband says, My heart hurts for Dougal. Honestly, Tom A
Number three says, here's what's going to happen. You're going
to contact a lawyer. The lawyer is going to help
you quantify your contributions to your house, to your home
through renovations. You're going to get on top of your
finances and prepare for the divorce.

Speaker 5 (24:20):
They will help you.

Speaker 4 (24:21):
Draw up agreements for alimony, child sport, and custody. You'll
put together the information necessary to garnish these payments through
the military in case it comes to that. Then you're
going to take all the unwanted animals to different rescues.
Now you'll be able to clean your home. Once you
do this, he's going to lose it and leave you.

Speaker 5 (24:39):
You'll be ready to serve him with the divorce and boom.

Speaker 3 (24:43):
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Speaker 6 (24:48):
My friend copies everything I do, and now I'm starting
to question my sanity.

Speaker 11 (24:53):
Do something really crazy. She has to copy.

Speaker 6 (24:55):
I mid twenties female, am currently in the process of
completing my master's degree. About a year ago, I needed
a job so bad so I could pay off my
fees and landed in a retail shop for a small company.

Speaker 1 (25:06):
But I'm confident in calling it successful.

Speaker 6 (25:08):
I was very happy because I'm from a country where
unemployment is at its ultimate high, and to have someone
hire me while still studying was very much good. By
the way, this comes from user I Losing It sixty
four to fifty seven on the r slash charlottetob Brady
YouTube subreddit, and if you want to submit your own stories,
go to the r slash Okay storytime subburn. There I
met my manager, also mid twenties, Emily. She was very sweet,

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very kind, and all that she was also pursuing a
new degree. That's what she said. I found out months
later she was lying. By the second month of getting
the job, I had already got the hang of all
the daily runnings of my work and was already hard working.
The boss would somehow always say how much he feels
I'm not catching up with the work, even though I
would do all of my duties.

Speaker 1 (25:51):
This was frustrating because she knew I.

Speaker 6 (25:53):
Was doing all the work and why was he never
satisfied with the amount of work I was doing? And
she would tell me she was looking up for me.
To him, he is just a naturally unhappy person. I
would cry. She would console me and tell me she
has the power to get anyone fired or kept in
the shop, so I shouldn't work.

Speaker 1 (26:09):
I'm there to stay. And I found out later she
did not have this power.

Speaker 11 (26:13):
No, they never do when they say that.

Speaker 1 (26:15):
At this point, she was a dear friend to me.

Speaker 6 (26:17):
Now this is where things started to fall apart, when
my manager realized I could technically run the shop without her.
She would always be late in peace because I had
the keys to open up and got out during work
hours to do whatever she wanted, and asked me to
tell her when the bosses would arrive so she could
come back and lie and say she had a meeting somewhere.
I would always back her up because I felt indebted

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to her. This became overwhelming because I was working for
two people and I was getting burnt out because of
my schoolwork and work.

Speaker 1 (26:44):
Eventually, the boss realized.

Speaker 6 (26:45):
That she wasn't pulling her weight, and she would complain
about how ungrateful he is that she's even always there
at work and willing to do it. So at this
point we were still very good friends and I was
still covering up for her.

Speaker 1 (26:58):
Now this is where I believe I'm crazy.

Speaker 6 (27:00):
At the beginning of this year, I decided I wanted
to show up for myself and had a point to
prove to myself that I can get whatever I wanted
if I worked hard enough. I told myself, I'm not
carrying anyone's burdens and I will try to see what
I can do to change the shop. That gave me
a chance, So I started with myself. I decided to
change my style. I have always liked crop tops, so

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I needed a new minimalist, clean girl aesthetic and tweaked
it to my own sense of self. Keep in mind
that Emily has always dressed very nice in her own
very formal outfits. She has always mentioned that I dressed
like a teenager, but in a good way. I'm not
sure if that's a compliment, but I'll take it because
I want to stay forever young. She always said crop
tops are provocative, and she wants to dress classy to

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not give the wrong idea to men. She also said
she doesn't do sneakers or track pants because they're not classy,
which is fine with me.

Speaker 1 (27:50):
To each their own.

Speaker 6 (27:51):
Now, as I changed my style, she all of a
sudden changed hers. She started wearing crop tops and baggy pants,
just like me. I tried to dismiss it, but I
could see so much resemblance in her outfits.

Speaker 1 (28:01):
Then the backpacks.

Speaker 6 (28:02):
She has always been a handbag Girlely, she asked where
I got it. I told her, and she bought the
exact same one, just a different color.

Speaker 1 (28:09):
Then it became a pattern.

Speaker 6 (28:10):
When I bought something, she would ask where I got
it from, and I would tell her.

Speaker 1 (28:14):
The one day she.

Speaker 6 (28:15):
Asked where I got these baggy track pants. I lied
to her and told her a different site from where
I got them. I found her searching on the site
looking for the track pants.

Speaker 1 (28:23):
It's not only that.

Speaker 6 (28:23):
When I started growing my nails, she asked me advice
on how to grow hers, and I gladly gave her
the advice.

Speaker 1 (28:29):
Then my jewelry.

Speaker 6 (28:30):
I started wearing jewelry and she started to And I'm
not saying she wasn't in a jewelry before, but not
at the time. When I stopped wearing jewelry, she stopped too.
Please bear in mind that this didn't bother me before.
It's starting to bother me now as I'm realizing the pattern.
Most of our stuff are the same now, down to
something as earphones. I know this is stupid to even notice,
but I can't help it. It's not stupid to notice this.

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This is psychotic behavior.

Speaker 7 (28:51):
This is like, this makes me wonder if someone came
into the shop or wherever you work and like complimented
ope or like told em like I really like Opie,
and like maybe she liked that person, or like maybe
she was like I want that attention. So now she's
like hyper focused on like I need to look just
like her so that these same people like me.

Speaker 6 (29:10):
But like this is weird, Like what is it that
you got that she wants so bad?

Speaker 11 (29:15):
And what clicked to make her like suddenly do this.

Speaker 1 (29:18):
Yeah, I don't know, but it's not stupid to realize this.

Speaker 6 (29:20):
It's like, this is the behavior of someone who will,
like I don't know, leave you in the woods because
they like they want to steal your place.

Speaker 1 (29:27):
And everyone will think I'm Opie and then I'll have
her life and it'll be perfect.

Speaker 6 (29:32):
I bought these green Converse and she dismissed it as
those green shoes of yours, like they're not expensive, beautiful shoes.

Speaker 1 (29:39):
And you know what, she went and.

Speaker 6 (29:40):
Bought a knockoff version of the exact same shoes in
a different color and came back to tell me she
bought the shoes that are the same as mine.

Speaker 1 (29:46):
Now she bought sneakers. Did I tell you?

Speaker 6 (29:48):
She thought sneakers were not womanly and I have always
won sneakers. Anyways, it's winter now. I went and bought coats.
When I wore the first one, she said, ooh, nice fur.
The fur is on the smallest part of the coat,
just the collar. Then when I wore the other coach,
she said to me, girl, I am gonna have to
be your twin.

Speaker 1 (30:03):
Where did you buy your coat?

Speaker 6 (30:04):
And when I said no, I do not want to
be your twin, she said, don't gatekeep because even if
you gatekeep where you bought it, because I can hunt
it down and buy two of them.

Speaker 1 (30:13):
Why specifying you can buy two.

Speaker 11 (30:15):
Right like you had to buy a knockoff Converse.

Speaker 7 (30:17):
Converse aren't even that she's like this expensive green Converse
shoes girl commerce are not expensive compared to most shoes.

Speaker 1 (30:23):
I feel like, yeah, I don't know this. All of
her vibes are just off.

Speaker 6 (30:27):
That was a weird way to compliment someone, but I
ended up just telling her where I bought it. Where
when I wore the third coat, she said, ooh, you
really told yourself you want to put your foot on
our next with the coats.

Speaker 11 (30:37):
This been for like a week.

Speaker 7 (30:38):
Start dressing really weird, like a style that nobody would want.

Speaker 11 (30:42):
Just suck up the fact that everyone's gonna think you're
gonna look really weird. Let her get all that and
then just go back to your old stough.

Speaker 6 (30:48):
It'd be less strange if this was just a friend.
But it's your manager at work. It's like, that's what makes.

Speaker 1 (30:52):
It so weirdy.

Speaker 7 (30:54):
This is somebody though, that you only have to see
at work, so as weird as it is, and you
definitely should still report them, Like at least this isn't
like someone that.

Speaker 11 (31:00):
Follows you like everywhere you go, Like you show up
to work, but that's it.

Speaker 7 (31:04):
Like you can totally dress completely differently at work and
then go home.

Speaker 6 (31:07):
This is weird because it makes me uncomfortable to wear
my new clothes. She always says how she has style
and she is very pretty. He doesn't even have to
try hard because she knows she's all that she tries
too hard, she knows she will look hotter than everyone.
That's what she said when she was complaining about how
she's struggling with her style, and I tried to help
her with creating her own using Pinterest and likewise apps.

Speaker 1 (31:27):
I am in no way saying that I invented my style.

Speaker 6 (31:29):
I also had to see it somewhere else, like on
Pinterest first before I liked it and shop the clothes.
We're just talking about exacting though nobody had like the
organic idea of like, I'm without any prior knowledge going
to get into T shirts.

Speaker 1 (31:42):
It's like, no, that, of course you know what it?

Speaker 7 (31:45):
You know, whatever does just Cassandra said, hear me out
bald cap earlier.

Speaker 6 (31:49):
Yeah, just like fake tattoo sleeves, bald cap, wear your
sunglasses upside down, two hats stacked on top of each other.
The craziest thing is her being like I would be
I would have better style, but if I did it,
I'd be so hot.

Speaker 1 (32:03):
No men would talk to any other woman on the planet.

Speaker 11 (32:05):
The universe just wouldn't be able to handle that. I'm
doing you all a favor.

Speaker 6 (32:08):
Actually, yeah, I do this for everyone. Why is she
even paying that much attention? Or am I just overthinking it? Anyways,
let's move on to work. As I said, new Year
knew me, I need to get out of my comfort zone.
I revamped the website. She told the boss. We revamped
the website. I started venturing out to get more business.
Every time I would come with good news, she would
get moody or maybe I'm just imagining it. When all

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my quotes came back, she would act like she had
a part in it. Every time I did something good.
We speak French, it's we we we. But she never
misses an opportunity to throw me under the bus when
I do something wrong or make a mistake. When she
does something good, she claims it's only her, which is true,
it is only her, but in cases of mistakes, it's
another we.

Speaker 1 (32:50):
Again to the boss. It did make a.

Speaker 6 (32:52):
Comment about how in their country the unemployment rate's pretty high, but.

Speaker 11 (32:55):
Like, okay, but you can totally for job. You still
have your job.

Speaker 1 (32:58):
Yeah, exactly, it does away.

Speaker 7 (33:00):
Unallowed, especially if like, yeah, start by going to HR.
Maybe there's a way that if this is like some
sort of like shift thing, because it sounds like it
might be a store, So maybe you can go like
opposite shifts of this person. Maybe you can do like
do not work with this person. I don't know the vibes,
but you can definitely report this somewhere.

Speaker 6 (33:19):
Range vibes, strange vibes at the retail establishment.

Speaker 1 (33:23):
It's crazy.

Speaker 6 (33:24):
I ran a sale and sent the email to my
mailing list that I created when we started receiving more orders.
She copied and pasted the exact same email I sent
to the mailing list. The part where you write kind
regards my name, she changed too kind regards her name.

Speaker 7 (33:39):
I will say, it probably does look good to have
the one business all send it the same email though.

Speaker 1 (33:44):
Yeah, but you should get credit.

Speaker 6 (33:45):
Yeah, she doesn't mind keeping my name in copying emails
where I'm in trouble.

Speaker 1 (33:49):
It's so weird.

Speaker 6 (33:50):
Every time I would get a day off for my
schoolwork when I came back to work, she wants a
day off too. When I get sick and I get
a day off when I come back, she is sick.

Speaker 11 (33:59):
Too, okay, E like go behavior.

Speaker 6 (34:01):
I decided to ignore her, but I can't. Makes working
a very difficult thing for me. He's very moody most
of the time. We laugh one second and the next
she's throwing things around, and I always try to stay
in my business, but I'm struggling.

Speaker 1 (34:13):
So read it.

Speaker 6 (34:14):
Am I a crazy, delusional girl who's seeing things in
her head? Or am I the a hole for feeling
weirded out about this whole thing? Darry for the long post.

Speaker 7 (34:21):
No, I'm sure that in some ways maybe you're seeing
a little bit more than she is actually doing because
you're on that like locked in train.

Speaker 11 (34:28):
But she's crazy, yes, crazy if.

Speaker 6 (34:30):
You're literally like yeah, so we're like ooh one second
and then she's throwing things around.

Speaker 1 (34:36):
Not cool? You know that you're not weird for thinking
that's kind of weird, right? Come on, folks.

Speaker 4 (34:44):
My wife went out with a recently divorced friend and
lied about her whereabouts Where is she? Last Saturday on
June twenty eighth, my wife went out with a friend
who was recently divorced. She invited my wife out to
a brewery for a fun and she had told me
that she would be gone from about four to eight,
she took our youngest to their house to play with

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her friend's child who are the same age and their
teenage daughter who was going to watch them. By the way,
this comes from below average dad, and if you want
to submit your own stories, go to the r slashowcase
storytime at separated It. So would move fast forward to
nine ish and I haven't heard from her. I know
they left the brewery and apparently decide to go bar
hopping to find her a man. Ooh, okay, not a

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big deal to me. I'm comfortable with her being a
wingman anytime. Around eleven, I text her to see how
it's going, and again looking for a man for the front.
I send back the laugh emoji an a thumbs up cricket.
Until one a m. She says, my son is asleep
and she is sleeping there and she's being the designated driver.
I doubt that, but my wife is pretty good at

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pacing herself. At this point, I find it really odd
that she wouldn't just wake up our kid and come
home at one am.

Speaker 5 (35:55):
So I get curious and check to see where her
car is.

Speaker 4 (35:59):
It's a newer car, so the app shows the location,
and they're at another bar until about one thirty.

Speaker 5 (36:05):
This is where it gets uncomfortable for me.

Speaker 4 (36:08):
They leave and go to a random house, nowhere near
her friend's house or anything. I find it a little odd.
Her car doesn't leave from that point on. Around two thirty,
I decide that I need to do some recon It's
about a twenty minute drive, but away from town. I
drive out there and there's a house and barn and
clearly a party going on. I get out eat close

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enough that I can hear people and music, but not
close enough to really see. Because it was a gravel driveway,
I didn't want to make noise. So I sit around
for about an hour deciding how I should handle the situation.
Do I wait until Sunday and ask her how everything
went last night and what time they got in and
see if she lies to me, or do I confront
the situation. Around three thirty, I decided I need to

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just drive up and see what happens. I pull up
with my lights off. Nobody notices because of the music.
I peek into the barn and there's a camper trailer
with no lights on. I go over to the house
and see my wife's friend and two guys talking. I
peek in the window and nobody else is visible. I
walk in the front.

Speaker 5 (37:05):
Door and say I'm looking for my wife.

Speaker 4 (37:08):
And the two guys look surprised, and one guy introduces himself.
I was happy it didn't get confrontational. My wife's friend
immediately walks out and takes me over to a different
camper trailer and walks in and shuts the door, and
I quickly hop in there, and my wife is sleeping
on the bed.

Speaker 1 (37:23):
So we go.

Speaker 4 (37:24):
Outside, and I'm like, I just had to make sure
my wife is safe, but explain that I don't think
it's okay then a married person would meet random guys
and go to their house. There is some other dialogue,
but for the sake of time, I'll spare some of that,
but basically I peace out and just say that I'm
mostly upset that they would leave my child unaccompanied all night,
and if they wanted to go bar hopping all night,

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I wouldn't really care. But I don't think married couples
should be in a position like this because they spent
the whole night there. Next morning, at seven thirty am,
my wife texts me and says that they're at my
wife's friend's house.

Speaker 5 (37:58):
Uh. So she comes home around.

Speaker 4 (38:00):
Two pm on Sunday and I walk in with my
other kids and she's like, are you still mad at
me for falling asleep. I didn't say anything to her,
and we had a sports barbecue that I ended up
being at until about nine pm with my kids, and
she was asleep when I got home. I got up
early this morning and went to work. Am I the
able or am I too crazy for confronting the situation.

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Part of the reason I decided to drive out there
is that in June twenty twenty four, my wife was
on a work trip to New York City and she
had a stroke in her hotel room, and her coworkers
called me at six am the next morning to ask
if I had heard from my wife, and I said no.
I tracked her through find my iPhone and she was
at the hospital. Her family has a history of strokes,
her sister at thirty five and her brother at thirty

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three and her dad at forty, so I am cautious
of her.

Speaker 5 (38:45):
Going out without me.

Speaker 4 (38:46):
We do have an update nice well wow, man, Yeah,
just like a lot of lack of communication going on,
which is exactly.

Speaker 5 (38:54):
Not good problem. It is a problem. It's like weird because.

Speaker 4 (38:58):
It's yeah, definitely a lack of community with like the
stuff in New York City, which you know, if she's
actually having a stroke, maybe she like can't just like
text really quick. Yeah, that same time, I feel like
they would be like, hey, is there anyone we can call? Yeah,
I don't know, how about a husband that we can call? Yeah,
I feel like that would happen, right, I would hope,
So I would certainly hope.

Speaker 5 (39:18):
So Yeah.

Speaker 4 (39:19):
But then in this modern situation, it's like she it's
not even that she's not communicating unless she's.

Speaker 5 (39:24):
Lying about just lying what's happening.

Speaker 4 (39:26):
She's lying she's staying over at randomple's houses when she's
supposed to be picking up the kids.

Speaker 5 (39:30):
Exactly.

Speaker 3 (39:31):
Yeah.

Speaker 12 (39:31):
And all the people who are saying legoage can be
any age, that's kind of the point. It's that joke
because we don't know their age.

Speaker 4 (39:36):
So it's very true we don't have the age, but
pretty surely no, it's probably two plus, which is legoage. Yeah,
I'm going to guess they're around like six to nine.
That's my guess, indeed, But we do have a second update, Yeah,
o Pee, I don't think you are in the wrong. No,
we had about ten to fifteen minutes to talk before
I had to go to a meeting. I asked flat

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out if she had spicy sleep, and she said no.
Then she made a snarky comment of but I easily
could have and that completely real.

Speaker 1 (40:06):
Wee wee wee. What did o?

Speaker 5 (40:07):
Be asked if she had spicy sleep that night? Yeah,
that's what I do, and she said, oh no, but
I could have.

Speaker 4 (40:18):
What She said that her friend knew whose house it
was and knew the guys, and that there was another
married couple there. She said that both guys that I
talked to knew that she was married. She said that
they were friends she's known for a while, but has
a crush on one, and clarifying, my wife's friend supposedly
knows them, and my wife's friend has a crush on one.

Speaker 5 (40:38):
Okay, yeah, that's exactly what you just said, OPI So okay,
but thanks for clarifying you. It took a while for
me to get an apology. Not going to lie. This
sucks bad. She almost has no remorse.

Speaker 4 (40:51):
She admitted that it was a stupid thing to do,
but felt that she couldn't leave her friend and come home.
I said, that's ridiculous. You should have grabbed our kid
at two and drove home. She said that she'll never.

Speaker 5 (41:03):
Do it again.

Speaker 4 (41:04):
I brought up if I did that, how it would look,
and that's basically the only way I got an apology
or acknowledgment that it was a bad idea. But she
also deflected that because my mom cheated, that I was
comparing her to my mom. I said, I said, no,
I'm not accusing you of anything, but that I'm sure.

Speaker 5 (41:23):
That this is how it starts out.

Speaker 12 (41:25):
Girl, She's pulling the pointing fingers thing. She's like, oh,
it's because do you have trauma? Yeahsy here blaming me. No,
I'm blaming you because you literally just said I could have.

Speaker 5 (41:36):
If I wanted to.

Speaker 12 (41:37):
Yeah, yeah, like what like freaking you know Nixon being like, no,
I didn't. I didn't do anything.

Speaker 5 (41:44):
When I could have. Like, if you, if you don't
want to be compared to this mom, that don't look
like you're cheated. Man, don't be staying at random guy's house.

Speaker 1 (41:53):
We all know.

Speaker 4 (41:55):
I got home a little bit before nine pm, and
she's asleep in our room with two of our kids.

Speaker 5 (42:00):
So we do have a secret update. Second up day.

Speaker 4 (42:03):
Shall we just jump right into yeah, let's do it.
I was uneasy last night, so we had a late
night discussion. She went through everything that they did that evening.
She said that they went to a bar with a
younger crowd, and at that point her friend wanted to
meet up with the guy that she my wife's friend.

Speaker 5 (42:17):
Had a crush on at another bar.

Speaker 4 (42:19):
My wife said there that she didn't have a drink
and was talking to an older gentleman, like in his eighties,
and he was talking about his grandkids. She said her
friend was going to uber with the other two guys
that she my wife's friend supposedly knew to the bar
and house where I'm married a couple of lives. It
seems like an odd thing and doesn't really add up
to me. My wife can be a yes person and
said because she was sober that she offered to drive

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them out there to make sure her friend was okay.

Speaker 5 (42:43):
She said they sat around, talked for a.

Speaker 4 (42:45):
Bit, and then she asked the owner of the house,
the married woman, if she could lay down for a bit,
and that's what led her to the trailer. I can't
buy that onto me. I'm sorry, I just like I
don't buy that. A person who was supposed to go
pick up their kids was like, yeah, I'm just gonna
take a nap, like yeah, well, like I feel like
why not even if you're because if she's going from
a point of being like, hey, friend, like I worry

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about you driving out to a barn with some people
that you kind of know, like I don't know, like
if if she knew them, if she knew them enough
to like go to their barn at all, then she
would probably be safe a long yeah, you know. But
if she didn't know them that well and still wanted
to like go out there, then she probably shouldn't go
at all, you know.

Speaker 5 (43:26):
Exactly, So like the Opie's wife should just be like.

Speaker 4 (43:30):
Hey, my kids are literally like at your place, Like
I gotta go pick up my kids. Yeah, I gotta
be responsible of them over you because you're an adult.

Speaker 5 (43:37):
Exactly.

Speaker 4 (43:38):
No, that's exactly what I would say, like, Hey, I'll
call you an umber, I'll get you home.

Speaker 5 (43:42):
I gotta go pick up my kids.

Speaker 12 (43:44):
Yeah, or you can come with me go pick up
my kids, right right, But we're either way, I'm leaving
to go pick up my kids.

Speaker 5 (43:49):
Exactly, so be safe, make your choices.

Speaker 4 (43:52):
She said that she wasn't planning on staying long, but
long enough to drive home to be frank, because she
does have a narcolepsy and when she needs nap she
literally cannot stay awake.

Speaker 5 (44:02):
I told her that she should have thrown them in
an uber and paid for it.

Speaker 4 (44:05):
She was more apologetic and assured me that I wasn't
crazy for showing up or being upset by her behavior
and decision making. I still plan on talking to her
friend see if she'll give me the same details.

Speaker 5 (44:14):
To make sure that it adds up.

Speaker 4 (44:15):
That night, when I confronted her, she assured me that
nothing happened as well, and she did seem somewhat sincere
about that. As for our relationship, those that have done
some research are aware of our passed away bedroom situation,
which has gone on for a few years.

Speaker 5 (44:29):
To say the least.

Speaker 4 (44:30):
We have been married for eighteen and a half years
and she has literally never done something close to this,
and she is not a regular drinker or adult soda
drinker at all because of some of her health issues.
She usually doesn't go without me or someone who knows
some of the issues she could have, and she can't
drive very far on her own.

Speaker 5 (44:47):
We do have an update number three.

Speaker 4 (44:50):
I grabbed her iPad out of the car around four
am because I couldn't sleep and went looking. I read
through all current messages and now recovering all the deleted ones.
That was a one cent of updates, two sentence obi's
like four am.

Speaker 12 (45:03):
I looked through her iPad. Yeah, update four oh three am.
I ran to the store to see if she was there.
Exactly four ten am.

Speaker 1 (45:12):
I went home.

Speaker 5 (45:15):
All right, I'll obtain number four.

Speaker 4 (45:18):
I read through all of her texts with her friend
and obviously every other message. Nothing concerning or no major
gaps in the timeline. Not a lot of messages during
that time since they were together.

Speaker 5 (45:27):
And I did.

Speaker 4 (45:27):
Recover two hundred sixteen deleted messages from her friend, but
it did not change anything in what I read prior
to recovery. That's a whole lot of texts. Man, I
feel like after the first hundred you should.

Speaker 1 (45:39):
Let it go.

Speaker 12 (45:40):
Well, I think that you either let it go or
you say, hey, we need to talk. I don't trust
you and we need therapy, or to split up because
this doesn't work.

Speaker 5 (45:50):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (45:50):
Yeah.

Speaker 4 (45:51):
There's quite a bit of dialogue over the next two
days about asking if we had talked and how things
are going. I did find out about a concert that
they were planning on going to, which will not happen
if we're together.

Speaker 5 (46:01):
I'm guessing this is the wife and the sister or
the friend.

Speaker 4 (46:05):
The friend mentions that I need a day or two,
and my wife says she feels horrible because.

Speaker 5 (46:10):
She didn't communicate with me. There's a three hour gap.

Speaker 4 (46:13):
But they had to take their dog of fifteen years
to the vet to be put down, which they mentioned
before they met Saturday and almost canceled.

Speaker 5 (46:21):
Who's they is? Whose dog is this? This dog? Is this?

Speaker 4 (46:26):
I thought this was like with the wife and the friend,
But why do they have a fifteen year old dog together.
My wife mentions that she is the only one that
should have been concerned about her marriage. The friend says
that she wishes that she had a body cam to
show me nothing happened. The conversation ends yesterday late afternoon
and she works during the day. I also found out
that my wife invited her to the brewery for the

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fundraiser slash concert.

Speaker 5 (46:51):
I did not know that. I also went through and
recovered all her other messages back to September twenty twenty
three to read through those, including family, and there are
no suspicion, just texts. Dude. Yeah, you're in deep, dude.

Speaker 4 (47:04):
This is just like so so far gone. You've breached
trust so much. Yeah, I mean yeah, that's whether you
find it or not. Your trust is gone. Yeah, Because honestly,
it's like I would believe her that she didn't do
anything with these guys.

Speaker 12 (47:22):
Yeah, I mean, like, did she break your trust by
not going and picking up the kids.

Speaker 5 (47:26):
Yeah, that's a different problem exactly. Like the story was
weird and that was still a problem.

Speaker 4 (47:31):
Yeah, but like I kind of believe what happened, you know,
not saying that it's okay because of the kids. She said, Yeah,
I could have done it. Yeah, that was definitely weird.
But these are all different problems in your relationship and
you're looking for one. Yeah, you have a bunch, You got.

Speaker 5 (47:46):
Enough, You've got some don't worry.

Speaker 4 (47:50):
I told her this morning, when it was me or
her friend, what she said that she wasn't going to
not be her friend because our kids are friends and
she doesn't have a lot of friends here, which is true,
but I said, I don't care no way.

Speaker 5 (48:01):
Me or her. This escalated very fast.

Speaker 4 (48:04):
She had to think about it, so I said I'm done.
Then she came back and said, maybe we need some boundaries.
I agreed, and we are going to talk in person
this afternoon. Kids had practice this morning, and I'm in
the office not working clearly that yeah, me or your friend?
Because what because I went with my friend to this thing.
I it's just Op.

Speaker 12 (48:25):
I mean OP has gone so far down the rabbit
hole of you know, trying to find the one thing
that proves she cheated.

Speaker 5 (48:34):
And now he's like, ah, you need to.

Speaker 12 (48:36):
You can only be friends with you. I allow you
to be friends. Like you've gone too far.

Speaker 4 (48:41):
Yeah, if you cannot trust her, then you have to leave.
You can't control her so that you can trust her
more Like that doesn't work exactly, But there is a
little bit more to the story. Update number five. I'm done.
We've been going back and forth about our relationship and
I told her she's the only one I've ever wanted,
and that she needs to tell me if she wants

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me beyond this weekend and our passed away bedroom, if
she not just loves me, but wants to be married
to me. She said that she wouldn't throw it all
away for one night, and aside from that, I don't
want another man. I said, okay, but do you want
to be married to me? She said, of course I
want to be married. I said, but married to me?

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She said, what the ef? Who else would I be
talking about? I told her that I'm talking to a
divorce attorney tomorrow morning.

Speaker 5 (49:28):
She said, fine, do it. Some of you are right.
She gave up on me a long time.

Speaker 1 (49:33):
I think you gave up, oh.

Speaker 5 (49:35):
Too, I think you both gave up on this relationship.

Speaker 4 (49:37):
Yeah, this feels so weird. I'm guessing there was like
a lot more in their relationship that was probably cosmos.
It must be, because it kind of felt like at
the beginning, I mean maybe I just assumed that, like
the relationship was perfect, and then.

Speaker 5 (49:50):
This happened, you know.

Speaker 4 (49:51):
Yeah, but if this happened, and then it's like jump
starting all of these other like big moves like divorce
and like reviving two hundred and sixteen deleted messages, like,
it feels like there's a lot more going on that
we just don't really know all the dirty details of.

Speaker 5 (50:09):
Absolutely. Yeah, but dang, hey, Sam, we're gonna get back
to the stories.

Speaker 3 (50:13):
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Speaker 12 (50:16):
My wife cheated on me, but it made me happy. Well,
go ahead, then, wife. I twenty six male, have been
married to my wife, twenty six female, Laana for eight
years now. I met her sixteen years ago in elementary school.
We started dating in middle school and slept together for
the first time in high school. Oh, in our young minds,

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we thought we were absolutely in love. Nothing would tear
us apart. By the way, this comes from burner Ax
Satisfied and if you want to smit your own stories,
go to the r slash Okay, storytime separate it. So
I grew up in Georgia as a Baptist, where there's
a kind of weird Christian attitude about spicy stuff and
all that.

Speaker 1 (50:54):
I don't know.

Speaker 12 (50:54):
I've never really been religious, and neither is my wife.
We didn't really care, but my parents did. They always
got in my back that if I was having spicy
sleep with this girl, I had a marrier. Our parents
weren't as strict about it, but essentially I was forbidden
from seeing her. Why didn't you you should just not
tell them, don't tell secrets.

Speaker 5 (51:12):
Yeah, that's the answer.

Speaker 12 (51:13):
My parents told me at seventeen that I would be
punted out of the house if I didn't marry Lana.

Speaker 5 (51:19):
Looking back now, I don't.

Speaker 12 (51:20):
Think they would have gone through with leaving me on
the streets for not breaking out with a girl. I'm
pretty sure they were trying to manipulate me into living
the life they wanted for me. So we got a
courtroom marriage. Her parents were cool with it.

Speaker 5 (51:31):
Y'all are so funny.

Speaker 12 (51:32):
I'm sorry, y'all are seventeen and her parents were like, yeah,
I guess you cam married.

Speaker 5 (51:37):
Who was this screwby there? It's crazy. We have to
get married because my parents told me.

Speaker 4 (51:42):
My parents that we have to get married. We're gonna
grab me if I don't propose.

Speaker 5 (51:45):
My mom said, it's okay if we get married, if
your mom, if your mom buy snacks, my mom's gonna
drive us to the court room. We pick you guys up.
If your mom brings us home. Yeah, my mom's can
sleep over if we get married. Yeah.

Speaker 12 (52:01):
They had three kids to a room, and we're glad
to have more space in the house. We always talked
about having a real wedding one day, but with everything
going on in life, we just never got around to it.
I got to be married at eighteen to the love
of my life. I'd still go to finish high school
and live with my parents. Since then, I've gotten a
lot of therapy. I realized just how horrible it was

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for my parents, religious or not, to force their own
child to get married so that he wouldn't disappoint Jesus
by having spicy sleep with one person. It's not like
I was even trying to follow any of their other standards.
Let's fast forward to the present day. A few years later,
we moved out into our own dingy little apartment. I
got a job prenticing to a plumber to pay rent,

(52:44):
but neither me nor Lana could afford school, and my
dad was only willing to pay if I went to
Church college or something. I've considered it many times, but
it's whatever. Eventually, I kind of just stopped loving Lana.
It's not that she stopped being physically attractive to me
or anything. It's just that over the years she did
basically nothing. She never got a job, she never did

(53:05):
work around the house. Most days she would just play
video games, smoke Devil's lettuce with me, and then we'd
pass out or have spicy sleep. So the thing that
you got married for is the only thing you do.
She didn't cook, didn't clean.

Speaker 1 (53:18):
Hell.

Speaker 12 (53:18):
I even had to do the laundry after work at
midnight some nights, just so i'd have something to wear
in the morning. I felt trapped. I wanted to divorce
her so so badly.

Speaker 1 (53:28):
I'd talked to her.

Speaker 12 (53:28):
About changing so many times that I feel like I
had the same conversation over and over and over. She'd
get a job and quit after a month. She'd cook
three meals in an entire week and then stop for months.
These aren't things you find out about a woman.

Speaker 1 (53:43):
In high school.

Speaker 12 (53:43):
So we started to get a little distant. Spicy sleep
produced to once a month, if that. We didn't even
hang out those nights. When I'd come home, she'd be
sleeping or way too baked to hold a decent conversation with.
In the morning, she would go to Starbucks for coffee
and some other big goods. Sometimes she'd get something for me.

Speaker 3 (53:59):
Sometimes.

Speaker 12 (54:00):
Why didn't I divorce her? Well, honestly, it was just
about alimony. I could barely afford to pay rent as
it is, but divorcing her, I know she'd get some
kind of share of the money. I already have an
issue keeping mmm with everything about my parents. I wasn't
willing to move in with them, so I just felt
trapped where I was. I know of too many stories

(54:20):
where people get a divorce and have to pay alimony
for the rest of their lives, and that just seems
like too.

Speaker 5 (54:25):
Much for me to handle.

Speaker 12 (54:26):
What One day, while out on the job, I had
a panic attack because of everything going on and decided
to go home early. I live five minutes away from
where I was working. I texted Lana on the way
home that I would be there soon. Lana answered the
door in her lingerie. Oh nearly out of breath. Oh oh, well,
that was suspicious already, but there was no one in

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the apartment, so I didn't think anything of.

Speaker 4 (54:49):
It immediately, not anymore. Maybe she was having some alone
time and the lingerie helped her get in the mood
or something. But that night it ate at me. I
didn't voice any concerns to her.

Speaker 5 (55:00):
I just let it eat away at me.

Speaker 12 (55:01):
The next morning, I called and sick, without telling Lana,
drove off and snuck back to our apartment complex. I
watched our apartment until I saw a jeep roll up
and a man walked out. He walked up to our
first floor apartment and Lana opened the door and let
him in. This wasn't a man I'd ever seen before,
but I knew what was going on. I went into
my apartment, burst into the bedroom to see them already

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unclothed with each other.

Speaker 5 (55:26):
And took some pictures. Okay, ob ignoring your.

Speaker 12 (55:30):
Cris, I packed him a bag with any clothes I
can find and left.

Speaker 5 (55:34):
Why am I happy about this? I think we all know.
I think we've all intuited.

Speaker 1 (55:39):
Yep.

Speaker 5 (55:40):
I live in Georgia, where adult tree is considered a
crime and no alimony for cheaters. There you go jail.
Is it a jail crime or is it just a
fine civil crime?

Speaker 7 (55:54):
You know?

Speaker 5 (55:54):
So you're not jail, but you're gonna have today. It's
money like a misdemeanor. No, no, oh, I don't think so.
Probably like it's probably like a money thing. I'm assuming
that's what I'm You're probably right, or at least like
reason to not get out. Yeah.

Speaker 4 (56:09):
I felt like I had the entire world ahead of
me as I drove away.

Speaker 1 (56:13):
I know I need a lawyer.

Speaker 12 (56:15):
I know I need to cover my tracks and all
of that. She doesn't use Reddit, so she won't see this.
But man, some dems it's.

Speaker 5 (56:22):
Good to be cheated not wow.

Speaker 4 (56:24):
Okay, sure o pepe, all right, there is an update, folks.
But I really I don't know if I have advice
for Ope.

Speaker 5 (56:30):
I'm just I'm happy for I mean, like, good for
you. You're getting your dreams.

Speaker 12 (56:34):
You're gonna break up with this lady that you, you know,
have dated since you were seventeen.

Speaker 5 (56:38):
Yeah, do you know how old they are now? Well?

Speaker 4 (56:41):
He said, seven years of probably twenty four. Oh yeah,
and you're still so young.

Speaker 5 (56:45):
Yeah, you're young. That's my age. That's FN.

Speaker 4 (56:48):
So like you'll be totally fine in like just starting
a new relationship easy anyway.

Speaker 5 (56:55):
Update.

Speaker 12 (56:55):
Yeah, first off, I've already been meeting with a lawyer
about everything. She says, the case is pretty cut and
dry and I should be able to get away without
any alimony as long as I present this affair on alive,
my marriage attitude about it. She's helping me draft up
my divorce papers now. I also saw a doctor and
m currently awaiting test results for STDs and STIs. Doctor

(57:15):
thinks they'll come back negative based on lack of symptoms.
But you know, outas on to the good stuff. When
I drove away, my phone was ringing like crazy. Obviously
I didn't answer it. I didn't want to hear from her.
I called up a friend of mine grew up going
to the same church as him. Great guy, currently working
on becoming a pastor for the church I used to
go to with him. I told him everything, and he

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invited me to stay with him until the whole thing
is settled. He also encouraged the divorce, telling me I
need to take it easy for a while. I didn't
block on anything. I'd usually just let the phone ring
about a dozen times in an hour and then move
on with my day. I've been applying for jobs all
over the world because honestly, I just want to get
out of here. I mean, dude, yeah, you don't have

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any of the same beliefs as the people around you.
You don't have kids, you know, you're not going to
be married for long, you have nothing tie any year.

Speaker 4 (58:05):
Go explore and get out of there. Finally find somewhere
where it's a little more.

Speaker 5 (58:10):
Accepting of having spices sleep before marriage.

Speaker 12 (58:12):
Also, if you get a job all the you know,
you get a work visa and then maybe you can
find some you live there for a year, and then
you get a residency and then you can get really cheap.

Speaker 5 (58:23):
Education.

Speaker 12 (58:24):
I honestly have no idea what I want to do
with my life anymore, because before all I did was
just make money to support myself and Lana financially. Never
really thought about a life without her until now. To
be eh, of course, a few fantasies here and there
and passing, but nothing like definite. I really like animation,
though maybe that I don't know about. Three days later,
I caved. I answered the phone during one of Laana's

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many attempts to contact me. We spoke on that phone
for a few hours about well everything, life, our lives together,
et cetera. I kept the impression that I'm just a
heartbroken man who wants to end the marriage because she
cheated and for no other reason, but the conversation went
a lot deep. Honestly, there really is part of me
that still loves this woman from the bottom of my
very soul. Most of my life has been spent with her,

(59:06):
and it's just kind of over, you know. I mean, yeah,
this is a woman that you have known, like have
been with, you know, since middle school. Yeah, obviously you're
going to care for her. But that doesn't mean that
you have to stay in this part of your life.
It just means you know, you're going on to a
new part, and that's scary sometimes. She told me about
the guy after I hesitantly asked. He was just a

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random guy she met on a hookup app. Her depression
was starting to border on self harming, and she thought
that if she cheated it might bring some excitement back
into her life. She admitted that it did for the
first couple of times, but after that it grew just
as stale as the rest of her life. It was
over three months that she cheated with random guys, always
with protection, and she would usually get an STD test

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after moving on to the next guy. At least she
cheated in a way that you know wouldn't hurt.

Speaker 5 (59:54):
You, like this safe way.

Speaker 12 (59:58):
I'm still very happy she did. She did so I
could move on with my life, but I feel like
I failed as a husband completely. You're still a kid, Yeah,
she told me. She thinks she failed as a wife
and doesn't blame me for wanting a divorce. After this,
Lana said after a few days, she's going to move
out of the apartment so that I can move back
in since I'm the one paying for it. It's been
years since her parents were overwhelmed with too many kids

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in the house, so she's going to move back in
with them and start over on her life too. I
can say I'm still happy about everything going on. I'm
looking forward to the future, and I'm happy to still
be young in this situation, and I'm happy that my
financial status will be okay for the foreseeable future. But
this person who is my best friend, closest confidant, and
who my entire life was devoted to is just gone.

(01:00:41):
My life feels completely empty, more than it did when
I was with her. I'm going to reach out to
a therapist again and get this all sorted in my
head before I maybe leave the country. Crazy thought in
my head is that maybe in a few years, if
Lana can get her crap together, I could go back
to her try again with her. I think by that
time you'll realize that you have both moved on to
different parts of your life.

Speaker 5 (01:01:00):
Yeah, but for now, I'm gonna live a single life.

Speaker 12 (01:01:02):
I'm not going on any dates with any women for
a long time. It's gonna be hard enough having to
learn how to even do that. Yeah, but you know
that's that's the excitement, learning new things.

Speaker 4 (01:01:13):
Yeah, it's gonna be a good, good thing to learn. Yeah,
totally be single. Definitely, don't jump into another relationship.

Speaker 5 (01:01:20):
Be single.

Speaker 4 (01:01:21):
Travel, learn new skills the world, make friends, Yes,